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[ "How can I stay motivated? I have problems staying motivated once I am able to motivate myself towards my goals. How can I keep this strong motivation from day to day so that I can start and finish tasks that take days or months to accomplish?", "How can I stay motivated? I have problems staying motivated once I am able to motivate myself towards my goals. How can I keep this strong motivation from day to day so that I can start and finish tasks that take days or months to accomplish?", "How can I stay motivated? I have problems staying motivated once I am able to motivate myself towards my goals. How can I keep this strong motivation from day to day so that I can start and finish tasks that take days or months to accomplish?" ]

[ "[Keep telling yourself this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VZ2HcRl4wSk)\n\n(semi)Seriously, intelligent people tend to have a difficult time staying motivated. IMHO, it's because they tend to look at the goal for the reward, rather than the steps. Break it down, then reward yourself.\n\nWhat do you really like to do? Ice cream. Well, hell yaz! Statistically, January is the highest month for consumption. Like Chinese food? Well,you're in luck--Chinese New Year is in February. Or you can treat yourself all the frickin' chocolate on February 15th for all the little (read awesome) things you've accomplished.\n\n", "The biggest realization I've had over the last few years is that motivation is literally a limited quantity. Most people fail to realize this, and thus end up continually frustrated with their \"lack of will power.\"\n\nThe best way to maximize your willpower is create systems that allow you to create better habits.\n\n", "Hello, if you don't mind, can you give me an example? I ask because lately I've been trying to help other people conquer their motivation issues, and honestly, I'm learning a lot by discussing. It would help me in return, to see where my future flaws may arise.\n\nIf you haven't heard this before, there's a flow of logic out there that I thoroughly enjoy that begins with \"Happiness is a relative term, if today is a 3 out of infinity, and tomorrow is a 2, does that make you sad? Not if you compare it to last week, when you were sitting pretty at 1 the entire week.\"\n\nIf you, as BGoodRBCareful said, break down the steps required to achieve any goal then each step becomes an accomplishment.\n\n[ Turn my 8m 32second mile, back into a 5:00 minute mile ] \n* End goal has been noted, now I have to break down the steps * \n1. Start running \n2. Log my runs \n3. Time \n4. Diet \n[1.] Start running, well that sounds simple but it has to be broken down. \n[Goal] TRY to run three times a week. \n[Reward] A 4 hour movie marathon on Sunday OR the right to sleep in Saturday. \n(Actual result?) Ran once this week. *Don't get down on yourself, you at least began your routine, even though you ran just once out of three, it doesn't matter. Reward yourself, and be realistic. \n(Resulting reward) +1 Hour of sleeping in on Saturday, instead of 5 like I planned // or // A movie on Sunday. \nScale your plans, and rewards, based on performance, you don't need to weigh yourself down with guilt. \n[[[ Over rewarding yourself is more detrimental than under-rewarding yourself. If you FEEL INCREDIBLE, about your results, or your accomplishment, then reward yourself both offers. But don't be gluttonous. And certainly don't be afraid to NOT reward yourself at all. Punishment? If you require discipline, and a punishment, be wary, negative feedback often times makes you NOT want to take the risk of trying. I often punish myself enough by simply NOT rewarding myself.]]]" ]

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[ "How can I keep my room ventilated while I'm away? I'm in Karachi which is [experiencing a very bad heat wave](http://tribune.com.pk/story/908310/death-toll-from-deadly-heatwave-surpasses-500/) at the moment.\n\nI have a large window facing west, and a small opening facing the east.\n\nWhen I go home, the room literally feels like an oven and everything is hot. How can I best ventilate the room or keep the heat out while I'm away at work? Should I draw the curtains or keep all windows open?", "How can I keep my room ventilated while I'm away? I'm in Karachi which is [experiencing a very bad heat wave](http://tribune.com.pk/story/908310/death-toll-from-deadly-heatwave-surpasses-500/) at the moment.\n\nI have a large window facing west, and a small opening facing the east.\n\nWhen I go home, the room literally feels like an oven and everything is hot. How can I best ventilate the room or keep the heat out while I'm away at work? Should I draw the curtains or keep all windows open?", "How can I keep my room ventilated while I'm away? I'm in Karachi which is [experiencing a very bad heat wave](http://tribune.com.pk/story/908310/death-toll-from-deadly-heatwave-surpasses-500/) at the moment.\n\nI have a large window facing west, and a small opening facing the east.\n\nWhen I go home, the room literally feels like an oven and everything is hot. How can I best ventilate the room or keep the heat out while I'm away at work? Should I draw the curtains or keep all windows open?" ]

[ "One method I've found effective is to completely cover the offending window with tin foil, thus completely reflecting the sun away. The room should naturally cool after that.", "Open windows at night to allow cool air in, then close and cover the windows during the day to keep the heat out.", "Ugh. 2 hours south of me (Phoenix, AZ, but they all have air conditioning in their homes and cars, so they're okay) is this hot right now, too. I'm so happy I moved up north! But I know what it's like.\n\nDo you have air conditioning or fans?\n\nBe careful out there and remember to stay hydrated." ]

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[ "How to deal with rowdy people at the movie theater. It is officially summer and the *shudders* teenagers are out and about with apparently nothing else better to do than act like assholes at the movies. I guess you could tell them to shut up, but what dillhole movie-ruining teenager is ACTUALLY going to say \"Oh golly gee, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to disrupt the film for you and the 100 other people who paid like $10 a ticket to be here. I'll gladly quiet down.\"?? \nYou could get up and complain to some pimply kid behind the concessions counter, but then you could be missing precious movie minutes that you paid a hefty price to see? What if you miss the good part? ", "How to deal with rowdy people at the movie theater. It is officially summer and the *shudders* teenagers are out and about with apparently nothing else better to do than act like assholes at the movies. I guess you could tell them to shut up, but what dillhole movie-ruining teenager is ACTUALLY going to say \"Oh golly gee, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to disrupt the film for you and the 100 other people who paid like $10 a ticket to be here. I'll gladly quiet down.\"?? \nYou could get up and complain to some pimply kid behind the concessions counter, but then you could be missing precious movie minutes that you paid a hefty price to see? What if you miss the good part? ", "How to deal with rowdy people at the movie theater. It is officially summer and the *shudders* teenagers are out and about with apparently nothing else better to do than act like assholes at the movies. I guess you could tell them to shut up, but what dillhole movie-ruining teenager is ACTUALLY going to say \"Oh golly gee, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to disrupt the film for you and the 100 other people who paid like $10 a ticket to be here. I'll gladly quiet down.\"?? \nYou could get up and complain to some pimply kid behind the concessions counter, but then you could be missing precious movie minutes that you paid a hefty price to see? What if you miss the good part? ", "How to deal with rowdy people at the movie theater. It is officially summer and the *shudders* teenagers are out and about with apparently nothing else better to do than act like assholes at the movies. I guess you could tell them to shut up, but what dillhole movie-ruining teenager is ACTUALLY going to say \"Oh golly gee, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to disrupt the film for you and the 100 other people who paid like $10 a ticket to be here. I'll gladly quiet down.\"?? \nYou could get up and complain to some pimply kid behind the concessions counter, but then you could be missing precious movie minutes that you paid a hefty price to see? What if you miss the good part? " ]

[ "Just yell 'shut up' and they'll likely stop. I remember going to see the Woman In Black with my mum, the theatre was maybe 1/2 full. There's a row of teenagers who were chatting pretty damn loud throughout the ads and continued into the first 5-10 mins of the film. I'm getting pissed hoping they'll stop eventually, when a little old lady of about 80 near me yells 'Oi! Shut the fuck up!'. I died it was too funny, but they did as she said. So LPT, bring a cranky old English lady with you. ", "this is why i hate theaters. i wont go anymore. but when i did have an issue, i got an employee walked them right over to the people causing problems. it stopped for about 5 minutes. they then started talking loudly about me. i had no issue walking over to them and basically telling them, either stop r i will stop you. i dont care how old you are. will knock your damn teeth down you throat. they stopped. the entire theater clapped. refunds were given on request. last time i ever went to a theater. i hate them.", "You might want to try theatre in a different part of town? The one closest to me is decent, no rude behavior, people are respectful. The theatre a few town (maybe 10? Mikes away) is filled with hecklers and talkers.", "Former theater manager here! \nYou have three options. \n\n1. Ignore them. Yes, it sucks that they have no courtesy, but whatever. Just let it go. \n\n2. Get a employee or manager to take care of them. Well most likely do it if we aren't busy as he'll, and normally people stop after that. If not, rinse and repeat until they get kicked out. \n\n3. Grow some fucking balls and tell them yourselves to shut up / put away their phone. Unless you are dealing with the doushe's, they will listen to you. Or you know, instead of dealing with it you can make a post on LPT." ]

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[ "How Can I come back from burnout at work? I know it's best to avoid burnout, but I didn't (womp womp). I like my job in theory -- I have lots of flexibility, it's interesting work and there are good perks. Over the last few months, though, that flexibility has been a double-edged sword (because you telecommute and don't have to be in the office, why don't you stay on-call 24/7?), more of the work has been focused on managing poor performers (not something I enjoy or excel at) and the perks aren't really making up for it. Today I was in traffic and I almost got rear ended and was disappointed because hey! If I was in a car accident I could take the rest of the day off! Is there a way to pull out of this burnout spiral or is finding a new job my only option?", "How Can I come back from burnout at work? I know it's best to avoid burnout, but I didn't (womp womp). I like my job in theory -- I have lots of flexibility, it's interesting work and there are good perks. Over the last few months, though, that flexibility has been a double-edged sword (because you telecommute and don't have to be in the office, why don't you stay on-call 24/7?), more of the work has been focused on managing poor performers (not something I enjoy or excel at) and the perks aren't really making up for it. Today I was in traffic and I almost got rear ended and was disappointed because hey! If I was in a car accident I could take the rest of the day off! Is there a way to pull out of this burnout spiral or is finding a new job my only option?", "How Can I come back from burnout at work? I know it's best to avoid burnout, but I didn't (womp womp). I like my job in theory -- I have lots of flexibility, it's interesting work and there are good perks. Over the last few months, though, that flexibility has been a double-edged sword (because you telecommute and don't have to be in the office, why don't you stay on-call 24/7?), more of the work has been focused on managing poor performers (not something I enjoy or excel at) and the perks aren't really making up for it. Today I was in traffic and I almost got rear ended and was disappointed because hey! If I was in a car accident I could take the rest of the day off! Is there a way to pull out of this burnout spiral or is finding a new job my only option?", "How Can I come back from burnout at work? I know it's best to avoid burnout, but I didn't (womp womp). I like my job in theory -- I have lots of flexibility, it's interesting work and there are good perks. Over the last few months, though, that flexibility has been a double-edged sword (because you telecommute and don't have to be in the office, why don't you stay on-call 24/7?), more of the work has been focused on managing poor performers (not something I enjoy or excel at) and the perks aren't really making up for it. Today I was in traffic and I almost got rear ended and was disappointed because hey! If I was in a car accident I could take the rest of the day off! Is there a way to pull out of this burnout spiral or is finding a new job my only option?", "How Can I come back from burnout at work? I know it's best to avoid burnout, but I didn't (womp womp). I like my job in theory -- I have lots of flexibility, it's interesting work and there are good perks. Over the last few months, though, that flexibility has been a double-edged sword (because you telecommute and don't have to be in the office, why don't you stay on-call 24/7?), more of the work has been focused on managing poor performers (not something I enjoy or excel at) and the perks aren't really making up for it. Today I was in traffic and I almost got rear ended and was disappointed because hey! If I was in a car accident I could take the rest of the day off! Is there a way to pull out of this burnout spiral or is finding a new job my only option?" ]

[ "I have excellent work/life balance, excel at my job, and I'm very passionate about it. I'll tell you how I do it: \n\n* I see a greater purpose in my job other than making money to fund my free time. I do not work for a non-profit or in the healthcare industry, so I'm not suggesting you find a job in a different industry. Instead, make sure you have a good attitude and good self-talk about your job. I think a lot about how my job impacts the economy and the various industries it touches. I think about how much my clients need my services to help complete their own jobs. I think about the progress of society, and how my job contributes to it in some small way. This makes me very passionate about what I do.\n\n* I'm dead serious about maintaining work-life balance. My bosses and coworkers all agree that I'm one of the hardest-working people in our company, but you'll very rarely see me skip lunch, work late, or work nights and weekends, and I always take all of my vacation days. If someone asks me to do more than I'm capable of during my normal work hours, I tell them I'm very busy with XYZ, and ask if they can find someone else to help or if we can delay the project until I have more time. When a client calls on my lunch hour, even if I'm just sitting and chatting with my coworkers, I tell the admin to send it to my voicemail. If my workload gets too heavy, I talk to my bosses about bringing in freelancers or hiring more team members to take some of it on. People sometimes get a little testy about the measures I take to preserve that balance, but I ignore it as much as I can. I'm a productive and valuable employee, and I deserve my time to recharge. \n\n* I don't allow myself to stagnate. If I'm doing a job that is below my skill level that I no longer enjoy, I look for ways to pass it on to more junior employees and develop in other areas. I also make this clear to my managers and bosses. They are well aware that if they ask me to do grunt work for too long and don't allow me to develop, I will leave and look for another job. I don't make it a personal issue; I just let them know that for my own career, life goals, and personal development, I need to continue learning and growing.\n\n* I turn problems into challenges. Sometimes when I have a difficult client relationship or a huge project that demands a lot of thought and creativity, I feel like running away from the office and never coming back. But taking a deep breath and telling myself these are learning experiences helps A TON. For the past year or so, I dealt with one of my bosses slowly descending into mental illness. It was a long time before everyone collectively realized she was not mentally healthy enough to be involved in day-to-day work. Several coworkers quit during that time because of the literal craziness in our workplace. Of course, I got frustrated too, but I started to frame dealing with my boss as a challenge. I learned how to handle her, how to direct her thinking and attention so that I could get work done without letting her interfere. I was even one of the people who finally addressed her mental state and the problems it was causing with the other company owners. I was able to turn a seriously unstable and negative work situation into a point of personal pride and growth. \n\nI hope this helps!", "I think it depends on what specifically you're unsatisfied with. In my case I was able to combat burnout at a previous job by focusing more heavily on furthering my education, but this was likely only a temporary fix. Ultimately I think the most important thing is to understand precisely WHY you're burned out, think about what adjustments need to be made to realize a more fulfilling life, and start working to make those changes. More often than not looking for employment elsewhere without understanding the root causes won't lead to a long-term fix.", "I felt like I was reading a comment from myself. I used to telecommute and there are awesome things about it but one of the things I did not love was I felt like I was on call 24/7. I don't think my boss really expected me to be working all the time but that is just how I felt...\nI would recommend listening to this podcast by the Heath brothers: http://heathbrothers.com/member-content/podcast-on-decisiveness/ \nIt is specifically about deciding to find a new job or not. Some of the suggestions that helped me:\n1. Imagine you are stuck in your job for the next 5 years (like a prison sentence) what actions would you take to make the job endurable?\n2. Set a trip wire\nEstablish a time frame or dollar amount. e.g. \"If 2 months from now I am still working 80 hour weeks then I am quitting.\"\nor \"Once I have six months of income saved in the bank I am done\"\nAgain, I would recommend listening to the podcast. I think it is the only episode.", "The problem may not be the job but what your doing in your spare time. Creativity and charity outside work could well improve your time at work.", "M" ]

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[ "How to get over stagefright. Whenever I go to play my guitar and sing, I always seem to get super nervous and perform so much worse than normal. How do you guys deal with stagefright/performing in public?", "How to get over stagefright. Whenever I go to play my guitar and sing, I always seem to get super nervous and perform so much worse than normal. How do you guys deal with stagefright/performing in public?" ]

[ "I'm not an actor or performer, but I am (was) a stage techie! In my years I've had loads of experience with actors with stagefright and the best advice I can give you is: Practice.\n\nEvery single actor had tiny rituals they'd go through. One girl I worked with said a prayer before going on stage and she was golden. Another guy had to drink at least two cups of coffee before he felt ready to go. I knew a couple people who would read back stage/in the green room to relax and then they were ready. Another guy liked to get super fucking hyped (like he had just won the lottery) and bam! He was good.\n\nOthers never really \"got ready\" so to speak and they just went out there, did their thing and it wasn't so bad the next time.", "A lot of performers swear by eating bananas before a show. If you want a major solution, however, try beta blockers." ]

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[ "How to keep in touch with a company for future hiring I am pursuing a career with a specific company and the person I am corresponding with told me to keep in touch so that I can be considered for a position in spring 2017 when I graduate. I am not sure what that entails (what do I say to this recruiter, how often should I email or call, etc). I was hoping for some insight.\n\n", "How to keep in touch with a company for future hiring I am pursuing a career with a specific company and the person I am corresponding with told me to keep in touch so that I can be considered for a position in spring 2017 when I graduate. I am not sure what that entails (what do I say to this recruiter, how often should I email or call, etc). I was hoping for some insight.\n\n", "How to keep in touch with a company for future hiring I am pursuing a career with a specific company and the person I am corresponding with told me to keep in touch so that I can be considered for a position in spring 2017 when I graduate. I am not sure what that entails (what do I say to this recruiter, how often should I email or call, etc). I was hoping for some insight.\n\n" ]

[ "I have a very limited knowledge of this, aka one job experience, so take this advice with a grain of salt:\n\nFor me, I took it as \"let them know if I get another job offer.\" So, I interviewed with company A, but they didn't have any positions open (I don't know why they interviewed me, but they did). They told me to keep in touch. So, when I got another job offer from company B, I called my company A interviewer and said I got an offer from company B. The interviewer asked when I had to accept/decline the offer from company B and I was totally honest and said two weeks. One week later, company A offered me a job. ", "A few things.\n\nFirst, make a LinkedIn.com profile. Then, find the recruiter and 'friend' them. LinkedIn is sort of like Facebook for business contacts. There are probably YouTube videos on LinkedIn basics. It will resemble a resume, at first, but a little less formal. Don't be discouraged if you don't have much resume at first.\n\nSecond, don't email too much. Send them a note when you are about two months from graduating. Not before. Then, follow up about a month later. No more. \n\nThird, don't assume anything. In other words, keep looking for other options in case this falls through.", "Make a professional profile on linked in, connect with him/her on linked in. Occasionally update him/her with your progess. Post interesting relevant things and make thoughtful comments" ]

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[ "How do I speak with conviction and avoid filler words? I struggle a lot with speaking with confidence. Everything I say is riddled with filler words (ex: \"ummm\", \"like\", \"well...\", \"I guess\") and I feel like it has only gotten worse over the years (Probably related to my declining self-esteem over the years). \n\nThe first time it was brought to my attention was by a substitute English teacher in High School who told me that people who say \"like\" a lot are people who aren't sure of themselves/what they're saying. \n\nSo Reddit, do you have any tips for me? ", "How do I speak with conviction and avoid filler words? I struggle a lot with speaking with confidence. Everything I say is riddled with filler words (ex: \"ummm\", \"like\", \"well...\", \"I guess\") and I feel like it has only gotten worse over the years (Probably related to my declining self-esteem over the years). \n\nThe first time it was brought to my attention was by a substitute English teacher in High School who told me that people who say \"like\" a lot are people who aren't sure of themselves/what they're saying. \n\nSo Reddit, do you have any tips for me? ", "How do I speak with conviction and avoid filler words? I struggle a lot with speaking with confidence. Everything I say is riddled with filler words (ex: \"ummm\", \"like\", \"well...\", \"I guess\") and I feel like it has only gotten worse over the years (Probably related to my declining self-esteem over the years). \n\nThe first time it was brought to my attention was by a substitute English teacher in High School who told me that people who say \"like\" a lot are people who aren't sure of themselves/what they're saying. \n\nSo Reddit, do you have any tips for me? ", "How do I speak with conviction and avoid filler words? I struggle a lot with speaking with confidence. Everything I say is riddled with filler words (ex: \"ummm\", \"like\", \"well...\", \"I guess\") and I feel like it has only gotten worse over the years (Probably related to my declining self-esteem over the years). \n\nThe first time it was brought to my attention was by a substitute English teacher in High School who told me that people who say \"like\" a lot are people who aren't sure of themselves/what they're saying. \n\nSo Reddit, do you have any tips for me? ", "How do I speak with conviction and avoid filler words? I struggle a lot with speaking with confidence. Everything I say is riddled with filler words (ex: \"ummm\", \"like\", \"well...\", \"I guess\") and I feel like it has only gotten worse over the years (Probably related to my declining self-esteem over the years). \n\nThe first time it was brought to my attention was by a substitute English teacher in High School who told me that people who say \"like\" a lot are people who aren't sure of themselves/what they're saying. \n\nSo Reddit, do you have any tips for me? ", "How do I speak with conviction and avoid filler words? I struggle a lot with speaking with confidence. Everything I say is riddled with filler words (ex: \"ummm\", \"like\", \"well...\", \"I guess\") and I feel like it has only gotten worse over the years (Probably related to my declining self-esteem over the years). \n\nThe first time it was brought to my attention was by a substitute English teacher in High School who told me that people who say \"like\" a lot are people who aren't sure of themselves/what they're saying. \n\nSo Reddit, do you have any tips for me? ", "How do I speak with conviction and avoid filler words? I struggle a lot with speaking with confidence. Everything I say is riddled with filler words (ex: \"ummm\", \"like\", \"well...\", \"I guess\") and I feel like it has only gotten worse over the years (Probably related to my declining self-esteem over the years). \n\nThe first time it was brought to my attention was by a substitute English teacher in High School who told me that people who say \"like\" a lot are people who aren't sure of themselves/what they're saying. \n\nSo Reddit, do you have any tips for me? " ]

[ "I'm a very proud Freemason and one of the things taught is public speaking, during a meeting you find yourself wanting to bring something up, like maybe you want to ask the genealogy club to come and lecture at the lodge but you're Ina room filled with other people so you try to speak and you end up fumbling words or using filler words, uh,Er,um etc. that was my province, filler words. But I came to learn that even professional public speakers are victim of filler words. The big secret is to replace filler words with pauses. The pauses gives your mouth time to catch up to your brain. It also dresses your speech with an air of passion. It also gives your audience time chew and digest the information you've served them. \n\nIn short; don't be afraid to pause. Don't be afraid to have a few seconds of \"dead air\". Replace the filler words with pauses. \n\n👍🏻", "Some tips that helped me:\n\n1. Think of the main bullet points you want to hit. If you're doing a speech write down each point in a couple words. Write down technical terms you may forget in the moment. Do not write full sentences or a script\n\n2. Focus on the bullet points and transitional phrases between them. \"I think this because first off, bla bla bla. Second, bla bla bla\"\n\n3. Strike a power pose. Be upright, shoulders back, plant your feet slightly apart, and anchor your core muscles. Use big powerful gestures. \n\n4. Remember what you have to say, if well reasoned, is worthwhile and just as important as what anyone else has to say.\n\nGood luck", "https://www.toastmasters.org\n\nFind a local club near you. It's an international organization. I've found it fun and helpful. Enjoy!", "Speak less, research more. I've found topics I know more about I stumble less on. But if I'm trying to convey something I'm still figuring out, is rough. So I read more about everything I can. Tech articles, journals, only from reliable sources. \n\nAnd take a stand, if you feel you agree with something and can back it up, passion can help overcome your low confidence.", ">and I feel like it has only gotten worse over the years \n\nThis is a self fulfilling prophecy. As you start to be more self conscious with your speaking, you tend to screw up more.\n\n>people who say \"like\" a lot are people who aren't sure of themselves/what they're saying. \n\nOnly if it happens ~1 per sentence. Less than that is fine.\n\nSo my tips:\n\n1. Speak more, not less. No one starts out good, and no one gets good without practice. Get out there and practice. No one cares about how much you used to suck, as long as you are getting better.\n\n2. Speak slower. You think about 4x faster than you can speak. Don't try to beat that and speak quickly. Learn how to [dramatic pause](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g_SeVyzFxA8), I'm not kidding hear, silence is very powerful. You can actually replace all of your filler words with pauses for a more powerful effect.\n\n3. And my most uncommon tip (something you won't see often): slow down your internal monologue to speaking speed. Once you have this down, you simple speak exactly what you think. Using this, I can now talk for hours about nonsense if required (great for getting shy people to open up). This will take a few months (it took me about 3-4 months) where I would sometimes stop my train of thought and re-think it, sometimes speaking it softly to get the speed right. When you have this down, start adding pauses into your train of thought to mimic regular pauses, and you will sound (and be) very confident in your speech.", "1. I call bullshit on the substitute teacher's opinion; in modern usage, especially in the US, this speech pattern indicates belonging to a particular group and has no correlation with self confidence. Example: the gang member who walks up to you in the street, lifts his shirt to show you the butt of his gun, and says, \"Like, man, you don't belong here, eh?\" No lack of confidence on his part...\n\n2. \"You have to mean it, Harry.\" --Lord Voldemort after Harry tried the cruciatus curse on Belatrix and failed. Don't try to fake conviction. Say what you actually believe as best you can at the time. Remember that once said, your words now belong to the listener; they will misunderstand you part of the time. They will use your filler words to think about what you said, the same as you using them to think about what you're saying.\n\n3. Rhythm and tempo convey emotional meanings. In this regard, filler words are useful to tone down the emotions of a statement. They are great ways to softly correct someone who has said something in error. \"Well...., what about this other...\" \"Gee, if that's really true, then like I guess; wait; is it true?\"\n\n4. Get some practice. Most nervous speak can be remedied through practice. Remember that you'll never get rid of the butterflies in the stomach, but you can teach them to fly in formation. Toastmasters is a gentle introduction to public speaking for effectiveness. I recommend you visit several chapters and join the chapter that both challenges and supports you and what you're interested in. Some chapters are ad hoc ESL classes where immigrants practice their language skills. Very useful and fulfilling, but native speakers may get bored quickly. College chapters with faculty members are the other end of the spectrum, and the expectations for language competency are high. And then there's lots of chapters in between filled with business people trying to up their game. They're all fun and free to visit.\n\n5. Remember that few things we hold dear are ever discussed. If you have the need to speak well about something that you hold dear, you will need to practice. Record yourself; it's the very best feedback. Write it down and read it out loud into a recorder. You are training your ear and your tongue to coordinate with your thoughts; all three work at naturally different speeds. Practice will enable you to buffer your thoughts until your voice has finished, and your ear will orchestrate the pauses, tempo, pitch, and rhythm. Enjoy!", "* Think about what you want to say before you start speaking. You're using filler words because you don't have the next word queued up. Don't be afraid to pause if you need to think. Prioritize quality of speech over quantity of speech.\n\n* Read more to expand your vocabulary. Words are tools and more tools means you're more likely have the right tool for the job.\n\n* Play word games like scrabble, crosswords, bookworm, etc. (also to expand your vocabulary)\n\n* Learn to breathe with your diaphragm if you don't already. You'd be amazed how many people aren't getting enough oxygen to operate at 100%.\n\n* Stand up straight if you don't already. Good posture will make people a lot more receptive to what you say and they'll be more patient with you if you need to pause. I find that good posture also helps me breathe better but that could be psychosomatic." ]

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[ "how to make my voice deeper Male, late 20s. My voice is very deep in the morning, but by the end of the day, it sounds tinny and it cracks a lot. Like I'm going through puberty. How do I get that relaxed, resonant vocal range all day long? Thanks. ", "how to make my voice deeper Male, late 20s. My voice is very deep in the morning, but by the end of the day, it sounds tinny and it cracks a lot. Like I'm going through puberty. How do I get that relaxed, resonant vocal range all day long? Thanks. ", "how to make my voice deeper Male, late 20s. My voice is very deep in the morning, but by the end of the day, it sounds tinny and it cracks a lot. Like I'm going through puberty. How do I get that relaxed, resonant vocal range all day long? Thanks. ", "how to make my voice deeper Male, late 20s. My voice is very deep in the morning, but by the end of the day, it sounds tinny and it cracks a lot. Like I'm going through puberty. How do I get that relaxed, resonant vocal range all day long? Thanks. ", "how to make my voice deeper Male, late 20s. My voice is very deep in the morning, but by the end of the day, it sounds tinny and it cracks a lot. Like I'm going through puberty. How do I get that relaxed, resonant vocal range all day long? Thanks. " ]

[ "Your vocal cords are directly connected to your testicles. When they drop, the increase tension deepens your voice. I would suggest attaching some kind of weight to your scrotum. ", "Talk normally but plug your nose up as if you smelt something rotten.\n\n\nYou will either feel a buzzing nose in your nose, or in your chest/diaphragm.\n\n\nIf you feel buzzing in your nose your not speaking from your chest.\n\n\nSAY IT WITH YOUR CHEST - Kevin hart. ", "Weak diaphragm. Pick up deep breathing exercises. It takes a decent amount of diaphragm strength to speak from your chest. ", "Take a full breath in, then push it out with your abs.\n\nWhenever you have to project, push your wind out with those same ab muscles. That's half of it.\n\nPeople are going to have different vocal ranges, and most people don't like the sound of their own voice. I think I sound like a late teens skater when I hear the sound of my voice, for instance.\n\nIf you want, go and join a men's vocal group or choir. They'll help you figure out where your strengths are vocally and help you to realize that what you're capable of is part of a larger ensemble. It'll help you appreciate that your voice is important even if you don't like it.", "Afaik, in the morning your vocal chord are relaxed and this equal to a deeper voice.\nI heard that to get a deeper voice you must \"talk with your stomach\" , the voice must come from your guts, something like that.\nAnyway, i noticed that huge/ripped men have a deep voice, small men (like me) have a tiny one, it's probably related to the muscles of the neck.\nI fact, i read about some exercises for your neck to have a deeper voice, something like this: http://www.actuarialoutpost.com/actuarial_discussion_forum/archive/index.php/t-231686.html\nI tried them without success..\n\nI'm following your post to have more informations!" ]

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[ "How to prevent/fix collar creasing on flannel shirts All of my flannel shirts end up with [very strong creasing on the collar](http://i.imgur.com/5VKoLewh.jpg). Ironing doesn't seem to help much. Does anyone have advice? ", "How to prevent/fix collar creasing on flannel shirts All of my flannel shirts end up with [very strong creasing on the collar](http://i.imgur.com/5VKoLewh.jpg). Ironing doesn't seem to help much. Does anyone have advice? ", "How to prevent/fix collar creasing on flannel shirts All of my flannel shirts end up with [very strong creasing on the collar](http://i.imgur.com/5VKoLewh.jpg). Ironing doesn't seem to help much. Does anyone have advice? " ]

[ "Take it to a dry cleaner/laundry first and have them \"remove\" the crease. Ask them the best way to maintain from there.\n\n", "A quick and easy fix to get wrinkles out of a collar is to use a hair straightener on it. It's like a mini double sided iron. ", "1) Always unbutton collar before washing. \n2) Iron collar with Niagara (or some other brand) Spray Starch. This should hold it for at least a few washes and help \"untrain\" the fabric from creasing along that same location. Use a couple of light coats rather than drenching the collar with the starch all at once." ]

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[ "How to start getting in shape as a total beginner to exercise (i.e., never been 'in shape' before) Think someone who can barely do a modified push-up properly, that's the kind of beginner I'm talking about. How does one best start from here?", "How to start getting in shape as a total beginner to exercise (i.e., never been 'in shape' before) Think someone who can barely do a modified push-up properly, that's the kind of beginner I'm talking about. How does one best start from here?", "How to start getting in shape as a total beginner to exercise (i.e., never been 'in shape' before) Think someone who can barely do a modified push-up properly, that's the kind of beginner I'm talking about. How does one best start from here?", "How to start getting in shape as a total beginner to exercise (i.e., never been 'in shape' before) Think someone who can barely do a modified push-up properly, that's the kind of beginner I'm talking about. How does one best start from here?", "How to start getting in shape as a total beginner to exercise (i.e., never been 'in shape' before) Think someone who can barely do a modified push-up properly, that's the kind of beginner I'm talking about. How does one best start from here?", "How to start getting in shape as a total beginner to exercise (i.e., never been 'in shape' before) Think someone who can barely do a modified push-up properly, that's the kind of beginner I'm talking about. How does one best start from here?", "How to start getting in shape as a total beginner to exercise (i.e., never been 'in shape' before) Think someone who can barely do a modified push-up properly, that's the kind of beginner I'm talking about. How does one best start from here?", "How to start getting in shape as a total beginner to exercise (i.e., never been 'in shape' before) Think someone who can barely do a modified push-up properly, that's the kind of beginner I'm talking about. How does one best start from here?", "How to start getting in shape as a total beginner to exercise (i.e., never been 'in shape' before) Think someone who can barely do a modified push-up properly, that's the kind of beginner I'm talking about. How does one best start from here?", "How to start getting in shape as a total beginner to exercise (i.e., never been 'in shape' before) Think someone who can barely do a modified push-up properly, that's the kind of beginner I'm talking about. How does one best start from here?", "How to start getting in shape as a total beginner to exercise (i.e., never been 'in shape' before) Think someone who can barely do a modified push-up properly, that's the kind of beginner I'm talking about. How does one best start from here?", "How to start getting in shape as a total beginner to exercise (i.e., never been 'in shape' before) Think someone who can barely do a modified push-up properly, that's the kind of beginner I'm talking about. How does one best start from here?" ]

[ "As others are saying, try going for a 10-15 minute walk 4-5 times per week. This does not mean 1 or 2 or 3 miles. It means 10-15 minutes. This should be at a pace that is firm. Not running, but not lollygagging. \n\nWhen I started with push ups, I used to have to do them against the wall. It took a few weeks and I could do them off my knees. Then another week or so and I was comfortably doing 2-3 at a time in proper position. I used to do a set of 3-5 between commercials while watching tv. It is a slow and steady process, dont give up after 1 week, because trust me, after just 1 month of good effort, and you will see results and improvements in strength that will make you want to keep on working.\n\nFor myself, 2 years later I am down about 40 pounds and the strongest I have ever been in my life.", "You may be tired of hearing this already, but simply getting out and walking for an hour a day will do a lot to get you headed in the right direction.", "biking is a lot better exercise than walking, if you are able to utilize it instead, I would. dont jog, it actually doesnt burn more caloies than walking, and will make you more prone to joint injury. if you do have joint injury, or are very worried about it, look into swimming, its considered the best form of cardio out there, and is really healthy for joints. \n\nBut that's all for endurance and cardio. \nIf you are looking to get physically stronger, you'll have to pump some iron (or body weight) If you are out of shape as in overweight, I'd suggest you work on lifting weight, overweight people tend to be surprisingly strong, due to lifting so much extra weight around all the time. none the less, start low, and work your way up. I had a friend in highschool who could hardly do 15 push ups, but benched 200 easy. Think raw strength, rather than endurance. Find the time to go to a gym; no one will sneer at you for being out of shape. In fact, seeing someone actively trying to change for the better breeds respect.\n\nIf you are out of shape as in scrawny stoner, body weight is a great start, as it will build muscle endurance, and then strength, which is better for a skinny body type.\n\nAll it takes is self motivation, proper diet, and discipline tho; you got to go until you can't no more, and then do two more sets. \n\"I don't count my sit-ups, I only start counting when it starts hurting,\nwhen I feel pain, that's when I start counting, because that's when it really counts.\"\n-muhammad ali\n\nAlso you might want to check the /r/fitness sticky ", "You start with light weight and do 10 reps. Do 10, then wait 30 seconds or a minute, and do 10 more. Continue a 3rd time. After lifting weights like that, switch to 6 reps, 3 sets with more weight. If you just want crazy mass, lift as much as you can in one set.", "Start off small. Everyone needs to start somewhere. If you go to the gym, don't feel bad benching the bar just because the guy next to you is doing 225 lbs. He's probably been going everyday for years.\n\nIf you're a self motivator, home workouts like p90x or insanity are great. I can give you more info or help you choose one that suits you if you'd like.\n\nOtherwise, I would actually recommend shelling out for a personal trainer for a few sessions to get started as they'll usually get you headed in the right direction. \n\nBodybuilding.com will be your go to resource for this, google as well. Anything you don't know lookup before you try it. Any sort of 5x5 plan is great for a beginner as they'll, more often than not, work your whole body.\n\nSimple supplements are great for recovery (whey protein, creatine). \n\nFinally, track track track everything that you do. I recommend downloading Fitocracy, or an app like that and tracking all your workouts. Track from the weights you do, to how many sets, to how difficult something was. It'll also have plans if you wanna do their built in ones (which I've never explored). Not only will it give you a tangible way of viewing your progress, but it'll also help you know what weight to do each time you get to the gym.\n\nFeel free to ask me any questions!", "Eat a lot of fruits like bananas, apples, strawberries, oranges etc\n\nThey taste amazing and they give you energy\n\nAlso for me, it helped me lose some fat", "You need motivation. I started subscribing to bodybuilding channels on YouTube and got tremendous amount of tips. Combined advises such as diet, exercise, protein intake, calorie counting etc... Been going to the gym for 1.5 months now and lost 17lbs.", "Last 10mins of lunch go for a walk. Not only will you be exercising and burning calories... You get a change of scenery and fresh air", "Don't go crazy at first, listen to your body and how it feels. Start off small, like everyone suggested. A big element in exercise that has helped me is to do it without thinking. Go in there with the mentality \"don't think\" and you will find yourself just doing it. In exercise, this is a mentality that will give you results. It's also a good way to get out of your head about it, (it's a rule I learned in improv, too).", "Conquer the modified pushup, get to work on the regular pushup. There is no secret. It's just hard work and persistence. ", "Classes and tapes. If you gym offers a class in anything show up, try your best and have fun. If you show up a few minutes early you can ask the instructor about how to modify to make it a bit easier (most will note this anyway). \n\nAs for tapes hulu has some good workout ones and I'd highly recommend taking a look at daily burn. They have a true beginner program you don't even need to think about, just play the tape in the series for that day and you are good to go. Easiest way to get into shape ever and requires almost zero thought. ", "*Don't go batshit and drop all your calories. Eat as you've been eating just turn to healthy choices.\n\n*Start a strength program - Starting Strength, Jim Wendlers 5/3/1, Jonnie Candito.\n\n*Once engaged in working out, smartly eat your calories. Means, eat carbohydrates pre and post workout. Latter being the most amount of it. This utilizes proper insulin usage.\n\n*Slowly, I mean slowly taper your calories as you progress. I recommend reducing cals weekly.\n\n*Good luck" ]

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[ "How best to turn someone down for dating Mainly for after going on a few dates and realizing someone isn't for you, either personality wise, emotionally, or intimately.\n\nContext: Been intermittently dating a few girls and decided I want to get serious with one. How do I cut ties with the others without hurting their feelings / saying the wrong thing?", "How best to turn someone down for dating Mainly for after going on a few dates and realizing someone isn't for you, either personality wise, emotionally, or intimately.\n\nContext: Been intermittently dating a few girls and decided I want to get serious with one. How do I cut ties with the others without hurting their feelings / saying the wrong thing?", "How best to turn someone down for dating Mainly for after going on a few dates and realizing someone isn't for you, either personality wise, emotionally, or intimately.\n\nContext: Been intermittently dating a few girls and decided I want to get serious with one. How do I cut ties with the others without hurting their feelings / saying the wrong thing?", "How best to turn someone down for dating Mainly for after going on a few dates and realizing someone isn't for you, either personality wise, emotionally, or intimately.\n\nContext: Been intermittently dating a few girls and decided I want to get serious with one. How do I cut ties with the others without hurting their feelings / saying the wrong thing?", "How best to turn someone down for dating Mainly for after going on a few dates and realizing someone isn't for you, either personality wise, emotionally, or intimately.\n\nContext: Been intermittently dating a few girls and decided I want to get serious with one. How do I cut ties with the others without hurting their feelings / saying the wrong thing?", "How best to turn someone down for dating Mainly for after going on a few dates and realizing someone isn't for you, either personality wise, emotionally, or intimately.\n\nContext: Been intermittently dating a few girls and decided I want to get serious with one. How do I cut ties with the others without hurting their feelings / saying the wrong thing?", "How best to turn someone down for dating Mainly for after going on a few dates and realizing someone isn't for you, either personality wise, emotionally, or intimately.\n\nContext: Been intermittently dating a few girls and decided I want to get serious with one. How do I cut ties with the others without hurting their feelings / saying the wrong thing?", "How best to turn someone down for dating Mainly for after going on a few dates and realizing someone isn't for you, either personality wise, emotionally, or intimately.\n\nContext: Been intermittently dating a few girls and decided I want to get serious with one. How do I cut ties with the others without hurting their feelings / saying the wrong thing?", "How best to turn someone down for dating Mainly for after going on a few dates and realizing someone isn't for you, either personality wise, emotionally, or intimately.\n\nContext: Been intermittently dating a few girls and decided I want to get serious with one. How do I cut ties with the others without hurting their feelings / saying the wrong thing?", "How best to turn someone down for dating Mainly for after going on a few dates and realizing someone isn't for you, either personality wise, emotionally, or intimately.\n\nContext: Been intermittently dating a few girls and decided I want to get serious with one. How do I cut ties with the others without hurting their feelings / saying the wrong thing?", "How best to turn someone down for dating Mainly for after going on a few dates and realizing someone isn't for you, either personality wise, emotionally, or intimately.\n\nContext: Been intermittently dating a few girls and decided I want to get serious with one. How do I cut ties with the others without hurting their feelings / saying the wrong thing?", "How best to turn someone down for dating Mainly for after going on a few dates and realizing someone isn't for you, either personality wise, emotionally, or intimately.\n\nContext: Been intermittently dating a few girls and decided I want to get serious with one. How do I cut ties with the others without hurting their feelings / saying the wrong thing?" ]

[ "Just be honest. Tell them it isn't for you. Odds are they are mature people who'd understand. \n\nOtherwise you can tell them you just found out you are gay. ", "\"It's been really nice spending time with you and getting to know you, but I'm afraid I don't feel the connection that I'm looking for.\"", "Some of this advice is terrible. Don't treat humans like this.\n\n\nIf you want to stop dating these other girls you need to call them or meet them in a context that is clearly not a date, and tell them specifically that you don't want to date them anymore. Don't get into details unless they demand or deserve it. If you try to give a specific reason they may spend time and effort trying to change something about themselves in an effort to get you back when that's obviously not going to work.\n\n\n", "I'm not recommending this, but the Japanese Breakup (stop talking to the person) is always an option. \n\nhttp://howibecametexan.com/2013/11/07/things-i-dont-understand-about-japan-the-japanese-break-up-method/", "Depends on whether they were aware you were dating multiple people or not. I'm assuming they weren't, or this wouldn't be a reddit worthy question.\n\nThat said, be honest (and consider doing that from the start in the future). Tell them that you met someone else who is interested in you and who you want to pursue something serious with, and compliment on what you genuinely do like about them (why you dated them in the first place) to soften the blow.", "what ever you do, don't just ignore them, thats the worst. And It happens sooo often, well a tleast for me anyways :/", "Whatever you do, make sure you don't just \"ghost\" them. It might be awkward for you to tell them what's really going on, but you never know what someone is going through and how your sudden disappearance might affect them.\n ", "Try making it about you. \n\n\"Hi xxxxx, I (maybe) had fun with you when we were together but I'm not ready to take the next step with you in a relationship and I don't think it would be fair for me to lead you on. Thanks for going out with me!\"", "This comment has been manually overwritten to protect the user's privacy. It is being prepared for deletion.", "If that's didn't make it clear that you were going to date other people at the start, that's seriously not cool. That notwithstanding, you owe it to this person to be honest with them. That you don't feel as though you two are a good fit and that you don't want to continue dating them because you have been exploring other possible relationships and you want to pursue one of them. It's going to hurt them to hear this, but a painful truth is better than a soothing lie. Because in 2 weeks when you and your new love interest run into this person at the market, the truth will come out anyway and then this person will be even more hurt that you broke up AND lied. ", "Be kind, respectful, and clear. Also, understand that their feelings might be hurt regardless of your approach, because being turned down/broken up with sucks any way you slice it. ", "This isn't 1950. Not cool that you did it in the first place.\n\n" ]

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[ "What's the best advice you can give a 19 year old that's moving to a city in California with only 10 grand saved up? ", "What's the best advice you can give a 19 year old that's moving to a city in California with only 10 grand saved up? ", "What's the best advice you can give a 19 year old that's moving to a city in California with only 10 grand saved up? ", "What's the best advice you can give a 19 year old that's moving to a city in California with only 10 grand saved up? ", "What's the best advice you can give a 19 year old that's moving to a city in California with only 10 grand saved up? " ]

[ "First of all. 10k at 19?! Impressive. Seriously. \n\nBest advice not knowing anything about you: \n\nDon’t be picky about a job out of the gate. Income is income, you can always change later. Stay humble. Don’t get caught up in coastal “flash” as there is a lot of money out there (believe me, I know, I live in Miami). Continue to save! Pay off your cr", "Don’t get scammed , there are so many people that will try to swindle you out of your money , send me 9 grand and I’ll tell you exactly how to avoid it ", "Where in California? California is diverse, and saying you’re moving here is like a foreigner saying they’re moving to the United States. It all depends where specifically. $10K only covers 2 1/2 months of rent in San Francisco ($3400-$4000 for a one-bedroom), if you can find a place that cheap in the first place. That's really just over a month if you have to leave first and last month's deposit. Average studio rent in LA is $1600, a little less in San Diego, and only $600 in Fresno. ", "I think if you're 19 & you already have 10 grand saved up you should probably just keep doing whatever you're already doing!! Go you!", "Depends on the city honestly. California is huge and rural mountain towns in Northern California are going to be different than big metros or suburban beach or inland cities so take my advice with a grain of salt :) \n\nMake friends with everyone. Network constantly. You never know who knows who, and whether the stranger you're getting coffee by at the gas station could be someone who could help you (or you could help them). Be open to opportunities. Everyone has a story, and letting people take you under their wing and show you around is great (like others have said, don't get scammed).\n\nI moved to west LA with less than a grand saved and made it 7 months happily. Took a few random jobs and used the time I wasn't working to get familiar with the city and be social. I ultimately ended up taking a job in a different state but the connections I made in LA are still there if I ever wanted to go back. \n\nI didn't want to date when I first got there but got to know the city really well (which helps with getting some jobs that require you to be familiar with the area) by going on cheap dates with people. Grabbing a coffee and talking to other people who had been in my shoes was extremely helpful. Big cities can be lonely and it can be easy to feel isolated and discouraged of things aren't going the way you think-- so having people who are in your same boat to commiserate with or celebrate with makes a lot of difference.\n\nI'm excited for you! Moving to a big city is a great experience :)" ]

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[ "I'm getting an arranged marriage, how can I break the ice with my wife? Well, I live in one of those placed where your family arranges pretty much everything, but at least they gave me a few options on which girl to marry, sadly I don't remember alot about them except that when we were children. Anyway, how can I break the ice with her after our wedding? Including personal talks, sex, etc, .. Please help a guy out :'(", "I'm getting an arranged marriage, how can I break the ice with my wife? Well, I live in one of those placed where your family arranges pretty much everything, but at least they gave me a few options on which girl to marry, sadly I don't remember alot about them except that when we were children. Anyway, how can I break the ice with her after our wedding? Including personal talks, sex, etc, .. Please help a guy out :'(", "I'm getting an arranged marriage, how can I break the ice with my wife? Well, I live in one of those placed where your family arranges pretty much everything, but at least they gave me a few options on which girl to marry, sadly I don't remember alot about them except that when we were children. Anyway, how can I break the ice with her after our wedding? Including personal talks, sex, etc, .. Please help a guy out :'(", "I'm getting an arranged marriage, how can I break the ice with my wife? Well, I live in one of those placed where your family arranges pretty much everything, but at least they gave me a few options on which girl to marry, sadly I don't remember alot about them except that when we were children. Anyway, how can I break the ice with her after our wedding? Including personal talks, sex, etc, .. Please help a guy out :'(", "I'm getting an arranged marriage, how can I break the ice with my wife? Well, I live in one of those placed where your family arranges pretty much everything, but at least they gave me a few options on which girl to marry, sadly I don't remember alot about them except that when we were children. Anyway, how can I break the ice with her after our wedding? Including personal talks, sex, etc, .. Please help a guy out :'(", "I'm getting an arranged marriage, how can I break the ice with my wife? Well, I live in one of those placed where your family arranges pretty much everything, but at least they gave me a few options on which girl to marry, sadly I don't remember alot about them except that when we were children. Anyway, how can I break the ice with her after our wedding? Including personal talks, sex, etc, .. Please help a guy out :'(", "I'm getting an arranged marriage, how can I break the ice with my wife? Well, I live in one of those placed where your family arranges pretty much everything, but at least they gave me a few options on which girl to marry, sadly I don't remember alot about them except that when we were children. Anyway, how can I break the ice with her after our wedding? Including personal talks, sex, etc, .. Please help a guy out :'(", "I'm getting an arranged marriage, how can I break the ice with my wife? Well, I live in one of those placed where your family arranges pretty much everything, but at least they gave me a few options on which girl to marry, sadly I don't remember alot about them except that when we were children. Anyway, how can I break the ice with her after our wedding? Including personal talks, sex, etc, .. Please help a guy out :'(", "I'm getting an arranged marriage, how can I break the ice with my wife? Well, I live in one of those placed where your family arranges pretty much everything, but at least they gave me a few options on which girl to marry, sadly I don't remember alot about them except that when we were children. Anyway, how can I break the ice with her after our wedding? Including personal talks, sex, etc, .. Please help a guy out :'(", "I'm getting an arranged marriage, how can I break the ice with my wife? Well, I live in one of those placed where your family arranges pretty much everything, but at least they gave me a few options on which girl to marry, sadly I don't remember alot about them except that when we were children. Anyway, how can I break the ice with her after our wedding? Including personal talks, sex, etc, .. Please help a guy out :'(", "I'm getting an arranged marriage, how can I break the ice with my wife? Well, I live in one of those placed where your family arranges pretty much everything, but at least they gave me a few options on which girl to marry, sadly I don't remember alot about them except that when we were children. Anyway, how can I break the ice with her after our wedding? Including personal talks, sex, etc, .. Please help a guy out :'(", "I'm getting an arranged marriage, how can I break the ice with my wife? Well, I live in one of those placed where your family arranges pretty much everything, but at least they gave me a few options on which girl to marry, sadly I don't remember alot about them except that when we were children. Anyway, how can I break the ice with her after our wedding? Including personal talks, sex, etc, .. Please help a guy out :'(" ]

[ "A group of psychologists came up with a list of questions that help build intimacy between strangers. Supposedly the people they tried the questions out on ended up getting married. \n\nAsk her if she's read the article, ask her if the idea sounds unbelievable, then ask her if she wants to try the questions with you. \nhttp://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html", "I'm from a culture where arranged marriages are a thing and let me tell you: you're in for a shitty life. You will never ever divorce her or your parents will estrange you for ever. They will always control this very intimate part of your life. But the sad part of the story is that sex for your wife is highly likely to feel like rape or prostitution because... Well, she just does it because of the pressure. On the other hand, you'll love your children very much and you'll grow used to your little prison. \n\nBe nice to her. Do not rush sex. It is insanely traumatic to have sex with à man that was basically chosen by your parents. \n\n", "I second what /u/thenaesh suggested in terms of conversation, and a few things others have suggested: show that you are kind, and not only to her. Be kind to waiters and salespeople and the garbage collector. Treat your early marriage like you would a dating relationship, getting to know each other and getting more comfortable.\n\nBe clear that you want to help make sure you're both comfortable with each other and are okay if that doesn't happen right away. I chose my spouse, but things evolve even over just the first few years in terms of what feels romantic, levels of emotional closeness, shared interests and activities, etc. Spend time together, choose an activity together that you can do frequently if not daily, and set an example of open communication: don't let frustrations fester until you can't discuss them without an argument. Sharing a home with someone means that ultimately your habits have to merge and you have to set mutual guidelines for the places that they don't.\n\nPlenty of people in arranged marriages have gone on to be very happy, and plenty of people who marry for love go on to be miserable. The key is not the beginning, but what happens over the years. If you are both kind, considerate of one another's needs and feelings, mutually respectful, and communicate well, you can handle most obstacles. If you are selfish, inconsiderate, let things seethe instead of discussing them, and see your partner and their needs as less important than you and yours, then things will be very difficult.\n\nIf your parents or family are rude to her, stick up for her as much as possible, and when you can't, understand that she will be upset about it, because it never feels good to be attacked by someone you have to live with.\n\nWhen it comes to sex, a lot of the same guidelines apply: communication and mutual respect are key. If you can wait until you're both emotionally ready, do so. Go slowly, and learn what the other person enjoys from start to finish, not just in the penetration stage. If possible, learn as much as you can about the female body, how it works, erogenous zones, and so on--and not from male-oriented porn. Know that for many (though not all) women, sexual pleasure is not strictly physical, and her feelings toward you, toward herself, and toward other things going on in life will have an impact on how it goes. And contrary to popular belief, even if she's a virgin, it still shouldn't be particularly painful. Some (though not all) people experience a painful moment when the hymen breaks, but not everyone has one to begin with and not everyone experiences the break, and even if they do, it should be brief--other than that moment, an adequately aroused female body should not generally experience pain during sex. If she finds penetration painful, there's plenty else to do for both of you, and you can try again either later or another day.", "Do your best to win her heart.\n\nTalk to her. Lots of talking and be very open.\n\nDo not try to impress her.\n\nHowever do not appear clingy. Be strong. That means not letting things bother you. It doesn't mean being bad tempered or rude. But always stand up for yourself and her. Even against the parents.\n\nMake her feel that your are capable of protecting her children.\n\nBe kind to everyone and let her see this.\n\nBe fun and find things to laugh about.", "As a married guy I'll tell you that love is less a feeling than a choice. Every day you choose to act kindly, slow respect, put their needs first. When you both do that, the rest follows.\n\nAs an ice breaker...I don't know\n\"You look a LOT like my first wife\"? :)", "you can talk to her before marriage. so that it wont be odd on your wedding day. the best way is to ask normal questions, what do they like and all that. if you think that you are not finding anything to talk then you can go to watch movie. meet her friends.basically try to mix her with your life", "Mostly, just be kind to her. Even if you don't love her, behave as if you do. Treat her the way you'd treat someone you love. Think about her feelings, think about what it's like for her to be with you, think about what she needs from you.\n\nAnd don't rush her into sex if she's not ready. Be very very gentle with that - if you cause trauma the first time you do it, she'll never feel the same about it again. Seduce her slowly and be very mindful of her feelings. \n\nI think it is possible to build a good marriage this way, but you have to be very gentle and very careful with each other. And do think of it as \"building a good marriage\" - if you're in the kind of culture that arranges marriages, presumably this is a lifelong relationship you're going to be in. Think of the long term. If you cause trauma now, you're never going to have good sex with her ever again. For life. If you're kind and gentle and seduce her slowly and get to know her and her attitudes towards sex, you're setting yourself up for a lifetime of good sex. Think about what you'd rather have for the next 50 years.", "Show her that she can trust you and you will not judge her. \n \nTell her some harmless, funny and mildly stupid things you have done in the past. If you are afraid to open up to her, you cannot expect her to open up to you.\n \nAsk her what hobbies she has and what other hobbies she would like to take up in the near future. If you find a common hobby, immediately show support and suggest doing it together. \n \nMake breakfast for her! \n \nTry baking a cake or whatever you guys agree together on the weekend. \n \n", "Maybe take them out on a date? Typical dinner and a movie or something. Build up a relationship just like you would with any other person", "1) Take some some ice from the champagne holder on your wedding night\n\n2) Throw it on the ground\n\n3) Stare into her eyes\n\n4) \"I guess I just..\"\n\n5a) Put some shades on\n\nIf no shades:\n\n5b) Pretend to put shades on\n\n6) \"BROKE THE ICE\"", "I'm sorry to say, but I can't even get a girlfriend. So good luck finding help and everything, I hope everything works out. ", "If not fat:\"Thank god you're not fat\"\n\nIf fat:\"I'm on a strict diet and exercise regimen, and you will be too\"" ]

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[ "How to console a friend on a rough day? I have a few friends who vent in chat about the rough day they're having. What should I say to them?", "How to console a friend on a rough day? I have a few friends who vent in chat about the rough day they're having. What should I say to them?" ]

[ "People that are venting don't want solutions, they usually just want acknowledgment. Don't be \"that guy\" and start offering solutions unless they ask.", "If it's solvable--- Hear them out, ask if they want your honest opinion, speak as if you are in their shoes. What would you do if you were them? If it's just shitty news--- Feel them out, ask if they want to do something to get their mind off of it or if they want to talk about it. Say you're there for them either way. Actually be there, too " ]

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[ "Wearing over-ear headphones on glasses Is there way to wear over-ear headphones with glasses on without having the sides crushing your head? ", "Wearing over-ear headphones on glasses Is there way to wear over-ear headphones with glasses on without having the sides crushing your head? ", "Wearing over-ear headphones on glasses Is there way to wear over-ear headphones with glasses on without having the sides crushing your head? ", "Wearing over-ear headphones on glasses Is there way to wear over-ear headphones with glasses on without having the sides crushing your head? ", "Wearing over-ear headphones on glasses Is there way to wear over-ear headphones with glasses on without having the sides crushing your head? " ]

[ "I tilt my glasses up out of the way of the earpieces. I can still see fine when I do this, which may not be the case for everyone.", "you just need to find glasses friendly ones. ive gone years with this problem until i got my razer cacharius. its so comfortable even with glasses. buy a few headsets and see what works with your glasses. even try the cacharius", "I use [Steelseries Siberia V2](http://steelseries.com/products/audio/steelseries-siberia-v2) gaming headset, which offers absolute comfort even while I wear glasses. More than often, it's the headset itself that isn't appropriate for glasses wear, while sometimes it's the glasses themselves that aren't compatible with over-the-ears headsets.", "I like putting some of the cord on the bottom part so it balances out the pressure. You could try putting some foam or something else at the bottom of the head phones.", "Get some kind of foam pad or something, cut it into a circular shape with a hole in the middle (effectively an \"O\" or a donut-shape) and glue them onto your headphones. It might look dorky but hey." ]

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[ "How can I tell if someone is cheating on me? I try to give my parter as much trust as possible and I don't want to harass them by asking questions all the time. If the my partner isn't cheating then I could lose the relationship by not trusting them but sometimes the stories just don't add up and sound super suspicious. I don't know what to do. :( ", "How can I tell if someone is cheating on me? I try to give my parter as much trust as possible and I don't want to harass them by asking questions all the time. If the my partner isn't cheating then I could lose the relationship by not trusting them but sometimes the stories just don't add up and sound super suspicious. I don't know what to do. :( ", "How can I tell if someone is cheating on me? I try to give my parter as much trust as possible and I don't want to harass them by asking questions all the time. If the my partner isn't cheating then I could lose the relationship by not trusting them but sometimes the stories just don't add up and sound super suspicious. I don't know what to do. :( ", "How can I tell if someone is cheating on me? I try to give my parter as much trust as possible and I don't want to harass them by asking questions all the time. If the my partner isn't cheating then I could lose the relationship by not trusting them but sometimes the stories just don't add up and sound super suspicious. I don't know what to do. :( ", "How can I tell if someone is cheating on me? I try to give my parter as much trust as possible and I don't want to harass them by asking questions all the time. If the my partner isn't cheating then I could lose the relationship by not trusting them but sometimes the stories just don't add up and sound super suspicious. I don't know what to do. :( ", "How can I tell if someone is cheating on me? I try to give my parter as much trust as possible and I don't want to harass them by asking questions all the time. If the my partner isn't cheating then I could lose the relationship by not trusting them but sometimes the stories just don't add up and sound super suspicious. I don't know what to do. :( ", "How can I tell if someone is cheating on me? I try to give my parter as much trust as possible and I don't want to harass them by asking questions all the time. If the my partner isn't cheating then I could lose the relationship by not trusting them but sometimes the stories just don't add up and sound super suspicious. I don't know what to do. :( ", "How can I tell if someone is cheating on me? I try to give my parter as much trust as possible and I don't want to harass them by asking questions all the time. If the my partner isn't cheating then I could lose the relationship by not trusting them but sometimes the stories just don't add up and sound super suspicious. I don't know what to do. :( ", "How can I tell if someone is cheating on me? I try to give my parter as much trust as possible and I don't want to harass them by asking questions all the time. If the my partner isn't cheating then I could lose the relationship by not trusting them but sometimes the stories just don't add up and sound super suspicious. I don't know what to do. :( ", "How can I tell if someone is cheating on me? I try to give my parter as much trust as possible and I don't want to harass them by asking questions all the time. If the my partner isn't cheating then I could lose the relationship by not trusting them but sometimes the stories just don't add up and sound super suspicious. I don't know what to do. :( " ]

[ "Look for the most obvious signs and a sudden onset of:\n\n-They become secretive (leaving the room to make a phone call, hiding their phone, etc.)\n\n-They no longer want to have sex and it's not due to any changes like working longer hours or health issues.\n\n-They change their appearance to become more attractive, start buying new clothes, more hours at the gym etc.\n\n-They give evasive answers to simple questions -- or worse, they offer up too much information when asked where they've been.\n\n-Out of nowhere, they get a tattoo with your name. (Source: I cheated ONCE...and got the tattoo out of guilt.)\n\n", "\"Hey I know this is going to sound messed up but I feel like your hiding something from me and it's eating me up thinking you can't trust me or something\". \n\nSome good old honest and nonjudgemental love-based discussion might solve your problem. Seriously. Go talk about your relationship issues openly, without being a dick and/or cunt to the person you're with. ", "Sometimes if you smell the smoke you don't need to see the fire. You haven't given us much information, but your gut is telling you something your heart may not be ready to accept. My best advice is mentally prepare yourself for the worst. It's okay to be suspicious. You deserve to know the truth.", "I'd say the most health thing you could probably do is talk to them about how you've been feeling insecure in the relationship lately, you might end up losing the relationship but if your partner cares for you anymore they will at least try to work through it, if not they won't and you save yourself some time, rather now than stay in the relationship for another year and find out they are cheating or even if they aren't they don't want to be together anymore. Personally I found that my insecurity doesn't stem from nothing rather many little thing I haven't connect yet.", "Easy. They're gone all the time. Every weekend is \"girls night\" or a \"conference out of town\" they suddenly have to \"work late\" every single night. Oh and suddenly their phone is PIN locked and they change all their computer passwords. Time to pack up and leave before they do.", "Talk to them about why you think they are cheating but don't accuse them of anything. For example if you found a bill for a hotel room ask them why there is a bill for a hotel charge. It could be his/her cr", "If you think they are cheating on you. It might mean there is a down point in the relationship. \n\nright now would be a good time to see a couples therapist. \n\nif neither you nor your partner are willign to take the time to go see a therapist together for an hour, then i would suggest the relationship is not fufilling for either you and your partner and that neither are willing to work on it. so then i would suggest finding a new partner. \n\nbut if both find seeing a profession for trying to make the relationship better as a good idea. then you know your partner love you very much and values the relationship and is willing to work to keep it going, thus you know they are not cheating! ", "If you find part of a condom wrapper on the floor somewhere and you question your partner and they say \"It's embarrassing but sometimes I masturbate into condoms so there's no mess.\" THEY'RE CHEATING.", "If you believe your partner is cheating on you with a consistent \"side chick/bro\", then you can use their iPhone (assuming they have one in this scenario) to track their most recent locations.\n\n[Here's](http://www.iclarified.com/36198/how-to-view-the-location-history-of-your-iphone) the breakdown of the how-to.\n\nHope this helps!\n\n", "I'm not saying their partner is cheating but maybe their heart isn't in it anymore but they love them and don't want to hurt them. Either way it's better to either decide they are going to work through it or leave it." ]

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[ "Controlling/reducing the amount of goose down from my coat which gets stuck to everything I wear I bought a down coat just over a month ago (too late for returns), not knowing that they can give off an unwieldy amount of feathers and stick to everything underneath.\n\nAny pro tips to prevent getting all those feathers on my clothes?", "Controlling/reducing the amount of goose down from my coat which gets stuck to everything I wear I bought a down coat just over a month ago (too late for returns), not knowing that they can give off an unwieldy amount of feathers and stick to everything underneath.\n\nAny pro tips to prevent getting all those feathers on my clothes?", "Controlling/reducing the amount of goose down from my coat which gets stuck to everything I wear I bought a down coat just over a month ago (too late for returns), not knowing that they can give off an unwieldy amount of feathers and stick to everything underneath.\n\nAny pro tips to prevent getting all those feathers on my clothes?", "Controlling/reducing the amount of goose down from my coat which gets stuck to everything I wear I bought a down coat just over a month ago (too late for returns), not knowing that they can give off an unwieldy amount of feathers and stick to everything underneath.\n\nAny pro tips to prevent getting all those feathers on my clothes?" ]

[ "I've owned a couple of down coats, and I've never had them shed so much down that it's a problem. Is the coat from a higher-end retailer? Places like Patagonia, North Face and REI would happily exchange gear that's malfunctioning. I'd bring it back to them and talk to them about the problem you're having. I'd be concerned about how quickly the coat would lose down and become less warm, especially if it was expensive.\n\nOtherwise, could you waterproof the inside of the jacket to make it more impervious to the feathers? I have no experience with what this does to fabric, so I can't really advise on this. \n\nYou could also buy a lightweight fleece that you could always wear as a layer inside the coat. The fleece would catch all the feathers and then your clothes would stay clean. Then you just have to wash the fleece every so often when it gets particularly feathery.", "The super fluffy bits easily work through broadly stitched seams. Glue or bias tape can help. If all of the seams are tight, I imagine that the feathers are working their way through fabric point first, likely getting caught on clothes and being pulled through. No real elegant solution here. Maybe find a thick high thread count fabric to make a liner from?", "My thought would be to run the coat in the dryer on \"air fluff\" (no heat) for 10-15 minutes. That might shake out all the \"loose\" feathers and eliminate the problem.\n", "Most down coats don't do this. Assuming you want to keep this one, take to wearing a thin, windbreaker type liner under it. Down will be trapped between layers. " ]

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[ "How to get rid of smelly room? What can I do to get rid of smelly room? I've been told that my room smells but I can't smell anything (probably because I'm used to it). I don't want people to be like \"your room stinks\" when they come over, so it would be great if there is tips to make my room smell better. ", "How to get rid of smelly room? What can I do to get rid of smelly room? I've been told that my room smells but I can't smell anything (probably because I'm used to it). I don't want people to be like \"your room stinks\" when they come over, so it would be great if there is tips to make my room smell better. ", "How to get rid of smelly room? What can I do to get rid of smelly room? I've been told that my room smells but I can't smell anything (probably because I'm used to it). I don't want people to be like \"your room stinks\" when they come over, so it would be great if there is tips to make my room smell better. ", "How to get rid of smelly room? What can I do to get rid of smelly room? I've been told that my room smells but I can't smell anything (probably because I'm used to it). I don't want people to be like \"your room stinks\" when they come over, so it would be great if there is tips to make my room smell better. ", "How to get rid of smelly room? What can I do to get rid of smelly room? I've been told that my room smells but I can't smell anything (probably because I'm used to it). I don't want people to be like \"your room stinks\" when they come over, so it would be great if there is tips to make my room smell better. ", "How to get rid of smelly room? What can I do to get rid of smelly room? I've been told that my room smells but I can't smell anything (probably because I'm used to it). I don't want people to be like \"your room stinks\" when they come over, so it would be great if there is tips to make my room smell better. ", "How to get rid of smelly room? What can I do to get rid of smelly room? I've been told that my room smells but I can't smell anything (probably because I'm used to it). I don't want people to be like \"your room stinks\" when they come over, so it would be great if there is tips to make my room smell better. ", "How to get rid of smelly room? What can I do to get rid of smelly room? I've been told that my room smells but I can't smell anything (probably because I'm used to it). I don't want people to be like \"your room stinks\" when they come over, so it would be great if there is tips to make my room smell better. ", "How to get rid of smelly room? What can I do to get rid of smelly room? I've been told that my room smells but I can't smell anything (probably because I'm used to it). I don't want people to be like \"your room stinks\" when they come over, so it would be great if there is tips to make my room smell better. " ]

[ "Knowing what the odor actually is would help find the right remedy or what to look for. (People? Body fluids? must? mold? rot? chemical?) Hotels use ozone generators for things like smoke odors (only use with ventilation). Good old carpet-fresh can help sometimes but not for absolutely persistent stuff. Sometimes rooms stink because there's some dead critters in the walls too. Bleaches/vinegars/amonias all help in some ways (never mix them!!), but what kinda funk do you have here??", "* *Always* open your curtains during the day. Daylight helps a LOT. \n* Open your window as often as possible.\n* tidy up and vacuum\n* Vacuum your mattress and sprinkle it with baking soda and let that sit for a few hours before you vacuum it off\n* wash all the washable bedding more often. If you have two full sets, you can put a new set of sheets on right away after taking the old one off, and you don't have the awkward 'have to get it washed and dry before I go to bed again' thing. \n* Regularly air out your blankets/duvet for a full day, preferably in direct sunlight\n* Either wash your pillow, or if it's non washable, put it outside in direct sunlight regularly. If it's gross and manky, throw it away and buy a new one\n* if your laundry basket is smelly, do laundry more often\n* if your shoes smell bad, [do something about it](http://www.wikihow.com/Keep-Your-Shoes-from-Stinking)", "If you have carpet pull it all up, scrub the floor, lay down some click-together tiles from home depot. It'll look great, be very cheap, and carpet is so nasty.\n\nClean your walls thoroughly. A lot of people don't do this.\n\nGet a new mattress, sheets, and pillows. This stuff gets very gross. \n\nIf you have central air in the house/apt make sure the air filter is clean.", "Vacuum or clean the carpets, don't keep a bunch of gross laundry in your room, don't eat in your room, and get a bath and body works wallflower. It plugs into the wall And the room will smell like a fresh mountain in no time.", "Open your windows now and then, clean your room and always keep your door open, especially when you're sleeping.", "Use Febreze, the active ingredient is hydroxypropyl beta-cyclodextrin that actually binds to odor molecules and makes it so you can't smell them. In water the odor molecules are released so you can wash them away. \n\nYou can buy an odorless version of it as well if you don't like the smell of Febreze. They only added it because of they way the ended up marketing it (to create a habit of freshening up the room with a few sprays after cleaning. Kinda like how toothpaste has that fresh minty flavor.)\n\n[Source](http://chemistry.about.com/od/cleanerchemistry/f/how-febreze-works.htm)", "Some tips I didn't see mentioned: Put all your dirty laundry in the laundry room immediately after wear. This includes your socks (especially socks) . Also, do not eat in your room. \n\n", "May have been said already, but try to buy refills for fabric softener - the kind in a sorta thick plastic (usually rectangular?) - Leave a few around the room. Somehow the odour from it permeates(?) ", "If you want to get rid of a smelly room, get a bulldozer and knock it down. If you want to get rid of the smell in a room, the other tips on here ought to help." ]

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[ "How to get out of a job you feel stuck in and go back to college Lately I've been finding myself really miserable and developing a depression I haven't had in a long time... And it's definitely coming from my job. I'm making a mediocre salary with mediocre benefits, but I'm terrified of taking the step to go back to college and potentially be broke all of the time while going to school. I'm only 25 and I have two years of college cr", "How to get out of a job you feel stuck in and go back to college Lately I've been finding myself really miserable and developing a depression I haven't had in a long time... And it's definitely coming from my job. I'm making a mediocre salary with mediocre benefits, but I'm terrified of taking the step to go back to college and potentially be broke all of the time while going to school. I'm only 25 and I have two years of college cr", "How to get out of a job you feel stuck in and go back to college Lately I've been finding myself really miserable and developing a depression I haven't had in a long time... And it's definitely coming from my job. I'm making a mediocre salary with mediocre benefits, but I'm terrified of taking the step to go back to college and potentially be broke all of the time while going to school. I'm only 25 and I have two years of college cr", "How to get out of a job you feel stuck in and go back to college Lately I've been finding myself really miserable and developing a depression I haven't had in a long time... And it's definitely coming from my job. I'm making a mediocre salary with mediocre benefits, but I'm terrified of taking the step to go back to college and potentially be broke all of the time while going to school. I'm only 25 and I have two years of college cr", "How to get out of a job you feel stuck in and go back to college Lately I've been finding myself really miserable and developing a depression I haven't had in a long time... And it's definitely coming from my job. I'm making a mediocre salary with mediocre benefits, but I'm terrified of taking the step to go back to college and potentially be broke all of the time while going to school. I'm only 25 and I have two years of college cr", "How to get out of a job you feel stuck in and go back to college Lately I've been finding myself really miserable and developing a depression I haven't had in a long time... And it's definitely coming from my job. I'm making a mediocre salary with mediocre benefits, but I'm terrified of taking the step to go back to college and potentially be broke all of the time while going to school. I'm only 25 and I have two years of college cr" ]

[ "I'm 31, broke and tired all the time, in school and working full time.\n\nAt least I'm finally making headway toward a real career instead of just treading water til I die.\n\nDo it!", "You can absolutely do it! An online program might be better suited to your schedule; just be sure to make sure it's 100% online (some schools use buzzwords like \"fully\" and they can legally require a minimum of on-campus hours). If you do an online program through a traditional school, your degree will be exactly the same and there will be nothing on the diploma or transcripts to indicate that it was online.\n\nThe most important part of balancing is scheduling. Decide whether you are someone who does better with digital scheduling (I have alerts set on my phone when I have an assignment deadline coming up) or a pen-and-paper method, but do *not* use multiple calendars. Pick one and stick with it.\n\nA lot of online programs now have success coaches, which is a lot less dumb than it sounds. It's basically an academic advisor whose sole purpose is to help you with your work/school balance and keep your eyes on the prize. I did it for a couple of years, which is why I recommend the above :)", "I'm in the exact same boat as you...just a little bit older. I've been going back to school now for about a year, at a community college. Here's what I did (and am still doing...) I lucked out and have a boss that doesn't mind that I'm going back to school for nothing that has to do with my current job, so he knows once I graduate, get a good internship, whatever, I'm out. That way I can schedule around my classes and not have to pretend/lie about what I'm doing. I know not everyone is so lucky, but retail is actually a good place to be going back to school. Working on weekends sucks but might be beneficial so you can free up some time during the week to go to class. \n\nI take two classes a semester, sometimes (rarely) three. Usually one is a online course, and the other is a hybrid, one class meeting a week and other online work. I get my schedule, ask for whatever day my class meeting is as an off day from work. \n\nIt also depends...how many cr", "I don't understand the college system in your country, so I can't really advise there. \n\nWhat I would say is, if you want to study full time and can survive with a few less dollars, cut your work hours down. Even reducing them by 5-10 hours is a lot more time for you to study. \n\nIf your financial situation does not allow for this maybe you could consider starting college part time and increase study load in the future IF you find you are coping well. Or consider other work - hospitality in a venue you know you will make good tips in for example, and you can do that work at night and on weekends, leaving days free for college. \n\nOr is moving back in with parents and going to a nearby college an option? Might not sound fun, but if possible would help tremendously, and at the end of the day it's only a few years.\n\nAt the end of the day though, you just have to decide what you want. If that is something that requires college, just do it. Everything else is just background noise.", "I agree. I think I'm finally ready to do college the right way. Maybe I needed to drop out when I was 21 because I didn't appreciate school enough. Sure it sucks having to struggle to finish my degree now at 25, but at least I appreciate what I have for once. \n\nAnd the shitty retail job is just an added motivation ;)", "Explore your options at your local community college, they will likely offer the best bang for your buck. If you've already completed what you'd be doing at the local CC, look into any state schools that have a campus in your area as they'd be most affordable. Also you can just attend school part time, if all you have time for is 3 or 6 cr" ]

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[ "How do I make my room less dusty? I'm not really sure what information to provide here.. but the main causes of the large amount of dust in my room(house, really) are: My Dad is a heavy smoker(4+ packs a day), I have a dog and two cats, my Dad doesn't keep up with changing the filter for our air/heat unit.\n\nWhat are some things that I, a 18 year old with low income, can do to make my room less dusty?", "How do I make my room less dusty? I'm not really sure what information to provide here.. but the main causes of the large amount of dust in my room(house, really) are: My Dad is a heavy smoker(4+ packs a day), I have a dog and two cats, my Dad doesn't keep up with changing the filter for our air/heat unit.\n\nWhat are some things that I, a 18 year old with low income, can do to make my room less dusty?", "How do I make my room less dusty? I'm not really sure what information to provide here.. but the main causes of the large amount of dust in my room(house, really) are: My Dad is a heavy smoker(4+ packs a day), I have a dog and two cats, my Dad doesn't keep up with changing the filter for our air/heat unit.\n\nWhat are some things that I, a 18 year old with low income, can do to make my room less dusty?", "How do I make my room less dusty? I'm not really sure what information to provide here.. but the main causes of the large amount of dust in my room(house, really) are: My Dad is a heavy smoker(4+ packs a day), I have a dog and two cats, my Dad doesn't keep up with changing the filter for our air/heat unit.\n\nWhat are some things that I, a 18 year old with low income, can do to make my room less dusty?" ]

[ "Get an air filter/purifier! That's what it's made to do, it's a large dust filter that you change every 1-3 months. When you look at it right before changing, you'll be disgusted of what was in the air you breath (the filter will start tuning brown / black). It's like $30 at Walmart - don't cheap out on your lung heath.", "Leave your windows open when it's warm, especially after it rains. This lets the dust fly out of your windows and lets fresh air in. its especially good after rain because the water droplets pick up any of the particles in the air. Another thing you could do would be to buy an allergy cover for your sheets and pillows (especially if they're made of down).", "I can't stand dust too. Throughout 4 years of college I got a humidifier. It really helps to settle the dust that comes in. It's cheap (around $15-$20), easy to change daily or every few days, and works great! Try it!", "I know it doesn't sound fun, but keeping the house clean in general will really help the dust from getting into your living space. At the very least, dusting and vacuuming at least once a week will probably help.\n\nDon't let your animals into your room or onto your bed--especially since you have asthma! If you can't bear to part with them, keep them as clean as possible by giving them bathes and brushing them regularly." ]

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[ "Drying salad leaves without a salad spinner Any tips would greatly be appreciated. I keep meaning to get around to buying a salad spinner but never manage to.", "Drying salad leaves without a salad spinner Any tips would greatly be appreciated. I keep meaning to get around to buying a salad spinner but never manage to.", "Drying salad leaves without a salad spinner Any tips would greatly be appreciated. I keep meaning to get around to buying a salad spinner but never manage to.", "Drying salad leaves without a salad spinner Any tips would greatly be appreciated. I keep meaning to get around to buying a salad spinner but never manage to.", "Drying salad leaves without a salad spinner Any tips would greatly be appreciated. I keep meaning to get around to buying a salad spinner but never manage to." ]

[ "After rinsing the lettuce in a colander and shaking as much out as possible, lay the leaves in the middle of a clean tea towel, grab the corners, and SWING it, either back and forth, or all the way in a circle. Be gentle, but make sure you get it up to a good speed in your swing. It will probably help to lay it out and rearrange the leaves once or twice during the process to make sure that they all get dry.\n\nIt doesn't work quite as well as an actual spinner, but it's the best (and least wasteful) method I've tried.", "It literally never occurred to me to dry my lettuce. I have thought for 2 years (the duration since I encountered a \"salad spinner\" because of my completely unrelated job) that a salad spinner is to mix the lettuce with dressing.\n\nI don't understand why salad/lettuce needs to be *spun* to be *dried*. It's just water? It's okay being there. You don't need to spin it. ", "pat dry with paper towel. once towel drys , use it to wipe counter with anti-bacterial liquid (or vinegar)", "Just buy a salad spinner. I've tried several and settled on this one. It's a bit pricy but very good, don't waste your money on others that are flimsy or difficult to use or too small or don't spin fast enough:\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/OXO-Grips-Salad-Spinner-Large/dp/B00D78X2VQ/", "Insert leaves into a pair of tights before shaking the water out. Unless you are a bit pervy, it helps if the tights are clean." ]

[ 5, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Staying cool at night? I am always crazy hot at night. Even with the AC at 65 i feel like I can never get as cool as I'd like, especially my head.\n\nIt might be my memory foam mattress just not dissipating much, but it's real comfy and pricy enough that I'd prefer not to replace it (had it about 3 or 4 years)", "Staying cool at night? I am always crazy hot at night. Even with the AC at 65 i feel like I can never get as cool as I'd like, especially my head.\n\nIt might be my memory foam mattress just not dissipating much, but it's real comfy and pricy enough that I'd prefer not to replace it (had it about 3 or 4 years)", "Staying cool at night? I am always crazy hot at night. Even with the AC at 65 i feel like I can never get as cool as I'd like, especially my head.\n\nIt might be my memory foam mattress just not dissipating much, but it's real comfy and pricy enough that I'd prefer not to replace it (had it about 3 or 4 years)", "Staying cool at night? I am always crazy hot at night. Even with the AC at 65 i feel like I can never get as cool as I'd like, especially my head.\n\nIt might be my memory foam mattress just not dissipating much, but it's real comfy and pricy enough that I'd prefer not to replace it (had it about 3 or 4 years)" ]

[ "Make sure you have good sheets. For me, I had microfiber sheets for the longest time and was always a bit warmer than I wanted to be. Upgraded to some 550 thread cotton and it is like night/day.", "Dont wear socks. Put a fan blowing on your feet. You lose a surprising amount of body heat from your feet.", "The easiest fix, if it's doable where you live, is to switch to a waterbed. Water will suck the heat out of you, instead of trapping it against you. I love my waterbed - because it also solved my allergy problems.\n\nThe cheapest option, if you can get used to it, is to switch to a hammock (using a hammock stand if needed). It's the same principle - switching away from a mattress that traps body heat. \n\nA third option is a thing called a chilipad that is expensive, but if it's a quality of life issue that is affecting your sleep, it might be worth it. It's like a mattress pad/electric blanket that you can switch between heating and cooling modes.", "Jokes aside. Before bed, Washing your feet with cold water, temp somewhere around 15 degree C would help with the heat." ]

[ 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "keeping water from leaking past the edge of the shower curtain No matter how much I try to keep the shower curtain close to the edge of the rod, water always seems to sneak past on the side closest to the shower head, and I end up with a puddle on my bathroom floor. I've tried straight and curved shower rods to no effect. How do other people keep the water in the shower?", "keeping water from leaking past the edge of the shower curtain No matter how much I try to keep the shower curtain close to the edge of the rod, water always seems to sneak past on the side closest to the shower head, and I end up with a puddle on my bathroom floor. I've tried straight and curved shower rods to no effect. How do other people keep the water in the shower?" ]

[ "also make sure your shower head is clean and the holes are clear. The water sprays out at all angles when dirty/scaly. ", "I slide the curtain down towards the showerhead end, leaving a 6 inch gap on the other end - the folds make it harder for the curtain to wander and the excess curtain can then be curved on the showerhead wall.\n\nHaving a heavier curtain also helps immensely (don't cheap out on it if you can)" ]

[ 1, 1 ]

[ "Accessing Imgur at Work At my company, the web-blocker blocks Imgur and seriously cramps my redditing. Proxy sites are also blocked. Has anyone come up with another way to view Imgur links? Someone help me slack more effectively.\n \nDon't tell me to just do my work. I get plenty of work done, and it's slow around here today, anyway.", "Accessing Imgur at Work At my company, the web-blocker blocks Imgur and seriously cramps my redditing. Proxy sites are also blocked. Has anyone come up with another way to view Imgur links? Someone help me slack more effectively.\n \nDon't tell me to just do my work. I get plenty of work done, and it's slow around here today, anyway.", "Accessing Imgur at Work At my company, the web-blocker blocks Imgur and seriously cramps my redditing. Proxy sites are also blocked. Has anyone come up with another way to view Imgur links? Someone help me slack more effectively.\n \nDon't tell me to just do my work. I get plenty of work done, and it's slow around here today, anyway." ]

[ "have you tried using a proxy?\ni remember sshing into my house and tunneling traffic. noone questioned me because its just ssh with htop open", "Try [PDFmyURL](http://pdfmyurl.com)\n\nI use this to pull Dwarf Fortress wiki articles while playing at work... :)", "Reddit mirror: godlessnews.com\nReplace links with godlessnews such as \nWww.Reddit.com/r/funny\nWww.godlessnews.com/r/funny" ]

[ 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do I get soap to rinse off quickly in a house with very soft water? I live in a house with very soft water. I am unable to adjust the water softener, so the water doesn't seem to rinse soap off very well. It feels like I'm trying to rinse oil off, and my showers take longer as a result.\n\nI've been told that it's purely perception...that the soap actually does rinse off quickly, but that the soft water only makes it **feel** as though it's not rinsing off.\n\nWhether or not that's the case, I would like to know if there is a certain soap or trick that would make it feel as though the soap rinses off instantly. Any advice would be most appreciated.", "How do I get soap to rinse off quickly in a house with very soft water? I live in a house with very soft water. I am unable to adjust the water softener, so the water doesn't seem to rinse soap off very well. It feels like I'm trying to rinse oil off, and my showers take longer as a result.\n\nI've been told that it's purely perception...that the soap actually does rinse off quickly, but that the soft water only makes it **feel** as though it's not rinsing off.\n\nWhether or not that's the case, I would like to know if there is a certain soap or trick that would make it feel as though the soap rinses off instantly. Any advice would be most appreciated." ]

[ "What brand of soap are you using? I recommend finding a cold-processed soapmaker on Etsy or at your local farmer's market and asking them what superfat they use. Cold processed soap will wash off cleaner than grocery store brands anyway, but a low superfat will guarantee that less oils are left behind. Unless you have sensitive skin, I'd recommend recommend a 3-5% superfat with a soap that is primarily coconut oil. Coconut is the only lather that fully lathers in either soft or hard water.", "Your soap is probably too thick for lack of a better word, actually. Some soaps leave a lot of residue behind even in a nice shower. My parents use this bar soap called Pears or something, and it rinses off real good. It also leaves your skin sort of literally squeaky clean, which feels unpleasant to me but you can easily tell that way when it's rinsed off completely. But otherwise, skip out on soaps with moisturizers or words like luxurious haha. Any clear bar soap is good imo. As long as you use lotion after a shower there's no need for fancy thick foamy creamy soaps, unless you're *really* sensitive. " ]

[ 4, 0 ]

[ "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance.", "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance.", "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance.", "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance.", "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance.", "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance.", "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance.", "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance.", "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance.", "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance.", "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance.", "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance.", "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance.", "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance.", "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance.", "Quitting without having another job lined up. I am thinking of leaving my job because of toxic work environment and culture. I do not want to go into much detail about how bad it is, but it is affecting my mental health, I am battling depression from quite some time now, the job is not the reason but it is making it worse. I have enough money to cover my expenses for like 5 months. I have read some articles but still needed someone else's point of view on this. The reason I am still in dilemma is because I am fresher(I am working in this company from last 8 months) and some of my friends are suggesting to complete at least a year here, but I am thinking of quitting because I know things are going to get worse. I am aware that I will have to again start as a fresher and the time I have given to this company will might go to waste, at least on paper.\n\nI would appreciate some tips of what to consider before taking this decision, maybe someone's own experience.\n\nThank you in advance." ]

[ "I quit a job because it was horrible for my mental health and I couldn’t take it anymore. It was one of the best things I could have done for myself. \n\nSometimes you have to do what you think is best for you despite what others think. They’re not in your shoes. They don’t know what you have going on inside. Life is too short to spend it miserable and depressed and wishing you would cease to exist just so you don’t have to go to a job you hate.", "It’s not an easy choice, but I will say that in my experience I’ve never looked back and said ‘I should have stayed in that toxic situation longer’.", "I know it sucks because I've been on that same boat, but don't quit without another job lined up first. Refresh your resume and look for a new one very actively. \n\nLook at it this way: you have five months saved up, so if you can find a job in less than five months, fine, you're out of that place before the end of the summer. If, on the contrary, you cannot find a job, at least you will still have the one you have today, and even though it sucks, I'm pretty sure not having any money and not having a job is worse.", "You mentioned that you are battling depression but the job isn’t the reason. Do you have any options for taking leave? If so, I would take it in your case.\n\nGenerally, I think it’s worth it if your mental health is declining. You’ve already taken the steps financially. I would say now is the best time to quit a bad job. People tend to be more understanding of wonky job history during difficult times. \n\nGood luck!", "Quit but make sure you have another job lined up. I made the mistake of leaving before I did and I had to take a less than ideal job. I’m young so it won’t bother me in the long run but it was right for a bit. Keep your eye on the goal of a good life. Not just getting rid of today’s problem but avoiding tomorrow’s.", "I've had to quit a couple of shops due to horrendous management failures and constant stress and bullshit. I'd recommend sticking it out at this one until you get a new job, but don't wait the full year before looking. 4 months is a long time for mental health to deteriorate at a toxic work place. Keep in mind that an employer is probably more likely to look at the resume of someone who wants to transfer into a more suitable position, rather than a person who quit after less than a year.", "I had a job with a horrible boss that affected me immensely. When I realized it would never change or get better, I went for lunch and never went back. It was so liberating.\n\nAnyway, I think its okay if the time given to this company is wasted; you have to do what’s best for your well-being. There’s really no right answer. You have a whole career ahead of you, there’s literally no rush to the finish line. If you have to restart after 8 months in, that’s not the worst thing.\n\nTake care of yourself.", "Having a new job lined up would be ideal but if you're able to have a few months of expenses paid for without it then do it. Your mental and physical health will always be more important than any job. After you quit, continue to apply for other jobs and just take a breather for a week. Relax, set some mental health goals, do some self care, but more importantly, make sure you're in a good enough mindset to actually start working again.", "Write down why you are quitting and then quit. Keep those notes. When future employers ask why you didn't stay long, you'll have a list of tangible reasons. You also have the benefit of being able to not think about them while still remembering. I quit a job once for similar reasons before and had a hard time finding another one because I didn't do this.", "Seriously, speak with HR. You definitely need to let them know the work environment is adding to your mental health and they should be able to help you with maybe moving departments or speaking with management about this. \n\n\nAs some suggest, as well as your friends, staying until a year is good but not worth your mental health. Definitely speak with the appropriate person that handles this sort of thing.", "I was in the same place. However, I knew I had to take time off in order to get some balance on my mental health, so I purposely did not have a job lined up apart from putting in my resume in a staffing place. This way, when I felt I was in a better mental place, I already had part of the process started to get back in the workforce. It paid off since it was less daunting to get back to job searching.", "I was in the exact same situation a few years ago. I ended up just writing. I couldn't take it anymore one day after my boss was in a terrible mood for whatever reason and decided that everyone needed to get yelled at in his office, and he got mean with the personal insults. So, I just got up, left my keys to the building and key card to the management areas, and walked out. I wouldn't suggest to do what I did to just anyone, but sometimes you get into a work situation that isn't going to change and it's rapidly destroying your mental, emotional, and spiritual health. I didn't have another job lined up and it took me longer than I thought it would to find a new job, but I didn't want to just settle for the first job offer I got either. I ended up taking about 6 months and found a good position in a great company with good pay and benefits.", "I think not yet mentioned here is that when looking for a new job, it's better for you when you can say 'i'm currently earning $xxxx a month' than 'i'm currently earning 0'. Makes it easier to haggle for better salary.", "Ask yourself first, which is worse for you.\n\nIt'll take you longer than 5 months to get a new job if you leave. Unemployment can also aggravate your depression.\n\nThings are gonna get much worse in your current job if you stay.", "You could always go through HR and put in a medical leave request. As far as I know your direct supervisor isn’t privy to those details and it’s only a discussion with HR. It’ll allow you to take the time you need to get into a better head space but also seek a job. Granted though that you can get a medical professional to vouch for you as that maybe a requirement from HR! \n\nGood luck! Hope you find what you’re looking for and overcome this time in your life.", "Idk where you live but there is doing ubereats, postmates, or other delivery services until you find another job. Even now I always tell my husband when he tells me he hates his job, \" quit then\" I don't see a point to staying if your unhappy, it allows you to find something new and explore other jobs. If you don't have the best back up, give yourself two weeks to a month of pay saved, so you have money to live off until you have something new." ]

[ 19, 15, 13, 5, 5, 5, 5, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to store brown sugar once it's open Many bags are not resealable. So, transfer to a Ziploc? A container? Something else? How to ensure it doesn't dry out and get hard? ", "How to store brown sugar once it's open Many bags are not resealable. So, transfer to a Ziploc? A container? Something else? How to ensure it doesn't dry out and get hard? " ]

[ "http://www.amazon.com/JBK-Hummingbird-Terra-Cotta-Brown/dp/B000H7AFU6\n\nTerra cotta item in the Brown sugar works well. They also make containers just for Brown sugar. On mobile, so I don't know how to link the Amazon page above.", "I put mine in a ziplock bag then put that in a zip lock bag. The first one will be harder to close since the sugar grains get in the zippy part but you can just fold it over or roll it up. Put that bag in a second one, the second closes with no problem. You can use the second one over and over. " ]

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[ "How do you get part of the jacket out of a zipper? There is a bite of fabric that runs along the entire length of the zipper slide. The zipper is stuck at the bottom of my daughters jacket so there is very little to grip. ", "How do you get part of the jacket out of a zipper? There is a bite of fabric that runs along the entire length of the zipper slide. The zipper is stuck at the bottom of my daughters jacket so there is very little to grip. ", "How do you get part of the jacket out of a zipper? There is a bite of fabric that runs along the entire length of the zipper slide. The zipper is stuck at the bottom of my daughters jacket so there is very little to grip. " ]

[ "Use wax to lubricate the zipper and fabric. My sleeping bag does this a lot. I have needle nose pliers and wax in my gear bag for this very reason.", "Rubbing some petroleum jelly on the point where the zipper meets fabric helps. Note that the goal should be to pull the fabric away from the zipper, not the zipper away from the fabric.\n\nThis method works well for scrotum, too.", "OP, we should drop pretense here. There's no need to call your foreskin a jacket. Euphemisms like these prolong and promote the vicious cycle of dick unawareness and, of course, the matriarchy. A more dick-positive vocabulary really opens up a plethora of opportunities to change the dialogue to a more direct approach, penetrating the hard problems that used to stand erect as the penile-ization of anything popularly viewed as a phallus, see? Check you privilege." ]

[ 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Getting over romantic feelings to have a healthy platonic relationship I have a best friend who I have some pretty strong feelings for, but I just don’t think we work as a couple. This person is currently seeing someone else anyway, despite there being some strange, lingering tension. I want to remain close with this individual because I feel like their presence in my life is positive, but I don’t want to compromise the integrity of a new possible romantic relationship with someone else. Any advice?", "Getting over romantic feelings to have a healthy platonic relationship I have a best friend who I have some pretty strong feelings for, but I just don’t think we work as a couple. This person is currently seeing someone else anyway, despite there being some strange, lingering tension. I want to remain close with this individual because I feel like their presence in my life is positive, but I don’t want to compromise the integrity of a new possible romantic relationship with someone else. Any advice?", "Getting over romantic feelings to have a healthy platonic relationship I have a best friend who I have some pretty strong feelings for, but I just don’t think we work as a couple. This person is currently seeing someone else anyway, despite there being some strange, lingering tension. I want to remain close with this individual because I feel like their presence in my life is positive, but I don’t want to compromise the integrity of a new possible romantic relationship with someone else. Any advice?", "Getting over romantic feelings to have a healthy platonic relationship I have a best friend who I have some pretty strong feelings for, but I just don’t think we work as a couple. This person is currently seeing someone else anyway, despite there being some strange, lingering tension. I want to remain close with this individual because I feel like their presence in my life is positive, but I don’t want to compromise the integrity of a new possible romantic relationship with someone else. Any advice?" ]

[ "You should try posting this in /r/relashionships. \n\nMy opinion is that if you are in love with this person, you should try to distance yourself from them for your own good. Staying friends with someone like that will only bring you pain and resentment. \n\n You say you wouldnt want to be in couple with this person even if they were avaliable. Follow your intuition, this person might not be that good for you.", "I'm currently dealing with the exact same problem. For me, what's been helping is reminding myself that we wouldn't work, and sometimes focusing on the reasons for that. It helps to talk to yourself logically, even if your emotions are trying to get the better of you. \n\nI think it's entirely possible for you to have a healthy platonic relationship with this person. It just takes a lot of internal monologues to try to talk yourself out of the feelings you're having. \n\nI think an important thing to keep in mind is how much the friendship means to you, and how it would be damaged by a relationship if you're not right for each other. So at the end of the day, you're not like, forcing yourself to hate this person or anything, you're just keeping yourself honest about your priorities. \n\nI wish you all the luck in the world! ", "In my experience it’s just not possible. That tension u mention (lol im a rap god) generally permeates any other romantic relationship and leads to problems. But that’s my experience. I’m 36 and have been in 3 long term relationships (6+ years) have been divorced once. ", "In the exact same boat as you but we aren't best friends. We were when we were together but now she no longer wants to be with me. I've been stuck for 5 years tho =/. I think I have to just abandon her to stop the pain at this point. We work together tho." ]

[ 8, 5, 3, 2 ]

[ "Can someone relate? I'm 26 years old. I have a bachelor degree and now I'm taking a master degree. \nAfter all these years of study I'm still worried if my field of study is useful or not and I'm worried that I will not be able to have a good job. \nJust to be clear, my field of study is about languages and cultures of other country so no engineering or stuff. \nI can't find anything that I'm really passionate in it, most of the time I'm just procrastinating things and I play games in order to not think about any other problem. \nI want to leave my comfort zone, I want to have a better lifestyle and feeling smart but I can't. \nBy the way, I'm really trying to improve myself but everytime I end up playing videogames. I don't have problems on making friends, talking to women or any other stuff. \nIt feels like that I'm not able to live my life at the fullest and this is making me sad. \nCan someone suggest me how to exit from this?\n\nSorry for my english but it's not my language.", "Can someone relate? I'm 26 years old. I have a bachelor degree and now I'm taking a master degree. \nAfter all these years of study I'm still worried if my field of study is useful or not and I'm worried that I will not be able to have a good job. \nJust to be clear, my field of study is about languages and cultures of other country so no engineering or stuff. \nI can't find anything that I'm really passionate in it, most of the time I'm just procrastinating things and I play games in order to not think about any other problem. \nI want to leave my comfort zone, I want to have a better lifestyle and feeling smart but I can't. \nBy the way, I'm really trying to improve myself but everytime I end up playing videogames. I don't have problems on making friends, talking to women or any other stuff. \nIt feels like that I'm not able to live my life at the fullest and this is making me sad. \nCan someone suggest me how to exit from this?\n\nSorry for my english but it's not my language.", "Can someone relate? I'm 26 years old. I have a bachelor degree and now I'm taking a master degree. \nAfter all these years of study I'm still worried if my field of study is useful or not and I'm worried that I will not be able to have a good job. \nJust to be clear, my field of study is about languages and cultures of other country so no engineering or stuff. \nI can't find anything that I'm really passionate in it, most of the time I'm just procrastinating things and I play games in order to not think about any other problem. \nI want to leave my comfort zone, I want to have a better lifestyle and feeling smart but I can't. \nBy the way, I'm really trying to improve myself but everytime I end up playing videogames. I don't have problems on making friends, talking to women or any other stuff. \nIt feels like that I'm not able to live my life at the fullest and this is making me sad. \nCan someone suggest me how to exit from this?\n\nSorry for my english but it's not my language.", "Can someone relate? I'm 26 years old. I have a bachelor degree and now I'm taking a master degree. \nAfter all these years of study I'm still worried if my field of study is useful or not and I'm worried that I will not be able to have a good job. \nJust to be clear, my field of study is about languages and cultures of other country so no engineering or stuff. \nI can't find anything that I'm really passionate in it, most of the time I'm just procrastinating things and I play games in order to not think about any other problem. \nI want to leave my comfort zone, I want to have a better lifestyle and feeling smart but I can't. \nBy the way, I'm really trying to improve myself but everytime I end up playing videogames. I don't have problems on making friends, talking to women or any other stuff. \nIt feels like that I'm not able to live my life at the fullest and this is making me sad. \nCan someone suggest me how to exit from this?\n\nSorry for my english but it's not my language.", "Can someone relate? I'm 26 years old. I have a bachelor degree and now I'm taking a master degree. \nAfter all these years of study I'm still worried if my field of study is useful or not and I'm worried that I will not be able to have a good job. \nJust to be clear, my field of study is about languages and cultures of other country so no engineering or stuff. \nI can't find anything that I'm really passionate in it, most of the time I'm just procrastinating things and I play games in order to not think about any other problem. \nI want to leave my comfort zone, I want to have a better lifestyle and feeling smart but I can't. \nBy the way, I'm really trying to improve myself but everytime I end up playing videogames. I don't have problems on making friends, talking to women or any other stuff. \nIt feels like that I'm not able to live my life at the fullest and this is making me sad. \nCan someone suggest me how to exit from this?\n\nSorry for my english but it's not my language.", "Can someone relate? I'm 26 years old. I have a bachelor degree and now I'm taking a master degree. \nAfter all these years of study I'm still worried if my field of study is useful or not and I'm worried that I will not be able to have a good job. \nJust to be clear, my field of study is about languages and cultures of other country so no engineering or stuff. \nI can't find anything that I'm really passionate in it, most of the time I'm just procrastinating things and I play games in order to not think about any other problem. \nI want to leave my comfort zone, I want to have a better lifestyle and feeling smart but I can't. \nBy the way, I'm really trying to improve myself but everytime I end up playing videogames. I don't have problems on making friends, talking to women or any other stuff. \nIt feels like that I'm not able to live my life at the fullest and this is making me sad. \nCan someone suggest me how to exit from this?\n\nSorry for my english but it's not my language." ]

[ "As far as a BA goes, a lot of the time these days jobs are looking for a degree, and they don't necessarily care what it's in (unless it's a specialized field)", "Hey, I’m in the same boat. 26, unemployed, with a worthless degree in applied psychology and sociological theory from a private college, and nothing to show for it but a substance abuse disorder. I don’t have any advice, and I won’t tell you “it gets better,” because at least for me, the best is behind me. I hope things start to turn around for you, man. You sound like a good dude.", "Find a student job that has something to do with you're field so that you'll gain some experience and check if you actually like what you studied. In addition you could see if you can afford a semester abroad, that brings new, hopefully fun experiences and I think that is also quite attractive for hiring people because you need some independence skills there I guess", "Put away the video games. Find a club at your school that might interest you. Join and go! The important thing is to get out and talk to people. It's hard, particularly at first, but it will get easier over time. You just cannot hide yourself away playing games.", "I have a bachelors in Spanish Literature and I spent about 4 years working in restaurants and odd jobs before going back to school to get a bachelor’s and masters in Engineering. I have friends from my first degree who got good jobs in business and advertising and one who went to law school but it was hard for me. Best advice I can give you if you want to get a good job is to start by pursuing internships while you are still in school. Many are not available to non-students and it’s tough to compete for even entry-level positions with absolutely zero experience. \n\nThe other option is push through masters, get a PhD and become a professor in your same field to perpetuate the cycle!", "For me it helped to find someone in the industry I was interested in and ask to shadow to see what the work is like. It gave me an idea of if I’d like it and helped me look forward to the future. Therapy/academic coaching was also helpful." ]

[ 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "gold in electronics Hello! I am wondering if any of you have experience with and/or know a good website regarding dismantling old electronics and removing the expensive metals they use in them? Specifically gold and (?)silver. \n\nI have a directv dish that was just an eyesore so I removed it. I'm guessing it has gold somewhere in it's components and I thought to myself that if I were to remove as much gold from unused electronics that I own, that I could do that every time I am done with an electronic and in the next 20, 30, 40 years I may have a nice nugget saved up.", "gold in electronics Hello! I am wondering if any of you have experience with and/or know a good website regarding dismantling old electronics and removing the expensive metals they use in them? Specifically gold and (?)silver. \n\nI have a directv dish that was just an eyesore so I removed it. I'm guessing it has gold somewhere in it's components and I thought to myself that if I were to remove as much gold from unused electronics that I own, that I could do that every time I am done with an electronic and in the next 20, 30, 40 years I may have a nice nugget saved up.", "gold in electronics Hello! I am wondering if any of you have experience with and/or know a good website regarding dismantling old electronics and removing the expensive metals they use in them? Specifically gold and (?)silver. \n\nI have a directv dish that was just an eyesore so I removed it. I'm guessing it has gold somewhere in it's components and I thought to myself that if I were to remove as much gold from unused electronics that I own, that I could do that every time I am done with an electronic and in the next 20, 30, 40 years I may have a nice nugget saved up.", "gold in electronics Hello! I am wondering if any of you have experience with and/or know a good website regarding dismantling old electronics and removing the expensive metals they use in them? Specifically gold and (?)silver. \n\nI have a directv dish that was just an eyesore so I removed it. I'm guessing it has gold somewhere in it's components and I thought to myself that if I were to remove as much gold from unused electronics that I own, that I could do that every time I am done with an electronic and in the next 20, 30, 40 years I may have a nice nugget saved up." ]

[ "It is not practically viable to salvage precious metals from electronics unless you do it on a very large scale.", "It either requires:\n\n* a forge\n* lots of dangerous chemicals that are practically impossible to dispose of legally", "IIRC the materials to take the gold out of electronics would be more expensive to obtain than what you would get out of them.", "Look up videos on YouTube about processing/scrapping ewaste. You can stack up common ferrous and non-ferrous metals. Things like gold and silver aren't super practical for individuals to recover (as others here have noted), but perhaps in our lifetimes that could change." ]

[ 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "My furnace isn't heating up my home and I'm worried it'll be snowing inside overnight. The make is Honeywell RTH7600. My parents are out for the week, I've never had to mess with the furnace before. No matter what I set the thermostat to it's a solid 14.5*C in the house. It's -27 outside. The furnace is on and the temperature is normal inside the room the furnace is located. Tonight and tomorrow we'ere getting a solid cold spike and I really don't want it to be below zero in the house when I wake up tomorrow. Can anyone offer me some quick help??", "My furnace isn't heating up my home and I'm worried it'll be snowing inside overnight. The make is Honeywell RTH7600. My parents are out for the week, I've never had to mess with the furnace before. No matter what I set the thermostat to it's a solid 14.5*C in the house. It's -27 outside. The furnace is on and the temperature is normal inside the room the furnace is located. Tonight and tomorrow we'ere getting a solid cold spike and I really don't want it to be below zero in the house when I wake up tomorrow. Can anyone offer me some quick help??", "My furnace isn't heating up my home and I'm worried it'll be snowing inside overnight. The make is Honeywell RTH7600. My parents are out for the week, I've never had to mess with the furnace before. No matter what I set the thermostat to it's a solid 14.5*C in the house. It's -27 outside. The furnace is on and the temperature is normal inside the room the furnace is located. Tonight and tomorrow we'ere getting a solid cold spike and I really don't want it to be below zero in the house when I wake up tomorrow. Can anyone offer me some quick help??", "My furnace isn't heating up my home and I'm worried it'll be snowing inside overnight. The make is Honeywell RTH7600. My parents are out for the week, I've never had to mess with the furnace before. No matter what I set the thermostat to it's a solid 14.5*C in the house. It's -27 outside. The furnace is on and the temperature is normal inside the room the furnace is located. Tonight and tomorrow we'ere getting a solid cold spike and I really don't want it to be below zero in the house when I wake up tomorrow. Can anyone offer me some quick help??", "My furnace isn't heating up my home and I'm worried it'll be snowing inside overnight. The make is Honeywell RTH7600. My parents are out for the week, I've never had to mess with the furnace before. No matter what I set the thermostat to it's a solid 14.5*C in the house. It's -27 outside. The furnace is on and the temperature is normal inside the room the furnace is located. Tonight and tomorrow we'ere getting a solid cold spike and I really don't want it to be below zero in the house when I wake up tomorrow. Can anyone offer me some quick help??", "My furnace isn't heating up my home and I'm worried it'll be snowing inside overnight. The make is Honeywell RTH7600. My parents are out for the week, I've never had to mess with the furnace before. No matter what I set the thermostat to it's a solid 14.5*C in the house. It's -27 outside. The furnace is on and the temperature is normal inside the room the furnace is located. Tonight and tomorrow we'ere getting a solid cold spike and I really don't want it to be below zero in the house when I wake up tomorrow. Can anyone offer me some quick help??", "My furnace isn't heating up my home and I'm worried it'll be snowing inside overnight. The make is Honeywell RTH7600. My parents are out for the week, I've never had to mess with the furnace before. No matter what I set the thermostat to it's a solid 14.5*C in the house. It's -27 outside. The furnace is on and the temperature is normal inside the room the furnace is located. Tonight and tomorrow we'ere getting a solid cold spike and I really don't want it to be below zero in the house when I wake up tomorrow. Can anyone offer me some quick help??" ]

[ "is the blower working?\n\nsounds like it's heating but the warm air isn't being distributed through the house.", "Have you considered calling an HVAC repair person? If you've never messed with a furnace, I don't recommend it. You could do thousands of dollars in damage for a somewhat easy fix.\n\n(Although I agree with another poster. Sounds like your furnace blower isn't working. It could be a relay or the blower itself.)", "It seems to me like your flame sensor needs to be scrubbed. In order to fix it you'll need a brass brush. \n\n It will be located directly in front of one of the flame jets. To get at it you'll need to turn your furnace off. Take the front off. Then locate where the jets are located. There will probably be a light metal guard in front of it (above probably). \nUnscrew the bolts holding the guard in place and then locate the flame sensor in front of the jet. The flame sensor will look like a nail or something just sticking in front of the flame exit. What you'll want to do is scrub this with a brass brush. You do not want to score the flame sensor. If you don't have a brass brush try to find something that you can scrub with that won't score the metal. If the sensor is cold you may be able to use a plastic scouring pad used for dishes.\n\nWhen you've scrubbed the flame sensor for a bit, bolt the metal guard back in place put the cover back on the furnace and then turn it back on.\n", "Is the furnace attempting to cycle? \nDo you an outside vent that draws air into the furnace?\nMake sure that isn't blocked with a drift of snow. \n\n ", "Probably a thermostat issue if you are holding at 14.5°C, although it could also be a problem with the fan as someone else suggested.", "Can you hear the furnace attempting to kick in?\n\nThe part number you provided is for a thermostat. Not the furnace.\n\nCheck to see what type of furnace you have on the furnace itself.", "Turn your oven on 300 and open the door all the way. Then turn on your vents fan system, and use any fans you have toe circulate the warm air. Do this tonight until you can get a professional to look at your furnace. " ]

[ 6, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, -7 ]

[ "Any good tips for the new year? Are there any good tips I could start using from next year? I saw a good one about keeping a jar with every good thing you do writing it down. \n\nThanks", "Any good tips for the new year? Are there any good tips I could start using from next year? I saw a good one about keeping a jar with every good thing you do writing it down. \n\nThanks" ]

[ "The 52 week money saving challenge.\n\nWeek 1: Put £52 in a jar.\nWeek 2: Put £51 in a jar.\n.\n.\n.\nWeek 52: Put £1 in a jar.\n\nAt the end of the year, you have saved nearly £1,400!!\n\nIt's easy to start with £52 and work down to £1 as well as a) you'll be more motivated in January (new year etc) and b) come December time, money will already be tight due to Xmas etc and so you don't want to have to find ANOTHER £50 to put away. Just £1/2.", "Best skill anyone can learn is persistence / how to make something a habit. It’s almost always why people fail at a goal." ]

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[ "Accurately guess the number of items in a container Candies, marbles, grains of rice, whatever! What are the best methods to guess the number of items that are in a container?", "Accurately guess the number of items in a container Candies, marbles, grains of rice, whatever! What are the best methods to guess the number of items that are in a container?", "Accurately guess the number of items in a container Candies, marbles, grains of rice, whatever! What are the best methods to guess the number of items that are in a container?", "Accurately guess the number of items in a container Candies, marbles, grains of rice, whatever! What are the best methods to guess the number of items that are in a container?", "Accurately guess the number of items in a container Candies, marbles, grains of rice, whatever! What are the best methods to guess the number of items that are in a container?", "Accurately guess the number of items in a container Candies, marbles, grains of rice, whatever! What are the best methods to guess the number of items that are in a container?", "Accurately guess the number of items in a container Candies, marbles, grains of rice, whatever! What are the best methods to guess the number of items that are in a container?", "Accurately guess the number of items in a container Candies, marbles, grains of rice, whatever! What are the best methods to guess the number of items that are in a container?" ]

[ "Dump the container out and count them one by one. I've used this method multiple times and it's worked every single time ", "Measure the INSIDE of a known container that's small and the if possible the same shape as your container. \n\nFill that small container with the same object that's in the larger one. Shake it, but not too much, to settle the content a little. Then dump the small container out and count how many things fit in it.\n\nThen figure out the DENSITY of objects using a volume formula. If 100 jellybeans fit in, say, a cylinder like a can, then \n\n* 100 / ( pi * radius * radius * height )\n\ntells you how many jellybeans PER CUBIC CENTIMETER are in an average shape of that size. A carton would be length X width X height,... and so on.\n\nNow, measure, if you can, the inside volume of the larger real container. Remember you're looking at the INSIDE, not the outside. If you can't measure it directly, try measuring it indirectly (e.g. my hand is 16cm long and it's about 4 hands across, and I'm 160cm tall and it's about 10cm shorter, so...), or getting some form of approximation.\n\nThen multiply the volume you come up with by the density of objects you'd calculated earlier to come up with a mathematically sound guess. For example, 20,000 cubic inches x 2.3 jellybeans per cubic inch means there's something like 46000 jellybeans in the big container.\n\n(Note that you can also calculate density through using liquid measures rather than volume, like number of quarts or millilitres in a jar, but only if you can figure out how many quarts would be in the actual container)\n\nP.S. If you win something big, at least PM me gourmet jellybeans.\n", "If you are entering a contest, average together all the guesses and you will be very close. The more people that have guessed, the more accurate it will be. ", "If you like math and geometry then you can use Atomic Packing Factor. It is used in crystallography to determine density but the concepts can be applied for marbles, jelly beans, or other objects\n\nAPF = (Number of objects * Volume of the object) / ( Volume of a unit cell)\n\nEssentially look the the jar and see how the objects are packed together. For example if the objects are spheres and are [Simple Cubic](http://cdn.c.photoshelter.com/img-get/I0000ySP0yQtN2JM/s/860/860/Fphoto-36859406A-2RM.jpg) or [Body Centered Cubic](http://cdn.c.photoshelter.com/img-get/I00006zENOL_y91Y/s/860/860/Fphoto-36859406B-2RM.jpg)\n\nThen with some estimating of how large the object is and some geometry you can calculate the Volume of the unit cell. The APF is just a packing density so with some more geometry you can estimate the total volume of the jar. \n\nNumber of objects = total Volume / APF. ", "\"The state can't give you free speech, and the state can't take it away. You're born with it, like your eyes, like your ears. Freedom is something you assume, then you wait for someone to try to take it away. The degree to which you resist is the degree to which you are free.\" ~ Utah Phillips\n\n ___________________________________________ \n\n^^This ^^action ^^was ^^performed ^^automatically ^^and ^^easily ^^by [^^Nuclear ^^Reddit ^^Remover ](https://github.com/bcornw2/Nuclear_Reddit)", "You could always get someone to blast your brain with a really powerful electromagnet: http://rstb.royalsocietypublishing.org/content/364/1522/1399 (section c)", "If you must eye-ball it, go back to basic geometry. Count beans across each dimension of the container, then multiply accordingly.", "How many fit on the top or bottom level that you can see in the container? Roughly how many levels are there to total together?" ]

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[ "How to fix this? Car remote control ring hole (Pic inside) [Picture here!](http://imgur.com/8JIEr00)\n\n\nThank you in advance!", "How to fix this? Car remote control ring hole (Pic inside) [Picture here!](http://imgur.com/8JIEr00)\n\n\nThank you in advance!", "How to fix this? Car remote control ring hole (Pic inside) [Picture here!](http://imgur.com/8JIEr00)\n\n\nThank you in advance!", "How to fix this? Car remote control ring hole (Pic inside) [Picture here!](http://imgur.com/8JIEr00)\n\n\nThank you in advance!", "How to fix this? Car remote control ring hole (Pic inside) [Picture here!](http://imgur.com/8JIEr00)\n\n\nThank you in advance!" ]

[ "this could be a perfectly useless tip, but i just saw a site for this cool ass stuff called sugru and one of the examples of how to use it was this exact situation.", "JB Weld, or in this case JB Quick (faster, slightly less stronger version of the former) should work. It's basically a two-part epoxy that drys hard like plastic and bonds to most surfaces extremely well. If it were me, I would mix up a small amount and wait a few of minutes for it to start to harden (2-5 or so) so that it is pliable. I'd build a mound of it across the top, using the remaining parts of the ring as the outer edge. I would build it fairly think, and slightly cover the outer edge parts so that it forms one solid mass. Let it sit for a few hours then drill out the center. You can sand the edges if needed, and it will dry close to the color of that fob just as it is. Here's a representation: http://i.imgur.com/9hT3YJ7.jpg Also, even though you will use only a little bit of it, it's great stuff to have around for odd-ball repairs. Practice with a little of it first so you can get a sense of it hardening to where you can mold it into place. If you try to put it on freshly mixed, it will just run like goo. Good luck.", "The best, easiest and most secure way to fix this is to drill a small (1mm or so) hole just back from the broken portion where it meets the rest of the remote. \nThis has happened to me twice, this trick works every time. You can buy a cheap 1mm drill bit at any hardware or 2 dollar store.", "I had this happen and I epoxied a key ring to the back of the fob, so that it stuck out over the edge where the broken spot had been, to substitute for the broken loop. It held for a couple of months.", "" ]

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[ "How to get a song 'unstuck' from your head? Sorry I couldn't think of a better title but what I mean is that sometimes after listening to song for quite some time repeatedly it gets kind of stuck in your brain and you keep involuntarily singing it (not out aloud). This can get pretty distracting especially when it happens during an examination. Has anyone else faced this problem? I usually avoid listening to songs before an exam therefore but is there a remedy to get it unstuck?", "How to get a song 'unstuck' from your head? Sorry I couldn't think of a better title but what I mean is that sometimes after listening to song for quite some time repeatedly it gets kind of stuck in your brain and you keep involuntarily singing it (not out aloud). This can get pretty distracting especially when it happens during an examination. Has anyone else faced this problem? I usually avoid listening to songs before an exam therefore but is there a remedy to get it unstuck?", "How to get a song 'unstuck' from your head? Sorry I couldn't think of a better title but what I mean is that sometimes after listening to song for quite some time repeatedly it gets kind of stuck in your brain and you keep involuntarily singing it (not out aloud). This can get pretty distracting especially when it happens during an examination. Has anyone else faced this problem? I usually avoid listening to songs before an exam therefore but is there a remedy to get it unstuck?", "How to get a song 'unstuck' from your head? Sorry I couldn't think of a better title but what I mean is that sometimes after listening to song for quite some time repeatedly it gets kind of stuck in your brain and you keep involuntarily singing it (not out aloud). This can get pretty distracting especially when it happens during an examination. Has anyone else faced this problem? I usually avoid listening to songs before an exam therefore but is there a remedy to get it unstuck?", "How to get a song 'unstuck' from your head? Sorry I couldn't think of a better title but what I mean is that sometimes after listening to song for quite some time repeatedly it gets kind of stuck in your brain and you keep involuntarily singing it (not out aloud). This can get pretty distracting especially when it happens during an examination. Has anyone else faced this problem? I usually avoid listening to songs before an exam therefore but is there a remedy to get it unstuck?", "How to get a song 'unstuck' from your head? Sorry I couldn't think of a better title but what I mean is that sometimes after listening to song for quite some time repeatedly it gets kind of stuck in your brain and you keep involuntarily singing it (not out aloud). This can get pretty distracting especially when it happens during an examination. Has anyone else faced this problem? I usually avoid listening to songs before an exam therefore but is there a remedy to get it unstuck?", "How to get a song 'unstuck' from your head? Sorry I couldn't think of a better title but what I mean is that sometimes after listening to song for quite some time repeatedly it gets kind of stuck in your brain and you keep involuntarily singing it (not out aloud). This can get pretty distracting especially when it happens during an examination. Has anyone else faced this problem? I usually avoid listening to songs before an exam therefore but is there a remedy to get it unstuck?", "How to get a song 'unstuck' from your head? Sorry I couldn't think of a better title but what I mean is that sometimes after listening to song for quite some time repeatedly it gets kind of stuck in your brain and you keep involuntarily singing it (not out aloud). This can get pretty distracting especially when it happens during an examination. Has anyone else faced this problem? I usually avoid listening to songs before an exam therefore but is there a remedy to get it unstuck?" ]

[ "I was skeptical when I was first told about this, but it actually works (most of the time).\n\n In your head (or out loud if you are so inclined) sing the words from *Mary Had a Little Lamb* to the tune of the *Gilligan's Island* theme song.", "Disclaimer: this probably won't work for you, I'm probably just weird.\n\nWhen I have a song stuck in my head, I start singing \"On the Road Again\" by Willie Nelson. It removes the earworm, and for reasons I will never understand, \"On the Road Again\" never gets stuck in my head. \n\nTry it. I'd be curious to know if Willie Nelson is magic or if I've just found my own personal secret.", "I just realized this rarely happens to me now. I've started listening to a whole bunch of instrumental stuff (i.e. ratatat/glitch mob/Lindsey Stirling/escala). I imagine that the mind doesn't latch on to tones as much as words. In the least if you do have an instrumental stuck in your head it's a lot less abrasive and distracting.", "I always just pictured my brain as my own person ipod. If I have a song stuck in my head, I just think \"pause\" and scroll through my tracklist for something else that I don't mind listening too. If that fails, I play the song \"Can't Get You Out of My Head\" until I get distracted.", "try to sing along with the song in your head and then suddenly hold one of the tones. \nso basicly you'll do something like this\n\"on the road again, I can't wait to get on the road againnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn\" and just hold that last syllable until you've got rid of the earworm.", "Morning train by Sheena Easton. Play it and it will dislodge an ear worm without replacing it. It's magic. ", "Another way to remove the ear worm is by changing some part of the lyrics with slang and profanities on your mom and sing it loud and understand the meaning. After few seconds you will realize wtf was I singing and you won't sing it again.", "There's a trick that my pap told me they used to use in wartimes after a lot of USO shows were sung over and over. \n\nWhat you want to do is see if you can find a good friend to sneak up on you and then abruptly knock you over. Afterwards, pick yourself up, smile, and ask them to do it again. This time, when you get knocked down, and you get up again, tell them that they're never gonna keep you down. I've always found that this works for me." ]

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[ "How To ACTUALLY Stop Proctastinating I hate myself right now. I have a week to read 3 books and write stuff on them. Could've been 2 weeks but nah.\n\nI literally can waste a whole day doing nothing but redditing, YouTube, etc. For some things I put my electronics away, but other times I need them. Schedules dont work because of too many variables. I've read that procrastination monkey thing, and I agree, but still I find myself goofing off. \n\nI can only work if it's last minute. Then, I work at insane efficiency. I want to replicate that consistently so I can have more time doing other things like learning a new language or practicing soccer... Etc.\nI know that my future self will be more happy if I just do it now. I've read everything about procrastination but I still feel hopeless.\n\nI desperately want to learn how to solve my procrastination at its root, not just by putting my phone away. I want to become a more responsible and disciplined person, because at my current state I'll never get through life. Please help me.", "How To ACTUALLY Stop Proctastinating I hate myself right now. I have a week to read 3 books and write stuff on them. Could've been 2 weeks but nah.\n\nI literally can waste a whole day doing nothing but redditing, YouTube, etc. For some things I put my electronics away, but other times I need them. Schedules dont work because of too many variables. I've read that procrastination monkey thing, and I agree, but still I find myself goofing off. \n\nI can only work if it's last minute. Then, I work at insane efficiency. I want to replicate that consistently so I can have more time doing other things like learning a new language or practicing soccer... Etc.\nI know that my future self will be more happy if I just do it now. I've read everything about procrastination but I still feel hopeless.\n\nI desperately want to learn how to solve my procrastination at its root, not just by putting my phone away. I want to become a more responsible and disciplined person, because at my current state I'll never get through life. Please help me.", "How To ACTUALLY Stop Proctastinating I hate myself right now. I have a week to read 3 books and write stuff on them. Could've been 2 weeks but nah.\n\nI literally can waste a whole day doing nothing but redditing, YouTube, etc. For some things I put my electronics away, but other times I need them. Schedules dont work because of too many variables. I've read that procrastination monkey thing, and I agree, but still I find myself goofing off. \n\nI can only work if it's last minute. Then, I work at insane efficiency. I want to replicate that consistently so I can have more time doing other things like learning a new language or practicing soccer... Etc.\nI know that my future self will be more happy if I just do it now. I've read everything about procrastination but I still feel hopeless.\n\nI desperately want to learn how to solve my procrastination at its root, not just by putting my phone away. I want to become a more responsible and disciplined person, because at my current state I'll never get through life. Please help me.", "How To ACTUALLY Stop Proctastinating I hate myself right now. I have a week to read 3 books and write stuff on them. Could've been 2 weeks but nah.\n\nI literally can waste a whole day doing nothing but redditing, YouTube, etc. For some things I put my electronics away, but other times I need them. Schedules dont work because of too many variables. I've read that procrastination monkey thing, and I agree, but still I find myself goofing off. \n\nI can only work if it's last minute. Then, I work at insane efficiency. I want to replicate that consistently so I can have more time doing other things like learning a new language or practicing soccer... Etc.\nI know that my future self will be more happy if I just do it now. I've read everything about procrastination but I still feel hopeless.\n\nI desperately want to learn how to solve my procrastination at its root, not just by putting my phone away. I want to become a more responsible and disciplined person, because at my current state I'll never get through life. Please help me.", "How To ACTUALLY Stop Proctastinating I hate myself right now. I have a week to read 3 books and write stuff on them. Could've been 2 weeks but nah.\n\nI literally can waste a whole day doing nothing but redditing, YouTube, etc. For some things I put my electronics away, but other times I need them. Schedules dont work because of too many variables. I've read that procrastination monkey thing, and I agree, but still I find myself goofing off. \n\nI can only work if it's last minute. Then, I work at insane efficiency. I want to replicate that consistently so I can have more time doing other things like learning a new language or practicing soccer... Etc.\nI know that my future self will be more happy if I just do it now. I've read everything about procrastination but I still feel hopeless.\n\nI desperately want to learn how to solve my procrastination at its root, not just by putting my phone away. I want to become a more responsible and disciplined person, because at my current state I'll never get through life. Please help me.", "How To ACTUALLY Stop Proctastinating I hate myself right now. I have a week to read 3 books and write stuff on them. Could've been 2 weeks but nah.\n\nI literally can waste a whole day doing nothing but redditing, YouTube, etc. For some things I put my electronics away, but other times I need them. Schedules dont work because of too many variables. I've read that procrastination monkey thing, and I agree, but still I find myself goofing off. \n\nI can only work if it's last minute. Then, I work at insane efficiency. I want to replicate that consistently so I can have more time doing other things like learning a new language or practicing soccer... Etc.\nI know that my future self will be more happy if I just do it now. I've read everything about procrastination but I still feel hopeless.\n\nI desperately want to learn how to solve my procrastination at its root, not just by putting my phone away. I want to become a more responsible and disciplined person, because at my current state I'll never get through life. Please help me." ]

[ "There is no all-or-nothing solution. The trick is to find one small habit you can change or practice until it becomes part of your life, then start on a new habit. It's slow, but do it right and you'll transform yourself.\n\nFor starters, find a good self-help resource, like the website [Zen Habits](http://zenhabits.net/) and a time you can make it part of your daily routine. You'll get good advice and feel more motivated the rest of the day. Leo Babauta has had a tremendous, positive impact on the way I look at time management and personal goals, and most of what he offers is completely free. ", "You work well with deadlines, so try working that into your favor. Instead of a schedule (today I'll write X pages), try setting deadlines (X pages are due today). Then you've just got to trick your mind into placing the same importance on the deadlines you set.\n\nA change of environment can be a big help. Go to the library to work. You won't have as many distractions, and you'll (hopefully) be less likely to browse Reddit on their computers than on yours.\n\nIf your school has one, talk to your counseling services. They can very likely help you.", "There was a thread sometime last week where someone posted this article:\nhttp://www.waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html\n\nIt helped a shit ton of people. Read all three parts and print the bitch out if you need to", "I've found two things incredibly helpful for this:\n\nFirstly - go for a walk without your phone or any other tech. Doesn't need to be a hike, can literally be five minutes around the block, but just go.\n\nSecondly - there is a playlist on Spotify called Deep Focus. When you get back from the walk, put that on and start your task before you have the chance to distract yourself.\n\nRepeat until work is completed.", "I use a mini reward system for completed tasks, such as I get dairy queen for a finished bibliography. I also get into a productive mindset by doing something useful even if it's easy and low priority, like fold laundry while watching netflix. It's easier to keep going once you start. Abandoning the mindset that \"I don't wanna right now\" is temporary, youre never going to want to work. But it's easier than letting it pile up.", "Call this bad advice but procrastinating is good for you. Embrace it because it resembles real life. I'm 15 years into a career and am in my mid thirties. I don't claim to be an expert on life or anything, but life becomes all about putting out fires especially as your career, marriage/kids, life progresses. You don't have weeks or months to get things done - you have to get it done right now. Gotta think quick on your feet. Boss needs something done by tomorrow morning and it's 5PM? You bust your ass and deliver. Kids sick? You take them to the doctor and get meds while juggling your job, one car in the shop, and little sleep. New problems arise from what seems like another time and dimension and you are expected to take care of them and be at the top of your game. Maybe an unpopular opinion, but I think procrastination in your younger years just sets you up for dealing with the real issues that arise in life later on. " ]

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[ "How to build the kind focus I have while taking an exam? I procrastinate while studying for exams & my mind wanders. But while I'm taking the test , I have complete focus & my brain runs at max capacity (which brings about a physical exhaustion after the exam too). \n\nHow do I build that kind of focus for home & work as well?", "How to build the kind focus I have while taking an exam? I procrastinate while studying for exams & my mind wanders. But while I'm taking the test , I have complete focus & my brain runs at max capacity (which brings about a physical exhaustion after the exam too). \n\nHow do I build that kind of focus for home & work as well?", "How to build the kind focus I have while taking an exam? I procrastinate while studying for exams & my mind wanders. But while I'm taking the test , I have complete focus & my brain runs at max capacity (which brings about a physical exhaustion after the exam too). \n\nHow do I build that kind of focus for home & work as well?", "How to build the kind focus I have while taking an exam? I procrastinate while studying for exams & my mind wanders. But while I'm taking the test , I have complete focus & my brain runs at max capacity (which brings about a physical exhaustion after the exam too). \n\nHow do I build that kind of focus for home & work as well?" ]

[ "If you find yourself a lot more productive in exam situations, then simulate exam situations when you study. Let's examine what factors present during an exam encourage your mind to work at its maximum:\n\n**1. time limit**: During tests, your brain is stimulated to minimize time wasting and complete the required tasks, whether it be a short essay or a certain number of math problems, within the time allotted.\n\nIn order to replicate that feeling of urgency at home, set a timer for, say 2 hours. During those two hours, dedicate yourself to be as productive as possible. After that time has passed, you can take a break or, better yet, reset the timer at two hours again.\n\n**2. Motivation**: If you fail this test, your GPA goes down. If your GPA goes down, you cannot get into your dream program. While doing a test, the stakes are generally quite obvious and you are very well aware of them. However, while studying at home, you may be inclined to \"take a break now and do the work tomorrow morning\". Getting around that procrastinating mindset is tricky; it requires you to motivate yourself. If you follow the other guidelines, you should be able to \"trick\" yourself into working hard at home as if you were taking a test.\n\nAsking yourself why you need to study can also help you get motivated. It doesn't have to be anything major like getting into a good college program or passing your class. It can simply be that you remember how unsatisfied you were after receiving your previous test back and that you want to get better. it can be that you don't want to feel guilty tonight when you hang out with your friends. Or maybe you want an entirely free and guilt-less Saturday to chill?\n\n**3. Distractions**: There's no PS4, cellphone, Netflix, or Facebook during a test that can distract you. Make sure you that that's also the case when studying: isolate yourself in the library/your room, close your entertainment devices, don't bring your laptop, hide and close your cellphone. If it's necessary for you to use your laptop while studying, I recommend using programs like \"Block Site\" (google chrome store) which can prevent you from accessing websites such as Facebook, Netflix, or Reddit.\n\nAnother common type of distraction would be noise. During tests, you can't hear anything except for pens scratching on papers or fingers tapping keyboards. THis is not the case at home, where you may have siblings running around or parents talking on the phone, or even the library, where people often study in group and chat with each other. There is not much you can do to remove that noise completely. You can however use tools such as listening to music or noise-cancelling headphones as you study. If that requires the use of your cellphone, then be sure to activate airplane mode or \"Do Not Disturb\" mode so that you won't use your cellphone for anything other than music.\n\n**4. Energy**: People tend to either sleep early before a test or drink coffee in order to be able to focus during it. Doing so before studying can also help maximize results (of course, use coffee sparingly, as it can have negative long-term consequences).\n\nIronically, I am typing this at the library instead of doing my Linear Algebra homework. I guess I should follow my own advice.", "Saw this post linked the other day, haven't gotten around to reading it but seemed like a lot of positive responses in regards to it: \n\nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/NonZeroDay/wiki/the_four_pillars", "Everything, almost, in life is an exam graded or watches by others. Yet, know way more important than some stupid test. ", "Designate a place in your house where you only go to study. Or even better, go to a library or cafe or anywhere outside to study. If possible, don't bring your phone there for the first few times. \n\nAfter a few sessions, your brain will associate that place with studying, and you will not think about doing anything there but studying. Most importantly, don't do your leisure activities there, if the place is in you house. Keep that place sacred." ]

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[ "Keeping glasses clean I clean my glasses whenever I wake up with a spray soluotin and a cloth, but they still end up getting dirty about an hour later. Is there a way to keep my lenses clean for longer?", "Keeping glasses clean I clean my glasses whenever I wake up with a spray soluotin and a cloth, but they still end up getting dirty about an hour later. Is there a way to keep my lenses clean for longer?", "Keeping glasses clean I clean my glasses whenever I wake up with a spray soluotin and a cloth, but they still end up getting dirty about an hour later. Is there a way to keep my lenses clean for longer?", "Keeping glasses clean I clean my glasses whenever I wake up with a spray soluotin and a cloth, but they still end up getting dirty about an hour later. Is there a way to keep my lenses clean for longer?" ]

[ "Try wearing at least one article of clothing that is 100% cotton. Then, when your glasses become too unbearably dirty, discretely wipe them. Or keep a microfiber cloth handy to do the same.", "People will look at you a bit funny sometimes, but if you breathe on them to get a little bit of condensation formed, then you can wipe them on practically any cotton piece of clothing and they'll be much cleaner. Just do it discreetly, of course, since it is a little strange.", "I feel your pain. I notice a lot of the grease on my lenses forms right at the top towards the bridge, so maybe it's whenever I bring my eyebrows in.", "This is a good one! Can't say I've tried it myself but my uncle used to put his into the dishwasher and they came out literally squeaky clean. " ]

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[ "Getting an wooden outdoor shed to not be musty and smelly? I have a workbench built into my outdoor wooden shed that I'd like to use daily soon. However it always has that \"shed\" smell. Musty, airs kind of thick. How can I get it to smell like a normal room in the house?", "Getting an wooden outdoor shed to not be musty and smelly? I have a workbench built into my outdoor wooden shed that I'd like to use daily soon. However it always has that \"shed\" smell. Musty, airs kind of thick. How can I get it to smell like a normal room in the house?" ]

[ "Ventilation may be an issue. Ensure that there is airflow through the shed, particularly in the corners and roof etc, and behind things hung on or leaning against the walls.\n\nThis can be something as simple as making a few holes - perhaps just below the eaves - on opposite sides of the shed, and maybe covering them will a grill or something.", "[This stuff](http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1/186-2378632-3104754?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=ona+gel). \n\nYou just leave it in there with the lid off and it will remove absolutely any smell. It was originally developed to stop sewage processing plants from smelling so it's complete overkill for domestic use" ]

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[ "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?", "what’s the etiquette? Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\nPerson B (A’s brother) asks to borrow Person A’s car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\nPerson A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\nPerson A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.\n\nIs this ok? Any problems?" ]

[ "The way I was raised was that if one borrowed an item, one would return it in as good or better condition.", "Person B is an ass hole. Leaving it at 1/4 is minimally acceptable, anything less is unacceptable. \n\nShould at least put what you used plus 1/4 or fill it all the way up. Given gas prices these days I only expect a $40 put in the tank when I loan my car out. \n\nA good borrower will leave it with a full tank, a great borrow will clean it out and leave it better then they found it.", "I'd personally fill the tank. Golden rule of borrowing stuff is always return the item in better shape than you got it if you ever want the lender to lend you anything ever again.", "Honestly, I would fill the tank up as a thank you. But on the other hand, if my brother asked to borrow my car and used an 1/8 tank of gas I wouldn’t think twice about it.", "I don’t know, but of o borrow someone’s car, I’d toss a couple bucks of gas in before I returned it some people don’t.", "Obviously one of the parties is tight on cash... \n\nPersonally, if the car was not in need of fuel i wouldnt have thought about the need for filling it (with a close relative, whats $20 between siblings?) especially if it required another trip.\n\nIf it was someone i was not close to, i would likely return that puppy with a full tank of gas and another small gift for the favor. Yet for a trip that took an 1/8 of a tank and was a siblings car, i wouldnt think much about it... again whats $20 worth, in terms of time to replace it? \n\nIf i was tight on cash, there would be some light ribbing of the sibling to let them know that they left me in a tough spot after i went out my way to help... if it was just a time convenience thing for needing more fuel on the next jouney, id suck it up and probably forget to say something before it slipped my mind.", "person B is a dick, it should be full or close to full. also the leaving money for Gas is BS, the inconvenience of filling the car with gas should be alleviated. if it is just to run to the store because it is the easiest car in the drive way, no biggie, but to use it while you are away, and not fill it, unacceptable", "Person B is a douchebag, you use the car and don’t even replace the fuel you used never mind filling it up as a thank you.", "Why is person B borrowing their own car?\n\n>Person A is out of town, car is home, car has 1/4 tank of gas left.\n\n>*Person B* (A’s brother) asks to borrow *Person B’s* car for family to fit more comfortably with visitors inlaws for xmas.\n\n>Person A says absolutely, not a problem whatsoever.\n\n>Person A arrives back home to a car with an 1/8 tank of gas.", "Since person B is borrowing his own car… But assuming that’s a typo and he is borrowing person A’s car, then yes, minimum is to fill at what he got it.", "Person B should've put $20 worth of gas into the car so that the next driver isn't screwed with just an 1/8 tank of gas.\nWtf is anyone going to do with just an 8th tank of gas???\nIt's like running low on toilet paper but not having the decency to bring out another roll for the next guy.", "Ideally fill the tank, preferably leave more than when first borrowed, but a bare minimum would be to ensure it has at least the \"original\" quarter tank level.", "I try to live by the rule \"always return what you borrow in as good or better condition than when you received it\". The gas used should have at least been replaced if the tank wasn't returned full.", "parents didn’t raised B right.\n\nAnd since you guys are siblings I’m surprised he didn’t totalled the car. \n\nJust be happy it’s still in one piece.", "Straight answer, no this isn’t ok.\nIf someone is willing to lend you anything of theirs, common courtesy would tell you to reciprocate. \nI feel like an exception might be if sibling B is struggling financially, sibling A might be completely understanding and unbothered. But if Sibling B is simply too lazy or doesn’t care enough to show gratitude by returning the vehicle with the same amount of gas (or more), he’s just an asshole and I wouldn’t be lending my car again", "Return borrowed vehicles with the gas tank full. \n\nYou can *maybe* skip this step if the vehicle owner is a member of your household or if you only drove the vehicle to do a favor for the owner, but even then it's still good manners to return it with as much or more fuel than it had when you borrowed it.", "Person B is an asshole. In some places 1/8 of a tank isn't even enough to get to a gas station. Atleast fill it to where it was.", "My parents said you borrow the truck or car you fill it up all the way no matter where its at as payment for a favor done. I always thought this was fair and they never had to pull the lemme run it down for free gas stuff.", "It’s ok, but only barely. Just above theft. Any hint of gratitude for the favor would begin with giving something for the lent vehicle, like fuel.", "Always return items in the same condition or better. So the gas in the tank should be the same or more. Also would be a good idea to quickly vacuum the interior or otherwise do some quick cleaning. Especially if it was for a road trip or something.", "Return it with more gas than it had when you received it, and clean up any mess that is made. Person B shouldn't expect any more favors. Just curious, is Person A more financially successful than Person B? I've seen some of my family members take advantage of others because \"they can afford it\", which is bullshit." ]

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[ "Tidy people, what quick tips do you swear by? More specifically: I’ve got a full time job where I work late but I’m sick of my floordrobe. Where does everybody put those clothes that aren’t clean and aren’t dirty? ", "Tidy people, what quick tips do you swear by? More specifically: I’ve got a full time job where I work late but I’m sick of my floordrobe. Where does everybody put those clothes that aren’t clean and aren’t dirty? ", "Tidy people, what quick tips do you swear by? More specifically: I’ve got a full time job where I work late but I’m sick of my floordrobe. Where does everybody put those clothes that aren’t clean and aren’t dirty? ", "Tidy people, what quick tips do you swear by? More specifically: I’ve got a full time job where I work late but I’m sick of my floordrobe. Where does everybody put those clothes that aren’t clean and aren’t dirty? ", "Tidy people, what quick tips do you swear by? More specifically: I’ve got a full time job where I work late but I’m sick of my floordrobe. Where does everybody put those clothes that aren’t clean and aren’t dirty? ", "Tidy people, what quick tips do you swear by? More specifically: I’ve got a full time job where I work late but I’m sick of my floordrobe. Where does everybody put those clothes that aren’t clean and aren’t dirty? ", "Tidy people, what quick tips do you swear by? More specifically: I’ve got a full time job where I work late but I’m sick of my floordrobe. Where does everybody put those clothes that aren’t clean and aren’t dirty? ", "Tidy people, what quick tips do you swear by? More specifically: I’ve got a full time job where I work late but I’m sick of my floordrobe. Where does everybody put those clothes that aren’t clean and aren’t dirty? ", "Tidy people, what quick tips do you swear by? More specifically: I’ve got a full time job where I work late but I’m sick of my floordrobe. Where does everybody put those clothes that aren’t clean and aren’t dirty? ", "Tidy people, what quick tips do you swear by? More specifically: I’ve got a full time job where I work late but I’m sick of my floordrobe. Where does everybody put those clothes that aren’t clean and aren’t dirty? ", "Tidy people, what quick tips do you swear by? More specifically: I’ve got a full time job where I work late but I’m sick of my floordrobe. Where does everybody put those clothes that aren’t clean and aren’t dirty? ", "Tidy people, what quick tips do you swear by? More specifically: I’ve got a full time job where I work late but I’m sick of my floordrobe. Where does everybody put those clothes that aren’t clean and aren’t dirty? " ]

[ "Three things.\n\n1. Take the \"Nike approach\" and just do it. If it has to be done, get it done now.\n\n2. There are three possible places laundry can be, the wardrobe, the hamper, or the wash. Period.\n\n3. Race your microwave. Two minutes on the clock? Pushups. Making some popcorn? Folding Laundry. Nuking a warming bag? Making lunch for tomorrow.", "I have a clothes rack. I do not put clothes Ive already worn back in the closet. Because eventually, I will not remember how many times I wore any given piece of clothing and furthermore, all the worn clothes will also eventually make an odor on all the other washed clothes. I hang my worn clothes nicely on my clothes rack and try to use them up before I grab fresh ones from the closet.", "On a dedicated chair, as is tradition. Occasionally on a hanger from an overdoor hook if it's something that's wrinkle-prone or just too big for the chair, like a dress. ", "If you always keep things reasonably clean and well organized, there is never much needed to maintain. If you let shit pile up and get nasty, you're about to spend an entire weekend getting it back to clean. I'd rather spend 10 minutes a day maintaining, than waste all of a day off ", "Get an over-the-door multi hook for those worn-but-not-too-dirty clothes. Make a rule how many times they can be worn & rotate accordingly. ", "Do you not have a closet or dresser? I hang all of my long pants and long shirts, and roll up my underwear, socks, shorts, t-shirts, and always grab them from the left. \n\nWhen I wash them, I roll/hang them up like usual and put them on the right, so everything can be easily seen and cycles thoroughly so I'm not wearing the same 5 of 20 t-shirts/underwear for life.", "Just get it done while it's on your mind. If you leave it and say \"I'll do it later\", chances are you'll forget about it. And when you finally remember, you'll still have it to do. You may as well just get it done now so it's out of the way!", "It’s just hard to get started. Once you get going just keep going you build momentum don’t stop and sit or take breaks just pump it out and when you done take a minute to enjoy it don’t just walk away. Really check out the area and appreciate it ", "If you can, hangars behind the door/on the wall help me with this. I hang my jeans there when its used once (not dirty to wash after one use, don't want to wear it out). I used to just dump it on the floor, but it was bugging me too much.\n\nIf nailing stuff into the door is not desirable (rented space, not your place, etc.), there are some sticky-backed hooks you can get from the local hardware store that are pretty good. (might peel paint when removed, so be aware).\n\n", "I organize my clothes by pants, shirts, dress shirts/button ups, sweaters, hoodies, and jackets. Anything I wear and then take off I immediately hang any clothes I take off and place them on the outside of this organization system (like to the right of the jackets). At the end of the week, anything that is on that side gets washed. ", "I chuck all the in-between stuff on a chair. (I'm fully aware this is not the answer your're looking for....) ", "Find an outfit that works. Steve Jobs' had his iconic black turtle neck and jeans, others have done the same. Buy 5-6 pair of that full outfit. Wear one per day." ]

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[ "How to be more productive in school Hello all, I(14m) recently got into high school and found out how bad my habits were, i procrastinate a lot and i wanna change that. I recently watched [this video](https://youtu.be/DmwTN2slUhU), i wanna be like that guy. I have about 5-6 projects all due in 2 weeks and i need to know how to deal with this without stressing.", "How to be more productive in school Hello all, I(14m) recently got into high school and found out how bad my habits were, i procrastinate a lot and i wanna change that. I recently watched [this video](https://youtu.be/DmwTN2slUhU), i wanna be like that guy. I have about 5-6 projects all due in 2 weeks and i need to know how to deal with this without stressing.", "How to be more productive in school Hello all, I(14m) recently got into high school and found out how bad my habits were, i procrastinate a lot and i wanna change that. I recently watched [this video](https://youtu.be/DmwTN2slUhU), i wanna be like that guy. I have about 5-6 projects all due in 2 weeks and i need to know how to deal with this without stressing.", "How to be more productive in school Hello all, I(14m) recently got into high school and found out how bad my habits were, i procrastinate a lot and i wanna change that. I recently watched [this video](https://youtu.be/DmwTN2slUhU), i wanna be like that guy. I have about 5-6 projects all due in 2 weeks and i need to know how to deal with this without stressing." ]

[ "Best way to cope with a lot of impending projects is to break each one down into bite-sized steps. For project 1, what parts do you need to do for it to be complete? Create a little step by step list for each. \n\nThen what you wanna do is order their due dates. What’s first, down to what’s due last. Then, you can see which one is going to require the most steps vs which are due first. You can decide based on those rankings which pieces you need to tackle first. \n\nBreaking procrastination, in my experience, is about taking an overwhelming task and splitting it up into obtainable parts. Like if I need to clean my whole apartment, I won’t put that on my to-do list… I’ll instead put “do the dishes” “make my bed” “vacuum”, and by the end of the list I will have cleaned the whole apartment. But I get to check off the boxes as I go and see the progress I’m making.", "Make small goals. Better to fail small multiple times than big.\n\nEnvironment. Very common that your house or room is not conducive to your focus. Get out and find a place to focus. Library, park, coffee shop. 1st step is getting there. You're there, might as well get some value from that trip.", "Take time to care for yourself. Do a little work every day, and don’t be too hard on yourself if you dont meet personal goals. That’ll just make you give up.\nFigure out how much you can study for and do that much, no more. Take lots of breaks. For example, I study for 50 minutes then take a 10-15 minute break.\nMake progress even if it’s just putting your name on the paper and brainstorming. This’ll make you feel better.\n\nDon’t try to be someone else. Its good to have goals and people to look up to, but you don’t know their life. They could be miserable, or maybe not fulfilled in other areas of their life. Also, it’s a video.. people show off their best, not their worst. Try to be better but don’t be hard on yourself if you fail sometimes.", "I didn’t watch the video but one thing that helped me was to do all my work first. If I had anything that needed to get done I just did it before anything else so I could go back to the things I want to do. This takes some discipline but the reward is worth it. In college some classes had all the assignments for the whole semester handed out at the start and each one had a due date at different times. I just spent the first week doing every assignment for the semester and turned it in when necessary and got to coast the rest of the way." ]

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[ "Finding inspiration to do new things I have a hard time finding inspiration to do new things.For example when I try to program I'm pumped for like 30 minutes of it then I just don't feel like doing it anymore.I enjoy programming but I'm not inspired to do it..", "Finding inspiration to do new things I have a hard time finding inspiration to do new things.For example when I try to program I'm pumped for like 30 minutes of it then I just don't feel like doing it anymore.I enjoy programming but I'm not inspired to do it.." ]

[ "Spend more time outside. Go for walks, take your time, or hike. Pick things that have goals, like hike to a peak, or play a game that takes time like golf or disc golf, and is relaxing too. \n\nAnd exercise. Regular exercise helps boost motivation in people, and relieves stress through exhaustion. \n\nSetso hit some good points. You've likely become too accustomed to instant gratification, so unplug and do things that are fun, but less instantaneous and stimulating. ", "It sounds a little harsh, but honestly, waiting around for inspiration or motivation is really a unreliable method of getting things done. What you need instead is *self-discipline*. \n\nHaving self-discipline means you need to find ways to hold yourself accountable. You can do that in a number of different ways, for example:\n\n-Setting a certain time each day to do your work. For example, say to yourself \"I will start working at 10am every day\"\n\n-Breaking up your work time - you even said you can stay motivated for 30 minutes. So work for half an hour, take a 5 minute break, work another 30 minutes. Change up the times as you see fit and use a timer to keep yourself to it.\n\n-Tell other people what you're doing. Text a friend, or post a facebook status about how pumped you are to get \"x\" thing done today.\n\n-Since you're programming, you're working on a computer, and the infinite knowledge of the Internet Elder Gods is always temptingly calling you. So use an app like SelfRestraint (SelfControl for Mac), it blocks certain websites for a set period of time, but you can still use google or whatever else you need. Link: https://github.com/ParkerK/selfrestraint\n\n-When you feel yourself losing focus, find a way to snap out of it. This is hard because usually we don't notice, but when you do, I find the best way to wake my brain up is to get up and do something, maybe just throw away some trash or get a cold glass of water (being hydrated helps too)\n\n-Break up your work into smaller pieces, if you can. Say to yourself \"I'm going to get these 5 lines of code done right now\" instead of \"I need to finish this whole program\". The first one is easier to accomplish, and once you do it, you'll feel good about it and ready to tackle more.\n\n-Finally, try changing up your environment. If you have a laptop, take it to a coffee shop. I know whenever I'm trying to work at home my brain says \"This isn't where I do work. This is the chillout zone\". But if I go somewhere, it's for the expressed purpose of finishing something.\n\n...This turned out longer than expected, this is all stuff I have to do to get my ADD brain to focus! But it seriously helps." ]

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[ "This is called sleep inertia, you can read more into it, but as odd as it sounds you're not napping well. \n\nBefore you nap, you can try setting an alarm to keep naps to under thirty minutes from the moment you set the alarm, which can keep your sleep in the first stage of the sleep cycle.\n\nAlternatively, you can try to remove napping from any schedule you do to aid a more full sleep. This is usually more manageable if you're not a napper like myself.", "I have a very weird schedule. I'm a full time student, I work 40 hours a week and I also do some dog walking in the morning a few days a week. Naps really help me get through the week and they are scheduled. \nWhen nap time is approaching and I feel myself slipping I go get in the bed. No napping on the couch in front of the TV. I strip down, get in bed, and set the timer on my phone for 2 hours. This allows me to go through one sleep cycle and I usually wake up feeling pretty refreshed, with only a tad of grogginess. A shower usually eliminates that, and then it's off to work for eight hours!\nFor a short nap don't exceed 45 minutes, this will keep you from going into deep sleep. \nTry the Power Nap app too. It will slowly wake you up, and I love the alarm choices. Very tranquil. ", "Set some cocaine up on a table close to where you are napping, so that when you wake up you can just do a line and get back to the action. ", "Maybe get checked for sleep apnea? I had the same issue and found out that was my problem. Also it was the reason for needing to take naps so frequently. ", "Dont take naps? Just find something to do instead and then go to bed at a reasonable hour.\n\nBut if you must nap (for the record, i am an avid napper) try to sneak in a power nap for about 20 minutes, or a legit nap of about 3-3 1/2 hours.\n\nYour problem is that you're probably waking up in the middle of a REM cycle. If you can time it so that you never enter into REM sleep, you'll be fine. If you can time it so that you wake up between REM cycles, you'll be fine. But if you wake up when you're in the middle of one of those REM cycles you'll be fucked. \n\nNow some sleep specialist is gonna come in and tell you why im a moron who is totally wrong about everything and should be shot for my ignorance. ", "Coffee just before nap, wake up as the caffeine kicks in. You get a short refreshing nap and wake up perky. I usually have another coffee upon waking and it's toot toot de toot toot for a couple hours. ", "I've looked at the top comments and can't seem to find the correct answer posted so far. It has to do with your sleep cycles. You don't fall into a deep sleep for about 20 minutes, which afterwards, you fall deeper into sleep and when you wake up, you feel like crap. You need to nap for a period of time which avoids you falling into a deep sleep or nap long enough to come out of the deep sleep cycle. If you want to take a longer nap, a complete sleep cycle is about 90 to 110 minutes. You should nap for an extra half hour and you should feel amazing since you are going to be coming out of a sleep cycle.", "Same here. With the addition of being in full on rage mode. God help anyone that has to encounter me post-nap. ", "Try finding an app that monitors your sleep cycles so it will wake you up during the correct cycle.\n\nI just saw a conversation about this on a different post a few days ago, sorry I can't remember which one.", "It seems that you can fix this before or after the nap. For before, I would recommend ear plugs, an eye mask, and to make sure that the room is at a temperature that is comfortable for you. If you're trying to sleep through a noisy or a bright environment, you'll get less nap time, and wake up shitty. Same applies with the temperature.\n\n\nFor after, I would just take a quick stroll around your area. There'll be times when I just needed to crash, and woke up groggy. Even if it's not outside, just walking around your apartment/house can wake you up.", "I'll put it this way. You sleep in cycles, going between deep restful sleep and light sleep. If you are are pulled out of deep sleep to wake up, you experience this feeling, so you need try to wake up at the end of a sleep cycle while you're in a state of light sleep so that you can avoid it.\n\nSleep cycles take ~one and a half hours, and you'll take around 15-30 minutes to fall asleep. Maybe consider setting an alarm for a time where you should be in light sleep? Be aware that there's a good 10-20 minutes of wiggle room either way so you don't have to be too precise about it.\n\nCutting down on sleep is another option, this is a \"powernap\" where you don't get into the deep sleep in the first place. It's short and refreshing, making it an attractive option. However it also never gets into the deep, restful sleep, so if you're exhausted it won't get you very far. Maybe an hour at most before you crash again.\n\nHope this helped! Happy napping!", "I teach my students in psych how to nap appropriately. Less than 30 minutes to avoid deep sleep (which is when you wake up groggy) or 1.5 hours to finish a sleep cycle. We cycle through deep and light sleep so if you want a longer nap try to do it in 90 minute intervals to wake up in a lighter stage of sleep. This is also good for timing how long you sleep\nat night. This is how \"natural\" alarm clocks work. ", "Drink a ton of water and then take your nap. Needing to pee will wake you up and make you actually get up and out of bed. ", "drink more warm water, don't eat after 7 pm, in bed by 11. if your diet isn't atrocious you'll have quality sleep and won't need naps", "You probably aren't getting enough total sleep each day, so your body is expecting/ demanding more sleep once you commence napping", "Waking with a headache is not normal. That and needing mid day naps are a sign of sleep apnea. If you snore have problems with blood pressure are over weight consider getting tested from your primary care. It can be done in the home now. Also if you are on any sedating substances you can have sleep apnea secondarily. This includes pot alcohol benzodiazepines narcotics. Anything that relaxes the muscle tone of your throat neck area. ", "That's because it's related to *how long* you slept. The reason being you feel groggy is because you woke up right in the middle of deep sleep. One full sleep cycle is approx 90 mins. So either aim for 20-25 mins, 90 mins or 180 mins and so on.\n\nAlso, please do not nap too close to bed time. I tried napping from 6-8pm and I felt like hell. Best if it's before 3pm, say, 2-4? ", "Something I've read (can't remember where) is to drink some coffee before a 20 min nap. Set the alarm and in 20 mins the coffee should've kicked in. Personally I found it doesn't work so well if you're desensitised to caffeine..", "Simple : don't nap. Your body works in sleep cycles and naps don't usually fit that pattern all too well.", "Oh man I was literally just about to take a nap, this thread helped me so much! See ya all in about 45min! Let's hope we'll rested ", "No one will probably see this but I'll throw in my two cents.\n\nNEVER TAKE A 30 MINUTE NAP\nYou'll wake up just as you enter a deeper level of sleep and be groggy.\n\n15 to 20 minute naps are good for a quick energy boost \n\n60 to 90 minute naps are great if you are flat out exhausted\n\nIf you lay completely still for 15 minutes you will fall asleep\n\nDrink a cup of coffee and then take a short nap. The coffee will take 20 minutes to kick in so you will wake up feeling extra perky. ", "Masturbate. Fixes all life problems. For a short period. Then you go round 2 once it comes back. Best life hack ever!", "Is it weird that i have never awoken from a nap feeling worse than I felt before the nap? I don't set an alarm and my body always wakes me up about an hour to an hour and a half later and I wake up feeling great. I take naps all the time.\n\nMy fiancé on the other hand, cannot take naps. If he feels he needs one, and falls asleep he won't wake up. He'll basically just stay asleep for a full nights rest and then his whole schedule gets thrown off.", "If you take caffeine pills or drink a couple of cups of coffee very quickly, you can then take a ~20 minute nap and the caffeine will kick in, waking you up without any sleep inertia\n\nask u/MindofMetalandWheels", "If i feel like taking a nap in the afternoon I'll quickly down a cup of coffee then nap. I'll dose off slightly and by the time the coffee kicks in 20-30 min later I wake up feeling double refreshed. Plus the coffee keeps you from falling fully asleep, which helps with not feeling groggy.", "I use a sleep aid app called Pzizz and it is the best one I've ever tried. A person talks you through the steps of having a great nap. Also, as others have said, you should keep them pretty short. 30 mins max. Longer than that and you start going into REM sleep and it makes it hell to come back to the real world. \n\n(Thanks McElroys for recommending this one. Everyone listen to MBMBAM now.)", "I try to time my naps at around 45 minutes \nhttp://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/a-45-minute-power-nap-can-boost-your-memory-five-fold-study-finds-10128456.html", "I have this as well. I am extremely sluggish and grumpy after waking up from a nap. Strange as it sounds, chugging a Diet Coke perks me right up. Maybe it's the caffeine.", "I have read from articles of the NASA that the best nap time is 24 minutes, which is the time you can go a full sleep cycle (REM and nREM phases). This will reflect in a feeling of recovery when you wake up. So set a timer and get used to it. It will take some time to see the results, but once you have dominate the technique you will feel recovered from even less time. ", "I can't remember where I read this because it was a super, super long time ago, but I once read in order to take a good, perfect-length nap: \n\nHold something metal like a spoon or fork in your hand, with a metal tin (like a baking sheet) below your bed. Right before you fall asleep violently gouge your eye out with the spoon and leave it in the tin for safe keeping.\n", "Coffee nap! Drink a cup of coffee pretty quickly and nap for 20-40 minutes while the caffeine kicks in. when I do this I wake up refreshed and energized rather than so groggy all I want to do is keep sleeping.", "As far as the headache goes, I am the same way. It never goes away until I take a potassium pill and drink a glass or two of water. I swear it works for me. My sisters too! You can get it at any drugstore in the vitamin section. Take as directed. ", "Also like yourself I always felt shitty after naps, so I rarely napped. Once I started setting an alarm for 1h 45min (15 min to fall asleep + 1 REM cycle) I started waking up both refreshed and clear headed.\n\nIf you sleep for an hour, you are waking up in the late-middle of your deepest sleep during a REM cycle. A full REM cycle is 90 minutes. You have a window of about 25 minutes (last 5-10 minutes of current REM cycle and the first 15-20 mins of the next) to wake up while in the \"lightest\" part of your REM cycle.\n\nI often felt crappy when I woke up in the AM if I slept a random amount of time, or more than 8 hrs. Now I only sleep in increments of REM cycles (6 hrs, 7.5 hrs) and I wake up easy and feeling great even on 6 hrs.", "ive found it useful to take my naps in my bed rather than on a couch or chair, it just feels more satisfying", "have a shot of apple cider vinegar. i just take a swig. clears the cobwebs ASAP. the coffee - pre nap works too!", "everyone is saying sleep for 20 min or so, which is true. but you can also hit 1hr30min or 3hr or 4hr30min (any interval of 90 minutes really) b/c your body takes 90 min to complete a sleep cycle and you always feel refreshed if you wake up at the end of a sleep cycle. but also 20 min works because it takes over 20 minutes before you get into deeper sleep at the start of a sleep cycle. ", "[Sleep guide](http://cdn.spectator.co.uk/content/uploads/2016/05/snooze.jpg) \nI always use this before a nap. ", "You're maybe napping too long. I find an 18 minute nap, regardless of if I actually completely fall asleep, will refresh me.", "You need to learn more about sleep cycles. If you wake up in the middle of a sleep cycle you will feel like shit. Nap for one sleep cycle or two to a max of three.", "You either have to sleep short enough to stay out of a REM cycle (<30 mins. generally) or long enough to complete a REM cycle (75-90 min. generally). \n\nAt least at the most basic level that's the case, as a general rule of thumb stick to that rule, it's helped me tremendously", "You can shower that feeling right off of yourself. Start comfortable warm, make it gradually super hot until you are so hot you can't stand it anymore, turn it cold real fast and cool yourself off while cupping your hands and drinking. Ten minutes and you'll feel reborn.", "Well not Marcus, simply not napping does not seem like the solution here. You should drink two or three glasses of cold water, and maybe a glass of orange juice. Wash your face making sure to get all of the crusty eye boogers out. I like to put in eyedrops because my eyes get dry. Personally I listen to Carry on my Wayward son by Kansas, but any upbeat oldie song would suffice.", "Walk your dog\n\nIt is that simple\n\nYou wake up and are in a bit of a haze, you go outside and walk your dog, stretching muscles and letting the sunlight wake you up, you then come home feeling better about yourself for giving the dog some attention and exercise and physically better overall\n\nIf it is 10am when you read this and you just woke up and are in a bit of a malaise, go for a walk and wake up!", "Try waking up naturally rather than to a timer. It sounds like you're waking up in the middle of an REM. ", "This may sound funky but I find that a few eye drops in each eye help me wake up and not feel groggy. ", "This flowchart helped me figure whether or not to take a nap: http://readsh101.com/0216/03/wisc.html?utm_source=sh101&utm_medium=email&utm_content=nap&utm_campaign=02161\nand this infographic is also really helpful in understanding what's in a nap, and how to plan naps! http://archive.boston.com/bostonglobe/ideas/naps/", "There is an app called \"SleepyTime\" that will wake you up outside of your REM cycle. So you won't feel groggy. ", "Take less than 30 minute naps Anne chug some coffee before hitting the hay...then coffee wakes u up in 20 with no headache", "Right before you plan on napping chug ( or drink like a regular person ) a coffee. Fall asleep as soon as you drink it and it will metabolise while you sleep waking you up more refreshed than when you started napping! (Works best with half-hour naps)", "Right before you lay down to nap drink a cup of coffee. It will hit you in about 30 minutes and wake you up.", "Narcoleptic here. If you sleep at least an hour for naps, sounds like you might have excessive daytime sleepiness. If you get at least 7-8 hours of sleep and still need an hour-long nap, you might have a sleep disorder. Do you snore?", "I've found that a nap for 15-30 minutes is best for me. Your mind doesn't go into deep sleep yet but it's enough for it to regenerate, i am semi council at this point. The key is you have to get up and go do something active (walk, cook, run, exercise etc.) Try it out", "I've always heard that if you drink coffee right before you take a nap, you'll wake up with more energy and without that shit feeling. However, I've never actually tried it out. ", "I would just like to add one thing. I agree with everyone saying it could be sleep inertia etc. However you might be describing something worse than they assume you are. if you feel particularly shitty after a nap, as I always used to, you should consider getting checked for sleep apnea. If you're asleep and you stop breathing, the body reacts by releasing a huge dose of adrenaline to wake you up, this jolts you awake and also causes a surge of blood sugar. (Enough that is even suspected to contribute to diabetes in some cases) If you wake up with your heart racing it's a symptom. Followed by the usual blood sugar crash and possible headache.\n\n Once I got a CPAP, it took a few months to get used to sleeping with it but then walking up always feels good. You might be waking up multiple times a night, leading you to be extra tired during the day, requiring naps, causing a viscous cycle.", "I was that way too, went to a sleep study and now wear a CPAP. No more headaches, no more groggy feeling. It's such a difference. ", "I learned napping can just be closing your eyes for up to around 15 minutes or so. Falling asleep within this time usually means you don't get enough sleep. \n\nTry drinking something with caffeine, like a coffee or an energy drink before you take your nap. That way, you can spring out of it with good energy. ", "I know exactly what you mean. How I get around it is to have a short errand that includes some activity to do immediately after the nap. This can range from mowing the lawn/vacuuming the car to something as simple as walking to the mailbox to pay a bill or whatnot. Either way, works best for me if it gets me out of the house and is something easily accomplished. ", "I keep my legs up higher than my head and torso. It keeps the blood in my vital organs. Forgot where I heard about this but it works wonders. ", "I just look at Reddit. You know how they say the light from your phone keeps you awake? I use it like a cup of coffee. Then I get some coffee. ", "I am also bad at napping. I've never managed to find that sweet spot for length, and I have issues with hypersomnia sometimes, so instead I just have some quiet time.\n\nSince I know I'll go to sleep if I go to bed, I lie down on the couch (propped up with a pillow, so I'm still mostly sitting up), pull a light blanket over me, and just zone out a little bit. I don't actually fall asleep, but after 20 minutes to an hour (depending on how tired I am, and how much time I have available), I feel refreshed as though I'd taken a nap (without the tendency to oversleep and feel headachey).\n\nIt's kind of like a lazy version of m", "I always wake up from a nap with a huge anxiety. Especially when I go to sleep while it's bright outside and wake up when it's dark", "I always feel great after naps. It's in the morning after a full nights sleep that I usually feel like shit.\n\nI'm a marathon napper though, if I nap I'm out for 3 hours minimum.", "Heres the trick...drink a warm cup of coffee, or warm milk and coffee mixed. Take a 20 to 30 minute nap.\n\nWake up fresh and ready to roll.", "Have you considered it might be something other than the nap, say dehydration or a nutrition deficiency? I say this because headaches are not normal.\n\nYou can also get a sleep study done and determine how you sleep and maybe pinpoint problems or figure ways to improve how you sleep. For example, do you suffer from sleep apnea and would benefit from a CPAP ?", "Funny, I just read this for my stress management class. It might be that you're getting up too fast when you wake up. I learned that you need to move your fingers and toes and then your arms and legs and slowly get up. ", "For me if I sleep more or less than 60 minutes then I wake up either groggy (if I wake up after an hour) or too tired and go back to sleep (if under an hour, which results in me being groggy and feeling like shit) so I usually end up setting an alarm for an hour. \nWorks for me about 60% of the time, every time.", "Drink caffeine. Set alarm for 20 minutes. Nap.\n\nCaffeine blocks the adenosine receptors in your noggin' that makes you feel groggy after too long of a nap. 20 minutes is good nap time. Caffeine helps in case you oversleep a bit or have a unique cycle.\n\nWake up refreshed! ", "Drink a glass of water or orange juice. Wakes you right up and makes you feel normal again. Orange juice works just as well (no idea why) but for me it's also the perfect hangover cure. One glass of oj and I'm good as soon as it hits my stomach.", "Don't have your neck be at a sharp angle when you sleep. Try to have it be no more than 2 pillows worth on a flat surface. \n\nSecond bit of advice, keep some cooked bacon in the fridge. 2 slices with something to drink, water/cold tea/cold coffee. Makes me feel a lot better. ", "Doctor here. The short naps WILL limit you to the first phase of sleep, which is great. It's NOT great however if you wanted to take a longer nap to make up for acute sleep deprivation. Sleep cycles last about 90 minutes, so you can try to wake yourself up in the first stage of sleep by taking naps in 90 minute multiples (90 minute or 180 minute naps).", "Best way to fix this is to get the Sleep Cycle alarm clock app and the Sleep Cycle power nap app. I think they cost a dollar or two but they're completely worth it. It basically uses either the motion sensor or microphone to pick up when you are closest to being awake and wakes you up at that time. This way when you wake up you aren't going from deep sleep to awake and getting that groggy feeling. ", "Before sleeping take a caffeine pill. It doesn't kick in immediately. Try googling it. Im sure it's explained better somewhere ", "Change your diaper. Always works for my son when he wakes up with a poopy diaper. \n\nBy the way, kudos to you for being the best typing baby I've encountered on the internet.\n\n/s" ]

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[ "How and when to argue for more pay when accepting a job offer Just as the title says, at what point do you argue for a higher salary when offered a job following the interview? Is this commonly acceptable? How would one go about this without possibly causing them to retract the offer?", "How and when to argue for more pay when accepting a job offer Just as the title says, at what point do you argue for a higher salary when offered a job following the interview? Is this commonly acceptable? How would one go about this without possibly causing them to retract the offer?", "How and when to argue for more pay when accepting a job offer Just as the title says, at what point do you argue for a higher salary when offered a job following the interview? Is this commonly acceptable? How would one go about this without possibly causing them to retract the offer?", "How and when to argue for more pay when accepting a job offer Just as the title says, at what point do you argue for a higher salary when offered a job following the interview? Is this commonly acceptable? How would one go about this without possibly causing them to retract the offer?", "How and when to argue for more pay when accepting a job offer Just as the title says, at what point do you argue for a higher salary when offered a job following the interview? Is this commonly acceptable? How would one go about this without possibly causing them to retract the offer?", "How and when to argue for more pay when accepting a job offer Just as the title says, at what point do you argue for a higher salary when offered a job following the interview? Is this commonly acceptable? How would one go about this without possibly causing them to retract the offer?" ]

[ "I regularly apply for similar jobs interview and get offers, if one comes in I let my boss see the offer and give them a week or two to match.\nSo far i have gotten 2 raises and an extra week of vacation over a 6 year period. ", "You don't talk about money until they give you the offer. Once you have it, you can start negotiating on the various offers. I would also do a search either on glassdoor.com or some other similar site for a similar role with your level experience and what you can expect in terms of pay. Just don't go too high otherwise you might lose the offer.\n\nBe ware of the sign-on bonus. If you get one, chances are they want you there for a year or more.\n\nBe careful with the counter proposal from your current company. It can be seen as you being disloyal to the organization and while it may improve your salary now, you'll probably be let go in a year.", "Always bargain using a reference point. \"I'd like an extra $X per year\" is not persuasive -- who wouldn't? \"Thank you for interest, but this offer is below the market rate; company Z is paying $X for similar work\" is very persuasive. \n\nAmong other reasons, this works because it shifts the problem from hiring *you* to hiring *anybody*: if the wage is not competitive, it will take longer to fill the position, and whoever they get will probably either leave quickly or was already not good enough for the competitor.\n\nAs long as you're polite and professional, they won't retract the offer, unless they're so dysfunctional that you probably would be better off continuing your search.", "[This](https://www.reddit.com/r/YouShouldKnow/comments/6m20yf/ysk_you_can_negotiate_anything_if_you_know_1/?st=J5DQ0SFF&sh=8ed1a13f) might be useful to you. ", "I never negotiate pay until an offer is made to me first, but would always suggest that one argue for a higher salary whenever possible. Depending on the company, you'll be negotiating with either the party responsible for your hiring or be negotiating with a recruiter for the company. Either way, they'll offer a number and you can argue that you really should be getting paid offer+x because of your skill level. Just be upfront and honest with your argument, I've never seen offers retracted for asking for a little bit more.", "My current job came with quite a wide salary range \"dependent on experience\" I answered when asked that I expected the top amount due to my qualifications and experience. They came back with a counter offer that was £2k less, which I accepted.\n\nThey don't need to know it was essentially double my previous salary!" ]

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[ "I always tend to put off what I need to do and never seem to get organised. What tips helped you structure your day to help work flow? ", "I always tend to put off what I need to do and never seem to get organised. What tips helped you structure your day to help work flow? " ]

[ "Step 1 Make a list. Step 2 make the first item on list \"make a list.\" Step 3 Check it off and bask in the glory of your accomplishment for the rest of the day. ", "Physically write down what you need to do. Preferably the day before. Idk the psychology behind it but the act + reminder really motivates you." ]

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[ " I know that you can go to your local post office and they have boxes, but most of them are smaller. Where can I get bigger boxes (something that can fit a large laptop, monitor, etc.) ", " I know that you can go to your local post office and they have boxes, but most of them are smaller. Where can I get bigger boxes (something that can fit a large laptop, monitor, etc.) ", " I know that you can go to your local post office and they have boxes, but most of them are smaller. Where can I get bigger boxes (something that can fit a large laptop, monitor, etc.) " ]

[ "Some U-Haul stores have a \"free/recycle\" bin where people deposit their used packing boxes for others to take. I don't know if they all do this, but it's worth stopping by to check. \n\n", "Go to a grocery store and ask if you can have poxes from the back that haven't been smashed yet. I used to give people beer boxes which were similar to paper box sizes. But that's where I'd start. They will be free too.", "Find an apartment complex that you can get into and check the dumpsters. Check the dumpsters behind strip shopping centers. Large box stores generally compact their boxes but smaller stores usually just flatten the boxes and throw them out. If you need small, strong boxes check out liquor stores." ]

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[ "How to play Laser Tag? Hey, I live in germany and laser tag is a thing which has finally appeared in my city. I am going to play with some friends soon and want to know the best tips to win at Laser Tag. Any experts here who can share their knowledge?\n", "How to play Laser Tag? Hey, I live in germany and laser tag is a thing which has finally appeared in my city. I am going to play with some friends soon and want to know the best tips to win at Laser Tag. Any experts here who can share their knowledge?\n", "How to play Laser Tag? Hey, I live in germany and laser tag is a thing which has finally appeared in my city. I am going to play with some friends soon and want to know the best tips to win at Laser Tag. Any experts here who can share their knowledge?\n", "How to play Laser Tag? Hey, I live in germany and laser tag is a thing which has finally appeared in my city. I am going to play with some friends soon and want to know the best tips to win at Laser Tag. Any experts here who can share their knowledge?\n", "How to play Laser Tag? Hey, I live in germany and laser tag is a thing which has finally appeared in my city. I am going to play with some friends soon and want to know the best tips to win at Laser Tag. Any experts here who can share their knowledge?\n", "How to play Laser Tag? Hey, I live in germany and laser tag is a thing which has finally appeared in my city. I am going to play with some friends soon and want to know the best tips to win at Laser Tag. Any experts here who can share their knowledge?\n", "How to play Laser Tag? Hey, I live in germany and laser tag is a thing which has finally appeared in my city. I am going to play with some friends soon and want to know the best tips to win at Laser Tag. Any experts here who can share their knowledge?\n", "How to play Laser Tag? Hey, I live in germany and laser tag is a thing which has finally appeared in my city. I am going to play with some friends soon and want to know the best tips to win at Laser Tag. Any experts here who can share their knowledge?\n", "How to play Laser Tag? Hey, I live in germany and laser tag is a thing which has finally appeared in my city. I am going to play with some friends soon and want to know the best tips to win at Laser Tag. Any experts here who can share their knowledge?\n" ]

[ "It depends on the exact layout of the arena, but, basically, use cover and try to expose as little of your sensors as possible. \n\nDepending on the exact style, your vest will probably have a sensor on each shoulder, big sensors on your chest and back, and maybe even some sensors on your gun. Hugging the walls is usually pretty good, because that at least minimizes the exposure of your back sensor. You can also try to stand sideways, to present a little profile as possible, which greatly reduces the target area, pretty much making only the shoulder and gun sensors viable targets. At least in a corridor.", "Worked in an arcade for three years. No one knew we had mirrors on the ceilings. Look up. Also keep moving and keep your head on a swivel", "The trick that got me enough laser tag victories that my local place stopped handing out free games for first place is something really, really easy.\n\nKeep shooting.\n\nSeriously, you typically have unlimited \"ammo\", so it doesn't matter how terrible the shot is. Take it, take five more. See some blinky lights half way across the arena? Take some pot shots. I usually had more than four times the shots fired of the rest of the arena in free for alls. 1,500-1,800 shots fired in a 15 minute game. Still had accuracies around 60% too.\n\nAmmo isn't a resource you can run out of, spend it, spend it like its going out of style. Everybody worries about accuracy or ammo out of habit, from gaming, or movies. Don't fall into the same trap.\n\nAnd get up high, where you can shoot down at people. More lines of sight, more targets, more points.\n\nAlso look out for mirrors, they don't just provide intel, they provide points. You have a laser weapon, shoot somebody's image in a mirror, you'll shoot them!", "If you can go with a group, regularly use call-outs. This lets you keep a mental map of where the other team is, if they're moving, or if they're coordinating as much as you.\n\nYou've got big lights on your body, you won't be hiding from anyone. So you've just got to be aiming at them before they do, often as they round a corner or (if the arena has objectives) while they are distracted.\n\nAs a side-pro-tip... Don't be an asshole to win. If you're going against kids, let them get a few cheap shots in and congratulate them.", "It's so much harder to hit a moving target. Whether that means you're just squatting up and down. Never stop moving. ", "Ok so, at every laser tag place I've been there have always been two ways to score, one is by shooting opponents in one of the sensors on their vest. The other is commonly known as \"alien bases.\" These are squares of light located on a wall or ceiling that if shot repeatedly by the same player will \"explode\" and give you a bunch of points. Playing the game involves a balance of both. For shooting players I would suggest getting behind something and aiming down a long straight away for any players that wander into the straight away. Do this for a short while then move. When moving, you will be shot by \"campers\" which is what I just described. But at the same time allows you to move into a new location, see where the players are, and shoot the other players from where they aren't looking. \n\nWhen moving I suggest you croutch, check your corners, listen for talking, aim fast and miss small.\n\nNext the alien bases. These are usually destroyed when one player shoots them 3-5 times without another player shooting them. So, when it's time, find a base that is generally being ignored. By that I mean there aren't more than 2 people already shooting at it. People will camp the bases as well so if it looks like a lost cause move on because you are just wasting time. But let's say you are lucky enough to come across an active base that only has a few people by it. Waste those few people as they are shooting the base then take it yourself. A rookie move is to sit there wasting time shooting the base when someone else if a few meters away doing the same thing. \n\nIf you shoot at the base for more than ten seconds stop, check your surroundings. Someone is probably near you also shooting it. Waste them then repeat while they are temporarily out. If no one is around chances are the base isn't active, move around and circle back.\n\nTargeting just the bases is a bad idea as the bonus you get for them won't get you into the number 1 score. Find a good balance. And hey, even if you aren't the top player, just have fun. Laser tag and paintball in are the closest most of us will ever get to hunting other human beings, so have fun, be your favorite action star, and kick some ass.", "Approach it like you would approach an arena-based first-person shooter. Except for the wall- or rocket-jumps.\n\n-Establish a route. It should take you around the maze at least twice, in different ways. Sticking to a path makes you more mobile, it'll allow you to get better knowledge of the maze and move more confidently.\n\n-Move fast, but respect the rules. Most laser tag places don't allow for running. There might be kids around and you don't want to run into them and hurt them by accident. But if you stop moving, you'll die. Walking briskly is what you want to do.\n\n-If there's more than one level of elevation, spend more time upstairs than downstairs. You probably have sensors on the top of your shoulders. Having high grounds will make it impossible to shoot those. And it makes it really easy to shoot shoulders on others. Plus, people rarely look up.\n\n-Look up. Might be mirrors, might be multiple levels. Look up.\n\n-Use short bursts. If you are popping out of cover to shoot at someone, don't stand there and shoot wildly, hoping that you won't die. Shoot 3-5 shots as fast as you can and take cover. Choose whether you'll flank or go out and shoot again. Commit.\n\n-If you get shot, move. You probably have a few seconds of invincibility after getting shot. Use them to move out of tight spots and get back on your route, go for high grounds, get into a better position. Grudges won't win you games. Sometimes, though, if you've been shot, you'll be ignored by the opponents long enough to get behind them and respawn. Make them pay for not paying attention.", "Use such techniques as staying low to pop around corners as the human eye seeks human shapes and if you are lower and not in a human form, you will be less immediately visible. In addition, Use the \"fog of war\" to confuse your enemies. Typically, the vests have a time-out feature once a player is hit, they cannot fire for at least five seconds. They won't run because they don't realize they have been hit. You can hit them again and again and again until they either wise up or are dead after five hits. (Our standard kill count in our local arena.)", "The method that I have found works great (and others tell me it works after I share it with them) is point aiming. People are generally accurate when they point at an object with their finger, not extremely accurate buy close enough for laser tag. Your non-trigger hand is going to be supporting the gun, take your pointer finger of that hand and point at what you want to shoot. Try it against a wall when the game first starts to get your self acquainted with your guns aim (some older guns shoot off center).\n\n[This picture](http://petapixel.com/assets/uploads/2011/12/point_mini.jpg) is probably the best representation of what I could find. It is with a camera but the concept is the same. \n\nSecond the moving advice already given is very important, pace back and forth a little bit if you want to camp, never stop moving your targets." ]

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[ "How to plastic seal windows behind mini-blinds so that the blinds are still usable Plastic window shrink film is awesome and very effective during the winter but I don't like how it prevents the usage of the blinds that it seals in.\n\nI found this guide, which would make the blinds usable, but it creates a small hole in the plastic and thus breaks the seal: http://www.familyhandyman.com/windows/how-to-operate-window-blinds-covered-with-shrink-film/view-all\n\nIs there a way to apply window plastic **behind** miniblinds?", "How to plastic seal windows behind mini-blinds so that the blinds are still usable Plastic window shrink film is awesome and very effective during the winter but I don't like how it prevents the usage of the blinds that it seals in.\n\nI found this guide, which would make the blinds usable, but it creates a small hole in the plastic and thus breaks the seal: http://www.familyhandyman.com/windows/how-to-operate-window-blinds-covered-with-shrink-film/view-all\n\nIs there a way to apply window plastic **behind** miniblinds?" ]

[ "I used to have this issue with shades mounted in the frame. I always cut a small (1cm) slit for the strings, and lined the edges with packing tape so it didn't grow over the winter. Lost some small amount of efficiency, I'm sure, but I was still warm and could open the shades.", "I don't think there is a cost-effective method that will maintain the thermal efficiency of the plastic film.\n\nYou would probably have to get replacement windows that are double-paned with the blinds inside. Probably pretty expensive.\n\nOR\n\nRemove the blinds and install them (or replacement blinds) that mount outside/above the window so you can plastic-seal with the window and the blinds would be completely external to the window and plastic film." ]

[ 1, 1 ]

[ "How to minimize a bad sunburn No crap. Aside from \"Aloe vera , aloe vera , aloe vera.\"\n\nThis is going to hurt like hell...", "How to minimize a bad sunburn No crap. Aside from \"Aloe vera , aloe vera , aloe vera.\"\n\nThis is going to hurt like hell...", "How to minimize a bad sunburn No crap. Aside from \"Aloe vera , aloe vera , aloe vera.\"\n\nThis is going to hurt like hell...", "How to minimize a bad sunburn No crap. Aside from \"Aloe vera , aloe vera , aloe vera.\"\n\nThis is going to hurt like hell...", "How to minimize a bad sunburn No crap. Aside from \"Aloe vera , aloe vera , aloe vera.\"\n\nThis is going to hurt like hell...", "How to minimize a bad sunburn No crap. Aside from \"Aloe vera , aloe vera , aloe vera.\"\n\nThis is going to hurt like hell..." ]

[ "So no shit, but take a cup of vinegar with you into the shower and pour it all over your sunburn, then rinse off. Some lady at a Dominican resort who said she was a nurse told me to do it and it worked like a charm. Not sure why though.", "well, cool the sunburn before you apply any aloe. If you don't you will \"bake\" the aloe into your skin. \nSource:worked at a nursery in the sun for 8 hours, learned this from elderly people from the desert. ", "Medical note: in cases of severe sunburn, especially over extended portions of your body, you may want to seek actual medical advice.\n\nFor myself: I get bad sunburn on my arms. As soon as I can after I've noticed it, I get a bucket of ice, put some water in it, and get a washcloth from the bathroom. I soak the washcloth in the water and place it over the worst part of the burn until the cloth turns room-temperature-ish. Then I re-wet the cloth and apply it again (and again and again), until I can hold my hand over that spot and it doesn't immediately radiate heat into my hand. At that point, I go on to the next spot. After you finish with each spot, check the spots you finished earlier; you'll have to go back and cool each spot repeatedly.\n\nThings to not do with this process: apply only one washcloth at a time, and to only one part of your body (applying too much may cause health issues, and it's harder to monitor each spot properly). Do not take a cold shower; again, it's too much cold at one time, and you'll later regret all those little pellets of water hitting your skin.\n\nWhen I use this on my sunburnt arms, I usually expect to spend 2-3 hours doing this; I'll usually just grab a bucket of ice and water and plot down in front of the tv for a couple hours. I also expect that my the burnt skin will be sensitive for a couple/few days and that my skin will peel, but this generally saves me the extreme pain of actual sunburn.\n\nMy theory on this is two-fold. First, your skin is dehydrated from spending all day baking in the sun. And secondly, there's a reason that the cookbooks tell you to take something out of the oven when it's not quite done cooking: because the internal heat keeps cooking the item even once it's removed from the oven. To get things to stop cooking, you can run them under cold water (like, say, pasta). So applying cold water can help rehydrate the skin as well as stopping the meat of your arm from continuing to bake.\n\nOnce heat is no longer radiating from your skin, this method will have limited efficacy; since you posted 12 hours ago, this technique may or may not be helpful.\n\nGood luck!", "Take a cotton ball vinegar and water mix it together and rub it on the burn it will take the pain away.\n\nI just had a bad one with blisters and will upload pics if a lot of you wanna see. ", "I know you said no aloe, but... I've always found that the best way to reduce sunburn (and I've had some AWFUL sunburn, to the point of blistering and permanent scarring), is to use a moisturising after-sun lotion with added aloe. While you're watching the TV or something, just sit and rub it in endlessly for an hour or two. Saturate your skin with moisturiser. Not only will this reduce the risk of it peeling, but it cools it down also.", "Cold yogurt. Lots of it. Smear it all over the burn area generously. Let it dry for 30 mins at least. Wash off with a cold shower. Repeat the process as many times as needed. For some reason this helps take the sting out" ]

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[ "Someone keeps pulling the fire alarm in my apartment complex. It's the second time this week. Can I do anything about this without going too far and draw attention to myself? I don't see a lot of LPT request threads being posted, in fact I don't think I've ever seen it, so I don't know if I'm doing this right. I'm so tired right now I'm not thinking, it's late, I gotta get up early, but probably 5 minutes ago someone pulled the fire alarm. Management isn't doing anything about it, and it's the second time this week. I don't know how long I'm going to stay here because of it. I've never had this issue anywhere else but this sounds like a thing that happens in general, so I wanted to see if there was anyone on here who could shed some light, calm me down, something. Even if I end up speaking to a wall it feels good to vent.\n\n", "Someone keeps pulling the fire alarm in my apartment complex. It's the second time this week. Can I do anything about this without going too far and draw attention to myself? I don't see a lot of LPT request threads being posted, in fact I don't think I've ever seen it, so I don't know if I'm doing this right. I'm so tired right now I'm not thinking, it's late, I gotta get up early, but probably 5 minutes ago someone pulled the fire alarm. Management isn't doing anything about it, and it's the second time this week. I don't know how long I'm going to stay here because of it. I've never had this issue anywhere else but this sounds like a thing that happens in general, so I wanted to see if there was anyone on here who could shed some light, calm me down, something. Even if I end up speaking to a wall it feels good to vent.\n\n" ]

[ "Call the township and let them know. The fire Marshall can fine a significant amount of money if it keeps happening. I had todo it to a nursing home because someone kept triggering it. Once the threat of a fine was stated they fixed the problem.", "Rig the alarm with explosives and take them out, doing everybody in the complex a favor.\n\nMake sure to use a directional charge, though, as to minimize damage to the surroundings and be careful with fingerprints and stuff, as to not draw attention to yourself, as you perfectly stated.\n\nIs this where I put the /s\n\nSeriously, figure out what time it occurs and maybe confront them with a camera. Maybe talk to the apartment owners and talk about security cameras or something.\n\nI'm pretty sure unjustly pulling fire alarms is a crime in most places." ]

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[ "How to be patient I'm always moving and working at top speed. I pack my day with as much as possible so my time is used efficiently. Due to this, I have no tolerance for people being late to hangouts, lunch, etc. I get frustrated and angry when traffic, wrong turns, or idiot drivers slow me down. I know I need to be more patient, but impatience just comes too naturally to me. Any help here?", "How to be patient I'm always moving and working at top speed. I pack my day with as much as possible so my time is used efficiently. Due to this, I have no tolerance for people being late to hangouts, lunch, etc. I get frustrated and angry when traffic, wrong turns, or idiot drivers slow me down. I know I need to be more patient, but impatience just comes too naturally to me. Any help here?", "How to be patient I'm always moving and working at top speed. I pack my day with as much as possible so my time is used efficiently. Due to this, I have no tolerance for people being late to hangouts, lunch, etc. I get frustrated and angry when traffic, wrong turns, or idiot drivers slow me down. I know I need to be more patient, but impatience just comes too naturally to me. Any help here?", "How to be patient I'm always moving and working at top speed. I pack my day with as much as possible so my time is used efficiently. Due to this, I have no tolerance for people being late to hangouts, lunch, etc. I get frustrated and angry when traffic, wrong turns, or idiot drivers slow me down. I know I need to be more patient, but impatience just comes too naturally to me. Any help here?", "How to be patient I'm always moving and working at top speed. I pack my day with as much as possible so my time is used efficiently. Due to this, I have no tolerance for people being late to hangouts, lunch, etc. I get frustrated and angry when traffic, wrong turns, or idiot drivers slow me down. I know I need to be more patient, but impatience just comes too naturally to me. Any help here?", "How to be patient I'm always moving and working at top speed. I pack my day with as much as possible so my time is used efficiently. Due to this, I have no tolerance for people being late to hangouts, lunch, etc. I get frustrated and angry when traffic, wrong turns, or idiot drivers slow me down. I know I need to be more patient, but impatience just comes too naturally to me. Any help here?", "How to be patient I'm always moving and working at top speed. I pack my day with as much as possible so my time is used efficiently. Due to this, I have no tolerance for people being late to hangouts, lunch, etc. I get frustrated and angry when traffic, wrong turns, or idiot drivers slow me down. I know I need to be more patient, but impatience just comes too naturally to me. Any help here?" ]

[ "I think that there's probably no \"one size fits all\" solution.\n\nHaving said that, I think patience is a discipline in the realm of self control. Other disciplines in this area might be eating right, punctuality, using appropriate language (like not cursing in front of children), etc. The important thing, I think, is to realize that the more you exercise a certain discipline, the easier it gets to continue to do it.\n\nI empathize. My wife is perpetually late. Even when we were dating, I'd show up on time and she'd still be as much as 45 minutes late. Sometimes I'd even add a \"buffer\" to the time and she'd blow that up. It was frustrating, particularly for someone who was always early.\n\nI think, for me, having a partner who was so different from me helped me learn to be more patient. We can only really control ourselves. I definitely understand the frustration of traffic and late people, but at the end of the day, I get worked up and what...now I'm stuck in traffic AND angry. I've just made my situation worse. It's like having a cut on your finger and then biting your hand for good measure.\n\nI'd ask, what helps you calm down and focus in general? Ideally, it'd be nice to be able to just say \"Well, that's their problem, I'm fine\" but it's not always realistic. When you're frustrated with late people, maybe you can take the wait time to listen to a podcast and learn something, read a book, study for work/school. Maybe send an email to a friend or family member who you don't reach out to as much as you could. If you're stuck in traffic, listen to an audiobook. Find something to occupy your mind with something positive and enriching. Make the \"wasted\" time *your* time.\n\n", "Try keeping some rotted fruits and vegetable beside you on the front seat. Keep windows down on both side front windows for throwing refuse at drivers that irritate\nyou. And if somebody is more than 120 seconds late for lunch you should order without them. These behaviors should reduce your stress.", "I always think to myself if something isn't going the way I want it to, either because of me or someone else, I ask myself \"will this matter in ten years? will I even remember this frustration?\" and if the answer is \"no\" I relax more. Put things in perspective, and calmness will follow.", "Hmm, I'm naturally expedient and infinitely patient, I wonder why?\n\nNote things you have no affect over, like traffic and others' slowness aren't worth getting upset over, as you can't control the circumstance but can control your own healthy reaction/stress. Also having a pleasant, relaxed demeanor when interacting with others makes them calmer, more efficient, and gets you on your way quicker rather than flustering them. \n\n", "Your frustration won't change anything in reality. When you're in traffic and some one get's in your way ask yourself if getting angry will change that persons behavior. Getting pissed off doesn't make the traffic move any faster. It takes practice to do this. A few deep breaths and a mantra of \"Anger will not help this situation\" preferably spoken out loud. It took me years to incorporate it into my life.", "My dad always said, simply: \"is as is\".\n\nAccept the reality of a situation that you cannot control. It is irrational and inefficient to react angrily. Think of yourself using your time better, to Incentivise yourself.", "Maybe try to slow down yourself a few times a week, show up late once in a while, etc. If you can try and teach yourself that your way of life, packing in as much work as possible, isn't the only or best way to live life you'll probably have more understanding of people moving at a more relaxed pace. \nFor me I can get minor road rage with slow drivers sometimes but in the grand scheme of things we are all more insignificant than ants, there is no point to scurry around at top speed when we could literally die at any moment and only a handful of people in the whole world would even notice or care. Even if we live out our entire life to the fullest it's nothing more than a nano-second of cosmic time and ultimately useless" ]

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[ "How to professionally correct someone who misunderstood your question I recently sent an email to someone who misunderstood my question and I was unsure of how to correct them. They are a professional and their response was useful in itself, it just didn't answer my question. I reasked in a different way but that didn't seem the most effective solution.", "How to professionally correct someone who misunderstood your question I recently sent an email to someone who misunderstood my question and I was unsure of how to correct them. They are a professional and their response was useful in itself, it just didn't answer my question. I reasked in a different way but that didn't seem the most effective solution.", "How to professionally correct someone who misunderstood your question I recently sent an email to someone who misunderstood my question and I was unsure of how to correct them. They are a professional and their response was useful in itself, it just didn't answer my question. I reasked in a different way but that didn't seem the most effective solution." ]

[ "\"I'm sorry, I think I worded that poorly. What I meant to ask was [insert clarified question here].\" That way you put the responsibility for the screw up on yourself, even if it was them being a dumbass. Helps to prevent them getting annoyed. ", "I exchange email with people at all levels, and generally the way I see most people address this is to not make the person look like a fool. I do know some jackasses who have no reservations calling people out, but it doesn't take them long before they end up stunting their own career doing that to, or in view of, the wrong person.\n\nI think the most common approach I see is to continue the conversation down the path they've mistakenly taken it for a very short distance, because while not immediately useful, that discussion is often more generally useful. Then re-pose your question as though it were a new question. They will likely realize their mistake at this point and will be grateful they didn't get called out. This can actually make people more willing to work with you in the future because you showed them that when they make a mistake, you are safe harbor for them.", "\"Thanks for answering my question, it was very useful, but I believe you mis-understood my question, [clarify your question here], (although I may not be aproaching the problem correctly, what do you think?)" ]

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[ "How do you know when to tell your SO something that bothers you, and when not to say anything and let it go? ", "How do you know when to tell your SO something that bothers you, and when not to say anything and let it go? ", "How do you know when to tell your SO something that bothers you, and when not to say anything and let it go? ", "How do you know when to tell your SO something that bothers you, and when not to say anything and let it go? ", "How do you know when to tell your SO something that bothers you, and when not to say anything and let it go? " ]

[ "I used the month test \"Will this thing still bother me in a month?\" If yes then bring it up, if not let it go. ", "sometimes it helps to recognize the flip side of the annoying trait. If I'm feeling annoyed that he put a dirty plate in a clean sink instead of the dishwasher, I also try to remind myself that's the same person who although is appreciative of the work I do around the house, isn't going to judge me for coming home from work and sleeping through the chores I had planned for the day, and might even take me to dinner and a movie while we're at it. \n\n\nI'll take some of those trade-offs :)", "You have to decide whether you're asking to change themselves or address an annoying habit. If your asking to change them then maybe they're not right for you. ", "If it concerns you then you need to bring it up as soon as is feasibly possible. If he loves you then he will understand.", "I think at the point you reach out online rather than turning to your partner than you should consider that you are building a wall between you by being over critical. " ]

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[ "How to prevent or diminish brain fatigue/brain fog? I stare at spreadsheets all day long, sometimes having to solve a complex set of problems that I need to wrack my brain over.. After a while, it takes its toll and I get to the point where no solution will come because my brain is too fatigued to figure it out at that point. What do you guys recommend? I've done some googling and some of the websites feel psedosciency or new age-ish.. so I'm looking for some hard testimonials of what has worked for ya'll.", "How to prevent or diminish brain fatigue/brain fog? I stare at spreadsheets all day long, sometimes having to solve a complex set of problems that I need to wrack my brain over.. After a while, it takes its toll and I get to the point where no solution will come because my brain is too fatigued to figure it out at that point. What do you guys recommend? I've done some googling and some of the websites feel psedosciency or new age-ish.. so I'm looking for some hard testimonials of what has worked for ya'll.", "How to prevent or diminish brain fatigue/brain fog? I stare at spreadsheets all day long, sometimes having to solve a complex set of problems that I need to wrack my brain over.. After a while, it takes its toll and I get to the point where no solution will come because my brain is too fatigued to figure it out at that point. What do you guys recommend? I've done some googling and some of the websites feel psedosciency or new age-ish.. so I'm looking for some hard testimonials of what has worked for ya'll.", "How to prevent or diminish brain fatigue/brain fog? I stare at spreadsheets all day long, sometimes having to solve a complex set of problems that I need to wrack my brain over.. After a while, it takes its toll and I get to the point where no solution will come because my brain is too fatigued to figure it out at that point. What do you guys recommend? I've done some googling and some of the websites feel psedosciency or new age-ish.. so I'm looking for some hard testimonials of what has worked for ya'll.", "How to prevent or diminish brain fatigue/brain fog? I stare at spreadsheets all day long, sometimes having to solve a complex set of problems that I need to wrack my brain over.. After a while, it takes its toll and I get to the point where no solution will come because my brain is too fatigued to figure it out at that point. What do you guys recommend? I've done some googling and some of the websites feel psedosciency or new age-ish.. so I'm looking for some hard testimonials of what has worked for ya'll.", "How to prevent or diminish brain fatigue/brain fog? I stare at spreadsheets all day long, sometimes having to solve a complex set of problems that I need to wrack my brain over.. After a while, it takes its toll and I get to the point where no solution will come because my brain is too fatigued to figure it out at that point. What do you guys recommend? I've done some googling and some of the websites feel psedosciency or new age-ish.. so I'm looking for some hard testimonials of what has worked for ya'll.", "How to prevent or diminish brain fatigue/brain fog? I stare at spreadsheets all day long, sometimes having to solve a complex set of problems that I need to wrack my brain over.. After a while, it takes its toll and I get to the point where no solution will come because my brain is too fatigued to figure it out at that point. What do you guys recommend? I've done some googling and some of the websites feel psedosciency or new age-ish.. so I'm looking for some hard testimonials of what has worked for ya'll.", "How to prevent or diminish brain fatigue/brain fog? I stare at spreadsheets all day long, sometimes having to solve a complex set of problems that I need to wrack my brain over.. After a while, it takes its toll and I get to the point where no solution will come because my brain is too fatigued to figure it out at that point. What do you guys recommend? I've done some googling and some of the websites feel psedosciency or new age-ish.. so I'm looking for some hard testimonials of what has worked for ya'll.", "How to prevent or diminish brain fatigue/brain fog? I stare at spreadsheets all day long, sometimes having to solve a complex set of problems that I need to wrack my brain over.. After a while, it takes its toll and I get to the point where no solution will come because my brain is too fatigued to figure it out at that point. What do you guys recommend? I've done some googling and some of the websites feel psedosciency or new age-ish.. so I'm looking for some hard testimonials of what has worked for ya'll.", "How to prevent or diminish brain fatigue/brain fog? I stare at spreadsheets all day long, sometimes having to solve a complex set of problems that I need to wrack my brain over.. After a while, it takes its toll and I get to the point where no solution will come because my brain is too fatigued to figure it out at that point. What do you guys recommend? I've done some googling and some of the websites feel psedosciency or new age-ish.. so I'm looking for some hard testimonials of what has worked for ya'll.", "How to prevent or diminish brain fatigue/brain fog? I stare at spreadsheets all day long, sometimes having to solve a complex set of problems that I need to wrack my brain over.. After a while, it takes its toll and I get to the point where no solution will come because my brain is too fatigued to figure it out at that point. What do you guys recommend? I've done some googling and some of the websites feel psedosciency or new age-ish.. so I'm looking for some hard testimonials of what has worked for ya'll.", "How to prevent or diminish brain fatigue/brain fog? I stare at spreadsheets all day long, sometimes having to solve a complex set of problems that I need to wrack my brain over.. After a while, it takes its toll and I get to the point where no solution will come because my brain is too fatigued to figure it out at that point. What do you guys recommend? I've done some googling and some of the websites feel psedosciency or new age-ish.. so I'm looking for some hard testimonials of what has worked for ya'll.", "How to prevent or diminish brain fatigue/brain fog? I stare at spreadsheets all day long, sometimes having to solve a complex set of problems that I need to wrack my brain over.. After a while, it takes its toll and I get to the point where no solution will come because my brain is too fatigued to figure it out at that point. What do you guys recommend? I've done some googling and some of the websites feel psedosciency or new age-ish.. so I'm looking for some hard testimonials of what has worked for ya'll.", "How to prevent or diminish brain fatigue/brain fog? I stare at spreadsheets all day long, sometimes having to solve a complex set of problems that I need to wrack my brain over.. After a while, it takes its toll and I get to the point where no solution will come because my brain is too fatigued to figure it out at that point. What do you guys recommend? I've done some googling and some of the websites feel psedosciency or new age-ish.. so I'm looking for some hard testimonials of what has worked for ya'll." ]

[ "In a similar boat. From my experience.\r\rThere is a program called Focus Booster that can help. It helps break things up. Though I find it only prolongs the inevitable and sometimes can make things worse with the break happening mid mental stride.\r\r\rMusic helps some as white noise. I use a insert bud in one ear so I'm not disturbing others, and can still pay attention around me and to coworkers if they suddenly yell for me. Podcasts to a degree help, but sometimes can be more draining as they can demand your attention. So your preferred brand of dumb four chord pop music may work best here. Think Nickleback. Good enough you don't mind listening to it, but not so good you want to sing along with or do air guitar riffs to.\r\rAnother tactic I use is switching projects if I can. My mind is like a farm plot. Too much of one task drains it like planting the same crop too many years in a row. A sufficiently different project allows those metaphorical neurons to rest.\r\rFinally, if your job allows it, change scenery. Similar to above, but more drastic. No matter what project you do you are in the same office, same chair, same paint on the walls, etc. Give your brain something new. Sometimes going from the office into the warehouse building is enough. Walking outside helps more. Sometimes I leave for lunch just to get away. That fifteen minutes energizing enough to counter the for hours looking at a screen zombified or cell phone redditing.\r\rDepending on your work environment, culture, etc. these may not work for you. I hope some can.\r", "I agree with almost everything everyone else has said: short breaks, keep hydrated, rest well, etc. Prepare your brain to be as on-point as possible.\n\nFrankly, I also recommend FORGIVING YOURSELF. We are not robots. An 8hr work day does not mean 8hrs of pristine productivity where every second is spent furthering some project in a tangible/measurable way. Especially for folks who need to solve complex logic/math problems, that 8hrs needs to include the time you sit at your desk staring into space and letting your brain cogitate. It includes the \"procrastination\" time of cleaning up your desk. It includes the wander to the water cooler for a few minutes to stretch your legs and rest your eyes from your screen.\n\nIf your brain is too fatigued to work on complex problem, then it's too fatigued and it's time to find something, anything else to do that will either be recuperative or productive in another way.\n\nAnd if anyone has a problem with you taking a short walk or whatever on \"company time,\" remind them that the company has equally taken up your \"personal time\" when your brain is relaxed enough to come up with all those brilliant solutions to complex problems overnight or while otherwise not at work.\n\nAlso... I've found \"Focus at Will\" to be a fantastic streaming service for background noise/music/beats.", "I have a chronic pain illness that gives me brain fog and I have found that staying hydrated will prevent it for a bit longer. Having a drink at your desk may help.\n\nIf it is already too late, I do chair yoga and breathing to help refocus. If possible a short walk and stretch is also a good plan.\n\nBasically use the time to take care of any needs, such as hunger, bathroom, thirst, exercise, and perhaps consider a nap if you have time. ", "Some of the stuff that works for me:\n\n- set up your work station so you *stand up* instead of sitting down. If your employer is reasonable, they could get you an adjustable ergonomic desk that can be quickly raised or lowered. Standing up does miracles for my problem solving and writing. Make sure you still follow basic principles of ergonomics.\n\n- M", "Caffeine and/or a cigarette, neither of which you should do regularly or in excess. I hate that I feel bad recommending this because in effect both can be / are bad...", "The things that work for me are\n\n- Listening to ambient noise. [12hz frequency](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7cHjaJRl1Qo&feature=g-hist) and [this focus music](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WmtZrA-O1WY&list=PLUB31GGkdeos8mULfHEdJFtPjZafmR2Z7&index=3) really help me. Please disregard the pseudoscience titles, I think it's just jargon vomit, but it does help me concentrate when I listen through good over-ear headphones.\n\n- Oddly enough, just *wearing* my comfy over-ear headphones puts me in a kind of zone. It cuts down ambient noise and I've trained my brain that headphones = focus.\n\n- If I'm really struggling, I get up and take a brisk walk around the building.\n\n- Eating a crunchy food definitely wakes me up! I've used this during long driving at night too. To stay healthy, use baby carrots, snap peas, or celery. Don't eat chips all day - though they work for me too. I know a couple very successful mathematicians/programmers who eat a bag of baby carrots a day.\n\n- Sometimes I really need a 15 minute powernap. I set a timer, fold up my hoodie and set it on my desk, and just face-down. Long-term memory is formed during sleep so you're actually getting benefits. Hopefully this is acceptable at your work.\n\nI'm a grad student who spends a lot of time with spreadsheets, weird problem solving, and technical reading, and this stuff gets me through.\n\n", "Research some nootropics. I use Noopept, coluracetram, multivitamins, Vitamin B and Coffee. It definitely helps you feel more alert.", "Stand up, pace around, and think of a solution for whatever thing you're trying to figure out. I've found this works best for me, especially after long hours of sitting.", "One thing, if you have time, is to try YouTube self hypnosis videos. Sometimes I do these, then laugh at them because I think I wasn't hynotized, then go on to do a lot of good work.\n\nAnother way is to procrastinate by doing something useful. Goof off from doing a paper by doing the dishes, or doing the laundry. ", "Lots of good tips in here... I wanna add **POWER NAPPING** to the mix. **POWER NAPS** can be incredibly refreshing, especially if you can make them a regular habit. \n\nIf you find you're hitting the wall at a certain time of day (for me, it used to be between 1:00 and 3:00) then just steer into the skid, so to speak, and **plan a power nap** when you're gonna be tired anyway.\n\nMost of what I've read recommends either 20 minute or 40 minute naps. If you just let yourself doze and doze for 2 hours, not only is that like half your afternoon, but you might wake up feeling even foggier. Personally for me, **40 minutes does the trick.** Set an alarm.", "Have a book open that is related to what you're doing and is interesting to you that you can use to take a quick break every now and then. For example, you're solving a complex set of problems, I take it you're interested in math? If I were in your shoes I'd have something like [this](http://www.amazon.com/A-Mathematical-Introduction-Robotic-Manipulation/dp/0849379814) open in another tab to distract myself, or more realistically easier problems from [Khan Academy](https://www.khanacademy.org/) since I'm terrible at math. Ha. The point is, distract yourself productively until you're willing to come back to the problem at hand. ", "Eat small meals throughout the day rather than big heavy meals. Avoid sugar in excess, and avoid carbohydrates like rice and pasta can bring on brain fog. Any kind of dairy foods will cause it, too. Ginko biloba supplements can help.", "CoQ10! I've started taking it recently and have much better focus and memory! It's good for your heart too, check it out.", "Take a damn break.\n\nYou should be giving yourself about 10 minutes every 2 hours totally away from the screen." ]

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[ " How to stop being super fidgety when I'm bored... I have a really bad habit where I tend to have to have something in my hand when I'm bored. Roku remote with a wrist strap? Swing it around. In the kitchen? Play with scissors. In class? Disassemble the pen and put it back together repeatedly. Any ideas?", " How to stop being super fidgety when I'm bored... I have a really bad habit where I tend to have to have something in my hand when I'm bored. Roku remote with a wrist strap? Swing it around. In the kitchen? Play with scissors. In class? Disassemble the pen and put it back together repeatedly. Any ideas?" ]

[ "hand clamps or stress balls, Might as well put that fidgeting energy into muscle development.\n\nIf you want to stop fidgeting you could try playing with elastic bands, you are bound to end up slapping yourself and over time you will build an association and your desire to fidget will reduce.\n\nthough fidgeting can help [burn calories](http://www.fitnessblender.com/v/article-detail/How-many-Calories-does-Fidgeting-Burn-Fidgeting-for-Weight-Loss/a8/) and manage weight so its not a bad habit to have.", "Get a fidget toy. They're cheap. Get a quiet one. I'm a teacher and I use fidget toys for my students that need to move or do something constantly.\n\nhttp://www.officeplayground.com/Other-Fidget-Toys-C312.aspx" ]

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[ "How To Travel Smart I am going to be going to a conference for 4 days. I want to know the best ways to pack a suit so I don't have to take extra luggage and what are some important items that will come in handy when traveling. Any travel tips will be helpful. ", "How To Travel Smart I am going to be going to a conference for 4 days. I want to know the best ways to pack a suit so I don't have to take extra luggage and what are some important items that will come in handy when traveling. Any travel tips will be helpful. ", "How To Travel Smart I am going to be going to a conference for 4 days. I want to know the best ways to pack a suit so I don't have to take extra luggage and what are some important items that will come in handy when traveling. Any travel tips will be helpful. ", "How To Travel Smart I am going to be going to a conference for 4 days. I want to know the best ways to pack a suit so I don't have to take extra luggage and what are some important items that will come in handy when traveling. Any travel tips will be helpful. " ]

[ "Head over to [OneBag.com](http://www.onebag.com/).\n\nAt the core of the philosophy of the site is [this packing technique](http://www.onebag.com/images/bundle-wrapping.jpg).\n\nIt actually works, as I've always been a pack-light kind of guy.", "When in a foreign country... \n\ndo not consider safety and security as a DEFENSIVE activity but a PROACTIVE activity. Probably seems a bit odd to consider but keep it in mind. \n\n\n\n ", "Some hotels will give you free dry cleaning. If your hotel does this just pack your suit and once you check in ask them to dry clean it. \n\n", "Carry the coat with you, slung over your shoulder, and hang it up on the plane as you board. \nYou can roll the pants so they won't wrinkle. \n\n**When you get to your hotel:** \n* Hang the pants on one hanger and the coat on another. \n* Hang the hangers in the bathroom. \n* Turn on the shower to the hottest it will go. \n* Close the bathroom door. \n* Put a towel against the bottom of the door so the room doesn't get too hot. \n* Wait 20 minutes.\n \n\nALSO: \n[see here for how to pack a suit](http://www.cutlerbespoke.com.au/travelling-with-your-bespoke-suits.php)" ]

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[ "Living in an apartment I'm about to sign a lease for my first apartment. This sub has a lot of great advice about choosing and moving into a first apartment (link removed due to subreddit rules), but I haven't seen anything about actually *living* in a first apartment. \n\nPlease share your best tips! I'm especially interested in tips regarding:\n\n- how to make sure everyone pays rent on time\n\n- what to do if someone *doesn't* pay rent on time\n\n- what pieces of furniture should one prioritize buying?\n\n- if everyone chips in on an expensive, group purchase (e.g. a couch or TV), how do you decide who gets to keep it?\n\n- how do you make sure chores are divided equally and actually get done?\n\n- what are chores/cleaning tasks that are important but often forgotten?\n\n- what supplies should be bought in bulk as a group? What's the best way to do so?\n\n- how do you keep rooms/bathrooms smelling fresh?", "Living in an apartment I'm about to sign a lease for my first apartment. This sub has a lot of great advice about choosing and moving into a first apartment (link removed due to subreddit rules), but I haven't seen anything about actually *living* in a first apartment. \n\nPlease share your best tips! I'm especially interested in tips regarding:\n\n- how to make sure everyone pays rent on time\n\n- what to do if someone *doesn't* pay rent on time\n\n- what pieces of furniture should one prioritize buying?\n\n- if everyone chips in on an expensive, group purchase (e.g. a couch or TV), how do you decide who gets to keep it?\n\n- how do you make sure chores are divided equally and actually get done?\n\n- what are chores/cleaning tasks that are important but often forgotten?\n\n- what supplies should be bought in bulk as a group? What's the best way to do so?\n\n- how do you keep rooms/bathrooms smelling fresh?", "Living in an apartment I'm about to sign a lease for my first apartment. This sub has a lot of great advice about choosing and moving into a first apartment (link removed due to subreddit rules), but I haven't seen anything about actually *living* in a first apartment. \n\nPlease share your best tips! I'm especially interested in tips regarding:\n\n- how to make sure everyone pays rent on time\n\n- what to do if someone *doesn't* pay rent on time\n\n- what pieces of furniture should one prioritize buying?\n\n- if everyone chips in on an expensive, group purchase (e.g. a couch or TV), how do you decide who gets to keep it?\n\n- how do you make sure chores are divided equally and actually get done?\n\n- what are chores/cleaning tasks that are important but often forgotten?\n\n- what supplies should be bought in bulk as a group? What's the best way to do so?\n\n- how do you keep rooms/bathrooms smelling fresh?" ]

[ "So my assumption here is that you're signing a lease with several other people, but my $.02 are as follows:\n\n-Have a designated payer/collector and make it clear that rent needs to be paid 5 days before it's actually due by the company. If they do not meet that deadline then you have a few days to figure it out. \n\n-To avoid the whole not paying rent on time, I would try and see if everyone can put down a deposit to cover some slippage. That one's tough.\n\n-Prioritize buying a bed, utensils, paper plates, and a couch if you can. The fancy furniture comes later on.\n\n-I would avoid buying expensive things \"together\" at all costs. There is always going to be a problem when you all split up and there is no way to win this one without fighting.\n\n-I did this with my roommates but you basically had weekly chores that we would split up and you had to pay 5$ for every chore that you didn't do. The money at the end of the month would go towards the brewskies.\n\n-Clean everything in your bathroom. Toilet bowl, bath tub, etc. Never forget.\n\n-Buy paper towels and toilet paper in bulk. Make sure you never run out.\n\n-I would go with candles for bathrooms smelling fresh. Also have febreeze in an accessible place and you'll be golden.\n\nYour first apartment is always going to be a work in progress, so don't stress and learn on the fly! Congrats and enjoy!", "i took the liberty of finding this link to a bunch of complaints about roommates. I don't mean to scare you; this might open your eyes a bit to some of this issues in roommates situations. good luck.\nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/6ze1sp/what_are_your_biggest_complaints_when_having_guys/ ", "> how to make sure everyone pays rent on time\n\nRent is due before its due. If you can afford it, everyone pays first AND last months rent or pays a lil extra till they get last months up and running.\n\n> what to do if someone doesn't pay rent on time\n\nThats way you want to have last months rent. You are essentially giving yourself an xtra 30 days to find someone else/plan\n\n> what pieces of furniture should one prioritize buying?\nif everyone chips in on an expensive, group purchase (e.g. a couch or TV), how do you decide who gets to keep it?\n\nNone. Prioritize scouring Craigslist Free and bleaching things. Why buy what you will be throwing away. \n\n> how do you make sure chores are divided equally and actually get done?\n\nLess worry about chores and more limit the damage. All eating done in kitchen, at table/counter or in your room. Try to eat together as you can peer pressure to clean at the end. Plus its better to eat together. Keep seperate smaller trashcans instead of a big one. If a person wants/is willing to live in filth not much you can do but don't let people pass the buck thinking \"this plate won't matter XYZ can empty later.\"\n\n> what are chores/cleaning tasks that are important but often forgotten?\n\nWiping down surfaces. \n\n>. what supplies should be bought in bulk as a group? What's the best way to do so?\n\nRice, Beans, Paper Products. The necessities. Everything else is on your own. \n\n> how do you keep rooms/bathrooms smelling fresh\n\nBleach is your friend, keep a bottle of diluted bleach, water, and dap of liquid soap. Also, a cap full of listernine not only will help clean a toliet bowl but keep a bathroom a nice pine smell. " ]

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[ "How do I properly end an obviously awkward conversation? What exactly am I supposed to say when we've run out of topics to talk about and I just wanna get out of there? \"Ay I got something to do, gotta blast\" just doesn't cut it sometimes", "How do I properly end an obviously awkward conversation? What exactly am I supposed to say when we've run out of topics to talk about and I just wanna get out of there? \"Ay I got something to do, gotta blast\" just doesn't cut it sometimes", "How do I properly end an obviously awkward conversation? What exactly am I supposed to say when we've run out of topics to talk about and I just wanna get out of there? \"Ay I got something to do, gotta blast\" just doesn't cut it sometimes" ]

[ "Be pleasant, smile and end with something along the lines of \"Nice chatting with you. Best of luck with that [if they mentioned a new opportunity/something interesting they were going to do/upcoming travel]. Take care.\"", "Always end the conversation before you get to the point where it becomes blatantly akward. Depending on the situation, make up some excuse about going to the toilet, getting another drink, having to pick up the kids... If you're feeling akward, chances are the other person is also feeling akward and will be glad to have an excuse to leave that conversation. If you know the person well, make a joke about it being akward. \n\n ", "Most of the time silence doesn't mean awkwardness. Just embrace it! If you want to end the conversation, just say that like some people have already suggested, humor is always good. Saying that you are always in a rush to do something else may make others think that you are a busy person (beneficial in some professional situations, hinderance in social situations unless it's with somebody you would like to avoid)" ]

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[ "How to forget about work when you get home. My job is meh and my coworkers are cunts. How do I just forget about work when I get home? Today I got an infuriating email from one of my coworkers and I'm sick of letting his stupidity ruin my evenings", "How to forget about work when you get home. My job is meh and my coworkers are cunts. How do I just forget about work when I get home? Today I got an infuriating email from one of my coworkers and I'm sick of letting his stupidity ruin my evenings", "How to forget about work when you get home. My job is meh and my coworkers are cunts. How do I just forget about work when I get home? Today I got an infuriating email from one of my coworkers and I'm sick of letting his stupidity ruin my evenings", "How to forget about work when you get home. My job is meh and my coworkers are cunts. How do I just forget about work when I get home? Today I got an infuriating email from one of my coworkers and I'm sick of letting his stupidity ruin my evenings", "How to forget about work when you get home. My job is meh and my coworkers are cunts. How do I just forget about work when I get home? Today I got an infuriating email from one of my coworkers and I'm sick of letting his stupidity ruin my evenings", "How to forget about work when you get home. My job is meh and my coworkers are cunts. How do I just forget about work when I get home? Today I got an infuriating email from one of my coworkers and I'm sick of letting his stupidity ruin my evenings", "How to forget about work when you get home. My job is meh and my coworkers are cunts. How do I just forget about work when I get home? Today I got an infuriating email from one of my coworkers and I'm sick of letting his stupidity ruin my evenings", "How to forget about work when you get home. My job is meh and my coworkers are cunts. How do I just forget about work when I get home? Today I got an infuriating email from one of my coworkers and I'm sick of letting his stupidity ruin my evenings", "How to forget about work when you get home. My job is meh and my coworkers are cunts. How do I just forget about work when I get home? Today I got an infuriating email from one of my coworkers and I'm sick of letting his stupidity ruin my evenings", "How to forget about work when you get home. My job is meh and my coworkers are cunts. How do I just forget about work when I get home? Today I got an infuriating email from one of my coworkers and I'm sick of letting his stupidity ruin my evenings", "How to forget about work when you get home. My job is meh and my coworkers are cunts. How do I just forget about work when I get home? Today I got an infuriating email from one of my coworkers and I'm sick of letting his stupidity ruin my evenings" ]

[ "I am in a similar situation. The biggest thing that changed my life was turning off the email notification and unread count from my work email on my phone. Now I can check my email if I want to, but I have no idea is things are blowing up while I'm gone.", "Another one for \"don't check your email.\" This caused some stress in my marriage because I am ALWAYS checking my damn email. I eventually turned off the notifications for email while I'm not at work. I still check when I want to, but it's no longer a pavlovian response to the vibration on the phone in my pocket, and I no longer get my evenings screwed up because of work stuff.\n\nIf something happens at work and you want to forget about it when you're at home, best bet is to have some sort of transitional activity, like a trip the gym, or 30-45 minutes of playing with your kids or your dog (or just video games), or reading a book to clear your head. For me it's a trip to the climbing gym.", "Shut off your phone/put it on silent to start. Do something briefly that you enjoy. Something long enough and that requires enough thought you can't think about work. Your head will be clear, work will be distant, and you can go about your evening. \n \nSave the drinking or smoking until after your mind is off work instead of using them to get your mind off work. The latter (in my experience) leads to me dwelling on my shitty job instead of relaxing me when I'm done with it.", "If your work doesn't require it, remove your work email account from your phone and make a rule that you NEVER check your inbox at home. I never check work emails at home and there's never been a problem with it. As soon as I get home, it's me time - play games, watch TV and soon I've forgotten that I even have a job. I don't talk to my partner about \"what happened at work\" because that will just make it worse. Though in some cases, if something big happened, I'll discuss it with her because it's a good to get a second opinion on things.", "read,movies, shows, hobby, exercise. pretty much anything keep your mind active. dont put yourself in a situation where you need to take work back home. if you have to be on call or wait for emails texts etc. than you have no choice.", "What's something you thoroughly enjoy? Being tired from work can be a thing, but if you have goals/ambitions, you will find time goes quickly. But all in all don't let work consume you, you're an individual who's independent from the machine. Read, walk, volunteer, or even just staring at something semi-captivating and just quite literally focus on thinking about nothing, and repetitively while controlling your breathing. At least that's mainly what I do.", "Turn off the network, get away from smartphone and laptop, stay at home with family, read some books, listen to favorite music, watch TV, enjoy the life.", "Just stop caring. Believe me, it takes practice. You've already spent 1/3 of your day at work, don't \"work overtime without pay\". Whatever it is, most of the time it can wait until tomorrow.\n\nAfter embracing this \"not caring\" method, every evening feels like a weekend. It's awesome :D", "I live on the top of a high hill and bicycle home. After about 300 vertical feet, anything my co-workers might have said or done during the day isn't even a memory.", "I find my job VERY stressful, and unwinding after work is a must otherwise work will ruin my night and put me in a worse mood the following day, and the effect compounds day after day.\n\n\n\n1. The second I get home I do busywork. Clean, laundry, groceries etc. This immediately gets work off my mind, keeps me productive and then I don't have to do this stuff on my day off!\n\n\n2. I make a mental effort to forget work. This means telling myself \"worry about it tomorrow\" or whatever when something work related comes up after work.\n\n\n3. Then I sink time into a hobby. I like competitive gaming, if you don't have a good hobby then find one!", "I always found that listening to loud music on the commute home helped . Ranting about it helped me too- call somebody (I used to call my grandmother) and just rant about the idiots- but in a fun to listen to way (hyperbole is your friend in this). They laugh, you laugh, and you get to talk to somebody you don't want to throttle and throw off the roof. A quick, fast-as-I-could run helped me physically rid myself of barely suppressed rage, too. " ]

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[ "The best way to buy an engagement ring. Ok guys! So this is it. I met the love of my life 6 years ago and it's time to ask her the big one. I know there is a lot to know when buying a ring so I really am just looking for any advice to make it the best experience I can without getting cheated or doing anything wrong. Thank you to everyone in advance and wish me luck!!!!", "The best way to buy an engagement ring. Ok guys! So this is it. I met the love of my life 6 years ago and it's time to ask her the big one. I know there is a lot to know when buying a ring so I really am just looking for any advice to make it the best experience I can without getting cheated or doing anything wrong. Thank you to everyone in advance and wish me luck!!!!", "The best way to buy an engagement ring. Ok guys! So this is it. I met the love of my life 6 years ago and it's time to ask her the big one. I know there is a lot to know when buying a ring so I really am just looking for any advice to make it the best experience I can without getting cheated or doing anything wrong. Thank you to everyone in advance and wish me luck!!!!", "The best way to buy an engagement ring. Ok guys! So this is it. I met the love of my life 6 years ago and it's time to ask her the big one. I know there is a lot to know when buying a ring so I really am just looking for any advice to make it the best experience I can without getting cheated or doing anything wrong. Thank you to everyone in advance and wish me luck!!!!", "The best way to buy an engagement ring. Ok guys! So this is it. I met the love of my life 6 years ago and it's time to ask her the big one. I know there is a lot to know when buying a ring so I really am just looking for any advice to make it the best experience I can without getting cheated or doing anything wrong. Thank you to everyone in advance and wish me luck!!!!", "The best way to buy an engagement ring. Ok guys! So this is it. I met the love of my life 6 years ago and it's time to ask her the big one. I know there is a lot to know when buying a ring so I really am just looking for any advice to make it the best experience I can without getting cheated or doing anything wrong. Thank you to everyone in advance and wish me luck!!!!", "The best way to buy an engagement ring. Ok guys! So this is it. I met the love of my life 6 years ago and it's time to ask her the big one. I know there is a lot to know when buying a ring so I really am just looking for any advice to make it the best experience I can without getting cheated or doing anything wrong. Thank you to everyone in advance and wish me luck!!!!", "The best way to buy an engagement ring. Ok guys! So this is it. I met the love of my life 6 years ago and it's time to ask her the big one. I know there is a lot to know when buying a ring so I really am just looking for any advice to make it the best experience I can without getting cheated or doing anything wrong. Thank you to everyone in advance and wish me luck!!!!", "The best way to buy an engagement ring. Ok guys! So this is it. I met the love of my life 6 years ago and it's time to ask her the big one. I know there is a lot to know when buying a ring so I really am just looking for any advice to make it the best experience I can without getting cheated or doing anything wrong. Thank you to everyone in advance and wish me luck!!!!", "The best way to buy an engagement ring. Ok guys! So this is it. I met the love of my life 6 years ago and it's time to ask her the big one. I know there is a lot to know when buying a ring so I really am just looking for any advice to make it the best experience I can without getting cheated or doing anything wrong. Thank you to everyone in advance and wish me luck!!!!", "The best way to buy an engagement ring. Ok guys! So this is it. I met the love of my life 6 years ago and it's time to ask her the big one. I know there is a lot to know when buying a ring so I really am just looking for any advice to make it the best experience I can without getting cheated or doing anything wrong. Thank you to everyone in advance and wish me luck!!!!" ]

[ "Either avoid precious stones, or go with a lab grown diamond. Lab grown is so identical to \"natural\" diamonds that De Beers is spending millions trying (and failing) to find a way to differentiate. \n\nDon't get hung up in the marketing gimmick that yo have to spend X amount of money. An engagement ring is a nice concept to symbolize your commitment, but the amount you spend is in no way tied to the amount that you love her. ", "If I could do it all over again, I’d shop for an antique or estate sale ring. But I like old things and I’m non traditional.", "Find out what she likes, ask her friends or see if she has a Pinterest account. It’s a big purchase, make sure it will fit in her personal style. ", "Definitely only buy what you can afford. Personally I went the QVC route. I didn't burden my husband with the hype, eloped and spent a total of 300.00 on the whole wedding. ", "I bought a lab grown myself. My fiance and I both hated the ridiculousness of diamond pricing (marketing). The moissanite stone we got is fabulous. Everyone thinks I spent a ton more money than I did, and I don't argue. ", "Do you live anywhere in spitting distance to NYC? I bought mine at the diamond district in NYC, basically the best diamonds wholesale skipping the middleman. I took the train from Massachusetts, saved me thousands ", "Before you go with the lab grown or budget route make sure that your girlfriend is of the same mindset. There are a number of women that are still very much interested in actual diamonds and the associated expense. No matter how much you try to explain how it makes sense to save the money (for wedding, honeymoon, house, etc) or that there's no way to tell the difference, she might not be OK with it for whatever reason. I'm not saying she'll reject the proposal because of it (although I'm sure that sort of thing has happened before), but you may end up with headaches having to return it, or she may even try to get you to buy her a regular diamond in addition to the one you started with.\n\nThe best way to find out what she thinks about the whole thing is talk about the way a friend or acquaintance of yours has done it (ideally recently). This way you can give an opinion on it and solicit hers without tipping your hand.", "Propose with a “stand-in” ring like a pretty cubic zirconium and tell her right away that is a stand-in and go ring shopping together after she says yes. This is an option for those ladies who are very particular in what they like. Some women enjoy picking out a ring that suites their taste.", "First, congrats! One thing for sure, dont go to big retail stores like jared, kay, etc...try to find a diamond wholesaler, or try James Allen website, their prices are even cheaper than wholesalers. Go for a diamond from a gia certified lab! Whats your budget? Feel free to pm me if you have any questions!", "If you really want the best price, check out pawn shops. You can get rings with nearly any kind of precious stones you want for ridiculously cheap, mainly because \"precious\" stones are a scam and have no resale value.\n\nNow admittedly if you tell the whole world that you bought it at a pawnshop many people will think you're a cheapskate; but IMHO it's nobody's damn business where you bought it or how much you paid, as long as it's genuine.", "For me, it was really easy. I just took my future wife's twin sister along to fit the ring as they wore the exact same size and would often loan each other jewellery for special events.\n\nOn how not to get shafted? No idea, but usually diamonds should have a certificate of origin or some such." ]

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[ "How to get rid of Robocalls I've been getting 5-6 calls a day, always from strange (or blocked) numbers from all over the US, like La Habra, California, or Land O Lakes, Florida. They are not from regular sales telemarketers or political calls. They are all various scams, and I've tried blocking the numbers, but they just call from a different made up number.\n\nHas anyone figured out how to put a stop to these? Also, for a bonus: does anyone know where they come from? Russian hacker syndicates? Ethiopian princes?", "How to get rid of Robocalls I've been getting 5-6 calls a day, always from strange (or blocked) numbers from all over the US, like La Habra, California, or Land O Lakes, Florida. They are not from regular sales telemarketers or political calls. They are all various scams, and I've tried blocking the numbers, but they just call from a different made up number.\n\nHas anyone figured out how to put a stop to these? Also, for a bonus: does anyone know where they come from? Russian hacker syndicates? Ethiopian princes?", "How to get rid of Robocalls I've been getting 5-6 calls a day, always from strange (or blocked) numbers from all over the US, like La Habra, California, or Land O Lakes, Florida. They are not from regular sales telemarketers or political calls. They are all various scams, and I've tried blocking the numbers, but they just call from a different made up number.\n\nHas anyone figured out how to put a stop to these? Also, for a bonus: does anyone know where they come from? Russian hacker syndicates? Ethiopian princes?", "How to get rid of Robocalls I've been getting 5-6 calls a day, always from strange (or blocked) numbers from all over the US, like La Habra, California, or Land O Lakes, Florida. They are not from regular sales telemarketers or political calls. They are all various scams, and I've tried blocking the numbers, but they just call from a different made up number.\n\nHas anyone figured out how to put a stop to these? Also, for a bonus: does anyone know where they come from? Russian hacker syndicates? Ethiopian princes?" ]

[ "2 solutions:\n\n- Get a new phone number and give it only to your friends, family, coworkers. Never use it to register anywhere online. For that you can use your old number or get an app like Sideline that will give you another one. \n\n- Get a caller ID app (I personally use Truecaller). It will let you know if the call you're receiving has been reported as spam before so you don't pick it up and give you an option to block it in the future. ", "I am a senior attorney at the FCC who handles robocall enforcement. Here's my advice.\n\nFirst, file a complaint with the FCC--[you can do that here.](https://consumercomplaints.fcc.gov/hc/en-us)\n\nThe best thing to do when you receive one of these robocalls is not respond at all. Don't press any buttons to speak to a \"representative\" (the \"reps\" are really just scammers), don't press any buttons that claim to remove your number from their calling lists (because the opposite is true--the scammers look to see who responds so they know which numbers to call again that will result in a real person answering).\n\nAs you have already noticed, the people who make scam robocalls use spoofed numbers to evade detection by law enforcement and by telephone carriers' fraud departments. This is a global problem, not just an American one. Mass-calling & spoofing technology has gotten so cheap that phone numbers are experiencing the same problems that plagued email back in the mid- to late-1990s: scammers and spammers flooding inboxes with mass quantities of unwanted communications. The solution for email was widespread adoption of message authentication protocols (and eternal vigilance). A similar effort is underway to bring authentication protocols to the global telephone network.\n\nSpoofing makes it very difficult for us to locate the true origin of illegal robocalls. That said, please do continue to file complaints with the FCC. Even if we can't follow up on every single individual complaint, we do in fact read all of them and use them to understand trends. Also, when you file a complaint with us, it is most helpful if you list the exact date and time you received the call, your phone number, the name of your carrier, and the information that showed up on caller ID.\n\nHope this helps!", "There's not a good way, for exactly the reason you say: push one down, another pops up. You can make sure you're on the federal Do Not Call registry, and you can report any of these calls. That's not going to do much - they know about them. You can change your phone number. You can use a service like \"NoMoRobo\" or on my cell phone I have \"Mr. Number\" that tries to keep a list of unacceptable numbers to block them ahead of time and lets you whitelist numbers that are okay (or in your contact list). Mostly, it's your first world problem and you can do what you want - waste some time talking with them, hang up right away, use caller ID to not answer, etc. Just remember: the people at the other end of the phone know they're doing a scam, know it's illegal, may hate what they're doing but can't find another job, and they're not going to put you on a \"do not call\" list because as soon as you ask they're just going to hang up and move along, and may even flag you to get more calls out of spite. Only legitimate businesses follow the law.", "Find some music and turn it up. Press 1 to speak to an agent. Place the phone next to the speaker. Wait for the call to end.\n\nAfter 2 or 3 of these ear piercing events, the calls will subside. You do run the risk of a lawsuit, but that would require the person on the other end to disclose their location thereby opening themselves to a robocall suit from you." ]

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[ "How to stop giving a fuck about what other people think? I got in a relationship with a guy a couple of months back who lives in my neighborhood . The parents of my other friends in the neighborhood now have started judging me and talking shit about me. I feel this is distracting me from my studies and it is going to negatively effect my relationship because of my brain.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop giving a fuck about what other people think? I got in a relationship with a guy a couple of months back who lives in my neighborhood . The parents of my other friends in the neighborhood now have started judging me and talking shit about me. I feel this is distracting me from my studies and it is going to negatively effect my relationship because of my brain.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop giving a fuck about what other people think? I got in a relationship with a guy a couple of months back who lives in my neighborhood . The parents of my other friends in the neighborhood now have started judging me and talking shit about me. I feel this is distracting me from my studies and it is going to negatively effect my relationship because of my brain.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop giving a fuck about what other people think? I got in a relationship with a guy a couple of months back who lives in my neighborhood . The parents of my other friends in the neighborhood now have started judging me and talking shit about me. I feel this is distracting me from my studies and it is going to negatively effect my relationship because of my brain.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop giving a fuck about what other people think? I got in a relationship with a guy a couple of months back who lives in my neighborhood . The parents of my other friends in the neighborhood now have started judging me and talking shit about me. I feel this is distracting me from my studies and it is going to negatively effect my relationship because of my brain.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop giving a fuck about what other people think? I got in a relationship with a guy a couple of months back who lives in my neighborhood . The parents of my other friends in the neighborhood now have started judging me and talking shit about me. I feel this is distracting me from my studies and it is going to negatively effect my relationship because of my brain.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop giving a fuck about what other people think? I got in a relationship with a guy a couple of months back who lives in my neighborhood . The parents of my other friends in the neighborhood now have started judging me and talking shit about me. I feel this is distracting me from my studies and it is going to negatively effect my relationship because of my brain.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop giving a fuck about what other people think? I got in a relationship with a guy a couple of months back who lives in my neighborhood . The parents of my other friends in the neighborhood now have started judging me and talking shit about me. I feel this is distracting me from my studies and it is going to negatively effect my relationship because of my brain.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop giving a fuck about what other people think? I got in a relationship with a guy a couple of months back who lives in my neighborhood . The parents of my other friends in the neighborhood now have started judging me and talking shit about me. I feel this is distracting me from my studies and it is going to negatively effect my relationship because of my brain.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop giving a fuck about what other people think? I got in a relationship with a guy a couple of months back who lives in my neighborhood . The parents of my other friends in the neighborhood now have started judging me and talking shit about me. I feel this is distracting me from my studies and it is going to negatively effect my relationship because of my brain.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop giving a fuck about what other people think? I got in a relationship with a guy a couple of months back who lives in my neighborhood . The parents of my other friends in the neighborhood now have started judging me and talking shit about me. I feel this is distracting me from my studies and it is going to negatively effect my relationship because of my brain.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop giving a fuck about what other people think? I got in a relationship with a guy a couple of months back who lives in my neighborhood . The parents of my other friends in the neighborhood now have started judging me and talking shit about me. I feel this is distracting me from my studies and it is going to negatively effect my relationship because of my brain.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop giving a fuck about what other people think? I got in a relationship with a guy a couple of months back who lives in my neighborhood . The parents of my other friends in the neighborhood now have started judging me and talking shit about me. I feel this is distracting me from my studies and it is going to negatively effect my relationship because of my brain.\n\n\n\n", "How to stop giving a fuck about what other people think? I got in a relationship with a guy a couple of months back who lives in my neighborhood . The parents of my other friends in the neighborhood now have started judging me and talking shit about me. I feel this is distracting me from my studies and it is going to negatively effect my relationship because of my brain.\n\n\n\n" ]

[ "The people who matter, don't mind.\n\nThe people who mind, don't matter.\n\nSimple, but I repeat this to myself all. the. time. Be your unabashed self at all times and eventually, you will find yourself surrounded by friends who care for you and support you. ", "Hear me out: I'm in a similar situation at my job. It's a small building off of a bigger plant, it's the same people every day, and there is a ton of gossip and office politics. The gossip is just phenomenal; a large amount. I've never experienced gossip and talking behind my back to this degree. \n\nWhen I first started, it threw me off my game. I was stressed, anxious, irritated and walked on egg shells. I knew they were talking about me because they'd talk to **me** about everyone else. I'm not naive enough to think they'd avoid gossiping about me. \n\nNowadays, it doesn't throw me off. What did I do? I came to the realization that what they're saying doesn't have any bearing on my day to day activities. They can talk all they want; it doesn't change the fact that I do what I do because it's who I am. \n\nSo I let it go. I know it's going on, but since it doesn't influence me in any way, I let it slide. If a situation arises where their gossip would actually hinder my work or my ability to do my job, then by all means, I'd say something about it and call someone out. But as far as I can see, people just like talking about the next juiciest thing. They stop talking about one thing when something more interesting comes along. \n\nMy advice to you is to just let it ride. If the gossip gets to a point where it's hampering your ability to actually do things you want to do, or if it goes past just talk, then it's time to step up. But until then, just let them go, and chances are, they'll soon be talking about someone else. \n\nI would also avoid giving them any more information than they need to know. I tell no one at my work much personal info; strictly professional. This decreases the amount of gossip possible. Eventually they'll tire of discussing the same old thing. ", "“I have often wondered how it is that every man loves himself more than all the rest of men, but yet sets less value on his own opinion of himself than on the opinion of others.”\n― Marcus Aurelius, M", "You realize that the majority of people are horrible insignificant being. Stupid, irrational, dependent, easily influenced.\nAt every turn you start to notice the failings of mankind, the groupthink/mob mind, social influences, plain stupidity.\nYou start to realize that these people who think little of you don't think, they are cattle parroting off what they hear from others trying to fit into the herd. Question everything anyone tells you, choose your own thoughts, consider everything but accept nothing. I have my own interests and I am more interested in those things than I am in others. If others also want to partake in those together, great, otherwise, ok. Don't miss them either way.\nYou humor turns black, sarcasm becomes god, and you stop caring what others think because if you look at what else they think you can no longer do anything but laugh or cry that humanity is so pathetic.\nThen you have to start learning to love yourself, step 2.\n", "What are the actual consequences of other people's thoughts or speech about you? Will this:\n\n1. kill you?\n2. give you a scar?\n\n3. result in an amputation of part of your body?\n\n4. make people look at you weird?\n\nThink it through. Unless there's a real consequence involved, it just doesn't matter.\n", "Think about how everyone else is most worried about how others are thinking of them. It's a vicious cycle. \nBREAK THAT SHIT", "They may not be talking about you as much as you think they are. Usually we are obsessed about an issue, and therefore, assume everyone else is too. However, lets assume that they are talking about you. \n\nForgive them. Say it out loud to yourself: \"I forgive them for the unkind, unfair, and untrue things that they are saying about me.\" \nThen, pray for them. Ask God to bless them. \nWhat ever happens to them, you'll have a change of heart, and you will concentrate less on what they are talking about.", "There is actually a whole sub dedicated to this: https://www.reddit.com/r/howtonotgiveafuck\n\nChanging the way you think takes time and practice but it's doable!", "The sooner you realize that your happiness trumps all, the better. Nobody is living your life for you so do what ever makes YOU happy. Its easier said than done at first but once you reach that point i promise your life will be 10x better. ( Im only 19 and i realized this my senior year in high school, so please don't think age has a factor to play)", "I think one of the biggest obstacles that people face is that they try to love up to the projected standards of other people as well as try to live the values instilled on them. After enough time of not quite reaching the bar and trying to meet what you haven't realized yet are, essential worthless benchmarks, your frustration starts to fester into an emotional impact. Looking at the values that direct your life in the cold light of day can change the way you view the world.", "I struggle with this even when people aren't talking shit behind my back. \n\nMark Manson's article 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck' is a great read. All his article are good reads for dealing with life. He also just came out with a book with the same title that I am currently reading.\n\nLink to article, https://markmanson.net/not-giving-a-fuck", "Do you boo, fuck haters. Do what makes you feel content or happy, if someone or somebody tries to take that away, fuck em, you don't need em, they just jelly you have it better. Trust, it's not an overnight thing, but just focus on your studies and people whom care for you as you are or want to be", "As hard as it is to do and it is hard, think to yourself what does this have to do with my happiness? Should I actually give a fuck about this ? If you are happy that is all that matters at the end of the day.", "2 thoughts to carry around for this:\n\n\"Don't worry about what people think, they so seldom do.\"\n\n\"How boring and pathetic are their lives if they spend all their time worrying about yours?\"" ]

[ 21, 13, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "how to naturally repel mosquitos? I got a bunch of mosquito bites yesterday for the first time this year and I’m already so over it, and it doesn’t help that I get somewhat bad reactions to them too. Is there anything I could do or use to repel at least the majority of them that isn’t bug spray (or contains deet, I have a dog so if I can avoid that then I will try to)?", "how to naturally repel mosquitos? I got a bunch of mosquito bites yesterday for the first time this year and I’m already so over it, and it doesn’t help that I get somewhat bad reactions to them too. Is there anything I could do or use to repel at least the majority of them that isn’t bug spray (or contains deet, I have a dog so if I can avoid that then I will try to)?", "how to naturally repel mosquitos? I got a bunch of mosquito bites yesterday for the first time this year and I’m already so over it, and it doesn’t help that I get somewhat bad reactions to them too. Is there anything I could do or use to repel at least the majority of them that isn’t bug spray (or contains deet, I have a dog so if I can avoid that then I will try to)?", "how to naturally repel mosquitos? I got a bunch of mosquito bites yesterday for the first time this year and I’m already so over it, and it doesn’t help that I get somewhat bad reactions to them too. Is there anything I could do or use to repel at least the majority of them that isn’t bug spray (or contains deet, I have a dog so if I can avoid that then I will try to)?", "how to naturally repel mosquitos? I got a bunch of mosquito bites yesterday for the first time this year and I’m already so over it, and it doesn’t help that I get somewhat bad reactions to them too. Is there anything I could do or use to repel at least the majority of them that isn’t bug spray (or contains deet, I have a dog so if I can avoid that then I will try to)?", "how to naturally repel mosquitos? I got a bunch of mosquito bites yesterday for the first time this year and I’m already so over it, and it doesn’t help that I get somewhat bad reactions to them too. Is there anything I could do or use to repel at least the majority of them that isn’t bug spray (or contains deet, I have a dog so if I can avoid that then I will try to)?", "how to naturally repel mosquitos? I got a bunch of mosquito bites yesterday for the first time this year and I’m already so over it, and it doesn’t help that I get somewhat bad reactions to them too. Is there anything I could do or use to repel at least the majority of them that isn’t bug spray (or contains deet, I have a dog so if I can avoid that then I will try to)?", "how to naturally repel mosquitos? I got a bunch of mosquito bites yesterday for the first time this year and I’m already so over it, and it doesn’t help that I get somewhat bad reactions to them too. Is there anything I could do or use to repel at least the majority of them that isn’t bug spray (or contains deet, I have a dog so if I can avoid that then I will try to)?", "how to naturally repel mosquitos? I got a bunch of mosquito bites yesterday for the first time this year and I’m already so over it, and it doesn’t help that I get somewhat bad reactions to them too. Is there anything I could do or use to repel at least the majority of them that isn’t bug spray (or contains deet, I have a dog so if I can avoid that then I will try to)?" ]

[ "Rub the Inside of bananna peel on your skin, old islander trick. Around your house plant citronella plants, lavender, and lemongrass… all are natural repellents, also get rid of and standing/pooling water as skeeters like to breed in it… if there’s a large pond or drainage ditch, get chlorine pucks used for pools /hot tubs… and chuck a few in will kill the skeeter eggs/larvae", "The loggers and tree planters in my area swear by eating handfuls of raw garlic, lots of raw onion, and lots of oranges. I'd rather deal with the bugs than that.\n\nMy Dad swears by Avon Skin-so-Soft as a bug repellent.", "If you’re into essential oils at all, they have really helped me. I just put drops of them onto a piece of string/climbing cord etc then tie it around my ankle and/or wrist. The ‘anklet’ version seems to work better for me but I have always had more leg bites than anywhere else. You can use any of the following oils, by themselves or in your preferred combinations: lavender, peppermint, lemon, lemongrass, rosemary, tea tree and there are more I just don’t own them all. I like that it’s not only a natural substance but I’m not even putting it straight onto my skin. (Which you can with some, but please be careful as some will burn the skin if not diluted in a carrier oil.) I promise I’m not a purveyor of EO’s trying to up sales. You can probably find some of these at your local grocery store and you can get the same results from a less than $8 bottle of lemon EO as from a $30 bottle of tea tree- just using those two as examples. And remember, drops on the cord, no need to soak it so a bottle will last a while. Hope this helps! Have a wonderful Summer.", "I get skeeter syndrome and protect myself with outdoor bug zappers around my house, and electric mosquito catcher in the house, and most days I use a lemon eucalyptus mosquito repellent (available everywhere). It is as effective as deet spray (tested by Consumer Report); I worry about spraying myself with poison every day. I also avoid going outside at dusk.", "Heat up mosquito and other bug bites as soon as possible. Use anything to heat the bite area such as a hot spoon heated in a cup of water. The heat denatures the enzyme that the insect injected into you. Your body will stop reacting with it. No one believes me, but it actually works. I've been doing it for years and I'm super allergic to mosquitoes. Stops the itch within minutes and the swelling will be gone in a day.", "Take a piece of large mesh net and soak it in diesel. Let it dry and when outside cover head. You wont feel diesel scent but bugs will keep off you.", "Dr Bronners Castile peppermint soap. I feel it cuts down on bits by 50-60%. Make sure not to wear cologne, perfume or any sent with sweetness to it.", "I've tried all the remedies suggested so far other than the diesel net is that really a thing?) without success", "Mix sugar and water in 1:4 concentration and spray any uncovered areas.....face, arms, legs, etc.\n\nWorks like a charm." ]

[ 4, 2, 1, 1, 0, -1, -1, -2, -4 ]

[ "Dealing with regret and resentment… I let my family influence my career path and major life decisions ", "Dealing with regret and resentment… I let my family influence my career path and major life decisions ", "Dealing with regret and resentment… I let my family influence my career path and major life decisions ", "Dealing with regret and resentment… I let my family influence my career path and major life decisions ", "Dealing with regret and resentment… I let my family influence my career path and major life decisions " ]

[ "If there was ever a time to try something, it’s now. While your young and unmarried with no children. Live your best life, you’ve gotten your degree.", "Stop being a pussy, move out and go live your life. Think you regret time wasted now? Wait till your mid 30s and feeling “stuck”.", "Well I'm in the same boat on the opposite side of the spectrum. You just love your family and do what you want to do. Don't blame your family for your uncertainty, just try to be a little more certain. \n\nBoth my parents split and I had to choose between working a lot to help try to keep the house or go to school where i had a full ride. You can imagine my choice and the work I do is menial. I'm pretty happy though, not mad at the family, not a millionaire, but not wanting anything. I had months where i had to choose between water and power. I had a hole in the roof of my home, in my room, right up until I had to leave, after all my brothers had jumped ship and the home I gave up an education for was family- less and decrepit. You just let it go and move on.", "Unfortunately this is situation where you have to be looked in the face and decide to seperate yourself from your family and take all the heat they have to throw at you and while you deal with that always realize and wake up every single fucking day knowing your decision is the decision you feel is right in YOUR HEART AND YOUR MIND, the decision you made and the decisions you make yourself with truthfully set you free and make you feel so much better even if you have to struggle to get there. You are loved on this planet by millions of others even if your parents resent you for what you do. Sometimes in life the family you chose becomes more important than the family you were born into and the people you surround yourself with directly impacts your day to day life so please do what you can to take the steps to get what you want, even if you cant do it all in one day make simple goals or steps you can do each day to make you feel like you made a decision and got one step closer to your true feelings", "The best time to pick yourself up and go for whatever you want is when you have no prospects. There’s nothing holding you back. \n\nI’ve been in a similar situation; you need to see this time of feeling lost as an opportunity. You could go in so many different directions. Just make sure you do what you want this time around." ]

[ 6, 4, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to stop getting attached and clingy to people of the opposite gender? If I start talking to someone new that I find interesting, I get attached and clingy and await their messages and a bunch of other things. I try to remind myself not to but it ALWAYS happens.", "How to stop getting attached and clingy to people of the opposite gender? If I start talking to someone new that I find interesting, I get attached and clingy and await their messages and a bunch of other things. I try to remind myself not to but it ALWAYS happens.", "How to stop getting attached and clingy to people of the opposite gender? If I start talking to someone new that I find interesting, I get attached and clingy and await their messages and a bunch of other things. I try to remind myself not to but it ALWAYS happens.", "How to stop getting attached and clingy to people of the opposite gender? If I start talking to someone new that I find interesting, I get attached and clingy and await their messages and a bunch of other things. I try to remind myself not to but it ALWAYS happens.", "How to stop getting attached and clingy to people of the opposite gender? If I start talking to someone new that I find interesting, I get attached and clingy and await their messages and a bunch of other things. I try to remind myself not to but it ALWAYS happens.", "How to stop getting attached and clingy to people of the opposite gender? If I start talking to someone new that I find interesting, I get attached and clingy and await their messages and a bunch of other things. I try to remind myself not to but it ALWAYS happens.", "How to stop getting attached and clingy to people of the opposite gender? If I start talking to someone new that I find interesting, I get attached and clingy and await their messages and a bunch of other things. I try to remind myself not to but it ALWAYS happens." ]

[ "Sounds like you have too much time on your hands. You need to keep busy with things that grow your soul and make you a better person.", "Stop caring so much. I am the same way. I stopped texting all together and he managed to find me and message me on another platform. However the ending is not so good for that guy...If the other person is as interested in you as you are of them they'd want to talk to you all the time.", "I don't think this is such a terrible thing honestly. Lots of people are clingy, you'll probably just find a clingy partner, and cling to each other. its okay :) be who you are, just don't obsess over people who aren't into you, and give them space if they ask for it. \n", "Um as a clingy thick headed man my best advice? Have the person just flat tell you. in the being of a relationship warn them \"hey I am a very clingy person by nature please tell me if I am too clingy and I will gladly stop\" that's what I had to tell my girl and it's worked out since then ", "I've gone through a bout of it recently. To the point where I felt really neglected and anxious. It does get better in time. My gf recognised I felt neglected and made up for it, but it does come from within. It's shit, I know, but you have the power within yourself. ", "I used to have this problem. The way I look at it is, you need to back off just a little bit and it's helped me in the past. Maybe it's because I used to be a \"clingy texter\" but I can 'sense' when someone is being clingy and it's a total turn off. Present your actual self instead of the part of you that wants him ASAP. Also, if he likes you back he will make an effort to talk to you too. If he's not texting you first or showing much interest, try and move on. You survived before him and you'll survive after. :)\n\nDon't know if it's a correlation, but my most successful relationships have occurred when my daily life is busy, because I'm subconsciously not giving a guy as much time (or too much time) as I would when I'm not busy (holidays etc). Tends to work in my favour :)", "I think the question is not how to stop getting attached but as to why do you get attached. It may be scary but find it within you the answer to your question. Is it hidden insecurity? Fear.? Only you can figure that out and it's okay that you asked for help. Once you get to know yourself and figure it out, you can now find the solution. Awareness is the key." ]

[ 22, 6, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to make time for what you love to do? I've recently started full time university 5 days a week with work on the weekends &amp; am finding a have no energy for much else.\n\nFor as long as I can remember I have loved playing and writing music. Hiking and being outdoors too. But I haven't done much of either since the summer.\n\nMy question is for all of you busy with work/life redditors: What was the quintessential factor in helping you find time and energy to keep up your hobbies and things that you love to do, instead of letting them slip away into nothing more than an anecdote of \"what you used to do\"?", "How to make time for what you love to do? I've recently started full time university 5 days a week with work on the weekends &amp; am finding a have no energy for much else.\n\nFor as long as I can remember I have loved playing and writing music. Hiking and being outdoors too. But I haven't done much of either since the summer.\n\nMy question is for all of you busy with work/life redditors: What was the quintessential factor in helping you find time and energy to keep up your hobbies and things that you love to do, instead of letting them slip away into nothing more than an anecdote of \"what you used to do\"?", "How to make time for what you love to do? I've recently started full time university 5 days a week with work on the weekends &amp; am finding a have no energy for much else.\n\nFor as long as I can remember I have loved playing and writing music. Hiking and being outdoors too. But I haven't done much of either since the summer.\n\nMy question is for all of you busy with work/life redditors: What was the quintessential factor in helping you find time and energy to keep up your hobbies and things that you love to do, instead of letting them slip away into nothing more than an anecdote of \"what you used to do\"?", "How to make time for what you love to do? I've recently started full time university 5 days a week with work on the weekends &amp; am finding a have no energy for much else.\n\nFor as long as I can remember I have loved playing and writing music. Hiking and being outdoors too. But I haven't done much of either since the summer.\n\nMy question is for all of you busy with work/life redditors: What was the quintessential factor in helping you find time and energy to keep up your hobbies and things that you love to do, instead of letting them slip away into nothing more than an anecdote of \"what you used to do\"?" ]

[ "Personally, I try to get some things done along the week and carve out one day to do what I want to do for me. \n\nIn your case, constantly working, I can see the difficulty. I think it would depend on whether you're a morning person or a night person. But try to clear your mind either early in the morning before work or late after work and at least spend an hour doing what you want to do. If inspiration strikes during work hours, make a voice note on your phone and pursue it later. I say voice note, since when I make text notes on my phone, my train of thought on the matter is lost and I can't remember what it was I wanted. ", "get organized \n \nalso sometimes you have to make sacrifices when you prioritize goals \n \nfinish uni! you can pick some stuff up after a relatively short break \n \npeople will always say \"theres no time\" or \"i can't find the time\" \n \nTime is the most valuable resource in the world - take control of it \n \nwork at making and finding the time for your needs and desires \n \nthere is so much value in planning \n \nmake lists, keep calendars, but really don't listen to anyone, do what works for you \n \njust do something to manage your time somehow", "Welcome to life. You are going to need to get very good at this. It just gets harder and harder when work, relationships and kids eventuate. I think is key. For instance, if a job pays well but gives you no time for play, then take a salary cuprioritisingt for better work hours. Good luck.", "Always do things in order of your priorities, and keep the list of priorities updated continuously. Mindmap software or cards are useful. Things that have to be done soon are higher priority, unless other things are important enough to miss them." ]

[ 3, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). 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But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down.", "Is there anything that can give comfort to someone with tinnitus? I am aware that there is no \"cure\" for tinnitus. The best doctors that we've been to have blatantly said there's nothing to be done (and still took the money). But is there anything that anyone has heard of maybe experienced themselves that can (even temporarily) give relief to someone with tinnitus? \n\nIts going to be hours since my sister is just holding her hand to her ear and lying down." ]

[ "My husband has permanent tinnitus. He tends to listen to podcasts/ music etc most of the time, but he has got used to it.\n\nI've had it now and again from viral infections. I found white or brown noise useful at night. There's an app called Beltone Tinnitus Calmer that has lots of options to play continuously, you can build your own soundscapes or use the existing options like fire and rain, day at the beach etc.\n\n Focusing on your tinnitus in silence is not a good idea, if it's really bothering her, there are usually specialist clinics and support groups available that help people adapt.", "Search Trudenta simple trick may help with tinnitus. Won't let me put link.\n\nI have very mild tinnitus.... When I do that it WORKS! but for me it lasts only 15 minutes at most. Some get more relief, others none.\n\nTry it. Good luck.", "Anecdotal as fuck : \n\nPsylocybin, microdose, twice a week.\n\nTinnitus : 90% gone\n\nAlso :\n\nDepression : 90% gone (better than any medication I took before)\nSocial Anxiety : 70% gone", "I have fans going constantly. I sleep with rain sounds and crickets also, really helps. \n\nTo be honest though, you will habituate to the sound.....it really sucks, but you get used to it..", "Heres my tips after having tinnitus for 10 years: \n\n1) surround yourself with white, pink, brown noises (rain, fan, etc). You can also use a speaker or your phone. (iPhone has this built in). The trick is to have it slightly below your tinnitus “level”. This is called masking. Eventually - if lucky your brain will start tuning out the tinnitus a bit. \n\n2) it’s common to get a fight or flight response when getting Tinnitus. This can actually make your tinnitus “louder”, as you start to focus on it. It’s important to know that it’s not your ears, it’s your brain making the sound. \n\n3) protect your hearing from further damage. Always wear hearing protection at concerts, clubs or other loud places. Use noise cancelling headphones so you can keep your volume at a safe level. \n\n4) get enough sleep, eat as healthy as you can, and try not to stress too much. This can affect your Tinnitus. \n\n5) this is the hardest part and it will take time, but accept that you have it. It’s part of your life now and when you eventually accept it, you will stop listening for it. \n\nNote: Tinnitus is very individual, people have it worse than others. I still hear it from time to time, but has slowly gotten better. \n\nHope this helps - a bit.", "I’m 43 and have had tinnitus since I was 16, quite chronic since my mid-20s. It caused me a huge amount of stress until my late 20s. I lived music and had to give that up to protect my hearing. \n\nThe pivot point for me was acceptance. There is no physical pain associated with it. It cannot do you any actual harm. There may come a point later in life where associated hearing loss creates obstacles to communicating, but there are options to prepare for that. \n\nI tried a lot of different therapies etc but they only added to the stress. Accepting the condition and learning to put my focus elsewhere was a fundamental turning point in curing myself of the suffering caused by the condition. \n\nI keep an eye out for advances in treatment, I carefully consider how badly I want to see a live musical act because I know I’ll cop some damage and get a flare up in volume for days after. But it is literally all in my head - and therefore within my control.", "I’m really sorry but the audiologist is not working for free to diagnosis the issue. They spent countless hours learning to help patients and unfortunately there are some they can not. You’re probably under a-lot of stress but don’t take it out on the healthcare providers who is trying to help or at the very least give you an answer to your families problems.", "For short term relief: white noise. As others have mentioned, there's different types so you can find one that works best for you. I like the sound of rain, but soft static works too. \n\nIn the long term you should get a hearing test by an audiologist. I ended up getting hearing aids and it has nearly eliminated my tinnitus.", "I use hearing aids, not for aid of hearing but they emit a low level of white noise. \nFor me it was a game changer! It is a whole new life!\n\nYou see, when the ear is busy with a real sound, your brain forgets or ignores the fake tinnitus sound.\n\nUnless I think about my tinnitus I can go a whole day without noticing it. It only took a few days to get used to the hearing aids and then I quickly started to ignore my tinnitus.", "Some tinnitus can be made better by putting both palms over your ears and tapping with your fingers on the back of your head. Not all types. \n\nSome special kinds of hearing aids exist that are supposed to try and cancel our tinnitus but these can also make symptoms worse. White noise machines can help, and it’s really common for people with tinnitus to sleep with a fan. \n\nBesides that you just have to avoid things that seem to cause tinnitus. Other stuff like stress/high blood pressure can trigger tinnitus or make it worse.", "I’m so sorry to hear about that. \n\nI don’t have tinnitus but I was warned by a doctor that if I didn’t stop listening to extremely loud music in my headphones I would have it before I hit 30 which promptly scared the shit out of me \n\n(I’m 26 now) \n\nTo all you warriors dealing with that I hope you’re able to find some silence in the chaos \n\nRemember that you’re loved", "No evidence to back this up; but personally I've noticed my tinnitus doesn't get triggered while listening to music on vinyl; unlike when I listen to digital music. ...Guess that's more of a \"prevention\" tip than a relief tip, sorry.", "the first thing the audiologist told me after the diagnosis: learn to ignore it or it will haunt you. \n\nit's a constant in my life and has been for 10 years now. what's weird is my hearing is actually very good with no attenuation anywhere in the spectrum, but I just have a couple of frequencies that are constantly present in the 10k-15kHz range, 24/7. \n\nThe only \"relief\" is sleep, but during waking hours the tinnitus is normally too low in volume to hear over normal background noise. \n\nProbably what messes with me the most is the knowledge that the problem is in my brain, not my ears. So the noise is a constant reminder that I'm a meat and chemical robot living constantly on the edge between comfort, discomfort, and pain. The brain has such incredible power over our conscious experience and in so many many I should count myself lucky that at this moment the worst my brain is making me experience is a constant noise that I've learned to ignore. It is virtually limitless the amount of discomfort, pain, and agony the brain can make us experience, but from outside influences and from maladies in the brain itself.\n\nFor all the good that we can experience as sentient, conscious beings, they're is so much more bad.", "You do get used to it and I actually appreciate it. It drowns out dogs barking, babies crying on planes and just general loud noises. I think I’d be sad if it just went away.", "Try earplugs. That may make a dramatic difference. Try running cold water over her wrists. All of the suggestions here regarding white noise rain ambient sounds are excellent. The only solution medically is Benzos, but you have to beg to get them. They Won’t even eliminate the tinnitus, they just seem to make it more tolerable. Other things like alcohol or various recreational drugs will help but then the tinnitus will be worse afterwards. Make sure that she’s not dehydrated, As that and carbohydrates seem to cushion the system a bit. I’ve noticed that by upping my water intake and eating some decent meals after a few days my tinnitus is not as bad. Good luck it really is awful to experience.", "Tinnitus sufferer here. I assume it wasn’t an ear infection since you’ve been to doctors. Decongestants may help. Background noise helps. Lower your sodium intake and see if that makes a difference. Get hearing test because tinnitus goes along with hearing loss.", "Tinnitus all the time or tinnitus that comes and goes? \n\n\nI have Tinnitus that comes and goes, my greatest tool it identify the ear with the humming, arrange my hand so that the fingers are behind my ear the heal of my palm is just forward of the ear hole(Not the technical term). Form a cup with your hand and pump GENTLY on your hear like it's a toilet bowl like 20 times, It works for me 9 times out of ten. I don't even consider myself to be a person with Tinnitus, I just am a man coping with hearing damage. \n\n\nMy Friend has a more... Consistent version of the disease where the symptom is more or less constant he uses background noises to \"drowned out,\" the Tinnitus. iirc he uses a fan at night when set to the right speed, it works for him.", "Listen to crickets. When she's trying to rest have her listen to relaxing sounds on YouTube that include crickets. It's crazy but it works. (Have been going through a bit of tinnitus for a month now. Trying to sleep in a quiet room is maddening)", "I know this isn't your question but it's a nuisance to see people complaining about paying to see a doctor when there are no treatment options available. You don't like the answer, I get that. But medicine isn't one of those tv law firms where you only pay if you win. You're paying for their expert consultation and opinion which takes time. If you want artificial assurance, there are plenty of homeopathic options for you. \n\nBest of luck with your tinnitus. CBT is what is recommended for some patient's that are deeply bothered by tinnitus.", "I have varying amounts of tinnitus that at its worst is super annoying. What works for me is that I've trained myself to ignore it, I don't let it occupy conscious thought & let it slide off my perception.\n\nThat may sound weird & you'd think it could not work but for me it really makes a difference.", "Having a real noise source going helps me, it sort of drowns out the ringing so it's less noticeable.", "if she just got it,\nreally go to the hospital and ask for a specialist, or find someone online.\ntheres an experimental treatment where they put you in a pressurized oxygen chamber,\nin some cases it can help, but only when the damage to the hearing is fresh.\n\nif they seem unwilling to help or see the severity of the problem, break down and tell them she cant stand it and wants to kill herself.\ni know it sounds a bit overkill,\nbut its best to go hard at this stage,\ni didnt, and i still regret it.\n\nand at the moment, she needs to focus on sounds in her environment like a fan thats blowing air,\nhumming/troatsinging herself might distract the brain from the noise.\nif she makes a low growling noise from low in her troat, with teeth clenched, and tries to make her skull resonate with the vibration of her troat,\nthe brain gets distracted from the hi pitch coming fron inside her body.\nthis in term allows it to phase the tinnitus to the background\n\ngentle rubbing of the area around the ear and neck while listening to the sound that creates also distracts the brain from the constant iiiiiiiiiiiiiii", "i use it as a stress indicator (louder means i need to rest). i was able to turn it into a positive thing. your body’s signal :)", "https://youtu.be/4LZv3ta13Ws\n\nThere are other videos as well depending on the frequency of the tinnitus. This is the only thing that has ever given me temporary relief.", "call the hospital, ask for a specialist.\n\nin the initial fase i was given clonazepam in liquid form( rivotril) to cope with the burden,\nespecially while trying to sleep it would drive me crazy.\n\ni found out by trial and used the smallest amount i needed to sleep comfortably, and during the day i made sure to always have background noise on.\n\ndid that for half a year, and eventually stopped taking the medication.\n\nfor the rest its rewiring your brain to not see the sound as treatening.\nas time goes the ringing falls to the background,\nbut make sure to keep her far away from loud noises from now on.\nand stress, tiredness, neckpain.. those exagerate it", "Yes. You can stop/suspend Tinnitus for s time.\n\nHold your hands in front of you like you're sizing a fish catch to a friend.\n\nContinue lifting arms so that your hands are on either side of your head with thumbs down toward shoulder.\n\nPress palms against ears and wrap both hands around the back of your skull.\n\nDrum your fingers. Make patterns, make the wave, do whatever. You should be able to feel the percussion from each finger hitting your skull.\n\nRemove hands.\n\nBask in temporary, perfect silence.", "Yes to your question. \n\nI am an audiologist. Tinnitus is a symptom of a lot of things and so treatment for tinnitus varies wildly. I am concerned. First question: does she have recent testing showing pure tone detection thresholds within the range of normal from 250 Hz to 8000 Hz in both ears?", "With one Covid, I got vertigo really bad and my ears started wildly ringing. I don’t know if it will help tinnitus, but a dropper full of liquid ginkgo did it for me. And it taste good, kinda like honey. Ringing was gone in two days and if it starts again, I take more and it goes away.\n\n Horbaach Ginkgo Biloba Leaf... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07HZ6FVPP?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share", "White noise generator can help at night. But the best thing is quite simple, but hard... which is acceptance. I still have tinnitus, but it doesn't bother me about three years after I first started hearing the ringing. The only difference is that I decided to accept it", "Though I can't find any peer reviewed research suggesting that this is a cure for tinnitus, I have noticed that since going on anti epileptic drugs in January, my tinnitus has all but disappeared. But my tinnitus was pulsatile - in that I could hear my own heart beat in my ear not a high pitched tone. I can sometimes trigger it if I turn my head to the left (the tinnitus has been in my right ear for over 20 years), but most days it just doesn't pop up.", "This will sound odd, but when I developed tinnitus, I felt some relief by wearing earplugs to sleep. Oddly the “eeeeee” being the only noise helped my brain tune it out.\n\nIf it helps, mine just started one day, really loud, but after about 5 years it’s almost completely unnoticeable. I think it’s a combo of getting used to it and it actually getting better over time.\n\nGood luck to you and your friend.", "This was in the news earlier this week: https://newatlas.com/medical/app-based-tinnitus-treatment/?amp=true", "There’s this technique where if you clasp your ears with your palms covering the ears and the fingers on the back of your head. You then use your fingers to tap the back of your sporadically for 20-30 seconds. Afterwards the tinnitus should be very reduced albeit temporarily. Helps me when mine gets bad! Been to too many concerts", "There are proven methods for many-not all. \n\nTake your fingers and interlace behind the head. \n\nBend forward\n\nFirmly snap your middle finger against the base of your skull by tensely popping your finger through the webbing of the other hand. \n\nYou should “thump” against your skull 10-15 times firmly. \n\nThis method shakes loose crystals in the inner ear. \n\nRepeat until improvement. \n\nI would estimate it helps 60-70% of people.", "There are likely a variety of different causes and types of tinnitus. Some forms are probably autoimmune.\n\nMy girlfriend had rather crippling tinnitus when she was around 18 years old. She had anti-68KD antibody, so probably an autoimmune process attacking _something_ related to the inner ear. She saw a few ENTs, tried the steroid injections that go through the eardrum (REAL fun). Nothing really helped. At some point, she was getting a cold sore and grabbed a few Valtrex from her mom. By the next day, her tinnitus was completely resolved. About 6 months later, the tinnitus returned, and again, the Valtrex fixed it. At this point, she might have 1 or 2 bouts of tinnitus per year and she just takes a gram of Valacyclovir and it goes right away. Nobody really has a clue why it works, but it works for **her.**", "The noise distractions are all good so I’ll offer nothing else in that area but one more serious thing i addressed was that my pulsative tinnitus was worse when my high blood pressure was untreated and then later when I needed a higher dose of BP medication. So if you’re not on top of your blood pressure that is a possibility although I’ve heard it’s somewhat rare to be able to sense this. Also I noticed that alcohol especially beer makes it worse but music played at a reasonable level drowns it out. Just my own personal experiences.", "The cure is habituation. And it’s real. You simply stop noticing it after a while. Humans are built for this.", "TMS (Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation) has been helpful for some people suffering with tinnitus. Sadly, insurance doesn’t cover it for that reason. The only accepted diagnosis is treatment resistant depression, which tinnitus can cause.", "Sometimes, cleaning ear wax helps. \n\nYou may want to try a white noise machine with pillow speakers to help you sleep. Fans, humidifiers, dehumidifiers and air conditioners in the bedroom also produce white noise and may help make tinnitus less noticeable at night.", "Some have already mentioned it, but a little bit of white noise works for me and many others. I actually have hearing aids that enhance the ambient noise. Makes a world of difference.", "Some ambient sounds. I’m in the navy and fly on loud aircraft and have had it for years. I don’t even notice it most of the time, but when I do it’s pretty annoying.", "Search for “tongue shock for tinnitus” I heard about this on a podcast a few years ago. It’s still fairly new, but looks promising.", "Rubbing behind my ears works. Near the base of the skull. It doesn’t make it go completely away, but it definitely eases bad episodes.", "Reducing anxiety in general and understanding that tinnitus is tied to the limbic system. I’d recommend checking out Julian Cowan Hill’s videos. They were a lifeline for me when I first started having tinnitus. I don’t necessarily buy into the craniosarcal therapy that he does, but his material is much broader than just that and quite helpful about tinnitus relief. https://youtube.com/@JulianCowanHill", "ReSound is a downloadable app that helped me. Also the sound of a fan helps make it less noticable. The white noise for sleeping helps, find it on youtube.", "Rain sounds, I use them exclusively for when I lay down. Otherwise I keep any type of noise going. If I’m doing hobby stuff there is music or a movie playing, at work I’m allowed to have a headphone in that I can play things through. It sucks and some days are worse than others.", "One thing I did was just search \"tinnitus treatment\" on youtube. There's lots of white noise type videos that can provide relief when listened to with headphones, even just listening to part of it.", "Oh I actually have an answer for this! I do this every night to help me fall asleep.\nPress both palms to your ears with your fingers wrapping around the back of your head.\nPlace your index fingers over your middle fingers.\n\"Snap\" your index fingers down onto your skull from this position. If it hurts, you are doing it too hard.\nRepeat this about 10 or 15 times. It only gives maybe 10 minutes of relief, but it makes the ringing stop enough for me to fall asleep.\nGood luck my friend!", "Nick Cave's [\"Red Hand Files\" this week were about tinnitus](https://www.theredhandfiles.com/do-you-have-tinnitus/)\\- no cure, but your friend may enjoy reading another sufferer's thoughts, it's kind of sweet and funny (Red Hand Files is about the biggest dose of beauty and humanity you can get in your in-box every week).\n\nI like the \"I called the tinnitus help line, but it just kept ringing\".", "Mynoise.net has some ambient sound generators specifically for tinnitus. \n\nThere's also a watch like \"neosensory\" band that claims it works but I haven't verified those claims.\n\nFinally this tapping technique kind of works for me -https://trudenta.com/this-simple-trick-may-help-with-tinnitus/ for temporary relief", "My partner has found some relief from his tinnitus thru acupuncture sessions. His doctor actually suggested it as an alternative treatment.", "My mother's had tinnitus for the last 20 years. She says as she's becoming hard of hearing, her tinnitus is almost gone. She's now anxious that if she gets hearing aids the tinnitus will come back.", "My husband takes Lipoflavinoid. He says it helps a little. I am keeping an eye on some clinical trials in neuro technology for regrowing the hairs in the ears that might help. FX322 1-800-839-9241 was a number I got from their website. I don't know if this is helpful or not. Good Luck.", "My ears are messed up. It generally doesn’t bother me anymore, I’ve had it about as long as I can remember, but when it does white noise helps. (I generally just play heavy rain sounds over my Alexa or use a mix of brown and pink noise on the white noise app I have).", "Make sure you are getting enough sleep it makes a big difference. Also playing continuous white noise like rainfall or running water helps as well, especially at night. It's actually more a neurological malfunction than a mechanical issue in the ear; therefor giving your brain a genuine audio stimuli like white noise can help. Sleep deprivation makes it much more noticable and loud in my experience.", "I’ve had tinnitus for years, 30ish. I got some relief when I ended up with hearing aids about 7 years ago. It doesn’t eliminate the sound, but takes it down a couple notches.", "I’ve fought this for decades. I don’t know if anything reduces it, but I can tell you with 100% certainty that salt triggers it.", "I’m surprised I’m not seeing this in here so I guess I’ll be the one. Cover your ears with your palms, and flick the back of your head about 50 times with your fingers. https://youtu.be/2yDCox-qKbk", "It's about accepting its your new silence. Once you really convinced yourself it's still there but you won't focus on it anymore. Sure you can still here it if you want but it is what it is.", "If your Tinnitus is being caused by Eustachian tube dysfunction, you can try Flonase (fluticasone) to see if it will help. My primary care physician recommended using the technique from this video and then plugging my nose and blowing lightly to push the flonase into the eustachian tubes. Doesn't work for everyone, but works like magic for me and changed my life. I had been using flonase for years, but had previously just sprayed it straight up my sinuses, which doesn't help. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tnEre7FHUAQ", "If white nose isn't working, try ambient music. \"Music for Airports\" by Brian Eno is one of my go-to's. It sounds like the tinnitus is deeply frustrating right now, so I would recommend pairing that with laying down, deep breathing, and intent focus on the sounds of the music.\n\nThe nice thing about ambient music is that it makes the tinnitus part of the overall experience. The ringing in my ear doesn't detract - it just adds to the beauty and complexity.", "If the cause of the tinnitus is sensorineural damage, amplification (hearing aids) can give temporary relief. But there’s no cutting edge or secret treatment. If you consulted a specialist who was even remotely competent, you’ve already been given the best advice.\n\n", "I work in construction. I have not always used proper hearing protection. Occasionally I randomly get ringing in my ears. Putting my finger in my ear until it seals and then gently \"popping\" it out several times has always managed to make it stop. Obviously, this isn't diagnosed tinnitus. So I can't say it will help anyone else. But it has always stopped any ringing in I've had in my ears. So take it for what it's worth.", "I read this when my dad had it. He said it might have helped a little.\n\nhttps://trudenta.com/this-simple-trick-may-help-with-tinnitus/", "I met a guy at the infusion clinic who swears by NAD+ infusions. Expensive as hell, not a cure, only relief, just thought I'd mention it.", "I listen to music to take my mind off of it, helps sometimes.\n\nSometimes I try white noise when I sleep or lo fi tunes.", "I learned that marijuana was causing my tinnitus. Once I quit using it, it went away after a few days", "I just saw an audiologist for tinnitus, and hearing loss, last week. Apparently there are hearing aid s which produce a noise to \"contradict\" the tinnitus one hears. I was given a sample of a lipo-flavonoid supplement which may, may, help decrease the volume, but can take months to work. No medical advice, I’m not qualified, just relaying my recent experience. Best of luck to you. Oh caffeine may also contribute to the tinnitus.", "I hope those doctors checked for underlying conditions, such as infection, before telling you there’s nothing to be done.", "I have some ringing in my ears, I like to sleep with the tele on, but keep it on something that doesn't have a lot of action; I really like Forensic Files for this, but my wife hates it (she can't fall asleep because she actually listens to the narration); so either that or white noise.\n\nHowever, I have another issue that doctors can't really explain; in one ear as I'm talking or listening I hear something I can only describe as static (like a radio station just starting to fade out). This one is super annoying but no one has been able to explain it or give me a solution.", "I have pretty good luck with Lipo Flavonoid brand pills. \n\nWhen mine first started ENT doc offered nothing. A nurse when we were later alone asked me if I’d tried these pills. They aren’t like aspirin making a headache go away, I had to take them for days to first get results; guess maybe it had to build up in my system. I would take 2 at night and one in the day. Don’t always work, don’t always take them, but now my system seems to recognize upon sporadic use; and often within an hour or two ringing will go away.", "I have it. It really sucked at first. It was probably one of the worst months of my life when I realized what was going on. Just a constant high pitch whine. \n\nI'm doing MUCH better now. The sound is still there and has not changed. But I remember the first time I went through a whole day without thinking about it, at that moment I realized it was possible to forget about it. My life greatly improved after that realization. Now I often will go almost a whole week without thinking about it. \n\nOne way to think of it is your brain will naturally get better at tuning it out once it realizes it is not a threat. Think about all the other things you feel constantly each day. The pants touching your leg, the fridge whirring. Yet you don't really think about it, because the brain knows they aren't threats. You'll get to that point.", "I have had it for years. On vacation, I ended up with a really bad swimmer's ear. My ears were swollen shut on the inside. the drops the dr at the resort (we were on vacay) prescribe weren't working so he gave me some antibiotics that for the life of me I can't remember the name. Within 12 hours I had no ringing, at all. It was so quiet in our room at night it about freaked me out, pure silence. It lasted for a bit, then came back.", "I have bad tinnitus from my years of playing in bands and going to rock shows without proper ear protection. While it’s true that it won’t go away, there are things you can do to reduce its perceived loudness. I did a kind of specialized therapy with an audiologist for it back in high school and it helped. \n\nHere’s some things that helped me.\n1. Regularly stretch out the muscles and tendons in your neck, particularly the tendon on the sides below your ears. Rub up and down, massage them, and squeeze and pull up and down. This helps relax the neck area and relieve tension around the ears. \n\n2. M", "I have anxiety induced tinnitus, and was told by the audiologist pretty much the same thing except that I needed to reduce my stress and that COVID was making everyone stressed and that my hearing is fine. Nearly broke into tears in the way out of that office because the sensitivity to sound was also driving me insane.\n\nHonestly haven't found anything I can do because my job drug tests and the anxiety meds I tried in the past never worked out without giving more side effects. So I use white noise, basically. Floor fans. Computer fans. Music. It's really awful.", "I have a nerve condition in my face that can be unbearable and massages are always good! They don't help the pain itself but because my entire nervous system gets compounded by the pain, any calming of the nervous system really helps. I'd assume it could help with tinnitus side effects too.", "I have a fan that runs constantly. Cheap oscillator one from walmart I spent 11 bucks on. Aside from a weekly 10 minute cleaning, it is always on.", "I had temporary ringing and I went to a jaw specialist/ sleep person and I had physical therapy for it. I had built up pressure and scar tissue from tympanoplasty surgery and one time my jaw popped and the ringing stopped.", "I had a dude I went to class with try this and he said it works:\n\nPut your palms on your ears and thump the soft spot on the back of your head with your fingers for 15 to 30 seconds. Should resonate like your head is in a drum.", "I didn't know what tinnitus was when I was young. I then discovered that I slept well when a fan was running. Turned out that the white noise was calming and let me ignore the ringing. I have a fan by the bed even in winter.", "I can't say 100% this is what helped me, but i have been doing morning cold showers and ice baths on the weekend. I use to get tinnitus at night when laying down and only realised I hadn't in a while once it came again briefly. Only thing I changed was working out daily and the ice baths and cold showers.", "I am a big proponent of ear plugs. Nearly all instances of tinnitus are hearing loss injuries from loud sounds and PERMANENT. \n\nThe reason why tinnitus seems to fade isn’t because your body has recovered it’s hearing- it’s because your brain is tuning out the constant tones from your broken ears. Every time you damage your ears with loud noise, you are losing more and more of your hearing, and (again, for emphasis) this damage is irreversible. \n\nEarplugs for all loud noises will help you preserve whatever hearing you currently have for a longer time", "I almost nearly got tinnitus or a type of tinnitus permanently, but with God's grace I was able to escape.\n\nIt was lockdown and I was using way too much headphones, listening to loud audio, etcetera and my ears started ringing and making this clicking sound. I already experienced this low whine in my ears when all was silent, but I just got used to it.\n\nSo these noises in my ear was making me extremely uncomfortable, so I thought of going to the doctor.\nBut I searched the internet first and a tip asked me to play *white noise* to soothe my ears.\nI put white noise on my google home very loud and went to sleep.\nGuess what.\nThe clicking thing was totally gone.\nBut then one more day of watching tv shows using earphones it came back.\nThat night i played white noise and pink noise playlists and went to sleep.\nIt got better and better.\nI stopped listening to mysic during workouts and started listening to audiobooks that were soothing.\n\nCheck out Calm's collections. Espescially Matthew McConaughey's voice.\n\nBy the end of lockdown, my ears were so good, I could hear people talking 3 floors down.\n\nOther things to do:\nRun. Try and reach the 10k mark.\n\nGo to the beach afternoons, while the sun is still shining.\n\nDon't put shit into your ears unless it's absolutely necessary, and your doctor is serious about it. Sometimes, medical professionals wil ask you to check if this drops for ears work for you.\nShake your head and get out of there.\n\nBut clean your ears using buds at home, many youtube videos are there.\n\nIf none of this works, go to a doc I guess. But drugs can't cure it.", "Here’s what I do: you know this little tabs of flesh at the front of your ear. — just in front of the hole of your ear? Nplace each thumb on the respective “ear tab” and press it into the hole of your ear. Press hard — as hard as you can tolerate. Hold for about ten seconds. Release. Tinnitus gone for the time being.", "Helped instantly: cover your ear with your palm, with your fingers resting on the back of the head, place your pointer finger over your middle and snap it so it hits the back of your head. Do it around 20 times and repeat. It has given me instant relief. Hopefully my description made since.", "Have it in both ears, at different tones in each ear. At first it was debilitating and frustrating, especially since nothing can be done to eliminate it.\n\nOver time, it has faded into the background. Still there, but I have gotten used to it. I tried white noise for sleep and I guess that was ok, but it kind of felt like drowning out noise with more noise.\n\nThe best long term solutions are really psychological. Training your emotional response from anger/annoyance/fear to acceptance helps a lot. The emotional response to the intrusion into one's solitude is the real harm and that can be managed. There are many support groups, etc that can help with strategies for this.\n\nInterestingly, I have found that when it is more pronounced I can make it subside by actively focusing on just that sound (or in my case, sounds). Just dedicating focus to that, actively trying to hear it as well as possible actually causes it to fade. Similar to looking at a green pattern for a few minutes and then looking at a white surface. You see a red pattern because the green overstimulation makes your receptors/brain see the opposite when withdrawn. The mechanisms are different, but for me it has the same effect. It seems counterintuitive to actively focus on the annoying thing, but it works for me and some others I have mentioned it to.\n\nOne important thing, for those with it or without, is to protect your hearing. Tinnitus is usually caused by damage, often by loud noises. I went to a lot of heavy metal shows in the 80s without earplugs and listened to music way too loud. Lars Ulrich, the drummer for Metallica, has severe tinnitus and is very outspoken about ear protection. Wear earplugs and turn your tunes down. Use plugs when mowing, etc. High decibels is our enemy.\n\nI hope she finds some relief and at some point reaches a state where she no longer notices it most of the time. Almost everyone does reach that point.", "Getting blitzed, going out on a vigorous run or listening to some music works for me. Really anything but sitting still in silence.", "For what it’s worth I very recently saw [this article](https://scitechdaily.com/significant-breakthrough-in-search-for-tinnitus-cure/amp/) that may be of interest.", "For me it seems to be worse when I clench or tense my jaw. Perhaps it's all in my head (no pun intended), but it's worth a try to have your sister really relax her jaw, make sure her teeth aren't touching top to bottom and relax. Maybe massage her temples? And give her a hug, tinnitus sucks.", "Find the frequency to your tinnitus by typing \"find my tinnitus frequency\". Once you know this, go on YouTube and find a tinnitus white noise that has a similar frequency. This helps me. After a while, you can experiment with additional tabs over the white noise tab and add different colour sounds like purple noise or brown noise, or have other ones with higher frequency. This helps me when my tinnitus is noticeable. Also, exercise and eating healthy goes a long way. Goodluck and keep your head up", "Depends on the cause. ENT doc said hubby's was caused by starting hearing loss. Brain isnt getting right signals so ears are trying to send signals like, wass up brain? ( said like a budweiser frog)\n My husband got hearing aids, and his has dramatically improved.", "Cup both palms over your ears (should have a solid seal against your ear) with your fingers you should “drum” on the soft spot on the back of your head with your fingers. Do it for at least 30 seconds (doing it for more time can make the effect last longer/better). Generally speaking it won’t “cure” it but will ideally make it go away for some short time. Not sure if it will work for everyone but definitely works on me and my gf.", "Clonazepam. Is addictive and all that. But can also help temporarily. But maybe it’s only because you care less under the influence. Sometimes you have no good option. Discuss with ent and psychiatrist, this is paramount! If the tinnitus is a new occurrence, you want to ensure that all adaptive processes in the brain have the best circumstances to operate in. This class of drugs might affect those circumstances in a negative way - I’m not saying I’m sure of that, just that it is something to consider.", "Bose sleepbuds 2 work really well for me, at least for helping with sleep. I used to sleep with wax ear plugs, which obviously doesn’t work anymore (since that just makes the tinnitus more noticeable). I also use a Dohm noise machine in the background on top of that, but that’s more for the extra background noise rather than the tinnitus, since the sleepbuds do the trick.\n\nI also have AirPods Pro and use them for music/audiobooks/podcasts, which help to distract from the tinnitus. \n\nI don’t know if maybe the doctors have already discussed it with her, but my ENT did say that you can be fitted with hearing aids (even if the tinnitus is not due to hearing loss) that can be set up in such a way (trial and error) to lessen the tinnitus somehow. Might be worth asking the doctor about this if it’s distressing her so much. Only thing is that most times insurance won’t cover hearing aids so they can be pricey.", "As others have said, white noise. I know I have a touch of it from my days near jet engines and in my grandfather's shop. So I fall asleep to videos or aircraft transmissions on my transceiver. Luckily I'm single so I can get away with it.", "Anything can be cure thru the right diet maybe she’s just low on certain minerals who knows cuz not even our so called doctors do. But I’d recommend her changing her diet to be healthy cut out junk food and highly recommend to have her try pure Irish seamoss it has 92/102 minerals that we humans need.", "Anyone here have the music form of tinnitus? Musical ear syndrome? I’m fairly young and get this from time to time. It’s literally music instead of ringing. It’s terrible and you feel crazy.", "An ac unit in my room soothes me and sleeping with the tv on to give my ears something to focus on helps as well.", "A friend of mine has an earpiece that plays some kind of frequency that helps cancel it out, white noise I think. He swears by it. For me personally, I've just gotten used to it.", "Completely anecdotal but I have friends who found that visiting an osteopath reduced the intensity of the tinnitus.", " It Is best just to Focus on something else,like play some game. some exercise should help, or warm shower. Basicly anything beside focusing on it. There Is lot to know tho. Few Hours in one ear? Not tinnitus. Like Middle ear exist And there Are two, one in each ear, does She have like stuck ear And thats why Its ringing? She can have infection there" ]

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[ "I've a date with a girl tomorrow night. I've known her for several years but I'm looking for advice anyways. Went to college together and never seriously considered dating at the time. We've always had a great relationship and enjoy each other's company but now there's a reality of it I'm kind of nervous. She's got everything going for her, not that I've no confidence in myself, but any thoughts and tips are welcome of maybe realizing the potential.", "I've a date with a girl tomorrow night. I've known her for several years but I'm looking for advice anyways. Went to college together and never seriously considered dating at the time. We've always had a great relationship and enjoy each other's company but now there's a reality of it I'm kind of nervous. She's got everything going for her, not that I've no confidence in myself, but any thoughts and tips are welcome of maybe realizing the potential.", "I've a date with a girl tomorrow night. I've known her for several years but I'm looking for advice anyways. Went to college together and never seriously considered dating at the time. We've always had a great relationship and enjoy each other's company but now there's a reality of it I'm kind of nervous. She's got everything going for her, not that I've no confidence in myself, but any thoughts and tips are welcome of maybe realizing the potential.", "I've a date with a girl tomorrow night. I've known her for several years but I'm looking for advice anyways. Went to college together and never seriously considered dating at the time. We've always had a great relationship and enjoy each other's company but now there's a reality of it I'm kind of nervous. She's got everything going for her, not that I've no confidence in myself, but any thoughts and tips are welcome of maybe realizing the potential.", "I've a date with a girl tomorrow night. I've known her for several years but I'm looking for advice anyways. Went to college together and never seriously considered dating at the time. We've always had a great relationship and enjoy each other's company but now there's a reality of it I'm kind of nervous. She's got everything going for her, not that I've no confidence in myself, but any thoughts and tips are welcome of maybe realizing the potential.", "I've a date with a girl tomorrow night. I've known her for several years but I'm looking for advice anyways. Went to college together and never seriously considered dating at the time. We've always had a great relationship and enjoy each other's company but now there's a reality of it I'm kind of nervous. She's got everything going for her, not that I've no confidence in myself, but any thoughts and tips are welcome of maybe realizing the potential." ]

[ "I think considering she has known you for a while, you're chances are better than usual. Unless one of you has drastically changed in the past couple of years or the foundation of your relationship with her was built on some kind of lie, you have nothing to worry about. She agreed to go out with you so she must like something about the person she knew. Just be yourself.", "> We've always had a great relationship and enjoy each other's company\n\nThen you're basically already set. Dating does not exist. All you're doing is spend time with someone you like to see if \"like\" turns to \"love\".", "The fact that you said \"she has everything going for her\" worries me. It's an easy tell that you probably put her on a pedestal of sorts. \n\nIMO you should go into it without putting much stock into the outcome. You may do great, you may do awful. But make sure you have a number of options available in case it doesn't. This will also aid you in being supremely confident if you aren't already. \n\nGood luck", "Maybe do something you wouldn't normally do together. I had a good friend that asked me out on a date and I was game. We dressed up a little and went to a nicer place than drove up a local mountainside to check out the stars. It was the turning point from friends to more than friends. ", "Just hang out like you normally do. She obviously enjoys spending time with you, so just have fun wherever you two are going, and don't \"force\" it. Don't fix what ain't broke! ", "Stay calm and cool. I mean, you know each other so it's ok. Be yourself. \n\nAnd try to make jokes about the situation if it's strange for you, she'll maybe explain what she wants." ]

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[ "how to start giving a damn at work when you have been there for years Been at my office for years now. I've been cruising a bit, taking one too many sick days here and there. I don't care all that much, and my job doesn't really challenge me, except for the occasional project.\n\nI took today off. And am dreading getting up in 8 hours to go sit there and do a whole lot of nothing.\n\nHow do I break this cycle?", "how to start giving a damn at work when you have been there for years Been at my office for years now. I've been cruising a bit, taking one too many sick days here and there. I don't care all that much, and my job doesn't really challenge me, except for the occasional project.\n\nI took today off. And am dreading getting up in 8 hours to go sit there and do a whole lot of nothing.\n\nHow do I break this cycle?", "how to start giving a damn at work when you have been there for years Been at my office for years now. I've been cruising a bit, taking one too many sick days here and there. I don't care all that much, and my job doesn't really challenge me, except for the occasional project.\n\nI took today off. And am dreading getting up in 8 hours to go sit there and do a whole lot of nothing.\n\nHow do I break this cycle?", "how to start giving a damn at work when you have been there for years Been at my office for years now. I've been cruising a bit, taking one too many sick days here and there. I don't care all that much, and my job doesn't really challenge me, except for the occasional project.\n\nI took today off. And am dreading getting up in 8 hours to go sit there and do a whole lot of nothing.\n\nHow do I break this cycle?", "how to start giving a damn at work when you have been there for years Been at my office for years now. I've been cruising a bit, taking one too many sick days here and there. I don't care all that much, and my job doesn't really challenge me, except for the occasional project.\n\nI took today off. And am dreading getting up in 8 hours to go sit there and do a whole lot of nothing.\n\nHow do I break this cycle?", "how to start giving a damn at work when you have been there for years Been at my office for years now. I've been cruising a bit, taking one too many sick days here and there. I don't care all that much, and my job doesn't really challenge me, except for the occasional project.\n\nI took today off. And am dreading getting up in 8 hours to go sit there and do a whole lot of nothing.\n\nHow do I break this cycle?", "how to start giving a damn at work when you have been there for years Been at my office for years now. I've been cruising a bit, taking one too many sick days here and there. I don't care all that much, and my job doesn't really challenge me, except for the occasional project.\n\nI took today off. And am dreading getting up in 8 hours to go sit there and do a whole lot of nothing.\n\nHow do I break this cycle?", "how to start giving a damn at work when you have been there for years Been at my office for years now. I've been cruising a bit, taking one too many sick days here and there. I don't care all that much, and my job doesn't really challenge me, except for the occasional project.\n\nI took today off. And am dreading getting up in 8 hours to go sit there and do a whole lot of nothing.\n\nHow do I break this cycle?", "how to start giving a damn at work when you have been there for years Been at my office for years now. I've been cruising a bit, taking one too many sick days here and there. I don't care all that much, and my job doesn't really challenge me, except for the occasional project.\n\nI took today off. And am dreading getting up in 8 hours to go sit there and do a whole lot of nothing.\n\nHow do I break this cycle?" ]

[ "Who says you have to give a damn? This isn't about finding your motivation. It's about discipline. If this was /r/fitness they would be all over you about working out even if you didn't want to. If you were asking about finding motivation to clean your house your inbox would explode with that its about discipline not motivation.\n\nThat being said here are some other points I would also advise.\n\n1. Do not be ashamed of taking a sick day or two just because you don't want to go in. My bosses favorite from me: I have eye problems today....I just can't see myself coming in. Scheduled a vacation day in the middle of the week....for Fallout 4 release. \n\n2. If you want to go find another job go for it. Nothing says you have to stay at a this job. But it's a lot easier to find a job you want to do when you already have a job. If your unemployed you may feel pressure to take any job to meet the bills. \n\n3. Show up on time and do your work well. Getting written up/\"coached\" for being late all the time or not doing your job will not help your \"don't give a damn\" attitude. \n\n4. If you really do just sit there and do nothing...find something else to do. Help out co-workers or learn what a different department does. Hell brown nose it up. Go run errands for the boss. \n\n\n ", "I live by the words of the writer of doctor who : \"when you get really good at something, that's when you need to switch it up\". He uses it to justify changing doctors and companions every so often - I use it to justify life decisions.", "Whatever you do, don't tell your boss that you are bored. No matter how well you mean it, it never is heard that way.", "When I'm bored and have nothing to do I'll normally just get a piece of paper and plan my life. Makes my day better.", "Try a change of role? I'm lucky enough to work for a company where you can move from in store customer service roles to office support roles and have found that really worked for me!", "Find a way to make your job fun. This can be done by doing lots of different things: \n1) Talk with a co-worker that you would never consider talking with. Find out about their life. \n2) Find ways to reward yourself. For every 2 hours of work you do, treat yourself to a short walk outside.\n3) Every time Linda says the word \"pacifically\" instead of \"specifically\", put a quarter in a jar. When you have enough quarters, buy her a dictionary and highlight the word with a post-it note. \n4) Get involved in other activities in the company. Whether it's volunteering at Habitat for Humanity or taking on a new project. It'll show that you're willing to help out and maybe it'll reflect well on you. ", "Change jobs. Or keep the job but start an amazing hobby. We fluctuate between growth and comfort. You grew when you first started there, grew comfortable, and are now ignoring the incoming growth requirement. Go for it!", "Ultimate Book of Pranks, fake Tinder Profiles, convert to Islam (Salat = call to prayer will freak out your white American co-workers, eventually leading to harassment and conclusive court case win & early retirement for you). God Bless 'Murica!", "Ping a recruiter, and find out if there are one or two particular experiences you'd need to get into something new." ]

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[ "Study Methods *Currently entering my 6th semester of university and I have no clue how to study other than; practice problems, flash cards, re-reading.*\n\nPreface - I'm 21 and I've coasted through school because I was gifted with the ability to easily comprehend concepts and if I didn't, I would ask a teacher. However College has been a little more difficult in that regard. I'm still doing well in courses that are writing based, but studying things I have no foundation for is becoming harder due to the quantity of new material being introduced. This puts me in a position where the way I've tried to study hasn't helped at all so I completely avoid doing it. I'd like to avoid putting myself in this situation by learning new ways to review concepts and material.\n\n**tl;dr** have always been lazy and slightly smarter than average, therefore I've never really had to study. The only thing I've done is flashcards, rereading, or practice problems. \n\nAlternatives please?", "Study Methods *Currently entering my 6th semester of university and I have no clue how to study other than; practice problems, flash cards, re-reading.*\n\nPreface - I'm 21 and I've coasted through school because I was gifted with the ability to easily comprehend concepts and if I didn't, I would ask a teacher. However College has been a little more difficult in that regard. I'm still doing well in courses that are writing based, but studying things I have no foundation for is becoming harder due to the quantity of new material being introduced. This puts me in a position where the way I've tried to study hasn't helped at all so I completely avoid doing it. I'd like to avoid putting myself in this situation by learning new ways to review concepts and material.\n\n**tl;dr** have always been lazy and slightly smarter than average, therefore I've never really had to study. The only thing I've done is flashcards, rereading, or practice problems. \n\nAlternatives please?", "Study Methods *Currently entering my 6th semester of university and I have no clue how to study other than; practice problems, flash cards, re-reading.*\n\nPreface - I'm 21 and I've coasted through school because I was gifted with the ability to easily comprehend concepts and if I didn't, I would ask a teacher. However College has been a little more difficult in that regard. I'm still doing well in courses that are writing based, but studying things I have no foundation for is becoming harder due to the quantity of new material being introduced. This puts me in a position where the way I've tried to study hasn't helped at all so I completely avoid doing it. I'd like to avoid putting myself in this situation by learning new ways to review concepts and material.\n\n**tl;dr** have always been lazy and slightly smarter than average, therefore I've never really had to study. The only thing I've done is flashcards, rereading, or practice problems. \n\nAlternatives please?", "Study Methods *Currently entering my 6th semester of university and I have no clue how to study other than; practice problems, flash cards, re-reading.*\n\nPreface - I'm 21 and I've coasted through school because I was gifted with the ability to easily comprehend concepts and if I didn't, I would ask a teacher. However College has been a little more difficult in that regard. I'm still doing well in courses that are writing based, but studying things I have no foundation for is becoming harder due to the quantity of new material being introduced. This puts me in a position where the way I've tried to study hasn't helped at all so I completely avoid doing it. I'd like to avoid putting myself in this situation by learning new ways to review concepts and material.\n\n**tl;dr** have always been lazy and slightly smarter than average, therefore I've never really had to study. The only thing I've done is flashcards, rereading, or practice problems. \n\nAlternatives please?" ]

[ "What are you studying? Also, find out your learning style by finding a quiz on Google as that can help find the sort of strategies that will help you retain information.\n\nFor example, I am an auditory learner so I need to hear something spoken or associate it with noise so I used to play the same song over and over while I learnt literature passages by heart. If you're a visual learner, flashcards or pictures are probably the way to go. If you're a hands-on person, something you have to put together to match the answers or something might be a good approach. \n\nI always found it particularly helpful to build a glossary of key words when studying, and writing the definitions in my own words so I knew I could explain and understand them. Also use the marking schedule/instructions of assignments to help you understand what they want you to write - following the requirements and marking schedule is especially handy if you tend to get off topic (as I do!).\n\nHope that helps", "Study in 45-55 minute intervals. Review, then 5 minutes bio and focus refresh break. Review again, then begin your next interval. \n\nThis aligns with your internal rhythms. ", "Review your notes at decreasing intervals to migrate from working memory to long term memory. End if 50 minute session, 5 hrs, 24 hrs, 72hrs, 1 week, 1 month. Doesn't have to take long, just a prompt, as it cements into your consciousness. ", "I take notes on loose binder paper. Then later I recopy them (recopy as often as you like, and put the final recopy in a notebook. Like a \"master\" set of notes), and polish it up. Organize terms, simplify things, look up different definitions for terms that I might understand better. If a teacher does powerpoint based lectures that are available online, I only write down things that they say verbally about each slide. Then once I get home I'll access the PPT online and do a finalized, polished versions of the notes combining what is on the slide plus what they say verbally " ]

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[ "how to get back money from my classmate that he borrowed from me? he just ignores texts, but i understand because i spam him and in real life he tries to talk about something else and he doesn’t give me back money for over a year and he just says dates and then when the date expires he just says ill give back later thats so annoying btw hes gambling addict and stronger than me idk what to do", "how to get back money from my classmate that he borrowed from me? he just ignores texts, but i understand because i spam him and in real life he tries to talk about something else and he doesn’t give me back money for over a year and he just says dates and then when the date expires he just says ill give back later thats so annoying btw hes gambling addict and stronger than me idk what to do", "how to get back money from my classmate that he borrowed from me? he just ignores texts, but i understand because i spam him and in real life he tries to talk about something else and he doesn’t give me back money for over a year and he just says dates and then when the date expires he just says ill give back later thats so annoying btw hes gambling addict and stronger than me idk what to do", "how to get back money from my classmate that he borrowed from me? he just ignores texts, but i understand because i spam him and in real life he tries to talk about something else and he doesn’t give me back money for over a year and he just says dates and then when the date expires he just says ill give back later thats so annoying btw hes gambling addict and stronger than me idk what to do", "how to get back money from my classmate that he borrowed from me? he just ignores texts, but i understand because i spam him and in real life he tries to talk about something else and he doesn’t give me back money for over a year and he just says dates and then when the date expires he just says ill give back later thats so annoying btw hes gambling addict and stronger than me idk what to do", "how to get back money from my classmate that he borrowed from me? he just ignores texts, but i understand because i spam him and in real life he tries to talk about something else and he doesn’t give me back money for over a year and he just says dates and then when the date expires he just says ill give back later thats so annoying btw hes gambling addict and stronger than me idk what to do", "how to get back money from my classmate that he borrowed from me? he just ignores texts, but i understand because i spam him and in real life he tries to talk about something else and he doesn’t give me back money for over a year and he just says dates and then when the date expires he just says ill give back later thats so annoying btw hes gambling addict and stronger than me idk what to do", "how to get back money from my classmate that he borrowed from me? he just ignores texts, but i understand because i spam him and in real life he tries to talk about something else and he doesn’t give me back money for over a year and he just says dates and then when the date expires he just says ill give back later thats so annoying btw hes gambling addict and stronger than me idk what to do", "how to get back money from my classmate that he borrowed from me? he just ignores texts, but i understand because i spam him and in real life he tries to talk about something else and he doesn’t give me back money for over a year and he just says dates and then when the date expires he just says ill give back later thats so annoying btw hes gambling addict and stronger than me idk what to do", "how to get back money from my classmate that he borrowed from me? he just ignores texts, but i understand because i spam him and in real life he tries to talk about something else and he doesn’t give me back money for over a year and he just says dates and then when the date expires he just says ill give back later thats so annoying btw hes gambling addict and stronger than me idk what to do", "how to get back money from my classmate that he borrowed from me? he just ignores texts, but i understand because i spam him and in real life he tries to talk about something else and he doesn’t give me back money for over a year and he just says dates and then when the date expires he just says ill give back later thats so annoying btw hes gambling addict and stronger than me idk what to do", "how to get back money from my classmate that he borrowed from me? he just ignores texts, but i understand because i spam him and in real life he tries to talk about something else and he doesn’t give me back money for over a year and he just says dates and then when the date expires he just says ill give back later thats so annoying btw hes gambling addict and stronger than me idk what to do", "how to get back money from my classmate that he borrowed from me? he just ignores texts, but i understand because i spam him and in real life he tries to talk about something else and he doesn’t give me back money for over a year and he just says dates and then when the date expires he just says ill give back later thats so annoying btw hes gambling addict and stronger than me idk what to do", "how to get back money from my classmate that he borrowed from me? he just ignores texts, but i understand because i spam him and in real life he tries to talk about something else and he doesn’t give me back money for over a year and he just says dates and then when the date expires he just says ill give back later thats so annoying btw hes gambling addict and stronger than me idk what to do" ]

[ "Let it go and learn from your mistake. NEVER loan friends money. Give them money and let them know they can pay it back if they want to.", "I’d say how old and how much?\n\nIf it’s $20 then you learned a $20 lesson about this person, forget it and move on. If it’s $5000, you go to small claims court.\n\nMe I’d write it off, and cut ties with this person. Let others know why you are doing so.", "How much money are we talking here? You might just have to decide to let it go and never lend money to that person again.", "You paid €250 to dump a cancerous \"friend\". Consider that a processing fee of removing unneeded people in your life.\n\nAlso, if you really need the money back, you might want to turn to r/UnethicalLifeProTips :p", "Never lend money, it's a bad time. If you both want to save thw friendship maybe he will be willing to work off the debt by doing some work for you like laundry. Next time hold onro something he values as collateral. Something worth money you could pawn if he didn't pay", "Are those 250€ really important to you? If they arent, you have paid a price to keep that person out of your life…", "What everyone is saying is essentially right, however, you should at least make one last threat to tell his parents, go to court, etc. Even if you don’t plan to do anything, at least give it one more chance.", "Other than suing him or talking telling is parents (depending on how old you are) that money is gone and you learned an important lesson about lending money.", "In the states if you had proof of this, even if there wasn't necessarily an explicit formal contract, you could attempt to file in small claim court , I dunno how European law works or if you have any proof but it may be worth looking into. But keepin mind you cant bleed a stone and even if you won he probably doesn't have the money to give you if he is a gambling addict.", "He sounds like a shitty friend all around, what's the upside to being friends with him? \nLet it go, he's never going to pay you. He doesn't respect you or value your friendship. Walk away.", "Unless you have a signed contract or in writing, count it as a lost.\n\nThere are many petty things you could do in revenge, but almost nothing would guarantee your money back. It sucks, but at least you learned your lesson about lending with 250 euros. I had to learn my lesson with $2000 dollars. \n\nCut ties and move on, you don’t need friends like that.", "Never loan a friend money if you want to keep him as a friend.\n\nIf you don't want him as a friend anymore you can chill with him until you see him with the money in his wallet and just take it, then give him back his IOU. You got to be prepared for him to want to fight you and you got to be confident you can win if that were the case.", "LPT: Lend out money as little as possible. You are very likely not getting it back. There are a few people I know who would pay back and they have. The vast majority of times money is lent out it generally doesn't come back.\n\nMy friend lent out money to his longest friend who didn't pay it back then turned around and asked for more money the next month. My dad helped my uncle out. Didn't see a dime back and my uncle decided he was being a meanie and doesn't talk to us much anymore.\n\nOn the other hand when ever I lended money to my father I would always be paid back. It really takes a lot of trust to lend some one money. Most of the time I say no unless it's an amount that isn't really gonna hurt me.", "Never loan money to friends and hope to keep the friendship. If you ask it back - you are a bad person. The friendship ends the moment you transfer money to a friend." ]

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[ "people who are good at wrapping presents, what are your tricks and how do we make the scissors slide every time? ", "people who are good at wrapping presents, what are your tricks and how do we make the scissors slide every time? ", "people who are good at wrapping presents, what are your tricks and how do we make the scissors slide every time? ", "people who are good at wrapping presents, what are your tricks and how do we make the scissors slide every time? ", "people who are good at wrapping presents, what are your tricks and how do we make the scissors slide every time? ", "people who are good at wrapping presents, what are your tricks and how do we make the scissors slide every time? " ]

[ "Keep the paper taut as you cut, and try to advance the scissors forward as you cut in a fluid motion. I usually try to crease the edges as I’m wrapping to make sure the paper is still tight. Cut the paper down to the exact amount you need to wrap the gift. Try to use paper/labels/bows/ribbons that match. Personally, I think a little goes a long way with tape. Happy holidays ⛄️", "Near folds, good the paper tight, good quality paper (thicker than the cheap shit) and a good pair of sharp scissors", "It seems like the sweet spot is half way up the scissors. Start the cut, stop half way and glide forward.", "For scissors it's all in the angle you hold the blade at. As for wrapping, watch some videos on Japanese gift wrapping. They get the best wrap using the least amount of paper and only one piece of tape.", "LPT: Use gift bags instead. It's easier and the bags are reusable so it's also cheaper and environmentally friendly", "There are dedicated tools for cutting wrapping paper. Lots of companies with essentially the same designs so, best to search for one rather than post a link. Or, if you have a ruler with a sharper edge (metal or metal edge) you can hold that in place and carefully tear the paper.\n\n* Keeping the paper somewhat still while cutting is key. I place the gift on the unrolled paper to anchor it.\n* Too large a piece of paper can make it harder to keep things neat. I estimate how much paper I need by \"rolling\" the gift over on each side and adding 1-2 inches. Then I trim the ends so they are a bit longer than 1/2 the depth of the gift. Long enough to fold a raw edge under and still overlap the other side.\n* Before you begin taping, wrap the paper around the box and see that the ends are somewhat even. Being crooked can make it harder to get it neat.\n* Fabric ribbon is more expensive but, you can use it over and over and you don't need additional bows. Wired ribbon is a nice plus, you can shape the bow after you tie it. Stock up on Dec 26.\n* YouTube for demos or if you want to get fancy." ]

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[ "How to speak more clearly and consisely Personally I have the bad habit of subconsciously increasing the speed of speaking until it kinda ends up in a slur. Did a presentation which ended way ahead of time because of this, look on audience face seem like they did not understand a single word I spoke. ", "How to speak more clearly and consisely Personally I have the bad habit of subconsciously increasing the speed of speaking until it kinda ends up in a slur. Did a presentation which ended way ahead of time because of this, look on audience face seem like they did not understand a single word I spoke. ", "How to speak more clearly and consisely Personally I have the bad habit of subconsciously increasing the speed of speaking until it kinda ends up in a slur. Did a presentation which ended way ahead of time because of this, look on audience face seem like they did not understand a single word I spoke. ", "How to speak more clearly and consisely Personally I have the bad habit of subconsciously increasing the speed of speaking until it kinda ends up in a slur. Did a presentation which ended way ahead of time because of this, look on audience face seem like they did not understand a single word I spoke. ", "How to speak more clearly and consisely Personally I have the bad habit of subconsciously increasing the speed of speaking until it kinda ends up in a slur. Did a presentation which ended way ahead of time because of this, look on audience face seem like they did not understand a single word I spoke. ", "How to speak more clearly and consisely Personally I have the bad habit of subconsciously increasing the speed of speaking until it kinda ends up in a slur. Did a presentation which ended way ahead of time because of this, look on audience face seem like they did not understand a single word I spoke. ", "How to speak more clearly and consisely Personally I have the bad habit of subconsciously increasing the speed of speaking until it kinda ends up in a slur. Did a presentation which ended way ahead of time because of this, look on audience face seem like they did not understand a single word I spoke. ", "How to speak more clearly and consisely Personally I have the bad habit of subconsciously increasing the speed of speaking until it kinda ends up in a slur. Did a presentation which ended way ahead of time because of this, look on audience face seem like they did not understand a single word I spoke. ", "How to speak more clearly and consisely Personally I have the bad habit of subconsciously increasing the speed of speaking until it kinda ends up in a slur. Did a presentation which ended way ahead of time because of this, look on audience face seem like they did not understand a single word I spoke. ", "How to speak more clearly and consisely Personally I have the bad habit of subconsciously increasing the speed of speaking until it kinda ends up in a slur. Did a presentation which ended way ahead of time because of this, look on audience face seem like they did not understand a single word I spoke. ", "How to speak more clearly and consisely Personally I have the bad habit of subconsciously increasing the speed of speaking until it kinda ends up in a slur. Did a presentation which ended way ahead of time because of this, look on audience face seem like they did not understand a single word I spoke. ", "How to speak more clearly and consisely Personally I have the bad habit of subconsciously increasing the speed of speaking until it kinda ends up in a slur. Did a presentation which ended way ahead of time because of this, look on audience face seem like they did not understand a single word I spoke. ", "How to speak more clearly and consisely Personally I have the bad habit of subconsciously increasing the speed of speaking until it kinda ends up in a slur. Did a presentation which ended way ahead of time because of this, look on audience face seem like they did not understand a single word I spoke. " ]

[ "Watch other presentations, watch famous entrepreneurs give talks, find one you really like how they speak, and learn to mimic them. This could even be a character in a movie with a really cool cadence to the words. Be that person on stage.", "There are 2 separate parts to this request and they should be handled individually. Speaking clearly is more of physical issue. It takes practice to use body language, intonation and volume control effectively. Many people don't like hearing their own voice but I recommend filming yourself speak on a certain topic and then self-critique. You'll fix many glaring flaws quickly as we harshly judge ourselves. You can listen to recommended speakers online but be sure to note what you like about each style and not try to emulate. Create your own cadence for yourself as it will be natural and easiest for you to stick to even in the most uncomfortable of situations.\n\nSpeaking concisely is a different matter. I struggle with this problem from time to time. I speak quickly and use a lot of redundant phrases. \"Wow that was a really unexpected surprise I did not see that coming.\" Is there any surprise that isn't unexpected? For some reason, I think that by adding as many words and making it as detailed as possible I am able to make my thoughts more clear? The more words the more people understand right? Not really the case. There are many different synonyms for words and each has an appropriate timing.\n\nI found that even if I stopped my sentence midway but managed to find the appropriate word it would help my communication. Take the word *boring* for instance. There are so many different ways to say boring: dull, trite, mundane, plebeian, bromidic, and vapid. I don't expect everyone to know the etymology behind each word but it helps understand when best to use them. Trite dates back to latin origin where it would describe an item being worn down. \"Wow these reddit comments are pretty trite as I see them on every front page post.\" An overused saying is trite. Plebeian refers to the social name of the common people. Having plebeian tastes describes a lacking spectrum in discernment. Bromidic refers to the chemical element Bromide which (I believe, I'm not actually sure on this) was used as an early anesthetic causing someone to sleep. When you call a teacher's lecture bromidic it is literally so boring that you want to take a nap. You could replace all of the aforementioned words with boring but some impact is lost. \n\nDespite all this the real Life Pro Tip is understanding your *inner voice*. We naturally take on accents, slang and other speech influences by interacting with the people around us. Constantly listen to those that you want to sound like when you speak and be comfortable with it. Your example mentioned a presentation which could be a factor of anxiety. By being uncomfortable in your speech mannerisms you may inherently speak faster to be finished sooner. (You may also misinterpret the audience's reaction as confused)", "When I was in debate, I had this same problem. My coach would have me give a practice speech with a pencil in my mouth (long-wise horizontal, so the edges of your mouth hold the pencil in place). It forced me to slow way down and enunciate my words. When I took the pencil out and repeated the speech, I was instructed to speak at the same speed as I did when trying to keep the pencil in place. It helped me slow down and take my time with each word.", "Practice. You can record yourself to check how you're doing. Easy ways to practice\n\n* phone calls\n* reading books/plays out loud alone and over dramatizing everything\n* Recording your voice to send to someone in a chat (you'd be surprised how many times you'll mess up and restart at first)\n* learning to relax in stressful situations ", "I like to put down a short bullet list on a postit with the parts I need to cover before starting a presentation. When finished with one part I can take a few seconds break, check the note and then move forward in the presentation. It adds structure and I don't forget my main points.\nWriting the note also create some sort of \"mental picture\" of how to perform the presentation.", "See if you have a chapter of Toastmasters International near you. They're excellent at helping people hone their speaking skills. ", "In conversation it helps to take a beat before answering and actually process what the other person has said and what I want to say. I've found its decreased how often I say \"like\" or \"um\" and people usually appreciate the thoughtfulness ", "First off, \"clear\" and \"concise\" are two completely different qualities. To be concise is to use no unnecessary words to get your point across. The best way to learn to speak concisely is to learn to write concisely. It takes a lot of practice; it helps to read pieces from non-professional writers and practice revising their gassy sentences.\n\nBut you are probably more concerned with speaking clearly. I've had this problem, and the only way I broke the habit was with practice. If you don't have a job that requires you to speak professionally, you might ask friends to help you by pointing out when you speed up and words come out jumbled. You can help yourself by catching yourself when it happens and deliberately correcting. If you really want to get good, try finding a local Toastmasters club. \n\nBut no matter what, it takes practice. There's no getting around that, any more than getting the hang of any skill takes practice. ", "When I first started out giving presentations, I would kind of write out a script for every page of the slide. If I am suppose a take 2 minutes per slide, I write a script that takes about 3 or 4 minutes when I read them out. I idea is not to learn by rote but to memorize key points.\n\nWhen you are in front of the audience, every slide will take 2 or more minutes. You can then adjust accordingly during the presentation. If you took longer in a slide, cut short in the next and so on.\n\n\n\nAnd, Try to Mimic a British Accent. But subtly. Don't really sound British, but they do have a way with speaking.\n\n", "Think of it like an essay. \n\n\n\nTell them what you are going to tell them (intro).\n\n\n\ntell them point by point. Introduce each point. Use only details needed to illustrate each point. Use examples and visual aids (if applicable). Summarize each point before moving on to the next one. Try to transition between each point in a way that is easy to follow. (Body)\n\n\n\n Tell them what you just told them (Summary/conclusion).\n\n\n\ninvite questions (if applicable)\n\n\n\nDon't be afraid to speak slowly, but naturally and deliberately. Make eye contact with the room (look back and forth from your notes, if using any, to different people in your audience as if you were having a casual conversation with them. This engages them and both encourages you to speak more naturally, and them to listen more intently).", "People will pause to collect their thoughts or think for a second in regular conversation all the time. Just remember while speaking to an audience it is completely normal to just pause for a second to get your thoughts in order. Once you have a better mental picture of what you want to say you will tend not to rush as much. ", "Give yourself a few seconds before you reply so you can process your thoughts.\n\nDo tongue warm up exercises. My personal favorite is to say 'toy boat' very fast. I've been doing it for years and people are always amazed at how fast I can say it compared to a regular person.\n\nTalk slower. There is usually no rush, and even if there is a rush, no one wants to feel like what you are saying is being rushed.\n\nNone of these suggestions here will fix you right off that bat. Speaking is a skill and you need to practice it to improve. Just keep working at it with some of the advice on this thread and I'm sure you will see small improvements immediately and large improvements over time. Good luck :)", "Decide what you're going to say in short bursts, then, as you say a \"burst\" aloud, listen to the *sound* of the words you're speaking and don't think as much of their meaning. \n\nAlternatively, you could use a PowerPoint presentation an set the slides to play automatically at a timed pace. \n\nFinally, you could use a board, easel or projector and write out your main points as you go along. After you write a point, read it out loud somewhat slowly. Then, as you give support for that main idea with subpoints, you could write a bulleted list beneath the main point with just a few words per subpoint. E.g.:\n\n\n\n#Write out your main points as you go along\n\n -read main point out loud\n -give support in bulleted list\n -only a few words per subpoint\n" ]

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[ "How to stay focused while reading? It's like I always have two minds fighting each other while reading: one which actually reads and the one that thinks about something else, and I end up with absolutely nothing. And it's not that what I'm reading is boring. I'm talking about reading \"on purpose\", not studying an uninteresting topic.", "How to stay focused while reading? It's like I always have two minds fighting each other while reading: one which actually reads and the one that thinks about something else, and I end up with absolutely nothing. And it's not that what I'm reading is boring. I'm talking about reading \"on purpose\", not studying an uninteresting topic.", "How to stay focused while reading? It's like I always have two minds fighting each other while reading: one which actually reads and the one that thinks about something else, and I end up with absolutely nothing. And it's not that what I'm reading is boring. I'm talking about reading \"on purpose\", not studying an uninteresting topic.", "How to stay focused while reading? It's like I always have two minds fighting each other while reading: one which actually reads and the one that thinks about something else, and I end up with absolutely nothing. And it's not that what I'm reading is boring. I'm talking about reading \"on purpose\", not studying an uninteresting topic.", "How to stay focused while reading? It's like I always have two minds fighting each other while reading: one which actually reads and the one that thinks about something else, and I end up with absolutely nothing. And it's not that what I'm reading is boring. I'm talking about reading \"on purpose\", not studying an uninteresting topic." ]

[ "Do your wear glasses, by any chance? I might just be a weirdo, but I wear them and my prescription changes every year or so. I find if my glasses are a little off and I can't visually focus on the words very well, my mind tends to drift much more easily. ", "tl;dr: I had similar problems, turned out it was ADHD. Got medicated, life is great! Check a list for common symptoms and see if you should get checked as well. Good Luck.\n/tl;dr\n I had a similar problem. I'm a Computer Science major, and I find most things regarding computers fascinating. I also tend to do a lot of entertainment reading (i.e. reddit, xkcd, waitbutwhy, etc.) I found I could concentrate well enough if it required little effort on my part for understanding, but when I tried to learn any kind of new concept, even something I really found interesting, I would lose focus. Often times, it would even make me sleepy, making it even harder to concentrate. After struggling with this for most of my life, I went to a psychologist. I went through a series of test, and was diagnosed with a mild case of ADHD. After being referred to a psychiatrist who also confirmed the diagnosis, I was prescribed Vyvanse. It has made ALL the difference. Instead of fighting with my mind throwing a tantrum like a 3 year old, I can now focus on things that I even find boring. The temptation is there to do something else during those activities (like procrastination), but it is SO much easier to say no to those and focus. Anyways, maybe you should go get checked out by a psychologist. I used something similar to http://www.webmd.com/add-adhd/guide/10-symptoms-adult-adhd to decide I should probably get tested. Good Luck.\n\n", "Strong focus takes practice. Reading regularly over time could itself be enough to train and improve, but awareness m", "First you need to really find your zone. Put on some music on a loop, something that fits the tone of the book your reading. Pick a time where your mind feels more quiet and at ease and also it depends on the book your trying to read.", "http://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/how-stop-procrastinating-and-stick-good-habits-using-the-2-minute-rule.html" ]

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[ "how to have family portraits that look good I'm not very good or interested in color or style. However, now that I have a family, I'd like to have some nice photos without going to a photographer every time. What are some tips for taking good family portraits? Especially if we're taking them outside in the natural area? I'll also accept general tips for good photos!", "how to have family portraits that look good I'm not very good or interested in color or style. However, now that I have a family, I'd like to have some nice photos without going to a photographer every time. What are some tips for taking good family portraits? Especially if we're taking them outside in the natural area? I'll also accept general tips for good photos!" ]

[ "It’s all about lighting. Lighting from the Sun is generally pretty harsh during the day, and you want soft lighting to make everyone’s features look appealing. \n\nEither\nA) Take them late in evening when the sun is low and less harsh. \nOr B) take them under a tree with a flash on. Bonus points if you can soften the flash by draping a white shirt/cloth over the flash to dampen it a bit. \n\nAfter that, you probably want to ", "Maybe not exactly what you were looking for, but if you have young kids having everyone wear sunglasses eliminates the \"one person wasn't looking\" issue and everyone just looks cool 😎" ]

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[ "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?", "Sleeping a full 8 hours I have developed an issue where whenever I go to bed, no matter what supplament or medication I take, including melatonin (1.5mg, 3mg, 5mg, 6mg) Valerian Root, Magnesium... I just wake up every 3 or 4 hours and then I am completely unable to fall back asleep, I toss and turn for hours, I feel like I end up having dreams like this but I feel exhausted during the day.\n\n\nI don't use my phone in bed, I go to gym 4 times a week, i eat healthy... I feel like everything I do is right but I still can't get enough sleep. \n\nWhat can I do?" ]

[ "Haven't seen this here, but look into biphasic sleep,\nMaybe you're better off sleeping in two chunks during the day", "This works for me: I listen to a podcast as I fall asleep and if I wake up enough to start thinking about things, I continue the podcast. \n\nGood luck.", "Sounds like you are doing as much as possible to sleep well.\nI was the same, I tried all those meds you mention and they didn’t work for me either, I could only sleep 3-4 hours a night.\nTurned out it was depression, saw a doctor and got some meds that sorted it (Venlafaxine). \nAnxiety can also cause lack of sleep. You should check it out with your doctor.", "Get your thyroid checked. If your thyroid hormones are high, it will keep you awake, no amount of sleep hygiene will make a difference until it’s addressed. It will also cause a host of other problems. I found out I had Graves’ disease after normalizing the symptoms for years, I had no idea how sick I was because I just figured I was “like that” and that included a very extreme insomnia \n\n2021 was a bad year for new diagnoses of Graves’ disease, at least according to my endocrinologist who said “I used to diagnose 10 people a week and now it’s 50+”", "Suggestion for when you wake up at night: get up and stay away from the bed for a while. Do some relaxing activity for a while then redo your sleep routine (redoing the sleep routine is important). This should help your brain sleep better after going back to bed, which should help you feel more rested during the day.\n\nWhat temperature is your bedroom? They are suggesting 18C for the bedroom, and I cannot agree more. Since I keep this temperature I don't wake up sweating anymore, during the night or otherwise.\n\nIf you don't wake up from heat another possibility is a full bladder - or some infection that make your bladder feel full.\n\nStress can be the cause of course, and the source of stress can be subtle - for example, stressing about not getting enough sleep or waking up during the night, either in the moment or the day before.\n\nIf you don't seem to find any reason for this sleep rythm, it could be that you easily follow a polyphasic sleep like we had before electricity. In this case I think it's even more important to get up and do something when you wake up during the night. It might also be possible that you are trying to sleep for more time than what your body wants.", "I have extensive experience with insomnia. The best thing you can do, hands down, is to *strenuously* exercise during the day. \n\nIf you're new to the exercise game like I was, start with stair stepper. Just get on that machine and go until you reach 110 floors. Sweat through your clothes. Do that everyday. Then add in some pull ups and push-ups. Will notice an improvement in your sleep right away. You will get especially good results if you can figure out how to do some \" heavy lifting\" aka with weights.", "You may wish to try eliminating caffeine and alcohol within six hours of bed. Also, a sound machine and a fan at night help me to fall asleep quickly if I awaken during the night. Your mattress and/ or pillows may need replacing. Cotton sheets (at least 400 thread count) make a huge difference for me. Definitely don't have a TV on or check your phone/ tablet if you awaken. I hope you figure out what works for you!", "Look up \"sleep hygiene\". \n\nIf you wake, get up. Do the insomnia in another room. Then go back to bed and try again. \n\nOtherwise bed becomes associated with being awake and frustrated. \n\nSee online for more details on sleep hygiene.", "I got that, just attributed it to getting older, if I get 5 hours solid I wake up refreshed and often get a cat nap later in the day. Was a puzzling transformation. I just rolled with it, best of luck dealing to ya", "Have you tried breathing exercises and sleep m", "First of all hard to say without knowing the root cause of your insomnia, as it can be a symptom of a lot of things. For example melatonin is a hormone, and it may help if you insomnia is caused by hormonal issues, and if it's not hormonal then melatonin is a placebo at best.\n\nYour insomnia sounds similar to mine, I would fall asleep easy, but I would wake up 3-4am and couldn't get back to sleep, and that went on for years. For me it was a symptom of anxiety and depression, and I believe that's quite common, so you might want to check that out.", "Exhaust yourself. You will have no choice. Walk where you'd drive. Use your left when you'd usually use your right. Smoke some weed and turn the tv off.", "İf you train to much your body just cant calm down. İn german its calld \"Übertraining\" = overtraining. When this happens, i usually just take 3 rest days wich is also benificial for muscle growth since your body cant keep up.\n\nAlso try not to eat too 2 hours befor sleeping.", "You'll get a lot of advice but I'll give you mine. I have had problems like you in the past. \n\nGet rid of the medication/supplement attempts, they're band aids, they make things worse long term. \n\nPlan a routine, then stick to it for at least a month. \n\nThe bedroom is now only for sleep. You shouldn't be in there otherwise, the bed in particular. Don't get into the bed until you feel ready to sleep. If you find yourself unable to sleep, get up. Go somewhere else, do something relaxing, when you feel ready to try again, try again. repeat as necessary. No more tossing and turning. Your bedroom should also be completely dark, blackout blinds.\n\nVary for your food times and see if it makes a difference, some people can't get to sleep after food, I can't go to sleep unless I've had food, I will 100% wake up otherwise, guaranteed. When I do happen to wake up, I open my eyes as little as possible, don't put any lights on, pee/eat and try to go back. If I fail I get up for a while to read in low light.\n\nYou may be able to temporarily kind of exhaust yourself to sleep via exercise/physical work and off the back of that try and reform habits. When I was working a heavily manual job, I never had sleep issues because I hit the bed and BOOM I'm asleep.\n\nYou may have restless thoughts, there are numerous ways to deal with that so I won't go into it.\n\nWhen you feel like you've tried everything, it's time to go to the doctor and ideally get yourself a sleep study because you may have a physical issue. You may even opt to do this FIRST if things are becoming too much for you so during the wait time you can try your best to work on it alone.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nBest of luck, truly. it's horrible.", "Try read books early in the morning and look on the sun while your eyelids is close for a minute do it 3x to 5x and go to bed in the same time everynight and think about good memories everytime or think about good thoughts.hope this will help", "This sounds like a classic symptom of sleep apnea. You may think you are sleeping for those 4 hours but you may not be. I would recommend you have a sleep study done to determine if this is the cause or to at least rule it out.", "There is an app called SnoreLab that will record and rate your snoring. You may be waking yourself up after intense snoring. Sleep study is good too. Read a paper book rather than your phone or television before bed.", "Smoke some indacouch strain of some sorts... God didnt put it on the earth for just the munchies... and your not a criminal for trying it to sleep. I live where its illegal for some dumb reason, but i just drive cross border and easily buy it legal. It will help. You will sleep. I know this. I recently went through some bad juju health wise. My colon almost killed me in less than a months time and now im missing several parts of my body and the stress alone took away my ability to sleep and the 20 pills of medication made it worse. I changed that with some happy hay and also improved my appetite and gained back over half of the 47lbs i lost. I also find its helping with the severe depression i am experiencing from having to poop in a bag on my hip and living a whole new lifestyle... im not a big pot head now... infact i dout anyone could ever tell i smoke it... but it works...so TRY IT.", "Please listen to Andrew Huberman’s podcast “Master your sleep”. Circadian rhythm plays a huge role in your night’s success and getting outside at 6:30am to show your eyes natural light will help you set your circadian rhythm and 16 hours later you will get a good night sleep.", "Not direct advice but I can definitely recommend the book “Why we sleep” by Matthew Walker. It’s really insightful and explores the psychology around sleep and sleep patterns, amongst other things. There’s also a summary and sleep tips at the end, if you don’t want to read the whole thing", "I have tried most of the suggestions here but the most effective for me was getting my iron levels checked and then taking iron supplements. The week I started iron supplements, my sleep improved a lot. Maybe you could try.", "I have the same issue. Sticking to a strict schedule including weekends and waking up early helps. Check out Andrew Huberman's episode on sleep, as well as Matt Walker's podcast and and interviews. Go outside as soon as you wake up and get sunlight in your eyes, no eating or drinking after 7pm, minimize screen time before bed.", "I had the same problem til I switched to an extended release melatonin, the brand is Nature Made, I get it at CVS. The first couple of weeks I actually felt groggy in the morning but I adjusted. Also about a month ago I started using this white noise app that has sleep hypnosis and mediation recordings, including ones for falling back asleep in the middle of the night (I was truly shocked that it works for me within minutes no matter how alert I feel) and dreamless sleep. It’s called BetterSleep.", "Have you tried changing the timing of your sleep? I was reading a book yesterday where the author said if he slept at 11p, he'd get a terrible sleep, but if he slept at 10:30p he'd get a great sleep. Something about following the circadian rhythm.", "Drink less alcohol. Try 4 days sans booze then report back. During one of those non-drinking days, call your primary care doctor and make an appointment to discuss the sleep issue. Get professional support/guidance. It could be any number of underlying conditions causing sleep disturbances. Also, stay of of the moors. Stick to the road.", "A mouthguard and breathe rights helped me alot. both together will often allow me to sleep longer. I've tried nearly everything too.", "Try stopping drinking liquids after five pm or however many hours your body takes to process your last drink. Will delay time you need to get up to pee. When you get awake stay in bed and really think about if you need to get up to pee or it’s just a habit.\n\nIt seems once you get up you need time to settle back down.\n\nSo try increasing hours of sleep before you get up by stopping the liquids.", "My friend who is a nutritionist told me this story. Some dude had a similar problem, he would wake up around 3-4 am every night. They couldn’t figure out why. The nutritionist asked him to try to eat one boiled egg right before going to bed and it helped. She said that in the middle of the night his body would have this reaction because of the hunger and then the cortisol level would rise and not let him fall asleep. Eating something light but nutritious prevented that from happening.\nIt’s just a particular case of course, but seems easy enough to try", "Maybe there is no solution for you that will improve your sleep. If that's the case, you may have to look at the problem from a different angle. Instead of focussing on your sleep duration, focus on how you feel during the day. You say you're exhausted, and that's no surprise if you spent half the night tossing and turning, of course. Perhaps there is something you can do that will allow you to recover at night and not feel quite so exhausted the day after. For me, that's listening to guided m", "It seems like your body is naturally inclined toward segmented sleep\nhttps://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/features/what-is-segmented-sleep\nMaybe lean in?", "I would try sitting in the sun for a couple hours if you don't already sunbathe or work outdoors.\n\nThere are some beliefs that humans originally slept in separate rem cycles and not a straight 8 hours as well. If anything this indicates you have good instincts to avoid predators.\n\nWhatever you do I personally would avoid relying on drugs or sleep medication. I also have a hard time falling asleep and staying asleep and melatonin rarely does much for me unless I take a huge dose after not using it for a few months. Strangely the best sleep I get is after a night out and having some drinks in me, I usually wake up refreshed since I was able to sleep deeper than I would usually.\n\nI would suggest trying to take a nap during the day if you can that might be all you need.\n\nAlso 8 hours is the average, everyone is different some people are fine on 5-6 hours others need 9 hours, so don't feel like you need to get 8 hours if you don't naturally.", " \nUse micro pore tape to shut your lips close so you’re only nose breathing. This helps you sleep without waking up halfway through", "Sleep medications are the worst thing one could take save from actual heroin. \n\nKind of an exaggeration, but those things are actually horrible. I think the reason why you're unable to sleep is the medication. Your body isn't producing natural melatonin anymore as you've been downing those pills yourself. \n\nSo what you could do is cut out all sleep-aids and rehabilitate your brain into making the stuff itself, again. Otherwise, it will get worse as time goes on and you might end up like Elvis or Michael Jackson who had to be hooked up to a needle to get their sleeping-aids just to take a nap. \n\nSleeping aids are readily available everywhere but they're such a slippery slope that in my opinion they shouldn't be obtainable save from a doctor's prescription." ]

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[ "When should you buy your first car? I'm 20 and I still live at home.\n\nIf I have a car then I will be able to get a job since I can travel. That money would go towards college related stuff.\n\nAlso, I can save up money to buy a pull-behind camper, and then move out, living on camp grounds. Not having an apartment would be more frugal. I would love to leave, but moving out isn't absolutely essential.\n\nI will be attending college near august 2018.\n\nMy grandfather has told me he will put up the money for a new car. Is this a good financial decision?\n", "When should you buy your first car? I'm 20 and I still live at home.\n\nIf I have a car then I will be able to get a job since I can travel. That money would go towards college related stuff.\n\nAlso, I can save up money to buy a pull-behind camper, and then move out, living on camp grounds. Not having an apartment would be more frugal. I would love to leave, but moving out isn't absolutely essential.\n\nI will be attending college near august 2018.\n\nMy grandfather has told me he will put up the money for a new car. Is this a good financial decision?\n", "When should you buy your first car? I'm 20 and I still live at home.\n\nIf I have a car then I will be able to get a job since I can travel. That money would go towards college related stuff.\n\nAlso, I can save up money to buy a pull-behind camper, and then move out, living on camp grounds. Not having an apartment would be more frugal. I would love to leave, but moving out isn't absolutely essential.\n\nI will be attending college near august 2018.\n\nMy grandfather has told me he will put up the money for a new car. Is this a good financial decision?\n", "When should you buy your first car? I'm 20 and I still live at home.\n\nIf I have a car then I will be able to get a job since I can travel. That money would go towards college related stuff.\n\nAlso, I can save up money to buy a pull-behind camper, and then move out, living on camp grounds. Not having an apartment would be more frugal. I would love to leave, but moving out isn't absolutely essential.\n\nI will be attending college near august 2018.\n\nMy grandfather has told me he will put up the money for a new car. Is this a good financial decision?\n" ]

[ "It totally depends on your situation. If you live in the middle of a major city and can easily catch public transport then it may not be necessary to have a car, especially if you have the option of being able to borrow a relatives car occasionally if you need to drive somewhere for some reason like a weekend get away. If you live in an area that has poor to no public transport, I would suggest that if you can afford it to get a car. It will make you 100% more employable as you will be able to drive 20 mins rather than bus for an hour for example. That time you save on travel time you could substitute for extra time at work (more money) or extra time doing life things (better work life balance)", "There is a lot more than just buying a car, you have insurance, maintenance, and registration to worry about. I can understand if you live in a place without public transport where a car is vital. Also how much is your grandfather planning to put up? Just a down payment? Enough to buy a very used car? All that needs to be worked out first.\n", "When you can pay cash. You can get a job without a car -- ride a bike, take the bus, etc. At age 20 getting ready for college you don't want to be saddled with debt.\n\nBe wary of relatives giving you money for stuff like this. If you do accept his gift, make sure it is indeed a gift (have him write \"gift\" in the check's memo field -- and it should be a check, not cash), and make sure your parents are OK with it. I've watched enough teevee judge shows to know how money and cars passed around can destroy families.", "Absolutely not. A car is a good decision once you're on your own and can pay your rent monthly. After that, if you have several hundred bucks every few months to spare, then a car is a good idea." ]

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[ "How to be more attentive to detail I'm currently in my junior year at university and I find that my lack of attention to detail is killing me in my work (financial services). This usually pops up when I'm taking tests or working on a project. I double and triple check it but glance over the mistakes. \n\nFor example, in my java assignments, I work on it, then put it away for a couple of hours. A couple hours later when I read it again, I don't notice anything until I get it back and realize I forgot a semi colon here or there. Same thing with accounting classes.", "How to be more attentive to detail I'm currently in my junior year at university and I find that my lack of attention to detail is killing me in my work (financial services). This usually pops up when I'm taking tests or working on a project. I double and triple check it but glance over the mistakes. \n\nFor example, in my java assignments, I work on it, then put it away for a couple of hours. A couple hours later when I read it again, I don't notice anything until I get it back and realize I forgot a semi colon here or there. Same thing with accounting classes.", "How to be more attentive to detail I'm currently in my junior year at university and I find that my lack of attention to detail is killing me in my work (financial services). This usually pops up when I'm taking tests or working on a project. I double and triple check it but glance over the mistakes. \n\nFor example, in my java assignments, I work on it, then put it away for a couple of hours. A couple hours later when I read it again, I don't notice anything until I get it back and realize I forgot a semi colon here or there. Same thing with accounting classes.", "How to be more attentive to detail I'm currently in my junior year at university and I find that my lack of attention to detail is killing me in my work (financial services). This usually pops up when I'm taking tests or working on a project. I double and triple check it but glance over the mistakes. \n\nFor example, in my java assignments, I work on it, then put it away for a couple of hours. A couple hours later when I read it again, I don't notice anything until I get it back and realize I forgot a semi colon here or there. Same thing with accounting classes.", "How to be more attentive to detail I'm currently in my junior year at university and I find that my lack of attention to detail is killing me in my work (financial services). This usually pops up when I'm taking tests or working on a project. I double and triple check it but glance over the mistakes. \n\nFor example, in my java assignments, I work on it, then put it away for a couple of hours. A couple hours later when I read it again, I don't notice anything until I get it back and realize I forgot a semi colon here or there. Same thing with accounting classes." ]

[ "Old English major trick....read it backwards...anything to change perspective so we look at the work with new eyes", "I don't know about java work and so this might be impossible, but I find it easiest to ", "Try to work in different areas, ie do some work at your desk, take a short break and then go sit in the kitchen. It'll allow your second and third check review to be a little sharper. ", "For your programming work, compile it! Java especially. Are you writing it in an IDE? It should highlight what is wrong. Try and run it and if you are missing a semicolon it will fail to execute.", "Circling back. I have the same issue and was curious if you improved and how. I find I have the same issue and in the same area (systems administration)." ]

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[ "I need a way to remove earwax without pouring liquid in my ear Long story short I have earwax buildup in my left ear, but I also have a hole in my eardrum that surgery didn’t fix and pouring any liquid in my ear is extremely painful", "I need a way to remove earwax without pouring liquid in my ear Long story short I have earwax buildup in my left ear, but I also have a hole in my eardrum that surgery didn’t fix and pouring any liquid in my ear is extremely painful", "I need a way to remove earwax without pouring liquid in my ear Long story short I have earwax buildup in my left ear, but I also have a hole in my eardrum that surgery didn’t fix and pouring any liquid in my ear is extremely painful", "I need a way to remove earwax without pouring liquid in my ear Long story short I have earwax buildup in my left ear, but I also have a hole in my eardrum that surgery didn’t fix and pouring any liquid in my ear is extremely painful", "I need a way to remove earwax without pouring liquid in my ear Long story short I have earwax buildup in my left ear, but I also have a hole in my eardrum that surgery didn’t fix and pouring any liquid in my ear is extremely painful" ]

[ "Liquids are a big no no when you have ear drum damage. \n\nI have an otoscope with a little scraper on it that's helped me clear out quite a bit of filth. They're fairly cheap on Amazon", "Otoscope with a spoon, basically a camera with attachments you can use to clean out your ear. Or just Google ear cleaning tools to find something you like", "I don’t if they can do it with a damaged ear drum but micro vacuuming can work well. But don’t go sticking things in your ear as your more likely to compress wax against your eardrum than anything else", "I bought this ear wax cleaner thing that had this twisty thing at the tip that can be removed and cleaned. It didn’t do anything for me but my FIL has a problem with his ear where he gets build up of ear wax and cotton buds doesn’t work for him. I had bought him a set as well. He swears by it. It looks like this but wasn’t this brand. \nhttps://www.friendohealthsupplements.com/products/tvidler-ear-wax-cleaner\n\n", "Careful sticking things in your ear trying to clean them. I scraped the inside of my ear and it got super infected and my ear hole swelled shut for a couple weeks" ]

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[ "How to take care of clothes so they last longer. I've noticed that after a few washes my clothes look, how should I say, worn. They don't feel as soft, always seem a bit wrinkly, stitches come undone, graphic tees get... crackly, and sometimes have these stains that seem to be impossible to get out? I know that a lot of this is probably avoidable and I'm just not taking proper care of my clothes. All I've learned from my mom when it comes to doing laundry is to throw clothes into the wash with detergent and then in the dryer with a dryer sheet. After that, they are either hung up or folded. Now that I'm living on my own, I'd like to improve my game regarding taking care of my clothes and making them last longer. \n\n\nAny tips would be appreciated-- doesn't have to be laundry related!", "How to take care of clothes so they last longer. I've noticed that after a few washes my clothes look, how should I say, worn. They don't feel as soft, always seem a bit wrinkly, stitches come undone, graphic tees get... crackly, and sometimes have these stains that seem to be impossible to get out? I know that a lot of this is probably avoidable and I'm just not taking proper care of my clothes. All I've learned from my mom when it comes to doing laundry is to throw clothes into the wash with detergent and then in the dryer with a dryer sheet. After that, they are either hung up or folded. Now that I'm living on my own, I'd like to improve my game regarding taking care of my clothes and making them last longer. \n\n\nAny tips would be appreciated-- doesn't have to be laundry related!", "How to take care of clothes so they last longer. I've noticed that after a few washes my clothes look, how should I say, worn. They don't feel as soft, always seem a bit wrinkly, stitches come undone, graphic tees get... crackly, and sometimes have these stains that seem to be impossible to get out? I know that a lot of this is probably avoidable and I'm just not taking proper care of my clothes. All I've learned from my mom when it comes to doing laundry is to throw clothes into the wash with detergent and then in the dryer with a dryer sheet. After that, they are either hung up or folded. Now that I'm living on my own, I'd like to improve my game regarding taking care of my clothes and making them last longer. \n\n\nAny tips would be appreciated-- doesn't have to be laundry related!", "How to take care of clothes so they last longer. I've noticed that after a few washes my clothes look, how should I say, worn. They don't feel as soft, always seem a bit wrinkly, stitches come undone, graphic tees get... crackly, and sometimes have these stains that seem to be impossible to get out? I know that a lot of this is probably avoidable and I'm just not taking proper care of my clothes. All I've learned from my mom when it comes to doing laundry is to throw clothes into the wash with detergent and then in the dryer with a dryer sheet. After that, they are either hung up or folded. Now that I'm living on my own, I'd like to improve my game regarding taking care of my clothes and making them last longer. \n\n\nAny tips would be appreciated-- doesn't have to be laundry related!", "How to take care of clothes so they last longer. I've noticed that after a few washes my clothes look, how should I say, worn. They don't feel as soft, always seem a bit wrinkly, stitches come undone, graphic tees get... crackly, and sometimes have these stains that seem to be impossible to get out? I know that a lot of this is probably avoidable and I'm just not taking proper care of my clothes. All I've learned from my mom when it comes to doing laundry is to throw clothes into the wash with detergent and then in the dryer with a dryer sheet. After that, they are either hung up or folded. Now that I'm living on my own, I'd like to improve my game regarding taking care of my clothes and making them last longer. \n\n\nAny tips would be appreciated-- doesn't have to be laundry related!", "How to take care of clothes so they last longer. I've noticed that after a few washes my clothes look, how should I say, worn. They don't feel as soft, always seem a bit wrinkly, stitches come undone, graphic tees get... crackly, and sometimes have these stains that seem to be impossible to get out? I know that a lot of this is probably avoidable and I'm just not taking proper care of my clothes. All I've learned from my mom when it comes to doing laundry is to throw clothes into the wash with detergent and then in the dryer with a dryer sheet. After that, they are either hung up or folded. Now that I'm living on my own, I'd like to improve my game regarding taking care of my clothes and making them last longer. \n\n\nAny tips would be appreciated-- doesn't have to be laundry related!", "How to take care of clothes so they last longer. I've noticed that after a few washes my clothes look, how should I say, worn. They don't feel as soft, always seem a bit wrinkly, stitches come undone, graphic tees get... crackly, and sometimes have these stains that seem to be impossible to get out? I know that a lot of this is probably avoidable and I'm just not taking proper care of my clothes. All I've learned from my mom when it comes to doing laundry is to throw clothes into the wash with detergent and then in the dryer with a dryer sheet. After that, they are either hung up or folded. Now that I'm living on my own, I'd like to improve my game regarding taking care of my clothes and making them last longer. \n\n\nAny tips would be appreciated-- doesn't have to be laundry related!", "How to take care of clothes so they last longer. I've noticed that after a few washes my clothes look, how should I say, worn. They don't feel as soft, always seem a bit wrinkly, stitches come undone, graphic tees get... crackly, and sometimes have these stains that seem to be impossible to get out? I know that a lot of this is probably avoidable and I'm just not taking proper care of my clothes. All I've learned from my mom when it comes to doing laundry is to throw clothes into the wash with detergent and then in the dryer with a dryer sheet. After that, they are either hung up or folded. Now that I'm living on my own, I'd like to improve my game regarding taking care of my clothes and making them last longer. \n\n\nAny tips would be appreciated-- doesn't have to be laundry related!", "How to take care of clothes so they last longer. I've noticed that after a few washes my clothes look, how should I say, worn. They don't feel as soft, always seem a bit wrinkly, stitches come undone, graphic tees get... crackly, and sometimes have these stains that seem to be impossible to get out? I know that a lot of this is probably avoidable and I'm just not taking proper care of my clothes. All I've learned from my mom when it comes to doing laundry is to throw clothes into the wash with detergent and then in the dryer with a dryer sheet. After that, they are either hung up or folded. Now that I'm living on my own, I'd like to improve my game regarding taking care of my clothes and making them last longer. \n\n\nAny tips would be appreciated-- doesn't have to be laundry related!", "How to take care of clothes so they last longer. I've noticed that after a few washes my clothes look, how should I say, worn. They don't feel as soft, always seem a bit wrinkly, stitches come undone, graphic tees get... crackly, and sometimes have these stains that seem to be impossible to get out? I know that a lot of this is probably avoidable and I'm just not taking proper care of my clothes. All I've learned from my mom when it comes to doing laundry is to throw clothes into the wash with detergent and then in the dryer with a dryer sheet. After that, they are either hung up or folded. Now that I'm living on my own, I'd like to improve my game regarding taking care of my clothes and making them last longer. \n\n\nAny tips would be appreciated-- doesn't have to be laundry related!", "How to take care of clothes so they last longer. I've noticed that after a few washes my clothes look, how should I say, worn. They don't feel as soft, always seem a bit wrinkly, stitches come undone, graphic tees get... crackly, and sometimes have these stains that seem to be impossible to get out? I know that a lot of this is probably avoidable and I'm just not taking proper care of my clothes. All I've learned from my mom when it comes to doing laundry is to throw clothes into the wash with detergent and then in the dryer with a dryer sheet. After that, they are either hung up or folded. Now that I'm living on my own, I'd like to improve my game regarding taking care of my clothes and making them last longer. \n\n\nAny tips would be appreciated-- doesn't have to be laundry related!" ]

[ "Don't overwash things. If my sweaters and pants aren't visibly dirty or smelly, they don't get washed right away. Wash underclothes after each wear, however, and choose a gentle cycle if you can. And aside from that I just try to be gentle with my nice clothes and make sure I'm not getting into anything messy when I'm wearing them.", "Turn graphic tees inside out and dry them on low. Zip all zippers, metal zippers in particular can damage fabric. \n\nBuy better tee shirts... Womens tees in particular are mostly made with thin flimsy fabric, which I hate, it doesn't last two years. \n\nStains must be dealt with promptly, once you put that through a dryer the stain is pretty much set for life.", "Wash pieces that contain graphics inside out. \n\nWash in cold water, without fabric softener.\n\nSeparating natural fabrics and synthetic fabrics can help avoid fabric pilling.\n\n\nRewear clothes when possible to avoid over-washing.\n\nFolding or hanging clothes immediately after they’ve been in the dryer will help avoid wrinkling. Air dry completely when possible.", "If you can hang your clothes instead of throwing them in the dryer, that can help, particularly with more sensitive or delicate items. I notice that my clothes tend to retain their shape better if they are air-dried.", "You don't need dryer sheets or fabric softener. Avoid washing on hot- it ruins most clothes. The exception to this is if a stain requires hot water to remove it (few do, and some are set by hot water). Warm or cold water are good. If you have soft water, use less detergent. Treat stains ASAP, but read the stain remover's instructions. Some can't sit more than 5 minutes. If you get a stain that you're not sure how to deal with, the internet often has the remedy for it. Drying a stain will generally set it, so if you're not sure the stain is out, hang it to dry. If hanging to dry outside, turn clothes inside out. The sun will fade clothes, especially dark colors. On the flip side, the sun is great at removing stains that nothing else will get out. Never wash new clothes with different colors in case the dye bleeds. Well-loved clothes can usually be washed all together with no issues.\n\nGood luck!", "Do an online search for a simple homemade laundry detergent. I've been mixing me own for years. One bucket costs me $55 to make and does about 300 loads. It's a huge money saver and my clothes look better. \nMy boyfriend's polo shirt work uniforms are washed after each wearing and after 3 years he compared them to the shirts another guy hired at the same wars. The other guys shirts were more worn and much more faded, while his still looked new.", "Wash in warm not hot, gentile cycle, rinse in cold. If you hang to dry, instead of machine dry, your clothes are not soft when you put them on, but they loosen up with in an hour of putting them on, and will last 3 times longer", "Dryer sheets will wear out your clothes faster. They contain fabric softener which was originally invented before fabric blends (e.g. cotton-poly vs. 100% cotton) were widely used. \n\nIf you can, air-dry your clothes because the heat from the dryer can also degrade fabric, and this is especially true with anything stretchy or those graphic tees.\n\nCold or warm-water wash is best, with a gentle detergent. Hand wash any delicates, including your fave graphic tees in order to preserve them. \n\nAlso, know you don't have to wear your nice things all day. I avoid wear and tear on my nicer clothes by changing into a t-shirt/leggings when I get home. Changing out of your nicer stuff means your clothes are less likely to get dirty or stinky, and you can wash them every few wears.", "The first time you wash something you’re afraid will fade or run over time, wash it alone with about a half a cup of vinegar. Something something science it helps make the dye more permanent and reduces fading", "Quality of clothes makes a big difference. I have had shirts from department brand stores that still looked new after years, and then I had shirts from small stores in the mall that looked years old only after a few washes. So, check the brands you are buying and how they hold up.", "Another point that I haven't seen, excess detergent can cause problems. Not usually to that degree on its own but it makes a difference. Most of the time you should not be filling the cap all the way, most HE caps I have seen are marked around the halfway point, read the directions maybe run an extra rinse cycle.\n\nIf you're using a dryer and dryer sheets, grab one of those dryer balls instead. It's a bit cheaper long run and it helps with potential static, but it is absolutely not necessary.\n\nIt can be worth isolating garments in mesh bags if they are particularly delicate or have dangly bits. I do this with clothing that uses ties, and I have heard of people doing it with bras, and langerie (I am sure I misspelled that but spell check isn't yelling at me so...) However those garments are outside my experience \n\nIf you just need to prevent odor (jeans, sweaters) you can also toss them in the freezer for a day or spritiz some neutral alcohol(vodka, everclear, isopropyl, maybe gin) The second is pretty common in theater apperently" ]

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[ "Help getting rid of body outdoor smell from iPad case Just purchased a 2nd hand IPad Pro, came with a geneuine apple Smart Folio case\n\nBut the case STINKS of body odour from the previous owner. \n\nI’ve tried cleaning methods I’ve found online\n\nScrubbing with dish soap and water multiple times etc, it’s made it maybe 10% better but the things unusable with its current odour\n\nCan anybody suggest any methods to clean this so it dosent smell anymore?\n\nI don’t really want to just toss out a $109AUD iPad case.\n\nUpdate: after advice I soaked it in about 50/50 water and vinegar over night with Baking soda sprinkled over the top\n\nThis got about 95% of the smell out, then followed up by leaving it in the freezer for a few hours\n\n99% gone. \n\nThanks for your help everyone", "Help getting rid of body outdoor smell from iPad case Just purchased a 2nd hand IPad Pro, came with a geneuine apple Smart Folio case\n\nBut the case STINKS of body odour from the previous owner. \n\nI’ve tried cleaning methods I’ve found online\n\nScrubbing with dish soap and water multiple times etc, it’s made it maybe 10% better but the things unusable with its current odour\n\nCan anybody suggest any methods to clean this so it dosent smell anymore?\n\nI don’t really want to just toss out a $109AUD iPad case.\n\nUpdate: after advice I soaked it in about 50/50 water and vinegar over night with Baking soda sprinkled over the top\n\nThis got about 95% of the smell out, then followed up by leaving it in the freezer for a few hours\n\n99% gone. \n\nThanks for your help everyone", "Help getting rid of body outdoor smell from iPad case Just purchased a 2nd hand IPad Pro, came with a geneuine apple Smart Folio case\n\nBut the case STINKS of body odour from the previous owner. \n\nI’ve tried cleaning methods I’ve found online\n\nScrubbing with dish soap and water multiple times etc, it’s made it maybe 10% better but the things unusable with its current odour\n\nCan anybody suggest any methods to clean this so it dosent smell anymore?\n\nI don’t really want to just toss out a $109AUD iPad case.\n\nUpdate: after advice I soaked it in about 50/50 water and vinegar over night with Baking soda sprinkled over the top\n\nThis got about 95% of the smell out, then followed up by leaving it in the freezer for a few hours\n\n99% gone. \n\nThanks for your help everyone", "Help getting rid of body outdoor smell from iPad case Just purchased a 2nd hand IPad Pro, came with a geneuine apple Smart Folio case\n\nBut the case STINKS of body odour from the previous owner. \n\nI’ve tried cleaning methods I’ve found online\n\nScrubbing with dish soap and water multiple times etc, it’s made it maybe 10% better but the things unusable with its current odour\n\nCan anybody suggest any methods to clean this so it dosent smell anymore?\n\nI don’t really want to just toss out a $109AUD iPad case.\n\nUpdate: after advice I soaked it in about 50/50 water and vinegar over night with Baking soda sprinkled over the top\n\nThis got about 95% of the smell out, then followed up by leaving it in the freezer for a few hours\n\n99% gone. \n\nThanks for your help everyone" ]

[ "You can try putting it inside a bag like a large ziplock(to keep the smells from getting out), and then putting it in the freezer overnight. This is a method for de-oderizing sneakers, and works very well.", "Thanks everyone for their responses.\n\nI currently have it soaking in a solution of vinegar, water and baking soda\n\nI shall systematically try all these suggestions until I either destroy it or can use it again\n\nThank you", "first - ew - lol\n\nhelpful comment - have you tried just dousing the non plastic portion in baking soda and letting it sit overnight? Seems the only thing that gets rid of odor in pillows, couches, plush items in my experience", "Have you tried Febreeze? Getting rid of BO smell is exactly what it's designed for. Give it a try if not." ]

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[ "How to patch things up with people? I pissed someone off (a female work-mate, I am a guy, we used to be very good friends, nothing romantic) and we stopped talking for quite some time. \n\nHow I pissed her off was not addressed, although I apologized to her over text quite some time ago. She didn't text back. We are not communicating in any way now... \n\nEnglish is my second language and I am tired. Sorry if this reads funny to you. please let me know how you patched things up with people even if you have no advice for this particular situation.\n", "How to patch things up with people? I pissed someone off (a female work-mate, I am a guy, we used to be very good friends, nothing romantic) and we stopped talking for quite some time. \n\nHow I pissed her off was not addressed, although I apologized to her over text quite some time ago. She didn't text back. We are not communicating in any way now... \n\nEnglish is my second language and I am tired. Sorry if this reads funny to you. please let me know how you patched things up with people even if you have no advice for this particular situation.\n", "How to patch things up with people? I pissed someone off (a female work-mate, I am a guy, we used to be very good friends, nothing romantic) and we stopped talking for quite some time. \n\nHow I pissed her off was not addressed, although I apologized to her over text quite some time ago. She didn't text back. We are not communicating in any way now... \n\nEnglish is my second language and I am tired. Sorry if this reads funny to you. please let me know how you patched things up with people even if you have no advice for this particular situation.\n" ]

[ "LPT: An apology text is never sincere. Apologize in person, that tends to make things a whole lot better or atleast get the conversation started. I would also recommend not doing this at work.", "It absolutely and entirely depends on what you did that pissed them off and how badly you pissed them off. \n\nFor a lot of people, there's a certain unforgivable line that, if you pass over it, you can never come back. Bit like jumping off a cliff. \n\nFor others, situations are retrievable over time, but you have to approach them in a way that respects the offended person's terms, not try and set your own terms. \n\nSo the first thing to do is to see if there's enough left to even find out whether there's any terms at all.\n\nI'd start by sending this person another text (not a company email), something like \"Hi. I'm hoping I'm not bothering you, but I feel really bad about us not talking at all. Any chance you'd want to join me for a coffee, or even just a chat?\"\n\nAnd if they never reply, you're done. Or if they say No, you're done. Reply with something like \"Okay. If you ever change your mind I'd really like it if you texted me back.\", just in case they do. And never text them again. \n\nBut if they say Yes, approach that chat gently, and follow their lead. About the only thing you should say at the right time is \"sorry\", and then see what they say. They might not want to talk about the thing AT ALL. Or they might demand to know what the hell was going through your dumbass head at the time. They might even be really mad at you because they were actually interested in you romantically and you hurt them badly without even realizing it. Who knows? If you don't, find out. \n\nWatch what they do and how they handle it, and learn from that how you should respond.\n\n(And it's usually best to stay honest. You never have to remember what particular version of a story you said when you tell the truth.)", "Personally, I go straight to the source. Is it uncomfortable, yes, does it seems pushy, yes. But I've gotten the most personal closure out of it. One was an ex teacher who I became friends with after high school. Talking almost daily, if not weekly for years. Then, nothing. I heard through mutual people they believed I wronged them somehow. So, after years of avoiding them, and feeling bad about their perception of it all, I caught them at a store and approached. I kept my distance, and they were in a car the whole time. But we cleared the air. We still don't talk, but I feel 100% better about because hey, I tried to settle this, and we both got the other sides of the story. " ]

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[ "How to ensure that plastic/cling wrap is clingy Most days, Saran Wrap or whatever other brand you use works great. But some days, it won't even stick to itself, even if it's from the same roll that worked great yesterday. \n\nI'm sure it has something to do with static charge... weather-related or something. \n\nAnybody got any ProTips on how to ensure that my plastic wrap is sufficiently charged for it to do its job as expected?", "How to ensure that plastic/cling wrap is clingy Most days, Saran Wrap or whatever other brand you use works great. But some days, it won't even stick to itself, even if it's from the same roll that worked great yesterday. \n\nI'm sure it has something to do with static charge... weather-related or something. \n\nAnybody got any ProTips on how to ensure that my plastic wrap is sufficiently charged for it to do its job as expected?", "How to ensure that plastic/cling wrap is clingy Most days, Saran Wrap or whatever other brand you use works great. But some days, it won't even stick to itself, even if it's from the same roll that worked great yesterday. \n\nI'm sure it has something to do with static charge... weather-related or something. \n\nAnybody got any ProTips on how to ensure that my plastic wrap is sufficiently charged for it to do its job as expected?", "How to ensure that plastic/cling wrap is clingy Most days, Saran Wrap or whatever other brand you use works great. But some days, it won't even stick to itself, even if it's from the same roll that worked great yesterday. \n\nI'm sure it has something to do with static charge... weather-related or something. \n\nAnybody got any ProTips on how to ensure that my plastic wrap is sufficiently charged for it to do its job as expected?", "How to ensure that plastic/cling wrap is clingy Most days, Saran Wrap or whatever other brand you use works great. But some days, it won't even stick to itself, even if it's from the same roll that worked great yesterday. \n\nI'm sure it has something to do with static charge... weather-related or something. \n\nAnybody got any ProTips on how to ensure that my plastic wrap is sufficiently charged for it to do its job as expected?", "How to ensure that plastic/cling wrap is clingy Most days, Saran Wrap or whatever other brand you use works great. But some days, it won't even stick to itself, even if it's from the same roll that worked great yesterday. \n\nI'm sure it has something to do with static charge... weather-related or something. \n\nAnybody got any ProTips on how to ensure that my plastic wrap is sufficiently charged for it to do its job as expected?" ]

[ "I have this exact problem. My gf used to buys the cheapest plastic wrap possible and it wouldn't stick to anything. I tried hundreds of things before I figured out the answer. I got a different gf. Problem solved.", "Wrapped your item completely in plastic film, with overlapping seams. Then sweep the film with the hot blast from a hair dryer. The heat will join the seams and the wrap will shrink tightly around the item.", "Stretch the plastic over your container, right next to the roll. Hold the farthest side down, stretch a lil more as you cut the opposite side. Turn container 90 degrees. Stretch -lightly- either side with a slight twist. Run edge of hand over edge of container.", "I got frustrated with cling film so I went to Amazon and bought a hundred-pack of [processing caps](http://www.amazon.com/Diane-D722-Processing-Caps-100-pack/dp/B002HWS7RM) that pop onto bowls, casseroles and other items and the elastic edge keeps the plastic on. It's not an airtight seal but it does OK.\n\nI'm not sure of the food-safety of the plastic so if the food is going to touch the plastic (like on a plate) I'll put a layer of non-cooperative cling film on first and then put a processing cap over - that generally means that the cap stays clean enough I can reuse it, too.", "Before you apply the plastic wrap, put on wool socks and shuffle around on a carpet. Then, while applying the plastic wrap with your right hand, rub the top of your head with a balloon.", "I thought it had to do with what you were putting it on. Using a glass/pyrex container it works great. Using tupperware it doesn't work for shit." ]

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[ "How to fall asleep early? Well, tomorrow Is my first day of college, and i need to get up at 5AM, the problem is, on vacation I developed a bad biological clock wich keeps me up until like 2AM, and waking up til like 11AM... The worst part is, that today i accidentaly fell asleep in the couch at like 2:30 pm... and slept like 4 hours... Help? I need to sleep early today\n", "How to fall asleep early? Well, tomorrow Is my first day of college, and i need to get up at 5AM, the problem is, on vacation I developed a bad biological clock wich keeps me up until like 2AM, and waking up til like 11AM... The worst part is, that today i accidentaly fell asleep in the couch at like 2:30 pm... and slept like 4 hours... Help? I need to sleep early today\n", "How to fall asleep early? Well, tomorrow Is my first day of college, and i need to get up at 5AM, the problem is, on vacation I developed a bad biological clock wich keeps me up until like 2AM, and waking up til like 11AM... The worst part is, that today i accidentaly fell asleep in the couch at like 2:30 pm... and slept like 4 hours... Help? I need to sleep early today\n", "How to fall asleep early? Well, tomorrow Is my first day of college, and i need to get up at 5AM, the problem is, on vacation I developed a bad biological clock wich keeps me up until like 2AM, and waking up til like 11AM... The worst part is, that today i accidentaly fell asleep in the couch at like 2:30 pm... and slept like 4 hours... Help? I need to sleep early today\n", "How to fall asleep early? Well, tomorrow Is my first day of college, and i need to get up at 5AM, the problem is, on vacation I developed a bad biological clock wich keeps me up until like 2AM, and waking up til like 11AM... The worst part is, that today i accidentaly fell asleep in the couch at like 2:30 pm... and slept like 4 hours... Help? I need to sleep early today\n", "How to fall asleep early? Well, tomorrow Is my first day of college, and i need to get up at 5AM, the problem is, on vacation I developed a bad biological clock wich keeps me up until like 2AM, and waking up til like 11AM... The worst part is, that today i accidentaly fell asleep in the couch at like 2:30 pm... and slept like 4 hours... Help? I need to sleep early today\n", "How to fall asleep early? Well, tomorrow Is my first day of college, and i need to get up at 5AM, the problem is, on vacation I developed a bad biological clock wich keeps me up until like 2AM, and waking up til like 11AM... The worst part is, that today i accidentaly fell asleep in the couch at like 2:30 pm... and slept like 4 hours... Help? I need to sleep early today\n", "How to fall asleep early? Well, tomorrow Is my first day of college, and i need to get up at 5AM, the problem is, on vacation I developed a bad biological clock wich keeps me up until like 2AM, and waking up til like 11AM... The worst part is, that today i accidentaly fell asleep in the couch at like 2:30 pm... and slept like 4 hours... Help? I need to sleep early today\n", "How to fall asleep early? Well, tomorrow Is my first day of college, and i need to get up at 5AM, the problem is, on vacation I developed a bad biological clock wich keeps me up until like 2AM, and waking up til like 11AM... The worst part is, that today i accidentaly fell asleep in the couch at like 2:30 pm... and slept like 4 hours... Help? I need to sleep early today\n", "How to fall asleep early? Well, tomorrow Is my first day of college, and i need to get up at 5AM, the problem is, on vacation I developed a bad biological clock wich keeps me up until like 2AM, and waking up til like 11AM... The worst part is, that today i accidentaly fell asleep in the couch at like 2:30 pm... and slept like 4 hours... Help? I need to sleep early today\n", "How to fall asleep early? Well, tomorrow Is my first day of college, and i need to get up at 5AM, the problem is, on vacation I developed a bad biological clock wich keeps me up until like 2AM, and waking up til like 11AM... The worst part is, that today i accidentaly fell asleep in the couch at like 2:30 pm... and slept like 4 hours... Help? I need to sleep early today\n", "How to fall asleep early? Well, tomorrow Is my first day of college, and i need to get up at 5AM, the problem is, on vacation I developed a bad biological clock wich keeps me up until like 2AM, and waking up til like 11AM... The worst part is, that today i accidentaly fell asleep in the couch at like 2:30 pm... and slept like 4 hours... Help? I need to sleep early today\n", "How to fall asleep early? Well, tomorrow Is my first day of college, and i need to get up at 5AM, the problem is, on vacation I developed a bad biological clock wich keeps me up until like 2AM, and waking up til like 11AM... The worst part is, that today i accidentaly fell asleep in the couch at like 2:30 pm... and slept like 4 hours... Help? I need to sleep early today\n" ]

[ "I hate giving \"advice\" like this, but my best experience has been with melatonin tablets. You can get them at pretty much any drugstore on earth, they're relatively cheap, and completely natural. Basically melatonin is the stuff your brain produces naturally to make you fall asleep. ", "I know this probably won't help you, but I'd still like to give my two cents.\n\nI'm a lot like you - my schedule requires me to wake up early once in awhile, but I'm used to waking up around 1 or 2pm. Yes, some days I'll bust out melatonin pills if I have to be awake and alert for a job interview or long distance drive the next day, but I think the best remedy for a sleepless night is...nothing!\n\nThink about it like this - What harm does one less night of sleep do for you? Yeah, I guess you'll be pretty tired throughout the day, but that's about it. There's people that stay up for days and days with little to no sleep, and they do just fine. The military, for example, will actually train soldiers to stay awake for days at a time (Navy SEALs don't sleep at all during hell-week). \n\nSo my philosophy? Fuck it. A few cups of coffee to get me through the day, and by the time 8pm rolls around, I'm tucked under the covers having the best sleep of my life. The best part is, once you make it through the day, you can pretty much set yourself on whatever sleep schedule you want!\n\ntl;dr: One night of sleep won't kill you. ", "Just go to sleep as early as you can. I wouldn't sweat it. You will be tired the first couple days of school, but once you start doing stuff during the day, you will be tired much sooner and you will go back to a normal sleep schedule.", "A few months ago I read that sex is better than coffe in the morning and better than any sleeping-pill in the evening/ night.\n\nI can actually confirm this. When me and my girlfriend have had our fun in the morning, we are awake, no doubt.\n\nAnd when we've had our fun in the evening, we can easily fall asleep if we want to. Helped me a lot when I was used to go to bed at 4 am in the morning, even if it wasn't intended, since I wasn't aware of the fact by that time. But now, thinking back, I can actually confirm that it's true.", "I think the general rule is to not eat 12 hours before your intended time you want to wake. So if you want to wake up at 5am don't eat after 5pm.\n\nThat or take melatonin.", "Go to sleep, set several alarms before going to be. Before going to sleep, tell yourself you will wake up at 5am, over and over again.\n\nWhen you do wake up, get out of bed, don't just say \"in a minute\".", "A Benadryl (diphenhydramine) tablet, they work wonders for red-eye flights. But my opinion is that adrenaline and excitement for your first day of school will be pretty effective, regardless of the time. Congratulations! College was amazing. ", "instead of going to bed for a long night's sleep, just have a nap tonight. in future, if you need to get up early one morning, force yourself out of bed at that time the previous morning, and dont try to stay up late.", "[LPT: Hold your breath a few times to get to bed](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/wmmrj/lpt_hold_your_breath_a_few_times_to_get_to_bed/)", "If you don't like melatonin, hot milk is surprisingly effective. Also, 2 beers about an hour and half before bed works well too. ", "I developed a pattern that is much like yours, one week of college and getting up at the crack of dawn and you'll have no trouble fitting in your new rhythm. Sure, you'll be tired a couple of days, but it avoids the use of meds and simply resets your pattern.", "Good sleep hygiene tips: regular schedule, no day naps, limit caffeine, don't eat large meals/drink alcohol before bed, exercise (but not right before bed), develop a pre-sleep routine, use bedroom for sleeping and intimacy only. And melatonin works too (start with a half and don't get dependent on it)\n ", "Audio Dramas. Doesnt matter which time of the day is, after listening to one for about 10-30 minutes with eyes closed I just fall asleep.\n\nLPT2: If you are listening them on your iPhone set a Timer of 20 Minutes with the Option \"Stop playback on timer end\"" ]

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[ "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!", "How to avoid saying \"like\" all the time. Just saw one for avoiding \"um\", but I find myself saying \" like \" way too many times. Thanks!" ]

[ "My family got involved when saying \"like\" or \"um\" by pointing it out. Every time someone said \"um\" we were interrupted and forced to begin our thought again. When we went through the \"like\" phase they would count how many times we said like and whoever was speaking would have to repeat the whole sentence because their thought didn't make it's intended point. Get someone to make you start your sentence over again when you start using \"like\" or \"um\" as a filler word. It helps more (to me) to remember to think through what you are trying to say rather than having to remember to think it through before you say it. Not everyone will sit and think through a sentence in the middle of conversations. ", "Slow down. Most of the time you are trying to talk as fast as you are thinking so you use fillers(like, umm) to make up the time between what you decide you want to say and actually verbalizing it.", "Just watch nothing but William Shatner for like a week and then you will start talking like him instead maybe...", "When I was a young teenager and I said \"like\" too much, my parents would say it back to me. It sounded so weird it made me more conscientious of when said it, and I eventually stopped.\n\nJust ask your friends and family to say it back to you whenever you say it. Even better if they do it mockingly.", "Think before you speak and slow your speech patterns. If you slow your speech rate down by even a little bit, you will sound more confident, deliberate and use less fillers. \n\n*", "Practice having fake conversations where you can speak slowly and think about what you're going to say ahead of time (yes, I mean talking to yourself). Have fake conversations with friends, fictional characters, or whoever and it helps you learn how to get rid of bad speaking habits or develop new (hopefully good) ones.", "It's the same. Slow down enough to catch it and pause. It will feel unnatural at first and you may feel like you are talking too s l o w l y but you aren't. ", "It's key to notice when you're saying it. Carry a post-it note or small notepad with you (you might want to just do this with your family or circle of friends to start). Whenever you hear yourself saying it in conversation, mark a tally line. The first day, you might end up with 100. The next day maybe it will be 90. You will see it go down because by raising your awareness, you're training your mind that it's happening. Right now it comes out unconsciously. Raising that awareness will reduce saying it.\n\nThis works on a lot of things. This is how I quit cracking my knuckles, which definitely becomes an unconscious action.", "I'm so glad you posted this - it's really difficult to stop and I've been struggling with it for around 5 years of my professional life. ", "I find that lots of people use \"was like\" instead of \"said\"\n\nFor example:\n\nSo, I was like, \"Dude, no way!\"\n\nThen he was like, \"I know, right? that's crazy!\"\n\nthen we were both like, \"I can't believe that just happened\"\n\n\n", "A simple thing you can do to fix that bad habit is to simply talk with your hands. Uhm and like usually have no purpose being in the sentence so they are just sound holders and moving your hands while you talk eliminates that.\n\nSource: I work in a call center with a 10 week training class.", "you live with anyone? ask them to call you on it when you do. It's a tricky thing, as they've got to balance between being helpful and abrasive and you've GOT to not get frustrated with them... but having someone point out when you do a thing helps you be a lot more aware of it.\n\nand awareness is the first step. listen to what you say and realize how often you say 'like'... then starts to remove it. ", "this may not be the case for most people in this thread, but for me, I was completely unaware that I did this before a friend of mine asked why I did it. Being the self conscious person that I am, I didn't want to be talked about because of that. So for a while I just would think about what I was saying and eventually thinking about not saying it wasn't a necessity anymore.\n\nLike...it was really easy after that, ya know?", "While you're at it, stop saying \"no problem\" when the correct response is \"you're welcome.\" Makes you sound just as juvenile.", "Wear a rubber band on your wrist. Every time you say it, smack yourself. WOn't take long before you condition yourself.", "Try recording yourself on your phone. Listen back and count the fillers, paying attention to where they happen and what causes them. Then practice: pick a topic, set a timer, and try to talk for as long as possible without using a filler. ", "Read books and articles and learn a different speech pattern. Why do people who get PHDs and what not sound smart, because usually the spend hours reading what other smart people wrote. Get away from the junky pop articles and Facebook posts and read some literature.\n\nAlso, as many times as you think you can stand to do it, everytime you catch yourself sayin \"like\" too much, write down how you could have said what you said and then say it out loud.", "My husband says \"you know?\" ALL the time, practically every sentence at least a couple of times. Bugs the hell out of me.", "My friends and I played the \"like\" game in high school. Every time you said like in the wrong context, everyone around you would punch you in the shoulder. I sometimes would even notice that I said it, so they made me more aware. Trick is to get the people you hang around with most to play along. \n\nIn college, it turned into do 10 push ups every time someone catches you saying it. Still painful but you improve yourself in two different ways instead of one. ", "Make an effort to surround yourself with articulate speakers and you will like, start talking like them.", "Learn tons of adjectives. \n\n\"I was like, huh?\"= I was curious.\n\n\"I was like, ewwwww!\"= I disliked the flavor/ it was highly unlikely I was gonna taste that again.\n\netc, etc. read a lot, steal phrases from books, movies, comedy... augment your vocabulary. ", "Join Toastmasters. They have \"Ah Counters\" for every speech you do. They count: ahs, ums, likes, sos, etc. \n\nSlow down your pace. Let your brain get ahead of your words. \n\nAppreciate that people (generally) respect slower, deliberate speeches/conversations than faster, frantic, \"like\" riddled speech. You sound smarter and more confident. \n\nPeople appreciate the silence more than filler words (generally). Except in NYC. \n\nKnowing all that, try to consciously replace \"like\" with a more appropriate word, silence, more consistent speech. You'll get it eventually and soon it will sound natural. ", "I've always liked \"As if...\"\nIt perfectly replaces \"like\" and as an added bonus, if it doesn't make sense to use it in your sentence, you don't. Soon you'll have no likes at all!", "I realize I'm way late on this, but my friends and I play this game. Whenever somebody says \"like\" as a filler, they have to freeze for 5 seconds. Obviously exceptions can be made when that would be dangerous but it definitely helped me. Helps you think about what you're going to say.", "I do training across the country for a large company, lots of public speaking, often in front of top 100 employees of the company. I used to have problems with \"ums\", \"likes\", \"kind of\" etc. and knew that had to change.\n\nWhat I did was practice my speaking in the car while I was stuck in traffic (regretably a daily occurence). I could have a faux-conversation with the people on NPR and pay attention to avoiding fillers. As you become conscious of them, you'll better learn to bite your tongue and if needed, pause to collect yourself/your thoughts.", "Did this when I started law school. Step 1 is to hear yourself say it. Most of these verbal crutches, likes and umms, we do almost unconsciously, so just noticing that you do it is a bigger step than you think. Then, just like they say about the umms, you have to not be afraid of silence. Slow down your speaking in general, and you will start catching your likes before you say them.", "\"Like\" and \"uhh/umm\":\nI've found the best way is to be conscious of when you Do say these words. So you progressively correct yourself by \"catching\" yourself saying these words.\n\nThis technique also works well for stopping subconscious actions and bad habits.", "Just fucking don't. It's a habit, not a disease. This is one of the biggest problems I see in simple communication these days. ", "Thesaurus\n\nI enjoy X.\n\nX resembles Y.\n\nX is similar to Y.\n\nX is related to Y.\n\n\nTaking a moment to form your wording is critical. Pausing in your speech and purposefully slowing down will make it easier.\n" ]

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[ "A way to assign the L and J keys to skip forward/backward on any video content that allows it. Preferable on a Windows PC? ", "A way to assign the L and J keys to skip forward/backward on any video content that allows it. Preferable on a Windows PC? " ]

[ "If you mean skip by 5 seconds-ish, the arrow keys already do that (left back, right foward) and you can hold to skip faster", "It’d be different for every program. If you’re referring to downloaded videos, I’d suggest you set up every video file to open with VLC and then remap the hotkeys in VLC. " ]

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[ "How to talk to adults comfortably. First off I'm a teenager and I'm deathly afraid of talking to adults. I thing it is a combination of not sure what to talk about, but I also feel like they are always judging me. Whenever I talk one on one I don't know where to look. Whenever I look in their eyes I feel weird but when I look away it seems like I don't care about what they are saying. I also don't know how to sit/stand. I know people say to copy their posture but to me it seems like I'm mocking them. Maybe all of this is in my head but I'm never sure. Any help i can get would be great.", "How to talk to adults comfortably. First off I'm a teenager and I'm deathly afraid of talking to adults. I thing it is a combination of not sure what to talk about, but I also feel like they are always judging me. Whenever I talk one on one I don't know where to look. Whenever I look in their eyes I feel weird but when I look away it seems like I don't care about what they are saying. I also don't know how to sit/stand. I know people say to copy their posture but to me it seems like I'm mocking them. Maybe all of this is in my head but I'm never sure. Any help i can get would be great.", "How to talk to adults comfortably. First off I'm a teenager and I'm deathly afraid of talking to adults. I thing it is a combination of not sure what to talk about, but I also feel like they are always judging me. Whenever I talk one on one I don't know where to look. Whenever I look in their eyes I feel weird but when I look away it seems like I don't care about what they are saying. I also don't know how to sit/stand. I know people say to copy their posture but to me it seems like I'm mocking them. Maybe all of this is in my head but I'm never sure. Any help i can get would be great.", "How to talk to adults comfortably. First off I'm a teenager and I'm deathly afraid of talking to adults. I thing it is a combination of not sure what to talk about, but I also feel like they are always judging me. Whenever I talk one on one I don't know where to look. Whenever I look in their eyes I feel weird but when I look away it seems like I don't care about what they are saying. I also don't know how to sit/stand. I know people say to copy their posture but to me it seems like I'm mocking them. Maybe all of this is in my head but I'm never sure. Any help i can get would be great.", "How to talk to adults comfortably. First off I'm a teenager and I'm deathly afraid of talking to adults. I thing it is a combination of not sure what to talk about, but I also feel like they are always judging me. Whenever I talk one on one I don't know where to look. Whenever I look in their eyes I feel weird but when I look away it seems like I don't care about what they are saying. I also don't know how to sit/stand. I know people say to copy their posture but to me it seems like I'm mocking them. Maybe all of this is in my head but I'm never sure. Any help i can get would be great.", "How to talk to adults comfortably. First off I'm a teenager and I'm deathly afraid of talking to adults. I thing it is a combination of not sure what to talk about, but I also feel like they are always judging me. Whenever I talk one on one I don't know where to look. Whenever I look in their eyes I feel weird but when I look away it seems like I don't care about what they are saying. I also don't know how to sit/stand. I know people say to copy their posture but to me it seems like I'm mocking them. Maybe all of this is in my head but I'm never sure. Any help i can get would be great.", "How to talk to adults comfortably. First off I'm a teenager and I'm deathly afraid of talking to adults. I thing it is a combination of not sure what to talk about, but I also feel like they are always judging me. Whenever I talk one on one I don't know where to look. Whenever I look in their eyes I feel weird but when I look away it seems like I don't care about what they are saying. I also don't know how to sit/stand. I know people say to copy their posture but to me it seems like I'm mocking them. Maybe all of this is in my head but I'm never sure. Any help i can get would be great.", "How to talk to adults comfortably. First off I'm a teenager and I'm deathly afraid of talking to adults. I thing it is a combination of not sure what to talk about, but I also feel like they are always judging me. Whenever I talk one on one I don't know where to look. Whenever I look in their eyes I feel weird but when I look away it seems like I don't care about what they are saying. I also don't know how to sit/stand. I know people say to copy their posture but to me it seems like I'm mocking them. Maybe all of this is in my head but I'm never sure. Any help i can get would be great.", "How to talk to adults comfortably. First off I'm a teenager and I'm deathly afraid of talking to adults. I thing it is a combination of not sure what to talk about, but I also feel like they are always judging me. Whenever I talk one on one I don't know where to look. Whenever I look in their eyes I feel weird but when I look away it seems like I don't care about what they are saying. I also don't know how to sit/stand. I know people say to copy their posture but to me it seems like I'm mocking them. Maybe all of this is in my head but I'm never sure. Any help i can get would be great.", "How to talk to adults comfortably. First off I'm a teenager and I'm deathly afraid of talking to adults. I thing it is a combination of not sure what to talk about, but I also feel like they are always judging me. Whenever I talk one on one I don't know where to look. Whenever I look in their eyes I feel weird but when I look away it seems like I don't care about what they are saying. I also don't know how to sit/stand. I know people say to copy their posture but to me it seems like I'm mocking them. Maybe all of this is in my head but I'm never sure. Any help i can get would be great.", "How to talk to adults comfortably. First off I'm a teenager and I'm deathly afraid of talking to adults. I thing it is a combination of not sure what to talk about, but I also feel like they are always judging me. Whenever I talk one on one I don't know where to look. Whenever I look in their eyes I feel weird but when I look away it seems like I don't care about what they are saying. I also don't know how to sit/stand. I know people say to copy their posture but to me it seems like I'm mocking them. Maybe all of this is in my head but I'm never sure. Any help i can get would be great.", "How to talk to adults comfortably. First off I'm a teenager and I'm deathly afraid of talking to adults. I thing it is a combination of not sure what to talk about, but I also feel like they are always judging me. Whenever I talk one on one I don't know where to look. Whenever I look in their eyes I feel weird but when I look away it seems like I don't care about what they are saying. I also don't know how to sit/stand. I know people say to copy their posture but to me it seems like I'm mocking them. Maybe all of this is in my head but I'm never sure. Any help i can get would be great." ]

[ "As an adult (or so they tell me), we feel equally awkward around teenagers. Even those of us who are more like you than other adults.\n\nThe thing is, most of the time you could treat us like you do your friends and it'd be just fine. Those that would have a problem with that will probably just not give you a fair chance anyway. ", "I'm 43 and I still feel that way when I talk to anyone. So it's not really that big a deal.\n\nI'll be honest when I am talking to a teenager mostly I think about how I felt when I was their age. So I'm pretty sympathetic. \n\nJust try to stand up, keep your head up, look people in the eyes but don't stare. Maybe like look for three seconds, then look away for a second or two, then look back again. Crossing your arms sends negative signals (boredom or closing-off) so try to avoid that. I like to carry a pen with me that I can fidget with because I am awkward at talking to people and it helps me not worry about what my hands are doing. Anything you can play with without looking at it... your phone is probably a bad idea. \n\nI'd say the most common thing I run into with teenagers is they never say enough. They're all two or three word answers and I have to pry information out of them. So don't be afraid to elaborate. Talking too much is a problem but it's much better than being mopey and silent.\n\nBest of luck!", "The best advice I can give you is to just act the way you would around someone of your own age, the most awkward thing you can do is to try and \"act\" like an adult. There's nothing wrong with being a teenager and acting like one. Adults generally don't judge teens for being teens, we expect them to be a little awkward at times, we've all been there ourselves, we remember what it was like.\n\nAs for what to talk about, just talk about the stuff you're interested in, I would always rather hear someone talk about stuff they're passionate about, even if I'm not interested in the subject, then have them try to talk about stuff they really don't care about.\n\nIf things do get awkward, just remember, life is full of awkward conversions, having them is just part of growing up. I run a company and employ about 20 people, I still feel awkward talking to half of them. It's ok to feel awkward and uncomfortable in certain social situations, it's a very normal part of everyday adult life. ", "Ask questions, people love to talk about themselves. So let them. If you know they like football, ask about the games... If you know they have a dog, ask why they chose that breed...(unless they bring it up, don't talk about wife and kids, and even then don't ask too much).... also as others have said... We are just as afraid to talk to you... ", "Your anxiety is normal. You're transitioning from a child to an adult and your whole body is restructuring and even your brain gets an overhaul. Everything is changing and you have no idea what's going on. Of course you are insecure. Might as well accept it and take my promise it gets better.\n\nYou might be afraid to be seen as stupid if you ask questions. Let me throw a Chinese (rephrased) saying at you: It's better to ask and be seen as stupid for 10 seconds than not to ask and really be stupid forever. People know younger ones have not had as much life experience. You cannot know everything, that's cool. Smart people will praise your intelligence for asking and wanting to learn. \n\nHow to sit/stand. I had massive problems in my own puberty with that. Everything seemed awkward. Look up what stance and posture is healthy and try doing that. It will not feel better but at least you will look good even if you wouldn't know the difference. *shrugs* Just don't buy into trying to learn body language to make a point you don't even get behind. \n\nGlance at their eyes every now and then. Look at their nose, that's close enough and doesn't give that staring vibe. Look at their mouth when they're talking it will sometimes even help you understand what they're saying. \n\nWhat to talk about... That's somnething difficult. Maybe the (even) older generation had it right with \"If you don't have anything to say then don't talk\". Life will give you stories. Experience will give you knowledge. Until then ask questions. Only talk about things you are sure about. Otherwise ask. If you're interested in many things and many people you will earn a vast pool of knowledge. It doesn't even matter if this knowledge will ever be of any use to you. Filling the brain is a good thing. You will see that conversations flow real smooth once you have things to talk about. \n\nNinja ", "Oh, I'm a day late but I just googled this and found this so relatable. I'm a teenager myself and since I've started working with adults I have to learn to talk to them. But I feel exactly the way you wrote... OMG. I cringe and feel awkward just thinking about how weird I must seem to my co-workers. They are all very friendly and try to talk to me but I feel so awkward and it just feels really weird?? Idk, maybe I have this thing where I see adults as \"superior\", so I can't be relaxed or something ", "Nothing is as awkward as you think it is. As an extremely awkward adult, I can tell you that the only person who thinks about how awkward you are for more than a second, is you. As for what to talk about, shows, movies, and weird current events are always safe bets. Otherwise, we'll ask you about school, and neither of us wants to do that. I can also tell you that many adults, myself included would love a teen to ask US a question, especially about something that's made a comeback that we may have grown up with, what we thought was the pinnacle of technology in our day, historical events, the best thing we like about modern day. Personally, you will always win points with me for taking about something you've learned or are passionate about. Just keep your face out of your phone and you'll be fine.", "Just treat them like you would a friend that you have a lot of respect for. When I was 16 I had a job for a couple of years where I worked with mainly 40+ year old women and I just behaved like they were my friends. Seemed to work for me!", "It sounds like you might be making a fundamental error of prejudice. You are assuming that all adults are basically the same. \n\nThink about the population of your high-school. In that group there is likely a few people who are such scary fucks that you would never consider talking to them. Then there are perhaps the really cool, in crowd kids, and perhaps you would never talk to them. But on a purely numbers basis, they are only maybe 10 percent of the population. Then there is the general 80 percent who, if you found your self standing next to them on a train platform, you would talk to them even though you aren't friends, lastly there is the perhaps 10 percent that you actually have things in common with and could have a good conversation with about that thing you are really interested in. \n\nThe breakdown of adults are going to to be pretty much the same. But what it sounds like you are doing is lumping every adult in the scary /to cool group. And yes, some adults are assholes who will look down on you for not being as old and amazing as them. But if they see themselves as better than you it indicates a deep insecurity and they are best avoided. \n\nThen there is the middle 80 percent who will fall under \"mostly harmless\" they are the people in shops and on the bus. They will help you with directions and be a little afraid of you because the gave watched so much fox news. But they won't harm you. The last 10 percent will be really interested in you. They will like your youthful enthusiasm when you talk about the things you are interested in. They will want to hear about your big plans for your life and will be excited for the big future you have ahead of you. \n\nGetting over this will help you in the long term because if you go to college, your professors will be \"adults\" and they will make your time there much more useful if you can talk to them as \"equals who know a bit more about something\" \n\nOne way to accomplish this would be to get involved with a voluntary group with a broad range of ages. That could be your local shelter or something else that you are passionate about. ", "I'm just as awkward as an adult. In a lot of ways, I feel like I'm faking being an adult.\n\nGranted, I'm not around a lot of teens, but I'd be just as self conscious around them.\n\nSo don't worry too much about being judged. Just glance at them, glance somewhere else, and ya know, keep the convo light and fun.\n\nGood luck!", "I was actually very good at talking to adults from a young age. You have to read their demeanor. They don't really give a shit about your personal life, just talk to them about what your into that adults are into, sports/college. If not, ask them what they do. My biggest trick would I would always call their mom \"mom\" and their dad by MR. (last name). Don't be intimidated, the more you let them know about yourself, the more comfortable they are with you. Remember, the people with less to say are usually the ones with the most to hide :)", " I also hate talking to adults, but just because they are too sympathetic. Like a had surgery a little while ago and I hated talking to some adults around that time period because some were just a little too sympathetic and just talk about it for way longer than necessary." ]

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[ "How can i stop being a noisy neighbor? Hello everyone! As the title states, I am unfortunately a noisy neighbor. But I don't intentionally do it. The first time my upstairs neighbor came down asking to lower the volume, i'll admit it was a tad bit loud for the time and the second was lower, but I guess not low enough.. but after that I would always keep the volume from my computer to low after 11pm. We exchanged phone numbers so he could just send me a text to tell me that it's too loud and tonight he messaged me saying \"hey man, sorry again but I can hear whatever you're watching.\" at first I thought it was the subwoofer, but i've kept it low enough where I don't hear anything from it, but after tonight I don't know what much else to do. After 11pm I've put it low enough where I can honestly say is not too loud, but he's told me that he still hears it and some nights lets it go since he doesn't like to complain a lot. But i don't want to be that guy and i wasn't my neighbors to feel comfortable when at home. So any help would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!", "How can i stop being a noisy neighbor? Hello everyone! As the title states, I am unfortunately a noisy neighbor. But I don't intentionally do it. The first time my upstairs neighbor came down asking to lower the volume, i'll admit it was a tad bit loud for the time and the second was lower, but I guess not low enough.. but after that I would always keep the volume from my computer to low after 11pm. We exchanged phone numbers so he could just send me a text to tell me that it's too loud and tonight he messaged me saying \"hey man, sorry again but I can hear whatever you're watching.\" at first I thought it was the subwoofer, but i've kept it low enough where I don't hear anything from it, but after tonight I don't know what much else to do. After 11pm I've put it low enough where I can honestly say is not too loud, but he's told me that he still hears it and some nights lets it go since he doesn't like to complain a lot. But i don't want to be that guy and i wasn't my neighbors to feel comfortable when at home. So any help would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!", "How can i stop being a noisy neighbor? Hello everyone! As the title states, I am unfortunately a noisy neighbor. But I don't intentionally do it. The first time my upstairs neighbor came down asking to lower the volume, i'll admit it was a tad bit loud for the time and the second was lower, but I guess not low enough.. but after that I would always keep the volume from my computer to low after 11pm. We exchanged phone numbers so he could just send me a text to tell me that it's too loud and tonight he messaged me saying \"hey man, sorry again but I can hear whatever you're watching.\" at first I thought it was the subwoofer, but i've kept it low enough where I don't hear anything from it, but after tonight I don't know what much else to do. After 11pm I've put it low enough where I can honestly say is not too loud, but he's told me that he still hears it and some nights lets it go since he doesn't like to complain a lot. But i don't want to be that guy and i wasn't my neighbors to feel comfortable when at home. So any help would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!", "How can i stop being a noisy neighbor? Hello everyone! As the title states, I am unfortunately a noisy neighbor. But I don't intentionally do it. The first time my upstairs neighbor came down asking to lower the volume, i'll admit it was a tad bit loud for the time and the second was lower, but I guess not low enough.. but after that I would always keep the volume from my computer to low after 11pm. We exchanged phone numbers so he could just send me a text to tell me that it's too loud and tonight he messaged me saying \"hey man, sorry again but I can hear whatever you're watching.\" at first I thought it was the subwoofer, but i've kept it low enough where I don't hear anything from it, but after tonight I don't know what much else to do. After 11pm I've put it low enough where I can honestly say is not too loud, but he's told me that he still hears it and some nights lets it go since he doesn't like to complain a lot. But i don't want to be that guy and i wasn't my neighbors to feel comfortable when at home. So any help would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!", "How can i stop being a noisy neighbor? Hello everyone! As the title states, I am unfortunately a noisy neighbor. But I don't intentionally do it. The first time my upstairs neighbor came down asking to lower the volume, i'll admit it was a tad bit loud for the time and the second was lower, but I guess not low enough.. but after that I would always keep the volume from my computer to low after 11pm. We exchanged phone numbers so he could just send me a text to tell me that it's too loud and tonight he messaged me saying \"hey man, sorry again but I can hear whatever you're watching.\" at first I thought it was the subwoofer, but i've kept it low enough where I don't hear anything from it, but after tonight I don't know what much else to do. After 11pm I've put it low enough where I can honestly say is not too loud, but he's told me that he still hears it and some nights lets it go since he doesn't like to complain a lot. But i don't want to be that guy and i wasn't my neighbors to feel comfortable when at home. So any help would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!", "How can i stop being a noisy neighbor? Hello everyone! As the title states, I am unfortunately a noisy neighbor. But I don't intentionally do it. The first time my upstairs neighbor came down asking to lower the volume, i'll admit it was a tad bit loud for the time and the second was lower, but I guess not low enough.. but after that I would always keep the volume from my computer to low after 11pm. We exchanged phone numbers so he could just send me a text to tell me that it's too loud and tonight he messaged me saying \"hey man, sorry again but I can hear whatever you're watching.\" at first I thought it was the subwoofer, but i've kept it low enough where I don't hear anything from it, but after tonight I don't know what much else to do. After 11pm I've put it low enough where I can honestly say is not too loud, but he's told me that he still hears it and some nights lets it go since he doesn't like to complain a lot. But i don't want to be that guy and i wasn't my neighbors to feel comfortable when at home. So any help would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!", "How can i stop being a noisy neighbor? Hello everyone! As the title states, I am unfortunately a noisy neighbor. But I don't intentionally do it. The first time my upstairs neighbor came down asking to lower the volume, i'll admit it was a tad bit loud for the time and the second was lower, but I guess not low enough.. but after that I would always keep the volume from my computer to low after 11pm. We exchanged phone numbers so he could just send me a text to tell me that it's too loud and tonight he messaged me saying \"hey man, sorry again but I can hear whatever you're watching.\" at first I thought it was the subwoofer, but i've kept it low enough where I don't hear anything from it, but after tonight I don't know what much else to do. After 11pm I've put it low enough where I can honestly say is not too loud, but he's told me that he still hears it and some nights lets it go since he doesn't like to complain a lot. But i don't want to be that guy and i wasn't my neighbors to feel comfortable when at home. So any help would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!" ]

[ "The extremely low frequencies that come from subwoofers can really travel. Even if the volume isn’t up very loud the sound can be disturbing when it’s passing through walls. Maybe just unhook the subwoofer at night. Is that an option? A bit of trivia… Elephants produce extremely low frequency calls to communicate with other elephants. This is because the low frequency sound waves travel through the ground for long distances…Kind of like the lowest frequency is from your subwoofer. It doesn’t have to be really loud for the vibrations to travel and for people to hear it.", "Ditch the subs, get real headphones, move sound-producing things away from vents, get your hearing checked", "Super easy. \nHave a friend operate your equipment from your neighbors space, if they are comfortable allowing you in. \n\nYou can have them modulate volumes/levels in real time, and figure out just how annoying you’re being.", "Real advice: headphones after 10pm à la /r/Headphones \n\nWishful advice: be patient; move out of a compound/apartment complex/flat once you can, and move yourself to a standalone property someday à la /r/HomeTheater", "At night, only use headphones. If your TV doesn’t have a headphones socket, then connect tv to an amp or soundbar that does, even a basic one.", "Don't use a subwoofer in an apartment.\n\nUse subtitles so that you can keep the volume quieter. Not so quiet it's uncomfortable, but quiet enough that the surprise loud moments aren't actually too loud.", "put down a thick blanket, like a comforter or a couple of thinner ones. then put down a board of some sort. put your speakers/noise producing stuff on top of the board and blanket. try and drape the blanket, or have a second one, up against the wall where the speakers sit. it can effect the noise a lot more than you expect. \n\nalso noticed some other folx recommending working with your neighbor to figure out what too loud looks like. if they’re comfortable with it def recommend." ]

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[ "Surprised I didn't see zipping up your clothes. Always zip jeans, jackets, quarter zips. etc. Run your finger over an unzipped zipper - that's what's happening to your other clothes hundreds of times in the wash.", "Any printed shirts, like concert tees, turn inside out. The print will take much longer to crack and fade.", "Washing is really hard on clothes. If you can, wear things more than once before washing. \n\nMake sure all zippers are zipped. \n\nWash clothes in cold water (but not sheets, towels, or underwear!! wash those in hot) with a color-protecting detergent. \n\nAvoid the dryer, or go \"low (temp) & slow (takes a longer time).\" This goes triple for anything with elastic, like underwear. \n\nPut delicate things (bras) in laundry bags & hang to dry. \n\nUse an electric fabric shaver to get pills off your sweaters.", "Don't dry them in a dryer if you don't have to. Hang dry if you can. They'll last much longer. Dryer tumbling heat damages the fabric and threads.", "Don’t use the amount of detergent they tell you to. Always use less. Helps the quality of your clothes and also saves money! Hang clothes to dry too", "Use very little detergent. Do not use the softener, it's a very liquidy wax. Wash on short and mostly cold cycle. Warm and longer cycle is for whites and bedding.", "Wash less often, especially if you have clothing items made of wool. Just because you wore it out to dinner for a few hours doesn’t mean it needs to be laundered! (Unless it stinks!)", "Hang your shirts on clothes hangers on the clothesline. No line or sun markings in unwanted places AND you can just grab them all and immediately hang them up in the wardrobe.", "I have a laundry tip that doesn't necessarily make your clothes last longer, but it will save you a ton of time while doing laundry. Get a few mesh delicates bags. Put your socks on one, underwear in another. \nIf you have 7 pairs of socks and 7 pairs of underwear in a week, that's 21 items that have to get out on the washing machine, then moved to the dryer, then into drawers afterwards, and in between they get stuck in other items, fall on the floor when pulling other items out. Instead it's just 2 bags that easily get pulled from the washer to the dryer. It saves a ton of time, and in the 5 years I have been doing this, I have not lost a single sock and saved a ton of time. My wife on the other hand can rarely find a matching sock because she doesn't want to do this simple thing.", "Might be a conspiracy but unless mine are visibly soiled I wash them on the shortest cycle, delicate wash. Less wear and tear on the machine and the clothes", "As said before, turn garments inside-out and never wash towels with clothing to prevent pilling and wear.", "Use delicate setting. Also, to prevent colours and darks from fading, use a detergent made for darks.", "Wash inside out, all zippers zipped closed, any ties secured, hang to dry or tumble dry low. We use Woolite Dark and absolutely no fabric softener or softener sheets. Hang or fold immediately out of the dryer. Jeans wash as needed (and its way less than you think). Leggings, and other pants unless spilled on about every 3 wears. Undergarments change daily including socks and bras (don't wash them daily but about every three wears don't wear the same bra two days in a row bad for the elastics).\n\nAnother good rule of thumb is to read the garment label.\n\n", "I love our dryer for this reason. I can have it shut off when it senses the load is dry, and I can run it with little or no heat. It also has a wrinkle-preventer setting, which (when the load is dry) runs the dryer for about a minute then buzzes and stops for a few minutes...for up to 90 minutes. It makes it much more forgiving if your forget about the load in the dryer.", "I use vinegar in lieu of fabric softener. Works like a charm and doesn’t add that waxy feel to clothes. Also is good for smells. \n\nWool balls for the dryer.", "I separate whites/darks/bulky or rough feeling things like big jackets and sweaters. I do cold wash on everything except towels, rags and sheets and I do minimal soap, NO fabric softener or those beads or any of that crap and occasionally some white vinegar. I hang dry delicates and everything else on very low heat. I still have clothes from highschool that look good.", "Not a LPT but a question - how can I stop the head holes of t shirts from getting baggy/loose? I have a few shirts where after 1 or 2 washes the head hole is just bagged out and sloppy looking. I probably won't wear the shirt again after that", "If you use a dryer use the low heat. Even if you have to dry more in time, it’s better on the clothes and better on the heating elements. Hang up what you can. Cool water to wash. Rinse twice. Don’t use as much laundry detergent as bottle says. Sweater garment bag for washing and drying can also be used for bras for washing, socks etc. Bras and underwear hang dry. Clothes horses are handy. Nix fabric softener. Liquid or dryer sheets don’t use.", "Use a higher quality, gentle detergent, and (as others have mentioned) use a lot less than recommended.", "Don't mix different types of fabrics. Mixing fabrics can make clothes get pilly. Even separate different types of clothes inside those categories. I go as far as separating marino wools from other wools. Also depends on how dirty things are. Socks are always separate.\nAlso, button up the top button on collared shirts, as well as pants.\nHang dry if possible.", "always tap cold for everything but towels and sheets, always low dry, zote for stains. sort not by color but by density, so jeans won't wear out thin delicate t-shirts. all the synthetic (like gym clothes) washed separately with no softener. white washed separately, with an optical brightner. \nwool balls in dryer, of course - they last decades and provide fluff without statics.", "Spend the money on quality detergent. I switched from bargain to Persil. The difference is extraordinary. And I hang dry almost everything.", "when washing pillows ALWAYS use delicate setting or you'll have a ton of water left inside the pillow", "Wash on cold, no fabric softener (liquid or sheets), no bleach, dry low or air dry. Wear heavier items more than once. Unless you are in a dirty job or excessively sweating, your clothes don't get that dirty and can be written more than once (except underwear and things with elastic like socks). Most of these will also help your machines last longer as well.\n\nClose all fasteners like zippers and bra hooks so they don't snag on other clothes or get stuck on the machine. Mend any holes and clip loose strings before washing so that they don't grow or get entangled in other clothing. Empty your pockets, so that sharp out oily things don't damage items in the wash (e.g., pocket knife, chap stick).\n\nUse as little detergent as possible and rinse twice. Soap being left in your clothes makes them feel stiffer/less soft and also attacks more dirt. If you have hard water toss in an eighth to quarter cup of baking soda to softener the water to make the detergent more effective (be sure to lower the detergent amount as well).", "Warm or cold water, permanent press wash, button and zip everything up, check all pockets, if you do use dryer for shirts with screen prints or designs then turn them inside out, use white vinegar instead of fabric softener(small amount), hang dry, if you have long sleeves or heavy weighted sweaters hang them over the bottom side of the hanger so you don’t stretch out the shoulders. \nTypically I do all the above for my nice clothes and then for workout stuff and towels I throw them in the dryer. \nFolex carpet cleaner for stains. \nBorax and vinegar for smells and bodily fluid stains", "Sometimes only spot cleaning helps. Emrol helps a lot, a couple of drops in water and then just apply it to the spot. One can definitely use a larger proportion for soaking the entire garment. Emrol is quite good to handle stains.", "Never wash colored clothes/laundry in anything but cold water; even “warm” water will cause the colors to fade much faster than cold.", "Inside out, cold wash, air dry indoors. Colours don't fade as quickly, prints last longer and no more shrinking.", "Don't use fabric softener instead use vinegar, it gets rid of the soap and does not leave a smell on clothes", "Wash clothes inside out. Dry on low for 5-10 minutes to release wrinkles then hang to air dry. This helps with shirts from shrinking and fading without getting wrinkled and keeping the shirts soft and smelling fresh", "The dryer is more efficient but hang dry anything you want to actually last. The heat from the dryer causes things to fade and the tumble makes them wear out faster.", "Only wash as warm as necessary; the colder the better for fabric longevity.\n\nAlways wash garments inside out. This will help prevent premature fading, pilling, pulls, etc.\n\nAs others have said, zipper up, button up, close any clasp, hook, or Velcro. These last few things will snag other items, especially delicates.\n\nSeparate your clothes into at least 3 groups:\n\n 1. Dark colors: blacks, dark blues, reds, etc. Your darker items will stay darker longer.\n\n 2. Whites: only necessary to separate for bleaching; otherwise throw in with the rest of the colors.\n\n 3. Colors: all other lighter shades not washed with dark colors.\n\n 5. Reds/pinks: if you’re overflowing with a little princess’s closet of clothes to wash, put the reds and pinks together. Will save room in other loads and keep your underwear from turning pink.\n\n 6. Towels: wash these separately from everything else. Do not use fabric softener as it makes the fabric less absorbent. Use vinegar in its place.\n\n 7. Sheets: you can wash these with anything else.\n\n\nAnd then there’s the dryer:\n\n 1. Use tennis balls in the dryer to keep sheets and blankets fluffed to help dry them.\n\n 2. Bonus points for using LOW HEAT. Guaranteed to dry better, and take less time. Just be sure to keep the lint screen clear. And it will be more gentle on all your clothes.\n\n 3. Wash your lint screen occasionally. It will pickup fabric softener from your clothes. It seems to help the dryer work better. If you want a way to see the effect of softener buildup, hold it under the faucet and run water over it. It will hold water. Once washed it will let water through. I don’t think this is a very accurate representation, kind of like the shenanigans of the people that sell water filter systems. But who knows. Any scientists in the house?\n\n\nOh, and don’t buy splashless bleach. If you do, do not use it for anything but laundry. It doesn’t even seem to work as well as the regular bleach in the wash.", "Mesh laundry bags for anything delicate. They prevent any abrasions and keep stuff looking brand new.", "I barely ever wash my 501s. Like, I have several pairs (almost all bought used because they last forever) and I wash them maybe once or twice a year. And I wear these jeans almost every day. When I DO wash them it’s in cold water and I hang dry. \n\nI think that the very hardest thing that you can do to your clothes is to wash them. So for my hard wearing expensive stuff that I mostly just go sit around in (in other words, I’m not generally getting these jeans actually dirty), I try to wash them as little as practical. Not never - just as little as I can. \n\nAnd in my case - no they don’t stink. Your mileage may vary, of course, but I find just hanging them up to air out mostly works quite well.", "Don't use fabric conditioner. It stops your towels from absorbing and weakens fabric fibres. Go cheap with the detergent. It only needs to clean it, not soften or coat the fibres.", "Avoid fabric softener and use vinegar instead, fabric softener leaves a film on your washer that is next to impossible to clean up.", "-Close the zippers and wash inside out to help prevent zippers breaking.\n-put underwear and other delicates in small mesh bags. Also this can help keep socks together.\n-follow the cleaning instructions for your washer and dryer\n-avoid washing heavy items with more delicate items\n-treat stains right away and wash in cold. Don’t expose untreated stains to heat or sunlight\n-", "wash jeans and khakis inside out. \n\nthat saves the outside from getting worn by the agitation and tumbling of the washer and dryer", "wash everything in cold water, use less detergent, tumble dry low.\n\nand wash it less. clean yourself more.", "Your soap matters. Do your due diligence and buy the best you can afford. Or, make your own. I've done the latter when my kids were young, before I went back to work full-time. It's scary all the additives in most commercially-available laundry detergent.\n\nWe've used Method or Mrs. Meyer's for years; the freshness lasts, the colors stay true, minimal lint is extruded and all without damaging ground water. \n\nRecently, we switched to the waterless laundry detergent 'sheets'; there are several brands available online. \n\nSo far, so good. I really hope to see more brands offer this waterless, lightweight, easy-to-use-and-pack version.", "Wife is super ocd about the way she does laundry. She literally flips pants inside out she thinks it makes jeans last way longer. Never washes anything with towels cause she thinks they are heavy and rougher on other materials. Idk how true it is but she's always backed up on laundry lol", "What the hell are yall doing to your clothes that this is an issue? I'm literally wearing a 20 year old sweatshirt right now that looks brand new.", "Wear your clothes as many times as you can before washing. I find that I can wear jeans 5-6 times and button up shirts the same.", "Wear more than once. Unless you work in a dirty/messy environment, blue jeans can be worn several times before needing to be washed.", "Washing machine without an agitator \n\nGentle cycle\n\nUse lingerie bags for more than lingerie \n\nGentle detergent like woolite \n\nRefresh in dryer versus washing if possible (low temp setting). \n\nSeparate washes for clothes and towels (things you want to be a little more aggressive with)\n\nLow heat on dryer", "Washing Machine ", "Wash with cold water, dry on medium heat for two cycles, keep them folded in your drawers and don’t ball up socks by stretching one over the other.", "Wash when dirty. Don't wash your sweatshirt just because you wore to the store for 1 hour type of thing.", "Wash on cold, detergent to the very first line only, no fabric softener, no scent beads, turn everything inside out, hang to dry. If you feel like you need a bit of softening white vinegar is all you need.\n\nShout, the gel kind, is the best thing that I've used to pretreat tough stains, a scoop of oxy clean in the wash for everything else.", "Wash less often. \n\nThere's no reason to have everything as clean as new all the time, especially for clothes you only wear around the house. Sure, try and wash before things get stinky/filthy. But washing just because you feel you should is a waste of money and harsh on the environment.", "Wash graphic t-shirts inside out. \nLook up how much detergent your machine manufacturer recommends, use that instead of the detergent manufacturer. \nSkip liquid fabric softener. \nBuy some reusable dryer balls and use them instead of dryer sheets.\nRead the tags on your clothes. \nIf you love a piece, hang dry it then tumble in the dryer with no heat. It will last longer.", "Wash everything on cold (bonus of this is not having to separate everything so less work), longer cycle. Only use just enough liquid or powder detergent, I read the pods and sheets etc aren't as effective. In the wash, buttons should always be unbuttoned, but zippers should always be closed so they don't snag on anything. Vinegar works just as well as softener. Don't tumble dry ANY clothing - only use the dryer for things like towels and sheets. Hang button down shirts to dry on a clothes hanger so they wrinkle less.\n\nOh and dryer sheets do nothing. Ditch them.", "Wash and dry printed tshirts inside out so the fins in the washer and dryer wear down the designs less each wash", "Very little detergent and I don’t use dryer. I hang the clothes on hangers all over my house since I can’t do that outside where I live.", "Use the detergent for the job. If it’s body odor in a synthetic fabric, you need an enzyme cleaner to get rid of it. If it’s oily/fatty, spot treat it. Quick google will give a rundown of different types of detergents and how to use them. Not everything washes out with tide!", "Use laundry bags, hang clothes up inside out to limit fading (if outdoors), fasten the zips and buttons.", "Unscented products make clothes cleaner. I like Allfree&clear for detergent and wool dryer balls for dryer. fragranced detergents & fabric softener are designed to mask odors with the sticky perfume and therefore these chemically dirty our clothes (and the air) it clings to fabric beyond the washing and is surprisingly hard to wash away the perfume because of adhesive components in the fabric softener. I like to smell nothing on my clothes- any odor should get washed away or neutralized rather than Just covered with perfume.", "Unbutton pockets and sleeves, use less detergent or laundry additives, use cold water, and run on the smallest cycle you can do.", "Unbutton all buttons pre-wash.\nJeans in-side out.\nDark-colored slacks inside-out.\n\nLiquid tide, not powder.\nMeasure the liquid every time.\n1x dryer sheet per load.\nRejoice! :) LoL", "Two tips:\n\nShort cycle, extra rinse. Less contact with detergent the better.\n\nThe most important: Never use commercial laundry detergent. It destroys your clothes, because it is so harsh. Switch to Woolite or its equivalent. It pays for itself. I have clothes I am wearing now (well made, to be sure) that look like new after 20 years, and I am not exaggerating. Save the detergent for really impossibly soiled clothes (like kids clothes).", "Turn them inside out before washing as when you put them on the line the sun's UV rays will bleach them. The darker they are the more this is relevant.", "Turn all clothes inside out, close zippers, leave buttons opened (unless you want to sew them back up more often) , wash on cold, dry on the lowest setting. Don’t use too much detergent, don’t use softener, vinegar is a good towel softener (will not smell after drying). \nDawn gets grease stains out. Peroxide gets blood out(must be washed in cold water, warm or hot water will set the stain in). Peroxide is good for all other bodily fluids too.", "This is how my bf does it and he just takes such nice care of his clothes. No dryer other than undies and socks, always wash color and whites separate on delicate setting, hold your clothes carefully (as dumb as it sounds) you love these things so treat them with kindness and care. If you ever have a stain, scrub the spot with hot water and dish soap and soak in hot water. None of his sweatshirts pill, the graphics on his shirts are perfect and his jeans look brand new but they’re all used and he’s had them forever.", "Thank you for to everyone commenting these tips are way more than I expected! Especially love the organization tips", "Take the time to clean out both your washer and dryer if you have personal ones, you'd be surprised how much hunt, fur, and other particulate these things collect and don't get rid of. My dryer had a spot where fur and lint would collect causing the lint trap to not seat flush so clothes would catch it and twirl until they tear.", "Take care of your appliances. Stay on top of preventative mechanical maintenance. Also, de-scale and sanitize your washing machine, keep the area surrounding your dryer’s lint trap clean, and be sure to inspect and clean the dryer exhaust vent.", "Stop washing pants and jackets after one use.\n\nUnless you get actively dirty they are fine with multiple wears.", "Stop using fabric softener & replace with white distilled vinegar. Keeps clothes looking newer longer. Oh: and wooly dryer balls instead of dryer sheets. The softener and sheets leave a film on your clothes and appliances. (Plus the balls are fun to play with and reusable)", "Sort your clothes into piles of whites, casuals, and darks/reds. Not doing so dulls the colors over time.", "Soak 24h before washing, cold water. Soaking will make it much easier to clean, comparable to hot water without soaking", "Shout Color Catcher sheets have been worth the money for me. I wear a lot of natural fibers. My dark clothes used to fade within 1-2 years, while my white/ light clothes would get dingy. That was even with separating loads. Now fading and dinginess aren’t even issues, and from a color perspective my clothes last decades.", "Shake your clothes before putting them in the dryer. More surface area is exposed to the air and heat and they dry faster. Saves time and energy / money.", "Set an alarm on your phone or smart device, to remind you to move the laundry over or fold. Keeps your from forgetting clothes in the washer and having to rewash to get the moldy smell out. Keeps you from drying your clothes a second (or 5th) time to get wrinkles out. Equals less wear.", "Separate fuzzy things from light cotton stuff. For example sweatpants, sweaters, socks go together. Reduced pilling, etc.", "Separate by weight. I wash my denim, jackets, heavy hoodies etc together & another load for lightweight fabrics like your t-shirts, undies, pjs.", "Reserve junky clothes for messy jobs, change into them and wash those frequently. Not cooking in your work clothes will let you keep those nicer, longer. Quality, well made clothes can also last longer, have better color retention, etc.", "Read the laundry label in the garment before washing. For any garment that you value, keep a record of the instructions, because those labels fade over time. Wash anything particularly delicate inside a laundry bag.", "Quit using fabric softener; it contains wax that coats the clothes over time.\n\nUse wool dryer balls instead.", "Put your synthetic clothes in super fine mesh microplastic-catching bags. They're designed to catch all the little plastic fibres that come off your clothes but they also reduce wear in the wash. Just be sure to get two and pack them to the same weight to avoid damaging your washing machine (no idea if this is true for top load machines)", "Put them in a laundry mesh bag and never wash your stuff over 40 degrees Celcius.\n\nJust don't squeeze all your clothes in the same bag otherwise they won't be cleaned properly, use multiple mesh bags.\n\nAlso, never use the dryer; try to clean your clothes less frequently.", "Put everything in together on perm press. Dry everything together on perm press. Use regular detergent, but half the recommended dose. \n\nI've got $15 t-shirts that are 20 years old with print on them that look a bit faded, but are still 100% fine. Jeans over 20 years old. Dress shirts 15 years old, still white as new.\n\nIf you have materials that require hand washing with special Siberian horse hair brushes during a full moon, ditch that item of clothing. Life is too short to spend it doing laundry!", "Perm press everything. It’s usually the coldest warm temp, so soap still works properly, cold rinse, and medium intensity wash cycle. Delicates on the dryer. Takes longer, but that’s where clothes get damaged the most.", "People overwash their clothes. Things can be worn more than once before needing to be washed like hoodies and jeans. Also reduces the size and frequencies of your laundry loads so eco friendly too.", "Only wash colors with cold water, hang dry everything but socks, underwear, gym shorts and towels. Add some baking soda to help with stains and as a little color booster but otherwise I use the Norma amount of detergent. Just make sure you never put the liquid detergent directly on the clothes or you might ruin them", "Of course, underwear and socks should be washed daily. Shirts and pants should be laundered much less. If you wear an undershirt or did not sweat in them and didn’t slobber anything on yourself, you can get many wearings of shirts and pants/shorts/sweats.\n\nThis keeps colors and material lasting much longer than one use and in a laundry pile they go.\n\nDry cleaning helps to make your clothes last longer too but is very expensive.", "Not sure if anyone's mentioned it but anyone got tips for shirts with fleece on the inside? every time i wash them they seem to pill and get less soft", "No one has mentioned the quality of washing machine? Invest in something NOT a bottom of the line cheap machine. I moved in with my dad two years ago and my clothes were all immediately faded, pilled, and aged about 3 years within a few weeks. Cheapest looking machine I ever saw. Never again", "No dryer for clothes other than undergarments. All that lint is coming from your clothes, slowly eating away at the fabric.", "Never put clothes that you want to have any longevity into the dryer. A wardrobe stylist told me that putting clothes in the dryer is a death sentence for them. I’ve been able to keep “fast fashion” items for years by hang drying or flat drying on a cheap ikea drying rack. Grab 2 of those and they fold up for storage. They only stuff that goes on the dryer for me are towels, socks, underwear, and gym shirts.", "Never put anything with decals in the dryer. That's how you get cracks and shitty looking shirts and hoodies. Same with super soft blankets. Always hang dry, or they lose their softness.", "NO load of laundry needs more than 2 tbsp of detergent I promise. I wash everything except towels on cold.", "Maybe not laundry but wear an under shirt under work clothes. They will last much longer.\n\n\nWash them inside out", "Less washing and less stain treatment helps clothes last longer. Switching between different types of clothes for different kinds of tasks can create less laundry if you reuse clothes a few times between washing.\n\nWith the switch to working from home part-time, I've been able to wear my nicer clothes less. If I have to wear a nice shirt for a 1-hour zoom meeting, I hang it back up and change into a t-shirt after. Even on days when I go to the office, I change out of my office clothes when I get home. That way I avoid getting them dirty while cooking and eating dinner, taking care of pets, chores, etc.", "Laundry bags to protect delicates and separate them from other less delicate items / doing smaller loads of separate things as well.", "Just got new washer and it’s possible to set time to 20 or 30 minutes. All my other washers washed a lot longer. That longer time is not necessary. If we were washing clothes down by the river, we wouldn’t be beating the linen with a rock for an hour. My thought is that less time washing would preserve clothing longer. 20 or 30 minutes is still probably longer than necessary.", "It’s not practical for many people, but not putting clothes in the dryer will extend their life x100. Hang dry, light iron if needed", "It's ok to wash and dry clothes with some warmth (warm water, heat dry) if you have to, but keep it to a minimum when you can.\n\nPut bras in a lingerie bag, or at the very least make sure you clasp the hooks. Keeps them from getting damaged and also keeps them from damaging other items.\n\nWash jeans inside out, make sure the legs aren't scrunched up. \n\nNever use fabric softener. It weakens fabrics and makes towels less absorbent. \n\nClean the lint trap regularly. It allows for shorter dry times and will make your clothes and your home last longer by not setting either of them on fire.", "Inside out and washed on a short delicate cycle unless it is very soiled.\n\nBras or anything with hooks and velcros snapped up and in a mesh bag, washed separately.\n\nHung to dry when possible.", "If your pants aren’t visibly dirty, throwing them in the freezer for a few hours will freshen them up and kill any bacteria.", "If you're a fan of using \"softener\" even though not needed, add softener when adding detergent to water. Not during rinse cycle", "If you wear a lot of one color, particularly black, get fabric dye and dye them once they start fading. Or if something gets stained and you can’t fix it, due it a different color.", "If you live in a area that has hard water, invest a water softener. It will help with laundry, dish washing and keeping healthy skin and hair.", "If you have hard water, use Borax. It will soften the water and rinse out more of the detergent, plus you’ll end less detergent. I’ve also found it helps with stains and smells. Wash on cold, set the agitator to the right setting. Using fabric softener and homemade detergent gunk up your washer. \n\nDry what you can’t stand not drying - though I do recommend drying underwear and socks for hygiene reasons. (Never bras, those are too damn fragile and expensive). Dry things inside out. Make sure your link screen is always clean- they have roses for this. Periodically clean out your dryer vents - both these things vastly increase efficiency.\n\nFront door washers are a pain and can get smelly and have tiny loads. I love my newer top loading washer without an a agitator. That baby can take a while comforter! (Which I dry for about 20 minutes on medium just so my shower curtain for the weight, then air dry for the rest.)\n\nIf you have a well ventilated laundry room (luxury, I know), put up some dying \nInes in there.", "If you are allergic to dust mites, the tips about wearing clothes more than once probably aren’t for you. Once there are skin cells on the clothes, they keep multiplying and make you itchy. Even dead dust mites aggravate the allergy.", "If you are a white-collar office worker you don’t need to fanatically wash your clothes the same way you do if you are doing hard physical labor. Also, don’t use so much laundry detergent!", "If there is a small stain on a garment, spot clean it instead of throwing it into the washing machine. This holds especially true for jeans and woollen clothes that don’t need much washing anyway", "If I am missing a sock it goes back into the hamper, I have reunited many pairs this way. \nFold sweaters and other knitted garments hanging will cause them to sag", "Idk what all these folks have against laundry softener. I like my clothes soft and smelling good. If you do too, use some softener.", "I'm a little high on painkillers atm so not searching if already said, but turn all your clothes inside out.", "I wash mostly cold water, warm for towels and when needed. I throw most everything in the dryer and I fold or hang each item as it comes out of the dryer. I never iron. Ever. That keeps my stuff around longer than is fashionable", "I wash everything with a scoop of basic laundry soda (like Nellies), cold on the harshest high soil ultra wash my machine has. I don't sort types or colors from whites. Then dry with nothing but wool dryer balls. Never had any issue with clothes getting wore out or damaged from washing.\n\nAnd when I say I don't sort, I mean it. Everything from rough construction wear to lacy delicates all get thrown in at once. I still have shirts from the 8th grade (about 20 years) and they look almost brand new. I'll use laundry bags for things that get tangled up, but that's about it.\n\nWhat the hell are people doing where washing damages the clothes? It's such an alien concept for me.", "I wash all my concert/printed t-shirts (using cold water) inside-out. I then proceed to hang dry them. I have tour shirts nearing 10 years old that look fairly new.", "I wanna know why washing clothes is so complicated… I don’t want to have 3 different detergents or separate all the clothes into colors and material and whatnot, why can’t I just throw all my shit in with a ride pod or two and call it a day?", "I use laundry bags with most things. Knits, velvet, silk, spandex, anything with ribbons. T shirts and denim shorts don’t get laundry bags. Wash in a gentle cycle with cold water. Anything in a laundry bag gets hung up to dry, the rest goes into low heat in the dryer\n\nMy clothes don’t get really dirty, just whatever germs from outside and my own sweat, so this works for me", "I use a mesh laundry bag for everything, except bigger items like towels and bedsheets. My clothing do not tangle or wrinkle. And my undergarments look and feel new.", "I stumbled across an audiobook called “laundry love” by Patric Richardson and I borrowed it out of curiosity…. It was surprisingly useful and relaxing listen. Full Title is \nLaundry Love: Finding Joy in a Common Chore", "I separate clothes by weight, color, and temperature they will be washed in. I separate my laundry into 4 different loads: lights and whites plus any color towels, sheets, and underwear, darks and brights, denim, and delicates (blouses, cashmere sweaters, bras).\n\nEverything is washed on cold except the lights/whites/towels/sheets/underwear, which are washed in hot.\n\nI use half the recommended detergent. I hang dry the delicates but everything else is dried on medium heat with a couple dryer balls.\n\nMy clothes stay looking new for a long time. I have some clothes in my wardrobe that are ~20 years old and still look great.", "I read the care instructions that come on every single piece of clothing you’ve ever bought in your life from a retail store.", "I follow simple rules. All clothes inside out, zipped up or buttoned up. Only cold water, kirkland detergent and vinegar for the rinse. I've been wearing the same clothes for 2+ years now and they look ok. I only buy 100% cotton or as close to that as possible. I'm honestly surprised that my clothes hold together, I usually shop at old navy and h and m and they are not exactly known for their quality.", "I don't wear most of my clothes, so I wear out the same pair of sweats while I WFH and then most of my other clothes endure no wear at all. Hacks", "I discovered the [Laundry Evangelist](https://m.youtube.com/@thelaundryevangelist6369) on a podcast about food stains and he has since transformed my approach to laundering. Fun, too.", "I argue about this at home all the time. You dont have to wash an article of clothing every time you wear it. Knits and jackets can be worn several days, especially if you have a layer on underneath. My wife will wear a sweater or sweatshirt to the office and chuck it in the wash as soon as she gets home. My kids are notorious for this as well with hats, gloves, ties, etc. I could save 2 to 3 loads a week just by wearing things that are still ostensibly clean more than once. Jeans, too! If i dont get dirty or sweaty, i wear a pair all week. It saves clothing, time, money and resources.", "I am trying to be more conscious of the environment. These are my tips: \n\nWash similar colours together (I usually wash almost everything with “cold” water, unless towels, undies and bedsheets. \n\nI use eco friendly detergent. I use the one from frosch. I also add a cup of vinegar to my laundry load. \n\nLearn the various symbols on clothing labels, this helps with washing your items correctly and helps maintain your items. \n\nI dry all my laundry on a laundry horse \n\nI don’t wash my jeans after one wear, I usually wash them after 10 wears. To keep them fresh I do have a distilled water vinegar mix and I spray that on my jeans and hand them in the bathroom so they can steam when I take a shower. This helps freshen my jeans up or minimize the ironing for my shirts etc. \n\nHang out the items with little strengthing here and there, once dry and folded correctly, many of them don’t even have to be ironed.", "Haven’t seen this one yet,\n\nWash like fabrics together. Don’t load upper underwear, socks, jeans, shirts, and towels together. The different thickness’s and textures will ruin each other. Starting with your softest shirts and underwear. \nFor example: only towels wash, only jeans, only soft t shirts and leggings, etc. or put items in garment bags. \nThen hang dry or use the lowest possible heat for most items.", "Hang your clothes or fold them correctly and promptly. A big part of doing the laundry is putting it away. An easy to procrastinate task, but it makes a big difference.", "Hang dry anytime it's possible, wash colder than you think (30°C for clothes, 50-60°C for sheets/towels is more than enough in most cases), use less detergent and never fabric softener, get some of the washing nets you put cloth in during the wash for everything wool...", "Hang dry absolutely anything with lycra or spandex in it. You can hang anything on a hanger, chair, or bannister somewhere with airflow if you can't use the outdoors, it will be dry within a day.", "HELP! When i wash my sweaters they always end up with soap/lint stains. I fold them inside out and since im not putting them in the dryer it stays. I use color protectiokng powder detergent start on hot cycle so it melts, then cold after.", "Follow the tags.\n\nI have a saboteur, who likes to restart my drying on Normal-Medium heat, after I start Casual-Low, then leave them unattended. So, I go through a lot of clothes.", "Find a deodorant that works for you (for me Nivea containing aluminium salt and, yes, fresh lemon juice work best), this way I can wear a shirt longer than I care to admit.\n\nAlso if you're a cyclist always wear sports clothes while on the bike and change at your destination.", "Expense could rule this out, but I've seen the results....\n\nWash in Vodka and water. \n\nI had the exact same polo as a co-worker. Within 6 months my shirt began to fade with one weekly use, theirs looked brand new still. They used cheap vodka and cold water to wash colors in.", "Electric driers are the devils work\nWash everything on delicate cycle \nWash as infrequently as possible, without being gross\nDon’t overdo it - clothes aren’t meant to last forever and fashion changes", "Driers get a bad rep but they are useful. \nYou are not supposed to use them for everything. \n\nMake sure they are not more than half full. Use washing stones in them. Use the soft program, then it won't be hot enough to destroy the clothes. \n\nPerfect for towels, cotton underwear, quilts. Specially in winter. \n\nFor cotton stuff like sheets, use them to remove 70% of the humidity then hang. Your sheets will dry much faster and you won't need to iron them. \n\nIn my experience, the clothes are less damaged by lessening the speed of the wring out process (600-800) and adding soft drying than no drying at all but using 1200 t/min to wring them out.", "Don’t waste your time with scent boosters, fabric softeners, or dryer sheets. They are unnecessary and they ruin your clothes\n\nThey are especially bad for anything you want to be absorbant/moisture wicking, like activewear or something like cloth diapers/cloth pads/period underwear\n\nAlso if you’re regularly around people who are sensitive to scents, those scent boosters are the worst", "Don’t wash sweaters! Just wear a long sleeve, high neck undershirt every time you wear one. Or 2 if you are sweaty. Then can dramatically reduce how often you wash delicates!! You can also do this with silks shirts dresses etc", "Don’t wash clothes as often as most people do. \n\nSure, underwear and socks. But that pair of jeans you wore to the office for 9 hours at work? You could wear it again day after tomorrow. And probably a third time before they would really need cleaned.", "Don’t overload washers and dryers and some clothes (like jeans) can be worn a few times before they are dirty unless the person is dirty or exposed to a lot.", "Don’t over wash!! Clothes don’t need to be washed every time you put them on. Use quality liquid detergent (you can’t go wrong with Tide). Use the coldest water possible, wash small loads at a time and dry at the lowest heat for the least amount of time. Read care instructions thoroughly and if in doubt, take to the cleaners.", "Don't wash them as often. Most clothes generally get more wear and tear in the laundry than while being worn. I work in an air conditioned office, so I typically never sweat in my work clothes, and I probably wear shirts and slacks five or six times between washes.", "Do not use Fabuloso as a pre-treater. It was diluted and the clothes were immediately washed. About 2 or three cycles later I noticed holes forming in those specific areas.", "Delicate wash, cold, tumble dry low. I use half the amount of detergent it says to. Don’t use fabric softener!", "Cool water! Throw your detergent pod in the back so it doesn't get stuck half-dissolved in the door (front-loading obv).", "Cold water, hang dry works for most clothes as long as they are not very heavily soiled. Doing this, most items last 20 years.", "Cold water wash.\n\nWash anything with a print inside out.\n\nUse mesh bags for delicate items or anything you don't want snagged/stretched. These are often called lingerie bags in home goods stores.\n\nHang dry for maximum clothing life, otherwise dry on low or extra low for the minimum time you need to dry the items (based on experience of course). All that lint in the lint trap? A lot of it is short fabric fibers coming off your clothing which = wearing them out.\n\nAlso rotate what you wear. Your favorite shirt, hoodie, etc. that you wear all the time will get the most beat up over time.", "Cold water wash, and lowest setting in the dryer. Even though it’ll take longer to dry, you’ll save electricity and keep your clothes looking newer longer. \n\nSort your clothes. Not just for color, but drying lightweight items with heavy hoodies, sweats, etc. will over dry them.", "Cold water everything (except whites that need bleaching), drip dry as much as possible, low dryer heat.", "Cold wash, low spin, low heat. Or, after a cold wash, lay flat to dry. Or hand wash and lay flat to dry.", "Cold wash, hang dry, wear until soiled, use appropriate level. Auto sensing is best for efficiency not soil level. It doesn’t automatically determine that. Most clothes are “normal “ or “delicate “", "Col water, the natural enzymey detergent, borax, vinegar when needed, no fabric softener. Dry on low heat. I don't even have to separate my colors with my regimen. And my shit doesn't shrink!", "Clean and clear non-scented detergent. Wool balls for the dryer, no scented dryer sheets. Turn any printed tee inside out. We also hang dry all are shirts, with the exception of undershirts.", "Buy quality clothing. That cheap stuff from shein isn’t going to last…\nUse less detergent, no softeners.\nWash in cold.\nTurn inside out when washing.", "Buy dark merino clothes. \n\nThey are warmer in winter, colder in summer. \nThey are naturally anti bacterian. So you can wear them 5 times before washing without smelling bad. \n\nThen wash them gently. Cold water. In bags like lingerie. Let them dry flat. They dry faster than anything. \n\nYou'll pay 50e for a t shirt but it will last 10 times more than a 15e one. And the experience is incredible.", "Anyone else get wierd oily quarter sized spots on t-shirts while doing laundry?\n\nI use a powdered detergent in cold water. They don't have spots when they go in but do when they come out...", "Always was with cold water, least detergent possible (it’s concentrated many people use way too much and it’s hard on your clothing) if you have silks or nice expensive underwear put them in a delicates bag. My nicer clothes I usually hang dry to keep them looking nice as long as possible. When you are drying though I like to use a low heat setting. \n\nOh also any shirts with print turn inside out. I even tend to turn black jeans/pants inside out as well unless they’re visibly soiled on the outside, I’m not sure if it’s true but it makes me think the inside will fade instead of the outside. That one could be made up though lol. \n\nAlso I’ve heard don’t use fabric softener!! It’s bad for your machine & can be irritating on sensitive skin if it’s not rinsed properly.", "Always cold water unless you're trying to kill bugs or clean the machine itself.\n\nHang-dry at least your non-cotton clothes on a rack.\n\nTurn clothes inside out to protect them from fading.\n\nBonus: Use powder or dissolved-bar laundry detergent instead of whatever wasteful gimmick the corporations are pushing on you these days.", "All of my exercise clothes, such as my cycling kit, gets washed on a gentle cycle and separately from my street clothes, then gets hung to dry on a clothes rack, never in the clothes dryer.", "Air dry clothing. I find that my clothes don’t fade, pill, or lose elasticity as fast if they are air dried.", "After moving to New Zealand - where hanging clothes out is the norm - my clothes last 5 x as long. Using a dryer chews up clothes", "A pill shaver. I got one for like $13 at Target and it REALLY breathes new life into sweaters or blankets that get those little pills of fuzz after a few washes.", "A LOW efficiency washer is better for your clothes. A “High efficiency” washer uses less water, but more time and more friction to wash your clothes. That friction wears them out faster. I’ll gladly pay for another 2 gallons of water. It’s not exactly “wasted” since it goes right back into the treatment cycle.", "2) Wash cold, line dry (except towels or cleaning cloths: wash them hot and use dryer).\n\n3) Put any clothes with metal parts (hooks, studs, zippers) in lingerie bags, fastened.\n\n4) Wash only when actually dirty (you wore that skirt for dinner with parents, ~2 hours -- maybe it can be worn again before washing?).\n\n1) But biggest: **buy quality**. H&M, Walmart, etc sell cheap clothes that won't last.", "2 tbsp of laundry sauce/1 pod, vinegar instead of fabric softener, and dryer balls instead of sheets. You don’t wanna use too much laundry sauce or it’ll build up in the washer and make it nasty. Vinegar is a natural fabric softener (fabric softener is a lie and makes you flammable 😉) and kills mildew/mold, brightens/whitens clothes and keeps colors (even darks) more vibrant), reduces lint/pet hair cling, and is a great deodorizer. Dryer sheets have the same concept of fabric softener: they just make you flammable. The only “softening” they do is coat your clothes in wax which can also build up in your machines! Fun fact, right?\n\nI wash my clothes on tap cold or cool water and throw the laundry sauce and vinegar in at the same time (bonus points if you just yeet the laundry sauce cap in). I also run a second rinse but that’s mostly an ocd thing. Always use 2 tbsp/1 pod no matter the soil level! And don’t overfill your washer. Don’t shove shit down to make it all fit or your clothes won’t get as clean. Running two loads is better than running the washer pointlessly. I shake the article out, and just kinda drop it in there. I fasten bras because those hooks are evil but I don’t use a garment bag for those. I do put my socks in one but loosely like everything else cause I like my socks to keep their friends thanks. I also put like, lacy or more fragile shit in one. If you don’t have a washer with the agitator thingy in the middle make a donut like there is one so it’ll all get clean evenly. I run mine at super every time. Oh, and if you forget about your laundry overnight, toss some laundry sauce and more vinegar in and hit go. And if your washer comes unbalanced during the spin cycle and moving clothes around doesn’t balance it, sit on it. \n\nDryer! Again, don’t over stuff it. Toss it all in there. I don’t hang anything cause 1. where am I gonna hang it and 2. I’m too lazy for that shit 😂 Clean the lint trap so you don’t burn the house down. I dry everything on medium unless I have something more fragile or something I decide needs to be dried on low. Toss those dryer balls in and hit go! My dryer doesn’t have a functioning sensor so I run it at the max time. Sometimes twice because my dryer sucks. I stop it halfway to shake my socks bag so they dry evenly. Then when I eventually take it all out I toss it on the couch until it gets folded, worn, or muddy paws get to it. Haven’t wrecked any of my clothes yet! Good luck OP 🙌🙌", "- reverse your clothes when washing\n\n- pay attention to washing labels\n\n- group similar garments by colour and material\n\n- if using a tumble dryer, don't fully dry. Mostly dry and then hang\n\n- try not to overload the washing machine so clothes get washed thoroughly.\n\n- when ironing, use the correct temperature and iron water\n\nThese are all the things I do and none of my clothes have holes or graphics that have tarnished and I very rarely buy clothes, hope some of these are helpful!", "\nMy biggest recommendations are to separate loads by color and type (explained more below), *always* use dye-trapping sheets in the washer whenever there are any colored items, use the highest quality detergent you can afford that is available to you, do additional rinse cycles, and don’t use too much detergent. \n\nI’d probably use Kirkland detergent if there was a Costco anywhere near me, bc its performance is supposed to rival Tide’s, but the closest Costco is an hour away from me. So I use Tide pods in the original scent, and keep a small bottle of liquid Tide on hand for loads that are too small for a pod. \n\nAs for separating laundry loads, I’m a bit fanatical about it. I do darks, lights, work whites, everything else whites, pants, and jeans for clothes. I’ve found washing & drying the kids uniform pants by themselves and the jeans by themselves prevents those weird random creases from forming on the legs. I wash towels by themselves. Sheets by themselves. Blankets by themselves.\n\nI keep bottles of Shout action gel hanging from the lip of the hampers so clothes can be pre-treated right when they’re taken off. And I use dish soap with a gentle toothbrush for grease stains.", "Wash everything inside out and the correct temperature. Sorting by colors doesn't seem to effect as much as separating by temperature, same for dry, and don't use drier sheets.", "Wash clothes inside out, use less soap than is recommended, the recommendations come from manufacturers, you don’t need to smell like laundry soap. \n\nUse the dryer as little as possible. IKEA has a great drying rack that can hold a whole load and it folds flat. Keep your clothes inside out when you dry and put them away. You’ll always know what is clean.", "This is a pretty bold things, but outside underwear, t-shirts, and socks, only wash things when they are actually dirty. Say you wear a button down shirt and a pair of khakis to the office. Unless you sweat a ton or get your clothes dirty, your underwear and undershirt probably kept the shirt and pants clean enough to wear a few times without needing to be washed. The same goes things like sweaters, which should hung back up and be washed as sparingly as possible", "Hang dry EVERYTHING that has spandex / elastic in it. Your underwear and delicates will last 3x as long.", "Dryers are a scam, hang dry anything you want to last. Fabric softener breaks down the fibers - skip it. Wash most things on cold.", "Don’t put your clothes into the floor. Hang them to air after wearing. \n\nBuy natural fibers. Synthetic fibers attract oils from your body and tend to smell bad sooner. You can usually wear cotton several times between washes, unless you have been sweating heavily or have gotten actually spiked by garden work or something similar. \n\nWear an apron when cooking or doing messy tasks.", "Don’t be afraid to air out clothes before you decide to wash. If it smells, hang it outside or around the house on a hanger where it can get some air. Smell later and see if the smell is gone or became faint. You can put some perfume on and wear it again before you wash it.", "Don't wash too often. Clothes that are not underwear or have direct skin contact don't need to be washed after every wear.\n\nDon't use fabric softner.\n\nAnd don't use a dryer!" ]

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[ "How to adapt to a 11AM to 7PM work schedule. I went from a regular 9 to 5 to a now middle of the day 11 to 7 work schedule. It takes me about 20 minutes to get to and from work. Dinner gets cooked late which causes me to stay up later (to digest) which causes me to wake up late with enough time for breakfast and getting ready for work.\n\nI've had a difficult time adjusting to this schedule. I have not found time to workout which has caused me to gain a bit of weight. When I was working the regular 9 to 5 I worked out in the evenings and made dinner right after. \n\nAny tips? ", "How to adapt to a 11AM to 7PM work schedule. I went from a regular 9 to 5 to a now middle of the day 11 to 7 work schedule. It takes me about 20 minutes to get to and from work. Dinner gets cooked late which causes me to stay up later (to digest) which causes me to wake up late with enough time for breakfast and getting ready for work.\n\nI've had a difficult time adjusting to this schedule. I have not found time to workout which has caused me to gain a bit of weight. When I was working the regular 9 to 5 I worked out in the evenings and made dinner right after. \n\nAny tips? ", "How to adapt to a 11AM to 7PM work schedule. I went from a regular 9 to 5 to a now middle of the day 11 to 7 work schedule. It takes me about 20 minutes to get to and from work. Dinner gets cooked late which causes me to stay up later (to digest) which causes me to wake up late with enough time for breakfast and getting ready for work.\n\nI've had a difficult time adjusting to this schedule. I have not found time to workout which has caused me to gain a bit of weight. When I was working the regular 9 to 5 I worked out in the evenings and made dinner right after. \n\nAny tips? ", "How to adapt to a 11AM to 7PM work schedule. I went from a regular 9 to 5 to a now middle of the day 11 to 7 work schedule. It takes me about 20 minutes to get to and from work. Dinner gets cooked late which causes me to stay up later (to digest) which causes me to wake up late with enough time for breakfast and getting ready for work.\n\nI've had a difficult time adjusting to this schedule. I have not found time to workout which has caused me to gain a bit of weight. When I was working the regular 9 to 5 I worked out in the evenings and made dinner right after. \n\nAny tips? ", "How to adapt to a 11AM to 7PM work schedule. I went from a regular 9 to 5 to a now middle of the day 11 to 7 work schedule. It takes me about 20 minutes to get to and from work. Dinner gets cooked late which causes me to stay up later (to digest) which causes me to wake up late with enough time for breakfast and getting ready for work.\n\nI've had a difficult time adjusting to this schedule. I have not found time to workout which has caused me to gain a bit of weight. When I was working the regular 9 to 5 I worked out in the evenings and made dinner right after. \n\nAny tips? ", "How to adapt to a 11AM to 7PM work schedule. I went from a regular 9 to 5 to a now middle of the day 11 to 7 work schedule. It takes me about 20 minutes to get to and from work. Dinner gets cooked late which causes me to stay up later (to digest) which causes me to wake up late with enough time for breakfast and getting ready for work.\n\nI've had a difficult time adjusting to this schedule. I have not found time to workout which has caused me to gain a bit of weight. When I was working the regular 9 to 5 I worked out in the evenings and made dinner right after. \n\nAny tips? " ]

[ "You're talking 2 hours. Get up as you would and workout in the morning, shower and eat a big breakfast. Go to work, eat a fuller meal mid day, then a light dinner. I work 10- 5:30 , but I'm up early to have hours to myself , before I start waking the hubby up at 9.\n\nLate starts are great a you can fit a.m. appointments in with doctors and dentist etc.", "Well i do this for a year now and i like it. No breakfast, just a coffee or green tea in the morning. Half of last nights dinner for lunch which is usually a big portion but you are really hungry then at 2 pm. Later at wvening i'll cook dinner. Workout is done after work on 2 days in the week. This practice is sometimes referred to as intermittent fastening. 16 hours of not eating and 8 hours of eating the hell out of it. I love it.", "If you can't work out in the morning, give a 24/7 gym a shot! I used to go to my local apartment complex and use their gym in the middle of the night. When I work a job that has me scheduled to get off late I usually modify my schedule by staying up extra late and being productive at night. Best of luck to you!", "I work these hours one day a week, and I actually really enjoy that day. The key is to just wake up earlier, like you normally would for a 9-5 day. I'm personally more productive in the mornings, but usually that productivity is reserved for work. I still wake up around 7 or 8 on my 11-7 days, so that gives me time to be productive for myself...to work out, make a decent breakfast, run a quick errand if I need to, etc. I'm less motivated in the evenings, when I get home from work and just want to veg out. I feel like I still have enough \"relax and recharge\" hours in the evening...I can give myself 4-5 hours before I go to bed.", "Don't wake up until 10 am, sleep at 2 am. Gives you about 6 hours after you eat and shower to do with as you wish at night", "Can you eat in work? I'd be tempted to take something proper to reheat either at lunchtime or in a short break later on. Then have more of a light supper / sandwich at home. " ]

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[ "How to pour liquid into containers you can't see into and don't have volumetric measuring devices to do so without spilling. I recently started drinking out of flasks and am wondering how to fill the flask without spilling, since I do every damn time. I see that my flask holds 175 mL, but I don't always have a measuring cup on hand and, admittedly, would probably be too lazy to do so if I did. Just wondering if there's any tricks, thanks!", "How to pour liquid into containers you can't see into and don't have volumetric measuring devices to do so without spilling. I recently started drinking out of flasks and am wondering how to fill the flask without spilling, since I do every damn time. I see that my flask holds 175 mL, but I don't always have a measuring cup on hand and, admittedly, would probably be too lazy to do so if I did. Just wondering if there's any tricks, thanks!", "How to pour liquid into containers you can't see into and don't have volumetric measuring devices to do so without spilling. I recently started drinking out of flasks and am wondering how to fill the flask without spilling, since I do every damn time. I see that my flask holds 175 mL, but I don't always have a measuring cup on hand and, admittedly, would probably be too lazy to do so if I did. Just wondering if there's any tricks, thanks!", "How to pour liquid into containers you can't see into and don't have volumetric measuring devices to do so without spilling. I recently started drinking out of flasks and am wondering how to fill the flask without spilling, since I do every damn time. I see that my flask holds 175 mL, but I don't always have a measuring cup on hand and, admittedly, would probably be too lazy to do so if I did. Just wondering if there's any tricks, thanks!", "How to pour liquid into containers you can't see into and don't have volumetric measuring devices to do so without spilling. I recently started drinking out of flasks and am wondering how to fill the flask without spilling, since I do every damn time. I see that my flask holds 175 mL, but I don't always have a measuring cup on hand and, admittedly, would probably be too lazy to do so if I did. Just wondering if there's any tricks, thanks!" ]

[ "pour from higher, in a very tin stream. Make sure the stream is thin enough to break apart into droplets at the bottom. Listen for the change in acoustics inside the flask and you'll know exactly when it reaches the top.", "Depending on the size of the hole, you could just put your finger into it. Then you just stop when your finger gets wet.", "• Hold it under the light and you'll see it as it is nearly full.\n\n• Listen to the sound, if you do this often, you'll notice the sound pitch it makes as it is nearly full and can then slow down.\n\n• Measure 170ml in a another container roughly and pour it from that into your flask. I know the cups at home are 200ml so can use that as a guide.\n\n• If you have scales at home, readily available, put the flask on it and then start pouring till it is ~170g heavier.\n\nBTW, your flask is very small.\n", "Put your finger/lid over the hole and shake it in order to hear how miniscule the sloshing becomes. Eventually, you're be able to gauge it. ", "I hold around the top of the container for a while, letting it warm up with my hand, then pour in whatever liquid and wait for a temperature difference to scale up my hand" ]

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[ "How to properly ask for a raise. What is the easiest way to ask without over stepping your boundaries? Hello all. Currently I work HR, since a colleague is departing I will be taking on a stressful new role. Relocation, that's right. This is only for Managers and below since Director and above are taken care of at a Managerial level. \n\nBut, with this new job the previous colleague explains the horrors it can entail. So, if I take this new role: would I be easier to ask for a Level 2 position or a salary raise? \n\nCurrently I am making enough with a lot of responsibilities and I still feel like I am under compensated. \n\nPlease, LPT help. ", "How to properly ask for a raise. What is the easiest way to ask without over stepping your boundaries? Hello all. Currently I work HR, since a colleague is departing I will be taking on a stressful new role. Relocation, that's right. This is only for Managers and below since Director and above are taken care of at a Managerial level. \n\nBut, with this new job the previous colleague explains the horrors it can entail. So, if I take this new role: would I be easier to ask for a Level 2 position or a salary raise? \n\nCurrently I am making enough with a lot of responsibilities and I still feel like I am under compensated. \n\nPlease, LPT help. " ]

[ "Asking for a raise can be tricky and how to approach it depends on the nature of the person who your asking it from. Taking on additional responsibilities is in my opinion the best justification for a raise so thats a plus. In initially broaching the subject I have found it easiest to ask not for a raise, but to \"set up a time sometime this week to discuss salary.\" That way you don't surprise your boss, he/she can have a think about what you are worth to the company. Your boss may ask some questions at that point and you can answer honestly without feeling like you are being demanding. Eg. new role, new responsibilities, eager for development but conscious of work life balance and the additional stresses upon your family. \nI don't think there is scientific best answer for how to ask for a raise. It can be a professional discussion but sometimes, I know anecdotally from friends it isn't. I can't help regarding what options you choose though, that's something foreign to me, but my best advice is to set up a meeting, not startle your boss into an answer, they will ask for time anyway.", "Are you taking on his responsibilities as well as the ones you already have, or are you moving to a different position? Did the departing colleague tell your boss he is leaving because of the difficulties? Did the departing colleague make more than you? Is it a promotion? Unless it is a purely lateral transfer, I would be expecting a raise, as most employers will always add more responsibility to an employees burden rather than take it away. \n\n\nI would also be concerned if they hadn't already talked to me about compensation if they have already said I would be getting the new position, especially if it is a large corporation.\n\n" ]

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[ "How to wake up when it's still dark outside. Or more specifically: How to not feel like crap when you wake up (when it's still dark outside).\n\nTo sum it up: \n\nWake up at 4am and the sun is up? Totally fine and I'm ready to go.\n\nSame thing but it's dark? Kill me now.\n", "How to wake up when it's still dark outside. Or more specifically: How to not feel like crap when you wake up (when it's still dark outside).\n\nTo sum it up: \n\nWake up at 4am and the sun is up? Totally fine and I'm ready to go.\n\nSame thing but it's dark? Kill me now.\n", "How to wake up when it's still dark outside. Or more specifically: How to not feel like crap when you wake up (when it's still dark outside).\n\nTo sum it up: \n\nWake up at 4am and the sun is up? Totally fine and I'm ready to go.\n\nSame thing but it's dark? Kill me now.\n", "How to wake up when it's still dark outside. Or more specifically: How to not feel like crap when you wake up (when it's still dark outside).\n\nTo sum it up: \n\nWake up at 4am and the sun is up? Totally fine and I'm ready to go.\n\nSame thing but it's dark? Kill me now.\n", "How to wake up when it's still dark outside. Or more specifically: How to not feel like crap when you wake up (when it's still dark outside).\n\nTo sum it up: \n\nWake up at 4am and the sun is up? Totally fine and I'm ready to go.\n\nSame thing but it's dark? Kill me now.\n", "How to wake up when it's still dark outside. Or more specifically: How to not feel like crap when you wake up (when it's still dark outside).\n\nTo sum it up: \n\nWake up at 4am and the sun is up? Totally fine and I'm ready to go.\n\nSame thing but it's dark? Kill me now.\n", "How to wake up when it's still dark outside. Or more specifically: How to not feel like crap when you wake up (when it's still dark outside).\n\nTo sum it up: \n\nWake up at 4am and the sun is up? Totally fine and I'm ready to go.\n\nSame thing but it's dark? Kill me now.\n" ]

[ "Light!\n\n\nYou don't need a fancy light alarmclock. Use an alarmclock with a snooze button (or use two). Half an hour before you want to wake up, your alarm goes off, you light your lamp and just keep snoozing. \nThe light of the lamp will wake you up.\nPreferrably a cold white lamp to mimmick sunlight. \n\n\nSecondly, be sure to get a nice dose of light in the morning (before noon) take a break in the sunlight at work, or at least have a bright cold white light at breakfast. If you suppress your melatonin in the morning, you get better melatonin production in the evening => you sleep better => you wake up better.\n\n\n*ninja ", "I used two methods. \n\nOne is a pint of warm water drank rater quickly. \n\nThe next was a cup of milk with raw oatmeal. \n\nDepended how hungry I was. But it worked. ", "When I went from night shifts to morning ones, the biggest thing that helped me was drinking a solid glass of water as soon as I turned my alarm off. Doing this keeps me refreshed in the morning and also kick starts your metabolism.", "For me starting the day with a cold shower is what always wakes me up. Not only the shock to the system, but its actually good for you, much better than a hot shower (look it up there's science behind this.) Better than coffee, I do the cold shower, green tea and halfway through the day another tea or a cup of coffee. Take this with a grain of salt though as I've been using this for years and have gotten used to it.", "Part of it is to just really try to get enough sleep. If I haven't had enough sleep, its hard for me to get up no matter what time it is or whether it's dark or light. See if you can work on getting to bed earlier if you have to get up that early. Tips for getting to sleep earlier - shut most of the lights off, hot shower, then get in bed with something to read.", "Eat an apple. Has some caffeine type things in it that helps you stay awake. A cold shower also helps. Start of with a warm shower and slowly cool the water as time goes on.", "\nOn a sidenote: I've heard of alarmclocks that wake you up with light (something like [this](https://www.amazon.com/Philips-Morning-Wake-Up-Simulation-HF3520/dp/B0093162RM/ref=sr_1_2_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1471255984&sr=8-2&keywords=light+alarm+clock)) would that help? I'm not ready to drop that kind of money on something which might not help at all." ]

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[ "I dropped my beard scissors into toilet bowl full of urine, how do I sanitize them? The scissors I use to cut by moustache and beard were dropped into the toilet bowl, which had urine in it and maybe some faecal fragments. I want to know how to make them clean for use again (these were a gift from my sister so I dont want to throw them out), I would estimate they were in the toilet bowl for a couple of hours. \n\n\nPlease can anyone tell me how to clean them properly as I use it to cut my hairs right to the skin so there is a small chance it may cut or break the skin which may allow germs through if the blades are not properly cleaned. (I do this rather than use a razor as I have a baby face and this method makes me look slightly older by giving me shadow in the beard area compared to looking smooth as a baby's bottom with a razor).\n\n\nThank you so much for any help.", "I dropped my beard scissors into toilet bowl full of urine, how do I sanitize them? The scissors I use to cut by moustache and beard were dropped into the toilet bowl, which had urine in it and maybe some faecal fragments. I want to know how to make them clean for use again (these were a gift from my sister so I dont want to throw them out), I would estimate they were in the toilet bowl for a couple of hours. \n\n\nPlease can anyone tell me how to clean them properly as I use it to cut my hairs right to the skin so there is a small chance it may cut or break the skin which may allow germs through if the blades are not properly cleaned. (I do this rather than use a razor as I have a baby face and this method makes me look slightly older by giving me shadow in the beard area compared to looking smooth as a baby's bottom with a razor).\n\n\nThank you so much for any help.", "I dropped my beard scissors into toilet bowl full of urine, how do I sanitize them? The scissors I use to cut by moustache and beard were dropped into the toilet bowl, which had urine in it and maybe some faecal fragments. I want to know how to make them clean for use again (these were a gift from my sister so I dont want to throw them out), I would estimate they were in the toilet bowl for a couple of hours. \n\n\nPlease can anyone tell me how to clean them properly as I use it to cut my hairs right to the skin so there is a small chance it may cut or break the skin which may allow germs through if the blades are not properly cleaned. (I do this rather than use a razor as I have a baby face and this method makes me look slightly older by giving me shadow in the beard area compared to looking smooth as a baby's bottom with a razor).\n\n\nThank you so much for any help.", "I dropped my beard scissors into toilet bowl full of urine, how do I sanitize them? The scissors I use to cut by moustache and beard were dropped into the toilet bowl, which had urine in it and maybe some faecal fragments. I want to know how to make them clean for use again (these were a gift from my sister so I dont want to throw them out), I would estimate they were in the toilet bowl for a couple of hours. \n\n\nPlease can anyone tell me how to clean them properly as I use it to cut my hairs right to the skin so there is a small chance it may cut or break the skin which may allow germs through if the blades are not properly cleaned. (I do this rather than use a razor as I have a baby face and this method makes me look slightly older by giving me shadow in the beard area compared to looking smooth as a baby's bottom with a razor).\n\n\nThank you so much for any help." ]

[ "No big deal, you touch the same urine and feces with your hands when you wash your junk and your butt while bathing, right? \n\nYou don't sterilize your hands with bleach, boiling water or rubbing alcohol, do you? \n\nI'd just wash them with soap and hot water and be done with it.\n\nIf it wasn't your urine or feces and you are freaked out about it, then add the boiling in water or bleach options to get away from the mental \"ick\" factor.\n\n", "It's not a big deal at all. Fill up the sink with hot water and hand soap to get a bubbly water mix, throw them in there for a few seconds, then rinse them off.", "throw them in a disposable coffee cup with some hot water from the tap add a tablespoon of bleach for no more than ten minutes. ", "Rinse and then soak for a while in vodka or other hard liquor, then rinse again. No bacteria will survive that." ]

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[ "I'm an engineer, going to recruit at a career fair. What should I do? I'm an engineer working in mechanical design. I will be going to a university to attend their career fair to recruit interns and full-time engineers. I've never done anything like this before, so I'd love to hear your stories. \n\n- What have recruiters done to make a good impression? Bad impression?\n\n- What can I do to calm the nervous young students who have never gone to a career fair before? \n\n- What sorts of questions can I use to bring out the best side of each candidate in the short time we chat together? \n\n- (Job seekers:) What do you wish the recruiter had asked about or told you? (Recruiters:) What sorts of indicators let you know a good candidate when you first see them? ", "I'm an engineer, going to recruit at a career fair. What should I do? I'm an engineer working in mechanical design. I will be going to a university to attend their career fair to recruit interns and full-time engineers. I've never done anything like this before, so I'd love to hear your stories. \n\n- What have recruiters done to make a good impression? Bad impression?\n\n- What can I do to calm the nervous young students who have never gone to a career fair before? \n\n- What sorts of questions can I use to bring out the best side of each candidate in the short time we chat together? \n\n- (Job seekers:) What do you wish the recruiter had asked about or told you? (Recruiters:) What sorts of indicators let you know a good candidate when you first see them? " ]

[ "I used to be a recruiter and we had this thing we'd do. We would blatantly display some type of hobby/interest in our clothing or paraphernalia. I generally wore fishing type stuff because most of the people that were doing the hiring liked to fish. If someone approached me about fishing (instead of the usual shit) I would write down on their resume what they said about fishing and THAT did wonders for them. First of all you can tell a lot about someone by their hobby and what in their hobby they like to do. Second, people with the same interests generally get along.\n\nWe would always chat about their hobbies because a biiiiiig flag was when they didn't have one. This meant they were not productive outside of work and therefore won't be at work. Trust me on this one... ever met someone who's hobby was drinking beer and watching tv? Now compare that to someone that rides motorcycles, works on cars, cooks or whatever. People with hobbies are going to be way more productive, happier and easier to get along with. The main thing I did was see if they were BS'ing the fact that they \"like to hike/travel/______\".", "Having attended my share of career fairs from the seeker side, I wish the recruiters would have spent a bit of time getting to know me and my story other than just telling me how great their company is giving my resume the once over, throwing it on their stack, shaking my hand and saying \"apply online\" or \"we'll call if we have anything for you\".\n\nRemember the people you will be talking with are more than just what they've managed to condense down to a one page resume. If you're truly interested in meeting further with someone, tell them to follow up with you after the event winds down. Most of these events seem to have an air of desperation about them and it tends to throw people off their game so what you see at the job fair is definitely not what you'll see when/if they show up to work for you." ]

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[ "How do I stop relying on paper towels? There are a lot of good reasons to switch to reusable towels instead of paper towels ... saving money, saving trees, reduce landfill waste, etc. \n\nBut I come across some really gross messes, that I just want to wipe away and toss, not smush my hands around in while I wring it out under the faucet. And I don't have my own laundry at my home, so dirty towels fester for a while before I get to the laundry. Some people can reuse a dishrag a dozen times, wiping up messes on their counter, but I always want a relatively sterile product to feel truly clean.\n\nHow can I get over this? ", "How do I stop relying on paper towels? There are a lot of good reasons to switch to reusable towels instead of paper towels ... saving money, saving trees, reduce landfill waste, etc. \n\nBut I come across some really gross messes, that I just want to wipe away and toss, not smush my hands around in while I wring it out under the faucet. And I don't have my own laundry at my home, so dirty towels fester for a while before I get to the laundry. Some people can reuse a dishrag a dozen times, wiping up messes on their counter, but I always want a relatively sterile product to feel truly clean.\n\nHow can I get over this? ", "How do I stop relying on paper towels? There are a lot of good reasons to switch to reusable towels instead of paper towels ... saving money, saving trees, reduce landfill waste, etc. \n\nBut I come across some really gross messes, that I just want to wipe away and toss, not smush my hands around in while I wring it out under the faucet. And I don't have my own laundry at my home, so dirty towels fester for a while before I get to the laundry. Some people can reuse a dishrag a dozen times, wiping up messes on their counter, but I always want a relatively sterile product to feel truly clean.\n\nHow can I get over this? ", "How do I stop relying on paper towels? There are a lot of good reasons to switch to reusable towels instead of paper towels ... saving money, saving trees, reduce landfill waste, etc. \n\nBut I come across some really gross messes, that I just want to wipe away and toss, not smush my hands around in while I wring it out under the faucet. And I don't have my own laundry at my home, so dirty towels fester for a while before I get to the laundry. Some people can reuse a dishrag a dozen times, wiping up messes on their counter, but I always want a relatively sterile product to feel truly clean.\n\nHow can I get over this? ", "How do I stop relying on paper towels? There are a lot of good reasons to switch to reusable towels instead of paper towels ... saving money, saving trees, reduce landfill waste, etc. \n\nBut I come across some really gross messes, that I just want to wipe away and toss, not smush my hands around in while I wring it out under the faucet. And I don't have my own laundry at my home, so dirty towels fester for a while before I get to the laundry. Some people can reuse a dishrag a dozen times, wiping up messes on their counter, but I always want a relatively sterile product to feel truly clean.\n\nHow can I get over this? ", "How do I stop relying on paper towels? There are a lot of good reasons to switch to reusable towels instead of paper towels ... saving money, saving trees, reduce landfill waste, etc. \n\nBut I come across some really gross messes, that I just want to wipe away and toss, not smush my hands around in while I wring it out under the faucet. And I don't have my own laundry at my home, so dirty towels fester for a while before I get to the laundry. Some people can reuse a dishrag a dozen times, wiping up messes on their counter, but I always want a relatively sterile product to feel truly clean.\n\nHow can I get over this? ", "How do I stop relying on paper towels? There are a lot of good reasons to switch to reusable towels instead of paper towels ... saving money, saving trees, reduce landfill waste, etc. \n\nBut I come across some really gross messes, that I just want to wipe away and toss, not smush my hands around in while I wring it out under the faucet. And I don't have my own laundry at my home, so dirty towels fester for a while before I get to the laundry. Some people can reuse a dishrag a dozen times, wiping up messes on their counter, but I always want a relatively sterile product to feel truly clean.\n\nHow can I get over this? ", "How do I stop relying on paper towels? There are a lot of good reasons to switch to reusable towels instead of paper towels ... saving money, saving trees, reduce landfill waste, etc. \n\nBut I come across some really gross messes, that I just want to wipe away and toss, not smush my hands around in while I wring it out under the faucet. And I don't have my own laundry at my home, so dirty towels fester for a while before I get to the laundry. Some people can reuse a dishrag a dozen times, wiping up messes on their counter, but I always want a relatively sterile product to feel truly clean.\n\nHow can I get over this? " ]

[ "1. stock up on rags. Tearing up an old sheet works great - an old sheet you picked up at a yard sale for 10c. You want a humongous pile of rags\n\n2. It's ok to throw a rag away if it's really gross. Wash most of them, throw some away.\n\n3. Use paper towels once in a rare while. You will know when. To me,\nreducing the paper towel use to something like 5% of what it was is good enough.\n\n4. Rinse a rag in the sink and hang it up to dry before it goes in the hamper.", "You know when a dishrag is really dirty (not just cosmetically dirty) because it smells. The 'damp' smell is bacteria growing on it. The best solution I've found is to nuke it in the microwave. Don't go overboard, but you want it to be steaming. That effectively sterilises it.\n\nBut you also hit the nail on the head that the issue is somewhat psychological. I'd suggest starting to consciously challenge your perceptions of cleanliness. One of my friends is a slightly more extreme case, but she deliberately touches the lids of bins and stands there touching them for as long as she can. Once you realise it won't kill you, it won't be as much of an issue. Cleanliness is as much a subjective issue of personal preference and cosmetics as it is one of hygiene.\n\n(Not saying hygiene is bad. Hygiene's good, but most 'dirty' things won't do you much harm.)", "You can microwave your rags and/or sponges for a few seconds to kill most if not all bacteria that are on them. Just don't do it with steel wool and other metals ;).", "Just stop buying paper towels and invest in some cheap wash clothes at the dollar store to use as kitchen rags. Wash them in your kitchen sink by hand and hang dry. bam, no more paper towels and using less washing machine.", "I used to actually boil my rinsed-out cloths and towels in a pot on the stove when I needed to—after chicken prep, etc. It got them quite clean. A small amount of bleach (10% solution of bleach + water is enough to kill bacteria) is also useful if you prefer. I don't like how the smell clings and gets on my skin, though, some people do. \n\nWe use 2-3 dish cloths a day. I cycle them out after every cleaning and remove all towels/cloths from the kitchen at night. ", "I gave up paper towels and paper napkins completely. It's easiest to do this if you have a dishwasher and a washing machine in your home. Stock up on rags and dishtowels (napkins if you wish), buy that big thing of kitchen sponges at Costco, and get a plastic basket/bucket to use as a hamper for for rags only. Those large bundles of cheap washcloths make good rags, I have many. The ones in the kid section at Ikea have a little loop so you can hang them to dry. We use the dish towels to dry our hands in the kitchen, that gets changed frequently. I rotate two sponges at the sink, if one gets dirty I throw it in the dishwasher. Once the sponges are old and nasty I cut them in half and use them for really gross stuff like cleaning the toilet, then it gets tossed. Keep the rags separate from the rest of your laundry, and never throw a wet rag in the basket. It will get moldy and gross. If they do get nasty just let them soak for several days in a bucket of oxiclean. (I'm not 100% paper free though, I spray the toilet with glass cleaner and use toilet paper to wipe the rim and seat, then flush it down.) ", "what i did as a college student on a budget was take at my old t-shirts i never wore anymore and cut them up and used the pieces as rags. then i would just throw them away. pretty much a free rag right there. ", "Just cut up some old clothes and use them as rags. Keep a rag bucket - we just use a milk jug, and we have a bunch of rags for cleaning." ]

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[ "Homeless Genuinely curious what collection of LPT's are out there for homelessness. How to survive. How to get help if desired. You name it.", "Homeless Genuinely curious what collection of LPT's are out there for homelessness. How to survive. How to get help if desired. You name it.", "Homeless Genuinely curious what collection of LPT's are out there for homelessness. How to survive. How to get help if desired. You name it.", "Homeless Genuinely curious what collection of LPT's are out there for homelessness. How to survive. How to get help if desired. You name it." ]

[ "Depending on your situation as a last resort you can check yourself in to a 72 hr evaluation in a psych ward. First, “3 hots and a cot”.. Second you’ll be assigned a social worker who will help you navigate the social services in your area. Lastly you may find other LPT’s, hidden psychiatric issues, effects of PTSD. Occasionally you’ll discover that there’s a reason why you might have slipped through the cracks, (so to speak) and if applicable meds and therapy to get on track. \nI’m speaking from personal experience here. A handful of stays in the ward helped me understand how and why I felt so at odds with the world.", "Varies on location but see if you can get your county general relief benefits. In Los Angeles County they are $221 a month. Then find a theme park that has a low cost annual plan, we have two options, Knott's and Magic Mountain. The meal plan and entrance fees are surprisingly low. I mean less than $40 a month. Then you have a safe and clean place to legally be, and two meals taken care of each day. Plus your spirit will definitely thank you versus hanging out with other homeless too often. Read a book, work on yourself, relax. Think about what you need to do to get off the streets. 🍀", "Also, do what you can to be admitted to a hospital in a more affluent neighborhood. It can be disheartening to find yourself alone with truly crazy people. Of which I am one.", "Find a cop about a shelter. Get a monthly bus pass. \nFind a restaurant job. And you have your start." ]

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[ "if I am not very quick witted and get an insult or called names. How should I react/answer to de-escalate and without causing embarrassment. ", "if I am not very quick witted and get an insult or called names. How should I react/answer to de-escalate and without causing embarrassment. ", "if I am not very quick witted and get an insult or called names. How should I react/answer to de-escalate and without causing embarrassment. ", "if I am not very quick witted and get an insult or called names. How should I react/answer to de-escalate and without causing embarrassment. ", "if I am not very quick witted and get an insult or called names. How should I react/answer to de-escalate and without causing embarrassment. ", "if I am not very quick witted and get an insult or called names. How should I react/answer to de-escalate and without causing embarrassment. ", "if I am not very quick witted and get an insult or called names. How should I react/answer to de-escalate and without causing embarrassment. ", "if I am not very quick witted and get an insult or called names. How should I react/answer to de-escalate and without causing embarrassment. ", "if I am not very quick witted and get an insult or called names. How should I react/answer to de-escalate and without causing embarrassment. ", "if I am not very quick witted and get an insult or called names. How should I react/answer to de-escalate and without causing embarrassment. ", "if I am not very quick witted and get an insult or called names. How should I react/answer to de-escalate and without causing embarrassment. ", "if I am not very quick witted and get an insult or called names. How should I react/answer to de-escalate and without causing embarrassment. " ]

[ "Whenever my girlfriend and I get into a fight, she always deescalate it by showing her boobs randomly.. works every time", "For office based instances the best advice I've gotten is ask the person to repeat the insult, if you do that then everyone in a meeting tunes in thinking they've missed something and the person will either repeat the insult and look really bad or cave and not repeat it", "Just raise your eyebrows and move on would be my suggestion.\n\nOr you can be me and just reply to anything that makes no sense with \"Okay\"", "Absolutely no need to react nor respond. \nIf you feel as though you simply MUST breathe more life into whatever negativity is thrust upon you, try simply saying \"Okay.\" Then continue on like it never happened.", "Took years of bullying to work this out, but bullies really hate it when you agree or are just non plussed.\n\n\"Ha ha your hair sucks\"\n\"Hmm yeah it's been a pain recently\"\n\n\"Your father smells of elderberries\"\n\"Cool, can I just use this printer?\"\n\nThis doesn't mean it doesn't hurt inside, just don't give them the satisfaction of showing it. The puzzled look on their face is the reward", "Play dumb. Insults are intended to be funny for other people but jokes stop being funny if you explain them. So, just play dumb and confused and say you don't understand - they'll either repeat it to the point it's no longer funny or explain it so it's no longer funny. Then they look dumb and will stop.", "If you can't think of anything to say, the best thing to do is just walk off and if you can't do that, just ignore them. A lot better than opening your mouth and saying something unwitty.", "Just tell them, “The jerk store called, and they want you back!” \n\n60% of the time, it works every time.", "Have a few hip-pocket all-purpose insults always on hand.\n\n“When you shake your head, does it rattle?”\n\n“What are you using for brains, cream cheese?”\n\n“Is that your breath, or did somebody fart?”", "Deadpan: \"you're hilarious.\" If you can, walk away. If not, just continue with the previous conversation.\"\n\nMost importantly: don't insult back. Just stay calm", "“That’s cool.” Then follow up with something relevant but completely unrelated to the remark. “Did you get that last email?” “Can I borrow a pen?” “Have you seen my Post-It’s?” \nThis allows them to understand that you’ve both heard and acknowledged their remark, but are utterly unphased by it. Nothing bothers a bully more than knowing that their words hold no merit.", "Just say \"I know, I am a failure\". That way you are not lying and everyone will go on with their day. Bonus: try to get out of the way of the real normal people." ]

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