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[ "Looking up crime rate info for moving So I was wondering how to go about getting the crime rate information for a particular area. Any time I try to google anything of the sort I can't get specifics or the information is a bit older, or it's talking about some news story. What are some ways I can find out about the crime rate for an area? I've even tried talking with the local police stations and they don't provide it, apparently it's all through other places and those places are not exactly cooperative.", "Looking up crime rate info for moving So I was wondering how to go about getting the crime rate information for a particular area. Any time I try to google anything of the sort I can't get specifics or the information is a bit older, or it's talking about some news story. What are some ways I can find out about the crime rate for an area? I've even tried talking with the local police stations and they don't provide it, apparently it's all through other places and those places are not exactly cooperative.", "Looking up crime rate info for moving So I was wondering how to go about getting the crime rate information for a particular area. Any time I try to google anything of the sort I can't get specifics or the information is a bit older, or it's talking about some news story. What are some ways I can find out about the crime rate for an area? I've even tried talking with the local police stations and they don't provide it, apparently it's all through other places and those places are not exactly cooperative.", "Looking up crime rate info for moving So I was wondering how to go about getting the crime rate information for a particular area. Any time I try to google anything of the sort I can't get specifics or the information is a bit older, or it's talking about some news story. What are some ways I can find out about the crime rate for an area? I've even tried talking with the local police stations and they don't provide it, apparently it's all through other places and those places are not exactly cooperative." ]

[ "Wikipedia does it for larger places. \n\nSome realtors sites list things this demographics which can help.\n\nWhat you probably want is the website of whatever agency does general statistics in your country. ", "Not sure where you're located but a map like this might be what you're looking for. It gives you all types of stats! http://a.plumplot.co.uk/", "I use neighborhood scout. Some of the info is misleading if you aren't careful, but it has detailed maps and info.", "Avoid certain neighborhoods in upper to middle Ohio. Just in the last two months, my neighbor was shot, the most obnoxious and loud family you could imagine moved in, and my number was spoofed for a 911 call" ]

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[ "Tips for new servers in the casual dining industry? I am about to start a serving job at a family style, casual chain restaurant that also serves alcohol. What are some secrets to serving that have helped you guys in positions like these?\n\nI also have very little experience in serving, so even the most simple suggestions would be great.", "Tips for new servers in the casual dining industry? I am about to start a serving job at a family style, casual chain restaurant that also serves alcohol. What are some secrets to serving that have helped you guys in positions like these?\n\nI also have very little experience in serving, so even the most simple suggestions would be great.", "Tips for new servers in the casual dining industry? I am about to start a serving job at a family style, casual chain restaurant that also serves alcohol. What are some secrets to serving that have helped you guys in positions like these?\n\nI also have very little experience in serving, so even the most simple suggestions would be great.", "Tips for new servers in the casual dining industry? I am about to start a serving job at a family style, casual chain restaurant that also serves alcohol. What are some secrets to serving that have helped you guys in positions like these?\n\nI also have very little experience in serving, so even the most simple suggestions would be great." ]

[ "Assuming this gets noticed... Oh, god, man, what have you done? Seriously, though-- Be fast, be accurate, and be attentive without being obnoxious. Here are some specific dos and don'ts:\n\n1) Don't waste the guest's time with shitty fake small-talk. Get your name out, learn the adults names if possible, and take a drink order\n\n2) NEVER let a non-alcoholic drink be empty. If possible, deliver a refill in a new glass, don't take the old one.\n\n3) After the drink order, don't hassle for a food order until either summoned or you see all the menus closed/set aside/obviously not being read.\n\n4) Double check your handwritten order on your pad when picking up from expo (assuming you don't work at a \"hot food go\" restaurant). This way computer errors/kitchen stupidity doesn't get to the table. If it's wrong, IMMEDIATELY tell the table, and offer something. \n\n5) NEVER ask a guest if they need change. Just bring it. Even if it's the exact amount plus a five dollar bill, or whatever. Nobody ever complains about still leaving the tip on the table, and you'll never have an awkward spat over three singles.\n\n6) Lastly, just use your head. What pisses you off when eating out? Don't do that shit. What makes your dinners out a good experience? Double up on that. And your bosses are right. Upsell, upsell, upsell. But don't be a dick about it.", "Write everything down, no seriously, everything. Repeat orders back to customers after you've taken them, that's for your benefit and theirs. Someone said always bring back change, I've found if you say, \"I'll be right back with this\" when they hand you the check, if they don't want change they will tell you. Never only walk by one of your tables, wall by them all. Help other servers out when their in the weeds, they will help you out later. Make as few trips as possible. If you get double sat greet one table and make eye contact with the other then take both drink orders. Never hassle the cooks or bartenders, don't hang out at the hostess stand. Keep your tables in the loop if their order is running long. Sorry for the formatting, if you have anymore questions please feel free to pm me", "Upsell your alcohol, offer a double shot or floater in mix drinks. It adds a charge to bill, and gets your party at least buzzed. Makes them more inclined to tip more. \n\nIf your place offers anything for anniversaries or birthdays, make it personal. For instance, if it's a couples anniversary and your place offers a couple glasses of champagne, say it's on you.", "First tip... Its just a meal... not their Last Meal... customers will forget your existence moments after they walk out the door. " ]

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[ "what details to give, and in what order, what calling an emergency dispatcher? Long story short, I had to call 911. I immediately gave them my location and the emergency. I was then asked to repeat myself, but describe the emergency only. Then I was transferred to a fire department who asked for my location only. \n\nMy question is, “Is there a standard/expected/efficient way to call 911 (or any emergency number)?” \n\nMaybe it’s different for different areas, numbers, or countries. Maybe this is common knowledge, so if it is, just educate me. If you have any knowledge, or are a dispatcher please share!", "what details to give, and in what order, what calling an emergency dispatcher? Long story short, I had to call 911. I immediately gave them my location and the emergency. I was then asked to repeat myself, but describe the emergency only. Then I was transferred to a fire department who asked for my location only. \n\nMy question is, “Is there a standard/expected/efficient way to call 911 (or any emergency number)?” \n\nMaybe it’s different for different areas, numbers, or countries. Maybe this is common knowledge, so if it is, just educate me. If you have any knowledge, or are a dispatcher please share!", "what details to give, and in what order, what calling an emergency dispatcher? Long story short, I had to call 911. I immediately gave them my location and the emergency. I was then asked to repeat myself, but describe the emergency only. Then I was transferred to a fire department who asked for my location only. \n\nMy question is, “Is there a standard/expected/efficient way to call 911 (or any emergency number)?” \n\nMaybe it’s different for different areas, numbers, or countries. Maybe this is common knowledge, so if it is, just educate me. If you have any knowledge, or are a dispatcher please share!", "what details to give, and in what order, what calling an emergency dispatcher? Long story short, I had to call 911. I immediately gave them my location and the emergency. I was then asked to repeat myself, but describe the emergency only. Then I was transferred to a fire department who asked for my location only. \n\nMy question is, “Is there a standard/expected/efficient way to call 911 (or any emergency number)?” \n\nMaybe it’s different for different areas, numbers, or countries. Maybe this is common knowledge, so if it is, just educate me. If you have any knowledge, or are a dispatcher please share!", "what details to give, and in what order, what calling an emergency dispatcher? Long story short, I had to call 911. I immediately gave them my location and the emergency. I was then asked to repeat myself, but describe the emergency only. Then I was transferred to a fire department who asked for my location only. \n\nMy question is, “Is there a standard/expected/efficient way to call 911 (or any emergency number)?” \n\nMaybe it’s different for different areas, numbers, or countries. Maybe this is common knowledge, so if it is, just educate me. If you have any knowledge, or are a dispatcher please share!", "what details to give, and in what order, what calling an emergency dispatcher? Long story short, I had to call 911. I immediately gave them my location and the emergency. I was then asked to repeat myself, but describe the emergency only. Then I was transferred to a fire department who asked for my location only. \n\nMy question is, “Is there a standard/expected/efficient way to call 911 (or any emergency number)?” \n\nMaybe it’s different for different areas, numbers, or countries. Maybe this is common knowledge, so if it is, just educate me. If you have any knowledge, or are a dispatcher please share!", "what details to give, and in what order, what calling an emergency dispatcher? Long story short, I had to call 911. I immediately gave them my location and the emergency. I was then asked to repeat myself, but describe the emergency only. Then I was transferred to a fire department who asked for my location only. \n\nMy question is, “Is there a standard/expected/efficient way to call 911 (or any emergency number)?” \n\nMaybe it’s different for different areas, numbers, or countries. Maybe this is common knowledge, so if it is, just educate me. If you have any knowledge, or are a dispatcher please share!" ]

[ "When you dial 911, they ask you - what is your emergency. Answer their questions. In the order they ask them", "ALWAYS start with your location. God forbid something happens and that's all the information you can relay, someone will be sent to you. Now a days with less and less landlines, the pings are not nearly as accurate as people think. Calltakers will immediately ask along the lines of \"what is your emergency\" or \"what is the nature of your emergency.\" After giving your location make sure to breathe between thoughts and tell them what is going on. They will ask you specific questions and will walk you through it until first responders arrive.\n\n- A first responder.", "Usually you are asked to describe the emergency because distressed people aren’t the best judge of what help is actually required for any particular emergency.\n\nYou don’t want someone to call 911, request a fire truck only to find out the emergency is someone with a flamethrower.", "I'm a former dispatcher (radio not call taker). I really wish there was a class in school or an internet resource for this. Expect questions. Probably a long series of them. The most important things to know is that as soon as the call taker knows what kind of emergency you have, they will send location, incident information and any other details so that EMS, fire or police will be on their way know what to expect. \n\nThey will always ask about the presence of weapons. Please give a clear and definitive response to this. If you are not sure you could delay help arriving. \n\nThen they will ask more questions. Listen closely and give clear answers. It might not seem important to you but they are asking for a reason.\n\nThe basics: be as calm as you can, listen closely and do what they say. You are the only source of information and they need your help. Even while you are on the phone help is already on its way.", "What is the emergency, where are you, what details can you provide. Stay on the line because they will be asking questions the whole time until the emergency units arrive.", "Make sure you give (and they get) the address first. If you get disconnected/drop the phone while fighting/pass out, they can send police/fire/medical (any or all, depends on their policy) to your location and figure it out. If all they get from you is \"I'm having a heart attack\" then they have to go look for you. They don't necessarily get your cell's GPS.", "In my country they ask if you require Police, Fire or Ambulance first, then transfer you to whichever you need and then you tell that person what the emergency is, the location etc." ]

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[ "How to evenly distribute butter to popcorn at the movies. I love to smother my popcorn with butter at the movies, but can only ever seem to reach the top few layers. I've tried shaking but I lose popcorn in the process and it still doesn't seem to work very well. Any tips?", "How to evenly distribute butter to popcorn at the movies. I love to smother my popcorn with butter at the movies, but can only ever seem to reach the top few layers. I've tried shaking but I lose popcorn in the process and it still doesn't seem to work very well. Any tips?", "How to evenly distribute butter to popcorn at the movies. I love to smother my popcorn with butter at the movies, but can only ever seem to reach the top few layers. I've tried shaking but I lose popcorn in the process and it still doesn't seem to work very well. Any tips?", "How to evenly distribute butter to popcorn at the movies. I love to smother my popcorn with butter at the movies, but can only ever seem to reach the top few layers. I've tried shaking but I lose popcorn in the process and it still doesn't seem to work very well. Any tips?" ]

[ "Take a straw, (one of the long ones for the XL drinks) put it in the bag, attach it to the machine and start at the bottom of the bag. Move the bag up and down. This allows the butter (liquid butter) to be evenly spread for more noms per bite. ", "Be happy you get to do it yourself. In Australia it comes prebuttered from the machine... I always thought it was odd that Homer put butter on his popcorn after purchasing it!", "I usually just ask them to 1/2 fill the tub so I can butter the bottom and then get back in line for the fill up. I've never had anyone tell me I can't do this, and since I wait my turn again no one feels like I'm taking up 'extra' counter time.", "I work at a movie theater, if the line isn't ridiculous just ask them to fill it part way so you can butter the middle and then have them top it off. You can butter and shake the middle much more effectively and then heavily butter the top :)" ]

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[ "Budget food that can be cooked in microwaves and are delicious. I currently am making pasta with whatever pasta sauce is on sale at the supermarket. Along with mozerella cheese if it is on sale too. Anything I can add to my microwave pasta to enhance it?\n\nAny other recipes that easy to do and tasty? I only have access to a microwave for cooking and I try to save as much as I can for a new computer/textbooks.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Budget food that can be cooked in microwaves and are delicious. I currently am making pasta with whatever pasta sauce is on sale at the supermarket. Along with mozerella cheese if it is on sale too. Anything I can add to my microwave pasta to enhance it?\n\nAny other recipes that easy to do and tasty? I only have access to a microwave for cooking and I try to save as much as I can for a new computer/textbooks.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Budget food that can be cooked in microwaves and are delicious. I currently am making pasta with whatever pasta sauce is on sale at the supermarket. Along with mozerella cheese if it is on sale too. Anything I can add to my microwave pasta to enhance it?\n\nAny other recipes that easy to do and tasty? I only have access to a microwave for cooking and I try to save as much as I can for a new computer/textbooks.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Budget food that can be cooked in microwaves and are delicious. I currently am making pasta with whatever pasta sauce is on sale at the supermarket. Along with mozerella cheese if it is on sale too. Anything I can add to my microwave pasta to enhance it?\n\nAny other recipes that easy to do and tasty? I only have access to a microwave for cooking and I try to save as much as I can for a new computer/textbooks.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Budget food that can be cooked in microwaves and are delicious. I currently am making pasta with whatever pasta sauce is on sale at the supermarket. Along with mozerella cheese if it is on sale too. Anything I can add to my microwave pasta to enhance it?\n\nAny other recipes that easy to do and tasty? I only have access to a microwave for cooking and I try to save as much as I can for a new computer/textbooks.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Budget food that can be cooked in microwaves and are delicious. I currently am making pasta with whatever pasta sauce is on sale at the supermarket. Along with mozerella cheese if it is on sale too. Anything I can add to my microwave pasta to enhance it?\n\nAny other recipes that easy to do and tasty? I only have access to a microwave for cooking and I try to save as much as I can for a new computer/textbooks.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Budget food that can be cooked in microwaves and are delicious. I currently am making pasta with whatever pasta sauce is on sale at the supermarket. Along with mozerella cheese if it is on sale too. Anything I can add to my microwave pasta to enhance it?\n\nAny other recipes that easy to do and tasty? I only have access to a microwave for cooking and I try to save as much as I can for a new computer/textbooks.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Budget food that can be cooked in microwaves and are delicious. I currently am making pasta with whatever pasta sauce is on sale at the supermarket. Along with mozerella cheese if it is on sale too. Anything I can add to my microwave pasta to enhance it?\n\nAny other recipes that easy to do and tasty? I only have access to a microwave for cooking and I try to save as much as I can for a new computer/textbooks.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Budget food that can be cooked in microwaves and are delicious. I currently am making pasta with whatever pasta sauce is on sale at the supermarket. Along with mozerella cheese if it is on sale too. Anything I can add to my microwave pasta to enhance it?\n\nAny other recipes that easy to do and tasty? I only have access to a microwave for cooking and I try to save as much as I can for a new computer/textbooks.\n\nThanks in advance." ]

[ "Eggs! I love eggs can pick them up cheap and cook them quick and easy, get a mug add eggs, drop of milk and whip it like a chef. Yumyum", "Baked potatoes. Cut them in half, put some butter on them, any spice that you like it, and microwave them 2-3 minutes.", "I had ramen at work for about 12 years. For special occasions, I'd eat the Sapporo Ichiban brand. Otherwise, it was Maruchan.\n\nIf you have a freezer to store food, then consider buying a ten-pound bag of \"chicken leg quarters\". These are very unpopular in the U.S., and so are usually less than a dollar a pound (in my neighborhood store, they're 30 cents a pound). I partially thaw them, and cut them up into single-use sizes, then arrange them in a single layer in plastic bags (get the twist-tie 'bread bags', which are the cheapest) and freeze them. I can then take one piece out at a time for use.\n\nMicrowave the frozen chicken a bit, to thaw and warm it. Add water, and microwave so it's hot. Add noodles, and microwave until it boils again. Break in an egg, mess up the yolk, and microwave again to finish.\n\nIt's better on a stove. The chicken makes an enriched soup stock for you. I would also add thinly-chopped Chinese cabbage and a bit of toasted sesame oil. Sometimes, a bit of sugar and chopped garlic is good, too.\n\nVariations on ramen can also help you get used to different cooking techniques. You will become good at slicing mushrooms, or know when it's best to add green onions, or something. If you have a stove, you can prep the noodles, drain them, fry everything else, and add noodles on top. Mix and season for a yakisoba.", "Check out brown butter pasta fam it’s my favourite quick lazy meal ever 😂 absolutely terrible for your insides but it tastes good. I’m unsure if you could make it via microwave but worth a shot?", "Add fresh or frozen spinach to pasta. There are two ways frozen spinach is sold in a block (don't buy that) and loose in a bag. Just sprinkle some in.\n\nAlso I second microwaved yams and potatoes", "You could buy a jar of pesto. Perfect for pasta but also great on sandwiches and all sorts of things. \n\nYou could also infuse some olive oil with garlic/herbs. (Maybe get small basil plant to put on windowsill....then you always have it on hand and much cheaper than always buying it fresh and having it go bad) \n\nUse naan bread instead of bread for sandwiches...warms nicely in microwave:)\n\nCorn on the cob can be microwaved....i think you just use a damn paper towel over it to help it steam. \n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "You can easily spruce up microwave pasta sauce with steamed veggies. Bell peppers are usually on sale this time of year, or you can get even cheaper mixed veggies in the frozen section. Add those and some herbs (just one bottle of Italian seasoning should serve you well) would be a good start. \nI lived off these sorts of recipes during my undergrad! Microwave eggs and potatoes were my go-tos, but here are some more ideas: \n\n[Microwaved Baked Potato](https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/85337/microwave-baked-potato/)\n\n[Microwave Mug Omellete](https://www.landolakes.com/recipe/19330/omelet-in-a-cup/)\n\n[23 hecking more] (https://www.buzzfeed.com/melissaharrison/dorm-room-microwave-meals)\n\n", "This might be beyond your ability to cook in only a microwave but ground beef with rotini noodles, spaghetti sauce and frozen mixed veggies is both delicious and healthy. Before serving, top it off with whatever shredded cheese you have available. If you have access to a freezer, you can cook up a huge batch of it, then portion and freeze the leftovers to feed you for the rest of the week. The best part is, it's pretty cheap for the number of meals you get out of it. \n\nAlthough if you're going to go somewhere to cook up a bunch of food to freeze for later, you might also consider just cooking up a massive batch of ground beef on its own for portioning and freezing. That way, you can make just about whatever you want from it later. Spaghetti, nachos, tacos/burritos, aforementioned rotini dish, whatever. ", "Make some chicken and rice. It's really easy, especially if you use a rice cooker. Parcel into meal-sized freezer containers, then microwave as needed!" ]

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[ "How to get out of my head while giving a presentation While giving a presentation, I have this habit of getting inside my own head and completely losing my train of thought. I end up with a huge awkward pause that lasts until I somehow get my shit together. Any help/tips/suggestions with public speaking? ", "How to get out of my head while giving a presentation While giving a presentation, I have this habit of getting inside my own head and completely losing my train of thought. I end up with a huge awkward pause that lasts until I somehow get my shit together. Any help/tips/suggestions with public speaking? ", "How to get out of my head while giving a presentation While giving a presentation, I have this habit of getting inside my own head and completely losing my train of thought. I end up with a huge awkward pause that lasts until I somehow get my shit together. Any help/tips/suggestions with public speaking? ", "How to get out of my head while giving a presentation While giving a presentation, I have this habit of getting inside my own head and completely losing my train of thought. I end up with a huge awkward pause that lasts until I somehow get my shit together. Any help/tips/suggestions with public speaking? ", "How to get out of my head while giving a presentation While giving a presentation, I have this habit of getting inside my own head and completely losing my train of thought. I end up with a huge awkward pause that lasts until I somehow get my shit together. Any help/tips/suggestions with public speaking? ", "How to get out of my head while giving a presentation While giving a presentation, I have this habit of getting inside my own head and completely losing my train of thought. I end up with a huge awkward pause that lasts until I somehow get my shit together. Any help/tips/suggestions with public speaking? " ]

[ "I've never liked public speaking but we all must do it at some point. \n\nBasically what I do before I even start is make sure I have enough water to get my brain working, a chocolate bar to release a bunch of dopamine to keep me happy(ish), and a mint/stick of gum to keep my mouth perky lol.\n\nWhen it comes to actually doing the presentation it helps to have powerpoint slides on a projector screen so you can just learn everything in long format, then just refer to the slide to remind yourself if you lose you train of thought. In fact pointing to the slides is actually encouraged, just make sure to make enough eye contact with who you're talking to. If it's a big group of people only look at the most important (at the front?), then stare at the back of the room in a sweeping motion if you get nervous infront of lots of people. Basically youre only looking directly at the people that matter, whilst still giving the impression your addressing everyone.\n\nNow, nothing beats practice. Learn you presentation inside out. Then learn it again, and again until you don't even need to look at your notes. Once you know something perfectly, all you have to do is pretend you're teaching your audience. Imagine they're a bunch of kids and you're a god of intelligence in their presence :P", "Practice, practice and more practice. I used to have these moments in a speech where they are moments of \"self-reflection\". These can be good or bad thoughts. You can be nailing a speech and your mind goes off-topic by congratulating itself and you have lost your train of thought.\n\nThe best way to get out of this is instead of trying to \"nail\" the speech, instead, focus on making sure that every person in the room leaves with the knowledge that is in your head. Once you shift the focus from the actual conduct of the speech and onto the knowledge you are communicating, it keeps your brain engaged with the presentation and minimizes those sticky points. \n\nOf course, speak slow, concise and maintain eye-contact with your audience. Make that instinctual so that you can focus (and enjoy) sharing the knowledge you have. ", "As a classically trained musician, I'd like to confirm that all of these comments really hit home as to how classical musicians train: know our repertoire inside and out. When it comes to the performance itself, such as an hour-long solo recital, a concerto, or a famous orchestral solo where the pressure is on I find the age-old method of \"imagining everyone else in the underpants\" can be unhelpful to some. Rather I like to perform for only myself and not imagine anyone else. Its like I'm in my own little box having a good time neither judging nor listening but flowing :) The difference is not ignoring the nerves but almost inviting them and having a good time being excited.", "When you look at the audience, imagine that they're sitting there naked. Then, instead of an awkward pause, you'll start laughing your ass off or you'll get horny. It's all good.", "From a brain perspective... \nYour brain pays attention to whatever is most pressing i.e. what is the least understood and therefore likely to be dangerous. If you find yourself concentrating on inner thoughts it is because your conscious mind is creating more panic than your subconscious is perceiving from the environment. \nTo correct it: Before your speech focus on something external. Look at the wall at the back of the room. Notice how it's colors change in the light. Examine its texture. Do this for a few minutes. If you find yourself trailing off in the middle, focus on that wall again for a few seconds. Give it your undivided attention. Everyone will understand a pause now and again.", "This is a little secret i use when giving orders/ tasks to my employees It works 100% of the time; I want you to picture yourself shouting the following to every one in the room: \"your all niggers!!! your all a bunch of niggers!!!!\" do this over and over before and during your brief or presentation constantly repeating it in your head trust me you will feel no fear." ]

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[ "How to not feel so run down after being sick I'm super stressed (don't worry, getting therapy and meds) and I have a medical condition. This means that about every two months, I get walloped with being massively sick. The illness drags on because I can't kick the weakness and fatigue. How can I bounce back faster?", "How to not feel so run down after being sick I'm super stressed (don't worry, getting therapy and meds) and I have a medical condition. This means that about every two months, I get walloped with being massively sick. The illness drags on because I can't kick the weakness and fatigue. How can I bounce back faster?", "How to not feel so run down after being sick I'm super stressed (don't worry, getting therapy and meds) and I have a medical condition. This means that about every two months, I get walloped with being massively sick. The illness drags on because I can't kick the weakness and fatigue. How can I bounce back faster?", "How to not feel so run down after being sick I'm super stressed (don't worry, getting therapy and meds) and I have a medical condition. This means that about every two months, I get walloped with being massively sick. The illness drags on because I can't kick the weakness and fatigue. How can I bounce back faster?", "How to not feel so run down after being sick I'm super stressed (don't worry, getting therapy and meds) and I have a medical condition. This means that about every two months, I get walloped with being massively sick. The illness drags on because I can't kick the weakness and fatigue. How can I bounce back faster?" ]

[ "Sleep. Lots and lots of sleep. I used to get sick ALL the time in college, when I was sleeping 4-6hrs/night. Once I graduated and started getting 7-9 hours of sleep/night, I only get sick once every 2-3 years. I do not have a medical condition complicating things, so of course the frequency of getting sick might be different, but the same tenet should still hold true. ", "Part of my chemotherapy regimen included resistance band training, and a quick warm-up walking in place, which eventually I brought up to 10,000 steps a day. Having to keep track of my numbers, times, etc. kept me more on task...I did *something* almost every day. I am not a doctor, or medical professional in any way...just a consumer who's had success with exercise as an energizer. You might ask your doctor's advice. ", "Make sure your electrolytes are balanced. Diet is super-important, too. Probiotics and bone broths are helpful. Stop (or reduce) eating sugar and refined carbs and processed foods. Digestion places a big burden on your body when you're eating crap, and I believe sugar stresses your immune system. Since ", "Ensure you are staying hydrated and fed to the best of your ability. A lot of the time feeling bad, fatigue, headaches, are symptoms of dehydration. On a longer term scale, if your diet is deficient in some, or has an excessive amount of some other things, it can contribute to many health issues.\n\nDo your best to stay active. You don't have to be trying to run marathons or lift weights, just try to not spend your entire day laying in bed. Do a few basic stretches and walk around a bit.\n\nSame things also work for reducing or removing hangover effects.", "Get minimum 8 hours sleep. I prefer 9 when I'm sick/recovering. Drink shitloads of water and shit like lemon ginger tea. Seriously drink a ridiculous amount of water. Do not smoke anything, smoking will increase your sickness length and recovery time. " ]

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[ "Any tips on how to go through daily life with crutches? For example I'm having a lot of trouble just carrying things around while I'm on my crutches.", "Any tips on how to go through daily life with crutches? For example I'm having a lot of trouble just carrying things around while I'm on my crutches.", "Any tips on how to go through daily life with crutches? For example I'm having a lot of trouble just carrying things around while I'm on my crutches." ]

[ "If they're the kind that go under your arms (vs. wrists and elbows), cushion the tops. I used a rolled up towel held on with duct tape. Make sure you use them properly, or you can seriously screw up your back. Backpacks are a godsend. Expect there to be some pain and blisters even if you are using them correctly. Biker gloves (or weightlifting gloves) with cushioned palms are helpful.", "Back pack will be your friend. Just get ready to have jacked forearms. Do not rest the crutch in your armpit or you'll get super sore. ", "A single strap cross body backpack is your best bet. It won't interfere with the crutches and can easily be spun around. \n\nFor short trips around the house you can use a grocery bag and either hang it off your belt with a clip. \n\nA hanging drink holder might help a lot too: https://smile.amazon.com/Universal-Drink-Sling-Blue-Orange/dp/B00FQS1TFG/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1495818002&sr=8-1&keywords=koozie+lanyard" ]

[ 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Tips for finding good apartment without seeing it in person Hey guys!\n\nSo I'm moving out of state in about two weeks and because of the deadline, I doubt I'll have time to visit and scope out my apartment before I actually move in.\n\nWhat tips do you have for finding a decent apartment without seeing it in person?", "Tips for finding good apartment without seeing it in person Hey guys!\n\nSo I'm moving out of state in about two weeks and because of the deadline, I doubt I'll have time to visit and scope out my apartment before I actually move in.\n\nWhat tips do you have for finding a decent apartment without seeing it in person?" ]

[ "- Lots of pictures that were taken with something other than a potato. Potato pictures usually mean they were taken years prior and won’t reflect the true condition. Better yet, see if the person/company listing it will take new photos or video for you.\n- Watch out for phrases like ‘unique’ or anything very specific about neighbors and rules. \n- If available, read reviews about the place and/or landlord.\n- If it’s too good to be true, it usually is. Three bedroom house for $700/month in an area where a 1 bedroom apartment is over $1000? It’s a scam.\n- Trust your gut", "Options people I know have used, almost all include storing your stuff for at least a few days.\n- Plan on staying in a hotel for a few days first \n- ask friends/family/acquaintances in the area to tour for you\n- take a shorter lease (or sublet) and plan to move again sooner if it sucks, re-lease if it’s good\n- work with an actual management company and have them show you their places, or even arrange to see spots that are immediately available the first day, sign and move in.\n- go ahead early but have someone handle your stuff from where you are moving (example, meeting movers, turning in keys)" ]

[ 3, 2 ]

[ "How to avoid the \"kid\" perception, specially at workplace I am 23, but I look much younger (think 17-18). In short I look like a kid, which heavily impacts what people perceives of me.\n\nAt the workplace, I was at a different office today and the person there remarked something that was something you would to a junior; while I am higher in position than him. Though he does not know my position.\n\nHow can I avoid this?", "How to avoid the \"kid\" perception, specially at workplace I am 23, but I look much younger (think 17-18). In short I look like a kid, which heavily impacts what people perceives of me.\n\nAt the workplace, I was at a different office today and the person there remarked something that was something you would to a junior; while I am higher in position than him. Though he does not know my position.\n\nHow can I avoid this?", "How to avoid the \"kid\" perception, specially at workplace I am 23, but I look much younger (think 17-18). In short I look like a kid, which heavily impacts what people perceives of me.\n\nAt the workplace, I was at a different office today and the person there remarked something that was something you would to a junior; while I am higher in position than him. Though he does not know my position.\n\nHow can I avoid this?", "How to avoid the \"kid\" perception, specially at workplace I am 23, but I look much younger (think 17-18). In short I look like a kid, which heavily impacts what people perceives of me.\n\nAt the workplace, I was at a different office today and the person there remarked something that was something you would to a junior; while I am higher in position than him. Though he does not know my position.\n\nHow can I avoid this?", "How to avoid the \"kid\" perception, specially at workplace I am 23, but I look much younger (think 17-18). In short I look like a kid, which heavily impacts what people perceives of me.\n\nAt the workplace, I was at a different office today and the person there remarked something that was something you would to a junior; while I am higher in position than him. Though he does not know my position.\n\nHow can I avoid this?", "How to avoid the \"kid\" perception, specially at workplace I am 23, but I look much younger (think 17-18). In short I look like a kid, which heavily impacts what people perceives of me.\n\nAt the workplace, I was at a different office today and the person there remarked something that was something you would to a junior; while I am higher in position than him. Though he does not know my position.\n\nHow can I avoid this?" ]

[ ">How can I avoid this?\n\nYou don't, you deal with it. If your junior treats you like their junior, you correct them...diplomatically as possible. If you are not sure how to handle it, bring it up to your superior and ask for advice. \n\nI've been there, I was 19....too many years ago...with people who were my juniors, but older than I was. Regardless of position, you have to earn peoples respect. It will never, ever be given to you freely.\n", "Dress older. How you dress has a huge impact on how people perceive your age. Dump your high school wardrobe. ", "Let your accomplishments speak for themselves and know that when you are old you will look more youthful than people your age, hopefully. ", "It sounds insignificant but try adjusting your posture. Make sure you stand and sit upright. Keep your body language 'open'. It'll make you appear more mature and more confident.", "Like some others have said: body language and attire. People judge based on appearance at first glance (even if it's wrong--it's a fact of human nature). ", "Probably by getting over yourself and not demanding respect for your corporate ladder position.\n\nRespect is given, not asked for." ]

[ 9, 5, 3, 3, 1, -2 ]

[ "How to motivate myself after realizing I'm not as good as I thought I was. I'm not depressed. Yet.\n\nI just thought I was going to get accepted to this amazing program after talking with its organizer, but the organizer hasn't gotten back to me. All these intrusive thoughts about 'what if I'm not good enough' has made me lose all motivation, even though there are so many things I could be doing (and if I don't do them, I'll probably really end up depressed). I think the gap between 'I'm good enough to get accepted to this program' and 'maybe I'm not good enough?' is making me anxious and discouraged.\n\nHow can I reframe my thoughts so I can get back on track?", "How to motivate myself after realizing I'm not as good as I thought I was. I'm not depressed. Yet.\n\nI just thought I was going to get accepted to this amazing program after talking with its organizer, but the organizer hasn't gotten back to me. All these intrusive thoughts about 'what if I'm not good enough' has made me lose all motivation, even though there are so many things I could be doing (and if I don't do them, I'll probably really end up depressed). I think the gap between 'I'm good enough to get accepted to this program' and 'maybe I'm not good enough?' is making me anxious and discouraged.\n\nHow can I reframe my thoughts so I can get back on track?", "How to motivate myself after realizing I'm not as good as I thought I was. I'm not depressed. Yet.\n\nI just thought I was going to get accepted to this amazing program after talking with its organizer, but the organizer hasn't gotten back to me. All these intrusive thoughts about 'what if I'm not good enough' has made me lose all motivation, even though there are so many things I could be doing (and if I don't do them, I'll probably really end up depressed). I think the gap between 'I'm good enough to get accepted to this program' and 'maybe I'm not good enough?' is making me anxious and discouraged.\n\nHow can I reframe my thoughts so I can get back on track?", "How to motivate myself after realizing I'm not as good as I thought I was. I'm not depressed. Yet.\n\nI just thought I was going to get accepted to this amazing program after talking with its organizer, but the organizer hasn't gotten back to me. All these intrusive thoughts about 'what if I'm not good enough' has made me lose all motivation, even though there are so many things I could be doing (and if I don't do them, I'll probably really end up depressed). I think the gap between 'I'm good enough to get accepted to this program' and 'maybe I'm not good enough?' is making me anxious and discouraged.\n\nHow can I reframe my thoughts so I can get back on track?", "How to motivate myself after realizing I'm not as good as I thought I was. I'm not depressed. Yet.\n\nI just thought I was going to get accepted to this amazing program after talking with its organizer, but the organizer hasn't gotten back to me. All these intrusive thoughts about 'what if I'm not good enough' has made me lose all motivation, even though there are so many things I could be doing (and if I don't do them, I'll probably really end up depressed). I think the gap between 'I'm good enough to get accepted to this program' and 'maybe I'm not good enough?' is making me anxious and discouraged.\n\nHow can I reframe my thoughts so I can get back on track?", "How to motivate myself after realizing I'm not as good as I thought I was. I'm not depressed. Yet.\n\nI just thought I was going to get accepted to this amazing program after talking with its organizer, but the organizer hasn't gotten back to me. All these intrusive thoughts about 'what if I'm not good enough' has made me lose all motivation, even though there are so many things I could be doing (and if I don't do them, I'll probably really end up depressed). I think the gap between 'I'm good enough to get accepted to this program' and 'maybe I'm not good enough?' is making me anxious and discouraged.\n\nHow can I reframe my thoughts so I can get back on track?" ]

[ "What is in front of you to do right now?\n\n Do that.\n\nThink about what you are doing when you are doing it. Hard sometimes, I know. \n\nIf I focus on what I'm doing right now it's harder for those other thoughts to get in.", "Maybe mantras! I am enough. Getting into the program doesn’t prove anything, your enough was comes from inside. Focus on the next goal/idea! This is just a part of your evolution.", "You simply *are* good enough. But you are not the only contributing factor in a decision, even if the decision directly impacts you. \n\nAll you can control is what you do today. So do what you can do.\n\nI applied for over 100 internships purely to get accustomed to rejection, and I didn't get chosen for a single one (yay for graduating during a global pandemic 😒). That is okay, because in the process I made an amazing network of my peers and kept up my work as a consultant. \n\nEven if you don't get this position, you have a *network*, which will come in handy in the future. \n\nYou have value, you are worth it. Sometimes you want to give up for a day. That's OK, let your brain reset. 🧠\n\nCome back at it tomorrow with a bounce in your step. Everything will be okay. \n\nWhen I'm feeling rough, I listen to this: https://youtu.be/cq0-jIOxz4I", "You might be good enough, but there are always “other factors” beyond that. \n\nMy son was perfectly qualified for a job and got passed over. The hiring manager told him they gave the job to someone from a “less represented” group. So he could have been twice as qualified for the job but since his qualifications can’t include “less represented group” there was no way he was getting the job. \n\nTry to keep in mind qualifications are only part. There are always other things to be considered.", "What you’re feeling is normal and human. It’s kind of a base level of thought that we all have. I’ve found that the people who are able to refine, add context and perspective to those intrusive thoughts are the ones who are the most happy.\n\nBut **Happy does not have to equal you getting what you think you want.**\n\nRecently I heard this extract of a talk in Hopsin - Alone with me, that really resonated with me\n\n>\t[Outro: Sadhguru]\nWhat I’m thinking, what you’re thinking is not the important thing\nWe’re alive right now, that is the important thing\nIt is important that you focus on this fundamental sense of aliveness within you\nAnd then you’ll see there’s a natural distance between you and your thought process\nOnce you create a little space between you and your mind, between you and your body, this is the end of suffering\nDon’t identify any thought as negative, because it’s just a thought Who told you it’s negative? It’s just a thought, you’re making it up\nMaybe you like it, what’s the problem?\nIf you understand it’s just a thought, it has no power\nIf you think it’s a reality, then it destroys you\n\n\nA great book, called Into the Magic shop talks about the duality that exists in your mind. In your head, there is a DJ, always taking, trying to never let there be a quiet moment. There is also a listener to the station.\nThe question is,\n\n**Which one are you?**\n\nYou might think “*well I’m the one who talks! I’m the one who says how I feel*” but how often do you think of things that terrify you and make you feel awful? You are not the DJ, you are the listener. And with practise, you can see the separation and turn down the volume whenever you need to with m", "Contact people at jobs you want to have and ask to shadow them.\n\nGo to internships for jobs that you are interested in.\n\nYou might be good enough, but there could be other factors in play, as well. There will always be someone better at a job, or at a thing." ]

[ 7, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to make single page great flow charts describing something It seems like the trend in the office is to create one or two page flow charts to describe a particular thing. In my case it is software related stuff. Imagine describing the Login of an application. Do you have any tips on how to do this, including good software (visio?) and what is the thought process when creating such documentation.\n\nFor me, I usually put too much stuff in the chart or not enough.", "How to make single page great flow charts describing something It seems like the trend in the office is to create one or two page flow charts to describe a particular thing. In my case it is software related stuff. Imagine describing the Login of an application. Do you have any tips on how to do this, including good software (visio?) and what is the thought process when creating such documentation.\n\nFor me, I usually put too much stuff in the chart or not enough." ]

[ "Whatever you do, try to be consistent with the yes and no flow directions. In other words, make all the yes answers have a left-down arrow and all the no answers have a right-down arrow. Or make all the no answers have horizontally to the right flows and all the yes answers down. I hate when I read flow charts with one yes answers going right, the next yes going down, and the next going diagonally. That's just confusing.\n\nRewrite the questions if necessary.", "I use moqups.com for making wireframes/flow charts of software.\nThe free version doesn't have a way to export so I take screen shots. It's simple click and drag. I find it easier than visio.\n" ]

[ 5, 2 ]

[ "How to study for an exam that is in less than 24 hours if you can't concentrate Tomorrow I have 2 exams, I want to study for one, but it's mostly learning things by heart and because of the amount of things I need to learn and I just get frustrated and I can't concentrate. I have about 24 hours left. What would you do? Are there any drugs that are available in a pharmacy/energy drinks I could buy that would help me to study until the exam?", "How to study for an exam that is in less than 24 hours if you can't concentrate Tomorrow I have 2 exams, I want to study for one, but it's mostly learning things by heart and because of the amount of things I need to learn and I just get frustrated and I can't concentrate. I have about 24 hours left. What would you do? Are there any drugs that are available in a pharmacy/energy drinks I could buy that would help me to study until the exam?", "How to study for an exam that is in less than 24 hours if you can't concentrate Tomorrow I have 2 exams, I want to study for one, but it's mostly learning things by heart and because of the amount of things I need to learn and I just get frustrated and I can't concentrate. I have about 24 hours left. What would you do? Are there any drugs that are available in a pharmacy/energy drinks I could buy that would help me to study until the exam?", "How to study for an exam that is in less than 24 hours if you can't concentrate Tomorrow I have 2 exams, I want to study for one, but it's mostly learning things by heart and because of the amount of things I need to learn and I just get frustrated and I can't concentrate. I have about 24 hours left. What would you do? Are there any drugs that are available in a pharmacy/energy drinks I could buy that would help me to study until the exam?" ]

[ "Take notes of your notes. Highlight what you know and only work on the non-highlighted portions, highlighting more as you go. \n\nThis is the important part. Go somewhere without a computer or television or any distractions and leave your phone in the car.\n\nReddit will be here when you get back.", "This may not be the most healthy advice but if you're desperate and at college go to your library and ask someone if they have adderall. This stuff does wonders.", "Just relax. An exam grade isn't going to kill you. Don't log back into reddit until your exam is done, and just go over the material you're least familiar with.", "Jot down a quick list of things you need to study. Having it organized into a visual breakdown may help you stay on track by giving you smaller goals to complete. Also: I prefer coffee and lots of water. I just take sips of coffee so i dont overload on caffeine and then crash. Energy drinks dehydrate you terribly and a dehydrated brain does not concentrate well. I also recommend breathing exercises, breathing from your diaphragm through your nose. An oxygenated brain functions the best.\n\n" ]

[ 8, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to deal with toxic friends. I'm gonna make this really short.\n\nI have a group of friends whom I've known (all of them together) for two years. Two of them were pretty close to me. I came out to one of them first, been through shit with them, and they've helped me get over my social anxiety (for the time being). Now since the last year I've started looking up and learning things. Mainly feminism and equality and stuff like that and I began to notice shitty things they do like rape jokes, racist jokes, slurs, and slut shaming, the list is long. Tried talking to them twice and its failed twice. I've gotten actual anxiety attacks because of our fights and I always apologize even when I am right. Really don't know what to do now. Doesn't help that we play league of legends almost daily and I am addicted to the game so I'll see them online and can't run away from this. Any help?", "How to deal with toxic friends. I'm gonna make this really short.\n\nI have a group of friends whom I've known (all of them together) for two years. Two of them were pretty close to me. I came out to one of them first, been through shit with them, and they've helped me get over my social anxiety (for the time being). Now since the last year I've started looking up and learning things. Mainly feminism and equality and stuff like that and I began to notice shitty things they do like rape jokes, racist jokes, slurs, and slut shaming, the list is long. Tried talking to them twice and its failed twice. I've gotten actual anxiety attacks because of our fights and I always apologize even when I am right. Really don't know what to do now. Doesn't help that we play league of legends almost daily and I am addicted to the game so I'll see them online and can't run away from this. Any help?", "How to deal with toxic friends. I'm gonna make this really short.\n\nI have a group of friends whom I've known (all of them together) for two years. Two of them were pretty close to me. I came out to one of them first, been through shit with them, and they've helped me get over my social anxiety (for the time being). Now since the last year I've started looking up and learning things. Mainly feminism and equality and stuff like that and I began to notice shitty things they do like rape jokes, racist jokes, slurs, and slut shaming, the list is long. Tried talking to them twice and its failed twice. I've gotten actual anxiety attacks because of our fights and I always apologize even when I am right. Really don't know what to do now. Doesn't help that we play league of legends almost daily and I am addicted to the game so I'll see them online and can't run away from this. Any help?", "How to deal with toxic friends. I'm gonna make this really short.\n\nI have a group of friends whom I've known (all of them together) for two years. Two of them were pretty close to me. I came out to one of them first, been through shit with them, and they've helped me get over my social anxiety (for the time being). Now since the last year I've started looking up and learning things. Mainly feminism and equality and stuff like that and I began to notice shitty things they do like rape jokes, racist jokes, slurs, and slut shaming, the list is long. Tried talking to them twice and its failed twice. I've gotten actual anxiety attacks because of our fights and I always apologize even when I am right. Really don't know what to do now. Doesn't help that we play league of legends almost daily and I am addicted to the game so I'll see them online and can't run away from this. Any help?", "How to deal with toxic friends. I'm gonna make this really short.\n\nI have a group of friends whom I've known (all of them together) for two years. Two of them were pretty close to me. I came out to one of them first, been through shit with them, and they've helped me get over my social anxiety (for the time being). Now since the last year I've started looking up and learning things. Mainly feminism and equality and stuff like that and I began to notice shitty things they do like rape jokes, racist jokes, slurs, and slut shaming, the list is long. Tried talking to them twice and its failed twice. I've gotten actual anxiety attacks because of our fights and I always apologize even when I am right. Really don't know what to do now. Doesn't help that we play league of legends almost daily and I am addicted to the game so I'll see them online and can't run away from this. Any help?", "How to deal with toxic friends. I'm gonna make this really short.\n\nI have a group of friends whom I've known (all of them together) for two years. Two of them were pretty close to me. I came out to one of them first, been through shit with them, and they've helped me get over my social anxiety (for the time being). Now since the last year I've started looking up and learning things. Mainly feminism and equality and stuff like that and I began to notice shitty things they do like rape jokes, racist jokes, slurs, and slut shaming, the list is long. Tried talking to them twice and its failed twice. I've gotten actual anxiety attacks because of our fights and I always apologize even when I am right. Really don't know what to do now. Doesn't help that we play league of legends almost daily and I am addicted to the game so I'll see them online and can't run away from this. Any help?", "How to deal with toxic friends. I'm gonna make this really short.\n\nI have a group of friends whom I've known (all of them together) for two years. Two of them were pretty close to me. I came out to one of them first, been through shit with them, and they've helped me get over my social anxiety (for the time being). Now since the last year I've started looking up and learning things. Mainly feminism and equality and stuff like that and I began to notice shitty things they do like rape jokes, racist jokes, slurs, and slut shaming, the list is long. Tried talking to them twice and its failed twice. I've gotten actual anxiety attacks because of our fights and I always apologize even when I am right. Really don't know what to do now. Doesn't help that we play league of legends almost daily and I am addicted to the game so I'll see them online and can't run away from this. Any help?", "How to deal with toxic friends. I'm gonna make this really short.\n\nI have a group of friends whom I've known (all of them together) for two years. Two of them were pretty close to me. I came out to one of them first, been through shit with them, and they've helped me get over my social anxiety (for the time being). Now since the last year I've started looking up and learning things. Mainly feminism and equality and stuff like that and I began to notice shitty things they do like rape jokes, racist jokes, slurs, and slut shaming, the list is long. Tried talking to them twice and its failed twice. I've gotten actual anxiety attacks because of our fights and I always apologize even when I am right. Really don't know what to do now. Doesn't help that we play league of legends almost daily and I am addicted to the game so I'll see them online and can't run away from this. Any help?" ]

[ "You're being incredibly vague, and quite frankly, biased. What are they saying and doing *exactly*? Because honestly, I can't tell whether or not the problem is with their behavoir, or yours. It seems to me like the reason you fight is because you behave in a self-righteous way, as evidenced by the fact that you admit that you apologize, but not without stating that you \"Still think you are right\". People don't want to be around that kind of person, even if they aren't malicious, hell, even if they just want to help those people, that \"holier than thou\" attitude will not want to make them change, it will make them stay the same, or worsen as resentment towards that person grows. \n\nThis is true of any belief. People hate when Christians shove their religion down people's throats just as much as they hate when Vegan's preface everything with the fact that they are Vegan, and it's for the same reason: those people do nothing but push their beliefs on others, even and especially if they can't see why other people would legitimately be annoyed by this. Speaking of Christians, you know how Christianity got a lot of converts? It wasn't through aggressive evangelical tactics, it was through going to other, poorer cultures and basically saying \"If you convert, we will give you all this stuff.\", that's how they converted the Native Americans, by showing them the *benefits* of being a convert, even if those benefits were mere material gains. They also named folk heroes Saints, they used the pre-existing culture to help assimilate those people into their culture. (", "Honestly you might want to stop hanging out with them. You're not going to be able to change who they are, only they can do that. ", "You need to get rid of them, distance yourself from them. There's no other way to deal with it because if they do not want to change and you continue to hang around them and someone new who wants to like you observes your circle of friends are ones who make jokes out of rape, treatment of females, minorities, etc, then it's only a matter of time before they feel this is how you behave, as well, or at least sympathize with it.\n\nBirds of a feather flock together.\n\nIf it happens to be you have to give up a game to get rid of your toxic friends and not be associated with what comes of out them, that's what you're going to have to do. It's a small exchange in comparison to how you could brand yourself if you continue with them. ", "Get new friends. People change (seems like you have changed for the better), it's okay to let them go and make new friends.", "Cut ties with them completely. They're not good for you. Stay away from people who affect you and your health negatively.", "**TL;DR: Stop waffling and do something.**\n\nReading this, it sounds like you already know what to do and are just drumming up your courage or waffling before doing it. \n\nStop. Say this to yourself. \"My friends. I'm sorry but I'm not enjoying spending time with you any more. Here's why.\" and share the reasons. Then get up and leave.\n\nAnd go find new friends. Go play League with someone else. And if you see them online, so what? They're just old friends that just went a different path. Happens all the time in life, and will continue to happen until you die.", "Since this is supposed to be a LPT, I'll put it this way: Expect others to change over time, and require it of yourself. Friendship is not a permanent condition; it is one of those things that changes.", "Explain this situation to them outright, just like you're asking for advice here. Tell them exactly what they are doing and how it is making you feel, even if it seems awkward. If they are your true friends they will at least stop to think about their actions, and if not they'll probably try to play it off as you being a wuss or something. If that's the case, they aren't really your friends anymore. There's always more to be had." ]

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[ "How to organize clothes that have been worn but aren't dirty enough to be put in the hamper I live in a small studio apartment and half-dirty clothes tend to clutter the scarce free space. How do you guys avoid this issue?", "How to organize clothes that have been worn but aren't dirty enough to be put in the hamper I live in a small studio apartment and half-dirty clothes tend to clutter the scarce free space. How do you guys avoid this issue?", "How to organize clothes that have been worn but aren't dirty enough to be put in the hamper I live in a small studio apartment and half-dirty clothes tend to clutter the scarce free space. How do you guys avoid this issue?" ]

[ "I'm a little compulsive about my \"worn for a few hours\" items touching my freshly laundered clothes. \n\nSo I mounted a thing on the inside of my closet door for them. It's basically a finished 3\" x 18\" wood plank with 5 large hooks on it. I think I got mine at Crate & Barrel, but I've seen them at Target and even in larger hardware stores in the bath/home/organization section. \n\nI have hooks all over come to think of it. I'm very visual-so if I can't see something it might as well cease to exist, but I really like things tidy too, so they help me do both.\n\nThat way the clothes aren't on floor/furniture, O don't have to re-fold, but they stay wrinkle-free and don't \"pollute\" my other clean clothes... I know... I have issues. ", "Hang them back up or put them away in a \"previously-worn\" section of the closet or dresser. Then on laundry day empty it out so you get them clean (since you'll be washing clothes anyway) or at least so you don't continually recycle clothes and develop odors/soiling.", "Organize.\n\nEvery day: clean underwear (slip, socks, handkerchief). Yesterdays items go into the [hamper](\nhttp://www.blokker.nl/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDetails?storeId=10001&langId=-104&catalogId=10002&categoryId=97469&productId=86660)\n\nEvery day: clean shirt (or T-shirt). Again, yesterdays shirt or T-shirt goes into the bin.\n\nTrousers last a week, as does the towel you use to dry off after showering (did I mention you shower daily? No, I guess not). Bed sheets also get changed once a week.\n\nYou do your clothes washing in the weekend, when you have time to attend to it. Pro Life Tip: ironing stuff is not necessary.\n\ntl;dr: wear jeans for seven days. When awake, the jeans are on you. When asleep, the jeans are on a chair. Everything else is refreshed daily. Spent items go into a collecting hamper." ]

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[ "what are some tips for long bus trips? Hi I will go on a 10 hours bus trip soon. The last time i did that my phone died, my lower back hurt like hell, and I couldn't sleep. I tried adjusting the chair but it didn't work. So is their any advice you can share with me?", "what are some tips for long bus trips? Hi I will go on a 10 hours bus trip soon. The last time i did that my phone died, my lower back hurt like hell, and I couldn't sleep. I tried adjusting the chair but it didn't work. So is their any advice you can share with me?", "what are some tips for long bus trips? Hi I will go on a 10 hours bus trip soon. The last time i did that my phone died, my lower back hurt like hell, and I couldn't sleep. I tried adjusting the chair but it didn't work. So is their any advice you can share with me?", "what are some tips for long bus trips? Hi I will go on a 10 hours bus trip soon. The last time i did that my phone died, my lower back hurt like hell, and I couldn't sleep. I tried adjusting the chair but it didn't work. So is their any advice you can share with me?", "what are some tips for long bus trips? Hi I will go on a 10 hours bus trip soon. The last time i did that my phone died, my lower back hurt like hell, and I couldn't sleep. I tried adjusting the chair but it didn't work. So is their any advice you can share with me?", "what are some tips for long bus trips? Hi I will go on a 10 hours bus trip soon. The last time i did that my phone died, my lower back hurt like hell, and I couldn't sleep. I tried adjusting the chair but it didn't work. So is their any advice you can share with me?", "what are some tips for long bus trips? Hi I will go on a 10 hours bus trip soon. The last time i did that my phone died, my lower back hurt like hell, and I couldn't sleep. I tried adjusting the chair but it didn't work. So is their any advice you can share with me?", "what are some tips for long bus trips? Hi I will go on a 10 hours bus trip soon. The last time i did that my phone died, my lower back hurt like hell, and I couldn't sleep. I tried adjusting the chair but it didn't work. So is their any advice you can share with me?", "what are some tips for long bus trips? Hi I will go on a 10 hours bus trip soon. The last time i did that my phone died, my lower back hurt like hell, and I couldn't sleep. I tried adjusting the chair but it didn't work. So is their any advice you can share with me?", "what are some tips for long bus trips? Hi I will go on a 10 hours bus trip soon. The last time i did that my phone died, my lower back hurt like hell, and I couldn't sleep. I tried adjusting the chair but it didn't work. So is their any advice you can share with me?", "what are some tips for long bus trips? Hi I will go on a 10 hours bus trip soon. The last time i did that my phone died, my lower back hurt like hell, and I couldn't sleep. I tried adjusting the chair but it didn't work. So is their any advice you can share with me?", "what are some tips for long bus trips? Hi I will go on a 10 hours bus trip soon. The last time i did that my phone died, my lower back hurt like hell, and I couldn't sleep. I tried adjusting the chair but it didn't work. So is their any advice you can share with me?", "what are some tips for long bus trips? Hi I will go on a 10 hours bus trip soon. The last time i did that my phone died, my lower back hurt like hell, and I couldn't sleep. I tried adjusting the chair but it didn't work. So is their any advice you can share with me?", "what are some tips for long bus trips? Hi I will go on a 10 hours bus trip soon. The last time i did that my phone died, my lower back hurt like hell, and I couldn't sleep. I tried adjusting the chair but it didn't work. So is their any advice you can share with me?", "what are some tips for long bus trips? Hi I will go on a 10 hours bus trip soon. The last time i did that my phone died, my lower back hurt like hell, and I couldn't sleep. I tried adjusting the chair but it didn't work. So is their any advice you can share with me?" ]

[ "In addition to a jacket or small pillow for your back getting a purple brand seat cushion will help. They are pricy but soo worth it. Get a portable battery too. Anker makes great ones for fair prices on Amazon.\n\n", "Power bank\n\nHeadphones / earphones \n\nDownload content on Netflix (some areas don't get network) \n\nKindle/book (if you can read on the move) \n\nSnacks \n\nWater (very important) \n\nHand sanitizer (before you attach the snacks) \n\nSun glasses if travelling during the day \n\n.. I guess that covers it.", "Sleep on the floor, plank across the isle in the overhead bins, poop with the door open. \n\nIf you need some exercise you can straddle the isle in the arm rests and do push-ups. You can hang upside down from your knees out of the overhead bins and do crunches.\n\nSit in the back and randomly yell \"Front of the bus sucks!\" \n\nI've got a lot more bus tips if you need them. I've spent a lot of hours on buses.", "Roll up your jacket and put in on the seat where your lower back would be. It maintains the natural curvature of the spine and always helps wonders for me!", "Def get a portable charger and charge it fully before leaving, and pack your charge cable. Pack snacks and hydration. Bring a book. And a neck pillow.", "Bring some painkillers, travel sick pills, water, snacks like bananas (or other things that don't require preparation or refrigeration) a book or internet-enabled device, some earplugs or earphones. Do some exercise to loosen up your back beforehand then maybe the 10 hours in one position won't be so bad. If the bus isn't full take the back seats so you can stretch out.", "Books drain phone batteries less if you download a few ahead of time. A book or magazine in physical form can help entertain and save battery. Battery packs are a lifesaver. Support your back for sure, but also stretch some too when opportunity arises. I’ll get kinks just below the shoulder blades sometimes. I’ll take an empty bottle, cap on, and roll it over a sore spot for a mini massage. Maybe look up a seated yoga session. Barring all else I try to nap occasionally if it’s safe to do so.", "don’t drink too much, you never know what state the onboard toilet is in (if there even is one). even if you stop a few times you can’t count on having access to a toilet. better to be safe than in pain.", "are u going alone or with a friend? \nWATER very important you will be thirsty \nuh \ndon't wear jeans they're not comfortable \nsomething to make it quiet (noise cancelling headphones, earplugs, anything) \nsleep as much as you can, \nstretch before u get on the coach.\nevery time you get the chance stand up and walk around/ stretch to avoid cramps or tissue fluid weirdness.\nsnacky food that travels well\na small bag to put rubbish in \ntissues\nphone charger \nIf you're going with a friend something you can do together is good/ a head phone splitter, deck of playing cards\nif you do something like sketching or creative writing, or if there's a book you want to read, it's a good uninterrupted block of time to do it in.", "Not read the other replies but...\n\n1) buy a portable battery\n\n2) get a cushion fir your back\n\n3) have a piss in the bus station bathroom just before the bus leaves\n\n4) travel in daytime & take a good book. \n\nSeriously how difficult is working out the above?", "Bring a variety of things. When I’m on long flights I like switching between things every 30-60 minutes or so to keep any one of them from getting stale \n\nReading book on kindle with music playing from phone \nSwitch to \nInformational podcast \nSwitch to\nReading with earplugs in (definitely bring earplugs and eye mask if u plan to nap at all), till I fall asleep\nSwitch to\nM", "low battery usage stuff like music is great. I download lots of albums before long trips so I dont even need wifi.", "Non-alcoholic wet wipes, ear plugs if you want to nod off and don't want to fall asleep with headphones on.", "Learn to solve a Rubik's cube. 10 hours should suffice, and it'll keep you busy/entertained and boost your sense of accomplishment.", "Bring bottled drinks so when your done with them, you can piss in bottles to prevent leaving your seat" ]

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[ "Any advice for conversing with people who have had strokes and have difficulty talking? I’m a mailman and I have an assisted living type apartment on my route. There’s a sweet lady that waits outside everyday and says hello and I try to talk with her but she gets visibly frustrated when she can’t get words out. I always feel bad because I don’t want to talk down on her by saying it’s okay that she can’t speak to me but she seems competent enough to want to start a conversation. Any help with what I can say to keep things easier for her to respond to? I’d appreciate it", "Any advice for conversing with people who have had strokes and have difficulty talking? I’m a mailman and I have an assisted living type apartment on my route. There’s a sweet lady that waits outside everyday and says hello and I try to talk with her but she gets visibly frustrated when she can’t get words out. I always feel bad because I don’t want to talk down on her by saying it’s okay that she can’t speak to me but she seems competent enough to want to start a conversation. Any help with what I can say to keep things easier for her to respond to? I’d appreciate it", "Any advice for conversing with people who have had strokes and have difficulty talking? I’m a mailman and I have an assisted living type apartment on my route. There’s a sweet lady that waits outside everyday and says hello and I try to talk with her but she gets visibly frustrated when she can’t get words out. I always feel bad because I don’t want to talk down on her by saying it’s okay that she can’t speak to me but she seems competent enough to want to start a conversation. Any help with what I can say to keep things easier for her to respond to? I’d appreciate it", "Any advice for conversing with people who have had strokes and have difficulty talking? I’m a mailman and I have an assisted living type apartment on my route. There’s a sweet lady that waits outside everyday and says hello and I try to talk with her but she gets visibly frustrated when she can’t get words out. I always feel bad because I don’t want to talk down on her by saying it’s okay that she can’t speak to me but she seems competent enough to want to start a conversation. Any help with what I can say to keep things easier for her to respond to? I’d appreciate it", "Any advice for conversing with people who have had strokes and have difficulty talking? I’m a mailman and I have an assisted living type apartment on my route. There’s a sweet lady that waits outside everyday and says hello and I try to talk with her but she gets visibly frustrated when she can’t get words out. I always feel bad because I don’t want to talk down on her by saying it’s okay that she can’t speak to me but she seems competent enough to want to start a conversation. Any help with what I can say to keep things easier for her to respond to? I’d appreciate it" ]

[ "Try phrasing your questions and such in a way that calls for brief, short responses.\n\n\"How are you today?\" Vs. \"Are you feeling well today?\"\n\nYes/no sort of answers, where she can elaborate as much or little as she wants. Bring up delightful little subjects, perhaps noticing details about her/complement her in a way she can respond as much or little as she can, but is happy anyway about the kind attention. \"I notice you always wear such lovely dresses, you must have an eye for fashion!\" ...dumb example but you get the idea. \n\n\n Frustration can be inevitable, especially when the words are there but can't come out. The best you can do is continue to be as patient and accommodating as you can! You're a very thoughtful person.", "Just show that you're patient. Also, do not try to guess what she's going to say and finish her sentences for her. Let her speak and she'll appreciate it!", "What a lovely person you are!\n\nFirst of all, ask or say one thing at a time\n\nSo ask - do you want to say hi? (not do you want to say hi OR do you need to ask me a question)\n\n", "If you know the word she is looking for try suggesting it and she might easier finish her sentence. Worked housekeeping in a nursing home and a sweet lady once wanted me to take her down to the hair lady and she was asking if I could grab her --. She couldn't remember the word and she was about in tears and i said do you need your pocket book? And she was so happy because now she remembered the word. Do give her the chance at first and if you don't know what she's trying to say let her know it's okay", "If she has aphasia due to a stroke for example, there are a lot of different ways her language based communication can be impaired in. As a speech and language therapist I agree that telling her to take her time is perfectly fine as long as its in a nice tone. It might also help to tell her to use simple sentences (and use them yourself if you feel like she doesnt understand you).\n\nFrom another answer ive read that you dont really have time to talk to her. If youre really interested to communicate with her, ask her to write it down and give you a letter the next day. You can then either answer the letter orally or on paper.\nSome forms of aphasia make it hard/impossible to write. It doesnt hurt to ask though...seeing that she might not even have it." ]

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[ " I just started working retail and I am having a hard time with calming patients. I guess I (unintentionally) give off a disrespectful vibe with the tone of my voice. Any tips would be very appreciated.", " I just started working retail and I am having a hard time with calming patients. I guess I (unintentionally) give off a disrespectful vibe with the tone of my voice. Any tips would be very appreciated.", " I just started working retail and I am having a hard time with calming patients. I guess I (unintentionally) give off a disrespectful vibe with the tone of my voice. Any tips would be very appreciated.", " I just started working retail and I am having a hard time with calming patients. I guess I (unintentionally) give off a disrespectful vibe with the tone of my voice. Any tips would be very appreciated.", " I just started working retail and I am having a hard time with calming patients. I guess I (unintentionally) give off a disrespectful vibe with the tone of my voice. Any tips would be very appreciated.", " I just started working retail and I am having a hard time with calming patients. I guess I (unintentionally) give off a disrespectful vibe with the tone of my voice. Any tips would be very appreciated.", " I just started working retail and I am having a hard time with calming patients. I guess I (unintentionally) give off a disrespectful vibe with the tone of my voice. Any tips would be very appreciated.", " I just started working retail and I am having a hard time with calming patients. I guess I (unintentionally) give off a disrespectful vibe with the tone of my voice. Any tips would be very appreciated.", " I just started working retail and I am having a hard time with calming patients. I guess I (unintentionally) give off a disrespectful vibe with the tone of my voice. Any tips would be very appreciated.", " I just started working retail and I am having a hard time with calming patients. I guess I (unintentionally) give off a disrespectful vibe with the tone of my voice. Any tips would be very appreciated.", " I just started working retail and I am having a hard time with calming patients. I guess I (unintentionally) give off a disrespectful vibe with the tone of my voice. Any tips would be very appreciated." ]

[ "Always apologize even if it's the customers fault. It really helps for some reason, at least it does in a pharmacy setting and on the floor. ", "1. They're mad at the situation - not you.\n2. Listen to them completely.\n3. Be as empathetic as you can.\n4. As they're rambling on interject that you understand, can see why they feel the way they do.\n5. If you can jot down notes - good - if not - Make sure you repeat back to them your understanding of the problem because you want to be sure that you make sure management understands the situation as they see it.\n6. Get someone in management ASAP and make sure you explain the problem to them - if the customer is there as you explain it state the problem so the customer feels you are on their side.\n7. Let management handle the solution.\n8. Remember it's not your money or 'your' personal problem so don't take offense - be nice and calming in the situation no matter how much of an oddball ass they may be performing.\n9. Most importantly don't take it personal, ignore ignorance, smile, listen like you care even if you don't (kind of like being on stage in a play) and as much as possible, within reason, act as their agent in front of management. Caring for the customers problem means a lot.\n\nGood luck - Be careful you don't get caught flipping them off when they leave because they were a total ass.", "Also, be confident. Some people are pissed off for other reasons and just waiting for someone to take it out on. (And since you're saying \"patient\" in your OP, I assume they're all already a little unhappy to begin with) \n\nIf you're understanding but assertive, then they will trust you to take care of the issue and aren't as likely to escalate.", "Ya you can say that or you can be honest and say look I'm sorry it's not ready but we can't fill it if we don't understand what the rx says, I'd rather wait and have your doctor call us back than give you the wrong medication. And always make sure someone calls or faxes and get names, it's easier that way cuz you can say \"Mary says she's gonna call us back, or I have a note that says April faxed your doctor already, so were just waiting for a call back\" there are so many things you can do to make sure customers never yell at you, I mean I've been in rx retail for 7 years, it gets easier! ", "Play scapegoat on someone who is not there for starters. It sounds rude but make sure you don't blame them.\n\nExample: My coworker James may not have stocked that yet, I am sorry about the in continence let me check the back.\n\nLet them cool off by doing this. Just try to seperate you from the customer because it gives them a chance to calm down.\n\nIf they get mad at you for taking so long ask a manager for assistance.", "I told one irate customer that I was going to call her husband and get him to collect her if she didn't calm the fuck down.\n\nShe calmed down later, at home. Maybe.\n\nAnyway I no longer work in retail so....", "CEO\n\nClarify - repeat back the concern to ensure you understand it properly. \n\nEmpathize - \"I understand why you are upset.\"\n\nOffer a solution", "I'm not in retail but I work in customer service and I really have to disagree with many of the commenters below. As a short, petite woman, I learned that if I was *too* nice and put up with a disrespectful tone and *especially* if I apologized too much for things that weren't my fault, I would just get run over. People would take full liberty to stay pissed at me. I respect all of our clients but what's worked for me is putting up a professional wall. I will make it clear that I am going to do everything I can to help you. However, I will emphasize my limited ability as employee x: \"Ma'am, I am trying to help you. I want to help you. The wait times for the clinic aren't up to me, I cannot control that. But I can place a call to the doctor and ask him how long it will be before you are soon.\" If they give me more shit, I just repeat my plan of action and don't let the rest bother me. Opposite of what you would think, people *do* respond to assertiveness--if you are being professional and polite. ", "I found after working over a decade in customer service: \n\nIf they are irate, I recommend telling them that you will talk to them when they can discuss this calmly. It sounds daring, but most people will take a breath and calm down. Those that don't, are not worth talking to. Simply ask them to come back when they cool off and walk away. There is no use standing there being berated and possibly feeling threatened. \n\nMost of the time if you listen to their complaint, apologize, then (this works like gold), ask them what they think a reasonable resolution is. This will show you want to help them and give you a jumping off point for compromise. \n\nJust a few things I have gained from my experience that have worked well for me (most of the time).", "All ideas posted are great, I just want to add that whenever I dealt with an angry customer, I tried to put myself in their shoes and think of why they are upset and tell them that I would be upset aswell. Then instead of just offer a remedy, explain the steps you will take to fix the problem and offer an alternative in case plan A doesn't work. Then action both plans(if it's for a product that needs to be ordered and you can get it from two places).", "1. Apologize.\n2. Tell them you understand their problem.\n3. Ask them what they want you to do to correct the problem. \" What can I do to fix this problem for you?\"" ]

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[ "How Not to Be Friends with Someone I met a girl who now regularly invites me to things, including publicly by tagging me and my girlfriend on her wall with various social suggestions. Ex: *Who wants to go to Karaoke with me on Friday?* (followed by 8 tags)\n\nI honestly have no interest in building a friendship with her and I don't think I should feel socially obligated to hang out with her. How can get her to quit with the invites? I don't want to hurt her feelings.\n\n**", "How Not to Be Friends with Someone I met a girl who now regularly invites me to things, including publicly by tagging me and my girlfriend on her wall with various social suggestions. Ex: *Who wants to go to Karaoke with me on Friday?* (followed by 8 tags)\n\nI honestly have no interest in building a friendship with her and I don't think I should feel socially obligated to hang out with her. How can get her to quit with the invites? I don't want to hurt her feelings.\n\n**", "How Not to Be Friends with Someone I met a girl who now regularly invites me to things, including publicly by tagging me and my girlfriend on her wall with various social suggestions. Ex: *Who wants to go to Karaoke with me on Friday?* (followed by 8 tags)\n\nI honestly have no interest in building a friendship with her and I don't think I should feel socially obligated to hang out with her. How can get her to quit with the invites? I don't want to hurt her feelings.\n\n**", "How Not to Be Friends with Someone I met a girl who now regularly invites me to things, including publicly by tagging me and my girlfriend on her wall with various social suggestions. Ex: *Who wants to go to Karaoke with me on Friday?* (followed by 8 tags)\n\nI honestly have no interest in building a friendship with her and I don't think I should feel socially obligated to hang out with her. How can get her to quit with the invites? I don't want to hurt her feelings.\n\n**", "How Not to Be Friends with Someone I met a girl who now regularly invites me to things, including publicly by tagging me and my girlfriend on her wall with various social suggestions. Ex: *Who wants to go to Karaoke with me on Friday?* (followed by 8 tags)\n\nI honestly have no interest in building a friendship with her and I don't think I should feel socially obligated to hang out with her. How can get her to quit with the invites? I don't want to hurt her feelings.\n\n**", "How Not to Be Friends with Someone I met a girl who now regularly invites me to things, including publicly by tagging me and my girlfriend on her wall with various social suggestions. Ex: *Who wants to go to Karaoke with me on Friday?* (followed by 8 tags)\n\nI honestly have no interest in building a friendship with her and I don't think I should feel socially obligated to hang out with her. How can get her to quit with the invites? I don't want to hurt her feelings.\n\n**", "How Not to Be Friends with Someone I met a girl who now regularly invites me to things, including publicly by tagging me and my girlfriend on her wall with various social suggestions. Ex: *Who wants to go to Karaoke with me on Friday?* (followed by 8 tags)\n\nI honestly have no interest in building a friendship with her and I don't think I should feel socially obligated to hang out with her. How can get her to quit with the invites? I don't want to hurt her feelings.\n\n**", "How Not to Be Friends with Someone I met a girl who now regularly invites me to things, including publicly by tagging me and my girlfriend on her wall with various social suggestions. Ex: *Who wants to go to Karaoke with me on Friday?* (followed by 8 tags)\n\nI honestly have no interest in building a friendship with her and I don't think I should feel socially obligated to hang out with her. How can get her to quit with the invites? I don't want to hurt her feelings.\n\n**", "How Not to Be Friends with Someone I met a girl who now regularly invites me to things, including publicly by tagging me and my girlfriend on her wall with various social suggestions. Ex: *Who wants to go to Karaoke with me on Friday?* (followed by 8 tags)\n\nI honestly have no interest in building a friendship with her and I don't think I should feel socially obligated to hang out with her. How can get her to quit with the invites? I don't want to hurt her feelings.\n\n**", "How Not to Be Friends with Someone I met a girl who now regularly invites me to things, including publicly by tagging me and my girlfriend on her wall with various social suggestions. Ex: *Who wants to go to Karaoke with me on Friday?* (followed by 8 tags)\n\nI honestly have no interest in building a friendship with her and I don't think I should feel socially obligated to hang out with her. How can get her to quit with the invites? I don't want to hurt her feelings.\n\n**" ]

[ "You can just tell her. I mean, if she can't take the truth that's not really your fault. You don't have to be a jerk, just be like \"ya know, we don't really click. I don't hate you, I just don't really want to build a friendship.\" Alternately delete her on Facebook. I don't understand you people. Why do you keep people as friends on social media when you don't want them around?", "Delete her from Facebook.\n\nAlternatively, just say \"no thanks\" every time - eventually she will stop inviting you, unless she's particularly clueless - then back to suggestion #1.", "Alternate question: *How can I handle this but not have to do it like a functioning adult?*\n\nSeriously, grow up and talk to them about it. Stay calm and explain to her that you're not interested in hanging out. Tell her you'd appreciate it if she would refrain from tagging you in her posts on Facebook. Simple as that.", "Well I have pretty bad social anxiety and tend to feel that when people tag me in things like this they consider it an obligation. I usually just don't respond or go, seems to do a pretty good job of keeping people away.", "I'm in a situation like this sort of with my neighbor who has some personality quirks that I dont care for. I figured out to say: \"I'm sorry, I can't commit to that with you at this time.\"\n\nDone.", "either say yes/maybe and not go, say no or ignore it.\n\nRegardless of your technique, she will catch on and stop inviting you. ", "You can turn off notifications from that user. Then even if she does tag you it won't appear anymore.", "Depends on how old you are.\n\n- Under 17: No solution. You basically have to be her friend or make a mortal enemy if you reject her.\n- Between 17 and 24: You can try untagging yourself. Maybe they will eventually figure it out that you don't want to be bothered. Alternatively you can restrict tagging in photos. If you get questioned why you became untaggable, just say that you kept getting a lot of notifications about unimportant things such as apps and games, and it was annoying.\n\n- Over 24: Just tell her that you don't really wish to be tagged in such posts and would prefer if she didn't do it. If she asks why, tell her the truth - I don't really consider us as friends // I'd prefer you text me or call me.\n\n", "Post a bunch of trashy ads to porn sites and such to her timeline. Tag her in things she has no interest in. Most importantly, fix your settings so that you'll need to approve any posts you're tagged in.", "Have more morally reputable friends to invite her to gang bangs and other such things she would be naught to go to. See how fast she stops this tagging thing of hers" ]

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[ "Building credit for a college student I saw a great post on reddit (not sure if LPT) about building cr", "Building credit for a college student I saw a great post on reddit (not sure if LPT) about building cr", "Building credit for a college student I saw a great post on reddit (not sure if LPT) about building cr", "Building credit for a college student I saw a great post on reddit (not sure if LPT) about building cr", "Building credit for a college student I saw a great post on reddit (not sure if LPT) about building cr", "Building credit for a college student I saw a great post on reddit (not sure if LPT) about building cr" ]

[ "This will make me sound pretentious, but i was fortunate to have my parents help support me in college... BUT, my parents opened a cr", "This is a crazy but \"cool\" tip to building cr", "What I did, was a year ago, I opened a cr", "Get a simple cr", "Get a card with x% cashback. \n\nBuy anything you'd normally use your money on, and build cr", "A lot of people here have suggested good things, but here's another that'll help you after you're out of school as well:\n\nGet a secured cr" ]

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[ "How should I face my fears of being imperfect? I always feel like I need to do everything perfect, otherwise i feel I wont get the desired results. I am afraid of doing things imperfect. How should I face this fear?", "How should I face my fears of being imperfect? I always feel like I need to do everything perfect, otherwise i feel I wont get the desired results. I am afraid of doing things imperfect. How should I face this fear?", "How should I face my fears of being imperfect? I always feel like I need to do everything perfect, otherwise i feel I wont get the desired results. I am afraid of doing things imperfect. How should I face this fear?", "How should I face my fears of being imperfect? I always feel like I need to do everything perfect, otherwise i feel I wont get the desired results. I am afraid of doing things imperfect. How should I face this fear?", "How should I face my fears of being imperfect? I always feel like I need to do everything perfect, otherwise i feel I wont get the desired results. I am afraid of doing things imperfect. How should I face this fear?", "How should I face my fears of being imperfect? I always feel like I need to do everything perfect, otherwise i feel I wont get the desired results. I am afraid of doing things imperfect. How should I face this fear?", "How should I face my fears of being imperfect? I always feel like I need to do everything perfect, otherwise i feel I wont get the desired results. I am afraid of doing things imperfect. How should I face this fear?", "How should I face my fears of being imperfect? I always feel like I need to do everything perfect, otherwise i feel I wont get the desired results. I am afraid of doing things imperfect. How should I face this fear?" ]

[ "I used to feel this way when drawing and painting. I’m only doodling- but I would make a mistake or the art would be imperfect and I would start anew. But then, I realized the imperfections were nothing but something to build from, something to learn from. \n\nTranslating this to life is not easy, but knowing that you’re not alone is half the battle :)", "I'm still figuring this out myself so keen to see what other people say, but my best approach so far has been to practice! I've been trying some fun new hobbies and activities, and challenging myself to pick ones I know I won't be good at. I'm gradually seeing that translate into some other aspects of my life, which is cool.\n\n\nI also really like the saying \"the perfect is the enemy of the good\" and try to remind myself of that whenever I feel myself getting frustrated about doing things imperfectly. I hope this helps!", "By reflecting. What's the worst thing with not getting the expected results?\n\nBoth me and my partner are former perfectionists. But life striked us a suprise that made us unable to keep up that level of performance so now we go by \"Good enough\" in everything we do. It helps us to keep things on a realistic level instead of a perfection (unrealistic) level.\n\nTo reach good-enough mentality you need to practice *acceptance* \n\nYou can practice this on your own. Set a timer on 1 minute and get ready to draw. When the alarm beeps you have to put down the pen and then the next challenge is to say 3 positive things about your result. \n\nAnother practice is to drop a pen on the floor and don't pick it up. Let it be there for at least five minutes. Try to only focus on the fact that the pen is dropped, and that it's okay.", "Accept the fear as something you can't really control. Use the fear to your advantage, get it to help you be better and achieve things. See it as an overall positive life influence, but not something that has to be listened to at all times.", "Try considering that perfection is the antithesis of authenticity. Your mistakes will eventually develop into a style that will make your work unique", "Everything you do to improve your skills adds to your overall potential. And given some time you'll master that skill no matter how niche it may be. Once you get good in something, your overall confidence boosts up which overshadows every trivial imperfection you were bothered off. Bit ye bit you surpass your own limits.", "By knowing that no one is perfect and it's an impossible goal to strive for.\n\nWe all have flaws, we just have to learn how not to let them become tragic flaws.", "# [wabi sabi:](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wabi-sabi)\n\n*In traditional Japanese aesthetics, wabi-sabi (侘寂) is a world view centered on the acceptance of transience and imperfection.*" ]

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[ "How to be less vain? I know this is a strange request, but I'm hoping I'm not the only one who has problems with this. \n\nI'm extremely vain. I always feel like I am better than, prettier, and have better intentions than other people, even when I know its not true. I don't act like I am and I treat other people well, but I constantly have this inner monologue focused completely around me. It's very frustrating because it does not represent the person that I want to be. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips on how to stop thinking of themselves so much?", "How to be less vain? I know this is a strange request, but I'm hoping I'm not the only one who has problems with this. \n\nI'm extremely vain. I always feel like I am better than, prettier, and have better intentions than other people, even when I know its not true. I don't act like I am and I treat other people well, but I constantly have this inner monologue focused completely around me. It's very frustrating because it does not represent the person that I want to be. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips on how to stop thinking of themselves so much?", "How to be less vain? I know this is a strange request, but I'm hoping I'm not the only one who has problems with this. \n\nI'm extremely vain. I always feel like I am better than, prettier, and have better intentions than other people, even when I know its not true. I don't act like I am and I treat other people well, but I constantly have this inner monologue focused completely around me. It's very frustrating because it does not represent the person that I want to be. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips on how to stop thinking of themselves so much?", "How to be less vain? I know this is a strange request, but I'm hoping I'm not the only one who has problems with this. \n\nI'm extremely vain. I always feel like I am better than, prettier, and have better intentions than other people, even when I know its not true. I don't act like I am and I treat other people well, but I constantly have this inner monologue focused completely around me. It's very frustrating because it does not represent the person that I want to be. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips on how to stop thinking of themselves so much?", "How to be less vain? I know this is a strange request, but I'm hoping I'm not the only one who has problems with this. \n\nI'm extremely vain. I always feel like I am better than, prettier, and have better intentions than other people, even when I know its not true. I don't act like I am and I treat other people well, but I constantly have this inner monologue focused completely around me. It's very frustrating because it does not represent the person that I want to be. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips on how to stop thinking of themselves so much?", "How to be less vain? I know this is a strange request, but I'm hoping I'm not the only one who has problems with this. \n\nI'm extremely vain. I always feel like I am better than, prettier, and have better intentions than other people, even when I know its not true. I don't act like I am and I treat other people well, but I constantly have this inner monologue focused completely around me. It's very frustrating because it does not represent the person that I want to be. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips on how to stop thinking of themselves so much?", "How to be less vain? I know this is a strange request, but I'm hoping I'm not the only one who has problems with this. \n\nI'm extremely vain. I always feel like I am better than, prettier, and have better intentions than other people, even when I know its not true. I don't act like I am and I treat other people well, but I constantly have this inner monologue focused completely around me. It's very frustrating because it does not represent the person that I want to be. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips on how to stop thinking of themselves so much?" ]

[ "I have no tips but I feel like the fact that you're even asking this question is a really good start.", "I have the same problem as you. I've been called pretty all my life to the point where anyone who gets me in their vicinity always wants to parade me around in their entourage i.e. stunting at the club, closing business deals, or even to just be seen with me. Even though I try to be extremely kind, I can't help but feel that I'm prettier than everyone else. I mean, how many other girls are taken around the world for free without prostituting themselves?\n\nAfter a long argument, the boyfriend thought it would be good if I took up a job to get some real world experience, and he couldn't have been more right. I decided to be a waitress because I know I could make tips with my presence. On my first busy nights as a waitress, we had DJ night at our restaurant/lounge. With the loud music booming, a bunch of 20-something year olds flooded the lounge, all dressed up in the latest trendy clothes. And here I was, a girl of the same age in jeans and a t-shirt reeking of the smell of ramen and Windex. They wouldn't even look at me when I greeted them! And I laughed a little bit inside thinking, \"Wow, I've never been on this side of the party before!\" I was so used to being them.... Dolled up with a cocktail in hand on the weekends. Since then, I've really learned how to play life with a not-so-great deck of cards and appreciate those around me.\n\nI'm still vain and understand that God gave me some rare cards, but I've found it easier to be empathetic towards others and try to live life with a personality that surpasses my looks.\n\ntl;dr\nPut yourself in a losing position. Enter a competition, try your best. If you win, bragging rights are all yours. If you lose, you'll have to ask yourself 'Why?' and realize that there are obviously things that make you NOT perfect.", "I've had this same issue before. What I've learned is this, whatever your \"vain\" voice tells you, listen for a moment. Is it about being beautiful, being smarter, being all around better than other people? Take that voice and think of the opposite, ugly, ignorant, and thought down upon. Where could you start to find these type of people? Food kitchens, homeless shelters, etc. Volunteer in these types of places. Force yourself to interact with them so you can change your perceptions on beauty and intelligence. It could give you new light and help someone less fortunate have a better day. ", "Just keep this in mind: You're not good at everything, and someone is better than you at something. \n", "Vanity comes from your ego (which is this voice in your head that keeps telling you you're better, prettier than someone else). \n\nYour ego is where vanity and desires come from. \n\nSomething to realize is that you are not your thoughts. You're already on the right path by recognizing that you have this inner monologue. The more you observe your thoughts, and then think \"That's not me talking - that's my ego\", the more control you'll have over your mind. ", "Pick a person that you really look down on. One where you have all the reasons in the world. Make it a challenge to think about what good this person could have. Once you have covered everything you can think off try harder and think of more positive things about that person. Keep on doing this for as long as possible. It will feel pointless, hard and stupid. If you are lucky keep on thinking what could be good about that person. ", "Me, I know I'm hot and there is nothing wrong with it. It's important to be confident and our looks and presentation can take us to better places. However, I find that being happy for others is just as good for the soul. You can't possibly be the ONLY pretty girl or hot guy out there. There are countless attractive people! Everyone has different tastes too but we can all recognize beauty. Instead of thinking you're better, you should recognize the good qualities in others. Being sincere and transparent will draw more peopld in than just looks alone" ]

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[ "How to keep things from falling out of pockets. I have lost countless notebooks, pens, etc because they fell out of my pockets while I was sitting down or reclining on a couch or something. \nAre there any ways to keep things from falling out of my pockets that don't involve sewing something into my pockets? ", "How to keep things from falling out of pockets. I have lost countless notebooks, pens, etc because they fell out of my pockets while I was sitting down or reclining on a couch or something. \nAre there any ways to keep things from falling out of my pockets that don't involve sewing something into my pockets? ", "How to keep things from falling out of pockets. I have lost countless notebooks, pens, etc because they fell out of my pockets while I was sitting down or reclining on a couch or something. \nAre there any ways to keep things from falling out of my pockets that don't involve sewing something into my pockets? " ]

[ "I'm guessing using a bag isn't an option?\n\nHonestly, really you need a zip or some kind of fastening to stop it, both of which would require sewing, sorry.", "I used to be a stoner, and would forget things. I built up a habit on every time I get up from sitting, just spending a few seconds checking I've left nothing behind. Now it catches things that escaped a pocket occasionally, it's a useful habit.\n\nAs for your pockets, sounds like you've overfilling them. How about a cargo pant/short with more pockets, and less crap in each? I can understand the temptation, I HATE carrying any bags, it limits my naturally exploratory nature.", "I think your problem is that you put things that are too big for your pockets, such as notebooks, in your pockets. " ]

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[ "How to make the right amount of eye contact. I suppose I make too much eye contact after a life of being told I don’t make enough/any. Now people seem to awkwardly look away/around when I am talking to them or listening to them. I’ve tried to force myself to look away when they do, but I don’t know what to look at without seeming distracted or if that’s the best time for me to look away. How do you know how much eye contact to make without seeming distracted/creepy? What do you look at when you look away?", "How to make the right amount of eye contact. I suppose I make too much eye contact after a life of being told I don’t make enough/any. Now people seem to awkwardly look away/around when I am talking to them or listening to them. I’ve tried to force myself to look away when they do, but I don’t know what to look at without seeming distracted or if that’s the best time for me to look away. How do you know how much eye contact to make without seeming distracted/creepy? What do you look at when you look away?", "How to make the right amount of eye contact. I suppose I make too much eye contact after a life of being told I don’t make enough/any. Now people seem to awkwardly look away/around when I am talking to them or listening to them. I’ve tried to force myself to look away when they do, but I don’t know what to look at without seeming distracted or if that’s the best time for me to look away. How do you know how much eye contact to make without seeming distracted/creepy? What do you look at when you look away?", "How to make the right amount of eye contact. I suppose I make too much eye contact after a life of being told I don’t make enough/any. Now people seem to awkwardly look away/around when I am talking to them or listening to them. I’ve tried to force myself to look away when they do, but I don’t know what to look at without seeming distracted or if that’s the best time for me to look away. How do you know how much eye contact to make without seeming distracted/creepy? What do you look at when you look away?", "How to make the right amount of eye contact. I suppose I make too much eye contact after a life of being told I don’t make enough/any. Now people seem to awkwardly look away/around when I am talking to them or listening to them. I’ve tried to force myself to look away when they do, but I don’t know what to look at without seeming distracted or if that’s the best time for me to look away. How do you know how much eye contact to make without seeming distracted/creepy? What do you look at when you look away?" ]

[ "It's not the eye contact generally that makes people uncomfortable but maybe you have a bit of an intense look when you do meet their eyes? Personally I like to look into people's eyes when they talk but I try to match their emotions somewhat. Like if they are telling me something sad I try to have a soft empathetic face, if they are telling me a you won't believe this story I match my expression. I find that when I look into eyes people seem more willing to open up to me and tell me things. I never stare at them hard, I frequently change my expression, I nod along with what they are saying a little bit and idk just follow the conversation. \n\nI think the most important part is to be natural and relaxed, if you don't like prolonged eye contact then you don't have to make it. Meet their eyes once in a while to show you are listening but otherwise you can look at other things, people will understand.", "I'm still learning too. So, when you're talking you want to make sure you're lightly smiling. Unless it's a serious conversation. If you're looking away just look at another at the top of the haed and look back or behind them but quickly look back at them.\n\nIf you're not talking to the person don't stare at all, unless you you're trying to get their attention and are about to start a conversation", "Move your head around with small motions (nodding, tilting to the side). Once you do that, breaking eye contact starts to feel much more natural: i.e. you can use a head tilt to glance off to the side into middle distance. General rule of thumb is to maintain eye contact for \\~3 blinks and glance away for 1 blink.", "I usually make a triangle between both eyes and their mouth and switch every few seconds or so. That way, you are making eye contact about 66% of the time.", "It's more about the deadpan stare I think. if ur talking and keep eye contact and dont stone face them it isnt creepy" ]

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[ "I keep accidentally scratching pimples/bumbs on my back b/c I can't see them -> blood/leaves dark spot b/c of this. What might be some intelligent ways to always avoid this 100% of the time? Can't always run to a mirror shirtless and may have to deal w/ itch ", "I keep accidentally scratching pimples/bumbs on my back b/c I can't see them -> blood/leaves dark spot b/c of this. What might be some intelligent ways to always avoid this 100% of the time? Can't always run to a mirror shirtless and may have to deal w/ itch " ]

[ "good hygiene , good diet , maybe medication if it’s not getting any better. don’t pick at them they will just take longer to heal even if you feel like you are helping them somehow", "Drink water, get a good nights sleep and try having a bath for 10 minutes with 2 cups of baking soda, very good for skin. Keep nails short to avoid scratching" ]

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[ "how do I motivate myself? I’m a 23 year old female and I’m having a hard time finding something that I deeply care about so much to invest my time in. I want to feel successful and feel like I’m accomplishing something. Right now I’m serving at a restaurant and I do really enjoy that as my source of income, being on my feet and chatting with people everyday is awesome. The money is great and supports me, pays rent, etc. but I’m not fulfilled. For those who have been in my shoes, what have you done or found?", "how do I motivate myself? I’m a 23 year old female and I’m having a hard time finding something that I deeply care about so much to invest my time in. I want to feel successful and feel like I’m accomplishing something. Right now I’m serving at a restaurant and I do really enjoy that as my source of income, being on my feet and chatting with people everyday is awesome. The money is great and supports me, pays rent, etc. but I’m not fulfilled. For those who have been in my shoes, what have you done or found?", "how do I motivate myself? I’m a 23 year old female and I’m having a hard time finding something that I deeply care about so much to invest my time in. I want to feel successful and feel like I’m accomplishing something. Right now I’m serving at a restaurant and I do really enjoy that as my source of income, being on my feet and chatting with people everyday is awesome. The money is great and supports me, pays rent, etc. but I’m not fulfilled. For those who have been in my shoes, what have you done or found?", "how do I motivate myself? I’m a 23 year old female and I’m having a hard time finding something that I deeply care about so much to invest my time in. I want to feel successful and feel like I’m accomplishing something. Right now I’m serving at a restaurant and I do really enjoy that as my source of income, being on my feet and chatting with people everyday is awesome. The money is great and supports me, pays rent, etc. but I’m not fulfilled. For those who have been in my shoes, what have you done or found?", "how do I motivate myself? I’m a 23 year old female and I’m having a hard time finding something that I deeply care about so much to invest my time in. I want to feel successful and feel like I’m accomplishing something. Right now I’m serving at a restaurant and I do really enjoy that as my source of income, being on my feet and chatting with people everyday is awesome. The money is great and supports me, pays rent, etc. but I’m not fulfilled. For those who have been in my shoes, what have you done or found?", "how do I motivate myself? I’m a 23 year old female and I’m having a hard time finding something that I deeply care about so much to invest my time in. I want to feel successful and feel like I’m accomplishing something. Right now I’m serving at a restaurant and I do really enjoy that as my source of income, being on my feet and chatting with people everyday is awesome. The money is great and supports me, pays rent, etc. but I’m not fulfilled. For those who have been in my shoes, what have you done or found?", "how do I motivate myself? I’m a 23 year old female and I’m having a hard time finding something that I deeply care about so much to invest my time in. I want to feel successful and feel like I’m accomplishing something. Right now I’m serving at a restaurant and I do really enjoy that as my source of income, being on my feet and chatting with people everyday is awesome. The money is great and supports me, pays rent, etc. but I’m not fulfilled. For those who have been in my shoes, what have you done or found?", "how do I motivate myself? I’m a 23 year old female and I’m having a hard time finding something that I deeply care about so much to invest my time in. I want to feel successful and feel like I’m accomplishing something. Right now I’m serving at a restaurant and I do really enjoy that as my source of income, being on my feet and chatting with people everyday is awesome. The money is great and supports me, pays rent, etc. but I’m not fulfilled. For those who have been in my shoes, what have you done or found?" ]

[ "Try picking up an instrument. Music is the only thing that I have a passion for. Life would be dull with out it", "unfortunately many/most of the things people do in life are done without motivation. Motivation should be viewed as a luxury and deeply appreciated. If you can find something constructive/positive that motivates you that's lucky. \n\nDiscipline, unfortunately, is what most things require and that sucks. Good luck.", "old guru says... if you have a hobbies or things that you do for pleasure, well chose one that can give you profits. So your job will get you fulfilled. ommmmmm😉", "What works for me, is writing about how I feel. When I force myself to do that for a couple of days, I start to get insights about my feelings and where they come from, which often leads to a clear insights in what steps to take to start feeling better. \n\nFor example, when I'm feeling down or unfullfilled, I just literaly start with \"I feel like shit. Why do I feel like shit? Well I want to do something that matters. What matters? Helping other people\" or something like that. I keep asking myself questions and force myself to answer them as truthfully as I can. By doing that, I get closer to my real feelings, step by step.\n\nTry it, it can't hurt!", "Since you're already in the restaurant biz and more importantly you like it, would you consider striving to achieve more there? First of all, set ever-increasing sales goals for yourself (greater per-night take, greater per-head, etc) by researching sales techniques (books, classes, etc). Can you strive to move up to more upscale restaurants where you can make more money, learn more complex menus? Branch out and also become a cocktail expert, wine expert, even cooking expert? What about moving to eventually be a manager, then GM? Something to consider... progressing in a chosen career is a very common motivator for people, and can lead to a lot of satisfactory accomplishments. I've done this myself and it's been very rewarding, monetarily as well as having accomplished a lot of cool stuff.\n\nAnother option is to challenge yourself by completely disrupting your comfort zone, like pursuing a totally different career. It's highly motivating to have to learn quick!", "I took up a hobby. My interest grew in that hobby so much it is now a great source of income.... better yet, it is fulfilling, I love working at it and I'm really good at it. Maybe a hobby might turn into something like that for you.", "I heard Waffle House managers make over $100k per year, if you like the industry maybe you would be suited for that!", "First a comment, you enjoy working at the restaurant, and sounds like you make good money. Keep that as your source of income, but expand on that.\n\nLearn bar tending, or advance to management, although a good waitress makes as much as a manager most times.\n\nFind a hobby, and if you want to add that as a second job, use it to make some money, but be wary of resenting it when you *have* to do it.\n\nHelp out in the community, or with a friend in need. Find something you can do on your time, not forced to on someone else's.\n\nI worked in restaurants my whole life, and I felt good. Took the little wins, like when a customer recommended to someone to come where I worked for lunch or dinner. Satisfaction can be found in many ways, not just in career." ]

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[ "How do motivate yourself to do things without berating yourself? For my whole life, I’ve been motivating myself by white knuckling it and telling myself what a lazy asshole I am, how much worse I am than other people, etc. Well, I have really bad depression and anxiety, so I’m trying to stop the negative self talk. How do you guys motivate yourself to do things that are difficult without this kind of drill sergeant mentality?", "How do motivate yourself to do things without berating yourself? For my whole life, I’ve been motivating myself by white knuckling it and telling myself what a lazy asshole I am, how much worse I am than other people, etc. Well, I have really bad depression and anxiety, so I’m trying to stop the negative self talk. How do you guys motivate yourself to do things that are difficult without this kind of drill sergeant mentality?", "How do motivate yourself to do things without berating yourself? For my whole life, I’ve been motivating myself by white knuckling it and telling myself what a lazy asshole I am, how much worse I am than other people, etc. Well, I have really bad depression and anxiety, so I’m trying to stop the negative self talk. How do you guys motivate yourself to do things that are difficult without this kind of drill sergeant mentality?", "How do motivate yourself to do things without berating yourself? For my whole life, I’ve been motivating myself by white knuckling it and telling myself what a lazy asshole I am, how much worse I am than other people, etc. Well, I have really bad depression and anxiety, so I’m trying to stop the negative self talk. How do you guys motivate yourself to do things that are difficult without this kind of drill sergeant mentality?", "How do motivate yourself to do things without berating yourself? For my whole life, I’ve been motivating myself by white knuckling it and telling myself what a lazy asshole I am, how much worse I am than other people, etc. Well, I have really bad depression and anxiety, so I’m trying to stop the negative self talk. How do you guys motivate yourself to do things that are difficult without this kind of drill sergeant mentality?", "How do motivate yourself to do things without berating yourself? For my whole life, I’ve been motivating myself by white knuckling it and telling myself what a lazy asshole I am, how much worse I am than other people, etc. Well, I have really bad depression and anxiety, so I’m trying to stop the negative self talk. How do you guys motivate yourself to do things that are difficult without this kind of drill sergeant mentality?", "How do motivate yourself to do things without berating yourself? For my whole life, I’ve been motivating myself by white knuckling it and telling myself what a lazy asshole I am, how much worse I am than other people, etc. Well, I have really bad depression and anxiety, so I’m trying to stop the negative self talk. How do you guys motivate yourself to do things that are difficult without this kind of drill sergeant mentality?", "How do motivate yourself to do things without berating yourself? For my whole life, I’ve been motivating myself by white knuckling it and telling myself what a lazy asshole I am, how much worse I am than other people, etc. Well, I have really bad depression and anxiety, so I’m trying to stop the negative self talk. How do you guys motivate yourself to do things that are difficult without this kind of drill sergeant mentality?" ]

[ "“Anything worth doing, is worth doing half ass” \n\nMost of the battle is just starting, even if it’s bad. Doing a task poorly is still better than having not done it. So I use that to motivate myself to just try. I’ll load maybe just the cups into the dishwasher or vacuum just the kitchen and that’s still better than if I did nothing, even though I didn’t do the whole task.", "Do things a step at a time.\n\nYou may not have the time/energy/motivation to clean the whole house. But load the dishwasher.\n\nYou may not feel ready to do a full body work out, but go out for a ten-twenty minute walk.\n\nSame for budgeting, saving 5 bucks is better than nothing.\n\nShowering seems like too much today? Do a quick \"pits, bits and face\" wash.\n\nOnce you start to form a habit it's easier to build on it and use that time to your benefit. \n\nTell yourself you are doing your best, if you ever find that doesn't feel true, then aim to do a little better tomorrow. \n\nBest of luck", "Start.\n\nDon't think about the whole 3 mile run. That's hard. But you know what is easy? Putting your running shoes on. Once your running shoes are on I bet you're going for that run", "First off... take a breath. A lot of people in this world rely on cries of laziness as a way to write people off and its easy to fall into that trap but its reductive of the actual situation. Check this article out that I came across yesterday. Think about it and see if it jibes with you.\n\nhttps://humanparts.medium.com/laziness-does-not-exist-3af27e312d01", "This might possibly work for you. Give yourself a \"reward\" after every segment of piece, of every job.\n\nBreak any job into pieces. Let's use dishwashing as an example. \n\nOne piece might be gathering, sorting, stacking in dishwasher (or dishpan), wiping and cleaning counters. Another part is actual washing -- but if there are a lot, then washing all the glassware and plates and silverware. \n\nSecond part would be pots and pans, anything bulky and heavy, etc.\n\nThird part would be (after leaving them to dry, or after running dishwasher) putting everything away.\n\nAfter each \"piece\" of work, you reward yourself. Sit down for 10 minutes? That's a tiny reward. Have a snack you like? Reward. Take a brief walk outside the house in the sunshine? Reward.\n\nGet the idea?\n\nInstead of focusing on berating yourself, you'll be focusing on only two things -- finishing the very do-able task at hand, and the reward right away at the end of it.", "I think you may start with trying to address the depression and anxiety if that's a possibility. Maybe you have, and if that's the case, then my apologies. \nHaving dealt with depression and anxiety myself, I can tell you that those issues do severely affect your ability to think positively about yourself as well as find motivation to do things. \nWithout addressing the depression, it's going to be challenging to stay motivated and feel good about yourself no matter what tactics you apply in the short-term. \nI spent the better part of a decade in that state before finally accepting I had a problem and doing something about it. It's difficult, and likely won't ever disappear for good, but I think you'll find it's much easier to be motivated and be kind to yourself. \n\n\nEveryone has faults. We're all unique in our own special way and we all deserve love and affection. Yes, we make mistakes, and we can all be assholes, including to ourselves. I'm sure you have many amazing qualities and hope one day you see them in yourself. Don't let shitty people keep you down, either. Lift your head up and keep going! \n\n\nAll that being said, like others have mentioned. Getting started is the toughest part, but depending on what you're doing, you can involve others. Like planning a training session with someone if you're trying to lose weight, or a study session for school. Make yourself accountable by involving others when possible. It's much easier to just tap out if you're in it alone. Plus, you can also help someone else out this way, which I've found can help with depression. Maybe your partner needs you to hold them accountable just as much as you do them. \n\n\nWishing you the best!", "I think about the nice feeling that I'll have when the thing is done and completed, and I no longer have it hanging over my head.", "For me, lists work. I make a list of all the things I need to do (even small things) and cross them off as I complete them. Crossing things off of my list feels good and motivates me to get a few more crossed off." ]

[ 24, 18, 13, 11, 6, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "How can I measure the size of a ring at home? Google search results turn up how to measure the proper ring size for my own hand, but how can I measure the size of an actual ring in my possession? ", "How can I measure the size of a ring at home? Google search results turn up how to measure the proper ring size for my own hand, but how can I measure the size of an actual ring in my possession? " ]

[ "http://www.google.com/webhp?hl=en&tab=ii#hl=en&sugexp=les%3B&gs_nf=1&cp=20&gs_id=26&xhr=t&q=printable+ring+size+chart&pf=p&sclient=psy-ab&oq=printable+ring+size+&gs_l=&pbx=1&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.r_qf.&fp=3dc95e9e4b11f48e&biw=1331&bih=715", "What I would do is just put the ring on a photocopier and copy it. A jeweler can then easily figure out the ring size from that. Of course, don't enlarge or shrink the photocopy, duh.\n\nIf you don't have that available and you want to be very discreet, then snap a close-up photo of it beside a ruler. " ]

[ 3, 1 ]

[ "What to say/do when introduced to someone? Obviously formal introductions are different, but usually when a friend introduces me to another friend, I usually just say \"Hi nice to meet you\" and it gets awkward before someone else says something.", "What to say/do when introduced to someone? Obviously formal introductions are different, but usually when a friend introduces me to another friend, I usually just say \"Hi nice to meet you\" and it gets awkward before someone else says something.", "What to say/do when introduced to someone? Obviously formal introductions are different, but usually when a friend introduces me to another friend, I usually just say \"Hi nice to meet you\" and it gets awkward before someone else says something.", "What to say/do when introduced to someone? Obviously formal introductions are different, but usually when a friend introduces me to another friend, I usually just say \"Hi nice to meet you\" and it gets awkward before someone else says something.", "What to say/do when introduced to someone? Obviously formal introductions are different, but usually when a friend introduces me to another friend, I usually just say \"Hi nice to meet you\" and it gets awkward before someone else says something.", "What to say/do when introduced to someone? Obviously formal introductions are different, but usually when a friend introduces me to another friend, I usually just say \"Hi nice to meet you\" and it gets awkward before someone else says something.", "What to say/do when introduced to someone? Obviously formal introductions are different, but usually when a friend introduces me to another friend, I usually just say \"Hi nice to meet you\" and it gets awkward before someone else says something.", "What to say/do when introduced to someone? Obviously formal introductions are different, but usually when a friend introduces me to another friend, I usually just say \"Hi nice to meet you\" and it gets awkward before someone else says something.", "What to say/do when introduced to someone? Obviously formal introductions are different, but usually when a friend introduces me to another friend, I usually just say \"Hi nice to meet you\" and it gets awkward before someone else says something." ]

[ "Ask how they know the introducer, then make fun of the introducer. Then tell them how you met the introducer.", "Sometimes the best and most appreciated thing is to ask them about themselves.\n\nWe all love nothing more than to talk about ourselves and really love it when someone shows a real interest in us.", "Like others have said, start off by giving them a compliment ( if deserved) or notice something they have on/ something around that you could comment on. Or just say \" Hey, nice to meet you. What is your opinion on colossal squids?\"", "I actually have a good one for this. Its a little weird, but it works. I say 'hey [new person] great to meet you, what's your story?' \n\nThere's usually a little pause, or they just say a few cursory facts about their life. That's when I say \"ok, I got one\" and proceed to tell a brief but amusing story about something weird that happened to me. I have a few go-to stories, and I usually end up telling them about the time I ran over a squirrel with my bike. I think the squirrel was ok. - He just got back up and kept scurrying across the street - but then I started to think about that squirrel's life and how he was just going about his business and suddenly BAM. Gets hit by a bike. Anyway, while I was biking along, having this though, I got hit by a car. \n\nThen I say again, \"so, [new person], what's your story?\" This can start a little amusing back and forth that actually reveals a good amount about the person's life, and you're both a little entertained. Depends on the setting obviously, but it works for me more often than not. ", "People love to talk about themselves. Ask how they know the mutual friend. Then \nFORD - Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams\n\nUse this other LPT\n[https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/yfzgu/lpt_how_to_greatly_improve_conversation/](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/yfzgu/lpt_how_to_greatly_improve_conversation/)", "* Eye contact\n\n* Firm handshake\n\n* Nice to meet you, [so-and-so] (important to repeat name. I do just to remember it)\n\n* Depending on the situation, comment on clothing/appearance/hair whatever. (\"Hey, that's a sharp haircut,\" expresses interest and compliments person on something they obviously care about. Can be a good icebreaker.)\n\n* SMILE and positive vocal inflection. Show you are genuinely happy for the introduction.\n\n* Good posture\n\nRemember this. It takes <2 seconds to make a first impression of someone (you can't help it) and 45 minutes to change someone's impression of you. Your first impression starts before the handshake. I cannot stress enough how important this is.\n\n\n\n", "I'm learning that if you don't like talking about yourself, be the one to direct the conversation.\n\nIf a question is directed toward you, come up with a fancy one liner and then immediately begin asking your own questions. Sometimes you don't even need to listen to their answer. Small talk is usually the same repetitive bullshit questions anyway", "Say, \"charmed, I'm sure.\" Because it sounds like you're being nice, but if you take the words literally, that isn't clear at all.", "I find that asking, \"Do you like cheese?\" can be helpful (you can replace cheese with whatever you want but i'm going to use it as an example) and depending on their answer you can ask what kind of cheeses they like or find out if you have any favourite cheeses in common or if they don't like cheese you can ask them why not (also a good way to find out if someone is lactose because they'll usually tell you) " ]

[ 20, 6, 5, 4, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "networking and navigating friendships when you get fired from a job As the title says. I worked there for a long time, and almost all my friends work there. It's a small enough place that I'm sure stories will be going around. Also, what's the correct way of answering questions about why I was fired without badmouthing the company they still work for?", "networking and navigating friendships when you get fired from a job As the title says. I worked there for a long time, and almost all my friends work there. It's a small enough place that I'm sure stories will be going around. Also, what's the correct way of answering questions about why I was fired without badmouthing the company they still work for?" ]

[ "Stick to the facts. I did this, they did that. Perhaps there was a misunderstanding, I don't know the scenario in which you got fired. Try to keep opinions out of it. Don't encourage them to try and intervene to get you your job back if they offer.", "You are asking the right questions. Anyone who asks you what happened, including friends, family, and potential employers, should be given an easy-to-understand story that they can relate to. \n\nExample: a friend of mine was out of work for a long time after the company he was emotionally invested in went bankrupt and the owner fled the country. There are tons of juicy details; drugs, infidelity, missing money. He was preparing to interview for a new job in a new role and had no clue how to explain what happened. The employment gap could be covered by freelancing side work. But the nature of the situation at his last employer was tricky. He was interviewing in the same industry in the same town, so the chances of some of the details of the last job already being known were high. What should he say?\n\nWhat we came up with was this: \"Everyone lost skin in that game.\" He left it at that and just listened to the interviewer let off some steam about how much he lost as a former supplier to that defunct company. It worked because it was totally honest and authentic. It worked because it didn't talk dirty about anyone. It worked because it answered the emotional question without sharing the facts. It worked because he got the job. \n\nBy the way, it's a trap to believe that the facts will explain everything. This is almost never true. There are always other circumstances surrounding a termination that are open to interpretation and you cannot predict how they will be interpreted with much confidence. \n\nExample: I was terminated from a small aerospace company after a long illness that made it impossible for me to work in the machine shop again. There wasn't another job within the company for which I was qualified. And, I loved working in aerospace. I retrained in computer programming and started interviewing. Why did I leave aerospace when I loved it so much? A friend gave me this answer: \"Aerospace is a stagnant industry right now. My choices for advancement were spend many years working full time and going to night school to get an engineering degree, or change careers into a growing industry with more opportunity.\" The health details didn't need to be revealed since I was not going to be programming inside a machine shop. All of the interviewers nodded 'yes' when I answered this way. One even said, \"Wow; good decision.\"\n\nIt's easy to fall into the habit of trashing a company after they terminate you. It's a lot more work to frame the experience in a way that propels you forward in a positive way. But it's well worth the effort." ]

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[ "Living alone and working full time for the first time. Swimming in new waters and I feel like i'm not doing this well enough. Advice?", "Living alone and working full time for the first time. Swimming in new waters and I feel like i'm not doing this well enough. Advice?", "Living alone and working full time for the first time. Swimming in new waters and I feel like i'm not doing this well enough. Advice?", "Living alone and working full time for the first time. Swimming in new waters and I feel like i'm not doing this well enough. Advice?" ]

[ "Build up an emergency fund that covers your living expenses for 3-6 months. Might take a couple years but it will give you a lasting sense of security and peace of mind for the rest of your life.\n\nAnd along those lines, learn to budget! ", "My husband is military and is gone a lot. The deployment support team from the our military family resource centre suggested to get all your paperwork in order (bank info, deed to your house, insurance paperwork etc), and keep it in one organized binder somewhere in your house. Then tell someone you trust (like a sibling or parent), where they can find this binder and what it contains. It's such a comfort knowing that if something happened to me like an accident or whatever, that this info can be easily accessed by myself or a trusted person. \n\nMany grocery stores do delivery now which is a blessing for when you get home on a Friday and realize you have nothing to eat in your house. Order your groceries ahead of time and have it delivered (if that's your thing). \n\nIf you've recently moved to a new town or city: Ask friends, neighbors, or coworkers and compile a list of trusted tradespeople and professionals. Because inevitably, your faucet will leak, your basement will flood, your car will break down, or some other disaster will arise. It's MUCH easier to run over to that list and call your plumber than worry about which one to chose while your toilet is overflowing into your bathroom and won't stop. Just trust me on this 😂\n\nAlso try to cook for yourself a nice meal at least a few times a week, or on a weekend. Just for yourself.\nA lot of times when I'm alone I get lazy and eat salad from a bag and call it dinner. I really have to make an effort to cook for myself. I pick out recipes to try and really attempt a full meal. It's really rewarding when you have a nice meal.\n", "what are you having troubles with? do you like your job? do you not do enough outside of work? do you have trouble meeting people? some background could help us help you!", "Always keep imperishable food somewhere, like cans of vegetables that last year's and honey, if you happen to struggle at some point with money, you'll be happy" ]

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[ "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?", "How does one work a 40hr a week job and not make it feel like it’s taking up all my time? When I get home I just want to go to sleep and then I spend the whole day thinking about how I have to go to work the next day. It feels like it’s taking up all my time and energy. I know it’s only a regular full time job so maybe I just have to get used to it?" ]

[ "What’s worked for me is :\n\n-Consistent sleep schedule\n\n-Setting boundaries at work (I’ll stay late to finish a task , but more often than not, I’m gone at the time I’m scheduled to leave).\n\n-Waking up 2.5 hrs before needing to be at work. Getting my some good “me” time in the morning helps my mental state tremendously, and helps the days to feel productively long. For years I would wake up a half hour-1 hour before work and I would be rushing to get ready and out the door. I no longer do that. \n\n-learn something new everyday at your job. I promise when you’re actively learning , time seems to slow down. ", "If there are shift bids, choosing the super early ones that no one wants helps. You get home earlier than most people and there is still daylight outside. A quick shower to refresh yourself and bam, you feel like you still have a lot of the day left if you’re home at 2-3pm.", "1. If you can - Adjust hours, ex I use to do 9 to 5 but now I do 7 to 3. I prefer it\n\n2. Work from home/hybrid - not everyone can do it but it saves time and money so if you can, do it.\n\n3. Have something to look forward to after work no matter how small\n\n4. Workout before work, and do meal prep on Sundays and Thursdays.\n\n5. Figurd out how many sick days you have and use accordingly\n\n6. Use weekends not to sleep in until 11, maybe until 9 and seize them because you only get 2\n\n7. Win the lottery", "A lot of these LPT for work situations only really seem to apply to those who work a typical 9-5 in an office setting, and I get frustrated that whenever I struggle with similar issues & seek advice, little of it is applicable. For those of us in retail, food service, etc. the conversation changes a lot. For instance, how am I supposed to keep a consistent sleep schedule, when the time I start work varies anywhere between 8:30am to 12:30pm? How am I supposed to consistently make plans and be social outside on the “weekend” when I may not even have two days off sequentially, and need to choose between chores or relaxation or recreation on my disjointed days off? How do you maintain a sense of passionate productivity outside of work when you do labor all day that exhausts you mentally/socially/physically? For real, curious if anyone has any advice.", "getting a job that starts at the right time for you\n\nI see many people getting fucked up trying to work a job that starts at 6 am when theyd naturally wake up at 9 or whatever", "Just got my first full time job last December at 33. I'm right there with you my friend.\n\nI've found the thing is college was easy. There was always something new to do and you were told exactly what to do and where to go.\n\nIn the adult world it's like taking the same class over and over and over again. And nobody tells you the plan you've gotta make it yourself.\n\nIt's an adjustment of the highest order for sure", "The truth is, 40 hours/week is too much for a lot of people. We all know people who can work 60-70 hours a week but don't compare yourself to them.\n\nSee if you can reduce the number of days/hours you work. If you still need 40 hours to pay the bills, see if you can do 4x10 hour days/week, maybe with a day off on Wednesday. Alternatively, cut your spending and work only 20 or 30 hours or find a different job that doesn't drain you so much.", "No you're running the rat race everyday. I remember more from quarantine when i got laid off making more money from unemployment than I do the last 4 years.\n\nWhy? Because it was the only time I remember actually enjoying myself getting to spend time with friends and family.\n\nWork is the same thing every day. Depending on your schedule it makes it difficult to do anything besides on the days you have off but usually by then most people just want to rest. Not to mention I make more than my states min wage ($14.49) and still struggle to pay bills", "I don't know, it's awful. We aren't met to waste our lives away working so much. 40 hours a week is way way too much and was designed when people had a wife at home doing all the cooking and chores. Doing it all is just not sustainable. I hate it and don't really get people who are just okay with it.", "The antiwork sub, even though it can be a bit much sometimes, has made me realize this: \n\nWork as much as you're paid. That is, perform quality work to your own standard, but don't put in \"extra effort\". If you do, don't stay late. If you make exceptions to that, keep it to singular tasks on an occasional basis only. On your off days, completely separate yourself emotionally and mentally from your work. Don't answer the work number, don't check your work email, you get the picture. They don't own any of you. Allowing work stress into your personal time can be very unhealthy, so it's important to make a clean separation when you clock out. \n\nPlan at least one thing for the first day of your weekend. I find if I don't do that, I relax the day away. Eating better, drinking alcohol much less, spending quality time with people you care about. All those \"someday\" things? Plan them!", "You can't. It is 1/3 of your day, another 1/3 is sleeping, and the remaining 1/3 is divided between commuting, being called or emailed out of hours by the boss, groceries, housework etc... just exhaustion. \n\nYou have plan to reduce your hours for sake of sanity. Hopefully a 35 hour/4 day week will become the norm soon (it is a trend spreading worldwide), but until then make your role measurably more efficient and rather than ask for a payrise (ha! what are those?!) ask to reduce your hours 10% for the same pay - then next year do the same. \n\nThose hours are way more valuable, a non-renewable resource. Claim back your life. Your employer benefits too, more efficiently getting the work done, less chance you will get sick or go postal.", "You have a spouse and a job that can support a family on a single income. That's literally it\n\nWhen the 40 hour work week was invented, it was assumed that pretty much all workers would have a wife at home taking care of all the domestic duties- cooking, cleaning, child care, etc. With those tasks taken care of and someone to help take care of you, workers could have some semblance of a life.\n\nBut that's just not true anymore. Even in relationships, both partners often have to work to make ends meet, and all those domestic tasks still need to be done. It's no wonder that it feels so overwhelming", "My advice is to work toward working for yourself if you can. \n\nI run a small communications agency. There's a strong correlation to how much I work and how much money I make. In good years, I may double my salary from the average years.\n\nSo, some weeks I work my ass off. Other weeks I take Friday off and go hiking. \n\nThe work hours seem more meaningful if you're in charge of what you're doing, why you're doing it and, to a degree, how much you're getting paid for each hour of labour.\n\nIt's higher risk, which isn't for everyone, but it's also higher reward.", "The average person spends 40% or more of their waking hours doing “work” or work related activities like commuting. Everyone has different needs to achieve an ideal work/life balance. There’s no law that says you have to succumb to the 40 hour work week if you are not living a fulfilling life doing that. Some industries don’t have flexibility with this, but my advice would be to consider that when job searching or pursuing a career. If you wanna try it and see if you can acclimate, cool. But if after 6 months to a year you are still feeling like you are living to work rather than working to live, consider your scheduling options or career change. It’s never to late to pursue a different career path. Don’t force yourself in to a schedule that sucks up all your fulfillment and leaves you regretting your choice. You’re never stuck and you have to consider your needs and priorities. Don’t be so busy making a living that you forget to have a life and don’t let “this is just what people are supposed to do” mentality get the best of you.", "It’s probably the job. Maybe look for something new. You’re describing exactly how I felt two jobs ago. My current job I don’t dread waking up to go in the morning. Nor do I constantly think about it all day", "Schedule a thing after. I work 40 hours a week. Volunteer and go the gym. Schedule the shit to shake yourself of having just been at work. \n\nBefore this I also worked full time and did school full time at night. The time is there. Just gotta use it.", "Get some hobbies. Find your source of joy in this life. For many years, i found myself in a similar depressed slump, where it felt like \"my life is just my job\".\n\nAnd then i started lifting, going cycling, i picked up cooking and took an interest in DIY projects. i made some online friends to play video games with aswell. I started creating a life that i look forward to doing more than i dread going to work. When you have something of substance to take your mind off things/something to look forward to, the outlook of scenarios look less bleak. \n\nI'm still creating my life, and giving myself more and more things to look forward too, and it has changed my outlook on my 9-5 from something i hate but need to do, to something that allows me to do what i love.", "Get a WFH job. I felt like this and hated going to work. I literally cannot wrap my head around why we would leave high school, where we had little say with what we did in our day, to then go to college, where we had almost full control of our schedules, to then go get a job that went back to having very little control of our lives like in high school! I was so happy in college and realized this inflexibility of 9-5 jobs is what made me so unhappy. With WFH I got a good chunk of time back and can do what I want on a lunch break. It's really good if you have a company that doesn't care about when you work as long as you get the job done. It still sucks that I have to work but the freedom of not being tied to an office is so nice!", "If you work in an office job or similar - my colleague gave me this advice: Only work about 70% most days. Then, if your boss or team says that it's a crunch, deadlines have to be reached etc. go up to 100% until that period is over. If you don't you'll find yourself working 150% or 200% quite often and you will burn out, get sick, feel like life is not worth it etc. \n\n\nLong term, even the employer benefit as you can keep it up sustainably.", "Kids are even bigger time sinks. A lot is said about kids costing money but more than that they cost time, like all of it. Don't have kids if you are already feeling time is slipping away. Kids will make every bit of your time disappear for the rest of your life.", "Do you *have* to work 40 hrs/week? I can pay my bills and save money perfectly fine with a 32 hr workweek (28F, no kids). If you don’t need the extra money but can live comfortably with a 32hr or even a 36hr job, you should do it. I’m not lazy at all, but I wasn’t born to work 5 out of 7 days. Fuck that. Every Wednesday is Me day, and I need this to stay sane and (physically, mentally and emotionally) healthy. I perform much better at my job as well if I have that one extra day for myself.", "You have to find things you’re interested in and do them. Life is boring if you just eat, sleep and work. I have events I look forward to every week. I play trivia, volleyball and kickball on different nights of the week. I have a weekly/biweekly DnD game with friends. I also am in a book club. And I usually meet up with friends for dinner/brunch at least once per weekend. All of these things I look forward too. Whenever work is dragging me down a bit I know that I have something fun planned in the evening. Other times I look forward to a whole day or weekend off where I do nothing but laze around at home and watch tv. If you want to look forward to stuff you’ve got to plan it and follow through!", "Setting an alarm for the time that you need to start getting ready might help. You keep thinking about going to work later because you know that it's really important and you don't want to forget it. Setting an alarm frees your brain up from constantly worrying about that important thing it needs to remember to do later.", "Sounds like you just started working full time. Like many changes that occur through life, there is an adjustment period. I felt very similar my first few months working full time. Give it some time and you'll get used to it.", "Yeah, scheduling/doing something IMMEDIATELY after work is the move. If you go home and sit on the couch, you're done. I switch to working on a side project--literally unplug my work laptop and then switch my monitors over to my personal laptop, or grab my ipad and start drawing. That or go for a walk. It really doesn't matter, just DON'T ~~LOOK UP~~ SIT DOWN. Even if you only do something for like half an hour.", "The work systems in place need to change! We aren’t meant to work so hard for so little pay. Everyone is exhausted. Sorry OP!", "Sounds like you work seconds. Late risers love second since they can sleep in but if it doesn't fit you it can be hard since \"going to work\" looms over the hours you don't work until you do go in. Most secondshifters counter this by just staying up later after they get home from work and shifting their \"morning\" to start closer to work time. \n\nHope that helps.", "Move out of the United States. I recommend watching a movie called “where to invade next” it’s very informative on other countries living qualities in comparison to our own. Many businesses in other countries also respect that people work better at their job when a good work/life balance is maintained.", "Being neurotypical helps.\n\nNo but in all seriousness, I didn't known how people could possibly accept 40h4 work weeks without starting constant riots until I understood that most peoples brains work differently and most people can go into routine auto pilot, switch their focus easily and are not completely drained after an 8-9 hour day", "don't respond to emails/texts/calls from co workers outside of your normal hours if it is about work.\n\ni have clients who will send emails Saturday at midnight and I just laugh wondering if they think I will actually respond when they do that", "There’s a lot of good advice here, but there’s a few things I want to add:\n\nDon’t beat yourself up over this. Humans aren’t built for the 40-hour work week. As you get used to the ebb and flow of your job, it’ll get easier.\n\nTry putting as much money away in savings as you can. If you don’t get used to your job by the time you’ve saved up for 3-6 months of expenses, then I would consider finding a line of work you might enjoy more", "If you have a job with a flexible schedule, you could try working 4 10 hour days instead of the typical 5 day schedule. It does suck to be stuck at work longer, but, at least for me, having a whole day off in the middle of the week or getting 3-day weekends is worth it.", "Here's the fun part: you don't.\n\nThis is a feature, not a bug. \n\nIf you're tired at the end of the day, you're more likely to pay for conveniences like takeout. You're more likely to work a second job to pay for those conveniences. Your kids are more likely to be raised by the TV and the school system, which serves to condition them into thinking the breakneck schedule their parents work is both normal and acceptable. You're more likely to feel like you're in a precarious position both economically and socially, which makes you more likely to vote out of fear that the \"other party\" is going to ruin things for you.\n\nThere are some ways to lessen this feeling:\n\n1. Don't have kids. Having a child is the single most expensive thing a human being can do, in terms of both time and money. It's a lot easier to tell your boss to \"take this job and shove it\" if you don't have to worry about feeding your kids, so you'll have more time *and* make more money.\n\n2. Find a fulfilling hobby that comes with a friend group. The support of these friends can help you feel like you're not alone when there's trouble.\n\n3. Get involved in your community. Join a community garden or find a local mutual aid group and volunteer. You'll learn skills to help you maintain your independence in hard times.\n\n\nThat time is going to pass either way. You might as well do something that makes you happy.", "Stop thinking about work as soon as the day is over. Don't bring it home with you. \n\nMeal prep saves .5-1hr per day.\n\nDoing grocery shopping and small errands during your lunch break saves another .5-1hr each time.\n\nDon't watch tv or browse the internet or use your phone without purpose - this wastes so much time.", "Schedule your off time like it's a limited resource. You spend 8 hours working, 8 hours sleeping, so you have like 4 hours outside eating cooking cleaning commuting to use. Don't waste it idling waiting to go to work or waiting to do something after work", "It does take up a lot of time—it's half your day. (If you sleep 8 hours. And make sure you sleep 8 hours!)\n\nWhat definitely works for me is having an evening shift. Mornings are all mine; afternoons and evenings are the job's; I get home, watch an hour or two of something, then sleep. If your job takes a lot of energy out of you, crashing right afterwards is the best thing. Maybe nap two hours right after work, then go to bed two hours later?—whatever rejuvinates you." ]

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[ " I have a very nice pair of white gloves for marching band. Instead of the standard issue pieces of toilet paper I received fitted gloves. Instead of cherishing this I used them normal and they developed mold spots after a rainy game. If anyone has a solution or can redirect me to one I would gladly appreciate it.", " I have a very nice pair of white gloves for marching band. Instead of the standard issue pieces of toilet paper I received fitted gloves. Instead of cherishing this I used them normal and they developed mold spots after a rainy game. If anyone has a solution or can redirect me to one I would gladly appreciate it.", " I have a very nice pair of white gloves for marching band. Instead of the standard issue pieces of toilet paper I received fitted gloves. Instead of cherishing this I used them normal and they developed mold spots after a rainy game. If anyone has a solution or can redirect me to one I would gladly appreciate it." ]

[ "[Liquid Alive](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004E2ONBM/ref=oh_details_o04_s00_i00) is this funky spray that actually eats organic materials off of fabric and hard surfaces. It smells nice, works well and has never destroyed any clothing or upholstery in my house. ", "The best thing to do is soak them in water with Milton Sterilizing Tablets. They're used for cleaning out baby bottles. ", "I must first temper this with a 'I have no idea what I am doing' but my miniscule experience with bleach tells me that it shouldn't do too much damage to white gloves. Of course, off-white gloves would be a different story. Do some research on bleach and what you can safely use it on. I don't know exactly what they are made of. \n \nObviously, next time, you are not going to want to let them stay wet like that. I am not sure how you would go about doing that, best guess is a dryer or hair dryer, hair dryer might be better because you have control over the heat. But this is all just me thinking out loud. I could be horribly, horribly wrong. Wait for some verification or use this as a jumping off point if nobody else shows up." ]

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[ "helping your ears adjust from a descending plane. My left ear doesn't pop when descending a plane ride, causing blockage for days and sharp pains. Chewing gum and swallowing action doesn't help at all. Please help!", "helping your ears adjust from a descending plane. My left ear doesn't pop when descending a plane ride, causing blockage for days and sharp pains. Chewing gum and swallowing action doesn't help at all. Please help!", "helping your ears adjust from a descending plane. My left ear doesn't pop when descending a plane ride, causing blockage for days and sharp pains. Chewing gum and swallowing action doesn't help at all. Please help!", "helping your ears adjust from a descending plane. My left ear doesn't pop when descending a plane ride, causing blockage for days and sharp pains. Chewing gum and swallowing action doesn't help at all. Please help!" ]

[ "Pinch your nose and **gently** try blowing into your nose. The air will instead go into your sinuses and this will equalize the pressure in your ears.\n\nDo not do it too hard or you can damage your ears. Also note that it only works when you need to *increase* the pressure in your ears. (so don't try it if your ears hurt after the plane has ascended to cruising altitude - that would be caused by too much pressure, not too little)\n\n[I learned this trick in a scuba driving class.]( http://scuba.about.com/od/divemedicinesafety/p/Ear-Equalization-Why-And-How-Do-Divers-Equalize-The-Pressure-In-Their-Ears.htm)", "I've suffered from this problem ever since my first flight when I was 5 years old, and right up until about 3 years ago...a period of not quite 40 years.\n\nI can't recall the exact details as to why it works (something to do with clearing out the ear canals), but my doctor suggested I take a Dristan or Sinus Tylenol or something similar whenever I fly. And to time it so that I take it 2-3 hours before we start to descend.\n\nEver since I started doing that; PROBLEM SOLVED.", "I find blowing my nose usually clears this problem. Have a look at this page:\nhttp://www.entnet.org/HealthInformation/earsAltitude.cfm", "Earplanes always work for my friend who used to get terrible pain\nhttp://www.cirrushealthcare.com/TravelEarPlugs.html" ]

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[ "How to get a spider back into the open once it vanishes out of sight? I am male, 5'11'', rugged on the outside, a weakling on the inside.\n\nBent on ruining my night's sleep, yesterday a huge monstrous arachnid crept behind a radiator before I could nuke its ass.\n\n*Is there a way to get the spiders back out in the open?* \n\nA scent, sound, technique, their favorite TV show, anything? I live in a somewhat wooded area, and each opening of the windows or doors is a party invitation for these fuckers. I got a few hours of sleep once I relocated to the living room, and even then my night was filled with sensations of stuff crawling up my legs and spine.\n\nI ask this in the most serious of predicaments. Help!", "How to get a spider back into the open once it vanishes out of sight? I am male, 5'11'', rugged on the outside, a weakling on the inside.\n\nBent on ruining my night's sleep, yesterday a huge monstrous arachnid crept behind a radiator before I could nuke its ass.\n\n*Is there a way to get the spiders back out in the open?* \n\nA scent, sound, technique, their favorite TV show, anything? I live in a somewhat wooded area, and each opening of the windows or doors is a party invitation for these fuckers. I got a few hours of sleep once I relocated to the living room, and even then my night was filled with sensations of stuff crawling up my legs and spine.\n\nI ask this in the most serious of predicaments. Help!", "How to get a spider back into the open once it vanishes out of sight? I am male, 5'11'', rugged on the outside, a weakling on the inside.\n\nBent on ruining my night's sleep, yesterday a huge monstrous arachnid crept behind a radiator before I could nuke its ass.\n\n*Is there a way to get the spiders back out in the open?* \n\nA scent, sound, technique, their favorite TV show, anything? I live in a somewhat wooded area, and each opening of the windows or doors is a party invitation for these fuckers. I got a few hours of sleep once I relocated to the living room, and even then my night was filled with sensations of stuff crawling up my legs and spine.\n\nI ask this in the most serious of predicaments. Help!", "How to get a spider back into the open once it vanishes out of sight? I am male, 5'11'', rugged on the outside, a weakling on the inside.\n\nBent on ruining my night's sleep, yesterday a huge monstrous arachnid crept behind a radiator before I could nuke its ass.\n\n*Is there a way to get the spiders back out in the open?* \n\nA scent, sound, technique, their favorite TV show, anything? I live in a somewhat wooded area, and each opening of the windows or doors is a party invitation for these fuckers. I got a few hours of sleep once I relocated to the living room, and even then my night was filled with sensations of stuff crawling up my legs and spine.\n\nI ask this in the most serious of predicaments. Help!", "How to get a spider back into the open once it vanishes out of sight? I am male, 5'11'', rugged on the outside, a weakling on the inside.\n\nBent on ruining my night's sleep, yesterday a huge monstrous arachnid crept behind a radiator before I could nuke its ass.\n\n*Is there a way to get the spiders back out in the open?* \n\nA scent, sound, technique, their favorite TV show, anything? I live in a somewhat wooded area, and each opening of the windows or doors is a party invitation for these fuckers. I got a few hours of sleep once I relocated to the living room, and even then my night was filled with sensations of stuff crawling up my legs and spine.\n\nI ask this in the most serious of predicaments. Help!", "How to get a spider back into the open once it vanishes out of sight? I am male, 5'11'', rugged on the outside, a weakling on the inside.\n\nBent on ruining my night's sleep, yesterday a huge monstrous arachnid crept behind a radiator before I could nuke its ass.\n\n*Is there a way to get the spiders back out in the open?* \n\nA scent, sound, technique, their favorite TV show, anything? I live in a somewhat wooded area, and each opening of the windows or doors is a party invitation for these fuckers. I got a few hours of sleep once I relocated to the living room, and even then my night was filled with sensations of stuff crawling up my legs and spine.\n\nI ask this in the most serious of predicaments. Help!", "How to get a spider back into the open once it vanishes out of sight? I am male, 5'11'', rugged on the outside, a weakling on the inside.\n\nBent on ruining my night's sleep, yesterday a huge monstrous arachnid crept behind a radiator before I could nuke its ass.\n\n*Is there a way to get the spiders back out in the open?* \n\nA scent, sound, technique, their favorite TV show, anything? I live in a somewhat wooded area, and each opening of the windows or doors is a party invitation for these fuckers. I got a few hours of sleep once I relocated to the living room, and even then my night was filled with sensations of stuff crawling up my legs and spine.\n\nI ask this in the most serious of predicaments. Help!", "How to get a spider back into the open once it vanishes out of sight? I am male, 5'11'', rugged on the outside, a weakling on the inside.\n\nBent on ruining my night's sleep, yesterday a huge monstrous arachnid crept behind a radiator before I could nuke its ass.\n\n*Is there a way to get the spiders back out in the open?* \n\nA scent, sound, technique, their favorite TV show, anything? I live in a somewhat wooded area, and each opening of the windows or doors is a party invitation for these fuckers. I got a few hours of sleep once I relocated to the living room, and even then my night was filled with sensations of stuff crawling up my legs and spine.\n\nI ask this in the most serious of predicaments. Help!", "How to get a spider back into the open once it vanishes out of sight? I am male, 5'11'', rugged on the outside, a weakling on the inside.\n\nBent on ruining my night's sleep, yesterday a huge monstrous arachnid crept behind a radiator before I could nuke its ass.\n\n*Is there a way to get the spiders back out in the open?* \n\nA scent, sound, technique, their favorite TV show, anything? I live in a somewhat wooded area, and each opening of the windows or doors is a party invitation for these fuckers. I got a few hours of sleep once I relocated to the living room, and even then my night was filled with sensations of stuff crawling up my legs and spine.\n\nI ask this in the most serious of predicaments. Help!", "How to get a spider back into the open once it vanishes out of sight? I am male, 5'11'', rugged on the outside, a weakling on the inside.\n\nBent on ruining my night's sleep, yesterday a huge monstrous arachnid crept behind a radiator before I could nuke its ass.\n\n*Is there a way to get the spiders back out in the open?* \n\nA scent, sound, technique, their favorite TV show, anything? I live in a somewhat wooded area, and each opening of the windows or doors is a party invitation for these fuckers. I got a few hours of sleep once I relocated to the living room, and even then my night was filled with sensations of stuff crawling up my legs and spine.\n\nI ask this in the most serious of predicaments. Help!", "How to get a spider back into the open once it vanishes out of sight? I am male, 5'11'', rugged on the outside, a weakling on the inside.\n\nBent on ruining my night's sleep, yesterday a huge monstrous arachnid crept behind a radiator before I could nuke its ass.\n\n*Is there a way to get the spiders back out in the open?* \n\nA scent, sound, technique, their favorite TV show, anything? I live in a somewhat wooded area, and each opening of the windows or doors is a party invitation for these fuckers. I got a few hours of sleep once I relocated to the living room, and even then my night was filled with sensations of stuff crawling up my legs and spine.\n\nI ask this in the most serious of predicaments. Help!", "How to get a spider back into the open once it vanishes out of sight? I am male, 5'11'', rugged on the outside, a weakling on the inside.\n\nBent on ruining my night's sleep, yesterday a huge monstrous arachnid crept behind a radiator before I could nuke its ass.\n\n*Is there a way to get the spiders back out in the open?* \n\nA scent, sound, technique, their favorite TV show, anything? I live in a somewhat wooded area, and each opening of the windows or doors is a party invitation for these fuckers. I got a few hours of sleep once I relocated to the living room, and even then my night was filled with sensations of stuff crawling up my legs and spine.\n\nI ask this in the most serious of predicaments. Help!", "How to get a spider back into the open once it vanishes out of sight? I am male, 5'11'', rugged on the outside, a weakling on the inside.\n\nBent on ruining my night's sleep, yesterday a huge monstrous arachnid crept behind a radiator before I could nuke its ass.\n\n*Is there a way to get the spiders back out in the open?* \n\nA scent, sound, technique, their favorite TV show, anything? I live in a somewhat wooded area, and each opening of the windows or doors is a party invitation for these fuckers. I got a few hours of sleep once I relocated to the living room, and even then my night was filled with sensations of stuff crawling up my legs and spine.\n\nI ask this in the most serious of predicaments. Help!", "How to get a spider back into the open once it vanishes out of sight? I am male, 5'11'', rugged on the outside, a weakling on the inside.\n\nBent on ruining my night's sleep, yesterday a huge monstrous arachnid crept behind a radiator before I could nuke its ass.\n\n*Is there a way to get the spiders back out in the open?* \n\nA scent, sound, technique, their favorite TV show, anything? I live in a somewhat wooded area, and each opening of the windows or doors is a party invitation for these fuckers. I got a few hours of sleep once I relocated to the living room, and even then my night was filled with sensations of stuff crawling up my legs and spine.\n\nI ask this in the most serious of predicaments. Help!", "How to get a spider back into the open once it vanishes out of sight? I am male, 5'11'', rugged on the outside, a weakling on the inside.\n\nBent on ruining my night's sleep, yesterday a huge monstrous arachnid crept behind a radiator before I could nuke its ass.\n\n*Is there a way to get the spiders back out in the open?* \n\nA scent, sound, technique, their favorite TV show, anything? I live in a somewhat wooded area, and each opening of the windows or doors is a party invitation for these fuckers. I got a few hours of sleep once I relocated to the living room, and even then my night was filled with sensations of stuff crawling up my legs and spine.\n\nI ask this in the most serious of predicaments. Help!" ]

[ "Spiders love when their victims prop their asses up for penetration. Let the spider have its way with you. When the spider is ready to dismount, crush it with an ass clap", "Don't kill spiders, it's bad luck. Appease it with gifts and move out in the middle of the night. Just say you are stepping out to get some smokes.", "Man as shitty as this sounds, don't worry about it, you are good.Yeah the phantom leg tingles suck but that little bastard is so far gone you couldn't draw him out if you wanted to because quite simply he isn't there.If he was moving around for a hunt then he has moved on and if he wasn't then he would have set up shop and built a web once again man you are good to go spiders aren't there to mess with you and if you think about it there are only a few aggressive ones and who would mess with something over a thousand times bigger than they are sleep easy man that thing is gone gone gone.", "Set the house on fire, step out and wait for it to come out. When it's out deal with it. If it doesn't come out, it's not your problem anymore anyway.", "I currently have a minefield of [Real-Kill Household Pest Glue Boards](http://www.homedepot.com/p/Real-Kill-Household-Pest-Glue-Boards-4-Count-HG-95788/202056496) set up around the perimeter of my bedroom for exactly this reason. They catch the spiders before they get to me. I sleep well now.", "You'll hear a lot of stuff about horse chestnut oil, ultrasonic devices and all sorts of other magic.\n\nAs far as I know, there is absolutely no evidence that any of these gimmicks actually work.\n\nI'm afraid the truth is that a spider's gonna do what a spider's gonna do, and the even grimmer truth is that there are hundreds more on and in your property that you will never see.\n\nLearn to love them; they do an excellent pest-control job in your home :-)", "Not sure about how to get it back out in the open, but if you want an easy way to get rid of it;\n\nGet a snake and let'er loose. ", "To get rid of the tickles, have a shower and change the sheets. I sometimes get the tickles and panic that my cat has given me fleas. Washing everything makes me feels better. I sometimes do this at 2 am.\n\nTo get rid of the spider, sorry but you'll need bug spray. One on a timer is great, chuck it on the top of a shelf and let it do its thing. Unless you catch it or kill it, it'll live in your house until it dies on its own.\n\nSorry spider-bro, but I don't share my house with anyone with more than 4 legs, a girls gotta draw the line somewhere.", "Ask him politely to start paying part of your rent if they're going to be staying with you. Most (I'd almost say all) spiders don't have jobs or any money at all, so he won't be able to afford the rent and you have grounds to ask them to leave the property.", "Play the 2002 version of Spiderman with Tobey Maguire at full volume. 100% guaranteed or your money back.", "Let loose a couple of frogs, they will get the job done. To get rid of the frogs let loose some snakes. Once they do their thing, let loose a few eagles to take care of the snakes, after that...well um ....fuck. ", "vacuum.\n\nbut it's probably already in the wall. making its way to the air vent right above your pillow", "Unless it was a poisonous spider, which it probably wasn't, why bother?\n\nYou might not like spiders, but they keep your house free of other pests. Besides, I hate to break it to you, but for every spider you see in your house there is almost certainly at least 5-10 that you don't see.", "Set up a very sensitive mouse trap baited with a living moth. Rig the mouse trap to set off an improvised flamethrower made from a can of Aquanet and some fireplace matches. If you're really lucky, you might wake up to breakfast! or, your bedroom on fire. Please be careful.", "If it's still behind the radiator, spray with diluted peppermint oil, citrus, or tobacco. Spiders hate all these things and it will crawl out. Bonus, your house will smell great with the first two. " ]

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[ "How to speak louder I had an interview today (I got the job!) and the interviewer said that my only problem is that I speak too softly. I have a deep voice so when I exclaim something it sounds kinda threatening. Do you guys have any tips on how to speak loudly without sounding threatening? ", "How to speak louder I had an interview today (I got the job!) and the interviewer said that my only problem is that I speak too softly. I have a deep voice so when I exclaim something it sounds kinda threatening. Do you guys have any tips on how to speak loudly without sounding threatening? " ]

[ "alot of time confidence plays into it. when you are nervous you speak lower. so maybe try practicing in front of a mirror before speeches or take a speech class at a local JC where you have a professional who can help and give you a chance to practice in front of small classes.", "I've also found that it helps to sit upright and try to project so that your voice reaches either the end of the room or fills up the space. But, again, form for me was important and hopefully you are keeping yourself upright when sitting, and that it helps when speaking louder." ]

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[ "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. ", "How to get clothes less wrinkly without having to iron. Since moving to the UK my clothing comes out of the wash incredibly wrinkly. Here they use a washer that is also a dryer. Ironing doesn't seem to get all the wrinkles out, plus it is time consuming. Even if I don't put my clothes in the drying cycle they still come out wrinkly. I'm looking for suggestions on how to get my clothes less wrinkly without having to iron them.\n\nTL;DR: Want to get rid of wrinkles in clothing, ironing is too time consuming. " ]

[ "I guess this is only helpful for the odd shirt, but not all your stuff at once. I live in hotels/hostels a lot and a quick thing I do is hang my shirt up in near the shower whilst im in it, by the time i'm out, most of the wrinkles are out. ", "WRINKLE RELEASE SPRAY! I use it all the time, you can make it yourself using warm water and liquid fabric softener mixed into a spray bottle. I don't really measure but I fill up the spray bottle with water and use maybe 2-3 tablespoons of the fabric softner. Works like a charm. ", "three things I've changed that helped a lot - \n1. You may be overfilling the washing machine. If your clothes are compressed during the wash cycle, they'll wrinkle more and those wrinkles will be harder to get out (the kind that won't iron out). I know it sucks - but put less laundry in the washing machine and do more loads.\n2. How quick are you to remove the clothes from the dryer? If the dryer is done running and your clothes are dry and sitting balled up in a wad, they'll probably hold wrinkles really well. Instead, make sure you take the clothes out of the dryer immediately after the drying cycle is done.\n3. When you take the clothes out before the drying cycle starts - give them a light stretch along the broadest lengths of cloth (lengthwise each pantleg for pants, each sleeve, each front breast and the back for button downs, collar to bottom hem for polos, etc.) before laying them out over a line or hangers. If you're using natural fabrics (and some synthetics), the fabric will react to the stretch and release a lot of the tension that's holding the wrinkles in.\n\nGood luck! Look sharp!", "Perhaps you can fold them before putting into the wash? Fold lengthwise and curl it around the agitator-thingy?\n\nWith the regular washer dryer combos, I always take the wet clothes and shake them out before putting in the dryer - that cuts waaay down on wrinkling.", "I usually throw my wrinkled clothes in the dryer to get the wrinkles out. If it's especially wrinkled a damp cloth thrown in with it helps. I am not familiar with this washer/dryer combo machine though.\n", "Once out the wash, hand flatten and fold on a flat surface. My nanna does this and has done since the WW2. She refuses to use an iron. ", "those extractor washer/driers don't get you the same result as the raging hot type of drier we have in the U.S. you need to use fabric softener, and think about skipping the drier cycle entirely in favor of hanging them on racks to dry, then using the iron to finish the job and get them free of wrinkles. it takes DAYS to get a shirt or pair of pants back ready to wear again. you may have noticed that people have clothes on rack all over the place because it just takes days and days to get the laundry finished.\n\nand as another commenter has said, you might be overloading the machine.", "When I was growing up we lived in a fairly low income area, but not the worst on the planet. A lot of my friends would put their clothes between the mattress and box spring overnight. Me, I just rocked wrinkles, because, fuck effort. ", "The dryers in those washer/dryer combed units are crap. Just take them out as soon as the wash cycle finishes, shake and hand flatten then place on a foldable drying rack to dry. Only your collared shirts should need ironing with that method.", "Ok so from one lazy person to another - keep a spray bottle by your dryer. When you have clothes you want less wrinkly, spritz them all over with the water (make sure it is on the mist setting, not the squirt setting). Then throw them in the dryer on high for 10 minutes. All nice :)", "If your clothes still have wrinkles after ironing you are probably doing something wrong (temperature, technique, spray on aides). Ironing does take more time than just hucking your clothes into a pile fresh out of the dryer but it really doesn't take that long. ", "I am lazy so I never Iron. Instead I hang the wrinkled clothing piece from the light in my bathroom as I am having a shower. The steam does a great job of making the creases fall out. \n\nThough I am a scruff so maybe my standards are just a bit lower than yours. ", "How much is wash+iron at your local dry-cleaners? It's 100% worth it having someone else iron my clothes for me. Seriously, if you can afford it just have someone do it for you.", "Here's what I do: hang up whatever I'm going to wear the next day the night before in the doorway, then just mist the items real well with a spray bottle. It will absorb into the fabric, relaxing it, and clothes will be fine the next morning. No ironing and only takes a few seconds.", "For my work shirts I find that if I take the clothes out the washing machine as soon as it has finished the cycle and hang them up properly I don't ever need to iron them. Using the steam from a hot shower also works quite well but depends on your shower situation. A quick go with hair straighteners is also a lot less daunting than a full ironing session. Hope this helps!", "Don't dry them completely. If they were already dried then throw them in the dryer with a wet towel for a bit.", "A hot shower and a closed door. It's what I do 99% of the time because I'm terrible and/or terrified of ironing and ruining my clothes.", "A garment steamer is the way to go. I'm the sort whose laundry moves in a herd from chair to bed to chair every day, until I'm able to slowly dwindle the population of clothing, or my girlfriend is coming over. I've used a steamer like [this](http://www.amazon.com/Conair-GS28-Garment-Steamer/dp/B004T7N6Y2/ref=sr_1_9) every day for four years. It's wonderful, and much more convenient than ironing. It won't get anything crisp, but it will get it smooth. Need to be careful around seams though. ", "1) Hang things for a day first. Gravity does a lot of work for you.\n2) If you're in a hurry (like me) and don't notice wrinkles until you've already put something on, lightly spray with a water spray bottle, then blow dry the area - it kinda works like a steamer." ]

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[ "How to get people to do something about your birthday Every year, I have friends that somehow magically have everyone else planning and falling over themselves to get a party going and celebrate. I've never been the type that advertises my birthday too much, but how can I subtly draw people's attention to it?", "How to get people to do something about your birthday Every year, I have friends that somehow magically have everyone else planning and falling over themselves to get a party going and celebrate. I've never been the type that advertises my birthday too much, but how can I subtly draw people's attention to it?", "How to get people to do something about your birthday Every year, I have friends that somehow magically have everyone else planning and falling over themselves to get a party going and celebrate. I've never been the type that advertises my birthday too much, but how can I subtly draw people's attention to it?", "How to get people to do something about your birthday Every year, I have friends that somehow magically have everyone else planning and falling over themselves to get a party going and celebrate. I've never been the type that advertises my birthday too much, but how can I subtly draw people's attention to it?", "How to get people to do something about your birthday Every year, I have friends that somehow magically have everyone else planning and falling over themselves to get a party going and celebrate. I've never been the type that advertises my birthday too much, but how can I subtly draw people's attention to it?", "How to get people to do something about your birthday Every year, I have friends that somehow magically have everyone else planning and falling over themselves to get a party going and celebrate. I've never been the type that advertises my birthday too much, but how can I subtly draw people's attention to it?", "How to get people to do something about your birthday Every year, I have friends that somehow magically have everyone else planning and falling over themselves to get a party going and celebrate. I've never been the type that advertises my birthday too much, but how can I subtly draw people's attention to it?" ]

[ "Maybe ask those \"party planners\" a week or two ahead of time what their plans are, while making it look like you just want to get lunch or something. Then mention \"well 'wednesday' afternoon won't work because it's my birthday...\" \"oh it's your birthday? Have anything planned for the evening?\" \"No, make me a goddamn party.\"", "You could also invite some friends out for dinner on your birthday. If I were to do this with my friends - they would all pay for themselves and divvy up the payment for my birthday meal. Perhaps yours would do the same. ", "Yes, why is it weird to organize your own birthday party? I prefer it infact, because I can invite whomever I want (especially when I have friends from different circles) and can plan an interesting activity...Once, I had a painting party, where I invited folks to my place, gave them supplies and asked them each to paint me a picture, which I would keep as my gift (they didn't need to get me anything)...I assume they had fun. It's also a great way to solidify new friendships.", "This might be tough, but my advice is this: Tell one of your friends it is important to you to have a party.", "i've always had the same issue (don't make a deal out of my birthday, don't tell anyone about it, and nothing happens), but there was one exception. when i turned 23 i invited a couple of my friends over in the afternoon without telling them anything. when they got there, i told them i was taking them out to a sushi place for my birthday. by the time we left, a few more people had gotten the word and shown up (they paid for themselves, thankfully), and by the end of the night my house was full of people, booze, and weed. still don't know how we managed to stumble home from the sushi place though, they started slipping us free sake every twenty minutes once one of them announced (loudly) that it was my birthday.\n\nnot always a surefire method i imagine, but try it out - invite over a few folks, spring for minor festivities, and hopefully they'll take care of the rest.", "My rule. I will \"organize\" a party/get together, but refuse to plan what will go on at that time.\nIt basically comes down to me telling people I want to hang out on my birthday, and then asking them what they'd like to do. From that point on they usually take over.\n(My friends are usually bad at getting things started...)", "I don't think it's odd at all when people plan their own birthday events. The older we get, the more we realize how busy and hectic can take over and if you approach the day as yours and you want to spend it with your friends, just tell them to keep it open because you're inviting them to... whatever you choose. " ]

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[ "How do I get into the habit of prioritizing and recording tasks in a daily planner at work. I have just started working in a small business where, like in any small business you end up doing many different tasks to complete in a day from restocking the tea bags and milk to booking sales appointments. I've not long been out of school and I'm struggling to get into a habit of recording and prioritizing tasks into a planner/diary, and tasks go unattended. I'd be grateful for any tips others have used to get into the habit of writing things down when they remember them, so they don't slip under the radar and get missed off.", "How do I get into the habit of prioritizing and recording tasks in a daily planner at work. I have just started working in a small business where, like in any small business you end up doing many different tasks to complete in a day from restocking the tea bags and milk to booking sales appointments. I've not long been out of school and I'm struggling to get into a habit of recording and prioritizing tasks into a planner/diary, and tasks go unattended. I'd be grateful for any tips others have used to get into the habit of writing things down when they remember them, so they don't slip under the radar and get missed off.", "How do I get into the habit of prioritizing and recording tasks in a daily planner at work. I have just started working in a small business where, like in any small business you end up doing many different tasks to complete in a day from restocking the tea bags and milk to booking sales appointments. I've not long been out of school and I'm struggling to get into a habit of recording and prioritizing tasks into a planner/diary, and tasks go unattended. I'd be grateful for any tips others have used to get into the habit of writing things down when they remember them, so they don't slip under the radar and get missed off.", "How do I get into the habit of prioritizing and recording tasks in a daily planner at work. I have just started working in a small business where, like in any small business you end up doing many different tasks to complete in a day from restocking the tea bags and milk to booking sales appointments. I've not long been out of school and I'm struggling to get into a habit of recording and prioritizing tasks into a planner/diary, and tasks go unattended. I'd be grateful for any tips others have used to get into the habit of writing things down when they remember them, so they don't slip under the radar and get missed off." ]

[ "This works best if you write notes in your training. Then you can plug them into your planner as recurring events.\n\nIf you didn't start out this way, pretend like you are training somebody new and make notes for them. Then use those to set up your events.", "Iv recently had some success with a one page checklist of things I want to get done and the columns are Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday etc. It takes the thinking out of it I just do the next thing on the list. As iv gone along iv added things and taken other things out and changed the order so priorities go higher up the list. I like them as Next Actions, and not with the whole epic task listed if it's going to take a long time, so like read a page of that manual I'm supposed to, or spend 10mins doing that thing, so I chip away at stuff over the days. Spaced repetition etc.", "just write out your next week in full on your agenda. KEEP THE AGENDA ON YOU, and write in new tasks/meetings/due dates/etc. As you first become aware of them. Just keep writing in that little book. BRING IT EVERYWHERE, ALWAYS MARK NEW TASKS PROMPTLY. ", "What worked for me was to know that some tasks were cyclical and were always going to happen on certain days. Those were the ones that started my list every night, ready for getting underway first thing the following morning. Then I'd not always add every tiny task onto the list before doing it, since it was sometimes quicker to write it on the list after it had been completed (which was just as important for my boss). It's also useful to get into the habit of checking with bosses that you're making the right choices when you have to pick between two competing priorities and decide which one to focus on first. Some things might need to get carried forward to the next day, or passed onto someone else, or just parked till there's a quiet day - so having support helps you avoid getting stressed." ]

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[ "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? ", "How to stay warm, other then adding more layers of clothing. I release it might be a little silly to ask this but it's very cold in Australia (where I live anyway) and I need to walk 30 minutes every day too school early in the morning. I have to wear a school uniform (including a blazer) and they're very particular on uniform. \n\nAny tips to stay warm even on cold days ? " ]

[ "Have boiled eggs for lunch. Boil them before you go and keep them in your pockets and put your hands around them on the way to school. they should stay warm until you get to school. Or if you don't like eggs use tiny water bottles.", "What about drinking coffee or tea on the way to school? Drinking it keeps you warm on the inside and holding it warms your hands too", "Why can't you put extra layers on over your uniform, then take them off when you arrive? Or change into your uniform when you get there. They can't expect you to travel unprepared for the cold.", "Clothing only insulates, helping to not lose heat, do you have breakfast so you have calories to generate warmth beforehand? ", "A [LPT](http://www.reddit.com/r/lifeprotips/comments/3u9el0/_/) someone posted a few months ago for keeping warm during winter", "Walk faster. It won't make you warmer initially but within a couple minutes the faster you walk the warmer you will be.", "I work outside year round in Wisconsin, as low as 15°F ish, that's something like -9C. My best advice, short of more layering, is to tuck stuff in as much as you can so the wind and cold air can't get beneath your clothes. If you have two shirts, i.e. an undershirt and another shirt, tuck the undershirt into your underwear and the over shirt into your pants. Consider wearing two pairs of socks- it's not noticeable to wear all day like layering the rest of your body.", "Everyone says \"hat and gloves\", but I think just as important is to wear a scarf also.\n\nAlso you can warm up in advance by putting on your coat and everything at home and then doing some exercise until you get hot.", "A hot cup of coffee not only warms me it actually seems to stoke my metabolism. I in fact cannot drink it in the summer else I sweat pretty badly.", "Wool is great for warmth, wool socks or tights (make sure they're soft, non-scratchy ones, gloves hat and scarf could go a long way.\n\nFleece-lined tights are nice, too, although you may not be able to get away with them.\n\nYou could also try an undershirt in wool or thermal fabric. In my experience, keeping your chest, throat and head warm is the best way to fight the cold.", "Work on layering better. Wool socks, long John's, thermal shirt or underwear. Formal men's wear is actually designed to be warm.\n\nLong sleeve button down, sweater, blazer, wool topcoat. A combination of these will keep you warm. The bigger problem is staying cool in the summer in my opinion.", "Whenever possible, keep your limbs compacted together. If you have to wait to cross a road, keep your legs tight together and arms crossed over your chest, so your body heat goes back into a different part of your body rather than leeching into the air. I used to have to wait for the bus in cold weather and I trained all my friends to stand the same way.", "Wear warmer clothes and tell however tries to give you grief to fuck off. Being out in the cold can get you sick", "Thermal clothing. Or there are these things you can purchase which heat up when you snap this metal disc inside. Some are one time use while others are reusable. ", "Put your inner layer of clothes in the dryer for 5 minutes before leaving. when you take them out put all your outer layer of clothing on right away. this will of course help the heat last longer.", "Other than merino underneath, most schools have a school jacket. Gloves, scarf and a hat would help. The school may have school colours versions of these too. Just name them!", "In the morning, try to eat something warm like oatmeal or have a cup of tea or coffee. Also keep your hands in your pockets, this helps alot", "I've heard that taking deeper breaths helps keep you warm. Something to the effect that it circulates your blood better.", "Hat and gloves as someone else said but I typically don't wear coats in the winter (Ohio, it gets pretty cold and my car has no heat). \n\nI use a mindset to keep myself from being too bothered. I found that knowing I will be inside soon and that It'll be warm when I Get there helps a lot. I can go quite a while in very cold weather so long as there's an end goal. It's not so much about being not-cold. It's more about taking away the emotional experience of \"I am cold and this makes me feel -----\" It takes some practice but it's worth it. I hate wearing coats... a lot.", "Get thermal underpants and shirts. They're fairly thin, but keep you warmer. I'd wear those in the winter because I didn't want to be bulky with layers. I added a scarf and beanie hat and I was good for temperatures in the 30Fs\n\nHere is an example https://www.google.com/search?q=thermal+clothing&rlz=1C9BKJA_enUS654US654&hl=en-US&prmd=sivn&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwjUqqaDpJLNAhVO62MKHay4Ak8Q_AUICCgC&biw=768&bih=909#imgrc=D_9l28z0aufNNM%3A\n\nIf you get too warm in school, just go to the bathroom, take them off and put them back on when you need to go home again. \n", "Eat seasonal foods. Such as, don't eat a salad for breakfast. It's a summer food! Eat hot, cooked food for breakfast. Carry an insulated mug of hot soup to school for lunch. ", "Always keep in mind the spots that release the most body heat. Your head, feet, hands, armpits, and groin. If you can keep these areas warm, it will reflect on your total warmth (: ", "A little different but may help others... &nbsp;\n\nI was a exchange student from the tropics to Japan. You ever seen anime with the girls in the sailor uniform skirts? Yes, we wear that during winter too. (Although we get a thicker top during winter and school approved sweaters.) &nbsp;\n\nThat was when I was introduced to something called KAIRO. It is a small packet of what feels like fine wood chips or coarse tea. The moment you take it out of its packet and put it in your pockets, they warm up quite a lot. You might have something similar there? &nbsp;\n\nAside from that, I double my socks. Since I wore knee high socks, wearing double would be too obvious, so I wore a very thick but short socks. A scarf helped me lots too. My family also told me that if you take a hot bath\\shower, make sure you dry yourself completely with your towel before dressing up. I find that I stay warm longer that way.", "1) heavier underwears\n2) cover ears when they get cold, they would keep you warm\n3) try baby oil after showering, it keeps some people warm" ]

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[ "How do I clean this antique glass? Here's my antique bottle: http://imgur.com/a/XXuCJ\n\nI've already tried light dish soap, \"goo-gone,\" and barkeeper's friend. So far, the grey discoloration (mineral deposits?) won't budge. Any tips?", "How do I clean this antique glass? Here's my antique bottle: http://imgur.com/a/XXuCJ\n\nI've already tried light dish soap, \"goo-gone,\" and barkeeper's friend. So far, the grey discoloration (mineral deposits?) won't budge. Any tips?", "How do I clean this antique glass? Here's my antique bottle: http://imgur.com/a/XXuCJ\n\nI've already tried light dish soap, \"goo-gone,\" and barkeeper's friend. So far, the grey discoloration (mineral deposits?) won't budge. Any tips?", "How do I clean this antique glass? Here's my antique bottle: http://imgur.com/a/XXuCJ\n\nI've already tried light dish soap, \"goo-gone,\" and barkeeper's friend. So far, the grey discoloration (mineral deposits?) won't budge. Any tips?", "How do I clean this antique glass? Here's my antique bottle: http://imgur.com/a/XXuCJ\n\nI've already tried light dish soap, \"goo-gone,\" and barkeeper's friend. So far, the grey discoloration (mineral deposits?) won't budge. Any tips?" ]

[ "are you worried that isopropyl alcohol would damage the bottle? that or denatured alcohol is what I use to clean my less old glass things that I own and as an ent mineral deposits and plant matter sticking to glass are generally what I am trying to clean.", "Strong toilet bowl cleaner, like [\"The Works\"](http://www.theworkscleans.com/toiletcleaner.html). Make sure you wear heavy rubber gloves and use with a lot of ventilation! If you can soak it outside for a while, even better. It works (pun intended), trust me.", "Rhose deposits are often permanent. I'd try a little clr, but if that doesn't work, you're going to be stuck with it.", "Ok lets get down to the easiest and safest method. Oxyclean free. I've been using it for years to clean my beer bottles for home brew. Cleans easy. Just set it and forget it.\n\nDO NOT USE THE VERSATILE OXYCLEAN! make sure it says free. Free doesn't have perfumes and other stuff you don't wanna have on a food item. ", "I've used a rag soaked in vinegar to remove mineral deposits. Let it sit on the bottle for an hour or so, then try and scrub off.\n\nMr. Clean Magic Erasers might be worth a shot too." ]

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[ "How to get rancid food smell/taste out of a thermos? A few months ago I lost my Stanley thermos at work, and it had vegetable soup in it. I ended up finding it earlier today (turns out a coworker had moved it out of the way of something by putting it into a drawer and not telling me), and figured I'd try to clean it. Well, opening it made vomit-smelling liquid shoot everywhere and I almost threw up while doing the initial clean. The problem is that I can't get the smell (and undoubtedly the taste) to go away. So far, I've tried using Dawn+water, Dawn+boiling water, and a bleach-based cleaner, but the smell is still very much there. Should I just go with straight bleach and hot water, or what? It'd be really nice to be able to use this thermos, but I need to be able to hold it near my face without puking first.", "How to get rancid food smell/taste out of a thermos? A few months ago I lost my Stanley thermos at work, and it had vegetable soup in it. I ended up finding it earlier today (turns out a coworker had moved it out of the way of something by putting it into a drawer and not telling me), and figured I'd try to clean it. Well, opening it made vomit-smelling liquid shoot everywhere and I almost threw up while doing the initial clean. The problem is that I can't get the smell (and undoubtedly the taste) to go away. So far, I've tried using Dawn+water, Dawn+boiling water, and a bleach-based cleaner, but the smell is still very much there. Should I just go with straight bleach and hot water, or what? It'd be really nice to be able to use this thermos, but I need to be able to hold it near my face without puking first." ]

[ "I would mix a gallon of water in a water gallon bottle with the bleach. Then you could pour that water in the thermos. Or you could get a big bucket and soak the outside and inside an the lid. ", "Can you identify where the smell is coming from?\nIt shouldn't be that hard to get it out of steel, but plastic and rubber both hold smells pretty bad.\n\nCheck if there's a rubber or silicone seal/gasket that has absorbed the smell. You might have to buy a replacement gasket.\n\nI left some rice in my pressure cooker for months and it got truly disgusting. Finally I cleaned it and it seemed OK, but when I boiled some water in it, a horrible smell came out. I ended up completely dismantling the lid and cleaning every piece, but I had to buy a new gasket, no amount of cleaning or vinegar soaking or bleach would get the smell out." ]

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[ "How to keep pasta saucy after refrigeration without having to add more? It never fails, I'll cook a perfect dish with the perfect amount of sauce (I like a lot). After it's been refrigerated and reheated, the amount of sauce it has is always a lot less. Maybe the pasta absorbed the moisture, Idk, but it's never as good the second time so I end up having to add more sauce. Why is the initial amount of sauce never good enough!", "How to keep pasta saucy after refrigeration without having to add more? It never fails, I'll cook a perfect dish with the perfect amount of sauce (I like a lot). After it's been refrigerated and reheated, the amount of sauce it has is always a lot less. Maybe the pasta absorbed the moisture, Idk, but it's never as good the second time so I end up having to add more sauce. Why is the initial amount of sauce never good enough!", "How to keep pasta saucy after refrigeration without having to add more? It never fails, I'll cook a perfect dish with the perfect amount of sauce (I like a lot). After it's been refrigerated and reheated, the amount of sauce it has is always a lot less. Maybe the pasta absorbed the moisture, Idk, but it's never as good the second time so I end up having to add more sauce. Why is the initial amount of sauce never good enough!", "How to keep pasta saucy after refrigeration without having to add more? It never fails, I'll cook a perfect dish with the perfect amount of sauce (I like a lot). After it's been refrigerated and reheated, the amount of sauce it has is always a lot less. Maybe the pasta absorbed the moisture, Idk, but it's never as good the second time so I end up having to add more sauce. Why is the initial amount of sauce never good enough!" ]

[ "Pasta absorbs liquid as well as thickens sauce by releasing gluten.. Keeping your pasta and sauce separate is the only sure way. If you don't like that solution, you can rinse your pasta to clean it and cool it down, so it doesn't continue cooking as you add the sauce. Slightly under cooking your pasta or adding oil are also options.", "Refrigerators have dehumidifiers built in. Make sure there's an airtight container to store leftovers in, and its cool to add a little water or if you want to do it like restaurants do, add a little chicken stock or veg stock.", "personally, I store left over pasta (with or without sauce) in a ziploc bag. Make sure to remove **all** of the air when sealing.\n\nWhen you reheat the pasta, it will be moist/saucy.", "When you reheat pasta. Do not microwave it. Don't oven heat it. You use a stove and you use milk it tastes as good as if you just finished preparing the dish. At minimum use enough milk to cover the bottom of the pan use your judgement you cannot ruin your dish by adding milk. Please try this method it's the only way I reheat pasta!\n\n-source mom's cooking tricks of 30 plus years" ]

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[ "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored.", "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored.", "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored.", "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored.", "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored.", "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored.", "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored.", "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored.", "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored.", "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored.", "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored.", "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored.", "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored.", "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored.", "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored.", "How not to be awkward when walking in a long hallway with another person coming your way This happens to me at work all the time and I always give a quiet \"hi\" and am often ignored." ]

[ "I will answer in the manner of our LPT front page forbears: When you are approaching someone in a hallway, just tuck and roll right past them! You avoid human interaction AND you get a good workout! :)", "Appears you might be a Corriemuchloch.\n\nFrom The Meaning of Liff - Douglas Adams\n\nCORRIEARKLET (n.) \n\n The moment at which two people approaching from opposite ends of a long passageway, recognice each other and immediately pretend they haven't. This is to avoid the ghastly embarrassment of having to continue recognising each other the whole length of the corridor. \n\nCORRIECRAVIE (n.) \n\n To avert the horrors of corrievorrie (q.v.) corriecravie is usually employed. This is the cowardly but highly skilled process by which both protagonists continue to approach while keeping up the pretence that they haven't noticed each other - by staring furiously at their feet, grimacing into a notebook, or studying the walls closely as if in a mood of deep irritation. \n\nCORRIEDOO (n.) \n\n The crucial moment of false recognition in a long passageway encouter. Though both people are perfectly well aware that the other is approaching, they must eventually pretend sudden recognition. They now look up with a glassy smile, as if having spotted each other for the firt time, (and are particulary delighted to have done so) shouting out 'Haaaaaallllloooo!' as if to say 'Good grief!! You!! Here!! Of all people! Will I never. Coo. Stap me vitals, etc.' \n\nCORRIEMOILLIE (n.) \n\n The dreadful sinking sensation in a long passageway encounter when both protagonists immediately realise they have plumped for the corriedoo (q.v.) mutch too early as they are still a good thirty yards apart. They were embarrased by the pretence of corriecravie (q.v.) and decided to make use of the corriedoo because they felt silly. This was a mistake as corrievorrie (q.v.) will make them seem far sillier. \n\nCORRIEVORRIE (n.) \n\n Corridor etiquette demans that one a corriedoo (q.v.) has been declared, corrievorrie must be employed. Both protagonists must now embellish their approach with an embarrassing combination of waving, grinning, making idiot faces, doing pirate impressions, and waggling the head from side to side while holding the other person's eyes as the smile drips off their face, until with great relief, they pass each other. \n\nCORRIEMUCHLOCH (n.) \n\n Word describing the kind of person who can make a complete mess of a simple job like walking down a corridor. ", "skate by on your Heely's, pretend to give them a high five, but pull away at the last second and yell \"Too Slow!\"\n\nNot awkward for you, which is all that matters :)", "You need to perfect the flat, noncommittal smile and raised eyebrows. That's all it takes. Let me describe the smile: \n\n- No teeth\n- Thin lips\n- Maybe inflate your upper lip with some air, but avoid making a farting noise\n- Slightly raised or lowered at the corners depending on the current mood of the office. Was someone fired? Is is a nice day outside? You'll have to weigh these factors yourself.\n\nAs you pass them, lean past with one shoulder and extend a hand slightly as if the corridor is narrower than it really is. This serves to indicate and assert your chosen direction as well as exposing your underbelly, a sign of trust.\n\nRaise your eyebrows just as you pass. You can nod if you feel that, in the moment, a nod is appropriate. There's no need for a vocalization of any kind unless they initiate the exchange, in which case you need to be ready with a 'hi'. The 'h' of 'hi' already needs to be formed at the back of your throat. Your talking-bladders need to be full, so slowly inhale through your nose if you need to. Never reply to a voice prompt once you've passed them in the corridor; the moment has passed and you need to move swiftly on.\n\nYou walk a fine line between appearing ignorant and triggering a disastrous stop'n'chat that neither party wants. But if you can master this, you'll be ready for parallel Men's Room visits with work colleagues, meeting acquaintances at the supermarket, attracting the attention of bar staff while someone else tries to talk to you, trying to ignore somebody talking to you in class while you want to listen to the lesson, confronting a burglar, the whole panoply of awkward. ", "Point your finger like it is a gun, then make a clicking sound as you wink at the other person. That's way you'll just seem like a douchebag instead of a self conscious nerd with extreme social anxiety.", "Honestly, I find the best way to not be awkward is to acknowledge them straight away, the longer you hesitate, the more awkward you will feel. Plus, its likely you will make them feel awkward, which is always a good way of taking the stress off of yourself. \n\nYou could do the punk rock thing and yell HEY! and jump right in front of them while doing the devil horns metal hands thing with your tongue out, then run away laughing. ", "pretend to do something on your phone until you get close to them. then smile and greet them in a casual way. (good morning / good afternoon / good evening). remember its not awkward until you make it awkward. ", "I go to a giant college campus so this happens all the time. When eye contact is made give them a head nod, then when you are within earshot/talking distance say 'hey man' and go about your way.\n\nhead nods are unnatural until you start doing them. then you are the guy that does head nods, and its totally cool.", "Honestly, I don't see what's so awkward abotu that. If it's someone you just recognize as working with you but don't know personally, just smile, say \"Hi\" and that's it.", "Don't care about random people and live your life. They're not going to be hurt when you don't acknowledge their existence, you aren't anything to them.", "[I always start to whistle to calm the tension... usually works for a smile or giggle](https://youtu.be/Lu3S6A2phNI?t=7s)", "Why can't people just focus on what they're doing instead of needing to look at other people and say hi as they walk by them? At least look like you're concentrated on whatever you're doing or what you're on the way to do and people will leave you alone. ", "Take in a big deep breath and remember they are on the verge of feeling just as awkward as you. Pay a little attention to something random in the environment to pass a couple of seconds and then as you're approaching each other make eye contact and give a head nod like a boss. ", "Sprint towards them at full speed, yelling 'HEY!'. Once within 2 meters, say 'Good *timeofday*' and then walk slowly away.", "Keep your head up, shoulders square, don't look at them till about 10 feet away. A nod and a smile is just fine. ", "I usually take the time to prepare something relevant to say to the person I see ahead. If it's just good morning or a smile that's perfectly acceptable too. It only becomes awkward when you say awwwwkward. " ]

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[ "Blocking Spam Emails with Changing Addresses I have always been really good about keeping my email clean and necessary, but ive started getting 4-5 spam emails with fake \"unsubscribe here\" buttons that say I'm not registered in the first place. The email addresses always vary with spam characters, usually \"customersupportvshgdh34@prote...\" so I block one and 4 more come back. I'm not sure what to do, I'm already considering making a new email all together as this is very frustrating", "Blocking Spam Emails with Changing Addresses I have always been really good about keeping my email clean and necessary, but ive started getting 4-5 spam emails with fake \"unsubscribe here\" buttons that say I'm not registered in the first place. The email addresses always vary with spam characters, usually \"customersupportvshgdh34@prote...\" so I block one and 4 more come back. I'm not sure what to do, I'm already considering making a new email all together as this is very frustrating", "Blocking Spam Emails with Changing Addresses I have always been really good about keeping my email clean and necessary, but ive started getting 4-5 spam emails with fake \"unsubscribe here\" buttons that say I'm not registered in the first place. The email addresses always vary with spam characters, usually \"customersupportvshgdh34@prote...\" so I block one and 4 more come back. I'm not sure what to do, I'm already considering making a new email all together as this is very frustrating" ]

[ "I use Mailwasher. You can set filters by From, Contains, Subject, etc. etc., then have them auto-deleted so you never have to see them.\n\nJust in case, there is a Recycle Bin, where you can review deleted emails. And you can Bounce stuff.", "Do not click the unsubscribe buttons. It only alerts them that yours is an active monitored email address.\n\nI always have one email address for friends and family and a separate email address for anything I need to sign up for. Any company or site you put your address in is likely to share it for the right price. Same with your phone number.", "One partial solution:\nTry creating a folder called, say, GoodMail. Add a mail filter for each address you want to receive mail from, that moves the message to your GoodMail folder. Then just look at GoodMail when reading mail, and you'll just see the mail you want.\nThis has obvious problems. You'll need to monitor your now abandoned Inbox for a while, to find addresses you missed, or new ones you want. But it may help." ]

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[ "How to end a conversation with a stranger sitting near you on a plane. Without seeming rude or awkward about it?", "How to end a conversation with a stranger sitting near you on a plane. Without seeming rude or awkward about it?", "How to end a conversation with a stranger sitting near you on a plane. Without seeming rude or awkward about it?" ]

[ "Headphones, and if you are worried about seeming rude start pulling them out while they are talking. Then put them on when there is a lull. And some people don't notice the social queues. But they probably aren't the type to be offended when you are doing something that you feel rude about.", "1.) Don't start one in the first place. \n2.) Be polite, tell them \"I'm feeling a bit tired, i'm going to try to sleep. \n3.) Tell them you've got some work to catch up on. \n\nSome people flat out don't give a shit about your feelings, they don't get the opportunity to talk to other humans every day. \n\nThe good news is that these fuckers always end up sitting next to me, so you don't have to worry about it so much...\n", "Generally I'll just put on my headphones in the middle of what they're saying. I don't really care about being rude to a stranger on a plane, because I think it's rude to start randomly talking to a stranger and not let the conversation end.\n\nBut if for some reason I didn't want to seem rude, I'd get up and go to the bathroom, then come back while already wearing my headphones." ]

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[ "When you crash your car in cold weather, how should you behave in order to minimize exposure to carbon monoxide and cold temperatures as well as preserve battery life? I recently crashed my car on the side of the road in a cold area, and as we waited for roadside assistance this question suddenly became relevant. Between the dangers of the cold and carbon monoxide, I had no idea how to proceed, and intermittently turned it on to warm us up and turned it off to minimize our exposure. After a while our battery ran out, but fortunately only shortly before our guy arrived (plus we had blankets in there).\n\nMade me wonder: what should we have done?", "When you crash your car in cold weather, how should you behave in order to minimize exposure to carbon monoxide and cold temperatures as well as preserve battery life? I recently crashed my car on the side of the road in a cold area, and as we waited for roadside assistance this question suddenly became relevant. Between the dangers of the cold and carbon monoxide, I had no idea how to proceed, and intermittently turned it on to warm us up and turned it off to minimize our exposure. After a while our battery ran out, but fortunately only shortly before our guy arrived (plus we had blankets in there).\n\nMade me wonder: what should we have done?", "When you crash your car in cold weather, how should you behave in order to minimize exposure to carbon monoxide and cold temperatures as well as preserve battery life? I recently crashed my car on the side of the road in a cold area, and as we waited for roadside assistance this question suddenly became relevant. Between the dangers of the cold and carbon monoxide, I had no idea how to proceed, and intermittently turned it on to warm us up and turned it off to minimize our exposure. After a while our battery ran out, but fortunately only shortly before our guy arrived (plus we had blankets in there).\n\nMade me wonder: what should we have done?", "When you crash your car in cold weather, how should you behave in order to minimize exposure to carbon monoxide and cold temperatures as well as preserve battery life? I recently crashed my car on the side of the road in a cold area, and as we waited for roadside assistance this question suddenly became relevant. Between the dangers of the cold and carbon monoxide, I had no idea how to proceed, and intermittently turned it on to warm us up and turned it off to minimize our exposure. After a while our battery ran out, but fortunately only shortly before our guy arrived (plus we had blankets in there).\n\nMade me wonder: what should we have done?", "When you crash your car in cold weather, how should you behave in order to minimize exposure to carbon monoxide and cold temperatures as well as preserve battery life? I recently crashed my car on the side of the road in a cold area, and as we waited for roadside assistance this question suddenly became relevant. Between the dangers of the cold and carbon monoxide, I had no idea how to proceed, and intermittently turned it on to warm us up and turned it off to minimize our exposure. After a while our battery ran out, but fortunately only shortly before our guy arrived (plus we had blankets in there).\n\nMade me wonder: what should we have done?", "When you crash your car in cold weather, how should you behave in order to minimize exposure to carbon monoxide and cold temperatures as well as preserve battery life? I recently crashed my car on the side of the road in a cold area, and as we waited for roadside assistance this question suddenly became relevant. Between the dangers of the cold and carbon monoxide, I had no idea how to proceed, and intermittently turned it on to warm us up and turned it off to minimize our exposure. After a while our battery ran out, but fortunately only shortly before our guy arrived (plus we had blankets in there).\n\nMade me wonder: what should we have done?", "When you crash your car in cold weather, how should you behave in order to minimize exposure to carbon monoxide and cold temperatures as well as preserve battery life? I recently crashed my car on the side of the road in a cold area, and as we waited for roadside assistance this question suddenly became relevant. Between the dangers of the cold and carbon monoxide, I had no idea how to proceed, and intermittently turned it on to warm us up and turned it off to minimize our exposure. After a while our battery ran out, but fortunately only shortly before our guy arrived (plus we had blankets in there).\n\nMade me wonder: what should we have done?" ]

[ "Make sure the exhaust pipe(s) from your vehicle have plenty of room to work. Cold kills batteries fast; if you have plenty of fuel and the exhaust has room, you can idle your car for a good while.\n\nTurning the car off then draining the batteries is a sure way to have a car that won't start in the cold. Then you're screwed.", "I think you did right. Turn on your car periodically, and if trapped in snow, clear out around your exhaust pipe to help with carbo monoxide poisoning.", "What was the temperature at the time.\n\nIf your exhaust is clear and you are not incased in snow there should no worries about carbon monoxide.", "The standard advice I have been told is to clear the exhaust pipe and an area around it of snow, ice, debris, or anything else that might block the exhaust to ensure proper venting of the engine’s exhaust gases, then run the engine (and heater) for 10 minutes out of every hour, being sure to NOT use the battery while the engine is off the other 50 minutes.\n\nDoing this will maximize the life of your battery, your fuel supply, and the occupants of your passenger compartment.", "As others have said, unless your exhaust pipe is blocked there's no risk around carbon monoxide. If it's simply blocked by snow, clear it enough so exhaust can reach the open air. Problem solved.\n\nAs for running it, the standard recommendation is 10 minutes / hour. \n\nIt's good you had blankets, should always have these in your vehicle. \n\nYou may consider adding flashlights (with good batteries of course), hand warmer packets, water & snacks.\n\nLastly, find a metal tin (like a coffee tin, cookie tin, etc), within it store a box of matches (inside a ziplock to water proof it) as well as some tea light candles (also in a ziplock to water proof them). When stranded, you can burn the tea light candles inside the metal tin in your car to generate both heat and light. The tin is mainly containment should wax drop / spill and of course serves as a storage vessel in your trunk.", "Keep your exhaust clear and your fan on low, but sucking air from the outside (recirc off), and you should be able to idle it all day. If you are really concerned, keep your window cracked open with the heat on. \n\nYou were in bigger danger of draining your battery too much and not being able to restart it. The cold will kill you faster than CO poisoning will. We'd run cars indoors in the auto shop all the time, and CO was never a concern because of the fresh air that would come in when we opened a door to back another car out.\n\nNot saying CO isn't dangerous (it absolutely is), but keep your tailpipe clear and it isn't that much of a concern.", "CO isn't a concern if exhaust isn't blocked (eg by snow) and the exhaust system is undamaged (if it broke off the manifold in the crash, you're more likely to get exhaust entering the car).\n\nProperly cycling the engine on and off, the battery shouldn't run down, unless the crash damage affected the alternator, or caused a short or something. Keep in mind using your hazards or parking lights will draw power (but likely important for safety). \n\nDo not leave the car ignition at \"ON\" when the engine isn't running. This is when you have all the dash warning lights, and the fan runs. This kills the battery quick. Some cars keep the headlights on a few minutes after shutting off the engine. Override this and shut them off.\n\nThe fuel burn rate in a car idling is in the range of a liter per hour. Assuming you're talking a couple hours not days, you shouldn't have to worry about conserving fuel. Certainly not to the point you kill the battery.\n\nAs others said 10 min/hour is probably a good rule if you're concerned about extending how long your fuel lasts." ]

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[ "How to select colors for a bedroom (or any room for that matter)? I want to repaint the bedroom from being baby blue to something more neutral, but not completely boring (i.e. white). I picked samples out from the store but I just can't tell what I want with little cards. Are there any tips or good methods to visualize how the paint color would look against everything?", "How to select colors for a bedroom (or any room for that matter)? I want to repaint the bedroom from being baby blue to something more neutral, but not completely boring (i.e. white). I picked samples out from the store but I just can't tell what I want with little cards. Are there any tips or good methods to visualize how the paint color would look against everything?" ]

[ "There's a great website called Houzz.com you can search page after page of rooms, the content is free. Really great ideas in there. Benjaminmoore.com is good too. I painted a room Benjamin moore's Palladian Blue. It's a really lovely blue/green that's super neutral and calming. Seems to go with nearly anything. I feel like those colors that you can't quite name tend to do well on walls. Like those weird beigey-grey, silver-y green, pale yellows that are sort of tan. If you do get some sample pots, put the paint on a few walls, colors tend to change a lot in rooms during the day. ", "Sone brands sell sample cans so you can paint little bits of the wall to get a better feeling for how the color looks. " ]

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[ "Remembering names. I meet a lot of people in my line of work, and in general. I can never remember any of their names -- and it's frustrating.\n\nI've tried the disclaimer \"I'm horrible with names, don't be offended if I ask you again.\" and that seems to work the first time or 2, but past that, I just feel like a tool when I ask again.\n\nAny tips to make it easier to remember names?", "Remembering names. I meet a lot of people in my line of work, and in general. I can never remember any of their names -- and it's frustrating.\n\nI've tried the disclaimer \"I'm horrible with names, don't be offended if I ask you again.\" and that seems to work the first time or 2, but past that, I just feel like a tool when I ask again.\n\nAny tips to make it easier to remember names?", "Remembering names. I meet a lot of people in my line of work, and in general. I can never remember any of their names -- and it's frustrating.\n\nI've tried the disclaimer \"I'm horrible with names, don't be offended if I ask you again.\" and that seems to work the first time or 2, but past that, I just feel like a tool when I ask again.\n\nAny tips to make it easier to remember names?", "Remembering names. I meet a lot of people in my line of work, and in general. I can never remember any of their names -- and it's frustrating.\n\nI've tried the disclaimer \"I'm horrible with names, don't be offended if I ask you again.\" and that seems to work the first time or 2, but past that, I just feel like a tool when I ask again.\n\nAny tips to make it easier to remember names?", "Remembering names. I meet a lot of people in my line of work, and in general. I can never remember any of their names -- and it's frustrating.\n\nI've tried the disclaimer \"I'm horrible with names, don't be offended if I ask you again.\" and that seems to work the first time or 2, but past that, I just feel like a tool when I ask again.\n\nAny tips to make it easier to remember names?", "Remembering names. I meet a lot of people in my line of work, and in general. I can never remember any of their names -- and it's frustrating.\n\nI've tried the disclaimer \"I'm horrible with names, don't be offended if I ask you again.\" and that seems to work the first time or 2, but past that, I just feel like a tool when I ask again.\n\nAny tips to make it easier to remember names?", "Remembering names. I meet a lot of people in my line of work, and in general. I can never remember any of their names -- and it's frustrating.\n\nI've tried the disclaimer \"I'm horrible with names, don't be offended if I ask you again.\" and that seems to work the first time or 2, but past that, I just feel like a tool when I ask again.\n\nAny tips to make it easier to remember names?" ]

[ "One of the easiest ways is to connect something to the names. For example: Olivia kinda resemblance olive. So, Olivia Olive. \n\nYou can connect something in the persons appearance, the person might have a feature you can connect to a certain animal. Peter-Eagle.\n\nA third way is to connect a name with an animal or plant starting with the same letter. \n\nAnd repeat the names semi-outloud!! At least 7 times!", "Repeat them often after you're first introduced. Look over at the person once every few minutes, repeat their name in your head. Go over in your head, later that evening, who you met, their name, what they looked like. I did that at a party to remember the names of ~7 new people, and I still remember them all, amazingly enough. And try to find something unique about their appearance or manner, like a scar or strange laugh.", "In case you forget, ask the person what their name is. When they reply with their first name, say \"oh no, I meant your last name\" while you really forgot their first name. Now you have both their first and last name. ", "I was also in a position to remember many new peoples names on a regular basis, during which time I picked up a few nifty tricks:\nBefore asking their name, I say only my first name initially to invite the following process. Then I repeat the first name and get the surname. Finally say their entire name back to them and Give them your full name. \n\nHi, I'm Guy. What's your name?\n\"Mark.\"\n-Mark what?\n\"Mark Mywords\"\n-Nice to meet you Mark Mywords. I'm Guy Mann.\n\nNotice how many times the name Mark was said aloud? Instantly repeating the name helps dramatically, but also repeating it a following time adding the last name helps solidify the name in your head. It's scientifically accurate actually. The process in neuroplasticity and is defined by making more concrete synapse to a new term or concept by repeating it or hearing it over and over when that synapse is first made. Mark was spoken 4 times in a few seconds, twice each, and then his last name twice, once each as well. Odds are, you'll remember Mark Mywords for quite sometime. ", "This also doubles as a reasonable \"tell me your weakness\" question at a job interview. Tell em your problem, but that you are actually using mnemonic devices and tricks of association to get better. Of course, the interviewer then says, \"so, what's my name?\" Groan!! ", "Repeating names is the easiest way. Don't worry about over-using, either. Studies show that most often a person's own first name is also, surprise, their favorite word. That also explains why some people get so offended when you forget their name.\n\nIf being introduced to a woman and I want to flirt, I pretend that her name is very uncommon when it isn't. \"Em-ill-ee? Am I saying that right? How do you spell that? Were your parents hippies?\" So on and so forth. You'll remember her name because she'll have said it at least twice, maybe even spelled it, and you'll have repeated it two or three times. ", "Just make more effort to remember names. Use them in conversations more, write them down, make contacts of them into your cellphone. Not just names of people you meet, names you see anywhere, write names down when you are reading news, see an actor in movie who seems familiar, look them up from imdb." ]

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[ "How to convince someone to accept money My dad is stressing again and again about paying for my college funds. I've asked him if he wants to start a GoFundMe or fill out a payment reduction at the highschool I go to, but he never does any of that.\n\nHe comes home some days to me reminding him about something financial and I fear that he might break because he's trying to pay for things I don't think he can afford. I'm sure others out there have this issue as well; how do I convince him to accept money from other people? ", "How to convince someone to accept money My dad is stressing again and again about paying for my college funds. I've asked him if he wants to start a GoFundMe or fill out a payment reduction at the highschool I go to, but he never does any of that.\n\nHe comes home some days to me reminding him about something financial and I fear that he might break because he's trying to pay for things I don't think he can afford. I'm sure others out there have this issue as well; how do I convince him to accept money from other people? " ]

[ "Really look into different options for scholarships and grants, fill out your FAFSA and take out student loans that you can pay back. He doesn't have to pay it all upfront in cash. If it's something you may want look into the military.", ">how do I convince him to accept money from other people? \n\nIf you have his bank account number, they don't need any authorization to deposit into it. (At least with Bank of America.)\n\nIn your situation, pay for it yourself so he doesn't have to. If you're smart, take standardized tests: an SAT of 1470 will get you aggressively courted. Ivy League schools often have free tuition and even stipends for poor(er) people, but you have to apply. " ]

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[ "How do dance to club music I've been trying to dance for years and just can't get the hang of it when I'm by myself.\n\nWhen I'm with someone who dances opposite of me, I'm fine and can relax. But when I'm dancing by myself, I'm stiff af, and can't dance at all.\n\nWhat are some tips for dancing to club music, and being relaxed enough to dance at all?\nWhat are some good songs/dances I should learn that will open up enough moves to mix and match and feel comfortable?", "How do dance to club music I've been trying to dance for years and just can't get the hang of it when I'm by myself.\n\nWhen I'm with someone who dances opposite of me, I'm fine and can relax. But when I'm dancing by myself, I'm stiff af, and can't dance at all.\n\nWhat are some tips for dancing to club music, and being relaxed enough to dance at all?\nWhat are some good songs/dances I should learn that will open up enough moves to mix and match and feel comfortable?" ]

[ "I would put it like this: Dance however you feel like. Honesty, it's all about CONFIDENCE in what you're doing.", "For clubs, a basic step-touch is really all you need. Practice until it's as automatic as breathing, then start mixing in variations. Remember to dance with your feet, not your arms. Stay loose, feel the beat. Have fun." ]

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[ "How to reattach Barbie's head. I work in a special ed classroom. I have one student who loves to comb barbie's hair, but she doesn't understand the concept of \"gentle.\" As a result, I have several headless barbies, but don't have the budget to keep buying new ones. Any suggestions?", "How to reattach Barbie's head. I work in a special ed classroom. I have one student who loves to comb barbie's hair, but she doesn't understand the concept of \"gentle.\" As a result, I have several headless barbies, but don't have the budget to keep buying new ones. Any suggestions?", "How to reattach Barbie's head. I work in a special ed classroom. I have one student who loves to comb barbie's hair, but she doesn't understand the concept of \"gentle.\" As a result, I have several headless barbies, but don't have the budget to keep buying new ones. Any suggestions?" ]

[ "My mom used a pretty simple trick that worked for a while. She used a short screw with a head that was close to the width of the hole on the bottom of the Barbie head. Screw it into the neck hole at about a 30 degree angle, and super glue the screw in the neck for extra support. After the glue dries, force the Barbie head over the screw (should be very snug) and onto the neck. Sits naturally, moves from side to side still, and is a cheap repair option! There may be better ways, but this certainly worked for my cousins when they were young.", "They don't just pop back on? My Dad apparently used to \"change barbies clothes\" by popping the heads off two dolls and swapping them when I was very little and wanted to play dolls. ", "Maybe reinforcing them with superglue when you pop the heads back on. Goodwill always has barbies, just clean them up a little bit. You can put a little bit of coconut oil on the hair to make the comb slide through better. " ]

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[ "Backyard has a bald spot where the grass won't grow in, anything I can do to get it going? The HOA maintains our yards , so we dont do much in terms of maintenance ourselves. However, spending more time at home has given me this itch to fix it. The soil in the backyard feels like clay and is rocky, there is grass around the bald spot but wont send runners to that spot. Tips for noobs are welcome. Thanks!\n\n[picture for reference](http://imgur.com/a/3hFjqrd)", "Backyard has a bald spot where the grass won't grow in, anything I can do to get it going? The HOA maintains our yards , so we dont do much in terms of maintenance ourselves. However, spending more time at home has given me this itch to fix it. The soil in the backyard feels like clay and is rocky, there is grass around the bald spot but wont send runners to that spot. Tips for noobs are welcome. Thanks!\n\n[picture for reference](http://imgur.com/a/3hFjqrd)" ]

[ "Had no idea LPT can be used to ask questions. This post isnt against the rules because hes not making a bad tip despite there being no tip at all. Interesting", "A picture would help. Is it in the shade or near a tree? Step one is verify it has adequate coverage from sprinklers.. if it is in the shade you can get specific shade tolerant species of grass.\n\nUpdate: Fastest and most effective repair is to shovel cut the area and put in a couple pieces of fresh sod. If you do that you will need to hand water the area until it is acclimated." ]

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[ "How to start talking more to someone you know? This happens to me a lot. We actually know each other, but we never really talk. But let's say i want to know this person better and start talking to him/she... how can i start talking to her/him without being awkward if i've never did this before, and suddenly now i will? ", "How to start talking more to someone you know? This happens to me a lot. We actually know each other, but we never really talk. But let's say i want to know this person better and start talking to him/she... how can i start talking to her/him without being awkward if i've never did this before, and suddenly now i will? ", "How to start talking more to someone you know? This happens to me a lot. We actually know each other, but we never really talk. But let's say i want to know this person better and start talking to him/she... how can i start talking to her/him without being awkward if i've never did this before, and suddenly now i will? ", "How to start talking more to someone you know? This happens to me a lot. We actually know each other, but we never really talk. But let's say i want to know this person better and start talking to him/she... how can i start talking to her/him without being awkward if i've never did this before, and suddenly now i will? " ]

[ "Gossip about mutual friends helps. When you have nothing else to talk about, talk about each other...", "Strike up a conversation in the late morning, then ask if they want to grab some lunch. Being together at a restaurant and in the car will make a natural setting for extended chatter. ", "Hm. I have this problem with people at work/class. To get over it the most important thing for me is letting go of nerves and letting myself make a joke that I would say to someone I already know, since my sense of humor is something I really like. \n\n\nTo let go of nerves, get in the mindset that you're talking to a good friend you already have, ie \"I have my friend _(someone familiar)_ in front of me. How would I feel? What would I normally say when encountering them? How do I act when I'm comfortable with someone?\"\n\nTry to \"fake\" those comfortable feelings until they're real. Let me know if this is helpful at all!", "Open yourself up, ppl will give you advice but it will mean nothing if ur mindset is focused on yourself and ur ego.\n\nInstead focus on others and how you want them to feel. If ur new start talking to ppl in the bus stop, it's very natural and a good area to talk to since they could use some convo to pass time." ]

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[ "\"Stage fright\" Most of you know what I'm talking about. Mostly directed towards guys, but girls can have this too. When you are attempting to urinate, what are some tips you use to prevent that sudden \"retreat\" whenever you hear a noise or someone uses the urinal next to you?", "\"Stage fright\" Most of you know what I'm talking about. Mostly directed towards guys, but girls can have this too. When you are attempting to urinate, what are some tips you use to prevent that sudden \"retreat\" whenever you hear a noise or someone uses the urinal next to you?" ]

[ "State at the wall(or door) and breathe in and out deeply. Pretend you're alone, and calm yourself down. It's always worked for me. ", "I used to try and force myself to piss. I then realized it is a lot easier to piss when you relax and let it just come out. When you're confident you can piss and get it over with in private this way, it is a lot easier to do it in public." ]

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[ "How to make friends rather than just acquaintances Any time the topic of how to make friends comes up, the advice always given is to find a hobby or take a class to meet people. The thing is, I don't really have trouble meeting and getting along with people. I have a lot of acquaintances at school but very few actual friends that I actually hang out with outside of class. How am I supposed make actual friends outside of school, especially when I never have anything interesting going on to invite people to?", "How to make friends rather than just acquaintances Any time the topic of how to make friends comes up, the advice always given is to find a hobby or take a class to meet people. The thing is, I don't really have trouble meeting and getting along with people. I have a lot of acquaintances at school but very few actual friends that I actually hang out with outside of class. How am I supposed make actual friends outside of school, especially when I never have anything interesting going on to invite people to?", "How to make friends rather than just acquaintances Any time the topic of how to make friends comes up, the advice always given is to find a hobby or take a class to meet people. The thing is, I don't really have trouble meeting and getting along with people. I have a lot of acquaintances at school but very few actual friends that I actually hang out with outside of class. How am I supposed make actual friends outside of school, especially when I never have anything interesting going on to invite people to?", "How to make friends rather than just acquaintances Any time the topic of how to make friends comes up, the advice always given is to find a hobby or take a class to meet people. The thing is, I don't really have trouble meeting and getting along with people. I have a lot of acquaintances at school but very few actual friends that I actually hang out with outside of class. How am I supposed make actual friends outside of school, especially when I never have anything interesting going on to invite people to?" ]

[ "The trick is to do things outside of class or wherever you originally met the person. Things like concerts, hikes, working out, bars (if you are old enough) are great. The goal is to get to know the person on a multi dimensional level. If you just seem them in class that's never going to happen. You can start with something as stupid as \"hey, I'm hungry. Wanna go get lunch?\"", "Invite people to fun shit and they will invite you to their fun shit. Get two tickets to a show and offer one to someone. Throw a party. Form a study group. Get lunch. ", "Sounds like you're waiting for others to befriend you, or break that acquaintance barrier. Most people find this difficult to do. If you're easy to get along with then make the first move. ", "I'd ask them first to put their number in your phone, then text them a few days later. Try and talk with them every few days and maybe like a week and a half later ask them if they want to go to the mall or something. " ]

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[ "How to get rid of mosquitos inside the house? These female blood sucking ninjas have been relentless in their attacks on me.", "How to get rid of mosquitos inside the house? These female blood sucking ninjas have been relentless in their attacks on me.", "How to get rid of mosquitos inside the house? These female blood sucking ninjas have been relentless in their attacks on me." ]

[ "Amazon sells a number of well-reviewed and save indoor [bug](http://www.amazon.com/Electronic-Indoor-Insect-Killer-Zapper/dp/B00I0G0JXE/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1444317598&sr=8-2&keywords=indoor+bug+zapper)\nzappers for a nominal fee.\n\nSet one up by where you spend your evenings, and have your night punctuated by the sound of mosquitoes being vaporized as they vector onto your exhalations.\n\nBuy several if the problem is bad. \n\nAlso try to figure out how they are getting in.", "If you have a box fan, put a piece of screen over the inlet side and then run the fan. Mosquitoes are such weak flyers that they get sucked in by the fan and trapped on the screen/mesh wire.\n\nHere's a video of what I'm describing (you don't have to use a big fan like this guy, just a simple box fan for indoor use is fine):\n\nhttp://www.ebaumsworld.com/video/watch/84108574/", "I am serving in the army; because our bunks are beside forested areas, I usually get feasted on by mosquitos at night.\n\nTry getting one of those Mosquito \"blackhole\". It is truly effective. I wake up every morning with the perverse joy of seeing 4 mosquito carcasses lying beside me. " ]

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[ "need help staying awake at work So I don't really like working a desk job where i sit in front of a computer for hours. My brain just kinda falls asleep every single time. This is a huge problem cuz now I'm helping my friend's dad's company that is a little short handed at the moment. And my solution for keeping awake is just to snack so that at least the movement of my mouth keeps me awake, but the con is that I'm gaining weight... I've gained 3kg in just under 2 months...\n\nWhat are some of your tips for staying awake in an office environment?", "need help staying awake at work So I don't really like working a desk job where i sit in front of a computer for hours. My brain just kinda falls asleep every single time. This is a huge problem cuz now I'm helping my friend's dad's company that is a little short handed at the moment. And my solution for keeping awake is just to snack so that at least the movement of my mouth keeps me awake, but the con is that I'm gaining weight... I've gained 3kg in just under 2 months...\n\nWhat are some of your tips for staying awake in an office environment?", "need help staying awake at work So I don't really like working a desk job where i sit in front of a computer for hours. My brain just kinda falls asleep every single time. This is a huge problem cuz now I'm helping my friend's dad's company that is a little short handed at the moment. And my solution for keeping awake is just to snack so that at least the movement of my mouth keeps me awake, but the con is that I'm gaining weight... I've gained 3kg in just under 2 months...\n\nWhat are some of your tips for staying awake in an office environment?", "need help staying awake at work So I don't really like working a desk job where i sit in front of a computer for hours. My brain just kinda falls asleep every single time. This is a huge problem cuz now I'm helping my friend's dad's company that is a little short handed at the moment. And my solution for keeping awake is just to snack so that at least the movement of my mouth keeps me awake, but the con is that I'm gaining weight... I've gained 3kg in just under 2 months...\n\nWhat are some of your tips for staying awake in an office environment?", "need help staying awake at work So I don't really like working a desk job where i sit in front of a computer for hours. My brain just kinda falls asleep every single time. This is a huge problem cuz now I'm helping my friend's dad's company that is a little short handed at the moment. And my solution for keeping awake is just to snack so that at least the movement of my mouth keeps me awake, but the con is that I'm gaining weight... I've gained 3kg in just under 2 months...\n\nWhat are some of your tips for staying awake in an office environment?", "need help staying awake at work So I don't really like working a desk job where i sit in front of a computer for hours. My brain just kinda falls asleep every single time. This is a huge problem cuz now I'm helping my friend's dad's company that is a little short handed at the moment. And my solution for keeping awake is just to snack so that at least the movement of my mouth keeps me awake, but the con is that I'm gaining weight... I've gained 3kg in just under 2 months...\n\nWhat are some of your tips for staying awake in an office environment?", "need help staying awake at work So I don't really like working a desk job where i sit in front of a computer for hours. My brain just kinda falls asleep every single time. This is a huge problem cuz now I'm helping my friend's dad's company that is a little short handed at the moment. And my solution for keeping awake is just to snack so that at least the movement of my mouth keeps me awake, but the con is that I'm gaining weight... I've gained 3kg in just under 2 months...\n\nWhat are some of your tips for staying awake in an office environment?", "need help staying awake at work So I don't really like working a desk job where i sit in front of a computer for hours. My brain just kinda falls asleep every single time. This is a huge problem cuz now I'm helping my friend's dad's company that is a little short handed at the moment. And my solution for keeping awake is just to snack so that at least the movement of my mouth keeps me awake, but the con is that I'm gaining weight... I've gained 3kg in just under 2 months...\n\nWhat are some of your tips for staying awake in an office environment?", "need help staying awake at work So I don't really like working a desk job where i sit in front of a computer for hours. My brain just kinda falls asleep every single time. This is a huge problem cuz now I'm helping my friend's dad's company that is a little short handed at the moment. And my solution for keeping awake is just to snack so that at least the movement of my mouth keeps me awake, but the con is that I'm gaining weight... I've gained 3kg in just under 2 months...\n\nWhat are some of your tips for staying awake in an office environment?", "need help staying awake at work So I don't really like working a desk job where i sit in front of a computer for hours. My brain just kinda falls asleep every single time. This is a huge problem cuz now I'm helping my friend's dad's company that is a little short handed at the moment. And my solution for keeping awake is just to snack so that at least the movement of my mouth keeps me awake, but the con is that I'm gaining weight... I've gained 3kg in just under 2 months...\n\nWhat are some of your tips for staying awake in an office environment?" ]

[ "I get up and walk every so often. I can't work for extended periods in a stretch. I snack too, but mine is just really weak coffee, probably just water with some flavour.\n\nDon't sit in front of the screen for hours and have regular breaks. Not as every 15 minutes but like the completion of a few tasks. It'll get better as you adjust to the office.", "Drink lots of water often. I get up and goto the water cooler and full my glass often. And goto the bathroom lots. It gives you little breaks", "[Try one of these. ](https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00NAQOVF6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_fZEvEbJE86QCQ)\n\nBe the coolest peep in the office!", "My gf keeps one of those excersize balls at her office. She sits on it for about half the day to maintain awakeness. No, she doesnt bounce around the place like a kid would, but it does take effort to stay balanced and she has a \"workout routine\" for her feet and ankles that literally keeps her off balance half the time. They are reasonably priced, and for people who cannot use a stand up desk they give moderated excersize while keeping you alert so you dont bust your head.", "Light box. Please trust me on this. It'll change your life. It mimics sunlight. Google 'Light Box Therapy'. I have mine on right now. Enjoy and good luck!", "I know it's easier said than done, but prioritize sleeping at night! Getting to be early, having a bedtime routine, it super helps! I have an alarm on my phone to remind me to go to bed! Good luck! <3", "Do chair yoga, or even modified yoga for at your desk. This always brings my energy up. I also listen to music. \nEvery 20 minutes close your eyes away from the screen for 2 minutes, it will help with the eye strain.", "Stand up and walk around every hour. Set a timer so you don't forget. Use a yoga ball instead of a desk chair.", "Mint chewing gum. Or bubble gum, and lots of it. You’d be surprised how much Big League Chew you can consume 👍", "Do you snore? Do you feel well rested when you wake up?\n\nFalling asleep because you are bored/inactive is one of the symptoms for sleep apnea, it could be worth checking with your GP." ]

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[ "find cheap airplane tickets This is my first time traveling (Washington to south Arizona) and I'm on a very low budget, but I don't want to spend 36 hours on car/bus.\nI'm taking the trip in about 2 more months, so I'm trying to find the cheapest way to get airplane tickets, is there any pro tip available? (ie: travel on Monday is cheaper, or any specific airline that accepts cuppons or any available promotion)\n", "find cheap airplane tickets This is my first time traveling (Washington to south Arizona) and I'm on a very low budget, but I don't want to spend 36 hours on car/bus.\nI'm taking the trip in about 2 more months, so I'm trying to find the cheapest way to get airplane tickets, is there any pro tip available? (ie: travel on Monday is cheaper, or any specific airline that accepts cuppons or any available promotion)\n", "find cheap airplane tickets This is my first time traveling (Washington to south Arizona) and I'm on a very low budget, but I don't want to spend 36 hours on car/bus.\nI'm taking the trip in about 2 more months, so I'm trying to find the cheapest way to get airplane tickets, is there any pro tip available? (ie: travel on Monday is cheaper, or any specific airline that accepts cuppons or any available promotion)\n", "find cheap airplane tickets This is my first time traveling (Washington to south Arizona) and I'm on a very low budget, but I don't want to spend 36 hours on car/bus.\nI'm taking the trip in about 2 more months, so I'm trying to find the cheapest way to get airplane tickets, is there any pro tip available? (ie: travel on Monday is cheaper, or any specific airline that accepts cuppons or any available promotion)\n", "find cheap airplane tickets This is my first time traveling (Washington to south Arizona) and I'm on a very low budget, but I don't want to spend 36 hours on car/bus.\nI'm taking the trip in about 2 more months, so I'm trying to find the cheapest way to get airplane tickets, is there any pro tip available? (ie: travel on Monday is cheaper, or any specific airline that accepts cuppons or any available promotion)\n" ]

[ "There's an app called \"hopper\" and it will tell you the best times to fly to a certain place, it will also track pricing for that particular trip, alert you when prices fluctuate, and tell you if nows the best time to buy or if you should wait. I got a round trip flight in September on united from Dallas to Iowa for $172", "it's all about the days you travel, Mondays-Thursdays are good. But check out Google Flights, you can say when you want to go and they'll show you the cheapest days to do it. I stayed in SF a day longer and saved about 200 bucks, it's pretty remarkable. ", "In a marketing class I took last semester, my professor explained that sometimes you can knock down the price of a flight just by using a different computer or browser. For example, using an incognito window on a PC as opposed to just opening up a regular Safari window on a Mac could yield lower flight expenses. \n\n\nGood luck!", "[This article has some great tips for booking flights](http://www.worldofwanderlust.com/10-hacks-booking-flights/) ", "[Hipmunk](https://www.hipmunk.com/flights#f=SEA;t=PHX;d=2016-07-06;r=2016-07-13) shows it for $146 R/T and [Google](https://www.google.com/flights/#search;f=SEA;t=PHX,AZA) for $137. Hard to get much lower than that." ]

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[ "How to remove scruff marks off wallpaper? I have tried to use a damp cloth to wipe the marks off and while it works somewhat it is not good enough. Ideas?", "How to remove scruff marks off wallpaper? I have tried to use a damp cloth to wipe the marks off and while it works somewhat it is not good enough. Ideas?", "How to remove scruff marks off wallpaper? I have tried to use a damp cloth to wipe the marks off and while it works somewhat it is not good enough. Ideas?" ]

[ "The method of cleaning it off depends on what is in the scruff mark. Maybe try putting dish soap in the water first.\n\nIf the mark has actually scratched into the surface of the wall paper you're out of luck.", "It really depends on the nature of the mark. Try baby wipes- they remove a lot of my wall marks better than soap and water. Try scrubbing with a soft toothbrush and some soap. If your paper is really porous, the \"scuff\" may have sunk into the holes and need some vigorous scrubbing to come off. Unfortunately, there is a point there you'll have to actually scrub off the wallpaper to remove some marks. ", "I read somewhere recently, that play dough was invented to clean wallpaper. I think it's still available in the toy section. I have scrubbable wallpaper so it's not a problem for me. Good luck!" ]

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[ "How to disable Chrome's page down function for the spacebar I'm sick of hitting this tiny \"k\" key to pause Youtube videos. It was a lot more convenient back in the day when hitting this nice, big ol' spacebar paused them. And I don't want to have to specifically click inside the video to activate the spacebar's video control functions because at that point it's just more convenient to use the JKL keys. Is there any way to tell my browser not to recognize the spacebar as a page down command?", "How to disable Chrome's page down function for the spacebar I'm sick of hitting this tiny \"k\" key to pause Youtube videos. It was a lot more convenient back in the day when hitting this nice, big ol' spacebar paused them. And I don't want to have to specifically click inside the video to activate the spacebar's video control functions because at that point it's just more convenient to use the JKL keys. Is there any way to tell my browser not to recognize the spacebar as a page down command?", "How to disable Chrome's page down function for the spacebar I'm sick of hitting this tiny \"k\" key to pause Youtube videos. It was a lot more convenient back in the day when hitting this nice, big ol' spacebar paused them. And I don't want to have to specifically click inside the video to activate the spacebar's video control functions because at that point it's just more convenient to use the JKL keys. Is there any way to tell my browser not to recognize the spacebar as a page down command?" ]

[ "install tampermonkey chrome extension and add this script...\n \n // ==UserScript==\n // @name Disable Space on Youtube...\n // @namespace http://tampermonkey.net/\n // @version 0.1\n // @description try to take over the world!\n // @author kingpin2k\n // @match https://www.youtube.com/*\n // @grant none\n // ==/UserScript==\n \n (function() {\n var k = function(action){ \n var eventObj = document.createEvent(\"Events\");\n \n eventObj.initEvent(\"keydown\", true, true);\n eventObj.keyCode = 75;\n eventObj.which = 75;\n \n document.body.dispatchEvent(eventObj);\n };\n \n var killSpaceBar = function(evt) {\n \n var target = evt.target || {},\n isInput = (\"INPUT\" == target.tagName || \"TEXTAREA\" == target.tagName || \"SELECT\" == target.tagName || \"EMBED\" == target.tagName);\n \n // if we're an input or not a real target exit\n if(isInput || !target.tagName) return;\n \n // if we're a fake input like the comments exit\n if(target && target.getAttribute && target.getAttribute('role') === 'textbox') return;\n \n // ignore the space and send a 'k' to pause\n if (evt.keyCode === 32) {\n evt.preventDefault();\n k();\n }\n };\n \n document.addEventListener(\"keydown\", killSpaceBar, false);\n \n })();", "I would love to find out how to deactivate that shortcut too. My thumb generally rests on the spacebar and far too often I press it accidentally.", "Dude, it's been this way since the beginning. What you seem to be describing has never been the case. That said I agree 100% and would love a solution." ]

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[ "How to get all the pee out of your penis before you zip back up so you don't drip inside your pants. For the love of god someone must know!!!!!!!\n\nIn before shaking it", "How to get all the pee out of your penis before you zip back up so you don't drip inside your pants. For the love of god someone must know!!!!!!!\n\nIn before shaking it", "How to get all the pee out of your penis before you zip back up so you don't drip inside your pants. For the love of god someone must know!!!!!!!\n\nIn before shaking it", "How to get all the pee out of your penis before you zip back up so you don't drip inside your pants. For the love of god someone must know!!!!!!!\n\nIn before shaking it", "How to get all the pee out of your penis before you zip back up so you don't drip inside your pants. For the love of god someone must know!!!!!!!\n\nIn before shaking it", "How to get all the pee out of your penis before you zip back up so you don't drip inside your pants. For the love of god someone must know!!!!!!!\n\nIn before shaking it", "How to get all the pee out of your penis before you zip back up so you don't drip inside your pants. For the love of god someone must know!!!!!!!\n\nIn before shaking it", "How to get all the pee out of your penis before you zip back up so you don't drip inside your pants. For the love of god someone must know!!!!!!!\n\nIn before shaking it", "How to get all the pee out of your penis before you zip back up so you don't drip inside your pants. For the love of god someone must know!!!!!!!\n\nIn before shaking it" ]

[ "I met a Muslim man a few years ago who helped me with this, and as everyone knows, they wash their hands multiple times a day for religious reasons. But he washed his hands BEFORE and after he went to the bathroom, and I asked why he washed his hands the first time, he said \"my penis is clean, and my hands are dirty, so when I touch my under my balls I don't want to put dirt there,\" and I was like\"Why do you touch under your balls?\" \"push that bit twice, pinch the base of your penis and squeeze toward the tip twice, then pinch the head once, no more drips\" Also, according to him, a lot of southeast Asians do do this. And never buy white underwear. Never.", "A urologist did an AMA some time ago, and he answered the question:\n\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/gkb5m/iama_urologist_ama_disclaimer_answers_may_end_in/c1o6lhh\n\n", "No matter how much shaking and squeezing you do, a few drops will always drip out as soon as you pack it back in. It's just the way life is.", "No matter how much you shake\n\nNo matter how much you dance\n\nThe last little drop always ends up in your pants.", "May I add a tip for underwear? I'm currentely cycling in New Zealand for some months now. I have one merino wool underwear. After weeks of use, no foul smell in my pants. Gotta love that.", "The urologist one:\n\nStop forcing your pee out, and naturally relax your bladder and let it just come out. Your pelvic muscles are overworked and tired, and probably shitty otherwise. Also kegels and reverse kegels throughout the day might help.\n\nHave you ever had a prostate exam done? You might have BPH. If you're older you should definitely get it check.", "With your dick hanging out, walk into the nearest stall and rip off a small piece of toilet paper. Proceed to gently dab the tip and watch as the paper soaks up the remaining pee.\nIf all stalls are occupied, knock and ask the person inside to hand you a piece of toilet paper. As an alternative, use the paper towel dispenser.\n\n", "When your peeing, try and stop peeing by using a muscle in your penis.\n\nThis will strengthen the muscle and help you with this current issue. Helps sex as well", "Refer to this comment. http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hs3sz/dear_fellas_of_reddit_what_are_some_things_that/c1xw59n" ]

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[ "How do you guys wash your dishes? What's your method? How does it save time/water/energy? \n\nHere are mine (I have a double sink and no dishwasher):\nFill the non-disposal side of the sink with a little soapy water \n\nRinse/brush dishes in the disposal side, wash them with a brush in the soapy water side, rinse again in the disposal side, then put them wherever they go to dry\n\nUsing a brush is the best\n ", "How do you guys wash your dishes? What's your method? How does it save time/water/energy? \n\nHere are mine (I have a double sink and no dishwasher):\nFill the non-disposal side of the sink with a little soapy water \n\nRinse/brush dishes in the disposal side, wash them with a brush in the soapy water side, rinse again in the disposal side, then put them wherever they go to dry\n\nUsing a brush is the best\n ", "How do you guys wash your dishes? What's your method? How does it save time/water/energy? \n\nHere are mine (I have a double sink and no dishwasher):\nFill the non-disposal side of the sink with a little soapy water \n\nRinse/brush dishes in the disposal side, wash them with a brush in the soapy water side, rinse again in the disposal side, then put them wherever they go to dry\n\nUsing a brush is the best\n " ]

[ "I just wash everything right when I'm done with it so my sink never fills up. I use a sponge, soap, and slow running water.", "I use a brush too - much more sanitary than a sponge. I use the dishwasher, so I don't worry about getting everything super clean beforehand. I put dish soap directly on the brush, and just sort of swish everything to get the gunk off. I run the water as little as possible while doing this - if I have a large-ish bowl or pan, I'll fill it up and use that instead of running water.", "I keep everything rinsed and stacked tidily so what I come to wash up its easy; Glasses first in as-hot-as-I-can-stand-it soapy water, (That way they come out sparkling) then whiteware, (cups bowls and plates), then cutlery and finally pots and pans.\n This way I only need one bowl of hot water.\n Spend a bit more on your washing up liquid and you won't need as much, saving in the long run and I have a sponge, a scourer and a metal scourer depending on the item being washed.\n" ]

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[ "how to wash my work shirts without having to iron them afterwards? I work 6 days a week but only have 3 uniforms and the company will not give me more, so I have to wash them and iron then in the middle of the week, washing them is easy just use a washing machine, ironing on the other hand I hate it with a burning passion, so I have to stay late at night iron them, any tips for not having to iron them?", "how to wash my work shirts without having to iron them afterwards? I work 6 days a week but only have 3 uniforms and the company will not give me more, so I have to wash them and iron then in the middle of the week, washing them is easy just use a washing machine, ironing on the other hand I hate it with a burning passion, so I have to stay late at night iron them, any tips for not having to iron them?", "how to wash my work shirts without having to iron them afterwards? I work 6 days a week but only have 3 uniforms and the company will not give me more, so I have to wash them and iron then in the middle of the week, washing them is easy just use a washing machine, ironing on the other hand I hate it with a burning passion, so I have to stay late at night iron them, any tips for not having to iron them?", "how to wash my work shirts without having to iron them afterwards? I work 6 days a week but only have 3 uniforms and the company will not give me more, so I have to wash them and iron then in the middle of the week, washing them is easy just use a washing machine, ironing on the other hand I hate it with a burning passion, so I have to stay late at night iron them, any tips for not having to iron them?", "how to wash my work shirts without having to iron them afterwards? I work 6 days a week but only have 3 uniforms and the company will not give me more, so I have to wash them and iron then in the middle of the week, washing them is easy just use a washing machine, ironing on the other hand I hate it with a burning passion, so I have to stay late at night iron them, any tips for not having to iron them?", "how to wash my work shirts without having to iron them afterwards? I work 6 days a week but only have 3 uniforms and the company will not give me more, so I have to wash them and iron then in the middle of the week, washing them is easy just use a washing machine, ironing on the other hand I hate it with a burning passion, so I have to stay late at night iron them, any tips for not having to iron them?", "how to wash my work shirts without having to iron them afterwards? I work 6 days a week but only have 3 uniforms and the company will not give me more, so I have to wash them and iron then in the middle of the week, washing them is easy just use a washing machine, ironing on the other hand I hate it with a burning passion, so I have to stay late at night iron them, any tips for not having to iron them?", "how to wash my work shirts without having to iron them afterwards? I work 6 days a week but only have 3 uniforms and the company will not give me more, so I have to wash them and iron then in the middle of the week, washing them is easy just use a washing machine, ironing on the other hand I hate it with a burning passion, so I have to stay late at night iron them, any tips for not having to iron them?", "how to wash my work shirts without having to iron them afterwards? I work 6 days a week but only have 3 uniforms and the company will not give me more, so I have to wash them and iron then in the middle of the week, washing them is easy just use a washing machine, ironing on the other hand I hate it with a burning passion, so I have to stay late at night iron them, any tips for not having to iron them?" ]

[ "Here’s what I do with my husband’s shirts instead of ironing them:\n\nWash them. Hang them to dry. In the morning, toss them in the dryer on low/delicate with a damp, clean towel or cloth. In like 10 minutes, if that, you’ve basically steamed your shirt and pants. No more wrinkles.", "I find that hanging them to dry or hanging them as soon as the dryer is done helps. They won't be perfect, but better than folding.", "There’s a wrinkle spray you can use. Just spray and wipe away wrinkles with your hands. It’s downy wrinkle spray I think. It works Amazingly well.", "The hang while still warm trick is what I use. If they're wrinkled in the morning I hang them in the bathroom while I take my shower, the steam relaxes out the wrinkles.", "Hang them in the shower and let the steam do it’s job. Out of curiousity can you buy three new uniforms?", "Listening to music while ironing makes it more fun. Also don't go for detail, as long as you iron the main parts it should be fine unless you are in the military then you need to be thorough.", "Instead of ironing, if you have a small bathroom, close the door, hang the shirts near your shower. Take a hot shower, then morning activity (brush/floss teeth, hair, etc.). By the time you finish most to all wrinkles should be steamed out.", "Hang them after washing to let them dry, then buy Downy Wrinkle Releaser and most them with it and toss them in the dryer for about 5 minutes. Problem solved.", "Downey fabric softener in the wash. While they are almost done drying, take them out, shake out any wrinkles and hang up while just slightly damp." ]

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[ "How to stop watching TV It's been a habit since I was a small kid and I'd rather have the time I spend on it devoted to bettering myself and my career. Any suggestions?", "How to stop watching TV It's been a habit since I was a small kid and I'd rather have the time I spend on it devoted to bettering myself and my career. Any suggestions?" ]

[ "Here is an article for parents [How to raise No TV children](http://www.wikihow.com/Raise-No-TV-Children) with good suggestions.", "First you need to make a firm resolution that you do not want to watch TV and make it clear to yourself why you do not want to watch TV. Write a list of all the cons related to watching TV and put it somewhere where it will remind you why you are not watching TV. Even if you slip up and watch TV keep reminding yourself why you don't want to, and keep making your resolution stronger. This link gives good tips on how to get rid of addictions: http://goo.gl/opU11K" ]

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[ "How to keep body feeling good during warehouse job I just started a new job at a warehouse, and wanted some recommendations on how to keep my body and especially feet/ankles healthy. All I do is order picking and it’s super easy but it’s a lot of walking. Does anyone have any ideas on how to prevent soreness in ankles and feet?", "How to keep body feeling good during warehouse job I just started a new job at a warehouse, and wanted some recommendations on how to keep my body and especially feet/ankles healthy. All I do is order picking and it’s super easy but it’s a lot of walking. Does anyone have any ideas on how to prevent soreness in ankles and feet?" ]

[ "Invest in a good pair of shoes WITH a decent pair of orthotics. Doesn’t need to break the bank, 40-50 dollars for a pair every year or so beats a 300 dollar pair that last the same amount of time. High arches? Flat feet? Get something that complements your foot type. Shoes should be solid and supportive, especially if you are walking on concrete all day. No cushioned shoes. Take a minute at the end of your day to stretch your legs, do 10-15 lunges on both legs, and move your back all the way through it’s range of motion. Doesn’t need to be fancy, just big and thorough. You’ll be the funniest looking and most comfortable worker there. With arch pain, take a cold bottle and roll your arch over it for 5-10 minutes each foot. Blisters on your toes? Bigger shoes and slightly thicker socks. Knee pain? Keep your low back and hips limber. Back pain? Try a very slight increase or decrease in your heel height.", "* Get a good pair of shoes as well as a good pair of cushioned inserts for those shoes. I used to work in a manufacturing factory and spending all day standing on cement was murder for my feet. Getting better shoes and some gel inserts saved my sanity while I worked there. \n\n* Take a few moments to take off your shoes during lunch and massage your feet. It’ll give them a break and help maintain healthy circulation. \n\n* If you’re lifting or carrying things often, make sure you know how to lift them using the proper form. Picking things up the correct way can feel awkward sad all hell, but that’s nowhere near as bad as earning yourself some lifelong back problems." ]

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[ "How to interrupt a conversation when two people are talking The title might not be accurate. This has happened to me a couple of times. When I am in a large meeting and I want to take leave, I usually like to thank some people, especially speakers and leave. A lot of times, they are in a conversation and I stand to the side waiting for my turn because I don't want to interrupt. So, it becomes awkward where one person in the conversation speaking knows I am waiting to take my leave, but can't stop the conversation without appearing rude and I have to wait for a while. How do I quickly intrude and quickly take my leave without appearing too rude ?\n", "How to interrupt a conversation when two people are talking The title might not be accurate. This has happened to me a couple of times. When I am in a large meeting and I want to take leave, I usually like to thank some people, especially speakers and leave. A lot of times, they are in a conversation and I stand to the side waiting for my turn because I don't want to interrupt. So, it becomes awkward where one person in the conversation speaking knows I am waiting to take my leave, but can't stop the conversation without appearing rude and I have to wait for a while. How do I quickly intrude and quickly take my leave without appearing too rude ?\n", "How to interrupt a conversation when two people are talking The title might not be accurate. This has happened to me a couple of times. When I am in a large meeting and I want to take leave, I usually like to thank some people, especially speakers and leave. A lot of times, they are in a conversation and I stand to the side waiting for my turn because I don't want to interrupt. So, it becomes awkward where one person in the conversation speaking knows I am waiting to take my leave, but can't stop the conversation without appearing rude and I have to wait for a while. How do I quickly intrude and quickly take my leave without appearing too rude ?\n", "How to interrupt a conversation when two people are talking The title might not be accurate. This has happened to me a couple of times. When I am in a large meeting and I want to take leave, I usually like to thank some people, especially speakers and leave. A lot of times, they are in a conversation and I stand to the side waiting for my turn because I don't want to interrupt. So, it becomes awkward where one person in the conversation speaking knows I am waiting to take my leave, but can't stop the conversation without appearing rude and I have to wait for a while. How do I quickly intrude and quickly take my leave without appearing too rude ?\n", "How to interrupt a conversation when two people are talking The title might not be accurate. This has happened to me a couple of times. When I am in a large meeting and I want to take leave, I usually like to thank some people, especially speakers and leave. A lot of times, they are in a conversation and I stand to the side waiting for my turn because I don't want to interrupt. So, it becomes awkward where one person in the conversation speaking knows I am waiting to take my leave, but can't stop the conversation without appearing rude and I have to wait for a while. How do I quickly intrude and quickly take my leave without appearing too rude ?\n" ]

[ "They see you there. If one or both wanted you in the conversation, they would turn to you and address you directly. If they don't, just say thanks as you move on.", "Take my leave? This does not sound like you are from where I am from. There MAY be cultural differences as to what is and is not acceptable. What I do would not fly in Japan, for example. I know this because someone at the old office who had worked in Japan told me so.\n\nWhen this happens to me - I raise my hand, it's absolutely hilarious. Someone will \"call\" on me either verbally or visually. If verbally (usually everyone stops talking) I will say goodbye and excuse myself from the room, usually in George Costanza fashion. I know my audience, I can get away with a relatively off color joke and then say \"I'm outta here.\" If visually: I get the nod and then give a nod back, that I have everything I need and I am leaving now (any reason for leaving a meeting more specific than this and I will wait for the verbal). We established a few different nods in our meetings. I do not know the politics of your table, you'll have to interpret the nods on your own.", "Put your hand on the one that's speaking to the guy you want to speak to and say, \" Sir, could you kindly FUCK OFF!\" \n\nHe'll get the message.", "Interupt, you have to. Put your hand on them, they'll usually look at you, and say \"excuse me (in a clear, not passive, way), i wanted to say goodbye before i left\". Osta Lasagna. Or just pat them on the arm as you walk bye, or a salute always sends the message, and leave.", "I usually try to make eye contact and wave sometimes mouthing bye, sometimes they stop me and say goodbye sometimes they flip me off." ]

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[ "Speaking clearly and audibly Hiya!\nSo I have this problem where I tend to mumble in casual conversation. It's not really mumbling in the sense that I'm super shy and scared to talk, but rather that my words get jumbled together because I talk too fast sometimes, and I can be hard to hear. I am kind of a shy guy around new people, but I'm very open with friends and this happens when I'm talking to friends too.\n\nWhen giving presentations and stuff, I can speak loudly (so it's not like I'm physically incapable of doing so), but I still go too fast sometimes, so that certain chains of words are hard to understand.\n\nDoes anyone have tips on speaking more clearly and audibly?\n\nThanks!", "Speaking clearly and audibly Hiya!\nSo I have this problem where I tend to mumble in casual conversation. It's not really mumbling in the sense that I'm super shy and scared to talk, but rather that my words get jumbled together because I talk too fast sometimes, and I can be hard to hear. I am kind of a shy guy around new people, but I'm very open with friends and this happens when I'm talking to friends too.\n\nWhen giving presentations and stuff, I can speak loudly (so it's not like I'm physically incapable of doing so), but I still go too fast sometimes, so that certain chains of words are hard to understand.\n\nDoes anyone have tips on speaking more clearly and audibly?\n\nThanks!", "Speaking clearly and audibly Hiya!\nSo I have this problem where I tend to mumble in casual conversation. It's not really mumbling in the sense that I'm super shy and scared to talk, but rather that my words get jumbled together because I talk too fast sometimes, and I can be hard to hear. I am kind of a shy guy around new people, but I'm very open with friends and this happens when I'm talking to friends too.\n\nWhen giving presentations and stuff, I can speak loudly (so it's not like I'm physically incapable of doing so), but I still go too fast sometimes, so that certain chains of words are hard to understand.\n\nDoes anyone have tips on speaking more clearly and audibly?\n\nThanks!", "Speaking clearly and audibly Hiya!\nSo I have this problem where I tend to mumble in casual conversation. It's not really mumbling in the sense that I'm super shy and scared to talk, but rather that my words get jumbled together because I talk too fast sometimes, and I can be hard to hear. I am kind of a shy guy around new people, but I'm very open with friends and this happens when I'm talking to friends too.\n\nWhen giving presentations and stuff, I can speak loudly (so it's not like I'm physically incapable of doing so), but I still go too fast sometimes, so that certain chains of words are hard to understand.\n\nDoes anyone have tips on speaking more clearly and audibly?\n\nThanks!", "Speaking clearly and audibly Hiya!\nSo I have this problem where I tend to mumble in casual conversation. It's not really mumbling in the sense that I'm super shy and scared to talk, but rather that my words get jumbled together because I talk too fast sometimes, and I can be hard to hear. I am kind of a shy guy around new people, but I'm very open with friends and this happens when I'm talking to friends too.\n\nWhen giving presentations and stuff, I can speak loudly (so it's not like I'm physically incapable of doing so), but I still go too fast sometimes, so that certain chains of words are hard to understand.\n\nDoes anyone have tips on speaking more clearly and audibly?\n\nThanks!", "Speaking clearly and audibly Hiya!\nSo I have this problem where I tend to mumble in casual conversation. It's not really mumbling in the sense that I'm super shy and scared to talk, but rather that my words get jumbled together because I talk too fast sometimes, and I can be hard to hear. I am kind of a shy guy around new people, but I'm very open with friends and this happens when I'm talking to friends too.\n\nWhen giving presentations and stuff, I can speak loudly (so it's not like I'm physically incapable of doing so), but I still go too fast sometimes, so that certain chains of words are hard to understand.\n\nDoes anyone have tips on speaking more clearly and audibly?\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "If your speaking is like your writing, I would suggest pausing more. In writing terms, use periods instead of commas. Periods allow you to gather your breath in order to continue clearly. Seriously, rewrite your post and use more periods. Then read both aloud to yourself. Which one sounds better?", "Ensure that you articulate every syllable. Entitlement sounds like entilement if you don't say en-tie-tuhl-mint. If you're focused on articulating every syllable of a word, you will naturally slow down, with the added benefit of appearing more intelligent and articulate.\n\nImagine you're explaining your speech/presentation to someone who's hard of hearing. Your voice should be a little louder than natural, with excessive enunciation, and slightly slower cadence. \n\ngood luck!", "Proper posture and diaphragmatic breathing will help you with your projection. Tongue twisters will definitely help with enunciation unless there's an actual speech disorder going on. ", "I would say, slow your speech as much as you can and make sure you're facing the person you're speaking to, so you don't have to repeat yourself.", "Try to stay away from daily products, like tea/coffee with milk as it builds on mucus near your speech box.\n\nIn terms of not getting your words mixed up, try practising a rehearsed speech in the morning over and over, so it become fluid and confident.\n\nAlso, don't be afraid to take pauses and smile. It helps you think, and look like your interested in what the person has to say.", "Record yours voice while talking and play it back while looking at yourself in the mirror to see if you'd understand yourself. " ]

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[ "Detailed Cleaning How-to for home/apartment This is kind of obvious/dumb, but does anyone know of a website or youtube that gives you step by step details on how to clean various areas of your home or apartment? \n\nFor example, \n\n* bathroom - clean sink with \"list of supplies used\" (like what kind of sponge, brush, chemical, spray bottle of what? etc) \n* shower - clean shower with this chemical and take OFF shower curtain to wipe it down (something I never thought of) etc \n\nI just honestly never clean at my parents house and when I move out I want to be perfect. Are there any \"Cleaning for dummies\" type books out there? I'm afraid I'm going to forget things just because I don't think about them. Another example, someone mentioned remember to clean ON TOP of kitchen cabinets - never thought about that. \n\nAlso I read on reddit that people clean their walls &amp; doors (I'd like to know what is used (sponge/brush/which cleaning supply?) I've never even seen my parents do this before. \n\nSo just little tips and tricks like that. \n\nBasically looking for a cleaning website, subreddit, youtube, etc with obvious \"explain to me like I'm 5\" tips, directions, info on cleaning supplies.\n\nThanks!", "Detailed Cleaning How-to for home/apartment This is kind of obvious/dumb, but does anyone know of a website or youtube that gives you step by step details on how to clean various areas of your home or apartment? \n\nFor example, \n\n* bathroom - clean sink with \"list of supplies used\" (like what kind of sponge, brush, chemical, spray bottle of what? etc) \n* shower - clean shower with this chemical and take OFF shower curtain to wipe it down (something I never thought of) etc \n\nI just honestly never clean at my parents house and when I move out I want to be perfect. Are there any \"Cleaning for dummies\" type books out there? I'm afraid I'm going to forget things just because I don't think about them. Another example, someone mentioned remember to clean ON TOP of kitchen cabinets - never thought about that. \n\nAlso I read on reddit that people clean their walls &amp; doors (I'd like to know what is used (sponge/brush/which cleaning supply?) I've never even seen my parents do this before. \n\nSo just little tips and tricks like that. \n\nBasically looking for a cleaning website, subreddit, youtube, etc with obvious \"explain to me like I'm 5\" tips, directions, info on cleaning supplies.\n\nThanks!", "Detailed Cleaning How-to for home/apartment This is kind of obvious/dumb, but does anyone know of a website or youtube that gives you step by step details on how to clean various areas of your home or apartment? \n\nFor example, \n\n* bathroom - clean sink with \"list of supplies used\" (like what kind of sponge, brush, chemical, spray bottle of what? etc) \n* shower - clean shower with this chemical and take OFF shower curtain to wipe it down (something I never thought of) etc \n\nI just honestly never clean at my parents house and when I move out I want to be perfect. Are there any \"Cleaning for dummies\" type books out there? I'm afraid I'm going to forget things just because I don't think about them. Another example, someone mentioned remember to clean ON TOP of kitchen cabinets - never thought about that. \n\nAlso I read on reddit that people clean their walls &amp; doors (I'd like to know what is used (sponge/brush/which cleaning supply?) I've never even seen my parents do this before. \n\nSo just little tips and tricks like that. \n\nBasically looking for a cleaning website, subreddit, youtube, etc with obvious \"explain to me like I'm 5\" tips, directions, info on cleaning supplies.\n\nThanks!", "Detailed Cleaning How-to for home/apartment This is kind of obvious/dumb, but does anyone know of a website or youtube that gives you step by step details on how to clean various areas of your home or apartment? \n\nFor example, \n\n* bathroom - clean sink with \"list of supplies used\" (like what kind of sponge, brush, chemical, spray bottle of what? etc) \n* shower - clean shower with this chemical and take OFF shower curtain to wipe it down (something I never thought of) etc \n\nI just honestly never clean at my parents house and when I move out I want to be perfect. Are there any \"Cleaning for dummies\" type books out there? I'm afraid I'm going to forget things just because I don't think about them. Another example, someone mentioned remember to clean ON TOP of kitchen cabinets - never thought about that. \n\nAlso I read on reddit that people clean their walls &amp; doors (I'd like to know what is used (sponge/brush/which cleaning supply?) I've never even seen my parents do this before. \n\nSo just little tips and tricks like that. \n\nBasically looking for a cleaning website, subreddit, youtube, etc with obvious \"explain to me like I'm 5\" tips, directions, info on cleaning supplies.\n\nThanks!", "Detailed Cleaning How-to for home/apartment This is kind of obvious/dumb, but does anyone know of a website or youtube that gives you step by step details on how to clean various areas of your home or apartment? \n\nFor example, \n\n* bathroom - clean sink with \"list of supplies used\" (like what kind of sponge, brush, chemical, spray bottle of what? etc) \n* shower - clean shower with this chemical and take OFF shower curtain to wipe it down (something I never thought of) etc \n\nI just honestly never clean at my parents house and when I move out I want to be perfect. Are there any \"Cleaning for dummies\" type books out there? I'm afraid I'm going to forget things just because I don't think about them. Another example, someone mentioned remember to clean ON TOP of kitchen cabinets - never thought about that. \n\nAlso I read on reddit that people clean their walls &amp; doors (I'd like to know what is used (sponge/brush/which cleaning supply?) I've never even seen my parents do this before. \n\nSo just little tips and tricks like that. \n\nBasically looking for a cleaning website, subreddit, youtube, etc with obvious \"explain to me like I'm 5\" tips, directions, info on cleaning supplies.\n\nThanks!", "Detailed Cleaning How-to for home/apartment This is kind of obvious/dumb, but does anyone know of a website or youtube that gives you step by step details on how to clean various areas of your home or apartment? \n\nFor example, \n\n* bathroom - clean sink with \"list of supplies used\" (like what kind of sponge, brush, chemical, spray bottle of what? etc) \n* shower - clean shower with this chemical and take OFF shower curtain to wipe it down (something I never thought of) etc \n\nI just honestly never clean at my parents house and when I move out I want to be perfect. Are there any \"Cleaning for dummies\" type books out there? I'm afraid I'm going to forget things just because I don't think about them. Another example, someone mentioned remember to clean ON TOP of kitchen cabinets - never thought about that. \n\nAlso I read on reddit that people clean their walls &amp; doors (I'd like to know what is used (sponge/brush/which cleaning supply?) I've never even seen my parents do this before. \n\nSo just little tips and tricks like that. \n\nBasically looking for a cleaning website, subreddit, youtube, etc with obvious \"explain to me like I'm 5\" tips, directions, info on cleaning supplies.\n\nThanks!", "Detailed Cleaning How-to for home/apartment This is kind of obvious/dumb, but does anyone know of a website or youtube that gives you step by step details on how to clean various areas of your home or apartment? \n\nFor example, \n\n* bathroom - clean sink with \"list of supplies used\" (like what kind of sponge, brush, chemical, spray bottle of what? etc) \n* shower - clean shower with this chemical and take OFF shower curtain to wipe it down (something I never thought of) etc \n\nI just honestly never clean at my parents house and when I move out I want to be perfect. Are there any \"Cleaning for dummies\" type books out there? I'm afraid I'm going to forget things just because I don't think about them. Another example, someone mentioned remember to clean ON TOP of kitchen cabinets - never thought about that. \n\nAlso I read on reddit that people clean their walls &amp; doors (I'd like to know what is used (sponge/brush/which cleaning supply?) I've never even seen my parents do this before. \n\nSo just little tips and tricks like that. \n\nBasically looking for a cleaning website, subreddit, youtube, etc with obvious \"explain to me like I'm 5\" tips, directions, info on cleaning supplies.\n\nThanks!", "Detailed Cleaning How-to for home/apartment This is kind of obvious/dumb, but does anyone know of a website or youtube that gives you step by step details on how to clean various areas of your home or apartment? \n\nFor example, \n\n* bathroom - clean sink with \"list of supplies used\" (like what kind of sponge, brush, chemical, spray bottle of what? etc) \n* shower - clean shower with this chemical and take OFF shower curtain to wipe it down (something I never thought of) etc \n\nI just honestly never clean at my parents house and when I move out I want to be perfect. Are there any \"Cleaning for dummies\" type books out there? I'm afraid I'm going to forget things just because I don't think about them. Another example, someone mentioned remember to clean ON TOP of kitchen cabinets - never thought about that. \n\nAlso I read on reddit that people clean their walls &amp; doors (I'd like to know what is used (sponge/brush/which cleaning supply?) I've never even seen my parents do this before. \n\nSo just little tips and tricks like that. \n\nBasically looking for a cleaning website, subreddit, youtube, etc with obvious \"explain to me like I'm 5\" tips, directions, info on cleaning supplies.\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "Magic Eraser! It is great for cleaning stubborn spots on tile and enamel. It's amazing. Just wet it and scrub.\n\nI get the Mr. Clean all-purpose cleaner for the floors and the matching spray cleaner for everything else. I like that it contains Febreze.\n\nStart at the top and work your way down: Dust first, then mop and vacuum.\n\nGet one of those zip strip thingies—it's a plastic strip about two feet long that has barbs on the sides. Great for cleaning the bathroom drains and removing clogs from the intake on your vacuum without taking it all apart.\n\nPick up after yourself as you go. It's a whole lot easier in the long room to grab an errant cup when you go back in the kitchen or toss your clothes in a hamper when you take them off.\n\nClean up as you cook so you don't have a big mess in the kitchen to deal with when you're all full and lazy after you eat.\n\nMake the bed when you get up. It just sets the mood for the day.", ">I just honestly never clean at my parents house and when I move out I want to be perfect.\n\nSo you're still living with your parents, right? Why not just ask them to show you? Just help them clean! It will be easiest to have someone physically there to explain, and to show it to you. \n\nI just can't believe your parents have never asked you to help clean before! I have a friend whose parent still cleans his room at 25 and it absolutely baffles me.\n\n", "it's pretty easy, most cleaning products tell you what they can be used on (eg glass but not paint) - look at the labels\n\nyou can get one all purpose cleaner to do most things\n\npersonally i favour a sponge with scourer stuck on one side, you might want a brush for the toilet and rubber gloves\n\nonce a week is a good frequency for cleaning\n\nalso i tend to start with the kitchen and finish with the bathroom", "Real Simple magazine often runs articles like this. I'm not sure if they are as detailed as what kind of sponges, but they do recommend products and procedures.", "My mom got me [this book](http://www.amazon.com/The-Minimalist-Cleaning-Method-ebook/dp/B003ZK54US) and I've found it useful, both for the \"with what\" and the \"how to\".", "Martha Stewart has an amazing huge book called the housekeeping handbook which tells you how to do everything!", "For the bathroom just grab an all purpose spray and some baking soda and you are good to go. Baking soda is the most amazing thing in existence for demolishing soap scum. Just dump like 1/4 cup into the bathtub and use a mildly damp sponge (you want just enough water to form a paste) then scrub away. The soap scum comes up instantly. ", "I just moved out not long ago and my grandma has been giving me tips.\n\nLay something down under your sink, like wax paper or something, to cover the bottom. It's easy to carelessly throw the garbage in and miss (and then not notice it forever) or even for cleaning supplies to leak. Her area under the sink is flawless and this is just so quick and easy. Check it occasionally and toss it and replace if needed. Especially nice if you are renting, because none of the wood or whatever gets damaged.\n\nAlso, if you have this kind of stove, you need to take the burners off and clean underneath. I had no idea until I saw a friend doing it. Came home and noticed mine were disgusting.\n\nI also bought an allpurpose cleaner (Pledge Multisurface Everyday Cleaner). I'm only 23 and already totally sold on this thing. I'm sure it will be a staple in my house. I use it for everything. I clean the entire bathroom, counters, toilet top thing, glass mirrors, sink, all of it. I use it for my coffee table, all windows, counters, everyfreakingthing.\n\n\n\n\n\n" ]

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[ "How can I remove nail polish from carpet? My bottle of nail polish tipped over and spilled a dime-sized blob on my carpet.", "How can I remove nail polish from carpet? My bottle of nail polish tipped over and spilled a dime-sized blob on my carpet.", "How can I remove nail polish from carpet? My bottle of nail polish tipped over and spilled a dime-sized blob on my carpet.", "How can I remove nail polish from carpet? My bottle of nail polish tipped over and spilled a dime-sized blob on my carpet.", "How can I remove nail polish from carpet? My bottle of nail polish tipped over and spilled a dime-sized blob on my carpet.", "How can I remove nail polish from carpet? My bottle of nail polish tipped over and spilled a dime-sized blob on my carpet.", "How can I remove nail polish from carpet? My bottle of nail polish tipped over and spilled a dime-sized blob on my carpet." ]

[ "Put acetone on a towel and work it inwards (don't make the spot bigger). Then use the dry part of a towel to remove the nail polish. Don't pour acetone onto the carpet as it will damage the backing of it.", "Have you tried nail polish ... Wait for it ... Remover? It contains acetone so silentpl's answer is right on. ", "Don't use acetone, because if the carpet is synthetic it will melt the fibers. I once spilled dark purple polish all over my carpet and Windex, of all things, got it out without a trace. ", "Try getting most of it scraped off of your carpet first. It may be tedious, but it makes the job easier. Then, use Windex. Like thatisnotattractive said, this helps get it off really easily.", "Any tips for dry nail polish stains? I have one stain I couldn't get out when it was fresh and even though it's been months, not all hope is lost.", "Try Vim Cream. I spilled a bunch of Nail Polish on the floor (dried) and methylene blue (which is impossible to remove.) I used Vim and it worked much better than Nail Polish Remover", "Call a professional carpet cleaner, because they have experience and won't damage the carpet like you probably will.\n\nAs a professional carpet cleaner though, I recommend wearing nitrile gloves before touching acetone and be very delicate so as not to damage the carpet fibers with too much agitation. Perhaps use a butter knife to scrape with." ]

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[ "Moving into an apartment with college friends Moving into an apartment in college, any advice or pro tips would be appreciated from seasoned college graduates for living with roommates, boundaries etc", "Moving into an apartment with college friends Moving into an apartment in college, any advice or pro tips would be appreciated from seasoned college graduates for living with roommates, boundaries etc", "Moving into an apartment with college friends Moving into an apartment in college, any advice or pro tips would be appreciated from seasoned college graduates for living with roommates, boundaries etc", "Moving into an apartment with college friends Moving into an apartment in college, any advice or pro tips would be appreciated from seasoned college graduates for living with roommates, boundaries etc", "Moving into an apartment with college friends Moving into an apartment in college, any advice or pro tips would be appreciated from seasoned college graduates for living with roommates, boundaries etc", "Moving into an apartment with college friends Moving into an apartment in college, any advice or pro tips would be appreciated from seasoned college graduates for living with roommates, boundaries etc", "Moving into an apartment with college friends Moving into an apartment in college, any advice or pro tips would be appreciated from seasoned college graduates for living with roommates, boundaries etc", "Moving into an apartment with college friends Moving into an apartment in college, any advice or pro tips would be appreciated from seasoned college graduates for living with roommates, boundaries etc" ]

[ "If there are more than two of you moving in together, then the person missing from the conversation will always get blamed for the dirty dishes. It always works out that way. Not saying it's the truth but that's who always gets blamed.\n\nCorollary: that may be true for anything, not just the dishes.", "Oh goodness, here we go.\n\nSo as someone who has had too many nightmare roommates + friendships turned sour over a shared living experience, I just gotta say MAKE SURE YOU COME UP WITH A CLEANING SCHEDULE AND MAKE SURE EVERYONE STICKS TO IT. You don’t want to be stuck cleaning the toilet every weekend while everyone else purposely turns a blind eye to the housework (and trust me, if they are lazy, they will *let you* be the one to clean up their mess all the time - on PURPOSE).\n\nAlso, make sure the people you’re moving in with can and will pay their goddamn bills on time. I’ve had one too many immature, irresponsible roommates who eventually couldn’t or wouldn’t pay their bills on time, which meant that I was always the one who had to be responsible for paying the rent in full every month even though we all signed the lease together. That shit is not ok. Make sure people know what their budget is, and ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS KEEP TRACK OF ALL BILLS. I’ve had roommates try to pull a fast one on me too, claiming I hadn’t paid a certain bill yet, when in fact I already did and I had records to prove it. \n\nAlso, sure you’re gonna be living with friends and all, but I highly suggest you buy yourself a new doorknob for your room so that you can keep your room locked whenever you’re out of the house; better safe than sorry, but to each their own ofc.\n\nAnother huge issue I always noticed was TOILET PAPER (and napkins and paper towels, if you’re ever rich enough to afford that). Trust, this is *always* a source of resentment, especially if one or all of y’all are broke college students. My advice is to just use your own toilet paper. Yeah, I said it. Keep your toilet paper stash in your own room, bring a roll into the bathroom when you need it, and bring it back to your room when you’re done. I wish someone would’ve just told me this before I ever lived with roommates, but alas I had to learn the hard way that people are stingy. I learned the hard way that it doesn't matter if they’re your friends — people will take advantage of you, they will take advantage of your resources, they will take advantage of your money, they will take advantage of your time and your thoughtfulness, and they will most definitely take advantage of your consideration for them. Having to trust that other people will help you pay rent and utilities on time every month is already stressful enough, you do not need to be stressed over who’s been using WAY too much toilet paper to wipe their asses everyday, and who has not been contributing enough to restocking the toilet paper. Roommates are just that - roommates. They’re there to help pay the rent+utilities with you. They’re not there to eat your food (sharing food here and there is fine ofc but don’t just let someone eat up all your food unless you're running a charity), use up all your expensive luscious Charmin tp, or use up your other limited resources.\n\nAnother very important thing - utilities. I grew up very poor and my parents (yes, the way one is raised usually determines how they live) never let us turn on the heat or A/C very often at all. But honestly that’s always been fine for me - that's what box fans and blankets are for. I’ve had roommates who are similar to me in that aspect, and I’ve also had roommates who are on the complete opposite side of that spectrum who want to have the heater or A/C on at all times. When I had those types of roommates, I would just tell them honestly, “This might sound weird to you but I won’t be using the heater or A/C at all, so if you want to use it every day, you’re gonna have to be the one fully responsible for paying for it.” I’ve said that to roommates before and they’re usually accepting of it, but that doesn’t mean they didn’t resent me for it. Still, at the end of the day, their resentment of me is not my problem, especially if I’m being upfront about my boundaries and they know full well that the electricity bill is going to be a bitch to pay should they knowingly abuse the heating and A/C to begin with. I mean, did ya really think I was about to start paying $300/month just because YOU wanted to have the heating and air on 24/7? Yeah I didn’t think so. Anyway, set these boundaries if you have them. If you’re rich and could care less about how high these bills are, do you, boo.\n\nYou should always let your roommates know at least a day or two beforehand if you're planning to have people over. Your apartment is not only a temporary home for you, it's a temporary home for everyone else who lives with you, and that means that everyone on the lease deserves to know who's going to be coming in and out of their apartment. People deserve to feel safe and comfortable in their own home. I wasn't perfect in this area and it didn't use to bother me, but I fully understand now why people are bothered by these little things. \n\nLast but not least, for Christ’s sake just discuss this boundary before moving in with each other: do you or do you not wanna hear your friends having loud sex every day/night? If not, make sure you make that clear. It can become a problem, to say the very, very least.\n\nJust talking about these things again is bringing up nightmares I wish I never had to go through in the first place, but you asked so I’m spilling. I by no means am saying I was the perfect roommate at all times, I am only giving you insight on some of the worst case scenarios should you ever be unfortunate enough to come across these things. Hopefully any of what I’ve written is helpful. Good luck 👍👍", "Make sure you all take turns cleaning the place, especially the kitchen. When you’ve got several people in a place that just toss their used dishes in the sink, it becomes disgusting pretty quick. It was the worst when I was the only one cleaning dishes in a household with 6 people (3 couples).\n\nMAKE SURE YOU PAY BILLS ON TIME, and maybe post a schedule of when they’re due so everyone knows, since you’ll likely be giving each other money for those.\n\nRespect each other’s boundaries, and respect each other. You’re each paying to live there so each have a say in how things operate. If someone’s gotta be up at 7 to get to work, don’t be blasting a movie or games at 3am in a room right next to/above/below them. If someone wants to add something to spruce up the place (add shelving, new couch, rearrange things, etc.) make sure it’s discussed amongst each other first. May seem obvious, but there’s good reason I’m mentioning… one former roomie back in my 20s had decided to clean up a storage area to make it “nice” and ended up throwing out my birth certificate.\n\nJust a few thoughts :) main thing really is just respect each other and don’t be a dick, and you should be fine!", "Make a chore schedule so certain things always get done on a specific day of the week. One chore a day means your house is never a mess. \n\nIf there's only one bathroom, figure out each others' morning routines so no one is left waiting and late for school/work.", "Establish your joint finances. Who pays and when. These apps are terrific for the money side of things. Will help keep track of who owes what and avoids the, \"what do you mean Brian hasn't paid the internet bill in 4 months?\" \n https://www.theguarantors.com/blog/7-apps-to-help-you-split-bills-with-your-roommate-the-sane-way\n\nDecide on the small things like do you share food. Decide on big things like how long are guests welcome to stay? Do you have to ask each other before inviting? It's nearly a guarantee that someone's significant other will end up basically living there too, are you all ok with that? Will they have to contribute? Will their partner cover their costs? \n\nAlso, remote work. Can someone monopolize the living room and be taking calls and expecting quiet? Regularly? One day a week? All things to consider. \n\nIt also depends how close you all are. It's hardest to live with your primary social group cause all problems get magnified. If you plan to keep both the apartment and the friends, establish some rules and then follow them. \n\nGood luck!", "Figure out who does which chores when. If you don't the cleanliness will be determined by the messiest person and the rest will be pissed about it. Like others said paying the bills is also part of that, make sure you know who does it. (Depends a little on how much you trust your roommates but you might consider rotating this. I've heard of people overcharging their roommates).", "Don't be pushy with the rules but do try to implement them at the beginning to prevent being the asshole later on. Including but not limited to: trash duties, dishes in sink time limits (i had my own dishes and utensils where i clean after my use because slob roomies), space in fridge allications (i got a mini fridge in my room for my drinks and stuff that i really didnt want to share, we had a rule that everything was fair game in the common fridge), utility split (timely payment is important if one person is handling it). We also all agreed shoes at the door area to keep cleaning easy.", "Clean your shit. \n\nI’ve been a roommate to 15 different people in my life, sometimes group living sometimes just two. Now I’m married and that definitely still counts. People have always said I’m a great roommate. \n\nSo the number one piece of advice is clean your shit. Be like a French cook and ‘Mise en place’. When you shower you always put the bathroom back on point as soon as you are done. Don’t leave a dish in the sink that takes 30 seconds to wash and dry and put away. Occasionally DUST your surfaces. You will be happier, your roomies will be happier, and you’ll build an important life skill. \n\nOn top of that occasionally expand your remit of cleaning beyond the agreed upon limits. Dirty dishes in the sink and they’re not yours? Wash them then mention you did it. You’re getting those real karma points. Occasionally help out even though there’s no immediate reason, that’s what friends do and above all you want the person you live with to be your friend and not your opponent.\n\nAlso if you’re gonna be in college hopefully you’ll all be getting to have some casual romantic fun in your room, the first room you can fuck in without your parents potentially hearing it. Make a signal so you know the other roomie is involved then respect it." ]

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[ "how to display a blanket Hi everyone, I would like some help regarding a blanket. \n\nMy aunt recently passed away and I managed to get from her house a small knitted blanket that she and I made together during a summer when I was little. She loved the blanket and used to put it on her lap every evening whilst sitting on the sofa and watched tv and when I fell asleep she used to put it on my shoulders and hug me tight. It's the only thing I have left of hers and I wanted to commemorate and preserve this memories. \n\nI have 4 cats at home and I don't want them to ruin the blanket so I don't want to use it as intended, also the blanket still has her perfume on and I wanted to be able to preserve the smell. \n\nThe blanket is made of wool and the measurements are 31 inches by 33 inches (80 cm x 85 cm). \n\nSorry for any grammatical errors, thank you so much in advance", "how to display a blanket Hi everyone, I would like some help regarding a blanket. \n\nMy aunt recently passed away and I managed to get from her house a small knitted blanket that she and I made together during a summer when I was little. She loved the blanket and used to put it on her lap every evening whilst sitting on the sofa and watched tv and when I fell asleep she used to put it on my shoulders and hug me tight. It's the only thing I have left of hers and I wanted to commemorate and preserve this memories. \n\nI have 4 cats at home and I don't want them to ruin the blanket so I don't want to use it as intended, also the blanket still has her perfume on and I wanted to be able to preserve the smell. \n\nThe blanket is made of wool and the measurements are 31 inches by 33 inches (80 cm x 85 cm). \n\nSorry for any grammatical errors, thank you so much in advance", "how to display a blanket Hi everyone, I would like some help regarding a blanket. \n\nMy aunt recently passed away and I managed to get from her house a small knitted blanket that she and I made together during a summer when I was little. She loved the blanket and used to put it on her lap every evening whilst sitting on the sofa and watched tv and when I fell asleep she used to put it on my shoulders and hug me tight. It's the only thing I have left of hers and I wanted to commemorate and preserve this memories. \n\nI have 4 cats at home and I don't want them to ruin the blanket so I don't want to use it as intended, also the blanket still has her perfume on and I wanted to be able to preserve the smell. \n\nThe blanket is made of wool and the measurements are 31 inches by 33 inches (80 cm x 85 cm). \n\nSorry for any grammatical errors, thank you so much in advance" ]

[ "You can take it to a framing company and they'll show you all sorts of options from laying it flat with a huge frame around it to folding and putting it in a shadow box with possibly some other small things or a photo.", "Unless you have the things that make up the smell, it will fade in time. Even when not often or at all in use. I have things from my old man that I tried to preserve the smell, and all of them eventually faded. \n\nThe other suggestions for physical preservation are great!", "You can put it in a frame and display it as a painting, if it doesent bother you you can also use it as a rug although it will get stepped on and it would only work if you don’t wear shoes in the house and you know you won’t get it dirty. Although you could easily frame it and if you want to keep the smell intact, framing it with glass and making sure it’s insulated . I’m sorry for your loss and I can relate to being close with an aunt, as one of my great aunts raised me from 1-5 years of age and I hope you can preserve your blanket as long as possible" ]

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[ "How to deal with in grown toe-nails? I play a lot of soccer, and I believe that has caused me to have in grown toe nails on the my big toes. I may be wrong about soccer causing the in-grown toe-nails. Anyway, it's very painful for me to locate and remove them. Any LPTs on how to get rid of them?", "How to deal with in grown toe-nails? I play a lot of soccer, and I believe that has caused me to have in grown toe nails on the my big toes. I may be wrong about soccer causing the in-grown toe-nails. Anyway, it's very painful for me to locate and remove them. Any LPTs on how to get rid of them?", "How to deal with in grown toe-nails? I play a lot of soccer, and I believe that has caused me to have in grown toe nails on the my big toes. I may be wrong about soccer causing the in-grown toe-nails. Anyway, it's very painful for me to locate and remove them. Any LPTs on how to get rid of them?", "How to deal with in grown toe-nails? I play a lot of soccer, and I believe that has caused me to have in grown toe nails on the my big toes. I may be wrong about soccer causing the in-grown toe-nails. Anyway, it's very painful for me to locate and remove them. Any LPTs on how to get rid of them?" ]

[ "cut nails after bathing, showering or soaking your feet\n\ncut the corners off carefully - you should be able to pull the ingrown parts out, or carefully push *closed* scissors in and push or hook the ingrown part out", "A prevention tip: cut a 'V' in the middle of your toenail so that the wider part is open away from your toe. This helps keep the nail from growing outward (and into your skin).", "Soak toe in warm Epsom salt solution 3x a day for 15-20 minutes. This will soften the nail and make it easier to trim. If problem persists, go see a podiatrist.\n\n", "Resist the urge to constantly trim them back. They will only get more embedded over time if you do this.\n\nYou need to let the nail grow out so the corners get past the point of being \"tucked in.\" Then cut your toenails flat across the top - buy a special pair of clippers.\n\nThis will take a considerable amount of patience as the process of growing out the nail will cause the pain to get worse before it gets better." ]

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[ "things you can achieve over time with minimal but consistent effort, like getting flexible enough to touch your toes What are some things you can easily achieve over time if you stick with it? Productive/healthy ideas welcome! I'd love ideas for things to do at work every day, or just otherwise incorporate into my life.", "things you can achieve over time with minimal but consistent effort, like getting flexible enough to touch your toes What are some things you can easily achieve over time if you stick with it? Productive/healthy ideas welcome! I'd love ideas for things to do at work every day, or just otherwise incorporate into my life." ]

[ "hand squeezer things, nice to do in a good mood (working out your wrists) or in a bad mood, like a squeeze anger ball.", "Stretching will allow you to touch your toes. It also has many benefits like, increased flexibility, helping depression, increasing your range of motion, helping aches and pains... And in the end it just feels good to have a good stretch. " ]

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[ "Waking up early \"hacks\" that are not cliche (e.g. no \"just drink loads of water\") **TL:DR. What I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.**\n\nNow I know this kind of request is posted at least a couple times a year, but looking through all the previous answers, they all gravitate toward what I would call 'cliche' techniques toward waking up early. I've tried them all, and they just don't work for me. \n\nIf you haven't guessed, I am a **very** heavy sleeper. Normal alarms don't work for me. If I don't have something I really, honest to God *need* to get up for (e.g. work, meeting, flight, etc.), I simply will sleep through my alarms. That, or I'll just turn off the device. \n\nBecause I have this problem, I've naturally done a ton of research into how to wake up early (I believe that's how I first came across /r/LifeProTips all those years ago). However, all the wake up techniques I've tried tend to fall into the following categories (and in brackets I've written why they don't work for me):\n\n* Drink a pint of water before you go to bed. (Doesn't affect me. Even if I need to piss, I can still sleep)\n\n* Get natural light into your room before you wake up. (Doesn't affect me. I can sleep with the curtains wide open.)\n\n* Go for a walk outside after you wake up. (Works for me, however, I actually need to *get out* of bed to initiate this)\n\n* Use sleep timers to wake up in-between sleep cycles. (Doesn't work for me, the actual times I drift off are too variable)\n\n* Set alarms on the other side of the room to you. (Doesn't work for me, I'll either sleep through them or turn them off at the plug and get back into bed)\n\n* Use vibrating, bed shaking alarms (Work better than most alarms, but I can still sleep through them/will turn them off at the plug)\n\n* Use 'puzzle' alarms that only shut off when you solve complex mathematical problems (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use 'scanning' alarms, where you have to scan the barcodes of items around your house to turn off alarm (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use f.lux to reduce blue light exposure from gadgets before bedtime (Doesn't work for me, I can fall sleep just fine staring at my phone)\n\n* Limit caffeine exposure before bed (I already do)\n\n* Go to sleep at the same time every night (Just not practical, and most of the time I do anyway.)\n\n* Wake up at the same time every morning (I'm trying!)\n\n* Never hit your snooze and just magically get out of bed (Sounds wonderful. But I don't have that much self-discipline right after I wake up)\n\n* Only use your bedroom for sleeping to condition you brain (Tried it. Doesn't work for me. Plus, is not practical in a shared house)\n\n* Do more exercise (I already do)\n\n* Eat better (I already eat pretty well) \n\n* Go to bed earlier (Let's just assume I can't do this)\n\nSo you see my problem? \n\nAll these traditional \"cliche\" answers are ineffective for me because I'll either sleep through them, turn off my alarm, or they're far too general and wishy-washy to have any real effect. Plus, the biggest problem for me - and I'm sure many of you can agree - is that **my ability to make decisions in the moments after waking is *so* limited (virtually non-existent)** that even if I tried all these techniques, I'd simply \"choose\" (because it's not really a choice) to continue sleeping. \n\nPersonally, I can't make proper decisions when I'm still half asleep. Can you?\n\nThis is why I'm looking for some real clever, cutting, even downright mean ways to trick or \"hack\" my half asleep brain into getting out of bed early. Remember I said I can get up fine if there's something I *really* need to get up for (like a flight)? Well, perhaps that's a good mental routine you could hijack to get yourself up, e.g.,\n\n* Get some kind of alarm whereby if you don't get up to turn it off/make a call to someone, it will donate a significant amount of money (e.g. £50/$100), from your bank account, into a charity of your choice. (This really would trigger a rush of adrenaline through me)\n\n* Leave something to do the next morning that you *have* to do in the morning (not sure what this could be) \n\nWhat I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.\n\nAny ideas, /r/LifeProTips ?", "Waking up early \"hacks\" that are not cliche (e.g. no \"just drink loads of water\") **TL:DR. What I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.**\n\nNow I know this kind of request is posted at least a couple times a year, but looking through all the previous answers, they all gravitate toward what I would call 'cliche' techniques toward waking up early. I've tried them all, and they just don't work for me. \n\nIf you haven't guessed, I am a **very** heavy sleeper. Normal alarms don't work for me. If I don't have something I really, honest to God *need* to get up for (e.g. work, meeting, flight, etc.), I simply will sleep through my alarms. That, or I'll just turn off the device. \n\nBecause I have this problem, I've naturally done a ton of research into how to wake up early (I believe that's how I first came across /r/LifeProTips all those years ago). However, all the wake up techniques I've tried tend to fall into the following categories (and in brackets I've written why they don't work for me):\n\n* Drink a pint of water before you go to bed. (Doesn't affect me. Even if I need to piss, I can still sleep)\n\n* Get natural light into your room before you wake up. (Doesn't affect me. I can sleep with the curtains wide open.)\n\n* Go for a walk outside after you wake up. (Works for me, however, I actually need to *get out* of bed to initiate this)\n\n* Use sleep timers to wake up in-between sleep cycles. (Doesn't work for me, the actual times I drift off are too variable)\n\n* Set alarms on the other side of the room to you. (Doesn't work for me, I'll either sleep through them or turn them off at the plug and get back into bed)\n\n* Use vibrating, bed shaking alarms (Work better than most alarms, but I can still sleep through them/will turn them off at the plug)\n\n* Use 'puzzle' alarms that only shut off when you solve complex mathematical problems (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use 'scanning' alarms, where you have to scan the barcodes of items around your house to turn off alarm (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use f.lux to reduce blue light exposure from gadgets before bedtime (Doesn't work for me, I can fall sleep just fine staring at my phone)\n\n* Limit caffeine exposure before bed (I already do)\n\n* Go to sleep at the same time every night (Just not practical, and most of the time I do anyway.)\n\n* Wake up at the same time every morning (I'm trying!)\n\n* Never hit your snooze and just magically get out of bed (Sounds wonderful. But I don't have that much self-discipline right after I wake up)\n\n* Only use your bedroom for sleeping to condition you brain (Tried it. Doesn't work for me. Plus, is not practical in a shared house)\n\n* Do more exercise (I already do)\n\n* Eat better (I already eat pretty well) \n\n* Go to bed earlier (Let's just assume I can't do this)\n\nSo you see my problem? \n\nAll these traditional \"cliche\" answers are ineffective for me because I'll either sleep through them, turn off my alarm, or they're far too general and wishy-washy to have any real effect. Plus, the biggest problem for me - and I'm sure many of you can agree - is that **my ability to make decisions in the moments after waking is *so* limited (virtually non-existent)** that even if I tried all these techniques, I'd simply \"choose\" (because it's not really a choice) to continue sleeping. \n\nPersonally, I can't make proper decisions when I'm still half asleep. Can you?\n\nThis is why I'm looking for some real clever, cutting, even downright mean ways to trick or \"hack\" my half asleep brain into getting out of bed early. Remember I said I can get up fine if there's something I *really* need to get up for (like a flight)? Well, perhaps that's a good mental routine you could hijack to get yourself up, e.g.,\n\n* Get some kind of alarm whereby if you don't get up to turn it off/make a call to someone, it will donate a significant amount of money (e.g. £50/$100), from your bank account, into a charity of your choice. (This really would trigger a rush of adrenaline through me)\n\n* Leave something to do the next morning that you *have* to do in the morning (not sure what this could be) \n\nWhat I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.\n\nAny ideas, /r/LifeProTips ?", "Waking up early \"hacks\" that are not cliche (e.g. no \"just drink loads of water\") **TL:DR. What I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.**\n\nNow I know this kind of request is posted at least a couple times a year, but looking through all the previous answers, they all gravitate toward what I would call 'cliche' techniques toward waking up early. I've tried them all, and they just don't work for me. \n\nIf you haven't guessed, I am a **very** heavy sleeper. Normal alarms don't work for me. If I don't have something I really, honest to God *need* to get up for (e.g. work, meeting, flight, etc.), I simply will sleep through my alarms. That, or I'll just turn off the device. \n\nBecause I have this problem, I've naturally done a ton of research into how to wake up early (I believe that's how I first came across /r/LifeProTips all those years ago). However, all the wake up techniques I've tried tend to fall into the following categories (and in brackets I've written why they don't work for me):\n\n* Drink a pint of water before you go to bed. (Doesn't affect me. Even if I need to piss, I can still sleep)\n\n* Get natural light into your room before you wake up. (Doesn't affect me. I can sleep with the curtains wide open.)\n\n* Go for a walk outside after you wake up. (Works for me, however, I actually need to *get out* of bed to initiate this)\n\n* Use sleep timers to wake up in-between sleep cycles. (Doesn't work for me, the actual times I drift off are too variable)\n\n* Set alarms on the other side of the room to you. (Doesn't work for me, I'll either sleep through them or turn them off at the plug and get back into bed)\n\n* Use vibrating, bed shaking alarms (Work better than most alarms, but I can still sleep through them/will turn them off at the plug)\n\n* Use 'puzzle' alarms that only shut off when you solve complex mathematical problems (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use 'scanning' alarms, where you have to scan the barcodes of items around your house to turn off alarm (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use f.lux to reduce blue light exposure from gadgets before bedtime (Doesn't work for me, I can fall sleep just fine staring at my phone)\n\n* Limit caffeine exposure before bed (I already do)\n\n* Go to sleep at the same time every night (Just not practical, and most of the time I do anyway.)\n\n* Wake up at the same time every morning (I'm trying!)\n\n* Never hit your snooze and just magically get out of bed (Sounds wonderful. But I don't have that much self-discipline right after I wake up)\n\n* Only use your bedroom for sleeping to condition you brain (Tried it. Doesn't work for me. Plus, is not practical in a shared house)\n\n* Do more exercise (I already do)\n\n* Eat better (I already eat pretty well) \n\n* Go to bed earlier (Let's just assume I can't do this)\n\nSo you see my problem? \n\nAll these traditional \"cliche\" answers are ineffective for me because I'll either sleep through them, turn off my alarm, or they're far too general and wishy-washy to have any real effect. Plus, the biggest problem for me - and I'm sure many of you can agree - is that **my ability to make decisions in the moments after waking is *so* limited (virtually non-existent)** that even if I tried all these techniques, I'd simply \"choose\" (because it's not really a choice) to continue sleeping. \n\nPersonally, I can't make proper decisions when I'm still half asleep. Can you?\n\nThis is why I'm looking for some real clever, cutting, even downright mean ways to trick or \"hack\" my half asleep brain into getting out of bed early. Remember I said I can get up fine if there's something I *really* need to get up for (like a flight)? Well, perhaps that's a good mental routine you could hijack to get yourself up, e.g.,\n\n* Get some kind of alarm whereby if you don't get up to turn it off/make a call to someone, it will donate a significant amount of money (e.g. £50/$100), from your bank account, into a charity of your choice. (This really would trigger a rush of adrenaline through me)\n\n* Leave something to do the next morning that you *have* to do in the morning (not sure what this could be) \n\nWhat I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.\n\nAny ideas, /r/LifeProTips ?", "Waking up early \"hacks\" that are not cliche (e.g. no \"just drink loads of water\") **TL:DR. What I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.**\n\nNow I know this kind of request is posted at least a couple times a year, but looking through all the previous answers, they all gravitate toward what I would call 'cliche' techniques toward waking up early. I've tried them all, and they just don't work for me. \n\nIf you haven't guessed, I am a **very** heavy sleeper. Normal alarms don't work for me. If I don't have something I really, honest to God *need* to get up for (e.g. work, meeting, flight, etc.), I simply will sleep through my alarms. That, or I'll just turn off the device. \n\nBecause I have this problem, I've naturally done a ton of research into how to wake up early (I believe that's how I first came across /r/LifeProTips all those years ago). However, all the wake up techniques I've tried tend to fall into the following categories (and in brackets I've written why they don't work for me):\n\n* Drink a pint of water before you go to bed. (Doesn't affect me. Even if I need to piss, I can still sleep)\n\n* Get natural light into your room before you wake up. (Doesn't affect me. I can sleep with the curtains wide open.)\n\n* Go for a walk outside after you wake up. (Works for me, however, I actually need to *get out* of bed to initiate this)\n\n* Use sleep timers to wake up in-between sleep cycles. (Doesn't work for me, the actual times I drift off are too variable)\n\n* Set alarms on the other side of the room to you. (Doesn't work for me, I'll either sleep through them or turn them off at the plug and get back into bed)\n\n* Use vibrating, bed shaking alarms (Work better than most alarms, but I can still sleep through them/will turn them off at the plug)\n\n* Use 'puzzle' alarms that only shut off when you solve complex mathematical problems (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use 'scanning' alarms, where you have to scan the barcodes of items around your house to turn off alarm (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use f.lux to reduce blue light exposure from gadgets before bedtime (Doesn't work for me, I can fall sleep just fine staring at my phone)\n\n* Limit caffeine exposure before bed (I already do)\n\n* Go to sleep at the same time every night (Just not practical, and most of the time I do anyway.)\n\n* Wake up at the same time every morning (I'm trying!)\n\n* Never hit your snooze and just magically get out of bed (Sounds wonderful. But I don't have that much self-discipline right after I wake up)\n\n* Only use your bedroom for sleeping to condition you brain (Tried it. Doesn't work for me. Plus, is not practical in a shared house)\n\n* Do more exercise (I already do)\n\n* Eat better (I already eat pretty well) \n\n* Go to bed earlier (Let's just assume I can't do this)\n\nSo you see my problem? \n\nAll these traditional \"cliche\" answers are ineffective for me because I'll either sleep through them, turn off my alarm, or they're far too general and wishy-washy to have any real effect. Plus, the biggest problem for me - and I'm sure many of you can agree - is that **my ability to make decisions in the moments after waking is *so* limited (virtually non-existent)** that even if I tried all these techniques, I'd simply \"choose\" (because it's not really a choice) to continue sleeping. \n\nPersonally, I can't make proper decisions when I'm still half asleep. Can you?\n\nThis is why I'm looking for some real clever, cutting, even downright mean ways to trick or \"hack\" my half asleep brain into getting out of bed early. Remember I said I can get up fine if there's something I *really* need to get up for (like a flight)? Well, perhaps that's a good mental routine you could hijack to get yourself up, e.g.,\n\n* Get some kind of alarm whereby if you don't get up to turn it off/make a call to someone, it will donate a significant amount of money (e.g. £50/$100), from your bank account, into a charity of your choice. (This really would trigger a rush of adrenaline through me)\n\n* Leave something to do the next morning that you *have* to do in the morning (not sure what this could be) \n\nWhat I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.\n\nAny ideas, /r/LifeProTips ?", "Waking up early \"hacks\" that are not cliche (e.g. no \"just drink loads of water\") **TL:DR. What I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.**\n\nNow I know this kind of request is posted at least a couple times a year, but looking through all the previous answers, they all gravitate toward what I would call 'cliche' techniques toward waking up early. I've tried them all, and they just don't work for me. \n\nIf you haven't guessed, I am a **very** heavy sleeper. Normal alarms don't work for me. If I don't have something I really, honest to God *need* to get up for (e.g. work, meeting, flight, etc.), I simply will sleep through my alarms. That, or I'll just turn off the device. \n\nBecause I have this problem, I've naturally done a ton of research into how to wake up early (I believe that's how I first came across /r/LifeProTips all those years ago). However, all the wake up techniques I've tried tend to fall into the following categories (and in brackets I've written why they don't work for me):\n\n* Drink a pint of water before you go to bed. (Doesn't affect me. Even if I need to piss, I can still sleep)\n\n* Get natural light into your room before you wake up. (Doesn't affect me. I can sleep with the curtains wide open.)\n\n* Go for a walk outside after you wake up. (Works for me, however, I actually need to *get out* of bed to initiate this)\n\n* Use sleep timers to wake up in-between sleep cycles. (Doesn't work for me, the actual times I drift off are too variable)\n\n* Set alarms on the other side of the room to you. (Doesn't work for me, I'll either sleep through them or turn them off at the plug and get back into bed)\n\n* Use vibrating, bed shaking alarms (Work better than most alarms, but I can still sleep through them/will turn them off at the plug)\n\n* Use 'puzzle' alarms that only shut off when you solve complex mathematical problems (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use 'scanning' alarms, where you have to scan the barcodes of items around your house to turn off alarm (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use f.lux to reduce blue light exposure from gadgets before bedtime (Doesn't work for me, I can fall sleep just fine staring at my phone)\n\n* Limit caffeine exposure before bed (I already do)\n\n* Go to sleep at the same time every night (Just not practical, and most of the time I do anyway.)\n\n* Wake up at the same time every morning (I'm trying!)\n\n* Never hit your snooze and just magically get out of bed (Sounds wonderful. But I don't have that much self-discipline right after I wake up)\n\n* Only use your bedroom for sleeping to condition you brain (Tried it. Doesn't work for me. Plus, is not practical in a shared house)\n\n* Do more exercise (I already do)\n\n* Eat better (I already eat pretty well) \n\n* Go to bed earlier (Let's just assume I can't do this)\n\nSo you see my problem? \n\nAll these traditional \"cliche\" answers are ineffective for me because I'll either sleep through them, turn off my alarm, or they're far too general and wishy-washy to have any real effect. Plus, the biggest problem for me - and I'm sure many of you can agree - is that **my ability to make decisions in the moments after waking is *so* limited (virtually non-existent)** that even if I tried all these techniques, I'd simply \"choose\" (because it's not really a choice) to continue sleeping. \n\nPersonally, I can't make proper decisions when I'm still half asleep. Can you?\n\nThis is why I'm looking for some real clever, cutting, even downright mean ways to trick or \"hack\" my half asleep brain into getting out of bed early. Remember I said I can get up fine if there's something I *really* need to get up for (like a flight)? Well, perhaps that's a good mental routine you could hijack to get yourself up, e.g.,\n\n* Get some kind of alarm whereby if you don't get up to turn it off/make a call to someone, it will donate a significant amount of money (e.g. £50/$100), from your bank account, into a charity of your choice. (This really would trigger a rush of adrenaline through me)\n\n* Leave something to do the next morning that you *have* to do in the morning (not sure what this could be) \n\nWhat I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.\n\nAny ideas, /r/LifeProTips ?", "Waking up early \"hacks\" that are not cliche (e.g. no \"just drink loads of water\") **TL:DR. What I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.**\n\nNow I know this kind of request is posted at least a couple times a year, but looking through all the previous answers, they all gravitate toward what I would call 'cliche' techniques toward waking up early. I've tried them all, and they just don't work for me. \n\nIf you haven't guessed, I am a **very** heavy sleeper. Normal alarms don't work for me. If I don't have something I really, honest to God *need* to get up for (e.g. work, meeting, flight, etc.), I simply will sleep through my alarms. That, or I'll just turn off the device. \n\nBecause I have this problem, I've naturally done a ton of research into how to wake up early (I believe that's how I first came across /r/LifeProTips all those years ago). However, all the wake up techniques I've tried tend to fall into the following categories (and in brackets I've written why they don't work for me):\n\n* Drink a pint of water before you go to bed. (Doesn't affect me. Even if I need to piss, I can still sleep)\n\n* Get natural light into your room before you wake up. (Doesn't affect me. I can sleep with the curtains wide open.)\n\n* Go for a walk outside after you wake up. (Works for me, however, I actually need to *get out* of bed to initiate this)\n\n* Use sleep timers to wake up in-between sleep cycles. (Doesn't work for me, the actual times I drift off are too variable)\n\n* Set alarms on the other side of the room to you. (Doesn't work for me, I'll either sleep through them or turn them off at the plug and get back into bed)\n\n* Use vibrating, bed shaking alarms (Work better than most alarms, but I can still sleep through them/will turn them off at the plug)\n\n* Use 'puzzle' alarms that only shut off when you solve complex mathematical problems (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use 'scanning' alarms, where you have to scan the barcodes of items around your house to turn off alarm (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use f.lux to reduce blue light exposure from gadgets before bedtime (Doesn't work for me, I can fall sleep just fine staring at my phone)\n\n* Limit caffeine exposure before bed (I already do)\n\n* Go to sleep at the same time every night (Just not practical, and most of the time I do anyway.)\n\n* Wake up at the same time every morning (I'm trying!)\n\n* Never hit your snooze and just magically get out of bed (Sounds wonderful. But I don't have that much self-discipline right after I wake up)\n\n* Only use your bedroom for sleeping to condition you brain (Tried it. Doesn't work for me. Plus, is not practical in a shared house)\n\n* Do more exercise (I already do)\n\n* Eat better (I already eat pretty well) \n\n* Go to bed earlier (Let's just assume I can't do this)\n\nSo you see my problem? \n\nAll these traditional \"cliche\" answers are ineffective for me because I'll either sleep through them, turn off my alarm, or they're far too general and wishy-washy to have any real effect. Plus, the biggest problem for me - and I'm sure many of you can agree - is that **my ability to make decisions in the moments after waking is *so* limited (virtually non-existent)** that even if I tried all these techniques, I'd simply \"choose\" (because it's not really a choice) to continue sleeping. \n\nPersonally, I can't make proper decisions when I'm still half asleep. Can you?\n\nThis is why I'm looking for some real clever, cutting, even downright mean ways to trick or \"hack\" my half asleep brain into getting out of bed early. Remember I said I can get up fine if there's something I *really* need to get up for (like a flight)? Well, perhaps that's a good mental routine you could hijack to get yourself up, e.g.,\n\n* Get some kind of alarm whereby if you don't get up to turn it off/make a call to someone, it will donate a significant amount of money (e.g. £50/$100), from your bank account, into a charity of your choice. (This really would trigger a rush of adrenaline through me)\n\n* Leave something to do the next morning that you *have* to do in the morning (not sure what this could be) \n\nWhat I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.\n\nAny ideas, /r/LifeProTips ?", "Waking up early \"hacks\" that are not cliche (e.g. no \"just drink loads of water\") **TL:DR. What I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.**\n\nNow I know this kind of request is posted at least a couple times a year, but looking through all the previous answers, they all gravitate toward what I would call 'cliche' techniques toward waking up early. I've tried them all, and they just don't work for me. \n\nIf you haven't guessed, I am a **very** heavy sleeper. Normal alarms don't work for me. If I don't have something I really, honest to God *need* to get up for (e.g. work, meeting, flight, etc.), I simply will sleep through my alarms. That, or I'll just turn off the device. \n\nBecause I have this problem, I've naturally done a ton of research into how to wake up early (I believe that's how I first came across /r/LifeProTips all those years ago). However, all the wake up techniques I've tried tend to fall into the following categories (and in brackets I've written why they don't work for me):\n\n* Drink a pint of water before you go to bed. (Doesn't affect me. Even if I need to piss, I can still sleep)\n\n* Get natural light into your room before you wake up. (Doesn't affect me. I can sleep with the curtains wide open.)\n\n* Go for a walk outside after you wake up. (Works for me, however, I actually need to *get out* of bed to initiate this)\n\n* Use sleep timers to wake up in-between sleep cycles. (Doesn't work for me, the actual times I drift off are too variable)\n\n* Set alarms on the other side of the room to you. (Doesn't work for me, I'll either sleep through them or turn them off at the plug and get back into bed)\n\n* Use vibrating, bed shaking alarms (Work better than most alarms, but I can still sleep through them/will turn them off at the plug)\n\n* Use 'puzzle' alarms that only shut off when you solve complex mathematical problems (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use 'scanning' alarms, where you have to scan the barcodes of items around your house to turn off alarm (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use f.lux to reduce blue light exposure from gadgets before bedtime (Doesn't work for me, I can fall sleep just fine staring at my phone)\n\n* Limit caffeine exposure before bed (I already do)\n\n* Go to sleep at the same time every night (Just not practical, and most of the time I do anyway.)\n\n* Wake up at the same time every morning (I'm trying!)\n\n* Never hit your snooze and just magically get out of bed (Sounds wonderful. But I don't have that much self-discipline right after I wake up)\n\n* Only use your bedroom for sleeping to condition you brain (Tried it. Doesn't work for me. Plus, is not practical in a shared house)\n\n* Do more exercise (I already do)\n\n* Eat better (I already eat pretty well) \n\n* Go to bed earlier (Let's just assume I can't do this)\n\nSo you see my problem? \n\nAll these traditional \"cliche\" answers are ineffective for me because I'll either sleep through them, turn off my alarm, or they're far too general and wishy-washy to have any real effect. Plus, the biggest problem for me - and I'm sure many of you can agree - is that **my ability to make decisions in the moments after waking is *so* limited (virtually non-existent)** that even if I tried all these techniques, I'd simply \"choose\" (because it's not really a choice) to continue sleeping. \n\nPersonally, I can't make proper decisions when I'm still half asleep. Can you?\n\nThis is why I'm looking for some real clever, cutting, even downright mean ways to trick or \"hack\" my half asleep brain into getting out of bed early. Remember I said I can get up fine if there's something I *really* need to get up for (like a flight)? Well, perhaps that's a good mental routine you could hijack to get yourself up, e.g.,\n\n* Get some kind of alarm whereby if you don't get up to turn it off/make a call to someone, it will donate a significant amount of money (e.g. £50/$100), from your bank account, into a charity of your choice. (This really would trigger a rush of adrenaline through me)\n\n* Leave something to do the next morning that you *have* to do in the morning (not sure what this could be) \n\nWhat I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.\n\nAny ideas, /r/LifeProTips ?", "Waking up early \"hacks\" that are not cliche (e.g. no \"just drink loads of water\") **TL:DR. What I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.**\n\nNow I know this kind of request is posted at least a couple times a year, but looking through all the previous answers, they all gravitate toward what I would call 'cliche' techniques toward waking up early. I've tried them all, and they just don't work for me. \n\nIf you haven't guessed, I am a **very** heavy sleeper. Normal alarms don't work for me. If I don't have something I really, honest to God *need* to get up for (e.g. work, meeting, flight, etc.), I simply will sleep through my alarms. That, or I'll just turn off the device. \n\nBecause I have this problem, I've naturally done a ton of research into how to wake up early (I believe that's how I first came across /r/LifeProTips all those years ago). However, all the wake up techniques I've tried tend to fall into the following categories (and in brackets I've written why they don't work for me):\n\n* Drink a pint of water before you go to bed. (Doesn't affect me. Even if I need to piss, I can still sleep)\n\n* Get natural light into your room before you wake up. (Doesn't affect me. I can sleep with the curtains wide open.)\n\n* Go for a walk outside after you wake up. (Works for me, however, I actually need to *get out* of bed to initiate this)\n\n* Use sleep timers to wake up in-between sleep cycles. (Doesn't work for me, the actual times I drift off are too variable)\n\n* Set alarms on the other side of the room to you. (Doesn't work for me, I'll either sleep through them or turn them off at the plug and get back into bed)\n\n* Use vibrating, bed shaking alarms (Work better than most alarms, but I can still sleep through them/will turn them off at the plug)\n\n* Use 'puzzle' alarms that only shut off when you solve complex mathematical problems (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use 'scanning' alarms, where you have to scan the barcodes of items around your house to turn off alarm (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use f.lux to reduce blue light exposure from gadgets before bedtime (Doesn't work for me, I can fall sleep just fine staring at my phone)\n\n* Limit caffeine exposure before bed (I already do)\n\n* Go to sleep at the same time every night (Just not practical, and most of the time I do anyway.)\n\n* Wake up at the same time every morning (I'm trying!)\n\n* Never hit your snooze and just magically get out of bed (Sounds wonderful. But I don't have that much self-discipline right after I wake up)\n\n* Only use your bedroom for sleeping to condition you brain (Tried it. Doesn't work for me. Plus, is not practical in a shared house)\n\n* Do more exercise (I already do)\n\n* Eat better (I already eat pretty well) \n\n* Go to bed earlier (Let's just assume I can't do this)\n\nSo you see my problem? \n\nAll these traditional \"cliche\" answers are ineffective for me because I'll either sleep through them, turn off my alarm, or they're far too general and wishy-washy to have any real effect. Plus, the biggest problem for me - and I'm sure many of you can agree - is that **my ability to make decisions in the moments after waking is *so* limited (virtually non-existent)** that even if I tried all these techniques, I'd simply \"choose\" (because it's not really a choice) to continue sleeping. \n\nPersonally, I can't make proper decisions when I'm still half asleep. Can you?\n\nThis is why I'm looking for some real clever, cutting, even downright mean ways to trick or \"hack\" my half asleep brain into getting out of bed early. Remember I said I can get up fine if there's something I *really* need to get up for (like a flight)? Well, perhaps that's a good mental routine you could hijack to get yourself up, e.g.,\n\n* Get some kind of alarm whereby if you don't get up to turn it off/make a call to someone, it will donate a significant amount of money (e.g. £50/$100), from your bank account, into a charity of your choice. (This really would trigger a rush of adrenaline through me)\n\n* Leave something to do the next morning that you *have* to do in the morning (not sure what this could be) \n\nWhat I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.\n\nAny ideas, /r/LifeProTips ?", "Waking up early \"hacks\" that are not cliche (e.g. no \"just drink loads of water\") **TL:DR. What I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.**\n\nNow I know this kind of request is posted at least a couple times a year, but looking through all the previous answers, they all gravitate toward what I would call 'cliche' techniques toward waking up early. I've tried them all, and they just don't work for me. \n\nIf you haven't guessed, I am a **very** heavy sleeper. Normal alarms don't work for me. If I don't have something I really, honest to God *need* to get up for (e.g. work, meeting, flight, etc.), I simply will sleep through my alarms. That, or I'll just turn off the device. \n\nBecause I have this problem, I've naturally done a ton of research into how to wake up early (I believe that's how I first came across /r/LifeProTips all those years ago). However, all the wake up techniques I've tried tend to fall into the following categories (and in brackets I've written why they don't work for me):\n\n* Drink a pint of water before you go to bed. (Doesn't affect me. Even if I need to piss, I can still sleep)\n\n* Get natural light into your room before you wake up. (Doesn't affect me. I can sleep with the curtains wide open.)\n\n* Go for a walk outside after you wake up. (Works for me, however, I actually need to *get out* of bed to initiate this)\n\n* Use sleep timers to wake up in-between sleep cycles. (Doesn't work for me, the actual times I drift off are too variable)\n\n* Set alarms on the other side of the room to you. (Doesn't work for me, I'll either sleep through them or turn them off at the plug and get back into bed)\n\n* Use vibrating, bed shaking alarms (Work better than most alarms, but I can still sleep through them/will turn them off at the plug)\n\n* Use 'puzzle' alarms that only shut off when you solve complex mathematical problems (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use 'scanning' alarms, where you have to scan the barcodes of items around your house to turn off alarm (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use f.lux to reduce blue light exposure from gadgets before bedtime (Doesn't work for me, I can fall sleep just fine staring at my phone)\n\n* Limit caffeine exposure before bed (I already do)\n\n* Go to sleep at the same time every night (Just not practical, and most of the time I do anyway.)\n\n* Wake up at the same time every morning (I'm trying!)\n\n* Never hit your snooze and just magically get out of bed (Sounds wonderful. But I don't have that much self-discipline right after I wake up)\n\n* Only use your bedroom for sleeping to condition you brain (Tried it. Doesn't work for me. Plus, is not practical in a shared house)\n\n* Do more exercise (I already do)\n\n* Eat better (I already eat pretty well) \n\n* Go to bed earlier (Let's just assume I can't do this)\n\nSo you see my problem? \n\nAll these traditional \"cliche\" answers are ineffective for me because I'll either sleep through them, turn off my alarm, or they're far too general and wishy-washy to have any real effect. Plus, the biggest problem for me - and I'm sure many of you can agree - is that **my ability to make decisions in the moments after waking is *so* limited (virtually non-existent)** that even if I tried all these techniques, I'd simply \"choose\" (because it's not really a choice) to continue sleeping. \n\nPersonally, I can't make proper decisions when I'm still half asleep. Can you?\n\nThis is why I'm looking for some real clever, cutting, even downright mean ways to trick or \"hack\" my half asleep brain into getting out of bed early. Remember I said I can get up fine if there's something I *really* need to get up for (like a flight)? Well, perhaps that's a good mental routine you could hijack to get yourself up, e.g.,\n\n* Get some kind of alarm whereby if you don't get up to turn it off/make a call to someone, it will donate a significant amount of money (e.g. £50/$100), from your bank account, into a charity of your choice. (This really would trigger a rush of adrenaline through me)\n\n* Leave something to do the next morning that you *have* to do in the morning (not sure what this could be) \n\nWhat I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.\n\nAny ideas, /r/LifeProTips ?", "Waking up early \"hacks\" that are not cliche (e.g. no \"just drink loads of water\") **TL:DR. What I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.**\n\nNow I know this kind of request is posted at least a couple times a year, but looking through all the previous answers, they all gravitate toward what I would call 'cliche' techniques toward waking up early. I've tried them all, and they just don't work for me. \n\nIf you haven't guessed, I am a **very** heavy sleeper. Normal alarms don't work for me. If I don't have something I really, honest to God *need* to get up for (e.g. work, meeting, flight, etc.), I simply will sleep through my alarms. That, or I'll just turn off the device. \n\nBecause I have this problem, I've naturally done a ton of research into how to wake up early (I believe that's how I first came across /r/LifeProTips all those years ago). However, all the wake up techniques I've tried tend to fall into the following categories (and in brackets I've written why they don't work for me):\n\n* Drink a pint of water before you go to bed. (Doesn't affect me. Even if I need to piss, I can still sleep)\n\n* Get natural light into your room before you wake up. (Doesn't affect me. I can sleep with the curtains wide open.)\n\n* Go for a walk outside after you wake up. (Works for me, however, I actually need to *get out* of bed to initiate this)\n\n* Use sleep timers to wake up in-between sleep cycles. (Doesn't work for me, the actual times I drift off are too variable)\n\n* Set alarms on the other side of the room to you. (Doesn't work for me, I'll either sleep through them or turn them off at the plug and get back into bed)\n\n* Use vibrating, bed shaking alarms (Work better than most alarms, but I can still sleep through them/will turn them off at the plug)\n\n* Use 'puzzle' alarms that only shut off when you solve complex mathematical problems (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use 'scanning' alarms, where you have to scan the barcodes of items around your house to turn off alarm (I'll simply turn off my phone.)\n\n* Use f.lux to reduce blue light exposure from gadgets before bedtime (Doesn't work for me, I can fall sleep just fine staring at my phone)\n\n* Limit caffeine exposure before bed (I already do)\n\n* Go to sleep at the same time every night (Just not practical, and most of the time I do anyway.)\n\n* Wake up at the same time every morning (I'm trying!)\n\n* Never hit your snooze and just magically get out of bed (Sounds wonderful. But I don't have that much self-discipline right after I wake up)\n\n* Only use your bedroom for sleeping to condition you brain (Tried it. Doesn't work for me. Plus, is not practical in a shared house)\n\n* Do more exercise (I already do)\n\n* Eat better (I already eat pretty well) \n\n* Go to bed earlier (Let's just assume I can't do this)\n\nSo you see my problem? \n\nAll these traditional \"cliche\" answers are ineffective for me because I'll either sleep through them, turn off my alarm, or they're far too general and wishy-washy to have any real effect. Plus, the biggest problem for me - and I'm sure many of you can agree - is that **my ability to make decisions in the moments after waking is *so* limited (virtually non-existent)** that even if I tried all these techniques, I'd simply \"choose\" (because it's not really a choice) to continue sleeping. \n\nPersonally, I can't make proper decisions when I'm still half asleep. Can you?\n\nThis is why I'm looking for some real clever, cutting, even downright mean ways to trick or \"hack\" my half asleep brain into getting out of bed early. Remember I said I can get up fine if there's something I *really* need to get up for (like a flight)? Well, perhaps that's a good mental routine you could hijack to get yourself up, e.g.,\n\n* Get some kind of alarm whereby if you don't get up to turn it off/make a call to someone, it will donate a significant amount of money (e.g. £50/$100), from your bank account, into a charity of your choice. (This really would trigger a rush of adrenaline through me)\n\n* Leave something to do the next morning that you *have* to do in the morning (not sure what this could be) \n\nWhat I'm looking for are ways to shortcut my post-wake up mental grogginess (that stage where I'm not able to make proper decisions) so even if I am tired and haven't had a load of sleep, I'll still be getting up.\n\nAny ideas, /r/LifeProTips ?" ]

[ "I feel like there's no other advice to offer other than you need to have the self-discipline and the actual want to wake up. \n\nWhen it comes to sleep, I'm the same way: has time, will sleep. I'll ignore alarms, forgo breakfast or that chore I promised I would do, if it means I get to sleep just 5 minutes longer.\n\nNo matter what I try, I still want more sleep. I've come to accept it. I still do everything I can to ensure a good night's sleep, and I give it an honest effort to wake up at my first alarm. If I do, awesome. If not, oh well. I don't want it enough - and that's my own problem.", "Umm, you have to want to get up early. Doing these things might help but you have to want it. It's like quitting smoking, there are plenty of methods to help but if you don't have the desire to do it, it'll never happen.", "Your body/brain has gotten so used to sleeping through the alarm or turning it off and going back to sleep, that's become the norm for you. \n\nI feel like the only way to really change that is to get into the habit of getting out of bed and starting your day right when the alarm goes off. \n\nYou need to sort of reset your habits, to getting out of bed when the alarm goes off, instead of going back to sleep. \n\nMaybe enlist the help of somebody you live with to help you. Have your alarm set for around the same time a roommate gets up and have them come and wake you up when they get up. \n\nOnce awake, stay away from your bed. Get in the shower, work out, make breakfast, whatever you want to do. \n\nDo this for awhile and see if your habits change. ", "Have you considered seeing a doctor about all of this? You could be having sleep apnea or something else that could be screwing up your sleeping patterns. ", "Get a sleep study, the sleep apnea test is the first one they will do. You can do it from home. The insurance might fight you on doing any tests. If you have someone who can document your time awake and asleep you need to do this between now and your next doctors visit. There are apps, but I have never used them. Have you been fired for sleeping through work, or falling asleep at work? Do you fall asleep any time you sit down someplace comfortable? Do you feel like your body is still heavy and groggy hours after being up? Have people accused you of being high because you look so tired all the time? Document all of these things, your doctor can diagnose you without the full sleep study if they have enough information. Go to the closest truck stop, or amazon if you are ok with paying a little more and buy the screaming meanie alarm clock. Buy the one with the highest decibel level. ", "Try getting on some comedy subreddit when you wake up. Laughing always gets me out of the \"post-wake up\" grogginess, plus even a half asleep person likes jokes.", "There's this app called sleepy time which sets an alarm for times when you are outside of REM sleep. Should offset any grogginess. And make sure to get plenty of sleep. 7-8 hours ", "Question: do you even remember turning off your phone or getting out of bed to unplug stuff? Or are you doing all of this in a kind of sleep walking state?", "Ever tried changing your sleep environment? (soft/hard mattress, place/orientation of your bed in the room?, temperature, pillow style, light level, etc.)\n\nIt can have a huge influence on the sleep quality and a bad environment can lead to wakeup grogginess. Many factors are personal, I believe. And as noted somewhere else, seeing a doctor or going to a sleep lab might be a good idea.\n", "Are you a coffee drinker? Set your auto brew. The smell of fresh coffee gives me that \"placebo\" rush of energy and helps me wake up before alarm/baby." ]

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[ "How to tactfully ask noisy neighbors to be more quiet I had a new neighbor move into the apartment next door to me. For the past 2 weeks or so, she has been playing TV loudly from 11PM-6AM every day. I've knocked on 3 separate occasions, but she never gets the door (probably doesn't hear me). I also don't see her around during the day.\n\nI emailed the landlord, and they told me I need to call the police if its a problem. I don't want to call the police yet. I'm thinking of leaving this note on her door, but I dunno if it sounds too blunt. http://imgur.com/oR7zClq It might be better than banging on the walls to get her attention\n\nTL;DR What is your effective strategy for confronting noisy neighbors?", "How to tactfully ask noisy neighbors to be more quiet I had a new neighbor move into the apartment next door to me. For the past 2 weeks or so, she has been playing TV loudly from 11PM-6AM every day. I've knocked on 3 separate occasions, but she never gets the door (probably doesn't hear me). I also don't see her around during the day.\n\nI emailed the landlord, and they told me I need to call the police if its a problem. I don't want to call the police yet. I'm thinking of leaving this note on her door, but I dunno if it sounds too blunt. http://imgur.com/oR7zClq It might be better than banging on the walls to get her attention\n\nTL;DR What is your effective strategy for confronting noisy neighbors?", "How to tactfully ask noisy neighbors to be more quiet I had a new neighbor move into the apartment next door to me. For the past 2 weeks or so, she has been playing TV loudly from 11PM-6AM every day. I've knocked on 3 separate occasions, but she never gets the door (probably doesn't hear me). I also don't see her around during the day.\n\nI emailed the landlord, and they told me I need to call the police if its a problem. I don't want to call the police yet. I'm thinking of leaving this note on her door, but I dunno if it sounds too blunt. http://imgur.com/oR7zClq It might be better than banging on the walls to get her attention\n\nTL;DR What is your effective strategy for confronting noisy neighbors?", "How to tactfully ask noisy neighbors to be more quiet I had a new neighbor move into the apartment next door to me. For the past 2 weeks or so, she has been playing TV loudly from 11PM-6AM every day. I've knocked on 3 separate occasions, but she never gets the door (probably doesn't hear me). I also don't see her around during the day.\n\nI emailed the landlord, and they told me I need to call the police if its a problem. I don't want to call the police yet. I'm thinking of leaving this note on her door, but I dunno if it sounds too blunt. http://imgur.com/oR7zClq It might be better than banging on the walls to get her attention\n\nTL;DR What is your effective strategy for confronting noisy neighbors?", "How to tactfully ask noisy neighbors to be more quiet I had a new neighbor move into the apartment next door to me. For the past 2 weeks or so, she has been playing TV loudly from 11PM-6AM every day. I've knocked on 3 separate occasions, but she never gets the door (probably doesn't hear me). I also don't see her around during the day.\n\nI emailed the landlord, and they told me I need to call the police if its a problem. I don't want to call the police yet. I'm thinking of leaving this note on her door, but I dunno if it sounds too blunt. http://imgur.com/oR7zClq It might be better than banging on the walls to get her attention\n\nTL;DR What is your effective strategy for confronting noisy neighbors?", "How to tactfully ask noisy neighbors to be more quiet I had a new neighbor move into the apartment next door to me. For the past 2 weeks or so, she has been playing TV loudly from 11PM-6AM every day. I've knocked on 3 separate occasions, but she never gets the door (probably doesn't hear me). I also don't see her around during the day.\n\nI emailed the landlord, and they told me I need to call the police if its a problem. I don't want to call the police yet. I'm thinking of leaving this note on her door, but I dunno if it sounds too blunt. http://imgur.com/oR7zClq It might be better than banging on the walls to get her attention\n\nTL;DR What is your effective strategy for confronting noisy neighbors?" ]

[ "Drill a small hole through one of your adjoining walls in a very inconspicuous spot (see: near floor in a corner). Buy a funnel and some rubber piping just small enough to fit through the hole. Piss in the funnel every day, every time you have to piss. \nIf they haven't noticed the pissfloor after a couple weeks or a month if you're really dedicated, now you call the landlord and complain about the stench emanating from your neighbors apartment. \nLandlord will check into this, accuse THEM of pissing in the corner of their room (drunk college kids and old people do tend to do this) and he will kick them out for damaging his property.\n\nBoom, problem solved. No more loud neighbors! ", "Your note takes an accusatory tone, which says you've already judged your neighbor and found her wanting, and it was quickly written with a sharpie, which says she's not worth the effort of a better-written note. That's not a particularly tactful way of communicating.\n\nUse non-confrontational language including \"polite\" words like \"please\" and \"thank you\". If you leave a note, use a pen, not a marker, and put a little bit of effort into the handwriting - it will make a difference. You've tried a couple times already, but ideally you would talk to the neighbor directly with a positive tone and a smile on your face, and optionally bring some kind of housewarming present if you can; I like to bring a sixer of my homebrewed beer when I have to talk with a neighbor but it can be anything that serves as a peace offering. The goal is to make this neighbor feel positive about you as a person; maybe you'll never talk to her again, but if she feels like you're good people she'll be much more accommodating than if she feels like you're a jerk.", "[Like this.](https://www.reddit.com/r/pettyrevenge/comments/3uxn9k/dont_piss_off_a_neighbor_who_gets_up_early/)", "Your neighbor might not realize how loud it is. If you see them invite them to do a test where they come in and hear how loud it is. If you leave a note, leave your apt number so they can contact you if need be. ", "Put a nice note under the door asking her to turn it down. 9/10 people don't realise how loud they're being and will be more than happy to keep it down. If it continues then knock loudly and persistently. Once again be polite, but firm. If it continues after that than call the cops. Sounds like she falls asleep with the TV on. ", "Just call the local police station and complain..... The cops come by and politely ask her to quiet down. There is literally no consequence. If she ignores the cops call again she cannot know it is you they dont tell her it is" ]

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[ "When you meet someone for the first time, you shake their hand and say \"nice to meet you\", what should you say next to avoid the awkward silence? ", "When you meet someone for the first time, you shake their hand and say \"nice to meet you\", what should you say next to avoid the awkward silence? ", "When you meet someone for the first time, you shake their hand and say \"nice to meet you\", what should you say next to avoid the awkward silence? ", "When you meet someone for the first time, you shake their hand and say \"nice to meet you\", what should you say next to avoid the awkward silence? ", "When you meet someone for the first time, you shake their hand and say \"nice to meet you\", what should you say next to avoid the awkward silence? ", "When you meet someone for the first time, you shake their hand and say \"nice to meet you\", what should you say next to avoid the awkward silence? ", "When you meet someone for the first time, you shake their hand and say \"nice to meet you\", what should you say next to avoid the awkward silence? ", "When you meet someone for the first time, you shake their hand and say \"nice to meet you\", what should you say next to avoid the awkward silence? ", "When you meet someone for the first time, you shake their hand and say \"nice to meet you\", what should you say next to avoid the awkward silence? ", "When you meet someone for the first time, you shake their hand and say \"nice to meet you\", what should you say next to avoid the awkward silence? " ]

[ "In most situations, it works to talk about something related to why you are both there. \"So how do you know [the host]?\" or \"what's your interest in [the speaker at the conference]?\" \nThat can give you something to talk about for a bit of time, and can bring up points of interest to go further on. ", "Say a sentence using their name. \"How are you today, Jim?\" Anything...it helps you to actually remember their name. If they have an unusual name, ask about it. That helps more than anything else. ", "This sub used to be so useful. Now it is filled with posts related to having a normal conversation. Not to jump on OP, but it is becoming absurd. Someone please create r/socialLPT or something.", "[What's keeping you busy?](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1gxwkn/lpt_when_meeting_new_people_instead_of_asking/)", "relieved repeat normal encouraging resolute berserk grandfather wrench worry wistful -- mass ", "What brings you here? How do you and so-n-so know each other? Also, learn to be comfortable with the silence, let the other person ask a question. Also, when you're introducing strangers to one another, give them something to talk about.", "this one time, i was waiting for the train a elderly man sat down by me and began to talk. not even a minute later he told me some shit that stunned me but my poker face remained the same the entire time. his fascinating insights in sinister evil doings abruptly ended when a women arrived in a car. he wasted no time to get up to walk over to whom that was and they drove off. . .sometimes the most awkward moments are always the best.", "* What are you up to today?\n* How is <mutual acquaintance/spouse/child of person> doing?\n* Boy did you see that <insert sports or news reference>?", "\"I'm not a very interesting person. Sometimes I want to leave my own thoughts and walk away to another conversation. But I can't.\"", "" ]

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[ "How do I get a collections agency to stop calling me? No, I don't owe anyone any money. Some joker named Robert apparently used a fake phone number when applying for some sort of financing and that phone number happened to be mine. Now this guy has let his debt languish long enough that apparently the collections people are calling for his head, but they're calling my phone, and there's no Robert here.\n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to get them to leave me alone. They only call once a day but they do call *every day* and have done for about three weeks now. The time of the call varies from day to day.\n\nI can't block their number because it's different every time they call. Oddly, the area code and prefix are identical to mine - the last four digits change from call to call. I've searched for the numbers and they seem to belong to random individual citizens and not a business so I am pretty sure they are spoofing an ANI (possibly to make the number appear familiar to get the recipient to pick up.)\n\nWhat I have tried:\n\n* Telling them there is no Robert here and there never has been. This has been my mobile number since I was a teenager. I don't think this was a number he used to have back in the day.\n\n* Telling them that they have an incorrect number for Robert and to take this number out of their records.\n\n* Telling them outright to stop calling me.\n\nThe result is that they say thank you and disconnect. One time after I said that this was an incorrect number for Robert the rep said, \"OK we will try again later\" and disconnected before I could protest. I'm pretty sure they believe that I'm hiding Robert, and that if they call at the right time, he will answer the phone instead of me and they'll have him. That's never going to happen but they don't want to understand that.\n\nWhat I have not tried:\n\n* Asking for a callback number for them so I can find out who they are and who I have to complain to.\n\n* Putting my husband on the phone and having him pretend to be Robert so that they will give us more information (they won't give me any data because I am clearly not Robert and this is a \"personal matter\" that can only be discussed with him - this is why I'm assuming this is a collections company.)\n\nI'm worried that by doing either of these things they'll get it in their heads that I do know Robert and will step up their efforts and call more often. \n\nWhat are your tips for getting a collections agency to let go of an incorrect number and move on? Do I need to track down Robert myself? ", "How do I get a collections agency to stop calling me? No, I don't owe anyone any money. Some joker named Robert apparently used a fake phone number when applying for some sort of financing and that phone number happened to be mine. Now this guy has let his debt languish long enough that apparently the collections people are calling for his head, but they're calling my phone, and there's no Robert here.\n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to get them to leave me alone. They only call once a day but they do call *every day* and have done for about three weeks now. The time of the call varies from day to day.\n\nI can't block their number because it's different every time they call. Oddly, the area code and prefix are identical to mine - the last four digits change from call to call. I've searched for the numbers and they seem to belong to random individual citizens and not a business so I am pretty sure they are spoofing an ANI (possibly to make the number appear familiar to get the recipient to pick up.)\n\nWhat I have tried:\n\n* Telling them there is no Robert here and there never has been. This has been my mobile number since I was a teenager. I don't think this was a number he used to have back in the day.\n\n* Telling them that they have an incorrect number for Robert and to take this number out of their records.\n\n* Telling them outright to stop calling me.\n\nThe result is that they say thank you and disconnect. One time after I said that this was an incorrect number for Robert the rep said, \"OK we will try again later\" and disconnected before I could protest. I'm pretty sure they believe that I'm hiding Robert, and that if they call at the right time, he will answer the phone instead of me and they'll have him. That's never going to happen but they don't want to understand that.\n\nWhat I have not tried:\n\n* Asking for a callback number for them so I can find out who they are and who I have to complain to.\n\n* Putting my husband on the phone and having him pretend to be Robert so that they will give us more information (they won't give me any data because I am clearly not Robert and this is a \"personal matter\" that can only be discussed with him - this is why I'm assuming this is a collections company.)\n\nI'm worried that by doing either of these things they'll get it in their heads that I do know Robert and will step up their efforts and call more often. \n\nWhat are your tips for getting a collections agency to let go of an incorrect number and move on? Do I need to track down Robert myself? ", "How do I get a collections agency to stop calling me? No, I don't owe anyone any money. Some joker named Robert apparently used a fake phone number when applying for some sort of financing and that phone number happened to be mine. Now this guy has let his debt languish long enough that apparently the collections people are calling for his head, but they're calling my phone, and there's no Robert here.\n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to get them to leave me alone. They only call once a day but they do call *every day* and have done for about three weeks now. The time of the call varies from day to day.\n\nI can't block their number because it's different every time they call. Oddly, the area code and prefix are identical to mine - the last four digits change from call to call. I've searched for the numbers and they seem to belong to random individual citizens and not a business so I am pretty sure they are spoofing an ANI (possibly to make the number appear familiar to get the recipient to pick up.)\n\nWhat I have tried:\n\n* Telling them there is no Robert here and there never has been. This has been my mobile number since I was a teenager. I don't think this was a number he used to have back in the day.\n\n* Telling them that they have an incorrect number for Robert and to take this number out of their records.\n\n* Telling them outright to stop calling me.\n\nThe result is that they say thank you and disconnect. One time after I said that this was an incorrect number for Robert the rep said, \"OK we will try again later\" and disconnected before I could protest. I'm pretty sure they believe that I'm hiding Robert, and that if they call at the right time, he will answer the phone instead of me and they'll have him. That's never going to happen but they don't want to understand that.\n\nWhat I have not tried:\n\n* Asking for a callback number for them so I can find out who they are and who I have to complain to.\n\n* Putting my husband on the phone and having him pretend to be Robert so that they will give us more information (they won't give me any data because I am clearly not Robert and this is a \"personal matter\" that can only be discussed with him - this is why I'm assuming this is a collections company.)\n\nI'm worried that by doing either of these things they'll get it in their heads that I do know Robert and will step up their efforts and call more often. \n\nWhat are your tips for getting a collections agency to let go of an incorrect number and move on? Do I need to track down Robert myself? ", "How do I get a collections agency to stop calling me? No, I don't owe anyone any money. Some joker named Robert apparently used a fake phone number when applying for some sort of financing and that phone number happened to be mine. Now this guy has let his debt languish long enough that apparently the collections people are calling for his head, but they're calling my phone, and there's no Robert here.\n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to get them to leave me alone. They only call once a day but they do call *every day* and have done for about three weeks now. The time of the call varies from day to day.\n\nI can't block their number because it's different every time they call. Oddly, the area code and prefix are identical to mine - the last four digits change from call to call. I've searched for the numbers and they seem to belong to random individual citizens and not a business so I am pretty sure they are spoofing an ANI (possibly to make the number appear familiar to get the recipient to pick up.)\n\nWhat I have tried:\n\n* Telling them there is no Robert here and there never has been. This has been my mobile number since I was a teenager. I don't think this was a number he used to have back in the day.\n\n* Telling them that they have an incorrect number for Robert and to take this number out of their records.\n\n* Telling them outright to stop calling me.\n\nThe result is that they say thank you and disconnect. One time after I said that this was an incorrect number for Robert the rep said, \"OK we will try again later\" and disconnected before I could protest. I'm pretty sure they believe that I'm hiding Robert, and that if they call at the right time, he will answer the phone instead of me and they'll have him. That's never going to happen but they don't want to understand that.\n\nWhat I have not tried:\n\n* Asking for a callback number for them so I can find out who they are and who I have to complain to.\n\n* Putting my husband on the phone and having him pretend to be Robert so that they will give us more information (they won't give me any data because I am clearly not Robert and this is a \"personal matter\" that can only be discussed with him - this is why I'm assuming this is a collections company.)\n\nI'm worried that by doing either of these things they'll get it in their heads that I do know Robert and will step up their efforts and call more often. \n\nWhat are your tips for getting a collections agency to let go of an incorrect number and move on? Do I need to track down Robert myself? ", "How do I get a collections agency to stop calling me? No, I don't owe anyone any money. Some joker named Robert apparently used a fake phone number when applying for some sort of financing and that phone number happened to be mine. Now this guy has let his debt languish long enough that apparently the collections people are calling for his head, but they're calling my phone, and there's no Robert here.\n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to get them to leave me alone. They only call once a day but they do call *every day* and have done for about three weeks now. The time of the call varies from day to day.\n\nI can't block their number because it's different every time they call. Oddly, the area code and prefix are identical to mine - the last four digits change from call to call. I've searched for the numbers and they seem to belong to random individual citizens and not a business so I am pretty sure they are spoofing an ANI (possibly to make the number appear familiar to get the recipient to pick up.)\n\nWhat I have tried:\n\n* Telling them there is no Robert here and there never has been. This has been my mobile number since I was a teenager. I don't think this was a number he used to have back in the day.\n\n* Telling them that they have an incorrect number for Robert and to take this number out of their records.\n\n* Telling them outright to stop calling me.\n\nThe result is that they say thank you and disconnect. One time after I said that this was an incorrect number for Robert the rep said, \"OK we will try again later\" and disconnected before I could protest. I'm pretty sure they believe that I'm hiding Robert, and that if they call at the right time, he will answer the phone instead of me and they'll have him. That's never going to happen but they don't want to understand that.\n\nWhat I have not tried:\n\n* Asking for a callback number for them so I can find out who they are and who I have to complain to.\n\n* Putting my husband on the phone and having him pretend to be Robert so that they will give us more information (they won't give me any data because I am clearly not Robert and this is a \"personal matter\" that can only be discussed with him - this is why I'm assuming this is a collections company.)\n\nI'm worried that by doing either of these things they'll get it in their heads that I do know Robert and will step up their efforts and call more often. \n\nWhat are your tips for getting a collections agency to let go of an incorrect number and move on? Do I need to track down Robert myself? ", "How do I get a collections agency to stop calling me? No, I don't owe anyone any money. Some joker named Robert apparently used a fake phone number when applying for some sort of financing and that phone number happened to be mine. Now this guy has let his debt languish long enough that apparently the collections people are calling for his head, but they're calling my phone, and there's no Robert here.\n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to get them to leave me alone. They only call once a day but they do call *every day* and have done for about three weeks now. The time of the call varies from day to day.\n\nI can't block their number because it's different every time they call. Oddly, the area code and prefix are identical to mine - the last four digits change from call to call. I've searched for the numbers and they seem to belong to random individual citizens and not a business so I am pretty sure they are spoofing an ANI (possibly to make the number appear familiar to get the recipient to pick up.)\n\nWhat I have tried:\n\n* Telling them there is no Robert here and there never has been. This has been my mobile number since I was a teenager. I don't think this was a number he used to have back in the day.\n\n* Telling them that they have an incorrect number for Robert and to take this number out of their records.\n\n* Telling them outright to stop calling me.\n\nThe result is that they say thank you and disconnect. One time after I said that this was an incorrect number for Robert the rep said, \"OK we will try again later\" and disconnected before I could protest. I'm pretty sure they believe that I'm hiding Robert, and that if they call at the right time, he will answer the phone instead of me and they'll have him. That's never going to happen but they don't want to understand that.\n\nWhat I have not tried:\n\n* Asking for a callback number for them so I can find out who they are and who I have to complain to.\n\n* Putting my husband on the phone and having him pretend to be Robert so that they will give us more information (they won't give me any data because I am clearly not Robert and this is a \"personal matter\" that can only be discussed with him - this is why I'm assuming this is a collections company.)\n\nI'm worried that by doing either of these things they'll get it in their heads that I do know Robert and will step up their efforts and call more often. \n\nWhat are your tips for getting a collections agency to let go of an incorrect number and move on? Do I need to track down Robert myself? ", "How do I get a collections agency to stop calling me? No, I don't owe anyone any money. Some joker named Robert apparently used a fake phone number when applying for some sort of financing and that phone number happened to be mine. Now this guy has let his debt languish long enough that apparently the collections people are calling for his head, but they're calling my phone, and there's no Robert here.\n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to get them to leave me alone. They only call once a day but they do call *every day* and have done for about three weeks now. The time of the call varies from day to day.\n\nI can't block their number because it's different every time they call. Oddly, the area code and prefix are identical to mine - the last four digits change from call to call. I've searched for the numbers and they seem to belong to random individual citizens and not a business so I am pretty sure they are spoofing an ANI (possibly to make the number appear familiar to get the recipient to pick up.)\n\nWhat I have tried:\n\n* Telling them there is no Robert here and there never has been. This has been my mobile number since I was a teenager. I don't think this was a number he used to have back in the day.\n\n* Telling them that they have an incorrect number for Robert and to take this number out of their records.\n\n* Telling them outright to stop calling me.\n\nThe result is that they say thank you and disconnect. One time after I said that this was an incorrect number for Robert the rep said, \"OK we will try again later\" and disconnected before I could protest. I'm pretty sure they believe that I'm hiding Robert, and that if they call at the right time, he will answer the phone instead of me and they'll have him. That's never going to happen but they don't want to understand that.\n\nWhat I have not tried:\n\n* Asking for a callback number for them so I can find out who they are and who I have to complain to.\n\n* Putting my husband on the phone and having him pretend to be Robert so that they will give us more information (they won't give me any data because I am clearly not Robert and this is a \"personal matter\" that can only be discussed with him - this is why I'm assuming this is a collections company.)\n\nI'm worried that by doing either of these things they'll get it in their heads that I do know Robert and will step up their efforts and call more often. \n\nWhat are your tips for getting a collections agency to let go of an incorrect number and move on? Do I need to track down Robert myself? ", "How do I get a collections agency to stop calling me? No, I don't owe anyone any money. Some joker named Robert apparently used a fake phone number when applying for some sort of financing and that phone number happened to be mine. Now this guy has let his debt languish long enough that apparently the collections people are calling for his head, but they're calling my phone, and there's no Robert here.\n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to get them to leave me alone. They only call once a day but they do call *every day* and have done for about three weeks now. The time of the call varies from day to day.\n\nI can't block their number because it's different every time they call. Oddly, the area code and prefix are identical to mine - the last four digits change from call to call. I've searched for the numbers and they seem to belong to random individual citizens and not a business so I am pretty sure they are spoofing an ANI (possibly to make the number appear familiar to get the recipient to pick up.)\n\nWhat I have tried:\n\n* Telling them there is no Robert here and there never has been. This has been my mobile number since I was a teenager. I don't think this was a number he used to have back in the day.\n\n* Telling them that they have an incorrect number for Robert and to take this number out of their records.\n\n* Telling them outright to stop calling me.\n\nThe result is that they say thank you and disconnect. One time after I said that this was an incorrect number for Robert the rep said, \"OK we will try again later\" and disconnected before I could protest. I'm pretty sure they believe that I'm hiding Robert, and that if they call at the right time, he will answer the phone instead of me and they'll have him. That's never going to happen but they don't want to understand that.\n\nWhat I have not tried:\n\n* Asking for a callback number for them so I can find out who they are and who I have to complain to.\n\n* Putting my husband on the phone and having him pretend to be Robert so that they will give us more information (they won't give me any data because I am clearly not Robert and this is a \"personal matter\" that can only be discussed with him - this is why I'm assuming this is a collections company.)\n\nI'm worried that by doing either of these things they'll get it in their heads that I do know Robert and will step up their efforts and call more often. \n\nWhat are your tips for getting a collections agency to let go of an incorrect number and move on? Do I need to track down Robert myself? ", "How do I get a collections agency to stop calling me? No, I don't owe anyone any money. Some joker named Robert apparently used a fake phone number when applying for some sort of financing and that phone number happened to be mine. Now this guy has let his debt languish long enough that apparently the collections people are calling for his head, but they're calling my phone, and there's no Robert here.\n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to get them to leave me alone. They only call once a day but they do call *every day* and have done for about three weeks now. The time of the call varies from day to day.\n\nI can't block their number because it's different every time they call. Oddly, the area code and prefix are identical to mine - the last four digits change from call to call. I've searched for the numbers and they seem to belong to random individual citizens and not a business so I am pretty sure they are spoofing an ANI (possibly to make the number appear familiar to get the recipient to pick up.)\n\nWhat I have tried:\n\n* Telling them there is no Robert here and there never has been. This has been my mobile number since I was a teenager. I don't think this was a number he used to have back in the day.\n\n* Telling them that they have an incorrect number for Robert and to take this number out of their records.\n\n* Telling them outright to stop calling me.\n\nThe result is that they say thank you and disconnect. One time after I said that this was an incorrect number for Robert the rep said, \"OK we will try again later\" and disconnected before I could protest. I'm pretty sure they believe that I'm hiding Robert, and that if they call at the right time, he will answer the phone instead of me and they'll have him. That's never going to happen but they don't want to understand that.\n\nWhat I have not tried:\n\n* Asking for a callback number for them so I can find out who they are and who I have to complain to.\n\n* Putting my husband on the phone and having him pretend to be Robert so that they will give us more information (they won't give me any data because I am clearly not Robert and this is a \"personal matter\" that can only be discussed with him - this is why I'm assuming this is a collections company.)\n\nI'm worried that by doing either of these things they'll get it in their heads that I do know Robert and will step up their efforts and call more often. \n\nWhat are your tips for getting a collections agency to let go of an incorrect number and move on? Do I need to track down Robert myself? ", "How do I get a collections agency to stop calling me? No, I don't owe anyone any money. Some joker named Robert apparently used a fake phone number when applying for some sort of financing and that phone number happened to be mine. Now this guy has let his debt languish long enough that apparently the collections people are calling for his head, but they're calling my phone, and there's no Robert here.\n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to get them to leave me alone. They only call once a day but they do call *every day* and have done for about three weeks now. The time of the call varies from day to day.\n\nI can't block their number because it's different every time they call. Oddly, the area code and prefix are identical to mine - the last four digits change from call to call. I've searched for the numbers and they seem to belong to random individual citizens and not a business so I am pretty sure they are spoofing an ANI (possibly to make the number appear familiar to get the recipient to pick up.)\n\nWhat I have tried:\n\n* Telling them there is no Robert here and there never has been. This has been my mobile number since I was a teenager. I don't think this was a number he used to have back in the day.\n\n* Telling them that they have an incorrect number for Robert and to take this number out of their records.\n\n* Telling them outright to stop calling me.\n\nThe result is that they say thank you and disconnect. One time after I said that this was an incorrect number for Robert the rep said, \"OK we will try again later\" and disconnected before I could protest. I'm pretty sure they believe that I'm hiding Robert, and that if they call at the right time, he will answer the phone instead of me and they'll have him. That's never going to happen but they don't want to understand that.\n\nWhat I have not tried:\n\n* Asking for a callback number for them so I can find out who they are and who I have to complain to.\n\n* Putting my husband on the phone and having him pretend to be Robert so that they will give us more information (they won't give me any data because I am clearly not Robert and this is a \"personal matter\" that can only be discussed with him - this is why I'm assuming this is a collections company.)\n\nI'm worried that by doing either of these things they'll get it in their heads that I do know Robert and will step up their efforts and call more often. \n\nWhat are your tips for getting a collections agency to let go of an incorrect number and move on? Do I need to track down Robert myself? ", "How do I get a collections agency to stop calling me? No, I don't owe anyone any money. Some joker named Robert apparently used a fake phone number when applying for some sort of financing and that phone number happened to be mine. Now this guy has let his debt languish long enough that apparently the collections people are calling for his head, but they're calling my phone, and there's no Robert here.\n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to get them to leave me alone. They only call once a day but they do call *every day* and have done for about three weeks now. The time of the call varies from day to day.\n\nI can't block their number because it's different every time they call. Oddly, the area code and prefix are identical to mine - the last four digits change from call to call. I've searched for the numbers and they seem to belong to random individual citizens and not a business so I am pretty sure they are spoofing an ANI (possibly to make the number appear familiar to get the recipient to pick up.)\n\nWhat I have tried:\n\n* Telling them there is no Robert here and there never has been. This has been my mobile number since I was a teenager. I don't think this was a number he used to have back in the day.\n\n* Telling them that they have an incorrect number for Robert and to take this number out of their records.\n\n* Telling them outright to stop calling me.\n\nThe result is that they say thank you and disconnect. One time after I said that this was an incorrect number for Robert the rep said, \"OK we will try again later\" and disconnected before I could protest. I'm pretty sure they believe that I'm hiding Robert, and that if they call at the right time, he will answer the phone instead of me and they'll have him. That's never going to happen but they don't want to understand that.\n\nWhat I have not tried:\n\n* Asking for a callback number for them so I can find out who they are and who I have to complain to.\n\n* Putting my husband on the phone and having him pretend to be Robert so that they will give us more information (they won't give me any data because I am clearly not Robert and this is a \"personal matter\" that can only be discussed with him - this is why I'm assuming this is a collections company.)\n\nI'm worried that by doing either of these things they'll get it in their heads that I do know Robert and will step up their efforts and call more often. \n\nWhat are your tips for getting a collections agency to let go of an incorrect number and move on? Do I need to track down Robert myself? ", "How do I get a collections agency to stop calling me? No, I don't owe anyone any money. Some joker named Robert apparently used a fake phone number when applying for some sort of financing and that phone number happened to be mine. Now this guy has let his debt languish long enough that apparently the collections people are calling for his head, but they're calling my phone, and there's no Robert here.\n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to get them to leave me alone. They only call once a day but they do call *every day* and have done for about three weeks now. The time of the call varies from day to day.\n\nI can't block their number because it's different every time they call. Oddly, the area code and prefix are identical to mine - the last four digits change from call to call. I've searched for the numbers and they seem to belong to random individual citizens and not a business so I am pretty sure they are spoofing an ANI (possibly to make the number appear familiar to get the recipient to pick up.)\n\nWhat I have tried:\n\n* Telling them there is no Robert here and there never has been. This has been my mobile number since I was a teenager. I don't think this was a number he used to have back in the day.\n\n* Telling them that they have an incorrect number for Robert and to take this number out of their records.\n\n* Telling them outright to stop calling me.\n\nThe result is that they say thank you and disconnect. One time after I said that this was an incorrect number for Robert the rep said, \"OK we will try again later\" and disconnected before I could protest. I'm pretty sure they believe that I'm hiding Robert, and that if they call at the right time, he will answer the phone instead of me and they'll have him. That's never going to happen but they don't want to understand that.\n\nWhat I have not tried:\n\n* Asking for a callback number for them so I can find out who they are and who I have to complain to.\n\n* Putting my husband on the phone and having him pretend to be Robert so that they will give us more information (they won't give me any data because I am clearly not Robert and this is a \"personal matter\" that can only be discussed with him - this is why I'm assuming this is a collections company.)\n\nI'm worried that by doing either of these things they'll get it in their heads that I do know Robert and will step up their efforts and call more often. \n\nWhat are your tips for getting a collections agency to let go of an incorrect number and move on? Do I need to track down Robert myself? ", "How do I get a collections agency to stop calling me? No, I don't owe anyone any money. Some joker named Robert apparently used a fake phone number when applying for some sort of financing and that phone number happened to be mine. Now this guy has let his debt languish long enough that apparently the collections people are calling for his head, but they're calling my phone, and there's no Robert here.\n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to get them to leave me alone. They only call once a day but they do call *every day* and have done for about three weeks now. The time of the call varies from day to day.\n\nI can't block their number because it's different every time they call. Oddly, the area code and prefix are identical to mine - the last four digits change from call to call. I've searched for the numbers and they seem to belong to random individual citizens and not a business so I am pretty sure they are spoofing an ANI (possibly to make the number appear familiar to get the recipient to pick up.)\n\nWhat I have tried:\n\n* Telling them there is no Robert here and there never has been. This has been my mobile number since I was a teenager. I don't think this was a number he used to have back in the day.\n\n* Telling them that they have an incorrect number for Robert and to take this number out of their records.\n\n* Telling them outright to stop calling me.\n\nThe result is that they say thank you and disconnect. One time after I said that this was an incorrect number for Robert the rep said, \"OK we will try again later\" and disconnected before I could protest. I'm pretty sure they believe that I'm hiding Robert, and that if they call at the right time, he will answer the phone instead of me and they'll have him. That's never going to happen but they don't want to understand that.\n\nWhat I have not tried:\n\n* Asking for a callback number for them so I can find out who they are and who I have to complain to.\n\n* Putting my husband on the phone and having him pretend to be Robert so that they will give us more information (they won't give me any data because I am clearly not Robert and this is a \"personal matter\" that can only be discussed with him - this is why I'm assuming this is a collections company.)\n\nI'm worried that by doing either of these things they'll get it in their heads that I do know Robert and will step up their efforts and call more often. \n\nWhat are your tips for getting a collections agency to let go of an incorrect number and move on? Do I need to track down Robert myself? ", "How do I get a collections agency to stop calling me? No, I don't owe anyone any money. Some joker named Robert apparently used a fake phone number when applying for some sort of financing and that phone number happened to be mine. Now this guy has let his debt languish long enough that apparently the collections people are calling for his head, but they're calling my phone, and there's no Robert here.\n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to get them to leave me alone. They only call once a day but they do call *every day* and have done for about three weeks now. The time of the call varies from day to day.\n\nI can't block their number because it's different every time they call. Oddly, the area code and prefix are identical to mine - the last four digits change from call to call. I've searched for the numbers and they seem to belong to random individual citizens and not a business so I am pretty sure they are spoofing an ANI (possibly to make the number appear familiar to get the recipient to pick up.)\n\nWhat I have tried:\n\n* Telling them there is no Robert here and there never has been. This has been my mobile number since I was a teenager. I don't think this was a number he used to have back in the day.\n\n* Telling them that they have an incorrect number for Robert and to take this number out of their records.\n\n* Telling them outright to stop calling me.\n\nThe result is that they say thank you and disconnect. One time after I said that this was an incorrect number for Robert the rep said, \"OK we will try again later\" and disconnected before I could protest. I'm pretty sure they believe that I'm hiding Robert, and that if they call at the right time, he will answer the phone instead of me and they'll have him. That's never going to happen but they don't want to understand that.\n\nWhat I have not tried:\n\n* Asking for a callback number for them so I can find out who they are and who I have to complain to.\n\n* Putting my husband on the phone and having him pretend to be Robert so that they will give us more information (they won't give me any data because I am clearly not Robert and this is a \"personal matter\" that can only be discussed with him - this is why I'm assuming this is a collections company.)\n\nI'm worried that by doing either of these things they'll get it in their heads that I do know Robert and will step up their efforts and call more often. \n\nWhat are your tips for getting a collections agency to let go of an incorrect number and move on? Do I need to track down Robert myself? ", "How do I get a collections agency to stop calling me? No, I don't owe anyone any money. Some joker named Robert apparently used a fake phone number when applying for some sort of financing and that phone number happened to be mine. Now this guy has let his debt languish long enough that apparently the collections people are calling for his head, but they're calling my phone, and there's no Robert here.\n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to get them to leave me alone. They only call once a day but they do call *every day* and have done for about three weeks now. The time of the call varies from day to day.\n\nI can't block their number because it's different every time they call. Oddly, the area code and prefix are identical to mine - the last four digits change from call to call. I've searched for the numbers and they seem to belong to random individual citizens and not a business so I am pretty sure they are spoofing an ANI (possibly to make the number appear familiar to get the recipient to pick up.)\n\nWhat I have tried:\n\n* Telling them there is no Robert here and there never has been. This has been my mobile number since I was a teenager. I don't think this was a number he used to have back in the day.\n\n* Telling them that they have an incorrect number for Robert and to take this number out of their records.\n\n* Telling them outright to stop calling me.\n\nThe result is that they say thank you and disconnect. One time after I said that this was an incorrect number for Robert the rep said, \"OK we will try again later\" and disconnected before I could protest. I'm pretty sure they believe that I'm hiding Robert, and that if they call at the right time, he will answer the phone instead of me and they'll have him. That's never going to happen but they don't want to understand that.\n\nWhat I have not tried:\n\n* Asking for a callback number for them so I can find out who they are and who I have to complain to.\n\n* Putting my husband on the phone and having him pretend to be Robert so that they will give us more information (they won't give me any data because I am clearly not Robert and this is a \"personal matter\" that can only be discussed with him - this is why I'm assuming this is a collections company.)\n\nI'm worried that by doing either of these things they'll get it in their heads that I do know Robert and will step up their efforts and call more often. \n\nWhat are your tips for getting a collections agency to let go of an incorrect number and move on? Do I need to track down Robert myself? " ]

[ "This web-form will let you report them to the FCC. Since you have repeatedly informed them that they have the wrong number, and that you are not Robert, I would definitely consider their behavior to be harassment at this point. \n\nhttps://consumercomplaints.fcc.gov/hc/en-us/requests/new?ticket_form_id=39744", "Bill collector here... (should have made a throwaway)\n\nThe FDCP route will work in the long run, however, it does take time, and only if they are legit. 'In writing' means you need to know the company name, so on and so forth. There are also up to four possibilities\n\nLegit, 1st party debt collector (behind on phone bill or mortgage)\n\nLegit 3rd party debt collection (defaulted/charged off cr", "You've told them they are calling your cell phone and have asked them to stop. And, it sounds like they never had your permission to call. If you're in the U.S., they are violating the Telephone Consumer Protection Act, which provides $500 per violation, and $1,500 per violation if it's willful (you would argue it's willful because they kept calling after you told them to stop). Take screenshots on your cell showing the incoming calls (if you don't answer, they might not show up on your phone bill), get the company's name and contact information from one of their call agents, and talk to a lawyer. \n\nUnder the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act, you can sue for up to $1,000, actual damages and attorney fees/costs. Plaintiff attorneys like to put TCPA and FDCPA claims together so they can also recover their fees.\n\nYou may be able find a lawyer to take this on contingency, so that you aren't paying up front for the cost to file a lawsuit. That would/should make the company stop calling you, and you'll end up with a settlement.", "One way is to make a good answering machine greeting that will trick the automated system.\n\nYou know that doo-doo-dee \"we're sorry this number has been disconnected or is no longer in service. Please check the number and dial again\"\n\nMake that your answering machine greeting. When the systems that call you hear that, it's going to flag your # as invalid. This has worked for me. It's also fun to mess with friends and family :) \"oh yea I moved, I didn't tell you?\"\n\nfind clips at http://www.thisisarecording.com/ that's where I go.\n\ngood luck. donotcall.gov doesn't work very well.", "Odd timing, this. I've been receiving mail for over two years for a married couple (and apparently the mother of one of them). Looks like overdue bills from companies, debt collection letters, and cr", "Lots of very good advice in this thread for the modern day Dude. Here's an old school workaround.\n\n\"Steve\", obviously not his real name, went to a Cadillac dealership in Palm Beach County, FL, during some extra special promotional campaign in the late 80s, early 90s. He bought the most expensive car on the lot, using a cr", "In my experience, **you have to get aggressive**.\n\nAwhile ago I started working at a company where I was taking over the position of an employee who had been let go. By sheer coincidence, I happened to have the same name as him. Unbeknownst to me, the guy had racked up quiet a debt and failed to pay any of it off.\n\nThis would all be fine and good, except for the fact that I had the same name as him, and I had the same contact number as him. One unsuspecting day, the phone rang in the office, and I answered as I usually do \"*Company name*, **person** speaking\". Once they started talking to me about my debt, my mind started racing, did I have an unpaid parking ticket? Had I been caught by a speeding camera? Did someone steal my cr", "I had the exact same thing happen to me (collections calling from an ever-changing \"familiar\" number). Unfortunately the agency calling me spoke only Spanish, called twice a day like clockwork, and hung up at even the slightest hint of my English accent.\n\nI tried literally everything. Nothing worked until I stopped answering or ending the calls. It took about 3 weeks but the calls have stopped. Good luck. ", "I actually did owe money once and I asked them to stop calling me. I told them to contact me via mail and it worked. Not another phone call ever. Good luck. ", "Don't ask for the information. It's not yours, it's not yours to know, it's not yours to get involved with, you don't want anyone being associated with \"Robert\" or getting relief may be more difficult", "Use truecaller if they're calling on your smartphone. You can mark their numbers under spam, and they'll never trouble you again. \n&nbsp;\n\nCheers!", "There is an app that you can register each call, and if they reach a certain point a lawyer will help you free of charge. I used it for very similar reasons.", "Keep them on the phone as long as possible, tell them you think you might have Robert's contact information and that you are going to go look for it, then just put the phone down until they hang up. Call them up and ask them questions about the debt, questions about the amount, questions about Robert, questions about themselves, then tell them you are going to go try to find Robert and then just put the phone down until they hang up. Call them back over and over again, you know what, just tell me their number and I will do it for you.", "If they're calling your cell phone, then they're definitely violating the Telephone Consumer Protection Act - if they're found to be in violation of it they'll have to pay you up to $1,500 per call. The difficulty will be finding out who this company is.", "Weird. Telling them wrong number or having random friends answer always seems to get them off my trail for a while. " ]

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[ "How to become someone stoic? Anxiety tends to eat me and gets on my nerves, I end up sweating, shaking, nervous and having a stomachache. I read that I should learn from people I acknowledge in the field I'm working/studying. I'm a med student which is ironic that anxiety affects me that much lol Anyway, I'd like to accept anything that I face without stressing, the best field I thought it could help me is oncology. They have to deal with handful situations but in college we don't have one... I see any others as incompetent or they will brush me off", "How to become someone stoic? Anxiety tends to eat me and gets on my nerves, I end up sweating, shaking, nervous and having a stomachache. I read that I should learn from people I acknowledge in the field I'm working/studying. I'm a med student which is ironic that anxiety affects me that much lol Anyway, I'd like to accept anything that I face without stressing, the best field I thought it could help me is oncology. They have to deal with handful situations but in college we don't have one... I see any others as incompetent or they will brush me off" ]

[ "By definition stoic means \"a person who can endure pain or hardship without showing their feelings or complaining.\"\n\nTo become stoic, one must have confidence in themselves so as to realize they will get through whatever hardships come their way. One must also realize that while people might help, there is a good chance one will be left to overcome their hardships by themselves. Being stoic doesn't happen overnight; You need to build extremely thick skin over time. The best advice I can give you if you're facing new hardships is simply power through. You can either power through and build that thick skin, or give up. ", "There's the sort of standard definition of stoic as has been addressed in other posts, but it's worth considering that word comes from a philosophy of the same name that the modern definition doesn't really capture perfectly. I might suggest checking out r/stoicism, and if you have time, doing some reading. The stoics have a lot of advice to offer about how to feel happy and not worry too much, and not all of it necessarily comes out as the unfeeling stereotype they're portrayed as. \n\nThere are go-tos such as Marcus Aurelius' M" ]

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[ "How to walk away from a conversation without regrets? I have run into this problem countless times. I regret not having said everything after having a conversation with anyone. If someone could comment their advice or a link to a similar thread, it would be much appreciated!\n\nHave a nice day! ", "How to walk away from a conversation without regrets? I have run into this problem countless times. I regret not having said everything after having a conversation with anyone. If someone could comment their advice or a link to a similar thread, it would be much appreciated!\n\nHave a nice day! ", "How to walk away from a conversation without regrets? I have run into this problem countless times. I regret not having said everything after having a conversation with anyone. If someone could comment their advice or a link to a similar thread, it would be much appreciated!\n\nHave a nice day! " ]

[ "it sounds like to me you may just overthink things. when a conversation ends you should try to immediately focus on the next task instead of thinking of stuff you should’ve said!:) ", "You have to accept that not every topic needs to have every commentary that you can think of unloaded into it. You have to understand that you can often times talk to the person in the future and that anything you missed you can tell them next time the topic comes up (you'll forget by then, which is good).", "What do u do if you're on a longer train journey and just want to listen to to music, but your friend/companion always starts to talk to u when u just have the headphones in? " ]

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[ "How do I not cry \n\nIn class I was blamed for pulling down someones pants and I didn't even care but I was a bit mad because I had to write a 3 paragraph essay about being sorry, then I started crying uncontrollably when I wasn't even that sad. I was just mad because I hated writing\n\n", "How do I not cry \n\nIn class I was blamed for pulling down someones pants and I didn't even care but I was a bit mad because I had to write a 3 paragraph essay about being sorry, then I started crying uncontrollably when I wasn't even that sad. I was just mad because I hated writing\n\n", "How do I not cry \n\nIn class I was blamed for pulling down someones pants and I didn't even care but I was a bit mad because I had to write a 3 paragraph essay about being sorry, then I started crying uncontrollably when I wasn't even that sad. I was just mad because I hated writing\n\n", "How do I not cry \n\nIn class I was blamed for pulling down someones pants and I didn't even care but I was a bit mad because I had to write a 3 paragraph essay about being sorry, then I started crying uncontrollably when I wasn't even that sad. I was just mad because I hated writing\n\n", "How do I not cry \n\nIn class I was blamed for pulling down someones pants and I didn't even care but I was a bit mad because I had to write a 3 paragraph essay about being sorry, then I started crying uncontrollably when I wasn't even that sad. I was just mad because I hated writing\n\n", "How do I not cry \n\nIn class I was blamed for pulling down someones pants and I didn't even care but I was a bit mad because I had to write a 3 paragraph essay about being sorry, then I started crying uncontrollably when I wasn't even that sad. I was just mad because I hated writing\n\n", "How do I not cry \n\nIn class I was blamed for pulling down someones pants and I didn't even care but I was a bit mad because I had to write a 3 paragraph essay about being sorry, then I started crying uncontrollably when I wasn't even that sad. I was just mad because I hated writing\n\n" ]

[ "You were just probably super mad and instead of screaming or lashing out at someone your body decided that crying was the best way to get rid of some of your angry emotions.", "Yep, I’ve had many students cry because they were so mad. It’s normal, especially for a school-aged kid. Why did you pull their pants down, though?", "I usually start counting backwards from a very random and big number. Like 7,892. It makes me concentrate on that and distracts me from crying. Also I try to remember the steps to something complicated, like a recipe or a mathematical equation or even the notes to a song. The point is to distract yourself and focus on something somewhat difficult.", "At your age, you feel emotions much more vividly than you probably did before puberty or will once you're in your twenties. This frequently leads to the impulsive behavior that teens are known for. You cant help that you feel this way so strongly, but you do have control over how you deal with those feelings. Real talk: crying is a much better, less destructive way to release those emotions than other things angry teens sometimes do. \n\nAs a grown man, I cry sometimes too. It's OK.", "Yea dude lesson here is to not pull down other people's pants and then cry. I like to stare in the eyes of the one I'm pantsing. Once I feel the heart rate go up it's all downhill from there tho. Best of luck M8", "It's tough, to be honest. Chemically, your brains going through a lot. As it ages, generally speaking it will even out. \n\nFirst off, I need to say it's normal, even if it sucks. It happens sometimes. With some people, it happens more, with others, it happens less. There is no right or wrong way. I just hope you get to do it privately if you want. Other kids can be without mercy, as I'm sure you're aware. \n\n There's skills you can develop that help you keep some mental calm. Like m", "I do that too when I’m really angry. It’s not ok to yell or hit so sometimes your body will cry instead. I think it releases the anger. \nGood luck!" ]

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[ "How to get used to rotating extreme shift patterns? So one week I'd be doing a late shift and getting home for 3 am, the next week I'd be getting up at 3am for my early shift... Trying to find a way to get the body used to it, somehow.", "How to get used to rotating extreme shift patterns? So one week I'd be doing a late shift and getting home for 3 am, the next week I'd be getting up at 3am for my early shift... Trying to find a way to get the body used to it, somehow.", "How to get used to rotating extreme shift patterns? So one week I'd be doing a late shift and getting home for 3 am, the next week I'd be getting up at 3am for my early shift... Trying to find a way to get the body used to it, somehow.", "How to get used to rotating extreme shift patterns? So one week I'd be doing a late shift and getting home for 3 am, the next week I'd be getting up at 3am for my early shift... Trying to find a way to get the body used to it, somehow." ]

[ "I was on a 7 days on 2 off, 12 hours on off daily, the shift went 8-8, 12-12, 1600-0800, for 5 months. Best way is rest and live a normal life as possible when able, invest in black out curtains and a noise machine app during day sleeping, also wear sunglasses when getting off in the morning to help get you to sleep if it's an issue...\n\nThe shift was best accomplished by staying awake, caffeinate if you need to in order to shift your sleep, then, sleeping pills and stay knocked out until your new wake up time. Wake up before tha alarm? Stay in bed and relax and just embrace it. \n\nGood luck. \n\nAnother way to help this is to find a better job without this bs. Worst idea anyone ever made rotating shift work...\n", "Hmmm. I'll just give my take. Diet and when you eat seems to make a big part of your sleep schedule. I have read that not eating 16 hours prior to the time you want to wake up. So you would need to shift your eating schedule according to your sleep schedule. I don't really think you can entirely get use to this. It takes me months to get use to a normal schedule so I couldn't imagine working the hours you do. ", "1. Sleep for 8 hours. (even if you don't feel like it just go to bed. Or what ever your average night is) \n\n\n\n2. Ajust your meals, a good meal will help a lot at times and especially when it is hot. But don't get twice hot (at 6pm at work and at 2pm at home) otherwise you will get fat ;) \n\n\n3. Accept that your social life is shit but that you get 33% extra compensation ", "Start looking for a job that offers you stable hours. That's ridiculous for an employer to do that considering countless studies showing that only increases stress and decreases health (physically and mentally)" ]

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[ "learning to walk lightly Apparently when I'm not concentrating on walking, I stomp like a herd of elephants. Has anyone managed to teach themselves to (without thought) change their gait to one more \"ladylike\"? Does anyone know why some people are \"heavy walkers\" and some aren't? ", "learning to walk lightly Apparently when I'm not concentrating on walking, I stomp like a herd of elephants. Has anyone managed to teach themselves to (without thought) change their gait to one more \"ladylike\"? Does anyone know why some people are \"heavy walkers\" and some aren't? ", "learning to walk lightly Apparently when I'm not concentrating on walking, I stomp like a herd of elephants. Has anyone managed to teach themselves to (without thought) change their gait to one more \"ladylike\"? Does anyone know why some people are \"heavy walkers\" and some aren't? ", "learning to walk lightly Apparently when I'm not concentrating on walking, I stomp like a herd of elephants. Has anyone managed to teach themselves to (without thought) change their gait to one more \"ladylike\"? Does anyone know why some people are \"heavy walkers\" and some aren't? ", "learning to walk lightly Apparently when I'm not concentrating on walking, I stomp like a herd of elephants. Has anyone managed to teach themselves to (without thought) change their gait to one more \"ladylike\"? Does anyone know why some people are \"heavy walkers\" and some aren't? ", "learning to walk lightly Apparently when I'm not concentrating on walking, I stomp like a herd of elephants. Has anyone managed to teach themselves to (without thought) change their gait to one more \"ladylike\"? Does anyone know why some people are \"heavy walkers\" and some aren't? " ]

[ "Just do this exercise for 5 mins every day: walk extremely slowly and feel how the bottom of your feet slowly 'roll out' on the floor and how they roll back up when you lift them. A smooth walk equals a silent walk, which this exercise will help you obtain without much effort. Also, it's super relaxing :) \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "Since walking is basically a controlled way of falling forward, then landing on your leg, I'd say you're moving too much momentum forward, leading to a harsher impact. This is often caused by leaning forward too much while walking. To reduce the weight you put on your front leg, try to walk with better posture; pelvis straight, shoulders rolled back, head straight forward.", "It's all in how your heel hits. I've got my wife by 100 pounds and you can't hear me walk through the house, whereas my wife is like you and stomps her way through the house. You have to touch your foot down on the outside edge of the heel, where the meat is and roll your foot to the inside gently. \n\nIt's actually also better for you in the long run to walk quietly. That loud sound from your walk sends a shock up your leg and into your knee and hip. Those shockwaves add up over your life and will cause pain when you get older. ", "Walk from the heel of your foot to the toes, you need to roll it, when your foot is flat lift dont put extra pressure on the front. Walk around barefoot outside, catch a rabbit and youll learn quickly", "My SO googled it and found out that women who wear high heels most of the time (I did with my last job) tend to step heavily when not wearing heels. But i've been out of that job and heels (mostly) for a good two years now and haven't seen any improvement in my gait. Hence asking for free advice.", "I have always been a very light walker. When I need for whatever reason to actually make sound when I walk, I switch the bulk of my weight from the ball of my foot to the heel.\n\nI think a lot of people land heavily on the heel and then let the rest of the foot contact, or barely land on the ball and let the heel take most of the hit. I let the ball take the brunt of the step and the heel touches gently immediately afterwards." ]

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[ "How to control anger and not overreact Hi, I have the tendency of overreacting when I'm upset and end up saying stuff I regret, how do I stop? I can be happy and fine one moment but could be upset n angry when something small pisses me off ", "How to control anger and not overreact Hi, I have the tendency of overreacting when I'm upset and end up saying stuff I regret, how do I stop? I can be happy and fine one moment but could be upset n angry when something small pisses me off ", "How to control anger and not overreact Hi, I have the tendency of overreacting when I'm upset and end up saying stuff I regret, how do I stop? I can be happy and fine one moment but could be upset n angry when something small pisses me off ", "How to control anger and not overreact Hi, I have the tendency of overreacting when I'm upset and end up saying stuff I regret, how do I stop? I can be happy and fine one moment but could be upset n angry when something small pisses me off ", "How to control anger and not overreact Hi, I have the tendency of overreacting when I'm upset and end up saying stuff I regret, how do I stop? I can be happy and fine one moment but could be upset n angry when something small pisses me off ", "How to control anger and not overreact Hi, I have the tendency of overreacting when I'm upset and end up saying stuff I regret, how do I stop? I can be happy and fine one moment but could be upset n angry when something small pisses me off ", "How to control anger and not overreact Hi, I have the tendency of overreacting when I'm upset and end up saying stuff I regret, how do I stop? I can be happy and fine one moment but could be upset n angry when something small pisses me off ", "How to control anger and not overreact Hi, I have the tendency of overreacting when I'm upset and end up saying stuff I regret, how do I stop? I can be happy and fine one moment but could be upset n angry when something small pisses me off ", "How to control anger and not overreact Hi, I have the tendency of overreacting when I'm upset and end up saying stuff I regret, how do I stop? I can be happy and fine one moment but could be upset n angry when something small pisses me off " ]

[ "What worked for me was learning to question why I was angry. I never just get angry, I'm angry \"because...\". I was taught there were four triggers, but I only remember three of them, Fear, Frustration, and Hurt. If something scares me, or frustrates me, or hurts me, I then get angry. So I started making myself question why I was afraid, and then dealing with that issue. I've learned to deal with my fear, and frustration, and pain. Over the 30 or so years I've been doing it, it's become so second nature that it's very rare that I get angry anymore, and it usually passes extremely quickly.\n\nTL:DR Learn why you get angry, and learn how to cope with that, and you won't need to get angry.", "A sudden burst of anger, rage and instant *action* helped our human predecessors survive dangerous situations. Those residual tendencies reside in us still, especially males. \nIn today's structured society there's little need for these outbursts anymore, but it is very difficult to control in the heat of the moment. Even knowing this and trying to use this logic to control it doesn't help that much when all sense flies out the window. \nSometimes this works for me when I'm with others: stop, freeze, and take a breath. If you have to, start counting down from 20, while remembering there's no *actual* threat present, and remember that 15 minutes from now you'll look back on that moment with a different frame of mind.", "I have explosive anger as a symptom of PTSD. At one time it was very difficult for me to control. Docs gave me meds but that made it worse and more frequent. What i started doing is paying attention to my body. When anger is building it has signs because of the hormones dumping into your system. When you start feeling it build up, stop what you are doing. Take a breath, and shut your head off. Just take a break from the world. I started removing myself from the situations as soon as i started feeling that adredline and before i exploded. After a while it got easier to do and took less time to calm down. You just need to pay attention to your body and temporarily or permanetly remove the stressor.", "Use the two second rule. Never act on the first impulse you feel. With a little practice you can let the initial wave of anger go past and then respond in a more reasoned manner. Works good for road rage too.", "Observe your anger. Don't run from it or try to make it go away. Just acknowledge that you are angry.\n\nNow that you are aware that you are feeling anger, you need to make a decision. You may choose to act upon the anger or simply let it be. I would advise the latter.\n\nThere is nothing wrong with feeling anger, but there are many disadvantages to actually acting upon it. Most people feel regret if they choose to act upon their anger. They say things they don't mean, and do things they don't intend.\n\nIt also takes a lot of energy to make amends. \n\nSo simply observe your anger. Even articulate it. \"I am angry.\"\n\nThen go and take a walk.", "Wise words on the subject of anger by Thich Nhat Hanh:\nhttp://www.ineedmotivation.com/blog/2008/07/10-verses-to-tame-anger-by-thich-nhat-hanh/", "M", "Hello,\nIt's a good idea to remove yourself from the situation for a short break as soon as you feel yourself getting to the point of being that angry. Anger happens on a scale and long before you're acting it out there should be warning signs that you are getting to that point (teeth clenched, feeling warm, etc. Etc.) these bodily cues will happen in a scale corresponding to your level of anger and the more in tune with them you can be the better you will be able to know what strategies to use and when. I would also encourage you to think about what is making you angry. Anger is always a secondary emotion...there is always something underneath. \n\nhttps://www.google.com/search?q=anger&client=ms-android-uscellular-us&hl=en-US&prmd=inv&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiqstKwserNAhWPNx4KHSrdDuMQ_AUIBygB&biw=360&bih=525&dpr=4#hl=en-US&tbm=isch&q=anger+chart&imgrc=LEP6qRQHa4yoYM%3A\n\nAlso there a tons of great free anger management guides and workbooks available online. You may also consider m", "Also in to gain any insight. I go from 0-60 in a second at times without a second thought. Then I realize that at my age I can't just start swinging like I would when I was younger and it makes me feel even more pent up and pissed.\n\nI actually had an event a few weeks back in the morning where I was so furious so fast that it must have jacked my blood pressure through the roof cause I was pretty out of it for about a half hour after the anger had subsided. Anger was very rarely useful but if it can take me out for an hour like that then it's a health concern." ]

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[ "Cooling your pillow I radiate heat like a furnace while sleeping. The problem becomes worse when my head heats the pillow before drifting off. \nA nice cool pillow results in much better sleep. \n\nI've tried virtually all materials and stuffing, even a pillow pad that you fill with water. Those water pads made weird noises when restless and aren't comfortable. \n\nThe only method I'm working with is to keep rotating from the one in use. I don't get much sleep as it is. I could really use some pro tips on how you keep your pillow and noggin cooler.\n\n", "Cooling your pillow I radiate heat like a furnace while sleeping. The problem becomes worse when my head heats the pillow before drifting off. \nA nice cool pillow results in much better sleep. \n\nI've tried virtually all materials and stuffing, even a pillow pad that you fill with water. Those water pads made weird noises when restless and aren't comfortable. \n\nThe only method I'm working with is to keep rotating from the one in use. I don't get much sleep as it is. I could really use some pro tips on how you keep your pillow and noggin cooler.\n\n", "Cooling your pillow I radiate heat like a furnace while sleeping. The problem becomes worse when my head heats the pillow before drifting off. \nA nice cool pillow results in much better sleep. \n\nI've tried virtually all materials and stuffing, even a pillow pad that you fill with water. Those water pads made weird noises when restless and aren't comfortable. \n\nThe only method I'm working with is to keep rotating from the one in use. I don't get much sleep as it is. I could really use some pro tips on how you keep your pillow and noggin cooler.\n\n", "Cooling your pillow I radiate heat like a furnace while sleeping. The problem becomes worse when my head heats the pillow before drifting off. \nA nice cool pillow results in much better sleep. \n\nI've tried virtually all materials and stuffing, even a pillow pad that you fill with water. Those water pads made weird noises when restless and aren't comfortable. \n\nThe only method I'm working with is to keep rotating from the one in use. I don't get much sleep as it is. I could really use some pro tips on how you keep your pillow and noggin cooler.\n\n", "Cooling your pillow I radiate heat like a furnace while sleeping. The problem becomes worse when my head heats the pillow before drifting off. \nA nice cool pillow results in much better sleep. \n\nI've tried virtually all materials and stuffing, even a pillow pad that you fill with water. Those water pads made weird noises when restless and aren't comfortable. \n\nThe only method I'm working with is to keep rotating from the one in use. I don't get much sleep as it is. I could really use some pro tips on how you keep your pillow and noggin cooler.\n\n", "Cooling your pillow I radiate heat like a furnace while sleeping. The problem becomes worse when my head heats the pillow before drifting off. \nA nice cool pillow results in much better sleep. \n\nI've tried virtually all materials and stuffing, even a pillow pad that you fill with water. Those water pads made weird noises when restless and aren't comfortable. \n\nThe only method I'm working with is to keep rotating from the one in use. I don't get much sleep as it is. I could really use some pro tips on how you keep your pillow and noggin cooler.\n\n" ]

[ "I do too, my wife hates it in the summer and loves it in the winter. She says it's like sleeping next to a fire in a fireplace.\n\nI flip my pillow whenever it feels too hot.", "I put my pillowcase in the freezer for a few hours before I go to bed and it'll stay cool enough until I fall asleep", "Have you tried a memory foam pillow? This probably was 100% alleviated for me when I bought a high quality memory foam pillow (i.e. not a cheap one from Target).\n\nTry lowering your overall body temperature as well. Try sleeping without socks on, and your feet and arms not covered by a blanket. ", "well idk how well itll work but there exists sheet like cooling and heating pads that are xovered with favric instead of sticky plastic. throw it in the freezer and put it inbetween your pillows that way when you flip itll last longer.\n\nalso it sounds like youre just too hot in general. might i suggest using a large fan and attaching a dryer duct on it which is fed beneeth your blanket. should keep the temp down.", "i think you need to figure out why you're radiating heat like a furnace and solve that problem. You're probably having a hard time sleeping because you're too hot, not because the pillow is too hot. The pillow is cooler than your face!\n\ntemporarily flip it over though. \n\nhave you tried taking a cold shower before sleeping? or less layers or more AC/fan? ", "What I've done my whole life is flip the pillow upside down. The bottom should be cool since you haven't been resting your head on it. It usually stays cool enough for me to doze off." ]

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[ "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!", "What are some life saving tips you wish you'd have known before moving into your first appartment? Hello! Me and my Boyfriend are going to move out into our very first appartment soon! I am scrambling to get as much planning done as possible before it actually happens but it does seem like a lot more work than I would've imagined. \nCould anyone give me some good advice for moving, living alone and first appartments altogether? I would really appreciate it!" ]

[ "Buy a plunger now. You aren’t too good to shop at Aldi or the Dollar store. If you aren’t actively walking through it, your door should be locked.", "Do a pre move in walkthrough. Make a video of every deficiency. Same it to y the cloud on case you lose it. Go by the neighborhood at night when the majority of folks are home, that's when you'll probably be home too.", "Buy two fire extinguishers. Keep one in the kitchen and another in an easy to reach location. Fires happen, be prepared.", "Clean the whole place before you move in. Every shelf, every cabinet, every little nook and cranny. Buy shelf/drawer liners. Heavily consider buying a new toilet seat.\n\nE: and one other thing. Not exactly important, but it will make a difference, get a good shower head if the apartment doesn't already have one. It's a small investment that you will appreciate every day.", "Before moving in, take heaps of photos of everything in the empty apartment, especially any issues. This helps when trying to get your deposit back.\n\nAnd, accept that you two will occasionally disagree. Thats normal. So come up with a healthy way to work through disagreements without them escalating into fights. You dont want to lose a relationship over something as dumb as dirty dishes.", "Be clear, firm, and polite with each other about boundaries and expectations. For example: \n\n“I’d like to sleep in until 10 am, so please be quiet when you get up.”\n\n“I don’t mind washing your lunch dishes tonight, but I was really tired and stressed last time you left them and I found myself getting a little angry. Is it doable for you to wash them right after lunch?”\n\n“Well this feels kind of awkward to say, but… could you close the door when you use the toilet?”\n\nAnd then when your partner does what you requested, be sure to say thank you and smile.", "Read the lease carefully, especially the part about move-in/move-out inspections. In my state it is the norm that you have 5 days to declare any blemishes/defects in the apartment. \n\nBe wary if the landlord says anything like \"I'm chill, no need to worry about that, it's just a formality\" because they will lie and may try to stick damages caused by other tenants on you if not.", "Take your time when purchasing \"big\" items. Furniture, TV's, etc. Even just a little research and shopping around could save you not only money, but from buying a piece of junk. Also, if you are buying furniture they will often give discounts on the display pieces. I bought my set right off the showroom floor for 25% less than a set in the warehouse.", "Call a locksmith and have all your locks re-keyed. The previous tenant might still have copies of the keys to your place. Worth the cost because you never know.", "Best thing we ever did was to combine the magicplan app and the ‘how to move without killing someone’ system. With magicplan, we used our phone to scan the new place to make a decent little blueprint (accurate to a couple inches) and then arrange all the furniture over and over until it all fit just right. It’s hard to overstate how much trouble that saved later from spinning a room around and around trying to see if the bed could fit under that window or if the couch should be on this side or that side etc. Plus it was kind of fun. \n\nThat plan let us put labels on everything, furniture and boxes, for exactly which room it went in from the moment we unpacked it, and we put a copy of that page’s plan from the app on the door to that room. This all made it way easier for friends who were helping us to be truly helpful by looking at the drawing and setting a piece of furniture basically precisely where it would ultimately go the second it came through the door. \n\nThe “how to move system“ you can find online, but essentially you label every single box with a piece of paper that has the name of the room where it goes & a letter on it: A, B, C, D. You pack the boxes based on time to when it will be needed. \n\nAnything that will be used within the first 24–48 hours goes in an A box. First seven days are B boxes. Within 30 days a C box. Anything that will not likely need to be used in the first 30 days, a D box (some folks even make E boxes for ‘more than 90 days’, like seasonal/holiday stuff). Then you give each box from the letter group in that room a number (kitchen A1, kitchen B1, kitchen A2, etc). \n\nAnd as you go along you write down a quick reminder on a master list of a couple/few things in each box. This a a guide sheet as you pack, something just to prompt your memory about what’s in the overall box. Once you are all packed, everybody helping you knows just by looking at the box label “kitchen A1” to drop that box in your new kitchen and keep it accessible vs. putting a C box at the bottom of the stack. \n\nAs you settle, you are able to look at your little guide list you’ve made: “Hey where is that cutting board and the block of knives? Oh right, looks like the list says Kitchen C2 has Cutting boards and now I do remember packing the knife block with the cutting boards.” \n\nIn our experience it even made packing go faster because you felt so confident about how easy it would be to find everything later. And, as many people will tell you, those “not going to need it for a while“ boxes begin to help you realize what you probably can just pass on to a new home. There is a fine line between stuff accumulating and being frugal.", "Have a good long talk about finances. Do you pitch in evenly? Or a % of your salary? What gets paid from the mutual account? What are private expenses? Etc. \n\nAlso talk about how you will handle a disagreement or an argument. And realize you probably both have assumptions. About which role you’ll each have in the household together for example. \n\nAnd don’t forget to enjoy! It’s a special time too ☺️", "plan on being super patient and nice to your SO. you'll need to keep that in mind esp. during the move, but also living together. it's harder than you think, even for the most in-love couples.", "make sure there's always ice in the freezer. if you need it, you normally need it immediately & don't have time for water to freeze", "if the apartment has no window coverings, make sure to count how many curtains and rods you need to get. You'll want all those up by the time it gets dark your first night", "Remember to change your furnace filter. Not doing so can break your AC! I set a reminder on my phone to do it regularly. I also really recommend the 6 month filters.", "Put toilet paper first. Shit happens.\n\nWhile moving : put an emergency kit at a reachable place and tell everyone where it is. Make a bag as if you were on a weekend trip, put it in the bathroom and you have your basics for the next day at hand reach.", "My best advice is to live together with your boyfriend/girlfriend a while before marriage to see what you are in for… it’ll put pressure on your relationship and help you know if you are really ready for more.", "Look up what bed bug or roach infestations look like. Seriously. \n\nMy husband and I looked at a house we wanted to rent, I had a suspicion of bed bugs (saw a dead one in a spider web) asked the landlord and he said they DID have an infestation but took care of it. Well...he lied. And bed bugs DO live in walls. They literally only come out when it's warm, and they can sense when someone is sleeping in a room. So you may not see them on first inspection. \n\nIt was the worst year of my life. The landlord kept giving us the runaround, told us to use diatomaceous earth (which did jack shit). We wound up paying a lot of our own money to have Orkin come out to spray.\n\nIf you see any bugs, you should make sure the landlord/leasing office takes care of your concerns and uses a reputable company, not just their manager spraying some random bug spray.", "Keep your commute to work/school in mind. Driving? Public transportation? Biking? How close are you from family/friends?\nIs the area walkable? Can you get to grocery stores easily if you don’t have car? \nCrime rate in area? Where would your packages be placed? Neighbors - kids? Dogs? Noisy cat (like mine). \nWasher dryer in apt or building? \nDishwasher? Costs of parking? \nIs it easy access to get furniture in and out? Measure!!! keep angles in mind.\nIs there a kitchen hood fan? Or some type of fan to pull food smells out?\nDirection of windows…sunlight is important! (Black out curtains are a must if you like to sleep in). \nWait on getting any pets.\nWater pressure in bathroom? Does hot water heat up fast? Does Apt have own water heater? \nTry to live on top floor (and be considerate of people living below), or find a one level apartment complex.\n\nOk I’m done", "If you have a private landlord, don’t just analyze the apartment, remember the landlord is part of the package. I have put up with quirky landlords for cheap rent and 10/10 always regretted it. Seems too good to be true? Probably is. Know your rights as a tenant and then use them if need be. ", "Don't move in with someone if you can't afford to live on your own or pay for 2 places at once.\n\nBasically if you break up, you will need to move out. So you either go to your parents or if your older like me you have to find another place and continue to pay rent on the other place since its the contract and both of you are on the hook legally." ]

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[ "How to get jars, specifically Marmite or Bovril type jars open. [The Jar in question.](http://quintessentialruminations.files.wordpress.com/2011/03/bovril-jar.jpeg)\n\nI've found that after a few weeks of non use these jars seem to weld themselves shut and I was wondering if there were any ways, specific to these jars, for getting the lids back off.", "How to get jars, specifically Marmite or Bovril type jars open. [The Jar in question.](http://quintessentialruminations.files.wordpress.com/2011/03/bovril-jar.jpeg)\n\nI've found that after a few weeks of non use these jars seem to weld themselves shut and I was wondering if there were any ways, specific to these jars, for getting the lids back off.", "How to get jars, specifically Marmite or Bovril type jars open. [The Jar in question.](http://quintessentialruminations.files.wordpress.com/2011/03/bovril-jar.jpeg)\n\nI've found that after a few weeks of non use these jars seem to weld themselves shut and I was wondering if there were any ways, specific to these jars, for getting the lids back off.", "How to get jars, specifically Marmite or Bovril type jars open. [The Jar in question.](http://quintessentialruminations.files.wordpress.com/2011/03/bovril-jar.jpeg)\n\nI've found that after a few weeks of non use these jars seem to weld themselves shut and I was wondering if there were any ways, specific to these jars, for getting the lids back off.", "How to get jars, specifically Marmite or Bovril type jars open. [The Jar in question.](http://quintessentialruminations.files.wordpress.com/2011/03/bovril-jar.jpeg)\n\nI've found that after a few weeks of non use these jars seem to weld themselves shut and I was wondering if there were any ways, specific to these jars, for getting the lids back off." ]

[ "Run it under hot water, then use a rubber glove on your hand.\n\nIf not they have rubber jar openers available here in the US at grocery stores, pretty sure they should have them where you are as well.\n", "You could try a thick elastic band, wrap it around the lid twice, and twist. I'm not sure if it will work, but it's an idea.", "Wrap a kitchen cloth around the top to separate your hand's natural grease from the plastic. If that doesn't work, screw the loose ends of it up to tighten it.\n\nIf you need to apply more force, hold your hands out as if you're typing, with the jar sideways. Don't unscrew it all the way like this, mind.", "Thanks for all the tips, I got it open with hot water, a kitchen cloth and a bit of bashing the lid on the edge of the surface top, unfortunately the rest of my flat weren't too happy with the noise I made.", "I use a hairdryer and blast it at the lid for a moment or two. The lid should expand and the marmite or whatever it is will soften a little bit too. " ]

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[ "how to get the stink out of shoes and prevent smelly shoes? So I have smelly shoes. Feet, I guess, but really they never smell until i've been wearing shoes all day. I wash my feet well, dry them well, keep my toenails groomed, never wear the same shoes two days in a row... but all of them stink. Bad.\n\nI've tried spraying them with vodka, i've tried washing them, i've tried sneaker balls, i've even tried Sprayzee, a product on amazon meant for tough shoes.\n\nI do a lot of walking all day at work and sweat quite a bit. That's all I can think of. But why do they get SO bad? Like to the point you can smell them even when they're on my feet. It's embarrassing.\n\nI wear breathable sneakers, canvas shoes, steel toe boots... doesn't matter. All stink.\n\nHow can I totally deodorize my shoes???", "how to get the stink out of shoes and prevent smelly shoes? So I have smelly shoes. Feet, I guess, but really they never smell until i've been wearing shoes all day. I wash my feet well, dry them well, keep my toenails groomed, never wear the same shoes two days in a row... but all of them stink. Bad.\n\nI've tried spraying them with vodka, i've tried washing them, i've tried sneaker balls, i've even tried Sprayzee, a product on amazon meant for tough shoes.\n\nI do a lot of walking all day at work and sweat quite a bit. That's all I can think of. But why do they get SO bad? Like to the point you can smell them even when they're on my feet. It's embarrassing.\n\nI wear breathable sneakers, canvas shoes, steel toe boots... doesn't matter. All stink.\n\nHow can I totally deodorize my shoes???", "how to get the stink out of shoes and prevent smelly shoes? So I have smelly shoes. Feet, I guess, but really they never smell until i've been wearing shoes all day. I wash my feet well, dry them well, keep my toenails groomed, never wear the same shoes two days in a row... but all of them stink. Bad.\n\nI've tried spraying them with vodka, i've tried washing them, i've tried sneaker balls, i've even tried Sprayzee, a product on amazon meant for tough shoes.\n\nI do a lot of walking all day at work and sweat quite a bit. That's all I can think of. But why do they get SO bad? Like to the point you can smell them even when they're on my feet. It's embarrassing.\n\nI wear breathable sneakers, canvas shoes, steel toe boots... doesn't matter. All stink.\n\nHow can I totally deodorize my shoes???", "how to get the stink out of shoes and prevent smelly shoes? So I have smelly shoes. Feet, I guess, but really they never smell until i've been wearing shoes all day. I wash my feet well, dry them well, keep my toenails groomed, never wear the same shoes two days in a row... but all of them stink. Bad.\n\nI've tried spraying them with vodka, i've tried washing them, i've tried sneaker balls, i've even tried Sprayzee, a product on amazon meant for tough shoes.\n\nI do a lot of walking all day at work and sweat quite a bit. That's all I can think of. But why do they get SO bad? Like to the point you can smell them even when they're on my feet. It's embarrassing.\n\nI wear breathable sneakers, canvas shoes, steel toe boots... doesn't matter. All stink.\n\nHow can I totally deodorize my shoes???", "how to get the stink out of shoes and prevent smelly shoes? So I have smelly shoes. Feet, I guess, but really they never smell until i've been wearing shoes all day. I wash my feet well, dry them well, keep my toenails groomed, never wear the same shoes two days in a row... but all of them stink. Bad.\n\nI've tried spraying them with vodka, i've tried washing them, i've tried sneaker balls, i've even tried Sprayzee, a product on amazon meant for tough shoes.\n\nI do a lot of walking all day at work and sweat quite a bit. That's all I can think of. But why do they get SO bad? Like to the point you can smell them even when they're on my feet. It's embarrassing.\n\nI wear breathable sneakers, canvas shoes, steel toe boots... doesn't matter. All stink.\n\nHow can I totally deodorize my shoes???", "how to get the stink out of shoes and prevent smelly shoes? So I have smelly shoes. Feet, I guess, but really they never smell until i've been wearing shoes all day. I wash my feet well, dry them well, keep my toenails groomed, never wear the same shoes two days in a row... but all of them stink. Bad.\n\nI've tried spraying them with vodka, i've tried washing them, i've tried sneaker balls, i've even tried Sprayzee, a product on amazon meant for tough shoes.\n\nI do a lot of walking all day at work and sweat quite a bit. That's all I can think of. But why do they get SO bad? Like to the point you can smell them even when they're on my feet. It's embarrassing.\n\nI wear breathable sneakers, canvas shoes, steel toe boots... doesn't matter. All stink.\n\nHow can I totally deodorize my shoes???", "how to get the stink out of shoes and prevent smelly shoes? So I have smelly shoes. Feet, I guess, but really they never smell until i've been wearing shoes all day. I wash my feet well, dry them well, keep my toenails groomed, never wear the same shoes two days in a row... but all of them stink. Bad.\n\nI've tried spraying them with vodka, i've tried washing them, i've tried sneaker balls, i've even tried Sprayzee, a product on amazon meant for tough shoes.\n\nI do a lot of walking all day at work and sweat quite a bit. That's all I can think of. But why do they get SO bad? Like to the point you can smell them even when they're on my feet. It's embarrassing.\n\nI wear breathable sneakers, canvas shoes, steel toe boots... doesn't matter. All stink.\n\nHow can I totally deodorize my shoes???", "how to get the stink out of shoes and prevent smelly shoes? So I have smelly shoes. Feet, I guess, but really they never smell until i've been wearing shoes all day. I wash my feet well, dry them well, keep my toenails groomed, never wear the same shoes two days in a row... but all of them stink. Bad.\n\nI've tried spraying them with vodka, i've tried washing them, i've tried sneaker balls, i've even tried Sprayzee, a product on amazon meant for tough shoes.\n\nI do a lot of walking all day at work and sweat quite a bit. That's all I can think of. But why do they get SO bad? Like to the point you can smell them even when they're on my feet. It's embarrassing.\n\nI wear breathable sneakers, canvas shoes, steel toe boots... doesn't matter. All stink.\n\nHow can I totally deodorize my shoes???" ]

[ "Put them in a ziploc bag and into the freezer overnight. That should kill the bacteria, which is most likely the culprit of the stench. ", "Aside from the things you try, you could try buying better quality socks. Odds are if you're doing all you're say youre doing, the socks are causing an odor. \n\nTry to get some of that spray they use at bowling alleys, also. \n\nI had an issue with my old dress shoes, but I changed the brand of my dress socks and everything seems fine now.", "It's the bacteria that is living around your shoes and your feet.\n\nYou need to freeze all of your shoes overnight and wear slipper for a few days while religiously washing your feet with soap and hot water.\n\nOnce the bacteria all dies out the problem should be solved for good.\n\nAlternatively, you can go to your nearby pharmacy and they have cream for your feet.\n\nAlso avoid walking around outside of your house without slippers/shoes. Especially swimming pool toilets/gym toilets etc etc.", "Won't kill the bacteria, but tearing a dryer sheet in half and putting each half in a shoe was what I used to do.", "Switch the insoles in a pair and test after freezing them. Buy a really good pair of sport/sweat absorbing socks..could be up to $10 a pair but really worth it. Sprinkling corn starch powder after use has helped my sneakers stay fresher.", "Really cheap shoes will have a cardboard layer which absorbs and keeps moisture, which in turn retains stink. Fully leathers shoes are more resistant to becoming stinky.", "Greentea bags\nThey absorb odours caused by fungi and bacteria and also absorb moisture and leave a nice scent", "Along with the freezer option, soak the soles in white vinegar before throwing in the washing machine. It disinfects and deodorizes. Only wear the shoes when you need to (take em off as soon as you're home) and spray with a rubbing alcohol or vinegar spray between uses. Make sure they're dry before you wear again. \n\nCheck your socks. Some people respond to fabrics differently. I can't wear synthetics, they make my feet sweat. You might need to change it up too" ]

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[ "Start with one thing and commit to it. If it's jogging, then commit to jogging three (or however many) times a week, and just focus on that for a couple of months. Once you've got it down and it 'feels' natural or routine, you can add another goal, say, reading for 15 minutes before bed every night. Start very small and be extremely realistic.\n\nI have chronic major depression so I understand the struggle of maintaining a routine instead of pissing my life away in bed or behind a screen. I had an episode of severe psycho-motor impairment and I had to start with a goal of just getting up to brush my teeth in the morning and before bed. That was it. \"I pledge to brush my teeth twice a day.\" Sounds pretty pathetic, but it was a nightmare getting myself to even commit to that. However, after a couple of weeks, it started to feel a little more natural, and I was able to add going for a walk around the block every morning. Then I started doing a crossword every day, and slowly things started falling into place.\n\nI've tried lots of different things, but what seems to consistently work for me is picking a very small goal, and just getting yourself in the habit of adhering to it. \n\nIt's not just doing the things themselves that you need to practice, you need to work up the skill of setting aside time to do something you planned to do, and sticking to it. And be kind to yourself.", "I don't know if you have any structure in your day at all, but giving yourself some may be very beneficial. \n\nI was once between things for a year, and made a point of getting coffee with a friend before her work every day. It made sure that I was up, dressed, and out of the house before 9 every day. A bit of a schedule plus accountability goes a long way. \n\nBesides that, when you get home or are between tasks, don't sit down. I don't necessarily mean that literally, but don't tell yourself that you'll just sit with your laptop for a little while and then be productive later. It is much easier to just come home and immediately do the dishes or start tackling whatever other task you need to do, rather than building momentum up from zero again. ", "I have an app on my phone called Fabulous. Once you set it up you can create different \"rituals\" for yourself throughout the day. These rituals include whatever habits you want to create, like drink more water or exercise. I used to be very lazy but this app is actually really good. You just have to make sure you don't ignore the ritual notifications. \n\n", "Try creating a schedule of activities so you don't have the free time to just sit and do nothing. Also, find people to do these things with as accountability partners. \n\nIf you have nothing to do, it's easy to sit around and do nothing. Find some passion project. ", "This is pretty extreme but it works: Move to a new house/apartment and then don't start being lazy there.\n\nI used to be real lazy and ashamed of it for years. When I moved to a new apartment I said, \"This time it'll be different\". Associating my new surroundings with being productive was a real kick in the pants.", "Make sure you shower, get dressed and put on your shoes every day. It is much easier to sit around in PJs than if you're dressed. \n\nA body in motion stays in motion. Be sure to stay on your feet instead of sitting down. That way, you're more inclined to DO something.\n\nAlso, keep the TV/ipad/computer OFF until you get a certain amount of things done. Stay AWAY from things you know steal your time away- Netflix, Facebook, video games. It is SO easy to sit down and watch or play for a few hours.", "Sitting around all day isn't healthy. If you want to have more energy and a longer lifespan, go exercise for an hour after every few hours on your computer. ", "**Make a list** \n \nwrite out things you'd like to get done around the house or otherwise. \nthen check off those items as they are completed. \n \nI always feel motivated to 'get the list done' and fake like I have nothing to do when the physical list isn't present. ", "Have you tried Temptation Bundling?\n\nFor the lazy, [here's a link to a Freakonomics podcast on it](http://freakonomics.com/2015/03/13/when-willpower-isnt-enough-a-new-freakonomics-radio-podcast/)", "I like to spend 10 minutes making a list of things I need to do. In fact, I have multiple lists, and they are organized by time. I'll have my daily tasks that I need to do (currently need to do laundry, dishes, clean, buy groceries, pay a bill, and finish an assignment), then I have my \"this week\" plans (currently need finish up a student loan, and get my auto insurance figured out), then I have my \"this month\" (currently need to buy Christmas gifts, complete a term project and apply for a job), and then my \"long term\" list (this is tricky, but I have plans 10 years in advanced, such as start a business).\n\nIf I ever have trouble getting active I just pick a task (finish the dishes), and I kinda approach it like jumping into cold water. I count down 3..2..1.. then I get up and do it.\n\nOnce you get the first task out of the way, its easy to keep the momentum going. Then start checking things off your list!", "Think about it this way , being lazy isnt a routine , so work towards building one. After that just get used to it ", "Something to watch out for is \"secondary gain\"--the *good* that a bad habit gives you. Most bad habits stick around because they have an upside that you don't know how to get any other way. \n\nSo what *good* things does watching TV do for you? Find twenty other ways to get those benefits, and do all twenty of them. Each of the twenty ways will have their own side effects, but since you're juggling twenty of them, none of them will build up to toxic levels.\n\nDone thoroughly, it will make your transition off excess TV effortless, simply because you will already have whatever good it offers you. You won't need it anymore. Watching because you want to is *not* the same as watching because you need to. \n\nAlso--stand tall and excited, without any excess tension yet brimming with excitement, for 120 seconds. Stand like a person who eagerly wants to go on a jog. *Keep that in place for a full two minutes*. Feelings need time to catch up--don't not give yourself a chance and then say it didn't work. It will make you want to jog more.", "One thing that really helped me was learning new things to do. I made a list of Youtube Do It Yourself videos for me to learn from. First I learned how to cook simple- but delicious- meals to take to work. I started to lose weight, and I liked making good food a lot! Then I learned how to make things by hands, and that is when things really took off! I had no idea how much I wanted to be creative. I watched Bob Ross videos on how to make happy little trees. I also learned how to make leather bound books, beeswax candles, sugar and salt scrubs, soaps, lotion bars, etc. Other things I learned to make were crochete beanies (with cool mohawks), quilts, beef jerky, breads, butters, cheeses, bbq spice mixes, biscuits like my grandma used to make, etc. The list goes on and it will continue. Sometimes it takes something small to spark interest in you! I started small, and now because I made some important first steps to just go DO it, I am so much happier and healthier. I even have people asking me if I am going to make a career from making things! :D", "[*The Power of Habit* by Charles Duhigg](http://www.amazon.com/The-Power-Habit-What-Business/dp/081298160X) has some valuable insight into stuff like this.\n\nIn particular, he references what he calls \"keystone habits.\" They're different for everyone, but for example, some people find that making their bed in the morning makes them more likely to be productive through the rest of the day. For others, it's exercise. Or flossing. Or packing a lunch.\n\nAfter reading this book, I made it my New Year's resolution to both make my bed and floss every day. I was a good 95% successful with the resolution, and I still am several years later. \n\nIt hasn't changed my whole life, but I find that with a tidy bed, I'm more likely to pick up dirty laundry. And once my bedroom is neat, I want my kitchen neat too...\n\nI'd recommend picking one thing that takes just a few minutes a day and committing to doing it for three weeks. See if just doing that doesn't help you break the cycle.", "Would people be interested in a service you sign up for that is designed around keeping you accountable, but with actual people invovled? So say you want to exercise, you would set up times you want to do it and then receive a call/text/message reminding you to do it. You would then check-in afterwords to say you've done it. It would be an actual person though that you're interacting with and not just an app that's easy to dismiss. Would you sign up for that? What if as part of it you could help keep other people accountable?\n\nBasically I think the power of being held accountable to other people is very powerful. I've tried apps but they're easy to dismiss. Once you're actually interacting with a person it's a lot harder to flake out on. ", "What works for me is convincing myself to just get started, even if its only for five minutes.\n\nExample: if the thought of going for a jog sounds like too much, maybe you can convince yourself to do it for just five minutes. Five minutes, that's it. That's your goal. Set your goal really low and accept that doing anything at all towards it is a win. Just going is far better than not\n\nI've found the trick is just getting started, and not worrying about what else you got out of it.", "There's a website/app called habitica. Take your list suggestion and add RPG element. Get some friends to join and join parties so if you don't do things, you'll hurt everyone. ", "Make a to do list, or an achievement chart. Seriously, I keep starting and stopping weightloss. \n\nSoo, my boyfriend made me 2 challenge sheets, one (because I love make up) is an eyeshadow pallet, he printed out the one I wanted, covered each circle with a black piece of plastic that I peel for each 2lbs I lose. \n\nI also have a mini achievements list, like a video game, with a daily quest and then at the end of the week I get a mini reward. \n\nI love make up and nail art, so its a fun motivator, also, I'm **highly** competitive so we've been doing exercise each day, and I've added more just so I can beat him :P", "I've had good results using [Habitica](https://habitica.com/static/front). It's like an RPG where you get XP for keeping to your to-do list. When you join a party, everyone will know if you're slacking, so you're kept somewhat accountable.", "I was like this at the beginning of the year. I was so embarrassed to go to the gym, but knew I had to. And I did. As I started going more and becoming more active, I actually started enjoying it and myself. It gets easier, you just have to do it... No excuses! ", "while he talks about fitness.. it doesn't need to be about fitness.. give it a listen. I think it will get you to the mindset\n\nhttps://youtu.be/Q8K7ifs2Db4\n", "i wish i had saved it... some guy posted a long post about \"just do something\" anything. even if you start with one thing a day, do something. it will help get you started to do more. \n\nif anyone has it saved, please post it! it's an absolutely amazing read", "When I was in college I had everything scheduled out. My class, work, and training schedule for track. I even had my homework/study time on my schedule too. That way I knew exactly what I should be working on for an upcoming class.\n\nAs far as getting off of your computer... What worked for me was setting up Chrome Nanny or if you use another browser you can use net nanny or something. It helps with limiting your use on the internet. For instance, I couldnt use youtube or reddit during my study or homework time.\n\nFinally, in order to get rid or change a behavior, you must replace it with another behavior. For you, it has been getting up and going for a run. Which is good, however, it can initially be very difficult to do so. \n\nEveryone here has good advice for you. The toughest part is finding what works for you and actually doing it. ", "What has not been mentioned is seeking medical help. For years and years I simply thought that I was lazy when in fact I had a sleeping disorder that I was not aware of. Now I'm under care with a CPAP and I take modafinil and my wife says I'm a completely changed person. ", "Try the Pomodoro app. It helps you add structure to your day. \n\nSo you set the timer on the app and you work on something for 25 minutes, you might have trouble sticking to the task at first but thats okay, just keep focused on trying for that time. Then the timer goes off and you get 5 minutes to take a break. Use it to check reddit, go outside for a second, or whatever you want to do. Sometimes I use that 5 minutes to get up from my desk and do the dishes really quick, or make the bed, but that's if you wanna be ultra productive. Then you sit back down and work for another 25. After awhile you get a 25 minute long break. Use it however you want. I like to use it to take a shower, which makes me feel more productive and ready for the day. \n\nIf you aren't working from home and you just want to be more productive on your days off, then use the app in another way. Use the 25 minutes to get stuff done around your house, such as vacuuming, cleaning, laundry, maybe go for a jog, then use the breaks to browse reddit or do something lazy for a minute. \n\nYou will be surprised how much momentum starts building when you start getting little tasks done. You will end the day with a clean house, everything done and taken care of, and go to bed feeling productive.\n\n", "This is a great short (around 3 minutes) TED Talk by Derek Sivers entitled \"Keep Your Goals to Yourself\". He talks about how talking in detail about the things you're going to do can actually give you the same satisfaction as having actually done them, therefore making it less likely you'll *actually* accomplish your goal. It's really made a big difference for me, just getting on with things.\n\nhttps://www.ted.com/talks/derek_sivers_keep_your_goals_to_yourself", "Things that help:\n\nA routine, even a simple one, removes a lot of the obstacles. Eat, tidy up, sleep, eat, tidy up, put on sneakers... If you're in the habit of just putting on sneakers and stepping out the door every day, you'll be far better off. \n\nListening to music or podcasts removes the boredom that makes the internet too alluring.\n\nWhen you plan to sit, watching a few YouTube videos of the things you'd like to try really helps.\n\nHaving a bottle of water waiting in the fridge battles low energy levels. ( I like to reuse glass bottles.)\n\nKeeping workout gear together and handy removes the 20 minute hunt, and makes it an impulse friendly act.\n\nWhen you get the urge to get up and try something, go ahead and follow it like an impulsive kid would. Really, that first half second is when to go with it and let it be fun and easy.\n\nPlay a game. Zombies run, ingress, and habatica are fun and addictive. \n\n\n\n", "The biggest thing that has worked for me, is whenever I'm making a productivity/diet/purchase decision is to ask myself \"how will I feel about this choice tomorrow?\" Looking back on good choices makes it easier to keep doing them. Aww it sure was great of me to take out the trash, fold my clothes, and not drink that soda yesterday, what can I do today to make tomorrow great?", "The \"just do it\" part of your ", "Tbh this might sound stupid but I whenever I don't want to do something I have shia lebuf in my head shout \"JUST DO IT\" and I do what I have to. ", "Read The Power of Habit.\nYou need to remove triggers that encourage the lazy habit, and replace them with triggers for the positive habit, along with a reward that reinforces the new healthy habit.", "Pretend you are 80 years old. Now pretend 80 year old you gets to go back in time.\n\n80 year old you's time is almost up. They would be angry with you for wasting your valuable time right now. Go have some experiences they want you to have. Make the best choices that you have today, not the easiest. This is YOU saying that.\n\nSometimes, 80 year old you would want you to have more fun than you are having. Other times, work harder you lazy POS. Other times, don't do that unwise thing.", "Lots of good advice on here, lists for sure.\n\nHowever, I really got stuck in a rut half way through college and nothing seemed to help me. Eventually I just got rid of the things holding me back.\n\nDo you need your computer for work? Get rid of it for a week or two by giving it to a friend. Probably don't need whatever is giving you TV either, give it away for a few days/ weeks. You'd be amazed how fast your boredom leads you to being productive. ", "I've spent the last half-hour writing this without even realizing you had just requested something similar: https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/3v5xba/lpt_take_advantages_of_disruptions_to_your/\n\nGranted, it's hard to plan that deliberately, but you can possibly intentionally make one big general change and let that percolate to other areas of life. ", "I'd say guilt yourself into doing something. It's what worked for me. Pick up an instrument and learn to play, grind ranked in LoL, go out with friends, go to the gym, idk do something man. Or be a potato. Honestly, as long as you're happy and healthy it doesn't matter. I was a potato for three years and I fucking loved it. Then one day I woke up and I was like \"shit, I'm not happy\" so I started doing shit.", "I find it's mostly about generating positive momentum. \nRecent mantra of mine-\nMotion doesn't require energy, it creates it!!! ", "I don't know if it's been mentioned already but there's a site/app called Habitica (formerly Habit RPG) that I've found really helpful. It's a simple RPG where you make to do lists and the like, completing them gives you experiences and gold, you find items sometimes, you can join a party to do quests...\n\nI like it and have found it helpful so maybe it'll help you too :)", "I am beginning to only do things half, like this:\n\n* I don't do the dishes, I only collect my plates and sort them in the kitchen.\n* I don't go to the gym, I only pack my gym bag.\n* I don't clean the toilet, I just put out my cleaning products.\n\nWhen I only do half of the work, I actually 'invest' in the full chore and it suddenly becomes hard to stop myself. If I really don't wanna do it, I can stop myself and it is okay because my work doesn't disappear.\n\nJust do the bare minimum to get the ball rolling.", "Here's something: when you don't want to do something, just tell yourself to do it for 5 minutes. If at the end of 5 minutes you are absolutely miserable, then you can go back to doing whatever you want and try again in an hour. Usually if you are already 5 minutes into something it's easier to keep going, and you typically will. You just have to trick yourself into doing it for 5 minutes. ", "Habitrpg.com \n\nThere is an app and everything. You can form guilds and parties etc. \n\nYou can set habits to build or break, daily tasks, and to do lists. \n\nEvery time you complete one you gain experience points. And gain levels. And find random loot. And defeat monsters. \n\nMissed tasked or bad habits make you lose health. \n\n Set your first daily task to \"check habit rpg today\" and mark that off every day until you get in the habit of checking it. \n\nAdd every other little thing you can think of. No need to go big. No one else can see your lists so don't worry. ", "For me, it's writing things down. From to do lists to weekly goals, if I write it down, I accomplish it. If I don't write it down, I don't accomplish it. ", "Does anyone know of an iPhone App where I can 'easily' create a task/reminder at a set time. E.g. Select New Task -> Name it -> Give it a time. Nothing more. I've tried any.do but it takes too long to set times and notifications aren't great. I'd rather not use my (O365) calendar.", "As someone who struggles with this a lot, here's one unexpected thing that helps me quite a bit. Go to the store and grab an old-school egg timer. When you want to start a task but can't quite bring yourself to do it, crank that timer like you mean it and then jump in like it's the starting gun at the 100m dash. What the timer is set to doesn't really matter, but taking a physical action to indicate that you're about to get shit done and having that sense of urgency from the quickly ticking clock can make a huge difference.", "> every now and then i go for a jog but i have to really force my self.\n\nThis doesn't have to be a forced activity, but it should be something you actually want to do. Running does, however, take effort even when done correctly. \"Every now and then\" is not correctly and you'd be prone to injury or not going very far. I've seen many people make the attempt then days, weeks, or months down the road disappear, probably in shame and failure.\n\nYou need a plan and schedule to help keep your commitment. The activity itself should be sufficient enough to see further down the road of accomplishment. [I've personally used this several times now.](http://www.coolrunning.com/engine/2/2_3/181.shtml) Because like yourself, I like to sit around on the computer. \n\nThere is a lot more than just the running you should look into. Dynamic stretching , stretching, proper breathing and form. all this should keep you occupied and learning. \n ", "volunteer your time for a good cause. always looks good on a CV (resume) too, i presume - i dont help no one cept myself!!jk", "use addreall. it works great for me and for the greatest mathematician that eve lived:\n[Paul Erdős](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paul_Erd%C5%91s)", "set an alarm every day and wake up/eat/get going then. No snooze allowed! set it for like 8:30 am every day (unless you have to wake up earlier for work/school in which case set it for like an hour and a half before you have to leave) Spend your wake-up time out of bed! do dishes, fold laundry, make the to-do lists, etc. For me (an extremely lazy/unmotivated person) the simple act of waking up and getting out of bed sets the tone for a productive day.", "if anyones up to date with ash vs the evil dead, \"shoot first, ask later\" is probably the most sound piece of advice I indirectly receieved", "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NPe30hrxFg0\n\nI like some of this guys videos, this one is great though, 2 minutes? 1 touch it!!!! ", "have you tried [Habitica?](www.habitica.com) it's a great approach to a \"to-do list\". It gamifies your life and gives you that sense on continous progress. \n\nThey also have a decent community at /r/habitrpg ", "from my experience, no matter how far gone you think you are, forcing yourself to do healthier activities can bring your brain back to a comfortable equilibrium. The more often you force yourself to learn or take a walk the easier it becomes because you recognize the significance it can make. -sysiphus", "don't go to places that make you lazy.\n\nif being at home makes you lazy, don't go home.\n\nif having your computer around makes you unproductive, try getting by without it.", "[This] (https://www.reddit.com/r/getdisciplined/comments/1q96b5/i_just_dont_care_about_myself/cdah4af) post helped me out. ", "[Here's a link to a Reddit thread I bookmarked on how to stop procrastinating. The top comment is pure gold](https://www.reddit.com/r/IWantToLearn/comments/zj6c9/i_want_to_learn_how_to_stop_procrastinating/)", "Your goal is very broad but as i read through list of best practices, i could not help but draw parallels to the \"Influencer\" model. Influencer is a concept/tool used to overcoming behavioral based challenges (usually with respect to influencing the behaviors of others). The concept states that there are 6 different sources of influence, and succesfully change behavior you need to leverage 4 or more sources in tangent. \n\nThe 6 sources are:\n1- personal ability\n2-personal motivation\n3-social ability\n4-social motivation\n5- structural ability \n6- structural motivation\n\nHere's a quick example of how it works\n\nChallenge: i want to quit smoking \n\nPersonal ability- throw away all cigarettes and lighters, creating an obstacle to smoking\n\nPersonal motivation- keep track of the days since your last cigarette and celebrate milestones\n\nSocial ability- avoid smokers who can enable you\n\nSocial motivation- tell people who you care about that your quiting \n\nStructural ability- whenever possible avoid areas where cigarettes can be acquire ( buy gas at the pump instead of walking into the gas station)\n\nStructural motivation- if you get cravings while you drive , take a picture of a person with a tracheotomy to your steering wheel\n\nIf you employ four or more sources of influence you will be ten times more likely to achieve sustainable behavioral change. There a lot of great resources and videos online Google influencer", "You've probably gotten a fair share of advice, thought I will add my two cents here.\n\nThere is one key factor which you will have to understand, and accept fully, which has the key to changing your routines. Will power. It does not matter how many methods, ways, tricks, pointers you learn to help change this routine until you realize that to do so, it has to first come deep within from you. I don't mean a make believe \"I want to change\", but that desire has to be burning deep within you. Otherwise, you will either try a couple of things and fall back into the same routine, or just keep telling your self you will do it tomorrow, and fall into procrastination. Think really hard about this, and ask yourself \"Do I really want to change the routine or just kind of want to?\". Cuz if its the latter, you are likely to stay with the current routine or fall back into. \n\nOne thing that may help you, is to make this change for something else. In order to get or gain something else. For example, a physical activity that will help bring improve your health. If going into specifics, getting some arm muscles, getting a little stronger, losing some weight, getting better endurance. It could be something different such as going to meet a friend, doing something else you love which is productive. You have to find a reason you want to change, and what this change will bring so you can keep your mind on that while you feed the fuel for the desire to change.\n\nFind that true desire as to why you want to change, then put your focus on how you are going to change, replace your routine with something that you want to achieve something in, then tune yourself back into that whole desire of changing and breaking the routine. \n\nThe truth is, no matter what you try, how you wanna try, unless you understand and accept that it's ultimately YOUR choice, there won't be any permanent change. It may not be easy, but you will feel better each time you try until you get there. You are already on the path, just jump off that ledge my friend, and fly. ", "You'll be fine dude! Especially if you're getting into the air force. Good luck being lazy during that shit! The military is an awesome path for a kid your age. Stick with it and find something you enjoy doing that the RAF can teach you. Mechanic, aircraft mechanic, pilot etc... Use this time to make sure you're physically ready for basic training, read, write, whatever you enjoy doing that isn't Netflix, video games or reddit. Honestly the more you start doing other things the more you'll want to do those things. And though subs like get motivated are great, remember that every inspirational quote you read, or piece of advice you get is just you procrastinating if you don't take action. Good luck : ) ", "You probably have a dream. There are probably hundreds of thousands of people who have a similar dream. They're probably working harder than you are.", "You need to start small. Really small. I literally started with flossing my teeth. I realized when I couldn't commit to that everyday, what could I? You'll get it after a while, it really comes down to will power. You will either have it or not for the most part.", "You have 2 choices to make. To do it, or not to do it. By choosing not to do it, you are saying 'no' to yourself. Do not say 'no' to yourself. ", "You could set some goals for yourself, announce them on Facebook (or just tell a bunch of people in person or by phone) and encourage everyone to ask for follow-ups on your progress. And as you make progress on those goals, announce this as well on FB.", "When you wake up in the morning, go outside. I find if I have an errand to run or a reason I have to leave the house initially, it will keep me productive throughout the day when I see how nice it is outside. However, there is the chance of the opposite effect if it is terrible outside.", "Whatever distracts you (yeah, probably reddit), don't go in there unless you really don't have anything else to do. It's ***much*** harder to stop doing something lazy and time-wasting than to avoid doing it in the first place. \n\nI try to avoid doing those stuff until I'm done with food, dishes, chopping wood, doing the laundry or whatever. All of a sudden doing those lazy things aren't as compelling since you don't have hours and hours of time in front of you with which you should do something else. \n\nAlso, try to imagine how long something will take and think that if you start now you'll be done by then. Just finished eating? If you do the dishes every day after eating it takes maybe 10-15 minutes. If it's 18.00 you're done by 18.15 and still have pretty much exactly the same amount of time to do something fun, but without the anxiety of seeing the undone dishes. Then add starting a machine of laundry. If you ignore reddit for a bit more and instead switch to your workout clothes and go for a run or whatever, all of a sudden it's 21.00 after you've had a shower, and then you can spend an hour doing nothing on the PC, and you'll use that time better and feel you appreciate being able to cool down by relaxing instead of just wasting your time being bored. ", "What I've been doing is giving myself a checklist for each day. I'll make a list of stuff I need to do for the week and then assign the items to a specific day of the week, with big tasks split over several days, and times assigned to each one. Helps breaking the big stuff down into little pieces which I get to cross off.", "We live in a culture that was based, on occasion, with the ideas that: idle hands are the devils workshop; and being quiet and sedentary means you are lazy, and someone who is lazy is bad. Folks who think this is unhealthy are not false to think so, but driving yourself crazy because you like to \"waste\" time is to do a kind of violence to wisdom. You don't see a child running around endlessly being active, and then feeliing bad for just sitting still and doing something peaceable. For example, a lot of folk have jobs where their employer seems to own their mind, and wears it out daily. So after work they go home and fuck off, or sit on the couch, and all the type A people who think that is bad go nuts. M", "Walk for an hour a day. Find something that will make the walk interesting and just do it everyday. I play solitaire on the treadmill. It makes my whole life easier to want to work harder at. Hard to explain, it's a feeling...\n\nEver looked at someone and wondered how they could do so much and be happy? That's how you feel you are after just walking more. We are active animals. If we are lazy, our minds are lazy. We are unhealthy and become depressed. Just walk. ", "WATER. DO ASTRETCH ROUTINE AS SOON AS YOU WAKE UP. MORE WATER. BRUSH YOUR TEETH MORE. PUSHUPS/SQUATS BEFORE BED. WAAAAATER", "Trying to take on too many things you find boring will make you not want to do them. I'm always trying to fill my day with activities like gym, do some programming or electronics, practice learning a language/instrument, read some of the books I bought and have never started reading etc... Then I spend most of my day on reddit or watching videos on YouTube/Netflix and maybe get round to one of them.\n\nChange them to something more interesting:\n\n* Gym? I used to go 5 days a week, changed over to the SL5x5 program and only have to go 3 days a week now. I find it a much more efficient use of my time and I don't have to try as hard to motivate myself to go and do it.\n\nSynergize with other activities:\n\n* I used to try and read some of a book at night depending on what mood I was in. Now I read one book at a time that helps me with my current uni work.\n\nDrop some tasks:\n\n* I used to try learning Guitar but I decided to drop it from my list of activities because I felt it would never help me as much as some of the others I wanted to do.\n\nNow I just try to accomplish 2 tasks a day on top of work, after that I can do whatever. Todays tasks for me are: Gym session, and later on read some of the book, or do some language practice.", "Trying do some sort of exercise. I personally like lifting, and I go right after classes. I've found I'm most productive right after working out. I go back to my room, starting working. On my rest days I usually take a nap and just chill and I've found I have no motivation to do anything. So maybe try exercising in some way and then working", "Tony Robbins. Specifically, his morning magic routine. It's a specific energizing ritual that sets a motivated tone and establishes discipline", "To be honest it's entirely subjective. Think of it like dieting. Some people are happiest when they are at the gym for 3 hours a day, others are content with a 1 hour gym session every other day, while others are fine knowing that they will never see the inside of a gym. In the same way, you may go nuts if you don't give yourself some downtime, or you may find that you still feel unproductive even if you have a full schedule. You just have to find what works for you.", "Tl;DR: There are only a couple things in life that *really* motivate anyone. Sex, Survival (Food and Shelter ie. Money) and Power/Status. If you're satisfied with your levels, then what the hell do you need to be motivated for? Actually, if you think about it, if you have all these things, you were probably really motivated for a long time because you don't get these things laying around, so hey. Give yourself a little cr", "This works for me. I'm not claiming it works for everyone but it helped me a ton. It was the only variable in my day that I changed and the effects were pretty amazing. \n\nI work out. First couple days suck. You're sore, tired and just exhausted. But then it becomes routine. Your energy increases. Confidence increases. Humans were designed to sweat and use all of the muscles of their body. This energy can now be applied to all the other areas of your life. People turn to alcohol, pot, caffeine, etc. But in my opinion, the best drug out there is working out. The mental benefit that is has on your body is one of a kind. I don't even focus on fixing the rest of the day to get out of my lazy routine. Once I start working out, the energy just naturally comes over time and my days become more and more structured. \n\nA little tip too, if the gym isn't for you, find something active that you enjoy, even if you aren't good at it. Tennis, basketball, soccer, running, swimming, anything! Have fun with it! ", "This post is popular now and, I'm going to admit, I'm not going to bother reading the other comments. \n\nFirst, do you know what you want to do instead? That's important.\n\nIf you find yourself spending too much time online/watching TV, you need to make those places that inspire you. For jogging, join a site like Nike+ that tracks your runs, lets you compete with friends/strangers and gives you badges for doing good/weird/pointless runs. Make something like that your homepage and every day you'll have a reminder of how much you are/aren't running and it might encourage you to do it more. \n\nWatch TV shows that inspire you to do something. Whether that's a documentary about a sportsman or a show where people do things with their own hands. Comedies and whatnot are great, but you get nothing in return for them. \n\nI guess you spend a lot of time on Reddit. Look at the subreddits you're subscribed to. Cut most of them out. \n\nIf you want to be really harsh, I'm sure there are Chrome extensions that can block sites (such as Reddit) or can limit your time -- say one hour -- so that you don't spend too long wasting away on here. \n\nHope there's something useful in there, and good luck!", "This might sound a bit dark, but something that I find helps me immensely is to have a loud watch on my wrist. Every second I'm wearing it, I can hear it tick. I think to myself \"I only have so many ticks left in life, why am I wasting them when I could be doing something to better myself?\"", "This may seem a little stupid, but I just recently discovered it, and it's been helping me be really motivated and productive (only found it a few days ago though so take my advice with a grain of salt).\n\nIt is this simple: **Turn off your inner monologue**\n\nAnything. Good. Bad. Don't let it say anything you. Keep your mind blank. This has been especially difficult for me because I've always had only my own company to rely upon, so my inner monologue has been acting as kind of a friend/parent figure for myself. It's bullshit, though. It's just a distraction that takes up useful brainpower. You'd be surprised at how difficult it is to dislike something *if you never allow yourself to articulate that concept internally*, or even define it.\n\nTry it out, see how it works. Everyone's situation is different, but I found (to my great surprise) that all of these mental hoops I put myself through by speaking through my inner monologue have been making me absolutely miserable.\n\nI really hope it helps, but it may not. If it doesn't, I'm sure the advice that works for you is somewhere here!", "Think of downtime- dicking around on the Internet, watching tv etc- as a break from why you're actually doing, which is living your life and getting things done. This as opposed to default dicking around, and having to work yourself up to what needs to get done. ", "Things that work for me.\nDon't eat a lot. It will make you feel sluggish and not want to do things.\n\nGet plenty of sleep and try to get your day started as soon as you wake up. Also shower as soon as possible. If I don't shower after waking up its usually 4pm before anything starts.\n\nIf the work you have to do can be done outside the house then do it. Home is where I relax and it doesn't feel like a productive environment.\n\nDon't overburden yourself with many tasks. Keeping the essentials and work on those until they are part of your lifestyle, then add more.", "These come up a lot. Just to point something out: you're asking for other people to tell you what to do so that you can stop doing nothing. Its the lazy way out. If your doing nothing is so bad go see a therapist and they will help. If it isn't - maybe recognize that taking the easy way to this information is bound to have you in the same predicament again. Changes occur long term, not because someone put together 8 bullet point tips. You likely knew these things - what you have to realize is that something is stopping you from doing them.", "The way life works, how it REALLY works is that your life and the things around you are exactly the way you want them to be. Sure, you can 'SAY' you don't want this or that, but the truth is that buried deep in your subconscious, your present state is exactly what you want/are comfortable with.\n\nWant to change, you need to dig deep let the desire bubble up from within. This applies to everything. Once you can really connect to your within and learn to direct everything from there, your life will change.\n\nWant proof? How many times have retired from being soo tired from work or a similar typically not very motivating environment, thinking you'd go home and sleep a years worth, and then found the energy/will do do other things that you really enjoy doing?\n\nWant change, first you must know thyself ...", "The use of [todoist.com](https://todoist.com) and the [pomodoro technique](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pomodoro_Technique) has been what has gotten me out of these ruts.", "The thing that keeps me motivated is knowing that if I had to do 10x more than I do, I would.\n\nSo why can't I do 2x more than I do? \n\nYou wanna think about conditioning yourself for situations where your inexperience, inability, or lack or practice could affect you.\n\nIf your life right now is a shitty book, a bad movie, a boring game. Put it down and pick up a better one. Build your character, grind for XP, level up, be the protagonist you'd like to read about.", "The psych research shows that self-regulation is like a muscle. You can only do so much and then it 'wears out' but you can do stretch goals to build it up. Start with one or two small tasks. Do those every day and take time afterwards to say good things to yourself and give yourself small rewards. Once you get that under control, add another one or two tasks. Rinse and repeat.", "The only thing that really helped me was doing just one extra \"good thing\" every day. You'll have to force yourself at first, but after a few weeks, it becomes routine, then you can add another \"good thing\". Thinking too big tends to be overwhelming and counterproductive.\n\nAlso, if your first \"good thing\" is exercise, it will quite literally give you more motivation (by changing your brain chemistry) to iterate through the above process.", "The main thing to look at is what do you want. Watching TV and doing stuff on the computer isn't \"lazy\" it's entertainment.\n\nI didn't start exercising because I felt lazy. I started exercising because my legs would get sore while standing in the shower and I knew I had to change my life style.\n\nNow I watch TV, play on the computer, AND exercise.\n\nAre you looking for more fulfillment? Do you feel like your wasting your life away? There are bigger questions here. Are you looking to get healthy? Are you bored?", "The biggest thing I have found recently is a practice I started doing consistently about 4 weeks ago. And it has changed a lot for me. \n\nIt is basically having a conversation with your inner child. It is actually listening to them and loving them on purpose. As \"woo-woo\" as this sounds, THEY (your inner child) are the ones who are in the drivers seat. And not being able to get moving or feel motivated means, almost always, that there is something they are fearful of or tired of telling you and you not listening. Think: Small child that has been trying to tell their parents over and over that something is wrong and they keep ignoring the small child. Finally, at one point...they just fold their arms and say...\"fine, I am not going to do ANYTHING until you start listening to me. If I have to get negative attention from you, at least that is attention.\" \n\nWarning: This is something that needs to be done very consciously...very deliberately and very much on purpose. It is not something where you just let it run and you aren't in control.\n\nYou want to start listening to your thoughts. Actually tuning in. On purpose. I wrote this comment on another post and I pulled it over here because it describes the process I have been following for the last 4 weeks and have seen my life literally change before my eyes. \n\n\n\"Imagine that you are the owner of all these thoughts. And each one has a message for you. They are trying to tell you something. They want to get your attention. Even imagine them as little children trying to get love from you. They are at your door banging and trying to get in...but since you are ignoring them or at least trying to...they keep trying to get louder.\n\nWrite them out. Just get them on paper and let them have an actual voice. They want to be heard. You can burn the paper after...or one of the best things you can do is RESPOND to the thoughts with the one thing that they have always wanted to hear.\n\nYou be their parent and tell them what they have always wanted to hear. So, if you have a rampage of thoughts about something surrounding a mistake you made...or how you aren't doing what you thought you would be doing at this point in your life. \n\nListen to those thoughts....even write them down...give them a voice and then respond to them with what the best parent in the world would. Literally talk to them. Tell them that you are here for them...that you aren't going to ignore them anymore and that you believe in them. They aren't worthless. You understand they are scared and tell them that it is going to be okay.\n\nI know this seems kind of crazy...but understand that the noise of the mind is literally our \"inner child\" conditioning trying to get through and be resolved. If you will become the \"parent\" in this and let each fear and thought be heard and then you respond with love and kindness and compassion....they WILL be silenced. All they really want is to be heard. They have energy of their own.\n\nThe key is this HAS to be 2 parts. 1) actually listening to them (NOT if they tell you to do harm to yourself or others by the way...) but listening to them as a parent would sit down and listen to a child. \n\nUnderstanding that they might be really confused or scared.\n\n2) Responding with love and by doing that...diffusing their fear....their anger. Diffusing whatever they have been scared of all along.\"", "The best thing to do is have someone hold you accountable, we call them accountabilibuddies (spell check). It can be a friend, a significant other, or a roommate. Both you just need to set a goal and do it. Whether that both for a run or eat healthy, whatever it is you both need to have a goal. That way when you really don't feel like doing it, you have someone else to change your mind or make you do it. ", "The absolute best thing for me that I do to get out of a lazy routine is to make a list. I always feel like I need to complete it before the end of the day so I just mark things that I need to do like fold clothes or exercise for an hour and it always feels good to check one off", "The 'X' effect. Get a calendar specifically for the goal.\nSay your goal is m", "Take pre workout, you'll feel motivated to go work out, burn it all off, or you'll get sick and feel like shit all day. The other thing, put your laptop in your car. You have to get up and go outside, as soon as you're there, get in your car and go somewhere. Unless you need to use your laptop. \n\nHonestly, this is all about self control. You know it's lazy, you know you need to change. Summon up the will power and your golden. If you don't, it's only you that is stopping you and you don't want it that bad.", "Step 1: Go on Reddit and post question.\n\nStep 2: Wait.\n\nStep 3: Read comments.\n\nStep 4: Spend half the night replying and debating.\n\nStep 5: Crawl over to the couch and sleep till noon.\n\nStep 6: Repeat.", "Start rewarding yourself with things that you like after the important things can done. E.g. you can't watch x until y is done. Want to get fit? You have to run so many miles until you are allowed to watch your fav show that week. Want to learn a new language? Finish a chapter on that Rosetta Stone or whatever you use before you allow yourself to watch TV. \n\nHonestly though, deleting facebook is probably going to be huge. I deleted mine a couple of years ago and I got back a bunch of free time.", "Start coming up with very random things to do during the day, go to meet a friend for lunch who you haven't caught up with in a long time. Structure is always good if you can find a reason to be somewhere by a 9am", "Start by doing little thing such as making your bed, attending to quick chores like the dishwasher or doing your laundry...each little task gives you a small sense of accomplishment and leads to a more productive attitude. Worked for me!", "So, I think a good first step is to dismiss the notion of 'laziness'. \n\nReally what you're looking at is avoidance. We avoid doing things, and we avoid them for reasons.\n\nSo, the first step is to make a habit out of noticing when you are avoiding something. When you find yourself distracted, or 'lazy', ask yourself \"What am I avoiding?\". \n\nWhen you find what (homework, housework, excercise, etc.) ask \"Why?\". \"What is it about this that I'm avoiding?\". There'll be something, maybe multiple things, and that's what you focus on - \"Can I handle *this* issue\". Not the goal itself but the root of your aversion to it - i.e. \"If I fail, can I handle it?\", \"Can I handle being exhausted?\" etc.", "So, I have a tendency to get into a lazy rhythm too plus most of my favorite hobbies are sedentary so I get what you mean about being in a lazy routine. This is kind of small but it does seem to help when I get in my tv watching funk. First, I open windows to let in lots of light. That will often motivate me to look a little nicer than my usual watching tv pajama set. Then, I'll start playing some really good music. The beat alone is often all I need to get moving. ", "Small steps lead to bigger ones. If you have a gym membership, so to the gym, but maybe only do like 20 minutes of cardio on your favorite machine and that's it. Then, once that becomes part of your routine, it's just a matter of expanding the workout.", "Small habits. Wake up a little earlier every day. Do 5 push ups. Write 5 minutes in your journal. Or spend that time working on that project, or cool idea you've been meaning to do. \nSuch a small effort that there's no real reason not do do it. If you keep this up everyday, soon you will want to do a little more. Why not 6 pushups? It's only one more. And before you know you're craking out 30 pushups before bed. Or finishing up the outline of your novel. You decide what a productive use of your time is. The key is consistency. A human who works consistently every day is unstoppable.", "Shia has the answer. https://youtu.be/ZXsQAXx_ao0\n\nAs stupid as this video is the message is on point. Just do it.", "Research the symptoms of Attention Deficit Disorder in adults. It's is not uncommon to go undiagnosed and many of the symptoms involve \"laziness\" or a lack of motivation. You can also check out r/adhd to see what other adults' experiences have been with being diagnosed once they're older.", "Quick thing that helped me is start small, don't jump head first into a diet or workout routine. Start with eating only whole wheat instead from now on or lifting weights for 5 minutes twice a week, as you get comfortable with that add more to the list of things for your diet and workout. I assume this is applicable to any lifestyle changes you want", "Procrastination is strongly associated with 'perfectionism' or 'setting unrealistic goals'.\n\nThe fix?\n\nAlways make sure your goals are realistic/achievable. Starting with baby steps is a good idea.", "Probably said before, but I'm far too lazy to go through all the comments. I know for me, having a clean apartment makes me more motivated to do things. If i leave laundry unfolded, or dishes in the sink for too long so they pile up, I get somewhat lethargic. If everything is put away and clean, then I feel more driven to do other things.", "Picking up a new hobby can help. I know that since I started learning the guitar (just because I felt like learning it) I've spent a lot less time on Netflix. I guess the excitement of something new and different can be a strong motivator and hopefully this will spread into other areas of your life.", "People have posted a lot of great ideas but i want to add my 2 cents anyway. maybe you, OP, or someone else can get something out of it. \n \ni was at the same point. came home from work and just sat at my computer watching YT videos, movies and playing games. i never did anything. i got too fat mor my liking and my apartment looked like a mess. \n \ni tried to force myself to go running at least 2 times a week but never managed to really keep at it. i hate running :( \n \ni wanted to change a couple things. \nfirst: my apartment. i wanted to feel more comfy in my own home so it had to be at least so clean, that i can invite friends over and it should look presentable. i am by no means a super cleanly person but no one should be grossed out by my apartment. \n \nsecond: i wanted to get fit. i knew i needed to start working out in some shape or form and change my diet. or start one to begin with. \n \nthird: i wanted to be more productive and creative. \n \n \n \nthe apartment: i made lists on what i had to do over the week (pay bills, go shopping, clean to bathroom, vacuum, do the dishes etc) and i assigned those tasks to the different days so i had to do one or two things a day but never spend more than 30 minutes on that stuff. \nlater i found myself doing 3 or 4 things on one day so i had nothing to the next day. awesome! \nand once you started doing the dishes and realize that it only took a couple minutes, you think:\" well i can put out the trash real quick and pay my bills while i am at it.\" starting is the only hard thing about all that. but knowing that i only had to do one thing from the list is what got me up in the first place. \n \nfitness: it took a while to find a sport that was fitting and that i don't have to myself doing it. bouldering is what did it for me. now i go bouldering right after work 3 times a week. it is important to me to go there right after work because once i was home, it is harder to get back up an do stuff. so i just take my things i need to work with me and then go right after i am finished in the office. \nbeen doing this for 3 month now and i look forward to it. if my body would let me, i would go every day. but the pain is real guys xD \nDieting is pretty easy. i just cut some sugar. no more bars of chocolate or that stuff and by now i don't even like chocolate anymore. my weakness is salty things like chips. love that, but i try hard not buy it in the first place. if feel like i need a snack i eat a banana and some nuts. \ni stoped drinking coffee which helped me alot cause i don't have ups and downs anymore througout the day. my energy level is pretty consistent as well as my blood sugar levels. \ninstead if i feel a little tired at work, i drink lots of water, get up for a couple minutes and stretch. get you blood flowing and keep your muscles relaxed. sitting in an office all day (and then sitting some more at home) will just get you pain all over your body. you neck probably hurts most times and your shoulders are always uptight. \nso: stretch, get some air, walk around for a couple of minutes. \n \ncreativity: those long days with work and gym right after relly push me creatively. i don't pick up my guitar and just slack around. either i don't pick it up and to some chores or if i feel like playing most times i write some tunes. or i work on songs that i recorded and whatnot. the limited time pushes me and stops me from wasting time. \n \n \nso with all that said: i still love to play games and watch movies. but the limited time i have to do that lets me really appriciate that. so when i watch a movie all alone on my big tv it's like an event for me. i look forward to it as apposed to some month ago where i would just watch whatever just because i was bored. \n \n \nand only after 6 weeks or so i saw some cool change. i was getting stuff done. i lost some weight, but on muscles and generally feel better, healthier and i feel more attractive. that boosted my confidence again after feeling down for about 3 years.", "One thing that helps me is asking myself how \"future yarboa\" will feel about this. Like, if I don't do __ now, will future me be super stressed out? I don't really want to be that stressed, so I better do it now. Or like, sometimes it's not about stress but level of happiness. If I do my dishes/take out the trash right now I know I'll be happy with myself when it's done. If I don't, I know tomorrow morning when I wake up and see that junk I'll get down on myself, and my ego's delicate, I don't want to damage my self esteem like that - I'm trying to become a better person.\n\nStuff like that. I guess I'm logicking myself into motivation? Try not too be too hard on yourself when nothing gets done!", "One thing that helps is just hopping into the shower then putting on some clothes that you would be comfortable going out in. It just makes it one less step so you feel like you don't have to put any extra work into going out and makes you feel like going out to do whatever you need to more quickly. Whether it's chores or just getting fresh air.", "One thing I found useful was coming up with daily tasks. Some examples are Sunday is my laundry day. Wednesday is the day I clean my apartment. Exercise days are Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Saturday. \n\nI scheduled tasks for the days I am most likely to do them and have them in an Excel spreadsheet. When each day rolls around I just look up what my daily tasks are and then do them. It removes the debate in my head about what I want to do and should do each day. ", "One thing I do that helps is cleaning my house every morning before I do anything. At least if I sit around for a while, it's in a clean house and I can feel good about that!", "On your first ", "Not to leech off this question but what if you don't have a regular schedule. What if it's all over the place. I work 12+ hours 3-4 days a week. In that I'm up at 6am 5 days a week to take my wife to work and have to pick her up at 4pm if I'm not working (my schedule is either 10-10 or 9-9). So in that I have a overlapping schedule with my wife and my own. And when I do have off, I'm usually picking up things that I have not done during the week (paying bills, cleaning the house, laundry, or pick up classes to keep my job certs. In check). And usually my job gets me out late too usually around 11:00 pm or even 1:00 am. After this I'm a bad sleeper to boot usually tossing and turning for about 2 hours before sleep takes me. This means most of the time I only get about 2-3 hours sleep a night. How do I organize this type of mess?!", "No one is going to give you this advice because we are on the internet right now, but I was never more active then when I was without the internet.. I'm not a huge TV fan (but it lends some entertainment) and only having cable and no internet gave me a great routine by default. I hear people make excuses all the time about 'needing' to be connected, but when I really *needed* to use it I just headed to the local coffee shop or rec center. It worked like a charm.. Since it made hanging out a home kind of boring I exercised more, I would go to local events like beer/wine tastings, food truck festivals, art shows, I hung up drywall and painted a spare bedroom.. shit I NEVER would have done before.", "Nike said it best \"just do it!\" you obviously want to be more fit. I found a good dvd workout series I can do in the comfort of my home. Just put the disc in everyday and let the trainer get you going.\n", "My tip would be to make whatever it is you're needing to do that day, homework, for example make it the FIRST thing you do. No facebook, no texting, no internet (except for school) and do it EARLY IN THE MORNING. I find in the evening My brain switches to fun and relax mode and I don't want to work, so always work first thing in the morning. ", "My problem is trying to take some of the responsibility for chores off my fiancé and placing more on myself. I'm recovering from depression and have been working my first full time job in years for the last 3 months. I can't get anything done in the morning; I wake up with such terrible anxiety, it's almost torture getting myself up, ready, and off to work. I usually mellow out once I get there but then coming home I often feel tired and cranky and just want to crawl into bed. I no longer cook, clean up after dinner, or do any chores during the week. I can usually get a few done on the weekend if I can push past the anxiety that plagues me almost all day Saturday and Sunday (I guess it's the lack of structure?) Anyway, any tips would be appreciated. ", "My personal favorite method is to go lift some weights. Not even like, *heavy* weights, just something to offer resistance. While you're doing this, push everything else out of your mind, and focus just on picking up that goddamn weight. Don't worry about how much weight you're lifting (although it should be *somewhat* challenging, at least near the end of the workout), just know that you'll feel great after.\n \nI don't even consider the workout as a \"goal\"... after some time of being sedentary I just quit thinking about it and force myself to autopilot over to the gym, knowing that I'll feel great after.\n \nFor me, at least, I get (a) a big, natural feeling of well-being and (b) a clear mind and just feel more motivated to get the right things done.\n \nExercise helps in general, but my experience is that weights feel markedly better than cardio.\n \n", "My personal advice is to maybe go out and treat yourself to some outdoor activity or maybe go to a local music scene. It helps to get out with friends and have a good time.", "My advice is to learn how to break / form habits.\n\nA couple years ago I tried improving myself and started with teeth brushing. This has no impact on my life but I wanted to teach myself to break habits.\n\nInstead of brushing my teeth in the standard order (bottom right, top right, bottom left, top left, top middle, bottom middle), I would try starting brushing in any section of my mouth that wasn't the bottom right. It took me MONTHS to be able to do this.\n\nAnyhow I found once I could do that it helped me break/form other habits, eventually I could design little details of my life to be beneficial, and then carry over to much more meaningful areas like health. ", "Motivation isn't a \"trick of the trade\" and willpower isn't a \"life pro tip\".\n\nYou literally can just do a thing you want to do.", "Make plans with other people! It's easy to say \"eh I was gonna do this today, but I really don't feel like getting out of bed\"\n\nIt's much harder to do when you have someone else's expectations to meet. If the problem is getting out of bed, set plans for breakfast or a morning jog with someone, so you are expected to show. If the problem is being active, find a friend with a hobby. Maybe a friend like frisbee golf, for example. You might not be crazy about it, but if they love it, they're likely to accept plans on a weekly or more often basis! Go to a laundromat? Have shopping to do? Want to get a hobby? Invite a friend to go with you. Take a class for the hobby. Want to learn welding? Take a class. Want to learn to cook? Take a class. Can't afford a class? Find a friend who can cook and ask if you can cook with, and then for, them as a way to learn. \n\nAfter a few weeks once you're used to it, you won't be sitting around. And then you can be the friend making plans for a hobby and taking others along!\n\nAlso, set yourself guidelines for Internet. Maybe set a lock on the router for certain times of day so you have to do something else. It's amazing what we can do all day if we don't have a device to keep us occupied. \n\nHave fun!", "Make a schedule. Not 'do this at this time' but 'do this before i do this'. It will show you your priorities. Its on your will power to follow it.", "Lots of people say \"put the things you want to do on a to do list\" so you feel achievement once you've done them. The problem is that is easy to fart about on reddit in between tasks that you don't want to do. Make fun/relaxation stuff \n*a part of*\nthe list- that way it can be a reward to look forward to after you've done the stuff you're not motivated to do, and while you're doing it you can have a clear conscience and actually enjoy it.", "Live in the moment. Don't live in routines. Routines limit growth and learning. That is why you're stuck in a lazy routine. Your mind is not being stimulated because it keeps doing the same thing over and over again. The mind will always get lazy with any routine, good or bad, over time, so just stay away from them.", "Little but whatever. I'd say you just have to get into the right frame of mind. Don't put off doing things that need to be done. I once heard a motivational speaker say: \"If not now, then when?\" I think it's pretty much the same as Shia La Boeuf. \n\nTip from me just now: If you wake up early don't go back to sleep and have a lie in, get up and be productive.", "Listen to music that gets you pumped! I put on songs like \"Good Feeling\" \"A Light That Never Comes\" \"Applause\" and \"Can't Hold Us\" when I wanna get serious shit done!", "Just live your life 1% better each and every day. \nThis looks different for every person and every goal. Want to start working out? Start with just one push up each day. Want to lose weight? Try taking one less bite of food...\nBy starting so small, tweaking your lifestyle habits feel like less of a disruption. ", "Just do it. Seriously, when you think of doing something, just go. Of course it's difficult in the beginning and easy to say \"I'll work out in 30 minutes instead of now because I'm already comfortable and adjusted here,\" but after a while of instantaneous action, you'll become used to it and might even want to keep the momentum going. \n\nThis newly developed habit will affect various aspects of your life and you'll find yourself switching between tasks easily. Stop being passive and thinking/talking about how you should do something -- just perform. Unless you are physically incapable, you shouldn't let your mind impede you from doing what you think is best for yourself. It's all about being initiative, dedicated, and persistent... which are just mental qualities. ", "Just commenting from personal experience. A lot of my laziness (still am, but I am better than I was) came from mild depression. I noticed it mainly when I was really depressed. Getting out of bed was difficult, moving from the couch was difficult. Once I came out of the severe depression, I was able to get out of bed easier. But I still couldn't get motivated. I still have struggles with it, especially if I am under a lot of stress. But controlling depression really did help with \"being lazy\"", "It's all in the start if you start your day but sitting on the sofa and thinking 'I'll quickly check reddit' you're screwed. Likewise if you do this when you get home from work when you have stuff to do. \nThe first half an hour will set the pace for the rest of the evening/day.", "Is there a particular activity that seems to pretty much decide that the day is going to be lost?\n\nFor me, there are a couple video games I love to play, but I know that when I turn them on, I'm playing for 2-3 hours minimum. It has just proven impossible for me to turn them off sooner than that.\n\nSo I know, once I perform the action of turning the game on, that time is gone.\n\nIs there something you do that dictates that the day is gone? Maybe turning on the TV, or sitting in a spot on the couch, or something else?\n\nTry identifying something like that and then refuse to do it. It'll be hard most likely, but stopping that single action may save the day for you.", "Is it alright if I join in on this? I've been lazy for so long and i need to get pull myself away. I'll just comment on the 16th as well. ", "Invite someone over, to motivate you to tidy up. Schedule movement breaks 10 minutes every hour, get up and at least stretch. ", "Ignore everyone else on the internet stop reading all these comments and get the fuck out of your chair! Go now! pick up your room clean some laundry go outside and rake i don't care just get off Reddit.", "If you're really having trouble what I do is make really easy tasks. Something that is very easy to achieve. I've noticed if I do big leaps after getting in a lazy stream then it falls to pieces rather quickly. \n\n\nLike if I'm having trouble studying I just tell myself to study for 15 minutes every 45 minutes. At least I'm doing 15minutes versus not and then after awhile it gets easier to do longer segments. \n\nI'm pretty bad at doing regular exercise but I bike to my classes everyday as a compromise since it doesn't take any extra time/actually shortens the time of what I am normally doing. I also tell myself I'll do 15 squats before I shower. Something small. \n\nI either use lists, or I've used https://habitica.com/#/tasks in the past", "If you're going to rest, actually rest. Being on a laptop/gaming/TV isn't rest. I exercise after work before going home. It doesn't happen otherwise.", "If you like to think of your life as a game, and getting things done as adding experience points to your character, make an account on [](habitica.com) (or the HabitRPG app)!\nIt sets up your life as an RPG, you gain gold and experience points for checking things off on your to do list, and lose health if you fail to complete your daily tasks. You can then reward yourself with upgraded armour and weapons, or with customized rewards (ie 1 episode of your favourite show). Also, when you complete tasks, items sometimes drop, giving you pets/mounts/food to feed them.\nIt's changed my routines for the better, helping me exercise every day and get a bunch of random stuff done rather than game all day. It gives me the real life sense of accomplishment, as well as the excitement of levelling up/accomplishment feeling you get from games. There is also a questing portion of the site, where you can go battle monsters with friends, but I haven't participated in that yet so can't speak on it myself. Hope this helps!", "If you haven't recently had a complete psychical get one. Make sure are your various markers are within the expected range and you don't have some underlying medical issue.", "If you find yourself unable to change your routine on your own, perhaps external support may be an option? I.e. my routine is defined by my job. I have to get up and go to work whether I want to or not. If this isn't an option for you, how about volunteering?", "If you drink, wait until later to have your beer. Whenever I come home and crack one open immediately, I stay on the couch for the rest of the night. If I come home and start cleaning or something right away, I view the beer as an incentive to get shit done.", "If there are things that you want to do and things that you don't want to do (but need doing), then consider the things that you want to do as a reward for doing the things that you don't want to do. You can't watch that TV until you've done your jogging. Once you've gone out then it unlocks your right to go relax and watch an episode of your show.\n\nAfter a while of doing this it will become more natural to go out and you won't have to play the reward game anymore.", "If it something that you keep putting off, just do it for 5 minutes at least. You will get into a flow of work and want to get it done. Or you don't but you tried", "I've found what works best for me is having something to do early in the morning. It helps jumpstart my day. For instance, I'll work out around 6 am, shower, then do whatever I have planned for the day. The repetition makes it easier. After doing it for a few days you start to adjust to the schedule. \nEating well contributes to how much energy you have, cutting down on refined sugar and replacing sodas or juices with water will also have an impact. Going for a short walk after a meal may curb sleepiness/lethargy due to a spike in blood sugar. \nAnother thing that really improves my productivity is keeping the house clean. Making the bed every day, doing household chores like washing dishes or starting the laundry. The act itself gets you moving and being in a clean house does wonders for the mood. Limiting screen time can also help. \nI know people have mentioned lists already but I just want to add that I'm a list maniac (I make them for everything) but I've realized that some people benefit from keeping it very general while others need to have every minor task written out beforehand to keep themselves accountable. So I'd encourage you to experiment with it a little and see what works for you. \nI work from home myself so I understand how easy it is to slip into the lazy abyss and create bad habits. Best of luck to you!", "I've found two components stand out when trying to motivate myself to get up and do something.\n\n1. Sleep. Seriously, for me getting the right amount is critical to my energy levels and cognitive function. I frequently stay up too late, but I have found I handle life so much better when I'm not sleep deprived. I also have more motivation to do things like exercise. On the opposite side, sleeping for extended periods of time (11+ hours) really makes me feel groggy for the majority of the day. In other words, sleep health is a very important component in accomplishing things.\n\n2. Make the task mentally easier by just trying to accomplish one piece. I have a Siberian Husky that requires exercise everyday. I generally don't feel like going out, especially if I've had a busy day. So instead of thinking about the long walk/hike I'm about to take, instead I think, \"OK, I don't feel like doing this so I'm just gonna go up to the stop sign today (1/4 mile). Then we'll come back if I still don't feel like I want to do this.\" You know what? I always get to the stop sign and think, might as well keep going a little further, I'm already out here. \n\nI used to do this when trying to get started writing long papers. I'd say, \"I'm just gonna write one single page, just one page and then I'll go play video games or whatever.\" Well once I got got going and that one page done, I'd want to finish the thought I was writing about or I'd think there's something else I have an idea for writing about next so I'll just keep going while it's fresh on the mind. Bam, I've got 2 pages done now. And suddenly, I've got a good start on that paper and now I can go do whatever else!", "I've found that lack of motivation occurs when I push myself to do something, if you set things in your head that it's not something you have to do but instead something that is part of your week, like brushing your teeth or showering it changes the perspective. At least for me it did: going to the gym was just part of the week, its not something you have to do, but it's something that happens. Bit of my wisdom! Cheers", "I've found my fitbit helps me be aware of how lazy I'm being. It's recommended that one takes a minimum of 10000 steps a day. I work a desk job and struggle to get to 3000 steps before I'm off work, that's even with taking a walk at lunchtime. Getting an app or a watch that allows you to see how lazy you're being might be the motivation to compete against yourself and beat the prior days results.", "I've been in the same situation for the past year, my advice would be to get a steady job or something to emulate the schedule and workload of a steady job. It keeps you on schedule, and you quickly realize the value of each hour when you only have 2 at the end of each day. Personally, making appointments to do things with other people keeps me on schedule (work out, breakfast, errands) because I'd be letting someone else down by breaking that commitment.", "I'm gonna say avoid /r/GetMotivated \n\nIt's just vapid platitudes... the equivalent of telling someone with clinical depression to turn their frown upside down.", "I'd say the best bet would be to socialize with friends, or just go out and do something. Try something new. New things tend to break the daily routine. Change the position of your furniture in your room, or apartment. Make it somehow different. And remember, when you do a thing or two, you write it down or remember it. Remember that what rises your spirits, what elevates you, and what puts you down. Same with people. And just avoid things that make you feel bad, and do more stuff that makes you feel good. Keep this rule in your head and you'll be alright. ", "I'd like to chime in for anybody with an anxiety disorder or avoidant personality disorder like me. This is not always easy, don't beat yourself up if you can't apply this (or your own discovered(which you have!) ) helpful advice right now (really don't, this is hard, and often impossible). Take advantage of the good times, and try to limit the damage in the bad times by snuffing out negative thought progressions with a blank mind or distraction. When you are struggling be honest with yourself. And when you are better be kind to yourself and reinforce what you know is right. And if you can't do that that right now, don't worry. Don't even think about doing it later, just accept you can't fix this now and focus on material tasks. Rome wasn't built in a day, and this shit is tough. You can do this, in time.", "I would recommend a workout routine/diet change. After I started one the sense of accomplishment you get from exercise is great. A easy plan that combines an easy to follow diet is \"Fat Loss Factor\" by Marc Lobliner. \n\nAlso after falling into a lazy routine it is going to take work to push over the hump of being more productive. But you will feel much better after you get moving along in your new routine.", "I was one of the laziest people around. One day I just decided to stop and forced myself to do things. I'd set a goal (fitness,run less junk food) and just stop thinking about reasons not to. I'd just force myself to do it until doing that was just a normal part of my life.", "I was able to get out of the same thing simply by getting up in the morning, showering right away, getting dressed, making my bed, then doing ONE productive work-thing. It set the tone for the rest of my day. ", "I use the 5-15 minute rule. \"Im going to do X for 5 minutes\". That gets me started on a task or activity which is always the hardest part for me. ", "I understand your struggle. I too have issues with commitment to a routine, I work out 5 days a week and have for years but every couple months I lose interest and stop for a couple weeks, this kills my progress. The only motivating factor for me is women lmfao. So maybe find a woman that you care to impress ;). ", "I think you'd agree, the hardest part of doing something productive is starting. So, dont sit around and say, \"I'll jog this afternoon,\" or \"I'll clean after this episode.\" As soon as the idea pops in your head, do it. Don't give yourself the opportunity to talk yourself out of it.", "I structure my days (college student, so not universally applicable) in a hierarchy of importance. I.e. On friday I have classes 9-10, and 130-430, so I section off 8:45-10:15 and 1-5. \n\nThen the next important thing is waking up in the morning. So I decide 8-8:30 is for getting out of bed and ready for my day.\n\nThen meals, homework due the next day, gym and homework due later days. If you give them an actual time you will do it it makes it harder to just ignore them. When I say okay today I will do my math homework and go the gym, I end up on reddit and suddenly its too late and I miss the gym or stay up too late and sleep in or mess things up. This is really the same advice many others have given i.e. exact times and lists but **TL;DR: Structuring things by importance can help you prioritize, when paired with other techniques you can make things much more manageable**", "I spent all day yesterday mushing my brain on the internet and watching fargo. Afterwards I felt depressed and anxious, so today I'm trying to stay off the internet and not watch TV, but it just started raining 30 minutes ago and as you can tell I caved.", "I recently recognized that all my devices where really sucking the motivation out of me - it's easier to watch TV, check Faceboot and trawl Reddit than it is to get all the work I need to get done, write that song, paint or even complete dry admin tasks that are in my interest to be finished. I'd go from my phone to my laptop, phone to laptop, phone, laptop etc....drove me nuts. \n\nMost people tend to go with what is more readily gratifying, compared to something that requires input first, it's a bit of a flaw in how we're made (encouraged and manipulated these days). All the bullshit things you can do on a laptop trick your brain into feeling that it's doing something. It's just motion though. \n\nAnyway, I came here to say that positive things are good to have, like coffee with a friend in the morning, but it's also good in my opinion to level the playing field: block all the distracting sites on your laptop (I use leech block), and get an app to control the use of distracting apps on your phone, for example, I can no longer access faceboot on my phone AT ALL. I've set up a rule on my phone that blocks all superfluous apps (instagram, facebook, browsers etc) until 1pm and after that some of the mentioned apps have a set daily time limit. Kinda jolts you out of the malaise. \n", "I read on ELI5 about what stress is. My idea of it is probably not on point, but it seems stress is a physical reaction to being nervous. There are many things to be nervous about. Might it be that you are going to stand in front of a crowd, or simply that your exam is due soon, and you are afraid it will suck. The best way to get rid of the stress is to do the task. \n\nWith that mindset, thinking about how something is holding me down mentally like that, not only do I feel a sense of relief when a task is done. I feel like I conquered it. It's a simple way of implementing some motivation into my discipline, that when it all comes down to it, is the key to ridding yourself of a lazy routine.", "I read it takes 28 days to change a routine behavior. I'm not sure this helps but I've always reminded myself of this when I'm trying to change/start something new. ", "I often had the same problem, so I have 3 pieces of advice:\n\n1. Unplug your TV and block problem websites using a parental block or by changing the IP in your hosts file. A lot of time you may not want to watch TV, but you unconsciously grab the remote, or go to Reddit. Adding that extra step can make it easier to break those bad habits.\n\n2. Get dressed to go jog every morning or evening. I often find it easy to just tell myself, \"Get dressed and ready to go, then decide if you are up for a jog\" Sometimes I decide that I don't want to go jog, but I always find it easier to start when I am already ready to go when I make that decision.\n\n3. Consider how you feel. Sometimes depression can manifest and a lack of motivation. Sometimes anxiety can make a person avoid trying. Physical illness makes it difficult to do things, and you may not realize you are sick. I had undiagnosed narcolepsy for years and thought that I was just really lazy. I'm not saying you have any of these problems, but just consider whether or not you feel depressed, or anxious, or sick.\n\nFinally recognize that you are not the only one. Almost everyone on Earth struggles with motivation. If you are not motivated now, you might never be, but you don't have to let that stop you from being disciplined and hard working. ", "I know I am a bit late here but I will Share some advice that I have learned over the years about getting out of a lazy streak. \n\nMini goals! \n\nIf you have something in mind you would like to do, and cannot find the energy to do it or it just seems like an incredibly overwhelming task, do the task one little bit at a time to help manage the overwhelmingness of it.\n\nLet's take making coffee in the morning for example, if this task seems daunting and you would rather just sit and watch tv, then simply get up and put water into the coffee pot and sit back down. That's it. Then 5 minutes later get out the coffee from the pantry. Then later do more steps, \n\nThis is a good way to just \"start\" and can help you depart from laziness as a first step. You will find yourself eventually wanting to do more steps at a time and eventually youll do tasks that you would not do previously.\n", "I just had this image of a jungle, where habits are just old paths you made flat by doing things again and again. New habits are just high grass you have to step on, just like the old paths were. With time these new path will get easier and easier. You mostly have to step through a bunch of times to flatten things out and make it look like a viable path.", "I haven't read all the comments, so forgive me if I'm repeating someone, buuuuuuuut...\n\n...it sounds an awful lot like you're chemically depressed. A lot of the suggestions I read will help you (a lot! (if you take them seriously and practice them earnestly)) but please also consider enlisting the help of a psychiatrist who could suggest medication.", "I have trouble keeping structure sometimes because I run my own company with another guy. No one's really watching what I do in a day, and deadlines are mostly made by me. Sometimes I sit in the office for 11 hours, but only get 6 hours of real work done. \n\nMy solution? I like to write someone who won't mind (could be your mom, gf/bf, etc) an email that says what you did for every minute of the day while you're trying to get something done. Every time I get three or four things done, or every couple hours, I fire off the email and then keep responding to it.\n\nSo mine might look like this:\n\n1. 9:00-9:25 checked emails, responded to Jeff\n\n2. 9:25-10:50 called client, discussed video project\n[Sent]\n\n3. 10:50-11:00 Visited bathroom! Hurray! Warmed up coffee\n\n4. 11:00-11:15 Messed around on Reddit \n\n5. 11:15-12:00 Did bank reconciliation for November\n\n6. 12 - driving to lunch meeting with potential client. Dunno when it will be over!\n[Sent]\n\n7. 1:20 Back from meeting. Don't think I'll get this job. Oh well.\n\n8. 1:20-1:45 Find the logo for that soccer video\n\nEtc etc. ", "I have a friend, that when she wants to go to the gym in the morning, she will go to sleep in her clothes she wants to wear to the gym the night before. This way, she wakes up, and is nearly almost ready and will not have the task of getting ready holding her back. Sounded silly at first br also makes sense if at this point all you have left is to get out the door. ", "I find that fear is a good motivator. Try to imagine the worst case scenario if you don't do what you are supposed to do.", "I find that designating different roles for certain spots in my house helps me to stay on track. For example, my study table is \"work\" and I'm not allowed to do anything non-productive there (like Netflix) in case my brain associates that space with something other than work. My yoga mat is \"exercise\" so I'm not allowed to play with my phone or distract myself. Just little things like that.", "I find it helps to really try and develop a good habit. For example lets say you want to start reading, try to read just a couple pages a day until it is second nature. Maybe you want to learn an instrument, try and practice for 15 min a day. It is really easy to start doing things if you start slowly and build up. Never works when you jump head first into a new hobby. Eventually you can add new habits or expand the ones you really enjoy. Hope that helps!", "I don't want you to take it the wrong way; I was pretty much you minus the jogging like 6 months ago.\nWhat helped me out was getting a job. Seriously. Get a job. The motivation of fear of embarrassment or fear of being fired will kick your ass straight out of Lazyville. I still go on reddit at work, I still check youtube, but I get things done while I'm here. Now I'm working, back in school, and juggling it all while getting a solid 6-7 hours of sleep every night. I'm healthier, richer, and more motivated to get things done.\nA fulltime job will help you with goals, it will teach you to be proactive, and it will certainly teach you time management. All of those points of telling people that you'll do stuff, setting time tables, being in a habit...it's all part of having a job.", "I don't know your financial situation, but since you said \"all day\" ... getting a job is a good way to interact with people and acquire a sense of purpose. ", "I clicked this thread because I honestly need to be productive too. Seriously though, I can't bring myself to finish OP's post let alone read the responses. Just jumped in the comments section and there.\n\nI have an attention span of a goldfish.", "I can't recall if it has a specific name but there's a thing where if you make something more easily accessible (even if that means eliminating a small convenience) you are more likely to do it. \n\nLet's say you own a guitar and want to start playing it. Instead of keeping it packed inside of a case in your closet, leave it on a guitar stand a couple feet away from your computer desk. You'll be more inclined to play than if you had to take that extra 30 seconds to unpack it. ", "I am very efficient in what you want to achieve and I do all the points except of going out for lunch etc. That distracts me. First, I get stuff done and my fun stuff, then I do fun stuff like lunches. Also, what helps is to reduce number of decisions I have to make each day to minimum. Thiis means routines and preanswered questions. E.g. if somone asks me if i want to go out before I exercised, my answer is no, because exercise comes first. No exceptions. If I want to postpone my exercise, no, becuase exercise comes first. And just do it. I go throgh my list and don't stop till I am done. Over time I learned to make lists that I can achieve every day and feel good. Distractions like computer, TV, people etc. need to be eliminated. Bring to your life things and people that help you achieve what you want - run buddies etc. TV can go to garage etc. Processes foods are not foods and simply don't eat them, if you like to have tons of energy and not fatigue during the day. (I can go on and on all day long and never get tired, and I belive it is because of my super clean diet.).. Anyways, you have all the tools and you can succeed. Can't wait to hear your follow up in couple of weeks. Ps. focus on crating a routine (over getting a lot done) that is fun and good for you especially at first. Remember this is life long game, so steady and surely set your self up for long and rewarding life with the best version of you in it. When I go for a longer run, and I feel slow and not at my best, I joke 'like a terminator' steady but without stopping.. :) and you surely get there. ", "I am a freelancer and make my own job and unfortunately I am one of the worst procrastinators I know so I have this same problem. One thing I always tell myself that actually helps a little bit is \"Everything in my life will be better if I just get this done now.\" Works better for me than \"just do it\" etc. ", "Honestly, I am in the same boat as you but I've found that getting more sunlight has helped me heaps. Not sure how but I'm not complaining. ", "Hey, one thing that helps me is to have someone to keep you accountable. Someone to jog with. Someone to call and talk about/encourage each other. ", "Here's the thing. And I say this hypocritically as someone who is studying for an exam tomorrow, so take with a grain of salt :).\n\nIf you're serious about getting on a tightly knit schedule, you have to maintain the right mindset and avoid any *opportunity* for you to do screw around. Your willpower is finite and in studies has been shown to deplete over the course of the day. Not only that, certain routines lend to breaking that fragile willpower more easily. Now currently I'm trying to \"reset\" myself, but there was a time when I was just *in the groove*. At every moment of the day, whatever I was doing for the most part was self-improving:\n\n- I'd have a pre-planned meals today, hitting my protein goals. Everything was healthy and researched to maximize the health of my brain (adequate B-vitamins, antioxidants, fatty-acids). \n\n- If I was on the toilet, I'd be working on brain puzzles or reading (anything from spanish children's books for practice to english composition books).\n\n- When showering I'd (carefully) be doing my stretches. Bonus tip: always start your day off with a shower and **as if you were going into your work**. That means dressing the same as well. I can't tell you how motivating it is to be fully dressed and *ready to go* by tackling the day well-dressed and with the rising of the sun than rolling out of bed in your gutchies. \n\n- I had a *very* rigid schedule. I had a music playlist that I'd play every day following the same pattern. When on shuffle, I practically *knew* the algorithm of the randomizer that I'd know what song was coming next. I learned math, worked on 3D modeling, learned programming, learned to draw half-decently, recorded music, wrote stories (probably very bad) spanning 30,000 words+. I was running farther than I've ever run in my life (6 miles). \n\n- No interruptions. At all. Not girlfriends/fiancees/wives, bros, phone-calls, news, reddit, etc. I lived by *Work before play*. It made me feel productive and happy with myself—not regretful and self-deprecating. I tried to ensure that I had a cut-off time at the end of the day where if I wanted to do something, I could do it then. But it was *out of the question* earlier in the day.\n\n- When running I'd listen to music or an audio-book or the news to stay in the loop.\n\n- Keep not only a schedule and list of things to do, but separately log what you actually accomplished and *summarize* the activities you did at the end of your day. It helps cement the activities in your mind and sort of pats yourself on the back. At the same time, it forces you confront your mistakes and procrastination if you didn't really accomplish a whole lot. My schedule and plans for the day was followed as closely as appointments for work or school. I'd use a stop-watch or timer to log my activities and summarize what I did. \n\nAlways do the things you *least* want to do first during the day. Doing this sets yourself up for looking forward to every other point of the day while at the same time appreciating what you've accomplished earlier. \n\nWhen possible, split passive activities up with active activities throughout your schedule. You slept, now wake up and go for a quick bike ride or do some stretches. Do your passive reading or studying. Next do your exercise routine to reset your brain (countless scientific studies pointing to our brain and concentration relying on exercise activity). Just keep alternating and splitting your day up. \n\nLive by:\n\n- Work before play (like the adage, \"don't spoil your appetite by eating your desserts first.\")\n- Tomorrow starts Today\n- Lists & Logs (What you plan to do (make it a daily habit when possible) and what you've actually).\n- Always respond to the inner-voice that is telling you what you **need** to do, never what you **want** to do.\n- Look at it as a challenge—like a game. Remind yourself how well you'll feel about yourself if you do this. How much you'll improve. Constantly tell yourself, *I can do that*.\n- Passive/Active activities\n- Ensure you get good sleep. Do whatever it takes. Go to sleep the same time every night and wake up at the same time. Every. Day.\n\n", "Here's my top tip for motivation, it's 100% fool-proof for me. You need to find something your interested in and the motivation to get better at it will come naturally.\n\nThere is no better motivator than doing something you enjoy and becoming the best you can be at it. If you need some inspiration for things subscribe to some new sub reddish, read some books, listen to some podcasts, or shoot me a note and Ill tell you some things I really enjoy.", "Have a read of this. It's one of the best comments i've read on /r/GetMotivated.. great advice!\n\nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/getdisciplined/comments/1q96b5/i_just_dont_care_about_myself/cdah4af\n\n", "Habit > Motivation.\n\nA person's willpower per day is limited so if something must be done based on motivation it will be inconsistent, but if you make something a habit then that thing becomes effortless.\n\nFocus on one to two thing at a time that gives you the biggest impact, mine was going to the gym in the morning and following my eating plan (mornings, because I have less excuses than going after a long day of work). Nothing else matters for the next 7 weeks. That's how long it takes to create a habit. Download the app, 7 Weeks, or any habit tracker, complete at least 90% and reward yourself something good (but if your habit was to keep fit don't go and make the reward the best burger in town).", "Guys, guys, please let me do it this time. \n\nThis video I found is very motivational, you should check it out: https://youtu.be/ZXsQAXx_ao0", "Going to a military camp for some summers something that i brought home that helped me in a major way was making my bed. If you make your bed / clean your room first thing in the morning you start your day off with an accomplishment and throughout the day more accomplishments will follow. Also when you come home, you wont get that nagging thing in the back of your head telling you to clean up. Make your bed, Break the mold.", "Go deeper into the rabbit hole [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/GetMotivated/comments/1rowpb/i_made_a_wallpaper_from_uryans01s_amazing_quote/cdpe9j6) for the original comment paraphrasing from /u/ryans01 comment [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/getdisciplined/comments/1q96b5/i_just_dont_care_about_myself/cdah4af) that started a whole subreddit at /r/NoZeroDays:\n\n> Ouch. Sounds like you're having a tough time max. That sucks. I've been there, so I kinda know what you're talking about. I've been in the ever circling vortex of self doubt, frustration, and loathing. It's no bueno. I know. If you don't mind lemme tell you a couple things. You can read em if you want, read em again later if you feel like it. But honestly man, if I spend all this time typing this out to you and you don't let it be a little tinder for your fire, well, you're just letting us both down. And you don't HAVE to do that. You don't HAVE to do anything. But you get to choose.\n(Who am I? My name’s Ryan and I live in Canada. Just moved to a new city for a dream job that I got because of the rules below. I owe a lot of my success to people much cooler, kinder, more loving and greater than me. When I get the chance to maybe let a little bit of help out, it’s a way of thanking them. )\nRule numero uno - There are no more zero days. What's a zero day? A zero day is when you don't do a single fucking thing towards whatever dream or goal or want or whatever that you got going on. No more zeros. I'm not saying you gotta bust an essay out everyday, that's not the point. The point I'm trying to make is that you have to make yourself, promise yourself, that the new SYSTEM you live in is a NON-ZERO system. Didnt' do anything all fucking day and it's 11:58 PM? Write one sentence. One pushup. Read one page of that chapter. One. Because one is non zero. You feel me? When you're in the super vortex of being bummed your pattern of behaviour is keeping the vortex goin, that's what you're used to. Turning into productivity ultimate master of the universe doesn't happen from the vortex. It happens from a massive string of CONSISTENT NON ZEROS. That's rule number one. Do not forget.\nLa deuxieme regle - yeah i learnt french. its a canadian thing. please excuse the lack of accent graves, but lemme get into rule number 2. BE GRATEFUL TO THE 3 YOU'S. Uh what? 3 me's? That sounds like mumbo jumbo bullshit. News flash, there are three you's homeslice. There's the past you, the present you, and the future you. If you wanna love someone and have someone love you back, you gotta learn to love yourself, and the 3 you's are the key. Be GRATEFUL to the past you for the positive things you've done. And do favours for the future you like you would for your best bro. Feeling like shit today? Stop a second, think of a good decision you made yesterday. Salad and tuna instead of Big Mac? THANK YOU YOUNGER ME. Was yesterday a nonzero day because you wrote 200 words (hey, that's all you could muster)? THANK YOU YOUNGER ME. Saved up some coin over time to buy that sweet thing you wanted? THANK YOU. Second part of the 3 me's is you gotta do your future self a favour, just like you would for your best fucking friend (no best friend? you do now. You got 2. It's future and past you). Tired as hell and can't get off reddit/videogames/interwebs? fuck you present self, this one's for future me, i'm gonna rock out p90x Ab Ripper X for 17 minutes. I'm doing this one for future me. Alarm clock goes off and bed is too comfy? fuck you present self, this one's for my best friend, the future me. I'm up and going for a 5 km run (or 25 meter run, it's gotta be non zero). MAKE SURE YOU THANK YOUR OLD SELF for rocking out at the end of every.single.thing. that makes your life better. The cycle of doing something for someone else (future you) and thanking someone for the good in your life (past you) is key to building gratitude and productivity. Do not doubt me. Over time you should spread the gratitude to others who help you on your path.\nRule number 3- don't worry i'm gonna too long didnt' read this bad boy at the bottom (get a pencil and piece of paper to write it down. seriously. you physically need to scratch marks on paper) FORGIVE YOURSELF. I mean it. Maybe you got all the know-how, money, ability, strength and talent to do whatever is you wanna do. But lets say you still didn't do it. Now you're giving yourself shit for not doing what you need to, to be who you want to. Heads up champion, being dissapointed in yourself causes you to be less productive. Tried your best to have a nonzero day yesterday and it failed? so what. I forgive you previous self. I forgive you. But today? Today is a nonzero masterpiece to the best of my ability for future self. This one's for you future homes. Forgiveness man, use it. I forgive you. Say it out loud.\nLast rule. Rule number 4, is the easiest and its three words. exercise and books. that's it. Pretty standard advice but when you exercise daily you actually get smarter. when you exercise you get high from endorphins (thanks body). when you exercise you clear your mind. when you exercise you are doing your future self a huge favour. Exercise is a leg on a three legged stool. Feel me? As for books, almost every fucking thing we've all ever thought of, or felt, or gone through, or wanted, or wanted to know how to do, or whatever, has been figured out by someone else. Get some books max. Post to reddit about not caring about yourself? Good first step! (nonzero day, thanks younger me for typing it out) You know what else you could do? Read 7 habits of highly successful people. Read \"emotional intelligence\". Read \"From good to great\". Read “thinking fast and slow”. Read books that will help you understand. Read the bodyweight fitness reddit and incorporate it into your workouts. (how's them pullups coming?) Reading is the fucking warp whistle from Super Mario 3. It gets you to the next level that much faster.\nThat’s about it man. There’s so much more when it comes to how to turn nonzero days into hugely nonzero days, but that’s not your mission right now. Your mission is nonzero and forgiveness and favours. You got 36 essays due in 24 minutes and its impossible to pull off? Your past self let you down big time, but hey… I forgive you. Do as much as you can in those 24 minutes and then move on.\nI hope I helped a little bit max. I could write about this forever, but I promised myself I would go do a 15 minute run while listening to A. Skillz Beats Working Vol. 3. Gotta jet. One last piece of advice though. Regardless of whether or not reading this for the first time helps make your day better, if you wake up tomorrow, and you can’t remember the 4 rules I just laid out, please, please. Read this again.\nHave an awesome fucking day ☺\ntldr; 1. Nonzero days as much as you can. 2. The three you’s, gratitude and favours. 3. Forgiveness 4. Exercise and books (which is a sneaky way of saying self improvement, both physical, emotional and mental)", "Get up early, grab coffee or a smoothy or whatever you want as long as it isn't terrible for you and then sit by yourself and think about your day. \n\nDon't look at your phone, the tv or the news. Think about what you want out of your life and what you can do today to move in the right direction.\n\nWrite down your goals. Look at the piece of paper every morning, lunch and night. Before bed reflect on your day, what you did well and what you need to improve on. ", "Get out of bed. \n\nThis sounds simple enough, but stop using your snooze button. If you set an alarm, think hard about it the night before, and decide what time you want to get up. Then shut the alarm off and stand up. I found myself being the most lazy when I won't actually get out of bed.", "For the past years of my life I have been extremely lazy and not motivated. I realized that the only thing that will always motivate me is the fear of failure. Once I identified that the path I was on led to a shitty adult life, I organized everything and now run by my calendars and three to-do lists with times reminders. I have a Today list, a This week list and a Soon list. Every morning I have a reminder that tells me to fill out my list for the day, moving items from This Week to Today and Soon to This Week. And as soon as I think of something I want or have to do I write it on one of the lists.", "For me, the biggest thing was finding something I actually REALLY liked to do. I've been a computer potato for my entire life and I've tried so many times to get motivated to do things. I tried spin class, I tried walking, I tried sports, etc. etc. But nothing stuck, nothing ever interested me enough to want to keep going. Then I found rock climbing, I LOVE it. It doesn't feel like I \"have\" to get up and do this stupid thing, it doesn't feel like I'm forcing myself to do it, it's something I really want to go and do! That's what helped me the most. :)", "For me, it's all about two things:\n\n* Wearing pants\n* Eating eggs.\n\nI work from home and dressing like I'm actually going OUT to work, and interacting with other people makes the difference between being lazy and getting ISH DONE!\n\nAlso, you know... eggs. Gotta eat eggs", "For me, acknowledging the purpose behind the activity is important. For instance, if I want to eat a healthy breakfast, really imagining what's happening in my body when I do vs when I don't is helpful. This isn't a quick thing to do - it definitely requires a big shift in thinking, but you can practice it lots of little times in the day. I'm not a punctual person, but identifying WHY I do want to be punctual (be perceived as reliable; not feel guilty) makes me put forth more effort.", "First you have to define what's not being lazy, or what it means to be productive. You're on your laptop or watching tv all day because you don't care enough to come up with something you'd rather be doing instead. You can't be generic and just want to \"not be lazy anymore.\" If you don't have any hobbies, projects, or activities you want to try out or participate in, you're always going to have down time. And in that down time you will do whatever is easiest to waste time. \n\nIf you live in a messy place and are disgusted with yourself. Make the time, ie schedule in time, to clean up at a set schedule. Dishes ever two days. Garbage every Thursday. Bathroom every Sunday. Vacuum every two weeks. Laundry on Mondays. Just don't clean everything on one day. You're gonna hate that day and keep putting off cleaning day. \nIf you want to get in shape. Put your running shoes and clothes on your computer chair. And every time you come home from work, change into them and leave immediately to run. Don't lounge around for a bit. Don't check reddit for a second. Don't get a quick snack. Even better, if you have a gym membership, go directly there after work without going home.\n\nUnderstand your lazy tendencies. What will make you lazier and not want to be productive? You hate yourself after spending all day on the computer and tv? Make it more difficult for you to use. Move them to more inaccessible areas. Take the laptop/tv out of your bedroom. Unplug the router after each use. Unplug your desktop and physically put it in your closet when you're done with it at night. Doing this is just physical reminders for yourself that you are making an effort to reduce usage. Each time you set it back up, you have to make a decision and the effort to do so. It sounds ridiculous to some to have to go through so much trouble..but hey you gotta do what you gotta do when you know things aren't going to change so easily for you.", "Find something you like doing. Jogging is not the only alternative to sitting on the computer. Exercise is important... but there are other things in life as well. ", "Find someone else to motivate. I hate running but I can absolutely force my fiance to running no matter the weather, and then I go along. ", "Find other people to do stuff with, whether it is a formal group or just a random group of friends. It is a lot easier to make yourself do something if other people are relying on you as well ", "Find an active hobby that interests you. I find running difficult and tiresome, but I love bicycling. Fishing and shooting are fun, so is swimming, skating, skiing etc. What's convenient in your area?", "Find a buddy to do something with. Make a date and keep it. No one likes to let down their buddies. \n\nI was in an awful rut for a long time, and got out of it by making a regular date to play squash at 9am twice a week. After squash I'm already up and out of the house, so getting to work is much easier. And if I fuck that up, hey, at least I played squash. ", "Eliminate sources of distraction, create a checklist then force yourself to obey the checklist, once you get over the initial curve youll realize how awesome it is to accomplish something you set for yourself, rinse then repeat ", "Dude, you need to do two things. TWO THINGS and this will all change: \n1. Go to a gym. Buy a workout book with a routine - it will show you what exercises to do, etc. I did \"Workout Bible For Men\". Go to this gym 5-6 days a week. \n2. Join a class. any class. Book club, spanish class, running club, improv class, anything. \nWorking out will inspire you to get results and motivate you. You will eventually love the way you look and feel and you will not want to compromise it (ie sitting around all day. Plus youll feel better about yourself. Meet more people, etc. Many benefits) \nJoining a club or class will help meet people with shared interests. New friends. Sounds like you need to mix up your feng shui a little bit. \nGet on it!!", "Dude, i have the exact same problem. Been using this free app called **fabulous** on the android app store. I've tried a few of these motivational apps before but this one is the first that seems to work. You might wanna give it a shot guy.", "Don't wait for motivation to strike. Make yourself do the things you want and need to do. I struggle with this too, and brute force is how I make myself get so many things done each day haha", "Don't do it alone! Plan activities with more active friends (if you have none, join interest groups to make some). It gives you an important layer of accountability. ", "Do you have chores that you're putting off, or you'd just like to get out and do something different?\n\nIf it's chores, I find putting music on helps, oddly enough. I'll put my music on so that I have something to enjoy while doing the dishes, cleaning, etc, and once I start doing the task I end up wanting to finish it and keep doing other chores. The music just kind of helps make starting to do them easier", "Do things for other people. You will find it harder to be lazy if people are depending on you. For example, tell a relative you'll do something and give a specific date-- example: mom, I'm gonna come over and rake the yard Thursday.", "Do it!\nJust...do it!\n\nDon't let your dreams be dreams.\nYesterday you said tomorrow...\nSo just DO IT!\nMake your dreams come true.\nJust do it!\n\nSome people dream of success.\nWhile you're gonna wake up and work hard at it!\nNothing is impossible!\n\nYou should get to the point\nWhere anyone else would quit\nAnd you're not going to stop there.\nNo, what are you waiting for?\n\nDo it\nJust do it!\nYes you can!\nJust do it!\nIf you're tired of starting over,\nStop giving up!", "Depending on how committed you are to the cause, and how mobile you are, consider joining the Army (or other service). It completely turned me around. I had only two years of college cr", "Crazy idea: try positive reinforcement. Praise yourself when you succeed. Forgive yourself when you don't. That's the opposite of what a lot of us do by habit, but if you punish yourself every time you don't do something, your brain isn't stupid. It's going to start anticipating punishment in advance. It'll start to dread the time coming when that 'something' is supposed to happen again. Then starts to associate that negative feeling with the activity itself. And then you're surprised when you sit there telling yourself over and over what a bad/useless/lazy/broken person you are for not having done it yet, and can't seem to scrape up the energy to actually get up and do it. Be happy with what you have done so far. Don't promise \"better\" in the future (setting up expectations means obligation, obligation means fearing the consequences of not following through, not following through means yup, in comes the bad thoughts again to make sure you REALLY hate thinking about the thing you started out wanting to do MORE of!), just say \"I would like to do ___ today.\" If you do it, say \"I did ___ today, go me! I'm awesome.\" If you didn't do it, say \"I didn't get ___ in today, but that's okay.\"", "Completely accept your watching TV/laptop. Don't judge it as 'lazy'. As soon as you think a negative thought or feel a negative feeling, just notice that you did. Don't get into it; don't go off on a negative thought/feeling tangent (if you do just notice that you are, don't judge it)\n\nRelax and enjoy the TV as much as you can. \n\nSome people can't really enjoy passive entertainment because they criticize themselves for not working. The negative feeling produced by the criticism demotivates them, so they continue watching TV.\n\nThe negative feeling/thoughts just spiral downward, resulting in compulsive passivity.\n\n\"I suck for sitting here, there's no point in making an effort since I suck, I will try to escape the 'I suck for sitting here' feeling by distracting myself with TV, I suck for watching TV...\"\n\nAs you see, it's a neverending whirlpool of negativity.", "Clean your room/study/workspace. You'll be able to get a lot more done if the place you do your work in isn't a shit hole. You'll also find some cool stuff you forgot about. Every time I clean my room I find some item associated with a good memory that sometimes prompts me to reconnect with old friends.\n\nIf you're feeling too lazy to clean your space, go out, buy a Red Bull, chug that, and then clean your space.", "Check out r/NonZeroDay I found it a few days ago, and it's a great community to keep you going and do something every day (hence the non zero day).", "Change your routine, drive a different route to and from work, shop in a different part of town, rearrange all you furniture, make everyday things new.", "Carry a pen and a small notepad or notebook with you at all times. Force yourself to go somewhere that isn't your house, even if it's the park or to a coffee shop and all you do is sit there.\n\nLeave your phone in your car, and wear a watch to keep the time.\n\nStay out for at least an hour. Write down every new thought you have on the piece of paper. After the hour is over, read the list of thoughts and see if there is anything you can do on the list IMMEDIATELY. Do it.\n\nIf you're at your house, you're safe from new thoughts. You won't leave your comfort zone. You need to be OUT and away for extended periods of time.", "Can someone link the video of the admirable talking about making your bed. \n\nThat would be good enough ", "Building momentum. Start with something, anything really. Preferably something small and easy to finish. Then use the satisfaction from getting something done to tackle another thing. Rinse and repeat. After a short while you'll build enough momentum to carry you through the day.\n\nThere is no magic switch though. You'll have to start anew every single day.", "Brush your teeth, clean your room. Really believe you can do it. Then set your goals. Like immediate goals. What are you going to do tomorrow? What are you going to do for the rest of the day? ", "Be resolute in taking action on thoughts. Don't think - You've already thought enough and have decided to change. When an issue comes to mind you should address it immediately with action. \n\n\n**\"Damn this kitchen is a mess...\"**\n\nThen come the excuses. \"I just came in for some tea and I'm about to play video games... I should get around to cleaning this area.\" 30 seconds later it's out of your mind and you're a couch potato. Just clean the shit. Draw some water to soak those nasty dishes, throw some soap on a sponge and get crackin. \n\n\n**\"Trash everywhere...\"** \n\nGrab a bag and fill it with articles of trash lying around your sloppy room and rest it in front of your door. On your next trip to GameMart grab those bags and walk them outside to a trash bin. \n\n\nConsider how happier you will be when you play your game because you earned it. So yeah, you may still have laundry and shit but whatever. If you get into the habit of processing your shame in chunks you end up absolving yourself of the rut that shamed you to begin with.\n\n**Your brain is hardware that runs consciousness software. Everyone has the ability to reprogram their behavior. Actualize the Self you envision.**\n\n", "Be consistent above all. Set small goals and consistently complete them. After a week or two of consistency, increase those goals. Don't ever put yourself down. Be good to yourself, be your own strength and encouragement. Relish on the fact that after you meet your goals, it actually enhances your rec time as it feels so much more rewarding. Good luck!", "Avoid the small things causing the laziness. For example, my problem was that I was distracting myself by checking FB and Reddit every other 5 minutes. After I stopped doing that I became a lot more efficient person. You can use some browser apps that limit the time you can access specific sites. This worked for me. ", "Another my motivation that about always works is to imagine 1) how will I feel if I do something NOW vs. if I don't in let's say 2 hours or at the end of the day 2) and from all options that I have right now which one do I want to take - which person do I want to be/become. ", "All of these things sound like great ideas of places to start and you should try all of these things. However, do you feel just that you have a lazy routine, or do you feel like you have had problems with your mood, such as feeling \"down in the dumps\", \"blue\", hopeless, or worthless? The reason I ask is because one of the symptoms of depression is poor motivation and loss of interest in activities a person used to find interesting. If this is the case, see your physician about starting treatment for depression. ", "A routine is just a buildup of individual actions that has gained momentum. \n\nSo in order to change the routine, you need to change the actions.\n\nFor me, when I'm overwhelmed with the idea of doing productive things (cleaning, work, whatever)- \nright when I get the thought, I promise myself I only have to do a little. For cleaning, I only have to put two shirts in the hamper, only have to write one sentence of a paper, etc. \n\nAfter putting two shirts away or what have you, I generally develop momentum and end up working a lot more than I originally expected. \n\nAfter that, it only takes (for me) five days of doing this to develop a habit, or at the very least a desire, to do more work. \n\nBest of luck!", "A lot of people are suggesting to \"just do it\" which seems to me like it would cause a hangup, unless you're already comfortable in some way and can \"get into it\" almost automatically every time. I.e. when it isn't a total hassle and where are my keys, I don't even know where my pants are, shouldn't I be organizing my TPS report covers now anyway, fuck it I'll do it when this show is over or something.\n\nHave you instead thought of thinking about what you want to do, the aspects of it that you can think of, such as whether you like the activity, why you want to do it, what approximately is involved in the activity you want to do, how long you think it is going to take, are there risks involved and anything you can think of.\n\nThe thought doesn't need to be detailed and you don't have to give words to everything you think about it, but being mindful of what effects the activity has, your attitude to it and what physically is involved in carrying it out might give you reasons to actually commit to an activity at a time when you otherwise would probably pass.", "A great tactic is saying to yourself \"I'll just do ten minutes\" so you don't feel overburdened at the idea, and just go do it. What usually ends up happening is you rush to finish it quickly in ten minutes, and it's done, and then you think \"that was easy, I'll do another task in ten minutes\" and then you're in a productivity roll! \n\nor, you end up wanting to do the thing for longer than ten minutes , getting things done, win win!\n\n\nAnother good thing to say to yourself \"what can I do about X task right now\" even if it's the smallest thing, just getting that step done, helps not make a mountain out of a molehill. ", ">Not necessarily a routine but do the same thing as soon as you wake up every day. Putting on some shoes, having breakfast as soon as you wake up etc.\n\nSounds really depressing and boring imo lol ", ">Lists are probably the most common in the comments. Crossing off things that you've done gives a small sense of achievement i guess.\n\nIf that isn't enough, put your list on post it notes, one to an item. Then make three areas: to do, doing, and done. That way you get rewarded for starting too.\n\nStarting is the hard part. Usually if you start a task, you'll finish it.\n\nAnd at the end of the day, you can remove all the notes from the done area and see how much you've accomplished.", ":/ Honestly, talking about it on here has really helped me. I'm really surprised with the amount of support I've been getting just from one post. Would you want to talk about it?", "2 minute rule. If you're putting off doing something just say do yourself I'll just do it for *just* two minutes, you usually get engrossed in the task for a lot longer without realising.\n\ne.g\nI'll just do two minutes of cleaning/running/writing etc. It's usually just enough to get you started on the task which you will then eventually complete if you become engrossed enough.", "/r/nonzeroday. Take it step by step until you're back in action, as long as you keep building momentum you're making progress.", "* 1. Have a cold shower once a day. (I have one before I go to bed) It gives me energy.\n* 2. Deep breathing exercises when you wake up. it goes great before you have a cold shower and while you are in the shower. A lot of energy.\n* 3. Practice not thinking. Literally, it is difficult. When you find yourself no longer thinking, you can handle your emotions, live more freely, and have a clearer sharper mind. Thinking is mainly useless decision making and reminiscing into your life story of what you lost or don't have. Thinking can be very limiting to our mind. Keep it simple.\n\nI got my self out of a deep depression, anxiety, stress. So I can't help but claim I know how to get out of it and never go back. I slipped into a depression because I lost what it meant to be alive, I was too caught up in trying to be somebody and achieve, when I have all I will ever need.", "'When problems overwhelm us and sadness smothers us, where do we find the will and the courage to continue? Well, the answer may come in the caring voice of a friend, a chance encounter with a book, or from a personal faith. For Janet help came from her faith, but it also from a squirrel. Shortly after her divorce, Janet lost her father, then she lost her job. She had mounting money problems. But Janet not only survived, she worked her way out of despondency and now she says, life is good again. How could this happen? She told me that late one Autumn day when she was at her lowest she watched a squirrel storing up nuts for the winter, one at a time he would take them to the nest. And she thought, if that squirrel can take care of himself with the harsh winter coming along, then so can I. Once I broke my problems into small pieces I was able to carry them, just like those acorns, one at a time.'\n\n- The White Stripes\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oOS00ttAblQ", "\"Someone said telling someone you'll do something and an exact time to get it done by can help you get more motivated so ...\"\n\nDO NOT, repeat do not, let them congratulate you or complement you for simply saying you'll do something. Studies show that being thanked before you do something massively saps motivation and decreases success rates.", "\"Schedule your priorities, don't prioritize your schedule.\"\n\nFor me that meant making sure that the most important thing was the very first thing I did in the day. Whether it was working out or moving one of life's big rocks -- if you do it first, then you can totally f*** up the rest of the day and you'll still be happy with yourself. ", " I have found myself in slumps before in the past, but for the past few years I simply try to keep myself so busy that there really doesn't feel like there's any time in my day where I'm sitting there on the couch wondering what to do. It's all about momentum. Once you have hit he gym, for example, for a month, it starts to be so habitual (for me at least) that when I skip a day, I feel like complete and utter shit. It's that month mark for me, anyways. Find new hobbies, and focus on developing yourself. Think about things you want to be, or where you want to be. I go to school, work 50 hours a week, have two dogs, workout everyday, and just began to teach myself guitar. I go to bed everyday exhausted, but happy. Eventually after picking stuff up, and doing so much all the time you'll never even want to just sit there. It'll make you feel like you're wasting time. I don't know if this was helpful or not. Feel like I just talked about myself, and didn't really answer your question. Good luck! " ]

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[ "How much should I pay my neighbor to work on my car? My neighbor is going to change my strut mounts for me. How much cash should I give him? Assuming it'll take 2-3 hours.", "How much should I pay my neighbor to work on my car? My neighbor is going to change my strut mounts for me. How much cash should I give him? Assuming it'll take 2-3 hours.", "How much should I pay my neighbor to work on my car? My neighbor is going to change my strut mounts for me. How much cash should I give him? Assuming it'll take 2-3 hours.", "How much should I pay my neighbor to work on my car? My neighbor is going to change my strut mounts for me. How much cash should I give him? Assuming it'll take 2-3 hours." ]

[ "Anywhere from 80-120$. Considerimg most high end shops have a door rate of over a 100$/hour. This could easily be 300$+ job in labour. ", "$50-$100 is reasonable. Figure that $50 is untaxed....they're making a good amount hourly. \n\nWe work on each other's cars for beer and pizza (or a round of golf). It's nice having technically sound neighbors and friends. ", "You shouldn't. You should pay a professional with experience, the proper tools and a healthy respect for the liability they are exposed to by working on your car. If your neighbor qualifies then you should pay him %75-%80 of what a shop would charge in your area. Does your insurance cover his mistake? does he have insurance? Is it worth saving a few bucks if it ruins the nieghborship? How well do you know each other?", "Better yet, don't use a friend/family member/neighbor to do your auto repair. \n\nWhat if they delay, break something, do a crappy job or try to rip you off? See how quickly your relationship tanks after they do a piss poor job, and try to charge you to fix it. Have fun living next to them now. " ]

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[ " I currently work as a support tech and have a bit of a weird schedule. I work Monday-Friday from about 9am-1pm, then I am on-call until 6pm. I need to be able to drop everything and leave instantly until 6, so instead of using my time to be productive I sit on Reddit or play video games. What types of things can I do to be productive during that time, rather than wasting it doing nothing? Thanks!", " I currently work as a support tech and have a bit of a weird schedule. I work Monday-Friday from about 9am-1pm, then I am on-call until 6pm. I need to be able to drop everything and leave instantly until 6, so instead of using my time to be productive I sit on Reddit or play video games. What types of things can I do to be productive during that time, rather than wasting it doing nothing? Thanks!", " I currently work as a support tech and have a bit of a weird schedule. I work Monday-Friday from about 9am-1pm, then I am on-call until 6pm. I need to be able to drop everything and leave instantly until 6, so instead of using my time to be productive I sit on Reddit or play video games. What types of things can I do to be productive during that time, rather than wasting it doing nothing? Thanks!", " I currently work as a support tech and have a bit of a weird schedule. I work Monday-Friday from about 9am-1pm, then I am on-call until 6pm. I need to be able to drop everything and leave instantly until 6, so instead of using my time to be productive I sit on Reddit or play video games. What types of things can I do to be productive during that time, rather than wasting it doing nothing? Thanks!", " I currently work as a support tech and have a bit of a weird schedule. I work Monday-Friday from about 9am-1pm, then I am on-call until 6pm. I need to be able to drop everything and leave instantly until 6, so instead of using my time to be productive I sit on Reddit or play video games. What types of things can I do to be productive during that time, rather than wasting it doing nothing? Thanks!", " I currently work as a support tech and have a bit of a weird schedule. I work Monday-Friday from about 9am-1pm, then I am on-call until 6pm. I need to be able to drop everything and leave instantly until 6, so instead of using my time to be productive I sit on Reddit or play video games. What types of things can I do to be productive during that time, rather than wasting it doing nothing? Thanks!", " I currently work as a support tech and have a bit of a weird schedule. I work Monday-Friday from about 9am-1pm, then I am on-call until 6pm. I need to be able to drop everything and leave instantly until 6, so instead of using my time to be productive I sit on Reddit or play video games. What types of things can I do to be productive during that time, rather than wasting it doing nothing? Thanks!", " I currently work as a support tech and have a bit of a weird schedule. I work Monday-Friday from about 9am-1pm, then I am on-call until 6pm. I need to be able to drop everything and leave instantly until 6, so instead of using my time to be productive I sit on Reddit or play video games. What types of things can I do to be productive during that time, rather than wasting it doing nothing? Thanks!" ]

[ "If you are interested in programming - codecademy.com is what I do. I went to school for computer science and that site is a better teacher than a formal education. ", "I work 8-5 Mon-Fri and I'm on call 24hr fri-fri every other week. Most productive thing I've gotten into is reading more often", "Watch movies and anime. If you gotta go, just pause it. And over time, you'll be able to make clever references to all sorts of movies and people will think you're witty.", "Then pick up some hobbies. Arts and crafts are always fun. I'm really into sewing at the moment, so I do recommend that.", "The very reason I would quit a job before being \"on-call\" (Unless they're paying me to be on call). That whole \"drop everything you're doing the second I say so\" is bullshit. When I'm not on the clock, don't tell me what to do. \n\nThere's no way you can really be productive. Find a better job bro", "It might depend on how \"on call\" you are - are you expected to be able to drop everything and speak to people straight away? You could be tied to a computer then, in which case online courses would be the way to go. If you can leave and keep checking messages / emails I would do work around the house as you go but do it in short bursts. You can clean a room at a time, or start some cooking going, or even do some gardening - as long as you go back and check your computer every few minutes or when you reach a natural break. ", "I do most of my house cleaning and laundry and such while I'm on call. I don't really have to go anywhere though. I am able to just remote in, but it's hard to get out and do much. I also do large house projects while on call because i can just stop what I'm working on, fix the work issue, and go back. I kind of use being on call as an excuse to get some projects completed. That frees up my time when I'm not on call to actually spend with my family. ", "Ever consider doing small burst of exercises? Like crunch out a few push ups, sit ups, and maybe go for a walk w/ ur cell phone on your body?" ]

[ 7, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to wake up in the morning I am an incredibly deep sleeper. I want to be able to wake up at the same time every morning, but my half conscious mind continually foils me. I usually turn my alarms off without waking up. In my half conscious mind, I have convinced myself that I am in another time zone so it's okay to keep sleeping. One morning I held a vote with all my various personalities (???) to decide who had to go take the shower. Surprisingly, the burly lumberjack who drew the short straw (I am a female... ?) failed to hold up his end of the deal. \n\nI need to fully wake up before I can turn my alarms off.\n\nWhat I have tried:\n- Multiple alarms\n- Various iphone apps which are easily disarmed.\n- Alarms on the other side of the room\n- An alarm in a plastic ziploc bag (the first morning I shook it for quite a while because I thought I was opening a noisy package of pez candy. The second morning I immediately opened it and went back to sleep.)\n- The alarm in a bird cage I bought with wires too close together for my fingers to poke through, with a combo lock on the door with the combo taped to the wall in a different room. This worked for a few mornings until I became a sleepy wizard at combo locks.", "How to wake up in the morning I am an incredibly deep sleeper. I want to be able to wake up at the same time every morning, but my half conscious mind continually foils me. I usually turn my alarms off without waking up. In my half conscious mind, I have convinced myself that I am in another time zone so it's okay to keep sleeping. One morning I held a vote with all my various personalities (???) to decide who had to go take the shower. Surprisingly, the burly lumberjack who drew the short straw (I am a female... ?) failed to hold up his end of the deal. \n\nI need to fully wake up before I can turn my alarms off.\n\nWhat I have tried:\n- Multiple alarms\n- Various iphone apps which are easily disarmed.\n- Alarms on the other side of the room\n- An alarm in a plastic ziploc bag (the first morning I shook it for quite a while because I thought I was opening a noisy package of pez candy. The second morning I immediately opened it and went back to sleep.)\n- The alarm in a bird cage I bought with wires too close together for my fingers to poke through, with a combo lock on the door with the combo taped to the wall in a different room. This worked for a few mornings until I became a sleepy wizard at combo locks.", "How to wake up in the morning I am an incredibly deep sleeper. I want to be able to wake up at the same time every morning, but my half conscious mind continually foils me. I usually turn my alarms off without waking up. In my half conscious mind, I have convinced myself that I am in another time zone so it's okay to keep sleeping. One morning I held a vote with all my various personalities (???) to decide who had to go take the shower. Surprisingly, the burly lumberjack who drew the short straw (I am a female... ?) failed to hold up his end of the deal. \n\nI need to fully wake up before I can turn my alarms off.\n\nWhat I have tried:\n- Multiple alarms\n- Various iphone apps which are easily disarmed.\n- Alarms on the other side of the room\n- An alarm in a plastic ziploc bag (the first morning I shook it for quite a while because I thought I was opening a noisy package of pez candy. The second morning I immediately opened it and went back to sleep.)\n- The alarm in a bird cage I bought with wires too close together for my fingers to poke through, with a combo lock on the door with the combo taped to the wall in a different room. This worked for a few mornings until I became a sleepy wizard at combo locks." ]

[ "From the description you provide, it seems like your problem is not a simple lack of a robust or clever enough alarm system. Getting that lumberjack business sorted out should probably be a priority. Bottom line is if you want to wake up at a consistent time, you must go to sleep at a consistent time. \n\nBefore bed relax and have a plan of why you want to wake up in the morning, have purpose! Use m", "I've found that making sure your sleep time evenly divides by 1.5 hours, making sure to assume a half hour to fall asleep. Then, it falls in that magical place in your sleep cycle so you feel rested when you wake up.", "maybe you're not getting enough sleep?\nwhat happens on days you don't use an alarm?\nmaybe you naturally need N hours of sleep, and you've been trying to get by on less?" ]

[ 6, 2, 1 ]

[ "a method to unstick a group of tortillas. I hate pulling a tortilla off a pile only to see it rip or start to. Then I try the other side and it's worse. How do I make the pile not sticky? There's got to be a better way! Help please.", "a method to unstick a group of tortillas. I hate pulling a tortilla off a pile only to see it rip or start to. Then I try the other side and it's worse. How do I make the pile not sticky? There's got to be a better way! Help please.", "a method to unstick a group of tortillas. I hate pulling a tortilla off a pile only to see it rip or start to. Then I try the other side and it's worse. How do I make the pile not sticky? There's got to be a better way! Help please." ]

[ "Bend the entire stack back and forth a few times before trying to pry them apart. Most times this will work.", "Wow this brings back memories. Buy your fresh tortillas. As soon as you get home, peel all of the tortillas apart. It'll be easy because they're nice and fresh. Restack the tortillas and put them back in the bag. ", "Wrap tortillas with paper towels and then plash some water on both sides and put in the microwave and good to go " ]

[ 4, 3, 2 ]

[ "How to be less possessive over everything? I often find myself being irrationally possessive. I can get possessive in the somewhat standard, but definitely unhealthy, ways - like I don't like it when my boyfriend hangs out with other people - but I also find myself getting possessive over friends in what I consider to be absolutely unacceptable and crazy ways. For example, I will often hire my friends to do one-off gigs and jobs. My boyfriend is now hiring my friends too, and I find myself annoyed if they choose his jobs over mine. I would like to think they are more my friends than his friends, since I see them more often, but in all honestly we have all probably known each other for equal amounts of time. Plus, from their point of view, they'll just pick whatever job suits them better. But in my head it feels like a betrayal, for some reason.\n\n\n\nI know that being possessive is having a negative impact on my mental health. There is no upside. I just don't know how to kick this!\n\nThose of you guys who were possessive - how did you change?\n", "How to be less possessive over everything? I often find myself being irrationally possessive. I can get possessive in the somewhat standard, but definitely unhealthy, ways - like I don't like it when my boyfriend hangs out with other people - but I also find myself getting possessive over friends in what I consider to be absolutely unacceptable and crazy ways. For example, I will often hire my friends to do one-off gigs and jobs. My boyfriend is now hiring my friends too, and I find myself annoyed if they choose his jobs over mine. I would like to think they are more my friends than his friends, since I see them more often, but in all honestly we have all probably known each other for equal amounts of time. Plus, from their point of view, they'll just pick whatever job suits them better. But in my head it feels like a betrayal, for some reason.\n\n\n\nI know that being possessive is having a negative impact on my mental health. There is no upside. I just don't know how to kick this!\n\nThose of you guys who were possessive - how did you change?\n", "How to be less possessive over everything? I often find myself being irrationally possessive. I can get possessive in the somewhat standard, but definitely unhealthy, ways - like I don't like it when my boyfriend hangs out with other people - but I also find myself getting possessive over friends in what I consider to be absolutely unacceptable and crazy ways. For example, I will often hire my friends to do one-off gigs and jobs. My boyfriend is now hiring my friends too, and I find myself annoyed if they choose his jobs over mine. I would like to think they are more my friends than his friends, since I see them more often, but in all honestly we have all probably known each other for equal amounts of time. Plus, from their point of view, they'll just pick whatever job suits them better. But in my head it feels like a betrayal, for some reason.\n\n\n\nI know that being possessive is having a negative impact on my mental health. There is no upside. I just don't know how to kick this!\n\nThose of you guys who were possessive - how did you change?\n" ]

[ "Being possessive is often a result of low self-esteem. When I first started dating, I was terrified that I'd be cheated on; it made me possessive. I finally realized that I can't stop someone from cheating on me. Even if I could, I wouldn't want to be with someone who is only being faithful only though force. By not trying to actively prevent cheating, it made bad relationships run their course quicker.\n\nTake a hard look at your anxieties, and rationalize them with your actions. Are you afraid your boyfriend won't spend time with you if he spends it with others? If that's true, he's not a good boyfriend. You deserve a boyfriend that *wants* to spend time with you, and can't replace you with other people. You'll never feel validated until he can choose to be with you without being pushed.\n\nDo you really want friends that are only your friends because you monopolize their time? The best friends are those that make time for you, because they like being around you.", "Reverse the situation. It's surprising how many situations a little empathic role play can help with.\n\nImagine you're a witness to the situation. Do this by replacing you and your friend having the event with a friend yours and THEIR boyfriend. You're watching them as they deal with it now. \n\nNow ask some questions as you watch these \"other two\" deal with the situation that is making you feel jealous or possessive or like you have to \"win\" or whatever. \n\nIs she being unreasonable or reasonable? Is it a healthy conflict (yes there is healthy conflict in relationships) or unhealthy? If she \"wins\" the argument (yes it is an argument, it doesn't take two to have one), what is the true cost of that win to both him and her?\n\nYour answer to those questions can help you turn things around in your own behaviour. Either you're confident you're in the right, or you're in the wrong and there's no value in continuing to be so.\n\nGood luck.", "I'm not saying this to be dismissive or anything like that, but seriously, visit a therapist. Did me wonders for my issues (not necessarily with being possessive, but with being overprotective)." ]

[ 6, 1, 1 ]

[ "How can I go against my nature and be more outgoing at work? So, I'm an introvert, who is also a bit on the shy side, and I've noticed that this kind of puts you at a disadvantage at work. \n\nPeople are very chatty with others and are able to build rapport. I, on the other hand, have never felt comfortable or natural just chatting people up, especially if I\"m just going up to someone who is working away at their desk and randomly trying to strike up a conversation. \n\nI've realized though that this is something I have to learn to do. The main stumbling block for me is not knowing how to do this at all and not wanting to be awkward about it when I do try it. \n\nI don't know what to say, I don't know how to break the ice beyond stupid things like \"how was your weekend\". I have no problem going over and asking people stuff about work (but that doesn't count at all - and can sometimes be taken the wrong way).\n\nI'm really looking for specific ideas here if anyone has them. This seems to come easily to almost everyone else but I'm at a loss. What are some things that you guys talk about randomly at work to do this kind of thing? Any fool-proof tips for initiating conversations in a work setting? How can I get other people to do the talking??\n\nI am a friendly person but I don't seem like a friendly person and I need to change that.\n\n", "How can I go against my nature and be more outgoing at work? So, I'm an introvert, who is also a bit on the shy side, and I've noticed that this kind of puts you at a disadvantage at work. \n\nPeople are very chatty with others and are able to build rapport. I, on the other hand, have never felt comfortable or natural just chatting people up, especially if I\"m just going up to someone who is working away at their desk and randomly trying to strike up a conversation. \n\nI've realized though that this is something I have to learn to do. The main stumbling block for me is not knowing how to do this at all and not wanting to be awkward about it when I do try it. \n\nI don't know what to say, I don't know how to break the ice beyond stupid things like \"how was your weekend\". I have no problem going over and asking people stuff about work (but that doesn't count at all - and can sometimes be taken the wrong way).\n\nI'm really looking for specific ideas here if anyone has them. This seems to come easily to almost everyone else but I'm at a loss. What are some things that you guys talk about randomly at work to do this kind of thing? Any fool-proof tips for initiating conversations in a work setting? How can I get other people to do the talking??\n\nI am a friendly person but I don't seem like a friendly person and I need to change that.\n\n", "How can I go against my nature and be more outgoing at work? So, I'm an introvert, who is also a bit on the shy side, and I've noticed that this kind of puts you at a disadvantage at work. \n\nPeople are very chatty with others and are able to build rapport. I, on the other hand, have never felt comfortable or natural just chatting people up, especially if I\"m just going up to someone who is working away at their desk and randomly trying to strike up a conversation. \n\nI've realized though that this is something I have to learn to do. The main stumbling block for me is not knowing how to do this at all and not wanting to be awkward about it when I do try it. \n\nI don't know what to say, I don't know how to break the ice beyond stupid things like \"how was your weekend\". I have no problem going over and asking people stuff about work (but that doesn't count at all - and can sometimes be taken the wrong way).\n\nI'm really looking for specific ideas here if anyone has them. This seems to come easily to almost everyone else but I'm at a loss. What are some things that you guys talk about randomly at work to do this kind of thing? Any fool-proof tips for initiating conversations in a work setting? How can I get other people to do the talking??\n\nI am a friendly person but I don't seem like a friendly person and I need to change that.\n\n", "How can I go against my nature and be more outgoing at work? So, I'm an introvert, who is also a bit on the shy side, and I've noticed that this kind of puts you at a disadvantage at work. \n\nPeople are very chatty with others and are able to build rapport. I, on the other hand, have never felt comfortable or natural just chatting people up, especially if I\"m just going up to someone who is working away at their desk and randomly trying to strike up a conversation. \n\nI've realized though that this is something I have to learn to do. The main stumbling block for me is not knowing how to do this at all and not wanting to be awkward about it when I do try it. \n\nI don't know what to say, I don't know how to break the ice beyond stupid things like \"how was your weekend\". I have no problem going over and asking people stuff about work (but that doesn't count at all - and can sometimes be taken the wrong way).\n\nI'm really looking for specific ideas here if anyone has them. This seems to come easily to almost everyone else but I'm at a loss. What are some things that you guys talk about randomly at work to do this kind of thing? Any fool-proof tips for initiating conversations in a work setting? How can I get other people to do the talking??\n\nI am a friendly person but I don't seem like a friendly person and I need to change that.\n\n", "How can I go against my nature and be more outgoing at work? So, I'm an introvert, who is also a bit on the shy side, and I've noticed that this kind of puts you at a disadvantage at work. \n\nPeople are very chatty with others and are able to build rapport. I, on the other hand, have never felt comfortable or natural just chatting people up, especially if I\"m just going up to someone who is working away at their desk and randomly trying to strike up a conversation. \n\nI've realized though that this is something I have to learn to do. The main stumbling block for me is not knowing how to do this at all and not wanting to be awkward about it when I do try it. \n\nI don't know what to say, I don't know how to break the ice beyond stupid things like \"how was your weekend\". I have no problem going over and asking people stuff about work (but that doesn't count at all - and can sometimes be taken the wrong way).\n\nI'm really looking for specific ideas here if anyone has them. This seems to come easily to almost everyone else but I'm at a loss. What are some things that you guys talk about randomly at work to do this kind of thing? Any fool-proof tips for initiating conversations in a work setting? How can I get other people to do the talking??\n\nI am a friendly person but I don't seem like a friendly person and I need to change that.\n\n", "How can I go against my nature and be more outgoing at work? So, I'm an introvert, who is also a bit on the shy side, and I've noticed that this kind of puts you at a disadvantage at work. \n\nPeople are very chatty with others and are able to build rapport. I, on the other hand, have never felt comfortable or natural just chatting people up, especially if I\"m just going up to someone who is working away at their desk and randomly trying to strike up a conversation. \n\nI've realized though that this is something I have to learn to do. The main stumbling block for me is not knowing how to do this at all and not wanting to be awkward about it when I do try it. \n\nI don't know what to say, I don't know how to break the ice beyond stupid things like \"how was your weekend\". I have no problem going over and asking people stuff about work (but that doesn't count at all - and can sometimes be taken the wrong way).\n\nI'm really looking for specific ideas here if anyone has them. This seems to come easily to almost everyone else but I'm at a loss. What are some things that you guys talk about randomly at work to do this kind of thing? Any fool-proof tips for initiating conversations in a work setting? How can I get other people to do the talking??\n\nI am a friendly person but I don't seem like a friendly person and I need to change that.\n\n", "How can I go against my nature and be more outgoing at work? So, I'm an introvert, who is also a bit on the shy side, and I've noticed that this kind of puts you at a disadvantage at work. \n\nPeople are very chatty with others and are able to build rapport. I, on the other hand, have never felt comfortable or natural just chatting people up, especially if I\"m just going up to someone who is working away at their desk and randomly trying to strike up a conversation. \n\nI've realized though that this is something I have to learn to do. The main stumbling block for me is not knowing how to do this at all and not wanting to be awkward about it when I do try it. \n\nI don't know what to say, I don't know how to break the ice beyond stupid things like \"how was your weekend\". I have no problem going over and asking people stuff about work (but that doesn't count at all - and can sometimes be taken the wrong way).\n\nI'm really looking for specific ideas here if anyone has them. This seems to come easily to almost everyone else but I'm at a loss. What are some things that you guys talk about randomly at work to do this kind of thing? Any fool-proof tips for initiating conversations in a work setting? How can I get other people to do the talking??\n\nI am a friendly person but I don't seem like a friendly person and I need to change that.\n\n", "How can I go against my nature and be more outgoing at work? So, I'm an introvert, who is also a bit on the shy side, and I've noticed that this kind of puts you at a disadvantage at work. \n\nPeople are very chatty with others and are able to build rapport. I, on the other hand, have never felt comfortable or natural just chatting people up, especially if I\"m just going up to someone who is working away at their desk and randomly trying to strike up a conversation. \n\nI've realized though that this is something I have to learn to do. The main stumbling block for me is not knowing how to do this at all and not wanting to be awkward about it when I do try it. \n\nI don't know what to say, I don't know how to break the ice beyond stupid things like \"how was your weekend\". I have no problem going over and asking people stuff about work (but that doesn't count at all - and can sometimes be taken the wrong way).\n\nI'm really looking for specific ideas here if anyone has them. This seems to come easily to almost everyone else but I'm at a loss. What are some things that you guys talk about randomly at work to do this kind of thing? Any fool-proof tips for initiating conversations in a work setting? How can I get other people to do the talking??\n\nI am a friendly person but I don't seem like a friendly person and I need to change that.\n\n", "How can I go against my nature and be more outgoing at work? So, I'm an introvert, who is also a bit on the shy side, and I've noticed that this kind of puts you at a disadvantage at work. \n\nPeople are very chatty with others and are able to build rapport. I, on the other hand, have never felt comfortable or natural just chatting people up, especially if I\"m just going up to someone who is working away at their desk and randomly trying to strike up a conversation. \n\nI've realized though that this is something I have to learn to do. The main stumbling block for me is not knowing how to do this at all and not wanting to be awkward about it when I do try it. \n\nI don't know what to say, I don't know how to break the ice beyond stupid things like \"how was your weekend\". I have no problem going over and asking people stuff about work (but that doesn't count at all - and can sometimes be taken the wrong way).\n\nI'm really looking for specific ideas here if anyone has them. This seems to come easily to almost everyone else but I'm at a loss. What are some things that you guys talk about randomly at work to do this kind of thing? Any fool-proof tips for initiating conversations in a work setting? How can I get other people to do the talking??\n\nI am a friendly person but I don't seem like a friendly person and I need to change that.\n\n" ]

[ "This is way late, but it's worked for me and I wanted to share.\n\nAsking for advice about something non-work related is the best way to open a door. Ask them about their opinion on the best restaurants nearby, or what is the best choice between two items on amazon. It's low risk and signals all the right things.\n\nThis works for two reasons. \n\n1.Asking for advice validates that you trust their opinion (that makes them feel good about themselves) and helping someone makes you like them more (as long as the helping was pleasant, giving advice is easy). \n\n2. It opens up the door for talking about non-work things. Being introverted can be misinterpreted as not wanting to be disturbed, crack the door and signal that you are friendly and open for conversation. Everyone is afraid of rejection, even outgoing folks. \n\nWhen they answer, ask a follow up. \"That restaurant sounds good, but does it get really busy at lunch?\" The follow up is important. You need 2 back-and-forths to break the ice. A single Q then A doesn't do it. Conversation is elaboration, leave room for it.\n\nIf they don't keep going after that by asking you something or sharing a story, leave it be. You either planted a seed and you'll talk again, or they're not interested. \n\nGood luck.", "I also work in an office setting, and I'm very much like you in that I'm an introvert and struggle a bit with shyness. What really changed for me is that several years ago, I became a manager. This considerably raised my profile, and forced me to become social in ways that I never would have before. \n\nStart small. Say hello to people when you walk in for the day or when you pass them. Provide a listening ear. A lot of the people I work with don't necessarily need my input in a conversation; they just really want someone to listen to them. Small talk can be horrendous, I know, but it's unfortunately a big part of the workplace. Keep it light - talk about the weather, clothes, or TV shows/movies, sports, or, if you're in the lunch room, what you're eating today. Ask questions about what they did over the weekend/on vacation/etc. Just try to avoid topics like religion, money, and politics - in my experience, those sort of topics tend to not go down well in a workplace setting. \n\nEventually, you'll find yourself opening up and being comfortable with talking about yourself and conversing with others.", "Does your work have any committees like a wellness committee or book club? That's a foot in the door to meeting people in other department. \n\nOr do you have the chance to work on collaborative projects with other departments?\n\nMaybe you can start something like this if none exist currently. \n\nI don't know what kind of work your place is but at most software/IT related companies you can host a lunchtime \"brown bag\" session where you teach the about something over the lunch hour. My workplace has had someone from a rock climbing gym do a presentation. My last job had a talk from a former employee who now works at Pixar etc. ", "You could try joining a committee or work group that works on things you care about. You could suggest something fun for your team like a food day where everyone brings in something to share. It puts people in a good mood and it is so much easier to talk to them.", "Start with \"how was your weekend\". It's awkward if you ask that, they tell you what they did and you respond with \"okay\". If they said they went to a fancy restaurant, ask them if they'd recommend it and how they liked what they ordered.. etc. \n\nYou can make small talk just by listening and asking questions. Eventually you'll get to the point where talking to them seems natural and you can share your own stories.", "Some specific things you can just randomly start talking about: any experience that was definitely shared. Weather, anything odd on the way/in the office, city wide events they may have attended. People also love talking about their pets and kids. Ask dog owners about their dog after thunderstorms, that's always a conversation. Anything personal they have in their workspace (photos, souvenirs) they probably like enough that they want to talk about it. \"Hey is that your kid/favorite vacation spot/from that thing?)\" major events that are not contentious, or that people may think are trivial ( so no tray on Martin or royal baby) but something like the Olympics. ", "I have this problem too. I really struggle with talking to people when they're at their desks, but it's not a big deal at other times, like in the kitchen or hallway or copy room or whatever.\n\nI too am interested in knowing how to start a convo randomly by interrupting someone (that's how I see it when people are at their desk). I think people usually come up to me and just say something like 'hey, how's it going', and then bring something up that they felt like saying. Does that sound about right to other people?", "Force yourself. I'm an extrovert socially but an extreme introvert in an office setting. So for my first day at a new job I made a batch of biscuits (cookies) and brought them into work with me. Today at our monthly whole office meeting it turns out I've been nominated for an end-of-year award thanks to that. \n\nI'm still not good at making conversation but I try to join in conversations with interesting bits and pieces when I can. For me, since I'm extroverted when amongst friends, it's about trying to forget about the office dynamic and be more comfortable. ", "Fake it. \n\nSeriously. Fake it. You'll get better at it incrementally. \n\nMy favorite go to line is to ask someone is \"what do you enjoy doing?\" Then mention something about you ( it's ok to stretch the truth) or your likes that's similar. Ask them follow up questions. \n\nAlso mandatory plug for Andrew Carnegie book how to win friends and....just go google it. " ]

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[ "How do I get Sonic to stop giving me so much ice? I have a funny feeling they fill up half of your cup with ice during Happy Hour when drinks are half off... They aren't losing as much money this way!\n\nIt's totally ridiculous how much ice they put in", "How do I get Sonic to stop giving me so much ice? I have a funny feeling they fill up half of your cup with ice during Happy Hour when drinks are half off... They aren't losing as much money this way!\n\nIt's totally ridiculous how much ice they put in", "How do I get Sonic to stop giving me so much ice? I have a funny feeling they fill up half of your cup with ice during Happy Hour when drinks are half off... They aren't losing as much money this way!\n\nIt's totally ridiculous how much ice they put in" ]

[ "Ask them to put less ice in when you order it. \n\nThe soda in that cup probably costs them less than a nickel, I seriously doubt the ice is an attempt to cheat you. It may very well cost more to run the ice machine than the soda itself.\n\n\n ", "No, Sonic puts in a lot of ice whether its happy hour or not. They're not losing money by offering half price drinks. They're using half price drinks to get people to Sonic during otherwise normally slow business hours. More often than not, people end up getting other items on the menu that more than makes up for what they lost to offering half priced drinks. If Sonic were actually losing money, they would have discontinued Happy Hour long ago.", "Just ask for no ice. I used to do this all the time when getting an iced coffee before work. I would just throw it in the fridge for a bit and I would get twice as much coffee and it wouldn’t be all watered down" ]

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[ "Working in dangerous neighborhoods. Recently I took a supervising position for a mid-size surveillance company. With all the excitement that comes with a new job, I decided to checkout the address I'd be working at and it was pretty damn rough. After doing some research I found out I'd be working in one of the worst parts of the city for crime and violence in a city already known for these issues, and although I've always grown up in public housing this seemed to be more extreme than any of the other places I've lived. \n\nSo my question is how do I survive this for the next 2 years while paying my way through school?", "Working in dangerous neighborhoods. Recently I took a supervising position for a mid-size surveillance company. With all the excitement that comes with a new job, I decided to checkout the address I'd be working at and it was pretty damn rough. After doing some research I found out I'd be working in one of the worst parts of the city for crime and violence in a city already known for these issues, and although I've always grown up in public housing this seemed to be more extreme than any of the other places I've lived. \n\nSo my question is how do I survive this for the next 2 years while paying my way through school?" ]

[ "Ive been in Security for 3 years now,and my post now that im at and have been for 2 yrs hires felons and is known for its turn over rate, so needless to say i have dealt with some pretty rough people. My biggest piece of advice is ALWAYS ALWAYS stay aware of your surroundings, scope everything out and keep anything or anyone in your memory that looks out of place.Have the local police on speed dial also,so \"knock on wood\" if you do become in danger you can call quickly for back up.", "I know everyone gonna say be strapped up with a gatt or something but I would do something more unexpected. \n\nA brother I knew worked in some rough west Chicago hoods and he had a cold forged broadsword he carried on him Ina scabbard. Trust me, even hardened gangsters would at first laugh and then fear the insanity of a motherfucker with a broadsword\n\nI would suggest some training as well so you can at the very least Grecian a wooden pole. " ]

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[ "How to get the smell of stale pee out. I just moved into the place I'm subletting for a while and the people who lived here before me clearly didn't clean at all. After scrubbing the bathroom floor and cleaning the toilet there's still a noticeable smell of stale pee lingering around. Anyone have good tips for how to make this go away? I've tried air freshener but it covers it for a little bit, but it comes back with a vengeance.", "How to get the smell of stale pee out. I just moved into the place I'm subletting for a while and the people who lived here before me clearly didn't clean at all. After scrubbing the bathroom floor and cleaning the toilet there's still a noticeable smell of stale pee lingering around. Anyone have good tips for how to make this go away? I've tried air freshener but it covers it for a little bit, but it comes back with a vengeance.", "How to get the smell of stale pee out. I just moved into the place I'm subletting for a while and the people who lived here before me clearly didn't clean at all. After scrubbing the bathroom floor and cleaning the toilet there's still a noticeable smell of stale pee lingering around. Anyone have good tips for how to make this go away? I've tried air freshener but it covers it for a little bit, but it comes back with a vengeance.", "How to get the smell of stale pee out. I just moved into the place I'm subletting for a while and the people who lived here before me clearly didn't clean at all. After scrubbing the bathroom floor and cleaning the toilet there's still a noticeable smell of stale pee lingering around. Anyone have good tips for how to make this go away? I've tried air freshener but it covers it for a little bit, but it comes back with a vengeance." ]

[ "Wipe down the walls and cabinets. Is there a trim piece on the floor? You might have to take that off and clean behind it.", "sorry I don't know the english name for this, but my mom used it to get rid of cat pee smell. we call it 'citronella cleaning detergent' (free translation). https://www.google.nl/search?q=citronella+schoonmaakmiddel&espv=2&biw=1280&bih=899&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=j_tzVd64FIXaUZafg4gO&ved=0CAYQ_AUoAQ", "Try Ozium rather than a regular air freshener. It worked on stale cigarette scent, so it might be worth a try.", "I have had good luck with [Nature's Miracle](http://www.petco.com/product/112368/Nature's-Miracle-Urine-Destroyer-Stain-and-Residue-Eliminator.aspx) and warm water." ]

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[ "The most efficient way of defrosting frozen juice. My family freezes cartons of juice and when I'm craving juice, I don't want to have to wait for it to defrost.\n\nWhat are your best methods of defrosting cartons of liquids?\n\nMy best one is putting it under a running hot tap, but that costs a lot of money in gas.", "The most efficient way of defrosting frozen juice. My family freezes cartons of juice and when I'm craving juice, I don't want to have to wait for it to defrost.\n\nWhat are your best methods of defrosting cartons of liquids?\n\nMy best one is putting it under a running hot tap, but that costs a lot of money in gas.", "The most efficient way of defrosting frozen juice. My family freezes cartons of juice and when I'm craving juice, I don't want to have to wait for it to defrost.\n\nWhat are your best methods of defrosting cartons of liquids?\n\nMy best one is putting it under a running hot tap, but that costs a lot of money in gas." ]

[ "well the most efficient method would probably be to just take it out of the freezer. However I'm guessing you are looking for the most effective method and in that case it would be microwave. Or if you can , always keep one juice carton in the refrigerator. ", "Whenever I'm almost out of juice in the pitcher, I take a frozen one out and leave in in the sink. By the time I've drank the rest of my juice, the new one will be thawed.", "I typically (I'm talking about concentrate) take the lid off and put it upside down in the pitcher, wait about 5 minutes and it slides right out if previously stuck" ]

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[ "How to give criticism at work. Since we have some tips on receiving criticism, I'd like to see some tips on how to give criticism. Tips for when you're unsatisfied with a coworkers performance or putting in a formal complaint to a manager. What are some tips to keep in mind when talking about these subjects without coming off like your whining?", "How to give criticism at work. Since we have some tips on receiving criticism, I'd like to see some tips on how to give criticism. Tips for when you're unsatisfied with a coworkers performance or putting in a formal complaint to a manager. What are some tips to keep in mind when talking about these subjects without coming off like your whining?", "How to give criticism at work. Since we have some tips on receiving criticism, I'd like to see some tips on how to give criticism. Tips for when you're unsatisfied with a coworkers performance or putting in a formal complaint to a manager. What are some tips to keep in mind when talking about these subjects without coming off like your whining?", "How to give criticism at work. Since we have some tips on receiving criticism, I'd like to see some tips on how to give criticism. Tips for when you're unsatisfied with a coworkers performance or putting in a formal complaint to a manager. What are some tips to keep in mind when talking about these subjects without coming off like your whining?", "How to give criticism at work. Since we have some tips on receiving criticism, I'd like to see some tips on how to give criticism. Tips for when you're unsatisfied with a coworkers performance or putting in a formal complaint to a manager. What are some tips to keep in mind when talking about these subjects without coming off like your whining?" ]

[ "One of my mentors told me a long time ago, people are more likely to listen to criticism when it follows a positive remark. If you start a conversation immediately with negative comments, they will most often than not get defensive. However, a positive comment even as simple as an acknowledgment of effort will put them into a lighter mood. They will be more likely to listen to you and respect your comments if you show respect to them first.", "If it's the first time you are criticizing them, the compliment sandwich is great, but sometimes the tricky part is that the employee will still take the criticism as an attack. \n\nThe trick I use has three parts...I begin by using the words \"remember to\", rather than \"you need to\", then I generalize their unacceptable trait to everyone, and then I put myself (from the past) in their place.\n\nExample: \"Bill, you need to be on time.\" sounds harsh\n \"Bill, remember that everyone being on time is important.\" \n\nThat way, you are telling them to be on time, but it sounds like you are telling them to simply remember something that everyone needs to do. It's much less harsh sounding, and it doesn't feel like you are singling them out.\n\nThe last part is to put myself from the past into the phrasing.\n\nExample: \"Hey Bill, I was the worst at being on time when I first started and the boss made it super clear that I needed to be on time or there would be crazy consequences...so just remember it's really important for me, you, and everybody else to be on time, it saves us all a big headache!\"\n\nIf the criticism is something that you need to direct to a manager, and you don't want to feel like you are tattling, keep these things in mind: Keep it professional, direct, non-emotional, and mention how it affects the entire company, not just you.\n\nExample, \"Bob, I have to say that when Bill is constantly late, it affects the office as a whole because we can't get our work done on time because we're waiting on him to clock in, I just thought it should be brought to your attention. Thank you.\"\n\nThat sounds better than, \"Hey Bob, why does Bill get to be late? That's not fair. He doesn't clean his coffee mug out either, but whatever.\"", "The two-way Effective Feedback conversation has four easy-to-follow steps:\n\n1. Ask the performer what they did well.\n2. You add what you feel they did well.\n3. Ask the performer what they will do differently next time.\n4. You add what you would suggest they do differently next time.\n\nSteps one and two build confidence. We need confident team members. Steps three and four build skill. All four steps create a confident, skilled and engaged team member.\n\n", "If it's something that someone has worked on but needs to be fixed, I praise them on their effort, then offer help as to how to improve what they have done.\nIf someone is being slack, I make it a general statement that everyone has to follow so the person doesn't feel like they are being picked on.", "A good way of starting the conversation is to ask the person how they think they're doing at work. Often people know what their weaknesses are, so that's a good starting point. \n\nI found [this](http://blog.thegrandlocus.com/2014/01/so-you-want-to-be-a-group-leader) blog post recently, which reinforced that view." ]

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