Datasets:

---

mbkim

/

AdvisorQA

like 1

[ "What's the best way to productively spend your time whilst unemployed? Basically the title, make it as broad or specific as you like. ", "What's the best way to productively spend your time whilst unemployed? Basically the title, make it as broad or specific as you like. ", "What's the best way to productively spend your time whilst unemployed? Basically the title, make it as broad or specific as you like. ", "What's the best way to productively spend your time whilst unemployed? Basically the title, make it as broad or specific as you like. ", "What's the best way to productively spend your time whilst unemployed? Basically the title, make it as broad or specific as you like. " ]

[ "Barring any legal, medical, or familial reason behind your unemployment, your job while unemployed becomes \"find employment\". \n\nIn the early days, ALL your time should be spent working on your CV/resume and references. Once that's finished, between the hours of 9am and 6pm you should be applying, interviewing, and pursuing any leads you can find. If you don't have any, your time is best spent looking for new leads.\n\nOutside those hours, the best thing to do is to find a way to keep yourself engaged and motivated. Don't let yourself soak in doubt or self pity. Read a book, go for a walk/run/bike ride, pick up a productive hobby. Because if you let yourself get comfortable on that couch then you're going to have a hard time getting up again when you inevitably find work again. ", "Volunteer. Start a hobby or get more advanced with one you already do. Get fitter. Get in the habit of waking up by 8am and getting dressed, it'll make getting up for work easier as it'll already be part of your routine. Once you've got a job offer meal prep so you have food ready for when you get back from work.", "I mostly use the job boards for job-hunting and have been doing contract gigs testing software. \n\nNo I don't spend all day job hunting. The best thing I could be doing is learning some new skills but I'm not there yet. \n\nI'm required to document about 5 job applications per week to collect my unemployment insurance", "Eat right, get in shape. Maybe explore your sexuality, travel. Learn a foreign language, get hair extensions.\n\nThere's so many things to do!", "Not that I'm usually without job... But I work as a caterer so some weeks slower than others... \n\nConstantly be interviewing-even at jobs u don't give a shit about to get the practice and learn how to sell urself \n\nPushup situp pull up squats \n\nAnd I usually buy a new video game just to keep me in house. Next thing u know ur 100hrs into a game =100hrs not out spending cash" ]

[ 2, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "how to say no I had a long night at work & went to Chick Fila for breakfast. I bought myself 2 sandwiches: a sausage sandwich & a chicken sandwich. A homeless guy came by & asked me to buy him a sausage sandwich for his baby girl & I offered him mine. He thanklessly took it & continued walking around the Chick Fila asking others for various handouts (money & other food). He then walked outside to where cars were turning on to the main road after going to the drive-thru & continued asking. People readily gave him spare change & food. He obviously does not have a baby girl to feed.. & if she was a baby, then he shouldn't be feeding her a Chick Fila sandwich! I need help saying no to people like these. If he had asked for cash, I already have my line: I don't carry cash. But what if the 1 time I say no would be the time that somebody actually needed it? I feel like such an idiot. A half hungry idiot :(\n\nP.s. This is only one incidence where I couldn't say no to something that I obviously should've said no to. I take on extra responsibilities at work when people ask because I can't say no, although it is clearly part of their duties. All I can do is complain to myself because I can't say no!", "how to say no I had a long night at work & went to Chick Fila for breakfast. I bought myself 2 sandwiches: a sausage sandwich & a chicken sandwich. A homeless guy came by & asked me to buy him a sausage sandwich for his baby girl & I offered him mine. He thanklessly took it & continued walking around the Chick Fila asking others for various handouts (money & other food). He then walked outside to where cars were turning on to the main road after going to the drive-thru & continued asking. People readily gave him spare change & food. He obviously does not have a baby girl to feed.. & if she was a baby, then he shouldn't be feeding her a Chick Fila sandwich! I need help saying no to people like these. If he had asked for cash, I already have my line: I don't carry cash. But what if the 1 time I say no would be the time that somebody actually needed it? I feel like such an idiot. A half hungry idiot :(\n\nP.s. This is only one incidence where I couldn't say no to something that I obviously should've said no to. I take on extra responsibilities at work when people ask because I can't say no, although it is clearly part of their duties. All I can do is complain to myself because I can't say no!", "how to say no I had a long night at work & went to Chick Fila for breakfast. I bought myself 2 sandwiches: a sausage sandwich & a chicken sandwich. A homeless guy came by & asked me to buy him a sausage sandwich for his baby girl & I offered him mine. He thanklessly took it & continued walking around the Chick Fila asking others for various handouts (money & other food). He then walked outside to where cars were turning on to the main road after going to the drive-thru & continued asking. People readily gave him spare change & food. He obviously does not have a baby girl to feed.. & if she was a baby, then he shouldn't be feeding her a Chick Fila sandwich! I need help saying no to people like these. If he had asked for cash, I already have my line: I don't carry cash. But what if the 1 time I say no would be the time that somebody actually needed it? I feel like such an idiot. A half hungry idiot :(\n\nP.s. This is only one incidence where I couldn't say no to something that I obviously should've said no to. I take on extra responsibilities at work when people ask because I can't say no, although it is clearly part of their duties. All I can do is complain to myself because I can't say no!", "how to say no I had a long night at work & went to Chick Fila for breakfast. I bought myself 2 sandwiches: a sausage sandwich & a chicken sandwich. A homeless guy came by & asked me to buy him a sausage sandwich for his baby girl & I offered him mine. He thanklessly took it & continued walking around the Chick Fila asking others for various handouts (money & other food). He then walked outside to where cars were turning on to the main road after going to the drive-thru & continued asking. People readily gave him spare change & food. He obviously does not have a baby girl to feed.. & if she was a baby, then he shouldn't be feeding her a Chick Fila sandwich! I need help saying no to people like these. If he had asked for cash, I already have my line: I don't carry cash. But what if the 1 time I say no would be the time that somebody actually needed it? I feel like such an idiot. A half hungry idiot :(\n\nP.s. This is only one incidence where I couldn't say no to something that I obviously should've said no to. I take on extra responsibilities at work when people ask because I can't say no, although it is clearly part of their duties. All I can do is complain to myself because I can't say no!", "how to say no I had a long night at work & went to Chick Fila for breakfast. I bought myself 2 sandwiches: a sausage sandwich & a chicken sandwich. A homeless guy came by & asked me to buy him a sausage sandwich for his baby girl & I offered him mine. He thanklessly took it & continued walking around the Chick Fila asking others for various handouts (money & other food). He then walked outside to where cars were turning on to the main road after going to the drive-thru & continued asking. People readily gave him spare change & food. He obviously does not have a baby girl to feed.. & if she was a baby, then he shouldn't be feeding her a Chick Fila sandwich! I need help saying no to people like these. If he had asked for cash, I already have my line: I don't carry cash. But what if the 1 time I say no would be the time that somebody actually needed it? I feel like such an idiot. A half hungry idiot :(\n\nP.s. This is only one incidence where I couldn't say no to something that I obviously should've said no to. I take on extra responsibilities at work when people ask because I can't say no, although it is clearly part of their duties. All I can do is complain to myself because I can't say no!", "how to say no I had a long night at work & went to Chick Fila for breakfast. I bought myself 2 sandwiches: a sausage sandwich & a chicken sandwich. A homeless guy came by & asked me to buy him a sausage sandwich for his baby girl & I offered him mine. He thanklessly took it & continued walking around the Chick Fila asking others for various handouts (money & other food). He then walked outside to where cars were turning on to the main road after going to the drive-thru & continued asking. People readily gave him spare change & food. He obviously does not have a baby girl to feed.. & if she was a baby, then he shouldn't be feeding her a Chick Fila sandwich! I need help saying no to people like these. If he had asked for cash, I already have my line: I don't carry cash. But what if the 1 time I say no would be the time that somebody actually needed it? I feel like such an idiot. A half hungry idiot :(\n\nP.s. This is only one incidence where I couldn't say no to something that I obviously should've said no to. I take on extra responsibilities at work when people ask because I can't say no, although it is clearly part of their duties. All I can do is complain to myself because I can't say no!", "how to say no I had a long night at work & went to Chick Fila for breakfast. I bought myself 2 sandwiches: a sausage sandwich & a chicken sandwich. A homeless guy came by & asked me to buy him a sausage sandwich for his baby girl & I offered him mine. He thanklessly took it & continued walking around the Chick Fila asking others for various handouts (money & other food). He then walked outside to where cars were turning on to the main road after going to the drive-thru & continued asking. People readily gave him spare change & food. He obviously does not have a baby girl to feed.. & if she was a baby, then he shouldn't be feeding her a Chick Fila sandwich! I need help saying no to people like these. If he had asked for cash, I already have my line: I don't carry cash. But what if the 1 time I say no would be the time that somebody actually needed it? I feel like such an idiot. A half hungry idiot :(\n\nP.s. This is only one incidence where I couldn't say no to something that I obviously should've said no to. I take on extra responsibilities at work when people ask because I can't say no, although it is clearly part of their duties. All I can do is complain to myself because I can't say no!", "how to say no I had a long night at work & went to Chick Fila for breakfast. I bought myself 2 sandwiches: a sausage sandwich & a chicken sandwich. A homeless guy came by & asked me to buy him a sausage sandwich for his baby girl & I offered him mine. He thanklessly took it & continued walking around the Chick Fila asking others for various handouts (money & other food). He then walked outside to where cars were turning on to the main road after going to the drive-thru & continued asking. People readily gave him spare change & food. He obviously does not have a baby girl to feed.. & if she was a baby, then he shouldn't be feeding her a Chick Fila sandwich! I need help saying no to people like these. If he had asked for cash, I already have my line: I don't carry cash. But what if the 1 time I say no would be the time that somebody actually needed it? I feel like such an idiot. A half hungry idiot :(\n\nP.s. This is only one incidence where I couldn't say no to something that I obviously should've said no to. I take on extra responsibilities at work when people ask because I can't say no, although it is clearly part of their duties. All I can do is complain to myself because I can't say no!" ]

[ "More often than not they don't use the money to buy food. It's usually drugs or booze. So just keep that in the back of your head. Do you really want to be hungry today because you wanted to help someome get high or drunk? Remind yourself that you worked for that money and the guy asking for it didn't. My response is always that I only carry plastic. If they hear the change in my pocket then I'll just tell them I worked for my money maybe they could do the same. Be Stern and stand your ground. The only person who deserves your money is you. ", "I was just like you until one night in LA. My friend and I were going to the dollar store and saw a homeless sitting outside the store. So while we were picking up what we needed, I got some bread and he picked up water...basically the essentials for life. So when I was walking up to give him my food, I noticed he was on a cell phone, so I was like, screw this guy if he has money for a cell phone. Then my friend tried to give him water and he said he was fine, but did he have any money to give. After this, I was just like, screw these guys, I don't care if they are in dire straights, I'd rather never give any anything than get taken by a single one. ", "I sympathize with you. I often have situations where IE my Roomate will say \"hey can I have some of your coffee?\" and my immediate thought is *no* but rather than saying that i'll say something like \"oh, well I usually drink it all...\" And I end up losing a cup of coffee...", "When asked for money or to buy something (unless it's water or something) I just say I have nothing to spare. ", "If the next person is the real thing, then would saying \"no\" be the incorrect thing to do?\n\nAt times like that, I offer to take the person inside and buy them food. That usually separates the deadbeats from the genuinely needy.", "Honestly, I've never given money or food. If it's hot out and I have drinks in my car though, I always ask if they want a drink. Most people are thankful for it. ", "you touch your tongue to the up-front side of your palate, then make your lips circular, exhale throughout the process ", "I personally struggled with saying no because of some anxieties stemming from PTSD. Not saying you have the exact same problem, but do you have any kind of general anxiety saying no? It might sound oversimplified but sometimes if you know your own reasons you can figure out what to do.\n\nWorried about the person really needing the money? Either ask if they can tell you more, or work from the assumption all homeless people need food and do that instead. I think on this case giving your sandwich was a good call to be honest.\n\nWorried your coworkers won't like you if you don't take their shift? White lies are ok, not to count on forever, but to get you started so you feel you have a legitimate out." ]

[ 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0 ]

[ "How to reply to someone when they compliment you(your computer skills) saying I wish I could do that with computers People in their mid 40's often tell me \"Wow I wish I could do that\". Even during interviews they say stuff like \"You guys are so lucky that you get to learn so and so technology, wish we could do that\". \n\nI never really have a good response to give to them.\n\nI know its really specific, but its happens to me so often(not that I am really good at it.)", "How to reply to someone when they compliment you(your computer skills) saying I wish I could do that with computers People in their mid 40's often tell me \"Wow I wish I could do that\". Even during interviews they say stuff like \"You guys are so lucky that you get to learn so and so technology, wish we could do that\". \n\nI never really have a good response to give to them.\n\nI know its really specific, but its happens to me so often(not that I am really good at it.)", "How to reply to someone when they compliment you(your computer skills) saying I wish I could do that with computers People in their mid 40's often tell me \"Wow I wish I could do that\". Even during interviews they say stuff like \"You guys are so lucky that you get to learn so and so technology, wish we could do that\". \n\nI never really have a good response to give to them.\n\nI know its really specific, but its happens to me so often(not that I am really good at it.)" ]

[ "[\"It's all in ze wrists\"](https://youtu.be/6OTzDJAgEU4)\n\nJust say *\"Thank you, I often feel honored to have the opportunity to ride this wave and it's always a rewarding challenge to stay on top of it.\"*\n\nOr try this one\n\n*Just remember what old Jack Burton does when the earth quakes, and the poison arrows fall from the sky, and the pillars of Heaven shake. Yeah, Jack Burton just looks that big old storm right square in the eye and he says, \"Give me your best shot, pal. I can take it.\"*\n", "I usually compliment them back with a skill they're good at. \n\nFor example, a friend who's in college to be an RN says this a lot to me, and I have 0 medical skills, so I'll say something like \"true, but I would never be able to do the stuff you do. I think what you do is awesome!\" It usually helps divert the conversation to a less awkward topic", "After training a decent amount of people on a software the biggest thing that causes them to not be as good at computers is that they are scared to click on things because they don't want to break anything. I always tell them just don't be scared to click, just remember what you did click (even write it down if you don't feel comfortable remembering) and the more they do that the more comfortable they get. \n\nMaybe offer to help them learn some stuff it's amazing how much they can learn with 20-30 minutes of guided assistance and you being open to follow up questions whenever." ]

[ 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to not be crazy about not being in a relationhsip. I believe that this question is very adequate for a discussion, because society and the media has made in such a need to be in a relationship and some of the people who are not in one get really worried about their future and that influence them in such a way that can compromisse their personal lives. Do you guys care to elaborate on that issue? Thanks!", "How to not be crazy about not being in a relationhsip. I believe that this question is very adequate for a discussion, because society and the media has made in such a need to be in a relationship and some of the people who are not in one get really worried about their future and that influence them in such a way that can compromisse their personal lives. Do you guys care to elaborate on that issue? Thanks!", "How to not be crazy about not being in a relationhsip. I believe that this question is very adequate for a discussion, because society and the media has made in such a need to be in a relationship and some of the people who are not in one get really worried about their future and that influence them in such a way that can compromisse their personal lives. Do you guys care to elaborate on that issue? Thanks!", "How to not be crazy about not being in a relationhsip. I believe that this question is very adequate for a discussion, because society and the media has made in such a need to be in a relationship and some of the people who are not in one get really worried about their future and that influence them in such a way that can compromisse their personal lives. Do you guys care to elaborate on that issue? Thanks!" ]

[ "The answer is simple. \nIf you are not comfortable with yourself while you are alone, you won't be comfortable with yourself in a relationship. Relationships are not for the other person to fix you.", "Be happy and comfortable with yourself. Also, ignore what society dictates what you want in life, and mindfully decide that for yourself. Have passions, have good friends around, and constantly strive to improve just because you can. It makes you a better person. It makes everything more entertaining and interesting. You will be with yourself more than anyone else. Things happen. People leave and die. I better be one heck of a person to spend the rest of my life with.\n\nA partner is meant to complement you, not to fulfill you. Love is nice, I won't deny that. I have a very strong, long-term monogamous relationship, but it doesn't define me. Many people think I'm cold when I say this, but my relationship could end tomorrow, and I'll be fine. It'll suck initially, but I don't *need* a partner. The universe didn't decide to bind us together or some BS like that. This wasn't destiny. I choose to be in this every day, and so does my SO. If one day, either one of us chooses to not be in this, that's fine. You can't blame someone or yourself if desires change. The experience was fun. I'll do my thing. He'll do his. If something else comes along, cool. If not, that's cool too.", "I like this thought exercise...\n\nPretend you're 90 sitting in a rocking chair on a beautiful veranda, thinking back on your amazing life. What will you want to say you did? What would be your proudest, happiest moments? Write a short statement about what matters to you (beyond a relationship) and focus on that. \n\nLater in life you'll be so glad that you took this time on your own to focus on stuff that really mattered to you. ", "I would just remind yourself that if you want the relationship to last, you're going to have to wait for the right guy/girl. Just flying into romance with people never works, and it's disrespectful to both you and them. \n\nAlso, don't be hard on yourself. I used to want a relationship really badly as a teenager, and when I realized that my desire was very normal and even healthy I was able to let go if it a little bit. You're not weird for wanting what you do! We're meant to be with people and to eventually start families. \n\nAlso, trust me, it'll happen; I thought I wouldn't find my special someone until I was way old. Turns out I got married at twenty, and now I'm pregnant with our first child." ]

[ 23, 6, 4, 1 ]

[ "How do you bring up an issue with someone who immediately will try to turn it on you and blame you for the whole thing? ", "How do you bring up an issue with someone who immediately will try to turn it on you and blame you for the whole thing? ", "How do you bring up an issue with someone who immediately will try to turn it on you and blame you for the whole thing? ", "How do you bring up an issue with someone who immediately will try to turn it on you and blame you for the whole thing? ", "How do you bring up an issue with someone who immediately will try to turn it on you and blame you for the whole thing? ", "How do you bring up an issue with someone who immediately will try to turn it on you and blame you for the whole thing? " ]

[ "This varies depending on subject matter and the relationship. If you don't want to provide any more detail I can give some general tips.\n\n1. Don't bring it up in the heat of the moment. Nor when you want to... Bring it up when you think they will be most receptive and when they are in a good mood.\n\n2. Don't discuss what you think they will think or how you think they will act. Stick to the concern.\n\n3. Avoid blame and frame it as needing help with a concern if the issue lends itself to it.\n\n4. Back down if it is going to get ugly and try again in a few days or weeks when the time is right.\n\n5. Stay calm! Don't mirror bad energy. Seek to diffuse it.", "Tell the person \"I have something to say say. When I'm done, you can respond.\"\n\nThen say what you have to say, and listen. Once the other person is done, walk away.\n\nWhen people turn it back on you, they're trying to gain the upper hand by minimizing you. They can only minimize you if you stick around and sling mud back and forth.\n\nIf you let them have their say, they can't say you shut them down and you're a bad person for doing so.\n\nAfterwards, when you walk away, you take away their power to talk shit and hurt you.\n\nPersonally, I like to give them a bored look and grunt \"Uh-huh\" as I walk away. It let's me have the last word while letting them know that I'm not buying any of their bull squirt. ", "When you know that you have to argue with someone, prepare yourself, it might seems stupid but arguing it's not so different that fighting, would you go unprepared to a fight? If you know your \"enemy\" you should study for weak points, search for phrases, arguments which might be significative to him, you know he/she will blame you? Prepare for what he might says, study for a response, you could search a way to blame him too, maybe some past events, suppose you find an event (which makes you look like you're right) correlated with the argue, use it, you know that this person gets angry easily? take advantage of his anger (bad things he might says) in your favor, do not show yourself weak in front of him, keep your position, argue your speech, and remeber that you have not to be offensive, people don't convince other people with badwords.", "Saying “this isn’t about [blank] right now, this is about [blank]. We can discuss (what they’re saying) after if you’d like but I want to address this first” \n\n", "You need to learn how to debate. Write down a list of pros and cons of the issue you have. Organize that list in talking points to the favor of yourself. Having a moderator may help. Do not use any profanity. Smile when listening. Never back down. Insult their intelligence by defining words and statements. Never walk away or step backwards. Do not raise voice. Laugh when they cry.", "Consider sending an email if you think the defensiveness of said person is a major issue so that their fight/flight nervous system is not triggered the way it might be in a face to face confrontation. They then have the opportunity to react without all the triggers that lead to more confrontation and possibly go back to your message after they've cooled down to reflect on it. The down side is that nuance is often lost in text, but you can mention that you'd be happy to discuss it in person as well." ]

[ 9, 4, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to prevent/nullify minty mouth after brushing in the morning? Whenever I brush my teeth in morning, sometimes the minty/clean feeling afterwards makes certain foods taste weird (orange juice, am I right?). I'm wondering if there's a certain type of toothpaste or mouthwash that would stop that from happening so I don't have to skip breakfast sometimes.\n\nThanks.", "How to prevent/nullify minty mouth after brushing in the morning? Whenever I brush my teeth in morning, sometimes the minty/clean feeling afterwards makes certain foods taste weird (orange juice, am I right?). I'm wondering if there's a certain type of toothpaste or mouthwash that would stop that from happening so I don't have to skip breakfast sometimes.\n\nThanks.", "How to prevent/nullify minty mouth after brushing in the morning? Whenever I brush my teeth in morning, sometimes the minty/clean feeling afterwards makes certain foods taste weird (orange juice, am I right?). I'm wondering if there's a certain type of toothpaste or mouthwash that would stop that from happening so I don't have to skip breakfast sometimes.\n\nThanks." ]

[ "Just get a tooth paste without sodium lauryl sulphate (SLS) in it. \n\nSLS is used to make toothpaste foamy but also destroys fats that block your bitter taste buds. SLS hides the sweetness of orange juice and makes it taste bitterer. That's why it tastes horrible after brushing your teeth.", "I was told that eating within 15 minutes of brushing does a lot of harm to your teeth, something about them needing time to reform a protective coating of something.... ", "Whenever I switched to a charcoal Toothpaste it made my teeth feel the cleanest and I could eat anything right after and not notice any kind of bad taste, even on the first bite. " ]

[ 3, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to download a full website to computer? There's a forum website that has a lot of priceless information on it but I'd like to have it all stored on my computer - just in case the website ever closes or I want to read offline.\n\nIs there any way to download a complete website? (Forums in particular)", "How to download a full website to computer? There's a forum website that has a lot of priceless information on it but I'd like to have it all stored on my computer - just in case the website ever closes or I want to read offline.\n\nIs there any way to download a complete website? (Forums in particular)" ]

[ "It really depends on the website. If the website is dynamically generated, you can't really download the website because you can't directly access the back-end stuff that makes the website actually work.\n\nBut the biggest thing about downloading an entire forum... that's a significant load on the server, and the admins probably will shut you down before you're finished. If possible, ask the admins if there's a copy of the forum data you can FTP. They may do it for you.\n\nIf not...\n\nhttp://www.blackhatworld.com/blackhat-seo/blackhat-lounge/168829-any-idea-how-download-whole-forum-offline-browsing.html\n\n(keep in mind that \"black hat\" is a term for illicit hacking, so buyer beware, you may get viruses or trojans downloading the programs recommended)", "Google the phrases \"web spider\" or \"web crawler.\" These will visit a page, download it, and follow every link on the page and download each of them, rinse and repeat while ignoring already downloaded pages and off-site links." ]

[ 1, 1 ]

[ "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?", "How to always stay in good mood? I was always amazed by the ability of some people to stay positive no matter what. They are always happy, and if they're around you, you're happy too. They always laugh even in the tough situations.\n\nWhen it comes to me, I always emotionless and silent. Even with the closest friends I barely talk and even if I'm in a good mood inside, I can't show it from the outside. I can be in a really good mood and laugh loudly when I'm completely alone, but I can't feel the same when I'm around people. \nPeople always ask if something happened to me or am I sick, and I'm tired of answering that I always like that. Friends already used to my behavior and don't notice it, but I want to hang out with new people and faking my emotions looks too obvious. \n\nHow do you people stay happy?" ]

[ "As someone who is generally cheery around others, I can assure you that it's not necessarily about maintaining a good mood. And I think anybody that tells you they're never in a bad mood is being dishonest. It sounds to me that you're maybe a bit introverted, or just have a difficult time expressing yourself. There isn't anything wrong with this at all. \n\nI'm a nurse, so a lot of my job involves engaging in conversations and maintaining a decent mood with patients. That skill develops over time. Just like exercise, or cooking, or...anything. The more you do it, the more comfortable you get. \n\nChallenge yourself. Listen intently to conversation. Open up and say what's on your mind. Laugh at jokes, and try to get somebody to laugh at yours. Try to really connect with people. Don't overthink it. Step outside of your comfort zone, but stay genuine. \n\nA lot of that is easier said than done. But it'll come with time and practice. ", "What works for me, is anytime I'm frustrated or stressed I remind myself \"You're not saving babies\" ... people blow the stupidest shit out of proportion. Familiar with Harry Potter? Think of your happiest memory, remember how awesome that felt, everytime you're about to lose it or feel down, remember how good it feels to be happy, cast that patrounous. ", "Pretend that you've already killed yourself and that every single moment and day is just another scenario of what could have been. You'll let go of things that don't matter, which is nearly everything.\n\nYou won't answer calls or texts you don't feel like answering, you'll call in sick just to sleep, you'll get bored of fucking off and go to work and enjoy the small things. You'll talk to that girl even though you'll fail because it doesn't matter, and you'll have great conversations with everyone around you and then leave. Not expecting anything else.\n\nWhen every day is your last and there are no long term consequences you'll learn who you really are and what you want.\n", "Say \"screw this\" to yourself and take that step that's holding you back from interacting with people. Instead of focusing on meeting lot of people at once, try getting to know few people. Maybe a couple or even a person. It maybe the quietest person in the class or in your work place. \n\nIf you have a circle, then get close to one of them whom you resonate personally with. This would pave way for a good friendship as well as more relationships. ", "First, being happy all the time is abnormal. If your family gets brutally murdered do you stay positive? Hope not. Do recognize that while it is good to be positive, you don't need to be positive all the time\n\nSecond, what you described can be achieved by learning to look for the silver lining in every cloud. If you fall sick think of it as a small break from work. That sort of thing", "Are you serious? Do honestly believe someone on reddit is going to give you some magical advice to make you be in a good mood all the time? There are millions of people around world who have spent countless hours studying and trying all kinds of drugs, and therapies trying to figure out how to feel good more often.\n\n\nThat being said... on to some advice. First of all, you are really underestimating how phony most of the cheerfulness you see is. Those people who tell you to \"smile\" and \"you look sick!\" are often the worst offenders and the biggest hypocrites. They think \"I have to fake being cheerful all the time so you have to do it too!\" Pretending to be cheerful is a way of life, especially in america. People from europe come here and think we are maniacs with all the smiling and the \"have a nice day\" stuff.\n\nYou need to recalibrate your expectations for how a normal person feels. Go easy on yourself. \n\nBut chances are your problem is rooted in some physical problem. Imbalanced thyroid, vitamin/mineral deficiency. Exercising and eating leafy greens more, and cutting out junk food and sugar usually improves anyones mental and physical health.\n\n\nLastly, but just as important, remember that it's okay to be in a bad mood occasionally. The wisest, most mature and admirable people I see are NOT the ones who act cheerful all the times, but the ones who express their upset in a productive, genuine manner and then move on. Sometimes being mad or sad can be fun, show compassion for yourself and let yourself just BE, feel your feelings.", "Smile your brain will think you are in a good mood and u will be happy. Google for more infos.i am running out of time sry", "Life makes your request impossible sir. . The truth, if that's' what you are after, is not always going to make you happy, and there will be anger, sadness , and pain. These are not your enemy ... they will make you a whole person and you will have no choice but to accept them ,and if you face the negative emotions in life with honesty and know that they are there for a reason... because of this you will learn how better to be happier. \n\nI truly wish you the best facing reality as it is, not hoping for some utopian feel good world that will never exist. \n\n", "Is there a problem?\n \nNo, then I'm good to go.\n\nYes, then can I fix it?\n\nNo, then I don't worry about it and I'm good to go.\n\nYes, then I fix it and I'm good to go.\n\nSimple...", "To me it sounds like you don't have much faith/credence in your own emotional state. You say you are happy but when others are around you withdraw for some reason that you may not even be aware of. Take some time to reflect on it. Be aware in the moment about everything you are feeling and thinking if you want to begin to understand. Next time you are alone with one or two trusted friends I suggest you straight up ask them \"Is it ok for me to show emotions around you? If I act crazy (what you think is crazy they probably think is normal, within reason) will you still be there?\"\n\nFyi, no one is happy all the time. It's been said in various forms but the gist is you don't get the highs without the lows.Think of emotions like a waterfall if you stop one it still builds up and eventually you've stopped the flow completely and that's a dam shame. Pun intended :p\n\nButter was a smart kid: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dUE_Lr5IhvU\n\nalso, if you haven't seen the movie Hector and the search for happiness I highly recommend it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWFVAIbIkS4\n\none of my favorites. ", "This simple answer is this: m", "The few people I've known who are like this, have all overcome enormous obstacles that allow them the perspective to realise most of life isn't worth worrying about. If you can't establish that for yourself, at least try to surround yourself with people who are positive, their perspective can often become your own at key moments", "The \"Philosophize This!\" podcast has a couple of good episodes on moodiness. They mention a few specific techniques for managing it, but don't go very in depth into any of them. It's more about general attitudes and approaches, so consider it a good starting point for further investigation.\n\nhttps://youtu.be/G8eFsJxHeJU\n\nhttps://youtu.be/4rWdlRBkG3A", "Practice smiling! I was a waiter as a student and my boss always said \"treat front of house like its a stage\". I might be having the longest worst day ever but the moment I went through the doors to the restaurant I sucked in my cheeks and started to smile. It made the guests happier and even after a 13hr shift I still went home happy.\n\nI'm way beyond a waiter now but I still keep smiling like I'm on a stage. Make your resting face a smile that's a nudge above Mona Lisa's. ", "I'm def have the same questions and it is a daily battle. I try to just smile. If I am standing in line for coffee or in a waiting room. I think of something goofy like a dumb childhood show or just challenge myself. No it does not legitimately make me happy but sometimes the appearance is reflected back, and that will uplift your mood. I am not an introvert but this is a struggle.", "I look and sound positive and laugh a lot because if I don't, the urge to just walk in front a train creeps back in. ", "Gratitude is everything! The happiest people are grateful people. Retaining my thoughts helped me a lot too- now when I'm feeling a bit negative or unhappy, instead of thinking \"this sucks,\" I say \"ok this is a little annoying but it'll be over soon\" or something along those lines-- I learned a LOT from \"The Secret\" film on Netflix. It's cheesily ", "Giving off the sign of being in a good mood, and actually being in a good mood, are two different things. As someone who struggled with depression for almost two years, I slowly learn how to disguise it so people would stop asking me what was wrong all the time. Looking back, while that was a bad idea, it did give me insight. Generally, just observe yourself when you're in a good mood. And try to emulate that, don't overdo it, just let it flow. Amusingly, there may be times by doing so, it could potentially improve your mood outright.", "Basically it boils down to the basics: \n\n- Be attractive.\n- Work no more than 20 hrs a week.\n- Spend all your free time cooking, exercising, living.\n- Get bitches.\n- Don't be unattractive.\n- Don't be poor.\n- Don't spend all your time working some job you hate.\n- Don't be what the system requires 95% of the population to be... Worker bees, hollow husks of what used to be people with dreams and aspirations." ]

[ 37, 11, 7, 6, 5, 5, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "Finding car keys. I lost my car keys. I called every store I've been in since losing them (yesterday) and looked everywhere I can think of but didn't find anything. Is there something I'm overlooking?", "Finding car keys. I lost my car keys. I called every store I've been in since losing them (yesterday) and looked everywhere I can think of but didn't find anything. Is there something I'm overlooking?", "Finding car keys. I lost my car keys. I called every store I've been in since losing them (yesterday) and looked everywhere I can think of but didn't find anything. Is there something I'm overlooking?", "Finding car keys. I lost my car keys. I called every store I've been in since losing them (yesterday) and looked everywhere I can think of but didn't find anything. Is there something I'm overlooking?", "Finding car keys. I lost my car keys. I called every store I've been in since losing them (yesterday) and looked everywhere I can think of but didn't find anything. Is there something I'm overlooking?" ]

[ "Look in the same three places over and over again growing more frustrated each time.\n\nEventually realize they fell out of your pants and are in the bottom of the laundry hamper.", "It's a bit late for this, but when you do find them, keep everything that might be lost easily (keys, sellotape, batteries, etc) in the same place. It will take a while, but eventually your brain will recognise that place as 'the place easy to lose things are'. The hypocampus is wired to 'learn' these things ( add stuff about biology I'm too drunk for). So that way you hopefully won't lose them again.", "Check the keyhole of your house apartment... Sometimes people leave them stuck in the lock when they come in.", "Almost certainly. The thing to do is just accept the fact that keys will be lost at some point, and plan accordingly so that when you do lose the keys it's not a disaster. Check all the vehicle nooks and crannies. Also check by your bed", "I'm sure you've already done this, but retrace EVERY step you took: the floor of your vehicle, the narrow space on the floor between the door and the seat, the ground outside the car, your walkway, in your mailbox, in your front door, under a pile of mail, the bathroom, in the pockets of the pants/jacket you were wearing, etc, etc Then think of something that might have interrupted your normal routine - did the phone ring? check there, did you have to unpack groceries - check the space between the fridge and the counter....I could go on and on....Once you've done this, m" ]

[ 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "Advice for people who are about to drop everything and move to another country? What kinds of things should be in order before you go? I'm moving to Spain in two months and have no clue where to start preparing. I'm working as an au pair, so I have a place to live. ", "Advice for people who are about to drop everything and move to another country? What kinds of things should be in order before you go? I'm moving to Spain in two months and have no clue where to start preparing. I'm working as an au pair, so I have a place to live. ", "Advice for people who are about to drop everything and move to another country? What kinds of things should be in order before you go? I'm moving to Spain in two months and have no clue where to start preparing. I'm working as an au pair, so I have a place to live. ", "Advice for people who are about to drop everything and move to another country? What kinds of things should be in order before you go? I'm moving to Spain in two months and have no clue where to start preparing. I'm working as an au pair, so I have a place to live. ", "Advice for people who are about to drop everything and move to another country? What kinds of things should be in order before you go? I'm moving to Spain in two months and have no clue where to start preparing. I'm working as an au pair, so I have a place to live. ", "Advice for people who are about to drop everything and move to another country? What kinds of things should be in order before you go? I'm moving to Spain in two months and have no clue where to start preparing. I'm working as an au pair, so I have a place to live. ", "Advice for people who are about to drop everything and move to another country? What kinds of things should be in order before you go? I'm moving to Spain in two months and have no clue where to start preparing. I'm working as an au pair, so I have a place to live. " ]

[ "Oh boy. So I had things relatively simple because I was moving in with family. What I did was obtain copies of my medical records, all vital documents, and educational records and I put them in a portfolio folder (with the plastic sleeves). I checked and re-checked and checked about 457 more times that my residency basis (didn't need a visa) was all legitimate and correct, I checked the status of health care and if I wouldn't immediately be able to get on the country's socialised system, what options I had (travel insurance, accepting the fees, private insurance), and I checked that my driver's license would be valid. I took checks, as well as left a stack of checks with my dad so that he could deposit money in my account if for whatever reason I needed that because where I live now, I can't get a new bank account in my new country until I get a social security number which was almost a year away from when I initially moved. Make sure you tell your bank you'll be living abroad, usually they'll lift a security restriction for 1 year. Call them again when that's getting close and have them extend it if you're staying longer. I selected an airline that allowed two checked bags instead of the usual 1 (shout out to Iceland Air for being 5/5 every time) and I carefully packed my life away into 46kg + carry on + made super use of my carrying bag that you're allowed to tuck under the seat. I kept all my heaviest things in my carry ons since I've never ever seen or had a carry on get weighed. \n\nI also opted to make sure that my closest family members switched to iPhones. I know android/windows fans will roll their eyes at this, but for international families, the convenience of facetime & imessage was too good to pass up. Also look into phone plans and make sure your phone is unlocked for international sim cards before you go, or plan to get a new phone/argue with your phone company for hours through skype.", "Pack your bag, make sure you have a passport and move? Just kidding, mainly I'm just chiming into say I've lived in Europe a few times and never was as organized as Miemsa (kudos by the way). Luckily I never needed anything but a debit card, passport, connections and luggage and a healthy love for going with the flow. Have fun!", "Your favorite shampoo, body wash, and other favorite brands. You probably won't be able to find them in a different country. (If you DO find the brand, it probably won't be the same scent or \"flavor.\")\n\nSince I'm ethnic and have long-thick-curly hair, bringing hair products was essential. I knew they wouldn't have the natural hair products I like to use. Taming my frizzy hair is a must!", "Number 1, make sure that the bag you take with you will get you through the first week if nothing else arrives.", "Be prepared for culture shock... Life will be fun and exciting for the first few weeks but after a while reality might set in - you're far from home, everything is different, why do the Spanish close all their shops in the middle of the day, why is a bank account so hard to get etc etc. This is normal. Embrace the change. Take some home comforts with you for these moments but also make sure you get out and meet people at these times (it can also help at these times to hang out with people in a similar situation to you eg other au pairs, but don't rely too heavily on them if you're there to learn the language) \n\nI'd also recommend researching your home bank options before you leave - are there any that will allow free cash withdrawals/transactions/transfers abroad? That way you can have access to your home money easily (and people can easily send you money if needed) \n\nAnother tip - if you're taking electronics (hair dryer, lap top, phone....) buy a multi socket thing with your plug type - you can plug them all into that and you'll only need one adaptor", "1: Try and be as social as possible and make friends/learn the language.\n\n2: Try researching for jobs that you can apply online for before you move.\n\n3: Look up food/drinks you like where you live now and see if you can get them there as it helps you adjust to being in a different place.\n\n\nNot much else I can say besides that, I recently moved to Oslo - Norway from Germany in August and i'm still personally struggling with everything but those few things are the only things that have been helping me adjust.", "- Health insurance\n- International driver's license\n- Passport is up to date \n- Check with the government about taxes and what your obligations/freedoms are in relation to the destination country. Some countries have tax treaties so the tax you pay there covers you back home, or once you're gone X number of months you're considered a \"non-resident\" for tax purposes so you are again off the hook. Check this and know your situation.\n- Identify things like your home drivers license that may expire during your time abroad and inquire about how to renew while abroad.\n- Register with your government/embassy upon arrival so they know where you are in case of disaster. During the earthquake/tsunami of 2011 in Japan my government contacted me the next day to see if I was okay because I had registered.\n- Identify things you cannot possibly live without (particular supplements, vitamins, special foods)\n- Identify grooming items/products you will need to stock up on\n\nHere is an easy exercise - go through about 2 weeks of daily living in your mind and identify all the routine things which you'll have to do in your origin country, this will help you identify potential problem areas. \n\nSource: lived abroad for 7 years\n" ]

[ 6, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to study and apply for jobs at the same time? I'm new to the field I'm pursuing masters in and I've a prior experience in a different domain. I am enrolled in university for Masters, unable to keep up with studies, assignments and job applications. Any tips/ recommendations on how to work about this?", "How to study and apply for jobs at the same time? I'm new to the field I'm pursuing masters in and I've a prior experience in a different domain. I am enrolled in university for Masters, unable to keep up with studies, assignments and job applications. Any tips/ recommendations on how to work about this?" ]

[ "It took me a minute, I *think* I understand what you are asking. Just wanted to clarify: You are wondering how to juggle school work and job hunting at the same time, yes?", "Is the issue that you don’t seem to have enough hours in the day, or that your applications are getting rejected? Either way, these things can be remedied with a little perspective. \n\nWhen you’re new to a field, especially in this day and age, its not exactly personal when jobs pass over you. You could be doing everything right, and probably are, but finding the right opportunity where someone’s willing to take a chance on you takes consistent, sustainable observation of job openings over a long period of time. Quantity over quality. What’s really important is that you don’t burn yourself out by thinking your effort is always proportional to your results. Focus on your studies— because that expertise and networking is what will help you most in the long run— and get in the habit of streamlining your applications so they involve as little effort as possible, while still highlighting what you want to highlight. If your resume has good bones, you’ll only have to make the occasional adjustment for pizzaz. \n\nOne day, it’ll be like your career just walked up to you. Be patient with yourself :-)" ]

[ 2, 2 ]

[ "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?", "Escape from a stuck elevator I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason. But I couldn't find anything regarding this claim on Google. Does anyone know if the doors can be opened or any other way to escape an elevator when stuck?" ]

[ "IAMA Elevator mechanic, this is my chance reddit!\n", "I can tell you that the door in the top of an elevator isn't like it is in the movies. It's for rescuers to get in, not for you to get out. Use the emergency phone then stay calm and wait for them to come. ", "I sat on a jury where a building owner was being sued by the family of a young man who found himself on a stuck elevator. He managed to pry the doors open and saw that he was halfway between floors. He apparently jumped up to the floor, miscalculated and fell ten stories. He broke his back and was severely brain damaged. \n\nDon't do it. No hour or two hours or however long it takes help to arrive is worth your life.", "You usually can open the doors by main force, but it's ridiculously dangerous to try to crawl out. If the elevator shifts at all while you're trying to exit, you could easily get pinned or lose a limb or just get chopped in half. Unless you're in serious danger, don't risk it. ", "Press the \"Call\" button. This does two things: activates a microphone/camera in the elevator car so that the building operators may see/record your reaction when 2. The trap-door floor opens up, plunging you to your doom.", "I use to manage a small town restaurant in an old 3 story building. The town had a problem of drug addicted kids, so we kind of had to keep an eye on the building for fear of vandalism and robbery. One night I was exp", "Elevators require a special key to open the doors from the outside...your essentialy locked in if the lift stops between floors or doesn't open in the majority of cases. It can be manualy lowered/risen from the lift motor room.\n\nSource - Hospital Maintenance Engineer", "Slightly off topic, ever consider how weird elevators really are for most people? I know they're great for persons with disabilities, or on tall buildings. But what makes people think to themselves \"In order to save a bit of time and energy going up a few floors, I am going to voluntarily lock myself in a small box with strangers, with a non-zero chance that I will end up trapped inside for an indeterminate amount of time\". ", "My father was an elevator repairman.\n\nI tell you what, it's about a million times easier from the outside. There is a little hole in the upper right hand side that is actually a keyhole for a very insecure lock.\n\nThe keys look like this\n\nhttp://www.firemarktools.com/www/New%20Photos%200408/072508%20Elevator%20Keys.jpg\n\nYou can easily improvise one with a coat hanger. It's just a thing that goes in and flops down to turn a switch in there. The reason for this is so curious people can't screw around in the elevator shaft.\n\n\n\nMy real advice is DON'T SCREW WITH THE DOORS. Basically you don't know where you are in a stuck elevator. You might not be in the position to get at the lock mechanism on the door to the building, and what you've done in pushing open the inner doors is made the elevator completely inoperable. \n\nRemember how robocop had those 3 prime directives and he couldn't violate them? Elevators only have 1. Don't do anything if the doors are opened.\n\nIf it's during business hours, your best bet really is to sit tight. They will make an emergency call. A guy will be there soon. If it's something very simple like a fuse burned out, or a breaker tripped, relay burnt out etc. the technician can just replace it, but you've gone and fucked with the doors, now haven't you? \n\nYou may not be able to get them closed to the elevator's satisfaction, and it WILL NOT DO ANYTHING if the doors are open. \n\nNow someone has to crawl down through the hatch to undo your foolishness, and retirement age is 65 and people start their careers in construction and move on to maintenance.\n\nSo there is a reasonable chance your repairman (who is union everywhere but NYC) will be an overweight man nearing late adulthood. He's not going to jump down that hatch like James Bond to rescue you.\n\nHe's going to call it in. Who knows who they are going to send? They might have a young guy who is willing to go out on someone else's route and jump down for him, but probably not. Everyone's probably going to be thinking \"fuck that dummy who screwed with the doors\" so you're going to be waiting for the fire department.\n\nWhich is fine if you're in a small town, but in the city you are going to have to wait, because you're not an emergency. It's not life limb or eyesight\n\n\n\nNow if it's after hours you may be in for a really long wait anyway because a guy might have to drive out from his home in the suburbs, so you might be stuck in there for an hour. Still unless you know what you're doing, don't just start screwing around with stuff, you're just as likely to make things worse as you are to free yourself. \n\nLet's put it this way, when Hillary Clinton was stuck in the elevator at the white house, she, and the secret service, waited. One of my father's associates met her. That's a good indicator you should probably stay put too. ", "Keep calm and bring a book. \n\nDon't be a hero and try to scale the elevator shaft ala Die Hard. It won't work and you'll just end up getting more hurt than if you stay where you are.\n\nYour elevator's stopped, you won't fall to your death.", "Former firefighter (\"heavy rescue technician\") who has responded to a lot of trapped elevators. \n\n> I was told most elevators' doors can be opened with some force when it is stuck in due to a power failure or some other reason.\n\nThis is patently false. \n\nYour best bet is to just sit tight. Use the phone in the elevator or your cellphone (if you have reception) to contact emergency services. It's generally pretty easy to get people out of a trapped elevator, but it's a technical process that requires the right tools and access to particular mechanisms in the elevator door mechanism. Forcing the door is a last resort option, and requires serious hydraulics to accomplish. I've never seen this attempted because generally the only tools required are the appropriate [drop key](http://www.acfdopstraining.com/elevator-keys/) for the exterior door and maybe a ladder if the elevator is between floors. \n\n**tl;dr:** This isn't an \"escape\" situation, it's a \"shelter-in-place\" situation. Help is on the way. If it's not, I guess try to go through the ceiling port of the elevator. There will be a service ladder in the elevator shaft, but getting out of the shaft will probably not be easy. ", "From reading these posts, the way modern elevators are set up specifically to trap you out of fear of vandals is idiotic and dangerous. I don't care how much you want to argue how dangerous escaping from an elevator is, you can't always rely on other people for help and there's always gonna be some case where you have to get out yourself, therefore you should be able to. I'd rather be killed trying to escape an elevator than from being trapped inside one because of douchebags screaming DON'T BE A HERO when some serious shit is going down. ", "Call the fire department. \n\nWhile definitely possible, trying to get out by yourself carries with it a non-zero chance of dying by bisection.", "LPT-- program the actual phone numbers for city police and fire departments into your cell phone. I have the Sheriff emergency number and non-emergency number, and the direct dial number for two local cities where I shop and visit a lot.\n\nUsually, when you dial 911 from a cell phone, it goes to Highway Patrol, or some central switchboard if there are multiple jurisdictions. ", "If you're stuck for more than a minute or two, push the alarm bell or emergency phone and wait for help to arrive. Make sure no one bumped the in-car stop switch or something simple. Don't panic, don't fuck around trying to break your way out of an elevator. You can't climb out into the hatch, because people got themselves killed doing that and now we make it impossible for others to do the same. Odds are there are restrictors on the car doors too, and if so they can only be manually opened from the outside of the elevator. Your best bet is to wait for help, be it elevator maintenance or emergency personnel. Even police and fire have been killed trying to remove trapped passengers; hoistways are a dark, dangerous place for someone who doesn't know their surroundings. Someone is always on call, if people are ever stuck for more than an hour I'd be astounded. \n\n", "I'm hoping that you posted this whilst stuck. \n\n\"Hour 3, no response from Authorities. Reddit is now my only hope.\"", "As kids we used to pull them open with our fingers. I don't know if you can still do this. But we'd just wedge our fingers in there and pull.\n\nThis doesn't get you out though. It just gets you a view of the concrete ", "Yes, they can. I once had a very hard time doing it, though. After about ten minutes I pressed the door open button and the doors opened. So, pro tip: even if the elevator stops and the lights dimm, the button might still work. ", "There should be a phone in either a panel under the floor buttons or on the other side. Panel might not be marked. Pick up the phone and it should ring someone who can help", "The elevator in my building gets stuck frequently on my floor; the door tries to open, then jams, and the elevator will just sit there. Usually a good bodyslam to the door will let it open the rest of the way normally.", "Stay put. Don't try to open the doors. There is a chance the elevator may begin operation suddenly and climbing out the doors may end very badly for you. \nSource: fireman. Also final destination... ", "In the office building I work in, the elevators went out. One hapless dude was crawling out when the elevators kicked in. Sliced him in two.", "I once was stuck on an elevator in the ag building at my university. Luckily there were two six foot football players in with me, they pulled the doors open and there was a lever to open the outer door. The elevator was only a few feet off the ground so we scrambled down and went on our way. I imagine that if the elevator is stuck between floors, it isn't going to do you any good. ", "I live in New York City and am literally terrified of elevators to the point where I won't even consider getting on one. Indeed, I become apprehensive at the very idea that I might potentially have to interact with an elevator, regardless of the circumstances. E.g., sick relative in the hospital? hope they don't give me a hard time about taking the stairs. Appointment/interview on a high floor? maybe we can meet somewhere else.\n\nI worked on the 12th floor of a building and took the stairs up and down in the morning, at lunch, and at the end of the day. No elevators for me if it can be at all avoided. \n\nI actually was looking forward to some good info here, but all there seems to be is \"wait calmly.\" I would just like to articulate that this is in fact not an option for everyone.", "I have nervous bowels and now I'm imagining what would happen if I were stuck in an elevator. I would probably feel worse for the people in there with me. :(", "I got stuck in the elevator in my building yesterday. Uh...so we called maintenance and they said to call the fire station and then firemen came and got us out. We were trapped like, 30 minutes, tops. It was a minor adventure. ", "you have two sets of doors. if in-between floors and you go to the lower floor then you could fall back into the elevator shaft which will probably be fatal", "ok so kinda quick story. i work for a window installation company in NYC. we were doing this job with these huge metal windows and terrace doors. my job was to ride the elevator up with all the windows and doors (a couple trips), bring the mechanics and caulkers up to install and i would rip out the old windows load the elevator and bring them down (we were NOT allowed to leave the floor empty handed). this was a relatively old service elevator and we were almost at capacity every time we loaded it up. one day on the 25 floor the elevator came to a jerking stop on our way down. we tried prying the door open but it wouldnt budge past an inch. after about 45 minutes in a sweat box in the middle of july the elevator mechanic showed up and opened the door...we were inbetween two floors and had to climb out. this proceeded to happen 7 MORE TIMES. however, if the elevator is level with the floor, the doors CAN be pryed open from the inside. we also learned that if you get stuck in an elevator going down you have a slim to none chance of it falling because there are over 4 emergency braking systems including one that slams a steel rod thru the wall to stop it from falling. however if u get stuck going up youre in trouble. but theres is absolutely nothing stopping and elevator from going up so u could slingshot up to the roof and then crushhhh it goes \n\nso much for a short story ", "lpt: Don't try to escape. It's far more dangerous outside the car than inside in that situation. call emergency services and building management then sit tight, **remain calm**, and wait for rescuers to arrive.", "i was stuck in an elevator... and I was lucky and could open the door by pulling / pushing the door side ways. Over the last few years my whole family and neighbours were also stuck in the same evil elevator... \n\nSome could open the elevator from inside, but some could not. I guess it depends where the elevator is. If you are somewhere between 2 walls no one was able to open the elevator.", "doors can be opened manually on a older elevator.\nSource: was stuck in one this summer, and our group pryed the door open instead of waiting @ISU.edu", "Yeah, no, as per my sexual fantasies I won't want to leave the elevator, granted there is a hot guy in it with me.", "The lift at my old office would routinely get stuck about half a foot below where it was meant to open on my floor, so we'd have to force the doors open to get out. Turns out it's pretty easy to do, just stick your fingers in between the doors and pull them open.\n\nI did get paranoid about the lift dropping and cutting me in half, but it was just a short step to get out and I managed to get through my year there without losing a single limb.", "Stay there, for two reasons:\n\n1. If the elevator starts moving again while you are trying to get out, you can easily get crushed/torn apart.\n2. Trying to swing out over an open shaft is very difficult, and it's very easy to fall", "No, you can't pry the doors open from the inside.\n\nI was once stuck in an elevator for a few hours before, with six other people. We tried to open the door, and it was impossible. The fire department showed up, and the little key thing they use didn't work either. They ended up having to take some sort of mechanism to pry the door open. At one point, they told us to step away because they were taking an axe to the doors (!!!).\n\nIf you're stuck in an elevator, use the call button and wait. There is nothing you can do to get yourself out of there.", "Most doors can be wedged open with a little force, but if the power is restored and you're half way through the doorway on your fucking fat belly trying to wiggle out, the elevator could move and slice you in half.\n\nUnless the main power switch is off in the control room, do not attempt to exit a stalled elevator on your own. Ever.", "It's probably not a good idea to try. If you're halfway out and it shifts it can have tragic concequences.", "In our dorms at University one of the running \"pranks\" was to pull the emergency stop between floors, pry open the doors and climb out, leaving the elevator stuck between floors. (It was a prank because the elevator wouldn't work and everyone would have to take the stairs). IIRC there was a latch on the inside of the doors in the hallway, but you could just pull the elevator doors open.\nThis was an old elevator, however.", "In my experience (working in a maintenance department), get comfortable for a long wait (especially if the elevator companies are on strike like they were last year in Ontario, Canada). For elevator glitches only elevator repair/maintenance companies can resolve the issue. During power outages, you just wait for the power to come back on (i.e. backup generators or regular power restoration).", "If your elevator is stuck just wait. Anything else will get you hurt.\n\nThe only time you shouldn't stay put is if you're an elevator expert.", "If the elevator gets stuck, the doors can be pried open with some force and friction. Happened to a group of us last night and we escaped safe and sound. ", "I'm not an expert on the subject, but from what i have been told, you should never try to escape from an elevator, you should press the emergency button and wait for assistance. ", "I work at an alarm monitoring center. When you press the emergency button in an elevator, I'm one of the people you may talk to and honestly that's the best option if you get stuck. We have resources to dispatch for you in an emergency. ", "I was stuck on an elevator in my school's library which happened to be the tallest library in the states. It started going up and down randomly which was pretty scary. I ended up using the emergency phone and somebody picked up instantly. Turns out it happened already that day. We let them get us out of there instead of trying to open the doors ourselves. ", "I was stuck in an elevator in a condo at the beach once. It was between the 9th and 10th floor IIRC. There were four of us in the elevator, I was about 12-13 at the time so I don't really remember the other people in the elevator with me. The exception was the girl in her late 20's fucking *freaking* out. She was all crying and shit. We were stuck in there for maybe 20 minutes.\n\nI remember it being really hot in there and pressing the button to make the ringing noise several times each minute. Firefighters finally showed up and pryed open the door. The concrete on the 10th floor was about chest high in the doorway. Nobody wanted to get out first so I kinda just leaped onto the 9th floor and went to tell my family what happened.", "I was stuck in an elevator in Vegas once. Was a clear one to get up to the momrail. We were on the ground floor not moving. We pulled the door open with our hands and walked out. ", "I was in an elevator with some colleagues when it was moving erratically and the others started to freak out. The lifts in this building, being quite old, were often breaking down.\n\nIt stopped between floors and I pried the doors part of the way open with my fingers and let them go, this caused the lift to start again and move up to the next floor (not ours). We all got out and caught another lift to our level.", "I think I heard somewhere that getting off a stuck elevator is super dangerous because your departure from the car rapidly shifts its weight. If, say, you were in a malfunctioning elevator and tried to crawl out through a narrow opening to the floor, the car would then be lighter and rise up the elevator shaft, chopping you in half at the ceiling.", "I know a lot about elevators, so I can help you out here.\n\nThe claim that you can force open elevator doors varies by elevator. New elevators are required to have a device called a door restrictor which prevents the car doors from being opened when the car is away from a floor. This is either a solenoid lock above the door, a set of vanes, or a mechanical device that is part of the doors' unlocking mechanism.\n\nWhile all new elevators have this, most older ones do not, though some jurisdictions require that they be installed on older elevators.\n\nIf you're stuck in an elevator, the best thing to do is STAY PUT. If the car is not level with the floor, there can be a gap between the floor and the elevator car. There have been incidents in the past where people have tried to escape from a stuck elevator only to accidentally fall backwards into the elevator shaft. Many have been killed this way. If you should find yourself stuck in an elevator, use the alarm button and/or the in-car telephone/your cell phone to call for assistance. If those options aren't available, make noise by pounding on the doors and walls. Also, there's no use trying to climb out through the escape hatch on top of the car because those are typically locked from the outside.\n\nTL;DR: You usually can't escape on your own because of special locking devices on the doors. Best advice is to wait for emergency personnel to help you out.", "I have forced open the doors is 2-3 elevators when they were stuck. It's easier with like the two stage inner doors but possible either way. \n\nOnce the inner elevator doors are open, at the top of each floors outer door there is a lever you can push sideways that allows you to get out at whatever floor you happen to be or near.\n\n\nThat's said, it's maybe dangerous and you should probably just wait. ", "I agree with everyone saying wait for help to arrive, however in some countries I've lived in there's no regulation to where and how elevators operate (e.g. Egypt.)\n\nIn those places, in the two times I was stuck in an elevator, the doors could be wedged open, and we were able to crawl out, but honestly there was no guarantee that the elevator wouldn't start moving suddenly and crush us. Some were set up so that opening the external door stopped the elevator but that never seemed like much of a guarantee.\n\nTL;DR don't get stuck in an elevator in Egypt and expect to have a good time.", "Hang on a sec. I need to let the guys over a /r/Whatcouldgowrong know that you're asking about this. They like a good heads up when a new video is ready to be filmed.", "Elevator mechanic here! Some doors can be pried open. It depends on if the elevator still has power and what type of door equipment it has. Most hydraulic elevators have a safety system that will bring it down to the lobby level and allow the doors to be pulled open in a power outage. If you do get stuck, push the call button and they will send a service guy to come get you out! Don't try to pull the doors open! ", "Do not try to escape! If you are stuck inside an elevator call the rescue button, they will notify the elevator company who will send the assigned technician to that property. The fire dept will also be notified but on top of that, Building Engineers would have been the first to respond. I don't know much about elevators but I have been stuck in enough elevators to know just wait to be rescued.\nPrying the doors open is useless you'll probably be stuck between 2 floors and could possibly injure yourself trying to escape. A [fire mans key](http://www.mass.gov/eopss/docs/dfs/mfa/student-guides/542-emergency-elevator-procedures.pdf) is used to unlock the hoist way doors allowing everyone to evacuate once they bring you down. \nTL:DR Elevators are fun and safe!\n\n\n", "Do not leave the elevator for anyone but the fire department. Many building engineers keep elevator keys which will open the doors when the elevator is stuck, but you can die trying to get out. The only safe way out is to wait. ", "Click help button, possibly talk to operator, wait.\n\nOr go ninja on that shit and climb out of the (assumed to exist) hatch and climb the cables to wherever the hell you can ninja your way through, preferably a room with few enemies and a treasure chest.", "Call 911. The fire department will respond and get you out in a matter of minutes. They typically are trained to open the elevator doors, have the proper tools, and don't need to wait for an elevator mechanic. ", "Abridged version. Yes, some doors can be opened on elevators with a little brute strength and ignorance. However, it's a BAD IDEA to do this. There are cables that run down the side of the door on some and forcing the doors open could damage the cables. I found this out at college where I forced the doors open to stop the lifts occasionally. I stopped after I damaged a cable and was stuck there for 2 hours. \n\nTL:DR: wait for a workman to help you. ", "A couple years ago I was in Reno on a band tour, and me and a couple friends decided to all jump at once, which caused the elevator to stop. We were able to pretty easily pry open the doors, and luckily we were only about a foot offset from one of the floors, so we jumped out. In hindsight, that probably wasn't that smart, but it did work.\n", "1. Use your cell phone, call for help\n2. Use the Elevator Phone\n3. Fire? It should come to a lower floor if it's a new/modern elevator, go back to #1 and #2. \n", "Click help button, possibly talk to operator, wait.\n\nOr go ninja on that shit and climb out of the (assumed to exist) hatch and climb the cables to wherever the hell you can ninja your way through, preferably a room with few enemies and a treasure chest." ]

[ 694, 359, 116, 59, 40, 27, 25, 19, 5, 5, 5, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "if I don't know a coworkers name after a few weeks of talking to them, should I ask them upfront or try and get it off someone else? ", "if I don't know a coworkers name after a few weeks of talking to them, should I ask them upfront or try and get it off someone else? ", "if I don't know a coworkers name after a few weeks of talking to them, should I ask them upfront or try and get it off someone else? ", "if I don't know a coworkers name after a few weeks of talking to them, should I ask them upfront or try and get it off someone else? ", "if I don't know a coworkers name after a few weeks of talking to them, should I ask them upfront or try and get it off someone else? ", "if I don't know a coworkers name after a few weeks of talking to them, should I ask them upfront or try and get it off someone else? ", "if I don't know a coworkers name after a few weeks of talking to them, should I ask them upfront or try and get it off someone else? ", "if I don't know a coworkers name after a few weeks of talking to them, should I ask them upfront or try and get it off someone else? ", "if I don't know a coworkers name after a few weeks of talking to them, should I ask them upfront or try and get it off someone else? " ]

[ "\"Sorry, what was your name again?\"\n\n*slightly sad that you forgot, but tells you their first name anyway*\n\n\"Oh! Haha, no. What is your LAST name?\"\n\n*pacified, they happily tell you their last name*\n\nBOOM first and last name gotten!", "Start/continue to call them new guy, fuck up, dead man walking, asshole. Stuff like that. Eventually they will snap and scream \"MY NAME IS XXXX\". Awkwardness of asking them averted. You're welcome.", "Just be honest and say youre nervous about asking peoples names even though youve known them for a bit. Laugh about it , everybody forgets peoples names! Then start using their name everytime you see them the first time that day.", "If they've told you their name and you can't remember, find out low key through someone else. \n\nIf you just hadn't asked, go ahead and start with,\n\n \"I'm sorry, I never got your name. I'm so and so\" extend hand", "I always say something like \"Sorry, I suck at remembering names. Can you please remind me what your name is?\"", "Incognito mode then LinkedIn someone whose name you DO remember and look at connections in the company ", "I just tell people I'm bad with names. Because I really am bad with names. I remember faces almost perfectly, but I will not know your name with confidence for at least a month.", "GET IT FROM SOMEONE ELSE GET IT FROM SOMEONE ELSE GET IT FROM SOMEONE ELSE\n\nSimply go to another coworker and say that you were \"telling....crap, brain fart....um...dude over there...um.....(get told name)...about...\"\n\nDo NOT listen to the people saying to get it from the person. \n\nSource: been playing the game far too long...", "Just go up to them and say something like, \"I'm actually terrible when it comes to remembering names. What is your name again?\" It works for me." ]

[ 38, 18, 5, 5, 4, 3, 3, 3, 1 ]

[ "Getting grease out of an electric stove top burner I don't use my back burner a lot. Frying food on the front burner has caused a lot of grease to splatter on the back one. Now it smokes when I turn it on and I'm afraid it will start a fire. I tried washing it with soap and water, but that just seemed to make the grease seep into the coil more. Any ideas that don't involve buying degreaser? I'd like to clean this without buying anything special for it if I can.", "Getting grease out of an electric stove top burner I don't use my back burner a lot. Frying food on the front burner has caused a lot of grease to splatter on the back one. Now it smokes when I turn it on and I'm afraid it will start a fire. I tried washing it with soap and water, but that just seemed to make the grease seep into the coil more. Any ideas that don't involve buying degreaser? I'd like to clean this without buying anything special for it if I can." ]

[ "unless there is actual built up grease it's not a problem. turn the burner on and burn the grease off. In the future when you are frying put a potlid or plate over the burners not used.", "Pull the coils out and give them a good clean. Use dish soap to clean the grease right off. Make sure you get it all and dry it off completely before turning it on. Also a picture may help us see what exactly your dealing with." ]

[ 1, 1 ]

[ "LPT by someone over 30 None of that inane 'how to keep your headphone cables untangled crap' - actual LIFE tips from over 30s. Who knows, this could help.", "LPT by someone over 30 None of that inane 'how to keep your headphone cables untangled crap' - actual LIFE tips from over 30s. Who knows, this could help.", "LPT by someone over 30 None of that inane 'how to keep your headphone cables untangled crap' - actual LIFE tips from over 30s. Who knows, this could help.", "LPT by someone over 30 None of that inane 'how to keep your headphone cables untangled crap' - actual LIFE tips from over 30s. Who knows, this could help.", "LPT by someone over 30 None of that inane 'how to keep your headphone cables untangled crap' - actual LIFE tips from over 30s. Who knows, this could help.", "LPT by someone over 30 None of that inane 'how to keep your headphone cables untangled crap' - actual LIFE tips from over 30s. Who knows, this could help.", "LPT by someone over 30 None of that inane 'how to keep your headphone cables untangled crap' - actual LIFE tips from over 30s. Who knows, this could help." ]

[ "33 y/o. What I don't know could fill a barn, but here are some things I've learned so far...\n\n* The single greatest change I've made was to start considering my health. A healthy person is an asset, someone worth investing in, and more attractive in every way.\n\n* Eat food, not crap.\n\n* When you complain you look weak. Either create change or accept how things are.\n\n* Listen, don't just wait to talk.\n\n* Rotating through three pairs of shoes will make them last as long as five pairs that are worn everyday.\n\n* Surround yourself with good people and learn from each of them.\n\n* Use the library- it's a privilege and an amazing resource.\n\n* If you are wrong, admit it.\n\n* Take care of your teeth.\n\n* If you argue with someone and you aren't open to the fact they might be right and you will change your position then why in the hell bother arguing in the first place.\n\n* Always look people in the eyes... don't stare. look.\n\n* When you leave the house assume you are going to meet and have your one shot with the person of your dreams- dress and act accordingly.\n\n* Remember that being attractive is a choice.\n\n* Peanut butter should have exactly one ingredient.\n\n* If you don't think you can do something, you can't.\n\n* Learn to properly defend yourself. Don't put yourself in a position where you'll ever have to use it.\n\n* Your eyebrows are important to your level of attractiveness... groom accordingly.\n\n* Everyone appreciates a good cook.\n\n* Have more than one source of income.\n\n* If someone mistakes your kindness for weakness that is their problem, not yours.\n\n* Don't forget to play and have fun in life.\n\n* Change up your routine.\n\n* If you tip your bartender for opening a bottle of beer then you should tip the person who takes the time to make you a cup of coffee.\n\n* Save up and travel- it will change you.\n\n* Singing in the shower is one of the great joys in life... do it more.\n\n* Research both sides of the argument.\n\n* Get rid of stuff. I gave/sold almost all of my possessions and moved across the country on a whim... I don't miss anything I got rid of and no longer waste my money.\n\n* Sarcasm is lazy.\n\n* Everyone you meet is a potential source of knowledge or friendship. Actually chat with the salesperson, or telemarketer, or person sitting next to you on a flight. You'd be amazed at what you'll learn.\n\n* Think about what you know today vs. what you knew five years ago... it's amazing the change. Now imagine five years from now how much more you'll know. I think I know what I'm talking about, but 38 y/o me is going to laugh at the naivete of some of these statements. And that's OK... I'm honestly happy in life and am looking forward to learning more.", "I have never been in a situation where calling the police made things better. They often draw incorrect conclusions about the situation, arrest non-offending parties as often as the bad guys and that shit goes on your permanent record.", "* Every day that you are doing something you don't like doing is a waste of what could be your last day alive.\n\n* If anyone ever makes you feel bad about yourself in a way that isn't healthy or helpful to you, cut them out of your life.", "32 y/o here: \n \n* If you think you have a substance abuse problem, you do. \n \n* If a person in your life isn't clearly a positive influence they're a negative influence. I've never seen a middle ground on this. Even if the worst they're doing is helping you to sit around and get stoned all day, see the next item-\n\n* There is no standing still in life. If you aren't making progress in some sort of positive direction, other people are, and they've moved the goalpost that much further away. \n \n* The quickest way to end a conversation, lose a potential friend and alienate people is to offer other people unwanted advice. This is especially hard to refrain from doing with family members, but the rule still holds true. \n \n* Nobody cares as much about what you do, right or wrong, as you think they do. What we think and the reality on this one aren't even remotely close to each other. \n \n* You are not unique. Really. Seriously. We all have the same basic needs, wants and desires regardless of race, sexual identity, geographical location etc. How we go about fulfilling those may vary greatly, but in the end we're all looking for the same things. \n \n* Unless exceptionally talented, it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert at something. If you want to be competitive you have to be incredibly focused. \n \n* If you don't want to spend 10,000 hours on something, find a niche with little to no competition. You'll suck, but others won't have a way to judge this. *Note:* You can only get away with this for so long before people wise-up, you get sued or someone gets hurt. So you better be working on getting better at it even if there isn't competition. \n \n* There is always more than one way to a given goal and success is never a straight line. Success also never feels as intense as failure. This is normal. \n \n* Invest in yourself. Other people can repossess your car, your house and rob you blind, but they can only take what you know by taking your life. \n \n* If you can't see a future with other people that are around you, there isn't one. \n \n* One area that's always safe to put time and effort into is your attitude. I'd rather work with someone that isn't the best at the job, but has a great attitude, than a world-class employee with a shitty attitude. \n \n* It's normal to need most of your 20's to adjust to the fact that you're going to die one day. \n\n \n\n \n\n \n", "Trust your friends, but not blindly. \n\nAs someone else said, if someone is a negative influence on your happiness avoid them. You don't need that. \n\nAvoid unsecured debt. \n\nLove something, or someone, just love, and don't be afraid to show it.\n\nMale, 44.", "I'm only 20 years old, but I do have an LPT: Don't drink bad coffee, unless you have to. A *really good* cup of coffee will make your day super, and make you realise one of the most important phrases you can say to yourself: Life is good.", "You mean like \"leave the light on in the bathroom at night so that you don't trip over things when you have to go piss every half hour\"? Go suck an egg, dipshit." ]

[ 28, 7, 5, 4, 2, 2, -6 ]

[ "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n", "How to find an apartment while living across country? I am currently living on the east coast and am trying to move to the west coast (most likely Portland). I know Portland fairly well, but how do I go about finding an apartment while I'm living across the country? This will also be my first apartment.\n\n\n" ]

[ "I'm moving half way across the country and what I'm doing is renting a room on Airbnb for one month while I look for a place. ", "I'd also like to know about this, with an added bit on how to get a small job (like, not a career job) while living across country. ", "I've moved \"site unseen\" twice. Once from Kuwait (deployment) to Texas and again Texas to Ohio. Here's what I did.\n\n1. Researched the neighborhoods. I \"walked\" around on google maps, read the crime stats, checked out photos of the areas, looked at what amenities were nearby such as groceries, roads, retail stores. Even read the wikipedia page on my town.\n\n2. The lease. I signed nothing until I arrived and actually walked through the property. The landlords understood my situation and accommodated me by holding the property available. Trust me, you are not the first to do this. I also asked a LOT of questions about the properties such as amenities, terms, contents of property. This is the riskiest part because I had no backup plan other than a hotel room and looking at other complexes. My apartment also offered a 3 month lease in case it ended up sucking.\n\n3. How did I find my place? First I picked my neighborhood and while google mapping it I found it the complex on the map and it had a site listed. I also used search sites such as rent.com and got a $100 gift card for saying thats how I found it. (Check rent.com to see if your future complex offers that)\n\nMy advice to you is research the areas and evaluate photos. Landlords will work with you. You are not the first or last to do this. Good luck!", "You can use Airbnb for a few days while you look around to see which areas/neighborhoods you like and visit Craigslist possibilities ", "Portland has the tightest rental market in the U.S. right now. http://news.buzzbuzzhome.com/2015/04/rental-market-in-the-us-q1.html\nYou should definitely find some kind of short term rental lined up to give you time to search for an apartment. Another idea is to fly out about a month before your move and look for apartments. I would not move to Portland without a job ( or a good chunk of money in savings).", "My husband and I moved from the East Coast to Southwest US. For apartments, I would recommend Craigslist. We looked on craigslist pretty much everyday fora place. If you have the time, you can also look at the local newspapers, google a list of apartments and call them to find out how they can accommodate your move. \n\nBefore you sign anything, look it up (apartment name, or any contact info you have) online to avoid any scams. For the most part, people won't let you sign anything until they meet you (which is good). If you know anyone in the area, see if they won't mind looking at places on your behalf. Try to have some places to visit lined up before you move. We got an extended stay and had a list of apartments/houses to visit before we moved.\n\nHope this helps! Good luck on your move!!!\n", "I live in Portland, and people are really nice and trusting here. I suggest going about your apartment search like normal, but when emailing about a place let them know you are across the country and suggest a skype interview? If there is a place you really like and it's through a realty group or the like, they can fax you the paperwork and information so that you can fill it out and send it in from afar. If you have any specific question about different areas or just personal opinion feel free to PM me :)", "This doesn't necessarily apply to you but if you know somebody in the city you are moving to you can have them do viewings for you and join in via FaceTime. I did this when I was moving back to my hometown, my dad gave me FaceTime tours during viewings and I was even able to ask the landlord questions as I saw the place.", "Best way is craiglist. You can take over a sublease that will give you time to find a preferable living arrangement. Portland is a pricey rental market. ", "Best way is craiglist. You can take over a sublease that will give you time to find a preferable living arrangement. Portland is a pricey rental market. ", "As someone currently looking for a place in Portland, good luck. Any decent house is gone in a couple of hours on craigslist. I read on some forum that less than 1% of real estate in Portland is available at any given time. It's definitely possible but be prepared to look at outlying areas.", "I moved from Alabama to California a few weeks ago. My wife and I used several websites to gather a list of apartments in relation to my local Amtrak station, since I would be taking the train to work. Then I made up a spreadsheet of relevant facts: size, price per square foot, total cost, distance from the train, phone number, and address. We also printed the pictures of each apartment from the internet listing. And when we arrived in California, we set out visiting each apartment, making notes on our list and taking pictures inside. When our list was exhausted, we began to visit any apartment complex we saw.\n\nWe used these websites:\n\n1. Areavibes - I can't say enough good things about this site. \n2. Padmapper - having available apartments marked on a map is helpful.\n3. Apartmentguide\n4. Realtor.com\n5. Airbnb - we stayed with Airbnb hosts rather than at hotels, and we had great experiences.\n6. Roadtripper - we drove, so having fun stops along the way made the traveling better.\n7. Yelp - you'll have to stop to eat, so why not have a list of good, unique places along the way?\n\nBest wishes on your journey.", "Do you have a lot of stuff (I.e. furniture)? \n\nThe best way to do it, without getting scammed, or deceived by pictures taken the day after Renos that happened 5 years ago is to physically go. \n\nI would find a temporary place to live for a month, like airbnb or a sublet, rent a storage locker for the time being if you have a lot of stuff to store, then look at as many places as you can. \n\nA lot of places in Toronto looks for cr", "Apartmentguyz.com \n\nThey rock, and their services are free!!! They can search for your new home based on your specifications. Then they'll send you online profiles of properties that meet your needs. There's a person assigned to your case, and you can talk to them to ask them for details you might not be able to find easily online.\n\nSource: just moved into a cute, safe, cheap-as-hell apartment that accepts cats in CO sight unseen from OH. ", "http://demographics.coopercenter.org/DotMap/\n\nBetween this and a Google Street View walk-around, you should have no trouble getting a feel for any location. ", "firstly, I'm from Portland, Or. Great Place. \n\nIF oyu don't already have an answer, one of the things i suggest is looking through craigslist for a house looking for a roommate short term. Crash there for a month or two while you look for a more permanet place. Portland has a ton of options.\n\nAlso, if you're gonna move out here, avoid St. Johns neighborhood. I like being far East (almost gresham) because it's much quieter and the commute is super easy by jumping on the MAX line. Hope it helped. if you want more advice for PDX, please let me know!", "When I was leaving NY, I couldn't afford to fly to CA beforehand, but I knew someone who lived relatively close to where I was moving. I narrowed down to three places online and then had her visit them. She did have to drive south about an hour and half so I treated her to dinner once I moved. A lot cheaper than flying over for the weekend.\n\nIf you don't have anyone in the area/don't trust them, stay in a hostel or rent by the week/month place when you first get in and then look at places in person.", "When I moved from VA to TX, I made sure to use a coupon from the map book I had just bought that took a 40% discount off a hotel reservation. Then I booked a hotel for just over a week. This was my timeframe for finding an apartment, especially as you can only learn so much over phone and by websites. Before I moved, I compiled a list of the ten most promising complexes and so setting about visiting them once I arrived in-state was easy. I would also like to add that when making the list, it is a good idea to cross the location with crime statistics. I ended up liking the area so much for one apartment that I visited that I checked on another complex just down the road and found a dream place! Just shows you that the one you think will be ideal on the list isn't necessarily so when you visit it in person (they were rude, had a waiting list, and were very inflexible on policy) but may point you to the place that is.\nAlso important to offer to pay 6 months rent upfront with the security deposit if you are moving without securing a job first. Most complexes will find this to be an acceptable alternative to providing job references for proof of income.", "Moved 10 hours away and moving again soon. Visit if possible before. Find out the bad neighborhoods. Call the local non emergency police number and ask about bad parts of the city. Ask your employer and coworkers. Post in that cities subreddit. Check out reviews of the places you like. Check out the places on Google maps. When you visit the location drive by all the ones you like after dark. Look for high traffic areas at night and stay away from those in most cases.", "If you have to sign a long lease then see it first. Book into a hostel, put your stuff in storage and look around in person. An apartment never looks the same in photos. If you can't see it in person get a friend to check it out. ", "If you can't get out there and do some in-person scouting, which is the best option, I'd suggest using an app like Zillow to get a grasp on prices and features in the area. I'd be wary of every listing on there, actually, but I'm a bit paranoid about leases... Sign nothing until you do an actual walkthrough of the house, including electrical checks and noting any damage so they don't screw you on the security deposit. \n\nBest of luck!", "If it seems shady, even if they show you only perfect pictures, it's gonna be 5x as shady in real life. That's my tip. That happened to me 3 months ago. Yes, if you can visit and see many places and put an app down that day, do so. I would have if I could have spared any money. Otherwise, take a 1-3 month short lease, so you can move. I also did that with my shady place and now I'm in a much better and safer apt :)", "I've moved countries a few times and I think the best option is to book yourself into a very cheap BnB so you can stay for the first two weeks. \nThere are many benefits from this! You get more time to see the area, meet the locals and hear what they say, and you might find a better house because you are willing to wait. \nI am never making the mistake again of doing 5 viewings in one day and feel like I have to choose one! ", "I moved across the country last time, moving into an apartment site-unseen (due to life circumstances). My best advice is to research the owner, property manager or management company. I did other research, but honestly the research on the property managers was the best thing I ever did. I have lived in poorly managed properties, and it can make the same apartment miserable or fantastic. They made maintaining the bulding and grounds a priority, were always available, kept security a huge priority, and in general were just attentive and cared about the residents. I have lived in some nice areas, but bad management can be anywhere. I had one high-end apt mgr try to evict me for ridiculous made-up reasons so they could get much higher rent from someone else for my lakeside view. I took that company to court and won, but so much wasted time and energy! Do the best to find a property manager you can trust!", "I highly recommend padmapper.com. The mapping aspect is the best. Pull it up, type in your rent range and preferences, and it works wonders. ", "Hello friend, I am also going to look at the portland area. I am going to PSU lets be bestest friends. But I looked on apartments.com Hopefully, that will help you.", "Don't live in the Hollywood District or on 82nd. :( Also you could try Zillow! I like it because it has a map widget where you can see all nearby listings.", "Do you know anyone there? It's 100 times easier if you at least have someone who can go look at places on your behalf. \n\nOtherwise you will need to go out there for at least 3-4 days and look at as many places as you can while your there. Don't leave until you have signed a lease.\n\n", "Depending on your cr", "As strange as this sounds, when we moved halfway across the country with only one weekend to visit two months before the move, my SO hooked up with a realistate agent and she took our requirements and took us the places she found on our one weekend. No charge for us, but she got a commission on our first month rent from the appt complex. ", "Along with all the advice, if you're scouting out the area go ahead and visit a pizza/food delivery restaurant. Delivery guys know the neighborhoods and if they won't deliver than most likely you don't want to live there either.", " In the past, I've moved from LAX to West Philly and back! I'm planning on moving to Houston tx in the end of next month. Everything that's been said on this thread is spot on when it comes to moving. \nPro tip I found: When renting a truck, call the rental agency for the best price on renting a truck within the city or just outside the city. I was able to save $800 by just picking up a truck 20 miles further away.", "Thinks like this used to be possible, but with technology and the internet I just don't see how you can do it..." ]

[ 40, 16, 12, 10, 10, 6, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -2 ]

[ "How can I memorize a lot of content for an exam? I have an important economics exam in about 3 weeks. The main issue is, that the professor is out of his mind when it comes to content.\n\nTherefore I have a boatload of text content, finance math algos aswell as graphics to memorize and apply in the exam questions.\n\nHow can I make this as easy as possible for me?\n\nThanks in advance", "How can I memorize a lot of content for an exam? I have an important economics exam in about 3 weeks. The main issue is, that the professor is out of his mind when it comes to content.\n\nTherefore I have a boatload of text content, finance math algos aswell as graphics to memorize and apply in the exam questions.\n\nHow can I make this as easy as possible for me?\n\nThanks in advance", "How can I memorize a lot of content for an exam? I have an important economics exam in about 3 weeks. The main issue is, that the professor is out of his mind when it comes to content.\n\nTherefore I have a boatload of text content, finance math algos aswell as graphics to memorize and apply in the exam questions.\n\nHow can I make this as easy as possible for me?\n\nThanks in advance", "How can I memorize a lot of content for an exam? I have an important economics exam in about 3 weeks. The main issue is, that the professor is out of his mind when it comes to content.\n\nTherefore I have a boatload of text content, finance math algos aswell as graphics to memorize and apply in the exam questions.\n\nHow can I make this as easy as possible for me?\n\nThanks in advance", "How can I memorize a lot of content for an exam? I have an important economics exam in about 3 weeks. The main issue is, that the professor is out of his mind when it comes to content.\n\nTherefore I have a boatload of text content, finance math algos aswell as graphics to memorize and apply in the exam questions.\n\nHow can I make this as easy as possible for me?\n\nThanks in advance", "How can I memorize a lot of content for an exam? I have an important economics exam in about 3 weeks. The main issue is, that the professor is out of his mind when it comes to content.\n\nTherefore I have a boatload of text content, finance math algos aswell as graphics to memorize and apply in the exam questions.\n\nHow can I make this as easy as possible for me?\n\nThanks in advance", "How can I memorize a lot of content for an exam? I have an important economics exam in about 3 weeks. The main issue is, that the professor is out of his mind when it comes to content.\n\nTherefore I have a boatload of text content, finance math algos aswell as graphics to memorize and apply in the exam questions.\n\nHow can I make this as easy as possible for me?\n\nThanks in advance", "How can I memorize a lot of content for an exam? I have an important economics exam in about 3 weeks. The main issue is, that the professor is out of his mind when it comes to content.\n\nTherefore I have a boatload of text content, finance math algos aswell as graphics to memorize and apply in the exam questions.\n\nHow can I make this as easy as possible for me?\n\nThanks in advance" ]

[ "I had a constitutional law class final and I needed to do really well on it to get an A in the class which I needed for my GPA. \nI had to memorize about 45 cases and be able to write essays on them. So I made flash cards on each case with the names on one side and the important facts on the other. I carried them with me for about 3 weeks and went through them constantly. \nEnded up with a 100 on the test.", "At the end of your study session, write bullet points for all of the topics that you just covered, then go through each of those bullet points and try and verbalize a complete summary for each one.\n\nCircle the ones you don't know, or need to improve at. Take a moment to try and remember those circled bullet points, and then go take a break. When you come back to study, you should have those bullet points in the back of your mind and what you should be focusing on.", "For memorization i am a big fan of Anki flash cards, what’s nice about them is that you can up the frequency for certain cards that are more difficult for you to understand and the program can help you with spaced repetition methods. I used them to study for my oral aircraft mechanic exam. Answering the questions out loud helped for me as i am a more auditory learner. Made it a breeze to keep bringing up questions i had difficulty answering.", "[Crash Course Study Skills](https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8dPuuaLjXtNcAJRf3bE1IJU6nMfHj86W)\n\n[study less study smart ](https://youtu.be/IlU-zDU6aQ0)", "Two things helped me. \n1. Flash cards. \n2. Rewriting notes/PowerPoint using bullet points and arrows. Basically make a skeleton note and recollect the missing info", "Try using quizlet! And try different forms of learning around the same subject. Like books, podcasts, youtube etc. so it’ll dial in to all parts of your brain", "The best way to memorize and comprehend new material is to explain it to somebody. Not every person would be ready to listen your economics. Try to share you knowledge to your classmates. An ability to play 'teacher' in your head is a good way to get new information.", "Most of the comments so far reiterate a memory technique called 'recall'. Which is basically just trying to remember what you've learned without looking at notes. Looking directly at notes is recognition. Personally I combine the two. I read a chapter or a paragraph, close the book and recall, then I look at notes to see if I've missed anything.\n\nBut you have to do it several times for each topic over a period of time. Do it once and you might remember for a couple of days, twice you'll remember even longer, do it 3, 4, 5 times and it'll stick for years, maybe forever. \n\n\nSo it might look something like this: Recall topic after closing book, do it again hours later. Then again the next day, then wait a week then do it again, then a month. If you do that it will stick for a very long time" ]

[ 13, 7, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "With midterms only a month away, what is a reliable source/way to learn about my local representatives? I hate to admit this but it's only been within the past year or so I've taken an interest in local politics, mainly due to net neutrality. I don't have any social media or cable so I'm not really sure where I should be getting information about my local representatives.", "With midterms only a month away, what is a reliable source/way to learn about my local representatives? I hate to admit this but it's only been within the past year or so I've taken an interest in local politics, mainly due to net neutrality. I don't have any social media or cable so I'm not really sure where I should be getting information about my local representatives." ]

[ "You’ll need a few sources. Ask a few people in your city who do follow politics. Sometimes local papers are great, or there might be a local podcast in your area. Otherwise, League of Women Voters sends out questionnaires. Ballotpedia will show you your ballot so you can read ahead and research any issue you might want. ", "Simply visit their websites. They will of course make themselves look like God sent angels and make their opponents look like satan himself, but it will give you an idea on where they stand on certain initatives you carry an interest in. Legalized marijuana is a big item this year, as is border control. Even Roe vs. Wade has poked its ugly head up again. All candidates in all parties will have definite stances on these and many more for your area. Good luck. Research is a great thing for you to be doing. Everyone should follow this example. Party line voting has fucked this country up almost beyond repair. You should be voting for the best *person*, not the party they represent." ]

[ 3, 1 ]

[ "What are some ways to avoid algorithm-based price discrimination in online shopping? I've read a few articles that suggests that bots are watching, experimenting, and learning how to extract as much money from online shoppers as possible.\n\nWhat are some ways consumers can \"trick\" or misdirect the algorithms to not get taken advantage of?\n\nThanks for your consideration and suggestions and no I don't work in online shopping.", "What are some ways to avoid algorithm-based price discrimination in online shopping? I've read a few articles that suggests that bots are watching, experimenting, and learning how to extract as much money from online shoppers as possible.\n\nWhat are some ways consumers can \"trick\" or misdirect the algorithms to not get taken advantage of?\n\nThanks for your consideration and suggestions and no I don't work in online shopping.", "What are some ways to avoid algorithm-based price discrimination in online shopping? I've read a few articles that suggests that bots are watching, experimenting, and learning how to extract as much money from online shoppers as possible.\n\nWhat are some ways consumers can \"trick\" or misdirect the algorithms to not get taken advantage of?\n\nThanks for your consideration and suggestions and no I don't work in online shopping.", "What are some ways to avoid algorithm-based price discrimination in online shopping? I've read a few articles that suggests that bots are watching, experimenting, and learning how to extract as much money from online shoppers as possible.\n\nWhat are some ways consumers can \"trick\" or misdirect the algorithms to not get taken advantage of?\n\nThanks for your consideration and suggestions and no I don't work in online shopping." ]

[ "Websites will track you using either cookies on your computer or your IP address. \n\nAvoiding the first option is pretty easy; pretty much all browsers have a “do not tract feature”, and you can also block cookies. So do that. You could also just do your shopping on 1 device but make the final purchase on another. \n\nIP address is based on your Internet so is more difficult to get around, but not that hard. You can either use a proxy/vpn (which sounds fancy but is actually pretty easy) or you can do your shopping at a non-home/work internet; at a coffee shop with free WiFi for example", "With Amazon, you have camelcamelcamel.com that shows price changes. I put things in my cart and leave them for months, sometimes, waiting for the price change. It can really pay off, too. I ordered memory that was listed at $500 for $300 5 months later.\n\nGet a proper HOSTS file. I use [MVP HOSTS](http://winhelp2002.mvps.org/hosts.htm). Include a JS blocking extension, Ghostery, and whatever other tracker blockers out there, and that will really help.", "Would it work to browe the shopping website in question in an incognito window?\n\nBack when I used Firefox I remember having add-ons like Ghostery. When I changed laptops/browsers I skipped on installing them again, but I wonder if it's worth going back to if it means not seeing price increases on travel and hotel sites...", "In developing nations, food market vendors have everything negotiated and vendors size up each person, time, and motivation for purchasing. In my experience someone who is local, patient, jokingly fun, knowledgeable, and mildly interested gets a better price than a rushed foreigner. How could that be replicated online? \n\nIn online air travel shopping sometimes turning on private browsing can save you money on flights.\n\nOther sources I've heard say that putting something in your shopping cart then leaving the site may result in the company sending you a coupon.\n\nAre there other tips for online shopping that you know of?" ]

[ 4, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "how to reduce echoes in a meeting room without covering the walls? I use a room for meetings at work which has four glass walls, when having meetings the room echoes really badly - I've searched around for tips but the only solution I could find was to cover the walls in foam/fabric. Any tips muchly appreciated!", "how to reduce echoes in a meeting room without covering the walls? I use a room for meetings at work which has four glass walls, when having meetings the room echoes really badly - I've searched around for tips but the only solution I could find was to cover the walls in foam/fabric. Any tips muchly appreciated!", "how to reduce echoes in a meeting room without covering the walls? I use a room for meetings at work which has four glass walls, when having meetings the room echoes really badly - I've searched around for tips but the only solution I could find was to cover the walls in foam/fabric. Any tips muchly appreciated!", "how to reduce echoes in a meeting room without covering the walls? I use a room for meetings at work which has four glass walls, when having meetings the room echoes really badly - I've searched around for tips but the only solution I could find was to cover the walls in foam/fabric. Any tips muchly appreciated!", "how to reduce echoes in a meeting room without covering the walls? I use a room for meetings at work which has four glass walls, when having meetings the room echoes really badly - I've searched around for tips but the only solution I could find was to cover the walls in foam/fabric. Any tips muchly appreciated!" ]

[ "You are going to have to find some way to stop sound from hitting the walls. If you don't want to completely cover them, you could partially cover them by adding things like plants. They don't need to be covered, just put objects between the source of the sound and the walls.", "Put more stuff in the room. Anything from hanging light fixtures to paintings to furniture to plants will help break the echo up.", "I would try accordion style room dividers. You could cover those with acoustic foam for bonus attenuation but I think they would work well as they are.", "I forget who, but there is a company out there that makes decorative sound-dampening materials to place in offices and things like such", "Heavy curtains on even a single wall will make a huge difference. \n\nIt echoes a lot, because sound keeps bouncing off - even if you have one wall where the sound can get absorbed, it will greatly help. \n\nVery recently we cleaned our curtains, and one day when the curtains were not there for the window in office I found how much the sound echoed in the room. " ]

[ 3, 3, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to shave a very irritable neck. I've finally decided to do away with the neck beard. After using a facial hair trimmer, I found my first shave to be painful and very uncomfortable. I looked for tips online and tried again after taking a hot shower - same result.\n\nI'm using a 5-blade razor and trying to shave with the grain (though its hard to tell what's what).\n\nWithout the use of unconventional lotions and oils, how can I consistantly get a clean shave without any irritation?", "How to shave a very irritable neck. I've finally decided to do away with the neck beard. After using a facial hair trimmer, I found my first shave to be painful and very uncomfortable. I looked for tips online and tried again after taking a hot shower - same result.\n\nI'm using a 5-blade razor and trying to shave with the grain (though its hard to tell what's what).\n\nWithout the use of unconventional lotions and oils, how can I consistantly get a clean shave without any irritation?", "How to shave a very irritable neck. I've finally decided to do away with the neck beard. After using a facial hair trimmer, I found my first shave to be painful and very uncomfortable. I looked for tips online and tried again after taking a hot shower - same result.\n\nI'm using a 5-blade razor and trying to shave with the grain (though its hard to tell what's what).\n\nWithout the use of unconventional lotions and oils, how can I consistantly get a clean shave without any irritation?", "How to shave a very irritable neck. I've finally decided to do away with the neck beard. After using a facial hair trimmer, I found my first shave to be painful and very uncomfortable. I looked for tips online and tried again after taking a hot shower - same result.\n\nI'm using a 5-blade razor and trying to shave with the grain (though its hard to tell what's what).\n\nWithout the use of unconventional lotions and oils, how can I consistantly get a clean shave without any irritation?", "How to shave a very irritable neck. I've finally decided to do away with the neck beard. After using a facial hair trimmer, I found my first shave to be painful and very uncomfortable. I looked for tips online and tried again after taking a hot shower - same result.\n\nI'm using a 5-blade razor and trying to shave with the grain (though its hard to tell what's what).\n\nWithout the use of unconventional lotions and oils, how can I consistantly get a clean shave without any irritation?", "How to shave a very irritable neck. I've finally decided to do away with the neck beard. After using a facial hair trimmer, I found my first shave to be painful and very uncomfortable. I looked for tips online and tried again after taking a hot shower - same result.\n\nI'm using a 5-blade razor and trying to shave with the grain (though its hard to tell what's what).\n\nWithout the use of unconventional lotions and oils, how can I consistantly get a clean shave without any irritation?", "How to shave a very irritable neck. I've finally decided to do away with the neck beard. After using a facial hair trimmer, I found my first shave to be painful and very uncomfortable. I looked for tips online and tried again after taking a hot shower - same result.\n\nI'm using a 5-blade razor and trying to shave with the grain (though its hard to tell what's what).\n\nWithout the use of unconventional lotions and oils, how can I consistantly get a clean shave without any irritation?", "How to shave a very irritable neck. I've finally decided to do away with the neck beard. After using a facial hair trimmer, I found my first shave to be painful and very uncomfortable. I looked for tips online and tried again after taking a hot shower - same result.\n\nI'm using a 5-blade razor and trying to shave with the grain (though its hard to tell what's what).\n\nWithout the use of unconventional lotions and oils, how can I consistantly get a clean shave without any irritation?", "How to shave a very irritable neck. I've finally decided to do away with the neck beard. After using a facial hair trimmer, I found my first shave to be painful and very uncomfortable. I looked for tips online and tried again after taking a hot shower - same result.\n\nI'm using a 5-blade razor and trying to shave with the grain (though its hard to tell what's what).\n\nWithout the use of unconventional lotions and oils, how can I consistantly get a clean shave without any irritation?", "How to shave a very irritable neck. I've finally decided to do away with the neck beard. After using a facial hair trimmer, I found my first shave to be painful and very uncomfortable. I looked for tips online and tried again after taking a hot shower - same result.\n\nI'm using a 5-blade razor and trying to shave with the grain (though its hard to tell what's what).\n\nWithout the use of unconventional lotions and oils, how can I consistantly get a clean shave without any irritation?", "How to shave a very irritable neck. I've finally decided to do away with the neck beard. After using a facial hair trimmer, I found my first shave to be painful and very uncomfortable. I looked for tips online and tried again after taking a hot shower - same result.\n\nI'm using a 5-blade razor and trying to shave with the grain (though its hard to tell what's what).\n\nWithout the use of unconventional lotions and oils, how can I consistantly get a clean shave without any irritation?", "How to shave a very irritable neck. I've finally decided to do away with the neck beard. After using a facial hair trimmer, I found my first shave to be painful and very uncomfortable. I looked for tips online and tried again after taking a hot shower - same result.\n\nI'm using a 5-blade razor and trying to shave with the grain (though its hard to tell what's what).\n\nWithout the use of unconventional lotions and oils, how can I consistantly get a clean shave without any irritation?" ]

[ "I don't wash my face/neck with soap before I shave. The natural oils help smooth the shave out, and I use sensitive skin lather. Try letric shave and an electric razor if all else fails. ", "Consider investing in a good safety razor. Best shave I've ever had and haven't had bumps since I started using one.", "I use pine tar soap to shave because shaving gels would give me neck bumps. You can find it at most organic type stores. Just rub and lather on your face and shave.\n\nAlso shave first with the grain of your neck reapply soap then shave against the grain. (most people tell you never shave against the grain but I always have on my neck.)", "1) take some time to learn the grain direction on all parts of your neck\n2) don't shave against the grain for now and leave the tiny bit of stubble until your skin adjusts\n3) head over to /r/wicked_edge and find shaving paradise. \nGood luck!", "my neck and face are weird. \n\ni use a turbo razor, and shave dry, before my shower. i get NO RAZOR BUMPS, and my razors last a long time. the moment i rinse the razor in water, it does not work as well.\n\nthe other extreme (but will leave me with a couple of zits by late afternoon) is i have to shave post shower with a straight razor, using the unscented soap and badger brush, and applying cold water and balm. face feels great right after, but by evening, im getting at least a few zits on the neck.\n\nto save time, i usually just dry shave with the turbo (not the mach3, just regular turbo) and take a shower. it sounds absolutely crazy, but it works great for me...", "don't press so hard - let the razor do the work. It takes your skin a while to adjust (mine took a very long time to get there because, well, it was so unpleasant that I would only ever shave every few days, if that. Now that I shave every day it is worlds easier). Good luck!", "Well, OK, I'm not sure about the shaving part, but DEODORANT. It sounds so weird but it WORKS. Use unscented stick deodorant, and just swipe it once over the shaved area after you shave and dry it. I used to get those little red bumps and ingrown hairs every time I shaved but I don't now!!!", "Use no pressure. Do not press on the neck at all with the razor. Make a first pass with the grain to start it, a second pass across the grain to make it much shorter. If you're up to it, the riskiest part is an against-the-grain pass at the end. This is more likely to irritate, but if you manage it, it'll be much smoother. All the while, remember: NO PRESSURE.", "My process is:\n\nRinse with warm water, cleanse, then dry.\nShave, with the damn grain, cleaning your razor after every stroke.\nRinse with warm water and cleanse again (might not be necessary but I do it anyway)\n\nNow, the most important part. Get a non scented, alcohol based hand sanitizer. The clear, bubbly looking ones in the bottles. Make sure it's ethanol based! Mix a bit of it with cold water (a bit being a few full squeezes), and really shake it together. Then splash the water on your face and neck a few times. Let it sit for a few seconds, then rinse completely with cold water.\nI find this mixture of alcohol hand sanitizer with water to really stop razor rash, without any irritation. Follow all of this up with a light moisturiser, and you're set.", "I've been shaving IN the shower for years. I trim sideburns before entering. Shave last. Use Barbasol for sensitive skin. Rinse razor frequently. Shave with grain then against grain applying foam both times. ", "I can't have a beard at work and hate shaving everyday, so I decided to do a laser treatment to get rid of facial hair. It's working miracles.", "As odd as it seems, shaving in a cold shower and pulling your skin slightly taught will make your skin break out less and be less irritable overall" ]

[ 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to freshen up between PE and my next class I have PE right before my next class and am wondering if there is any way to freshen up or something of that sort.", "How to freshen up between PE and my next class I have PE right before my next class and am wondering if there is any way to freshen up or something of that sort.", "How to freshen up between PE and my next class I have PE right before my next class and am wondering if there is any way to freshen up or something of that sort.", "How to freshen up between PE and my next class I have PE right before my next class and am wondering if there is any way to freshen up or something of that sort." ]

[ "use a wet wipe on your desired areas (armpits, crotch, crack) then put some fresh deodorant on your pits, and some baby powder in your britches...you'll feel like a new human being!", "Hand sanitizer eliminates sweat smell from your pits. So do that, combine it with some baby wipes, reapply deodorant, brush your hair and you're good.", "Icesoap!\n", "Masterbate and rub the cum under your armpits and any other sweaty areas. The antibodies will kill the bacteria which gives sweat its odor. " ]

[ 14, 7, 6, 1 ]

[ "Software (preferably freeware) used to organize typed ideas and thoughts. I suppose Microsoft word works well enough but I would think there would be software to help with flowcharts or to use as a sketch or notepad. Can anyone help?\n\n**", "Software (preferably freeware) used to organize typed ideas and thoughts. I suppose Microsoft word works well enough but I would think there would be software to help with flowcharts or to use as a sketch or notepad. Can anyone help?\n\n**", "Software (preferably freeware) used to organize typed ideas and thoughts. I suppose Microsoft word works well enough but I would think there would be software to help with flowcharts or to use as a sketch or notepad. Can anyone help?\n\n**", "Software (preferably freeware) used to organize typed ideas and thoughts. I suppose Microsoft word works well enough but I would think there would be software to help with flowcharts or to use as a sketch or notepad. Can anyone help?\n\n**", "Software (preferably freeware) used to organize typed ideas and thoughts. I suppose Microsoft word works well enough but I would think there would be software to help with flowcharts or to use as a sketch or notepad. Can anyone help?\n\n**", "Software (preferably freeware) used to organize typed ideas and thoughts. I suppose Microsoft word works well enough but I would think there would be software to help with flowcharts or to use as a sketch or notepad. Can anyone help?\n\n**", "Software (preferably freeware) used to organize typed ideas and thoughts. I suppose Microsoft word works well enough but I would think there would be software to help with flowcharts or to use as a sketch or notepad. Can anyone help?\n\n**", "Software (preferably freeware) used to organize typed ideas and thoughts. I suppose Microsoft word works well enough but I would think there would be software to help with flowcharts or to use as a sketch or notepad. Can anyone help?\n\n**", "Software (preferably freeware) used to organize typed ideas and thoughts. I suppose Microsoft word works well enough but I would think there would be software to help with flowcharts or to use as a sketch or notepad. Can anyone help?\n\n**", "Software (preferably freeware) used to organize typed ideas and thoughts. I suppose Microsoft word works well enough but I would think there would be software to help with flowcharts or to use as a sketch or notepad. Can anyone help?\n\n**", "Software (preferably freeware) used to organize typed ideas and thoughts. I suppose Microsoft word works well enough but I would think there would be software to help with flowcharts or to use as a sketch or notepad. Can anyone help?\n\n**", "Software (preferably freeware) used to organize typed ideas and thoughts. I suppose Microsoft word works well enough but I would think there would be software to help with flowcharts or to use as a sketch or notepad. Can anyone help?\n\n**" ]

[ "[Evernote](http://www.evernote.com/) is pretty good - doesn't have a flowchart function as far I know but you can write things by hand. I'm pretty sure it's available for both Windows and Android, and it syncs notes between devices.", "If you like lists, [Workflowy](http://www.workflowy.com) is a good option. It's an online webapp and is completely free. ", "If you have the whole MS Office suite, OneNote is fantastic for organising notes... not sure about flowcharts though.", "I use [Keynote](http://code.google.com/p/keynote-nf/) (freeware) to organize lots of smaller notes. It has a tree-like format, and supports RTF formatting. Not tables though. But it does support hyperlinks to other notes, and to the WWW. ", "i tried many many of them. note managing software simply don't work in my opinion...\n\nbut oh well, to add to what has been mentioned is this freeware called [CintaNotes](http://cintanotes.com/)", "I'm a big fan of [Freemind](http://freemind.sourceforge.net/wiki/index.php/Main_Page) or [Freeplane](http://freemind.sourceforge.net/wiki/index.php/Freeplane) which is a fork of the former, it seems a little prettier. Yes it's a mind-mapper program (which doesn't always work well for me), but you can use only the right side, and pretend its an outliner. \n\nSometimes, I start looking at something like [xfig](http://epb.lbl.gov/xfig/) which is specifically for diagramming (what you asked for), but doesn't work well for me.\n\nMy grail is an easy outline manager, that can use opml to import or export into different tools.\nGood luck!", "I use Wikidpad http://wikidpad.sourceforge.net/ and an extension that does GTD type stuff http://www.ziemski.net/wikidpad/todo_extension.html", "I use Opera browser's notes tool to scribble down phone numbers and other stuff I need to remember online or not. ", "I find [Mindjet](http://www.mindjet.com/products/mindmanager/) to be very useful. I personally use the free Android app.", "Hi, this may not be what you are looking for, but no download is required! \n\nhttp://www.evernote.com\n\nI am a student and I log all my assignments there and sometimes use it for other purposes.", "[Mindmeister](http://www.mindmeister.com/) is a great online collaborative mind mapping tool. It's a free/premium service, you can make and keep 3 maps for free last time I checked. You can also export to an outline.\n\nAlternatively, you can use [CMapTools](http://cmap.ihmc.us/) if you'd rather keep the data locally.\n\nIf you'd rather create an outline format, there is an entire Wikipedia page dedicated to [Outliners](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Outliner) on different platforms.", "I use igoogle, you can download different apps. I used MyListy. It is a great way to write down grocery lists, to do lists, etc." ]

[ 7, 5, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "My office smells like BO. Are there any effective ways to fix this? I just got moved to a small office space that I share with three other people, and it smells like BO. I think it's just something about the room, because it's smelled like that as long as I can remember. No one else has commented on it, but I'd like to do something to mitigate it if possible. Scented candles and things of that nature can be a little overpowering in a small space – plus they don't really eliminate the smell, they just mask it. Does anyone know of an effective air-freshening technique I could use in this situation?", "My office smells like BO. Are there any effective ways to fix this? I just got moved to a small office space that I share with three other people, and it smells like BO. I think it's just something about the room, because it's smelled like that as long as I can remember. No one else has commented on it, but I'd like to do something to mitigate it if possible. Scented candles and things of that nature can be a little overpowering in a small space – plus they don't really eliminate the smell, they just mask it. Does anyone know of an effective air-freshening technique I could use in this situation?", "My office smells like BO. Are there any effective ways to fix this? I just got moved to a small office space that I share with three other people, and it smells like BO. I think it's just something about the room, because it's smelled like that as long as I can remember. No one else has commented on it, but I'd like to do something to mitigate it if possible. Scented candles and things of that nature can be a little overpowering in a small space – plus they don't really eliminate the smell, they just mask it. Does anyone know of an effective air-freshening technique I could use in this situation?", "My office smells like BO. Are there any effective ways to fix this? I just got moved to a small office space that I share with three other people, and it smells like BO. I think it's just something about the room, because it's smelled like that as long as I can remember. No one else has commented on it, but I'd like to do something to mitigate it if possible. Scented candles and things of that nature can be a little overpowering in a small space – plus they don't really eliminate the smell, they just mask it. Does anyone know of an effective air-freshening technique I could use in this situation?", "My office smells like BO. Are there any effective ways to fix this? I just got moved to a small office space that I share with three other people, and it smells like BO. I think it's just something about the room, because it's smelled like that as long as I can remember. No one else has commented on it, but I'd like to do something to mitigate it if possible. Scented candles and things of that nature can be a little overpowering in a small space – plus they don't really eliminate the smell, they just mask it. Does anyone know of an effective air-freshening technique I could use in this situation?" ]

[ "If the area is carpeted, then the smell might be embedded into the carpet.\nWhen you leave and preferably when there are cleaners coming in, sprinkle baking soda on the carpet.\nIf no cleaners and or you want a quicker result, then leave for 15-20 minutes and vacuum up yourself.\n\nMight be smart to let someone know what you're doing first to ensure no accusations of spilt cocaine happen. ", "Bring it up to management. They might be able to check for mild (in walls, carpet, ceilings)or they might have an ozone machine that they can set up for overnight usage in order to neutralize the odor.", "I once emptied an entire bottle of febreeze through the ventilation system in a car to get rid of the smell of old cigarettes. (After cleaning the upholstery) \n\nIt was surprisingly effective. Or I just had no expectations. But it didn't smell like a used up crack whore anymore.", "Use this, it's the only thing that is proven to work:\n\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Ozium-Air-Sanitizer-Original-3-5/dp/B000CSWCAG\n\nRead the directions - do NOT use it while occupied!", "Put some essential oils right under your nose regularly. You will be overwhelmed with the essence of lavender." ]

[ 8, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to prevent wavy, voluminous hair from getting dry after shampooing? I have wavy hair which is also extremely thick and has a lot of volume. It's not afro-like at all and extreme malleable but it gets really dry after I shampoo and I want that sorta-greasy/wet feel to my hair, how do I do this?", "How to prevent wavy, voluminous hair from getting dry after shampooing? I have wavy hair which is also extremely thick and has a lot of volume. It's not afro-like at all and extreme malleable but it gets really dry after I shampoo and I want that sorta-greasy/wet feel to my hair, how do I do this?", "How to prevent wavy, voluminous hair from getting dry after shampooing? I have wavy hair which is also extremely thick and has a lot of volume. It's not afro-like at all and extreme malleable but it gets really dry after I shampoo and I want that sorta-greasy/wet feel to my hair, how do I do this?" ]

[ "I had the same problem. \n\nHave you tried deep conditioning your hair before shampooing? \n\nAlso, please make sure your shampoo is mild and you use the right quantity. Sometimes using excess shampoo makes hair very dry. And never use hot water. Never ever. \n\nAfter shampooing, i take very little moroccon argon oil and spread it over semi-dry hair. If you don’t have argon oil, you could try hair serums too. \n\nAlso, how often do you oil your hair? For me, once a week is generally good enough.", "I had a roommate once who put handfuls of conditioner in her hair after a wash and just let it dry. She was biracial (black dad, white mom) and had fairly long, thick hair so this seemed to work best. If you find this works for you, just play around with the amount of conditioner you need until you find the right amount.\nTo clarify, she used regular conditioner, not the leave in kind. I don't know if that makes a difference though.\nGood luck!", "Do you chemically treat your hair? Perm, color?\n\nIf so, get color treated shampoo/conditioners. \n\nUse a leave in treatment. If you want defined curls, use a curl defining product.\n\nWash your hair less frequently. I wash about every other day in summer. Every 3rd day otherwise.\n\nYour water could also cause issues especially if it's hard water." ]

[ 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Sound-proofing a door Because of the manner in which my apartment is designed, I have two doors in my room. One door (my main door) leads into the main hallway of my building and I enter into the main apartment through the front door. The second door connects my room to my roommates room so I don't normally use the door. The door is thin so it's pretty easy for sound to travel between our rooms. If I don't plan on using this door, what would be the best way to sound-proof? I was thinking hanging a thick carpet on the frame of the door and creating a dead space, air pocket thing.", "Sound-proofing a door Because of the manner in which my apartment is designed, I have two doors in my room. One door (my main door) leads into the main hallway of my building and I enter into the main apartment through the front door. The second door connects my room to my roommates room so I don't normally use the door. The door is thin so it's pretty easy for sound to travel between our rooms. If I don't plan on using this door, what would be the best way to sound-proof? I was thinking hanging a thick carpet on the frame of the door and creating a dead space, air pocket thing.", "Sound-proofing a door Because of the manner in which my apartment is designed, I have two doors in my room. One door (my main door) leads into the main hallway of my building and I enter into the main apartment through the front door. The second door connects my room to my roommates room so I don't normally use the door. The door is thin so it's pretty easy for sound to travel between our rooms. If I don't plan on using this door, what would be the best way to sound-proof? I was thinking hanging a thick carpet on the frame of the door and creating a dead space, air pocket thing.", "Sound-proofing a door Because of the manner in which my apartment is designed, I have two doors in my room. One door (my main door) leads into the main hallway of my building and I enter into the main apartment through the front door. The second door connects my room to my roommates room so I don't normally use the door. The door is thin so it's pretty easy for sound to travel between our rooms. If I don't plan on using this door, what would be the best way to sound-proof? I was thinking hanging a thick carpet on the frame of the door and creating a dead space, air pocket thing.", "Sound-proofing a door Because of the manner in which my apartment is designed, I have two doors in my room. One door (my main door) leads into the main hallway of my building and I enter into the main apartment through the front door. The second door connects my room to my roommates room so I don't normally use the door. The door is thin so it's pretty easy for sound to travel between our rooms. If I don't plan on using this door, what would be the best way to sound-proof? I was thinking hanging a thick carpet on the frame of the door and creating a dead space, air pocket thing." ]

[ "Install a rubber strip to the bottom of the door on both sides to prevent sound from passing that way. \n\nI personally would put a book shelf in front of the door and filli it with books or clothes. I don't think hanging the carpet in front of the door will do that much. You need something bigger and bulkier. \n\nBut I would suggest putting carpet down and/or hanging them on other walls. The reason being that it will deaden the sound reverberation in the room. If sound can't bounce off hard surfaces, it won't even reach the door.\n\nYou might be able to rip open a hole at the top of door, or remove the top rail, and insert some kind of sound proofing inside the door. But it depends on the door. It's probably not a viable option for a lot of doors. You can see two types of hollow core doors here, but this by no means the only types.\nhttp://www.rona.ca/ucmServlet/GetFileServlet?dDocName=B2CPRDSTG_029063&Rendition=Native%20File\n\n", "I managed a college residence hall and had about 10 different buildings all with different types of doors. There is the easier and hard solution, but none will get you true soundproofing. That happens at construction.\n\nI also lived with loud ass college students. I've spent serious time figuring out how to lower the sound as much as possible. \n\nThe quality of that door (solid core versus hollow) will have a huge impact on the sound. Also, how well fit the door and if there is any door seals installed. I installed a solid core interior door and exterior door. It's fucking amazing. It's a better long term solution. Don't get rid of the door unless you have another door to hang.\n\nThen add door gaskets. They are cheap and easy to install. Then add the seals.\n\nhttp://www.tmsoundproofing.com/Door-Soundproof-Gaskets.html\n\nEasy solution? Get a mass loaded vinyl curtain or sound blankets. You can buy mass loaded vinyl curtains or sound blankets or make them yourself. I used both. the curtains are heavy as shit. Magnets I attached at the corners keep it mounted flush. I did add a curtain rod above the door to hold it. It was over 25 lbs when I was done.\n\nThe better first step is deciding what the noise is and reducing it as much as possible. Self made sound panels are excellent in a room producing noise. Takes a lot of the edge off. Even better is if your roomie mounts one as well or some sound panels. \n\nI moved on to a house but I kept my curtain. I also built some sound panels in the living room. Really reduces the boom and makes for much better home entertainment experience. There are tons of videos on youtube on how to make them.\n\nEach step is really an incremental difference. You'll find no magic bullet. First find the noise makers and just placing things better will make a difference. Carpet squares under a sub or television or speakers. Moving things away from walls, etc.\n\nFinally, the best solution is often a great set of headphones for each person. You want it loud! Pipe it through your cans.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "Sound transmission is basically air movement and vibration. Get a heavy solid wood door. The heavier something is, the less it will vibrate. Buy weather stripping (rubber strips) and run them 100% of the perimeter of the door. Putting the second layer on it wouldn't be a bad idea. . If you can stop the air from travelling through any seams it will help sound deaden. It will never be sound proof. ", "If you throw a layer of sound deadning material on the whole door, and then throw a layer of egg cartons over top, then hang a sheet in front of it for aesthetics and extra deadening, it'd be nearly 100% sound proofed", "attach a foam twin bed mattress topper to the door and be sure to cover the cracks between the door and the frame/floor" ]

[ 11, 4, 3, 3, 2 ]

[ "Does anyone have any good templates for daily/weekly/monthly to do lists? I've been looking for a to do list that has room for daily, weekly, and monthly goals. I have a lot of daily tasks I would like to do such as reading and studying and I have a lot of weekly goals like going to the gym 3 times a week. I also want to set monthly goals such as staying within my budget. \n\nDoes anyone have Excel or Google Doc templates to use? Any help is greatly appreciated.", "Does anyone have any good templates for daily/weekly/monthly to do lists? I've been looking for a to do list that has room for daily, weekly, and monthly goals. I have a lot of daily tasks I would like to do such as reading and studying and I have a lot of weekly goals like going to the gym 3 times a week. I also want to set monthly goals such as staying within my budget. \n\nDoes anyone have Excel or Google Doc templates to use? Any help is greatly appreciated.", "Does anyone have any good templates for daily/weekly/monthly to do lists? I've been looking for a to do list that has room for daily, weekly, and monthly goals. I have a lot of daily tasks I would like to do such as reading and studying and I have a lot of weekly goals like going to the gym 3 times a week. I also want to set monthly goals such as staying within my budget. \n\nDoes anyone have Excel or Google Doc templates to use? Any help is greatly appreciated.", "Does anyone have any good templates for daily/weekly/monthly to do lists? I've been looking for a to do list that has room for daily, weekly, and monthly goals. I have a lot of daily tasks I would like to do such as reading and studying and I have a lot of weekly goals like going to the gym 3 times a week. I also want to set monthly goals such as staying within my budget. \n\nDoes anyone have Excel or Google Doc templates to use? Any help is greatly appreciated." ]

[ "Not sure if this will be helpful but I use Google Keep. I make my own list templates for days of the week (splitting up household tasks on my off days, balancing fun activities throughout my week) and then make copies that I can date and add specific tasks to that are exclusive to that given date. Best thing I've done all year. ", "Check out bullet journaling! You've got the front page's icon key (to-do, completed, lookup/research, buy, etc.. the only limit is your imagination). Next is your index, to easily look up that pre-vacation to-do list, mom's meatball recipe, or last May's spread.. Next is (example) August's spreadsheet, where you'd write #s 1-31 (the # of days in that month) and each# will have the corresponding M-T-W-Th-F-S-S, to easily see the day that date falls on. This can be used for daily/weekly planning, appts, events, etc. The adjacent page is your \"brain dump\", where you list everything you want accomplished in that month, prefaced by little checkboxes. The pages that follow are your day-to-day life: August 1st (underlined) and below the day's entry, checkboxed list w/everything I want to get done that day. I can draw inspiration from that month's brain dump. Gotta take my pre-weightloss clothes to the Salvation Army. Gotta change my aquarium water 4x/month, so that'll be in the brain dump with four checkboxes. Gotta cross em all off before month's end. Every time you start/end a month or note your new insurance policy#, write the page# in your index for ease of future reference. As I've done this & honed my skill I've developed a pretty helpful icon key to save room. Eyeball: research.. Buy: $.. you get the idea. Let's see, what else... Yes! It's imperative that you find a journal that contains 32 lines per page. Gotta have adequate room, right?\n\n[ √ ] Bathe the cat\n\n$ P/U party supplies from Costco\n\n* Sean's bday\n\n\nI'm here if you have questions or want to know more :)\n ", "Not a template but I've gotten a ton of use keeping track of goals like that by using Habitica. Entirely free, works on any browser, has an app if you'd rather, and you can set up goals like you want to.", "I personally use Google Calendar with repeating events. I have a meal schedule (with ingredient list for shopping) and a cleaning schedule right now. Events can be set to repeat at whatever interval you like, and you'll get notifications on your phone. Downside is that you can't check off events." ]

[ 6, 5, 3, 3 ]

[ "How to open a bag of chips quietly I always get midnight cravings and whenever I grab a bag of chips, its super loud.", "How to open a bag of chips quietly I always get midnight cravings and whenever I grab a bag of chips, its super loud.", "How to open a bag of chips quietly I always get midnight cravings and whenever I grab a bag of chips, its super loud." ]

[ "Open it perpendicular to the writing. I will try to find the video. or else I will make video for you", "The earliest scientific study I remember addressed this. The plastic will always crinkle at the same volume, it's the quantity that really makes it loud.\n\nMaybe this is the end of those cravings?", "Back when I had classes, I wanted a way to stealth-open bags of chips.\n\nInstead of pulling horizontally, press the meaty part of your palm (directly below your thumbs) into an area near the top of the opening. Then, use your pointer and thumb fingers to slowly pry the top (thinnest plastic with ridges) open.\n\n* For added ninja points, pry enough only for a small gap and slip your pointer fingers in to grasp the plastic, which will allow for firmer and more accurate handling." ]

[ 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How can I find cheap flights out of my city's airport? Groupon Getaways etc. always seem to be promoting flights out of LA or NYC, not to mention you always have to post a specific date and destination. But what if you just love traveling in general and want to know what good deals are heading out of a specific airport with no exact destination in mind? (International travel desired)", "How can I find cheap flights out of my city's airport? Groupon Getaways etc. always seem to be promoting flights out of LA or NYC, not to mention you always have to post a specific date and destination. But what if you just love traveling in general and want to know what good deals are heading out of a specific airport with no exact destination in mind? (International travel desired)", "How can I find cheap flights out of my city's airport? Groupon Getaways etc. always seem to be promoting flights out of LA or NYC, not to mention you always have to post a specific date and destination. But what if you just love traveling in general and want to know what good deals are heading out of a specific airport with no exact destination in mind? (International travel desired)", "How can I find cheap flights out of my city's airport? Groupon Getaways etc. always seem to be promoting flights out of LA or NYC, not to mention you always have to post a specific date and destination. But what if you just love traveling in general and want to know what good deals are heading out of a specific airport with no exact destination in mind? (International travel desired)", "How can I find cheap flights out of my city's airport? Groupon Getaways etc. always seem to be promoting flights out of LA or NYC, not to mention you always have to post a specific date and destination. But what if you just love traveling in general and want to know what good deals are heading out of a specific airport with no exact destination in mind? (International travel desired)", "How can I find cheap flights out of my city's airport? Groupon Getaways etc. always seem to be promoting flights out of LA or NYC, not to mention you always have to post a specific date and destination. But what if you just love traveling in general and want to know what good deals are heading out of a specific airport with no exact destination in mind? (International travel desired)", "How can I find cheap flights out of my city's airport? Groupon Getaways etc. always seem to be promoting flights out of LA or NYC, not to mention you always have to post a specific date and destination. But what if you just love traveling in general and want to know what good deals are heading out of a specific airport with no exact destination in mind? (International travel desired)", "How can I find cheap flights out of my city's airport? Groupon Getaways etc. always seem to be promoting flights out of LA or NYC, not to mention you always have to post a specific date and destination. But what if you just love traveling in general and want to know what good deals are heading out of a specific airport with no exact destination in mind? (International travel desired)" ]

[ "[Skiplagged](http://www.skiplagged.com) has been really great to me in the past, saved me over $300 on a flight to NY from California. ", "Scott's cheap flights. \n\n\nSaw him in an AMA here a month or two ago. \n\n\nChecked out his site and there are amazing deals going on everyday. ", "Try skyscanner as well. You can put in your local airport for departure point and then choose a country or just \"everywhere\" as the destination ", "Thanks for all of the suggestions, (I just signed up for Scott's newsletter, it looks awesome). Out of all of the options I've checked, the only one I've seen that allows you to not have to pick a specific destination (just gives you deals in general) AND lets you filter options only flying out of your local airport is Google Flights!", "Some airports, especially smaller ones, advertise offers on their web site and social media etc. So my first stop would be the airport web site.", "I use almost always Google Flights or Kayak. I've never had trouble finding really cheap flights. It helps that my travel dates are usually flexible.\n\nI also recently downloaded the app Hopper which watches flights and predicts future prices to tell you if the current price is a good deal. It seems good, but I haven't bought anything yet.", "From my experience I've had more luck checking a couple sites multiple times a day for like a month (kayak, Google flights) than a catch all site that always has killer deals. If you're not too particular on where you go you can sign up for Scott Keyes newsletter. He sends out links to random crazy cheap international flights a couple times a week. ", "Be flexible. I've flown to ireland and amsterdam on thanksgiving day. Cheap flights and nearly empty planes.\n\nAlso flying during the week can be cheaper and even more so if keep your eyes open for last minute deals on sites like cheaptickets or travelocity etc." ]

[ 4, 4, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to open your throat to down drinks quickly Maybe not a great LPT for your health but definitely a neat party trick. I've never been able to find an effective guide online. Thanks in advance!", "How to open your throat to down drinks quickly Maybe not a great LPT for your health but definitely a neat party trick. I've never been able to find an effective guide online. Thanks in advance!", "How to open your throat to down drinks quickly Maybe not a great LPT for your health but definitely a neat party trick. I've never been able to find an effective guide online. Thanks in advance!", "How to open your throat to down drinks quickly Maybe not a great LPT for your health but definitely a neat party trick. I've never been able to find an effective guide online. Thanks in advance!" ]

[ "The trick is you don't actually \"chug\" or swallow. You don't put your tongue to the roof of your mouth and use your throat muscles to \"swallow\". You are pouring the drink down your throat as if it was like a drain pipe. It just flows straight through. You open the mouth, tilt head right up until the throat is nice and straight and disengage the \"swallow\" muscles. ", "I have no idea why this works, but if you take your right hand (possibly left if that's your dominant one), make a fist with your thumb on the inside and squeeze, swallowing becomes way easier. Again, I don't know why this works and it seems silly even reading it back, but give it a try.", "Shotgun. You don't much choice but to open your throat. The fastest I've seen is about 3 or 4 seconds for a can of beer.", "This comment has been overwritten by an open source script to protect this user's privacy. It was created to help protect users from doxing, stalking, harassment, and profiling for the purposes of censorship. \n\n If you would also like to protect yourself, add the Chrome extension [TamperMonkey](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/tampermonkey/dhdgffkkebhmkfjojejmpbldmpobfkfo), or the Firefox extension [GreaseMonkey](https://addons.mozilla.org/en-us/firefox/addon/greasemonkey/) and add [this open source script](https://greasyfork.org/en/scripts/10380-reddit-overwrite). \n\n Then simply click on your username on Reddit, go to the comments tab, scroll down as far as possible (hint:use [RES](http://www.redditenhancementsuite.com/)), and hit the new OVERWRITE button at the top." ]

[ 6, 2, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to not worry about hearing your own voice or seeing yourself on camera? I'm a staff writer in the sports section of my school paper. I have to interview athletes/ coaches for quotes whenever I write a match preview/ review. Of course, I record the interviews on my phone to make sure I don't misquote them. But I hate listening to the recordings because I'm going to hear my voice, even if I try my best to skip past the questions and get to the answers. This makes me procrastinate to an extreme level, and frankly it's just annoying. \n\nI know that me hearing my voice after the fact won't change what they heard/ hear, or their perception of me, but I still can't bring myself to just do it. It takes me until a few hours before the deadline to actually get around to listening to the recordings/ starting my article. \n\nWhat can I do to overcome this barrier?", "How to not worry about hearing your own voice or seeing yourself on camera? I'm a staff writer in the sports section of my school paper. I have to interview athletes/ coaches for quotes whenever I write a match preview/ review. Of course, I record the interviews on my phone to make sure I don't misquote them. But I hate listening to the recordings because I'm going to hear my voice, even if I try my best to skip past the questions and get to the answers. This makes me procrastinate to an extreme level, and frankly it's just annoying. \n\nI know that me hearing my voice after the fact won't change what they heard/ hear, or their perception of me, but I still can't bring myself to just do it. It takes me until a few hours before the deadline to actually get around to listening to the recordings/ starting my article. \n\nWhat can I do to overcome this barrier?", "How to not worry about hearing your own voice or seeing yourself on camera? I'm a staff writer in the sports section of my school paper. I have to interview athletes/ coaches for quotes whenever I write a match preview/ review. Of course, I record the interviews on my phone to make sure I don't misquote them. But I hate listening to the recordings because I'm going to hear my voice, even if I try my best to skip past the questions and get to the answers. This makes me procrastinate to an extreme level, and frankly it's just annoying. \n\nI know that me hearing my voice after the fact won't change what they heard/ hear, or their perception of me, but I still can't bring myself to just do it. It takes me until a few hours before the deadline to actually get around to listening to the recordings/ starting my article. \n\nWhat can I do to overcome this barrier?" ]

[ "You need to relax and realize that's exactly how other people see and hear you and the people who like you like you anyways. You may be uncomfortable with it, but they aren't. Ever been with someone who says \"I look ugly in that photo\" or \"ugh I hate the sound of my voice on tape\"? What was your reaction? Was it \"you're right, that's awful\" or did you find yourself thinking \"what do you mean? You look fine.\"\nWilling to bet you didn't have the same issues with it that they did. Now just understand the same applies to you. ", "therapy? you mentioned people's perception of you being a factor, and imo you can't be self-confident and okay being yourself with just some positive reinforcement or positive habits.", "Realize there are two very specific reasons you feel that way:\n\n1. Your voice: typically you \"hear\" it by resonance through your own skull and tissues. When you talk to other people, your voice sounds different to you than when you listen to it on audio. This is because on audio, you don't get the added depth of sound reverberating through your body. It's not how you're used to hearing it. You can balance this out with conditioning. Record yourself talking and listen to it over and over until it no longer sounds strange.\n\n2. Your image: again, it's not how you're used to seeing it. Even though elementary school math and science told you that your body is symmetrical, it isn't. Not perfectly at least. You're used to making yourself look good in a mirror, and that's not the exact same image you see on video and in pictures. If this bothers you enough, you can buy a \"true image\" type of mirror, which is really just 2 mirrors at a fixed angle (I think 90 degrees to each other placed at 45 degrees in relation to your face) that reflect your image as others see it. Getting ready using this type of mirror will let you see how others see you, and you'll get used to that image of yourself." ]

[ 4, 1, 1 ]

[ "how to enjoy a possibly loud environment with gf if I hate loud noise Im going to a John Mayer concert with my gf in a few days as a birthday present to her, and Id like to enjoy my time there, but I HATE loud noise, and it puts me in a very irritable mood, along with migraines and nausea in the end.\n\nBesides just not going at all, what can I do to still enjoy the concert? Im already opting for earplugs, hoping theyll drown out the constant sound.\n\nThis isnt necessarily about the music being loud, but more-so the crowd.", "how to enjoy a possibly loud environment with gf if I hate loud noise Im going to a John Mayer concert with my gf in a few days as a birthday present to her, and Id like to enjoy my time there, but I HATE loud noise, and it puts me in a very irritable mood, along with migraines and nausea in the end.\n\nBesides just not going at all, what can I do to still enjoy the concert? Im already opting for earplugs, hoping theyll drown out the constant sound.\n\nThis isnt necessarily about the music being loud, but more-so the crowd.", "how to enjoy a possibly loud environment with gf if I hate loud noise Im going to a John Mayer concert with my gf in a few days as a birthday present to her, and Id like to enjoy my time there, but I HATE loud noise, and it puts me in a very irritable mood, along with migraines and nausea in the end.\n\nBesides just not going at all, what can I do to still enjoy the concert? Im already opting for earplugs, hoping theyll drown out the constant sound.\n\nThis isnt necessarily about the music being loud, but more-so the crowd.", "how to enjoy a possibly loud environment with gf if I hate loud noise Im going to a John Mayer concert with my gf in a few days as a birthday present to her, and Id like to enjoy my time there, but I HATE loud noise, and it puts me in a very irritable mood, along with migraines and nausea in the end.\n\nBesides just not going at all, what can I do to still enjoy the concert? Im already opting for earplugs, hoping theyll drown out the constant sound.\n\nThis isnt necessarily about the music being loud, but more-so the crowd.", "how to enjoy a possibly loud environment with gf if I hate loud noise Im going to a John Mayer concert with my gf in a few days as a birthday present to her, and Id like to enjoy my time there, but I HATE loud noise, and it puts me in a very irritable mood, along with migraines and nausea in the end.\n\nBesides just not going at all, what can I do to still enjoy the concert? Im already opting for earplugs, hoping theyll drown out the constant sound.\n\nThis isnt necessarily about the music being loud, but more-so the crowd.", "how to enjoy a possibly loud environment with gf if I hate loud noise Im going to a John Mayer concert with my gf in a few days as a birthday present to her, and Id like to enjoy my time there, but I HATE loud noise, and it puts me in a very irritable mood, along with migraines and nausea in the end.\n\nBesides just not going at all, what can I do to still enjoy the concert? Im already opting for earplugs, hoping theyll drown out the constant sound.\n\nThis isnt necessarily about the music being loud, but more-so the crowd." ]

[ " earplugs and some kind of mood elevator , a drink, some smoke, intravenous heroin, whatevers clever.", "You can't. I am the same way. Anything you do will be trying to \"tolerate\" it better. Best bet is to be honest with her about how it makes you feel. If it's important to her to go get a friend of hers to accompany her. If she actually cares about you she won't be upset about your situation whether she chooses to go or not.\n\nThe problem with hearing protection is it only blocks part of the sound going into the ear canals. You can't stop the sound conducted through the bones in your skull at all. And at the extreme volumes most concerts and clubs play at anymore even the best rated earplugs aren't going to make even the ear canal portion \"comfortable\" for you. ", "Hyperacusis? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyperacusis\n\nIt can get really, really bad. Protect your hearing and sanity. \n\nhttp://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1363993/Allergic-sound-The-debilitating-condition-suffered-thousands-Britons-makes-everyday-noise-excruciatingly-loud.html", "Going to Red Rocks? \nFor ear plugs you'll want the highest NRR you can find. NRR is Noise Reduction Rating. I recommended getting a few pairs of the same type and finding a quiet place to change them every hour or so. \nIf you want to really go quiet you can stack plugs with ear muffs. See here: http://www.coopersafety.com/NoiseReduction.aspx \nFinally you can get custom ear plugs made they are very comfortable and can double as headphones if you want. They are more expensive and it is unlikely you can get them before a concert in a few days but something to consider for the future. \n\n", "Earplugs. Look for the soft, squishy foam kind... not the hard-plastic/rubber-earscrew types. You'll not only enjoy the atmosphere better, but you'll be able to appreciate the music moreso as well. \n\nBe thankful it's John Mayer (who does some wonderful music), and not Corrosion of Conformity.", "Earplugs are actually pretty good for a concert. It takes most of the harshness out of the sound, it's still reasonably loud, but not as painful on the ear.\nAlso, an obvious point, but don't stand too near the speakers. Ideally, you should stand near the sound technicians, the sound is always good there." ]

[ 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "I'm autistic and I want to go travelling. What are the best things I can bring or do to prepare for it? ", "I'm autistic and I want to go travelling. What are the best things I can bring or do to prepare for it? " ]

[ "I usually bring earplugs when flying on planes since planes make a lot of noise. Noise cancelling headphones would also work too.", "Download offline maps on Google Maps of the area you're going to visit, and download your playlist if you're using a music streaming service like Spotify. It will allow you to use both when there's no reception." ]

[ 2, 2 ]

[ "How to trick myself into arriving early to meetings. I am an product engineer in sales and I meet with customers all the time. I work from home and travel to customer's offices 4-5 times a week. I have a problem .. and it's all in my head; I can't show up early for these meetings.\n\nI will wait until the last possible second to leave my house to make the meeting. I will even calculate the travel time and add a buffer. Let's say I have a customer meeting at 11:00 and google maps says it's 45 mins away. I will mentally add a 10-15 buffer and plan to leave between 10:00 and 10:05. Then when the time comes, I am working on other things, on a phone, getting ready, etc and I don't leave until the very last minute, 10:15. I know, its poor self discipline. It's like my mind knows the absolute last second to leave and will encourage me to get others things done within the buffer period. \n\nMore often than not I make it on time or even a couple mins early .. so it validates me waiting until the last minute to leave. But there are a couple times, like 1 out of 10, that I hit unexpected traffic or the GPS messes up or something unplanned happens that I show up 5 - 10 mins late. My sales colleague is the opposite; he is always at least 15 minutes early and when I'm late (like today) it does not look good. I need and want to fix this. Is there anyone else that is a procrastinator like me - waits until the very last second to do something - but has figured out how to 'trick' themselves into doing something early? \n\nAny recommendations or tricks to help me show up 15 minutes to meetings would be greatly appreciated!", "How to trick myself into arriving early to meetings. I am an product engineer in sales and I meet with customers all the time. I work from home and travel to customer's offices 4-5 times a week. I have a problem .. and it's all in my head; I can't show up early for these meetings.\n\nI will wait until the last possible second to leave my house to make the meeting. I will even calculate the travel time and add a buffer. Let's say I have a customer meeting at 11:00 and google maps says it's 45 mins away. I will mentally add a 10-15 buffer and plan to leave between 10:00 and 10:05. Then when the time comes, I am working on other things, on a phone, getting ready, etc and I don't leave until the very last minute, 10:15. I know, its poor self discipline. It's like my mind knows the absolute last second to leave and will encourage me to get others things done within the buffer period. \n\nMore often than not I make it on time or even a couple mins early .. so it validates me waiting until the last minute to leave. But there are a couple times, like 1 out of 10, that I hit unexpected traffic or the GPS messes up or something unplanned happens that I show up 5 - 10 mins late. My sales colleague is the opposite; he is always at least 15 minutes early and when I'm late (like today) it does not look good. I need and want to fix this. Is there anyone else that is a procrastinator like me - waits until the very last second to do something - but has figured out how to 'trick' themselves into doing something early? \n\nAny recommendations or tricks to help me show up 15 minutes to meetings would be greatly appreciated!", "How to trick myself into arriving early to meetings. I am an product engineer in sales and I meet with customers all the time. I work from home and travel to customer's offices 4-5 times a week. I have a problem .. and it's all in my head; I can't show up early for these meetings.\n\nI will wait until the last possible second to leave my house to make the meeting. I will even calculate the travel time and add a buffer. Let's say I have a customer meeting at 11:00 and google maps says it's 45 mins away. I will mentally add a 10-15 buffer and plan to leave between 10:00 and 10:05. Then when the time comes, I am working on other things, on a phone, getting ready, etc and I don't leave until the very last minute, 10:15. I know, its poor self discipline. It's like my mind knows the absolute last second to leave and will encourage me to get others things done within the buffer period. \n\nMore often than not I make it on time or even a couple mins early .. so it validates me waiting until the last minute to leave. But there are a couple times, like 1 out of 10, that I hit unexpected traffic or the GPS messes up or something unplanned happens that I show up 5 - 10 mins late. My sales colleague is the opposite; he is always at least 15 minutes early and when I'm late (like today) it does not look good. I need and want to fix this. Is there anyone else that is a procrastinator like me - waits until the very last second to do something - but has figured out how to 'trick' themselves into doing something early? \n\nAny recommendations or tricks to help me show up 15 minutes to meetings would be greatly appreciated!", "How to trick myself into arriving early to meetings. I am an product engineer in sales and I meet with customers all the time. I work from home and travel to customer's offices 4-5 times a week. I have a problem .. and it's all in my head; I can't show up early for these meetings.\n\nI will wait until the last possible second to leave my house to make the meeting. I will even calculate the travel time and add a buffer. Let's say I have a customer meeting at 11:00 and google maps says it's 45 mins away. I will mentally add a 10-15 buffer and plan to leave between 10:00 and 10:05. Then when the time comes, I am working on other things, on a phone, getting ready, etc and I don't leave until the very last minute, 10:15. I know, its poor self discipline. It's like my mind knows the absolute last second to leave and will encourage me to get others things done within the buffer period. \n\nMore often than not I make it on time or even a couple mins early .. so it validates me waiting until the last minute to leave. But there are a couple times, like 1 out of 10, that I hit unexpected traffic or the GPS messes up or something unplanned happens that I show up 5 - 10 mins late. My sales colleague is the opposite; he is always at least 15 minutes early and when I'm late (like today) it does not look good. I need and want to fix this. Is there anyone else that is a procrastinator like me - waits until the very last second to do something - but has figured out how to 'trick' themselves into doing something early? \n\nAny recommendations or tricks to help me show up 15 minutes to meetings would be greatly appreciated!", "How to trick myself into arriving early to meetings. I am an product engineer in sales and I meet with customers all the time. I work from home and travel to customer's offices 4-5 times a week. I have a problem .. and it's all in my head; I can't show up early for these meetings.\n\nI will wait until the last possible second to leave my house to make the meeting. I will even calculate the travel time and add a buffer. Let's say I have a customer meeting at 11:00 and google maps says it's 45 mins away. I will mentally add a 10-15 buffer and plan to leave between 10:00 and 10:05. Then when the time comes, I am working on other things, on a phone, getting ready, etc and I don't leave until the very last minute, 10:15. I know, its poor self discipline. It's like my mind knows the absolute last second to leave and will encourage me to get others things done within the buffer period. \n\nMore often than not I make it on time or even a couple mins early .. so it validates me waiting until the last minute to leave. But there are a couple times, like 1 out of 10, that I hit unexpected traffic or the GPS messes up or something unplanned happens that I show up 5 - 10 mins late. My sales colleague is the opposite; he is always at least 15 minutes early and when I'm late (like today) it does not look good. I need and want to fix this. Is there anyone else that is a procrastinator like me - waits until the very last second to do something - but has figured out how to 'trick' themselves into doing something early? \n\nAny recommendations or tricks to help me show up 15 minutes to meetings would be greatly appreciated!", "How to trick myself into arriving early to meetings. I am an product engineer in sales and I meet with customers all the time. I work from home and travel to customer's offices 4-5 times a week. I have a problem .. and it's all in my head; I can't show up early for these meetings.\n\nI will wait until the last possible second to leave my house to make the meeting. I will even calculate the travel time and add a buffer. Let's say I have a customer meeting at 11:00 and google maps says it's 45 mins away. I will mentally add a 10-15 buffer and plan to leave between 10:00 and 10:05. Then when the time comes, I am working on other things, on a phone, getting ready, etc and I don't leave until the very last minute, 10:15. I know, its poor self discipline. It's like my mind knows the absolute last second to leave and will encourage me to get others things done within the buffer period. \n\nMore often than not I make it on time or even a couple mins early .. so it validates me waiting until the last minute to leave. But there are a couple times, like 1 out of 10, that I hit unexpected traffic or the GPS messes up or something unplanned happens that I show up 5 - 10 mins late. My sales colleague is the opposite; he is always at least 15 minutes early and when I'm late (like today) it does not look good. I need and want to fix this. Is there anyone else that is a procrastinator like me - waits until the very last second to do something - but has figured out how to 'trick' themselves into doing something early? \n\nAny recommendations or tricks to help me show up 15 minutes to meetings would be greatly appreciated!", "How to trick myself into arriving early to meetings. I am an product engineer in sales and I meet with customers all the time. I work from home and travel to customer's offices 4-5 times a week. I have a problem .. and it's all in my head; I can't show up early for these meetings.\n\nI will wait until the last possible second to leave my house to make the meeting. I will even calculate the travel time and add a buffer. Let's say I have a customer meeting at 11:00 and google maps says it's 45 mins away. I will mentally add a 10-15 buffer and plan to leave between 10:00 and 10:05. Then when the time comes, I am working on other things, on a phone, getting ready, etc and I don't leave until the very last minute, 10:15. I know, its poor self discipline. It's like my mind knows the absolute last second to leave and will encourage me to get others things done within the buffer period. \n\nMore often than not I make it on time or even a couple mins early .. so it validates me waiting until the last minute to leave. But there are a couple times, like 1 out of 10, that I hit unexpected traffic or the GPS messes up or something unplanned happens that I show up 5 - 10 mins late. My sales colleague is the opposite; he is always at least 15 minutes early and when I'm late (like today) it does not look good. I need and want to fix this. Is there anyone else that is a procrastinator like me - waits until the very last second to do something - but has figured out how to 'trick' themselves into doing something early? \n\nAny recommendations or tricks to help me show up 15 minutes to meetings would be greatly appreciated!", "How to trick myself into arriving early to meetings. I am an product engineer in sales and I meet with customers all the time. I work from home and travel to customer's offices 4-5 times a week. I have a problem .. and it's all in my head; I can't show up early for these meetings.\n\nI will wait until the last possible second to leave my house to make the meeting. I will even calculate the travel time and add a buffer. Let's say I have a customer meeting at 11:00 and google maps says it's 45 mins away. I will mentally add a 10-15 buffer and plan to leave between 10:00 and 10:05. Then when the time comes, I am working on other things, on a phone, getting ready, etc and I don't leave until the very last minute, 10:15. I know, its poor self discipline. It's like my mind knows the absolute last second to leave and will encourage me to get others things done within the buffer period. \n\nMore often than not I make it on time or even a couple mins early .. so it validates me waiting until the last minute to leave. But there are a couple times, like 1 out of 10, that I hit unexpected traffic or the GPS messes up or something unplanned happens that I show up 5 - 10 mins late. My sales colleague is the opposite; he is always at least 15 minutes early and when I'm late (like today) it does not look good. I need and want to fix this. Is there anyone else that is a procrastinator like me - waits until the very last second to do something - but has figured out how to 'trick' themselves into doing something early? \n\nAny recommendations or tricks to help me show up 15 minutes to meetings would be greatly appreciated!", "How to trick myself into arriving early to meetings. I am an product engineer in sales and I meet with customers all the time. I work from home and travel to customer's offices 4-5 times a week. I have a problem .. and it's all in my head; I can't show up early for these meetings.\n\nI will wait until the last possible second to leave my house to make the meeting. I will even calculate the travel time and add a buffer. Let's say I have a customer meeting at 11:00 and google maps says it's 45 mins away. I will mentally add a 10-15 buffer and plan to leave between 10:00 and 10:05. Then when the time comes, I am working on other things, on a phone, getting ready, etc and I don't leave until the very last minute, 10:15. I know, its poor self discipline. It's like my mind knows the absolute last second to leave and will encourage me to get others things done within the buffer period. \n\nMore often than not I make it on time or even a couple mins early .. so it validates me waiting until the last minute to leave. But there are a couple times, like 1 out of 10, that I hit unexpected traffic or the GPS messes up or something unplanned happens that I show up 5 - 10 mins late. My sales colleague is the opposite; he is always at least 15 minutes early and when I'm late (like today) it does not look good. I need and want to fix this. Is there anyone else that is a procrastinator like me - waits until the very last second to do something - but has figured out how to 'trick' themselves into doing something early? \n\nAny recommendations or tricks to help me show up 15 minutes to meetings would be greatly appreciated!" ]

[ "#1: Adopt this mantra: There is no such thing as 'on time' - if you are not early you are late.\n\n#2: Be early - don't leave the room because you're the first one there\n\n#3: Try to do less. Eliminate 'multi-tasking' by scheduling time for specific tasks & stick to those priorities.\n\n#4: Find something to fill those 15 minutes. Make it a 'housekeeping' task such as organizing e-mails, read your favorite blog, read reddit, check facebook, etc. These types of activities are easily interrupted as other people arrive...", "Be accountable to someone else. Tell someone that you'll be at the meeting at a certain time and for every time you're not, you'll donate a fixed amount of money to a charity or entity you hate (e.g. the political party you hate most).", "You're a grown up. Figure out how long it takes to get to the meeting. Subtract that from the meeting time. Leave before that.", "Reward system. Every minute you show up early to a meeting is a minute you get to play your favorite game later, or do your favorite thing. It doesn't really matter what the reward is. Just use it as a reward for doing something good. This doesn't even have to apply to showing up to work early. You can use it to program yourself to do anything. The only hard part is having discipline to not reward yourself when you don't do it.", "Okay, a few tips from someone who has the same issue unless I use said tips: 1) Set a timer on your phone or watch that goes off fifteen minutes before you are due to leave then two minutes then when it's time to leave. If that's too complicated try a repeating timer that just goes off every five minutes to remind you that time is indeed passing (I swear, there are warps in the time space continuum where time is lost). 2) Have some things organized the night before or habitually in a specific place so it's not going to slow you down (your suit is ready, your keys and phone live in a certain place and don't need to be found). 3) Keep in the back of your mind that you don't need the stress of rushing and worrying about being late and that you want to avoid screw-ups that are due to traffic, or other things that will make you late and make you look bad. I am an attorney and I really, really insist on being early to court just in case there's traffic, just in case there's some other odd problem, just in case my client needs something. I think having the motivation of wanting to do well and avoid stress plus having a few assists works well.", "Set your clocks early, if you know they are set earlier, adjust multiple clocks earlier to multiple earlier times so you can't keep track of time and have to leave early.", "By 10:00 everything should be ready, no matter what. Consider 10:00-10:15 resting time. You choose if you want to wait or get going. ", "Set ALL of your clocks back roughly 10 minutes, I started doing this about a month ago and it has worked wonders at how I am not late for anything anymore", "Get one of those shock pens and a box/bag/appropriate group unit of your favorite sweet/snack/etc. , every time you don't leave early shock yourself, every time you do leave early reward yourself with your chosen sweet/snack/etc. " ]

[ 19, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Tips for moving into the USA I'm a 19yo German and I think about moving into the states in a few years. I know the overall techniques, all I ask for are some tips regarding anything else I maybe have to know", "Tips for moving into the USA I'm a 19yo German and I think about moving into the states in a few years. I know the overall techniques, all I ask for are some tips regarding anything else I maybe have to know", "Tips for moving into the USA I'm a 19yo German and I think about moving into the states in a few years. I know the overall techniques, all I ask for are some tips regarding anything else I maybe have to know", "Tips for moving into the USA I'm a 19yo German and I think about moving into the states in a few years. I know the overall techniques, all I ask for are some tips regarding anything else I maybe have to know", "Tips for moving into the USA I'm a 19yo German and I think about moving into the states in a few years. I know the overall techniques, all I ask for are some tips regarding anything else I maybe have to know" ]

[ "The biggest problem I've noted among Europeans coming to the US is that they have no grasp of the scale of the place. For example, the driving distance from Paris to Berlin is 1054km (655mi). The driving distance from Las Vegas to Portland, Oregon is 1565km. [Other cities.](https://www.distancefromto.net/city-las-vegas-us)\n\nThe area of Las Vegas is 352 square kilometers. Its metro area is around 1,600 square km So don't even think you can get around much on a bicycle.\n\n[Temperature chart.](https://i.imgur.com/gnCvoQx.png)", "I know you said southwest, but Atlanta has a lot of opportunities in media. That’s where I live, and I work in media.\n\nThere’s also a cool little town about an hour north that’s a total tourist trap, but it’s made up to look like an alpine town, and has a bunch of German restaurants and bars. Not sure how authentic, so they will either be great, or infuriating.", "American citizen here - I'd suggest a few things: 1) figure out where you want to live in the USA, 2) know English, 3) expect that you may have repeat yourself sometimes, accents can throw us off, and 4) remember that most Americans don't use the metric system, so you may want to practice using measurements such as feet, inches, miles, etc.\n\nJust to mention by where you want to be, I mean things like the Northeast USA (New York), Midwest (think Chicagoland), The West Coast (LA/California), Southeast, or Southwest (think Arizona/Texas).\n\nJust to mention for point 3, people from the Midwest have the non-heard to themselves accent, so you may repeat yourself more around people from there - I know this from experience as a Midwestern, myself. Also, English can vary from area to area in the USA, (like how Ya'll is a term in some areas or how slang is different in some areas then others), so it can vary a lot.", "Where are you moving and what will you be doing? \n\nWithout knowing any of that info, I’d say get good at speaking English. Most people here only speak English, and if they know a second language it’s probably not German.", "Research where you want to move to. The US, states and even cities are as diverse as countries within Europe.\n\nCompare Cost of Living, Rent, and what you are looking for in a place to live." ]

[ 5, 3, 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to stop postponing difficult tasks? I keep putting off difficult tasks for a later time. I come up with reasons like inadequate preparation to postpone these tasks. ", "How to stop postponing difficult tasks? I keep putting off difficult tasks for a later time. I come up with reasons like inadequate preparation to postpone these tasks. ", "How to stop postponing difficult tasks? I keep putting off difficult tasks for a later time. I come up with reasons like inadequate preparation to postpone these tasks. ", "How to stop postponing difficult tasks? I keep putting off difficult tasks for a later time. I come up with reasons like inadequate preparation to postpone these tasks. " ]

[ "Break them down into smaller chunks so they do not feel so large.\n\nFor example, when I am ", "What kind of tasks? I like all of the responses so far, and I would add that breaking off the first chunk may be difficult in some cases because it might set things off in the wrong direction. In that case, I would make a list of subtasks first, and then focus on doing the first subtask. Also it can help to ask \"If not now, when?\"", "Or start with the one you're dreading the most. The sense of relief of getting it \"out of the way\" and realizing that it wasn't so bad might make you less reluctant to tackle the next most difficult task.", "Another approach which is often taught to get yourself to do something you don't want to is to Validate you don't want to do it. It's okay and often necessary to say to yourself \" I really don't want to do X, this sucks\". \n\nAfter that figure out the first step, in the most simple simple, way. For instance, if you have to write an essay, the first step might be \"turn on my computer\". Then just do the first step. I.e. turn on your computer." ]

[ 8, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "Finding Friends Post College I'm wondering if anyone else has ideas, and here is my list of ways to find friends: at the gym, while volunteering, while doing activities in your city's sub reddit, finding alumni activities, sports clubs and hiking club, hacker spaces, and hanging out at coffee shops. \nDoes anyone else have any ideas for resources to make friends after college?", "Finding Friends Post College I'm wondering if anyone else has ideas, and here is my list of ways to find friends: at the gym, while volunteering, while doing activities in your city's sub reddit, finding alumni activities, sports clubs and hiking club, hacker spaces, and hanging out at coffee shops. \nDoes anyone else have any ideas for resources to make friends after college?", "Finding Friends Post College I'm wondering if anyone else has ideas, and here is my list of ways to find friends: at the gym, while volunteering, while doing activities in your city's sub reddit, finding alumni activities, sports clubs and hiking club, hacker spaces, and hanging out at coffee shops. \nDoes anyone else have any ideas for resources to make friends after college?", "Finding Friends Post College I'm wondering if anyone else has ideas, and here is my list of ways to find friends: at the gym, while volunteering, while doing activities in your city's sub reddit, finding alumni activities, sports clubs and hiking club, hacker spaces, and hanging out at coffee shops. \nDoes anyone else have any ideas for resources to make friends after college?" ]

[ "Just chat people up wherever you are. It helps to work on your social skills (reading people, breaking the ice) and you never know who you might meet. ", "I've been told that after college, hell, even in college, act like the person you're trying to be friends with is already your friend. Don't approach them like you would in primary school and ask, \"would you like to be friends?\" ", "Get involved in things and organizations you love, and you'll find people with common interests who have done the same.\n\nPractically every arts organization these days (performing arts, especially) - has their own \"young professionals\" groups (which is really code for anyone under 35, no matter what they do). Great way to meet people who like the same kind of stuff you do.\n\nFilm clubs, for art-house-movie goers.\n\nAnd ask your other friends. As crazy as it sounds, \"networking\" to find other people with common interests is a great way to meet other people in general. You never know who you'll run into, even if their specific interests don't match quite a well as the person who connected you.", "If your gym offers classes, I'd recommend going to classes to meet people. In my opinion, the classes attract more social/friendly people. Those who want solitude when working out tend to avoid them." ]

[ 5, 5, 3, 1 ]

[ "how to improve my hands' precision when doing sensible stuff like soldering circuits? Sometimes I get really shaky and even though it's not a problem right now, (18 y/o) I will be needing to be more precise in the future.", "how to improve my hands' precision when doing sensible stuff like soldering circuits? Sometimes I get really shaky and even though it's not a problem right now, (18 y/o) I will be needing to be more precise in the future.", "how to improve my hands' precision when doing sensible stuff like soldering circuits? Sometimes I get really shaky and even though it's not a problem right now, (18 y/o) I will be needing to be more precise in the future.", "how to improve my hands' precision when doing sensible stuff like soldering circuits? Sometimes I get really shaky and even though it's not a problem right now, (18 y/o) I will be needing to be more precise in the future." ]

[ "Speaking as somebody who has performed a couple hundred thousand solder joins in my life, I can offer these tips to reduce the shakes.\n\n- Don't drink a lot of coffee, energy drinks, or anything with caffeine before doing this kind of work. The less stimulants in your system, the better.\n\n- Hold your soldering iron/gun as close to the tip as you can (without burning yourself of course). The more real estate that is hanging out there, the more the tip will shake.\n\n- Improvise a brace, hard point or anything you can to rest the shaft of the soldering iron or gun before applying the tip to the work. Doing this will virtually eliminate any possibility of the tip shaking.\n\n- Even if your vision is perfect, use a magnifier with a built-in light to enlarge the work and make it much easier to apply the tip where it needs to go.", "Leaning against a hard surface with your elbow/forearm will stop the shaking and allow for a better precision.\n\nChange the angle at which you go about soldering circuits in order to get the best position to solder correctly and for your hand to be in a stable position.\n\nAlso try to be at your best when doing these kind of tasks such as sufficient sleep and not after a lot of caffeine intake.\n\nYou will get better at it with practice and wish you the best of luck !", "If you can, lay the hand holding the iron down and rock it to the target, kind of like using a rest to shoot. You hand can't jiggle much if it is on a table or whatever.", "Avoid caffeine and refined sugar, and lean your elbow or forearm against something nearby to provide stability." ]

[ 16, 4, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to choose the good vegetables at the grocery store I think a lot of us have no idea what we're doing when we buy vegetables on the grocery store, and I thought that this would be a good opportunity to share with the rest of us what is the best way to choose certain vegetables. And because each vegetable is different, we'd need a few different guides. Would anyone be able to help with this?", "How to choose the good vegetables at the grocery store I think a lot of us have no idea what we're doing when we buy vegetables on the grocery store, and I thought that this would be a good opportunity to share with the rest of us what is the best way to choose certain vegetables. And because each vegetable is different, we'd need a few different guides. Would anyone be able to help with this?", "How to choose the good vegetables at the grocery store I think a lot of us have no idea what we're doing when we buy vegetables on the grocery store, and I thought that this would be a good opportunity to share with the rest of us what is the best way to choose certain vegetables. And because each vegetable is different, we'd need a few different guides. Would anyone be able to help with this?", "How to choose the good vegetables at the grocery store I think a lot of us have no idea what we're doing when we buy vegetables on the grocery store, and I thought that this would be a good opportunity to share with the rest of us what is the best way to choose certain vegetables. And because each vegetable is different, we'd need a few different guides. Would anyone be able to help with this?" ]

[ "Know your purveyor: Walmart produce is frequently crap. Not surprising, since their market niche is \"lowest prices in town\". That truckload of potatoes that were allowed to freeze, or the celery that got left on the loading dock and wilted? Walmart'll take 'em.\n\nDisclaimer: I do all my shopping at Kroger and Cub Foods, because I do not have access to a genuine farmer's market. The venues that set up in my town as 'Farmer's Market' sell the usual factory-farm produce purchased at the wholesaler in St.Louis. So the following is a compendium of Kroger Lore.\n\nShopping for fruit is harder than shopping for veg, because any mope can look at some green bell peppers or zucchini and see whether they've got scarring all over them, but choosing fruit is frequently a crapshoot.\n\nHow to buy canteloupe, honeydew, muskmelons: Smell it. Bring it right up to your nose and take a good whiff. If if smells like canteloupe, then it's ripe. If it doesn't smell like anything at all, put it back and save your money.\n\nIf you're going to buy a watermelon, buy a serious watermelon; get a bigass one, the kind that takes a grown man to carry in from the car, from some guy who grows them on his 10 acres, because the small round mini-watermelons at Kroger are bred to fit on a refrigerator shelf (true story) and not for flavor.\n\nPeaches, in any venue other than a genuine farmer's market where the peach grower himself has picked his peaches and brought them downtown in a truck, will not be ripe. At all. Ever.\n\nRipe peaches do not ship, period. And peaches, unlike other fruits like pears and bananas, do not continue to ripen after they've been picked. So all the peaches that you see at Kroger have been picked half-ripe, so that they'll survive shipping, and what you're getting in no way resembles a truly ripe peach. \n\nThis also holds true for nectarines.\n\nPlums are a complete crapshoot. It totally depends on where they came from and what kind of plums they are. Technique: buy one. Taste it. If it's good, go back and get more and enjoy it while it lasts.\n\nTable grapes are also a complete crapshoot. I have never been able to discover any connection between point of origin, size, color, or anything. Some table grapes are good, some are bad. Approved technique: Buy some, and see. Unapproved technique: Taste one while the Produce Guy isn't looking.\n\nThe best cherries come from two places: Traverse City, Michigan, and Washington state. If they don't say Michigan or Washington state, don't bother. \n\nIf you eat citrus fruit (as opposed to merely drinking OJ), it totally doesn't matter where it comes from; Florida, Texas, and California have it all down to a fine art, and you're going to get good citrus. (Of course, you're obviously not going to buy it at Walmart.) When Kroger gets in a shipment of clementines, go for it, they're always great.\n\nI have yet to see factory-farm strawberries that were worth it. They're bred for size, not flavor. If you have to put a ton of sugar on them in order to be able to eat them, then why bother?\n\nThe main advice I have for veg is: \n\nDon't buy potatoes at Walmart. Ever.\n\nDon't buy broccoli that's turning yellow.\n\nDon't buy yellow or white onions that are soft to the touch. They should be hard and solid.\n\nDitto for garlic. The cloves should be solid.\n\nDon't buy zucchini or summer squash that has brown scars all over it, because c'mon. You're going to eat that. Unless you're going to peel it.\n\nHow to buy waxed cucumbers (that you're going to peel for cuke salad): Heft it. It should feel heavy and solid. If it feels hollow, or worse, if you thump it and it sounds hollow, put it back.\n\nCelery: Whole celery should be dark green, the darker green, the better. If it's yellow-green, or god help us actually limp (Dole celery, I'm looking at you), it's been sitting on a loading dock somewhere in the sun.\n\nHow to buy fresh corn on the cob: Look at the end where it was cut off from the cornstalk. It should be fresh and moist, pale yellow to white. If it's brownish, or heaven help us, if it's totally dried out and looks like a dried stick attached to an ear of corn, put it back, there's really no point.\n\nHow to buy yams: They're pretty bombproof and are all good.\n\nHow to buy winter squash: Same.\n\n\nThose premixed lettuce greens in bags: Watch your expiration dates. \n\nDitto for fresh mushrooms; there's a reason why these over here are the \"Manager's Special\" today--the ones on the bottom of the container will be brown.\n\n", "If the employees do the job right, check under the stack. I used to work in produce, and to refill the containers of veggies and fruit, we would open the new package, empty the display into a bin, put the new package down, and then put the old back on top.", "As you noted, it depends on the vegetable, but one general tip for getting good produce is to buy what's currently in season. A tip for knowing what's in season - it will be cheap, and they will have a lot of it. ", "Just go for what looks prettiest or most appetizing. Intense colors, firm, smooth skin, an appetizing smell. You have a natural tendency to gravitate to what's good.\n\nFor grapefruit and celery, pick the heaviest one. It means it has a higher water content and is juicier. \n\nFor papaya, go for the small, firm, elongated ones. The big round ones tend to be overly ripe.\n\nFor lettuce and celery, check the base. If it has started to brown, or if the leaves are starting to wilt or go limp, that's a no-go." ]

[ 7, 4, 2, 1 ]

[ "on how to safely and properly lose weight Looking for some good tips and ideas for someone who wants to start loosing weight", "on how to safely and properly lose weight Looking for some good tips and ideas for someone who wants to start loosing weight", "on how to safely and properly lose weight Looking for some good tips and ideas for someone who wants to start loosing weight", "on how to safely and properly lose weight Looking for some good tips and ideas for someone who wants to start loosing weight", "on how to safely and properly lose weight Looking for some good tips and ideas for someone who wants to start loosing weight" ]

[ "Well, when I try to lose some weight, I cut sugar, soda, fried food, fast food in general, eat properly all the foods without excess, drink less coffee, drink more green tea, drinks a lot of water! \nI replace some snacks with more healthy things, for example, instead of chips, I eat a portion of almond and dry fruits like that. \nOr instead of pizza, tuna sandwichs. \nYou can let yourself eat something more tasty when you go out or in the weekend! \nDo some exercise you like, go out for a walk. \nJust remember to don't push yourself too hard! :)", "Try using the my fitness pal app. If you really and truly use it everyday for everything you eat I think you will be happy with the results. It's a very healthy way to watch your diet. ", "You lose weight when you're in a caloric deficit. I did intermittent fasting for a couple weeks I lost a couple pounds from 165lb to 145lb but went up to 150lb cause I felt like shit at 145lb. ", "It's all about what you eat. I can't even stress that enough. You can work out all you want but if your eating shitty food, and too much food your not going to notice a difference! Less carbs, more veggies and protein! ", "Finding a good calorie counting app helped big time, and being 100% honest with myself while using it. Logging everything I ate showed me the areas I needed to change, then I started making gradual lifestyle changes.\n" ]

[ 6, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to quit a job without feeling guilty? I work fulltime in a family owned restaurant for 3 months now. My previous employer (let’s call it Big Company) before this was on stand down during the Covid lockdown. Now, Big Company called me to start working during this peak holidays. I enjoyed working in Big Company, more fun and I was happier there. \nSo, this small restaurant I’m working in is hectic, and I also go home tired and mad at myself for accepting it fulltime. I should be more grateful because they were the ones who gave me a job after the lockdown. \nQuestion is, how do I turn down their counter offer and not be guilted into quitting this chef job?", "How to quit a job without feeling guilty? I work fulltime in a family owned restaurant for 3 months now. My previous employer (let’s call it Big Company) before this was on stand down during the Covid lockdown. Now, Big Company called me to start working during this peak holidays. I enjoyed working in Big Company, more fun and I was happier there. \nSo, this small restaurant I’m working in is hectic, and I also go home tired and mad at myself for accepting it fulltime. I should be more grateful because they were the ones who gave me a job after the lockdown. \nQuestion is, how do I turn down their counter offer and not be guilted into quitting this chef job?" ]

[ "Explain to them how you’re grateful but your career path has opened in a direction you didn’t think would be available to you again. Give your notice and offer to train a replacement at least partially while you’re still under their employ, or recommend someone for them.", "Tltr they will find someone else we are all replaceable, just pick what u think it's better for yourself" ]

[ 6, 5 ]

[ "tracking what's in the fridge/freezer Does anyone have any good tips for keeping track of the what's in the fridge/freezer?\n\nBonus points for a method that also lets you track expiration dates of the items.\n\nI've seen the \"magnetic poetry\" shopping lists and such, but they don't have all of the items I'd like to keep track of and aren't good for tracking leftovers and such.\n\nI've tried keeping a sheet on the fridge door, but it's a lot of effort to keep up-to-date and gets hard to read quickly.\n\nI've considered setting up an old netbook with a barcode-reading application to sign foods in/out, but that seems like a lot of work and, like the poetry, doesn't work well for leftovers.", "tracking what's in the fridge/freezer Does anyone have any good tips for keeping track of the what's in the fridge/freezer?\n\nBonus points for a method that also lets you track expiration dates of the items.\n\nI've seen the \"magnetic poetry\" shopping lists and such, but they don't have all of the items I'd like to keep track of and aren't good for tracking leftovers and such.\n\nI've tried keeping a sheet on the fridge door, but it's a lot of effort to keep up-to-date and gets hard to read quickly.\n\nI've considered setting up an old netbook with a barcode-reading application to sign foods in/out, but that seems like a lot of work and, like the poetry, doesn't work well for leftovers.", "tracking what's in the fridge/freezer Does anyone have any good tips for keeping track of the what's in the fridge/freezer?\n\nBonus points for a method that also lets you track expiration dates of the items.\n\nI've seen the \"magnetic poetry\" shopping lists and such, but they don't have all of the items I'd like to keep track of and aren't good for tracking leftovers and such.\n\nI've tried keeping a sheet on the fridge door, but it's a lot of effort to keep up-to-date and gets hard to read quickly.\n\nI've considered setting up an old netbook with a barcode-reading application to sign foods in/out, but that seems like a lot of work and, like the poetry, doesn't work well for leftovers.", "tracking what's in the fridge/freezer Does anyone have any good tips for keeping track of the what's in the fridge/freezer?\n\nBonus points for a method that also lets you track expiration dates of the items.\n\nI've seen the \"magnetic poetry\" shopping lists and such, but they don't have all of the items I'd like to keep track of and aren't good for tracking leftovers and such.\n\nI've tried keeping a sheet on the fridge door, but it's a lot of effort to keep up-to-date and gets hard to read quickly.\n\nI've considered setting up an old netbook with a barcode-reading application to sign foods in/out, but that seems like a lot of work and, like the poetry, doesn't work well for leftovers.", "tracking what's in the fridge/freezer Does anyone have any good tips for keeping track of the what's in the fridge/freezer?\n\nBonus points for a method that also lets you track expiration dates of the items.\n\nI've seen the \"magnetic poetry\" shopping lists and such, but they don't have all of the items I'd like to keep track of and aren't good for tracking leftovers and such.\n\nI've tried keeping a sheet on the fridge door, but it's a lot of effort to keep up-to-date and gets hard to read quickly.\n\nI've considered setting up an old netbook with a barcode-reading application to sign foods in/out, but that seems like a lot of work and, like the poetry, doesn't work well for leftovers.", "tracking what's in the fridge/freezer Does anyone have any good tips for keeping track of the what's in the fridge/freezer?\n\nBonus points for a method that also lets you track expiration dates of the items.\n\nI've seen the \"magnetic poetry\" shopping lists and such, but they don't have all of the items I'd like to keep track of and aren't good for tracking leftovers and such.\n\nI've tried keeping a sheet on the fridge door, but it's a lot of effort to keep up-to-date and gets hard to read quickly.\n\nI've considered setting up an old netbook with a barcode-reading application to sign foods in/out, but that seems like a lot of work and, like the poetry, doesn't work well for leftovers." ]

[ "It's called rotating. It's a habit to learn and takes a little more time when putting away the groceries. New stuff at the back old stuff in front. Masking tape and a marker for labeling and dating things, so you don't end up writing on the reusable containers over and over. \n\nAs a frugal tip something I've learned is not to do huge grocery shopping trips. Do more frequent smaller ones and only buy what you need for a couple of days. There's no point in buying huge and in bulk if it's going to go bad before you get to it. You'll also benefit from fresher groceries. I try to have nothing sit in my fridge for more than a week, aside from condiments. I do groceries once or twice a week. \n\nI find most of my groceries go into 2 categories. Fresh foods and supplies/condiments. When a supply is running low I add it to the list to be replaced on my next trip. I don't worry about expiration dates so much because anything I buy is going to be used within that week.", "None of this is necessary if you're making a meal list and only purchasing ingredients for those specific meals. If you are making a detailed shopping list and only buying what you will eat that week, you shouldn't have a bunch of random crap in your fridge. That's a waste of money anyway- why by eggplant when it's on sale if you have no idea what you're going to use it for and letting it sit and go bad? \n\nPantries/cabinets are for random stuff- beans are on sale, I can always use rice, Cheezits, yummy! Refrigerators are only for condiments and stuff you need *right now*.", "Can't help you with anything like a smartphone app, but I use a sharpy marker to be sure everything is labeled and dated. Good rule of thumb for leftovers if they're refrigerated is anything with animal proteins shouldn't be kept more than 5 days, items with dairy no longer than 4. Also remember when freezing things that even though they're frozen they will start to degrade after a certain amount of time. I don't keep anything for more than 3 months, although certain foods will hold up better than others.", "the magnet poetry method? I dont know if this is teh same or different than what you mean but those give away sheet magnets with calendars or ads on them, glue pictures of waht you commonly buy and as you use it , move them to an area of the fridge to let you know you are out. ", "Reading your replies and I see that you ask for advice and then reject all the good, experienced suggestions from people who've made it work. Sounds like you just want magic.", "Have you tried labeling everything you put in with a large sharpie with the date that you put it in? It's an easy visual indication when you're looking through a smaller freezer." ]

[ 6, 4, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Key management I carry 30 keys, mostly house keys, that I must always have somewhere on my person. Right now, they're all on a carabiner but they're hugely intrusive. Has anyone developed a solution for this yet? ", "Key management I carry 30 keys, mostly house keys, that I must always have somewhere on my person. Right now, they're all on a carabiner but they're hugely intrusive. Has anyone developed a solution for this yet? ", "Key management I carry 30 keys, mostly house keys, that I must always have somewhere on my person. Right now, they're all on a carabiner but they're hugely intrusive. Has anyone developed a solution for this yet? " ]

[ "I have [one of these](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00009R4CM?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_search_detailpage), and it allows me to easily group, remove, and add keys to my key ring. It's much smaller than a carabiner.", "[This?](https://d3vjvsn2tynjug.cloudfront.net/v2/w_490,h_490/https%3A%2F%2Fs3.amazonaws.com%2Ftanga-images%2Fa9cxzrb8evtp.jpg)", "Have you seen [things](https://www.brit.co/shop/catalog/keysmart_2004/?gclid=Cj0KEQjw75yxBRD78uqEnuG-5vcBEiQAQbaxSPY_orbTB2DQS0zqoF63DZtyjx3yooA4tKHzgQNFX-AaAh3C8P8HAQ) like that or [this](https://www.thegrommet.com/keysmart-minimalist-key-organizer) before? They would help cut down on at lest SOME of the mess." ]

[ 4, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to clean paint brushes after painting. My wife and I are painting in our basement and still have a week or two of nightly painting left (lots of trim and multiple coats and whatnot). Every night I spend about 10 minutes washing both of our paintbrushes out with hot water until the water runs *decently* clear and then we dry out/put in the freezer.\n\nAre there any easier methods to getting all of the paint out besides running water on them and smashing the bristles into the sink for 10 minutes straight?", "How to clean paint brushes after painting. My wife and I are painting in our basement and still have a week or two of nightly painting left (lots of trim and multiple coats and whatnot). Every night I spend about 10 minutes washing both of our paintbrushes out with hot water until the water runs *decently* clear and then we dry out/put in the freezer.\n\nAre there any easier methods to getting all of the paint out besides running water on them and smashing the bristles into the sink for 10 minutes straight?", "How to clean paint brushes after painting. My wife and I are painting in our basement and still have a week or two of nightly painting left (lots of trim and multiple coats and whatnot). Every night I spend about 10 minutes washing both of our paintbrushes out with hot water until the water runs *decently* clear and then we dry out/put in the freezer.\n\nAre there any easier methods to getting all of the paint out besides running water on them and smashing the bristles into the sink for 10 minutes straight?", "How to clean paint brushes after painting. My wife and I are painting in our basement and still have a week or two of nightly painting left (lots of trim and multiple coats and whatnot). Every night I spend about 10 minutes washing both of our paintbrushes out with hot water until the water runs *decently* clear and then we dry out/put in the freezer.\n\nAre there any easier methods to getting all of the paint out besides running water on them and smashing the bristles into the sink for 10 minutes straight?", "How to clean paint brushes after painting. My wife and I are painting in our basement and still have a week or two of nightly painting left (lots of trim and multiple coats and whatnot). Every night I spend about 10 minutes washing both of our paintbrushes out with hot water until the water runs *decently* clear and then we dry out/put in the freezer.\n\nAre there any easier methods to getting all of the paint out besides running water on them and smashing the bristles into the sink for 10 minutes straight?", "How to clean paint brushes after painting. My wife and I are painting in our basement and still have a week or two of nightly painting left (lots of trim and multiple coats and whatnot). Every night I spend about 10 minutes washing both of our paintbrushes out with hot water until the water runs *decently* clear and then we dry out/put in the freezer.\n\nAre there any easier methods to getting all of the paint out besides running water on them and smashing the bristles into the sink for 10 minutes straight?", "How to clean paint brushes after painting. My wife and I are painting in our basement and still have a week or two of nightly painting left (lots of trim and multiple coats and whatnot). Every night I spend about 10 minutes washing both of our paintbrushes out with hot water until the water runs *decently* clear and then we dry out/put in the freezer.\n\nAre there any easier methods to getting all of the paint out besides running water on them and smashing the bristles into the sink for 10 minutes straight?", "How to clean paint brushes after painting. My wife and I are painting in our basement and still have a week or two of nightly painting left (lots of trim and multiple coats and whatnot). Every night I spend about 10 minutes washing both of our paintbrushes out with hot water until the water runs *decently* clear and then we dry out/put in the freezer.\n\nAre there any easier methods to getting all of the paint out besides running water on them and smashing the bristles into the sink for 10 minutes straight?" ]

[ "Most brush maintenance comes way before cleaning:\n\n**Use the correct brush:**\n\n * Buy a synthetic brush for water-based paints, buy a natural brush for oil-based paints. Never mix.\n * Buy the correct size brush — 2\" angled brush. I prefer ones with stubby handles.\n * Buy a quality brand like Purdy, Wooster, or Sherwin-Williams. All of those are BIFL.\n\n**Use quality paint:**\n\n * Buy a good brand like Sherwin-Williams or Benjamin Moore. Big box stores' paint usually increases its latex content to provide better coverage and hide cheap ingredients. This high latex content dries quickly and gums up your brushes. If you are stuck with inferior paint, add a paint conditioner (not thinner) like Floetrol (for latex) or Penetrol (for oil) which will make the paint smoother and give you a better wet edge. Also, enjoy your new lack of brush strokes and roller marks!\n\n**Use your brush properly:**\n\n * Don't hold it like a roller or a pencil. [Hold it like a brush](http://imgur.com/7rFOi7M). If you find that hard to do at first, consider buying a [short handled brush](http://imgur.com/QuV49hi).\n * Never dip more than the first 1/3 of your brush in the paint. Brushes have internal wells that suck up and hold the paint. If you dip too far the paint gets sucked into the ferrule and take forever to clean. Allowing paint to dry in there will ruin your brush.\n * Never blot your brush or leave it standing on its bristles, which will cause split ends and ruin your brush.\n\n**Clean your brush properly:**\n\n * Use the proper solvent — water for latex, mineral spirits for oil-based. Never use anything else (unless noted on your paint can), or mix them up.\n * Run your brush under solvents and comb through it with a brush comb or old pocket comb until it's clean.\n * To dry, tap the ferrule against your palm until it no longer is flinging water. If you want to be thorough, you can use a [brush spinner](http://imgur.com/yZLmqUW), but that's usually something you invest in when you have a ton of brushes to dry.\n\n**Store your brush properly:**\n\n * Always store your brush in the packaging it came in — you didn't think that resealable piece of velcro was there just to make it easy to open did you? The package helps your brush keep its shape.\n * Always hang your brush from the hole in the handle. Again, this helps it keep its shape and not get damaged.\n * If you are going to store it long term, add a tiny dab of hair conditioner and work gently through the bristles before packing it away. It helps keep those wells in place and the bristles from drying out and cracking.\n * Never freeze your paint supplies — this is a terrible old wives tale. It will ruin your brushes, making the bristles fall out, and if you are trying to \"keep the paint fresh\" for painting the next night, prepare for your paint to peel as the solvent separates from the binders.\n\nI also saw that you, and another poster were having trouble with rollers. They are wicked easy to clean. Just use a [5-in-1 tool](http://imgur.com/VQ8kUAu) — the semi-circular curve is to \"squeegee\" rollers clean.\n\nHopefully this advice helps. If you follow these instructions you should notice a *huge* difference in paint/stroke quality and clean up, and will never have to buy another brush again!\n\nGood luck and happy painting!\n\n**", "put a plastic bag on the brush and wrap with a rubber band it keeps it from drying and you can just use it the next day, you only have to clean the brush when the job is done", "With rollers cover them with cling film, the clear plastic wrap stuff, then you don't have to bother cleaning them each day. Never tried it with paint brushes, but seems like it would be worth a try.", "To make it short:\n\nCheap brushes that you are OK with throwing away = do NOT rinse out at all but wrap them well in a plastic bag (with no holes!) and put a rubber band around it to block out air. The next day just take it all off and keep using them. Do the same with rollers (more about rollers later)\n\nBetter brushes you want to keep in good shape = rinse out entirely with cold water and dish soap until the water runs clear - then shake excess water off and hang upside down or laying flat. When using non water-based media, swish around in the solvent and blot THOROUGHLY with rags.\n\nYou can also rinse/squeeze and clean off rollers if there is time for them to TOTALLY dry out. Keep in mind the water in damp brushes or rollers will **contaminate the 'integrity' of the paint**. Also keep in mind that for the most part rollers are not meant to last in the same way brushes are. so have a finite lifetime.", "My dad uses Palmolive to help loosen up the paint in the bristles, but besides that it's just soap and hot water and scrubbing, lots and lots of scrubbing", "I'm assuming you are using oil based paints. Therefore an oil based solvent would do best. Any oil you have around would do but will leave paintbrushes then oily and in need of soap. Also, the oil can get expensive compared to water.\n\nPaint thinner will work as well, but has a similar expense problem to the oil in the quantities you seem to be hinting.", "I installed hardwood floors for a summer and we used gasoline for brushes with any kind of urethane or lacquer ", "At the theater I worked at, we scrape the brushes along their bristles with a wire grill brush while rinsing it, then wash. You use waaaaaaay less paint thinner." ]

[ 23, 5, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ " So i was off yesterday and had a really busy day so when i got home I layed down in bed and put in my headphones and when i woke up it was 4am. Today i work from 2:30- 11pm and while I'd love to go back to sleep I'm just not tired enough to. So I need to stay up for the next 20 hours at the very least, how would yall reccomend I do this?", " So i was off yesterday and had a really busy day so when i got home I layed down in bed and put in my headphones and when i woke up it was 4am. Today i work from 2:30- 11pm and while I'd love to go back to sleep I'm just not tired enough to. So I need to stay up for the next 20 hours at the very least, how would yall reccomend I do this?" ]

[ "I can only give general tips,coming from my student and office work experience:\n- Drink coffee only when you feel REALLY tired. And no energy drinks. Have in mind cafeine stays in your system for about 6 hours,so plan your next one (if you need it) accordingly.\n- Cold water and fresh/cold air really help. So does walking around instead of sleeping.\n- In terms of eye fatigue: sunlight >>> artificial light >>>> computer/phone screen light (ranking from best to worst for your eyes). \nThese, however, are for when you already feel tired. You already slept enough for your brain to restart, so you might only feel physical fatigue, in which case you don't need to worry! Plus, when you get to work, you will preocupy your brain so it will naturally postpone its planned sleep. Your brain works with you on this, no worries :)\n\n", "In times like this I find sleeping pills are useful to reset my schedule. I rarely use them so I use about 1/4 - 1/2 of a pill to get to sleep again and reset my sleep schedule that way.\n\nIt might not work in this situation but it could be useful in the future." ]

[ 2, 1 ]

[ "How to the clasp on my necklaces from falling to the front? It drives me crazy. I have about a dozen pendants I like to switch out on different chains, so the solution has to be removable easily.", "How to the clasp on my necklaces from falling to the front? It drives me crazy. I have about a dozen pendants I like to switch out on different chains, so the solution has to be removable easily." ]

[ "If I had gold to give to you, I would. This has irritated me since I was little and remember wearing necklaces. I hope someone has an answer, and I will love them for forever too.", "I have no clue if [these](http://www.necklacestays.com/home) necklace stays actually work....but that's one solution I guess. \n\nThe only other thing that I could think of is putting something stationary on each side of the pendant to keep it from moving. I assume it would keep the clasp in the back. The only thing I could find that was close to what I am thinking of was crimp beads...but I don't know how it works exactly. [This](https://www.inkling.com/read/dummies-jewelry-making-beading-dismore-powley-1st/chapter-2/putting-it-together-choosing) website kind of shows what I am thinking, in project 2-1. \n\nBest of luck!" ]

[ 13, 2 ]

[ "can non-dishwasher safe items be loaded in the dishwasher with a few drops of regular detergent only? I own a large amount of kitchenware that is not dishwasher-safe (NDS), and I'm looking to improve my cleaning efficiency. I've always been told that the main danger with these items is due to the harshness of the cleaners in the dishwasher soap, as it must be very strong to clean without any physical scrubbing action. I've also been told that dish detergent should not be used as a 1:1 substitute for dishwasher soap, as the latter has special anti-foaming properties.\n\nSo I got to thinking: can I not simply use the dishwasher with a very small amount (few drops) of dish detergent, without harm befalling my NDS items? I know the interior of the dishwasher gets very hot, but I use near-scalding water on my NDS stuff as-is, and no harm has come of it. If I use, say, the light/express mode to keep the cycle short, and the end result is that all of the food is cleaned off, what's the harm?", "can non-dishwasher safe items be loaded in the dishwasher with a few drops of regular detergent only? I own a large amount of kitchenware that is not dishwasher-safe (NDS), and I'm looking to improve my cleaning efficiency. I've always been told that the main danger with these items is due to the harshness of the cleaners in the dishwasher soap, as it must be very strong to clean without any physical scrubbing action. I've also been told that dish detergent should not be used as a 1:1 substitute for dishwasher soap, as the latter has special anti-foaming properties.\n\nSo I got to thinking: can I not simply use the dishwasher with a very small amount (few drops) of dish detergent, without harm befalling my NDS items? I know the interior of the dishwasher gets very hot, but I use near-scalding water on my NDS stuff as-is, and no harm has come of it. If I use, say, the light/express mode to keep the cycle short, and the end result is that all of the food is cleaned off, what's the harm?", "can non-dishwasher safe items be loaded in the dishwasher with a few drops of regular detergent only? I own a large amount of kitchenware that is not dishwasher-safe (NDS), and I'm looking to improve my cleaning efficiency. I've always been told that the main danger with these items is due to the harshness of the cleaners in the dishwasher soap, as it must be very strong to clean without any physical scrubbing action. I've also been told that dish detergent should not be used as a 1:1 substitute for dishwasher soap, as the latter has special anti-foaming properties.\n\nSo I got to thinking: can I not simply use the dishwasher with a very small amount (few drops) of dish detergent, without harm befalling my NDS items? I know the interior of the dishwasher gets very hot, but I use near-scalding water on my NDS stuff as-is, and no harm has come of it. If I use, say, the light/express mode to keep the cycle short, and the end result is that all of the food is cleaned off, what's the harm?", "can non-dishwasher safe items be loaded in the dishwasher with a few drops of regular detergent only? I own a large amount of kitchenware that is not dishwasher-safe (NDS), and I'm looking to improve my cleaning efficiency. I've always been told that the main danger with these items is due to the harshness of the cleaners in the dishwasher soap, as it must be very strong to clean without any physical scrubbing action. I've also been told that dish detergent should not be used as a 1:1 substitute for dishwasher soap, as the latter has special anti-foaming properties.\n\nSo I got to thinking: can I not simply use the dishwasher with a very small amount (few drops) of dish detergent, without harm befalling my NDS items? I know the interior of the dishwasher gets very hot, but I use near-scalding water on my NDS stuff as-is, and no harm has come of it. If I use, say, the light/express mode to keep the cycle short, and the end result is that all of the food is cleaned off, what's the harm?", "can non-dishwasher safe items be loaded in the dishwasher with a few drops of regular detergent only? I own a large amount of kitchenware that is not dishwasher-safe (NDS), and I'm looking to improve my cleaning efficiency. I've always been told that the main danger with these items is due to the harshness of the cleaners in the dishwasher soap, as it must be very strong to clean without any physical scrubbing action. I've also been told that dish detergent should not be used as a 1:1 substitute for dishwasher soap, as the latter has special anti-foaming properties.\n\nSo I got to thinking: can I not simply use the dishwasher with a very small amount (few drops) of dish detergent, without harm befalling my NDS items? I know the interior of the dishwasher gets very hot, but I use near-scalding water on my NDS stuff as-is, and no harm has come of it. If I use, say, the light/express mode to keep the cycle short, and the end result is that all of the food is cleaned off, what's the harm?", "can non-dishwasher safe items be loaded in the dishwasher with a few drops of regular detergent only? I own a large amount of kitchenware that is not dishwasher-safe (NDS), and I'm looking to improve my cleaning efficiency. I've always been told that the main danger with these items is due to the harshness of the cleaners in the dishwasher soap, as it must be very strong to clean without any physical scrubbing action. I've also been told that dish detergent should not be used as a 1:1 substitute for dishwasher soap, as the latter has special anti-foaming properties.\n\nSo I got to thinking: can I not simply use the dishwasher with a very small amount (few drops) of dish detergent, without harm befalling my NDS items? I know the interior of the dishwasher gets very hot, but I use near-scalding water on my NDS stuff as-is, and no harm has come of it. If I use, say, the light/express mode to keep the cycle short, and the end result is that all of the food is cleaned off, what's the harm?", "can non-dishwasher safe items be loaded in the dishwasher with a few drops of regular detergent only? I own a large amount of kitchenware that is not dishwasher-safe (NDS), and I'm looking to improve my cleaning efficiency. I've always been told that the main danger with these items is due to the harshness of the cleaners in the dishwasher soap, as it must be very strong to clean without any physical scrubbing action. I've also been told that dish detergent should not be used as a 1:1 substitute for dishwasher soap, as the latter has special anti-foaming properties.\n\nSo I got to thinking: can I not simply use the dishwasher with a very small amount (few drops) of dish detergent, without harm befalling my NDS items? I know the interior of the dishwasher gets very hot, but I use near-scalding water on my NDS stuff as-is, and no harm has come of it. If I use, say, the light/express mode to keep the cycle short, and the end result is that all of the food is cleaned off, what's the harm?", "can non-dishwasher safe items be loaded in the dishwasher with a few drops of regular detergent only? I own a large amount of kitchenware that is not dishwasher-safe (NDS), and I'm looking to improve my cleaning efficiency. I've always been told that the main danger with these items is due to the harshness of the cleaners in the dishwasher soap, as it must be very strong to clean without any physical scrubbing action. I've also been told that dish detergent should not be used as a 1:1 substitute for dishwasher soap, as the latter has special anti-foaming properties.\n\nSo I got to thinking: can I not simply use the dishwasher with a very small amount (few drops) of dish detergent, without harm befalling my NDS items? I know the interior of the dishwasher gets very hot, but I use near-scalding water on my NDS stuff as-is, and no harm has come of it. If I use, say, the light/express mode to keep the cycle short, and the end result is that all of the food is cleaned off, what's the harm?", "can non-dishwasher safe items be loaded in the dishwasher with a few drops of regular detergent only? I own a large amount of kitchenware that is not dishwasher-safe (NDS), and I'm looking to improve my cleaning efficiency. I've always been told that the main danger with these items is due to the harshness of the cleaners in the dishwasher soap, as it must be very strong to clean without any physical scrubbing action. I've also been told that dish detergent should not be used as a 1:1 substitute for dishwasher soap, as the latter has special anti-foaming properties.\n\nSo I got to thinking: can I not simply use the dishwasher with a very small amount (few drops) of dish detergent, without harm befalling my NDS items? I know the interior of the dishwasher gets very hot, but I use near-scalding water on my NDS stuff as-is, and no harm has come of it. If I use, say, the light/express mode to keep the cycle short, and the end result is that all of the food is cleaned off, what's the harm?" ]

[ "I suspect that hand washing in very hot water is not the same as being in the dishwasher for a longer period of time with very hot water. When I have run non dishwasher safe items through the dishwasher, plastics have gotten warped and misshapen, and items with pictures were designs on them can get faded.", "I have always turned off the heated dry and been okay. Others in my household must not get the memo on that.", "Don't put your aluminum items in the dishwasher until you want them to come out looking worse than when you put them in. It causes white pitted spots and a dull surface.", "No. They're non-dishwasher-safe because the dishwasher gets too hot, not because some soaps make them melt", "I believe it is the heat of a dishwasher that does the damage to nondishwasher safe items. Not the detergent. They crank super hot semi high pressure water. You'll see non washer items usually deform and or shrink.", "I am not sure about all the others but my dishwasher has a rinse button. It’s just 12 minutes of spraying water. I don’t think it uses heat and I am sure it does not dry. Just spraying water for 12 minutes. I hope that helps.", "Would you be opposed to doing a test run with some of those items that aren’t important to you? Sometimes overthinking keeps us from discovering lightbulb moments. Maybe try using the shortest run time cycle without a heated dry. You seem pretty confident about the few drop idea, and there are also alternative less abrasive dishwasher agents. \nPersonally, I just stick “no dishwasher” items in with other things on the top drawer and if it survives then great.", "I put pretty much everything in the dishwasher and it all survives just fine. What are you actually talking about dish wise that says it's a no go?", "Don't put dish detergent in your dishwasher, it can void the warranty, and with good reason. The various seals don't like the stuff. If you're ready to buy a new dishwasher anyway, well go ahead! \n\nBut you might try just a few drops of gel form dishwasher liquid. It'll help break the water's surface tension without affecting your item much.\n\nAlso, many dishwashers heat their own water, so there's that factor as well.\n\nYou can also test your regular dishwasher detergent on discreet places on your NDS stuff. The things I have that don't do well in the DW are baking pans that have two layers of metal with what's supposed to be air between. Also, two layers metal drink cups similar to yeti. Aluminum pans badly discolored, but have been fairly well restored with the right cleanser. The other fail I had was with the little clear plastic trays that go under plant pots, those were pretty distorted!" ]

[ 7, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to read faster Am I supposed to be reading aloud in my head each word, or to reach a higher speed, am I just supposed to glance at the words with my eyes and not say the actual word in my head.", "How to read faster Am I supposed to be reading aloud in my head each word, or to reach a higher speed, am I just supposed to glance at the words with my eyes and not say the actual word in my head.", "How to read faster Am I supposed to be reading aloud in my head each word, or to reach a higher speed, am I just supposed to glance at the words with my eyes and not say the actual word in my head.", "How to read faster Am I supposed to be reading aloud in my head each word, or to reach a higher speed, am I just supposed to glance at the words with my eyes and not say the actual word in my head.", "How to read faster Am I supposed to be reading aloud in my head each word, or to reach a higher speed, am I just supposed to glance at the words with my eyes and not say the actual word in my head." ]

[ "[Squirt Google Chrome Extension](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/squirt/bhahfnbdgffkcobfgkamlajfkflakfdb?hl=en)\n\nHere's an extension I use sometimes to train my speed reading. The term you're looking for for \"saying the word in your head\" is subvocalization. Some people can read without subvocalizing naturally, but I know for me it is almost impossible not to...", "[Free ebook](https://www.amazon.com/Speed-Reading-Beginners-Faster-Included-ebook/dp/B00NF0M6G8?ie=UTF8&dpID=51tm3cupUgL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_OU01_AC_UL160_SR100%2C160_&refRID=1EDW0KSYN7A7HPTER30Q&ref_=nav_ya_signin)", "Not a pro tip but here's what I've trained myself : after quite a while of reading, I generally don't see the letters, instead I see(read) them as if it's a script/picture. Thus, I don't need to read the full word. For example, while reading a sentence, if there's a word starting with 'perp-' and ending with '-xity', my mind automatically finds and fits the appropriate word for that sentence according to the context of the sentence. If there's a new/unknown word, the auto mechanism of brain pinches me and I immediately get to know of it. Best part of this technique is that after practicing it (a lot), your reading speed can increase noticeably. ", "If you just glance at the words swiftly, you will not retain the knowledge as well as reading them \"aloud\" in your head. (That's an odd thing to comprehend). When reading, it's much like reciting something orally to process and learn the information more accurately. So, you could skim it and get done faster than everyone else, or you could learn something and read at your own pace. \n\nWork on reading a page, with a timer near by, but at a more comprehensive level (your normal reading rate). Figure out an average, but also test yourself on the information you have read. \n\nOnce this is analyzed, read a different set of information, but read it at a faster rate. To accurately represent your ability to read at quicker paces, reading new material will keep you from simply memorizing it. \n\n\nI think I might be over-thinking this, but I hope you somehow take something from this. ", "Hum while you read. It avoids internal speak. Learned this from the Elevate app. Great for keeping your mind sharp." ]

[ 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "What are your life hacks for staying motivated when life's got you down? Anything you do, think, or otherwise engage in to change your mentality and get you pumped again? Perhaps a particular food, or exercise, or piece of music that just *does* it for you?", "What are your life hacks for staying motivated when life's got you down? Anything you do, think, or otherwise engage in to change your mentality and get you pumped again? Perhaps a particular food, or exercise, or piece of music that just *does* it for you?", "What are your life hacks for staying motivated when life's got you down? Anything you do, think, or otherwise engage in to change your mentality and get you pumped again? Perhaps a particular food, or exercise, or piece of music that just *does* it for you?", "What are your life hacks for staying motivated when life's got you down? Anything you do, think, or otherwise engage in to change your mentality and get you pumped again? Perhaps a particular food, or exercise, or piece of music that just *does* it for you?", "What are your life hacks for staying motivated when life's got you down? Anything you do, think, or otherwise engage in to change your mentality and get you pumped again? Perhaps a particular food, or exercise, or piece of music that just *does* it for you?", "What are your life hacks for staying motivated when life's got you down? Anything you do, think, or otherwise engage in to change your mentality and get you pumped again? Perhaps a particular food, or exercise, or piece of music that just *does* it for you?", "What are your life hacks for staying motivated when life's got you down? Anything you do, think, or otherwise engage in to change your mentality and get you pumped again? Perhaps a particular food, or exercise, or piece of music that just *does* it for you?", "What are your life hacks for staying motivated when life's got you down? Anything you do, think, or otherwise engage in to change your mentality and get you pumped again? Perhaps a particular food, or exercise, or piece of music that just *does* it for you?", "What are your life hacks for staying motivated when life's got you down? Anything you do, think, or otherwise engage in to change your mentality and get you pumped again? Perhaps a particular food, or exercise, or piece of music that just *does* it for you?" ]

[ "The key is concentration. Today's society collectively SUCKS at staying concentrated thanks to things like Television, movies, being conditioned to trying really hard not to mentally be in the moment from being traumatized as a child or something, more and more people not even bothering to focus in their math classes and strive to learn more and more advanced math, where concentration can be heavily developed.\n\nHow do you go from a distracted and unmotivated mind to a focused and motivated mind? It starts with a push. Think of the physics laws of inertia. It is hard to get an object in motion from rest at first, but then it's easy to maintain it at that same speed compared to starting it from zero. Same with your mind. It's hard to get it from zero concentration to full on concentration, but once you get it there it's a lot easier to maintain and doesn't require the same mental energy to keep it consistently focused as it did when you got it from zero focus to really focused.\n\nI've been diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, anxiety, and other things that basically keep my mind hyper, distracted, and constantly switching around. Today it's getting easier and easier to control it, just like it gets easier and easier to ride a bike or drive a car as one keeps doing it every day. What I do is figure out what I want to focus on, and think of a thought that would keep me focused on it. If I want to stay focused on my workout and my muscles, then the entire time I'm working out I think \"I can feel my muscles, I'm getting stronger\" and no other thought over and over and over again. Imagine reading the same phrase in a textbook over and over and over again. Just do the same thing with your thoughts. Your mind might think random thoughts in the background, but they're gradually and constantly getting drowned out by your concentrated effort of thinking that same phrase over and over and over again. After a long period of time of doing it, your state of mind changes into being much more in the moment. \n\nNow, the more tricky part is to think of a phrase over and over and over again that keeps you motivated. That's where being selfless or more self aware helps. To be selfless is to genuinely worry and care about people and things other than yourself. Want to motivate yourself to study? Think of your mother or father getting more and more sick and unable to do anything or pay the bills over the years. Then think the thought \"My mom needs me\" over and over and over again, and visualize her needing you over and over and over again. You probably won't feel much emotion at first, but that's normal because you're not fully focused on it and your mind and feelings are attached to something else. \n\nThe longer you repeat that phrase, and the harder you visualize and consistently think those same images, the easier it will be hold your focus on those thoughts and really FEEL them.\n\nThink of Steve Vai in this song http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NiTXGswyAls\n\nWatch him, the visuals in the background, and listen to the little nuances of his playing. Watch and listen all the way through. This video is a tremendous example of a demonstration of someone staying consistently focused on one thought, gradually feeling that thought and unleashing more and more emotion. You can see him visualizing the horrors and suffering of humanity, feeling their pain, and translating all of that emotion into his guitar playing, especially when he's playing the same riff over and over again harder and harder, and that riff where he's playing the same idea that repeats over and and over but lands on a higher note and goes back and an even higher note and goes back again.\n\nDo that with the exercise I explained about your mom needing you. First imagine her saying your name, and saying she needs you. Imagine her doing it over and over again. Every 5-10 times, imagine her saying it longer, \"Timothy.. I neeeed you.... Timotthyyy! Heelllpp! TIMOTHYYY!! I NEED YOU!!! TIMOTHY!! WHERE ARE YOU!\" Imagine her cries becoming louder, more desperate, filled with more fear and pain. Imagine the same event happening over and over again, she's alone crying for help, and every second that you don't show up, she's losing blood, losing oxygen, her physical and mental pain is intensifying, her fear is skyrocketing as she realizes the probability of you showing up in time to rescue her or at least keep her company/ease her pain during her last moments is exponentially diminishing. Because YOU weren't fast enough to make it. Because YOU never studied enough to get that job that made enough cash to get her the medical help that would've prevented her from being in that situation at that point in time. She could have waited another 20 years before succumbing to it, and it would've been much more comfortable, but IT'S YOUR FAULT!\n\nImagine that hypothetical situation over and over again, intensifying each time. Try to really hear and see and feel it, imagine how you would feel if it was happening in real time.\n\nThis is how concentration and motivation work, you need to keep repeatedly thinking it, and try to FEEL it more and more. Just like Steve Vai getting deeper and deeper into the song he's playing and feeling every note he is playing more and more until his very soul becomes the guitar and sound itself. Strive to be ONE with your emotions, and when you keep doing it harder and harder and longer and longer, eventually you'll truly feel it, you will feel fully alive, you will feel determined. Eventually you won't have to keep thinking those thoughts and trying really hard to feel that emotion, it will just be a part of your soul. You won't have to remind yourself to do your homework and remind yourself why it's important, you will just KNOW and you'll just FEEL it. \n\nEventually your motivation will be second nature to you the same way how breathing comes second nature to you. Your motivation will be one with your heart beat, every moment that you feel alive you will feel the motivation and the emotion behind it as real and as intense as you feel your breath and your body.\n\nAt the same time, there is a dark side to this. That is why Yoda and other Jedi masters continually told their apprentices not to walk the path of the dark side, and not dwell on negative thoughts. Eventually their negative thoughts, depression, etc become one with them and never leaves them for a moment. That is why some people commit suicide, cut themselves, and do other self destructive things. They felt sorry for themselves and demotivated themselves for so long that they became one with it and couldn't stop feeling it while sober. That is how people get the balls to do really crazy drugs or kill themselves, because it's the only way to release themselves from it.\n\nSo remember to only use this technique for concentrating and motivating on the right things: For bettering yourself, for protecting your friends and family, for focusing on positive and happy things, for looking forward to the good times and pleasures, for being strong for the work. Always see your self-image as a forever young and strong super hero. Look at Captain Falcon and Goku. Do THEY ever look like anything brings them down? No! Because over the years, they concentrated and fought and trained so hard on being strong, on protecting their families, on vanquishing evil and suffering, that it's become part of their very souls. Their souls are eternally on FIRE with that passion, that is why nothing can bring them down, because nothing can douse a soul when it's on fire.\n\nSuperman doesn't have to remind himself that he's strong or that he must protect Lewis and the rest of humanity, he's been doing it for so long and has had periods of deep thinking about it and living in those feelings that it's just a constant instantaneous feeling. It's just part of his nature, it's in his soul to save humanity without any thought. Emotions are quicker and more constant than thoughts.\n\nWhen you truly FEEL something, nothing can distract you from it. If someone shot your best friend in the face in cold blood, and there were a million things going on in front of you with a million different sounds, and a million different people were around, not a single one of those would distract you from how you're feeling about your friend and the killer, your awareness of your friend and your killer, and it's as if everything else disappears except those few things in your reality. That's why people are so much quicker to act during very very important and desperate moments. They just feel it and feel the right things to do or best things they can do according to their mental and emotional calculations in those moments, and there are no thoughts of imagining everyone watching you and feeling embarrassed or anything, you just act.\n\nWell I hope that helps. ", "Lost an arm in a car accident last year. This line of thinking is what keeps me going today but it takes practice, a lot of it. I'm still learning. \n\n", "Watch Charlie Chaplin's films. Begin with the short one Payday. Then move on to City Lights, the best one. Follow that up with Modern Times. Then catch a bunch of his shorts. They're all very happy and contain themes that lift the spirit.\n\nCharlie Chaplin's films are the kind of thing that a lot of people say \"yeah yeah I heard he was really good in his time\". The thing is...his films incredible. You can sense a unique force in his work, and it's one of the best kept secrets today. Try to get your friends to watch a 90-120 minute silent movie, and they'll probably give you perplexed looks. They're missing out. Chaplin was a genius.\n\nBuck up! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ps6ck1ejoAw", "Mentality: Stick it out: if you put in the effort today, the payout is tomorrow.\nMusic: Anything with a massive kick of energy. Everybody has it, I hope. It's that one where you can pump it full blast and dance around your room/ private area without even thinking. Headphones optional.", "I get inspirational quotes from twitter sent directly to my phone, and when shit's real horrible, music. I've been listening to Carry On My Wayward Son a lot lately. Shit's been tough. Also, Xenergy and Purple Stuff, both drinks.", "I always look at people who are better than me and get inspiration from them, once I get an idea for a project I don't stop until it's done. Friends have said however when they look at people who have achieved more than them, be it art, music, or writing they don't feel good enough and get annoyed when things don't go right and give in.\n\nIf things don't go right, I take a small break, grab a coffee and even go for a short stroll. Never start too early, and if what you're doing isn't a passion besides work it will be much harder to become motivated.", "How much my family has worked hard to give me this opportunity in life. How much I want to give an opportunity to a hypothetical future family.", "Something else I typed out 30-40 min ago but the message limit was too long, and I had to pick up some cash because it's PAYYY DAYYYY.\n\nWhat always helped me with working out and not being afraid to fight was DragonBall Z. I try to be brave, virtuous, and as powerful as Goku. He always strives to be stronger, isn't afraid of the pain from training, doesn't half ass it, and what puts a tear in my eye is that he always gave his enemies a second chance. He let Piccolo live, he let Vegeta live. He even gave Frieza a second chance after knowing that he blew up his home planet! How truly pure his heart is to forgive someone like that! All of his dialogue always resonated with my own beliefs. Watching Dragonball Z, especially all the scenes with Goku fighting and talking his knowledge to his enemies just puts a tear in my eye, because it truly resonates with my own passions, with my own struggle to forgive those who wronged me and try to wish they to live a happy life and end up in heaven. Of all the fictional characters (in cartoons only, won't compare to mythological gods and heroes yet because I haven't read about them yet), Goku inspires me the most. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmfyp_4JpUE And these are cool and inspiring too. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Je8Un5a6GcM&feature=related\n\nDo something similar with your math homework, your own guitar playing, your workout routine. If anyone has trouble being creative to think of how to approach this method, go ahead and ask here and I'll give you a few exercises you can try with whatever you're having trouble practicing or motivating yourself to do.\n\nFor now, I leave you with a motivating story from Vegeta's struggle for power, greatness, pride, restoring his honor, trying to fill the hole that he's so jealous and envious of Goku for having. After all of his suffering, at the brink of death (or at least being stuck on some deep space moon forever), he finally finds his power deep within and unleashes it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iEB1PLC3KZA&feature=related\n\nAnd a speech from Morpheus http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ju0UOrnWoZk, which I did for my monologue in an acting class I took with my friends. It's on youtube and it's very, very, amateur, and it was right after I shaved my head for the first time, which I did BEFORE picking a Morpheus speech, totally coincidence. Also I missed a few lines, and I only practiced it for an hour. Just to excuse my lack of reenacting this scene properly. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nSYBZMGDtmE It sounded more loud and powerful when I did it live, the microphone didn't record the loudness and reverberation off the walls, or the change in volume because when I recorded it live I was talking and shouting louder gradually. Sorry just trying to justify the suckyess again..\n\nTry to FEEL my words, at least from the first post, and part of the speech. Make what I'm saying what you're saying, or at least try to connect and understand what I must've been feeling, my passion, my memories of pain and struggling, my awareness of the millions of people suffering from pain, poverty, and oppression every day, my anger at myself and others, my hatered towards myself for growing up with ADHD and other mental disorders that I thought would make me suffer for the rest of my life, my confusion, my troubling path of trying to be as pure as Buddha but always being filled with hate. Do you struggle too? Do you hate your lack of motivation, your lack of concentration? Do you feel as I feel?! Find the passionate, inspiring words from within your very soul, and repeat them and intensify them in your head over and over again! If it's hard to concentrate on math, or playing that fucking guitar solo, or YOU are pussying out on lifting weights after 10 seconds because the acidic burn in your muscles gets too intense, then keep doing it a little harder and longer every day! Every time you push yourself a little more, you get a little closer! Everytime you fail, you actually succeeded in improving from before! Everytime you give up for the day, you recover for tomorrow! Everytime you fall, get back up! Every time you stop believing in yourself, believe in those who believe in you or they might not believe in their own ability to be useful themselves! If you don't care about doing it for yourself, remember those who you DO care about! Too desensitized and apathetic? Watch videos of all the countries NATO bombs for PROFIT everyday! The animal fur processing factories that slaughter and skin them alive! Does that not set your soul on fire? Because I've already been burning this whole time! Find your fire, and let it blaze!\n\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OuyLM-JUPlU This is a video of one of my former classmates from a singing class. He's partially blind, or legally blind, can still see a little. Can you feel his painful memories as he yearns for his lost love? Can you feel the passion in his voice? To sing as great and as moving as him, you must FEEL your inner self! Don't hide your feelings from yourself! Don't bottle them out! Unleash them! But don't unleash them wildly without aim, focus them into what you truly want to do in life! Whether it's boxing, singing, playing guitar, painting, writing poetry, getting into political debates, giving motivational speeches to schools, being an emergency response worker, a great father, a great mother, a scientist, engineer, doctor. Pour your very heart and soul into what you truly wish to be, and you will become it!\n\nTo put it in my own more condensed words, skill is not what creates the passion, the emotion, the power of the action. It's your passion, your emotions, your whole hearted effort that sparks your little skills into awe inspiring excellence!\n\n\n", "I do something amazing, something I can write home about and feel proud in my accomplishment. For example I hike - a lot - and whenever I can't bring myself to get up and do something I hike a motherflipping mountain. For example this whole week I couldn't do anything with work and I work from home... just laid around drinking beer and doing the bare minimum. I felt bored but not depressed. So to punish myself I'm climbing San Jacinto peak... 10,000 vertical feet over 32 miles roundtrip in one day, in the middle of the desert, in the throws of summer here in southern California. Take THAT, body! But I feel so much better afterward." ]

[ 149, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Little things you can do to improve someone’s thoughts of themselves So I have a friend who doesn’t always think highly of themself. Or rather, I would say assumes that people think badly of them. \n\nSay somebody said thank you for something and they don’t recognize them, they assume it’s a sarcastic thank you rather than a genuine one. Because they somehow messed up. \n\nWhat are little things I could do to improve their opinion and thoughts of themself?", "Little things you can do to improve someone’s thoughts of themselves So I have a friend who doesn’t always think highly of themself. Or rather, I would say assumes that people think badly of them. \n\nSay somebody said thank you for something and they don’t recognize them, they assume it’s a sarcastic thank you rather than a genuine one. Because they somehow messed up. \n\nWhat are little things I could do to improve their opinion and thoughts of themself?", "Little things you can do to improve someone’s thoughts of themselves So I have a friend who doesn’t always think highly of themself. Or rather, I would say assumes that people think badly of them. \n\nSay somebody said thank you for something and they don’t recognize them, they assume it’s a sarcastic thank you rather than a genuine one. Because they somehow messed up. \n\nWhat are little things I could do to improve their opinion and thoughts of themself?" ]

[ "Try saying why you are thankful. Eg. If a person at the supermarket packs your groceries in the same order you put them in the conveyer, say 'thank you, you've done a lovey job, that's going to save me so much time when I'm putting them away'. Or if your friend sends you a nice message....'thank you, you just brightened up my day :)'.", "Compliment them. If there is anything in particular that you admire about this person, tell them often. And repeat the compliment when it's applicable.", "Get a book of positive affirmations, put them on sticky notes around the house, and say them to yourself every time you see one." ]

[ 11, 3, 0 ]

[ "How to stop myself from focusing on sound that bothers me So I have this tendency that once I notice an annoying sound like\n\n- a clock\n- someone chewing loudly\n- mechanical beeping\n\nI start focusing on it. From that point on it gets increasingly louder and more dominant to the point where it keeps me from eating/sleeping/focusing on my actual task.\nI already run around with headphones all day to counter this, but in certain situations I can't distract myself with music so it feels like my mind is glued to focusing on that and it doesn't stop for at least 10 minutes, at which point my mood has taken a big hit and I'm awake from being annoyed if I was trying to sleep.", "How to stop myself from focusing on sound that bothers me So I have this tendency that once I notice an annoying sound like\n\n- a clock\n- someone chewing loudly\n- mechanical beeping\n\nI start focusing on it. From that point on it gets increasingly louder and more dominant to the point where it keeps me from eating/sleeping/focusing on my actual task.\nI already run around with headphones all day to counter this, but in certain situations I can't distract myself with music so it feels like my mind is glued to focusing on that and it doesn't stop for at least 10 minutes, at which point my mood has taken a big hit and I'm awake from being annoyed if I was trying to sleep.", "How to stop myself from focusing on sound that bothers me So I have this tendency that once I notice an annoying sound like\n\n- a clock\n- someone chewing loudly\n- mechanical beeping\n\nI start focusing on it. From that point on it gets increasingly louder and more dominant to the point where it keeps me from eating/sleeping/focusing on my actual task.\nI already run around with headphones all day to counter this, but in certain situations I can't distract myself with music so it feels like my mind is glued to focusing on that and it doesn't stop for at least 10 minutes, at which point my mood has taken a big hit and I'm awake from being annoyed if I was trying to sleep." ]

[ "Breathing m", "you should focus on your blinking and your breathing and check that you keep your back straight, that should help", "I get this sometimes, as silly as it is... earplugs, splurge a bit and try a few different kinds to see what your ears like best." ]

[ 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "Good questions to make small talk and quickly develop rapport at work? I work at a tech company and I'm good at my job (data analyst), but I really suck at socializing with my coworkers in the elevator, break room, etc. This makes all of my conversations be about \"business,\" and most convos become awkward. \n\nWhat are some good questions to quickly develop rapport with somebody? I swear every conversation I have, I feel like both of us are thinking, \"Great, what should I say next?\" or \"When is this convo going to end?\"", "Good questions to make small talk and quickly develop rapport at work? I work at a tech company and I'm good at my job (data analyst), but I really suck at socializing with my coworkers in the elevator, break room, etc. This makes all of my conversations be about \"business,\" and most convos become awkward. \n\nWhat are some good questions to quickly develop rapport with somebody? I swear every conversation I have, I feel like both of us are thinking, \"Great, what should I say next?\" or \"When is this convo going to end?\"", "Good questions to make small talk and quickly develop rapport at work? I work at a tech company and I'm good at my job (data analyst), but I really suck at socializing with my coworkers in the elevator, break room, etc. This makes all of my conversations be about \"business,\" and most convos become awkward. \n\nWhat are some good questions to quickly develop rapport with somebody? I swear every conversation I have, I feel like both of us are thinking, \"Great, what should I say next?\" or \"When is this convo going to end?\"" ]

[ "hows it going\n\nbig weekend plans?\n\n did you see that ludicrous display last night? \n\ndid you watch (insert relevant tv show) last night?\n\nSeen any good movies lately?\n\n\n\n", "While not a direct answer to your request, something I learned not too long ago is to ask the next logical question. At lunch today, I asked someone what they did this past weekend (holiday in US). They told me, I didn't care about any of it, but he said his friends went to a Drake concert. The next logical question I thought of was, \"Have you seen him before live?\"\n\nLearning how to ask that next question will take you very far in building rapport.\n\nAfter you get the hang of it, you'll learn when you can end the conversation without looking rude.", "I always use to use the \"compliment and follow with a question\" \nGirl: those are really nice earrings do you like owls? (if they are wearing owl earrings.) \nGuy: dude your tie is awesome mind if I asked where you got it? \nOf course this is situation specific but Ive always found it works. " ]

[ 6, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to minimize stuttering when public speaking? On Sunday, I'm doing a passage reading for Church. I've done public speaking occasionally, but not with this kind of length before; it's two and a half pages of Bible readings. Occasionally when I do public speaking, I stutter a maximum of three times, usually, from what I've observed. This may not seem like a lot, but stuttering makes me feel really uncomfortable, and usually opens a gateway for more stutters arising from the first one. I feel pretty okay with my ability to publically speak, but a few stutters slip through and cause more to follow.\n\nMost of the time when I need to present something, I use bulky, 14-point Arial font, so the paper I'm reading off of in front of me looks more like teleprompter text so I can read it faster and more efficiently. Not this time, since I'm reading off a script supplied by the church. The font and spacing are exstressingly small.\n\nThe knowledge I have already about public speaking I learned from Barack Obama; don't read extremely fast, slow down, process the words, and speak them in chunks. This works, but I still stutter occasionally.\n\nHow can I minimize this?", "How to minimize stuttering when public speaking? On Sunday, I'm doing a passage reading for Church. I've done public speaking occasionally, but not with this kind of length before; it's two and a half pages of Bible readings. Occasionally when I do public speaking, I stutter a maximum of three times, usually, from what I've observed. This may not seem like a lot, but stuttering makes me feel really uncomfortable, and usually opens a gateway for more stutters arising from the first one. I feel pretty okay with my ability to publically speak, but a few stutters slip through and cause more to follow.\n\nMost of the time when I need to present something, I use bulky, 14-point Arial font, so the paper I'm reading off of in front of me looks more like teleprompter text so I can read it faster and more efficiently. Not this time, since I'm reading off a script supplied by the church. The font and spacing are exstressingly small.\n\nThe knowledge I have already about public speaking I learned from Barack Obama; don't read extremely fast, slow down, process the words, and speak them in chunks. This works, but I still stutter occasionally.\n\nHow can I minimize this?", "How to minimize stuttering when public speaking? On Sunday, I'm doing a passage reading for Church. I've done public speaking occasionally, but not with this kind of length before; it's two and a half pages of Bible readings. Occasionally when I do public speaking, I stutter a maximum of three times, usually, from what I've observed. This may not seem like a lot, but stuttering makes me feel really uncomfortable, and usually opens a gateway for more stutters arising from the first one. I feel pretty okay with my ability to publically speak, but a few stutters slip through and cause more to follow.\n\nMost of the time when I need to present something, I use bulky, 14-point Arial font, so the paper I'm reading off of in front of me looks more like teleprompter text so I can read it faster and more efficiently. Not this time, since I'm reading off a script supplied by the church. The font and spacing are exstressingly small.\n\nThe knowledge I have already about public speaking I learned from Barack Obama; don't read extremely fast, slow down, process the words, and speak them in chunks. This works, but I still stutter occasionally.\n\nHow can I minimize this?", "How to minimize stuttering when public speaking? On Sunday, I'm doing a passage reading for Church. I've done public speaking occasionally, but not with this kind of length before; it's two and a half pages of Bible readings. Occasionally when I do public speaking, I stutter a maximum of three times, usually, from what I've observed. This may not seem like a lot, but stuttering makes me feel really uncomfortable, and usually opens a gateway for more stutters arising from the first one. I feel pretty okay with my ability to publically speak, but a few stutters slip through and cause more to follow.\n\nMost of the time when I need to present something, I use bulky, 14-point Arial font, so the paper I'm reading off of in front of me looks more like teleprompter text so I can read it faster and more efficiently. Not this time, since I'm reading off a script supplied by the church. The font and spacing are exstressingly small.\n\nThe knowledge I have already about public speaking I learned from Barack Obama; don't read extremely fast, slow down, process the words, and speak them in chunks. This works, but I still stutter occasionally.\n\nHow can I minimize this?", "How to minimize stuttering when public speaking? On Sunday, I'm doing a passage reading for Church. I've done public speaking occasionally, but not with this kind of length before; it's two and a half pages of Bible readings. Occasionally when I do public speaking, I stutter a maximum of three times, usually, from what I've observed. This may not seem like a lot, but stuttering makes me feel really uncomfortable, and usually opens a gateway for more stutters arising from the first one. I feel pretty okay with my ability to publically speak, but a few stutters slip through and cause more to follow.\n\nMost of the time when I need to present something, I use bulky, 14-point Arial font, so the paper I'm reading off of in front of me looks more like teleprompter text so I can read it faster and more efficiently. Not this time, since I'm reading off a script supplied by the church. The font and spacing are exstressingly small.\n\nThe knowledge I have already about public speaking I learned from Barack Obama; don't read extremely fast, slow down, process the words, and speak them in chunks. This works, but I still stutter occasionally.\n\nHow can I minimize this?", "How to minimize stuttering when public speaking? On Sunday, I'm doing a passage reading for Church. I've done public speaking occasionally, but not with this kind of length before; it's two and a half pages of Bible readings. Occasionally when I do public speaking, I stutter a maximum of three times, usually, from what I've observed. This may not seem like a lot, but stuttering makes me feel really uncomfortable, and usually opens a gateway for more stutters arising from the first one. I feel pretty okay with my ability to publically speak, but a few stutters slip through and cause more to follow.\n\nMost of the time when I need to present something, I use bulky, 14-point Arial font, so the paper I'm reading off of in front of me looks more like teleprompter text so I can read it faster and more efficiently. Not this time, since I'm reading off a script supplied by the church. The font and spacing are exstressingly small.\n\nThe knowledge I have already about public speaking I learned from Barack Obama; don't read extremely fast, slow down, process the words, and speak them in chunks. This works, but I still stutter occasionally.\n\nHow can I minimize this?", "How to minimize stuttering when public speaking? On Sunday, I'm doing a passage reading for Church. I've done public speaking occasionally, but not with this kind of length before; it's two and a half pages of Bible readings. Occasionally when I do public speaking, I stutter a maximum of three times, usually, from what I've observed. This may not seem like a lot, but stuttering makes me feel really uncomfortable, and usually opens a gateway for more stutters arising from the first one. I feel pretty okay with my ability to publically speak, but a few stutters slip through and cause more to follow.\n\nMost of the time when I need to present something, I use bulky, 14-point Arial font, so the paper I'm reading off of in front of me looks more like teleprompter text so I can read it faster and more efficiently. Not this time, since I'm reading off a script supplied by the church. The font and spacing are exstressingly small.\n\nThe knowledge I have already about public speaking I learned from Barack Obama; don't read extremely fast, slow down, process the words, and speak them in chunks. This works, but I still stutter occasionally.\n\nHow can I minimize this?", "How to minimize stuttering when public speaking? On Sunday, I'm doing a passage reading for Church. I've done public speaking occasionally, but not with this kind of length before; it's two and a half pages of Bible readings. Occasionally when I do public speaking, I stutter a maximum of three times, usually, from what I've observed. This may not seem like a lot, but stuttering makes me feel really uncomfortable, and usually opens a gateway for more stutters arising from the first one. I feel pretty okay with my ability to publically speak, but a few stutters slip through and cause more to follow.\n\nMost of the time when I need to present something, I use bulky, 14-point Arial font, so the paper I'm reading off of in front of me looks more like teleprompter text so I can read it faster and more efficiently. Not this time, since I'm reading off a script supplied by the church. The font and spacing are exstressingly small.\n\nThe knowledge I have already about public speaking I learned from Barack Obama; don't read extremely fast, slow down, process the words, and speak them in chunks. This works, but I still stutter occasionally.\n\nHow can I minimize this?" ]

[ "Idk if it will help in such a short time, but reading an advanced level book aloud helps a lot, I'm currently reading the invisible man out loud to myself and I can already tell it's helping my speech.\n\nAlso, read slow, focus on it. Not only will you read better and be more confident, people will understand you better (we tend to enunciate clearer when talking slower), take regular pauses to gather yourself. Unless you sit there silent for 30 seconds no one's going to notice 5-15 seconds here and there", "Talk for a minute beforehand with a pen or pencil between your teeth (horizontally). Really try to annunciate each word. It helps a lot in my experience. ", "Speak slowly, Know what you have to say ahead of time, if you stutter acknowledge it. Make a joke out of it or pause and then start to read, the crowd normally can tell if you're nervous ", "Know your material, take your time and if you feel that you are getting frustrated or having a hard time, have a drink of water.", "Just so you know, I also stutter and am asked regularly to do public speaking and reading. So, I feel your pain. And I appreciate your desire to do a good job.\n\nAnd the ideas you are already using work. And you are wise to continue using them - I use a similar construct. \n\nI have a few thoughts....\n\nFirst, I would be tempted to ask the church again for a different script. The church *really* cannot supply the text in a larger font? Really? Or in *soft copy* so you can turn it into something easier for you? Really? There must be a better way....\n\nRegardless, you still need to prepare. I have used a couple of additional tips that work for me that I can pass on.\n\nFor me, particularly when the material isn't mine, I tend to prepare twice. I prepare very well (step 1) and then read it backwards (step 2).\n\nSo, in your situation, I would ...\n\n1. Read the material to the point where I could outline it in my head - I know where the material is leading me well before I get around to reading it (I know, basic stuff). This takes me a long time, but I have some learning challenges that make comprehension ... well, challenging.\n\n2. Read it backwards. By this I mean read the last paragraph, then the last two paragraphs, and then the last three, etc., until I can get the whole passage read clearly and fluently before I actually present it publically. \n\nBetween the two steps, the text at the end of the material is fixed more firmly in my head so when I am in the middle of a public reading and get tired, I don't have to work so hard to read - I already have the words in my head. And once I have read for about 30 seconds, I tend to relax and the rest of the passage tends to move very smoothly.\n\nI hope those tips help. In the meantime....\n\n - Stop worrying about the stuttering. Seriously, don't worry about it. Worrying makes it worse and if you read with feeling no one will (usually) notice. I have slaughtered more than one passage and been complimented because I read with feeling. \n\n - As it is a religious passage to be read in a religious setting in front of your God..., have you considered prayer?\n", "If you're looking for some inspiration, I would definitely recommend checking out this speech by Megan Washington. If you haven't heard of her, she's a famous Australian pop star... who STUTTERS! It's crazy and she hates speaking in public, but she has been able to [overcome it through hard work](http://speakmeister.com/video/18452/megan-washington-why-i-live-in-mortal-dread-of-public-speaking/).\n\nOther than that, I would just recommend practicing a lot! I don't have a stutter so I don't know exactly what it's like, but I know when I have to give a speech, practicing makes me more confident. If I were you, I would try to get some [feedback on SpeakMeister.com](http://www.speakmeister.com). You can submit a video of yourself and get help from experts in the field. They can give you lots of tips on how to control your stuttering (more than I can). ", "If you're looking for some inspiration, I would definitely recommend checking out this speech by Megan Washington. If you haven't heard of her, she's a famous Australian pop star... who STUTTERS! It's crazy and she hates speaking in public, but she has been able to [overcome it through hard work](http://speakmeister.com/video/18452/megan-washington-why-i-live-in-mortal-dread-of-public-speaking/).\n\nOther than that, I would just recommend practicing a lot! I don't have a stutter so I don't know exactly what it's like, but I know when I have to give a speech, practicing makes me more confident. If I were you, I would try to get some [feedback on SpeakMeister.com](http://www.speakmeister.com). You can submit a video of yourself and get help from experts in the field. They can give you lots of tips on how to control your stuttering (more than I can). ", "Do you know what you are going to be reading/ is there any way for you to prepare? I could probably help if I knew what we have to work with\n\nIf not, the best way to become a better public speaker is by DOING IT!" ]

[ 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to remove smell from a room with a chamber pot? I took in my elderly grandmother. She has trouble moving, but still can go on special chamber pot chair in her room. The problem is that even though I empty it once a day and scrub as well as I can, the room smells like urine+poop.\n\nIs there something that I can put into the chamber pot when I clean so the smell wouldn't get bad?", "How to remove smell from a room with a chamber pot? I took in my elderly grandmother. She has trouble moving, but still can go on special chamber pot chair in her room. The problem is that even though I empty it once a day and scrub as well as I can, the room smells like urine+poop.\n\nIs there something that I can put into the chamber pot when I clean so the smell wouldn't get bad?", "How to remove smell from a room with a chamber pot? I took in my elderly grandmother. She has trouble moving, but still can go on special chamber pot chair in her room. The problem is that even though I empty it once a day and scrub as well as I can, the room smells like urine+poop.\n\nIs there something that I can put into the chamber pot when I clean so the smell wouldn't get bad?", "How to remove smell from a room with a chamber pot? I took in my elderly grandmother. She has trouble moving, but still can go on special chamber pot chair in her room. The problem is that even though I empty it once a day and scrub as well as I can, the room smells like urine+poop.\n\nIs there something that I can put into the chamber pot when I clean so the smell wouldn't get bad?", "How to remove smell from a room with a chamber pot? I took in my elderly grandmother. She has trouble moving, but still can go on special chamber pot chair in her room. The problem is that even though I empty it once a day and scrub as well as I can, the room smells like urine+poop.\n\nIs there something that I can put into the chamber pot when I clean so the smell wouldn't get bad?", "How to remove smell from a room with a chamber pot? I took in my elderly grandmother. She has trouble moving, but still can go on special chamber pot chair in her room. The problem is that even though I empty it once a day and scrub as well as I can, the room smells like urine+poop.\n\nIs there something that I can put into the chamber pot when I clean so the smell wouldn't get bad?", "How to remove smell from a room with a chamber pot? I took in my elderly grandmother. She has trouble moving, but still can go on special chamber pot chair in her room. The problem is that even though I empty it once a day and scrub as well as I can, the room smells like urine+poop.\n\nIs there something that I can put into the chamber pot when I clean so the smell wouldn't get bad?", "How to remove smell from a room with a chamber pot? I took in my elderly grandmother. She has trouble moving, but still can go on special chamber pot chair in her room. The problem is that even though I empty it once a day and scrub as well as I can, the room smells like urine+poop.\n\nIs there something that I can put into the chamber pot when I clean so the smell wouldn't get bad?", "How to remove smell from a room with a chamber pot? I took in my elderly grandmother. She has trouble moving, but still can go on special chamber pot chair in her room. The problem is that even though I empty it once a day and scrub as well as I can, the room smells like urine+poop.\n\nIs there something that I can put into the chamber pot when I clean so the smell wouldn't get bad?" ]

[ "I know this is going to sound crazy but it really works!! If you put some of the scoopable cat litter in the bottom of the pot (preferably one with fabreeze or other scent) not only will it hold and lock in the urine but it will cut the smell down drastically!! \n\nAlso when cleaning out the pot if you use a cat urine oder destroyer it will also take out the pee smell as it targets the urea. Nature's miracle works super well (but is quite expensive). I like Zep pet cleaner from Home Depot. Does the same job and is much cheaper!! It will also work wonderfully on carpets, mattresses or other fabrics too. \n\nTrust me on this animal clean up products are wonderful!! I even use the cat litter trick when I go camping for the commodes!", "Empty and clean it way more than once a day. Would you leave urine and feces in your toilet and not flush it? Your grandmother will be happier if she doesn’t have to spend all of her time with that right next to her all day. \n\nThe smell is lingering in her clothing, bedding, curtains and other soft surfaces in the room, too. Make sure to keep those clean often. Use white vinegar in the laundry to deodorize. If weather permits, open a window for some fresh air.", "Charcoal or ash? It’s what is used to keep the smell down in long drop toilets, and was common in outhouses", "Place a liner on the chamber pot and swap out the liner between uses that way there is no reside to stick to the pot and smell. Something like this https://www.amazon.com/Disposable-Underpads-Incontinence-Absorbent-Protection/dp/B06XRYQ722/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=Chux+Pads&qid=1620049129&sr=8-3", "Is it standing on carpet or rug?\n\nMaybe the chamber pot isn't the problem. Elderly people don't notice if they miss sometimes and if it soaks into the carpet it is very hard to get the smell out.", "I spent three summers with up to 10 people in a house sharing a 5 gallon bucket that was emptied daily. This was sanitation in rural Alaska at the time. 😢We lined the bucked with plastic garbage bag and a shot of Pine Sol. It worked but... Cant stand the smell of Pine Sol now.", "Buy some Hollister m9 spray. Hollister is a medical device manufacturer that makes ostomy and wound care products. Ostomy and wound care gets stinky, and this stuff really works.\n\nhttps://www.hollister.com/en/products/ostomy-care-products/ostomy-accessories/odor-eliminators_deodorants/m9-odor-eliminator-spray", "Ajax or comet try using it. Add some water and use a toilet brush to assure all surfaces are clean on the chamber pot. As guessing if odor is tamed there it will smell better in the room.", "- Bleach and power wash it.\n\n- Start using liners.\n\n- Add a dash of kitty litter to each liner.\n\n- Empty it as soon as possible after use." ]

[ 7, 7, 5, 4, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "The contact lens struggle So recently I have attempted to wear my contact lenses again after going on and off for about a month before the school year ended. The only problem is, I can't seem to get them in. I can survive without them with worsened vision, but I would much rather have them in. It would help the overall quality of my life soooo much.\n\nSo my request is this: what are some tips to getting contacts in? I always have trouble with the lens folding over when I try to put it on my eye. It also never suctions onto my eye and I always feel my finger touching my eye. Is there a specific technique I'm supposed to use? Is there a way I'm supposed to put it on my eye, like on the white for example? Any small tip would be useful because I would really like to get into the routine of wearing my contact lenses again. \n\nNote: I don't mind if tips are repeated throughout the comments. This will actually help me because I certainly won't forget it!\n\nThanks in advance!", "The contact lens struggle So recently I have attempted to wear my contact lenses again after going on and off for about a month before the school year ended. The only problem is, I can't seem to get them in. I can survive without them with worsened vision, but I would much rather have them in. It would help the overall quality of my life soooo much.\n\nSo my request is this: what are some tips to getting contacts in? I always have trouble with the lens folding over when I try to put it on my eye. It also never suctions onto my eye and I always feel my finger touching my eye. Is there a specific technique I'm supposed to use? Is there a way I'm supposed to put it on my eye, like on the white for example? Any small tip would be useful because I would really like to get into the routine of wearing my contact lenses again. \n\nNote: I don't mind if tips are repeated throughout the comments. This will actually help me because I certainly won't forget it!\n\nThanks in advance!", "The contact lens struggle So recently I have attempted to wear my contact lenses again after going on and off for about a month before the school year ended. The only problem is, I can't seem to get them in. I can survive without them with worsened vision, but I would much rather have them in. It would help the overall quality of my life soooo much.\n\nSo my request is this: what are some tips to getting contacts in? I always have trouble with the lens folding over when I try to put it on my eye. It also never suctions onto my eye and I always feel my finger touching my eye. Is there a specific technique I'm supposed to use? Is there a way I'm supposed to put it on my eye, like on the white for example? Any small tip would be useful because I would really like to get into the routine of wearing my contact lenses again. \n\nNote: I don't mind if tips are repeated throughout the comments. This will actually help me because I certainly won't forget it!\n\nThanks in advance!", "The contact lens struggle So recently I have attempted to wear my contact lenses again after going on and off for about a month before the school year ended. The only problem is, I can't seem to get them in. I can survive without them with worsened vision, but I would much rather have them in. It would help the overall quality of my life soooo much.\n\nSo my request is this: what are some tips to getting contacts in? I always have trouble with the lens folding over when I try to put it on my eye. It also never suctions onto my eye and I always feel my finger touching my eye. Is there a specific technique I'm supposed to use? Is there a way I'm supposed to put it on my eye, like on the white for example? Any small tip would be useful because I would really like to get into the routine of wearing my contact lenses again. \n\nNote: I don't mind if tips are repeated throughout the comments. This will actually help me because I certainly won't forget it!\n\nThanks in advance!", "The contact lens struggle So recently I have attempted to wear my contact lenses again after going on and off for about a month before the school year ended. The only problem is, I can't seem to get them in. I can survive without them with worsened vision, but I would much rather have them in. It would help the overall quality of my life soooo much.\n\nSo my request is this: what are some tips to getting contacts in? I always have trouble with the lens folding over when I try to put it on my eye. It also never suctions onto my eye and I always feel my finger touching my eye. Is there a specific technique I'm supposed to use? Is there a way I'm supposed to put it on my eye, like on the white for example? Any small tip would be useful because I would really like to get into the routine of wearing my contact lenses again. \n\nNote: I don't mind if tips are repeated throughout the comments. This will actually help me because I certainly won't forget it!\n\nThanks in advance!", "The contact lens struggle So recently I have attempted to wear my contact lenses again after going on and off for about a month before the school year ended. The only problem is, I can't seem to get them in. I can survive without them with worsened vision, but I would much rather have them in. It would help the overall quality of my life soooo much.\n\nSo my request is this: what are some tips to getting contacts in? I always have trouble with the lens folding over when I try to put it on my eye. It also never suctions onto my eye and I always feel my finger touching my eye. Is there a specific technique I'm supposed to use? Is there a way I'm supposed to put it on my eye, like on the white for example? Any small tip would be useful because I would really like to get into the routine of wearing my contact lenses again. \n\nNote: I don't mind if tips are repeated throughout the comments. This will actually help me because I certainly won't forget it!\n\nThanks in advance!", "The contact lens struggle So recently I have attempted to wear my contact lenses again after going on and off for about a month before the school year ended. The only problem is, I can't seem to get them in. I can survive without them with worsened vision, but I would much rather have them in. It would help the overall quality of my life soooo much.\n\nSo my request is this: what are some tips to getting contacts in? I always have trouble with the lens folding over when I try to put it on my eye. It also never suctions onto my eye and I always feel my finger touching my eye. Is there a specific technique I'm supposed to use? Is there a way I'm supposed to put it on my eye, like on the white for example? Any small tip would be useful because I would really like to get into the routine of wearing my contact lenses again. \n\nNote: I don't mind if tips are repeated throughout the comments. This will actually help me because I certainly won't forget it!\n\nThanks in advance!", "The contact lens struggle So recently I have attempted to wear my contact lenses again after going on and off for about a month before the school year ended. The only problem is, I can't seem to get them in. I can survive without them with worsened vision, but I would much rather have them in. It would help the overall quality of my life soooo much.\n\nSo my request is this: what are some tips to getting contacts in? I always have trouble with the lens folding over when I try to put it on my eye. It also never suctions onto my eye and I always feel my finger touching my eye. Is there a specific technique I'm supposed to use? Is there a way I'm supposed to put it on my eye, like on the white for example? Any small tip would be useful because I would really like to get into the routine of wearing my contact lenses again. \n\nNote: I don't mind if tips are repeated throughout the comments. This will actually help me because I certainly won't forget it!\n\nThanks in advance!", "The contact lens struggle So recently I have attempted to wear my contact lenses again after going on and off for about a month before the school year ended. The only problem is, I can't seem to get them in. I can survive without them with worsened vision, but I would much rather have them in. It would help the overall quality of my life soooo much.\n\nSo my request is this: what are some tips to getting contacts in? I always have trouble with the lens folding over when I try to put it on my eye. It also never suctions onto my eye and I always feel my finger touching my eye. Is there a specific technique I'm supposed to use? Is there a way I'm supposed to put it on my eye, like on the white for example? Any small tip would be useful because I would really like to get into the routine of wearing my contact lenses again. \n\nNote: I don't mind if tips are repeated throughout the comments. This will actually help me because I certainly won't forget it!\n\nThanks in advance!", "The contact lens struggle So recently I have attempted to wear my contact lenses again after going on and off for about a month before the school year ended. The only problem is, I can't seem to get them in. I can survive without them with worsened vision, but I would much rather have them in. It would help the overall quality of my life soooo much.\n\nSo my request is this: what are some tips to getting contacts in? I always have trouble with the lens folding over when I try to put it on my eye. It also never suctions onto my eye and I always feel my finger touching my eye. Is there a specific technique I'm supposed to use? Is there a way I'm supposed to put it on my eye, like on the white for example? Any small tip would be useful because I would really like to get into the routine of wearing my contact lenses again. \n\nNote: I don't mind if tips are repeated throughout the comments. This will actually help me because I certainly won't forget it!\n\nThanks in advance!", "The contact lens struggle So recently I have attempted to wear my contact lenses again after going on and off for about a month before the school year ended. The only problem is, I can't seem to get them in. I can survive without them with worsened vision, but I would much rather have them in. It would help the overall quality of my life soooo much.\n\nSo my request is this: what are some tips to getting contacts in? I always have trouble with the lens folding over when I try to put it on my eye. It also never suctions onto my eye and I always feel my finger touching my eye. Is there a specific technique I'm supposed to use? Is there a way I'm supposed to put it on my eye, like on the white for example? Any small tip would be useful because I would really like to get into the routine of wearing my contact lenses again. \n\nNote: I don't mind if tips are repeated throughout the comments. This will actually help me because I certainly won't forget it!\n\nThanks in advance!", "The contact lens struggle So recently I have attempted to wear my contact lenses again after going on and off for about a month before the school year ended. The only problem is, I can't seem to get them in. I can survive without them with worsened vision, but I would much rather have them in. It would help the overall quality of my life soooo much.\n\nSo my request is this: what are some tips to getting contacts in? I always have trouble with the lens folding over when I try to put it on my eye. It also never suctions onto my eye and I always feel my finger touching my eye. Is there a specific technique I'm supposed to use? Is there a way I'm supposed to put it on my eye, like on the white for example? Any small tip would be useful because I would really like to get into the routine of wearing my contact lenses again. \n\nNote: I don't mind if tips are repeated throughout the comments. This will actually help me because I certainly won't forget it!\n\nThanks in advance!", "The contact lens struggle So recently I have attempted to wear my contact lenses again after going on and off for about a month before the school year ended. The only problem is, I can't seem to get them in. I can survive without them with worsened vision, but I would much rather have them in. It would help the overall quality of my life soooo much.\n\nSo my request is this: what are some tips to getting contacts in? I always have trouble with the lens folding over when I try to put it on my eye. It also never suctions onto my eye and I always feel my finger touching my eye. Is there a specific technique I'm supposed to use? Is there a way I'm supposed to put it on my eye, like on the white for example? Any small tip would be useful because I would really like to get into the routine of wearing my contact lenses again. \n\nNote: I don't mind if tips are repeated throughout the comments. This will actually help me because I certainly won't forget it!\n\nThanks in advance!", "The contact lens struggle So recently I have attempted to wear my contact lenses again after going on and off for about a month before the school year ended. The only problem is, I can't seem to get them in. I can survive without them with worsened vision, but I would much rather have them in. It would help the overall quality of my life soooo much.\n\nSo my request is this: what are some tips to getting contacts in? I always have trouble with the lens folding over when I try to put it on my eye. It also never suctions onto my eye and I always feel my finger touching my eye. Is there a specific technique I'm supposed to use? Is there a way I'm supposed to put it on my eye, like on the white for example? Any small tip would be useful because I would really like to get into the routine of wearing my contact lenses again. \n\nNote: I don't mind if tips are repeated throughout the comments. This will actually help me because I certainly won't forget it!\n\nThanks in advance!" ]

[ "My technique:\n\n- clean your eye from any gunk or slime\n\n- rinse contact with saline and make sure it's curved the right way (practice looking at the profile of the lens when curved either way, the wrong way has the edges looking wrong)\n\n- lens on index finger, middle finger pulling lower eyelid down\n\n- because of the curve of the lens and the eye \"wanting\" to merge with something equally \"wet\" the lens will want to stick to the eye, just \"push\" the lens to the eyeball to eliminate any air and slide it around your eye (the blink reflex will slowly go away with time)\n\n- release eyelid with middle finger & bring head down slowly as you close your eyelid (if doing over a sink make sure the drain is plugged!)\n\n- blink a few times to make sure lens centers normally over your eye\n\n- you're done!", "Make sure your hands are good and clean, because it's time to molest that contact and your eye. \n\nWhen I first started using contacts I was so delicate with everything which was hurting more than it was helping. If your hands are clean, don't be afraid to manually adjust the contact into a good position. Use your fingers to make it wide open. If it's not, put it back in the contact case, shake it about with fresh saline. \n\nNow...ignore any tips to look away from your contact. Your contact is specifically designed to sit over the center of your eye. So....that is the best place to put it. The problem is, for beginners, you tend to look in the mirror when putting your contact lens. Well, you can't look in the mirror and at your contact at the same time, so you end up putting it in crooked. Learn to stare down your contact lens and place it right straight over your eyeball. \n\nAlso, people's comments below about holding the upper lid with one hand, lens with with index of other, and middle pulling down the lower is how I do it. \n\nHope that helps", "Wet the contact with the solution and of course have sitting up on your finger. Using your other hand hold the top of eye lid up.The hand with the contact on the finger use that hand to pull the bottom eye lid down.. Now put the contact in your eye. ", "Make sure it's not inside out and put one eyedrop in it. Put it in, lift your top eyelid over it and gently press. Open your eye and enjoy the world.", "What brand do you use? I noticed some have more curvature than others, id recommend talking to your optometrist about possibly better ones. Also it's easiest for me to take it and let it sit on my index finger and form it between that and my thumb until it sticks up evenly around (half circle). Then I look in the mirror at the eye and use my other hand to open my eyelids more and gently place the contact in the middle of my eye. Hope that helps. ", "What I do is I use the opposite hand to insert the contact in said eye (so right hand for left eye etc) and use the other hand to hold both upper and lower eyelids open, now that my eye is nice and open I look directly at the contact as it goes in, hold it there for a bit and then close my eye.", "Make sure contact lens is not inside out (vital - will feel horribly uncomfortable if it is). The edges should go straight up like a bowl but not sag outwards. If they do, invert it, check again.\nWith contact lens on the pad of your wet first finger (wet so it will slide/suction off more easily), fill contact to the brim with a droplet of sterile saline or other non-stinging solution. \nGet really close to bathroom mirror, pull your eyelid down with third finger of same hand, tilt your head back a bit, raise your eyebrows, put full lens onto middle of eye, and keep your eye wide open for a couple of seconds. \nIt should float/settle straight into place. Blink to check. \n\nTook me ages to work this out, the person who showed me how (at optician's) was not helpful. It used to take me 20 mins per eye, and I would usually give up, with streaming, sore eyes. Now, 5 secs per eye.\n\nTip: if it's uncomfortable, feels gritty when put in, always take it out immediately, rinse, check it for a tear/rip, etc. No matter how long it took you to get it in your eye! If gritty, they never improve in your eye, just cause more irritation. \n\nHope that helps. :)", "It's been said already, but contact on pad of index finger, middle finger to pull down bottom eyelid, other hand to pull up top eyelid (I tend to use middle and ring finger) and then just stare at the contact as you put it on your eye. Goes in a treat. Now if only I could get them out as easy... ", "I used to pull my relaxed lids apart with my fingers, until one fine morning, I noticed it was actually much easier if I just open my eyes really wide (while holding the lids). It seems so simple, I still feel slightly stupid I didn't think of that earlier. \n\nI've been wearing contact lenses for almost 20 years, by now I can touch my eyes all I want. The closing reflex excludes my own fingers... ", "I find it easier to put the lens in with the bottom lid pulled down and the lens going in at the bottom of the eye and blink until it sits just right. Most people pull back the upper eyelid.", "Good news: it gets easier and automatic with the time.\n\n* Tilt your head down a bit before placing the lens, otherwise it'll fall off your finger.\n* Washing your lenses before placing them isn't just for health reasons, but also to make them easier to place.\n* At least for me, no suction = dry eye. You can fix this with eye drops, or even the solution you use to wash your lenses.\n* Look straight at the lens when placing it, that way they'll fall in place on the iris. I tried moving them from the white to the iris and it often irritates the eye, don't do that.\n* Feeling the finger just touching the eye is fine; it helps against air bubbles, those are annoying.\n* If you're having trouble with using the index to put the lens and the middle finger to open the lower eyelid, try inverting them, it might be easier for you.", "Depending on the lenses you use, you may want to hold the lens on your index finger for a minute or two while it dries a bit. When thoroughly wet, some lenses get particularly floppy. Letting it dry a little may make it more firm and less likely to flip inside out if your aim is slightly off.\n\nOnce the lens is on your eye, before you close your eye, pull your upper lid out, away from your eye slightly by holding the eyelashes. Then, move it down to close your eye. Your eyelids are designed to clean foreign objects off the surface of your eye. If your eyelid catches the edge of the lens before it's solidly seated, it may scrape the lens off.\n\nOnce the lens is in and your eye is closed, looking around a bit with the closed eye can help seat the lens properly. ", "Another tip.. I've had my lenses get stuck like halfway up inside my eyelid..\nIf this happens, gently hold your eyelashes to your brow bone and look down. The lens will usually slide back into place.", "- When I first got contacts my optometrist told me to look at the contact with the eye it's going in, and with my spare eye, look in the mirror and watch what I'm doing. This is to make sure your fingers keep your eyelids open enough to insert said contact. \n- to get over the whole closing your eyes/blinking during the process and folding the contact in half, use your right hand middle finger to insert the contact, and have your right ring finger hold open your lower eyelid, and your left hand hold open your upper eyelid. This prevents you from blinking.\n- make sure the contact is the right direction. When you examine it the curve should be like a bowl, not a saucer. There was also a trick where if you bend one half and the other end bends it's either the right or wrong direction, but I've forgotten it after 10 years. Anyone else know it?\n- if you're still having issues, your contacts could be the wrong size (apparently this happened to a friend of mine)" ]

[ 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do music bands go about preventing personal conflicts? Imagine a popular group or rather duo like [Vicetone](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vicetone), considering how far they've made it together and almost every fan recognizes them as a duo rather than as individuals. What is the likely outcome in case both of them develop a serious personal conflict, in case they split up, what becomes the future of \"Vicetone\" brand/shares and likely reaction of their followers, general outcome etc.\n\nI'm asking this question as I've always thought committing to something like this as a bad idea, keeping radioactive human behavior in mind.", "How do music bands go about preventing personal conflicts? Imagine a popular group or rather duo like [Vicetone](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vicetone), considering how far they've made it together and almost every fan recognizes them as a duo rather than as individuals. What is the likely outcome in case both of them develop a serious personal conflict, in case they split up, what becomes the future of \"Vicetone\" brand/shares and likely reaction of their followers, general outcome etc.\n\nI'm asking this question as I've always thought committing to something like this as a bad idea, keeping radioactive human behavior in mind." ]

[ "Well lots of bands break up and form new bands or go on to solo careers. As for resolving the conflicts usually just making a compromise can work but you never know. Also as a side note I have no idea who Vicetone is but better examples of bands that have had conflicts is The Beatles, Disturbed, and Metallica.", "Vicetone have said in a few interviews that “Vicetone” is bigger than the both of them. They are brutally honest when it comes to music production and how they want a track to sound. And they are also very close friends so personal conflicts don’t effect them as much as you think they would " ]

[ 3, 1 ]

[ "Website doesn't ship to Canada, how to buy? :( I found something I really liked online and I wanted to buy it but it doesn't ship to Canada... it ships to Germany, Japan, etc... but not Canada.\n\nIs there a way I can get it here? Third party services?\n\nI didn't know which subreddit to post this, sorry...", "Website doesn't ship to Canada, how to buy? :( I found something I really liked online and I wanted to buy it but it doesn't ship to Canada... it ships to Germany, Japan, etc... but not Canada.\n\nIs there a way I can get it here? Third party services?\n\nI didn't know which subreddit to post this, sorry...", "Website doesn't ship to Canada, how to buy? :( I found something I really liked online and I wanted to buy it but it doesn't ship to Canada... it ships to Germany, Japan, etc... but not Canada.\n\nIs there a way I can get it here? Third party services?\n\nI didn't know which subreddit to post this, sorry...", "Website doesn't ship to Canada, how to buy? :( I found something I really liked online and I wanted to buy it but it doesn't ship to Canada... it ships to Germany, Japan, etc... but not Canada.\n\nIs there a way I can get it here? Third party services?\n\nI didn't know which subreddit to post this, sorry..." ]

[ "I use Montana shipping outlet. They will not only keep your stuff for pickup if you want. But they also offer to forward it to you as well. Prices are reasonable and the staff is nice too.", "I've used myus.com to three different countries- the cheapest account is sufficient and you can bundle packages together into one shipment. ", "Have you already tried shipito.com? I think it works great if you reaaally want something and don't care to pay a little more shipping.", "Email them and ask why. Canadian customs are very difficult to deal with, and vendors often end up with stuff returned unclaimed. You can use a freight forwarder, but then you'll have to deal with customs directly. " ]

[ 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "What do you do for the awkward 5 to 10 seconds when you see someone you know in a hall or down the street but you're still walking toward them? Or even when you have to awkwardly walk past a stranger and you're the only two people in the hall? Is there a way to make this death march toward each other better without the need for a field of flowers, happy music, and slow motion?", "What do you do for the awkward 5 to 10 seconds when you see someone you know in a hall or down the street but you're still walking toward them? Or even when you have to awkwardly walk past a stranger and you're the only two people in the hall? Is there a way to make this death march toward each other better without the need for a field of flowers, happy music, and slow motion?", "What do you do for the awkward 5 to 10 seconds when you see someone you know in a hall or down the street but you're still walking toward them? Or even when you have to awkwardly walk past a stranger and you're the only two people in the hall? Is there a way to make this death march toward each other better without the need for a field of flowers, happy music, and slow motion?", "What do you do for the awkward 5 to 10 seconds when you see someone you know in a hall or down the street but you're still walking toward them? Or even when you have to awkwardly walk past a stranger and you're the only two people in the hall? Is there a way to make this death march toward each other better without the need for a field of flowers, happy music, and slow motion?", "What do you do for the awkward 5 to 10 seconds when you see someone you know in a hall or down the street but you're still walking toward them? Or even when you have to awkwardly walk past a stranger and you're the only two people in the hall? Is there a way to make this death march toward each other better without the need for a field of flowers, happy music, and slow motion?", "What do you do for the awkward 5 to 10 seconds when you see someone you know in a hall or down the street but you're still walking toward them? Or even when you have to awkwardly walk past a stranger and you're the only two people in the hall? Is there a way to make this death march toward each other better without the need for a field of flowers, happy music, and slow motion?", "What do you do for the awkward 5 to 10 seconds when you see someone you know in a hall or down the street but you're still walking toward them? Or even when you have to awkwardly walk past a stranger and you're the only two people in the hall? Is there a way to make this death march toward each other better without the need for a field of flowers, happy music, and slow motion?", "What do you do for the awkward 5 to 10 seconds when you see someone you know in a hall or down the street but you're still walking toward them? Or even when you have to awkwardly walk past a stranger and you're the only two people in the hall? Is there a way to make this death march toward each other better without the need for a field of flowers, happy music, and slow motion?" ]

[ "Options:\n\n1. Have something in your hands, such as a note pad or stack of papers, pretend to be reading them as you walk - it looks like you're a busy and hard worker. Or a dweeb.\n\n2. Turn around and moon walk backwards until they pass.\n\n3. Be 'gradually-becomes-silly-walker'. See if you can get other people to get into the practice. Not only will it liven up the office, you'll get to be creative, and stretch out a bit. Walk like normal after they pass. Do not ever discuss the silly walking. Deny all knowledge of it if directly asked.\n\n4. Stop and do a cool guy pose against the wall. Or play wall pose bingo. Find a series of poses, and put them on a card, see how many you can get in a day. [To get you started](https://www.google.com/search?hl=en&safe=off&site=imghp&tbm=isch&source=hp&biw=2257&bih=1479&q=guy+leaning+against+a+wall&oq=guy+leaning+against+a+wall&gs_l=img.12...35095.35100.1.35811.2.0.0.2.2.0.0.0..0.0...0.0...1ac.1.7.img.XS_rfUnvdZ4). Make sure you get in some [stretching](http://www.visualphotos.com/photo/2x3909883/man_leaning_against_wall_arms_raised_side_view_PAA483000011.jpg), [see if you can get people to ask you if everything's alright](http://i.istockimg.com/file_thumbview_approve/20637034/2/stock-photo-20637034-sad-man-leaning-against-a-wall.jpg), and see if you can [get your shirt off and light a cigarette before they arrive](http://www.visualphotos.com/photo/1x9088209/bare-chested_man_leaning_against_wall_smoking_IAI010000662.jpg) with bonus points for matching the facial expression and/or turning into an old man and/or growing or applying a fake mustache. Carry on as normal after they pass.\n\n5. Carry a green laser pointer with you, and if they look at you too early shine it in their eyes and say 'Not yet!', then when you're appropriately close do your normal acknowledgment as if the laser incident never happened. This will train your co hall sharers to avert their eyes from you and establish your dominance.\n\n6. As soon as you see them yell 'Wind sprints!' and bust out running top speed. Not only will you cut down the distance, you'll get in some exercise, get to your destination faster, and make the other person feel like a lazy slob for having just kept walking, or force them to also sprint; Now everyone's a winner.\n\n7. Pretend you're the last person on earth and look right through people as if they don't exist. Carry around a bloody hand stained volley ball you talk to while walking around.\n\n8. Pass word around or bring in a doctors note that you have a vision problem, narrowing tunnel vision or distance focus issues. That way they think you haven't seen them yet until they're close, and you'll get bonus sympathy points for your disability. Or eliminated first as the weakest.\n\n9. Wear dark or mirrored sunglasses. At all times. Point your head wherever you like, stare right at them, you can do whatever, you're a God behind those glasses. Works at the beach to stare at the girls, works in the office to stare at the girls.\n\n10. Grow the fuck up and realize that if your life is so mundane that you are concerned enough about hallway awkwardness to post about it on the internet you have a pretty damn good life. Unless you have some sort of crippling social anxiety and can only talk to fellow humans using the impersonal interface of a computer, in which case, sorry, you should probably just look at your shoes or something.", "Every single post in this thread so far has completely missed the point. Yes, we know, smile and nod when you first see it's them. But now you're walking toward them. Now what do you do? I can't imagine anyone besides a psychopath would just keep smiling and nodding and nodding and nodding.", "If I have enough time, I'll check my phone and pretend to respond to a text or something until I'm close enough to say hello.", "Well.....Establish dominance. Take up more space I the hallway and look through them.....not at them. ", "Smile and nod, or wave. Continue walking. Look at what's around you so don't run into a corner or an open door or something.\n\nDo what you were doing before you noticed them.", "Ok. Here is a real answer for you. Personally, I like to point out the funny-ness of the situation and depending on how far they are you can just simply say \"You're so faaaar! Can you hear me?!?!\" Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself a little. It'll point out the awkwardness and laugh at it in its face and you'll both get a kick out of it. ", "Smile, give whatever wave you are accustomed to, and catch them as they walk past. If you would prefer not to talk to them, give them the nod, and say you'll see them later if they attempt to strike up a conversation. For the five seconds, just continue walking toward them, and turn in their direction if you actually do want to talk to them. If you're walking toward a stranger, just stare down the hall. If they make eye contact and you notice, nod, and just continue nonchalantly. ", "Smile, nod (sort sort of acknowledgement) if you are alone with that person in the hallway you can start to talk if you want to. \n\nDon't over think this." ]

[ 29, 19, 5, 3, 2, 2, 1, 0 ]

[ "Computer cable management How do you guys keep your various cables straight and out of the way. I have quite a few usb items always plugged in and it causes quite a lot of clutter. Love to hear your guys' tips. Thanks.", "Computer cable management How do you guys keep your various cables straight and out of the way. I have quite a few usb items always plugged in and it causes quite a lot of clutter. Love to hear your guys' tips. Thanks.", "Computer cable management How do you guys keep your various cables straight and out of the way. I have quite a few usb items always plugged in and it causes quite a lot of clutter. Love to hear your guys' tips. Thanks.", "Computer cable management How do you guys keep your various cables straight and out of the way. I have quite a few usb items always plugged in and it causes quite a lot of clutter. Love to hear your guys' tips. Thanks." ]

[ "[Spiral wrap](http://www.pmg-heat-shrink-tubing.com/wp-content/uploads/spiral1.jpg) for permanent cables. It's a pain to do but it ends up looking nice. Apparently there's a tool you can buy that makes it easier to apply, though I haven't tried it. \n\n[Split loom](http://heavyequipmentparts.brequipmentco.com/images/upload/50001C.jpg) is another option.\n\nYou can use [tie wraps and anchors](http://www.panduit.com/heiler/GroupImages/WgrpABM-A-B.jpg) to hold it all in place when you're finished.", "For USB cables, [this solution is brilliant.](http://www.wired.com/gadgetlab/2010/03/neat-hack-binder-clip-cable-keepers/)", "velcro wraps. they are sold everywhere.\nfor semi-permeate uses I use wire ties if you want to tape things down, use blue painter's tape.. easy to remove and no residue\nthe paper clip idea works very well, as well as the produce ties from the grocery. ", "At the desk top level get some big spring type paper clips and thread a cable each through them and clamp them to the edge of the desk. " ]

[ 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "how to stop procrastinating doing small tasks It would make sense to put off things like 5-hour work sessions - they tend to be long and unpleasant, so I'd rather be doing something else. But I also catch myself waiting days, weeks, even months before doing something that actually takes less than 5 minutes to finish.\n\nIt's sometimes understandable because some of them are things that involve major life decisions (like sending a university application) or just make me nervous (like asking someone out on a date). But some of them are just generic small tasks (and not ones I have to do routinely) that I put off anyway.\n\nThis seems stupid and I have a feeling it's not hard to fix. Any tips?", "how to stop procrastinating doing small tasks It would make sense to put off things like 5-hour work sessions - they tend to be long and unpleasant, so I'd rather be doing something else. But I also catch myself waiting days, weeks, even months before doing something that actually takes less than 5 minutes to finish.\n\nIt's sometimes understandable because some of them are things that involve major life decisions (like sending a university application) or just make me nervous (like asking someone out on a date). But some of them are just generic small tasks (and not ones I have to do routinely) that I put off anyway.\n\nThis seems stupid and I have a feeling it's not hard to fix. Any tips?", "how to stop procrastinating doing small tasks It would make sense to put off things like 5-hour work sessions - they tend to be long and unpleasant, so I'd rather be doing something else. But I also catch myself waiting days, weeks, even months before doing something that actually takes less than 5 minutes to finish.\n\nIt's sometimes understandable because some of them are things that involve major life decisions (like sending a university application) or just make me nervous (like asking someone out on a date). But some of them are just generic small tasks (and not ones I have to do routinely) that I put off anyway.\n\nThis seems stupid and I have a feeling it's not hard to fix. Any tips?", "how to stop procrastinating doing small tasks It would make sense to put off things like 5-hour work sessions - they tend to be long and unpleasant, so I'd rather be doing something else. But I also catch myself waiting days, weeks, even months before doing something that actually takes less than 5 minutes to finish.\n\nIt's sometimes understandable because some of them are things that involve major life decisions (like sending a university application) or just make me nervous (like asking someone out on a date). But some of them are just generic small tasks (and not ones I have to do routinely) that I put off anyway.\n\nThis seems stupid and I have a feeling it's not hard to fix. Any tips?", "how to stop procrastinating doing small tasks It would make sense to put off things like 5-hour work sessions - they tend to be long and unpleasant, so I'd rather be doing something else. But I also catch myself waiting days, weeks, even months before doing something that actually takes less than 5 minutes to finish.\n\nIt's sometimes understandable because some of them are things that involve major life decisions (like sending a university application) or just make me nervous (like asking someone out on a date). But some of them are just generic small tasks (and not ones I have to do routinely) that I put off anyway.\n\nThis seems stupid and I have a feeling it's not hard to fix. Any tips?" ]

[ "I get stuck in ruts like this. Whether it's sending that application, doing the dishes, making that phone call or whatever. It gets to the end of the day and you haven't achieved anything and it still needs to be done. It took me two weeks to ring my letting agent to tell them my boiler broke so I was without hot water for 3 weeks. No matter how much I hated the cold showers I couldn't bring myself to ring. 2 minutes on the phone got me hot showers back and all that procrastination was energy I could put elsewhere. Set small goals for example making sure you set the bed as soon as you get up, makes you \"achieve\" something early in the day. And honestly sometimes just take a breath close your eyes and hit send or dial the number. Once you've done the application is sent and once someone answers the phone all you need to do is talk. For me it's just being anxious and it's been worse since a bad break up but I just think \"fuck it\" nobody else can do it for me.", "Do you suffer from anxiety? Even the most basic task can feel like a huge burden to someone who does have it and often people never even realize that is the issue for years and years. Don't wait if you think that may be a problem, see someone. ", "Buy a planner with a calendar in it. Write what your going to do on what day and do it. Make sure you put a x on every day that passes and only put a x if you accomplish what you wrote to do. Now don't break the chain of x's. This got me thru a divorce and out of bed. I needed direction and lacked motivation. The planner was only needed for a year. It was the habit of doing and not letting depression or anxiety own you that needed to be formed. ", "I do not know if this is the right place to say this. But I struggled also with sending importand letters. I mean I know that I should really do this! I tried psychedelicas (LSD). No shit this gave me such a strong message! After this experience i became better at doing things, i knowed that I cannot always avoid them. I mean just do it! No excuse", "Many time management experts label procrastination in strictly negative terms such as “the thief of time.” But is procrastination always such a negative experience? Is there a positive side to procrastination, one that may even encourage you to procrastinate more often?\nWhat if you could see procrastination from a more empowering perspective? What if you could even fall in love with procrastination?... Cont'd...\n\nstevepavlina.com/blog/2010/06/how-to-fall-in-love-with-procrastination/" ]

[ 3, 3, 2, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to pull yourself out of a conversation when it seems like the conversation isn't coming to an end? You ever stay in a conversation because it'd be rude to just leave, or you couldn't find an opportunity to end the conversation? We end up spending additional minutes or even hours talking when you really don't want to. Is there a way to maneuver the conversation to an end or possible another way to leave a conversation that doesn't seem like its end any time soon? ", "How to pull yourself out of a conversation when it seems like the conversation isn't coming to an end? You ever stay in a conversation because it'd be rude to just leave, or you couldn't find an opportunity to end the conversation? We end up spending additional minutes or even hours talking when you really don't want to. Is there a way to maneuver the conversation to an end or possible another way to leave a conversation that doesn't seem like its end any time soon? ", "How to pull yourself out of a conversation when it seems like the conversation isn't coming to an end? You ever stay in a conversation because it'd be rude to just leave, or you couldn't find an opportunity to end the conversation? We end up spending additional minutes or even hours talking when you really don't want to. Is there a way to maneuver the conversation to an end or possible another way to leave a conversation that doesn't seem like its end any time soon? " ]

[ "Stop trying to spare the other person's feelings so much. Just interrupt their monologue and say, \"It is really nice talking with you, but I have to leave in a minute\". That gives them a chance to _quickly_ finish whatever they were talking about so you don't seem rude. Then -- in a minute -- stand up, turn your feet towards the door, and make the graceful exit. Say bye one more time as you're most definitely leaving. \n\nHope that helps. I learned that the hard way, sometimes you just gotta leave.", "Sometimes the best option is just to be honest but if the honest reason is just that you're bored or something then it's not really nice to be honest about that unless you feel comfortable. So then it can depend on the flow of the conversation. Try not to ask too many questions and seek a gap in conversation where you can butt in and say \"I need to dash\" (or something you feel comfortable saying) ", "\"Hey dude I'm feeling pretty tired. It's been nice talking to you, I'm going to head to bed now/Take a nap.\" If this doesn't sound like something you'd say it doesn't have to be sleeping. Or if it's not normal for you to be tired say you where up all night playing video games or with freinds last night. What I just gave you there is very easy to change into anything. It also doesn't have to be said by itself. Usually it's good to follow up your excuse with plausible reasoning. Hope I helped :)" ]

[ 14, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes.", "How to read a textbook. Hey guys. College freshman checking in. I have not read a textbook in so long. Now that I know I have to, I sit down to read it and stare at the words. I have no trouble reading long text posts on Reddit or someplace else that interests me. I just can't seem to sit down and read a damn textbook without blanking out every few minutes." ]

[ "I had a class early in college where the prof. actually talked to us about this. I think I remembered the method correctly:\n\n- First take note of the chapter name\n- Next go through the pages and look at any section heading names - this will give you a rough idea of what is being discussed and how the author sees it organized (your teacher may see it organized this way too)\n\n-Next go through the section and look for bold or italicized words - they are being emphasized for a reason so they are probably worth the extra read.\n\n-Finally read the section, by this point you pretty much know what is going on and can put it all in context.\n\nHonestly I thought it would take me extra time doing this method but it goes pretty quick and I still use it today.\n\nGood luck.", "1) Attend all classes and read the section/chapters of the textbooks that will be covered in class that day BEFORE class. That way you can address questions or problems you have while the teacher is on the topic and not hours/days before midterm or final.\n\nWhen you do pre reading like that, just read it like a book. Read every work on a page, turn the page. Keep turning until you are done. Usually you only have 1-2 chapters to cover so you're looking at 20-80 pages at most.\n\nIf your teacher is a psychopath then speedread the 100++ pages he wants to cover in class.\n\n2) Take good notes in class and after class spend a few minutes annotating or highlighting the textbook to remind you of the important bits.\n\n3) Before your exam if you have a lot of time and really want to invest in a good grade. Reread it again like a book, paying attention to the highlighted parts.\n\nDon't focus exclusively on the highlighted parts. Sometimes you will highlight the wrong things and some teachers love to go off the obvious important points just to see who really went deep in the material and not just read someone else's highlights.\n\nIf you don't have time speedread with special attention to the highlights.\n\nTry and ask around about the teacher's exams. With some it pays to spend 90% of your time on the textbooks and 10% on notes and for others it's the other way around. If you don't know who to ask, ask the teacher.\n\n", "You won't like the answer: the trick is to learn to be patient and just stick with it.\n\nCommon study tools involving textbooks are:\n\n* Making note cards from highlighted, bolded, italicized, or otherwise marked words\n* Skipping straight to section/chapter exercises, and reviewing the section for answers as needed. If you do this, be sure to read thoroughly as to gain the insight provided in the book, rather than doing what your generation has been trained to do: scanning for information without reading in-depth\n* Engage with the text by using a highlighter to mark areas you think are important. Don't waste your time highlighting everything, or things that are already marked (like the aforementioned vocabulary). Mark things you believe you are likely to forget.\n* Engage further with the text by taking a critical eye to it. Write in the margins passages with which you disagree, or areas you are unsure. If you do one section on Monday, review your margin-notes on Tuesday to research the answers, or follow up on whether your opinions have changed.\n* Use sticky notes, familiarize yourself with the index/ToC, or otherwise develop some way of accessing information in the textbook quickly. This is especially important for math or hard science books, and less important for literature.\n* To contradict myself, I recommend reading everything assigned at least three times. First time, scan it and try to mark areas you think you need to engage with more closely. Second time, read in depth every word and be very patient—make sure you understand everything. Third time, scan again to review your understanding of the text.\n* Biggest tip: **Actually do it.**\n\nGood luck.", "How to Read a Book by Mortimer Adler, only problem is you might need a book on how to read that book...", "Don't read passively. Take a few seconds after every couple of paragraphs and try to think how it weaves into the whole of what you're reading. Also (and this is more for liberal arts readings) read for structure; think about how the argument is formulated and how it all fits together. ", "It's hard to read something that doesn't interest you in the slightest. \n\nSo before reading the text, maybe first go on YouTube or similar and find a quick video on the topic that might get you interested (or basically anything that is easier to digest than a book). Read afterwards.\n", "I've lived a long and successful academic life without reading them - if it's not science where you must memorize complex facts you may learn better by other means. Find what lets you learn best, it's your money you are spending to be there. ", "This trick helped me add a whole grade point:\nThey have already told you to read the text book BEFORE class. I would add, even if you don't have time to read it, at least skim it, even if you don't understand it. \nHERE IS WHY: You don't have to take notes! When you hear the prof say something, you will know if it is in the book. If it is, don't write it down! Sit there and listen to what he is saying and comprehend it. This will help you learn. \nEveryone else in class is writing feverishly, taking dictation and not even listening. They are transcribing what is already in the book, so their notes are huge and worthless. You only write down what ISN'T in the book, and your notes are small and very valuable.\nNow you have read and then heard the material. At that point, on one else in class has. You are way ahead of everyone else and the place you would have been.\nI remember when I discovered this, I was sitting in class listening to lecture, and the guy next to me says, \"Aren't you taking notes?!?\" I said, \"This exact problem is the example in the book....\"", "Read the first and last sentence of every paragraph first. This will give you an idea of what your about to read and probably trigger some questions in your mind. Go back and read the whole text. You'll be more 'into' what you reading because of those questions now in the back of your head. \n\nBreak it up into sections if its a long piece of text.", "Make sure that you're working in an area free from distractions. Music can be ok as background noise, but if you find you're bobbing along to the music, odds are it is just distracting you. \nTake notes on key points as you go. The process of collating the information will focus your thoughts and you will retain more. DON'T color the book. DON'T go to the end of chapter summaries and assume they have all the info you need. DON'T skip classes thinking you can read it in your textbook. Most decent professors fill in extra information that is omitted in a textbook and you will be responsible for it come exam time.", "When I was running behind on assignments, I used the following trick and it worked like a charm. \n\nI would read the first three sentences of each paragraph. If a paragraph had less than three sentences, then I would add it onto the next paragraph. For example, read three sentences, read two sentences, read four sentences, read three sentences, and so on. \n\nIf I was in a super hurry, I'd cut it down to the first sentence only.\n\nThis really works and you retain everything that you need to in a fraction of the time.", "There is alot of speed reading apps on the market. Maybe use on of those and apply to your text books. Like a \"learning a skill \" while studying and learning that stuff. ", "Some good ideas here, and everyone learns differently. What works best for me is: pretend you're explaining it to somebody as you're reading it. I find that by placing myself in the teacher's shoes, I get better comprehension, and retain more info long-term.", "Read the front and back of the chapter to figure out what they're trying to tell you in the chapter. Then think of a question you might want to ask about the first conclusion. Read (or at least skim) the first section to see if it answers your question or not. \n\nAlternately, look at Problem 1 at the end (depending on the subject, if they have problems). See if you can figure out how to solve it. Read the chapter to see where it gives you clues about Problem 1, then go on to Problem 2.", "Read the entire assigned chapters, and others if you have time. Even if you don't think you are understanding, read through it completely the first time around. Don't worry if you don't understand a lot of it. You'll notice when you do this, you'll see something later and be like, oh yeah, that's what they meant. The first time in a tough material it is overwhelming and you won't understand it all, but get through it!", "In Psychology, it's known that cramming allows you to remember for a long time very, very little information. If you constantly read through the chapter, you'll remember the beginning, barely any of the middle of the chapter, and then some things at the end.\n\nHowever, if you break that up... You read Chapter 1.1-1.3 in one sitting, then get up and do something else. Start laundry or something, and then go back and read 1.4-1.6 and then take a break again, you'll get a lot more of the chapter bit by bit. You'll also retain it more.\n\nYou can't just read it and expect to know it all either. The gummy bear method that someone else mentioned works because it gives you a physical 'award' for reading that section.\n\nA couple of other things though. If you study while eating gummy bears, eat gummy bears during the test. If you're taking a test at a desk, study at a desk. These little things seem stupid, but it puts your brain in the same place you were when you were studying and you WILL remember more of it.\n\nIf you listen to music, it can cause problems if there are words in it as your brain will associate the words in the song with what you're studying it and it may not be easily possible to remember that information without the music.\n\nJust go to all of the classes, take the time to study. Quiz yourself. Just fucking do it. You're paying God knows how much every semester so you better get your money's worth.", "Everyone's giving you great advice. \n\n**Here's what my bio teacher had us do:**\n\nWhen you get done reading a page or a small section of a chapter, make a post-it asking a question (or several) that can be answered by looking through that section. This way, when you review, you can test yourself on (ideally) every page by seeing if you can answer the questions you created in the post-its. \n\nThe idea is not only that you're testing yourself, but the very process of question-making/answering serves as a GREAT way of drilling the subject into your head and helping you memorize it. ", "At least for me, and amusing I can get the ebook: Reading along while using text to speech helps me stay focused and improves my comprehension/retention.", "there's a lot of things that worked for them. i had no problem reading a textbook, so what works for me won't work for you.\n\nif you struggle, you need to take notes. chapter name. section. make bullet points about what you are reading. depending on the average length make a system. you need to summarize at least every x paragraph. \n\njust the act of writing it down will help you remember what you just did. you now have a quick reference. if you need to go deeper you have a general idea where it is in the book. ", "check this book: http://www.amazon.com/The-Mindful-Way-To-Study-ebook/dp/B00DWPHS1Y/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top?ie=UTF8", "[This might help.](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2eihm5/lpt_request_how_can_i_stay_on_focus_better/ck01ep1)", "Try to put the material into your own words. Explain it to your roommate, or to the mirror. Don't try to commit textbooks to memory, this is not a good way to do things.\n\nYour prof's lectures will most likely be your best source for information. Ask if something is unclear, and make sure you know how to use the material that is presented.", "The best advice I have gotten is to read it three times. \nWhether it is the passage, the chapter, or a sentence with the main idea. \nWhatever is giving you trouble concentrating on you read it three times slowly. At the very least, this will give you a general idea of what the passage is about.", "Taking notes while doing it really helps. As you read write down the section header and as you read the section take notes. Generally there is one important point per paragraph, and probably (in my experience with my books) 6 paragraphs per section. So you have the section header and then ~6 key things. This process in general helps you to synthesize, retain, and digest the information to a deeper level. When reviewing/studying you just look over your notes and if you are fuzzy on anything you have written you can go back to that specific section and reread it. It sounds like more work to take notes additionally, but it's not *that* much more work and it has unbelievable payoff.\n\nThere are usually key terms that the book has listed at either the beginning or end of the chapter to know. They are usually highlighted or bold in the book and it is important to know how they fit in context but it is also important to flip to the back of the book for the definition they give because it may clarify something you didn't realize you were misunderstanding. Also sometimes the words are listed but aren't bold/highlighted, so you need to be aware of that.", "Take notes as you read. It will slow you down if all you're concerned about is getting through the chapter, but there's not much point in reading if you're not retaining anything. What I would do was make my own outline based on the headings and subheadings in the chapter (if there are any--some books are better than others at this), and under those include any points I thought were important or especially interesting. This may include bolded/italicized words if the textbook you're reading includes keywords or vocabulary terms (of course you can omit them if they're incredibly obvious, but it's nice to have them in your notes even then in case you can't remember which chapter covered what topics and you want to go back and look at something specific before the test). Try not to write *everything* down, but if you find yourself going through one or two pages without taking any notes, make sure you're not just skimming and missing some important point. Bulleted or numbered lists are often good things to include in your notes, too, if they show up in your chapter. Formulas/equations should always go in your notes, as well as any important symbols and what they mean. Also include WHEN to use said formulas.\n\nYour notes are going to vary a bit depending on the subject and what things are important to take away from the text (and what helps *you* in particular), but these guidelines should help you get started.\n\nAlso, as someone else said, always read your book BEFORE you go to class to hear the lecture over those sections. The lectures will make far more sense if you've already read the book and are not just playing catch-up, and if something in the reading was confusing to you, that would be the time to ask your professor about it.", "Something no one has mentioned is this: if you are an auditory learner, you might be better off reading out loud.", "So I'm going to begin by emphasizing the importance of NOT subvocalizing. Unfortunately for most of us we were all taught to read by reading out loud, and although it helped us with pronunciation it now is instilled in your mind as the proper way to read. It's not. In other words you should not be pronouncing the words that you read in your head. \n\nHow do you avoid the constant need you feel to subvocalize? Start reading with a pointer. Your pointer can be anything from a pen/pencil to your finger. Using your pointer as a guide you will be able to quickly trace your eyes across each line, and just because you aren't subvocalizing doesn't mean that your conscious or subconscious brain is not processing the material. It is. \n\nThere will be times during your reading that your mind will feel lost. It has undoubtedly happened to you before; you are half way through a page before you realize that you don't remember a single thing that you have read. And that's okay!! Don't go back! Not yet anyways...\n\nNow for the process:\n\nSet a timer for 50mins. \n\nSpend the first 5 minutes reading through all of the major headings/bold words/italics etc. Here you are mentally laying the ground work for your reading to come. \n\nNext spend 40mins reading the entire chapter. Remember that with your pointer you should be able to breeze through lines with your eyes. And at no point should you be subvocalizing!! Even if your mind feels lost keep going onwards! \n\nFinally spend the last 5mins summarizing the contents of what you read in your own words!! Pretend that you are trying to explain to somebody who hasn't read the chapter what the chapter is all about. \n\nNow it's time for a mental break. Like any other muscle your brain needs to relax and reset. Don't think about the chapter or it's contents for 5-10 mins. Get up. Stretch. Grab some water. Whatever. \n\nAnd now for the most important part...\nRepeat the process!!! That's right, reread the entire chapter. Again. With the same process. \n\nYou will notice as you reread the chapter that the second time around your mind is able to piece together more pieces of the puzzle. Your mind will begin to feel less lost as you speed read through because although you actively are not processing the material your subconscious mind has already done so once before. \n\nBe sure to repeat the process as many times is necessary for full comprehension. \n\nTaught to me by a professor from Northwestern University, and it has never failed me. ", "Read slower and re-tell yourself what you just read in your own words. Also read the picture captions and little examples. Examples and illustrations will make it more memorable", "Place a gummy bear at each different section on the current page you are reading. Eat gummy bear when you get there. Don't cheat the system! ", "My own personal approach: Skim-Chunk-RUN\n\nSkim the chapter, noting main concepts, vocabulary terms, and any diagrams. Before you read, take the vocabulary terms and go to the glossary, find your definitions.This will usually give you a reasonable overview of the chapter content.\n\nBreak the chapter up into smaller chunks. You can read through shorter sections faster, and the [gummy bear trick] (http://imgur.com/IcUu4) can actually be useful.\n\nR.U.N. stands for Read, Underline, Note. As you **read** through each section, **underline** any important information. Finally, take **notes** on the section before moving on to the next.\n\nDo this process and you'll get all of the key information from each reading assignment, and you won't have to re-read anything, ever. Just review your notes.\n\nPro tip: Many teachers provide a reading schedule with the syllabus at the beginning of the semester. Read ahead at the beginning of the semester, then stay one assignment ahead in the reading all semester long.", "It's less than ideal, but if you really need help focusing, take detailed notes. Pretend you're explaining the ideas to your future self, going slowly through the book. It'll slow you down a lot, but you'll get a lot out of the textbooks.\n\nSource: College sophomore", "In law school, I took notes in the margins as I was reading. (Bonus tip - I also rewrote my notes when I got home from class. This was before laptops were a common classroom item. But for me, writing notes during class and then rewriting them and using them to study for exams helped me retain the information. I was able to picture the page in my notebook and recall the information.) Also, don't over-highlight. ", "If you don't plan on re-selling them, try using highlighters.- Read through a passage and highlight important words or phrases, and then you can go back later and if it didn't sink in the highlighters will act like clif notes.\n\nIf you have a fair amount of time on hand and want it to sink in REALLY well, I use this technique:\n\n1)skim through, highlighting passages\n\n2)go back with a notebook and take notes, using the highlights to help organise the concepts\n\n3) use notes for studying later.", "If the proffessor uses a large test bank, and previous tests are freely available, read the tests first, then use the text book to undstand the tests. I only made a C in Organic Chemistry, but would of flunked if I didn't switch to studying the tests. ", "I had some similar trouble recently, found that my attention span had gone to shit. Whats helped so far is reading a book. Something easy to read but of a decent length, an actual novel. Its easy to get into and it helps remember how to keep your mind on one thing.", "Good tips- if you turn the headings into questions, find the answer to the question. Boom- main idea of that section. ", "Everyone has already suggested some really great things, but one tip that has been invaluable to me is this: set a timer for half an hour. Read for half an hour and don't let yourself do anything else. When the timer is up, you get to take a break for 10-15 minutes and do whatever you want. Then you do another half hour. This way you get tons done, but you don't feel like killing yourself quite as much.", "Ethics professor suggested reading the last page or two of every chapter before actually diving in to the whole chapter. Usually summarized everything in a few paragraphs. ", "Don't forget to read the blurbs, you'll get a lot of stupid jokes and stuff, but many \"trick/difficult\" questions on tests are based off of them.", "Be sure to mark in your textbooks with pens or with highlighters. By keeping a highlighter in your hand with the cap off, it's harder to zone out when you're reading, as you'll probably be marking several important things on each page. ", "As you are reading, pay attention to things that are important to highlight, and highlight them. It will keep you focused on the words and stop you from skimming/day dreaming and having to re-read pages you don't remember reading.", "After 4 years of university, professional courses and working as a research assistant at a Uni, here is my system:\n\nI briefly go over the chapter and get a sense for what I'm getting in to. I take detailed notes as I read and after each section i review what I just wrote and make sure it makes sense to me. You should be able to explain it to someone after you get through it. After I'm done the chapter, I make a \"good version\" of my notes in nice writing or in Word - colours, underlines, all that fancy stuff. This process of making your notes look nice solidifies it all into your head in an organized way and also gives you bad ass pre exam study material.\n\nTL;DR: take notes as you read, then rewrite your notes into a nice format and make sure you understand it all. Easy as pie.", "90% of what you need to know is within 2 sentences of the boded words (either before or after depending how paragraph is structured). My study technique consisted of find bolded word, read paragraph it is in, if I understand the concept under the heading move on. If not keep reading for more detail. Sometimes you can just stop at the bolded word if you already understand the definition. You only need to read the ENTIRE book if you want 100%.", "1) Read the text book for background,\n\n2) go to class,\n\n3) go to class, pay attention, take good notes,\n\n4) DO ANY/ALL HOME WORK ASSIGNED!,\n\n4) Did I mention go to class?,\n\n5) skim the book if you want, but review your notes. Most of what your professor actually wants you to know will be in your notes. \n\nI once had an organic chemistry professor that set up his class so that even if you bombed the tests, as long as you went to class and did the homework, you would still pass with a C, thing was, if you went to class and did your homework, you would probably end up with at least a B. These classes typically have at least a 40% failure rate. \n", "Read the first and last sentence of every paragraph, if it sounds like a new idea or like it may be important then read the whole thing. If it sounds anecdotal or serves to reemphasize, it can be skipped. Obviously this won't work for everyone, but it worked for me.\n\nSource: Graduated Phi Beta Kappa, Magna Cum Laude, currently in doctoral program after just graduating in May." ]

[ 334, 31, 15, 9, 9, 6, 5, 4, 4, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?", "How to make life a little less boring? Or how to accept that life is boring? I know life isn’t supposed to be exciting and thrilling every second of the day, but I struggle. Any tips on how to accept the everyday monotonous? Any tips on how to make daily life more fun?" ]

[ "If you are feeling bored, get out of the house. Doesn't matter what you do: walk, bike, rent a scooter, go for a drive, whatever. I am consistently happy with what I experience once I make myself, get off the couch.", "Boredom is a spiritual state. It's an essential step on the journey to deciding what truly matters to you and your plan to achieve that.\n\nBut to echo the tips of others:\n\n* Go for REALLY long walks around where you live\n* Join local groups relevant to your actual hobbies and interests (not, e.g., what you *think* others might find cool) and meet people of all age groups and backgrounds who have those same hobbies or interests\n* Gardening is a lot more exciting than people realize", "Try new things, even if you think you wouldn't like it. I had that problem for awhile. Decided to take a discovery flight at a local flight school and ended up getting my private pilots license because i enjoyed it so much. \n\nI also like spend some time working on fun projects at home to learn new skills.", "Allow yourself to be bored. To do nothing once in a while. To let your body rest and your mind wander. If you're bored, it's because you want to do something instead of nothing - but that's also when you are at your most creative. Those random thoughts you have in the shower, or as you're falling asleep are the results of doing something (or nothing) that allows your brain to disengage and meander, making random connections between things. You'll surprise yourself with what you come up with.", "Video games, exercise, and learning to cook are things that you can do everyday that can also be completely different everyday.", "If you are finding life boring, look at the organisations in your area ware actively working to make the world a better place.\n\nFind one that you like and help them.", "Language is powerful. Shift everything from “I have to” to “I get to”. It sounds silly, but practicing this every day for two weeks and you’ll begin to see a difference.\n\nAlso, try starting a gratitude journal. You’d be surprised on how quickly your mindset can shift.", "There's a difference between being happy/entertained and being content. A lot of people on here have said you need to get out and do things, and that would certainly help, but we can't be entertained all the time. Contentment is learning to be satisfied with the things you already have - for me it's having a happy dog, a comfy bed, being able to get up and go get a hug from my partner whenever I want. Once you start appreciating what you already have, a little entertainment now and then will go a long way.", "Highly recommend reading Atomic Habits. That book helped me find my personal identity and then helped me start making steps to achieve that. \n\nThat book helped me find the right kind of therapy I needed (CBT) that helped me really grow into the person I am today. \n\nOne thing that struck me how counterintuitive it feels to fight the monotony of life with discipline and routines. But that book and therapy (CBT + executive functioning coaching) really helped me create a life that is super joyful and fun and still very spontaneous!!! (& I’m a tax accountant studying for her CPA, it does not get more boring than that). \n\nGood luck friend!", "The young are always bored. You’ll grow out of it as you get old and have more responsibilities where you have no time to be bored. Then you’ll yearn for those “boring” days when you were young.", "If you have the means, get a new job in a new place. Working 7 days a week cannot be good for your mental health. Sometimes a new city can be exciting and refreshing.", "Making some assumptions here; Start doing the things you talk yourself out of. Really easy ones I see/hear a lot is people that avoid going out to eat or to the movies by themselves. 'Go out' by yourself, whatever that means for you. Don't be hard on yourself if after 30 minutes you've had enough and want to go back. Go back and feel good about it. \n\nDo something outside after work/on your weekends. Walk, run, hike, cycle, visit a museum, go to a park, drive to your friend/parents/family/favorite steak house/whatever.", "In those moments of tedium, you are forced to encounter yourself.\n\nThose who cannot simply *be* in those moments are those who cannot accept themselves.\n\nThere are many possible paths to self-acceptance. I don’t know which will work for you, but this seems like the time to begin that journey.", "I'm guessing you're young. \n\nI'd encourage learning a bit about dopamine. Here's a boring podcast to check out: Huberman Lab (Dopamine episode). \n\nYour levels of dopamine are lowest in the teen years. Often resulting in feeling more bored than any other time in life and also the reason teens seek risk... to raise dopamine levels. \n\nHowever, raising your levels through thrill-seeking, drugs, frequent sexual encounters, video games etc will cause a crash that lowers your levels. \n\nRefrain from dopamine dumps. Practice dopamine fasting (put down your phone!) and take cold showers.", "force yourself to be curious about everything in your path. read absolutely everything that is near you. Talk to strangers ask them about things in an open ended way and gently ask follow up questions. The world is a fascinating place when you really look at it. Most subjects become more interesting the more you know about them and most people are experts at something.", "Ok I've had a shit year and here's where I'm at after some big losses. \n\nPracticing gratitude is hard but vital for perspective and seeing what parts of your life hold meaning for you. Resentment is easy and cathartic but it's a dead end road.\n\nLife is change and you can change. Knowing what holds meaning for you helps you move towards that change. Patience is vital in the process of making change so don't expect anything to happen overnight and keep an eye out for signs of progress that you can nurture. \n\nMake the path by walking the path.", "If you chronically feel understimulated and bored even though you feel like you try to do things it might be worth getting assessed for ADHD.", "I'm reading these comments bc I need the same help. I literally feel like I'm a rat in a wheel doing the same thing every single day. Weekends are filled with naps bc I'm exhausted from the work week and then it's Sunday night and gotta do it all over again.", "Boredom is a state of mind. \n\nWhen a person is living in the present moment, attuned to the breath moving in and out of their lungs and the dust motes hanging suspended in a ray of light about them, they can never cease to be amazed at the wonder they are immersed in. Practice being present, and that amazed wonder becomes the sublime background to all of lifes experiences. \n\nI can't remember the author that wrote \" why do I need to travel the world when universes upon universes are contained in the garden between my front door and my front gate\"\n\nBoredom... a problem brought on by a belief that life should be like a Marvel universe movie. \n\nBoredom is a state of mind. Get your mind right. There is always something to be done. Sometimes just sitting is all that is needed at the moment, but it doesn't have to be boring. Go clean your room, and pay attention as you do it. And then do the next thing that needs doing, and pay attention as you do it. Ad infinitum.", "This might not be so useful - my life is full of exciting things and the list of items I want to get to keeps growing!\n\nI would say it depends on what you find exciting. If I think something looks fun, I prioritize it and get it done!\n\nWhat types of things do you find exciting and what do you do to have more exciting things present themselves to you?\n\nI tailor my social media to present fun things to me and I then ask questions about how to do that thing (if it’s not already included in the info). I keep in contact with people who do fun things and - even when I don’t always feel like it - when those fun people have an event, I go to it! And when I have an idea for a fun thing, I invite others AND STILL DO IT EVEN IF NO ONE ELSE WANTS TO GO.\n\nI have done that since I was a child TBH (except for the social media bit lol) and it ensures that I always have something available to do. You do a bit of hustling up front to set things up and then the process just presents ever-present opportunity with a little care and feeding.", "There's some good advice here, both for finding ways to escape boredom and accept it. However, you should also be aware that if you find everything boring and have difficulty taking pleasure in life, you might be dealing with depression. Depression doesn't always manifest as \"sad all the time.\" Sometimes it manifests as a lack of interest and pleasure. If you find yourself struggling with this for a long period of time, it's probably a good idea to have yourself evaluated and seek treatment if necessary.", "The answer is simple to say and harder to implement. Go do stuff. You can just go do stuff. Go places and walk around. Go places and try things. That’s it. \n\nNot everything has to be an epic adventure. Most adventures are just things that are new to you. If it’s safe, legal, and ethical by your standards, go and try it. Just say yes. \n\nLook for stuff that you haven’t seen or done within ten minutes of your house. Whatever it is, even if you think it’s stupid or boring, try it out. \n\nWarning, old man soapbox time:\n\nMy generation and older grew up largely unsupervised, running around outside. Younger generations have had a different, more controlled and catered experience. Play dates and structured fun we’re not something I grew up with, so I experienced the world and expanded my horizons naturally and independently. Many young adults didn’t have those experiences, so they are taking those steps now.", "I always like to remind myself what a strange universe we live in. If you find yourself bored with a mundane task, consider the bigger picture. \n\nSay you're washing dishes. Water is one of the strangest substances on earth. It can exist in all 3 states of matter here. It's a universal solvent. It has all sorts of remarkable chemical properties. And when you're scrubbing those pans, think about what's really happening down there. Water at the cellular level is like molasses. The friction from your scrubbing is basically ripping apart all those baked on proteins and dislodging bacteria by the millions. It's apocalyptic. \n\nGo further. Where does water come from? It falls from the fucking sky. Not only that but it originally came here on giant balls of snow and ice that bombarded the earth while it was still in its infancy. More apocalyptic craziness. \n\nThe odds of you being here at all are astronomically infinitesimal. So many things had to fall into place: celestial mechanisms, chemical genesis, all your ancestors surviving various predators and extinctions, your grandparents meeting, your parents meeting. Your very existence is a mind-boggling fact. \n\nAdd to that the fact that you're aware of it, you possess a self-knowing consciousness that emanates from the most complex object in the known universe, the brain. You're a freaking wonder of evolution. And here you are, communicating across the planet with other brains via an interconnected web of all those conscious organisms. \n\nDon't be bored. Be in awe of the cosmos in every dish you scrub, every dumb email you send, every bill you pay. This universe is absurd and wonderful beyond measure.", "Also put down your phone. Mindless scrolling leads to major boredom. Hell, put down anything you do regularly and just aim to do things complety differently for a few days. Will help reset your mind, and you may enjoy your regular activities more after a break", "1. Practice gratitude: whenever you are in a moment where you feel like you’re bored, take a minute and reply appreciate all the things you are grateful for in this moment. Maybe it’s the sunshine on your face, or the warm breeze, the people around you who love you, your health, the air you are breathing. Anything and everything! \n\n2. Make it a habit to do things that make you uncomfortable. This CHANGED my life! Invited to a party where you don’t know anyone and you know you will be uncomfortable? Yes go!! Then at the party keep putting yourself out of your comfort zone! Talk to people, ask them questions! Invited to a workout class you think you won’t be good at? Yup, gotta go and try it! Always wanted to paint and know you suck at it? Do it anyway and proudly post it online for your friends to see! Learn that language, take that class. Do all the things! 🤣\n\n3. Learn to really SEE and appreciate the people in your life. You’re co-worker/classmate who you have nothing in common with has a totally different world view than you! Listen to it! Ask them questions about their lives. When you open yourself up to the idea that every person you meet is beautiful in their own way… you will always be surrounded by beautiful people. And life will be a lot nicer.", "The trick to life is not hating every moment when you’re older because you enjoyed every minute when you were younger.", "It may be my ADHD, or other divergent mentality, but I live chaotically. Each day, even each hour is different. This is one reason I thrived in a busy restaurant, it's ever changing. I enjoyed the high of being so busy you couldn't focus on anything else, but also the down time prepping and cleaning for the next rush. I was never bored because I was excited to see what was going to happen next. Enjoy the boredom between the excitement.", "I don’t understand boredom. There are sooo many things to do in this life! It’s usually more of a motivation problem. The first step is always the hardest. Do something for a few minutes and it becomes easier and easier. I’m never bored because I have a huge list of things I want to do.\n\n1. I’m a workaholic and I love achieving big project completion. I’ve earned several promotions from that and I sometimes work on projects when I’m bored at home because I was born poor and I will put in 10 times of effort at work than anyone to gain as much money for myself and family and friends..even if I felt like I do 10 times the work for a 10th of the pay over years…I’m making more than I would’ve had I not put in the work. I gained 7.5% raises where my peers gained 3%. Overall I’m satisfied and now that I’m a director of finance - I’m rich as fuck and there’s even more fun things to do… but this isn’t a requirement to not be bored. I had fun when I was broke eating ramen too with video games and the internet.\n\n2. I love learning. I read random things on Wikipedia all the time. I started by typing in USA and the rabbit hole that leads too is so great. History is fascinating. YouTube has several amazing videos on space exploration , the future, the past, how to gain charisma, and a million other topics! TedTalks FTW\n\n3. I’ve been a video gamer my whole life. I love resource management games like civilization, total war, Europa 4, tropico. There’s a lot of good story games too: assassins creed, god of war, tale of two brothers and many more. Multiplayer games such as halo, call of duty, world of Warcraft, and many more. When I get bored - I game.\n\n4. As some other commenters noted - get outside! I take hour long walks to clear my mind. Strength training at the gym is nice. Racing cousins in a jog is fun. If you can go on a hike at a park - that can be relaxing\n\n5. Have some hobbies to play with others. Book group, airsoft, riding atv 4 wheelers, playing board games or dungeons and dragons with friends, playing magic the gathering at a local game shop…so many others to choose\n\n6. Find a good spouse. Somebody who is interesting to you, can massage and cuddle you, and can push you to do fun things. I started by looking for a friend who I could go see a movie with, go out to eat with, go walk around the zoo and just do fun non sexual activities with. Now she’s addicted to me and we get to love on each other all the time and we respect each other immensely and know what each other need. 10 years going strong!\n\nTLDR: If you’re bored, do things to increase your knowledge, get outside, do social activities, and most importantly get motivated to do things that make you happy", "Go in the store you walk by but never have been in. Ask for a recommendation and order it, go to a bar, clothing store, park, local theater you have never been to. Life get routine and boredom is what happens between your routine so either sit and rest easy the the next thing is gonna happen in the time you planned for it to or find something out of routine to fill that space.", "Find a creative hobby to hone into. I feel like people shy away from creative outlets because \"I'm not very good at X\"\n\nSo what? If you enjoy writing, write. If you enjoy cooking, then cook. Just create something. Humans are creative by nature and having a hobby where you're actively creating then you'll probably be less bored. \n\nI found that for me cooking is an amazing outlet for creativity. I spend my downtime at work researching new recipes to try and designing meals. It just happens to be beneficial because I also need to eat every day so it makes that daily chore much more exciting. \n\nSomething else that helped me to get on board with other creative endeavors was to rope my friends into it with me. We have weekly hour-long meetings where we each are working on a creative project and we talk about progress and goals. I'm working on building an app and the others are working on totally different creative goals. This way there's some sense of obligation to work on the project so it doesn't just fall to the wayside.", "Do either of these 2 things:\n\n1) Pick a skill and learn it.\n\nor\n\n2) Pick a challenge and work towards overcoming it.\n\n​\n\nThat said, accept the occasional boredom. That's when your brain works it's shit. For example, that's when you process emotions. There are also indications that boredom helps with creativity.\n\nPart of the reason why there's a lot of mental health issues going around is the fact that we have all these distractions available to us in forms of video games, videos, social media, so we neglect to process our shit.", "A little girl in my apartment complex was feeling down; she told me of some mean things some kids at school had said. She was dejected. I told her she needed to look around for signs that she was due good fortune. Whilst she was physically looking around, I slipped some change on the ground here and there. She couldn’t believe how lucky she was! Her confidence zoomed. Other neighbors noticed me planting lucky coins and started doing it too. Feeling bored? Change one person’s life.", "‘only boring people get bored’ sounds mean but it’s good advice. you need to find that thing that makes life better even if you’re not good at it. you need to find a passion that you could spend all day doing (not videogames, not media consumption, literally anything besides)\n\ni would just try some things youve always been interested in (poetry? bouldering at the climbing gym? just try any activity you’ve never done before, or one you know you love!)", "sometimes you have to master being bored cause life can't be fun 24/7... its good to embrace all human emotions", "You live your life way you want to live it.\n\nHowever you make your bed, this is the way you'll sleep.\n\nLife is boring? Start doing exciting stuff?", "You know that feeling you get when you’re really engaged in something? Maybe building a deck or putting together some Ikea furniture. You get so into it that the time passes by and you don’t even realize it?\n\nThat’s the state of being you should strive for. And you do so by doing things that are manageably difficult. If your life monotonous, I hate to say it, but you may be doing it wrong. I know I did for a many number of years. \n\nI had decided 5 years ago that the life I had is the life I had earned. It was lame, boring, and monotonous. What changed is I stopped blaming my upbringing and other people. I said it was my fault and my responsibility to get out of it.\n\nI started working on difficult things. And the time flew by. And then I had kids, and now I barely blink before they are a foot taller than they were. Every day feels valuable and I wish I had more time than I do.\n\nTry some things. Find what works.", "You have to force yourself to get out and go do something. Say it outloud if you want. \"Fine! I'll go to the arcade/bar/concert/church/park but it could be boring!\" When you get to the end of your day or week you'll look back and think, huh, that was less boring than the previous week.", "Yes try cooking new recipes, more complicated. Make it into a hobby. Then get more hobbies but don’t spend too much on each till you see what fits. Watercolors? Ham radio? Telescope? Bird watching? I do all these at different times. Not good at any but I love them all. Some run into the others. Watercolors and birds. Radio waves and telescopes… you’ll never be bored again.", "Try usual thing with different way. Shake things up. Build tanker for a assasin for gaming example :p", "Try to do at least one thing you gain joy from everyday, and do different things. Maybe read a few chapters in a book, play videogames for a half hour, buy a small treat/snack you like, make yourself a favorite drink and take a few minutes to enjoy it, take a drive with the windows down and the breeze blowing. Find small joys to delight in.", "This might not apply to you, but if you mindlessly scroll on social media during your down times, stop doing that. Usually the best way is to just delete social media. I’m still not perfect, hence the reason I’m here lol, but if you can limit your social media time it really affects your brain positively.\n\nWhen you’re super reliant on the steady stream of dopamine that comes from scrolling it will make off moments incredibly dull in comparison, it helps to just accept down times and use it as an opportunity to just let your brain be not stimulated.", "Think small. Just do one new thing a day. It can be anything. Try a new hiking trail. Taste a new food. Drive home a different way than you typically do. Go to an event that you would not normally consider attending... You get the idea. I did this once with a group of friends (we mostly did our own things, but sometimes tried new stuff together). It helps you get out of a rut and makes life more interesting. And you might just fine a few new things that you really love.", "The other week, I was topping and tailing green beans, and thinking: \"This task sucks!\". So I decided to do something more interesting. The green beans were now French nobles and I was now Maximilien Robespierre, ushering them to the guillotine. The physical task was exactly the same, but I had more fun doing it in the second half.", "The best advice I've heard is, [Live your whole life like you're traveling](https://www.thehappytalent.com/blog/life-hack-do-what-you-do-when-you-travel-while-youre-at-home).\n\n​\n\n>See, most people think that the voyage of discovery consists of finding new landscapes. When they travel, they open their eyes. When they're someplace familiar, they shut them, and the adventure stops.But here's the truth, in the words of someone much wiser than I am: \n> \n>The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes. - Marcel Proust \n> \n>Translation: Life is only an adventure if you make it one.I've always been a playful person (it's true what they say: all of psychology research is really psychology me-search), so it's hard for me to understand why so many people will go abroad to have a wonderful adventure. They will put effort into seeing everything and meeting everyone. They'll spend time researching opportunities, sights and activities near them. They'll be spontaneous, excitable and down for anything...And then come home, fall into a routine and tune out.Maybe it's the movies. They set a bad example. In movies, characters, in the course of their normal life, get swept up in a crazy experience that forever changes them. But in real life, having an adventure is a decision that only you can make.\n\n​\n\nAnother thing that I've found to be really cool and enriching is, I read guide books. When you can identify all the plants and clouds and animals in your neighborhood, everything gets a LOT more interesting.", "Start drinking. Form a habit. Then a problem. Then get sober. Boom, newfound appreciation for that boring life. \n\nKidding. \n\nGet a hobby. Socialize. I go to the dog park every morning and I’ve formed some good friendships with the other regulars. I also go to the gym every day. I don’t talk to anyone there but it does kill some time and gets my heart rate up. I cook a lot when I’m bored. Trying new recipes/methods is fun. \n\nBottom line is, do something that you can progress in. Challenge yourself. It makes everything more fun. A little pot never hurt either.", "Sell or give away Everything or as much as possible and move to a new state with two suitcases. Guaranteed excitement for 5 years, new lease on life, bragging rights.", "Scope a fun new cheap and easy hobby! Improve the yard. Organize the garage. Weekend Road trip. Or get a get a dog and just hang around town! Sometimes just be bored, find some super interesting topic that resonates with you and explore the fuck outta it online and youtube.", "Read books, take walks, travel if you can afford it (even if they're just day trips on public transportation), explore your town, watch movies and TV, volunteer with an organization that interests you, listen to music, listen to podcasts on subjects that inerest you, dance around your house while you're cleaning, look for local events you can attend\n\nIf you find yourself absolutely uninterested in anything, I'd recommend getting screened for depression.", "Rather than accept a boring life, chase an exciting one. Your problem has a very simple solution, no?", "Pick up new hobbies\n\nMake friends with different interest\n\nLearn to be a curious person so your mind will get stimulated when you’re seeking for answers in things", "Personally, I think step 1 is to not be down on everything. Some people seem to think that shitting on every idea or suggestion, seeing everything as boring or not worth their time, makes them cool. It doesn't. So, start looking for ways to be happy with the little things. Next, get outside and get in your 10000 (or whatever) steps a day. If you don't like just walking, then listen to a podcast or music (better yet, find new music). Next, get a hobby or two. If your work is in front of a computer, you might feel happier with a hobby that is offline. If you still have time and energy, look at [Meetup.com](https://Meetup.com) or some other site that lists events in your area. If you go to something that is free, you haven't lost anything if you hate it. Still have time? Volunteer, take a class, or start a new project, like reviewing all the weird, hole in the wall barbecue restaurants in your town (or whatever). You make daily life fun by being engaged and active.", "Pay closer attention to the mundane. \n\nIt is not as mundane as you think.\n\nWatch your mind, feel your body… there are endless phenomena to watch and inquire about. \n\nBoredom can only exist if we would rather be elsewhere, or if we would rather be doing something else. It is a symptom of being dissatisfied with the moment. \n\nEmbrace what is before you and worlds will unfold.", "Next time you go to the grocery story, wear your headphones and listed to the theme from Mission Impossible as you browse the shelves. If you don't eventually start acting like finding the right kind of bread and the freshest apples are a tense, high-stakes mission that you alone can accomplish, well then, I don't know how to help you.\n\nThis message will self destruct in 5 seconds.", "Never do anything the same way twice. Don’t do anything by rote. Say yes more often, surprise yourself. Take different routes on drives to the same destination. Never feel guilty about indulging yourself. Dream while you’re awake, then work to make it happen. Plan fun exciting vacations and actually take them. The anticipation is full of joy. \nand #1 … embrace change!", "Need more info. \n\nWhat’s boring? \n\nThe fact you don’t have hobbies? Your interactions with people? Your work? \n\nWhen do you not feel bored? Now, or in the past?", "Music. Find some some TV that you love, I always look forward to my time on the couch catching up with some nonsense sure that makes me happy. You have to make life less boring. You are in control of your life.", "Mindfullness \n\nIt is not a trick to feel happier, not something to take away anything, but settling into a state of mindfullness brings positive light to any situation. I can very very well recommend a course in mindfullness, it has helped me in ways I couldn't've thought of beforehand", "Make random goals for yourself. Fitness ones are easy and will also improve your overall health. Do stuff outside your comfort zone. Talk to people from different walks of life.", "Maintain what you have. Cleaning, repairing and organizing your belongings is great way to end boredom", "Look for opportunities for low-consequence failure. Challenges and the risk of failure make life interesting. They don't necessarily feel awesome while they're happening but after you've figured out how to do the thing or you've rescued the situation you feel pretty good and you have at least a mildly interesting story to tell.\n\nSmall failures and difficulties also provide a good contrast to the more comfortable parts of your life. If you've done nothing but sit at home all week, it feels boring. If you've just slogged through shitty weather for an hour, sitting on the sofa and being warm for the rest of the evening feels amazing.", "Life is what you make it. There is going to be exciting times, boring times, mundane times, times where you are just doing your thing enjoying your stuff.\n\nBut ya. If ur at home watching Netflix all day maybe you go out to have a drink the odd time, and that's it.. well shit I'd think life is boring to.", "Learning new skills can be fun and rewarding. This past summer I started to teach myself how to fly fish and now that it has gotten colder I'm trying to figure out how tf coding works. You do have to pick those up of course but if there has ever been something you've been union's about learning the internet is usually a great resource to get started.", "Learn to be truly grateful for all that you have. At one point you didn’t have much and worked hard in order to obtain what everything you now have. Now is the opportunity to enjoy it and to share this experience with others. Spend time with your spouse enjoying life’s little pleasures or with your children by totally immersing yourself into their world, leaving your phone in another room. There are so many little moments in life you can enjoy if you set the intention to do so.", "Learn something new!!! A type of cooking, woodworking, sewing, quilting, gardening , etc. Take a class at your local library or check out YouTube.", "JFC people get a hobby. You need to have interests, a passion for \\*something\\*, develop talents, etc...\n\nThere is no shortage of shit to do.", "It's the little things in life.\n\nAlso have things to look forward to. Once a month I have a trivia night at the local brewery with a couple friends and it's delightful!", "It's okay to be bored here and there.\n\nBut if you are, don't complain about it. There's no reason that you can't solve boredom these days. You have the internet at your fingertips. Bored? Learn something. Educate yourself and become a better member of society. Learn a skill. None of those need to be anything involved or time consuming. You can learn stuff and vevor more knowledgeable with just a few minutes of time. I view boredom as a personal choice that a person makes to not better/advance themselves in that moment.\n\nThat said, of course certain things we do and are obligated to do are boring. No way around that. It's the same for everyone. But, in those more free moments when we can do as we please, I suggest seeking out knowledge. I've had countless times where I was lucky to know something that I had thought was \"useless knowledge\" when I learned it.", "It feels so weird, that someone is bored. I havent felt that in years, like i could game 12h a day and talk friends with discord and have a blast. Rest 12h of the day would be sleep, but theres also work, trying out new foods, girlfriend, dog, gym, anime, youtube, tiktok etc. So much fun stuff to do and only 24h a day, so basically days always end, before i get bored :D", "If you're bored you're probably not doing without so you can take some solace knowing you live comfortably.\n\nBut to fix that just do something. The others have good suggestions.", "If you want to spice things up, go to an ethnic resturant and try something adventurous with a friend/family member. I always have a lot of fun discovering a new hidden gem and tasting different cultures. Traveling is another thing to look forward to. You'll have an appreciation for your lifestyle after you visit another country or maybe it'll kindof spark a different fire in you after travelling.", "I was told by a wise therapist: \n\n\" If you are always bored, it's because you're boring.\"\n\nBasically, life in and of itself is not a rollarcoaster of emotions, trials and trepidations, events or drama. That is the *human* experience. In essence, life isn't boring, it's *your* experience of it that is boring. \nYou can make your life more interesting by investing in your time and energy into it. Notice more, do more.", "I used to be bored a lot\n\nThen I got really fed up with being bored, so I decided to stop doing that\n\nBeen going on 30 years now and very rarely do I ever find myself being bored, usually because I'm visiting people who like watching TV", "I have a jar of sticks with little things written on them of things I want to do. They're color coded at the top for how much time they take and how much money ( examples paint, practice language, go to museum, watch a documentary) when I'm bored I look at how much time I have and I pick one out at random.", "I get bored easily! During the week there is work but even then during lunch I do a 7 mile drive home and take the dogs on a long walk, when working from home I do that several times per day but drive to local hiking spots. I also try to make it to the gym at least 4 times per week. On Friday evenings I look around with in a two hour drive and drop a pin and do something in that area in the past year we have gone to 150 coastal spots that I never in my life would have thought to have visited. Many times we visit As many as 4 beach locations or hiking areas on a weekend day. We have hiked 30 or so state parks or conservation areas. We also look for random things to do that we would not have considered like ax throwing, archery, skeet shooting etc. we also ski a lot. Go into city and ride a blue bike around town - that is actually more fun than you think.\n\nMy point just try to be active, find new things to try, in that process you will find things that you want to do again and again. \n\nWe cr", "How to make life a little less boring: build skills and interests that engage you. It might take a good while to get good enough at things to enjoy them, so it's best if it's something you enjoy even if you don't do it that well :)\n\n\nMy two main interests (aside from family) is art and programming - any time i get any spare time i have plenty of projects I'm interested in to spend that time on, in a very satisfying way\n\n\nThe big thing is that once in a while you can accomplish something that you are really proud of", "Have you tried shoving your disappointment way down inside of you and drinking all the drinks? Has worked well for millenia. \n\nSeriously though. Expecting excitement out of every day is an entitled notion that wanes with age. Once you reach a certain point, you realize how much of it is shit, you can sit back and watch the world burn as you prepare for your own inevitable demise. Watch a atand-up show, laugh cynically, and sip your favorite poison. It'll all be over soon. \n\nOr you could try connecting with different people and realize what value you have to contribute in their lives. That brings people a distinguished-but-muted sense of joy, too.", "Have small conversations with people you see in real life but don’t usually talk to. People you pass on a walk, etc. Say hello, introduce yourself.", "Go out and do things. Watch a movie by yourself, go see friends, go start a hobby. There's so many things", "Go on a run. Learn how to cook something new. Start setting interesting goals like learning a new language or making friends from outside of your usual social circle.", "Get a hobby like skydiving or if you can't afford that try indoor bouldering, etc.\n\nThen also if you can find a job you love and enjoy because that's what you are going to spend most of your life doing.", "Find something(s) you enjoy, identify with them, and progress in them. Ideally these will be things that improve your health.\n\nI personally like adrenaline, and have an activity for every season to give me that adrenaline. Even when I’m not actively doing those activities, I’m looking forward to doing them soon.\n\nI ski in the winter, bike in the spring and fall, and hike in the winter. I try to push myself to new heights (literally and figuratively) for each. I enjoy these things and feel a sense of accomplishment.", "Find a workout program/ physical activity that interests you. There are a million different ways to move!", "Embrace the boredom. I’m nostalgic about my early adult years when I was bored and had to constantly make camping, travel, and party plans to ease that boredom.\n\nNow I’m taking care of two elderly parents (one with dementia) and a chronically ill child in addition to a demanding job. Lots of frustration, anxiety, sadness, etc but no boredom. How I would love to have boredom back….", "Echoing the go outside and adding in exploring with hiking, bird watching, foraging.\nIn winter I escape with books and RPGs.", "Do you have wireless headphones. Do you have a dispensary nearby. Get high and go adventure while listening music. Bonus points if you’re skating, biking, running or hiking. Double bonus points if you have a dog and bring them along too. \n\nBasically if you want to be a little less bored- start being a little more simple. Don’t complicate such an easy problem to solve.", "Develop some intellectual curiosity and research and learn. Learn a new language, research how turtles lay their eggs, study medieval England, read the details about the Normandy invasion, or the Titanic details. Research about constellations, learn about dog breeds, learn about woodworking techniques. Most of this intellectual curiosity will lead to hobbies and other interests. I personally enjoy watching The Amazing Race so I can decide which countries are on my bucket list to visit! Good luck!", "Create a bucket list! \n\nI don’t know where you live but where ever it is, I’m sure you can make it exciting. \n\n1. What restaurants have you wanted to try but never gone? \n2. Go to a museum and explore the fun! \n3. Cook a new meal! \n4. Exercise! \n5. Learn a new skill \n6. Go to a meet up \n\nLife is all about taking risks (but not anything like “maybe I’ll do meth” lmao), do something spontaneous and out of the ordinary!", "As someone who literally grew up in a computer, playing computer games - this is something I used to struggle with. A famous quote and apocryphal tale seem to do it for me though:\n\n~~~\n\nA man asked Gautama Buddha, \"I want happiness.\"\n\nBuddha said, \"First remove \"I,\" that's Ego, then remove \"want,\" that's Desire.\n\nSee now you are left with only \"Happiness.\n\n~~~\n\n“Your true traveller finds boredom rather agreeable than painful. It is the symbol of his liberty - his excessive freedom. He accepts his boredom, when it comes, not merely philosophically, but almost with pleasure.” - Aldous Huxley.\n\n~~~\n\nIn other words, what I realised is that if you already start yourself in the condition of bored, you’re making your own self-fulfilling prophecy. You’re then anxious/annoyed about getting out of the artificial condition you believe you’re ‘stuck’ in. \n\nTurn all that shit off, live in the moment and start small. Start cleaning something, move some furniture around the house. Just don’t fall into the “I’m bored!” trap.", "A lot of people are talking about doing “bigger” things that require more time or effort, but I’d like to suggest some smaller changes to your everyday life that can keep things interesting (even during the work week): \n\n-Try taking a new/different route home than you normally take. Take the “long way,” or maybe explore a little and try to discover a “shortcut.”\n\n-Get brave and creative with your outfits/appearance. Try wearing clothes that you don’t normally wear, wear brighter colors or funky prints. Dye your hair a new color, do your makeup (if you wear makeup) in a way you don’t normally do it. Wear more accessories than you normally wear. \n\n-Cook new recipes every day/week. Buy that ingredient/food at the grocery store that you’ve always been a little scared or intimidated to cook with. Eat something different every day. Try to eat dishes from different cultures that you’ve never tried before. \n\n-Rearrange your bedroom/house furniture every now and then to freshen things up.\n\n-Go all out and decorate for every major holiday. If you have an office job, decorate your desk/office for each holiday. Be festive! \n\n-Do things for other people as often as you can. Make it a goal to compliment at least 1 person a week, or even one a day. Give little surprise gifts to your close family or friends every now and then. Spontaneously ask your close friends or family if they’d like to go out for a meal or dessert with you (and you can even offer to pay for it). \n\n-Put more effort into keeping your general life and surroundings organized (if you don’t already). Sit down with your laptop, open excel, and use one of their budgeting templates to track your spending and finances. (Re)Organize your kitchen cabinets and drawers, throw away/donate old food or utensils that you don’t ever use. \n\n-Try to watch a tv series or movie that you’ve never thought you’d be interested in. It may surprise you if you actually end up enjoying it. If you do end up hating it and can’t even finish it, then you’ve confirmed your suspicions lol. \n\n-Spend more time outdoors (weather permitting). Make an effort to take a short walk every day, or eat a meal outside on the picnic tables at school/work.\n\n-Play little games with yourself in your own head. While you’re out for the day, pick a color and keep a mental tally of everything that you see that’s that color. Or count how many people you saw wearing hats. This can help you to be more in the present moment/environment. \n\n-Use your phone to become an “amateur photographer.” Make it a goal to take at least one photo of something pretty/cool that you saw that day. Start trying to take pictures of as many sunrises/sunsets as you can. Take pictures/videos of trees, stray cats, butterflies, and other aspects of nature. \n\n-Buy a hardy little houseplant (such as a succulent) and make it your goal to keep it alive as long as possible. But don’t stress yourself too much, if the plant dies it’s not the end of the world. \n\n-If you don’t have a pet, get a pet (as long as you have the time and money to take good care of it). Pets are a great form of entertainment and affection, and they usually keep us on our toes lol. If you get or already have a pet, try to work on teaching it a new trick by doing daily practice.", "A career change may be a good idea, some people require more stimulating jobs in order to feel fulfilled", "1- Dopamine reset. If you're hardcore - go for a 10 day vippassana silent retreat, it's free.\n\n2- Set some S/M/L sized goals, do something in the real world that doesn't involve screens - Work out, Hiking, Martial Arts, Volunteering etc.\n\n3- Learn about the brain - Listen to Huberman Lab lectures \n\n4- Need an Instant boost - Cold exposure (shower/plunge) will raise your baseline dopamine levels for long time.", "\"The cure for boredom is more attention.\" Explore that idea for a bit. Pick something - anything - and study it slowly and carefully. Hopefully that opens some doors for you.", "\"The cure for boredom is more attention.\" Explore that idea for a bit. Pick something - anything - and study it slowly and carefully. Hopefully that opens some doors for you.", "Life is exactly what you make of it. If you’re life is boring it’s because you’re boring. Do more exciting things.", "Jealous of people who have a boring life, meaning you have it all figured out, read all the books, tried all the scientific formulas and done almost everything in the world there is to explore.", "For me you sound like a 20 something who thinks he has seen everything but i gan tell you life is nothing but boring. Get interested in stuff and their fine details and you will find great joy in life", "Boredom is good if it drives you to read, have hobbies etc. People who are overstimulated by mindless things are never bored and never accomplish their full potential." ]

[ 283, 120, 69, 68, 37, 36, 32, 14, 14, 12, 10, 8, 6, 5, 4, 4, 4, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0, 0 ]

[ "What are some useful habits to promote positive thinking? As a pessimist myself, I know from experience it's not so simple as \"just look on the bright side.\" I wanna have a more positive outlook on things, and I just was wondering what are some habits to promote a gradual shift from negativity to positivity?", "What are some useful habits to promote positive thinking? As a pessimist myself, I know from experience it's not so simple as \"just look on the bright side.\" I wanna have a more positive outlook on things, and I just was wondering what are some habits to promote a gradual shift from negativity to positivity?", "What are some useful habits to promote positive thinking? As a pessimist myself, I know from experience it's not so simple as \"just look on the bright side.\" I wanna have a more positive outlook on things, and I just was wondering what are some habits to promote a gradual shift from negativity to positivity?", "What are some useful habits to promote positive thinking? As a pessimist myself, I know from experience it's not so simple as \"just look on the bright side.\" I wanna have a more positive outlook on things, and I just was wondering what are some habits to promote a gradual shift from negativity to positivity?", "What are some useful habits to promote positive thinking? As a pessimist myself, I know from experience it's not so simple as \"just look on the bright side.\" I wanna have a more positive outlook on things, and I just was wondering what are some habits to promote a gradual shift from negativity to positivity?", "What are some useful habits to promote positive thinking? As a pessimist myself, I know from experience it's not so simple as \"just look on the bright side.\" I wanna have a more positive outlook on things, and I just was wondering what are some habits to promote a gradual shift from negativity to positivity?", "What are some useful habits to promote positive thinking? As a pessimist myself, I know from experience it's not so simple as \"just look on the bright side.\" I wanna have a more positive outlook on things, and I just was wondering what are some habits to promote a gradual shift from negativity to positivity?", "What are some useful habits to promote positive thinking? As a pessimist myself, I know from experience it's not so simple as \"just look on the bright side.\" I wanna have a more positive outlook on things, and I just was wondering what are some habits to promote a gradual shift from negativity to positivity?", "What are some useful habits to promote positive thinking? As a pessimist myself, I know from experience it's not so simple as \"just look on the bright side.\" I wanna have a more positive outlook on things, and I just was wondering what are some habits to promote a gradual shift from negativity to positivity?", "What are some useful habits to promote positive thinking? As a pessimist myself, I know from experience it's not so simple as \"just look on the bright side.\" I wanna have a more positive outlook on things, and I just was wondering what are some habits to promote a gradual shift from negativity to positivity?" ]

[ "Every day write down one positive thing you are grateful for, ideally for at least 3 months. This has two effects: 1) it forces you to review each day in a positive light. 2) you begin to approach each day trying to find something positive in it. The cumulative effect is that your perspective becomes rooted to one of optimism and gratitude. You can read it when you're down.\n\nIt can be anything e.g. a sunrise, appreciating morning dew on grass blades, your boss saying 'well done', an unexpected welcome phone call from a friend, catching the eye of someone you find attractive, anything goes!\n\nCr", "For me, I first ask myself if I can change the situation. If I can, I do. If I can't, I then have to decide how to feel about it, because that's my only option. I choose how to feel. In several areas of my life, I've been able to turn a whole lot of pain and anger into positive thoughts.", "My habit is that when I catch myself replaying some shitty event from my past in my head I stop and purposely replay a happy event. Like if I'm replaying an argument and thinking of how I could have responded to \"win\" the argument I stop and switch to replaying some really happy moment. It completely changes the way I feel for the rest of the day.", "Don't isolate yourself. Get out and interact with people, even in small ways. Talk, joke, laugh with people every day, even if you have to dash out to the quickstore at 9 pm to make your 'quota'.\n\nLimit the amount of time you spend listening/watching/reading news. Don't be uninformed, but don't dwell on a constant stream of negative input you can't do anything about. \n\nExercise, get some walks and workouts, whatever. Because endorphins.\n", "You need to recognise what you are doing. First and foremost you have to know you are doing something and you want to do something different.\nCheck.\n\nNext up, admit/learn/understand that you can still think of these things. Positivity isn't about being oblivious to what the possibilities are.\nYou can think, consider, acknowledge, or even ponder a negative outcome. No problems at all.\n\nNext, realise we are simple. As far as creatures go we're simple. Not that different from everything else. And strangely our cause and effects are clearly linked together. Like, if you smile, you WILL feel happier. It happens, it works.\n\nThen, start small and simple. Make an active effort to say/think to yourself \"Oh damn, this could go wrong like X, but it'll be ok\".\nLet the thoughts come and then actively stop them.\n\"It could rain on the photo shoot, but weather report looks good, got great ideas for an indoor shoot too!\"\n\nAnd add in some \"Fuck yeah\" moments to your life. Set an alarm on your watch/phone 'FY!' and set it for a different time each day, when it goes off do some version of the FY for something that happened in the last hour.\nFUCK YEAH! PIZZA\nFUCK YEAH! HOME TIME!\nFUCK YEAH! This level of Candy Crush is a serious challenge, LOVE CHALLENGES!\n\n\nAnd absolutely follow /u/usurp_slurp 's advice.\nWe're simple creatures. Not \"what was good and bad about today\" just literally the best thing about each day. No sarcasm allowed in there. Your brain will pick up the pattern :)", "Two cheesy ideas that people have given me that may or may not help;\n\n1. My friend gave me a mug full of screwed up bits of paper. On each one there is something to do, either something productive or something nice. This is useful as a distraction, or as a reward- for example, \"if I hang out the laundry and sort through the mail then I can have a piece of cake and binge watch Breaking Bad\". Obviously don't feel like you can only do those things if you've \"earned\" it but it's helped me.\n\n2. Another friend gave me a jar to put paper in; the idea is each day I put something positive on a piece of paper, fold it up and put it in the jar. It could be anything- something nice some one has said, something coming up that you're excited about, something good you've done that day. Whenever you feel the need just pop your hand in and pull one out, it's incredible for quick pick-me-ups :-)", "Start saying a mantra every day. Your brain, just like you(duh), is a creature of habit. The more you use a neural pathway the more the brain wants to use it so this is a fairly easy habit to get into. I used to have really bad anxiety issues always worrying about the future so I started saying to myself 'my life is under my control and everything's going to work out for me'. I know it's stupid, not everything is under my control and there's no way I could know that everything is going to go my way, but every day I repeat this(normally in the shower after I get out of bed) and it puts me in a great mood. So whatever your problem is be it anxiety, low self esteem etc etc just pick a mantra no matter how silly and repeat it to yourself until it has the desired effect.", "Long term: read M", "Don't consume depressing media, all those shows where people yell at each other, crime documentaries, pics of suffering. Podcasts with lots of griping and bitching. Makes a huge difference, garbage in garbage out. Make an effort to watch and read uplifting things", "There is only two choice's in life.\n\nThe wrong choice, and the right choice.\n\nJust always choose the right choice. :)" ]

[ 10, 9, 7, 7, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 0 ]

[ "Tips for getting up early for work I recently got moved to day shift against my will, after three years working evenings. I'm a night person and a big part of the reason I liked evening shift is because I could sleep on *my* schedule. I'm having a miserable time having to be up at 7am every day and going to bed earlier than I want to. It's not so bad once I'm actually at work doing stuff but the first hour or so of each morning is hell. Most days it's all I can do to get dressed and leave, no breakfast or brushing my teeth or preparing a lunch because I just don't have the energy for it.", "Tips for getting up early for work I recently got moved to day shift against my will, after three years working evenings. I'm a night person and a big part of the reason I liked evening shift is because I could sleep on *my* schedule. I'm having a miserable time having to be up at 7am every day and going to bed earlier than I want to. It's not so bad once I'm actually at work doing stuff but the first hour or so of each morning is hell. Most days it's all I can do to get dressed and leave, no breakfast or brushing my teeth or preparing a lunch because I just don't have the energy for it.", "Tips for getting up early for work I recently got moved to day shift against my will, after three years working evenings. I'm a night person and a big part of the reason I liked evening shift is because I could sleep on *my* schedule. I'm having a miserable time having to be up at 7am every day and going to bed earlier than I want to. It's not so bad once I'm actually at work doing stuff but the first hour or so of each morning is hell. Most days it's all I can do to get dressed and leave, no breakfast or brushing my teeth or preparing a lunch because I just don't have the energy for it.", "Tips for getting up early for work I recently got moved to day shift against my will, after three years working evenings. I'm a night person and a big part of the reason I liked evening shift is because I could sleep on *my* schedule. I'm having a miserable time having to be up at 7am every day and going to bed earlier than I want to. It's not so bad once I'm actually at work doing stuff but the first hour or so of each morning is hell. Most days it's all I can do to get dressed and leave, no breakfast or brushing my teeth or preparing a lunch because I just don't have the energy for it.", "Tips for getting up early for work I recently got moved to day shift against my will, after three years working evenings. I'm a night person and a big part of the reason I liked evening shift is because I could sleep on *my* schedule. I'm having a miserable time having to be up at 7am every day and going to bed earlier than I want to. It's not so bad once I'm actually at work doing stuff but the first hour or so of each morning is hell. Most days it's all I can do to get dressed and leave, no breakfast or brushing my teeth or preparing a lunch because I just don't have the energy for it.", "Tips for getting up early for work I recently got moved to day shift against my will, after three years working evenings. I'm a night person and a big part of the reason I liked evening shift is because I could sleep on *my* schedule. I'm having a miserable time having to be up at 7am every day and going to bed earlier than I want to. It's not so bad once I'm actually at work doing stuff but the first hour or so of each morning is hell. Most days it's all I can do to get dressed and leave, no breakfast or brushing my teeth or preparing a lunch because I just don't have the energy for it.", "Tips for getting up early for work I recently got moved to day shift against my will, after three years working evenings. I'm a night person and a big part of the reason I liked evening shift is because I could sleep on *my* schedule. I'm having a miserable time having to be up at 7am every day and going to bed earlier than I want to. It's not so bad once I'm actually at work doing stuff but the first hour or so of each morning is hell. Most days it's all I can do to get dressed and leave, no breakfast or brushing my teeth or preparing a lunch because I just don't have the energy for it.", "Tips for getting up early for work I recently got moved to day shift against my will, after three years working evenings. I'm a night person and a big part of the reason I liked evening shift is because I could sleep on *my* schedule. I'm having a miserable time having to be up at 7am every day and going to bed earlier than I want to. It's not so bad once I'm actually at work doing stuff but the first hour or so of each morning is hell. Most days it's all I can do to get dressed and leave, no breakfast or brushing my teeth or preparing a lunch because I just don't have the energy for it." ]

[ "Have your alarm somewhere you can hear but not reach from bed so you have to physically get up to switch it off. Once you're up, get moving, don't snooze no matter what. Turn the lights on and/or open the curtains if there's sun - the light tells your internal clock that it's day time and time to get moving. It takes a few weeks to adjust to a big shift in sleep patterns, so stick it out and it will get easier.\n\n I have shitty light in my apartment so have an alarm clock that simulates a sunrise by getting brighter over the space of 30 minutes. Best investment ever.", "I recently discovered this unintentionally but it’s magic. Get a robot vacuum that has a timer. Set timer for around your alarm wake up time. Robot vacuum sounds like a remote controlled car.... it will bump into your furniture and occasionally eat a sock or get stuck resulting in it beeping obnoxiously as it cries for help. \n\nYou may be super annoyed when you’re forced to get up and save it, but that quickly passes when you realize your floors are clean. 🤷🏻‍♀️\n\nBest alarm clock ever", "1. Set your coffee to brew 15min before alarm time. \n2. Drink a glass of water before bed.\n3. Set up a change of clothes in the bathroom. \n4. Set your alarm and put the alarm somewhere you can't reach from bed. \n\nYour alarm goes off. Gotta get up. Gotta pee, can't go back to bed. Clothes and towel are already in the bathroom, may as well shower. Coffee is waiting for you on the way out! Boom awake, alive, alert, enthusiastic!", "Set up everything the night before. If you have a coffee maker that will do it, set it up to make coffee 10 minutes before you wake up. Get up 15 minutes earlier. You obviously, need more time to get going. Do easy, transportable breakfast, like protein bars, or protein juice drinks. (like Odwalla). I take supplements to help with energy and focus ( ginseng, and gingko biloba ).", "It's tough. I've been in that boat. Best thing I've found that works every time is getting the heart rate up. \n\nIf you're healthy enough, when your alarm goes off (for the 4th or 5th time if need) get up and run in place for 30 seconds. Do it like you're running from a hungry lion. \n\nGood luck, night owl. Enjoy the breakfast club.", "Wake up earlier than you need to, you will need more time than you think.\n\nEat breakfast. An egg and toast will take minutes to make while you get ready and helps start the day.\n\nGo to sleep at a decent time!! Try getting 8 hours sleep, some people need more some less.\n\nFor me a wake up light alarm clock was amazing. It helped me wake up to the first alarm every time.\n\nQuit watching TV or playing on your phone in the bedroom. The bedroom is for sleeping.\n\nEat healthy. If you eat crap food all day you will never feel good.\n\nExercise. Do this before or after work. Make it part of a routine. \n\nHave a routine. Every morning shower if needed, eat breakfast, drink your coffee or tea. Every evening prep for the morning, set your coffee pot, pack your lunch, take a shower and get some sleep. Having a routine helps your body understand it's time to wake up or time to sleep.", "Do it every day, even weekends. Set your time to be in bed and stick to it. It'll still suck but evenually you'll get used to it and it'll become habbit.", "Get up at 5 and go work out. By the time your work shift rolls around, you'll be wide awake and ready to go!" ]

[ 8, 5, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n", "How to rid my kitchen of ants Pretty self-explanatory. Tiny black ants have been invading my kitchen for the past few months. I bought some poison from the hardware store and tried spraying affected areas. It killed most of the ants that were currently there, but the next day a new swarm would be there in the same spot. Plus, I'm pretty sure it's not healthy to be spraying that much poison in the vicinity of all my food. Any advice would be much appreciated. \n \n" ]

[ "6% borax mixed into sugar and water. This forms a clear, sticky fluid. Place droplets of it where you see ants crawling. They will find it, bring it back to the colony, feed it to the queen and kill the whole nest.\n\nIt can be pretty interesting to watch a huge chain of ants walking to and from the drops, once they find them.", "Terro brand ant traps, they are basically borax and sugar syrup. Put them out, watch ants swarm for two days, no more ants till next season.", "[Here](http://homeimprovements.ygoy.com/2009/03/03/home-remedies-to-kill-ants/) are some natural ways to kill ants. Remember, it's best to first trace the ant path back to their lair and destroy that too. ", "Boil a 2 tbsp. laundry detergent, an eighth cup of sugar, and a cup of water. Fill a small milk cap with the detergent an put it near their nest. Over a day or two, the ants will drink the sweet mixture and tell the rest of the nest about the new food. In about 20 minutes, the ants will slow down and die. \n\n", "Something that I use around my house is borax soap, its a powder and you just sprinkle it on their line as well as making a perimeter around your kitchen and with the soap. ", "The smell of chalk, they hate it. I scribbled a thick line of chalk around interior perimeter of my kitchen and left a few pieces of chalk at the suspected entry points. Never saw another ant in my kitchen... nor any aunts for that matter. \n\nChemicals weren't an option for me because I had a small, curious baby and a pair of generally useless cats that I didn't want to have yakking up all over the place and thereby ... feeding the ants. ", "Mix up four parts laundry detergent, three and a half parts flour, ten parts fifty year old single malt scotch, and five parts honey. Apply liberally to the floor and cover with newspaper. Invite forty stray cats into your home. Let all of that sit for ten minutes, and then move into a new house. Hopefully that will work.", "If you go back to the hardware store, there is some bait that the ants eat and bring back to their nest to distribute. It's a slow acting poison that works in about 48 hours. I had a bad case of them earlier this summer. I put some down, watched them all flock to it and then scurry away. The next day there were much less, and 2 days later they were all gone. ", "You may need to determine if they are carpenter ants or not. If they are, that could be a major headache but you'll have to deal with it before structural damage is done to your house. \n\n[Dealing with carpenter ants.](http://www.extension.umn.edu/distribution/housingandclothing/dk1015.html)", "We put out a mixture of baking soda and icing sugar in a few places at our camp and it seemed to help.", "Try boric acid. I bought mine from the local grocery store. You can put the powder on surfaces or in crevices or you can mix it with sugar, butter or peanut butter (make sure pets are kept away). \n\nThe ants in my kitchen came after a plate with some butter on it. I just put the boric acid on the plate. So far, so good.", "The problem isn't necessarily your kitchen (unless you have food out or don't clean counters/floors). Had big problems until I cut all the shrubs away from the house; they were crawling up and in that way. Terro around your foundation couldn't hurt either.", "Not to say you aren't clean but keep your kitchen as spotless as you can as you do the other methods people have mentioned. I had the same problem and went around with a bottle of vinegar and wiped literally every nook and cranny of my kitchen with it and it got rid of them eventually. I tried terro, and most of the other suggestions here but the little turds kept comming back.\n\nAlso, make sure they're not using another room that shares the wall with your kitchen. They may be invading from a bathroom or laundry room. Ants can feed not only on human food but certain types of soaps, dead skin/hair, makeup, other dead insects, etc...", "Most houses I have seen with ants have a hidden plumbing leak in the vicinity. Cleaning is a great way to turn their feeding ground into a desert, but a damp area is prime real estate for ants and termites.", "I asked the [same thing](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/k64fc/ltp_request_does_anyone_know_how_to_get_rid_of/). Hope it helps :)", "AntRid == borax/sugar/water.\n\nBasically a poison you can buy or make, ants will raid it and take bits of it home, it will destroy the nest.", "once they are killed, wipe down all areas with diluted bleach. Also seal as many cracks to reduce vectors for infestation. ", "Try baking soda. Leave lines of it where they are coming into the house. It breaks up their scent trails and makes it so they can't find their way back to the food. ", "This method is so effective I feel sorry for the ants: food-grade [diatomaceous earth](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diatomaceous_earth). You can get chalks that are made of this stuff, and you just draw a line around all windows/doors where ants could enter. Any ant that comes into contact with this stuff will instantaneously die a gruesome death by dehydration. Draw a line across an ant path and watch the bodies pile up.\n\nA less evil way to do it is to take a cue from Richard Feynman and exploit the way ants reinforce their pathways by scent in order to direct them towards some alternative source of food somewhere outside of your kitchen. Just keep feeding them and soon you'll have a thriving ant colony nearby that your children can study and enjoy, or where you can bury your enemies up to the neck and watch the ants slowly flay the flesh from their skulls.", "Diatomaceous earth is safe harmless to people, is fantastic for most insect infestations, works on ants for sure I had some at my parents place this took care of them as well as silverfish problem. Sprinkle it in corners and problem areas time does the rest.", "Buy this shit - [Dr. Bronner's Peppermint Soap](http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Bronners-Magic-Soaps-Pure-Castile/dp/B00120VWJ0/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1317675876&sr=8-2). Mix it with water in a spray or squeeze bottle. Apply to ants and squeal in glee as they die. Pet and child safe.", "Pour a generous amount of corn syrup around the parameter of your house. And a line into your bedroom and under your blankets. Also, using a Qtip, coat the inside of your ears and your anus." ]

[ 14, 9, 6, 5, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]

[ "How to react to being accused of something you didn't commit Recently, at a party, a guy came up to me and told me that he heard I was throwing bits of pizza onto his girlfriends ceiling. I didn't know how to make it out to him that it wasn't me, but the evidence was stacked against me as I was one of the few people eating pizza that night. I didn't want to rile him up more so I ended up apologising. Problem is he is still pissed off at me because he thinks I wrecked his girlfriend's ceiling. How do I react in future situations?", "How to react to being accused of something you didn't commit Recently, at a party, a guy came up to me and told me that he heard I was throwing bits of pizza onto his girlfriends ceiling. I didn't know how to make it out to him that it wasn't me, but the evidence was stacked against me as I was one of the few people eating pizza that night. I didn't want to rile him up more so I ended up apologising. Problem is he is still pissed off at me because he thinks I wrecked his girlfriend's ceiling. How do I react in future situations?", "How to react to being accused of something you didn't commit Recently, at a party, a guy came up to me and told me that he heard I was throwing bits of pizza onto his girlfriends ceiling. I didn't know how to make it out to him that it wasn't me, but the evidence was stacked against me as I was one of the few people eating pizza that night. I didn't want to rile him up more so I ended up apologising. Problem is he is still pissed off at me because he thinks I wrecked his girlfriend's ceiling. How do I react in future situations?", "How to react to being accused of something you didn't commit Recently, at a party, a guy came up to me and told me that he heard I was throwing bits of pizza onto his girlfriends ceiling. I didn't know how to make it out to him that it wasn't me, but the evidence was stacked against me as I was one of the few people eating pizza that night. I didn't want to rile him up more so I ended up apologising. Problem is he is still pissed off at me because he thinks I wrecked his girlfriend's ceiling. How do I react in future situations?", "How to react to being accused of something you didn't commit Recently, at a party, a guy came up to me and told me that he heard I was throwing bits of pizza onto his girlfriends ceiling. I didn't know how to make it out to him that it wasn't me, but the evidence was stacked against me as I was one of the few people eating pizza that night. I didn't want to rile him up more so I ended up apologising. Problem is he is still pissed off at me because he thinks I wrecked his girlfriend's ceiling. How do I react in future situations?", "How to react to being accused of something you didn't commit Recently, at a party, a guy came up to me and told me that he heard I was throwing bits of pizza onto his girlfriends ceiling. I didn't know how to make it out to him that it wasn't me, but the evidence was stacked against me as I was one of the few people eating pizza that night. I didn't want to rile him up more so I ended up apologising. Problem is he is still pissed off at me because he thinks I wrecked his girlfriend's ceiling. How do I react in future situations?", "How to react to being accused of something you didn't commit Recently, at a party, a guy came up to me and told me that he heard I was throwing bits of pizza onto his girlfriends ceiling. I didn't know how to make it out to him that it wasn't me, but the evidence was stacked against me as I was one of the few people eating pizza that night. I didn't want to rile him up more so I ended up apologising. Problem is he is still pissed off at me because he thinks I wrecked his girlfriend's ceiling. How do I react in future situations?", "How to react to being accused of something you didn't commit Recently, at a party, a guy came up to me and told me that he heard I was throwing bits of pizza onto his girlfriends ceiling. I didn't know how to make it out to him that it wasn't me, but the evidence was stacked against me as I was one of the few people eating pizza that night. I didn't want to rile him up more so I ended up apologising. Problem is he is still pissed off at me because he thinks I wrecked his girlfriend's ceiling. How do I react in future situations?", "How to react to being accused of something you didn't commit Recently, at a party, a guy came up to me and told me that he heard I was throwing bits of pizza onto his girlfriends ceiling. I didn't know how to make it out to him that it wasn't me, but the evidence was stacked against me as I was one of the few people eating pizza that night. I didn't want to rile him up more so I ended up apologising. Problem is he is still pissed off at me because he thinks I wrecked his girlfriend's ceiling. How do I react in future situations?", "How to react to being accused of something you didn't commit Recently, at a party, a guy came up to me and told me that he heard I was throwing bits of pizza onto his girlfriends ceiling. I didn't know how to make it out to him that it wasn't me, but the evidence was stacked against me as I was one of the few people eating pizza that night. I didn't want to rile him up more so I ended up apologising. Problem is he is still pissed off at me because he thinks I wrecked his girlfriend's ceiling. How do I react in future situations?", "How to react to being accused of something you didn't commit Recently, at a party, a guy came up to me and told me that he heard I was throwing bits of pizza onto his girlfriends ceiling. I didn't know how to make it out to him that it wasn't me, but the evidence was stacked against me as I was one of the few people eating pizza that night. I didn't want to rile him up more so I ended up apologising. Problem is he is still pissed off at me because he thinks I wrecked his girlfriend's ceiling. How do I react in future situations?", "How to react to being accused of something you didn't commit Recently, at a party, a guy came up to me and told me that he heard I was throwing bits of pizza onto his girlfriends ceiling. I didn't know how to make it out to him that it wasn't me, but the evidence was stacked against me as I was one of the few people eating pizza that night. I didn't want to rile him up more so I ended up apologising. Problem is he is still pissed off at me because he thinks I wrecked his girlfriend's ceiling. How do I react in future situations?" ]

[ "This warrants 2 pro tips for life:\n\n* Never apologize for something you didn't do. Ever. Be polite and firm, even if it looks like the evidence is against you. This goes really well if you do apologize for things you did do, especially when the evidence is in your favor.\n\n\n*If you are at a party where people are throwing food onto the ceiling, well, you need to find yourself better friends and better parties to go to. Not because its an act of vandalism, but mostly because its lame. ", "You ended up apologizing, and now this guy will always see you as an asshole.\n\nYou did not do it, you should have said that over and over, no matter what he said, and what evidence he had.", "Best response is the direct response. \n\n\"I didn't throw pizza on your ceiling and you shouldn't jump to conclusions. Now who told you I did that?\" \n\nChances are nobody accused you or if someone did they are the idiotic culprit, and they would hate being confronted.\n\nHonestly in my experience, people who get confrontational (especially with no validity) are the first to back off. And if you apologize or get loud in return you are gonna end up in an argument.", "Just don't give a shit. Tell this guy you were too busy being a grown up and eating the pizza to pull stupid shit like that.\n\nWhen someone is accusing you of something they're more looking for how you say something than what you say. React to strongly in any direction and you'll only reaffirm their suspicions.", "Stand up for yourself and don't be a pussy and apologizing to someone for something you didn't do just because you don't want to \"rile him up.\" You wouldn't do that in court would you? Be a fuckin man and handle it like a man, if he doesn't believe you than tell him to fuck off!", "Ive been in a few situations like this myself best thing to say is something like this in a confident but not arrogant tone \"dude it wasnt me i came here for a good time not to cause any trouble\" and if you know who it was point them out fuck getting into shit for some one else immaturity, also if it looks like it could get violent just say \"no worries well it wasnt me but ill leave because im not after any trouble\" by then most people(if there not drunk) will be like ok it probably wasnt this guy.... to add to this im a big guy and can take care of myself and have in the past but its honestly not worth it,,, almost the exact same thing happened to my friend but it ended in a fight and my mate had to pay like $15k in the other guys dental bill...Hope that helped", "There are other forces at work in this other guy's head. Alright so he's directed his scorn onto you, but he doesn't really care whether you caused some insult or injury. He needs a place to sink some emotions that are just now difficult for him. You will (or you probably already have) quickly find your normal enjoyments in life. This trial is his, not yours. Soon enough he'll see you're above skirmishes and it's in the living of your life that he'll realize his foolishness.", "Someone in this situation is misinformed. You have the opportunity to help make them figure out what is really going on. If you start to ask very specific questions about the situation, you may be able to break it down into pieces that allow you both to find the truth, or at the very least exonerate you. Don't stop at exoneration though. Be cool and go all the way to the bottom of the matter with them. ", "The truth should never be avoided. \"I didn't do it. I will ask around to see who did do it\". Thus showing concern and your willingness to help.", "Imagine the place where anyone is looking at you at any given time. Would you disagree with me if I felt like most people would be looking at your eyes when speaking to you? It is. If someone is saying something that is wrong, incorrect, or something that has a purpose of a reaction from you which suggests guilt or shame, then don't flutter your eyes, or raise your eyebrows, or let the shape of your eyes change or grow at all. Let your voice be firm, and yes, be polite. ", "I've had people accuse me of doing something I obviously didn't. \n\nShut them down by openly and loudly announcing their accusation.\n\nif the group don't support you by exposing the person who did, or at least supporting your response that you did not do it, they are not your friends and not worth spending any time with.\n", "Look, simply tell him what happened, he'll probably believe, if he heard that you didn't that most likely means that he didn't think you were guilty but may angry about it, so if you want to say something about, its best to do it, since if you don't you are going to be whats considered a push over, but in short let me tell story that proves my point that not letting people pressure you into something even if you didn't do it is bad, and how to combat it, now at this time I was about twelve my dad was a preacher and we had went to church, so church offering so they had given the money to me to put it in, well their was a long prey and I wasn't paying attention so I had put the money in my shirt pocket so I would remember, I forgot, and afterwards like the second we noticed we and they gave it to them, now after church was over my parents had accused me of trying to steal the money regardless that I had shown it to them and told her I had simply forgot, but my mom nor my dad believed me, they believed that I attempted to do it and they would not let go of that idea, and you know what I did? I pleaded not guilty all the way, and they believed me, and it seemed like my situation was hopeless but if you stick to whats true then something good will happen, and to further emphasize my parents never took into consideration that it was the morning, I wasn't paying attention, and that I had put the money in my front pocket, so it was basically them believing themselves so it seemed hopeless, so this tells you if you don't say you yourself is not guilty then people are going to believe you are guilty and also people are going to blame stuff if you don't say, \"I didn't do it\" and also it really show you aren't guilty if the entire time they were pleading you guilty you kept on saying not guilty, regardless how you look at it if someone truly believes they didn't do it, then they are going to keep saying that, also on top of this, WHAT THEY ACCUSED YOU MADE YOU LIKE A GIANT BUTT, do they really think this little of you or did you ever think for a second what this makes you look like? seriously I wouldn't want to be known as the guy who threw pizza on someones ceiling, but basically just call him up, explain that because you thought the proof was against you and you didn't know what to do, and then ask why he thought it was you, and if still thinks you did it, explain to him again and if he still doesn't believe you, tell him to go hang himself." ]

[ 46, 18, 15, 6, 5, 5, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "What are the best products/solutions for bad breath? I have a breath issue. I brush my teeth, scrape my younger, and use mouthwash twice a day. Part of the issues I believe to be my permanent retainers behind my teeth (which could be trapping food), i take adderall which is known to cause dry mouth (i have been drinking more water lately to help counter this), and i have continental tounge (affect 2% of people, no known major problems but known to potentially contribute to bad breath). \n\nSo yea, i have alot working against me; but, when you're trying to put some spark back into your relationship and can't make out due to repulsive breath you're kind of forced to search for solutions. \n\nIf anyone has any tips or tricks let me know and thank you in advance! ", "What are the best products/solutions for bad breath? I have a breath issue. I brush my teeth, scrape my younger, and use mouthwash twice a day. Part of the issues I believe to be my permanent retainers behind my teeth (which could be trapping food), i take adderall which is known to cause dry mouth (i have been drinking more water lately to help counter this), and i have continental tounge (affect 2% of people, no known major problems but known to potentially contribute to bad breath). \n\nSo yea, i have alot working against me; but, when you're trying to put some spark back into your relationship and can't make out due to repulsive breath you're kind of forced to search for solutions. \n\nIf anyone has any tips or tricks let me know and thank you in advance! ", "What are the best products/solutions for bad breath? I have a breath issue. I brush my teeth, scrape my younger, and use mouthwash twice a day. Part of the issues I believe to be my permanent retainers behind my teeth (which could be trapping food), i take adderall which is known to cause dry mouth (i have been drinking more water lately to help counter this), and i have continental tounge (affect 2% of people, no known major problems but known to potentially contribute to bad breath). \n\nSo yea, i have alot working against me; but, when you're trying to put some spark back into your relationship and can't make out due to repulsive breath you're kind of forced to search for solutions. \n\nIf anyone has any tips or tricks let me know and thank you in advance! ", "What are the best products/solutions for bad breath? I have a breath issue. I brush my teeth, scrape my younger, and use mouthwash twice a day. Part of the issues I believe to be my permanent retainers behind my teeth (which could be trapping food), i take adderall which is known to cause dry mouth (i have been drinking more water lately to help counter this), and i have continental tounge (affect 2% of people, no known major problems but known to potentially contribute to bad breath). \n\nSo yea, i have alot working against me; but, when you're trying to put some spark back into your relationship and can't make out due to repulsive breath you're kind of forced to search for solutions. \n\nIf anyone has any tips or tricks let me know and thank you in advance! ", "What are the best products/solutions for bad breath? I have a breath issue. I brush my teeth, scrape my younger, and use mouthwash twice a day. Part of the issues I believe to be my permanent retainers behind my teeth (which could be trapping food), i take adderall which is known to cause dry mouth (i have been drinking more water lately to help counter this), and i have continental tounge (affect 2% of people, no known major problems but known to potentially contribute to bad breath). \n\nSo yea, i have alot working against me; but, when you're trying to put some spark back into your relationship and can't make out due to repulsive breath you're kind of forced to search for solutions. \n\nIf anyone has any tips or tricks let me know and thank you in advance! " ]

[ "what do your tonsils look like? you could have tonsil stones. it can be caused by dry mouth. or bad dental hygiene and other stuff. if you push on them, gently, does anything come out? \n\ntonsil stones are little white clumps of food and bacteria. they have a high concentration of sulfur and because of such, smell terrible. don't touch them with your bare hand and DONT break them open, the smell is terrible. \n\nlook up videos on YouTube, you can find people removing tonsil stones and how to do it yourself. ", "I also have Geographic tongue (aka continental tongue) but I do not have nor have I ever heard of it causing any issues of bad breath.", "Actually, [these things](http://32oc.com/en/). They work like a dream. They act like pop rocks, which is weird but fun, and they totally get rid of bad breath. I bought them on a whim from QVC (we were flipping through channels), and now my husband reminds me often to make sure we keep them plentiful in the house.", "Had a similar problem and gave [TheraBreath](http://www.therabreath.com/freesamples/) a shot. It seems to have helped with minimizing the tonsil stones.", "A friend with chronic bad breath takes decongestants to get rid of the dragon breath. His sinuses get stuffy from hay fever and he smells like shit when that happens. " ]

[ 8, 3, 3, 1, 1 ]

[ " Making a bandaid stick to a hairy knee. I got a really bad scrape on my knee. Unfortunately, it is in the knee cap and a band aid comes off every time I bend my knee. Any advice?", " Making a bandaid stick to a hairy knee. I got a really bad scrape on my knee. Unfortunately, it is in the knee cap and a band aid comes off every time I bend my knee. Any advice?", " Making a bandaid stick to a hairy knee. I got a really bad scrape on my knee. Unfortunately, it is in the knee cap and a band aid comes off every time I bend my knee. Any advice?", " Making a bandaid stick to a hairy knee. I got a really bad scrape on my knee. Unfortunately, it is in the knee cap and a band aid comes off every time I bend my knee. Any advice?", " Making a bandaid stick to a hairy knee. I got a really bad scrape on my knee. Unfortunately, it is in the knee cap and a band aid comes off every time I bend my knee. Any advice?", " Making a bandaid stick to a hairy knee. I got a really bad scrape on my knee. Unfortunately, it is in the knee cap and a band aid comes off every time I bend my knee. Any advice?" ]

[ "use gauze and tape and/or cut of the elastic upper of an old sock (obviously not an ankle sock, the bigger ones) to pull up over your knee and over the top of the guaze to hold it in place. ", "shave the hair off if its actually caused by the hair. then get a bandaid that is made for moving joints and itll stick fine", "u can mock me & down vote me as much as u like. if you want to heal it within a day or two, then apply some turmeric powder to it and wrap it loosely with a rag. the rag is to prevent the turmeric powder from falling off. Even if you get have a shower and get it off, just re-apply some. turmeric is an anti-septic. If you do try then kindly confirm as soon as it heals. ", "Shave the skin around your wound. It is what they do in hospitals to get dressings to stick to hirsute individuals.", "From somebody with hairy legs: Bend your knee as much as you can (without tightly flexing your hamstrings), move your hair away from the skin and put the bandaid on. This way it is on (less) hair and when you bend your knee, you aren't stretching the bandaid. \n\n\n\nIt won't make solid contact, but it will keep large debris out and help prevent the wound from sticking to the bandaid.", "as long as the scrape is not too deep i would just use superglue. its an old shop trick,also used by bass players. i have accidentally cut the tip of my finger 90% off in the shop, grabbed the superglue, patched myself up and was back working within 2 min. no scar either(i got a really good matchup on the cut) also it doesn't sting and after the glue dries the wound is almost painless.(still hurts with pressure but not sensitive to the touch) \n\n IMPORTANT use regular superglue, standard Cyanoacrylic glue. no gorilla glue, no gel base glues, just plain old superglue.(other glues can have toxins and solvents that sting and poison you. cyanoacrylic dries on contact with water and can be broken down by the body.)\n\n" ]

[ 9, 4, 2, 2, 2, 0 ]

[ "I'm going to have to put my dog down soon, and I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope. Please help. ", "I'm going to have to put my dog down soon, and I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope. Please help. ", "I'm going to have to put my dog down soon, and I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope. Please help. ", "I'm going to have to put my dog down soon, and I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope. Please help. ", "I'm going to have to put my dog down soon, and I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope. Please help. ", "I'm going to have to put my dog down soon, and I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope. Please help. ", "I'm going to have to put my dog down soon, and I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope. Please help. ", "I'm going to have to put my dog down soon, and I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope. Please help. ", "I'm going to have to put my dog down soon, and I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope. Please help. ", "I'm going to have to put my dog down soon, and I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope. Please help. ", "I'm going to have to put my dog down soon, and I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope. Please help. ", "I'm going to have to put my dog down soon, and I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope. Please help. ", "I'm going to have to put my dog down soon, and I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope. Please help. " ]

[ "Ok... Unlike humans... Dogs, if we let them, get to die with some dignity. If he can't get up every time to go to the bathroom, that's usually when it's time. Don't let him live like that.\n\nHe wants you to live and love and be happy. Do the right thing. Give yourself some time to grieve. Then go and get a new good boi. Let Hooch look down from doggy heaven with joy, seeing you allow yourself to love and care for a new dog with the same vigor you showed him. Hooch will be in your heart helping you take care of and love your new friend.\n\nBest wishes and sorry for your circumstances.", "I've been there myself. Our beloved Winnie developed a stomach tumor in her 14th year and we were able to keep her comfortable until her 17th year when she finally couldn't eat food any longer. On the way to the vet for a check up I stopped at Chick fil A and got some nuggets, her favorite. She turned away from them and I started to cry. I called the wife and told her to meet me at the vet, and that it's the last time we're going to see Winnie. We get there and the vet, who is a wonderful lady, asked if it was time. We said yes and I held Winnie in my arms as the injected the painkiller. Winnie relaxed as it took effect and flopped her ears one last time then they injected the muscle relaxer as I told her over and over that she was a great dog and we love her. FinallyI felt her heart stop and she was gone. So was her suffering and misery. I'm not going to lie, I'm crying as I type this, and it was three years ago. It's never easy but it's the very last service you can perform for your loved one and you owe it to him. Last year we felt ready to rescue another dog and we brought Jackson into our lives. Brighter days will come when you're ready. Good luck and be strong.", "As much as it hurts to be there, don't leave him alone and scared wgen the time comes. one of my biggest regrets is not being there to comfort my cat when he got put down.\n\nThere is nothing else you can do.\n\nIt helped me to write a good bye note when I buried him, this might help you. ", "I have been going through a similar situation, and it’s insanely hard. Just focus on everything positive you can do now for him for both of your sake. My boys diet needed to be changed, and I’ve been making him a pot roast every week and he’s been eating like a king and happier from that small change. I cherish the uncomfortable bedtime snuggles, barking at the door, and all of the things people complain about but always admit to missing when they’re gone. \n\nBest thing to take from this, though... remember that no ones time here is determined. Furry best friend or human best friend. If the experience can make you appreciate the harder parts of life, friendships, and family - you’re going to be given the best gift that pup could give you, and if your dog is anything like mine... that’s all he wants to do is change your life for the better. \n\nRemember to love as if anyone could be gone any day of the week. Because they could be. You’re being given a gift knowing the time is coming. You can learn more about yourself and this world from it. \n\nBest of luck and love to you.\n\n", "When it was time for my cat I found a service that comes to your home. She was in her bed and I was petting her the whole time. It was way better then scaring her in her carrier and at a cold unfamiliar pet hospital. ", "Please talk with your veterinarian about this ahead of time. They can refer you for grief counseling services and also help you learn what to expect and help plan the euthanasia itself. Knowing what to expect during the procedure may ease some of your anxiety. For some people/pets, it is easier to have an in-home euthanasia. Ask if this is a possibility. When I've done in home euthanasias, I suggest planning who will be there and some ways to memorialize the pet such as picture collage or paw print. Good for you on planning to stay with him, it will make it easier for him. Most people tell me that it is one of the hardest things they have ever done. I have worked in both human medicine and veterinary medicine. Euthanasia can be an incredible gift. ", "My mom had a dog she dearly loved for more than 13 years. He died of old age. My mom was helpless after it and never more wanted to have another dog. The breeder she got him from, and who was also his groomer and a big friend of her, decided to give my mom a puppy of the same breed as a gift. The puppy helped my mom heal from her mourning and keep going. I truly believe that, when your pet passes away, the best you can do is get a new one. They are amazing healers and will help you cope with pain. \nI am so sorry for what you’re going through. My most sincere condolences", "My dog of 16 years died almost a year ago. It was horrible but the important thing is to make sure they are not in pain. There's no way around it, it's going to be sad but you have to concentrate on the good life you gave your pup. A lot of dogs have miserable lives, so you have to have some comfort in knowing the good life you gave your dog.\n\nTry not to get too hung up on things you can't control. It's just the way life is. It sucks dogs don't live as long as people (or at least longer then 10-15 years) but, at the same time, you don't want your dog living past you, that would be horrible for them.\n\nAfter my dog died I swore I'd never go through that again but after a couple months I got a new rescue puppy because I wanted to give another dog a good life.\n\nThe actual process of putting them down isn't as bad as you think. They inject him or her with a sedative and they fall asleep peacefully. They give them something else to actual stop their heart or something but it's all very peaceful and respectful. If your dog is sick and in pain it's the best for them.", "It's going to be rough, no way around it. And you'll continue to remember him for many years, even after you find another friend.\n\nMake the last week the best, most comfortable, most fun you can for him (without adding too much strain). The food he likes, the things he likes to do, the people he likes to see. Be with him at the end, as you will be, and make sure he knows how much you love him and appreciate all he's done for you.\n\nAfter that, it's kind of up to you. You'll want some time to mourn his loss, but you'll know when it's time to start looking for another companion. Something that may or may not help you get past some of the worst times: check your area for pet hospices. Often places that help animals want people to come in to spend time with them, petting and playing and talking to them, because the staff there doesn't have the manpower to do so themselves. ", "I've been here many times, and I'm sorry for yes, it is going to break your heart. But, don't feel like shit for making this choice. Once his quality of life is diminished, you can give him the GIFT of not suffering. It actually is a repayment, because you care enough to let your heart be broken in a million pieces in order to let him die with dignity and as little pain or fear as possible. He would have given you his love & loyalty a thousand times over for much less in return. That's just the incredible nature of dogs. As for coping, you just...will, because you know it's what is doing right by him.\n\nThe process itself is quick and painless, aside from the mild discomfort--if any--from the little poke of a needle. He can leave this world quickly, peacefully, and knowing how much he is loved. No creature can ask for a better way to go. \n\nDon't worry about your emotions on that day. All vets, vet techs and other clients in the waiting room understand. Some vets will let you pay beforehand, so that you don't have it feeling like a business transaction the day of. Better yet, you may be able to find a vet that does house calls for this. \n\nAs for afterwards, allow yourself to mourn. As with all grief, it does get better with time, but it takes just that: time. Years later, and I still have moments where I tear up thinking of my babies who have gone on. I don't know your thoughts on the matter, but I have had all but one of mine cremated. That makes me feel like they are still 'home' with me, whereas the one who was buried, I miss in a different way. I feel the distance, if that makes sense? \n\nI hate that you are faced with this decision. Sending my love to you & Hooch. \n\n", "I wanted to give you some advice but it seems like you got some good words here and I'm crying now thinking about my boy. He'll be 6 this year and I know he's got a while left to go, I just think about when my girl was 6. I hugged her and cried and told her I loved her and she's never allowed to die or leave me. She did, of course. I miss her, but I love my good little boy so much now. I imagine when he's gone, someone else will come along to light up my life.\n\nI'm gonna go hug him and cry now. Dogs are so good. We say we don't deserve them but they're here to remind us that we do.", "I put my old buddy out of his misery not even a week ago. He was 14+ and his hips were done, his skin was terrible, and his undercoat had fallen out. He still loved to go on (progressively shorter) walks and kept his appetite. Yesterday I looked at a picture of him taken shortly before he died and I couldn't believe how rough he looked. In my mind, he was still the strong and energetic guy from years ago. In retrospect, I probably let him go too long. It's never easy, but you are not betraying him by letting him go. It's you giving him one last gift of mercy.", "I know exactly what you are going through... and firstly i'd just like to say that im sorry you have to deal with this situation. Its no different than losing family. \n\nMy advice: try to remember your best friend for all the great moments you had. Dont dawn on how their last days were. Remember how they made you smile, how they made you laugh, any silly manuerisms they did. Remember them for the loving best friend they always were, and carry their memory and their love everywhere you go. They are never truly gone.. they just arent here right now. \n\nI wish only the best for you, and i hope you find peace in the coming days. There's no way to avoid the sorrow of losing a best friend, but I PROMISE you that in time it will get easier. In time, you'll think back to them with a smile, instead of tears. \n\nStay strong friend, we are all here for you. " ]

[ 12, 5, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "how do you deal with 'information overload'? I know it's a first world problem, but sometimes I'm stressed out because I (feel like) I have so much to read (books, magazines, internet) and not enough time (or more importantly: attentional control). I have especially a hard time with popular science articles and news with or without click bait titles like *'Here’s The Psychological Key to Improving Your Physical Health'*^1 .\n\nHow do you deal with all the available information and click bait (on the internet) and the fear of missing out potential useful and interesting information? Thanks! \n\n[1] *Answer: monitoring goal progress.*", "how do you deal with 'information overload'? I know it's a first world problem, but sometimes I'm stressed out because I (feel like) I have so much to read (books, magazines, internet) and not enough time (or more importantly: attentional control). I have especially a hard time with popular science articles and news with or without click bait titles like *'Here’s The Psychological Key to Improving Your Physical Health'*^1 .\n\nHow do you deal with all the available information and click bait (on the internet) and the fear of missing out potential useful and interesting information? Thanks! \n\n[1] *Answer: monitoring goal progress.*", "how do you deal with 'information overload'? I know it's a first world problem, but sometimes I'm stressed out because I (feel like) I have so much to read (books, magazines, internet) and not enough time (or more importantly: attentional control). I have especially a hard time with popular science articles and news with or without click bait titles like *'Here’s The Psychological Key to Improving Your Physical Health'*^1 .\n\nHow do you deal with all the available information and click bait (on the internet) and the fear of missing out potential useful and interesting information? Thanks! \n\n[1] *Answer: monitoring goal progress.*" ]

[ "Realize you don't need to read everything. Now let's look at media by type.\n\nTelevision: It's all just entertainment. Especially sports and news. You choose how much you want to watch. Streaming makes this easy. \n\nRadio: Good for background, no important content. \n\nMagazines: Most are just advertising in disguise. If you have hobbies or business interests you can get a couple. Avoid lad rags, health and fitness, and anything with celebrities. \n\nNewspapers. I've substituted a couple news feeds and some google alerts. You can't miss major stories, and if you want to read more you can search for it. The key is to \"pull\" information you want to read rather than what is pushed to you.\n\nInternet. That's the hard one. Get on, get the information you want, get off. (except Reddit of course.) Just skip the click bait. There is nothing there to see. Learn to identify ads. If something is \"sponsored\", \"recommended\", \"partnered\" or a site that overlays content with ads, just skip it. \n\nYour last paragraph says it all. You fear missing out on something useful or interesting. Believe me you won't. Use the time to develop your own interests and expertise and read real honest to god books on those subjects. ", "Try making a list, organized by priority. A good way to do this is to make a spreadsheet, such as on Google Sheets. Then when you come across something you want to read, instead of reading it, add it to your list and assign it a priority. Sometimes when you want to read something, it's about being afraid that you'll never see it again, but putting it on the list gives you somewhere to put it, so mentally you won't have that fear of loss.\n\nThen when you have free time, work your way through the high priority to low priority items, and of course just delete the ones that you lost interest in.\n\nThe key is giving yourself a different choice than just \"skip it\" or \"read it\".", "First world problems should be solved by first world solutions.\n\nAre your daily goals being accomplished?\n\nIf yes, read / click / watch /listen away.\n\nIf not, (as you suggest) re order your daily priorities \nand be **honest** with your list.\n\nRe adjust as needed so you are not wasting your time.\n\nRe member a lot of *down time* is needed to re fuel your goals.\n\nLearn a trigger to get you out of procrastination. \n\nLearn to use the off button on your devices.\n\nHope this will help." ]

[ 4, 3, 2 ]

[ "how not to make a mess if you have to sneeze with food in your mouth I have a lot of allergies, and sneeze often. The worst is when I sneeze while chewing some food. I don't always have a napkin or tissue handy so I will sneeze in my hand. Then I have a big mess of whatever delicious I was eating all over my palm. Any help?", "how not to make a mess if you have to sneeze with food in your mouth I have a lot of allergies, and sneeze often. The worst is when I sneeze while chewing some food. I don't always have a napkin or tissue handy so I will sneeze in my hand. Then I have a big mess of whatever delicious I was eating all over my palm. Any help?", "how not to make a mess if you have to sneeze with food in your mouth I have a lot of allergies, and sneeze often. The worst is when I sneeze while chewing some food. I don't always have a napkin or tissue handy so I will sneeze in my hand. Then I have a big mess of whatever delicious I was eating all over my palm. Any help?", "how not to make a mess if you have to sneeze with food in your mouth I have a lot of allergies, and sneeze often. The worst is when I sneeze while chewing some food. I don't always have a napkin or tissue handy so I will sneeze in my hand. Then I have a big mess of whatever delicious I was eating all over my palm. Any help?" ]

[ "When I have food in my mouth, I try to sneeze through my teeth. Teeth are closed of course, not clamped shut, plus with the hands covering mouth too. Have your lips/mouth open like you are brushing your teeth, with teeth showing and closed. Once you get better, you can relax your mouth but still close your teeth. There will still be particles of food, but it is better than no teeth cover over.\n\nIf you have liquids, turn to the person closest to you, than...LOL. There is no solution for liquids, that I know of.", "Since you realize that you have \"a condition\", you need to:\n\n1) always be prepared, take a pack tissue or handkerchief with you always (prepare them in several place even, in your shirt and pants pocket if you're a guy, in your purse if you're a gal).\n\n2) be more aware of what things trigger your allergy, and avoid them if you can; this is generally your only long-term option for allergies: avoiding the allergens.\n\n3) be more aware of what your body does when it's about to sneeze and prepare, even one or two seconds of knowing earlier will help.\n\n4) chew smaller quantities of food, so if you sneeze less food is jetted around.\n\nIn short, there is no silver bullet but being prepared will help.", "Right when you are about to sneeze, make yourself cough. The cough has way less force and makes your sneeze go away (or at least less intense). I use chew tobacco and don't need to tell you how messy that could be with a sneeze. Not sure if that will work for everyone, but I do it all the time and has worked for me with great success.", "Push your finger between your eyes. Sounds stupid, but it somehow suppresses a sneeze. To do it while not looking stupid, use both hands to put over your nose, press fingers between eyes, and it should go away." ]

[ 3, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "A resource for ideas on how to clean/housekeep more efficiently I find myself getting distracted a lot or not knowing where to begin when I’m cleaning my home. On days when I’m not working I can easily lose an entire afternoon to household chores and still not have everything done. Are there any books/resources or tips that I could look into about how to streamline the process? \n\nThanks!", "A resource for ideas on how to clean/housekeep more efficiently I find myself getting distracted a lot or not knowing where to begin when I’m cleaning my home. On days when I’m not working I can easily lose an entire afternoon to household chores and still not have everything done. Are there any books/resources or tips that I could look into about how to streamline the process? \n\nThanks!", "A resource for ideas on how to clean/housekeep more efficiently I find myself getting distracted a lot or not knowing where to begin when I’m cleaning my home. On days when I’m not working I can easily lose an entire afternoon to household chores and still not have everything done. Are there any books/resources or tips that I could look into about how to streamline the process? \n\nThanks!" ]

[ "The best thing I ever did in this regard was hire a professional housecleaning by a person with a reputation for being fast and thorough. I then discreetly watched every move she made so I could do it myself. \n$100 well spent.", "Consider a calendar. It's the simplest way to note what needs to be done and when. If you use an actual calendar app/program, you can include repeat tasks. Here's a good article about formulating a schedule with some tips. [https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/home/cleaning/a37462/how-often-you-should-clean-everything/](https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/home/cleaning/a37462/how-often-you-should-clean-everything/)\n\n​\n\nMy oldest discovered \"the 20 minute rule\". She sets a timer for 20 minutes and just cleans like crazy during the whole time. Anything she can get done, she does. She notes that regular cleaning is accomplished in the 20 minutes she allots, so no tasks go undone each night. The other thing she noticed is that once the timer went off, she often went right back to cleaning in order to finish a particular thing she's doing. The timer forces her to focus, because she can't use the \"watching the clock\" excuse. She also turns off the tv. Music is fine, but tv distracts her.", "I highly recommend a YouTube channel called ButFirstCoffee. She has a blog page of the same name that you should be able to google. She has many videos posted about general organisation she uses to clean among other things and her blog page has printables that detail lists for cleaning. \n\nNote: she is American. I’m not sure what country you’re from but I’ve found some hacks she has shared don’t translate well to Australia where I’m from so keep that in mind if it’s applicable. \n\nI hope this helps you!" ]

[ 3, 3, 2 ]

[ "How to get young children to stop fighting with each other Just because it's a good piece of advice and because two siblings (1 1/2 and 4) are driving me up a fucking wall. ", "How to get young children to stop fighting with each other Just because it's a good piece of advice and because two siblings (1 1/2 and 4) are driving me up a fucking wall. ", "How to get young children to stop fighting with each other Just because it's a good piece of advice and because two siblings (1 1/2 and 4) are driving me up a fucking wall. " ]

[ "It would be hard to believe that the responsibility wouldn't be squarely on the 4 year old. For starters, I would have a private talk with the 4 year old and explain how much older and more mature - and therefore more responsible - you consider him/her. Set up a daily reward (cookies, whatever) for each day that the 4 year old can ignore the toddler's taunts and refrain from responding in kind.\n\nYou can't expect any deal to stick with a toddler. Putting the entire burden on the older child often works best both in terms of child psychology and in terms of determining who is responsible when things break down. When the youngest child gets older, there are ways of addressing them too.\n\nYour results may vary. Good luck.\n\nSource: parent of children aged 5, 14, 19, and 19.\n\nP.S. I think there are better subs for this topic.", "when I was a kid, we had \"crying matches.\" lock the two in a room until one of them starts crying. also helps to establish dominance!\n\nsource: youngest of 5 brothers", "Become a kid and switch sides between them. Making the adult accountable as he is elder doesn't work all the time. I'd suggest taking the attention off from the younger during these scenarios. When you sense a tension distract them by making weird sounds, turn on some music and dance along.. Enjoy with them. Kids are wonderful and stupid too. May be you need to wear your smartness cap." ]

[ 8, 2, -1 ]

[ "How to deal with buffering streams online I've tried all the usual suspects. Giving it a few minutes to 'catch-up' and switching browsers. Anyone have any good tips for this?\n\nI also occasionally have buffering even when the stream has loaded 'beyond' that time point. For example if it looks as if 30 min has loaded, even at 25 minutes there may still be buffering. Thanks guys!", "How to deal with buffering streams online I've tried all the usual suspects. Giving it a few minutes to 'catch-up' and switching browsers. Anyone have any good tips for this?\n\nI also occasionally have buffering even when the stream has loaded 'beyond' that time point. For example if it looks as if 30 min has loaded, even at 25 minutes there may still be buffering. Thanks guys!" ]

[ "Get a better internet connection.\n\nBuffering is caused by your connection being too slow for whatever you're watching. (1080p should require at least like 10Mbps, keep in mind this is shared amongst all household members. Wireless can also have drastic impacts if the access point is too far away.)\n", "I live in a dorm with slow and unstable network and cant do anything about it :) my advice is try using putlockers.ch maybe their servers are closer to You so it would buffer faster" ]

[ 3, 1 ]

[ "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well.", "How can I fall asleep faster? Even though I go to bed at 10:30pm, it still takes me till 1:30am to fall asleep. Any useful tips out there that could help me fall asleep faster? Because I work 4 days in the week, and with this lack of energy it's nothing going very well." ]

[ "So no phone or tv at bed time try reading a book it reall does make you tired. And I mean like paper book not a tablet. Also try a melatonin supplement 3 or 5 MG will work take that about an hour before bed. It works for me", "I listen to audiobooks. Usually something I've listened to at work before so it keeps my mind engaged but doesn't let my mind run around like a methed up rat in a small cage.", "Get as relaxed as possible in bed, close your eyes, count backward from 100 in time with every exhale. Every time I try this I have never gotten to zero.\n\nAlso, good sleep hygene is useful. Don't do anything in your bed other than sleep and sexytime if you can. If you have a tv in your room take it out, same with looking at your phone, or reading ect if you can. Work on your body getting used to when you go to your bed it's time to sleep.", "I enjoy “driving”. Pick a place in a location your very familiar with a ways away from your current location, i.e. your friends house, a grocery store / restaurant on the other side of town.. \nClose your eyes and visualize as many details as you travel or “drive” to that place. This works for me as I’ve yet to arrive at said destination.", "I have severe insomnia. I recommend you create a routine and start relaxing one hour before you will lay in bed,for example one hour before I start showering,drinking some water and creating my bedrooms atmosphere,then when its time I lay in bed,watch a show I love and fall asleep.", "I always sleep w my TV on. I like background noise or my brain won't stop. \nThat said. \nI also think about the same thing every night when I want to fall asleep. It almost becomes hypnotic after a while. Just make it something neutral, and nothing based in reality. \n\nIf I won $100 m what would I do? \nMy all time baseball team would be? \nHow would I recast my favorite movies? \n\nOnce you get it down, you drift off in moments.", "Research PROGRESSIVE RELAXATION online. It’s a simple mental/physical activity that you do while lying in bed, occupying your mind with something neutral and relaxing your body. \n“Sleep Hygiene” is what you want to study up on.", "If its legal where you are smoking a bit of weed before bed helps many people. Depends on why you can’t sleep", "I use the Calm app. Started 2 weeks ago and I'm asleep in minutes. I was skeptical going into it as I've always been a poor sleeper. But every night I'm out like a light and don't wake up until morning.", "I memorized some long poems. When I can’t sleep, I recite them to myself. I seldom get through the whole poem.", "I learned a trick from a youtube video which i can't remember who delivered it\n\nI now take 3 deep breaths when ready to go to sleep\n\nExhale more than you Inhale. \n\nI noticed that after each breath my muscles relax and after the 3rd im almost off in sleep\n\nWhatever trick you use it will take a week or two to stick", "here's what I changed\n\n* no phone in the room at all\n* read a book, off dead trees, preferably fiction\n* no caffeine after 3pm-ish (your hour may vary)\n* be consistent\n* have an earlier dinner\n* no alarm clock if you can manage", "You need to figure out the problem first. Stimulants? Coffee? Anxiety? Restless legs? Temperature of your room? Darkness of your room? Distractions? Dinner? Big Breakfast or no breakfast? Naps during the day? Wake up time regular? Noise level? Comfortable? Feel safe? I'd also see a good private doctor as well if you want to get serious about solving this. Sleep, diet, exercise they are fundamental, so if your sleep onset is not good then that can potentially be a serious problem. Hyperactive thyroid? Doctor can be good because they can do some tests and you get some real personalised data with which you can then make inferences from. Good luck 🙂", "When I’m having trouble sleeping I’ll get down on the floor and do 20-30 push-ups , maybe some planks. 5 min of that and I’m out like a light", "My sleep often improves when I work out. Hard. A light work out will get your heart rate higher, potentially making it harder to be relaxed afterwards. A heavy workout session will leave you exhausted, which combined with a hot shower is a recipe for sleep. At least in my case.\nI would end my session no less than 2-3 hours before my planned time to sleep, though.\nHope it helps!", "I'm a life-long insomniac. I've had a ton of luck with the following routine for the past year: \n\nFirst, I objectively review my day from start to finish, remind myself that now is time for sleep not for solving problems, and think of three things that I feel grateful for. \n\nNext I do at least three rounds of 4-7-8 breathing: inhale for the count of four, hold for the count of seven, exhale for the count of eight, repeat. \n\nTo close, I go through the alphabet in my head and name three things for each letter. They can be totally random (hopefully positive or neutral) things, apple, artwork, amplitude, beans, butter, bedsprings... I'm usually drifting off to sleep before I hit \"Z\", but if I'm not, I just repeat the alphabet again.\n\nAlso, all these comments on sleep hygiene are unfortunately very true lol. Cardio exercise during your day is so helpful for inducing sleep at night. The more you can attend your sleep hygiene, the better.", "I have insomnia too, but my CBT therapist have me some tips. \n\n-Do not go to sleep until you are tired. \n\n-Do not lay down until you're ready for bed. \n\n-When you wake-up in the AM and can't sleep anymore, go for a walk immediately and start your day. \n\n-No naps\n\n-Medication/suppliments that has helped: trazodone, melatonin, magnesium, and sour cherry juice.", "I found the to get to sleep within 25 to 30'. \n\n1- 30mg of Temazepah Dr's prescription\n\n2- 200mg Quatipine Dr's prescription\n\n3- 5gm of melatonin OTC 1 pill\n\n4.- Restaze OTC 1 pill\n\n5- Serenitas OTC 1pill\n\nSweet dreams. I almost have \"fun\" dreams and sleep well.\n\n", "I do some breathing and relaxation exercises when I'm ready to fall asleep. a slow deep inhale and a long slow exhale that lasts about twice as long as the inhale, with each exhale concentrate on large muscle groups like legs, abdominals, back and arms and look for tension, any tension, and imagine it relaxing with each exhale. Takes a bit of practice, but once you get used to doing it, it's easy. I rarely take more than 10 minutes to fall asleep.", "Here is what works for me (but it may not for everyone) \n\nI turn the TV on fairly quietly, on a sleep timer so it turns itself off after an hour or two. I put on a sleep mask, because I have found that the extra darkness helps. (I use the kind with domed eye covers that don't press on your eyelids). I lay down and listen to the TV - I am usually asleep before the first show is half over.", "Don’t get in bed until you’re truly tired. You might be conditioned to be in a pattern that your brain accepts as normal by being in bed too early. There are professional psychologists that specialize in helping people get good sleep (assuming it’s not due to a medical cause). More info at the American Academy of Sleep Medicine website.", "Dont concentrate on falling asleep, it’ll stress you out. Just concentrate on relaxing. And yea, more exercise. Turn off devices and go for a 1/2 hour walk about 9:00.", "Convince yourself that you're in the army and if the drill sergeant caught you awake he will give you hell. Used to work like magic with me, especially at times when I actually imagine him standing above me waiting for me to flinch or move" ]

[ 10, 7, 7, 5, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Got a job offer accepted it, but I haven't heard back. What do I do? Hello,\n\nI had a job interview last Wednesday. On Tuesday I got an email with the job offer. The manager was sick, therefore he emailed me. He told me my pay and compensations and would like to start the drug test process.\n\nI emailed back saying I accept the offer. I got an Automatic Reply, saying that he was sick and for immediate help contact Client Services and for a manager email so and so. \n\nI's been 3 days since, and haven't heard back. Should I reach out to the company to see the status? Or should I continue waiting since he is sick? ", "Got a job offer accepted it, but I haven't heard back. What do I do? Hello,\n\nI had a job interview last Wednesday. On Tuesday I got an email with the job offer. The manager was sick, therefore he emailed me. He told me my pay and compensations and would like to start the drug test process.\n\nI emailed back saying I accept the offer. I got an Automatic Reply, saying that he was sick and for immediate help contact Client Services and for a manager email so and so. \n\nI's been 3 days since, and haven't heard back. Should I reach out to the company to see the status? Or should I continue waiting since he is sick? ", "Got a job offer accepted it, but I haven't heard back. What do I do? Hello,\n\nI had a job interview last Wednesday. On Tuesday I got an email with the job offer. The manager was sick, therefore he emailed me. He told me my pay and compensations and would like to start the drug test process.\n\nI emailed back saying I accept the offer. I got an Automatic Reply, saying that he was sick and for immediate help contact Client Services and for a manager email so and so. \n\nI's been 3 days since, and haven't heard back. Should I reach out to the company to see the status? Or should I continue waiting since he is sick? " ]

[ "Pick up the phone, email is easy to over look. Getting somebody on the phone will get more detail. & showing initive is always best. ", "I would forward a copy of the offer email to the manager he listed, and just mention that you are following up because you haven't heard anything. Best to be proactive in a situation like this.", "Just like what everyone is saying. You have to follow up regardless pf how you'd do it. You can email them first then if you don't get any response then you can call them. " ]

[ 4, 2, 1 ]

[ "Remedies for stomachaches/nausea Hi Redditors! I'm looking for any special remedies you might have for nausea or just normal stomachaches. Pepto Bismal is my least favorite medicine in the world to take; I would love some natural remedies if you have any.", "Remedies for stomachaches/nausea Hi Redditors! I'm looking for any special remedies you might have for nausea or just normal stomachaches. Pepto Bismal is my least favorite medicine in the world to take; I would love some natural remedies if you have any.", "Remedies for stomachaches/nausea Hi Redditors! I'm looking for any special remedies you might have for nausea or just normal stomachaches. Pepto Bismal is my least favorite medicine in the world to take; I would love some natural remedies if you have any.", "Remedies for stomachaches/nausea Hi Redditors! I'm looking for any special remedies you might have for nausea or just normal stomachaches. Pepto Bismal is my least favorite medicine in the world to take; I would love some natural remedies if you have any.", "Remedies for stomachaches/nausea Hi Redditors! I'm looking for any special remedies you might have for nausea or just normal stomachaches. Pepto Bismal is my least favorite medicine in the world to take; I would love some natural remedies if you have any.", "Remedies for stomachaches/nausea Hi Redditors! I'm looking for any special remedies you might have for nausea or just normal stomachaches. Pepto Bismal is my least favorite medicine in the world to take; I would love some natural remedies if you have any.", "Remedies for stomachaches/nausea Hi Redditors! I'm looking for any special remedies you might have for nausea or just normal stomachaches. Pepto Bismal is my least favorite medicine in the world to take; I would love some natural remedies if you have any.", "Remedies for stomachaches/nausea Hi Redditors! I'm looking for any special remedies you might have for nausea or just normal stomachaches. Pepto Bismal is my least favorite medicine in the world to take; I would love some natural remedies if you have any.", "Remedies for stomachaches/nausea Hi Redditors! I'm looking for any special remedies you might have for nausea or just normal stomachaches. Pepto Bismal is my least favorite medicine in the world to take; I would love some natural remedies if you have any.", "Remedies for stomachaches/nausea Hi Redditors! I'm looking for any special remedies you might have for nausea or just normal stomachaches. Pepto Bismal is my least favorite medicine in the world to take; I would love some natural remedies if you have any." ]

[ "Cannabis can destroy nausea for many people. Why it's prescribed for diseases where weight loss and lack of appetite from nausea are a problem.\n\nCaveat: in extreme doses, especially when eaten, too much can cause nausea in many people.", "Ginger is supposed to be great for your tummy. You could keep ginger candies around or even boil it to make a tea. ", "Just get some ginger root pills. Works perfectly, no side-effects, and you don't have to mess with eating some nasty tasting ginger root. EZ and effective", "I just had a parasite from visiting South America, but straight lemon juice helped for about half an hour if your pain is intense and 30 minutes would help. Plus, your burps taste and smell lemony :) Limes probably work too. ", "Aloe juice has been a miracle cure for me. Few years back was having massive nausea and nothing worked - ginger, weed, meds. A friend turned me on to aloe juice, just drink about an ounce of it. You can buy it at any health food store and I've even seen it at Wal -mart.", "1. If It's because you ate or drank too fast next time, eat or drink slowly\n2. If It's from your meds, talk to your doctor who prescribed it about that side effect cause some meds can upset your stomach.\n3. Take food with your meds if you need to take it with food, or it can upset your stomach.\n4. If It's from ulcerativeclitis, talk to your doctor or a gastroenterologist for treatment like medicine.\n5. Tea\n6. Take some time off work or school to rest if it's a stomach bug or any bug if you're unemployed and graduated. Just rest and do things when you're up to it.", "We would always do rock candy. Either straight up or dissolved in tea. Always seems to do the trick for me at least...", "I made my children ginger tea with shaved ginger root and honey, I made it pretty weak for them but it did the trick. Also keep a can (or bottle of coke a cola ouside of the fridge and drink it warm and flat to get rid of stomach aches, same with ginger ale keep it warm and stir the bubbles out of it.", "Get ginger root from the supermarket and slice 3 inches of root about quarter-inch thins. Put this in a full pot of boiling water for 10 minutes. After the 10 minutes, strain the pieces out and either drink the infusion straight or with some sweetener added. It will be strong, but you can sip it slowly and still get a rapid effect. \n\nYou can do a second boil on the ginger slices to get a weaker infusion, too, but usually the first pot full is more than enough to take care of things. My ex had bad stomach issues due to stress and we'd keep a pitcher of ginger water in the fridge for him. Ginger has antimicrobial properties, so a pitcher will easily last for a week in the fridge. ", "Drink eight ounces lukewarm water with two teaspoons baking soda. \n\nI just discovered this and it works nearly every time. Just don't add too much baking soda or it will have the reverse effect.\n\nGood luck!" ]

[ 19, 10, 5, 5, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do you search for the first edition of something, when the second edition is more popular? Like if I wanted to Google the Pixel 1 (which is simply called Pixel), and not get results for Pixel 2. ", "How do you search for the first edition of something, when the second edition is more popular? Like if I wanted to Google the Pixel 1 (which is simply called Pixel), and not get results for Pixel 2. " ]

[ "This may not work in this particular case, but I did find this.\n\n> You can exclude words from your search by using the - operator; any word in your query preceded by the - sign is automatically excluded from the search results.\n", "Search by year or by type. To use your example, \"Pixel 2016\" or \"Pixel movie\" should do the trick.\n\nFor books and comics, use \"first " ]

[ 1, 1 ]

[ "prevent ice on car windows Or how would one go about making it easier to remove said ice?\n\nSnow isn't bad because it brushes right off, but it's those thin layers of ice that get me.", "prevent ice on car windows Or how would one go about making it easier to remove said ice?\n\nSnow isn't bad because it brushes right off, but it's those thin layers of ice that get me.", "prevent ice on car windows Or how would one go about making it easier to remove said ice?\n\nSnow isn't bad because it brushes right off, but it's those thin layers of ice that get me.", "prevent ice on car windows Or how would one go about making it easier to remove said ice?\n\nSnow isn't bad because it brushes right off, but it's those thin layers of ice that get me.", "prevent ice on car windows Or how would one go about making it easier to remove said ice?\n\nSnow isn't bad because it brushes right off, but it's those thin layers of ice that get me.", "prevent ice on car windows Or how would one go about making it easier to remove said ice?\n\nSnow isn't bad because it brushes right off, but it's those thin layers of ice that get me." ]

[ "I don't have any solutions on how to prevent the ice... however... there are products you can buy that you spray onto your windshield and it instantly de-ices it. \n\nI just bought this http://www.prestone.com/products/car_care/ice_fighters/product_list at Wal-Mart the other day for about $3. Cheap and works like a charm! ", "Rain-X?\n\nMy dad and I put bungee cords on a big sheet of cardboard. The bungees go around the mirrors and hold the cardboard to the windshield. When you take it off in the morning, store it where it won't get snowed on.\n\nIf it's going to snow overnight, don't put it on - the snow will usually protect from ice forming. If it *does* form, run the defrost and the snow will insulate, keeping the heat on the window so that the surface ice can melt enough for it to be wiped away easily.", "If you put a towel on your windshield and let the ice hit, you'll be able to just take the icey towel off. I did it last year and it worked flawlessly.", "Would a spray bottle full of rubbing alcohol work as a de-icer?\n\nI've used it for frost a few times. ", "The night before a big ice storm, turn on your wipers and turn off the car while they're still up. Now put a trash bag or a big piece of cardboard across the windshield and under the wipers. \n\nI usually focus on the driver's side and what area isn't covered usually has an edge from pulling away the cover so it's easier to break off with a scraper. \n\nHope this helps, I saw someone do it in my parking lot a few years ago and it changed my life. \n\nPROTIP: before leaving your car, turn OFF your wipers. Then, before turning on the car put your wipers up (away from the windshield) so they don't get scraped up returning to the off position. ", "For a while, I tried putting a sheet of neoprene on the windshield. I'm going to try that again this winter." ]

[ 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How i can spot fake/Toxic people? Sooo im in high school and i wanna get new friends and a girl friend but, i dont want any jerks around me.\nCan you guys give me some tips to spot red flags?", "How i can spot fake/Toxic people? Sooo im in high school and i wanna get new friends and a girl friend but, i dont want any jerks around me.\nCan you guys give me some tips to spot red flags?", "How i can spot fake/Toxic people? Sooo im in high school and i wanna get new friends and a girl friend but, i dont want any jerks around me.\nCan you guys give me some tips to spot red flags?", "How i can spot fake/Toxic people? Sooo im in high school and i wanna get new friends and a girl friend but, i dont want any jerks around me.\nCan you guys give me some tips to spot red flags?", "How i can spot fake/Toxic people? Sooo im in high school and i wanna get new friends and a girl friend but, i dont want any jerks around me.\nCan you guys give me some tips to spot red flags?" ]

[ "If you're around people who are talking about other people, most likely when youre not around they're talking about you as well", "An important thing to be aware of is that healthy friendships shouldn't be one sided, meaning if both of you aren't putting in energy (to make plans after school or things like that) then it's best for you to find someone else.\n\nI had a \"friend\" who would always bail out of our plans at the last minute, ditch me at the club to hook up with strangers, and never reached out to me to make plans (always me reaching out to her). That is a prime example of a toxic friend.\n\nUnfortunately it's very difficult to spot red flags before becoming friends, so just be alert to repeated shitty behaviour from people", "If someone’s constantly asking for favors or help. Big red flag. The day you say no, you turn into the villain.", "Believing others have fixed traits which don’t change yields defensiveness, failure to listen, and failure to set boundaries\n\nclinicians and laypeople proliferate endless self-help and pop psychology content about how in every job interview, family of in-laws, or pool of prospective dates lurk so-called toxic people.\n\nWhile seductive, this kind of blanket labeling comes with a lot of problems. The entire premise is based on dubious science and elicits unhelpful and fatalistic behavior from people on both sides of conflict.\n\nIn general, people are malleable, and variations in context and experience can elicit highly varied behavior. Research suggests that even difficult personality styles can change over time, rather than being fixed and immovable. Intractable conflict experts don’t focus much on bad actors in part because they know that dynamics and situations are toxic, not people.\n\npeople actually get addicted to the feeling of grievance. Especially when stressed, we look for ways to narrate difficult situations as moments where we have been wronged in some way. This compulsion to blame others is in part what “toxicity”-focused self-help gurus peddle: they urge you to let go of nuance or self-reflection and embrace condemnation.\n\nOf course, the world is rife with unequal power dynamics, and power abused. But when people with equal amounts of power are blaming each other for being “toxic,” “manipulative,” or a “narcissist,” they’re often taking the easy way out. In situations of interdependence coupled with severe harm, it may help people in crisis to temporarily frame their boss or girlfriend or parent as pathologically bad in order to extricate themselves. In the long run, however, resorting to fixed pathology to explain bad behavior creates problems for all parties.", "Start by hanging out with people that enjoy the same activities and you can see which ones are better, friendlier to you. See how they treat others first to see how they are in general. Hopefully, you’ll develop friends/relationships organically." ]

[ 27, 12, 5, 5, 3 ]

[ "I’m very short fused when people don’t get simple concepts. By simple, I mean it’s very easy for me to understand so it shouldn’t be hard for others. When other don’t get it it aggravates me. How do I elongate my short fuse? ", "I’m very short fused when people don’t get simple concepts. By simple, I mean it’s very easy for me to understand so it shouldn’t be hard for others. When other don’t get it it aggravates me. How do I elongate my short fuse? ", "I’m very short fused when people don’t get simple concepts. By simple, I mean it’s very easy for me to understand so it shouldn’t be hard for others. When other don’t get it it aggravates me. How do I elongate my short fuse? ", "I’m very short fused when people don’t get simple concepts. By simple, I mean it’s very easy for me to understand so it shouldn’t be hard for others. When other don’t get it it aggravates me. How do I elongate my short fuse? ", "I’m very short fused when people don’t get simple concepts. By simple, I mean it’s very easy for me to understand so it shouldn’t be hard for others. When other don’t get it it aggravates me. How do I elongate my short fuse? ", "I’m very short fused when people don’t get simple concepts. By simple, I mean it’s very easy for me to understand so it shouldn’t be hard for others. When other don’t get it it aggravates me. How do I elongate my short fuse? ", "I’m very short fused when people don’t get simple concepts. By simple, I mean it’s very easy for me to understand so it shouldn’t be hard for others. When other don’t get it it aggravates me. How do I elongate my short fuse? ", "I’m very short fused when people don’t get simple concepts. By simple, I mean it’s very easy for me to understand so it shouldn’t be hard for others. When other don’t get it it aggravates me. How do I elongate my short fuse? ", "I’m very short fused when people don’t get simple concepts. By simple, I mean it’s very easy for me to understand so it shouldn’t be hard for others. When other don’t get it it aggravates me. How do I elongate my short fuse? " ]

[ "Consider examples from your own life when you did not understand or were wrong. \n\nRealize that you have been in their place at some point.", "Remind yourself that simple for you is not necessarily simple for someone else. And what you consider may be good explanation may not be understood for many different reasons. It’s very easy to assume someone else thinks and knows the same basic things as you do - indeed it’s a very strong bias think every is ‘just like me’ but it’s actually almost never the case. Everyone grew up exposed to different ideas, experiences, languages, teachers, parents, etc, etc.\n\nIf you provide what you consider a simple explanation, it probably includes a bunch of assumed ‘common knowledge’ so ask yourself “what am I assuming they know?” - bluntly, assume your explanation is the problem not them, and try to address the break down in communication.", "They’re just as frustrated with you for not quickly understanding that people learn at different rates, in different ways and to different levels. Why can’t you just understand that?", "Do a little volunteering with the less fortunate, or better yet, the disabled.\n\nIf that doesn't reset your fuse, nothing will.", "Perhaps imagine that the problem is not that they can’t understand but that you are not explaining it well in the current form (I’m not saying you actually *are* explaining it badly) and try to explain it a different way. It may take the pressure off the person who is not currently understanding if you say something along the lines of ‘I’m not explaining this very well am I, I’ll try it a better way’. This way they may feel less stress and find it a bit easier to take in information rather than getting defensive and shutting off.", "Investigate theory of mind. \n\nIt may help you empathise and understand that everyone doesn't have the same knowledge and way of thinking.", "You sound irritable. I feel similar when I'm irritable too. You have to keep in mind not everyone knows what you know. Some things are harder for others to understand. You grew up different than everyone else and have a different perspective on things.", "The nature of the bell curve, if you land higher up I doubt you will have fun discussing concepts with dolts. Choose the subject sensibly. Just remember Socrates was made to drink poison, galilao imprisoned for life and most people still have no idea what Hegel was on about", "I just avoid getting into situations where I have to explain anything. I am above average intelligence, but over the years I've learned the best way to get by in my life is too literally pretend to be dumb. I have no desire to impress people with my intellect and it's much easier to fit in if I just keep my mouth shut and pretend to be a dumb redneck. I too am short tempered and become easily agitated when someone can't understand a concept I consider simple. So just play dumb and you won't have to worry about people expecting much from you or looking to you for answers and guidance. Trust me it will make your life much easier." ]

[ 13, 9, 5, 4, 2, 2, 1, 1, -2 ]

[ "How to not burn bridges after break-ups? Over the years I've had a few relationships with great people that didn't end up working out for one reason or another. Unfortunately, I've had a universal pattern of burning those bridges and basically losing all touch with those people after things went south. \n\nI realize this is my fault and the result of my behavior, but I'm wondering if you guys have any tips on how to avoid this happening in the future.\n\nIt would be nice to be able to stay in touch and on good terms with my ex-girlfriends in the future rather than from never hearing from them again.", "How to not burn bridges after break-ups? Over the years I've had a few relationships with great people that didn't end up working out for one reason or another. Unfortunately, I've had a universal pattern of burning those bridges and basically losing all touch with those people after things went south. \n\nI realize this is my fault and the result of my behavior, but I'm wondering if you guys have any tips on how to avoid this happening in the future.\n\nIt would be nice to be able to stay in touch and on good terms with my ex-girlfriends in the future rather than from never hearing from them again.", "How to not burn bridges after break-ups? Over the years I've had a few relationships with great people that didn't end up working out for one reason or another. Unfortunately, I've had a universal pattern of burning those bridges and basically losing all touch with those people after things went south. \n\nI realize this is my fault and the result of my behavior, but I'm wondering if you guys have any tips on how to avoid this happening in the future.\n\nIt would be nice to be able to stay in touch and on good terms with my ex-girlfriends in the future rather than from never hearing from them again.", "How to not burn bridges after break-ups? Over the years I've had a few relationships with great people that didn't end up working out for one reason or another. Unfortunately, I've had a universal pattern of burning those bridges and basically losing all touch with those people after things went south. \n\nI realize this is my fault and the result of my behavior, but I'm wondering if you guys have any tips on how to avoid this happening in the future.\n\nIt would be nice to be able to stay in touch and on good terms with my ex-girlfriends in the future rather than from never hearing from them again.", "How to not burn bridges after break-ups? Over the years I've had a few relationships with great people that didn't end up working out for one reason or another. Unfortunately, I've had a universal pattern of burning those bridges and basically losing all touch with those people after things went south. \n\nI realize this is my fault and the result of my behavior, but I'm wondering if you guys have any tips on how to avoid this happening in the future.\n\nIt would be nice to be able to stay in touch and on good terms with my ex-girlfriends in the future rather than from never hearing from them again.", "How to not burn bridges after break-ups? Over the years I've had a few relationships with great people that didn't end up working out for one reason or another. Unfortunately, I've had a universal pattern of burning those bridges and basically losing all touch with those people after things went south. \n\nI realize this is my fault and the result of my behavior, but I'm wondering if you guys have any tips on how to avoid this happening in the future.\n\nIt would be nice to be able to stay in touch and on good terms with my ex-girlfriends in the future rather than from never hearing from them again." ]

[ "You are asking for top level super high skill level dating advice. Believe anyone who says it is impossible, and believe anyone who says it is next to impossible. Those are the two good ways to categorize it. If you accomplish it, you would be achieving the impossible.\n\nThat being said, it has been done, by me.\n\nIn order for it to happen, you need to be invested in that person as a friend from early in the relationship. That has to be a component of the relationship.\n\nThen when the relationship elevates you need to care more for the SO than yourself on many occasions. Like you need countless selfless acts.\n\nThird, you need to be painfully honest with her all the way through the relationship. Way beyond your comfort level. \n\nSo step one gets you to 1% of relationships. Divide that by 100 twice to get to step 3.\n\nNow divide it by 100 again to get to the final step. You have to have an authentic need to be friends with each other after the break up. \n\nAnd you need to have a healthy break up. This last part isn't that hard. You just don't have to be a dick. And if you got through the first 4 steps then this should be a no brainer.\n\nJust to review the math. That was a (1/100)^3 which equals a 0.000001 chance of occurrence. That is a 0.0001% chance of success.\n\nBut if your heart is in the right space. Odds mean nothing.\n\n", "My advice would be to be honest and committed. I don't know the specifics of how your bridges got burned so the advice is kinda vague.\n\n1) Figure out how much time you need to heal. If you're angry, hurt, etc. you may well need time away from them to heal. Be honest and upfront. Depending on your situation, you can say something along the lines of \"I want to stay friends because I value you as a person and don't want to lose you. I think I'm going to need a couple of months separation though, just to get myself ok with the breakup. Can I text you when I'm doing better and we can hang out as friends?\" Also see how they feel about all this and if they need a no contact/limited contact period as well. \n\n2) Decide if this is something you are going to commit to. If there have been transgressions/mistakes made, you need to truly forgive the other person if you're going to make a friendship work. If you can't forgive them you'll end up dragging it around with you and it'll hurt both of you in the long run because you won’t be able to move past it. \n\nAs a side note, there may well be times you can't forgive and move on. That's ok, it's just a good idea to realise it early.\n\n3) When your time of ‘no contact’ is up get in contact and start with small things to re-establish the friendship. Maybe send a message and either start texting semi frequently and work your way up or see if they want to hang out casually. Probably try to get someone else to join your hangouts so it feels less like an awkward date (this bit may not be great advice, it's just what I would do).\n\n4) Take time every now and then to figure out what you actually want and if it is possible. Maybe you want to get back together but it’s not an option. Maybe you want to develop a good friendship, and it is possible. Be aware of yourself, your feelings and your options for the future.\n\n5) If it’s what you want, work at it. Things won’t necessarily be great at the start and you’ll need to commit to working on the friendship. Sometimes you'll be the one initiating contact 90% of the time. I have an ex who, 2 years on, is still the first to send a text. If it weren't for his efforts we'd have drifted apart by now. Be respectful of boundaries but have the courage to put yourself out there just to make it work.\n\nFinally, be honest with yourself the whole time. There is a very real possibility that if you were friends before dating you won’t have the same type of friendship afterwards. You may end up more acquaintances than friends, and it might be for the best. Sometimes we want a relationship to work because it used to be great, but it just doesn’t have the ability to be that great again because you’re different people and have grown and changed over time. ", "It's damn near impossible even if you can both stay polite. Generally one side still has feelings and it will just wind up hurting them. They are an ex for a reason. I'm 37 and have had many girlfriends in my life, it never works out just being friends, no matter who did the breaking up.\n\nIt's even hard to stay friends with mutual friends from past relationships because you always run in to exes. Learn what you can from the relationship and enjoy the time you had with them that was positive. Use what you learn about yourself to make future relationships better. Good luck!", "I wish I knew. It's so hard. If one tries to be friendly, usually the other one is too bitter to be friendly back. ", "hhmmm.\n\n1. Delete your intimate videos with her.\n2. Say sorry for calling her a B*tch.\n3. Say sorry for calling her family st*pid.\n4. Invite her to a \"free\" lunch.\n\nhahaha. just kidding.", "Dont sweat it. Just move forward. Being friends with a woman you used to stick your dick in usually isnt cool with the new lady. Good person or not." ]

[ 4, 4, 4, 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to fix/avoid fraying earbud audio jacks Whether they're $10 or $100, I can't own a pair of earbuds for more than a couple of months without one of the speakers dropping out. Often playing with the area connecting the cord to the jack or the earbud to the cord fixes the issue for a split second, which makes me think it's the result of some sort of fraying occurring within the encased areas. However there's no foolproof way I know of to fix the problem. Anyone have advice on avoiding this or ideally fixing it? A way that wouldn't involve breaking the casings apart and/or soldering would be preferable. \n\nThanks!", "How to fix/avoid fraying earbud audio jacks Whether they're $10 or $100, I can't own a pair of earbuds for more than a couple of months without one of the speakers dropping out. Often playing with the area connecting the cord to the jack or the earbud to the cord fixes the issue for a split second, which makes me think it's the result of some sort of fraying occurring within the encased areas. However there's no foolproof way I know of to fix the problem. Anyone have advice on avoiding this or ideally fixing it? A way that wouldn't involve breaking the casings apart and/or soldering would be preferable. \n\nThanks!", "How to fix/avoid fraying earbud audio jacks Whether they're $10 or $100, I can't own a pair of earbuds for more than a couple of months without one of the speakers dropping out. Often playing with the area connecting the cord to the jack or the earbud to the cord fixes the issue for a split second, which makes me think it's the result of some sort of fraying occurring within the encased areas. However there's no foolproof way I know of to fix the problem. Anyone have advice on avoiding this or ideally fixing it? A way that wouldn't involve breaking the casings apart and/or soldering would be preferable. \n\nThanks!", "How to fix/avoid fraying earbud audio jacks Whether they're $10 or $100, I can't own a pair of earbuds for more than a couple of months without one of the speakers dropping out. Often playing with the area connecting the cord to the jack or the earbud to the cord fixes the issue for a split second, which makes me think it's the result of some sort of fraying occurring within the encased areas. However there's no foolproof way I know of to fix the problem. Anyone have advice on avoiding this or ideally fixing it? A way that wouldn't involve breaking the casings apart and/or soldering would be preferable. \n\nThanks!", "How to fix/avoid fraying earbud audio jacks Whether they're $10 or $100, I can't own a pair of earbuds for more than a couple of months without one of the speakers dropping out. Often playing with the area connecting the cord to the jack or the earbud to the cord fixes the issue for a split second, which makes me think it's the result of some sort of fraying occurring within the encased areas. However there's no foolproof way I know of to fix the problem. Anyone have advice on avoiding this or ideally fixing it? A way that wouldn't involve breaking the casings apart and/or soldering would be preferable. \n\nThanks!" ]

[ "Ok, this might not be the #1 best solution, but I have been doing this and it works for me. This is a method for how to PREVENT, not fix the problem. Other than cutting away the casing and soldering (which I have done with mixed results), i know of no way to fix a frayed connection. \n\nHere are the steps: \n\n1. Cut a piece of heat shrink tubing about 2-2.5 inches long. - You are going to want a piece with a diameter just big enough to fit over the jack.\n2. put this piece over the jack and up the cord.\n3. Heat up the tubing with either a heat gun, hairdryer (get it really close), or if you are really careful you can use fire or an oven. \n\nBasically what you are doing is providing a longer support for the cord going into the jack so that there is less stress on that particular juncture. \n\nFor those of you unfamiliar with heat shrink tubing this is what I am talking about. [Wikipedia Link](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heat-shrink_tubing) This stuff is super cheap, and usually can be found in variety packs which makes it easier to get the right size.\n\nLike I said, this is not 100% effective, but seems to help. ", "Stop pulling them out by the cord, and wrapping them around your ipod. Store them in a dedicated case, always. Don't listen to them at excessive volume. Heatshrink tubing can be used to reinforce the jack if you feel the need.", "Heatshrink could help, but do yourself a favor and **buy earbuds with an effective stress relief built in**.\n\nDon't yank on them and coil them well, and you might do okay. ", "This used to happen to me. When your not using them simply unplug them from the ipod or whatever the device is. Havent had a problem with it since.", "I used to be the same as you, I'd never have a set last more than 3 months. Buy [sennheiser](http://www.google.co.uk/products/catalog?q=sennheiser+in+ear&sugexp=chrome,mod%3D6&um=1&hl=en&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.r_cp.r_qf.&bpcl=38897761&biw=761&bih=383&ie=UTF-8&cid=12211776334378610672&sa=X&ei=sDa2UIfZHcKx0AXlqIDIDg&ved=0CFQQ8gIwAA), my current ones have lasted 11 months so far and they sound awesome! " ]

[ 9, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to search for things on the internet excluding things like news articles and blogs? I'm currently using google, and I've noticed more and more my results come up with bloggy newsbalogna clickbait. Regardless of how many -dontusethisword -orthiswords I use. It's just a pain.\n\nAny alternatives people know of...? I don't expect much, but anything will help.", "How to search for things on the internet excluding things like news articles and blogs? I'm currently using google, and I've noticed more and more my results come up with bloggy newsbalogna clickbait. Regardless of how many -dontusethisword -orthiswords I use. It's just a pain.\n\nAny alternatives people know of...? I don't expect much, but anything will help.", "How to search for things on the internet excluding things like news articles and blogs? I'm currently using google, and I've noticed more and more my results come up with bloggy newsbalogna clickbait. Regardless of how many -dontusethisword -orthiswords I use. It's just a pain.\n\nAny alternatives people know of...? I don't expect much, but anything will help." ]

[ "https://www.google.im/advanced_search\n\nConfine your searches to .edu or wikipedia. If you are in the US, .gov may be useful.\n\nThat will go a long way towards filtering out the warblgarbl.", "Drop by your local library or check out their website. Most libraries subscribe to a number of quality databases and provide free access to patrons; often, you can log on from home with your library card number. A wide array of subject material is available through databases, and you'll generally find higher quality content than what you would in a Google search.", ">I'm currently using google, and I've noticed more and more my results come up with bloggy newsbalogna clickbait.\n___\n\nthe reason that happens is because google tracks you and probably click those types of sites alot. it's bassicly setting your search preferences for you.\n\nuse https://duckduckgo.com instead. it doesn't track you" ]

[ 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to surround yourself with the right people for you? I'm currently 18, almost done with highschool (yeah highest form of highschool takes a long time here). I currently don't know a group of people just like me, same interest, same way of thinking. I know, I think, 4 people with my way of thinking. People that understand me. The thing is that these people aren't in the same social cliques at all.\n\nNext year I'm going to University, I would really like to surround myself with people that understand me and that I understand. \n\n", "How to surround yourself with the right people for you? I'm currently 18, almost done with highschool (yeah highest form of highschool takes a long time here). I currently don't know a group of people just like me, same interest, same way of thinking. I know, I think, 4 people with my way of thinking. People that understand me. The thing is that these people aren't in the same social cliques at all.\n\nNext year I'm going to University, I would really like to surround myself with people that understand me and that I understand. \n\n", "How to surround yourself with the right people for you? I'm currently 18, almost done with highschool (yeah highest form of highschool takes a long time here). I currently don't know a group of people just like me, same interest, same way of thinking. I know, I think, 4 people with my way of thinking. People that understand me. The thing is that these people aren't in the same social cliques at all.\n\nNext year I'm going to University, I would really like to surround myself with people that understand me and that I understand. \n\n", "How to surround yourself with the right people for you? I'm currently 18, almost done with highschool (yeah highest form of highschool takes a long time here). I currently don't know a group of people just like me, same interest, same way of thinking. I know, I think, 4 people with my way of thinking. People that understand me. The thing is that these people aren't in the same social cliques at all.\n\nNext year I'm going to University, I would really like to surround myself with people that understand me and that I understand. \n\n" ]

[ "Best and easiest way is probably through a hobby.\n\nI'm really in to metal detecting and local history - needless to say not a single friend at school or after was in to that in any way so it was sort of a dirty secret and something I always had to do by myself.\n\nBut then I joined a metal detecting club, went out on a few digs with them and realised there are plenty of people with exactly the same passions as me and people who are happy to talk about the same things as me allllllllll day long. \n\n", "Invite the ones you like to anything you do like birthday parties or things your other friends are doing. That will let them know you like being around them. And create friendships between them as well.\n\nIf they mention stuff they're doing, you can also drop a hint that you're often bored and love doing those things.\n\nFriend groups don't just magically come into being, they form through these kind of interactions. In the extreme where you have the power to invite people to exciting events or get good at throwing awesome parties, you'd find that groups would form around you.", "This isn't the advice you are looking for, but I'm going to give it anyway. Life is not about finding likeminded friends. Life is enriched by having relationships with people who think differently than you. Rather than trying to find friends who are \"right\" for you, instead challenge yourself to find common ground with everyone you meet.", "First year university student here, I think I got this. OK first things first, don't be shy. Talk to people, that you think can become your friends. See that pretty girl that needs help understanding stuff in seminars? Just talk to her and explain it on the go. Don't brag tho, same goes for getting egocentric. \n\nSecond thing, once you know a few people, do stuff together. Like using a free Friday to solve homework. Lunch is also very good as most universities have some cafeteria that offers cheap food for students (at least here in Germany).\n\nThird, invite people to whatever free time stuff you want. Like a movie evening or so." ]

[ 5, 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "Lifetime Warranties Does anyone know the correct subreddit to ask this? I am interested in products/companies that offer lifetime warranties, with good reviews. I would rather pay more now and less in the future!", "Lifetime Warranties Does anyone know the correct subreddit to ask this? I am interested in products/companies that offer lifetime warranties, with good reviews. I would rather pay more now and less in the future!", "Lifetime Warranties Does anyone know the correct subreddit to ask this? I am interested in products/companies that offer lifetime warranties, with good reviews. I would rather pay more now and less in the future!", "Lifetime Warranties Does anyone know the correct subreddit to ask this? I am interested in products/companies that offer lifetime warranties, with good reviews. I would rather pay more now and less in the future!", "Lifetime Warranties Does anyone know the correct subreddit to ask this? I am interested in products/companies that offer lifetime warranties, with good reviews. I would rather pay more now and less in the future!" ]

[ "Trek bicycles...they offer lifetime guarantees for their carbon frames. A lot of bike companies do actually...", "OP, if you're looking for a good dish set, Macy's will generally replace any cracked or damaged plates for as long as they keep making that dish set.", "Costco, but you will probably just have to get a new set when you return the broken stuff because they won't have your set any more. Regardless, I have taken shit back 3 years later no questions asked. A costco membership is worth it's weight in gold for the consumer confidence that no questions asked returns offers you. If you get the executive membership, it even pays for itself if you spend enough money shopping there in a year buying shit you'd normally buy anyway.", "It's not lifetime, but my Costco cr", "Craftsman non-power tools,\nCutco knives,\nDarn Tough socks,\nJansport,\nLL Bean,\nStanley thermoses,\nEddie Bauer,\nZippo,\n\n\nWhere you buy is also important - Costco is the bomb, and REI will accept returns on a lot of things as well, having retired their previous no questions asked policy. " ]

[ 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Making friends at a new job I'm starting a new job in a couple weeks and don't know anyone there. I'm horrible at making friends, and don't do great socially (I'm a pretty awkward person, things I say cone across wrong). I've been told by the two people closest to me very recently that I'm \"abrasive\" and I really don't want to screw up my opportunity at a new place, so any suggestions here would be great! I'm really shy so I'm sure that doesn't help but I really want to have this job go better with my co-workers. ", "Making friends at a new job I'm starting a new job in a couple weeks and don't know anyone there. I'm horrible at making friends, and don't do great socially (I'm a pretty awkward person, things I say cone across wrong). I've been told by the two people closest to me very recently that I'm \"abrasive\" and I really don't want to screw up my opportunity at a new place, so any suggestions here would be great! I'm really shy so I'm sure that doesn't help but I really want to have this job go better with my co-workers. ", "Making friends at a new job I'm starting a new job in a couple weeks and don't know anyone there. I'm horrible at making friends, and don't do great socially (I'm a pretty awkward person, things I say cone across wrong). I've been told by the two people closest to me very recently that I'm \"abrasive\" and I really don't want to screw up my opportunity at a new place, so any suggestions here would be great! I'm really shy so I'm sure that doesn't help but I really want to have this job go better with my co-workers. ", "Making friends at a new job I'm starting a new job in a couple weeks and don't know anyone there. I'm horrible at making friends, and don't do great socially (I'm a pretty awkward person, things I say cone across wrong). I've been told by the two people closest to me very recently that I'm \"abrasive\" and I really don't want to screw up my opportunity at a new place, so any suggestions here would be great! I'm really shy so I'm sure that doesn't help but I really want to have this job go better with my co-workers. ", "Making friends at a new job I'm starting a new job in a couple weeks and don't know anyone there. I'm horrible at making friends, and don't do great socially (I'm a pretty awkward person, things I say cone across wrong). I've been told by the two people closest to me very recently that I'm \"abrasive\" and I really don't want to screw up my opportunity at a new place, so any suggestions here would be great! I'm really shy so I'm sure that doesn't help but I really want to have this job go better with my co-workers. ", "Making friends at a new job I'm starting a new job in a couple weeks and don't know anyone there. I'm horrible at making friends, and don't do great socially (I'm a pretty awkward person, things I say cone across wrong). I've been told by the two people closest to me very recently that I'm \"abrasive\" and I really don't want to screw up my opportunity at a new place, so any suggestions here would be great! I'm really shy so I'm sure that doesn't help but I really want to have this job go better with my co-workers. ", "Making friends at a new job I'm starting a new job in a couple weeks and don't know anyone there. I'm horrible at making friends, and don't do great socially (I'm a pretty awkward person, things I say cone across wrong). I've been told by the two people closest to me very recently that I'm \"abrasive\" and I really don't want to screw up my opportunity at a new place, so any suggestions here would be great! I'm really shy so I'm sure that doesn't help but I really want to have this job go better with my co-workers. ", "Making friends at a new job I'm starting a new job in a couple weeks and don't know anyone there. I'm horrible at making friends, and don't do great socially (I'm a pretty awkward person, things I say cone across wrong). I've been told by the two people closest to me very recently that I'm \"abrasive\" and I really don't want to screw up my opportunity at a new place, so any suggestions here would be great! I'm really shy so I'm sure that doesn't help but I really want to have this job go better with my co-workers. ", "Making friends at a new job I'm starting a new job in a couple weeks and don't know anyone there. I'm horrible at making friends, and don't do great socially (I'm a pretty awkward person, things I say cone across wrong). I've been told by the two people closest to me very recently that I'm \"abrasive\" and I really don't want to screw up my opportunity at a new place, so any suggestions here would be great! I'm really shy so I'm sure that doesn't help but I really want to have this job go better with my co-workers. " ]

[ "Listen more than you talk. \n\nUse common courtesy. Please and thank you go a long way.\n\nDon't offer your opinions of the job unless asked and be VERY cautious of your phrasing. Until you know your job well, you don't really have a strong opinion and nothing they tell you about the job is \"stupid\".\n\nAfter a little while, people will discuss what they do after work, what they did over the weekend, etc. Ask questions, listen to the answer.", "Read the classic book \" How to Win Friends and Influence People \" by Dale Carnegie, 1936. It's an easy read and will change your life. Summary http://www.westegg.com/unmaintained/carnegie/win-friends.html\n\nGood luck, be positive and expect the best!", "Get drunk with everyone once you're about 2 weeks in. During these 2 weeks, to prep for this Happy Hour:\n\n1. Pleasantly say good morning to people. Don't over do it.\n\n2. Speak up during meetings but don't throw anyone under the bus. If feedback/critique is necessary, approach the individual first. Then during the meeting you can comfortably say, \"Adam and I discussed this offline but I suggest we...\"\n\n3. If you find it difficult to initiate conversation, ask someone for advice on something harmless/safe for work/work related.\n\n4. And since you've been told that you can be 'abrasive' you can spend more time listening and respond with positive affirmations.\n\nHope that helps. Also, by 'get drunk' I mean drink but don't make anyone cry or find yourself crying.\n\n\n", "Speaking from experience, work hard and fast for the first few weeks, people always respect hard workers. \nIf you are considered lazy or slow in your first few weeks, it will be a long time before you can shake that.\n\n", "I know your pain. I recently started a job as a 20 year old mechanic at a Toyota dealership filled with 35+ year old master techs. Not only was i the new guy, I was also a little kid. On top of that, I was the only one that didn't smoke, and everyone else would gather at the end of the shop with the giant bay door and light up. I went over there a few times but since I wasn't smoking it was just awkward and seemed like I just followed them around. Then they would finish their cigs and leave me standing there alone with no option but to follow them back into the shop.", "First, thank you for doing hard work that makes a difference and for which you probably get too little recognition. Second, this isn't something I would do day one but at some point you could actually tell people that you tend to come off abrasive and that you don't mean to and don't want to. Something like this: \"I've been told by a few friends that I can sometimes come off as 'abrasive'. I don't see myself that way -- don't want to be. So, if you ever feel that m being 'abrasive' please tell me so I can address it.\" The only thing is, if you ask people to tell you, and they do, you have to respond respectfully and take their feedback sincerely. ", "On your first day, go around the office and introduce yourself to everyone. Keep it short and simple. On your second day, bring donuts.", "You have a desk? Put out a candy jar. Buy the cheap hard candy you can get a huge bag.\n\nDo that for 6 months.\n\nIf you don't like how much you're shelling out after 6 months, add a tip cup.\n\nEverybody likes a candy man.", "New job tips: Don't offer any tips or suggestions to anyone about anything when new. Only speak when spoken too. Don't ask questions not relating directly to your job. Don't volunteer for any extra work unless you are the 3rd or 4th person. Sometimes when we're new somewhere we might offer little suggestions that seem reasonable, after being there 3 months you'll understand why things are done the way they are, so shut it. Folks will start to like you when you start to fit in, by keeping quite you endure yourself to people, gives them less reasons to not like you." ]

[ 11, 9, 5, 3, 3, 3, 2, 1, -2 ]

[ "A professional/kind way to deal with condescending remarks from your superior, esp. toward a third party. Not sure if needed, but here some context: Say you're working with your boss and they talk shit to you about someone else (or a group of people) behind their back. You disagree and want to say something. How do you voice that without stepping on your boss's toes?", "A professional/kind way to deal with condescending remarks from your superior, esp. toward a third party. Not sure if needed, but here some context: Say you're working with your boss and they talk shit to you about someone else (or a group of people) behind their back. You disagree and want to say something. How do you voice that without stepping on your boss's toes?", "A professional/kind way to deal with condescending remarks from your superior, esp. toward a third party. Not sure if needed, but here some context: Say you're working with your boss and they talk shit to you about someone else (or a group of people) behind their back. You disagree and want to say something. How do you voice that without stepping on your boss's toes?", "A professional/kind way to deal with condescending remarks from your superior, esp. toward a third party. Not sure if needed, but here some context: Say you're working with your boss and they talk shit to you about someone else (or a group of people) behind their back. You disagree and want to say something. How do you voice that without stepping on your boss's toes?", "A professional/kind way to deal with condescending remarks from your superior, esp. toward a third party. Not sure if needed, but here some context: Say you're working with your boss and they talk shit to you about someone else (or a group of people) behind their back. You disagree and want to say something. How do you voice that without stepping on your boss's toes?" ]

[ "\"I dont know, I really like the way ( insert name) (handled,performed,finished,improved etc) (accomplishment)(so quickly,efficiently,etc) \" \n\nSo many Managers focus on what people do wrong that reminding them of someones accomplishments can go a long way. ", "Honestly just ask what they would have done in that situation, or how they would have handled it, or how they would have acted.\n\nIt may not solve the issue, but when people like that begin to talk about themselves, it puts them in a better mood. It also makes them feel like a better supervisor because they feel like they are teaching you something.\n\nOr maybe my boss is just a goober. ", "“Huh. That seems a bit unprofessional to bring up in the office.” + topic change to whatever you were working on. \n\nIf your boss keeps bringing up your coworker, you can respond with “that sounds like something you should talk to Coworker about. I’m more interested in working.” ", "Your boss is doing the exact same thing behind your back. Maybe counter with 'I hope you don't talk that way about me when I not around'. You call them out without directly doing so.", "....by going to HR?\n\nNot a whole lot you can directly say to them in person given that they are your boss after all." ]

[ 7, 3, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "How do I leave a party that’s really awkward? Hello, I’m currently at a party but I don’t know anyone here, and I really don’t want to be here. How do I leave without seeming rude?", "How do I leave a party that’s really awkward? Hello, I’m currently at a party but I don’t know anyone here, and I really don’t want to be here. How do I leave without seeming rude?", "How do I leave a party that’s really awkward? Hello, I’m currently at a party but I don’t know anyone here, and I really don’t want to be here. How do I leave without seeming rude?", "How do I leave a party that’s really awkward? Hello, I’m currently at a party but I don’t know anyone here, and I really don’t want to be here. How do I leave without seeming rude?", "How do I leave a party that’s really awkward? Hello, I’m currently at a party but I don’t know anyone here, and I really don’t want to be here. How do I leave without seeming rude?", "How do I leave a party that’s really awkward? Hello, I’m currently at a party but I don’t know anyone here, and I really don’t want to be here. How do I leave without seeming rude?", "How do I leave a party that’s really awkward? Hello, I’m currently at a party but I don’t know anyone here, and I really don’t want to be here. How do I leave without seeming rude?" ]

[ "Go to the host, let them know they are throwing a great party, but sadly you had something come up and you gotta go.\n\n", "Make your way to the host and any of those who invited you or urged you to attend. Say a gracious Hello and Thank you then apologize for having to leave so soon while explain you had another commitment that day but wanted to make an appearance.", "\"I'm not feeling well / I'm having a headache / i need to get some rest had some tough nights, Imma head home sorry. Have fun though. \"", "Stand up, point your body in the direction of the door then one foot after another, soon you’ll be walking out the door. After that the possibilities are endless.", "Take off your shirt and say \"Lets get this orgy started!\" they'll kick you out for you... may have opposite effect, I don't know your friends", "Call yourself. Answer call, walk to other room briefly to take the call. Come back. Insert excuse (I forgot I was supposed to meet my mom, or catsit, or my friend's car died and I'm going to give them a jump, etc). Leave.", "As I read from a previous LPT, take a screenshot of someone calling you. Set it as your home screen. Open your phone and it looks like you got a call. Then you leave." ]

[ 12, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Quick and easy way to stop bugs from going through an open window. I don't have a fly screen. Works at night time preferably, keeping mosquitoes and spiders away.", "Quick and easy way to stop bugs from going through an open window. I don't have a fly screen. Works at night time preferably, keeping mosquitoes and spiders away.", "Quick and easy way to stop bugs from going through an open window. I don't have a fly screen. Works at night time preferably, keeping mosquitoes and spiders away.", "Quick and easy way to stop bugs from going through an open window. I don't have a fly screen. Works at night time preferably, keeping mosquitoes and spiders away.", "Quick and easy way to stop bugs from going through an open window. I don't have a fly screen. Works at night time preferably, keeping mosquitoes and spiders away.", "Quick and easy way to stop bugs from going through an open window. I don't have a fly screen. Works at night time preferably, keeping mosquitoes and spiders away.", "Quick and easy way to stop bugs from going through an open window. I don't have a fly screen. Works at night time preferably, keeping mosquitoes and spiders away." ]

[ "Is this a permanent situation of sorts, or do you want a temporary solution?\n\nWhenever I travel, I bring a rather large scrap of tulle fabric (the stuff that tutus are made out of) which is like soft, scrunchable, compact-able window screen. I then use painters tape to put it up around a window for a temporary screen.\n\nIf I forget, I just don't open the window until either the sun is fully up and blazing or the sun is fully down and it is dark. The period of highest annoying!bug activity is dawn and dusk.", "keep a lavender plant on the window sill. lavender smells good (deodorizes), keeps away mosquitoes, and grows in cooler weather with low quality soil. (this doesn't solve the spiders though)", "Pin some organza fabric in the gap or maybe even blu-tac it down, should let breeze come in through the holes but should also keep the flies out at the same time", "Where I live is believed that the strong smell of an essicated orange and essicated lemon near a window keeps the bugs away. I never tried it though, but if you want to, try something with a strong smell, like incense.", "There are some adjustable screens for like $10 at hardware stores, they will adjust to the height of the window and protect about six inches of width. Easy solution if you don't mind spending a little money, and (at least the one I got) isn't too large, it would fit easily in a closet.", "I have never tried it but I have seen people staple a zip-lock bag full of H2O above the window, so the water and bag hang in the window. Good luck.", "Create a fly screen. If you can't afford to have one made (they're pretty cheap and removable), use something like shade cloth (comes in different weights and visibilities) and tape, pin or nail it to the window frame. " ]

[ 4, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to stay cool when it's really hot It is very uncomfortably hot in all of California right now and it's making me be in a bad mood kind of and it's unbearable even just chilling and relaxing is there any thing I can do to fix this thanks.", "How to stay cool when it's really hot It is very uncomfortably hot in all of California right now and it's making me be in a bad mood kind of and it's unbearable even just chilling and relaxing is there any thing I can do to fix this thanks.", "How to stay cool when it's really hot It is very uncomfortably hot in all of California right now and it's making me be in a bad mood kind of and it's unbearable even just chilling and relaxing is there any thing I can do to fix this thanks.", "How to stay cool when it's really hot It is very uncomfortably hot in all of California right now and it's making me be in a bad mood kind of and it's unbearable even just chilling and relaxing is there any thing I can do to fix this thanks.", "How to stay cool when it's really hot It is very uncomfortably hot in all of California right now and it's making me be in a bad mood kind of and it's unbearable even just chilling and relaxing is there any thing I can do to fix this thanks.", "How to stay cool when it's really hot It is very uncomfortably hot in all of California right now and it's making me be in a bad mood kind of and it's unbearable even just chilling and relaxing is there any thing I can do to fix this thanks.", "How to stay cool when it's really hot It is very uncomfortably hot in all of California right now and it's making me be in a bad mood kind of and it's unbearable even just chilling and relaxing is there any thing I can do to fix this thanks.", "How to stay cool when it's really hot It is very uncomfortably hot in all of California right now and it's making me be in a bad mood kind of and it's unbearable even just chilling and relaxing is there any thing I can do to fix this thanks.", "How to stay cool when it's really hot It is very uncomfortably hot in all of California right now and it's making me be in a bad mood kind of and it's unbearable even just chilling and relaxing is there any thing I can do to fix this thanks.", "How to stay cool when it's really hot It is very uncomfortably hot in all of California right now and it's making me be in a bad mood kind of and it's unbearable even just chilling and relaxing is there any thing I can do to fix this thanks.", "How to stay cool when it's really hot It is very uncomfortably hot in all of California right now and it's making me be in a bad mood kind of and it's unbearable even just chilling and relaxing is there any thing I can do to fix this thanks." ]

[ "Yes... Wet a dish towel or wash cloth and wring it out so it is wet but not dripping. Place it on your bare chest or forehead (it works great when sleeping, too).\n\nIf it warms up too much, hold one end and quickly give it a few spins in the air (like a lasso) as fast as you can. It'll cool off instantly.", "Put a cooler full of ice in front of a fan. Fill the cooler with ice as much as you can and turn on fan in direction of yourself. ", "All of the blood in the body rushes through the hands in about four minutes, so cool your hands in cool, but not cold, water for that amount of time. Lower than 4°C will make your blood vessels contract though so it's a good idea to have the temp be between 4-10°C so that you get the full body cooling effect asap so you don't have to waste water. ", "Get a fan. That constant moving air feels really nice. If you're still warm, use a water spritzer on yourself to drop your temperature considerably. Spray it on skin or clothes. ", "Drink cold beverages on ice, preferably with alcohol. Or smoke weed and drink cold drinks. The weed will remove your negative vibes.", "Blue Gel Ice Packs. Put in freezer. When cold, take one out, place a hand on it for a few seconds with a towel between. Brrr get cold, put on a blanket.", "Apply semi-transparent reflective film on your windows. It reflects the radiant heat of the sun (up to 40% of unwanted heat comes through the windows). \n\nAlternately, you can use aluminum foil in a pinch if you don't mind not being able to see outside and your house looking suspiciously like a meth lab)", "Put up blackout curtains in your room in case of these hot days. Find a room that tends to stay cool on hot days and close the door so that room can stay cooler and you can hang out in there on these hot days. Jump in the shower for a minute or 2 when needed and you will really be refreshed.", "Take a bar towel and soak it in ice water then place across the back of you neck and drape down the side towards your chest. This will cool the blood going to your brain and make you feel better overall", "My mom used to make these neck things that you soak in water and tie around your neck to keep cool, filled with those expanding jelly things you can mix into your soil. I have no idea what they're called but I grew up in Las Vegas and it really helped! All the kids on the playground were jealous and sweaty :D", "Most houses have a small white box attached to the wall, usually located in a main area of the ground floor. If you find this, there should be a button that looks like a downward facing arrow. Push this a few times, and within a few minutes to an hour you should start to feel cooler. This works best if your windows and doors are closed." ]

[ 11, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to deal with being overly emotional I deal with a lot of shit every day, more than I would like to. Most of this is from the fact that I get too emotional about stuff and then want to \"talk\" about it to people who really don't care all that much. I don't know what to do with all of the stuff that goes on in my head half the time but I want to stop coming off as someone who's really whiny.\nI'm okay with bottling stuff up and letting it out every once in a while, but I have no idea how to go about this.\n\n", "How to deal with being overly emotional I deal with a lot of shit every day, more than I would like to. Most of this is from the fact that I get too emotional about stuff and then want to \"talk\" about it to people who really don't care all that much. I don't know what to do with all of the stuff that goes on in my head half the time but I want to stop coming off as someone who's really whiny.\nI'm okay with bottling stuff up and letting it out every once in a while, but I have no idea how to go about this.\n\n", "How to deal with being overly emotional I deal with a lot of shit every day, more than I would like to. Most of this is from the fact that I get too emotional about stuff and then want to \"talk\" about it to people who really don't care all that much. I don't know what to do with all of the stuff that goes on in my head half the time but I want to stop coming off as someone who's really whiny.\nI'm okay with bottling stuff up and letting it out every once in a while, but I have no idea how to go about this.\n\n", "How to deal with being overly emotional I deal with a lot of shit every day, more than I would like to. Most of this is from the fact that I get too emotional about stuff and then want to \"talk\" about it to people who really don't care all that much. I don't know what to do with all of the stuff that goes on in my head half the time but I want to stop coming off as someone who's really whiny.\nI'm okay with bottling stuff up and letting it out every once in a while, but I have no idea how to go about this.\n\n", "How to deal with being overly emotional I deal with a lot of shit every day, more than I would like to. Most of this is from the fact that I get too emotional about stuff and then want to \"talk\" about it to people who really don't care all that much. I don't know what to do with all of the stuff that goes on in my head half the time but I want to stop coming off as someone who's really whiny.\nI'm okay with bottling stuff up and letting it out every once in a while, but I have no idea how to go about this.\n\n", "How to deal with being overly emotional I deal with a lot of shit every day, more than I would like to. Most of this is from the fact that I get too emotional about stuff and then want to \"talk\" about it to people who really don't care all that much. I don't know what to do with all of the stuff that goes on in my head half the time but I want to stop coming off as someone who's really whiny.\nI'm okay with bottling stuff up and letting it out every once in a while, but I have no idea how to go about this.\n\n", "How to deal with being overly emotional I deal with a lot of shit every day, more than I would like to. Most of this is from the fact that I get too emotional about stuff and then want to \"talk\" about it to people who really don't care all that much. I don't know what to do with all of the stuff that goes on in my head half the time but I want to stop coming off as someone who's really whiny.\nI'm okay with bottling stuff up and letting it out every once in a while, but I have no idea how to go about this.\n\n", "How to deal with being overly emotional I deal with a lot of shit every day, more than I would like to. Most of this is from the fact that I get too emotional about stuff and then want to \"talk\" about it to people who really don't care all that much. I don't know what to do with all of the stuff that goes on in my head half the time but I want to stop coming off as someone who's really whiny.\nI'm okay with bottling stuff up and letting it out every once in a while, but I have no idea how to go about this.\n\n", "How to deal with being overly emotional I deal with a lot of shit every day, more than I would like to. Most of this is from the fact that I get too emotional about stuff and then want to \"talk\" about it to people who really don't care all that much. I don't know what to do with all of the stuff that goes on in my head half the time but I want to stop coming off as someone who's really whiny.\nI'm okay with bottling stuff up and letting it out every once in a while, but I have no idea how to go about this.\n\n" ]

[ "The fact that you recognize this pattern in yourself is a great first step. Now that you have done that, the next step is to also recognize that just because you feel strongly about this or that, that you do not have to process it in the fashion you mentioned. In other words, check yourself. It's not about bottling it up or not feeling it, it's about realizing that there is a more productive way to process things, and then stopping yourself before you slip into your old habit. It will take time, you will not be perfect at it, and that will frustrate you, but checking your behavior even once will help you see that you will be just fine without creating extra drama in your life and other peoples as well. ", "Dammit as someone continuously trying to make an active effort to stop bottling, this kind of pisses me off reading. You're in touch with yourself well enough that you can recognize when something is bothering you and communicate your feelings in an effort to find some peace? That sounds awesome! I feel like it's our society that rewards us bottlers with the, \"keep your personal shit to yourself ya whiner\" attitude. If anything, all I would recommend is try to be a little more selective with who you talk about things with if you feel that vibe from people when venting. Sorry, I don't think there's a god damn thing wrong with *you*. ", "Think about what you want when you talk to someone, and how you feel after you've talked to them - what is it that you feel you get out of it? I.e. do you just want someone to listen? Do you want someone to agree with you regardless? Do you want that person's suggestions? \n\nIf you just want someone to listen, try writing down how you feel and concentrate on expressing it accurately. You could do this in a diary, or a letter to someone you know (without planning to send it), or perhaps imagine your perfect listener.\n\nOnce you've done this, step away and do something else. Go for a run, have a cold shower as suggested, something physical preferably. Go back to what you've written later that day or perhaps the next, and try to use it to make a list of stuff that you can learn from it/stuff to do differently/advice you would give yourself if you were someone else. For some reason other people's problems are always easier to solve than your own.\n\nThis will not be a long term solution but will focus your mind on what you can gain from what you are going through, and will give you a process to go through. By all means talk to people as well, but use writing it down as your main means to express what you are feeling. Maybe try drawing too if you feel like it.\n\nHope that helps :)", "you could do the old, write a letter to who your upset about and then don't send it. \nOr, as somebody who bottles everything up and releases it once in a blue moon, you could do what I do and either go in your car and have a conversation with the imaginary person next to you. (I like this because typically, people like you feel better about the talking to another person, not necessarily knowing that the other person is listening.) Another thing I like to do is try to limit verbal release as much as possible, and try physical catharsis, whether that be going to play some tennis against a wall by myself, or just going in my backyard with a baseball bat and hitting stuff until I feel better.\n\n", "I personally am not all that much of an emotional person, but that doesn't mean I don't have them. Sometimes I get really emotional and just want some way to deal with them some how. My personal way of dealing with emotions is to reflect on them while listening to music and playing video games. But that's just me. I too feel the struggles of \"talking\" to people about my problems. Very seldom do people ever truly listen. I'm always the friend who comforts and provides advice. But no one ever offers to help the strong one. It really just pisses me off sometimes when I tell something to my friends and they just blow it off and continues talking to me about what they were saying. I mean, I'm here as well and although I enjoy listening, but I would also like people to listen to what I have to say every once in awhile, especially when I'm having a tough time. Finding that person who will truly listen to you is tough. The selfish nature of humans is that they want it to be all about them all the time. It's all about compromising some of the time you want to be about you and giving it to the person who really needs you at that moment. I only wish that was something everyone could do, human relationships would flourish. I am not sure how closely this relates to your situation, but it is similar in that I am stuck bottling emotions, while at the same time being unable to talk to anyone because no one truly listens. It encourages to know that I'm not the only one to notice this, and I only hope that you are able to find that friend who will listen to your concerns and problems, then make you a priority and help you out. In the meantime, I find that analyzing a situation rationally helps my emotions quite a bit. Sometimes emotions are just over exaggerations or assumptions that are completely not even worth worrying about. I like to take a step back and really think about what it is that I'm worrying about and wondering if it's even all that bad. Hope to have been of some help. ", "Hey bud, I'm a bit like you, I used to get really emotional when I'm talking to people sometimes partly because I was, like yourself, keeping everything inside. What I do now is sort of format my issues in a joke if I find myself talking about them. Everybody can appreciate some humor, and if your delivery is good, they'll laugh with you. Humor really helped me get over my emotional stability in conversations when I was much younger, so maybe it can help you as well. ", "if you trust the person just talk with him about it.\n\nif you know the person dont want to talk about it or you dont trust him enough or whatever, write a letter to the person with all you want to say, details and everything, don't hold back anything. \n\nonce you are finished burn the letter and breathe.\n\nyou will start to feel better once is done.\n\n", "Consciously remember than you can't change how poeple act but you can choose how to react to them. YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS. NOT THEM.", "1. Keep a private diary and let it out there\n\n2. Learn some cognitive behavioral techniques that will help keep the thoughts from \"maximizing\" and becoming more important than they are. This is so helpful.\n\nBTW, good for you for having the emotional intelligence to know how this is perceived and not wanting to make others uncomfortable. A lot of people never develop that." ]

[ 11, 10, 4, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do I drop my ego? (Very desperate for help). I feel like I have a severe ego problem. I am ok if someone corrects me or proves me wrong, and I always admit to it. However, if I was very sure about something that people expect me to be decent at, and then I appear to be wrong, I still admit it and laugh at how ridiculous my knowledge was, but deep inside I am boiling with anger, and when I get home I remain very frustrated. \n\nI can share an example that happened today. I am not a native English speaker, and so are my friends, but they think I am very decent at English (I don’t think I am great at English but at least that’s what they think). \n\nI was arguing with a girl about the pronunciation of the word “Particles” that the “c” is pronounced as an “s” and not a “k” sound. Before she proved me wrong, I was insisting that I am 100% sure. I pulled out google translate and proved myself wrong lol. \n\nI laughed and shouted “How?” but deep inside, I am boiling with anger because I know I have more knowledge in English than she does as I’ve heard many mispronunciations from her but never corrected her on any. I feel like my friends will now think I am full of shit, and may not refer to me anymore. I never speak these thoughts publicly but I want to be honest in this post so you can know how much ego I have. I know my English isn’t great, but I wrote that I have more knowledge in comparison to her. \n\nI am still very frustrated at how I was proven wrong there, but I am also more frustrated at the fact that I have so much ego. Is this even ego that I have? If so, Can anyone please help me drop it? \n\nThanks if you’ve read this.", "How do I drop my ego? (Very desperate for help). I feel like I have a severe ego problem. I am ok if someone corrects me or proves me wrong, and I always admit to it. However, if I was very sure about something that people expect me to be decent at, and then I appear to be wrong, I still admit it and laugh at how ridiculous my knowledge was, but deep inside I am boiling with anger, and when I get home I remain very frustrated. \n\nI can share an example that happened today. I am not a native English speaker, and so are my friends, but they think I am very decent at English (I don’t think I am great at English but at least that’s what they think). \n\nI was arguing with a girl about the pronunciation of the word “Particles” that the “c” is pronounced as an “s” and not a “k” sound. Before she proved me wrong, I was insisting that I am 100% sure. I pulled out google translate and proved myself wrong lol. \n\nI laughed and shouted “How?” but deep inside, I am boiling with anger because I know I have more knowledge in English than she does as I’ve heard many mispronunciations from her but never corrected her on any. I feel like my friends will now think I am full of shit, and may not refer to me anymore. I never speak these thoughts publicly but I want to be honest in this post so you can know how much ego I have. I know my English isn’t great, but I wrote that I have more knowledge in comparison to her. \n\nI am still very frustrated at how I was proven wrong there, but I am also more frustrated at the fact that I have so much ego. Is this even ego that I have? If so, Can anyone please help me drop it? \n\nThanks if you’ve read this.", "How do I drop my ego? (Very desperate for help). I feel like I have a severe ego problem. I am ok if someone corrects me or proves me wrong, and I always admit to it. However, if I was very sure about something that people expect me to be decent at, and then I appear to be wrong, I still admit it and laugh at how ridiculous my knowledge was, but deep inside I am boiling with anger, and when I get home I remain very frustrated. \n\nI can share an example that happened today. I am not a native English speaker, and so are my friends, but they think I am very decent at English (I don’t think I am great at English but at least that’s what they think). \n\nI was arguing with a girl about the pronunciation of the word “Particles” that the “c” is pronounced as an “s” and not a “k” sound. Before she proved me wrong, I was insisting that I am 100% sure. I pulled out google translate and proved myself wrong lol. \n\nI laughed and shouted “How?” but deep inside, I am boiling with anger because I know I have more knowledge in English than she does as I’ve heard many mispronunciations from her but never corrected her on any. I feel like my friends will now think I am full of shit, and may not refer to me anymore. I never speak these thoughts publicly but I want to be honest in this post so you can know how much ego I have. I know my English isn’t great, but I wrote that I have more knowledge in comparison to her. \n\nI am still very frustrated at how I was proven wrong there, but I am also more frustrated at the fact that I have so much ego. Is this even ego that I have? If so, Can anyone please help me drop it? \n\nThanks if you’ve read this.", "How do I drop my ego? (Very desperate for help). I feel like I have a severe ego problem. I am ok if someone corrects me or proves me wrong, and I always admit to it. However, if I was very sure about something that people expect me to be decent at, and then I appear to be wrong, I still admit it and laugh at how ridiculous my knowledge was, but deep inside I am boiling with anger, and when I get home I remain very frustrated. \n\nI can share an example that happened today. I am not a native English speaker, and so are my friends, but they think I am very decent at English (I don’t think I am great at English but at least that’s what they think). \n\nI was arguing with a girl about the pronunciation of the word “Particles” that the “c” is pronounced as an “s” and not a “k” sound. Before she proved me wrong, I was insisting that I am 100% sure. I pulled out google translate and proved myself wrong lol. \n\nI laughed and shouted “How?” but deep inside, I am boiling with anger because I know I have more knowledge in English than she does as I’ve heard many mispronunciations from her but never corrected her on any. I feel like my friends will now think I am full of shit, and may not refer to me anymore. I never speak these thoughts publicly but I want to be honest in this post so you can know how much ego I have. I know my English isn’t great, but I wrote that I have more knowledge in comparison to her. \n\nI am still very frustrated at how I was proven wrong there, but I am also more frustrated at the fact that I have so much ego. Is this even ego that I have? If so, Can anyone please help me drop it? \n\nThanks if you’ve read this.", "How do I drop my ego? (Very desperate for help). I feel like I have a severe ego problem. I am ok if someone corrects me or proves me wrong, and I always admit to it. However, if I was very sure about something that people expect me to be decent at, and then I appear to be wrong, I still admit it and laugh at how ridiculous my knowledge was, but deep inside I am boiling with anger, and when I get home I remain very frustrated. \n\nI can share an example that happened today. I am not a native English speaker, and so are my friends, but they think I am very decent at English (I don’t think I am great at English but at least that’s what they think). \n\nI was arguing with a girl about the pronunciation of the word “Particles” that the “c” is pronounced as an “s” and not a “k” sound. Before she proved me wrong, I was insisting that I am 100% sure. I pulled out google translate and proved myself wrong lol. \n\nI laughed and shouted “How?” but deep inside, I am boiling with anger because I know I have more knowledge in English than she does as I’ve heard many mispronunciations from her but never corrected her on any. I feel like my friends will now think I am full of shit, and may not refer to me anymore. I never speak these thoughts publicly but I want to be honest in this post so you can know how much ego I have. I know my English isn’t great, but I wrote that I have more knowledge in comparison to her. \n\nI am still very frustrated at how I was proven wrong there, but I am also more frustrated at the fact that I have so much ego. Is this even ego that I have? If so, Can anyone please help me drop it? \n\nThanks if you’ve read this.", "How do I drop my ego? (Very desperate for help). I feel like I have a severe ego problem. I am ok if someone corrects me or proves me wrong, and I always admit to it. However, if I was very sure about something that people expect me to be decent at, and then I appear to be wrong, I still admit it and laugh at how ridiculous my knowledge was, but deep inside I am boiling with anger, and when I get home I remain very frustrated. \n\nI can share an example that happened today. I am not a native English speaker, and so are my friends, but they think I am very decent at English (I don’t think I am great at English but at least that’s what they think). \n\nI was arguing with a girl about the pronunciation of the word “Particles” that the “c” is pronounced as an “s” and not a “k” sound. Before she proved me wrong, I was insisting that I am 100% sure. I pulled out google translate and proved myself wrong lol. \n\nI laughed and shouted “How?” but deep inside, I am boiling with anger because I know I have more knowledge in English than she does as I’ve heard many mispronunciations from her but never corrected her on any. I feel like my friends will now think I am full of shit, and may not refer to me anymore. I never speak these thoughts publicly but I want to be honest in this post so you can know how much ego I have. I know my English isn’t great, but I wrote that I have more knowledge in comparison to her. \n\nI am still very frustrated at how I was proven wrong there, but I am also more frustrated at the fact that I have so much ego. Is this even ego that I have? If so, Can anyone please help me drop it? \n\nThanks if you’ve read this.", "How do I drop my ego? (Very desperate for help). I feel like I have a severe ego problem. I am ok if someone corrects me or proves me wrong, and I always admit to it. However, if I was very sure about something that people expect me to be decent at, and then I appear to be wrong, I still admit it and laugh at how ridiculous my knowledge was, but deep inside I am boiling with anger, and when I get home I remain very frustrated. \n\nI can share an example that happened today. I am not a native English speaker, and so are my friends, but they think I am very decent at English (I don’t think I am great at English but at least that’s what they think). \n\nI was arguing with a girl about the pronunciation of the word “Particles” that the “c” is pronounced as an “s” and not a “k” sound. Before she proved me wrong, I was insisting that I am 100% sure. I pulled out google translate and proved myself wrong lol. \n\nI laughed and shouted “How?” but deep inside, I am boiling with anger because I know I have more knowledge in English than she does as I’ve heard many mispronunciations from her but never corrected her on any. I feel like my friends will now think I am full of shit, and may not refer to me anymore. I never speak these thoughts publicly but I want to be honest in this post so you can know how much ego I have. I know my English isn’t great, but I wrote that I have more knowledge in comparison to her. \n\nI am still very frustrated at how I was proven wrong there, but I am also more frustrated at the fact that I have so much ego. Is this even ego that I have? If so, Can anyone please help me drop it? \n\nThanks if you’ve read this.", "How do I drop my ego? (Very desperate for help). I feel like I have a severe ego problem. I am ok if someone corrects me or proves me wrong, and I always admit to it. However, if I was very sure about something that people expect me to be decent at, and then I appear to be wrong, I still admit it and laugh at how ridiculous my knowledge was, but deep inside I am boiling with anger, and when I get home I remain very frustrated. \n\nI can share an example that happened today. I am not a native English speaker, and so are my friends, but they think I am very decent at English (I don’t think I am great at English but at least that’s what they think). \n\nI was arguing with a girl about the pronunciation of the word “Particles” that the “c” is pronounced as an “s” and not a “k” sound. Before she proved me wrong, I was insisting that I am 100% sure. I pulled out google translate and proved myself wrong lol. \n\nI laughed and shouted “How?” but deep inside, I am boiling with anger because I know I have more knowledge in English than she does as I’ve heard many mispronunciations from her but never corrected her on any. I feel like my friends will now think I am full of shit, and may not refer to me anymore. I never speak these thoughts publicly but I want to be honest in this post so you can know how much ego I have. I know my English isn’t great, but I wrote that I have more knowledge in comparison to her. \n\nI am still very frustrated at how I was proven wrong there, but I am also more frustrated at the fact that I have so much ego. Is this even ego that I have? If so, Can anyone please help me drop it? \n\nThanks if you’ve read this.", "How do I drop my ego? (Very desperate for help). I feel like I have a severe ego problem. I am ok if someone corrects me or proves me wrong, and I always admit to it. However, if I was very sure about something that people expect me to be decent at, and then I appear to be wrong, I still admit it and laugh at how ridiculous my knowledge was, but deep inside I am boiling with anger, and when I get home I remain very frustrated. \n\nI can share an example that happened today. I am not a native English speaker, and so are my friends, but they think I am very decent at English (I don’t think I am great at English but at least that’s what they think). \n\nI was arguing with a girl about the pronunciation of the word “Particles” that the “c” is pronounced as an “s” and not a “k” sound. Before she proved me wrong, I was insisting that I am 100% sure. I pulled out google translate and proved myself wrong lol. \n\nI laughed and shouted “How?” but deep inside, I am boiling with anger because I know I have more knowledge in English than she does as I’ve heard many mispronunciations from her but never corrected her on any. I feel like my friends will now think I am full of shit, and may not refer to me anymore. I never speak these thoughts publicly but I want to be honest in this post so you can know how much ego I have. I know my English isn’t great, but I wrote that I have more knowledge in comparison to her. \n\nI am still very frustrated at how I was proven wrong there, but I am also more frustrated at the fact that I have so much ego. Is this even ego that I have? If so, Can anyone please help me drop it? \n\nThanks if you’ve read this.", "How do I drop my ego? (Very desperate for help). I feel like I have a severe ego problem. I am ok if someone corrects me or proves me wrong, and I always admit to it. However, if I was very sure about something that people expect me to be decent at, and then I appear to be wrong, I still admit it and laugh at how ridiculous my knowledge was, but deep inside I am boiling with anger, and when I get home I remain very frustrated. \n\nI can share an example that happened today. I am not a native English speaker, and so are my friends, but they think I am very decent at English (I don’t think I am great at English but at least that’s what they think). \n\nI was arguing with a girl about the pronunciation of the word “Particles” that the “c” is pronounced as an “s” and not a “k” sound. Before she proved me wrong, I was insisting that I am 100% sure. I pulled out google translate and proved myself wrong lol. \n\nI laughed and shouted “How?” but deep inside, I am boiling with anger because I know I have more knowledge in English than she does as I’ve heard many mispronunciations from her but never corrected her on any. I feel like my friends will now think I am full of shit, and may not refer to me anymore. I never speak these thoughts publicly but I want to be honest in this post so you can know how much ego I have. I know my English isn’t great, but I wrote that I have more knowledge in comparison to her. \n\nI am still very frustrated at how I was proven wrong there, but I am also more frustrated at the fact that I have so much ego. Is this even ego that I have? If so, Can anyone please help me drop it? \n\nThanks if you’ve read this.", "How do I drop my ego? (Very desperate for help). I feel like I have a severe ego problem. I am ok if someone corrects me or proves me wrong, and I always admit to it. However, if I was very sure about something that people expect me to be decent at, and then I appear to be wrong, I still admit it and laugh at how ridiculous my knowledge was, but deep inside I am boiling with anger, and when I get home I remain very frustrated. \n\nI can share an example that happened today. I am not a native English speaker, and so are my friends, but they think I am very decent at English (I don’t think I am great at English but at least that’s what they think). \n\nI was arguing with a girl about the pronunciation of the word “Particles” that the “c” is pronounced as an “s” and not a “k” sound. Before she proved me wrong, I was insisting that I am 100% sure. I pulled out google translate and proved myself wrong lol. \n\nI laughed and shouted “How?” but deep inside, I am boiling with anger because I know I have more knowledge in English than she does as I’ve heard many mispronunciations from her but never corrected her on any. I feel like my friends will now think I am full of shit, and may not refer to me anymore. I never speak these thoughts publicly but I want to be honest in this post so you can know how much ego I have. I know my English isn’t great, but I wrote that I have more knowledge in comparison to her. \n\nI am still very frustrated at how I was proven wrong there, but I am also more frustrated at the fact that I have so much ego. Is this even ego that I have? If so, Can anyone please help me drop it? \n\nThanks if you’ve read this.", "How do I drop my ego? (Very desperate for help). I feel like I have a severe ego problem. I am ok if someone corrects me or proves me wrong, and I always admit to it. However, if I was very sure about something that people expect me to be decent at, and then I appear to be wrong, I still admit it and laugh at how ridiculous my knowledge was, but deep inside I am boiling with anger, and when I get home I remain very frustrated. \n\nI can share an example that happened today. I am not a native English speaker, and so are my friends, but they think I am very decent at English (I don’t think I am great at English but at least that’s what they think). \n\nI was arguing with a girl about the pronunciation of the word “Particles” that the “c” is pronounced as an “s” and not a “k” sound. Before she proved me wrong, I was insisting that I am 100% sure. I pulled out google translate and proved myself wrong lol. \n\nI laughed and shouted “How?” but deep inside, I am boiling with anger because I know I have more knowledge in English than she does as I’ve heard many mispronunciations from her but never corrected her on any. I feel like my friends will now think I am full of shit, and may not refer to me anymore. I never speak these thoughts publicly but I want to be honest in this post so you can know how much ego I have. I know my English isn’t great, but I wrote that I have more knowledge in comparison to her. \n\nI am still very frustrated at how I was proven wrong there, but I am also more frustrated at the fact that I have so much ego. Is this even ego that I have? If so, Can anyone please help me drop it? \n\nThanks if you’ve read this.", "How do I drop my ego? (Very desperate for help). I feel like I have a severe ego problem. I am ok if someone corrects me or proves me wrong, and I always admit to it. However, if I was very sure about something that people expect me to be decent at, and then I appear to be wrong, I still admit it and laugh at how ridiculous my knowledge was, but deep inside I am boiling with anger, and when I get home I remain very frustrated. \n\nI can share an example that happened today. I am not a native English speaker, and so are my friends, but they think I am very decent at English (I don’t think I am great at English but at least that’s what they think). \n\nI was arguing with a girl about the pronunciation of the word “Particles” that the “c” is pronounced as an “s” and not a “k” sound. Before she proved me wrong, I was insisting that I am 100% sure. I pulled out google translate and proved myself wrong lol. \n\nI laughed and shouted “How?” but deep inside, I am boiling with anger because I know I have more knowledge in English than she does as I’ve heard many mispronunciations from her but never corrected her on any. I feel like my friends will now think I am full of shit, and may not refer to me anymore. I never speak these thoughts publicly but I want to be honest in this post so you can know how much ego I have. I know my English isn’t great, but I wrote that I have more knowledge in comparison to her. \n\nI am still very frustrated at how I was proven wrong there, but I am also more frustrated at the fact that I have so much ego. Is this even ego that I have? If so, Can anyone please help me drop it? \n\nThanks if you’ve read this.", "How do I drop my ego? (Very desperate for help). I feel like I have a severe ego problem. I am ok if someone corrects me or proves me wrong, and I always admit to it. However, if I was very sure about something that people expect me to be decent at, and then I appear to be wrong, I still admit it and laugh at how ridiculous my knowledge was, but deep inside I am boiling with anger, and when I get home I remain very frustrated. \n\nI can share an example that happened today. I am not a native English speaker, and so are my friends, but they think I am very decent at English (I don’t think I am great at English but at least that’s what they think). \n\nI was arguing with a girl about the pronunciation of the word “Particles” that the “c” is pronounced as an “s” and not a “k” sound. Before she proved me wrong, I was insisting that I am 100% sure. I pulled out google translate and proved myself wrong lol. \n\nI laughed and shouted “How?” but deep inside, I am boiling with anger because I know I have more knowledge in English than she does as I’ve heard many mispronunciations from her but never corrected her on any. I feel like my friends will now think I am full of shit, and may not refer to me anymore. I never speak these thoughts publicly but I want to be honest in this post so you can know how much ego I have. I know my English isn’t great, but I wrote that I have more knowledge in comparison to her. \n\nI am still very frustrated at how I was proven wrong there, but I am also more frustrated at the fact that I have so much ego. Is this even ego that I have? If so, Can anyone please help me drop it? \n\nThanks if you’ve read this.", "How do I drop my ego? (Very desperate for help). I feel like I have a severe ego problem. I am ok if someone corrects me or proves me wrong, and I always admit to it. However, if I was very sure about something that people expect me to be decent at, and then I appear to be wrong, I still admit it and laugh at how ridiculous my knowledge was, but deep inside I am boiling with anger, and when I get home I remain very frustrated. \n\nI can share an example that happened today. I am not a native English speaker, and so are my friends, but they think I am very decent at English (I don’t think I am great at English but at least that’s what they think). \n\nI was arguing with a girl about the pronunciation of the word “Particles” that the “c” is pronounced as an “s” and not a “k” sound. Before she proved me wrong, I was insisting that I am 100% sure. I pulled out google translate and proved myself wrong lol. \n\nI laughed and shouted “How?” but deep inside, I am boiling with anger because I know I have more knowledge in English than she does as I’ve heard many mispronunciations from her but never corrected her on any. I feel like my friends will now think I am full of shit, and may not refer to me anymore. I never speak these thoughts publicly but I want to be honest in this post so you can know how much ego I have. I know my English isn’t great, but I wrote that I have more knowledge in comparison to her. \n\nI am still very frustrated at how I was proven wrong there, but I am also more frustrated at the fact that I have so much ego. Is this even ego that I have? If so, Can anyone please help me drop it? \n\nThanks if you’ve read this." ]

[ "Always listen to what others have to say first. Even if you think they are wrong, check the information like you just learned something and wanted to fact-check it. If they're wrong, then the roles are reversed. If they are right, no shame at all.\n\nJust avoid trying looking like you know stuff. It's a lot of pressure and not that much rewarding.\n\nIn the worst case, you can act like you are still right, but smile to show you're not serious. Like \" see? It said \"s\"! \" with a big smile. That way, you won't look like you have ego issues. You're being playful.", "It's not an ego problem, you just **really** don't like being wrong. I would guess that's mostly a lack of maturity. Just give yourself time and keep reflecting on your mistakes. Try to understand that everyone is wrong sometimes, including you, and that's no reason to get worked up for hours.", "You need to know just two more things about English. You can't reason your way through it because we have an insane amount of rules, and then numerous exceptions to them all. Add to that the regional differences and you will never know it all. Stop expecting there to be rules, just go with the flow and don't correct anybody. \n\nLaugh this off with your friends. We tolerate far worse egos in this country.", "[This might be a good read for you, but remember to not just read the page but the sources they cite as well](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ego_depletion)!", "Start changing how you approach an argument. Start with the assumption that you have a 50/50 chance of being wrong. Instead of telling people \"I'm sure I am the one in the right!\" ask them \"are you sure, as I thought this was the case?\". Then, if you are wrong, you just sounded uncertain as to their correctness, and not insistent upon yours. It changes an argument to an invitation to learn together.\n\nOn the subject of learning, the fastest way to learn is to be wrong. Accept being wrong as a learning experience, and not a problem, and you will have an easier time. We all hate to be wrong, but those who can readily accept it as a lesson learned will always have an easier time.", "Some things that have helped me are:\nI realized that if I'm proved wrong about something it means I now know more than I did five minutes ago, and I should be grateful.\n\nPride messes up a lot of things. And when I'm wrong about something, that pride gets taken down a notch which can only be a good thing.", "Just chill. Remember everyone's insignificant which means every human conflict is insignificant as it's all just a long road to death. Just enjoy the ride. I got my problems but I don't let it fuck me up, and it doesn't have to fuck you up either. Being human means you got flaws and you can keep bettering yourself and trying to perfect yourself but never expect there to be an endpoint. It's an eternal process and only you can get yourself started on the path.\n\nAs for finding that path, what I recommend is secession from human contact. Trust me when I say there's no amount socializing that can fix you, therapy based on socialization is just a patch-up. The real betterment happens when you've conquered your personal headspace and have become the master of your own domain. Everything you do to better yourself in that place will reflect in the real world with your experiences with people.\n\nThere's some other things that can help you:\n\n1. Do things that you enjoy that don't involve people. Just to get a feel for how isolation lets you out of your shell without feeling a sense of loneliness accompanying it.\n2. Learn to m", "For me, I was like this a lot before, because I was kind of insecure. \n\nI challenged it by kinda using my insecurity as a weapon against myself; by that I mean, I started acting less assured because I noticed it improved my “right”-“wrong” ratio. \n\nI stopped saying “it is x” as if I knew it for a fact, and started saying “I think it’s x” or “it feels like it could be x” \n\nThe cool thing about it for me was that I feel just as good when I’m right, people seem to treat those softer statements as just as cool when they’re correct as the certain ones — but at the same time completely differently when I am wrong.\n\n\n\n\n\n(Since doing so it allowed me also to begin asking myself “what am I trying to prove?” Almost always, I was trying to prove my intelligence or worth somehow.\n\nSo I thought to myself “why am I working so hard to prove my intelligence to someone else? - why do I need for them to know I am intelligent?”\n(often it was important to me to like.. not necessarily be smarter than them but like not let anyone be smarter than me) \n\nSo I asked myself \n1. Why it matters to me that others know of my intelligence/validate it\n2. Why is it so important for me to not “make a fool of myself”? When most people find someone who can relax and be humble and joke about themselves to be more fun to be around? \n3. What do I feel when this happens? Like what feelings does it trigger? What feelings do my “bad” behaviors temporarily reduce/get rid of, but worsen in the long run? \n\nIt’s a struggle ahead of you. But keep working on yourself, be the best you you can be and happiness will really come to you \n\n(Sorry about my own English I hope it is okay)", "You can use the 'spoken word' option in Google translate to find out BEFORE you get into arguments! Working yourself into a frenzy because someone else was right and you were wrong is going to give you ulcers or something! Going to be a LOT more of those times throughout your life mate, so just keep calm.", "Watch an Alan Watts lecture on YouTube. He talks about how the ego is just the center of your conscious focus. A symptom of being alive.", "So you get angry at being angry? You must know that is futile and destructive. Try to think of things from a constructive perspective instead. In your example, figure out why you were wrong, (Hint: it’s not your ego, that just escalated the error), or think about times you were right, or don’t think about it at all if there is no profit in it.", "Nobody is perfect. You can learn from someone who knows less than you in some field even though you have a lot more experience. You learn things from kids and from elders. It's good to be open to learn new things everywhere and know that you can't be 100% perfect in every matter. That's the beauty of everyone being different and having different perspectives. It's just insecurities you have that you need to work on. And being aware of them is the most important step. Most people keep lying to themselves for the rest of their life so good job man for recognizing that.", "Hmm, someone with ego acts with pride, meaning that they reflect on others with very dumb things to say due to ego (like insisting that they’re right after they’re proven wrong). That does not seem to be your problem, because you acknowledge when you are wrong, but you feel very hurt if it’s something you’re decent at.", "English is my first language and I can say with authority that your English is excellent. Can’t remember if humans lose the ability to hear certain words or just vowels at either 5 or 3 years old. My brother bought a toy that played the sounds of various languages to ensure my daughter could learn other languages when she got older. \n\nI don’t think this is a drop your ego thing. You’re a fan of excellence, which is great. \n\nAlso - being at the mercy of emotions isn’t powerful. You seem infinitely capable. My invitation to you is to practice mastering your psychology / emotions with the same intensity and passion you apply to learning English. And while you’re at it, read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fu** (my two cents). :-)", "A great leader would take their grand ego and expand it, make it larger. So that it encompasses their entire people. Now they feel pride in others accomplishments just like the accomplishments were their own. The ego doesn't go away, but transforms into the super ego. The super ego cares for others as it cares for the self." ]

[ 10, 6, 4, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "chafing nostrils Besides using soft specially branded tissues, because those aren't always available in a pinch. Anyone have any ideas?", "chafing nostrils Besides using soft specially branded tissues, because those aren't always available in a pinch. Anyone have any ideas?", "chafing nostrils Besides using soft specially branded tissues, because those aren't always available in a pinch. Anyone have any ideas?", "chafing nostrils Besides using soft specially branded tissues, because those aren't always available in a pinch. Anyone have any ideas?" ]

[ "Protip: Apply a bit of petroleum jelly to some dry/chafed nostrils. Not too much obviously, but enough to ease some of the dryness and discomfort. For added ease, use a q-tip to apply. You don't need much either.", "Ok. Most people think this is gross, so do it in private, but...\n\nYour fingers won't chafe your nostrils. I.e., blow your nose with your bare hand and then wash your hands.", "I use Vicks VapoRub ointment on my nose. a) it helps clear your nose so you don't have to blow it as often and b) it has petroleum which softens the skin and stops it drying out. Just rub it around the outside of your nostrils.", "Aquaphor is better than plain petrolium jelly. Alternatively try rubbing some coconut oil on there! It's amazing for your skin.\n\nI will say the BEST thing to use is lanolin (aka the sheep oil shit that ladies rub on their chapped nipples while breastfeeding.)\nIt's incredibly fast-healingand natural/non-harmful. I use it all over during the winter for chapped lips, cheeks, noses, etc.on myself and my kids." ]

[ 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "how to prepare for a one off night shift? Hi LPT, I have to do a one off night shift from midnight to 10 am. I don't normally do this time of day. \nAny tips on how to prepare for it, what I should take along etc.\nThanks", "how to prepare for a one off night shift? Hi LPT, I have to do a one off night shift from midnight to 10 am. I don't normally do this time of day. \nAny tips on how to prepare for it, what I should take along etc.\nThanks", "how to prepare for a one off night shift? Hi LPT, I have to do a one off night shift from midnight to 10 am. I don't normally do this time of day. \nAny tips on how to prepare for it, what I should take along etc.\nThanks", "how to prepare for a one off night shift? Hi LPT, I have to do a one off night shift from midnight to 10 am. I don't normally do this time of day. \nAny tips on how to prepare for it, what I should take along etc.\nThanks", "how to prepare for a one off night shift? Hi LPT, I have to do a one off night shift from midnight to 10 am. I don't normally do this time of day. \nAny tips on how to prepare for it, what I should take along etc.\nThanks", "how to prepare for a one off night shift? Hi LPT, I have to do a one off night shift from midnight to 10 am. I don't normally do this time of day. \nAny tips on how to prepare for it, what I should take along etc.\nThanks" ]

[ "I used to have a job doing floor sets at a mall. I had a day job 8AM-3PM. My prep/strategies for a night shift (usually 9PM-5AMish) was this:\n\n1) nap right after the day job or if you aren't working in the day take an afternoon nap (don't nap right before your shift because you will wake up groggy and your body will be confused). Try to simulate night as best as you can by having as much darkness as possible and STAY OFF THE COMPUTER/keep the TV off! Your brain can easily be fooled by lighting into thinking it's day/night.\n\n2) Skip dinner and eat \"breakfast\" an hour before your shift. Do everything you would normally do to get ready in the morning.\n\n3) Drink lots of water throughout your shift. This keeps you alert and reminds your body that you are doing shit and it's not time for bed.\n\n4) Pack a protein bar. Even though it's not meal time, your body is going to need some calories. I would break off a piece to eat about every hour once I got hungry. Cliff Bars and Balance bars are my favorites... lots of calories and nutrients and very filling when you don't have time to sit down and eat a meal.\n\n5) When you get home sleep as soon as you can, and don't let yourself get distracted. Again, trick your brain by shutting out all light sources. I used to have to work just a few hours after getting home so this one may or may not be important for you. But I guess this is similar to avoiding jet lag... don't oversleep because you are going to want to go to bed at your usual time that next night and you need to be tired enough to do that.", "just relax and drink a lot of your favorite caffeine. the more you prepare for this one time event, the harder it is going to be trying to get some rest prior to.", "Huey Lewis and the News. Pop that in you cassette deck and slam a pint of apple juice, you'll be good to go until the sun comes up. If you're looking at >8 hours, I'd ask a coworker for a scalp massage while you think of stuff that embarrassed you years ago but you still can't forget about. You're good as gold!", "I'm a nurse and I self-schedule. Depending on what's going on in my \"real-life\" I will alternate between days, evenings, or nights. Just as important as what you do that shift, is what you do the day before/after. During the day when you need to work that night, lay off the caffeine. If you are caffeine-dependent, allow yourself one cup in the morning, but no more. Try to take a nap. Two hours is usually good enough. Even if you can't sleep, lay down and rest. Have your pajamas on. Keep the tv off. If noise bothers you, download a sleep app to provide white noise to drown out other background noise. When you wake up, have a cup of coffee. At work, keep active. If you have to sit still, exercise your mind. If you drink caffeine during the night, stop at least 6 hours before you plan to go to sleep. When your shift is over, sleep...a nap or longer. Use the sleep aid the night after you worked. I buy 25 mg Benadryl caplets, not capsules. You can break them in half and take 12.5mg, 25mg, 37.5mg or 50mg, depending on how desperate you are for sleep. Good luck. I love night shift. I just wish it took place a different time because most of life revolves around day shift. ", "I used to work a lot of grave and regular shifts simultaneously between two jobs. I just make sure I sleep well before hand. Sometimes I take a sleep aid, or just half the dose. Bring a light lunch, nothing that will weigh you down such as greasy food, meats, or carbs. I usually wait to have caffeine a little before halfway through the shift. Yerba Mate is my favorite. But coffee is fine too. I used to drink energy drinks, but I've been off the _liquid crack_ for a while. ", "I normally do one off 10pm to 8am shifts, I normally stay up late the night before till like 2/3ish but still have a full sleep 8 hours say, then have a afternoon sleep at like 4ish for 4 hours. Usually sees me through till 6/7am before I hit the wall. Surviving till 10am for a one off will be hard " ]

[ 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Strength conditioning I'm a newbie gymnast, and strength is really the only aspect that I have trouble with. What I mean is, for the first few minutes of practice, I can do quite a lot of strength conditioning. 15 chin ups/dips/handstand push-ups. Though it doesn't take long for my strength to wear away and it starts to suck. Any tips on how I can maintain strength for a longer period of time?", "Strength conditioning I'm a newbie gymnast, and strength is really the only aspect that I have trouble with. What I mean is, for the first few minutes of practice, I can do quite a lot of strength conditioning. 15 chin ups/dips/handstand push-ups. Though it doesn't take long for my strength to wear away and it starts to suck. Any tips on how I can maintain strength for a longer period of time?", "Strength conditioning I'm a newbie gymnast, and strength is really the only aspect that I have trouble with. What I mean is, for the first few minutes of practice, I can do quite a lot of strength conditioning. 15 chin ups/dips/handstand push-ups. Though it doesn't take long for my strength to wear away and it starts to suck. Any tips on how I can maintain strength for a longer period of time?", "Strength conditioning I'm a newbie gymnast, and strength is really the only aspect that I have trouble with. What I mean is, for the first few minutes of practice, I can do quite a lot of strength conditioning. 15 chin ups/dips/handstand push-ups. Though it doesn't take long for my strength to wear away and it starts to suck. Any tips on how I can maintain strength for a longer period of time?", "Strength conditioning I'm a newbie gymnast, and strength is really the only aspect that I have trouble with. What I mean is, for the first few minutes of practice, I can do quite a lot of strength conditioning. 15 chin ups/dips/handstand push-ups. Though it doesn't take long for my strength to wear away and it starts to suck. Any tips on how I can maintain strength for a longer period of time?", "Strength conditioning I'm a newbie gymnast, and strength is really the only aspect that I have trouble with. What I mean is, for the first few minutes of practice, I can do quite a lot of strength conditioning. 15 chin ups/dips/handstand push-ups. Though it doesn't take long for my strength to wear away and it starts to suck. Any tips on how I can maintain strength for a longer period of time?" ]

[ "strength is strength and conditioning is conditioning. These are two separate adaptations and need to be trained separately. Getting stronger may increase your endurance, but conditioning will not increase your strength (with the exception of the very untrained). Your limitation seems to be strength. I recommend funding a good resistance training program to develop strength. This means very heavy and less than 6 reps. This is the direction you should approach right now. You need to get stronger to make your body weight less of your max, therefore making those exercises less taxing on your system. This will allow you to do more. \n\nTl;dr: strength is on the opposite end of the spectrum from conditioning. That is why it is called Strength AND Conditioning. You need to get stronger, more weight less reps.\n", "increase the number of reps you are doing in one set to increase muscular endurance. For instance, try to build up to doing 30 pullups in one go. Then when you do 15 you won't be out of energy afterwards.", "Just have to keep working harder, but stop doing chin ups (palms facing you) and start doing pull ups (palms facing away from you). Then work your way up to muscle ups. You just have to do everything more and then if they get too easy, add more weight.", "Check out /r/Fitness for a ton of info (including plans and advice on tailoring your routine to the results you're seeking) on how you can start building strength. \n\nBodyweight exercises like the ones you mention are great to begin but if you want to really get stronger it's recommended you start using free weights. A good beginners plan I see people suggest a lot is the Stronglifts 5x5. \n\nTomorrow is \"Moronic Monday\" which is a weekly thread that gives people like you the change to ask (in their words) \"stupid questions\". How to get started might be an appropriate question for you. ", ">Though it doesn't take long for my strength to wear away and it starts to suck.\n\nWhat do you mean by this exactly? If it's during the same workout, it could simply mean fatigue. If it was say, a week ago, and you're feeling tired, your body is getting used to greater demands, and you have to eat properly, and get enough rest for your body to regenerate. \n\nDo you have a coach? A good coach knows just how far to push you, at the same time having you slowly advance, and, probably most importantly, help you avoid injury. \n\n>Any tips on how I can maintain strength for a longer period of time?\n\nI think you need to be more specific to have this answered better. If you're doing gymnastics through school, I'll assume you were cleared by a doctor to engage in such a demanding sport. If not, you really should have a checkup to be sure. ", "When you work out, do slow reps. This will work out the slow muscle fibres, which is what makes your body perform at a consistent level for longer. When you do pull ups, do it very slowly. Like 4 seconds to go up, 5 seconds to come down. Same with any other exercise, do it slowly to build more strength as opposed to size. " ]

[ 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "How do you signal to someone who's in a conversation that you would like to talk to them when they're done? I run into this all the time at work: I need to talk to someone but they are busy talking to someone else. I don't have time to stand there and wait for them to finish. I do not want to interrupt them. Best I can do is get their eye contact for a split second. How can I let them know I need to talk to them when they are finished?", "How do you signal to someone who's in a conversation that you would like to talk to them when they're done? I run into this all the time at work: I need to talk to someone but they are busy talking to someone else. I don't have time to stand there and wait for them to finish. I do not want to interrupt them. Best I can do is get their eye contact for a split second. How can I let them know I need to talk to them when they are finished?", "How do you signal to someone who's in a conversation that you would like to talk to them when they're done? I run into this all the time at work: I need to talk to someone but they are busy talking to someone else. I don't have time to stand there and wait for them to finish. I do not want to interrupt them. Best I can do is get their eye contact for a split second. How can I let them know I need to talk to them when they are finished?" ]

[ "I usually put up my index finger (like saying \"one minute\") and mouth the words \"when you're done\". Works like a charm.", "Catch their eye. Point to them, point to yourself, make the one minute sign, then walk away. Or, just make any random sequence of hand signals that's weird and memorable enough that they'll come over later on to find out wtf you were doing.", "When they're talking ill say \"Mhm\" after some statements and then when they finish the thought ill quickly add \"yes and I agree\" or \"yes, but\" \"good point however..\"\n\nTransitions like that. I guess it's kind of like forcing yourself to speak but if they're being a dick and not letting you talk then they have it coming" ]

[ 20, 2, -2 ]

[ "Just graduated university, what are the first few things I should catch up on to help transition back into reality? ", "Just graduated university, what are the first few things I should catch up on to help transition back into reality? ", "Just graduated university, what are the first few things I should catch up on to help transition back into reality? " ]

[ "Making sure my fries are nice and golden.\n\nBut seriously good luck, stay at home as long as your parents will let you and put as much as you can towards that loan", "- Spend some time with your uncles, aunts and parents. Mixing with an older generation instead of students is a good start.\n\n- join some clubs completely unrelated to university and work related topics. It will surprise you to discover people not only go straight to work without uni, but many do well financially and have 3-5 years head start against you.\n\n- do some volunteer work. Mixing with a wide range of people outside the college/graduate crowd will broaden your awareness of how the world works.\n\n- Travel. Spend some weekends in another town. If you have a few weeks between graduating and that graduate job, use the free time to visit another culture.\n\n- Visit a good library and ask the librarians to reccomend some great novels.\n\nI feel like there are some Moran Freeman movies that offer some good life perspective. If nothing else read this post in his voice.", "Get a job that is not that great, you will appreciate the jobs that are better later on. It can make even shitty days brighter with \"atleast I am not working that job anymore\"\n\n" ]

[ 10, 6, 1 ]

[ "How to help a choking dog? Time sensitive! Jk, that's morbid. \n \nMy dog likes to chew on small things and as hard as I try, he always seems to find *something.* He hasn't choked on anything yet, and he hopefully never will, but I am paranoid. \n \nMost of what I've read is about opening his mouth and trying to pull the thing out, but I'm deathly afraid that, if it's *stuck*, I won't be able to grip it and might push it further down his throat, making matters worse. I've also read that the 'dog heimlich' should only be used as a last resort, as it can seriously hurt the dog. \n \nSo in the event that my dog starts choking, what should I do?", "How to help a choking dog? Time sensitive! Jk, that's morbid. \n \nMy dog likes to chew on small things and as hard as I try, he always seems to find *something.* He hasn't choked on anything yet, and he hopefully never will, but I am paranoid. \n \nMost of what I've read is about opening his mouth and trying to pull the thing out, but I'm deathly afraid that, if it's *stuck*, I won't be able to grip it and might push it further down his throat, making matters worse. I've also read that the 'dog heimlich' should only be used as a last resort, as it can seriously hurt the dog. \n \nSo in the event that my dog starts choking, what should I do?", "How to help a choking dog? Time sensitive! Jk, that's morbid. \n \nMy dog likes to chew on small things and as hard as I try, he always seems to find *something.* He hasn't choked on anything yet, and he hopefully never will, but I am paranoid. \n \nMost of what I've read is about opening his mouth and trying to pull the thing out, but I'm deathly afraid that, if it's *stuck*, I won't be able to grip it and might push it further down his throat, making matters worse. I've also read that the 'dog heimlich' should only be used as a last resort, as it can seriously hurt the dog. \n \nSo in the event that my dog starts choking, what should I do?", "How to help a choking dog? Time sensitive! Jk, that's morbid. \n \nMy dog likes to chew on small things and as hard as I try, he always seems to find *something.* He hasn't choked on anything yet, and he hopefully never will, but I am paranoid. \n \nMost of what I've read is about opening his mouth and trying to pull the thing out, but I'm deathly afraid that, if it's *stuck*, I won't be able to grip it and might push it further down his throat, making matters worse. I've also read that the 'dog heimlich' should only be used as a last resort, as it can seriously hurt the dog. \n \nSo in the event that my dog starts choking, what should I do?" ]

[ "If your dog is hacking or coughing try to let him get it out on his own.\n\nIf he's not getting ANY air in or out use the heimlich.\n\nOn another note the best medicine in this case is probably good prevention. Does he have a solid drop it command?", "I once (being stupid) gave my dog a sausage from my leftovers and when she stared coughing I thought she will be OK she's just eaten it too quickly, but it continued and it turned into hacking and gagging I turned round and she stared to lay down, so I fucking run up to her, forced her mouth open and literally pulled it out of her throat with the thumb and index finger, she stood up and acted like normal and I just cuddled her for a while, went from almost killing my dog to saving her.. Fuck I'm stupid", "Dogs hacking and coughing while gobbling up something is perfectly normal. My dog seemed to choke himself on every meal (including the infamous chicken bones) but lived to 18. Cause of death was euthanasia as his legs started to become paralyzed. ", "Check out your local Red Cross for courses offered. Just like with people, they offer 1-2 night seminars in pet first aid." ]

[ 7, 4, 3, 2 ]