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[ "Flatmates dated eachother for 2.5 years and are now going through a very messy breakup. What do I do? I'm the third wheeler of a relationship, the girl is a school and now very close friend, the guy I get along with well and go to gym together, so I like both of them although obviously the girl a bit more. They try their best not to involve me but given we're a 3-man flat I end up mediating a bit. That's not the complaint though, my issue is that I feel extremely awkward when I'm around them now.\n\n- What should I say/not say?\n- What are some things I should or shouldn't do, if the breakup become final?\n- Is there a way I can somehow repair their shit? Partly because I'll end up continuing to live with the girl and I've been very ambivalent to all her exes except for this one who I would count as a very good friend.", "Flatmates dated eachother for 2.5 years and are now going through a very messy breakup. What do I do? I'm the third wheeler of a relationship, the girl is a school and now very close friend, the guy I get along with well and go to gym together, so I like both of them although obviously the girl a bit more. They try their best not to involve me but given we're a 3-man flat I end up mediating a bit. That's not the complaint though, my issue is that I feel extremely awkward when I'm around them now.\n\n- What should I say/not say?\n- What are some things I should or shouldn't do, if the breakup become final?\n- Is there a way I can somehow repair their shit? Partly because I'll end up continuing to live with the girl and I've been very ambivalent to all her exes except for this one who I would count as a very good friend." ]

[ "Stay as far out of it as possible. DO NOT try to get them back together- if it's meant to be, it'll happen. For now, keep your head down, don't get involved unless you think it's going to come to blows, and then ONLY separate them. Don't take sides. Let them work through their issues and see what comes out the other side.", "Stay out of it. *Stay out of it.* **Stay out of it.** ***Stay out of it.***\n\nTry not to pick a side. Tell both of them **to their face** that you will not be a messenger or tattletale. (Think of the \"*I'm not an owl!*\" scene from Harry Potter 3.) \n\nTell them that you will walk away from any conversation they try to have regarding the other. You will not give advice, discuss the past ***or*** future, nor help plan revenge.\n\nIf you have the hots for either of them, wait at least 6 months before mentioning it to them.\n\nDon't try to get them with anyone else.\n\n" ]

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[ "How to deal with controlling parents/have them be more lax about you exploring in your 20's My Indian parents have always been a bit controlling because they want the best for me career-wise. I left my first full-time job after three months because it was not a good fit and I want to travel for a month while I apply for the next.\n\n\nThey are freaking out because they think I am ruining my career and my chances of getting into a good business/medical school later. I tried to explain that I am not doing this for my career, but my life and they still feel this is wrong.", "How to deal with controlling parents/have them be more lax about you exploring in your 20's My Indian parents have always been a bit controlling because they want the best for me career-wise. I left my first full-time job after three months because it was not a good fit and I want to travel for a month while I apply for the next.\n\n\nThey are freaking out because they think I am ruining my career and my chances of getting into a good business/medical school later. I tried to explain that I am not doing this for my career, but my life and they still feel this is wrong.", "How to deal with controlling parents/have them be more lax about you exploring in your 20's My Indian parents have always been a bit controlling because they want the best for me career-wise. I left my first full-time job after three months because it was not a good fit and I want to travel for a month while I apply for the next.\n\n\nThey are freaking out because they think I am ruining my career and my chances of getting into a good business/medical school later. I tried to explain that I am not doing this for my career, but my life and they still feel this is wrong.", "How to deal with controlling parents/have them be more lax about you exploring in your 20's My Indian parents have always been a bit controlling because they want the best for me career-wise. I left my first full-time job after three months because it was not a good fit and I want to travel for a month while I apply for the next.\n\n\nThey are freaking out because they think I am ruining my career and my chances of getting into a good business/medical school later. I tried to explain that I am not doing this for my career, but my life and they still feel this is wrong." ]

[ "Try to get out of the house. As long as you stay with them, they will try to control it.\nFellow Indian here If it helps.", "Tie in your travels to getting experience applicable to your future career as well. Or get hippie parents.", "Live for yourself, and make your own choices. Use them for guidance and advice but decide on your own knowledge and goals. ", "Help with Indian parents : they aren't letting me play pc games on the hd TV we own thinking that it'll ruin the TV , \nI explained them the science behind how it won't spoil anything , they still are very arrogant and stubborn \nIdk what to do , it's very frustrating \nPlease help" ]

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[ "How do I stop being clumsy? Seriously guys, in the last couple of days I broke three plates, I constantly have things falling out of my hands, and to top it all, I broke a part of expensive lab equipment on Friday. Is there any hope for me?", "How do I stop being clumsy? Seriously guys, in the last couple of days I broke three plates, I constantly have things falling out of my hands, and to top it all, I broke a part of expensive lab equipment on Friday. Is there any hope for me?", "How do I stop being clumsy? Seriously guys, in the last couple of days I broke three plates, I constantly have things falling out of my hands, and to top it all, I broke a part of expensive lab equipment on Friday. Is there any hope for me?", "How do I stop being clumsy? Seriously guys, in the last couple of days I broke three plates, I constantly have things falling out of my hands, and to top it all, I broke a part of expensive lab equipment on Friday. Is there any hope for me?", "How do I stop being clumsy? Seriously guys, in the last couple of days I broke three plates, I constantly have things falling out of my hands, and to top it all, I broke a part of expensive lab equipment on Friday. Is there any hope for me?", "How do I stop being clumsy? Seriously guys, in the last couple of days I broke three plates, I constantly have things falling out of my hands, and to top it all, I broke a part of expensive lab equipment on Friday. Is there any hope for me?", "How do I stop being clumsy? Seriously guys, in the last couple of days I broke three plates, I constantly have things falling out of my hands, and to top it all, I broke a part of expensive lab equipment on Friday. Is there any hope for me?", "How do I stop being clumsy? Seriously guys, in the last couple of days I broke three plates, I constantly have things falling out of my hands, and to top it all, I broke a part of expensive lab equipment on Friday. Is there any hope for me?" ]

[ "Take it slow and stop breaking shit. \n\nLearn to take your time when you do things that make you uncomfortable. If you feel like \"everyone is watching\" just stop and take your time. Nobody is rushing and even if they are , fuck them!\n\n\nLife isn't a race. ", "Are you thinking a lot? Not like simply wandering thoughts but if you're anxious and worrying about something your mind becomes preoccipied and whatever task is at hand becomes a secondary priority. So clearing your mind should allow you to relax and focus a bit better", "Take up mindfulness. Become aware during your day. Your mind is probably preoccupied with lots of other things and you might not be very focused. I'd look into trying to read 'the power of now - Eckhart Tolle', and having a look at some videos on youtube from 'actualized'! I can't guarantee this is the problem. But I can guarantee it will make a small difference at the very least :)", "So, there's a spoon. And only a spoon upon a tabletop in a kitchen. There's no water faucet on, no stove top range on, no refrigerator door open, no cats on the counter, no dog bowls on the floor. You are aware of everything in that kitchen and know that you are safe. So you pick up the spoon and you know you have the spoon in a firm grip in your hand. \n\nIf you start to worry that there's a spoon in your hand, your attention is on the spoon and only the spoon. Soon you forget that there is a sharp edge on the tabletop and bump into it while focusing on the spoon, now your attention is focused on the pain and drop the spoon. After rubbing your sore thigh, you stoop down to pick the spoon back up and bang your head on the edge of the table and forget about the spoon once more. \n\nIn closing, there is no spoon, only you. If you focus on external objects your attention goes to those objects and forget yourself. You know your body; you can feel a light breeze, you can feel the cold counter top, you can feel your breath going in and out. So relax, take a deep breath, feel your body; your limbs, your pulse, your belly with each breath, your eyes blinking, your body sweating. It's only you in your body. \n\nThe other tips posted in here in regards to m", "I found a brief, daily tai-chi practice to be very helpful. being quite clumsy myself.\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PNtWqDxwwMg\n\nThis guy is great. You don't even need to progress any further than this 8-minute video. After no time you'll find your clumsiness washing away.", "Build up that core strength with exercise. Take up a sport that improves coordination between feet and eyes.", "Be aware of your surroundings, watch where you are walking, hold things from underneath, use all your senses - not just your eyes, and at least make an attempt to catch anything you've left gravity to take care of. Pretty much, train your ninja skills.", "Umm how old are you?\n\nIf you are pubing out and growing.... Expect this shit to keep happening till you stop growing.\n\nIf u have stopped growing and this shit keeps happening... Go see a doctor, u may have a disease, a deficiency, defect, poison, or something generally abnormal that maybe fixable.\n\nLead and mercury poisoning usually make you clumsy.\n\nWait\n\nLAB EQUIPMENT? wtf you work with? Have you been a stickler with saftey and ventilation? Check the MSDS on the shit u have been playing with." ]

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[ "How to set up the best alarm Considering that I live by myself, but an excessively loud alarm would bother \"neighbours\"... and myself. I don't know how brutal the alarm has to be, though. Could you guys help out?", "How to set up the best alarm Considering that I live by myself, but an excessively loud alarm would bother \"neighbours\"... and myself. I don't know how brutal the alarm has to be, though. Could you guys help out?", "How to set up the best alarm Considering that I live by myself, but an excessively loud alarm would bother \"neighbours\"... and myself. I don't know how brutal the alarm has to be, though. Could you guys help out?", "How to set up the best alarm Considering that I live by myself, but an excessively loud alarm would bother \"neighbours\"... and myself. I don't know how brutal the alarm has to be, though. Could you guys help out?", "How to set up the best alarm Considering that I live by myself, but an excessively loud alarm would bother \"neighbours\"... and myself. I don't know how brutal the alarm has to be, though. Could you guys help out?", "How to set up the best alarm Considering that I live by myself, but an excessively loud alarm would bother \"neighbours\"... and myself. I don't know how brutal the alarm has to be, though. Could you guys help out?", "How to set up the best alarm Considering that I live by myself, but an excessively loud alarm would bother \"neighbours\"... and myself. I don't know how brutal the alarm has to be, though. Could you guys help out?", "How to set up the best alarm Considering that I live by myself, but an excessively loud alarm would bother \"neighbours\"... and myself. I don't know how brutal the alarm has to be, though. Could you guys help out?", "How to set up the best alarm Considering that I live by myself, but an excessively loud alarm would bother \"neighbours\"... and myself. I don't know how brutal the alarm has to be, though. Could you guys help out?" ]

[ "You just set the alarm to the time you wanna wake up and then when it goes off you wake up and turn it off. ", "You would be better using an alarm designed to work with your sleep patterns. There's quite a few apps out there that will work out the best time for an alarm based on when you go to sleep, and build it up.", "You can buy many fancy alarms these days, or make your own!\nTheres the classic daylight alarm clock which turns on a light gradually to wake you up, and a normal alarm of course.\n\nYou could attach 2 sylinders under your bed and connect a timer to the hudraulic pump, so it shoots you out of the bed like a catapult when its wakey time. \nToo lazy to write down all of them you will have to pick one of these two :D", "I find a good tactic is to use a standard alarm but place it in a place where you have to physically get out of bed to turn it off. Once you are out of bed, it is a lot easier to get up, than if you can reach your alarm from bed. I find it also helps to have a clear plan of what you do next - my favourite is get a cup of coffee.", "Set multiple alarms in 15 minute intervals. Eventually, you'll get tired of having to wake up and you'll either officially wake up, or turn them all off at one time and be late.", "I use Alarm Clock Extreme from the Play Store. You can set it up to make you solve math equations every time you snooze/turn it off. You can also vary the difficulty of the equation. Once I've had to work my way through a few math problems, I'm usually cognitive enough to just get out of bed and go drown myself in coffee. Plus, I am not a fan of math. I don't want to have to solve more equations than necessary. It's pretty motivating. ", "I tried everything. the carrot alarm thing that makes you shake your phone to setting 3 alarms (all in different parts of the room). I think I'm just a lazy. ", "Use the alarm feature on a Fitbit or equivalent device that uses vibration instead of sound. Won't wake your significant other and is a more pleasant way to wake up.", "Not precisely what you're asking, but here's my prescription for getting over the \"sleep through alarms\" problem. In my experience people who think they sleep through alarms wake up, but immediately go back to sleep.\n\n- think extra hard before you go to bed, about what's the latest you can sleep and still be sure you get to work or whatever the next morning\n- set your alarm for that time\n- trust that Night OP did their best to get Morning OP as much sleep-in time as possible\n- when the alarm wakes you, GET UP IMMEDIATELY\n\nUse a loud alarm initially if you're worried, but you will be able to switch down later.\n\nIt seems silly but it's the extra thinking before bed that means you can trust your alarm means you *must* get up." ]

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[ "Items you're allowed to bring in a carryon on a flight that most people don't know they can bring Besides the items that you can and can't bring on flights (easy to Google a list), are there any items that passengers are allowed to bring in their carry-on that most people don't know about?", "Items you're allowed to bring in a carryon on a flight that most people don't know they can bring Besides the items that you can and can't bring on flights (easy to Google a list), are there any items that passengers are allowed to bring in their carry-on that most people don't know about?", "Items you're allowed to bring in a carryon on a flight that most people don't know they can bring Besides the items that you can and can't bring on flights (easy to Google a list), are there any items that passengers are allowed to bring in their carry-on that most people don't know about?", "Items you're allowed to bring in a carryon on a flight that most people don't know they can bring Besides the items that you can and can't bring on flights (easy to Google a list), are there any items that passengers are allowed to bring in their carry-on that most people don't know about?" ]

[ "2: Ice Skates!!!!! \n1: The small travel size liquor bottles!!!! As many as fit in a ziplok (or whatever the generic is called. \n\nI've done both. On separate and the same flights, so... yeah I was pleasantly surprised when I confirmed this myself. ", "AIRPLANE BOTTLES!! As many as you can fit in your zip lock. \n\nThey're even kind enough to provide mixers! ", "One of the big ones I've learned is what kind of food you can get away with. Technically it's anything that is in sealed pouch with no liquid. I have precheck (so that might mean they are less strict) but I've brought fried rice on that I picked up from the local Asian place as well as stuff picked up at the deli. People say you can bring burgers and stuff, but I've never tried that. The rules say it must be sealed. See here for a pretty big list:\nhttp://consumerist.com/2007/12/28/a-big-list-of-foods-that-you-can-bring-through-airport-security/", "My mom brought pepper spray onto a plane once, completely on accident. So I guess you could bring that if TSA doesn't catch it..." ]

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[ "The best way to deal with dandruff. I'm a guy and can get pretty terrible dandruff (even browdruff and beardruff sometimes, sadface.jpg); I've tried everything, tea tree to Head&Shoulders, Conditioner, showering morning or evening, long hair and short. I don't have dry or flaky skin anywhere else on my body. Is there some secret that I'm missing?\n\n", "The best way to deal with dandruff. I'm a guy and can get pretty terrible dandruff (even browdruff and beardruff sometimes, sadface.jpg); I've tried everything, tea tree to Head&Shoulders, Conditioner, showering morning or evening, long hair and short. I don't have dry or flaky skin anywhere else on my body. Is there some secret that I'm missing?\n\n", "The best way to deal with dandruff. I'm a guy and can get pretty terrible dandruff (even browdruff and beardruff sometimes, sadface.jpg); I've tried everything, tea tree to Head&Shoulders, Conditioner, showering morning or evening, long hair and short. I don't have dry or flaky skin anywhere else on my body. Is there some secret that I'm missing?\n\n", "The best way to deal with dandruff. I'm a guy and can get pretty terrible dandruff (even browdruff and beardruff sometimes, sadface.jpg); I've tried everything, tea tree to Head&Shoulders, Conditioner, showering morning or evening, long hair and short. I don't have dry or flaky skin anywhere else on my body. Is there some secret that I'm missing?\n\n", "The best way to deal with dandruff. I'm a guy and can get pretty terrible dandruff (even browdruff and beardruff sometimes, sadface.jpg); I've tried everything, tea tree to Head&Shoulders, Conditioner, showering morning or evening, long hair and short. I don't have dry or flaky skin anywhere else on my body. Is there some secret that I'm missing?\n\n", "The best way to deal with dandruff. I'm a guy and can get pretty terrible dandruff (even browdruff and beardruff sometimes, sadface.jpg); I've tried everything, tea tree to Head&Shoulders, Conditioner, showering morning or evening, long hair and short. I don't have dry or flaky skin anywhere else on my body. Is there some secret that I'm missing?\n\n", "The best way to deal with dandruff. I'm a guy and can get pretty terrible dandruff (even browdruff and beardruff sometimes, sadface.jpg); I've tried everything, tea tree to Head&Shoulders, Conditioner, showering morning or evening, long hair and short. I don't have dry or flaky skin anywhere else on my body. Is there some secret that I'm missing?\n\n", "The best way to deal with dandruff. I'm a guy and can get pretty terrible dandruff (even browdruff and beardruff sometimes, sadface.jpg); I've tried everything, tea tree to Head&Shoulders, Conditioner, showering morning or evening, long hair and short. I don't have dry or flaky skin anywhere else on my body. Is there some secret that I'm missing?\n\n", "The best way to deal with dandruff. I'm a guy and can get pretty terrible dandruff (even browdruff and beardruff sometimes, sadface.jpg); I've tried everything, tea tree to Head&Shoulders, Conditioner, showering morning or evening, long hair and short. I don't have dry or flaky skin anywhere else on my body. Is there some secret that I'm missing?\n\n", "The best way to deal with dandruff. I'm a guy and can get pretty terrible dandruff (even browdruff and beardruff sometimes, sadface.jpg); I've tried everything, tea tree to Head&Shoulders, Conditioner, showering morning or evening, long hair and short. I don't have dry or flaky skin anywhere else on my body. Is there some secret that I'm missing?\n\n" ]

[ "Dude I've had the worst dandruff throughout all of my life. Finally went to a dermatologist for it and he himself said he has dandruff too, that it's something that's not really curable and it will stay with me for the rest of my life. The only thing I can do is maintain it. He was against the tars and the steroids (which worked for me but he explained how it can take away eye sight). So he told me about this shampoo called DHS. It has twice the amount of zinc than any other dandruff shampoo on the market. He told me to apply it, and to have it on my hair and scalp for AT LEAST 10 minutes. Well I did 5 minutes because you know, ain't nobody got time for that, and immediately right after that first use, dandruff was gone. Usually it comes right back when my hair dries but it didn't this time. I swear by this stuff man, try it out. ", "Ya might want to try not using anything. It's not like your scalp/hair requires shampoo. I don't usually use shampoo/conditioner, but when I do, I'll usually end up with dandruff for the next few days. Worth a try", "Selsun Blue Medicated (the one with the red cap) is the only thing that worked for me. Lather, rinse, repeat. Do this once every other day and you should be dandruff-free within a few weeks.", "Is there really a way to get rid of dandruff? Because all the products I have and do use ( tea tree, axe, selsun blue, dial) have only prevented it for a half a day or so.", "Turn down your shower temperature, mineral oil your scalp 1/2 an hour before you shower, shower at night, rub your scalp like a massage really well to turn over the dead skin. Nizoral and Selsun Blue are for a fungus you may have on your scalp. \n\nOr go no washes for a few weeks, or wash with baking soda/apple cider vinegar. Your scalp probably needs to rebalance.", "Make sure your hair is FULLY DRY. I can't stress this enough. I've had dandruff for over 8 years due to seborrheac dermatitis, at least I think, which there is no cure for only treatment. And the one thing that has always worked is blow drying every last bit of hair when I get out of the shower. If you've got thick moist hair, it's a perfect environment for fungus to breed, which in turn causes scalp to shed. Nizoral 2% is also a great very powerful shampoo. Good luck! \n\nTLDR: dry your hair well", "Make a bottle of half vinegar and half water and just pour some on your head. If it burns it's working. Try to keep it on there as long as you can stand it. I used to get dandruff a lot and I never get it anymore and don't even use the vinegar water anymore.", "I use Selsun Blue Naturals when I have issues. The citrus one for itchy dry scalp. Works like a charm.", "Take some normal lotion and rub it all over your scalp. Usually to adequately cover it you will need to coat your hair as well. This is the only thing that has worked for me. I usually do it before bed and rinse it out in my morning shower. ", "Head and shoulders should be left on for five minutes for its full efficacy. Try it that way for a couple weeks to make sure it won't work. " ]

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[ "How to keep carbonated drinks bubbly after opening the bottle for the first time? Seems like no matter how well you seal the cap, the drink still goes flat pretty soon", "How to keep carbonated drinks bubbly after opening the bottle for the first time? Seems like no matter how well you seal the cap, the drink still goes flat pretty soon", "How to keep carbonated drinks bubbly after opening the bottle for the first time? Seems like no matter how well you seal the cap, the drink still goes flat pretty soon", "How to keep carbonated drinks bubbly after opening the bottle for the first time? Seems like no matter how well you seal the cap, the drink still goes flat pretty soon", "How to keep carbonated drinks bubbly after opening the bottle for the first time? Seems like no matter how well you seal the cap, the drink still goes flat pretty soon", "How to keep carbonated drinks bubbly after opening the bottle for the first time? Seems like no matter how well you seal the cap, the drink still goes flat pretty soon", "How to keep carbonated drinks bubbly after opening the bottle for the first time? Seems like no matter how well you seal the cap, the drink still goes flat pretty soon" ]

[ "While squeezing the air out is one trick, I've had better results with storing the bottle upside-down, obviously you would want to make sure the cap is on tightly. When it is stored upside-down the gasses will still want to naturally rise up but there will be no escape through the lid because it's on the bottom.", "Short of using a CO2 canister to re-pressurize the headspace in the bottle, nothing.\n\nConcentration of CO2 in the liquid is determined by the [partial pressure of CO2 in the gas above it](http://www.800mainstreet.com/9/0009-006-henry.html). The trick is that only the partial pressure of CO2 contributes to the concentration of CO2 in solution.\n\nSo those air pump devices actually do nothing, since air has very little CO2 in it. Crushing the sides in to remove air is also counterproductive; the force of the sides springing back pulls negative pressure in the headspace over the liquid, which should make it go flat slightly faster.\n\nEvacuating the air and re-pressurizing the bottle with a CO2 canister attached to a nipple would work in theory. Seltzer bottles and other home carbonation widgets work this way, but at that point you may as well carbonate it yourself from the start.\n\nFinally not a tip, but consider drinking something other than soda. There's ample evidence that [large amounts of sugar is terrible for your health.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UEA6ow1icDc)", "One thing I've not seen mentioned yet is temperature matters. I've learned to not open the warm bottle before putting it in the fridge (keeping the pressure). Sure, this makes it harder to open later, but noticeably more carbonation throughout the bottle's use. \n\nObviously don't squeeze it, and don't let the bottle warm up, pour, seal, return to fridge.", "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BLFvw4CVKgY\n\nBuild one of these, then carry it around with you. You can even carbonate your flat drinks with it.", "Short of buying a carbonation unit, your best bet is just to buy smaller bottles so they're empty before they go flat. ", "I squeeze all the air out of the bottle then put the lid back on extra tight. I use a pair of pliers to tighten the lid just a little tighter. This usually does not work when there is only a little left, but mixing flat soda with fresh soda help to prevent waste and taste as fresh as all new soda. ", "Squeezing as much air as possible out of the bottle before closing helps.\n\nEven if the cap could be screwed on completely air tight, the CO2 will escape the liquid into the gas that is trapped in the bottle with it. The rate at which it leaves the liquid and goes into the gas is partially determine by the concentration of CO2 in the gas it is escaping into. If there is a very small amount of gas in the bottle when it is closed, then even a little bit of escaping CO2 will have a larger impact on the concentration of CO2 in the gas mixture, slowing the rate at which the drink goes flat.\n\nObviously, the seal won't be perfect and the gas in the bottle will mix with the gas outside the bottle over time; however, squeezing as much air as you can should slow the process of your drinks becoming flat." ]

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[ "How to not cry during emotional stuff? Have to say some goodbyes tomorrow and don't wanna cry like a little girl", "How to not cry during emotional stuff? Have to say some goodbyes tomorrow and don't wanna cry like a little girl", "How to not cry during emotional stuff? Have to say some goodbyes tomorrow and don't wanna cry like a little girl", "How to not cry during emotional stuff? Have to say some goodbyes tomorrow and don't wanna cry like a little girl" ]

[ "When I was a little kid I trained myself to hold back tears, but let me tell you, it's sorta shitty. I can still cry when something is emotional, but I wish it would come out more powerfully sometimes. Crying to me is an indication of a moment in life that is important, transformative, meaningful, and indicates an emotional state that transcends our own consciousness. It is beautiful to be so enthralled in a moment that you can't help but sob and cry. Maybe these moments come from sadness, but sadness is part of life, and accepting it rather than fighting it is more healthy I think. Crying is a completely natural thing to do, and you'll probably feel better after you do it too. Embrace the moment and let it all out. ", "Well one, its normal to cry Its a human emotion. Secondly goodbyes are never easy so tears will be shed", "Take some farewell photos of the group right about then, it will distract you and they will be nice to have years from now. ", "Blink lots. When I went to go see Toy Story 3, I wanted to cry so bad but I really didn't want to cry in a kids film. No tears ran down my face, even though they were trying real hard. " ]

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[ "How do I find a reason to travel? I haven't been on a plane (except for a small plane) in almost 4 years. I'd love to go somewhere, but... I don't have a reason. I drove to Santa Fe by myself this summer just to \"get out of here,\" and it was nice, but... I was alone and had no schedule. It felt pointless. That was when I realized it wasn't the trip I wanted, but the *reason* to go on a trip.\n\nI'd love to go to Europe or Canada or someplace, but... for what? To sit alone in a café? To go to a museum by myself? I don't have too many friends or family in exotic places, and I don't have the kind of job that makes me travel too often. How can I get that kind of opportunity?\n\n​\n\n", "How do I find a reason to travel? I haven't been on a plane (except for a small plane) in almost 4 years. I'd love to go somewhere, but... I don't have a reason. I drove to Santa Fe by myself this summer just to \"get out of here,\" and it was nice, but... I was alone and had no schedule. It felt pointless. That was when I realized it wasn't the trip I wanted, but the *reason* to go on a trip.\n\nI'd love to go to Europe or Canada or someplace, but... for what? To sit alone in a café? To go to a museum by myself? I don't have too many friends or family in exotic places, and I don't have the kind of job that makes me travel too often. How can I get that kind of opportunity?\n\n​\n\n", "How do I find a reason to travel? I haven't been on a plane (except for a small plane) in almost 4 years. I'd love to go somewhere, but... I don't have a reason. I drove to Santa Fe by myself this summer just to \"get out of here,\" and it was nice, but... I was alone and had no schedule. It felt pointless. That was when I realized it wasn't the trip I wanted, but the *reason* to go on a trip.\n\nI'd love to go to Europe or Canada or someplace, but... for what? To sit alone in a café? To go to a museum by myself? I don't have too many friends or family in exotic places, and I don't have the kind of job that makes me travel too often. How can I get that kind of opportunity?\n\n​\n\n", "How do I find a reason to travel? I haven't been on a plane (except for a small plane) in almost 4 years. I'd love to go somewhere, but... I don't have a reason. I drove to Santa Fe by myself this summer just to \"get out of here,\" and it was nice, but... I was alone and had no schedule. It felt pointless. That was when I realized it wasn't the trip I wanted, but the *reason* to go on a trip.\n\nI'd love to go to Europe or Canada or someplace, but... for what? To sit alone in a café? To go to a museum by myself? I don't have too many friends or family in exotic places, and I don't have the kind of job that makes me travel too often. How can I get that kind of opportunity?\n\n​\n\n", "How do I find a reason to travel? I haven't been on a plane (except for a small plane) in almost 4 years. I'd love to go somewhere, but... I don't have a reason. I drove to Santa Fe by myself this summer just to \"get out of here,\" and it was nice, but... I was alone and had no schedule. It felt pointless. That was when I realized it wasn't the trip I wanted, but the *reason* to go on a trip.\n\nI'd love to go to Europe or Canada or someplace, but... for what? To sit alone in a café? To go to a museum by myself? I don't have too many friends or family in exotic places, and I don't have the kind of job that makes me travel too often. How can I get that kind of opportunity?\n\n​\n\n", "How do I find a reason to travel? I haven't been on a plane (except for a small plane) in almost 4 years. I'd love to go somewhere, but... I don't have a reason. I drove to Santa Fe by myself this summer just to \"get out of here,\" and it was nice, but... I was alone and had no schedule. It felt pointless. That was when I realized it wasn't the trip I wanted, but the *reason* to go on a trip.\n\nI'd love to go to Europe or Canada or someplace, but... for what? To sit alone in a café? To go to a museum by myself? I don't have too many friends or family in exotic places, and I don't have the kind of job that makes me travel too often. How can I get that kind of opportunity?\n\n​\n\n", "How do I find a reason to travel? I haven't been on a plane (except for a small plane) in almost 4 years. I'd love to go somewhere, but... I don't have a reason. I drove to Santa Fe by myself this summer just to \"get out of here,\" and it was nice, but... I was alone and had no schedule. It felt pointless. That was when I realized it wasn't the trip I wanted, but the *reason* to go on a trip.\n\nI'd love to go to Europe or Canada or someplace, but... for what? To sit alone in a café? To go to a museum by myself? I don't have too many friends or family in exotic places, and I don't have the kind of job that makes me travel too often. How can I get that kind of opportunity?\n\n​\n\n", "How do I find a reason to travel? I haven't been on a plane (except for a small plane) in almost 4 years. I'd love to go somewhere, but... I don't have a reason. I drove to Santa Fe by myself this summer just to \"get out of here,\" and it was nice, but... I was alone and had no schedule. It felt pointless. That was when I realized it wasn't the trip I wanted, but the *reason* to go on a trip.\n\nI'd love to go to Europe or Canada or someplace, but... for what? To sit alone in a café? To go to a museum by myself? I don't have too many friends or family in exotic places, and I don't have the kind of job that makes me travel too often. How can I get that kind of opportunity?\n\n​\n\n", "How do I find a reason to travel? I haven't been on a plane (except for a small plane) in almost 4 years. I'd love to go somewhere, but... I don't have a reason. I drove to Santa Fe by myself this summer just to \"get out of here,\" and it was nice, but... I was alone and had no schedule. It felt pointless. That was when I realized it wasn't the trip I wanted, but the *reason* to go on a trip.\n\nI'd love to go to Europe or Canada or someplace, but... for what? To sit alone in a café? To go to a museum by myself? I don't have too many friends or family in exotic places, and I don't have the kind of job that makes me travel too often. How can I get that kind of opportunity?\n\n​\n\n", "How do I find a reason to travel? I haven't been on a plane (except for a small plane) in almost 4 years. I'd love to go somewhere, but... I don't have a reason. I drove to Santa Fe by myself this summer just to \"get out of here,\" and it was nice, but... I was alone and had no schedule. It felt pointless. That was when I realized it wasn't the trip I wanted, but the *reason* to go on a trip.\n\nI'd love to go to Europe or Canada or someplace, but... for what? To sit alone in a café? To go to a museum by myself? I don't have too many friends or family in exotic places, and I don't have the kind of job that makes me travel too often. How can I get that kind of opportunity?\n\n​\n\n", "How do I find a reason to travel? I haven't been on a plane (except for a small plane) in almost 4 years. I'd love to go somewhere, but... I don't have a reason. I drove to Santa Fe by myself this summer just to \"get out of here,\" and it was nice, but... I was alone and had no schedule. It felt pointless. That was when I realized it wasn't the trip I wanted, but the *reason* to go on a trip.\n\nI'd love to go to Europe or Canada or someplace, but... for what? To sit alone in a café? To go to a museum by myself? I don't have too many friends or family in exotic places, and I don't have the kind of job that makes me travel too often. How can I get that kind of opportunity?\n\n​\n\n" ]

[ "You could try one of those trips where you pay a service to take you on a trip with a big group of other people and they plan activities and stuff for you. Idk if they’re any good but it seems like it could help in your case.", "I travel to indulge my passions for photography, art and scuba diving. Maybe you can cultivate your own travel-related interests.", "We have planted trees and painted schools in Costa Rica. There are myriad opportunities to travel to places where your help is needed.", "Lock yourself out of your house, mail your house keys somewhere, and now you are forced to travel there to get your keys back instead of just going home.", "You could go do volunteer work. Or check out the couchsurfing website. Host people with you, then go visit them in their home country.", "Some local club maybe? Like fans clubs, i guess they must organize travels to see their idols... Maybe find one that follow some decent band or singer and go with them...", "Perhaps finding a backpacker group online or locally may help. There are plenty of opportunities to bond with friends, find lovers, or just be there for company! Experiences everywhere :))", "Have you considered a hobby that makes you travel? My cousin is fan of a football club and travels to virtually all their games, home and away. Racks up quite the mileage.\n\nI don't know if disc golf is a thing where you live, but you could travel to and explore different courses.", "Do some in-depth internet research on a place that you find interesting. Really get into the place and all the cool things you learn about. Once you’re sufficiently obsessed with that city/place, you’ll have a good reason to go there!", "But going to a cafe or a museum or just walking around the streets of Madrid (or other European cities) is so different than going somewhere close to home and similar. \n\nLike, you could literally spend the entire day hanging out at the plaza mayor drinking cafe con leche, and eating churros, and it will be an experience.", "I had a friend who liked a particular ballet company and tennis player. She built trips around following them around to play/perform in random countries." ]

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[ "How to stop laughing uncontrollably. Whenever I think of something funny to say or I'm reading something funny, I can never get it out. I can't contain my laughter and usually I'll just try to blurt it out before the laughter comes. If that doesn't happen sometimes it takes several minutes to compose myself.\n\nThe fact that I can't control my laughter is kind of funny in itself but also a bit embarrassing and bothersome because I can't add to the conversation or share a funny story. I love cards against humanity but I can barely get through 70% of the answers.", "How to stop laughing uncontrollably. Whenever I think of something funny to say or I'm reading something funny, I can never get it out. I can't contain my laughter and usually I'll just try to blurt it out before the laughter comes. If that doesn't happen sometimes it takes several minutes to compose myself.\n\nThe fact that I can't control my laughter is kind of funny in itself but also a bit embarrassing and bothersome because I can't add to the conversation or share a funny story. I love cards against humanity but I can barely get through 70% of the answers.", "How to stop laughing uncontrollably. Whenever I think of something funny to say or I'm reading something funny, I can never get it out. I can't contain my laughter and usually I'll just try to blurt it out before the laughter comes. If that doesn't happen sometimes it takes several minutes to compose myself.\n\nThe fact that I can't control my laughter is kind of funny in itself but also a bit embarrassing and bothersome because I can't add to the conversation or share a funny story. I love cards against humanity but I can barely get through 70% of the answers." ]

[ "its because you always jump to the conclusion of the joke in your head and imagine the reactions. You can try detaching yourself, but most people have a hard time with that", "Unfortunately, delivering jokes without breaking up is hard, and the only way to get better is to practice.\n\n As a YLYL \"pushup\", find a joke, and tell it to yourself until it's not funny anymore. Then when you do deliver it, you'll be more likely not to crack up.\n\nThe thing that me and my sister used to practice with was glaring at the other and calmly saying\n\n\"Fuzzy Wuzzy was a bear. Fuzzy Wuzzy had no hair. Fuzzy Wuzzy wasn't very fuzzy,\n\nWas he?\"", "Maybe more of an ULPT/SLPT but are your parents still alive? If so, try to think about what you’ll do when they’re not. No more visits, no more phone calls, no more birthday cards or messages on Facebook. That should do the trick! " ]

[ 3, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!", "How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!", "How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!", "How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!", "How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!", "How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!", "How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!", "How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!", "How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!", "How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!" ]

[ "It'll sound simple but take a second to compose/organize your thoughts into some kind of structure, whether chronologically or by relevance, before speaking. Thinking of synonyms to the keywords may also help, as well as removing any extra words or tangents not directly related to your main point. Hope this helps!", "I find a good diet and a multivitamin does a world of good for my energy level, memory recall, and the formative parts of my brain that construct what I want to say and do. I also have supplemented choline and take pills of a mushroom called Lion's Mane ( thanks /r/Nootropics ), and I have noticed a huge difference in my mental clarity, vocabulary, sleep, and a higher sense of overall wellness.\n\nI would definitely advise you to have a good multivitamin though!", "When you see a word you don't know, look it up. Know the meaning and then try to use that word in a few conversations throughout the day. This will add the word/phrase to your vocabulary. When communicating your thoughts in the future, they will be on deck and just come to you. Speech is like a muscle, you have to work it out for it to be come stronger and more polished. The key is to consciously apply words/phrases that serve you well, so when you are in the heat of the moment or put in the spotlight you can draw on these almost like autopilot. \n\n\nAlso, don't be afraid to take a long pause when trying to find the right word. Don't say \"uhhh\" or \"ummm\", just pause and be comfortable with a brief silence. This will help you keep your tempo and stay focused on what you're trying to convey. \n\n\n", "Know your message and practice. Either by yourself or with others. Get to the point you want to make quickly using simple language. Unlike a joke, the punchline is at the start. The rest is explaining and examples which may not be needed. \n\nIf you are in a one on one conversation and you can't think of a word/term a good way to give yourself time is to ask the person open questions on thier thoughts.", "How long did it take to write the OP (roughly):\n(1) from originally thinking of posting it to pressing Save\n(2) from starting writing to pressing Save", "This also happens to me. I have found that through practice I am able to get better at this skill. By having discussions with people where I try to explain points I can get better at explaining to people what is in my head. Though I am now better it still takes me more time to articulate what is in my head/I don't always say things optimally the first time.", "The best method that I can think of that I've found for me that works pretty well and nearly 100% of the time or at least when I remembered to have tried it in the first place is to try and keep the words in your statement or sentence or thought or whatever it is you are trying to say or convey or deliver to as small of an amount of words as you can do without using overly complicated complex or convoluted or perplexing words so anyone that reads or hears it can understand it easily without you needing to add all those extra words.\n", "Read literature and philosophy. Seriously, this is what reading does: it syncronizes your mind with another that is more developed, experienced, and thoughtful than your own for a given topic. Your brain literally emulates the thought processes of another. Over time you will start to understand how truly great minds organize their thoughts and express themselves with clarity, succinctness, and logic. ", "I often struggle with the same problem, but i find it less and less of a tedious task to articulate a conversation now. I simply write about nonsense on my computer until i hit a topic that i can rant on. These topics later work as my conversational topics. Since i already expressed my opinion on my own; i can do it with others. Just a little tip that has helped me greatly. ALSO try to avoid repeating the same word over and over. Become familiar with their synonyms.", "I find that I write better than I speak. Sometimes it helps to imagine that I'm writing a letter to the same person to make the same point. The first couple sentences of that imaginary letter also tend work well in a conversation." ]

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[ "How can I use right hand desk chairs as a leftie I’m back in school in about a week and am worried as, due to social distancing, we have gotten new chair desk [like this](https://www.huntoffice.ie/student-chair-lecture-arm-tablet-hsfslchair.html?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI8L_X4c286wIVDLh3Ch0oaQH6EAQYASABEgIyDfD_BwE). The problem is I am a total leftie and cannot write with my right hand at all. Any lefties have advice or a product?", "How can I use right hand desk chairs as a leftie I’m back in school in about a week and am worried as, due to social distancing, we have gotten new chair desk [like this](https://www.huntoffice.ie/student-chair-lecture-arm-tablet-hsfslchair.html?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI8L_X4c286wIVDLh3Ch0oaQH6EAQYASABEgIyDfD_BwE). The problem is I am a total leftie and cannot write with my right hand at all. Any lefties have advice or a product?" ]

[ "If there are a lot of desks, you can get a second one and put it next to you so you can still use it as a leftie\n\nThats what i do in my lectures anyways", "I’m a righty, but I often sat in lefty desk because I liked sitting by the window. I usually just sat and wrote at a slant" ]

[ 3, 1 ]

[ "How do you fix scissors that are gunked up after cutting thick adhesive strips? The two blades get stuck together and it's hard to separate them, the scissors now won't even cut paper. All because of cutting velcro tape where both the hook and loop strips have a sticky side.\n\n", "How do you fix scissors that are gunked up after cutting thick adhesive strips? The two blades get stuck together and it's hard to separate them, the scissors now won't even cut paper. All because of cutting velcro tape where both the hook and loop strips have a sticky side.\n\n", "How do you fix scissors that are gunked up after cutting thick adhesive strips? The two blades get stuck together and it's hard to separate them, the scissors now won't even cut paper. All because of cutting velcro tape where both the hook and loop strips have a sticky side.\n\n" ]

[ "Solvent or an oil. WD-40 is okay depending on the adhesive. I use something textured but not scratchy to scrub at it too. Used the bottom of a cell from an egg carton last time. The oil needs to sit for a bit and/or be moved around in my experience.\n\n", "Rub with olive oil, baby oil, or coconut oil on a sponge or washcloth. It's good at getting sticky adhesive off like if you leave a bandaid on too long and gunk is left on your arm.... oil works like a charm.", "If you dont have anything from the other comments windex will break down the adhesive and you can wipe it off with a towel." ]

[ 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to prevent mud from getting on the back of your pants/legs when walking on muddy roads? I find that when I'm walking on a sidewalk that's very muddy, that I end up with splatterings of mud on the back of my pant legs. I think it's from my shoes kicking the mud up as I walk forward. \nIs this just due to the way I'm walking, and is there a better way of walking to prevent this?", "How to prevent mud from getting on the back of your pants/legs when walking on muddy roads? I find that when I'm walking on a sidewalk that's very muddy, that I end up with splatterings of mud on the back of my pant legs. I think it's from my shoes kicking the mud up as I walk forward. \nIs this just due to the way I'm walking, and is there a better way of walking to prevent this?" ]

[ "Well, for one foot to get mud on itself, you either have to suck up mud as you lift the foot, which would then have to drop onto your leg before you swing it out of the way (highly unlikely), or you would have to slam your heel down so hard that you splash mud up onto your leg.\n\nIf it was the smashing of your heel, it should splatter in all directions, and get the side of your other pant leg dirty. And the splash marks would streak upward (thicker on the bottom, trailing toward the knee). I doubt that is the case.\n\n\nSo, how do you wind up getting mud only on the back of your leg? Probably by kicking mud with your other foot. This would cause most of the mud to be on the back, and primarily on the inner side of the calf.\n\nSo, if you have mud streaks pointing up, try to put your toes down first, not your heel. This will splash less. If you have mud mostly on the inner calf, try lifting your foot higher as you walk so there is more time for mud to drip down, or step forward slower so you kick mud off the toe less.", "Are your pants dragging? I have this problem when my pants are at shoe level. Try getting pants that are just above your shoe. You may be wearing pants that are far too long and eventually will wear out on the ends too due to unintentionally stepping on them without realizing." ]

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[ "How to sound sincere. Whenever someone explains something to me, or whenever someone offers me something nice, I usually just end up saying \"Well.......That's interesting\" or \"Yeah, that's great! Thanks!\" in a wan monotone. I think my efforts to inject some life into those comments is failing, miserably. Has anyone got any tips?\n\n", "How to sound sincere. Whenever someone explains something to me, or whenever someone offers me something nice, I usually just end up saying \"Well.......That's interesting\" or \"Yeah, that's great! Thanks!\" in a wan monotone. I think my efforts to inject some life into those comments is failing, miserably. Has anyone got any tips?\n\n", "How to sound sincere. Whenever someone explains something to me, or whenever someone offers me something nice, I usually just end up saying \"Well.......That's interesting\" or \"Yeah, that's great! Thanks!\" in a wan monotone. I think my efforts to inject some life into those comments is failing, miserably. Has anyone got any tips?\n\n", "How to sound sincere. Whenever someone explains something to me, or whenever someone offers me something nice, I usually just end up saying \"Well.......That's interesting\" or \"Yeah, that's great! Thanks!\" in a wan monotone. I think my efforts to inject some life into those comments is failing, miserably. Has anyone got any tips?\n\n", "How to sound sincere. Whenever someone explains something to me, or whenever someone offers me something nice, I usually just end up saying \"Well.......That's interesting\" or \"Yeah, that's great! Thanks!\" in a wan monotone. I think my efforts to inject some life into those comments is failing, miserably. Has anyone got any tips?\n\n", "How to sound sincere. Whenever someone explains something to me, or whenever someone offers me something nice, I usually just end up saying \"Well.......That's interesting\" or \"Yeah, that's great! Thanks!\" in a wan monotone. I think my efforts to inject some life into those comments is failing, miserably. Has anyone got any tips?\n\n" ]

[ "I've found that the more sincere I sound the more of an invitation it is to the speaker to continue to talk and tell me uninteresting things. I'll make a comment and then change the subject to something else instead of pretending to care. It's disingenuous to who I am and to the other person. Plus it is very exhausting pretending to care about topics. Not everything we say is the most fascinating thing in the world.", "I think the only way to sound sincere is to actually be sincere. If you're genuinely interested in someone or something, it will show. People can always tell when you're faking it. ", "As someone hands you something look down at it. As you say the word \"Wow...\" you continue to look at it for a split second, but as you start to say \"...thank you soo much\" you look up at them and look them in the eyes. Remember to smile with your eyes and not your mouth. Also put slight emphasis on 'Soo Much' ", "Repeat back PART of what they just said to you, then follow up with a question if possible. It shows you were listening and interested.\n\nExample:\n\nRhev : Did you know that if you rub a cr", "You're asking about sounding sincere, but your examples seem to be about showing gratitude.\n\nAmazingly, body language speaks as loud or louder than words do. Establishing eye contact for a brief moment, a faint smile, a head nod. This is all that's needed in my neck of the woods.\n\nBut I echo what other people are saying: sounding sincere is a by-product of being sincere. ", "Try asking a follow-up question relating to their comment, portrays you as being interested in everything they said and shows you want to know more (even though you really don't)." ]

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[ "Any advice for a returning-to-job interview, involving wage negotiations? To make a long story short, I had to quit during the beginning of the covid pandemic because of health issues. I just got my second vaccination, and can be going back to work very soon. Before I go back however, I have to interview with our District Manager, since I’ll be in a key holder position, and they’ve already set up a date for a career fair at the store. I already know everyone really well, and I know our DM decently well as well, and she said it was more of just a formality. \n\nNow for the important part: I was making less than $10 an hour (I know, the pay is atrocious, but I love the job with a passion that makes it worthwhile to me). When I had started, the hiring rate for key holders like myself was $8. I started at $8.80, and I think I really screwed myself over with that number by not requesting higher. Now the starting rate is $9, and I was making maybe .20-.50 cents more than that when I left. I would like to try for $10 an hour, or even more, but I don’t want to come across as an asshole, or end up losing out on pay that I deserve.\n\nI have the experience from other companies as well as this one. I’m already (mostly) trained. The store is kind of stuck in a bad spot; they have two people that carry keys right now, and a brand new manager coming in soon. Even then that’s only 3 people, and one of them is threading to quit if they didn’t make him the manager (they are not). My only downfall is that I can’t work on Sunday’s, which the current manager already agreed to. This is probably way more info than you need, but if you have any advice for me, I’d really appreciate it!\n\nAlso, I’m on mobile, so sorry if the formatting is terrible. Thanks in advance!", "Any advice for a returning-to-job interview, involving wage negotiations? To make a long story short, I had to quit during the beginning of the covid pandemic because of health issues. I just got my second vaccination, and can be going back to work very soon. Before I go back however, I have to interview with our District Manager, since I’ll be in a key holder position, and they’ve already set up a date for a career fair at the store. I already know everyone really well, and I know our DM decently well as well, and she said it was more of just a formality. \n\nNow for the important part: I was making less than $10 an hour (I know, the pay is atrocious, but I love the job with a passion that makes it worthwhile to me). When I had started, the hiring rate for key holders like myself was $8. I started at $8.80, and I think I really screwed myself over with that number by not requesting higher. Now the starting rate is $9, and I was making maybe .20-.50 cents more than that when I left. I would like to try for $10 an hour, or even more, but I don’t want to come across as an asshole, or end up losing out on pay that I deserve.\n\nI have the experience from other companies as well as this one. I’m already (mostly) trained. The store is kind of stuck in a bad spot; they have two people that carry keys right now, and a brand new manager coming in soon. Even then that’s only 3 people, and one of them is threading to quit if they didn’t make him the manager (they are not). My only downfall is that I can’t work on Sunday’s, which the current manager already agreed to. This is probably way more info than you need, but if you have any advice for me, I’d really appreciate it!\n\nAlso, I’m on mobile, so sorry if the formatting is terrible. Thanks in advance!", "Any advice for a returning-to-job interview, involving wage negotiations? To make a long story short, I had to quit during the beginning of the covid pandemic because of health issues. I just got my second vaccination, and can be going back to work very soon. Before I go back however, I have to interview with our District Manager, since I’ll be in a key holder position, and they’ve already set up a date for a career fair at the store. I already know everyone really well, and I know our DM decently well as well, and she said it was more of just a formality. \n\nNow for the important part: I was making less than $10 an hour (I know, the pay is atrocious, but I love the job with a passion that makes it worthwhile to me). When I had started, the hiring rate for key holders like myself was $8. I started at $8.80, and I think I really screwed myself over with that number by not requesting higher. Now the starting rate is $9, and I was making maybe .20-.50 cents more than that when I left. I would like to try for $10 an hour, or even more, but I don’t want to come across as an asshole, or end up losing out on pay that I deserve.\n\nI have the experience from other companies as well as this one. I’m already (mostly) trained. The store is kind of stuck in a bad spot; they have two people that carry keys right now, and a brand new manager coming in soon. Even then that’s only 3 people, and one of them is threading to quit if they didn’t make him the manager (they are not). My only downfall is that I can’t work on Sunday’s, which the current manager already agreed to. This is probably way more info than you need, but if you have any advice for me, I’d really appreciate it!\n\nAlso, I’m on mobile, so sorry if the formatting is terrible. Thanks in advance!", "Any advice for a returning-to-job interview, involving wage negotiations? To make a long story short, I had to quit during the beginning of the covid pandemic because of health issues. I just got my second vaccination, and can be going back to work very soon. Before I go back however, I have to interview with our District Manager, since I’ll be in a key holder position, and they’ve already set up a date for a career fair at the store. I already know everyone really well, and I know our DM decently well as well, and she said it was more of just a formality. \n\nNow for the important part: I was making less than $10 an hour (I know, the pay is atrocious, but I love the job with a passion that makes it worthwhile to me). When I had started, the hiring rate for key holders like myself was $8. I started at $8.80, and I think I really screwed myself over with that number by not requesting higher. Now the starting rate is $9, and I was making maybe .20-.50 cents more than that when I left. I would like to try for $10 an hour, or even more, but I don’t want to come across as an asshole, or end up losing out on pay that I deserve.\n\nI have the experience from other companies as well as this one. I’m already (mostly) trained. The store is kind of stuck in a bad spot; they have two people that carry keys right now, and a brand new manager coming in soon. Even then that’s only 3 people, and one of them is threading to quit if they didn’t make him the manager (they are not). My only downfall is that I can’t work on Sunday’s, which the current manager already agreed to. This is probably way more info than you need, but if you have any advice for me, I’d really appreciate it!\n\nAlso, I’m on mobile, so sorry if the formatting is terrible. Thanks in advance!" ]

[ "Tbh ask for whatever you think is fair. The worst they can say is no. The only reason not to do this is if you think asking for more means it will remove you from the applicant pool. \n\nI recently asked for $15 from a job, they surprisingly offered me much more. The bad part is the job was terrible, so upon applying for a new job I asked for what the current position was paying me. I really expected them to say they couldn’t go that high, but they did. \n\nIf your resume is up to snuff and deserving then they should be willing to pay you. Idk what industry you are in. \n\nBe confident and tell them you are confident that you can perform at a successful level deserving of the increased pay, especially if you were already making more beforehand. \n\nYMMV", "Tell them you made more money than you actually did. They cant check and they are going to low ball you anyway. Even if they low ball you, you still have the potential to make more. Emphasize your skills and training. I did this with my current employer and I essentially got a $4/hr raise. They low balled me and I high balled them. Everybody won.", "Research what comprable positions, or even the exact position, makes in your area and give a specific number. If you aren't on a time crunch I'd also recommend having another job in your pocket so that you can walk if needed.", "All you can do is ask. You stand no chance if you don't. \n\nIt also doesn't hurt to have some information to back it up - you have experience, what similar companies are paying, etc. There is a labor shortage a lot of places, so use that if you can." ]

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[ "How to look better in photos? Many people say I have a very expressionless face and this tends to show whenever I appear photos. Usually my eyes tend to look almost closed and I do this awkward half smile. What are some tips to overcome this when posing for photos?\n\n", "How to look better in photos? Many people say I have a very expressionless face and this tends to show whenever I appear photos. Usually my eyes tend to look almost closed and I do this awkward half smile. What are some tips to overcome this when posing for photos?\n\n" ]

[ "What I always do is laugh. Just fake laugh quietly.\n Oh and keep your chin up, saves having a double chin.", "Practice with your phone until you find one that works, and only do that angle/ expression every time. For example I always stand on one side and tilt my head at a certain angle." ]

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[ "Making people friends Good ways of making people with little similarity more comfortable and familiar, especially when both have bias against each other.", "Making people friends Good ways of making people with little similarity more comfortable and familiar, especially when both have bias against each other.", "Making people friends Good ways of making people with little similarity more comfortable and familiar, especially when both have bias against each other.", "Making people friends Good ways of making people with little similarity more comfortable and familiar, especially when both have bias against each other." ]

[ "Introduce them with 2 fun facts, it'll give them a springboard for conversation. \n\nExample: Sally, this is Bill, Bill likes camping and went to Australia last summer. Bill, Sally. Sally is an avid reader and likes trivia. Discuss.", "this one comes up fairly frequently. listen. let people talk about themselves. 1) people LOVE talking about themselves. 2) you'll hopefully find a topic that you both like and can springboard from there.", "There are things that almost everyone likes, like, music, pizza, jokes. If you get them in a setting that promotes any of those things, they will eventually find out that they have something in common, which will make it easier for them to become friends.", "I've posted CL ads citing my history of depression and general outlook on life and made a couple lifelong friends. Be you. Say what you want in a friend. Tell them about weird stuff you like/do (Japanese and Korean junk food in language you can't read, people watching, make cardboard castle forts for your pet bunny, Netflix and baking, jogging in the cold....) If it's easy to communicate with them over text, keep them, but not everybody expresses themselves well in writing. The best way is to just meet them for breakfast somewhere on a Sunday and just talk life. I met my best friend this way and we talked for four hours. " ]

[ 4, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "The easiest way to wake up in the morning for extremely heavy sleepers? Tried everything I can think of, extremely loud alarm clocks don't seem to work. I'm tired of needing my brother to wake up.", "The easiest way to wake up in the morning for extremely heavy sleepers? Tried everything I can think of, extremely loud alarm clocks don't seem to work. I'm tired of needing my brother to wake up.", "The easiest way to wake up in the morning for extremely heavy sleepers? Tried everything I can think of, extremely loud alarm clocks don't seem to work. I'm tired of needing my brother to wake up.", "The easiest way to wake up in the morning for extremely heavy sleepers? Tried everything I can think of, extremely loud alarm clocks don't seem to work. I'm tired of needing my brother to wake up.", "The easiest way to wake up in the morning for extremely heavy sleepers? Tried everything I can think of, extremely loud alarm clocks don't seem to work. I'm tired of needing my brother to wake up." ]

[ "I've always struggled with this too. The best thing I've had (although not anymore, unfortunately) was an alarm on my bedroom TV. The cable news would come on and I'd usually wake up because I wanted to see what was going on.\n\nNowadays I just use an alarm clock and at least 3 or 4 alarms on my phone.", "1. light: window to let in sunlight if your window faces east and the sun is up before you need to be.\n\n2. temperature: if you have a programmable thermostat, have it get toasty before you need to get up.\n\n3. fix your phase delay. I'm assuming you're an adolescent or young adult who has a biological preference to stay up late and sleep in late. Avoiding light for a couple hours before bed and getting sun light exposure for 30+ minutes in the morning will help, but not without setting a consistent schedule for 7 days per week. If you don't want to be consistent, then you get to deal with a hard time waking up - your choice.", "Note: this is a copy/paste from an old post somewhere else, I've moved and most of this isn't setup anymore. (Yet)\n\nI've found that the best way to wake up is to involve as many senses as possible.\n\nMy phone is on the corner of the bed for vibration. \n\nI use a timer to turn on the lights and a cheap coffee cup warmer with the worlds strongest candle (it starts out weak and pleasant, but after 20 minutes it's overpowering). \n\nThe coffee pot is on a separate timer in the kitchen. \n\n( I use cheap walmart lamp timers, they are set to turn off automatically after an hour. )\n\nI have my computer setup with bluetooth speakers in the bedroom and bathroom, and a playlist that gradually gets louder and increases the average BPM.\n\nThe speakers are wall mounted, and the power is not accessible from my room. \nThis means that I have to actually get up and walk across the house or open my phone and operate an application to turn off the music. (requires thinking, and a password)\n\nAlso, setup some type of mental activity as a stimulus, either an interesting radio show, or a news feed in whatever room you head to first. (kitchen if you eat first, bathroom if you groom first)\n\n", "I use my phone as an alarm. When I began, I would hit snooze too often and oversleep occasionally because I could think: \"in nine minutes, it will be 7:09, plenty of time.\" I started setting the alarms for assorted times: :02, :13, :21, :34 etc. so I couldn't quickly in my sleep haze do the math and know when the alarm would go off next. I'd wake up out of worry I'd sleep too late. \n\nWhen you commute, you have a narrow window of time", "Big glass of water before you even get out of bed (have it there the night before). It jumpstarts your metabolism, and you'll probably have to take a dump within like 10 minutes." ]

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[ "How to load my washer/dryer so everything doesn't get all tangled and wound up together. I'm looking at you, bed sheets! Seriously. I have front-loading machines and its a battle every weekend with laundry. Ok maybe it's not a battle, but it's frustrating. Can I load things somehow so that they don't get tangled?", "How to load my washer/dryer so everything doesn't get all tangled and wound up together. I'm looking at you, bed sheets! Seriously. I have front-loading machines and its a battle every weekend with laundry. Ok maybe it's not a battle, but it's frustrating. Can I load things somehow so that they don't get tangled?", "How to load my washer/dryer so everything doesn't get all tangled and wound up together. I'm looking at you, bed sheets! Seriously. I have front-loading machines and its a battle every weekend with laundry. Ok maybe it's not a battle, but it's frustrating. Can I load things somehow so that they don't get tangled?", "How to load my washer/dryer so everything doesn't get all tangled and wound up together. I'm looking at you, bed sheets! Seriously. I have front-loading machines and its a battle every weekend with laundry. Ok maybe it's not a battle, but it's frustrating. Can I load things somehow so that they don't get tangled?", "How to load my washer/dryer so everything doesn't get all tangled and wound up together. I'm looking at you, bed sheets! Seriously. I have front-loading machines and its a battle every weekend with laundry. Ok maybe it's not a battle, but it's frustrating. Can I load things somehow so that they don't get tangled?" ]

[ "I know you can put some tennis balls in the dryer with them.It rolls around and separates everything.Just make sure the tennis balls are clean :)\n\nFor the washer I think they have those downy balls,you put the softener in it and it does the same as the tennis balls.Thanks for reminding me,I need to get more for my laundry too! ", "Well, my family owns a top loading washer machine, and I have never had this problem. Maybe the tangling is just what the front loader does. Try seperating your clothes by size and washing style (socks, underwear and shirts together, pants on their own, all bed related items together and so on). This should eliminate small clothes hiding in the large clothes.", "This happens to me every time I wash my fitted sheet along with some clothes! I end up with clothes hiding in the fitted sheet still damp! Frustrating!", "Method 1: Get individual \"washing bags\" (mesh bags so that water / soap can get in and clean , but clothes are \"isolated\").\n\nMethod 2: The tangle problem is mainly the biggest with things like quilt covers (which becomes a big pocket for other clothes to hide in.\n\nI just button/zip up the quilt cover before washing / drying.\nFor non-quilt cover items, say fitted sheets, I roughly fold them into loose parcels then place them neatly into the washer / dryer.\nWhen they rotate in there, they stay more or less isolated, then less \"long\" the washing was when placed inside, the less \"tangle overlap\" there is.\n\nthis works fairly well for:\nsheets, shirts, pants.", "I guess I don't know what you mean because I thought that's exactly what the machines are supposed to do. \n\nCan you explain a little bit what you mean?" ]

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[ "How do you get rid of bulge around groin when wearing a belt Even if you fix it, it still comes back 30 seconds later.", "How do you get rid of bulge around groin when wearing a belt Even if you fix it, it still comes back 30 seconds later." ]

[ "your pants don't fit.\ngo to a tailor and get measured.\n\na belt should be more of an accessory. you're pants shouldn't it to stay up.\n\nand fashion, much like everything, you get what you pay for.", "You could try elasticated waist trousers, or even wear braces rather than a belt to keep your trousers up. \r\rIf you are talking about a bit of a waist paunch, then You could try losing that weight. \rAlso chose a different cut of trouser as well, the tailoring of those legs and waist may not fit your body shape. \r" ]

[ 2, 2 ]

[ "Advice for working (and living) from home Will be working from home for the indefinite future and reducing the number of times I end up leaving my apartment. Looking for LPTs on how to be productive, stay sane, and enjoy it! Cheers and stay safe!", "Advice for working (and living) from home Will be working from home for the indefinite future and reducing the number of times I end up leaving my apartment. Looking for LPTs on how to be productive, stay sane, and enjoy it! Cheers and stay safe!", "Advice for working (and living) from home Will be working from home for the indefinite future and reducing the number of times I end up leaving my apartment. Looking for LPTs on how to be productive, stay sane, and enjoy it! Cheers and stay safe!", "Advice for working (and living) from home Will be working from home for the indefinite future and reducing the number of times I end up leaving my apartment. Looking for LPTs on how to be productive, stay sane, and enjoy it! Cheers and stay safe!", "Advice for working (and living) from home Will be working from home for the indefinite future and reducing the number of times I end up leaving my apartment. Looking for LPTs on how to be productive, stay sane, and enjoy it! Cheers and stay safe!", "Advice for working (and living) from home Will be working from home for the indefinite future and reducing the number of times I end up leaving my apartment. Looking for LPTs on how to be productive, stay sane, and enjoy it! Cheers and stay safe!" ]

[ "Get dressed like you'd normally do if you left the house. Take breaks to go outside and go for a walk.", "Get showered and dressed every morning before work.\n\nAllocate a \"work only\" area and treat it like your office. Don't use it for non-work times, keep it totally separate, otherwise your productivity will decrease.\n\nTake your hour lunch in a different area. Take breaks as regularly as you do at work.\n\nJust make sure to keep work and home as separate as you can. Once they start merging, your productivity goes down then pan. Don't start working on your laptop in bed, don't watch netflix at your desk.", "Get outside when you can and breathe in the fresh air and stand in the sun. When you're inside or outside, do some exercises to keep your blood flowing and muscles strong. Keep your home clean. Putting on light music in the background can put you in a better mood. People who are home more tend to eat more. Try to keep healthier foods in your house. Have healthy snacks available if you like to snack throughout the day.", "When you wake up, go to your work area and plan out the day. Then get to work. Break to eat, shower and dress. Then get back to it. What you are trying to do is avoid the postponing of work. I'm a early riser. If I can get 3 hours in before 8, I only have 5 hours left.", "LPT while staying at home: if you are fluent in English you can log onto Cambly, and converse with people for a small income if needed.", "I've been working out of home for 12+years.\n\n* It really helps to have a place setup for work. A work office if you have the space. Create a workspace at your dining table i that is all you have.\n* Keep your family away from you while you are working. It is not possible to get work done with people around you all day. If that is not possible, then you need to leave the house.\n* I think it's fine to work in your PJ's. \n* It's fine to take breaks to get small things done around the house. Clean dishes, laundry. etc. Do not start major projects as it will completely derail your workday.\n* G.S.D. people will know if you dont.\n* Set an end work time. It's easy to work until bed time if you don't close your computer." ]

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[ "How do you thank someone far away that helped you greatly in a genuine way without appearing to be \"generic\" or \"shallow?\" After someone has done you a big favor, and you can't meet him in person, what are some things you can do/say with to fully express your appreciation?", "How do you thank someone far away that helped you greatly in a genuine way without appearing to be \"generic\" or \"shallow?\" After someone has done you a big favor, and you can't meet him in person, what are some things you can do/say with to fully express your appreciation?" ]

[ "Send a token of appreciation, like flowers or food delivery such as (the rather expensive) Edible Arrangements. A gift card or small trinket that they'd like works too. \n\nIt's also easy nowadays to get gift cards to another's local restaurant. The great thing about food is it's a like for a like, as it eases a burden of theirs.\n\nBest is if one of their burdens is within your skill set. What are your hobbies or skills? Can that aid them in some way? This also strengthens a long distance connection between you two.", "If he is a friend, pick up the phone and thank him. A follow up email in a few months to let him know how great his favor has been is just good manners.\n\nIf he is an associate, consider treating this as a business transaction. You don't want to be too personal (clothing), or too generic (cheap Tequila). Do some ground work to find out what would delight this person. It's the thoughtfulness that will impress, not the cost or the shine.\n\nIf he's in between (not a close friend but a valued relationship from work, say), it can be trickier than the other two. Ask his SO or close friends for help. They love to conspire and will offer up suggestions (favorite rum, a Spanish cheese they've wanted to try). You don't need to pick a perfect cheese, just a memorable one. Sometimes, a really awful Roquefort that he cannot stand will make him laugh at your efforts, which is a good thing.\n\nIn any case, do stay in touch every few months. It's a small world and help comes out of nowhere sometimes." ]

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[ "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?", "Handling eye contact Hello Redditors, first time poster here. I'm just asking you guys if you can help me out with this problem I've been struggling with since 7th grade. The problem is that I can't handle an eye contact while talking someone like at first i'm looking at their eyes, a few seconds after that I start looking at the ground and the tone of my voice lowers also that the people I'm talking to keep telling me \"What ? What did you say ?\" and sometimes when i talk to people i barely know they think I'm a weirdo. I believe it's because of my anxiety because whenever i start a talk with someone i feel so tense and scared. So LPT, what should i do?" ]

[ "People don't actually maintain eye contact constantly - just try and make sure you're looking roughly at their face. People's eyes flicker about a lot, nobody actually notices so long as its not towards the ground.", "As far as social anxiety. Imagine whoever you are talking to is actually really nervous to talk to you, and you are the one trying to show them that all is well and make them comfortable with the conversation (even though the situation is, in reality, reversed). Its a power of mindset. ", "Try looking at the bridge of their nose. I'm kind of weird about eye contact as well and that seemed to help me.", "This post reminds me of a saying,\n\"You wouldn't care as much of what people thought about you if you knew how little they were thinking about you.\"\n\nMeaning try not to worry about what others think about you, they have brains, just as expansive as yours and are likely caught up in their own thing, just like everyone else on the planet. \n\n\nKeep trying, if you're able to create a log in on Reddit and make this post, you're likely not insane and figuring things out just like the rest of us, some of us are slo learners, myself as the only example I can speak for. ", "Every five seconds or so, move from their eye, to the tip of their nose, to the other eye, to the bridge of their nose, and back to the eye you started with.\n\nYou just make a circle and rest at the four cardinal directions.\n\nThis worked for me. Not sure why it even works.", "You should keep a journal and track your progress. Every night, honestly track yourself and try to improve each day. Remember this... You are a human being. No better or worse than any other person (except for Prince, clearly he is better than all of us and possibly an alien of a superior race). Look in their eyes as an acknowledgment that you are both human beings spinning around Earth. ", "Watch videos where you can clearly see somebody's eyes, and try and hold eye contact with them. Or try recording a video where you stare directly into the camera the entire time. Start off small. A ten-second video, then half a minute, etc.\n\nEyes are very expressive so it can be a bit hard. Maybe try focusing on their nose, or their eyebrows. It can be actually even worse to constantly, so taking a break or moving your body will help it seem more natural.\n\nJust imagine you're Italian, yo. Move dem hands.", "I have aspergers so eye contact is more learned than instinctual for me.\n\nOne note people don't really think about, its more important to maintain eye contact when listening than talking. You should still maintain good eye contact when talking because it makes you seem more confident, competant, and believable but it's not as rude to break eye contact so this is still a good time to look around. 1/3rd to 2/3rd eye contact depending on context is about right.\n\nWhen looking switch between differant focal points on the face, like switch between looking at each eyes. This seems to make eye contact seem less intense for both parties.\n\nYou need to break eye contact every few seconds otherwise you get a creepy stare going on. Treat it like checking your rear view mirrors.\n\nWhen I worked customer service I left my job with a glowing recommendation despite difficulties maintaining eye contact. It's definitely something that can be practiced at. Some of it, like maintaining more eye contact when people are talking becomes more instinctual over time.", "One thing I like to do is while I'm thinking I'll look away, slow down your speech a little and think about what you're saying. I had cognitive behavioral therapy because I had such a problem with eye contact, didn't help me though... What did do it I think was growing up but at a certain point I valued the intimacy of making eye contact with people, I like people to know that I'm focused completely on what they're saying.", "if youre late teen, early 20s, get a summer job in sales, one with a lot of customer interaction - it will just forece you do to it through repetition it also builds conficence. \n\nthis really worked for me, great experience\n", "This is my first time to feel the \"Reddit Love \". Thanks everyone for stopping by and giving me your advices , have a nice day/afternoon/night whatever you're having. Love Y'all ♥ ", "Look between their eyes at the space at the top of the bridge of their nose. From their point of view you are looking them in the eye, but you don't actually have to see their eyes. Next, make your vision blurry. I do this all the time. When they are nothing but a huge blur, the uncomfortable nature of eye contact is gone. You're Mr./Ms. Dominant.", "Depends on the situation but you can often just \"mirror\" them. If they're looking at you, look at them, otherwise follow their gaze.\n\nWolfra is right though, best way to be more socially comfortable is to just talk to as many people as possible about whatever. Working a busy fast food joint (even as a fry cook) is the best place I ever found for just sheer exposure to lots of people.", "Another thing that hasn't been mentioned, there is a dance called contra that has helped me. During the dance there is a lot of eye contact by everyone and it can be weird in the beginning but as its normal for the dance it becomes more normal for you. Everyone who dances is acknowledges how weird having that much eye contact is at first, but they'll help you get more used to it. ", "A good tip I have heard it to look at the bridge of their nose every once in a while. It breaks the eye contact for yourself but others wont notice it. ", "This happens to me too, what sucks is when I realize I'm doing it I choke up and it's hard to pay attention to what the person is saying to me over my paranoid anxiety thoughts in my head that they think I'm weird. ", "The truth is, we can't look at both eyes at the same time. Only one eye will make this connection. However, we can 'technically' look at both eyes only at a further distance at our vision of eye contact will be a lot easier since the distance makes their eyes to be closer.\n\nFor example, when you look from afar and speak with someone, you're gazing at their face so essentially you're making eye contact with the exception that you're not directly looking at one eye, you're looking at both.\n\nNow, at a closer distance, where things will become confusing. It's usually within hugging distance where things will get a bit more awkward as you're forced to stare at one eye to make the connection. Now I must stress this word 'connection' because it signals us that you are indeed looking at us and that you're listening at the same time. It wouldn't make sense if you're looking at the ground or the sky while talking to someone, it'll seem like the person doesn't even care at all right? So eye contact is absolutely important in regards to socialising. \n\nAnother theory I had come across with is that when we make eye contact up close, it's vital to understand that which eye we look at means we are paying attention to them. You can tell when someone is looking at a bird, or when someone is staring at your shirt and that's why it's so important especially in communicating with one another, to make eye contact.\n\nThere are 2 cases in which I made a diagram:\n\nimgur.com/a/l29p2\n\nFirst case is how we look at each other in the same eye, either the left or right.\n\nThe second case is how we look each other in the opposite.\n\nTo me, I still don't quite understand this all very well but to my experience, I have suffered a lot more awkwardness in case 2 while in case 1, it seemed more natural and correct. I have asked my family members to tell me which eye they are looking at when I'm up close with them and it will most often end up in case 1. I have often ended up with case 2 frequently since I'm at the stage where I still can't tell which eye to look at because to me, it seems both eyes are the same. I have a really hard time especially when having eye contact with people who have lazy eyes and wider spread apart eyes.", "Sorry I'm late to the party folks! Here's a bit of [light reading](http://www.artofmanliness.com/2012/02/05/look-em-in-the-eye-part-i-the-importance-of-eye-contact/) for the OP.", "Some of these tricks should help a little, but have you thought about talking to someone about your social anxiety? It can be very helpful.", "My struggle is a little different. In some Asian cultures, it is rude to make eye contact. The confusing part is what about some Asian Americans?", "Maybe think about what it is you're trying to communicate, more than about them or their eyes. What do you want them to know, what are you sharing with them. A lot of chit-chat is just herd animal behavior, like, \"I'm talking about the weather so you know I'm open to talking to you and I'm harmless,\" and that's fine. But otherwise, why are you talking to them? If you had something you want them to know, say it, otherwise you might try just being quiet, let them talk if they want to. Respond any way you feel like to what they say. There aren't any right or wrong things to say so don't feel like what you're saying is \"wrong.\" Well, this is reddit, there may be some examples of things you don't want to say... but on the whole, you can't go wrong if you get whatever it is you're trying to communicate across. Focus on the thought or information you're sharing. Also, accept your anxiety completely. You can say to yourself, \"Yep, I'm feeling really anxious right now.\" Better than fighting it. And you can still talk when you're feeling nervous, doesn't matter. And, if they think you're \"a weirdo\" they can just go talk to someone else, and you can talk to someone who's kinder.", "Look at their forehead. The person across won't notice the difference between looking slightly above and at their eyes.", "Learn to listen and ask people questions. Develop a genuine interest for whatever conversation topic you're talking about, and if you don't know a lot about it, don't be afraid to ask the other person to explain it to you. This will help you twofold: #1 People generally love talking about themselves, and even shy people will have a topic that they are enthusiastic about. #2 You don't have to worry about faking something physically when you're actually invested in the conversation.\n\nIn short, focus on engaging with the other person, not on showing the right body language.", "It's always a staring contest. Look deeply into their pupils until they look away. Then you've won.", "I'm the same way. But I'm an extreme introvert, so thoughts are always running through my mind, but I've realized it's easier for me to listen and respond when I don't look directly at them. My thoughts are clearer and I focus more, the visual stimulation of looking at them distracts me and creates another flood of thoughts. It doesn't have much to do with what they are thinking of me though. ", "I try and look at their hair, ears, nose or more often ir not their forehead. It helps me keep eye contact longer - but you still need to let your eyes wander about. That's only natural. It's still a struggle but it helps", "I have the same problem. I am terrified of people. The only trick I've found is to stare at them until they feel uncomfortable, then it eases both sides. ", "I had this problem too, With my job it almost seemed impossible to maintain eye contact, Honestly all i could say is, Start off by looking in the middle of their forehead, Just force yourself to keep your eyes locked onto one spot. *FORCE IT* Its hard and uncomfortable at first, But after a while it becomes second nature, After that start moving closer and closer to the eyes. \n\nJust thought i should add this , If youre able to maintain eye contact during a convo and the other person breaks eye contact first, That means youve mastered it, You can start using that as a dominance thingy ", "I had that problem too, exactly as you described it. What i do is i kinda look away, or near their face but obviously not looking at them, but then make eye contact for a few seconds and then shift back away. Its never been a problem for me to do it like this and no ones ever called me out on it. Try it on a friend and see if its easier for you.\n\n", "I can't even look at peoples faces half the time and I have no clue why.\nAs a kid I could look dead in a teachers eye and tell them that the substitute teacher I just invented gave me permission to be inside at lunch, without blinking.\n\nThese days looking at someones face, not all the time though and triggered seemingly randomly, my neck does a god damn spasm. You know when you tense your head/neck to make your head vibrate? It does that. I look god damn retarded when it happens.", "Half of the time I talk to someone and \"maintain eye contact\" I'm actually looking passed them. Don't worry so much about the eye contact but engage in the conversation. Now whether or not I'm actually listening is another story. Practice with someone you're really comfortable with. The tough part is with someone that has a giant mole on the face and not staring at it. Hope it gets better! Part of anxiety that I deal with is its only awkward if you make it awkward.", "Adress your fears. Many people tell you to try tricks when you are afraid, but those only get you so far.\n\nWhen you feel tense scared, that is a clear sign for a fear reaction, and the part of your brain that is responsible for your fear, knows no reason, it is barely more developed than a rabbit brain. If the primitve parts of your brain get the feeling that you won't handle the threat, they will take over, and shut down all of the higher functions, and there is nothing you can do about it. \n\nWork with your survival instincts not against or around them. Acknowledge your fears. Know that the physical symptoms are part of your fight or flight response. Consciously decide for fight. If you follow these steps, the primitive regions of your brain know that the threat is addressed and dealt with, and will interfere much less with your higher functions.\n\nThe second part is, what people often say first. Fake it til you make it, and training.\n\nWhen you deal with situations that trigger anxiety there are four possible outcomes.\n\n1. You fear you are going to die, you choose to engage, you succeed, you dont die.\n\n2. You fear you are going to die, you choose to engage, you fail, you dont die.\n\n3. You fear you are going to die, you avoid, you dont die.\n\n4. You die.\n\nNumber four is very unlikely and unfavourable. But both number one AND number two will in the long run lower your anxiety. Your anxiety is about fearing to die, not about looking stupid. So if you face your fears, and allways look like the biggest looser, your anxiety will shrink, because you are clearly engaging in dangerous activity and constantly survive. Only option three will increase your anxiety, because you avoided danger and survived. That reinforces the idea that the situation was indeed dangerous and that avoiding was a good idea.\n\nA scary but effective training is to set yourself the goal to be rejected by a potential partner at least once a week. Rejection is your fear, so this is the directest way to adress it. The worst that can happen is that you fail, and end up in a relationship.\n\nKind regards\n\nSB\n\n*", "This happens when you have inferior complex. Once you have this belief that you are inferior to the person you are talking to you, you will get anxiety. So, trick is to visualize yourself talking to a monkey (or dressed up in funny ways). This will build up your self-esteem. Another trick is to focus on the matter. This should kill your self-coinciousness, thereby making you totally oblivious of your body reactions." ]

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[ "How do I improve the mind-muscle connection with my chest when working out? I've had a pretty big issue in the gym for several months now, and that is that I cannot, no matter **what**, establish a proper mind-muscle connection with my pecs and actually feel them when working out unlike pretty much any other muscle (yes, even my calves).\n\nI've tried pretty much every chest exercise you can think of, from simple pushups, to incline/decline dumbbell flies/pushes, to cable crossovers and flies.\n\nRegardless of the technique, position, weight, or the form, all exercises end up simply tiring out my arms/shoulders after a few sets and simply do not hit the pecs at all.\n\nI've asked several trainers and experienced lifters in my gym for advice and most of them said I need to work on my mind-muscle connection and simply do the exercises until I manage to activate my pecs.\n\nNow, *to be fair*, when I do the exercises and put my hand on my pecs *they are usually contracting a bit*, especially during the cable flies/crossovers, its just that I simply cannot feel my working out.\n\nHowever, during all the other exercises (benching, dumbbell, etc.) its like my body simply ignores pecs all together.\n\nThe only indication I have that my chest workout was at least somewhat successful is the slight pressure/pain that I feel if I take a deep breath.\n\nAny tips on how to improve the mind-muscle connection?\n\n", "How do I improve the mind-muscle connection with my chest when working out? I've had a pretty big issue in the gym for several months now, and that is that I cannot, no matter **what**, establish a proper mind-muscle connection with my pecs and actually feel them when working out unlike pretty much any other muscle (yes, even my calves).\n\nI've tried pretty much every chest exercise you can think of, from simple pushups, to incline/decline dumbbell flies/pushes, to cable crossovers and flies.\n\nRegardless of the technique, position, weight, or the form, all exercises end up simply tiring out my arms/shoulders after a few sets and simply do not hit the pecs at all.\n\nI've asked several trainers and experienced lifters in my gym for advice and most of them said I need to work on my mind-muscle connection and simply do the exercises until I manage to activate my pecs.\n\nNow, *to be fair*, when I do the exercises and put my hand on my pecs *they are usually contracting a bit*, especially during the cable flies/crossovers, its just that I simply cannot feel my working out.\n\nHowever, during all the other exercises (benching, dumbbell, etc.) its like my body simply ignores pecs all together.\n\nThe only indication I have that my chest workout was at least somewhat successful is the slight pressure/pain that I feel if I take a deep breath.\n\nAny tips on how to improve the mind-muscle connection?\n\n", "How do I improve the mind-muscle connection with my chest when working out? I've had a pretty big issue in the gym for several months now, and that is that I cannot, no matter **what**, establish a proper mind-muscle connection with my pecs and actually feel them when working out unlike pretty much any other muscle (yes, even my calves).\n\nI've tried pretty much every chest exercise you can think of, from simple pushups, to incline/decline dumbbell flies/pushes, to cable crossovers and flies.\n\nRegardless of the technique, position, weight, or the form, all exercises end up simply tiring out my arms/shoulders after a few sets and simply do not hit the pecs at all.\n\nI've asked several trainers and experienced lifters in my gym for advice and most of them said I need to work on my mind-muscle connection and simply do the exercises until I manage to activate my pecs.\n\nNow, *to be fair*, when I do the exercises and put my hand on my pecs *they are usually contracting a bit*, especially during the cable flies/crossovers, its just that I simply cannot feel my working out.\n\nHowever, during all the other exercises (benching, dumbbell, etc.) its like my body simply ignores pecs all together.\n\nThe only indication I have that my chest workout was at least somewhat successful is the slight pressure/pain that I feel if I take a deep breath.\n\nAny tips on how to improve the mind-muscle connection?\n\n" ]

[ "concentrate on the point at which the pecs connect to the shoulders. Once you're thinking about that, during a bench press, imagine your hands squeezing together (but not actually moving on the bar at all) as though you wanted to move ur fists together and touch them. concentrate on the squeezing inward motion of the lift and feel your connections in the shoulders get hard as it tries to squeeze your hands together resulting in the bar being pushed away. this is something i think about all the time but never knew that it was actually a thing", "Quality over quantity. If you like you're lifting too much and it's affecting your form, then take some weight off and try to perfect form first.", "I had a similar problem in that I was heavily working my anterior delts (front shoulders) when benching. What helped me was pinching my shoulder blades together as I was laying flat and then started benching with slight arch in my lower back. It helped me 'feel' my specs getting worked way more than my delts unlike before.\n\nI know you said you've tried it all, so hopefully this helps?" ]

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[ "Immigrant in Canada (coming from a developing country). What does expensive mean? Say for a restaurant meal, is 15 dollars expensive? Living in Toronto for about 3 yrs now. \nBackground: Secretary \nIncome: $40k/yr\n\nBack in Philippines a meal that's 10pesos is cheap. On average, it is 15-20 pesos. An expensive meal would be 35-40 pesos. I have a good sense or understanding for Pesos spending. It's of course useless comparing and converting it into CAD, but I really don't have a good CAD sense of what is expensive for clothes, restaurant, etc. in Canada. \n\nSometimes, 500CAD sounds like 500pesos to me, and 500pesos is not a lot at all. So I tend to easily spend 500CAD like it's water (or like it's 500pesos). My faulty automatic thought is 1CAD is equal to 1peso. Therefore, I would spend $500 like it's 500pesos.\n\nIt's probably a stupid question, but it's been affecting my spending behavior negatively.\n\nWould appreciate any help.\n\nFollow-up: What about TIPPING? (This isn't really a thing in Philippines) Is it normally for RESTAURANTS only?\nIf I went for a haircut (women's haircut is generally 70-100CAD), and I believe the normal tip here is 15%, but that adds up a lot though. That's why I have only went for a haircut once in 2 yrs.\nIs it ok not to give tip to other services other than restaurants???", "Immigrant in Canada (coming from a developing country). What does expensive mean? Say for a restaurant meal, is 15 dollars expensive? Living in Toronto for about 3 yrs now. \nBackground: Secretary \nIncome: $40k/yr\n\nBack in Philippines a meal that's 10pesos is cheap. On average, it is 15-20 pesos. An expensive meal would be 35-40 pesos. I have a good sense or understanding for Pesos spending. It's of course useless comparing and converting it into CAD, but I really don't have a good CAD sense of what is expensive for clothes, restaurant, etc. in Canada. \n\nSometimes, 500CAD sounds like 500pesos to me, and 500pesos is not a lot at all. So I tend to easily spend 500CAD like it's water (or like it's 500pesos). My faulty automatic thought is 1CAD is equal to 1peso. Therefore, I would spend $500 like it's 500pesos.\n\nIt's probably a stupid question, but it's been affecting my spending behavior negatively.\n\nWould appreciate any help.\n\nFollow-up: What about TIPPING? (This isn't really a thing in Philippines) Is it normally for RESTAURANTS only?\nIf I went for a haircut (women's haircut is generally 70-100CAD), and I believe the normal tip here is 15%, but that adds up a lot though. That's why I have only went for a haircut once in 2 yrs.\nIs it ok not to give tip to other services other than restaurants???", "Immigrant in Canada (coming from a developing country). What does expensive mean? Say for a restaurant meal, is 15 dollars expensive? Living in Toronto for about 3 yrs now. \nBackground: Secretary \nIncome: $40k/yr\n\nBack in Philippines a meal that's 10pesos is cheap. On average, it is 15-20 pesos. An expensive meal would be 35-40 pesos. I have a good sense or understanding for Pesos spending. It's of course useless comparing and converting it into CAD, but I really don't have a good CAD sense of what is expensive for clothes, restaurant, etc. in Canada. \n\nSometimes, 500CAD sounds like 500pesos to me, and 500pesos is not a lot at all. So I tend to easily spend 500CAD like it's water (or like it's 500pesos). My faulty automatic thought is 1CAD is equal to 1peso. Therefore, I would spend $500 like it's 500pesos.\n\nIt's probably a stupid question, but it's been affecting my spending behavior negatively.\n\nWould appreciate any help.\n\nFollow-up: What about TIPPING? (This isn't really a thing in Philippines) Is it normally for RESTAURANTS only?\nIf I went for a haircut (women's haircut is generally 70-100CAD), and I believe the normal tip here is 15%, but that adds up a lot though. That's why I have only went for a haircut once in 2 yrs.\nIs it ok not to give tip to other services other than restaurants???", "Immigrant in Canada (coming from a developing country). What does expensive mean? Say for a restaurant meal, is 15 dollars expensive? Living in Toronto for about 3 yrs now. \nBackground: Secretary \nIncome: $40k/yr\n\nBack in Philippines a meal that's 10pesos is cheap. On average, it is 15-20 pesos. An expensive meal would be 35-40 pesos. I have a good sense or understanding for Pesos spending. It's of course useless comparing and converting it into CAD, but I really don't have a good CAD sense of what is expensive for clothes, restaurant, etc. in Canada. \n\nSometimes, 500CAD sounds like 500pesos to me, and 500pesos is not a lot at all. So I tend to easily spend 500CAD like it's water (or like it's 500pesos). My faulty automatic thought is 1CAD is equal to 1peso. Therefore, I would spend $500 like it's 500pesos.\n\nIt's probably a stupid question, but it's been affecting my spending behavior negatively.\n\nWould appreciate any help.\n\nFollow-up: What about TIPPING? (This isn't really a thing in Philippines) Is it normally for RESTAURANTS only?\nIf I went for a haircut (women's haircut is generally 70-100CAD), and I believe the normal tip here is 15%, but that adds up a lot though. That's why I have only went for a haircut once in 2 yrs.\nIs it ok not to give tip to other services other than restaurants???", "Immigrant in Canada (coming from a developing country). What does expensive mean? Say for a restaurant meal, is 15 dollars expensive? Living in Toronto for about 3 yrs now. \nBackground: Secretary \nIncome: $40k/yr\n\nBack in Philippines a meal that's 10pesos is cheap. On average, it is 15-20 pesos. An expensive meal would be 35-40 pesos. I have a good sense or understanding for Pesos spending. It's of course useless comparing and converting it into CAD, but I really don't have a good CAD sense of what is expensive for clothes, restaurant, etc. in Canada. \n\nSometimes, 500CAD sounds like 500pesos to me, and 500pesos is not a lot at all. So I tend to easily spend 500CAD like it's water (or like it's 500pesos). My faulty automatic thought is 1CAD is equal to 1peso. Therefore, I would spend $500 like it's 500pesos.\n\nIt's probably a stupid question, but it's been affecting my spending behavior negatively.\n\nWould appreciate any help.\n\nFollow-up: What about TIPPING? (This isn't really a thing in Philippines) Is it normally for RESTAURANTS only?\nIf I went for a haircut (women's haircut is generally 70-100CAD), and I believe the normal tip here is 15%, but that adds up a lot though. That's why I have only went for a haircut once in 2 yrs.\nIs it ok not to give tip to other services other than restaurants???" ]

[ "Expensive means it costs more than what you would normally pay for an item of that type. \n\nFor example, with food. A McDonalds Big Mac is like $3 and change. If I go to an upscale steakhouse and get a burger it would be about $15. You would then say that the steakhouse burger is about $12 more EXPENSIVE than the Big Mac. \n\nYou’ve got the hang of it though OP :)\n\n", "You can download a currency exchange app on your smart phone for easy conversions until you understand the new terms. Canada is very expensive so you definitely need to know. Personally I would not think $15 for a meal is expensive. When you get to $30 entrees and drinks it adds up. The cost of living in general is expensive in Canada. You pay a lot in taxes too. Good luck to you!", "Try thinking about things in numbers of hours you need to work to buy it. Let's say you make $20 an hour and want a new t-shirt. One t-shirt costs $10, which is a half hour of work. There is another t-shirt that costs $60, that's three hours of work. How many hours are you willing to work for a t-shirt? ", "See personal finance subreddit. Sorry I don’t know how to link. You shouldn’t be spending 500 like it’s water.", "Do you mean peso or piso? \n\n100 Canadian Dollar equals 4,060.15 Philippine Piso, so 500 CAD is 20300.73 Piso. I think you might be overspending from the numbers you're looking at. Do a quick google search for the daily conversion rate. As a reference, it's roughly 1 CAD to 40 Philippine Piso." ]

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[ "How to pick a good mattress? I need a new mattress but this is the first time I've had to buy one for myself. I have read the tips about splurging on anything that separates you from the ground but I wouldn't know where to begin when it comes to mattresses, there's too many options.\n\nHow do you pick a good mattress?", "How to pick a good mattress? I need a new mattress but this is the first time I've had to buy one for myself. I have read the tips about splurging on anything that separates you from the ground but I wouldn't know where to begin when it comes to mattresses, there's too many options.\n\nHow do you pick a good mattress?", "How to pick a good mattress? I need a new mattress but this is the first time I've had to buy one for myself. I have read the tips about splurging on anything that separates you from the ground but I wouldn't know where to begin when it comes to mattresses, there's too many options.\n\nHow do you pick a good mattress?", "How to pick a good mattress? I need a new mattress but this is the first time I've had to buy one for myself. I have read the tips about splurging on anything that separates you from the ground but I wouldn't know where to begin when it comes to mattresses, there's too many options.\n\nHow do you pick a good mattress?", "How to pick a good mattress? I need a new mattress but this is the first time I've had to buy one for myself. I have read the tips about splurging on anything that separates you from the ground but I wouldn't know where to begin when it comes to mattresses, there's too many options.\n\nHow do you pick a good mattress?", "How to pick a good mattress? I need a new mattress but this is the first time I've had to buy one for myself. I have read the tips about splurging on anything that separates you from the ground but I wouldn't know where to begin when it comes to mattresses, there's too many options.\n\nHow do you pick a good mattress?", "How to pick a good mattress? I need a new mattress but this is the first time I've had to buy one for myself. I have read the tips about splurging on anything that separates you from the ground but I wouldn't know where to begin when it comes to mattresses, there's too many options.\n\nHow do you pick a good mattress?" ]

[ "Narrow down based on how you sleep. The idea is to have a mattress (and pillow) that keep your spine as neutral as possible in the position you usually sleep in. Side sleeping needs a softer mattress, back sleeping needs a firmer mattress, and stomach sleeping needs something in between. Take into account your weight and body shape as well. If you are heavier, you'll need a firmer mattress. If you have broad shoulders and/or hips and side sleep, you'll need a softer one.\n\nIf you sleep hot, don't get a straight memory foam mattress, you will sweat like crazy.\n\nOnce you have these parameters, go actually test mattresses. I believe most places give you 100 days to test your mattress. Definitely take advantage of this! If you don't sleep well after a week getting used to it, return it and try again.\n\nIf I were to completely splurge on a mattress, I would get the purple mattress in the thickest version. I side sleep and it really helped relieve pressure points on the cheaper one, but my husband has broad shoulders and it wasn't quite soft enough for him.", "I’ve bought two mattresses from Amazon - the zinus green tea memory foam. I’ve really like them, plus they are a lot cheaper that mattresses from the store.", "Avoid memory foam... Once it moulds to your body if you try to sleep in any other position than tge mold or any other part of the bed it becomes very uncomfortable. Also try to find a mattress that you an flip every few months (most mattresses with memory foam are one sided).", "If you have a ballpark idea of what you are looking for - materials you like, soft, firm, etc., then check out the sleepopolis website. It has a bunch of reviews, ratings, etc. Most are for online companies, who will do a free return if you are not happy.", "Go try out a bunch from mattress and furniture stores in person, find your preferences, then buy one online from the big name online brands with a 6-12 month satisfaction guarantee. \n\nDon’t like it? Have it taken away and try a different one.", "Go test them all and compare the price range for how long you expect it to last and don't be cheap.\n\nI just spent over a thousand on one and it needs to last 15 years. It's lovely. The shop let me lay on everything and tried different mattress with different bases.\n\nI went to all the local shops ones far away and tried everything. Took a few months.\n\nIf I had the cash I'd get a $250,000 bed.", "Don't order them online, at least test them first. Memory foam is really popular, but I'm very happy with my latex-matress. It's a bit more expensive, but really comfy and natural." ]

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[ "How to best use prepaid debit cards before expiring? Ideally I would want to move them to a bank account but have issues with how to do that. Buying Amazon gift cards or the like could work however I get more cash back using a cr", "How to best use prepaid debit cards before expiring? Ideally I would want to move them to a bank account but have issues with how to do that. Buying Amazon gift cards or the like could work however I get more cash back using a cr" ]

[ "I tend to prepay recurring bills. I used to earn Visa gift cards all the time, so I'd use the to prepay my cable bill or my gym membership.", "You won’t get more CB liquidating them compared to just using them if you don’t know how to liquidate them. Methods to liquidate VGCs are in the r/churning wiki sidebar but I see you didn’t bother reading it." ]

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[ "How to make high quality stickers at home I'm hoping to design and print some custom stickers for friends and family this holiday season. Does anyone have a go-to method for making long-lasting stickers? \nThanks!", "How to make high quality stickers at home I'm hoping to design and print some custom stickers for friends and family this holiday season. Does anyone have a go-to method for making long-lasting stickers? \nThanks!" ]

[ "There are kits you can get where you make the sticker on normal sticker paper, then use a top coat of clear vinyl to seal it (a sheet of it). You could probably also spray them to seal them.\n\nThe other was to get a cheap thermal transfer label printer, assuming you only want black & white, and a small size. ", "[This](http://www.avery.com/avery-product-selector/ps?locale=en_US) might help narrow down sticker types for you. You can put in your printer type and dimensions that you want. There are also some templates available in MS Word format so you don't have to fiddle with setting up the boundaries for the layouts.\n\nFor general use I'd say you probably want \"Special Occasion\", <YourPrinterType> & Repositionable adhesive for the type of product." ]

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[ "How to get crusty stuff out of furry/faux fur fabric? (Sorry if this isn't the right place for this question. IDK where else to post it). I've tried washing it 3 times. It has gotten better with each subsequent wash. I've also tried scrubbing it. It's getting better, but still extremely noticeable. :( It happened when I was really sick and couldn't wash my blanket for a while, it could be cough medicine. I'm looking for an easy way to get rid of this crusty stuff.\n\n", "How to get crusty stuff out of furry/faux fur fabric? (Sorry if this isn't the right place for this question. IDK where else to post it). I've tried washing it 3 times. It has gotten better with each subsequent wash. I've also tried scrubbing it. It's getting better, but still extremely noticeable. :( It happened when I was really sick and couldn't wash my blanket for a while, it could be cough medicine. I'm looking for an easy way to get rid of this crusty stuff.\n\n", "How to get crusty stuff out of furry/faux fur fabric? (Sorry if this isn't the right place for this question. IDK where else to post it). I've tried washing it 3 times. It has gotten better with each subsequent wash. I've also tried scrubbing it. It's getting better, but still extremely noticeable. :( It happened when I was really sick and couldn't wash my blanket for a while, it could be cough medicine. I'm looking for an easy way to get rid of this crusty stuff.\n\n" ]

[ "if it's crusty and not gooey, maybe try a fine tooth comb to gently scrape off the crusty substance? do a small test spot first to make sure it doesn't damage the fabric though. good luck!", "Brush it with a small fine bristled hair brush, or a dry tooth brush. It will take a long time to get it out, but persist. ", "90% rubbing alcohol. Spray it and hit it with stiff brush. Alcohol will evaporate fast so moisture won't damage the fabric. " ]

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[ "How can I get cat puke out of the carpet efficiently? It stains! What is the best way to get rid of these stains?", "How can I get cat puke out of the carpet efficiently? It stains! What is the best way to get rid of these stains?", "How can I get cat puke out of the carpet efficiently? It stains! What is the best way to get rid of these stains?", "How can I get cat puke out of the carpet efficiently? It stains! What is the best way to get rid of these stains?", "How can I get cat puke out of the carpet efficiently? It stains! What is the best way to get rid of these stains?", "How can I get cat puke out of the carpet efficiently? It stains! What is the best way to get rid of these stains?", "How can I get cat puke out of the carpet efficiently? It stains! What is the best way to get rid of these stains?" ]

[ "i found a bissell carpet stain remover (silver container next to the vacuum cleaners) that does an amazing job. spray till nice and foamy, let sit, wipe up (the stuff will kind of refoam up as you do), let dry and vacuum. it even worked on that horrible light-gray carpets that apartment complexes seem to love.", "1. Wait until it is dry and get up as much as possible with a vacuum.\n\n2. Vinegar and an old washcloth.", "Unrelated to your actual request, but if your cat is puking regularly, get them into a vet and have them do a blood screen for liver/kidney function - we *just* lost my buddy this last Friday to liver failure, and it *may* have helped if we'd gotten him in when he started making puking a regular thing.\n\nWe'd just gotten so used to him gorging then puking right after feeding time that it became the status quo.\n\nHopefully there isn't anything going on with your kitty, but better to be sure than to be surprised like we were... he was fine up until the previous Sunday.", "Rug doctor at local hardware store is pretty damn good. Its going to be about $18 for rental, and about $9 for soap solution. But you can do the entire house and it just feels great afterwards. Not the cheapest solution, but certainly one of the most effective.", "Nature's Miracle. Especially the \"Just for Cats\" formula. Go to your local pet store and get a gallon. ", "Just a simple way;\n1. Let the cat puke sit for an hour or so, more or less.\n2. Pick up everything that dried with a paper towel then clean the remaining with windex. Windex cleans most anything very well.", "I have a method that uses NO chemicals/soaps.\n\n\n\nGet cardboard for liquidy vomit or just use a napkin for solid hairballs.\n\n\nScrape the liquidy/crusty portion off the top with the cardboard or pick up the hairball with napkin. When using the cardboard try to dig under the vomit and scrape it off.\n\n\nGet a cup of hot (steaming) water from your tap. \n\n\nPour the hot water generously on and around the stain.\n\n\nLet soak for about 1 minute.\n\n\nGrab some paper towels and \"pull\" the stained area. Pinch the carpet fibers and pull until most of the stain is gone. \n\n\nTake some more paper towels and dab the water soaked area. At this point most of the stain is gone, and whatever cat puke is left has been pulled out of the carpet fibers and into the water. Use the paper towels to dab and soak up the water, bringing the stain along with it. \n\n\nThis works 100% of the time for me and gets rid of 95% of the stain. Granted, this won't make your carpet perfectly clean every time, but it will do the job very consistently. Try this method before spending money on any extra carpet cleaners and if this method doesn't work, then go buy some product. " ]

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[ "getting rid of floor refinishing smell We just had hardwood floors professionally refinished, and the stench is epic. Aside from airing the place out, is there anyrhing else we can do to get rid of the smell?", "getting rid of floor refinishing smell We just had hardwood floors professionally refinished, and the stench is epic. Aside from airing the place out, is there anyrhing else we can do to get rid of the smell?" ]

[ "Well your options are basically cover up the smell, get something to absorb/filter out the smell, or air the place out. The first is obvious -- candles, potpourri, basically anything that is strong smelling. \n\nFor the second, aside from having an active air filter, you can try using something like [this](http://www.amazon.com/Moso-Natural-Air-Purifying-500g-Charcoal/dp/B006TFO9T8/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1401515449&sr=8-3&keywords=bamboo+charcoal) bamboo charcoal. This is pretty much the same kind of activated charcoal used in things like Brita filters. It works because the carbon particles are extremely porous and will physically trap small airborne molecules. ", "Let the room heat up by killing the a/c, or run the heat... Depending on where you are. \n\nAlso good to get a fan on it. So long as they didn't apply too much product, or do it incorrectly, the smell will be gone it two days." ]

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[ "I (17M) need to stop thinking, I need to stop daydreaming, I need to stop creating fantasies about women. ", "I (17M) need to stop thinking, I need to stop daydreaming, I need to stop creating fantasies about women. " ]

[ "Hello [Mr_Ghost123](/u/Mr_Ghost123), thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, your submission has been removed for the following reason(s):\n\n* try r/relationships, perhaps?\n\n* **Relationship tip.**\n\n\n\nIf you would like to appeal this decision [please feel free to contact the moderators here](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=/r/LifeProTips). Do not repost without explicit permission from the moderators. Make sure you [read the rules](/r/lifeprotips/about/sidebar) before submitting. Thank you!", "A few things:\n\n1. Learn to allow thoughts to 'pass through'. M" ]

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[ "How to get rid of armpit stains (possibly caused by deodorant) on any shirt I've noticed that on some of my shirts and jackets (including jean jackets), there are whitish stains on the armpits. Is this caused by deodorant? And if so, are there any suggestions on brands/how much to use? Then, of course, how can I get rid of these? They're uncomfortably noticeable.\n\n", "How to get rid of armpit stains (possibly caused by deodorant) on any shirt I've noticed that on some of my shirts and jackets (including jean jackets), there are whitish stains on the armpits. Is this caused by deodorant? And if so, are there any suggestions on brands/how much to use? Then, of course, how can I get rid of these? They're uncomfortably noticeable.\n\n", "How to get rid of armpit stains (possibly caused by deodorant) on any shirt I've noticed that on some of my shirts and jackets (including jean jackets), there are whitish stains on the armpits. Is this caused by deodorant? And if so, are there any suggestions on brands/how much to use? Then, of course, how can I get rid of these? They're uncomfortably noticeable.\n\n", "How to get rid of armpit stains (possibly caused by deodorant) on any shirt I've noticed that on some of my shirts and jackets (including jean jackets), there are whitish stains on the armpits. Is this caused by deodorant? And if so, are there any suggestions on brands/how much to use? Then, of course, how can I get rid of these? They're uncomfortably noticeable.\n\n" ]

[ "My mom always said she used vinegar. \nHere is a tutorial http://www.mamaslaundrytalk.com/2010/03/29/how-to-remove-armpit-stains/", "I came to this sub looking for exactly that. I'm looking for help with two kinds of stains on T-shirts.\n\n1) The white, hard, somewhat waxy build-up in the armpit area that is apparently caused by aluminium salts in the antiperspirants (I don't use those anymore, but the stains remain).\n\n2) The yellow stains in the armpit and neck areas of white T-shirts that (I believe) are caused by sweaty, greasy skin.\n\nFor both, it would be perfect if some DIY/household stuff worked. Or at least products that are also available in Europe, not just the US. I've seen tons of advice that says to use OxiClean and similar, but we don't have that in Europe, I believe (what is a similar product to OxiClean that is available in Europe?).\n\nThanks a lot!", "Thank you! I use Arm & Hammer because I think it does it really good job on me, but during S. FL summers they have been doing horrible on my shirts. Going to try the vinegar trick next wash I do.", "I've seen stains like this from salt. My dad would even stain his black army boots around the tops from sweat and the salt staying behind. \n\nAll types of stains with things like make up, deodorant, personal care products should be washed as quickly as possible in really hot water. Sometimes pouring really hot water from the opposite side if the fabric through the stain and putting pretreater on before a very hot wash can help. \n\nI've never had an issue using secret brand deodorant, even the \"platinum protection\" because my sweat is very very salty and can cause stains very easily. Sweat stains from salt should be treated the same way as cosmetics. Pretreater can do wonders. " ]

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[ "How to better translate my thoughts into actual words Please tell me I'm not the only one who struggles with being witty. On pen and paper I'm fine, but I have a hard time coming up with the right way to describe what I'm thinking on the spot. How can I get better at saying exactly what I mean?\n", "How to better translate my thoughts into actual words Please tell me I'm not the only one who struggles with being witty. On pen and paper I'm fine, but I have a hard time coming up with the right way to describe what I'm thinking on the spot. How can I get better at saying exactly what I mean?\n", "How to better translate my thoughts into actual words Please tell me I'm not the only one who struggles with being witty. On pen and paper I'm fine, but I have a hard time coming up with the right way to describe what I'm thinking on the spot. How can I get better at saying exactly what I mean?\n", "How to better translate my thoughts into actual words Please tell me I'm not the only one who struggles with being witty. On pen and paper I'm fine, but I have a hard time coming up with the right way to describe what I'm thinking on the spot. How can I get better at saying exactly what I mean?\n", "How to better translate my thoughts into actual words Please tell me I'm not the only one who struggles with being witty. On pen and paper I'm fine, but I have a hard time coming up with the right way to describe what I'm thinking on the spot. How can I get better at saying exactly what I mean?\n", "How to better translate my thoughts into actual words Please tell me I'm not the only one who struggles with being witty. On pen and paper I'm fine, but I have a hard time coming up with the right way to describe what I'm thinking on the spot. How can I get better at saying exactly what I mean?\n", "How to better translate my thoughts into actual words Please tell me I'm not the only one who struggles with being witty. On pen and paper I'm fine, but I have a hard time coming up with the right way to describe what I'm thinking on the spot. How can I get better at saying exactly what I mean?\n", "How to better translate my thoughts into actual words Please tell me I'm not the only one who struggles with being witty. On pen and paper I'm fine, but I have a hard time coming up with the right way to describe what I'm thinking on the spot. How can I get better at saying exactly what I mean?\n" ]

[ "Maybe try to doing something like crossword puzzles. It'll work on your vocabulary and your word recall ability. At least for me, part of the struggle is often finding the exact words to best capture what I want to say, and expanding your vocabulary is a great way to give yourself a better chance of doing it.", "Read and write more. In books you will see how other (typically smarter) people have said things before. When you read have a notepad so you can write down memorable quotes and ideologies. Eventually you will have a bank of smart zingers. Practice turning these zingers into your own wordings. I also suggest taking time each night to write out ideas you may have had that day. Form them into complete ideas as to have a bank of OC. Practice makes perfect. ", "Not exactly a pro answer, but sometimes I find it easier when I speak in my head before speaking out loud.\nIt forces me to make a summary of my thoughts, and then I just have to follow my mental plan ;)", "Join and improv club/group! You learn to filter less and let your thoughts flow out more naturally. \n", "Read out loud and take time to enunciate your words. You don't need to be a witty person, you just need to speak clearly.", "I have this problem too, only for me being behind a computer allows me to speak my mind easier than in person. Face to face, I usually end up saying something and then later on thinking \"That's not at all what I intended to say\". The only answer I have for you is continue practicing vocalizing your thoughts into words. Meet new people and find someone who you find articulate and study them.", "Against the spirit of your usual lpt, I can't give a universal answer, just one that works for me. My problem was similar. I write adequately, but speaking in groups, I tend to turn into [Jeff Murdock from \"coupling\".](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hstPHM3R1dY) \n\nMy problem was that when I write, I can go back, revise, alter, change the order, substitute word, delete, all kinds of things. Speaking live you try to do all of these things *at the same time you're talking*. So just slow down. A bit of a pause after someone speaks is natural and can even make you appear more intelligent than you actually are. \nTry to take a complex thought and break it into small gestalts with a pause between each one in which you can ", "When I was learning how to write in college, my mentor taught me to do the following:\n\n\nSay out loud: \"What I'm trying to say is:_______\" in plain english. You will be able to translate your thoughts more eloquently into written language after that. \n\n\nI still do it. It really helps me clarify my thoughts. \n\n\n\nAlso, my writing mentor gave me an assignment to read five NY Times articles every day. If you read good writing, that will help you become a better writer, hands down. " ]

[ 10, 8, 7, 6, 2, 2, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to eat faster I'm 24 and I'm a guy and I'm the slowest eater I've ever met. \n\nI don't know if I chew slow or if I don't swallow as much food or what. I've thought about this a lot but I can't figure it out. My friends say \"Just eat faster.\" I'm already eating as fast as I can.\n\nIt's actually annoying to go out to eat because the waiter/waitress gets impatient, along with whoever I'm with. My only other option is to not eat until I'm full, in which case I leave most of the food on my plate and get the \"What? Aren't you hungry?\" or \"Do you want me to wrap this up for you, you giant pussy?\"\n", "How to eat faster I'm 24 and I'm a guy and I'm the slowest eater I've ever met. \n\nI don't know if I chew slow or if I don't swallow as much food or what. I've thought about this a lot but I can't figure it out. My friends say \"Just eat faster.\" I'm already eating as fast as I can.\n\nIt's actually annoying to go out to eat because the waiter/waitress gets impatient, along with whoever I'm with. My only other option is to not eat until I'm full, in which case I leave most of the food on my plate and get the \"What? Aren't you hungry?\" or \"Do you want me to wrap this up for you, you giant pussy?\"\n" ]

[ "Fuck them. Eating slowly is healthier for you than eating quickly. If people can't deal with it they shouldn't be your friends, and servers don't get a say in how you eat. You are paying them to eat there, they can wait or don't top them", "I'm also a slow eater and I don't talk a lot, maybe a few words here and there if I can contribute to the conversation, and I'm just eating. Also I don't drink a lot even if I have a full glass because I'm wanting to eat more.\n\nI thoroughly enjoy and chew my food. To get extremely specific I'll probably take about 20 to 30 chews for every bite of food.\n\nI'm really deeply interested in how much other people chew because I think everyone else might be doing it wrong haha." ]

[ 11, 1 ]

[ "How to store belts without them cracking or getting degraded? A lot of my belts, especially the leather ones, get flaky and cracked after being stored in weird positions. I usually feed the belt through the loop so it makes a circle of about a foot, and then put it on a shelf. I just can't figure out how to keep a belt in a way that doesn't damage it.", "How to store belts without them cracking or getting degraded? A lot of my belts, especially the leather ones, get flaky and cracked after being stored in weird positions. I usually feed the belt through the loop so it makes a circle of about a foot, and then put it on a shelf. I just can't figure out how to keep a belt in a way that doesn't damage it." ]

[ "You can buy a hangar made for belts. They're usually pretty cheap. Probably like $10 bucks at walmart. \n\nHere I googled it for you. \nhttp://www.walmart.com/ip/43681499?wmlspartner=wlpa&adid=22222222227031571116&wl0=&wl1=g&wl2=t&wl3=54960537152&wl4=&wl5=pla&wl6=113693302592&veh=sem", "Buy a little pot of saddle soap (used to keep leather supple), only £3-5 for a pot that will last years, and rub it on your leather items every 6 months or so. It's essentially colourless shoe polish." ]

[ 4, 2 ]

[ "How to not get screwed over when signing up for internet/cable I'm looking for some solid, first hand experience, tips on how to get the upper hand and not get blindsided by unexpected fees or tricks. Thanks!", "How to not get screwed over when signing up for internet/cable I'm looking for some solid, first hand experience, tips on how to get the upper hand and not get blindsided by unexpected fees or tricks. Thanks!", "How to not get screwed over when signing up for internet/cable I'm looking for some solid, first hand experience, tips on how to get the upper hand and not get blindsided by unexpected fees or tricks. Thanks!", "How to not get screwed over when signing up for internet/cable I'm looking for some solid, first hand experience, tips on how to get the upper hand and not get blindsided by unexpected fees or tricks. Thanks!", "How to not get screwed over when signing up for internet/cable I'm looking for some solid, first hand experience, tips on how to get the upper hand and not get blindsided by unexpected fees or tricks. Thanks!" ]

[ "you can only get what they offer. there is no dealing. you just will have to catch a \"deal/sale\" so to speak. best bet to get internet and stream everything", "My dad always threatens to cancel. They put us on a special HBO plan like you would get if you just sign up. We've gotten free HBO forever now and it takes like 60$ off the bill. ", "My best advice? Buy your own equipment (modem, router) if you can. I got them on $40-$50 on Amazon refurbished, otherwise Time Warner Cable charges you $10/month.\n", "When you call around asking for quotes, always ask \"what will be the total price?\" They will usually give you the base price, and then add equipment rental fees, broadcast fees, taxes, and so on. Just ask for the bottom line price. ", "Stick to shopping for yourself (.com ordering) Alot of door-2-door guys and commissioned brick and mortar sales are the most deceptive and are pushy. Take your time to read everything and don't fall for 1 yr promos, think about the cost as a whole. " ]

[ 4, 3, 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "An LPT to manage all the LPT's So I'm a big fan of LPTs. Up until now, I've been saving them in a doc file. But the file is not way too long. Is there a way to manage the LPT's more efficiently so they can be used (promptly) when needed?", "An LPT to manage all the LPT's So I'm a big fan of LPTs. Up until now, I've been saving them in a doc file. But the file is not way too long. Is there a way to manage the LPT's more efficiently so they can be used (promptly) when needed?", "An LPT to manage all the LPT's So I'm a big fan of LPTs. Up until now, I've been saving them in a doc file. But the file is not way too long. Is there a way to manage the LPT's more efficiently so they can be used (promptly) when needed?" ]

[ "no idea, but wouldn't mind having a look at that file! new to reddit and LPT's is one of my favorites :)", "If you're using word, you could put the LPT onto the text document, and title each submission with the headings function. Then create a 'contents' list that picks out all the headings, and titles the pages. Every time you add a new LPT, make sure to add the same heading style, and scroll up to the contents list to update it. You could even add sub headings such as 'house tips', 'study tips', etc, by using different heading styles.", "Spreadsheet. Add a category column, then create a lookup filter by category. Alternately, you can use the search function by keyword. If you have any proficiency with Access or a similar databse program, you could get pretty robust. Add new tips by form, create multiple tiers of categories, etc." ]

[ 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How do I stay happy and not worry about the future all the time? What things can I do to increase my happiness? ", "How do I stay happy and not worry about the future all the time? What things can I do to increase my happiness? ", "How do I stay happy and not worry about the future all the time? What things can I do to increase my happiness? ", "How do I stay happy and not worry about the future all the time? What things can I do to increase my happiness? ", "How do I stay happy and not worry about the future all the time? What things can I do to increase my happiness? ", "How do I stay happy and not worry about the future all the time? What things can I do to increase my happiness? ", "How do I stay happy and not worry about the future all the time? What things can I do to increase my happiness? " ]

[ "You should start discovering things which you feel happy to do and try to devote sometime to do them out of your daily routine. Once you make it a habit start noticing if you’re still worrying about the future all the time. Basically you have to break this pattern of worrying about future. That’s the only way to stop thinking endlessly.", "Find something productive that is your escape, reading, sports, working out, walks, yoga, writing, painting etc. Hobbies are the key to life in my opinion, because the time invested in those aren’t daunting compared to other life requirements.\n\nIf you can implement a hobby at least a couple times a week you maybe able to reduce those life stresses and get back to centering yourself for the next couple days", "MAKE A LIST IF THINGS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD. FOR EXAMPLE THIS IS MY LIST:\n\nBeing together with my kids-\nSitting in the sun on the beach-\nGolfing-\nCamping-\nTravelling- Las Vegas, Europe, Mexico-\nReading-\nWriting a Novel-\nWatching Movies-\nCashflow making $ in Real Estate-\nNot letting anyone steal my dream-\nRV traveling -\nSailing-\nM", "Have a plan and set some goals. Knowing what you're working on eliminates doubt that leads to worry. ", "Find pleasure in simple things, learn to understand the world.\n\nI'm an Epicurean, so I believe that the best self-help is to study philosophy and build your concept of reality from the ground up.", "Be confident about your ability to always take care of yourself. If you lose a job, say fuck it, I'll get another one. Does it pay less and can't afford the mortgage? Say fuck it, I'll sell the house and buy a cheaper one. \n\nBasically from Buddhism i think: don't get attached to things, imagine you lost it already, enjoy while it lasts. ", "Currently reading “the subtle art of not giving a fuck”. Recommend. I have anxiety and alongside my other help (largely medication tbh) it’s helping a lot. Big fuck off to anxiety " ]

[ 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?", "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?", "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?", "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?", "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?", "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?", "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?", "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?", "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?", "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?", "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?", "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?", "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?", "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?", "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?", "How do you deal with children causing a nuisance in public places? My work has me travel a lot. During my travels, be it on buses, trains, or flights, I come across a lot of children (\\~5-10 years old) that run amok through the vehicle or at the waiting station because their parents are too busy to attend to them. I am not talking about curious children who roam around silently, exploring the surroundings, and may occasionally peek into your phone screen or book for a while before moving on. I am talking about those children who are loud, keep running around everywhere, sometimes nag you, and are a general nuisance. All this happens while their parents are either busy on the phone, talking to someone, or reading a book.\n\nI have even tried alerting the parent. But I usually get an apologetic shrug or smile which implies \"I can't do anything for now. She/He's your problem now\".\n\nHow do you deal with such children? and the parents?" ]

[ "I remember our small children both acting up in public places. One day I decided to instantly pick them up, say nothing, get in the car and drove home. Left a cart with a few groceries in the store. They were absolutely flabbergasted and never did it again lol", "I’d probably tell an attendant that there seems to be an unaccompanied minor that needs help. Pass the problem kid onto someone who is in the position to find the kid’s parent and request that they keep a closer eye on their child.", "Start offering them candy. The parents will quickly remove them. Bonus points if you can pull off [this](https://www.google.com/search?q=david+bain&tbm=isch&chips=q:david+bain,g_1:jersey:bKAH4TkYkWg%3D&client=ms-android-samsung-rev2&hl=en-GB&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjx77TWl_b6AhXOjtgFHYs_Cf0Q4lYoAHoECAEQBA&biw=360&bih=579) aesthetic", "If your gonads are big enough, stare at the kids straight in the eye and yell SIT DOWN! Kids tend to obey strangers more readily than their own parents. Most parents are embarassed, grateful and use it as a teachable moment. To parents who get huffy, say \"You're welcome\" and disengage. They know they were wrong.", "If the following two things are true:\n\n1. The child is creating an obvious and unreasonable nuisance that is bothering other people than just you, and you can very clearly tell, and\n2. You have tried alerting the parents and they refuse to do anything about it,\n\nthen you can address the child directly, and tell them as firmly and authoritatively as possible (without yelling or being aggressive/vulgar) that their behavior is unacceptable and they need to quiet down\n\nIf that doesn't work, or if the parents then decide to be involved and try to confront you, get the employees involved. If you're not comfortable correcting someone else's child, you can jump immediately to involving the staff.", "There is nothing you can do if the parents won't do anything. If you try to \"help\" by controlling their kids you could find yourself on the wrong side of the law.", "I usually yell at them to go sit down. And then their parents are like \"did you just yell at my kid?\" And I say \"yes. Go sit down and be quiet. \n\nBut I'm a rather large fellow. This might not work in your case.", "Malicious compliance - trip the kid as he runs around. Then when Karen comes to beliddle you tell her that her kid deserved it for being a public nuisance, violation of whatever code it is in your area", "I usually say loudly to the person next to me \"I don't know why you would ever have kids\". Doesn't always work but the dirty looks from the parents are funny", "Make yourself uninteresting to the kids-no eye contact, no big devices, wear headphones, sit in a corner or by the window. For your own piece of mind, practice deep breathing and mindfulness. You really can’t do anything about them or the parents, except silently judge them.", "Interact with them, join in or explain how things work around here, (physical objects and how they are made)", "If there is an authority figure around, politely demand that they handle the situation. If they refuse, cause a scene until they do.", "I would not give any advice to parents. It’s not your job to tell them how they should parent. Unless the parent is hurting a child physically I do not intervene.", "As a bystander, you might suggest to the child that s/he is being disruptive. Then again, wait for that shank in your belly when that overly-stimulated parent goes off. Your choice.", "There is absolutely nothing you can do with children in public. Maybe you can have some success with neighbours, but randos in the street or on public transit those are feral kids band you do not want to engage with them.", " When it comes down to it your issue is with the adults So your choices are to scold the adults, while standing around childless yourself, and see how that goes. Or you can ignore it." ]

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[ "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away.", "How to get out of bed when your alarm goes off? Ever since I can remember, my mother says since I was born, I have been a big sleeper. I'm talking 12 hours a night, 7 days a week, if I get the chance.\n\nI'm 22 now, enrolled in a pretty demanding US university course and because of all the studying I am a bit more tired than usual. I go to bed at 11 pm every night, highly motivated to wake up at 7, start my day early and start studying. However, the past 2 months I have been sleeping in until 10:30-11 am. I'm growing extremely frustrated and depressed, it's like I'm in a coma. I got my bloodwork checked out, nothing. I went to my GP, nothing. \n\nI have an alarm that lights up the entire room, I put my phone on the other side so I have to get out of bed, yet I just sleep through it all. Two of my roommates sometimes wake up from my alarm before I do, and when they wake me up I'm in a comatose like state and fall back asleep immediately.\n\nI'm writing this now because I just missed one of my most important classes and I'm frustrated, tired and angry at myself. I don't know what I can do. I go to the gym 4 times a week, I eat healthy, I don't do drugs. I'm simply lost.\n\n I'm sleeping my life away." ]

[ "Every person is different. Maybe you just physically need that much sleep. \n\nIf so, fighting your body and trying to get by on less sleep isn't the way to go. Adjust your schedule to let your body sleep as much as it wants to. Your body and brain could be working on cold fusion or cancer cures while you sleep. I'm serious. The world might need your genius; let it develop. Go to bed.\n\nBut, another thought... maybe you're sleeping so much because you're not getting good quality sleep.\nI would advise you to avoid artificial light like screens and such after dark as much as possible. Also no caffeine after 4pm. Make sure your bedroom is completely dark and quiet. Maybe try to go to a sleep clinic (where they monitor you overnight) to make sure you don't have a curable condition that is keeping you from getting restful sleep, just to make sure.\n", "There is an alarm clock that drives randomly through your room, getting louder with every minute. Staying up then is just discipline.\n\nOn a serious note: people with sleep apnea have trouble getting up and feel tired even with reasonable amounts of sleep. Maybe you should get that checked out.", "Go to bed earlier, get up earlier. 12 hours is ridiculous and not at all beneficial to you. Self discipline is the only way to overcome you lethargy since you have no medical excuse. ", "bradmajors69 has the best comment so far. Sleep is so idiosyncratic. Some people need more, some less. Yes discipline is crucial, but only once you've found a sleeping pattern that actually agrees with your body. I would add that there are supposedly things called Circadian Rhythm Disorders (google it!), which might explain your difficulties. If getting up at 11am feels natural for you, you might actually find you can go to bed later and still get up at that time refreshed, getting more out of your day with extra some nocturnal hours for work/play. Or maybe you just need more sleep than most. The key is not to try to force yourself into some arbitrary schedule. Experiment to find what your body wants to do ideally, then create a rigid schedule around that, and stick to it like glue. Again, google (especially googling circadian rhythm disorders) will help you with techniques for that kind of experimentation. Or I'm sure a medical specialist could help, if you could find one. Anyway, good luck. As someone who also struggles with sleep, I sympathise.\n\n", "Instead of a loud jarring BUZZZ in the morning see if you can set your alarm to a talk-radio station. Something mildly intelligent, hell, even just the news. \n\nWhen you start listening to it, you start thinking, start connecting with the outside world - suddenly your mind is awake and not hiding in sleepy land.\n\n*\"Okay, campers, rise and shine, and don't forget your booties 'cause it's cooooold out there today.\"*", "Put ur alarm further away, try to go for shower asap in the morning. I feel like it's easier to get out of bed right into shower.", "I had this exact same problem about 30 years ago, just could not get enough sleep, always felt exhausted. Kept going to the doctor, they kept finding nothing, till finally the doctor told me I was depressed, and put me on an anti-depressant. I got better, but still almost never had the sensation of feeling refreshed when I woke up. When it got too bad I just always considered myself depressed and went back on the meds, plus therapy, exercise, healthy eating etc \n\nFast forward to 2014 as a middle aged wife and mom it got so bad I basically slept most of a year. Come to find out I actually did have a medical issue that had probably been brewing from young adulthood, though i figured it out, not my unhelpful doc whose eyes would just glaze over when i said i was chronically tired. I won't say it is resolved now because I still have to manage it but my stamina is better than it has been in years, I feel refreshed in the am and I don't take antidepressants anymore.\n\nI don't want to share details of my situation publicly but my point is don't tell yourself or let anyone tell you that you are lazy or if only you had the right alarm or more self discipline you could wake up. I felt bad about myself for years and it was completely unnecessary. If you think something is wrong there is, and you will have to be your own researcher and advocate to figure it out.\n\nGood luck.\n\n\n\n", "Everyone goes through REM cycles, over the course of the night there are times you are in a deep sleep and times in a light sleep. There are apps and standalone devices like watches that will monitor things like your breathing or pulse to get a sense of the type of sleep you're in. You set a range, like 6:45-7:15, and then it waits until you are in a lighter sleep during that timeframe to wake you up. It's infinitely easier to wake up in between cycles than in the middle of one of those really deep sleeps. There are devices designed specifically to do that, maybe that could help.\n\n\nAlso, there are sleep centers. Like doctors that specialize in sleep. Some of my friends, especially the ones that have struggled with things like depression, bipolar, mania, etc have gone to them to get evaluations. A place like that might be able to give you more information than your GP about what is going on here because they will monitor you while you sleep. Because honestly if you are as healthy as you say you are, and sleeping 12 hours a day, something is wrong. I mean everything is averages here, like average 8 hours, some people sleep more, some less, but 12 is disproportionately high for a human. This could be indicative of something else going on. Time to move from GP to specialist.", "Apparently you can literally train yourself to get out of bed. Set your alarm to go off in a few minutes' time, lie in bed as if you're sleeping. When the alarm goes off, get up and do things. Repeat a few times.\nIt's supposed to condition your brain into thinking alarm tone = get up.", "You might try attaching a timer to a light in your bedroom and set it to come on a little before your alarm in hopes of bringing you to a shallower level of sleep so you are more likely to wake up to your alarm. Also, change your alarm tone, your brain may have learned to ignore it.", "Try some alarm apps that requires you to use your brain to snooze. One app is alarmy where you require to solve a maths problem to snooze it. Hope it helps!", "Try an alarm clock meant for hearing impaired people. I have a bed shaker that scares the crap out of me when I wake up.", "There is absolutely such thing as over sleeping. You do not benefit from sleeping more than you need, it just makes you feel crappy. You would probably Feel better If you were only getting 7 hours of sleep. I'm in the same boat as you being in senior year of college and not really caring due to a Job lined up. But I go to bed around 3am and wake up at 10-10:30 and feel great. When. I am lazy and take the 12 hour nights I feel like garbage all day. ", "If you wake up in a dark room, leave the blinds open to let the sunlight in or get a sun simulating lamp (not a UV one, just a regular lamp that matches the intensity of sunlight - plenty options on Amazon) and put it on auto turn on with your alarm.", "I'd like to thank everyone that commented. I don't have time to reply to everyone - but I'm going to try the app \"alarmy\" someone recommended!", "I usually keep a joint inside my bedside table. That way, I sometimes even wake up before the alarm actually goes off. This can apply to other things, like food. If you keep something nice for breakfast, that might be helpful.\n\nIt's the carrot and stick approach, minus the stick.", "I see a ton of people are saying basically this is laziness/unhealthy. But it's really not, and there could be nothing wrong with you at all. \n\nI generally require 10 hours of sleep. In fact, I can barely function on 8. I'm not depressed or unhealthy in any sense. I go to uni full-time, work 40 hours a week, work out 5 days a week, and eat correctly. I just need at least 10 hours to sleep. \n\nIt's kind of a \"know thyself\" thing. I know I'm not a morning person and I absolutely need to sleep in. Therefore, I push my whole schedule back. It seems impossible at first, but it's doable. For me, it means taking later classes on my off days/online classes, working second shift (usually 2p-11p), and doing homework/studying at 11pm when I get off work.\n\nWaking up is extremely hard for me, so I just set several alarms at 15 minute intervals. That way, as I wake up each time I know in 15 minutes, I'm eventually going to have to get up again. When I finally muster the energy to get up, I immediately shower and then eat. Shower = wakes me up; food = something to look forward to. \n\nHope this helps!", "Got checked for apnea? I know a friend who thought he was sleeping 8 hours a night but when they ran sleep tests on him, he was unconsciously waking up and falling back asleep so often that he was barely getting 60% of what he thought he was getting." ]

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[ "How to sell expensive jewelry? I need to sell an engagement ring worth $4000 retail, an anniversary ring worth about $2000 retail, and and a big assed diamond the size of the tip of my finger that was given to me as an inheritance. What's the best way to sell these without getting killed?", "How to sell expensive jewelry? I need to sell an engagement ring worth $4000 retail, an anniversary ring worth about $2000 retail, and and a big assed diamond the size of the tip of my finger that was given to me as an inheritance. What's the best way to sell these without getting killed?" ]

[ "Sometimes if you have proof of purchase from a jeweler that it was bought at they will give you store cr", "Have a fence set up *before* the break-in. Now you've gone and left electronic evidence that's traced back to your IP. Smart move. Prosecution will love that." ]

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[ "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. ", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. ", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. ", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. ", "How to avoid the situation where everyone in a group is waiting on each other to commit to something. " ]

[ "don’t say “I’d like to go to XXXX, who wants to come with me?”. Say instead “I’m going to XXXX, feel free to join”. This shows determination", "Just go and if those people are going to flake, let them. If you constantly wait on these people you're going to miss a lot of good experiences.", "It's a trap! No one wants to take a risk now days, they only want to risk going out of their house if people have already. It is very frustrating especially as a lifelong musician. I suggest being the catalyst you want to see in the world.", "Don't wait on the group. Do what you want to do, even if you do it alone. You'll have a lot more fun that way.", "Everyone’s commenting to say some version of “Just go by yourself if your friends flake like this” or “Plan to do it yourself and open it up to others”, which is all great, but doesn’t really get to the heart of the question - what do you do when you really do want to get a group of people to commit to something (bc sometimes you want to hang out with your friends, and sometimes you want to do an activity that kinda sucks by yourself)?\n\nMy personal strategy (and the one a lot of my friends seem to use) is to kind of combine that “I’m doing this regardless, but I’d love for you to come” energy with communication and light peer pressure - once you’ve talked to a handful of people, throw them all into a group chat together along with a message like “Hey guys, here’s everyone that expressed interest in doing X on Y day with me at Z spot, and here’s the initial plan I had - let me know if that works or we need to adjust!” \n\nBasically gives them the message that they don’t really have to worry about planning it since you already laid it out and they just need to show up, shows them who would be going and how many people, and treats the whole thing as an actual event that will definitely be happening. Sure, sometimes this still leads to people saying “eh I might be busy but I’ll try” and not committing/backing out, but it definitely helps in my experience!" ]

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[ "How can I learn to control my emotions? I often find myself getting teary-eyed when I'm upset and can't express my thoughts without getting all emotional", "How can I learn to control my emotions? I often find myself getting teary-eyed when I'm upset and can't express my thoughts without getting all emotional", "How can I learn to control my emotions? I often find myself getting teary-eyed when I'm upset and can't express my thoughts without getting all emotional", "How can I learn to control my emotions? I often find myself getting teary-eyed when I'm upset and can't express my thoughts without getting all emotional" ]

[ "**First: Breathe.**\n\n\nOften times when people get emotional, the first thing to go out the window is breathing since your brain has entered a fight/flight/freeze mode. Taking long, slow breaths in and letting them out in the same manner helps to slow your heart and reduce the amount of adrenaline in your brain.\n\nThis will be very difficult to do at first, and even more difficult when you are already upset, but with patience and practice it will help you become more centered and calm so you can focus on the next part.\n\n*Situational tip:* If you're trying to express your thoughts to someone and feel yourself getting emotional about it, there's no harm in telling them the truth and saying that you need to take some time to calm down before you can continue the conversation.\n\n\n**Second: Question.**\n\n\n*Note: this part can only happen once you have calmed yourself sufficiently from the previous step.*\n\nLook at your feelings from a distance, almost as if you were looking at yourself from a third party's perspective. Does how upset you are match how upset you *should* be based on the situation? If not, then why not? If there isn't a readily apparent answer to these questions, you may be upset for a different reason than you originally thought and you may need to analyze your feelings further. Questions I often find helpful are \"what about this situation made me feel this way?\" and \"I didn't use to feel this way about this situation, but now I do. What changed? Why?\".\n\nThe better you get to know yourself the easier this line of self-questioning will become. As you get better at it, it will almost happen automatically, to the point where you won't even notice, but you've already answered the question(s) and changed (or not) appropriately.\n\nAt this point, it may help to talk about what you find with someone who will understand what you're going through. Be very careful though, a lot of people may not understand where you're coming from. This can be a double-edged sword.\n\nOne thing to keep in mind: although your emotions can be a powerful tool when harnessed and used properly, getting to this point will be *exhausting*. It takes a lot of introspection, patience, and practice, and may take a long time to achieve depending on how in-tune you are with yourself. At the end of it, though, you will have a better understanding of why you feel certain ways about certain situations, and there's a very powerful feeling of freedom that comes with this understanding.\n\n\nBest of luck!", "Instead of immediately talking to someone, I like to note exactly what I feel and let it all out - cry if you want, just get rid of the initial stress. Try to find something that amuses you/that relaxes you and after you feel like you got over what made you mad, calmly try to explain or talk to someone who you know will understand.", "In most situations sometimes just shutting up is the best. Listen, think, then reply. Something I've learned in my life. My emotions shouldn't overpower my logic. Try m", "I am the same way. I’d love to know how to change this. If I’m mad, I cry. If I’m upset, I cry. It’s a reaction to stress, but just once, I’d like to be “professional”. Very good question. " ]

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[ "How to develop more persistence? Hi everyone,\n\nCutting to the chase, to get some perspective of what I am asking, I want to tell You few things about me. \n\nI am in my early 30s and as You can probably tell from my style of writing, not a native to the English language. I work in advertising agency and have a rather successful career with even an award (creative usage of technology) for one of my projects. Previously i worked at the airport, as a cook, had my own business and with video game developer.\n\nI had studied psychology for couple of years, but i never had the nerve to finish my education (although I have like 2-3 courses to take to get my degree). I'm happily married and have no issue with the money I'm making (there could always by more :)). I've travelled to few dozen countries on 3 continents, so this area is also satisfyingly covered for me.\n\nMyself:\nI'm a fast learner, yet I get bored with subject quite fast. I have 140 IQ according to Mensa tests.\nBecause of the above traits, I've developed good social skills and the skill \"to talk my way out of things\".\nI'm likeable and people like to talk to me, which in many cases had turned into invites to start a business. Which after few meetings we stop to develop.\n\nYet I still want to do more. \nI've always wanted to write a book, a novel, yet thou I have some ideas and plan my story structure, when it comes to do the work, I just cannot do it. \nI had some start-up ideas, but I couldn't push myself to start them. Few of which I've seen had been done by others months later. \nI`m quite capable in new technologies and mechanics behind them (social media, big data, saas, internet of things, 3d printing) yet still believe I can learn more, just don't have the grit.\nI worked as a cook and although I cook my own meals, I cannot lose weight and restrict myself to stay on diet (probably I eat to much).\nI've learnt (beside English) French, German and Italian, yet I cannot find the motivation to sit down and practice them for even few minutes a day and I know, I will eventually forget them. \nI love the mountains and everything that is associated with them (skiing, hiking, climbing) yet I can't stay at the gym for more than few workouts.\n\nI would appreciate any tips, lessons, techniques to develop more persistence / grit / motivation :)\n\nThanks,\n\nPS\n\nSorry for bad English :)\n\n", "How to develop more persistence? Hi everyone,\n\nCutting to the chase, to get some perspective of what I am asking, I want to tell You few things about me. \n\nI am in my early 30s and as You can probably tell from my style of writing, not a native to the English language. I work in advertising agency and have a rather successful career with even an award (creative usage of technology) for one of my projects. Previously i worked at the airport, as a cook, had my own business and with video game developer.\n\nI had studied psychology for couple of years, but i never had the nerve to finish my education (although I have like 2-3 courses to take to get my degree). I'm happily married and have no issue with the money I'm making (there could always by more :)). I've travelled to few dozen countries on 3 continents, so this area is also satisfyingly covered for me.\n\nMyself:\nI'm a fast learner, yet I get bored with subject quite fast. I have 140 IQ according to Mensa tests.\nBecause of the above traits, I've developed good social skills and the skill \"to talk my way out of things\".\nI'm likeable and people like to talk to me, which in many cases had turned into invites to start a business. Which after few meetings we stop to develop.\n\nYet I still want to do more. \nI've always wanted to write a book, a novel, yet thou I have some ideas and plan my story structure, when it comes to do the work, I just cannot do it. \nI had some start-up ideas, but I couldn't push myself to start them. Few of which I've seen had been done by others months later. \nI`m quite capable in new technologies and mechanics behind them (social media, big data, saas, internet of things, 3d printing) yet still believe I can learn more, just don't have the grit.\nI worked as a cook and although I cook my own meals, I cannot lose weight and restrict myself to stay on diet (probably I eat to much).\nI've learnt (beside English) French, German and Italian, yet I cannot find the motivation to sit down and practice them for even few minutes a day and I know, I will eventually forget them. \nI love the mountains and everything that is associated with them (skiing, hiking, climbing) yet I can't stay at the gym for more than few workouts.\n\nI would appreciate any tips, lessons, techniques to develop more persistence / grit / motivation :)\n\nThanks,\n\nPS\n\nSorry for bad English :)\n\n", "How to develop more persistence? Hi everyone,\n\nCutting to the chase, to get some perspective of what I am asking, I want to tell You few things about me. \n\nI am in my early 30s and as You can probably tell from my style of writing, not a native to the English language. I work in advertising agency and have a rather successful career with even an award (creative usage of technology) for one of my projects. Previously i worked at the airport, as a cook, had my own business and with video game developer.\n\nI had studied psychology for couple of years, but i never had the nerve to finish my education (although I have like 2-3 courses to take to get my degree). I'm happily married and have no issue with the money I'm making (there could always by more :)). I've travelled to few dozen countries on 3 continents, so this area is also satisfyingly covered for me.\n\nMyself:\nI'm a fast learner, yet I get bored with subject quite fast. I have 140 IQ according to Mensa tests.\nBecause of the above traits, I've developed good social skills and the skill \"to talk my way out of things\".\nI'm likeable and people like to talk to me, which in many cases had turned into invites to start a business. Which after few meetings we stop to develop.\n\nYet I still want to do more. \nI've always wanted to write a book, a novel, yet thou I have some ideas and plan my story structure, when it comes to do the work, I just cannot do it. \nI had some start-up ideas, but I couldn't push myself to start them. Few of which I've seen had been done by others months later. \nI`m quite capable in new technologies and mechanics behind them (social media, big data, saas, internet of things, 3d printing) yet still believe I can learn more, just don't have the grit.\nI worked as a cook and although I cook my own meals, I cannot lose weight and restrict myself to stay on diet (probably I eat to much).\nI've learnt (beside English) French, German and Italian, yet I cannot find the motivation to sit down and practice them for even few minutes a day and I know, I will eventually forget them. \nI love the mountains and everything that is associated with them (skiing, hiking, climbing) yet I can't stay at the gym for more than few workouts.\n\nI would appreciate any tips, lessons, techniques to develop more persistence / grit / motivation :)\n\nThanks,\n\nPS\n\nSorry for bad English :)\n\n" ]

[ "I think you're similar to me. You're successful, you've done things, and you have demands on your time. Motivation for the things we feel would progress our lives tends to take a back seat.\n\nI'm not sure this would help, but it may be important to ask yourself if you're motivated to deal with the _pain_ involved in these things. Like, you want to write a book. Do you also want to spend time dealing with a publisher to get the book published? I would expect the answer is reasonably \"no\". The thing is, if you had to publish a book to get money and feed your family, dealing with paperwork and arguing with ", "Off topic, how did you learn multiple languages so easily? Where did you go up making English a second language? ", "Head on over to r/getmotivated. Although they mostly post inspirational quotes, some of them do stick and occasional advise is given often enough. My biggest motivator is death. If a job/hobby/task needs to be accomplished, someone has to do it. I should just do it before I die. " ]

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[ "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n", "How to tell someone they're too loud on the phone in a small office? I sit next to someone that doesn't quite scream on the phone but gets loud enough that I can hear her when my music is all the way up with both headphones in. She's a great girl, very sweet and talkative, but I can't think of a nice way to tell her to please be quieter on the phone.\n" ]

[ "Person with loud voice here, my co-worker and I share a small office. My voice is deep and sometimes I forget how well it carries since I'm not in the receiving end. My coworker hates it. But he casually reminds me to learn to control my fucking voice or he'll shove the receiver up my ass sideways. Seems to work just fine. ", "Is this a real question?\n\n\"Hey, you're awesome but really loud on the phone sometimes. Keep it down? Thanks.\"", "\"Jane, could you please be quieter on the phone? My callers are complaining they can't hear me over your voice.\"", "Man, there are a lot of unhelpful comments about \"manning up,\" as if this was your brother or college roommate, presumably from people who have not had to have working relationships with women. They're not way off though, it's just less about balls and more about tone and approach.\n\nAt some point, though, you will have to turn to her and say, \"Hey I hate to ask this, but do you mind trying to be a little quieter on the phone? It just gets a little hard for me to concentrate sometimes.\"\n\n\nIn my experience, she'll still get weird and nothing will be the same. But at least it'll be a little quieter.", "I HATE this. In my old office people would hit speakerphone to dial and have the tone blaring then forget to actually dial the number and just leave it going. I would have to get up, go to their desks and turn it off for them. \n\nJust politely tell her that it is difficult for you to to concentrate and to please keep it down a little. No one can fault you for being polite and reasonable. ", "\"Hey _____, I think you're awesome and it's a treat to come into the office everyday (pause for her to say something nice back) Aww, that's sweet of you to say, I hate to ask this, but could you do me a favor? I'm afraid I'm a bit ADD so I have trouble concentrating... would you be able to speak a bit softer when you're on the phone? I'm afraid that even with my headphones on I find myself distracted by your phone conversations - you're voice carries! Ha, ha. I know it's silly, but until they get some kind of white noise generator in here I just don't have the focus to be able to filter or ignore you!\" <- Basically we're making it clear that 1) There's NOTHING wrong with her, you like her 2) It's YOUR problem and you're asking her for this favor 3) You're establishing this need for a good working environment rather than letting it build and blowing up in some sort of passive aggressive way.", "The guy in the office next to me is a loud talker. Thanks to the poorly designed duct work, I can hear most of what he says everyday. It is especially bad when he is on conference calls because apparently he thinks he need to yell for the people at other sites to hear him. I send him text/instant messages and say \"You are really loud; could you please lower the volume?\".....he always replies \"sorry. will do\"....and he does quiet down....for awhile. \nIf he ignores me, then I lower the thermostat in my office by 5 degrees...thanks to the crazy duct, I control the temperature in the offices. Only took a few days of 60 degree temperatures for him to realize he better keep me happy. ", "Turn the volume down on her phone receiver when she is away. Many times people talk at the same volume as the person they are speaking to so if the volume is too high they speak louder than what is normal.\nIt seems normal to them.\n\nturn the volume down and see what happens. If it persists then speak with her.", "Had a dude in our office who was loud almost all the time on the phone. So when he'd answer the phone with, \"HI THIS IS BLAH BLAH CAN I HELP YOU?\"\n\nWe had a bunch of people who would answer him in our office in loud squeaky voices, \"HI BLAH BLAH!\"\n\nTwo weeks of that and he calmed the fuck down!", "Doesn't matter. Loud talkers will always slowly get loud again even when they make an effort to quiet down, it's just their default setting. Get used to it and don't bother making waves trying to so something about it.\n\nSource: Sat next to two very nice loud talkers for two years, both of whom made many completely unsuccessful efforts to pipe down.", "Why don't you just jokingly tell her, that the aliens on mars can hear you... that should give her a hint.", "I find that people who are loud on phones have the earphones too low. If you can't hear the person on the other end you assume you are as quiet to them on the other side. So, commence screaming.\n\nI would get to work early, call an automated service like movie theater times or the weather number and turn up the earphone volume on the phone, if you want to avoid confrontation.\n\nThis is true of cellphones too. Because cell phone reception is shit, people think the person can't hear them, thus everyone screams into their cellphones all the time. If you use one, IMO, you need to trust the other person can hear you when you talk with a normal voice, and trust that they will tell you if they can't hear you.", "...how about asking her to be please be quieter on the phone? That's far too trivial to be stressing over.", "Voice Immodulation is an affliction that affects over 700 Americans every year and is also fully acknowledged by medical communities of both the United States and the United Kingdom.", "People in my office like to post signs in areas that are particularly loud. I have no idea if they work, but they have the benefit of being anonymous and not obviously directed at a specific person. Post a sign that says something polite about the noise, and tape it to a wall somewhere near her cube. ", "If this is any sort of sales room, and if she is more successful than you, or more valuable to the company, don't tell her anything. Ask to be moved or turn your music up. This is your problem, not hers.", "I'm sorry... I AM that person. I try as hard as I can to pay attention while I'm talking, but my overall plan is avoidance- I do everything I can to not ever talk at my desk, on the phone especially, and to keep it short if possible. But I am well aware that it's an issue when I get worked up about something, so for that all I can do is acknowledge the issue and try to rein it in as best as I can... ", "I would say something along the lines of (in private of course): *You may not realize it but your voice carries clearly when you are on the phone. Just wanted to give you a heads up! Just letting you know 'cause at some point I'm sure you wouldn't want a private conversation overheard.*", "I think if I worked in an office, I would be this person. I wouldn't mind or be offended at all if someone approached me and asked me to lower my voice-- I'd be totally mortified that I'd caused such a problem, but I'd much rather be told about it! I'd be totally grateful. \n\nJust let her know that you sometimes have trouble hearing the other person on your calls and that if she could speak more quietly, it'd be a big help. That way it's less accusatory but gets the point across.", "Army reserve here. Sometimes I go up to the platoon office to stand-by for something to do. People who are too loud in this room get smoked to hell. (forced to do excessive push-ups)", "\"Say, could you keep it down when you're talking on the phone? It's a little loud.\"\n\nIf she won't or if she acts rude and unreasonable, then just tell your boss. That's how it works. ", "We had a girl like this in our office. Every time she would answer her phone, we'd all put our hands over our ears and start laughing.\n\nShe would lower her voice for the remainder of the conversation, then afterwards say something like, \"I'm so sorry, I don't know why I talk so loud when I'm on the phone.\" Few calls later, she'd be back up at full volume and the cycle would repeat.\n\nSweet girl, though.", "Walk over and politely tell them that they are talking too loud. Didn't know just asking people to be considerate would constitute a LTP", "Someone once prefaced a request to me with \"please hear this gently...\" and I thought it was a nice way to state his intentions as coming from a good place.", "If you're in a small office with other people...I'd probably do the \"Heyy buddy...you might want to keep it down, I think that guy over there is getting kind of pissed off at you\"\n\nNon-confrontational, less embarrassing, and you're not the 'dick' who thought he was too loud.", "I'm probably the loud talker. Sorry about that.\n\nI usually try to tone it down when people tell me I'm being loud, but I have an office by myself with noise dampening walls so maybe I'm still too loud?\n\nI'm not that easily offended. You can either tell me to tone it down, or if you don't want to walk around the cubicle wall, you can always bang on my wall a few times. ", "What I would do personally?\n\nMake fun of her in front of colleges in a \"just joshing\" sort of way.\n\nColleagues who are also affected will enjoy it and she'll get the message when everyone is laughing with you.\n\nYou avoid being serious and confronting things directly while also being the big man.\n\n", "The best way I think to solve problems like that with people is to use a dialogue method that I learned with my job training. \n\nI know (identify with person, let them know you understand)\nBut (here is the problem)\nCould you (fix the problem you are causing)?\n\n\"Hey! I know that you're just doing your job, but your voice is a bit loud when you are talking on the phone and it distracts me at times. Would you mind trying to be a little bit quieter when you talk on the phone? I really appreciate it!\"", "The answer is pretty much always directly and politely tell someone. Reddit always wants these weird passive answers. THere's no trick - say \"hey, i feel bad saying this and i know it's not totally in control, but it can be hard to concentrate on work when you're on the phone because it gets a bit loud. can you try to keep an eye on that? thanks!\" The end. It's really not that hard....just tell them ", "Say \"I'm sorry but you're too loud on the phone\". \n\nThis isn't difficult and if they can't handle that being said it isn't your problem", "People in my office like to shout out a good-natured \"SHADDUP\" whenever anyone gets a little too rowdy with the phones. I work in a debt collection office though. Your mileage may vary. ", "One idea: just when she is in a call, make a call yourself (or ask a friend to call back) - and politely motion her to reduce her volume a bit. Later you can bring up the topic for discussion, during a time she is in a good mood (ie, after lunch), and without rancor or emphasis, just mention that you sometimes find her phone conversations a bit loud. ", "I've had this problem in the past with two people. The guy I approached was very cool about it and the problem went away. The woman felt like she had \"a right to talk on the phone\" and had gotten louder just because people had the audacity to approach her with a complaint.\n\nEvery time someone brought it up she would blow up on them and talk louder for the remainder of the conversation. She ended up getting laid off as part of some cuts and I couldn't have been more happy.\n\nMoral of the story, some people are unapproachable.", "I work with a lady like that. She is two cubicles down from me and everyone on the floor can hear her entire conversation when she is on the phone. She is also one of those I have worked here forever so I can do what I want type of person. I just jack up my volume and ignore. The calls never last long so I just wait.\n\n", "I kill two birds with one stone: noise canceling headphones, connected to a white noise generator. I have the white noise play for 25 minutes, so that I can use the pomodoro technique. Works very well for me.", "How do I tell my co worker she types too loud on the damn keyboard. Reminds of that movie finding Forrester every time she types.. \"Punch the keys\"..", "Go to her and say \"You're really loud when you're talking on the phone.\" And QUIT beating around the bush. You have something to say, say it, and you're not particularly being rude. Perhaps she doesn't realize she is. \n\nI had a coworker before who was soooo freaking loud on the phone, and he sat RIGHT behind me. I'd instant message him and say something to the extent of \"You're yelling at the customer! Shhhh!\" and it would work. But yeah... I had people ask me when I was on the phone who that was yelling. It was ridiculous. Just say something.", "A guy in my previous (small) office used to take personal calls in a very audible manner. I and the girl that sat on the other side of him used to joke that we should ask him for his dad's address so that we could join them for dinner, etc. Never worked up the nerve, though - just talked to his boss about it and she had a chat with him.", "\"Hey, you mind toning it down a bit? I can hear you on the phone even with my music turned all the way up\" \n\nTry not to sound pissed, but a general tone of slight annoyance, you want her to know that you're getting frustrated with her, but that you're doing things in the nice way instead of yelling.", "just start slowly creeping her out by including bits and pieces of her old conversations into your's when ever you talk to her", "When you're on the phone, speak very loud - I'm sure she'll soon get the picture :)\n\nHonestly I don't think it'd be taken too bad if you let her know politely.\n\nRead \"the game\" - use it as a neg, and get her number ;)", "Well, I had this problem in our office. Our boss went to 11 when on the phone. I don't mean he was loud, I mean he spoke so loudly that on a conference call I had seen him go horse by the end. \n\nWe started with you don't need to be so loud on the phone, new tech means the phone will amplify you just as loud as it needs.\n\nWe progressed to, you're too damn loud on the phone we can't hear ourselves think. So he'd go in the next doom and shout at the phone. \n\nNothing we ever did helped, he was doing it subconsciously, and even at one point he tried to moderate it, he was completely unable to for more than 30 seconds. ", "Usually the nicest way to ask something is to ask nicely.\n\nSeriously. \"Hey hun, could you try to keep it down a bit? You sound really loud over here for some reason.\"", "Turn up the volume on their own earpiece so that they start getting pissed that others are shouting in their phone. Then you start complaining that your biggest pet peeve is \"when people you're on the phone with talk too loud. I mean don't they understand that they don't have to shout.\" Hopefully the combination of them being pissed at the same problem and you giving it a name will change their habits. If they continue, then say something to them. How hard it it to say, \"I don't know if you realize that when you're on the phone I can't hear my customers over you.\"", "Some people just talk louder when on the phone. They're not even aware of what they're doing. Just explain it to her nicely and ask her to try and be aware of it.\n\nI would say something like this: \"I've noticed that when you talk on the phone, the volume of your voice goes up quite a bit. In fact, it's disruptive to my work. I know you're probably not even aware that you're doing this, but if you could try to speak in a normal voice when you're on the phone, I would greatly appreciate it.\" \n\nAnd you could add a personal story: \"Some people I talk to on the phone talk so loudly that I have to hold the receiver away from my ear or turn the volume down so it doesn't hurt my ears.\" \n\nGood luck!", "Some people have trouble modulating their voice and its volume like people with Asperger's or related conditions. Just a something to keep in mind. ", "Put the phone up to your ear and wordlessly move your mouth saying something like, \"can you please keep it down?\" and make motions that will make it clear. If it keeps happening then you have more of a reason to be a dick.", "Is it a mobile phone? My room mates used to talk ridiculously loud on the phone, especially in the mornings. Now, I use a phone jammer whenever they answer a call - it immediately makes the call end, so they think they have to run out of the room to \"get a good signal\". \n\nAfter a while they learned that every call must be taken outside, so now I don't have to use it anymore. It's also brilliant for when I'm on the bus/train, and there's one of *those* women on board.", "If you're talking about my wife, just tell her, she already knows. It just gets out of hand sometimes.", "I work at a salon and the woman next to me is insanely loud, its always a big party for her and her clients, plus she's a bit hard of hearing. I confronted her once, told her I know they like to have fun but my clients like to relax, she agreed. She's still loud, but I shoot her looks and she gets quiet for about 5 seconds. Then she bitches in staff meetings about me. I don't actually have any advice other than to ask to move desks. I've been bugging my boss about moving me. ", "I just make eye contact and show my hand and lower it. like looking at a child and pushing your hand down to make em shut up.", "Has anyone said talk to her boss? \nIf everyone here is scared of passive-aggression, just go up the food chain.\n\nOP: \"Hey, Loudy's boss. Got a quick question to ask. I'm a bit unsure of what to do and could use your help.\" \nBoss: \"What it is, OP?\" \nOP: \"Could you do me a favor and ask Loudy to be quieter on the phone? I know you have a great relationship with her and she'll listen to you.\" \nBoss: \"Ain't no thang, OP.\" \nOP: \"Thanks!\" \nBoss: \"'Dig it.\"", "Are you in my office? Cause I swear the chick in the adjacent cubicle talks way too loud for any human being in an office setting.", "Are you comfortable enough with her to bring it up politely/gently? Just tell her it's a bit distracting for you when you're doing your own work. If you're not comfortable doing that, I wonder if your boss or supervisor wouldn't mind running a quick meeting by the employees to remind them to speak in a rational volume when operating the phones. It seems a little passive-aggressive, but I have never worked anywhere where the bosses minded asking for things like this - most encourage coming to the superiors when there is a problem you don't know how to handle.", "\"Hey Mary, have you got a sec? There's something I've been meaning to share with you\"\n\"Sure bob. What's up.\"\n\"So Mary, we sit pretty close together, right? And I love sitting near you since your personality is so positive, it really brings out energy in those around you—and I like to be part of that. Sometimes, when you're on the phone that personality amps up a bit more and to be honest with you, it can make it difficult me to hear when I'm on a call, or listening to my music. I know it's because you enjoy your job, and you do it well, and I know you probably don't know you get a bit louder on the phone, so I wanted to share that with you. Can I ask that you be mindful of that when you're on the phone?\"\n\"Oh, sure, bob. I had no I idea\"\n\"Hey no problem. Thanks for talking with me. If ever there's anything *I* can do to make our shared environment better, do you think you'd be able to share that with *me*?\"\n\"sure bob, thanks for asking.\"\n\n\n", "The fact that you are asking this question says to me that you are looking for a passive-aggressive way to deal with the situation.\n\nI would start by making constant jokes about how loud she is on the phone or walk out of the room and come in and make comments about how I can hear her from all the way down the hall.\n\nIf she doesn't get the hint and tone it down, then you have no choice but to just ask her directly to keep it down. However, all the jokes and comments leading up to the direct ask should make it easier. \n\nThe good natured joking should have established a friendly relationship with her so that she won't take the request personally and she's been made aware of her loudness, so the request shouldn't be a surprise to her.\n\nOf course, all of this will fail if she is simply bat-shit crazy.", "I work in a call center and sometimes people get pretty crazy on the phones. I like to say: \n\n\"My customer thought it was hilarious when you said \"X\"\n\nThat usually indicates that they're so loud that the person on the other end of my phone can hear them, and they get the hint.", "I work in IT at a company with around 200 employees. Talking to people is hard, especially when they assume I'm there to get them in trouble (Really, I'm here to get you back to work, not to blame you or the computer for the problem). It's taken years to form a good set of social skills to get along with people and to avoid certain 'power words' that illicit a bad reaction from coworkers. I can't use a canned response to show you what works and what doesn't for approaching a problem, but there's a few key items. Firstly, don't make it a public spectacle so as to put her on the spot. This can make a person defensive. Instead, send her an email. Treat her the same way you'd treat a customer by being polite and make them feel important. Explain succinctly that you have a hard time working and you'd like to work out sort of plan that works out for both of you in some way. Use the classic 'I feel, I think, I need, I want' sorts of phrasing and never 'you are, you do, you don't' sorts of phrasing that tries to imply the problem is them. In my office, some departments separated by cubicles have set up a signal to others that they need to lower their volume by giving eachother pieces of candy. This is especially useful as it's a nonverbal cue in the call center, where people may indeed be on the phone and can't always afford time to talk to eachother. I know it sounds elementary and dumb, but it really does work. It doesn't put anybody front center and nobody gets offended. If she does go out of her way to be offended and defensive, cc HR and forward the emails to them to show you've tried to work out something reasonable.\n\n", "Get a different co-worker to send her the link to this LPT Request\n\n(there is no nice way - just get it off your chest)", "As someone who is loud on the phone, I once had a coworker get up and come close the door to my office without so much as a word.\n\nI got the hint. It was subtle, but I'm smart like that...", "A friend of mine had this problem with another coworker who would argue very loudly at length with his (now) ex-wife. The arguer was going on vacation for a couple of weeks and my friend asked him for a cassette tape of him arguing over the phone so he could play it and make the environment seem more normal. Not only did he stop the phone calls, the arguer didn't speak to my friend for a couple of months.", "\"Hey Steve, I think there was in Kuala Lumpa that didn't hear that last sentence, better try it again\"" ]

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[ "Easiest way to remove super glue from fingers/skin/items? Super glued my iPhone case together, because it always falls apart. A little bit got on the back and it's annoying, as well as a bit on my fingers.", "Easiest way to remove super glue from fingers/skin/items? Super glued my iPhone case together, because it always falls apart. A little bit got on the back and it's annoying, as well as a bit on my fingers.", "Easiest way to remove super glue from fingers/skin/items? Super glued my iPhone case together, because it always falls apart. A little bit got on the back and it's annoying, as well as a bit on my fingers.", "Easiest way to remove super glue from fingers/skin/items? Super glued my iPhone case together, because it always falls apart. A little bit got on the back and it's annoying, as well as a bit on my fingers.", "Easiest way to remove super glue from fingers/skin/items? Super glued my iPhone case together, because it always falls apart. A little bit got on the back and it's annoying, as well as a bit on my fingers.", "Easiest way to remove super glue from fingers/skin/items? Super glued my iPhone case together, because it always falls apart. A little bit got on the back and it's annoying, as well as a bit on my fingers." ]

[ "Acetone is the best method. I was repairing my laptop once and crazy glue managed to work its way into my mobo and creep into some components; bought some 100% acetone and saved its life. On the other hand, acetone will eat through a lot of stuff like wood finish so be careful using it. If you're removing glue from your hands I recommend creating a less concentrated acetone solution when working with 100% acetone.", "Pour a tablespoon of table salt in your hand, and add enough water to it to make a paste. Scrub that on wherever the superglue is, and then rinse it off just a little. Repeat however many times it takes to get the super glue off. It usually only takes one or two times.", "When it gets on my fingers I just use nail file to essentially sand it off. Works great and is painless. ", "What about Dollar Tree \"superglue\"? Huh? I’ve had it dried on my fingertips all day. I did soaking in warm sudsy water, magic sponge. Toothbrush, \n\nNow I kinda like it\nYou can tickle your skin \nThose little fine arm hairs, all hair stimulates dopamine. Why people have trichomania - whatever it’s self comfort. I used to rub my eyebrows so much oI had to draw them on.\n(😞 Day of college yearbook photo)", "If you don't have all that fancy shiznit you can just spray some aerosol deodorant, like AXE or something into your fingers. ", "Acetone sometimes works for me, but I'm always so stressed out about getting superglue on me that I don't think I'm patient enough for it, or I'm just doing it wrong. But I use a fresh nail file to file down my skin/finger/affected areas. It doesn't hurt and just rinse it off with water every so often to get the grossness off. It will be more uncomfortable than painful, but effective. " ]

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[ "What to do if you are only liked by both family and friends just for the Things you do for them.(aka run around and help them with everything/always there for them)? To elaborate: I always jump to help any family member /friend and i am always there for them. However i have noticed that They are usually only nice with me because they need favors from me and when they don't, they don't even bother to spend time with me or ask me if im doing okay. I am pretty emotional and Whenever i am hurt nobody cares, all they care about id what i can do for them. Once the nice favors from me stop coming, they don't care.\nWhat should i do because this has had me depressed for a whole..", "What to do if you are only liked by both family and friends just for the Things you do for them.(aka run around and help them with everything/always there for them)? To elaborate: I always jump to help any family member /friend and i am always there for them. However i have noticed that They are usually only nice with me because they need favors from me and when they don't, they don't even bother to spend time with me or ask me if im doing okay. I am pretty emotional and Whenever i am hurt nobody cares, all they care about id what i can do for them. Once the nice favors from me stop coming, they don't care.\nWhat should i do because this has had me depressed for a whole..", "What to do if you are only liked by both family and friends just for the Things you do for them.(aka run around and help them with everything/always there for them)? To elaborate: I always jump to help any family member /friend and i am always there for them. However i have noticed that They are usually only nice with me because they need favors from me and when they don't, they don't even bother to spend time with me or ask me if im doing okay. I am pretty emotional and Whenever i am hurt nobody cares, all they care about id what i can do for them. Once the nice favors from me stop coming, they don't care.\nWhat should i do because this has had me depressed for a whole.." ]

[ "One day you will run into someone who appreciates you for the person you are. Proceed to have a cry, and then have a nice long friendship.\n\nAnd work at it as well, fucker. Don't turn into a fucking taker when you find a giver. Give and take as equals.\n\nAs for family, stick with them. Don't go out of your way for them if they don't appreciate it, but keep them around if you can.", "Getting away from family and experiencing healthy give and take will help. It's important not to label yourself to others BC it will impress a view of you that is not necessarily accurate and might reinforce those things within you that feel disempowering. Your job is to take good care of yourself first and if it invigorates you and feeds you to help others great. Whether others appreciate it or not will become irrelevant. ", "I was the same, until I asked them all over dinner if anyone could remember a time they called me without wanting/needing me to do something for them. \nNobody could answer. \nThey still call when they want something, but now they know I don't do favours anymore. I take cash. And still nobody calls without wanting/needing my help and I'm OK with that, because I've accepted they are selfish (and unlikely to change), so I can be too" ]

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[ "How should a 25y/o w/ no debt be investing his savings? Hello all,\nI am 25 years old w/ a pretty decent job (65 k a year)... i've saved about 50k so far. I recently put 10k into a betterment account, with 95/5 stocks/bonds. I'm letting betterment just handle the investing. I also have a 401k through Paychex w/ 3% match from my company...\n\nWhat should I be doing with the other 40k? Should I just add more to my betterment portfolio at the same ratio? Is betterment a good service?\nAny advice is helpful.", "How should a 25y/o w/ no debt be investing his savings? Hello all,\nI am 25 years old w/ a pretty decent job (65 k a year)... i've saved about 50k so far. I recently put 10k into a betterment account, with 95/5 stocks/bonds. I'm letting betterment just handle the investing. I also have a 401k through Paychex w/ 3% match from my company...\n\nWhat should I be doing with the other 40k? Should I just add more to my betterment portfolio at the same ratio? Is betterment a good service?\nAny advice is helpful.", "How should a 25y/o w/ no debt be investing his savings? Hello all,\nI am 25 years old w/ a pretty decent job (65 k a year)... i've saved about 50k so far. I recently put 10k into a betterment account, with 95/5 stocks/bonds. I'm letting betterment just handle the investing. I also have a 401k through Paychex w/ 3% match from my company...\n\nWhat should I be doing with the other 40k? Should I just add more to my betterment portfolio at the same ratio? Is betterment a good service?\nAny advice is helpful.", "How should a 25y/o w/ no debt be investing his savings? Hello all,\nI am 25 years old w/ a pretty decent job (65 k a year)... i've saved about 50k so far. I recently put 10k into a betterment account, with 95/5 stocks/bonds. I'm letting betterment just handle the investing. I also have a 401k through Paychex w/ 3% match from my company...\n\nWhat should I be doing with the other 40k? Should I just add more to my betterment portfolio at the same ratio? Is betterment a good service?\nAny advice is helpful.", "How should a 25y/o w/ no debt be investing his savings? Hello all,\nI am 25 years old w/ a pretty decent job (65 k a year)... i've saved about 50k so far. I recently put 10k into a betterment account, with 95/5 stocks/bonds. I'm letting betterment just handle the investing. I also have a 401k through Paychex w/ 3% match from my company...\n\nWhat should I be doing with the other 40k? Should I just add more to my betterment portfolio at the same ratio? Is betterment a good service?\nAny advice is helpful.", "How should a 25y/o w/ no debt be investing his savings? Hello all,\nI am 25 years old w/ a pretty decent job (65 k a year)... i've saved about 50k so far. I recently put 10k into a betterment account, with 95/5 stocks/bonds. I'm letting betterment just handle the investing. I also have a 401k through Paychex w/ 3% match from my company...\n\nWhat should I be doing with the other 40k? Should I just add more to my betterment portfolio at the same ratio? Is betterment a good service?\nAny advice is helpful." ]

[ "You should start with the [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/personalfinance/wiki/commontopics) and other FAQs at r/personalfinance\n\nIf I'm not mistaken, betterment charges a fee, which will eat away at your money over time. Standard r/personalfinance advice is to open a brokerage account with Vanguard or Fidelity and put your money in low-cost broad market ETFs.\n\n", "Have you seen the shit that counts as LPTs here? Is this the crowd you want to take financial advice from? You're already doing better than 99.99℅ of them.", "In regards to your 401K you can take a look at all investing options you have available to you. You are likely in a target fund right now which is allocated based on your age and time to retirement. Being so young you are likely invested in a mix similar to your betterment account. Very aggressive in hopes to take advantage of stock gains in the market with very little stability because as I said you are so young with many years left on your time horizon. So, check your current allocation and make sure it is quite aggressive. Also, I would max that 401k out because the match is essentially free money.\n\nIn regards to your betterment account I would say take advantage of dollar cost averaging and contribute to it monthly. I assume this account is not an IRA, but rather an individual account which allows you more freedom in terms of withdrawals, but no tax qualified contributions. I would budget how much of your income you can afford to invest into your betterment account for a year, and then break it down into monthly contributions. This will allow you to buy shares at various prices throughout the year. \n\nBy buying at different prices throughout the year you will be practicing dollar cost averaging. It is a very straight forward investment technique where you buy a fixed dollar amount of a particular investment on a regular schedule, regardless of the share price. Therefore you purchase more shares when prices are low and fewer shares when prices are high. The premise is that DCA lowers the average share cost over time, increasing the opportunity to profit. The DCA technique does not guarantee that you won't lose money on investments. Rather, it is meant to allow investment over time instead of investment as a lump sum (Investopedia, 2017).\n\nI am not familiar with betterment as maybe I should be, especially since I am a wealth manager myself. Roboadvisors will likely be the deathblow to my profession over the next 20-30 years, but that is assuming people don't mind not having someone to go to during a market correction or for some kind of niche insight that a roboadvisor cannot provide. \n\nThat being said I would suggest maybe reaching out to an advisor for insight and guidance. Obviously do some proper due diligence and vet the hell out of that individual, but typically advisor services will extend beyond investments. Your advisor can be your best friend during tax time in regards to insight and strategy. If you know someone in the industry even better. Reach out if you feel comfortable and make a move. Feel free to PM me if you have more questions, I would love to help. \n\n", "IRA accounts (roth or traditional), followed by 401ks (through employer at least up to their match). You can find out more on personal finance, but in general you want to fill your tax advantaged or otherwise advantageous investment(401k) options first. \n\nIf I were you, I'd max out your IRA option ($5,500) pretty early on, especially since you are already getting employer max. IRAs are tax advantaged so you should always start with your \"protected\" buckets. Then max your 401k ( something like 18k?), then the rest can go in your brokerage accounts or towards other goals like housing/investments. \n\nBetterment can be great, but this should be after you have taken advantage of tax advantaged saving vehicles like IRAs. Brokerage accounts are subject to the standard taxes. ", "As mentioned, have a look through https://www.reddit.com/r/personalfinance as well as their wikis and FAQs. Some great advice there. I began browsing there a few months ago and it completely changed my views on money and savings. I approach my financial situation totally different now.\n\nHowever, the advice given there is framed in general terms, and you need to evaluate your life and your situation and see if all steps suggested are necessary and right for you. For example, one of the early steps is to establish an emergency fund of about 3-6 months expenses and place this in a high yield online savings account for easy access (the best savings accounts yield about 1.05% APY). For myself, I found this step to be not 100% necessary due to the circumstances of my life. I am able to keep only $1,000 for my emergency fund because my job is very stable, I have a cr", "A simple google search would have given you all of the same results you see in this comment section.." ]

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[ "Need Professional Email Templates/Samples Hi everyone,\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI am in a professional environment but have very little ability in language arts (ie, very poor grammar).\n\nI have to communicate with people through email very often and it takes very long for me to make a reply and it always lacks the amount of professionalism and elegance that I would like to have.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nDoes anyone know of a great source for email templates for different scenarios that I can choose from and adapt to my own? Or maybe some sort of lecture/powerpoint on email etiquette?\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nOf course I am learning everyday how to be a better writer. I understand the importance, I'm just a late bloomer who didn't find ambition until much later in life.", "Need Professional Email Templates/Samples Hi everyone,\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI am in a professional environment but have very little ability in language arts (ie, very poor grammar).\n\nI have to communicate with people through email very often and it takes very long for me to make a reply and it always lacks the amount of professionalism and elegance that I would like to have.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nDoes anyone know of a great source for email templates for different scenarios that I can choose from and adapt to my own? Or maybe some sort of lecture/powerpoint on email etiquette?\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nOf course I am learning everyday how to be a better writer. I understand the importance, I'm just a late bloomer who didn't find ambition until much later in life.", "Need Professional Email Templates/Samples Hi everyone,\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI am in a professional environment but have very little ability in language arts (ie, very poor grammar).\n\nI have to communicate with people through email very often and it takes very long for me to make a reply and it always lacks the amount of professionalism and elegance that I would like to have.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nDoes anyone know of a great source for email templates for different scenarios that I can choose from and adapt to my own? Or maybe some sort of lecture/powerpoint on email etiquette?\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nOf course I am learning everyday how to be a better writer. I understand the importance, I'm just a late bloomer who didn't find ambition until much later in life.", "Need Professional Email Templates/Samples Hi everyone,\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI am in a professional environment but have very little ability in language arts (ie, very poor grammar).\n\nI have to communicate with people through email very often and it takes very long for me to make a reply and it always lacks the amount of professionalism and elegance that I would like to have.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nDoes anyone know of a great source for email templates for different scenarios that I can choose from and adapt to my own? Or maybe some sort of lecture/powerpoint on email etiquette?\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nOf course I am learning everyday how to be a better writer. I understand the importance, I'm just a late bloomer who didn't find ambition until much later in life.", "Need Professional Email Templates/Samples Hi everyone,\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI am in a professional environment but have very little ability in language arts (ie, very poor grammar).\n\nI have to communicate with people through email very often and it takes very long for me to make a reply and it always lacks the amount of professionalism and elegance that I would like to have.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nDoes anyone know of a great source for email templates for different scenarios that I can choose from and adapt to my own? Or maybe some sort of lecture/powerpoint on email etiquette?\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nOf course I am learning everyday how to be a better writer. I understand the importance, I'm just a late bloomer who didn't find ambition until much later in life.", "Need Professional Email Templates/Samples Hi everyone,\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI am in a professional environment but have very little ability in language arts (ie, very poor grammar).\n\nI have to communicate with people through email very often and it takes very long for me to make a reply and it always lacks the amount of professionalism and elegance that I would like to have.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nDoes anyone know of a great source for email templates for different scenarios that I can choose from and adapt to my own? Or maybe some sort of lecture/powerpoint on email etiquette?\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nOf course I am learning everyday how to be a better writer. I understand the importance, I'm just a late bloomer who didn't find ambition until much later in life.", "Need Professional Email Templates/Samples Hi everyone,\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI am in a professional environment but have very little ability in language arts (ie, very poor grammar).\n\nI have to communicate with people through email very often and it takes very long for me to make a reply and it always lacks the amount of professionalism and elegance that I would like to have.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nDoes anyone know of a great source for email templates for different scenarios that I can choose from and adapt to my own? Or maybe some sort of lecture/powerpoint on email etiquette?\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nOf course I am learning everyday how to be a better writer. I understand the importance, I'm just a late bloomer who didn't find ambition until much later in life.", "Need Professional Email Templates/Samples Hi everyone,\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI am in a professional environment but have very little ability in language arts (ie, very poor grammar).\n\nI have to communicate with people through email very often and it takes very long for me to make a reply and it always lacks the amount of professionalism and elegance that I would like to have.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nDoes anyone know of a great source for email templates for different scenarios that I can choose from and adapt to my own? Or maybe some sort of lecture/powerpoint on email etiquette?\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nOf course I am learning everyday how to be a better writer. I understand the importance, I'm just a late bloomer who didn't find ambition until much later in life." ]

[ "Basic good communication rules. Don't use contractions like Don't, can't, won't - spell them out. It's ok to use short sentences instead of one long winding paragraph. Add a space between different topics to clearly differentiate the quarterly report and the lunch meeting notes. \n\nHi Theblondegedu, (always a comma and a space after)\n\nThank you for getting back with me. (Greet them nicely, maybe \"I appreciate you reaching out.\") Attached is the information you needed/requested/should look over. I have included option 1, fact 2, and additional info. \n\nPlease let me know if you have any questions. \n\nThank you for your time, (comma again and enter)\nAwesome Staffmember\n\n(Have a nice email signature after this that's professional, includes your email, phone, and location if necessary.)\nA nice touch is to set your default email program font to something other than Calibri or Ariel. Times New Roman or Georgia are a nice level up.", "Spend your money on a grammar checker and for important emails hire a proof writer.\n\nMost emails should be regular text as HTML email templates can be problematic. https://mailchimp.com/features/email-templates/", "I took a business communication class when I was college and it really helped guide me on professional writing, check to see if you can take a similar class at a local community college", "/u/TheBlondegedu gave a good example, but here's some more wisdom:\n\n1. If you want to be formal, but don't know how to address the person, or if there are multiple recipients, start with \"Good morning/day/afternoon\" (instead of \"Hi [name]\"). \n1. Direct and to the point trumps elegant, especially if you need a reply. They don't need the backstory, just the information they will need to reply. \n1. If you get an email that looks good to you, save it as a template. \n1. For a little more friendly-sounding email, start with a (short) \"How are you\" type of thing. In African culture, you ask \"How are you\" as a matter of course. Adapt to your culture as needed. I usually go with \"I trust you are well\" if it's an out-of-the-blue email, but skip it for replies in conversation. \n1. Add \"Thank you for your time/help/assistance\" before your signature. \n1. If you have built a relationship with the person, sign your name above the automatic signature too. \n\nRegards, \n\nKeirawynn", "Email etiquete was probably one of the most confusing and difficult learning curves for me when moving into a professional environment. \n\nThe answer is to check google for whatever you are currently trying to write, read through many different sources, because no 1 template will be good for every situation.\n\nCheck emails that have been sent to you and use those common phrases. Here’s a common formula:\n\nGreeting,\n\nPersonal comment to acknowledge that they are human. Main point of the email. Action that you want the person to take. Thank you sentence. \n\nProfessional sign off,\n\nYour name\n\nEach of those components can be different sentences but mostly this will be the format of every email you ever send. You can optionally include a 2nd paragraph with more details.", "Based on your post, your writing is pretty good for a professional environment (if I may, \"compose a reply\" would be a better way to put it than \"make a reply :)). \n\nI'd suggest having a sort of basic template for any email, which makes a lot of difference in professional emails, like:\n\n\\- An opener to provide context/ introduce yourself/ state the purpose of the email\n\n\\- The content of your email\n\n\\- A closer stating/summarizing your request/ what action you are expecting from the readers\n\nAlso, a lot of email template samples on the internet are too over-the-top or gushy imo and can get misinterpreted if you're not too familiar with the usage. (For e.g. the ones that start with \"It was such a pleasure talking to you\" might be fine if you're trying to impress a client but it's odd for day-to-day follow-up emails). You could try looking up references for email phrases instead, like [this one](https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/email-phrases), and incorporate them into your email based on the context. \n\nAnd of course, do a grammar check (use the one on Microsoft Word if your email doesn't have one already) and avoid contractions as much as possible (e.g. use I am instead of I'm).", "A tip I like to use is mimicking how the person you’re emailing with writes! Also if you have emails that you feel confident in/ feel good about, keep them and copy and paste what you can and adjust what you need. I’d highly suggest creating a folder on your email of emails that other people send that you can reference and look back on! \n\nAs always, keep in mind that you’re learning and the more you do it, the more comfortable you’ll feel!", "There is a website called grammerly. Will change your writing for you into a more polished version for business etc. Think of it as your own proof reader. It is american grammar style (comma after the word and) but super useful. \nI've just started a new job with large promotion and it just makes me look more professional." ]

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[ "People with misaligned eyes, what is the \"correct\" way to make eye contact with you? I talk to people a lot due to my work. Many of these people are cockeyed (apologies if this term isn't PC). To make sure I'm engaged and people know it, I try to make eye contact with everyone during conversation.\n\nWhen I was growing up I'd always get nervous when talking to people with misaligned eyes because I didn't know which one to make contact with. What if they think I'm just staring at the one that looks the other way? I'd try to remedy it by looking from eye to eye and then by looking around when I felt it get weird, but usually that just made me look like I was making a deal about it.\n\nNowadays I just focus on one eye and talk as if I'm talking with anyone else. I'm assuming the person can't tell/doesn't care if I'm looking at the \"wrong\" eye, but there's always that voice in the back of my head screaming \"STOP LOOKING AT THAT EYE\"!\n\nAny tips would be appreciated.", "People with misaligned eyes, what is the \"correct\" way to make eye contact with you? I talk to people a lot due to my work. Many of these people are cockeyed (apologies if this term isn't PC). To make sure I'm engaged and people know it, I try to make eye contact with everyone during conversation.\n\nWhen I was growing up I'd always get nervous when talking to people with misaligned eyes because I didn't know which one to make contact with. What if they think I'm just staring at the one that looks the other way? I'd try to remedy it by looking from eye to eye and then by looking around when I felt it get weird, but usually that just made me look like I was making a deal about it.\n\nNowadays I just focus on one eye and talk as if I'm talking with anyone else. I'm assuming the person can't tell/doesn't care if I'm looking at the \"wrong\" eye, but there's always that voice in the back of my head screaming \"STOP LOOKING AT THAT EYE\"!\n\nAny tips would be appreciated.", "People with misaligned eyes, what is the \"correct\" way to make eye contact with you? I talk to people a lot due to my work. Many of these people are cockeyed (apologies if this term isn't PC). To make sure I'm engaged and people know it, I try to make eye contact with everyone during conversation.\n\nWhen I was growing up I'd always get nervous when talking to people with misaligned eyes because I didn't know which one to make contact with. What if they think I'm just staring at the one that looks the other way? I'd try to remedy it by looking from eye to eye and then by looking around when I felt it get weird, but usually that just made me look like I was making a deal about it.\n\nNowadays I just focus on one eye and talk as if I'm talking with anyone else. I'm assuming the person can't tell/doesn't care if I'm looking at the \"wrong\" eye, but there's always that voice in the back of my head screaming \"STOP LOOKING AT THAT EYE\"!\n\nAny tips would be appreciated.", "People with misaligned eyes, what is the \"correct\" way to make eye contact with you? I talk to people a lot due to my work. Many of these people are cockeyed (apologies if this term isn't PC). To make sure I'm engaged and people know it, I try to make eye contact with everyone during conversation.\n\nWhen I was growing up I'd always get nervous when talking to people with misaligned eyes because I didn't know which one to make contact with. What if they think I'm just staring at the one that looks the other way? I'd try to remedy it by looking from eye to eye and then by looking around when I felt it get weird, but usually that just made me look like I was making a deal about it.\n\nNowadays I just focus on one eye and talk as if I'm talking with anyone else. I'm assuming the person can't tell/doesn't care if I'm looking at the \"wrong\" eye, but there's always that voice in the back of my head screaming \"STOP LOOKING AT THAT EYE\"!\n\nAny tips would be appreciated.", "People with misaligned eyes, what is the \"correct\" way to make eye contact with you? I talk to people a lot due to my work. Many of these people are cockeyed (apologies if this term isn't PC). To make sure I'm engaged and people know it, I try to make eye contact with everyone during conversation.\n\nWhen I was growing up I'd always get nervous when talking to people with misaligned eyes because I didn't know which one to make contact with. What if they think I'm just staring at the one that looks the other way? I'd try to remedy it by looking from eye to eye and then by looking around when I felt it get weird, but usually that just made me look like I was making a deal about it.\n\nNowadays I just focus on one eye and talk as if I'm talking with anyone else. I'm assuming the person can't tell/doesn't care if I'm looking at the \"wrong\" eye, but there's always that voice in the back of my head screaming \"STOP LOOKING AT THAT EYE\"!\n\nAny tips would be appreciated.", "People with misaligned eyes, what is the \"correct\" way to make eye contact with you? I talk to people a lot due to my work. Many of these people are cockeyed (apologies if this term isn't PC). To make sure I'm engaged and people know it, I try to make eye contact with everyone during conversation.\n\nWhen I was growing up I'd always get nervous when talking to people with misaligned eyes because I didn't know which one to make contact with. What if they think I'm just staring at the one that looks the other way? I'd try to remedy it by looking from eye to eye and then by looking around when I felt it get weird, but usually that just made me look like I was making a deal about it.\n\nNowadays I just focus on one eye and talk as if I'm talking with anyone else. I'm assuming the person can't tell/doesn't care if I'm looking at the \"wrong\" eye, but there's always that voice in the back of my head screaming \"STOP LOOKING AT THAT EYE\"!\n\nAny tips would be appreciated.", "People with misaligned eyes, what is the \"correct\" way to make eye contact with you? I talk to people a lot due to my work. Many of these people are cockeyed (apologies if this term isn't PC). To make sure I'm engaged and people know it, I try to make eye contact with everyone during conversation.\n\nWhen I was growing up I'd always get nervous when talking to people with misaligned eyes because I didn't know which one to make contact with. What if they think I'm just staring at the one that looks the other way? I'd try to remedy it by looking from eye to eye and then by looking around when I felt it get weird, but usually that just made me look like I was making a deal about it.\n\nNowadays I just focus on one eye and talk as if I'm talking with anyone else. I'm assuming the person can't tell/doesn't care if I'm looking at the \"wrong\" eye, but there's always that voice in the back of my head screaming \"STOP LOOKING AT THAT EYE\"!\n\nAny tips would be appreciated." ]

[ "Look at their mouth. Is it moist? Full? Lips slightly parted? I wonder if I just... Oh god, they've asked me a question. Just nod. Now they seem displeased. Excuse yourself to go to the bathroom. Ask if there's a back door out of there. Never return. Move to new town. Change name and appearance.", "I had surgery to correct mine... But the best way is to look at them directly between the eyebrows. To them it'll look like eye contact, whichever eye they are focusing on at the time ", "I always follow the triangle method. Look a few seconds at one of their eyes, few seconds at their mouth, then a few seconds on the other eye making a triangle. Shows that you are \"actively\" listening. [More info here](http://kellilampkin.com/eye-contact-the-triangle-method/)", "That's actually a really good question. I've asked friends about it, friends lucky enough to have regular eyes.\n\nWhen I was riding the L in Chicago not long ago, a guy with a wandering eye was sitting within a foot of me. He started talking to me and didn't stop for like 15 minutes. I didn't really have to say anything, I just nodded at the appropriate places. \n\nThe whole time I just busy asking myself which eye I felt most comfortable looking into when he spoke. I decided that it was the wandering eye. I'm not sure why I felt that way but I was glad it was definitive. Now, I'll just look at the bad eye straight away and go from there.", "Lookit all these people saying 'look at the bridge of their nose!'! That's all well and good, but that doesn't fix the problem. You gotta go and knock 'em on the side of the head that's crooked like the Fonz does a jukebox that's on the fritz.", "Just pick an eye and focus on that one. Doesn't matter if it's the right one, I can shift my own gaze so it feels natural. It's only a problem if you keep looking back and forth between them. \n\nThat said if they are a severe case and one eye is clearly not even trying to look at you, it should be pretty obvious that's not their dominant eye. If the dominant eye is obvious, look at that one, it's the one they're seeing you with. ", "You should actually help them. There is a safe alternative that can fix their problems for good and it's cheap, doctors just don't want you to know about it. So, what you'll need are two sterile toothpicks. You can usually find these by the cash register of your local Chinese restaurant. Next, have your friend sit *very* still. This is key. Now, with a quick and precise jab, shove 1 toothpick into the center of their pupil. Repeat for the remaining eye. Once you have done this with both eyes, you can then manually move their eyes and thus, centering them. The best part is, there are no nerve endings so you don't need pain killers! This technique was actually started by the Wambalayan people of Old Africa hundreds of years ago to give their warriors a better field of vision by pointing both eyes out to the side and preventing blind spots in combat.\n\nHope this helps!" ]

[ 30, 6, 2, 1, 1, 1, -9 ]

[ "When should I renew my phone contract? I've got an iPhone 4S on contract with Three which ends in April. I always seem to be the person who doesn't get the new phone until a few months later because I'm under contract. I don't want to purchase the phone upfront but I'll happily pay x amount per month. Would it be a good idea to have a one month rolling contract (£13) until a new Phone comes out worth having - also meaning that if Apple for example release another in a year's time, I'll be at the end of my contract and be able to get it straight away.\n\nAny dates been released for new phones, or a trend when phones do come out?", "When should I renew my phone contract? I've got an iPhone 4S on contract with Three which ends in April. I always seem to be the person who doesn't get the new phone until a few months later because I'm under contract. I don't want to purchase the phone upfront but I'll happily pay x amount per month. Would it be a good idea to have a one month rolling contract (£13) until a new Phone comes out worth having - also meaning that if Apple for example release another in a year's time, I'll be at the end of my contract and be able to get it straight away.\n\nAny dates been released for new phones, or a trend when phones do come out?", "When should I renew my phone contract? I've got an iPhone 4S on contract with Three which ends in April. I always seem to be the person who doesn't get the new phone until a few months later because I'm under contract. I don't want to purchase the phone upfront but I'll happily pay x amount per month. Would it be a good idea to have a one month rolling contract (£13) until a new Phone comes out worth having - also meaning that if Apple for example release another in a year's time, I'll be at the end of my contract and be able to get it straight away.\n\nAny dates been released for new phones, or a trend when phones do come out?" ]

[ "A better LPT is, if available, move to a 'month to month' plan once your contract expires.\n\nThere is nothing wrong with an iPhone 4s. You don't need the latest.", "If you're happy with a 4s for now, just ask Three for a PAC code. They will immediately offer you a cheaper contract to stay. Turn down the first offer and ask for the PAC code again don't mention any particular deal you've seen elsewhere, just tell them you want it so that you're free to shop around and switch straight away. They will then offer you ( either immediately or they'll ring back) a dirt cheap month to month contract, assuming of course that you've been a good customer, paid on time, etc. \n\nGood luck. \n\nBonus tip. Keep the money you're saving every month aside and you can use it to offset the monthly price of your new iPhone contract by paying more upfront.", "I tend to wait until I can't stand the old phone. My last upgrade was from a basic 3G smartphone with a small screen to the HTC One. I think I waited too long." ]

[ 6, 3, 1 ]

[ "Prevent Totino's Pizza Rolls from exploding in the oven. Every time I try cooking these, the cheese and sauce somehow ends up exploding out the sides of the pizza rolls. I've tried poking holes in them and that didn't seem to help either. Anyone else have any better ideas?\n\n", "Prevent Totino's Pizza Rolls from exploding in the oven. Every time I try cooking these, the cheese and sauce somehow ends up exploding out the sides of the pizza rolls. I've tried poking holes in them and that didn't seem to help either. Anyone else have any better ideas?\n\n", "Prevent Totino's Pizza Rolls from exploding in the oven. Every time I try cooking these, the cheese and sauce somehow ends up exploding out the sides of the pizza rolls. I've tried poking holes in them and that didn't seem to help either. Anyone else have any better ideas?\n\n" ]

[ "Things explode in the microwave because some part of them gets so hot that the water in there boils, causing steam, pressure, BOOM!\n\nExperiment with cooking at a slower rate. Try the recommended time at 50%. If they're not hot enough, put them back in for another half of the recommended time. Experiment with a few of them to figure out how YOUR microwave can heat them properly.", "Don't overheat them and if you're doing a lot, give them breaks in between minutes. This allows the things inside to chill the fuck out instead of expanding and getting cheese everywhere", "Cover the rolls with a paper towel when you microwave it. The explosion will be limited to the paper towel instead of all over the microwave." ]

[ 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Telling people what your hard-to-pronounce name is. I started my first job ever at a movie theater today! I was trying really hard to be extra outgoing and get to know all of my co-workers and hopefully become friends with some of them. But the part that really slips me up is telling them my name. I have an Indian name that is pretty hard to pronounce for a lot of Americans. This is not a new issue for me, as I've been born and raised in America my entire life. Usually I tell people the \"wrong\" way to say my name (with an American accent), but even that feels kind of awkward (because I know that's not actually how you say my name). But this work situation was kind of different, as I was telling my name to my managers and it kind of made them feel weird I think for not being able to say my name right. \n\n\n\nI guess what I'm trying to ask is.. how should I tell my name to my coworkers and managers and people in general? Do people prefer if I say the easier \"American accent\" version, or should I tell them how it is actually supposed to be pronounced (even though a lot of times it leaves the other person completely speechless)?", "Telling people what your hard-to-pronounce name is. I started my first job ever at a movie theater today! I was trying really hard to be extra outgoing and get to know all of my co-workers and hopefully become friends with some of them. But the part that really slips me up is telling them my name. I have an Indian name that is pretty hard to pronounce for a lot of Americans. This is not a new issue for me, as I've been born and raised in America my entire life. Usually I tell people the \"wrong\" way to say my name (with an American accent), but even that feels kind of awkward (because I know that's not actually how you say my name). But this work situation was kind of different, as I was telling my name to my managers and it kind of made them feel weird I think for not being able to say my name right. \n\n\n\nI guess what I'm trying to ask is.. how should I tell my name to my coworkers and managers and people in general? Do people prefer if I say the easier \"American accent\" version, or should I tell them how it is actually supposed to be pronounced (even though a lot of times it leaves the other person completely speechless)?", "Telling people what your hard-to-pronounce name is. I started my first job ever at a movie theater today! I was trying really hard to be extra outgoing and get to know all of my co-workers and hopefully become friends with some of them. But the part that really slips me up is telling them my name. I have an Indian name that is pretty hard to pronounce for a lot of Americans. This is not a new issue for me, as I've been born and raised in America my entire life. Usually I tell people the \"wrong\" way to say my name (with an American accent), but even that feels kind of awkward (because I know that's not actually how you say my name). But this work situation was kind of different, as I was telling my name to my managers and it kind of made them feel weird I think for not being able to say my name right. \n\n\n\nI guess what I'm trying to ask is.. how should I tell my name to my coworkers and managers and people in general? Do people prefer if I say the easier \"American accent\" version, or should I tell them how it is actually supposed to be pronounced (even though a lot of times it leaves the other person completely speechless)?", "Telling people what your hard-to-pronounce name is. I started my first job ever at a movie theater today! I was trying really hard to be extra outgoing and get to know all of my co-workers and hopefully become friends with some of them. But the part that really slips me up is telling them my name. I have an Indian name that is pretty hard to pronounce for a lot of Americans. This is not a new issue for me, as I've been born and raised in America my entire life. Usually I tell people the \"wrong\" way to say my name (with an American accent), but even that feels kind of awkward (because I know that's not actually how you say my name). But this work situation was kind of different, as I was telling my name to my managers and it kind of made them feel weird I think for not being able to say my name right. \n\n\n\nI guess what I'm trying to ask is.. how should I tell my name to my coworkers and managers and people in general? Do people prefer if I say the easier \"American accent\" version, or should I tell them how it is actually supposed to be pronounced (even though a lot of times it leaves the other person completely speechless)?", "Telling people what your hard-to-pronounce name is. I started my first job ever at a movie theater today! I was trying really hard to be extra outgoing and get to know all of my co-workers and hopefully become friends with some of them. But the part that really slips me up is telling them my name. I have an Indian name that is pretty hard to pronounce for a lot of Americans. This is not a new issue for me, as I've been born and raised in America my entire life. Usually I tell people the \"wrong\" way to say my name (with an American accent), but even that feels kind of awkward (because I know that's not actually how you say my name). But this work situation was kind of different, as I was telling my name to my managers and it kind of made them feel weird I think for not being able to say my name right. \n\n\n\nI guess what I'm trying to ask is.. how should I tell my name to my coworkers and managers and people in general? Do people prefer if I say the easier \"American accent\" version, or should I tell them how it is actually supposed to be pronounced (even though a lot of times it leaves the other person completely speechless)?", "Telling people what your hard-to-pronounce name is. I started my first job ever at a movie theater today! I was trying really hard to be extra outgoing and get to know all of my co-workers and hopefully become friends with some of them. But the part that really slips me up is telling them my name. I have an Indian name that is pretty hard to pronounce for a lot of Americans. This is not a new issue for me, as I've been born and raised in America my entire life. Usually I tell people the \"wrong\" way to say my name (with an American accent), but even that feels kind of awkward (because I know that's not actually how you say my name). But this work situation was kind of different, as I was telling my name to my managers and it kind of made them feel weird I think for not being able to say my name right. \n\n\n\nI guess what I'm trying to ask is.. how should I tell my name to my coworkers and managers and people in general? Do people prefer if I say the easier \"American accent\" version, or should I tell them how it is actually supposed to be pronounced (even though a lot of times it leaves the other person completely speechless)?" ]

[ "Just tell them your name normally and they might be able to say it. If they can't, accept their butchering and hope they get better with time. \n\nIf they seem interested in getting it right, Find words that rhyme with it or sound similar and tell them syllable by syllable.\n\nLike \"It's Siobhan. SHI as in shift and VAWN rhymes with lawn.\"", "My buddy Umer just put an American name (Mike) on his nametag. Most of his friends with Arabic names did the same thing.", "Is it your last name? Then you'll have to deal with it. It's not like ppl want to pronounce it wrong, it's just that the muscles in their mouth can't deal with it (that's why foreigners have accents). You could offer a shorter version of your first name to address you, if that's possible. I have to deal with the same problem as you btw, so take it easy ;) ", "i can't imagine why they can't repeat a name, but you have to teach them the correct way. being American doesn't mean you can't learn.", "Well I'd say friends real pronounced name. Otherwise the American style. My step daughter does it this way. Her name is Maysa. American is My-sa, Brazilian is Ma-E-sa. And I'm an uber driver in a collage town. And trying not to murder people's names kill me. Sorry to say but it the black girls names... Get it wrong and it's a one star.", "Tell people how to pronounce whatever you want to be called. If you want to have a nickname or an American name, go for it. But only if YOU want to. People can stop being lazy and learn your name. " ]

[ 6, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

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[ "If you're spending a lot of time in front of your computer before going to bed, install [F.lux](http://stereopsis.com/flux/). \n\nIt turns down the blue tones in your display, based on the time of day. Too much blue light leads your body to believe it's daytime and therefore waky waky-time. ", "Sometimes, if my mind is still really active, I will count my breaths down from 100. Every time that my mind strays, I start over. I usually bore myself to sleep fairly quickly. It is important to take slow controlled breaths (to help relax).\nAlso, if I know that I need to be asleep by a certain time, I will take a melatonin an hour ahead of when I need to be asleep.", "Melatonin, Best natural sleeping medicine. Goodness, now I sound like an infomercial..\nBut in all seriousness it's the only thing that works for me. ", "high grade marijuana.\n\nOR\n\ntry to visualize things. what works for me (and is more difficult than it sounds) is visualizing a lit candle. try to hold that image in your head for as long as possible. the flickering flame, wax slowly dripping and solidifying - focus on making it detailed. when you lose the image, start over. \n\ni got this from Roald Dahl's \"The Wonderful Story of Henry Sugar\". its a great short story you should look up next time you can't sleep.", "Put a movie on and don't watch it, just listen. To confirm it is proven, I will eventually watch the movie, to only discover I haven't gotten past 10-15 minutes.", "I figure out when I intend to go to bed and then from there i prepare to go to bed. That is a terrible way to describe it so i will go more in depth. \n\nSay I wanted to go to bed at 12am then I will start to get ready for bed at around 11pm - 11.30pm and by getting ready for bed I mean that an hour before I intend to sleep I will turn off the light in my room/turn on a bed side light so that my room is alot darker. After about 20minutes of sitting in the dark(assuming at this point you are surfing reddit/at a computer) I take off my glasses. My glasses arent particularly strong so it doesn't bother with my reading too much, but having them off makes me feel alot more tired after about 10minutes.\n\nSo at this point im sitting in a darker room with no glasses on and am most likely wearing what i will be wearing to bed(PJs/naked/underwear) and there will be about 30mins until i intend to sleep. So I finish what im doing on the net like emails or reddit or what have you and then i go get a glass of water, turning as little lights on as possible. When i get back to my room i put the water next to my bed, go to the bathroom to pee, turn off the computer and then get into bed and read a book until I feel that i can sleep. \n\nThe reason that this works(for me atleast) is that you body will know that it is night time/time to sleep. If you are sitting a bright room and then all of a sudden it goes pitch black and you are just laying in bed then your body wont feel tired and your brain will still be working away on what you were doing a few minutes before going to bed. It will feel like a forced sleep. I take my glasses off because I dont sleep in them, another way to tell your body to prepare to sleep, also it makes your eyes strain a bit to read w/e you are reading(If i do intend to read a book in my bed then i will leave my glasses on until i am in bed but if i am just sitting at a computer then i will take them off). Putting the glass of water next to your bed is just me praying on my lazyness. Ill put it next to my bed and then i will sit at my computer and think \"I need a drink... Didnt i get a glass of water?.. godamnit its at my bed\" and then when i get there i usualy think \"Welp. Might aswell get in the bed while im here\"\n\nThen read if you want if you feel it will help you sleep, I usually just go to bed and am sleeping within 5 minutes of my head hitting the pillow. Also, install e.Flux, takes the strain off of your eyes if you are a heavy computer user.\n\nTL;DR: get into PJs/sleeping apparel, turn off all/majority of lights, take off glasses/non sleeping apparel, put water next to bed, go to bed 30mins after doing so. Sleep.\n", "Do not eat for some hours before going to bed.\n\nAvoid the computer also. A good book can do the trick.", "I've had trouble sleeping for years and only just discovered that I fall asleep really quickly when its raining. So when its not raining i will sometimes play a track of light rain with some light distant thunder, and it works like a charm.", "I find it hard to fall asleep in silence .. But if there is something like a TV playing its easy. My method is play a movie or TV series that you have already seen in the background. I have my computer in my bedroom so it's easy because I have tons of movies and such that I have downloaded ..\n\nBut you eat something you have already seen because then you aren't tempted to watch it and follow the story line. This is why music isn't usually a good option because you tend to sing along in your head .. On the contrary, watching movies you haven't seen is effective because you need to concentrate, which if laying down takes a lot out of you. The problem with this is that you will only see a portion of the movie and later when watching it will already know half of the story ..", "You could try \"folding\" a picture in your mind in half over and over. Do this until you cant \"see\" it any longer. This helps me quite a bit.", "Try this: Focus on your tongue. The muscle of it and where it connects to. For some reason, this gets me to stop my mind from racing enough to relax and usually fall asleep. Good luck! ", "Sometimes I try and count from 1 up without thinking about anything but the number. If you think about something else (become self aware, think about your day), start back at 1. I dont remember ever doing this exercise for long, meaning it normally puts me to sleep relatively quickly. ", "Some light m", "Put on NPR. You can listen to a bunch of stuff on the web and even create playlists of shows/discussions that you will not be able to stay awake to.", "Not that I recommend this, any medication with dyphinhydromine (ex. Benadryl any generic allergy med or most sleeping meds) works best an is most effective and if youve never had it before all you Need is 50mg 45mins-1 hour and half before you sleep you will feel tired and actually kinda high ", "It helps me if I try to imagine my self sleepy, very sleepy. When I count to three you will fall into a deep slumber. 1, 2, 3!\n\nHonestly, if you try to feel your toes and you finger tips while taking slow regular breaths it will help. Make sure you aren't focusing on counting or staying regular. Just take slow breaths when you need to. \n\nI actually like listening to running water, but if you have bladder problems this might be less favorable. Any kind of white noise is fine really.", "I've been a polyphasic sleeper for a few months now, so I've had to get really good at instantly falling asleep. I've given up soda + coffee, and I only eat after waking up from one of my naps. Sleeping on a full stomach will fuck you up, especially if you had something with a lot of bread. I can almost always fall asleep in less than 10 minutes, it really makes my roommate jealous :P", "I know this Asian kid named Chris who knocked out my friend with a judo chop at a football practice, I could ask him how to do it to yourself than relay it here? ", "Don't use your bed for anything but sleep or sex. You should condition your body so that it knows that when you're in bed, you're going to sleep. Reading and doing work in bed will make it harder to fall asleep. \n \n A trick that I use when I have trouble sleeping is listing all the 4 letter words I can alphabetically. For example, I start with \"St...\" and I try to go alphabetically: staa (nope), stab (yep), stac... It seems silly but it really works for me.", "Don't move. If you had an itch or wanting to change your position, do it but after than stop moving.\n\n\nI could think about many things in my bed, but if I don't move at all, eventually the things I'm thinking about was actually a part of my dream and I have fallen asleep..\n\nThe same thing could be done to wake up not feeling groggy. Just try to move as much as you can. Make sure you think that your mind is ordering your body to move. Your mind will be \"waken\" in no time.\n", "Couple of things I do. I NEVER associate my bed with anything but sleeping. Never sit or lay on your bed unless you intend to go to sleep. If you are REALLY restless, try forcing yourself to not move for 5 minutes. It will be an excruciating 5 minutes if you start thinking about things that itch, but you will be pretty relaxed when it's over. Take some slow deep breaths to slow down your heart rate. Think about something relaxing. Sex does it for me, plus I get sex dreams! Enjoy!", "* Try to cool down just as you sleep. If it's cold, go have a warm (not hot) shower and let your body cool down like it's a natural process.\n\n* Avoid eating, especially anything that has any form of caffeine/gurana etc. - more blood in your gut for digestion, not for sleeping.\n\n* Try to avoid using the computer or reading before bed. Your just promoting active thought.\n\n* Use headphones and play white/pink/brown noise. Rain is very similar to these and is more natural. It helps clear the mind.\n\n* If you can get into a cycle before bed, and/or going to bed at the same time you will start to automatically adjust to this.\n\n* If you are stuck thinking about something and can't get to sleep becuase of it, start thinking about your breathing. Slow it down, steady breaths, and you'll drift off.\n\n* On average it takes a human 14 minutes to go to sleep.\n\n* When planning to wake up, work on the 1 & 1/2 hour cycles. Sleep for 3, 6 or 9 hours. You will wake up feeling so much better then waking up mid-sleep cycle.", "\"Studies have shown that slightly higher amounts of methane in the air you breathe when falling asleep not only shortens the time it takes to fall asleep, but makes for a better sleeping period. Therefore some experts say passing gas once or twice will improve the sleep experience.\"\n-Mark Gabrielson M.D." ]

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[ "Keeping sheets from un-tucking at the foot of your bed. I recently moved to college and got a new bed to sleep on. Unlike the bed that I had since I can remember at my parents house, my new one has no headboard or footboard. The footboard is what I associate my sheets never coming untucked to, so now without one, I keep pulling my cover sheet out over and over despite being extremely cautious.", "Keeping sheets from un-tucking at the foot of your bed. I recently moved to college and got a new bed to sleep on. Unlike the bed that I had since I can remember at my parents house, my new one has no headboard or footboard. The footboard is what I associate my sheets never coming untucked to, so now without one, I keep pulling my cover sheet out over and over despite being extremely cautious.", "Keeping sheets from un-tucking at the foot of your bed. I recently moved to college and got a new bed to sleep on. Unlike the bed that I had since I can remember at my parents house, my new one has no headboard or footboard. The footboard is what I associate my sheets never coming untucked to, so now without one, I keep pulling my cover sheet out over and over despite being extremely cautious." ]

[ "you can find childrens mitten clips fairly inexpensively.... clip them across the corner underneath to keep it from sliding up. *", "You can buy a roll of that rubber shelf liner stuff for a buck at a dollar store, lay it across the foot of the box spring, then make up the bed. The friction will help. \n\nAlso you might have to tuck more of the top sheet under than you might be doing now. Which is tough if you're tall or the bed is one of the extra long mattresses, it can feel like you're short-sheeted. \n\nAnd finally, there is some company that makes all in one fitted and tops so you never have to worry about it, but I cannot recall the name.", "Just don't tuck your sheets in. It's way more comfortable when you get used to it. For the transitional period, get really drunk before you go to bed, you'll fall right to sleep. " ]

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[ "How not to be so hyper in public This has been a problem for me for quite a bit. I am usually a calm and collective guy when I'm alone and stuff. In game I'm not really hyper. The moment I'm with a friend I can be a ball of hyper. I wanna know how to control this because it affects the people around me and I don't want them to be uncomfortable when around me.", "How not to be so hyper in public This has been a problem for me for quite a bit. I am usually a calm and collective guy when I'm alone and stuff. In game I'm not really hyper. The moment I'm with a friend I can be a ball of hyper. I wanna know how to control this because it affects the people around me and I don't want them to be uncomfortable when around me.", "How not to be so hyper in public This has been a problem for me for quite a bit. I am usually a calm and collective guy when I'm alone and stuff. In game I'm not really hyper. The moment I'm with a friend I can be a ball of hyper. I wanna know how to control this because it affects the people around me and I don't want them to be uncomfortable when around me.", "How not to be so hyper in public This has been a problem for me for quite a bit. I am usually a calm and collective guy when I'm alone and stuff. In game I'm not really hyper. The moment I'm with a friend I can be a ball of hyper. I wanna know how to control this because it affects the people around me and I don't want them to be uncomfortable when around me.", "How not to be so hyper in public This has been a problem for me for quite a bit. I am usually a calm and collective guy when I'm alone and stuff. In game I'm not really hyper. The moment I'm with a friend I can be a ball of hyper. I wanna know how to control this because it affects the people around me and I don't want them to be uncomfortable when around me." ]

[ "My first advice is to just be yourself. I struggle with this myself, and it's mostly getting overly energetic and talking too much. What I will usually do is ask myself if I am going to be the only person that will be interested in what I have to say, and if that answer is yes than I'll just keep it to myself. 9/10 things going through my mind fail this test. ", "Out of curiosity, how old are you?\n\nHyper is word that basically embodied who I was growing up. It was something I was aware of and wanted to change but couldn't quite figure out how.\n\nNow that I'm a bit older I've seen that it does ebb. I'm still a very *enthusiastic* person, but the erratic-ness and annoying-ness of 'hyper' do dull. ", "Suck in your bottom lip slightly when you know you're about to talk to a person and only let go once you've thought about what you're going to say. Not only does this stop you from talking (even if you do, you'll feel the pressure on your bottom lip lessening and hear a kissing sound, reminding you to think about what you're going to say), but it also sends a symbolic message to your mind that you are to keep your mouth shut until you have thought about your words. Eventually, your mind will take a hint and do the same with your actions. In the end, you'll have a substantial amount of control over yourself. I've had the same problem at the same age and this method has worked pretty well for me.", "Few questions:\n\n1) How are your organizational skills? Are your school materials generally neat or messy?\n\n2) Do you often lose track of time or miss appointments, especially when focusing on something?\n\n3) When you watch TV, do people complain you tune them out or are hyper-focused on it?\n\n4) When you were younger, did you frequently forget your jacket, backpack, etc. at school?", "Calm your tits. \n\n\nLol jokes aside not sure what to say. Maybe be more observant? What do you mean by hyper exactly do you have weird physical manerrisms are you loud or do you talk over others? Details " ]

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[ "How to minimize armpit sweat Ever since middle school my pits have started sweating like I'm in the fucking desert regardless of temperature or clothing. I've tried everything from shaving to putting on antiperspirant right before I go to sleep. These thing only help very minimally. I'm completely unable to wear any solid colors that aren't black or navy blue or some sort of tank top. Within 1-2 minutes of wearing anything else I end up with a a sweat stain the size of softball. Please help", "How to minimize armpit sweat Ever since middle school my pits have started sweating like I'm in the fucking desert regardless of temperature or clothing. I've tried everything from shaving to putting on antiperspirant right before I go to sleep. These thing only help very minimally. I'm completely unable to wear any solid colors that aren't black or navy blue or some sort of tank top. Within 1-2 minutes of wearing anything else I end up with a a sweat stain the size of softball. Please help", "How to minimize armpit sweat Ever since middle school my pits have started sweating like I'm in the fucking desert regardless of temperature or clothing. I've tried everything from shaving to putting on antiperspirant right before I go to sleep. These thing only help very minimally. I'm completely unable to wear any solid colors that aren't black or navy blue or some sort of tank top. Within 1-2 minutes of wearing anything else I end up with a a sweat stain the size of softball. Please help", "How to minimize armpit sweat Ever since middle school my pits have started sweating like I'm in the fucking desert regardless of temperature or clothing. I've tried everything from shaving to putting on antiperspirant right before I go to sleep. These thing only help very minimally. I'm completely unable to wear any solid colors that aren't black or navy blue or some sort of tank top. Within 1-2 minutes of wearing anything else I end up with a a sweat stain the size of softball. Please help", "How to minimize armpit sweat Ever since middle school my pits have started sweating like I'm in the fucking desert regardless of temperature or clothing. I've tried everything from shaving to putting on antiperspirant right before I go to sleep. These thing only help very minimally. I'm completely unable to wear any solid colors that aren't black or navy blue or some sort of tank top. Within 1-2 minutes of wearing anything else I end up with a a sweat stain the size of softball. Please help", "How to minimize armpit sweat Ever since middle school my pits have started sweating like I'm in the fucking desert regardless of temperature or clothing. I've tried everything from shaving to putting on antiperspirant right before I go to sleep. These thing only help very minimally. I'm completely unable to wear any solid colors that aren't black or navy blue or some sort of tank top. Within 1-2 minutes of wearing anything else I end up with a a sweat stain the size of softball. Please help", "How to minimize armpit sweat Ever since middle school my pits have started sweating like I'm in the fucking desert regardless of temperature or clothing. I've tried everything from shaving to putting on antiperspirant right before I go to sleep. These thing only help very minimally. I'm completely unable to wear any solid colors that aren't black or navy blue or some sort of tank top. Within 1-2 minutes of wearing anything else I end up with a a sweat stain the size of softball. Please help" ]

[ "What works for me is [this](https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000052X8R/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1467737284&sr=8-1&keywords=certain+dri&pi=SY200_QL40) stuff. It's interesting in that you put it on at night before bed but it is freaking effective! I have always had swamp pits and this made it disappear within days. I still use a normal deodorant during the day too but the Certain Dri made all the difference.", "What has your doctor said when you've brought this issue up with your doctor?\n\nIf you haven't, that's your first step.\n\nDoctors help and this is *exactly* what they are here for.", "Like everyone saying, it's probably hyperhidrosis. Besides the Drysol, anxiety medication also helped me too. May just have been in my case, but I thought it was interesting. ", "I've heard that people get Botox in their armpits for this condition. Its probably pricey but this sounds like its really serious for you.", "I used a product called Drysol when I was in middle school (years and years ago...) it requires a prescription but it is the bomb. It will completely block your sweat glands. I went from sweating profusely through a tee shirt with pit stains out to my tits in 5 minutes to no gosh damn sweat at all. \n\nGo to the doctor. If your sweating is as bad as you say, anything over the counter won't do shit. \n\nYou probably can order it online, as well. It is very strong aluminum chloride, which is found in things like Certain Dri, but the percentage is not nearly as strong as the prescription strength. It can be irritating as holy hell, if not used correctly (I found that out in 7th grade). ", "I had this issue and went to the doctor for it. He gave me a prescription for antiperspirant that worked great. It's must stronger than the stuff you buy on the shelves in the store so don't trust the \"Prescription Strength\" labels. \n\nIt only cost $5 with my insurance, but I think it was like $25 or $30 without insurance. Definitely worth it. And it lasts forever. I used my one bottle for almost two years. You only put it on twice a week. I still use antiperspirant, but I don't use the prescription one, anymore. Not sure if I grew out of it or something was going on with my body when I was sweating like a pig back then, but the problem is gone. You could grow out of it like I did, but I definitely would recommend getting some prescription strength antiperspirant. ", "Hey buddy I feel you (same issue) it's super common effecting 1-2 % of the population. There are a number of options depending on how bad it is. Personally I use a (non-controlled) drug called glycopyrolate. You can find it on Canadian pharmacy websites without a prescription. The only only real down side is a little dry mouth (nothing a couple of mints can't handle). There are other options but this one is the cheapest and one of the easiest, good luck. " ]

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[ "Tires / Discount Tire I bought my tires from Discount Tire last March, and during the inspection today, I was told that the treads were too low to pass. The tires are supposed to last 60,000 miles, and it’s only been about 20,000. I bought the warranty, but they’re saying that only covers accidents and nails. I feel like they should still be covered, they should have lasted me much longer. I can’t get a straight answer from Discount Tire on whether or not they will cover anything, until they see my car tomorrow. \n\nMy question is, isn’t there supposed to be some kind of warranty or guarantee? I shouldn’t have to pay full price for another set of tires this soon, right? What can I expect them to offer - and if I need to, how can I fight for a fair discount/price?", "Tires / Discount Tire I bought my tires from Discount Tire last March, and during the inspection today, I was told that the treads were too low to pass. The tires are supposed to last 60,000 miles, and it’s only been about 20,000. I bought the warranty, but they’re saying that only covers accidents and nails. I feel like they should still be covered, they should have lasted me much longer. I can’t get a straight answer from Discount Tire on whether or not they will cover anything, until they see my car tomorrow. \n\nMy question is, isn’t there supposed to be some kind of warranty or guarantee? I shouldn’t have to pay full price for another set of tires this soon, right? What can I expect them to offer - and if I need to, how can I fight for a fair discount/price?", "Tires / Discount Tire I bought my tires from Discount Tire last March, and during the inspection today, I was told that the treads were too low to pass. The tires are supposed to last 60,000 miles, and it’s only been about 20,000. I bought the warranty, but they’re saying that only covers accidents and nails. I feel like they should still be covered, they should have lasted me much longer. I can’t get a straight answer from Discount Tire on whether or not they will cover anything, until they see my car tomorrow. \n\nMy question is, isn’t there supposed to be some kind of warranty or guarantee? I shouldn’t have to pay full price for another set of tires this soon, right? What can I expect them to offer - and if I need to, how can I fight for a fair discount/price?", "Tires / Discount Tire I bought my tires from Discount Tire last March, and during the inspection today, I was told that the treads were too low to pass. The tires are supposed to last 60,000 miles, and it’s only been about 20,000. I bought the warranty, but they’re saying that only covers accidents and nails. I feel like they should still be covered, they should have lasted me much longer. I can’t get a straight answer from Discount Tire on whether or not they will cover anything, until they see my car tomorrow. \n\nMy question is, isn’t there supposed to be some kind of warranty or guarantee? I shouldn’t have to pay full price for another set of tires this soon, right? What can I expect them to offer - and if I need to, how can I fight for a fair discount/price?", "Tires / Discount Tire I bought my tires from Discount Tire last March, and during the inspection today, I was told that the treads were too low to pass. The tires are supposed to last 60,000 miles, and it’s only been about 20,000. I bought the warranty, but they’re saying that only covers accidents and nails. I feel like they should still be covered, they should have lasted me much longer. I can’t get a straight answer from Discount Tire on whether or not they will cover anything, until they see my car tomorrow. \n\nMy question is, isn’t there supposed to be some kind of warranty or guarantee? I shouldn’t have to pay full price for another set of tires this soon, right? What can I expect them to offer - and if I need to, how can I fight for a fair discount/price?", "Tires / Discount Tire I bought my tires from Discount Tire last March, and during the inspection today, I was told that the treads were too low to pass. The tires are supposed to last 60,000 miles, and it’s only been about 20,000. I bought the warranty, but they’re saying that only covers accidents and nails. I feel like they should still be covered, they should have lasted me much longer. I can’t get a straight answer from Discount Tire on whether or not they will cover anything, until they see my car tomorrow. \n\nMy question is, isn’t there supposed to be some kind of warranty or guarantee? I shouldn’t have to pay full price for another set of tires this soon, right? What can I expect them to offer - and if I need to, how can I fight for a fair discount/price?" ]

[ "So many factors like did you keep your tires properly inflated, were you doing burn outs, did you always have extremely heavy loads, and did you rotate your tires properly. You will probably get nothing. But I will say this I have gotten much better customer service recently from tire discount over Firestone. So if you remain cool, nice and ask for a discount because the 20k miles you might get something.", "Inflation, alignment, lack of rotation, suspension wear.. All of these things can cause premature tire wear. Not to mention that the mileage estimate is just that: an estimate. I always ignore that number and just buy the tires with the performance I want for the price I'm willing to pay.\n\nFrom my experience, cheaper economy tires are typically harder compounds and will last longer, high performance tires are softer and will wear out faster. But I still buy high performance tires because I appreciate the extra grip.", "You should get a rebate from the manufacturer for the pro-rated amount of tire length you didn’t get use of. So if it’s warrantied for 60k milled and you only got 20k they will apply your prorated cr", "The warranty is for damage due to road hazards. Manufacturer warranty covers workmanship and material. If you can prove under normal driving conditions the material failed to meet the expected mileage, you might have a free set coming your way. In actuality, you will probably spend more time and money than a new set is worth.\n\nTry a different manufacturer and see if you get better results. If you get similar mileage on a different manufacturer, maybe cut down on the drifting.", "Who says you didn't drive like an idiot, taking all turns with spinning wheels?\n\nSorry to say it, but cheap tires often turn out to be expensive down the line.\n\nI always choose premium tires (check independent tests first), not only because they have better handling and are safer, but also because they generally wear less quickly.", "If you got the certificates on them they will warranty them no issue due to damage. If it is the manufacturer warranty they will prorate the cost. So if you have the certificates just cause damage to them once a week. By putting a nail in the shoulder or side wall" ]

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[ "how can I know what's the right haircut for me? The same guy has cut my hair since I can remember. I always say \"short\" and that's pretty much it. I'd like to change my style but I don't know what haircut could suit me well.\n\nI also have big ears, so some haircuts can look kinda bad on me.\n\nSo, how can I know what's the right haircut for me?\n\nPS: I'm a guy.", "how can I know what's the right haircut for me? The same guy has cut my hair since I can remember. I always say \"short\" and that's pretty much it. I'd like to change my style but I don't know what haircut could suit me well.\n\nI also have big ears, so some haircuts can look kinda bad on me.\n\nSo, how can I know what's the right haircut for me?\n\nPS: I'm a guy." ]

[ "Try the one that doesn't suck. And stay away from any place that has the word cut or clip in their name. Pay more than $25 bucks also. \nTip too.\n", "Figure out the shape of your head and then what haircut compliments said head shape.\n\nDo the same thing for matching glasses frame shape and size with your head shape." ]

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[ "How to provent dust from getting on plastic, wood, and other things So I have a gaming setup and unfortunately, everything is really close together until I move. And, apparently, my gaming consoles are *dust magnets*. This causes tons of problems, especially for the older consoles(overheating, noise, etc), and makes me have to clean them out constantly. Any tips?", "How to provent dust from getting on plastic, wood, and other things So I have a gaming setup and unfortunately, everything is really close together until I move. And, apparently, my gaming consoles are *dust magnets*. This causes tons of problems, especially for the older consoles(overheating, noise, etc), and makes me have to clean them out constantly. Any tips?" ]

[ "Air purifier? You are constantly circulating air to cool your electronics and the slight static charge is enough to draw more dust on to the devices. Keep up with your house vacuuming, remember to switch out your furnace filter, and other dusting of your house.", "Maybe check out \"HEPA Filter\" or a special filter for your central air system. There are also air ionizers, maybe small electrostatic precipitators. \n\nSome plants are better at removing dust from a room. " ]

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[ "How to get over someone you loved. Recently got out of a relationship because she moved, and I really would like to know how to move on. ", "How to get over someone you loved. Recently got out of a relationship because she moved, and I really would like to know how to move on. ", "How to get over someone you loved. Recently got out of a relationship because she moved, and I really would like to know how to move on. ", "How to get over someone you loved. Recently got out of a relationship because she moved, and I really would like to know how to move on. ", "How to get over someone you loved. Recently got out of a relationship because she moved, and I really would like to know how to move on. ", "How to get over someone you loved. Recently got out of a relationship because she moved, and I really would like to know how to move on. ", "How to get over someone you loved. Recently got out of a relationship because she moved, and I really would like to know how to move on. " ]

[ "You do what you need to in order to make it through each day. My goal was always tomorrow. Always just trying to make it through each day so I could have another chance at being happy. Emotions are transient, there will be a day when you look back and you realize the scar tissue has enveloped the wound and the pain is all but forgotten. It's the same way you deal with getting into physical injury, really. I broke my arm when I was a kid and while I still have twangs that remind me of the pain, nothing quite meets the feeling of the moment I felt the bone snap.\nTake care of yourself and don't be afraid to talk to people about what you're feeling. People will listen, you just have to find the right ones.", "It's never really a matter of getting over, it's getting past someone. The only real way to do it is to push your life forward and do cool things. Follow your passions and build an awesome life for yourself. Eventually you'll look back confidently at all the progress and know moving on was the right choice. It's okay to still have love for someone after though. Emotions aren't as black and white as a lot of people make them out to be. ", "Don't contact them for a while, at least 3 months, but i recommend to not contact at all as it will only make you miss them. Do something you love and use your \"sadness\" as motivation. Im currently doing these things to try and move on from someone whom I loved, but knew that I did and they always used me because the thought I wouldn't leave", "Do not contact the ex - it keeps the wound from healing. So many people think they can be \"just friends\", but that only works if neither person still loves the other. Give it at least 6 months, longer if you're still feeling sore.\n\nFocus on personal growth. Use your pain to motivate you into being in a better place in the next 6 months. Use whatever logic helps you best, it's different for everyone. Some examples of what can help motivate people:\n- I want to find happiness from myself rather than someone else\n- I want them to regret leaving me when they see how good my life is later\n- I want to be 'good enough' for someone amazing further down the road\n- I want to be the best version of myself\n\netc etc.\n\nFind what drives you. Focus on hobbies and passions. Try not to rebound too hard if you can, it usually hurts the person you're rebounding with unless they're clear that's all it is. \n\nRemember that ultimately, in 5 years at worst this won't hurt so badly and at best you'll barely think about it. Seems a long way off, but think about other painful things you've overcome. \n\nYou can get through this.", "reading and then feeling the five stages of grief may help.\n\nAlso, its been said that it takes about half the time the relationship was long to get over it. Example: You were together a year- then it will take 6 months to get over it. \n\nhttp://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/", "Spend time with your friends. Focus on good relationships you have. The main thing is time. It'll take a while", "Nothing heals the heart like seeing and fucking (mostly/kid a) every chick you can lol. \n\nBut really though. Download a handful of dating apps. Tinder, ok Cupid, plenty of fish, etc. \n\nGo out on dates with other girls, have sex with them (if you're charismatic enough), and just do things to keep your mind of her. Like baseball, go to your local ball park and hit some balls, like soccer, go kick around at a local empty net, etc. \n\nI know it's easier said than done, trust me, I been there. After a bit you'll start to feel comfortable doing things by yourself, eventually you'll be kinda comfortable going out to places by yourself at night (if you don't have any friends). \n\nThings I done and it worked. My number of girls shot up by 15 within one year. mind you I only had sex with 8 or 9 girls in my entire life, mostly from relationships. " ]

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[ "How to shorten shoe laces My shoe laces are super long for a pair of shoes. I walk around with large flapping loops and triple+ knotting also looks silly. Is there a way to shorten them without buying another lace or messing around with cutting and replacing the plastic ends?", "How to shorten shoe laces My shoe laces are super long for a pair of shoes. I walk around with large flapping loops and triple+ knotting also looks silly. Is there a way to shorten them without buying another lace or messing around with cutting and replacing the plastic ends?" ]

[ "Cutting, and then any one of these methods for the ends: http://www.fieggen.com/shoelace/agletrepair.htm", "Don't. Use a different lacing method as NinjaSteve suggests.\n\nIf they are a lot longer, use the ladder method.\n\nSome shoes come with extremely long laces because the shoes themselves are meant to be laced differently. Different lacing techniques serve different purposes." ]

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[ "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? ", "Without hurting anyone's feelings, How do I switch to a different barber at the same shop after going to the same barber the last 3 years? " ]

[ "Just let her know that while it isn’t personal. The other guy just has a deeper understanding of what you were wanting. You never left completely unsatisfied with her. But you just feel your requests are better understood with him.\nHope this helps. Sorry if it doesn’t!", "Unless you'll be meeting her frequently for other purposes, or if you plan to go back to her on a later date. Why do you care what she thinks. It's part of her job to be nice. You have no obligation to go to her", "I would just book the new guy, and is she asks, say he cuts my hair faster and this is the cut I wanted. \n\nbe nice, but honest", "A buddy of mine was getting terrible haircuts for a barber named Enzo, but he was really doing a terrible job. Our friend Elaine convinced him to do what you are asking and scheduled a haircut with Enzo's nephew Gino. Unfortunately, when you do this, sometimes people show up to work on their day off. That's exactly what happened and he got a bad haircut because he was too scared to tell Enzo. Still scared, he asked Gino to give him a haircut in his apartment. I don't know how Enzo knew where my buddy lived, but sure enough, he buzzed the door just as Gino began the haircut. Yadi yadi yada, if you want a different barber, either tell the barber or your enemy, we will call him Newman, will sabotage your relationship with the entire barber shop. \n\nHope that helped, it happened way back in 1993, episode 8 season 5.", "I went to the same hair stylist for multiple years and then out of nowhere she stopped accepting my bookings. After the 2nd attempt to set up an appointment I let it go. I still feel kind of awkward about it like I did something wrong because there was no reply or explanation. And there probably was a very easy explanation that I would have totally understood. So yeah, I'd say the best thing you can do is just communicate with her. Say hello when you see her and explain that you took the appointment with the other barber since she wasn't available and he did a great job so you came back to him.", "Man I wish I had advice but I'm just commenting because I'm going through the same thing. Lady I was seeing was giving me 8.5/10 haircuts at first and they are now 5/10 to 7/10, she's slower now and used to use scissors on the sides and knows my preference for this but has switched to clippers. Last time I got a cut, there was a terrible diagonal short patch in the back that I didn't notice until I got home. She's been taking longer and been more casual/comfortable around me. I tip extremely well. She takes her sweet time so it's just laziness I guess? She's really nice and cool and I feel like we're basically friends, but I need to stop getting my haircuts from her.\n\nProblem is that I don't have a 10/10 barber to switch to. Anytime I have any constructive feedback, she gets pretty defensive and cold. Now that I type this out, I realize I should just try anybody else and take a chance until I find that fantastic cut again and hope they don't go downhill like this.", "Book when she’s not in lol. Or if you have to go while she’s there just say hey what’s up and pretend like nothing happened. What’s she gonna do? Yell at you for not going to her? No, she’ll be professional ( maybe) and just say hi back", "The easiest way is if you can book it online book it with the new guy. When you see her while going to see the new guy explain to her that you don't FEEL like you cut is complete without the crisp razor finish.\n\nIf it were me I'd also add that I don't feel comfortable with her using the razor because of the previous conversation and you've never seen her use it.", "Straight up tell her it's because of the straight razor. I have done this in shops before. Ultimately you are way over thinking this. You make appointments. Just don't book with her anymore. Really is that simple. I would be shocked if she asked or said anything. If she does, just tell her you really like the other guy. He'll stand up for you because he wants to protect his new client.", "The reason they don't want to use razors anymore is because they are super expensive. Work around her schedule. I had a talkative hairstylist as well. Every time she stopped to talk to one of her coworkers, it really felt like she was totally wasting my time.", "Tell her very sincerely that you think it's best you guys \"take a break\" and that it's not working out rn. Or.. go for the break-up option. You could say it's not you it's her, and that it's personal. GL", "She runs a business. I'm sure she likes you but she's also hopefully a professional. She was your only barber for a while but you were not her only customer. I think this happens all the time and she can't take it personally otherwise it wouldn't be a very healthy operation. It's fine to go with someone else and not feel guilty!", "My daughter is a cosmetologist and she said to switch and not feel bad about it. Ultimately they want to please the customer. If she's not getting the job done (check) you've asked to have it done the way you want (check) and she's still not making it happen....then switch.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nIf she asks, just say that you like to switch things up after a while, and for now you're trying something different.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nOr, do what I did and just shave it all off. Wife was getting tired of my bald spot growing each passing month. Now I'm the barber. lol", "Just schedule with the other barber. Some barbers do take it very personally and get all snarky and upset, because it is kind of an intimate craft to them and they feel as though it's \"cheating\", like I know several barbers who say it like my client cheated on me with Rob etc. Which I think is silly, it's a service, it's a business transaction wherein I'm paying you money for a service, and if I can pay either less money for the same quality of service, or pay the same money for a better quality of service, why wouldn't I? Some barbers understand that, some don't. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThe only thing to do is just to accept it may be awkward and proceed. Don't try to not make eye contact, that's even weirder. Just like \"Hi \\_\\_, how are you doing!\" and continue on with your haircut. If they are mad, that's their problem, not yours.", "Can u call and make an appointment instead of doing it online? They may just stick u with the last person you had. That's what happens at the place I go to. I was getting my haircut from one lady and then one week, she wasn't there, so I took it with someone random and I loved how this person did it. After that, whenever I made an appointment, they asked me who I wanted and I said \"Person A does it normally, but Person B did it last time, so whoever's available I guess\" and they put me with the Person B.", "CALL HER IMMEDIATELY AND TELL HER WELL BEFORE YOU COME IN NEXT TIME YOU GET A CUT. Just be certain in what you say and let her know immediately so she is just caught off guard by it when you go in. Basically just give her the courtesy call and keep it moving, she can't be mad at you for communicating this.", "Lol if you don’t switch barbers, to the better/quicker barber and continue going to the not so good barber because of how it would make them feel, then you’re a pussy in my book." ]

[ 30, 18, 17, 13, 10, 6, 6, 5, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -2 ]

[ "How to be comfortable with confrontation So, yeah, I've never been taught how to handle face-to-face confrontation, and I'm tired of being a pushover. How do I get myself out of this rut?\n\nI'm looking for the balance of assertive, yet non-bitchy, with a healthy dash of \"how the hell do I calm the massive internal adrenaline rush I get when I need to voice an opposing viewpoint\".", "How to be comfortable with confrontation So, yeah, I've never been taught how to handle face-to-face confrontation, and I'm tired of being a pushover. How do I get myself out of this rut?\n\nI'm looking for the balance of assertive, yet non-bitchy, with a healthy dash of \"how the hell do I calm the massive internal adrenaline rush I get when I need to voice an opposing viewpoint\".", "How to be comfortable with confrontation So, yeah, I've never been taught how to handle face-to-face confrontation, and I'm tired of being a pushover. How do I get myself out of this rut?\n\nI'm looking for the balance of assertive, yet non-bitchy, with a healthy dash of \"how the hell do I calm the massive internal adrenaline rush I get when I need to voice an opposing viewpoint\".", "How to be comfortable with confrontation So, yeah, I've never been taught how to handle face-to-face confrontation, and I'm tired of being a pushover. How do I get myself out of this rut?\n\nI'm looking for the balance of assertive, yet non-bitchy, with a healthy dash of \"how the hell do I calm the massive internal adrenaline rush I get when I need to voice an opposing viewpoint\".", "How to be comfortable with confrontation So, yeah, I've never been taught how to handle face-to-face confrontation, and I'm tired of being a pushover. How do I get myself out of this rut?\n\nI'm looking for the balance of assertive, yet non-bitchy, with a healthy dash of \"how the hell do I calm the massive internal adrenaline rush I get when I need to voice an opposing viewpoint\".", "How to be comfortable with confrontation So, yeah, I've never been taught how to handle face-to-face confrontation, and I'm tired of being a pushover. How do I get myself out of this rut?\n\nI'm looking for the balance of assertive, yet non-bitchy, with a healthy dash of \"how the hell do I calm the massive internal adrenaline rush I get when I need to voice an opposing viewpoint\"." ]

[ "You've got to feel the adrenal response. When you feel it happening do a quick inventory of the changes in your body. Tightened muscles, heightened heart beat, etc. Knowing what's going on helps you to control it and overcome it. \n\nThis same trick works with all emotions. You have to let them flow through you. They're your bodies natural response to the stimuli around you, so there's nothing you can do to eliminate them.", "First, I would recommend reading The Dance Of Anger by Susan Lerner. She explains that under-reacting is just as bad as over-reacting. When you under-react, you feel resentment and you're angry with yourself, when you over-react you feel ashamed because, well, you over-reacted. The trick is to react appropriately. If you react appropriately, you'll feel GOOD after any confrontation.\n\nThe trick is to start small, dont start with your boss or your in-laws, start with the cashier who's overcharging you or whatever. It's like muscle memory, the more you do it, the easier it gets.\n", "Go into it with a very specific idea of the point you want to make.\n\nMight be a good idea to not frame it (to yourself, and the other person) as 'confrontation', but as (just) 'something I have to tell you/talk to you about/get off my chest'\n\nBe assertive, but polite, respectful, empathetic and listen to the other person's responses. \n\nBe calm, deliberate, controlled; avoid 'waffling.'\n\nThe other person trying to 'steamroll' over you may be something you have to deal with; don't keep trying to 'get a word in'. If they do this, say twice., just making it clear (expression, body language) that you're 'waiting for them to finish.' Then give the silence a few seconds (just to drive home the point) before calmly and purposefully getting back to that point. ", "As with everything, it gets easier with practice. Start with something small. Maybe a friend is doing something small that bothers you. Work your way up to confronting your boss about a raise/promotion. ", "Register the response of adrenaline then suppress it and mock the angry fellow across from you. The one who stays the calmest wins the confrontation. The one who losses their shit losses the battle. Calm confident subtle mocking is the way to go. Like \"well you seem pretty angry right now\", \"do you talk to your mother like that\", \"talk about no self control\". This kind of stuff will drive them insane and you will walk away the victor. ", "It helps to be bigger or beastlier than the other fella, or pack heat if the confrontation is going to be physical.\n\nBut a quick wit without sarcasm and the willingness to buy the first round is my preferred method. \n\nRegardless, never show fear, that just sets half-wits off.\n" ]

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[ "How to manage a healthy work place and work relationship with your ex (especially when you are in a supervisory position). ", "How to manage a healthy work place and work relationship with your ex (especially when you are in a supervisory position). ", "How to manage a healthy work place and work relationship with your ex (especially when you are in a supervisory position). " ]

[ "Find a different gig. Be professional and only address work things. Avoid being without a witness when you are in their company. ", "Document everything, don't text them about work stuff but rather use your work email instead, avoid being alone with them whoever possible if necessary. \nIf you parted on good terms I would just talk to them as though they were a normal friend. \nTry to compartmentalize and not overthink everything. Have confidence in your ability to be a professional. ", "Hello [notwherethewindblows](/u/notwherethewindblows), thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, your submission has been removed for the following reason(s):\n\n* **Relationship tip.**\n\n\n\nIf you would like to appeal this decision [please feel free to contact the moderators here](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=/r/LifeProTips). Do not repost without explicit permission from the moderators. Make sure you [read the rules](/r/lifeprotips/about/sidebar) before submitting. Thank you!" ]

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[ "How to make the best of my voice I'm a soft spoken individual, and rarely raise my voice. Recently this has started being an issue when training people at work. People in class say they are unable to hear me when I'm not facing them directly (looking to the left means those on the right are more likely to not hear and vice versa). What are some ways that I can not only increase my speaking volume, but also expand to cover a wider arc?", "How to make the best of my voice I'm a soft spoken individual, and rarely raise my voice. Recently this has started being an issue when training people at work. People in class say they are unable to hear me when I'm not facing them directly (looking to the left means those on the right are more likely to not hear and vice versa). What are some ways that I can not only increase my speaking volume, but also expand to cover a wider arc?", "How to make the best of my voice I'm a soft spoken individual, and rarely raise my voice. Recently this has started being an issue when training people at work. People in class say they are unable to hear me when I'm not facing them directly (looking to the left means those on the right are more likely to not hear and vice versa). What are some ways that I can not only increase my speaking volume, but also expand to cover a wider arc?", "How to make the best of my voice I'm a soft spoken individual, and rarely raise my voice. Recently this has started being an issue when training people at work. People in class say they are unable to hear me when I'm not facing them directly (looking to the left means those on the right are more likely to not hear and vice versa). What are some ways that I can not only increase my speaking volume, but also expand to cover a wider arc?", "How to make the best of my voice I'm a soft spoken individual, and rarely raise my voice. Recently this has started being an issue when training people at work. People in class say they are unable to hear me when I'm not facing them directly (looking to the left means those on the right are more likely to not hear and vice versa). What are some ways that I can not only increase my speaking volume, but also expand to cover a wider arc?" ]

[ "speaking as ex minor speech impediment haver, the way i got my voice was to be louder was simply by talking to myself more.\nwhen at home or just by yourself (in the car, for example) just keep talking to yourself about anything on your mind, and practise in a variety of accents or styles (they don't have to be good) and make sure to just talk as loud as you can at all times.\nmake sure to also record yourself doing this (all smartphones have recording software) so you can get a sense of progression to keep you motivate.\nit is very uncomfortable at first, but like anything, just keep ploughing through until your happy with yourself.", "[This video from Elliott Hulse](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P41ER1Wmkj0) and [this video from the Art of Manliness](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4SW_xMueXU) are what I suggest to you, and what I'll do, too. \nGood luck! :)", "Try taking singing lessons, it'll teach you how to speak from your diaphragm which is where all the projection comes from.", "I agree with the poster who said try singing or acting lessons. \n\nI would also recommend checking out a book from the library of actor's monologues or poetry or Shakespeare that you could read aloud at home. If your computer has recording technology, it might be helpful to record yourself reading, so you can hear what your voice sounds like.", "As people have said, singing lessons are paramount. I'm a very shy person, but I sing, and it's helped me get out of my shell a LOT." ]

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[ "How do I find the right hairstyle? It's always bothered me that I've never been able to find a haircut that actually looks good on me. I don't know much about styling, but I'd really love to change things and not hate my hair whenever I look in the mirror. It really brings a guy down, you know?", "How do I find the right hairstyle? It's always bothered me that I've never been able to find a haircut that actually looks good on me. I don't know much about styling, but I'd really love to change things and not hate my hair whenever I look in the mirror. It really brings a guy down, you know?", "How do I find the right hairstyle? It's always bothered me that I've never been able to find a haircut that actually looks good on me. I don't know much about styling, but I'd really love to change things and not hate my hair whenever I look in the mirror. It really brings a guy down, you know?" ]

[ "I wonder if there's a sub for this? There's a sub for everything else...\n\n---\n", "Whereabouts are you located?\n\nA good tip would be to ask around or browse the subreddit of the city you're in and see if anyone can recommend a good barber/hairdresser. If you have 2 or more people vouching for them, then it's generally a safe bet.\n\nGrow your hair out as much as you can before it gets annoying (at least 4-6 weeks, depending on how quickly your hair grows) and go visit the barber that was recommended. Tell them that you've grown the hair out for the purpose of getting something tailored towards your head size, face shape and general workability (i.e. if you want a formal looking cut or an informal one or the best of both worlds). If they're decent, they'll be able to explain what they're doing, why they've chosen that style for you and how to maintain it\n\nThat's kinda how I found my guy and I'm super happy with his work.", "Shell out the cash for a fairly expensive salon and then be prepared to talk to your stylist about things you do/don't like about what you currently have. \n\nEvery time I've let my hairstylist decide, I've been over the moon with my new cut." ]

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[ "Can someone explain how to make a poster out of an image from, say, imgur? I'm moving to my first apartment (yay!) and my roommate and I would like to have a few cool posters in our living room. I've found some cool images on imgur but I don't know how well they'll turn out (pixellated) if I just print them really big. Is there a way to make a non HD image into a huge poster? ", "Can someone explain how to make a poster out of an image from, say, imgur? I'm moving to my first apartment (yay!) and my roommate and I would like to have a few cool posters in our living room. I've found some cool images on imgur but I don't know how well they'll turn out (pixellated) if I just print them really big. Is there a way to make a non HD image into a huge poster? ", "Can someone explain how to make a poster out of an image from, say, imgur? I'm moving to my first apartment (yay!) and my roommate and I would like to have a few cool posters in our living room. I've found some cool images on imgur but I don't know how well they'll turn out (pixellated) if I just print them really big. Is there a way to make a non HD image into a huge poster? " ]

[ "Do what I do, see if you can find who created the image, ask them if they would be willing to sell you a print/poster.\n\nmost will be flattered you like their work, and you may even score something signed by the artist themselves. Everyone wins! Plus the content creator often has the much larger original, which is WAY better for prints.", "[Block Poster](http://www.blockposters.com/) I think is a nicer finished product than Rasterbator Just did two huge ones of Kids from a winter Retreat - Colors and detail were great. Helps to have a Straight Edge cutter and clear packing tape (used for the back) when piecing together.", "You can take a picture to Kinko's and ask for them to make it \"engineer\" size, which means they'll blow it up to about 4ft x 4ft I think. Is gets expensive when printing in color, but black and white is pretty cheap. " ]

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[ "Lose a nasally voice/improve accent I've never really enjoyed the sound of my voice, and when someone on the phone thinks you have a cold, and you have to reply that's your normal voice, you know you have a problem.", "Lose a nasally voice/improve accent I've never really enjoyed the sound of my voice, and when someone on the phone thinks you have a cold, and you have to reply that's your normal voice, you know you have a problem.", "Lose a nasally voice/improve accent I've never really enjoyed the sound of my voice, and when someone on the phone thinks you have a cold, and you have to reply that's your normal voice, you know you have a problem.", "Lose a nasally voice/improve accent I've never really enjoyed the sound of my voice, and when someone on the phone thinks you have a cold, and you have to reply that's your normal voice, you know you have a problem.", "Lose a nasally voice/improve accent I've never really enjoyed the sound of my voice, and when someone on the phone thinks you have a cold, and you have to reply that's your normal voice, you know you have a problem.", "Lose a nasally voice/improve accent I've never really enjoyed the sound of my voice, and when someone on the phone thinks you have a cold, and you have to reply that's your normal voice, you know you have a problem.", "Lose a nasally voice/improve accent I've never really enjoyed the sound of my voice, and when someone on the phone thinks you have a cold, and you have to reply that's your normal voice, you know you have a problem.", "Lose a nasally voice/improve accent I've never really enjoyed the sound of my voice, and when someone on the phone thinks you have a cold, and you have to reply that's your normal voice, you know you have a problem.", "Lose a nasally voice/improve accent I've never really enjoyed the sound of my voice, and when someone on the phone thinks you have a cold, and you have to reply that's your normal voice, you know you have a problem.", "Lose a nasally voice/improve accent I've never really enjoyed the sound of my voice, and when someone on the phone thinks you have a cold, and you have to reply that's your normal voice, you know you have a problem.", "Lose a nasally voice/improve accent I've never really enjoyed the sound of my voice, and when someone on the phone thinks you have a cold, and you have to reply that's your normal voice, you know you have a problem.", "Lose a nasally voice/improve accent I've never really enjoyed the sound of my voice, and when someone on the phone thinks you have a cold, and you have to reply that's your normal voice, you know you have a problem.", "Lose a nasally voice/improve accent I've never really enjoyed the sound of my voice, and when someone on the phone thinks you have a cold, and you have to reply that's your normal voice, you know you have a problem.", "Lose a nasally voice/improve accent I've never really enjoyed the sound of my voice, and when someone on the phone thinks you have a cold, and you have to reply that's your normal voice, you know you have a problem." ]

[ "There are many factors that influence the sound of your voice when you speak. The biggest factors that I can think of right now include: \n\n- The shape of your mouth. Make sure you are opening your mouth wide when speaking. This will allow you to make larger sounds and enunciate better. \n\n- Where you are speaking from. Your speech is the product of vibrations created within your body, and these vibrations are made in multiple places. Many people end up learning to alter these vibrations in their nasal cavity. To sound more articulate and more masculine, you want the vibrations to come from your chest and throat. To test yourself, try talking while pinching your nose closed with your fingers. Do you feel a lot of vibration with your hand when you do? If so, you are speaking through your nasal cavity. \n\n- Posture. This is much the same as the previous point. Sitting up straight allows you to open up your chest and gives your diaphragm more room to move, making you better able to cause the vibrations necessary within the chest and throat area. \n\nPractice altering these factors and pay attention to how it influences your speech. Sit up straight, open your throat, and open your mouth wide. Act like you're going to suck a big dick, and then try speaking. Engage the diaphragm while you're speaking and be mindful of where the sound is coming from. \n\n", "I have this problem constantly, I'm male, 32, and I sound like I am always stuffy, partly because I actually always am, I have some sort of sinus condition where one or the other side of my nose is completely stuffed, depending on which way my head is tilted. The interwebs tell me this sounds like a deviated septum, and anyone I tell that to asks me if I did cocaine. I did not. Point of the story is that it could be medical and not something you can just fix by talking differently..", "Some tips: \n\nLearn a new language. Learning how to speak in a different accent helps your mouth learn how to make new noises. When I speak French, the sound of my voice totally changes to a deeper resonance because my mouth is moving the air differently. It's almost like it's coming from my throat rather than my nose.\n\nImitate singers. Go on Youtube and search for how to use your diaphragm when singing/speaking. This will make your voice more powerful and less nasally.", "In all serious, take a couple singing lessons. A good vocal instructor will talk you through the anatomy of how to make certain sounds cleaner, and will specifically give you tips on how to prevent a nasally sound. It's very common for singers to sound nasally if they don't know what they're doing and it's a fairly simple fix on technique in many cases.", "When you're singing, you're suppose to push air up from your diaphragm and control the pitch through your vocal cords. If I focus on breath/depth of breath as a afterthought when I sing, it get's pitchy/nasally. Try to focus on getting some air behind your speech. Think of it like a bagpipe. Fill that fucker up, slow your speech down a little bit, and push from your gut when your talking. That might help. ", "You might have a deviated septum, which is easily fixed surgically and will make your voice a bit less nasal. ", "The youtube channel Art of Manliness has a great video that touches on this topic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4SW_xMueXU\n\nBasically, it provides two tips.\n\n1. Projecting from your mask.\n\n* The area on your face that includes your lips and the bridge and sides of your nose. Don't speak from your throat or nose.\n\n2. Breathe from your diaphragm \n\n* Don't breath from the chest. You're breathing \"correctly\" when your stomach moves in and out instead of your chest and shoulders moving.", "The only sounds in English which are nasal are Ng and Mmm. \n\nSo if you lightly touch the tip of your nose and say words with no N or M like \"Very hot\" or \"There are two left\" then there should be no vibrations on the nose at all. If there are, open your mouth more and get the sound out through your mouth and not the nose.\n\nAlso, I myself quit most dairy and I'm not longer stuffed up. I used to sound like I had a cold all the time.", "Speak a bit slower. It reduces the tendency to speak through the nose a little, and it also gives the impression that you're confident and know what you're talking about.", "Move to Australia, that way you'll seem softly spoken, unless you are from there which means you are pretty much fucked.\n", "It may sound a little crazy, but try and take voice lessons with a classical/operatic voice teacher. As singers, we are taught to teach and achieve the best/ most prominent sound you can healthily achieve. It may take a vew weeks, but it's what we do. =)", "If you want help with your accent, then watch [Rachel's American English](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0nwbzoIP14E&list=PL8A78F4E25D2280A1). There are loads of videos to help you.\n\nShe also has one for getting rid of nasality. [Soft palate](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LItyTiThtcA)", "I have the opposite of that. My voice is really \"Heavy\" I don't know how else to describe it. I guess sort of like if you imitated a large dog going \"Woof\". I really want to fix it. It makes me sound like a fucking turtle.", "Hello - I was an announcer for a few years and am used to voices ranging from old-timey baseball caster to Michael Buffer and movie announcer-type stuff. Speaking more with your diaphragm and chest cavity is the best way, but you need to find a balance where it doesn't sound forced or theatrical (unless you want to sound ridiculous in casual conversation). Try imagining you are smiling wide, but just in your throat. You should feel it opening up and, in conjunction with pushing up with your diaphragm, your pitch will change and add some nice bass in. Remember to do this without forcing the sound or straining. You want to be able to do this all of the time and be able to calmly and softly speak. I used to do this sort of thing in my car or whatever and these days I am able to produce a variety of deep voices that should not come out of someone who looks like I do. My overall speaking style has changed to become calmer and deeper. Have fun!" ]

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So any good tips a non glasses wearing should know once becoming a glasses wearer would be super helpful.\nThanks!", "Glasses wearers, I am about to join your ranks for the 1st time. Please send tips. Yep I need to start wearing Glasses. So any good tips a non glasses wearing should know once becoming a glasses wearer would be super helpful.\nThanks!", "Glasses wearers, I am about to join your ranks for the 1st time. Please send tips. Yep I need to start wearing Glasses. So any good tips a non glasses wearing should know once becoming a glasses wearer would be super helpful.\nThanks!", "Glasses wearers, I am about to join your ranks for the 1st time. Please send tips. Yep I need to start wearing Glasses. So any good tips a non glasses wearing should know once becoming a glasses wearer would be super helpful.\nThanks!", "Glasses wearers, I am about to join your ranks for the 1st time. Please send tips. Yep I need to start wearing Glasses. So any good tips a non glasses wearing should know once becoming a glasses wearer would be super helpful.\nThanks!", "Glasses wearers, I am about to join your ranks for the 1st time. Please send tips. Yep I need to start wearing Glasses. So any good tips a non glasses wearing should know once becoming a glasses wearer would be super helpful.\nThanks!", "Glasses wearers, I am about to join your ranks for the 1st time. Please send tips. Yep I need to start wearing Glasses. So any good tips a non glasses wearing should know once becoming a glasses wearer would be super helpful.\nThanks!", "Glasses wearers, I am about to join your ranks for the 1st time. Please send tips. Yep I need to start wearing Glasses. So any good tips a non glasses wearing should know once becoming a glasses wearer would be super helpful.\nThanks!", "Glasses wearers, I am about to join your ranks for the 1st time. Please send tips. Yep I need to start wearing Glasses. 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So any good tips a non glasses wearing should know once becoming a glasses wearer would be super helpful.\nThanks!", "Glasses wearers, I am about to join your ranks for the 1st time. Please send tips. Yep I need to start wearing Glasses. So any good tips a non glasses wearing should know once becoming a glasses wearer would be super helpful.\nThanks!", "Glasses wearers, I am about to join your ranks for the 1st time. Please send tips. Yep I need to start wearing Glasses. So any good tips a non glasses wearing should know once becoming a glasses wearer would be super helpful.\nThanks!", "Glasses wearers, I am about to join your ranks for the 1st time. Please send tips. Yep I need to start wearing Glasses. So any good tips a non glasses wearing should know once becoming a glasses wearer would be super helpful.\nThanks!", "Glasses wearers, I am about to join your ranks for the 1st time. Please send tips. Yep I need to start wearing Glasses. 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[ "Keep them on your face. That's where they work best. Don't take them off and fiddle with them. And your shirt is the worst thing to clean them with. ", "Keep them clean, if you have any problems take them back to your doctor immediately, keep a [Jewelers Precision Screwdriver Set](https://smile.amazon.com/Stanley-66-039-Jewelers-Precision-Screwdriver/dp/B00002X29G?sa-no-redirect=1) where you know where its at in your house AND in your car for emergency repairs, keep a tiny little bottle of cleaning spray in your car, near where you keep your glasses at night, and with you at all times for cleaning.", "Try to keep them on your face with your eyes behind them in the recommended position or they might not work. \n\nI'm all seriousness, you'll probably break this pair. Try to keep aware of where you place them. Put them in a common area or you'll have trouble finding them while being blind like Velma. ", "After the first ten minutes they're on your face, you will never see that clearly again, as they will be abso-fucking-lutely filthy. Permanently. You will never stop cleaning them, but they will never be clean. Just less dirty. This is your new reality. The sooner you learn to embrace it, the happier you will be.\n\nSource: Lifer, here.", "Don't take them in the ocean. Whether you're wearing them, clip them on your waistband, whatever, you will definitely lose them", "You will very quickly learn to NOT rub your eyes the way you used to, or else you will get large smudges.\nKeep your glasses clean if you can, I tend to keep a microfiber cloth on me all the time.\nClean them with microfiber cloths, they are THE BEST, and in my opinion, the ONLY way you should clean glasses.\nTake off glasses with BOTH HANDS! Same with putting them on. One hand for each side of the glasses.\n", "Pay extra for the thinner, lighter weight lenses. Worth it. Also, try on several dozen frames before settling on one. A small difference can make a big difference.", "Look through your glasses, not at them.\n\nA lot of newbs not used to glasses will attempt to look at the lenses. This will cause headaches and generally make you look funny. Instead don't pay any attention to the glasses and look through (beyond) the lenses to the actual thing you are wanting to look at. You know you're doing it right when your lenses get really dirty and you don't notice.", "Take your time in picking out a pair, and try on as many as you reasonably can. You're stuck with them for a year or two at the least, so be careful to find some with a style and fit that really suits you. Don't let an employee rush you through anything, and take what they say \"looks great on you\" ($$$) with a grain of salt.", "If you get them from an optical shop, ask them to \"fit them\" for you. The ear pieces can be adjusted appropriately so they don't dig into your head and so the glasses sit at a comfortable spot on your nose. If you get them online, I imagine some optical shops will fit you for little or no charge. \n\nI've always had this done in the past but I skipped it the last time I bought glasses and my current pair is *always* sliding down my nose. *Annoying!* ", "I am not sure if anyone has gone through this but:\n\nI would go with specs that have sprung hinges, Sprung hinges provide some protection from putting them on and off.\n\nGo for specs that fit you width wise, this might improve comfort and you'll be able to adjust them a little more, rather than going for something too small.\n\nPlastic frames are good if you prefer to take them on and off regularly, and metal frames with nose pads if you prefer accuracy in the position of the frames on your name.\n\nIf you ever feel like your glasses are loose, i.e if they slip off easily. Go back to the store you purchased them from, they should be able to adjust them for you for free. Also if you don't like the frames after the purchase, see what their policy is, maybe you can change them after you've had them for a short while.\n\nNot all Opticians get their perscription 100% right, if you feel like things don't seem right, go back to the store. \n\nHope this helped, I dispense glasses on a daily basis", "Don't put them on top of your head. The resulting knot of tangled hair around the nose clips (if your glasses have a clip) is SO ANNOYING", "Every time you take them off, put them in the same place. Have a designated spot on the night stand for sleep and in the bathroom for showering. There is nothing worse then not knowing where your glasses are and not being able to see to look for them. You're new to glasses so it's not a huge deal just yet but as your eyes get worse it will become a bigger and bigger problem. Best to start with good habits rather than struggle to break them later. ", "Don't leave water on them, especially swimming pool water (the chlorine). I made this mistake, and now their are like spots where the lens deteriorated", "Always put your glasses in the same place when you go to sleep!\n\nAlso, try to get a pair of polarised prescription sunglasses, totally worth the money.", "Always keep your pair you had before when getting a new one, that way if something happens to your new pair at least you have the old ones for back up. ", "for cleaning: i take my glasses in the shower to steam up and to clean the oil off after. i have an oily face. i don't shower with them on. the towel clean the oil off and then proper alcohol swab that glasses lint clean. win.", "Tips IMO:\n\n\n1. Keep clean. I personally use warm water (little bit of dish soap only if needed), dry with paper towel, and clear lens with the fiber cloth you get from new glasses. \n\n\n2. Don't be afraid to ask for adjusts or re-adjustments. Most places will gladly help out and clean for free. I even ask places that I never been to like the optical in Costco (before you hate, yes I eventually did get glasses thru Costco for a great price).\n\n\n3. If you want to ride rollercoasters, then get the lanyards for the glasses. They will hold if worn properly. (I missed out many experience growing up because I would take my glasses off before a ride). \n\n\n4. Get separate pair of prescription sunglasses instead of the tinting lenses (personal preference).\n\n\n5. Have a few glasses repair kits (home, office, car). They come in handy for yourself or even for other glasses wearers. ", "Never wipe the lenses on your glasses with your shirt, nor a paper towel, or anything like that. When they get dirty, as gently as possible wash them with some residue-free soap and water, then blot the excess water off with some toilet paper. In my experience handsoap in a typical public bathroom works fine. Beware of tissue that has lotion in it.\n\nNever sleep with your glasses on. Some people get away with it, but don't.\n\nDo not leave your glasses in a car overnight or in extreme temperatures.\n\nRiding a roller coaster or carnival ride with glasses on is fine, I have never felt them even budge.\n\n\nBuy glasses online, don't listen to what your eye doctor says about buying glasses, they are trained to rip you off. All you need from them is your prescription and pupil distance, and you can measure your pupil distance yourself.\n\nKeep one of them tiny screwdrivers for glasses handy in case your glasses fall apart.", "If you use hairspray or perfume/cologne take extra care not to get them on your lenses. It will mess up the anti-reflective coating. And yes, get that coating or else you will see the reflection of your eyes inside the lenses, very annoying. \n\nBring an extra pair when travelling. I had to go a whole day without my glasses and couldn't bear to do anything not being able to see properly. Also good to have on hand in case you lose your primary pair at home as it is very hard to find your glasses without your glasses. ", "If you have access to a wholesale place like Costco, take a look at their frames and services as they're frequently cheaper and higher quality than other locations.\n\nAlso, whenever you go to Costco in the future the Vision center will adjust your glasses for you if they're causing any discomfort.", "Get decent lenses. I have cheap lenses and they constantly get dirty, greasy, smudged, etc. I use dish soap on your lenses to clean them to remove grease/oil from your face. ", "Get a spare cheapo pair from Walmart for emergencies. It can seriously cost as little as ten bucks. I keep a pair like that in the car and it's saved my ass more than once.", "Don't put them on top of your head. The result knot of tangled hair around the nose clips (if your glasses have a clip) is SO ANNOYING", "Carry a microfiber cloth with you everywhere. You never know what kind of shit might gather on your glasses, and there is nothing worse than dirty lenses.", "Been wearing glasses for 20+ years. And the one piece of advice I ignore and I wish I hadn't is please always taking off you glasses with both hands. Take them straight off your face. Not too the side with one hand. It's stretches them out. ", "After being in possession of both plastic and glass, I definitely recommend **glass lenses**. Only if your eyes aren't too bad. My plastic lenses even with \"scratch resist coating\" always got scratched to crap. I've had my pair with glass lenses for over a year and even with abuse and constant reckless shirt-cleaning they barely have any visible scratches.\n\nThe downside is that they're heavier, they can get super heavy if your vision is particularly bad in a way that requires them to craft the lenses with more glass. My vision wasn't super bad, and I didn't wear glasses until 23-24. That being said, I kind of like the extra heft of my glass lenses after getting used to them. It's like a nice metal pen vs a plastic bank pen. ", "* Avoid touching the lenses as much as possible. Smudges get distracting fast.\n\n* YMMV, but I thought anti-reflective coating was definitely worth it.\n\n* Save for LASIK/PRK. Best purchase ever. Use the money you save from buying your glasses from Zenni instead of Lenscrafters. ", "On cold days, when walking into a warm building from outside, you can prevent your glasses fogging up by walking in backwards.", "If you want a inexpensive way to have many different pairs of glasses, check out Warby Parker.\n\nMost of their frames are plastic, but $95 for a pair of pretty nice looking single vision glasses is awesome. You even get a receipt and can submit to your HSA/FSA because they don't work with insurance at all.\n\nI've got 4 different pairs of glasses because I've gone through them. It means I've got extra pair if something happens and I like switching out frames occasionally.\n\nI'd at least check them out, you can have them send you pairs to try on at home for no cost. Just know the try on pairs are bent to shit, but you can get a good idea of how it'll look." ]

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[ "Mind tricks you've used to get yourself motivated to change your life and to stop putting your life on hold? ", "Mind tricks you've used to get yourself motivated to change your life and to stop putting your life on hold? ", "Mind tricks you've used to get yourself motivated to change your life and to stop putting your life on hold? " ]

[ "A lot of times your motivation is deterred by the complexity of achieving the goal. You need to break it down into steps that are so simple that you don't need motivation or thought to do those steps. For a cheesy example, if you wanted to walk to the top of a mountain, that would seem hard, and you wouldn't be motivated to do it. But, how hard is it to put one foot in front of the other? if you just took one step in a direction, fallowed by another, and another, etc, eventually you would be there. Apply that logic to your goal. Take your goal, and working backwards, break it down into simpler steps. But how do you break it down? start with a goal you have in mind. Then ask yourself this question: what are the major steps to this goal? Then take those major steps, and break them down further and further by continuing to ask yourself what the small steps are that make up that step. Repeat until the steps are so easy you can do them no problem. For example: say your goal was to become a good cook. What are some steps? You'd start maybe by saying I'll learn some recipies. What are the steps to that? Maybe I'll take a class! How do you take a class? sign up! how and where do you sign up? look it up! etc,ect. Just keep breaking down the steps until you have a bit by bit game plan. Also, write it all down for reference!! And here is the important part: Break it down until it is something you can do RIGHT NOW! You will already feel better about yourself if you can accomplish that first step (no matter how small) right now. Hope that helps!", "Write out your goals. I like to put up post-it notes through the house and write on my mirrors with dry erase markers. I put up quotes that inspire me and affirmations. I do one thing every day that brings me closer to my goals. I remind my self of my goals every day and m", "Make a deadline. Having some date to look forward to to say \"I have to get this done by that date\" is a good motivator for me." ]

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[ "How to get rid of a small mouse/mice I've had this problem for a few months now I just cannot deal with them. I've tried cutting off their food supply and also bought [these traps](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Cheese-Ultra-Power-Baited/dp/B005838M7W/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=mouse%2Btrap&amp;qid=1637265614&amp;qsid=262-3146437-9656606&amp;s=outdoors&amp;sr=1-5&amp;sres=B08X7L9RL3%2CB005838M7W%2CB09FKLKNV7%2CB0997L46JH%2CB094KNYPVT%2CB0987W4549%2CB08H552SK5%2CB000LXWQBW%2CB07HDZT74Z%2CB089XYF1HQ%2CB000YQ12MK%2CB083SSDW4S%2CB07YTQ3125%2CB095HRBM82%2CB08LV8MKJ5%2CB083JVDDJJ%2CB095341WJV%2CB000LPA2KC%2CB07H82VWW6%2CB07314BC88&amp;srpt=PEST_CONTROL_DEVICE&amp;th=1) baited with peanut butter but it hasn't sprang a single time.\n\nThe mice and tiny and very nimble, honestly the one I saw was the size of a big roach. I feel like the mouse doesn't probably even spring the trap since its so tiny and light. I am not sure how many there are, so far I have only seen one but I'm expecting worse. I can hear them late at night under my floorboards squeaking and moving. I've began duct taping every single corner of my room just incase they get in from there.\n\nAnyways what should I do if they get in my room? Get more sensitive traps or just buy poison and spread it across the whole room/under floor boards? Is the poison dangerous? I don't really like the idea of poison grains scatter all of over my room. I don't think the smell of mice dying under the boards will be that bad since they are small, right?", "How to get rid of a small mouse/mice I've had this problem for a few months now I just cannot deal with them. I've tried cutting off their food supply and also bought [these traps](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Cheese-Ultra-Power-Baited/dp/B005838M7W/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=mouse%2Btrap&amp;qid=1637265614&amp;qsid=262-3146437-9656606&amp;s=outdoors&amp;sr=1-5&amp;sres=B08X7L9RL3%2CB005838M7W%2CB09FKLKNV7%2CB0997L46JH%2CB094KNYPVT%2CB0987W4549%2CB08H552SK5%2CB000LXWQBW%2CB07HDZT74Z%2CB089XYF1HQ%2CB000YQ12MK%2CB083SSDW4S%2CB07YTQ3125%2CB095HRBM82%2CB08LV8MKJ5%2CB083JVDDJJ%2CB095341WJV%2CB000LPA2KC%2CB07H82VWW6%2CB07314BC88&amp;srpt=PEST_CONTROL_DEVICE&amp;th=1) baited with peanut butter but it hasn't sprang a single time.\n\nThe mice and tiny and very nimble, honestly the one I saw was the size of a big roach. I feel like the mouse doesn't probably even spring the trap since its so tiny and light. I am not sure how many there are, so far I have only seen one but I'm expecting worse. I can hear them late at night under my floorboards squeaking and moving. I've began duct taping every single corner of my room just incase they get in from there.\n\nAnyways what should I do if they get in my room? Get more sensitive traps or just buy poison and spread it across the whole room/under floor boards? Is the poison dangerous? I don't really like the idea of poison grains scatter all of over my room. I don't think the smell of mice dying under the boards will be that bad since they are small, right?", "How to get rid of a small mouse/mice I've had this problem for a few months now I just cannot deal with them. I've tried cutting off their food supply and also bought [these traps](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Cheese-Ultra-Power-Baited/dp/B005838M7W/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=mouse%2Btrap&amp;qid=1637265614&amp;qsid=262-3146437-9656606&amp;s=outdoors&amp;sr=1-5&amp;sres=B08X7L9RL3%2CB005838M7W%2CB09FKLKNV7%2CB0997L46JH%2CB094KNYPVT%2CB0987W4549%2CB08H552SK5%2CB000LXWQBW%2CB07HDZT74Z%2CB089XYF1HQ%2CB000YQ12MK%2CB083SSDW4S%2CB07YTQ3125%2CB095HRBM82%2CB08LV8MKJ5%2CB083JVDDJJ%2CB095341WJV%2CB000LPA2KC%2CB07H82VWW6%2CB07314BC88&amp;srpt=PEST_CONTROL_DEVICE&amp;th=1) baited with peanut butter but it hasn't sprang a single time.\n\nThe mice and tiny and very nimble, honestly the one I saw was the size of a big roach. I feel like the mouse doesn't probably even spring the trap since its so tiny and light. I am not sure how many there are, so far I have only seen one but I'm expecting worse. I can hear them late at night under my floorboards squeaking and moving. I've began duct taping every single corner of my room just incase they get in from there.\n\nAnyways what should I do if they get in my room? Get more sensitive traps or just buy poison and spread it across the whole room/under floor boards? Is the poison dangerous? I don't really like the idea of poison grains scatter all of over my room. I don't think the smell of mice dying under the boards will be that bad since they are small, right?", "How to get rid of a small mouse/mice I've had this problem for a few months now I just cannot deal with them. I've tried cutting off their food supply and also bought [these traps](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Cheese-Ultra-Power-Baited/dp/B005838M7W/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=mouse%2Btrap&amp;qid=1637265614&amp;qsid=262-3146437-9656606&amp;s=outdoors&amp;sr=1-5&amp;sres=B08X7L9RL3%2CB005838M7W%2CB09FKLKNV7%2CB0997L46JH%2CB094KNYPVT%2CB0987W4549%2CB08H552SK5%2CB000LXWQBW%2CB07HDZT74Z%2CB089XYF1HQ%2CB000YQ12MK%2CB083SSDW4S%2CB07YTQ3125%2CB095HRBM82%2CB08LV8MKJ5%2CB083JVDDJJ%2CB095341WJV%2CB000LPA2KC%2CB07H82VWW6%2CB07314BC88&amp;srpt=PEST_CONTROL_DEVICE&amp;th=1) baited with peanut butter but it hasn't sprang a single time.\n\nThe mice and tiny and very nimble, honestly the one I saw was the size of a big roach. I feel like the mouse doesn't probably even spring the trap since its so tiny and light. I am not sure how many there are, so far I have only seen one but I'm expecting worse. I can hear them late at night under my floorboards squeaking and moving. I've began duct taping every single corner of my room just incase they get in from there.\n\nAnyways what should I do if they get in my room? Get more sensitive traps or just buy poison and spread it across the whole room/under floor boards? Is the poison dangerous? I don't really like the idea of poison grains scatter all of over my room. I don't think the smell of mice dying under the boards will be that bad since they are small, right?", "How to get rid of a small mouse/mice I've had this problem for a few months now I just cannot deal with them. I've tried cutting off their food supply and also bought [these traps](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Cheese-Ultra-Power-Baited/dp/B005838M7W/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=mouse%2Btrap&amp;qid=1637265614&amp;qsid=262-3146437-9656606&amp;s=outdoors&amp;sr=1-5&amp;sres=B08X7L9RL3%2CB005838M7W%2CB09FKLKNV7%2CB0997L46JH%2CB094KNYPVT%2CB0987W4549%2CB08H552SK5%2CB000LXWQBW%2CB07HDZT74Z%2CB089XYF1HQ%2CB000YQ12MK%2CB083SSDW4S%2CB07YTQ3125%2CB095HRBM82%2CB08LV8MKJ5%2CB083JVDDJJ%2CB095341WJV%2CB000LPA2KC%2CB07H82VWW6%2CB07314BC88&amp;srpt=PEST_CONTROL_DEVICE&amp;th=1) baited with peanut butter but it hasn't sprang a single time.\n\nThe mice and tiny and very nimble, honestly the one I saw was the size of a big roach. I feel like the mouse doesn't probably even spring the trap since its so tiny and light. I am not sure how many there are, so far I have only seen one but I'm expecting worse. I can hear them late at night under my floorboards squeaking and moving. I've began duct taping every single corner of my room just incase they get in from there.\n\nAnyways what should I do if they get in my room? Get more sensitive traps or just buy poison and spread it across the whole room/under floor boards? Is the poison dangerous? I don't really like the idea of poison grains scatter all of over my room. I don't think the smell of mice dying under the boards will be that bad since they are small, right?", "How to get rid of a small mouse/mice I've had this problem for a few months now I just cannot deal with them. I've tried cutting off their food supply and also bought [these traps](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Cheese-Ultra-Power-Baited/dp/B005838M7W/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=mouse%2Btrap&amp;qid=1637265614&amp;qsid=262-3146437-9656606&amp;s=outdoors&amp;sr=1-5&amp;sres=B08X7L9RL3%2CB005838M7W%2CB09FKLKNV7%2CB0997L46JH%2CB094KNYPVT%2CB0987W4549%2CB08H552SK5%2CB000LXWQBW%2CB07HDZT74Z%2CB089XYF1HQ%2CB000YQ12MK%2CB083SSDW4S%2CB07YTQ3125%2CB095HRBM82%2CB08LV8MKJ5%2CB083JVDDJJ%2CB095341WJV%2CB000LPA2KC%2CB07H82VWW6%2CB07314BC88&amp;srpt=PEST_CONTROL_DEVICE&amp;th=1) baited with peanut butter but it hasn't sprang a single time.\n\nThe mice and tiny and very nimble, honestly the one I saw was the size of a big roach. I feel like the mouse doesn't probably even spring the trap since its so tiny and light. I am not sure how many there are, so far I have only seen one but I'm expecting worse. I can hear them late at night under my floorboards squeaking and moving. I've began duct taping every single corner of my room just incase they get in from there.\n\nAnyways what should I do if they get in my room? Get more sensitive traps or just buy poison and spread it across the whole room/under floor boards? Is the poison dangerous? I don't really like the idea of poison grains scatter all of over my room. I don't think the smell of mice dying under the boards will be that bad since they are small, right?", "How to get rid of a small mouse/mice I've had this problem for a few months now I just cannot deal with them. I've tried cutting off their food supply and also bought [these traps](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Cheese-Ultra-Power-Baited/dp/B005838M7W/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=mouse%2Btrap&amp;qid=1637265614&amp;qsid=262-3146437-9656606&amp;s=outdoors&amp;sr=1-5&amp;sres=B08X7L9RL3%2CB005838M7W%2CB09FKLKNV7%2CB0997L46JH%2CB094KNYPVT%2CB0987W4549%2CB08H552SK5%2CB000LXWQBW%2CB07HDZT74Z%2CB089XYF1HQ%2CB000YQ12MK%2CB083SSDW4S%2CB07YTQ3125%2CB095HRBM82%2CB08LV8MKJ5%2CB083JVDDJJ%2CB095341WJV%2CB000LPA2KC%2CB07H82VWW6%2CB07314BC88&amp;srpt=PEST_CONTROL_DEVICE&amp;th=1) baited with peanut butter but it hasn't sprang a single time.\n\nThe mice and tiny and very nimble, honestly the one I saw was the size of a big roach. I feel like the mouse doesn't probably even spring the trap since its so tiny and light. I am not sure how many there are, so far I have only seen one but I'm expecting worse. I can hear them late at night under my floorboards squeaking and moving. I've began duct taping every single corner of my room just incase they get in from there.\n\nAnyways what should I do if they get in my room? Get more sensitive traps or just buy poison and spread it across the whole room/under floor boards? Is the poison dangerous? I don't really like the idea of poison grains scatter all of over my room. I don't think the smell of mice dying under the boards will be that bad since they are small, right?", "How to get rid of a small mouse/mice I've had this problem for a few months now I just cannot deal with them. I've tried cutting off their food supply and also bought [these traps](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Cheese-Ultra-Power-Baited/dp/B005838M7W/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=mouse%2Btrap&amp;qid=1637265614&amp;qsid=262-3146437-9656606&amp;s=outdoors&amp;sr=1-5&amp;sres=B08X7L9RL3%2CB005838M7W%2CB09FKLKNV7%2CB0997L46JH%2CB094KNYPVT%2CB0987W4549%2CB08H552SK5%2CB000LXWQBW%2CB07HDZT74Z%2CB089XYF1HQ%2CB000YQ12MK%2CB083SSDW4S%2CB07YTQ3125%2CB095HRBM82%2CB08LV8MKJ5%2CB083JVDDJJ%2CB095341WJV%2CB000LPA2KC%2CB07H82VWW6%2CB07314BC88&amp;srpt=PEST_CONTROL_DEVICE&amp;th=1) baited with peanut butter but it hasn't sprang a single time.\n\nThe mice and tiny and very nimble, honestly the one I saw was the size of a big roach. I feel like the mouse doesn't probably even spring the trap since its so tiny and light. I am not sure how many there are, so far I have only seen one but I'm expecting worse. I can hear them late at night under my floorboards squeaking and moving. I've began duct taping every single corner of my room just incase they get in from there.\n\nAnyways what should I do if they get in my room? Get more sensitive traps or just buy poison and spread it across the whole room/under floor boards? Is the poison dangerous? I don't really like the idea of poison grains scatter all of over my room. I don't think the smell of mice dying under the boards will be that bad since they are small, right?" ]

[ "- store all of your food in air-tight containers\n\n- seal off your garbage with a lid and dont wait to empty until it gets full\n\n- Be extra clean\n\n- mice can fit into openings the size of a dime. seal off any hole you see inside and outside with caulking.\n\n- Make sure traps are against and parallel to walls and in darker locations where mice will run into them; make sure the bait is something they actually like – they don’t really like cheese and rather prefer things like bacon, jelly beans, and peanut butter\n\n- be sure to use gloves – like ones you might use for washing dishes, for example – while setting traps, because mice can detect your scent and might avoid the traps for fear of it being, you know, a trap.\n\n- If that doesnt work, call a professional. Mice can bread rapidly. like 6-7 babies every 21 days.", "buy a 5 gallon bucket, wire hanger, can of pop, and peanut butter. drink the pop and drill through the centre of the top & bottom carefully. snip & \"thread\" wire hanger through pop can such that you can affix it to the bucket somehow without it being likely to fall over. fill bucket with water. smear peanut butter continuously around pop can, enough that it's good bait. affix hanger to bucket. fasten ramp that leads to to about an inch or two before peanut butter-smeared pop can. leave in high-traffic area overnight. you'll wake up to drowned mice corpses.", "I used humane traps once and the only thing that worked was reeses cups. No joke. Peanut butter didn't work. Cheese didn't work. But the cups got them straight away.", "Tie dental floss to the mouse trap trigger then smear it with peanut butter. They’ll pull on that dental floss and trip it.", "Have you ever had a problem with small mice? This is a [guide](https://villpace.com/why-do-mice-run-in-circles/) that will help you get rid of them and prevent them from coming back.", "Electric traps are VERY effective and probably the most humane way to kill rodents. I bait mine with a strong aromatic Parmesan cheese. The initial cost is a bit high (about $50) but it can be reused hundreds of times.", "Do NOT poison them! Two reasons: First you'll end up with dead rotting animals in some crevice in your house that you can never locate. Second, dead mice become food of scavengers, and they, in turn get poisoned. \n\nIf you hire an exterminator and their plan is to use poison, find a new exterminator.", "An exterminator told me that mice only travel about 6 feet from their nest so set multiple traps in various locations" ]

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[ "How do I increase my retention on TV shows and movies I have watched? Inspired by this [LPT request](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4pfyez/lpt_request_how_do_i_increase_my_retention_of_the/).\n\nI love watching movies and TV shows like anyone else but I notice after a short while (6 months) I often forget any part of a movie or TV shows. I notice this often when somebody quotes something or says something about an older movie and people like my wife can recall something in a movie that is 10 years old that she has seen once or twice. But for me, I could have seen the movie a week ago and if I try to quote something from the movie I struggle to remember any to quote. I feel like I have memory loss and it's annoying. ", "How do I increase my retention on TV shows and movies I have watched? Inspired by this [LPT request](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4pfyez/lpt_request_how_do_i_increase_my_retention_of_the/).\n\nI love watching movies and TV shows like anyone else but I notice after a short while (6 months) I often forget any part of a movie or TV shows. I notice this often when somebody quotes something or says something about an older movie and people like my wife can recall something in a movie that is 10 years old that she has seen once or twice. But for me, I could have seen the movie a week ago and if I try to quote something from the movie I struggle to remember any to quote. I feel like I have memory loss and it's annoying. ", "How do I increase my retention on TV shows and movies I have watched? Inspired by this [LPT request](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4pfyez/lpt_request_how_do_i_increase_my_retention_of_the/).\n\nI love watching movies and TV shows like anyone else but I notice after a short while (6 months) I often forget any part of a movie or TV shows. I notice this often when somebody quotes something or says something about an older movie and people like my wife can recall something in a movie that is 10 years old that she has seen once or twice. But for me, I could have seen the movie a week ago and if I try to quote something from the movie I struggle to remember any to quote. I feel like I have memory loss and it's annoying. ", "How do I increase my retention on TV shows and movies I have watched? Inspired by this [LPT request](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4pfyez/lpt_request_how_do_i_increase_my_retention_of_the/).\n\nI love watching movies and TV shows like anyone else but I notice after a short while (6 months) I often forget any part of a movie or TV shows. I notice this often when somebody quotes something or says something about an older movie and people like my wife can recall something in a movie that is 10 years old that she has seen once or twice. But for me, I could have seen the movie a week ago and if I try to quote something from the movie I struggle to remember any to quote. I feel like I have memory loss and it's annoying. ", "How do I increase my retention on TV shows and movies I have watched? Inspired by this [LPT request](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4pfyez/lpt_request_how_do_i_increase_my_retention_of_the/).\n\nI love watching movies and TV shows like anyone else but I notice after a short while (6 months) I often forget any part of a movie or TV shows. I notice this often when somebody quotes something or says something about an older movie and people like my wife can recall something in a movie that is 10 years old that she has seen once or twice. But for me, I could have seen the movie a week ago and if I try to quote something from the movie I struggle to remember any to quote. I feel like I have memory loss and it's annoying. " ]

[ "You may have memory loss, or you may just not have as good of a memory as you wife. Actually, there isn't really just \"good\" and \"bad\" memories, we tend to be better/worse at remembering certain kinds of things. \n\nSome people can easily whistle or hum a whole song after hearing it once, but forget your name 2 minutes after you're introduced.", "A few hours/ the day after you watch the movie, go on iMDB and look at the synopsis, trivia, and maybe even bloopers. That way, you'll not only remember the movie better, but look like you noticed the really fine details too. \n\nDoesn't really work for a TV show though, sorry.", "Try discussing the movie/show a bit right after, and also the next day. Often the problem is that you're not moving things from short term memory into long term memory.", "I'm much better at remembering old things than new sometimes I write notes and forget where I put them. ", "You don't remember because it doesn't really matter. Watched every episode of Breaking Bad and can't remember any of the characters names. Conversely, I've remembered my wife's phone number since the day she gave me them digits. If you're seriously worried about memory see a doctor. " ]

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[ "How Do i stop flinching?\" I flinch a lot when I am outside in public.When I am walking and a person is infront of me, if that person turns around in order to look somewhere, my eyes would react to them and I would flinch/ or blink.This leads to a lot of awkward situations with strangers. It sucks man, a person can't be in my line of sight because my eyes overreact to their movement.\n\nAnything I can do ?\nThanks.", "How Do i stop flinching?\" I flinch a lot when I am outside in public.When I am walking and a person is infront of me, if that person turns around in order to look somewhere, my eyes would react to them and I would flinch/ or blink.This leads to a lot of awkward situations with strangers. It sucks man, a person can't be in my line of sight because my eyes overreact to their movement.\n\nAnything I can do ?\nThanks.", "How Do i stop flinching?\" I flinch a lot when I am outside in public.When I am walking and a person is infront of me, if that person turns around in order to look somewhere, my eyes would react to them and I would flinch/ or blink.This leads to a lot of awkward situations with strangers. It sucks man, a person can't be in my line of sight because my eyes overreact to their movement.\n\nAnything I can do ?\nThanks.", "How Do i stop flinching?\" I flinch a lot when I am outside in public.When I am walking and a person is infront of me, if that person turns around in order to look somewhere, my eyes would react to them and I would flinch/ or blink.This leads to a lot of awkward situations with strangers. It sucks man, a person can't be in my line of sight because my eyes overreact to their movement.\n\nAnything I can do ?\nThanks.", "How Do i stop flinching?\" I flinch a lot when I am outside in public.When I am walking and a person is infront of me, if that person turns around in order to look somewhere, my eyes would react to them and I would flinch/ or blink.This leads to a lot of awkward situations with strangers. It sucks man, a person can't be in my line of sight because my eyes overreact to their movement.\n\nAnything I can do ?\nThanks." ]

[ "There's nothing wrong with this it just means your more alert then most of us. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise ", "That sounds serious. Are you really young? I know a lot of young boys do this.\n\nIf you are an adult, you may want to talk to a therapist.", "You're fine, just a little nervous. I've read your replies in this thread, and all you need is a little more self-confidence. Martial arts would do you wonders (and no, martial arts do not teach you how to fight, they teach you discipline).", "There are buddhist monks that have trained themselves not to flinch. Basically, what you do is anytime you flinch, take a few deep breaths. The idea is to program your body to relax when you flinch, which is basically your body tensing up. If you persist in training your body to relax everytime you flinch, soon enough your body will actually relax instead of tensing up.", "Stand with your face about a foot above a water basin and slap the surface over and over so it splashes into your face. Practice keeping your eyes open and face in the same spot.\nAlso breathing exercises and m" ]

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[ "Best way to butter waffles Hi, I have always wondered the best way to butter waffles, or to put any spread that will be quick, my roommate has a couple kids and I am up before him so I will make waffles for them and always find spreading the butter on to be a pain. I have used spray butter and melted butter but I don't usually like the bubbly mess out of the microwave and with spray butter it just seems unnatural.", "Best way to butter waffles Hi, I have always wondered the best way to butter waffles, or to put any spread that will be quick, my roommate has a couple kids and I am up before him so I will make waffles for them and always find spreading the butter on to be a pain. I have used spray butter and melted butter but I don't usually like the bubbly mess out of the microwave and with spray butter it just seems unnatural.", "Best way to butter waffles Hi, I have always wondered the best way to butter waffles, or to put any spread that will be quick, my roommate has a couple kids and I am up before him so I will make waffles for them and always find spreading the butter on to be a pain. I have used spray butter and melted butter but I don't usually like the bubbly mess out of the microwave and with spray butter it just seems unnatural." ]

[ "cold stick of butter. Peel back wrapper. Butter is now an eraser and the waffle is that time you wrote \"Fuck You Mrs. Blanch\" on your 7th grade English exam.", "Waffle batter should have a generous amount of melted butter in it so it shouldn't be necessary. Although I add some butter to the maple syrup (real maple syrup not some flavoured crap) which i've already heated up a little in a saucepan.\n\nLPT: Warm maple syrup in a saucepan and add some butter for that extra richness. ", "I have always put the butter on the plate first, then when I put the warm waffle on top of it, it melts the butter evenly and it will spread through the plate. " ]

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[ "How to bridge the gap between acquaintance to close friend I'm always awkward when I try to get to know people on a deeper level.", "How to bridge the gap between acquaintance to close friend I'm always awkward when I try to get to know people on a deeper level." ]

[ "There's no golden way. \n\nTry to find something that's personal to connect with, something that's close to the both of you, parents, family, passions, hobbies.\n\nPut yourself out there and see who responds, if no one does perhaps it's your friends, maybe they're not looking for closeness, or maybe you're approaching it from the the wrong way. \n\nIt's hard, and it takes confidence to open yourself up, but chances are, people will turtle in the exact some way; they won't open up unless you do. \n\nIf confidence is lacking, take baby steps. No one cares if you make a minor mess up, and even if they do, laugh at yourself, and build on from there. It's going to take time, but I assure it, time well spent.", "I've found the best way to accelerate a friendship is to be authentic and genuine. It also helps to show excitement when uncovering common interests. That demonstrates to the other person that you not only have a common interest, but that you're actually happy you share it specifically with them. Invest time in getting to know them. It doesn't require opening yourself up to all your secrets or vulnerabilities immediately. That will come over time as trust is built." ]

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[ "how can I stop a side stitch? I tried breathing deeply and staying hydrated but nothing seems to work.", "how can I stop a side stitch? I tried breathing deeply and staying hydrated but nothing seems to work.", "how can I stop a side stitch? I tried breathing deeply and staying hydrated but nothing seems to work.", "how can I stop a side stitch? I tried breathing deeply and staying hydrated but nothing seems to work.", "how can I stop a side stitch? I tried breathing deeply and staying hydrated but nothing seems to work." ]

[ "If you are talking about running, there are a couple of things. First, avoid eating within an hour of running. Try not to drink too much, either (sometimes the weight of the water can contribute to getting side-stitches). While running, exhale forcefully when the foot on the opposite side of the side stitch hits the grounds and flex your abs a little bit. Also, try stretching your side a little before you start running. Put one arm straight in the air and lean sideways. Most of all, be patient with yourself. I've never been a natural athlete and got really frustrated when I started running. It took me a good while but every day I waited a little longer before I gave in and walked. Good luck!", "Ok, I'm assuming you get this stitch in your side after you run for awhile. Now if this is a real stitch in your side and not a muscle cramp it's due to the build-up of lactic acid in your system from a heavy cardio workout. Basically your body is going into anaerobic mode because you're burning more oxygen than you can take in which builds lactic acid. You must work threw this to build up a tolerance to it. Also deep breathing exercises so you can stay aerobic for longer. The opposite foot breathing crap is stupid. Just try to keep an even breathing pace for as long as possible. When you start to crave air your body is going anaerobic and you need to breath even deeper and try to slow your heart rate down. \n\nI was a mid distance swimmer for my high school and college life. I lived in the lactic acid zone and controlling my breathing was the only thing that would stop that painful stich in my side and shoulder. ", "Long term you want to build up some ab muscles. If you are running finish your runs with a 10 minute ab routine, eventually you won't have this problem. ", "When you're running try exhaling when your opposite foot hits the ground (you'll always get a stitch on the left or right of your ribcage). It takes the pressure off and helped me a lot!", "Regulate your breathing and get into a rhythm, when I got my breathing right during exercise I didn't get stitches any more" ]

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[ "Disinfectant spray for shoes, when to spray? Hey people,\n\nI was wondering. I always spray my shoes after using them. Sometimes, after a workout usually, there's plenty of moisture inside the shoe. Should I spray it right away or let it breathe and only spray when shoes are dry?\n\nP.S.: Extra tips are welcome!\n\nthank you", "Disinfectant spray for shoes, when to spray? Hey people,\n\nI was wondering. I always spray my shoes after using them. Sometimes, after a workout usually, there's plenty of moisture inside the shoe. Should I spray it right away or let it breathe and only spray when shoes are dry?\n\nP.S.: Extra tips are welcome!\n\nthank you", "Disinfectant spray for shoes, when to spray? Hey people,\n\nI was wondering. I always spray my shoes after using them. Sometimes, after a workout usually, there's plenty of moisture inside the shoe. Should I spray it right away or let it breathe and only spray when shoes are dry?\n\nP.S.: Extra tips are welcome!\n\nthank you" ]

[ "I put a little fan that clips onto the shoe rack, just loosen up the laces and pull the tongue out and they dry out fine (remember to take out any insoles or inserts). I also have several pairs of the same shoes/sneakers (foot problems so orthopedic types).\n\nI found that by switching them out daily I don't need to disinfect them. I soak my feet at least 2 times a week, one cup of brown listerine (the blue makes your feet blue), one cup of vinegar, and the warmest water you can tolerate.\n\n30 minutes and then I hit them with a pumice stone and all the callouses and dead skin are gone. Rinse them off with a soapy washcloth and that's it.\n\nAs for spraying them, I've used isopropyl alcohol in my sneakers, avoid using it on leather because it can discolor them.", "I'd let them dry first, then spray. Dry eliminates the spray being \"watered\" down by sweat.\n\nIf that's a thing and I don't really know if it is.", "If you have foot bacterial or fungal issue, do yourself a favor and do not come here for help. That is an actual medical issue and needs to be worked on with a doctor. \n\nYes, getting your clothing dry is a good idea, as is switching shoes. Most people should never need a bacterial spray and it does nothing for fungus. \n\nSee a doctor, determine and enact a plan of action on your issue." ]

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[ "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!", "How to avoid crying I am an extremely sensitive person. I mean, I cry if I think someone ELSE is having a bad day or is embarrassed. This is annoying to me, so I can only imagine how frustrating it is to other people.\n\nThere are plenty of times where this just isn't appropriate at all, and I was wondering if there are any tricks or tips to stop it when I feel the tears rising.\n\nThank you!" ]

[ "Look (eyes only) upwards - this helps to seal your tear ducts and will help prevent you from crying. I couple this with some slow, deep breaths and it usually works like a charm! :) ", "Imagine yourself as a leader of an army. All your soldiers are watching you, you can't let them see you cry or morale will drop, you'll be seen as weak. You have to stay stoic for them, so you can win the war.\nThough, I use this to help with the exact opposite problem (giggling at really inappropriate times)", "Always carry a knife, a cutting board and an onion. When you feel those tears coming, get to choppin' and set the scene. Always a convenient excuse! ", "I know this may not work with everyone, but just try to think of something really cute, funny, or uplifting. Also, if it seems like that won't work, try to inconspicuously bat your eyes a few times. Finally, and probably the least bandage-y solution, maybe just see somebody about this if it's *that* bad; it's not normal to cry like this, and it clearly creates dysfunction and is distressful to you, i.e. it fits the criteria for a (disclaimer: **POTENTIAL**) mental disorder. ", "This is what I do, it doesn't make much sense but it helps me because I also cry a lot. Okay so when I feel the tears about to come in I say to myself (in my head, not aloud), \"hamburger\", at the same time I make my right hand into a fist and pinch my thumb really hard until I cannot stand it. Then my tears stop because I'm focusing on this weird task... This is a really weird method for me and this is how I avoid crying, when it's not appropriate. Maybe try to find a different word since hamburger is kind of silly, but hey it worked for me! ", "I'm the same and being a nurse sometimes I want to cry at work. I take deep breaths and push my tongue against the roof of my mouth sometimes backward and forward. Sounds weird but it works. ", "I have the same problem. It's awful... It makes me feel like people don't take me seriously. Not sure how to fix it but hopefully it helps knowing someone else out here is dealing with it too!", "Why stop crying? It relieves and releases toxins from our body body that have been stored up over time from stress.\n\nBe happy that you're able to cry, some people aren't, and they have to relearn that ability with therapy.", "Try swallowing. I remember my mum telling me that swallowing disrupts the tear ducts or something like that (I'm being super vague I know but I can't really remember why it works). So yeah, just swallow when you feel the weepies coming on :)", "Relax your throat muscles. I never thought about how tense my throat is when I'm about to cry but wow does it have an impact to concisely relax them. I can also get it to work in reverse sometimes when I'm on the verge but can't let it out.\n\nSomeone else suggested swallowing. This is probably related.", "One thing to think about, though, is that gaining a lot of self-control can backfire. With certain abusive people, implacability will fuel their anger so that their actions escalate. They're not trying to be reasonable, they're trying to provoke a response, and they're going to keep going until they do that. You've probably seen this in some parents, some teachers, some playground bullies in your lifetime. Emotionally or physically, the escalation continues until they inflict real damage. ", "I've had some success with these.\n\nFirst, control your breathing. It's the first domino that starts the chain of events. Practice this at home, watch breathing videos, and make it section nature. Anytime you start to feel emotional, you want your immediate reaction to be focusing on your breath.\n\nSecond is to distract yourself from the problem until you've had some adjustment time. I've tried various things like song lyrics, reciting the alphabet, reciting numbers or words in different languages (takes a lot more focus and bonus of learning a language). A lot of sites I've read recommend counting backwards from 10 for strong emotional reactions, so my thought process is doing in it a different language is going to require more of your attention. \n\nThirdly, start being selfish. You need to prioritize your health and issues. Try to think about what you *can* do - what are your next steps? This thought process pushes you away from the problem in its current state into *how are you going to deal with it*?\n\nFor example - \n\nIt sucks that Bob's daughter broke a leg, but what the hell can you do about it? You aren't a doctor or a magical healing wizard. What is getting upset going to accomplish? It doesn't help you, Bob, or his kid. So what can you do? You've encountered a situation you would like to improve. Well, something that make's Bob's kid feel better is about the most positive thing to handle the situation, so maybe you can go to Goodwill and buy her a doll after work.\n\nThrough this thought process you've gone through the process of acknowledging there is a situation, taking a step back from it to separate yourself, and planning a resolution. The key area is to separate yourself. It's not your problem, it's just something you can choose to get involved with *if it makes you happy*.\n\nObviously this process doesn't work for everything. In my own experience, you'll eventually encounter situations you can't separate yourself from, like a negative review at work. But it helps for a significant majority of things in daily life.", "I don't know if this will work for you, but it won't hurt to try: when you're in a stressful situation, promise yourself that you will make time later on to cry, scream, punch the wall, or whatever you have to do to deal with the miserable emotions. Quantify the emotions to get some objectivity (Is this a three on the scale? Or closer to a nine?) Mentally schedule a time to grieve and vent over it. Then, tell yourself that right now is the time that's been allotted to deal with the details of the situation, and that it's necessary to pay attention to gather facts, make important points, and do whatever negotiation and compromise that can be done at this point. You're still in the \"keep emotions under wraps\" phase, and are acting as an executive, using the executive portion of your brain. Later on, you can be an emotional caveman. Not now. Being able to compartmentalize in this way does work for some people. If you're completely lacking control, at least begin to gain some power by doing four-count breathing: Breathe in for four counts, hold it for four counts, exhale for four counts. Typically, after three of these, you'll stop feeling as if you're skating around helplessly on ice, and you'll be able to concentrate on the situation at hand and gain some perspective. ", "I bite the inside of my cheeks. Weird but it works. During that time try to calm yourself down. If I don't, as soon as I release, the tears start flooding.", "I am an easy weeper, too. I think of something sweet or adorable, like the gif of otters chasing a butterfly, or lab puppies in a field of daisies.", "Hold your breath. Breathe out fully. Inhale fully and hold again.\nFocus on something other than the subject of your emotion. Stare at a spot on the floor, a doorknob... anything.\n\nRemember it is good to be empathic. It is better sometimes to let it out.", "Breath control and a little mental discipline. If you control your breathing, you find you have more control of yourself and your emotions. Deep, calm breaths. You can even get this down so that others around you wont even notice. \n\n\nSecondly, you have a job to do. Focus on the job at hand. If someone is having a rough day, then theres no time to cry. Your job is to make this person feel better. To be a rock for them to hold onto for a time. Being strong for others is often a matter of appearances more than actually feeling it. \n\n\nNow... don't do what I did and stop crying altogether. That's a good road to suicide. You gotta release the stress. You have to let yourself feel the emotions. Gotta get it out of the tanks so you have room for more down the road. It's alright to let the tears flow. You just gotta know when it's better to cry so you don't break or keep up appearances so someone else doesn't break. ", "Also, sing in your head. If things are just too bad to pay attention to, then just start silently performing. . .\"From the halls of Montezuma. . . .\" Something complicated, where you must remember all the words and get it right. No outward clue what's going on, you could be a guard at Buckingham Palace for all anyone can tell.", "Seek a competent psycho therapist to assist you with your extreme sensitivity\nas it appears dysfunctional and is likely related to your family of origin dysfunction." ]

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[ "What is the most effective way to cope with failure? There's obviously a lot of generic stuff on the internet about what to do when you fail, but none of it seems to help me. What do you do when you thought you should've succeeded, yet you still somehow manage to mess it up?", "What is the most effective way to cope with failure? There's obviously a lot of generic stuff on the internet about what to do when you fail, but none of it seems to help me. What do you do when you thought you should've succeeded, yet you still somehow manage to mess it up?", "What is the most effective way to cope with failure? There's obviously a lot of generic stuff on the internet about what to do when you fail, but none of it seems to help me. What do you do when you thought you should've succeeded, yet you still somehow manage to mess it up?", "What is the most effective way to cope with failure? There's obviously a lot of generic stuff on the internet about what to do when you fail, but none of it seems to help me. What do you do when you thought you should've succeeded, yet you still somehow manage to mess it up?", "What is the most effective way to cope with failure? There's obviously a lot of generic stuff on the internet about what to do when you fail, but none of it seems to help me. What do you do when you thought you should've succeeded, yet you still somehow manage to mess it up?", "What is the most effective way to cope with failure? There's obviously a lot of generic stuff on the internet about what to do when you fail, but none of it seems to help me. What do you do when you thought you should've succeeded, yet you still somehow manage to mess it up?", "What is the most effective way to cope with failure? There's obviously a lot of generic stuff on the internet about what to do when you fail, but none of it seems to help me. What do you do when you thought you should've succeeded, yet you still somehow manage to mess it up?", "What is the most effective way to cope with failure? There's obviously a lot of generic stuff on the internet about what to do when you fail, but none of it seems to help me. What do you do when you thought you should've succeeded, yet you still somehow manage to mess it up?", "What is the most effective way to cope with failure? There's obviously a lot of generic stuff on the internet about what to do when you fail, but none of it seems to help me. What do you do when you thought you should've succeeded, yet you still somehow manage to mess it up?" ]

[ "figure out what went wrong and why it took so long to go wrong, then figure out how to fail faster the next time around.\n\nFailing just means that route wasn't right, so now you know another way to not make a light bulb.", "The nature of the failure matters a lot. A failed attempt at, say, a DIY task is very different from a botched presentation. In the case of the former, /u/CripzyChiken has the right idea. Don't think of it as a failure at all. You've successfully learned part of how to attack a problem. You've gotten valuable experience and practice. In other words, you did not fail at all.\n\nIn the case of a botched presentation or something... find a shoulder to cry on. Then ask your audience what they didn't like and learn from the experience.", "Don't take it personally. Do an honest and thorough self-evaluation to figure out what you can improve. Forget about it and move on your life.", "try to plan out beforehand. If you're going into a situation where the possibility of failure exists (even if you think you're going to succeed) have a back up plan AND/OR a contingency plan...which for me is always something good. Something like going out to dinner afterwards regardless of the outcome, or planning to catch a movie or buy yourself some kind of treat. Something good to look forward to that will make any outcome more palatable and less like the end/only thing that matters in the world.\n\nAlso, talking (or venting even) to people you're close to helps.", "Taken from Bo Snerdly when he had a New York radio talk show \naround 1995.\n\n**Achieve Anyway**\n\nStep back from the problem, \nSlide to the right or left. \nProceed toward your goal. \n\nTL DR: *Achieve Anyway*\n", "\"Turn every shitty experience into a learning experience so that you can better yourself in the future. If something goes poorly, ask yourself WHY it went poorly. How can you avoid making the same mistake in the future? As Wilson Fisk from the show Daredevil said, \"Every problem is just an opportunity that hasn't presented itself.\" This moves mountains for me. Instead of being embarrassed or ashamed of a terrible experience, I'm happy and thrilled that I have the chance to become a better person as a result of it.\"\n\nMore here: https://www.reddit.com/r/selfimprovement/comments/3cml5o/several_pieces_of_advice_i_have_for_everybody/", "Like others have said, learning from it is key. I read someone or another said, \"an expert is someone who has run out of ways to fail.\" So for me I try to learn from it, and see the funny side of \"wow, how did I not see that coming\" and it's made my life a lot better.", "I think everyone has pretty much said this but once again: realize its a mistake you'll never make again. Every failure is one more lesson you've cemented in your brain that you'll know how to handle in the future. Your hardships make you stronger than the people around you not taking those chances, not having to overcome obstacles because they've stopped moving forward in their lives. You're not worse, you're better.", "\"when you thought you should've succeeded\" \n\nthere's your problem Bruce.\n\nThere's nothing worse than expectation. Expectation is the source of all misery. Be VERY careful about what you expect, both from yourself and others. The universe is random and weird and stuff never happens exactly as you want it to, so stop expecting and you'll be much happier (and more resilient to failure)." ]

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[ "How do i go about making a positive change in my life? Im currently riding a very happy feeling from a trip that i took to visit friends i hadnt seen a long while. It felt so good to just hang out and go have fun for a week in another country. I havent had so many negative thoughts like i’m used to, and im really hoping it was a trip that was life changing and impactful, even if i didnt take notice or it’s something thats worked up some grit inside me to get going with positive changes.\n\nI want to lose weight, get a better job, start to drive and become more independant, and most of all just make sure that i can keep having those happy moments. It’s like being on cloud nine to feel this happy.\n\nMy only issue is, i always want to do those things, and like many people, i say i will, i think i will, but in the end i never do. It’s late at night and i always get these ideas late and end up ditching them.\n\nIs it better to go slow into these things? Work on smaller goals? Set larger goals? I just dont want to go back to see everyone and end up having not accomplished anything and see that they all have done more. I just want to better myself and make them proud of me.\n\nI know i should do it for myself, but the idea of being able to just keep up with them when walking or standing (im pretty slow and cant stand well), or even be able to dress up for a con or drive to visit them is what fuels me. Is this wrong? The only way i see doing anything for myself is losing weight and working out to be more fit and handsome, which feels vain and bad.\n\nThank you for any advice or tips you can spare, i really appreciate them, and i hope this time im able to change my life around.", "How do i go about making a positive change in my life? Im currently riding a very happy feeling from a trip that i took to visit friends i hadnt seen a long while. It felt so good to just hang out and go have fun for a week in another country. I havent had so many negative thoughts like i’m used to, and im really hoping it was a trip that was life changing and impactful, even if i didnt take notice or it’s something thats worked up some grit inside me to get going with positive changes.\n\nI want to lose weight, get a better job, start to drive and become more independant, and most of all just make sure that i can keep having those happy moments. It’s like being on cloud nine to feel this happy.\n\nMy only issue is, i always want to do those things, and like many people, i say i will, i think i will, but in the end i never do. It’s late at night and i always get these ideas late and end up ditching them.\n\nIs it better to go slow into these things? Work on smaller goals? Set larger goals? I just dont want to go back to see everyone and end up having not accomplished anything and see that they all have done more. I just want to better myself and make them proud of me.\n\nI know i should do it for myself, but the idea of being able to just keep up with them when walking or standing (im pretty slow and cant stand well), or even be able to dress up for a con or drive to visit them is what fuels me. Is this wrong? The only way i see doing anything for myself is losing weight and working out to be more fit and handsome, which feels vain and bad.\n\nThank you for any advice or tips you can spare, i really appreciate them, and i hope this time im able to change my life around.", "How do i go about making a positive change in my life? Im currently riding a very happy feeling from a trip that i took to visit friends i hadnt seen a long while. It felt so good to just hang out and go have fun for a week in another country. I havent had so many negative thoughts like i’m used to, and im really hoping it was a trip that was life changing and impactful, even if i didnt take notice or it’s something thats worked up some grit inside me to get going with positive changes.\n\nI want to lose weight, get a better job, start to drive and become more independant, and most of all just make sure that i can keep having those happy moments. It’s like being on cloud nine to feel this happy.\n\nMy only issue is, i always want to do those things, and like many people, i say i will, i think i will, but in the end i never do. It’s late at night and i always get these ideas late and end up ditching them.\n\nIs it better to go slow into these things? Work on smaller goals? Set larger goals? I just dont want to go back to see everyone and end up having not accomplished anything and see that they all have done more. I just want to better myself and make them proud of me.\n\nI know i should do it for myself, but the idea of being able to just keep up with them when walking or standing (im pretty slow and cant stand well), or even be able to dress up for a con or drive to visit them is what fuels me. Is this wrong? The only way i see doing anything for myself is losing weight and working out to be more fit and handsome, which feels vain and bad.\n\nThank you for any advice or tips you can spare, i really appreciate them, and i hope this time im able to change my life around.", "How do i go about making a positive change in my life? Im currently riding a very happy feeling from a trip that i took to visit friends i hadnt seen a long while. It felt so good to just hang out and go have fun for a week in another country. I havent had so many negative thoughts like i’m used to, and im really hoping it was a trip that was life changing and impactful, even if i didnt take notice or it’s something thats worked up some grit inside me to get going with positive changes.\n\nI want to lose weight, get a better job, start to drive and become more independant, and most of all just make sure that i can keep having those happy moments. It’s like being on cloud nine to feel this happy.\n\nMy only issue is, i always want to do those things, and like many people, i say i will, i think i will, but in the end i never do. It’s late at night and i always get these ideas late and end up ditching them.\n\nIs it better to go slow into these things? Work on smaller goals? Set larger goals? I just dont want to go back to see everyone and end up having not accomplished anything and see that they all have done more. I just want to better myself and make them proud of me.\n\nI know i should do it for myself, but the idea of being able to just keep up with them when walking or standing (im pretty slow and cant stand well), or even be able to dress up for a con or drive to visit them is what fuels me. Is this wrong? The only way i see doing anything for myself is losing weight and working out to be more fit and handsome, which feels vain and bad.\n\nThank you for any advice or tips you can spare, i really appreciate them, and i hope this time im able to change my life around.", "How do i go about making a positive change in my life? Im currently riding a very happy feeling from a trip that i took to visit friends i hadnt seen a long while. It felt so good to just hang out and go have fun for a week in another country. I havent had so many negative thoughts like i’m used to, and im really hoping it was a trip that was life changing and impactful, even if i didnt take notice or it’s something thats worked up some grit inside me to get going with positive changes.\n\nI want to lose weight, get a better job, start to drive and become more independant, and most of all just make sure that i can keep having those happy moments. It’s like being on cloud nine to feel this happy.\n\nMy only issue is, i always want to do those things, and like many people, i say i will, i think i will, but in the end i never do. It’s late at night and i always get these ideas late and end up ditching them.\n\nIs it better to go slow into these things? Work on smaller goals? Set larger goals? I just dont want to go back to see everyone and end up having not accomplished anything and see that they all have done more. I just want to better myself and make them proud of me.\n\nI know i should do it for myself, but the idea of being able to just keep up with them when walking or standing (im pretty slow and cant stand well), or even be able to dress up for a con or drive to visit them is what fuels me. Is this wrong? The only way i see doing anything for myself is losing weight and working out to be more fit and handsome, which feels vain and bad.\n\nThank you for any advice or tips you can spare, i really appreciate them, and i hope this time im able to change my life around." ]

[ "[50 Cent would tell you to make a vision board](https://www.gq.com/story/50-cent), and in all seriousness I kind of agree.\n\nI recommend breaking the problem down into smaller parts, listing off the theaters of your human experience, like “Finances”, “Career”, “Family and Relationships”, Health and Fitness”, etc.\n\nThink about where you want to see these things in steady state — you mentioned losing weight… what is a target long-term, and what is reasonable in the short term? What do you need to start-off? Arguably a way to measure progress; do you own a scale? Next what are the elements that are putting you where you are today? Finally, how do you structure your life for success?\n\nAll of our unique experiences produce orbits, with our *self* as the center of gravity. Making real change takes time and sustained effort against the gravity to go back to how things were at day one. Winning little victories, however small, strung together in a row (with an acceptable slip-up here-and-there), is how I’ve always approached this sort of thing.\n\nIt can be depressing, though — which is another dimension you’ll need to fight against. Making real change to yourself oftentimes requires us to reject parts of ourselves that —up until now— we’ve cherished. And letting go of habits/characteristics that we loved about ourselves at some point can trigger a cringe of embarrassment… and so it’s super important to have family and friends that are accepting/supportive of the changes you make and are forgiving of who you once were.\n\nAlbert Einstein considered compounding interest to be the most powerful force in the universe. A 1% improvement each day will compound in a delightful way, but it starts off a little slow.\n\nAnyway good luck.", "Take a look at the book Atomic Changes - it explains how small changes can end with big results. \n\nGood luck!", "Start by keeping hydrated and taking time to feel grateful for what you have.\nThen set a couple of small achievable goals and plan how to meet them. Start today, not tomorrow.", "Make a to do list every day. Break larger goals into small achievable goals. Life’s like a lego set, it takes a lot of small pieces to start seeing the bigger picture.", "Implementing small changes (because they are easier to keep by) will definitely add up overtime ! Try to change your existing habits to integrate more if what you want to do, it's a nice way to help the new changes stick. Celebrate all the small victories.\nWrite down your long term objectives and how that visit made you feel, so you can go back to it when you're loosing momentum.\nDon't forget that action leads to motivation, too." ]

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[ "open ended questions for elderly relatives My grandpa could talk for hours without prompting. But my grandma is pretty quiet. I don't have the best small talk skills myself. What kind of questions can I ask to get to know her better and learn more about her life and wisdom before it's too late? Something that will get more than a one sentence answer.", "open ended questions for elderly relatives My grandpa could talk for hours without prompting. But my grandma is pretty quiet. I don't have the best small talk skills myself. What kind of questions can I ask to get to know her better and learn more about her life and wisdom before it's too late? Something that will get more than a one sentence answer.", "open ended questions for elderly relatives My grandpa could talk for hours without prompting. But my grandma is pretty quiet. I don't have the best small talk skills myself. What kind of questions can I ask to get to know her better and learn more about her life and wisdom before it's too late? Something that will get more than a one sentence answer.", "open ended questions for elderly relatives My grandpa could talk for hours without prompting. But my grandma is pretty quiet. I don't have the best small talk skills myself. What kind of questions can I ask to get to know her better and learn more about her life and wisdom before it's too late? Something that will get more than a one sentence answer.", "open ended questions for elderly relatives My grandpa could talk for hours without prompting. But my grandma is pretty quiet. I don't have the best small talk skills myself. What kind of questions can I ask to get to know her better and learn more about her life and wisdom before it's too late? Something that will get more than a one sentence answer.", "open ended questions for elderly relatives My grandpa could talk for hours without prompting. But my grandma is pretty quiet. I don't have the best small talk skills myself. What kind of questions can I ask to get to know her better and learn more about her life and wisdom before it's too late? Something that will get more than a one sentence answer.", "open ended questions for elderly relatives My grandpa could talk for hours without prompting. But my grandma is pretty quiet. I don't have the best small talk skills myself. What kind of questions can I ask to get to know her better and learn more about her life and wisdom before it's too late? Something that will get more than a one sentence answer.", "open ended questions for elderly relatives My grandpa could talk for hours without prompting. But my grandma is pretty quiet. I don't have the best small talk skills myself. What kind of questions can I ask to get to know her better and learn more about her life and wisdom before it's too late? Something that will get more than a one sentence answer.", "open ended questions for elderly relatives My grandpa could talk for hours without prompting. But my grandma is pretty quiet. I don't have the best small talk skills myself. What kind of questions can I ask to get to know her better and learn more about her life and wisdom before it's too late? Something that will get more than a one sentence answer.", "open ended questions for elderly relatives My grandpa could talk for hours without prompting. But my grandma is pretty quiet. I don't have the best small talk skills myself. What kind of questions can I ask to get to know her better and learn more about her life and wisdom before it's too late? Something that will get more than a one sentence answer.", "open ended questions for elderly relatives My grandpa could talk for hours without prompting. But my grandma is pretty quiet. I don't have the best small talk skills myself. What kind of questions can I ask to get to know her better and learn more about her life and wisdom before it's too late? Something that will get more than a one sentence answer.", "open ended questions for elderly relatives My grandpa could talk for hours without prompting. But my grandma is pretty quiet. I don't have the best small talk skills myself. What kind of questions can I ask to get to know her better and learn more about her life and wisdom before it's too late? Something that will get more than a one sentence answer.", "open ended questions for elderly relatives My grandpa could talk for hours without prompting. But my grandma is pretty quiet. I don't have the best small talk skills myself. What kind of questions can I ask to get to know her better and learn more about her life and wisdom before it's too late? Something that will get more than a one sentence answer.", "open ended questions for elderly relatives My grandpa could talk for hours without prompting. But my grandma is pretty quiet. I don't have the best small talk skills myself. What kind of questions can I ask to get to know her better and learn more about her life and wisdom before it's too late? Something that will get more than a one sentence answer.", "open ended questions for elderly relatives My grandpa could talk for hours without prompting. But my grandma is pretty quiet. I don't have the best small talk skills myself. What kind of questions can I ask to get to know her better and learn more about her life and wisdom before it's too late? Something that will get more than a one sentence answer." ]

[ "Since it's the holidays, you could try something like, \"What were your Christmases like growing up?\" Then continue the conversation from there. Most elderly folk enjoy talking about their youth and what things were like back then to someone who is genuinely interested to learn.", "Ask about their parents and grandparents. It's neat how they're so old, but they're knowledge of people and their stories can go back to the 1800s", "It sounds like she might be closed off about herself. You could ask her questions like \"what would someone from your youth think about the youth today?\", \"how did you find out how to do something before the internet?\" or you could go with opinion based questions \"what kind of movies do you not like?\" \"what was something you learned that stuck with you?\" \"what do you think is overrated?\"", "I'd say to not treat them too differently because they are old. Ask her how her day/week went and share what's happened in yours. Ask what she's been busy with lately or if she's watching anything on TV or visited with her friends. Follow up on things you might have previously spoken on and keep her updated on the important things and people in your life. Once you have a good flow of conversation and hopefully you both feel more comfortable, then maybe ask about her past or for her advice on certain situations.\n\nAlso, what a lovely grandchild you are to ask this!", "Do you remember what color kitchen you had in the 50's, 60's or 70's. \nDo you remember gas rationing, odd/even license plates and waiting in line?\nWhat was it like to travel without seatbelt laws?\nWhat were your favorite pets?\nWhen you think of what \"being home\" means, what does it mean to you?\nDo you remember the first time you ate jello? Campbell's soup? Boxed cake mix? \nDid you can fruit and vegetables?\nDid you have a milk man?\nHave you ever seen a famous person in concert or out and about?\nWhat was it like to fly 30+ years ago?\nDo you remember when polyester was introduced?\nDid you have a crazy neighbor?", "If she’s a cook, ask about utensils or seasonings; an artist, ask about painting brushes or canvases; if you know something of her hobbies, ask specific questions about the tools of the trade, people can be quite passionate about them.", "You can always ask her how she and your gramps met and what they first thought about each other. Seems like old married people always like to talk about that.", "Mate, this is an amazing idea, cannot stress enough how worth while it is, even if she is shy, keep at it, eventually you will get to the topic she will spill the beans! \n\nDo you know how they met? How long they dated for before marriage, any fun stories from the dating period?\n\nGrandma met grandpa at the bus station, he was short for a ticket, got married after 3 bloody months. As for funny story, grandma was from a farmers family... Great grandma would wake up at 4am to do the chores after she was done... It was way too dark... Turned out grandma and grandpa set up an alarm to go off earlier... Hilarious yet so horrible hahaha\n\nGreat grandma was very religious, she would have them pray with her but because of being a farmer she would often doze off... Whenever that happen they would say out loud the end of the prayer so she snaps back and they got out of it earlier.\n\nGrandpa loved to talk about his business, never seen him with instrument but all behold .. he used to play violin...\n\nDo you know much about their lives before they even met?\n\nIt's such an awesome topic to know those things that I would suggest you do what I did and ask about her life from the very beginning and ask about everything hahaha", "It depends on your family, but my Dad lent my Grandpa \"The Color of Law\" and this Christmas he and my grandma told us a lot of their memories about segregation and the Civil Rights Era.", "I think it'd be great to ask her for advice. On anything. Relationships, money, food, whatever.\n\nYou'll get amazing advice and it'd feel much more engaging to her to be able to think through with you. You'll end up learning about each other.", "Do you remember Sputnik? John Glenn orbiting earth? Did you listen on the radio when they landed on the moon?", "Ask what is the greatest invention of your lifetime? \nI was surprised to hear my grandparents answers", "One more thing: if she's been married to a talker for years, she might have just gotten used to being quiet and letting him handle the conversation. You could see what happens if you try to talk to her when Grandpa is not around.", "I can't wait to hear an update on this!\n\nMy 2 cents: focus first on finding clues about what her passions are. What does she do when she's alone? Maybe your Grandpa knows what she was passionate about in her earlier life. \n\nAlso, if she's not always been an introvert, consider that she may be having difficulties around old age that cause her to be reticent. She could be preoccupied with discomfort or pain. She could be having trouble understanding what's going on around her or remembering things that cause her to stay quiet in order to not draw attention to her challenges. Elderly people are understandably cautious about revealing things that might cause them to lose their independence.", "Ask her about her first love. If she starts talking about your grandfather, maybe give her a sly look and say “you never loved anyone before grandpa?“. She existed before she was a mother or grandmother or wife and it might be a nice way to find out more about who she is and was. She may not have thought about that stuff for a long time. You may learn a lot about who she is." ]

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[ "How to mimic accents I used to be fairly good at a few accents, but I've completely lost the skill over the years and any time I try to do an accent after a couple of words it transforms itself into some cockney-irish-pirate nonsense. Are there any resources I can use? ", "How to mimic accents I used to be fairly good at a few accents, but I've completely lost the skill over the years and any time I try to do an accent after a couple of words it transforms itself into some cockney-irish-pirate nonsense. Are there any resources I can use? ", "How to mimic accents I used to be fairly good at a few accents, but I've completely lost the skill over the years and any time I try to do an accent after a couple of words it transforms itself into some cockney-irish-pirate nonsense. Are there any resources I can use? ", "How to mimic accents I used to be fairly good at a few accents, but I've completely lost the skill over the years and any time I try to do an accent after a couple of words it transforms itself into some cockney-irish-pirate nonsense. Are there any resources I can use? " ]

[ "I have a variety of accents in my tool bag that I am fairly good at. I typically pick them up quickly by listening to the accent as much as I can (TV show, interviews, etc...) \n\nThen I start to say key words that are pronounced distinctly different from how they would in my Canadian accent. Next, move on to sentences (compare to the actual accent uttering that sentence). Then new sentences blending different words I have worked on, then all the sudden t basically accessible any time I like. ", "Dont mimic an accent, mimic a specific person with that accent, it's much easier. Also watch tv and movies from foreign countries/regions, preferably tv because its more consistent and you'll have more time to study a specific person. It seems silly and childish but trust me, you can pick up so much by hearing the same person talk over and over and over again. Kiwi is a lot of fun to try, just fyi.", "Accents are usually fairly regular; try to pinpoint differences between your native pronunciation and the one you're mimicking and make a small list of them.\n\nLet's say you want to mimic a Dixie talking. Their vowels sound quite different: *I, my, sky, ride* sound something like *Ah, mah, skah, rahde*... so just generalize this to \"the 'long I' should sound that way\" and pronounce it accordingly.\n\nThen you have NG sounding like N. Are you gettin' it? Another difference. And SN sounding more like DN, if you want to get into serious bidnizz [businesses]. The more of those you get, the more faithful your accent will be\n\nProsody (the \"talking rhythm) is also important. For example, check the way Italians speaking English talk - stressed vowels are longer, non-stressed vowels are shorter. Ma' this gIves you that wOnderful pAttern they Use. (BTW, a good Italian mock accent can be done only using the correct prosody. The rest is fluff.)\n\nAbout resources: **Youtube videos with natives speaking**. You need to know it to mimic it. Also, if you're really serious into this thing, you might as well consider checking Wikipedia to learn bits of Phonetics, at least enough to read the IPA [International Phonetic Alphabet - this stuff is a godsend.]\n\nGood luck :)", "hang out with people with accents\n\nI always practice accents in my spare time and if I'm alongside anyone with an accent then chances are by the end of the day it catches on noticably (especially with rolled R's and hard T's)\n\nand something I did once was invent a character and go up to london for the day in-persona, speaking with a much different accent and a much different personality (though this is a bit extreme for just working on accents, more of a thing for actors). when you get comfortable talking accents in front of people you make real progress, same as languages" ]

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[ "Cutting back on cigarettes I can usually do better for a few days, but then I'll have a really stressful day at work and relapse. My plan is to set a limit and every week reduce it by one. \n\nWhat tricks helped you? I am looking for small practical things to get over the psychology for using cigarettes as a crutch for dealing with a highly stressful work life. ", "Cutting back on cigarettes I can usually do better for a few days, but then I'll have a really stressful day at work and relapse. My plan is to set a limit and every week reduce it by one. \n\nWhat tricks helped you? I am looking for small practical things to get over the psychology for using cigarettes as a crutch for dealing with a highly stressful work life. ", "Cutting back on cigarettes I can usually do better for a few days, but then I'll have a really stressful day at work and relapse. My plan is to set a limit and every week reduce it by one. \n\nWhat tricks helped you? I am looking for small practical things to get over the psychology for using cigarettes as a crutch for dealing with a highly stressful work life. ", "Cutting back on cigarettes I can usually do better for a few days, but then I'll have a really stressful day at work and relapse. My plan is to set a limit and every week reduce it by one. \n\nWhat tricks helped you? I am looking for small practical things to get over the psychology for using cigarettes as a crutch for dealing with a highly stressful work life. ", "Cutting back on cigarettes I can usually do better for a few days, but then I'll have a really stressful day at work and relapse. My plan is to set a limit and every week reduce it by one. \n\nWhat tricks helped you? I am looking for small practical things to get over the psychology for using cigarettes as a crutch for dealing with a highly stressful work life. ", "Cutting back on cigarettes I can usually do better for a few days, but then I'll have a really stressful day at work and relapse. My plan is to set a limit and every week reduce it by one. \n\nWhat tricks helped you? I am looking for small practical things to get over the psychology for using cigarettes as a crutch for dealing with a highly stressful work life. ", "Cutting back on cigarettes I can usually do better for a few days, but then I'll have a really stressful day at work and relapse. My plan is to set a limit and every week reduce it by one. \n\nWhat tricks helped you? I am looking for small practical things to get over the psychology for using cigarettes as a crutch for dealing with a highly stressful work life. ", "Cutting back on cigarettes I can usually do better for a few days, but then I'll have a really stressful day at work and relapse. My plan is to set a limit and every week reduce it by one. \n\nWhat tricks helped you? I am looking for small practical things to get over the psychology for using cigarettes as a crutch for dealing with a highly stressful work life. ", "Cutting back on cigarettes I can usually do better for a few days, but then I'll have a really stressful day at work and relapse. My plan is to set a limit and every week reduce it by one. \n\nWhat tricks helped you? I am looking for small practical things to get over the psychology for using cigarettes as a crutch for dealing with a highly stressful work life. ", "Cutting back on cigarettes I can usually do better for a few days, but then I'll have a really stressful day at work and relapse. My plan is to set a limit and every week reduce it by one. \n\nWhat tricks helped you? I am looking for small practical things to get over the psychology for using cigarettes as a crutch for dealing with a highly stressful work life. " ]

[ "I used the prescription quit smoking drug (can't remember the name). Worked like a charm, after two weeks of taking the pill while gradually reducing your smoking, I just stopped. It's been more than a year since I quit. ", "I never could do it by \"cutting back.\" Eventually, I'd always go back to my regular number of smokes per day. I vape now. Plan to stop using the vaporizer in the next few months. After three days of using it, I'd quit smoking altogether after 15 years. So glad I did. Cheaper; no cigarette stink. I'm still a nicotine addict...But one thing at a time, man.", "I quit about 9 years ago, it was easy and i lived(and still do) with a smoker who smokes indoors. It took about two weeks to know for sure that i would never smoke again. There is one real secret to quit smoking, you have to want to quit. Everything else is just advice, and typically bad advice at that. A smoker thinks of quitting like they are holding their breathe to drown the nicotine addiction. This is why smokers make the mistake of quitting cold turkey, usually by forgoing the first cigarette new years day, when nicotine cravings have already built up and your hungover. There is more to smoking than just nicotine, but all of the rewards of smoking comes from the nicotine. what worked for me, I transferred the nicotine reward away from the smoking habbit with nicotine gum and then transferred the gum habit away from the nicotine gum to regular gum. I told myself, if i have too, i could go back to the nicotine gum but never smoking. This worked for me and I didn't have the cravings associated with quitting cold turkey. I had never really tried to quit beyond try to cold turkey first thing in the morning, which i usually couldn't make it to work empty handed. ", "E cigs are pretty great for quitting or cutting back, as long as you don't buy the crap from gas stations", "Keep busy. For me it was mostly physical nicotine addiction, so it was really just sweating it out until it didn't bother me. I also used patches, but I didn't follow the instructions. Instead, I took a path and wore it until it wasn't giving me any relief (usually 2-3 days) then put on another one. Did this for about a month and then just quit. No need to buy a whole set of boxes.", "Just stopped buying them, and made it so my daily routine made it more difficult to get them. It was uncomfortable for about a week and then it got easier.", "Increase your activity in the morning. It seems hard when you have a busy schedule, but quitting IS hard and takes dedication. Something about getting some good cardio in makes smoking less appealing for the rest of the day. + If you're not a first-thing-in-the-morning smoker, it's pretty simple to just take a walk before you actually wake up. It also helped me to drink green tea--not because of the antioxidants, but because it was a ritual to make, let cool, and sip. I highly suggest finding a tea you like just so you have something to put all that weird, extra energy into. It won't replace the urge to smoke entirely, but it could take the place of one or two. ", "I firmly believe, after years of trying to quit/cut back, that the only way to go is cold turkey. Use gum, patch, whatever to transition, but no is a lot easier than not now. Finally quit in '88 at age 39, have the lungs of a non smoker by now, I bet. ", "I had this coworker a while ago who came up with an idea to quit smoking that actually really worked for her - hula hooping. \n\nIt was a physically-involved activity that also kept her mind off the urge to smoke, and it was healthy exercise. On her breaks she'd go out into the parking lot and just start hula-hooping. She got really really good at it.\n", "Be careful with Chantix. ..I have a coworker who's having anxiety and chest pains when he uses it. Check with your Dr to make sure you're not at risk." ]

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[ "How to stop ice build up in your freezer. I have a mini fridge with one main door with the freezer compartment inside.", "How to stop ice build up in your freezer. I have a mini fridge with one main door with the freezer compartment inside." ]

[ "One of the most likely sources is a bad door gasket. If it lets outside moist air into the freezer = ice buildup.\nMost are magnetic. You can test with a dollar bill.\nPut a bill in the door and close it normally. you should have a hard time pulling it out with the door closed on it. if it slides out easily, time for a new gasket. Check www.applianceparts.com.", "once a month take all your food out and put it into an ice chest with some ice. \nUnplug the fridge and take it outside.\nUse a hairdryer to melt ice. DO NOT TRY TO CHIP ICE AWAY WITH A CHISEL OR OTHER HARD OBJECT, you can easily break the plastic walls or pierce the coolant tubes. \nDry everything thoroughly.\nBring it back inside and plug it in. Let it run for a while before putting your food back inside.\n\n(" ]

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Sweaty feet and I wear a number of shoes that require that I go sockless. Would love some tips on preventing the stink or treating the shoe post-stink. " ]

[ "Foot soaks. Seriously. Soak your feet at least a few times a week at the end of your day and scrub them every time you shower. Then just use sprays or powders in your shoes/on your feet to your preference.", "this stuff http://amzn.com/B005ML8J8C\n\nit's more expensive but it's the only thing that really works, and works for good. No need to reapply every time you put your shoes on. (**", "Give the shoes a break for a day or two before wearing again. Leave shoes out in sun or in a window to bake out the funk. Also foot powder.", "$10 Aldo terry cloth insoles, machine washable. I buy a new pair every spring. I can't stand wearing socks when it's warm.", "Rotate your shoes and give them both time and a proper environment in which to dry. \n\nConsult a doc to see if you've got any bacterial or fungal issues contributing to smelly feet. \n\nFoot powders can both help with moisture which is needed for bacterial growth (the stuff that really stinks) and can mask some amount of scent. ", "Borax is the hands down best foot oder and athlete's foot fungus killer I have ever tried. I put a tablespoon or so in each sock about once every 3 months now. It turns funky crusty feet into babies feet in just a few days. For the stinky shoes, make a paste of borax and water, rub it into the insoles, then brush it off after it dries. Amazing stuff and super cheap. 20 Mule Team box of borax is $3.00 or so and lasts a long time. ", "If they are sandals, soak them in 50-50 mix of vinegar and water. Totally removes stink and does not dry out leather.", "I use these [shoe liners](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00FMQ3O8C?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o05_s00) instead of socks. For me this prevents the smell because the liners absorb any sweat. I can normally wear each pair a few times before having to wash them.", "Don't know if it's the most healthy option, but I have been putting deodorant on my feet since middle school, as long as you somewhat consistently do it, you can wear your shoes sock-less all you want and never ruin them! ", "put these into your shoes when you take them off -- they're magic: http://stuffitts.com \nfilled with ceder and whatnot to absorb moisture and smells", "my suggestions (some of which are repeats):\n\n• scrub your feet so there isn't as much callus on them, esp. the heels. (lots of callus -> more surface area due to cracks and layers and dead skin for bacteria) ... use urea cream on feet to help soften calluses & keep them in check\n\n• antiperspirant on feet (you can use a spray) (-> less sweat -> less bacteria)\n\n• thin absorbent shoe inserts like this http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41wHQLPevqL.jpg (idk what brands exactly there are outside of germany) but these are very thin (1-2 mm thick), cheap, disposable, and help feet stay dryer", "Since I can't take my work boots home, I had to rig something to destink them while they sit in the locker. This is what's been working for me: Pour a box of baking soda into 2 socks, tie the top shut, drop one in each boot after I take them off. Shake each boot with the sock ball inside so some powder coats the inside. Store the boots with the sock ball inside. I just have to refill the socks maybe every 6 weeks.", "My wife soaks and scrubs her feet every other day, rotates her shoes, and we've been spraying alcohol in there with a mini squirt bottle to kill whatever bacteria is in there. That's helped a lot.", "I used to sprinkle bicarb soda into my shoes overnight and then tap it to remove when you go to wear again, but it's a bit messy. \n\nAlthough if your feet sweat like mine do (and my hands :|), a longer term solution might be to get botox into your feet. ", "Don't know if this has been said already, but wipe down the inside of your shoes with rubbing alcohol to kill bacteria that can cause odor. Then, sprinkle some baking soda inside your shoes. This will help maintain the cleaner scent and help absorb sweat from your feet (cornstarch and baby powder work well for absorbing sweat too, but feel a bit more noticeable). Hope that helps.", "Colloidal silver spray.\n\nSilver prevents / strongly discourages bacterial and fungal growth.\n\nSilver Ions stick around long term unless they are actively rinsed away. Smelly shoes are usually shoes that are mostly \"closed\" and do not allow much air (or water / etc...) flow while being worn. In these cases, silver is very effective, since it will stay in place and its antimicrobial effects will last longer.\n", "\n1. Mitchum or other deodorant spray on the top and bottom of your feet.\n\n2. FreshBalls creme works well, too.\n\n3. Rotate your shoes so you don't wear them every day and you can give them a day of rest.\n\n4. Give the shoes a good scrubbing (use a curved pot brush) with saddle soap. Do this once in awhile. The saddle soap doesn't harm the shoe.", "wasnt there a LPT about this? Putting something in your shoe overnight? was it a teabag or something?", "the zinc oxide and colloidal silver are good tips, as they are proven stuff. i've said it [before](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1vw6xs/lpt_a_different_way_to_get_the_stink_out_of_your/cewnws7)\n\n>If you want to really get your shoes dry, **i mean, atomically dry**, you can use silica dessicant. If you have socks, you can wear your shoes while the silica is still inside as well. Silica dessicant is non-toxic and rechargeable (apply heat > 120F). Your feet will remain miraculously dry even while wearing them. Get the non-indicating kind (some of the indicators aren't good for you) if you plan on reusing them outside of the tyvek or plastic package they come in (those packets are highly breathable and allow airflow)", "http://www.katadyn.com/en/katadyn-products/products/katadynshopconnect/katadyn-micropur-micropur-forte/micropur-forte-mf-1t-enplczhuru/\n\nWhat stinks in your shoes are bacteria and fungi doing their nasty stuff (same thing goes for your armpits - it's not the sweat that stings but the sweat being processed by the bacteria). Drop two pills into a bucket of water and soak your shoes with the inserts for as long as you feel confident for them no to break apart (I think an hour is enough to have them completely soaked up). Then dry them up *without* rinsing them in clean water. The chlorine and silver ions (completely safe) will stay in the shoe fabric and prevent bacteria and fungi development for a prolonged time. \n\nSource: my friend is a cyclist and after trying every possible commercial shoe refresher product and other home tips he found this to be the only solution that worked for a good number of trainings.", "You can use a crystal deodorant stone on your feet to reduce bacteria that cause odor. It wouldn't leave any residue like an antiperspirant (which you could also use if you want). ", "Put hand sanitizer on your feet when you shower to kill the bacteria which causes the odor. If you shoes stink put baking soda in them over night and dump out before wearing. I wear chucks sockless and this always works for me.", "I used to have the same problem, but now my shoes smell fresh, even after a long day of wear. Here's what I changed:\n\n1) Scrub your feet when you shower. Trickle down cleaning does not work - your feet get nasty, and a little bit of sudsy water isn't enough to clean them. Get in there and scrub those bad boys.\n\n2) If your shoes are leather or suede, a pair of [cedar shoe trees](http://www.amazon.com/Woodlore-Adjustable-Mens-Cedar-Large/dp/B000PEEAOS/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1439133222&sr=8-1&keywords=cedar+shoe+trees) will work wonders. Leave them in whenever you're not wearing your shoes, and your shoes will smell like cedar even after a long day of wear.\n\n3) A pair of [merino no-show socks](http://www.smartwool.com/socks-1/mens-mens-divide-line-socks-9.html) will prevent your shoes from smelling while still giving you the sockless look. Merino wool is especially good at preventing stink, because the bacteria that cause body odor can't grow on it. Smartwool is my preferred brand, and they also make women's no-show merino socks as well.", "I put dryer sheets into my shoes or boots on bad days. I don't know what kind of shoes you wear so I don't know if this is feasible for you but give it a go! As a bonus they also help with frizzy hair", "I may be alone here, but I use a PEET boot drier all night on whatever shoes i've worn that day. When I worked manual labor my boots started lasting Much Much longer. Now with my dress shoes I'm still just in the habit. But if your shoes can't air out and dry between wearings they Will smell.", "I made a video that addresses this exact issue. If you follow the videos instructions you will never have shoe odor problems ever again.\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xeXUhghUOt4", "Cheapest method is a sprinkle of corn starch in the bottom of your shoes. Source: used to do that as a kid.", "Buy the super feminine 'no show' socks. Seriously... They are perfect for Sperrys and your feet won't smell. It's the only real thing I've found to combat the smell ", "Air kills bacteria and sunlight disinfects. Air them out and set them out, if possible, while in direct sunlight daily after use. Also, yes scrub your feet and always wear socks and change socks daily. If it continues it may be a nasty infection that requires medication to remedy and talking to your doctor earlier rather than later is the way to go.", "After a long day of sweat walking, go home put on thick tube socks and wear the shoes for about an hour. That should soak up most of the musk. \n\nThe shoes will eventually smell and you will have to then burn them.", "wash your feet with Betadine. it takes 1 minute to rub it on and wash it off. do it every day until your feet start to stay fresh longer. then, use every time your feet have had a hard day. or just to stave off any problems. works like a charm.", "get athletes foot anti fungal medication and a pumice stone. wash feet twice daily, use pumice stone to remove skin, apply ointment. do this for two weeks\n\nevery other piece of advice in this thread is terrible and only works to mask odor rather than actually doing something about it.", "dude- the answer- is those rock-mineral deodorants which are made without an antiperspirant. freaking amazing. I live in the middle east working for an American company and its hot as hell here, you cant even imagine. these things work fabulous. I get mine at whole foods or any health food store. they arent available where I live and work so I brought some with me and had more shipped to me by family members. best thing is one will last about three months before you use it up. \"Thai Cystal\" is one brand. Google it, youll see. use it on your feet thoroughly when you exit the shower. I never have a problem now. I can go all day with now worries. I go on bike rides here in the desert, freaking hot, and at the the end of the day no horrible odor at all-even my friends agree(not just me) good luck.", "dont wear them multiple days in a row. wash your feet before you put them on. throw out any shoes that seem impossible to make not smell ( the bacteria colonies are too established and can easily cycle between states of activity and dormancy. A last ditch effort would be to use the special enzyme spray that de-smells cat piss. I dont think it would be great to keep your feet constantly in that chemical though.", "Wear Dr. Scholl's insoles. Whenever the shoes get stinky, just take the insoles out and throw them in the wash. Stinky smell gone! ", "Use a powder. Put it on your feet before you put your shoes on. They have Oder eliminators that are specifically made for this. I use it even when I wear socks. ", "They make shoe inserts that absorb and get rid of smells. They do the same thing socks do but they just sit in your shoe ", "Theres alot of things you can do to help wash your shoes. Footpowder and shoe powder. Footsoaks. Clean your feet extra good in the shower and try not to wear them unless you actually need them ", "Stink is caused by bacteria, so figure out how to kill/neutralize the bacteria.\n\nI have stuck running shoes in the freezer overnight and that helped kill some of the funk. ", "Put your stinky shoes in a plastic bag and freeze over night, this will kill the bacteria\nTo stop your feet smelling either rub hand sanitiser or deodorant on them", "Put antiperspirant (not deodorant) on your feet, roll or spray, doesn't matter. Feet stink due to sweat. Antiperspirant stops sweat by clogging the pores. Stop the sweat and you can stop the funk.", "On sandals and boat shoes, dampen a paper towel with rubbing alcohol and give the insoles a good wipe each time you wear them. Use odor eater insoles in dressier shoes, and remove them to air out after each wearing.", "Nilodor, it's marketed for pet smells but it works for any foul smell. A couple drops on a wet paper towel and wipe whatever down. It's pet safe too. \n\nUsed it on my uncles dog the other week after it rolled in a dead salmon, and I let it share the tent with me. If it works for that, it should work for your smelly shoes. ", "If you're a dude, wear socks. Seriously bro, unless they're crocs (why?) or sandals (your feet shouldn't smell after wearing sandals), you should just wear socks.\n\nSo I'm assuming you're female.\n\nSwitch shoes often. Never wear the same pair two days in a row. If you sit at a desk, keep a pair of flip flops or slippers on the floor behind your desk and swap out while you're seated. Buy and use odor-eater insoles (added bonus: They make your shoes more comfortable). Buy foot powder and sprinkle it inside of your shoes before you put them on (this will help absorb smells and sweat while killing bacteria). Baby powder is another effective option, plus it smells like baby powder. Clean and clip your toenails regularly; lots of the smelliest foot things are under there.", "If they're already stinky i might recommend freezing them. I know it sounds unorthodox but it'll do wonders as far as killing any bacteria or fungi that may be in there. ", "I'm a landscaper and working in 100 degree heat means I sweat like crazy. My shoes smell horrible at the end of the day. I invested $5 a few months ago in a pair of little odor control balls. They are astonishing. The smell kind of like powdered laundry detergent and left in overnight my shoes don't stink at all. ", "I wear toe shoes - they are machine washable. Some canvas shoes can be washed as well, full reset on the nasty stink. ", "I use salt water spray. I HIGHLY suggest it... Something like Thai Crystal. All my shoes have cork footbeds, those can get really smelly. I spray my feet, put on the shoes, and have no issue. If I've done a lot of walking or sweat a lot, I'll spray the footbeds when I take them off. All my shoes are 3-5 years old, and they all smell completely neutral -- no odor whatsoever.\n\nI also use the spray as my regular deodorant. I works really well and I appreciate how simple it is. The only thing to watch out for is when it gets cold, the salt crystalizes and can get stopped up in the pump.", "I rub talcum powder on my feet. The odour is from the moisture that allows bacteria to flourish; reduce the moisture and you reduce the chance of odour. As for the odour now present in your shoes, wipe the insides down with a disinfectant. ", "I have minimalist running shoes, climbing shoes, and loafers. Here is what I've done for the past 15 years:\n\n1. Scrub feet during every shower.\nThis includes between toes and under nails.\n\n2. If feet sweat or shoes got wet, disassemble and allow to dry and air out. If they already smell a bit toss them in the clothes washer (or a laundry mat one if you're worried about damage or smell to your own - yup sorry guys but I'm practical like that)\n\n3. Feet weren't made for shoes, shoes were made for feet, so let your feet have some freedom during the day.\n\n4. If I wear a pair of stinky shoes (with socks on) or my feet smell after being barefoot (with or without sandals) I always wash them before putting on a sockless shoe.\n\n\nNote 1: my male aroma can be pretty potent but I found washing my armpits like I wash my feet eliminates the need to wear deodorant\n\nNote 2: the only stinky pair of shoes I have are a pair of running shoes that got soaked in the Hudson River (NY, USA), a notoriously dirty river. I could never fully wash the smell out of them.\n\nNote 3: you'll note that what I've done to prevent foot aromas is a combination of the advices given in this thread. So let my response be further evidence to their claims.\n\nNote 4: !! My sister and I notice our feet have stayed nicer than those in our family who don't put this effort in (the others get yellowed, cracked nails, really gross)", "Head over to amazon to grab [some of these fuckers](http://www.amazon.com/Ralph-Lauren-3-Pack-No-Show-Dress/dp/B00BGCKKYW/). They more no-show than any other \"no-show\" socks. They fit [kinda like these](http://www.amazon.com/Calvin-Klein-Mens-Liner-Socks/dp/B000VHXTEQ?) on your feet. \n\n\nAnd then buy a [nice sharp knife](http://www.amazon.com/Unlimited-Wares-Tactical-Assisted-4-5-Inch/dp/B00OJMT9E8/), to defend against anyone who dares call your socks \"woman socks.\"", "Gold bond medicated foot powder on your feet. Then when you are done wearing them for the day place the shoes in the freezer to kill the bacteria. Also another thing that helps is soaking your feet the day before in Epsom salt or an exfoliant. ", "First, never wear the same pair of shoes two days in a row. Give them time to air out. Second, take old thin socks (NO HOLES) and fill them with baking soda. Tie the ends in a knot and sprinkle the outside liberally with whatever essential oil you like the smell of (I rotate between lavender, peppermint, and tea tree). Keep your baking soda-stuffed socks in the shoes when you aren't wearing them. Refresh the essential oil as needed (usually no more than one every six weeks). Be sure to knock out any excess baking soda that might accumulate in your shoes before putting them back on. This won't prevent sweating, but definitely cuts out the odor of even the stinkiest shoes.", "Buy a spray bottle of hydrogen peroxide (or put hydrogen peroxide in a spray bottle) and spray the insides of your shoes after each wear. \n\nSuper fast, harmless, and works. I keep a bottle at work for my office shoes in the winter. ", "Leave baking soda in them overnight and shake it out in the morning. Cheap and easy. Also works for smelly garbage cans, dishwashers, and \"my fridge has this weird funk\" stink.", "I put kitty litter in pantyhose and place it in my shoes until i need yo use them. Helps keep them dry and kills most of the smell. Other than that, wash yo feet foo!", "Don't wear shoes without socks you millennial freak. I hate that new trend and will NEVER abide by it. Socks 4 Life!" ]

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[ " How to control hayfever allergies. I have tried all sorts of meds, is there any other ways of keeping them in check?", " How to control hayfever allergies. I have tried all sorts of meds, is there any other ways of keeping them in check?" ]

[ "You could see an allergist and see if they could desensitize you to the specific allergy you have - might be expensive though.", "Rub a little bit of Vaseline around your nose and eyes. It catches the pollen before it causes irritation. Also, showering before bed to wash away the pollen so that it is not driving you mental when you're trying to sleep." ]

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[ "How to ask somebody to leave your house, without making it look awkward. Hi when friends come round, I want them to go after a while - how do I ask them to leave without saying \"can you go thanks\" and looking like a jackass\n\nThanks", "How to ask somebody to leave your house, without making it look awkward. Hi when friends come round, I want them to go after a while - how do I ask them to leave without saying \"can you go thanks\" and looking like a jackass\n\nThanks", "How to ask somebody to leave your house, without making it look awkward. Hi when friends come round, I want them to go after a while - how do I ask them to leave without saying \"can you go thanks\" and looking like a jackass\n\nThanks", "How to ask somebody to leave your house, without making it look awkward. Hi when friends come round, I want them to go after a while - how do I ask them to leave without saying \"can you go thanks\" and looking like a jackass\n\nThanks", "How to ask somebody to leave your house, without making it look awkward. Hi when friends come round, I want them to go after a while - how do I ask them to leave without saying \"can you go thanks\" and looking like a jackass\n\nThanks", "How to ask somebody to leave your house, without making it look awkward. Hi when friends come round, I want them to go after a while - how do I ask them to leave without saying \"can you go thanks\" and looking like a jackass\n\nThanks", "How to ask somebody to leave your house, without making it look awkward. Hi when friends come round, I want them to go after a while - how do I ask them to leave without saying \"can you go thanks\" and looking like a jackass\n\nThanks", "How to ask somebody to leave your house, without making it look awkward. Hi when friends come round, I want them to go after a while - how do I ask them to leave without saying \"can you go thanks\" and looking like a jackass\n\nThanks", "How to ask somebody to leave your house, without making it look awkward. Hi when friends come round, I want them to go after a while - how do I ask them to leave without saying \"can you go thanks\" and looking like a jackass\n\nThanks", "How to ask somebody to leave your house, without making it look awkward. Hi when friends come round, I want them to go after a while - how do I ask them to leave without saying \"can you go thanks\" and looking like a jackass\n\nThanks", "How to ask somebody to leave your house, without making it look awkward. Hi when friends come round, I want them to go after a while - how do I ask them to leave without saying \"can you go thanks\" and looking like a jackass\n\nThanks", "How to ask somebody to leave your house, without making it look awkward. Hi when friends come round, I want them to go after a while - how do I ask them to leave without saying \"can you go thanks\" and looking like a jackass\n\nThanks" ]

[ "It's normally done by dropping hints or saying things that 'imply' its time for them to go. Like \"I need to start heading for bed soon\" or \"We better wrap this up\" or \"this has been fun, lets do it again sometime\"", "Casually mention something you need to get done today or somewhere you need to be soon.\n\n\"Wow, is it 4 already? I've gotta get to ______ around 5...\"\n\n\"This is fun, I really need to [pay taxes/bathe my dog/lance my boil] though before it gets too much later.\"", "When you make the invite you tell them some form of \"I have plans in the morning so I can't stay up super late, but Still come over, it will be fun.\" Then when the times comes where you want them out you tell them sorry but you have to get some sleep. If they don't get up and get ready to leave you start getting ready for bed. If they can't take those \"hints\" you need different friends who understand you.", "I forget where I heard of an olde timey French custom that Im trying to implement when I throw parties. When I want the party to start winding down I serve fresh orange juice which helps people sober up and politely implies that the drinking is done. \n\nProtip: hide the remaining vodka/tequila and also you shouldnt have remaining vodka tequila its a party dammit", "\"It's been real but I got shit that I need to do... I'll catch up with you guys later on or something.\"", "You can always say some friend asked for a ride or you that have an errand to run. You'd have to leave your house too, though.", "Set an alarm in your phone. when it goes off, say alright \"guys I need to get started on X, so you have to leave\"", "My method: \"The weather is nice, I am tired of sitting home. Let's go for a walk\". And walk in the general direction of the bus stop that will take them home.\n\"See a friend off\" is a polite version of \"Ensure he leaves and doesn't stay\" ", "\"looking awkward\" is totally about perspective though. If someone can't take normal hints to leave, it's basically their own fault when I hit the toilet and take one of those nuclear grade shits. The kind where the whole house will smell for upwards of 45 minutes to an hour afterwards. ", "This comment has been overwritten by an open source script to protect this user&apos;s privacy. \n\n If you would like to do the same, add the browser extension [GreaseMonkey](https://addons.mozilla.org/en-us/firefox/addon/greasemonkey/) to Firefox and add [this open source script](https://greasyfork.org/en/scripts/10380-reddit-overwrite). \n\n Then simply click on your username on Reddit, go to the comments tab, and hit the new OVERWRITE button at the top.", "Offer to help them load stuff in their car or offer to start their car while you put the recycling out or some other excuse to get you outside.", "Or you could grow a set of balls, realize that this is your house and if you want someone to leave you just straight up ask them rather than being a liberal shithead whose afraid if his own shadow. Everyone isn't polite and people better start acting like it. Show your true intentions, if 5 hey don't like it, they shouldn't be in your house in the first place. Grow a set of fucking balls you neck beard fucks. Your now afraid to ask someone to damn leave? Makes me sick. Thank god there isn't a draft going on because all of you pussies wouldn't shoot the enemy with or asking permission. " ]

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[ "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred.", "Getting rid of chronic anger I get angry even over little things like dog-earring my books, mentioning of a prick's name, and religious nuts. It's like I have a lot of hatred." ]

[ "Ok\nremember these all take active effort and a will to change, it's not easy but I'm sure you can do it :)\n\n1. M", "You need to find healthy outlets. Take up boxing or something. But mostly you just need to learn to not let things get to you as much. When you feel the rage boiling, take a deep breath, count to ten, and just tell yourself it's going to be alright. It's tough, but I used to have a lot of anger and now I'm practically a monk... it's hard to piss me off. ", "There are some good posts in here and I'd like to add a little from my personal experience.\n\nMy younger self was a rage-a-holic. I'd get pissed over anything and everything, start fights over stupid shit, yell and intimidate anyone who got in my way. In short, an unbearable prick. My wife didn't like me, my son didn't like me, and I didn't like me.\n\nSo, one day I had an epiphany that I would die a miserable cunt at the age of 40 if I didn't change my ways. I started out with psychology books... helpful but not quiet what I needed. I looked to self help books (Tony Robbins and stuff like that)... once again, I found some good stuff but nothing life changing. Then I happened across some books on Buddhism and that was the \"ah ha\" moment for me. I found that Buddhism's focus on the self (especially the concept of self compassion) was something that I never knew I needed until I read about it. Right now I focus a lot on Stoicisim and a year from now I'll probably move onto existentialism or some other philosophy. I'll Cherry pick what works for me and move onto the next.\n\nA bit long winded, but the point I'm taking my time making is that you have to want to change and you have to go after that change until you find the right combination to make it click for you. Then once you find it you'll have to maintain it. What you focus on is what your life becomes.\n\nFor what it's worth, I was able to save my marriage and family and I'd go so far as to say that were now thriving. My journey from start to my first real break through was about 5 years. Today makes 15 years ago and I still use those tools that I read about back then in my everyday life.\n\nLast thing, the single most important skill you'll want to develop is the ability to detect when you're feeling edgy and removing yourself from the aggregating factors. If I have a rough day at work I come home and play a few non violent video games (Tetris is fantastic) and I play until I feel like I'm not angry. My wife knows that if I'm playing Tetris that she needs to give me a minute to recalibrate before I engage the family. This \"identify emotion and recalibrate\" mechanism is a skill you need to hone and use as often as you possibly can. There will be times you slip, accept it and adjust so you handle it better next time. Recognize your tells when you're angry... Mine is that the back of my neck gets warm and my voice gets a little more bass...then means I'm gearing up for confrontation. I can either redirect or use it for something more constructive. The key is I make the decision before my emotions make it for me.\n\nGood luck friend. Anger is difficult foe to keep down but with practice it can be done.", "Don't live up to your expectations of yourself. By that I mean that if you have a certain reputation, that doesn't mean that you have to react with anger in every given situation. Allow yourself to let things slide a little. \nWas reacting with anger taught to you by watching a parent or other close relative who also has anger issues? Realise that you do not have to be that way. Explosive anger is often just a way of avoiding dealing with a situation. e.g. If every time you are told to tidy your room and explode with rage, eventually they become reluctant to even mention it. But that isn't the best outcome or best way to treat people is it? \nThink about times that you reacted with anger. Is there a better way that you could see yourself handling it? Try and put that into practice next time. \nThe important thing is that you have realised this is a destructive element in your life and that gives you the power to change it. It won't happen overnight, but eventually you will find yourself taking a deep breath before you react, that little delay should allow you to behave differently. Just keep looking within yourself and know that there is a person in there who can handle situations calmly. Then you won't give in to the person who blows up at every little set back. Good luck, it gets easier with age.", " There is a lot in here. But while I don't know your age when I was younger around 16-24 I notice I got angry a lot over little things. I hated it when people mentioned how often it happened ect ect...\n\nEventually I think it was something a crimes said on an unrelated subject(or secretly planned subject) when talking about getting over a breakup they had I asked them how they seemed so happy every day and they told me being happy(or calm in our situation) isn't a choice you make one day and decide its you from now on like some new ears resolution it's a choice you make every day, maybe every hour maybe even every moment during certain times but you know when you made the wrong choice and you decide to make that one less often. \n\nEventually I'm here, I haven't had an anger flare up in ages, I've learned to think about a situation before my heart starts pumping and try to see that shit happened but if you roll with it and move I its just an easier life. Also I would highly highly highly revvomend you listen to [shayne kozycan- instructions for a bad day](http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=sso4h7Gr3Pc) even though it isn't exactly for anger issues I found it very relaxing, and provided a good few lines for those moments where normally I would be thinking about how a lawnmower was made like a piece of shot because it couldn't even handle a stupid piece of lumber I didn't see in the grass I forgot to cut without breaking. \n\nIf all else fails even seeing a (real) professional can help because sometimes without you knowing other factors In day to day life increase stress and therefore anger responses such as high caffeine, low sleep, or some other issue. \n\nIt's great to recognize you want to hangers but that is step 0 towards Doing it and if you treat this like fit people treat going to the gym you are on the track for what was for me a happier life where I enjoyed talking to random people I met again. ", "Realising that it is actually a choice to be angry. But a choice that we often make subconsciously and remain angry. If you can manage to catch yourself you can actually choose not to get mad and stay relaxed. If you only ever do this once in your life, it will be a success.", "I have struggled with an anger problem for most of my life. I thought it was normal to blow up over small things; I thought being angry made me tough. In the last few years I have learned that I am angry because I am in pain and I use anger to mask that pain and prevent anyone else from hurting me. I'm trying to learn to let go of the baggage that I've been carrying, (it's heavy and I'm tired) but it is a long and slow process.\n\nOnly you know if your anger has a similar root, but if it does a good therapist can help you dig it out. Best of luck.", "I grew up with a very emotionally abusive sister, so naturally I decided to get over her shit and ignore her. I think just the fact that I was always yelled at for things that I couldn't control helped me build up my patience. Now I'm very hard to anger, I think it's been at least 2 years since I've shouted at someone.", "Hate to tell u this but there's no easy fix. Lots of good suggestions here...try them, they should help.\n\n\nWorking out, m", "Buddhism worked for me. It gives you tools and guidance on how to think things through and really go deep on what anger does to you. Consistently thinking through my anger and violent actions helped instill a sense of perspective in me. So when I'd get angry those thoughts would flood my mind and calm me down.\n\nSo I'm gonna recommend studying some Buddhism. \"Seeing yourself as you truly are\" was my intro book and it was good. Buddhism focuses on certain character defects more than others and anger is definitely one of em. So if you look you can probably find a whole book on dealing with anger. The book I recommended above has a whole section. Good luck", "An overlooked and easily taken care of symptom is Low Blood Sugar. Eat healthy and properly. Never enter a situation you know will be stressful without balanced blood sugar levels. Low blood sugar levels will engage reactive and emotional outbursts, learn to recognize when your body and mind leads you in this direction. Give yourself a few moments to calm down. During to moments of calmness ask yourself What is really going on, is there a better approach to solve this, how is this situation effecting everyone, is there more research that can be done on everyone's part to clarify the subject of the anger. Research nutrition and always carry a healthy scoobysnack. \n\n", "Videos in this thread: [Watch Playlist &#9654;](http://subtletv.com/_r4g26yx?feature=playlist)\n\n\tVIDEO|COMMENT\n\t-|-\n[Best of serenity now](https://youtube.com/watch?v=Ow_9MglZrhs)|[1](https://reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4g26yx/_/d2e761s?context=10#d2e761s) - Serenity now \n[Instructions for a Bad Day by Shane Koyczan](https://youtube.com/watch?v=sso4h7Gr3Pc)|[1](https://reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4g26yx/_/d2e3uc9?context=10#d2e3uc9) - There is a lot in here. But while I don't know your age when I was younger around 16-24 I notice I got angry a lot over little things. I hated it when people mentioned how often it happened ect ect... Eventually I think it was something a crimes sai...\n[Woosah](https://youtube.com/watch?v=LTGdAGPDBpo)|[1](https://reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4g26yx/_/d2e1167?context=10#d2e1167) - Woosah \nI'm a bot working hard to help Redditors find related videos to watch.\n***\n[Info](https://np.reddit.com/r/SubtleTV/wiki/mentioned_videos) | [Chrome Extension](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/mentioned-videos-for-redd/fiimkmdalmgffhibfdjnhljpnigcmohf)", "Try a mirror when we see ourselves behaving badly we tend to change our ways. Our minds image of what we look like and reality are different. It's kinda like how we act different when we know someone is watching. ", "There's a lot of stuff you could try but if you're desperate enough to post on reddit I strongly suggest therapy. My girlfriend did it for a while and she's way happier with herself now", "One thing you may want to get checked is to see if you have depression. I know for me my depression manifests as a constant irritation with just about everything around me.", "My dad was an angry asshole (apparently... I don't remember much, only what my mum told me so it may be a bit one sided) and I vowed to try to never get angry. I do quite well.\n\nI think \"mindfulness\" is the term for how I deal with shit. I think of how I look from outside, how my actions could be taken and how I could do it better.\n\nAnger isn't going to help with anything. Calm, rational thought about what is making you angry WILL help. Then you can change what is making you angry.\n\nIt's the same with stress. I really try not to get stressed.\n\nThere are 2 things that people stress about. Things you can change and things you can't.\n\nFor the things you can change, stop stressing about it and get off your ass and CHANGE IT! It may not be easy, but stressing about it isn't going to help.\n\nFor things you can't change, stop stressing about it. You can't do anything to change it. Why worry. It's like worrying about the earth being hit by a meteor. It may happen, but you can't change it. If you can change it, see above! Again, it's not easy, but stressing about it won't help.", "My boyfriend was having some serious anger issues. He started to go to therapy and it helped immensely. Find yourself a good therapist.", "Look for the root cause. What makes you angry? List it all, throughout your life. There's an epicentre of your anger and when you find it, work through it. ", "Get older. You will find the grace to accept the things that you cannot change, the courage to continue to try changing those that you can, and the wisdom to begin knowing which is which (with apoligies for butchering Reinhold Niebuhr's [prayer](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serenity_Prayer).\n\nOh and by the way, wisdom is simply the accumulation of scars, and the memory to finally stop doing something that doesn't work so well. Best of luck. There are things that still piss me right off and I only know that now, I walk and get a breath of fresh air before anyone takes offense at my taking offense.\n\nDishonestly is probably my biggest trigger and I'll never seem to be able to abide with blatant liars.\n\nGood luck. You share a common deficiency in the human design - thus far.", "About five years ago, I went to a therapist who gave me the following, and it worked for me.\n\n1) The mental: So, I get annoyed at things and that makes me angry. Often I get annoyed at little things: Things that happen while driving, things that aren't left the way I want them around the house, lost things. He asked: \"OK, lets stop annoying things from happening\" and I said that couldn't be done. So he said \"Lets get someone to go around in front of you a sweep the annoying things aside before you see them\". Well, that's impossible. So annoying things are going to happen, that's a fact. All you can change is how you react. \n\n2) The physical: What happens when you get angry? Blood pressure goes up, heart beats faster, you get hot, and some other stuff. Can you change this? Nope. The one (and only?) part of your reaction that you can control is your breathing. So lets practice breathing: Take a long breath in, like count to 20 while you breath in. Practice this. Get so it's a natural thing to do, take a long breath in. \n\nIt turns out the things that that can me angry still happen. Then, I just take a long breath in, and sometimes 20 seconds is all it takes to let me ride past the immediate angry reaction. This isn't just 'count to 20 and forget it. The long in-breath apparently triggers the parasympathetic nervous system, which is the opposite of the fight or flight reaction.\n\n" ]

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[ "How to keep my mind from wandering while reading. I have this massive issue, whenever I start reading, my mind wanders, anywhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute. Either I zone out completely or I start thinking about something else. How can I train my brain to stop doing this? It's really affecting my ability to study. ", "How to keep my mind from wandering while reading. I have this massive issue, whenever I start reading, my mind wanders, anywhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute. Either I zone out completely or I start thinking about something else. How can I train my brain to stop doing this? It's really affecting my ability to study. ", "How to keep my mind from wandering while reading. I have this massive issue, whenever I start reading, my mind wanders, anywhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute. Either I zone out completely or I start thinking about something else. How can I train my brain to stop doing this? It's really affecting my ability to study. ", "How to keep my mind from wandering while reading. I have this massive issue, whenever I start reading, my mind wanders, anywhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute. Either I zone out completely or I start thinking about something else. How can I train my brain to stop doing this? It's really affecting my ability to study. ", "How to keep my mind from wandering while reading. I have this massive issue, whenever I start reading, my mind wanders, anywhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute. Either I zone out completely or I start thinking about something else. How can I train my brain to stop doing this? It's really affecting my ability to study. ", "How to keep my mind from wandering while reading. I have this massive issue, whenever I start reading, my mind wanders, anywhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute. Either I zone out completely or I start thinking about something else. How can I train my brain to stop doing this? It's really affecting my ability to study. ", "How to keep my mind from wandering while reading. I have this massive issue, whenever I start reading, my mind wanders, anywhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute. Either I zone out completely or I start thinking about something else. How can I train my brain to stop doing this? It's really affecting my ability to study. ", "How to keep my mind from wandering while reading. I have this massive issue, whenever I start reading, my mind wanders, anywhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute. Either I zone out completely or I start thinking about something else. How can I train my brain to stop doing this? It's really affecting my ability to study. ", "How to keep my mind from wandering while reading. I have this massive issue, whenever I start reading, my mind wanders, anywhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute. Either I zone out completely or I start thinking about something else. How can I train my brain to stop doing this? It's really affecting my ability to study. ", "How to keep my mind from wandering while reading. I have this massive issue, whenever I start reading, my mind wanders, anywhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute. Either I zone out completely or I start thinking about something else. How can I train my brain to stop doing this? It's really affecting my ability to study. ", "How to keep my mind from wandering while reading. I have this massive issue, whenever I start reading, my mind wanders, anywhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute. Either I zone out completely or I start thinking about something else. How can I train my brain to stop doing this? It's really affecting my ability to study. ", "How to keep my mind from wandering while reading. I have this massive issue, whenever I start reading, my mind wanders, anywhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute. Either I zone out completely or I start thinking about something else. How can I train my brain to stop doing this? It's really affecting my ability to study. ", "How to keep my mind from wandering while reading. I have this massive issue, whenever I start reading, my mind wanders, anywhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute. Either I zone out completely or I start thinking about something else. How can I train my brain to stop doing this? It's really affecting my ability to study. ", "How to keep my mind from wandering while reading. I have this massive issue, whenever I start reading, my mind wanders, anywhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute. Either I zone out completely or I start thinking about something else. How can I train my brain to stop doing this? It's really affecting my ability to study. ", "How to keep my mind from wandering while reading. I have this massive issue, whenever I start reading, my mind wanders, anywhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute. Either I zone out completely or I start thinking about something else. How can I train my brain to stop doing this? It's really affecting my ability to study. " ]

[ "Trace the words with 2-3 fingers as you read. It's a speed reading technique, but it helps with focus as well as reading rate.", "Try mouthing the words or just plain reading out loud. It forces you to pay attention to the sentence structure and grammar, and it's a good skill to keep up as you age anyway.", "Upvoted because I struggle with this to the point where I feel something may be slightly off with me. Every sentence I read, my mind starts wandering about the sentence I read, then it starts babbling and going into tangents. Then I realize I'm off focus so then I think about how to remain focused etc. It's made me turn in papers for school extremely late..like months later than I plan. ", "For more info on this subject, I recommend The Shallows by Nicholas Carr. It's about the effects of technology on the brain. Sorry to be a dick and recommend a book to someone who's having trouble concentrating on books, but it's super topical. \n\nTo your question, I would pick something to read for fun that you enjoy and find easy to read. Honestly, Harry Potter, the Hobbit, anything you find engaging. The YA section is great for this. Reading is just like going to the gym, it's a bitch to get back into if you don't do it for a while. Set a goal of reading any novel for a half hour a day without any breaks. Put your phone on airplane mode. Work up to an hour. As you feel more in practice, move back to more adult or challenging novels or nonfiction texts.", "google \"einstein distraction index\"\n\nhere's a page that describes it. as it says, its probably not something einstein developed but it is a good technique to try. i used it many years ago and it did help.\n\nhttp://theinvisiblementor.com/einstein-distraction-index-a-method-of-deep-focus/", "Take notes every 30 seconds. Maybe just a word or a short sentence if there is anything you found interesting. ", "I could never read books without my mind wandering. Made studying an absolute nightmare in high school and college. I got good grades, but I really had to work really hard to excel.\n\nAs an adult, I finally broke down and talked to a specialist who diagnosed me with ADD. (I had other symptoms as well, but irrelevant to this post.) the medication helped immensely and I wish I had started sooner in life.\n\nBesides that though, I found audiobooks helped a ton. I read along with the audiobook and that works great for me. I love Kindle books with the Whispersync Narration. As the audiobook is read, it follows along with the words. When you change the page, the audio jumps to that page. It's amazing.", "one thing that I have noticed is that after like 20 mins of reading, it gets better and you will get more focused(only if what you are reading is interesting for you) so focus hard for the first 20 mins, and it works out better for me atleast.", "What I do is I listen to music when I study so that I know when I am drifting away. If I start paying attention to the music more than I am reading, I try and tune it out so I can focus better on what I am reading. This way I also tune out other noises in the background that may distract me and I can jam out when I'm done. It may not be the best method but it's what I do. ", "Read a sentence. Look away and repeat or paraphrase the sentence to yourself. If you can't, reread until you can. Then, same for next sentence. \n\nIf doing so sentence by sentence starts becoming really easy, your concentration has increased, so try doing it with entire paragraphs, etc.", "Make mental markers of key points in your reading. After reading a page, take a few seconds to remember them. ", "It doesn't generally happen to me unless I'm reading something really uninteresting (like, say, 90% of the textbooks for my university). When it happens, I find some ambient or ambient-like music helps. I also avoid lyrics and go for either instrumental or nonsense words à la Cocteau Twins (got hooked up on them because of a very busy exam session). You don't seem to be in the same situation, but I guess it couldn't hurt to try.", "I struggle with this too. I found i was most effective in reading when I was searching for a specific answer. I found textbooks way more useful when treating them more like dictionaries than novels.", "I had this problem. I wake up early like 5:30 a.m. M", "Heh. Read something better. In all seriousness, though—if you are a student it might mean your chosen field of study is not as interesting to you as you thought it was. All subjects have their share of dry reading, but perhaps this is a sign you should change your major?" ]

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[ "Bumping organizational skills up to the next level Hi LPT:\n\nMy supervisor has told me that I need to improve my performance, so I'm working on a plan to improve my organizational skills. She wants to see three objectives for 30, 60, and 90 days out that build off each other. I've committed to making scheduled task lists for projects before implementing them and finding a way to improve my note-taking for the first two, but I'm drawing a huge blank for my 90-day goal. \n\nI'm already taking some more basic steps towards being more organized, such as keeping reminder notes at my desk, coming into work 15 minutes early, and writing a prioritized to-do list for the next day at the end of the day. From what I've been reading online, I'm not getting a lot of ideas that would make sense for a goal to track with my supervisor (e.g. making sure I get enough sleep). What goal can I set for myself to show her that I'm making progress? The work we do is administrative in nature.\n\nThanks in advance for your advice.", "Bumping organizational skills up to the next level Hi LPT:\n\nMy supervisor has told me that I need to improve my performance, so I'm working on a plan to improve my organizational skills. She wants to see three objectives for 30, 60, and 90 days out that build off each other. I've committed to making scheduled task lists for projects before implementing them and finding a way to improve my note-taking for the first two, but I'm drawing a huge blank for my 90-day goal. \n\nI'm already taking some more basic steps towards being more organized, such as keeping reminder notes at my desk, coming into work 15 minutes early, and writing a prioritized to-do list for the next day at the end of the day. From what I've been reading online, I'm not getting a lot of ideas that would make sense for a goal to track with my supervisor (e.g. making sure I get enough sleep). What goal can I set for myself to show her that I'm making progress? The work we do is administrative in nature.\n\nThanks in advance for your advice." ]

[ "Evernote + GTD = AWESOME!\nhttp://www.thesecretweapon.org/\n\n3 Tips for Going Paperless at Work\nhttp://blog.evernote.com/blog/2014/01/06/3-tips-for-going-paperless-at-work/\n\nAlso read Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity by David Allen", "A piece of organizational skills is also having a bigger picture view of the overall process. At 90 days you should be able to look back at your daily lists and analyze them- what kinds of things got done and what got moved to the next day? Were the things you did, the ones that have the biggest impact on getting the overall goals done or were they just busy work items? \n\nYou should be able to then look at whether you are getting the right things done, not just getting lots of things done. \n\nSo a 90 day goal is to have analyzed your performance to ensure your daily task are in alignment with your weekly, monthly and annual goals. You can work with your supervisor to help identify the two or three things that are most important to the organization and then set up a system that has you check to ensure you are focused on those priorities." ]

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[ "How do you make your shoes smell good. I want to learn how to keep them not smelly for new shoes and how to deodorize the the shoes when they've been worn and never cleaned.", "How do you make your shoes smell good. I want to learn how to keep them not smelly for new shoes and how to deodorize the the shoes when they've been worn and never cleaned.", "How do you make your shoes smell good. I want to learn how to keep them not smelly for new shoes and how to deodorize the the shoes when they've been worn and never cleaned.", "How do you make your shoes smell good. I want to learn how to keep them not smelly for new shoes and how to deodorize the the shoes when they've been worn and never cleaned." ]

[ "http://www.iherb.com/Crystal-Body-Deodorant-Foot-Deodorant-Spray-4-fl-oz-118-ml/33599\n\nAlso bamboo socks that prevent bacteria. ", "Put teabags inside each one. They absorb the smell! \n\nDon't use the teabag to make a cuppa afterwards.... ", "If the insoles are removable, pull them and wet with Absorbine Jr. Allow to dry. It'll keep the smell down and bacteria/fungus to a minimum.", "Also putting newspaper in them after you wear them absorbs the moisture quicker which gives less time for mold and bacteria that smell to grow. I ran XC in Florida in college and this saved me. For almost all shoes, washing them is a bad idea. Just try and keep them as dry and you can. If they are sneakers, let them sit in the sun for an hour or so. In my experience the sun does something that helps with odor. Maybe the heat kills bacteria and mold?\n\nGood luck. Keep your shoes dry!" ]

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[ "How to safely determine if an electric stove burner is hot, if your stove lacks a \"hot burner\" light? I was thinking maybe splash some water on it and see if it sizzles, but I'm afraid that might start an electrical fire...", "How to safely determine if an electric stove burner is hot, if your stove lacks a \"hot burner\" light? I was thinking maybe splash some water on it and see if it sizzles, but I'm afraid that might start an electrical fire..." ]

[ "Your hand. If it's hot, you won't have to touch it to know it's hot. \n\nI'm kind of curious why you need to know this? Do you randomly leave the stove on? ", "If you want to get fancy, hold a receipt to the burner. If the thermal paper blackens, the burner is hot.\n\nCoil burners are made up of a piece of nickel/chrome wire encased in a steel tube with a layer of insulation in between, so the exposed steel part of the burner doesn't actually carry any of the electrical current from the stove, which is why it's safe to splash a bit of water on it." ]

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[ "How to un-hate certain types of alcohol/food? I enjoy drinking just as much as your average person, so of course I've overdone it a few times. Now I've got those certain types of alcohol that my brain has just poisoned due to bad nights. For instance, I love whiskey, but now the smell and thought of it makes me gag. I assume this is a safety mechanism my brain is pulling (\"that made us puke last time, so I'm going to make sure you never want to drink it again!\") but as I get older, the list of undrinkable alcohols is growing!\n\nBefore you go calling me an alcoholic, you can apply it to this scenario: I got food poisoning from these cheese fries at a restaurant a few months ago, and now I CANNOT eat cheese fries. I loved cheese fries :( But my mind's telling me NO. I'm not even 100% sure it was caused by cheese fries, but as I was puking, they floated into my head and now they are sullied.\n\nWhat mind tricks can I pull here to change this?", "How to un-hate certain types of alcohol/food? I enjoy drinking just as much as your average person, so of course I've overdone it a few times. Now I've got those certain types of alcohol that my brain has just poisoned due to bad nights. For instance, I love whiskey, but now the smell and thought of it makes me gag. I assume this is a safety mechanism my brain is pulling (\"that made us puke last time, so I'm going to make sure you never want to drink it again!\") but as I get older, the list of undrinkable alcohols is growing!\n\nBefore you go calling me an alcoholic, you can apply it to this scenario: I got food poisoning from these cheese fries at a restaurant a few months ago, and now I CANNOT eat cheese fries. I loved cheese fries :( But my mind's telling me NO. I'm not even 100% sure it was caused by cheese fries, but as I was puking, they floated into my head and now they are sullied.\n\nWhat mind tricks can I pull here to change this?", "How to un-hate certain types of alcohol/food? I enjoy drinking just as much as your average person, so of course I've overdone it a few times. Now I've got those certain types of alcohol that my brain has just poisoned due to bad nights. For instance, I love whiskey, but now the smell and thought of it makes me gag. I assume this is a safety mechanism my brain is pulling (\"that made us puke last time, so I'm going to make sure you never want to drink it again!\") but as I get older, the list of undrinkable alcohols is growing!\n\nBefore you go calling me an alcoholic, you can apply it to this scenario: I got food poisoning from these cheese fries at a restaurant a few months ago, and now I CANNOT eat cheese fries. I loved cheese fries :( But my mind's telling me NO. I'm not even 100% sure it was caused by cheese fries, but as I was puking, they floated into my head and now they are sullied.\n\nWhat mind tricks can I pull here to change this?", "How to un-hate certain types of alcohol/food? I enjoy drinking just as much as your average person, so of course I've overdone it a few times. Now I've got those certain types of alcohol that my brain has just poisoned due to bad nights. For instance, I love whiskey, but now the smell and thought of it makes me gag. I assume this is a safety mechanism my brain is pulling (\"that made us puke last time, so I'm going to make sure you never want to drink it again!\") but as I get older, the list of undrinkable alcohols is growing!\n\nBefore you go calling me an alcoholic, you can apply it to this scenario: I got food poisoning from these cheese fries at a restaurant a few months ago, and now I CANNOT eat cheese fries. I loved cheese fries :( But my mind's telling me NO. I'm not even 100% sure it was caused by cheese fries, but as I was puking, they floated into my head and now they are sullied.\n\nWhat mind tricks can I pull here to change this?", "How to un-hate certain types of alcohol/food? I enjoy drinking just as much as your average person, so of course I've overdone it a few times. Now I've got those certain types of alcohol that my brain has just poisoned due to bad nights. For instance, I love whiskey, but now the smell and thought of it makes me gag. I assume this is a safety mechanism my brain is pulling (\"that made us puke last time, so I'm going to make sure you never want to drink it again!\") but as I get older, the list of undrinkable alcohols is growing!\n\nBefore you go calling me an alcoholic, you can apply it to this scenario: I got food poisoning from these cheese fries at a restaurant a few months ago, and now I CANNOT eat cheese fries. I loved cheese fries :( But my mind's telling me NO. I'm not even 100% sure it was caused by cheese fries, but as I was puking, they floated into my head and now they are sullied.\n\nWhat mind tricks can I pull here to change this?", "How to un-hate certain types of alcohol/food? I enjoy drinking just as much as your average person, so of course I've overdone it a few times. Now I've got those certain types of alcohol that my brain has just poisoned due to bad nights. For instance, I love whiskey, but now the smell and thought of it makes me gag. I assume this is a safety mechanism my brain is pulling (\"that made us puke last time, so I'm going to make sure you never want to drink it again!\") but as I get older, the list of undrinkable alcohols is growing!\n\nBefore you go calling me an alcoholic, you can apply it to this scenario: I got food poisoning from these cheese fries at a restaurant a few months ago, and now I CANNOT eat cheese fries. I loved cheese fries :( But my mind's telling me NO. I'm not even 100% sure it was caused by cheese fries, but as I was puking, they floated into my head and now they are sullied.\n\nWhat mind tricks can I pull here to change this?" ]

[ "Try eating/drinking small amounts of that stuff in increasing intervals. You'd be surprised how easy it is to overcome this.", "/u/iroxu1 is correct. I had that reaction to gin, but I cured myself of it (with the help of some excellent bartenders) by drinking well mixed drinks that had prominent other flavors in them.\n\nWhiskey might be more difficult because it's a much stronger flavor, but it's still possible. Talk to a *good* bartender, and ask for whiskey drinks that don't taste too much like whiskey and work your way back to the warm happy center that is a whiskey drinker's gut.\n\nCheers!", "What helps me is adding subtle differences to the food, which takes away from the overall taste. Then slowly introducing your body to the original again. I switched from plain jack and coke to adding a couple limes for an added flavor and I was able to drink it and keep it down, which I hadn't been in years! Sometimes adding a simple change helps. ", "I'm an idiot so don't take my word for it. I would try to reintroduce liquors in small amounts with a mixer/cocktail of your choice. Ex: you drank yourself sick on \"jack n coke\". Try drinking other whiskey based cocktails; whiskey sour, moscow mule, old fashioned. There's too many to name. Find something that you at least think you'd like and if you can't get past the whiskey taste/smell, use less until you don't notice it. Over time use more. ", "I used to love rum, but overdid it once... mostly because someone kept refilling my glass with it until I'd finished the entire bottle by myself. Got real sick. Rum was absolutely disgusting from then on, but one day i was making tiramisu, and poured myself a glass of rum. First sip was revolting. Second was bearable. By time I finished what was the equivalent of less than a shot, I had regained some of my appreciation for it. Just don't overdo it and your brain will recognize that it's not harmful.", "Hey, sounds like you may have a \"toxin\" build up. I'm a manual therapist, and during my schooling my Lymphatic teacher warned me not detox my liver to quickly. \n\nI ask why. She says, \"All that alcohol doesn't leave.\" Pointing to my eyes, then skin, then acne. \n\nI had quit drinking a year prior. Midway through the 8 day class, I got sicker than I've ever been (and so did everyone else ~20 people). \n\nYour liver and your gut probably just need cleaned out. There are relatively simple protocols all over the place. It's good to clean out your organs 2-3 times a year. \n\nCheers!" ]

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[ "How to study and memorize a large amount of flashcards. I have 145 flashcards that I need to learn and was wondering if there was any way to learn them faster or more efficiently.", "How to study and memorize a large amount of flashcards. I have 145 flashcards that I need to learn and was wondering if there was any way to learn them faster or more efficiently." ]

[ "Record yourself reading them aloud and listen to it over and over. Try to add emphasis in different places for memorial variety. This is a technique used by some theatre folk to learn large monologues.", "It kinda depends how your brain 'works' but try visualising each piece of information. Also use funny anecdotes which relate to each one, they might stick in your mind better, for example here's one I used ages ago learning German vocabulary-\nWolkig = cloudy\nWolkig sounds like 'walking' and in cheesy films/dreams you might walk on clouds, so wolkig=cloudy\nAlso when you're in the test: if there's something you know you can't commit to memory for a long time, look at it just before you go in (without cheating) and as soon as you open the paper, write it down on the very first page. You can then refer back to this if you need it during the test. Short-term memory ftw :3\nAlso try to picture how the card looked - that might help to jog your memory.\nThose are the techniques I use for tests, hope it helps and good luck!" ]

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[ "Compensating friends after you ask them for a favor. Most of my friends always respond \"I had fun\" or \"don't worry about it.\" I do the same thing tbh but I feel like I'm not appropriately showing my appreciation.", "Compensating friends after you ask them for a favor. Most of my friends always respond \"I had fun\" or \"don't worry about it.\" I do the same thing tbh but I feel like I'm not appropriately showing my appreciation.", "Compensating friends after you ask them for a favor. Most of my friends always respond \"I had fun\" or \"don't worry about it.\" I do the same thing tbh but I feel like I'm not appropriately showing my appreciation." ]

[ "If they're helping you move, buy a case of beer and some pizzas for after. If they lend you their car, fill it up with gas before returning it. If they take notes for you in class when you're sick, cover for them next time they want to skip a day. Never accept \"don't worry about it;\" there's always some way to show that you will worry about it because what they've done for you meant something to you.", "A small token of appreciation is always a nice touch, especially is the person spent any significant time or effort on helping you.", "I've noticed at work that everyone always say \"Hey, can you do me a favor?\" before asking me to do something for them. I've got a LOT of favors owed to me." ]

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[ "Remove cigarette smell from apartment So my wife and I just moved into an apartment and as soon as we walked in we noticed that it smells of cigs. It isn't unbearable but it hits you like right when you walk in. It's odd but we didn't notice it when they were showing us the unit. Any advice would be very much appreciated. \n\n", "Remove cigarette smell from apartment So my wife and I just moved into an apartment and as soon as we walked in we noticed that it smells of cigs. It isn't unbearable but it hits you like right when you walk in. It's odd but we didn't notice it when they were showing us the unit. Any advice would be very much appreciated. \n\n", "Remove cigarette smell from apartment So my wife and I just moved into an apartment and as soon as we walked in we noticed that it smells of cigs. It isn't unbearable but it hits you like right when you walk in. It's odd but we didn't notice it when they were showing us the unit. Any advice would be very much appreciated. \n\n", "Remove cigarette smell from apartment So my wife and I just moved into an apartment and as soon as we walked in we noticed that it smells of cigs. It isn't unbearable but it hits you like right when you walk in. It's odd but we didn't notice it when they were showing us the unit. Any advice would be very much appreciated. \n\n", "Remove cigarette smell from apartment So my wife and I just moved into an apartment and as soon as we walked in we noticed that it smells of cigs. It isn't unbearable but it hits you like right when you walk in. It's odd but we didn't notice it when they were showing us the unit. Any advice would be very much appreciated. \n\n", "Remove cigarette smell from apartment So my wife and I just moved into an apartment and as soon as we walked in we noticed that it smells of cigs. It isn't unbearable but it hits you like right when you walk in. It's odd but we didn't notice it when they were showing us the unit. Any advice would be very much appreciated. \n\n", "Remove cigarette smell from apartment So my wife and I just moved into an apartment and as soon as we walked in we noticed that it smells of cigs. It isn't unbearable but it hits you like right when you walk in. It's odd but we didn't notice it when they were showing us the unit. Any advice would be very much appreciated. \n\n", "Remove cigarette smell from apartment So my wife and I just moved into an apartment and as soon as we walked in we noticed that it smells of cigs. It isn't unbearable but it hits you like right when you walk in. It's odd but we didn't notice it when they were showing us the unit. Any advice would be very much appreciated. \n\n", "Remove cigarette smell from apartment So my wife and I just moved into an apartment and as soon as we walked in we noticed that it smells of cigs. It isn't unbearable but it hits you like right when you walk in. It's odd but we didn't notice it when they were showing us the unit. Any advice would be very much appreciated. \n\n" ]

[ "Use a sealing primer, like this: http://www.kilz.com/ and paint the walls, ceilings, etc. Shampooing the carpet should be sufficient. ", "Ionizer. People have smoked weed and cigarettes in my car all the time and I let them because the Ionizer makes it such that you'd never guess people smoked", "Gallons and gallons of febreze, and scrub down *every* surface in the apartment (including the ceilings) with it. Anything fabric (including carpets and drapes), throw away.", "They probably had the place well ventilated before you got there. A really thorough job of carpet cleaning might help, but if you've already moved your furniture in, it's a bit late for that.", "Simply use ammonia. Dilute with water and wash the walls and ceiling by hand. While doing it the place will stink of ammonia but it will go away in a day or two. ", "I was a smoker in a condo where the owner didn't want me to smoke. After a year of two packs a day, it was time for me to leave. \n\nTo cover my tracks, I used a product called \"What Oder\". Available only online, the owner thanked me for not smoking in the condo. I swear by the stuff. \n\nFor my car, I used a relatively costly product called \"Ozium\". Available at auto part stores as a cleaning item, it hid the fact that I was smoking in the car from my wife who didn't want to smoke at all. It covered the smell in my car, in my clothes I was wearing and my skin. It's pretty great stuff. \n\nGood luck. ", "Wash down the walls/cupboards/doors/molding/ceiling with a vinegar and water solution. The vinegar smell will go away. Steam clean any carpets, wash any curtains, use vinegar water solution on blinds. If you cant steam clean the carpets, buy some rubbing alcohol, put it in a spray bottle and spray the carpets down and any furniture (spot test any dark colors first), the smell will evaporate away with the rubbing alcohol. *This also works on cat piss. Don't ask. ", "Sugar soap. It will wash off the nicotine residue. It will take a few washings to clean off the residue. It might discolor the paint work. But I imagine smoking has already done that. \n\n", "Deep carpet clean with carpet soap, pine sol hardwood, repaint the walls and ceilings if you can, disinfectant wipe everything else, and when the weather is nice open all the windows." ]

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[ "Travelling for a week. Will be travelling to Florida from California for a week. Any pro tips on packing, airplane behavior, adjusting to time zones, hotel behavior, or hitting up locals? \n\nMuch appreciated!", "Travelling for a week. Will be travelling to Florida from California for a week. Any pro tips on packing, airplane behavior, adjusting to time zones, hotel behavior, or hitting up locals? \n\nMuch appreciated!", "Travelling for a week. Will be travelling to Florida from California for a week. Any pro tips on packing, airplane behavior, adjusting to time zones, hotel behavior, or hitting up locals? \n\nMuch appreciated!", "Travelling for a week. Will be travelling to Florida from California for a week. Any pro tips on packing, airplane behavior, adjusting to time zones, hotel behavior, or hitting up locals? \n\nMuch appreciated!", "Travelling for a week. Will be travelling to Florida from California for a week. Any pro tips on packing, airplane behavior, adjusting to time zones, hotel behavior, or hitting up locals? \n\nMuch appreciated!", "Travelling for a week. Will be travelling to Florida from California for a week. Any pro tips on packing, airplane behavior, adjusting to time zones, hotel behavior, or hitting up locals? \n\nMuch appreciated!", "Travelling for a week. Will be travelling to Florida from California for a week. Any pro tips on packing, airplane behavior, adjusting to time zones, hotel behavior, or hitting up locals? \n\nMuch appreciated!", "Travelling for a week. Will be travelling to Florida from California for a week. Any pro tips on packing, airplane behavior, adjusting to time zones, hotel behavior, or hitting up locals? \n\nMuch appreciated!", "Travelling for a week. Will be travelling to Florida from California for a week. Any pro tips on packing, airplane behavior, adjusting to time zones, hotel behavior, or hitting up locals? \n\nMuch appreciated!" ]

[ "A big part of your bodies internal clock is driven by your eating schedule. You can beat jet lag by fasting for 16 hours or so to reset your internal clock and then start eating on the schedule appropriate for the new time zone.", "what i do to make the plane trip faster is stay up for as long as i can before i get on the plane, commence sleeping, wake up in florida and since you didn't get a lot of sleep, sleep again, then wake up to a nice humid morning", "If you can, pack light and fly with only carry-on luggage. That way you don't have to worry about your bags getting lost and when you get off the plane you can walk right past all those people who need to pick up their luggage.", "Stay up to your normal time your day of arrival. You can do it, coffee, whatever. You'll adjust much quicker and will be able to enjoy your vacation longer.\nStuff to take on board with you; book, (you can't always count on a power plug on board for games) iPad or other book reader, your own food or snacks, lip moisturizer, hand wipes, ear plugs (miraculous for sleeping or missing the noisy child), neck roll (inflatable works just as well as the big ones and is easier to pack), small tissue pack, mints or gum, small bottle of hand lotion (open with the nozzle AWAY from you!), water bought after you go through security, email ticket, some cash (not everyone takes cr", "For packing, you will want a pair of underwear and socks for each day. Shirts and pants can be re used easily though.\n\nIf you have flexible hours for your flight, ask if the flight is full. If it is, you can ask if the are looking for volunteers to be bumped to the next flight. If the are looking for such, you will usually get some money in your pocket, free drinks, and depending on the airline a free upgrade in class. You will not always get all of these, but you will always get something. If you have never been on an airplane before, just try to relax. Reading really is the best option in my opinion. Depending on when your flight is, sleeping is great to, though some people have problems sleeping on planes.\n\nFor adjusting to time zones, change your eating habit to fit what it should be in that time zone. Also, if you are tired and it is 5pm, stay up, if you are wide awake at 3am, you can either go for the all nighter or drink some wine.\n\nFor hotel behavior, nothing to complicated, don't be to loud. Be nice to the people working there, ask for discounts (politely.)\n\nIf you want to get to know locals, it really depends on what you like, but most the time you can ask a cab driver or the people that work at your hotel for suggestions. A cab driver can lie to you and just want to take you somewhere faraway. Someone that works at a hotel is usually better, but I have had success with both, just don't blindly accept what anyone says.\n\nOther than that, good luck and have fun!", "* Once you get to the airport, empty your pockets (keys, coins, etc.) into your carry on bag. Wear loose fitting clothing (no belt) and slip on shoes. Your time through security will be as fast as *you* can make it. \n* Request the 'exit row' on the plane. More leg room. \n* Don't waste time buying 'travel size' anything. You're not saving *that* much space.\n\n\n\n", "Always, always put a change of clothes in your carry on, and put all toiletries in a ziploc bag, even if it's going in your main luggage (trust me, it really sucks to have to wash all your clothes because one of those flip top tubes of toothpaste opened up in your suitcase!)", "Thanks very much to everyone who's helped! I'll be sure to use as much of this info as possible. Cheers! ", "I just did this last week from Reno to Tucson. One letter carrier style bag with not too much in it. Job interview shoes with all socks needed crammed inside. The boxers to be used were tightly wrapped into little bundles and packed into a side pouch. All other clothing was also tightly rolled and stacked- job interview slacks/shirt and a few t shirts. One toothbrush, a phone charger, and a book. I was wearing pants, a shirt, a belt, my nearly emptied wallet (cash, ID, bank card), and my phone. Shoes, belt, wallet, phone, and bag all go through security screening. So simple you could choke on it." ]

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