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[ "How to better regulate body temperature so I don't sweat like a whore in church whenever the sun hits me. ", "How to better regulate body temperature so I don't sweat like a whore in church whenever the sun hits me. ", "How to better regulate body temperature so I don't sweat like a whore in church whenever the sun hits me. ", "How to better regulate body temperature so I don't sweat like a whore in church whenever the sun hits me. ", "How to better regulate body temperature so I don't sweat like a whore in church whenever the sun hits me. ", "How to better regulate body temperature so I don't sweat like a whore in church whenever the sun hits me. ", "How to better regulate body temperature so I don't sweat like a whore in church whenever the sun hits me. ", "How to better regulate body temperature so I don't sweat like a whore in church whenever the sun hits me. " ]

[ "Lose weight. The heavier you are, the more difficult it is for your body to rid itself of excess heat. ", "Sitting around in the AC all day deregulates your body's ability to cool itself naturally by dilating blood vessels, and sweating just enough to stay cool, instead of going into sweat overdrive-holy-shit-we-are-dying mode. Spending more time outdoors helps a lot.", "Try to breathe out of your mouth as much as you can without looking like a tard. Long exhales. Make sure to keep breathing. Your tongue is a radiator, so are your hands and wrists. If you're near a water source just run your wrists under cold water", "Tap your left temple 3 times, this should open up the command console\nNow, type in: \nTMPCTRL.temp -= (your temperature - your desired degrees in Celsius) and done.", "My best advice as a huge sweater, especially when going to new places or social situations. I always try to fill a big glass or bottles with a ton of ice and water and drink as much as I can. Has to be really cold. My rational is cooling from the inside out. Swishing cold water around mouth helps.\nI also think sweat block wipes help, I apply them to my forehead and chest and lower back. \nAlso look into Columbia brand fishing gear shirts. They are very light, have big air vents and drink quicker ", "Keeps you from being a \"hot head\" basically. Figured it out while working landscaping last summer. I usually take short breaths but I learned to breathe deeper and it seemed to keep me from bursting into sweat as soon as I got out of the truck. Plus it keeps you calm which helps as well ", "I wish I had an answer to this myself. My grandfather would sweat a lot at the least bit of exertion. My dad would hardly sweat no matter how hot he got. I sweat just like my grandfather, my son doesn't sweat very much, but his son, my grandson, sweats like I do. I've come to the conclusion that it has something to do with genetics and it seems to skip a generation. We all were born and live in the Southeastern US which makes it worse due to the heat and humidity. None of us are overweight so that isn't the problem. ", "I have a type of diabetes that means if my sugar levels are the tiniest bit off balance I sweat like a pig in a sweater. Get tested, you never know. If your lucky and it is something simple as that, its treatable " ]

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[ "How to remain calm and confident about the first day of school? I've listened to most advice, tips from many people but none of them seem to work for me.. even though it hasn't started yet school is right around the corner, 6 days left but I can't remain calm, I'm always nervous even now I am. Can someone please take the time to give me a good advice? Any thing would do.. thanks! \n", "How to remain calm and confident about the first day of school? I've listened to most advice, tips from many people but none of them seem to work for me.. even though it hasn't started yet school is right around the corner, 6 days left but I can't remain calm, I'm always nervous even now I am. Can someone please take the time to give me a good advice? Any thing would do.. thanks! \n", "How to remain calm and confident about the first day of school? I've listened to most advice, tips from many people but none of them seem to work for me.. even though it hasn't started yet school is right around the corner, 6 days left but I can't remain calm, I'm always nervous even now I am. Can someone please take the time to give me a good advice? Any thing would do.. thanks! \n", "How to remain calm and confident about the first day of school? I've listened to most advice, tips from many people but none of them seem to work for me.. even though it hasn't started yet school is right around the corner, 6 days left but I can't remain calm, I'm always nervous even now I am. Can someone please take the time to give me a good advice? Any thing would do.. thanks! \n", "How to remain calm and confident about the first day of school? I've listened to most advice, tips from many people but none of them seem to work for me.. even though it hasn't started yet school is right around the corner, 6 days left but I can't remain calm, I'm always nervous even now I am. Can someone please take the time to give me a good advice? Any thing would do.. thanks! \n", "How to remain calm and confident about the first day of school? I've listened to most advice, tips from many people but none of them seem to work for me.. even though it hasn't started yet school is right around the corner, 6 days left but I can't remain calm, I'm always nervous even now I am. Can someone please take the time to give me a good advice? Any thing would do.. thanks! \n" ]

[ "What school, I hope you aren't age 5! \n\nFake it till you make it is usually my motto. Don't act nervous, don't apologise, make sure you act confident even if it is all an act. It seems to naturally fit into place then. Depends what you are nervous about too perhaps, try and research as much as possible things like how to get around, times certain things happen, post on any subs that current classmates post on. ", "For uni student : you have to accept the fact that you are nervous, don't try to pretend something you are not . It's hard be a pretender all the time ", "This may sound silly, but I think about anything and everything that can go wrong, and then I make a plan for it. It's a bit calming to know that I am prepared. Even when I travel; I know people think I'm crazy, but just *knowing* where the American consulate is and how to replace my passport makes my trip so much better. I don't think I've *ever* had to implement my emergency plans, but it was nice to know they were there.", "Learning: Remind yourself that none of it really matters. School teaches you books worth of stuff that you don't really need to know -- What you need to know is how school teaches you how to *learn*. From that point it's a matter of actually doing the work. \n\nSocial interaction: may not be your cup of tea. That's a whole psych lesson by itself. ", "Just dont think about it. School isnt that bad and no one is better than you. Everyone is equal. Join clubs and stuff and make friends. ", "Easy, fake being sick for the first day and then continue doing that for the rest of the school year. There is no problem if you never face the problem!" ]

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[ "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n", "How to calm down/clear your mind/fall asleep quicker Right now I often go to bed and sometimes won't fall asleep for 30-60mins. My mind is usually racing thinking about work the next day or whatever else is going on in life.\n\nJust so it is out of the way my sleeping conditions are very good, don't take in caffeine too close to bed time, room is very dark/quiet, run a fan, room is cool (sleep better in cool air with blankets.)\n\n" ]

[ "Ive used self hypnosis to put myself to sleep. Its pretty easy. Essentially, relax all your muscles, close your eyes, and imagine yourself on an escalator that is going down. Calmly tell yourself by the time you count to ten and reach the bottom you will be asleep, and that with each number you will be deeper and deeper and more relaxed. Then picture yourself stepping on the escalator, and with each breath, count to ten, being sure to space out the numbers to align with your slow breathing. By the time you are at the bottom of the escalator in your imagination, you will hopefully be in a sleep like hypnotic state. It does not work for everyone, but I've used this method successfully for many years. Here's some more detail (although slightly different method) http://www.i-choose-self-improvement.com/self-hypnosis-script.html", "Read before bed or consider listening to an audiobook or the radio. I tend to listen to comedy on iplayer radio from the bbc.", "Best and easiest way to fall asleep/calm down:\nInhale slow enough to count 5 Mississippi. Exhale the same. Remember to count in your head. The counting clears your mind of those anxious thoughts, and the slow breathing reduces your heart rate. I do this any time I can't sleep or I feel really anxious/stressed and it works wonders. ", "Something that's worked for me: use earbuds and listen to an audiobook at a very low volume. I like to use nonfiction books about a subject that I'm really interested in, but would probably never otherwise learn about. Pick fascinating but often dry stuff...for me it's biographies of famous leaders, cosmology and travel journals.\n\nYou'll drift off and lose your place, but just go back until you're at a point that you remember the next night. Sometimes, the stuff you're listening to will affect your dreams, which can be a bonus.", "Lay flat on your back and think about relaxing every muscle down to the tips of your fingers and toes. Focus on breathing, inhaling and puffing up your belly and exhaling through your mouth. I find the more I focus on physically relaxing, I'll fall asleep soon before I know it.", "In one of my psychology classes, we had a hypnotist come in. It wasn't self-hypnosis, but I've used what he showed us as self-hypnosis. It is a relaxation technique. I use it when I must and it always works.\n\nThe idea is that you individually put parts of your body to sleep. You slowly move from part to part \"cleansing\" it of all it's energy. (I'm talking about actual contracted muscle energy here.) If you're doing it right, you will feel the parts of your body each settle into your bed and feel more or less dead to you. Don't move to the next body part till the one you're working on is done. You can even try it right now sitting in your chair.\n\nWhen I do it, I go: Toes, feet, lower legs, upper legs, butt, fingers, hands, forearms, upper arms, shoulders, head, and face. This should have taken you at least 3 to 4 minutes. Then you relax your entire torso while concentrating on your breathing; taking slow steady breaths.\n\nI think that part of the reason this works, is it takes your mind off of whatever madness is haunting you. I usually fall asleep before I finish my entire body.", "Close your eyes and imagine washing your car on a hot day, with a hose (no nozzle), in super slow motion. Make sure to imagine the details of the water flowing over and off every part of the car. You should be asleep in 4-6 minutes.", "Tips: \n\nYou can try to affect your circadian clocks, this can be achieved by: lowering the temperature, not eating for 2 hours before bed, and using lights with no blue or uva wavelengths.\n\ndon't use computer or tv for 30 minutes before bed\n\nTips that help me:\n\nstretch \n\nexercise\n\ntry to think about my brain thinking about my brain telling my brain to shut down parts of my brain so I can go to sleep\n\ndon't try to remember anything ", "Only use your bedroom for sleep. Don't ever watch tv or use your computer in bed. Also, wait until you are sleepy before trying to go to bed. Your body will quickley be trained to sleep as soon as you lay down. ", "I have lately discovered that when I'm struggling to go to sleep, if I try to imagine something—just about anything—with good clarity, I found myself slipping away quite quickly. I _always_ go through a sort of half-dreamy phase before sleep, usually part of a natural process. I think we've all experienced waking up from that state, even though the normal progression is to go through it into deeper sleep. (I don't know the technical terms for any of this, I'm afraid.)\n\nAnyway, one night when I had bounced in and out of that state without falling asleep for a while, due to worry, I decided to try to induce it by capturing the feeling of a waking dream, imagining myself in a place, doing some activity. Imagining it _vividly_. As I captured bits of the sensation, I actually felt that half-asleep state come over me, and within what must have been a minute or two I was out.\n\nI'm sure many have discovered this technique, and someone somewhere must have written about it and explained scientifically what's happening . . . but it's worked brilliantly for me.", "Couple of things that work for me.\n\n1. Full length Bob Ross episodes, dont even need to watch them, just listen. Just try and imagine what hes painting. This worked for about 2 months but not anymore.\n\n Used to be loads here: http://www.123video.nl/ but i think they're gone. just google them.\n\n2. ASMR, holophonic sound, 3d sound. You've probably listened to that barber shop audio thing where you can imagine where the sounds are coming from as its recorded with 2 mics. These are the same sort of thing.\n\n Try these: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RhlwwXQWV20 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JmUL87ttaZ4&feature=related\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_YStu3UDeOg&feature=related (not good if you dont sleep on your front)", "Aside from the really obvious \"smoke weed\" response, I might suggest taking some yoga classes (not yoga-fit mind you, but with m", "Try to avoid electronic devices before you wind down or turn down their brightness. Bright lights of screens can keep your mind thinking its day time and cause it to not relax.", "It's all about repeating scenarios that work for you. If you're conditioned to the dark and quiet, you know what works for you. I personally can't stand the \"silence\" because of all the random noises that I'll still listen to - heating/air conditioner, cars driving by the house, random creaks in the house itself, the wind against the windows or trees outside, etc. - it drives me bonkers to sleep like that. It probably drives you bonkers the way I sleep - same movie every night (one of a handful of designated sleeping movies, anyways.)\n\nI've looked into an expensive little wristband with a little shocker, and when you turn it on, for like 20 minutes it sends timed little shocks, then shuts off. It promised to help you sleep. Instructions for use were to wear it the same time, a half hour before bed, then after a few weeks you'll have been trained to sleep at that time. All it was doing was creating a unique situation for you to associate with sleeping.\n\nJust behaviorally condition yourself is the key. Find or create a ritual that works for you. I used to doze off while my brother played Call of Duty online, so I've oddly become trained that explosions, gunfire, airplanes, helicopters and yelling mean it's a good time to fall asleep. I actually fell asleep the first time while watching Transformers 2 at night, about an hour before my normal bedtime, because of the similar war sounds towards the end. My friends wondered how I managed to do that, and it's because I was conditioned to.\n\nYou can condition yourself to certain sights, sounds, or smells. Try washing your sheets with a different detergent than everything else, and only get in your bed (or even bedroom, if it can be helped) when it's time to sleep. I used to sit on my bed at the computer, so I had mixed associations of entertainment and sleep. When I moved to a chair, I started sleeping better. When I used a new detergent for my sheets, the smell meant dreamland. I've even heard a suggestion for couples who sleep together: when they're apart, they take one of their SO's worn (hopefully not too dirty) shirt and use it as a pillow.", "I used to have a lot of trouble sleeping, my psychologist recommended a CD to me. Basically what the CD had me do was focus on each part of my body individually by tensing up just that muscle for about ten seconds, then letting it go. It goes through right arm,left arm, right leg, left leg, scrunch up the face, stretch out your face, hands and feet, etc. Then, it plays soft music and tells you to imagine being in an air balloon and going to a place you see that's safe, they do a meadow. Puts me to sleep every time.", "Count backwards from 300 by 3's. It uses just enough concentration that it's hard to think of the other worries floating around in your brain. But it's just easy enough that you can fall asleep doing it.", "Control your breathing and slow it down, try and get a rhythm going to match your heart rate, breathe in and out within roughly 6 beats or whatever feels comfortable focus your eyes (closed of course) on the bridge between your nose and forehead, and think relax.", "A couple of tricks I've picked up over time - 1. Start with 300 and count back by 7s. It's a mental focus exercise on something meaningless that works pretty nicely to melow out the brain. I am usually asleep before I hit 100. \n2. Go through the ABCs and think of a boys and girls name for every letter. You could also do foods or nations or whatever. Again, a repetitive exercise that focuses a racing brain to slow down and sleep. \n3. Regarding muscle relaxation, I personally like to go in an arc from my right foot up my core and right side and down my left side, but you can also do it top to bottom. Go one muscle section at a time and first tighten the muscle for a 5-10 count, then release and relax. It's a great way to prepare the body for sleep.\nSweet dreams! ", "Close your eyes, lie on your back (or any other comfortable position) and concentrate on your breathing and body sensations. Watch your breathe rising and falling. Do not try to control it, just observe. In a similar fashion observe your body reactions. Again do not try to relax, just observe what you feel inside different parts of your body. Once the mind notices a tension, usually it relaxes this part of the body automatically. There is no need to force it. Your mind will invariantly wander, gently return to observing your breathe and body sensations as if nothing happened. The key is not to give up and not to succumb to your thoughts.\n" ]

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[ "What are some tools you can use to determine if someone is too far away to hold a door open for? I only ask because I feel bad closing the door on someone walking towards the door or making them run when I hold it open. ", "What are some tools you can use to determine if someone is too far away to hold a door open for? I only ask because I feel bad closing the door on someone walking towards the door or making them run when I hold it open. ", "What are some tools you can use to determine if someone is too far away to hold a door open for? I only ask because I feel bad closing the door on someone walking towards the door or making them run when I hold it open. ", "What are some tools you can use to determine if someone is too far away to hold a door open for? I only ask because I feel bad closing the door on someone walking towards the door or making them run when I hold it open. ", "What are some tools you can use to determine if someone is too far away to hold a door open for? I only ask because I feel bad closing the door on someone walking towards the door or making them run when I hold it open. ", "What are some tools you can use to determine if someone is too far away to hold a door open for? I only ask because I feel bad closing the door on someone walking towards the door or making them run when I hold it open. ", "What are some tools you can use to determine if someone is too far away to hold a door open for? I only ask because I feel bad closing the door on someone walking towards the door or making them run when I hold it open. " ]

[ "I go by the two stride rule.\n\nHowever if I feel like completely fucking with someone I'll hold it open from a mile away and make eye contact the whole time.", "If it's an old lady or someone you want to bang you hold the door no matter how far. Anyone else can open the damn door themselves. ", "I'll hold the door if I judge that the door will still be closing when the person gets to it. If the door is closing as they grab it, I feel as though I've created more work for them, so I'll hold it instead.\n\nThat or if they are carrying a ton of stuff.", "You can always act like you didn't see them. No eye contact. I'll usually keep moving, but just give the door an extra wide push open. It's the least I can do. Unless they're carring stuff, then I might stay and hold it.", "My rule is if the door has time to fully close behind me before they get there, I generally do not hold it. If it would still be closing when they get there, I try to hold it. \n\nThis does not apply to elderly people or a physically handicapped or injured person - I try to always hold it in those cases.", "If they're going to feel like they need to run towards the door because you're holding it open for them, you've probably held it a little too long. ", "A yardstick. Never leave home without one. If they are more than one headstock from the door, fuck em." ]

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[ "What are some ways to meaningfully check in with someone you haven't seen in a while? Our societal go-to is something along the lines of \"How have you been?\" or \"What's new in your life?\" These conventions have grown insincere the more we default to them. If I am genuinely interested in learning what somebody has been doing with their, what questions can I ask to gain that information and also make that person feel heard and valued?", "What are some ways to meaningfully check in with someone you haven't seen in a while? Our societal go-to is something along the lines of \"How have you been?\" or \"What's new in your life?\" These conventions have grown insincere the more we default to them. If I am genuinely interested in learning what somebody has been doing with their, what questions can I ask to gain that information and also make that person feel heard and valued?", "What are some ways to meaningfully check in with someone you haven't seen in a while? Our societal go-to is something along the lines of \"How have you been?\" or \"What's new in your life?\" These conventions have grown insincere the more we default to them. If I am genuinely interested in learning what somebody has been doing with their, what questions can I ask to gain that information and also make that person feel heard and valued?" ]

[ "You could be honest and tell them that you want to know what's happening in there life because you love them and care. No need to come up with some scheme be genuine. Honesty is the best policy. Good luck OP!!!!!!! ", "Ask about something specific in their life: sports/clubs/hobbies.\nIf you see an article or gif that reminds you of the person, share a link.\nI personally hate those starter questions (conversation fodder). It gives me nothing to respond to. :-)", "Hey stranger! \nImplies that it has been so long since connecting with this person that you feel as though you're perfect strangers." ]

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[ "How can I get better at achieving my goals? Hi everyone, I’ve kind of had an unsteady year with having to move houses multiple times and travelling a lot. I’ve been really good at fixating on things and working hard to achieve them but over the last few months I’ve noticed that I have sudden bursts of energy and motivation where I come up with plenty of ideas/goals/thing I wish to do (both in my personal life as well as professional) but then the smallest distraction happens and I find it hard to commit to them. For instance, I had a sudden urge to start dancing more, learning dance, opening a dance account etc. but then I was upset due to a personal issue for a few weeks and just kinda left it there. These disruptions keep happening and I feel like I don’t really achieve anything. How to best deal with this? Sorry if I haven’t done a good job at explaining this.", "How can I get better at achieving my goals? Hi everyone, I’ve kind of had an unsteady year with having to move houses multiple times and travelling a lot. I’ve been really good at fixating on things and working hard to achieve them but over the last few months I’ve noticed that I have sudden bursts of energy and motivation where I come up with plenty of ideas/goals/thing I wish to do (both in my personal life as well as professional) but then the smallest distraction happens and I find it hard to commit to them. For instance, I had a sudden urge to start dancing more, learning dance, opening a dance account etc. but then I was upset due to a personal issue for a few weeks and just kinda left it there. These disruptions keep happening and I feel like I don’t really achieve anything. How to best deal with this? Sorry if I haven’t done a good job at explaining this." ]

[ "Is there a chance you have undiagnosed adult adhd? That’s definitely a characteristic (lots of unfinished plans/projects). Either way, I found the book Atomic Habits a very helpful read. There are also some good adult adhd resources available with a quick google.", "My thing with goals is I need something to prepare *for*. If there is a performance, it will motivate me to commit to dancing. I wanted to start running, so I signed up for a half marathon 6 months out. I wanted to get back into guitar, so I told my family I wanted to play a few songs for them at christmas etc" ]

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[ "How to Avoid Typos I'm a good writer, but I type very fast and whenever I post something online (especially Reddit), I always find typos after I've posted it. How can I prevent this? ", "How to Avoid Typos I'm a good writer, but I type very fast and whenever I post something online (especially Reddit), I always find typos after I've posted it. How can I prevent this? ", "How to Avoid Typos I'm a good writer, but I type very fast and whenever I post something online (especially Reddit), I always find typos after I've posted it. How can I prevent this? ", "How to Avoid Typos I'm a good writer, but I type very fast and whenever I post something online (especially Reddit), I always find typos after I've posted it. How can I prevent this? ", "How to Avoid Typos I'm a good writer, but I type very fast and whenever I post something online (especially Reddit), I always find typos after I've posted it. How can I prevent this? " ]

[ "Reading out loud helps stop your brain from autocorrecting which leads to missed errors. If it's a very serious thing you can read the sentences in reverse order so your brain isn't investing in making meaning. That helps, too. ", "Read your post backwards (from the last word to the first word). It forces your brain to read every single word instead of skipping over some of them.", "This helps me a lot https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/after-the-deadline/fcdjadjbdihbaodagojiomdljhjhjfho?utm_source=chrome-app-launcher-info-dialog", "Check out mechanical keyboards for a better tactile feel, beware your wallet. I got really fast at typing and found less typos after practicing a lot.", "After you type something, walk away. When you come back, read it out loud. \n\nIf you do something else in-between it will force your brain to look at it differently when you return!" ]

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[ "Job hunting from a different city I'm living in Los Angeles but looking to move to Nashville. What are some LPTs for long distance job hunting?", "Job hunting from a different city I'm living in Los Angeles but looking to move to Nashville. What are some LPTs for long distance job hunting?", "Job hunting from a different city I'm living in Los Angeles but looking to move to Nashville. What are some LPTs for long distance job hunting?", "Job hunting from a different city I'm living in Los Angeles but looking to move to Nashville. What are some LPTs for long distance job hunting?" ]

[ "Try looking up the area's local college career websites and their job boards. Plan to crash a job fair if you can or look at the companies that will be there at the fair. They're hiring and while they're looking at the college for applicants, few will be just exclusively hiring from that college.\n\nIf you're entry level, focus on undergraduate fairs and boards. If you have more experience and are a bit higher up, check out the graduate school fairs and job websites (business, humanities, sciences, etc.).", "Network with those from the region and work with headhunters in the target area. Contact larger companies in the area likely to have employment needs. Finally, expect to spend some money on travel back and forth.\n\nWhat you propose is tough and will have added costs, but it's not impossible. Stay positive.", "Send letters to places you would like to work expressing your interest, and asking about any opportunity to get involved in the business even if they aren't currently hiring. It shows extra effort, and can help set an online application apart from the others. ", "Do not sign any long term contracts, and never feel like you owe your employer anything other than an honest day of work when you get there. Remember also that you are under no obligation to keep a job and always be looking to upgrade once you get there. \n\nAs for getting the job, many companies will accept resumes on a section of their own website. I know that at least one company I used to hire for had a distinct bias toward responses from it's website over those that came from job finding websites. The reason behind it was that the person being hired was showing that they were actually be interested in the company if they applied through their site as opposed to just being willing to take any job they could get. " ]

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[ "I started my professional career, I need recommendations Hi guys, I recently started my internship at a major company in a major global industry. I would like tips on how to pursue a career, what not to do in the workplace, books to read (how to behave at work) etc so that I can really be someone in this life! I'm working on the financial, I do not know where I can get tips on what courses I can do. Dale Carnegie's book How to Win Friends and Influence People would be a good tip? Thank you.", "I started my professional career, I need recommendations Hi guys, I recently started my internship at a major company in a major global industry. I would like tips on how to pursue a career, what not to do in the workplace, books to read (how to behave at work) etc so that I can really be someone in this life! I'm working on the financial, I do not know where I can get tips on what courses I can do. Dale Carnegie's book How to Win Friends and Influence People would be a good tip? Thank you.", "I started my professional career, I need recommendations Hi guys, I recently started my internship at a major company in a major global industry. I would like tips on how to pursue a career, what not to do in the workplace, books to read (how to behave at work) etc so that I can really be someone in this life! I'm working on the financial, I do not know where I can get tips on what courses I can do. Dale Carnegie's book How to Win Friends and Influence People would be a good tip? Thank you." ]

[ "Network. Take the opportunity to get to know head managers in different departments. You don't know if you will be offered a job in the group you are in. So, get to know heads of departments. Stay in contact with them until you finish your degree. When it comes time to job hunt, you will have people to send your resume to. ", "Show interest in the job even if you are an intern. Always be on time, if not early. Let the supervisor know you would like to work here if they can hire you.", "Figure out what your boss wants and do it completely, every day, without any sort of fuss. Be loyal and smart. If you can't be smart, be quiet. As a new person in the office, keep your interactions simple, friendly and useful. Trust that if you work hard enough, the money and recognition will eventually catch up to you. If things aren't going well, go on job interviews while you still have the luxury of being employed, and not after they whack you. " ]

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[ "How to stop giving away that I'm lying. Even when it's a super joky lie, and even to best friends, I tend to smile super hard when I lie. Anybody have this problem and a way to get over it?", "How to stop giving away that I'm lying. Even when it's a super joky lie, and even to best friends, I tend to smile super hard when I lie. Anybody have this problem and a way to get over it?", "How to stop giving away that I'm lying. Even when it's a super joky lie, and even to best friends, I tend to smile super hard when I lie. Anybody have this problem and a way to get over it?", "How to stop giving away that I'm lying. Even when it's a super joky lie, and even to best friends, I tend to smile super hard when I lie. Anybody have this problem and a way to get over it?" ]

[ "It's OK that you don't lie very well. My wife thinks it's one of my most endearing qualities. The trick is...don't lie. It makes life infinitely simpler and more pleasurable.", "just act the same as when your not lying. its not hard. if you feel like youre giving it away, you are. also, don't repeat things as if to reinforce that youre not lying, just say things once", "When you are telling the truth, try taking note of what exactly you do when your talking. Hand gestures, facial expressions, tone of voice. Try replicating these when you are lying, and with enough practice it will come naturally", "Don't lie for small things so when you have to lie for a big problem people are more likely to believe you" ]

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[ " How can I clean the grout on my tile floor and make it white again? Fiance uses hairspray in the area which I think contributes to the gunk, but I was just curious which methods you guys think is best.", " How can I clean the grout on my tile floor and make it white again? Fiance uses hairspray in the area which I think contributes to the gunk, but I was just curious which methods you guys think is best.", " How can I clean the grout on my tile floor and make it white again? Fiance uses hairspray in the area which I think contributes to the gunk, but I was just curious which methods you guys think is best.", " How can I clean the grout on my tile floor and make it white again? Fiance uses hairspray in the area which I think contributes to the gunk, but I was just curious which methods you guys think is best.", " How can I clean the grout on my tile floor and make it white again? Fiance uses hairspray in the area which I think contributes to the gunk, but I was just curious which methods you guys think is best." ]

[ "Acid. IF it's not too bad, you might try vinegar. Look at the garden center and see if you can find some 10-20% acid vinegar. But be careful.", "have you tried [bar keepers friend](http://www.barkeepersfriend.com/), that thing is amazing, a lot of professional cleaners use it.\n\n", "The easiest way is to use muriatic acid. Follow the directions printed on the package and make sure to use safety gear and work in a ventilated area. Alternatively, bleach or vinegar (the latter for a \"green\" approach) and a sturdy, compact nylon brush and tons of elbow grease will obtain the same effect. Be sure to seal the grout once it has been cleaned to keep from having to repeat the process and if this is cost prohibitive, simply wax the floors.\n\nSource: I own a cleaning company.", "I use a wirebrush and water with a tiny little bit car battery acid added. Of course you have to wear safety gloves, goggles and make sure nothing gets onto your skin. Keep your pets away and make sure you open up ALL windows because of the stench. An extreme measude, I know. But the grouts are gonna be as good as new.", "Use a toothbrush to scrub the grout with a weak solution of ammonia and water. Definitely not [this.](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mWWftNuoO6I)" ]

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[ "Which household consumables (/nondurable goods/soft goods) are worth paying extra for a brand-name product A while back I bought a name brand oven cleaner and it worked way better than the generic brand I'd been using this far. On the other hand, the drain cleaner and bleach I have laying about have a single working chemical to them so I don't see the need to buy the more expensive brand.\n\nSo, what other household consumables come in actually better proprietary formulations?\n\n", "Which household consumables (/nondurable goods/soft goods) are worth paying extra for a brand-name product A while back I bought a name brand oven cleaner and it worked way better than the generic brand I'd been using this far. On the other hand, the drain cleaner and bleach I have laying about have a single working chemical to them so I don't see the need to buy the more expensive brand.\n\nSo, what other household consumables come in actually better proprietary formulations?\n\n", "Which household consumables (/nondurable goods/soft goods) are worth paying extra for a brand-name product A while back I bought a name brand oven cleaner and it worked way better than the generic brand I'd been using this far. On the other hand, the drain cleaner and bleach I have laying about have a single working chemical to them so I don't see the need to buy the more expensive brand.\n\nSo, what other household consumables come in actually better proprietary formulations?\n\n", "Which household consumables (/nondurable goods/soft goods) are worth paying extra for a brand-name product A while back I bought a name brand oven cleaner and it worked way better than the generic brand I'd been using this far. On the other hand, the drain cleaner and bleach I have laying about have a single working chemical to them so I don't see the need to buy the more expensive brand.\n\nSo, what other household consumables come in actually better proprietary formulations?\n\n", "Which household consumables (/nondurable goods/soft goods) are worth paying extra for a brand-name product A while back I bought a name brand oven cleaner and it worked way better than the generic brand I'd been using this far. On the other hand, the drain cleaner and bleach I have laying about have a single working chemical to them so I don't see the need to buy the more expensive brand.\n\nSo, what other household consumables come in actually better proprietary formulations?\n\n", "Which household consumables (/nondurable goods/soft goods) are worth paying extra for a brand-name product A while back I bought a name brand oven cleaner and it worked way better than the generic brand I'd been using this far. On the other hand, the drain cleaner and bleach I have laying about have a single working chemical to them so I don't see the need to buy the more expensive brand.\n\nSo, what other household consumables come in actually better proprietary formulations?\n\n", "Which household consumables (/nondurable goods/soft goods) are worth paying extra for a brand-name product A while back I bought a name brand oven cleaner and it worked way better than the generic brand I'd been using this far. On the other hand, the drain cleaner and bleach I have laying about have a single working chemical to them so I don't see the need to buy the more expensive brand.\n\nSo, what other household consumables come in actually better proprietary formulations?\n\n", "Which household consumables (/nondurable goods/soft goods) are worth paying extra for a brand-name product A while back I bought a name brand oven cleaner and it worked way better than the generic brand I'd been using this far. On the other hand, the drain cleaner and bleach I have laying about have a single working chemical to them so I don't see the need to buy the more expensive brand.\n\nSo, what other household consumables come in actually better proprietary formulations?\n\n" ]

[ "toilet paper, and paper towels its not much more for the good stuff and works so much better. plus coupons are easy to come across to help lower the price. p.s. paper towels I started using viva in art school for much needed absorbency and wont go back now they are awesome! ", "one bare bones product I do recommend. From the dollar store L.A.Awesome cleaner. I have never found anything better (was recommended by our maintenance man).", "Soap. Like bath soap. Something about knockoff brands just leaves me feeling either not clean or like the soap left more crap behind than I had on me before. Dove soap all the way.", "Kitty litter. Just because it says it clumps doesn't mean it clumps. I swear I'm not a shill but god bless Tidy Cat.", "In my experience:\n\n* Toilet Paper (I shouldn't have to comment why you don't cheap out here!)\n* Bath Soap (Dove for Men is fantastic! Tried it once, never looked back)\n* Shampoo / Conditioner (Find a brand that performs well and stick with it)\n* Deodorant\n* Dish Soap \n* Garbage Bags (Buy by mil thickness)\n* Wax Paper (Tried once, never again)\n* Aluminum Foil (Thickness is the key)\n* Soy Sauce (Kikkoman or bust!)\n\n \n\nBasically, if it touches my body I stick to the name brands. I've tried less-costly alternatives, but a few extra dollars for a pack of soap or large bottles of shampoo etc is worth it if it keeps you feeling clean after you bathe.\n\n \n\nFor some products, such as trash bags and aluminum foil, the lower cost brands \"save\" by making the material thinner or giving you slightly less square yardage. Thickness with these items is often the key to durable performance, while amount in the package allows you to compare the true value. \n\n \n\nAlso keep in mind that there are differences between the major brands, other name brands, store brands, and generics. \n\n\nWalgreen's store brands (Nice!, Well, etc) are have actually been quite good in most experiences of mine, so in most cases I am ok with their products over the major name brands.\n\n \n\nSome products you just have to try yourself and see if they work for you. My example is soy sauce! It might sound silly, but brands other than Kikkoman just taste off to me, making them not worth any savings. It is easy to quantify with food as it is just a simple \"does it taste acceptable?\" but for other things like cleaners and paper towels can be a bit more difficult. When trying a different brand of any sort, keep in mind the clear goal of the product. What aspect of performance is the most critical? \n\nFor example: Is dish soap X taking longer to get the grease off? Does pain reliever Y not act as fast or as long? Do I find myself needing more of paper towel brand Z to clean up this spill?\n\n\n \n\nLastly, there are some things I will *never* buy anything but major brands on and that is if they relate to safety or my vehicle. Detection and response equipment, personal protective equipment, and vehicle health are things I don't compromise on. I'm not going to save a few dollars on equipment that could fail at key moments, protect me less, or can potentially damage a large investment.\n\nExamples for these would be fire alarms, fire extinguishers, hearing protection, tires, and engine oil.", "Advil, specifically gel caps. \n\nAcetaminophen and what not are basic and you cam use anything, but when you Jane a bad head ache you don't typically have time for the cheap stuff to kick in.\n\nAdvils gel caps work fast and work better IMHO ", "So, looking at the comments: anything that cleans (body or object) or keeps the house clean (cover, bags, pet-related). ", "I don't think there's a general rule. You just have to try things out. I will typically use the generic for a while and then buy the name brand once when it's on sale. I will upgrade only if there is a significant difference. " ]

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[ "how to start a conversation. I'm decent at carrying a conversation but I don't know how to start them, especially with new people that I don't know much about.", "how to start a conversation. I'm decent at carrying a conversation but I don't know how to start them, especially with new people that I don't know much about.", "how to start a conversation. I'm decent at carrying a conversation but I don't know how to start them, especially with new people that I don't know much about.", "how to start a conversation. I'm decent at carrying a conversation but I don't know how to start them, especially with new people that I don't know much about.", "how to start a conversation. I'm decent at carrying a conversation but I don't know how to start them, especially with new people that I don't know much about.", "how to start a conversation. I'm decent at carrying a conversation but I don't know how to start them, especially with new people that I don't know much about.", "how to start a conversation. I'm decent at carrying a conversation but I don't know how to start them, especially with new people that I don't know much about.", "how to start a conversation. I'm decent at carrying a conversation but I don't know how to start them, especially with new people that I don't know much about.", "how to start a conversation. I'm decent at carrying a conversation but I don't know how to start them, especially with new people that I don't know much about." ]

[ "It's easy, you introduce yourself so you get a name or you have someone introduce you and also get a little information about them. In this case a guy is introducing a friend to a pretty woman he likes.\n\n\"Hi, I'm Tim and this is Bob\"\n\n\"Bob works in the defense industry with Scott\"\n\n\"Oh Scott, I hear a lot of good things about him, isn't it true he's working on jet airplanes?\"\n\nNote: Notice the hook \"jet airplanes\", the object of conversation is to put yourself into the shoes of the other person and give them something to use to carry on the conversation.\n\n\"Yes he does, on battleships no less\"\n\n\"Battleships, aren't those destroyers, you mean a aircraft carrier?\"\n\n\"Oh yes, your so right my bad. Yea, those flat top ships, I'm afraid I don't know much about them. I'm into computers\"\n\nNote: See the intentional misdirection?, the changing of the topic to themselves and about computers. Now the speaker is waiting to see if the girl is interested in them/geeks or about computers as everyone has one just about and need assistance.\n\n\"Oh I love computers, I have this problem with my desktop where it keeps telling me I need to scan something or other\"\n\nGirl is thinking she can get her computer fixed for free, perhaps she will like this guy enough to invite him into her house\"\n\n\"Could be malware trying to fool you or it could be a legitimate request to do a scan that's long overdo\"\n\nGuy doesn't press the issue, but does want to get into her pants. Waits for her to see what she will do.\n\n\"Oh I think I will need some help with it, someone that knows what they are doing. Do you do this sort of thing professionally?\"\n\nGuy thinks this could go either way, she may not want to appear as a slut but then it could be a legitimate job. He really doesn't do this sort of thing regularly, but if he supplies a need she has she may want him around more often to \"fix\" her and her computer. Might get one night in the sack to see what's under that $500 dress. But a few questions first.\n\n\"I may have some time on my hands, doesn't your husband take care of these sort of technical things for you?\"\n\n\"I'm divorced again and my 18 children and their live in nanny also need their computers fixed\"\n\nGuy figures out what is going on here and doesn't want any part of it.\n\n\"Look I know a guy that's a super genius at this sort of thing, can handle the volume of support you require, here is his phone number\"\n\n\"Oh thanks so much, by the way, can you introduce me to that nice guy over near the bar?\"\n\n\"Yea sure\"\n\n\n\n\n\n", "Make an observation out loud, build off others' responses, keep prodding until you find something in common. Don't think to much about it.", "I'm a bartender so Ive become pretty good at starting conversations. IMO the best way is to start with general broad questions and then based on what they say ask them questions related to their answers. Let them talk the most, unless they are shy most people like to talk about themselves.", "This is going to sound basic, but it works nearly every single time. It's important to be genuinely enthusiastic when you do this. \n\nWalk straight up to them, look them in the eye, shake their hand - with some enthusiasm, and say hello. Then compliment something about the person you are talking to, this opens them up to you. After that, ask them how their day has been. Build whatever next question you ask off of that, and you are in the conversation, no trouble at all. ", "Just say something random and funny. \"So what brings you here?\" or \"Dude, check out that guy over there in those too-tight pants\" or whatever. But of course, if you're feeling awkward, you're not going to come off as chill. Perhaps the real question is how to not feel awkward. Center yourself in your body and be really present. M", "What has been said until now is true, but it also is both too safe and uninteresting. You want to *create* a conversation, not merely *propose* it. How else are you going to avoid awkward silences? There's something called a \"situational approach\", and while it's best used for approaching people you don't know *at all*, it's a safe bet no matter what the situation.\n\nSay something which is only valid in this moment of space and time, bonus points if you can make it snappy and instinctive. Then, get yourself immediately involved in the response, pretending that you've already had a similar conversation before.\n\nFalse starts are a thing, and they're totally normal. If the conversation dies out or is interrupted, leave it be, don't chase it. Wait a few strategic moments, even better if you can do something else (thus defining and justifying a pause), then start *another* conversation. Why? Because it may be the subject's fault if the conversation didn't last very long. It may not be, but in that case you can always pick it up another time. First, let's get to know this mystery of a person.", "It's always easier with someone by your side. Almost like it gives you legitimacy. Starting out with just a \"Hi, how are you doing?\" might sound lame, but like you said, if you're okay with carrying on a conversation, then it's all about getting your foot in the door.", "I've always found this difficult so I've developed some strategies. \n\nUse the situation to your advantage and do a little prep. For example, at a wedding? You'll never go wrong saying how nice the ceremony was or how beautiful the bride looks. Ask how the person knows the bride and groom. Ask questions as appropriate. You'll likely be asked the same question so have an answer which includes an amusing anecdote. \n\nThrow in something about the weather if appropriate. At a wedding this will always be fair game. At another event, a more summary assessment of the season will usually work. Slide into what they have been doing over the summer, plans for Christmas/ New Year, Easter, Thanksgiving etc. \n\nHave some stock questions ready. Have you had any holidays this year or plan to go away? Again, have your own interesting reply prepared. What do you do when you're not working/ for fun? This is a fab one for getting people to talk about something that they have an interest in and just prod with interested questions and most people will lap up having an audience while they talk about a hobby or interest. Have you seen (popular or talked about) film/ tv show? \n\nVery useful to read up a bit on current affairs and have an opinion. So a David Cameron receiving oral sex from a dead pig? What's that all about?\n\n\n\n", "Fun is the real deal,if u are starting a conversation with some stranger you should start making fun of them in a lighthearted way or making fun of a situation related to both of you.For ex:" ]

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[ "Preventing fogged up windshields. It seems that with cold weather or rain my car windshields tend to fog up. This can make driving dangerous. Aside from wiping the inside glass with a cloth, how can I prevent or reverse this?", "Preventing fogged up windshields. It seems that with cold weather or rain my car windshields tend to fog up. This can make driving dangerous. Aside from wiping the inside glass with a cloth, how can I prevent or reverse this?", "Preventing fogged up windshields. It seems that with cold weather or rain my car windshields tend to fog up. This can make driving dangerous. Aside from wiping the inside glass with a cloth, how can I prevent or reverse this?", "Preventing fogged up windshields. It seems that with cold weather or rain my car windshields tend to fog up. This can make driving dangerous. Aside from wiping the inside glass with a cloth, how can I prevent or reverse this?", "Preventing fogged up windshields. It seems that with cold weather or rain my car windshields tend to fog up. This can make driving dangerous. Aside from wiping the inside glass with a cloth, how can I prevent or reverse this?", "Preventing fogged up windshields. It seems that with cold weather or rain my car windshields tend to fog up. This can make driving dangerous. Aside from wiping the inside glass with a cloth, how can I prevent or reverse this?", "Preventing fogged up windshields. It seems that with cold weather or rain my car windshields tend to fog up. This can make driving dangerous. Aside from wiping the inside glass with a cloth, how can I prevent or reverse this?" ]

[ "Its been said a few times already but AC...AC...AC. My VW actually engages the AC automatically if the vent dial is turned to the windshield position. For a few days when I first started driving the car I thought I was accidentally bumping the AC button but inevitably the manufacturer made life a bit easier for me.", "Turn your defroster on, if for some reason your car doesn't have one Pwnspoon is right; cracking a window does the trick most times as well.", "Heater on full blast + a/c turned on will defog your windows. There are two factors to the fog that matter here. One is the rate of evaporation, which is directly related to the warmth of the surface. The heat will increase the rate of evaporation and help to remove the fog. The other is the rate of condensation, which is directly related to the amount of water vapor in the air. Turning on the a/c pulls water out of the air, which helps to prevent the fog from re-forming as it evaporates from the heat. ", "Turn OFF air recycle. Humidity builds up in ye carnie the AC isn't on and that is why you get fog. Turn on fan to high, set to defrost and you should be good. ", "Someone else commented something similar here, but it seems a little convoluted.\n\nIn a very tiny nutshell, the fog forms because of the mismatch in the amount of moisture in the air outside vs inside. So, if you have AC, turn it on and point it at the windshield. Make sure the compressor is on, if it's cold make it hot, as long as the compressor is on. Usually there's a little button. **DO NOT** just turn the heat on without the compressor, you'll make it worse.\n\nIf you don't have dry compressor air to hit the windshield with you have to use the air from outside. Yes, even if it's cold. After all, better to drive cold than not see where the hell you're going. ", "My main problem is during the winter I get this frosty fog on the inside, so until the car fully warms up, it can't get it to go away very well. Makes it pretty tough to see.", "Commenting so I can find this later. I hope there's some good tips. It's not always practical to crack the window in -20 weather and that's the only reliable method I know :(" ]

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[ "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?", "How to break in new shoes and avoid blisters I bought a new pair of Sperrys, and I love the old pair I have. They are soft and comfortable, and very well worn. However, I have embarrassingly delicate skin, and wearing the new pair even for an hour to break them in (with socks!) leaves me with painful blisters to pop. Any advice to bring these shoes to a state of being worn, while saving myself the pain?" ]

[ "Get the BandAid blister stick! It's a lifesaver when breaking in new shoes. I keep one in my purse just in case my shoes try to rub my feet the wrong way.", "Put on some good thick socks. Put the shoe on and blow dry them. The heat will help shape and loosen the material to your foot\n\n", "Not sure if this works for all shoes, but when I buy a brand new pair of soccer cleats, I'll wear them in the shower first. They form to your feet, and break them in, not perfectly, but it's a lot better than wearing them fresh and getting some massive blisters.", "Wear them when you're setting at a desk or a couch at home. That way you're not moving in them (and getting blisters) but you're still letting them mold to your feet. I'm doing the same with my brand new pair of ski boots (although it's because they're slightly too tight, not because of blisters, I think the theory still applies) and it's working wonders.", "i understand this won't/can't work for everyone but i have my husband (who has much bigger feet than mine) wear a new pair of shoes around the house for as long as he can stand it. it's nowhere near long enough to form around his feet but usually opens them up just enough for me, not to mention the entertainment i get from watching him prance around in a pair of women's shoes. ", "Stick with the socks for a while. Also (since I'm assuming your a pledge) don't be the guy to complain about how bad Sperrys hurt. Everyone goes through it, they hurt for a week and then you gets years of perfectly fitting shoes. ", "Plan when you're going to wear them. Running out to the store real quick? Probably not a bad idea. Going out and planning on walking a lot? Leave them at home. I made the mistake of walking about 1.5 miles in relatively new sperrys and got major hot spots on my toes. For my first pair though, I just wore it whenever I went to my friend's house. I'd also wear them with socks occasionally, and my job didn't require a whole lot of walking.", "What i used to do with my ice skates was to put them in the oven and heat it up for a few minutes so i can mould the shape better to my feet. Similar to a different comment here with the microwave, heating it up until it is toasty will be sufficient. Don't overdo it.", "Usually, people use band-aids and tape to cover the blisters.\n\nLPT: Tape your toes, heels, etc. the first few times you're wearing the shoes, so you won't get blisters in the first place!\n", "1. Take shoe. Fill plastic ziplock bag with water. Place bag inside shoe. Place shoes in freezer. Allow water to freeze. Water will expand when frozen and will stretch shoes. Freezing will not harm shoes. \n\n2. Take out after water is frozen. Check to see of stretched. Repeat if necessary. \n\n3. Wear two socks or one sock and place Vaseline on foot where blisters tend to happen. \n\n(Vaseline is good for girls who want to break in heels.)", "put ziploc bags full of water in the shoe and put them in the freezer so when the water freezes, the shoes will expand a bit ", "Soak me in water for 12 hours.... Wear fora day, perfect. They are leather and BOAT SHOES. They're supposed to be wet.", "Put a bag of water in your shoes and leave them in the freezer over night!!! The water will expand and so will the shoe! ", "From a skateboarders point of view a very good way break in new shoes (IF NOT METAL PARTS AT ALL!!!) is to put them in the microwave, not necessarily for 30 mins at a time, try 30 seconds then maybe a minute. not to long at time just to be sure nothing bad happens", "Put on good socks. Using two pairs isn't outrageous either. The inner pair will be thin and tighter to your foot. The other can be looser.", "I found that baseball glove oil helps a lot. I have some foam that you spray on, then out the whole show in the oven at like 300 degrees for 5 minutes and it comes out really soft. Forgot the name of it off the top of my head but go to your local sporting goods store and ask about it", "Best shoes I've ever had are my Redwings. I've worn them almost every day for over a year and they were comfortable from the very first day. If they hadn't been employer provided, I never could have afforded $120 shoes. They look like crap now, and I don't care. I'm on my feel most of the day in a warehouse - they are awesome.", "A good way that I found to do so is filling a ziplock bag and filling it with water, closing it up, and placing it in your shoe so that it breaks it in for you. I forget how long you're supposed to leave it, but it's supposed to work well.", "Be more careful when buying shoes? I have literally never had that problem... if they aren't comfortable in the shop, don't buy them.\n\nLots of people are bad at buying shoes it seems :D" ]

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[ "How to prove people wrong and not look like a jerk. How do you go about corrected someone who isn't right without looking like you're a dick? I work with a lot of people who get most their information from other people. If we start talking about a subject and I know for a fact they're wrong, They always treat me like I am trying to show them I am *smarter* than them. It can be about anything. It can be work related things that they are doing wrong. I correct them and they get pissed. I try to be polite, I don't do smug facial expressions or talk down to them. I want to be able to convey the information without sounding condescending or confrontational. \n\n\n", "How to prove people wrong and not look like a jerk. How do you go about corrected someone who isn't right without looking like you're a dick? I work with a lot of people who get most their information from other people. If we start talking about a subject and I know for a fact they're wrong, They always treat me like I am trying to show them I am *smarter* than them. It can be about anything. It can be work related things that they are doing wrong. I correct them and they get pissed. I try to be polite, I don't do smug facial expressions or talk down to them. I want to be able to convey the information without sounding condescending or confrontational. \n\n\n", "How to prove people wrong and not look like a jerk. How do you go about corrected someone who isn't right without looking like you're a dick? I work with a lot of people who get most their information from other people. If we start talking about a subject and I know for a fact they're wrong, They always treat me like I am trying to show them I am *smarter* than them. It can be about anything. It can be work related things that they are doing wrong. I correct them and they get pissed. I try to be polite, I don't do smug facial expressions or talk down to them. I want to be able to convey the information without sounding condescending or confrontational. \n\n\n", "How to prove people wrong and not look like a jerk. How do you go about corrected someone who isn't right without looking like you're a dick? I work with a lot of people who get most their information from other people. If we start talking about a subject and I know for a fact they're wrong, They always treat me like I am trying to show them I am *smarter* than them. It can be about anything. It can be work related things that they are doing wrong. I correct them and they get pissed. I try to be polite, I don't do smug facial expressions or talk down to them. I want to be able to convey the information without sounding condescending or confrontational. \n\n\n", "How to prove people wrong and not look like a jerk. How do you go about corrected someone who isn't right without looking like you're a dick? I work with a lot of people who get most their information from other people. If we start talking about a subject and I know for a fact they're wrong, They always treat me like I am trying to show them I am *smarter* than them. It can be about anything. It can be work related things that they are doing wrong. I correct them and they get pissed. I try to be polite, I don't do smug facial expressions or talk down to them. I want to be able to convey the information without sounding condescending or confrontational. \n\n\n" ]

[ "You ask them questions as if you are genuinely interested and genuinely considering their position. The questions are crafted to expose the flaws in their reasoning (or lack of reasoning). \n\n\"Oh, so [something]? That's interesting, but how do you reconcile it with [something else that doesn't agree with something]?\"", "First and foremost, choose your battles. When it's absolutely essential to correct them, I agree that you should phrase it gently and as if you're considering the information they're giving you (even though you aren't): \"Really? I had always thought (XYZ). Are you sure?\"", "Take jforres and megafuckers advice. pick your battles, but if you must engage someone, ask questions about their ideas and hopefully any flaws will reveal themselves, otherwise you may even find out they're not so wrong after all. But if all that fails you, and your peers ridicule you for pointing out their mistakes, remember you are like a doctor on trial at the indictment of a cook. What would he, the doctor, reply under such circumstances, if the cook were to accuse him, saying, \"Many evil things has this man done to you: cutting and burning and starving you, until you don't know what to do. He gives you bitter medicines, and compels you to hunger and thirst. How unlike the variety of meats and sweets on which I feast you!\" If the doctor told the truth he could only say, \"All these things I have done for your health.\" And the jury would cry out, and the doctor would be sentenced. But even so, they can't take away the doctor's good deeds, whether they are known to be good or not. \n\ntl;dr Don't be afriad to look like a jerk. Doing the right thing is the only thing you have control over.", "On \"doing stuff wrong\", try sharing vs. correcting. \"Hey, did you know you could X instead of Y? Saves me loads of time.\" \"Oh yeah, I've done that too - it's a pain, huh? Somebody told me to Z and I have a lot less trouble now.\"\n\nYou are sharing: you are fallible and make mistakes too, and you were fortunate enough to find something that makes it easier for you. The somebody who told you might be Google or your first-grade teacher, but you don't have to share that.", "Not to sound like a dick, but...\n\n>How do you go about **correcting** someone who isn't right without looking like you're a dick? I work with a lot of people who get most their information from other people. If we start talking about a subject and I know for a fact they're wrong, **they** always treat me like I am trying to show them I am smarter than them. It can be about anything. It can be work related things that they are doing wrong. I correct them and they get pissed. I try to be polite, I don't do smug facial expressions or talk down to them. I want to be able to convey the information without sounding condescending or confrontational. \n\n\nSorry... FTFY" ]

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[ "How to get over a girl? Details in text. I'm 21, my ex broke up with me about 6 months ago and I'm still not over it, I never met anyone who takes as long as me. The relationship was 8 months long. She's been in another country for the past 10 months, will return in a few weeks. I've blocked her from my facebook chat and newsfeed, deleted all her texts and mails, put all her stuff away. She said stuff that she misses me and so on, I told her to stop that s**t and said that I don't want to talk to her for now. I sometimes email with her parents since they really like me just like their own son and I like them too. I meet new girls and stuff, trying to move on. But still I dream about my ex and compare the girls I'm seeing to her, the feelings won't go away.\n\nWhat else can/should I do? \n\nThanks!\n\n", "How to get over a girl? Details in text. I'm 21, my ex broke up with me about 6 months ago and I'm still not over it, I never met anyone who takes as long as me. The relationship was 8 months long. She's been in another country for the past 10 months, will return in a few weeks. I've blocked her from my facebook chat and newsfeed, deleted all her texts and mails, put all her stuff away. She said stuff that she misses me and so on, I told her to stop that s**t and said that I don't want to talk to her for now. I sometimes email with her parents since they really like me just like their own son and I like them too. I meet new girls and stuff, trying to move on. But still I dream about my ex and compare the girls I'm seeing to her, the feelings won't go away.\n\nWhat else can/should I do? \n\nThanks!\n\n", "How to get over a girl? Details in text. I'm 21, my ex broke up with me about 6 months ago and I'm still not over it, I never met anyone who takes as long as me. The relationship was 8 months long. She's been in another country for the past 10 months, will return in a few weeks. I've blocked her from my facebook chat and newsfeed, deleted all her texts and mails, put all her stuff away. She said stuff that she misses me and so on, I told her to stop that s**t and said that I don't want to talk to her for now. I sometimes email with her parents since they really like me just like their own son and I like them too. I meet new girls and stuff, trying to move on. But still I dream about my ex and compare the girls I'm seeing to her, the feelings won't go away.\n\nWhat else can/should I do? \n\nThanks!\n\n", "How to get over a girl? Details in text. I'm 21, my ex broke up with me about 6 months ago and I'm still not over it, I never met anyone who takes as long as me. The relationship was 8 months long. She's been in another country for the past 10 months, will return in a few weeks. I've blocked her from my facebook chat and newsfeed, deleted all her texts and mails, put all her stuff away. She said stuff that she misses me and so on, I told her to stop that s**t and said that I don't want to talk to her for now. I sometimes email with her parents since they really like me just like their own son and I like them too. I meet new girls and stuff, trying to move on. But still I dream about my ex and compare the girls I'm seeing to her, the feelings won't go away.\n\nWhat else can/should I do? \n\nThanks!\n\n", "How to get over a girl? Details in text. I'm 21, my ex broke up with me about 6 months ago and I'm still not over it, I never met anyone who takes as long as me. The relationship was 8 months long. She's been in another country for the past 10 months, will return in a few weeks. I've blocked her from my facebook chat and newsfeed, deleted all her texts and mails, put all her stuff away. She said stuff that she misses me and so on, I told her to stop that s**t and said that I don't want to talk to her for now. I sometimes email with her parents since they really like me just like their own son and I like them too. I meet new girls and stuff, trying to move on. But still I dream about my ex and compare the girls I'm seeing to her, the feelings won't go away.\n\nWhat else can/should I do? \n\nThanks!\n\n", "How to get over a girl? Details in text. I'm 21, my ex broke up with me about 6 months ago and I'm still not over it, I never met anyone who takes as long as me. The relationship was 8 months long. She's been in another country for the past 10 months, will return in a few weeks. I've blocked her from my facebook chat and newsfeed, deleted all her texts and mails, put all her stuff away. She said stuff that she misses me and so on, I told her to stop that s**t and said that I don't want to talk to her for now. I sometimes email with her parents since they really like me just like their own son and I like them too. I meet new girls and stuff, trying to move on. But still I dream about my ex and compare the girls I'm seeing to her, the feelings won't go away.\n\nWhat else can/should I do? \n\nThanks!\n\n" ]

[ "I am slow to recover as well, but working on yourself is always the best plan. And get laid, that really does work wonders.", "Get laid. \nSeriously. This is why rebound sex was invented.\n\nThe only way that helped me get over someone was putting more distance between us. And by distance I mean other girls. A couple of one night stands and/or 1-2 week \"purely physical\" relationships and you have a whole new perspective.", "Try to think about her negative aspects...like did she really care about you? Were her friends easy to get on with? Was she good in bed? etc", "It seems to me that many people feel lost when coming out of serious relationships. I think doing some 'soul' searching to re-commit to yourself is always beneficial.", "I've been through a tough break up too and aside from getting laid, letting it out helped the most. Whenever I would think of her and all the good times we shared I embraced those thoughts and let out my emotions. If I felt like I couldnt take it and was at the brink of manly tears I would pop in some headphones and go for a walk/run around the park and just escape. Its like the other comments said, do some soul searching, try something new and get out there! Pretty soon you'll find something that you really connect with and eventually find someone else who you can really connect with too ;) its a matter of taking control over your thoughts and emotions and channeling them into something positive. Hope this helps :)", "After my first major break up I was hanging out with friends, and they musta all been tired of hearing me whine, because I started explaining the terrible thing I was going through to their roommate. \n\nI remember him saying, through a mouthful of CornPops, something that *totally* gave me perspective and was like flipping a lightswitch. \n\nHe said, \"You're a beautiful, smart, caring woman. Anyone who doesn't want to be with that calibre of person doesn't deserve them, and hence isn't worth crying over.\"\n\nAnd I thought, \"Damn straight I am. Fuck him.\" And I was over it, just like that. \n\nMaybe I'm just a narcissist, but I hope that helps. " ]

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[ "How to cool down in high humid heat? Sitting in my office at work, it's incredibly humid and I have no access to fans or air con, is there any way to cool down, serious answers please.", "How to cool down in high humid heat? Sitting in my office at work, it's incredibly humid and I have no access to fans or air con, is there any way to cool down, serious answers please.", "How to cool down in high humid heat? Sitting in my office at work, it's incredibly humid and I have no access to fans or air con, is there any way to cool down, serious answers please.", "How to cool down in high humid heat? Sitting in my office at work, it's incredibly humid and I have no access to fans or air con, is there any way to cool down, serious answers please.", "How to cool down in high humid heat? Sitting in my office at work, it's incredibly humid and I have no access to fans or air con, is there any way to cool down, serious answers please.", "How to cool down in high humid heat? Sitting in my office at work, it's incredibly humid and I have no access to fans or air con, is there any way to cool down, serious answers please.", "How to cool down in high humid heat? Sitting in my office at work, it's incredibly humid and I have no access to fans or air con, is there any way to cool down, serious answers please." ]

[ "Drink something hot. This sounds really counter-intuitive, but it works by hacking your body's own temperature regulation system. When you drink something cold, or even put cold things against your skin, it seems like a simple thermal exchange, but your body gets busy trying to warm itself up again. If you drink something hot, the opposite happens. This is why M", "An ice pack wrapped in a towel stuffed in your groin. Works great cause the high blood flow through the area.", "If you can, buy an 8oz spray bottle and fill it with water and add 20 drops or so of peppermint oil. Shake really well. Spritz on your face and back of your neck for a quick, nearly frigid, cool down. Want it colder? Keep the bottle in the fridge or freeze it the night before and pack it with your lunch. You can safely spray in on anything but mucus membranes, so avoid getting in your eyes, nose, and/or open wounds.", "I work in hot kitchens, wrapping a damp cloth around your neck so that it covers the carotid can help. The evaporation will transfer heat and help your head not feel so burny", "there are special cooling packs for necks, wrists, ankles etc that work wonders. [example](http://www.amazon.com/NeoWrap-Therapy-Wrist-Ankle-Elbow/dp/B000PGS4E8), and [another](http://www.polar-products.com/index.php?p=view_category&category_id=2). ", "ice pack under your wrist. anything cold on your wrist, even running water over it cools you down tastily. if you don't have access to water or ice packs, then spit on yourself", "Ice Packs in the armpits if the groin is too uncomfortable. Be careful if you choose to put ice in all your \"hot zones\", you can induce hypothermia if your core get's too cold, even in hot weather.\n\nI would also suggest clothing that wicks moisture from your skin, like Under Armour compression gear or some other synthetic. \nLoose weave linen shirts will help as well if you aren't sweating so much that it soaks right through.\n " ]

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[ "How do you remove mould from a shower curtain? I've tried machine washing my shower curtain in hot water and that didn't do the trick. So, any suggestions?", "How do you remove mould from a shower curtain? I've tried machine washing my shower curtain in hot water and that didn't do the trick. So, any suggestions?" ]

[ "I suggest getting a cheap (dollar store) shower liner and putting that on the inside of the shower. That way when it gets dirty/mouldy you can throw it out while still maintaining the outward appearance of a having a nice shower curtain. ", "They're not exactly expensive. Buy a new one and use a shower spray cleaner to keep mold from forming on the new one." ]

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[ "How to find a mentor as a full grown adult? So I'm 37, and would like to get my shit together, but funny enough, I have no clue where to start. I've tried self help books, I've tried going to church, I've tried a lot of different things and I just can't seem to get my life together. \n\nIs there anyway to find a mentor as an adult? I wish I would have had one when I was young, but my dad wasn't around much and I've been pretty confused with what to do with my life pretty much since forever. \n\nAny tips would be greatly appreciated. \n\nThanks!", "How to find a mentor as a full grown adult? So I'm 37, and would like to get my shit together, but funny enough, I have no clue where to start. I've tried self help books, I've tried going to church, I've tried a lot of different things and I just can't seem to get my life together. \n\nIs there anyway to find a mentor as an adult? I wish I would have had one when I was young, but my dad wasn't around much and I've been pretty confused with what to do with my life pretty much since forever. \n\nAny tips would be greatly appreciated. \n\nThanks!", "How to find a mentor as a full grown adult? So I'm 37, and would like to get my shit together, but funny enough, I have no clue where to start. I've tried self help books, I've tried going to church, I've tried a lot of different things and I just can't seem to get my life together. \n\nIs there anyway to find a mentor as an adult? I wish I would have had one when I was young, but my dad wasn't around much and I've been pretty confused with what to do with my life pretty much since forever. \n\nAny tips would be greatly appreciated. \n\nThanks!", "How to find a mentor as a full grown adult? So I'm 37, and would like to get my shit together, but funny enough, I have no clue where to start. I've tried self help books, I've tried going to church, I've tried a lot of different things and I just can't seem to get my life together. \n\nIs there anyway to find a mentor as an adult? I wish I would have had one when I was young, but my dad wasn't around much and I've been pretty confused with what to do with my life pretty much since forever. \n\nAny tips would be greatly appreciated. \n\nThanks!", "How to find a mentor as a full grown adult? So I'm 37, and would like to get my shit together, but funny enough, I have no clue where to start. I've tried self help books, I've tried going to church, I've tried a lot of different things and I just can't seem to get my life together. \n\nIs there anyway to find a mentor as an adult? I wish I would have had one when I was young, but my dad wasn't around much and I've been pretty confused with what to do with my life pretty much since forever. \n\nAny tips would be greatly appreciated. \n\nThanks!", "How to find a mentor as a full grown adult? So I'm 37, and would like to get my shit together, but funny enough, I have no clue where to start. I've tried self help books, I've tried going to church, I've tried a lot of different things and I just can't seem to get my life together. \n\nIs there anyway to find a mentor as an adult? I wish I would have had one when I was young, but my dad wasn't around much and I've been pretty confused with what to do with my life pretty much since forever. \n\nAny tips would be greatly appreciated. \n\nThanks!", "How to find a mentor as a full grown adult? So I'm 37, and would like to get my shit together, but funny enough, I have no clue where to start. I've tried self help books, I've tried going to church, I've tried a lot of different things and I just can't seem to get my life together. \n\nIs there anyway to find a mentor as an adult? I wish I would have had one when I was young, but my dad wasn't around much and I've been pretty confused with what to do with my life pretty much since forever. \n\nAny tips would be greatly appreciated. \n\nThanks!" ]

[ "Most of us older, successful adults have little time to spare. If you're affiliated with a church, you might start there (leader could suggest someone, maybe). Be careful ... I can't imagine trying to find someone to trust without knowing them a long time.\n\nI think your best bet is a therapist, like Momthegreat advised. Not a fancy psych doc ... Just a MFCW. It's not too expensive and this is what they DO. \n\nTherapy is now covered by insurance, just like medical care, which means the co-pay is low (maybe $10-45). (Assuming you're in US) It's money better spent here, getting path advice, than on nights out with your bros.", "Life coaching services exist but I have no idea how helpful they would be as I've never known anyone who used one. I think you should seek more of a therapist who can help you figure out your life and your place in our world on your own. I think it would be a lot more meaningful if you came to the conclusions you're hoping a mentor would lead you to on your own. But that's just my opinion. ", "What kind of people do you admire? Who have you noticed has their life together, or what do you think counts as having your life together? I'd follow that trail if i were you. For instance, I'm currently looking for a poetry mentor and my plan is to read a bunch of local poets' stuff, make a list of my favorites with notes about stuff they do that i want to do more of/better, and then see if i can get in touch with some of them. Obviously it's hard if your needs are more general - have you considered finding different mentors for different areas of your life that need improvement?", "Try LinkedIn: see if there's anyone there you're following or you respect (for lack of a better word) and get in touch with them. You will eventually get someone to dedicate some of their time with you and you can pay it forward after some time.", "It would help to know what you think you need to do to \"get your shit together\" cause the chance of a single other adult being able to mentor in 100% of things is pretty rare, but you can often find people 1 on 1.\n\nAs an example a few people I know have asked me for help setting up a budget. Or my husband has taught a few people to cook", "I have experienced a similar situation. I would suggest starting with cognitive behavioral therapy. If they are trained in coaching, even if it's for ADHD, they likely can help you sort some things out.\n\nThis may also assist in narrowing down what type of help you need. As it becomes more clear what you're looking for, you will have a better idea of where to look.\n\nThings like volunteering where men typically volunteer, the Mankind project, or other men's activities might also be helpful. \n\nIt can be tough to find your way when you don't get the tools you need when you're young. The most important thing is that you start working on it in some tangible way, whatever it is.", "I am a little younger, 31, but have always thought this was a great way to move things forward in my career. I think you mean more in general, life mentor, but if you get your career moving with someone in your company or industry, just asking them questions on how they got where they are today, etc, can help give you some additional drive towards a greater goal." ]

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[ "Tips for moving? Inspired by the post I saw earlier about putting hanging clothes in a trash bag while moving. I’m helping someone move this weekend and she loved that tip, so I was hoping there were more that I could show her. \n\nAny other helpful tips?\n\nThanks!!", "Tips for moving? Inspired by the post I saw earlier about putting hanging clothes in a trash bag while moving. I’m helping someone move this weekend and she loved that tip, so I was hoping there were more that I could show her. \n\nAny other helpful tips?\n\nThanks!!" ]

[ "A few off the top of my head in no particular order:\n\n***FIRSTLY, IF YOU'RE RENTING: Don't forget to take pictures of your new place before you move in and your old place once your stuff is out, in case either landlord tries to challenge you for damages. Make sure to make a record of ANY issues in the new place, and notify your landlord of them if you haven't already.***\n\n1) Pack a 'day one' box. This is the essentials that you will need and/or want on the first day, night and morning in your new place. Kettle, microwave, basic toiletries, plate, bowl, cup, knife, fork, spoon, coffee, mug, spoon, bedding, pyjamas, 1 set clean clothes etc. This box should be the last thing in to your truck and the first thing out. (Don't forget phone chargers and something to keep you entertained that doesn't require setting up - a bluetooth speaker, a book, a tablet - just in case things go wrong and you don't get time to unpack your usual entertainment system day one. We didn't have our TV set up for a week after we last moved.)\n\n2) Where possible, unload boxes in to the rooms they will be unpacked in. Don't dump them all in one room with the plan to bring them out and unpack them one by one. Stacking all of your belongings in a spare room/closet/single space will make the task of unpacking seem overwhelming, and you're more likely to put it off.\n\n3) Make a list of people and companies who will need your new address. For me, this included: Doctor, bank, loan company, employer, vet, online accounts (Amazon, eBay, PayPal etc.), house insurance, car insuranc, utilities companies, mobile and internet providers, pension provider, national insurance & tax office, driving license, dentist, opticians, store loyalty cards (especially if they post you reward vouchers) and, of course, family and friends. Once you've in your new house, tack that list somewhere visible and keep referring back to it to make sure that everybody has your new address. (Also see #15)\n\n4) For any open bottles like shampoo, conditioner, liquid soap etc., unscrew (or un-pop) the cap and take a small square of cling film (saran wrap I think in the US?). Put the cling film over the bottle lid and re-screw/re-pop/re-fasten the bottle. That extra little layer of film will help really seal that bottle to avoid spills in transit.\n\n5) Definitely purge! Just think, the less you take with you the less you have to unpack. Some great rules of thumb are the 6 month rule (if you haven't used it in 6 months, bin it) and the Kondo method which states that if an item doesn't 'give you joy' then you don't keep it. For every item that you pick up, ask yourself if it is worth the hassle of trying to find somewhere for it in your new house (and, no, hiding it in the loft doesn't count).\n\nWARNING: DO NOT CONVINCE YOURSELF THAT YOU WILL PURGE AS YOU UNPACK. I convinced myself that I would do this for three moves in a row. It doesn't work. You are so tired from moving and so done with boxes that everything you don't want just gets left in a box somewhere and probably won't see the light of day again until the next time you move. Purge BEFORE you pack and you will save yourself so much hassle.\n\n6) Definitely offer your movers water/refreshments, even if you're using friends rather than a pro company. If you can't offer them food and they're with you all day, check in and see if they want to take a lunch break (just make sure you know whether or not they will charge you - our movers were grateful for the break and stopped the clock until they got back).\n\n7) Sounds like you know this one but instead of folding all your hanging clothes, group them in to bundles and put a bin bag over them from the bottom up and cable tie the hanger hooks together. When you get to the other side, simply hang them up, snip your ties and take off the bags.\n\n8) Use zip-lock sandwich bags to organise your cables! Purge through that cable drawer (we all have one) and for any cables that you're keeping coil them neatly and put them in a zip-lock baggie. If they're for a specific thing, label them with the item name (PS2 A/V cables, Wii control chargers). If not, label with the cable type (micro-usb, ethernet, aux cables). Not only is this handy for the move itself, it'll make storing those cables SO much easier long term. No more tangled wires - just pull out the baggie with the cable you need!\n\n9) Remove furniture dents in the old carpets by leaving ice cubes on the dents. Let them melt and use a spoon to lift the fibers.\n\n10) In lieu of bubble wrap, protect plates/mugs/ceramics/breakables with clothes (or, failing that, newspapers).\n\n11) Take a picture of the back of any electronics (TV, PC, consoles, entertainment centers etc) to help remember how to set them back up on the other end. Even if you know your systems inside and out, you're probably going to be a little brain dead on the other side, and there's a chance you may ask someone else to set it up for you.\n\n12) SNACK ATTACK! Take a small basket or bag and load it up with protein bars, snacks and other on-the-go foods. Keep this on you if you can, or put it in your day-one box. Either way, make sure it's one of the first things you unload at the new place so that if you start feeling hungry or tired before you've got your kitchen unloaded, you've got something to hand to tide you over until you can get something more substantial.\n\n13) Put countertop essentials (coffee maker, toaster etc.) in a laundry basket rather than a box so you can just get them straight out.\n\n14) Colour-code EVERYTHING. This is especially helpful if you're moving with help. The best way I found was to get coloured tape or stickers and a matching sheet of coloured card and label each box with a colour per room. Tape the coloured card on the door of the corresponding room in the new house. Means that your moving buddies won't need you to keep reminding them which one is 'Bedroom 1' or 'The Study' or 'Nicky's Room' - just match the box colour with the door.\n\n15) Mail Forwarding. If you have the option and can afford it, arrange for mail forwarding from your old address to your new place. As and when things get delivered to you with your old address, contact the sender and ensure they have your new details (or cancel your info if it's spam or no longer relevant). You might also want to consider leaving a note for the next tenants at your old residence so they can reach you if anything gets delivered there for you.\n\nI probably have a few more stashed up my sleeve somewhere, but hopefully these will help get your friend started with her move. Best of luck and I hope it goes smoothly!", "Put all the things that you will need right away in a single box labelled \"first day\". That way, you won't have to remember where you put the things you need the most when starting to live in a new place.\n\nIf you have liquid containers like shampoo bottles and other stuff like that that aren't really well sealed, put some saran wrap on the opening and put the top back on. It will prevent the dripping.\n\nIf you have any child, hire a baby sitter for the day.\n\nAnd thumbs up for helping someone move :)" ]

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[ "Relax my tongue I am often told by my dentist to \"relax my tongue\" when taking X-rays. I'm not sure how to do that, and whatever I do just seems to make it worse.\n\nWhat is the best way to relax my tongue?", "Relax my tongue I am often told by my dentist to \"relax my tongue\" when taking X-rays. I'm not sure how to do that, and whatever I do just seems to make it worse.\n\nWhat is the best way to relax my tongue?" ]

[ "push your tongue against the back of your teeth, and then stop pushing. You'll know the difference between not relaxed and relaxed. Pretend its sinking slowly downwards. ", " You could relax it or take the tip and press it against your lower teeth, then slide the tip down to rest on the lower jaw. Then you can relax it there or hold it there with light pressure. " ]

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[ "How can I learn to nap during the day? My sleep schedule is pretty erratic, and I’m often tired during the day, but I just can’t sleep or nap during the day unless I’m either sick or totally exhausted, and sometimes not even then. I have a fiancée that likes to take naps and wants me to nap with her sometimes, but I just lie awake while she sleeps. Can anyone give me some tips to fall asleep and take a nap during the day?", "How can I learn to nap during the day? My sleep schedule is pretty erratic, and I’m often tired during the day, but I just can’t sleep or nap during the day unless I’m either sick or totally exhausted, and sometimes not even then. I have a fiancée that likes to take naps and wants me to nap with her sometimes, but I just lie awake while she sleeps. Can anyone give me some tips to fall asleep and take a nap during the day?", "How can I learn to nap during the day? My sleep schedule is pretty erratic, and I’m often tired during the day, but I just can’t sleep or nap during the day unless I’m either sick or totally exhausted, and sometimes not even then. I have a fiancée that likes to take naps and wants me to nap with her sometimes, but I just lie awake while she sleeps. Can anyone give me some tips to fall asleep and take a nap during the day?", "How can I learn to nap during the day? My sleep schedule is pretty erratic, and I’m often tired during the day, but I just can’t sleep or nap during the day unless I’m either sick or totally exhausted, and sometimes not even then. I have a fiancée that likes to take naps and wants me to nap with her sometimes, but I just lie awake while she sleeps. Can anyone give me some tips to fall asleep and take a nap during the day?", "How can I learn to nap during the day? My sleep schedule is pretty erratic, and I’m often tired during the day, but I just can’t sleep or nap during the day unless I’m either sick or totally exhausted, and sometimes not even then. I have a fiancée that likes to take naps and wants me to nap with her sometimes, but I just lie awake while she sleeps. Can anyone give me some tips to fall asleep and take a nap during the day?" ]

[ "Lay in bed and put something over your eyes. You may not fall asleep, but that’s okay. Try for 30-45min, and if not, try again next time.", "Watch a movie or show. If you’re tired and you try to stay awake watching something while laying down, you’ll fall asleep.", "Skip the naps and put your energy into fixing your sleep schedule. That’ll work better for you longterm.\n\nMy sleep schedule is brilliant, as is sleep hygiene. I rarely nap. Sometimes I rest but lying down with my eyes closed and listen to a podcast.", "I use an app called Pzizz. It plays nature sounds for whatever time-frame you set. \n\nI can nap in my car at lunch a knit cap over my eyes in the winter and sunglasses in the summer. Gotta get that car tan.", "A long rainfall sounds playlist on spotify, make the room as cool, dark and quiet as you can..lay back and relax, always works for me." ]

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[ "How to get a stuck plastic bottle cap out of a glass cup? It fitted perfectly, even water goes very barely inside it. \nhttps://imgur.com/a/5MN0wcq", "How to get a stuck plastic bottle cap out of a glass cup? It fitted perfectly, even water goes very barely inside it. \nhttps://imgur.com/a/5MN0wcq", "How to get a stuck plastic bottle cap out of a glass cup? It fitted perfectly, even water goes very barely inside it. \nhttps://imgur.com/a/5MN0wcq" ]

[ "Screw the bottle into the cap and pull it out. Unless it's inverted, then stab with a knife and pull it out.", "If mixing hot and cold water doesn’t jar it loose try using a key or sharp poke too to grab the thread from the cap.\nIf all else fails you can light a lighter under it till the Material is soft enough to puncture then use a hanger or something to hook it out.", "Get enough water into the glass and pop it into the microwave. The pressure should pop it right out. I've had to do it several times with baby bottle lids getting stuck in glasses." ]

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[ "How do you make friends when you get older? I just realized today that I have no friends. I have friends that I can call up to have a beer with, or invite over for a barbecue, but if my relationship is on the rocks or I need some real advice, I really don't have anyone. At all. \n\n\nI admit I have a few strikes against me in the making friends arena. First, I work in the field a lot, so I'm never really around people long enough to form those bonds like you would in an office. Second, I've outgrown all the friends I had growing up (i.e. I'm the only one without a felony), so I don't have a desire to rekindle old friendships. Third, I feel like all the people in my age group (mid 30's) don't have time for starting new friendships. The ones I know are all raising young kids, fostering their careers, etc, and they stick to their childhood buddies, again a group I let go of. \n\nI've joined a couple of clubs and do volunteer work, but it seems like they're filled with people way older or way younger. Any other suggestions?", "How do you make friends when you get older? I just realized today that I have no friends. I have friends that I can call up to have a beer with, or invite over for a barbecue, but if my relationship is on the rocks or I need some real advice, I really don't have anyone. At all. \n\n\nI admit I have a few strikes against me in the making friends arena. First, I work in the field a lot, so I'm never really around people long enough to form those bonds like you would in an office. Second, I've outgrown all the friends I had growing up (i.e. I'm the only one without a felony), so I don't have a desire to rekindle old friendships. Third, I feel like all the people in my age group (mid 30's) don't have time for starting new friendships. The ones I know are all raising young kids, fostering their careers, etc, and they stick to their childhood buddies, again a group I let go of. \n\nI've joined a couple of clubs and do volunteer work, but it seems like they're filled with people way older or way younger. Any other suggestions?" ]

[ "Social sports\nFind a hobby, find forum for said hobby, find local people interested in said hobby. Hang out and discuss hobby. ", "Making friends as adults sucks. Try other clubs, volunteer locations, or activities. Make sure it is something you enjoy doing. What are your interests?\n\nSports are good because you can join a team in your age cohort. \n\nTry to make one friend and hopefully you can be brought into their circle a bit. It takes time so be patient. New friendships are like planting a seed. You have to take care of it and foster it so it grows. If you over water it though, it will die. " ]

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[ "How to gain attention in a group when you speak at the same time as another person I frequently find myself in situations where there are 3+ people, and I'll begin to speak at the same time as another person, and it seems like every single time this happens the attention goes to the other person. I'm either left trailing off after a few words or trying to speak louder than the other person like an asshole. I project myself pretty well in a group setting too. Anybody got any tips for \"getting the floor\" in a situation where you speak at the same time as another person?", "How to gain attention in a group when you speak at the same time as another person I frequently find myself in situations where there are 3+ people, and I'll begin to speak at the same time as another person, and it seems like every single time this happens the attention goes to the other person. I'm either left trailing off after a few words or trying to speak louder than the other person like an asshole. I project myself pretty well in a group setting too. Anybody got any tips for \"getting the floor\" in a situation where you speak at the same time as another person?" ]

[ "These are how meetings go at my work, and waiting politely doesn't get you anywhere. I am the quietest one, and it sounds stupid, but I raise my hand. I even do it in social situations. People may laugh but then I get the floor, at least for a little bit.\n\nAnother thing to do, if you can move around, is put yourself in the position to steal dominance from the talker. Position yourself to the left or right of them, but facing the rest. It forces that person to turn to you, pulling them out of focus.\n\nTL;DR Raise your hand and move right in front of people. (and have something worthwhile to say)", "Use a lot of body language, don't let anyone interrupt you, start telling the entire story only when you get the attention and don't start over for those who join in too late, repeat certain expressions a lot. Also, try to get a loud, low pitched-voice as much as you can and use intonation to put emphasis on certain aspects of your story." ]

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[ "What to do during your first and last weeks of a job? I start a new job next week and was wondering what everyone thought were good things to do as you leave your current company and start with a new company. \n\nThings like filing away your job description, making sure you have references, have the phone number and address to the job, etc.\n\nI'm sure you all have great advice though!", "What to do during your first and last weeks of a job? I start a new job next week and was wondering what everyone thought were good things to do as you leave your current company and start with a new company. \n\nThings like filing away your job description, making sure you have references, have the phone number and address to the job, etc.\n\nI'm sure you all have great advice though!", "What to do during your first and last weeks of a job? I start a new job next week and was wondering what everyone thought were good things to do as you leave your current company and start with a new company. \n\nThings like filing away your job description, making sure you have references, have the phone number and address to the job, etc.\n\nI'm sure you all have great advice though!" ]

[ "Leave on great terms and kick ass at your new employer!\n\nMake sure you leaving is as smooth as possible for your old employer. If you ever need them as references or things take a 180 and you want your old job back they'll remember how great you were. Then just strive to make the best impression possible at your new job. Bring food or prepare a good joke or something to help get your new coworkers fond of you right from the start.", "I like to do a quick handover as well. Not sure what you do but if you're working on more than one thing like specific projects which will need to be taken over by the new person, just write out a simple list of where you are with each project and any really important information which should be shared with the next person.", "I just left a job last week. I emailed myself all the important tax documents I had at my work station. Pay stubs, performance reviews,ect... left on a good note. Shook everyone's hands and wished them well. They will probably be future references." ]

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[ "Moving with Dress Shirts/Suits I need to vacate my apartment in the upcoming weeks. When I moved in I was slowly moving all my shit out of my parents' house and into my apartment. Now I have to do my first en masse move, hopefully without having to iron all my dress shirts again. Does anyone have a good way to do so without shelling out for a carnet? (big closet box thing)\n\nthanks!", "Moving with Dress Shirts/Suits I need to vacate my apartment in the upcoming weeks. When I moved in I was slowly moving all my shit out of my parents' house and into my apartment. Now I have to do my first en masse move, hopefully without having to iron all my dress shirts again. Does anyone have a good way to do so without shelling out for a carnet? (big closet box thing)\n\nthanks!", "Moving with Dress Shirts/Suits I need to vacate my apartment in the upcoming weeks. When I moved in I was slowly moving all my shit out of my parents' house and into my apartment. Now I have to do my first en masse move, hopefully without having to iron all my dress shirts again. Does anyone have a good way to do so without shelling out for a carnet? (big closet box thing)\n\nthanks!" ]

[ "Wardrobe box! It's like a section of closet in a box. \n\nhttp://www.uhaul.com/MovingSupplies/category/Grand-Wardrobe-Box?id=6560\n\nhttp://www.homedepot.com/buy/pratt-retail-specialties-wardrobe-box-with-metal-hanging-bar-1001007.html#.UQlMSBG9KSM", "Assuming you have a car and your apartment isn't that far to drive, take a bungie cord and hook each end in the windows to make an impromptu hanger rod in the backseat of the car. Hang the shirts (and all your other items hanging in your closet) on the bungie cord. ", "I taped the necks of the hangers together with the clothes still on them. I use the plastic white hangers, and taped about 7 in each bundle. They were the last things I moved out, and the first things I moved in. " ]

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[ "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?", "How to nicely tell a coworker, \"This isn't in my job description\" Often at work, you're in charge of one thing. People will come to you with related jobs, sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing, and ask you to do it. How do you nicely tell them that it's not your job to do that?" ]

[ "The correct answer is: \"sure but you need to run it by my boss. My boss will re-prioritize my tasks and tell me what needs to get done first.\"", "Assuming you know that you won't be cast as the person who only does the bare minimum, I would say to them \"Sure, can you run that by my boss? I don't normally do that, and I want to make sure it's something I should be adding to my schedule.\"", "I don't say this to sound like a dick, but I've never had a boss that didn't assign a bunch of work that wasn't in my job description. And I've never had a boss that wouldn't have thought less of me for throwing the \"not my job\" routine in their face.\n\nI would recommend doing the work and shutting up about it. If it's too much then ask for help. If you hate it enough then find another job.", "The best way to say this is to say, \"I will add it to my list of stuff to do. But it may not get done for a while as I have other priorities.\"\n\nSomething like that lets them feel like you want to help. But eliminates any expectation you may have of getting to it any time soon (if at all).", "I am in IT and this happens almost daily. I usually tell people that I would be happy to help them find out who supports X and will be able to assist them with their issue. I always let them know to come back to me if their issue isn't resolved, so it doesn't look like I don't want to assist them. ", "It depends on who asks me. If it's a coworker and its a 15 minute task, sure. If it's a coworker who is asking all the time or I don't trust then I will say yes but do the task eventually not right away ", "If you know where that work is supposed to go, and let's suppose it's some guy named Joe who is supposed to do it, then try this:\n\n\"Sure, I can take a look at it - what did Joe say about it?\"\n\nThat's a good way to show your willingness to help while subtly reminding the requester that it needs to go through Joe first, and hopefully only through Joe. \n\nFreakin' Joe, man...", "Used to work at Best Buy and one time someone took a shit on the bathroom floor. My manager asked me to clean it up. Well it's actually the backroom stock people's job to clean the bathroom when something like this happens. They were all gone for the day. I told him no, and that it's not my job to do that. He had to clean it up himself.\n\nIn a more professional environment I'd probably say something along the lines of \"that's not in my job description\" I don't see anything wrong with that.", "The nice way to say it is. \"Its not my job to do that.\"\n\nPeople that will be offended by that will be offended by anything you say.", "So, I'm a male nurse.\n\nOne of the administrators (a bitch in her own right, never worked in healthcare prior to admin of the wing) asked me to help put up a planter in one of the courtyards.\n\nMind you, she asked me and only me, ignoring the other three nurses and two CNAs that were next to me at the time (all female).\n\nMy response- \"I'm sorry, I am attending to my residents, would you like me to page maintenance for you?\"\n\nSo. You can say \"NO, FUCK OFF\" so long as it is polite and you offer a solution. ", "Just tell them that you don't have time to do it because of your other work duties. If they say 'but you already do x' then you can explain how y is a whole different ball of yarn and how much more time it would take you to do that thing.", "If you're a hand laborer, especially in retail, look at your job description first. Many employers add to the job description, \"Any other tasks assigned.\" So before you say \"it's not my job\" to make sure that that is not in there.\n\nAlso just another LPT, if you want to get fast promotions and raises, try using the phrase \"it needed to be done.\" Employers love proactiveness. And when they ask why you did something that was outside your job just say it needed to be done. They love hearing that better than \"it's not my job.\"", "I usually go with \"I'd be happy to help, but things are busy at the moment so I couldn't make it a priority.\"", "* If it's a reasonable request and you have the bandwidth, do it anyway. It's less drama and people will like you.\n* \"Could you check with [person who is responsible for thing] first, s/he usually handles that.\"\n* [Minor request/not work related] \"Sorry, I'm in the middle of something.\" or \"I'm trying to hit a deadline, sorry.\"\n* [Major request/work related] \"I'll run it by [boss/manager/lead].\"\n* *(sometimes jobs they're supposed to be doing)* > Ask about why they aren't able to do it, try to find a way to address the problem they are having preventing them from doing it. Or direct it to that person's boss.", "We eliminate this where I work by including \"and all other duties as required\" in all job descriptions. =)", "Join a union-- Your excuses will be validated instantly. In fact, once they find out, you'll never get asked again.", "It's a tricky situation, and one I'm dealing with myself, so I'm interested to see if this thread grows. There's a lot of \"run it by my boss\" comments here. For me, it's up to the boss to define the roles, so you need to handball it to your boss, tell him x needs doing, and someone asked you about it, and you told them to talk to the boss. ", "I work in tech, and sometimes it's a matter of saying, \"You know, that 1-minute fix is reasonable and I agree with you completely, but let's rope in [coworker's name] on this one. S/he's in charge of that repo, and s/he could update it in the time it takes us to have the conversation. Plus, they know the ins and outs of that repo and stand less of a chance of breaking it if they change something.\"\n\ntldr; Validate their ask, then \"sell\" someone else's ability over yours.\n\n", "I used to get a lot of that in my last role from people who were to lazy or incapable of using the reporting tool we all had access to. I made a training document on how to generate simple reports, provided that and said I just didn't have enough time. ", "Doing stuff like this is why I just got promoted and a raise. Unless someone is blatantly using you and taking the cred, do it if you can. Then include it in your review.", "Ask yourself what the coworker has done for you, and double that in return. (The human mind has a way of minimizing favors that go to the \"in\" box.) After that you can suggest that he clear it with your boss, just so you don't get caught in the middle. If you're a good worker that strategy usually works pretty well. ", "hey man can you move this pipe? FUCK OFF ASSHOLE DO I LOOK LIKE A FUCKING RETARDED PIPEFITTER? fuckin foremen ", "You get a new job where people are well managed and have clear goals. Or, you accept that you work in a organically seat-of-the-pants organization where everyone pitches in.", "If you're in the public sector say 'It's not my job'.\nIf you're in the private sector say 'Sure. No problem'.\n", "I personally just have official price list\n\nIf someone willing to pay me $400 for cleaning their laptop then I will sure help.\n\nSomeone want to spend extra $1600 on workstation assembly — no problemo.", "Actually, it probably is. Look at the bottom of your job description, does it say \"other duties as assigned\"?" ]

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[ "My wooden drawers leave small pieces of wood in my clothes. What can I do to prevent/stop this from happening? I tried a drawer liner, but the adhesive doesn't stick to the wood. Also, the wood pieces are like small-medium splinters, and are coming from the bottom of the drawer. A simple swipe of my hand causes splinters to gather on my fingers. I was considering some sort of shellac/clear coat, but I don't know where to start for that sort of thing. Thanks for the help.", "My wooden drawers leave small pieces of wood in my clothes. What can I do to prevent/stop this from happening? I tried a drawer liner, but the adhesive doesn't stick to the wood. Also, the wood pieces are like small-medium splinters, and are coming from the bottom of the drawer. A simple swipe of my hand causes splinters to gather on my fingers. I was considering some sort of shellac/clear coat, but I don't know where to start for that sort of thing. Thanks for the help.", "My wooden drawers leave small pieces of wood in my clothes. What can I do to prevent/stop this from happening? I tried a drawer liner, but the adhesive doesn't stick to the wood. Also, the wood pieces are like small-medium splinters, and are coming from the bottom of the drawer. A simple swipe of my hand causes splinters to gather on my fingers. I was considering some sort of shellac/clear coat, but I don't know where to start for that sort of thing. Thanks for the help.", "My wooden drawers leave small pieces of wood in my clothes. What can I do to prevent/stop this from happening? I tried a drawer liner, but the adhesive doesn't stick to the wood. Also, the wood pieces are like small-medium splinters, and are coming from the bottom of the drawer. A simple swipe of my hand causes splinters to gather on my fingers. I was considering some sort of shellac/clear coat, but I don't know where to start for that sort of thing. Thanks for the help." ]

[ "Mine did this too for a month, it’s a antique from 1903, couldn’t find any help from looking up solutions online. I finally had an idea to sand the inside of the dresser drawers then take my vacuum and really vacuum very thoroughly to make sure you get everything out. I’ve never had a problem since", "Get drawer liners. If those wont stick, glue them the fuck down.\n\nWho gives a shit? The drawers are obviously cheap crap if they're not finished inside. Glue drawer liners in.", "line the drawers. there are different types of shelf liners (contact paper, plastic, rubber) that you can get from a dollar store which would work.", "Since DUCT TAPE can be used to solve anything, there should be a rule in r/lpt that we can't use duct tape as an answer" ]

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[ "How to refine your taste for cooking. I'm kind of a \"good\" cook, but I want to refine my taste and don't know how.. \nI want to be like \"ah yeah ingridient X would taste awesome with a bit of Y\"... Or when tasting something \"a little Z would be awesome..\"\nHope you know what I mean.", "How to refine your taste for cooking. I'm kind of a \"good\" cook, but I want to refine my taste and don't know how.. \nI want to be like \"ah yeah ingridient X would taste awesome with a bit of Y\"... Or when tasting something \"a little Z would be awesome..\"\nHope you know what I mean.", "How to refine your taste for cooking. I'm kind of a \"good\" cook, but I want to refine my taste and don't know how.. \nI want to be like \"ah yeah ingridient X would taste awesome with a bit of Y\"... Or when tasting something \"a little Z would be awesome..\"\nHope you know what I mean." ]

[ "Try a tip from the French:\n\nWhen it's practical, put one of each of the four tastes in your dishes; salty, sweet, bitter, sour.\n\nObviously if you're making a pumpkin flan this does not apply, but for most of your savory dishes it adds an additional element of flavor.\n\nAn example? Sugar in chili or pasta sauce. Just a teaspoon.\n\nAlso, learn your spices and herbs and their corresponding foods. Example? Chicken noodle soup without bay, thyme, and parsley. Without is not good. With is GOOOOOD.\n\n", "Practice. Just keep trying new things. Also, use your sense of smell. Smell things one after the other and see if you like it. ", "The best tip I can think of is try new things, one at a time, and always taste after. You can get a lot of tips from reading recipes of dishes you allready know, and seeing their variations. Almost like doing an experiment at school try finding recipes or explinations of what an ingredient is supposed to do for a dish, and then recreate in your own kitchen, tasting and reviewing along the way.\n\nTry playing with sugar/sweet and acid.\n\nTry to learn the taste of different spices, and what you associate with them. That way you know where they're a staple and where they become out of the ordinary (like cinnamon in savoury dishes).\n\nThe best way to learn if something goes together is to try it. There are many things you will probably never think of on your own, so read recipes, watch cookig shows etc to pick up tips, and then try it out!" ]

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[ "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. ", "How to get over your fear of public speaking (Student) As a university student I often have to present projects, and power points in front of my peers. Every time I get up there, my heart starts pounding out of my chest, I stutter my words, I speak way to fast, and I literally shake. \n\nI already know about the \"no one there really cares about how you do, so stop stressing\", but I still can't get over the fear. What helped you guys get over the fear?\n\nAny tips, tricks, past experiences are appreciated. \n\nThanks in advance. " ]

[ "Find a friendly face in the crowd and remember that even the Queen of England shits.\n\nI am nervous on day one of every semester, even having taught for 20 years. Take your time, speak slowly, look over the heads of the crowd and talk to the clock on the wall if you have to. Admit you are nervous, check in once in a while to see if anyone has questions or if anything is unclear, and insert a little of yourself into your talk. \"I couldn't believe this when I read it!\" Or, \"Here's something I found really surprising.\" Or, \"I'd really like to ask every student on this campus whether they agree with this or not.\" Make it a little personal.\n\nPretend you are having fun. Have fun.", "Be confident by learning every single small detail about what you are presenting. This has helped me a lot as I'm way more confident knowing I can answer almost anything the audience could potentially ask. Also practice makes perfect.", "I took a public speaking class; that helped me. But mostly what the class gave me was practice. It's slightly easier to do a presentation in a speaking class because you're focusing on the presentation, instead of both the presentation *and* the content.\n", "About 7 months ago I joined a group called toastmasters. It is, as far as I am concerned, the best way to get more comfortable with public speaking. \n\nThere might even be a club on your campus. \n\nIn the meantime, some hints. \n\nPractice, practice, practice. You MUST do this aloud in the presence of another human being. I sometimes Skype my son who lives in another city and run my speeches past him. \n\nSlow down and ", "Take a deep breath and if possible a sip of water before starting. The trick to being a good public speaker is appearing confident. If you believe you're confident, then so will your audience. Remember to maintain eye contact. If this is what throws you off, try looking at people's foreheads instead of directly in their eyes. \n\nDon't be afraid to pause while speaking to collect yourself and organize your thoughts. Pauses can be effective if used correctly, as they can help you emphasize certain points. Look at notable public speakers and see how they do it. Obama, for example. Plenty of pauses while speaking, but try not to have too many. \n\nThe overall best way to overcome your fear is through practice. I had the same problem at first but I kept going at it. You'll start off rocky, but that's natural. Practice and take note of your mistakes and how you could improve for next time. Before you know it, you'll be a pro.", "The best way to get more comfortable in front of an audience, is the same way you get more comfortable in ANY situation. Do it more. Think about the first time you drove a car, you were scared and nervous, maybe even you shook a little. Now you do it effortlessly. So it is with speaking before a group. If you want to get better at it, do it MORE. \n\nWhen preparing for a class presentation, gather some friends and have a conversation about what you're going to present. Talk about your points. Do it standing up if you can, so you get used to speaking in that posture.\n\nOnly the prepared speaker has earned the right to be confident, so make sure you know 40X more than you need to about your subject, and then immerse yourself in sharing your information.\n\nA few thoughts...", "Qualifier:\nI've stood for election. I stood for council in an highly populated London Borough for an unpopular party at the peak of their unpopularity. I've stood in front of thousands of hostile people to tell them my deeply held beliefs. My party got wiped out across the country that day, but I came second in my seat.\n\nSo let me tell you something:\n\n**EVERYONE** shakes. **EVERYONE** is terrified.\nBut those super chill guys you see on TED? They are just better at covering it up.\nWhat you are doing will appeal to your base humanity as a *dangerous* thing to do. But that is why we do such things.\nYou may not learn to enjoy the fear - some do. I never have. But I learned that I'm feeling exactly as I'm meant to be feeling.\n\nWhen I'm leading group presentations, we do dummy runs. LOADS of dummy runs. You stand up at the front in a large room and *we film it*. You get to see the film, you get to see how you actually did and what you could improve - what gave your fear away. Then you do it again. And again. And again.\n\nAnd before you know it, you're external appearance is one of composure, a collected cool mind with some great ideas to share - and the only person that realises your heart rate is soaring and you want to run away is *you*. And in time, you learn to ignore that feeling.", "1. You are just having a conversation with a group of people, nothing more and nothing less. Just know the subject you are expected to talk about as well as you do one of your own hobbies, so you can talk about all aspects of it easily - don't treat it like a speech you need to memorize. The reason being, if you think a presentation is supposed to go A-B-C, and you forget B because you are nervous, your presentation falls to pieces. If you know all the aspects and can talk about them in any order, casually and calmly, then your presentation will be seemless.\n\n1. If you get stuck, make sure you have water up there with you so you can naturally take a drink and think about what you want to say next. It's natural.\n\n2. You shake because of adrenaline. Dance or wriggle or do something to move around a fair bit just before you go up there, it will use the adrenaline rather than having it just sit in your system making you shake.\n\n3. If you have the space, and are able to, walk around during your presentation (not in a pacing/distracting way) but engage with your audience, it will also get you moving.\n\n4. Most people aren't paying attention, which actually sucks balls. So find someone in the audience who is, and have your conversation (presentation) with them. Talk to them like you would one of your closest friends. Scan once in a while to see if others are paying attention this way your teacher doesn't dock you marks for \"not engaging the audience\" as it may look like you are focused on one person.\n\n5. If all else fails, act. Being someone else can be fun. Put on a personality, pretend to be James Bond or some shit that people wont really notice you are actually acting, they will just think you are being some total badass up there nailing a presentation. \n\nCaveat - DO NOT drink (alcohol) before your presentation. I know people who have done this a lot, and they mess up every single time. Drugs/alcohol do not work like Felix Felicis. \n", "What helped me was performing on stage.\n\nBefore I went on, I'd be terrified, but because everything I was going to do was rehearsed ahead of time, enough times that I'd memorized it and could do it in my sleep, all I had to do was go through the motions.\n\nThe lighting also helped. It was so bright on stage compared to in the audience that I couldn't really see anyone.\n\nAnd going through the motions I'd rehearsed with people who quickly became my friends, unable to even see if anyone was watching, made the whole process so much easier.\n\nSo I'd say what helped me was getting out in front of an audience with material that I'd thoroughly prepared in an environment where I could complete ignore the fact that anyone was watching. Then doing that again and again until it became easier.\n\nTo this day I still get jitters before speaking in public, so it's not like the fear has totally gone away, but knowing that I can do it, that I have done it many times before, makes it so much easier to go out in front of people and speak (even if I can see them).\n\nSo sign up for a drama class. You might find that something like pretending to be a pirate burying a treasure is a lot easier to do in front of / with friends and classmates than presenting a power point to them. \n\nThen audition for a play or two. You'll probably end up performing with a few of the friends you've made in the drama class, so it'll feel more like playing make-believe with your buddies than presenting for a grade in front of a judgmental professor.\n\nAnd the more of that you do, the more confidence you'll have when in front of a crowd because you've done it successfully before.\n\nPlus, there's nothing else like getting a standing ovation.", "This one's tough, but I will say with age, maturity and knowledge you just stop caring...\n\n\n\n Try breaking the ice with a joke.", "Take an acting class for confidence/comfort in front of a crowd. Then take dance classes to get comfortable in your body. \n\nThis isn't a quick fix but these skills will serve you for the rest of your life. ", "Stop thinking of it as public speaking. You're sharing something you know with other people. (Based on the assumption you know what your talking about.)Make it a conversation if you can. Ask questions to your audience, tell stories, etc. That's more engaging anyway. ", "Social anxiety. Got in a situation had to speak and sing in front of 2,000+ people. \n When you look out imagine them as indivuduals, because they are. And as individuals they don't care if you do well or not. They identify with you. If you make a mistake they empathize .", "Practice public speaking by asking random strangers for directions, or make up a fake survey. It will help you get used to talking to people you don't know and help with the fear of people you don't know.", "Just understand that others are going to fuck up aswell. It doesn't have to be crazy good, but if there is no stutter people think you are amazing.", "I used to be in band in highschool, but conflicts showed up so I couldn't do it anymore. One time our percussion group was set to go perform in front of a bunch of teachers. (My teacher was giving a speech on how to teach a percussion class as a non percussionist, so we played some song and he would give little tips or whatever.) Anyways I figured if I mess up they might not even notice and it's not a big deal if it's one little thing. That's how I think of it and have been for speeches or anything else and it just calms me down and stops me from being nervous. Just treat a mess up as a little thing and not a big thing, but if you mess up too much you might wanna look overyour material again.\n\nHope this helps:)", "I might be a bit late... but I'm quite a shy girl in person but for some reason I kind of kill it when it comes to public speaking. It's thankfully landed me a lot of good opportunities (like jobs) so it's worth learning the skill\n\n\nThe biggest tip for me is realising that NO ONE IS ACTUALLY LISTENING!!! When you're listening to your classmates presentations, are you listening 100% of the time? Are you focused on what they're saying? Do you really give a shit if they stumbled? Can you even remember ONE speech a classmate has done?\n\nI can't. It's likely most people are happy to not have to focus for a bit and their minds are wandering. If you view yourself the way that you likely view your classmates, then you realise you have nothing to worry about. ", "Honestly this plagued me for years, I got one hypnosis session for it now I lecture a class twice a week and voluntarily present at conferences and feel fine!!!!!! Who woulda thought? I'm so grateful this worked for me! ", "Have you ever tried getting online feedback? There's a website called SpeakMeister that has free video challenges you can do where you can feedback from other users. So you could post a practice video of your presentation, and get help before you have to give it in class.\n\nYou can also get lessons/tips from professional coaches and watch lots of helpful videos on how to overcome your fears. Plus, it's a forum with Q&A and Clubs (like FB Groups), which makes it great for interacting... and there's even video chat if you still wanted to talk with people that way! Check out their specific Social Anxiety Forum here: http://speakmeister.com/clubs/6/ \n\nIf you're looking for even MORE help, SpeakMeister EDU also has paid classes you can take to learn how to improve your public speaking skills. But actually, I have a coupon to take the class for free, if you're interested! http://speakmeister.com/edu/product/master-your-public-speaking-fear/", "Fake it till you make it--literally. I have always been an outgoing person and presenting has always been a breeze for me. My one crucial tip is to be confident, even when you lose track of your thoughts. I have presented many times to hundreds of people and I will admit that I haven't always had ample time to prepare. Even if you act/speak confident about something you know nothing about, people will start to believe it--even you.\nHowever, it is always necessary to be knowledgeable about your presentation.\nOne mistake I see a lot of people do is that they will memorize a speech, input big words, and think they have it all in the bag. Then, they get asked what a sudden word is and go blank. Jargon is a no-no. No one will be impressed with the big words if they have no idea what they mean.\nBe smart and explain to me like I am a five year old. Don't dumb it down, just slow down and elaborate.\nFinally, know how to tie your visual aspect into your speech and have it flow. You can always BS why this, relates to this.\n\nAnyway, in the last few years I have been having very bad anxiety. What helps me is that I stretch before, drink water and make sure I look good. Honestly, if you look good, you feel good.\nGood Luck and don't give a fuck. Most university students don't mind a bit of nerves.\nSource: I am a uni student who has completed nationally in speech competitions/plays/musicals.", "Do it more!! It sounds strange but practice helps so much in this matter. \n\nBreath with your diaphragm, so focus on expanding your stomach when you breathe rather than your chest. This will actually bring more oxygen into your lungs reducing the sympathetic nervous reaction of fight or flight aka nervousness. \n\nOn your notes put a picture of a brother, sister, SO, anybody you feel comfortable speaking with normally. You will be reminded to speak in a more conversational tone. \n\nTurn your nervous energy into excitement, they're easily confused so if you start doing goofy things when you talk/present people will think you are just excited. \n\n\nMy credentials: Oral Communications tutor, National Debate finalist, and terrified of public speaking\n", "Start w a confession: Everyone, I am terrified of public speaking, and am quite confident that I am going to embarrass myself somehow while I'm up here. And now for my presentation...\n\n\n\nThen... Cats out of the bag, and you will likely exceed their expectations", "Practice public speaking by asking random strangers for directions, or make up a fake survey. It will help you get used to talking to people you don't know and help with the fear of people you don't know." ]

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[ "Need tips for getting over cold turkey quitting cigarettes Hey y’all. I know most people post a LPT but I’m in dire need of some LPTs. I quit smoking cold turkey last week and it’s been going okay. I have a strong sense of will and discipline. I’ve been smoking cigarettes on and off for three years. I would smoke out of joy but it became a habit whenever I was stressed or over anxious. And now I find myself stressed or over anxious from work and life and need to fill that wanting to smoke feeling with some positive actions. Any help?", "Need tips for getting over cold turkey quitting cigarettes Hey y’all. I know most people post a LPT but I’m in dire need of some LPTs. I quit smoking cold turkey last week and it’s been going okay. I have a strong sense of will and discipline. I’ve been smoking cigarettes on and off for three years. I would smoke out of joy but it became a habit whenever I was stressed or over anxious. And now I find myself stressed or over anxious from work and life and need to fill that wanting to smoke feeling with some positive actions. Any help?", "Need tips for getting over cold turkey quitting cigarettes Hey y’all. I know most people post a LPT but I’m in dire need of some LPTs. I quit smoking cold turkey last week and it’s been going okay. I have a strong sense of will and discipline. I’ve been smoking cigarettes on and off for three years. I would smoke out of joy but it became a habit whenever I was stressed or over anxious. And now I find myself stressed or over anxious from work and life and need to fill that wanting to smoke feeling with some positive actions. Any help?", "Need tips for getting over cold turkey quitting cigarettes Hey y’all. I know most people post a LPT but I’m in dire need of some LPTs. I quit smoking cold turkey last week and it’s been going okay. I have a strong sense of will and discipline. I’ve been smoking cigarettes on and off for three years. I would smoke out of joy but it became a habit whenever I was stressed or over anxious. And now I find myself stressed or over anxious from work and life and need to fill that wanting to smoke feeling with some positive actions. Any help?", "Need tips for getting over cold turkey quitting cigarettes Hey y’all. I know most people post a LPT but I’m in dire need of some LPTs. I quit smoking cold turkey last week and it’s been going okay. I have a strong sense of will and discipline. I’ve been smoking cigarettes on and off for three years. I would smoke out of joy but it became a habit whenever I was stressed or over anxious. And now I find myself stressed or over anxious from work and life and need to fill that wanting to smoke feeling with some positive actions. Any help?", "Need tips for getting over cold turkey quitting cigarettes Hey y’all. I know most people post a LPT but I’m in dire need of some LPTs. I quit smoking cold turkey last week and it’s been going okay. I have a strong sense of will and discipline. I’ve been smoking cigarettes on and off for three years. I would smoke out of joy but it became a habit whenever I was stressed or over anxious. And now I find myself stressed or over anxious from work and life and need to fill that wanting to smoke feeling with some positive actions. Any help?", "Need tips for getting over cold turkey quitting cigarettes Hey y’all. I know most people post a LPT but I’m in dire need of some LPTs. I quit smoking cold turkey last week and it’s been going okay. I have a strong sense of will and discipline. I’ve been smoking cigarettes on and off for three years. I would smoke out of joy but it became a habit whenever I was stressed or over anxious. And now I find myself stressed or over anxious from work and life and need to fill that wanting to smoke feeling with some positive actions. Any help?", "Need tips for getting over cold turkey quitting cigarettes Hey y’all. I know most people post a LPT but I’m in dire need of some LPTs. I quit smoking cold turkey last week and it’s been going okay. I have a strong sense of will and discipline. I’ve been smoking cigarettes on and off for three years. I would smoke out of joy but it became a habit whenever I was stressed or over anxious. And now I find myself stressed or over anxious from work and life and need to fill that wanting to smoke feeling with some positive actions. Any help?", "Need tips for getting over cold turkey quitting cigarettes Hey y’all. I know most people post a LPT but I’m in dire need of some LPTs. I quit smoking cold turkey last week and it’s been going okay. I have a strong sense of will and discipline. I’ve been smoking cigarettes on and off for three years. I would smoke out of joy but it became a habit whenever I was stressed or over anxious. And now I find myself stressed or over anxious from work and life and need to fill that wanting to smoke feeling with some positive actions. Any help?", "Need tips for getting over cold turkey quitting cigarettes Hey y’all. I know most people post a LPT but I’m in dire need of some LPTs. I quit smoking cold turkey last week and it’s been going okay. I have a strong sense of will and discipline. I’ve been smoking cigarettes on and off for three years. I would smoke out of joy but it became a habit whenever I was stressed or over anxious. And now I find myself stressed or over anxious from work and life and need to fill that wanting to smoke feeling with some positive actions. Any help?", "Need tips for getting over cold turkey quitting cigarettes Hey y’all. I know most people post a LPT but I’m in dire need of some LPTs. I quit smoking cold turkey last week and it’s been going okay. I have a strong sense of will and discipline. I’ve been smoking cigarettes on and off for three years. I would smoke out of joy but it became a habit whenever I was stressed or over anxious. And now I find myself stressed or over anxious from work and life and need to fill that wanting to smoke feeling with some positive actions. Any help?", "Need tips for getting over cold turkey quitting cigarettes Hey y’all. I know most people post a LPT but I’m in dire need of some LPTs. I quit smoking cold turkey last week and it’s been going okay. I have a strong sense of will and discipline. I’ve been smoking cigarettes on and off for three years. I would smoke out of joy but it became a habit whenever I was stressed or over anxious. And now I find myself stressed or over anxious from work and life and need to fill that wanting to smoke feeling with some positive actions. Any help?" ]

[ "If you smoked in car, get it detailed. I found the lingering smells could be triggers for me. If you still have friends that smoke, don’t hang with them for a while. Tell people you used to smoke with, co-workers to not let you bum smokes. If you have a partner have them smell check you when you get home. If you lapse and buy a pack, take one smoke out of pack and throw the rest away before you smoke it, you will want more instantly. \n\nGood luck you got this!", "i quit cold turkey ten months ago today after smoking for 8 years. the first 2.5 weeks are the hardest BY FAR. so, youre already halfway over the hump! i have read that using NRT makes things easier and lessens anxiety etc. otherwise, i kind of isolated myself as much as possible because i was beyond irritable. i took up walking to get rid of nervous energy & distracted myself with dumb reality tv shows. i also took up guided m", "Sorry, I don't have any tips, unfortunately. But, I wonder if you'd mind me sharing my stopping smoking.\n\nI started smoking at 14yrs old, several a day. Max 20 a day. I'm now 44 and have \"quit\" from 2010ish. I don't remember when exactly, and I'll try to explain why. This will sound odd and contradictory, but it is what it is.\n\nI stopped smoking by not stopping, or by not committing to stopping. I had no expectations for myself. I just went cold turkey one day. No rationing. No deadlines. No rules. In fact, I haven't really stopped. I am in fact a smoker who smokes as and when it suits me. I go years without smoking, then I'll smoke three. I'll go months and smoke one. The last smoke I had was over year ago. The longest I went without was 4 years. It may be another 4 before I have another. No promises. No rules.\n\nI don't feel guilty cause I never planned it. Never announced it. Never committed. I am a smoker who isn't smoking at present. As for the cravings, and this is probably just idiot me, I have never really discussed it with anyone, I kinda enjoyed the cravings. Enjoy it still. They longer I go without one, it's even more pleasurable when I have one. Especially a hand rolled one.\n\nThis attitude, I do not recommend for anyone quitting. It's just my story.", "FWIW I had tried several times to quit, (after smoking for 20 years) the last time, the owner of a cigar/paraphernalia shop gave me a concoction of catnip and other herbs to smoke instead of cigarettes. I would smoke that (had to roll my own) and after a couple weeks, I was thinking, why am I smoking this crap, and haven't smoked since.\nthe herbs weren't exactly like smoking cigarettes other than it gave me the inhalation of the smoke, which was my biggest problem with quitting.", "One thing that helped me a lot to quit smoking was CBD. It really helped to offset the mood swings, irritability, and nervousness that comes with quitting smoking. I'd take a few drops of CBD in the morning, and carry the bottle with me in case I had the urge (Most of the time it was unnecessary though). That, combined with gum, and I was good as gold.", "I quit when my father was diagnosed with throat cancer. I know it sounds trite and may not be helpful to everyone... but read about laryngeal / esophageal cancer, save a photo of a stoma to your phone background, look up what happens to feet when someone has poor circulation due to peripheral artery disease, print up some pages from cancer support message boards where they discuss bone loss or not being able to swallow.\n\nFor me, once I truly accepted that any single cigarette could be the one that would cause that much pain and suffering (to myself and to my family), I was able to white knuckle through the physical cravings. And when I was feeling like I didn’t give a shit about anything besides a cigarette, I’d use the photo or screenshot to remind myself that I did actually care. I know it’s exploitative and not kind to use other peoples’ pain as a tool in that manner... but hopefully they’d forgive me for doing it.\n\nAfter a couple weeks it got a lot easier. After a few months I couldn’t even stand the smell. Now I’ve been about 7 years cigarette-free.", "Wash your hands or self groom when you want to smoke. It’s a scented, few minute exercise that can relax you, if you find a habit you really enjoy. Maybe gargling mouthwash? Whatever you think is relaxing/fun/distracting enough.", "One thing that helped me stop was whenever I had the desire to smoke, I would do something positive for myself like tinker with my resume or do 10 push ups and then I’d reward myself with a treat 😉", "Ok I'll probably be buried at the bottom but here goes - do a water fast or dry fast if you can. Cuts short your withdrawal and is much easier as you don't replace one addiction with another.\n\nAlso going for things like saunas (don't do it if you're fasting, unless under supervision). Helps get the toxins out- it's believed that some toxins are excreted by sweat much faster. If you're fasting you can try mildly sweating.", "I've had to quit smoking at multiple times in my life for various reasons and two methods have always worked for me. Method #1. There's usually at least once a year I get sick when I smoke so I wait until I get sick. When I'm sick I don't have the real craving anymore, just the habit. I tell myself to wait 6 minutes. Afterwards the craving is no where to be found until the next craving. By working incrementally I give myself an easily accomplishable goal.\n\nMethod #2 is having me go to a steam room for quite a few hours (not all at once, remember to be safe and hydrate) to sweat out all the nicotine. After you work up a really good sweat ignore the cravings (if any) you have for the rest of the day and then no more cravings or other withdrawal symptoms. After that it's just a matter of breaking your psychological conditioning about it. When you dissect your own behavior patterns you will quickly notice you have triggering behaviors that make you want to have a cigarette. Almost akin to eating when you're bored.", "I quit 8 years ago, i replaced with water. Every time my brain asked for nicotine i gave it water. Carry a bottle everywhere. It will help you with anxiety so much", "Don’t neglect the hands. Give them something to do because you won’t be holding a cigarette any more. It doesn’t take long before all the nicotine is out of your body. So its stuff like popping in a piece of candy in your mouth and doing something with your hands. Listen to a m" ]

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[ "How do I improve my maths skills? We're learning equations (7th grade by the way) and I legit suck at it. What's the most efficient way to practice and what are some good tips for equations and maths? Thanks alot ", "How do I improve my maths skills? We're learning equations (7th grade by the way) and I legit suck at it. What's the most efficient way to practice and what are some good tips for equations and maths? Thanks alot ", "How do I improve my maths skills? We're learning equations (7th grade by the way) and I legit suck at it. What's the most efficient way to practice and what are some good tips for equations and maths? Thanks alot ", "How do I improve my maths skills? We're learning equations (7th grade by the way) and I legit suck at it. What's the most efficient way to practice and what are some good tips for equations and maths? Thanks alot ", "How do I improve my maths skills? We're learning equations (7th grade by the way) and I legit suck at it. What's the most efficient way to practice and what are some good tips for equations and maths? Thanks alot " ]

[ "breaking things down and using a mental chalkboard.\n\nbtw it seems like the way they teach math now a days is confusing as hell and makes no sense. Says a 26 yr old. There is some new method for multiplying numbers? I remember looking at it once and thinking wtf.\n\n\nthis is my math method, which seems to make things easier\n\n24 x 16 =\n\n- 20 x 16 = 320...which comes from 2 x 16 = 32, but since it was 20 and not 2, add a zero\n\nthat leave you with\n\n- 4 x 16 = 64..which comes from 4 x 10 = 40 plus 4 x 6 = 24\n\nso then you add the two totals together, 320 + 64 = 384\n\n- 24 x 16 = 384\n\n\n\nbreaking problems down into numbers you can do and adding them up helps tons. At my age, its sickening how many people cannot do basic math in their head. It seems like after HS, if your job doesnt require it, then forget it seems to be the mentality. I would have thought it was common knowledge how to at least multiply two 2 digit numbers together.", "Have you checked out [Khan Academy?](https://www.khanacademy.org/) If you haven't, you should.\n\nA couple of years ago I decided to clear up some math stuff that never made sense and that site was instrumental. There's math for all levels too, so you can study ahead once you learn what you need to.", "Visualize everything in terms of math if you want practice. Otherwise, the best idea is to try and simplify things down as much as possible. As someone else was saying about 2 digit numbers, don't try to multiply ex. 43 x 79, break it down into something simpler, if anything. This could be approached multiple ways. I'd personally try to make the 79 an 80 for this problem and subtract 43 at the end. 8x4 = 32. x 10 = 320 x 10 = 3200. 8x3 = 24 x 10 = 240. 3200 + 240 = 3440 - 43 = 3397.\n ", "Just pratice it. Do more and more exercises. If you have a lot of difficulties ask someone to teach you, some friend that understands it better than you, your teacher.. ", "For anyone who cannot comprehend math very well, there is a chance they may have dyscalculia. Hardly anyone hears about it because dyslexia gets all the attention, but there is a mathematical learning disability as well. " ]

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[ "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?", "How to clear throat with a cold. I haven't eaten in three days, and have a blocked nose and phlegm in my throat. How to get rid of this?" ]

[ "Try a fishermans friends. I have a runny nose every morning and as soon as I take one, it instantly gets cleared out.", "Take a nice long hot shower and hack that shit up. It is gross but it does wonders. Doctors recommended cure for numonia. ", "For the blocked nose a [nasal douche]( https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nasal_irrigation) is amazing. Feels weird when you do it the first time but it's the best way to clear your nose. \n\nAnd of course tee with honey always helps. ", "this may sound like a joke, but if you have a lot of mucus(runny nose) first press the roof of your mouth with your tongue a couple of times then press one of your eyebrows with your hand a couple of times, now alternate them and you should feel yourself swallowing all of the mucus down the back of your throat.\n", "Take an anti-histamine [available at any pharmacy] for your congestion and put a spoonful of honey in hot water to help clear and soothe your throat.", "Over the counter product called Mucinex (Guaifenesin) works well for me. It makes everything runny which can be annoying but a lot less miserable than totally congested. ", "Hot tea with lemon and honey. Russians do hot milk with a pat of butter and honey. Hot soup/broth. Hot showers with those Vicks shower disks. Or try the vicks vapor rub.\rMedicine wise, I have used Mucinex, Afrin nasal spray, halls lozenges. ", "Hot shower, hot drinks, soothers or lockets do it for me. After the hot shower in the morning i try blow out as much as i can in the sink :S", "Lie down on your back and tilt your head right back (as though you're looking at the wall behind you) and to one side. It seems to drain the sinuses. Switching the bridge if your nose can help too, and the post saying about pressing the roof of mouth and eyebrows will be doing the same. ", "when you feel yourself STARTING to get sick, drink a mucinex/mucus relief medicine\n\nCVS mucus relief works wonders for me. just take one dose before bed every night. this isnt the quick fix, but your cold will never get to the point where you feel as blocked up as you are if you do this every night from the start. every morning you'll wake up with a little phlegm in your throat, but you can clear your throat and spit it all out first thing when you wake up. \n\nmaybe do some of these steps too, but mucus relief medicine is key.", "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QA-wi0d7-Ro\n\nI tried this last winter when I was desperate, and was surprised by how well it worked. Not perfect, but I get a bit of relief for a little while. Feel better.", "[Major Brand Aprodine](https://www.majorpharmaceuticals.com/shop/item/get-details/pkid/700796)\n\nOften available at smaller pharmacies. It contains pseudoephedrine and triprolidine, the only combination that dries me out. It was the original formula of Actifed, before the government decided that everyone should be treated like they were cooking meth.", "Try steam inhalation. It's great for getting all that mucus out of the way. Gargling could help too. \nGet well soon!", "Try some pushups. I tried ephedrine, sudafed, mucinex, steam, etc. Nothing was working. So i noticed while i was working out i felt all the blood rush to my face during my pushups and when i stood up it felt like someone pulled the snot plug in the nose. Was able to hawk up a huge loogie full of wonderful hues of yellow,green, and red. ", "This is a short temporary fix my dad taught me. It is only for clogged nose though. \n\nMy dad's theory is that the body makes ways for you to breath. So what we do is hold our breaths as long as we can. The clogged nose should clear up for a while. I find that it is better if you breath out then stopped from breathing in for as long as I can.\n", "From the NE, I take nyquil and dayquil along with tea and the other suggestions. I have a cold theory that if you get ride of all the symptoms eventually the problem disappears, particularly with a cough. I just try to dry all that shit up and eventually I wake up and feel alright. Also highly recommend a humidifier. The last thing you want is it to turn into bronchitis. ", "For me it works wonders to switch between taking sips of hot tea and ice cold water. I'm not sure why it works, but I think it has something to do with the temperature differnces and increase bloodflow etc", "Flat Coke. (or non-flat Coke, but shake it up a bunch of times).\n\nI don't know why, but it always seems to work for me. (At least on the throat).", "Don't sniff when your nose runs, use a tissue. Even when you don't have a cold try not to sniff. You can get pocket tissues for when you're out and you won't have a box ready." ]

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[ "How to calm a crying baby on a plane? I was on a flight recently where a baby was crying and the mother was really struggling to calm it, and she looked so worried. I wondered what I would do in this situation myself to calm the baby on the plane. Any tips?", "How to calm a crying baby on a plane? I was on a flight recently where a baby was crying and the mother was really struggling to calm it, and she looked so worried. I wondered what I would do in this situation myself to calm the baby on the plane. Any tips?", "How to calm a crying baby on a plane? I was on a flight recently where a baby was crying and the mother was really struggling to calm it, and she looked so worried. I wondered what I would do in this situation myself to calm the baby on the plane. Any tips?", "How to calm a crying baby on a plane? I was on a flight recently where a baby was crying and the mother was really struggling to calm it, and she looked so worried. I wondered what I would do in this situation myself to calm the baby on the plane. Any tips?", "How to calm a crying baby on a plane? I was on a flight recently where a baby was crying and the mother was really struggling to calm it, and she looked so worried. I wondered what I would do in this situation myself to calm the baby on the plane. Any tips?", "How to calm a crying baby on a plane? I was on a flight recently where a baby was crying and the mother was really struggling to calm it, and she looked so worried. I wondered what I would do in this situation myself to calm the baby on the plane. Any tips?", "How to calm a crying baby on a plane? I was on a flight recently where a baby was crying and the mother was really struggling to calm it, and she looked so worried. I wondered what I would do in this situation myself to calm the baby on the plane. Any tips?" ]

[ "Breast feeding solves a lot of noisy baby problems.\n\nBaby ears are also sensitive to the air pressure changes that often happen on airplanes. Sucking and chewing things helps with this, so have a bottle or sippy cup or if old enough for solid food, give them a cracker or something they can munch on during take-offs and landing. Pediatricians can recommend special drops or earplugs to help with the pain too.", "An odd yet effective way to get a baby/child to stop crying is to tear paper slowly into strips so that they can see and hear you. I've shared a few Skymalls with toddlers that weren't mine. Works every time.", "You are very empathetic to want to help a baby when it’s distressed instead of ranting about how the crying infringes upon your happiness. Pre-Covid, I often put a Happy Meal toy, a little book, or something like that in my purse for situations like that. It helps distract the child since they haven’t seen it before, and gives the parents a little break.", "Benadryl. Recommended by a doc back when doctors cared about patients more than billing codes. \n\nBabies ears don't do well with the pressure changes, not to mention that airplane ventilation systems are coated in a quagmire of crap from all parts of the country. Feed it, dose it. Sinuses stay clear, eustation tubes stay clear, baby sleeps for 4-5 hours. \n\nPersonally I think it's cruel for a baby to be on an airplane. Not for the other passengers, but for the baby.", "There is so much going on during a flight and any of it could be causing the baby to cry. The noise of the engines and the change in air pressure are but two. Sleep and feeding routines may be disrupted as well. And the baby may be picking up on the mother's stress.\n\nStop. Breath deep. Smile. If you are sitting next to the mother try to make eye contact with the baby and smile. Make silly faces. Provide amusing visual stimulation which may redirect the baby's focus and calm him/her.\n\nLet the mother know that you are not overly stressed. Calming her *might* help calm the baby. But mostly it is up to the mother.\n\nBabies cry. It happens. You will get through this. So if nothing else remain calm.", "When I traveled with my son I screen recorded his favorite show before I got there. He was just a baby so he loved a video of dancing fruit, it had music but no words so that was amazing. That really came in handy. That and food for baby. We had a very easy flight because of it.\nAlso feeding during take off and landing helps with their little ears popping.", "On airplanes, I hand out head-sized plastic bags to the bigger children. The tiny kids you can shake, shake, shake like a Polaroid picture." ]

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[ "How to not fall in love that easily. So I have a history of falling in love with girls I like pretty easily. Although I got pretty good at denying this and playing over that, it still sucks to not have ready friendships with them.", "How to not fall in love that easily. So I have a history of falling in love with girls I like pretty easily. Although I got pretty good at denying this and playing over that, it still sucks to not have ready friendships with them.", "How to not fall in love that easily. So I have a history of falling in love with girls I like pretty easily. Although I got pretty good at denying this and playing over that, it still sucks to not have ready friendships with them." ]

[ "Figure out what you want in a woman, physically, emotionally, behaviorally, attitude, and imperfections. Compare those you meet to those and if they dont get close leave them in friend territory. Fall in love with your ideals, itll take some time but one or two will cone close to those ideals.", "y'all can't control falling in love. The whole process is as irrational as banana-flavoured bugshit. \n\nWhat you can do is go fall in love with someone that is in love with you, 'cause as you said, it's easy to fall in love. \n\nSo go bounce around a bit to find someone that clearly likes YOU, and that way you two banana-flavoured bugshitters don't fall in love with other people as much. Win.", "If the woman isn't exactly what you're looking for, move on. This is one of the most important decisions in your life so in this case it is very important to be picky. If one or two things about her do not fit with you, then it will just get worse the longer you are together. " ]

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[ "How do i keep my house cool? I live in the south america, days are beginning to get really hot (global warming? anyone?) and i live in a apartment with no air conditioning.\n\nI was looking for some guidance over Google, but most of the tips there take for granted that i have an AC, which i don't. I already know that opening all windows and doors at night and closing them shut at day will make a great difference, but i still need some more cooling.\n\nAnyone? :)", "How do i keep my house cool? I live in the south america, days are beginning to get really hot (global warming? anyone?) and i live in a apartment with no air conditioning.\n\nI was looking for some guidance over Google, but most of the tips there take for granted that i have an AC, which i don't. I already know that opening all windows and doors at night and closing them shut at day will make a great difference, but i still need some more cooling.\n\nAnyone? :)", "How do i keep my house cool? I live in the south america, days are beginning to get really hot (global warming? anyone?) and i live in a apartment with no air conditioning.\n\nI was looking for some guidance over Google, but most of the tips there take for granted that i have an AC, which i don't. I already know that opening all windows and doors at night and closing them shut at day will make a great difference, but i still need some more cooling.\n\nAnyone? :)", "How do i keep my house cool? I live in the south america, days are beginning to get really hot (global warming? anyone?) and i live in a apartment with no air conditioning.\n\nI was looking for some guidance over Google, but most of the tips there take for granted that i have an AC, which i don't. I already know that opening all windows and doors at night and closing them shut at day will make a great difference, but i still need some more cooling.\n\nAnyone? :)", "How do i keep my house cool? I live in the south america, days are beginning to get really hot (global warming? anyone?) and i live in a apartment with no air conditioning.\n\nI was looking for some guidance over Google, but most of the tips there take for granted that i have an AC, which i don't. I already know that opening all windows and doors at night and closing them shut at day will make a great difference, but i still need some more cooling.\n\nAnyone? :)" ]

[ "When I had an old, small camper, I made a redneck AC unit. \n\nSmall cooler filled with ice outside, cut intake and output vents in lid. On output vent (sealed well), use dryer exhaust hose (insulated is better) to bring air inside. 8 inch PC fan draws air inside from the dryer hose.\n\nYou can have the whole thing inside and just recirculate air. Hot air rises, so exhaust near ceiling if you can.\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ouSOWg9AWoA (jump to about 2 minute mark)", "To cool yourself off in a jiffy, fill an empty (clean) medium ti small sized garbage bin with cold tap water and put your feet in as deep as your comfortable. I sit on my couch watching tv with my fit in the cold water on hot nights. This lowers your core body temperature by a few degrees, the cold water absorbs heat away from the thin exposed flesh of your feet and ankles, pumping cooled blood into your system. ", "Hang some heavy curtains if you have windows that get a lot of sunlight throughout the day. It helps a lot more than you'd expect.", "Fans work well, however they do not actually cool the air. They just make it feel cooler. You can freeze a big bowl of water then place the ice block on a towel, on a cooking sheet, right in front of the fan. It blows cold air at you! Not helpful long term, but I used this to fall asleep on some extremely hot nights in my old apartment. I also kept a lot of those semi-solid ice packs in the freezer. Then I would put them under my back or neck while falling asleep, wrapped in a few paper towels.", "A tip I've heard several times for hot days is to fill a bathtub with water (if you don't have a bath maybe buckets would do), not sure if it actually works. \n\nI'm in Australia and I'm finding a tiny air humidifier is helping making the heat *much* more tolerable in my stuffy little apartment. I have no idea why. " ]

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[ "organizing sunglasses Just trying to introduce a little more organization into my life. I love this /r, The \"toss all your socks and just buy one huge matching set\" suggestion was great.\n\n[I've seen these.](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0091X3446/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?ie=UTF8&smid=A3C5NSSX9V0SW6) It's a little silly to spend $30 on IMO though. Any other good suggestions for keeping sunglasses organized in a way that actually looks good? (aka - not on a giant display rack in my bedroom, or spread throughout the house)", "organizing sunglasses Just trying to introduce a little more organization into my life. I love this /r, The \"toss all your socks and just buy one huge matching set\" suggestion was great.\n\n[I've seen these.](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0091X3446/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?ie=UTF8&smid=A3C5NSSX9V0SW6) It's a little silly to spend $30 on IMO though. Any other good suggestions for keeping sunglasses organized in a way that actually looks good? (aka - not on a giant display rack in my bedroom, or spread throughout the house)", "organizing sunglasses Just trying to introduce a little more organization into my life. I love this /r, The \"toss all your socks and just buy one huge matching set\" suggestion was great.\n\n[I've seen these.](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0091X3446/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?ie=UTF8&smid=A3C5NSSX9V0SW6) It's a little silly to spend $30 on IMO though. Any other good suggestions for keeping sunglasses organized in a way that actually looks good? (aka - not on a giant display rack in my bedroom, or spread throughout the house)", "organizing sunglasses Just trying to introduce a little more organization into my life. I love this /r, The \"toss all your socks and just buy one huge matching set\" suggestion was great.\n\n[I've seen these.](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0091X3446/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?ie=UTF8&smid=A3C5NSSX9V0SW6) It's a little silly to spend $30 on IMO though. Any other good suggestions for keeping sunglasses organized in a way that actually looks good? (aka - not on a giant display rack in my bedroom, or spread throughout the house)" ]

[ "A sunglasses rack? You got me a sunglasses rack? I don't even own *A* pair of sunglasses, let alone enough sunglasses to necessitate an entire rack.", "[this](http://www.amazon.com/Honey-Can-Do-Clear-Organizer-Storage-White/dp/B001F51AHG/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1352760809&sr=8-1&keywords=over+door+shoe+holder) if you have a lot.", "Get a cheap frame from a thrift store, some wires, and hooks. \n\n[DIY sunglasses rack that hangs on the wall](http://cupcakesandcashmere.com/sunglass-solution/)", "Hang a few of [these](http://www.command.com/wps/portal/3M/en_US/NACommand/Command/Products/Catalog/~/Command-Clear-Medium-Cord-Clips?N=5924736+3294737327&rt=rud) or a few of [these](http://www.command.com/wps/portal/3M/en_US/NACommand/Command/Products/Catalog/~/Command-Clear-Small-Caddy?N=5924736+3294737321&rt=rud)" ]

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[ "How to stop spam/scan phonecalls to a landline At my mom's house, she receives dozens of calls her day. She's stopped answering most of them because, unless it's a number she recognizes, 99% of the time it's just a recording about her car's warranty or from \"Apple\" trying to get her logon info or some other pre-recorded scam. Always coming from a different number.\n\nIs there a way to deal with these (besides cancelling the landline) so she doesn't have to keep putting up with these?", "How to stop spam/scan phonecalls to a landline At my mom's house, she receives dozens of calls her day. She's stopped answering most of them because, unless it's a number she recognizes, 99% of the time it's just a recording about her car's warranty or from \"Apple\" trying to get her logon info or some other pre-recorded scam. Always coming from a different number.\n\nIs there a way to deal with these (besides cancelling the landline) so she doesn't have to keep putting up with these?", "How to stop spam/scan phonecalls to a landline At my mom's house, she receives dozens of calls her day. She's stopped answering most of them because, unless it's a number she recognizes, 99% of the time it's just a recording about her car's warranty or from \"Apple\" trying to get her logon info or some other pre-recorded scam. Always coming from a different number.\n\nIs there a way to deal with these (besides cancelling the landline) so she doesn't have to keep putting up with these?", "How to stop spam/scan phonecalls to a landline At my mom's house, she receives dozens of calls her day. She's stopped answering most of them because, unless it's a number she recognizes, 99% of the time it's just a recording about her car's warranty or from \"Apple\" trying to get her logon info or some other pre-recorded scam. Always coming from a different number.\n\nIs there a way to deal with these (besides cancelling the landline) so she doesn't have to keep putting up with these?", "How to stop spam/scan phonecalls to a landline At my mom's house, she receives dozens of calls her day. She's stopped answering most of them because, unless it's a number she recognizes, 99% of the time it's just a recording about her car's warranty or from \"Apple\" trying to get her logon info or some other pre-recorded scam. Always coming from a different number.\n\nIs there a way to deal with these (besides cancelling the landline) so she doesn't have to keep putting up with these?", "How to stop spam/scan phonecalls to a landline At my mom's house, she receives dozens of calls her day. She's stopped answering most of them because, unless it's a number she recognizes, 99% of the time it's just a recording about her car's warranty or from \"Apple\" trying to get her logon info or some other pre-recorded scam. Always coming from a different number.\n\nIs there a way to deal with these (besides cancelling the landline) so she doesn't have to keep putting up with these?" ]

[ "In the USA there is a national do not call registry. I put my cell number on it and after a few weeks a stopped getting the “your vehicle’s extended warranty” calls. I was getting them every single day. \n\nhttps://www.donotcall.gov/", "Check her phone company's website. On mine, there's a bunch of different settings for blocking calls.", "Unfortunately no, most use the internet to call and can make it look like it's coming from any number.", "The Do Not Call registry is a waste of time because most spam calls are robo-dialed. Try Nomorobo.com.", "In the UK there's a box you can fit and it filters your calls, only approved numbers. Or if you know the (2 digit code) it will put you throughout.", "Good luck. My old man was in the hospital and the phone rang. So he got up and answered and it was the vehicle warranty call. He was livid." ]

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[ "How to tell if someone has messed with your stuff I want to be able to tell if my parents went over my things as they seems to do from time to time. I don't have much to hide and it's mostly just an annoyance, but I still want to be able to tell without anything invasive like a camera.", "How to tell if someone has messed with your stuff I want to be able to tell if my parents went over my things as they seems to do from time to time. I don't have much to hide and it's mostly just an annoyance, but I still want to be able to tell without anything invasive like a camera.", "How to tell if someone has messed with your stuff I want to be able to tell if my parents went over my things as they seems to do from time to time. I don't have much to hide and it's mostly just an annoyance, but I still want to be able to tell without anything invasive like a camera.", "How to tell if someone has messed with your stuff I want to be able to tell if my parents went over my things as they seems to do from time to time. I don't have much to hide and it's mostly just an annoyance, but I still want to be able to tell without anything invasive like a camera.", "How to tell if someone has messed with your stuff I want to be able to tell if my parents went over my things as they seems to do from time to time. I don't have much to hide and it's mostly just an annoyance, but I still want to be able to tell without anything invasive like a camera.", "How to tell if someone has messed with your stuff I want to be able to tell if my parents went over my things as they seems to do from time to time. I don't have much to hide and it's mostly just an annoyance, but I still want to be able to tell without anything invasive like a camera.", "How to tell if someone has messed with your stuff I want to be able to tell if my parents went over my things as they seems to do from time to time. I don't have much to hide and it's mostly just an annoyance, but I still want to be able to tell without anything invasive like a camera.", "How to tell if someone has messed with your stuff I want to be able to tell if my parents went over my things as they seems to do from time to time. I don't have much to hide and it's mostly just an annoyance, but I still want to be able to tell without anything invasive like a camera.", "How to tell if someone has messed with your stuff I want to be able to tell if my parents went over my things as they seems to do from time to time. I don't have much to hide and it's mostly just an annoyance, but I still want to be able to tell without anything invasive like a camera.", "How to tell if someone has messed with your stuff I want to be able to tell if my parents went over my things as they seems to do from time to time. I don't have much to hide and it's mostly just an annoyance, but I still want to be able to tell without anything invasive like a camera." ]

[ "Cover everything you own with a thick layer of flour. Upon returning, you will be able to easily tell what has been moved. Note: This only works if you don't only own a thick layer of flour", "Subtle things they're likely to overlook when putting things back how they were, for example leave draws very slightly open, if they're fully closed afterwards you know someone's opened and closed them again", "Put 5 colored marbles in a specific order in front of or on top of what you're trying to keep private, when they have to move the marbles to mess with your stuff they won't be able to put them back exact xD", "Move out. Or just accept that they pay the mortgage, bills, probably feed and clothe you and until you either pay rent and bills or move out they have every right to go through your stuff.", "Take pictures of everything and use those photos to review what’s been moved afterwards. Sometimes people forget to angle things back and they look out of place or moved", "just assume they're going through everything and don't bother trying to prove they're going through everything. what problem are you trying to solve here?", "My mum would see stuff on the news about kids getting stabbed so would check my room for knives and drugs and stuff, to make sure I’m not hanging around with the wrong people. She was just looking out for me because she was my mum. Maybe your parents are just looking out for you?", "You can try the hair trick. It only works on flat or near flat surfaces sadly. Take a bit of hair and put it in your mouth so your saliva gets it wet. Put it over an area not noticable unless you look for it. Come home and see if it's been moved.\n\nThe best thing to do is have a set routine that no one can duplicate. Putting items or boxes in such a position no one can remember to put it back in. Say like putting a box behind your door in such a manner that if someone opens the door it gets moved, someone coming in that's not you might not be able to put said box back where it came from. \n\nThere are also wireless cameras nowadays online for about 30 dollars that can record and send stuff to your phone and I believe an offsite FTP location. Hide it in an area and just watch.", "If they're just cleaning up, label where you want things to go. Let them know you went on a cleaning and organizing frenzy and you have it JUST the way you like it with labels. You can use painters tape for labels. Use the labels as a markers. If you put your shoes in a certain spot, line them up with the tape and you'll know if they moved. I'm a mom and i think your space should be respected, however I'm a neat freak and often go in my son's room to organize a little. I try to make things accessible and to his liking, but hes 8 so 😏", "I'm somewhat of a paranoid. I usually subconsciously keep note of how everything is arranged. If something is slightly moved, I'll notice most of the time. As to how you can tell? There will be some small details. I.e, Not in the same place, something's moved, etc. There will almost always be something, unless they're trying to make it seem normal. I know what that's like. Learnt it as a kid when messing around with my brother's stuff." ]

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[ "what should I do about the tick that just fell off of me onto multicolored carpet? Immediately tried to find it with a flashlight but no luck. Sprayed it with 91% isopropyl alcohol. Ran the vacuum just because. Am I safe or do I need to burn my house down. ", "what should I do about the tick that just fell off of me onto multicolored carpet? Immediately tried to find it with a flashlight but no luck. Sprayed it with 91% isopropyl alcohol. Ran the vacuum just because. Am I safe or do I need to burn my house down. ", "what should I do about the tick that just fell off of me onto multicolored carpet? Immediately tried to find it with a flashlight but no luck. Sprayed it with 91% isopropyl alcohol. Ran the vacuum just because. Am I safe or do I need to burn my house down. ", "what should I do about the tick that just fell off of me onto multicolored carpet? Immediately tried to find it with a flashlight but no luck. Sprayed it with 91% isopropyl alcohol. Ran the vacuum just because. Am I safe or do I need to burn my house down. ", "what should I do about the tick that just fell off of me onto multicolored carpet? Immediately tried to find it with a flashlight but no luck. Sprayed it with 91% isopropyl alcohol. Ran the vacuum just because. Am I safe or do I need to burn my house down. ", "what should I do about the tick that just fell off of me onto multicolored carpet? Immediately tried to find it with a flashlight but no luck. Sprayed it with 91% isopropyl alcohol. Ran the vacuum just because. Am I safe or do I need to burn my house down. ", "what should I do about the tick that just fell off of me onto multicolored carpet? Immediately tried to find it with a flashlight but no luck. Sprayed it with 91% isopropyl alcohol. Ran the vacuum just because. Am I safe or do I need to burn my house down. " ]

[ "[this](http://www.tickencounter.org/faq/tick_habitat#tickhabitat_question_02) might help (sorry about the top banner if you suffer from trypophobia)", "Just check your body at morning & at night. If you have pets, check them too. Not all ticks transmit Lyme Disease.", "You may have already been bit, keep a note of this incident and watch for illness in the next seven days.", "In the future, a few days before going fishing, hunting, hiking, camping, etc... Use permethrin on anything you are going to wear. It works really well against ticks and other bugs. It also lasts a few washes!", "Diatomaceous earth is a good option. It's safe for pets and kids. You can lightly dust your rugs and/or carpet with it, leave it overnight, then vacuum it up in the morning.", "Most ticks start at a height from a smaller animal to elevate themselves to a larger animal via grass or a bush. Vacuum the rug vigorously and keep clothes and short items off the rig that could transfer the tick to your foot. ", "I wrap them in tape, so they suffocate, and as a warning for the rest of them. My cat brings them in, and I find one a week at least. They feel so different than anything else (spiders, a hair, clothes itching, tags, the cat) that I immediately trap, turn on the light, grab the tape that is handily next to my bed, and drop the little bastard on the sheet. Tape on one side, lift, then pinch tape closed. I have saved my house from being burned a few times using this method. " ]

[ 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Stop ruminating on a mistake So there are times where I say something stupid, or feel like I didn't present or lead a meeting well. I pin it down to something in the meeting I did like stumble over my words. I try to let it go (DBT/CBT) but I still ruminate. How the hell do I put mistakes behind me better?", "Stop ruminating on a mistake So there are times where I say something stupid, or feel like I didn't present or lead a meeting well. I pin it down to something in the meeting I did like stumble over my words. I try to let it go (DBT/CBT) but I still ruminate. How the hell do I put mistakes behind me better?", "Stop ruminating on a mistake So there are times where I say something stupid, or feel like I didn't present or lead a meeting well. I pin it down to something in the meeting I did like stumble over my words. I try to let it go (DBT/CBT) but I still ruminate. How the hell do I put mistakes behind me better?", "Stop ruminating on a mistake So there are times where I say something stupid, or feel like I didn't present or lead a meeting well. I pin it down to something in the meeting I did like stumble over my words. I try to let it go (DBT/CBT) but I still ruminate. How the hell do I put mistakes behind me better?" ]

[ "I often use this inner monologue.\n\nI did something stupid. I worry and/or obsess over it.\n\n\"Is there anything I can do about it?\"\n\nYes? Then do something about it.\n\nNo? Then why worry about it? You're not doing yourself a favour. \n\nWhat about if you did something about it already and now there's nothing else you can do? Well, you did what you could so just don't worry about it. Basically just keep doing something about it until you can't and just let it go.", "First, it is healthy to learn from mistakes. When you make a mistake, \n\n* acknowledge it\n* try to figure out why it happened\n* what measures can you take to prevent the mistake in the future\n* if the mistake happens again, what is a better way to deal with it.\n* what can be done right now to \"fix\" the mistake.\n * talk to the people who were affected\n * if possible fix the damage\n * if not, explain what you will do in the future to prevent it and how you will handle the situation if it does happen again.\n * apologize.\n\nSo, at this point you have done about as much as you can to learn how to prevent the mistake and/or deal with it if it happens again AND you have taken ownership of the mistake and done what you can.\n\nIf you have done all of that, there is no reason to keep spending time on it.", "My friend told me this trick where whenever she starts ruminating on something dumb she said 15 years ago or whatever she will say \"D'oh!\" in a very Homer Simpson voice. It makes you laugh and breaks the cascading self-recrimination. ", "I tell someone, could be anybody, even a pet. It get's it off your chest and you don't feel like you're hiding it anymore. And laugh, remember that it was probably a silly mistake and that you're better for it. Our past makes us who we are." ]

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[ "Cheap Travel Tips Hey, \n\nI'm from the state of Maine, but I live in Colorado now. In May or June my fiance and I plan to fly from Denver to New England with another couple we're friends with. \n\nWhat are some ways to get cheap air fare? Good websites to check? Fly mid week? Is there a sweet spot to booking trips in advance but not TOO far in advance? \n\nCan some of you reddit travel vets help me out? How can I save the most money (money that I can spend on lobstah)", "Cheap Travel Tips Hey, \n\nI'm from the state of Maine, but I live in Colorado now. In May or June my fiance and I plan to fly from Denver to New England with another couple we're friends with. \n\nWhat are some ways to get cheap air fare? Good websites to check? Fly mid week? Is there a sweet spot to booking trips in advance but not TOO far in advance? \n\nCan some of you reddit travel vets help me out? How can I save the most money (money that I can spend on lobstah)" ]

[ "Ask Bill Shatner.\nOr try another subreddit because this isn't a protip. Maybe r/frugal but they're likely to tell you that you can save a ton by hitch hiking. ", "www.bing.com/travel - it has a flight ticket \"Price Predictor\", which can predict the rise and fall of the price of flights, it is quite accurate too." ]

[ 3, 1 ]

[ "Improve oral English and how to make new friends How to improve the English communication level? At present, I do not have effective methods to chat with the English speakers. So could you give me some suggestion that I could make acquaintance with some English speakers? Thank you very much.", "Improve oral English and how to make new friends How to improve the English communication level? At present, I do not have effective methods to chat with the English speakers. So could you give me some suggestion that I could make acquaintance with some English speakers? Thank you very much.", "Improve oral English and how to make new friends How to improve the English communication level? At present, I do not have effective methods to chat with the English speakers. So could you give me some suggestion that I could make acquaintance with some English speakers? Thank you very much." ]

[ "Perhaps you should find a penpal to talk with on a daily basis. /r/penpal might be a solution for you.", "play online games with voicetools. ideally with some english natives but for getting practice anyone speaking english does help", "Practice consonants separate from words.\n\nExample: \"B-b-b. Bah. Bay. Beh. Bee. Big. By. Boe. Boo. Buh. Book. B-b-b.\". Go through the full alphabet like this.\n\nThat's for pronunciation.\n\nFor grammar etc, practicing conversation is best, and watching movies. \n\nIf you are worried that someone will judge you, fake stammer at the beginning of the sentence a few times. This will force empathy and make them try harder.\n\nExa \"I-i-i'm trying find su-su-supermarket?\"\n\nDon't be too obvious about it though." ]

[ 6, 2, 1 ]

[ "Friends GF always talking about my ex? So I don't know if it's a typical bitchy thing that women do, or whether she just doesn't have other friends or interesting things to talk about but it seems my friend's GF has somewhat enjoyment of mentioning my Ex (of 5 years) whenever she can.\n- They weren't friends before, and have only really 'known' each other for less than a year so they aren't even close. \n- Her topics are always mundane AF. (makeup, my ex, exams or some irrelevant nonsense that no one really cares to hear about)\n- She talks about my ex on a regular basis, mentioning (again) mundane things like \"oh ___ and I are going shopping this weekend\", \"___ is writing a 6 hour exam today\", \"I want to plan a girls night out and invite ___\".\n\nNeed some advice here. I try ignore it, keep to myself and I think she's gotten the point so far because she's stopped talking to me about it, but now she's started talking to my friends about it while I'm present. \n ", "Friends GF always talking about my ex? So I don't know if it's a typical bitchy thing that women do, or whether she just doesn't have other friends or interesting things to talk about but it seems my friend's GF has somewhat enjoyment of mentioning my Ex (of 5 years) whenever she can.\n- They weren't friends before, and have only really 'known' each other for less than a year so they aren't even close. \n- Her topics are always mundane AF. (makeup, my ex, exams or some irrelevant nonsense that no one really cares to hear about)\n- She talks about my ex on a regular basis, mentioning (again) mundane things like \"oh ___ and I are going shopping this weekend\", \"___ is writing a 6 hour exam today\", \"I want to plan a girls night out and invite ___\".\n\nNeed some advice here. I try ignore it, keep to myself and I think she's gotten the point so far because she's stopped talking to me about it, but now she's started talking to my friends about it while I'm present. \n ", "Friends GF always talking about my ex? So I don't know if it's a typical bitchy thing that women do, or whether she just doesn't have other friends or interesting things to talk about but it seems my friend's GF has somewhat enjoyment of mentioning my Ex (of 5 years) whenever she can.\n- They weren't friends before, and have only really 'known' each other for less than a year so they aren't even close. \n- Her topics are always mundane AF. (makeup, my ex, exams or some irrelevant nonsense that no one really cares to hear about)\n- She talks about my ex on a regular basis, mentioning (again) mundane things like \"oh ___ and I are going shopping this weekend\", \"___ is writing a 6 hour exam today\", \"I want to plan a girls night out and invite ___\".\n\nNeed some advice here. I try ignore it, keep to myself and I think she's gotten the point so far because she's stopped talking to me about it, but now she's started talking to my friends about it while I'm present. \n ", "Friends GF always talking about my ex? So I don't know if it's a typical bitchy thing that women do, or whether she just doesn't have other friends or interesting things to talk about but it seems my friend's GF has somewhat enjoyment of mentioning my Ex (of 5 years) whenever she can.\n- They weren't friends before, and have only really 'known' each other for less than a year so they aren't even close. \n- Her topics are always mundane AF. (makeup, my ex, exams or some irrelevant nonsense that no one really cares to hear about)\n- She talks about my ex on a regular basis, mentioning (again) mundane things like \"oh ___ and I are going shopping this weekend\", \"___ is writing a 6 hour exam today\", \"I want to plan a girls night out and invite ___\".\n\nNeed some advice here. I try ignore it, keep to myself and I think she's gotten the point so far because she's stopped talking to me about it, but now she's started talking to my friends about it while I'm present. \n ", "Friends GF always talking about my ex? So I don't know if it's a typical bitchy thing that women do, or whether she just doesn't have other friends or interesting things to talk about but it seems my friend's GF has somewhat enjoyment of mentioning my Ex (of 5 years) whenever she can.\n- They weren't friends before, and have only really 'known' each other for less than a year so they aren't even close. \n- Her topics are always mundane AF. (makeup, my ex, exams or some irrelevant nonsense that no one really cares to hear about)\n- She talks about my ex on a regular basis, mentioning (again) mundane things like \"oh ___ and I are going shopping this weekend\", \"___ is writing a 6 hour exam today\", \"I want to plan a girls night out and invite ___\".\n\nNeed some advice here. I try ignore it, keep to myself and I think she's gotten the point so far because she's stopped talking to me about it, but now she's started talking to my friends about it while I'm present. \n " ]

[ "Have you talked to her about it? There are lots of possible reasons she might be doing that. If you just honestly say hey, do you mind not talking about X in front of me anymore? Then she will probably stop. Don't get petty like the other responses are telling you to do.", "That girl is just being mean, she's getting off on it. Remember that whatever you tell her she'll tell your ex, so pick and choose wisely. Maybe try taking a new girl out every weekend on a little date, nothing serious just meeting people, could just be coffee. Just try to prove you really don't care. ", "P.S. If there's a way of making her talk about important, interesting things I'm open to hearing it as well. I'm quite honestly over hearing about makeup every single day she's present. ", "First thing you need to do is realize indifference is the opposite of still having feelings for your ex.\n\n", "Talk badly about her body. When the fgf talks about makeup and brings up the ex, imply that no matter what makeup she wears, she still has a horseface. Allow her to bring up the x. Make the x the worst case example. \" when you go shopping with x, maybe you can help her find a lapband for her muffin top\". " ]

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[ "How to stop dreaming about work I work for a large construction company and deal with problems all day long. Needless to say, some days can be pretty stressful. We have had a rough couple of weeks on the job site and I have been having \"nightmares\" about work. I call them nightmares because I really don't want to be dreaming about my job. What are some tips you guys use to leave the mental aspect of work at work and switch over to the personal life gear?", "How to stop dreaming about work I work for a large construction company and deal with problems all day long. Needless to say, some days can be pretty stressful. We have had a rough couple of weeks on the job site and I have been having \"nightmares\" about work. I call them nightmares because I really don't want to be dreaming about my job. What are some tips you guys use to leave the mental aspect of work at work and switch over to the personal life gear?", "How to stop dreaming about work I work for a large construction company and deal with problems all day long. Needless to say, some days can be pretty stressful. We have had a rough couple of weeks on the job site and I have been having \"nightmares\" about work. I call them nightmares because I really don't want to be dreaming about my job. What are some tips you guys use to leave the mental aspect of work at work and switch over to the personal life gear?", "How to stop dreaming about work I work for a large construction company and deal with problems all day long. Needless to say, some days can be pretty stressful. We have had a rough couple of weeks on the job site and I have been having \"nightmares\" about work. I call them nightmares because I really don't want to be dreaming about my job. What are some tips you guys use to leave the mental aspect of work at work and switch over to the personal life gear?" ]

[ "Just don't sleep. This method only works for 3-4 days but godamn does it produce outstanding results.", "Oh God. If you figure something out that works, please let me know. I'm 24 and I've only once ever had a recurring dream. \n\n....I've been having this dream for 4 years now, usually 3-4 times a night, every night. I dream I'm late for work. The situation/circumstances are always different, and sometimes crazy, but I constantly dream I'm late for work. Never had this problem before working at this job, never have had tardiness/attendance issues whatsoever, and I've only ever been late twice as it were (and nobody's ever made a big deal about it). \n\nThe only thing I've found that helps a little is to take some valerian root before bed if I'll have 7+ hours to sleep. It helps only because it gives me CRAZY ass dreams (which can be fun lol), and this sometimes I guess helps my brain deviate from this stupid work shit. It's super cheap ($4 or so at Walmart). good luck!", "Find a way to destress after work. Some of my go-tos are m", "Exercise, m" ]

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[ "How to have appetite in the morning Im always tired and dont have any appetite or much time at all to eat breakfast. It also doesnt help that I dont really like most typical breakfast foods", "How to have appetite in the morning Im always tired and dont have any appetite or much time at all to eat breakfast. It also doesnt help that I dont really like most typical breakfast foods", "How to have appetite in the morning Im always tired and dont have any appetite or much time at all to eat breakfast. It also doesnt help that I dont really like most typical breakfast foods" ]

[ "So don't eat breakfast in the morning. Bring a couple of pieces of fruit along with you and eat them when you're actually hungry.\n\nMake sure you drink some water in the morning, though. Being dehydrated makes you physically tired.\n", "To save time have a protein shake for breakfast (after drinking water). Quick, high protein and you can get most of it down even if you are not hungry. By the time I shower and get ready for work I'm hungry. Do you eat a lot late at night?", "OP I was the exact same as you but I believe I have the solution. Make sure to have a light dinner and eat it very early such as 6PM. I started eating small portions for dinner early in the evening and then in the morning usually 1 to 2 hours after waking up I'm RAVENOUS. I still have no appetite immediately after waking up but this helped dramatically with eating in the morning. NOTE: Using this strategy you may end up getting hungry late at night, so it may take some getting used to at first, but eventually you'll get used to it. " ]

[ 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to check for moving on long still recordings/videos? I have a mouse in my garage and i want to record him with my go-pro.\nUnfortunatly, i have +5 hours of footage, and i dont want to watch trough the whole thing.\nIm also planning to do more recordings in the future, so this might help.", "How to check for moving on long still recordings/videos? I have a mouse in my garage and i want to record him with my go-pro.\nUnfortunatly, i have +5 hours of footage, and i dont want to watch trough the whole thing.\nIm also planning to do more recordings in the future, so this might help.", "How to check for moving on long still recordings/videos? I have a mouse in my garage and i want to record him with my go-pro.\nUnfortunatly, i have +5 hours of footage, and i dont want to watch trough the whole thing.\nIm also planning to do more recordings in the future, so this might help." ]

[ "Why do you need to record him? Does he make shoes in your garage at night and you want to catch him in the act so that you can prove there is a shoe making mouse living in your garage?", "Put some food out, maybe something like a chip that you can see in your viewfinder and you should be able to locate the moment it goes missing.\n\n*I don't know about mice but rats are super cautious and might not go to it the first day. You might try putting it out more than once until the mouse sees that location as a source of food. ", "I know a lot of " ]

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[ "How to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you. Do we ever really stop caring? Does all it take just time?", "How to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you. Do we ever really stop caring? Does all it take just time?", "How to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you. Do we ever really stop caring? Does all it take just time?", "How to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you. Do we ever really stop caring? Does all it take just time?", "How to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you. Do we ever really stop caring? Does all it take just time?", "How to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you. Do we ever really stop caring? Does all it take just time?", "How to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you. Do we ever really stop caring? Does all it take just time?", "How to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you. Do we ever really stop caring? Does all it take just time?", "How to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you. Do we ever really stop caring? Does all it take just time?" ]

[ "This is easier said than done however I'm a big fan of of the phrase \"Don't let someone else live rent free in your head\" http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/dont-let-anyone-rent-space-in-your-head-for-free_b_5968192.html", "I wrote letters to all of my exes. I spoke openly about why I broke up with them, how I felt about them what I didn't like what disappointed me. Then I said goodbye in the letter. I didn't send the letters but I have them saved. I read them when I feel regrets or anything like that. Its a good way to encapsulate the feelings and accept them.\n", "I think that you have to keep a distance from them. Eventually you'll move on with someone who does care about you. Then you'll find that you only thought of them when you think that you haven't thought of them in a while (if that makes sense).", "First, quit feeling sorry for yourself! Second, ask yourself why in the world you want to donate emotional energy or time to someone that does not care if you exist? You are in control of you and nobody else. Realize life is good - short but good - move on! It's ALL up to you. Now go take control!", "I found this website really helpful when trying to get over someone who didn't feel the same way about me.\n\nhttp://markmanson.net/fuck-yes", "Separate yourself from them and then grieve. You need to emotionally process the loss of them, which is what grieving (all the stages, crying, being angry, lonely, etc.) is all about. ", "In my opinion people only survived because they cared for one another. If someone were to get hit by a car your first reaction is to check and see if they are ok. To not care is to not be human.", "I firmly believe in the \"out of sight out of mind\" mentality. It takes time but just don't interact with that person if possible and you'll start to lose your feelings for them.", "For some it's about finding focus with something else, that keeps your thoughts away from that person. \n\nOthers need to understand the whole situation before coming to terms with it, and then finding a new direction to go in (new goals, or a milestone you wish to achieve). \n\nIt's all easier said than done, but possible no doubt. Good luck!" ]

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[ "How do I win an election? Shit is going on, election day is coming soon and I could go to jail, how do I win this?!?!\n\nJokes aside (they aren't 'Hilaryous'), I need some help. I'm trying to be my school's president, but I fail to convince the class presidents to vote for me. I know that I can make a good first impression, but it isn't enough. Any tips?", "How do I win an election? Shit is going on, election day is coming soon and I could go to jail, how do I win this?!?!\n\nJokes aside (they aren't 'Hilaryous'), I need some help. I'm trying to be my school's president, but I fail to convince the class presidents to vote for me. I know that I can make a good first impression, but it isn't enough. Any tips?", "How do I win an election? Shit is going on, election day is coming soon and I could go to jail, how do I win this?!?!\n\nJokes aside (they aren't 'Hilaryous'), I need some help. I'm trying to be my school's president, but I fail to convince the class presidents to vote for me. I know that I can make a good first impression, but it isn't enough. Any tips?", "How do I win an election? Shit is going on, election day is coming soon and I could go to jail, how do I win this?!?!\n\nJokes aside (they aren't 'Hilaryous'), I need some help. I'm trying to be my school's president, but I fail to convince the class presidents to vote for me. I know that I can make a good first impression, but it isn't enough. Any tips?" ]

[ "You could always bribe the class presidents, or offer them jobs in your administration in exchange for them helping you seize power.\n\nScapegoating minorities also works really well.", "Promise something you couldn't possibly even begin to actually make happen (like pizza day once a week in the cafeteria and 3 day weekends). Then double down on it. ", "It's all about exposure. Raise a shit ton of cash which the majority of will be used for advertising. Put your face EVERYWHERE. Hire a good branding / identity graphic designer (Me) to craft you a logo/ brand which will be plastered everywhere your face will be. It's all about getting people to know what your name is and which office your running for. When people show up to vote, unless it's a presidential election, no one will know who any of the candidates are but they will remember your friendly name and face from one of your countless billboards. Human nature is to go with the devil they know rather than the devil they don't.", "Honestly, find out what their interests are, and speak in terms of their interests, and how you're going to help them get what they want." ]

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[ "How to remove things from wall stuck on by strong double-sided tape? I have a few motion sensors stuck on the wall using those thick 3M foam double-sided tape. I have tried hair dryer, heat gun, but every time when the heat softens the tape enough it also softens the paint and when I remove the sensor a chunk of paint comes off. What are some tips I can use to remove things from the wall stuck on by double-sided tapes?", "How to remove things from wall stuck on by strong double-sided tape? I have a few motion sensors stuck on the wall using those thick 3M foam double-sided tape. I have tried hair dryer, heat gun, but every time when the heat softens the tape enough it also softens the paint and when I remove the sensor a chunk of paint comes off. What are some tips I can use to remove things from the wall stuck on by double-sided tapes?", "How to remove things from wall stuck on by strong double-sided tape? I have a few motion sensors stuck on the wall using those thick 3M foam double-sided tape. I have tried hair dryer, heat gun, but every time when the heat softens the tape enough it also softens the paint and when I remove the sensor a chunk of paint comes off. What are some tips I can use to remove things from the wall stuck on by double-sided tapes?", "How to remove things from wall stuck on by strong double-sided tape? I have a few motion sensors stuck on the wall using those thick 3M foam double-sided tape. I have tried hair dryer, heat gun, but every time when the heat softens the tape enough it also softens the paint and when I remove the sensor a chunk of paint comes off. What are some tips I can use to remove things from the wall stuck on by double-sided tapes?" ]

[ "not sure of your setup but you can try wiggling a taut piece of thread - string, floss - between the warmed up tape and surface to minimize paint damage", "This is one of those requests that a quick google comes up with a number of answers.\n\nhttp://www.ebay.com/gds/How-to-Remove-3M-Double-Sided-Tape-/10000000205660872/g.html\n\n* use a solvent such as WD-40 or Goo Gone or alcohol/hand-sanitizer.\n\n* use the appropriate adhesive tape remover product from 3M\n\n* scrape with a putty knife", "Most likely, the solution is to just give up, pull off the paint and then add some new paint. Some tape is annoyingly strong.", "I actually had to do that today with some light switches I had. I used a plastic putty knife and it worked really well. If I tried to just pull them off it removed the pain from the wall. " ]

[ 7, 3, 3, 2 ]

[ " I am moving in less than a week. What are some valuable tips that can make this move as painless as possible? ", " I am moving in less than a week. What are some valuable tips that can make this move as painless as possible? ", " I am moving in less than a week. What are some valuable tips that can make this move as painless as possible? ", " I am moving in less than a week. What are some valuable tips that can make this move as painless as possible? ", " I am moving in less than a week. What are some valuable tips that can make this move as painless as possible? ", " I am moving in less than a week. What are some valuable tips that can make this move as painless as possible? ", " I am moving in less than a week. What are some valuable tips that can make this move as painless as possible? ", " I am moving in less than a week. What are some valuable tips that can make this move as painless as possible? ", " I am moving in less than a week. What are some valuable tips that can make this move as painless as possible? ", " I am moving in less than a week. What are some valuable tips that can make this move as painless as possible? ", " I am moving in less than a week. What are some valuable tips that can make this move as painless as possible? ", " I am moving in less than a week. What are some valuable tips that can make this move as painless as possible? " ]

[ "Toss/donate things you really don't need/use.\n\nWrite the contents of every box somewhere visible so people helping you move will know where to put the boxes.\n\nFind a furniture dolly.\n\nBest friends will help you move, good friends will help you unpack.\n\nI like to put a post it flag on every drawer/cabinet that I empty. Then when I start my post-move cleaning, I remove the flag after I've cleaned. Helps me and any friends I have helping avoid re-cleaning the same place.\n\nMake sure you update your mailing address with the post office. \n\n", "When you are planning on keeping boxes unpacked for later be sure to note the contents on the side! This way you pile them up and know exactly where everything is. ", "When I have moved in the past, I go to the ABC store in order to get free boxes. They are sturdy and get the job done. Everything else has been said. :)", "My parents moved a LOT ... I went to 3 different schools in 6th grade. So I learned to move fast by the time I was a teenager.\n\n* Pack the kitchen and live on microwaveable foods with paper plates, cups, utensils. Nothing to clean, wash or pack later.\n* Big boxes hold a lot but are heavy to carry. Better to pack 2 medium size boxes than one big one that no one can lift.\n* Previously mentioned, but label each box by the room it goes in.\n* At the new place, designate a place in each room to stack the boxes. Having everything in one corner makes it easier to place furniture without having to move a lot of stacked boxes FIRST.\n* Load the bedroom furniture last so it's the first furniture unloaded at the new place. Assign someone to set up the beds. nothing better than having a soft, made-up bed to crash in at the end of a very tiring day!\n* Have plenty of cold drinks/water at both locations in a cooler with ice. Your helpers are working hard and will need it, no matter what the outside weather is.\n* Pack each room in it's entirety. when you're done in there, then you are DONE.\n* Unpack one room at a time. When you're done in there, then you are DONE.\n* Avoid going to the grocery the week before you move. Shop daily if you have to, but I can tell you for a fact, moving a lot of food, especially refrigerator/freezer items, is a pain!!!\n* Pets? Make sure their food/water dish is set up at the new place first thing. \n* Previously mentioned, but throw things away before you pack them. Sounds too logical but I honestly helped someone move who thought it was \"easier\" to move all the trash and then sort it at the new place. (really?) This is also a great time to clean out all of the expired salad dressings in your refrigerator!\n* Don't pack towels/sheets in a separate box. Use them to cushion dishes and breakables.\n* Pry open the wallet and rent a van or moving truck. It is NOT cheaper to ask your friends to use their vehicles (You WERE going to offer to pay for their gas, weren't you? For two or three pickup trucks that might take four or five trips as compared to one trip in a rental?) Rentals are not that expensive and well worth the convenience!!\n", "My number one rule when moving, is to overlap my rent by at least a week. I've moved 12 times in the past 10 years, and I've always been thankful that I didn't have to do it all in one day. Granted, this really only works well if you're moving within a half hour of your current place. Totally worth paying rent at two apartments for a week.", "I got this from my Home Buyer's Guide:\n\t\n**Preparing For The Big Move**\nSo you've conquered closing day - now it's time for the big move! This is a busy time, and you'll have tons to keep track of - we've put together a handy checklist to keep you organized!\n\nHome Insurance: Make sure your new home is protected\nPhone, Internet and Cable: Contact your provider and arrange a time\nHydro: Get switched on!\nChange of Address: Call the post office and have your mail transferred\n \nTIPS\t \tMoving Day\nChange Your Address\nYou'll also want to change your address on your:\n\nBank statements\nCr", "Grocery stores are great for boxes. DO NOT BUY THEM! Grocery stores have egg boxes that are a good size and have handles. They will even save them for you if you ask in advance. \n\nAlso try to make it in one trip, it will make things easier.\n\nBoxes should be packed and labeled according to room, no sense in moving everything around once it gets there.\n\nHook up the television and computer first so you will have entertainment while unpacking.\n\nFragile stuff goes in the car unless it is very well packed, putting that stuff in the moving van or trailer is just asking for trouble.\n\nCover each piece of furniture with a blanket to avoid scratches. I also pad each side of the van or trailer with my mattress and box spring.\n\nIf it's doable tie things down.\n\nClean the old place to the way you found it or better.\n\nHave some minor marks on the wall that you can't get off? Take a sample of the paint to a home store. They can match it in flat paint. Paint over said marks with flat paint or blemishes on wall. Flat paint makes marks and holes etc. hard to see.\n\nIf your furniture drawers are removable, remove them and pack separately. This way you don't spend time packing clothes into boxes. It also makes the furniture much much lighter when moving them.\n\nAlso move on a weekend and try to fit it around the people helping's schedule.\n\nJust my two cents. \n\n", "Fill one box with paper towels, toilet paper windex, clorox wipes or an all purpose cleaner and hand soap. \n\nAlways great to be able to go to the bathroom and wash your hands without digging through tons of boxes to find TP.", "Estimate the amount of time you think it will take you to pack everything up. Then double the amount for a more realistic time frame. Problems always occur when going through old stuff. \n\nI always tended to underestimate the amount of time it would take me to pack, and if anything you finish before you expect when double the time.", "Always leave a clear path. People always like to pile shit right in the place they are going to walk. Don't do that put your stuff near the walls and out of the walkways.", "1- bribery. pizza and beer but only **after** the move is complete. 2- the little shit accumulates and is tougher to deal with on moving day than the big stuff. Pack your troll keychain collection/ 3894 shampoo bottles/ knick knacks now 3- two teams of two usually gets things done faster. don't ask 3984 people to show, they only get in the way. 4- pack a bag of clothes/ cosmetics/ etc for the next week and live hotel style this week. I've moved a LOT both across town and across the country and these are tried and true! Well wishes with the move! ", "I always offered to do the pre-cleaning of the apartment myself for a discount on The security deposit or first months rent. " ]

[ 6, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "I can’t think straight around girls. I can’t think straight around girls.\n\nNot just cute ones. Whenever I’m around a girl near by age, I can’t stop thinking about them being there. I can’t not listen to anything they say and I also have trouble making decisions when one is around. I’m 17m and straight, so this might be normal, but it’s very inconvenient.\n\nThe worst part is, I can’t tell if I’m just intimidated by a girl or if I’m actually in love with them because of this. I think it started around middle school, since I started going to private school, and it happened that I haven’t shared a class with a girl in five years.\n\nI really would like to try dating at some point, but first I need to work on myself. \n\nTLDR: Any tips for being less “girl-crazy?”", "I can’t think straight around girls. I can’t think straight around girls.\n\nNot just cute ones. Whenever I’m around a girl near by age, I can’t stop thinking about them being there. I can’t not listen to anything they say and I also have trouble making decisions when one is around. I’m 17m and straight, so this might be normal, but it’s very inconvenient.\n\nThe worst part is, I can’t tell if I’m just intimidated by a girl or if I’m actually in love with them because of this. I think it started around middle school, since I started going to private school, and it happened that I haven’t shared a class with a girl in five years.\n\nI really would like to try dating at some point, but first I need to work on myself. \n\nTLDR: Any tips for being less “girl-crazy?”", "I can’t think straight around girls. I can’t think straight around girls.\n\nNot just cute ones. Whenever I’m around a girl near by age, I can’t stop thinking about them being there. I can’t not listen to anything they say and I also have trouble making decisions when one is around. I’m 17m and straight, so this might be normal, but it’s very inconvenient.\n\nThe worst part is, I can’t tell if I’m just intimidated by a girl or if I’m actually in love with them because of this. I think it started around middle school, since I started going to private school, and it happened that I haven’t shared a class with a girl in five years.\n\nI really would like to try dating at some point, but first I need to work on myself. \n\nTLDR: Any tips for being less “girl-crazy?”", "I can’t think straight around girls. I can’t think straight around girls.\n\nNot just cute ones. Whenever I’m around a girl near by age, I can’t stop thinking about them being there. I can’t not listen to anything they say and I also have trouble making decisions when one is around. I’m 17m and straight, so this might be normal, but it’s very inconvenient.\n\nThe worst part is, I can’t tell if I’m just intimidated by a girl or if I’m actually in love with them because of this. I think it started around middle school, since I started going to private school, and it happened that I haven’t shared a class with a girl in five years.\n\nI really would like to try dating at some point, but first I need to work on myself. \n\nTLDR: Any tips for being less “girl-crazy?”" ]

[ "Oh how we wish we knew at 17 all we know at 40 :) Read Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.\n\nAlso, find a hobby/activity you are passionate about, something that makes you interesting, and focus on that!", "Exposure therapy - just force yourself to keep talking to girls even if you are uncomfortable. Especially when you are uncomfortable.\n\nIf it is bad (it was for me, I am an anxious person) you could get a doctor to proscribe you beta-blockers such as propranolol, which have been shown to be able to permanently reduce fear in conjunction with exposure therapy. The basic idea is that, when you are afraid of something, you will get some biofeedback (adrenal response, heartbeat, racing thoughts) that feeds into itself and reinforces the fear. Beta-blockers largely block out that reaction - the anxiety is there, but the physiological effect muted - which allows you to retrain your brain that the stimulus is non-threatening.", "It helps to acknowledge that even if the people around you give off confidence and are very personable, they could be faking it just to practice being social. Anything that anyone has become a pro at has taken practice. Everyone embarrasses themselves, that’s how you find out who is a good person or friend and who is a toxic pos. Good luck ❤️", "I think you need to make a female friend. Probably easier said than done in your case but slowly figure out how to make friends. When you do, youll slowly make more female friends and become a little more comfortable being around them. \n\nTry to find co-ed groups that center around your favorite hobbies, whether it's gaming, sports, books, cooking, whatever. You just need more exposure to them in a setting where you are enjoying yourself. The best way to overcome something you're uncomfortable with is to increase your exposure to it." ]

[ 11, 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "What have you learned on the job that was never taught to you in your studies or in your training for the job? What is a thing, skill, workaround and/or “hack” you’ve learned whilst on the job that wasn’t covered in your training or your studies for the same assuming you’re in a similar profession to your studies?", "What have you learned on the job that was never taught to you in your studies or in your training for the job? What is a thing, skill, workaround and/or “hack” you’ve learned whilst on the job that wasn’t covered in your training or your studies for the same assuming you’re in a similar profession to your studies?", "What have you learned on the job that was never taught to you in your studies or in your training for the job? What is a thing, skill, workaround and/or “hack” you’ve learned whilst on the job that wasn’t covered in your training or your studies for the same assuming you’re in a similar profession to your studies?", "What have you learned on the job that was never taught to you in your studies or in your training for the job? What is a thing, skill, workaround and/or “hack” you’ve learned whilst on the job that wasn’t covered in your training or your studies for the same assuming you’re in a similar profession to your studies?" ]

[ "How to network, being able to ask my counterpart in different offices if they have come across the same problem or created similar report/review have saved me many hours of not reinventing the wheel.", "We live in an instant gratification, perpetually 'connected' society, so always return calls/emails promptly, even if you say something as simple as \"I'm out of the office today, however I will review & advise ASAP upon my return. \" To paraphrase something my boss (turned friend & business partner) taught me early on, “I don’t care if you return the message & tell them politely to (ahem) ‘bugger’ off for a day because you’re too busy, but always tell them something so that they know they have been heard, when they can expect action, & tell them ASAP. Nobody - NOBODY - in businss wants to feel that what they’ve said, asked for, or need, has fallen on deaf ears due to a lack of a response, & they are therefore unimportant to us; unfortunately, because perception is reality, to let them believe that is the case will result in the death of our business.”", "in a large company it seems like thinking or discussing about a task you are requested to do, most of the times isn't expected. better focus exact on the order to prevent that you will get frustrated.\nmade this experience several times during my life.", "Uh everything. Theory becomes exponentially useful as you spend time actually doing the thing, but at the start it's kind of useless. At least in my professions." ]

[ 7, 5, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to start turning your life for better Hello Good People of Reddit,\nI've found myslef to be stuck in boring 9-5 job that was supposed to be only a \"short-term\" thing before I find something I truly want. Although I get interesting offers I still can't make myself go for them, just because this job is not demanding and mainly it pays bills. I stoppedn working out and going out with friends. I stopped going to galleries and taking interest in anything. I usually choose to just stay in my bed. I just can't force myself although I believe that some \"first\" impulse would jump start it all. I also have UNI admission coming and I can't get myself to study for it, as I am mentally drained everyday I come home from work. Please people of Reddit, advise what should I do get me this jump start for my life path.\nThanks in advance for any opinion, I know this is quite complex question.", "How to start turning your life for better Hello Good People of Reddit,\nI've found myslef to be stuck in boring 9-5 job that was supposed to be only a \"short-term\" thing before I find something I truly want. Although I get interesting offers I still can't make myself go for them, just because this job is not demanding and mainly it pays bills. I stoppedn working out and going out with friends. I stopped going to galleries and taking interest in anything. I usually choose to just stay in my bed. I just can't force myself although I believe that some \"first\" impulse would jump start it all. I also have UNI admission coming and I can't get myself to study for it, as I am mentally drained everyday I come home from work. Please people of Reddit, advise what should I do get me this jump start for my life path.\nThanks in advance for any opinion, I know this is quite complex question.", "How to start turning your life for better Hello Good People of Reddit,\nI've found myslef to be stuck in boring 9-5 job that was supposed to be only a \"short-term\" thing before I find something I truly want. Although I get interesting offers I still can't make myself go for them, just because this job is not demanding and mainly it pays bills. I stoppedn working out and going out with friends. I stopped going to galleries and taking interest in anything. I usually choose to just stay in my bed. I just can't force myself although I believe that some \"first\" impulse would jump start it all. I also have UNI admission coming and I can't get myself to study for it, as I am mentally drained everyday I come home from work. Please people of Reddit, advise what should I do get me this jump start for my life path.\nThanks in advance for any opinion, I know this is quite complex question." ]

[ "Start a journal of everything you did today. A list is fine, doesn't have to be descriptive. The shortness of it will help you realize that even ONE thing more is a lot.", "Personal advice.\nSeems like you do not want to take the risk because of previous failures. Understandable, the world does not always workout like we want to. But with risk, come rewards.\nFor the job offers: Talk to the employers, ask if you could shadow for a day to see the demands of that position. Ask a question like \"What do people struggle with the most in this job position?\" \nThings like this can help you gauge if you can handle the position and what it might require of you.\n\nAs for the social aspect, none of us here are licensed to diagnose you with depression. But you are displaying symptoms of it: Lack of interest, isolation, lack of purpose/drive.\n\nTo solve this is a lot more trickier depending on severity and causes. But we can give some general advice. Its going to take some willpower on your side of things.\n\n* Slowly increase your social activities (Talk to an old close friend of yours/Make a new friend at work/Talk to a family member)\n\n* Eventually one of these social entities will invite you to go out somewhere, do it. (Go out for a drink, or go see a movie, or go to a family event. If youre feeling confident enough be the one to SUGGEST such a plan to them.)\n\n* Do this often and make it a routine, challenge yourself to go out 1-2 times a week. And with time you will develop a good social routine, make new friends and companions. But you have to be open and have a little initiative.\n\n* Also increasing your social activities will give you opportunities to meet people who might be interested in being in a relationship with you, which could be an important aspect missing in your life if youre not currently in a relationship.\n\nAs for the financial problems\n\nI feel this might be one of the biggest contributors to your stress and anxiety. It is for a lot of people. \nThis is also affected by the fact that you feel trapped in your job\nI would lower your quality of life. \nWhich means eating out less, watch your spending on needless things, cutting down on subscriptions.\n\nLastly I have no experience with volunteering but I have heard good things about it.\nOffer to volunteer at organizations, itll make you feel like youre contributing and happy doing it.\n\nBest of luck friend.\n ", "What is the problem with the other offers? This change might be the easiest way out and comes at little economical risk.\n\nYour job **is demanding**. It requires you to force yourself in something you don't find interesting anymore.\n\n> I can't get myself to study for it, as I am mentally drained everyday I come home from work\n\nAs a start: how many months can you go on without an income? Do you have offers for part-time?" ]

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[ "best way to get the smell of dog urine out of a couch My dog had an accident on the couch after being scared by something out side. I cleaned the best I could when it happened but the smell continues to linger. I'm looking for tips or suggestions on how to get the smell out!\n", "best way to get the smell of dog urine out of a couch My dog had an accident on the couch after being scared by something out side. I cleaned the best I could when it happened but the smell continues to linger. I'm looking for tips or suggestions on how to get the smell out!\n", "best way to get the smell of dog urine out of a couch My dog had an accident on the couch after being scared by something out side. I cleaned the best I could when it happened but the smell continues to linger. I'm looking for tips or suggestions on how to get the smell out!\n" ]

[ "[I have used this.](http://www.odoban.com/) I was surprised at how well it worked. I took the covers off the couch washed them and sprayed the cushions with this stuff.", "There are some really effective enzyme stain and odor removers like Simple Solution available in any pet store. May take a couple applications and a few days to be effective. Usually works great ", "Kerosene and a match.\nApply the kerosene to the whole couch, then use the match to light the couch on fire...then the smell is gone.\n\nTl:dr light it up in kerosene." ]

[ 3, 3, 1 ]

[ "College Financing Hello, I don't know if this can apply to LPT, but I just have an issue with the so-called \"summer job search\".\nI feel like I should get a job that can develop my engineering career for the summer, but it's extremely hard to find a summer internship and I can make much more money by working with my parents. I don't know if I should just give up on looking for a job and focus with helping my parents with income.", "College Financing Hello, I don't know if this can apply to LPT, but I just have an issue with the so-called \"summer job search\".\nI feel like I should get a job that can develop my engineering career for the summer, but it's extremely hard to find a summer internship and I can make much more money by working with my parents. I don't know if I should just give up on looking for a job and focus with helping my parents with income." ]

[ "You have the rest of your life to develop your engineering career post graduation, work with your parents and live in the moment; enjoy the summer!\n\nInternships are overrated in my honest opinion, passed on one with HP after finding out how little responsibility and development I was to go through.", "Alternative. If you do not do a good summer internship then make sure you are doing quality projects during your schooling. Something outside of a normal class is better, maybe in a club or some engineering competition or a personal project. Do something to help show that you can apply something relevant you learned." ]

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[ "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?", "getting out of jury duty. I'm 28 and have never been called for jury duty. But in the event I do how do I get out. I already don't believe in the prosecution of vistimless crimes. For example if you get caught with a joint you weren't hurting anyone so I don't feel you should be prosecuted. Will this position help disqualify me?" ]

[ "OR you could go to jury duty, and if the case is one involving a victimless crime you could choose to exercise the right of JUROR NULLIFICATION. **[", "My dad fell asleep at jury duty. HE LITERALLY FELL ASLEEP. When they asked him a question, he had no idea what happened. When he told them to repeat it again they said, \"just leave\".", "Dress in black pants, a white button down shirt, and a skinny black tie. \n\nBring a bible, read it in the waiting room, clutch that shit like it is your badge of salvation. \n\nWhen they ask you if you could be impartial, explain that only the Lord Jesus Christ can judge mortal men. Follow up with the statement that he who has not sinned should cast the first stone, and unfortunately as a mortal man you have sinned, so you cannot stand in judgement of another, so if you were asked to sit on the Jury, you would have to exonerate the defendant so he may be judged in the eyes of the lord when his time comes. Be very specific with the his, don't allude to the fact that you believe in women's rights, \n\nThat's about as far as you'll get before they excuse you. Police don't want to hear that no matter what, you'll set the person free. ", "Serving as a juror when summoned is your civil duty, and forms the basis of our judicial system, in which someone charged with a crime has the opportunity to be judged by their peers.\n\nIf you ever end up charged with a crime and in court, your case will have the chance to be heard by a pool of jurors who don't want to be there any more than you would, but who don't try to weasel their way out of something that shapes the goddamned foundation of our society.\n\nUnless there is a serious reason why you cannot attend, like a medical condition or a conflict of interest, stop being such a whiny little bitch and give back to your country when it asks you for a bit of your time.\n\nYou could always move to a country where a jury system doesn't exist if even the prospect of being summoned bothers you enough to make you create a post like this.", "Very simple, mention \"Jury Nullification\". You'll be out of jury duty in .25 seconds flat. I did that several years ago and have never been asked back.", "Please, please do your jury duty. \n\nI have done it a couple of times even including Grand Jury. It isn't that bad but most importantly our justice system NEEDS impartial, logical people for it to work. Don't leave someone's life in the hands of people who have no life and like to judge people harshly. Sacrificing some days at work in order to make sure that the system of law doesn't chew up someone and spit them out permanently damaged is more of an act of bravery than talking trash on the internet.", "If you don't believe in certain prosecutions, wouldn't you *want* to get jury duty to affect the outcome and potentially change things? Why try to avoid, ensuring those that see holding a joint as a social problem are the ones making the decisions?", "ask your boss to write you a letter saying he/she can't afford to have you away from work. did the trick for me", "Yeah I was just a vacant, apathetic dipshit when the lawyer asked me questions. Second one to be dismissed. Walked out like that Leo meme. Good times", "Here in California it is easy enough. They mail the summons to you, but they can't prove you ever received it, thus you can ignore it and nothing will happen. I've passed up three thus far. This has also been unofficially backed up by a DA my mother knew.", "Easy. Just act really shy and confused the whole time and you won't get picked. If you get asked a question, stutter a bit, give a wishy washy answer and don't look the lawyer in the eye.\n\nI know this works because this is how I got out of Jury Duty.", "Been through it many times already at the age of 32. Best advice I can give you is to not try the classic lines everyone tells you. You know, the \"I hate cops\" or \"I think all people of x race are guilty.\" The judge has heard them all and will simply postpone you to go through it all again if he/she thinks you are trying for an easy out. \n\nWhen the lawyers are questioning you, provided you make it to voir dire, try to analyze any hypothetical situation they pose to you, and keep a note of who the prosecutor is and who the defender is. Honesty is always best, but if you must, answer the question posed in a way that makes it clear to the attorney that you will not likely side with his or her client or you will not likely convict the defendant. \n\nAs soon as you are seen as an obstacle, you will be eliminated.", "All I know is...there are times those summons get lost...in the mail...you may have never even noticed it falling into the trash with the 2lbs of junk mail.\n;)\n\nIf you don't know, you don't have to go.\n\nDisclaimer: Think for yourself. Laws! Responsibility! Integrity! Penmanship! Bla, bla bla!", "When they ask if you're biased towards any races... explain that you aren't. But throw the n-word in your answer 3 or 4 times.\n\nYou could also just not register to vote (where most counties pull their jury pools from AFAIK). But... seeing as you're 28 and never got a notice... I'm guessing you already have this one covered.", "Sounds like you would get **weeded** even if you were called in, based on answers you would provide during Jury selection. \n\nOh, and I **highly** doubt someone with a joint would be going to a jury trial. The justice system just doesn't **roll** like that. ", "I have been dismissed several times due to being the sole income provider for my family and taking time off for jury duty would put financial hardships on my family.\n\nAlso totally do not do [this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uqH_Y1TupoQ)", "not sure about other countries but in u.k easy way to get out is just write back saying you're suffering from depression and can get a note from the doctor for them if they want.\n\ngood thing about it is it might put them off selecting you from jury service again unlike if you avoided it by saying you're busy - though not sure how selection works.", "From Utah here. Work at a state court house. Just say you moved out of state having mail forwarded. No one will ever check up on you or do anything about it. If you ignore the notice you may get called in for an order to show cause be ordered to do community service, but it is a lot of work to do that and most judges and clerks don't want to take the effort to do that. \n\nI imagine it would be the same for federal courts and other state courts. ", "Don't even try, it doesn't work. I used to work in the office of a criminal court and I have served on jury duty more than once. The vast majority of cases that go to a jury trial will not be little possession cases, they will be serious crimes. In the months (possible years) it takes to bring a case to trial, multiple attempts at settlement will have been made and even encouraged by the judge. I know it stinks, but it is part of your responsibility as an American citizen. And trust me, the judges, clerks and lawyers have all been dealing with people trying to get out of it for years. They are sick and tired of it and don't care if you think you are biased. " ]

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[ "How to not have underwear wedge up butt-crack constantly. I'm a stocky man with larger thighs and buttocks. My underwear always seems to be wedging itself up there whenever I seem to move around. Especially when I walk for a good amount of time or bend over. ", "How to not have underwear wedge up butt-crack constantly. I'm a stocky man with larger thighs and buttocks. My underwear always seems to be wedging itself up there whenever I seem to move around. Especially when I walk for a good amount of time or bend over. " ]

[ "As a male with similar issues in the past. Boxer briefs all the way. Make sure to avoid trunk briefs. Bought those by accident an it was way worse. ", "I think it's all about the kind of underwear. As a girl, the only things I can wear are thongs (obvs) and boyshorts to prevent this problem. Maybe boxer briefs?" ]

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[ "How to accept someone else paying for food \nOn one hand, I feel if I don’t at least offer to help or pay myself, I look cheap. On the other, if I’m insistent it can make things awkward or come off as ungrateful, dismissive, maybe even a little insulting. Especially recently I’ve had friends really want to pay for a group which can get expensive, but they earnestly seem to want to pay.\n", "How to accept someone else paying for food \nOn one hand, I feel if I don’t at least offer to help or pay myself, I look cheap. On the other, if I’m insistent it can make things awkward or come off as ungrateful, dismissive, maybe even a little insulting. Especially recently I’ve had friends really want to pay for a group which can get expensive, but they earnestly seem to want to pay.\n", "How to accept someone else paying for food \nOn one hand, I feel if I don’t at least offer to help or pay myself, I look cheap. On the other, if I’m insistent it can make things awkward or come off as ungrateful, dismissive, maybe even a little insulting. Especially recently I’ve had friends really want to pay for a group which can get expensive, but they earnestly seem to want to pay.\n", "How to accept someone else paying for food \nOn one hand, I feel if I don’t at least offer to help or pay myself, I look cheap. On the other, if I’m insistent it can make things awkward or come off as ungrateful, dismissive, maybe even a little insulting. Especially recently I’ve had friends really want to pay for a group which can get expensive, but they earnestly seem to want to pay.\n", "How to accept someone else paying for food \nOn one hand, I feel if I don’t at least offer to help or pay myself, I look cheap. On the other, if I’m insistent it can make things awkward or come off as ungrateful, dismissive, maybe even a little insulting. Especially recently I’ve had friends really want to pay for a group which can get expensive, but they earnestly seem to want to pay.\n" ]

[ "When it's someone I know I will see again, I say \"Thanks. I'll get it next time.\" then we take turns until we die. Whoever dies first and didn't pay for the last meal wins. ", "Usually if a friend insists on paying for a meal I just tell them \"alright then I will get the tip.\" I look at the bill and make sure to tip 20% and they are happy, I am happy (cheap eats) and the server is very happy.\n\n**", "This happens all the time with my elder sibling and my in-laws. I fought it at first and I'll still occasionally tell the host on the way in to make sure I get the bill, but otherwise I just resign myself to making it up other ways. E.g., sending thank you gifts, providing manual labor or technical help, trying to be a grateful and thoughtful person. ", "When people pay for your food, it is as much for them as it is for you. Giving is a wonderful thing, and if you are feeling guilty, tell the person paying that you are going to pay it forward to the next hungry person you see. Hope this helps.\n", "If you know you want to pay for the meal (like if you're really overdue for treating this person or just want to show a kind gesture), then pay while you're eating and about three quarters into the meal by excusing yourself to go to the bathroom, but also visiting the cashier/waiter to pay. \n\nIt really puts a smile on the face of your guest when they realize you paid for them without having to go through the awkwardness of deciding how to pay!" ]

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[ "Prioritizing long-term goals and short-term goals (please read below so I can make myself clearer) Hello everyone, \nI have a problem which many people around me probably have. In the long-term,\nI would like to be able to get into a good university and get a job at NASA. I would like to summit one of the seven summits. I would like to run the London marathon. These are all dreams. I certainly believe they are achievable, and if not I would at\nleast like to try. \n\nShort-term however, I want to play games and go out with friends. What can I do to get and stay on the right track to achieve my dreams? How do I know when I'm sacrificing too much? ", "Prioritizing long-term goals and short-term goals (please read below so I can make myself clearer) Hello everyone, \nI have a problem which many people around me probably have. In the long-term,\nI would like to be able to get into a good university and get a job at NASA. I would like to summit one of the seven summits. I would like to run the London marathon. These are all dreams. I certainly believe they are achievable, and if not I would at\nleast like to try. \n\nShort-term however, I want to play games and go out with friends. What can I do to get and stay on the right track to achieve my dreams? How do I know when I'm sacrificing too much? " ]

[ "When I was a teenager, I put a sign up next to the mirror in my bedroom that had a list of goals (keep it short. I had three items on mine. Don't let it get overwhelming.) Putting it there meant I had to notice it every time I got ready in the morning. \n\nIn a journal I wrote in, I had more detailed steps for achieving those goals, but having the big picture noticeable in my room kept those ideas in my mind and made me more likely to work towards them on a daily basis. ", "Make at least one of your shorter term goals relate to your big goals, it'll motivate you towards achieving the big goals. For example, if you want to run a marathon, make a fitness goal so that running is a hobby and a habit you can build on to achieve that big goal. \n\nWriting about your goals in a journal is something I do and it helps me to think about what I could be doing right now to help me achieve goals down the line. That might be a good thing too. " ]

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[ "What spices to add to my people-food to make it unattractive to my cat? I noticed my cat stopped wanting to eat my oatmeal after I started adding fennel seed to it. What other seasonings do cats not like?", "What spices to add to my people-food to make it unattractive to my cat? I noticed my cat stopped wanting to eat my oatmeal after I started adding fennel seed to it. What other seasonings do cats not like?", "What spices to add to my people-food to make it unattractive to my cat? I noticed my cat stopped wanting to eat my oatmeal after I started adding fennel seed to it. What other seasonings do cats not like?", "What spices to add to my people-food to make it unattractive to my cat? I noticed my cat stopped wanting to eat my oatmeal after I started adding fennel seed to it. What other seasonings do cats not like?", "What spices to add to my people-food to make it unattractive to my cat? I noticed my cat stopped wanting to eat my oatmeal after I started adding fennel seed to it. What other seasonings do cats not like?", "What spices to add to my people-food to make it unattractive to my cat? I noticed my cat stopped wanting to eat my oatmeal after I started adding fennel seed to it. What other seasonings do cats not like?", "What spices to add to my people-food to make it unattractive to my cat? I noticed my cat stopped wanting to eat my oatmeal after I started adding fennel seed to it. What other seasonings do cats not like?" ]

[ "When our family’s outdoor cats were peeing at a playground area (that had sand, so tbh I don’t blame them), my parents put lemons in there. That kept them away. I’d give citrus fruits a try.", "My feline master does not like catnip.\n\n(Your mileage may vary.)\n\nP.S.: If you added fennel seed to my oatmeal I also would not eat it.", "The back of your hand works. Don’t allow the behavior, don’t allow the cat to get to your food. You shouldn’t have to change your diet or season differently to keep your pet from eating your food, it’s not healthy for them, don’t allow it.", "Paprika. It’s a natural cat repellant, and doesn’t have a strong or offensive flavor, so it’s easier to add to a ton of dishes.", "My cat doesn't like human food at all for some reason. On the rare occasion he might eat a few small bites of chicken breast.", "Cats getting into your food? Make a separate dish, add cat nip to it. They'll be so high off the nip that they won't be able to focus on your food. Then you can take a nap.", "Bit of a strange request. Is there a backstory? \nWhy not just put your human food in a cupboard/fridge/pantry where the cat can’t get to it. \n\nOatmeal with Fennell sounds like the worst combination ever to me. I’m not surprised your cat won’t eat it." ]

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[ "How to not give a fuck? I've been pretty stressed out lately and really need some advices. I'm frequently worried about things that I can do nothing to change the result, or be bothered by unimportant things that should have little impact on my life. I KNOW that I should not stress myself out, but it's easier said than done. :(", "How to not give a fuck? I've been pretty stressed out lately and really need some advices. I'm frequently worried about things that I can do nothing to change the result, or be bothered by unimportant things that should have little impact on my life. I KNOW that I should not stress myself out, but it's easier said than done. :(", "How to not give a fuck? I've been pretty stressed out lately and really need some advices. I'm frequently worried about things that I can do nothing to change the result, or be bothered by unimportant things that should have little impact on my life. I KNOW that I should not stress myself out, but it's easier said than done. :(", "How to not give a fuck? I've been pretty stressed out lately and really need some advices. I'm frequently worried about things that I can do nothing to change the result, or be bothered by unimportant things that should have little impact on my life. I KNOW that I should not stress myself out, but it's easier said than done. :(", "How to not give a fuck? I've been pretty stressed out lately and really need some advices. I'm frequently worried about things that I can do nothing to change the result, or be bothered by unimportant things that should have little impact on my life. I KNOW that I should not stress myself out, but it's easier said than done. :(", "How to not give a fuck? I've been pretty stressed out lately and really need some advices. I'm frequently worried about things that I can do nothing to change the result, or be bothered by unimportant things that should have little impact on my life. I KNOW that I should not stress myself out, but it's easier said than done. :(", "How to not give a fuck? I've been pretty stressed out lately and really need some advices. I'm frequently worried about things that I can do nothing to change the result, or be bothered by unimportant things that should have little impact on my life. I KNOW that I should not stress myself out, but it's easier said than done. :(", "How to not give a fuck? I've been pretty stressed out lately and really need some advices. I'm frequently worried about things that I can do nothing to change the result, or be bothered by unimportant things that should have little impact on my life. I KNOW that I should not stress myself out, but it's easier said than done. :(" ]

[ "Professional asshole here.\n\nyou've made the first step. Admitting that you give too many fucks. 2016 is almost over, you should have ran out of fucks a long time ago. but i guess you haven't, so here's some quick tips to lose those fucks.\n\nfuck toxic people. got a friend that just drags on about drama, co worker talking shit? facebook drama? delete people off facebook, ignore that friend, fuck that co worker. literally or figuratively, your choice.\n\nmoney problems? welcome to most of the world, cut your expenses. kill amazon prime. cut the hulu, stop eating out. ramen once a week will save a few bucks. \n\noverwhelmed with too much to do? clean your house, apartment, squat, THROW SOME SHIT OUT\n\ntired of the same ole shit? stop at a new bar. i know this goes against what i said before about not going out. but fuck it. \n\nwork dragging you down? always tired? stop binge watching shit and get some fucking sleep. \n\ni have more i could say. but i stopped giving a fuck", "I get wound up into a stress ball when I start skimping on sleep. As someone else mentioned, get some good night's rest. \n\nPersonally, I can't sleep well, if I don't get some kind of regular exercise in. I just had my best nights sleep in over a month after one of my hardest workouts in awhile. (spoiler alert: I've been lazy)\n\nThrough in some decent diet. And now we have a good foundation.\n\n\nIf you do all three of these, then proceed to step 4.\n\nI would consider myself hard to rattle. I do have worries, but I have long term plans for them. I know what I can change and I know what I can't, and I accept what is a current life condition. Ie. If I want to make more money I slowly make steps towards that, but I don't expect huge changes in the next 3-6 months maybe even a few years. I just know I am working towards that...and that's all I can do.\n\nIf it doesn't work out, oh well, it's just money. \n\nI guess I just set simple goals on many different facets of life and slowly work towards them. \n\n\nI also take vacations and try to enjoy life, and when I do I completely forget about work or other BS that could be bothering me. Hard to give you exact advice but hopefully you can find a slither of good advice in there.\n\nIf not, well fuck it then", "dealing with strangers and unfortunate events(such as falling while walking outside) think to yourself you're not even gonna see them ever again", "USAF 30 yr old veteran of 9 years here. Got out, divorced, zero kids, began a weed gig, grew my own legally, wife didn't try to take my house, divorce done, easy. Headed back to college to finish bachelor's and began add meds. I think I'm on the right track. Ready to finish college, and land some college pussy. Focus on yourself bro. Life will come along.", "Get older.\nHere me out, the older you get, the less you worry about most stuff.\nAt the end of the day you only have yourself to answer to. If you are happy with the path you are on, and am not hurting others, who gives a fuck. Humans are very self absorbed. Also if it's a small thing that doesn't impact your life in a day/week/month, then it doesn't matter right now. Except debt. Try to avoid that shit.", "First get out of the house and do something, by yourself. Go hike, go to the gym, play some golf, read a book at a coffee shop. Separate yourself from your problems and allow time to reflect. Next you need to let go brother. Recognize that you have little influence on these issues. Many people use a hobby to distract them from this stress. I recommend taking on something where you have an immediate direct influence on the results such as a bonsai tree or a garden. Your overactive mind isn't going anywhere so you need to shift its impact to something that will give you peace. ", "You need to understand that some things you can not change, but also you need to have something else to worry about. If you just want to not give a fuck, realize that nothing you do is important and noone cares about you or what you do, they just care about results\n\nLater advice is only good if you are good at said thing", "I was in the Army for 22 years and learned to not give any fucks. When I struggled with it in later years, my doctor prescribed a bottle of Fuck-It-All pills with unlimited refills. I chase those pills down with a cup of coffee each morning and I'm good to go." ]

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[ "How to keep a room cool during summer and warm during winter? My bedroom is right above the garage, and I am aware that rooms above garages tend to be the same temperature and humidity as the room below them. Not only that, but my vent hardly blows air compared to other rooms and currently getting that fixed is costly, so I needed a few suggestions. \n\n​\n\nI also would like to note that I've had a small honeywell fan running in my room, which I guess sort of helps with the cooling, but during a humid week it gets way too bad to the point where I have to take a cold bath/shower every 3-4 hours. \n\n​\n\nI would truly appreciate anyone's (inexpensive) suggestions on how to keep a room cool, but also DEHUMIDIFIED, during the summer, as well as warm during the winter (I looked into Space Heaters and Baseboard heaters but they are much too costly in terms of the electric bill) and I don't want to inconvenience my parents with that bill. Is there anything I can do as an inexpensive option? Maybe buy new cheap insulation or something? I'm sorry if I don't sound knowledgeable on the topic but I have looked everywhere and at this point I am a little desperate, I truly appreciate anyone's suggestion. \n\n​\n\nThank you!", "How to keep a room cool during summer and warm during winter? My bedroom is right above the garage, and I am aware that rooms above garages tend to be the same temperature and humidity as the room below them. Not only that, but my vent hardly blows air compared to other rooms and currently getting that fixed is costly, so I needed a few suggestions. \n\n​\n\nI also would like to note that I've had a small honeywell fan running in my room, which I guess sort of helps with the cooling, but during a humid week it gets way too bad to the point where I have to take a cold bath/shower every 3-4 hours. \n\n​\n\nI would truly appreciate anyone's (inexpensive) suggestions on how to keep a room cool, but also DEHUMIDIFIED, during the summer, as well as warm during the winter (I looked into Space Heaters and Baseboard heaters but they are much too costly in terms of the electric bill) and I don't want to inconvenience my parents with that bill. Is there anything I can do as an inexpensive option? Maybe buy new cheap insulation or something? I'm sorry if I don't sound knowledgeable on the topic but I have looked everywhere and at this point I am a little desperate, I truly appreciate anyone's suggestion. \n\n​\n\nThank you!", "How to keep a room cool during summer and warm during winter? My bedroom is right above the garage, and I am aware that rooms above garages tend to be the same temperature and humidity as the room below them. Not only that, but my vent hardly blows air compared to other rooms and currently getting that fixed is costly, so I needed a few suggestions. \n\n​\n\nI also would like to note that I've had a small honeywell fan running in my room, which I guess sort of helps with the cooling, but during a humid week it gets way too bad to the point where I have to take a cold bath/shower every 3-4 hours. \n\n​\n\nI would truly appreciate anyone's (inexpensive) suggestions on how to keep a room cool, but also DEHUMIDIFIED, during the summer, as well as warm during the winter (I looked into Space Heaters and Baseboard heaters but they are much too costly in terms of the electric bill) and I don't want to inconvenience my parents with that bill. Is there anything I can do as an inexpensive option? Maybe buy new cheap insulation or something? I'm sorry if I don't sound knowledgeable on the topic but I have looked everywhere and at this point I am a little desperate, I truly appreciate anyone's suggestion. \n\n​\n\nThank you!", "How to keep a room cool during summer and warm during winter? My bedroom is right above the garage, and I am aware that rooms above garages tend to be the same temperature and humidity as the room below them. Not only that, but my vent hardly blows air compared to other rooms and currently getting that fixed is costly, so I needed a few suggestions. \n\n​\n\nI also would like to note that I've had a small honeywell fan running in my room, which I guess sort of helps with the cooling, but during a humid week it gets way too bad to the point where I have to take a cold bath/shower every 3-4 hours. \n\n​\n\nI would truly appreciate anyone's (inexpensive) suggestions on how to keep a room cool, but also DEHUMIDIFIED, during the summer, as well as warm during the winter (I looked into Space Heaters and Baseboard heaters but they are much too costly in terms of the electric bill) and I don't want to inconvenience my parents with that bill. Is there anything I can do as an inexpensive option? Maybe buy new cheap insulation or something? I'm sorry if I don't sound knowledgeable on the topic but I have looked everywhere and at this point I am a little desperate, I truly appreciate anyone's suggestion. \n\n​\n\nThank you!", "How to keep a room cool during summer and warm during winter? My bedroom is right above the garage, and I am aware that rooms above garages tend to be the same temperature and humidity as the room below them. Not only that, but my vent hardly blows air compared to other rooms and currently getting that fixed is costly, so I needed a few suggestions. \n\n​\n\nI also would like to note that I've had a small honeywell fan running in my room, which I guess sort of helps with the cooling, but during a humid week it gets way too bad to the point where I have to take a cold bath/shower every 3-4 hours. \n\n​\n\nI would truly appreciate anyone's (inexpensive) suggestions on how to keep a room cool, but also DEHUMIDIFIED, during the summer, as well as warm during the winter (I looked into Space Heaters and Baseboard heaters but they are much too costly in terms of the electric bill) and I don't want to inconvenience my parents with that bill. Is there anything I can do as an inexpensive option? Maybe buy new cheap insulation or something? I'm sorry if I don't sound knowledgeable on the topic but I have looked everywhere and at this point I am a little desperate, I truly appreciate anyone's suggestion. \n\n​\n\nThank you!", "How to keep a room cool during summer and warm during winter? My bedroom is right above the garage, and I am aware that rooms above garages tend to be the same temperature and humidity as the room below them. Not only that, but my vent hardly blows air compared to other rooms and currently getting that fixed is costly, so I needed a few suggestions. \n\n​\n\nI also would like to note that I've had a small honeywell fan running in my room, which I guess sort of helps with the cooling, but during a humid week it gets way too bad to the point where I have to take a cold bath/shower every 3-4 hours. \n\n​\n\nI would truly appreciate anyone's (inexpensive) suggestions on how to keep a room cool, but also DEHUMIDIFIED, during the summer, as well as warm during the winter (I looked into Space Heaters and Baseboard heaters but they are much too costly in terms of the electric bill) and I don't want to inconvenience my parents with that bill. Is there anything I can do as an inexpensive option? Maybe buy new cheap insulation or something? I'm sorry if I don't sound knowledgeable on the topic but I have looked everywhere and at this point I am a little desperate, I truly appreciate anyone's suggestion. \n\n​\n\nThank you!", "How to keep a room cool during summer and warm during winter? My bedroom is right above the garage, and I am aware that rooms above garages tend to be the same temperature and humidity as the room below them. Not only that, but my vent hardly blows air compared to other rooms and currently getting that fixed is costly, so I needed a few suggestions. \n\n​\n\nI also would like to note that I've had a small honeywell fan running in my room, which I guess sort of helps with the cooling, but during a humid week it gets way too bad to the point where I have to take a cold bath/shower every 3-4 hours. \n\n​\n\nI would truly appreciate anyone's (inexpensive) suggestions on how to keep a room cool, but also DEHUMIDIFIED, during the summer, as well as warm during the winter (I looked into Space Heaters and Baseboard heaters but they are much too costly in terms of the electric bill) and I don't want to inconvenience my parents with that bill. Is there anything I can do as an inexpensive option? Maybe buy new cheap insulation or something? I'm sorry if I don't sound knowledgeable on the topic but I have looked everywhere and at this point I am a little desperate, I truly appreciate anyone's suggestion. \n\n​\n\nThank you!", "How to keep a room cool during summer and warm during winter? My bedroom is right above the garage, and I am aware that rooms above garages tend to be the same temperature and humidity as the room below them. Not only that, but my vent hardly blows air compared to other rooms and currently getting that fixed is costly, so I needed a few suggestions. \n\n​\n\nI also would like to note that I've had a small honeywell fan running in my room, which I guess sort of helps with the cooling, but during a humid week it gets way too bad to the point where I have to take a cold bath/shower every 3-4 hours. \n\n​\n\nI would truly appreciate anyone's (inexpensive) suggestions on how to keep a room cool, but also DEHUMIDIFIED, during the summer, as well as warm during the winter (I looked into Space Heaters and Baseboard heaters but they are much too costly in terms of the electric bill) and I don't want to inconvenience my parents with that bill. Is there anything I can do as an inexpensive option? Maybe buy new cheap insulation or something? I'm sorry if I don't sound knowledgeable on the topic but I have looked everywhere and at this point I am a little desperate, I truly appreciate anyone's suggestion. \n\n​\n\nThank you!", "How to keep a room cool during summer and warm during winter? My bedroom is right above the garage, and I am aware that rooms above garages tend to be the same temperature and humidity as the room below them. Not only that, but my vent hardly blows air compared to other rooms and currently getting that fixed is costly, so I needed a few suggestions. \n\n​\n\nI also would like to note that I've had a small honeywell fan running in my room, which I guess sort of helps with the cooling, but during a humid week it gets way too bad to the point where I have to take a cold bath/shower every 3-4 hours. \n\n​\n\nI would truly appreciate anyone's (inexpensive) suggestions on how to keep a room cool, but also DEHUMIDIFIED, during the summer, as well as warm during the winter (I looked into Space Heaters and Baseboard heaters but they are much too costly in terms of the electric bill) and I don't want to inconvenience my parents with that bill. Is there anything I can do as an inexpensive option? Maybe buy new cheap insulation or something? I'm sorry if I don't sound knowledgeable on the topic but I have looked everywhere and at this point I am a little desperate, I truly appreciate anyone's suggestion. \n\n​\n\nThank you!", "How to keep a room cool during summer and warm during winter? My bedroom is right above the garage, and I am aware that rooms above garages tend to be the same temperature and humidity as the room below them. Not only that, but my vent hardly blows air compared to other rooms and currently getting that fixed is costly, so I needed a few suggestions. \n\n​\n\nI also would like to note that I've had a small honeywell fan running in my room, which I guess sort of helps with the cooling, but during a humid week it gets way too bad to the point where I have to take a cold bath/shower every 3-4 hours. \n\n​\n\nI would truly appreciate anyone's (inexpensive) suggestions on how to keep a room cool, but also DEHUMIDIFIED, during the summer, as well as warm during the winter (I looked into Space Heaters and Baseboard heaters but they are much too costly in terms of the electric bill) and I don't want to inconvenience my parents with that bill. Is there anything I can do as an inexpensive option? Maybe buy new cheap insulation or something? I'm sorry if I don't sound knowledgeable on the topic but I have looked everywhere and at this point I am a little desperate, I truly appreciate anyone's suggestion. \n\n​\n\nThank you!" ]

[ "Insulation is key. If you have hardwood or laminate flooring, install carpet or get a few rugs to cover the floor. If possible, add insulation under the floor if there isn’t any currently. Same for the roof.\n\nCover the windows, sun will heat the room, plus depending on the glass you might need some extra help. Cheap/super awful fix is tape tinfoil over the windows to reflect the sun. You can get cheap styrofoam insulation to put over them as well.\n\nIf the windows are drafty, you’ll want to do that in the winter too as keeping the warm air in will do more than any sunlight getting in through the windows.\n\nNot pretty, but definitely cheap. I’d recommend saving for a proper finish on the room if you’re gonna be there a while.", "garage doors leak a lot of air around the edges. you can get tape that will prevent drafts through the top and sides.\n\nfor the bottom you can get taped rubber tubing.\n\nduring the summer, just opening the garage door in the morning and on cool evenings will also call your room.", "The cheapest, fastest thing would probably be taping a mylar blanket over the window. It's not amazing insulation, but it's something you can do in a day while spending about the amount of change you can find in a couch. \n\nFor winter, putting on more layers won't heat the room, but it will help you.", "Probably everyone that live in the shitty, oppressive midwest is already aware of is fan direction. Counter-clockwise in the summer and clockwise in the summer. Heat rises, helping the heat away from your body/bed helps with this ridiculous, gawd-forsaken wasteland of middle-America.", "I'm an Hvac contractor, Turn the fan to on. That will help continuously put conditioned air into the room. The electric cost isn't much. To do so. Also where is furnace located? Usually there is a piece of ductwork next to it with a damper that you can adjust airflow to the upstairs. (In my area and west bc past I've seen them anyway). You can also try closing some of the lower floor vents down some, not all the way, but some to push up. Insulation could help, but if this is a bonus room you aren't going to gain much. I'd also look into a solar attic fan. They are fairly inexpensive and if you can lower the attic temperature it will help keep the cold air in the conditioned living space.", "I would guess that your vent is the last one in line. If you close or partially close others in some rooms, does your vent blow more? For a heater, just pay your parents the difference. Also, get a dehumidifier.", "I bought a mini split for our bedroom for the same reason. It was the best $500 spent on Facebook marketplace. That price included installation.", "Ceiling fan. REALLY helped with this exact situation for me. They aren’t overly expensive and aren’t too hard to install (watch youtube videos). Put it on max speed and leave your door open. It’ll blow the hot air out of your room and allow more cool air in. In the Winter, you can reverse the direction to better circulate heat. Trust me, it makes a world of difference and they use very little electricity.", "Hate to say it, don’t really have an inexpensive option. Your least expensive option is to buy a dual unit that goes to the window for ac and heat. Ac will dehumidify the room a bit. If I were you, buy the unit and offer to pay a third of the electric bill or if you really want to cheap out by a plug-in wattage use tracker and pay them the market rate for ac. May not be cheap, but I learned a long time ago that being miserable most of the time is worth a little extra money. Even making 7.25 an hour, you probably would use 3-5 hours of work a month to pay the electric usage difference. On the high end.", "A cool wet rag around your neck can go a long way, even if it takes some effort to maintain by wetting it with cold water and wringing it out on occasion. Wiping this on any exposed skin will help evaporative cooling and it works better than the sweat that is at your body temp. Pair this with a fan blowing directly across your skin. Also, cold snacks can help to lower your body temp. Freeze pops are nice, but chew ice if you have to; it'll lower your body temp a little and everything helps." ]

[ 6, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0 ]

[ "How can I stop suffering low self esteem? Hi, I’m a normal person. I have a family and I work hard yet I deserve better in life. I would love to start my own business up as I do most of the work for my boss who clearly only cares about himself. The only think lacking is my self confidence, and I don’t know why. I’m always skint due to having a big family yet I earn my boss loads who has nothing to worry about. Is there a way out of this mental carousel?", "How can I stop suffering low self esteem? Hi, I’m a normal person. I have a family and I work hard yet I deserve better in life. I would love to start my own business up as I do most of the work for my boss who clearly only cares about himself. The only think lacking is my self confidence, and I don’t know why. I’m always skint due to having a big family yet I earn my boss loads who has nothing to worry about. Is there a way out of this mental carousel?", "How can I stop suffering low self esteem? Hi, I’m a normal person. I have a family and I work hard yet I deserve better in life. I would love to start my own business up as I do most of the work for my boss who clearly only cares about himself. The only think lacking is my self confidence, and I don’t know why. I’m always skint due to having a big family yet I earn my boss loads who has nothing to worry about. Is there a way out of this mental carousel?", "How can I stop suffering low self esteem? Hi, I’m a normal person. I have a family and I work hard yet I deserve better in life. I would love to start my own business up as I do most of the work for my boss who clearly only cares about himself. The only think lacking is my self confidence, and I don’t know why. I’m always skint due to having a big family yet I earn my boss loads who has nothing to worry about. Is there a way out of this mental carousel?", "How can I stop suffering low self esteem? Hi, I’m a normal person. I have a family and I work hard yet I deserve better in life. I would love to start my own business up as I do most of the work for my boss who clearly only cares about himself. The only think lacking is my self confidence, and I don’t know why. I’m always skint due to having a big family yet I earn my boss loads who has nothing to worry about. Is there a way out of this mental carousel?", "How can I stop suffering low self esteem? Hi, I’m a normal person. I have a family and I work hard yet I deserve better in life. I would love to start my own business up as I do most of the work for my boss who clearly only cares about himself. The only think lacking is my self confidence, and I don’t know why. I’m always skint due to having a big family yet I earn my boss loads who has nothing to worry about. Is there a way out of this mental carousel?", "How can I stop suffering low self esteem? Hi, I’m a normal person. I have a family and I work hard yet I deserve better in life. I would love to start my own business up as I do most of the work for my boss who clearly only cares about himself. The only think lacking is my self confidence, and I don’t know why. I’m always skint due to having a big family yet I earn my boss loads who has nothing to worry about. Is there a way out of this mental carousel?", "How can I stop suffering low self esteem? Hi, I’m a normal person. I have a family and I work hard yet I deserve better in life. I would love to start my own business up as I do most of the work for my boss who clearly only cares about himself. The only think lacking is my self confidence, and I don’t know why. I’m always skint due to having a big family yet I earn my boss loads who has nothing to worry about. Is there a way out of this mental carousel?", "How can I stop suffering low self esteem? Hi, I’m a normal person. I have a family and I work hard yet I deserve better in life. I would love to start my own business up as I do most of the work for my boss who clearly only cares about himself. The only think lacking is my self confidence, and I don’t know why. I’m always skint due to having a big family yet I earn my boss loads who has nothing to worry about. Is there a way out of this mental carousel?", "How can I stop suffering low self esteem? Hi, I’m a normal person. I have a family and I work hard yet I deserve better in life. I would love to start my own business up as I do most of the work for my boss who clearly only cares about himself. The only think lacking is my self confidence, and I don’t know why. I’m always skint due to having a big family yet I earn my boss loads who has nothing to worry about. Is there a way out of this mental carousel?" ]

[ "Find small challenges that are uncomfortable to you and overcome them. Consistently pushing yourself out of your present zone and achieving what you set out to do gives confidence. For me it was travel, learning a new competitive sport and public speaking. Doesn’t necessarily have to involve people tho.", "Make sure you cut yourself a break. Sometimes things don’t go to plan and if you don’t constantly beat yourself up you’ll become more confident and start seeing the ways you’re succeeding and it becomes a habitual cycle. The long game is the best game", "I have a friend who suffers from very bad depression and anxiety. So bad that he no longer uses a mobile or the internet as it freaks him out. He came into over 3 million dollars. He seems a lot better now.", "Who can do it better than you? Don’t sound like anyone. If you do it all and strive to do it better than anyone then you deserve it more than anyone else. Take comfort in knowing you’re the best. Shoulders back chin up boss up", "I would highly recommend reading The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom. A classic book that almost any therapist/self-help coach/good friend would recommend.", "Here's a different approach. Start thinking about others faults and shortcomings. The idea isn't to think less of others but to show yourself that you are just as good if not better than them. We all have shortcomings and skills.", "Have a routine, like working out everyday in the morning and only cold shower no matter the weather \n\nAnd get some experience outside your current lifestyle because experiences makes you confident because you know “your stuff” \n\nAnd jerking off does make you extra stressed and nervous so try to avoid it if you aren’t (doing something you know is negative to you makes you stressed, because you know you shouldn’t do it)", "Go for a walk or jog three times a week. The excursion is healthy for both body and mind. Go to a gym when you feel up to it. I’ve done this to work off stress and boredom, even when I didn’t feel like it. Short workouts are good. I’ve never left the gym feeling bad. \n\nAlso, if things aren’t going well, remind yourself you’re human. Not everyone does everything well. I understand that for everything I don’t do well, there are things I do well. It lets me enjoy my “victories.”", "Do you work out? If not I have something that might help, but it will take a bit to see results. \n\nI was struggling in the beginning of the pandemic and I heard this from a coworker. If you ever feel insecure, anxious, etc drop and do 10 push ups or crunches. Like immediately. Go find a place. You can do that.\n\nWith that. Do push-ups and crunches to exhaustion once a day every day. \n\nThe blood flow of the immediate ones will help and then within a month or two you’ll be walking out of the shower and be like ‘damn….I have a little muscle going on right there’", "Audit your relationships. Do you have friends or people in your life who make you doubt yourself? Who are manipulative or passive-aggressive? Spend your time with the honest and uplifting ones." ]

[ 15, 10, 8, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to stop biting my nails I constantly bite my nails and they are to the degree of looking disgusting. I am looking for advice on how to get rid of my bad habit.", "How to stop biting my nails I constantly bite my nails and they are to the degree of looking disgusting. I am looking for advice on how to get rid of my bad habit.", "How to stop biting my nails I constantly bite my nails and they are to the degree of looking disgusting. I am looking for advice on how to get rid of my bad habit.", "How to stop biting my nails I constantly bite my nails and they are to the degree of looking disgusting. I am looking for advice on how to get rid of my bad habit.", "How to stop biting my nails I constantly bite my nails and they are to the degree of looking disgusting. I am looking for advice on how to get rid of my bad habit.", "How to stop biting my nails I constantly bite my nails and they are to the degree of looking disgusting. I am looking for advice on how to get rid of my bad habit.", "How to stop biting my nails I constantly bite my nails and they are to the degree of looking disgusting. I am looking for advice on how to get rid of my bad habit.", "How to stop biting my nails I constantly bite my nails and they are to the degree of looking disgusting. I am looking for advice on how to get rid of my bad habit.", "How to stop biting my nails I constantly bite my nails and they are to the degree of looking disgusting. I am looking for advice on how to get rid of my bad habit." ]

[ "My brother did this for a while and he once bought this stuff, kinda like nail varnish but it tastes HORRIBLE. \nPaint it on every day and you will soon associate biting your nails with that horrid taste.", "Been eating them all my life. In April I took my girls to do their nails and jokingly had mine done as well. The dude told me I bite them because I have them. To keep constantly filing them while watching TV or so. So that there wouldn't be any to bite.\n\nThe nail grows from below so even if you keep filing the tops, with time they would just be longer and stronger.\n\nAfter just two weeks they looked so considerably better I never had the heart to ruin them since.\n\nI now consider myself completely cured.", "Wife used to and did two things (one won't really work if you're male) that worked after lots of things that didn't:\n\n1) Had hypnotherapy. Only one session but it stopped her for a few months. I suspect repeat sessions would have sorted it.\n\n2) Final thing that worked was having false nails done for a wedding and having them filled in or whatever they do - when they were finally gone, the urge to bite then had gone too.", "My dentist put something on my front teeth to keep them from chipping. It made them so thick I couldn't bite my nails. I'd been a nail biter and tried to quit so many ways before that. It's really hard to do. ", "Hey ! I had this problem for over 10 years. I decided to put transparent nail polish on my nails 2 weeks ago, and now my nails looks almost normal again ! Definitely worth the try (if you don't mind having a bit shiny nails from the nail polish).", "Think about the germs. I mean really think about them. That's how I suddenly stopped after 20+ years.", "No matter how you go about quitting, keep a nail clipper/file with you at all times. When you get a chipped or ragged nail or a piece of skin that's hanging off, clip it rather than bite it. ", "I stopped through m", "Just stop... Just think about how dogshit disgusting that is and how everyone that sees you doing that thinks of you as a dirt." ]

[ 5, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]

[ "How to combat the flu at the onsight of its symptoms? coming down with the flu, have the chills, minor nausea etc.\n\nany strategies to lessen the symptoms over the next couple days?", "How to combat the flu at the onsight of its symptoms? coming down with the flu, have the chills, minor nausea etc.\n\nany strategies to lessen the symptoms over the next couple days?", "How to combat the flu at the onsight of its symptoms? coming down with the flu, have the chills, minor nausea etc.\n\nany strategies to lessen the symptoms over the next couple days?" ]

[ "Fluids. Drinks a fucking *ton* of fluids. Like, always have a bottle of water or cup of tea in your hand, constantly sipping.", "Garlic is a placebo. Vitamin C is a placebo. Nothing stops a flu except Tamaflu - a prescription anti-viral medication. I took it once and it worked like a charm. \n\nYou might just have a cold though. Flu tends to come on very quickly, while colds often come on slowly. Cold-eaze and other zinc otc medications claim to have actual studies proving their effectiveness. \n\nWhen you have a cold (or flu), drink plenty of water, get plenty of sleep, take OTC medications to manage the symptoms. Also if you have to go to work or school, caffeine significantly reduces most cold symptoms for a few hours. ", "[Don't quote me on this, but I have heard successful stories of people that used Belladonna to counter the flu. Whether or not it's worth the risk is up to you though](http://www.healthline.com/health/belladonna-dark-past#5)" ]

[ 4, 3, 2 ]

[ "Easy way to remove ice cubes from the tray I am aware that twisting the tray can help, but I was interested in whether other factors can lead to easier removal of ice. Does the initial temperature of the water in the tray before freezing have an effect on the ease of removal after freezing? Any other tips or suggestions would be appreciated.", "Easy way to remove ice cubes from the tray I am aware that twisting the tray can help, but I was interested in whether other factors can lead to easier removal of ice. Does the initial temperature of the water in the tray before freezing have an effect on the ease of removal after freezing? Any other tips or suggestions would be appreciated." ]

[ "I always turn it upside-down and put it under my tap with warm-ish water. The cubes get loose then and you can just take them out.", "something I've noticed at friends' houses is that people underfill their trays. If you you fill the tray so that a layer of water is connecting all the compartments, and use the twisting technique once it's frozen, each piece of ice will should have a \"handle\" by which you can easily remove it from the tray. \n\nIt's okay if a little spills on the way to the freezer, it's just water. \n\nTL;DR: Pour more water in your tray than you've been using. \n\n" ]

[ 3, 1 ]

[ "Overclocking a computer's processor/s. Ex. My AMD Dual Core E-450 APU on Windows 7. Or a referral to a more specific subreddit would also be absolutely awesome. Thanks in advance.", "Overclocking a computer's processor/s. Ex. My AMD Dual Core E-450 APU on Windows 7. Or a referral to a more specific subreddit would also be absolutely awesome. Thanks in advance." ]

[ "It depends on your BIOS because that is where the profile is stored. Refer to your Manual on your motherboard. If you don't have a custom-built computer, try looking on forums for other people with PCs/Laptops of the same manufacturer that have successfully overclocked their CPU.\n\nEX: Built a custom desktop with an Asus Motherboard? Instructions are in the manual.\n\nEX: Have a Vaio laptop you bought from best buy? Check forums.", "If my memory serves, you'll have to search for the option in the BIOS and it's relatively easy to find BUT: If you don't absolutely need to do it then by all means don't: when i was working as a pc builder i had to repair one where the processor had litteraly fried and burnt through the motherboard From excessive overclocking. \n\nBe carefull with that thing ;-) " ]

[ 2, 1 ]

[ "What deodorant to use that doesn't have aluminium and isn't dangerous to my health, but is actually strong enough to work? ", "What deodorant to use that doesn't have aluminium and isn't dangerous to my health, but is actually strong enough to work? ", "What deodorant to use that doesn't have aluminium and isn't dangerous to my health, but is actually strong enough to work? " ]

[ "Purell. Yep, as in hand sanitizer. Best deodorant I've ever used. Also contains ethanol, which causes cancer.", "I recently found a deodorant that seems to work well and is available at most places like target and grocery stores.\n\nIt's called \"Toms\". It's in a blue colored container and works like any other deodorant dispenser.\n\nTo be honest, I have never read the ingredients really well, but it's advertised as natural and safe.\n\nI just buy it bc it seems to be the safest deodorant of all the ones that are widely available. \n\nI could prolly find more natural options if I wanted to special order from Amazon or other websites...", "Hello [mnfloro](/u/mnfloro), thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, your submission has been removed for the following reason(s):\n\n* **Medical tips, including practicing medicine, eye/vision, skin care, dental advice, diet/nutrition, birth control, sex tips, and mental health. Legal tips. Biomedical donations.**\n\n\n\n\nIf you would like to appeal this decision [please feel free to contact the moderators here](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=/r/LifeProTips). Do not repost without explicit permission from the moderators. Make sure you [read the rules](/r/lifeprotips/about/sidebar) before submitting. Thank you!" ]

[ 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do I get motivation/ stop being lazy? I've never had any motivation and I've always been lazy. I don't know how to make myself do things. How do I do it? I've never had a job before and would like to get one soon, so I need to be able to get up and go to work.", "How do I get motivation/ stop being lazy? I've never had any motivation and I've always been lazy. I don't know how to make myself do things. How do I do it? I've never had a job before and would like to get one soon, so I need to be able to get up and go to work.", "How do I get motivation/ stop being lazy? I've never had any motivation and I've always been lazy. I don't know how to make myself do things. How do I do it? I've never had a job before and would like to get one soon, so I need to be able to get up and go to work.", "How do I get motivation/ stop being lazy? I've never had any motivation and I've always been lazy. I don't know how to make myself do things. How do I do it? I've never had a job before and would like to get one soon, so I need to be able to get up and go to work." ]

[ "Health. Seriously look into health if you want motivation. But if that doesn't work there's always modafinil.", "Well I heard this a LONG time ago. Maybe when I was in middle school and I'm in college now. First you just got to think about what you want. Success? A car? A new computer? Etc etc. but what works for me to work towards these goals is to get down into details about them. Like for me let's say I want to go on a trip. I would then start to give myself a mental goal of getting the money, how much I need to fly there, how much for hotel and how much I would need for other expenses. Basically planning the trip even though I haven't met the goal yet ", "Start hella small. Like planning to get up at a reasonable time that is a bit of a challenge for you. Then plan everything (even normal things like cleaning, napping, reading, or walking the dog). Create a schedule around things you are already doing and then add tiny, tiny additions as small challenges that you schedule at the times of the day that you are most energetic or least liable to give up. Your starting schedule will look hardly at all different than your current one, but will have the bonus ingredient of structure. Then, piece by piece, add tiny challenges (like job shadowing for one hour each week on Tuesdays at X time or walk/running 3km three times weekly on M, W, and F at X time - whatever). Soon enough, you'll have a whole structured schedule that you can stretch to fit anything that you want to add in (like a job).", "Become accountable to someone else. I cheat myself short on workouts or workloads or studying pretty easily, but if I have a gym buddy/study pal/am invested in my coworkers it becomes about not shorting them." ]

[ 3, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do you take a compliment without making things awkward? Or alternatively, how do you stop yourself from feeling awkward when you receive a compliment?", "How do you take a compliment without making things awkward? Or alternatively, how do you stop yourself from feeling awkward when you receive a compliment?", "How do you take a compliment without making things awkward? Or alternatively, how do you stop yourself from feeling awkward when you receive a compliment?", "How do you take a compliment without making things awkward? Or alternatively, how do you stop yourself from feeling awkward when you receive a compliment?" ]

[ "So, something i do, which might only work with my sense of humor, (i dont know) is ill say \"thanks!\" And then tell a story about it. Does that make sense? \n\nExample: \"cool shoes\"\n\"Thanks! I was gonna wear flip flops, but then i figured i couldn't run, and i really like running, so i was like, i should wear these shoes! So I decided to wear these shoes instead. \" \nBy that time, you've said so much stuff that is pretty easy for them to start a conversation.", "I've always learned and thought that going on with anything besides just a \"thank you, I appreciate it\" is a little much. Denying the compliment can easily be seen as A) discr", "I usually respond with \"Thank you\" or \"That's so kind of you to say!\" That's all you need to do, really.", "I sing at family and friend events a lot so I'm no stranger to the awkward feeling.\n\nWhat I learned, just say, \"Thank you.\"" ]

[ 3, 3, 3, 2 ]

[ "What's the best way to store/organize the original boxes for electronics (phones, game systems, TVs, etc.)? ", "What's the best way to store/organize the original boxes for electronics (phones, game systems, TVs, etc.)? ", "What's the best way to store/organize the original boxes for electronics (phones, game systems, TVs, etc.)? " ]

[ "Put a shelf in the very top of your closet (almost requiring a ladder). \n \nFile them almost like you would books (or even just stack them up). \n \nHowever, they will be out of the way and all in one location. They won't take up extra room because most people don't use the top couple feet of their closet space.", "Think of all the time and space you are wasting and then throw them away. They will not add value for resale. Next look around and throw away or sell anything that has not been moved in two weeks. Stop storing anything.", "Think of all the time and space you are wasting and then throw them away. They will not add value for resale. Next look around and throw away or sell anything that has not been moved in two weeks. Stop storing anything." ]

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[ "How to be more grateful I think I complain way to often for the situation I'm in. Like there are people starving and sleeping without a roof over their heads and I'm sitting here taking what I have for granted and not even feeling grateful. It doesn't feel right for me to complain about the way my dinner tastes when there are people with no dinner. How can I be more grateful?", "How to be more grateful I think I complain way to often for the situation I'm in. Like there are people starving and sleeping without a roof over their heads and I'm sitting here taking what I have for granted and not even feeling grateful. It doesn't feel right for me to complain about the way my dinner tastes when there are people with no dinner. How can I be more grateful?", "How to be more grateful I think I complain way to often for the situation I'm in. Like there are people starving and sleeping without a roof over their heads and I'm sitting here taking what I have for granted and not even feeling grateful. It doesn't feel right for me to complain about the way my dinner tastes when there are people with no dinner. How can I be more grateful?" ]

[ "I used to be like you!\n\nI used to live in a first world country, but I don't anymore, and it really put things into perspective. I have seen people let their loved ones die because they can't afford to pay for a ventilator (which costs around $20-30 per day), and children without parents (who don't know what its like to come home to a mom who loves them), and so many other scenarios.\n\nWatch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EltIpB4EtYU\n\nThe other day, a poor old disabled man came by himself to the hospital and couldn't pay the consultation fees (which was $1). He had brought only 50 cents with him (Mind you, I'm converting everything into dollars, but that's the equivalent of how much it costs here). So he had only one option - catch a bus, go all the way back home, find some money, and come back - which would take well over 3 hours. It was heartbreaking knowing this man was in a position like this. Of course I paid his fees for him, but then I asked myself how many more people were in a position like him, that we don't know about?\n\nNever ever take anything for granted. We are just blessed to even be able to type proper English online on Reddit, with a laptop/computer, in a room, in our safe home. \n\nI know that was long, sorry! Anyway, try to wake up every morning, and before you get out of bed list three simple things that you are grateful for. It can be small things like- a supportive family, a bed, etc. But just try to cultivate a habit out of it. It works!", "You can do a short m", "I'm a bit more of a get involved kind of person. If you want to understand and relate, you have to put yourself in their shoes. No amount of reading will do it justice. I've travelled and lived in many countries. Make choices that require a little sacrifice from you... it will make the experiences much more meaningful. Example: spend the night in your car rather than your comfy bed. There are many homeless people that are fortunate enough to have a car but it's not as easy as you think. You have to figure out where you can park (take into consideration cops, street lamps, pedestrians, etc). I highly doubt you will get 8 hours... constantly hearing sounds or worrying about people around you... sleeping in your car is a lot harder when you realize you have no other option. Now how are you going to shower and take care of yourself? How does your job/school (and getting ready for it) fit into that scenario? It's really an eye opener... and that's a tame example. Those experiences will make you more grateful... and you'll be happy that you did it." ]

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[ "a useful fidget for endless zoom meetings, like knitting. But not knitting. Hello. I find that doodling during meetings helps me pay attention. A friend of mine has the same experience, but she knits...she finds when she doesn't knit, she gets distracted. I do, too! I'm jealous of her useful fidget. But I don't want to learn to knit, it never interested me.\n\nOne idea I had was practicing chords on my guitar? But it seems like it would make too much noise if I wanted to test the chords, I don't know. \n\n\nAnyone else have any ideas?", "a useful fidget for endless zoom meetings, like knitting. But not knitting. Hello. I find that doodling during meetings helps me pay attention. A friend of mine has the same experience, but she knits...she finds when she doesn't knit, she gets distracted. I do, too! I'm jealous of her useful fidget. But I don't want to learn to knit, it never interested me.\n\nOne idea I had was practicing chords on my guitar? But it seems like it would make too much noise if I wanted to test the chords, I don't know. \n\n\nAnyone else have any ideas?" ]

[ "Lock picking. It's a useful skill that doesn't benefit from sight, can be done purely through feel and auditory cues\n\n", "I tend to draw while on calls. You can even use something in front of you for reference in case you need to look up at the screen every now and again." ]

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[ "when in a conversation with two or more people and you keep trying to say something but the others keep talking leaving you repeating the first word of your statement over and over. How do I avoid that? Literally makes you feel like you don't matter. It's like the conversation version of the freindzone. ", "when in a conversation with two or more people and you keep trying to say something but the others keep talking leaving you repeating the first word of your statement over and over. How do I avoid that? Literally makes you feel like you don't matter. It's like the conversation version of the freindzone. ", "when in a conversation with two or more people and you keep trying to say something but the others keep talking leaving you repeating the first word of your statement over and over. How do I avoid that? Literally makes you feel like you don't matter. It's like the conversation version of the freindzone. ", "when in a conversation with two or more people and you keep trying to say something but the others keep talking leaving you repeating the first word of your statement over and over. How do I avoid that? Literally makes you feel like you don't matter. It's like the conversation version of the freindzone. ", "when in a conversation with two or more people and you keep trying to say something but the others keep talking leaving you repeating the first word of your statement over and over. How do I avoid that? Literally makes you feel like you don't matter. It's like the conversation version of the freindzone. ", "when in a conversation with two or more people and you keep trying to say something but the others keep talking leaving you repeating the first word of your statement over and over. How do I avoid that? Literally makes you feel like you don't matter. It's like the conversation version of the freindzone. ", "when in a conversation with two or more people and you keep trying to say something but the others keep talking leaving you repeating the first word of your statement over and over. How do I avoid that? Literally makes you feel like you don't matter. It's like the conversation version of the freindzone. ", "when in a conversation with two or more people and you keep trying to say something but the others keep talking leaving you repeating the first word of your statement over and over. How do I avoid that? Literally makes you feel like you don't matter. It's like the conversation version of the freindzone. ", "when in a conversation with two or more people and you keep trying to say something but the others keep talking leaving you repeating the first word of your statement over and over. How do I avoid that? Literally makes you feel like you don't matter. It's like the conversation version of the freindzone. ", "when in a conversation with two or more people and you keep trying to say something but the others keep talking leaving you repeating the first word of your statement over and over. How do I avoid that? Literally makes you feel like you don't matter. It's like the conversation version of the freindzone. " ]

[ "I notice this happens to me often in meetings at work. If I try to make a point and someone talks over me, I will let them finish what they are saying. Unless the conversation is super-heated or passionate, there will usually be another natural break in conversation where I can try again. \n\nIf the people continue to overtalk, there's a few things you can do.\n\n1. Wait until they finish what they're discussing and add your point of view at the end (most passive, also the conversation may switch directions before you make your point)\n\n2. Ramp up your own assertiveness, this may require you talking over someone else for a short time (kinda like playing chicken, who's going to stop first?)\n\n3. Insert a conversation stopper. Something to grab their attention like \"Are you finished? I would like to say something now.\"\n\nI use number 2 most often and it works for me. I have used number 3 only in one instance and it worked great but I felt like I was imposing myself unnecessarily forcefully, so I suppose only use that if what you want to say is very important to you or the topic being discussed. Number 1 is OK if your point is frivolous but you can feel like a push over.\n\nGood luck!", "\"If I may interject\"\n\nMet this guy on vacation in Costa Rica that used this phrase when he had something to say. It was really strange at first, but I realized he had learned if he started what he had to say with this small phrase, then he was able to hold the speakers attention versus just getting them to be quiet. He was a great conversationalist. ", "It's not what you say. It's the assertiveness and determination with which you say it. \n\nPractice, ideally with people who aren't used to ignoring you as your friends appear to be. I mean this kindly.", "Its like trying to enter on a freestyle but the dude before you wont shut up with his bars. You cant pussyfoot but a good trick is to bring attention to yourself before you start to actually speak. In the freestyle situation it would be like saying \"yo yo yo yoooooo\" this lets the other guy know to shut up and let you spit.\n\n In normal converstation you could clap your hands a few times or say hey guys or anything that alerts them to you. But you have to be loud enough to be heard. Once you see you obviously have their attention then you can begin to speak. However also make sure that its a good time to interject yourself into the conversation and are not trying to stop others from speaking.", "Realize they don't care about what you have to say and [accept your fate.](http://i3.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/012/073/7686178464_fdc8ea66c7.jpg)", "Occasionally you just have to keep on talking until the other person stops. If two people want to say something at the same time one person has to stop, at the moment you are that person ", "Sometimes, I just wait for the next silent moment, and continue exactly where I was interrupted (even if it's mid-word). That usually gets a \"Huh? What? Did I miss something?\", and when I got their attention, I can restart from the beginning.", "I just keep talking in a strong assertive tone. I take the lead on the conversation and then as I finish I ask what were they saying as to not allow them to feel as you have felt. Although if it is a superior I look at them right in the eyes and tell them \"I'll say what I have to after you\" \n\nAlthough since I almost always take this approach most of my friends around me have gotten used to just letting me talk because they know I will give them their time after I have said my peace. ", "Say something outrageous to halt the conversation. Then say \"now that I've got your attention...\" and follow up with what you want to say. This will be effective, funny, and disarming, and should be enough to keep them listening for the rest of the conversation. Obviously, tailor your outrageous comment to the audience", "LoL stop repeating your own words, you are just as bad as your \"friends\". Try to listen up and make sure you got time to get listened to also. \nIf they wont give you anytime, and you feel like you really think you have an important input to make, just leave them. \nAnd just put effort in making their time worth listening. \nAlso, i often think listening is better than talking and talking. " ]

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[ "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?", "How long to wait before calling a girl? (I'm in my mid 20's, if that changes anything) I went to a birthday party yesterday. Lots of cute girls, but none that I was particularly interested in. Towards the end of the party this one that I hadn't noticed earlier started chatting with me. We had an instant connection and spent the rest of the evening talking.\n\nGetting ready to leave, I managed to get a few kisses in as well as her phone number before we each drove off our seperate ways. I'm a notorious fool when it comes to love and I don't want to fuck this one up. How long should I wait before calling her?" ]

[ "In my experience, don't wait. You are probably past this point, but usually an hour later I always leave a text like: \"Had a great time tonight! Let's get a drink sometime.\" If she texts you back don't answer until the following day.\n\nNext day, respond to her text, and tell her you have some free time and ask if she would be interested in grabbing coffee or a drink. \n\nFemales can join in, but if you wait too long, their interest goes down. Don't treat them like some timed item. If she gave you a few kisses that night and her number, it is safe to say she has done that before with others. Don't be the assclown who waits 5 days, just do it. I promise you, if she says no after 1 day, she would have said no after waiting 5 days. ", "I sent her a message saying I had a good time and I made a little joke that referenced something we were chatting about. Thanks for the help, guys!", "Female here..do not wait. People in general dislike games. Us females dispise them. We all like feeling special and wanted. Go for it! ", "I know plenty of people have probably said it already, but just call her when you want. Either she's interested or she isn't. Believe it or not, cute girls are actually just people, they are all different individuals and there is no universal way to \"deal\" with them. Just act like yourself and if she digs it then awesome, if not then find somebody who does ;). ", "Don't wait for anything, if you feel you have a connection, always go for it instantly. \n\nShe obviously has some interest in you, so texting here asap is absolutely no problem. \nJust don't come across as needy. Make yourself scarce. \n\nSomething like: Very short message minutes after separating, \"Sleep well ;)\" stuff like that. \nNext day calling her, or if you prefer msg, \"I had a great time with you, I'm quite busy right now, but how about we meet up for a coffee this week.\" \n\nDon't overcomplicate or overthink. Always keep in mind, there are tons of other guys out there, be fast and your chances with her increase drastically. ", "Yeah all the waiting game advice you see everywhere is written by a bunch of 12 year old virgins. Call her ", "Female here. Don't wait. Your gal has interest in you now, but with each minute it cools and dies a little bit. Waiting just guarantees you that she's less about you than she was when you left the party.\n\nAbsence might make the heart grow fonder, but that is only *after* there is an established relationship.", "text her tomorrow morning! it's less confronting than a call also you get time to think about how to respond ", "as long as you want. like her a lot? call her the next day. don't really like her? then don't call back. ", "Never play the game! Just call her when you feel comfortable; respond when you can; and just make sure you show your interest in a respectable manner :) Good luck!", "text her the next day. maybe during around lunch-time...if you have nothing to talk, just mention kinda like \"I was thinking about you...I had a good time...\"", "Just don't be a wishy washy candy ass when you do call her. Women like confidence. If you want to call her on your ride home, call her. Want to wait a week or two? That's fine too. Just remember that in the meantime she might meet up with another guy and you'll be left hanging. And keep things short, \"hey its so and so from the party the other night. Just wondering if you wanna go scuba diving with me Saturday. I'll pick you up at noon and we can grab a burger and a beer afterwards at Shenanigans. Sound good? Ok see ya then.\" And then you show up when you're supposed to, compliment her on something, and focus on having a good time.", "If they gave you the number, they want you to call no later than the next day. Good luck buddy, everyone says dating sucks, I say it's fun.", "I usually wait one whole day, then call or text around midday after that. Make small talk for a bit then ask if they want to get a drink. Small, intimate set coffee shops are great for relaxing and getting to know someone. ", "Hi!\n\nDont wait... send her a text the same night... 2 or 3 the next day. And when you are starting in a texting conversation just call and say \"this is much easier\". \nAlso, if I see your name \"ik Sander 88\" (Me Sander 88) you sound Dutch. Dutch chicks dont play those \"waiting games\". Be direct and quick with your messages. And ask her for a drink!\n\nLetting somebody wait \"because you don't want her to think you're desperate\" in fact makes her think \"the connection you had was not special enough\"", "Answer the mornign next day evenign the same night. Anything else will only build up a relationship based on(or at least sealed by) emotional depenance/insecurity and this is not what you should look after tbh.", "Classic response from 40 Year Old Virgin: \"When's the next Olympics?\"\n\nThe point is, don't be too eager. No matter what they say, this turns girls off. Even if they like a guy, they'll like him just a little less if they are made to feel like they can get him anytime they want.", "In my opinion and personal experience, calling right away isn't the best option. A lot of women out there aren't into men who appear desperate. The line of thinking of \"If he has no other options, then there must be something wrong with him\" that can creep up.\n\nThe truth of the matter is this: If the girl genuinely liked you and was interested in you, she will still feel that way 2 or 3 days later (especially if you continue to show respect and also genuine interest in her). If she magically thinks you're a rude asshole for not calling right away, then maybe there are some deeper issues there and you may not want to be with them anyway. Conversely, if the woman is only slightly interested but calling right away would turn them off, then waiting also saves your ass there too.\n\nIt's not about tricking them. It's more making sure your best foot is forward. Something we all do in the early phases of dating. First impressions count, whether we like to admit it or not." ]

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[ " Alright I am a chronic procrastinator.NOTHING seems to work for me and I really do not want it to screw me over this school year.Any and I really mean this any advice no matter how weird it may be please share it because I am pretty sure there are many people who have this problem other then me that just can't seem to find a way to stop procrastinating.Thanks in advance.", " Alright I am a chronic procrastinator.NOTHING seems to work for me and I really do not want it to screw me over this school year.Any and I really mean this any advice no matter how weird it may be please share it because I am pretty sure there are many people who have this problem other then me that just can't seem to find a way to stop procrastinating.Thanks in advance.", " Alright I am a chronic procrastinator.NOTHING seems to work for me and I really do not want it to screw me over this school year.Any and I really mean this any advice no matter how weird it may be please share it because I am pretty sure there are many people who have this problem other then me that just can't seem to find a way to stop procrastinating.Thanks in advance.", " Alright I am a chronic procrastinator.NOTHING seems to work for me and I really do not want it to screw me over this school year.Any and I really mean this any advice no matter how weird it may be please share it because I am pretty sure there are many people who have this problem other then me that just can't seem to find a way to stop procrastinating.Thanks in advance.", " Alright I am a chronic procrastinator.NOTHING seems to work for me and I really do not want it to screw me over this school year.Any and I really mean this any advice no matter how weird it may be please share it because I am pretty sure there are many people who have this problem other then me that just can't seem to find a way to stop procrastinating.Thanks in advance.", " Alright I am a chronic procrastinator.NOTHING seems to work for me and I really do not want it to screw me over this school year.Any and I really mean this any advice no matter how weird it may be please share it because I am pretty sure there are many people who have this problem other then me that just can't seem to find a way to stop procrastinating.Thanks in advance." ]

[ "Think about finishing whatever you want to finish, and what the next thing you would do would be, whether it be watching Netflix, browsing Reddit, etc.\n\nBlock it. Do whatever you can to remove yourself from that item. If you trust your friend have them temporarily change your password for your account/device without giving it to you. Go to the library/outside, away from all distractions. (Do not lay down, as this might make you tired)\n\nForce yourself to work on whatever you want to work on. Work on it for 15 minutes, and take a small 5 minute break, but DO NOT go back to the thing you gave up. Eat a quick snack, read the next chapter of your book, I don't know, do whatever you want. Then go straight back to work, no exceptions.\n\nDo this until you have finished your work. Then you can get back to the thing you gave up. It will make you feel _so_ good about yourself.\n\n", "The best tip is one I read here on reddit a while ago. \n\nWhatever it is your supposed to do. \nJust tell yourself to do it for five minutes. It won't be as hard getting started if you only have to do it for five minutes. When those five minutes are up, you'll most likely be on a roll and just continue doing it. \n\n\nWorks like a charm for me. \n\nWell, back to work, if only for five minutes... ", "Wow I really need some LPT on procrastination! I have to study for a test now but first I'll watch something on Netflix and eat some chocolate.", "Put yourself in lockdown with only study books and iPod. Background music only (look up 'bonobo' for amazing chill out study music). Put the phone where you can't see it and stay off the Internet. ", "I usually sit and think for a few minutes about the consequences of procrastinating are: how I'll feel when it comes to nearer the deadline, basically the critical moment. \n\nRemember what happened last time you procrastinated: extra stress, a job badly done etc. This usually spurs me into doing whatever the task is! Also remember that you can relax/do whatever you want once the job is done!\n\nI like to think of not procrastinating as simply switching around activities. Rather than mooching around first, you mooch around after it's been done! Only it's better, as you have less time pressure, and no sense of guilt. \n", "There is no protip or quick fix. It's a choice. It's really really really tough and hard and difficult and depressing to do what you have to. But it has to be done and the sooner the better.\n\nTry to identify the reason you procrastinate. For me, it's a fear of not being able to perform the task as well as I should/want to, or fear of facing reality (like I missed a chance because I procrastinated in the first place). When you realise why you do it, and that building confidence through actually going through with things right away is an effective way of feeling better about yourself, you may find yourself quite a bit more motivated. " ]

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[ "Best way to clean a laptop screen Due to lack of spcae in my house, my laptop was in the kitchen reulting in some gunk on it. Just wiping it lightly with a cloth doesnt work so I need some way to clean without applying to much pressure. Also, if someone could tell me how much pressure I can apply to the screen before it damages it, that'd be great.", "Best way to clean a laptop screen Due to lack of spcae in my house, my laptop was in the kitchen reulting in some gunk on it. Just wiping it lightly with a cloth doesnt work so I need some way to clean without applying to much pressure. Also, if someone could tell me how much pressure I can apply to the screen before it damages it, that'd be great.", "Best way to clean a laptop screen Due to lack of spcae in my house, my laptop was in the kitchen reulting in some gunk on it. Just wiping it lightly with a cloth doesnt work so I need some way to clean without applying to much pressure. Also, if someone could tell me how much pressure I can apply to the screen before it damages it, that'd be great." ]

[ "Mist a 'microfiber' cloth with water and clean the screen with that. Repeat if the screen is very dirty. I have used this on Lenovo laptops (W-series) with what I would say was moderately firm pressure and no ill effects at all. If you use an open palm while cleaning the laptop screen with a cloth, the force per unit area on the screen is relatively low, and you won't damage it. If you wrap the cloth around one finger and press hard, you risk it.\n\nTL;DR. Use a moist micro-fiber cloth, an open palm and moderately firm pressure and you will clean the screen just fine.", "IDK about the pressure issue you have, but I found that a 1:1 solution of Rubbing alcohol and water seems to work the best for all purpose electronic cleaning. Mix it in a small container, dip part of a lint free rag in the solution and wipe clean. Use the dry part to then wipe off any excess ", "I always use lens cleaner and a lens cloth that I got with my glasses. Works really fast and I never need to press hard on the screen." ]

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[ "make chair more confortable with stuff around the house Hi. Any way to achieve more confort cause i cant buy a new chair right now (social isolation). Thanks\n\n", "make chair more confortable with stuff around the house Hi. Any way to achieve more confort cause i cant buy a new chair right now (social isolation). Thanks\n\n" ]

[ "You can also get two pillows side by side and sit so your tailbone goes down the middle if you look at most seat cushions there's a little hole that goes directly under your tail bone so the goal is to create a gap under that.", "What is uncomfortable about it? Changing your angle, raising your legs, or adding cushioning may or may not be a help" ]

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[ "How do I fix my sleep schedule? I’ve been sleeping at around 9-10 am and waking up at 6-7 pm. I want to start waking up a 7-8 am. I’ve tried staying up for more than 24 hours so I can sleep at a reasonable time but my body feels too exhausted and I end up going to sleep. What’s the best way to fix this?", "How do I fix my sleep schedule? I’ve been sleeping at around 9-10 am and waking up at 6-7 pm. I want to start waking up a 7-8 am. I’ve tried staying up for more than 24 hours so I can sleep at a reasonable time but my body feels too exhausted and I end up going to sleep. What’s the best way to fix this?", "How do I fix my sleep schedule? I’ve been sleeping at around 9-10 am and waking up at 6-7 pm. I want to start waking up a 7-8 am. I’ve tried staying up for more than 24 hours so I can sleep at a reasonable time but my body feels too exhausted and I end up going to sleep. What’s the best way to fix this?", "How do I fix my sleep schedule? I’ve been sleeping at around 9-10 am and waking up at 6-7 pm. I want to start waking up a 7-8 am. I’ve tried staying up for more than 24 hours so I can sleep at a reasonable time but my body feels too exhausted and I end up going to sleep. What’s the best way to fix this?", "How do I fix my sleep schedule? I’ve been sleeping at around 9-10 am and waking up at 6-7 pm. I want to start waking up a 7-8 am. I’ve tried staying up for more than 24 hours so I can sleep at a reasonable time but my body feels too exhausted and I end up going to sleep. What’s the best way to fix this?", "How do I fix my sleep schedule? I’ve been sleeping at around 9-10 am and waking up at 6-7 pm. I want to start waking up a 7-8 am. I’ve tried staying up for more than 24 hours so I can sleep at a reasonable time but my body feels too exhausted and I end up going to sleep. What’s the best way to fix this?", "How do I fix my sleep schedule? I’ve been sleeping at around 9-10 am and waking up at 6-7 pm. I want to start waking up a 7-8 am. I’ve tried staying up for more than 24 hours so I can sleep at a reasonable time but my body feels too exhausted and I end up going to sleep. What’s the best way to fix this?", "How do I fix my sleep schedule? I’ve been sleeping at around 9-10 am and waking up at 6-7 pm. I want to start waking up a 7-8 am. I’ve tried staying up for more than 24 hours so I can sleep at a reasonable time but my body feels too exhausted and I end up going to sleep. What’s the best way to fix this?", "How do I fix my sleep schedule? I’ve been sleeping at around 9-10 am and waking up at 6-7 pm. I want to start waking up a 7-8 am. I’ve tried staying up for more than 24 hours so I can sleep at a reasonable time but my body feels too exhausted and I end up going to sleep. What’s the best way to fix this?" ]

[ "Do it it 1 or 2 hour increments until you’re at the correct bedtime. So if you want to wake up at say, today….stay up till noon. And get up at 9pm. Tomorrow stay up til 2pm and get up at 11pm. Then go to bed at 4pm and get up at 1am. Then 6pm and get up at 3am. Then 8pm and get up at 5am. Then I0pm and get up at 7*am (", "Staying up 24 hours to \"reset\" is not recommended and throws your body off. People who travel abroad do this often to \"adjust\" but it doesn't work. So this is also a LPT to get ahead of jet lag.\n\nIt's recommended that you slowly adjust your sleep schedule by 1-2 hours over time until you're where you want to be. Go to sleep 1-2 hours earlier this day and set the alarm for 7-8 hours later. You may want to keep that going for a day or two before adjusting again because you are inverting your sleep schedule completely. It'll take some time.\n\n Also remember the idea you have to \"catch up\" on lost sleep after a bad night is a myth. It's not like if you undereat yesterday, you have to overeat today to make up the calories. If you wake up too early one day, it's ok. Just get up. Go outside in the sun to get that circadian rhythm working again.", "I would suggest having a read of this:\n\nhttps://www.cdc.gov/niosh/emres/longhourstraining/light.html#:~:text=Bright%20morning%20light%20will%20shift,you%20want%20to%20wake%20up.\n\nI had the same issue for years, took a little while, but this can help a lot.", "I flip my sleep schedule almost weekly. All I do is take a short nap when I get home at 9am till 12 am then stay up the whole day and go back to bed around 9pm... it works vise versa... the big thing is to stay engaged in something when you're trying to stay up", "As others already mentioned: \n\nDo it in increments of 1 or 2 hours at a time. \n\nAlso use the power of the sun and exercise. Try to get lots of sunlight and physical activity right after you wake up.", "You do it 2 hours at a time, at least that's how people moving from day shift to night shift do it. It takes about 2 weeks.", "Set an alarm to the ideal time you want to wake up, no matter what. At first, you will wake up and hit snooze multiple times. Over time, you will come to adapt to it.", "I also want to know what your eating habits are. Try eating whatever is ‘breakfast/y” to u within an hour of waking and what seems “lunch/like” 4-5 hours later, and then 4-6 hours later “dinner” with a dessert. Eat a “mid morning” snack within 2 hours of breakfast and have a “coffee break” with a snack before dinner. Remember, dessert after dinner, even if it is very light. And then a very light bed snack.", "Don’t eat 4 -5 hours before sleep. I would get surprised how sleepy I would get when I would be fasting lol" ]

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[ "How to tumble-dry fitted sheets without causing a tangled mess? They always wrap around a bunch of other laundry and leave a wet knot at the end of the cycle. How do you prevent this?", "How to tumble-dry fitted sheets without causing a tangled mess? They always wrap around a bunch of other laundry and leave a wet knot at the end of the cycle. How do you prevent this?" ]

[ "Flip the bundle over in the dryer and start it back up let spin for five or so minutes should detangle it ... Hotel laundry trick ", "Any time you're drying something that can twist around other things, or ball up in the center leaving a wet tangled mess, you pretty much have to go to the dryer every 10 or so minutes and untangle it. I know it's a pain in the ass, but even if it's drying by itself and still balls up like that, you're still going to have to untangle it often anyway. " ]

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[ "What’s the LPT if you need to book a return flight ticket because the destination’s immigration requires it, but are unsure how long you’d like to stay? ", "What’s the LPT if you need to book a return flight ticket because the destination’s immigration requires it, but are unsure how long you’d like to stay? " ]

[ "What country are you visiting? Some have very harsh laws for overstaying the return date you provide.", "Those laws are in place for a reason (I'm not saying I agree or disagree with them), to basically prevent people from visiting a place and getting a job or staying there without following the proper procedures. You should be truthful. Why don't you know how long the trip will be? Do you plan on finding a job? Who are you staying with? How long are they able to accommodate you? Are you going to school there? There are certain processes to follow depending on the reason you are visiting. If you are truly just vacationing then book a flight back in 2-4 weeks. Then travel again if you still want to visit the place. If you want to move there, look into the process of doing it legally (again, I think people should be able to move freely, I'm not big on borders and don't get caught up in all that. I don't know enough about it to have a solid opinion. I'm just saying what is needed based on how the laws are written today)" ]

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[ "A good way to improve your English Thanks for the tips guys. Quite ironic that they are all in English. ", "A good way to improve your English Thanks for the tips guys. Quite ironic that they are all in English. ", "A good way to improve your English Thanks for the tips guys. Quite ironic that they are all in English. ", "A good way to improve your English Thanks for the tips guys. Quite ironic that they are all in English. ", "A good way to improve your English Thanks for the tips guys. Quite ironic that they are all in English. ", "A good way to improve your English Thanks for the tips guys. Quite ironic that they are all in English. ", "A good way to improve your English Thanks for the tips guys. Quite ironic that they are all in English. ", "A good way to improve your English Thanks for the tips guys. Quite ironic that they are all in English. ", "A good way to improve your English Thanks for the tips guys. Quite ironic that they are all in English. ", "A good way to improve your English Thanks for the tips guys. Quite ironic that they are all in English. ", "A good way to improve your English Thanks for the tips guys. Quite ironic that they are all in English. ", "A good way to improve your English Thanks for the tips guys. Quite ironic that they are all in English. " ]

[ "Try to find Internet sources that explain the specific sounds in English that are difficult for speakers of your native language. Spend some time focusing on those, using Internet instructors if you must, but better with a live human teacher. That is my advice. Below I will clarify a bit with examples of the issue.\n\n\nExample 1). Many non native English speakers have difficulty saying the TH sound in English. They often replace the sound with an F or S sound. \n\n\nExample 2.) Japanese speakers have difficulty with the R and L sounds in English.\n\n\nI do not know enough about other languages to explain why those English sounds are difficult for some, but I can explain it for myself as a native English speaker trying to learn German. And French.\n\n\nExample 3. German. As an American I had difficulty with the German CH sound as Germans pronounce it in the words ich, or mich, or dich. Because the sound does not exist in my language, my brain was actually not trained to even really hear it. My brain was overriding it as irrelevant noise. For a while I had no idea I was doing a terrible job with the sound, because I did not know it existed, exactly. To learn this sound I had to 1) hear it well and 2) train my mouth muscles to make it. Thank you German friends who helped me patiently with this. I think I am better with it now. Sometimes, at least.\n\n\nExample 4. French. The word un in French is pronounced with a nasal sound that we do not use much in English, unless we have a cold! So when I took high school French I basically didn't get that this nasal sound was an essential sound; I did not actually hear it in the word. So I did not pronounce it correctly. Later in life I found a book that explained this. So now I can hear it better and can try to say it better.\n\n\nLast note: Immersion is a great strategy, too, and very important. But for such non native sounds you may need special help. The attention to them will make a big difference.\n\n\nGood luck!", "Use it. Immersion/overexposure, like the others have been saying, is great but it doesn't help you use English because all you're getting is input. You need to find some English speakers to communicate with so you can get comfortable actually producing English. A combination of input and output is important. ", "The quickest way.\nFind a podcast in english.\nListen to it and as you listen, repeat what the people say.", "Play games with a lot of dialogue: things characters say. Watch movies with subtitles, then watch them again without subtitles. Sub to an active subreddit and try to just respond to as many people as you can: you'll learn from both the writing and the reading. Read English children's books, like Narnia or Roald Dahl's books. If you watch a series like game of thrones, turn off or block (post-its) the subtitles and read up on just what happened using the books or a summary.", "In 100% agreement with the rest. The best thing to do is to have conversations in English. A translation app can be useful if your vocabulary isn't great yet, but sometimes the most helpful moments are when there's a misunderstanding and you have to struggle to explain yourself. Just practice!", "Immersion is the best way to get better at conversational English. Try hanging out with native speakers (if you're in college/university, some have language partner programs or clubs, so you can even help someone who is learning your native language!), watching English TV/movies (if you need subtitles, try just using English ones instead of subtitles in your native language. Don't hesitate to pause and look up words if you really don't understand). There are also plenty of podcasts out there that you can download and listen to whenever you have the time. \n\nIf you want to expand your vocabulary, reading is a great place to start. You can maybe start with books that you've read in your native language, so you can make sure you're understanding, and then once you build up your confidence move on to books that are new to you. You can also read news articles or even Wikipedia articles on things you're interested in if you want to learn more formal/professional English.\n\nLast but not least, don't be afraid to make mistakes and ask questions! Sometimes those are your best opportunities to learn. Good luck!", "Go to /r/askreddit and answer questions in the new section\n\nI work with a lot of European non-native english speakers, and I often realize that they say things incorrectly, but I never correct them. Firstly, I always perceive it as rude to correct someone, but also because there are so many non-native english speakers on the united states, that imperfect english is perfectly acceptable, so it's easy to let someone's poor language skills slide. Point is, ask your friends to correct your English when it's wrong, because they may be holding back.", "Ditto to immersion. Also, encourage English speaking friends to correct you. Many people won't because they don't want to be rude or make you feel bad, but if you ask them to, it will help you. Also, have people try to explain the rules to you. For instance, it helps to know the general trends with using articles, prepositions, and personal pronouns. Ask people to explain the nuances of certain words for you ", "Chatting for writing. And youtube, movies, talking to a native english speaker for speaking.\n\nI didn't study english well in school, But I used to play games on pc like world of warcraft when i was young. And \n\nmy computer language is set on english and almost all the youtube videos I watch in english. \n\nI didn't realize I'm learning english because I enjoyed what I'm doing. And in school I was the only kid who \n\ndoesn't study english tests and get the best scores, and believe it or not, I was correcting my english teacher \n\nwhich was awesome and he hated it. And now when I finished high school i went to english academy in another \n\ncountry and they did put me on the last lvl (academic) and many people asked me there about where I learned \n\nmy english and how many years did I study and when I tell them i didn't study english before and they get shocked lol.\nAnd reddit helped ALOT!! Specially with writing LIKE REALLY! \nBut I discovered reddit 6 months ago (wish I did longer time ago). \n\nI would suggest you stick to reddit and movies and youtube videos if your a beginner. and when you improve, start reading books.\n\nThats my humble opinion.\n\nAnd sorry for bragging lol ", "By far the best way to improve your English (or any language for that matter) is immersion. Just talk normally to English speaking people, don't tell them your trying to improve your English. This will help because they might speak differently if they realize that you are trying to improve. If immersion isn't an option for you, then watch tv shows in English. My friend is from Puerto Rico and he learned English just from watching American cartoons. After he moved here, his English became nearly perfect with no accent at all because of immersion. Hope this helps :)", "A reading group at the library/church. You might not even have to participate yourself. But simply follow along and (if it's not a church/library owned text) make notes on difficult or important words. When you feel fairly confident, try to read passages aloud to the group. Others will help you along and you will be more comfortable moving from text to speech.", "The best way to learn any language: [sleeping dictionary](http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Sleeping+Dictionary)." ]

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[ "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\".", "How do I deal with someone who deflects blame every time I bring up a touchy subject? For example if I say, \"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\"." ]

[ "In my experience people like this know what they’re doing and it’s more about tying you in knots trying to explain yourself. Only way to win is to not play unfortunately.", "This reminds me of a thing called \"stamp collection\", not actual stamps but in a psychological way. I can't tell if that is the case here, but searching the term may lead to helpful info.\n\nSome people keep (store) \"mistake\" you made in the past, like you would collect a stamp and put it away. Then if the other person makes a misstake, they can \"use\" their stamp as a sort of \"trade\".\n\nPerson A: \"You insulted me by doing X today\".\nPerson B: \"But you [looks through memory with logged mistakes you have made, so they can be used now] insulted me 2 weeks ago when you said Y.\"\nLater A does something 'wrong', and this is not communicated but instead added to the stamp collection for a future event.\n\nTwo wrongs don't make one right though.\n\nStamp collecting is not a healthy way to deal with situations (or emotions). \n\nI don't know how to solve this, but I hope understanding this dynamic can help you deal with it better.", "Get that person out of your life. If you can't then just ignore them. There are plenty of nice people to talk to.", "You can say - I wish you would have told me that because that wasn’t my intention. Can you be more specific- & after that readdress your issue", "Don't let them. \n\n\n\"It is unacceptable to deflect from talking about this. We are not talking about yesterday, we are talking about NOW. We are talking about the comment YOU made and how it made me feel.\"\n\nRinse, repeat. \n\nDont get defensive or say A WORD about or in defense of what they are trying to deflect to. Stay the course. Keep going.", "I'm sorry you felt that way. I wish you would have told me that rather than using it as an excuse to make me feel the same way.\n\nIf they respond negatively to that, I'd really consider whether they're worth having in your life.", "You can't be responsible for other people thoughts and reactions. If they don't get the point — you can be asked to rephrase or try again in other way. But you're not to be blamed for whatever happens on the other end.\n\nif that's someone I don't care about — that's an easy one way ticket out of my life. \n\nIf that's my girlfriend — I'm insisting that were talking about current situation and present time only. Once we figure it out we can discuss the reasons behind her feeling what she feels. If it's my fault I'll admit and do my best to not hurt her especially in that very way.\n\nSometimes it's people being insecure cowards and blaming others for that. Sometimes you touch old wounds and have to face consequences of your actions.\n\nTake care, you got this!!", "Research narcissist manipulation tactics and see if some of these ring true for this person. Then look up ways to deal with a narcissist.", "Run far away....their abusive to you by not being able to talk about a subject you deem important enough to mention.", "I recommend the book: Non violent communication by Marshal Rosenberg. It will give you some great tools and a framework for dealing with others while remaining cool and compassionate. Changed my relationships with everyone.", "\"I would be happy to discuss issues you might have but not when you bring them up in a reactionary way. If it's important to you, please make the time to bring it up after this topic is settled. Otherwise I feel you are just interrupting my point or avoiding responsibility.\" And you need to put your foot down hard on that. If that doesn't work then unfortunately you really have to walk away, as others have suggested.", "“Ok, we can talk about that. But right now I want to talk about my issue, please bring your issues up with me when they happen next time”. Half the time they have no real issues with you and it never comes up. Hopefully it helps them learn a little bit about themselves too", "If this is a relationship, try taking a [free course](http://www.freecourses4all.com) on marriage and relationships.\n\nWhat you and your partner will find is that in a good relationship, \"score keeping\", \"building your case\", and being defensive get in the way of a productive dialogue. If that's the mindset, it just won't work.\n\nI found that after taking this course that my attitude really shifted. The hope is that if the other person can acknowledge their role in this convo, \"yeah but what about...\" is not taking responsibility for their behavior. They should acknowledge your feelings. Feelings are not facts, so they can acknowledge that your feelings are valid even if they disagree with you.", "This is a narcissist tactic. Look up DARVO. Next up, this person will probably stonewall you if they haven't already. Please try to leave a narcissist. Block them, delete them, and excise them from your life. The only way to improve anything is to leave. They're not gonna change; they'll just keep making you feel miserable (like they actually are).", "In my experience, the best way to deal with that is to refuse to budge. If someone reflects back at you, something that I’ve found to work is to say “if you want to talk about y thing, I would be happy to address that with you later, but right now I would like to talk about x thing” and bulldoze through. I know a lot of people are gonna say just avoid it, but sometimes you really can’t, it’s a person you have to deal with. \n\nMake it clear what the subject of the conversation will be and then refuse to budge. Know what you want to say, and again, if they try to deflect it back on you, be open to discussion but at another time, do not back down. The only reason they do that is to shut you up, often times refusing to shut up is all it takes.", "A couple of things come to mind:\n1) I have been in a discussion where the other one was getting all arguments (events) he could find and brought it in. You cannot respond to that. Tell them first address one of them at the time. And later you can talk about their grudge.\n\n2) Check in if they are open to improve the relationship. If this approach is fruitless this applies: You are playing THEIR game. THEY make up the rules. And they will change the rules if they see fit. Since it's THEIR game they can. Because it is their game, you will always lose. Stop playing their game. Just don't feed the troll.", "\"I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment,\" they will always reply with, \"Well you made me feel dismissed and hurt when you \\[something else from a different day\\]\". \n\n\nMe: Well you should have said something about it on the spot. Then maybe we could have worked it out instead of keeping it bottled up inside. This is about ME now, and I want to take care of it now so it doesn't hurt our relationship moving forward.", "You accept that you can only work on YOURSELF and not change other people and their actions.\n\nSpeak your truth, honor their decision to have them respond how they do.", "This is the kind of thing that is harder to address when you try and do it in the moment. They find the shame uncomfortable, so it helps to address it in a way that doesn't bring up the actual shameful part of the problem. \n\n\"Hey, sometimes when I bring up something that's bothering me, you don't respond compassionately. I know that neither of us are perfect, but I would hope that we can work together on being open-minded and receptive listeners, even when it's something that's hard to hear. What do you think about that?\"", "There’s a technique called “reframing” that you can try to get your back on track\n\nIt goes like this\n\nPerson A: I noticed you’re always late, when you’re late it means this… blah blah\nPerson B: Well Johnny is always late too\nPerson A: (reframing) This isn’t about Johnny, it’s about you not getting to work on time\nPerson B: Well the bus was late\nPerson A: It’s not about the bus being late, it’s about you not leaving early enough to get to work on time \n\nEventually they run out of excuses…", "some people are toxic, just like rampant plants trying to squeeze the life out of you. thing is as humans we are able to move our roots around and get away from such rampant behaviours. just cut them or convince them to grow up emotionaly", "This is a natural defense mechanism, it helps to maintain position in a social pecking order since accepting blame will usually put you at the bottom of the pack pretty quickly whether it's actually even \"blame\" or some other issue, humans will deflect blame without realizing they're doing it, sometimes you don't even have to think about it.\n\nThere are two possibilities. Either this person knows what they are doing, in which case they are a manipulative asshole and you should consider your options for cutting ties with them.\n\nThe other option is that they don't consciously realize what they're doing, in which case directly asking them not to reflexively deflect may be all that's needed. This requires a certain degree of metacognition that not everyone is capable of, even requesting to stop deflecting could be deflected or redirected. Try to keep a cool head, if anyone has a raised voice or temper then nobody's going to get anywhere.\n\nLastly and perhaps most importantly you need to double-think. Make sure you're not doing it yourself. Asking another to drop this guard while maintaining your own will lead to distrust and an unhealthy dynamic, not to mention it's hypocritical.\n\n**If you come to a discussion ready for a fight, it's going to be a fight.**", "I'd say \"okay, let me write that down real quick, and we'll address that in a moment. Now, back to my original point, I felt dismissed and hurt by that comment\", then at the end, go back to that comment and see if they still want to discuss it. If they keep going with the \"yes but \\[this thing\\]\", add it to the list and discuss it at the end. \n\nIf they don't want to discuss it at the end, they were just trying to sidetrack you. If they do want to discuss it at the end, they're either genuine about it, or just want to continue whatever tactic they had in mind.\n\nIf they're genuine, it's a chance to resolve some issues and move forward as better people.\n\nIf they're not genuine, you can just reply with \"I understand\" or similar non-committal answers to their questions to move the conversation along instead of getting sucked in to apologies and explanations and such.\n\nAnd of course if they're just screwing with you, there's no harm in gradually moving away from them to avoid headaches from emotional vampires like that.", "Cut them off. Block buttons are very accessible\n\nIf you see them in person be honest. If they try to deflect and put the blame on you, point it out, and say this is exactly why.", "Congratulations, you have encountered a narcissist. Do not engage, you will never resolve anything. Learn to ignore, workaround and set boundaries.", "\"We can talk about that another time. Right now we're discussing your behavior towards me.\"\n\nand keep saying that every time they try to deflect.", "You can only control you. There really isn't anything you can do when this happens. They are going to deflect until they decide to understand why they are and are willing to change it.", "You avoid having these people in your life and learn to expect nothing from them if you've got no choice. QED", "Why do you interact with this person? Unless you absolutely must, life is too short to put up with selfish jerks.", "What are you hoping to get by telling them this? Acknowledgement that they did wrong by you? An apology or promise to improve? I think you bring these things up to help heal or feel more assured that such behavior won't happen again and I don't think this person is capable of giving you either. You can heal without this and you can still interact with them, just expect this behavior. I'm sorry you're not getting what you need :(", "They are not trying to solve the problem, but to avoid being responsible for it. They're not hearing you, and you wont work things out. \nHad a guy like that once, dumped him.", "That’s so annoying. Maybe try, “I’m happy to discuss that, and then I’d like to discuss the current situation.” Or “I feel as though you’re deflecting.”", "“Okay, I acknowledge that and I’m sorry. but don’t you have any remorse what you commented?” something along those lines I would say", "Yeah, unfortunately there’s no way to succeed because the rules of that game are always going to change. Cut your losses & move on. Speaking from too many years experience.", "Some people can always make themselves out to be a victim no matter what. It’s part of their personality disorder. It’s up to you to either accept and love them despite this or get them out of your life. If you accept them or this person is family, you need to know how to set personal boundaries to protect your mental health." ]

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[ "How to be more confrontational I have had so many instances in my life where I just want to say something to someone who made me mad or did something I did not agree with. But I can never muster up the courage. \n\nThere has been so many instances with coworkers/friends/family where I have bit my tongue and I wish I wouldn't have and confronted the issue. I'm always just so scared of the repreccusion. \n\nPoint blank: help me not be a big baby and stand up for myself/speak my mind \n\nBackground info: 22 yr female \n\n\n", "How to be more confrontational I have had so many instances in my life where I just want to say something to someone who made me mad or did something I did not agree with. But I can never muster up the courage. \n\nThere has been so many instances with coworkers/friends/family where I have bit my tongue and I wish I wouldn't have and confronted the issue. I'm always just so scared of the repreccusion. \n\nPoint blank: help me not be a big baby and stand up for myself/speak my mind \n\nBackground info: 22 yr female \n\n\n", "How to be more confrontational I have had so many instances in my life where I just want to say something to someone who made me mad or did something I did not agree with. But I can never muster up the courage. \n\nThere has been so many instances with coworkers/friends/family where I have bit my tongue and I wish I wouldn't have and confronted the issue. I'm always just so scared of the repreccusion. \n\nPoint blank: help me not be a big baby and stand up for myself/speak my mind \n\nBackground info: 22 yr female \n\n\n", "How to be more confrontational I have had so many instances in my life where I just want to say something to someone who made me mad or did something I did not agree with. But I can never muster up the courage. \n\nThere has been so many instances with coworkers/friends/family where I have bit my tongue and I wish I wouldn't have and confronted the issue. I'm always just so scared of the repreccusion. \n\nPoint blank: help me not be a big baby and stand up for myself/speak my mind \n\nBackground info: 22 yr female \n\n\n", "How to be more confrontational I have had so many instances in my life where I just want to say something to someone who made me mad or did something I did not agree with. But I can never muster up the courage. \n\nThere has been so many instances with coworkers/friends/family where I have bit my tongue and I wish I wouldn't have and confronted the issue. I'm always just so scared of the repreccusion. \n\nPoint blank: help me not be a big baby and stand up for myself/speak my mind \n\nBackground info: 22 yr female \n\n\n", "How to be more confrontational I have had so many instances in my life where I just want to say something to someone who made me mad or did something I did not agree with. But I can never muster up the courage. \n\nThere has been so many instances with coworkers/friends/family where I have bit my tongue and I wish I wouldn't have and confronted the issue. I'm always just so scared of the repreccusion. \n\nPoint blank: help me not be a big baby and stand up for myself/speak my mind \n\nBackground info: 22 yr female \n\n\n" ]

[ "Imagine you have a tiny baby... now imagine they did whatever they did to you to this tiny baby of yours... how would you react?", "Well, it seems like you are a bit scared to oppose other points of view (in public that is). I am in the same boat. I actually have a youtube channel where I dispute idiotic things people say about gaming, but I have trouble disagreeing in public. The big thing you should realize is that you are free to your own thoughts. It sounds obvious, but saying this to myself during confrontations helps me a lot, and surprisingly so. The private practice behind the screen of my YouTube helps a lot too.", "The only thing that works for me is to confront the situation as immediately as possible. If I sit and over-analyze then it is already too late.", "Hi, try being maybe more \"Assertive\" instead of trying to become more confrontational, as the latter will be easy to take advantage of during a dispute. \n\nA quick google delivered this as starting point: https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/Assertiveness.htm\n\nGood luck!", "A big part of being an assertive person is acknowledging your fear/anxiety/nervousness, but continuing your course of action regardless. Everyone gets scared, the person you disagree with may even be more anxious about you standing up to them, it's totally natural. Personally, three big helps ive found are as follows:\n\n1. Before you confront the person, mull over your point/stance, *why* do you disagree, why does this person make you mad, and what exactly do you want to say? Go through that in your mind so when it comes time to say it out loud, you come across more articulate, sure of yourself and confident in your point, starting you on a high note.\n\n2. Consider the worst case scenario (wcs) of confronting the person. Is the WCS them being mad and shouting? Them crying? You crying if you get too upset? Weigh up if it's worth it or not, a lot of the time people can get angry as a knee-jerk reaction and realise later it really wasnt worth the trouble it caused, and you dont want a worthless shouting match possibly creating tension with family/friends if it's unnecessary. If it IS worthwhile, think of a time in your life where you've been shouted at or had someone angry with you, and acknowledge you've already been through the WCS and been fine. This takes a lot of the pressure off of a confrontation as the most negative result is nothing new and something you know from past experience you can deal with, and allows you to be more assertive.\n\n3. Bit of a longer term thing but exercise helps a lot. Body confidence lends itself to a lot of areas, and if looking good makes you feel good, that confidence will help you overshadow the nerves of your upcoming confrontation. How you feel will even extend to how you talk, allowing you to make your points more comfortably and making you a much more difficult person to argue with.\n\nObviously there's plenty of ways to assert yourself using verbal and body language, as well as different forms of m", "I have the same issue as you OP, and all of the advice in these comments i'm not finding helpful. I am terrible at confronting people the way I want to (i'm not sure if this is the same as you but it might be). Now, i am definately assertive in what I want to say and I always say my opinion, but I want to be able to just freak out like some people and say \"WHAT THE FUCK DID YOU DO THAT FOR?\" Do you realise how much OF A FUCKING IDIOT THAT MAKES YOU LOOK?\". But instead i'll have a quiet word. I imagine that some people would love to have it this way though" ]

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[ "How can I become less self-conscious Due to being incredibly self-conscious I often find myself poker faced, unwilling to express any genuine emotion on fear of being judged/embarrassed. I only really express emotions under the guise of humour. Does anyone have any tips that could help me and others in a similar situation to give less of a fuck of what people think?\n\n", "How can I become less self-conscious Due to being incredibly self-conscious I often find myself poker faced, unwilling to express any genuine emotion on fear of being judged/embarrassed. I only really express emotions under the guise of humour. Does anyone have any tips that could help me and others in a similar situation to give less of a fuck of what people think?\n\n", "How can I become less self-conscious Due to being incredibly self-conscious I often find myself poker faced, unwilling to express any genuine emotion on fear of being judged/embarrassed. I only really express emotions under the guise of humour. Does anyone have any tips that could help me and others in a similar situation to give less of a fuck of what people think?\n\n", "How can I become less self-conscious Due to being incredibly self-conscious I often find myself poker faced, unwilling to express any genuine emotion on fear of being judged/embarrassed. I only really express emotions under the guise of humour. Does anyone have any tips that could help me and others in a similar situation to give less of a fuck of what people think?\n\n" ]

[ "Self confidence. I too struggle often to be confident.\n\nBut there's no standard procedure on how to be confident. I found that you start by faking it.\n\nAlso, make a small change in your life. I started jogging. I Would recommend starting a sport :D", "Realize that, excluding yourself, the only people harshly judging you are not the people you care to hear from. Then realize that you are far harsher on yourself than anyone else. \n\nLove you for you no matter what. Then decide what you like about yourself and focus on that more. Everything else will wash.", "It's a slow process, but realise that other people all have their own mental spotlight on themselves. No one is focusing on you as much as you think, theyre all too worried about their own behaviour. ", "I actually read this awesome tip once that helps a lot (I'm a pretty self conscious person). I'll see if I can find the original quote but essentially it goes something like this:\n\nIf you ever are in a situation where you feel really self conscious about what others think of you/how you're acting or what you're doing, divert your attention to the person you're talking to and start engaging in the situation at hand.\n\nNot sure if this makes total sense? But it's helped me a lot when handling conversations where I feel like people are judging me." ]

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[ "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. 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I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?", "What is something we regularly use that you recommend everyone to upgrade because it's so worth it? I have been saving up some money (not a ton), I have some extra money coming in, and I want to treat myself to a birthday gift. \n\nSo far, I'm thinking either upgrading my TV or upgrading my mattress. I spend a decent amount of time with these things, so I figured it would raise my quality of life. \n\nWhat are some upgrades you have made around the house or in your everyday life that has made your life or a part of your life so much better?" ]

[ "Anything that you use super regularly. Mattresses and pillows can make a world of difference and you spend so much time using them.\n\nComfortable chairs that give a lot of support, especially if you work at a desk.\n\nMake sure you have all the necessities to really engage in hygiene and self care needs. A good toothbrush, mouthwash, floss are all important. Dental work is expensive and often can be painful. Make sure to invest in your hygiene early", "Good shoes, with good inserts. Not only give you comfort, but it will prevent myriad of spine and joints problems and even some things you would not ever associate with feet.", "Learned early in life, anytime you have to upgrade appliances it is cheaper to spend more for top quality stuff. First item my wife and I bout high end was a washer and dryer. Our first cheaper set has problems in about 3 years. The good set we bought next later over 20. \n\nWashers, dryers, refrigerators, vacuums, etc, buy the very best you can afford. You will save money and they work better from the start", "Under sink water filter with as many stages as you have space. Water is a basic necessity of life. Clean, good tasting water will encourage you to drink more and trade off against flavored or sweetened beverages. Over the long term, this has the potential to add years to your life. \n\nI’ll give you a few more. HEPA grade air purifier, noise canceling headphones, a dedicated e-reader, quality hiking boots, and a basic commuter bike.", "Upgrade yourself. Learn something. Cooking, finance, investment, coding….. don’t buy TV. It will waste your time. Mattress is a better choice .", "My best upgrade was to an electric toothbrush, not one of the cheap AA battery operated one, but a good one. My teeth feel so much cleaner! \n\nMy next upgrade will be a new and better mattress.", "mattress seems like a great move, sleep really impacts our energy levels imo\nif anything, any ergonomic items like a laptop stand, a nice reading or work from home chair", "I'd agree with the mattress ( never really liked the foam type ones, even newer ones are gash IMO, would highly recommend a sleepeze 2200 with pocketgel).\n\nAgree with others, don't waste it on a TV, honestly you probably don't need it and the greater image quality just isn't really worth it except for a once in a blue moon movie that you'll probably watch at the cinema anyway", "if you work or do a lot of things at a desk at home, its very very nice to have a desk that you can move up and down to change between sitting and standing", "I would suggest get a nice electric toothbrush after watching some videos of qualified dentists on how to correctly use them and also floss.\n\nYou could also invest in a mental health/m", "Don't forget the really good sheets and pillows. I love my heavy cotton set. I ordered flannel, but got this wierd short fur/long velour thing that I'm going to need more of. Like sleeping with a huge, super soft teddy bear.", "My mom once told me: \"anything that comes between you and the ground is worth spending the extra money on.\" That includes your bed, shoes, chairs, etc. It has proven true: buying cheap is buying back pain, low quality rest, and all other kinds of avoidable discomfort.", "A quality umbrella that can withstand strong winds. I’ve had my Blunt umbrella for years, and have no regrets.", "Recently got my first ever soundbar with a subwoofer and wow the sound quality is soooo good, I regret never having one before, must have", "If you aren’t maxing out your retirement account, do that before asking the internet for ideas on what to spend money on.", "\n\nPremium noise canceling headphones.\n\nYou might think you are not a headphone person, you might think your current audio setup is good enough.\n\nBut good noise canceling alone is worth gold, not just on planes, not just on public transport, but everywhere. Loud neighbors/roommates, stuff like air fryers or washing machines/dryers, public places, school/work environment, basically any type of noise. It's a personal mute switch for life. It works so well you couldn't even imagine it if you never experienced it. \n\nYou don't realize how much unnecessary noise you withstand because it's normal to you, but once you experience what noise canceling can do for your everyday live, it's hard to go back.\n\nApart from that they are so much more comfortable then regular headphones, even with prolonged use. And the audio is muuuch better. It's comparable the the audio your TV puts out when watching a movie (regular earphones/headphones) and the audio you experience when watching a movie in the cinema. Much more depth, clarity, detail, instrument seperation, and overall fullness of the sound. Every song you ever heard sounds much better with a pair of premium headphones. You can hear elements in the music you usually don't notice. \n\nI have spent a lot of money on products in the hope of it improving my life one way or another, but premium noise canceling headphones has to be at the top of the list. If my pair broke today I'd buy a new one tomorrow. They cost about 200 bucks but are easily 5x better than a pair that costs half. (used to cost 350 when it was new, but even at that price they're worth every penny). They also easily last for years. Since my initial purchase I've worn headphones so much more than I normally would. \n\nHonorable mention goes to comfortable house slippers (with soft soles, not the hard rubber ones). Also, a tablet for media consumption in bed/on the couch instead of always using your phone. If possible one with an oled display (which is rare for tablets). Or people with iPhones, the new iPad mini has a pretty amazing size and weight.\n\nYour picks are very good as well, TV and mattress are indeed worth splurging on.", "If you enjoy smoothies, buy a Nutribullet. Super-efficient, easy to clean (just half-fill with hot water and one drop of dish soap and switch on for 5 seconds) durable and simple and convenient to use. The extra accessories are disproportionately expensive, though.", "Tools.\n\nAs someone who uses tools quite often and loves repairing stuff I can tell you that a quality tool never fails you.", "My whole family is bothering me with their air fryer. \"get an air fryer, you don't know what you're missing, blah blah\"\nJust leave me alone!", "I vote for a fancy mattress. My husband and I got the fanciest mattresses we have ever had last year and we praise them everyday. Every night I go to bed, I think: Oh my god, this is so comfy! I sleep like a baby and it added tons on my quality of life.\n\nGo to a proper shop, so that you can try them out and get ones, that are fitted best for your body type and weight and also sleeping type. The usual rule is, the more you weigh, the harder the mattress should be to support you, but personal preferences also play a role. Then there are some better for people who sweat more at night and like it cool or ones that are better for people who like it warm at night. Do some research before you decide.\n\nOurs were a 1000 Euros each (2 for one King Bed, because we needed different hardness grades), but we got them 25 percent off. Quite an investment, but it was so worth it.\n\n", "I got a few things that make a difference.\n\nMattress - Koala\n\nFolding bike - Brompton\n\nBidet - Toto\n\nMultitools - Leatherman wave, Victorinox Swiss army knife\n\nCamera bag - Peak design\n\nLeather jackets\n\nArc'teryx jackets\n\nWaterproof shoes\n\nSunglasses - Serengetti", "Can I give an opposite answer? Coffee maker. Had a $20 one that eventually gave out and decided to upgrade. Coffee tastes exactly the same as it did with the old maker. If anything, upgrade the beans if you are a coffee drinker. Seems like a lot of cheaper kitchen gadgets are just as good as expensive ones, in my experience.", "Rather than upgrading your TV, consider upgrading the sound with a nice soundbar like the Sonos Beam (with optional rear speakers or a subwoofer). \n\nA dedicated sound system will make a much bigger difference to your viewing experience than having 5 extra inches of screen.", "Please upgrade your bed/mattress. A TV becomes ancient in about a year with how fast technology is evolving", "Mattress. I've never had issues with sleep or soreness - I can fall asleep on concrete and wake up feeling refreshed if I have to. So I never thought I needed a nice mattress. Then my partner convinced me to get a really expensive one. I LOVE IT. it's so comfy and feels amazing.... It makes me extra excited to go to bed and I know that it's a healthy choice for my body. Mattresses last 5-10 years if you get a nice one. As I get older I don't have to worry about developing sleep or back problems because of a shitty mattress. It's an investment in my health AND a fun luxury.", "If your current mattress isn’t good, replace that. We bought a cheap, but bigger tv, and it’s working fine. I can’t is see getting a pricy one. I have also learned to spend money on good shoes and socks.", "Electric or a high quality can opener... silly but fighting with a crappy one , sucks. The dollar store ones bend, the Walmart ones go dull and won't cut.." ]

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[ "Dealing with warts Specifically, plantar warts. I have this one on my big toe, and I'm wondering what I should do about it. Surgery? Duct tape? Wart acid? Crushed garlic under a bandage? Leave it alone?\n\nI'm a runner, so I'd like to be off my feet for as little time as possible during treatment.", "Dealing with warts Specifically, plantar warts. I have this one on my big toe, and I'm wondering what I should do about it. Surgery? Duct tape? Wart acid? Crushed garlic under a bandage? Leave it alone?\n\nI'm a runner, so I'd like to be off my feet for as little time as possible during treatment.", "Dealing with warts Specifically, plantar warts. I have this one on my big toe, and I'm wondering what I should do about it. Surgery? Duct tape? Wart acid? Crushed garlic under a bandage? Leave it alone?\n\nI'm a runner, so I'd like to be off my feet for as little time as possible during treatment.", "Dealing with warts Specifically, plantar warts. I have this one on my big toe, and I'm wondering what I should do about it. Surgery? Duct tape? Wart acid? Crushed garlic under a bandage? Leave it alone?\n\nI'm a runner, so I'd like to be off my feet for as little time as possible during treatment.", "Dealing with warts Specifically, plantar warts. I have this one on my big toe, and I'm wondering what I should do about it. Surgery? Duct tape? Wart acid? Crushed garlic under a bandage? Leave it alone?\n\nI'm a runner, so I'd like to be off my feet for as little time as possible during treatment.", "Dealing with warts Specifically, plantar warts. I have this one on my big toe, and I'm wondering what I should do about it. Surgery? Duct tape? Wart acid? Crushed garlic under a bandage? Leave it alone?\n\nI'm a runner, so I'd like to be off my feet for as little time as possible during treatment." ]

[ "Tape a small cotton ball soaked with apple cider vinegar to it. It will turn white -- black -- then fall off. Google it for more detail, I'm running out the door!", "I had several plantar warts at one point. Tried duck tape, no luck. Tried wart acid by itself, no luck. Finally got rid of them with Dr Scholl's Freeze Away, and it was fairly painless. You do have to be consistent though. Freeze the shit out of them, apply acid, cover, repeat until gone. Good luck!", "My girlfriend has those and has been slowing getting rid of them by using a combination of duct tape, wart acid, and liquid band aids. It works just takes forever, I'd imagine surgery would work but it'd be expensive or painful. ", "Check the ingredients on the different bottles and potions. I happened to find a liquid wart remover (Equate Maximum Strength Liquid Wart Remover) that had 17% salicylic acid as its main ingredient and ether as one of the inactive ingredients. Nothing else worked until I used that stuff. I'm fairly sure it is, in fact, the ether that really is what does the trick with this stuff.\n\nTwo weeks, one minor acid burn (scarring went away within the month), sharp pain when applying the liquid stuff that made me actually draw in a sharp breath and then let out a stream of curses, but no more wart.\n\nWhat I learned from my experience:\n\nIf you use the wart dot stickers, you want to get them a little wet after putting them on your feet. It makes the acid much more useful. Dry acid doesn't work. Wet acid works.\n\nDo not skimp on the soaking and scrubbing part before you put your wart treatment on. You really want to get rid of already treated skin crust so that your treatment isn't blocked by it. If you do have the acid eating away at your skin crust, the wart will regenerate underneath its protective shell. I used a nail brush and/or pumice stone depending on how difficult the crust was to remove in any particular day.\n\n---\n\nSource: I've had a plantar wart on the heel of my left foot and a non-plantar wart on the top-ish of my left foot where the inside-side flipflop strap goes. This stuff cured both of them and I still have 3/4 of the bottle left.", "Try taking fish oil pills. I had warts on my hand for three years and this was the only thing that worked for me. Bonus, it's healthy for you. ", "I've always used the scholl's planter's acid patches. They work, but it takes forever. They basically dissolve the bitch, so you'll want to scrape off dead layers of the wart before putting a new patch on.\n\nIt's relatively painless, might feel a tad wierd, but it works. AFAIK they use salacylic acid to dissolve the wart. Once it's gone, the hole in your foot will fill back in with normal skin. I've had probably 4 plantar's warts in the past 2 decades and have used the same method to successfully remove all of them.\n\nI've heard good things about freezeaway, but have never tried it. I imagine it's an exp" ]

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[ "How to get hair out of a top you went to the hairdresser's in Most of the time I can't wear the tops again as they are too itchy against my back and shoulders. \n\nThanks", "How to get hair out of a top you went to the hairdresser's in Most of the time I can't wear the tops again as they are too itchy against my back and shoulders. \n\nThanks" ]

[ "Don't know the english word, but get something like this:\nhttp://www.amazon.de/Dauer-Fusselroller/dp/B000RQCAN2", " any kind of **lint roller** should work i think that washing the shirt would work too in my experience" ]

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[ "How to avoid getting a 'dated' fashion style (ie the 'dad' or 'mom' look)? Like many adults, I no longer really go clothes shopping unless something breaks and I need to replace it. I am still in my early twenties, and most of my clothing is left over from my high school/college days, except for my work clothing (my job is outdoors and requires me to wear sturdy all-weather clothing). So anyway, when I'm *not* at work, I would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman and I don't know how to do that since what I know as fashionable is Sperrys and sorority girl tall boots. I don't want to be perpetually wearing those clothes forever. Help? \n\n", "How to avoid getting a 'dated' fashion style (ie the 'dad' or 'mom' look)? Like many adults, I no longer really go clothes shopping unless something breaks and I need to replace it. I am still in my early twenties, and most of my clothing is left over from my high school/college days, except for my work clothing (my job is outdoors and requires me to wear sturdy all-weather clothing). So anyway, when I'm *not* at work, I would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman and I don't know how to do that since what I know as fashionable is Sperrys and sorority girl tall boots. I don't want to be perpetually wearing those clothes forever. Help? \n\n", "How to avoid getting a 'dated' fashion style (ie the 'dad' or 'mom' look)? Like many adults, I no longer really go clothes shopping unless something breaks and I need to replace it. I am still in my early twenties, and most of my clothing is left over from my high school/college days, except for my work clothing (my job is outdoors and requires me to wear sturdy all-weather clothing). So anyway, when I'm *not* at work, I would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman and I don't know how to do that since what I know as fashionable is Sperrys and sorority girl tall boots. I don't want to be perpetually wearing those clothes forever. Help? \n\n", "How to avoid getting a 'dated' fashion style (ie the 'dad' or 'mom' look)? Like many adults, I no longer really go clothes shopping unless something breaks and I need to replace it. I am still in my early twenties, and most of my clothing is left over from my high school/college days, except for my work clothing (my job is outdoors and requires me to wear sturdy all-weather clothing). So anyway, when I'm *not* at work, I would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman and I don't know how to do that since what I know as fashionable is Sperrys and sorority girl tall boots. I don't want to be perpetually wearing those clothes forever. Help? \n\n", "How to avoid getting a 'dated' fashion style (ie the 'dad' or 'mom' look)? Like many adults, I no longer really go clothes shopping unless something breaks and I need to replace it. I am still in my early twenties, and most of my clothing is left over from my high school/college days, except for my work clothing (my job is outdoors and requires me to wear sturdy all-weather clothing). So anyway, when I'm *not* at work, I would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman and I don't know how to do that since what I know as fashionable is Sperrys and sorority girl tall boots. I don't want to be perpetually wearing those clothes forever. Help? \n\n", "How to avoid getting a 'dated' fashion style (ie the 'dad' or 'mom' look)? Like many adults, I no longer really go clothes shopping unless something breaks and I need to replace it. I am still in my early twenties, and most of my clothing is left over from my high school/college days, except for my work clothing (my job is outdoors and requires me to wear sturdy all-weather clothing). So anyway, when I'm *not* at work, I would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman and I don't know how to do that since what I know as fashionable is Sperrys and sorority girl tall boots. I don't want to be perpetually wearing those clothes forever. Help? \n\n", "How to avoid getting a 'dated' fashion style (ie the 'dad' or 'mom' look)? Like many adults, I no longer really go clothes shopping unless something breaks and I need to replace it. I am still in my early twenties, and most of my clothing is left over from my high school/college days, except for my work clothing (my job is outdoors and requires me to wear sturdy all-weather clothing). So anyway, when I'm *not* at work, I would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman and I don't know how to do that since what I know as fashionable is Sperrys and sorority girl tall boots. I don't want to be perpetually wearing those clothes forever. Help? \n\n", "How to avoid getting a 'dated' fashion style (ie the 'dad' or 'mom' look)? Like many adults, I no longer really go clothes shopping unless something breaks and I need to replace it. I am still in my early twenties, and most of my clothing is left over from my high school/college days, except for my work clothing (my job is outdoors and requires me to wear sturdy all-weather clothing). So anyway, when I'm *not* at work, I would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman and I don't know how to do that since what I know as fashionable is Sperrys and sorority girl tall boots. I don't want to be perpetually wearing those clothes forever. Help? \n\n", "How to avoid getting a 'dated' fashion style (ie the 'dad' or 'mom' look)? Like many adults, I no longer really go clothes shopping unless something breaks and I need to replace it. I am still in my early twenties, and most of my clothing is left over from my high school/college days, except for my work clothing (my job is outdoors and requires me to wear sturdy all-weather clothing). So anyway, when I'm *not* at work, I would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman and I don't know how to do that since what I know as fashionable is Sperrys and sorority girl tall boots. I don't want to be perpetually wearing those clothes forever. Help? \n\n", "How to avoid getting a 'dated' fashion style (ie the 'dad' or 'mom' look)? Like many adults, I no longer really go clothes shopping unless something breaks and I need to replace it. I am still in my early twenties, and most of my clothing is left over from my high school/college days, except for my work clothing (my job is outdoors and requires me to wear sturdy all-weather clothing). So anyway, when I'm *not* at work, I would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman and I don't know how to do that since what I know as fashionable is Sperrys and sorority girl tall boots. I don't want to be perpetually wearing those clothes forever. Help? \n\n", "How to avoid getting a 'dated' fashion style (ie the 'dad' or 'mom' look)? Like many adults, I no longer really go clothes shopping unless something breaks and I need to replace it. I am still in my early twenties, and most of my clothing is left over from my high school/college days, except for my work clothing (my job is outdoors and requires me to wear sturdy all-weather clothing). So anyway, when I'm *not* at work, I would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman and I don't know how to do that since what I know as fashionable is Sperrys and sorority girl tall boots. I don't want to be perpetually wearing those clothes forever. Help? \n\n", "How to avoid getting a 'dated' fashion style (ie the 'dad' or 'mom' look)? Like many adults, I no longer really go clothes shopping unless something breaks and I need to replace it. I am still in my early twenties, and most of my clothing is left over from my high school/college days, except for my work clothing (my job is outdoors and requires me to wear sturdy all-weather clothing). So anyway, when I'm *not* at work, I would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman and I don't know how to do that since what I know as fashionable is Sperrys and sorority girl tall boots. I don't want to be perpetually wearing those clothes forever. Help? \n\n", "How to avoid getting a 'dated' fashion style (ie the 'dad' or 'mom' look)? Like many adults, I no longer really go clothes shopping unless something breaks and I need to replace it. I am still in my early twenties, and most of my clothing is left over from my high school/college days, except for my work clothing (my job is outdoors and requires me to wear sturdy all-weather clothing). So anyway, when I'm *not* at work, I would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman and I don't know how to do that since what I know as fashionable is Sperrys and sorority girl tall boots. I don't want to be perpetually wearing those clothes forever. Help? \n\n", "How to avoid getting a 'dated' fashion style (ie the 'dad' or 'mom' look)? Like many adults, I no longer really go clothes shopping unless something breaks and I need to replace it. I am still in my early twenties, and most of my clothing is left over from my high school/college days, except for my work clothing (my job is outdoors and requires me to wear sturdy all-weather clothing). So anyway, when I'm *not* at work, I would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman and I don't know how to do that since what I know as fashionable is Sperrys and sorority girl tall boots. I don't want to be perpetually wearing those clothes forever. Help? \n\n", "How to avoid getting a 'dated' fashion style (ie the 'dad' or 'mom' look)? Like many adults, I no longer really go clothes shopping unless something breaks and I need to replace it. I am still in my early twenties, and most of my clothing is left over from my high school/college days, except for my work clothing (my job is outdoors and requires me to wear sturdy all-weather clothing). So anyway, when I'm *not* at work, I would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman and I don't know how to do that since what I know as fashionable is Sperrys and sorority girl tall boots. I don't want to be perpetually wearing those clothes forever. Help? \n\n" ]

[ "> Sperrys\n\nTopsiders? I'm twice your age and these were in style when I was your age...have they come around again already?\n\nAnyway, if you really want to remain 'in style' you'll need to follow the trends. That means research: subscriptions to fashion rags, following those in the 'know' online, etc.\n\nYou'll also need to budget a wardrobe expense and visit the stores at least once a month to keep up.\n\nAfter a while, you'll realize that most people just don't care what you wear, and those that do you don't care about. Then you'll have a bunch money and time to spend on something that makes you happy.", "A lot of these comments seem to assume you're a dude, despite you saying that you would like to look like a respectable, fashionable twenty-something woman. Men have it much easier in this regard, I think, because menswear changes much more slowly, and if you're dressing well, there's less of a risk of \"mutton dressed as lamb\" or the reverse. The downside to menswear is that they have a lot less choice. \n\nI think there are three options on how to not look like a victim of the cycle of fashion:\n\n1) Follow trends and incorporate them as you feel comfortable doing so. Sites like http://youlookfab.com/ are (I feel) dedicated to slightly older women than you who want to look modern and keep up with trends. For this strategy, you can put some effort into it yourself, or you can, every year or so, go to a nice department store (I'm fond of Nordstrom, but there are plenty of other good options) and throw yourself on the mercy of a saleslady/personal shopper who you think looks fashionable in a way that appeals to you. She'll keep you out of mom jeans. **This is playing the game, and doing it well.**\n\n2) Go *extremely* classic. Have a wardrobe based on a very small number of neutral colors, wear conservative cuts in luxurious materials, dress this way until you die. If black is a color you feel good in, an extremely simple black, crew neck cashmere sweater with a black pencil skirt can be worn forever. Substitute with gray, camel, navy, beige, whatever works for you. Now, you'll look like a very sophisticated 22 year old lady who doesn't bother with trendy sorority girl bullshit. In thirty years, you'll look like a very sophisticated woman of a certain age who's not trying to compete with the 22 year olds. **This is deciding that your appearance is too serious for the game.**\n\n3) You can say fuck it, and wear things that make your heart sing, regardless of trendiness or whatever. I \n think this works best with a fairly developed aesthetic, because it's hard to believe that twelve year old cotton sweaters from Target are soul-stirring for anyone. But if you want to be the girl that dresses like a 1930's British girl working on a farm? Awesome. You want to have long hippie hair and wear long skirts and platforms? Do it. You want to be super futuristic-androgynous and only wear white? That sounds amazing. Just commit to whatever it is that makes you happy, and people will be into it. **This is deciding that the game isn't fun or interesting enough.**\n\nAll that said, I think one of the things that really tends to date people as they age is their hair style. Most women keep the hair they had in their last year of schooling for the rest of their lives, and it can tell you exactly how old someone is. If you're into that, mazel tov, but if you want to stay more current with it, look at fashionable women who are approximately your same age as you get older, and think about switching it up. ", "Maybe try a box subscription service like StitchFix. You just answer some questions about what you like and don't like, and a \"personal stylist\" picks some pieces out for you. You get a box with like 5 pieces (tops, pants, shoes, accessories) in it. Try it all on, keep and pay for what you like, send the other stuff back in the bag (pre-paid postage) that comes in the box. When you check out in the website, you give feedback on the stuff you got and the stylist will tailor the next shipment based on your comments.\n\nI've been using it for a few months now, and they've sent me a lot of stuff that I never would really pay attention to in stores or online, but I end up loving it when I try it on. Now I have some good versatile pieces in my wardrobe! \n\nAnother cool thing is, if you decide to just keep everything in the box, you get a pretty sweet discount off the total price, something like 25%, plus -$20 because they waive the $20 stylist fee. Give it a try!", "27 year old female grad student here. Not sure what your personal style is, but I tend to shop at stores like Loft and The Limited for some of my nicer pieces (and American Eagle for jeans because they fit my short legs and weird ass). Buying more \"classic\" clothes that will last several years (and still be somewhat fashionable no matter what's currently trendy) is worth the cost IMHO. If I want something cute that will probably be out of style within a year or so, I'll buy something cheap from Forever 21 or somewhere similar. I get a lot of my basics from Target and just augment my outfits with fun jewelry or a scarf. A few friends love New York & Co., and they always seem to look put together.\n\nIf you don't have these stores around you, maybe checking their websites would give you ideas? I do that a lot if I am short on cash and want ideas for conference outfits or something. Hope this helps! ", "I'm not too sure about women's clothing or fashion but after graduating from college and trendy clothes, I invested in \"classic\" pieces of menswear that over the years haven't lost their appeal or fashionability. \n\nIt's the trendy stuff of a season that looks dated quickly. Also, I think you'd want to focus on buying some classic pieces that fit your body well. The two main issues I've noticed with fashion/clothing in general is a trendy piece being dated next year/season and properly fitting clothes. Even if you wear something a little dated, if it fits your body and features well, you won't feel or look as strange.\n\nTypically for men, a navy blazer, chucks, khakis, dark jeans and basic shirts will never go out of fashion. I believe the same principal, not those pieces, could hold true with womenswear as well. The thought being, you might not be wearing the most cool thing of the season but you definitely won't be wearing something dated and weird.\n ", "The first thing you have to do if you want to look respectably \"stylish\" is to ignore \"fashion\" completely. As an industry it is the very definition of a planned obsolescence machine, supported by a media branch that \"decides\" what's hot or not at any particular time. None of them know shit. Since your work attire is pretty much fixed, use your home attire as an opportunity to explore your creative side. Shop in thrift stores, search whimsical online retailers, even have pieces made up for you by local tailors/seemstresses. Of course it's probably easier to buy functionals like shoes and T shirts in regular stores, but that's OK too. ", "I'll tell you what never goes out of style, being in shape. You want to be the person that makes clothes look good, nor the other way around. \n\nNow where the heck did I put my abs? ", "I am in my late 20s and going through a huge clothing over haul, so I feel like I can totally relate. Like you, all my clothes were from high school/college/early 20s and just didn't look nice anymore, especially because I had relied so long on fast fashion which is such poor quality. I was about to start a new job where the dress code was casual but very trendy (in NYC) and I wanted to leave a good impression. So this is what I did. I sorted through all my clothes and decided what still made me happy when I wore it, but I tried to be really strict--nothing more than two years old unless it's still in really good condition and timeless. The rest went into another pile to be given away/sold/etc. Then I got to work planning out my new grown up wardrobe. The main focus of my shopping was on staples, not just buying something because it looked really cute but then getting home and realizing I had nothing to wear it with. So I picked a main color (I chose black, but you might choose brown or green or another neutral). I stocked up on a ton of just plain black shirts, a few in other colors and invested in a few good black pants, jeans, and a few skirts of various colors and lengths. I then invested in sweaters that paired well with the pants or skirts I owned. Add a couple dresses to mix in and stock up on some tights and some nylons. Just about everything matches and I can mix it up. All my shoes are black in different styles. I divided my closet between work appropriate and not, so no questioning in the morning, and then by style (sweaters/tops/skirts/dresses/pants). Also, I didn't do this all in a day but over a series of months and because I saved up money and scouted out sales. I also shopped heavily in the clearance aisle of some of my favorite stores during mid season. If your asking for age appropriate stores for someone in their mid-twenties and who doesn't like the preppy look, I'd suggest Urban Outfitters, Top Shop, Uniqlo, Zara, and American Apparel and for shoes, I still think buying them at a department store is best. Stay away from Forever 21 and H&M except for some cheap staples or really trendy pieces you'll only wear a couple times. If you need style inspiration, use instagram and follow some bloggers whose style you really like (I'd recommend rubilove--she has amazing style) Hope this helps! And happy shopping. You'll feel so much better when you have an age appropriate wardrobe that you love.", "This is why magazines exist, so you can see what is trendy. Also catalogues from stores that you like.\n\nI even get emails from stores that I like telling me what the trends are. ", "I used to work out at the YMCA and there were a lot of old guys there working out with gear from the 1980s. Fast forward a few years and I'm in a newer gym closer to home. I'm working out and glance in the mirror and realize I've become the old guy with outdated gear. I started to notice what the other people were wearing and it was quite funny. My wife and I went shopping and I got stuff from this new store - Loo loo lemon. ;-)", "I am a guy that uses Trunk Club, but have slowed down now that I have a feel for what is in style now. Trunk Club is coming out soon with Trunk Club for Women, they let my wife join s few months ago because of how much I bought. You may want to check that out. ", "Honestly. The way I've always shopped is for clothes that fits my body, not what's the new trend. And I'm always complimented. Even in high school, I bought clothes that fit me and my build, and wasn't always the latest and greatest, but it looked awesome on me (according to strangers and peers) ask me what I think I look like and I shrug my shoulders. As a mom, I don't shop as much for myself as I probably should. But when I find new things that look like me, and are on sale I'll grab 1 and sometimes I'll go back and grab 1 in every color. :) ", "Finding clothing that fits (having it altered if need be) quick make even the most basic clothing look significantly better. Fitted, structured, decent fabric, it all adds up. Even if the clothing isn't currently \"on trend\", it will still enhance your figure far more.\n\nAlso, find a clothing store that has staff wearing clothing you consider to be your style goal. Then ASK!! If it's a decent shop, the sales staff will be happy to help you update with a few pieces here or there. You don't even need to buy anything, just getting the advice, trying on things outside your norm, it will all help, especially if it's a store typically outside your price range.\n\nOh, never forget the power of accessories. You can completely change the style of an outfit based on the jewellery, handbag, belts etc that you add to the outfit. Costume jewellery is your new best friend in this regard. It's cheap, bold and can really add some wow! ", "If you have even an average build you will look pretty good in tight clothes. Not so much people over 40. It's always cringy when old people dress younger than their age.", "This isn't the best place for fashion advice. I mean, look at all the people saying \"hay you can just wear whatever and that's good u no?\" People, he's asking for fashion advice, not how to wear clothes confidently. This is what I do. I find a style that suits me and that I like, I buy clothes that fit into my style, I put on the stuff that matches well, and that's it. So do some research on different styles of clothing and see what would suit you best. Stay away from blue jeans and a T-shirt, that's dad tier" ]

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[ "Things to do after work when a family member visits? My brother in law (19 yo) is going to visit soon. Since I'm starting a new job I won't be able to take vacation time. What are some good ideas of what to do after 5, besides staying home and watching movies/series?", "Things to do after work when a family member visits? My brother in law (19 yo) is going to visit soon. Since I'm starting a new job I won't be able to take vacation time. What are some good ideas of what to do after 5, besides staying home and watching movies/series?" ]

[ "There are some nice hiking/biking trails in our area. It stays light longer now, so we take some time after dinner to enjoy a walk, talk and catch up on our day.\n\nPlay tourist in your own town--like someone said, there may be special events, or small cafes that always have live music or poetry slams. \n\nBut mostly, I don't know what you guys like to do.", "Go to pet stores or adoption centers and look at/play with animals. Takes your mind off stress and makes you look forward to something after a long days work. " ]

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[ "How to tell if someone is flirting or just being friendly? I am kind of new to social interactions, and am 30 (this is a weird combination and would take a while to explain, but is true). I constantly am trying to figure out if people are flirting with me or not, and am also constantly worried that I am giving off that vibe when I don't mean to. So what should I look for?\n\nFor reference, I am a straight male, but as reddit readers are any gender or orientation, comments for both genders are appreciated.", "How to tell if someone is flirting or just being friendly? I am kind of new to social interactions, and am 30 (this is a weird combination and would take a while to explain, but is true). I constantly am trying to figure out if people are flirting with me or not, and am also constantly worried that I am giving off that vibe when I don't mean to. So what should I look for?\n\nFor reference, I am a straight male, but as reddit readers are any gender or orientation, comments for both genders are appreciated.", "How to tell if someone is flirting or just being friendly? I am kind of new to social interactions, and am 30 (this is a weird combination and would take a while to explain, but is true). I constantly am trying to figure out if people are flirting with me or not, and am also constantly worried that I am giving off that vibe when I don't mean to. So what should I look for?\n\nFor reference, I am a straight male, but as reddit readers are any gender or orientation, comments for both genders are appreciated.", "How to tell if someone is flirting or just being friendly? I am kind of new to social interactions, and am 30 (this is a weird combination and would take a while to explain, but is true). I constantly am trying to figure out if people are flirting with me or not, and am also constantly worried that I am giving off that vibe when I don't mean to. So what should I look for?\n\nFor reference, I am a straight male, but as reddit readers are any gender or orientation, comments for both genders are appreciated.", "How to tell if someone is flirting or just being friendly? I am kind of new to social interactions, and am 30 (this is a weird combination and would take a while to explain, but is true). I constantly am trying to figure out if people are flirting with me or not, and am also constantly worried that I am giving off that vibe when I don't mean to. So what should I look for?\n\nFor reference, I am a straight male, but as reddit readers are any gender or orientation, comments for both genders are appreciated." ]

[ "Doesn't matter. Just assume they're all friendly. It's better being the dense idiot than being the flirty dirty old man. The dense idiot has its own charm. ", "If they keep staring you at the eyes with their mouth semi-open while you speak they probably want more of you.", "some people just act very friendly and comes off as flirtly. Some people are flirty but you would never know it. It hard to tell but if you are around them long enough, you notice the difference.", "This is a skill that only comes with practice. I know so many girls who dont realise that a guy is pulling a slight mind f*uck on them... They think theyre just being friendly. Never is. Never is. ", "Crossed arms and lack of eye contact is guarding. If most of her body is facing away and she replies in short sentences then she is NOT interested." ]

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[ " I am a guy and I think my voice has no charm. Not that I am a good conversationalist but having a better voice would surely help me.", " I am a guy and I think my voice has no charm. Not that I am a good conversationalist but having a better voice would surely help me.", " I am a guy and I think my voice has no charm. Not that I am a good conversationalist but having a better voice would surely help me.", " I am a guy and I think my voice has no charm. Not that I am a good conversationalist but having a better voice would surely help me.", " I am a guy and I think my voice has no charm. Not that I am a good conversationalist but having a better voice would surely help me." ]

[ "- Speak loud but don't yell. When several people accidentally talk at once, the loudest always wins.\n- Speak clear and speak with intent. This isn't just your voice, it is your body language. No one is going to listen to you if you are staring at your feet scratching your arm.\n- Smile while talking/listening, acknowledge when other people are talking and laugh at their jokes/stories. People will like you if you give them your attention. People will listen to you if they like you.\n\nNote that your voice is only one aspect of this. Communicating in an attractive and/or powerful way is much more than speaking itself. Body language, tone, volume, language... and don't forget to smile.", "Try to speak in a lower tone. Higher pitched voices are harder to control. I did this, I had an entire year job raising my voice loud and to the point of shouting. \n\nIt's waaaaay easier to control when you speak in a lower voice. Plus, you can sound cooler. \n\nTry that, then try to go to different levels of voice :D ", "1. Avoid the use of \"Ummm\" and \"ehhh\" - Pause instead. \n2. Think about what topics you want to cover when you talk before you left any words leave your mouth.\n3. Have fresh breath - after you eat or drink, rinse your mouth out with water - especially after coffee. A mint or him isn't bad either as long as you finish it before you start a meeting. \nDrink more water in general. \n4. End your sentences strongly with enough enunciation and volume. Make that last syllable heard clearly. Don't make it sound like a question or that you're like a dizzy like girl, like totally.", "I was thinking of singing voice. Cause my secret is to do exercise before singing. Just make sure that you don't sound annoying and boastful.\n", "For conversational purposes, you need to do more than just have a good voice. To make someone feel connected to you, you have to build that by commonality. You do this via body language, mimicry (this is so important), an engaged tone, etc. \n\nI currently live in Vietnam and hardly speak Vietnamese, but I can win people over just by mimicking their body language. It's super weird, but it works. \n\nTony Robbins is god damn amazing and has a several talks over this subject. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=meLbMg7ySU4" ]

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[ "How to hold your smartphone camera steady? I always struggle to take nice photos on my phone even though the camera is pretty decent. Is there a way I can hold it to keep it stable?", "How to hold your smartphone camera steady? I always struggle to take nice photos on my phone even though the camera is pretty decent. Is there a way I can hold it to keep it stable?", "How to hold your smartphone camera steady? I always struggle to take nice photos on my phone even though the camera is pretty decent. Is there a way I can hold it to keep it stable?", "How to hold your smartphone camera steady? I always struggle to take nice photos on my phone even though the camera is pretty decent. Is there a way I can hold it to keep it stable?", "How to hold your smartphone camera steady? I always struggle to take nice photos on my phone even though the camera is pretty decent. Is there a way I can hold it to keep it stable?", "How to hold your smartphone camera steady? I always struggle to take nice photos on my phone even though the camera is pretty decent. Is there a way I can hold it to keep it stable?", "How to hold your smartphone camera steady? I always struggle to take nice photos on my phone even though the camera is pretty decent. Is there a way I can hold it to keep it stable?", "How to hold your smartphone camera steady? I always struggle to take nice photos on my phone even though the camera is pretty decent. Is there a way I can hold it to keep it stable?", "How to hold your smartphone camera steady? I always struggle to take nice photos on my phone even though the camera is pretty decent. Is there a way I can hold it to keep it stable?", "How to hold your smartphone camera steady? I always struggle to take nice photos on my phone even though the camera is pretty decent. Is there a way I can hold it to keep it stable?" ]

[ "I use this with my actual camera all the time. Tie a long piece of string to your phone and step on the end and pull it tight. Its a great make shift tripod.", "Put it on your forehead, the reason older cameras worked better was because your eye gave them a rest and therefore stability.\n\nPut it on your forehead and regain the stability.\n\n", "Pull your upper arms in so your elbows are against your body and you are holding the phone with two hands. This locks the phone into only one degree of freedom (up/down). You look a little like a T Rex but it'll help.", "Hold the shutter button down while you're focusing on the picture, then when you pull you finger off, the picture will be focused and not shaky.", "Photography student here, keep your elbows at your sides, creating a more steady foundation for your camera.", "If you can prop it against a surface, that will help. You can buy cell phone tripods which will clamp to your phone. If you have nothing else, you can also tuck your elbows in to your sides and rotate your body instead of the phone when you need to turn.", "Keep your eye on the target, and hold a deep breath. Calm your mind. Then, between a heartbeat, *take your shot*", "I can't take a good picture with anything that isn't on a tripod. Some people are naturally shakier than others. Little portable, flex-y tripods have worked well.", "https://www.google.com/search?q=cell+phone+tripod&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a ", "Take multiple exposures. Rapid fire hitting the button and then go through your photos after deleting the most blurry. " ]

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[ "How can I become a morning person? I despise waking up before 12 and I'm often late for work because of it.", "How can I become a morning person? I despise waking up before 12 and I'm often late for work because of it.", "How can I become a morning person? I despise waking up before 12 and I'm often late for work because of it.", "How can I become a morning person? I despise waking up before 12 and I'm often late for work because of it.", "How can I become a morning person? I despise waking up before 12 and I'm often late for work because of it.", "How can I become a morning person? I despise waking up before 12 and I'm often late for work because of it.", "How can I become a morning person? I despise waking up before 12 and I'm often late for work because of it.", "How can I become a morning person? I despise waking up before 12 and I'm often late for work because of it.", "How can I become a morning person? I despise waking up before 12 and I'm often late for work because of it.", "How can I become a morning person? I despise waking up before 12 and I'm often late for work because of it.", "How can I become a morning person? I despise waking up before 12 and I'm often late for work because of it." ]

[ "Go to sleep earlier at night, and make yourself a little morning routine that you really enjoy and look forward to. That way you'll actually want to get out of the bed when that morning hour comes.", "Set your alarm for 5 am, drag yourself out of bed, drink a cold glass of water, make a pot of coffee, drink the coffee. Do this for two weeks, and boom, you are a morning person. ", "Wake up earlier than you need to. Having time to yourself in the mornings to have an unrushed breakfast and a cup of coffee, a shower, plus some time to just relax and faff about makes it much more tolerable. If you find that you have a strict timetable for your morning routine, you're not waking up early enough.", "Lets say you want to get up at 8am set your alarm for 8am... when it goes off, get up!! NOW!! Some people say set it for 745 and hit snooze... NEVER... GET UP, Immediately...You will be groggy, but guess what?? At 10pm you will be thinking about getting to bed... A couple of nights and mornings will be rough, however, you will get used to it.. #formerbartender", "I recently started using an alarm app that requires you to scan a barcode to make the alarm stop. Sounds a bit dumb but works wonders. Its called alarmy.\nBonus tip: place the code somewhat far from your bed. If possible in a different room. ", "I drink a full glass of water when my alarm goes off. A sip and I'll fall back to sleep, but consciously going through the entire glass gives me just enough of a boost (if it's been a bad night) to get out of my bedroom and into the living room…\n\n…where, the night before, I laid out the yoga mat and towel. The stretches and poses I do, I've been doing for years every day in more or less the same order, so there's not a lot of thinking there. By the time I get to the Pilates-style core exercises, I'm pretty awake. \n\n40 minutes later I turn on the kettle that I filled the night before, shower, then prepare the coffee that I weighed out before going to bed. \n\nTLDR: Set everything up before going to bed to ensure that you don't even need to think for the first hour in the morning.", "When I was working a 7 am start I'd set an alarm for 5 then another for 530 when I had to start getting prepped for the day. That half hour from 5-530 was mine to do with whatever I wanted. It was like a planned procrastination to look forward to to get the Reddit/listening to music/watching tv/laying on the couch out of the way so I could focus on whatever needed to be done.\n\nThe alarm app I used runs off wifi signal strength and won't shut off until you achieve the preset hi and/or low value. [Link for those on Android.](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.sygel.goobalarm) If your router isn't in your bedroom you set it to have to have a signal strength that's strong enough that it can't be reached from even close to your bed. My router is in the living room so I would set it to pretty well have to be on top of the router before it would turn off. \n\nAlso, a lot of people who have a really hard time with waking up eventually find out that they have sleep apnea. If you haven't already been tested it's worth at least talking to a Dr about. ", "Start eating high protein meals as early as possible. This changes your hormone levels that regulate mood and wakefulness. Also if possible get sunlight and movement earlier in the morning. ", "Just fucking get up. That's advice my old boss gave me years ago. It's literally all you have to do. It sucks and that pillow is oh so comfy but just get the fuck up ", "Create a sleep schedule and a morning routine. \n-10pm go to bed\n-7:45am wake up \n-8am get up and eat\n-8:45am leave for the gym\n-work out for an hour and then go to class. Getting out of bed and getting moving are the important parts here this helps your body know that it is time to be awake. I take my own sweet time eating breakfast because that is my time to myself and I don't like to feel rushed. If I need to go directly from the gym to school or work then I pack my clothes, dry shampoo & wet wipes/ shampoo & soap, and makeup to get ready there. Working out is a big help for me and after a while caused me to wake up without my alarm. ", "A lot of people say gradually do it, but for me the best option was what I call \"the first hour\". Within the first hour of waking up I read a book, then play some guitar, and m" ]

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[ "Stranded in the middle of nowhere with no floss and a chunk of apple stuck between my teeth. What are some floss alternatives? Reddit, I need help desperately. I am currently visiting my grandfather's farm, and the nearest store is 50 miles away. About an hour ago, I was munching on a delicious country apple. Much to my dismay, a big chunk of the skin became lodged between my teeth and I am without floss. Attempting to remedy the situation, I plucked one of my hairs and tried flossing with that. Tragically, it broke and now is lodged in there with the apple skin bit. The discomfort is nearly unbearable. Does anyone have any \"survivalist\" tips to fashion some makeshift floss under these dire conditions?", "Stranded in the middle of nowhere with no floss and a chunk of apple stuck between my teeth. What are some floss alternatives? Reddit, I need help desperately. I am currently visiting my grandfather's farm, and the nearest store is 50 miles away. About an hour ago, I was munching on a delicious country apple. Much to my dismay, a big chunk of the skin became lodged between my teeth and I am without floss. Attempting to remedy the situation, I plucked one of my hairs and tried flossing with that. Tragically, it broke and now is lodged in there with the apple skin bit. The discomfort is nearly unbearable. Does anyone have any \"survivalist\" tips to fashion some makeshift floss under these dire conditions?", "Stranded in the middle of nowhere with no floss and a chunk of apple stuck between my teeth. What are some floss alternatives? Reddit, I need help desperately. I am currently visiting my grandfather's farm, and the nearest store is 50 miles away. About an hour ago, I was munching on a delicious country apple. Much to my dismay, a big chunk of the skin became lodged between my teeth and I am without floss. Attempting to remedy the situation, I plucked one of my hairs and tried flossing with that. Tragically, it broke and now is lodged in there with the apple skin bit. The discomfort is nearly unbearable. Does anyone have any \"survivalist\" tips to fashion some makeshift floss under these dire conditions?" ]

[ "Have any gum? I'm missing a chunk of a tooth and food gets stuck in there all the time. If I can't find a toothpick, I pop some Stride. You'd think the pressure would jam it in further, but eventually it works the food loose. ", "Not exactly anything close to \"Pro\" or even refined... but I go find a corner or bathroom stall and use my nail.", "If you use a kitchen knife or any kind of knife with a somewhat small point or see if your grandparents have a swiss army knife laying around, almost all of those have re useable toothpicks on them" ]

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[ "How to not laugh in inappropriate situations. During a recent business meeting, I was daydreaming and thought of a funny event of the past (unrelated to the business meeting). The reaction was not permissible and concluded in a lot of blank/devious stares. How can I suppress these thoughts/reactions? (I tend to daydream a lot during these meetings).", "How to not laugh in inappropriate situations. During a recent business meeting, I was daydreaming and thought of a funny event of the past (unrelated to the business meeting). The reaction was not permissible and concluded in a lot of blank/devious stares. How can I suppress these thoughts/reactions? (I tend to daydream a lot during these meetings).", "How to not laugh in inappropriate situations. During a recent business meeting, I was daydreaming and thought of a funny event of the past (unrelated to the business meeting). The reaction was not permissible and concluded in a lot of blank/devious stares. How can I suppress these thoughts/reactions? (I tend to daydream a lot during these meetings).", "How to not laugh in inappropriate situations. During a recent business meeting, I was daydreaming and thought of a funny event of the past (unrelated to the business meeting). The reaction was not permissible and concluded in a lot of blank/devious stares. How can I suppress these thoughts/reactions? (I tend to daydream a lot during these meetings).", "How to not laugh in inappropriate situations. During a recent business meeting, I was daydreaming and thought of a funny event of the past (unrelated to the business meeting). The reaction was not permissible and concluded in a lot of blank/devious stares. How can I suppress these thoughts/reactions? (I tend to daydream a lot during these meetings)." ]

[ "I have a little technique for this I call \"the emotion follows the eyes\". What emotion your eyes are making seems to actually reflects on your mental state. So, if I control my eyes I control the emotion, at least to some degree. It's a little eerie, actually. If you make your eyes portray an emotion, the rest of your face tends to follow.\n\nIf you're trying to cheer yourself up, focus on making your *eyes* look happy, not your mouth. It's so very very subtle, but if you go ^ ^ with your eyes you actually tend to feel a little better and your face naturally smiles. Likewise, if you let your eyes go - - or V V you will feel more somber. Open your eyes wider to feel a little more alert, close them most of the way to get sleepy. Make your eyes serious when dealing with a situation you're not supposed to laugh.\n\nIt may feel silly at first and it takes a little practice. But it's the most effective way I've found.", "This would be amazingly useful. I can not help but laugh when I am being yelled at. I leave for basic training in a month and a half.", "This happened to me in court once. Standing in front of the judge as the lawyers were talking. He was this big, fat guy with a croaky voice. He just made me think of a big, ugly bullfrog and I felt a smile creeping across my face. I suppose reminding myself that he will decide my freedom or otherwise suppressed the smile, but it was oh so close.", "Envision the sound of sombre music, played on gramophone records, and also the chanting of laments by the men of Q Division", "Wow! Nice suggestions! Thank you! Glad to know that I'm not alone when it comes to laughing in appropriate settings. At least we are all happy people?" ]

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[ "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?", "Speaking to strangers on the train. On my train journey back to university today, I found myself sitting at a table with two complete strangers. For the majority of the journey I found myself wanting to speak to them but never knew exactly how to start a conversation with them. Anyone been in a similar situation and found the right words to say?" ]

[ "George: Meeting is hard.\n\nJerry: Meeting is hard. Why can’t you meet?\n\nGeorge: Can’t meet! Why is that?\n\nJerry: This is what single people are thinking about the minute they wake up in the morning. And yet we’re surrounded by people, they’re right next to us, on the bus, on the street! But we can’t meet them.\n\nGeorge: Why won’t they meet us?\n\nJerry: Because strangers have a bad reputation.\n\nGeorge: A few bad strangers have ruined it for the rest of us!", "Since your both on a trip together ask about the destination. I usually follow up by asking \"business or pleasure?\" When I was single and commuted on the long island railroad I met many ladies on these trips. Oh and have a book. It kills time, it can be a discussion point or just make you look like a friendly smart bookworm. Much easier for people to warm up to you ", "I find it semi-easy to talk to random people. One thing I do: compliment them on something. Make sure you really mean it, even though that coat isn't something you would wear, you could still appreciate that it's a cool color or a unique design. \n\nTalking to strangers opens up many life opportunities. I've been called \"lucky\" because of some of the opportunities that I have taken because I took the time to make conversation with that guy in the checkout line.", "Not being a naturally conversational person, I find I have to force myself to open within the first few seconds or it'll get harder to start a conversation later.\n\nWhen I was taking a commuter plane home once, I had the aisle seat. The woman who had the window seat came up, and I smiled and jokingly said \"aww, I was hoping to steal the window seat.\" She laughed and we had some nice on-and-off discussions after that.", "From Carnegies How To Win Friends and Influence People - Find something that you admire about that person then sincerely and earnestly compliment them. Do it genuinely and you will come across as a nice guy that most people will want to talk to.\n\nAlso, ask questions about the other persons interests.", "I have an incredibly outgoing friend who once told me he gets psyched-out and too nervous to start conversations if he lets himself think about it. His solution is now whenever he sees someone he wants to talk to, he gives himself only five seconds to come up with something to say and start conversation. They usually aren't the wittiest conversation openers in the world, but they work because he doesn't have enough time to get awkward about it!", "\"Is there a bathroom on this train? I ate a massive burrito last night, from a place I've never been to before.\"", "You: Hi, my name is _______.\n\nThem: Oh, hi, I'm _______.\n\nYou: Mondays... I hate Mondays.\n\nThem: It's Thursday.\n\nYou: Everyday feels like a Monday to me. Amirite?\n\n\nThe trick is to say something, ANYTHING right at the beginning, otherwise it's going to be really awkward to try and get a convo going after an hour and a half of awkward staring and ignoring each other.", "This is GOOD. Read it. http://www.amazon.com/Art-Conversation-Guided-Neglected-Pleasure/dp/1592404197", "Macking on girls on the subway is one of those life skills that's really hit or miss, but definitely worth working on.", "I think you just have to go for it. I'm not one of those people, but I get them all the time. They will usually just start with something pretty boring. I've had them talk about the crowd on the train, or lack of one. I've had them just jump in about their trip. \n\nThe conversations rarely start smoothly, but once it starts it can be fine. ", "I also like a \"So where are you from\" convo starter. And then you can tell them where you are from and so forth.", "i know it's hard man. Sometimes I do it easily, but sometimes i overthink and just can't do it. Or the situation isn't prefect and i don't do it. I think the trick is to just not think about it and trust yourself to have a good conversation. Plus, read neil strauss and david deangelo. It helps when it's someone else telling you to go talk to people.\nBottom line: don't think about it, and just trust that things will turn out great. I remember the times I had the best conversations with complete strangers, I didn't even remember how the hell I got started talking to them. Just go with the flow, man.", "hmm, first things first, if you want to talk to me on the train, don't be homeless. If you even look like a slob, chances are I'm going to assume you are homeless. \n\nFrom there, look interesting, or even better, be interesting. You will have to overcome reticence, but once you've demonstrated that you have some interesting things to say, you'll be good. You have to reach the activation energy. But if it fails, then drop it.\n\nAnd the cardinal rule, if I'm ever in the bathroom with you, shut the fuck up. NO CHATTY PEES.", "You shouldn't plan out your conversation. Whenever I try to think of what the other person will say next, I'm wrong. Which leads to confusion. Which leads to awkward silences. Resulting in an unpleasant train ride.", "Screw the weather, make a comment about something that is happening on the train. Observe, observe, observe. Read [David Wygant](http://www.amazon.com/Always-Talk-Strangers-Simple-Finding/dp/B000F7111U/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpt_1).", "If you never say hello to anyone, and no one ever said hello to you, would you have any friends?\n\n....\n\nAsk them how they are doing today. \n\nBest tip: don't be afraid of looking like a fool. ", "If I want to start a conversation with someone, I usually just compliment their clothes and ask where they got whatever-it-is. And then transition into randomness when they start smiling. People wanna know when you think their shoes are fucking adorable.", "I would of just said something silly like \"Ain't trains brilliant\" and then after there look of disapproval I'd of just hung my head in shame and said \"Okay\".\n\nKinda like this: http://youtu.be/xgMgkl-gRxk (but about trains n shit) ;)", "It depends on my mood.The weather is a good and easy one, but I like to make every conversation memorable and life-changing, so I would probably ask them what they know about something interesting, such as Building 7, Pantheism or Occultism. If they know things, have an interesting discussion about them. If they do not, ask them if they would like to hear about such things.\n\nRemember though silence is golden, if you are talking just for the sake of talking it is probably best to be thinking of something you really want to say or else exploring your own mind IMHO. " ]

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