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[ "Easiest way to convert a Youtube video to an MP3 file I found sites that need me to sign up for their site and stuff, but I know there must be an easier way", "Easiest way to convert a Youtube video to an MP3 file I found sites that need me to sign up for their site and stuff, but I know there must be an easier way", "Easiest way to convert a Youtube video to an MP3 file I found sites that need me to sign up for their site and stuff, but I know there must be an easier way", "Easiest way to convert a Youtube video to an MP3 file I found sites that need me to sign up for their site and stuff, but I know there must be an easier way", "Easiest way to convert a Youtube video to an MP3 file I found sites that need me to sign up for their site and stuff, but I know there must be an easier way", "Easiest way to convert a Youtube video to an MP3 file I found sites that need me to sign up for their site and stuff, but I know there must be an easier way" ]

[ "Write ss infront of the youtube videos url. \n\nLike this: www.youtube.com/watch?v=cZh8_rASDNY becomes \nww.ssyoutube.com/watch?v=cZh8_rASDNY\n\n\n(I just grabbed the first url I got a hold of)", "If you're looking to convert a song, continue reading. If not, no need to read the rest here haha. \n\nfirst off, youtube audio quality is crap. \nIf you can't afford 99 cents for a song, this will work no matter what with no sketchy websites involved. But it is a hassle. And just to keep it legal, this is assuming you already own a recording of it in some way shape or form, and just want a digital copy.\n\nThis method I describe here will take some tinkering, and is damn slow and complicated to do, but it works, and once you get used to it it's pretty easy and the safest way I have found to do it. \n\nthings you'll need:\nan audio recording program (depending on your OS there are free ones)\nan audio ", "I use [Download Youtube as MP3 plugin for Firefox](http://userscripts.org/scripts/show/25105). You can also download Youtube files as MP4 or FLV in various sizes. If you want an HD video in 360p format, it down sizes too. ", "Worth noting that YouTube rips are not high quality. The highest audio bit rate output is 192kbps. Not bad, but not great.", "I just use Freestudio. As the name suggests all you have to do is download the converter. You can also download a YouTube video downloader ", "Firefox, Add On Manager, type in \"youtube\". The results will be a bunch youtube download apps for firefox, that appears on YouTube itself. So, whenever you want to download a video in video format or sound, just click on the option. " ]

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[ "How do you stop losing your gloves? I always seem to drop one from my coat pockets. Have you found a solution for this? ", "How do you stop losing your gloves? I always seem to drop one from my coat pockets. Have you found a solution for this? ", "How do you stop losing your gloves? I always seem to drop one from my coat pockets. Have you found a solution for this? ", "How do you stop losing your gloves? I always seem to drop one from my coat pockets. Have you found a solution for this? ", "How do you stop losing your gloves? I always seem to drop one from my coat pockets. Have you found a solution for this? ", "How do you stop losing your gloves? I always seem to drop one from my coat pockets. Have you found a solution for this? " ]

[ "There is the kid solution, attaching a rope to both and pull that through the sleeves of your coat.\n\nYou could also man up, walk around with no gloves for 24 hours each time you lose em. Should teach you sooner or later to keep your eye on the damn things.", "Buy the ugliest, most uncomfortable gloves you can find and you will have them for the rest of your life ;) ", "Consider bundling them like socks when not in use. Makes a slightly denser ball, which may help stay i your pocket. Also, zip up pockets if applicable to your coat.\n\nIf they're falling out because the pocket your talking about is like the front of a hoodie, I suggest a different style of jacket.", "When you take off your gloves and jacket, roll them up and shove them in the sleeve of your jacket. When you put your jacket on again, they'll come out the sleeve right in your hand.", "It's simple!\n\nWhenever putting on or taking off your coat, do a pocket check. Left glove, left pocket. Right glove, right pocket. Scarf (if applicable) in a sleeve. That sort of thing.\n\nIt's the same theory I use for my phone, wallet, keys, chapstick, and glasses cloth. I pat myself down whenever I go from one location to another (car to store, store to car, car to house). I haven't left anything behind unintentionally in years because I have trained myself to be aware.", "I buy 10 pairs of small ones from the convenience store. Keep them in the same place in my house. Peesto" ]

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[ "How to make the most out of college? Hi. Now is the time I sign up for fall classes (Gen Ed/Major) when I noticed that if I wanted \"Good\" professors, I would suffer a huge gap. Alternatively, I could take classes with no gap, with worse professors. \n\nBut I was also thinking of taking fun classes that would count towards nothing special except giving me some extra cr", "How to make the most out of college? Hi. Now is the time I sign up for fall classes (Gen Ed/Major) when I noticed that if I wanted \"Good\" professors, I would suffer a huge gap. Alternatively, I could take classes with no gap, with worse professors. \n\nBut I was also thinking of taking fun classes that would count towards nothing special except giving me some extra cr", "How to make the most out of college? Hi. Now is the time I sign up for fall classes (Gen Ed/Major) when I noticed that if I wanted \"Good\" professors, I would suffer a huge gap. Alternatively, I could take classes with no gap, with worse professors. \n\nBut I was also thinking of taking fun classes that would count towards nothing special except giving me some extra cr", "How to make the most out of college? Hi. Now is the time I sign up for fall classes (Gen Ed/Major) when I noticed that if I wanted \"Good\" professors, I would suffer a huge gap. Alternatively, I could take classes with no gap, with worse professors. \n\nBut I was also thinking of taking fun classes that would count towards nothing special except giving me some extra cr", "How to make the most out of college? Hi. Now is the time I sign up for fall classes (Gen Ed/Major) when I noticed that if I wanted \"Good\" professors, I would suffer a huge gap. Alternatively, I could take classes with no gap, with worse professors. \n\nBut I was also thinking of taking fun classes that would count towards nothing special except giving me some extra cr", "How to make the most out of college? Hi. Now is the time I sign up for fall classes (Gen Ed/Major) when I noticed that if I wanted \"Good\" professors, I would suffer a huge gap. Alternatively, I could take classes with no gap, with worse professors. \n\nBut I was also thinking of taking fun classes that would count towards nothing special except giving me some extra cr", "How to make the most out of college? Hi. Now is the time I sign up for fall classes (Gen Ed/Major) when I noticed that if I wanted \"Good\" professors, I would suffer a huge gap. Alternatively, I could take classes with no gap, with worse professors. \n\nBut I was also thinking of taking fun classes that would count towards nothing special except giving me some extra cr" ]

[ "Pro Tip: GO TO CLASSES! Very very important.\nChoose the \"good\" professors and you can study at your breaks. Try to make as many friends you can , and create study sessions with them :) \nLast but not least, study as much as you can but don't forget to sleep well enough! ", "Here's some random feedback/thoughts!\n\n-those \"bad\" professors are not always bad. I took a course from a professor rumored to be one of the meanest assholes in the department, and he ended up being a great mentor who wrote a lot of my letters of rec for grad school. \n\n-try to track down classes that suit your learning style, if possible. For example, I learned early on that I preferred courses with less homework/busywork that were graded based on exam scores. Maybe you hate tests but don't mind homework and reading. Maybe hybrid online/in-class works best. Every professor runs their classes differently, so sometimes with a bit of research you can tailor your course schedule to complement your study habits (or lack thereof).\n\n-take the random, fun classes. You never know how they'll benefit you - you might end up finding a new passion/major, or it may give you a new perspective in your chosen field. If you're paying out of pocket, there may be cheaper ways to take these fun classes (previous poster mentioned community centers), but if you have financial aid or cool parents, add in the random stuff \n\n-someone else touched on this, but try to plan your courses so that you have a mix of easier/harder classes in a semester. I neglected to do this and toward my final two semesters, was taking 3-4 major-related courses that were six hours long, and that was before any out-of-class work. If I'd saved some lower-division throwaway electives, I could have avoided that mess.\n\n-as someone who now teaches as a graduate assistant: show up to class! Nothing is more frustrating than watching a talented, smart student fail a course because they couldn't be bothered to show up. I have given better grades to students who struggled but managed to attend class and be honest about it, while the skilled-but-lazy ones don't pass.\n\nHope some of this was helpful!\n\nSource: spent 6 years earning a four-year degree (God bless financial aid, community college, and state schools).\n\n\n\n\n\n", "Got a Teaching Assistant or prof that you can't understand? Got indications that he or she grades unfarly? Dump the class! I lost a scholarship because one of these assholes \"just didn't believe in giving A's\". My only B in four years, but it was a 5hour class my first semester, so it put my gpa 0.05 below the cutoff. I got screwed for sticking it out. ", "Study every day. Get the education you are paying for.\n\nNetworking is the second most important thing you can do in college.\n\nGet involved.", "Lower division classes can often be very similar, regardless of the professor. You are all tested on the same thing. Most of it is from the book. Most of it is memorization (except English, I guess). Most of it is covered in class to accompany the book reading. It wasn't until I got to upper div that the professor made the difference in the class.\n\nOther advice: Meet everyone you can, so that you can find a good group of people that you like to spend time with. ", "Don't take too much of a class load your first semester, especially if you will be living away from home for the first time. Life will be very different, and you'll need time to get your bearings and adjust.\n\nAnd yes, take the good professors. They can impact the way you view the world forever. Classes taught straight from the book are deadly boring and you're likely to forget it all the minute you submit the last test. \n\nStudy abroad at least once if you possibly can. \n\n", "Do not take the \"fun classes\". They're overpriced at college. You're better off using the college library to learn the \"fun classes\". Or if you're serious about it, look for places in town which teach that subject. They're a lot cheaper." ]

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[ "How do I keep a banana in my bag without it getting super ripe? It turns black, squishy, and tastes weird.", "How do I keep a banana in my bag without it getting super ripe? It turns black, squishy, and tastes weird." ]

[ "Put it in your bag while it's still greenish yellow and eat it within end of day ;) LIFO helps while ransacking ", "eat it. Nothing stopping an adult from eating all the food they are going to eat for a day at any time during that day, so when you think to yourself, this is for lunch, go eat two bananas in the morning, and at lunch you wont be hungry, or maybe three, hell, eat the whole cock of bananas.\n\nA bunch of bananas linked together how they are is called a cock (of) btw." ]

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[ "Does anyone have any tips for over coming test anxiety? Just to keep it short I am not in college or school, my job requires us to test every 2 years to keep our qualifications. You have to get an 80% or higher for passing, you get 3 tries or you loose your job. It is a HARD test 200 questions. I’ve never really had test anxiety but the first time I took this test I was so extremely nervous like oh my goodness the room was spinning, my chest felt tight I couldn’t understand the questions. I failed, then failed again, and passed barely the third try. \nHere we are again 2 years later, 2 weeks to go til my test. Does anyone have some tips? I think it’s the job jeopardy part that gets me every time. That I will loose my livelihood and be out of work. Any tips appreciated\n\n\nUPDATE: I passed! 89%! I found the gum worked really well, along with brain dumping everything the week before along with doing that on scratch paper! Thank you all so much for the wonderful advice!", "Does anyone have any tips for over coming test anxiety? Just to keep it short I am not in college or school, my job requires us to test every 2 years to keep our qualifications. You have to get an 80% or higher for passing, you get 3 tries or you loose your job. It is a HARD test 200 questions. I’ve never really had test anxiety but the first time I took this test I was so extremely nervous like oh my goodness the room was spinning, my chest felt tight I couldn’t understand the questions. I failed, then failed again, and passed barely the third try. \nHere we are again 2 years later, 2 weeks to go til my test. Does anyone have some tips? I think it’s the job jeopardy part that gets me every time. That I will loose my livelihood and be out of work. Any tips appreciated\n\n\nUPDATE: I passed! 89%! I found the gum worked really well, along with brain dumping everything the week before along with doing that on scratch paper! Thank you all so much for the wonderful advice!", "Does anyone have any tips for over coming test anxiety? Just to keep it short I am not in college or school, my job requires us to test every 2 years to keep our qualifications. You have to get an 80% or higher for passing, you get 3 tries or you loose your job. It is a HARD test 200 questions. I’ve never really had test anxiety but the first time I took this test I was so extremely nervous like oh my goodness the room was spinning, my chest felt tight I couldn’t understand the questions. I failed, then failed again, and passed barely the third try. \nHere we are again 2 years later, 2 weeks to go til my test. Does anyone have some tips? I think it’s the job jeopardy part that gets me every time. That I will loose my livelihood and be out of work. Any tips appreciated\n\n\nUPDATE: I passed! 89%! I found the gum worked really well, along with brain dumping everything the week before along with doing that on scratch paper! Thank you all so much for the wonderful advice!", "Does anyone have any tips for over coming test anxiety? Just to keep it short I am not in college or school, my job requires us to test every 2 years to keep our qualifications. You have to get an 80% or higher for passing, you get 3 tries or you loose your job. It is a HARD test 200 questions. I’ve never really had test anxiety but the first time I took this test I was so extremely nervous like oh my goodness the room was spinning, my chest felt tight I couldn’t understand the questions. I failed, then failed again, and passed barely the third try. \nHere we are again 2 years later, 2 weeks to go til my test. Does anyone have some tips? I think it’s the job jeopardy part that gets me every time. That I will loose my livelihood and be out of work. Any tips appreciated\n\n\nUPDATE: I passed! 89%! I found the gum worked really well, along with brain dumping everything the week before along with doing that on scratch paper! Thank you all so much for the wonderful advice!", "Does anyone have any tips for over coming test anxiety? Just to keep it short I am not in college or school, my job requires us to test every 2 years to keep our qualifications. You have to get an 80% or higher for passing, you get 3 tries or you loose your job. It is a HARD test 200 questions. I’ve never really had test anxiety but the first time I took this test I was so extremely nervous like oh my goodness the room was spinning, my chest felt tight I couldn’t understand the questions. I failed, then failed again, and passed barely the third try. \nHere we are again 2 years later, 2 weeks to go til my test. Does anyone have some tips? I think it’s the job jeopardy part that gets me every time. That I will loose my livelihood and be out of work. Any tips appreciated\n\n\nUPDATE: I passed! 89%! I found the gum worked really well, along with brain dumping everything the week before along with doing that on scratch paper! Thank you all so much for the wonderful advice!", "Does anyone have any tips for over coming test anxiety? Just to keep it short I am not in college or school, my job requires us to test every 2 years to keep our qualifications. You have to get an 80% or higher for passing, you get 3 tries or you loose your job. It is a HARD test 200 questions. I’ve never really had test anxiety but the first time I took this test I was so extremely nervous like oh my goodness the room was spinning, my chest felt tight I couldn’t understand the questions. I failed, then failed again, and passed barely the third try. \nHere we are again 2 years later, 2 weeks to go til my test. Does anyone have some tips? I think it’s the job jeopardy part that gets me every time. That I will loose my livelihood and be out of work. Any tips appreciated\n\n\nUPDATE: I passed! 89%! I found the gum worked really well, along with brain dumping everything the week before along with doing that on scratch paper! Thank you all so much for the wonderful advice!", "Does anyone have any tips for over coming test anxiety? Just to keep it short I am not in college or school, my job requires us to test every 2 years to keep our qualifications. You have to get an 80% or higher for passing, you get 3 tries or you loose your job. It is a HARD test 200 questions. I’ve never really had test anxiety but the first time I took this test I was so extremely nervous like oh my goodness the room was spinning, my chest felt tight I couldn’t understand the questions. I failed, then failed again, and passed barely the third try. \nHere we are again 2 years later, 2 weeks to go til my test. Does anyone have some tips? I think it’s the job jeopardy part that gets me every time. That I will loose my livelihood and be out of work. Any tips appreciated\n\n\nUPDATE: I passed! 89%! I found the gum worked really well, along with brain dumping everything the week before along with doing that on scratch paper! Thank you all so much for the wonderful advice!", "Does anyone have any tips for over coming test anxiety? Just to keep it short I am not in college or school, my job requires us to test every 2 years to keep our qualifications. You have to get an 80% or higher for passing, you get 3 tries or you loose your job. It is a HARD test 200 questions. I’ve never really had test anxiety but the first time I took this test I was so extremely nervous like oh my goodness the room was spinning, my chest felt tight I couldn’t understand the questions. I failed, then failed again, and passed barely the third try. \nHere we are again 2 years later, 2 weeks to go til my test. Does anyone have some tips? I think it’s the job jeopardy part that gets me every time. That I will loose my livelihood and be out of work. Any tips appreciated\n\n\nUPDATE: I passed! 89%! I found the gum worked really well, along with brain dumping everything the week before along with doing that on scratch paper! Thank you all so much for the wonderful advice!" ]

[ "I believe that it comes to preparedness for the test. Look around and see if you can find sample tests or prior years test. Keep taking them at home until you score 10% higher or in this case 90%.", "Take 0.25mg (lowest available dose) of Xanax 45 minutes before the test. It will make your performance anxiety disappear and you will rock the test. This is the most effective solution BUT never use Xanax again for no big reason as it's extremely addictive and it will ruin your life. You've been warned.", "Since you've taken similar tests previously for the same job, only you know the content being evaluated. If the material is skill-based, like CPR or legal best-practices, practice makes perfect. I'm sure your employer has given you a study guide, rubric or other form of exam prep, so follow it exactly. Do everything HR or your supervisor recommends for being successful. If you need additional help, ask for it. I don't mean cheating or bothering others for the answers, I mean hiring a tutor or discussing test success strategies with seasoned coworkers (off the clock). They will be more helpful than any of us can be.", "Scope out all the material that will be covered, list out the topics you need to have down, and set a schedule on which you will have gone through all of them ahead of time with plenty time to spare. Stick to your schedule, and try to get ahead of it if you can. Look for highly rated books and websites that explain stuff, and by all means do not skip out on YouTube videos on the subject. As you cover each topic, practice a few varieties of challenges you could encounter applying it. Hydrate well, eat healthier, exercise, do stretches, and get a good nights rest. Tell yourself positive affirmations that you are working diligently at your goal, and will succeed by your determination and fastidious efforts. Along the way take excellent notes of key details, which will serve as your review material closer to test time. And by all means, if anything just doesn’t click make sure you show up to meet with the subject matter expert who is testing you to ask for guidance on anything you have concerns about, any questions you can think of, what you should study/review, any pointers for doing well on the test, and any manuals you can borrow to prepare better. The test isn’t there to get you out of a job but to make sure you know what you’re doing and well. Your employer should be thrilled that you want to put in the effort to succeed with them, so don’t make things harder by not asking them for recommendations how to prepare so you can pass with flying colors. Also make sure to ask veterans who have already passed successfully for guidance, what helped them pass, any pointers they might have, and any trick questions to watch out for. Test anxiety is best overcame by being well prepared. Exercise every option you can come up with to prepare, prepare daily, and you’ll set yourself up for the best odds of success. However long you think you’ll need in hours to get ready, double it, focus during this time, and you’ll be much closer to realizing your goal. If you do all you can to get ready, then you will not worry about the outcome, because you will know you have already done all you can to get ready, and doing your best will be the only possible outcome.", "Two weeks until your test isn’t exactly the time to approach this problem but these are things that may help:\n\nDon’t drink caffeinated drinks like coffee or energy drinks. Anything that can have a stimulant effect will increase anxiety. \n\nLearn m", "Ok - best way to deal with test anxiety is to be prepared for your test. Know the material. Get yourself a test kit (this can just be a list). Things you can bring to help calm you during the test. Gum or candy (chewing gum can help boost blood flow to the brain - and if you study with the same flavour gum, familiar smells can boost memory), I use an essential oil called Study that helps when studying, then I bring it along for the test, if seeing a timer helps you focus, you can bring a small kitchen timer, a water bottle. \n\nIf you can visit where you are testing a little bit beforehand, check it out so you know exactly where you will park (if you’re driving, or where you’ll get off the bus or whatever) where the room is, where bathrooms are, etc. Take as much ‘unknown’ stuff off the table so you’ll feel confident and prepared. Also, visualize yourself acing the test.\n\nThe day of, be ready. Get sleep, eat a good breakfast that doesn’t have any foods you’re sensitive to, dress so you are very comfortable. Include some layers, sometimes test rooms can be uncomfortably hot or cold.\n\nGood Luck!", "Is it closed-book?\n\nFor me, I used to book a room with a big whiteboard. I'd fill up as much of the whiteboard as I could, and then stare at it until I was convinced I knew it by memory. Then I'd erase the entire thing and try to re-write it from memory. The stuff I couldn't remember, I'd check in my notes and fill in the spots. Then stare at it again until I thought I had it, erase it, and repeat.\n\nI'd do that until I could erase it and re-write it multiple times without errors. By test time, I could just picture the whiteboard in my head and \"see\" the information I needed.\n\n\\^ This is only a good strategy for when the test is very close - same day or maybe the following day. You aren't retaining the information and are just taking a short-lasting snapshot of it.\n\nAlso, do other people see your score on the exam? I always treat exams as an opportunity to show everybody else what I'm made of. \"Watch this\" kinda thing. I end up going into exams with excitement, not nerves.", "I've taken many professional tests, and failed two (very expensive, and a kick in the shorts as you can't retest for six months). Failed the GRE 4 times, max 5 times a year, scraped by on the 5th. Learned this: go in knowing you are going to fail. Just be good with that. You are paying for a \"practice test\". Study the test, look for the pattern of obvious wrong answers meant to throw you off (or misleading information that is pushing you to choose the wrong formula.) My GRE coach drilled me on quickly eliminating obvious wrong answers the instant I looked at a question. If I had to guess, I wouldn't be facing one in four odds, only one in two. Etc. Knowing you are going to fail helps to ease the pressure and you can attack the test rather than be stressed. You think with a dumb part of your brain when stressed." ]

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[ "How to get the best possible deal and service at auto repair shops, while knowing little about the industry. ", "How to get the best possible deal and service at auto repair shops, while knowing little about the industry. ", "How to get the best possible deal and service at auto repair shops, while knowing little about the industry. " ]

[ "I used to work at an auto shop. Regardless of what the majority of people think, they are almost never trying to screw you out of more money. The best tip i can give you is to not listen to what the service writers are telling you. If you want concise, accurate answers from someone who knows what they're talking about, talk to the mechanic working on your car. We really do care about your vehicle. We want to fix it as much as you want it fixed. If you slip the mechanic a tip, he/she is more likely to do extra stuff for you that isn't on the work order. Also, if you don't have an appointment, expect to wait for a long time. Never complain about how long it is taking. It's taking a long time because the mechanic is paying attention to detail.", "Use this when I don't know how much something should cost. It's great once u get used to it.\n\nhttp://repairpal.com/estimator?checking_cookies=true", "Ask your friends and people in your circle, I found my last 2 mechanics that way, and they've both been amazing (425 000 km)." ]

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[ "how to get a cold stick of butter room temperature and soft asap Microwaving sucks cause it heats and melts unevenly. I know, my first world problems suck", "how to get a cold stick of butter room temperature and soft asap Microwaving sucks cause it heats and melts unevenly. I know, my first world problems suck", "how to get a cold stick of butter room temperature and soft asap Microwaving sucks cause it heats and melts unevenly. I know, my first world problems suck", "how to get a cold stick of butter room temperature and soft asap Microwaving sucks cause it heats and melts unevenly. I know, my first world problems suck", "how to get a cold stick of butter room temperature and soft asap Microwaving sucks cause it heats and melts unevenly. I know, my first world problems suck", "how to get a cold stick of butter room temperature and soft asap Microwaving sucks cause it heats and melts unevenly. I know, my first world problems suck", "how to get a cold stick of butter room temperature and soft asap Microwaving sucks cause it heats and melts unevenly. I know, my first world problems suck" ]

[ "Put it between two pieces of wax paper and use a rolling pin to flatten it. Use big pieces of paper, can get messy fast. ", "Use a box grater or microplane to grate off the necessary amount into a small plate. By the time you go wash off the grater/microplane, the tiny buttery bits will have softened. ", "See the [America's Test Kitchen Video](http://www.americastestkitchenfeed.com/super-quick-video-tips/2011/08/how-to-quickly-soften-butter-video/)", "Nearly every microwave nowadays has a power setting. Just microwave it on 10-30% power, depending on your microwave wattage!", "Microwave with a cup of water on the opposite side of the microwave. Also, keep the butter on the side closest to the dial/number pad. Check every 15 seconds. I use this for a whole stick of butter when making several grilled cheese sandwiches at once. Takes about a minute to soften without melting. Dip your knife in the hot water you now have, and it works even better. ", "I use the microwave, but on the defrost setting. Cut the butter up into smaller chunks first, then microwave on defrost in 10-15 second intervals until it's softened. If any chunks of butter get soft before the others, remove them so they don't melt.", "Cheese slicer - slice thin strips and it should soften quickly. If you just want a little amount, for spreading on toast, instead of just taking a chunk, scrap a little over and over to soften it. Broken up, it spreads a lot easier." ]

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[ " first of all please let me know if this is the wrong sub for this.\n\nI live in the eastern suburbs of Sydney and my internet speed is embarrassing. As far as I'm aware ADSL2+ is my only option and whenever I test it comes in around 3.9 mbps download and 0.38 mbps upload. I think the main issue is the shitty copper wire connection as I live in a pretty old unit.\n\nAny LPT's out there besides forking out the extra dollars and using a mobile broadband connection?", " first of all please let me know if this is the wrong sub for this.\n\nI live in the eastern suburbs of Sydney and my internet speed is embarrassing. As far as I'm aware ADSL2+ is my only option and whenever I test it comes in around 3.9 mbps download and 0.38 mbps upload. I think the main issue is the shitty copper wire connection as I live in a pretty old unit.\n\nAny LPT's out there besides forking out the extra dollars and using a mobile broadband connection?", " first of all please let me know if this is the wrong sub for this.\n\nI live in the eastern suburbs of Sydney and my internet speed is embarrassing. As far as I'm aware ADSL2+ is my only option and whenever I test it comes in around 3.9 mbps download and 0.38 mbps upload. I think the main issue is the shitty copper wire connection as I live in a pretty old unit.\n\nAny LPT's out there besides forking out the extra dollars and using a mobile broadband connection?", " first of all please let me know if this is the wrong sub for this.\n\nI live in the eastern suburbs of Sydney and my internet speed is embarrassing. As far as I'm aware ADSL2+ is my only option and whenever I test it comes in around 3.9 mbps download and 0.38 mbps upload. I think the main issue is the shitty copper wire connection as I live in a pretty old unit.\n\nAny LPT's out there besides forking out the extra dollars and using a mobile broadband connection?", " first of all please let me know if this is the wrong sub for this.\n\nI live in the eastern suburbs of Sydney and my internet speed is embarrassing. As far as I'm aware ADSL2+ is my only option and whenever I test it comes in around 3.9 mbps download and 0.38 mbps upload. I think the main issue is the shitty copper wire connection as I live in a pretty old unit.\n\nAny LPT's out there besides forking out the extra dollars and using a mobile broadband connection?" ]

[ "Netlimiter is what I used before getting better net. You can limit your browser/music/video apps to a certain bandwidth. It helps if you do play games as it won't lag as much while you have music/videos playing in the background. \n\n", "Which are you trying to improve, download or upload? \n\nYour ISP is limiting the upload speed and most likely offers a plan with faster upload. \n\nThe physical properties of your connection which allows the faster download speed is the same.\n\nIf it is allowed in your area or for that matter if it still exists go to speedguide.net.\n\nRead about optimization of TCP. \n\nContact your ISP and inquire about a different plan. They assume that an individual is using the Internet more for download than upload and reserve the bandwidth for business.\n\nIf they don't offer another plan and after optimization of your connection you still aren't satisfied your only option is a second line with bridged modems assuming they allow non-proprietary equipment \n\n", "if you on windows try a free prog called tcp optimizer, cant say it will help you but fixed a couple problems me and my friends were having (it fixes registry issues related to internet windows never fixed)", "Do you have a mobile phone? If so see if the extra cost of an unlimited data plan would be cheaper then you're paying for internet. Then look in to an app called EasyTeather Pro. This is what I do to get internet on my laptop at work. 33.3mbps dl and 23.06mbps ul. Not the best but I can do just about anything I want and my phone bill only when up $20usd.", "At this point it would take more time, effort, and money to keep this going than it would for you to opt for a mobile broadband option. There are access points capable of broadcasting the signal into wifi, you would honestly be better off just opting for one of those. It will save you more headaches in the long run" ]

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[ "How to handle losing with sportsmanship and not be too hard on oneself. I am a very competitive person and I understand losing happens, but I fail to find good ways to handle losing. I get very angry at myself and often ruin the occasion for those around me if I get too frustrated. I know it should be simple, but this is happening again. Tips? ", "How to handle losing with sportsmanship and not be too hard on oneself. I am a very competitive person and I understand losing happens, but I fail to find good ways to handle losing. I get very angry at myself and often ruin the occasion for those around me if I get too frustrated. I know it should be simple, but this is happening again. Tips? ", "How to handle losing with sportsmanship and not be too hard on oneself. I am a very competitive person and I understand losing happens, but I fail to find good ways to handle losing. I get very angry at myself and often ruin the occasion for those around me if I get too frustrated. I know it should be simple, but this is happening again. Tips? ", "How to handle losing with sportsmanship and not be too hard on oneself. I am a very competitive person and I understand losing happens, but I fail to find good ways to handle losing. I get very angry at myself and often ruin the occasion for those around me if I get too frustrated. I know it should be simple, but this is happening again. Tips? " ]

[ "Try to look at losses as a great learning experience, both as a player and as a person. It means there is room for improvement, an opportunity for you to grow. If you get frustrated, that's essentially because you're not satisfied. You're not satisfied with the result, with what happened, with how you performed, etc. It's okay to be upset, but try to put things into perspective. Things didn't go your way but you can't change the past, so instead of dwelling on it, channel that frustration in the right direction, which is forward. Let it motivate you to be better than you currently are, so that what happened won't happen again. When something doesn't work out, that means you can do better. It's a never-ending process of learning and growing. Look ahead.", "Some people are just sore losers! \n\nI am one myself! So don't take it as me bashing because I understand how you feel. \n\nI used to be openly angry, but I've found that keeping a poker face in the public makes everything easier when you go back and can mull over the loss privately, where you can get as angry as you want. \n\nIts about perception.\n\nDon't ever let them see you down! ", "If you were only to win then you would be terrible at choosing your competition. \n\nOne rarely improves by playing only those they are better than. Every time you lose you should thank yourself for giving yourself a challenge to grow by, and thank your opponent for giving you both an opportunity to play the game you love and the chance to see what the next wrung up looks like.", "I occasionally say verbally to the opponent that next time ill get you (in a nice way you know) and I say the same line to myself \"next time\" ill get you. This way I forget about what just happened for now, and focus on the \"next time\". I comeback later on to analyze what I did wrong when I feel like it." ]

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[ "How to keep cell phone from falling out of pockets (slacks, dress pants) Hi i was wondering what can i do about my phone falling out? I have these really nice slacks that i wear to clubs but everytime i sit i have to hold my phone in my hand or hold it in my pocket...Why i ask is that I will be in vegas and i dont think i will be sober enough to remember. ", "How to keep cell phone from falling out of pockets (slacks, dress pants) Hi i was wondering what can i do about my phone falling out? I have these really nice slacks that i wear to clubs but everytime i sit i have to hold my phone in my hand or hold it in my pocket...Why i ask is that I will be in vegas and i dont think i will be sober enough to remember. ", "How to keep cell phone from falling out of pockets (slacks, dress pants) Hi i was wondering what can i do about my phone falling out? I have these really nice slacks that i wear to clubs but everytime i sit i have to hold my phone in my hand or hold it in my pocket...Why i ask is that I will be in vegas and i dont think i will be sober enough to remember. ", "How to keep cell phone from falling out of pockets (slacks, dress pants) Hi i was wondering what can i do about my phone falling out? I have these really nice slacks that i wear to clubs but everytime i sit i have to hold my phone in my hand or hold it in my pocket...Why i ask is that I will be in vegas and i dont think i will be sober enough to remember. ", "How to keep cell phone from falling out of pockets (slacks, dress pants) Hi i was wondering what can i do about my phone falling out? I have these really nice slacks that i wear to clubs but everytime i sit i have to hold my phone in my hand or hold it in my pocket...Why i ask is that I will be in vegas and i dont think i will be sober enough to remember. " ]

[ "aim your pockets downward. they should naturally do this when you sit down, but some pants dont. that way they wont stay horizontal", "You could turn the pocket inside out, and sew some velcro on the bottom of the inside...just a tiny partial strip is all you'd need. Then put the other side on the back of your phone. Then any time you put your phone all the way to the bottom of your pocket, it would stick there, but still easy to remove (hence the tiny strip on the pocket side... enough to stick, not enough to yank your pocket inside out when you take your phone out).", "Get a thick phone case? I had the same problem with my Galaxy S III, but when I got an Otterbox for it, it stopped falling out.", "buy some moleskin in the foot care section of CVS or walgreens, and stick it onto your phone. This should cause enough friction where the phone won't be slippery and it won't cause much bulk. ", "> I have these really nice slacks\n\nSounds like maybe there aren't as nice as you think. I can't recall my phone ever falling out of my pocket except when they've been removed from me." ]

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[ "How can I improve the Wifi connection from my apartment in a community complex? For context, I live in an apartment complex where each resident/tenant is on the same Wifi network provided from the complex itself and my specific unit doesn’t appear to have a router or extender anywhere inside. I’m constantly dropped from virtual meetings, disconnected from online games, etc. \n\nI’m mainly looking for ways to improve the Wifi connection and overall speed for my laptop/Xbox without having to go find my own internet provider. Any tips?", "How can I improve the Wifi connection from my apartment in a community complex? For context, I live in an apartment complex where each resident/tenant is on the same Wifi network provided from the complex itself and my specific unit doesn’t appear to have a router or extender anywhere inside. I’m constantly dropped from virtual meetings, disconnected from online games, etc. \n\nI’m mainly looking for ways to improve the Wifi connection and overall speed for my laptop/Xbox without having to go find my own internet provider. Any tips?", "How can I improve the Wifi connection from my apartment in a community complex? For context, I live in an apartment complex where each resident/tenant is on the same Wifi network provided from the complex itself and my specific unit doesn’t appear to have a router or extender anywhere inside. I’m constantly dropped from virtual meetings, disconnected from online games, etc. \n\nI’m mainly looking for ways to improve the Wifi connection and overall speed for my laptop/Xbox without having to go find my own internet provider. Any tips?" ]

[ "Get your own internet service to the apartment. That way you don't have to share the bandwidth with everyone else.", "You can pick up your own network extender, tho it will usually require you plugging it into your pc/laptop with an ethernet cord to set it up.\n\nBut shared wifi is not secure from any standpoint, not to mention the bandwidth. It's like using the wifi at a cafe. The apartment complex can easily have an audit history of every site that your devices go to, amongst other things.", "Do you have ethernet in the apartment anywhere? If so, you could put in a [travel router](https://www.lifewire.com/top-travel-wireless-routers-2377742)" ]

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[ "How to get a cable company to stop sending you mail even though you've already called and requested to be taken off their mailing list ", "How to get a cable company to stop sending you mail even though you've already called and requested to be taken off their mailing list ", "How to get a cable company to stop sending you mail even though you've already called and requested to be taken off their mailing list " ]

[ "If you don't care about receiving anything from them. Cross out the address on the letter addressed to you an write MOVED on it. It will go the the return address and they will mark you off the mailing list for having the wrong address", "[In the US go to the FTC website.](https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/articles/0262-stopping-unsolicited-mail-phone-calls-and-email)", "You can always sort paper types in bins from junk mail, and fill trash bags with them.\n\nYou can get between $50 and $75 per ton of recycled paper.\n\nFigure a stuffed trash bag weighs 100 lbs, That's $2.50 on the low side per trash bag.\n\nIf you break the process down into your daily mail routine, it's not even really a hassle to do." ]

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[ "How to stop being mediocre at everything? I'm mediocre at everything. I can barely do just enough to do my job and survive. I start shaking when I'm in a position of slight pressure. In other words I'm just bullshitting my way in life.\n\nLooking at other people they are amazing at what they do, can communicate eloquently, can form opinions on topics and back up their claims, and many other amazing feats. I can do none of those.\n\nHow can I change?", "How to stop being mediocre at everything? I'm mediocre at everything. I can barely do just enough to do my job and survive. I start shaking when I'm in a position of slight pressure. In other words I'm just bullshitting my way in life.\n\nLooking at other people they are amazing at what they do, can communicate eloquently, can form opinions on topics and back up their claims, and many other amazing feats. I can do none of those.\n\nHow can I change?", "How to stop being mediocre at everything? I'm mediocre at everything. I can barely do just enough to do my job and survive. I start shaking when I'm in a position of slight pressure. In other words I'm just bullshitting my way in life.\n\nLooking at other people they are amazing at what they do, can communicate eloquently, can form opinions on topics and back up their claims, and many other amazing feats. I can do none of those.\n\nHow can I change?", "How to stop being mediocre at everything? I'm mediocre at everything. I can barely do just enough to do my job and survive. I start shaking when I'm in a position of slight pressure. In other words I'm just bullshitting my way in life.\n\nLooking at other people they are amazing at what they do, can communicate eloquently, can form opinions on topics and back up their claims, and many other amazing feats. I can do none of those.\n\nHow can I change?", "How to stop being mediocre at everything? I'm mediocre at everything. I can barely do just enough to do my job and survive. I start shaking when I'm in a position of slight pressure. In other words I'm just bullshitting my way in life.\n\nLooking at other people they are amazing at what they do, can communicate eloquently, can form opinions on topics and back up their claims, and many other amazing feats. I can do none of those.\n\nHow can I change?", "How to stop being mediocre at everything? I'm mediocre at everything. I can barely do just enough to do my job and survive. I start shaking when I'm in a position of slight pressure. In other words I'm just bullshitting my way in life.\n\nLooking at other people they are amazing at what they do, can communicate eloquently, can form opinions on topics and back up their claims, and many other amazing feats. I can do none of those.\n\nHow can I change?" ]

[ "Acknowledge where you’re comfortable at. Once done, think of ways you can be better. Are you better behind the scene? Do you prefer working silently away from the limelight? \n\nWe will always have weaknesses, and to be great at everything is nearly impossible. ", "There is no single thing that will make you better at everything. If you want to be better at something then do it. With the internet it is not hard to get answers on how to do anything you want. Work every single day and do at least one small thing that will move you towards where you think you can get to. First identify your goals and draw line between them based on what needs to get done to reach your goal. It’s not complicated or even hard, it just takes interest and dedication. ", "Hey, i felt just like you and was diagnosed with ADHD. Since, i surfed the adhd subreddit and found out that i am not alone in this. You might want to take a look and see if you can relate", "Think about what you're *least* mediocre at. Develop that trait/skill, then brach out from there. What you want to do is develop a skill *set,* a group of skills that reinforce one another, and when you develop one skill within the set, it synergistically makes the others more effective. Spend time in your off hours focusing on them as well. Integrating work skill-sets into daily life develops them that much faster. \n\n​\n\nOnce you do this, others will notice, then start naturally approaching you for those tasks rather than ones you're less effective with. You'll build a reputation for effectiveness which should develop self-confidence as well, which seems to be the root issue here.", "It takes time to perfect something. Always try to find a way to improve even if it's something small. ", " I found \"mediocrities\" very common and u shldnt feel bad about it. If u truly wanna be good at sth specific, spend time n efforts no matter it is knitting, one anime series or a computer programming languages. Actually try not to care what other think and keep on doing sth that makes u happy ( as long as its ethical n legal lol) " ]

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[ "How to keep squirrels out of flowers without putting up things like netting. Preferably something to spray on them, or put in the soil.", "How to keep squirrels out of flowers without putting up things like netting. Preferably something to spray on them, or put in the soil.", "How to keep squirrels out of flowers without putting up things like netting. Preferably something to spray on them, or put in the soil.", "How to keep squirrels out of flowers without putting up things like netting. Preferably something to spray on them, or put in the soil.", "How to keep squirrels out of flowers without putting up things like netting. Preferably something to spray on them, or put in the soil.", "How to keep squirrels out of flowers without putting up things like netting. Preferably something to spray on them, or put in the soil." ]

[ "Would just like to share my experience with sonic deterrents- the kind you stake in the ground to repel dogs, squirrels, and bunnies. They work only on medium size dogs and small deer. Everything else will eat right under them.\n\nI'm currently looking at motion activated sprinklers for the neighbor's dog. Following this thread for other ideas.", "I gave up and call the squirrel that digs in the flowers and plants Steve. Now its just funny to see what Steve gets into next. ", "We use to have a deer, racoon and rabbit problem in our organic vegetable garden. our neighbor told us about a product called \"deer-away\". Its basically fox urine. Its mixed with an oil based medium so one application lasts months. Should re-apply after a rain. You only spray the perimeter of the area not directly on the plants. Worked like a dream! Problem completely solved. ", "I plant habaneros. I found one once with a big bite out of it. They stopped messing around the garden after that.", "Try sprinkling spicy cayenne pepper and black pepper around the base of the flowers. It's harmless to the environment and surprisingly effective.", "Get a pellet gun, pellets, and a scope for the pellet gun. Learn how to shoot a squirrel in the head, kill and eat about two of them and they usually don't show up again. Worked for me!" ]

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[ "How to deal with personal questions during interviews? I'm applying for some scholarships for college, and I just finished a video interview that didn't go too well. They didn't ask many intellectual questions as I expected, but they asked a lot of personal questions like \"Tell me about a time you've worked under stress\" or \"Tell me about a time you made a difficult decision to do the right thing.\"\n\nYeah except I'm a fresh high school grad with fairly limited experiences and extracurricular experiences, so I've never been put in a seriously difficult spot. I ended up having to bullshit through the two questions, while stuttering really badly.\n\nHow should I have dealt with such questions? ", "How to deal with personal questions during interviews? I'm applying for some scholarships for college, and I just finished a video interview that didn't go too well. They didn't ask many intellectual questions as I expected, but they asked a lot of personal questions like \"Tell me about a time you've worked under stress\" or \"Tell me about a time you made a difficult decision to do the right thing.\"\n\nYeah except I'm a fresh high school grad with fairly limited experiences and extracurricular experiences, so I've never been put in a seriously difficult spot. I ended up having to bullshit through the two questions, while stuttering really badly.\n\nHow should I have dealt with such questions? ", "How to deal with personal questions during interviews? I'm applying for some scholarships for college, and I just finished a video interview that didn't go too well. They didn't ask many intellectual questions as I expected, but they asked a lot of personal questions like \"Tell me about a time you've worked under stress\" or \"Tell me about a time you made a difficult decision to do the right thing.\"\n\nYeah except I'm a fresh high school grad with fairly limited experiences and extracurricular experiences, so I've never been put in a seriously difficult spot. I ended up having to bullshit through the two questions, while stuttering really badly.\n\nHow should I have dealt with such questions? ", "How to deal with personal questions during interviews? I'm applying for some scholarships for college, and I just finished a video interview that didn't go too well. They didn't ask many intellectual questions as I expected, but they asked a lot of personal questions like \"Tell me about a time you've worked under stress\" or \"Tell me about a time you made a difficult decision to do the right thing.\"\n\nYeah except I'm a fresh high school grad with fairly limited experiences and extracurricular experiences, so I've never been put in a seriously difficult spot. I ended up having to bullshit through the two questions, while stuttering really badly.\n\nHow should I have dealt with such questions? ", "How to deal with personal questions during interviews? I'm applying for some scholarships for college, and I just finished a video interview that didn't go too well. They didn't ask many intellectual questions as I expected, but they asked a lot of personal questions like \"Tell me about a time you've worked under stress\" or \"Tell me about a time you made a difficult decision to do the right thing.\"\n\nYeah except I'm a fresh high school grad with fairly limited experiences and extracurricular experiences, so I've never been put in a seriously difficult spot. I ended up having to bullshit through the two questions, while stuttering really badly.\n\nHow should I have dealt with such questions? ", "How to deal with personal questions during interviews? I'm applying for some scholarships for college, and I just finished a video interview that didn't go too well. They didn't ask many intellectual questions as I expected, but they asked a lot of personal questions like \"Tell me about a time you've worked under stress\" or \"Tell me about a time you made a difficult decision to do the right thing.\"\n\nYeah except I'm a fresh high school grad with fairly limited experiences and extracurricular experiences, so I've never been put in a seriously difficult spot. I ended up having to bullshit through the two questions, while stuttering really badly.\n\nHow should I have dealt with such questions? " ]

[ "This is whats referred to as the S.T.A.R. method. Situation or task, Action, and Result/Response. Its pretty common in most interview settings. You answer them in order. Describe the situation or task you are about to talk about, state your actions in that situation, then state the response/result.. Read below for example...\n\n'Tell me about a time you made a difficult decision to do the right thing...'\n\nGreat question mr interviewer.. That brings to mind a specific time when i was combing through the posts on a fairly large internet community. I noticed a post where an individual was asking for help on a topic to which i knew the exact answer. He was asking about job interview techniques, what to expect from interviews(situation). I kindly informed him of the S.T.A.R. method for interviews and gave home a quick example of how to answer questions using the s.t.a.r. format.(action i took). He was so happy that i shared that knowledge that he gave me reddit silver and messaged me after his next interview saying he got a new job, thanks in part to the help i provided(result/response). It was a difficult decision for me to make because it was 330 am at the time and i shouldve been asleep, but i knew this individual would benefit from the information, so i decided to share the knowledge.\n\nLet me know if you have any other questions. Good luck on your next interview!\n\n*", "Use highschool examples if thats all you know! They’re primarily trying to gauge how you work under pressure, so answer with your experiences during finals week, or times you had multiple projects due at the same time and you managed to complete them all in a timely manner by prioritizing certain ones and remaining calm and focused. Remember most jobs want to know how you can handle the workload, stress, working with others. So mention group projects, if you played any sports etc. Hope this helps with future interviews! \nP.S. Never leave an interview feeling disappointed, they are all learning experiences that you get better at over time. And dont EVER turn down an interview, even if you know you won’t take the job, interview experience is very valuable! Good Luck!", "These are behavioral questions and they are very common during interviews in your career. The intent is to understand how you may handle situations that you may encounter while in college or in a job. \n\nYour answer does not have to be the “most” stressful situation you can imagine, but reflective response. It may sound something like this...\n\n\n“When I was a junior (11th year), I fell ill with the flu resulting in falling 2 weeks behind and unable to meet deadlines for important essay and end of year finals was approaching. After the first 2 days of being ill, I knew it was important to make my teachers aware of my situation so I reached out via email asking if they would kindly let me know the day’s assignments and gave them regular updates on my situation. Unfortunately I could not complete the work and continued to fall behind. I was concerned I would not be able to recover academically. \n\n“As I began to recover, I started mapping all my assignments that I needed to complete based upon impact to my grades, ensuring I focused on the most impactful first. I shared the plan with my teachers. I made arrangements to stay after school each day as required, forgoing sports, work, or time with friends to ensure I caught up.”\n\n“I learned it is important to communicate early and often with those best able to help in challenging situations”\n\nHope that helps.. I would encourage you to research common behavior questions, then for each one, list out 2-3 behaviors and anything you learned in the experience.", "Behavioral questions are really common. Google the ideal responses and tailor them to yourself. You'll find that the real question is always \"how did you overcome this/learn something from this/what innate characteristics or skills do you have that help handle this situation?\" They don't actually want to hear about a stressful event for you if you don't answer the above", "Lots of good advice on here but something a little more general is just take a do breathe before you answer. You don't have to start talking imm", "In past interviews I’ve had using star or bar (background action results) format its always good to state when you are moving into the next step “ the situation I was encountered was... the action I took...\nThis way it a reminder to your interviewer and yourself that you are moving into the next step instead of one big run on speech. " ]

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[ "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?", "How to stay cool at night with no AC It was in the low 90s today (33 C) and I don't want to sweat in my sheets all night. Any tips? Any type of bedsheet that's best for these situations?" ]

[ "Blow the cold night air into your room by using a fan in the window. Stay as close to the ground as possible because hot air rises. Buy a $1 spray bottle and fill it with water, spray yourself all over whenever you start to get too hot. \n\nJust make sure if you're putting the fan in the window that you don't accidentally leave it in when the sun rises and gets hot again. It will pipe flaming air into your room.", "Right before bed put cold water on spots where you first feel cold in the winter (i.e. neck, feet, thighs, shoulders). Not too much to get your bed completely wet. Works for me.", "Position a fan at the foot of your bed, and drape that end of your bedsheet over the fan in such a way as to not restrict airflow through the fan. You may need to tie the sheet to hold it in position.\nYou'll need to tie off the opposite corners of the sheet to keep it on your bed. \nIf done correctly, you'll have your own wind tunnel with air flowing from the foot of your bed toward and out the head of your bed. \nGrab a blanket, because you will be cold. \nThis can potentially dehydrate you, drink plenty of water. \nI've personally done this, it works amazingly well. ", "Put some ice in a plastic lunch bag and keep it behind your neck, stomach, or anywhere you'd like. \n\nYou should cool down and keep cool 🙂👍 ", "I find moving air helps a LOT. Others have suggested a window fan, and that may be a good solution. Make sure there are other windows open so the fan can work better.\n\nI have a very small desktop-sized fan right by my bed (nightstand) that I run each night. Since it's nearby, I can adjust/angle it so the air is moving right over me.", "Find a cool towel (special microfiber towel that somehow feels cool when exposed to air--I bought mine in Korea for $3, but I've seen them at sporting goods stores in the US). Wrap it around your neck while you sleep.\n\nOther option I see around Asia is a bamboo mat on top of your mattress. No idea how comfortable that'd be though.", "Cool shower, fans, cotton sheets and try to relax. Misting with water is nice. Window fans are a good way to be cooler.", "wear a silk nightie to bed, even if you are a guy. Something about the shape and texture of the garmet will actually wick the heat away from you, unlike male PJs. And it is actually cooler than sleeping nude ! Try it if you don' believe me.", "Point the fan full blast on your feet. Helps me.\nAlso, take a cold shower, but end it blazing hot, it'll make the outside feel cooler.", "Keep windows closed and curtained during the day, but open several or all at night so air can circulate. Extra points if you put a fan in one of them.\n\nIf your house is multiple floors, sleep downstairs if possible. \n\nSleeping naked helps your body regulate its temperature better.\n\nTake a shower that starts hot and then turn it cold slowly. Your body lowers its temperature before sleeping and this can facilitate that and cool you off.", "If you have the space nearby a patio or balcony door you can move your mattress there.\n\nIf you're in an apartment usually the hallways are pressurized so you can set up near the front door and the breeze from the air passing under the door should help.\n\nSet up a cross breeze throughout your place if you can. Open windows on either side and have a fan help to move the air along once you find which direction it is moving. ", "I've heard: Place fan at window height, pointing inside towards you. Blow it slightly downward at/across a bowl of ice, so the air that reaches you is blown off of the ice. I had a client who survived a summer at the top floor of an apartment building that way. Bonus: sleep naked. ", "I've found that my feet tend to get hot, so by using a wet cloth I can put it on my feet to help draw out the heat, much like a computer heat sink.", "I find that wearing clothes is important. In winter, I just wear boxers and sleep under a quilt and blankets. In Summer, I wear shorts and a tee/vest at least and sleep under only a sheet. That plus a fan keeps me comfortable. ", "Get yourself a bamboo tile mat, layer it on top of your mattress and sleep on that. With an AC, it becomes frigid cold, but even without an AC, the mat stays cool.", "Don't put a blanket over your body, turn off all electronics in your room and turn on a fan (if yoou have one) and open all your windows.", "A ceiling fan. The one in my bedroom works great, having a little breeze blowing over you keeps you cool.", "Just aim a fan right at your face. You will never be hot.\n\nOr you can stop sleeping like a cowboy and just get air conditioning. It's 2016 and it's the greatest thing ever. Just do it. So worth it.", "Get a humidifier and a window fan. The humidifier is to clean the air. Then turn the fan on 30 minutes to an hour before you go to bed to have a cool temperature." ]

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[ "How do you multitask while listening to audiobooks? I can't seem to focus on listening and doing something else. I tried listening to audiobooks and doing mundane stuff like dishes or laundry but stopped listening to the book after a while.", "How do you multitask while listening to audiobooks? I can't seem to focus on listening and doing something else. I tried listening to audiobooks and doing mundane stuff like dishes or laundry but stopped listening to the book after a while.", "How do you multitask while listening to audiobooks? I can't seem to focus on listening and doing something else. I tried listening to audiobooks and doing mundane stuff like dishes or laundry but stopped listening to the book after a while.", "How do you multitask while listening to audiobooks? I can't seem to focus on listening and doing something else. I tried listening to audiobooks and doing mundane stuff like dishes or laundry but stopped listening to the book after a while.", "How do you multitask while listening to audiobooks? I can't seem to focus on listening and doing something else. I tried listening to audiobooks and doing mundane stuff like dishes or laundry but stopped listening to the book after a while.", "How do you multitask while listening to audiobooks? I can't seem to focus on listening and doing something else. I tried listening to audiobooks and doing mundane stuff like dishes or laundry but stopped listening to the book after a while." ]

[ "I took up a habit of going for walks everyday for about an hour. Listen while you walk. Two birds one stone", "Multitasking is a myth. The brain can be conscious about only one thing. Many studies about this. The only way you can multitask is only when the other task you can do subconsciously. I.e. the post about walking, or running. Even than people get into more accidents during running while listening to things that requires attention. \n\nOne LPT couple of days ago suggested to watch your favorite show while exercising to make the time pass faster and make exercising more fun. Unless the exercise is stationary bike or treadmill, either you are not going to pay attention to the show or your workout is going to be half ass because don't have the concentration a lot of workouts, specially weights, need.", "Depends on what I’m doing. When I’m programming or doing something with cluster then I can listen only music. When I’m doing home things then I can even listen to movie because I’m in automatic mode", "iMO, you can't. There's a brief passage in the classic novel, \"Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance\" where the author Robert Pirsig discusses the issue of listening to music and trying to focus on an important task. His assersion is that music is enough of a distraction to reduce the quality and quantity of the task at hand. I agree with that theory. Lots of people vehemently swear that certain types of music can enhance a learning or studying experience. My opinion is, that's a weak and subjective justification to listen to music while doing something you'd rather not be doing.", "To be honest, I also do not understand how people do this. Technically you can only do one task at a time or can only focus at one thing at a time.\n\nI have to tell to that I haven't tried doing it though, but if you can't do it, then you probably shouldn't\n\nHope this helps 👍🏻", "Depending on the audio book and the task I’m trying to do at the same time I’ll act as if I’m having a conversation with the audio or remark on it out loud to myself. It doesn’t really work great for everyone, but I found I would retain more or what’s being said by being more actively engaged with it like a conversation with a nonstop talker than just trying to listen silently." ]

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[ "Finals Help Finals are this week for me in high school. I have previously been known to ace the class, fail the final, and end up with a high C instead of the A I had for 95% of the class. Anything to help me out would be great. I am a good student but can't handle tests at all and that sends my grade plummeting. Thanks in advance for the help. ", "Finals Help Finals are this week for me in high school. I have previously been known to ace the class, fail the final, and end up with a high C instead of the A I had for 95% of the class. Anything to help me out would be great. I am a good student but can't handle tests at all and that sends my grade plummeting. Thanks in advance for the help. ", "Finals Help Finals are this week for me in high school. I have previously been known to ace the class, fail the final, and end up with a high C instead of the A I had for 95% of the class. Anything to help me out would be great. I am a good student but can't handle tests at all and that sends my grade plummeting. Thanks in advance for the help. ", "Finals Help Finals are this week for me in high school. I have previously been known to ace the class, fail the final, and end up with a high C instead of the A I had for 95% of the class. Anything to help me out would be great. I am a good student but can't handle tests at all and that sends my grade plummeting. Thanks in advance for the help. ", "Finals Help Finals are this week for me in high school. I have previously been known to ace the class, fail the final, and end up with a high C instead of the A I had for 95% of the class. Anything to help me out would be great. I am a good student but can't handle tests at all and that sends my grade plummeting. Thanks in advance for the help. ", "Finals Help Finals are this week for me in high school. I have previously been known to ace the class, fail the final, and end up with a high C instead of the A I had for 95% of the class. Anything to help me out would be great. I am a good student but can't handle tests at all and that sends my grade plummeting. Thanks in advance for the help. " ]

[ "Think about what you are studying in the context of , How could I make this knowledge in to a test answer. Then make flash cards asking those questions you made up . Example: Marco Polo was a Venetian merchant who traveled through Asia. Flash cards could say ________ was a Venetian Merchant who traveled through Asia. on the back Side have Marco Polo. I find this best for knowledge based tests . For computational test such as math and science I find the best method is to simply take out a text book or class problems and repeat repeat repeat until you have mastered the material. For the actual test it is important to be confident in yourself, and if multiple choice narrow down the results by marking answers that you know are wrong and then narrow down the options. Good luck on finals! ", "Move when you study. Walk around with notecards, read while you run, draw a picture of what you're studying as detailed as possible. ", "I know this sounds incredibly stupid but I thing a learnt is that is you should study to get more marks and not gain knowledge. It is probably the biggest flaw of out education system. ", "Do practice tests if possible. This is a pretty common problem. People know the content but have 0 familiarity with the questions. I would say a person with 25% understanding of syllabus and 100% understanding of questions would score add much as or more than a person with 100% understanding of syllabus and 25% understanding of questions.\n\nAt the end of the day, it's not really a test of how much you know, it's a test of your understanding of what is being asked of you, and being able to provide the appropriate information.", "You say you have an \"A\" for most of the class, then blow the final and average a \"C\". How and why did you get the \"A\"? Doing all of your homework and getting graded on it? That's a good place to start reviewing. Tests and quizzes? Also places to review. You say below that you feel confident before and during the exam, yet do not score well. Are you sure your information is correct? In the mid-90's, I was at a seminar where one of the topics shown was a fledgling computer-based testing program developed by one of the utilities for it's people. Based on what you gave for an answer it showed that you had complete knowledge, partial knowledge or INCORRECT knowledge. The way the test was set up, the incorrect part showed either that you had a little knowledge in the topic or even worse, were confident in your knowledge but it was wrong. You may be confident in your knowledge that the Declaration of Independence was signed on May 5, 1492 or that the Incas stormed the Bastille and freed the peasants in the Russian Revolution or to find the area of a rhombus you use the formula 3.14*e=mc2. Check your \"facts\" with the facts covered in class. Check your notes, the texts, your classmate's notes (the smart ones, not the guy that slept through class all term.)", "I think your first course of action is to figure out WHY you are bombing the final. Test anxiety? Not studying long enough? Not showing up? And then work from there. The internet is a great resource to find help if you need it. Depending on why, you could find some great tips to help to take tests and keep your grade! " ]

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[ "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen.", "How to stop thinking about death. Strange request I know. I am happily married with 2 kids and a decent job but at least once a day my mind wanders to what happens upon death. I always give myself a panic/anxiety attack at this point as i just cant deal with it.\n\nI can't remember the last day this didn't happen." ]

[ "Find something you LOVE to think and talk about. Whenever those wierd/death/won't go away thought circles start, switch to that other subject - give yourself a brain break and obsess over something great instead of the thoughts that bug you. If you don't have a passion for something you enjoy obsessing over: look for one.\n\nRemember we do not control the thoughts that come through our mind. They just flash through like bilboards on the highway, you have to train/remind yourself to keep looking at the road instead of the billboards.", "Well one thing that really helped me was that I realized something that most people don't realize. I've already been dead. So have you, and so have all of us. Everyone is dead before they are alive.\n\nBefore I was alive I wasn't afraid, I didn't care, and it didn't really matter. That is where I'll return, the same place I came from.", "I struggle with this so much too. My issue is everyone that says \" well it's coming no matter what so just deal with it \" like okay but that doesn't make me feel better. Makes me feel worse actually. Makes me think about it more. \"Just accept it\" wow thanks so insightful.", "Reading the [letter](http://founders.archives.gov/documents/Franklin/01-06-02-0171) that Ben Franklin wrote his friend who had just lost her (Aunt? I think they were) really eased my fears about death. ", "Being dead is exactly the same as before you were born. The only difference is when you die, you leave people behind. Plan for that. ", "If you're having frequent panic/anxiety attacks and you feel like these thoughts are troubling you, my advice would be to seek a therapist. Often times just getting a medical professional to help can greatly increase your understanding of your own thoughts and help you be more comfortable with whatever you may be going through. This doesn't mean there is anything 'wrong' with you, but maybe that you just need a little help to feel a little less lost.", "I have had the same daily thoughts about death for many years. Do you remember what life was like before you were born? Death is a lot like that. Dwelling on death and the thoughts causing you discomfort, \"panic/anxiety attack\" is the worse thing death is ever going to do to you. Recently, I have found comfort in the following. What alternative would you prefer to how life is now? Would you really want to live forever? Life is fleeting, and for me, that's one of the things that makes it special. The payoff is to be aware of the moment, enjoy what you have, and be grateful. (Also, maybe try reading some Seneca.)", "People saying \"Just deal with it\" are partially right. They're just being a little simplistic about it. However, there are other ways to go about it as well. But first, \"just deal with\":\n\nFate. Everyone is fated. Don't worry about the future, because you can't predict it, and what is going to happen is going to happen. But it's hard to just say \"Don't worry about it\". You are going to worry, so instead of worrying about *death* (the future), worry about the *present*. THAT is something you have control over. Really, it's the *only* thing you have control over. The past is locked in, you can't change it, but it has provided you with a set of options for use in the *present* that can help steer you towards the future you want. The future isn't guaranteed, but you can at least attempt to shape it by making the right choices in the present, which means your focus will be on the present instead of the future. This may help.\n\nAlso, my wife has an interesting theory on why people worry about death, and cling to life so hard: They're unfulfilled. She's worked at a nursing home for years now, and she says there's SO MANY patients who are terrified of death, but all the ones that fear it have done almost nothing with their lives. They wasted them away on drugs or just doing nothing, and now they're on their deathbeds and they're regretting. She says the ones that *did* live fulfilling lives and have stories to tell, they're not worried about death. They put themselves on \"DO Not Resuscitate\" and let themselves go, because they're at peace. But the ones that did nothing, that really have nothing to live for, and are in horrible shape and pain, have every measure in place to keep them alive if they start to go. The staff has to go to great lengths to revive that person, for basically no reason other than the person can't accept their fate.\n\nFinally, one thing that REALLY helped me was I stopped looking at the future as a scary, unknown thing, and instead started letting it be an exciting, adventurous surprise. So now, even in bad times, I'm *excited*. I want to see what comes next. \"Oh, we're low on money and have bills to pay. *Let's see how we get out of this mess!*\" I've taken the same approach to death. I don't fear it anymore, because it's gonna happen, so when it does, I'm actually kind of excited to see what happens *next*. Maybe nothing, maybe everything. Maybe I come back as a beetle, maybe I'm just worm food. But for now, I won't worry about it. It's just death, it's natural, and when it comes, hopefully I'll embrace it with the attitude of \"OK, let's see what this is all about!\". ", "I deal with this a lot. \n\nPlease don't think that the \"acceptance\" thing is the only way. It doesn't work for a lot of us. I just try and think of something else, or work myself tired until I go to sleep quick. \n\nThe fact is, death sucks. Sure, sometimes it is easier to accept, but then other times it hits you like a bag of bricks. It's OK to freak out over sometimes. Therapy never helped me with this issue. I had to find coping methods that worked for me, and it was a lot of trial and error. ", "Please seek a therapist or counselor. Really. Everyone has a normal amount of fear/anxiety about death, but if this is really affecting you you there may be something else going on that you need help coping with. If nothing else, therapy is a good opportunity to build coping skills for worries and anxiety.", "Can you remember what you experienced before you were born? You needn't concern yourself with \"death\" anymore than you should try to recollect what it was like 'being' before you came into this world. Only the mind, the ego, is afraid of death because it's the unknown...realize that you will not be around to experience death, in fact death does not even exist, only life *is*", "Realize there is no escaping it. Realize we're all destined for it. Accept these facts. Having done so, make the best of the time you have... which is hard to say since you could die at any moment, and wouldn't even see it coming.", "There is no forgetting, only acceptance. \n\nPoetry can help with that: [here's a favorite of mine. ](http://writersalmanac.publicradio.org/index.php?date=2005/02/11) ", "Ok well fear of or obsession with death is a key part of the human condition. To conquer it one would need to achieve self actualization.\n\nSince that is a mammoth feat it is a bit easier simply to replace the thoughts through activity. Usually enjoyable activity. Idle minds wonder and too much self investigation can lead to some depressing conclusions. You need to challenge your mind more and do more cognitively challenging things during the times you would usually spend thinking about death. \n\nIt is the unfulfilled soul that obsesses over their death. You need to find something to add to your life to make it more enjoyable and fulfilling. A simple hobby can do this.\n\nAlso this isn't an instant change. It took me months before I realized I had stopped fretting over death. In my case it was simply through adding less personal time to my schedule by forcing myself to hang out with new people. Didn't make any new friends but the positive effects were clear.", "I used to stress about this all the time and i find comfort in the fact that you'll probably live twice as long as most of your ancestors in the past did, so don't get butthurt and upset. Smile and enjoy everyday. Don't waste time stressing, you'll only die sooner with all the stress and anxiety beating you up everyday. ", "I used to freak out about death a lot too.\nOne day I came to the realization that when I die I will not feel sad or afraid, I just will not be. \nIt won't matter to me, so why worry? ", "Depending on how bad your anxiety attacks are you should definitely consider professional help. While it's easier for some to tell you to deal with it, only you know how bad it affects you. \n\nI dated a guy this last summer with 4 kids who confided in me that his biggest fear was death because he worried about what would happen to his kids when he dies. Don't know if that's relevant to your fear of death but just thought I'd throw that out there. \n\nI've chosen to not believe in any religion, so death isn't something that terrifies me on a basis of 'what will happen to me when I die?' As a result, even though I try to be a good person but do fuck up, I'm never drowning in guilt & worrying about going to the bad place. If you have the time, look up the philosopher Epicurus. He teaches that we should focus more on being alive & cultivating meaningful relationships instead of spending our whole lives worrying about death.\n\nThat being said, while I don't experience full blown panic attacks, there are times I can go down the rabbit hole & have some not-so-pleasant thoughts about death. \n*First, I don't keep in contact with my parents or brother (they're not good for me), and aside from 2 close friends I don't have many people who would even miss me, so that in itself is somewhat depressing. \n*Second, I worry about my dogs and who would take care of them if I die. \n*Third, while I don't want to suffer a long & painful death, I would much prefer time to know that I'm going to die so that I have time to reflect on life, which is probably why I have a deep seated fear that I'll die in a car accident. \n*Forth, aside from having a child, nothing scares me more than thinking I may be stuck in this apartment waiting tables at the same restaurant & never do anything 'meaningful' with me life. If I became terminally ill tomorrow, I can't lie, I would become incredibly depressed that I never got to fulfill my dreams of moving out of Michigan, finishing college, and getting a job that I truly love. \n\nIf this problem is bad enough that it affects your life in a negative way, you should definitely do something about it, but also don't let this fear make you feel different from anyone else. A lot of people suffer from things like this but people just don't talk about it. A fear of the unknown is natural, but it's about learning how to control it. \n\nWhile I doubt it will help, I'll share a parable I heard many years ago that could possibly have some relevance:\n\nThe Black Door or the Firing Squad\n\nAn Arab Chief tells the story of a spy who had been captured and sentenced to death by a general of the Persian army. The general had fallen upon a strange and weird custom. He permitted the condemned person to make a choice. He could either face the firing squad or pass through the Black Door.\n\nAs the moment of execution drew near, the general ordered the spy to be brought before him for a short, final interview, the primary purpose of which was to receive the answer of the doomed man to the query: \"Which shall it be -- the firing squad or the Black Door?\"\n\nThis was not an easy question, and the prisoner hesitated, but soon made it known that he much preferred the firing squad. Not long thereafter a volley of shots in the courtyard announced that the grim sentence had been fulfilled.\n\nThe general, staring at his boots, turned to his aide and said, \"You see how it is with men, they will always prefer the known way to the unknown. It is characteristic of people to be afraid of the undefined. And yet I gave him his choice.\"\n\n\"What lies beyond the Black Door?\" asked the aide.\n\n\"Freedom,\" replied the general, \"and I've known only a few men brave enough to take it.\"\n\n\n", "Think about yourself in your spouse's shoes or kid's shoes for a second. Take a breath. You're alive, which means you'll survive. They will too.", "Norm Macdonald's words on death and its deadly inevitability actually made me appreciate life more after listening to it. [It's a long video but it's the first radio interview which is relevant.](https://youtu.be/gDji8i1jrWY)", "Just try not to think of the inevitably gruesome death where you linger on for several minutes / hours in unbearable agony knowing the whole time that this is it; you are dying and all you can do is try to catch your breath so you can scream some more. Hopefully it's not like that, so that's something. ", "I don't have enough karma to post a LPT but I study philosophy as an undergrad and pursue this a lot. First we have to accept that it will happen, just like we will be hungry at some point. Then we have to understand why we fear it. Is it a fear of what's after? If so then we have to let go of our habit to prepare for possible futures and live day to day accepting whatever life brings. We can't know the future so we have to stop trying. Or is it a fear of what will be lost, which is life our life itself? Our life is what's in it, and we can live being afraid to lose the things we have. Our families die, friends move, lovers fade, and materials deteriorate. Love the life, not the things that it's composed of. \n\nThen we have to figure out how to live once we have let go of fear. What is the point of life if it is isn't everlasting in this form? Does anything even matter? Even if we die, what matters is the joy we are able to experience. Find joy and share it. Find joy in everything and never let the struggles of life ruin it. To be joyful and to share is it to end the struggles, including the struggle with death. If we're always joyful, death can't come at a bad. \n\nOne day I hope to write a book or journal or something that helps people with this but that's what I can give for now. Back to my finals. ", "Have you talked to a mental health professional. You could suffer from garden variety anxiety and your mind needs an \"excuse\" for that feeling, so it finds \"death\" a good bone to gnaw on. I used to do that with my social life and it got tedious. So, I went to a mental health pro and got anti anxiety meds. I stopped fucking up my social life (because I was taking it so seriously) and felt a lot calmer. ", "From my experience, it's about having a healthy balance of acknowledging death, but not letting it consume your life. I think about death every day, but in a strange way I believe death motivates me. I also accepted the fact that death is a part of life and getting angry at death is like getting upset that the sun rises. That's not to say that I don't get upset when a loved one dies, but I no longer wonder \"Why me?!\" \n\nAlso, I've found that these two books have helped me in the past:\n\nMan's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl - survived concentration camp and was a psychiatrist\n\nM", "Life's a bitch and then you die. Let's not tippy toe round the subject. Realising that death is inevitable is far better than being under the illusion of immortality. I'm sorry but the time is running out." ]

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[ "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?", "What should you do in the 0.5 seconds you get between realising you are about to crash your car and actually crashing? I was thinking about this whilst driving earlier today, I have been in a car crash before and there is definitely a period between the point of no return and the actual collision where you think to yourself \"oh fuck...\" - But is there anything people can actually do in this brief window to reduce the probability of injury?" ]

[ "Brake / continue braking. Any decrease of energy in the crash will greatly improve survivability. Avoid the crash by steering. Most people become target fixated. If you stare at what you're about to hit, you're going to hit it. Look to where an escape route may be, and steer away from the collision. Many many accidents are still avoidable even if people think they are inevitable. Without proper, advanced driver training and discipline, too many people 'freeze' when they perceive an impending accident, instead of trying to avoid it. ", "Move your thumbs to the outside edge of the steering wheel where your fingers are. This will stop them getting fractured if the airbag goes off.", "I'm a former auto insurance liability adjuster, i.e: I determined who was at fault in crashes. The insurance industry answer to your question would be to do everything possible to mitigate the collision by performing an evasive action. Evasive actions that could be done are chiefly braking or swerving, and sometimes honking. \n\nTime for an example of what not to do: I took a statement from a woman who had the right of way and struck my customer's vehicle after my customer failed to obey a stop sign, pulling directly in front of the woman's car. I asked the woman what she did to avoid the collision, and her response was \"I knew I was going to hit the other car so I closed my eyes and prayed.\" That is the wrong answer. Her insurance company agreed that she was either 10 or 20 percent at fault for the collision for failure to perform evasive action. ", "Keep your hands on the wheel until your car stops moving. This minimises the car's chances of skidding. You may get bruised but you don't get badly hurt ", "Tense up, scream like a little girl, pump the breaks and throw your hand out to secure the passenger in place.\n\nJust kidding. In a modern car the best thing you can do is step on the breaks hard and firm and steer the direction you want to go (the traction control will try to help you get there).\n\nOn a more general note, know where your airbags are. For example my car has a knee airbag and an airbag that comes out of the seat so I've had to get accustomed to not resting my knee against the door or my arm out the window. Of course always wear your seatbelt. Read how to install car seats correctly.\n\nIn a modern car most accidents are survivable.", "Go take a high performance driver class before it happens. The instructors will help you bring your car towards the edge (but not terribly close on your first weekend) and they will give lessons and instructions on how to handle your car if it gets out of control, including pressing pretty heavily on target fixation. Look where you want to go, and then drive the car there. ", "Both in front and rear collision, hold on to the wheel and push yourself back into the seat. This gives the passive safety systems higher probability of working as they where designed. For rear impact keeping your head against the headrest drastically reduces risk of whiplash. For front it makes the belt have as long distance as possible to catch you and reduce energy and at the same time the airbag positions correctly and catches your upper body and head. And for gods sake when driving, make sure that the hip belt is placed tight and low on your hips. /Take this advise from a safety system designer doing virtual crash tests all day. Good luck! ", "dont move your hands and keep them on the steering wheel, make sure your back is pressed against the seat ,\n\nthis is because manufacturers design airbags expecting you to be sitting normally", "Teaching yourself is so much you can do, but in the real moment (I'm talking the splits of seconds) you won't be able to make a proper move, most likely instincts would kick in.", "Relax. More bones are broken when you tense up. Seriously! Ask any medical professional.\n\nIt's the same reason you \"black out\" when you have an accident. Your body is trying to save you from BIG damage.", "Relax and enjoy the ride. And DONT make and sudden corrections. So many crash videos on youtube where half of the crashed could be avoided or reduced by not over correcting and spinning into an oncoming lorry!\nAlso, if a car is coming across your path, either out of control or pulling out on you, go for the back of the car, not the front. All that happens if going for the front is more car comes in front of you. Going for the back you have a chance of it no longer being there when you get there!", "Path of least death/monetary damage/resistance. In that order. If ice related then think traction and deceleration, never slam the breaks on ice. That just causes loss of control. If fishtailing theN no break, gas every swerve will straighten it out, breaks will exaggerate the swerve and the vehicle will flip backwards. TRACTION IS PRIORITY #1.\nSource:\tagressive Minnesota driver.", "IF you have a half second to react and IF the accident cannot be avoided (by braking), push your head back against the head rest (best to avoid neck injury) and pull both feet away from the pedals (to avoid the most common injury--to the legs).", "I was driving 70 mph down the Interstate when a drunk driver crossed the median. I had 0.8 seconds to try doing something. I did get on the brakes which amazed the state patrol, but all that really accomplished was to break both wrists and my leg in lots of places. \n\nIt wasn't until afterwards while I was watching some documentary on stunt driving that I learned stunt drivers let go of the wheel when they crash. I wish they would have taught that in drivers ed.\n\nRemember human reactions times are about 0.25 seconds, presuming you used one reaction to notice the crash coming and you still have 2 left. Your best bet is to get off the brake, with ABS your not leaving skids nowadays anyway, and let go of the wheel. \n\nYou can try to avoid but most times I have been in accidents have been sitting still at a red light, there is nothing to do since you have no energy to use that'll get you away fast enough. Even Tesla's Ludicrous speed won't help from a standing start it they are coming fast. But getting off the brake seems to reduce damage as the car moves when it absorbs the impact.", "I crashed my car a few years ago. In that slow-motion moment right before impact, I remembered what my cop dad always told me--drunks survive wrecks because they are relaxed. \n\nOnce I could tell there was no going back, I did my best to relax my whole body. Car was rolled and totaled, but I walked away with whiplash and no broken bones. I was probably just lucky, but it might have helped. ", "I began the process of moving my foot over to the brake... and that's about as far as I got before the airbag interrupted me.", "Don't brace your body against the seat by pushing yourself into it with your arms and legs, and don't lock your head against the headrest. If you do, every muscle and bone in your body will be opposing the full force of the impact and you will get much more severely injured than if your body were more relaxed. If your head is braced against the headrest, the best you can hope for is a moderate to severe concussion.", "Close your eyes so your eyelids take the friction-burn from the airbag instead of the surface of your eyeballs (corneas)", "cross your hands and arms so they are touching your shoulders and tuck in your chin. I think this is what NASCAR drivers do.", "If you know for definite sure that you are going to wreck, if you are the driver remove your hands from the wheel and cross your arms over your chest. This will minimize the chances of breaking your thumbs from the airbag and any chance of breaking your arms. If you are the passenger, cross your arms and put your chin against your chest. When the airbag deploys, you will be less likely to have your nose broken.\n" ]

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[ "Easiest way to remove pet hair from clothes. Have 3 dogs and a cat and my clothes are always covered in pet hair. Looking for a quick and easy way to remove the hair.", "Easiest way to remove pet hair from clothes. Have 3 dogs and a cat and my clothes are always covered in pet hair. Looking for a quick and easy way to remove the hair.", "Easiest way to remove pet hair from clothes. Have 3 dogs and a cat and my clothes are always covered in pet hair. Looking for a quick and easy way to remove the hair.", "Easiest way to remove pet hair from clothes. Have 3 dogs and a cat and my clothes are always covered in pet hair. Looking for a quick and easy way to remove the hair.", "Easiest way to remove pet hair from clothes. Have 3 dogs and a cat and my clothes are always covered in pet hair. Looking for a quick and easy way to remove the hair.", "Easiest way to remove pet hair from clothes. Have 3 dogs and a cat and my clothes are always covered in pet hair. Looking for a quick and easy way to remove the hair.", "Easiest way to remove pet hair from clothes. Have 3 dogs and a cat and my clothes are always covered in pet hair. Looking for a quick and easy way to remove the hair." ]

[ "When I don't have a lint roller handy, I will wet my hands and while they're still damp, wipe them down my clothes and it gets the pet hair off.", "Duct tape! make a loop of it so the sticky is on the outside and wrap the non sticky bit around your hand, boom! \n[sauce]\ni own 3 long haired cats and their fluff is everywhere\n[/sauce]", "Cheap rubber dish gloves from the dollar store. Dampen slightly, then rub on the hair-coated surface. The hair/fur will roll up into disgusting balls, which you can toss. Rinse the glove. Lots cheaper than the sticky-tape rollers and can be reused. Also, you don't even need to put the glove on if you are in a rush or they don't have ones that fit. This also works great on things that cannot be washed like furniture and drapes.\n\nExperience: I have a Maine Coon cat.", "Use disposable gloves (the ones nurses use). Wear those and rub it against tour clothes. For me, it works pretty good.", "http://www.amazon.com/Evercare-Giant-Lint-Roller-Sheet/dp/B0029X489A/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&qid=1424359362&sr=8-8&keywords=lint+roller+sticky\n\nYou can get them at Wal Mart. More sticky than your average lint roller. Really strong for getting those clinging hairs out.\n\nKeep in mind that if you keep them in your car that they don't fare well in temperature changes and will eventually stop sticking/become impossible to change sheets etc.\n\nThough the best advice really would be the have a room that the critters don't go into that you would keep your clothes in. It will reduce your problems by probably 80% as far as \"going out clothes\" are concerned.\n\n", "Use duct tape, and just roll it in a way, that there's one layer reversed (so that it's sticky) and just run that over clothes. It's cheap, and very, very useful. I hope I made myself clear enough...", "I have two cats. Here's how I do it:\n\n1. Keep lint rollers in your car and office desk.\n2. Pets must stay out of the closet and/or bedroom.\n3. Pets get shaved in late spring, early fall. They are also bathed and brushed regualrly.\n4. Vacuum often. I have a Roomba for daily duty and an upright vac for furniture." ]

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[ "Getting multiple passport photos (like 6) without the risk of rejection for less than $40 Surprisingly there isn't a lot of information about places taking passport photos. My application requires six of them and Walgreens wants to charge me $12*3!\n\nIs there any better place which reasonbly prices multiple copies? I understand charging for the labor, but not multiplying the amount where only extra prints are required.", "Getting multiple passport photos (like 6) without the risk of rejection for less than $40 Surprisingly there isn't a lot of information about places taking passport photos. My application requires six of them and Walgreens wants to charge me $12*3!\n\nIs there any better place which reasonbly prices multiple copies? I understand charging for the labor, but not multiplying the amount where only extra prints are required.", "Getting multiple passport photos (like 6) without the risk of rejection for less than $40 Surprisingly there isn't a lot of information about places taking passport photos. My application requires six of them and Walgreens wants to charge me $12*3!\n\nIs there any better place which reasonbly prices multiple copies? I understand charging for the labor, but not multiplying the amount where only extra prints are required.", "Getting multiple passport photos (like 6) without the risk of rejection for less than $40 Surprisingly there isn't a lot of information about places taking passport photos. My application requires six of them and Walgreens wants to charge me $12*3!\n\nIs there any better place which reasonbly prices multiple copies? I understand charging for the labor, but not multiplying the amount where only extra prints are required.", "Getting multiple passport photos (like 6) without the risk of rejection for less than $40 Surprisingly there isn't a lot of information about places taking passport photos. My application requires six of them and Walgreens wants to charge me $12*3!\n\nIs there any better place which reasonbly prices multiple copies? I understand charging for the labor, but not multiplying the amount where only extra prints are required.", "Getting multiple passport photos (like 6) without the risk of rejection for less than $40 Surprisingly there isn't a lot of information about places taking passport photos. My application requires six of them and Walgreens wants to charge me $12*3!\n\nIs there any better place which reasonbly prices multiple copies? I understand charging for the labor, but not multiplying the amount where only extra prints are required." ]

[ "Take a photo with your phone against a blank wall. Then go to 123passportphoto.com and resize. If you have a printer and photo paper you can do it at home or just take the file to print in a store. Used this successfully myself", "https://www.epassportphoto.com/ \nNever paid more than 20 cents, 4 pp photos in 4x6 sheet for 20cents. \nThey even guide you per requirements of each country, resizing, brightening guidelines and everything done in 3/4 steps. In the end download free photo(made it hard to find recently but hey). Upload to Walmart/Cvs/Costco to get a photo printout. \n\nMuch faster/cheaper than going to a place and get a picture taken and printed out.", "When we went to apply for our passports they took the pictures right there. Not sure if that is an option for you but I believe they charged just a few bucks for them. ", "There are apps you can use that will size them perfectly \nAnd then you Can print them at the drugstore or from amazon prints \nJust an FYI that drugstores may not want to print passport size photos but it’s worth a shot and you may get a cashier who doesn’t know or care about printing them for you \n\nAlso, if you wear glasses I think you have to remove them for the photos. I didn’t and had to redo the whole application.\n", "Call around. There's a one man shop near me that only charges $10 for the lot. Maybe there's one like that near you.", "All of the responses so far have assumed you're in the United States, so I will do the same until told otherwise. Walgreens does passport photos at most of their locations" ]

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[ "How to get rid of the non-stop spam phone calls? I swear I am getting 4-5 spam telemarketer 'increase your profits' or 'you've been selected' calls a WEEK now. They often wake me up at 6AM and blocking their numbers doesn't do anything.\n\nI've also gone to the National Do Not Call Registry and signed up.\n\nNo luck.\n\nHow can I stop these pests!?", "How to get rid of the non-stop spam phone calls? I swear I am getting 4-5 spam telemarketer 'increase your profits' or 'you've been selected' calls a WEEK now. They often wake me up at 6AM and blocking their numbers doesn't do anything.\n\nI've also gone to the National Do Not Call Registry and signed up.\n\nNo luck.\n\nHow can I stop these pests!?", "How to get rid of the non-stop spam phone calls? I swear I am getting 4-5 spam telemarketer 'increase your profits' or 'you've been selected' calls a WEEK now. They often wake me up at 6AM and blocking their numbers doesn't do anything.\n\nI've also gone to the National Do Not Call Registry and signed up.\n\nNo luck.\n\nHow can I stop these pests!?", "How to get rid of the non-stop spam phone calls? I swear I am getting 4-5 spam telemarketer 'increase your profits' or 'you've been selected' calls a WEEK now. They often wake me up at 6AM and blocking their numbers doesn't do anything.\n\nI've also gone to the National Do Not Call Registry and signed up.\n\nNo luck.\n\nHow can I stop these pests!?", "How to get rid of the non-stop spam phone calls? I swear I am getting 4-5 spam telemarketer 'increase your profits' or 'you've been selected' calls a WEEK now. They often wake me up at 6AM and blocking their numbers doesn't do anything.\n\nI've also gone to the National Do Not Call Registry and signed up.\n\nNo luck.\n\nHow can I stop these pests!?", "How to get rid of the non-stop spam phone calls? I swear I am getting 4-5 spam telemarketer 'increase your profits' or 'you've been selected' calls a WEEK now. They often wake me up at 6AM and blocking their numbers doesn't do anything.\n\nI've also gone to the National Do Not Call Registry and signed up.\n\nNo luck.\n\nHow can I stop these pests!?", "How to get rid of the non-stop spam phone calls? I swear I am getting 4-5 spam telemarketer 'increase your profits' or 'you've been selected' calls a WEEK now. They often wake me up at 6AM and blocking their numbers doesn't do anything.\n\nI've also gone to the National Do Not Call Registry and signed up.\n\nNo luck.\n\nHow can I stop these pests!?" ]

[ "Try call blocking apps like truecaller if privacy is not a matter. Check online for truecaller privacy issues before you start using. Hope this helps", "There is an awesome video by barnacles nerdgasm on YouTube about this. What he did what set his answer machine to play a dial up tone, so anyone calling would hear that and think they were calling a modem, so they would stop calling. ", "Sign up on the no call registry! I've heard that they are not allowed to call you if you do.\n\nLink: https://www.donotcall.gov/", "Ignore them. (Don't answer them) when they call, let it ring. Could be a few days or weeks.\n\nIF YOU RESPOND THEY WILL KEEP CALLING.\n\nI get random calls. They are like bullies, IGNORE THEM AND THEYRE POWERLESS SINCE THEY GET BORED AND HAVE BIGGER FISH TO FRY!!! ", "I used to have the same problem. Despite 'pressing 1 to be placed on our do not class list', nothing happened even after 2 weeks. Then I started listening to the call, transferring to a live person, then then asked them not to call me. It takes about 2 mins but pisses the operators off. \nNow I get maybe 2 such calls in a month.", "I used to get them fairly frequently, until I went through a phase of answering them and wasting as much of their time as humanly possible by trolling them. Haven't gotten any calls since. Maybe I got blacklisted? ", "Android 7.1.1 phone dailer started to show which numbers are spam. If an unknown number rings on my phone and it has been reported by multiple people Android will make the screen red as do not answer or blue if the unknown number has no reports." ]

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[ "How can a person train themselves to be less physically lazy? I am a very lazy person by nature. I come from a long line of lazy folks. I don't mean that I'm a procrastinator. I am actually good about getting tasks done, by maintaining to-do lists. I mean that I find it difficult to make myself get off my butt and do physical things like exercise, chores, etc. I'm not proud that I'm like this. What are some practical ways that I, and others like me, can improve in this area?", "How can a person train themselves to be less physically lazy? I am a very lazy person by nature. I come from a long line of lazy folks. I don't mean that I'm a procrastinator. I am actually good about getting tasks done, by maintaining to-do lists. I mean that I find it difficult to make myself get off my butt and do physical things like exercise, chores, etc. I'm not proud that I'm like this. What are some practical ways that I, and others like me, can improve in this area?", "How can a person train themselves to be less physically lazy? I am a very lazy person by nature. I come from a long line of lazy folks. I don't mean that I'm a procrastinator. I am actually good about getting tasks done, by maintaining to-do lists. I mean that I find it difficult to make myself get off my butt and do physical things like exercise, chores, etc. I'm not proud that I'm like this. What are some practical ways that I, and others like me, can improve in this area?", "How can a person train themselves to be less physically lazy? I am a very lazy person by nature. I come from a long line of lazy folks. I don't mean that I'm a procrastinator. I am actually good about getting tasks done, by maintaining to-do lists. I mean that I find it difficult to make myself get off my butt and do physical things like exercise, chores, etc. I'm not proud that I'm like this. What are some practical ways that I, and others like me, can improve in this area?", "How can a person train themselves to be less physically lazy? I am a very lazy person by nature. I come from a long line of lazy folks. I don't mean that I'm a procrastinator. I am actually good about getting tasks done, by maintaining to-do lists. I mean that I find it difficult to make myself get off my butt and do physical things like exercise, chores, etc. I'm not proud that I'm like this. What are some practical ways that I, and others like me, can improve in this area?" ]

[ "My band teacher in middle school would always say: \"If you do something 22 times in a row, it becomes habit.\"\n\nI've found that true. If I can just force myself to do something for a few weeks, it becomes a habit and I don't even have to think about it anymore. I just tell myself:\"OK I just have to do this 22 times.\"\n\n", "Yup as others have said, being lazy habitual behavior. It takes hard work and focus to break it, especially in the beginning, but you have to care enough. It gets easier like all things. I notice if I take a few weeks off working out (like in the summer when its 95 degrees in my garage) it takes so much focus to get back in the habit again, but eventually you enjoy it", "This is very much a personal situation but it helps me. I use my laptop at work and when I get home I'm tired and don't want to do anything. What I do is leave my laptop in a completely different part of the house and take care of what I need to do. Since I don't have my normal distraction, it helps me get things done.", "Exercise, any sort, is nothing more than routine. There's no getting around the fact that you'll have to change something, and permanently, if you want to change your physical activity.\n\nSo what you need is a routine. The best I've always found, is to have a specific time, where I walk to the shops, to get groceries for dinner. Not the big things, mind you, like proteins. But fresh stuff, like cilantro, some cauliflower, or something like that. I manage it by making sure I don't really keep fresh things in my fridge that will probably go to waste anyway. So I walk or run to the shops with a backpack, and only bring back a couple of things, that are easy to carry.\n\nThen, given time, I pick a set of shops that are further away from home. Instead of a 30 minute round trip, it becomes a 60 minute round trip. Do this three times a week at least. For me it's usually five or so.", "Dont rely on motivation, rely on diciplin. Force yourself to get out and run.\n\nThe easiet way is to find someone to exercise with. " ]

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ready, but I wasn't sure if anyone had any tips on actually speaking to the people working their tables ", "Speaking to recruiters at job fairs I know a few myself, such as making sure to research the company, having already applied online, having a resume and business cards ready, but I wasn't sure if anyone had any tips on actually speaking to the people working their tables ", "Speaking to recruiters at job fairs I know a few myself, such as making sure to research the company, having already applied online, having a resume and business cards ready, but I wasn't sure if anyone had any tips on actually speaking to the people working their tables ", "Speaking to recruiters at job fairs I know a few myself, such as making sure to research the company, having already applied online, having a resume and business cards ready, but I wasn't sure if anyone had any tips on actually speaking to the people working their tables ", "Speaking to recruiters at job fairs I know a few myself, such as 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cards ready, but I wasn't sure if anyone had any tips on actually speaking to the people working their tables ", "Speaking to recruiters at job fairs I know a few myself, such as making sure to research the company, having already applied online, having a resume and business cards ready, but I wasn't sure if anyone had any tips on actually speaking to the people working their tables ", "Speaking to recruiters at job fairs I know a few myself, such as making sure to research the company, having already applied online, having a resume and business cards ready, but I wasn't sure if anyone had any tips on actually speaking to the people working their tables ", "Speaking to recruiters at job fairs I know a few myself, such as making sure to research the company, having already applied online, having a resume and business cards ready, but I wasn't sure if anyone had any tips on actually speaking to the people working their tables ", "Speaking to recruiters at job fairs I know a few myself, 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speaking to the people working their tables ", "Speaking to recruiters at job fairs I know a few myself, such as making sure to research the company, having already applied online, having a resume and business cards ready, but I wasn't sure if anyone had any tips on actually speaking to the people working their tables ", "Speaking to recruiters at job fairs I know a few myself, such as making sure to research the company, having already applied online, having a resume and business cards ready, but I wasn't sure if anyone had any tips on actually speaking to the people working their tables ", "Speaking to recruiters at job fairs I know a few myself, such as making sure to research the company, having already applied online, having a resume and business cards ready, but I wasn't sure if anyone had any tips on actually speaking to the people working their tables ", "Speaking to recruiters at job fairs I know a few myself, such as making sure to research the company, having already applied online, having a resume and business cards ready, but I wasn't sure if anyone had any tips on actually speaking to the people working their tables " ]

[ "Recruiter here: first of all, know something about my company and why you want to work with us (hint: needing a job doesn't make me swoon); even if it is BS, have an answer of hand and show genuine excitement. I put my name on the line when I hire a candidate and send them along to work with a team, if you've got no personality or drive, I'll lose my credibility as a recruiter so don't be a dud. Know the line between confidence and cocky, if you talk about your general awesomeness for five minutes straight I won't hire you (again, I might lose my credibility by hiring that annoyingly cocky intern/new guy). Simply put: smile, have confidence with humility, know something about my company and why you want a job there and show yourself to be a fun, knowledgeable individual with whom people would actually want to work!", "I actually JUST went to a Job Fair myself. Few quick tips.\n\n* **Dress to impress** - Make sure you look good. Shine those shoes, style that hair, iron that shirt, etc. You also want to make sure you stand out 'slightly' and are not just another face in the crowd.\n\n* **Nice resume on nice paper** - I had a nice blue tinted linen resume. You honestly couldn't tell it was blue unless it was in a stack of 5- other white resumes. This worked out VERY well for me, because when I went to contact them later, be it via e-mail, LinkedIn, etc. I was able to say that I was the one with the blue resume. They always remembered.\nBe sure to at least get some nice paper. They'll notice when they grab it, even if they don't say anything.\n\n* **Folder** - Something to carry your resumes in. Preferable a black, pseudo leather business folder. Looks great, and since it is solid you can offer it to them to write on.\n\n* **Resume Style** - I have an HR resume and a personal resume. The HR one is a bit plain since they are usually just looking for key words, etc. My personal one is when I know I will be handing it to some one. Being a CS guy I spruced it up and put some 'pseudo' functions on it ie. Application.getExperience();, etc. The people at the job fair loved it. They all pointed it out and talked about it. It was clever, it stood out, and they are going to remember it.\n\n* **Have a website (optional)** - This is more optional, it'll depend on what career you are looking for. But in general, having a site that holds your resume and also a portfolio of your work is great. It shows you are going above and beyond. They are also really cheap... Mine was 35$ for a year (obviously discounted price and goes up after the first year, but I'll just go find another deal after that)\n\n* **Practice on the companies you \"don't like\"** - There will be companies there you just don't have a huge desire to work for, or who aren't looking for someone with your qualifications.... Practice on them. Walk up, be bold, and go for it.\n\n* **Be someone they would want to work with** - Crack a joke, get them to laugh, show them you're passionate, just be a great person to be with.\nGreat example from The Pursuit of Happiness. Will Smith walks in with paint all over, not in a suit, etc. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gHXKitKAT1E\n\n* **Be bold / confidant** - Even if you know from the first handshake that they are not going to hire you, be bold. What do you have to lose?\n\n* **Skip the swag** - You're there for a job, not the free bags, plushies, etc. they are handing out. Politely decline. I told one company \"You can save that to put on my desk in a few weeks\". They laughed.... I got a call the next day for an interview.\nIf you REALLY want to swag, go back around later and grab it. But I don't think it looks good talking to let's say Google with a drawstring bag from Nike and a notebook from Microsoft. You want to look professional.\n\n\n\nEh.. that's all I got for now... I'll add more if I can think of them.", "I just did a few job fairs to recruit for my company (small start up), so I have some fresh impressions of what worked and what didn't.\n\nDid NOT work: a couple of people came up to me as we were packing up. I had just spent the entire day \"on,\" talking to people, and I wanted to fucking throttle the stragglers.\n\nGiven this, my personal strategy would be: go super early, do a couple of practice warm-ups on companies you like but aren't dying to work for, and then make a beeline for the company you like, before they've gotten swarmed and worn out. THEN I'd stick around until later in the day, when things have died down, and swing by to shake their hands again and reiterate my interest. That way you'll make a good impression when they're in their best mood, and also establish yourself in their mind later in the day. Maybe this last part won't work if they're such a popular company that they're swarmed the entire time (you'd just be causing more work for them by stopping by again), but use your judgment.\n\nImportant: FOLLOW UP! Don't just wait for them to e-mail you. Make your follow up brief but specific- remind them of your conversation, reiterate why you are so excited for the opportunity. This is so, so important.\n\nDo NOT launch into a monologue about yourself as soon as you talk to the recruiter. Treat it more like a normal conversation. Yes, sell yourself, but they don't want to hear you recite your resume.\n\nDon't just research the facts about the company; be able to ask intelligent questions and have a solid conversation about their products/industry.\n\nStrange strategy that worked on us: one guy talked to my boss about how excited he was about the product and then showed her a picture of his corgi on his iphone and said, \"This is [dog's name]. This is how you'll remember me.\" The next day at work she said, \"I really liked this guy, and he showed me a picture of his corgi to remember him by. He attached the photo to his follow up e-mail.\" We were a little bemused and totally charmed. We brought him on for an internship and we love him!", "Background - I've been a recruiter at Google, Facebook, and a some other very well respected companies and I attend job fairs where I represent/have represented these companies on a regular basis.\n\n1st - Bring resumes. Don't bring resumes printed out on special paper - IMO, it comes across as desperate. Don't worry if your resume has 2 pages; if you've done some amazing things and you've worked for 15 years, its all good.\n\n2nd - Be friendly, warm and engaging. Introduce yourself to the recruiter with a nice handshake and a smile. Ask them their name. Share with the recruiter what you know about the company, let them know it's limited, and be sure to ask them to fill in any gaps. This shows that you've taken the initiative to do a bit of research, while also acknowledging you don't know everything. This demonstrates humility - huge from a recruiters perspective.\n\nIf you don't know what the company does, that's fine, but don't make this a situation where you force the recruiter to sell their company to you. This happens regularly to me; a jobseeker says \"So..why should I want to work for you\", it's patronizing and condescending. We're meeting 100's of other folks who are excited about our company. This adversarial tone is sure to annoy the recruiter and get your resume tossed. \n\n3rd - When you give your pitch about yourself - make sure you know your strengths, weaknesses, and be prepared to give your pitch. Your pitch about yourself should be no longer than 1 minute. We don't want a life story, we want to know what you want to do, what you're good at, and why. If you tell the recruiter you're interested in every role - you're not good for anything. Make the recruiters job easier with a phrase such as, \"given my background and interests, what roles do you think could make sense for me\", or \"based on my experience and interests, I think role x could be a fit, what do you think?\"\n\n4th - Make sure to get a business card from the recruiter and follow up about a week later. It takes a while to sort through all of the resumes and present them to hiring managers. Following up in 1 week shows that you're interested but not aggressive or unrealistic in your expectations of the recruiters time. You acknowledge that they met 100's of other candidates, and are very busy. Also, be sure to include your resume as an attachment.\n\nThe followup email should be short and sweet, \"Hey *Recruiter*, it was great meeting you at *career fair*. I just wanted to reiterate my interest in working at *Company*. If there's any more information I can provide, please let me know.\"\n\n5th - Be patient! If you see a recruiter giving their pitch to somebody, or in the middle of a conversation, wait until the recruiter finishes up, acknowledges you, and *then* you can engage. I was at a career fair recently, some dude who seemed very shy was patiently waiting in line and then some jackass sales/\"business development\" type, came up, completely ignoring this person in line. When the shy person stepped up for himself, the d-bag didn't back down. I told the d-bag that the other person had in fact been there first, and that we'd probably not be interested in him for any open roles.\n\nAttire - don't dress like a jackass. This isn't the time to show off your favorite shitty t-shirt. Nor is it appropriate to dress like you're going to the opera. Slacks and polo is fine, nice jeans and a button down. Sport coat/blazer is optional but fine. Tie is a no-no (IMO). I never put stock into peoples fashion sense or brands worn as I have no idea ones financial background, but there is no excuse for dirty or wrinkled clothes. You want to come across as crisp and professional. You should appear groomed; long/unconventional hair styles are fine, but it should be clean, facial hair is fine, but it should be neat, etc.\n\nI don't want to call /u/bulloko out, but I couldn't disagree with his advice any more; which is fine...He's an engineer, his job is to build shit...I'm a recruiter, my job is to go to career fairs :-)\n\nOne resume is fine - if I got an engineers resume and it wasn't full of engineer-y stuff, I'd be off-putting. \n\nNo need for a fancy folio or anything - if you have one, great, if not, a 99cent folder works just as well :-)\n\nWebsite - especially if you're an engineer - this is almost mandatory; put some code samples/projects up.\n\nDon't be bold/confident...be humble + confident. Be the person that people want to chat with, not the person that tries too hard.\n\nI'm definitely forgetting some stuff, but this should be a decent starting point. I hope this helps!", "Off topic, but sort of relevant. My college held a big career fair every year and it was a super important for us graduating seniors in my major. If we wanted to take part we were required to go to four hours of prep classes with career services, have our resume approved, and go through mock interviews. Basically, it took about a month to get ready. The Army was one of the recruiting organizations. Five minutes into the career fair some idiots protesting the war ran through the room splashing red paint on everyone to protest the Iraq war. They closed the career fair down and it wasn't rescheduled. No one got a job that year. ", "I found this series on [Kill the Interview](https://www.neilstrauss.com/neil/kill-the-interview-part-i) quite helpful. Basically you want to demonstrate 3 things. \n\n1. I'm deeply committed to my continued growth and professional development\n2. You understand the company and industry you are interviewing for\n3. You want the job badly", "I think I'll lend a bit of knowledge here. I was at a hiring fair for tech recruiters. I was at the booth of a fairly well known company in my area and was speaking to the recruiter about the position and how I would be helping the resident IT staff if I got the position. Anyway, another guy at the job fair pushed up next to me and interrupted me while I was speaking to the recruiter and said something like \"Hey! I need a job too! So what's this job about?\" \n\nI tried to not laugh when this guy very obviously made an idiot of himself in front of the recruiter. After he finished his first sentence, the recruiter bitched him out for being so rude and told him that he would never hire someone that didn't know how to handle themselves professionally or something along the lines.\n\nMain point is, just keep cool and humble at job fairs. Recruiters love finding great new talent to tap, don't ruin your shot by not staying cool even when the recruiter talks too much or you have a loudmouth sitting next to you.", "A big part of it is confidence, having a few good questions. Sometimes you have those jitters and so it actually helps to do a \"warm-up\" first. Go to another table that you care less about and essentially practice with them first. Once you're in the zone, go to the people you really care about.\n\nOnce you're there, shake their hands with confidence and so a mini introduction about yourself and how that ties into what they do. Then ask your question.\n\nex: I'm a XYZ major and have been really interested in working more with ABC which is why I wanted to talk to you more about it. Could you tell me how often you get to.....\n\nOther great questions:\n\"Can you tell me about the types of projects that you work on?\"\n\"Do you usually work on one or multiple projects at once?\"\n\"How often do you get to work on teams?\"\n\netc.etc. At the end of the day being prepared and confident just works best! Good luck!", "Used to recruit and interview college students for internships leading to full time offers. Just 3 rules in my book.\n\n1. Approach recruiters earlier in the day rather than towards the end of the day. They are human and are probably road warriors as well. If you approach with a bunch of questions (even if they are great questions) you might be ignored since they mentally checked out for the day.\n\n2. Get to know ALL the recruiters on the team. The process to grant interviews and to extend offers start with recruiters (but end with the hiring manager in the final rounds). If you don't get the majority of the recruiters pulling for you then it's going to be tough to make it past the hiring process. \n\n3. Small talk is power talk. Even though you're nervous, learn something about your local city or college that's unique. Then build on those topics. Always know what great restaurants or major events that take place in town. Because you are educating the recruiter and helping them set plans for the next time they return to the campus. \"How do you like being in (insert city)\" \"what do you think about our weather?\" This opens up into their background depending on how they respond. Let them talk about themselves and where they are from and how long they have been with X company. You will find things will unfold naturally once you break the first few minutes of chatting. ", "Prepare a brief introduction you can say to each recruiter there. It should at the very least include your name, major, and what you are looking for (internship or fulltime job as well as field of work like engineering/accounting). You may also include your expected date of graduation and your interests or skillset.\n\nPractice this introduction. Keep it short and to the point because these recruiters have a lot of other people to speak to.", "Anybody have an LPT for applying when your GPA is below the minimum required? Ex: Having a 2.9 when the minimum to apply is a 3.0.", "If you want to get in good with anybody for any reason, read *how to win friends and influence people*. By the title, it might sound like a manipulative book, but it's not. Its all about being honest and genuine with people in a way that they enjoy. People really like to enjoy people. This book absolutely changed my life.", "I work a few job fairs at universities and I think a huge factor for me is when candidates are able to hold a conversation and show personality. Learn to have a conversation while still trying to sell me on your skills and experience. Also, if I ask a question about something on your resume and you cant back it up, it is a huge red flag for me. Also make sure there are no typos on the resume. ", "Every company and every recruiter is different, so put forth your best self. There is great advice here.\n\nJust to give you my perspective. I got interviews and ultimately my job through a career fair at my school and I've been sent back as a representative of the company. The people I attended with and I had absolutely no influence on someone getting a foot in the door and only took resumes of those who insisted because HR didn't want them because HR didn't come with us and the jobs were posted on the university job portal. That means I'm there to get you to apply, I'm selling the company to you and answering any questions you have. Please come talk to us and take our swag so I don't have to schlep it back along with the tablecloth, banners, and other booth stuff. Its okay to have stuff from other companies, we know you're not applying to just one company. ", "2L that got a summer job in-house with a large institutional investor: \n\n-PREP: Know a ton about the firm(s) that you might meet; have legitimate questions that show your interest\n\n-DELIVERY: Throw all scripted lines out the window and just talk. Your prep should make this natural. Try to be normal and show interest, but don't linger. Make sure to grab biz cards at the end and follow up with a concise email later that day/following day(s) that can easily be read from an iPhone/BBY. \n\nSide notes: I didn't have a resume on me to give out--I always thought this was a little weird (I have my resume on stand-by in an email to send out in a second if I really need it). This might be a Canadian thing/my school-specific so ask around for feedback.", "Note - this is campus-hire specific.\n\nPlease, for the love of God, come with questions and a personality! If English is not your first language, practice practice practice (my field hires a lot of people from China). All you have to say is \"I want to know more about the position\" (or even better, youve researched the position already, you know which youre applying for when there are multiple offerings, and you come wanting to know more about day-to-day stuff/company culture). \n\nI just went recruiting for my company at an engineering job fair... I have to stand on my feet all day talking, nothing exhausts me more or makes me want to dismiss you than you standing in front of me with no knowledge of the positions we're hiring for and no questions. \n\nExample: We went to this job fair recruiting for three positions, all of which had job descriptions on the schools job website prior to the fair. What were the majority of the conversations? \"Oh, can you look at my resume and tell me which one I should apply to?\" .... Um no, im not your mother or your counselor. Two of the positions Im happy to explain the difference but the third? Its so different (and youd know if youd done your research) that you lose credibility with me that you have less than zero idea. You do NOT have to have it all figured out or know what you want to do for the rest of your life, but after 1-4 years of schooling, you should have an idea based on your classes and experience. You should demonstrate youve thought about your options, preferences, and strengths. \n\nAlso if youve never had your resume reviewed, don't even think about approaching us. If your resume doesnt stand on its own (i.e. I know your experience and strengths without you standing next to me) then do NOT give it to me or submit it. No joke, was given a resume (and was told it was already submitted online) that had things like \"Data Project A\".... What is it? What does that entail? What did you lead/learn/use? \n\nFinal thoughts (all based on real experiences):\n\n* Make sure your fly is zipped (yes, it happened)\n* Make sure you brush your teeth/eat mints or gum before hand\n* Make sure your clothes dont belong in the night club (i.e. too tight, mostly for women)\n* Too strong of fashion choices are also a put off (e.g. fashion forward) just like being dressed too sloppy. We know you're campus hires and dont have a $1000 suit, but the more your clothes blend in, the more your personality and achievements can stand out. \n* Smile, be friendly, ask questions, express enthusiasm and excitement and loyalty (can be all BS I dont give a shit just sell it). \n* Go to career fairs that are not specifically targeting your major but is in the same realm (i.e. if you're Econ, head to the Engineering fairs bc you can sell yourself)\n\nIf you have more questions, let me know! Happy to provide guidance for anyone as I know how confusing it can be with no mentorship. ", "Assume the people manning the booth are important. These are more likely than not the exact people who will be deciding who to hire.", "Something that I don't think that is being said yet. Once you get in good with the recruiter, due to their nature, its easy to forget that they are not your buddy.\n\nThey're super friendly and they make you feel comfortable. That's sort of their job, so remember to keep up your professionalism.", "Recruiter here.\n\nApproach us. Seriously, how hard is it to grab the pamphlet they hand out at the door, check which employers are hiring your major, and walk up to our table?\n\nWe have to grab people as they walk by (the name tags at the career fairs we go to have their major on them, so we know who to grab). So annoying. This isn't a problem for the international students... Seriously, get your stuff together!\n\nHave a paper resume ready for us, that way you don't have to worry about getting us one later.\n\nDon't defend your resume or make excuses. Now is not the time and you're not likely to get the coveted star (we star the people who really stand out). Just be honest if you have or have not worked with XYZ application when we ask you. It's an internship, it's not a deal breaker. We can teach you some things.\n\nWant to really impress me? Ask for my business card and send me an e-mail or postal \"It was a pleasure to speak with you at the career fair\" I guarantee you I'll fast track you through the process.\n\nFinally, take some swag! Please take some swag. I don't want to haul it all back to the office.", "Personally, I try not to feed them bullshit. \"I love to work on a multi-department team to form a synergistic workflow to help make the company succeed\"\r\rBe honest on what you want. Learn from the recruiter.", "Keep in mind that job fairs can be totally staffed with employees well versed in their departments but hardly an expert the the proper HR methods. They may ask inappropriate questions such as if you are married etched but just be prepared to roll with the punches. These folks may be your future co workers, not HR folks you only see once a year on your review. ", "If you're in a field that is very desirable to a company (such as Electrical Engineering at firms like Apple, IBM, Microsoft, etc.) be ready to be pulled out of line at any time as the recruiters look to talk to you over the software students. I know it sounds like they're being rude by doing this, but there are often one or two recruiters at the booths specifically targeting people going into hardware.\n\nI was in a line for IBM for about twenty minutes and would have been waiting another 40 to 80 minutes except a recruiter pulled me from the line because I was looking to go into hardware. Had this not occurred to me the previous year at Apple's booth (actually, I wasn't even planning on talking to them, they just pulled me out of the crowd walking past their table), I would have been completely unprepared to start speaking right then.", "I regularly recruit for the tech company I work for at the university that bears a striking resemblance to my username. A couple things...\n\n* My company may be slightly different, we actually send out technical interviewers to the engineering schools to interview candidates.\n\n* With us it doesn't necessarily matter that you apply online, however it helps us figure out you are serious about it.\n\n* Have an idea of what jobs are actually open at the company. Most companies (including ours) post all job openings externally.\n\n* Eye contact and perceived confidence help you out a ton. If that means getting out of your comfort zone when interviewing with us, do it. Take a public speaking class, read through some of the posts on /r/socialskills on confidence and body posture.\n\n* Don't list anything on your resume that you don't actually know. Seriously, we (as in technical recruiters) can tell almost immediately and you just waste our time and yours. You're a new college grad, we don't expect you to know anything and everything.\n\n* Ask us questions. Ask us how we feel about working for the company. Ask specifics too like what the company offers as perks/incentives.\n\n* Have a passion, make sure that it is relatable to our company. One candidate I spoke to stands out in my mind as very passionate, but in a bad way... they wanted to do game design for our enterprise services company.\n\n* Internships, internships, internships... School is not real world. If applying for a full-time position it helps immensely if you have had internships in our field. If you are interviewing for an internship, well we don't really care about this then.\n\n* Be humble, but not too humble. Don't ever put yourself down, but don't also get cocky.\n\nIf I can think of anything else and if this helps so far, I'll add more with ", "I recruit for my department at job fairs. Especially for new hires, i want someone ambitious who has a willingness to work hard. Be able to speak about your resume and why your schooling and any work experience makes you a good fit for my company.\n\nI cant stress enough that i want someone who I can stand to be around for 8+ hours a day. If you can make a personal connection with the recruiter you have a HUGE increase in your chance of getting an interview. This doesnt mean it is a popularity context -- if you dont meet the requirements, you won't get the job -- but it helps alot to have the recruiter talk up your intangibles.", "For the past two years I have gone back to my university and recruited for interns and full-time new employees at university job fairs. \n\nThe students I recommend for interviews are A) good applicants based on the standards my company sets (right major, high enough GPA, relevant prior work experience), plus B) they seem like people I would like to work with. This generally means having a pleasant personality and not being painfully awkward to talk to. \n\nAny applicant ups their chances of an interview by illustrating to me that they know something about my company, have an idea of what they would do for us, and asks questions about the job or company culture. \n\nAs a pet peeve, don't be the 30th student of the day telling me they really want to work in some trendy market that my company doesn't really deal in. When I was recruiting for engineers I had so many tell me that they wanted to work in clean energy and sustainability, and that's not really what my company does. ", "Ask questions. It seems to me a lot of people go to job fairs expecting to be asked questions. This is not the purpose. Recruiters expect for you to have questions. Especially ask about things like company culture, major brownie points.", "- Dress nicely, as in, suit and tie. Don't skimp on this, dress nicer than you think you need to. You can get a decent looking suit for $150 - $200 if you keep your eyes open and dress shirts are usually on sale for $20 - $30 at Kohls. Make sure you get someone to measure you though.\n\n- Have plenty of résumés. Make sure it flows well, and make sure you know what to talk about on there because they will ask.\n\n- Go to the companies you aren't interested in first. Practice on them, then go to the companies you are interested in and kill it.\n\n- Talking about work experience or past projects is always a good topic to talk about.\n\n- Be yourself, within reason. This is your first interview. If you see the company likes craft beer and you do too, try to bring that up casually. Maybe recommend a beer to them. This is just an example, and obviously don't speak of beer if this isn't something they like. But there is usually something unique about that company. Talk about it.", "i think there should be something else added to this: what do you do *after* the job fair?\n\nso after you read all the tips in this thread and execute all of them perfectly, what happens after? do you just try to make a lasting impression on the recruiters? do you try to make contact with them after like, \"hi, we met at xxx job fair. i am applying for yyy jobs and hope we can work together in the future!\" \n\nsomething like that? because there's no way the job fair is all you need to do...", "Write out some talking points, read them over a few times, and let them *naturally* come up in conversation, if the topic doesn't come up don't force it.", "When you walk up to a recruiter and hand them your resume, they will scan it quickly and then ask you some questions. Pay attention especially to the questions they ask especially if the questions are clearly answered on your resume and especially if more than one recruiter asks the same thing. They were looking for the info and didn't find it which means it needs to be in a more prominent place on your resume or mentioned in your cover letter. Of course you can't ", "Recruiter here, the biggest thing to keep in mind is that recruiters are there to hire. You don't have to convince them that they need you at their company, you just need to make a connection with that individual at that fair for 5 minutes. Have a firm handshake, make eye contact, ask intelligent informed questions, leave a resume, and most of all leave a good impression on a personal level.", "In my experience recruiters are just a robotic appendage of the companies career website and do nothing but answer questions. They have zero say in the hiring process and are just a human face for the company.", "Don't wear a black suit, do something with your hair, shave, and have something to say when you approach the table/booth.\n\n Show some enthusiasm, get THEIR business card and reach out to them after the fair", "Ask questions to the company! It's really important to demonstrate you have knowledge of a company and by simply asking them a question about a new initiative etc. Will show that you are interested.", "The best advice I ever got was to go to a company you have 0 interest in and start with them. Get the nerves out, sell yourself and get some practice first. Then build up to the big fishes.\n\nMake sure you are confident in your resume and know it down pat. If they ask you anything on that piece of paper you should have atleast 3 points on top of that of why it makes you a good future employee. If you can't come up with three reasons why that would benefit you in the workplace, take it off your resume, its wasting space.\n\nLastly, remember, hiring an employee is the company taking a 40k-100k bet in you being a good employee. They don't know you as a person they don't know you as an employee, so always keep in your head, if I had to bet 100k on the integrity and hard work of the next person I talk to, what would I want to hear them say.", "Recruiter here: If you arent a perfect fit for a specific job we have open we don't give a fuck about you or your goals.", "I like to ask interesting questions. \"How would you describe the company's culture?\" and \"What are some skills that are most beneficial in the [x] industy?\" Then I start personalizing the questions- \"Would restaurant management experience skills assist in a career path at [company]?\" \n\nRecruiters want to know you will be a good fit. Guide the conversation towards WHY you would be a good fit, and you're aces.", "I am a recruiter for a staffing company, so I hire for a lot of different positions. For a job fair I meet with a TON of different people. At a good college career fair I can go home with hundreds of resumes. Typically I will sort through and make piles for different skill sets. Then I organize those piles by experience and skills. Then I start making calls to clients. If you want to get to the top of the pile make sure your are ...\n\nA) Checking your resume for grammar, punctuation and format. Format is extremely important when you are piled in with dozens of people, all incredibly similar to you.\n\nB) Make sure your social media pages are updated and are an accurate representation of yourself. Notice this isn't the entire 'make sure it's clean', post. Use your social media as an extension of your resume. If you volunteer with a youth baseball league or the president of a Club, post pictures. Also if you don't have a Facebook, get one. It is a red flag for recruiters if they can't find an candidate on Facebook or LinkedIn. \n\nC) Get my card (which is easy I throw them at people) and send me a thank you note. If can be corny like \"Thanks for talking to me about xyz. If anything spots become available please let me know!\" It sounds self centered but the more I see or hear your name the more I will think of you for positions. ", "Former Recruiter: \n\nBest thing you can do is have the same hobby as someone in the hiring chain. I was a recruiter for a while and the boss circle had a lot of people that liked fishing. So I would wear some fishing tie and pretend to read a fishing magazine when the booth wasn't busy. I had a few guys actually strike up a conversation about fishing and afterwards I would write down on their resumes \"likes to fish bass/halibut/tuna\" or whatever. Guess who got hired! Bonus, I was also cr", "Don't.\n\nMost of the job fairs are a waste of time, and I have NEVER been hired as a result of one. In fact, I've actually been to job fairs where there were companies that didn't even have a list of available positions on hand.\n\nYour time is better spent contacting former professors, fellow students, former co-workers, and friends who are in a similar industry and finding out if they have any leads.", "Don't treat them like anything more than they are--people. Leave the pedestal at home.\n\nRecruiters are a dime a dozen; you don't need them to be successful, despite the inflated ego's of nearly all of them that try to convince you otherwise.", "I'm on the university recruiting team for a fortune 50 company. Recruiting is a secondary responsibility. Marketing is my main schtick. The first judgement I make at a career fair is whether you're awkward. Awkward people resumes go into the awkward person pile and then into the garbage. Next determination I make is whether you know anything about our industry and our company. I glean this from your pitch. The pitch is what comes after you introduce yourself. It's where you talk about your work or academic experience. Overall I'm assessing whether I like you. If I were trapped in a cube with you 40 hours a week, would I still like my job. This requires a mix of confidence, humility and humor. \n\nMake eye contact. But don't be creepy. Have a firm handshake. But make sure you dont offer me a sweaty palm. Have a goal. At some point tell me what you want. Hint: In most cases you want an interview. Tell me why you like our company and the position. Most importantly remember I'm a person too. I've been having awkward 2 minute conversations all day. Help me have fun and it will go well for both of us. ", "College recruiter for a top US retailer here (management focus). On my way to the airport to fly to a career fair actually! A few extra tips I didn't really see listed by others upon a brief scan:\n\n1. Limit your resume to one page. If for some legitimate reason (probably isn't) then at very least staple them together. And don't forget your exp. graduation date, gpa, email. Don't go nuts with formatting.\n\n2. Start networking with me before the fair if you can. This means researching networking events, panels, etc one month before the career fair. Then when you see me at the career fair, you are already comfortable talking to me and really just scoring extra brownie points.\n\n3. Smile, firm handshake (please don't hand me your sweaty, dead fish of a hand) don't ask me what we are hiring for, you should already know that....\n\n4. Take notes based on what I'm saying... about 1 in 50 do this, and I'm always impressed\n\n5. Social media! Add me on linked in, follow me on Twitter, make me see your name as many times a possible! Plus I post industry and recruiting related stuff often, which is essentially doing the work for you.", "I'm a junior at NYU studying math with Cs minor. I don't know what exactly I want to go into, I came to college planning to go to law school, but then I discovered cs and really liked it so I'm kind of just seeing what is possible for me. " ]

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[ "What's the best way to find decent jobs on Indeed or LinkedIn? My main websites to job hunt is Indeed and LinkedIn. **The problem is I keep seeing the same jobs over and over again.** For example, I searched \"Administrative assistant\" ONCE, and now all I see are administrative-related jobs. How can I stop this from happening? I feel like I'm missing out on other job postings because Indeed (and LinkedIn) keeps showing me the same things. Is there a way to use these websites more effectively?", "What's the best way to find decent jobs on Indeed or LinkedIn? My main websites to job hunt is Indeed and LinkedIn. **The problem is I keep seeing the same jobs over and over again.** For example, I searched \"Administrative assistant\" ONCE, and now all I see are administrative-related jobs. How can I stop this from happening? I feel like I'm missing out on other job postings because Indeed (and LinkedIn) keeps showing me the same things. Is there a way to use these websites more effectively?" ]

[ "\nI'm assuming you don't use the indeed app to search. \n\nYou could clear your history and cookies, this will erase any stored information these sites have regarding your last visit and search terms. \n\nOr use a different browser if you would rather keep the history and cookies already stored by that browser. \n\nIt also depends on whether you logged into an account on the sites before searching. \n\nIndeed has quite a few filters, that should allow you to narrow down searches and omit results depending on the length of time since your last search. \n\nI don't use linkedIn so I can't really comment on it. \n\nIf you do use the indeed app, you could try going to settings\\apps\\indeed\\storage\\ on your device and then clear the cache. This is similar to removing the cookies and history of a browser. \n\nIf you clear the data also you may need to log into the account you created. As clearing data erases a lot more information stored by the app. \n\nHope it helps.", "Indeed sucked so badly for me. \n\nThe best way is to actually go on company websites to see if they have job postings available, or to phone the company itself and inquire. \n\nThen submit your information with the method they convey." ]

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[ "Going to be a daddy in a few months! As the title says I found out my wife is pregnant and in a few months we will have a baby! I would love any LPT fathers of reddit or mothers could provide!", "Going to be a daddy in a few months! As the title says I found out my wife is pregnant and in a few months we will have a baby! I would love any LPT fathers of reddit or mothers could provide!", "Going to be a daddy in a few months! As the title says I found out my wife is pregnant and in a few months we will have a baby! I would love any LPT fathers of reddit or mothers could provide!", "Going to be a daddy in a few months! As the title says I found out my wife is pregnant and in a few months we will have a baby! I would love any LPT fathers of reddit or mothers could provide!", "Going to be a daddy in a few months! As the title says I found out my wife is pregnant and in a few months we will have a baby! I would love any LPT fathers of reddit or mothers could provide!", "Going to be a daddy in a few months! As the title says I found out my wife is pregnant and in a few months we will have a baby! I would love any LPT fathers of reddit or mothers could provide!", "Going to be a daddy in a few months! As the title says I found out my wife is pregnant and in a few months we will have a baby! I would love any LPT fathers of reddit or mothers could provide!", "Going to be a daddy in a few months! As the title says I found out my wife is pregnant and in a few months we will have a baby! I would love any LPT fathers of reddit or mothers could provide!", "Going to be a daddy in a few months! As the title says I found out my wife is pregnant and in a few months we will have a baby! I would love any LPT fathers of reddit or mothers could provide!", "Going to be a daddy in a few months! As the title says I found out my wife is pregnant and in a few months we will have a baby! I would love any LPT fathers of reddit or mothers could provide!", "Going to be a daddy in a few months! As the title says I found out my wife is pregnant and in a few months we will have a baby! I would love any LPT fathers of reddit or mothers could provide!", "Going to be a daddy in a few months! As the title says I found out my wife is pregnant and in a few months we will have a baby! I would love any LPT fathers of reddit or mothers could provide!" ]

[ "You will probably read lots of books, get lots of advice. Listen and learn from them, but at the end of the day- do what works best for your little family, even if it doesn't fit the norm. Cosleep, don't cosleep, breast feed or don't, cry it out or attachment parent- but do whatever you do because it's what you and your wife have chosen as best. Let no one make you feel bad for not doing it \"the way they did it\". At the end of the day, if your child is happy and healthy, that's what matters, and how that is achieved varies from family to family. You will encounter people who are going to judge every decision you make, but remember, this child is yours, and as long as it's thriving, their opinions are unimportant.", "Love and consistentency.\n\nWishing you and your precious wife and baby a future filled to overflowing with kindness and joy.", "I have an 8 month old sitting on the floor right now. \n\n1 - nothing is more important than your kid, this includes you. Oh, and you're schedule is now determined by the little one. \n\n2 - your friends will understand if you miss some stuff. The first year is especially rough because babies attitudes changed per minute, so even on their best days, it could quickly be their worse. \n\n3 - remembering 1 and 2, you have to make time for yourself. I like a beer or two while soaking in the tub after my boy falls asleep. \n\n4 - remembering 3, your partner needs time alone too. If they say they need an hour out to do something, let them. Everyone needs a break. \n\n5 - if someone wants to watch the kid and you trust them, let them. Take a break when you can because breaks don't come often. \n\n6 - don't worry if you question everything about your life, including why you had a kid. It happens to everyone at some point. Anyone who says they haven't is a liar. \n\nI could probably go on for a while, but I've got shit to do. ", "First, congratulations! Good advice on here already, here's my input:\n\n1. Never, ever compare children with friends and family. Walking, talking, and potty training come at different times for different kids. Don't get worried if yours takes a little longer, and don't tell everyone that yours is a genius because they learned how to shit in a bucket ahead of your nephew (or whatever lol).\n\n2. When I became a dad for the first time (22 years ago), all the publications told us that it would be love at first sight. There would be angels singing all the time and our world would be nothing but butterflies and bunny rabbits for the rest of eternity. Well, maybe that is a bit much on my part but I think you get my point. Imagine how shitty we felt when on the second night home we were both in tears convinced that our lives were over. The point is that parenthood, as with life, is a series of ups and downs. The highs are higher, and the lows are lower.", "Change diapers all the time. Diaper rash is awful. Google it. I feel some parents downplay diaper rash. I have 3 sons and only one had a diaper rash and only once. How did I achieve this? Two hour diaper changes. If they were poopy or wet I changed them immediately. If not I changed it anyway every 2 hours. Diapers are expensive. I always bought the cheapest ones. But after seeing a friends baby with diaper rash it was totally worth it to spare my boys that pain. ", "take videos of sounds they make as they grow. at three and a day they could start saying a cute thing, and at three and a month they could stop saying it forever.\n\nthink about how an ideal dad would be, and try to remember that concept when in tough moments. something to strive for, even if impossible to hit.\n\nthe first year or two or three, i didn't 100% feel like a dad.", "best baby wipes are kirkland from costco. keep wipes everywhere, car house, stroller. you do not need to read any books, you will figure it out", "This might feel stupid or weirdly specific, but talk to your kid about emotions. SO many kids these days just can't.", "Not so much a LPT as a Lifetime tip. It's a bit of work but the payoff will be worth it.\n\n[Get a copy of this book.](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51GC3Acu0WL._SX258_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg) Over your child's life there are people that will come and go that will have a lasting impact. Have these people write a little something to him/her and tell them why you are asking. I have given it to my sons daycare, babysitter, teachers and sports coaches. Doesn't have to be much but he will remember these people. At his/her High School graduation present the book. If they end up not graduating then just hit them over the head with the book prior to presenting.\n\nSecond set them up an email address now, obviously you keep the login info. Give the email out to whoever you'd like and have them send notes, pictures, videos and such. My family all have his email and they send stuff regularly. Again, present the user pass at graduation, a reverse diary.\n\nYou will have to be deliberate and archive the email. Instead of logon you may have to present an archive copy, you never know if gmail may go away. I have a reminder set to do it twice a year.", "My biggest tip would be to refrain from baby talk as much as you can.\n\nAlso constantly talk to your baby even if it feels weird because they can't talk back yet. I always talk to my babies about what I am doing or what we are buying while grocery shopping. It's the best way to build vocabulary skills. Got some funny looks from some people but I know it makes a big impact. \n\nYou two will do great as long as you do what feels right!", "Enjoy sleeping through the night while you can. It'll never happen again.\n\nBut fr fr. You'll know what to do man. You'll suprisee yourself. Congratulations. It's awesome.", "Congratulations!! \n\nMight I suggest you never offer to babysit for your wife. You take care of him/her bc he's yours! \n\nGet in lots of belly raspberries. By 9 or 10 they hate that stuff ;)" ]

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[ "How to ask someone what they are doing with their life without coming across as rude. When meeting new people I find myself asking this but it always seems to be an awkward question.", "How to ask someone what they are doing with their life without coming across as rude. When meeting new people I find myself asking this but it always seems to be an awkward question." ]

[ "It almost sounds like you intend the question as a judgmental one, implying that they aren't doing anything with their life. In the off chance that's not what you mean..\n\nSmile. Be sincere.\n\nHey, how are you? Things going all right? Anything exciting going on? What keeping your interest lately; any new hobbies?", "*insert small talk here for 5 - 10mins* *change topic to something big or new or exciting you will be doing in your life* then segue into it with \"so anything new happening in your life?\"" ]

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[ "I don't fill out the recipient until I'm done writing the email. Helps me take my time and ", "Write your email simply and clearly. Wrote in standard English, and avoid colloquialisms, sarcasm, vernacular, and tropes to reduce confusion. Once you're done with your email, set a timer on your phone for 3 minutes. Use that time to ", "I would suggest two ideas:\n\n1) Type up the email, ", "I think I may be the only IT guy on the planet that doesn't do any work via email. Unless you are doing something that requires written quotes my advice is to pick up the phone and actually talk to a human being. You don't trip over yourself and rethink everything you say when you talk right? A 2 minute phone call is a lot of paragraphs of info and you get that info in real time. So have your conversation and then if they need part of it in writing you can just summarize your conversation. This eliminates a lot of back and forth. Email can be a giant timesuck and it sounds like you might do better working in another medium. ", "It is actually good to feel apprehensive about sending an email in certain situations. Very smart in my opinion.\nPersonal email rules:\n1. If it is a sensitive or emotional subject do not use email. Email is terrible at conveying tone and can be misinterpreted very easily when dealing with something people have strong feelings about.\n2. Consider holding a short informational meeting and getting feedback on the subject of the email before sending off an official email.\n3. You could also send it to your boss or a co worker to double check it before sending it out to multiple people.", "Two things:\n\nTeach yourself to accept *good enough*. No time to be perfect. People won't read your email 5 times and appreciate it as the pinnacle of the English literature, in fact they'll probably miss 50% of the facts and ask dumb questions like \"what's the IP address\" - \"It's in the email I sent you\".\n\nSecond, You've been told at school how to write dissertations: Introduction, point 1, argument, point 2, argument, personal view, conclusion.\n\nNobody's got time for that on the Internet. Go straight to the point and start with the conclusion, give the arguments and leave the lesser important stuff in the end:\n\n\"Dear azerty, your offer is not satisfying. Point A is not correct and point B doesn't match what we agreed the other day. I think we can do better. I look forward your reply. Ytreza\"\n\nMost people only read the 3-4 first lines, so you want to communicate your point fast. If you don't have the time to write page long emails, people don't have time to read them either.", "No e-mail is that important. When you feel anxiety coming on, repeat this mantra to yourself. \"The fear of the thing is always worse than the thing itself.\"\n\n99.9999% of the time, this will be correct. The other .0001% of the time, it will be that bad but even that won't be worth getting flustered over. Send the e-mails without all the prep-work and watch what happens. Nothing. That's what's most likely to happen. Absolutely nothing different.", "Do you have a co-worker you are close with? Just ask them to give it a once over for tone. I work for a consultancy and we'll frequently do this for client e-mails", "Write what you know, not what you think.\n\nTimelines should start with date time, not what happened. Tables are nice for this if there are multiple parts to it.\n\nDon't start wars in email. Sometimes clarifying in person or on the phone is easier and less aggressive.\n\nBe direct when asking for information. Don't be vague and expect someone to do something if you don't ask them.\n\nDon't CC yourself. Gosh that's annoying. Just pull your Sent files into an Archive. \n\nDon't put \"please consider the environment before printing this email\" on your Mobile Signature. Dude, nobody is printing your 4 word response.\n\nDon't use emojis or smilies or images in your signature. Just your name and title and phone numbers.", "Call if you can. Often quicker at addressing issues than email.\n\nBeyond that if there are any questions please ask me to address them.", "Just think \"he's not stupid, i don't have to explain to him like he's a child. He will understand what i meant\".\n\n", "If something can be done in person faster or more effectively than its done with electronic communication then forget the email and schedule a meeting. Coffee shops are perfect for things like this.\n\nIf email is the only way then write clearly and concisely, stick to the main points, and use appropriate language for your reader.", "I am not a doctor, but I have suffered from OCD for 15 years and this sounds similar to OCD. Most people think of hand washing or keeping things organized as being OCD, but it can take many forms. \n\n Worrying about offending someone would be the obsession, rewriting things 10x over would be the compulsion. \n\n Are you creating worst case scenarios in your head? Perhaps like \"If I write an offensive email I will lose my job, and then what if my employer sends that email to my family and then my family disowns me and I wind up living homeless and dying in the cold.\" OCD frequently makes ridiculous scenarios and couples it with an overwhelming sense of dread that makes something very unlikely seem very likely.\n\n Perhaps you just have \"email anxiety\" in the same way some people have \"phone anxiety\". But I think the key to overcoming any fear is to face it head on. For you that would mean writing an email once, sending it out, and not checking back over it at all. It will be terrifying, but in a few hours you will worry a little less, after a few days you will worry a lot less, and after a week you will probably have forgotten or stopped caring. And the next time you send an email will be easier, and eventually this will stop being an issue.\n\n Again I am not a doctor and this is not a diagnosis, but your struggles were familiar so I hope this helps.", "Communication experts is what you want, and I'm not, but since this is the internet...\n\nIf you're concerned, draft it in Word, NOT THE EMAIL RESPONSE. Email drafts are saved on the server whether you send it or not. So as you find your better words and phrasings, keep it local.", "Read it out loud to yourself and if something sounds awkward or unnatural, change it! I get nervous too before hitting that scary send button but this seems to help me a bit. Best of luck!", "I sometimes deliberate over emails too, but far less than i used to. What i try to do is get rid of stuff i hate from other people's emails and put in what i hate to have missing. \n\nFor example, this fluff that other people are recommending, i hate it. You aren't sending this email to find out how someone's day is or wish them a happy new year, and for me at least, when i go through my emails i dont want to read the same pointless questions about my day 20 times. They dont care, i dont care, no one cares. \n\nNow what you should add, firstly, one that i should be able to assume everybody already does, but judging from my inbox only about half of people do. Add a signature. All major email clients have a way to add this automatically. If you dont know how, google it. You must include your name, and as much contact info as possible ie. Mobile number, office number, website, fax (if you have the misfortune to still use one). You might even consider adding your physical address to it if you work out of the same office. If you can avoid please dont put pics or logos in your signature. \n\nIn terms of actual content, please be brief and to the point. If you have multiple queries use bullet points - it makes it easier for the other person to respond. Do the same if you are responding to that type of email. If you are sending documents use words like please find attached... and actually list the docs you are sending so that the recipient knows they have it all. In the case of a longer expository email where there is a requirement for lots of info, consider attaching a separate document. I try to keep my emails, unlike this comment to less than 3 paragraphs. \n\nOne last thing, if you send me an email and it finishes with sent from my iPhone, or android or whatever, i immediately form quite a poor impression of you. Plus i cant call you to rectify that.", "i used to do this, too, took me an hour to send simple emails because i kept on going back and ", "You can send an email to yourself, and then read that in a few minutes. You probably will find errors with it and by correcting them, you might get this thing figured out a little better and save time. Perhaps.\n\nBut in my old job, I was an research analyst which might rank as one of your worst anxiety nightmares (I gave investment advice and wrote research reports - and while I had a proofreader, it was for the reports, not for quick emails with commentary). So not only did I have to write lots of emails and text in general, it also went out to a lot of professional investors who are the smart guys in the room usually. Usually. My boss told me \"cut in half whatever you wrote\" and generally taught me to keep everything short. I still do it. Yeah, I would rewrite but by keeping text shorter you keep the mistakes down. \n\nAlso, another advice is - you wrote this thing and then ask yourself - IS IT NECESSARY at all? Or may be you should call instead!", "Write it, then save it as a draft, then set a timer to come back to it in an hour or longer. You'll feel less pressure to get it right the first time, and you'll be able to process it with fresh eyes later. (The same thing applies to photography.)", "Write it once. Let it sit for an hour while you do something else. After the hour re-write it.\n\nThen read it through twice, slowly, and only change something if there is an objectively necessary reason to do so \"i don't like the way this sounds.\" isn't good enough \"what if she thinks I mean XXX\" isn't good enough. \"Oh crap I can't disclose this to that person\" IS good enough.\n\nThen send it and move on.\n\nI get the same feeling but your can't lose a whole day on one email.", "Write it once and leave it for at least an hour without anyone in the To: box. Reread and send, or if you feel anxiety, leave it again. The space away can be productive on other things and you can come back with fresh eyes.", "Try to run it through with a staff member or intern. Or I just say to myself it's not the end of the world if there's some mistakes, and it is got to be sent so I can move on to something else. ", "There is a significant body of research evidence that suggests that Zoloft is an effective treatment for mild to moderate symptoms of obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). You should speak to your primary care provider about this issue. There is no shame in asking for help. ", "The most simple thing you can do is read your emails back to yourself in a monotone, without the inflections you've tried to place in the text. This is because that's how people will read it.\n\nBe direct and to the point; leave your jokes and other comments out of the email. Chances are the people reading your email have tons of others to get through as well. Shorter emails also leave less room for mistaken interpretation.\n\nOther than that, you just have to accept the fact that you can't please everyone and it's not worth it to step on egg shells given even your most benign comments will still piss someone off.", "The fact that you even consider this means that you are almost certainly not going to come off the wrong way and offend anybody.\n\nIf you put 2 minutes worth of your time into proof reading and re-wording things, you're 2 minutes ahead of the vast majority of the population. You're in the clear, most people don't even give it a second thought and 95% of the time *they* are fine.\n", "The book ''Sorted'' gives the advice to only go over your email once and to keep it at a maximum of 5 sentences per email. Which would make checking a lot easier too. It not specifically advice for what you mention here and I haven't finished the book yet, but I think it's relevant.\n\nWhen you have important things to discuss pick up the Phone or schedule a meeting, or if you are like me work your way into someones office and ask him.", "Subject: Fire. Dear Sir/Madam, I am writing to inform you of a fire that has broken out on the premises of 123 Cavendon Road... no, that's too formal.\n[deletes text, starts again] ", "Stop being a (). Honestly, you're probably smarter than 90% of the people you work with and life is short. Let go of the little things, buy a boat and chill.", "Sometimes I am the same way, it's frustrating in a way not many people can relate to. You don't want to come across as an arseface and you don't want to say something that could be a career limiting mistake. I found that the cause of most of the anxiety was that I really didn't know some of the people I was communicating with so I didn't know how to gauge their response to what I would say.\n\nIf you can, try to meet with your regular contacts out of the office for lunch or happy hour opportunities. It really helps to know that the other person you're talking to is not just a VP or some other suit. Trust me, you are not alone with the e-mail anxiety thing.", "Someone once suggested to me that you go back and read your text back to yourself and remove all tone inflection and natural accent that you put on it -- read as if a robot were reading it. It will help give you a better objective view of what you've said and you can catch things that may come off in a way different than it was meant. \n", "Someone on reddit said that before sending an email to read it to yourself in a really condescending voice, too see how it sounds, and to see if it could be misconstrued. I find it helpful.", "Save emails of certain types as templates that you can start from. Especially ones that are introductory emails between you and someone new. \n\nI write a lot of emails for my boss or in lieu or my boss and having files of templates are helpful. Examples are (friendly/personal introduction, Formal/CEO introduction, Sales Introduction, Followup from meeting with CEO, Followup from meeting-personal, etc.)", "Remember that the e-mail you have taken the whole day to rewrite will be read by someone else in less than 30 seconds. In other words, you care way more about how you are phrasing the email than the person who is reading it.", "Put a 1 minute delay on your emails (rule in outlook). Then after you press send and get the email remorse you can take it back.", "One thing to think of is that to the recipient, they probably don't care nearly as much as you do. Its another one of 15 emails they've gotten in the past hour and its just another thing to read. Just be calm, add in some nice comments or things not related to the email (ask how their weekend went), and just get to the point. ", "My startup seeks to solve this exact problem. It's called Wordzen. It only works with Gmail/Google Apps, but a real live human ", "My girlfriend actually suffers from the exact same thing. \n\nBy the sounds of a few of the replies I've read here, it appears that a lot of people are missing the point of your request. Correct me if I'm wrong, but the issue is *not* that you don't know *what* to write. Ergo all the advice about brevity, structure, niceties, etc etc is great but not relevant to you. The problem is that you are concerned about the message you're conveying being taken the wrong way by the recipient. Moreso, as you say, that you're afraid of them being offended rather than just not getting the gist of what you're trying to say. As silly as this sounds (why would someone be offended? what are you writing in your emails?) it is a legitimate concern you have for, if we're honest, illogical reasons. \n\nAs I said, my girlfriend suffers from the exact same thing. She's cool as a cucumber face-to-face and even regularly presents to important people at international events/conferences with minimal anxiety. However, when it comes to the written word, she really does get incredibly anxious. For her, this extends to text/whatsapp messages and more. It also makes no difference whether her email is to friends/family/work colleagues or complete strangers. If there's no importance to the email/message she's absolutely fine but as soon as it involves the potential for an emotional impact it really affects her. She agonises, and I do think this is the correct word, over how the message will be taken by the recipient. \n\nIt does sound to me as though you have an anxiety disorder. However, I would say that it's something you can definitely overcome yourself without the need for medication (IANAD). Step one is recognising you have an issue, so well done. You've definitely made it that far! Step 2 is wanting to do something about it. Sounds as though you've got there too. Step 3 is a little trickier and where my girlfriend is currently stuck. \n\nYou have to start looking at things/assessing the problem logically. It helps if you have someone around you who knows you well for this step to help reaffirm things for you. Are you an offensive person? Do you occasionally say things to people that offends them? And, if you did say/do something offensive, would you care upon realising it? The very fact that you have this anxiety issue suggests that you aren't offensive face-to-face and that, if you were, you would be upset to learn you'd caused offence. With that in mind, logically thinking, *would you have written any words, or combination of words, that could potentially cause clear, outright offence to the recipient of your email?* No, right? \n\nSo that's that issue taken care of. You haven't written anything outright offensive. Let's move on...\n\nGoing further, you can never control for how the tone of an email is going to be taken. For example, Sandra didn't like the way you said \"No, I'm busy\" so bluntly whereas Dave only absorbed the \"No\" and immediately moved on. In situations like this, unfortunately you cannot be held responsible for how someone takes your message. You really can't. OK, sure you can add \"No, I'm busy but I would have loved to hang out with you guys again\" (this is something my girlfriend does *a lot*) but what happens if we add an extra person to the recipient list? Joanne has never hung out with you guys before. Now you start worrying about the fact that you've said \"again\" when Joanne was never included the first time. Fuck. What happens when you're writing to someone for the first time (eg in a work situation)? How do you control for an unknown personality? \n\nDo you see where I'm going? We already know that you aren't putting anything outright offensive in your messages, so all we can assume is that something is being taken the wrong way by the recipient. Looking at this logically then, are you responsible for the recipient's feelings? Of course not. The most you can do is ensure that your content is concise, to the point, professional as needed and that it covers everything you wanted to say. That's it. Niceities are great but only really required if you know someone and want to maintain the social connection - in which case you have to assume that whomever you're conversing with knows you well enough to not be offended by anything you say. Or will know you well enough soon (if they're a fairly new acquaintance and still sussing you out). \n\nGoing back to my point about not being responsible for other peoples' feelings, this is where it's good to get someone you trust and that has been on the receiving end of many of your emails to give you an honest appraisal of your email style. I think you'll be surprised at what you hear. The anxiety you have is indicative of quite an empathic, caring and considerate personality and so tactfulness is quite likely a big part of your social repertoire. This is a very good thing. You already go further than 99% of the population and absolutely do not need to go any further! \n\n**TL;DR: you are not an offensive person ergo you are not writing offensive emails. You cannot be held responsible for how different personalities interpret the content of your emails.**", "Mindfulness helps alleviate anxiety. Just look into anxiety treatment methods in general and do some self work on why you might have anxiety for this particular issue.", "Maybe it's linked with the fact it could be sent at any time if you accidentally hit that send button, all that pressure to get it right without screwing up. Maybe try writing it in Word and see how less stressful that is before copying and pasting it over. ", "Let me answer from the perspective of someone who receives 60-80 emails a day.\n\n\nEmails are not letters and they're not creative writing. The goal is to be as clear and unambiguous as possible. \n\nStart by considering that a lot of people use rules to help sort their inbox, so make the subject line a clear synopsis of what the email is about. Reference any projects or other activities to help that sorting process.\n\nAs many have said, emails lack the nuances of face to face conversations, so don't try to be subtle. Convey the information is clear, concise way so that the recipient gets the information that they need in the shortest time possible. If you need to communicate a lot of information, a short summary at the top is really very helpful.\n\nAnd always use a closing sentence, especially if the email you're writing requires a response or some other action. It's not only courteous, but ensures that it is understood that there is an expectation that they make the appropriate response.\n\nDo this, and you'll find that there's much less anxiety, as now you're just transmitting information, and the form of the content is not as important ", "Just stick to the Facts, and make sure it is Readable. \n\nI used to proof my emails multiple times, and realized its because they were too complicated\n\nFacts: no emotion, no commentary, just the key points and only the necessary background for the sake of context.\n\nReadable: no one reads big paragraphs unless they think they need to. Break up your emails to highlight the key points from above so that anyone reading it can take away what you want them to", "Just send it. I had the same thing. 9/10 they will just skim read it and will have no concern whatsoever about sending you back a duff response because they didn't read it properly or a gramatically awful one. Once you break the cycle it's such a relief. Be free OP.. be free..", "If you *really* want to solve this problem, you got to look deeper. The fact that you are writing an e-mail most likely isn't the reason you are nervous. There are probably some deeper anxiety issues you have and the e-mails trigger this anxiety for whatever reason. \n\nThe most important lesson I've learned in life and one of the most difficult is to learn how to let things go. I'm still in the process after two years, but I've made leaps and bounds over where I have been. If you can do this, the e-mail problem will resolve itself.", "If the email can wait for a few hours or the next day, which is often true for important ones, then draft it, leave it and come back to it later. You will have had time to think, reconsider if necessary, add to it, etc. It's good you don't just hit send but let's not obsess.", "I'm no professional by any means, but I have the same sweat issue and what I do now is when I get an email I read it like it's not sent to me, but another Co worker and I am helping them answer it. The trick is to not over think it, but you probably will about 50% of the time \nusing this method. Try it with something small and relate it to that voice in your head when you are preparing for an argument with your SO. You know, the one where you use all the valid points, big words and stand up for yourself, but then when you're face to face you panic. Only since it's an email you can do it and people will respect you more because you'll become more confident and alpha.", "I will type important emails into Microsoft Word to take advantage of its superior spell and grammar check. \n\nI also save that document for my records.\n\n", "I sympathize with your position. I have some trouble sending e-mails. What really gets me is the dread in opening the Inbox.\n\nMy problem is that I have gotten my fears into a self-feeding loop. I know that I don't want to make anybody mad, but there's only so much I can do. \nIf you have a pleasant in-office reputation, I think readers will give you the benefit of the doubt.\nWalk yourself through what could happen. \nIf an e-mail does go wrong, hopefully you can solve it with a face to face meeting or a phone call.\n\nHow many e-mails have gone wrong before? I do have 5 communications in my life that went bad. But I can't let those 5 comunications keep me from doing my best. People make mistakes and the amount of energy you spend avoiding mistakes will drain you and it distracts you from focussing on what could go right.", "I have a rule in Outlook that delays sending email for 10 minutes after I click send. This way I can change my mind after clicking send and tweak further if needed. ", "I had the same problem a couple of years ago. I would highly recommend seeing a therapist. I did cognitive behavioral therapy, and it helped a lot. Not only did it help with my emails, but in other areas of my life as well.", "I find myself doing this all the time when I'm sending emails to my boss or higher ups. I think it's natural that you want to make sure they are written properly, convey the right message, and are brief. I've been writing one for the last week. It's going to my VP and all of the directors in my department. I'm asking them to change the way they do things and that's rough for many people so I want to be sure I ease them into the process. I wouldn't worry about it much. I think that once you have more wisdom in life, that anxiety will diminish as you'll feel more secure about your thoughts and decisions. ", "I ask someone knowledgeable on the topic to read over my email. If they give the thumbs-up, I send it.", "I ALWAYS get someone in my office to read a super important email before I send it off. It makes me feel way better. Sometimes if I don't have anyone available nearby I'll call a prior teammate or friend and read it to them to see if I sound like an idiot or not.", "Honestly, I would consider talking to someone about getting screened for anxiety. It Could be just emails that you're anxious about or you might have an underlying anxiety problem. \n\nAnd if you do, and you can get it resolved, you'll be shocked at how much easier your life will become. \n\nSource: I used to be crazy, am no longer as crazy. ", "Hey! I have something similar, as I have been rising within my company/media empire so I often send emails to the big bosses. I end up redrafting it like 2 or 3 times. I would say to keep these things in mind: 1) Whoever is reading the email is not gonna place as much importance on it as you are. They are busy so they are not gonna read into things. Keep anything unnecessary out of it. 2) I like to draft the email, come back to it after 30 mins or an hour, redraft (losing anything unimportant) and send. It doesn't need to be perfect, just keep in mind the same principal as #1 and know there's a huge chance that if the person you're writing to is busy, they might not even read all of it. Make your most important point first and realize they might just gloss over the rest. 3) Be friendly in tone. As long as you are friendly and not rude, the reciever won't fault you for it so no need to worry.:. and 4) it's just one email, hopefully it will start a conversation where you can say other things that you wanna say. It's more important to send it, even if it's incomplete with the hopes that you can follow up with a later email or conversation", "Given that the best, most read emails are short, I would outline what I want to say to make sure I hit the points I need to and that it flows well. I don't fill in the outline as much as I do for writing papers. The outline format makes it easier for me to see that I included what I need to say. Bulletpoints would do the same thing, really, just to bring more focus on each point.", "For emails that I'm reluctant to send, either cause I'm not satisfied with what I wrote or whatever, I ALWAYS send them to myself first. \n\nThis way I kinda trick myself into thinking that it's finished email but now I can reread with more clear mind and if I don't like it, I can actually fix it and only then send it to whoever... ", "Find a friend to scan these occasional important emails and tell you if they read anything into the tone. Be sure not to make them accountable for anyone else's interpretation, but having a third party check for tone will help catch ambiguities and give you a sense of comfort when sending.\n\nGenerally, try affect a sincerely positive tone. When I send a critical or potentially abrasive email for work, I always focus on my good intention for the team or product, rather than who messed up. And I sign my name with a smiley emoticon. I think this works for me because I'm an unabashedly warm person, not snarky or insincere. ", "Do you end up with an adrenaline buzz from the anxiety after? You could try beta blockers. They have helped my anxiety hugely. A new study has found they can eliminate certain fears by blocking the \"emotional memory\" of the event. ", "Collect your thoughts. I struggle with the same problem, and I find that it's because I am continuously trying to convey a message but with a certain verbiage and delivery. This causes me to write erase and rewrite constantly. Try just getting out your whole message, then going through and changing vocabulary. ", "Assuming you use Gmail, turn on the \"undo send\" feature. It removes that \"what if I sees typo right after I send it\" anxiety. It helped me a lot.", "Ask someone to review it for you. The best person to ask to review may depend on the content. I was lucky to have a cube mate that wouldn't mind and provided great feedback.", "All great advice here.\n\nThe one thing I haven't read (or maybe missed), is reading the email to yourself in monotone. Don't add inflection, try to imagine a stranger writing this to you.\n\nUnless you have a close relationship with someone where jokes or silly tone will come across, this will help you avoid confusion or offense.\n\nI'm great at this with email, but struggle with text. Good luck!", "Add a 1 minute send delay on your e-mail software. If you realise you made an error you can cancel your e-mail and it could reduce the anxiety of pressing \"Send\".\n\n", "A good tip to remember when writing important emails is to ensure you're writing as brief a message as possible. \n\nSometimes we tend to over-explain, use big words, and change our writing style in other unnecessary ways when our audience is perceived as an authority or the setting is professional. The truth is, you'll often find that veterans and high-ranking types compose the shortest and most concise emails. If you aim to make your emails as short and simple as possible, while saying just enough to get your point or message across, your audience will appreciate it, and you'll have less content to worry about. \n\nI'd recommend just dumping all of your thoughts out in a message in a 'first draft' and then go through it and reduce it to as few words as possible. Try to make your email sound natural and conversational - just like how you'd speak to your audience in person. Ask yourself as you read each sentence in your drafts, \"Was this sentence absolutely necessary to get my point across? Can I say it in a quicker or more direct way? Am I restating something or being redundant?\" Etc. \n\nJust my $0.02", "A colleague of mine clicks and holds the send button and proceeds to ask me to lift his finger. I always oblige. See if that works for you. ", "Sounds like you've subconsciously become frightened of e-mails. So, Don't write them in your e-mail program that's causing you stress. Write it in word or whatever program you are happy to use normally without stress, and write it as a normal piece of text , description, explanation whatever you normally write. Leave it for a while, re-", "Jesus Christ, glad you don't work for me! Type out email. Work on something else for 10 or 15 minutes. Go back to email. Proofread. " ]

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[ "How can I stop worrying so much about what others think? Worst part, by \"others\" I don't even mean others in real life.\n\nLike I'll look up a question/thread on Reddit, and if something I agree with is very upvoted or one of the most upvoted posts, I feel happy, secure, and complete. However, if something I disagree with is not as upvoted, or I have to scroll all the way down to find an opinion I agree with, I start to feel rather small, sad, and insecure. It makes me feel wrong for not sharing the majority's opinion.\n\nAnd this ranges from anything really. Tattoos vs no tattoos on a girl, rough hands vs smooth hands, hairy legs on a guy vs hairless legs on a guy, chocolate ice cream vs vanilla ice cream, favorite character from The Office, favorite type of dinosaur, would you date or not date an introvert, etc.\n\nA lot of those are really stupid, but it matters to me. Like if I prefer no tattoos on a girl, yet the most popular post on a thread is something like, \"Oh yes tattoos!\" with 190 something upvotes, and all following posts say the same thing, and I have to scroll down till a post with only like 15 upvotes to find, \"I prefer no tattoos, just my preference\", I start to feel really confused and insecure, as if there's something wrong with me for not thinking like the majority.\n\nI know small things like this are completely subjective anyway, but I can't help but feel as if I'm \"wrong\" if my opinion doesn't match up with the general consensus.\n\nI wanna know what I can do to stop this, cuz I've been doing it for years and it's been making me feel worse about myself. Before regularly using Reddit I even used to do this sort of thing on platforms like fucking YouTube, Yahoo, or Quora.", "How can I stop worrying so much about what others think? Worst part, by \"others\" I don't even mean others in real life.\n\nLike I'll look up a question/thread on Reddit, and if something I agree with is very upvoted or one of the most upvoted posts, I feel happy, secure, and complete. However, if something I disagree with is not as upvoted, or I have to scroll all the way down to find an opinion I agree with, I start to feel rather small, sad, and insecure. It makes me feel wrong for not sharing the majority's opinion.\n\nAnd this ranges from anything really. Tattoos vs no tattoos on a girl, rough hands vs smooth hands, hairy legs on a guy vs hairless legs on a guy, chocolate ice cream vs vanilla ice cream, favorite character from The Office, favorite type of dinosaur, would you date or not date an introvert, etc.\n\nA lot of those are really stupid, but it matters to me. Like if I prefer no tattoos on a girl, yet the most popular post on a thread is something like, \"Oh yes tattoos!\" with 190 something upvotes, and all following posts say the same thing, and I have to scroll down till a post with only like 15 upvotes to find, \"I prefer no tattoos, just my preference\", I start to feel really confused and insecure, as if there's something wrong with me for not thinking like the majority.\n\nI know small things like this are completely subjective anyway, but I can't help but feel as if I'm \"wrong\" if my opinion doesn't match up with the general consensus.\n\nI wanna know what I can do to stop this, cuz I've been doing it for years and it's been making me feel worse about myself. Before regularly using Reddit I even used to do this sort of thing on platforms like fucking YouTube, Yahoo, or Quora.", "How can I stop worrying so much about what others think? Worst part, by \"others\" I don't even mean others in real life.\n\nLike I'll look up a question/thread on Reddit, and if something I agree with is very upvoted or one of the most upvoted posts, I feel happy, secure, and complete. However, if something I disagree with is not as upvoted, or I have to scroll all the way down to find an opinion I agree with, I start to feel rather small, sad, and insecure. It makes me feel wrong for not sharing the majority's opinion.\n\nAnd this ranges from anything really. Tattoos vs no tattoos on a girl, rough hands vs smooth hands, hairy legs on a guy vs hairless legs on a guy, chocolate ice cream vs vanilla ice cream, favorite character from The Office, favorite type of dinosaur, would you date or not date an introvert, etc.\n\nA lot of those are really stupid, but it matters to me. Like if I prefer no tattoos on a girl, yet the most popular post on a thread is something like, \"Oh yes tattoos!\" with 190 something upvotes, and all following posts say the same thing, and I have to scroll down till a post with only like 15 upvotes to find, \"I prefer no tattoos, just my preference\", I start to feel really confused and insecure, as if there's something wrong with me for not thinking like the majority.\n\nI know small things like this are completely subjective anyway, but I can't help but feel as if I'm \"wrong\" if my opinion doesn't match up with the general consensus.\n\nI wanna know what I can do to stop this, cuz I've been doing it for years and it's been making me feel worse about myself. Before regularly using Reddit I even used to do this sort of thing on platforms like fucking YouTube, Yahoo, or Quora.", "How can I stop worrying so much about what others think? Worst part, by \"others\" I don't even mean others in real life.\n\nLike I'll look up a question/thread on Reddit, and if something I agree with is very upvoted or one of the most upvoted posts, I feel happy, secure, and complete. However, if something I disagree with is not as upvoted, or I have to scroll all the way down to find an opinion I agree with, I start to feel rather small, sad, and insecure. It makes me feel wrong for not sharing the majority's opinion.\n\nAnd this ranges from anything really. Tattoos vs no tattoos on a girl, rough hands vs smooth hands, hairy legs on a guy vs hairless legs on a guy, chocolate ice cream vs vanilla ice cream, favorite character from The Office, favorite type of dinosaur, would you date or not date an introvert, etc.\n\nA lot of those are really stupid, but it matters to me. Like if I prefer no tattoos on a girl, yet the most popular post on a thread is something like, \"Oh yes tattoos!\" with 190 something upvotes, and all following posts say the same thing, and I have to scroll down till a post with only like 15 upvotes to find, \"I prefer no tattoos, just my preference\", I start to feel really confused and insecure, as if there's something wrong with me for not thinking like the majority.\n\nI know small things like this are completely subjective anyway, but I can't help but feel as if I'm \"wrong\" if my opinion doesn't match up with the general consensus.\n\nI wanna know what I can do to stop this, cuz I've been doing it for years and it's been making me feel worse about myself. Before regularly using Reddit I even used to do this sort of thing on platforms like fucking YouTube, Yahoo, or Quora.", "How can I stop worrying so much about what others think? Worst part, by \"others\" I don't even mean others in real life.\n\nLike I'll look up a question/thread on Reddit, and if something I agree with is very upvoted or one of the most upvoted posts, I feel happy, secure, and complete. However, if something I disagree with is not as upvoted, or I have to scroll all the way down to find an opinion I agree with, I start to feel rather small, sad, and insecure. It makes me feel wrong for not sharing the majority's opinion.\n\nAnd this ranges from anything really. Tattoos vs no tattoos on a girl, rough hands vs smooth hands, hairy legs on a guy vs hairless legs on a guy, chocolate ice cream vs vanilla ice cream, favorite character from The Office, favorite type of dinosaur, would you date or not date an introvert, etc.\n\nA lot of those are really stupid, but it matters to me. Like if I prefer no tattoos on a girl, yet the most popular post on a thread is something like, \"Oh yes tattoos!\" with 190 something upvotes, and all following posts say the same thing, and I have to scroll down till a post with only like 15 upvotes to find, \"I prefer no tattoos, just my preference\", I start to feel really confused and insecure, as if there's something wrong with me for not thinking like the majority.\n\nI know small things like this are completely subjective anyway, but I can't help but feel as if I'm \"wrong\" if my opinion doesn't match up with the general consensus.\n\nI wanna know what I can do to stop this, cuz I've been doing it for years and it's been making me feel worse about myself. Before regularly using Reddit I even used to do this sort of thing on platforms like fucking YouTube, Yahoo, or Quora.", "How can I stop worrying so much about what others think? Worst part, by \"others\" I don't even mean others in real life.\n\nLike I'll look up a question/thread on Reddit, and if something I agree with is very upvoted or one of the most upvoted posts, I feel happy, secure, and complete. However, if something I disagree with is not as upvoted, or I have to scroll all the way down to find an opinion I agree with, I start to feel rather small, sad, and insecure. It makes me feel wrong for not sharing the majority's opinion.\n\nAnd this ranges from anything really. Tattoos vs no tattoos on a girl, rough hands vs smooth hands, hairy legs on a guy vs hairless legs on a guy, chocolate ice cream vs vanilla ice cream, favorite character from The Office, favorite type of dinosaur, would you date or not date an introvert, etc.\n\nA lot of those are really stupid, but it matters to me. Like if I prefer no tattoos on a girl, yet the most popular post on a thread is something like, \"Oh yes tattoos!\" with 190 something upvotes, and all following posts say the same thing, and I have to scroll down till a post with only like 15 upvotes to find, \"I prefer no tattoos, just my preference\", I start to feel really confused and insecure, as if there's something wrong with me for not thinking like the majority.\n\nI know small things like this are completely subjective anyway, but I can't help but feel as if I'm \"wrong\" if my opinion doesn't match up with the general consensus.\n\nI wanna know what I can do to stop this, cuz I've been doing it for years and it's been making me feel worse about myself. Before regularly using Reddit I even used to do this sort of thing on platforms like fucking YouTube, Yahoo, or Quora.", "How can I stop worrying so much about what others think? Worst part, by \"others\" I don't even mean others in real life.\n\nLike I'll look up a question/thread on Reddit, and if something I agree with is very upvoted or one of the most upvoted posts, I feel happy, secure, and complete. However, if something I disagree with is not as upvoted, or I have to scroll all the way down to find an opinion I agree with, I start to feel rather small, sad, and insecure. It makes me feel wrong for not sharing the majority's opinion.\n\nAnd this ranges from anything really. Tattoos vs no tattoos on a girl, rough hands vs smooth hands, hairy legs on a guy vs hairless legs on a guy, chocolate ice cream vs vanilla ice cream, favorite character from The Office, favorite type of dinosaur, would you date or not date an introvert, etc.\n\nA lot of those are really stupid, but it matters to me. Like if I prefer no tattoos on a girl, yet the most popular post on a thread is something like, \"Oh yes tattoos!\" with 190 something upvotes, and all following posts say the same thing, and I have to scroll down till a post with only like 15 upvotes to find, \"I prefer no tattoos, just my preference\", I start to feel really confused and insecure, as if there's something wrong with me for not thinking like the majority.\n\nI know small things like this are completely subjective anyway, but I can't help but feel as if I'm \"wrong\" if my opinion doesn't match up with the general consensus.\n\nI wanna know what I can do to stop this, cuz I've been doing it for years and it's been making me feel worse about myself. Before regularly using Reddit I even used to do this sort of thing on platforms like fucking YouTube, Yahoo, or Quora.", "How can I stop worrying so much about what others think? Worst part, by \"others\" I don't even mean others in real life.\n\nLike I'll look up a question/thread on Reddit, and if something I agree with is very upvoted or one of the most upvoted posts, I feel happy, secure, and complete. However, if something I disagree with is not as upvoted, or I have to scroll all the way down to find an opinion I agree with, I start to feel rather small, sad, and insecure. It makes me feel wrong for not sharing the majority's opinion.\n\nAnd this ranges from anything really. Tattoos vs no tattoos on a girl, rough hands vs smooth hands, hairy legs on a guy vs hairless legs on a guy, chocolate ice cream vs vanilla ice cream, favorite character from The Office, favorite type of dinosaur, would you date or not date an introvert, etc.\n\nA lot of those are really stupid, but it matters to me. Like if I prefer no tattoos on a girl, yet the most popular post on a thread is something like, \"Oh yes tattoos!\" with 190 something upvotes, and all following posts say the same thing, and I have to scroll down till a post with only like 15 upvotes to find, \"I prefer no tattoos, just my preference\", I start to feel really confused and insecure, as if there's something wrong with me for not thinking like the majority.\n\nI know small things like this are completely subjective anyway, but I can't help but feel as if I'm \"wrong\" if my opinion doesn't match up with the general consensus.\n\nI wanna know what I can do to stop this, cuz I've been doing it for years and it's been making me feel worse about myself. Before regularly using Reddit I even used to do this sort of thing on platforms like fucking YouTube, Yahoo, or Quora.", "How can I stop worrying so much about what others think? Worst part, by \"others\" I don't even mean others in real life.\n\nLike I'll look up a question/thread on Reddit, and if something I agree with is very upvoted or one of the most upvoted posts, I feel happy, secure, and complete. However, if something I disagree with is not as upvoted, or I have to scroll all the way down to find an opinion I agree with, I start to feel rather small, sad, and insecure. It makes me feel wrong for not sharing the majority's opinion.\n\nAnd this ranges from anything really. Tattoos vs no tattoos on a girl, rough hands vs smooth hands, hairy legs on a guy vs hairless legs on a guy, chocolate ice cream vs vanilla ice cream, favorite character from The Office, favorite type of dinosaur, would you date or not date an introvert, etc.\n\nA lot of those are really stupid, but it matters to me. Like if I prefer no tattoos on a girl, yet the most popular post on a thread is something like, \"Oh yes tattoos!\" with 190 something upvotes, and all following posts say the same thing, and I have to scroll down till a post with only like 15 upvotes to find, \"I prefer no tattoos, just my preference\", I start to feel really confused and insecure, as if there's something wrong with me for not thinking like the majority.\n\nI know small things like this are completely subjective anyway, but I can't help but feel as if I'm \"wrong\" if my opinion doesn't match up with the general consensus.\n\nI wanna know what I can do to stop this, cuz I've been doing it for years and it's been making me feel worse about myself. Before regularly using Reddit I even used to do this sort of thing on platforms like fucking YouTube, Yahoo, or Quora." ]

[ "There is a nice YouTube video about a renaissance painting that graphically explains why we shouldn't worry what others think about us. https://youtu.be/X75Roe_davA", "Your feeling of insecure comes from the thought \"there's something wrong with me for not thinking like the majority\". When you are insecure describe how you behave. I'm guessing you isolate yourself a lot, or minimize socializing or even speaking often. Doing things like that results in separating yourself from others, yes? If so, funny how your results prove your own thought. The question is then what results do you want?\nPart of the reason humans generally want to \"belong\" is because we've been wired this way for thousands of years because it improved our survival rate. The other reason we're programmed to be part of a group is because being part of a team, group, organization, anything is constantly revered whereas isolation is often used as punishment. This is why so many people struggle being alone because it feels like a punishment. And worse in this social media age, while we all belong to various digital platforms, we can't deny we type alone. \nMy friend, you need to work on your thoughts without judging yourself. Practice having compassion for yourself and for others while also appreciating that having a difference of opinion is so refreshing. As a life coach I'm constantly helping people work on their mindset. It's incredible how a little change in our thinking can make a big difference.", "Sounds like you are looking for acceptance frequently, which can lead you to confussion as you are agreeing with opinions you do not support yourself, that alone can destroy your ego and respect from others which is the opposite of what you want. Instead, if you have an opposite of someone, disagree with them Respectively, it may not seem so at first, your opinion will be respected in return and make you unique at what your thoughts actually are, instead of just agreeing and repeating after someone like a parrot.", "i try to remember something juicy or saucy about someone else, then i start realizing i cant really remember... and when i do i don't care. and that's the thing, no one is really out there reciting your mistakes., only your guilt or regrets are.... the best advice is to remember your -> Effing awesome. and no one really know how awesome you are :) go and tell folks. hey mistakes were made. by the most awesome person you know...get over it :)\nlove you're self and you will be loved, i believe in that wholly.\n\n", "don't sweat upvotes or downvotes, they are both equally meaningless. Think about how much time you spend thinking about other individuals (especially anonymous ones) Most people are too wrapped up in themselves to give anyone else a second thought.", "Life is short. Stop giving a shit. Do what makes you happy, as long as it doesn’t hurt others. Care only about the options of those who care about you.", "Get off social media, it's getting to you, and find someone to speak to about how you feel\n\nAlso, good on you for taking the first step and asking for help! You're awesome!", "Aww Maan. I kinda feel bad for you and I can't really help. My opinion is also often not shared by the majority or I can't even decide at all, because I can understand both sides party. All I can say is, that your opinion is not wrong because of that. It's an opinion. There is no right and wrong opinion (ofc there are some things but I won't list them here).", "Ask yourself what do you really think and feel, and stick to it. Learn to listen to what YOU feel. Also m" ]

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[ "How can i save money as a teenager? I want to save as much money as i can so next year i can buy a new smartphone. Please help me with suggestions and ideas. Thanks!", "How can i save money as a teenager? I want to save as much money as i can so next year i can buy a new smartphone. Please help me with suggestions and ideas. Thanks!", "How can i save money as a teenager? I want to save as much money as i can so next year i can buy a new smartphone. Please help me with suggestions and ideas. Thanks!", "How can i save money as a teenager? I want to save as much money as i can so next year i can buy a new smartphone. Please help me with suggestions and ideas. Thanks!", "How can i save money as a teenager? I want to save as much money as i can so next year i can buy a new smartphone. Please help me with suggestions and ideas. Thanks!", "How can i save money as a teenager? I want to save as much money as i can so next year i can buy a new smartphone. Please help me with suggestions and ideas. Thanks!", "How can i save money as a teenager? I want to save as much money as i can so next year i can buy a new smartphone. Please help me with suggestions and ideas. Thanks!", "How can i save money as a teenager? I want to save as much money as i can so next year i can buy a new smartphone. Please help me with suggestions and ideas. Thanks!", "How can i save money as a teenager? I want to save as much money as i can so next year i can buy a new smartphone. Please help me with suggestions and ideas. Thanks!", "How can i save money as a teenager? I want to save as much money as i can so next year i can buy a new smartphone. Please help me with suggestions and ideas. Thanks!", "How can i save money as a teenager? I want to save as much money as i can so next year i can buy a new smartphone. Please help me with suggestions and ideas. Thanks!", "How can i save money as a teenager? I want to save as much money as i can so next year i can buy a new smartphone. Please help me with suggestions and ideas. Thanks!", "How can i save money as a teenager? I want to save as much money as i can so next year i can buy a new smartphone. Please help me with suggestions and ideas. Thanks!", "How can i save money as a teenager? I want to save as much money as i can so next year i can buy a new smartphone. Please help me with suggestions and ideas. Thanks!" ]

[ "A big thing is don't spend your money on useless shit. Like, do you really need that McDouble right now? Wait until you get home, it's free.", "Nobody commented on the suggestive wording of the OP. A NEW smartphone? Do you already have one? Do you NEED the latest model? That $400 can go a long way if you save it away for when you are out on your own and raman isnt on sale 10 for $1. \nI now make 6 figures and still can't justify those silly things with insane monthly charges. I have a computer at work, computer at home, and when I'm out being social, I find people with their noses in their phones obnoxious. I get a new dumb phone for free every time I agree to renew and pay less than a dollar a day.\nJust be smart with your money. My biggest thing was to think how many hours I would have to spend at work to buy a specific item. Would I want to go to work right now for 3 hours to buy this pizza? Nope, home for moms dinner every time!", "Try to eat in more, it'll save you more money that you think. Check out /r/frugal it can help a lot. You'll definitely want to get a job doing something if you don't have on already, the sooner you start making money on your own the better. Finally don't spend your money on anything that isn't absolutely necessary. No games, no music and no movies. It's not that hard most can just be downloaded easily. Also anytime someone asks you if you'll do a job for them or something just take it. Dolla Dolla Bills Y'all. ", "I was half way on my own as a teenager for a couple years. I still lived at home, but I provided a lot for my self (Car, gas, cell phone, clothes, etc). Get a good job that pays better than minimum wage and discipline your self not to buy stupid shit. I remember one night I went to wal mart to get something for school, and ended up spending 80 bucks on some POS paintball gun that I only used once. I know teens do shit like that all the time, and simply dont. Also, when you go out to eat. The dollar menu is the place to be. ", "1. Eat at home more often than you eat out, McDonalds is cheap at first, but a #5 gets expensive after you've ordered it 12 times this month.\n2. Go shopping with your parents. Most of the time you can get them to buy you one or two things you want/need if you're there with them running errands.\n3. Don't buy little stupid toys or gadgets. A walkie-talkie to share with your best friends seems like fun at first but it will rarely get used (trust me)\n4. If you play video games, play more free ones. League of Legends is a great place to start and download Steam and search their \"free games\" section.\n5. Always tell yourself and your friends that you simply don't have money. IF your friends want to go see a movie and then get dinner after, tell them you don't have the money for it. You'll start to save money that way and then maybe a friend will offer to pay for your dinner so all you pay for is the movie.", "If job's aren't your thing my 11 year old cousin came up with a scheme when she was 6 that has since yielded her a decent savings.\nEvery day she asks her dad for $2. He always complies. Every now and then she asks for more, but generally she asks for money every time they go out to eat somewhere, then she immediately puts it into her saving spot, and when she goes with her mom / siblings she mooches off them lol. \nEvil genius.", "don't buy a car\n\n you gotta pay for the car, the gas, the repairs, the oil and cars decrease in value for every km you drive ", "It really depends how independent you are. There are obvious things that apply to everyone like not buying coffee from coffee shops. If you buy your own food then try and make meals with friends; you will eat more varied foods and it will be cheaper.", "If you have decent feet buy knee high socks and take a picture with them on. Pack them up and sell them on ebay. I myself was amazed what people will pay for a fetish. ", "Write down everything you purchase. Keep a monthly log. You'll be surprised how much those $0.75 packages of candy add up to in a month.\n\nGet yourself a glass wine bottle. This worked for me for years. Every time you get some cash, shove some into the bottle. If you have a job, set aside $30 or so every paycheck and shove it in the bottle. The only way to get the money out is to break the bottle, so you're not going to be digging in there when you want a burger.", "Not really helping you in this situation, but I've found that I like to spend my $50 bills much less than my $20s. I've put one $50 away in a box under the pretense that I'll use it in an emergency. That one evolved into 3 $50s that I have no intention on spending, cause I like having fifties.\n\nAlso, always try to carry higher denominations of cash. If you're out and you think you're thirsty and you see a vending machine, they aren't likely to take $20s. Every extra $1 goes a long way. Only use change in vending machines anyway, unless you put it in a jar and plan to break it open when it's full. ", "Make a balance. \nOn one side all your income, other side everything that you pay for.\n\nThis will help in reducing your spending. Because you will see how much useless stuff you actually buy every time you update the balance. \n\nOh, did someone mention to you that a job might help?\n\nAnd lastly you could save some money by at the beginning of the month saving a small amount (maybe 20$), instead of saving at the end of the month whatever is left. So if you normally are afble to spend 100$ you will now be forced to spend less because you only have 80$ you can spend. ", "I could have saved a ton of money if I wouldn't have dated until I was a little older, now I'm not talking like wait till your 30 to date but don't worry about buying expensive gifts when your 16, and movie theatre tickets are expensive....", "Been said already but here is my two cents \n-get two jobs. The success to wealth is multiple facets of money\n-don't smoke weed. Unless you have dank connects and can SAFELY!!' flip (second job) some and have a nice head stash and cash\n- get used to eating PPJ for 2 meals a day. Don't eat out often \n- don't have a girlfriend that is fiscally demanding \n- collect change. Oddly enough this helps when it accumulates.\n- don't buy useless goods, be a conscious consumer.\n- MOST OF ALL GET A JOB(s) " ]

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[ "how to stick to a schedule when your weeks are erratic? Hi, i struggle to stick to a schedule. I am supposed to be studying 20 hours a week for my maths, but i work nights on a flexible contract, this basically means they can just say i need you to work this night.\n\nThe work i do prevents me from going regularly to the gym, and i just want to relax and sleep whenever i get in.\nOn days off i have to rearrange my sleep pattern to cater to be awake throughout the day, this in itself is a challenge.\n\nWhat pro tips do you have that will help me stick to a schedule?", "how to stick to a schedule when your weeks are erratic? Hi, i struggle to stick to a schedule. I am supposed to be studying 20 hours a week for my maths, but i work nights on a flexible contract, this basically means they can just say i need you to work this night.\n\nThe work i do prevents me from going regularly to the gym, and i just want to relax and sleep whenever i get in.\nOn days off i have to rearrange my sleep pattern to cater to be awake throughout the day, this in itself is a challenge.\n\nWhat pro tips do you have that will help me stick to a schedule?", "how to stick to a schedule when your weeks are erratic? Hi, i struggle to stick to a schedule. I am supposed to be studying 20 hours a week for my maths, but i work nights on a flexible contract, this basically means they can just say i need you to work this night.\n\nThe work i do prevents me from going regularly to the gym, and i just want to relax and sleep whenever i get in.\nOn days off i have to rearrange my sleep pattern to cater to be awake throughout the day, this in itself is a challenge.\n\nWhat pro tips do you have that will help me stick to a schedule?" ]

[ "Idk how late you're working, but if you can get to sleep by like 11 each night and then wake up like an hour or two early then you have an extra 2 hours to do what you need. Also, if you're keeping to a schedule you can't break it if you're tired. I get being tired after work and such, but it's important not to break your schedule, or else you'll never keep to it. It's about willpower and keeping yourself on schedule. And to an extent you have to be a bit flexible if you're busy but what you plan on doing should get done as consistently as possible each day.", "Similar situation here. \nI think having a solid pre-sleep routine you can replicate day or night is helpful. It helps train your brain and body to shift into \"sleep mode\" on cue. \n\nFor me, it's brushing my teeth, taking a shower, and heading to bed with a semi-boring podcast on a sleep timer. Minimizing any prolonged screen time is key, and if you have light blocking curtains or can subdue the lighting somehow, that helps too. ", "Money, social life, academic, sleep choose three. \nSounds like you're over stretching yourself, may end up in a burn out stage which is no good for yourself. \nMaybe just do an annual plan with a variety of three choices to keep life a bit more interesting? " ]

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[ "How to remove makeup stains from a porcelain sink/countertop. My roommate just move out, and I am in the process of cleaning up her old living space. She must have kept makeup containers on the sink/countertop, because their are little square and circle flesh colored stains that I cannot remove. \n\nI have tried a bathroom cleaner with bleach and a Magic Eraser. No amount of scrubbing (haven't tried anything abrasive) seems to have any effect. What can I use to remove these stains without ruining the glossy finish of the porcelain?", "How to remove makeup stains from a porcelain sink/countertop. My roommate just move out, and I am in the process of cleaning up her old living space. She must have kept makeup containers on the sink/countertop, because their are little square and circle flesh colored stains that I cannot remove. \n\nI have tried a bathroom cleaner with bleach and a Magic Eraser. No amount of scrubbing (haven't tried anything abrasive) seems to have any effect. What can I use to remove these stains without ruining the glossy finish of the porcelain?" ]

[ "Look for a product called Barkeeper's Friend. It comes in a powder or liquid form, is inexpensive, and should solve your problem.", "Baking soda, use it dry and just rub it. Works on anything and does not leave scratches.\n\nHave a good one.\n" ]

[ 5, 2 ]

[ "How to do the four-way-fold for cardboard box bases When you fold the sides such that each one is both above and below another side. Is there an easy way to do it without bending the sides? And is it even worth it do fold boxes this way (does it provide any additional support as a base)?", "How to do the four-way-fold for cardboard box bases When you fold the sides such that each one is both above and below another side. Is there an easy way to do it without bending the sides? And is it even worth it do fold boxes this way (does it provide any additional support as a base)?" ]

[ "It does provide some support but a single piece of masking tape from one side of the box, across the bottom, to the other side will do all the work for you.\n\nAs for the folding, I was never able to do it without bending the cardboard. It's good for the top of the box if you need to get into the box quicker or are low on top. Just don't rest anything too heavy on top of the box as it's weaker than a box bound by tape.", "Worked with quite a few boxes. Its basically only good for stopping them flap in your face when you're carrying them = zero load support" ]

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[ "How to be more respected and valued in a friend group I'm friends with quite a few people from my work, with one of them being a close friend of mine whom I've known since before we both started working together. I always feel like out of the 2 of us he is seen as the alpha male by all of our work friends. I often feel like I am left out of decision making and not generally respected by the others and seen as more of a sidekick to my friend.\n\nI am smaller, quieter and more introverted than him and I tend to be seen as the guy that \"just tags along\" rather than being a core member of the group.\n\nWhat can I do to gain more respect and be seen as less of a beta of the group?", "How to be more respected and valued in a friend group I'm friends with quite a few people from my work, with one of them being a close friend of mine whom I've known since before we both started working together. I always feel like out of the 2 of us he is seen as the alpha male by all of our work friends. I often feel like I am left out of decision making and not generally respected by the others and seen as more of a sidekick to my friend.\n\nI am smaller, quieter and more introverted than him and I tend to be seen as the guy that \"just tags along\" rather than being a core member of the group.\n\nWhat can I do to gain more respect and be seen as less of a beta of the group?", "How to be more respected and valued in a friend group I'm friends with quite a few people from my work, with one of them being a close friend of mine whom I've known since before we both started working together. I always feel like out of the 2 of us he is seen as the alpha male by all of our work friends. I often feel like I am left out of decision making and not generally respected by the others and seen as more of a sidekick to my friend.\n\nI am smaller, quieter and more introverted than him and I tend to be seen as the guy that \"just tags along\" rather than being a core member of the group.\n\nWhat can I do to gain more respect and be seen as less of a beta of the group?", "How to be more respected and valued in a friend group I'm friends with quite a few people from my work, with one of them being a close friend of mine whom I've known since before we both started working together. I always feel like out of the 2 of us he is seen as the alpha male by all of our work friends. I often feel like I am left out of decision making and not generally respected by the others and seen as more of a sidekick to my friend.\n\nI am smaller, quieter and more introverted than him and I tend to be seen as the guy that \"just tags along\" rather than being a core member of the group.\n\nWhat can I do to gain more respect and be seen as less of a beta of the group?", "How to be more respected and valued in a friend group I'm friends with quite a few people from my work, with one of them being a close friend of mine whom I've known since before we both started working together. I always feel like out of the 2 of us he is seen as the alpha male by all of our work friends. I often feel like I am left out of decision making and not generally respected by the others and seen as more of a sidekick to my friend.\n\nI am smaller, quieter and more introverted than him and I tend to be seen as the guy that \"just tags along\" rather than being a core member of the group.\n\nWhat can I do to gain more respect and be seen as less of a beta of the group?", "How to be more respected and valued in a friend group I'm friends with quite a few people from my work, with one of them being a close friend of mine whom I've known since before we both started working together. I always feel like out of the 2 of us he is seen as the alpha male by all of our work friends. I often feel like I am left out of decision making and not generally respected by the others and seen as more of a sidekick to my friend.\n\nI am smaller, quieter and more introverted than him and I tend to be seen as the guy that \"just tags along\" rather than being a core member of the group.\n\nWhat can I do to gain more respect and be seen as less of a beta of the group?", "How to be more respected and valued in a friend group I'm friends with quite a few people from my work, with one of them being a close friend of mine whom I've known since before we both started working together. I always feel like out of the 2 of us he is seen as the alpha male by all of our work friends. I often feel like I am left out of decision making and not generally respected by the others and seen as more of a sidekick to my friend.\n\nI am smaller, quieter and more introverted than him and I tend to be seen as the guy that \"just tags along\" rather than being a core member of the group.\n\nWhat can I do to gain more respect and be seen as less of a beta of the group?", "How to be more respected and valued in a friend group I'm friends with quite a few people from my work, with one of them being a close friend of mine whom I've known since before we both started working together. I always feel like out of the 2 of us he is seen as the alpha male by all of our work friends. I often feel like I am left out of decision making and not generally respected by the others and seen as more of a sidekick to my friend.\n\nI am smaller, quieter and more introverted than him and I tend to be seen as the guy that \"just tags along\" rather than being a core member of the group.\n\nWhat can I do to gain more respect and be seen as less of a beta of the group?", "How to be more respected and valued in a friend group I'm friends with quite a few people from my work, with one of them being a close friend of mine whom I've known since before we both started working together. I always feel like out of the 2 of us he is seen as the alpha male by all of our work friends. I often feel like I am left out of decision making and not generally respected by the others and seen as more of a sidekick to my friend.\n\nI am smaller, quieter and more introverted than him and I tend to be seen as the guy that \"just tags along\" rather than being a core member of the group.\n\nWhat can I do to gain more respect and be seen as less of a beta of the group?", "How to be more respected and valued in a friend group I'm friends with quite a few people from my work, with one of them being a close friend of mine whom I've known since before we both started working together. I always feel like out of the 2 of us he is seen as the alpha male by all of our work friends. I often feel like I am left out of decision making and not generally respected by the others and seen as more of a sidekick to my friend.\n\nI am smaller, quieter and more introverted than him and I tend to be seen as the guy that \"just tags along\" rather than being a core member of the group.\n\nWhat can I do to gain more respect and be seen as less of a beta of the group?" ]

[ "To put it simply … it’s literally the introverted waiting to be pulled in/feeling left out vs extroverted putting yourself in", "Honestly just be confident in yourself. If you don't want to do something, say you don't and you hope they have fun and you'll see them later. If you'd rather do something else, just say that respectfully.\n\nAlso, if they're truly a good friend, ask them to try to make it your decision sometimes. Tell them you don't feel respected by some of the others because he's always the leader, that you're totally fine with that in general, but it could really help your confidence if every now and again he ceded final decision making to you.", "Alpha, beta... This is a description of how animals interact. Humans are much more advanced and shouldn't label themselves like that. We have free will and can make our own choices, including who we associate with.", "Sometimes you gotta grab the handle bars and ride the scooter instead of always holding onto him in the back seat. Don't take no for an answer.", "Get more confidence in your abilities at work and respect yourself so others will respect you. Alpha and beta terms\n in a friends group is ridiculous lol", "not seen as beta \n\nyou are a beta \n\n​\n\nFind a subset of those friends and see how the dynamic might change", "I think talking to the alpha you described in a one on one space and let him know you’re feeling this way. Then come up with a way you can be an alpha sometimes and get his support. \n\nFor example, if your group often does happy hour, you be the one to recommend a new place and have him back you up. \n\nHey guys, I heard about this new place I wanted to check out. Make sure your buddy backs you up with a “that sounds awesome, good idea” or something similar.", "you seem to be very observant of the group dynamics, you might not be the alpha but thats not the end all be all. you could be the brains as many other introverted people tend to be. \n\nim introverted myself to the point of seeming uncaring and i don't really share my opinions or feelings, so you could imagine i don't make many friends. if you truly feel like you want to change that group dynamic, i would do the opposite as in speaking ur mind, sharing ur opinions as well as feelings. \n\npersonally my social batteries drain pretty quickly if the conversational topics is small talk, gossip, complaints etc. \n\nso i tend to talk about things im passionate about, that tends to work well for me.", "Initiate conversations with the other friends. Make plans with them without your friend. Stand up for yourself, because nobody else will. You need to come out of your shell, otherwise you will be a beta forever.", "Respect is such a fleeting concept. There isn't really any such thing.\n\nThere are only two concepts that matter, fear and admiration. Investigate. What makes people admire your friend? You'll realize that your friend have qualities that you don't. Valuable qualities. Or, it will seem so, at least.\n\nI have a friend who is a great conversationalist. He'll often pretend he knows more than he does. He'll pretend he is better. But, if you are observant, you'll notice the tricks used to alter your perception.\n\nThere is a good quote which goes something like this: People won't remember you, or even what you said. But, they will remember how you made them feel." ]

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[ "What are some good ways to cope with PTSD and Depression if you’re surrounded by people that trigger it? to clarify: the people that give me my triggers is my family. i haven’t gotten rid of my triggers because i have a 3 year old sister that is my absolute world and i wouldn’t want her to go through the same trauma that i went through. i want to guide her through life and be there every step of the way because my mom wasn’t there for me. there’s been a lot of ignorant people in the comments saying like “get rid of your triggers”. it’s not that easy.", "What are some good ways to cope with PTSD and Depression if you’re surrounded by people that trigger it? to clarify: the people that give me my triggers is my family. i haven’t gotten rid of my triggers because i have a 3 year old sister that is my absolute world and i wouldn’t want her to go through the same trauma that i went through. i want to guide her through life and be there every step of the way because my mom wasn’t there for me. there’s been a lot of ignorant people in the comments saying like “get rid of your triggers”. it’s not that easy.", "What are some good ways to cope with PTSD and Depression if you’re surrounded by people that trigger it? to clarify: the people that give me my triggers is my family. i haven’t gotten rid of my triggers because i have a 3 year old sister that is my absolute world and i wouldn’t want her to go through the same trauma that i went through. i want to guide her through life and be there every step of the way because my mom wasn’t there for me. there’s been a lot of ignorant people in the comments saying like “get rid of your triggers”. it’s not that easy.", "What are some good ways to cope with PTSD and Depression if you’re surrounded by people that trigger it? to clarify: the people that give me my triggers is my family. i haven’t gotten rid of my triggers because i have a 3 year old sister that is my absolute world and i wouldn’t want her to go through the same trauma that i went through. i want to guide her through life and be there every step of the way because my mom wasn’t there for me. there’s been a lot of ignorant people in the comments saying like “get rid of your triggers”. it’s not that easy." ]

[ "I’ve either removed people from my life who are extremely detrimental to my well-being or severely limited contact with them. It’s the only thing that has worked for me.\n\nAlso, I learned that *I do NOT have to react or respond*. If you can identify your triggers, you are making fantastic headway! Since becoming aware of my triggers, I’ve started identifying when someone is deliberately or inadvertently activating them & it has given me *so much power*. I feel I see through them & have a clearer view of the situation, & that allows me to mentally disengage. Silence/non-reaction has been my biggest weapon & it’s truly empowering. It’s okay to let heavy, deafening silence fill the air while said trigger lingers before dissipating into the abyss of awkwardness or someone’s seething rage.\n\nOn another note, getting my spiritual life balanced has helped me immensely in achieving internal calm. *Remember that your emotions are too expensive! Don’t waste them on things that do not deserve them!*", "It’s a combination of things. You should get professional help firstly. This will help you day to day and long term as well as being able to deal with your surroundings. M", "I suggest you let a doctor know and hope you get help. PTSD person I trigger gets triggered by absolutely insane and illogical stuff. I feel I catch the brunt of their rage inside. Ordering what I want in a restaurant has turned horrible before. So there are victims also from others with ptsd. The ones with ptsd are victims of it. No idea what others have done to trigger you. I can only say that me and a select few have seen ptsd’s ugly side. And not once has the rage we witnessed was warranted by the so called offenses where we saw no offense was ever there. But highly recommend help. At least you know you have it.", "First and foremost, get yourself a good doctor and follow his treatment. Don't miss medication for even one day ( trust me).No matter what others say, it is the only solution. We need serotonin .And telling urself it's okay won't produce that. \n\nUse grey-lighting technique. \n\nWhen a trigger tells u something, give a one word answer or pretend not listening ( show u r disinterested) but in a subtle indirect way. \n\nWith time the trigger would lessen, since it can't influence you. \n\nIf u can't : \n\nJust suck it up & be your own favourite. \n\nIf it can't kill you, it simply makes you stronger." ]

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[ "Free websites for improving my English grammar? Do u guys know free websites to enhance my English grammar? Something like online tests..", "Free websites for improving my English grammar? Do u guys know free websites to enhance my English grammar? Something like online tests.." ]

[ "https://www.perfect-english-grammar.com is one I often send my students to to practice. \n\nhttps://learnenglish.britishcouncil.org/en/intermediate-grammar British council is always great when it comes to wanting practice on anything relating to English. \n\nhttp://learnenglishteens.britishcouncil.org/grammar basically the same as the previous website, but focussed on teenagers so the topics are a little different. \n\nI can also recommend a certain order to learn the tenses in, as they do get progressively harder. \nStart with the simple tenses, then the continuous, drop in a future tense like using 'going to' or 'will' next, then the perfect tenses, then the perfect continuous tenses.\nThe reason being that the past continuous uses a past simple in its sentences as well. The perfect tenses also expect you to know some rules as well that come in with the simple tenses, but they're just a lot more difficult to understand in their timeframe. The perfect continuous tenses are easy once you get the perfect and the continuous down... ", "There's a website called gmatclub.com that helps you prepare for the GMAT test, which includes a grammar syntax test! Usually preparation for this test is pretty expensive but here users can upload example questions with the respective answers! The test includes a reading comprehension and sentence correction part! You might find a lot of examples on their database!" ]

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[ "How to make porridge in the microwave without it eascaping Every time I make porridge in the microwave and I'm following the instructions on the packaging, I end up having half the porridge out of the bowl. Any way I can stop this from happening?\n\n", "How to make porridge in the microwave without it eascaping Every time I make porridge in the microwave and I'm following the instructions on the packaging, I end up having half the porridge out of the bowl. Any way I can stop this from happening?\n\n", "How to make porridge in the microwave without it eascaping Every time I make porridge in the microwave and I'm following the instructions on the packaging, I end up having half the porridge out of the bowl. Any way I can stop this from happening?\n\n", "How to make porridge in the microwave without it eascaping Every time I make porridge in the microwave and I'm following the instructions on the packaging, I end up having half the porridge out of the bowl. Any way I can stop this from happening?\n\n", "How to make porridge in the microwave without it eascaping Every time I make porridge in the microwave and I'm following the instructions on the packaging, I end up having half the porridge out of the bowl. Any way I can stop this from happening?\n\n", "How to make porridge in the microwave without it eascaping Every time I make porridge in the microwave and I'm following the instructions on the packaging, I end up having half the porridge out of the bowl. Any way I can stop this from happening?\n\n" ]

[ "Try putting your microwave on a lower power setting, or cook for a shorter time. Or, watch it while it's cooking and if it looks like it's gonna explode then turn off the microwave.", "Rolled oats are already steamed. There isn't really any need to use the microwave at all. Pour boiling water on your oats, have a shower or something, and by the time you get out your porridge is ready to eat, at a good temperature. ", "Use a really deep bowl. Halfway through the cooking time, stir it. I also find that if you put stuff in your porridge, like nuts or dried fruit, before you microwave it, it helps prevent boiling over. And when I use half milk and half water I never have this problem. I have experimented a lot with cooking oatmeal in the microwave. obviously.", "This happens to me with grits. I usually just settle for fighting with the microwave and opening the door every 10-15 seconds to stop it boiling over, because my broke ass can't afford a deeper bowl right now.", "I use water instead of milk for my porridge, but here's what I do:\n\n- boil the water in a kettle and pour it over the porridge\n- let soak for ~5 mins\n- Microwave for 1 minute at two-thirds power\n- Steaming hot porridge, cooked to perfection.\n\nNo more porridge shrapnel all over the microwave :)\n\nI suppose if I were to try it with milk I would heat the milk in the microwave on its own first. Maybe 2 mins at lower than full power. Pour in porridge and stir, then allow to soak for a few mins. Then back in the micro for 1 min.", "Get a paper towel and wet it, then put that over the bowl (This is to get it to stick to the bowl). That works for me, sometimes there's oatmeal on the paper towel, but it's better than cleaning my microwave." ]

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[ "How to get someone to tell you whats wrong when they say they're fine when they aren't. i can never think of the right thing to say when they say they're fine or okay when they clearly aren't... Already tried \"you can talk about anything with me\" and \"please tell me what's wrong, I'm worried\"\n\nCan anyone help?", "How to get someone to tell you whats wrong when they say they're fine when they aren't. i can never think of the right thing to say when they say they're fine or okay when they clearly aren't... Already tried \"you can talk about anything with me\" and \"please tell me what's wrong, I'm worried\"\n\nCan anyone help?", "How to get someone to tell you whats wrong when they say they're fine when they aren't. i can never think of the right thing to say when they say they're fine or okay when they clearly aren't... Already tried \"you can talk about anything with me\" and \"please tell me what's wrong, I'm worried\"\n\nCan anyone help?" ]

[ "You can't force someone to open up when they don't want to. \nIf you are genuinely concerned, invested, and care for this person the best thing you can do is support them -no matter what- ; tell them & show them that you are available for them and supporting them; and let them do what they need to. \n\nIf talking about it is something they want to do, eventually they'll talk about it. It might be with you, it might be with someone else. All you can do is your side.. be trustworthy, available, and supportive. They will do what they need to do. \n", "\"You okay?\"\n\n\"Yup, I'm fine\"\n\n\"Okay, cool\"\n\nThis is all you can do and you're better off to leave it at that.", "I follow up with 3 offers, not every time but when I feel it's appropriate.\n\nI offer to go hang out at a bar or someplace public, sometimes getting out in a crowded noisy place makes them feel like they can open up, or a few drinks. \n\nI offer to do something for them, order some food, get something for them omw to the grocery store, something small. 19/20 times they say no but the 1 time they say they need or want something I'll def go get it. \n\nAfter that, I just say laters and leave them alone, hopefully they get comfortable enough to deal with it. " ]

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[ "How do you truly accept praise or acknowledgement? Whenever someone gives me genuine praise, I have trouble accepting it and try to be all humble about it. How do you accept someone's praise without coming off as a bragger?", "How do you truly accept praise or acknowledgement? Whenever someone gives me genuine praise, I have trouble accepting it and try to be all humble about it. How do you accept someone's praise without coming off as a bragger?" ]

[ "I would just say \"Thank you, it's very kind of you to say that\" and continue on with whatever you were doing without making a big deal of it, or something like that.", "I'd say accept it openly and thank them (but don't try to further it). You won't come off as bragging if you just thank them for it, but if you try to downplay the compliment the person that complimented you may get annoyed, and slightly frustrated that you \"can't take a compliment.\" If someone compliments you and you accept it, they will feel happy that they made you happy, I wouldn't worry about them thinking you're fulll of yourself. But if you disagree with their compliment, the satisfaction will be taken away and any further attempt to reassure you that it's true will be kind of pained. \n\nThe only way people will think you're bragging is if you say something like \"I know, my hair IS great today. I spent a lot of time on it.\" or something along the lines of that. " ]

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[ "How to speak slower when speaking English? Hey there, and thanks for reading in advance. English is my first language, but I'm nearly fluent in Japanese, and I know a fair amount of German. With these two foreign languages, you'll naturally develop a faster tone when you speak (especially Japanese). I've had a lot of people tell me lately that I speak too fast, and this paired with my deep voice, it's pretty embarrassing. Can I have some tips about how to slow down when I speak? I know it sounds weird, but it's sort of embarrassing when people comment on it.", "How to speak slower when speaking English? Hey there, and thanks for reading in advance. English is my first language, but I'm nearly fluent in Japanese, and I know a fair amount of German. With these two foreign languages, you'll naturally develop a faster tone when you speak (especially Japanese). I've had a lot of people tell me lately that I speak too fast, and this paired with my deep voice, it's pretty embarrassing. Can I have some tips about how to slow down when I speak? I know it sounds weird, but it's sort of embarrassing when people comment on it.", "How to speak slower when speaking English? Hey there, and thanks for reading in advance. English is my first language, but I'm nearly fluent in Japanese, and I know a fair amount of German. With these two foreign languages, you'll naturally develop a faster tone when you speak (especially Japanese). I've had a lot of people tell me lately that I speak too fast, and this paired with my deep voice, it's pretty embarrassing. Can I have some tips about how to slow down when I speak? I know it sounds weird, but it's sort of embarrassing when people comment on it.", "How to speak slower when speaking English? Hey there, and thanks for reading in advance. English is my first language, but I'm nearly fluent in Japanese, and I know a fair amount of German. With these two foreign languages, you'll naturally develop a faster tone when you speak (especially Japanese). I've had a lot of people tell me lately that I speak too fast, and this paired with my deep voice, it's pretty embarrassing. Can I have some tips about how to slow down when I speak? I know it sounds weird, but it's sort of embarrassing when people comment on it.", "How to speak slower when speaking English? Hey there, and thanks for reading in advance. English is my first language, but I'm nearly fluent in Japanese, and I know a fair amount of German. With these two foreign languages, you'll naturally develop a faster tone when you speak (especially Japanese). I've had a lot of people tell me lately that I speak too fast, and this paired with my deep voice, it's pretty embarrassing. Can I have some tips about how to slow down when I speak? I know it sounds weird, but it's sort of embarrassing when people comment on it.", "How to speak slower when speaking English? Hey there, and thanks for reading in advance. English is my first language, but I'm nearly fluent in Japanese, and I know a fair amount of German. With these two foreign languages, you'll naturally develop a faster tone when you speak (especially Japanese). I've had a lot of people tell me lately that I speak too fast, and this paired with my deep voice, it's pretty embarrassing. Can I have some tips about how to slow down when I speak? I know it sounds weird, but it's sort of embarrassing when people comment on it.", "How to speak slower when speaking English? Hey there, and thanks for reading in advance. English is my first language, but I'm nearly fluent in Japanese, and I know a fair amount of German. With these two foreign languages, you'll naturally develop a faster tone when you speak (especially Japanese). I've had a lot of people tell me lately that I speak too fast, and this paired with my deep voice, it's pretty embarrassing. Can I have some tips about how to slow down when I speak? I know it sounds weird, but it's sort of embarrassing when people comment on it.", "How to speak slower when speaking English? Hey there, and thanks for reading in advance. English is my first language, but I'm nearly fluent in Japanese, and I know a fair amount of German. With these two foreign languages, you'll naturally develop a faster tone when you speak (especially Japanese). I've had a lot of people tell me lately that I speak too fast, and this paired with my deep voice, it's pretty embarrassing. Can I have some tips about how to slow down when I speak? I know it sounds weird, but it's sort of embarrassing when people comment on it.", "How to speak slower when speaking English? Hey there, and thanks for reading in advance. English is my first language, but I'm nearly fluent in Japanese, and I know a fair amount of German. With these two foreign languages, you'll naturally develop a faster tone when you speak (especially Japanese). I've had a lot of people tell me lately that I speak too fast, and this paired with my deep voice, it's pretty embarrassing. Can I have some tips about how to slow down when I speak? I know it sounds weird, but it's sort of embarrassing when people comment on it.", "How to speak slower when speaking English? Hey there, and thanks for reading in advance. English is my first language, but I'm nearly fluent in Japanese, and I know a fair amount of German. With these two foreign languages, you'll naturally develop a faster tone when you speak (especially Japanese). I've had a lot of people tell me lately that I speak too fast, and this paired with my deep voice, it's pretty embarrassing. Can I have some tips about how to slow down when I speak? I know it sounds weird, but it's sort of embarrassing when people comment on it." ]

[ "Not an answer but I can't skip the chance: \n\n\nA German walks into a bar and asks for a martini. The bartender asks \"dry?\", he replies \"nein, just one\"\n\nOn a related note, according to Sigmund Freud, what comes between fear and sex?\n\nFünf.\n\nAn American female walking down the street in Germany passes a man peeing in the bushes and disgustedly exclaims, \"Gross!\". He replies with a grin, \"Danke Schon!\"\n\nA German arrives at Passport Control at Paris airport.\n\"Nationality?\" asks the immigration officer.\n\"German,\" she replies.\n\"Occupation?\"\n\"No, just here for a few days.\"\n\n\n", "It really is all about practice and putting conscious effort into speaking slower. I used laconic speech until I was ~25, and it became a really big problem in my relationships. After 3 or 4 years of practicing every day, I can (still with conscious effort) have a regular sounding conversation with people.", "Oh shit, I am incredibly interested in the responses.\n\nI talk very quickly in my native language (Spanish) but also in English. I have no tips for you but am very interested in the tips you will receive.", "Use your hands like a maestro. It helps to keep time, but also visualize how quickly you’re speaking. If not practical then squeeze the tips of your fingers, wiggle your toes, do a kegal, something that you can recognize your tempo. \n\nBe mindful of the end of each word. When fast talking it’s common to bleed words into each other. Focus on the end of the word to add space between words. \n", "Can't pick up any other language but naturally speak incredibly fast and always nagged at for it. Following!", "I’m a professor and I catch myself speaking too fast sometimes when I lecture. I am also a visual person, so when I do actively catch myself doing this I’ll make an effort to visualize each word written out in my mind before I say it out loud. Helps to make sure I stay concise and to the point as well. ", "Well, I’m Japanese, came to us before 1yr so you really can’t tell if I’m a jap from my English. However, I speak English like an alpha male so I don’t really open my mouth wide. It’s fine for English, but when I talk in Japanese, my parents used to tell me モゾモゾして聞こえない so I completely changed the way I spoke these two languages. It was hard at first but just keep it in mind in the back of your head when you speak the language, and you should be fine after time. (You want to talk a lot though) \n\n\nMy girlfriend is also Japanese American, but she’s more stronger in her English, and she talks so fast and non stop. Maybe it’s a Japanese American thing. ", "Try to hold a pen in your mouth while speaking. Practice it for sometime, gradually your speed of speaking will come down.. like the image at below link. \n\nhttps://www.google.co.in/search?q=holding+pen+in+mouth+for+speaking&client=ms-android-lenovo&prmd=ivn&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiZks2hnJDZAhXHto8KHTliDpEQ_AUIESgB#imgrc=Zf-00cUAfudryM:", "Think about the words you're saying in your ahead as if they were zoomed off of a book, it's sort of hard but it does the trick", "Listen to a comedian call john bishop. That guy knows how to drag every syllable out\n Ev-er-you syll-a-ble ou-t\nThe only down side is he isn't funny in my opinion " ]

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[ "How to humanely get rid of birds who inhabit your roof and window sills Sparrows have inhabited my roof and now there is always bird shit on our front porch and window sills. Some of my neighbors have installed those poky spikes on the rooftops to deter the birds but that is pretty expensive. What can I do to encourage the birds to find a new home?", "How to humanely get rid of birds who inhabit your roof and window sills Sparrows have inhabited my roof and now there is always bird shit on our front porch and window sills. Some of my neighbors have installed those poky spikes on the rooftops to deter the birds but that is pretty expensive. What can I do to encourage the birds to find a new home?" ]

[ "With that : http://www.dicasdotimoneiro.com.br/wp-content/uploads/2010/10/cds-500.jpg\n\nThe reflect of light will keep them away. ", "I'm no bird expert but you could try putting fake rubber snakes in the guttering and see if that scares them away. " ]

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[ "Knee strengthening workouts/excercises I'm no entirely sure this is the right sub, but I'm starting vertical training and want to be proactive about the strain on my knees. Are there any simple workouts or exercises I can do at home to reduce wear and tear?", "Knee strengthening workouts/excercises I'm no entirely sure this is the right sub, but I'm starting vertical training and want to be proactive about the strain on my knees. Are there any simple workouts or exercises I can do at home to reduce wear and tear?", "Knee strengthening workouts/excercises I'm no entirely sure this is the right sub, but I'm starting vertical training and want to be proactive about the strain on my knees. Are there any simple workouts or exercises I can do at home to reduce wear and tear?" ]

[ "Squats and banded good mornings are solid knee bolsterers. When you squat, your back should be at the same angle for most of the movement. That helps to insure that you aren't going beyond your flexibility, and that you are incorporating your buttocks.\n\nAlso, consider balance training. Sometimes people get knee injuries because they have awkward ankle movements under high impact. Stand on one foot with your weight on the front of the foot. Your heel should be just slightly off the ground, not like a ballerina. Close your eyes and stay balanced.", "Here is an old knee stability program I used. The comments on the side are in Danish but the rest has an English or photos 😃(https://drive.google.com/open?id=0B1D7Y9q399kAc0pERTVabWg3Uzg)\n", "Do squats. Obviously not with a bar that weighs 250 pounds, just squat using your own body weight. For the first few times you try it you'll need to stabilize yourself by holding onto a desk or something, but eventually your knee will adjust and get stronger." ]

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[ "How to get rid of farts quickly Sometimes I go on a farting spree and I can't help it. Anything I can do so I stop embarrassing myself?", "How to get rid of farts quickly Sometimes I go on a farting spree and I can't help it. Anything I can do so I stop embarrassing myself?" ]

[ "Hold it in or blame it on someone else. Or depending where you are, you can just crop dust, walk from one side of the room to the other while letting out gas. It will linger in the area you let it out at and people won't know it's you unless it's loud.", "Usually when I feel a series of farts building up I go to the bathroom and try to poop, whether you do or not it releases most of the gas in your body. " ]

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I'm terrified of needles, and have been since I was young. For college, I need a few and probably have to draw blood. What are some LPTs to make them not hurt like hell?", "How to make shots not hurt. I'm terrified of needles, and have been since I was young. For college, I need a few and probably have to draw blood. What are some LPTs to make them not hurt like hell?", "How to make shots not hurt. I'm terrified of needles, and have been since I was young. For college, I need a few and probably have to draw blood. What are some LPTs to make them not hurt like hell?", "How to make shots not hurt. I'm terrified of needles, and have been since I was young. For college, I need a few and probably have to draw blood. What are some LPTs to make them not hurt like hell?", "How to make shots not hurt. I'm terrified of needles, and have been since I was young. For college, I need a few and probably have to draw blood. What are some LPTs to make them not hurt like hell?", "How to make shots not hurt. I'm terrified of needles, and have been since I was young. For college, I need a few and probably have to draw blood. What are some LPTs to make them not hurt like hell?", "How to make shots not hurt. I'm terrified of needles, and have been since I was young. For college, I need a few and probably have to draw blood. What are some LPTs to make them not hurt like hell?", "How to make shots not hurt. I'm terrified of needles, and have been since I was young. For college, I need a few and probably have to draw blood. What are some LPTs to make them not hurt like hell?", "How to make shots not hurt. I'm terrified of needles, and have been since I was young. For college, I need a few and probably have to draw blood. What are some LPTs to make them not hurt like hell?", "How to make shots not hurt. I'm terrified of needles, and have been since I was young. For college, I need a few and probably have to draw blood. What are some LPTs to make them not hurt like hell?", "How to make shots not hurt. I'm terrified of needles, and have been since I was young. For college, I need a few and probably have to draw blood. What are some LPTs to make them not hurt like hell?", "How to make shots not hurt. I'm terrified of needles, and have been since I was young. For college, I need a few and probably have to draw blood. What are some LPTs to make them not hurt like hell?", "How to make shots not hurt. I'm terrified of needles, and have been since I was young. For college, I need a few and probably have to draw blood. What are some LPTs to make them not hurt like hell?", "How to make shots not hurt. I'm terrified of needles, and have been since I was young. For college, I need a few and probably have to draw blood. What are some LPTs to make them not hurt like hell?", "How to make shots not hurt. I'm terrified of needles, and have been since I was young. For college, I need a few and probably have to draw blood. What are some LPTs to make them not hurt like hell?" ]

[ "Look somewhere else, spark up an interesting conversation with the person giving you the shot, and NEVER EVER EVER BE TENSE! Tensing up your muscles makes it TERRIBLE.", "It might be a good idea to let the nurse administering the shot/blood draw know that you are extremely apprehensive about injections. Many of the nurses I've come across have an arsenal of tricks handy (i.e. distraction methods, breathing techniques, etc.) as there are a lot of people in the same boat they come across daily.\n\nIf all else fails, [have a full box of tissues on hand](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MOOxpT9q2mo)", "needles only hurt when you tense up. Just take a deep breath and know that nothing bad is really going to happen.", "Sharp exhale before the needle goes in. I usually don't feel a thing because I feel that the fear comes out with my breath.", "The key thing is that they don't actually 'hurt like hell'. I think you are over-thinking this. Most shots are just a little pinch.\n\nI think you are more afraid than you need to be. Just get over it, and you will find that it isn't that big of a deal.", "When our kids were really small, we would always give them pain relievers about an hour before they had to get shots. It really helped to take the edge off the shot itself, and helped to keep any fever reactions under control.", "Just don't look. If I see the needle going in, it hurts way more than if I don't. Might just be placebo but it seems to work for me.", "stare at the needle go inside you. there is a fraction of a second where it doesnt hurt, then it hurts a bit. \n\nor imagine how much it would hurt if someone punched you really really hard. then imagine a small needle going inside of you. ", "They don't hurt. You're just afraid of them. It's like saying 'Make spiders not crawl into my mouth when I'm sleeping' They don't, its BS, but you can still be afraid of it happening. \n\nUse this as an experience to grow and take risks. Do what needs to be done, even when its tough. ", "There is a device called the Shot Blocker that significantly reduces the pain of injections. You can find it on Amazon. It actually does work by stimulating the nerves in the skin adjacent to the injection site via pressur, reducing the sensation in the site itself.\n\n\nEMLA cream is a prescription topical anaesthetic that will deaden all sensation where it is applied forty minutes in advance. We use this in hospital, especially with children who have frequent medical procedures and are likely to develop PTSD/hospitalization psychosis from the trauma of repeated invasive procedures.", "The anxiety you're creating is ten times worse than the pain. You're going to worry about it from now until it happens, but it's only going to hurt for a few minutes.", "I'm a dentist so some of the things I tell my patients to do before injections are to breathe deeply through your nose or concentrate on twirling your foot around in a circle. With little kids some times I can engage them in conversation about their favorite color or school and give them the injection without letting them see anything. Most times they either don't notice I'm doing anything or give a tiny ouch.", "Get the cooperation of the medical person giving the needle. Arrange a 3-2-1-go countdown. Usually you'll be getting stuck in an arm, so, with your free hand, at the exact moment of \"Go!\", hit yourself in the forehead with a ball-peen hammer.\n\nYou'll barely notice the needle.", "Find the position of your arm where the muscles at the top of your arm/shoulder are In a neutral position, with no tension. It make it easier if you are sitting and put your arm in your lap with your elbow at about a 90 degree angle-you'll be able to feel the muscles loosen up with your other hand. \n\nFor intramuscular injections, this really helps. Keeping the muscles \"loose\" allows the needle to slip between muscle fibers instead of cutting through them as much.", "agreed with everything above (looking away is what i always do), but as someone who's drawn blood before and i can personally attest to this too when it was done on me -- the faster they insert the needle, the less pain there is. so a lot of times, people are \"scared\" of hurting someone or missing the vein, and go in slowly... this is ultimately what makes it more painful! so i'd ask the lab to get the best phlebotomist and tell them to do it quick and painless. ", "They hurt, regardless - even for those of us with no fear of needles. The fear is making you imagine the pain as much worse than it actually is.\n\nPinch your forearm hard and fast - that's about what it feels like.", "They don't really hurt. You just think they're going to hurt. \n\nDrawing blood can be uncomfortable but it doesn't really hurt that bad. \n\nJust look away and be calm. Talk to the person about something else. They're used to it. Don't ask them when they're going to do it either. ", "They don't hurt like hell. Just look away while you're injected - they honestly are just a little pinch. Sometimes injection sites are sore afterward - especially the TDap - so you can take an OTC pain reliever for a few days after if you need to. It can also help if you get injected in your dominant arm, so you use that arm a lot and it doesn't stiffen up as much.", "Shots: don't look at the needle when the person is preparing and administering it. Don't tense up. Tensing up just makes it extra painful. Some shots hurt more than others. Gardasil and hepatitis B shots hurt more than others. I'm guessing you need the meningitis vaccine for school, it won't hurt too bad.\n\nDrawing blood: sorry but there is nothing we can do about it. ", "Shots don't hurt unless you get someone who's only done it a few times (which is pretty unlikely). I've never understood peoples fear of needles. If they had to shove it in there and scrape it around for several seconds yeah that would be unpleasent, but it should be in and out in less than a second followed by that cool alcohol pad which feels nice.", "Look away, ignore everything, and hum a favorite song if you're distressed. It will be over before you know it.\n\nIf this doesn't work, take a shot (of liquor) beforehand.", "Let me be honest, iv gotten many shots and was scared at first of most of them until something happened. That something was I didn't want to look away, stare directly at the needle and think of nothing else, you will suddenly feel no pain. That's what I have been doing, I am no longer afraid of needles, however, I cant look away or else the fear returns. Hope this helps", "Just don't look at the person giving the shots.. They don't hurt anyway. When getting blood drawn, request that the person uses a butterfly needle. Its much smaller and barely hurts at all.", "It really helps to have someone who doesn't suck do it too. Sometimes when I get blood taken it's a breeze with certain nurses. However, other times I'm left with a wicked bruise and lots of pain with other nurses. I request not to have them.", "Imagine yourself absorbing the pain. Do a practice. Say \"1 2 3\" and then feel the pain of the needle and roughly focus on the area and tell yourself there's imaginary numbing medicine in the area. Do this over and over and when the real thing is coming prepare yourself for it. ", "If you can, watch the needle go in (and breathe), this helps me. It's not so much the pain but the lack of control, and for myself, looking away only increases the anxiety.", "I've given thousands of shots, at a pediatric office. And truly the needle itself causes almost no discomfort less than a punch, but the immunization itself is what determines it to hurt or not hurt. Proper technique is also important, and I am proud to say I have gotten to the point that now a lot of my babies don't cry sometimes. If they insert it calmly but inject quickly and straight out it should be bearable - as compared to people who insert like they're throwing a dart. Some vaccines are known to be a little more painful and some 90% of my patients say it felt like nothing. Take calming breaths, relax your muscles, and don't move! Talk to someone it'll be over before you even know it. Don't let your mental fear get the best of you - the ones who say \"wait wait I need a minute\" only just get more irrational. You'll be just fine :)", "I've been drawing blood for three years now at the hospital. Also known as a phlebotomist. I would recommend being well hydrated before venipuncture. Inform the tech if you've had any previous problems like passing out or vomiting. These are common occurrences among some people. Try to relax when having your blood drawn. Also sometimes their not always available and techs don't always prefer using them but there are smaller needles that can be used if really necessary. The only disadvantage to using a smaller needle is that it may result in the blood being hemolyzed, meaning the blood cells break up when being drawn rendering the specimen unusable for testing. Now nobody including health care staff, enjoys being told how to do their job but it may be helpful to tell the tech where previous blood draws have been successful. Most commonly in the antecubital(bend of the arm) area. Often sometimes the top of the hand may be used but it's ultimately best to draw from large juicy anywhere below the elbow lol. Also understand that it would take some serious effort to significantly damage/injure somebody's arm with a needle. Nobody enjoys having a needle inserted into their arm. It feels unnatural that's obvious but it is a very important and essential procedure. So much vital information can be shown from a simple blood test! Lastly I'd say be courteous to the tech and expect courtesy in return. If you honestly don't feel comfortable having that certain person drawing your labs, request someone else! There's no harm or foul in politely telling somebody that you don't want them to draw your blood. Be communicative and ask any questions you may have!", "I'm not a fan of needles. I look at them as a necessary evil and simply talk to the nurse while not looking at the needle so I don't tense up when they're doing their job.", "I was absolutely TERRIBLE with blood getting drawn and shots when I was a kid due to sensory problems. I would scream and yell. I had to get blood drawn and still do about every 3 months so I can get my liver checked due to a medication I am on.\n\nDo not get tense because it makes it a lot worse. Also find a technician that is good because when you get your blood drawn it is all about the technician.\n\nDrink lots of water so your veins are plump.\n\nLook away and try to focus on.something else.\n\n\nGood.luck", "I used to be terrified too and did lots of reading about what other people do.\n\n For blood tests I make sure I can lay down, I bring my iPod and listen to music quite loudly. I also make sure my eyes are closed and I have a lollipop that I suck on profusely I get really light headed. \n\nI had to get some shots yesterday and the doctor rubbed my arm with the antiseptic wipe quite aggressively first for about 30 seconds. Apparently this does something to the pain receptors and there is about a 15 second window where the injection shouldn't hurt as much. I had 3 shots and the pain was minimal. ", "I used to be terrified of needles too. I got over it in my early 20s by regularly donating blood. Those phlebotomists are fantastic. Even so, I still dislike blood tests and shots because I have tiny veins. I used to do the trick of digging a nail into myself as a distraction and looking away, but recently I've tried something new. I read a study that showed a significant decrease in discomfort in people who actually watched the needle, as opposed to not looking. I've found it to be true for me.\n\nAlso, if I know I have to give a blood sample, I ramp up my fluids for a few days prior to the draw. That really helps.", "I once made the mistake of watching as they drew a couple vials of blood. I was fine as they were doing it, but 5 minutes later, I almost fainted. Hearing went strange, like I was in a tunnel, numbness in the hands, dizzy, etc. It's a good thing I was sitting down. If I had been standing, BAM.", "I get really anxious and scared around needles and avoid them whenever I get the chance however I do a few things to make having your blood drawn better (I have to have mine drawn multiple times a year, had to learn to cope somehow)\n\nFirst drink a lot of water the day you are going to have your blood drawn. I used to have a serious issue with nurses not being able to find my veins and it taking 3-4 attempts before actually drawing anything, shit's fucking terrible when you already hate needles. One of my nurses gave me this tip and since then i've never had it take more then 2 attempts but normally they get it on the first go.\n\nNext keep your arm as straight as possible while trying to stay relaxed, it's easier said than done if you are uncomfortable though, I tend to struggle doing both of these things together but it helps. The key to getting it done quickly and without it being THAT terrible (nothing will make it not terrible imo) is to be as relaxed as possible, don't let yourself get psyched out too hard. I passed out once after having my blood drawn because I couldn't stop thinking about it the whole day and went in shaking, it took me almost 15 minutes sitting in the chair with a stress ball before the nurse could even attempt a blood draw and I passed out immediately afterwards and the only reason I can think of why is because I freaked myself out so hard before it even started.\n\nTry taking a deep breath while the needle is going in or holding in the breath while it goes in, this tends to make it less painful for me but i'm not really sure why.\n\nI haven't had a shot in a long time but whenever I have my blood drawn I always request they use a butterfly needle instead of their standard for blood drawing (though some places use a butterfly as standard I guess). This is more of a mental thing for me I think, knowing a smaller needle is being used helps me relax a little.\n\nTry having a close friend or relative go with you if you are still having problems, I have my mom go with me when I can, sometimes she just sits in the same room but other times I shake pretty bad when getting ready and it's nice to have someone there to hold my hand and help calm me down.\n\nI always inform my nurse that i'm really bad around needles and they tend to go slow and try to make me as calm as possible before starting, though that only helps so much and for the love of god do not look at the needle. If your anything like me it's ALWAYS a mistake and makes things much worse.\n\nGood luck, hopefully one of these helps you out.", "Frostedair, have I got the solution for you. \n\nClinical trials for autism medications requires a huge number of blood draws. And people with autism have sensory issues that make the pain worse. So how do you get people who hate needles to come back over and over? \n\nThe secret is to apply a topical anesthetic to the needlestick site for a few minutes prior. One available over the counter is Orajel, a Benzocaine gel. ", "From a physical standpoint, try your best to keep your muscles relaxed where you are taking the shot. Makes it easier for the needle.", "Dont look! Try to focus on literally anything else. I hate needles and this is what gets me through. Im actually typing this from a donation center where I am giving platelets. ", "Don't watch it. Take a deep breath, and exhale as they jab you. Stay as relaxed as possible. Understand that pain is everywhere in life, and that this is a tiny moment that will pass shortly.\n\nA syringe is a tiny, precise instrument, and millions upon millions of people have endured it before you. Some folks have to deal with it on a daily basis. If they can, you can, right?", "Don't tense up the muscle in the area that you're getting the shot! The tension makes the needle hurt more. \n\nSource: am lady who gets a Depo shot every 3 months in the buttcheek.", "Breathe in deeply right at the end of it being prepped and let it all out forcefully when it goes in. ", "Bite your hand. It gives you a different source of pain to focus on. One you can control. Works wonders. ", "Try watching this [video about the Nocebo Effect](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O2hO4_UEe-4). It might provide clarity on certain behaviors; your own, and that of the doctors/nurses.", "I've literally had close to a thousand shots, caths, IV's.\n\nOne trick I learned a long time ago, was to have the technician \"stretch\" the skin with two fingers on each side where the shot is going.\n\nWorks brilliantly!" ]

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[ "Share Links Between Devices I'm wondering if there's a chrome extension or app that can let me easily send links to other devices like my phone, laptop and desktop. The best way I've found so far is using the history on chrome but that's still tedious.", "Share Links Between Devices I'm wondering if there's a chrome extension or app that can let me easily send links to other devices like my phone, laptop and desktop. The best way I've found so far is using the history on chrome but that's still tedious.", "Share Links Between Devices I'm wondering if there's a chrome extension or app that can let me easily send links to other devices like my phone, laptop and desktop. The best way I've found so far is using the history on chrome but that's still tedious." ]

[ "GoogleKeep: I would recommend this one first. It can also tie into Google Calandar to send you notifications.\n\nOthers are Google Drive, Google Doc, Evernote, and One Note. ", "share directly to whatsapp from chrome?\ncopy link to google keep/onenote?\nbookmark it.\n", "I prefer to use Join by joaoapps\nHowever, there are plenty other options like Pushbullet, Pocket, Keep etc." ]

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[ "How to play HD videos on Youtube by default Anytime I watch a video on youtube I have to click the \"change quality\" button and select from 360p to 720p, or whatever higher quality is available. Is there any way of doing this automatically? I've tried changing the playback settings in youtube which say \"Always choose the best quality for my connection and player size\" and \"Always play HD on full screen (when available)\", but these options never work. Any tips?", "How to play HD videos on Youtube by default Anytime I watch a video on youtube I have to click the \"change quality\" button and select from 360p to 720p, or whatever higher quality is available. Is there any way of doing this automatically? I've tried changing the playback settings in youtube which say \"Always choose the best quality for my connection and player size\" and \"Always play HD on full screen (when available)\", but these options never work. Any tips?", "How to play HD videos on Youtube by default Anytime I watch a video on youtube I have to click the \"change quality\" button and select from 360p to 720p, or whatever higher quality is available. Is there any way of doing this automatically? I've tried changing the playback settings in youtube which say \"Always choose the best quality for my connection and player size\" and \"Always play HD on full screen (when available)\", but these options never work. Any tips?", "How to play HD videos on Youtube by default Anytime I watch a video on youtube I have to click the \"change quality\" button and select from 360p to 720p, or whatever higher quality is available. Is there any way of doing this automatically? I've tried changing the playback settings in youtube which say \"Always choose the best quality for my connection and player size\" and \"Always play HD on full screen (when available)\", but these options never work. Any tips?", "How to play HD videos on Youtube by default Anytime I watch a video on youtube I have to click the \"change quality\" button and select from 360p to 720p, or whatever higher quality is available. Is there any way of doing this automatically? I've tried changing the playback settings in youtube which say \"Always choose the best quality for my connection and player size\" and \"Always play HD on full screen (when available)\", but these options never work. Any tips?", "How to play HD videos on Youtube by default Anytime I watch a video on youtube I have to click the \"change quality\" button and select from 360p to 720p, or whatever higher quality is available. Is there any way of doing this automatically? I've tried changing the playback settings in youtube which say \"Always choose the best quality for my connection and player size\" and \"Always play HD on full screen (when available)\", but these options never work. Any tips?", "How to play HD videos on Youtube by default Anytime I watch a video on youtube I have to click the \"change quality\" button and select from 360p to 720p, or whatever higher quality is available. Is there any way of doing this automatically? I've tried changing the playback settings in youtube which say \"Always choose the best quality for my connection and player size\" and \"Always play HD on full screen (when available)\", but these options never work. Any tips?", "How to play HD videos on Youtube by default Anytime I watch a video on youtube I have to click the \"change quality\" button and select from 360p to 720p, or whatever higher quality is available. Is there any way of doing this automatically? I've tried changing the playback settings in youtube which say \"Always choose the best quality for my connection and player size\" and \"Always play HD on full screen (when available)\", but these options never work. Any tips?" ]

[ "For Chrome and Firefox, there is an extension and an add-on called Auto HD for YouTube. You can change the quality and the video size. ", "[I use this.](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/youtube-options/bdokagampppgbnjfdlkfpphniapiiifn) \nIt changes settings you might not like by default, but other than that it works fine.", "This may not really solve your problem, but I know you can automatically open a YouTube video in HD if you add \"&hd=1\" to the end of any YouTube link. Works great for sending links to people, you know they'll have opened it in HD by default.", "I'm trying to keep mine on 360p (slow connection) but it only stays as long as Chrome is open, and resets to auto when I re-open the browser. There's no setting to keep it on a specific resolution, permanently. This wasn't an issue with the older versions of youtube. ", "I use magic actions which is a plug in for chrome and firefox you can set your resolution, choose player size, turn on lights off mode, and hide annotations. ", "I use [ExtendTube](https://addons.opera.com/en/extensions/details/extendtube/) for Opera. Among other improvements (loop video, no ads, wide player, download video, lyrics, shows video ratings on thumbnails etc.), it lets you set desirable resolution on youtube.\n\nBest extension for youtube I've seen in any browser!", "Chrome extension [Auto-HD for YouTube](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/auto-hd-for-youtube/koiaokdomkpjdgniimnkhgbilbjgpeak).", "Having a YouTube account will save your settings I believe. I've been using an account and it saves my settings every time. " ]

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[ "How to make my ankle socks not slide down the back of my heel I've tried three different brands, and they all suffer from the same problem. As I walk, the back of the sock slowly slips down until it has come off the back of my heel and the sock is now bunched up in my shoe, only covering my toes and part of my foot. Its very uncomfortable, and ends up defeating the purpose of wearing socks.\n\nHas anyone else had this problem, and know how to fix it? (Before anyone asks, yes I'm wearing the right size) I've resorted to wearing longer socks but scrunching them down. It looks dumb, but its more comfortable than having my socks pulled way up, and far more convenient than having to pull my socks back over my heels every time I walk.\n\n", "How to make my ankle socks not slide down the back of my heel I've tried three different brands, and they all suffer from the same problem. As I walk, the back of the sock slowly slips down until it has come off the back of my heel and the sock is now bunched up in my shoe, only covering my toes and part of my foot. Its very uncomfortable, and ends up defeating the purpose of wearing socks.\n\nHas anyone else had this problem, and know how to fix it? (Before anyone asks, yes I'm wearing the right size) I've resorted to wearing longer socks but scrunching them down. It looks dumb, but its more comfortable than having my socks pulled way up, and far more convenient than having to pull my socks back over my heels every time I walk.\n\n", "How to make my ankle socks not slide down the back of my heel I've tried three different brands, and they all suffer from the same problem. As I walk, the back of the sock slowly slips down until it has come off the back of my heel and the sock is now bunched up in my shoe, only covering my toes and part of my foot. Its very uncomfortable, and ends up defeating the purpose of wearing socks.\n\nHas anyone else had this problem, and know how to fix it? (Before anyone asks, yes I'm wearing the right size) I've resorted to wearing longer socks but scrunching them down. It looks dumb, but its more comfortable than having my socks pulled way up, and far more convenient than having to pull my socks back over my heels every time I walk.\n\n" ]

[ "this happens to me with older socks. i've found new balance socks at tjmaxx [set of 12 for 5 bucks] that fit great, and don't slide down.\nalso depends on the type of shoe you're wearing. i remember it happening a lot more when i was wearing my low top chuck taylors ", "Do you have true [ankle socks](http://i.imgur.com/KFygv.jpg) or [low-cut sport socks](http://i.imgur.com/bcTKM.jpg)? Packaging often labels the latter as ankle socks so people are led to assume such socks are ankle socks.", "I have very small feet. \n\nThis happens to me with clog socks (like ankle socks but cut way lower) unless I can find very small socks. The bigger size ends up slipping off. Maybe your socks are too big." ]

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[ "Lessening ankle/foot pain from clutch while driving through traffic So my sister has been driving me to and from our shared workplace and lately, due to the \"soft lockdown\" in our country slowly lifting, there's a lot more traffic. Where we live, automatic cars aren't very common and my sister drives a manual (she's got her first car like two years ago). She's been complaining a lot about her ankles and feet hurting from constantly having to switch gears in the traffic jams, especially in the afternoon. She's wearing proper driving shoes, so it's not the problem. Have you got any tips for her?", "Lessening ankle/foot pain from clutch while driving through traffic So my sister has been driving me to and from our shared workplace and lately, due to the \"soft lockdown\" in our country slowly lifting, there's a lot more traffic. Where we live, automatic cars aren't very common and my sister drives a manual (she's got her first car like two years ago). She's been complaining a lot about her ankles and feet hurting from constantly having to switch gears in the traffic jams, especially in the afternoon. She's wearing proper driving shoes, so it's not the problem. Have you got any tips for her?" ]

[ "Might sound stupid, but does she really keep the feet on the floor?\n\nSome people kinda have it \"in the air\" when not clutching, and that's way more tiring", "Put the car in neutral and put the handbrake on. No clutch required for the remainder of being stationary.\n\nTakes some getting used to but it's what my driving instructor tries to get me to do." ]

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[ "How to perfectly Iron out the wrinkles on a dress shirt without an Iron or a Dryer If anyone has a solution to this, I will be forever in debt to you.", "How to perfectly Iron out the wrinkles on a dress shirt without an Iron or a Dryer If anyone has a solution to this, I will be forever in debt to you.", "How to perfectly Iron out the wrinkles on a dress shirt without an Iron or a Dryer If anyone has a solution to this, I will be forever in debt to you.", "How to perfectly Iron out the wrinkles on a dress shirt without an Iron or a Dryer If anyone has a solution to this, I will be forever in debt to you.", "How to perfectly Iron out the wrinkles on a dress shirt without an Iron or a Dryer If anyone has a solution to this, I will be forever in debt to you.", "How to perfectly Iron out the wrinkles on a dress shirt without an Iron or a Dryer If anyone has a solution to this, I will be forever in debt to you.", "How to perfectly Iron out the wrinkles on a dress shirt without an Iron or a Dryer If anyone has a solution to this, I will be forever in debt to you." ]

[ "It won't be perfect, but hanging it on a hanger in the shower and blasting hot water (not on it) to make steam and shutting the door works a bit.", "This has been asked before and somebody suggested boiling water in a kettle and using that as a makeshift iron. ", "Get a steamer! Best thing I ever did. You can get them from $20-60 and they seriously all work just as well. I wear tons of dress shirts and every now and then they get wrinkled (sometimes so bad that ironing takes a long time). Turn on your steamer and run it over wrinkles in a shirt and they are out in SECONDS. Plus no risk of accidentally creating other creases with the iron if you aren't too talented with the tool.\n\nfor example: Wake up 15 minutes before you have to go to work. Have an oh shit moment when you realize you're running late and your dress shirt was crumpled on the floor for some reason. Turn on that steamer, be done with the shirt in 30 seconds (including the steamer heating up), get dressed and be on your way.", "Either use spaying water and then blast it with a hair dryer\n\nOr\n\nIf you have them, hair straighteners can work well in a pinch and are very quick.", "Not to be a smart ass, but here's my answer: dry cleaners. For about a buck to a buck fifty they will wash, dry, and iron dress shirts. When I used to wear them 5 days a week this saved me all kinds of time.", "I second harnessing the power of steam. Either get a steamer or pop your shirt on a hanger in the bathroom whilst you take your morning shower. \n\n\nAlso just make sure you take your shirt out of the washing machine after the wash and hang it on the line, smooth it with your hands whilst hanging and hang it so the armpits fall on the line. Peg at armpits. ", "I keep a clean spray bottle with water. Spray the items lightly with water, then hang them up overnight. It works great. \n\nBut you won't get \"perfect\" (i.e. pressed) results with anything other than an iron. " ]

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[ "Custom framing for hanging posters Hey guys, I have a multitude of posters (various sizes) that I would like to hang up in my room which would cost me a fortune if I had them done professionally. Has anyone figured out any way to go about doing this? I'd like to hang them up on the wall like artwork (much preferred if they're behind some kind of protection) and not just plaster them right onto the wall. All help will be much appreciated, thank you!", "Custom framing for hanging posters Hey guys, I have a multitude of posters (various sizes) that I would like to hang up in my room which would cost me a fortune if I had them done professionally. Has anyone figured out any way to go about doing this? I'd like to hang them up on the wall like artwork (much preferred if they're behind some kind of protection) and not just plaster them right onto the wall. All help will be much appreciated, thank you!" ]

[ "You could buy Matt board in any color you want, cut it bigger than the poster to get what ever boarder you want, the get acid free spray adhesive (Elmer's makes some that you can reposition until it dries which is great if you accidentally put it down crooked). Spray a fine mist over the entire backside of the poster, then lay it down on the matt board, once you have it positioned right, just rub your hands accords the entire surface to smooth it and make sure it's completely attached. \n\nThis method won't protect your poster of stains, but will protect them from getting all crinkled up and not have to push pin through them. Also if you ever want to do wood and glass frames later, you can just pop them in.", "I used to manage a custom framing shop. As long as you aren't trying to get all fancy, grab a newspaper (maybe online?) and find a Michael's ad. Usually they have a 50% off any item coupon. Every single time I've gone there to buy a frame, the simple black ones with plexiglass are at least 50% off as well. Sure, you could get spray adhesive and attach it to a board (I would suggest foam core) however without a minute or so in a big press machine it will eventually bubble up & good luck salvaging it from there. Until I can afford to have all my prints (I'm also a photographer) and posters framed professionally, I use the plain plastic black frame method. Stay away from the ones where all of the sides come off and you have to slide them back on. Another tip if you go this route, usually there are pieces of plastic film on both sides of the plexiglass to protect it from scratching during shipping and storage. To avoid getting huge pieces of fuzz in between the print and glass, pull off about a half inch off the top and lay it down on the print, with one hand hold the side you pealed down while you pull the rest of the film off with the other. " ]

[ 2, 2 ]

[ "How do I make myself blink more while using the computer? I suffer from redness/dry eyes and I know the main cause of this is a lot of computer work. I have read that when we look at screens we tend to blink less. Are there any tips I can follow? Thanks", "How do I make myself blink more while using the computer? I suffer from redness/dry eyes and I know the main cause of this is a lot of computer work. I have read that when we look at screens we tend to blink less. Are there any tips I can follow? Thanks" ]

[ "set an alarm to go off every 30 seconds to remind you to blink...\n\nreally I'd say try a screen dimming program like Flux and/or adjust your monitor settings. Also don't work in a dark room, if you do. \n", "Take breaks more often. Getting something to drink, give GF some attention, grab a bite, make wind blow in your face forcing you to blink" ]

[ 2, 1 ]

[ "How to deal with a fender bender when the person you hit may try to sue for whiplash? To clarify, I do mean in situations where whiplash is highly unlikely such as low speed rear endings at yellow stop lights. Is whiplash always a concern, even in fender benders? Is there a way to fight it should it go to court? ", "How to deal with a fender bender when the person you hit may try to sue for whiplash? To clarify, I do mean in situations where whiplash is highly unlikely such as low speed rear endings at yellow stop lights. Is whiplash always a concern, even in fender benders? Is there a way to fight it should it go to court? ", "How to deal with a fender bender when the person you hit may try to sue for whiplash? To clarify, I do mean in situations where whiplash is highly unlikely such as low speed rear endings at yellow stop lights. Is whiplash always a concern, even in fender benders? Is there a way to fight it should it go to court? " ]

[ "Do as I had I had the foresight to do - be poor and have no assets. Nobody sues you if you're shoeless.", "In the UK they made it impossible to claim for whiplash at low speed as evidenced by the damage to the cars. \n\nJust remember to always call the police to any accident, big or small and have them document the damage. \n\nIn a crash for cash situation, if the person you hit is a fraudster (a big issue currently), they will leave and then smash something else into the car to make a huge amount of damage and then claim for the car and whiplash. \n\nSometimes they will have traded the plates with a car already smashed. \n\n", "If you have insurance it's taken care of for you. I rear ended someone going like 2-3 mph a year ago and they tried to claim whiplash. My insurance denied the claim, end of story. " ]

[ 4, 3, 2 ]

[ "Tips on napping I Love to nap but it takes me forever to fall asleep and when i wake i feel like crap. \nI know that I shouldn't nap for more than 20 Min. \nWhat are some other napping protips you have?", "Tips on napping I Love to nap but it takes me forever to fall asleep and when i wake i feel like crap. \nI know that I shouldn't nap for more than 20 Min. \nWhat are some other napping protips you have?", "Tips on napping I Love to nap but it takes me forever to fall asleep and when i wake i feel like crap. \nI know that I shouldn't nap for more than 20 Min. \nWhat are some other napping protips you have?" ]

[ "I've been [polyphasic sleeping](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyphasic_sleep) for 6 months now, so I consider myself a pro napper. Here's a list of what I think would best help you regulate napping:\n\n\n\n1: No caffeine whatsoever. If you can effectively nap, there will be no need for caffeine, and caffeine is typically one of the major factors that limits you from napping. I've found a cup of coffee in the morning destroys my chances of an afternoon nap. Sleep is always better than any amount of caffeine. That's why I haven't had coffee/soda since I started polyphasic sleeping. 5 hours of sleep a day and I can stay awake better than people who get 8+ and drink caffeine.\n\n\n\n2: Structure your meals around sleeping. I find it almost impossible to nap after a meal, but I know a lot of other polyphasics find it hard sleeping on an empty stomach. I take my naps right before my meals.\n\n\n\n3: Learn how your body functions. There's an ideal amount of time it takes for you to sleep, and different variables throughout your day will offset the ideal time. My ideal time is ~8 minutes before I pass out, but if I'm really excited about something when I'm setting my alarm, I'll add an extra 10 minutes onto my nap. Guessing the time you need to wake up is very important, but it takes practice. \n\n\n\n4: Wake the fuck up. seriously. After a 20 minute nap, you'll want to just lay there and doze back off to sleep. This drowsiness is because you haven't actually taught your body how to frontload REM, or because you overguessed your time, and you managed to fall into deeper sleep right when you woke up. I find that setting my alarm clock to max volume helps. Also, the first thing I do is rush to the sink and flush out my eyes. It really helps me snap out of this kind of drowsiness. Even after a lot of experience with napping, I still get this from time to time. You just have to shove through it, it'll take ~5 minutes to wear off. \n\n\n\n5: More sleep is not necessarily better sleep. If you need to sleep >20 minutes, shoot for 90 minutes. Any less will make you feel even worse than 20, and I've found really good 20 minute naps are often better than 90 minutes. 20 minute naps rely on you immediately falling into rem sleep, whereas 90 minute naps are a complete sleep cycle. (This is the average time, most of the time these values range from 80-100. Through experimentation I've gathered that my time is actually 84 minutes.) If you need to sleep even more, sleep in increments of 90 minutes, but never in increments of 20 minutes. You can really only get 1 frontloaded REM cycle before your body realizes you're cheating, and you just start falling into actual sleep. \n \n\n\n6: Set your alarm, and forget that time and space even exists. If, while falling asleep, you have no clue where you even are or even what year it is, you're doing it right. Worrying about the clock and how much more time you have to sleep will only keep you awake.\n\n\n\n7: Eyeshades are a must. See #6. Hard to give a shit about space if you can't see anything.\n\n\n\n8: Make sure you let people know you will be napping (unless you know some pretty big assholes). My roommate and I both polyphasic sleep, so if we have a feeling the other one is sleeping, we won't knock on each others doors, or perform loud tasks. When I sleep in public, I'll put a sign on the door. \n\n\n\nI think this is about all the advice I have to give. If I think of more stuff, I'll add it later.\n\n\n\nTLDR\n\n\n\nNo caffeine whatsoever, structure meals around sleeping, learn how long you will need to sleep, wake the fuck up when you need to, more != better, set it and forget it\n", "Emergency services bod here, who works an irregular 24-hour shift pattern and has to work at getting sleep whenever I can.\n\n1. Get comfortable. Really comfortable, so that every bit of your body is warm and relaxed without feeling awkward.\n\n2. Breathing. When you sleep, your breathing is slow and deep (watch someone fall asleep - you can tell the moment they nod off by the change in their breathing). So do that: breathe slowly and deeply. Concentrate on this for a short while until you can do it without thinking about it.\n\n3. Direct your mind onto something absorbing and pleasant. It can be completely daft - I often use the idea that I have a superpower, and I have to figure out how I'd use it to make a living. You're doing this to keep your mind off the things you may be worrying about, that would otherwise keep you awake.\n\n4. ... sleep ...\n\n5. Wake up and find some coffee.\n", "I like to nap with my legs elevated. I'm not sure if it's the blood rushing to my head or what, but I feel like I get a bit more out of every minute spent napping." ]

[ 11, 7, 3 ]

[ "Aside from AC/fans, how can I generate air circulation through my apartment? It's an old building with very high ceilings and LOTS of windows. I try to conserve energy as much as I can, but sometimes, I just can't get the air to circulate throughout the apartment and it gets super stuffy. Even when the air outside feels generally cool and comfortable outside the apartment, opening all of the windows as much as possible just doesn't seem to help. Once it starts to get somewhat hot/humid, it's like there's no alternatives to turning the AC/fan on.", "Aside from AC/fans, how can I generate air circulation through my apartment? It's an old building with very high ceilings and LOTS of windows. I try to conserve energy as much as I can, but sometimes, I just can't get the air to circulate throughout the apartment and it gets super stuffy. Even when the air outside feels generally cool and comfortable outside the apartment, opening all of the windows as much as possible just doesn't seem to help. Once it starts to get somewhat hot/humid, it's like there's no alternatives to turning the AC/fan on.", "Aside from AC/fans, how can I generate air circulation through my apartment? It's an old building with very high ceilings and LOTS of windows. I try to conserve energy as much as I can, but sometimes, I just can't get the air to circulate throughout the apartment and it gets super stuffy. Even when the air outside feels generally cool and comfortable outside the apartment, opening all of the windows as much as possible just doesn't seem to help. Once it starts to get somewhat hot/humid, it's like there's no alternatives to turning the AC/fan on.", "Aside from AC/fans, how can I generate air circulation through my apartment? It's an old building with very high ceilings and LOTS of windows. I try to conserve energy as much as I can, but sometimes, I just can't get the air to circulate throughout the apartment and it gets super stuffy. Even when the air outside feels generally cool and comfortable outside the apartment, opening all of the windows as much as possible just doesn't seem to help. Once it starts to get somewhat hot/humid, it's like there's no alternatives to turning the AC/fan on." ]

[ "Running a fan uses negligible amounts of power. It's the compressor on the A/C that costs you money.", "Look at a Heat Recovery Ventilator. HRV. Or ERV. They bring in fresh air and expelled stale air. Put the intake on the north end of the house where it will pull in cooler air.", "I've read that you can open a window with a fan pointing outwards to suck the warm air from inside and blow it outside. It should work when the outside air is cooler than inside. So you don't have to open all the windows which is good for security/bugs/privacy reasons", "Open windows that are across from each other to create a wind tunnel. Leave doors open when nobody is inside to keep air flow good" ]

[ 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "What is the correct way to proceed if I found my stolen e-bike (police report filed) in a second hand shop? ", "What is the correct way to proceed if I found my stolen e-bike (police report filed) in a second hand shop? ", "What is the correct way to proceed if I found my stolen e-bike (police report filed) in a second hand shop? " ]

[ "File a police report and contact the the second hand shop with proof of ownership and the bike serial number. In some jurisdictions, stores that sell previously purchased items must hold them for a period of time before they can sell them, to allow for stolen merchandise to be identified by owners and police.", "Is it a \"donated goods\" place (Goodwill or Salvation Army type) or a pawn shop? \n\nA pawn shop will have some kind of record of who dropped it off and will have video of the person. If they don't, they are shady and probably knowingly dealing in stolen goods.\n\nIf it's at a donated items place, just tell the cops and buy it. Don't penalize the shop. ", "Buy a new bike. People think they have recourse for such situations but pursuing them will cost you more" ]

[ 5, 1, -14 ]

[ "What should I say to my friend who wont stop talking about himself? I'm a nice guy and a good friend, so i listen to his rants and opinions, but i feel like ive had enough. Even after telling him he wont change his ways.", "What should I say to my friend who wont stop talking about himself? I'm a nice guy and a good friend, so i listen to his rants and opinions, but i feel like ive had enough. Even after telling him he wont change his ways.", "What should I say to my friend who wont stop talking about himself? I'm a nice guy and a good friend, so i listen to his rants and opinions, but i feel like ive had enough. Even after telling him he wont change his ways.", "What should I say to my friend who wont stop talking about himself? I'm a nice guy and a good friend, so i listen to his rants and opinions, but i feel like ive had enough. Even after telling him he wont change his ways.", "What should I say to my friend who wont stop talking about himself? I'm a nice guy and a good friend, so i listen to his rants and opinions, but i feel like ive had enough. Even after telling him he wont change his ways.", "What should I say to my friend who wont stop talking about himself? I'm a nice guy and a good friend, so i listen to his rants and opinions, but i feel like ive had enough. Even after telling him he wont change his ways.", "What should I say to my friend who wont stop talking about himself? I'm a nice guy and a good friend, so i listen to his rants and opinions, but i feel like ive had enough. Even after telling him he wont change his ways.", "What should I say to my friend who wont stop talking about himself? I'm a nice guy and a good friend, so i listen to his rants and opinions, but i feel like ive had enough. Even after telling him he wont change his ways.", "What should I say to my friend who wont stop talking about himself? I'm a nice guy and a good friend, so i listen to his rants and opinions, but i feel like ive had enough. Even after telling him he wont change his ways.", "What should I say to my friend who wont stop talking about himself? I'm a nice guy and a good friend, so i listen to his rants and opinions, but i feel like ive had enough. Even after telling him he wont change his ways." ]

[ "As someone who fears that they do this I would want my mates to tell me as it something that's likely to hold me back and cause problems in other areas with other people. \n\nI genuinely don't know if I talk to much about myself, ", "Stop actually listening to him, tell him you don't particularly want to hear a monologue. If he doesn't listen then actually get up and physically leave, or engage in conversation with someone else (tell him you have to put him on \"pause\" if it's that bad) so he can't keep talking at you.", "If you think he is a genuine person and wish to remain his friend just tell him. People can take criticism and act on it if they truly want to. If he doesn't want to work on it, then you should question how important the friendship is if it is truly bothering you.", "Just because someone has been your friend for a while, doesn't mean you have to continue being his friend if you aren't getting anything out of the relationship.", "If you told him it bothers you and he won't change, don't make him. Maybe you two just weren't meant to be friends.", "I like getting vain friends a photo of themselves when a birthday or Christmas comes around. \n\nThe protip: it should be a group photo--with all other faces x'd out (I like using a sharpie over digital ", "I have a friend like this, though I get to hear all about her financial Issues. I started saying \"You already told me all about that, I know you are stressed but it is just working you up. Did you see last nights episode of blah blah. I attempt to guide the conversation away every time, It is helping a little bit. It feels rude to do this, but honestly your friend is being rude by dominating the conversation and has likely lost friends over it. (My friend has, and can't connect the behavior) If it doesn't work the first time, keep trying until he figures out you don't want to listen to him repeat his same BS. ", "Do it each time \" Ranting again…got anything more interesting to say?\"\n\n\"Time for a change of subject…seen any good movies?\"", "Tell him he sucks, and if he complains, call him a whiny bitch, and if that doesn't work, continually make fun of him to the point where he us on the brink of insanity, and then tell him it was just a social experiment.", "My aunt does this. The most successful thing I've found is to nod with big agreement and say \"yes\" repeatably as an indication that you have something you'd like to say right now and they need to stop speaking. Then launch into what you have to say. Otherwise, if I've nothing to say or I don't have the energy to keep talking I quiet enjoy the endless stream of consciousness that comes from them. They're your friends, you just have to accept them and it could probably be much worse." ]

[ 6, 5, 4, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0 ]

[ "How to wake up early when you have no obligations So, I have absolutely no problem waking up when I need to. If I have class, work, or plans I'm up on time. But if it's a weekend, I'll sleep extremely late whether or not I've gotten enough sleep the week prior and sometimes this will put me at 10-12 hours of sleep! \n\nI don't have an issue with depression or anything like that, it's just that I really like sleep, but at that point I'm waking up at noon and have wasted my day. \n\nI've seen a lot of tips but they're often just for people who have problems in general waking up and have tried them, with no avail. I've downloaded alarms that force you up and all that, but I'll either hit snooze for hours or wake up and turn it off before going back to bed. Even if I'm fully awake, I'll still go back to sleep. This has been an issue for me for a long time and I've lost out on time when I could be productive because of it. Any tips?\n\n", "How to wake up early when you have no obligations So, I have absolutely no problem waking up when I need to. If I have class, work, or plans I'm up on time. But if it's a weekend, I'll sleep extremely late whether or not I've gotten enough sleep the week prior and sometimes this will put me at 10-12 hours of sleep! \n\nI don't have an issue with depression or anything like that, it's just that I really like sleep, but at that point I'm waking up at noon and have wasted my day. \n\nI've seen a lot of tips but they're often just for people who have problems in general waking up and have tried them, with no avail. I've downloaded alarms that force you up and all that, but I'll either hit snooze for hours or wake up and turn it off before going back to bed. Even if I'm fully awake, I'll still go back to sleep. This has been an issue for me for a long time and I've lost out on time when I could be productive because of it. Any tips?\n\n", "How to wake up early when you have no obligations So, I have absolutely no problem waking up when I need to. If I have class, work, or plans I'm up on time. But if it's a weekend, I'll sleep extremely late whether or not I've gotten enough sleep the week prior and sometimes this will put me at 10-12 hours of sleep! \n\nI don't have an issue with depression or anything like that, it's just that I really like sleep, but at that point I'm waking up at noon and have wasted my day. \n\nI've seen a lot of tips but they're often just for people who have problems in general waking up and have tried them, with no avail. I've downloaded alarms that force you up and all that, but I'll either hit snooze for hours or wake up and turn it off before going back to bed. Even if I'm fully awake, I'll still go back to sleep. This has been an issue for me for a long time and I've lost out on time when I could be productive because of it. Any tips?\n\n", "How to wake up early when you have no obligations So, I have absolutely no problem waking up when I need to. If I have class, work, or plans I'm up on time. But if it's a weekend, I'll sleep extremely late whether or not I've gotten enough sleep the week prior and sometimes this will put me at 10-12 hours of sleep! \n\nI don't have an issue with depression or anything like that, it's just that I really like sleep, but at that point I'm waking up at noon and have wasted my day. \n\nI've seen a lot of tips but they're often just for people who have problems in general waking up and have tried them, with no avail. I've downloaded alarms that force you up and all that, but I'll either hit snooze for hours or wake up and turn it off before going back to bed. Even if I'm fully awake, I'll still go back to sleep. This has been an issue for me for a long time and I've lost out on time when I could be productive because of it. Any tips?\n\n", "How to wake up early when you have no obligations So, I have absolutely no problem waking up when I need to. If I have class, work, or plans I'm up on time. But if it's a weekend, I'll sleep extremely late whether or not I've gotten enough sleep the week prior and sometimes this will put me at 10-12 hours of sleep! \n\nI don't have an issue with depression or anything like that, it's just that I really like sleep, but at that point I'm waking up at noon and have wasted my day. \n\nI've seen a lot of tips but they're often just for people who have problems in general waking up and have tried them, with no avail. I've downloaded alarms that force you up and all that, but I'll either hit snooze for hours or wake up and turn it off before going back to bed. Even if I'm fully awake, I'll still go back to sleep. This has been an issue for me for a long time and I've lost out on time when I could be productive because of it. Any tips?\n\n", "How to wake up early when you have no obligations So, I have absolutely no problem waking up when I need to. If I have class, work, or plans I'm up on time. But if it's a weekend, I'll sleep extremely late whether or not I've gotten enough sleep the week prior and sometimes this will put me at 10-12 hours of sleep! \n\nI don't have an issue with depression or anything like that, it's just that I really like sleep, but at that point I'm waking up at noon and have wasted my day. \n\nI've seen a lot of tips but they're often just for people who have problems in general waking up and have tried them, with no avail. I've downloaded alarms that force you up and all that, but I'll either hit snooze for hours or wake up and turn it off before going back to bed. Even if I'm fully awake, I'll still go back to sleep. This has been an issue for me for a long time and I've lost out on time when I could be productive because of it. Any tips?\n\n" ]

[ "I enjoy having breakfast in bed. I like waking up to the smell of bacon, sue me. And since I don't have a butler, I have to do it myself. So, most nights before I go to bed, I will lay six strips of bacon out on my George Foreman Grill. Then I go to sleep. When I wake up, I plug in the grill, I go back to sleep again. Then I wake up to the smell of crackling bacon. It is delicious, it's good for me. It's the perfect way to start the day. Today I got up, I stepped onto the grill and it clamped down on my foot... that's it. I don't see what's so hard to believe about that.", "Set an alarm to cook breakfast, takes time to set a routine but this has been the most effective for me. The first two weeks you may not be hungry but after that you will wake up before your alarm ready to eat. circadian rhythm is the best.", "I'm similar to you. This is what I did. \n\nI handed $100 to a friend who woke up earlier than my usual wake time. They got to keep $10 for every morning that I didn't wake up at my desired time. To prove that I was awake, I'd message them with a selfie of myself out of bed. To make sure I didn't go back to bed and snooze, I'd follow up with another photo 30mins later.\n\n", "Don't hit snooze, put the alarm across the room so you have to get up, drink a lot of water so you have to pee in the morning.", "Start doing something in the mornings, daily that you can enjoy anticipating, like... some computer version of reading a newspaper, I suppose. Personally, I check my webcomics. Since I read daily webcomics, there's always something good to look forward to in the morning.\n\nBut really, anything you can enjoy enough to think of the night before will do. Strip of bacon for breakfast? Coffee? Bang your SO every morning? I'm sure you can find something.", "I've found the easiest to wake up early is to make sure I am going to sleep before midnight. There are exceptions but I always try to fall asleep within 1 hour of the previous night (look into circadian rhythms) to ensure a higher quality sleep cycle. This does not happen over night and can take up to a month for your body to adjust to regular sleeping patterns. \n\nIf you can't justify taking the time for this (I've been there, graduating college senior) the next best thing is to reduce your alcohol consumption especially after dinner. alcohol influences your sleep patterns, particularly your REM cycle.\n\n\nI get up early because I do most of my school work before lunch. I also enjoy going to the gym early, so both of those motivational aspects help me get excited about starting my day. What do you look forward to the most, aside from sleeping?" ]

[ 35, 4, 3, 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to deal with the guilt and sadness of accidentally killing your own pet Yesterday i lost my dog of ten plus years. I was running late for school and getting ready to leave in my car. when i took my foot off the brake pedal and the car began to move forward i suddenly heard a loud thump and my dog began to yelp. I didn't even know he was under my car. I accidentally ran over my dog and my family took him to the vet where we ended having to put him to sleep. I cant stop feeling guilty and i keep repeating the scenario in my head of what i could have done differently. If it wasn't for me my little buddy would still be here. The sadness i caused in my family and the fact that i caused my dogs death is eating me alive. I really miss him and I'm to blame for the pain i caused him to go through. My heart is filled with loss, sadness and guilt. \n", "How to deal with the guilt and sadness of accidentally killing your own pet Yesterday i lost my dog of ten plus years. I was running late for school and getting ready to leave in my car. when i took my foot off the brake pedal and the car began to move forward i suddenly heard a loud thump and my dog began to yelp. I didn't even know he was under my car. I accidentally ran over my dog and my family took him to the vet where we ended having to put him to sleep. I cant stop feeling guilty and i keep repeating the scenario in my head of what i could have done differently. If it wasn't for me my little buddy would still be here. The sadness i caused in my family and the fact that i caused my dogs death is eating me alive. I really miss him and I'm to blame for the pain i caused him to go through. My heart is filled with loss, sadness and guilt. \n", "How to deal with the guilt and sadness of accidentally killing your own pet Yesterday i lost my dog of ten plus years. I was running late for school and getting ready to leave in my car. when i took my foot off the brake pedal and the car began to move forward i suddenly heard a loud thump and my dog began to yelp. I didn't even know he was under my car. I accidentally ran over my dog and my family took him to the vet where we ended having to put him to sleep. I cant stop feeling guilty and i keep repeating the scenario in my head of what i could have done differently. If it wasn't for me my little buddy would still be here. The sadness i caused in my family and the fact that i caused my dogs death is eating me alive. I really miss him and I'm to blame for the pain i caused him to go through. My heart is filled with loss, sadness and guilt. \n", "How to deal with the guilt and sadness of accidentally killing your own pet Yesterday i lost my dog of ten plus years. I was running late for school and getting ready to leave in my car. when i took my foot off the brake pedal and the car began to move forward i suddenly heard a loud thump and my dog began to yelp. I didn't even know he was under my car. I accidentally ran over my dog and my family took him to the vet where we ended having to put him to sleep. I cant stop feeling guilty and i keep repeating the scenario in my head of what i could have done differently. If it wasn't for me my little buddy would still be here. The sadness i caused in my family and the fact that i caused my dogs death is eating me alive. I really miss him and I'm to blame for the pain i caused him to go through. My heart is filled with loss, sadness and guilt. \n", "How to deal with the guilt and sadness of accidentally killing your own pet Yesterday i lost my dog of ten plus years. I was running late for school and getting ready to leave in my car. when i took my foot off the brake pedal and the car began to move forward i suddenly heard a loud thump and my dog began to yelp. I didn't even know he was under my car. I accidentally ran over my dog and my family took him to the vet where we ended having to put him to sleep. I cant stop feeling guilty and i keep repeating the scenario in my head of what i could have done differently. If it wasn't for me my little buddy would still be here. The sadness i caused in my family and the fact that i caused my dogs death is eating me alive. I really miss him and I'm to blame for the pain i caused him to go through. My heart is filled with loss, sadness and guilt. \n", "How to deal with the guilt and sadness of accidentally killing your own pet Yesterday i lost my dog of ten plus years. I was running late for school and getting ready to leave in my car. when i took my foot off the brake pedal and the car began to move forward i suddenly heard a loud thump and my dog began to yelp. I didn't even know he was under my car. I accidentally ran over my dog and my family took him to the vet where we ended having to put him to sleep. I cant stop feeling guilty and i keep repeating the scenario in my head of what i could have done differently. If it wasn't for me my little buddy would still be here. The sadness i caused in my family and the fact that i caused my dogs death is eating me alive. I really miss him and I'm to blame for the pain i caused him to go through. My heart is filled with loss, sadness and guilt. \n" ]

[ "Hey bud, I know that you're always going to feel a little guilty about what happened, but you gotta understand that it wasn't all your fault. You had no idea he was under there; and why on earth would you even assume he could be? Your little pupper was in the wrong place at the wrong time, and that isn't your fault.\n\nThe only LPT I can really give in one sentence for that, is: Don't beat yourself up over something you couldn't control.", "It's not your fault. Feel grief. But not guilt. \n\nWhen I was 15, I walked home from school in the rain. When I got home, I took my sneakers off and tossed them in the dryer. My dad had just finished drying his \"car washing\" rags so I left them in there with my shoes and turned the dryer on. An hour went by and I could hear my shoes clunking and making noise in the dryer. When I went to take them out I put my hand in there and felt my very warm, dead family cat. I was devastated. My siblings still bring it up. I was careless and I made a mistake. \n\nI still grieve and if I sit with that feeling long enough, the guilt comes back. You just gotta let it go over and over again and eventually you'll forgive yourself. You're only human and it's human nature to make mistakes. ", "If it only happened yesterday you just need to give it time. You wouldn't be normal if you were already over it.", "Oh my god, right in the feels. I teared up. Fuck man. Im sorry, losing a dog is the worst. \n\nI lost my dog after 14 yeara of having him being my bestfriend and its not easy. I still keep is food and water bowl out. And his dog bed is still in the corner. I cant get myself to throw em out. \n\nJust know it was an accident, we all rush around and you gotta remember no one really looks under their car everytime they get in. \n\nHope you feel better soon!", "You need time, it only happened yesterday! Grieve for the dog, remember how much you loved him and how he had a happy life, try and put the very end to one side and focus on the fun times you had. \n\nI accidentally dropped my hamster years ago, (not the same as a dog I know but still a pet I loved). After cleaning her cage I was putting it back, as I walked through the door I caught the side of the cage on the door frame and the cage and pod split in 2 and the whole thing came tumbling out my hands and crashed onto the floor. She screamed so much, I scooped her out her bed and held her. After 10 minutes she'd calmed down so I put her back in her bed but knew what was going to happen. Half an hour later when I checked on her she was dead. I was beside myself! What has helped me is knowing that I loved here the best I could while she was alive and the accident was literally that, an accident. I didn't intentionally do it, accidents happen all the time despite best intentions. \n\nPlease stop beating yourself up and focus on the fun times you and your buddy had, I know he'd forgive you if he could tell you. ", "It was an accident. I know this may sound cold but put it this way, at least it wasn't the next door neighbours 2 year old kid" ]

[ 36, 21, 7, 6, 4, 2 ]

[ "How to stop a stalker if you don't have money or friends? If a stalker, such as an ex or someone you only knew for a day, didn't cease defaming you online and in other virtual spaces, they might continue to create spam emails and g voice numbers to reach out to you. What other defense is there other than documenting everything? \n\nHow can I stop libel and defamation that is being spread online and even among your close friends if I don't have the money to employ a lawyer?\n\nExample, ex who is furious I broke it off keeps on writing absurd comments on public profile photos, the library page we kept going to, accusing me, making up stories- even writing bad reviews on managed business pages. Another friend of mine had to deal with a man who kept finding new ways to text and message her. And even to a point where she was being labeled as such in a lot of pages.\n\nI understand that it takes money but a lot of these things a can just be made up and it takes time and consistence to really bug someone and libel them to a point that people start to believe, what can we do from this point?", "How to stop a stalker if you don't have money or friends? If a stalker, such as an ex or someone you only knew for a day, didn't cease defaming you online and in other virtual spaces, they might continue to create spam emails and g voice numbers to reach out to you. What other defense is there other than documenting everything? \n\nHow can I stop libel and defamation that is being spread online and even among your close friends if I don't have the money to employ a lawyer?\n\nExample, ex who is furious I broke it off keeps on writing absurd comments on public profile photos, the library page we kept going to, accusing me, making up stories- even writing bad reviews on managed business pages. Another friend of mine had to deal with a man who kept finding new ways to text and message her. And even to a point where she was being labeled as such in a lot of pages.\n\nI understand that it takes money but a lot of these things a can just be made up and it takes time and consistence to really bug someone and libel them to a point that people start to believe, what can we do from this point?" ]

[ "Make sure you block him ban him ignore him.\nNever talk vor write to him again. He will get bored after a few weeks/month.\n\nTalk to the police about him. Its just a phone call.", "Let someone else answer the phone and pretend they're a journalist writing about stalking.\n\nOf course you could also talk to a real journalist. The stalker probably fears exposure." ]

[ 5, 1 ]

[ "My teeth are yellow from drinking soda over the years, what is a cheap and easy way to whiten them in the coming month? ", "My teeth are yellow from drinking soda over the years, what is a cheap and easy way to whiten them in the coming month? ", "My teeth are yellow from drinking soda over the years, what is a cheap and easy way to whiten them in the coming month? ", "My teeth are yellow from drinking soda over the years, what is a cheap and easy way to whiten them in the coming month? " ]

[ "1. Have your teeth professionally cleaned 2 . Use whitening strips from a good company. 3. Avoid tooth- discoloring foods from touching your teeth, e.g. carrots, red wine, coffee, tea (re-usable straw?) 4. Use a calcium hardening toothpaste or remineralising tooth treatment, this will prevent teeth from looking thin. 5. Brush and floss regularly (half an hour after eating), being sure to remove all plaque. You might find it useful to rub your teeth with a toothpick after brushing to see if you find any soft plaque, this will assist you in knowing spots you have missed several times in a row. Avoid DIY whitening treatments that are not recommended by a dentist, don't risk your teeth.", "You can use baking soda instead of toothpaste every once and a while, or just sprinkle it on top of your current toothpaste. Works like a charm (after a month or so)", "Go to a dental hygienist and get your teeth cleaned then ask them for a treatment plan on tooth whitening; using these different products don't work as well as the bleach used for whitening. After being on the plan make sure you brush your teeth at least twice a day. You should either floss everyday or not at all as doing it irregular can mess with your gums. ", "look up \"coconut oil pulling\" and give that a try, might be worth it in the long run for your health as well :)" ]

[ 17, 6, 2, 0 ]

[ "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "Confidence question. I'm a 6'0\" lady who is quite slender, but I often just feel very lanky and awkward when I'm standing. I tend to fidget with things and cross my arms. Even when I try to keep my shoulders back and pretend that I possess the utmost confidence, I still feel very uncomfortable. \n\nI've been applying to some serving jobs and I feel like I need to gain a bit more confidence for that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!" ]

[ "I'm a short ass bloke 5'6 used to be built like a tank that was 10 years ago now I'm still a 5'6 bloke built like an expanding balloon.\n\nWhat I learned from my experience when I was happy with my body I got more attention than before because I oozed confidence. I lost my confidence started wearing badly fitting clothes and walked with my head down and shoulders slumped forward. \n\nAfter some self reflection I asked myself this question what if I walked like I had the body I had 10 years ago? What if I started dressing the same way (excluding skin tight) well what happened my confidence came back.\n\nWalk into a place like you are the most beautiful person there, dress like you have the body you want and in the back ground start sculpting that body. You can with a little research and weights sculpt parts of your body to make some of it look more dainty (if that's what your looking) than it is because in ratio to other parts of you it will be. Stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself they only bring you down! And trust me there are millions of people that will bring everyone down in this world but you have the choice not to bring yourself down.\n\nDon't look to other people to find your physical beauty or ideals of perfection sculpt them until your happy. And use my new life philosophy \"Fake it till you make it!\"", "6'0 and slender? So basically you have the stature and weight of a model or ballerina. Um.... sounds pretty fabulous to me. Now, I know confidence is all in your head, but realize that the shape you have is something many, MANY people wish they had. \n \nYou've got this!", "I'm quite a tall woman and have always been the tallest of my friends. But I love heels even though I used to feel extremely awkward and tall in them. Then I saw a picture of myself in a bar and I was slumped over obviously trying to look smaller. Since I saw that photo I've not looked back. Who cares if I'm tall and wear heels? Not me anymore. Now I strut my stuff and get a lot more attention because of it. Good luck! ", "[Your posture shapes your mental state.](http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are.html)", "Lots of men and women love the look of a tall woman! Try to think of that when you feel self conscious. There's a reason runway prefers tall women too! I know it sounds vain, but keeping these thoughts in your head will help you feel confident and the more you practice being confident, the more it will just happen naturally. :) Hope this helps!", "I've also heard taking an improv class helps tremendously. I've signed up for one myself starting next week for similar reasons to yours. Just take it one day at a time. Good luck!", "Try wearing small heels. They basically force you to stand up straight. Practice walking around in them quickly.\n\nFor sitting, try adjusting your drivers seat to be relatively straight up. It's small but you may get used to sitting that way. ", "Part of confidence is realizing that almost everyone else is just as insecure in their appearance as you, and that most people are worrying about what others think of them than to judge others.\n\nOtherwise, it's just practice and doing it repeatedly.", "I know how you feel, I'm 5'10\", and 107 lbs and have been socially awkward all my life. I've always slumped over to try and be on \"equal ground\" with those around me, and never really knew what to do with my arms. One thing I'm learning more and more, though, is how to accept myself for who I am, and be confident in the body I'm pretty blessed to have. [Embrace your height!](http://www.mdphotography.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/masai-0058.jpg) I've started stretching my shoulders to not slump so much. A good way to is to hold your arms up like a field goal into an open doorway, then lean in with your body weight, stretching your shoulders back. After a little while it becomes more natural to keep your shoulders back.", "Think about the things that you would see in a confident woman posture-wise. Just stand up straight, put a conscious effort into keeping your shoulders straight, and ACT confident even if you're not. Acting like it will make you look more confident, professional, and will make you feel more confident.", "Take a speech class or join a speech club. You'll learn how to \"be\" in front of people and it will give you constructive criticism on any problem areas that need work. [International Speech Club](http://www.toastmasters.org/)", "I am not a confident man. I have poor posture and constantly think about what people must be thinking of me. To combat this I use a few mental tricks.\n\nFirst, is that I try to remember that if I'm worrying so much about what other people think of me, I'm not really thinking about other people. So no one is thinking about me, positive or negative! They're all stuck in their own world worrying about themselves! I can act a fool and people won't mind so long as I'm not annoying about it.\n\nNext, it seems like knowing what to do with your hands can be tricky. This falls into the same category as the first step. Can you remember what people do with their hands when they're out of their pockets and arms are uncrossed? I have no clue either! We just don't really notice these details. As such, you can do whatever seems most comfortable to your. You can rest them on your hips, clasp them in front of behind yourself (think Adam and Eve style fig leaf, or Adam and Steve style butt-fig leaf for the reverse), just let them hang to your side. Whatever you prefer that will also allow you to have your shoulders back and open.\n\nAs for posture, to find a proper posture you'll need to find a clear wall and basically just stand with your back to it. You'll want your butt, shoulder blades and the back of your head to be touching the wall. And that's it. Don't let your lower back or spine touch the wall. Just the butt, shoulders and head. That will be your baseline. You'll probably find it to be a bit of a chore to maintain, which means you'll need to start exercising those back muscles. Part of the reason for slouching is that the muscles in the back just get too weak to hold us up. I blame sitting in front of a computer all day.\n\nFinally, don't forget that winning smile. Everyone looks better and people prefer them with a smile. Messed up teeth? Just keep the lips sealed.\n\nAnd of course, the key to everything in life is to fake it 'til you make it.", "Hey. 6'0\" girl here. High five. \n\nHere's what helped me more than anything: start weight lifting (or a similarly \"macho\" sport ... I also rock climb and that has helped a lot too). When you do an activity in which your body type gives you an advantage, you'll start to feel proud of your body. Let yourself swagger a bit when you feel that pride and then tap into it when you're out in other situations.\n\nAs far as posture: shoulders back, eyes forward, lead with your hips. Not in a weird way, but with each step think about your hips being the first part of your torso to get there. \n\nWhen your talking to a group: hands on hips is okay as is hands clasped behind your back. \n\nWhen you're talking to a person up close: settle back into your hip but don't hunch back, keep your shoulders broad. \n\nWhen your talking to someone below you (as in, a table of diners): I'd try deliberately turning to each person and bending over a bit...not condescendingly, but on their level. \n\nWhen sitting: I always try to have something in my hands. Flick a pen around, hold a glass or drink, paper clip, hairband...just don't let it be awkward, you OWN that item, fling it around. ", "Have good posture, sit up straight, and remember that a job is about skills, and professionalism. It has nothing to do with you being \"lanky.\" None of your merit is based on genetics. You know your a good person, Now go out and get what you deserve. ", "Don't be afraid to take up space. You have just as much right to be here on this earth as anybody else\n\nIf you act confident people will treat you as such and it will reinforce it. Basically fake it until you make it. ", "Don't worry so much about how you look. Would you do a good job in this position? Are you friendly and hard-working? If so, it would be a good thing for them to hire you. Focus on that and think about how you can convey that fact. If you have that positive attitude and are willing to work and you don't get the job, there's really nothing more you could do, so no sense in worrying about it - just try for another one, and you'll end up working for a company that appreciates you. It's a server position. Focus on what you bring to the table." ]

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[ "How to gain back incentive to do well in school I don't have any more incentive to be the best in school. When I was young I would work so hard to be the best, but as soon as I entered middle school, I was slacking. My grades are slipping, how can I improve?", "How to gain back incentive to do well in school I don't have any more incentive to be the best in school. When I was young I would work so hard to be the best, but as soon as I entered middle school, I was slacking. My grades are slipping, how can I improve?", "How to gain back incentive to do well in school I don't have any more incentive to be the best in school. When I was young I would work so hard to be the best, but as soon as I entered middle school, I was slacking. My grades are slipping, how can I improve?", "How to gain back incentive to do well in school I don't have any more incentive to be the best in school. When I was young I would work so hard to be the best, but as soon as I entered middle school, I was slacking. My grades are slipping, how can I improve?", "How to gain back incentive to do well in school I don't have any more incentive to be the best in school. When I was young I would work so hard to be the best, but as soon as I entered middle school, I was slacking. My grades are slipping, how can I improve?" ]

[ "(Music Education Major here, and I've been in your shoes. I have lots of advice, from a student's perspective and from a teacher's)\n\n Set realistic goals with your work. I mean don't try to bring 7 F's and D's up to A's. Every week make it a point to work your hardest to make small improvement. \n\nUse an agenda to write assignments readings, and important notes, IMMEDIATELY as your teacher gives them. Look at your agenda as soon as you get home and try to knock it all out before a distraction can consume you. Then look again after dinner to make sure you haven't missed anything. \n\nTake GOOD notes in class. Don't write down everything, only important info. Don't write verbatim, use your own shorthand. And write your notes in an organized manner! Very important. \n\nReward yourself when you do well. If you have a 53 in ENGLISH and raise it to a 65, do something you like to do. Eat a candy bar, play a game, see a friend, whatever you like.\n\nAlso, TELL YOUR PARENTS AND TEACHERS YOU NEED HELP! Many people think their teachers don't care about them, this is untrue in most cases. Teachers want students to succeed, and taking the initiative to ask for help in that shows them that you want to improve.\n\nTelling your parents can be completely life changing. If you are hiding your poor grades you may be afraid to share them. If they find out at report card time, they may be upset. But if you tell them yourself and express that you want to improve and need help, it will certainly make your parents proud. That is a very grown up, responsible thing to do. And if you have any reasonable parents, they will do their role to make sure you reach your goals in school. ", "Senior in high school here. I don't know how our school systems may differ, but I'm just going to go ahead and list advice I would give to people not in high school yet.\n\n* In junior high -- or middle school -- it's a lot more about learning habits, as opposed to the actual curriculum. So if your ever wondering \"why the fuck am I learning about Pythagorean theorem or Shakespeare\", the answer is that the it's not necessarily those specific topics. It's about the mindsets that you will need to apply in future classes, where things get real.\n* From my experience, the primary things you really need to retain for high school is the stuff you will learn in math. Stuff like fraction expressions and square roots is all considered common sense later on - and anything you don't retain now will only be extra work for you down the line, and trust the fuck out of me, you will have enough of that on your hands. Don't misinterpret this as \"it's ok to slack in science and social\", I'm just trying to say that math is a little more important than the rest. If you're going to slack in any class - do it in science.\n* Discipline yourself in middle school so you don't have to in high school. Take 30 minutes after school each day to just study, or read, or some real hobby. Because soon, it won't be an option anymore.\n* I'd be happy to help you out with picking classes and a schedule, I can keep it real with some advice, let me know if your interested.\n\nI know none of those were really about incentive. But I still felt a need to express them. You need incentive? Here you go:\n\n* Going to assume you haven't already, but start doing some serious research in finding a career that would interest you. Easier said than done - so start now while you have time - not like my dumbass waiting until the last minute. Things are not going to magically sort themselves out with time. You need to take initiative. You should start to see that all the good careers require some sort of post-secondary, which requires good grades in high school.\n\n* Try to get a job working at McDonalds, or some other shitty place so you can see first-hand how shitty it is. And don't deceive yourself into thinking that it pays a lot. This ties back to the research. Start looking at how much an apartment costs, a car, water / electric / etc bills, groceries, student loans, hobbies. Minimum wage is nice when your living with your parents. I worked at a restaurant for one year - I started halfway through my freshman year, putting in 20 hours a week. It started to become too much weight on my shoulders, and was damaging my grades - so I left. Get a job, early on, don't wait for the late end of high school. \n\nHave more to say, but am busy, let me know if you found this helpful and I'll get back to you :)\n\n\n ", "I'm I'm my twenties and have recently lost motivation to strive at work/life. It comes in swings man, that's why these habits that everybody tells you to instill are so imprtant. They pull you through. Think of it like working out every day, it's a discipline you have to instill. You need to give up other minor obligations at times to workout. That ability never changes, only the habits. ", "Apply yourself. Stop procrastinating, strive for perfection and make sure you are proud of everything you do. Don't ever hand in a half-baked assignment again, teachers truly can recognise effort that students put into their work. ", "If your in middle school it really doesn't matter. Just do good enough to get through and then once your in high school you will have an incentive, your gpa." ]

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[ "My bedsheet keeps coming off the bed everytime I wake up in the morning. Does anyone know how to fix this? I don't want to use pins to fix my bedsheet to the bed. I tried it once and the next day when I woke up, a part of my bedsheet was torn. I don't know what I'm doing while asleep to cause this much havoc.", "My bedsheet keeps coming off the bed everytime I wake up in the morning. Does anyone know how to fix this? I don't want to use pins to fix my bedsheet to the bed. I tried it once and the next day when I woke up, a part of my bedsheet was torn. I don't know what I'm doing while asleep to cause this much havoc.", "My bedsheet keeps coming off the bed everytime I wake up in the morning. Does anyone know how to fix this? I don't want to use pins to fix my bedsheet to the bed. I tried it once and the next day when I woke up, a part of my bedsheet was torn. I don't know what I'm doing while asleep to cause this much havoc.", "My bedsheet keeps coming off the bed everytime I wake up in the morning. Does anyone know how to fix this? I don't want to use pins to fix my bedsheet to the bed. I tried it once and the next day when I woke up, a part of my bedsheet was torn. I don't know what I'm doing while asleep to cause this much havoc.", "My bedsheet keeps coming off the bed everytime I wake up in the morning. Does anyone know how to fix this? I don't want to use pins to fix my bedsheet to the bed. I tried it once and the next day when I woke up, a part of my bedsheet was torn. I don't know what I'm doing while asleep to cause this much havoc.", "My bedsheet keeps coming off the bed everytime I wake up in the morning. Does anyone know how to fix this? I don't want to use pins to fix my bedsheet to the bed. I tried it once and the next day when I woke up, a part of my bedsheet was torn. I don't know what I'm doing while asleep to cause this much havoc." ]

[ "[These](www.harrietcarter.com/resources/harrietCarter/images/products/processed/3843.detail.a.jpg) have been a real life saver. ", "Buy a size up and tuck it under the mattress further. They also sell straps that you can clip to the sheet and it goes around the corners of the mattress. ", "So not really a LPT but target has sheets that are not only labeled as to side and top/bottom but also have extra fabric that goes under the mattress. They stay on like a dream. Threshold cotton. Love them. ", "This sounds odd. Could it be because there's too little friction between your mattress and the bedsheet? I once stayed at a sort of motel that still had the plastic cover on their mattress, and the bedsheets slipped right off it at night. If that's the case with you, you should consider removing the plastic.", "Hi! If you have fitted sheets that are usually included in a set, you could put it on top of the normal sheet to hold it in place instead. ", "Take the sheets off before you go to bed.\n\n**" ]

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[ "How to enjoy being by yourself I realized that I don't really like being by myself and that has led to a lot of uncomfortable/unhealthy friendship dynamics. How can I start liking myself?", "How to enjoy being by yourself I realized that I don't really like being by myself and that has led to a lot of uncomfortable/unhealthy friendship dynamics. How can I start liking myself?", "How to enjoy being by yourself I realized that I don't really like being by myself and that has led to a lot of uncomfortable/unhealthy friendship dynamics. How can I start liking myself?", "How to enjoy being by yourself I realized that I don't really like being by myself and that has led to a lot of uncomfortable/unhealthy friendship dynamics. How can I start liking myself?", "How to enjoy being by yourself I realized that I don't really like being by myself and that has led to a lot of uncomfortable/unhealthy friendship dynamics. How can I start liking myself?", "How to enjoy being by yourself I realized that I don't really like being by myself and that has led to a lot of uncomfortable/unhealthy friendship dynamics. How can I start liking myself?", "How to enjoy being by yourself I realized that I don't really like being by myself and that has led to a lot of uncomfortable/unhealthy friendship dynamics. How can I start liking myself?", "How to enjoy being by yourself I realized that I don't really like being by myself and that has led to a lot of uncomfortable/unhealthy friendship dynamics. How can I start liking myself?" ]

[ "You need to find what gives YOU purpose. You have this one very short life. Move beyond the concept of \"winning\" and move into \"being\" - you don't have to be good at anything to enjoy life. In fact, sometimes sucking at things can be hilarious. \n\nWhat brings YOU joy? What inspires YOU? \n\nStop thinking about everyone else and let yourself be free enough to just find joy, real joy, in the life you have. \n\nEven just the little things - that morning light filtering through the trees, the crunch of leaves on the ground as you walk. \n\nIf being inside is making you depressed and being around people gives you anxiety, get out - way out - and just breathe deeply in the fresh air and find a space where you can enjoy this beautiful planet. \n\nDon't try to be anything for anyone and let yourself find your own personal happiness. \n\nYou cannot give others what you don't have and they cannot give you what you haven't found for yourself. ", "Well, I'm going to speak from a personal standpoint here and give you my honest answer. \n\nI grew up in a Christian family and went to church as a child. When I was a teenager I stopped going to church and stopped thinking about what God says in the Bible because I stopped reading it and also didn't spend much time thinking about God either. \n\nThis went on for a few years up until a point where my life went so askew that I had to ask myself 'what went missing, why do I feel so empty and hollow inside?' \n\nThe loneliness and emptiness really ate my soul and it got unbearable. I thought about these questions for months because I remember being so happy and free as a child and I just couldn't pinpoint what I lost in my life to lose that sense of belonging and sense of purpose that I had when I was a kid. I had meaning and it made me feel 'I'm here and I'm alive'. Life had purpose. I remembered at around the age of 12 I started to pray by myself and I remember the feeling of developing a personal relationship with God. It's hard to describe but it's the same feeling like when you fall in love. That same feeling you get when you know you have someone you can trust and they understand more that anyone else will, but this was on a spiritual level. That place of peace in the centre of your existence, that is sacred ground and the real stuff. I believe it is a seat/throne for my God. I believe he reserved it for himself because he is the creator and we are his creatures.\n\n That's it! It was about 3 years ago when his love dawned on me again and I realised what I was aching for. Many other things have changed in my life since then but I believe he was the catalyst and without him it wouldn't have been possible. My life is still changing and he is guiding me through his scripture and praying and asking him questions and talking with him about my life. The Holy Spirit convicts me and speaks within me. That moment when you wake up before you open your eyes but you're awake? Sometimes I have these really peaceful thoughts and that is the best way to describe what it feels like when the Holy Spirit speaks within me. \n\nThis is my personal experience and I remember the torment I felt before I reconnected with my God, Jesus. I remember the emptiness and how lonely I felt when I spent time alone and whenever I went anywhere near that throne in my centre, that holy place that he reserved in me when he made me. I say this with love because I wouldn't want anyone to go through that and you deserve to know the truth. This is my story and I hope you find peace and purpose like you once had when you were a child. God loves you. ", "You will start to enjoy yourself when you actually do what you like.\n1. Set clear goals for yourself, it doesn't take long. Update this list every time you think of something interesting you want to do. Life is full of things to do, try out more of them, maybe, just maybe, you will find some sort of passion or a feeling you want to chase. In case you have very little needs or wants (like me at first), add some generic ones that others like, maybe you will find something that you have missed so far.\n2. Write ways how to do those things, it's often more simple than people think at first. You may think that there is a lot that won't let you complete those goals, f*** that, that s*** is trivial (excuse my French). If you really want to do something, you will ignore reasons that are stopping you. If you are a guy that overthinks a lot (I know too many that have the same issue), ignore the \"No, that's not the best idea\" voices in your head! You will have an interesting story/lesson later on (which you will share here). You will stop yourself if it gets too serious, have some trust in yourself. Either you accomplish something good or you learn and adapt.\n3. Remember that all people have their insecurities! You shouldn't feel ashamed, ever. If there are people that judge you (quite unlikely, most people think about themselves), just ignore them, they are people you wouldn't want to be with, anyway. Those that will be/are important to you, won't judge you (harshly). Write all your insecurities down on a sheet of paper along with reasons why you shouldn't be afraid of them!\n4. Actually start doing things that you write down:\n1)accomplish your goals. Seize the day!\n2)plan out how to achieve your goals, experiment!\n3)don't be afraid!\n4)go out there and do it!\nBest of luck, you wonderful bastard! Now do eveything that is written here, now, right now! ", "Man I was just like you. Here's some insights that helped me:\n\nFirst and foremost don't ever think any human being (including you) is unacceptable. For example it's alright to look at your mistakes and feel bad. But it is NOT ok to look at a flaw/mistake and think as if you should just kill your self.\n\nYour good enough because everyone else that's just like you is good enough.\n\nFor example, I was fat growing up. I felt unattractive, which is fine and tbh true. I also felt like I wasn't good enough, that If I didn't lose weight my life wouldn't be worth living, like I HAD to lose weight or else. THAT was not ok.\n\nNow imagine someone else (Let's call him Mr.ABC) comforting themselves by saying 'Yeah I don't have a shredded 8 pack, but at least I'm not as fat as u/responsiblebeast ' . (In other words everyone besides u/responsiblebeast shouldn't hate themselves.)\n\nThat's eventually how you WANT to talk about your current self. But just because it's you doesn't mean you can be an asshole to yourself. Your still being an ass, both to yourself and everyone like you.\n\nEverytime you say you aren't good enough because of XYZ, your essentially saying the same thing for everyone else with the same problem. There are millions of people in your exact situation and you should stand up for them by standing up for yourself, instead of shitting on them by shitting on yourself and thinking ' I hope I wake up a better person tomorrow, so I can be like Mr.ABC and shit on all these people to make myself feel better.'\n\nIt's just like the kid in school who doesn't wanna get bullied so instead of fighting for everyone (and thus himself) he bullies that one weird kid to save his ass. Not healthy and not just. We shouldn't have a cut-off point where it's like 'Ok, I shouldnt have been born'. Everyone exists and we all gotta deal with each other (including ourselves). \n\nEveryone is good enough, including you. Stop yearning for the 'better than thou' crutch and enjoy life. \n\nAll your friends can sense that RN you judge yourself, and thus would judge anyone including them. That's kind of threatening. People like to be in unconditional accepting safe spaces. Be good to yourself to be good to others and others will love you.", "Buy a musical instrument and learn to play it. Because you will suck at first, you will not want anyone to hear you play. You will *need* time to yourself, without anyone around, so that you can feel free to make mistakes. Keep practicing anytime you are alone, lonely, or bored. You will love your instrument some days, and you will hate it some days. But keep playing until you feel you are good enough for someone else to hear. By that time, you will be really good at something, feel like you have something to share, and be comfortable being alone. ", "When you become super selfish you don't loce your self. Start donation money,food and you will automatically love yourself when you will hear thanks from all over the place ", "Play GTA Online, you'll quickly learn to love being in a session without having trolls kill you constantly.", "Creating something with your hands is a good start. Try picking up a hobby involving codeing/website design, wood shop, gardening/landscaping, automotive repair, writing, etc. Not only will these skills improve your own self-image, but will also give you interesting things to talk about when around others. Try to cut out an hour or two of social media, TV/Streaming, and video games to make additional time. " ]

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[ "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. ", "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. ", "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. ", "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. ", "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. ", "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. ", "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. ", "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. ", "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. ", "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. ", "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. ", "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. ", "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. ", "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. ", "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. ", "I don't have a heater and I'm wearing the max amount of layers without inhabilitating myself. How do I stop myself from shivering. " ]

[ "exercise! do jumping jacks, run, pushups or anything. that will stimulate body heat. The warmest parts of your body are groin and pits. Warm up cold hands there. If you have access to warm water, warm your hands that way.\n\nAnd why are you freezing to begin with?", "Awhile back I read a trick about using tea light lit in terra cotta pots turned upside down to heat a small area. If it's getting to the point where your skin is starting to numb or hurt, or muscles are getting stiff, preheat your oven for a bit then open it and warm yourself for a few min that way. That's really not a safe option, don't let it open for more than a couple minutes and for the love of god don't put your head near the opening, but in a pinch with no other option it'll help some. Heaters are like 25 bucks at WalMart though...", "Space heaters are affordable, and if you're working you can plug it in under your desk. It's worth it to not live in torture.\n\nDrinking something warm like hot chocolate or tea might also help.", "Exercise big muscles. Like doing jumping jacks, squats, etc\n \nA homeless dude told me that is a good way to stay warm. \n\nGo for a walk. \n \nGo indoors if you have access to a mall, library, subway station, donut shop, etc. ", "", "Take a few minutes to go for a walk. Maybe stand up and do some squats.\n\nAnything to get your heart rate up and blood flowing ", "First, people can survive in the wilderness while wearing clothes that do not inhibit them. What this means is that your clothes are simply not good enough. Wool is a fantastic material that provides a lot of warmth, as well as a lot of synthetic materials as well. (Be careful around flames with synthetic materials). If you don't have better clothes, then focus on layering up your head, your neck, your feet, and your cores. In one post you said you were wearing socks. You should be wearing 3-4 layers of socks. Also, use blankets. Lots and lots of blankets.\n\nSecond, you need fuel for your fire. You need to eat calorie dense foods. Butter, oils (with other foods, oils by themselves will probably give you diarrhea), meats, and to a lesser extent nuts, are all very calorie dense foods. You will feel colder for 20-30 minutes after eating. That is your body taking warmth from the rest of your body to use in your stomach. But after that you should feel much better.\n\nThird, you need to introduce additional heat sources. Turn on all lights. Hopefully you have regular incandescents, which will provide heat. Light a candle. In a small space a single candle can raise the temperature by a surprising amount. Please, please, PLEASE do not rely on combustion to provide heat. Do not use lanterns, stoves, grills, or anything that burns to provide heat in an enclosed space. You **will** die from carbon monoxide poisoning. But feel free to use some candles, those don't put off too much. 2-4 should be fine, a dozen may kill you. It all depends on how well sealed your environment is.", "Nalgene water bottle filled with boiling water. Drop a tea bag in there and screw the top tightly. Place bottle between sweatshirt and jacket and zip up jacket. The bottle will warm you up. When it cools in a few hours, drink the tea, and repeat. \n\nYou can also do this with a mason jar if you have one at home. Just be careful to close it tight and have a layer of clothing between your body and the bottle so you don't burn yourself. ", "Can you wear warmer layers? Thermal fabric, wool? Cashmere is ridiculously warm and light and shows up more often than you would think in thrift stores. \n\nIf you have any rice in the house, fill and old sock with it, tie it shut and nuke it for 2 minutes. Stays beautifully warm for a half hour or so. ", "A thrift store is your friend. Heaters (maybe hard to find now) electric blankets or lap throws. I use a $5 electric lap throw as a 1/2 bed electric blanket. (a 115 lb dog handles the other side! LOL)", "put thick blankets over your windows. i put old rolled up jumpers at the bottom where the curtain meets the edge too, so the curtain doesnt move. drink hot tea before going to bed, i like to wear socks with my leggings tucked in, a scarf etc.", "The best thing to do is take a warm shower. That will warm to the core.\n\nWear a hat even to bed. Most body heat is lost from your noggin.\n\nAlso no cotton on base layer (\"cotton kills\"). Something that won't hold moister. ", "My daughter says that she gets colder when she wears more layers. Of course, she also has a really low core temperature, so this may not be reliable.\n", "I also don't have a heater and have a couple of unavoidable drafts in my bedroom, a heated blanket at Walmart for 20 dollars is a good and cost efficient way to stay warm", "For sleeping, boil 2 liters of water and fill a plastic bottle. Roll it in a small towel and put close to your feet. It'll still be warm the day after. ", ">I'm too cheap to pay for heat and I'm already wearing 6 shirts and 3 pairs of pants. What should I do?\n\nBurrow down into the earth like an animal, the temperature is warmer underground and you'll catch valuable worms and beetles which you can use for food." ]

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[ "Training street smarts I know this sounds a little general, but what are some tips you guys can offer to train street smarts/common sense?\n\nIt can be general advice, or on anything specific, like things like talking your way out of situations, knowing when you're being conned, knowing which situations to stay away from, etc., how to deal with difficult people, etc.?", "Training street smarts I know this sounds a little general, but what are some tips you guys can offer to train street smarts/common sense?\n\nIt can be general advice, or on anything specific, like things like talking your way out of situations, knowing when you're being conned, knowing which situations to stay away from, etc., how to deal with difficult people, etc.?", "Training street smarts I know this sounds a little general, but what are some tips you guys can offer to train street smarts/common sense?\n\nIt can be general advice, or on anything specific, like things like talking your way out of situations, knowing when you're being conned, knowing which situations to stay away from, etc., how to deal with difficult people, etc.?", "Training street smarts I know this sounds a little general, but what are some tips you guys can offer to train street smarts/common sense?\n\nIt can be general advice, or on anything specific, like things like talking your way out of situations, knowing when you're being conned, knowing which situations to stay away from, etc., how to deal with difficult people, etc.?" ]

[ "Make a effort to notice small details. Like the license plate of the car you just passed. What was the make/model/color? Did you just pass someone, what were they wearing?\n\nTraining yourself to notice little details like these without thinking about it generally makes you more aware of your surroundings, which is what street smarts are all about.", "Keep your shit to yourself. It's perfectly acceptable to tell someone when something isn't their business. Don't put your personal problems on social media, and don't ever share info about your finances (whether you are doing well or poorly.)", "Experience. Combined with (one would hope) a developing awareness, both social and situational. You need to work on your awareness, try to learn from experience. Step out of your comfort zone as often as you can. These things develop common sense.", "Make friends with that really hoodass nig in your apartments. Observe how he and the people he sells crack to interact. But just remember, you're broke, out of cigarettes, and uh. Your car isn't working. " ]

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[ " So my class tomorrow is going to be reciting the prologue if romeo and Juliet. Our teacher says we have to incorporate some kind of motion into the words. At this point I know everyone is doing cheesy hand motions like *two house holds both alike in dignity* *holds two fingers up or waves two hands* I want to do something else like body language or less cheesy motions. Help?", " So my class tomorrow is going to be reciting the prologue if romeo and Juliet. Our teacher says we have to incorporate some kind of motion into the words. At this point I know everyone is doing cheesy hand motions like *two house holds both alike in dignity* *holds two fingers up or waves two hands* I want to do something else like body language or less cheesy motions. Help?" ]

[ "Does it necessarily have to be representative of the actual words? Just do whatever feels natural. Maybe you could walk around the room and get in people's faces. Not aggressively, just to really grab their attention, you know? Maybe stand up on a chair for added effect. Just do what feels natural to you. I think your teacher may just be trying to liven things up. Sitting in a chair and reciting Shakespeare is boring as shit.", "So I looked at the Prologue to Romeo and Juliet.\n\nThink of yourself as sometimes addressing the audience, and sometimes actually being a part of what you're describing.\n\nSo what you do is when you start off - be kind of in the middle of the area you're given. When you want to drive a point home, walk closer to the audience and speak in a more confidential tone, and when you're sort of re-enacting events, more walk back and forth horizontally.\n\nYou might even want to start off with you're back to the audience, gesturing to the two sides with you're hands, and then turn around.\n\nIt's less about hand gestures and more about using your entire body as you read - and using distance and space to make a connection with an audience, just as when you're talking to one person you may lean in to make a point." ]

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[ "What could I do on my bus commute? Twice a day, I spend about 20 minutes on the bus. While this may not be a very long time, I feel like I could spend it in some useful way. \n\nStudying (University) would be one idea, but it doesn't work very well on the bus. Additionally, often it's crowded, so looking at my screen isn't always a possibility.\n\nI have considered PodCasts, but it's hard to find one I like. Any ideas where to look for them?\n\nAnd any suggestions what I could do in general?", "What could I do on my bus commute? Twice a day, I spend about 20 minutes on the bus. While this may not be a very long time, I feel like I could spend it in some useful way. \n\nStudying (University) would be one idea, but it doesn't work very well on the bus. Additionally, often it's crowded, so looking at my screen isn't always a possibility.\n\nI have considered PodCasts, but it's hard to find one I like. Any ideas where to look for them?\n\nAnd any suggestions what I could do in general?", "What could I do on my bus commute? Twice a day, I spend about 20 minutes on the bus. While this may not be a very long time, I feel like I could spend it in some useful way. \n\nStudying (University) would be one idea, but it doesn't work very well on the bus. Additionally, often it's crowded, so looking at my screen isn't always a possibility.\n\nI have considered PodCasts, but it's hard to find one I like. Any ideas where to look for them?\n\nAnd any suggestions what I could do in general?", "What could I do on my bus commute? Twice a day, I spend about 20 minutes on the bus. While this may not be a very long time, I feel like I could spend it in some useful way. \n\nStudying (University) would be one idea, but it doesn't work very well on the bus. Additionally, often it's crowded, so looking at my screen isn't always a possibility.\n\nI have considered PodCasts, but it's hard to find one I like. Any ideas where to look for them?\n\nAnd any suggestions what I could do in general?", "What could I do on my bus commute? Twice a day, I spend about 20 minutes on the bus. While this may not be a very long time, I feel like I could spend it in some useful way. \n\nStudying (University) would be one idea, but it doesn't work very well on the bus. Additionally, often it's crowded, so looking at my screen isn't always a possibility.\n\nI have considered PodCasts, but it's hard to find one I like. Any ideas where to look for them?\n\nAnd any suggestions what I could do in general?", "What could I do on my bus commute? Twice a day, I spend about 20 minutes on the bus. While this may not be a very long time, I feel like I could spend it in some useful way. \n\nStudying (University) would be one idea, but it doesn't work very well on the bus. Additionally, often it's crowded, so looking at my screen isn't always a possibility.\n\nI have considered PodCasts, but it's hard to find one I like. Any ideas where to look for them?\n\nAnd any suggestions what I could do in general?" ]

[ "Look out the window at the world around you and use it as time to chill out. You might be the only one not staring into a device", "Reading a book is my favourite thing to do, podcasts, or simply m", "There are a bunch of podcasts on Spotify, and there's an app called Podcast Addict. I like Potterless (the story of a 24/25/26 year-old man reading Harry Potter for the first time) and the History Chicks (two ladies pick a woman from history and talk about her life - not super political or anything, just cool historical ladies).", "Read, bang out to do’s, start a small project, journal, music, get creative and find what you love in life ", "I usually just listen to music and read news articles. I don't like studying on the bus. If you have an office job, you could read and reply to work emails. Reading a book can work for some people. Audiobooks too. Listen to lectures (not for me, but some may like it). \n\n\n\nTake a short nap", "I love 'No such thing as a fish' as a podcast.\n\n Alternatively, pick a thing to count each way. How many people wearing hats, how many with a rucksack etc" ]

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[ "How to make the most of a college visit I’m a junior in high school and I’m starting to look at colleges. I’m worried that when I visit schools, they’ll be super fake and only show the good parts of the school/experience. How do I make sure I’m getting a real idea of the college?", "How to make the most of a college visit I’m a junior in high school and I’m starting to look at colleges. I’m worried that when I visit schools, they’ll be super fake and only show the good parts of the school/experience. How do I make sure I’m getting a real idea of the college?", "How to make the most of a college visit I’m a junior in high school and I’m starting to look at colleges. I’m worried that when I visit schools, they’ll be super fake and only show the good parts of the school/experience. How do I make sure I’m getting a real idea of the college?", "How to make the most of a college visit I’m a junior in high school and I’m starting to look at colleges. I’m worried that when I visit schools, they’ll be super fake and only show the good parts of the school/experience. How do I make sure I’m getting a real idea of the college?", "How to make the most of a college visit I’m a junior in high school and I’m starting to look at colleges. I’m worried that when I visit schools, they’ll be super fake and only show the good parts of the school/experience. How do I make sure I’m getting a real idea of the college?" ]

[ "If you ask current students for their honest opinion of what's the worst part of their school, my experience is that they will usually share it with you. Individual students don't usually have any motive to convince you to come to the school, so they're unlikely to lie. This might be different if you play sports are are being recruited to the school and you're asking someone on the team. Regardless, you won't find out unless you ask.", "When I went to college visits, I ask students what they wished they knew about their college before they attended. Their response may tell you what the school is truly like.\n\nFor instance, one student told me that she wished she knew when to ask for help. That told me how challenging the curriculum may be, and hinted at the types of people that attend that school.", "Try your best to eat at the cafeteria or at least see it. Check out the library. See if there is a fitness facility on campus. Walk the building of the major you are interested in. See if people on campus say hello or not. ", "ya they'll only show you people doing drugs, playing videos games and having sex. classes wont even come up! thats how they lure you", "I would try to specifically explore the area of your intended major. For example, go to the art building or find the engineering dorms. Maybe even try to sneak into a large lecture of a class you would take! That way, you get a genuine feel of the campus, and see more than what's shown on the tour " ]

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[ "How to be taken seriously when applying for positions in cities far from where you currently located. I feel like my current city is suffocating me both socially and professionally, and I'd like to relocate to another region of the U.S. I have heard that hiring managers oftentimes discard applicants applying from outside the region, doubly so for those in a different timezone. I'd love to get some tips from hiring managers on how to demonstrate on my application that I am serious and willing to relocate, with or without resources from the perspective employer. ", "How to be taken seriously when applying for positions in cities far from where you currently located. I feel like my current city is suffocating me both socially and professionally, and I'd like to relocate to another region of the U.S. I have heard that hiring managers oftentimes discard applicants applying from outside the region, doubly so for those in a different timezone. I'd love to get some tips from hiring managers on how to demonstrate on my application that I am serious and willing to relocate, with or without resources from the perspective employer. ", "How to be taken seriously when applying for positions in cities far from where you currently located. I feel like my current city is suffocating me both socially and professionally, and I'd like to relocate to another region of the U.S. I have heard that hiring managers oftentimes discard applicants applying from outside the region, doubly so for those in a different timezone. I'd love to get some tips from hiring managers on how to demonstrate on my application that I am serious and willing to relocate, with or without resources from the perspective employer. " ]

[ "Recruiter here. Your cover letter is a good place to tell the hiring manager that you have ample funds in savings to pay for flights to the on-site interviews, as well as your own relocation costs. Also detail that you have professional and personal contacts and references in that city, if possible; establish that you aren't just plopping down blind.\n\nYou're fighting an uphill battle, either way. When hiring managers are getting 100+ resumes per position, location is often the first \"nope\" on the filter, because it's the easiest. \n\nYou can also take a risk, pick a city that has a lot of jobs in your industry, and just move there. About 90 days before your move date, start applying to jobs and indicate that you will be moving there on that date. You need some benjis saved up to pull this off, but if you're escaping a shitty situation, it might be your best option.\n\nBest of luck!", "I've hired for higher ed jobs (public university), and we were not allowed to differentiate by location or move costs, but I think it usually does play a part in the decision on who to bring in for interviews.\n\nAs others have said, make a case for why you are interested in the area.", "Also, if you don't have a premium job-seeker account on LinkedIn, now would be the time to get one. And flesh that bad boy out, even if you don't have a ton of experience. Recruiters skip right over profiles with little or no content.\n\nSource: I'm scouring LinkedIn right now looking for a senior business analyst with an IT and manufacturing background..." ]

[ 6, 3, 1 ]

[ "How to minimize distractions and work more efficiently I'm having trouble focusing on doing my (school)work, and it's like *really* important. I feel bad because I've been waking up earlier and staying up later to make more room for work time, but I always get distracted. For example, I'm on Reddit right now! I have a site blocker but that's just not good for me, I keep deleting the blacklisted websites.\n\nI tend to be more motivated when I have set rewards/punishments that come with working or not working, but ... I'm not 5. I don't expect someone to give me sweet treats and toys for doing my work. Any suggestions as to how I can stop procrastinating?", "How to minimize distractions and work more efficiently I'm having trouble focusing on doing my (school)work, and it's like *really* important. I feel bad because I've been waking up earlier and staying up later to make more room for work time, but I always get distracted. For example, I'm on Reddit right now! I have a site blocker but that's just not good for me, I keep deleting the blacklisted websites.\n\nI tend to be more motivated when I have set rewards/punishments that come with working or not working, but ... I'm not 5. I don't expect someone to give me sweet treats and toys for doing my work. Any suggestions as to how I can stop procrastinating?", "How to minimize distractions and work more efficiently I'm having trouble focusing on doing my (school)work, and it's like *really* important. I feel bad because I've been waking up earlier and staying up later to make more room for work time, but I always get distracted. For example, I'm on Reddit right now! I have a site blocker but that's just not good for me, I keep deleting the blacklisted websites.\n\nI tend to be more motivated when I have set rewards/punishments that come with working or not working, but ... I'm not 5. I don't expect someone to give me sweet treats and toys for doing my work. Any suggestions as to how I can stop procrastinating?", "How to minimize distractions and work more efficiently I'm having trouble focusing on doing my (school)work, and it's like *really* important. I feel bad because I've been waking up earlier and staying up later to make more room for work time, but I always get distracted. For example, I'm on Reddit right now! I have a site blocker but that's just not good for me, I keep deleting the blacklisted websites.\n\nI tend to be more motivated when I have set rewards/punishments that come with working or not working, but ... I'm not 5. I don't expect someone to give me sweet treats and toys for doing my work. Any suggestions as to how I can stop procrastinating?", "How to minimize distractions and work more efficiently I'm having trouble focusing on doing my (school)work, and it's like *really* important. I feel bad because I've been waking up earlier and staying up later to make more room for work time, but I always get distracted. For example, I'm on Reddit right now! I have a site blocker but that's just not good for me, I keep deleting the blacklisted websites.\n\nI tend to be more motivated when I have set rewards/punishments that come with working or not working, but ... I'm not 5. I don't expect someone to give me sweet treats and toys for doing my work. Any suggestions as to how I can stop procrastinating?", "How to minimize distractions and work more efficiently I'm having trouble focusing on doing my (school)work, and it's like *really* important. I feel bad because I've been waking up earlier and staying up later to make more room for work time, but I always get distracted. For example, I'm on Reddit right now! I have a site blocker but that's just not good for me, I keep deleting the blacklisted websites.\n\nI tend to be more motivated when I have set rewards/punishments that come with working or not working, but ... I'm not 5. I don't expect someone to give me sweet treats and toys for doing my work. Any suggestions as to how I can stop procrastinating?", "How to minimize distractions and work more efficiently I'm having trouble focusing on doing my (school)work, and it's like *really* important. I feel bad because I've been waking up earlier and staying up later to make more room for work time, but I always get distracted. For example, I'm on Reddit right now! I have a site blocker but that's just not good for me, I keep deleting the blacklisted websites.\n\nI tend to be more motivated when I have set rewards/punishments that come with working or not working, but ... I'm not 5. I don't expect someone to give me sweet treats and toys for doing my work. Any suggestions as to how I can stop procrastinating?", "How to minimize distractions and work more efficiently I'm having trouble focusing on doing my (school)work, and it's like *really* important. I feel bad because I've been waking up earlier and staying up later to make more room for work time, but I always get distracted. For example, I'm on Reddit right now! I have a site blocker but that's just not good for me, I keep deleting the blacklisted websites.\n\nI tend to be more motivated when I have set rewards/punishments that come with working or not working, but ... I'm not 5. I don't expect someone to give me sweet treats and toys for doing my work. Any suggestions as to how I can stop procrastinating?" ]

[ "This probably won't work for everyone, but personally: I know I am going to get distracted so I choose a low level distraction to have in the background while I work. For example, I will have old episodes of shows I've seen multiple times already playing on Netflix in the background while I study. It's not new, or complex so there is no need to pay full attention to the distraction, but it's enough to keep me from accidentally falling into a legitimate wormhole of procrastination. \nMost likely, a method for eliminating distractions entirely would be most efficient, but I haven't found one that works for me so controlled reduction has been working alright.", "Scheduling specific times and using a timer helps when I can get myself to use them. It gives me a specific time and thing to start, and puts a limit on it so it not overwhelming. I don't have to finish it, I just have to work on it for 2 hrs, then do something easier for a bit, and come back to it at another specified time.", "Haha came here for the exact same reasons. I think one of the reasons is that we get tired. Our minds simply don't work that way we have periods of concentration and periods of no so concentration. I have made improvements I use to procrastinate for days at a time with gaming but since then I have eliminated gaming as a source of distraction and now I'm whittling down the list of distractions.", "What I do at work is put a podcast on with one headphone in my ear and the other out. It's enough of a distraction that I dont' focus on other things and it's in the background enough that my work is not hindered. Works for both studying as well as in the workplace (I work in a job where I don't need to interact with people). ", "I would suggest breaking up the work load. Do not plan to finish a big project all at once but prepare to work on it a couple days. If you plan out what you need to get done you will be able to focus better because you are working shorter durations and this will increase your productivity. ", "I took a class on coursera called learning how to learn. (You can do it for free) In the class they talk about procrastination and how to beat it. The pomodoro technique was highlighted along with some others. My husband is finishing his degree and is using some of the methods I learned about and it is helping. He was able to figure out some difficult problems because he broke up his study sessions into manageable bites. ", "I can never get any work done at a computer\n\n...Unless I have music playing. Once I have music playing, I get into the zone. I will procrastinate and never do anything unless I have music\n\n(Like now, I don't have music, Im procrastinating on reddit, and I have an assignment due in a couple of days, A job interview in a couple of days too, and I don't have a resume made up)", "Go to a pubic library. Walking somewhere else kind of primes your mind for doing work. And the social pressure to not be seen wasting time on reddit or whatever might stop you doing it." ]

[ 8, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Bank requires me to do 5 eligible purchases a month with my debit card as a part of a deal, what’s the easiest and cheapest way to do so? ", "Bank requires me to do 5 eligible purchases a month with my debit card as a part of a deal, what’s the easiest and cheapest way to do so? ", "Bank requires me to do 5 eligible purchases a month with my debit card as a part of a deal, what’s the easiest and cheapest way to do so? ", "Bank requires me to do 5 eligible purchases a month with my debit card as a part of a deal, what’s the easiest and cheapest way to do so? ", "Bank requires me to do 5 eligible purchases a month with my debit card as a part of a deal, what’s the easiest and cheapest way to do so? ", "Bank requires me to do 5 eligible purchases a month with my debit card as a part of a deal, what’s the easiest and cheapest way to do so? ", "Bank requires me to do 5 eligible purchases a month with my debit card as a part of a deal, what’s the easiest and cheapest way to do so? " ]

[ "What is their definition of \"eligible\" purchases? Does autopay on subscription services count? Is there a minimum dollar amount - could you buy a drink at a convenience store? Use it to buy weekly groceries. Honestly, I use my debit card for everything, I would have no trouble hitting five transactions in a month. The cheapest way is to use it for something you were already going to purchase with cash from that same account.", "For the deal I have I just have some direct debits set up on the account. But depends what the consider eligible.", "Well do you drive, ride a bus, do you buy coffee just use it for what you normally would use cash for. Beside what bank does this?", "50 cent Amazon gift card reloads. Some people have many of these high interest accounts and write programs to automate this process fully.", "Fuel purchases work for us, or groceries, or even monthly subscriptions. Anything you would normally purchase if it qualifies would be best", "Call your bank and ask what the eligibility terms are because we can't help you without that info. If it was any purchase get gas station gum or dollar store items.", "They're just trying to cover their costs for providing the services they provide through their checking and savings accounts. \n\nWith the various benefits of rewards cr" ]

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[ "Robber breaks into your door. You sleep in that exact room so he's already in your room, you're in bed, now what? Fake being asleep? Say something? What do you say or do? There's a door in my bedroom that leads to outside. Someone could pick that lock. Or break in through a window. Then he'd be in my bedroom, and I'd be sort of sleepy in that bed\n\nAnything else you can do to prevent this?\n\nAssuming you really don't want to fight, I mean if he has a knife or w/e I don't think its ever worth getting any kind of injury ", "Robber breaks into your door. You sleep in that exact room so he's already in your room, you're in bed, now what? Fake being asleep? Say something? What do you say or do? There's a door in my bedroom that leads to outside. Someone could pick that lock. Or break in through a window. Then he'd be in my bedroom, and I'd be sort of sleepy in that bed\n\nAnything else you can do to prevent this?\n\nAssuming you really don't want to fight, I mean if he has a knife or w/e I don't think its ever worth getting any kind of injury ", "Robber breaks into your door. You sleep in that exact room so he's already in your room, you're in bed, now what? Fake being asleep? Say something? What do you say or do? There's a door in my bedroom that leads to outside. Someone could pick that lock. Or break in through a window. Then he'd be in my bedroom, and I'd be sort of sleepy in that bed\n\nAnything else you can do to prevent this?\n\nAssuming you really don't want to fight, I mean if he has a knife or w/e I don't think its ever worth getting any kind of injury ", "Robber breaks into your door. You sleep in that exact room so he's already in your room, you're in bed, now what? Fake being asleep? Say something? What do you say or do? There's a door in my bedroom that leads to outside. Someone could pick that lock. Or break in through a window. Then he'd be in my bedroom, and I'd be sort of sleepy in that bed\n\nAnything else you can do to prevent this?\n\nAssuming you really don't want to fight, I mean if he has a knife or w/e I don't think its ever worth getting any kind of injury ", "Robber breaks into your door. You sleep in that exact room so he's already in your room, you're in bed, now what? Fake being asleep? Say something? What do you say or do? There's a door in my bedroom that leads to outside. Someone could pick that lock. Or break in through a window. Then he'd be in my bedroom, and I'd be sort of sleepy in that bed\n\nAnything else you can do to prevent this?\n\nAssuming you really don't want to fight, I mean if he has a knife or w/e I don't think its ever worth getting any kind of injury ", "Robber breaks into your door. You sleep in that exact room so he's already in your room, you're in bed, now what? Fake being asleep? Say something? What do you say or do? There's a door in my bedroom that leads to outside. Someone could pick that lock. Or break in through a window. Then he'd be in my bedroom, and I'd be sort of sleepy in that bed\n\nAnything else you can do to prevent this?\n\nAssuming you really don't want to fight, I mean if he has a knife or w/e I don't think its ever worth getting any kind of injury ", "Robber breaks into your door. You sleep in that exact room so he's already in your room, you're in bed, now what? Fake being asleep? Say something? What do you say or do? There's a door in my bedroom that leads to outside. Someone could pick that lock. Or break in through a window. Then he'd be in my bedroom, and I'd be sort of sleepy in that bed\n\nAnything else you can do to prevent this?\n\nAssuming you really don't want to fight, I mean if he has a knife or w/e I don't think its ever worth getting any kind of injury ", "Robber breaks into your door. You sleep in that exact room so he's already in your room, you're in bed, now what? Fake being asleep? Say something? What do you say or do? There's a door in my bedroom that leads to outside. Someone could pick that lock. Or break in through a window. Then he'd be in my bedroom, and I'd be sort of sleepy in that bed\n\nAnything else you can do to prevent this?\n\nAssuming you really don't want to fight, I mean if he has a knife or w/e I don't think its ever worth getting any kind of injury " ]

[ "Have a weapon on hand? If guns aren’t our thing Dicks usually has a sale on bats. I use a knife since I like slicing a piece a cheese in the middle of the night as a snack", "You can always upgrade your deadbolt or add another lock. I doubt anyone would come in through a broken window but at least you'll be woken up and alert if that happens. I'd go with the classic baseball bat or shovel", "In almost all circumstances a burglar will leave when you make yourself known. They want easy pickings, not a fight. Just tell them the police are on their way.", "Big metal flashlight. Sturdy, heavy, can use to blind. Also, make lots of noise. If you’re so worried. Get a dog too", "If you are really worried talk to the people who live nearby and get a second opinion, then get a lock that is only visible from your side of the door like a sliding bolt. If you really want to escalate a robbery to a violent fight to the death - purchase a weapon and practice to use that weapon regularly until you’re confident that you will probably win. You haven’t said where you are located. Have a look at crime maps of the area online and try and get a realistic picture.", "I have a hatchet beside my bed. I used to have a baseball bat, I am worried I wouldn’t get a decent swing in a hallway though.", "Alexa... let's boog.....ok... ... redlights.. fortunate son.. steelshuttersoutside shut trapping robber with you. \n\nAs you site up exorcist style and just start laughing.. slowly turning your head toward the robber. \n\n'Now let's you and I play\n\nAlso have mag mount firearm on side of bed thst your hands been on entire time so you can draw and fire at will.", "Put up a sign telling any intruders you will not stop or attack them and they can take whatever they want as long as they leave you. \n\nOr get better locks. \n\n\nOr move to a safer place." ]

[ 7, 5, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to get rid of a blocked nose! I've had a blocked nose for two days now and blowing it only unblocks it for a few seconds until it returns back to being blocked! Anyone know how to get rid of it? Thanks!", "How to get rid of a blocked nose! I've had a blocked nose for two days now and blowing it only unblocks it for a few seconds until it returns back to being blocked! Anyone know how to get rid of it? Thanks!", "How to get rid of a blocked nose! I've had a blocked nose for two days now and blowing it only unblocks it for a few seconds until it returns back to being blocked! Anyone know how to get rid of it? Thanks!", "How to get rid of a blocked nose! I've had a blocked nose for two days now and blowing it only unblocks it for a few seconds until it returns back to being blocked! Anyone know how to get rid of it? Thanks!", "How to get rid of a blocked nose! I've had a blocked nose for two days now and blowing it only unblocks it for a few seconds until it returns back to being blocked! Anyone know how to get rid of it? Thanks!", "How to get rid of a blocked nose! I've had a blocked nose for two days now and blowing it only unblocks it for a few seconds until it returns back to being blocked! Anyone know how to get rid of it? Thanks!", "How to get rid of a blocked nose! I've had a blocked nose for two days now and blowing it only unblocks it for a few seconds until it returns back to being blocked! Anyone know how to get rid of it? Thanks!", "How to get rid of a blocked nose! I've had a blocked nose for two days now and blowing it only unblocks it for a few seconds until it returns back to being blocked! Anyone know how to get rid of it? Thanks!", "How to get rid of a blocked nose! I've had a blocked nose for two days now and blowing it only unblocks it for a few seconds until it returns back to being blocked! Anyone know how to get rid of it? Thanks!" ]

[ "Try a Neti Pot. You can also put a small dab of Vicks Vapor Rub under your nose. Lastly, make some black tea with honey, lemon juice, and throw a mint in there. I too have a blocked nose.", "alternate pressing gently between your eyebrows and on the roof of your mouth. it will rock a nasal bone back and forth allowing your sinuses to drain.", "take some pseudophedrine...or go to an ENT doctor and get some antibiotics for a sinus infection. the nasal rinse things are handy as well...especially if you typically get stopped up after mowing the yard or something like that. It helps get the stuff out of your sinuses so it doesn't build up and get infected.", "Washing up bowl full of hot water, drop some tea-tree oil or other substance like that, put your head into the bowl, with a towel covering it and just breathe the steam, it'll clear up your congestions in a jiffy!", "[Follow this!](http://www.livestrong.com/article/29937-rid-stuffedup-nose/) Honestly, doing some of these has really helped me out in the past.", "Sudafed is a decent decongestant. A home remedy I use is to make a small cup of salt water. gargle a bit of it, then pour a little in your hand and pull it into your nose. This is hurt like shit, but your sinuses will be clear for a few hours. combine it with Sudafed and you'll be stuffy free all day.", "Physical activity works awesome, honestly do 1 lap around your local neighbourhood and your nose opens up. Though this is temporary =\\", "Neti pots only work if you don't have mucus in your nose. If you use one while stuffy you can make it worse. Just keep blowing for now, try to take anticongestion medicine. Once you're a little less stuffy (can breathe, but maybe not great) use a neti pot. ", "Mint or mint derivatives, breathing cold air, sudafed, or my personal preference for prescription meds, Flonase. Also, a really good orgasm can do the trick for mild congestion, but all of these presume that we're talking congestion and not an infection. " ]

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[ "How to know what info found on Google is credible? So im searching \"Is 6 hours of sleep enough\" the following top links are:\n\n1. Forget eight hours of sleep a night we only actually need SIX\n2. Why Six Hours Of Sleep Is As Bad As None At All \n3. Sorry, You Probably Can't Sleep Just 6 Hours A Night\n4. Six hours' sleep a night is enough, say scientists \n5. Getting Six Hours of Sleep Can Be Just as Bad as Not Sleeping at All\n\nAnd as you can see they seem to contradict each other alot. Any tips for finding the most credible source? \n", "How to know what info found on Google is credible? So im searching \"Is 6 hours of sleep enough\" the following top links are:\n\n1. Forget eight hours of sleep a night we only actually need SIX\n2. Why Six Hours Of Sleep Is As Bad As None At All \n3. Sorry, You Probably Can't Sleep Just 6 Hours A Night\n4. Six hours' sleep a night is enough, say scientists \n5. Getting Six Hours of Sleep Can Be Just as Bad as Not Sleeping at All\n\nAnd as you can see they seem to contradict each other alot. Any tips for finding the most credible source? \n", "How to know what info found on Google is credible? So im searching \"Is 6 hours of sleep enough\" the following top links are:\n\n1. Forget eight hours of sleep a night we only actually need SIX\n2. Why Six Hours Of Sleep Is As Bad As None At All \n3. Sorry, You Probably Can't Sleep Just 6 Hours A Night\n4. Six hours' sleep a night is enough, say scientists \n5. Getting Six Hours of Sleep Can Be Just as Bad as Not Sleeping at All\n\nAnd as you can see they seem to contradict each other alot. Any tips for finding the most credible source? \n" ]

[ "**TL;DR**: Don't look at GOOGLE as the authority. Look at the sites it links to individually, and THEN add them up.\n\n* Famous site known for its general high quality of accuracy? Check the plus column.\n\n* Has \"buzz\" or \"trending\" or \"celebs\" anywhere in the name or narrative? Check the negative column.\n\n* Been around for a hundred years as a known institution of knowledge? Check the positive.\n\n* Radically political and created around a theme two weeks ago? Negative.\n\n* Appears professional with jargon that is *not* absolutely clear and *not* limited to a maximum of seven-letter-words, and is not dominated by ads? Positive.\n\n* Has alarming phrases that just don't make common sense like \"vaccines are evil\" or \"chemtrail evidence\" or contains top ten lists of completely arbitrary stuff that anyone can have an opinion on? BIG negative.\n\nThe big suggestion is to look at each site individually for signs that they're legitimate, professional, and proven, paying careful attention to the ads that they display to see if they have any sort of reputation to protect (<--", "try google scholar. For the actual question though, you're getting all kinds of different results because how much sleep you need really just depends on the person. ", "Know what you're talking about before you research it. Of you know and understand the scientific process, how health claims are evaluated, understand bell-curve distribution of most humans, and know the complexities of how sleep works and how it interacts with things like stress levels, diet, activity level, and underlying medical conditions, then you'll know that that question has no answer and any website claiming to have one is full of shit.\n\nSo many people try to convince themselves that they don't need education, they can just Google it. The reality is you need the education to understand the Google results, and what question to ask. There is no substitute for evaluating Google searches for just having foreknowledge." ]

[ 10, 3, 1 ]

[ "If someone comes to my neighborhood asking where a neighbor lives, should I tell he/she? Of course, I mean an unknown person and someone I've never seen. That person may have good/bad intentions. Should I tell he/she?", "If someone comes to my neighborhood asking where a neighbor lives, should I tell he/she? Of course, I mean an unknown person and someone I've never seen. That person may have good/bad intentions. Should I tell he/she?", "If someone comes to my neighborhood asking where a neighbor lives, should I tell he/she? Of course, I mean an unknown person and someone I've never seen. That person may have good/bad intentions. Should I tell he/she?" ]

[ "If they ask where a house is, yes. Some places don't have numbers visible from the street. Cops and ambulances may know which one is which, depending on the neighborhood.\n\n\nIf they ask for a particular person, **no**.\n", "Lets use the lawn mower to find the answer.\n\nNanananananaa....NNNNAAAAANNAAANANANAAAAaaaaaaaaa....\n\nNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!\n", "\nIt's better to get their contact info and let your neighbor get in touch. \n\nIn my office my boss has a stalker but I didn't know much about him when i first started. When I get a call I would always say \"I'm not sure where they are/ she stepped out. Can I have your name and contact so I can get back to you?\". He would never leave the number or any info. When I brought it up to my boss she knew immediately who it was and now I know never to five him any info.\n" ]

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[ "How to avoid shrinkage from laundry Hey guys, so I'm trying to figure out a way to wash my clothes and avoid having to take my clothes to the dry cleaners to save money and time. Does anyone know if mesh laundry bags are a good option for clothes that have a higher chance of shrinking, and then air drying them after? I would hand wash, but thats gets tiring and annoying.. .", "How to avoid shrinkage from laundry Hey guys, so I'm trying to figure out a way to wash my clothes and avoid having to take my clothes to the dry cleaners to save money and time. Does anyone know if mesh laundry bags are a good option for clothes that have a higher chance of shrinking, and then air drying them after? I would hand wash, but thats gets tiring and annoying.. .", "How to avoid shrinkage from laundry Hey guys, so I'm trying to figure out a way to wash my clothes and avoid having to take my clothes to the dry cleaners to save money and time. Does anyone know if mesh laundry bags are a good option for clothes that have a higher chance of shrinking, and then air drying them after? I would hand wash, but thats gets tiring and annoying.. .", "How to avoid shrinkage from laundry Hey guys, so I'm trying to figure out a way to wash my clothes and avoid having to take my clothes to the dry cleaners to save money and time. Does anyone know if mesh laundry bags are a good option for clothes that have a higher chance of shrinking, and then air drying them after? I would hand wash, but thats gets tiring and annoying.. .", "How to avoid shrinkage from laundry Hey guys, so I'm trying to figure out a way to wash my clothes and avoid having to take my clothes to the dry cleaners to save money and time. Does anyone know if mesh laundry bags are a good option for clothes that have a higher chance of shrinking, and then air drying them after? I would hand wash, but thats gets tiring and annoying.. ." ]

[ "To avoid shrinkage for things like shirts and pants, air drying on a rack or hanger is the only way. It will also help preserve the life of the clothing material. I generally only use the dryer for things that I know won’t shrink or are durable-socks, sheets, underwear.", "If you follow the laundry instructions on the label, e.g. the recommended temperature and if it has any special requirements such as being on a delicates wash - then your clothes will never shrink", "I have never had anything shrink from washing,only from using the tumble dryer.I don’t use the tumble drier for any clothes except underwear and socks which seem to be fine.", "Follow the directions on the label in your clothing. \nUsually too much heat during drying is attributed to shrinking, so the “normal” setting on yours might be too hot?\nAir drying is the least damaging for the clothes but you’ll need to use a fabric softener in the wash.\nOh, if it says “dry clean only” then that’s what I do with my stuff. Mostly I try not to buy clothes with that label.", "Cold wash, only tumble for a few secondz to help with wrinkles, hang to dry - I've never taken clothes to all the way dry in the dryer, and I don't have any shrinkage issues" ]

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[ "How to study math/computer science and languages more effectively? Hello guys. I'm a math major and computer science minor that likes to learn languages as a personal challenge and hobby. Currenty I am trying to learn English, French and Vietnamese at the same time. While I consider my English to be pretty okay, I know some basics in French (grammar) and Vietnamese (conversation) but still need to learn a lot of vocabularies.\n\nMy problem is that I was not able to manage to learn everything at the same time effectively. By that, I mean I always have the feeling that I could have accomplished more. Most times I got stuck with problems in math/cs for too long and do not have enough time to learn the languages and even less free time. Another issue is that I feel totally exhausted at the end of the day. It is especially depressing when I am not able to make any progress which happens quite a lot when thinking about math/cs problems.\n\nDo you have any specific advice for me to improve my learning? Maybe some better time management? My therapist once told me that I should learn different topics in different time intervals, so the usage of the hemisphere is balanced. The thing is that learning languages and learning math/cs are both based on structures and rules. But maybe that kind of advice is something I am looking for.\n\nThank you in advance.", "How to study math/computer science and languages more effectively? Hello guys. I'm a math major and computer science minor that likes to learn languages as a personal challenge and hobby. Currenty I am trying to learn English, French and Vietnamese at the same time. While I consider my English to be pretty okay, I know some basics in French (grammar) and Vietnamese (conversation) but still need to learn a lot of vocabularies.\n\nMy problem is that I was not able to manage to learn everything at the same time effectively. By that, I mean I always have the feeling that I could have accomplished more. Most times I got stuck with problems in math/cs for too long and do not have enough time to learn the languages and even less free time. Another issue is that I feel totally exhausted at the end of the day. It is especially depressing when I am not able to make any progress which happens quite a lot when thinking about math/cs problems.\n\nDo you have any specific advice for me to improve my learning? Maybe some better time management? My therapist once told me that I should learn different topics in different time intervals, so the usage of the hemisphere is balanced. The thing is that learning languages and learning math/cs are both based on structures and rules. But maybe that kind of advice is something I am looking for.\n\nThank you in advance.", "How to study math/computer science and languages more effectively? Hello guys. I'm a math major and computer science minor that likes to learn languages as a personal challenge and hobby. Currenty I am trying to learn English, French and Vietnamese at the same time. While I consider my English to be pretty okay, I know some basics in French (grammar) and Vietnamese (conversation) but still need to learn a lot of vocabularies.\n\nMy problem is that I was not able to manage to learn everything at the same time effectively. By that, I mean I always have the feeling that I could have accomplished more. Most times I got stuck with problems in math/cs for too long and do not have enough time to learn the languages and even less free time. Another issue is that I feel totally exhausted at the end of the day. It is especially depressing when I am not able to make any progress which happens quite a lot when thinking about math/cs problems.\n\nDo you have any specific advice for me to improve my learning? Maybe some better time management? My therapist once told me that I should learn different topics in different time intervals, so the usage of the hemisphere is balanced. The thing is that learning languages and learning math/cs are both based on structures and rules. But maybe that kind of advice is something I am looking for.\n\nThank you in advance.", "How to study math/computer science and languages more effectively? Hello guys. I'm a math major and computer science minor that likes to learn languages as a personal challenge and hobby. Currenty I am trying to learn English, French and Vietnamese at the same time. While I consider my English to be pretty okay, I know some basics in French (grammar) and Vietnamese (conversation) but still need to learn a lot of vocabularies.\n\nMy problem is that I was not able to manage to learn everything at the same time effectively. By that, I mean I always have the feeling that I could have accomplished more. Most times I got stuck with problems in math/cs for too long and do not have enough time to learn the languages and even less free time. Another issue is that I feel totally exhausted at the end of the day. It is especially depressing when I am not able to make any progress which happens quite a lot when thinking about math/cs problems.\n\nDo you have any specific advice for me to improve my learning? Maybe some better time management? My therapist once told me that I should learn different topics in different time intervals, so the usage of the hemisphere is balanced. The thing is that learning languages and learning math/cs are both based on structures and rules. But maybe that kind of advice is something I am looking for.\n\nThank you in advance.", "How to study math/computer science and languages more effectively? Hello guys. I'm a math major and computer science minor that likes to learn languages as a personal challenge and hobby. Currenty I am trying to learn English, French and Vietnamese at the same time. While I consider my English to be pretty okay, I know some basics in French (grammar) and Vietnamese (conversation) but still need to learn a lot of vocabularies.\n\nMy problem is that I was not able to manage to learn everything at the same time effectively. By that, I mean I always have the feeling that I could have accomplished more. Most times I got stuck with problems in math/cs for too long and do not have enough time to learn the languages and even less free time. Another issue is that I feel totally exhausted at the end of the day. It is especially depressing when I am not able to make any progress which happens quite a lot when thinking about math/cs problems.\n\nDo you have any specific advice for me to improve my learning? Maybe some better time management? My therapist once told me that I should learn different topics in different time intervals, so the usage of the hemisphere is balanced. The thing is that learning languages and learning math/cs are both based on structures and rules. But maybe that kind of advice is something I am looking for.\n\nThank you in advance.", "How to study math/computer science and languages more effectively? Hello guys. I'm a math major and computer science minor that likes to learn languages as a personal challenge and hobby. Currenty I am trying to learn English, French and Vietnamese at the same time. While I consider my English to be pretty okay, I know some basics in French (grammar) and Vietnamese (conversation) but still need to learn a lot of vocabularies.\n\nMy problem is that I was not able to manage to learn everything at the same time effectively. By that, I mean I always have the feeling that I could have accomplished more. Most times I got stuck with problems in math/cs for too long and do not have enough time to learn the languages and even less free time. Another issue is that I feel totally exhausted at the end of the day. It is especially depressing when I am not able to make any progress which happens quite a lot when thinking about math/cs problems.\n\nDo you have any specific advice for me to improve my learning? Maybe some better time management? My therapist once told me that I should learn different topics in different time intervals, so the usage of the hemisphere is balanced. The thing is that learning languages and learning math/cs are both based on structures and rules. But maybe that kind of advice is something I am looking for.\n\nThank you in advance.", "How to study math/computer science and languages more effectively? Hello guys. I'm a math major and computer science minor that likes to learn languages as a personal challenge and hobby. Currenty I am trying to learn English, French and Vietnamese at the same time. While I consider my English to be pretty okay, I know some basics in French (grammar) and Vietnamese (conversation) but still need to learn a lot of vocabularies.\n\nMy problem is that I was not able to manage to learn everything at the same time effectively. By that, I mean I always have the feeling that I could have accomplished more. Most times I got stuck with problems in math/cs for too long and do not have enough time to learn the languages and even less free time. Another issue is that I feel totally exhausted at the end of the day. It is especially depressing when I am not able to make any progress which happens quite a lot when thinking about math/cs problems.\n\nDo you have any specific advice for me to improve my learning? Maybe some better time management? My therapist once told me that I should learn different topics in different time intervals, so the usage of the hemisphere is balanced. The thing is that learning languages and learning math/cs are both based on structures and rules. But maybe that kind of advice is something I am looking for.\n\nThank you in advance.", "How to study math/computer science and languages more effectively? Hello guys. I'm a math major and computer science minor that likes to learn languages as a personal challenge and hobby. Currenty I am trying to learn English, French and Vietnamese at the same time. While I consider my English to be pretty okay, I know some basics in French (grammar) and Vietnamese (conversation) but still need to learn a lot of vocabularies.\n\nMy problem is that I was not able to manage to learn everything at the same time effectively. By that, I mean I always have the feeling that I could have accomplished more. Most times I got stuck with problems in math/cs for too long and do not have enough time to learn the languages and even less free time. Another issue is that I feel totally exhausted at the end of the day. It is especially depressing when I am not able to make any progress which happens quite a lot when thinking about math/cs problems.\n\nDo you have any specific advice for me to improve my learning? Maybe some better time management? My therapist once told me that I should learn different topics in different time intervals, so the usage of the hemisphere is balanced. The thing is that learning languages and learning math/cs are both based on structures and rules. But maybe that kind of advice is something I am looking for.\n\nThank you in advance.", "How to study math/computer science and languages more effectively? Hello guys. I'm a math major and computer science minor that likes to learn languages as a personal challenge and hobby. Currenty I am trying to learn English, French and Vietnamese at the same time. While I consider my English to be pretty okay, I know some basics in French (grammar) and Vietnamese (conversation) but still need to learn a lot of vocabularies.\n\nMy problem is that I was not able to manage to learn everything at the same time effectively. By that, I mean I always have the feeling that I could have accomplished more. Most times I got stuck with problems in math/cs for too long and do not have enough time to learn the languages and even less free time. Another issue is that I feel totally exhausted at the end of the day. It is especially depressing when I am not able to make any progress which happens quite a lot when thinking about math/cs problems.\n\nDo you have any specific advice for me to improve my learning? Maybe some better time management? My therapist once told me that I should learn different topics in different time intervals, so the usage of the hemisphere is balanced. The thing is that learning languages and learning math/cs are both based on structures and rules. But maybe that kind of advice is something I am looking for.\n\nThank you in advance.", "How to study math/computer science and languages more effectively? Hello guys. I'm a math major and computer science minor that likes to learn languages as a personal challenge and hobby. Currenty I am trying to learn English, French and Vietnamese at the same time. While I consider my English to be pretty okay, I know some basics in French (grammar) and Vietnamese (conversation) but still need to learn a lot of vocabularies.\n\nMy problem is that I was not able to manage to learn everything at the same time effectively. By that, I mean I always have the feeling that I could have accomplished more. Most times I got stuck with problems in math/cs for too long and do not have enough time to learn the languages and even less free time. Another issue is that I feel totally exhausted at the end of the day. It is especially depressing when I am not able to make any progress which happens quite a lot when thinking about math/cs problems.\n\nDo you have any specific advice for me to improve my learning? Maybe some better time management? My therapist once told me that I should learn different topics in different time intervals, so the usage of the hemisphere is balanced. The thing is that learning languages and learning math/cs are both based on structures and rules. But maybe that kind of advice is something I am looking for.\n\nThank you in advance.", "How to study math/computer science and languages more effectively? Hello guys. I'm a math major and computer science minor that likes to learn languages as a personal challenge and hobby. Currenty I am trying to learn English, French and Vietnamese at the same time. While I consider my English to be pretty okay, I know some basics in French (grammar) and Vietnamese (conversation) but still need to learn a lot of vocabularies.\n\nMy problem is that I was not able to manage to learn everything at the same time effectively. By that, I mean I always have the feeling that I could have accomplished more. Most times I got stuck with problems in math/cs for too long and do not have enough time to learn the languages and even less free time. Another issue is that I feel totally exhausted at the end of the day. It is especially depressing when I am not able to make any progress which happens quite a lot when thinking about math/cs problems.\n\nDo you have any specific advice for me to improve my learning? Maybe some better time management? My therapist once told me that I should learn different topics in different time intervals, so the usage of the hemisphere is balanced. The thing is that learning languages and learning math/cs are both based on structures and rules. But maybe that kind of advice is something I am looking for.\n\nThank you in advance.", "How to study math/computer science and languages more effectively? Hello guys. I'm a math major and computer science minor that likes to learn languages as a personal challenge and hobby. Currenty I am trying to learn English, French and Vietnamese at the same time. While I consider my English to be pretty okay, I know some basics in French (grammar) and Vietnamese (conversation) but still need to learn a lot of vocabularies.\n\nMy problem is that I was not able to manage to learn everything at the same time effectively. By that, I mean I always have the feeling that I could have accomplished more. Most times I got stuck with problems in math/cs for too long and do not have enough time to learn the languages and even less free time. Another issue is that I feel totally exhausted at the end of the day. It is especially depressing when I am not able to make any progress which happens quite a lot when thinking about math/cs problems.\n\nDo you have any specific advice for me to improve my learning? Maybe some better time management? My therapist once told me that I should learn different topics in different time intervals, so the usage of the hemisphere is balanced. The thing is that learning languages and learning math/cs are both based on structures and rules. But maybe that kind of advice is something I am looking for.\n\nThank you in advance." ]

[ "yeah, dial it down a bit. it sounds like you're stressing yourself, it hurts your ability to retain information over time.", "For computer languages, what works for me is to get a highly rated book on amazon.com and work through the examples typing everything. Having multiple monitors and reading the book on one is nice.", "Master one language at a time, learning a new language becomes way easier once you master 2 languages.", "Maybe try to learn the same words/categories in all 3 languages together? This may help you remember each as noting the similarities and differences will reinforce your understanding. ", "you're doing too much. I used to try to pack my schedule too, but I ended up just being mediocre at everything. Drop a language or two for now and come back to it once you're happy with your english (or whichever language you want to learn first). You'll learn everything much much MUCH better and you'll retain it for far longer.\n\nDon't feel like you always have to be \"on\".", "Take breaks, and dial it down. Without rest time - active rest, doing something very different - your memory won't let stuff sink in.\n\nIf you want a book recommendation in that direction? Tom DeMarco wrote \"Slack: Getting Past Burnout, Busywork, and the Myth of Total Efficiency\".", "I know Vietnamese (fluently) and English (to an extent), and what I can say is if u want to learn a second language, try to learn basic grammar and practice with some exercise first. Then head for vocabulary, which I mean lots of new words 'cause that's is your ultimate goal of acquiring fluency in any language. And lastly, learn it with passion rather than considering it a burden, it'll get into your head much more easily.", "Hello. I might be late, but: I learned vocabulary and rules way easier by reading books (comics or online magazines or anything really will work) in the said language. Just try not to pick something too hard to read (like Shakespeare) at first. Try some modern literature on a topic you enjoy. Another way to learn in a fun way is to watch tv shows or movies in said language with captions in the same language or without captions altogether. Also, you can look for music in said language with the lyrics. I know it helped me. \nHope this is going to help you and that I'm not too late", "As what everybody on here has said you are overloading yourself, take a break and relax. Set some time aside for specific subjects and concentrate on them solely for the day. In my math courses I would set a lag study schedule, where I would study 1 or 2 subjects that I had a class for the day prior. This will allow your brain to digest the subject material as well as test your memory. It also helps during those \"intense\" learning days. Your brain will need time to relax in order to process the information, and I have found that studying while fresh in your mind will sometimes exacerbate the problem. \n \nDon't get me wrong I did find myself burnt out some days when finishing my Math degree but knowing when to back off is what will keep you from having a mental breakdown. \n \nKeep it up, your goal is only a couple steps away! \n\n", "Personally I find it impossible to learn several languages at the same time. I learned French and Italian in school (in addition to English of course), and kept mixing them. Now I'm learning Dutch, but whenever I try to think of something in Italian, the first words that come to mind are in Dutch. Maybe because that's the freshest new language and my brain goes mkay, new language..must be Dutch!\n\nBut then again I'm not good at languages. Not really interested in them either :)", "Hi! I am basically in your situation though I haven't yet graduated highschool but I am stuck learning english, french, vietnamese, romanian and things related to computer science ( languages, scripting, linux etc). What i found to be most effective is schedule your time and focus only on 2-3 things a day. Take a lot of 10 min breaks between and stick to the schedule like a mad man. If you can't even follow a schedule you yourself made, you'll have the brains to realise how bad it is and you'll push yourself. Also don't stress over computer languages. You shouldn't learn them like a robot, you should understand them and practice otherwise everything will seem boring. The same with languages. Learn a song along the way to make this exciting. Good luck!", "Glycine can noticeable improve your ability to learn and memorize, but do not use this drug unless it is absolutely necessary.\n\nAnd even if you do — consult with your medical doctor first." ]

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[ "Interview advice infographic A while ago, I saw an infographic outlining fantastic advice for interviews. I have one coming up that I am a big nervous for and want all the advice I can get. Anyone have that infographic for me? (Or any other LPT interview advice?). Thanks a bunch, and wish me luck!", "Interview advice infographic A while ago, I saw an infographic outlining fantastic advice for interviews. I have one coming up that I am a big nervous for and want all the advice I can get. Anyone have that infographic for me? (Or any other LPT interview advice?). Thanks a bunch, and wish me luck!" ]

[ "I got ya bro.\n\n[Here is the infographic](http://lifehacker.com/5916590/get-hired?utm_campaign=socialflow_lifehacker_facebook&utm_source=lifehacker_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow)\n\n[Here are some more tips for a job interview](http://artofmanliness.com/2012/08/06/how-to-ace-a-job-interview/)", "Good luck on your interview! I just went on one on Tuesday and I think what really helped me through it was confidence. Hope that helps!" ]

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[ "Cleaning Up Broken Glass in a Car Hey guys, my car was broken into overnight, and there is glass EVERYWHERE. I dont even know where to begin cleaning it and how. Any tips?\n\nHeres what it looks like http://imgur.com/yRaPIRn\n\nThe reason why I post this, and dont refer to other posts is because i dont know WHERE or how to start. I dont have a vacumn cleaner. I was given a tip to put a towel over the driver's seat, and drive to a gas station with a vacumn, and vacumn up all the glass. Should i be wearing a mask or anything? This could only get worse if I got glass in my eyes or lungs or something lol. \n\n", "Cleaning Up Broken Glass in a Car Hey guys, my car was broken into overnight, and there is glass EVERYWHERE. I dont even know where to begin cleaning it and how. Any tips?\n\nHeres what it looks like http://imgur.com/yRaPIRn\n\nThe reason why I post this, and dont refer to other posts is because i dont know WHERE or how to start. I dont have a vacumn cleaner. I was given a tip to put a towel over the driver's seat, and drive to a gas station with a vacumn, and vacumn up all the glass. Should i be wearing a mask or anything? This could only get worse if I got glass in my eyes or lungs or something lol. \n\n" ]

[ "Go to one of those car wash places. They have industrial vacuums that you can use for about a dollar or less. Sometimes, they're free to use if you're a \"customer\". ", "Side windows are made from tempered safety glass which is designed to break into many many small pieces with minimal sharp edges. \n\nCertainly wear gloves if you have to touch a lot of it but find a vacuum at a car wash. " ]

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[ "Buying pants with wear and tear on the crotch area in mind. I'm so fucking tired of all my pants breaking the same way. They wear at the crotch area and rip. The last pair lasted two fucking months DESPITE ironing a patch on DAY ONE and applying talc powder to the area after each washing (3 or four times!).\n\nI tried trekking pants, high rise pants, slim fit pants, \"diamond gusset\" pants, pants with elastic fabric and without, polyester, cotton, underwear that hold everything in place, appropriate fitting, and high up enough... They all fail. What I'm missing.\n\nYes, I should lose weight (100kg 175cm or 220lbs 5'8\"), but frankly, other people my fatness doesn't have this problems...\n\nIs there any metric on fabric thickness I should be using? \n\nI heard that clothes are actually shit for recycling, I know you want to troll my fat ass here, but try to save the planet and add some LPT while you're at it. I'm considering kilts, leather pants or [swim briefs](http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-M-c2U9Rhsbs/UmiZ841khdI/AAAAAAAAAPU/eG43YLC6_88/s400/Franky+no+bg2.png), but maybe you have a better suggestion.", "Buying pants with wear and tear on the crotch area in mind. I'm so fucking tired of all my pants breaking the same way. They wear at the crotch area and rip. The last pair lasted two fucking months DESPITE ironing a patch on DAY ONE and applying talc powder to the area after each washing (3 or four times!).\n\nI tried trekking pants, high rise pants, slim fit pants, \"diamond gusset\" pants, pants with elastic fabric and without, polyester, cotton, underwear that hold everything in place, appropriate fitting, and high up enough... They all fail. What I'm missing.\n\nYes, I should lose weight (100kg 175cm or 220lbs 5'8\"), but frankly, other people my fatness doesn't have this problems...\n\nIs there any metric on fabric thickness I should be using? \n\nI heard that clothes are actually shit for recycling, I know you want to troll my fat ass here, but try to save the planet and add some LPT while you're at it. I'm considering kilts, leather pants or [swim briefs](http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-M-c2U9Rhsbs/UmiZ841khdI/AAAAAAAAAPU/eG43YLC6_88/s400/Franky+no+bg2.png), but maybe you have a better suggestion.", "Buying pants with wear and tear on the crotch area in mind. I'm so fucking tired of all my pants breaking the same way. They wear at the crotch area and rip. The last pair lasted two fucking months DESPITE ironing a patch on DAY ONE and applying talc powder to the area after each washing (3 or four times!).\n\nI tried trekking pants, high rise pants, slim fit pants, \"diamond gusset\" pants, pants with elastic fabric and without, polyester, cotton, underwear that hold everything in place, appropriate fitting, and high up enough... They all fail. What I'm missing.\n\nYes, I should lose weight (100kg 175cm or 220lbs 5'8\"), but frankly, other people my fatness doesn't have this problems...\n\nIs there any metric on fabric thickness I should be using? \n\nI heard that clothes are actually shit for recycling, I know you want to troll my fat ass here, but try to save the planet and add some LPT while you're at it. I'm considering kilts, leather pants or [swim briefs](http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-M-c2U9Rhsbs/UmiZ841khdI/AAAAAAAAAPU/eG43YLC6_88/s400/Franky+no+bg2.png), but maybe you have a better suggestion.", "Buying pants with wear and tear on the crotch area in mind. I'm so fucking tired of all my pants breaking the same way. They wear at the crotch area and rip. The last pair lasted two fucking months DESPITE ironing a patch on DAY ONE and applying talc powder to the area after each washing (3 or four times!).\n\nI tried trekking pants, high rise pants, slim fit pants, \"diamond gusset\" pants, pants with elastic fabric and without, polyester, cotton, underwear that hold everything in place, appropriate fitting, and high up enough... They all fail. What I'm missing.\n\nYes, I should lose weight (100kg 175cm or 220lbs 5'8\"), but frankly, other people my fatness doesn't have this problems...\n\nIs there any metric on fabric thickness I should be using? \n\nI heard that clothes are actually shit for recycling, I know you want to troll my fat ass here, but try to save the planet and add some LPT while you're at it. I'm considering kilts, leather pants or [swim briefs](http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-M-c2U9Rhsbs/UmiZ841khdI/AAAAAAAAAPU/eG43YLC6_88/s400/Franky+no+bg2.png), but maybe you have a better suggestion.", "Buying pants with wear and tear on the crotch area in mind. I'm so fucking tired of all my pants breaking the same way. They wear at the crotch area and rip. The last pair lasted two fucking months DESPITE ironing a patch on DAY ONE and applying talc powder to the area after each washing (3 or four times!).\n\nI tried trekking pants, high rise pants, slim fit pants, \"diamond gusset\" pants, pants with elastic fabric and without, polyester, cotton, underwear that hold everything in place, appropriate fitting, and high up enough... They all fail. What I'm missing.\n\nYes, I should lose weight (100kg 175cm or 220lbs 5'8\"), but frankly, other people my fatness doesn't have this problems...\n\nIs there any metric on fabric thickness I should be using? \n\nI heard that clothes are actually shit for recycling, I know you want to troll my fat ass here, but try to save the planet and add some LPT while you're at it. I'm considering kilts, leather pants or [swim briefs](http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-M-c2U9Rhsbs/UmiZ841khdI/AAAAAAAAAPU/eG43YLC6_88/s400/Franky+no+bg2.png), but maybe you have a better suggestion." ]

[ "Have you tried work pants? Like dickies, carhartt, that kind of thing. They are designed to be pretty durable, though I can’t speak to this specific issue. Also maybe try wearing them longer between washes (spot clean) and hang dry?", "I sew my own and am an avid mender, I'll try to be as helpful as I can. Does it fail in the exact same spot no matter the fabric or does the kind of fail change? Is it a tear along a seam starting at the X in the crotch area or is it down lower on the leg (more mid thigh)? What kind of work are you doing?\n\nI wear out between thighs from fat chick chub rub, across where the butt cheek crease is from butt sliding across the seat while cycling, and on front of the thighs from bracing coarse/volcanic rock on my legs when stacking rock walls. I have mends for each of these but I know there's no way to stop them.\n\nAll that said I absolutely and enthusiastically support people wearing whatever the hell they want and am enamored of men in kilts and sarongs.", "Duluth Trading Company Ballroom Jeans. My bf has the same problem and I got him a pair for Christmas. He immediately removed the pants he had on and put the ballroom jeans on. He loves them!!! He said problem solved.", "I used to have some jean shorts like that too. I slept in them shits man. Eventually, I blew the crotch out them things - but you can’t wear em everyday and expect for em to hold up. That was some nice ass denim too, I miss those shorts. But you, you gotta take em off every now and then, you gotta take em off son.", "I started wearing Lululemon Joggers per my wife’s recommendation and they are absolutely bullet proof.\n\nTypically, Levi’s last me 2-3 years before the crotch wears out, but these are way more durable" ]

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[ "How to stop living with the notion that your identity/views/hobbies are only valid if people know about it Hey everyone, \n\n\nAs a quick precursor, I'll say that this is something I'm tackling with my therapist, but I felt it couldn't hurt to get the views of other people (and who knows, it may help people in a similar situation). \n\n\nI have found that in the last few years, one of the more prominent and stagnant elements of my anxiety ties into other people's perception of me. I have this burning need to ensure that there are never any misconceptions in people's minds about what I represent, who I am, what I love, what I hate etc. It's almost as if, at times, a part of me isn't \"valid\" unless it is known on the outside. It puts me in a position where I constantly have to clarify things about myself or my opinions at any opportunity possible. It is wildly irrational, ridiculous, very tedious and mentally taxing. If I don't find ways to make it clear, or I'm worried I've come across incorrectly, it sort of spoils that thing for me and I tend to avoid it until it's somehow \"fixed\". \n\n\nI know this is not an easy one, but I am really keen to get advice from all angles, as it will really help me. \n\n\nThanks in advance, \n\n\nKikko", "How to stop living with the notion that your identity/views/hobbies are only valid if people know about it Hey everyone, \n\n\nAs a quick precursor, I'll say that this is something I'm tackling with my therapist, but I felt it couldn't hurt to get the views of other people (and who knows, it may help people in a similar situation). \n\n\nI have found that in the last few years, one of the more prominent and stagnant elements of my anxiety ties into other people's perception of me. I have this burning need to ensure that there are never any misconceptions in people's minds about what I represent, who I am, what I love, what I hate etc. It's almost as if, at times, a part of me isn't \"valid\" unless it is known on the outside. It puts me in a position where I constantly have to clarify things about myself or my opinions at any opportunity possible. It is wildly irrational, ridiculous, very tedious and mentally taxing. If I don't find ways to make it clear, or I'm worried I've come across incorrectly, it sort of spoils that thing for me and I tend to avoid it until it's somehow \"fixed\". \n\n\nI know this is not an easy one, but I am really keen to get advice from all angles, as it will really help me. \n\n\nThanks in advance, \n\n\nKikko", "How to stop living with the notion that your identity/views/hobbies are only valid if people know about it Hey everyone, \n\n\nAs a quick precursor, I'll say that this is something I'm tackling with my therapist, but I felt it couldn't hurt to get the views of other people (and who knows, it may help people in a similar situation). \n\n\nI have found that in the last few years, one of the more prominent and stagnant elements of my anxiety ties into other people's perception of me. I have this burning need to ensure that there are never any misconceptions in people's minds about what I represent, who I am, what I love, what I hate etc. It's almost as if, at times, a part of me isn't \"valid\" unless it is known on the outside. It puts me in a position where I constantly have to clarify things about myself or my opinions at any opportunity possible. It is wildly irrational, ridiculous, very tedious and mentally taxing. If I don't find ways to make it clear, or I'm worried I've come across incorrectly, it sort of spoils that thing for me and I tend to avoid it until it's somehow \"fixed\". \n\n\nI know this is not an easy one, but I am really keen to get advice from all angles, as it will really help me. \n\n\nThanks in advance, \n\n\nKikko", "How to stop living with the notion that your identity/views/hobbies are only valid if people know about it Hey everyone, \n\n\nAs a quick precursor, I'll say that this is something I'm tackling with my therapist, but I felt it couldn't hurt to get the views of other people (and who knows, it may help people in a similar situation). \n\n\nI have found that in the last few years, one of the more prominent and stagnant elements of my anxiety ties into other people's perception of me. I have this burning need to ensure that there are never any misconceptions in people's minds about what I represent, who I am, what I love, what I hate etc. It's almost as if, at times, a part of me isn't \"valid\" unless it is known on the outside. It puts me in a position where I constantly have to clarify things about myself or my opinions at any opportunity possible. It is wildly irrational, ridiculous, very tedious and mentally taxing. If I don't find ways to make it clear, or I'm worried I've come across incorrectly, it sort of spoils that thing for me and I tend to avoid it until it's somehow \"fixed\". \n\n\nI know this is not an easy one, but I am really keen to get advice from all angles, as it will really help me. \n\n\nThanks in advance, \n\n\nKikko" ]

[ "I’ve struggled a bit and still do to some degree with that kind of anxiety. What’s helped me is remembering that other people are not “official,” which is to say they aren’t the arbiters of truth and they don’t always make the right decisions or know exactly the right way to judge you. You have to decide for yourself what makes sense because other people are like a whole bunch of you’s—just confused monkeys trying to fit in who have no sort of secret knowledge. I think that this kind of anxiety often stems from a persistent feeling that other people all know the right way to act and that you don’t, and thus that you need to legitimize yourself by seeking validation from others (I don’t even necessarily mean positive reinforcement or affirmation, just their acknowledgement that you are there and that you do things, because your own acknowledgement of yourself just isn’t enough). All of this may stem from a deep-down feeling that you don’t really exist. It may be that you are codependent, or albeit more of a stretch that you have Asperger’s or something. I’m no expert so take my words with a grain of salt, I’m just putting those terms out there so you can look them up if you haven’t heard them before, and maybe they might get you somewhere. \n\nThat all being said, there are a few things (that are good anyway) that might especially help in your case (or my case that I wrongfully project onto you, who knows, I digress). One is to do something good or that you are proud of (helping someone, making a donation, writing a poem, building something), and then telling no one. Keep it. It’s yours. It’s your little reminder that you exist, and that you do things. And let it remind you that your own acknowledgement of your being is enough. You don’t need someone else to affirm your existence. Another thing you might like to try is to view people with a critical lens. Take note of all the dumb things they say and the insecurities they show. Notice their flaws. That’s not to use against them or to manipulate them, that’s to help you remember that they are no better than you, and that they can’t give you the affirmation you are looking for. They aren’t rigid pillars of all that is right who have the power to legitimize your existence and designate you a “real human,” official enough to someday join their ranks, they’re just idiots—regular monkeys as dumb and silly and uncertain as you are. It’s important to remember that. \n\nAnyway it’s been enough long-winded rambling for an evening. Writing that out and having to make it coherent enough to properly express my point actually really helped my to articulate my thoughts into something useful, so thanks for the opportunity to do that. I wish you the best and hope that my rambling was as helpful to you, cheers", "Human Beings are always evolving, learning ,changing and growing. So you don't even know who you are and will be, neither does anyone else in this world. Just be the best you , do good, and don't worry about other people's opinions. If you don't know the saying, here it is: Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one, and they generally stink. Go be you, and know you're alright. Best to you.", "Found my solution...I don’t give a FUCK what ANYONE thinks of me or what I do outside of my immediate loved ones. \n\nEveryone else can fuck right off with their opinions as far as I’m concerned. Also, almost all folks are so tied up with their own shit to really care what you are doing. \n\nHere’s to not giving a shit what other people think!", "They're not ONLY valid if someone is there to observe, but it's all a collaboration. No viewpoint or observation or opinion is really 'real' or official 'out there reality', but we all compromise and agree on certain things. Part of the human experience involves validation from other counterparts of our organism. Other people's perception of you has to do with your perception of you, which is the ego. All the ways you have been trained to define yourself and how you think the outside world defines you. Thoughts like these are often labeled as anxious thoughts, but I think it goes hand in hand with being conscious and intelligent and someone that is geared towards questioning in this type of direction. It's all about balance. Go find someone who has lived alone for years, allowing themselves to be too secluded from people, where they can't check themselves against other opinions, and you'll find someone who is slowly going \"crazy\". We need other people. Your identities and views and hobbies are still valid, they just mean a hell of a lot less if you don't express them." ]

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[ "wondering if you should be given some what of a pay raise for training someone new in I have been working with an art studio for one year now. I go to different elementary schools around my city to teach art classes after school. On my schedule in the next few days it says \"TRAIN (persons name)\", I have trained one other person during one of my one hour classes before. My question is if you are training someone in do you get paid a little bit more for doing so? My manager has never talked to me about training someone (during class time) and has just put it on my schedule. I thought if you are training someone you get some what of a raise for however long you are doing it. Also I am not sure if this is relevant but I have been asking my manager for the past 9 months if there is anything I can help out with to get more hours or possibly do more within the studio and I get an answer that says nothing right now but probably soon... And then nothing more comes. Please let me know what you think of bringing up the fact I should get paid a different amount if I am training someone compared to just working. Thank you! ", "wondering if you should be given some what of a pay raise for training someone new in I have been working with an art studio for one year now. I go to different elementary schools around my city to teach art classes after school. On my schedule in the next few days it says \"TRAIN (persons name)\", I have trained one other person during one of my one hour classes before. My question is if you are training someone in do you get paid a little bit more for doing so? My manager has never talked to me about training someone (during class time) and has just put it on my schedule. I thought if you are training someone you get some what of a raise for however long you are doing it. Also I am not sure if this is relevant but I have been asking my manager for the past 9 months if there is anything I can help out with to get more hours or possibly do more within the studio and I get an answer that says nothing right now but probably soon... And then nothing more comes. Please let me know what you think of bringing up the fact I should get paid a different amount if I am training someone compared to just working. Thank you! " ]

[ "No there's no extra money. It may be some poorly thought out way for the guy to give you the 'more responsibility' you are asking for. Don't look at it as a burden, unless it really makes your life difficult and forces you to work more hours unpaid. In which case, speak up. Look at it as a way to show your capability. \n\nLarger issue; are they literally hiring more part time people to avoid bumping you or anybody to full-time status? If so, maybe it's time to start shopping for a new job. \n", "It all really depends on management and how they view the training process. In personal experience unless your with a huge corporation like walmart, mcdonalds, target, ect. They give a small bump in pay (.25-$1). In my current job they view it as work duties and team leads take the training aspect while others are expected to help and give input." ]

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[ "How to get over someone. Okay so I know this'll sound like stupid little kid drama but it's actually hindering my ability to properly enjoy my life. Okay, so I dated a girl back in 2012 all the way until the end of 2013. She broke up with me bc she \"no longer had feelings for me\" (I learned later she might've been cheating towards the end). It's been 3 years since then and my thoughts are still consumed by this girl who made me (at one point) the happiest I've ever been in my life. I can't date other people because she's all I think about and I can't go two seconds without her on my mind. I've gone to therapy (for this and other reasons) and it didn't help at all. It's ruining me. Does anyone know the best way to get over someone?\n\nTLDR; girl broke up with me. 3 years later still can't get over her. does anyone have any tips on how to fix this?", "How to get over someone. Okay so I know this'll sound like stupid little kid drama but it's actually hindering my ability to properly enjoy my life. Okay, so I dated a girl back in 2012 all the way until the end of 2013. She broke up with me bc she \"no longer had feelings for me\" (I learned later she might've been cheating towards the end). It's been 3 years since then and my thoughts are still consumed by this girl who made me (at one point) the happiest I've ever been in my life. I can't date other people because she's all I think about and I can't go two seconds without her on my mind. I've gone to therapy (for this and other reasons) and it didn't help at all. It's ruining me. Does anyone know the best way to get over someone?\n\nTLDR; girl broke up with me. 3 years later still can't get over her. does anyone have any tips on how to fix this?", "How to get over someone. Okay so I know this'll sound like stupid little kid drama but it's actually hindering my ability to properly enjoy my life. Okay, so I dated a girl back in 2012 all the way until the end of 2013. She broke up with me bc she \"no longer had feelings for me\" (I learned later she might've been cheating towards the end). It's been 3 years since then and my thoughts are still consumed by this girl who made me (at one point) the happiest I've ever been in my life. I can't date other people because she's all I think about and I can't go two seconds without her on my mind. I've gone to therapy (for this and other reasons) and it didn't help at all. It's ruining me. Does anyone know the best way to get over someone?\n\nTLDR; girl broke up with me. 3 years later still can't get over her. does anyone have any tips on how to fix this?", "How to get over someone. Okay so I know this'll sound like stupid little kid drama but it's actually hindering my ability to properly enjoy my life. Okay, so I dated a girl back in 2012 all the way until the end of 2013. She broke up with me bc she \"no longer had feelings for me\" (I learned later she might've been cheating towards the end). It's been 3 years since then and my thoughts are still consumed by this girl who made me (at one point) the happiest I've ever been in my life. I can't date other people because she's all I think about and I can't go two seconds without her on my mind. I've gone to therapy (for this and other reasons) and it didn't help at all. It's ruining me. Does anyone know the best way to get over someone?\n\nTLDR; girl broke up with me. 3 years later still can't get over her. does anyone have any tips on how to fix this?", "How to get over someone. Okay so I know this'll sound like stupid little kid drama but it's actually hindering my ability to properly enjoy my life. Okay, so I dated a girl back in 2012 all the way until the end of 2013. She broke up with me bc she \"no longer had feelings for me\" (I learned later she might've been cheating towards the end). It's been 3 years since then and my thoughts are still consumed by this girl who made me (at one point) the happiest I've ever been in my life. I can't date other people because she's all I think about and I can't go two seconds without her on my mind. I've gone to therapy (for this and other reasons) and it didn't help at all. It's ruining me. Does anyone know the best way to get over someone?\n\nTLDR; girl broke up with me. 3 years later still can't get over her. does anyone have any tips on how to fix this?", "How to get over someone. Okay so I know this'll sound like stupid little kid drama but it's actually hindering my ability to properly enjoy my life. Okay, so I dated a girl back in 2012 all the way until the end of 2013. She broke up with me bc she \"no longer had feelings for me\" (I learned later she might've been cheating towards the end). It's been 3 years since then and my thoughts are still consumed by this girl who made me (at one point) the happiest I've ever been in my life. I can't date other people because she's all I think about and I can't go two seconds without her on my mind. I've gone to therapy (for this and other reasons) and it didn't help at all. It's ruining me. Does anyone know the best way to get over someone?\n\nTLDR; girl broke up with me. 3 years later still can't get over her. does anyone have any tips on how to fix this?", "How to get over someone. Okay so I know this'll sound like stupid little kid drama but it's actually hindering my ability to properly enjoy my life. Okay, so I dated a girl back in 2012 all the way until the end of 2013. She broke up with me bc she \"no longer had feelings for me\" (I learned later she might've been cheating towards the end). It's been 3 years since then and my thoughts are still consumed by this girl who made me (at one point) the happiest I've ever been in my life. I can't date other people because she's all I think about and I can't go two seconds without her on my mind. I've gone to therapy (for this and other reasons) and it didn't help at all. It's ruining me. Does anyone know the best way to get over someone?\n\nTLDR; girl broke up with me. 3 years later still can't get over her. does anyone have any tips on how to fix this?", "How to get over someone. Okay so I know this'll sound like stupid little kid drama but it's actually hindering my ability to properly enjoy my life. Okay, so I dated a girl back in 2012 all the way until the end of 2013. She broke up with me bc she \"no longer had feelings for me\" (I learned later she might've been cheating towards the end). It's been 3 years since then and my thoughts are still consumed by this girl who made me (at one point) the happiest I've ever been in my life. I can't date other people because she's all I think about and I can't go two seconds without her on my mind. I've gone to therapy (for this and other reasons) and it didn't help at all. It's ruining me. Does anyone know the best way to get over someone?\n\nTLDR; girl broke up with me. 3 years later still can't get over her. does anyone have any tips on how to fix this?", "How to get over someone. Okay so I know this'll sound like stupid little kid drama but it's actually hindering my ability to properly enjoy my life. Okay, so I dated a girl back in 2012 all the way until the end of 2013. She broke up with me bc she \"no longer had feelings for me\" (I learned later she might've been cheating towards the end). It's been 3 years since then and my thoughts are still consumed by this girl who made me (at one point) the happiest I've ever been in my life. I can't date other people because she's all I think about and I can't go two seconds without her on my mind. I've gone to therapy (for this and other reasons) and it didn't help at all. It's ruining me. Does anyone know the best way to get over someone?\n\nTLDR; girl broke up with me. 3 years later still can't get over her. does anyone have any tips on how to fix this?", "How to get over someone. Okay so I know this'll sound like stupid little kid drama but it's actually hindering my ability to properly enjoy my life. Okay, so I dated a girl back in 2012 all the way until the end of 2013. She broke up with me bc she \"no longer had feelings for me\" (I learned later she might've been cheating towards the end). It's been 3 years since then and my thoughts are still consumed by this girl who made me (at one point) the happiest I've ever been in my life. I can't date other people because she's all I think about and I can't go two seconds without her on my mind. I've gone to therapy (for this and other reasons) and it didn't help at all. It's ruining me. Does anyone know the best way to get over someone?\n\nTLDR; girl broke up with me. 3 years later still can't get over her. does anyone have any tips on how to fix this?" ]

[ "Went though a breakup recently and all I can say is just keep yourself busy with friends/hobbies, and whatever you do DONT check her social media! if you wanna move on more quickly find a new girl that's the best way to get over someone ", "Time. No, seriously it just takes time. The more emotional investment you put into a relationship, the longer it is going to take to get over it. ", "My girlfriend (2 years) broke up with me 3 months, 14 days and 3 hours ago...but who's counting. I think about her every day but it's over and I know it. Three years is a long time, man! I ride a bike...alot. Exercise if you can. Get over it. Good luck.", "Recognize that she isn't the only person you'll ever meet and find a special, deeper relationship with.\n\nRecognize that happiness isn't going to come from someone else, self-validation should never come from someone else.\n\nBe confident as yourself, not because someone else feels that way, but because you do. Putting yourself in a better state of mind is going to help leagues more than anything. ", "Do new things. Just in general. Do stuff you've been interested in but never tried, or something one of your friends likes that you've never given a shot. ", "new activities and new environment, volunteer especially in ways that put you in the position to relieve other people's suffering, exercise and time. ", "Get under someone else.\n\nReally seriously, it helps to recognise that the person you were with isn't the only person in the world, nothing about them is unique and there are plenty of people that will be with you without being a cheating bitch.", "Maybe download a dating app and go on some pressure-free dates, may help curve the thoughts of your ex and maybe you'll even meet someone unexpectedly. Good luck out there, OP!", "Lots of good advice here. Are you depressed? That is, are you struggling to get through regular daily activities? \n\nIf not, I agree with all the other comments: Keep busy, hang with friends, date and/or practice flirting with girls to keep your skills up. (Seriously. Women like men who are charming and flirty, it's a life skill, practice whenever you find yourself single. Really wish I'd gotten that advice when I was young). \n\n", "Just try dating. You may even find she isn't the best. Just the one who made that moment in your life good. Was she your first girlfriend?" ]

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[ "How to cope with rejection from a potential job offer Title pretty much says it all. Was rejected from a fellowship today after progressing through several rigorous rounds of selection. Though I'm still a novice in the field, the interviewers constantly reassured the potential I had demonstrated. Its not the end of the world but given that I'm on a tight schedule for finding a position, and this was my best prospect I feel pretty dejected. Not to mention that many friends and contacts reached out for me and I feel like I've let them down. Feeling very down. Any tips?", "How to cope with rejection from a potential job offer Title pretty much says it all. Was rejected from a fellowship today after progressing through several rigorous rounds of selection. Though I'm still a novice in the field, the interviewers constantly reassured the potential I had demonstrated. Its not the end of the world but given that I'm on a tight schedule for finding a position, and this was my best prospect I feel pretty dejected. Not to mention that many friends and contacts reached out for me and I feel like I've let them down. Feeling very down. Any tips?", "How to cope with rejection from a potential job offer Title pretty much says it all. Was rejected from a fellowship today after progressing through several rigorous rounds of selection. Though I'm still a novice in the field, the interviewers constantly reassured the potential I had demonstrated. Its not the end of the world but given that I'm on a tight schedule for finding a position, and this was my best prospect I feel pretty dejected. Not to mention that many friends and contacts reached out for me and I feel like I've let them down. Feeling very down. Any tips?", "How to cope with rejection from a potential job offer Title pretty much says it all. Was rejected from a fellowship today after progressing through several rigorous rounds of selection. Though I'm still a novice in the field, the interviewers constantly reassured the potential I had demonstrated. Its not the end of the world but given that I'm on a tight schedule for finding a position, and this was my best prospect I feel pretty dejected. Not to mention that many friends and contacts reached out for me and I feel like I've let them down. Feeling very down. Any tips?" ]

[ "Sometimes man, stuff just doesn't work out. And that's okay. It sounds like you're up to scratch for whatever it is you're going for, keep trying. You'll be fine.", "Job interviews are like dating. Most won't work out. Whether it's them or you. Sometimes, you'll get it and it'll turn out to be a bad match. Learn from the experience. Don't get hung up over bad experiences.\n\nJust keep getting out there and you'll find the one.", "First of all, you have not let anyone down just by not getting into a job. You should be really really really lucky to get into a dream job. Sometimes people try very hard but are out of luck. They just Keep trying in every way possible. If this position is not for you, something else is. Read books. There are some really good books that can correctly align our direction of thoughts. To feel good immediately, hangout with your best people. Sleep well. Start fresh from tomorrow. Good luck.", "Nothing gets you over a lost job offer like a new one.\n\nAlways be pursuing the next lead until you've accepted the offer, which can also help for leverage when negotiating wage/salary." ]

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[ "Travelling in India I'm heading to India for a month next Friday - Rajasthan/ Golden Triangle area.\nWhat are some LPT I should know for travelling in India? Cheers!\n\nP.S. I've been in a few overseas travel so I know very basic tips such as exercising on the plane and making use of GPS/Translator/Google and using earplugs for noisy hostels. BUT please do tell me these tips again because a reminder never hurts.\n\nP.P.S. Thank you for your tips! I'm a guy though.", "Travelling in India I'm heading to India for a month next Friday - Rajasthan/ Golden Triangle area.\nWhat are some LPT I should know for travelling in India? Cheers!\n\nP.S. I've been in a few overseas travel so I know very basic tips such as exercising on the plane and making use of GPS/Translator/Google and using earplugs for noisy hostels. BUT please do tell me these tips again because a reminder never hurts.\n\nP.P.S. Thank you for your tips! I'm a guy though.", "Travelling in India I'm heading to India for a month next Friday - Rajasthan/ Golden Triangle area.\nWhat are some LPT I should know for travelling in India? Cheers!\n\nP.S. I've been in a few overseas travel so I know very basic tips such as exercising on the plane and making use of GPS/Translator/Google and using earplugs for noisy hostels. BUT please do tell me these tips again because a reminder never hurts.\n\nP.P.S. Thank you for your tips! I'm a guy though.", "Travelling in India I'm heading to India for a month next Friday - Rajasthan/ Golden Triangle area.\nWhat are some LPT I should know for travelling in India? Cheers!\n\nP.S. I've been in a few overseas travel so I know very basic tips such as exercising on the plane and making use of GPS/Translator/Google and using earplugs for noisy hostels. BUT please do tell me these tips again because a reminder never hurts.\n\nP.P.S. Thank you for your tips! I'm a guy though.", "Travelling in India I'm heading to India for a month next Friday - Rajasthan/ Golden Triangle area.\nWhat are some LPT I should know for travelling in India? Cheers!\n\nP.S. I've been in a few overseas travel so I know very basic tips such as exercising on the plane and making use of GPS/Translator/Google and using earplugs for noisy hostels. BUT please do tell me these tips again because a reminder never hurts.\n\nP.P.S. Thank you for your tips! I'm a guy though.", "Travelling in India I'm heading to India for a month next Friday - Rajasthan/ Golden Triangle area.\nWhat are some LPT I should know for travelling in India? Cheers!\n\nP.S. I've been in a few overseas travel so I know very basic tips such as exercising on the plane and making use of GPS/Translator/Google and using earplugs for noisy hostels. BUT please do tell me these tips again because a reminder never hurts.\n\nP.P.S. Thank you for your tips! I'm a guy though.", "Travelling in India I'm heading to India for a month next Friday - Rajasthan/ Golden Triangle area.\nWhat are some LPT I should know for travelling in India? Cheers!\n\nP.S. I've been in a few overseas travel so I know very basic tips such as exercising on the plane and making use of GPS/Translator/Google and using earplugs for noisy hostels. BUT please do tell me these tips again because a reminder never hurts.\n\nP.P.S. Thank you for your tips! I'm a guy though.", "Travelling in India I'm heading to India for a month next Friday - Rajasthan/ Golden Triangle area.\nWhat are some LPT I should know for travelling in India? Cheers!\n\nP.S. I've been in a few overseas travel so I know very basic tips such as exercising on the plane and making use of GPS/Translator/Google and using earplugs for noisy hostels. BUT please do tell me these tips again because a reminder never hurts.\n\nP.P.S. Thank you for your tips! I'm a guy though.", "Travelling in India I'm heading to India for a month next Friday - Rajasthan/ Golden Triangle area.\nWhat are some LPT I should know for travelling in India? Cheers!\n\nP.S. I've been in a few overseas travel so I know very basic tips such as exercising on the plane and making use of GPS/Translator/Google and using earplugs for noisy hostels. BUT please do tell me these tips again because a reminder never hurts.\n\nP.P.S. Thank you for your tips! I'm a guy though.", "Travelling in India I'm heading to India for a month next Friday - Rajasthan/ Golden Triangle area.\nWhat are some LPT I should know for travelling in India? Cheers!\n\nP.S. I've been in a few overseas travel so I know very basic tips such as exercising on the plane and making use of GPS/Translator/Google and using earplugs for noisy hostels. BUT please do tell me these tips again because a reminder never hurts.\n\nP.P.S. Thank you for your tips! I'm a guy though.", "Travelling in India I'm heading to India for a month next Friday - Rajasthan/ Golden Triangle area.\nWhat are some LPT I should know for travelling in India? Cheers!\n\nP.S. I've been in a few overseas travel so I know very basic tips such as exercising on the plane and making use of GPS/Translator/Google and using earplugs for noisy hostels. BUT please do tell me these tips again because a reminder never hurts.\n\nP.P.S. Thank you for your tips! I'm a guy though.", "Travelling in India I'm heading to India for a month next Friday - Rajasthan/ Golden Triangle area.\nWhat are some LPT I should know for travelling in India? Cheers!\n\nP.S. I've been in a few overseas travel so I know very basic tips such as exercising on the plane and making use of GPS/Translator/Google and using earplugs for noisy hostels. BUT please do tell me these tips again because a reminder never hurts.\n\nP.P.S. Thank you for your tips! I'm a guy though.", "Travelling in India I'm heading to India for a month next Friday - Rajasthan/ Golden Triangle area.\nWhat are some LPT I should know for travelling in India? Cheers!\n\nP.S. I've been in a few overseas travel so I know very basic tips such as exercising on the plane and making use of GPS/Translator/Google and using earplugs for noisy hostels. BUT please do tell me these tips again because a reminder never hurts.\n\nP.P.S. Thank you for your tips! I'm a guy though.", "Travelling in India I'm heading to India for a month next Friday - Rajasthan/ Golden Triangle area.\nWhat are some LPT I should know for travelling in India? Cheers!\n\nP.S. I've been in a few overseas travel so I know very basic tips such as exercising on the plane and making use of GPS/Translator/Google and using earplugs for noisy hostels. BUT please do tell me these tips again because a reminder never hurts.\n\nP.P.S. Thank you for your tips! I'm a guy though.", "Travelling in India I'm heading to India for a month next Friday - Rajasthan/ Golden Triangle area.\nWhat are some LPT I should know for travelling in India? Cheers!\n\nP.S. I've been in a few overseas travel so I know very basic tips such as exercising on the plane and making use of GPS/Translator/Google and using earplugs for noisy hostels. BUT please do tell me these tips again because a reminder never hurts.\n\nP.P.S. Thank you for your tips! I'm a guy though." ]

[ "\n\n1) you will get food poisoning - take diarrhoea medication, painkillers and rehydration packs\n\n2) if travelling on business you will likely be assigned a driver and a vehicle - if not enquiry at your hotel the cost of hiring drivers for the day\n\n3) avoid taking large amounts of cash but have small amounts for the beggars - who are everywhere.\n\n4) avoid wearing expensive jewellery.\n\n5) keep an emergency cr", "If the place has mosquitoes, start taking vitamin B12 now, if you’re 2 or 3 weeks away from departure, they won’t bite you when you’re there. If not, start it anyways but get some repellent. ", "My boss is from India, he says not to use public restrooms, to go back where you're staying if possible.\n\nI'm not sure why though.", "1. If you’re a woman, bring some sort of a shawl/scarf. If you’re traveling and visiting temples and religious sites, I always tried to cover up a bit because I was wearing tanks in the heat \n\n2. Bring campers toilet paper, or a roll of toilet paper and hand sanitizer. If you’re out in areas outside of a big city/developed buildings, they won’t have an usual bathroom.\n\n3. A lot of the people I met there did this sort of head bobble. I was a bit confused by what it meant, but learned that it generally meant ok, yes similar to how a nod goes.\n\n4. Don’t drink tap or eat anything that could’ve been washed in tap water. Bottled water was fine for me but be wary of buying it from street vendors. I never had a problem but had some friends telling me about vendors who would find used bottles and refill them with tap and try to sell. \n\nCan’t think of anymore at the moment but I’ll follow up if anything does!", "Especially if you're arriving late (common for flying to India), it's nice to have someone meet you at the airport to bring you to your hotel. If you're not used to it, dealing with transportation options in the middle of the night in India can be intimidating.", "Drink only mineral water in India if you're on a short trip. Ask for *bisleri* (local brand and a generic name for bottled water). This would help avoiding stomach problems\n\nHave your passport secured in a locker in hotel room.\n\nAsk the spice level and prefer a low spicy always. I have seen Americans ask for medium spicy and it was too hot for them.\n\nThe nights in Rajasthan are a bitch, cover yourself well if you are out for a stroll.\n\nAsk for a metered cab, autorickshaw or just call uber if lost. Uber has an indian alternative, called Ola. It is cheaper and you can share ride.\n\nAvoid talking about a movie called Padmavati/Padmavat. Right now that has turned into political hotbed.\n\nHave a safe trip to India and happy journey!", "As an Indian whom lives Belgium have some key notes for you to survive in India.\n\n1- DO NOT DRINK any sort of water they offer you in Restaurants/Tap water, ask them for mineral water. You don't wanna end up having brown water come out of your ass.\n\n2- In Rajestan, there will be many beggars out there, little kids running around begging for money, might sound a little bit cruel but ignore them. They will rob every single penny out of your pocket once they find out you got money.\n\n3- There are some dirty minded men in Rajestan, if you are taking a female with you, please tell her not to wear any kind of shorts, crop tops, anything not too revealing. \n\n4- 1 Euro=75 Rupees\n\n5- Might wanna get something to cancel out the noise, because India has a lot of noise pollution\n\n6- Bargaining works in India, abuse that shit! \n\n7- Don't use public washrooms, don't please, you might get diseases there.", "Keep a scarf/some sort of mask to avoid dust. I am an Indian but I also get allergies from it. \n\nAbout withdrawing cash as you go, forex cards usually have heavy withdrawal charges. So make sure about those details and currency exchange may not be available everywhere. You could withdraw around 10k rupees ( - convert to the currency you use) and keep them in safe.\n\nRajasthan is a beautiful place, enjoy it. You can buy some beautiful jewelry there. Make sure you stay hydrated and always keep a hand sanitizer. \n\nKeep some sort of biscuits/cookies and ready to eat food with you. You can buy Quaker ready to make oats in India too. And cup noodles too. \n\nHave a fun trip! ", "Bring a few packets of instant coffee and instant oatmeal (soup, noodles etc.). You can boil bottled water with a steam iron and make yourself instant coffee or have a meal when it's inconvenient to go out. Bring sunscreen, a good hat or two with a brim, sunglasses and mosquito repellant. The best thing I found, bar none was something that used little butane cartridges and lasted all night. Learned later that you're not supposed to bring them into the country, but didn't have a problem going through customs. I'd try to bring them in if I go back to India because the mosquito problem can be dangerous. At the very least, bring a good portable mosquito net.", "Ok! So most people gave you safety/health related pointers...\nSo I'd give you a fun one... When shopping for stuff bargain the hell out of it... Specially for the touristy things... Plan on paying half. Your first quote should be way less..😅 There's a high chance the they have already inflated the price seeing a potential foreigner... Eg : if he says $100, say $25... And then work your way up to like a 50 bucks\n\nWalking away from the vendor after the negotiation seems to be failing helps too.. You might lose a few bargains but all in all it should help. ", "Bring a portable water-pic with you. You can fill it with bottled water and a capful of mouthwash and keep your teeth clean without worrying about using tap water.", "As I have lived in Jaipur for 4 years, I'll recommend that you to be hydrated at all times, the heat may become unbearable, it's more oppressive when you stand in direct sunlight, it's very easy to get a heat stroke so don't travel in the sun and be hydrated. And secondly, they are Indians, whenever they see tourists they will try to give you shit deals and try to scam you so have a local tour guide or friend to help you out. And also, just mind your own business, it's not a pretty place in its entirety but ignoring the negatives, it's a real beautiful place", "1. take diarrhea medication, painkillers and re hydration packs\n2. avoid taking large amounts of cash but have small amounts for the beggars & avoid wearing expensive jewellery\n\nthese are the important once i could give atm :) ", " I'm an Indian living in the US right now and I recently did the golden triangle trip!\nLike the others have already said and I would like to stress - * bottled water, *no public restrooms *don't acknowledge beggars *noise cancelling head-phones *negotiate\nA couple of things I thought I would add - \n\n* Don't go to that shopping store that your guide recommends you. The prices are usually inflated for tourists and the bloke that brought you in gets a steep cut.\n\n* Make sure you negotiate the price for any kind of service. It might seem a little douchy when a nice dude with a DSLR makes an offer to take a picture of you, but make sure that you ask for the price if you dont wanna lose a kidney over it.\n* Negotiate the hell out of the tour guides. You should start your bidding at around 30% of the quoted price and may be, go up to 50%. Walk away if you think you are losing the negotiation, and watch the other dude come down to your price.\n* Food: Indian low spice would be American super-hot\n* You might need to have some cash around if you plan on paying for the tour guide, food, and do a bit of shopping. Noy everybody accepts cards. Cash is still the ubiquitous form of payment in India.\n* Ensure that you ask for the specifics when you book anything from a hotel room to a rental car. You might be of the impression that you would be given an AC-room, but if it ain't specified, you are gonna end up in a shitty room without an AC. Same goes for the cabs.\n* Use Uber or Ola (the Indian couterpart of Uber) and the prepaid services as much as possible. \n* Indian railways are pretty decent and are an experience by themselves.\n\nTry to look at the positives and cultural vibrancy, enjoy the chaos, ignore the dirt and noise!\n\nHave a nice trip! :)\n", "I think /u/Total_HD mostly covered it, but I will add a few more.\n\n* Bottled Water — stick to bottled water and you should be ok.\n\n* Doxycycline — your doctor may have prescribed you a prophylaxis like this. Stick to it.\n\n* Insect Repellant — it’s a great idea to take. Remember India is a tropical country more so because the Himalayas block any cold air from ever reaching any part of the Indian plains and it is a giant peninsula.\n\n* Branded Hotels — If you stick to Marriotts, Intercontinental or Holiday Inns; you are likely to have the best experience and comfort. At least for the first few days, because India can be so different to your sensibilities that you will want a little escape. You are also likely to have real good safe food at such hotels.\n\n* Cities — Relatively safe. A level of skepticism about every offer is wise to have, as conning is frequent and foreigners a favorite target. If you are alone and are approached by someone with an offer you don’t understand, it is best to look around for the best dressed well-off looking person, speak in English to assist you. The best people to ask would be youth dressed in office clothes near any eatery/coffee shop.\n\n* Phone — Your US phone will work in India. Most US carriers have low cost International plans that you can add and its best to do it that way since it will not cost you much more (gone are the days when this was very costly) . This way, you use your phone and not have to deal with a local SIM for which you may need myriad of documents even though they are available everywhere. And phones are pretty common, most middle class folks will be carrying as expensive phone as yours, but you will be surprised to discover most desolate looking person using great phones.\nOh, on that — phone etiquette does not exist. Neither does personal space.\n\nApart from tons of other such rules, what you will discover is a country that is very colorful, full of happy curious people, always willing to share, and somehow in the middle of greatest filth, heat, and adversity — smile widely and laugh out loud! :)" ]

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[ "Housing insulation tips of all sorts My mother has two sky lights in our house, could I do something like putting tin foil over them to help insulate them as I feel one layer of glass is not providing a great buffer in this summer heat. Also wondering if anyone has experience with reflective roofing? I'm not sure if this is necessarily the best sub for this question, but I've seen great responses here before.", "Housing insulation tips of all sorts My mother has two sky lights in our house, could I do something like putting tin foil over them to help insulate them as I feel one layer of glass is not providing a great buffer in this summer heat. Also wondering if anyone has experience with reflective roofing? I'm not sure if this is necessarily the best sub for this question, but I've seen great responses here before.", "Housing insulation tips of all sorts My mother has two sky lights in our house, could I do something like putting tin foil over them to help insulate them as I feel one layer of glass is not providing a great buffer in this summer heat. Also wondering if anyone has experience with reflective roofing? I'm not sure if this is necessarily the best sub for this question, but I've seen great responses here before." ]

[ "Replace it with an argon-filled double-pane skylight. Fur out all external walls to at least 6\" and fill with cellulose insulation. Set up an \"economizer\" HVAC controller to cycle with outside air based on sensor readings. (e.g. coldest part of night during the summer)\n\nEnjoy never having to run your A/C even during 100° summers.", "I'm a commercial roofer with plenty of experience with reflective roofing. What kind of info are you looking for?", "Get some Mylar sheeting (a/k/a \"space blanket\")\n\nCut a piece to fit the skylight (or window that gets a lot of solar gain.) With a spray bottle set to \"mist\", spray some plain water on the glass and use that to stick the plastic in place.\n\nYou can do the same thing in the winter for drafty windows, except use bubble wrap instead of mylar." ]

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[ "How to get the most out of Windows 8 Inspired by the post about Windows 8 Godmode. I can't quite get the swing of Windows 8 and I'm wondering if anyone has some tips that might help me get the most out of it.", "How to get the most out of Windows 8 Inspired by the post about Windows 8 Godmode. I can't quite get the swing of Windows 8 and I'm wondering if anyone has some tips that might help me get the most out of it.", "How to get the most out of Windows 8 Inspired by the post about Windows 8 Godmode. I can't quite get the swing of Windows 8 and I'm wondering if anyone has some tips that might help me get the most out of it." ]

[ "Windows + E = File explorer\n\nWindows + R = Command Line\n\nWindows + P = Projector menu\n\nWindows + left/right key = Fit the current window to half the screen\n\nWindows + up key = Maximize current window\n\nWindows + down key = Minimize current window\n\nPlus, when on command line type \"mspaint\" to open paint, \"calc\" to open calculator and \"notepad\" to open the notepad. As in: Windows + R + calc + Enter and voilá.\n\nPretty newbish tips but may come in handy.", "I use [Classic Start](http://www.classicstart8.com/) for a more Windows 7-esque start menu with a few extra goodies and a fitting design.\n\nLearn to use [keyboard shortcuts](http://windows.microsoft.com/en-gb/windows/keyboard-shortcuts#keyboard-shortcuts=windows-8) to get around your PC quickly and easily.\n\nCheck out the improved Task Manager (Ctrl-shift-Escape) which allows you to monitor total memory and CPU, view startup processes and see resources used by an app over time.\n\nIf you're setting up a new Windows machine (or just installing a bunch of common programs) [Ninite](http://ninite.com) is the perfect tool. Just check the boxes of the programs you want on the website then hit download to get an installer for all of them. It'll install them without making you click \"next\" all the time and automatically denying any of those annoying toolbars they try and sneakily install.", "Windows + X opens a cut-down version of the Windows 7 Start Menu. Saves having to deal with the crappy settings in the Start Screen.\n\nWindows + D will open the desktop from the Start Screen.\n\nWindows key by itself will toggle between Start Screen and desktop.\n\nBest tip: Upgrade to Windows 8.1. Not a huge improvement but it brings back the Start button (which will open the Start Screen, not the old Windows 7 Start Menu, sorry) and gives you the option of logging straight into the desktop, bypassing the Start Screen entirely. Since upgrading to 8.1 I hardly ever see the Start Screen." ]

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[ "How to stop feeling like I'm bothering people by being friendly? I'm at university, and I try to strike up conversations in extracurriculars or in the hallway with familiar faces, like \"You're in my x class, right?\" Or if we're familiar, \"How'd you feel about that test/assignment?\" Normal stuff, no?\n\nThe problem is I have crippling anxiety about this and either feel like a creep (especially when someone may not remember me at first) or like I'm bothering them, even though the majority of these interactions go fairly well.\n\nI've recently gotten close with a professor in a mentor type of relationship and sometimes I feel like I might be bothering him with my presence but I don't know why. (From what I can tell, he doesn't mind a bit, or he's just really polite and good at not showing that it's bothering him.) \n\nI even have an acquaintance from a class I took a few semesters ago that I sometimes get coffee with, but I always feel weird when it's my turn to ask her for coffee, and I always see her on campus and I'm afraid she'll think I'm like following her around. \n\nI know this is weird, and most probably all in my head, but I can't shake this feeling no matter how hard I try. I've had friends before, and I've always felt self conscious around others, but never on this level. I'd really appreciate some help. ", "How to stop feeling like I'm bothering people by being friendly? I'm at university, and I try to strike up conversations in extracurriculars or in the hallway with familiar faces, like \"You're in my x class, right?\" Or if we're familiar, \"How'd you feel about that test/assignment?\" Normal stuff, no?\n\nThe problem is I have crippling anxiety about this and either feel like a creep (especially when someone may not remember me at first) or like I'm bothering them, even though the majority of these interactions go fairly well.\n\nI've recently gotten close with a professor in a mentor type of relationship and sometimes I feel like I might be bothering him with my presence but I don't know why. (From what I can tell, he doesn't mind a bit, or he's just really polite and good at not showing that it's bothering him.) \n\nI even have an acquaintance from a class I took a few semesters ago that I sometimes get coffee with, but I always feel weird when it's my turn to ask her for coffee, and I always see her on campus and I'm afraid she'll think I'm like following her around. \n\nI know this is weird, and most probably all in my head, but I can't shake this feeling no matter how hard I try. I've had friends before, and I've always felt self conscious around others, but never on this level. I'd really appreciate some help. " ]

[ "Prozac.\n\nI'm not actually kidding. Either you're in a country with socialized medicine, or your school offers some sort of psychological counseling.\n\nAs someone with various types of anxiety issues, as well as a few other psychological issues, I can honestly say that getting on medications was the best life decision I've ever made.\n\nThere are a lot of options that won't make you feel drugged, and you need a good doctor to help you find the right combinations, but you'll never really know how to act socially until you've managed your anxiety first - even if it is just a mild case/mild medication.", "Normal small talk like that only works in dramas, movies and other TV shows. 80% of the time they might think you're trying to flirt / hit on them. I recently transferred to a new school and I just joke around and stuff in class and people start approaching me, asking me questions and stuff. Just do something that will make you happy because when people see you enjoying, they will come to you and try to join because who doesn't like being happy, right? Good luck!" ]

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Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance.", "How to incorporate more vegetables into diet without just eating salads? Hate salads, but want to eat healthier. Willing to cook. Thanks in advance." ]

[ "I hate salads too. \n\nSmoothies are a really easy way to get fruits and veggies. I do spinach, strawberries, blueberries, some yogurt, a little bit of milk, and if I've worked out that day I throw in some vanilla flavored protein powder. If it's too thick then I just water it down with cool water.\n\nOther options: \n\n* There are tons of veggie soup recipes on the interwebs\n\n* Try chopping up and throwing some spinach into basically everything you eat. It doesn't taste too strong so it's a nice addition to sandwiches, soups, etc.\n\n* Hummus. Enough said. For added points, eat it with carrots.\n\n* There are a ton of recipes for making chips or noodles out of vegetables. Check out pinterest.", "[Roasted vegetables are amazing.](http://allrecipes.com/recipes/16382/side-dish/vegetables/roasted-vegetables/)\n\n[Roasted cabbage sounds insane and tastes insanely delicious.](http://wellnessmama.com/5909/roasted-cabbage-slices/)", "You could try finding ways to incorporate veggies into the foods you already eat also. Mac and cheese is good with many different veggies in it: cauliflower, carrots, spinach, etc. ", "Don't buy fresh yet, you wont cook them as you aren't in the habit of cooking them, and you'll waste food and your money. Buy mixed frozen veg to start. Microwave on high in a plastic tub covered in cling film for five minutes and you have instant veggies.\n\nMaking a pie? Add some of your mixed veggies.\n\nCasserole? Mixed veggies in the pot too.\n\nPizza? Microwave those veggies and dump them on top, grate a little extra cheese and viola.\n\nPasta? Microwave those veggies and mix them in with the sauce. Cheese, meat, tomato, it all works.\n\nYou can get all sorts of different mixes, but a peas, carrots and sweetcorn mix is a very solid staple to have in the freezer. You can get great bags of the stuff for dirt cheap and it does wonders for every sort of meal. I've got almost half my freezer full of bags of different combinations, and it's great for the grocery bill too, because they stay good for weeks and weeks.", "Replace snacks like chips with vegetables and dip. \n\nStir Fry - you can put basically anything in stir fry, then just serve it over brown rice.\n\nPasta - Mushroom/Bell Pepper/Celery/Carrot/Spinach/Kale/etc. you can get a ton of vegtables into pasta, you won't even taste the kale or spinach if you chop it up small. \n\nReplace dishes with potatoes with Yams/sweet potatoes.\n\nHave vegetables as a side. Meat + Veggies is a pretty easy dish. Have a salad as well if you want", "I used to be you. Now we take italian squash, potatoes, green onions, mushrooms, and even collards or kale. How, cut and throw them on the roasting pan painted with a little gee, salt, pepper, garlic, paprika. Low broil, flip them over, now add your meat right on top of the whole thing, broil some more, dump and eat!", "Roast a big batch of veg in olive oil and crushed garlic cloves so they're caramelized and tasty. (I like to do a large dice of sweet potato, carrot, cauliflower, broccoli, some onion, parsnip, butternut squash, zucchini, whatever else is in the fridge.)\n\nServe your entree on a bed of these veg. Add them to an omelet for breakfast. Mix the leftovers into some quinoa or rice pilaf with a squeeze of halal white sauce and some lemon juice for lunch.", "Introduce yourself to sugar peas. \n\nRaw, in the pod, delicious, vitamins and fiber, fuck yeah! Give peas a chance.", "Ever try a veggitti? Shreds things like zucchini that you can use like pasta. Also, I grill or roast veggies to give them more texture. ", "Incorporate sides into your meals. Carrots, mixed veggies, whatever. [Something like this](https://www.birdseye.com/vegetable-products/steamfresh-pure-simple-blends/mixed-vegetables) is super easy to make and works with a lot of dishes.", "Easiest meal - Chicken, mixed vegetables and whatever sauce you want. I just add Frank's Red Hot to the chicken and make a buffalo stir-fry. ", "* Substitute veggies for pasta and rice as much as possible, even if you can only stand half veggie half regular pasta/rice at first. Veggies won't substitute 100% perfectly for all recipes but you can experiment with different sauces and dishes. A great place to start is recipes for spaghetti squash and cauliflower rice. \n* Continuing last tip, you can also get a [cheap spiralizer](http://www.amazon.com/Kitchen-Active®-Spiralizer-Zucchini-Spaghetti/dp/B00VO8T8CS/ref=sr_1_14?s=kitchen&ie=UTF8&qid=1453228321&sr=1-14&keywords=spiralizer) and make noodles and rice with veggies like sweet potatoes, beets, carrots, zucchini. I have this [spiralizer cookbook](http://www.amazon.com/Inspiralized-Vegetables-Healthy-Creative-Satisfying/dp/0804186839/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1453228525&sr=8-1&keywords=inspiralized+cookbook) and I love it!\n* Finally, research and find some veggie recipes that go with the main dishes you like to cook! Steamed, boiled, and canned veggies can have a taste and texture that discourages eating vegetables. Buy fresh veggies and sauté or bake them with \"unheathy\" ingredients like bacon, prosciutto, oil, or butter in moderation. \n\nHope that helps!", "Roast your vegetables with olive oil, salt, and pepper. Seriously makes a world of difference. Favorites are brussels sprouts, carrots, broccoli. But there are a ton others", "Roast them. Seriously it's easy and if done properly it makes veggies god like.\n\nOlive oil, salt and pepper at 425 and don't overcrowd the pan. \n\nI just ate roast carrots for dinner instead of bacon.", "One thing I've done since losing 300 lbs is maintain a healthy diet. It wasn't easy at first, but eventually I found a technique that gets me to eat all the foods I otherwise would avoid. I went to the local costo and bought myself one of those new Occulous Rifts. I built myself a basic app that allows me to sit in a VR kitchen at a table and pretend to eat a big piece of cake. The great thing is that it's not real, so I only gain virtual reality weight... At the same time I cook up a nice batch of veggies and eat those in real life as i eat the cake in VR. This way it seems like I'm eating cake but really eating vegitables. Good way to incorporate more vegetables into your diet without too much work. All you need is a few thousand dollars and some knowledge in computer coding and 3d modeling. ", "I personally like meat sauces. Pretty much just making ground beef pasta sauce but add lots of veggies (i personally buy bulk frozen broccolli, carrots etc,) Easy to store and freeze for later times and goes with pretty much everything (pasta, rice, bread, tortillas etc)", "I just add more (larger quantities and more types) into any recipe that it's reasonable to do that with.\n\nPasta casserole - make it so that there's just as many cooked veggies as pasta and meat.\n\nStir fry - that one's easy.\n\nFried Rice - Should look more green than ricey (broccoli, peas, edamame, zucchini, green onions, etc.)\n\nSandwich - Make a nice slaw or salad with tangy dressing and layer it on thick with a thin layer of meat. A little mayo on the bread to make a barrier.\n\nBreakfast - yeah, no veggies here, just eat some eggs. Stay away from the carbs. I think sriracha is a vegetable, so maybe I'm good there.\n\nOn a budget? Go to [Budget Bytes](http://www.budgetbytes.com/) and look through her stuff. Good, cheap, easy recipes there. Just add more veggies than she calls for. The one on the front page today..Chicken skillet with olives and orzo. I'd just quick-steam some broccoli or stir fry some green beans and toss in there (or add some frozen veggies). Maybe even some chopped chard or kale. That would cook down nicely in there. You may have to adjust the seasoning more when you're done, but that's how I get more veggies in my diet.", "You can usually incorporate them into smoothies and juices. You can actually buy orange and carrot smoothies and they taste great! Never tried making one for myself though.", "You can put almost any veggie in a taco. Corn, carrots, radish, zucchini, cauliflower, peppers, onions, sweet potato, spinach, cabbage. Just saute any of those suckers with onion and garlic, add your meat or beans, put all your toppings on, and you won't even notice them.", "Without a doubt, [Thug Kitchen](http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/s/ref=is_s/183-3406304-1205338?k=thug+kitchen). I already eat vegetables regularly but usually as fairly boring side dishes. This changed my perspective on cooking healthy and was a lucky find due to an unruly night drunk Amazoning.\n\nThe tagline \"Eat Like You Give a F*ck\" definitely got my attention.", "With eggs for breakfast! Every other week I cut up a big green and red pepper, a red onion, and spinach and mix it all it a Tupperware before seasoning it with garlic and pepper. Then each morning I start with a scoop of that on a frying pan before adding and egg or two. Makes a great health breakfast ", "Why do you hate salads? There are a lot of them you can't hate them all. \n\nRoasted Brussel sprouts \n\nPureed cauliflower \n\nSteamed broccoli (microwave makes this really fast) \n\nStewed peas and carrots \n\nBoiled kale \n\nSautéed anything with garlic\n\nThere are a ton of different combinations out there, alot of them delicious. As an avid meat eater I even made delicious vegan ramen the other day. ", "Whenever a recipe calls for a diced onion to be fried off as a base, I always finely dice & add the same amount (or even more) of mushroom. \n\nCheap. Nutritious. Easy. Unnoticeable! ", "Whenever I make a meat sauce for pasta i.e. bolognese I add celery and carrots. I shred 1/2 a cup of carrots and 1/2 of celery.\n\nI take a tablespoon of butter and sauté the one onion for about 4 minutes on med heat then add my two garlic cloves minced for about \n2 minutes and then add the celery and carrots. Add ground meat of choice. After meat has cooked I add tomato paste and sauce and let it simmer for about 45 mins. If I have red wine on hand I'll add half a cup for more flavor. Pastas are a great way to incorporate veggies.\n\nIf you make a pesto, with the pasta add some corn and zucchini that has been cooked in some butter. Adds great texture.\n", "When the weather is warm I like to grill asparagus, squash, broccoli, corn, broccolini, or Brussels sprouts alongside whatever I'm grilling for dinner. Now that the snow if flying I cook a lot of different vegetables in a cheap bamboo steamer placed on top of a pot of boiling water. \n\nWe also eat a fair bit of stir fry. Steak and cabbage is really good, as is beef and broccoli. Chicken and broccoli is also good. They reheat well too, so you can get a couple meals out of a batch.\n\nThis recipe is really tasty and easy:http://www.food.com/recipe/the-best-easy-beef-and-broccoli-stir-fry-99476\n\n", "When I make pasta, I add fresh spinach, kale, Brussels sprouts, peppers, mushrooms, and/or avocado to the sauce. You can take a whole ripe avocado, mash it up, add it to the pasta sauce, and it's real good. You can put just about any veggies in a pasta sauce and it'll be good. Same thing with rice. I just dump the veggies with the tomato sauce into the pot with the cooked, strained pasta and heat it up until the sauce and veggies are hot. Or I put them in the rice when it's almost finished simmering and there's just a little water left and they'll be heated by the time it's done. ", "When I make a big batch of pasta sauce I make sure to use my immersion blender to blend in carrots and celery and whatever other veg, adds so much flavor and can trick anyone. Remember that veg is your friend, and it is flavor, the key to flavor town is always vegetables, never forget that, as I began to learn how to develop flavors I really cut back on meat, simply because you don't need meat to make something taste good. Ratatouille is a really great start to see the power of vegetable flavor.", "We've had a lot of luck recently making veggie/fruit roll ups in a food dehydrator. With a few frozen berries, cook kale, spinach, bok choi, beets, carrots, squash, etc. gently until soft then blend thoroughly. Maybe add a little honey. Spread on a dehydrator tray, dry and then enjoy. Our kids love the results and are eating more veggies than ever with very little added sugar. ", "We aim for at least two vegetable dishes at our evening meals\n\n1. Stir fried in oil, salt and garlic: almost everything under the sun (easiest is a packed of mixed veges)\n\n2. Steamed: Broccoli, Cauliflower, Spinach\n\n3. Boiled carrots, peas and beans\n\n4. Roasted: Carrots, beetroot, onions, garlic cloves\n\n5. Grilled: Aubergine, Mushrooms\n\nYou can boiling one thing (like carrots), and steam another (broccoli) in the same pot.\n\nThe key to making veges nice is to eat them with salt (and fat from meat).", "Vegetarian Pizza, Sauteed Veggies, Grilled Veggies... There are countless vegetarian recipes that are fantastic (Ratatoullie, Pastas, Eggplant Parm, etc.). There are also a lot of recipes that call for both a protein and a veggie, and you can just sub more veggies for less protein or replace entirely. \n\nJust subbing mushrooms or eggplant for a protein works great in a lot of recipes as well. They are very hearty and you won't really miss that steak or chicken.", "Vegetable curries, soups, stews, chinese dishes, ramen, vegetable omelettes, pasta. I find the key with vegetables is find cuisines where it isn't dominated by a plate of meat and two veg, where the veggies are boring sides to the dish. They need to be a core part of the plate. Go to a greengrocer and buy lots of interesting and in-season veg and try and use them in as many interesting ways as you can. ", "Usually the first meal I eat is raw vegetables and fruits. Carrots, celery with peanut butter (I prefer Smucker's Natural because it only contains peanuts and salt- no additional oils,) mushrooms, kale (raw kale is so good for you) parsnips sometimes, grapes, apples, citrus, bananas, and when in season blue berries, blackberries, and strawberries. It's easier to eat the raw vegetables when you can eat sweet fruit with it.", "The best advice I've ever received about dieting is to find foods that you enjoy that also fit your nutrition goals. I also am not a fan of salads but broccoli and green beans are bae. Just find veggies that you personally enjoy, and never copy someone else's diet because odds are you will hate it.", "Take your typical German potatoes (w/ onions cooked in a skillet), replace the potatoes with turnips, add carrots, make sure that you add the onions like 10-15 min after the carrots and turnips, and use a light to moderate amount of olive oil to coat the skillet instead of butter or vegetable oil. Takes ~30 min because the turnips and carrots take forever to soften.", "Surprised this has not been mentioned, but curry is a great way.\n\nTake a couple bottles of pre-made tikka masala, add chicken, red bell pepper, onion, tomato, carrots, baby corn, etc. etc. Almost any vegetable can be used in basic curry and \"bulks\" it up. You can make a very thick curry and skip the rice, which is basically sugar.", "Stews and curries ! As easy as dumping some nice fat in a big pot, then a pound or two of frozen veggies (diced onions, tomato quarters, peppers, carrot slices, shredded spinach, whatever), stir at times, add the meat and spices near the end.\n\nMake a big (3-4 lbs) batch on weekends, refrigerate or freeze for the rest of the week.", "Steamed veggies: super easy, tastes great, retains nutrients. Hey one of these things for like $5 (http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41Z7F5P8ZRL.jpg).\nYou can steam almost any veggie and it goes great with any meat.\nMy favorites are broccoli, brussels sprouts or choppedd bell peppers. To season just a bit of sea salt and BAM! Flavor town!", "Some good advice here, particularly the bit about substituting the more traditional/non-veggie portions of meals with vegetables. Just thought I'd add a couple of specific examples that I, personally, enjoy:\n\n**Eggplant lasagna**: Basically a stacked eggplant parmesan. Make it exactly the same way you'd make lasagna, only instead of the pasta, use eggplant. Prepare eggplant by slicing into ~1/2 inch rounds, brush with olive oil, sprinkle with salt and pepper, then bake on a cookie sheet in oven set to 375. Remove from oven a little before you judge them to be done (i.e., you don't want them too mushy as they'll cook again once in the lasagna), and layer into lasagna the same way you would pasta, and bake lasagna for a while longer. Even those who aren't typically big fans of eggplant seem to really enjoy this dish.\n\n**Stuffed peppers**: finely dice equal parts onion, mushroom, carrots, zucchini and saute in a frying pan along with some Italian sausage (sausage casing removed; contents broken up in pan while sauteing). Stuffing is best--I think--when mixture is 1 part sausage to 2 parts veg. I like this dish fairly spicy, so add chili powder and cayenne, along with some diced hot peppers/jalapeno. When everything is sauteed, remove some heat, stir in a bit of your favourite grated cheese, and spoon mixture into a pepper. Roast stuffed pepper in oven at 350-375 until pepper is cooked to your liking. Devour.", "Saute almost any veggie with onion and garlic, throw that sucker in a taco with meat or beans and all your normal toppings. Really good ones are sweet potato, radish, cabbage, carrot, cauliflower, and spinach.", "Roasted veggies with a bit of olive oil & salt is pretty delicious. Also soups, wraps, sandwiches, etc. Anywhere you can hide the veggies so it tricks your brain into thinking you're not really just eating veggies...", "Recently had to increase veggie intake and I find home made Hummus and raw cut veggies awesome and tasty. The hummus really makes me eat a lot of veggies that would normally taste boring.", "Pot roast carrots and potatos are amazing. You can even avoid the meat, just put a ton of carrots, potatos and a broth (beef) in a crock pot and cook on slow for 4-6 hours. ", "One rule that I use two ways: raspberries drown out the taste of baby spinach. Sounds gross, but bear with me here. Buy a massive bunch of baby spinach, mix with a little bit of water and blend it. Pour the mix into an ice cube tray and freeze it. I add these ice cubes into smoothies (frozen banana, BIG handful of raspberries some yoghurt and two of the spinach ice cubes makes a great smoothie) and my porridge in the morning (oats, water, 2 spinach cubes and mixed berries). Takes time to get your head around it, but it works for me (and my toddler). \nI also make carrot and pumpkin ice cubes and throw one of those into the porridge. They're sweet (for veggies) so it works well. Acquired taste, but works for me. Good luck! ", "My wife uses pureed squash in the cheese sauce for Mac and Cheese which is a good way to get the kids to eat their veggies. (Cheese sauce from scratch).\n\nI like veggies and hummus as a snack instead of chips.\n\nCasseroles are an easy way to add vegetables. Also pasta dishes with vegetables (squash, carrots, onions) in the sauce.\n\nVegetable kabobs on the grill is a favorite too.", "Mix a bunch of vegetables in a blender then freeze into ice cubes and then pop them into plastic bags so you can quickly add to dishes. Stuff like beets, dark greens, cabbage stuff very high in vitamins that way you don't have to chew through everything and you can't really taste it if you hate it. ", "Make Thai green curry. It's literally Thai green curry paste + coconut milk. Load it with veggies and it all tastes amazing. Especially with broccoli and butternut squash.\n\nOr make omelettes with veggies! If you want more flavor, dice up a little bit of chorizo and fry it with the veggies before you add the eggs. It's great!\n\n\nAnother suggestion is smoothies? ", "Learn to sauté vegetables. This morning I had a third of an onion, a bell pepper, two small handfuls of spinach, and a clove of garlic, sautéed. It's delicious. It was an enormous plate of food and not very many calories. \n\nLearn to make vegetable soups. Get some bouillon, put it in water, chop up some carrots, onion, and celery, boil until they're soft to your liking and then maybe add some leafy greens to wilt in. Boom, vegetable soup in about 10 minutes. \n\nMake your own salsa. Chopped tomatoes, onion, jalapeños, and garlic with some cumin and lime juice, is a fine base for a salsa, and is all vegetables. Start there and add other types of peppers as you experiment.", "It really depends on how your meals are usually structured.\n\nMy meals are generally a portion of protein and a side of roasted/steamed/sauteed veggies. Mix up the protein. Mix up the type of veggie. Mix up the spices used for flavoring. The iterations are plentiful enough to not tire of what you're eating.", "If you normally eat pepperoni pizza, toss a can of black olives on it. It's delicious as fuck, and your getting veggies to boot. Also, always get diced tomatoes on your pizza if possible.", "If you like grilling, buy a grill pan with half inch diameter holes. Cut up your veg. (Carrots, onion, bell pepper, squash, zucchini, cherry tomatoes, etc.) in a mixing bowl combine liquid smoke, garlic powder, red wine vinegar, pepper, olive oil mix with veg. Put on the grill until done. It's great!!!", "I'd recommend looking up some vegetarian/vegan recipes for your favourite foods, as a springboard for ideas. They'll often use more vegetables to make up for the lack of meat and you can always add the meat back into the recipe if you want to.\n\nMy favourite is spag bol. I replace the mince with aduki beans and then there are onions and tomatoes hidden in the sauce. Muchos veggies but still tasty.", "I tend to eat a lot of fresh shop bought soup for lunch with bread, which tend to have a lot of vegetables in them. \n\nI also have vegetables in pasta and stir fry, and recently bought a spiraliser to make courgetti to replace spaghetti in some meals.\n\nThere are some tasty vegetable sides which are good to add to normal meals, and although not super healthy are delicious.\n\nhttp://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/ina-garten/broccoli-with-garlic-and-soy-sauce-recipe3.html\n\nhttp://www.bbc.co.uk/food/recipes/braisedsavoycabbagew_68087\n\nhttp://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/358608/cauliflower-cheese", "I started mixing chopped veg and fruit together with nuts and bran for breakfast, sometimes just veg and olive oil, but you can incorporate yogurt, leftover rice, whatever. Took some getting used to but a meal can be whatever, whenever if you want it to be. Eating a bowl of this stuff at 6:00 a.m. I'm good to go for at least six hours.", "I start off my day with 4 cups of chopped kale sauteed with a little garlic and oil, topped with 2 eggs. And toast. More greens than most ppl eat in a day, just in breakfast. It sautees down to a much smaller portion size and is delicious!", "I make sauce for spaghetti/lasagna/whatever from scratch and add a lot of veggies. With a food processor, just chuck in any vegetables you have on hand. You can add onion, mushroom, peppers. Carrots, zucchini, cauliflower, broccoli, etc. Throw a can of whole tomatoes into the processor until you're at the consistency you want, and add it to the pan. Don't forget to season to your liking. You'll have a great sauce that's packed with nutrition and taste better than any can/jar!", "I make broth from turkey or chicken bones. I strain out the bones then add as much chopped carrot, onion and celery as I can. Boil until tender - then put it through a blender. This is a cheating way of making \"cream of\" soup without the cream. Then add whatever you want in the soup for \"chunks\". I sometimes use more turkey or chicken with chunks of onion and carrot. I also make pea soup this way with chunks of ham or bacon.", "I make an egg bake every week for breakfasts--generally about 6-8 eggs, fresh shredded sweet potato (I use one that's about the size of my fists side-by-side), bag of chopped spinach/kale, and one 'chub' of turkey sausage (gotta cook that up first). Season to taste, spread it out in a 9x13 pan, and cook til done. Generally gets be about 2 weeks' worth of breakfast, and you never notice the veg. ", "I make all kinds of gazpachos with various veggies and drink 'em like smoothies. My body craves a day of veggie smoothies about once a week...feels really good and really cleans the bowels out too.", "I like to roast vegetables. One of my go-to's is red onion, bell pepper, zucchini, broccoli, beans, seasoning (olive oil, soy sauce, chili powder, paprika, cumin, garlic, lime juice) in 450F oven for 30-40 minutes. Perfect every time - except when I burn myself and drop the pan on the floor. Add some sweet potato for some extra carbs.\n\n10/10\n\n12/10 with rice", "I have a rice cooker that has a steamer section on top (basically a metal tray that sits above the rice but below the lid) for steaming veggies. I buy frozen, chopped veggies (broccoli, etc) and throw them in the top tray, load the rice and water up in the bottom, and plug it in. 20ish minutes later I have a meal. ", "I hate salads, but I like to eat lettuce wraps. Lettuce actually makes a pretty good tortilla. I also like to replace starches with squash or eggplant. Eggplant lasagna is amazing and squash is great with marinara. Also, you can eat pasta with zucchini noodles. I haven't tried that yet, but I'm excited to.", "I find soups are the best way for me to get my veggies. I make a big pot full of veggie goodness, eat some fresh, freeze a bunch in plastic containers and throw some in the fridge.\n\nA bowl of soup before your dinner is great.", "I drink Green Superfood and use a water flavorer in it\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Amazing-Grass-SuperFood-Original-Servings/dp/B00112ILZM/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1453240641&sr=8-3&keywords=green+superfood", "I don't really eat salads either. I tend to stick to vegetables that are tasty by their own merit.\nBroccoli (steam/boil that ish with some butter and lemon) and asparagus (prepared pretty much any way) are my go tos. Roasted cauliflower is pretty bomb, as are brussel sprouts (seriously they get a bad rap). Green beans, snow peas, and sugar snap peas are also delicious and can be boiled, roasted, fried, whatever.", "I blend them up and drink them. It's the only way for me to enjoy raw vegetables. I cr", "Grilled vegetables! If it is too cold to grill, you can also put a lot of them in the oven for delicious flavor. Google some recipes. ", "Get a juicer? Watch [Fat, Sick, and Nearly Dead](http://www.fatsickandnearlydead.com) on Netflix and he explains on there. ", "Get a good vegetarian cookbook and add meat to the recipes you like. Most vegetarian/vegan meals won't just be a salad. So instead of finding a way to add vegetables to your meat, you can just add meat to vegetable heavy meals. ", "Get a Moosewood and/or Mollie Katzen cookbook. Just about anything can be roasted in olive oil and soy sauce. Vegetables are actually really, really tasty -- when you know how to cook them. ", "Frozen chopped spinach leaves. You can put that shit in everything. Add it to soups, spaghetti and pizza sauce, eggs, rice dishes, and more. It kind of takes on the flavor of whatever it's in, so doesn't have an overpowering flavor of its own. We did this quite a bit to \"sneak\" veggies into the kid when he was anti-veggies.", "Fresh green peppers taste awesome in chili / on pizza / cut up w deli meat. \n\nAlso avocado tastes awesome with chili and deli meat as well. ", "Forgot to add brussel sprouts. \n\nThis is a very simple, quick recipe my college roommates and I did a lot. You'd think brussel sprouts are blah, but this recipe changes everyone's minds. They get much softer, juicer, and much less bitter: \n\nhttp://whatsgabycooking.com/sauteed-brussels-sprouts/\n\nI recommend not waiting for the underside to brown so much--just lightly browning. Sautéing it around is unnecessary (do it only for a quick mix of ingredients); just leave the halves' flat parts facing down. A pan lid does the job much quicker. To really get the flavor in there, I also recommend butter/olive oil/garlic are placed first before sprouts and everything else. Salt is unnecessary in my opinion b/c of Lemon's taste; we always find a way to get salt from other sources anyway. You also don't need red pepper flakes if you don't have any. Garlic can be crushed, minced, however you want.. \n\nUse light-tasting olive oil for cooking, not extra virgin. \n\nI'm a graduating nutrition person that enjoys quick healthy recipes lol", "Flash frozen vegetables are super easy to make as a side. Add to a bowl, put plastic wrap on top, nuke for 4-5 minutes. Boom. Grilled chicken breast with peas and some potatoes. Small piece of steak with some corn and potatoes. Salmon with some carrots and rice.\n\nI hate most vegetables from a can. Corn being the exception. Buy your mushrooms fresh. Always.", "First tip: Indian food. Lots and lots of vegetarian options *that taste great* \nThey have really mastered using spices. This alone can really jack up your veggie intake.\n\nSecond: Stir fry. I *loooove* sir fry so damn much. You can add just about anything to it. \n\nFinally: Frozen corn. Get a bag. Add some to pretty much everything. Instant ramen? Add corn. Scrambled eggs? Corn. Stir fry? Damn right. Chili? Steak? Ham? Mac and Cheese? Casserole? \n\nAdd some corn. ", "Drop a whole broccoli in a bowl.\n\nCut thick stem out so the pieces separate.\n\nPlace a couple spoons of water in bottom and place in microwave for 3 mins. This steams it super quick.\n\nOnce done carefully pour out water then take butter and drizzle over top. Add salt and pepper.\n\nBest snack ever!", "Chop any vegetable small and add it to lots of things. Even things that don't seem to need veggies added. When the fridge is empty of fresh veggies, have some carrots or sweet potatoes on hand. When those are gone, toss a few lentils in any rice dish. They take about the same time to cook.\n", "Chicken salad wraps. There's quite a few veggies I won't eat on the side, but in a wrap with sauce and chicken they're really nice. \n\nI usually have grated carrot, celery and some rocket with a bit of aioli. ", "Buy the pasta that's like 25% spinach/kale or whatever. Get your serving of veggies and I swear it tastes exactly the same as regular pasta.", "Buy a low-fat fancy dip & a bag of celery (or any vegetable that can be eaten raw).\n\nSteam some veggies (I like those pre-bagged bunches) in a rice cooker (use the steamer basket that tends to be bought with rice cooker). It only needs about 5 mins or less to get steamed up so be sure to turn it off manually. I like to wait until the broccoli ones look a juicy bright green.", "Are you looking for fiber or general micronutrients? \n\nIf you're not particularly looking for fiber, try juicing your vegetables into a fruit juice.\n\nGet a juicer. ", "Add shredded carrots, zuchinni, kale, spinach, to scrambled eggs or omelettes and sauces like spaghetti or stew. For both stews and soups, you can add even more veg plus those already mentioned celery, tomatoes, sweet potato, parsnips, green beans, peas. I'm not a broccoli fan, but I like cauliflower and you can 'rice' it by putting it raw, in a food processor. You can then steam it and serve it like rice or even mixed with rice or quinoa. \n\nUse spaghetti squash instead of or in addition to, pasta.\n\nYou can bake some kale to dry it and sprinkle it on potatoes and just about anything.\n\nRoast sweet potatoes, broccoli, cauliflower, asparagus, onions, kale, Brussels sprouts, with chicken, pork or beef roasts. BBQ too.", "Wraps: once a week, buy a load of vegetables, chop them up, and put them in Tupperware. Now take some deli meat, a sauce, and your prepared veggies, wrap them up in a tortilla, and have a fast and healthy lunch.\n\nVeggies that work: lettuce, tomato, onion, bell peppers, pickled jalapeños, cucumber, shredded carrot, pickles, thin sliced radishes, very thin sliced fennel, avocado, canned beans, sprouts.\n\nPick a few and make changes week to week to keep it interesting. this is my daily lunch and, as long as I get one solid blast of veggies in a meal, I feel better that day.", "I think the key is to not use canned vegetables. I grew up in a family that made canned vegetables. I thought they were terrible. Then I married a lady who cooked frozen or fresh vegetables. Wow. It was a world of difference. So just try cooking frozen broccoli or frozen green beans. ", "Serious question, why don't you just cook and eat vegetables? Is there something you don't like about them?", "...eat vegetables?\n\nSeriously though how do you expect advice on how to eat certain foods... You just eat them..." ]

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[ "cleaning your headlights cheaply! Anyone know how to get rid of the fog on your headlights of your car? Mine started fogging and I don't want to spend 30$ on a packet of crap that probably won't work. ", "cleaning your headlights cheaply! Anyone know how to get rid of the fog on your headlights of your car? Mine started fogging and I don't want to spend 30$ on a packet of crap that probably won't work. ", "cleaning your headlights cheaply! Anyone know how to get rid of the fog on your headlights of your car? Mine started fogging and I don't want to spend 30$ on a packet of crap that probably won't work. ", "cleaning your headlights cheaply! Anyone know how to get rid of the fog on your headlights of your car? Mine started fogging and I don't want to spend 30$ on a packet of crap that probably won't work. ", "cleaning your headlights cheaply! Anyone know how to get rid of the fog on your headlights of your car? Mine started fogging and I don't want to spend 30$ on a packet of crap that probably won't work. ", "cleaning your headlights cheaply! Anyone know how to get rid of the fog on your headlights of your car? Mine started fogging and I don't want to spend 30$ on a packet of crap that probably won't work. ", "cleaning your headlights cheaply! Anyone know how to get rid of the fog on your headlights of your car? Mine started fogging and I don't want to spend 30$ on a packet of crap that probably won't work. ", "cleaning your headlights cheaply! Anyone know how to get rid of the fog on your headlights of your car? Mine started fogging and I don't want to spend 30$ on a packet of crap that probably won't work. ", "cleaning your headlights cheaply! Anyone know how to get rid of the fog on your headlights of your car? Mine started fogging and I don't want to spend 30$ on a packet of crap that probably won't work. ", "cleaning your headlights cheaply! Anyone know how to get rid of the fog on your headlights of your car? Mine started fogging and I don't want to spend 30$ on a packet of crap that probably won't work. ", "cleaning your headlights cheaply! Anyone know how to get rid of the fog on your headlights of your car? Mine started fogging and I don't want to spend 30$ on a packet of crap that probably won't work. ", "cleaning your headlights cheaply! Anyone know how to get rid of the fog on your headlights of your car? Mine started fogging and I don't want to spend 30$ on a packet of crap that probably won't work. ", "cleaning your headlights cheaply! Anyone know how to get rid of the fog on your headlights of your car? Mine started fogging and I don't want to spend 30$ on a packet of crap that probably won't work. ", "cleaning your headlights cheaply! Anyone know how to get rid of the fog on your headlights of your car? Mine started fogging and I don't want to spend 30$ on a packet of crap that probably won't work. " ]

[ "WHOA, the guy down there (or up there depending on how you guys vote me) says start with 150 grit. For GLASS maybe, but not for most plastic headlight assemblies. Unless you like burn marks all over your headlights. \n\nHere's the fix, and the only one I've ever got to work. It's essentially a DIY version of the 3M Headlight Restoration Kit. \n\n* 500 Grit Wet Sand (on a drill or power sander if you can)\n* 800 Grit Wet Sand\n* 1500 Grit Wet Sand\n* 3000 Grit (3M makes a good one)\n* Plastic Polish or Polishing Compound\n* Wax\n", "All those cleaners and stuff that they advertise work but then it comes right back and is harder to clean off than ever. \n\nIt's caused by the bulbs getting too hot in the housing and baking dirt and moisture on the surface of the headlight. The best way to permanently fix it is to get a set of aftermarket headlights that are not susceptible to this. If the fog is on the inside then it's caused by moisture getting into the housing and you need to replace it anyway. \n\n", "150 grit -> 250 grit -> 600 grit -> 1000 grit ->1500 grit -> Mineral Spirits coat -> Polyurethane coat\n\n[Read](http://www.reddit.com/r/AutoDetailing/comments/22ed94/sanded_all_my_cars_headlights_today_only_pictured/)", "Www.partsgeek.com\n\nYou can get replacement lights relatively cheap and they come with bulbs. I own a fleet of vehicles. We just bought 24 headlights rather than polish plastic for days. Once you polish them the UV coating is gone so they turn to crap again quickly.", "My experience with fogged (plastic) headlamps was to use Meguiar's \"Plast-X\". If the toothpaste thing doesn't work, give that stuff a shot. It does form a coating of sorts, so I usually redid it once or twice a year.", "After resurfacing my headlights, buying kits, working for hours on it, it would look OKAY for a while, but the damage accelerates. \n\nThen I realized that I can buy a brand new headlight for $40 on ebay, a much better idea.", "http://www.walmart.com/ip/3M-Headlight-Restoration-Kit/13023890 15 bucks its what they use in walmart tle to do the job for 30. Its simple to do if you have a drill and can read.\n", "http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B001TI5IIQ\nTurtle wax \nI was skeptical about the cheapest product but it blew me away. There's a video review in there I did somewhere. Can't link from my phone.", "[The reviews on this are really good.](http://www.3mdirect.co.uk/3m-headlight-restoration-kit-39073.html#review)", "There's many cheap headlight cleaners in autozone just ask an employee all the brands I've used have the same effectiveness from my experience", "Recently did this. Wet and dry sandpaper, as fine as possible. And then t-cut for an hour. Your arm will hurt but it'll throw out the correct patterns", "I tried toothpaste once and it didn't do shit, not even a little.\n\nI don't think toothpaste is a good idea at all. I'd do any of the other suggestions posted instead, even if they're more involved.", "I have done both toothpaste and the Kits and I have found:\n\nBottom line? Toothpaste will work but requires way more effort.\n\nI suggest this kit: http://www.canadiantire.ca/en/pdp/3m-lens-renewal-kit-0475600p.html#.U21R3vldWSo or a kit like it.\n\n...as you hook it up to a drill and let the drill do the work for you.\n\nThe time you save and the fact you can use this more then once on more then one vehicle makes it worth the money. \n", "I've done this to an old Honda I owned. Bucket of water with 1000, 1500, then 2000 grit sand paper. Then any kind of polishing compound (the one I used was for wheels). You wouldn't have believed they were the same headlights. Went from clouded yellow to crystal clear with a couple hours and a little elbow grease. All for $0, because I already had the supplies in the garage." ]

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[ "How to stop my hair from getting matted and tangled I have shoulder length thick and wavy hair. Every morning I wake up and it's impossible to run my fingers through my hair because of how knotted and tangled it gets and I'm quite worried I'm going to end up damaging my hair in the long run. I've tried brushing it more often and using conditioner but nothing seems to be working.", "How to stop my hair from getting matted and tangled I have shoulder length thick and wavy hair. Every morning I wake up and it's impossible to run my fingers through my hair because of how knotted and tangled it gets and I'm quite worried I'm going to end up damaging my hair in the long run. I've tried brushing it more often and using conditioner but nothing seems to be working.", "How to stop my hair from getting matted and tangled I have shoulder length thick and wavy hair. Every morning I wake up and it's impossible to run my fingers through my hair because of how knotted and tangled it gets and I'm quite worried I'm going to end up damaging my hair in the long run. I've tried brushing it more often and using conditioner but nothing seems to be working." ]

[ "Before you go to bed, braid it. Put a braid on each side instead of the back so you can still lay down without any braid bumps. My daughter gets horrible matted k it’s in her hair, and I braid hers nightly so it isn’t so knotty in the morning.", "Hey there, I’m a hairstylist and recommend a couple things - \n\n\nOn a day you wash your hair, part your hair with a comb from front to back and ear to ear (over top of your head) so you have four sections. Work each section, you can split these sections again if you need to, from the ends to the root. You can use a “wet brush” or “detangling brush” since they have flexible bristles they won’t break your hair if you hit a snag. This will help to really detangle before you wash and also help loosen any flakes dirt or oil that are deep in your hair.\n\nNext, gently shampoo your hair - most of your washing should focus on your scalp and mid-lengths. Don’t suds it all up and rub it all crazy and pile it on your head. Just massage your scalp for a minute or two with your hair hanging down, shampoo and rinse. Definitely repeat this step, but you can focus more on the mid length and ends to help all the stuff rom your scalp move out of the mid and ends.\n\nNext, in the shower, use conditioner on your whole head, again not piling it or agitating it, just massaging your scalp and using your fingers like a comb to get out any tangles. Do a cold rinse on just your hair if you want, this helps smooth the hair surface and will prevent tangles.\n\nNext up, get out of the shower and blot your hair dry with a towel- don’t turn it upside down and tie it in a towel bc that creates tangles. Don’t rub your hair back and forth with the towel - that creates tangles.\n\nOnce your hair is a little bit dry, not soaking wet from shower- part your hair in those 4 sections again use a leave in conditioner spray or cream on your mid length and ends. If your hair is super dry you can use some near the scalp but it might look greasy. Now again working those sections from the bottom up, with your wet or detangling brush, to loosen any tangles.\n\nIf you’re going to bed at this point, if your hair is wet you can GENTLY tie your hair back in a loose braids or if you’re heading out for the day finish up your styling. \n\nIf you can’t sleep with your hair tied then when you wake up in the morning lightly mist your hair with a mix of water and leave in conditioner and again split it, work from the bottom up and remove the tangles. You don’t have to saturate the hair but the liquid will provide the hair some\n“slip” so it can pull out of the tangle without breaking. Again you can use a wet or detangling brush but on dry wavy hair it might get puffy (also we use a little leave in spray)\n\nGenuinely hope this helps and if you have any questions message me.\n\n[this is my favorite brush ](https://www.amazon.com/Beauty-Wet-Epic-Quick-Brush/dp/B01BE8XJOK?ref_=ast_sto_dp)", "More conditioner. Leave.it in for a couple of minutes before rinsing. Select one that smooths instead of volume . Use more and experiment with a different brand and different shampoo (try Pantene of you want a supermarket brand). Also get a boars bristle brush (one with a few nylon bristles also) and use that to brush your hair in the morning instead of your hands. That detangles gently." ]

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[ "(serious) Car crash first responder/witness tips I have always thought it was weird that out of all the stupid things I have seen while driving, I never actually saw a car crash happen. Well the other day that changed!\n\nI witnessed a black SUV out of nowhere do a sharp \"turn\" left into the median/curb and flip over into the oncoming lane of traffic on the other side of the street. No other involved cars thank god but this one was flipped and I'm sure the guy got a few scratches to say the least.\n\nAnyway, I instinctively called 911 and was calm and collected and told them what i saw and exactly where I was even the lane direction they were in. Police were there in a matter of a minute or two, ambulance soon after.\n\n I can't help but feel I could have done much more in the mear minute or two it took for police to get there (there was a bunch of traffic at this time on a popular road, i saw it happen as well as im sure many others). \n\n**My request**; What steps should I take (or any other redditor) to help aid the first responders/emt in any way by passing on to the 911 dispatcher or telling them when they arrive? Feel for pulses? Check responsiveness? See if there are children involved? \n\nI am well aware of not to interfere or move someone unless absolutely necessary (ie; fire) as that can further damage them/paralyze them, and I do not have any training in CPR or Basic first aid -- So assuming the criteria, what could I do to help the parties involved in the crash and the first responders if I were the absolute first on the scene -- besides calling 911?\n\nThanks!\n\n**TL;DR** If and when I am the absolute first person to the scene of a (serious) car crash; What steps can I take to help the injured and/or the first responders when they arrive to make their job any easier/quicker? ", "(serious) Car crash first responder/witness tips I have always thought it was weird that out of all the stupid things I have seen while driving, I never actually saw a car crash happen. Well the other day that changed!\n\nI witnessed a black SUV out of nowhere do a sharp \"turn\" left into the median/curb and flip over into the oncoming lane of traffic on the other side of the street. No other involved cars thank god but this one was flipped and I'm sure the guy got a few scratches to say the least.\n\nAnyway, I instinctively called 911 and was calm and collected and told them what i saw and exactly where I was even the lane direction they were in. Police were there in a matter of a minute or two, ambulance soon after.\n\n I can't help but feel I could have done much more in the mear minute or two it took for police to get there (there was a bunch of traffic at this time on a popular road, i saw it happen as well as im sure many others). \n\n**My request**; What steps should I take (or any other redditor) to help aid the first responders/emt in any way by passing on to the 911 dispatcher or telling them when they arrive? Feel for pulses? Check responsiveness? See if there are children involved? \n\nI am well aware of not to interfere or move someone unless absolutely necessary (ie; fire) as that can further damage them/paralyze them, and I do not have any training in CPR or Basic first aid -- So assuming the criteria, what could I do to help the parties involved in the crash and the first responders if I were the absolute first on the scene -- besides calling 911?\n\nThanks!\n\n**TL;DR** If and when I am the absolute first person to the scene of a (serious) car crash; What steps can I take to help the injured and/or the first responders when they arrive to make their job any easier/quicker? ", "(serious) Car crash first responder/witness tips I have always thought it was weird that out of all the stupid things I have seen while driving, I never actually saw a car crash happen. Well the other day that changed!\n\nI witnessed a black SUV out of nowhere do a sharp \"turn\" left into the median/curb and flip over into the oncoming lane of traffic on the other side of the street. No other involved cars thank god but this one was flipped and I'm sure the guy got a few scratches to say the least.\n\nAnyway, I instinctively called 911 and was calm and collected and told them what i saw and exactly where I was even the lane direction they were in. Police were there in a matter of a minute or two, ambulance soon after.\n\n I can't help but feel I could have done much more in the mear minute or two it took for police to get there (there was a bunch of traffic at this time on a popular road, i saw it happen as well as im sure many others). \n\n**My request**; What steps should I take (or any other redditor) to help aid the first responders/emt in any way by passing on to the 911 dispatcher or telling them when they arrive? Feel for pulses? Check responsiveness? See if there are children involved? \n\nI am well aware of not to interfere or move someone unless absolutely necessary (ie; fire) as that can further damage them/paralyze them, and I do not have any training in CPR or Basic first aid -- So assuming the criteria, what could I do to help the parties involved in the crash and the first responders if I were the absolute first on the scene -- besides calling 911?\n\nThanks!\n\n**TL;DR** If and when I am the absolute first person to the scene of a (serious) car crash; What steps can I take to help the injured and/or the first responders when they arrive to make their job any easier/quicker? ", "(serious) Car crash first responder/witness tips I have always thought it was weird that out of all the stupid things I have seen while driving, I never actually saw a car crash happen. Well the other day that changed!\n\nI witnessed a black SUV out of nowhere do a sharp \"turn\" left into the median/curb and flip over into the oncoming lane of traffic on the other side of the street. No other involved cars thank god but this one was flipped and I'm sure the guy got a few scratches to say the least.\n\nAnyway, I instinctively called 911 and was calm and collected and told them what i saw and exactly where I was even the lane direction they were in. Police were there in a matter of a minute or two, ambulance soon after.\n\n I can't help but feel I could have done much more in the mear minute or two it took for police to get there (there was a bunch of traffic at this time on a popular road, i saw it happen as well as im sure many others). \n\n**My request**; What steps should I take (or any other redditor) to help aid the first responders/emt in any way by passing on to the 911 dispatcher or telling them when they arrive? Feel for pulses? Check responsiveness? See if there are children involved? \n\nI am well aware of not to interfere or move someone unless absolutely necessary (ie; fire) as that can further damage them/paralyze them, and I do not have any training in CPR or Basic first aid -- So assuming the criteria, what could I do to help the parties involved in the crash and the first responders if I were the absolute first on the scene -- besides calling 911?\n\nThanks!\n\n**TL;DR** If and when I am the absolute first person to the scene of a (serious) car crash; What steps can I take to help the injured and/or the first responders when they arrive to make their job any easier/quicker? ", "(serious) Car crash first responder/witness tips I have always thought it was weird that out of all the stupid things I have seen while driving, I never actually saw a car crash happen. Well the other day that changed!\n\nI witnessed a black SUV out of nowhere do a sharp \"turn\" left into the median/curb and flip over into the oncoming lane of traffic on the other side of the street. No other involved cars thank god but this one was flipped and I'm sure the guy got a few scratches to say the least.\n\nAnyway, I instinctively called 911 and was calm and collected and told them what i saw and exactly where I was even the lane direction they were in. Police were there in a matter of a minute or two, ambulance soon after.\n\n I can't help but feel I could have done much more in the mear minute or two it took for police to get there (there was a bunch of traffic at this time on a popular road, i saw it happen as well as im sure many others). \n\n**My request**; What steps should I take (or any other redditor) to help aid the first responders/emt in any way by passing on to the 911 dispatcher or telling them when they arrive? Feel for pulses? Check responsiveness? See if there are children involved? \n\nI am well aware of not to interfere or move someone unless absolutely necessary (ie; fire) as that can further damage them/paralyze them, and I do not have any training in CPR or Basic first aid -- So assuming the criteria, what could I do to help the parties involved in the crash and the first responders if I were the absolute first on the scene -- besides calling 911?\n\nThanks!\n\n**TL;DR** If and when I am the absolute first person to the scene of a (serious) car crash; What steps can I take to help the injured and/or the first responders when they arrive to make their job any easier/quicker? " ]

[ "Follow DRSABCD\n\nD= Check for danger first. Other traffic, fires, electrecution risk etc.\n\nR= Check to see if they are responding. First Talk to them and try to get them to communicate, can you hear me, can you blink etc. If they are unresponsive, flick their eyes gently. If they don't flinch at all it means their basic life support reactions aren't working and they are in serious shit.\n\nS= Send for help/ dial 911\n\nA= Check their airway, make sure it is open. If necessary clear vomit/ obstructions from airway.\n\nB= Check if they are breathing\n\nC=Circulation/CPR Do they have a pulse? when checking for pulse, use two fingers. If no pulse is found, commence CPR. CPR breath to compression ratio is 30:2 so 30 chest compressions to 2 breaths. When doing compressions, feel two ribs up and do it there. Do this roughly to the beat of that old staying alive song. (ah, ah, ah, ah, staying alive)\\\n\nD= Use a defibrillator. They are easy as shit to use. They have pictures of what to do and you just follow the voice prompts.\n\nNo matter what you do, nothing will always go to plan. Even if you are able to commence cpr on a person straight away, chances are they will die without a defibilrator. Also Do NOT do CPR on someone who has a pulse. It can kill them. Keep the victim calm. Talk to them. Try to distract them from whats happening. If their back is sore, hold their neck in place and DO NOT LET THEM MOVE IT. They could have spinal damage and their could be a great risk if they try to move. Accept the fact that after it is all over you may need counselling, depending on the severity of the accident. I have helped out at a couple of accidents, but what I have seen is nothing compared to what my dad and friends have seen.Be careful with body fluids. Sometimes you can leave an accident covered in someone elses blood. Remember any help is better than no help at all, but you will not be able to save everyone. \n\nThe last accident my dad attending caused him serious mental anguish. Two 4 wheel drives collided head on at 100km/h each. One car was oaky, but when he tried to help the other car he had to crawl through the back seat where he tried to help the driver. She was chopped in half by the engine, then he tried to help the passenger and keep him from looking at his dead wife. Then the engine caught on fire. Thankfully My dad had a fire extinguisher in his car, so the fire was put out quickly. Anyway the passenger died 3 weeks later in hospital. [The accident.](http://www.abc.net.au/news/video/2010/11/08/3060769.htm?site=darwin)\n\n\n**TL;DR** Do what you can. Any help is better than no help at all. You will need to improvise. Life is not as clear-cut as classroom first aid courses. No matter what you do, chances are you will not be able to save everyone. People die and you are just there to try and **Improve their odds** of survival.", "Well if you see a fender bender where the people all get out of the vehicles on their own, you don't need to call 911.\n\nIn the case of the overturned vehicle that you saw, 911 was appropriate. Then if you can safely get to them, check to make sure they are awake and ask if they are injured. A lot of times people in these accidents get disoriented and start staggering or wandering. The best thing to do (if they can walk and aren't injured) is to walk them over to the curb and have them sit down and wait for first responders.\n\nBiggest thing is that if you're not sure what to do, just try to keep everything status quo, but not to the point that its a safety problem to you. Don't fight to restrain someone who really wants to wander (unless its to save them from getting hit by passing traffic or to pull them out of a burning car, and even still, not if its unsafe for you).\n\nAlso, and this is the most important, make sure you look heroic while you are helping so that everyone will see just how badass you are!", "Well it's been pretty well covered by other posters, but I'll summarize what I have seen over the years as helpful (I've been a paramedic about 15 years, in EMS about 18).\n\nTry to stay calm yourself. It's ok to be excited/terrified on the inside, just don't let it show until after you get done what you need to get done.\n\nLook around as you approach the scene and keep away from hazards. Remember to look UP for power lines.\n\nIf there is immediate danger such as fire or someone lying on the road and about to be hit, AND you can intervene without becoming a victim yourself, then move or protect the victim. Note- just because a car looks like it's smoking does not mean it's about to blow, steam from the radiator or smoke from the airbags (they 'inflate' using a rapid chemical reaction) is common and does not mean a victim should be moved.\n\nWhen you call 911 (or the emergency number in your area) it's really important that you give as accurate location information as possible. If you're on the highway use the mile markers and direction of travel (mile 202.7, southbound). If you are on a back road use landmarks and be as specific as possible. This will probably require you to pause, take a few breaths, calm down and think, and that's ok. Taking 30 seconds at this point to give good, accurate directions can save 10's of minutes during the response.\nThe other really important things to remember to give the 911 operator are the number of patients and their condition. Don't try to be real detailed, passing on the pulse rate isn't very valuable information, but letting us know things like responsive/unresponsive, ejected, entrapped, barely breathing can be helpful so that we know how many ambulances, rescue trucks, etc will be initially be needed.\n\nTry to stop heavy bleeding with direct pressure. You don't really need to be drastic unless you see arterial bleeding (spurting out as opposed to running or oozing). Use direct pressure or a makeshift tourniquet if you are trained to do so. Sometimes people with head injuries are belligerent (especially if alcohol is involved), try to prevent further harm, but don't put yourself at risk and don't fight with them. Remember, you didn't put the victim in this position (hopefully anyway), do what you can, certainly don't make it worse, and don't take it personally if they don't want to listen.\n\nFinally, when the first responders arrive let them do their job. Sometimes we may come across as rude if we're in a hurry, it's best to pass on what you think is pertinent information and then get out of the way. You don't need training to be helpful, common sense and staying calm are pretty important. Some of the most difficult bystanders I've ever encountered were doctors and nurses, the most helpful were boy scouts and off duty military.", "Just call 911, because...\nA. You have no idea what damage occurred to the vehicle, putting yourself at risk period.\nB. you do not know if the vehicle is stable in its current position.\nC. Without knowing someone's past history do you really want to go wrist deep in their blood un-gloved?\nD. Because you are asking people on reddit what to do.\n\nIf you want to do anything, just give an accurate location, that's all.", "1) Secure the area. You don't want anyone to crash into the SUV etc. This is the very first and probably the most important step. Set up warning triangles, have someone gesture other drivers to slow down, etc. You don't want more victims.\n\n2) Call 911. Ideally, have someone call 911 while you secure the area. Don't hang up until they tell you it's ok to hang up.\n\n3) If you don't know first aid, don't do anything else, just wait. If you know first aid, you should know what to do.\n\n4) Don't leave the area until relevant authorities show up and tells you you can leave." ]

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[ "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n", "How to clean my apartment quickly/efficiently I’ve been in a slump and haven’t had energy to clean in a while.\n\nI’m dreading it, but if I know I can knock it out in 30-45 minutes (minus laundry) I’ll have the energy to move quickly and get it done.\n\nOne great tip I’ve learned/love is starting with a trash bag to remove all trash.\n\nAre there any other tips you have?\n\nSpecifically, for right now. Not preventative tips.\n\n" ]

[ "Remember that clutter is the mortal enemy of clean. You just can't clean efficiently with a lot of junk lying about.", "I find putting a load of laundry on just as I start cleaning something else makes me feel like I’m multitasking which motivates me more", "Sweeping/wiping crumbs off counters/surfaces makes mopping/sanitizing surfaces much easier and faster, IMO! Add some music into the mix and you'll be jamming through it.", "Clean a little bit each day and do small loads of laundry a day. That way it won’t all pile up throughout the month and leave you overwhelmed with a giant mess. Schedule a day to do huge chores once a month (like cleaning tub/oven/fridge).", "I like to put in music and after each task I drink a beer. That’s quite fun 😄 I don’t clean too often though ;)", "I have a chore schedule where Ive broken down the kitchen and bathroom into small 5-10 minute chores. Ideally my wife and I each do one chore roughly every other day. It takes about a week and half to complete the cycle. The chores are odd in number so we alternate what we do each cycle. Then sweeping and maintaining living, office, and bedroom areas is a less frequent part of the rotation since it's largely sweeping and dusting, nothing too urgent. So if we aren't depressed and keep up with it the house is great. If we are depressed and fall off we just have to take 5-10 minutes to get back on top of it, it's not too daunting.\n\nIf you have to do a sudden all around cleaning, break the rooms into zones. Tackle in order. Anything that needs scrubbing and wiping go top to bottom, sink before toilet, etc to cut down on cross contamination and to control dust and debris. For instance, dust will drift from a shelf down onto your sink. So clean those shelves before the sink.\n\nUse the proper product for the right surface. There are some great multipurpose cleaners, but for instance, you wouldn't use Windex on your toilet or comet on wood surfaces. Sounds obvious but I've been shocked a few times by what cleaners people use.", "Do one room completely first, start at one corner and move in a circle. Trash bag is great idea. Set an empty laundry basket in the middle of the room and place items in it that need to be moved to another room (except for food dishes and cups)", "Stick on some music, stick the laundry on and see how much you can do by the time the laundry is finished. \n\nGo through the whole house with a bin bag and get rid of rubbish. \n\nIf you don't have a dishwasher, don't pile the dishes in the sink - it'll make it difficult to wash up later. Keep it on the side. \n\nWhen you leave a room to go to another, take something to that room that belongs there. Eg. I'll go from the living room to the kitchen and take water glasses with me that need to be cleaned. \n\nUse cleaning agents you like the smell of - eg. I love zofloras winter disinfectant & clementine washing up liquid\n\nWhen I don't have guests, I cover the gas hob with foil so all the food splatters get caught (you can also buy reusable ones)\n\nHope this is of help!", "Step 1: Start from Ground Zero - get everything OUT\n\nStep 1A: Compartmentalize - throw everything that can be clubbed together into boxes (or just make separate bunch of everything)\n\nStep 2: now you have a floor and a bed and kitchen tops/tables and furniture- clean the house furniture and floors/ceilings while having thrown your laundry into the washer and your dishes into the dishwasher \n\nStep 3: Out goes the trash\n\nStep 4: Long bath\n\nStep 5: fold laundry\n\nStep 6: treat yourself; get sloshed and throw everything on the floor while drunk\n\nRepeat steps 1-6 next month", "My suggestion: \n1. Bedding laundry\n2. Spray cleaning product in the shower \n3. Put things away\n4. Towels laundry\n5. To tackle each room, I use the clockwise system to clean faster\n6. Make beds\n7. Clean bathrooms \n8. Clean kitchen \n9. Clean floors \n10. Take the garbage out\n11. Continue doing laundry \n\nThis works for me. I wish you will find a system that works for you.", "I notice your list doesn't include dusting or cleaning ceiling fans. Definitely want to knock that out before you do the floors.", "Clear out one type of thing at a time (eg all food/utensils first, followed by clothes, paper etc.). It will reduce the number of trips to the trash, and you will very quickly see the results. It drives you to keep at it.", "Simpsons Mary Poppins style, do a half assed job\n\nOr as my housemates and I used to do in younger days for house inspections, get high in the morning and make a party of it", "Plan your dinners for the week to be home-cooked meals with easy sides like salad. Each time the meat is cooking and you have 30-40 minutes of \"waiting time\" clean your house. You have a time limit and you don't have to clean anything else for the rest of the day. As each day progresses you may take this as a challenge to get more done in those 30 minutes than you did the day prior. At the end of the week you will have a clean house and you will have a fiery spirit from the challenge/competition with yourself. To top it off maybe invite your parents over on Sunday so you definitely have a clean place by the end.", "Not exactly the answer to your specific issue but some have mentioned a cleaning schedule. I do one room a day (wife is supposed to do one room as well). It helps with the overwhelmed \"where to start feeling\". We consider dishes and laundry separate \"daily\" tasks. My house is pretty big though so it is different than an apartment where you maybe could do all the rooms in one day.", "If you don't have a dishwasher and you live by yourself - that's the case for me anyway.. I have only one plate, one bowl, one fork spoon knife and cutting knife. Dishes never pile up. I have to wash my one plate in order to eat again. Only works if you never have people over since you wouldn't be able to serve them any food lol", "Also do dishes as soon as you’re done eating and do them while cooking (wash the pots and pans you are done using throughout the process). It seems daunting at first, but soon it’ll become habit. Either that or use paper plates lol", "You have gotten a lot of good tips, I would also like to add trying to avoid messing where possible. Put things where they belong as soon as you are done with them, wipe up spills immediately etc", "You could do what cruise lines do and and just cover all the dirt in a nice fresh coat of white paint" ]

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[ "How to purge old facebook activity First off, I know that I can just delete my account and make another, but I want to find an automated way to delete my old posts. \n\nI have changed my privacy settings immensely, but there is still the matter of posts I have made on statuses, links I've posted etc. I can see these on the activity in the activity log, but I really just want a way to erase everything from a certain date back. \n\nI found out a few months ago too that facebook had a glitch at one point where it converted old private messages to wall posts. I've tracked down a lot of them but I really want to make sure everything is gone because I don't want my private messages all over Facebook. \n\nI honestly want to just get rid of it, but I do a lot of networking on facebook and it's really not feasible at this point. ", "How to purge old facebook activity First off, I know that I can just delete my account and make another, but I want to find an automated way to delete my old posts. \n\nI have changed my privacy settings immensely, but there is still the matter of posts I have made on statuses, links I've posted etc. I can see these on the activity in the activity log, but I really just want a way to erase everything from a certain date back. \n\nI found out a few months ago too that facebook had a glitch at one point where it converted old private messages to wall posts. I've tracked down a lot of them but I really want to make sure everything is gone because I don't want my private messages all over Facebook. \n\nI honestly want to just get rid of it, but I do a lot of networking on facebook and it's really not feasible at this point. " ]

[ "1. Find list of Facebook server farm coordinates\n2. Plug in to Cold War-era weapons satellite network\n3. Nuke them from orbit. It's the only way to be sure.", "I would try and avoid using Facebook for any sensitive matter like professional networking, unless you really don't mind your communications to end up becoming public at some point. For example, I wouldn't do a job search on FB if your current employer is still in the picture." ]

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[ "Stop hands from sweating Some days my hands non stop sweat and some times not. Whenever my hands start sweating there's no way for them to stop and even if they do they start again soon after. I'm tired of not being able to shake hands and feeling nasty clammy hands. Any tips?", "Stop hands from sweating Some days my hands non stop sweat and some times not. Whenever my hands start sweating there's no way for them to stop and even if they do they start again soon after. I'm tired of not being able to shake hands and feeling nasty clammy hands. Any tips?", "Stop hands from sweating Some days my hands non stop sweat and some times not. Whenever my hands start sweating there's no way for them to stop and even if they do they start again soon after. I'm tired of not being able to shake hands and feeling nasty clammy hands. Any tips?" ]

[ "Sounds like hyperhidrosis https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyperhidrosis\n\nFor severe cases you can get botox in your hands but it only lasts several months.", "Drysol! Its not exactly good for you (aluminum) but it works like a hot damn! my pits didn't sweat for a year after a few uses. works on hands and feet too.\n", "I had a friend who had this and underarm sweating. He had a thoracic sympathectomy and after that his feet would sweat so bad he could ring his socks out after classes. That's a case of pick which body part you want to sweat more, I bet his undercarriage was straight up swampy. Try to go with the noninvasive remedies first, then maybe Botox second line." ]

[ 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "Exams... After passing my Exams at GCSE, I am now in A Level. I study math which requires a lot of work, and I've been recommended to start revision now because there is so much we need to learn that at the end of the year around exam time, I won't have enough time to revise everything. I've been trying to revise at my house but its just not working because of the distraction of my computer. Any advice on how to fix this issue?", "Exams... After passing my Exams at GCSE, I am now in A Level. I study math which requires a lot of work, and I've been recommended to start revision now because there is so much we need to learn that at the end of the year around exam time, I won't have enough time to revise everything. I've been trying to revise at my house but its just not working because of the distraction of my computer. Any advice on how to fix this issue?" ]

[ "I like to write. But it's hard for me to do at home as well. \n\nSo for me, I found that going to a park, or walking some trails to sit on a hill in a canyon, or even just sitting at starbucks or parking my car somewhere nice, all make it so that my focus is on writing and nothing else. I get much more done this way, and the added bonus of spending time outside and maybe getting some exercise makes it really enjoyable. \n\nNot sure how easy this would be with the materials you need, but it might be worth a try. ", "Turn off the computer?\n\nNo seriously divide your time into chunks, however long you're able to focus on a single thing or website whether it's 10 minutes or 50. Then allot the chunks of time. Placing the study blocks during the times you're most awake and focused. Set specific goals for those blocks, individually and for the week, month and quarter. Plan blocks that are empty and blocks for fucking off on the on the internet. Use the free blocks to cover for any goals you miss. Plan weekly assessment blocks to evaluate how you well you met the goals in your work blocks. And prepare to move blocks around as your mode shifts/seasons/commitments change." ]

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[ "How to adapt to an office work environment. For instance: how to maintain energy throughout the day. How to stay on task and motivated.\n\n", "How to adapt to an office work environment. For instance: how to maintain energy throughout the day. How to stay on task and motivated.\n\n", "How to adapt to an office work environment. For instance: how to maintain energy throughout the day. How to stay on task and motivated.\n\n", "How to adapt to an office work environment. For instance: how to maintain energy throughout the day. How to stay on task and motivated.\n\n" ]

[ "**Breaks**\nFor energy, try taking micro-breaks throughout the day. I usually take a 5-10min break every hour, usually walking to the break room. Reddit is good too, so long as you limit it to 10 or 15min.\n\n**Know your mates**\nDepending on your office culture, it is usually a good idea to get to know those you work with. Take some time out of your day and ask what others are working on. This can be done during the standard coffee breaks (if you have one) or anytime throughout the day. Just make sure they aren't too busy.\n\nBy being interested in what others do you will develop a sense of camaraderie, which will make it more pleasurable to work. Try to be inclusive, even with people you don't particularly like. This camaraderie will also make people feel more comfortable around you, and will allow them to help you work or give you work to do.\n\n**Learn**\nTry to understand your role, and the operation of your organization. This will raise the quality of your work. Even if you are at the lowest rung, such as an office assistant, there is still much to learn. Learn of the processes, regulations, product/service your office offers. This will even serve to motivate you. Gives you a bigger picture of what you do.\n\n If you are a professional, it is important to self-educate. Spend time reading professional and/or scientific magazines. Access webinars. These things will fill in the gaps you may have at work. This will make more knowledgeable, and others will feel more confident in you ", "Decorate your desk with pictures or plants, get fun stationary supplies, sit up straight, get enough sleep the night before, eat protein with breakfast and lunch to keep you going, and keep a water bottle at your desk.", "- Eat breakfast and include protein in that breakfast!\n- Don't skip lunch either.\n- Get up and take a 5 min walk 2 or 3 times a day to keep the blood flowing.\n- Pace yourself with the coffee, but stop drinking it by 2pm so you can sleep at night.\n- If your office is warm, get a little fan for your desktop.\n- Make a point not to be on your cell phone all day. Save that for breaks & lunch.\n- Stay off social media during the day and for goodness sakes, do not use your company computer for personal social media surfing.\n- Spend a LOT of time listening instead of talking. Pay attention!\n- Make a promise to yourself to not gossip or complain, ever! Trust me on this.\n- Document your understanding of an assignment, both as a reminder to yourself and to demonstrate to your direct manager that you understand the assignment and due dates. Documentation is a very useful thing.\n- Keep everything! (emails, documents, spreadsheets...for a few years at least)\n- Keep an up-to-date to-do list at work. You can use that list as a basis for keeping your manager apprised as well as reordering your priorities as needed.\n- Communicate in a timely manner whether it's returning a phone call, answering an email or whatever else. Be responsive.\n- Learn to write clearly and succinctly and use proper grammar in all emails and all documents.\n- Keep the personal chit chat at work contained. Most of your time should be on work tasks.\n\nGood luck!", "Also, sticky notes are a wonderful idea. After some time you will be getting many assignments, often unrelated. With so much on your plate it is easy to forget.\n\nWhenever I have an appointment, or just need to do something, I stick a note on my board with a date. Once I finish it, or no longer need to carry out work, I remove it.\n\nYou can write notes as reminder for phone calls, appointments, emails, review work, reminders for deadlines, etc." ]

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[ "How to establish a consistent and professional signature. It seems that a lot of people in my generation struggle with cursive and a nice signature.", "How to establish a consistent and professional signature. It seems that a lot of people in my generation struggle with cursive and a nice signature.", "How to establish a consistent and professional signature. It seems that a lot of people in my generation struggle with cursive and a nice signature.", "How to establish a consistent and professional signature. It seems that a lot of people in my generation struggle with cursive and a nice signature.", "How to establish a consistent and professional signature. It seems that a lot of people in my generation struggle with cursive and a nice signature.", "How to establish a consistent and professional signature. It seems that a lot of people in my generation struggle with cursive and a nice signature.", "How to establish a consistent and professional signature. It seems that a lot of people in my generation struggle with cursive and a nice signature.", "How to establish a consistent and professional signature. It seems that a lot of people in my generation struggle with cursive and a nice signature.", "How to establish a consistent and professional signature. It seems that a lot of people in my generation struggle with cursive and a nice signature.", "How to establish a consistent and professional signature. It seems that a lot of people in my generation struggle with cursive and a nice signature.", "How to establish a consistent and professional signature. It seems that a lot of people in my generation struggle with cursive and a nice signature." ]

[ "I'm happy with my signature. Just practice a lot. When you first start, vary often, just to give you more of an idea of your style.\n\nAlso try and have a long hand signature, and a nice way of doing your initials.\n\nFirst letters of first and last name should be more prominent, don't be afraid to get crazy on the tails (y,g,j) or make bold sweeping movements.\n\n", "step one- /r/penmanshipporn, pick out some letters you like, step two- practice your signature with them, exactly how you want it, and then do that like a hundred times a day. Source--Me, I did this, and my signature is awesome", "I work as an auditor, which requires me to sign my name around 20 times a day. I really don't care about a \"nice\" signature, I don't care about cursive, people know its my signature and if you're caught up caring about a \"nice\" signature you're missing the important things.\n\nThat said the first letters of my first and surname are clear, after that it gets messy", "Take your time and write it out how you want it to look. Then practice over and over and it will become second nature. I did this once and it's pretty easy. Then I got tired of it and now mine looks like scribbles. (Actually it is scribbles. First initial scribble, scribble, scribble. Second initial, scribble, scribble, tail of ending g)", "Take a look at some professional looking ones. I incorporated the Walt Disney 'D' into mine and it looks pretty cool", "Learn to write your initials in an interesting way. Look at your written name and find a few letters to emphasize. Suggestions: anything with a tail in the lowercase (y,g,j,q etc.), repeating patterns in letters (double t's or or o's). De-emphasize the rest.\n\nAlternatively, you could try to find famous people with your first and last names and see how they write it to get ideas.", "I some how never developed one. My signature is just my name written out, very boring. I'm not sure how people even arrive at one?", "I picked a style back in sixth grade home ec class (in my thirties now), stuck with it... I've had 20 years practicing the same signature. Looks roughly the same when I look at old signatures, just much more smooth and professional looking.", "I find that the quality of my signature, and my handwriting in general, is a good deal influenced by the pen I use and the surface I write on. A cheap ballpoint on a single sheet on a hard surface usually won't look as elegant as the same signature on a pad of paper with a roller-ball pen. And like others have said, practice practice practice.", "* **step 1** ask favorite grandparent/parent for advice, decide on a good signature for yourself together with grandparent\n* **step 2** use signature for the rest of your life, remember grandparent/parent each time you sign anything, be reminded of your roots for the rest of your life", "Can people really not even come up with their own signatures anymore? Don't rely on the internet for everything. It's your signature or as I like to think of it your mark. Make it however you want. " ]

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