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[ "how to stop my neighbor's cat from pooping in my yard? Title pretty much says it all. The issue is that I am not 100% certain that it is their cat. We have a stray cat in the neighborhood that roams freely and may have gotten a liking to poop in my yard. The best way to find out is to install a camera. What can I do once I figure out? What is the best way to prevent the cat from entering the yard?", "how to stop my neighbor's cat from pooping in my yard? Title pretty much says it all. The issue is that I am not 100% certain that it is their cat. We have a stray cat in the neighborhood that roams freely and may have gotten a liking to poop in my yard. The best way to find out is to install a camera. What can I do once I figure out? What is the best way to prevent the cat from entering the yard?", "how to stop my neighbor's cat from pooping in my yard? Title pretty much says it all. The issue is that I am not 100% certain that it is their cat. We have a stray cat in the neighborhood that roams freely and may have gotten a liking to poop in my yard. The best way to find out is to install a camera. What can I do once I figure out? What is the best way to prevent the cat from entering the yard?", "how to stop my neighbor's cat from pooping in my yard? Title pretty much says it all. The issue is that I am not 100% certain that it is their cat. We have a stray cat in the neighborhood that roams freely and may have gotten a liking to poop in my yard. The best way to find out is to install a camera. What can I do once I figure out? What is the best way to prevent the cat from entering the yard?", "how to stop my neighbor's cat from pooping in my yard? Title pretty much says it all. The issue is that I am not 100% certain that it is their cat. We have a stray cat in the neighborhood that roams freely and may have gotten a liking to poop in my yard. The best way to find out is to install a camera. What can I do once I figure out? What is the best way to prevent the cat from entering the yard?", "how to stop my neighbor's cat from pooping in my yard? Title pretty much says it all. The issue is that I am not 100% certain that it is their cat. We have a stray cat in the neighborhood that roams freely and may have gotten a liking to poop in my yard. The best way to find out is to install a camera. What can I do once I figure out? What is the best way to prevent the cat from entering the yard?", "how to stop my neighbor's cat from pooping in my yard? Title pretty much says it all. The issue is that I am not 100% certain that it is their cat. We have a stray cat in the neighborhood that roams freely and may have gotten a liking to poop in my yard. The best way to find out is to install a camera. What can I do once I figure out? What is the best way to prevent the cat from entering the yard?", "how to stop my neighbor's cat from pooping in my yard? Title pretty much says it all. The issue is that I am not 100% certain that it is their cat. We have a stray cat in the neighborhood that roams freely and may have gotten a liking to poop in my yard. The best way to find out is to install a camera. What can I do once I figure out? What is the best way to prevent the cat from entering the yard?", "how to stop my neighbor's cat from pooping in my yard? Title pretty much says it all. The issue is that I am not 100% certain that it is their cat. We have a stray cat in the neighborhood that roams freely and may have gotten a liking to poop in my yard. The best way to find out is to install a camera. What can I do once I figure out? What is the best way to prevent the cat from entering the yard?" ]

[ "You poop in neighbor's yard, or your yard, show the cat who is the alpha with the alpha poops.... Or just spray diluted vinegar, maybe?", "Maybe wolf urine does the trick?. You can also use a motion deterrent for animals where the cat likes to go. Those have been very successful for me for all animals.", "I found something called a “cat scat mat” on Amazon. It’s a plastic mat with spikes (not sharp) that deters the cats from going in a particular spot. I put them in my flower beds and any other area where I’ve had this problem.", "Capture the stray and turn it in to animal control. Cats are predators and displace the natural predators that should be the ones eating the rodents and so on.", "Buy a giant container of hot pepper powder and sprinkle it in the areas they poop. May not be a cure all, but worked for me.", "Scare the pussy away by getting a dog. Or littering your yard with cucumbers . Or some motion sensor that makes a dog sound if some thing moves", "Our neighbour reckons in a recent post that the fox who uses her back garden keeps our cat from pooping in her garden these days. Maybe she forgot we were facebook friends?", "Is cat poop a problem for people? I can’t say I’ve ever noticed it. I assume it’s minimal in size at best, washes away with the sprinklers or a rain shower.", "How the fuck is this a problem? The cat is a cat and it will shit whereever it feels like, u know, like an animal. Just deal with it stupid hoooman." ]

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[ "How to tactfully get out of political/religious/other controversial discussions with family or other pushy people. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem or potential problem. My political and nonreligious views starkly contrast those of my immediate family, and presidential campaign season is in full swing. When talking to most people, if they try to bring up religion or politics you can usually dismiss the topic fairly easily simply by saying you don't want to talk about it, you're not comfortable with it, or you don't really have an opinion. However, when dealing with anyone who has a vested interest in the topic and/or you as a person, it's much more challenging. I'll use my own situation as an example. If my dad were to ask me something as simple as \"who are you voting for in the primaries,\" I don't see any good options: If I tell him what I actually think, it'll start a debate and I'm extremely non-confrontational (trying to argue with me will get you a deer in headlights reaction and an emotional meltdown if the demand for argument continues past that point), and the rest of my family would look down on me for committing wrongthink. If I say I don't know/have an opinion he'll insist that it's a very simple matter to learn about the various candidates and make a decision (which isn't all wrong) and that I'm lazy and shirking my duty as a US citizen to be an informed political participant. If I say I don't care, I'll get much the same response as not having an opinion but harsher, since having an active disinterest in politics would be worse than just not knowing what to think. If I try to say that I don't want to/am not comfortable with having such a discussion, that will throw up a big red flag and lead to targeted, probing questions directed at me. I can't think of any good way out of this scenario and all of the ways I can think of require lying, something I'm also not comfortable with but admittedly is better than confrontation.", "How to tactfully get out of political/religious/other controversial discussions with family or other pushy people. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem or potential problem. My political and nonreligious views starkly contrast those of my immediate family, and presidential campaign season is in full swing. When talking to most people, if they try to bring up religion or politics you can usually dismiss the topic fairly easily simply by saying you don't want to talk about it, you're not comfortable with it, or you don't really have an opinion. However, when dealing with anyone who has a vested interest in the topic and/or you as a person, it's much more challenging. I'll use my own situation as an example. If my dad were to ask me something as simple as \"who are you voting for in the primaries,\" I don't see any good options: If I tell him what I actually think, it'll start a debate and I'm extremely non-confrontational (trying to argue with me will get you a deer in headlights reaction and an emotional meltdown if the demand for argument continues past that point), and the rest of my family would look down on me for committing wrongthink. If I say I don't know/have an opinion he'll insist that it's a very simple matter to learn about the various candidates and make a decision (which isn't all wrong) and that I'm lazy and shirking my duty as a US citizen to be an informed political participant. If I say I don't care, I'll get much the same response as not having an opinion but harsher, since having an active disinterest in politics would be worse than just not knowing what to think. If I try to say that I don't want to/am not comfortable with having such a discussion, that will throw up a big red flag and lead to targeted, probing questions directed at me. I can't think of any good way out of this scenario and all of the ways I can think of require lying, something I'm also not comfortable with but admittedly is better than confrontation.", "How to tactfully get out of political/religious/other controversial discussions with family or other pushy people. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem or potential problem. My political and nonreligious views starkly contrast those of my immediate family, and presidential campaign season is in full swing. When talking to most people, if they try to bring up religion or politics you can usually dismiss the topic fairly easily simply by saying you don't want to talk about it, you're not comfortable with it, or you don't really have an opinion. However, when dealing with anyone who has a vested interest in the topic and/or you as a person, it's much more challenging. I'll use my own situation as an example. If my dad were to ask me something as simple as \"who are you voting for in the primaries,\" I don't see any good options: If I tell him what I actually think, it'll start a debate and I'm extremely non-confrontational (trying to argue with me will get you a deer in headlights reaction and an emotional meltdown if the demand for argument continues past that point), and the rest of my family would look down on me for committing wrongthink. If I say I don't know/have an opinion he'll insist that it's a very simple matter to learn about the various candidates and make a decision (which isn't all wrong) and that I'm lazy and shirking my duty as a US citizen to be an informed political participant. If I say I don't care, I'll get much the same response as not having an opinion but harsher, since having an active disinterest in politics would be worse than just not knowing what to think. If I try to say that I don't want to/am not comfortable with having such a discussion, that will throw up a big red flag and lead to targeted, probing questions directed at me. I can't think of any good way out of this scenario and all of the ways I can think of require lying, something I'm also not comfortable with but admittedly is better than confrontation.", "How to tactfully get out of political/religious/other controversial discussions with family or other pushy people. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem or potential problem. My political and nonreligious views starkly contrast those of my immediate family, and presidential campaign season is in full swing. When talking to most people, if they try to bring up religion or politics you can usually dismiss the topic fairly easily simply by saying you don't want to talk about it, you're not comfortable with it, or you don't really have an opinion. However, when dealing with anyone who has a vested interest in the topic and/or you as a person, it's much more challenging. I'll use my own situation as an example. If my dad were to ask me something as simple as \"who are you voting for in the primaries,\" I don't see any good options: If I tell him what I actually think, it'll start a debate and I'm extremely non-confrontational (trying to argue with me will get you a deer in headlights reaction and an emotional meltdown if the demand for argument continues past that point), and the rest of my family would look down on me for committing wrongthink. If I say I don't know/have an opinion he'll insist that it's a very simple matter to learn about the various candidates and make a decision (which isn't all wrong) and that I'm lazy and shirking my duty as a US citizen to be an informed political participant. If I say I don't care, I'll get much the same response as not having an opinion but harsher, since having an active disinterest in politics would be worse than just not knowing what to think. If I try to say that I don't want to/am not comfortable with having such a discussion, that will throw up a big red flag and lead to targeted, probing questions directed at me. I can't think of any good way out of this scenario and all of the ways I can think of require lying, something I'm also not comfortable with but admittedly is better than confrontation.", "How to tactfully get out of political/religious/other controversial discussions with family or other pushy people. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem or potential problem. My political and nonreligious views starkly contrast those of my immediate family, and presidential campaign season is in full swing. When talking to most people, if they try to bring up religion or politics you can usually dismiss the topic fairly easily simply by saying you don't want to talk about it, you're not comfortable with it, or you don't really have an opinion. However, when dealing with anyone who has a vested interest in the topic and/or you as a person, it's much more challenging. I'll use my own situation as an example. If my dad were to ask me something as simple as \"who are you voting for in the primaries,\" I don't see any good options: If I tell him what I actually think, it'll start a debate and I'm extremely non-confrontational (trying to argue with me will get you a deer in headlights reaction and an emotional meltdown if the demand for argument continues past that point), and the rest of my family would look down on me for committing wrongthink. If I say I don't know/have an opinion he'll insist that it's a very simple matter to learn about the various candidates and make a decision (which isn't all wrong) and that I'm lazy and shirking my duty as a US citizen to be an informed political participant. If I say I don't care, I'll get much the same response as not having an opinion but harsher, since having an active disinterest in politics would be worse than just not knowing what to think. If I try to say that I don't want to/am not comfortable with having such a discussion, that will throw up a big red flag and lead to targeted, probing questions directed at me. I can't think of any good way out of this scenario and all of the ways I can think of require lying, something I'm also not comfortable with but admittedly is better than confrontation.", "How to tactfully get out of political/religious/other controversial discussions with family or other pushy people. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem or potential problem. My political and nonreligious views starkly contrast those of my immediate family, and presidential campaign season is in full swing. When talking to most people, if they try to bring up religion or politics you can usually dismiss the topic fairly easily simply by saying you don't want to talk about it, you're not comfortable with it, or you don't really have an opinion. However, when dealing with anyone who has a vested interest in the topic and/or you as a person, it's much more challenging. I'll use my own situation as an example. If my dad were to ask me something as simple as \"who are you voting for in the primaries,\" I don't see any good options: If I tell him what I actually think, it'll start a debate and I'm extremely non-confrontational (trying to argue with me will get you a deer in headlights reaction and an emotional meltdown if the demand for argument continues past that point), and the rest of my family would look down on me for committing wrongthink. If I say I don't know/have an opinion he'll insist that it's a very simple matter to learn about the various candidates and make a decision (which isn't all wrong) and that I'm lazy and shirking my duty as a US citizen to be an informed political participant. If I say I don't care, I'll get much the same response as not having an opinion but harsher, since having an active disinterest in politics would be worse than just not knowing what to think. If I try to say that I don't want to/am not comfortable with having such a discussion, that will throw up a big red flag and lead to targeted, probing questions directed at me. I can't think of any good way out of this scenario and all of the ways I can think of require lying, something I'm also not comfortable with but admittedly is better than confrontation.", "How to tactfully get out of political/religious/other controversial discussions with family or other pushy people. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem or potential problem. My political and nonreligious views starkly contrast those of my immediate family, and presidential campaign season is in full swing. When talking to most people, if they try to bring up religion or politics you can usually dismiss the topic fairly easily simply by saying you don't want to talk about it, you're not comfortable with it, or you don't really have an opinion. However, when dealing with anyone who has a vested interest in the topic and/or you as a person, it's much more challenging. I'll use my own situation as an example. If my dad were to ask me something as simple as \"who are you voting for in the primaries,\" I don't see any good options: If I tell him what I actually think, it'll start a debate and I'm extremely non-confrontational (trying to argue with me will get you a deer in headlights reaction and an emotional meltdown if the demand for argument continues past that point), and the rest of my family would look down on me for committing wrongthink. If I say I don't know/have an opinion he'll insist that it's a very simple matter to learn about the various candidates and make a decision (which isn't all wrong) and that I'm lazy and shirking my duty as a US citizen to be an informed political participant. If I say I don't care, I'll get much the same response as not having an opinion but harsher, since having an active disinterest in politics would be worse than just not knowing what to think. If I try to say that I don't want to/am not comfortable with having such a discussion, that will throw up a big red flag and lead to targeted, probing questions directed at me. I can't think of any good way out of this scenario and all of the ways I can think of require lying, something I'm also not comfortable with but admittedly is better than confrontation.", "How to tactfully get out of political/religious/other controversial discussions with family or other pushy people. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem or potential problem. My political and nonreligious views starkly contrast those of my immediate family, and presidential campaign season is in full swing. When talking to most people, if they try to bring up religion or politics you can usually dismiss the topic fairly easily simply by saying you don't want to talk about it, you're not comfortable with it, or you don't really have an opinion. However, when dealing with anyone who has a vested interest in the topic and/or you as a person, it's much more challenging. I'll use my own situation as an example. If my dad were to ask me something as simple as \"who are you voting for in the primaries,\" I don't see any good options: If I tell him what I actually think, it'll start a debate and I'm extremely non-confrontational (trying to argue with me will get you a deer in headlights reaction and an emotional meltdown if the demand for argument continues past that point), and the rest of my family would look down on me for committing wrongthink. If I say I don't know/have an opinion he'll insist that it's a very simple matter to learn about the various candidates and make a decision (which isn't all wrong) and that I'm lazy and shirking my duty as a US citizen to be an informed political participant. If I say I don't care, I'll get much the same response as not having an opinion but harsher, since having an active disinterest in politics would be worse than just not knowing what to think. If I try to say that I don't want to/am not comfortable with having such a discussion, that will throw up a big red flag and lead to targeted, probing questions directed at me. I can't think of any good way out of this scenario and all of the ways I can think of require lying, something I'm also not comfortable with but admittedly is better than confrontation.", "How to tactfully get out of political/religious/other controversial discussions with family or other pushy people. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem or potential problem. My political and nonreligious views starkly contrast those of my immediate family, and presidential campaign season is in full swing. When talking to most people, if they try to bring up religion or politics you can usually dismiss the topic fairly easily simply by saying you don't want to talk about it, you're not comfortable with it, or you don't really have an opinion. However, when dealing with anyone who has a vested interest in the topic and/or you as a person, it's much more challenging. I'll use my own situation as an example. If my dad were to ask me something as simple as \"who are you voting for in the primaries,\" I don't see any good options: If I tell him what I actually think, it'll start a debate and I'm extremely non-confrontational (trying to argue with me will get you a deer in headlights reaction and an emotional meltdown if the demand for argument continues past that point), and the rest of my family would look down on me for committing wrongthink. If I say I don't know/have an opinion he'll insist that it's a very simple matter to learn about the various candidates and make a decision (which isn't all wrong) and that I'm lazy and shirking my duty as a US citizen to be an informed political participant. If I say I don't care, I'll get much the same response as not having an opinion but harsher, since having an active disinterest in politics would be worse than just not knowing what to think. If I try to say that I don't want to/am not comfortable with having such a discussion, that will throw up a big red flag and lead to targeted, probing questions directed at me. I can't think of any good way out of this scenario and all of the ways I can think of require lying, something I'm also not comfortable with but admittedly is better than confrontation.", "How to tactfully get out of political/religious/other controversial discussions with family or other pushy people. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem or potential problem. My political and nonreligious views starkly contrast those of my immediate family, and presidential campaign season is in full swing. When talking to most people, if they try to bring up religion or politics you can usually dismiss the topic fairly easily simply by saying you don't want to talk about it, you're not comfortable with it, or you don't really have an opinion. However, when dealing with anyone who has a vested interest in the topic and/or you as a person, it's much more challenging. I'll use my own situation as an example. If my dad were to ask me something as simple as \"who are you voting for in the primaries,\" I don't see any good options: If I tell him what I actually think, it'll start a debate and I'm extremely non-confrontational (trying to argue with me will get you a deer in headlights reaction and an emotional meltdown if the demand for argument continues past that point), and the rest of my family would look down on me for committing wrongthink. If I say I don't know/have an opinion he'll insist that it's a very simple matter to learn about the various candidates and make a decision (which isn't all wrong) and that I'm lazy and shirking my duty as a US citizen to be an informed political participant. If I say I don't care, I'll get much the same response as not having an opinion but harsher, since having an active disinterest in politics would be worse than just not knowing what to think. If I try to say that I don't want to/am not comfortable with having such a discussion, that will throw up a big red flag and lead to targeted, probing questions directed at me. I can't think of any good way out of this scenario and all of the ways I can think of require lying, something I'm also not comfortable with but admittedly is better than confrontation.", "How to tactfully get out of political/religious/other controversial discussions with family or other pushy people. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem or potential problem. My political and nonreligious views starkly contrast those of my immediate family, and presidential campaign season is in full swing. When talking to most people, if they try to bring up religion or politics you can usually dismiss the topic fairly easily simply by saying you don't want to talk about it, you're not comfortable with it, or you don't really have an opinion. However, when dealing with anyone who has a vested interest in the topic and/or you as a person, it's much more challenging. I'll use my own situation as an example. If my dad were to ask me something as simple as \"who are you voting for in the primaries,\" I don't see any good options: If I tell him what I actually think, it'll start a debate and I'm extremely non-confrontational (trying to argue with me will get you a deer in headlights reaction and an emotional meltdown if the demand for argument continues past that point), and the rest of my family would look down on me for committing wrongthink. If I say I don't know/have an opinion he'll insist that it's a very simple matter to learn about the various candidates and make a decision (which isn't all wrong) and that I'm lazy and shirking my duty as a US citizen to be an informed political participant. If I say I don't care, I'll get much the same response as not having an opinion but harsher, since having an active disinterest in politics would be worse than just not knowing what to think. If I try to say that I don't want to/am not comfortable with having such a discussion, that will throw up a big red flag and lead to targeted, probing questions directed at me. I can't think of any good way out of this scenario and all of the ways I can think of require lying, something I'm also not comfortable with but admittedly is better than confrontation." ]

[ "I'm often in the same boat that you are. What I usually do I say something along the lines of \"I'm still trying to learn more about it to figure out my thoughts on it. What do YOU think about XYZ?\" Most times, all your \"pushy listener\" really wants to do is talk about what they think. Just throw them a bone and let them ramble on to avoid conflict. ", "Simply say \"I'd prefer not to discuss it.\" \n\nIf they push, say \"we use blind ballots in this country for a reason. I have a right to keep my vote private.\" \n\nThe latter'll shut up most political ones. They'll assume you disagree, and be pissed, but politicos tend to have an almost fetishistic relationship with the rituals of democracy. \n\nI say this because I can smell my own breed.", "\"Dad, I know you enjoy arguing about politics, but I don't. Argue with somebody else.\" If they start the targeted probing questions, otherwise known as needling, change the subject, if they don't respond, walk away, literally leave the house, take a walk, etc. Eventually they will discover they can't get a rise out of you and pick on somebody else. If they don't, then you can stage a big confrontation where you shout and yell and tell them to keep their @$#% political bullying to themselves. This is best done if you have your own place to live. ", "I'm in the same boat, and the best way I've found to deal with it is when anyone tries to bring up the subject, I'll just say \"I firmly believe that friends who want to stay friends never discuss religion or politics.\" and grin at them. Nine times out of ten the whole thing plays off like a joke and the topic gets changed.", "\"It doesn't seem like we're able to talk about these things without someone's feelings getting hurt, so I think it's better if we don't discuss it at all. I really enjoy my time with you and getting into back and forths about things we just can't agree on ruins it for me.\" ", "To begin, don't for one moment worry that your family would be disappointed with you for voting for a different party to them. They might not understand it (for obvious reasons) but you're exercising your ability to act as an independent person, and as /u/CanPoliEnthusiast says you have the right to keep your vote private. \n\nPersonally, I'm the type of person that quite likes discussing politics, but even then I am uncomfortable with the notion of ever stating who I outright support. This is because (particularly here in the UK) you might overall support one party over another, but when you look into policy further you realise that even the parties' you think you hate the most will often have something that you would agree with. As such, whenever I am engaging in political debates I always try to keep a substantive and objective viewpoint, rather than throw my subjective views onto the table. \n\nThis way, you get the best of both worlds. You get to learn more, through the views pointed out by your company (in this case your immediate family) whilst still keeping your personal views ambiguous.\n\nAlso, never be scared about the possibility of your view on something changing. Once upon a time homosexuality was abhorred, illegal and a sin. Without the debate we've had over the last 100 years or so we'd never have gotten to where we are now.\n\nHope this helps you in some way or another. :)\n", "On one had, I would argue that you shouldn't shy away from having your views challenged. Having to defend your position on a topic is a good mental exercise. However, I concede that that requires a healthy civil debate. As such, that may not be helpful for you.\n\nI would respond with...basically what you wrote here. Explain that any possible end to such a discussion in the past has been wholly unpleasant and that you've grown tired of it. And, furthermore, it's pushing you away.\n\nThe real clincher is explaining how repulsive this is...\"*It makes me want to not be around you.*\" and then leave for a while. ...would be a gut shot for most parents.", "I've been in this situation a few times, and here's my response\n\n\"I'm not going to have this conversation with someone I care about. I don't want us to hate each other.\" \n\nIf they keep going after I say that and repeat myself, I remind them that if they don't stop, I'll have to leave. ", "About 1/2 the folks I work with are staunch anti-vaccine folks. \n\nI got asked point blank the other day after two or three of them railed against the various concerns that are usually raised, what I thought, the notion being that it's all a big hoax and vaccines are just poison.\n\nI said that while I think it's very fair to say that drug companies do not necessarily consistently have the best interests of patients in mind and advertise to convince you otherwise. \n\nBut, I have 2 epidemiologists in my extended family, and it would be fair to say that - we have a very different conversation around the table. ", "\"I do not want to discuss this topic with you, as this has caused a lot of emotional strife before and I don't want to ruin our relationship.\"\nIf they continue, walk away. Keep it up for long enough and they'll get the message. If you are in a situation where you cannot walk away, change the subject, or otherwise completely disengage- get out your phone, put on headphones, just refuse to speak at all until the topic moves on. Tis better to stay silent and wait out the storm than to speak and be engulfed by it.", " Laugh and say \"that's fine, I'm going to be cancelling out your vote\" in a lighthearted manner. It's quite disarming." ]

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[ "How to make house less smelly after smelly cooking? My new apartment doesn't have a window in the kitchen. I love smelly foods. But dam, I don't want to be that person whose house smells like curry, fish, and garlic all the time.", "How to make house less smelly after smelly cooking? My new apartment doesn't have a window in the kitchen. I love smelly foods. But dam, I don't want to be that person whose house smells like curry, fish, and garlic all the time.", "How to make house less smelly after smelly cooking? My new apartment doesn't have a window in the kitchen. I love smelly foods. But dam, I don't want to be that person whose house smells like curry, fish, and garlic all the time.", "How to make house less smelly after smelly cooking? My new apartment doesn't have a window in the kitchen. I love smelly foods. But dam, I don't want to be that person whose house smells like curry, fish, and garlic all the time." ]

[ "Invest in an air purifier. I have a small one that I use after cooking, since I also live in a small condo without windows in the kitchen. The air purifier absorbs odor within a couple hours. I also light candles, turn on my unit's fan and I have charcoal bags lying around, which help as well.\n\n​\n\nI have a thing about odor.", "Inexpensive box fans in whatever window you do have?\n\nLots of houseplants. They will clean the air (yes even of smells).\n\nScented candles and lots and lots of Febreeze. It really does work.", "Since you're already cooking, how about making a simmering potpourri? They can be as simple as citrus peels and cinnamon in water, simmered in your freshly-used cookpot: \n\nhttps://www.countryliving.com/diy-crafts/g4792/homemade-stovetop-potpourri-recipes/", "I use an essential oil diffuser, usually work something citrus. Its strong, and makes your place smell clean." ]

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[ "How do you guys cut down morning routine time? School's starting soon, and I want to still be able to workout and get some food in my system in the morning.\n\nProblem is, I need more time to do this.\n\nWhat is your best productivity/efficiency tip you have to make more time in the morning?", "How do you guys cut down morning routine time? School's starting soon, and I want to still be able to workout and get some food in my system in the morning.\n\nProblem is, I need more time to do this.\n\nWhat is your best productivity/efficiency tip you have to make more time in the morning?", "How do you guys cut down morning routine time? School's starting soon, and I want to still be able to workout and get some food in my system in the morning.\n\nProblem is, I need more time to do this.\n\nWhat is your best productivity/efficiency tip you have to make more time in the morning?", "How do you guys cut down morning routine time? School's starting soon, and I want to still be able to workout and get some food in my system in the morning.\n\nProblem is, I need more time to do this.\n\nWhat is your best productivity/efficiency tip you have to make more time in the morning?", "How do you guys cut down morning routine time? School's starting soon, and I want to still be able to workout and get some food in my system in the morning.\n\nProblem is, I need more time to do this.\n\nWhat is your best productivity/efficiency tip you have to make more time in the morning?", "How do you guys cut down morning routine time? School's starting soon, and I want to still be able to workout and get some food in my system in the morning.\n\nProblem is, I need more time to do this.\n\nWhat is your best productivity/efficiency tip you have to make more time in the morning?", "How do you guys cut down morning routine time? School's starting soon, and I want to still be able to workout and get some food in my system in the morning.\n\nProblem is, I need more time to do this.\n\nWhat is your best productivity/efficiency tip you have to make more time in the morning?", "How do you guys cut down morning routine time? School's starting soon, and I want to still be able to workout and get some food in my system in the morning.\n\nProblem is, I need more time to do this.\n\nWhat is your best productivity/efficiency tip you have to make more time in the morning?", "How do you guys cut down morning routine time? School's starting soon, and I want to still be able to workout and get some food in my system in the morning.\n\nProblem is, I need more time to do this.\n\nWhat is your best productivity/efficiency tip you have to make more time in the morning?", "How do you guys cut down morning routine time? School's starting soon, and I want to still be able to workout and get some food in my system in the morning.\n\nProblem is, I need more time to do this.\n\nWhat is your best productivity/efficiency tip you have to make more time in the morning?", "How do you guys cut down morning routine time? School's starting soon, and I want to still be able to workout and get some food in my system in the morning.\n\nProblem is, I need more time to do this.\n\nWhat is your best productivity/efficiency tip you have to make more time in the morning?" ]

[ "Get as much ready the night before as you can. Pack your lunch, set your coffee maker to automatically start, and gather up everything you need into one place. ", "Do you shower at night or in the morning?\n\nI can get up and be out the door in about 10 minutes.\n\n* shower at night\n\n* have clothes already picked out the night before\n\n* have all your stuff ready to go. lunch made, backpack ready, etc\n\n* keep everything you are taking in the same spot every day so you don't have to go looking for it. Keys, wallet, backpack, etc all have a home\n\n* I shave my face at night, after the shower, before going to bed. Yeah, it will be slightly more grown out throughout the day, but it doesn't matter for me.", "Keep your toothpaste and tooth brush at school. Brush when you get there. Eat your breakfast and have your coffee in the car on the way - if you're heavy in to your gym, your breakfast is probably liquid anyway, so just add espresso coffee to it.\nI shave, brush teeth and frequently shower at work - get paid to do it all.", " Choose your outfit the night before and gather everything you're going to take with you in one area. Look into breakfast foods that can be pre-made such as crock pot oatmeal. ", "Write out all the things you want to get done, then indicate the ones you can eliminate or get done the night before. It's not that hard once you decide to rise above the trees back and optimize the heck out of this forest.", "The best general advice I have is when you are moving around your place, do everything possible at each spot before going to the next.\n\nFor example: I used to brush my teeth after I put pants on after showering, now I just do it after putting on deodorant and drying my ears just after I step out of the shower. Saves me a few minutes of back-and-forth from bathroom, bedroom, kitchen etc.\n\nThe only exception to that I maintain is when I'm drying off from my shower I walk to the kitchen with my towel and start the coffee so it can brew while I'm doing the things I mentioned before. Then I can grab it as I'm walking out the door/watching news (weekends).\n", "Shave your head now you don't have to shower as often, when you do, show the night before. \nLay out or sleep in your clothes depending on how hardcore you are\nSwitch from coffe e to caffiene pills if you are already dependent. also way cheaper. Have quick food ready to go for when you get up. \nHave everything you will need for the next day ready to go. Get up, grab stuff and eat Breakfast while you tie your shoes and walk out the door. Should take five minutes.", "Prep the night before. Shower/shave the night before. White shirt, shorts, eat a granola bar/poptart/yogurt. ", "I have one of [these but with mixed sized pockets](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Pocket-Door-Hanging-Organiser-Storage/dp/B001CTAN1Y/ref=sr_1_11?ie=UTF8&qid=1472811375&sr=8-11&keywords=hanging+organiser) in my wardrobe, it has nearly everything I need for the morning in it. My bag was packed last night, my clothes are usually out, so if I shower the night before and breakfast just needs microwaving or shaking i can be ready in 15 minutes (including cleansing, chemical exfoliation, toning, vitamin c, moisturising and using a BB cream and tinted lip balm).", "Be a night showerer. Keep a backup toothpaste/brush at your desk and don't be ashamed to use it. Have your clothes picked out the night before. Don't do breakfast/coffee at home (especially if work gives you free coffee).\n\nI can go from alarm to out the door in 10 minutes.", "**Set the alarm clock to wake you up earlier.**\n\nAnd go to bed a bit earlier to compensate if you feel you need to.\n\nThe absolute easiest answer.\n\n" ]

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[ "How give a cashier your number/ get theirs? I met a gorgeous cashier today at a sporting goods store and want to get to know her. Any way to give her my number or ask her for her number without coming off as creepy? ", "How give a cashier your number/ get theirs? I met a gorgeous cashier today at a sporting goods store and want to get to know her. Any way to give her my number or ask her for her number without coming off as creepy? ", "How give a cashier your number/ get theirs? I met a gorgeous cashier today at a sporting goods store and want to get to know her. Any way to give her my number or ask her for her number without coming off as creepy? ", "How give a cashier your number/ get theirs? I met a gorgeous cashier today at a sporting goods store and want to get to know her. Any way to give her my number or ask her for her number without coming off as creepy? " ]

[ "Go in, purchase small items (not too expensive), and try to strike a casual conversation for the small amount of time you're there. Try to find a subject that will make you memorable, but that can be easily ended quick as you need to move on. After about a week or 2, just ask her if you could take her out for a diner, or a walk. I find that movies gets in the way of interacting with the person you are trying to connect. ", "theres a queue isnt there? how are you suppost to talk at all if other people are standing behind you waiting?", "Story time! I was working as a cashier on my smoke break. A customer came in and asked my coworker for my name and had them tell me he thought I was really pretty. (lame) I ran outside and signed thank you before he left. I came in and about 10 minutes later a customer came in and said \"a nice young man outside wanted me to give this to you\" it was just a page from a book with Shakespeare poetry with his number but yes I did text him. And we talk to this day 6 months later ", "I'm assuming you actually interacted with her a bit rather than just stared at her from a distance like a steer with a pickax through its cranium? You had more than five seconds with her at the register when you bought a half-dozen jock straps?\n\nDid she like you? Was there chemistry and mutual attraction? \n\nIf a clear yes, go back at the same time and say to her \"Hi. I thought we had a moment there last week. Was wondering if you did too.\" and that should tell you whether the next action is another question to her, or an apology and you buy all of your jock straps elsewhere from now on.\n\nIf you're not sure, go back to the store for something else and watch for it. \n\nIf you can't recall anything that indicates she has an interest in you, don't go back." ]

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[ "How to remove cigarette smell from a dryer. The woman who lived in my apartment before me chain smoked so my dryer smells like cigarette smoke. It only smells when it is running and cleaning out the vent hose has done nothing. The smell has faded some in the 7 months I've lived here but is still very noticeable.\n\nWhat can i do to remove the smell?", "How to remove cigarette smell from a dryer. The woman who lived in my apartment before me chain smoked so my dryer smells like cigarette smoke. It only smells when it is running and cleaning out the vent hose has done nothing. The smell has faded some in the 7 months I've lived here but is still very noticeable.\n\nWhat can i do to remove the smell?", "How to remove cigarette smell from a dryer. The woman who lived in my apartment before me chain smoked so my dryer smells like cigarette smoke. It only smells when it is running and cleaning out the vent hose has done nothing. The smell has faded some in the 7 months I've lived here but is still very noticeable.\n\nWhat can i do to remove the smell?", "How to remove cigarette smell from a dryer. The woman who lived in my apartment before me chain smoked so my dryer smells like cigarette smoke. It only smells when it is running and cleaning out the vent hose has done nothing. The smell has faded some in the 7 months I've lived here but is still very noticeable.\n\nWhat can i do to remove the smell?", "How to remove cigarette smell from a dryer. The woman who lived in my apartment before me chain smoked so my dryer smells like cigarette smoke. It only smells when it is running and cleaning out the vent hose has done nothing. The smell has faded some in the 7 months I've lived here but is still very noticeable.\n\nWhat can i do to remove the smell?" ]

[ "Put some Lestoil on a damp towel and run it on hot for a while. Then you can run a regular load with the dryer sheets in it.\n\nThat should get rid of the smell. My apt has a washer dryer combo, the dryer had been sitting with a wet towel in it for who knows how long and smelt downright moldy. Used the Lestoil and it took the smell out.", "The smell is trapped in the accumulated lint inside your dryer. Even the best lint trap doesn't get it all. If you can replace the duct that runs from your dryer to the outside. If you can't replace it get a brush and clean it out the best you can. Then get a dryer brush and run it through from your lint trap as far is it will go. Then go to the back of the dryer where the vent is and run the brush in there too. Get as much lint as you possibly can. Finally get a product called Ozium and spray an old towel liberally with it. Let it air out for a couple minutes then toss that in and turn the dryer on. This should do it. Good luck. ", "Might want to pull the back off and vacuum out all the lint. There's always some in there and it will hold the smell.", "I would put a whole shit ton of dryer sheets in there every time I used it. I'd be too concerned about any kind of cleaner or air-freshener being possibly combustible if I were you. ", "Move! Thirdhand smoke is not good for you. http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/adult-health/expert-answers/third-hand-smoke/faq-20057791" ]

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[ "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.", "how to maintain one's sanity while working alone every day I started a new job as an administrator at a small organization about six months back. At first, I was stoked about the amount of \"freedom\" I would have in my job, as I'm the only one in the office about 80+% of the time. But over time, I've found it to be a surprisingly large problem. I don't find the work engaging, and my office environment provides minimal stimulation. With nobody to bounce ideas off, nobody to keep my feet to the fire, and nothing interesting happening on a daily basis, I feel like my mind is becoming atrophied. I am getting slower and slower at getting my work done instead of faster. I find myself easily distracted by internet rabbit-holes and my own thought loops. At the end of the work day, and even more at the end the week, I find myself exhausted in spite of having done little.\n\nI would quit the job, but there are several reasons that I feel like I can't yet- it took me almost a year to find a decent-paying real adult job with benefits, and my wife and I are dependent on the income and insurance coverage this job provides (she has medical issues that make it hard for her to work full time). I also don't want to burn the bridge and leave a gap on my resume, even though I desperately want to get out of administration. I plan on quitting after we've saved up enough for a big move, but it's going to be at least a year before that happens. In the mean time, I'm losing my mind spending so much time alone with my thoughts in a work environment. Any ideas are greatly appreciated." ]

[ "one thing that could work is listening to podcasts; these always help to kind of keep me company, in the lonely hours", "Exercise breaks will do you a world of good. \nFresh air, too. You have a great set-up to get yourself in shape via calisthenics, pushups, etc. \nHell, take some dumbbells to work, too and go for it.\n\nThis type environment suits many people but a lot of people can't do it. You need to decide if you can handle it or not. If you just sit and surf reddit all day your mind will turn into oatmeal.", "I work from home. Here are some of the ways that I tend to stay focused (I say as I'm typing this at 1:45 in the afternoon...):\n\n* Go for short walks whenever you feel like your attention is wavering, weather permitting. You are legally entitled to a few short breaks a day, so don't forget to use them.\n* Invest in a whiteboard and write out your to-do list for the next day before you leave work. Break down tasks into small parts and wipe them off the board as you complete them. Some people (I'm not one of them) benefit even more from breaking those tasks down into a schedule so that you know at any given time what you \"should\" be doing.\n* LOTS of music. I make a lot of playlists. Audio books are also good. So are streaming movies or TV shows that you're so familiar with that you don't need to watch them anymore. Basically, background noise.\n* Talk to yourself. This may sound a little bit crazy, but I find that it really helps me to stay focused if I say the words out loud.\n* Drink a lot of water. This goes hand in hand with going for short walks. It's an excuse to get up from your desk and refill your glass (or use the washroom). Besides, it's pretty healthy.\n* Accept that you won't be 100% productive every day. I struggled badly with this one while writing my dissertation and now working from home as a writer. No one spends every moment at work being productive, even if they're in an office with lots of people. Anyone who says they do is lying. As long as you are accomplishing most/all of your goals each day, you're still doing a great job.", "Music. Listen to music, man, all kinds all day.\n\nAlternatively listen to audio books or podcasts or radio shows. Anything that can be entertaining without being too distracting.", "Do you have to work from the office? I have worked by myself with no coworkers (or coworkers I see very rarely) for years. But if I worked in an office I think I would hate it. Is there a reason you can't work from home or a cafe? If it's possible I highly suggest it. \n\nThen you can start to create a stimulating routine. For instance, I take my dogs for a walk for my mid morning break. Then lunch time I'll hop to a cafe and have lunch with a friend and then work from there for a while. It keep things stimulating and interesting. \n\nAlso consider shared office spaces - or those communal offices where a bunch of different solo workers come together because they hate working alone. \n\nIf you cannot leave the office, try to find a way to expand on the perks of the job. Can you play music crazy loud while you work? Can you rollerskate around the office (I'm only half joking). Find ways to capitalize on freedom you have and expand it. \n\nAlso make checklists and rewards to keep you focused throughout the day. Self motivating is a learned process. It took me a few months to settle into it. However now I wouldn't have it any other way. ", "Not advice about your main question, but about your job searching tactics.\n\nNever quit a job without another to go to! As a rule of thumb. \n\nIt's much easier to get a job when you're already in one.", "I currently work by myself in a production job. I used to listen to music, but found that I got tired of playing the same playlists over and over again. I didn't want to ruin all of my favorite songs by listening to them non stop, and podcasts didn't interest me much so I tried audiobooks. I had a neglected Audible account, and I am an extremely slow reader, so I set myself out to start reading (listening).\n\nI started small with audiobooks of only 2-3 hours length, since I wasn't sure how long it would take me to finish them. Now, several months later, I find myself finishing 12 hour audiobooks in a day or two. My reading list has skyrocketed and my mind is thoroughly engaged throughout the day. The only downside to all of this is that the faster you finish and move on, the more expensive it becomes as Audible doesn't really offer a plan for someone who listens to as many audiobooks as I do. But, then again, you can always listen to your favorite books over again since you own them. Hope this helps.", "this won't entirely solve your problem, but can be one thing you do in conjunction with the other suggestions in this thread:\n\nYou mentioned you're alone 80% of the time? Make the most of that 20%. I don't know the nature of your work but you did say you have a need to bounce ideas off people. Set some weekly meetings with those who will be in the office. They could see it as a waste of time, especially if you don't have productive things to discuss. But if some of those people are your superiors, and you frame it as a chance to excel better at your career, then it's a good thing. Set some short, medium, and long-range goals and take time to work those things out. Over-prepare for those meetings because, like I said, you don't want these other people to think it's a waste of their time. This tip maybe won't end up being applicable to you, cause I don't entirely know your situation, but maybe helps others who come across this thread.", "set up a more rigorous schedule. even if there's nothing time-sensitive, make something up. exercise breaks, snack breaks, any thing you can think of. make little things exciting; it's tricky at first, but you need to focus. so, make something up, and focus on that. work hard and study intently for short periods of time, and then do something else.", "Steady income with little responsibility/oversight. Sounds like a great time to start a simple business. Maybe check out /r/Entrepreneur", "Set goals for yourself no matter how small to keep your mind engaged in a certain direction. Make lists of things to accomplish if it is applicable. Start looking for a new job after a year or so rolls around.", "Set a goal for daily tasks and the time limit to do it. Make sure you finish on your goal on time. EX: finish a certain job/project by 10am, then move on to the next project. \n\nThen, figure out a way to improve on it and set a challenge goal for yourself.", "So, just curious, but is it possible they'd be willing to let you work remotely a couple days a week? Sometimes I've gotten a lot of benefit out of working from coffee houses, or even better I now require myself to go into a shared office space on a daily basis (it helps maintain my sanity too, since I work remotely). Exercise is important, music, audiobooks, and podcasts in the background help, and maybe a constant communication tool like Hipchat or IRC (which could connect even just to people you like if coworkers aren't available). It's a challenge for me, every day, to remain focused and productive (I tend get really stressed out about it too, honestly; even when I'm working in the shared office space). I've also taken to using a pomodoros tool (like Tomighty) to give myself specific times I should be working, and specific times for breaks. I also use habitica with some friends to break up what I have to do into smaller problems that are easier to start on (without going down the internet rabbit hole). Good luck with this, it's a challenge, but I think you can do it!", "If nobody is supervising you, do whatever you want. Who cares if you get your work done, you're the boss, make somebody else do it.", "I'm a Java developer, so I kinda know how you're feeling.\n\nEvery couple of hours, go for a walk. If that's too much, try doing so at least 2 times a day. \n\nListen to music the entire day. \n\nIf music is not your thing, try listening to some comedy. On days when I'm just doing mundane work, I try to listen to old Howard Stern shows, or Louis CK or Cheech & Chong on YT. Something to put a smile on my face and make me chuckle.", "I can certainly empathize. I work from home myself, and it gets very lonely indeed.\n\nReading the comments, most of the best suggestions have already been mentioned: take walks, listen to podcasts/music, and so on.\n\nThis might not be exactly what you were thinking of when you submitted your request, but if you are more interested in spending your time at work doing something beneficial to both the company and yourself, I've what I consider to be a perfect solution.\n\nAllow me to introduce you to the world of [Lean](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lean_manufacturing). It is a method for increasing customer 'value' while simultaneously eliminating 'waste'. In other words, you can impress your boss, and learn a valuable skill while you're at it.\n\nIf you're still reading, your next question will probably be: *where to start?* Well, I would recommend starting by identifying 'waste' within the processes you are involved in yourself. I apologize in advance for the following wall of text, but I assure you it's all extremely simple stuff.\n\n**What is 'waste'?**\n\nThere are eight (or seven, depending on who you ask) main categories of waste in Lean:\n\n1. Transport – Moving people, products & information\n2. Inventory – Storing parts, pieces, documentation ahead of requirements\n3. Motion – Bending, turning, reaching, lifting\n4. Waiting – For parts, information, instructions, equipment\n5. Over production – Making more than is IMMEDIATELY required\n6. Over processing – Tighter tolerances or higher grade materials than are necessary\n7. Defects – Rework, scrap, incorrect documentation\n8. Skills – Under utilizing capabilities, delegating tasks with inadequate training\n\n[Source](http://www.isixsigma.com/dictionary/8-wastes-of-lean/)\n\n**Why should you care?**\n\nIf you can identify any of the above wastes (it is impossible not to) then it is simple to calculate what it costs the company (and there is *always* a cost of some kind, even if it can not be measured financially).\n\nIf you can not only identify how much waste you see in the company, but also demonstrate the 'impact' of that waste, even if your bosses are not grateful for you doing so (it happens), then you will have done something directly work related that is at least somewhat mentally stimulating.\n\n**Why and how should you assess the 'impact'?**\n\nIt is not enough to simply identify 'waste'. The idea of identifying it in the first place is so that you might eliminate it. Eliminating waste can take *investment*, either in time or money. Obviously, you don't want to expend 100 hours eliminating a 'waste' that only costs 1 hour per year. So you need to assess the impact of each 'waste', so that you may rank them in order of 'impact'.\n\nFor the sake of convenience, I'll give a short example:\n\n*Scenario: you have identified one of the Lean wastes: defects. One of your main duties is processing customer-filled application forms. You often receive forms where the customer neglects to write his or her ZIP code in the ADDRESS box provided. This means that every time you wish to add the customer to your mailing list, you need to go on to the Web and find the ZIP code of the address provided.*\n\n**Step 1:** Measure\n\n* Over a length of time you consider to be representative (1 month?) find out how long it takes on average to process a form.\n* Find out how often you get a form with a missing ZIP code. Calculate an average number of occurrences per hour/day/week. For the sake of example, let's say it's 500 per week.\n* Find out how much additional time it takes to process a form without a ZIP code. Whenever you get one, time yourself with a stopwatch, from start to finish, and record the time. For our example, let's say the average is 10 minutes. At the same time, and on the same line in your record, estimate what percentage of that time was spent looking for the ZIP code. If you want to be more scientific, you can also record the actual time spent looking for the ZIP code, but experience tells me that your best guess is generally pretty accurate so it doesn't make the extra effort worthwhile. Make an average of all your percentage estimates (or times, if you're doing it the scientific way). For our example let's say 20%. Finally, work out how much extra effort you are expending to search for the ZIP code on average: 10 min * 20% = 2 min.\n\n**Step 2:** Assess the 'impact'\n\nNow that you know you process an average 500 forms per week with missing ZIP codes, and that each time you do, it takes you 2 additional minutes to check the ZIP code, you can work out the 'impact' of the 'waste':\n\n> 500 forms * 2 min = 1000 min per week (~16.7 hours per week)\n\nLet's assume it costs $500 per week to employ you, and that you work 40 hours, 50 weeks per year (the company does not receive forms over the Christmas season).\n\n> $500 / 40 hours = $12.50 wage per hour\n\n> $12.50 * 16.7 hours = $208.75 lost cash per week\n\n> $208.75 * 50 weeks = $10,437.50 lost cash per year\n\nAll that money lost because of missing ZIP codes!\n\n**Step 3:** Repeat\n\nDo steps 1 and 2 for any other 'wastes' you've identified, then rank them in order of 'impact'. Now you know which one to tackle first, and whether or not fixing the problem is a good decision based on return on investment (ROI).\n\n**Step 4:** Propose a solution, but not so fast!\n\nI was once told that you should never highlight a problem without suggesting a possible solution. But please take care not to jump to a solution without first using Lean methodology! Specifically *A3 thinking*. But this post has gone on long enough, and if you've made it to the end, you're probably intrigued enough to Google it instead of me boring you to sleep with more words!\n\n*I am a mod at /r/leanmylife and I will also submit this advice to our subreddit.*", "in place of human interaction: listen to radio or podcasts. Get up & go for a 5-10 minute every couple of hours.\n\nTo keep focus: make a to-do list at the beginning of the week & update every end of day. \n\nThis is useful if you constantly get sidetracked by websites: Try a timer app that beeps every certain time period. 15 minutes, 30 minutes, 1 hour, whatever is the max time you allow yourself to screw around. Every time it beeps, make a conscious effort to get off reddit (or whatever) & get back to work. Just use it as a reminder, but you have to build the habit up from the start.", "Ya gotta... Ya gotta just... just... just hunker down and shut yer face, ya know? Cheers to ya Buddy, I work alone myself and when it gets rough, I just *really* focus on the task at hand and try to drown out the negativity by making my mind too busy with smaller tasks. \n\nYa gotta just .. just think of every menial task on that list you have as a victory, then ya know ya start to build the victories and by lunchtime you're snowballing more than a bisexual bukakke. By the end of the day if all of those victories don't add up to something that makes you feel \"right\", then brother, oh ho ho very young brother of mine, I think it's a new job that you should find. ", "Work out breaks should be nice!! get a calendar and set your workout goals for the week! Reward yourself for finishing work, maybe have a mini work hobby? ", "Woot worrying about your sanity and start talking to yourself, singing, and listening to audiobooks/podcasts. I had to drive up to 8 hrs a day, and the best thing I accomplished in regard to my sanity was throwing it away.", "Voice actor here; I sit in a very small, dark, padded room and talk to myself all day, every day. \nHave done for years, it can be hell. \n\nHere's a few things that may help.\n\n- Grab a pair of headphones or some decent speakers and put on [birdsong] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_2fzRP7Kt5c) in the background. It neurologically helps you to feel as if you were in a less desolate environment.\n\n- Read more, even if you can't be arsed to start up at first. Choose topics you'd normally never touch and see if you discover something new. \n\n- Consider signing up to a Udemy course or similar to learn something new and exciting.\n\n\nAll in all, best of luck. Don't quit, you'll miss the money. Eventually you get used to it and it's liberating as heck.", "Strict goals, with timers. You're going to work on X or y for 30 minutes and then you get a snack break for 5.\n\nCreate schedules and lists of what needs to be done to keep yourself on track.\n\nInvest in education radio or podcasts.\n\nAnd talk to your boss/department, see if you can arrange more touch base meetings, work from home, anything along those lines.", "Ritalin, vyvanse, concerta, adderall. You sound like a prime candidate. Do you often find yourself thinking thoughts as they come to you? Possibly considering what you'll do if a circumstance plays out a certain way, usually hours, days, or indefinite periods of time in advance? Have trouble motivating yourself to begin simple tasks? Were you the kind of person who could pass tests with minimal or no studying, or had to compensate for bad study habits by cramming twelve chapters the day before?", "Podcasts are your friend son. \n\nGo to YouTube and work through Joe rogan, Patrice o Neil, Sam Harris, Danielle bolleli, Graham hancock, and then branch your way out. Their conversations are like having bros in the room to shoot the shit with. \n\nI work in a studio, and most of the time I'm feeling lonely by myself but the podcasts fill that empty space. ", "Lol hell is other people. I don't understand how you can't enjoy your own company.\n\nReading a book, creating something, traveling, learning something can always be done solo.\n\nWhy not use the time away from your colleagues to learn something new?", "Learn to program and automate what you can. Then teach yourself other stuff with your new free time. ", "It's a terrible idea to rely on your office environment to provide motivation for anything. Do your work, do it well, and use any extra time to improve yourself and get paid while you do. \n\nListen to podcasts and audiobooks. Look into things that interest you, new recipes to cook or projects to build. Pay bills and plan vacations. In short, do things while you have loads of time, that you'd otherwise have to do in your free time.", "Is that a system Admin position? If so, for social contacts, there's still a lot of IRC channels out there to bounce things off people. Good for collaboration, problem solving, rants. ", "If you're free to work outside of the office since no one is there anyway, I would look into coffee shops with good internet or coworking spaces in your city.", "If you're free to work outside of the office since no one is there anyway, I would look into coffee shops with good internet or coworking spaces in your city.", "I'm the morning guy at the restaurant i work at, im alone for about 4-5 hours of the day. I find music to really help me out, especially if i song i love comes on it really helps me get going.", "I would suggest listening to podcasts, audio books or even just music. At my previous job I was in a similar situation. I did a lot of data entry and other computer related work. I ended up downloading a lot of podcasts on many of the subjects I was interested in and the same with audio books. I got through a lot of them in no time. Kept me sane and kept my work up to speed. ", "I would say set timed goals that way you're not only working but you also have a time frame to stick to. Keep your own feet to the fire. And exercise ( outside if possible ) to keep you physically motivated.", "I worked for a little over 5 years for a small Radar Research and Development company. Like your situation, I spent probably 70% of that time either alone or working on the opposite side of a building from someone. Also like you, I spent chunk of time learning and getting the groove the business. During those days, I spent most of the time learning systems, production methods, and answering calls.\n\nAfter this point, I did the work I was supposed to and very little else. I started getting a bit stir crazy. I would just stop working randomly and think about random stuff. After a brief stint of spacing out, I spent a majority of my time looking at what i was doing and hating part of the job because I didn't like how the process went. As I worked away hours with nothing but my thoughts I began to think differently. I started to make changes to the environment / situation and found that my laziness had become one of my best attributes. It ended up not being laziness but efficiency. It ended up saving the company time and money. I reworked the work area/flow to better suit production line type work and ended up reducing production time from around 5 hours to around 2.5 or less depending on specs. This allowed us to bring in more profit from substantial R&D type contracts.\n\nI started to spend less time checking for mistakes and more time on small side projects that I enjoyed or thought about. You may not be able to do this part, but finding a way to reduce work is never a bad thing if the quality is the same. You won't be able to change a business model, but set the situation to suite you. Don't let the situation define your mental state. \n\nThe rabbit holes happen at first, but honestly get a radio for back ground noise. If you have one, turn it on something you can stand and low just so you have something to hear. People like to say i wish I could be alone for x time, but I can tell you at some point you wish you could hear a voice. The radio and calls from buyers were enough between the work for me. The radio was one thing that helped the most. \n\nThe next thing is start writing down the specific items you need to accomplish and figure out if there is any way you can make that happen more efficiently at the same quality. For example, List what needs to be accomplished for the day , but add 5 min walk in between several of those items. If you don't like walking, any type of physical exercise or simply being able to step outside and look around. The small exercise break/look around/walk could be the brief distraction that you need to come up with an idea. A big part is learning about yourself and knowing when and how long you need to \"break\". \n\nWhile you are writing, jot down ideas that randomly pop in your head for later if they don't pertain to work. Don't indulge them at that point but make a note so you can come back to them. If you don't indulge in \"i'll do a quick search for....\" then you can either think of something better by the time you do or loose interest. I would guess you will loose interest in the idea unless you really want to pursue it. \n\nThe last is to use your freedom to whatever advantage you can. The best thing possible would be for you to expand on your own interests if they coincide with the company. So, if you have to do a lot of excel....learn excel and command it to do your bidding. Use word like a magician or Power Point like a god. Get good at the skills you want to have later. They will infinitely reduce the time spent working later if you stay with the same career path. Basically expand your skill set and get paid to do it at the same time. Just make sure you are not skimming time from the employer.\n\nThe biggest thing you should think about is \"am I doing my job as best I can?\" This sounds a bit corny, but it puts on point the idea that you don't waste the companies time, and don't waste your life. Do your work, earn your money, and expand yourself during the lulls.\n\nThe process your trying to create is:\n\n * keep a list of work items to get done\n\n * do each item as efficiently as possible ( think if this is the best way to get x done)\n\n * quick exercise breaks(walk/moving rooms/position in room)\n\n * bring comfort items into your workspace(radio/book/tea/figures/statue)\n\nMy job was great and stressful in many ways, but I found out what I wanted to do with my life during this time. I ended up quitting and getting a degree in Computer Science. This happened because of a small side project that interested me and focused my skill set on a different avenue. This solitary job happened to give me something for all the time I had spent alone. For that, I would endure it over and over.\n\nTL:DR do your work as efficiently as possible and expand your skill sets. Take the time to get comfortable/rearrange the environment. ", "I work from home as a solo indie dev so I can definitely empathise with your difficulties, especially the part about missing people to bounce ideas off. I find that it helps connecting with other people when I can, sharing what I'm doing with people via the internet and so on. Makes it feel like less of a solitary endeavour. ", "I used to work as a \"contract attorney\" which is a nice way of saying you're a temp bitch who reads through thousands upon thousands of company documents all looking for one very specific, tiny, legally significant thing. It's about as mind numbing as mind numbing gets. I found it helped enormously to listen to stimulating podcasts while I worked. I got really into Radiolab and This American Life during that time. After a while I sort of looked forward to going to work.", "I like the exercising idea. It can be a good way to break up the day by exercising at lunch for a bit. If there's no one there then it's hard to bounce ideas off of others. Saying the issue out loud can be helpful as it enables you to think about it more deeply. In programing there is a concept call Duck Programming (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rubber_duck_debugging) where you say you idea's to a rubber duck. It can help. Making lists help me to focus. You can see what you have to do and by when and work through it. If you have time you could spent 20mins each day reading up on something that you are interested in or that would help your next job. 20mins each day adds up to a lot over a few months.", "Humans are by nature herd animals. This is not just some weakness on your part. It goes against a core part of what makes us human. My question to you would be how can you increase your interaction with your co-workers. How can you change the way the company runs or is structured so that you aren't making decisions without someone to bounce them off of. Because my experience is that decisions made in isolation but upper levels of management are generally bad. ", "Hi Op. I feel like you are talking about me. I work at a company of about 6 people. No one talks and not much is said. I'm the \"programmer\" so I'm resented by most of the people there. They think \"reddit is weird\" (go figure). I've decided to learn about nutrition and cooking and start working out. I've got to define myself by outside of work. I have a wife and a 9 year old kid, so I've got to pay the bills. I think I'll find another place in time, till then - I've decided not to be hasty (don't quit on the spur of the moment).\n\nAlso: Take frequent breaks. Go for walks, (up the stairs if winter). Sit on an excercise ball for 30 min every hour while you work. Assign yourself little goals (learn something, improve the efficiency of some part of your job). Try to get training on anything; keep learning.", "Hi\nJust tagging on at the end. Don't forget the radio. I work for myself from home and have done for years. I find the radio is brilliant company. It also helps you keep track of time.\nIf you get bored with US stations, try listening to BBC online . Radio 4 is good for all sorts of drama and news and that might be interesting sometimes. I'll put on a link. \nhttp://www.bbc.co.uk/radio/player/bbc_radio_fourfm ", "Hey OP. I was an office attendant for a self-service storage facility for nearly a year, and I absolutely feel your pain. Not long after starting the job I found that I was talking to myself more often than I was comfortable with and I too began to question my sanity. \nI absolutely agree with previous comments regarding podcasts. SModcast and The Bugle became my personal favorites. I also discovered the Game Grumps during that period. A new problem I developed, however, was the feeling that the people I was listening to were my friends. It's difficult to detach from the only other people's voices you hear during the day. \nIt's a challenge, but try to stay grounded during this time and remember that these stretches of silence are only temporary. ", "Get a fish tank for the office space. It requires a bit of maintenance everyday but I find it more relaxing than it is demanding. A smart fish will provide company, and you can make the tank look nice enough so the office doesn't feel colorless and drab. Take a look at r/aquariums if interested!", "Fuck I wish I can trade jobs temporarily with you! I work as a server, some days I just want to shut the fuck up and not have to talk and deal with people all day! But the tips are good so I shouldn't complain! But it's mentally and physically exhausting.. Your job seems peaceful at least!", "Don't quit your job! I also work until late at night (1AM) long after everyone has gone home. I find the freedom to be really great! I don't have to attend horrible droll meetings all day without a chance to get my work done, I can play my music without being hushed up, I don't have to answer to a leering boss or get surprised by visits from him or other coworkers at random times. And I still enjoy this freedom. \n\nHowever, I agree that it gets very lonely. I miss having people to chat idly with, to joke around with. It's almost like my job has doubled for my alone time. I have been doing it for about two years and while I have worked out a lot of kinks, I still have off days. \n\n* I make a list of all the work I have to do for that day, or week. And I stick to the list! \n* I often walk to the nearby grocer to get my food for the week, which breaks up the day. If I don't need food I will walk around my campus for at least 20 minutes. I often go home at lunch to see my wife or make my food there. I will meet friends for a quick dinner. \n* Multitask by often having Netflix streaming in the background. Chat on the phone while doing work. Take frequent breaks. I will do light calisthenics or yoga in the office, or go for a run during a break in order to maintain. \n\nI may be better wired for working at night. I am naturally more of a night person, and also somewhat of a loner. I also don't feel the pressure to \"keep my nose to the grindstone\" and maintain that facade when there is no one around. I have no problem dozing off for a few or reading a book if I get bored. It's all part of employment- there simply isn't as much going on at night whether you're working security, or retail, or 24 production. ", "As someone who rocked the solo graveyard for about 2 years I feel ya. You can make up for the lack of conversation/social interaction if you're creative though. Being alone in your work place also means no judgement or conduct rules. You can do what ever you want as long as you clean up the evidence. A lot of opportunities there that most people wont ever get to experience. \n \nI bought a pair of [Carpet skates](http://www.amazon.ca/Fun-Slides-FS204-Carpet-Skates/dp/B000MN8DT0), and sprayed them with silicone lube. Our floors where all this fake marble looking linoleum so I basically ice skated between tasks. \nPretty much always had music on over the stereo or headphones. \nUFC/etc on the boardroom projector or waiting room flat screen. \nWe had a human genome project bio lab in one annex and some kind of medical testing lab for blood samples and what not in the other. Sometimes I'd lurk in and play with the science. \n\nIf you're seriously hurting for conversation you can always pull out your phone and call someone or jump on reddit/etc. As long as you get your work done, who's going to know?", "2 top answers i see here are the exact same options i use to get through my summers where im typically stuck in a room alone doing a monotonous task over and over again.\n\n every once in a while ill stop and do some pushups and situps because ive been working towards my fitness. podcasts and the Opie & Anthony show helped me feel like i was a part of some conversation during my workday and really helped to keep me from getting too focused on my isolation\n\nonly other thing i would recommend is taking some time to prepare good lunches or go out for lunch if you can afford it, really helps to break up the day and mentally relax. ", "Good background music helps with focusing and avoiding distractions. Definitely try that. I know my friends also peruse various podcasts, streams and documentaries as well, though I'm not sure how does it help to focus. " ]

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[ "how do I give myself a haircut? I saw a bunch of YouTube videos on this topic but they all deal with straight hair. I have waive medium sized hair. Is there a foolproof technique for cutting one’s hair?", "how do I give myself a haircut? I saw a bunch of YouTube videos on this topic but they all deal with straight hair. I have waive medium sized hair. Is there a foolproof technique for cutting one’s hair?", "how do I give myself a haircut? I saw a bunch of YouTube videos on this topic but they all deal with straight hair. I have waive medium sized hair. Is there a foolproof technique for cutting one’s hair?" ]

[ "If you're a male get some Wahl electric clippers. I just put on the shortest comb on them and run them all over my head. Then just even up the bit of hair in front of the ear with no comb on and I'm good to go. The clippers have paid for themselves twenty times over. If I have a wedding or something to go to I let it grow out a bit and pay for a professional cut a day before. Make sure you put a dab of oil on the blade every few cuts.", "If uou are female, straiten your hair first. There are plenty of YouTube videos with the ponytail method. Use sharp hair cutting scissors. Take hour time, and be conservative with the amount you trim. You can always cut more later.\n\nI have been cutting my own hair for about two years now. I have curly hair. Also, j figure that the curls hide any small mistakes I may make.", "I think brad mondo has some tutorials on cutting your own hair when it's wavy or curly. He definitely gives great advice in his fail react videos" ]

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[ "How can I remove dog urine stains from berber carpet? Our dog had a UTI for a few days and had a few accidents around the house. We tried using conventional carpet cleaners purchased from Lowe's and Target, we had the carpets professionally cleaned, but no dice. After the cleaning, the spots were less visible, but returned a day or two later. \n\nAny LPTs to get them out for good?", "How can I remove dog urine stains from berber carpet? Our dog had a UTI for a few days and had a few accidents around the house. We tried using conventional carpet cleaners purchased from Lowe's and Target, we had the carpets professionally cleaned, but no dice. After the cleaning, the spots were less visible, but returned a day or two later. \n\nAny LPTs to get them out for good?" ]

[ "Sadly nature's miracle didn't do anything for the stains in our house with white carpet. I found this works great even on old stains. Saturate the stain area with hydrogen peroxide then cover with a heavy layer of baking soda to soak up the hydrogen peroxide and urine / feces mixture let sit for a day or two till it is dry and then vacuum it up preferably with a filtered vacuum that doesn't let the urine saturated baking soda enter the air in your home. I use a Dyson but you get the idea. (", "Came here to say Nature's Miracle is the only shit that truly works every time. You buy it at Petco or PetSmart, it's great." ]

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[ "Is going back to school worth it or should I continue growing my small business? Any other tips or career/financial advice appreciated ", "Is going back to school worth it or should I continue growing my small business? Any other tips or career/financial advice appreciated " ]

[ "Having worked for myself most of my life, I've found that you need two things:\n\n1. Solid understanding of your product/service.\\\n\n2. A basic understanding of bookkeeping. You don't have to know details that a CPA would know, but you have understand how cash flow relates to profit and loss, how to balance your books, etc.", "BBA degrees are useless. I have no clue why colleges continue to offer degrees that aren't helpful to students or at least don't actually counsel students on what's needed to get a job. \n\nI'd continue to build your business but if you're really not passionate anymore, time to reevaluate whether you want a career or a job and whether you can handle either. A career is a long-term option that may or may not pay well that you enjoy while a job pays what you want but may not be rewarding in other ways. It is possible to have both." ]

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[ "How to ask your boss to buy you something? Basically, I'm working as a graphic design intern at a marketing agency, and the previous subscription I had to an asset library just ran out. I can do the work without it, but it makes the work a lot easier and I work faster with it (also makes the designs look nicer). However, I don't want to pay for it myself as its kind of pricy. I feel like I have the arguments down and it makes sense for me to ask my boss (or the company) to buy it for me, but I've only just recently started. Does anyone have any tips/advice?", "How to ask your boss to buy you something? Basically, I'm working as a graphic design intern at a marketing agency, and the previous subscription I had to an asset library just ran out. I can do the work without it, but it makes the work a lot easier and I work faster with it (also makes the designs look nicer). However, I don't want to pay for it myself as its kind of pricy. I feel like I have the arguments down and it makes sense for me to ask my boss (or the company) to buy it for me, but I've only just recently started. Does anyone have any tips/advice?", "How to ask your boss to buy you something? Basically, I'm working as a graphic design intern at a marketing agency, and the previous subscription I had to an asset library just ran out. I can do the work without it, but it makes the work a lot easier and I work faster with it (also makes the designs look nicer). However, I don't want to pay for it myself as its kind of pricy. I feel like I have the arguments down and it makes sense for me to ask my boss (or the company) to buy it for me, but I've only just recently started. Does anyone have any tips/advice?", "How to ask your boss to buy you something? Basically, I'm working as a graphic design intern at a marketing agency, and the previous subscription I had to an asset library just ran out. I can do the work without it, but it makes the work a lot easier and I work faster with it (also makes the designs look nicer). However, I don't want to pay for it myself as its kind of pricy. I feel like I have the arguments down and it makes sense for me to ask my boss (or the company) to buy it for me, but I've only just recently started. Does anyone have any tips/advice?", "How to ask your boss to buy you something? Basically, I'm working as a graphic design intern at a marketing agency, and the previous subscription I had to an asset library just ran out. I can do the work without it, but it makes the work a lot easier and I work faster with it (also makes the designs look nicer). However, I don't want to pay for it myself as its kind of pricy. I feel like I have the arguments down and it makes sense for me to ask my boss (or the company) to buy it for me, but I've only just recently started. Does anyone have any tips/advice?", "How to ask your boss to buy you something? Basically, I'm working as a graphic design intern at a marketing agency, and the previous subscription I had to an asset library just ran out. I can do the work without it, but it makes the work a lot easier and I work faster with it (also makes the designs look nicer). However, I don't want to pay for it myself as its kind of pricy. I feel like I have the arguments down and it makes sense for me to ask my boss (or the company) to buy it for me, but I've only just recently started. Does anyone have any tips/advice?" ]

[ "Hi,\n\nI've found that utilizing an asset library has helped me be incredibly efficient in producing work for the team! I was curious if it may be possible for us to explore subscribing to this so we can improve our quality of work and productivity. Please feel free to let me know if this is something we can consider as I think it would only help us moving forward. Keep me posted when you can, thanks :)!", "Subscription to an asset library is budget dust for a marketing agency. Ask the way you did here and if they are smart they will go for it.", "Did the same thing with Envato Elements when I started at my job. It should be a no-brainer from your bosses perspective.", "You need to ask the right person. If you’re an intern then you should probably ask your boss or whoever is supervising you. I’d ask informally first and then offer to put it in an email if they wished. They may need to justify the procurement so it’s useful to have it written out.", "Say that you've been using it and show examples of work done with it. Then say that you paid for a subscription for X amount of time (that covers whilst you've been there) and that you had been happy to just use it up as it had been pre paid but would really appreciate them taking on the cost from now on. If you can justify the time saved vs the cost it'll be a no brainer.", "Are you an unpaid intern or on salary? If yes, then they have no real financial reason to reduce your work hours or make your job easier. In their mind, you can just work more hours as it costs them nothing extra. If you're hourly, then it makes economic sense for them." ]

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[ "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated.", "Anecdotal tips to fall asleep for those struggling in bed at night. As stated above.\n\nHere are the things I already know:\n\n* Dim lights, lower light intake at night (brightness on screens), since your light intake can alter your brain function.\n\n* Eating dinner earlier in the day. I've read that the last meal can also affect sleep cycles\n\n* Laying in bed\n\n* Counting to a zillion\n\n* Reading\n\nCan reddit think of anything I might have missed? Non-drug induced states of tiredness or sleep would be greatly appreciated." ]

[ "We're supposed to lie down in bed? Shit, I've been doing handstands.\n\nIn all seriousness I've heard that listening to the silence is a good way of drifting off.", "This sounds counter-intuitive but try to stay awake and actually stare at the ceiling. By opening your eyes wide, and by focusing on staying awake, you stop focusing on the type of thinking that might be keeping you from sleeping. It also heightens your awareness of your body's natural desire to sleep and you can enjoy trying to fight the drowsiness you'll feel.", "Rainymood.com\n\nForcing your mind blank\n\nBeing slightly colder than usual\n\nAudiobooks\n\nSorry about the formatting, right arm trapped under girlfriend that doesn't share this problem ._.\n", "I play a game where I come up with a category (eg. 'mammals' or 'things you might find underground') and then think of something for each letter of the alphabet. By the time I get to J I'm usually drifting off. I think the categories have to be something just hard enough that you aren't whizzing through them but just boring enough that you want to go to sleep.", "I strongly recommend f.lux for those who use computers/iphones at night.\n\nIt makes your screen colour warmer (more organge) to match indoor lighting as it gets later in the evening. Have you ever checked your phone in the middle of the night and been blinded by it? This is the solution. There are some threads here on reddit about it.\n\nBest thing I did computer and iphone in a while. iPhone needs to be jail broken though.", "Get a white noise app, maybe a bedside phone dock to amplify/charge simultaneously. Works wonders for me. ", "I try to \"daydream\" about certain things that would never happen. For example last night I was daydreaming about climbing Mount Everest but every time I'd get halfway up the mountain a giant bird would try to fling me off. Then I traveled to a small village and learned to fly and everthing kind of gets fuddled because I fell asleep. The whole time I had my eyes closed and pretended to be dreaming. ", "Count backwards from 100. If I'm really having a hard time I will try and visualize the numbers in different fonts, or as words...says the person who woke up at 4 am and can't get back to sleep....", "When I was younger I would fall asleep faster if I forgot to turn off the light before snuggling down. (or forgot somethign else minor.) I got sleepy as I procrastinated about getting up to do whatever it was I forgot. Maybe it was because I was just focusing on one thing only.", "This comment has been overwritten by an open source script to protect this user's privacy. It was created to help protect users from doxing, stalking, harassment, and profiling for the purposes of censorship. \n\n If you would also like to protect yourself, add the Chrome extension [TamperMonkey](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/tampermonkey/dhdgffkkebhmkfjojejmpbldmpobfkfo), or the Firefox extension [GreaseMonkey](https://addons.mozilla.org/en-us/firefox/addon/greasemonkey/) and add [this open source script](https://greasyfork.org/en/scripts/10380-reddit-overwrite). \n\n Then simply click on your username on Reddit, go to the comments tab, scroll down as far as possible (hint:use [RES](http://www.redditenhancementsuite.com/)), and hit the new OVERWRITE button at the top.", "Something that works for me is to count wishes. Different nights I might put different constraints on the wishes, but the idea is that I have a large or unlimited number of wishes and I think of things to wish for and count them. If I lose count, I have to start over. Somehow the counting makes me fall asleep much faster than ordinary thinking.", "Sex... I always fall asleep easily after sex. I usually wake up feeling better rested as well.\n\n", "Okay, I have an anouncement. **I have been an insomniac for the past 30 years until very recently.** I have been a \"night person\" since birth. Now, for the first time in my entire life, I sleep like a normal person. \n\nYou know what I did? I get up EVERY day at 7am. No sleeping in and no naps. \n\nNow, I get drowsy at 11pm and sleep the whole night (7 hours, no more) with amazing dreams. And you can, too!\n\nI should also state that I'm vegetarian and I work out with my 22kg kettlebell twice a week (no gyms for me). It might be a combination.", "Okay - here's what helps me:\n\nI close my eyes and try to \"look\" straight ahead. That is, I make it so that if my eyes were open, I would be looking straight ahead. Not up in the corner or anything - just straight ahead.\n\nIf I do that, last thing I remember doing when I wake up is initiating that process. It doesn't always work in the most heavy-duty non-sleep situations, but it works 99.9% of the time for me.\n\nWhy do I think it works? My eyes tend to go off in weird directions when I close my eyes and try to sleep. I think that causes enough strain or some kind of unconscious distraction to keep me awake for longer than I want to be. \n\nIt could also be some form of m", "If you have a pet, visualize their face, trying to get every detail in your mind's eye. Things will keep distracting you. Come back to the image. Don't be sidetracked by your mind. Get the image right until it really looks like your pet. Lick the candy cane lamp post and collect your lottery winnings.", "If I want to sleep or take a nap, I think of an album that I know by heart and begin to play it in my head. I think of every lyric, instrument, note, etc. and this seems to work for me. Within minutes I am asleep. Works everytime. ", "Personally if i take one or two hits of marijuana about an hour before bed then I can pass out almost immediately.", "Here is what works for me. I have been working on perfecting this process for years, acquiring useful tips here and there, and I feel like I pretty much have it down. \n\n* Plan your bedtime deliberately, based on how much time you want to sleep and when you need to get up in the morning. \n* Allow yourself 45 minutes of time before you actually want to fall asleep. It takes the average person about 15 minutes to fall asleep and you'll want another 30 minutes to wind down, as described below.\n* Plan your sleep period around a set number of whole sleep cycles. A sleep cycle lasts on average about 90 minutes, so do the math accordingly.\n* Take one quarter of a 3mg tablet of Melatonin (0.75mg) 30 minutes before bed time. (Research [and my experience as well] has shown that a full tablet - what the manufacturers consider a full dose - may actually cause you to wake prematurely.)\n* Turn off the lights.\n* Sit in a comfortable chair (not in your bed) and close your eyes. \n* Let your thoughts wander. Don't worry about clearing your mind, it will happen naturally. \n* Don't be tempted to use any electronic devices or anything that holds your attention. You want to let your thoughts wander, unguided.\n* After 30 minutes get into bed.\n* Initially, don't cover yourself up with any sheets or blankets. Allow your body to cool down. After 10 minutes or when you become too chilled, pull up the sheets/blankets and you'll be asleep in just a couple minutes more. \n* If you aren't asleep after 30 minutes of lying in bed, get out of bed and do another 30 minute relaxation session in the chair, with the lights out. \n* Do not fret about not being asleep yet. Anxiety alone can keep you awake. The fact that you haven't fallen asleep yet doesn't matter a great deal. Recent research has shown that the time spent in this pre-sleep stage actually contributes to the rest actual sleep would have given you as long as you are in a quiet, relaxed, unfocused frame of mind.\n* You probably won't make it to the end of the second 30 minute session. When you feel sleepy enough, get back into bed.", "Old advice but it works: Don't have anything in your bedroom except a bed and a dresser/other furniture. No computer, tv, books, radio. Nothing. No sources of entertainment. This programs and conditions your brain to accept the fact that there is nothing to do in this room except sleep. If you want to do something else besides sleep you need to go into another room. Try it. It works. " ]

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[ "Invited to an exclusive recruitment opportunity for graduating students, not actually graduating until next year. How should I approach employers? I am currently taking Bachelor in Library and Information Science in one of the best universities in my country (Philippines). I got invited to an exclusive Scholars Gala where I will be \"mingling with high-ranking executives of top companies and agencies around the nation who are looking to hire fresh graduates\", as I am expected to graduate next month. However, I am yet to graduate this December. How should I approach potential employers? ", "Invited to an exclusive recruitment opportunity for graduating students, not actually graduating until next year. How should I approach employers? I am currently taking Bachelor in Library and Information Science in one of the best universities in my country (Philippines). I got invited to an exclusive Scholars Gala where I will be \"mingling with high-ranking executives of top companies and agencies around the nation who are looking to hire fresh graduates\", as I am expected to graduate next month. However, I am yet to graduate this December. How should I approach potential employers? " ]

[ "Get lots of contacts and follow-up with a personal email to the person at each company you were interested in. By keeping in contact, you are more likely to be remember when you do graduate and apply for a job. \n\nI don't know what it's like in Philippines, but for lots of companies, 8 months isn't that long. I'm not saying they will hold a position for you, but they may still be looking at that time.", "Make connections and try to find out if anyone is looking for interns. A lot of the time company's love to hire interns before they graduate and then hire them after because it gives them the chance to mold you into what they really really want." ]

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[ "clearing up and preventing dry skin after shaving For as long as I can remember I've had to deal with gross dry flakey skin after I shave. It doesn't come up until a day or two after shaving though. I do notice that my face has red sploches right after shaving which eventually become the crusty grossness. Anyone have suggestions on how to alleviate it? \n\nHere's an example \n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/KOfJx.jpeg", "clearing up and preventing dry skin after shaving For as long as I can remember I've had to deal with gross dry flakey skin after I shave. It doesn't come up until a day or two after shaving though. I do notice that my face has red sploches right after shaving which eventually become the crusty grossness. Anyone have suggestions on how to alleviate it? \n\nHere's an example \n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/KOfJx.jpeg", "clearing up and preventing dry skin after shaving For as long as I can remember I've had to deal with gross dry flakey skin after I shave. It doesn't come up until a day or two after shaving though. I do notice that my face has red sploches right after shaving which eventually become the crusty grossness. Anyone have suggestions on how to alleviate it? \n\nHere's an example \n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/KOfJx.jpeg", "clearing up and preventing dry skin after shaving For as long as I can remember I've had to deal with gross dry flakey skin after I shave. It doesn't come up until a day or two after shaving though. I do notice that my face has red sploches right after shaving which eventually become the crusty grossness. Anyone have suggestions on how to alleviate it? \n\nHere's an example \n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/KOfJx.jpeg", "clearing up and preventing dry skin after shaving For as long as I can remember I've had to deal with gross dry flakey skin after I shave. It doesn't come up until a day or two after shaving though. I do notice that my face has red sploches right after shaving which eventually become the crusty grossness. Anyone have suggestions on how to alleviate it? \n\nHere's an example \n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/KOfJx.jpeg", "clearing up and preventing dry skin after shaving For as long as I can remember I've had to deal with gross dry flakey skin after I shave. It doesn't come up until a day or two after shaving though. I do notice that my face has red sploches right after shaving which eventually become the crusty grossness. Anyone have suggestions on how to alleviate it? \n\nHere's an example \n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/KOfJx.jpeg", "clearing up and preventing dry skin after shaving For as long as I can remember I've had to deal with gross dry flakey skin after I shave. It doesn't come up until a day or two after shaving though. I do notice that my face has red sploches right after shaving which eventually become the crusty grossness. Anyone have suggestions on how to alleviate it? \n\nHere's an example \n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/KOfJx.jpeg", "clearing up and preventing dry skin after shaving For as long as I can remember I've had to deal with gross dry flakey skin after I shave. It doesn't come up until a day or two after shaving though. I do notice that my face has red sploches right after shaving which eventually become the crusty grossness. Anyone have suggestions on how to alleviate it? \n\nHere's an example \n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/KOfJx.jpeg", "clearing up and preventing dry skin after shaving For as long as I can remember I've had to deal with gross dry flakey skin after I shave. It doesn't come up until a day or two after shaving though. I do notice that my face has red sploches right after shaving which eventually become the crusty grossness. Anyone have suggestions on how to alleviate it? \n\nHere's an example \n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/KOfJx.jpeg", "clearing up and preventing dry skin after shaving For as long as I can remember I've had to deal with gross dry flakey skin after I shave. It doesn't come up until a day or two after shaving though. I do notice that my face has red sploches right after shaving which eventually become the crusty grossness. Anyone have suggestions on how to alleviate it? \n\nHere's an example \n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/KOfJx.jpeg", "clearing up and preventing dry skin after shaving For as long as I can remember I've had to deal with gross dry flakey skin after I shave. It doesn't come up until a day or two after shaving though. I do notice that my face has red sploches right after shaving which eventually become the crusty grossness. Anyone have suggestions on how to alleviate it? \n\nHere's an example \n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/KOfJx.jpeg" ]

[ "Whatever shaving cream you're using, stop. Switch to Shea butter shave cream. It feels like you're shaving with actual butter, and doesn't dry out your skin at all. I don't have to use aftershave anymore. Sheamoisture.com. ", "You might be shaving using up strokes. This irritates the follicles. Shave with the grain. Also, when you apply shaving lotion, do a thin first layer that you really rub into the skin. They make some aftershave moisturizing lotions, which are better for your skin than the alcohol-based aftershave liquids. ", "Use a face moisturiser immediately after shaving and don't clean it off. \n\nI have the same issue and using a \"Nivia for Men face moisturiser\" stops the dryness. ", "Started shaving in the shower about 6 years ago.. Never have any dry face problems or razor burn anymore ...it's always perfect and super smooth", "Shave immediately after you get out of the shower, use water as hot as you can stand. Always use a sharp razor and try to avoid using too much product such as foam or gel. (I prefer a gel) lather it up in your hands and then appu to your face. Use small strokes rather than long ones and wash your razor blades regularly to avoid clogging. As soon as you are done, splash cold water over your face and neck. Pat (don't rub) your face and neck dry with a clean towel. Then apply a good quality moisturiser. I would recommend going to a skin care specialist who will give you some which are relevant to your skin type don't buy one from a supermarket as they are quite generic! If you have dry skin at first be careful using aftershave. Wash your face at least twice a day with a good quality face wash and you should start to see a difference. Replace your blades frequently and don't use cheap blades. ", "Moisturizing, as effeminate as it may sound to some, is the key for a healthy shave and post-shave skin. Look for ingredients like aloe, shea butter, etc. Avoid products with synthetic ingredients and alcohol. A lot of health food stores and department stores have great products. I like the Art of Shaving products and Jack Black products. But they can be pricey. If you want something cheaper, try the health food stores, and even Amazon.", "I never get that type of dry flaky skin after shaving. I cannot say if my methodology or biology is the reason. I do shave with a product which doesn't seem to be skin-drying (I also wash fairly often with it also). I've mentioned it a few times before: Archipelago Botanicals Body Wash Milk. It is very slick and smooth when shaving. Maybe it will work for you. Oh, I almost always shave in the shower.", "I don't have the same problem because of shaving, but I get dry skin like this around my nose and forehead. I use Head and Shoulders shampoo and conditioner. I wash my hair, then apply conditioner to my hair as directed, but I rub some conditioner on my face during my shower. Then I rinse it off when I'm done with everything else and apply moisturizer right out of the shower. \n\nI read in another thread here on Reddit where someone pointed out that it could be dandruff. It is a skin condition and not a hair condition, after all. I apply dandruff products and it helps clear up my skin. Worth a try. ", "Have you talked to a doctor about it? You might have some kind of skin condition that makes your skin react to certain materials/chemicals. Might be treatable or at the very least you might find out what to avoid. ", "Drink plenty of water. Honestly, I can always tell when I'm dehydrated because my skin, lips etc get flaky.\n\nSince you are already using moisturizing products and taking reasonable care of your skin I think this may be your issue. \n\nThere was a LPT for this yesterday, so you know its good advice!", "Coconut oil! I've been using it for a few days and my skin is the softest it's ever been after shaving." ]

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[ "How to make you unnoticed Last time i asked here how to avoid a toxic person, the advices given here were really helpful.\n\nNow in college, i have classes with the toxic ass holes closer to me, so i was wondering out to make my presence go unnoticed?", "How to make you unnoticed Last time i asked here how to avoid a toxic person, the advices given here were really helpful.\n\nNow in college, i have classes with the toxic ass holes closer to me, so i was wondering out to make my presence go unnoticed?" ]

[ "Remember their behavior is a reflection of them, not you! Ignore them, don't even look at them. Just pay attention to what you are doing, like everything else is blocked out. No reaction. If they get bored they will go to someone else to pick on.", "Can you define what you mean by toxic? Are they just being disruptive? Are your professors doing anything about it? The stakes are different in a college setting since money is involved. You can very easily run it up the chain depending on what is \"actually\" happening.\n\nBut if they are just being disruptive, know that they are only doing it cause they thrive off the attention. Odds are, they were the clowns in high school, and have been that way uncontested and they think they can get away with it in higher education. \n\nBut if you don't feed into it, and others don't feed into it, which they won't in time, they won't be there long. Outside of that though, sit near the front, be engaged, and just worry about your education." ]

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[ "Dealing with Excessive mucus Is there something preventive that I can do to combat against excessive mucus forming, especially in the nostrils? I am male if that helps. I was thinking it had something to do with nose hair, but trimming seems to be ineffective. ", "Dealing with Excessive mucus Is there something preventive that I can do to combat against excessive mucus forming, especially in the nostrils? I am male if that helps. I was thinking it had something to do with nose hair, but trimming seems to be ineffective. ", "Dealing with Excessive mucus Is there something preventive that I can do to combat against excessive mucus forming, especially in the nostrils? I am male if that helps. I was thinking it had something to do with nose hair, but trimming seems to be ineffective. ", "Dealing with Excessive mucus Is there something preventive that I can do to combat against excessive mucus forming, especially in the nostrils? I am male if that helps. I was thinking it had something to do with nose hair, but trimming seems to be ineffective. ", "Dealing with Excessive mucus Is there something preventive that I can do to combat against excessive mucus forming, especially in the nostrils? I am male if that helps. I was thinking it had something to do with nose hair, but trimming seems to be ineffective. " ]

[ "I used to have that problem and still have though it has improved significantly. The key is to find out your pH if you are acidic or alkaline. Go get some pH strips and check your saliva in the morning. Chances are you are acidic. \n\n2 things that are helping me are GSE (Grapefruit Seed Extract) and zinc Gluconate. \n\nI put around 40 drops of GSE on a 16 Oz container that I carry around and drink throughout the day, then put 1/4 tsp zinc Gluconate powder (I bought the powder instead of the capsules because in gonna use it long term so it's cheaper in the long run) \n\nGSE is like nature's antibiotic and zinc is highly anti microbial too. Together they kill microbes and viruses in your body, so it's been very effective for me. \n\nI also use a neti pot 2x a week to clear my sinuses. I put salt packets and at least 5 drops of GSE on it. \n\nI hope it helps you. ", "The top rated comment here is woocraft, btw. They actually say Zinc kills organisms haha. Reminds me of a patient's son who wanted her mom on low dose antibiotics indefinitely to help with arthritis and eventually wean off pain medication (it didn't work btw).\n\nNose hairs are going to help prevent allergens because they act as a physical barricade. It's in your best interest to keep them, it's literally the first part of the immune system (it comes from the skin, the first barrier). So, if the issue is mucous, it's likely immunity related. You should have nose hairs in place and at full length (albeit socially acceptable, i get it).\n\nIf you showed up in my clinic I would ask about the time of onset (worse upon morning or night?), the frequency (constant all day? or fluctuates in intensity?), and ask about secretions (runny? or stuffy? forced to mouth breathe?). I'd run a CBC on you and be curious about the eosinophils. Upon the right combination you actually could have something interesting here but I'd likely just go with Zyrtec daily or OTC flonase daily. I'd talk about taking a benadryl at night to help breathe during sleep if that's affected. Things like that. Not fucking Zinc.\n", "Tickle to top part of your mouth with your tongue and press and move up and down in-between your eyebrows, it should clear your nose a little bit. If your throat is full of phlegm get some mandarin peel and put it in hot water/tea and drink it, your throat will clear up instantly :)\nManarin peel is well known in chinese medicine for this property", "Have you heard of a netipot? I bought a version of it called neilmed sinus relief. It's a squeeze bottle that comes with saline packets that you mix with distilled water. This is anecdotal, but after suffering from sinus and mucus problems my entire life this drastically helped. When I first bought it I did it everyday in the shower, now I only need it once a week.", "It could be seasonal allergies or sinus infection.Every year at this time I have problems because of pollen.I just use Flonase and over-the-counter antihistamines." ]

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[ "How to force yourself to be interested in a topic you're studying I am going back to school to be an insurance agent, granted it is online, but it is so incredibly dry and boring. I am falling behind, but I have literally found myself dozing when I am studying. Any tips would be fantastic!", "How to force yourself to be interested in a topic you're studying I am going back to school to be an insurance agent, granted it is online, but it is so incredibly dry and boring. I am falling behind, but I have literally found myself dozing when I am studying. Any tips would be fantastic!", "How to force yourself to be interested in a topic you're studying I am going back to school to be an insurance agent, granted it is online, but it is so incredibly dry and boring. I am falling behind, but I have literally found myself dozing when I am studying. Any tips would be fantastic!", "How to force yourself to be interested in a topic you're studying I am going back to school to be an insurance agent, granted it is online, but it is so incredibly dry and boring. I am falling behind, but I have literally found myself dozing when I am studying. Any tips would be fantastic!", "How to force yourself to be interested in a topic you're studying I am going back to school to be an insurance agent, granted it is online, but it is so incredibly dry and boring. I am falling behind, but I have literally found myself dozing when I am studying. Any tips would be fantastic!" ]

[ "It's not always easy to do, but when learning anything, I always try to think of how I can apply it to something I am interested in OR consider situations in which I may need it. Insurance may not pertain much to things that interest you, but if you can imagine what it would be like to have to help someone who is in dire straights, or explain it to a grieving/suffering/upset family, that may help. \n\nAlso, another previous LPT pertains to this. Always approach learning as though you will need to teach it to someone else.", "Someone offered a tip like this before. Learn it as if you are going to teach a class about it. I'm not sure that will work in a situation like this, but maybe that can help.", "Is this course of studies foreshadowing the career? If it is, I would reconsider your decision to be an insurance agent", "Not everything you will study will be fun and interesting. Sometimes you just have to suck it up and learn it anyway. If the end result is something you want and will enjoy, then a bit of dry learning en route is worth it.", "Find the system that works for you, I used flash cards and paced around a room studying. As i learned the subject I get rid of the card until I have no cards left. Then I restudy all the cards to see how many I can get.\n\nSome people like Mnemonic strategies where you learn by making it personal. Say you are a musician, make a song or rhyme out of your facts(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mnemonic) " ]

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[ "How to Freelance/Be a Digital Nomad I recently finished an 8 month backpacking venture and have accepted a job with a one year contract. I want to spend the next year saving money from my day job, but also making money in other ways in my free time to build my savings back up. What are some freelance or internet centered jobs that anyone can jump into without much or any experience? Thanks in advance!", "How to Freelance/Be a Digital Nomad I recently finished an 8 month backpacking venture and have accepted a job with a one year contract. I want to spend the next year saving money from my day job, but also making money in other ways in my free time to build my savings back up. What are some freelance or internet centered jobs that anyone can jump into without much or any experience? Thanks in advance!", "How to Freelance/Be a Digital Nomad I recently finished an 8 month backpacking venture and have accepted a job with a one year contract. I want to spend the next year saving money from my day job, but also making money in other ways in my free time to build my savings back up. What are some freelance or internet centered jobs that anyone can jump into without much or any experience? Thanks in advance!" ]

[ "I guess it would depend what can you do? Starting as a freelancer is very hard. When I started, I already had a very strong curriculum with great education and experience. However, it was hard at the beginning for me to find anything that was worth it. Either they want to hire cheapest out there, or they are looking for experienced freelancing candidates with good reviews.", "What are your skills? You probably can't \"jump into\" any freelance without having a decent portfolio. A lot of people looking for freelance workers go for foreign clients that charge way less than what you are probably willing to (for example there are tons of Indian workers charging $3-5/hr). So you have to have a good portfolio to outshine them and make your client want to pay for your work.\nI had to work on my portfolio a lot before I could start doing freelance and set my fees pretty low to get some clients and experience. Now i'm at the point where i have a lot of consistent clients and don't need to look for more freelance work. My biggest tip: work on your portfolio! It's the first thing they see and probably 99% of their decision.", "You can't be serious. Freelancing is not easy. To do it in ANY discipline effectively you have to be BETTER than the next guy. Maybe you should take off the hippy backpack and go to school. There's a LPT for you." ]

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[ "how to improve vocabulary Hey guys, I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary. I'm working sales now and I want to improve my vocabulary the best I can in order to sound more professional. I've got the dress attire down and have improved my overall appearance, even ordered a rolex. I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary to sound more educated and professional. \n\nWhat are the best ways to improve my vocabulary? Thank you so much in advance :)", "how to improve vocabulary Hey guys, I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary. I'm working sales now and I want to improve my vocabulary the best I can in order to sound more professional. I've got the dress attire down and have improved my overall appearance, even ordered a rolex. I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary to sound more educated and professional. \n\nWhat are the best ways to improve my vocabulary? Thank you so much in advance :)", "how to improve vocabulary Hey guys, I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary. I'm working sales now and I want to improve my vocabulary the best I can in order to sound more professional. I've got the dress attire down and have improved my overall appearance, even ordered a rolex. I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary to sound more educated and professional. \n\nWhat are the best ways to improve my vocabulary? Thank you so much in advance :)", "how to improve vocabulary Hey guys, I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary. I'm working sales now and I want to improve my vocabulary the best I can in order to sound more professional. I've got the dress attire down and have improved my overall appearance, even ordered a rolex. I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary to sound more educated and professional. \n\nWhat are the best ways to improve my vocabulary? Thank you so much in advance :)", "how to improve vocabulary Hey guys, I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary. I'm working sales now and I want to improve my vocabulary the best I can in order to sound more professional. I've got the dress attire down and have improved my overall appearance, even ordered a rolex. I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary to sound more educated and professional. \n\nWhat are the best ways to improve my vocabulary? Thank you so much in advance :)", "how to improve vocabulary Hey guys, I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary. I'm working sales now and I want to improve my vocabulary the best I can in order to sound more professional. I've got the dress attire down and have improved my overall appearance, even ordered a rolex. I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary to sound more educated and professional. \n\nWhat are the best ways to improve my vocabulary? Thank you so much in advance :)", "how to improve vocabulary Hey guys, I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary. I'm working sales now and I want to improve my vocabulary the best I can in order to sound more professional. I've got the dress attire down and have improved my overall appearance, even ordered a rolex. I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary to sound more educated and professional. \n\nWhat are the best ways to improve my vocabulary? Thank you so much in advance :)", "how to improve vocabulary Hey guys, I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary. I'm working sales now and I want to improve my vocabulary the best I can in order to sound more professional. I've got the dress attire down and have improved my overall appearance, even ordered a rolex. I'm looking for ways to improve my vocabulary to sound more educated and professional. \n\nWhat are the best ways to improve my vocabulary? Thank you so much in advance :)" ]

[ "Hey, I'm a translator so I'm trained in improving vocabulary! \n\nIt's easy, really. Write. Write short stories and after you're done, find synonyms for whatever words you pick (could be nouns in some story or verbs in the next, etc.) You can also rewrite something someone else wrote (a newspaper article for instance) using this same method, pick words and look up synonyms. Just bear in mind that **complete** synonyms are rare since most vary slightly in their meaning. \n\nLook up for glossaries of specific topics! Or just read.\n\nGood luck!", "https://apps.ankiweb.net/\nSRS (spaced repetition software): algorithmically optimized flashcards. Set up an account, download the app (hopefully you have an Android phone; it's $25 on iOS for no really good reason but still probably worth it), grab a vocab deck off Ankiweb (GRE might be a good start) and spend 5-10 minutes a day. Consistency is key here. Find a time in your day you're gonna be able to spend that time (I do mine on the subway to work) and do it every day. I've been doing this for a few years now and I really like it :) hope it helps", "Try a word of the day thing. Whether it be an app, a calendar, something on your computer, etc. Then find ways to use that word throughout the day. Sounds tedious, but if you actually do it, youll be adding 300+ words a year, and thats a lot considering there are some studies that show we use less than a thousand different words a day.", "When it comes to learning any language practice and exposure are key. Read books/articles about sales and making quick connections with people. Watch you tube videos that are relevant to your field, practice talking about your products with friends, or just by yourself....use a thesaurus when you can't find the right word.", "Reading different styles and genres works best but if you don't like reading there are apps or websites where you can learn a few words a day and gradually improve your vocabulary. I do recommend reading, though, as you'll learn words that are more commonly used instead of obscure words that nobody uses. ", "Kindle has this neat feature where it stores all the words you've looked up (by holding down your finger on them) and there's an app called flashcards of something that lets you practice them. ", "I'm guessing you sell cars?\n\nIf so read the cars manuals and everything you can about the product you are selling,blogs,reviews,videos. product knowledge will bring confidence,and confidence will bring trust,and trust will bring you their wallet. \n\nHonestly with car sales your vocabulary means squat. The only words that need to be repeated is sign here, hold on I'll be right back and great news.", "English teacher here. You want to improve your knowledge specifically about cars then read car stuff. \n If you see something clever then copy it. Say it out loud. What will stick is something you already know but can't articulate, that's all it is: connecting. \nMost things can be said simply, and should be. \nRead up, regurgitate and repeat." ]

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[ "When sending a \"we need to talk\" message about a serious matter, how do you phrase it in a way to minimise stress? ", "When sending a \"we need to talk\" message about a serious matter, how do you phrase it in a way to minimise stress? ", "When sending a \"we need to talk\" message about a serious matter, how do you phrase it in a way to minimise stress? ", "When sending a \"we need to talk\" message about a serious matter, how do you phrase it in a way to minimise stress? ", "When sending a \"we need to talk\" message about a serious matter, how do you phrase it in a way to minimise stress? ", "When sending a \"we need to talk\" message about a serious matter, how do you phrase it in a way to minimise stress? " ]

[ "hey i wanna see you, when are you free next? or if you don’t want to in person try “somethings been on my mind” it’s far less scary to receive and doesn’t give off the impression they’ve done something wrong u know?", "It's never necessary to announce the agenda for the next conversation. Just bring it up without fanfare.", "Don't, just find a time that is open for you both, like after dinner, and start talking about it. Announcing it 12 hours earlier makes it overdramatic and causes needless stress.", "Don't be vague, give them an idea about what you need to talk about so their imagination isn't filling in the blanks with worst case scenarios. ", "If you are having a conversation about having a conversation, you could just be having *the* conversation. Don't be inefficient.", "Hello [TheKillerJester](/u/TheKillerJester), thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, your submission has been removed for the following reason(s):\n\n* **Not considered a LPT (a tip that improves life for you and those around you in a specific and significant way).**\n\n\n\nIf you would like to appeal this decision [please feel free to contact the moderators here](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=/r/LifeProTips). Do not repost without explicit permission from the moderators. Make sure you [read the rules](/r/lifeprotips/about/sidebar) before submitting. Thank you!" ]

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[ "How to be more of a \"people person\" in my sales-related job. I'm getting ready to start a new job, and while I'm excited about most of what the role entails, there's one part I'm nervous about. It's a sponsorship management role, so there's a certain amount of relationship building to it (you could also call it sales, but I prefer relationship building!). That includes relationships with current sponsors, as well as new sponsors. \n\nThe trouble is, I wouldn't consider myself very outgoing or a \"people person\". I often get nervous engaging in small talk with people I don't know very well, as I can find it difficult to relate to others. I can do it to a certain degree, but I would like to get more comfortable with it.\n\nAny tips on how to build people skills for a sales-related position?", "How to be more of a \"people person\" in my sales-related job. I'm getting ready to start a new job, and while I'm excited about most of what the role entails, there's one part I'm nervous about. It's a sponsorship management role, so there's a certain amount of relationship building to it (you could also call it sales, but I prefer relationship building!). That includes relationships with current sponsors, as well as new sponsors. \n\nThe trouble is, I wouldn't consider myself very outgoing or a \"people person\". I often get nervous engaging in small talk with people I don't know very well, as I can find it difficult to relate to others. I can do it to a certain degree, but I would like to get more comfortable with it.\n\nAny tips on how to build people skills for a sales-related position?", "How to be more of a \"people person\" in my sales-related job. I'm getting ready to start a new job, and while I'm excited about most of what the role entails, there's one part I'm nervous about. It's a sponsorship management role, so there's a certain amount of relationship building to it (you could also call it sales, but I prefer relationship building!). That includes relationships with current sponsors, as well as new sponsors. \n\nThe trouble is, I wouldn't consider myself very outgoing or a \"people person\". I often get nervous engaging in small talk with people I don't know very well, as I can find it difficult to relate to others. I can do it to a certain degree, but I would like to get more comfortable with it.\n\nAny tips on how to build people skills for a sales-related position?", "How to be more of a \"people person\" in my sales-related job. I'm getting ready to start a new job, and while I'm excited about most of what the role entails, there's one part I'm nervous about. It's a sponsorship management role, so there's a certain amount of relationship building to it (you could also call it sales, but I prefer relationship building!). That includes relationships with current sponsors, as well as new sponsors. \n\nThe trouble is, I wouldn't consider myself very outgoing or a \"people person\". I often get nervous engaging in small talk with people I don't know very well, as I can find it difficult to relate to others. I can do it to a certain degree, but I would like to get more comfortable with it.\n\nAny tips on how to build people skills for a sales-related position?", "How to be more of a \"people person\" in my sales-related job. I'm getting ready to start a new job, and while I'm excited about most of what the role entails, there's one part I'm nervous about. It's a sponsorship management role, so there's a certain amount of relationship building to it (you could also call it sales, but I prefer relationship building!). That includes relationships with current sponsors, as well as new sponsors. \n\nThe trouble is, I wouldn't consider myself very outgoing or a \"people person\". I often get nervous engaging in small talk with people I don't know very well, as I can find it difficult to relate to others. I can do it to a certain degree, but I would like to get more comfortable with it.\n\nAny tips on how to build people skills for a sales-related position?", "How to be more of a \"people person\" in my sales-related job. I'm getting ready to start a new job, and while I'm excited about most of what the role entails, there's one part I'm nervous about. It's a sponsorship management role, so there's a certain amount of relationship building to it (you could also call it sales, but I prefer relationship building!). That includes relationships with current sponsors, as well as new sponsors. \n\nThe trouble is, I wouldn't consider myself very outgoing or a \"people person\". I often get nervous engaging in small talk with people I don't know very well, as I can find it difficult to relate to others. I can do it to a certain degree, but I would like to get more comfortable with it.\n\nAny tips on how to build people skills for a sales-related position?", "How to be more of a \"people person\" in my sales-related job. I'm getting ready to start a new job, and while I'm excited about most of what the role entails, there's one part I'm nervous about. It's a sponsorship management role, so there's a certain amount of relationship building to it (you could also call it sales, but I prefer relationship building!). That includes relationships with current sponsors, as well as new sponsors. \n\nThe trouble is, I wouldn't consider myself very outgoing or a \"people person\". I often get nervous engaging in small talk with people I don't know very well, as I can find it difficult to relate to others. I can do it to a certain degree, but I would like to get more comfortable with it.\n\nAny tips on how to build people skills for a sales-related position?" ]

[ "As an introvert I had to pay special attention to this, especially after 20 years in engineering and then moving into the business world.\nSo, for example, if you are in someone's office, take a look around. Do they have a golf club standing in a corner...a model boat on their desk...a picture of them fishing or engaging in some activity? It could be anything!\nAnd the bonus is that you get to talk about them and they get to talk about themselves. If it is some thing that you have never done, it is interesting to have them explain it, thereby eliminating the need for small talk..\nAlso, I have a customer [sponsor] data base with everything I can find out about the person; Birthday, wife, kids, hobbies, et & et.\nI've learned a great deal about many different human interests by doing this, and even tried a few myself!!! ", "Practice! Go out of your way to make small talk with strangers or people that you don't know well. This will make you more comfortable for when you have to interact with clients and will make you appear more friendly/social.", "Figure out a way to make that person feel like the most important person in the world. Sales is all about relating to your customer. I'll buy anything my friend recommends me, if I trust them. ", "Be genuinely interested in other people's lives and their interests. \nDon't be something until you know what to be. \nAsk open-ended questions.", "The biggest thing I can recommend is to be honest. People can tell when you are feeding them a line of crap, and it will turn them off from you. This applies regardless of the merits of the thing you are selling or whether you actually believe the thing yourself.\n\nFor example, you describe your sales position as relationship building, and customers are sponsors. I don't know anything else about what you do, but I am already assuming that it is a scam of some sort (selling knives, financial advising, etc). Those \"replacement words\" are red flags.\n\nI might be totally wrong in that assumption, but that doesn't matter. If I was a customer, I'd be gone.", "My SO and I have a business and I've done a LOT of sales in the past and I've learned something really valuable:\n\n - Match people's body language/body posture AND\n\n - If it feels natural, match their accent or the words they use!\n\nIf someone says y'all when they are talking to you, you can use y'all in conversation with them. If someone mentions something that they like, and you know something about it, you can say 'oh, yeah, I heard 'this' about that...' or say something *positive* about the thing they have mentioned. \n\nMimicking is a heavy word, I think, but matching someone's speech patterns, posture, and some of the words they use really does help build a rapport.\n\nAnd, nodding when they talk is a GREAT way to subconsciously make the other person feel like they are important - which will make them really warm to you. :)\n\nAlso, find out what you can about the companies you will be working with, if you know a bit about what is going on in their field, you can have a conversation with them about things that are important to their business - an it shows them you are an ally. \n\nGood luck :) ", "I do sales for a living... Here's how to do well even when you're stressed, overwhelmed, or tired.\n\nFirst, know your product. Confidence is apparent to clients and your best weapon. Also, knowing your stuff by heart minimizes fumbling your pitch, etc.\n\nSmile, open with \"how are you doing?\" Let any natural small talk (read, rapport building here) naturally happen and transition to business with, \"any questions I can answer?\" \n\nI find earnestly wanting to give the best customer experience you can is a simple way to break through the pressures of meeting new clients. It makes you more satisfied in your work and likely will increase your sales.\n\nI know its not directly related to what you're doing. Just remember, YOU are an expert at your work, they came to YOU, they want to do business with YOU. Simply do the best you can at your work, be polite and knowledgeable and they will continue to only do business with YOU.\n" ]

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[ "How to deal with Brain Freeze Saw the one about burnt tongue which is annoying but nothing by comparison to the all-consuming piercing pain that you get when you eat something too cold.", "How to deal with Brain Freeze Saw the one about burnt tongue which is annoying but nothing by comparison to the all-consuming piercing pain that you get when you eat something too cold." ]

[ "Ok so brain freeze can be cured almost instantly if you do the following;\n\nBreathe into your cupped hands to warm them up (like you do when they're cold) \n\nPlace your hands on each side of your neck, cupping the carotid and jugular. \n\nThat's it! This basically warms the blood flowing to the brain, as brain freeze is caused by cold substances cooling the blood whilst going down. I have been doing this for years ever since a paramedic friend showed me after drinking a frozen daiquiri a little too quickly. ", "Stick your head between your knees. The blood rushing to your head should take care of the brain freeze within a few seconds. " ]

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[ "How can I easily back out of a holiday I've planned with friends quite last minute without causing problems and inconvenience? Me, two friends and two of their friends were all planning on going on holiday together in three weeks but I've started realising recently that I won't enjoy myself and the cost of everything wouldn't be worth it. I really just want to back out of it but I don't want to let them down as it would be bad seeing a friend drop out of a holiday, especially when you see them every weekend.\n\nThe truth isn't something I'd be comfortable telling them straight away (illness related partially) but maybe in time so I'm trying to think of an excuse or something to allow me to drop out, any ideas? Thank you.\n\n**TL;DR: Need excuse to back out of holiday**", "How can I easily back out of a holiday I've planned with friends quite last minute without causing problems and inconvenience? Me, two friends and two of their friends were all planning on going on holiday together in three weeks but I've started realising recently that I won't enjoy myself and the cost of everything wouldn't be worth it. I really just want to back out of it but I don't want to let them down as it would be bad seeing a friend drop out of a holiday, especially when you see them every weekend.\n\nThe truth isn't something I'd be comfortable telling them straight away (illness related partially) but maybe in time so I'm trying to think of an excuse or something to allow me to drop out, any ideas? Thank you.\n\n**TL;DR: Need excuse to back out of holiday**", "How can I easily back out of a holiday I've planned with friends quite last minute without causing problems and inconvenience? Me, two friends and two of their friends were all planning on going on holiday together in three weeks but I've started realising recently that I won't enjoy myself and the cost of everything wouldn't be worth it. I really just want to back out of it but I don't want to let them down as it would be bad seeing a friend drop out of a holiday, especially when you see them every weekend.\n\nThe truth isn't something I'd be comfortable telling them straight away (illness related partially) but maybe in time so I'm trying to think of an excuse or something to allow me to drop out, any ideas? Thank you.\n\n**TL;DR: Need excuse to back out of holiday**", "How can I easily back out of a holiday I've planned with friends quite last minute without causing problems and inconvenience? Me, two friends and two of their friends were all planning on going on holiday together in three weeks but I've started realising recently that I won't enjoy myself and the cost of everything wouldn't be worth it. I really just want to back out of it but I don't want to let them down as it would be bad seeing a friend drop out of a holiday, especially when you see them every weekend.\n\nThe truth isn't something I'd be comfortable telling them straight away (illness related partially) but maybe in time so I'm trying to think of an excuse or something to allow me to drop out, any ideas? Thank you.\n\n**TL;DR: Need excuse to back out of holiday**" ]

[ "If they are really your friends and you have health and financial reasons that can prevent you from going, tell then the truth and they should understand. Maybe they want you to go enough that they can help with the financial part a bit.. Or maybe they can help in some other way. Still best to be honest with your friends if you value their trust and would like to keep it. ", "Has anything been paid for already? Like flights, hotel rooms, tickets to an event? Because if your friends have already paid for stuff(with the assumption you'll pay them back) and then you back out last minute, that's pretty rude. \n\nBe honest with your friends, but if anything has been paid for already, you should still pay the friend back for your part, even though you're not going. ", "I don't think you can back of it this late in the game without causing them some inconvenience. But I think you can back out in a way that is classy, apologetic, and acknowledges the inconvenience. I think that if you wish you could go but can't, say that, and ask them to send you pics along the way. If you don't want to go, let them know that you really value their friendships but there's some stuff going on in your life right now that you're still figuring out (so don't want to discuss yet) and you're going to bow out of the trip since you would probably be preoccupied the whole time if you went. Ultimately, if these are your friends, tell them the truth, or whatever amount of the truth you feel comfortable/safe telling them for now, and trust that they will care more about you than about the trip. ", "Honesty is best and unless you're a critical part of the excursion, i.e. you're supposed to drive, it shouldn't be a big deal.\n\nSecondly the group is big enough that your failing to go won't impose a huge financial cost increase on the rest - and three weeks is plenty of time for them to find an alternate. With that in mind, I'd tell them as soon as possible." ]

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[ "Tips and tools that will help you sell used items online I wanted to put it out there to LPT to see what you all had in terms of tips to share that can help us when selling used items on websites like Craigslist, Facebook, Ebay, etc...\n\nWhat do you guys got?", "Tips and tools that will help you sell used items online I wanted to put it out there to LPT to see what you all had in terms of tips to share that can help us when selling used items on websites like Craigslist, Facebook, Ebay, etc...\n\nWhat do you guys got?", "Tips and tools that will help you sell used items online I wanted to put it out there to LPT to see what you all had in terms of tips to share that can help us when selling used items on websites like Craigslist, Facebook, Ebay, etc...\n\nWhat do you guys got?", "Tips and tools that will help you sell used items online I wanted to put it out there to LPT to see what you all had in terms of tips to share that can help us when selling used items on websites like Craigslist, Facebook, Ebay, etc...\n\nWhat do you guys got?" ]

[ "Pictures, pictures, and more pictures. Also, on sites like craigslist and kijiji, reposting your ad every day or every few days will help keep you close to the front page and increase the chances of somebody noticing your ad.", "Save the box. Start saving the original boxes for stuff you may someday sell. Especially electronics.", "Use complete sentences, correct grammar, and make sure everything is spelled correctly. This sounds like common sense but most people are horrible about this when selling on craigslist. Always respond professionally to messages you receive from prospective buyers. I once e-mailed a seller for more info and he replied by just giving me his cell phone # to call, with no other info. I never went any further with him and bought from someone else instead. ", "Take your time and get the details right.\n\n*Good clear pictures go a long way and are less likely to be glazed over by the eye\n\n*Include ALL information a potential buyer may want. Size, age, etc. \n\n*Organize the prior info well. Keep the must know stuff in bullet points up top and the details below \n\n*Research what they go for on other sites so you know what a value you are providing and price properly. \n\n*Respond quickly and ask closing questions ~ When would you like to meet and take it... If i drop it to your price would you buy it today? etc" ]

[ 3, 2, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to deal with confrontations with illogical people who don't listen to reason Title says it all, I am sick and tired of people at work who refuse to listen to reason and insist they're right no matter what. Helppp!!", "How to deal with confrontations with illogical people who don't listen to reason Title says it all, I am sick and tired of people at work who refuse to listen to reason and insist they're right no matter what. Helppp!!", "How to deal with confrontations with illogical people who don't listen to reason Title says it all, I am sick and tired of people at work who refuse to listen to reason and insist they're right no matter what. Helppp!!", "How to deal with confrontations with illogical people who don't listen to reason Title says it all, I am sick and tired of people at work who refuse to listen to reason and insist they're right no matter what. Helppp!!", "How to deal with confrontations with illogical people who don't listen to reason Title says it all, I am sick and tired of people at work who refuse to listen to reason and insist they're right no matter what. Helppp!!", "How to deal with confrontations with illogical people who don't listen to reason Title says it all, I am sick and tired of people at work who refuse to listen to reason and insist they're right no matter what. Helppp!!", "How to deal with confrontations with illogical people who don't listen to reason Title says it all, I am sick and tired of people at work who refuse to listen to reason and insist they're right no matter what. Helppp!!", "How to deal with confrontations with illogical people who don't listen to reason Title says it all, I am sick and tired of people at work who refuse to listen to reason and insist they're right no matter what. Helppp!!", "How to deal with confrontations with illogical people who don't listen to reason Title says it all, I am sick and tired of people at work who refuse to listen to reason and insist they're right no matter what. Helppp!!" ]

[ "\"Never argue with an idiot. They will only bring you down to their level and beat you with experience.\"\n - George Carlin", "Some people don't respond well to facts/logic and have trouble processing them. This is usually due to them holding more weight in pre-disposed beliefs or their emotional state.\n\n\nThe first thing you want to ask yourself is if a confrontation with that kind of person is even worth your time and effort. If you know deep down that they will dismiss what you have to say, then what's the point of even arguing? \n\n\n\nSecondly, people who seldom admit their wrong or don't listen to reason usually don't argue like someone who does. Meaning, they care more about social signaling than the actual argument. They will hold more weight on the fact that the people around them agree with them then if they are actually right. Unfortunately, the only way to win a confrontation with a person like that is to make them look like idiots in front of other people.\n\n\nAs I rule I abandon confrontations with anyone who responds with the following:\n\n>Are you kidddddding me???\n\n>I'm right! Look it up!\n\n>You're wrong! And everyone else thinks so too!\n\n\n\ntl;dr You can't really win.", "Flattery. The common trait among all idiots on the planet is ego and stubborn pride. Find a way to compliment some aspect of them and then suggest that this quality will be enhanced by them evolving on this particular issue.\n\nExample: \"I know you're a person who values truth and honesty. I saw you stand up to X when they said that they worked late and you knew that they didn't. I can see that's why you're taking this stand now because X, Y, and Z make it seem like this is the case and I would think the exact same thing except that I know about A, B, and C which shed entirely new light on the situation. I'm with you in that we both want such and such to happen. What do you think is the best way to go about it?\"\n\nFrame it in a way that makes you seem like you're trying to collaborate with someone you respect rather than trying to contradict someone you oppose. Flatter, flatter, flatter. Even if it's obvious, idiots can't resist a good ego stroke. That's the center of idiocy. Pride is the stuff from which stupidity is born.", "I've tried this with my boyfriend when he's being annoying and not listening to what I'm *actually* saying, just hearing whatever he wants and twisting my words...\n\nQuestion them. Use the Socratic method. \"Why do you think that's true?\" \"What do you mean by X?\" \"Where do you get that info from?\" \"Can you take me through this from your perspective?\" \"Okay... but have you considered this?\"\n\nIt makes it easier to explain my POV when I know where he's coming from, and its kind of forcing him to reason with me. ", "Honestly, you don't. If they won't accept logic or reason, or even facts, you just move on. Or if it's online or in a group, realize your audience are probably more likely the people around rather than the person you're talking to. ", "get a divorce.*badum tss*\n\nhaha but seriously try to agree with them or validate an aspect of their argument, even if what next comes out of your mouth is contrary to what they believe.", "Logic works only with people who are logical , For others , Use emotion to trigger a response, Make the issue personal by using them as an example , also tell them (since it is work) have some proof of what they said and basically tell them , that they will be fully accountable if any damage happens , The sudden burden of responsibility can really weaken people, and if they don't well you have proof.", "Hi! Taxes are theft. Please tell my why extracting wealth gathered as fruit of your labor by force isn't stealing.", "Deception. I make it sound like I am on their side, slowly switch sides, let them argue my point for me by arguing their side of the argument, and then let them “win.” I might be a manipulative sociopath, or just not dumb. Jury's still out on that one." ]

[ 58, 18, 14, 4, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to not get so emotionally invested in a job search? I'm currently searching for a job, and I tend to focus my search around a few companies that are really exciting to me (2-4ish per week). The initial response has been good when I really make an effort to connect with someone inside the company - I hear back from about 50-75%. \n\nInevitably, I get really invested in each individual application. I get hyped about the company, imagine myself working there, plan where to get lunch around the office, etc. \n\n... which leads to feeling rather devastated when I get turned down. \n\nI suffer from periodic anxiety/depression, which certainly doesn't help. I know that simply increasing the volume of applications could work, and I plan to start doing that now. \n\nAny other tips on how to not get so invested in each application as I continue this search? ", "How to not get so emotionally invested in a job search? I'm currently searching for a job, and I tend to focus my search around a few companies that are really exciting to me (2-4ish per week). The initial response has been good when I really make an effort to connect with someone inside the company - I hear back from about 50-75%. \n\nInevitably, I get really invested in each individual application. I get hyped about the company, imagine myself working there, plan where to get lunch around the office, etc. \n\n... which leads to feeling rather devastated when I get turned down. \n\nI suffer from periodic anxiety/depression, which certainly doesn't help. I know that simply increasing the volume of applications could work, and I plan to start doing that now. \n\nAny other tips on how to not get so invested in each application as I continue this search? ", "How to not get so emotionally invested in a job search? I'm currently searching for a job, and I tend to focus my search around a few companies that are really exciting to me (2-4ish per week). The initial response has been good when I really make an effort to connect with someone inside the company - I hear back from about 50-75%. \n\nInevitably, I get really invested in each individual application. I get hyped about the company, imagine myself working there, plan where to get lunch around the office, etc. \n\n... which leads to feeling rather devastated when I get turned down. \n\nI suffer from periodic anxiety/depression, which certainly doesn't help. I know that simply increasing the volume of applications could work, and I plan to start doing that now. \n\nAny other tips on how to not get so invested in each application as I continue this search? " ]

[ "Tale my advice. Don't get your hopes up. No expectations, no letdown. \n When looking for a job, it's like the mantra from the scifi show, Quantum Leap: You hope the next jump, is the jump home, but for jobs", "I am about the same when I get an interview. I have put in so many applications and few interviews. So, my advice is that more rejections will lower the anxiety. I hope this is not the case. I would want you to be successful. I've also learned that this kind of premature excitement is probably why I'm not getting the job. The lack of maturity is causing too much excitement and relaying into my interviews. Maybe not completely apply to you, but I hope it helps. ", "First. Your ship is not going to come in if you don't send it out. Keep at it. \n\nSecond: not every job that is posted or that you interviewed for is a legit opening. Many jobs already have a candidate identified before it even posts. Stupid, huh? \n\nLooking for work sucks. It really does. Don't be discouraged. You'll find something. " ]

[ 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "Whats a quick way to get a professional headshot photo without getting one? My work emailed me today asking for a professional headshot photo of me by end of day tomorrow. I don't have one as I just started this gig a month ago. Any tips/hacks/suggestions on how I can get something passable as one?", "Whats a quick way to get a professional headshot photo without getting one? My work emailed me today asking for a professional headshot photo of me by end of day tomorrow. I don't have one as I just started this gig a month ago. Any tips/hacks/suggestions on how I can get something passable as one?", "Whats a quick way to get a professional headshot photo without getting one? My work emailed me today asking for a professional headshot photo of me by end of day tomorrow. I don't have one as I just started this gig a month ago. Any tips/hacks/suggestions on how I can get something passable as one?", "Whats a quick way to get a professional headshot photo without getting one? My work emailed me today asking for a professional headshot photo of me by end of day tomorrow. I don't have one as I just started this gig a month ago. Any tips/hacks/suggestions on how I can get something passable as one?", "Whats a quick way to get a professional headshot photo without getting one? My work emailed me today asking for a professional headshot photo of me by end of day tomorrow. I don't have one as I just started this gig a month ago. Any tips/hacks/suggestions on how I can get something passable as one?" ]

[ "Look up one-point or three-point diy portrait lighting. If you have a lamp and wax paper for diffusion you're off to a good start. Mount your phone to a tripod or make a quick and dirty stand. Spend some time aiming the phone at the chair you'll be sitting in until you know it is set properly. Set the phone to 3 second delay and 10 shot burst. Sit down, smile, then hollar really loud, then smile again. Be sure to look up and to the left of the camera lens. Do this as many times as needed, refining position and lighting. Take the best picture into GIMP or a photo ", ">emailed me today asking for a professional headshot photo of me by end of day tomorrow.\n\nWell then, short notice.\n\nEspecially since a *professional* photo would need to be taken by a photographer, someone who takes photographs for a living.", "I used my phone to take my passport photo, so it's definitely possible! Good lighting is essential. Stand facing a window during the daytime or use lamps at night, to light up your face as much as possible. \n\nHave a friend or family member take the photo from the same height as your head, or just above. Crop, rotate and brighten the image in photo software if needed. Good luck!", "I might be a little late to the party here, but the best headshots I've seen are either (a) taken in natural daylight with some buildings / downtown in the background, or (b) indoors in front of a well-lit single-color, low-texture surface. In the case of (b), there are plenty of apps that can remove plain color backgrounds and substitute another... even if it's a blurry naturescape or something. Wear a nice shirt and tie, jacket if you have one, and you're off to the races.", "Did they say what size it had to be. You can get a passport photo that’s 2x2 inches at a drugstore like cvs or Walgreens. Probably cost you $15-18." ]

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[ "How do I be more appreciative of my life? > I'll love you forever\n\n> I'll like you for always\n\n> As long as I'm living\n\n> My baby you'll be.\n\n[Love You Forever written by Robert Munsch](https://www.wikiwand.com/en/Love_You_Forever)\n\nI thought about my mom and seeing other moms with their children. I can't explain it, but this quote put me to tears.", "How do I be more appreciative of my life? > I'll love you forever\n\n> I'll like you for always\n\n> As long as I'm living\n\n> My baby you'll be.\n\n[Love You Forever written by Robert Munsch](https://www.wikiwand.com/en/Love_You_Forever)\n\nI thought about my mom and seeing other moms with their children. I can't explain it, but this quote put me to tears.", "How do I be more appreciative of my life? > I'll love you forever\n\n> I'll like you for always\n\n> As long as I'm living\n\n> My baby you'll be.\n\n[Love You Forever written by Robert Munsch](https://www.wikiwand.com/en/Love_You_Forever)\n\nI thought about my mom and seeing other moms with their children. I can't explain it, but this quote put me to tears.", "How do I be more appreciative of my life? > I'll love you forever\n\n> I'll like you for always\n\n> As long as I'm living\n\n> My baby you'll be.\n\n[Love You Forever written by Robert Munsch](https://www.wikiwand.com/en/Love_You_Forever)\n\nI thought about my mom and seeing other moms with their children. I can't explain it, but this quote put me to tears." ]

[ "I've found the best way is to try and stop appealing to the expectations and standards of others. If you live your life as a constant comparison to your peers you will never find yourself contented with what you yourself have achieved.\n\nWrite something down each day which you are proud of. It can be something simple, holding a door for someone or achieving a work goal. Even when completing what you feel is a mundane task reflect and consider whether others could have done so in your place without your knowledge and experience. Even if you've tried something for the first or tenth time try to appreciate your progress. At particularly low points, read your achievements and allow yourself to feel pleased. Congratulate others on the same, no matter how small the victory - pass on the good vibes.\n\nSelf-criticism is a poison that will leech the joy from your life if you wallow in it.", "May be a bit controversial, but psychedelics always remind me how beautiful life is, and that I should be grateful for experiencing it.", "I've been writing down the things I am grateful for every day. It has definitely helped me not wallow in the bad things that happen. The longer I write the more specific I have to get, which means sometimes I have to think hard about the upsides of situations. It's a good mental exercise.", "Just remember that your life is still better than at least 5 billion people's. Also rather than wishing it was better, come up with solutions to improve your situation and work towards it. " ]

[ 5, 3, 3, 2 ]

[ "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language.", "how to stay motivated in gym for more than a month Im 28, and im fat (199 lbs) ive tried the gym several times, about 5 times, when i was 15 for a month, 18 less than a month, 22 1.5 months and 26 for 2 months (theresults were awesome in 60 days only) and this time 9 days so far.\n\nI had all kind of excuses to skip gym before (school, money, time, health issues, etc) this time i have a lot of free time, i payed already for 3 months in advance, me and my roomie started the same day, diet+gym combo. But i feel like all this effort is going to be a waste of time if i cant get to stay past the 3 months.\n\nI set long run benchmarks already (perfect abs, 150 or less lbs, etc) i want to stay this time for atleast a year, or permanent if possible.\n\nAny pro tip from personal experience that you can share? Anything will be greatly apreciated. Trust me, i really need the motivation this time. \n\nSorry for the bad english, is not my native language." ]

[ "Over the past 4 years (I'm now 20) I have lost more than 180 lbs during 3 periods I was on diet. Now I am 2 months in my 4th period so I pretty much have a huge experience in loosing weight. The hardest thing was to get motivated to go to the gym, but you have to understand that actually there is NOTHING to get motivated about - you just have to GO to this training. There will NEVER be a day you have mood for a training, there will NEVER be a day when you'll feel ready and energetic for a training, there will NEVER be a day you will be motivated enough to jump out of the bed and go training, you just have to go and I promise you - the motivation comes AFTER the training, when despite all of your fucking excuses you have went, then you will feel motivated to continue. Motivation simply can not come before a training but it surely does after it.\n\nTldr: JUST DO IT!", "If at all possible, match up with a buddy that frequents the gym. Having someone hold you accountable is a huge (at least in my experiences) motivating factor for just getting there, which is the majority of the battle. Gotta treat it like getting up in the morning and brushing your teeth. Eliminate the choice between going and not going and work it into your daily routine! GOOD LUCK! ", "I'm about to start doing this so don't have first hand knowledge, but I've heard it works wonders for motivation. Download a really interesting podcast like Stuff You Should Know and *only* be allowed to listen to it when you're working out. If you find something that really interests you, it'll be good motivation so you can keep listening, and you'll stay working out until it's over. \n \nAlso the app Run! Zombies looks really cool, albeit creepy, if you're into that! Mostly used for outdoor running but the cool thing is the \"sprint\" part of the app just means 'go faster than you are currently going' meaning it's good for all fitness levels", "Let it be the first thing you think about when you wake up. Make it the first commitment of the day and let it excite you - it has to excite you.", "Keep track of your progress, and you'll see you are having results every week. When it's time to go to the gym, just go. Don't skip. A bad day at the gym is better than no day at the gym. Have balance. No need to diet and exercise to the max. Maybe just start with one or the other. Crash diets and crash workouts are not sustainable. Lastly, and most importantly, remember to love yourself. You are doing this for you, and your making a conscious decision to make a positive change in your life. I can't count how many times I tried to quit cigarettes before it finally stuck. Make this the one, and if you fall off the wagon, make sure it's just for a short time and get right back to it. You can do this!", "I would stop going to the gym and start playing weekly sports or do triathlon training. These work for me because they trick me past the routine through variety and socialization.", "work hard and get results, this will motivate you to stay at the gym.\n\nfunnily enough, it takes 3 months to turn anything into a habit.\n\nstick at it for 3 months and not only will you have results that will make you want to carry on, you'll have a new life style.\n\ngood luck", "i had many gym memberships in the past that i just never used until i went in with a workout plan. i was never into weightlifting or any of that stuff. then, a friend of mine gave me a couple of good starting workouts and pointed me towards some info on weightlifting. that was a few years ago and i've been working out consistently since then. i have had a few months where i'd fall off the wagon, but i've gotten back on each time.\n\nso, i'd recommend doing some research and figuring out what you want to do. weight loss doesn't come from the gym, but from controlling your eating. you don't even need to go on any special diet, but just monitor and control your calories with something like my fitness pal.\n\nthen, focus on your progress. a lifting program like Stronglifts is great because it is all built on incremental progress and is great for a beginner.", "aside from all the typical responses you've been given, one I would say that really helps to pass the time is music. without music working out is much more of a burden for me, but if i can drown it out with some tunes and 'amp' myself up before sets with some music I find myself much more motivated. ", "Two things that motivate me:\n\n1) Get yourself a white board 4 month calendar and hang it up. Fill it out with the current month and next 3 months - use it each day to log down when you have been or are supposed to go the gym with any milestones e.g. ran 2 miles in x:x\n\n2) Get a notebook and create 2-3 full workout routines (read online or pm me) then whenever you go to the gym, fill out a page for the day and with the routine. Keep a note of sets/reps/weight or time/machine/effort\n\nThe calendar when hung up where you live is a reminder and motivator in itself and the notebook helps not only monitor what you are doing but gives you confidence of what you have done and more that you can do.", "Try posting on [/r/loseit](https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/), there are also other great fitness subs. The best tip is don't go too fast, keep a schedule you can maintain, change your habits forever instead of doing a horrible diet and being unhappy. All you have to do is eat less calories than you spend. Read the loseit FAQ, calculate how many calories you can eat and do it. The gym is secondary, really. Eating is where the big deal is.", "This might sound stupid and materialistic, but, every few weeks or so, buy something new to supplement your workouts. Maybe a new gym shirt, or a new pair of running or lifting shoes, even socks. My logic being that when you work out you have an objective in mind. That objective is to see yourself differently whether it is more fit, with less weight, healthier, sexier, whatever it may be. And those little purchases will help you see yourself differently and enable you to feel differently about yourself. And then when you can comfortably wear a shirt size smaller than usual, you will know that you are making progress and you'll feel like your hardwork is paying off. On days where I don't feel like I could get my best workout or if I feel like I'm too tired, or whatever excuse I try to convince myself of, I remind myself that my mind will give up far sooner than my body will, and that showing up, even if just for a treadmill walk/ light ab session is still showing up and overcoming the want to give into lethargy. Sometimes being able to say \"I still did it, I still went\" is just enough motivation to head into tomorrow with a different outlook than you had yesterday. ", "Same issue here. I joined on 1st of January (full HD resolution) and could continue till march. I no longer crave for gym. Any Pro tips? Please?! ", "Personally, Ive found that *time* is really important. It varies person to person but there's [a specific time where you're physically most alert.](http://www.proactivesleep.com/images/BodilyCyclesCircadian.jpg). Getting a good nights sleep is also important, it's a good thing that a good workout has been linked with better nights sleep.", "Non-scale victories count just as much. Down 40 lbs since high school, have been stuck in the 130 range for about a year now, but I can run and lift way heavier stuff, and eat a lot more without gaining weight since I am exercising frequently.", "My biggest advice is to think about the long term. Many people get frustrated when they don't see much change in the first month or two (wether it be muscle gains or weight loss). Biggest thing that helped me starting out was finding a program and sticking with it and going to the gym no matter what. The work you put in will only really pay off in a few months outside of the initial changes you might see. Find a good plan that fits your desires and play the long game because that's what all of the other jacked guys in the gym have done.", "Motivation is temporary. Start to think long term. Use different indicator to record your progress: weight difference, amount of minutes you can run on certain speed, amount of push-ups etc. Use it to compare with your future-self and past-self results. \n\n\"If you cannot measure it - it does not exist\" someone said. It will help you to see the value of each step (diet, exercise). It will be like \"Okay, I can skip this workout today, but I would need to pay a certain price - slowed progresses or even reversed\"\n\nStart measure ", "Motivation is not something reliable.\nInstead of making your decision to go the gym or go for a jog while in bed, make that afterwards when you're up and about. Context is more important than motive anyways.", "Literally there's nothing stopping you. Fuck motivation, get up and go to the gym. Do it if you hate it, do it if you love it. If you find yourself scrolling Facebook or reddit endlessly, just shut the computer, put on your shoes, and go to the gym. You don't have to be pumped up or motivated, you just have to go.", "Get a buddy to go to the gym with you. Someone who will hold your feet to the fire and get you there or give you endless shit if you don't. Even an online friend who just asks you if you went today might work. \n\nFull disclosure, I have not actually done this myself, it just makes sense to me and seems like it would work. ", "Force yourself to go everyday for 30 days. Spend an hour doing whatever, gradually increasing your intensity. After that it starts to become a habit. After a year you feel weak when you don't make it to the gym, almost guilty for not going. It's really not that hard, it just takes self control. Dieting is harder, but if you eat smart it isn't really that bad. ", "Fear helps. \n \nPreventing diabetes (which I have a serious genetic disposition for) is my motivation.", "Discipline >> Motivation\n\nMake your workouts non-negotiable. Schedule them and give them the same priority as you would any other important appointment. Go even when you don't feel like it or feel 'unmotivated' (unless you're genuinely sick).\n\nKeep it up and in a few months it will be a habit, and it doesn't take any motivation to do a habit.", "*Focus on feeling better before looking better.\n\n*Get good sleep.\n\n*If you cheat a snack do it straight after your workout so it can burn off.\n\n*Make sure you and your roommate drag each other to the gym that support helps a lot.\n\n*Focus on form, don't exhaust yourself to finish a set amount of reps if you have to sacrifice good form, it tires you and doesn't help you get fit.\n\nThis is all advice I have been given, I myself am quite clueless as I only started out at the gym about a month ago and I train with my friend who has been going for a while.\n\nMy advice: \n\n*Talk to people who know what they're doing\n\n*Train with your friend(s)\n\n*Gym staff or gym goers are in my experience both friendly and helpful." ]

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[ "How to prevent excessive neck movement for a back sleeper? When I sleep, I keep moving my neck at weird angles in my sleep. Just my neck, otherwise I'm flat on my back. Every day, I wake up with pain in my traps and shoulders. It's always towards the back of my neck/upper back. Could you please help me figure this out? Thanks.", "How to prevent excessive neck movement for a back sleeper? When I sleep, I keep moving my neck at weird angles in my sleep. Just my neck, otherwise I'm flat on my back. Every day, I wake up with pain in my traps and shoulders. It's always towards the back of my neck/upper back. Could you please help me figure this out? Thanks.", "How to prevent excessive neck movement for a back sleeper? When I sleep, I keep moving my neck at weird angles in my sleep. Just my neck, otherwise I'm flat on my back. Every day, I wake up with pain in my traps and shoulders. It's always towards the back of my neck/upper back. Could you please help me figure this out? Thanks.", "How to prevent excessive neck movement for a back sleeper? When I sleep, I keep moving my neck at weird angles in my sleep. Just my neck, otherwise I'm flat on my back. Every day, I wake up with pain in my traps and shoulders. It's always towards the back of my neck/upper back. Could you please help me figure this out? Thanks.", "How to prevent excessive neck movement for a back sleeper? When I sleep, I keep moving my neck at weird angles in my sleep. Just my neck, otherwise I'm flat on my back. Every day, I wake up with pain in my traps and shoulders. It's always towards the back of my neck/upper back. Could you please help me figure this out? Thanks." ]

[ "Have you ever tried a travel neck pillow? The u-shaped ones? I highly recommend. They usually have some gross feeling fabric covering, but you can shove one in a regular pillow case and it's great.", "Is your pillow really fluffy? \n\nI'm a back sleeper, and I have to have a very flat, worn, soft pillow. If its firm and fluffy then it raises my head/neck too high, and gives me a neck crik the next day.", "I quit using a pillow entirely when I sleep on my back. It is not comfortable for my neck to be angled like that. My spine wants to be flat, not flat until the last 6\", then angled upward. When I want support, I use a blanket since you can make it the exact size and shape you need to get comfy. I put it just under my neck and not the back of my head.", "Have you tried using just a tube like pillow (the ones that look like a foam roller) for underneath your neck? Or maybe sleep with a travel pillow? Sounds like you dont have enough support for your neck so it cant really relax when you sleep. A small, more precise pillow might help more than a giant fluffy one.", "Ergonomic cervical pillow made with memory foam - keeps your head positioned correctly and neck properly supported. You might have trouble with it the first night or two, but then you’ll never want to be without it." ]

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[ "How to get my dog to stop barking at every person that walks by or knocks on the door She's a good dog most of the time, loves people, etc. But when she sees a neighbor out the window she will growl and/or bark at them. God forbid somebody knock on the door, she freaks out and can't control herself, even if it's somebody she knows and loves.\n\nIt's always been a problem, we've lived with it and tried to fix it, but nothing has worked. Now that we have a newborn that's often sleeping, it's a much bigger issue. Any tips on how to control this?", "How to get my dog to stop barking at every person that walks by or knocks on the door She's a good dog most of the time, loves people, etc. But when she sees a neighbor out the window she will growl and/or bark at them. God forbid somebody knock on the door, she freaks out and can't control herself, even if it's somebody she knows and loves.\n\nIt's always been a problem, we've lived with it and tried to fix it, but nothing has worked. Now that we have a newborn that's often sleeping, it's a much bigger issue. Any tips on how to control this?", "How to get my dog to stop barking at every person that walks by or knocks on the door She's a good dog most of the time, loves people, etc. But when she sees a neighbor out the window she will growl and/or bark at them. God forbid somebody knock on the door, she freaks out and can't control herself, even if it's somebody she knows and loves.\n\nIt's always been a problem, we've lived with it and tried to fix it, but nothing has worked. Now that we have a newborn that's often sleeping, it's a much bigger issue. Any tips on how to control this?", "How to get my dog to stop barking at every person that walks by or knocks on the door She's a good dog most of the time, loves people, etc. But when she sees a neighbor out the window she will growl and/or bark at them. God forbid somebody knock on the door, she freaks out and can't control herself, even if it's somebody she knows and loves.\n\nIt's always been a problem, we've lived with it and tried to fix it, but nothing has worked. Now that we have a newborn that's often sleeping, it's a much bigger issue. Any tips on how to control this?", "How to get my dog to stop barking at every person that walks by or knocks on the door She's a good dog most of the time, loves people, etc. But when she sees a neighbor out the window she will growl and/or bark at them. God forbid somebody knock on the door, she freaks out and can't control herself, even if it's somebody she knows and loves.\n\nIt's always been a problem, we've lived with it and tried to fix it, but nothing has worked. Now that we have a newborn that's often sleeping, it's a much bigger issue. Any tips on how to control this?", "How to get my dog to stop barking at every person that walks by or knocks on the door She's a good dog most of the time, loves people, etc. But when she sees a neighbor out the window she will growl and/or bark at them. God forbid somebody knock on the door, she freaks out and can't control herself, even if it's somebody she knows and loves.\n\nIt's always been a problem, we've lived with it and tried to fix it, but nothing has worked. Now that we have a newborn that's often sleeping, it's a much bigger issue. Any tips on how to control this?", "How to get my dog to stop barking at every person that walks by or knocks on the door She's a good dog most of the time, loves people, etc. But when she sees a neighbor out the window she will growl and/or bark at them. God forbid somebody knock on the door, she freaks out and can't control herself, even if it's somebody she knows and loves.\n\nIt's always been a problem, we've lived with it and tried to fix it, but nothing has worked. Now that we have a newborn that's often sleeping, it's a much bigger issue. Any tips on how to control this?" ]

[ "T can be hard to teach a dog not to do something. It’s much easier to teach her to do something else instead. Why not train her to go pick up a toy when somebody knocks, reward her when she does. Her mouth will be busy holding the toy. ", "Training and patience is the real answer, but a bark collar when used properly can also be an effective quick fix.", "Get a clicker from Petco.\n\n Prime the clicker by click, treat 10 times.\n\nStand with your back to the door. Knock so the dog can't see you knock.\n\nIf the do barks, say 'try again'.\n\nIf the dog doesn't bark, click, say, 'good leave it!' and give a treat.\n\nProgressively knock louder until the dog no longer reacts to knocks.\n\nAlso, slowly move to the outside of the door still clicking.\n\n", "Training for the dog ***and*** for you.\n\nJust remember that dogs still have \"protect my turf\" instincts. ", "Dog trainer here- I definitely second training. In the meantime try Sentry pheromone spray or collar etc; it's the hormones mother dogs emit to calm the babies down in the wild (so that predators don't find them). Also drain her of energy so that she couldn't care less about the people outside of the house. If she's a high energy dog, look into a doggy saddlebag or maybe a thundershirt (the people at the store will be able to get more information about your pup and be able to narrow down your options).", "Tell her no and make her do something to distract her like sit. If distraction doesn't work continue with telling her no and use an e-collar with the remote that you can page immediately when the undesired behavior is done. Bark collars are really faulty and aren't as good as a person saying the word no and using low level stimulation or vibrate/beep", "My dog also barks at everything that moves. He's a giant and his bark is loud enough that you can feel it as well as hear it. Instead of training him to knock it off I just trained the babies to sleep through noise. It worked out well for me. I'm sure your baby can get used to it too. Then you dont have to worry about needing to vacuum but the kid is napping." ]

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[ "How to control a smell induced gag reflex When I am exposed to really bad smells I start gagging and feel like I'm going to throw up. This has affected my life negatively in numerous ways - changing my children's diapers, when my wife had a surgical infection, just walking into the restroom at work sometimes. I'm sure nurses, plumbers, maintenance people of all kinds must have a trick to keeping themselves from gagging when they are exposed to terrible smells. \n\nFound [a similar question](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1z518y/lpt_request_how_to_stop_gagging_and_almost/) by /u/Reztral86 from a year ago, but neither smiling, humming, nor peppermint extract are always practical or effective.", "How to control a smell induced gag reflex When I am exposed to really bad smells I start gagging and feel like I'm going to throw up. This has affected my life negatively in numerous ways - changing my children's diapers, when my wife had a surgical infection, just walking into the restroom at work sometimes. I'm sure nurses, plumbers, maintenance people of all kinds must have a trick to keeping themselves from gagging when they are exposed to terrible smells. \n\nFound [a similar question](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1z518y/lpt_request_how_to_stop_gagging_and_almost/) by /u/Reztral86 from a year ago, but neither smiling, humming, nor peppermint extract are always practical or effective.", "How to control a smell induced gag reflex When I am exposed to really bad smells I start gagging and feel like I'm going to throw up. This has affected my life negatively in numerous ways - changing my children's diapers, when my wife had a surgical infection, just walking into the restroom at work sometimes. I'm sure nurses, plumbers, maintenance people of all kinds must have a trick to keeping themselves from gagging when they are exposed to terrible smells. \n\nFound [a similar question](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1z518y/lpt_request_how_to_stop_gagging_and_almost/) by /u/Reztral86 from a year ago, but neither smiling, humming, nor peppermint extract are always practical or effective.", "How to control a smell induced gag reflex When I am exposed to really bad smells I start gagging and feel like I'm going to throw up. This has affected my life negatively in numerous ways - changing my children's diapers, when my wife had a surgical infection, just walking into the restroom at work sometimes. I'm sure nurses, plumbers, maintenance people of all kinds must have a trick to keeping themselves from gagging when they are exposed to terrible smells. \n\nFound [a similar question](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1z518y/lpt_request_how_to_stop_gagging_and_almost/) by /u/Reztral86 from a year ago, but neither smiling, humming, nor peppermint extract are always practical or effective.", "How to control a smell induced gag reflex When I am exposed to really bad smells I start gagging and feel like I'm going to throw up. This has affected my life negatively in numerous ways - changing my children's diapers, when my wife had a surgical infection, just walking into the restroom at work sometimes. I'm sure nurses, plumbers, maintenance people of all kinds must have a trick to keeping themselves from gagging when they are exposed to terrible smells. \n\nFound [a similar question](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1z518y/lpt_request_how_to_stop_gagging_and_almost/) by /u/Reztral86 from a year ago, but neither smiling, humming, nor peppermint extract are always practical or effective.", "How to control a smell induced gag reflex When I am exposed to really bad smells I start gagging and feel like I'm going to throw up. This has affected my life negatively in numerous ways - changing my children's diapers, when my wife had a surgical infection, just walking into the restroom at work sometimes. I'm sure nurses, plumbers, maintenance people of all kinds must have a trick to keeping themselves from gagging when they are exposed to terrible smells. \n\nFound [a similar question](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1z518y/lpt_request_how_to_stop_gagging_and_almost/) by /u/Reztral86 from a year ago, but neither smiling, humming, nor peppermint extract are always practical or effective." ]

[ "As an EMT, Vicks Vaporub right under your nose or chewing really fruity gum tend to mask smells decently.", "Wear a mask. May not be \"practical\", but people will just have to deal. Your discomfort trumps their delicate sensibilities with regard to your delicate sensibilities.", "When I know I'm about to get into a smelly situation, in prepare myself to hold my breath.\n\nFor example, at work when I have to take trash to the trash compactor, I hold my breath before I open the door and throw it in. I hold my breath the whole time.\n\nHolding your breath is like exercising, the more you practice, the better you get at it. My record for longest time holding my breath was 3 minutes, 11 seconds. I can hold my breath for 30 seconds on demand. \n\nThis is just what I do, and it works quite well!", "One option would be to build up resistance through exposure.\nAnother option is to rub something under your nose with a strong smell, especially good are things thatconvey danger like burned phosphorous, because your brain will concentrate more on these smells than those that make you gag.", "Force a smile, you cannot gag while smiling, and you also are unable to puke while smiling. You said thus a not practical, does that mean you have tried this and it does not work?", "Apply cherry chapstick under the nose. As a nurse this trick helped immensely when it came to changing ostomy bags." ]

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[ "How to stabilise your signature. I end up signing with slight variations each time. I have tried practicing on a blank sheet but it doesn't work :S", "How to stabilise your signature. I end up signing with slight variations each time. I have tried practicing on a blank sheet but it doesn't work :S" ]

[ "Each and EVERY lawyer I have posed a question to regarding this has the same answer: Literally have no unique or distinguishing patterns to your signature. The more illegible, the better. Its best if you cannot even tell what the name is. Truth. Its a lot harder to copy a bunch of random loops and squiggles than it is to falsify \"Jim\".... ", "Don't make it complicated. Mine started out as my full name. After signing my full name more than once, I figured F that. And now my signature is more of a symbol.\n\nDon't worry about someone forging your signature. Unless you become some super secret agent spy, no one is checking your signature against a database of signatures." ]

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[ " Hello, I am a 17 years old Student who is going through senior year at school, I find it difficult to study for long periods like an hour up to three hours, the reason for that is me falling asleep and even sometime go rest and take a small nap which prolongs to 3 hours.\n\nAre there any tips you can advice me ? ", " Hello, I am a 17 years old Student who is going through senior year at school, I find it difficult to study for long periods like an hour up to three hours, the reason for that is me falling asleep and even sometime go rest and take a small nap which prolongs to 3 hours.\n\nAre there any tips you can advice me ? ", " Hello, I am a 17 years old Student who is going through senior year at school, I find it difficult to study for long periods like an hour up to three hours, the reason for that is me falling asleep and even sometime go rest and take a small nap which prolongs to 3 hours.\n\nAre there any tips you can advice me ? ", " Hello, I am a 17 years old Student who is going through senior year at school, I find it difficult to study for long periods like an hour up to three hours, the reason for that is me falling asleep and even sometime go rest and take a small nap which prolongs to 3 hours.\n\nAre there any tips you can advice me ? ", " Hello, I am a 17 years old Student who is going through senior year at school, I find it difficult to study for long periods like an hour up to three hours, the reason for that is me falling asleep and even sometime go rest and take a small nap which prolongs to 3 hours.\n\nAre there any tips you can advice me ? ", " Hello, I am a 17 years old Student who is going through senior year at school, I find it difficult to study for long periods like an hour up to three hours, the reason for that is me falling asleep and even sometime go rest and take a small nap which prolongs to 3 hours.\n\nAre there any tips you can advice me ? ", " Hello, I am a 17 years old Student who is going through senior year at school, I find it difficult to study for long periods like an hour up to three hours, the reason for that is me falling asleep and even sometime go rest and take a small nap which prolongs to 3 hours.\n\nAre there any tips you can advice me ? ", " Hello, I am a 17 years old Student who is going through senior year at school, I find it difficult to study for long periods like an hour up to three hours, the reason for that is me falling asleep and even sometime go rest and take a small nap which prolongs to 3 hours.\n\nAre there any tips you can advice me ? ", " Hello, I am a 17 years old Student who is going through senior year at school, I find it difficult to study for long periods like an hour up to three hours, the reason for that is me falling asleep and even sometime go rest and take a small nap which prolongs to 3 hours.\n\nAre there any tips you can advice me ? ", " Hello, I am a 17 years old Student who is going through senior year at school, I find it difficult to study for long periods like an hour up to three hours, the reason for that is me falling asleep and even sometime go rest and take a small nap which prolongs to 3 hours.\n\nAre there any tips you can advice me ? " ]

[ "You aren't suppose to study in one sitting. You are suppose to study for 25 minutes and rest 5. This study method has a name but I cant remember it right now. However, you retain more information this way than studying continuously.\n\nI just study until I start day dreaming. Break. Then begin studying again.", "Question: When you study, are you sitting at a desk? Or are you lounging on your bed or on the sofa?\n\nIf it's the latter, consider relocating your studies to somewhere less comfy.", "Are you also tired all day even without studying? **Try getting up early, about three to four hours before you normally do and study then**. Your brain will be full of those learning chemicals, and it is very quiet with no distractions. The first time will be hard but you will go to bed early. Start the cycle on a weekend.\n\nYou will need to adapt by learning to nap after school. Studies have shown this is good for learning. Also, getting up early will make your family think you are super responsible! ", "if you sleep well but you are sleepy, then you are inadequate to study.\nselect the way to live without studying.", "Well there's a common study technique which I also use, it's about studying in about half hour segments with about half hour breaks in between. It keeps you stimulated. But I don't wanna plug that technique really, my tip would be to drink coffee to keep you up. I drank a cup of coffee in the evening everyday for about 2 months, before my exams, it helped me.... a lot.", "Something I wish someone had told me before I completed my undergrad: learn mnemonic techniques. I think we expect people with \"perfect\" memories to be autistic savants, and that is simply untrue. You hear about those people who can memorize 1500 random digits in an hour? The very large majority of those people are normal folk who studied and trained to master memory as a skill. \n\n\"Moonwalking With Einstein\" by Joshua Foer is a very fun read. It isn't a how-to guide, but it is an amazing and interesting introduction to memory training. You'd be surprised how easy and accessible some of those techniques are. \n\n", "If you have access to cardio equipment you can read/study while on a recumbent bike. You can also record yourself asking and answering questions, then listen to it at the gym. This has been helpful for me, especially when it's a topic I'm really not thrilled about.", "I study until I get a headache or get tired and then go run a mile. It works out to be me studying for about an hour and then a 10 minute break. ", "I like to set myself study goals, then when I achieve them I have a break. It keeps me on focused on the task at hand and having a clear finishing point keeps me motivated to stick at it that extra 5 mins. Breaks can not be tv, or I'd never get back to work.", "Avoid foods high in sugars. Stay hydrated. Sit upright. Get up and walk around when you feel drowsy.\n" ]

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[ "Teeth Whitening With Everyday Things I'm ok with about every physical feature about me except my teeth: for some reason they've always been yellow no matter how much I brush them, and I'm too broke to buy white strips and such. This has even stopped me from asking out a girl I like because I'm afraid she'll say no because of it. so basically, I need to know homemade ways of whitening my teeth (even a little bit, anything helps)", "Teeth Whitening With Everyday Things I'm ok with about every physical feature about me except my teeth: for some reason they've always been yellow no matter how much I brush them, and I'm too broke to buy white strips and such. This has even stopped me from asking out a girl I like because I'm afraid she'll say no because of it. so basically, I need to know homemade ways of whitening my teeth (even a little bit, anything helps)", "Teeth Whitening With Everyday Things I'm ok with about every physical feature about me except my teeth: for some reason they've always been yellow no matter how much I brush them, and I'm too broke to buy white strips and such. This has even stopped me from asking out a girl I like because I'm afraid she'll say no because of it. so basically, I need to know homemade ways of whitening my teeth (even a little bit, anything helps)" ]

[ "When was the last time you saw a dentist? It's hard to tell what will help you when there's a lot of different causes of yellow teeth. Could be tartar/ calculus build up, could be staining from your diet, could be intrinsic staining (staining that's coming from some abnormality in your teeth)\n\nHave any pictures? As close up to your teeth as you can get to show the staining. ", "There is a product I've used periodically forever. It's in a tube for like $6 or so. \"Plus white 5 minute premier whitening gel\". ", "I've been watching a lot of natural remedy stuff & i've seen that you can try rubbing banana peels on your teeth, brushing with baking soda, brushing with a mixture of turmeric powder and coconut oil? I think? Do you have instagram? There's a page called diy.remedies & you might find a ton of stuff there" ]

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[ "Tips for living with male roommates, as the only female. My family owns a house that they rent out in the town we will be attending college, so we will be renting it out, and splitting rent three ways. The two guys are best friends, and I'm included in this as a great friend, but these two are the type where you expect them with each other everywhere. \nI don't want to be a third-wheel type, get on their nerves, ect... Any advice for me?", "Tips for living with male roommates, as the only female. My family owns a house that they rent out in the town we will be attending college, so we will be renting it out, and splitting rent three ways. The two guys are best friends, and I'm included in this as a great friend, but these two are the type where you expect them with each other everywhere. \nI don't want to be a third-wheel type, get on their nerves, ect... Any advice for me?", "Tips for living with male roommates, as the only female. My family owns a house that they rent out in the town we will be attending college, so we will be renting it out, and splitting rent three ways. The two guys are best friends, and I'm included in this as a great friend, but these two are the type where you expect them with each other everywhere. \nI don't want to be a third-wheel type, get on their nerves, ect... Any advice for me?", "Tips for living with male roommates, as the only female. My family owns a house that they rent out in the town we will be attending college, so we will be renting it out, and splitting rent three ways. The two guys are best friends, and I'm included in this as a great friend, but these two are the type where you expect them with each other everywhere. \nI don't want to be a third-wheel type, get on their nerves, ect... Any advice for me?" ]

[ "Get a friend who is happy to just hang out, so it'll be you and your other friend, plus the two males.", "DON'T treat them like you're their mother. Let them clean up after themselves. If they don't, communicate with them directly or call a meeting to call attention to the problem. \n\nI feel like all the females I know who live / have lived with a bunch of dudes is that they unwittingly become the apartment maid. Females tend to have a higher standard of cleanliness than men do and you might find yourself picking up after them just so you're not grossed out at your own habitat. DON'T DO IT.\n\nDo it once and you'll do it forever.", "Be honest with them about this concern, even if it's brought up in a casual way. Try to have mutual friends over to hang out occasionally so it becomes a group thing and you're not a third wheel.\n\nLike maxe00 said, the biggest issue with living with guys (spent years living with just my father and brother) is making sure the bathroom stays clean. Switch around whose responsibility it is each week (or some other increment of time). ", "You should try to be more of a male. Act like a dude, so that they feel comfortable talking when you are around. Don't get emotional and talk about the girl stuff/your problems with your friends. After some time you will get a sense for the times you are accepted and the times they want to be alone. When you have done a mistake and have to apologize, go to a pub and give them a beer and apologize short and simple. You shouldn't worry to much - just live and the time will tell." ]

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[ "How to do something well, and not get stuck with doing it forever? For example, say you want to impress some people with dinner, or impress your bosses at work by doing a certain task well. How can you perform this task, impress people and avoid the \"You should do this all the time!\"?", "How to do something well, and not get stuck with doing it forever? For example, say you want to impress some people with dinner, or impress your bosses at work by doing a certain task well. How can you perform this task, impress people and avoid the \"You should do this all the time!\"?" ]

[ "This. This is why I don't help people nearly as much as I used to. Especially with auto repair. I hate not helping, but I just don't want to get trapped into doing everyone's maintenance for free.", "Learn to say \"no\". If you're busy or if you have different priorities, you will succeed because the most successful people that are good at things learn how and when to use the word \"no\" effectively." ]

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[ "How can I drown out the noise of one of my neighbours constantly going around the block in an EXTREMELY loud motorcycle? It's getting so annoying, and with the summer months here I cant afford to close my windows anymore!", "How can I drown out the noise of one of my neighbours constantly going around the block in an EXTREMELY loud motorcycle? It's getting so annoying, and with the summer months here I cant afford to close my windows anymore!", "How can I drown out the noise of one of my neighbours constantly going around the block in an EXTREMELY loud motorcycle? It's getting so annoying, and with the summer months here I cant afford to close my windows anymore!", "How can I drown out the noise of one of my neighbours constantly going around the block in an EXTREMELY loud motorcycle? It's getting so annoying, and with the summer months here I cant afford to close my windows anymore!", "How can I drown out the noise of one of my neighbours constantly going around the block in an EXTREMELY loud motorcycle? It's getting so annoying, and with the summer months here I cant afford to close my windows anymore!", "How can I drown out the noise of one of my neighbours constantly going around the block in an EXTREMELY loud motorcycle? It's getting so annoying, and with the summer months here I cant afford to close my windows anymore!", "How can I drown out the noise of one of my neighbours constantly going around the block in an EXTREMELY loud motorcycle? It's getting so annoying, and with the summer months here I cant afford to close my windows anymore!", "How can I drown out the noise of one of my neighbours constantly going around the block in an EXTREMELY loud motorcycle? It's getting so annoying, and with the summer months here I cant afford to close my windows anymore!" ]

[ "Put a stick through his front wheel. Failing that have you tried asking him to give it a rest. He may not realise he’s annoying everyone", "Get an Alexa speaker.\n\nWhen we had noisy neighbours who used to come in late at night, we'd play rain storm sounds.\n\nIt stops background noises such as doors slamming, footsteps on timber stairs, plus the noise puts you to sleep.", "What kind of motorcycle? Are there other routes of the neighborhood? You could try talking to them. Tell them the pipes really opens up the engine but if they could keep the rpm and throttle down when exiting you would appreciate it. You might make a friend and he might calm the hell down. Really no need to go straight to revenge for other humans I’ve found out. People on motorcycles generally aren’t angry people despite the demeanor.", "Sorry to hear about that annoyance. I would maybe bake a cake or cookies and knock on his door and just let him know you understand how fun it must be for him to ride it around with that loud of a noise. And then say no more. Just that... Let him think about the fact you didn't tell him to stop. Idk... Good luck.", "Raycon e25 everyday earbuds with 6 hours of continuous playback and fully recharges 4 times in the case, has noise cancelling properties and is only half the price of leading wireless earbuds at around 85 dollars", "Coming from a rider, if the motorcycle he uses exceeds the legal sound limit then you could call in the police on him? I’m not really sure how that works. But if it’s so loud it’s getting uncomfortable then definitely exceeds the limit. Maybe record him going around the block a couple of times and file a complaint against him.", "Stash some kiddie porn in his backyard and call the cops complaining about *the muffled sounds of children coming from his yard.*", "Call the cops. This should absolutely be illegal. It’s bad enough anywhere but especially horrible in residential areas where they’re disturbing people in their home." ]

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[ "How to live an active lifestyle when you have a desk job and being a part-time student? I have a 9-5 job and I'm a part-time student, so basically I have no choice but to sit allll day. Wondering if there's some ways to just offset all the sitting. Any advice would be appreciated! ", "How to live an active lifestyle when you have a desk job and being a part-time student? I have a 9-5 job and I'm a part-time student, so basically I have no choice but to sit allll day. Wondering if there's some ways to just offset all the sitting. Any advice would be appreciated! ", "How to live an active lifestyle when you have a desk job and being a part-time student? I have a 9-5 job and I'm a part-time student, so basically I have no choice but to sit allll day. Wondering if there's some ways to just offset all the sitting. Any advice would be appreciated! ", "How to live an active lifestyle when you have a desk job and being a part-time student? I have a 9-5 job and I'm a part-time student, so basically I have no choice but to sit allll day. Wondering if there's some ways to just offset all the sitting. Any advice would be appreciated! ", "How to live an active lifestyle when you have a desk job and being a part-time student? I have a 9-5 job and I'm a part-time student, so basically I have no choice but to sit allll day. Wondering if there's some ways to just offset all the sitting. Any advice would be appreciated! ", "How to live an active lifestyle when you have a desk job and being a part-time student? I have a 9-5 job and I'm a part-time student, so basically I have no choice but to sit allll day. Wondering if there's some ways to just offset all the sitting. Any advice would be appreciated! " ]

[ "20 push ups in one minute for 10 minutes. Thats 200 push ups in 10 minutes. Run at least a mile on your lunch break. Substitute a fast food brealfast for a meal replacement shake. Go to bed at a reasonable hour.", "You could go to the gym/go for a run before work or after school/uni, even if it's just a quick one. Despite being a student and working, you should still be able to find a spare 30 - 60 minutes most days.", "Standing desk or one of those yoga ball things for a chair, try working out or at least walking during your lunch break, everytime you go to the bathroom do 10 squats.", "I usually pace when I read; I will walk back and forth in the room. Sometimes when I'm working out a difficult problem, I'll walk around the block with a pen and paper.\n\nI think 20 minutes of brisk walking, per day, is the minimum physical exercise recommended for maintaining your health.", "I find it easiest to sneak in some exercises in the mornings. See if you can wake up 1/2 hour earlier and go for a run. It made a huge difference for me through your the day since I started doing that. Will take few weeks to get use to but you'll never look back ones it's part of your routine. Good luck!", "By creating a routine. When I was in school, I worked sales at a dealership to pay for it. I'd wake up at 6am go to class until 9am, go to work until 8pm, back to school until 10pm. After that I would go take a scoop of preworkout and go running for 2-3 miles or go to the gym. Its all about routine and habit. " ]

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[ "Dustproofing fans? I'm speaking more so of table fans that get dust on the blades and cage...but if there are tricks for cieling fans too that would be great. ", "Dustproofing fans? I'm speaking more so of table fans that get dust on the blades and cage...but if there are tricks for cieling fans too that would be great. " ]

[ "Silicon based protectant sprays like the kind of stuff you put on auto plastic. Either kind of fan. And when you clean the blades on a ceiling fan, use an old pillow case, dampened and wrung. Slide the blade inside the case and wipe all that dusty scrap into the pillowcase, not your eyes", "This works to some degree for me, but it's not fool-proof. Take apart the fan and spray the individual pieces with anti-cling spray (usually used for clothing). Let it dry, put it back together.\n\nNote: Do not spray while the fan is plugged in and/or turned on. Anti-cling sprays are propellants and flammable, just best not to risk it." ]

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[ "How to stop sweating after morning workout? Whenever I work out in the morning, I find it IMPOSSIBLE to stop sweating to get dressed for work. I've tried cool/cold showers and cold compresses on the neck/wrists. Any suggestions?", "How to stop sweating after morning workout? Whenever I work out in the morning, I find it IMPOSSIBLE to stop sweating to get dressed for work. I've tried cool/cold showers and cold compresses on the neck/wrists. Any suggestions?", "How to stop sweating after morning workout? Whenever I work out in the morning, I find it IMPOSSIBLE to stop sweating to get dressed for work. I've tried cool/cold showers and cold compresses on the neck/wrists. Any suggestions?" ]

[ "Take a shower right away bc if your like me it's gonna prolong the sweat (even a cold shower for some reason). Then don't get dressed right away, do everything else first. \n\nDon't rush yourself either that will make you sweat", "I get the exact same thing. The only thing that works for me is giving myself time after the workout. I usually eat and relax for awhile and don't take a shower until I've cooled off. I find that when I stress about time and about the fact that I'm sweating, I sweat more.", "I know the struggle. I find hot and cold showers don't work and add to the problem (body is regulating its temp, so hot and cold on skin will cause its regulating to continue longer). \n\nWarm shower I finds help lessen the sweating. Soap kills all the bacteria, so the water temp doesn't affect \"cleaning\". As some here have said, take a few to relax (take the gi top off to help, or entire gi if in locker room). \n\nThat's what I've done. Time restraints I know factor in, so it can be a little tough." ]

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[ "How to deal with uncooperative landlords/property management? I am moving to a new city for a new job in 3 weeks. I have given my notice at my current apartment complex (property A), and filled out an application, put down a deposit, and handled everything at my new apartment complex (property B).\n\nB called me today to let me know my application is almost complete, but that they have tried contacting A 3 different times to get my rental history, and that they still have not received it.\n\nI called A, and said: \"Hello, this is Drew in apartment ____ - I gave you guys my notice last week, and was just contacted by {new property}. They let me know that they have been unable to get my rental history from you guys so far. Is there something I can do to help?\" - the (rather rude) leasing agent said \"Yes. I spoke with them this morning and I told them that _______ is the only person that can give those out and that she is in and out of the office.\" I asked if she knew when ______ would be back, and the leasing agent was unable to tell me. \n\nIs there anything I can do? I don't want to risk losing my new apartment this close to moving day. ", "How to deal with uncooperative landlords/property management? I am moving to a new city for a new job in 3 weeks. I have given my notice at my current apartment complex (property A), and filled out an application, put down a deposit, and handled everything at my new apartment complex (property B).\n\nB called me today to let me know my application is almost complete, but that they have tried contacting A 3 different times to get my rental history, and that they still have not received it.\n\nI called A, and said: \"Hello, this is Drew in apartment ____ - I gave you guys my notice last week, and was just contacted by {new property}. They let me know that they have been unable to get my rental history from you guys so far. Is there something I can do to help?\" - the (rather rude) leasing agent said \"Yes. I spoke with them this morning and I told them that _______ is the only person that can give those out and that she is in and out of the office.\" I asked if she knew when ______ would be back, and the leasing agent was unable to tell me. \n\nIs there anything I can do? I don't want to risk losing my new apartment this close to moving day. " ]

[ "I just went through this. I just went in to my current leasing office and sat and waited. When the person you need gets there have them call your new leasing office right then. ", "Also, it's possible ____ would be totally helpful but hasn't really been told. Can you get his/her email address, and drop a friendly-sounding email? \n\nFollowed up with neospud's strategy. All done politely, though. You don't want them to dig in their heels.\n\nI'd also tell the new place what you are doing so they will feel sympathetic to your dilemma and hopefully cut you a small amount of slack.\n\nGood luck!" ]

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[ "How do I participate in a political conversation without giving away that I have no idea what's going on? ", "How do I participate in a political conversation without giving away that I have no idea what's going on? ", "How do I participate in a political conversation without giving away that I have no idea what's going on? ", "How do I participate in a political conversation without giving away that I have no idea what's going on? ", "How do I participate in a political conversation without giving away that I have no idea what's going on? ", "How do I participate in a political conversation without giving away that I have no idea what's going on? ", "How do I participate in a political conversation without giving away that I have no idea what's going on? " ]

[ "Participating in something you aren't qualified for, through creating false impressions... sounds to me like you DO understand politics.", "If you don't know much and can't contribute to the conversation then listening, not talking, is your best strategy. People spouting bs are easy to identify so I wouldn't say much about things you don't understand. You can learn a lot from listening and it can help you to form a foundation of understanding. (Just ensure you listen to a range of opinions, not just ones from any particularly biased group.)\n\nYou can always say you haven't thought much about a topic, express that something is interesting, ask what someone else thinks about something, etc. People generally like to talk about themselves so it's easy to ask an open-ended question about what they think and let them do the heavy lifting. ", "Ask what is going on. \nIt will be very helpful for the people who participate in the discussion. A new person with a fresh look. \nAsk a lot of questions until you understand what is going on. ", "You, OP, may be the first person in the history of the world to worry about actual knowledge before jumping into a political discussion.\n\n1. Well Done!\n2. You don't have to know much. \n\nThe real question is, what is your goal in participating in the conversation? I'm guessing it's not to persuade people as you state you have no idea. Is it to look smart? Is it to make as many people like you as possible? To achieve alpha status in the group? I suggest studying the writings of, respectively, Newt Gingrich, Kanye West, and Donald Trump. ", "Even when I do know what's going on, I try hard to avoid talking to people about politics. I just nod thoughtfully when they talk and then just shake my head and say \"It will be interesting to see how it turns out!\"", "Easy, nobody will shun you for not paying attention to politics. and people love showing off how much they know. So just ask questions. when they answer give your opinion on what they said. This is essentially all political talk ever is. \n\nPS. I personally find it in bad taste to start the conversation with the party your in, i would stay away from this. if someone asks then tell them. ", "You *don't* participate in discussions when you have no idea what's going on. \nIf you want to participate in a discussion about something, you learn about it or ask questions. You don't offer arbitrary views with no backing. " ]

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[ "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?", "How to correct someone without making them sound like an idiot. I work for a structural steel fabricator as a project manager. Pretty often general contractors will come in thinking they know more about steel properties, fabrication, and the overall steel industry industry than they actually do. \n\nI run into this problem pretty often via email. \n\nWhat's a good way to correct the incorrect information they believe to be fact without sounding condescending or making them feel stupid?" ]

[ "Usually, I would say something like \"According to the information I have...\" and at the end of the message, ask them to verify the information you gave them. That way you all can agree on the correct information, and they stay in a place where they are not humiliated. ", "I try to think [of this.](http://xkcd.com/1053/) it makes me smile while reminding me that no matter how moronic this person in front of me is, maybe they just need someone to educate them with respect rather than derision. ", "There's a book called \"How to Win Friends and Influence People\" by Dale Carnegie. You might gain much tact in professional situations from this book.", "I have to do this pretty frequently in my line of work, specifically I have to correct people on things that, in theory, they should know but have way too many other things to focus on (I work in fire prevention, so I deal with fire marshalls). I've found it best to say something along the line of \"According to my understanding of (commonly known fire code here) the specification should be________. But there are so many competing codes out there that you could easily be aware of something that I'm not.\" Which, while factually accurate, I know isn't actually the case. But what it does is allow that fire Marshall to go back and research where they got their information from, and come back letting me know what they found. \n\nI haven't had any of them come back with verifiable sources yet, usually just rumor and tradition. But one of these days I'll be the one who's wrong, and I don't think either of us needs to be made to feel like a jackass for a simple mistake. \n\n", "I normally just say \"Not to be condescending or to make you feel stupid, but what you are saying is totally and completely wrong!\"", "I like to say something like 'I used to think that too, but I just found out that .... is actually true just the other day!' It puts you on their level of stupidity which sort of bulletproofs them from your judgement.", "Just tell them they have incorrect information and that the proper procedure is actually \"X.\" You can pass the blame on higher ups if it makes it easier for you. Something like \"the procedure handed down from the project lead actually had some incorrect information. You must have received that one. I've already notified them about it, but I'll let you know the proper procedure right now anyway.\" \n\nThese people typically have thick skin, and even if they don't, proper procedure is more important than their feelings.", "Careful... OP is playing a long con on all of Reddit about how jet fuel can't melt steel beams. He's going to go off using all the ammo everyone is providing. ", "Cite an external source for how you are doing things. Tell them that the project is following X professional standards, Y standard methodologies, or Z corporate practices. \n\nIn other words, move it out of the realm of the personal so it is not them versus you. Just stick to your guns that it has to be done consistently and following an industry accepted practice that meets all other project parameters and limitations. \n\nIf they still disagree, offer to let them make their case in writing for review by the rest of the team. Who knows, they may even have a good case for a change.\n\n", "\"You know? I thought that too! But it turns out (insert correction)\"\nI use this on a daily basis. Works every time.", "Start with the word \"yes\" to soften the blow.\n\n\"Yes, you'd think that, wouldn't you? But it turns out that..\"", "If you listen to Dale Carnegie's How To Win Friends And Influence People, then you shouldn't ever correct someone in front of other people, and if you don't know them well then you shouldn't correct them ever if you want to be friends with them or influence them I guess. ", "There's a difference between needing this with workmates and needing this with contractors. Sometimes there's a pissing match involved... It can be tricky. Try the \"according to my information\" style and if that doesn't work you just have to \"this is what they pay me to do, if there's a problem you'll need to take it to them.\"", "If it's an opinion it doesn't matter, and I don't feel the need to correct anyone. If it's a verifiable fact, \"I'm going to look that up, I was under the impression that <my understanding of things>\"", "I'd say, \"Are you sure it's not...\" And if they say they are sure they are correct I'd just drop it, not worth arguing about.\n\nIf it's business related then I'd just be like, \"Actually I think it's this...\" followed by proof why my information is correct.", "I usually buffer it with a \"I don't know, I think it works this way.\"\n\nTypically, once you've corrected someone they usually realize their error right away and cede the point.\n\nIf they insist that they are in fact correct, then I usually get a little more abrasive with something like \"Yeah, I'm actually pretty sure it does in fact work like this.\"\n\nIf they insist a final time, I drop the nice guy act and just tell them that they were wrong from the beginning, and that I was being soft to help them save face. At a certain point you've just gotta cut your loses. I've only ever had to do this final step once or twice.", "I too deal with this daily as a project manager dealing with GCs. Good luck...lol. \n\nTo actually answer your question it help to just offer up the supporting evidence as to why their concept isn't feasible by listing whatever limitations that cause it to be so. \n\n", "As an Ironworker, this might come in handy for me as well. \nWhen some project managers have no idea about the actual erecting of structural steel, but act like they do, haha. ", "\"I was saying the same thing last week but someone showed me.....\" Then provide correct answer. Make them feel like you are on the same team as far as having wrong information then a third party has shown you the way. They can't get upset with you for correcting them because it wasn't you, it was the \"other person\". I'm just as suprised as you but it ended up being true! Crazy right?", "These are all good suggestions. I'm a big fan of \"you might not have all the info/facts\"... and I don't go out telling people how I had to \"fix\" or \"correct\" someone. I've been told that I don't make people feel stupid when I help them so my opinion seems to be trusted a lot. I explain my reasons and show appropriate bits of things -documents / code / data to help. And I try different things - if a user screen print doesn't work and the user can't figure out what to do with a listing of data, I've found that importing into a spreadsheet makes data more understandable by non-technical people. I like the whiteboard, too.", "That's probably one of the best ways to get it done, and it would probably work great but the county code inspector would have to approve before we could do it that way, so I'll check it out and let you know. Thanks. ", "I just want to point out that you said industry twice.\n\n[", "\"actually it's, [this way]. Don't worry, it's such an easy mistake to make\" or \"... Don't worry, I used to do the same thing\"\nI find Leveling with someone and being genuine/relateable, without tip-toeing around their feelings, to be quite defusing in terms of tension in general. \nA Cheeky smile helps too... but don't force it. " ]

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[ "How can I find out whats under construction near me? There's a lot of new construction going on around my area (central Florida). Whats the best way to figure out whats being built?", "How can I find out whats under construction near me? There's a lot of new construction going on around my area (central Florida). Whats the best way to figure out whats being built?" ]

[ "City planner here - check website for your city/county. Good chance they have a map or list with detailed information, plans, meeting dates, etc. ", "Download the 511 traffic app for your state. You can get info on construction, accidents, traffic and road conditions. The app will work for you in multiple states. I check mine anytime I'm heading out during rush hour." ]

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[ "what do I need to do before I move out at 17 years old? I'm moving out in 3 months, and I'm not sure what affairs I need to get in order. I am getting all my medical things taken care of, my parents are giving a power of attorney to my sister whom I'll be living with, and I've decided against getting my drivers license due to insurance reasons. Is there anything else I need to get in order? ", "what do I need to do before I move out at 17 years old? I'm moving out in 3 months, and I'm not sure what affairs I need to get in order. I am getting all my medical things taken care of, my parents are giving a power of attorney to my sister whom I'll be living with, and I've decided against getting my drivers license due to insurance reasons. Is there anything else I need to get in order? ", "what do I need to do before I move out at 17 years old? I'm moving out in 3 months, and I'm not sure what affairs I need to get in order. I am getting all my medical things taken care of, my parents are giving a power of attorney to my sister whom I'll be living with, and I've decided against getting my drivers license due to insurance reasons. Is there anything else I need to get in order? ", "what do I need to do before I move out at 17 years old? I'm moving out in 3 months, and I'm not sure what affairs I need to get in order. I am getting all my medical things taken care of, my parents are giving a power of attorney to my sister whom I'll be living with, and I've decided against getting my drivers license due to insurance reasons. Is there anything else I need to get in order? ", "what do I need to do before I move out at 17 years old? I'm moving out in 3 months, and I'm not sure what affairs I need to get in order. I am getting all my medical things taken care of, my parents are giving a power of attorney to my sister whom I'll be living with, and I've decided against getting my drivers license due to insurance reasons. Is there anything else I need to get in order? ", "what do I need to do before I move out at 17 years old? I'm moving out in 3 months, and I'm not sure what affairs I need to get in order. I am getting all my medical things taken care of, my parents are giving a power of attorney to my sister whom I'll be living with, and I've decided against getting my drivers license due to insurance reasons. Is there anything else I need to get in order? ", "what do I need to do before I move out at 17 years old? I'm moving out in 3 months, and I'm not sure what affairs I need to get in order. I am getting all my medical things taken care of, my parents are giving a power of attorney to my sister whom I'll be living with, and I've decided against getting my drivers license due to insurance reasons. Is there anything else I need to get in order? ", "what do I need to do before I move out at 17 years old? I'm moving out in 3 months, and I'm not sure what affairs I need to get in order. I am getting all my medical things taken care of, my parents are giving a power of attorney to my sister whom I'll be living with, and I've decided against getting my drivers license due to insurance reasons. Is there anything else I need to get in order? ", "what do I need to do before I move out at 17 years old? I'm moving out in 3 months, and I'm not sure what affairs I need to get in order. I am getting all my medical things taken care of, my parents are giving a power of attorney to my sister whom I'll be living with, and I've decided against getting my drivers license due to insurance reasons. Is there anything else I need to get in order? " ]

[ "Hopefully you're close to your 18th birthday. Otherwise, having to ring your parents for document signing is going to get very old, very quick. yes, I know your sister has PoA. There are limits to those, sometimes severe ones.\n\nThat said, some general tips:\n\n1) Get a drivers license. Seriously. You don't need insurance if you don't have a car, but having a license makes it easier to borrow one, and once you're an adult, rent one, on an as-needed basis. It doubles as official ID.\n\n2) Know the limits on that power of attorney doc. It will vary from place to place. \n\n3) Get a job. Seriously. You're going to need money of some sort. Just living at your sisters place on your parents dime will get really old, really fast, for her. (Possibly you as well.) You don't need much, but you need something.\n4) Make your bed, clean your room, do your dishes, take out the trash, pay your bills on time, balance your budget, etc. All those things. They're chores. They're no fun. Do them anyways. Do them on a regular basis, so they become life-long good habits. \n\n5) Help out around the place. You're going to be a long-term guest in your sisters place. Emotions are going to get on each others nerves. Being genuinely helpful around the house will help keep that stuff under control. It will still happen, but it won't be as bad. It'll also reinforce the good habits I referenced above.\n\n6) Get out of the house! Go be out there. See the world. Don't spend all your time at home playing video games/watching TV/whatever.\n\n7) Spend time IN the house, but out of your room. Be social with the people you live with. Play cards together. Pick a TV show to watch through together, something you do on a regular basis.\n\n8) Cook your own meals/Help out with meal prep. Yes, going out for a burger is fast and easy. It also is expensive and will do nothing for your health. You're young, you won't notice it for a few years, but it will happen.\n\n9) If you've got someone you want to bring home for the night, give sis a heads up BEFORE hand. You really don't want her screaming at the person first thing Saturday morning while you're taking a leak.\n\n10) Know that she'll worry about you. Text/call/whatever, so she knows where you're at and what's going on. She'll likely be giving updates on you to your parents. You want them to know what's up too.\n\n11) Write/call/etc your mom and dad. Seriously. They're helping make this happen. They want you to succeed. Make sure you work to keep them involved in your life.\n\n12) Save as much money as you can, without being a scrooge about it. Contribute to the household bills.\n\n13) Know that you're going to make mistakes. Be prepared to own the mistakes, apologize for them, and work to not make them again.\n\nOther than that, you're going to be moving out. The world is opening up for you. Enjoy the occasional friday night pizza, but save some for breakfast saturday morning.", "I recommend that you do get your drivers license, even if you don't own a car. It's useful as id so you don't need to carry your passport with you all the time. ", "Saw your college comment. Question for you - Have you read your intended school's criteria to establish residence for tuition purposes? \n\nOne of our local university's has some pretty tough guidelines to establish residency. FYI - One of the guidelines is -- living with a relative that provides room and board is not considered self-support. \n\nItems that usually indicate proof of residency: \nDriver's License or State ID Card (new state) \nVoter registration card (new state) \nState (your new one) based bank accounts \nVehicle registration and insurance \nPaying state (your new one) income taxes as a resident. \nHousing contracts, monthly rental agreements \nProof of utilities established in your name such as phone, gas, electric, and cable TV \n\nSo - living away from your pre-college home. I'd work on the skill set of learning how to budget your money. If you have a cr", "I myself moved out at the age of 17 (I'm 19 now) and here is one thing that is a bit different but I wish I had known: prepare to get homesick. Maybe it will be less bad since your sister is there, but chances are good it will happen to you.\nBefore I moved out I had never been homesick before, not as a child on school trips, not on vacation with friends, it just didn't happen. Now almost everytime I come to my new home from a visit at my parents', it is just a horrible, horrible feeling and I miss being so close to them and to talk at dinner and do things and...even watch tv together. \nSo please make sure you enjoy these few last months that you live there, try not to fight too much, just enjoy the company that will never be there again in such a constant way. Moving out is bittersweet...\n\nOh, and another thing: watch what you eat when you move out! The feeling of 'I could have dinner...but I could also have chocolate!' can be very, very tempting! \n\nGood luck and have fun :)", "If youre doing this to establish residency to get instate tuition somewhere, you need to play a heads up game and be aware that many states are cracking down on this sort of behavior, and making it much more difficult to establish residency. Few states are interested in subsidizing your education just because you move to their state! Talk to a lawyer in your new state about this. It used to be simple, but now in the last few years its complicated grown up shit that you as a 17 year old non lawyer are not equipped to deal with on your own. Most states are broke or in debt and way less friendly. Also I can tell you that alot of the other advice is spot on. Being independent and grown up is expensive and complicated, and may make you wish you were still a kid. Best of luck with your grown up life.", "I moved out when I was 17 as well, the most important thing to do is to get all your original documents. Get your original birth certificate, passport, school transcripts, any certificates etc. Once you have all of these, you can move on to everything else whenever you want, for example you can use passport and birth certs to get drivers licence when you want or you can get tax file numbers and everything sorted.", "Have a backup plan for if everything goes to shit. Know where a local Mission or Shelter is, and set aside some emergency money in case something happens. Better to be safe than sorry, and being homeless with no idea where to go blows.", "Do you have a bank account? If not, I found it very useful when I was living the bachelor life. Otherwise,, at 17, there's not much else to worry about. Good luck!", "I'd like to let you know life is not as easy as you think it is. Good luck, hope it all works out for you. " ]

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[ "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. ", "How to find out why people don't like me? I'm 34, male. Been having a long time issue the last several years where I can't make friends or even date anyone beyond a few weeks. I will meet up with people, hang out maybe a couple of times, and then I never hear from them again. One day I'll send them a text, maybe asking if they want to hang out this weekend, go for a hike, grab a bite to eat, just basic stuff. No response...\n\nIt's happened so often that I am fairly certain there is something wrong with me, but people just don't bother to tell me what it is. I don't know how I can fix something that I don't know needs to be fixed. \n\nI've tried therapy, but honestly, that's just shelling out a couple hundred for 50 minutes of me complaining about this stuff and no solutions. People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy, but honestly, if hitting someone up a couple times a week and then trying to hang out that weekend is too much, then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nI don't know, I'm very depressed and completely burnt out on people and this attempt over and over again to make any sort of human connections with people. It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation. \n\nIs this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle? \n\nI really just want to get drunk/high and say fuck it anymore and stop trying all together. Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of putting in the effort. \n\nBut if there is some way I can get some constructive feedback somehow, maybe a certain type of therapist or help group that does that sort of thing that people can point me to, maybe I can work on whatever it is people don't like about me. But if not, then I just kinda want to say fuck it and guess I'll have to accept that no one likes me or wants me around anymore. " ]

[ "I have about 10 really close friends and at least 50 or so casual friends so I think I am at least slightly qualified to answer.\n\n\nI just want to first point out that you seem to be ignoring the advice or answers you've already been given\n\n>People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy\n\nimmediately after that you started with a \"but\" and a rationalization suggesting the problem isn't *you*, it's *them* further solidified by this:\n\n\n>Is this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore? People can't make connections with one another because they are too busy or too wrapped up in the online aspects - to where meeting in person is too much to handle?\n\nThe answer to that is an emphatic No. But it IS normal to not want to hang out with someone you do not like or feel a connection to. It is also normal to not want to be around someone who is:\n\n1. Negative\n2. Self absorbed or self-obsessed\n3. Someone constantly needing reinforcement.\n4. Someone who seems to be really needy.\n\n>Having no friends and no relationships is incredibly depressing and I am just tired of ***putting in the effort***.\n\nPart of your problem seems to be along the lines of *\"I paid for dinner, why aren't you taking off your dress\"*.\n\n\nFriends and relationships are not formed with concentrated effort, they happen naturally. The moment you call up someone you recently met in the hopes of starting a friendship or relationship *for your benefit* you've already lost them.\n\nI have never calculated my friendships, I have never planned out my actions and valued a return for them, that is what it *sounds* like you are doing.\n\nMy advice:\n\n1. Take a shower\n2. Wear deodorant\n3. Brush teeth\n4. Wear a decent set of clothes.\n5. Go to a library or coffee shop and ask someone about their day and see what happens.\n\n(the first four are just to establish it's not the physical you that's the problem) The last one is to judge how people react to you. Don't ask for their number, don't invite them to hang out, just talk to new and random people about random things. You need to develop some confidence in who you are because if any of your post above comes off in real life that would be part of the problem.\n\n", ">People have suggested in the past that I try to hard or am too clingy\n\nWell there it is bro, it's been \"suggested\", which is a nice way of people saying \"definitely\". ", "Just like banks will only lend you money if you can prove you don't need it, (most) people will only be your friend if you prove you don't need them as friends in order to be happy.\n\nAll I can suggest is to find ways to enjoy life, outdoors, without needing other people. Then if by some miracle you do meet a genuinely good person, it'll be icing on a cake instead of merely a temporary break from constant discontentment.", "Usually it's just because you are uncool. You are probably no fun to be around, a social dead-end, a stick-in-the-mud. When they interact with you there is no emotional give-and-take. Be honest, do you actually fit in with the people you are trying to hang out with? Either stop trying to get so close so fast with one-on-one dates with people you have little in common with, or hang out casually with a group for some activity, even if its just getting drunk/high.\n\n\n\nIf you want feedback from someone who met you, perhaps try craigslist. Put in your ad \"I'm unpopular, I want someone to hang out with me and then tell me why I probably have trouble.\"", "I'm moved by your courage to reach out in this way. My initial thought to discover the issue(s) would be to reach out to someone for constructive, honest feedback about why they're unresponsive. I suspect if you indicate that you're open to change but really in need of help, someone may alert you - hopefully in a kind way - to their reasons for backing off.", "I can write a giant post about all of the angles at play here, but to sum it all up:\n1. The problem with people who have this problem is that they don't have much going for themselves, so they try to find it in other people and the problem is that after a while you kind of dig yourself into a hole. What I mean is that if you just focused on yourself: hobbies, staying healthy, doing well at work and just generally invested more time into stuff that YOU want to do, even if it means you do it alone, then friends just kinda become by products of all of these other things. You pick up a few \"friends\" here and there from all of these other activities.\n\n2. The problem is that the less that you socialize, the harder it becomes to actually socialize when you have the opportunity, so you end up in a circle.\n\n3. There is often some harsh truth that you're not acknowledging and most people already know what it is, but they've built up a defense about it in their mind because their ego is too fragile to handle it; unfortunately, this is a huge set back for a lot of people.\n\nMy advice is to not worry about other people for a solid year and just focus on yourself and who you are as a person: What do you believe in? What do you feel strongly about? What do you like and what don't you like? What are your hobbies that make you interesting? Then go back and reach out to other people.", "ppl are thinking way too hard about this...youre mid 30's. ppl dont hand out as much at that age, they have their own lives. my best friends and me hand out like once every few weeks now a days, same age as you. iven known some of them for 20 years. if you want friends, meet younger people who have no lives and wana be friends with ppl 24x7.", "Honestly, its a bit hard to give advise in the sense that your didn't tell us anything about yourself.. But i get it.. I'm in the same boat.. Altho i don't drink or do any kind of drugs, so the things that people my age like to do, i don't do. But in my experiences thats the best thing to do.. Join a club or sign up for some activities and just be yourself.. The biggest thing is your attitude towards it.. Be open and confident, it shows in how you hold yourself.. Good luck my friend! ", "Asking genuine, open-ended questions in conversation and being a good listener is important. Is this something you do? People like to talk about themselves. You may feel you are being intrusive at times but people enjoy when others seem interested in them. You can double down on this by asking follow up questions from a previous conversation at a later point in time. (ie: a coworker says they are going away for the weekend. Upon their return, you ask what their favorite meal or activity was while they were away, and really listen when they respond).\n\nAs someone who has stuggled with this, I feel you and I wish you well. xx", "So you are needy.\n\nWhat activities do you like to do? Find a group to do that with. What activities would you like to learn to do? Find a group to learn that. Smile and be chill with the people in those groups. It may not even lead to a conversation, but you need to stay busy. Plan stuff. Invite people to the stuff you plan if they seem into the same activities and they are chill toward you.\n\nIn the mean time, call people you know will talk to you, family members, and just call and chat, tell them it's been awhile and you wanted to see how they are doing. Let them do at least 50% of the talking. \n\nIf you are scruffy, stop being scruffy. Read that book by Dale Carnegie. Immerse yourself in your activities. When you bump into people and they ask how you doing? you at least have 30 seconds of excitement to share with them how you tried cooking salmon and cut yourself, bonked your head with a wakeboard, or got a personal best on your bike loop. Then listen to their story, follow with questions on what they said.\n\nTell someone you are going to get drunk and high and see if they want to join you. They might suggest a new location.\n\nJust keep going with stuff you think is interesting to do. It makes you interesting, and keeps you busy. Oh, and learn to play an instrument, for heavens sake. Video your progress. Bring it back here to show us, please.", "Shower often, use deodorant, brush & floss your teeth daily, and don't be a know-it-all or one-upper. My 2 cents.", "If it were me, I would book a session with an image consultant who would honestly tell me if there is anything I need to change about my hygiene, haircut, clothing and acesssesories choices, posture, communication style, etc. \n\nThe book I'm reading now--The Like Switch by Jack Schafer--has a lot of points in it that would indicate eagerness at the start of a relationship might unintentionally push people away. I used to think I needed to be more outgoing to make more friends, but now I'm thinking that I need to play things cooler. \n\n", ">then what's the solution there? Just ignore them and wait to see if they hit me up instead?\n\nYes, unfortunately friendships are a lot like dating. You can't seem too eager, it turns people off. Kinda like an overly-eager salesperson who keeps \"following up\" ... you'd be like \"hmm, what's he trying to really sell me\" Having that air of confidence will \"sell\" yourself. Think of it as fake it till you make it - you gotta pretend like you have tons of friends to hang out. It's like a job interview, you bluff and say you've got tons of other offers to set yourself apart. Pretentious? Yes. Effective? Also yes. Just don't overdo it.\n\n>Is this the new normal? Is this just how people are anymore?\n\nI think you are hitting a point here about where technology has taken us socially. People are very active on social media but in reality have less of a social life as a result. Perhaps finding people that are more focused on living in the now would help. \nHowever, that is definitely not the primary reason for your troubles.\n\nConsidering that you're 34, perhaps most of your colleagues are busy with families/work? Not sure if that could be a factor. \n\nPeople do suck, and any form of relationship takes work. However, genuine relationships always flourish naturally. Adopt an air of confidence and don't let your past failures get you down. This will show in your future interactions. \n\nAs an immediate remedy, I would suggest dedicating your time to a hobby and base your social interactions around it. For ex, if you like cars then you can start going to car meets. Fitness clubs if you're into exercise, etc. \nThis will make it very natural, and you're bound to meet like-minded people or at least people that you have common interests with.\n\n\n\n", "Try a different therapist. Therapy should challenge you not continue to enable you. If therapy has become nothing but a bitch session then you need to find a less passive therapist. \n\nIt's strange, but sometimes you have to try a few out before you find the right fit. Start out with your problem and ask them to give you constructive criticism. A good therapist will do so. ", "I think it would be hard to answer this question based on a self description because if you were aware of any negative or off putting behavior you would have likely remedied it or at least be aware of it. I bet we could peg it if you made a video of you talking about something like politics. ", "You might have a run in and chat with 50 people before one of these meetings turns into a friendship. You are trying hard but trying hard won't make it happen. Trying often is your best bet. If you try too hard people will think \"what's he want from me??\" Relax and good luck. :)\n", "You are missing a key trick to life.\n\nWho needs friends in person? Im 26 and have maybe 3 friends that iv had for a while but I hardly hang out with. \nIv got like 15 friends on xbox libe who I plsy with nightly. \nOnce VR is commonplace I plan on only leaving my house for nessisity. \n\nFriends are over-rated pal. ", "Well mate... You just need to find better people. Because it doesn't take much to be my friend. Just be chill and have something to say (I'm a listener; I dont open my mouth unless i have something to say). It's very hard to be awkward around me, doesn't matter what happens I'm cool as a cucumber. \n\nBe honest, easy going and let that freak flag fly. Better be a freak than boring?", "Sincere questions:\n\nIn settings, do you talk about your views, experiences, etc? Do you ask about others'? Are you needy? Do you imply guilt for anyone saying no?", "Showing interest in the other person shows you care. To be blunt: ignoring people's wishes and wanting them to hang out with you will make people think you're selfish. \n\nIf you really want to know someone as a friend, then you should pay attention to what they want. This goes both ways. They should be genuinely interested in your life as well. \n\nYou can't **make** a friend. This is a lie. Being around someone when they want you gone is selfish. They can't make *you* a friend, just like you can't make *them* a friend. A friend is someone you want to be around and vice versa.\n\nA friend is someone who is honest and who doesn't harm you in any way. \n\nOf course, people make mistakes. If they are willing to apologize, fix the problem, and don't repeat it, forgive them. A friend won't let themselves harm another friend and will make it right.\n\nAsk yourself; am I a friend? Don't worry about what you want from other people, instead, ask yourself what they want from you. Would you want a friend like I described above? Be that friend and you will find a friend. \n\nIf you like to read I can tell you of a famous book that I read that helped me. I wasn't always a good friend. I had to learn how to be a friend.", "My experiences in life with friends is that friendship is not something you can force. It happens naturally from spending time with someone. If your goal is to become someone's friend, you will often fail, because friendship is not a goal, it is the journey itself. I know, so cliche.\n\nFurthermore, you should not change yourself to be someone's friend.... this post implies you want to change to make other people like you, but then, people will not be liking \"you\". They'll be liking the changed you. There's a TomSka quote that has bounces in my head for years since I first heard it (note this is me paraphrasing from memory!) \"You should improve for other people, but not change. Be the best *you*.\"\n\nThere are people out there who will like you for who you are. And that is really important.", "I have the same problem. I am a very adamant person about my self improvement and a lot of the times the only thing I care about is criticism. \n\nHowever it is not customary to tell other people of this. 99% of people just use the silent treatment which is \"say I'm busy or don't answer.\" ", "Do you live any where near Michigan? I'll tell you...\n\nBut likely you have to loosen up. Cos if you're that conscientious of this type of thing, you're likely shooting yourself in the foot in several areas, just by over thinking it. ", "Try being more curious about people. Get interested in them. Ask them about themselves. Hanging out with someone who's too self-absorbed and not self-aware can be draining.", "This may be a stupid question. But could you post a picture of yourself? And then we can figure out if it's a personality problem afterwards", "Read the book \"The Like Switch\" (or at least the first several chapters), and then monitor your conversations with people. If you do most of the talking, and if it is mostly about yourself, then people aren't going to want to hang out again. If you ask them questions about themselves, and show that you are listening, then people will want to spend time with you. ", "I read a very interesting snippet once that read basically \"women talk face to face, men talk side by side\". Ignoring any potentially sexist undertones, take it to heart. If you invite a dude over to hang out and chat over coffee, it's probably going to be awkward. If you invite a girl over to play Halo and bullshit while you pwn n00bs, it's probably not going to go over well\n\nMy advice is the same as above - find a hobby, do something you enjoy, and invite people out to try it. In my case, it's brewing beer, shooting skeet/critters/targets, video gaming, and running/boxing/whatever is interesting at that moment. \n\nOnce you know what you want to do with your time, invite someone to come with you. They'll give it a shot and maybe that won't be for them - hey, you've got other activities to try next week/2 weeks later/whatever, if you find that person interesting and want to hang out with. If they do like it, maybe they'll join you again next time. Maybe they play pool in a league and will invite you out to try something you've never really done, and you can grow from there. \n\nOnce you've got that down and you're sitting down with a girl for coffee, suddenly you've got something to talk about. Not just 'work sucks, my boss is an ass, have you seen the latest Survivor', but 'yeah, I was out doing (insert activity here) and shot my best score ever, made the play of the game, learned something new. It's hard to have friends or romantic interests without some compatibility in interests, so it plays in as well. \n\nSimply put, work on you. Be the kind of person you want to attract. Be interesting, eclectic, fun, quiet, loud, drunk, competitive, skilled, smart, whatever you want to be. Then invite people to share what you're interested in, or meet people who already do those things, and it will be easier. \n\n", "I can't give feedback but there are tons of videos on YouTube about building rapport. As a salesman I do this every day. I have about 10 minutes to gain a customers trust and get them to like me. The best starting point is a big smile and firm handshake. Then, start asking questions about them. People love talking about themselves, it makes them feel special. ", "Have you looked into whether you might be autistic? It's often very hard to make and maintain relationships and you may want to explore books for making friends with autism", "your attitude sucks. look at how you started your essay:\n\n\"I'm 34, male.\" \n\nIt's hard to imagine you saying that in a happy voice that people want to be around. If I was talking to someone in person, and they said \"I'm 34, male.\" I would probably raise an eyebrow that, for a first impression, is kind of important. \n\nHere is my translation of your first paragraph:\n\"Hey, I'm a guy in my early thirties. I don't have a history of both boyfriends and friends abandoning me left and right after very short periods of time.\"\n\nLater you say \"It really irks me when people seem to be nice and friendly to me only to disappear shortly afterwards with no explanation.\"\n\nHoney, they are nice and friendly people. They get to know you and they bail immediately because you are a negative, depressing, pain in the ass. \n\nAnd so am I. It takes one to know one.", "Record your interactions, play them back to yourself. I can almost guarantee you will cringe.\n\nJust use your phones voice recorder or video app. It should pick up the sound even in your pocket", "Honestly it sounds like you need a genuine interest in people, rather then just trying to collect friends.", "Create a fake Facebook account and gossip about yourself. Buy new pillow cases because your current ones will be stained with tears.", "31 y/o female here. \n\nThe few and I mean VERY few friends I have, well, they are who I want to consider close, but unfortunately I'm much lower on their priority list. I rarely get invited anywhere and when I try to do the inviting, it's no response or some reason they can't make it. \n\nWhat hurts is when I see or hear about them doing the same things with others they didn't want to do with me. So it's like they'll be my friend and talk to me but when it comes down to going out and doing things with them, it just doesn't ever seem to happen for me. \n\nEventually, I gave up. I don't invite people anywhere anymore. I go and do things alone. If I meet a stranger who decides to strike up small talk with me, that's cool. If not, that's cool too. I found happiness in being alone and spend a great deal of time alone. I sometimes let my friends know where I'm going or where I'm at if they ask, like if I'm gonna go have drinks at some place, but I don't invite them. It's not my way of saying they can't join (cause they can if they want to but they never want to) but I don't really care if they do or not so I don't bother with asking. Or Hell half the time i give the same silent treatment they so often give me. \n\nMaybe I'll finally meet a friend or two who actually wants to do things with me, but no rush. Find happiness alone is the best advice I can give. You seem like you're in the same boat as me with same outlook and experiences with people. And for that reason, i would hang out with you if you were close by. I really would. " ]

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[ "How to give directions and corrections to a new coworker without being condescending? I got a new coworker recently. He's by no means a noob or dumb. He's experienced but coming from a different site. We do things a little bit different here. He's not familiar with our quaint ways. We're in the same position. I'm the one with seniority, so I need to school him on some procedures that he's doing wrong.\n\nI purposely avoid management positions because I hate being in charge of people. I have a tendency to be a micromanager, OCD, and maybe a little condescending. [Lumbergh from Office Space](https://cdn.meme.am/cache/instances/folder481/500x/65204481.jpg) is my management spirit animal. I don't want to subject people to that.\n\nHow can I **not** be Lumbergh?", "How to give directions and corrections to a new coworker without being condescending? I got a new coworker recently. He's by no means a noob or dumb. He's experienced but coming from a different site. We do things a little bit different here. He's not familiar with our quaint ways. We're in the same position. I'm the one with seniority, so I need to school him on some procedures that he's doing wrong.\n\nI purposely avoid management positions because I hate being in charge of people. I have a tendency to be a micromanager, OCD, and maybe a little condescending. [Lumbergh from Office Space](https://cdn.meme.am/cache/instances/folder481/500x/65204481.jpg) is my management spirit animal. I don't want to subject people to that.\n\nHow can I **not** be Lumbergh?" ]

[ "Is he actually doing things wrong, or just different? A new employee should have been given a copy or at least access to all of your policies and procedures and should have been trained in how your office functions. \n\nCondescension is in the tone and manner in which you approach him. If you were asked to show him specific procedures, you can simply let him know that. \"Hey, we do things a little weird here, so let me show you how they want us to do Procedure X. It may be different than what you're used to.\"", "My management technique (I can't believe that I just typed that) is to ask: \"Tell me, what is your expected outcome?\" If they are on target with the outcome, I'll say: \"Cool, just another way to slice that cake.\" I've let them know that there are other ways but their career hinges on two things: being an innovator AND a team player. If it doesn't work out for them I offer to go into detail about that cake slicing. This lets them feel they are trusted, and often leads to the job getting done despite a new approach (sometimes a superior approach). \n However, if they are going to hurt the team, I will tell them. Office standards are in place for continuity in case of death or departure. I share the horror of trying to decipher the previous standards, days spent meticulously updating AutoCAD files from the previous office standard. I ask them to not curse their coworkers or the person to come after them. \n Usually I was in a position to reject work and compel overtime for faulty work. And I told them \"Interns work overtime for their own corrections / education. When I was starting out I worked 13 months for every year's pay because I didn't ask for help.\" \nYou don't have the authority but you have seniority. Nasty place. Best case for you is to send them an email to state simply you are happy to help clarify this or that (whatever the task at hand is) and do so weekly or so. It gives you a paper trail that you kept the door open for the new guy, and if he crashes and burns you are covered. " ]

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[ "When the soap doesn't rinse off your hands or the bottom of your feet correctly and starts to itch, how do you stop the itching?! .... somewhat urgent. \n\n", "When the soap doesn't rinse off your hands or the bottom of your feet correctly and starts to itch, how do you stop the itching?! .... somewhat urgent. \n\n", "When the soap doesn't rinse off your hands or the bottom of your feet correctly and starts to itch, how do you stop the itching?! .... somewhat urgent. \n\n" ]

[ "WTF kind of soap are you using?\n\nI guess just rewash the area and maybe put some moisturizing lotion on it.", "I found taking the low flow shower head off and using a garden hose when showering lots of water gets all the soap off! \n\ni also found lots of soaps do not need to be used often. it has been weeks and no one has commented yet that i smell. \n\ni would advise less soap.\n\n\nbut it appears you must have used some soap and it is urgent. i am going to assume and will tell you, if you used soap for a lubricant and it gets in your uretha only peeing and screaming will make it better. \n\nyou could be allergic to soap. so never use it again, benydrl can be used ot reduce itching i think they have something like callamine loation that is good for allergic rashes. \n\njust get back in the shower and wash/rinse again with water. warm water and cold water. the changing temperatures might reduce the chemical burning if your soap is high concentrated bleach. and again do not use bleach for lubrication if you are playing with yourself. also do not use super glue for lubrication! \n\n\nso less soap for next time, calamine lotion or benydrl to reduce itching, rinse and never use the soap again! ", "Just to throw out this option - the soap may be too strong for your skin and/or you may have a slight allergic reaction to an ingredient in the soap. Some of the sports or antibacterial soaps are super strong. Others have chemicals that may irritate your skin. Sadly, I'm both sensitive to strong soap and allergic to certain ingredients. I've found two soaps great for sensitive skin: Dove sensitive skin unscented and Speick, an all natural german soap that smells awesome that you can find on amazon and ebay. " ]

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[ "Re-carbonating soda. Definitely a first world problem here. To save money, I've started buying the off brand of the off brand sodas from Dollar Tree, which come in 3 quart sized containers. However, since it is just my roomate and I in college drinking it, it goes flat rather quickly. \n \n\nIs there any way to re-carbonate soda, other than buying those expensive soda makers?", "Re-carbonating soda. Definitely a first world problem here. To save money, I've started buying the off brand of the off brand sodas from Dollar Tree, which come in 3 quart sized containers. However, since it is just my roomate and I in college drinking it, it goes flat rather quickly. \n \n\nIs there any way to re-carbonate soda, other than buying those expensive soda makers?", "Re-carbonating soda. Definitely a first world problem here. To save money, I've started buying the off brand of the off brand sodas from Dollar Tree, which come in 3 quart sized containers. However, since it is just my roomate and I in college drinking it, it goes flat rather quickly. \n \n\nIs there any way to re-carbonate soda, other than buying those expensive soda makers?" ]

[ "The soda makers aren't really expensive. Especially if you buy the soda syrup too, then it will pay itself off really soon. Even compared to the dollar store soda.", "make sure you and your room mate are putting the lids on tight! try to get it as tight as the cap was originally. if the cap is tight it wont go flat.", "The simplest way would be to use dry ice. You have to drop quite a few chunks in but the release of c02 makes the drink fizzy again. It also makes it instantly cold! Not quite as fizzy as when it was just opened, but enough for it not to be sugar-water." ]

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[ " For a variety of reasons, I don't sleep well at night (central sleep apnea, RLS, generalized insomnia) so I'm pretty much resigned to about 4-5 hrs of sleep a night. I can function OK with the help of coffee thoughout the day, but I still have problems with the meetings that are a necessary part of my job. Biting my tongue and pinching myself don't seem to work very well when it comes to keeping myself awake. Anybody have any tips?", " For a variety of reasons, I don't sleep well at night (central sleep apnea, RLS, generalized insomnia) so I'm pretty much resigned to about 4-5 hrs of sleep a night. I can function OK with the help of coffee thoughout the day, but I still have problems with the meetings that are a necessary part of my job. Biting my tongue and pinching myself don't seem to work very well when it comes to keeping myself awake. Anybody have any tips?", " For a variety of reasons, I don't sleep well at night (central sleep apnea, RLS, generalized insomnia) so I'm pretty much resigned to about 4-5 hrs of sleep a night. I can function OK with the help of coffee thoughout the day, but I still have problems with the meetings that are a necessary part of my job. Biting my tongue and pinching myself don't seem to work very well when it comes to keeping myself awake. Anybody have any tips?", " For a variety of reasons, I don't sleep well at night (central sleep apnea, RLS, generalized insomnia) so I'm pretty much resigned to about 4-5 hrs of sleep a night. I can function OK with the help of coffee thoughout the day, but I still have problems with the meetings that are a necessary part of my job. Biting my tongue and pinching myself don't seem to work very well when it comes to keeping myself awake. Anybody have any tips?", " For a variety of reasons, I don't sleep well at night (central sleep apnea, RLS, generalized insomnia) so I'm pretty much resigned to about 4-5 hrs of sleep a night. I can function OK with the help of coffee thoughout the day, but I still have problems with the meetings that are a necessary part of my job. Biting my tongue and pinching myself don't seem to work very well when it comes to keeping myself awake. Anybody have any tips?", " For a variety of reasons, I don't sleep well at night (central sleep apnea, RLS, generalized insomnia) so I'm pretty much resigned to about 4-5 hrs of sleep a night. I can function OK with the help of coffee thoughout the day, but I still have problems with the meetings that are a necessary part of my job. Biting my tongue and pinching myself don't seem to work very well when it comes to keeping myself awake. Anybody have any tips?", " For a variety of reasons, I don't sleep well at night (central sleep apnea, RLS, generalized insomnia) so I'm pretty much resigned to about 4-5 hrs of sleep a night. I can function OK with the help of coffee thoughout the day, but I still have problems with the meetings that are a necessary part of my job. Biting my tongue and pinching myself don't seem to work very well when it comes to keeping myself awake. Anybody have any tips?", " For a variety of reasons, I don't sleep well at night (central sleep apnea, RLS, generalized insomnia) so I'm pretty much resigned to about 4-5 hrs of sleep a night. I can function OK with the help of coffee thoughout the day, but I still have problems with the meetings that are a necessary part of my job. Biting my tongue and pinching myself don't seem to work very well when it comes to keeping myself awake. Anybody have any tips?", " For a variety of reasons, I don't sleep well at night (central sleep apnea, RLS, generalized insomnia) so I'm pretty much resigned to about 4-5 hrs of sleep a night. I can function OK with the help of coffee thoughout the day, but I still have problems with the meetings that are a necessary part of my job. Biting my tongue and pinching myself don't seem to work very well when it comes to keeping myself awake. Anybody have any tips?" ]

[ "Take notes. You'll look like you're on top of your game. My notes always end up being a calendar of my upcoming paydays.", "Spicy/peppery beef jerky..\n\nIt sounds rediculous but it works so well for me, i use it on long car jeorneys. I think your body thinks the spicy-ness is pain and stops you sleeping cos \"why do you wanna sleep- your in pain?\" Yuhgetmeh?", "If you find yourself getting tired and you are able to, excuse yourself to get up and go to the restroom. Use that to get up and move around primarily to recharge yourself.", "Two things that work for me. Fire sauce from Taco Bell and water. I've been in class doing the whole \"in and out of sleep\" thing, a few sips of water and I'm awake.", "Keep caffeine pills in your drawer at the office. Taking one normally makes me alert for a good hour. ", "I learned this many years ago: tickle the roof of your mouth with the tip of your tongue when you feel 'sleepy'. It works. Also drink cold water - helps refresh you, plus it's food for you! :)\n", "I have this problem occasionally as well. When I feel myself starting to doze, I just hold my breath for a while. It increases the heart rate and wakes you up. ", "Get a CPAP. If you hate the mask, get a different one. It's all about the mask. When it's rockin, it's amazingly helpful. \n\nWhen I've had deadlines and I'm trading sleep time for work time, I stay awake in meetings by lifting one or both feet a little bit off the floor and just holding my leg there. Can't go to sleep while doing that! No one can tell I'm doing it. Also, I fool myself into thinking it's good exercise. ", ">central sleep apnea\n\nHave you discussed this with your doctor and considered getting a Bi-pap machine? That's really the only solution I know of, otherwise you won't get much sleep, and the sleep you do get is going to be exhausting instead of restful because you're basically suffocating periodically.\n\nSame with RLS, but I have a similar problem and intense exercise during the day seems to be the only thing to put a dent in it, so this might not be solvable.\n\n>generalized insomnia\n\nThis is another thing to discuss with a professional, often this can be an issue with sleep hygiene and mental state more than a physiological barrier to getting good sleep.\n\nIf you're only getting 4-5 hours a sleep a night there's simply no way you aren't going to be tired and passing out occasionally during the day unless you are pouring on the caffeine, and your health is going to take a hit from that. Even if you manage to stay awake, your performance will suffer and people will notice you're giving more attention to staying awake than participating. There's no good, healthy way to resign yourself to only 4-5 hours of sleep a night if you need more than that.\n\nJust some questions:\n\nWhat time do you normally go to bed? When do you have to wake up?\n\nDoes your room have windows?\n\nIs your room quiet at night?\n\nIs your bed comfortable (as in, can you lie flat on your back comfortably?)\n\nDo you watch TV, browse your computer, or use your phone before going to bed? You should stop doing this at least 1 hour before bed and do some other easy, relaxing, non-stimulating activity such as reading or a simple hobby.\n\nAre you eating right before bed? Don't do this.\n\nAre you making your room dark before bed? Do this for at least an hour before bed.\n\nAre you taking melatonin or other supplements? Believe it or not this can actually harm your sleep cycle depending on the situation.\n\nHow's your mental state? If you're stressed or your mind is racing sleep can be hard to come by. Exercise, m" ]

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[ "braces-friendly popcorn alternative? Just got braces put on and was very sad to learn that they will get in the way of going to the movies with my dad. Could anyone suggest a good movie snack that won't damage my braces?", "braces-friendly popcorn alternative? Just got braces put on and was very sad to learn that they will get in the way of going to the movies with my dad. Could anyone suggest a good movie snack that won't damage my braces?", "braces-friendly popcorn alternative? Just got braces put on and was very sad to learn that they will get in the way of going to the movies with my dad. Could anyone suggest a good movie snack that won't damage my braces?", "braces-friendly popcorn alternative? Just got braces put on and was very sad to learn that they will get in the way of going to the movies with my dad. Could anyone suggest a good movie snack that won't damage my braces?", "braces-friendly popcorn alternative? Just got braces put on and was very sad to learn that they will get in the way of going to the movies with my dad. Could anyone suggest a good movie snack that won't damage my braces?", "braces-friendly popcorn alternative? Just got braces put on and was very sad to learn that they will get in the way of going to the movies with my dad. Could anyone suggest a good movie snack that won't damage my braces?", "braces-friendly popcorn alternative? Just got braces put on and was very sad to learn that they will get in the way of going to the movies with my dad. Could anyone suggest a good movie snack that won't damage my braces?" ]

[ "I used to work at a movie theater when I had braces. For a snack while on break I would usually just have some nachos. After awhile I learned how to eat popcorn by being careful and only eating a piece or 2 at a time.", "Some of the candy will be edible--junior mints or mnms or what have you, obviously, not Milk Duds XD. Hot dogs or nachos (you can probably still have these even if you're not allowed hard chips if you're willing to bring in a spork and crush them) or whatever \"food\" they have. If you have a purse, you can bring in small amounts of whatever the hell you want, too--transfer it out of its normal container into a plastic baggie or something to help cut down on the crinkle and take best advantage of your purse shape. If you can sneak something in, and you want a popcorn-like experience, popchips or a Pirate's Booty type situation could be good. If you can't, it kind of depends on what theater you're going to--some of them have WAY more options than others. Your real best bet in that case is to get to the movie like ten minutes earlier than you would have, and spend it scouting all the stuff you've passed on in favor of popcorn in the past. Orrrr you could just get an enormous ICEE. But then you might have to pee.", "non-chewy candy like m&ms or reeces pieces. depends a little on the theatre you go to. one i used to live by had those dippin dot ice cream things which were great especially right after getting the braces tightened. Also, fun fact: in some places you are no longer legally required to snack during a movie", "I had them, just chew the popcorn carefully and try not to bite into any of the hard unpopped kernels.", "Honestly, when I first got them, I followed all the rules. Now, I break a few that are no big deal, specifically the popcorn one, among others. If you just got them on or tightened, don't eat anything too hard, I literally could barely eat pancakes on my second day with them. Other than that, you should be pretty ok, I've never had a problem. ", "Eat it slowly and carefully and you can eat it with no problem. It is the hulls or unpopped kernels that will damage the braces, but only eat one or two pieces at once or even let it mostly dissolve and crush it with your tongue. Movie theater popcorn is usually soaked in buttery oil anyway.", "Don't follow the rules\n\nI had braces for 2 years and didn't follow the rules\n\nNothing ever went wrong except for apples \n\nDo cut your apples" ]

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[ "How can I sound proof a window? I live on a main road and recently I have been waking up around 5am when the traffic starts. Any suggestion on how to reduce noise? I can tell the walls are not the issue compared to the windows.", "How can I sound proof a window? I live on a main road and recently I have been waking up around 5am when the traffic starts. Any suggestion on how to reduce noise? I can tell the walls are not the issue compared to the windows.", "How can I sound proof a window? I live on a main road and recently I have been waking up around 5am when the traffic starts. Any suggestion on how to reduce noise? I can tell the walls are not the issue compared to the windows." ]

[ "Using laminated glass is the only way. I worked in the business for 5 years. It's the only effective way. Period.", "Those \"light-blocking\" curtains are pretty thick, maybe try putting those up? The key is to reduce vibrations. That's how sound-dampening in cars works. You just stick a flat piece of foam to the back side of the door panels (among other things) and then they vibrate less and sound doesn't get through them.\n\nHell, you may even be able to get a company that does window tinting to apply a clear tint to your bedroom window (should be relatively cheap because it's just a rectangle) and see if that helps.\n\nWorth a shot.", "Are they old double hung windows? If so, there are probably gaps running along either side of the window. Pulling off the trim and filling the gaps along the sides of the window with insulation will help cut down on sound attenuation through the window frame (you can use rigid foam, spray foam or fiberglass batts, depending on the size of the gaps). \n\nAttaching storm windows on the outside would also help, as a second pane of glass will help dampen the sound. But aside from replacing the window or adding panes of glass, some thick curtains and maybe wooden blinds will help. " ]

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[ "Need help dealing with my difficult boss I've been working at a non profit for 10 months. We recently got a new boss about 3 months ago. It's a very small office, there's only the boss, myself and one other coworker. The boss been extremely inappropriate such as talking ill of the other coworker to me and having arguments with him in the office. He is also a micromanager and questions me on my work of a program he has probably never even logged in to. \n\nAnyways, long story short, I do not respect my boss as a person or a leader. My job description has changed so much since he joined; my tasks were related to events coordinator but have changed to office admin. \n\nI don't know how to deal with him. I used to love my job and coming into work was exciting. But he has taken everything I used to love about my job and made it boring and repetitive. For example, he needs to approve all my e-newsletter communications and he ", "Need help dealing with my difficult boss I've been working at a non profit for 10 months. We recently got a new boss about 3 months ago. It's a very small office, there's only the boss, myself and one other coworker. The boss been extremely inappropriate such as talking ill of the other coworker to me and having arguments with him in the office. He is also a micromanager and questions me on my work of a program he has probably never even logged in to. \n\nAnyways, long story short, I do not respect my boss as a person or a leader. My job description has changed so much since he joined; my tasks were related to events coordinator but have changed to office admin. \n\nI don't know how to deal with him. I used to love my job and coming into work was exciting. But he has taken everything I used to love about my job and made it boring and repetitive. For example, he needs to approve all my e-newsletter communications and he ", "Need help dealing with my difficult boss I've been working at a non profit for 10 months. We recently got a new boss about 3 months ago. It's a very small office, there's only the boss, myself and one other coworker. The boss been extremely inappropriate such as talking ill of the other coworker to me and having arguments with him in the office. He is also a micromanager and questions me on my work of a program he has probably never even logged in to. \n\nAnyways, long story short, I do not respect my boss as a person or a leader. My job description has changed so much since he joined; my tasks were related to events coordinator but have changed to office admin. \n\nI don't know how to deal with him. I used to love my job and coming into work was exciting. But he has taken everything I used to love about my job and made it boring and repetitive. For example, he needs to approve all my e-newsletter communications and he ", "Need help dealing with my difficult boss I've been working at a non profit for 10 months. We recently got a new boss about 3 months ago. It's a very small office, there's only the boss, myself and one other coworker. The boss been extremely inappropriate such as talking ill of the other coworker to me and having arguments with him in the office. He is also a micromanager and questions me on my work of a program he has probably never even logged in to. \n\nAnyways, long story short, I do not respect my boss as a person or a leader. My job description has changed so much since he joined; my tasks were related to events coordinator but have changed to office admin. \n\nI don't know how to deal with him. I used to love my job and coming into work was exciting. But he has taken everything I used to love about my job and made it boring and repetitive. For example, he needs to approve all my e-newsletter communications and he " ]

[ "Sounds like a negative work environment. You’ve got two options.. work on your relationship with your coworkers or leave.\n\nIf you find it difficult to respect your boss for various reasons than you may be wasting your time. \n\nThere are other jobs. Don’t work one you hate.", "Fake it until you get a new job.\n\nA good job is not worth your mental health.\n\nFuck that guy and the company, you're worth more.", "Hey OP, I used to work for a non-profit. Does your work have a Board of Directors? Someone who your boss reports to? If so, I suggest talking to your coworker and approaching the board together with your issues.\n\nTo stay busy: You could try asking your boss for a workplan, and/or a list of things that you could work on when you're done your other tasks.\n\nMicromanaging: I don't think reviewing your e-newsletters or social media posts is micromanaging. In my experience, this is good practice as it gives the opportunity to double check grammar, formatting, links, etc. and so that the boss knew what was being communicated to the public. Charitable read on the other micromanaging stuff: your boss is new to the organization and it helps them to know what is going on at the micro scale. You are also fairly new as an employee and may need a bit more oversight than you think, especially if you don't have a ton of other work experience.", "Get a new job somewhere else. It will likely not get better, especially after 3 months. It will get worse, in fact, your boss may be setting you up to be let go especially if you aren't getting enough work. \n\nStart looking now so that leaving is your choice, not your bosses. \n\nAll the reasons and concerns you gave not to leave will become irrelevant if they fire or terminate you." ]

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[ "How to stop stomach growling For almost a year my stomach growls very loudly in class. Its very annoying and I dread going to certain classes because of this. I cant eat in class because my teachers don't allow it Please help. ", "How to stop stomach growling For almost a year my stomach growls very loudly in class. Its very annoying and I dread going to certain classes because of this. I cant eat in class because my teachers don't allow it Please help. " ]

[ "Change your diet. Eat a lot more fat and less carbs. Carbs contribute a lot to that grumbling (craving for more food, \"idealy carbs\" your gut flora tells you). Look into paleo. I eat less than I used to but never feel the grumbling or craving. Fat is also a lot more satiating, burns slower and will curb \"hunger\" longer. People often report more stable energy levels. I would report that too, which is a nice benefit", "This happened to me too until I started taking pro biotics every day before school, I take Bio K and they totally work" ]

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[ "How to comfort someone? My best friend is on the verge of breaking up with her boyfriend and most of the time I'm not busy working, she reaches out to me to talk about this.\n\nI already made myself some own \"rules\" when comforting someone:\n\n1. Let her talk, ask follow-up question to show you care and they probably want to talk it all off their soul\n\n2. Don't talk about my similiar Break-ups. It's about her, not me\n\n3. Comforting over soloution-finding. Most people want empathy, not a perfect soloution (mostly there isn't one anyways)\n\n4. Making clear Im listening to show it's important to me\n\nBut I can only see \"Wow, this really sucks. I am so sorry, he really doesn't deserve you\" so many times\n\n\nI am very busy recently. It starts to wear me down, because as much as I love my best friend, it's exhausting and I don't know what to say and do anymore. Advice?", "How to comfort someone? My best friend is on the verge of breaking up with her boyfriend and most of the time I'm not busy working, she reaches out to me to talk about this.\n\nI already made myself some own \"rules\" when comforting someone:\n\n1. Let her talk, ask follow-up question to show you care and they probably want to talk it all off their soul\n\n2. Don't talk about my similiar Break-ups. It's about her, not me\n\n3. Comforting over soloution-finding. Most people want empathy, not a perfect soloution (mostly there isn't one anyways)\n\n4. Making clear Im listening to show it's important to me\n\nBut I can only see \"Wow, this really sucks. I am so sorry, he really doesn't deserve you\" so many times\n\n\nI am very busy recently. It starts to wear me down, because as much as I love my best friend, it's exhausting and I don't know what to say and do anymore. Advice?", "How to comfort someone? My best friend is on the verge of breaking up with her boyfriend and most of the time I'm not busy working, she reaches out to me to talk about this.\n\nI already made myself some own \"rules\" when comforting someone:\n\n1. Let her talk, ask follow-up question to show you care and they probably want to talk it all off their soul\n\n2. Don't talk about my similiar Break-ups. It's about her, not me\n\n3. Comforting over soloution-finding. Most people want empathy, not a perfect soloution (mostly there isn't one anyways)\n\n4. Making clear Im listening to show it's important to me\n\nBut I can only see \"Wow, this really sucks. I am so sorry, he really doesn't deserve you\" so many times\n\n\nI am very busy recently. It starts to wear me down, because as much as I love my best friend, it's exhausting and I don't know what to say and do anymore. Advice?" ]

[ "The easiest and most effective response is to reflect back her point or emotions.\n\n\"So he said .... and you told him ...\"\n\n\"did you feel angry?\"\n\n\"That sounds painful, did it really hurt?\"\n\nhth", "Do you know the 6 seconds rule?\n\r\nIt takes around 6 seconds of silence in a conversation to make it uncomfortable.\n\r\nJust wait sometimes and count to 6 before asking or saying something.\r\nNormally the other person starts to talk again to avoid the silence and tells you more. \r\n\r\nIf you ask someone a question, he/she will be leaded in a specific direction. Just let her sometimes talk and you get to the real \"problems/worries\". It helped me a lot.", "I think you should drop rule #2. People are comforted to know that others have gone through the same thing. You don't want to hijack the conversation and go on about your ex for hours but you should make it clear that you really do get it.\n\nShared experience greatly increases the value of one's counsel and perception of empathy. That's why recovering addicts have sponsors who are themselves recovering addicts." ]

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[ "Sweaty palms? My palms sweat like crazy, and I'm always really self-conscious about it. Anything I can do about this?", "Sweaty palms? My palms sweat like crazy, and I'm always really self-conscious about it. Anything I can do about this?", "Sweaty palms? My palms sweat like crazy, and I'm always really self-conscious about it. Anything I can do about this?", "Sweaty palms? My palms sweat like crazy, and I'm always really self-conscious about it. Anything I can do about this?", "Sweaty palms? My palms sweat like crazy, and I'm always really self-conscious about it. Anything I can do about this?", "Sweaty palms? My palms sweat like crazy, and I'm always really self-conscious about it. Anything I can do about this?" ]

[ "I had this, it's called [Hyperhidrosis](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyperhidrosis). Go talk to a dermatologist (skin doctor) and they can answer all your questions. My hands used to sweat really bad when I was nervous. Holding hands with a girl was always one of my biggest fears in middle and high school. Let me say that sweaty hands don't move smoothly against body parts and made feeling up girls super embarrassing. In college I literally had sweat dripping off my hands during one final. I was super nervous about about the test and ended up getting the test soaking wet. \n\nAfter that I went to the doctor and he recommend a couple treatments such as creams you put on at night. The creams at night sucked really bad because you had to wear rubber gloves, which is about the worst thing in the world to sleep in. After trying the creams at night and some special antiperspirants specifically made for your hands my doctor recommended surgery. \n\nWith the surgery they make 2 small incisions, in each arm pit (one incision for the scope and one for the clamp tool). Your lung is deflated and a nerve that runs down the back of your rib cage is clamped. The results are different for most people, but for me it reduced my hand sweat about 80%, foot sweat about 50% and armpit sweat about 10%. The only downside is that you will still sweat the same amount, it will just pop up other places. For example, the back of my legs and my lower back sweat a lot more than they did before the surgery, but not enough more to make it not worth it. The surgery was really easy, but I was completely under and only took about 30 minutes. I had a total of 8 stitches. \n\nIn the past, they would cut the nerves making the surgery un-reversible. Now they just use clamps where if your results make something else worse, the surgery can be reversed. Compared to the past, the surgery has come a long ways and the complications are a lot more well known than in the past. I do not regret getting the surgery at all. Now that I'm working full time in a professional environment I'm not nervous at all about shaking someone's hand, which I was in the past. \n\nI hope this helps. Here’s a link to the [Mayo Clinic](http://www.mayoclinic.org/hyperhidrosis/treatment.html) that has a lot more information. \n\n\n**TLDR: Talk to a dermatologist and get surgery**\n\n*", "See a dermatologist. My girlfriend uses something called drysol I think and it works well for her. Not sure how big of a hassle it is, but her hands usually stay pretty dry from it.", "I wish i could provide proof of this since its considered to be a homeopathic \"cure\". I don't have the type of money to just go get surgery. I was introduced to sage tea, its only 5 dollars for 24 bags (so really cheap). I wasn't sure it was working till my hands peeled, albeit a bit odd but if you think it makes sense. Without the added moisture the skin cannot support extra layers without drying out. http://www.livestrong.com/article/485103-sage-tea-and-sweating/ \n", "Besides talking to a dermatologist, you can keep balled up napkins in your pocket. When your hands get sweaty, just reach in and give them a squeeze.", "Similar to the thought of using chalk, athletes have a lot of products that help control sweat. \n\nSome of which are [iTac](http://www.itac2.com/), [Mighty Grip](http://www.mightygrip.com/) and [Dry Hands](http://esgdirect.com/dryhands.html).", "Use hand-sanitizer. Girls will think you are trying to be really clean and it has the effect of drying your hands." ]

[ 24, 3, 3, 3, 2, -1 ]

[ "How to bear the warmth in a super long trip in a car full of stuff, 2 persons, and a cat? Car has no AC, driving during the night is not an option.\n\nIce in from of the air system plus spraying water every minute seems like the only solution.\n\nIt is going to be two 8 hour trips in two days.\n\nCreative solutions would be deeply appreciated.", "How to bear the warmth in a super long trip in a car full of stuff, 2 persons, and a cat? Car has no AC, driving during the night is not an option.\n\nIce in from of the air system plus spraying water every minute seems like the only solution.\n\nIt is going to be two 8 hour trips in two days.\n\nCreative solutions would be deeply appreciated.", "How to bear the warmth in a super long trip in a car full of stuff, 2 persons, and a cat? Car has no AC, driving during the night is not an option.\n\nIce in from of the air system plus spraying water every minute seems like the only solution.\n\nIt is going to be two 8 hour trips in two days.\n\nCreative solutions would be deeply appreciated.", "How to bear the warmth in a super long trip in a car full of stuff, 2 persons, and a cat? Car has no AC, driving during the night is not an option.\n\nIce in from of the air system plus spraying water every minute seems like the only solution.\n\nIt is going to be two 8 hour trips in two days.\n\nCreative solutions would be deeply appreciated.", "How to bear the warmth in a super long trip in a car full of stuff, 2 persons, and a cat? Car has no AC, driving during the night is not an option.\n\nIce in from of the air system plus spraying water every minute seems like the only solution.\n\nIt is going to be two 8 hour trips in two days.\n\nCreative solutions would be deeply appreciated." ]

[ "Sponges soaked in water, then frozen in Ziploc bags. Do the same with a folded dish towel in a gallon Ziploc bag. Cover it with a dry towel, sit on it or just place it in your footrest area to touch with your feet crime time to time. Make sure it's folded tight and flat if you're going to do the latter so it doesn't slip forward in a freak accident and wedge under a pedal or something.\n\nMake another to put underneath your cat's carrier. Rotate them out with extras kept in a cooler. \n\nFill a sock with rice, tie off the end and stuff that in another sock or the foot of an old panty hose to be extra sure it won't leak, and after freezing it stick it behind your neck. \n\nIf you're going to have your windows open don't forget chapstick. Put on sunblock even though you're just going to be in the car if it's sunny out. ", "In addition to leaving the windows as far down as you can while not creating a whirlwind...\n\nI'd bring along some coolers full of ice, you can stick a hand or foot in there for 5-10 minutes at a time and it will really help keep you cool. You can even refill using bags of ice from a gas station when you stop for gas. If you want to be really crazy you can put a bunch of ping pong balls on top of the ice, this will insulate the ice somewhat from the air and prevent it from melting as quickly.", "You could try to open 2 back windows, and turn you fan on all the way. It will create suction to keep air flowing. I don't know how that will work if it's really hot out.\n\nSoak a bandana in cold water, ice water, wring it out and place on the back of your neck.\n\nDrink plenty of water.", "The day before you leave put a towel over the front and back windshield and try to cover the windows. This will keep the sun out and make the car cooler before you even start the trip. Bring cold, damp towels to put over your neck and head and drink lots of water.", "Just point the fans up your sleeves and the airflow will cool you under your shirt without a/c. Open the windows while driving, roll them up when you come to a stop, and of your cat jumps out of a moving vehicle consider how lucky you are that you can get a new more intelligent creature to be your traveling companion.\n\nThis isn't that hard figuring out but have thought about getting a cat carrier? If your cat freaks out while being in the car then you need to contain the animal to prevent what could potentially cause a fetal collision by distracting YOU the driver." ]

[ 6, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "an elegant solution to keeping my tupperware from bouncing around in the dishwasher. You guys know what I'm talking about. You go to unload the dishwasher and just find yourself pouring out nasty dish water and washing by hand. ", "an elegant solution to keeping my tupperware from bouncing around in the dishwasher. You guys know what I'm talking about. You go to unload the dishwasher and just find yourself pouring out nasty dish water and washing by hand. ", "an elegant solution to keeping my tupperware from bouncing around in the dishwasher. You guys know what I'm talking about. You go to unload the dishwasher and just find yourself pouring out nasty dish water and washing by hand. " ]

[ "I have a solution which I use perfectly! Buy a bunch of rubber bands and when you put the Tupperware in, put the rubber band around the Tupperware and around a couple of nearby prongs to secure it with the rubber bands tensile strength. I drew a really shitty picture to try and explain, but might not be helpful in any way: [crappy diagram!](http://imgur.com/O0Q37yu)\n\nAlso I'm slightly drunk, so apologies for the quality of that drawing...", "I have no problem as long as I put the tupperware on the top shelf. So I just don't put it on the bottom. Do you have that issue on both shelves? ", "Never put Tupperware in the dishwasher. They will deform quickly and you will end up replacing them regularly. Instead buy the glass bottomed containers with plastic snap lids. Then the glass can go in the dishwasher and the lids are very easy to clean by hand. They will last you for several decades. " ]

[ 22, 4, -2 ]

[ "Can't bring myself to wake up when the alarm goes off. I've been trying to get into a sleep schedule but whenever my alarm goes off my brain is apparently off because I can never actually get out of bed. Plz help", "Can't bring myself to wake up when the alarm goes off. I've been trying to get into a sleep schedule but whenever my alarm goes off my brain is apparently off because I can never actually get out of bed. Plz help", "Can't bring myself to wake up when the alarm goes off. I've been trying to get into a sleep schedule but whenever my alarm goes off my brain is apparently off because I can never actually get out of bed. Plz help", "Can't bring myself to wake up when the alarm goes off. I've been trying to get into a sleep schedule but whenever my alarm goes off my brain is apparently off because I can never actually get out of bed. Plz help", "Can't bring myself to wake up when the alarm goes off. I've been trying to get into a sleep schedule but whenever my alarm goes off my brain is apparently off because I can never actually get out of bed. Plz help", "Can't bring myself to wake up when the alarm goes off. I've been trying to get into a sleep schedule but whenever my alarm goes off my brain is apparently off because I can never actually get out of bed. Plz help", "Can't bring myself to wake up when the alarm goes off. I've been trying to get into a sleep schedule but whenever my alarm goes off my brain is apparently off because I can never actually get out of bed. Plz help", "Can't bring myself to wake up when the alarm goes off. I've been trying to get into a sleep schedule but whenever my alarm goes off my brain is apparently off because I can never actually get out of bed. Plz help", "Can't bring myself to wake up when the alarm goes off. I've been trying to get into a sleep schedule but whenever my alarm goes off my brain is apparently off because I can never actually get out of bed. Plz help", "Can't bring myself to wake up when the alarm goes off. I've been trying to get into a sleep schedule but whenever my alarm goes off my brain is apparently off because I can never actually get out of bed. Plz help", "Can't bring myself to wake up when the alarm goes off. I've been trying to get into a sleep schedule but whenever my alarm goes off my brain is apparently off because I can never actually get out of bed. Plz help", "Can't bring myself to wake up when the alarm goes off. I've been trying to get into a sleep schedule but whenever my alarm goes off my brain is apparently off because I can never actually get out of bed. Plz help", "Can't bring myself to wake up when the alarm goes off. I've been trying to get into a sleep schedule but whenever my alarm goes off my brain is apparently off because I can never actually get out of bed. Plz help", "Can't bring myself to wake up when the alarm goes off. I've been trying to get into a sleep schedule but whenever my alarm goes off my brain is apparently off because I can never actually get out of bed. Plz help" ]

[ "I struggled with this for a long time. One thing that actually worked for me recently is to have something you actually look forward to doing early in the morning. For me, this is brewing a nice cup of coffee. I coincidentally got into coffee recently, and it's been much much easier to get up just for that alone. Find something that you deeply enjoy doing in the morning. It will motivate you to get up. Otherwise, you're almost getting up for nothing!", "Artificial sunrise alarm clock. Phillips makes one. It slowly gets brighter ahead of the time you set. It’s a softer way to wake up. It doesn’t cure not wanting to go to work but it does help with not over snoozing.", "Okay, first things, get to sleep on time, you said in another reply that it's like 2am, staying awake late will make it harder to get up in the morning, even if its 10-12. If you really struggle getting to sleep, look into taking something like melatonin for a few days to help. Don't play on any electronic device for 1 hour before you sleep.\nPut your alarm on the other side of the room so ou have to get up to turn it off. Once you are up, make a new habit, be it going to the toilet, having a cup of coffee, whatever, choose something to do every morning just after waking up. It'll be hard the first few days, but then you'll get into a routine and you'll be fine.", "Maybe try another alarm. I had a hard time when I was younger, so my parents got me the kind that is obnoxiously loud and has wheels. So, it rolls around on the ground, making an eardrum-piercing noise until i go find it and turn it off. Woke up pissed, but it worked!", "Put your alarm clock somewhere you have to actually get up out of bed to switch off. Harder to snooze and roll over when you have to physically get up.", "No science to this that I know of, but I just spend my last moments awake after I close my eyes imagining waking up at the time I want to. Repeating the time, imagining the numbers flashing on my alarm clock, etc. Until I fall asleep. Not fool proof but works pretty for me", "If you want to get up at 9, pay a hit man to kill you at 9:01. You will be up and energized for the day. Seriously though, good luck. I've tried all of these ideas and have yet to find one that works for me.", "Idk if this works for other phones, but on my iPhone I made a routine in shortcuts when my wake up alarm goes off it starts a series of commands that I cannot stop, such as playing a certain song, asking if I’m awake, playing another song, giving me the forecast for the day and then telling me the time. \nHaving this has helped me go from sleeping through everything to actually getting to work.", "something that helps me wake up easier is figuring out when i am in a light sleep. waking up during a rem cycle is likely going to make you feel groggy and not want to wake up, whereas having a wake up window when you’re in light sleep will help you get out of bed. i have a sleep calculator app that tells me when the best time for me to wake up is", "One thing I do, set an Ungodly amount of alarms, like 20. All with different sounds, 1 minute after each other. It works for me even after I fall asleep at 3am and need to get up at 7am", "For me what helped was a little time for myself in the morning. Take some time to read something, write or draw, listen to music, something you'll look for. That way even when going to bed you'll wish to be waking up.\nAfter some time you can try to wake up a little bit earlier to extend this lovely lonely moment. \nHope this help", "1. Get a cat\n\n2. Train the cat to know it will get breakfast right after your alarm goes\n\n3. Never be able to benefit from 'snooze' again....", "Put your phone (I'm guessing you use that as your alarm clock) on the other side of your bedroom. That will force you to get out of bed to turn it off", "Get a sleep analyzer, the alarm goes off in a 30min range you want to wake up, when your sleep is lightest" ]

[ 9, 6, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "can’t contribute to my Roth IRA because of no taxable income I ran into a problem. I had enough money to contribute the max ($6k) for the year of 2021 into my Roth IRA. The problem is I’m on workers comp until middle of next year at the least which means I will have no taxable income and I can only contribute if I have taxable income. Is there a solution or legal loophole to this?", "can’t contribute to my Roth IRA because of no taxable income I ran into a problem. I had enough money to contribute the max ($6k) for the year of 2021 into my Roth IRA. The problem is I’m on workers comp until middle of next year at the least which means I will have no taxable income and I can only contribute if I have taxable income. Is there a solution or legal loophole to this?" ]

[ "This is tax avoidance. LPT - don’t do that. You clearly are deriving value from a lot of things taxes fund.", "Withdrawal all of your money in singles. \n\n\nPay some idiots a few dollars to ball all your money and put the balls in a big tub (maybe a swimming pool).\n\n\nSwim in your wealth." ]

[ 1, -2 ]

[ "Tips I've gathered after visiting London for the first time and looking for more for my second trip! Hello, guys! I'm looking for LPT for traveling to London, specifically Zone 1, as this summer I'm taking a trip there for a week and staying with my sister. However, I've been to London before, for a 5-day trip in 2019, so I have some experience using public transportation, getting around the center on foot, and finding cool places to visit and pubs to crawl about. Thus, I'll try to start with a few LPT I've come up with on my own, but I'm still using an LPT Request flair to encourage more suggestions from locals or experienced travelers, as I've only visited 3 major European cities until now. \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nFor starters, walking around London is probably the best way to see what the city is about, as the varied and impressive architecture (especially for those from Eastern Europe or abroad), myriad of parks, restaurants, shops, and pubs are all around town, and while using apps to find the highest-rated spots is great, I suggest simply finding your own adventures in the city.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nA sub-tip for walking around town will be leaving your larger bag or backpack at home and only using a smaller one for money, water, charger, and ID, or if you don't stay in Zone 1, in one of the storage services that are all across London, with the one I used being [https://stasher.com/luggage-storage/london/kings-cross](https://stasher.com/luggage-storage/london/kings-cross). \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nAs far as travel by train or tube is concerned, getting an Oyster card is crucial, and I'm lucky I can use my sister's (although I don't condone using other people's cards). \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nFurthermore, visiting Museums in London is a must. Most of them are free, and the British Empire had certainly amassed an impressive collection of artifacts from all over the world. What I don't recommend doing if you are on a limited budget is going to the more famous tourist attractions, such as the London Eye or Madame Tussaud's, with the former having been especially disappointing and overpriced on my first trip. However, if you absolutely want to visit these, try buying a multi-ticket that comes in cheaper than paying separately. \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nSome other tips include NOT playing street games that are usually scams (I speak Romanian, so I could gather what the scammers were talking about and doing while observing them), opting for fast food joints instead of restaurants if you only need a quick snack, to save money, as well as trying craft beers while pub crawling to get the best out of local types of beers. \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nIn any case, these are some tips I've come up with after my first trip. I am very curious to read many others from you guys, so I'm even better prepared next time I visit London!", "Tips I've gathered after visiting London for the first time and looking for more for my second trip! Hello, guys! I'm looking for LPT for traveling to London, specifically Zone 1, as this summer I'm taking a trip there for a week and staying with my sister. However, I've been to London before, for a 5-day trip in 2019, so I have some experience using public transportation, getting around the center on foot, and finding cool places to visit and pubs to crawl about. Thus, I'll try to start with a few LPT I've come up with on my own, but I'm still using an LPT Request flair to encourage more suggestions from locals or experienced travelers, as I've only visited 3 major European cities until now. \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nFor starters, walking around London is probably the best way to see what the city is about, as the varied and impressive architecture (especially for those from Eastern Europe or abroad), myriad of parks, restaurants, shops, and pubs are all around town, and while using apps to find the highest-rated spots is great, I suggest simply finding your own adventures in the city.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nA sub-tip for walking around town will be leaving your larger bag or backpack at home and only using a smaller one for money, water, charger, and ID, or if you don't stay in Zone 1, in one of the storage services that are all across London, with the one I used being [https://stasher.com/luggage-storage/london/kings-cross](https://stasher.com/luggage-storage/london/kings-cross). \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nAs far as travel by train or tube is concerned, getting an Oyster card is crucial, and I'm lucky I can use my sister's (although I don't condone using other people's cards). \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nFurthermore, visiting Museums in London is a must. Most of them are free, and the British Empire had certainly amassed an impressive collection of artifacts from all over the world. What I don't recommend doing if you are on a limited budget is going to the more famous tourist attractions, such as the London Eye or Madame Tussaud's, with the former having been especially disappointing and overpriced on my first trip. However, if you absolutely want to visit these, try buying a multi-ticket that comes in cheaper than paying separately. \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nSome other tips include NOT playing street games that are usually scams (I speak Romanian, so I could gather what the scammers were talking about and doing while observing them), opting for fast food joints instead of restaurants if you only need a quick snack, to save money, as well as trying craft beers while pub crawling to get the best out of local types of beers. \n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nIn any case, these are some tips I've come up with after my first trip. I am very curious to read many others from you guys, so I'm even better prepared next time I visit London!" ]

[ "The best and inexpensive food are in the pubs. The Tube is the best way to travel along, and so is the Metro in Paris.", "If you are going to a restaurant or a bar that takes your order at the table, be aware of the discretionary service charge (usually 12,5%) that will be added to your bill. It’s basically a tip, so if the service was sub-par you can ask for it to be removed/reduced. Just something worth remembering for people that don’t tip a lot in their country, the prices you see advertised is less than what you will pay.\n\nA lot of museums need to be booked online (for free), the National Gallery tickets have to be booked at least the day before so plan ahead if that’s your jam.\n\nOyster cards aren’t attached to a name/person, they can be used by anyone. If you can’t borrow one, you can get one from a ticket machine for £5. Having an oyster card allows you to pay less for tickets, and there’s a daily cap (around £10)." ]

[ 1, 1 ]

[ "How to turn away people who ask for help? I know this sounds bad, but I get asked a lot of question on the streets that I don't have time for. I want to be able to politely tell them I don't have time.", "How to turn away people who ask for help? I know this sounds bad, but I get asked a lot of question on the streets that I don't have time for. I want to be able to politely tell them I don't have time.", "How to turn away people who ask for help? I know this sounds bad, but I get asked a lot of question on the streets that I don't have time for. I want to be able to politely tell them I don't have time.", "How to turn away people who ask for help? I know this sounds bad, but I get asked a lot of question on the streets that I don't have time for. I want to be able to politely tell them I don't have time.", "How to turn away people who ask for help? I know this sounds bad, but I get asked a lot of question on the streets that I don't have time for. I want to be able to politely tell them I don't have time." ]

[ "You are not obligated to help anyone. Simply come up with a stock phrase, like \"no, thanks!\" or \"sorry!\" and just keep walking.\n\nThen decide who you *are* going to help and give your time and money to them. For instance, I give cash to highly-effective global charities recommended by [GiveWell](http://www.givewell.org/).", "the politest thing you can do is just walking away. If you don't help them, all your talk will just be bullshit excuses in their ears. \nMy Goto is: Ignore'em or help'em", "Wear headphones - even if you're not listening to anything. Or just a polite, and slightly frantic, \"So sorry! I'm running late for a meeting. Good luck!!\" should work. ", "In crafting a neutral, canned response, it would be helpful to know what you are most frequently asked since you say you are routinely stopped and asked things in the street.\n\nOr, feign being deaf and pretend to sign-language.", "\"Can't help you today.\" It implies that your are receptive to the idea of helping, just that today your are unable to to so. Wash and repeat." ]

[ 3, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "I need help with my boss not scheduling me to work. at all. I need help with my boss not scheduling me for any hours for the 3rd out of the last 4 weeks. I am scheduled for a part time position at the local co-op chain and desperately need a pay check. I have recently got hired for a lower part time job that does not conflict with the hours at this job. The manager has been known to pretty much fire people when hearing that they have another job because he doesnt want to schedule around people. When asked why my hours have been cut, he simply gives me a bland careless excuse or completely refuses the confrontation.\n\ni believe that he has found out that i have another job and refuses to schedule me any hours instead of confronting me about it and making me pick like hes apparently been doing with others.\n\nhe also refuses to schedule anyone fulltime and me and multiple people almost have gotten fired for being paid overtime when we had to stay because others didnt show.\n\ni guess im asking is if what hes doing is illegal? Can he go weeks without scheduling me even though im still a part time employee? ive had less than 20 hours this entire month and i really need the paycheck. I am currently looking for another job but i have been doing this for months and havent had much luck. \n\n If anyone knows anything about my situation please help me out!!!", "I need help with my boss not scheduling me to work. at all. I need help with my boss not scheduling me for any hours for the 3rd out of the last 4 weeks. I am scheduled for a part time position at the local co-op chain and desperately need a pay check. I have recently got hired for a lower part time job that does not conflict with the hours at this job. The manager has been known to pretty much fire people when hearing that they have another job because he doesnt want to schedule around people. When asked why my hours have been cut, he simply gives me a bland careless excuse or completely refuses the confrontation.\n\ni believe that he has found out that i have another job and refuses to schedule me any hours instead of confronting me about it and making me pick like hes apparently been doing with others.\n\nhe also refuses to schedule anyone fulltime and me and multiple people almost have gotten fired for being paid overtime when we had to stay because others didnt show.\n\ni guess im asking is if what hes doing is illegal? Can he go weeks without scheduling me even though im still a part time employee? ive had less than 20 hours this entire month and i really need the paycheck. I am currently looking for another job but i have been doing this for months and havent had much luck. \n\n If anyone knows anything about my situation please help me out!!!", "I need help with my boss not scheduling me to work. at all. I need help with my boss not scheduling me for any hours for the 3rd out of the last 4 weeks. I am scheduled for a part time position at the local co-op chain and desperately need a pay check. I have recently got hired for a lower part time job that does not conflict with the hours at this job. The manager has been known to pretty much fire people when hearing that they have another job because he doesnt want to schedule around people. When asked why my hours have been cut, he simply gives me a bland careless excuse or completely refuses the confrontation.\n\ni believe that he has found out that i have another job and refuses to schedule me any hours instead of confronting me about it and making me pick like hes apparently been doing with others.\n\nhe also refuses to schedule anyone fulltime and me and multiple people almost have gotten fired for being paid overtime when we had to stay because others didnt show.\n\ni guess im asking is if what hes doing is illegal? Can he go weeks without scheduling me even though im still a part time employee? ive had less than 20 hours this entire month and i really need the paycheck. I am currently looking for another job but i have been doing this for months and havent had much luck. \n\n If anyone knows anything about my situation please help me out!!!", "I need help with my boss not scheduling me to work. at all. I need help with my boss not scheduling me for any hours for the 3rd out of the last 4 weeks. I am scheduled for a part time position at the local co-op chain and desperately need a pay check. I have recently got hired for a lower part time job that does not conflict with the hours at this job. The manager has been known to pretty much fire people when hearing that they have another job because he doesnt want to schedule around people. When asked why my hours have been cut, he simply gives me a bland careless excuse or completely refuses the confrontation.\n\ni believe that he has found out that i have another job and refuses to schedule me any hours instead of confronting me about it and making me pick like hes apparently been doing with others.\n\nhe also refuses to schedule anyone fulltime and me and multiple people almost have gotten fired for being paid overtime when we had to stay because others didnt show.\n\ni guess im asking is if what hes doing is illegal? Can he go weeks without scheduling me even though im still a part time employee? ive had less than 20 hours this entire month and i really need the paycheck. I am currently looking for another job but i have been doing this for months and havent had much luck. \n\n If anyone knows anything about my situation please help me out!!!" ]

[ "It's not illegal so far as I know, just really cruddy of him. The best solution is another job, you can't rely on \"fixing\" this guy to pay the bills. As for what you could do, the best thing to do here is to be very direct. Don't let him dodge the conversation. What's the worst that happens? You get fired? Who cares, you weren't getting paid anyway. Call him on his BS. If it's a careless excuse, call him on it. Tell him why it's BS, and force him to be honest with you. If he says he's so busy that he can't have the conversation, tell him you'll help him with the work. You'll get paid, and he'll have time to talk.", "> i guess im asking is if what hes doing is illegal?\n\n/r/LegalAdvice can help you answer that - just add your location so they can help you\n", "Sounds like a shitty place to work regardless of how many hours you get. Don't worry about trying to get your asshole boss to out you on the schedule and instead look for a new job.", "Also, if you are being asked to stay because other people do not show, then you should not be getting in trouble, legally. If they get mad, they should be getting mad at your boss for bad scheduling." ]

[ 5, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Getting red wine out of canvas converse shoes. Classic infomercial issue. Girlfriend was at a going-away party last night. She just bought a nice pair of bright blue converse when someone dropped a full bottle of red wine. Now her shoes are polka dotted and look like sully's fur from monsters inc. Any suggestions? Nobody seems to talk about canvas and bleach is not an option. Thanks!", "Getting red wine out of canvas converse shoes. Classic infomercial issue. Girlfriend was at a going-away party last night. She just bought a nice pair of bright blue converse when someone dropped a full bottle of red wine. Now her shoes are polka dotted and look like sully's fur from monsters inc. Any suggestions? Nobody seems to talk about canvas and bleach is not an option. Thanks!", "Getting red wine out of canvas converse shoes. Classic infomercial issue. Girlfriend was at a going-away party last night. She just bought a nice pair of bright blue converse when someone dropped a full bottle of red wine. Now her shoes are polka dotted and look like sully's fur from monsters inc. Any suggestions? Nobody seems to talk about canvas and bleach is not an option. Thanks!", "Getting red wine out of canvas converse shoes. Classic infomercial issue. Girlfriend was at a going-away party last night. She just bought a nice pair of bright blue converse when someone dropped a full bottle of red wine. Now her shoes are polka dotted and look like sully's fur from monsters inc. Any suggestions? Nobody seems to talk about canvas and bleach is not an option. Thanks!", "Getting red wine out of canvas converse shoes. Classic infomercial issue. Girlfriend was at a going-away party last night. She just bought a nice pair of bright blue converse when someone dropped a full bottle of red wine. Now her shoes are polka dotted and look like sully's fur from monsters inc. Any suggestions? Nobody seems to talk about canvas and bleach is not an option. Thanks!" ]

[ "Billy Mays here!\n\nOxiclean + small amount of water to make a paste + toothbrush.\n\nWork that shit in, let that shit work, wipe that shit away.", "Soak the spot in some concentrated wet washing detergent or specialty stain remover, then throw it in the washing machine. ", "Step 1: Buy a jug of cheap burgundy.\n\nStep 2: Pour burgundy into a shoe-sized container.\n\nStep 3: Dip both shoes entirely in the burgundy.\n\nStep 4: Enjoy your new burgundy colored shoes.\n", "I read the other day that using white wine on your red wine stain will take it right out! Use at your own discretion.", "Why would you do this to your shoes? Converse are items worthy of nothing less than praise and love.\nI care for mine more than I do for any of my pets.\nYou have to love the shit out of those basterds, they do have ***soles*** you know" ]

[ 10, 2, 1, 1, -2 ]

[ "Camping I am going camping for the first time at a lake. Do you have any tips that can make get the best out of the experience?", "Camping I am going camping for the first time at a lake. Do you have any tips that can make get the best out of the experience?", "Camping I am going camping for the first time at a lake. Do you have any tips that can make get the best out of the experience?", "Camping I am going camping for the first time at a lake. Do you have any tips that can make get the best out of the experience?", "Camping I am going camping for the first time at a lake. Do you have any tips that can make get the best out of the experience?", "Camping I am going camping for the first time at a lake. Do you have any tips that can make get the best out of the experience?", "Camping I am going camping for the first time at a lake. Do you have any tips that can make get the best out of the experience?", "Camping I am going camping for the first time at a lake. Do you have any tips that can make get the best out of the experience?" ]

[ "Bring wet wipes so you can clean bug spray off your face and neck before sleeping. It makes for a better sleep.\n\nOh, and give a hoot, don't pollute. ", "Bring a mag lite or similar, and use a key ring and dog clip on the end so you can clip if to the roof of your tent. Instant ceiling lamp.", "Don't forget a flashlight/headlamp, plus one backup between you and whoever else is going. The glowstick idea is great - just be careful that they're packed out and not littered - littering is what a bitch does, but glowstick insides are notoriously bad for the enviroment.\n\nHAND SANITIZER.\n\nWater. Bring enough water. 1-2 gallons/person/day. Better to take extra home than to run out. Trust me.", "•SOCKS bring more than you think you need. Between wearing, use a caribbeaner and hang them on your gear inside out to dry them. \n\n•groundpads make sleeping in a tent so much easier (i have even used cut up furniture foam and it was heavenly)\n\n•bring rope and duct tape. If youre in bear country, store everything with any scent in a bear bag at least 100 meters outside camp in a tree\n\n•bring more than one way to start a fire. If the rain soaks your matches or you lose your lighter you're SOL unless you know how to use a bow drill\n\n•pack for 10 degrees colder than the weather will be. You can always remove layers but if you brought sleeveless shirts and the temp drops, good luck\n\n•bring plenty of water. I have almost died from dehydration. Its never fun. \n\n•if youre doing any serious hiking you should wear shoes that cover your ankle. A rolled ankle can stop you in your tracks miles from camp\n\n•burning pine needles repels mosquitoes\n\n•look for kindling higher up when you're going to start a fire. It wont be wet like the twigs on the ground\n\n•lay out and sort firewood by thickness. Kindling, Toothpick, pencil, cigar, forearm, log, fuel wood. You wont be scrambling to find firewood after it starts to take off. \n\n•BRING A FIRST AID KIT. I cannot stress this enough. BRING A FIRST AID KIT. \n\n\n•Also, BRING A FIRST AID KIT\n\n•if youre not going to have much service, bring a gps and satelite phone if you can borrow them. In the unlikely event you get lost, stay put. Assess the situtation and try to make noise. If you have a gps/sat phone, you can call for help if SHTF\n\n•ziplock bag maps and electronics\n\n•rain happens. Plan for it. \n\n•you dont need a monster machette unless youre in serious brush. Just a hatchet and a field knife will suffice for most tool needs. \n\n•hand sanitizer and bug spray\n\n• if you dont want to eat bland or just drink water, get condiments from restaurants or hot coca/tea bags. They weigh almost nothing and can be a godsend in the morning\n\n• put your clothes youre wearing tomorrow at the bottom of your sleeping bag. It keeps them warmer. Nothing is worse than cold clothes. \n\n•change socks before sleeping\n\n•always bring a hoodie. Light, easy to take off or put on and can protect from brush and thorns.\n\n•always bring a headlamp \n\n•finally, youre not bear grylls. Do not drink your piss. Do not jump around like a monkey, and DO NOT GO INTO THAT DARK CAVE. \n\nSource: boy scout for 4 years and i have camped in 110 degree weather and -20 degree snow and ice storms. I have slept in a field with mud to my ankles. Have fun with it but always be ready for whatever may happen. Camping is a fun experience, untill you panic because you can't handle a situtation. ", "Prepare some foods ahead of time. For instance: hard boil eggs. They wont break in a cooler and that's one less thing you have to do while there. Also bring foods that you could eat a couple of times. Hot dogs are super easy and precooked so you don't have to worry about them contaminating all of your other foods and if for some reason you can't make a fire, you can always eat them cold. And trash bags. Bring lots of trash bags. They can be used for all sorts of things. Even trash.", "My No 1 tip would have to be \"Be prepared for when the sun goes down\". Once you have no natural light, the chances of losing/misplacing essentials increases vastly. Something as simple as a lighter or can opener can be completely impossible to find in the dark. Best bet, keep a pocket flashlight or even a lighter with you at ALL times. If you lend it to someone, ensure you get it back asap.", "Keep it quiet when you go. Nothing annoys other campers more than a blasting radio or TV, a generator or other kind of noise. Most people go camping to get away from the noise of the city.", "Bring warmer clothes than you think you'll need, and a spare pair of socks. Don't forget something caffeinated if you're a coffee drinker so you don't get a withdrawal headache. It's fun to have a deck of cards along. Taking extra time to make sure there are no bumps in the turf before setting up your tent is worth it; you don't want to realize it in the middle of the night when it's digging into your back. I second the tip about wet wipes; or if you don't like the smell, a roll of paper towels and water. A travel-size baby powder is good to have if you don't want to get into your sleeping bag feeling sticky." ]

[ 4, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do I get the smell of cigarette smoke out of a couch? (This couch has been subjected to cigarette smoke for years) Thank you to anyone who can help! ", "How do I get the smell of cigarette smoke out of a couch? (This couch has been subjected to cigarette smoke for years) Thank you to anyone who can help! ", "How do I get the smell of cigarette smoke out of a couch? (This couch has been subjected to cigarette smoke for years) Thank you to anyone who can help! " ]

[ "http://www.ehow.com/how_4853028_cigarette-smoke-smell-out-furniture.html\n\nId give these tips a shot. I was going to suggest the first one.", "White Vinegar diluted with water in a spray bottle can be used to get odors from lots of things, I once used this on a Camper that had mold/animal urine smells inside. \n\nI would suggest googling for more specifics, but Vinegar seems fairly harmless when used as a cleaner in more cases, especially if it is diluted.\n\nWhen I cleaned the camper I coated it and let it dry, then did it a few more times over a period of a couple weeks. Vinegar is cheap and known to kill odors. ", "Good luck, it may be a lost cause. I febreezed the hell out of my car several times after I quit smoking (last cig was 11/14/2012), and I still the the occasional whiff of cigarette smoke.\n" ]

[ 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to deal with an unpredictable boss. My boss is unpredictable. I can never know what mood she is in and every day going to work is like walking on eggshells, is she in a good mood or is she upset about something? It affects work because she often explodes if she's unhappy. Sometimes she says one thing today and the next day she's saying something else. Help..", "How to deal with an unpredictable boss. My boss is unpredictable. I can never know what mood she is in and every day going to work is like walking on eggshells, is she in a good mood or is she upset about something? It affects work because she often explodes if she's unhappy. Sometimes she says one thing today and the next day she's saying something else. Help..", "How to deal with an unpredictable boss. My boss is unpredictable. I can never know what mood she is in and every day going to work is like walking on eggshells, is she in a good mood or is she upset about something? It affects work because she often explodes if she's unhappy. Sometimes she says one thing today and the next day she's saying something else. Help..", "How to deal with an unpredictable boss. My boss is unpredictable. I can never know what mood she is in and every day going to work is like walking on eggshells, is she in a good mood or is she upset about something? It affects work because she often explodes if she's unhappy. Sometimes she says one thing today and the next day she's saying something else. Help.." ]

[ "Limit your face-to-face conversations as much as possible, get *everything* in writing (you can use your own 'forgetfulness' as the excuse for this if you're trying to fly under the radar), and do not engage her when she becomes unreasonable. \n\n\"Would you like me to come back when you're ready?\" is a non-confrontational way of saying \"call me when you're done being crazy.\" \n\nMost important: remember that it's just a job, it's a means to and end, and treat it as that. Do *not* take her craziness personally, and try not to take the annoyance of it home with you. Leave it at the door, as the saying goes. ", "Besides what has already been stated (get another job), I'd put everything in emails. If she makes a request, email her right away outlining the details, if she questions this you can tell her this is helping you keep things organized and on time. If you do stay at the job, this will provide a permanent record of conflicting requests. If she has no self control, you might get lucky and in anger or frustration she may put something incriminating in the email. Don't feel bad about compiling data on her, this is war soldier!", "Been there. Get as much as you can in writing but most importantly be emotionally consistent yourself. Hit a productive pace, be sure you are doing a good job and be level. ", "I am also in the \"look for another job, now\" camp. I had just such a bad/unpredictable boss, and within two years of her promotion, she lost 11 of her 12 underlings. God help the 12th one.\n\nWe all fled like rats from a ship.\n\nUpper management noticed, but not before I was deleriously happy in a new job." ]

[ 14, 3, 3, 1 ]

[ "Keeping hands warm while typing. I work in an office and it's always freezing in here. After a while, typing suuucks bc my hands are so cold. Any ideas? ", "Keeping hands warm while typing. I work in an office and it's always freezing in here. After a while, typing suuucks bc my hands are so cold. Any ideas? ", "Keeping hands warm while typing. I work in an office and it's always freezing in here. After a while, typing suuucks bc my hands are so cold. Any ideas? ", "Keeping hands warm while typing. I work in an office and it's always freezing in here. After a while, typing suuucks bc my hands are so cold. Any ideas? ", "Keeping hands warm while typing. I work in an office and it's always freezing in here. After a while, typing suuucks bc my hands are so cold. Any ideas? ", "Keeping hands warm while typing. I work in an office and it's always freezing in here. After a while, typing suuucks bc my hands are so cold. Any ideas? ", "Keeping hands warm while typing. I work in an office and it's always freezing in here. After a while, typing suuucks bc my hands are so cold. Any ideas? ", "Keeping hands warm while typing. I work in an office and it's always freezing in here. After a while, typing suuucks bc my hands are so cold. Any ideas? ", "Keeping hands warm while typing. I work in an office and it's always freezing in here. After a while, typing suuucks bc my hands are so cold. Any ideas? ", "Keeping hands warm while typing. I work in an office and it's always freezing in here. After a while, typing suuucks bc my hands are so cold. Any ideas? " ]

[ "Use a bendy desk lamp and put it directly over the keyboard! I did this for my entire childhood because our computer was in the basement.", "My mother has to work on a computer constantly, so she's developed carpal tunnel. This can cause the hands to get cold. She did some research, and lo and behold, a group of old men came up with a heated mouse just for this reason! The box even smelled like old man cologne...", "I usually get a hot drink, coffee, tea, hot chocolate, what have you. When my hands get cold I just hold my hot drink for a bit and then get back to typing, you will also have a nice beverage to drink as well. \n\n", "Fill latex gloves with vaseline. The friction from your fingers should heat up the vasaline to keep you fingers warm. As a bonus your hands will forever be soft and supple. ", "They make climbing gloves that leave the fingertips exposed. You'd still get the feedback from the keys, but the rest of your hands would be kept warm.\n", "If just your mousing hand is getting cold, take a knit cap (or something similar in shape) and stick a mousepad inside. Put your mouse and hand in that. ", "I've had that problem and I'd be interested to see if anyone has any better solutions than I do. Here are mine...\n\n - Small space heater placed on desk next to keyboard, blowing on fingers\n\n - Make entire body warmer, fingers will be warmer; for me, fingers are the first part to get cold. Dress warm, have a meal (eating makes me warmer).\n\n - Haven't tried it, but there are heated keyboards. http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=heated%20keyboard (I imagine heated keys don't do much unless they radiate enough heat to help your fingers as they hover above the keyboard.)", "One thing you could try out are these special gloves all the woodwind players would get in my marching band. They're gloves that go up to the last joint on your fingers, leaving just the tips exposed, and have a flap that can fold over the fingers to make them like mittens. This may be what Xsythe was referring to, I'm not exactly sure what they'd be called or where to find them, but I know they exist. Maybe try asking a local music store.", "\nHow about a small heater blowing on your keyboard, or even a heat mat under your keyboard?\n\nhttp://www.ebay.com/itm/12V-DC-Electric-Direct-Hook-Up-Compact-Ceramic-Heater-Fan-Blower-Swivel-Base-/281267584655", "If drinks are allowed at your work desk. I suggest keeping a cup of hot coffee close by. Everytime you feel that your typing is getting disoriented due to the f'ing cold...just wrap your hands around the cup of coffee. Ofcourse this is a temporary solution and you might need to keep refilling. But this is the best I could come up with. " ]

[ 5, 5, 5, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "should I go for career plan B before attempting dream career? So I applied to med school as I wanted to become a physician, but also applied to PT as plan B (but I also am interested in the works that PT's do). I got accepted into PT but not for med.\nThe PT program is a 2-year Masters program, so I'm thinking of becoming a PT first and then re-apply for med later on. My main concern is financial. If I do a PT degree then a med degree my student loans would be up to my eyes when I'm done with both. However, it is good knowing that I will be helping people either way.\nHas anyone ever have to make a decision similar to this? Any pro-tips on making these kind of decisions?", "should I go for career plan B before attempting dream career? So I applied to med school as I wanted to become a physician, but also applied to PT as plan B (but I also am interested in the works that PT's do). I got accepted into PT but not for med.\nThe PT program is a 2-year Masters program, so I'm thinking of becoming a PT first and then re-apply for med later on. My main concern is financial. If I do a PT degree then a med degree my student loans would be up to my eyes when I'm done with both. However, it is good knowing that I will be helping people either way.\nHas anyone ever have to make a decision similar to this? Any pro-tips on making these kind of decisions?" ]

[ "If you want to be a doc, and you have the scores and grades to be a doc, it will be a major waste of time and money to do PT first. If you don't think you can get in, PT is a great backup.", "Unless you know for sure you can not get in to the education program you want, it's usually a good idea to get experience in your industry while you wait to get accepted. " ]

[ 3, 1 ]

[ "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n", "How to be more authoritative when you're a short guy? I'm a student who's been hired for a one-day job as support for regular event security. As supporting personnel, we'll be handling the small offenses. The thing is, I'm a pretty short guy and I'm afraid I won't convey enough authority to effectively correct people's actions (especially the actions of young, drunk people who don't really want to listen to a little guy of their own age correcting them). Please give me your LPT's!\n\n" ]

[ "Don't slouch and stand up straight. Keep eye contact and speak definitively, no fillers or mumbling. Be confident. Some of the most intimidating people I've met have been shorter, and I'm a rather large fellow. ", "I've worked in security for 15 years and am slightly below average height. \n\nBeing in charge is about listening to people, assessing the situation and acting appropriately and with intent. Speak slowly and calmly. Move the same way. Your speech and movement should be intentional. I can't stress that enough. You lose your cool, or start rapid fire talking and you lose authority - worse, you lose your ability to think and communicate clearly. \n\nFirst, forget that you are a short guy. It has nothing to do with anything. Either you're in command, or you're not. If you have trouble remembering why you are in command, remember that command makes you *responsible* for the people around you, for their safety and yours. Always ask yourself - is what I'm doing for the safety of the people involved, or am I just being bossy? If you are truly acting from an intent to keep people safe, people will feel that intent and respond. \n\nSecond piece of advice, do not ascribe to malice what can be adequately explained by ignorance. If someone argues with you or challenges you in some way, don't take it as they are deliberately being an asshole, take it as they have a different (an likely less informed) opinion. It is very easy to assume that people are being assholes when they really think they are just sticking up for themselves. Thinking about it that way will help you keep your cool and find a way to phrase your instructions in a way that they are more likely to listen to.\n\nFinally, if you encounter someone who simply isn't listening, and who you judge to be a danger, don't hesitate to call your backup. I've seen lots of guys not do that (especially big guys who think they should be able to handle anything!) and then lose control of the situation, turning it from a relatively benign disagreement into a physical altercation. When it becomes clear that you're not getting anywhere with a polite but firm conversation, call for backup. It helps to have a clear idea in your head what would trigger that. For example, you might count the number of times you say \"Sir\" to the person. Or repeat the same instruction. Once you've hit 3 times (or whatever), then you're done and you call backup. It doesn't matter what else is happening, you've hit the limit for a 'reasonable' conversation and it's time to get help. This will allow you to call in your backup *before* things get out of hand. \n\nGood luck!\n\n\n\n", "Being authoritative has nothing to do with your height. \n\nI'm 6'2, my flight instructor was about 5'0... And there is no doubt that man could have killed me at any moment he choose. It didn't matter that he was about 70, and I was a teenager at the time. \n\nYou don't act authoritative, you have to BE authoritative. ", "If you are not already comfortable conducting security operations, then you should get proper training first. You could land yourself in a very bad situation otherwise.", "Eye contact. You need to make it and hold it - if you look down or look away, you will be seen as submissive. Also, keep your arms at your sides. Folded arms make you look timid. ", "If you're wearing anything that designates you as security, that helps too. If not, wear something that looks professional.", "It's 80% about the crazy look in your eye. \n\nHave confidence in your actions and don't back down. Choose one eye to look into as you talk to someone. Don't yell at them, talk softly but sternly. \n\nMake it known through NVC that you won't tolerate any shit, and sometimes you don't have to say a word.", "In Game of Thrones, Tyrion is one of the most authoritative guys... Gotta figure there's some ideas there...", "Tall person here.\n\nWe notice but don't care. It is equally awkward for us in a room of people.\n\nJust be confident.", "It's called command stance. Ground your feet. Square your shoulders. Engage your core. Imagine yourself 6 inches taller and 6 inches broader. Almost feel the extra size. Chin up, stare the world in the face. Always be scanning around you. Be visibly aware of your surroundings. Arms crossed or on your belt or at your sides. These are closed body language poses. Lead with your chest, not your hips when you walk. Exude the \"don't fuck with me\" vibe. \n\n\nI'm a 5'1\" female and I've worked security in some pretty shady places. No one fucks with me. I'm also a dancer and a motherly figure in many settings. It's about knowing when to use what stance and vibe. \n\n", "Frown. Constantly. RBF is your best friend. If someone tries small talk with you, keep frowning, nod and respond with apathetic sighs and one word, or nearly one word answers - \"yup\" \"sure\" \"Of course.\" \n\nSimple but super effective. Never stop frowning, disappointingly sigh every so often, never give anything close to a full sentence. \n\nBONUS: roll your eyes at nothing in particular every so often. Not only will this convey that you are absolutely done with this shit, but this will have people wondering what the fuck you notice that they haven't noticed. It's the fast track to becoming the mysterious guy that is intimidating. ", "Confidence. Even if its fake people will respect it and question you less. That and everything everybody else is saying - stand straight, eye contact, speak concise and confidently. Demand respect and you'll get it.", "Also, don't let yourself suffer from \"little man syndrome.\" Nothing takes a sense of authority away from a man quicker than over-compensation.", "Three things that give you power:\n\n1. Rules and knowing them well\n2. Authority - What empowers you?\n3. Enforcement - What are the penalties if someone breaks the rules?\n\nKnowing your job, knowing the rules, knowing *what* gives you power (e.g., you have the ability to contact someone, or police, who can remove them if they refuse your efforts), and knowing how to *invoke* your power are all things that will give you confidence and an air of authority.\n\nPeople will resist if they think you have no ability to enforce the rules. That's why school kids become unruly on the bus; they know the bus driver can't (legally) hit them, nor can they put them off the bus.\n\nDrunks, especially, will challenge you not only because they're drunk and that's what drunk people do, but also because of your height. If you are confident in the areas I suggested above, you will have an air of authority about you. Knowing when/how to enforce your authority by removing them from the event will boost your confidence even more.\n\nIt is *very* important to have trustworthy authoritative response when you request it. If you don't have faith that your backup will respond when you ask for them, you will be undermined and your efforts will be lost.", "I worked for a 5 ft 0 newfie who was one of the most respected guys in the shop. Have the loudest voice, and don't put up with bullshit would be my recommendation from observing him. ", "I am tall, but I am a woman, and so I have similar problems sometimes with people not taking me seriously. I don't work security--I am a teacher at a school for adults--but it really comes down to the same thing. Some men, particularly when they are older than I am, don't feel like they need to respect me in the same way that they would respect a male teacher. I find that when I am in front of the classroom, or dealing with a student, I slip into what I call \"teacher mode\"--it's a kind of role you play, really, different from your day-to-day self. It involves a lot of things: eye contact, not losing your cool, crossing your arms in front of your chest (do NOT wring your hands, whatever you do!), and speaking in a firm but not loud voice. However, all these things really come down to one: the most important thing is to remember YOU are the authority. Period. If someone is unclear about that point, and isn't listening, don't try to convince that person. You don't need to justify yourself, and they've already decided that they won't be convinced. Silence is a good tool for letting people know that your conversation is not a debate...I find that three quarters of the time in an altercation, the less I say, the more that they comply. I completely agree with all of the people on this thread who advise you to call backup as well--this is not a failure on your part, it's just colossal stupidity on the part of the person who decided not to do things the easy way.\n\nRemember, the first one to get angry loses.", "Great advice here. Another bit of advice, don't be a dick. I trained managers for a while and many of them get the power trip the first time they're in charge. This destroys any chance of you being respected. Authority and respect go hand in hand. ", "Maybe if authority isn't your thing in real life, it doesn't need to be in your job. I've met some authority figures whose power comes from their realness with people. People respect realness.", "Just be confident and outspoken.\n\nMy little cousin is 4'11 but the guy can command a room because of how much and how confidently he speaks.", "It's not about your size it's about your presence. This post kind of shows that you are already a bit nervous. You need to convey confidence. Have you ever looked at someone regardless of size and though \"I would not fuck with that dude\"? You need to be that dude. ", "I've done security/co work for 6 years and the best advice I can give you is this: Stay calm and remember this is all business not personal. If u are getting pissed, please don't show it. When people see that their actions are bothering u it will just get worse. \r\rBody language is something u need to master. U can be a 6'2\" 300lb ape but if u look intimidated then no one will listen to what u have to say.\r\r\rAnd last if u threaten to do something like writing someone up or throwing them out, then u better do it. Nothing shows weakness like not going through with your promise.\r\r\rRun with the big dogs or just stay on the porch 👍 \r\r\r\r", "1. dont be a stepping stool\n2. don't have Napoleon syndrome\n3. Do NOT get drunk or high if you suffer from #2.\n\nEvery man I have ever met shorter then I am (6'3) suddenly becomes 10 foot tall and bulletproof when under the influence. I go out of my way to avoid confrontations, and still have \"friends\" who decide its time to try me. I do NOT understand it. In mty younger days (under 30) it happened often enough that I just stopped associating with people outside my family. \n\nI had a direct tv guy standing up to my sternum while threatening me in a parking lot most recently that REEKED of alcohol (still in company uniform etc.) as far as I know he got arrested for DUI and fired (I assume) since he was drunk on the clock. The whole cause of this? I pulled out in front of him when he was at least 150 feet away from me in a 25mph zone.", "Don't overcompensate. As a taller man there's not much more alarming about a shorter man overcompensating for a perceived authority issue. Honestly, you care more than anyone else. ", "The last thing the world needs is more authoritative short guys. [Napoleon Complex](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Napoleon_complex) is a real thing and it makes life miserable for all the people who have to live with the patient." ]

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[ "Where to look when in a conversation with someone formal. For example your department dean or someone elderly", "Where to look when in a conversation with someone formal. For example your department dean or someone elderly", "Where to look when in a conversation with someone formal. For example your department dean or someone elderly", "Where to look when in a conversation with someone formal. For example your department dean or someone elderly" ]

[ "Their genitals. I mean, it might get you a \"raise\".\n\nIn all seriousness, direct eye contact or like bokbreath said: bridge of the nose.", "Bridge of the nose is best if you are uncomfortable with direct eye contact. Allow your eyes to centre there. They can roam a bit but should mostly be there.", "Are you implying that you are uncomfortable making eye contact, which is what you should be doing, and are seeking an alternative?", "The standard *business gaze* should include eye contact, but not so continuous it seems you are trying to stare them down. If you are thinking about what they are saying, or what you are saying, then it is perfectly natural to also look away from time to time. So as to provide a little variety you can imagine where their third eye would be, in the centre of their forehead, then occasionally switch your focus in the triangle between those three eyes. Ideally you'll not look in the triangle between eyes and mouth, since that represents social behaviour and not business." ]

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[ "how do keep cats from climbing in places where they shouldn't? One of my cats, Kim, climbs all the time on the dining table and in other furniture. I didn't have any problem like that before with any other cats, but this one. Some of these furniture have lots of glass stuff from my grandparents age, and my mom wouldn't be happy at all if they happen to break.\n\nI would like to know if any of you have any ideas to prevent Kim from climbing everywhere?\n\nI apologize for my poor English.", "how do keep cats from climbing in places where they shouldn't? One of my cats, Kim, climbs all the time on the dining table and in other furniture. I didn't have any problem like that before with any other cats, but this one. Some of these furniture have lots of glass stuff from my grandparents age, and my mom wouldn't be happy at all if they happen to break.\n\nI would like to know if any of you have any ideas to prevent Kim from climbing everywhere?\n\nI apologize for my poor English.", "how do keep cats from climbing in places where they shouldn't? One of my cats, Kim, climbs all the time on the dining table and in other furniture. I didn't have any problem like that before with any other cats, but this one. Some of these furniture have lots of glass stuff from my grandparents age, and my mom wouldn't be happy at all if they happen to break.\n\nI would like to know if any of you have any ideas to prevent Kim from climbing everywhere?\n\nI apologize for my poor English.", "how do keep cats from climbing in places where they shouldn't? One of my cats, Kim, climbs all the time on the dining table and in other furniture. I didn't have any problem like that before with any other cats, but this one. Some of these furniture have lots of glass stuff from my grandparents age, and my mom wouldn't be happy at all if they happen to break.\n\nI would like to know if any of you have any ideas to prevent Kim from climbing everywhere?\n\nI apologize for my poor English.", "how do keep cats from climbing in places where they shouldn't? One of my cats, Kim, climbs all the time on the dining table and in other furniture. I didn't have any problem like that before with any other cats, but this one. Some of these furniture have lots of glass stuff from my grandparents age, and my mom wouldn't be happy at all if they happen to break.\n\nI would like to know if any of you have any ideas to prevent Kim from climbing everywhere?\n\nI apologize for my poor English.", "how do keep cats from climbing in places where they shouldn't? One of my cats, Kim, climbs all the time on the dining table and in other furniture. I didn't have any problem like that before with any other cats, but this one. Some of these furniture have lots of glass stuff from my grandparents age, and my mom wouldn't be happy at all if they happen to break.\n\nI would like to know if any of you have any ideas to prevent Kim from climbing everywhere?\n\nI apologize for my poor English." ]

[ "Tinfoil. \nEspecially if they are jumping to get to these places. Just place it where they land and film for posterity's sake... (Also reassure them when they land that the world is not trying to kill them)", "Here’s helpful list of products to help keep cats off of things like furniture \n\n\nhttp://petslady.com/article/5-best-products-keep-your-pets-furniture-counters-and-other-mostly-flat-surfaces", "lay pieces of tape down sticky-side-up. They hate that and it is hilarious to watch them walking around trying to shake it off.", "Spray around the base of the furniture with cockroach surface spray. It smells terrible to the cat but won't be very noticeable to human noses. Lasts a few weeks, then do it again.", "Someone mentioned aluminum foil, and that works, although you need to crumple it for best effect. Also, crumpled kraft paper and bubble wrap work well.\n\nFor protecting expensive stuff, might also be good to look into one of the little ultrasonic devices that beeps at them motion. Some work better than others, and older cats or those with hearing issues may just roll their eyes at you.\n\nI do NOT recommend using bug spray. Most are insecticides or some sort of plant-based repellent, and most of those things can be toxic if they get on paws and into their mouth.", "Cats hate citrus smells also. Try something as simple as lemon scented Pledge furniture polish on hard surfaces. For things like couches they make safe powders to use. All else fails, use a squirt gun. Let tue damn cat know its gonna get sprayed every time you catch it on the table." ]

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[ "Cure for dry, peeling feet? It seems that this time of year I am cursed with dry, peeling feet, like [this.](http://i.imgur.com/Scr1J.jpg) Any cures? Preferably homemade and cheap? ", "Cure for dry, peeling feet? It seems that this time of year I am cursed with dry, peeling feet, like [this.](http://i.imgur.com/Scr1J.jpg) Any cures? Preferably homemade and cheap? ", "Cure for dry, peeling feet? It seems that this time of year I am cursed with dry, peeling feet, like [this.](http://i.imgur.com/Scr1J.jpg) Any cures? Preferably homemade and cheap? ", "Cure for dry, peeling feet? It seems that this time of year I am cursed with dry, peeling feet, like [this.](http://i.imgur.com/Scr1J.jpg) Any cures? Preferably homemade and cheap? ", "Cure for dry, peeling feet? It seems that this time of year I am cursed with dry, peeling feet, like [this.](http://i.imgur.com/Scr1J.jpg) Any cures? Preferably homemade and cheap? " ]

[ "haha dude I think we all know what dry peeling feet are, we don't need a picture :/\n\nWhat's it from? Heavy foot work? Normal walking day to day activities.", "[THIS](http://www.amazon.com/Miracle-Aloe-Foot-Repair-Cream/dp/B00014WWCO)!!!!!! It really is a \"miracle\"! I used to have feet similar to yours, no joke I used it 3 nights in a row and now I only need to use once it when they start getting a little dry again (once a month or so). That shit is GOLD!", "have you tried petroleum jelly maybe? it's safe, cheap and it should moisturize the hell out of them. \n\nI put vicks vaporub on my feet. I like the smell and it moisturizes, but its not cheap. (as a bonus there is some speculation that it kills athlete's foot.)", "exfoliate with a scrub made with a spoon of regular table sugar mixed with a little baby oil,wash with hot soapy water.Then use cream or lotion.", "Try some O'Keeffes Healthy Feet cream? [Peruse the reviews on Amazon](http://amzn.com/B0002QB9NE). Otherwise you can often find it at the hardware store, or use the store locator at the top of [their own website](http://okeeffescompany.com/index.php). " ]

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[ "How to remember new words (increase vocabulary)? What's the best way to increase English vocabulary? Basically, I want to know the most efficient way to remember new words. \n\nFor a little background, English is not my first language but I'm fairly good in spoken/written English as of now.", "How to remember new words (increase vocabulary)? What's the best way to increase English vocabulary? Basically, I want to know the most efficient way to remember new words. \n\nFor a little background, English is not my first language but I'm fairly good in spoken/written English as of now." ]

[ "Try using the online [Mnemonic Dictionary](http://mnemonicdictionary.com/).\n\nThey always have a word of the day, which includes not only a definition and sample usage, but mnemonics contributed by users to help you mentally connect the word to its definition.\n\nLearn just one new word per day, and a year from now, you'll have 365 new words in your vocabulary!", "I believe the best way to increase your English vocabulary is to use the words that you have recently discovered often. Perhaps in writing or when speaking.\n\nMy friends actually thought of me as condescending since I constantly use big words around them which was only for my benefit." ]

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[ "How to stay motivated for exams So I have to sit my GCSE exams this year and I'm really lacking motivation. Last year I managed to get an A* in Statistics and an A in Core Science with minimum revision. I'm aiming for about 6 more A*'s and 3 more A's so how do I achieve this goal?\n\n", "How to stay motivated for exams So I have to sit my GCSE exams this year and I'm really lacking motivation. Last year I managed to get an A* in Statistics and an A in Core Science with minimum revision. I'm aiming for about 6 more A*'s and 3 more A's so how do I achieve this goal?\n\n", "How to stay motivated for exams So I have to sit my GCSE exams this year and I'm really lacking motivation. Last year I managed to get an A* in Statistics and an A in Core Science with minimum revision. I'm aiming for about 6 more A*'s and 3 more A's so how do I achieve this goal?\n\n", "How to stay motivated for exams So I have to sit my GCSE exams this year and I'm really lacking motivation. Last year I managed to get an A* in Statistics and an A in Core Science with minimum revision. I'm aiming for about 6 more A*'s and 3 more A's so how do I achieve this goal?\n\n", "How to stay motivated for exams So I have to sit my GCSE exams this year and I'm really lacking motivation. Last year I managed to get an A* in Statistics and an A in Core Science with minimum revision. I'm aiming for about 6 more A*'s and 3 more A's so how do I achieve this goal?\n\n", "How to stay motivated for exams So I have to sit my GCSE exams this year and I'm really lacking motivation. Last year I managed to get an A* in Statistics and an A in Core Science with minimum revision. I'm aiming for about 6 more A*'s and 3 more A's so how do I achieve this goal?\n\n", "How to stay motivated for exams So I have to sit my GCSE exams this year and I'm really lacking motivation. Last year I managed to get an A* in Statistics and an A in Core Science with minimum revision. I'm aiming for about 6 more A*'s and 3 more A's so how do I achieve this goal?\n\n", "How to stay motivated for exams So I have to sit my GCSE exams this year and I'm really lacking motivation. Last year I managed to get an A* in Statistics and an A in Core Science with minimum revision. I'm aiming for about 6 more A*'s and 3 more A's so how do I achieve this goal?\n\n", "How to stay motivated for exams So I have to sit my GCSE exams this year and I'm really lacking motivation. Last year I managed to get an A* in Statistics and an A in Core Science with minimum revision. I'm aiming for about 6 more A*'s and 3 more A's so how do I achieve this goal?\n\n" ]

[ "Have a look now which university you want to go to and what course you want to do (use the UCAS website to search this). Then figure out which A levels you need to do so you can go to the university of your choice, and then see what grades at GCSE you need to do an A level you must do to get into university.\n\nSome universities will also look at your GCSEs (I know Oxford does) so make sure that you do well in GCSEs so you don't go and step on your own foot as you do A levels to get into university.\n\nFurthermore if you are not going for university, then see what grades you need to get the job, apprenticeship or whatever thing you are aiming to get after you finish school.\n\nBasically a bit of effort over these few months gives you a worry free summer and ultimately a better edge in the rest of your life. It won't feel like it now, but your school grades do matter a lot. If only schools valued learning and not grades, you'd be in a much better position.", "Whatever you do, don't think about what you'll do after the exams are over. The exams should be your number one priority. That kind of thinking really helps me with my mindset for studying. Also, don't just study for several hours straight. Take breaks every hour or so and don't forget to eat and sleep!", "Keep in mind your paying out the ass to be in school. Not only that but feel like shit now studying hard and getting results to feel happy later is always the best option. Go to the library it's easier to stay focused. Unfortunately I learned the benefits of the library in my senior year. ", "Ask yourself, \"Why do I want these As? What purpose will they serve in my life? Does getting these As get me closer, or further away, to the life I want to live?\" Once you clearly define your motivation for getting As, you'll be able to concentrate.", "Unless you study somewhere that's easy or you enjoy it, finding motivation to do something will just get harder and harder as time goes on, and you will just spend more time and energy coming up with elaborate excuses why you should do/don't do something\n\nIt's pretty blunt, but learn discipline instead. It's much more useful. When you set out to achieve an important goal then you HAVE to get it, period.\n\nJust select a goal you want to achieve (get a good grade), plan out how to get to it (how much do you have to study, when can you study, what will be on the test that requires extra attention etc.), than just do it. Don't find excuses why to do it, don't question why you should do it and don't quit doing it.\nIt might be hard at the start (when you study, suddenly a plain wall becomes more interesting), but when you trail off from boredom just snap back and try not to do it next time.\n\n\ntl;dr: have discipline, not motivation", "I used this to stay motivated for my as levels, may or may not work but it worked for me. Watch this when ever you feel unmotivated: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KxGRhd_iWuE", "I got my gcse results a couple months back. I did very well, but, like you, I wasn't really motivated. However, I also had the greatest teacher ever, and she always told our class (all high achievers, but only a couple really gave a damn about their results) that we were the smartest year group the school has ever had (which, as it turns out, was true), and that at least half of the class were destined for Oxbridge (I'll let you know if that happens :P)\n\nIt's strange, but I think that i worked to get my results not so much for me, but for the people around me. I have very supportive parents, and the teacher I mentioned earlier I've had for all 5 years of secondary education, so I really wanted to make them proud. \n\nFind your motivation in others, because if you're anything like me, you'll still be a little disappointed when you get your results, no matter how good they are", "I am currently a sophomore in college. I have yet to make a B and I'm around my 45th hour mark. My secrets are :\nI keep the whole money aspect of college in mind. But I also manage my time very well by going to the library in between classes. I try not to leave campus until my day is complete. ", "Ask yourself, before you have to make a decision, would you prefer a McJob, or to make some decent money?\n\nAll of my friends drinking in the bar have (sensible) degrees. All the people behind the bar (working shitty hours, and putting up with drunks like me for bugger all money) don't." ]

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[ "How to encourage people at college to stop littering and to smoke only in the designated smoking areas My college currently has a lot of trouble with students littering, particularly the smokers who will throw their butts away without even trying to put them in the bin. They also seem reluctant to smoke in the designated areas, instead opting to huddle round the doors, under shelter, which is actually against the law. Any help is appreciated.", "How to encourage people at college to stop littering and to smoke only in the designated smoking areas My college currently has a lot of trouble with students littering, particularly the smokers who will throw their butts away without even trying to put them in the bin. They also seem reluctant to smoke in the designated areas, instead opting to huddle round the doors, under shelter, which is actually against the law. Any help is appreciated.", "How to encourage people at college to stop littering and to smoke only in the designated smoking areas My college currently has a lot of trouble with students littering, particularly the smokers who will throw their butts away without even trying to put them in the bin. They also seem reluctant to smoke in the designated areas, instead opting to huddle round the doors, under shelter, which is actually against the law. Any help is appreciated.", "How to encourage people at college to stop littering and to smoke only in the designated smoking areas My college currently has a lot of trouble with students littering, particularly the smokers who will throw their butts away without even trying to put them in the bin. They also seem reluctant to smoke in the designated areas, instead opting to huddle round the doors, under shelter, which is actually against the law. Any help is appreciated.", "How to encourage people at college to stop littering and to smoke only in the designated smoking areas My college currently has a lot of trouble with students littering, particularly the smokers who will throw their butts away without even trying to put them in the bin. They also seem reluctant to smoke in the designated areas, instead opting to huddle round the doors, under shelter, which is actually against the law. Any help is appreciated." ]

[ "Not sure about where you are, but the 6th form college I went to in the UK, the land the college is on counts as private land, therefore they can enforce any by-laws enforced by the council, including a 1mile no parking zone outside the college, and enforcing only allowing smoking in designated areas on-site. Littering is considered a £10 fine, including cigarette butts, and must be paid before leaving papers are signed. \n\nOne question, does your college have ID cards?", "Have you tried asking them nicely? \n\nOr maybe you could make the designated areas a little bit more pleasant. The airport here has its smoking areas way outside and across the street. But they're sheltered and heated, which is nice.\n\nYou could also look at the design of your ashtrays/bins. I know my university's ashtrays are very shallow, and in windy weather the butts get strewn everywhere. (Of course, my university also has a problem with the ashtrays either being within the \"no smoking\" zone of the entrance, or not having ashtrays at all.\n\nI'm an ex-smoker (switched to vaping), and I love that I don't smell, am not killing myself, and can stay inside in the winter. Personally I think you should fine the students, but use that $20 to buy them an ecig starter kit and save their lives :D", "Get administration on your side. Get fellow supporters, sign a petition, and send it to the admins. Come up with a proposal for them to use. I see some good advice on here that can be part of that proposal. When you go to admins, it helps to have a plan for them to look at, rather than just a problem with the expectation that they'll fix it. \n\nYou could also go the dog trainer route. Spray them with a squirt bottle or high-pressure fire hose. You'd be surprised at how effective that is.", "Ask the smoker, people are more likely to pick up their butts if called out on littering. But be fore warned as a smoker myself I'd tell you to fuck off and mind your own business. I put my butts in the bin and stand well out of the way of non smokers as I know people don't like it. The fact that I have to walk twenty minuets across campus to have a smoke is a joke.", "well if someone is outside they should be able to smoke wherever they want, and there's nothing you can really do about littering unless you go around and pick it up yourself." ]

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[ "How to get rid of tiny ant infestation. I find these very small ants in random places around the house, 10s-100s at a time. They seem to be attracted to sticky or dirty areas. We have used ant spray but that only kills them and they come back somewhere else in the house. I mean everywhere. They were in the dishwasher somehow yesterday.", "How to get rid of tiny ant infestation. I find these very small ants in random places around the house, 10s-100s at a time. They seem to be attracted to sticky or dirty areas. We have used ant spray but that only kills them and they come back somewhere else in the house. I mean everywhere. They were in the dishwasher somehow yesterday.", "How to get rid of tiny ant infestation. I find these very small ants in random places around the house, 10s-100s at a time. They seem to be attracted to sticky or dirty areas. We have used ant spray but that only kills them and they come back somewhere else in the house. I mean everywhere. They were in the dishwasher somehow yesterday." ]

[ "Don't spill things like food on the ground and if you do clean it up immediately. Especially things like soft drinks or donuts...because that's how you get ants.", "We have already done the \"clean everything and keep it clean method and they instead of food or stickiness, they have went to dirty clothes and dish washer and bathroom garbage. They are everywhere. ", "Buy some Suspend SC, its what the national pest control operators use for indoor bug problems. It has a 30 day residual and is safe indoors. \nYou can buy from amazon.com or from doityourselfpestcontrol.com. No license needed if bought in small quantities, pint size. " ]

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[ "How can I enjoy my job more? Basically what the title says, what can I do to not only enjoy my job more but stay motivated? also if there is any solution to making my feet/legs less sore after a 12 hour shift.", "How can I enjoy my job more? Basically what the title says, what can I do to not only enjoy my job more but stay motivated? also if there is any solution to making my feet/legs less sore after a 12 hour shift.", "How can I enjoy my job more? Basically what the title says, what can I do to not only enjoy my job more but stay motivated? also if there is any solution to making my feet/legs less sore after a 12 hour shift.", "How can I enjoy my job more? Basically what the title says, what can I do to not only enjoy my job more but stay motivated? also if there is any solution to making my feet/legs less sore after a 12 hour shift." ]

[ "Knowing what you do for a living would go a long way. I could say masturbate, but if you work in a fertility clinic, then that is already part of your job. ", "This is straying from the request, but I've learned if you really hate your job, maybe its time to work towards getting a one you've always wanted. \n\nAs for feet/legs, get insoles! good luck!", "First off, spend money on a good pair of shoes. Its one of the few things in life that is worth putting down a good chunk of change for because it is usually more durable and comfortable. Wear white socks and soak your feet in warm Epson salt water..\n\n Second, if you dont enjoy your job, find another. If its boring find a hobby that you could potentially make money from outside of work. I found that the \"Do what you love\" mentality works for some, but for most, itll make you hate it because people put rules and limits on you to the point that you start hating it. Find something tolerable that also makes you money. As a friend told me a long time ago, \"No matter how comfortable you are at a job, never stop looking for a better one.\"", "Don't let your job/career define you as a person. Don't be in it just for the money either. Do something you enjoy and don't be ashamed of it. " ]

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[ "What are some herbs and spices that can liven up your food? I tried Tikka Masala for the first time yesterday and it was so delicious. Where has it been all my life? ", "What are some herbs and spices that can liven up your food? I tried Tikka Masala for the first time yesterday and it was so delicious. Where has it been all my life? ", "What are some herbs and spices that can liven up your food? I tried Tikka Masala for the first time yesterday and it was so delicious. Where has it been all my life? ", "What are some herbs and spices that can liven up your food? I tried Tikka Masala for the first time yesterday and it was so delicious. Where has it been all my life? " ]

[ "Garam masala\n\nIt'll add that flair that you like from Indian food\n\nI put it on popcorn, make spiced nuts, put it in marinades, salad dressings, season meat, etc.", " I would highly recommend getting your hands on a live Greek Oregano plant. Great fresh or dried in red sauces. \n I would also suggest Basil. Besides the typical pesto suggestion, it is awesome on pizza. Just stack and roll up a few leaves and snip with scissors. I sprinkle it on with the\n cheese so some leaves get broiled.", "Sprinkle ground cumin on root vegetables like pumpkin/squash, carrot and sweet potatoes when roasting. It's delicious\n\nSmoked paprika and cayenne pepper are the best spices to add heat. \n\nRosemary goes well with lamb or potatoes. Mint also goes well with lamb, try chopping up fresh leaves and mixing with Greek yogurt. \n\nLemon and thyme work really well with chicken\n\nFor Italian food use basil (fresh is amazing)and oregano\n\nParsley basically goes with everything but add it at the end, don't cook it. \n\nDon't use coriander/cilantro. It is the leaf of the devil. \n\n", "I like adding cumin and sage to: chicken, turkey, pork, roasted butternut squash, potatoes.\n\nGaram masala, a spice blend in tikka masala is nice with lentils, chicken, potatoes. \n\nCumin, paprika and coriander are nice in TexMex food.\n\nGarlic, basil and oregano for something with an Italian twist." ]

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[ "Going on a Cruise I'm going a cruise in a few weeks and I would like some general advice on it. I dont wanna act like a douchebag tourist so any thing I should avoid/take advantage of while on the boat. And should I even bother with the excursions? ", "Going on a Cruise I'm going a cruise in a few weeks and I would like some general advice on it. I dont wanna act like a douchebag tourist so any thing I should avoid/take advantage of while on the boat. And should I even bother with the excursions? ", "Going on a Cruise I'm going a cruise in a few weeks and I would like some general advice on it. I dont wanna act like a douchebag tourist so any thing I should avoid/take advantage of while on the boat. And should I even bother with the excursions? ", "Going on a Cruise I'm going a cruise in a few weeks and I would like some general advice on it. I dont wanna act like a douchebag tourist so any thing I should avoid/take advantage of while on the boat. And should I even bother with the excursions? ", "Going on a Cruise I'm going a cruise in a few weeks and I would like some general advice on it. I dont wanna act like a douchebag tourist so any thing I should avoid/take advantage of while on the boat. And should I even bother with the excursions? ", "Going on a Cruise I'm going a cruise in a few weeks and I would like some general advice on it. I dont wanna act like a douchebag tourist so any thing I should avoid/take advantage of while on the boat. And should I even bother with the excursions? ", "Going on a Cruise I'm going a cruise in a few weeks and I would like some general advice on it. I dont wanna act like a douchebag tourist so any thing I should avoid/take advantage of while on the boat. And should I even bother with the excursions? ", "Going on a Cruise I'm going a cruise in a few weeks and I would like some general advice on it. I dont wanna act like a douchebag tourist so any thing I should avoid/take advantage of while on the boat. And should I even bother with the excursions? ", "Going on a Cruise I'm going a cruise in a few weeks and I would like some general advice on it. I dont wanna act like a douchebag tourist so any thing I should avoid/take advantage of while on the boat. And should I even bother with the excursions? ", "Going on a Cruise I'm going a cruise in a few weeks and I would like some general advice on it. I dont wanna act like a douchebag tourist so any thing I should avoid/take advantage of while on the boat. And should I even bother with the excursions? ", "Going on a Cruise I'm going a cruise in a few weeks and I would like some general advice on it. I dont wanna act like a douchebag tourist so any thing I should avoid/take advantage of while on the boat. And should I even bother with the excursions? ", "Going on a Cruise I'm going a cruise in a few weeks and I would like some general advice on it. I dont wanna act like a douchebag tourist so any thing I should avoid/take advantage of while on the boat. And should I even bother with the excursions? ", "Going on a Cruise I'm going a cruise in a few weeks and I would like some general advice on it. I dont wanna act like a douchebag tourist so any thing I should avoid/take advantage of while on the boat. And should I even bother with the excursions? ", "Going on a Cruise I'm going a cruise in a few weeks and I would like some general advice on it. I dont wanna act like a douchebag tourist so any thing I should avoid/take advantage of while on the boat. And should I even bother with the excursions? " ]

[ "Never been on one but Cruise Critic has lots of info and an active community. - http://boards.cruisecritic.com/\n\nBTW where is the cruise to?", "Excursions: If you book an excursion through the cruise line, if for some reason they are late the ship will not leave without you. If you book outside of the cruise line, it's on you to get back in time.", "If you're going to the islands you'll save alot of money by doing your own excursions. Look at all the excursions on the ship then pay a taxi driver to drive you round for the day and take you to those places.(don't let them hussle you). \n\nEasiest way to smuggle alcohol is from the islands. Grab a bottle of vodka and pour it into a water bottle and walk right back on the boat. Alcohol ended up being the most expensive part of our cruise.\n\nAlso go to the very last bingo game, usually by then the jackpots a few thousand and they have to give it away.", "Not related to excursions, but my wife and I always book inside cabins. We party hard at random times and it's nice to know that we can go back to the room, close the door and pass out in the middle of the day in pitch black if need be.", "Don't bring your own booze or soda to skirt around the bar/beverage restrictions. Before they load your luggage onto the ship and before they even palletize it they x-ray the luggage and have dogs sniffing the baggage. I personally saw six-packs of beer and bottles of boozed removed from peoples' luggage. According to one passenger they were issued a warning and a voucher to redeem at the end of the cruise if they wanted their booze back. If you plan on drinking (a lot) aboard just pay for the unlimited wristband or beverage card.\n\nExcursions can be less expensive if you don't book with the cruise line. If you can afford it try to get a cabin with a window/porthole or better yet a balcony. You never know how claustrophobic you are until you've stayed in a windowless cabin for more than three days.", "Be aware that some cruise lines hit you with huge fees upon debarkation, so ask before you can go what you can expect to have added onto your cr", "A way around the liquor bottle restrictions, my wife and I packed the miniature alcohol bottles (like you'd find in a mini-bar). That way you can put a bunch in each piece of luggage and carry on, and the scanners just think they're toiletry liquids. ", "2 things...\n\n Go to cruise critic online \n\nAnd don't ever EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER let any cruise ship employe you are sick or don't feel well. They will quarantine you for the rest of the trip", "When you buy a big fruity frozen cocktail, save the plastic \"souvenir\" cup they give you. Have the bartender refill it the next time you order. You will save $3.00 per drink.", "Went on a few cruises before with Carnival (I don't recommend them). Getting alcohol on board is relatively easy. My ship departed out of Puerto Rico and I slipped the baggage handler $20. He pulled all my luggage aside and told the guys who would deliver the luggage to the rooms to \"be careful with these\". Cruises are fun- I recommend a 5-7 day cruise and a maximum of 3-4 islands. I was on a 7 day cruise before and we made 6 stops. Although it seemed awesome at the time of booking, you really put yourself in a situation where you feel obligated to get up and spend time on these islands- where some days we just wanted to kick back and chill on the ship. The food is usually pretty decent. Surprisingly I enjoyed the buffet food more than the fancy diners. Motion sickness is no joke, 4 out of the 6 people in our party got hit bad on one specific night. Use common sense when visiting islands and you should enjoy yourself. Hope this was a bit helpful! ", "The excursions can be fun, but you don't need to go on one at every stop. Also try to find out the travel time. We did one in Jamaica that was 45 minutes away from the port (Dunn River Falls). It was fun, but we spent a lot of time in the little shuttle bus.", "Just planning ahead is tremendously helpful. Know which ports you want to see the sights at and know which ones you want to sit on a beach or do one of the less touristy activities.\n\nDont be embarrassed about being a tourist and excursions are great ways to make sure you see everything you want to at a port.\n\nOn your days at sea, wake your ass up early and park at a prime spot by the pool. Those go quick.\n\nAlso if theres restaurant bookings or on boat activities (spa stuff, cabanas for at sea days) do that shit absolute first thing on the boat as they fill up fast.\n\nNot related to op since the cruise is already booked but I LOVE vacationstogo.com. you dont necessarily need to book from there but it gives you a real good comparison of all the cruises that are happening in certain locations in your time frame and very helpful in seeing where some of the best values are.", "Consolidating cruise advice into a single LPT might be difficult. I've been on a cruise before, but the relevance of my advice to you will vary greatly depending on what cruise line you're on and where you are cruising to.", "Bring some kind of motion sickness medicine... just in case. It's better to be prepared than to find out WHILE you're on the ship that you have a sensitive stomach. Also, be sure to drink a lot of water - I actually passed out on my honeymoon (on a cruise ship) from dehydration and over exertion simply because the soda and drinks were common. H2O is your friend!" ]

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[ "How to leave Facebook without losing touch with everyone. I have about 700 friends on Facebook, many of whom I have known for most of my life. I am really pretty much sick of Facebook's continuin BS at this point and am ready to 'pull the bandaid off' -- so to speak. Not sure how to go about doing so without severing all ties with people I'd like to reach out to OR having to send 700 messages to people and hoping they get in touch with me before I leave FB.", "How to leave Facebook without losing touch with everyone. I have about 700 friends on Facebook, many of whom I have known for most of my life. I am really pretty much sick of Facebook's continuin BS at this point and am ready to 'pull the bandaid off' -- so to speak. Not sure how to go about doing so without severing all ties with people I'd like to reach out to OR having to send 700 messages to people and hoping they get in touch with me before I leave FB.", "How to leave Facebook without losing touch with everyone. I have about 700 friends on Facebook, many of whom I have known for most of my life. I am really pretty much sick of Facebook's continuin BS at this point and am ready to 'pull the bandaid off' -- so to speak. Not sure how to go about doing so without severing all ties with people I'd like to reach out to OR having to send 700 messages to people and hoping they get in touch with me before I leave FB.", "How to leave Facebook without losing touch with everyone. I have about 700 friends on Facebook, many of whom I have known for most of my life. I am really pretty much sick of Facebook's continuin BS at this point and am ready to 'pull the bandaid off' -- so to speak. Not sure how to go about doing so without severing all ties with people I'd like to reach out to OR having to send 700 messages to people and hoping they get in touch with me before I leave FB.", "How to leave Facebook without losing touch with everyone. I have about 700 friends on Facebook, many of whom I have known for most of my life. I am really pretty much sick of Facebook's continuin BS at this point and am ready to 'pull the bandaid off' -- so to speak. Not sure how to go about doing so without severing all ties with people I'd like to reach out to OR having to send 700 messages to people and hoping they get in touch with me before I leave FB." ]

[ "The people that are important will most likely have your phone number. I doubt you have 700 close friends.", "Of the 700 friends, how many have a personality worth paying attention to?\nHow many are just \"friends\" because of social convention or family?\nIf these numbers show a huge gap in ratio, a scorched earth approach might be profitable for you.", "I still have a Facebook, but I rarely check it, because I don't really care what is popping up on my newsfeed. So do what I do: keep your Facebook, but stop checking on it everyday? I only go on there when I need to contact someone, or at random intervals to see if anyone significant has contacted me. It doesn't need to be an all-or-nothing situation. ", "You don't have to abandon facebook entirely if you don't want to. In fact, if you really talk to any of your facebook friends, they'll probably miss talking to you.\n\nA friend of mine terminated and deleted his account a while ago, and it makes things much more problematic for the rest of us.\n\nI use facebook a lot to collaborate and organize events, parties, get-togethers and such. Just send out a message to the whole group \"hey, you guys wanna go to the bar tonight?\" and see who responds. Organize a time and a place that's good for the whole group - it's all very convenient for everybody.\n\nBut that one guy who's not on facebook, somebody has to act as a proxy for him.\n\nSo more often than not, he gets left out. He wasn't there when the rest of the group was deciding on a time and place to meet, and I can't call him every 10 seconds to tell him what the rest of us are saying on facebook - I can't be his proxy.\n\nI don't mean to say that every single person needs to have a facebook account, but if that's what most of your friends are using to communicate, then droppong off facebook is going to disconnect you from your friends.\n\nI wonder if people who corresponded by mail said the same thing about telephones at one time.\n\n\"I'm getting rid of my telephone, too many people calling me all the time.\" \"Send me a postcard and I'll get back to you in a week or so.\"", ">I have about 700 friends on Facebook\n\nNo you don't.\n\nDo what I do .. for the people who post boring/stupid shit but you want to stay connected with .. remove from your news feed but don't un-friend.\n\nFacebook is as good or as bad as you want to make it." ]

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[ "Getting Rid Of Slippery Mice A few weeks ago, my neighbor started pounding on my wall, and for the first time I heard the gnawing sounds of mice under my fridge, which upon pulling out, I found a hole in the wall, that definitely was not there before. We bought traps, and got one, but of course there are more. The one we caught is a male, and there's at least one other who is ALSO a male. According to my neighbor, one came out of his dog food bag, and made a beeline for the appliances that share our mutual wall.\n\nI've seen this other individual scurry from under the couch to a corner in the living room, to behind some drawers. When I looked back there, I couldn't find anything.\n\nNow, I hear scratching sounds and paper ruffling in the bottom drawer of my nightstand. I opened it, and something fuzzy jumped out and disappeared. I moved the stuff around, but still no evidence of a nest.\n\nWe don't leave food out, and can't find any evidence of mouse excrement or urine anywhere in the apartment, but every night, it seems like it/they end up in the nightstand. I even checked the top drawer and under it!\n\nThe hole was sealed up, we haven't found any other ones. So I don't think they are leaving the apartment to go get food. We haven't caught any others, and our apartment is doing jack all to get rid of them. Plus, I don't have the $400 pet deposit to get a cat, and my grandparents cats will probably be afraid of them, but I wouldn't risk their health and safety to catch a couple mice.\n\nTl;dr We've tried everything to catch some mice, but we've come up short. When traps and landlords fail, how do you get rid of them?", "Getting Rid Of Slippery Mice A few weeks ago, my neighbor started pounding on my wall, and for the first time I heard the gnawing sounds of mice under my fridge, which upon pulling out, I found a hole in the wall, that definitely was not there before. We bought traps, and got one, but of course there are more. The one we caught is a male, and there's at least one other who is ALSO a male. According to my neighbor, one came out of his dog food bag, and made a beeline for the appliances that share our mutual wall.\n\nI've seen this other individual scurry from under the couch to a corner in the living room, to behind some drawers. When I looked back there, I couldn't find anything.\n\nNow, I hear scratching sounds and paper ruffling in the bottom drawer of my nightstand. I opened it, and something fuzzy jumped out and disappeared. I moved the stuff around, but still no evidence of a nest.\n\nWe don't leave food out, and can't find any evidence of mouse excrement or urine anywhere in the apartment, but every night, it seems like it/they end up in the nightstand. I even checked the top drawer and under it!\n\nThe hole was sealed up, we haven't found any other ones. So I don't think they are leaving the apartment to go get food. We haven't caught any others, and our apartment is doing jack all to get rid of them. Plus, I don't have the $400 pet deposit to get a cat, and my grandparents cats will probably be afraid of them, but I wouldn't risk their health and safety to catch a couple mice.\n\nTl;dr We've tried everything to catch some mice, but we've come up short. When traps and landlords fail, how do you get rid of them?", "Getting Rid Of Slippery Mice A few weeks ago, my neighbor started pounding on my wall, and for the first time I heard the gnawing sounds of mice under my fridge, which upon pulling out, I found a hole in the wall, that definitely was not there before. We bought traps, and got one, but of course there are more. The one we caught is a male, and there's at least one other who is ALSO a male. According to my neighbor, one came out of his dog food bag, and made a beeline for the appliances that share our mutual wall.\n\nI've seen this other individual scurry from under the couch to a corner in the living room, to behind some drawers. When I looked back there, I couldn't find anything.\n\nNow, I hear scratching sounds and paper ruffling in the bottom drawer of my nightstand. I opened it, and something fuzzy jumped out and disappeared. I moved the stuff around, but still no evidence of a nest.\n\nWe don't leave food out, and can't find any evidence of mouse excrement or urine anywhere in the apartment, but every night, it seems like it/they end up in the nightstand. I even checked the top drawer and under it!\n\nThe hole was sealed up, we haven't found any other ones. So I don't think they are leaving the apartment to go get food. We haven't caught any others, and our apartment is doing jack all to get rid of them. Plus, I don't have the $400 pet deposit to get a cat, and my grandparents cats will probably be afraid of them, but I wouldn't risk their health and safety to catch a couple mice.\n\nTl;dr We've tried everything to catch some mice, but we've come up short. When traps and landlords fail, how do you get rid of them?" ]

[ "I have that problem with mice coming in the garage in the fall. I suggest using one of these : http://www.homedepot.com/p/Victor-Multi-Catch-Live-Mouse-Trap-M333/202668291\nhttps://homefixated.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/tomcat-mouse-trap.jpg\nThese use no poison and you can let them go without touching them.\n\nI use the second one and I suggest that you use peanut butter as bait. They fall for it every time.", "I had mice and I got those little poison pellet packs that you just open and leave around. The secret is to cut peanut butter cups into bits, about the size of the pellets, and mix it into the box. They can't resist getting in there and eating it up. That was over 2 years ago and I haven't seen one little bastard since. ", "A wise man living in the sticks of south Texas told me this:\nUse ground up cyan pepper from your local supermarket. Spread some of it in the tight to reach areas like behind a stove or sweep some of it under the fridge. The pepper irritates the rats' noses to the point they won't want to go back there anymore." ]

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[ "How to remember things you need to do. Apart from writing it on your hand. That's obvious and doesn't work for me.", "How to remember things you need to do. Apart from writing it on your hand. That's obvious and doesn't work for me.", "How to remember things you need to do. Apart from writing it on your hand. That's obvious and doesn't work for me.", "How to remember things you need to do. Apart from writing it on your hand. That's obvious and doesn't work for me.", "How to remember things you need to do. Apart from writing it on your hand. That's obvious and doesn't work for me.", "How to remember things you need to do. Apart from writing it on your hand. That's obvious and doesn't work for me.", "How to remember things you need to do. Apart from writing it on your hand. That's obvious and doesn't work for me.", "How to remember things you need to do. Apart from writing it on your hand. That's obvious and doesn't work for me.", "How to remember things you need to do. Apart from writing it on your hand. That's obvious and doesn't work for me.", "How to remember things you need to do. Apart from writing it on your hand. That's obvious and doesn't work for me.", "How to remember things you need to do. Apart from writing it on your hand. That's obvious and doesn't work for me.", "How to remember things you need to do. Apart from writing it on your hand. That's obvious and doesn't work for me.", "How to remember things you need to do. Apart from writing it on your hand. That's obvious and doesn't work for me.", "How to remember things you need to do. Apart from writing it on your hand. That's obvious and doesn't work for me." ]

[ "Use a reminder app on your phone. Also sending a text to yourself and leaving it unread until the morning can work (if you need to remember to do something in the morning) ", "Whatever method you choose, it comes down to discipline: using it for just about everything. If you use the same method, then that means you need to remember just the one thing: to keep checking your list.\n\nThere will be a few situations that wont fit the list method. For example, if you can't fall asleep, or you wake up in the middle of the night because you need to remember something, instead of getting up, turning on lights, and writing it on your list, just put something in an *obviously* wrong place AND think about what it means there. When you wake up in the morning, and see the object, you'll remember whatever idea or task that was keeping you awake. \n\nMy husband knows that if he wakes up, and there is a pillow in the middle of the floor, to leave it there-- it means I woke up in the middle of the night, remembered something, and flung my pillow into the hall. This has worked for me for years (at least I am not remembering \"trip husband in middle of the night and attempt to collect on his life insurance\").\n\nAnother situation is remembering to take something with you when you leave. Make it difficult or impossible to leave without it: I leave my car keys on it/with the item. Can't leave if I don't have my keys... go look for keys.. in refrigerator, on dish I was supposed to take with me. \n\nOr, can't unlock the deadbolt because there is a note taped over it, telling me what I am supposed to take/do.\n", "In your head picture yourself doing the task. If you need to grab something on the way out of the house, picture yourself grabbing that item as you leave. This will spark your memory that you walk out the door you will remember grabbing it. Helps me a ton.", "Use a task/reminder app. [Wunderlist](https://www.wunderlist.com) is by far the best one I have ever used. I thoroughly recommend it. Download it on either your mobile device or computer. The tasks also sync to all devices with the app installed.", "I use Google tasks which is great because it syncs my to-do lists between all my devices. I have an app on my android phone called [Tasks Free](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=ch.teamtasks.tasks&hl=en) that syncs my Google tasks (and lets me ", "There's a memorizing technique for lists you could use. \n\nFirst, you have a set of mental cues based on numbers. For the number one, picture a bun. Two, shoe. Three, tree. Etc. \n\nNext, whatever you have to remember, combine it with your cue. You need to get celery, cheese, and chocolate from the store. So, picture a celery stalk inside a bun, a shoe made of cheese, and a tree taking a soothing bath in chocolate. \n\nAt the store, think \"ok, one, bun... celery!\" \n\nSomething about the brain retaining short-term memory longer if information is tied to imagery. ", "The method of loci seems like a reasonable solution bacause it does not require anything other than one's mind. http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Method_of_loci\n", "On your Windows computer you could have sticky notes....\n\n[7 Sticky Notes](http://www.7stickynotes.com/)", "I've started using Google Calendar to plan all of my school assignments and appointments. I took the time to input everything from the syllabus from my classes and I have it send me an email the day before the assignment is due so I never forget. It also syncs with my iPhone and i also get a notification through the calendars app on my Mac. Working really well so far. ", "I guess I'm old school but I write things down in a date/calandar book. Also will send texts to myself ", "I find placing something out of the ordinary helps a lot. Like say a wrench in the bathroom sink, I'll notice it when I go to brush my teeth in the morning and the abnormality will trigger my memory. ", "Get a tiny journal or notebook - something that can go everywhere with you. \n\nWrite items in this book. The only rule of organization is: ALWAYS wrote down the date when you start a new section. \n\nSo, this way, your natural organizational style can be allowed to develop without constructions of someone else's system. And them after about a year of doing this, you'll know what kind of system you want. ", "Count the number of things you need to do. Then you know if you forget one.\n\nWrite it on your hand, \n\nno pen? Carve it into your flesh like some bad ass black metal band would do.\n\n ", "Any dates and plans go into my google calendar. Anything critical has reminder set on it, so I get emails to remind me (to take back my library books, or leave for work early, or whatever). \nDaily stuff goes in my phone. I have an alarm app that lets me set many different reminders, set each one with its own sound of choice, set to recur or not, and go at whatever time I want. So anything I need to remember to do during the day will have an alarm with the reminder. \n\nStuff like that doesn't stay in my head at all, but with these methods, I rarely miss anything. As soon as I know of it, it goes into the schedule. " ]

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[ "What are some achievable yet worthwhile New Year’s resolutions? Previous years I have upped my average daily steps, and made the effort to watch more live music. I’d like some realistic suggestions of things that will improve my 2020!", "What are some achievable yet worthwhile New Year’s resolutions? Previous years I have upped my average daily steps, and made the effort to watch more live music. I’d like some realistic suggestions of things that will improve my 2020!", "What are some achievable yet worthwhile New Year’s resolutions? Previous years I have upped my average daily steps, and made the effort to watch more live music. I’d like some realistic suggestions of things that will improve my 2020!", "What are some achievable yet worthwhile New Year’s resolutions? Previous years I have upped my average daily steps, and made the effort to watch more live music. I’d like some realistic suggestions of things that will improve my 2020!", "What are some achievable yet worthwhile New Year’s resolutions? Previous years I have upped my average daily steps, and made the effort to watch more live music. I’d like some realistic suggestions of things that will improve my 2020!", "What are some achievable yet worthwhile New Year’s resolutions? Previous years I have upped my average daily steps, and made the effort to watch more live music. I’d like some realistic suggestions of things that will improve my 2020!" ]

[ "Learn or at least try one new sport/activity \n\nSpend less time on your phone \n\nGet more/better sleep \n\nTry one new recipe a week/month \n\nVisit a local historic site/tourist spot/museum \n\nRead more books \n\n\nHope a few are helpful:)", "1) Read more 2) send letters to long lost friends and family members 3) more photography, not selfies 4) less on social media 5) learn more about world politics 6) concentrate on cooking just one style of food 7) spend less and save more.", "Take more time off. If we can’t have a four day work week then I’ll use up all of my leave if possible to artificially create one.", "Every resolution to be achievable need to have a time component to it and its easier to break it down into smaller tasks. Mine last year was to work out more. I broke it down to try to do 70 push ups twice a week for a month, and then build up from there. Now I do it about 100 every other day. I made workout simpler and, after 10 sets of 10 pushups, I am already warmed up and ready for more work out", "Cut your carbon footprint\n\nWrite letters to your loved ones who you don’t get to see as often as you’d like\n\nSet a bedtime for yourself if you’re often tired", "Vote\nHang laundry to dry \nGive your pets a snuggle and clean water every day\nGo easy on yourself\nGo easy on others" ]

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[ "How do I make high school less stressful? I constantly have projects, upcoming tests, homework, etc. Its hard to get school off my mind even when I'm doing things I enjoy. Is it just going to be like this for the next 3 years or is there something that can help?", "How do I make high school less stressful? I constantly have projects, upcoming tests, homework, etc. Its hard to get school off my mind even when I'm doing things I enjoy. Is it just going to be like this for the next 3 years or is there something that can help?", "How do I make high school less stressful? I constantly have projects, upcoming tests, homework, etc. Its hard to get school off my mind even when I'm doing things I enjoy. Is it just going to be like this for the next 3 years or is there something that can help?", "How do I make high school less stressful? I constantly have projects, upcoming tests, homework, etc. Its hard to get school off my mind even when I'm doing things I enjoy. Is it just going to be like this for the next 3 years or is there something that can help?", "How do I make high school less stressful? I constantly have projects, upcoming tests, homework, etc. Its hard to get school off my mind even when I'm doing things I enjoy. Is it just going to be like this for the next 3 years or is there something that can help?", "How do I make high school less stressful? I constantly have projects, upcoming tests, homework, etc. Its hard to get school off my mind even when I'm doing things I enjoy. Is it just going to be like this for the next 3 years or is there something that can help?", "How do I make high school less stressful? I constantly have projects, upcoming tests, homework, etc. Its hard to get school off my mind even when I'm doing things I enjoy. Is it just going to be like this for the next 3 years or is there something that can help?", "How do I make high school less stressful? I constantly have projects, upcoming tests, homework, etc. Its hard to get school off my mind even when I'm doing things I enjoy. Is it just going to be like this for the next 3 years or is there something that can help?" ]

[ "Sounds like you're having trouble with work/life balance. This has come up a lot since lockdowns forced people to work from home, making it harder to separate the two. \n\nIf this is the case you can try having specific \"school clothes,\" even when doing homework at home. Having a different outfit can help separate your school routine from life. Don't wear school clothes when you want to do anything else, the process of changing can help you wind down. I have work shirts I only wear when doing work even thought I work from home. Additionally, I turn off my phone for 30 minutes before the beginning and at the end of my day to force myself to stop looking at screens, find something else to do and form a mental boundary between my time and work time. \n\nSecond, don't trick yourself into thinking that spending more time on something is more productive. When you sit down to study have a clear list of what goals absolutely need to get done that day and what can wait.\n\nThird, ask for help - if productivity tricks don't help, you struggle to get your work done, have a life and maintain a healthy sleep schedule - you need to tell someone. Talk to your parents or a guidance counselor about better methods to help manage. \n\nHighschool is hard because you haven't figured out how to work within your own skills and limitations, things do get easier. Organization and productivity are things you can learn and there are tricks.", "I would have made my life much easier if I had developed good habits in high school like you are trying to do now. I recommend that you have a planner/journal to keep track of all your assignments, and that you set aside some time every day to do school work. Take notes in every class and then spend some time every night reviewing/synthesizing your notes. Also realize that everything doesn’t have to be perfect, just follow instructions and complete the task, don’t reinvent the wheel. Education is like a game, you can be of average intelligence and get A’s, or you can be highly intelligent and do poorly. Learn to play the game. If you’re organized and take notes and dedicate some time to study you will do better than most people just by virtue of giving a shit.", "First, I would say to make sure it really is stress and not something like anxiety or depression which are super common in the population. You can check with your healthcare provider about it if you have concerns.\n\nWith regards to stress, it is entirely normal and everyone goes through the same thing. As long as you are still functioning and not distressed by it, then it is alright. Just keep things in perspective, and things like a work schedule AND a play schedule (where you only play and do not think about work at all) can help many. If you find that you are having trouble with the curriculum, then consider getting tutor, forming study groups, or even getting a school assessment for learning disabilities which are also surprisingly common.\n\nStress is usually transient, and expecting it to be present all the time is unrealistic in most healthy people. How we deal with stress is what really defines who are anyways. But keep in mind that school is not necessarily easier than work or taking care of a family in the future, so now is the time to start learning how to manage and deal with stress.", "Reading the other comments, it sounds like you can make it less stressful by talking with your parents. Do the assigned work and you will pass, it should not be all encompassingly stressful.", "Participate in a variety of sports every season, every year.\n\nSocial circles in high school often revolve around sports. Earnestly participate in more sports, and you'll be accepted in more social circles. This will make high school more enjoyable for you and for the kids around you.", "High School is just the stepping stone to the stress of the next level of education, which is the stepping stone to top tier stress - adult life.", "Just remember high school isn't all there is. And your time there is very short just have fun. If you miss deadlines fck it. Do what you have to do to graduate and move on college is useless these days anyway.", "Depends on what your goal is, if you plan to become the student with the highest grades then it might be difficult to not feel stressed. However, if you're just trying to get by and get some decent marks, just remember that your next test or exam is not going to matter at all once you graduate. So relax and take things one at a time" ]

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[ "getting rid of Deer Mice from my home been having trouble keeping deer mice out of my house. I've tried glue traps, old fashioned traps with peanut butter, poison, ropel, keeping food in air tight containers but have zero luck getting rid of the pests even though I keep a clean home. I live by a pasture in the country.", "getting rid of Deer Mice from my home been having trouble keeping deer mice out of my house. I've tried glue traps, old fashioned traps with peanut butter, poison, ropel, keeping food in air tight containers but have zero luck getting rid of the pests even though I keep a clean home. I live by a pasture in the country.", "getting rid of Deer Mice from my home been having trouble keeping deer mice out of my house. I've tried glue traps, old fashioned traps with peanut butter, poison, ropel, keeping food in air tight containers but have zero luck getting rid of the pests even though I keep a clean home. I live by a pasture in the country.", "getting rid of Deer Mice from my home been having trouble keeping deer mice out of my house. I've tried glue traps, old fashioned traps with peanut butter, poison, ropel, keeping food in air tight containers but have zero luck getting rid of the pests even though I keep a clean home. I live by a pasture in the country.", "getting rid of Deer Mice from my home been having trouble keeping deer mice out of my house. I've tried glue traps, old fashioned traps with peanut butter, poison, ropel, keeping food in air tight containers but have zero luck getting rid of the pests even though I keep a clean home. I live by a pasture in the country.", "getting rid of Deer Mice from my home been having trouble keeping deer mice out of my house. I've tried glue traps, old fashioned traps with peanut butter, poison, ropel, keeping food in air tight containers but have zero luck getting rid of the pests even though I keep a clean home. I live by a pasture in the country." ]

[ "Sealing up the house is the only way to be rid of them for good. Might be difficult in an older home, but otherwise they'll just keep getting in.\n\nOnce they can't get in or out, just about any kind of trap placed around the baseboards baited with peanut butter & bacon or commercial \"mouse attractant\" will get them eventually.", "Give peppermint oil a try. Put a little bit in a small cup and throw a cotton ball inside then place them in high traffic areas (high traffic for the mice) and hiding spots.\n\nGlue traps are cruel man, mouse tears itself apart trying to get free and/or starves to death. Traps arent effective anyway, they reproduce faster than u can kill them and theyre smart enough to stay away once they know one has died or been trapped there.\n\nTry to seal up all entrances and remove any incentive they have for coming in.", "We use these things that make a noise only rodents can hear. They work good, we put them under the cars hoods too. Also we figure out what they come in for, a lot of times it's water so we have a water pan outside away from the house and keep it filled with fresh water.", "I have a friend with the same problem. She breeds pet doves so there is always a food source for the little fuckers, and I can't let her borrow a couple of my cats because her neighbors have been putting out poison.", "Not sure how well it would translate to you, but in my house (in the suburbs) we had a bad mouse problem after they leveled some hills behind our house. Also tried everything, but eventually we were able to get rid of them by sealing all possible entrances from the outside, and putting poison all over the house. Took a couple years, but it worked. Haven't seen them since in a couple years. Some of the neighbours still get them when it starts getting cold, but we're ok.", "I had lots getting in my garage, four traditional traps by the walls, honey roasted peanuts for bait, 2-4 killed a day last Autumn for a while. A couple more come Spring. None since. Easy, cheap and fast, a rare case of all three." ]

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[ "Need advice for my future career path. Hello, im in college with a history major and linguistics minor and am going to be taking cyber security classes on the side. I love history and linguistics but i cant seem to find any jobs that are actually worth doing due to how poorly they pay, because of that decided to take cybersecurity classes on the side so i can have a higher paying job. The only issue is idrk if it is sometime i would truly want to do, as well as im planning to move to Germany and idk the wage differences and how in demand each are between the two paths in the EU, and I would also be ok with a lower wage job but i want to travel a lot for fun and i cant travel much if i don't have that good of a wage. Not saying i don't want to but i just don't know since i haven't started yet. What is something i could do with a history major and linguistics minor that pays well that you know of and do you think it would be smart to do a cybersecurity class or should i just drop it?", "Need advice for my future career path. Hello, im in college with a history major and linguistics minor and am going to be taking cyber security classes on the side. I love history and linguistics but i cant seem to find any jobs that are actually worth doing due to how poorly they pay, because of that decided to take cybersecurity classes on the side so i can have a higher paying job. The only issue is idrk if it is sometime i would truly want to do, as well as im planning to move to Germany and idk the wage differences and how in demand each are between the two paths in the EU, and I would also be ok with a lower wage job but i want to travel a lot for fun and i cant travel much if i don't have that good of a wage. Not saying i don't want to but i just don't know since i haven't started yet. What is something i could do with a history major and linguistics minor that pays well that you know of and do you think it would be smart to do a cybersecurity class or should i just drop it?", "Need advice for my future career path. Hello, im in college with a history major and linguistics minor and am going to be taking cyber security classes on the side. I love history and linguistics but i cant seem to find any jobs that are actually worth doing due to how poorly they pay, because of that decided to take cybersecurity classes on the side so i can have a higher paying job. The only issue is idrk if it is sometime i would truly want to do, as well as im planning to move to Germany and idk the wage differences and how in demand each are between the two paths in the EU, and I would also be ok with a lower wage job but i want to travel a lot for fun and i cant travel much if i don't have that good of a wage. Not saying i don't want to but i just don't know since i haven't started yet. What is something i could do with a history major and linguistics minor that pays well that you know of and do you think it would be smart to do a cybersecurity class or should i just drop it?" ]

[ "You’re at the “lost in a sea of choices” stage of life. Pick something you have aptitude in, you enjoy, and can get paid for. 2/3 is good enough. Get some experience and commit to a career for a while. Nothing wrong with changing partway through and in many cases prior experiences will make you even more valuable in a new field.\n\nBe a GOAT and Quack like a duck and just do something, anything.", "You could go into intelligence. Going the military route, you could navigate your career from there, and you could have a good chance of being stationed in Germany in requesting for that initial duty station.", "Tech will always be easier to get a job and have a good pay. Don't fall for how people try and romanticize the idea of \"seek your dream job\", at the end of the day you're selling time for money, and you'll never work on something you really want, just doing what you're told. As long as it's something you're ok doing, go for the easy route. You'll be a lot happier if you're not worried about not finding a job and getting good compensation, because to a certain point, money does buy happiness, don't let anyone fool you otherwise. Best of luck!" ]

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[ "How do you be happy for yourself and successfully stay happy? Been going through a very rough time in my life and just seeing if anyone has suggestions on how it works for them", "How do you be happy for yourself and successfully stay happy? Been going through a very rough time in my life and just seeing if anyone has suggestions on how it works for them", "How do you be happy for yourself and successfully stay happy? Been going through a very rough time in my life and just seeing if anyone has suggestions on how it works for them", "How do you be happy for yourself and successfully stay happy? Been going through a very rough time in my life and just seeing if anyone has suggestions on how it works for them", "How do you be happy for yourself and successfully stay happy? Been going through a very rough time in my life and just seeing if anyone has suggestions on how it works for them", "How do you be happy for yourself and successfully stay happy? Been going through a very rough time in my life and just seeing if anyone has suggestions on how it works for them", "How do you be happy for yourself and successfully stay happy? Been going through a very rough time in my life and just seeing if anyone has suggestions on how it works for them", "How do you be happy for yourself and successfully stay happy? Been going through a very rough time in my life and just seeing if anyone has suggestions on how it works for them", "How do you be happy for yourself and successfully stay happy? Been going through a very rough time in my life and just seeing if anyone has suggestions on how it works for them", "How do you be happy for yourself and successfully stay happy? Been going through a very rough time in my life and just seeing if anyone has suggestions on how it works for them" ]

[ "Start by realizing that no one is happy all of the time and that is okay. This is something that I have been thinking about recently and it has really helped me out a lot. I think we as a species have a belief that we have to be happy consistently, but I think that embracing *all* the different emotions that we can experience is part of what it means to be alive. Yes being sad sucks, and I have definitely been down the dark and lonely path of depression, but being in that place has helped me to come back out with a greater appreciation of everything that makes me happy. \n\nI am sorry that you are going through a rough time, if it helps, I am pulling for you.", "There are some great ways to be happier. Write a daily thank you email. 3 things each day you are grateful for. Work out. M", "I learned to stop stressing and over analyzing things in my life. I just make sure I do what I have to do and let everything else play itself out. From there I decide what's next. Cheer up bro!", "I was too so I totally understand. First be brutally honest with yourself. You need to understand and except those feelings. Next accept that the only thing you have control over is you. Next realize that you are the most important person. Make choice to be happy and enjoy yourself. When shut happens accept deal with and move on. I have bad days but I no longer let them bring me down. Here if you need to talk. ", "Nothing beats getting out and seeing what others have to deal with and lending a hand where you can. There are a lot of people who could use some attention and aid. ", "Low expectations. Stay away from toxic people/places/things. That quote about if you're in hell, then keep on going.", "I do this weird thing where every action i carry out through the day I stop and think, hey will this make the rest of the day better? Even on things like picking out socks. Im known around friends and family for being in a good mood and not letting much bother me. Its a weird process dosent make sense to most haha hope it helped. Otherwise i would say its kinda just instilled into the mindset at birth. I dont know, but you can be happy you just need to chose to.", "Go running (any other sport will do) and eat some fruit or vegetables. Avoid snacks and get happy.\n\n", "Change how you view your life. If you look at what you're missing try looking at what you have. Trust me when you really think about it your life can always get much much worse. You need to enjoy what you have instead of worrying about what you don't. \n\nPeople all have different things that truly make them happy. It might be helping others by volunteering or you might be happier with taking a few minutes out of your day to take in the beauty around you. Find something you enjoy and set aside a bit of time each week to do it.\n\nThis could be a few hours by yourself with a hobby or a few minutes enjoying the sunset.", "As much as you want to sit on your ass and do nothing, DONT. You might feel like theres no hope and even like the feeling of hopelessness. Work out, connect with yourself. Understand who you are and embrace the feelings you have. Don't beat yourself up for feeling bad just do the things you enjoy, it will pass" ]

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[ "Golden retriever sheds a hand full of hair (at least) daily. Take to groomers consistently, tried furminator brush on regular basis, nothing seems to help. Happens all year round. Sick of it everywhere. Anything? Also, have left hair to grow, cut hair down. It's an inside dog. Tried so many things", "Golden retriever sheds a hand full of hair (at least) daily. Take to groomers consistently, tried furminator brush on regular basis, nothing seems to help. Happens all year round. Sick of it everywhere. Anything? Also, have left hair to grow, cut hair down. It's an inside dog. Tried so many things", "Golden retriever sheds a hand full of hair (at least) daily. Take to groomers consistently, tried furminator brush on regular basis, nothing seems to help. Happens all year round. Sick of it everywhere. Anything? Also, have left hair to grow, cut hair down. It's an inside dog. Tried so many things", "Golden retriever sheds a hand full of hair (at least) daily. Take to groomers consistently, tried furminator brush on regular basis, nothing seems to help. Happens all year round. Sick of it everywhere. Anything? Also, have left hair to grow, cut hair down. It's an inside dog. Tried so many things", "Golden retriever sheds a hand full of hair (at least) daily. Take to groomers consistently, tried furminator brush on regular basis, nothing seems to help. Happens all year round. Sick of it everywhere. Anything? Also, have left hair to grow, cut hair down. It's an inside dog. Tried so many things", "Golden retriever sheds a hand full of hair (at least) daily. Take to groomers consistently, tried furminator brush on regular basis, nothing seems to help. Happens all year round. Sick of it everywhere. Anything? Also, have left hair to grow, cut hair down. It's an inside dog. Tried so many things" ]

[ "I'm not sure of the efficacy, but a guy I know used to wipe his Jack Russel Terrier's down with baby wipes. It helped their shedding and stopped the dander (which is what people are allergic to).", "I know this isn't terribly helpful but...you probably should've researched how much hair your breed of dog sheds before you got it.\n\nOne of the main reasons we got a Wheaton Terrier and a Tibetan Terrier was because they don't shed much.", "I dog sit and use a Groom Ninja on the goldens, I think sleekz is pretty much the same product. It doesn't stop the shedding but it will cut it down a fair amount. The first time you use either one be prepared to be out there for a few hours to get most of the hair. I still haven't gotten all the hair after an hour of brushing.", "Have a husky mix here. The best thing you can ever invest your money in is the groom ninja. I paid $70 for the furminator and it doesn't work well/fast enough for me. Groom ninja is way better and faster. My girl LOVES it, she falls asleep when I use it on her. I paid $18 + s/h. \nOther than that... Make sure to brush daily so fur doesn't clump together. And sweep/vacuum. A lot. I've seen people who use a vacuum attachment to suck up extra fur, or the opposite - use some kind of a blower to blow it away. Although most dogs are terrified of stuff like that, so I've never tried it. \nYou're definitely not alone it is SO frustrating. I have at least 3 lint rollers in different places for convenience at any given time..... Oh well. Doggies are worth it.", "Had a Shar Pei and it shed like that non stop , you could actually see hair flying off it as it walked ,but it was the smartest and best dog I ever owned", "This comes with owing a long haired dog. I'm sad for your intolerance of something that comes with loving and owing a dog. Are you soon to give the dog away? The dog can't help being hairy." ]

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[ "Help to Focus While Reading While reading I get lost in my own thoughts a lot and I can't keep track of what I just read. I have to re-read a lot because of it. Is there any real way to help without an Adderall prescription?", "Help to Focus While Reading While reading I get lost in my own thoughts a lot and I can't keep track of what I just read. I have to re-read a lot because of it. Is there any real way to help without an Adderall prescription?", "Help to Focus While Reading While reading I get lost in my own thoughts a lot and I can't keep track of what I just read. I have to re-read a lot because of it. Is there any real way to help without an Adderall prescription?" ]

[ "First of all you're not alone. I have this issue and I'd bet most others do too. All I've found to help is just being mindful of what you're doing. Keep bringing your attention back to reading. This like any exercise will improve your ability to concentrate over time. ", "Another one checking in. Personally this happens a lot when I read description-heavy books, and prefer character-focused books that lean towards conversations (i prefer imagining the environment myself, rather than having it described to me in minute details). \n\nI used to always meticulously read everything, and finish every book I started. These days, I've learned to skip paragraphs, even pages, and fill in the blanks myself. And though it was hard the first few times, I now don't have a problem of putting a book down and never touching it again if I feel it gets too tedious for me to read.\n\nIf you're talking about must-read books (textbooks or required readings for school), the best I could offer is to WRITE things down as you read them. Words, bullet points, anything. Just write things down. Legibility isn't an issue. Writing usually forces the brain to focus on the topic at hand.", "I found that I have to just make a point to read for an extended period of time without stopping. I used to be an avid novel reader as a teenager, but lately I've also experienced a short attention span. So I just made a goal to read for a huge chunk of time without a goal, and that seemed to help.\n\nYou could also try following the words with your finger, to help keep yourself aware of where you're at. \n\nReading out loud helps, too! It's harder to lose your train of thought when you can hear it with your ears.\n\nIt also might help to have some light piano/wordless music in the background. " ]

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[ "How to make your hands warmer in general? So my hands are generally cold all the time. I don't have a problem with it, but they are very chilling to the touch. Is there anything I can do to keep them warm, or at bare minimum, quickly warm them up when needed?", "How to make your hands warmer in general? So my hands are generally cold all the time. I don't have a problem with it, but they are very chilling to the touch. Is there anything I can do to keep them warm, or at bare minimum, quickly warm them up when needed?", "How to make your hands warmer in general? So my hands are generally cold all the time. I don't have a problem with it, but they are very chilling to the touch. Is there anything I can do to keep them warm, or at bare minimum, quickly warm them up when needed?", "How to make your hands warmer in general? So my hands are generally cold all the time. I don't have a problem with it, but they are very chilling to the touch. Is there anything I can do to keep them warm, or at bare minimum, quickly warm them up when needed?" ]

[ "This most likely has to do with poor circulation in your hands. A quick google search should give you some stretching options that may help with your circulation.", "You can try fingerless gloves. \n\nYou could try biofeedback training to teach yourself to warm your hands.", "Sit on them. Sounds stupid but your legs are a large mass of muscle/fat and will be a lot warmer than your hands. Heat will transfer fairly quickly.", "I recommend lifting weights or working with kettle bells. Since I exercise more my circulation has improved and cold hands are gone." ]

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[ "How do I become a good communicator with my SO? Inspired by the [recent LPT](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2r0km2/lpt_when_talking_to_your_so_about_things_they_are/) that was posted not to long ago. \n\nI've been talking to this girl for a while and I'm about to ask her out to make things more serious. In short, I've never been in a relationship before and I'm a bit nervous that I won't be a very good partner when it comes to this stuff. \n\nI realize that every relationship is entirely unique and different, but are there some general relationship tips that people could share?", "How do I become a good communicator with my SO? Inspired by the [recent LPT](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2r0km2/lpt_when_talking_to_your_so_about_things_they_are/) that was posted not to long ago. \n\nI've been talking to this girl for a while and I'm about to ask her out to make things more serious. In short, I've never been in a relationship before and I'm a bit nervous that I won't be a very good partner when it comes to this stuff. \n\nI realize that every relationship is entirely unique and different, but are there some general relationship tips that people could share?", "How do I become a good communicator with my SO? Inspired by the [recent LPT](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2r0km2/lpt_when_talking_to_your_so_about_things_they_are/) that was posted not to long ago. \n\nI've been talking to this girl for a while and I'm about to ask her out to make things more serious. In short, I've never been in a relationship before and I'm a bit nervous that I won't be a very good partner when it comes to this stuff. \n\nI realize that every relationship is entirely unique and different, but are there some general relationship tips that people could share?", "How do I become a good communicator with my SO? Inspired by the [recent LPT](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2r0km2/lpt_when_talking_to_your_so_about_things_they_are/) that was posted not to long ago. \n\nI've been talking to this girl for a while and I'm about to ask her out to make things more serious. In short, I've never been in a relationship before and I'm a bit nervous that I won't be a very good partner when it comes to this stuff. \n\nI realize that every relationship is entirely unique and different, but are there some general relationship tips that people could share?", "How do I become a good communicator with my SO? Inspired by the [recent LPT](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2r0km2/lpt_when_talking_to_your_so_about_things_they_are/) that was posted not to long ago. \n\nI've been talking to this girl for a while and I'm about to ask her out to make things more serious. In short, I've never been in a relationship before and I'm a bit nervous that I won't be a very good partner when it comes to this stuff. \n\nI realize that every relationship is entirely unique and different, but are there some general relationship tips that people could share?", "How do I become a good communicator with my SO? Inspired by the [recent LPT](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2r0km2/lpt_when_talking_to_your_so_about_things_they_are/) that was posted not to long ago. \n\nI've been talking to this girl for a while and I'm about to ask her out to make things more serious. In short, I've never been in a relationship before and I'm a bit nervous that I won't be a very good partner when it comes to this stuff. \n\nI realize that every relationship is entirely unique and different, but are there some general relationship tips that people could share?" ]

[ "Here's a good one: Learn to identify the difference between \"asking you to fix a problem\" and \"just venting about shit and not looking for a fix\"\n\nWomen usually just want to talk and be heard. We don't need you to solve the problems. The best way to identify the difference, is to listen until she's done talking, and then say \"Would you like advice, or would you like a hug?\"", "One step at a time big guy. Get in the relationship first.\n\nIt will probably be messy. You will probably screw up a lot.\n\nThat's how we learn.", "The most important thing is that you must learn from any experiences that you have, as there are no rules that can maximise your relationship - you just have to be perceptive and pick up on what your SO wants.\n\nJust make sure that there is a healthy balance between what you want and what they want, because sometimes it can be hard to love somebody who makes themselves a martyr.\n\nGood luck - you'll discover a lot about yourself in the next few months.", "I see two main components for you to work on here.\n\n1. Become a good communicator with everyone, not just her. This will have you wasting a lot of energy, failing and failing again. Do it. You can read a book, to help, like [this one]( https://kickass.so/how-to-talk-to-anyone-92-little-tricks-for-big-success-in-relationships-mg-t8745642.html).\n\n2. The other thing is called empathy. Learn the difference between living someone's problems (sympathy) and understanding someone's problems (empathy). I have no book on understanding someone's problems. But real, emotional understanding, is a skill and a powerful way to love.", "Men and women use words differently. /u/kittykat713 is correct as is /u/elpapiflaco in recommending the book Men are from Mars..., which essentially says the same thing.\n\nFirst things first though, stay in the present and enjoy the moment. What you fear might or might not happen is nothing more than a hallucination. Spend too much time there and you'll miss out on the now.", "Don't worry too much about this. You're going to have problems no matter what. That's how relationships are. Being perfect is boring. If you worry about being the best all the time, that in itself could cause problems. Stay focused on the here and now. Work problems out as they come. If you get through them together, it will bring you closer to each other." ]

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[ "How to stop biting and/or picking at my lip? I bite my nails and either pick at my lip or nibble it until it's uncomfortable.", "How to stop biting and/or picking at my lip? I bite my nails and either pick at my lip or nibble it until it's uncomfortable.", "How to stop biting and/or picking at my lip? I bite my nails and either pick at my lip or nibble it until it's uncomfortable.", "How to stop biting and/or picking at my lip? I bite my nails and either pick at my lip or nibble it until it's uncomfortable.", "How to stop biting and/or picking at my lip? I bite my nails and either pick at my lip or nibble it until it's uncomfortable.", "How to stop biting and/or picking at my lip? I bite my nails and either pick at my lip or nibble it until it's uncomfortable.", "How to stop biting and/or picking at my lip? I bite my nails and either pick at my lip or nibble it until it's uncomfortable." ]

[ "I bite my lips when my lips are dry. I have used various lip balms and found that helps. Some work better than others. Some leave a nasty film and then I start to scrape my lips with my teeth and then it leads to biting again. Hopefully lip balm helps you as well. I hate having chapped lips. It's ugly and it's uncomfortable as fuck.", "Try mindfulness m", "you can get light exfoliators for lips and that with a balm can make it harder to find anything to nibble at least. Softly brushing your lips with a toothbrush works too if you don't want to buy a scrub.\n\nAs for nails, carry a nail file and if you feel the need to bite them, give them a smooth over with the file instead. Still something to fiddle with but will keep your nails nicer and short which makes them harder to bite anyway.\n\nIf you need something to fiddle with on the sly then rings, bracelets and watches are a subtle cover. You can get rings specifically designed for the purpose, my friend has one which has another ring inside it which spins on it's own little wheel, the repetition is very soothing and i just play with it while it's on his hand, he's pretty chill with it.", "I bite my lips when my lips are dry. I found drinking more water. if i feel my lips get hard i drink half a liter of water. this ususally turns them around within a few hours. also i have started incorporating more oils in my diet and theses seem to help the hair nails and skin a lot.so have fried potatoes for breakfast with a liter of water! and your lips will not bother you as much!", "I use Fresh Sugar lip exfoliator when my lips have dry skin, and Fresh Sugar lip therapy as a daily moisturizer. It's a little bit of an investment ($25/$23) but worth it if you can't stop biting your lips. Get a sample from Sephora and try it out. ", "I don't know if it's recommended or even if you're supposed to use it in this way but cocoa butter works wonders. They have little sticks that look like the glue sticks from grade school", "Chew gum. Any sugar-free variety will help keep your mouth from getting too dry and it's good oral hygiene between brushing and flossing.\n\nAlso, the others who said to use lip balm and to drink water are correct too. I wouldn't exfoliate my lips because that's probably more likely to make them bleed in the winter and I don't think it's necessary." ]

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[ "What's a good way to complete surveys in apps and on websites that grant rewards for them? Says it on the tin.", "What's a good way to complete surveys in apps and on websites that grant rewards for them? Says it on the tin." ]

[ "valuedopinions.com has been the most worth it for me. i've had 2 or 3 $20 payouts from that site. that, and if you can get in on a 20/20 survey (not sure of the full site name), is the way to go. ", "I like using Google opinion rewards. Gives you surveys every so often and you get anywhere from a few cents to a dollar for very short simple questions. They're usually asking things like if you've shopped at a particular store recently or what out of three things would most interest you. The dollar ones I've seen are often for leaving a review of a hotel stay." ]

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[ "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced.", "How to grocery shop. Hello LTP i am a college student and i don't know how to properly grocery shop. I am looking for any tips to save money but also keep food in my apartment. Thank you in advanced." ]

[ "For a college kid...\n\nWrite a list, stick to it...\n\nYou will see other items that you want but don't need.... Again, stick to the list...\n\nAlso, check your local store for coupons. Sometimes they have buy one get one. Get the Keychain cards, it saves some, check online for manufacturer coupons...", "Start keeping track of things you eat often and stock up on ingredients for those meals. I find I don't buy as much if I shop before the cabinets are looking too bare. It's also a little faster this way.\n\nLook for coupons in the store flyer, and maybe in the Sunday newspaper. But don't buy something just because you have a coupon, you won't save money that way.\n\nIf the store has a discount card, get one. This not only gets you the sale prices, but also sometimes prints coupons at the register.\n\nMake a list. Don't go shopping when you're hungry. You'll impulse buy. Avoid the endcaps (the shelves at the ends of the aisles) and cardboard displays. These aren't usually the best deals, even if they're on sale. Find those items in their regular spots in the the aisles so you can compare them to other products.\n\nBuy store brand products. They're often the same as the name brands, in a different box.\n\nCompare the unit prices. This is the price per pound/gallon/etc. It's printed on the shelf tag usually to the left of the price. This helps to compare products that are in different size packages. For example, comparing 24 ounces of one brand to 32 ounces of a different brand.\n\nFor non-perishable items that you'll use up, bigger packages are usually a better value (again, check the unit price on the tag). But for things that you won't use very much of, buying a large package might be a waste.\n\nTry to avoid individual packages. Getting a larger package and splitting it up is cheaper. Get the family size bag of potato chips and put a handful into a sandwich bag. Use a clothes pin to close up the big bag.\n\nIt can be a little intimidating at first, it just takes a little practice.", "Plastic food storage containers (they come in various sizes, but have airtight lids that clip down) are good for preserving perishables in the fridge. Similarly for freezer bags/ sandwich bags.", "Use an electronic list, there are plenty of shopping specific ones. I use Google Keep so I can write the list at home on my computer, then view it on my phone and tick it off.\n\nGroup your foods together in logical order. Each shop is different in the order of aisles, but figure out your local shop so you're not repeating aisles or walking from one end to the other and back again (a hobbit's tale).", "Plan your meals, then make a list of items required. Stick to list when shopping. Use app Bring to make your list. ", "Plan your meals and buy what you need for your meals. If you have a roommate that you're in good terms with, you could also plan meals together and save money by sharing grocery costs", "First step, I'd say learn to cook from scratch. Typically will be cheaper to buy the raw ingredients than prepackaged food.\n\nSecond, make a menu for the week and determine what you need to prepare it and what's missing from your fridge/pantry. That goes on the list.\n\nThird, take advantage of price match if it exists in your locale. In Toronto, the 3 entry-level grocery chains all do price-match. Use an app like Flipp to help you find the best deal and to save time at the cash register.\n\nFourth, contrary to another comment I read, *do* stock up on items not on your list that are at a fantastic price if you foresee using them in the future. For instance, I wasn't planning on buying flour the other day but I saw a 50% discount on a 10 kg bag, which quickly landed in my shopping cart. Flour lasts a long time and it's the base for many food when cooking from scratch.\n\nTo get ideas of menus for the week, check out /r/MealPrepSunday/\n\n", "Try going to the 99 cent or dollar store. Lots of bigger stores will jack up the price of items you can usually get way cheaper here. Additionally, espeically the 99 cent store, has a ton of good produce that is very affordable.", "Take advantage of discounts. There's no strings/angle. They need to move inventory to make room for new stuff.\n\nAvoid pre-made stuff. Buy ingredients and make for yourself. That said, sauces are more trouble than they're worth. Go ahead and stock-up on pasta sauces, bbq sauces, salad dressings, etc. Chicken and broccoli can feel like several different meals if you have several different sauces.\n\nPlan to shop a couple times a week. Meat and vegetables don't stay fresh long.", "LPT: shop around the perimeter of the store, there's (almost) nothing good in the middle isles of the store. ", "I've saved the most money and have had a large variety of food by not sticking to a list or plan. Instead (other than a few basics like milk and eggs), I tend to buy what's on clearance every week at the grocery store.\n\nThere's always meat and vegetables on clearance, as well as plenty of other products. I've found that the healthier an item is, the more often it goes on clearance. I'll always find items like organic yogurt for 75% off (or more), but I'll never see something like Hot Pockets on clearance.\n\nIf you have the room and plan on staying in your apartment for a while, consider stocking up when you see a good discount like that. 10 jars of organic salsa for 50 cents each may seem like a lot of money in salsa at first, but think about how long that could last you. Maybe in a couple of weeks, corn chips will be on sale, and if not, you can always use it to spice up some eggs.\n\nIt's important that you have patience. Don't impulse buy items unless they're heavily marked down (and they're something you'd want). Don't be afraid to experiment, there's sometimes interesting items no one wants to try in the ethnic aisles.\n\nAs far as how to actually shop in the store, stick to the outside where the product, meat, and dairy is. Once you've found some good buys, then take a look at a few select aisles depending on what you're interested in. Make sure you hit the ethnic and organic aisles for stuff other people may be overlooking.\n\nAlso, be sure to sign up for any rewards programs the grocery store offers, as well as to check for coupons and see if they have an online app for even more discounts. Coupons are often not that great by themselves, but I'm always finding ones for items that are already discounted, which just adds to the savings. I tend to not find physical coupons worth dealing with (unless it's something you really want to get), but digital ones are often fast and easy to work with while you shop.\n\nFinally, if you want to make the absolute most of all of this, visit the store several times a week -- assuming it's convenient. There's always new perishables being heavily discounted every day.\n\nAlso, try out all the grocery stores around you before you commit to one. I have a lot by me, but some (like Walmart and Publix) are really bad when it comes to discounts, while others (like Target and Kroger) are really good. So check around and see what the best options for you are.\n\nOnce you visit the store a few times, you'll have a good routine down and will know things like where the store puts clearance items, or what the clearance tags look like so you can quickly spot them on the shelves as you walk by.", "I don't know if this App works where you are, but I use this one called [Flipp.](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.wishabi.flipp&hl=en) You can type anything you want, brand name or item; and it will find you the lowest price out of all the circulated flyers in your area. Great for comparing prices and narrowing down which store to get more bang for your buck that week.", "A. Staples. That should be most of your list. Rice, beans, pasta, bread, eggs, frozen chicken, milk, frozen vegetables, tinned tuna, condiments you use all the time. Basically, have things around that go together in lots of different ways so you don't have to have a special recipe in mind. Veggies, rice and chicken -- stir fry. Beans, chicken and tortilla -- burrito. Veggies, chicken, and past and-- Italian night. It all will taste different, even though it's the same stuff.\n\nB. Get a variety of spices if you're just starting. It can totally change the flavors of a common dish into something else. Sauces do the same thing, and combined, you can do a lot of different things.\n\nC. Get bagged fruits rather than individual fruits. Cheaper that way. Frozen vegetables keep forever. Frozen meats keep a long time. Basically buy in bulk and freeze or refrigerate to keep it nice. \n\nD. Get those price checker apps, most places will at least match a lower price at another store, especially if they have that kid of app. Also coupons, they're usually pretty good. One thing to be aware of is that in the case of apps or clubs, usually the deals are in return for access to your shopping habits. Don't know if that's a deal breaker, but it's the way things work. ", "maybe an idea would be to make sure to buy the basics first and then branch off to buy stuff you're interested in?", "if you shop at walmart grocery, they have a neat tool they call the \"savings catcher\" \n\nall you do is scan the receipt after your trip. the tool then compares your paid prices to local ads nearby. \n\nsay you bought chips for $2.00 but savings catcher found a nearby deal for $1.00 so walmart will give you the $1.00 you could have saved. \n\nits excellent as long as you scan every receipt you buy. i saved $50 something dollars (over a year) & you can use those $50 to buy stuff with a walmart gift card ", "Pick a few recipes you want to make. Then go out and buy the ingredients. Try to buy store brands when available, and if your supermarket has sales, try to learn the patterns. Over time, you will learn what things \"should\" cost, and you'll be better able to identify deals. ", "My best idea was to come up with a plan for what I wanted to eat each week. (I'm kind of lucky that if I just plan out 7 meals one for each day I get really excited to get to each day).\n\nI basically know exactly what i'll eat each day, as such I can price it and budget for it. \n\nThe hardest bit is realistically sticking to it. \n\nAs a whole though definitely write yourself out a budget AND STICK TO IT!\n\nIf you just plan you food but don't budget anything else you'll quickly find yourself in a sticky situation!", "Know what a real \"sale price\" is, especially on items you buy frequently. When the price drops stock up if you can.\n\nExample. Sale! Sale! Sale! Whole chickens 99 cents a pound. They're always that price. Now I just saw in this weeks circular they are at 59 cents a pound. Looks like I'm stocking up!!\n\nI have a deep freezer so I can do that, stock up on meats, but the theory still applies. You have to know if you're getting a good deal or not, don't just think you are because they slap a \"sale\" sign on it. Hell, I've seen then advertise \"sale\" before when they actually raised the price. Know a good price remember it or keep a log, refer back when shopping.\n\nAlso get a slow cooker and head over to /r/slowcooking. You can get a good 4/5qt slow cooker for under $20. You'll be able to find some good recipes that are easy to make and will provide a few meals throughout the week.", "I see a lot of helpful tips, and I want to build on that.\n\nFirst, establish your pantry items. These are the core things you need on-hand. For me that's; canned goods, flour, sugar, pasta, and \"cheater\" meals to save time (like hamburger helper). \n\nTo save money, learn how to cook. Eggs, beans, potatoes, veggies=so cheap. Start simple, have patience, have fun. I like Alton Brown, and Allrecipes. \n\nWhen you shop, the list is your friend. You'll find your own style of shopping. \n\nTo avoid looking like a rube start in the back and weave your way down the aisles in a snaking motion. Pluck the items on your list. \n\n\n\n\n\n", "I lived alone for 7 months when I was 18. \nFind staples you like and buy that shit in bulk.\nBuy a water purifier (brita, zerowater, whatever), keep it in the fridge so it stays cold, and drink water all the time. Its free and cold ass filtered water is the shit.\nMy staples? \nBulk roasted peanuts for a cheap filling protein rich snack. \nI ate a lot of pasta with a bunch of roasted vegetables on top. Whatever the current cheapest vegetable is just toss in it olive oil/salt/pepper and roast that shit & throw in on pasta with sauce. \nBags of apples and bananas. Cheap good for you and good. \nAnd I would try not to eat it to much but I love me a good hot dog with all the fixins. \nAlso eggs. I ate so many eggs...\n \n", "Damn it Tim one box of hot pockets does not constitute buying your groceries for the week!\n\nSpend at least five mins in the fruit and veggie area before you carry on elsewhere. Makes you find a few nutrients. I usually also get waffles or hot pockets, maybe soups for a lazy throw in to my lunchbox. " ]

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[ "Dealing with aircon sore throats Recently got a job, however its an office job which means there's air-conditioning running all the time, which makes my throat dry and scratchy. Any tips to minimize this? ", "Dealing with aircon sore throats Recently got a job, however its an office job which means there's air-conditioning running all the time, which makes my throat dry and scratchy. Any tips to minimize this? " ]

[ "Potted plants. If you're not a green thumb, pothos & spider plants are easy, tolerant of neglect. Watering them & letting them breathe helps keep humidity levels higher. ", "Get a personal humidifier. Mid to high-end humidifiers are quite quiet and can really help you out.\n\nSource - Three weeks ago I woke up feeling like someone had literally sucked all the H2O out of my face. Bought a personal humidifier (cheapo one from the drug store) and put it to work. Next morning - not a single issue.\n\nFair warning, the cheap ones are loud as fuck." ]

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[ "How to get and stay motivated? College student here, just completed my first semester as a freshman. I was really excited and enthusiastic to start my studies at the beginning of school; I woke up in time for classes, went to recitations, did my homework/projects/readings diligently and timely, actively sought help from professors and TAs, and set aside multiple days to study before an exam. This effort paid off, as I maintained a 95-100 in all of my classes. However, at the time around thanksgiving break (middle of the semester), I started to lose steam. \nI began to stay up late without doing anything productive and often slept through multiple lectures and recitations, I wanted to set aside weekends to catch up on my classes but never did, I began procrastinating and didn't do my homework or study for a test until the day before. It got so bad that there were multiple occasions where I would crack open a textbook and start taking notes, then a few pages in, my mind would wander off and I'd put off my work to play one game of League of Legends (which would usually turn into 3-4). \nDuring finals week, I created a strict daily schedule to follow (dictating when I would eat and when I would study), but I strayed off it and, needless to say, didn't do too hot. I ended up with a C for one of my classes (for which I had gotten a 96 and a 93 on the first two exams) and a B for one of my other classes (which I had gotten a 100 on the first exam). Although I received A's in the rest of my classes, I'm kicking myself right now because I let myself slack off and give up on a very easy 4.0 (which really hurts my plans to go to Med school)... \nBeyond academics, I've also struggled with motivation to stay in shape/get stronger. I'm on a sports team at my school, and, at the beginning of the semester, I went to all of the practices as well as did extra workouts during off-days... Now, I haven't been to the gym in 2-3 weeks... \nThis loss of motivation has been a reoccurring theme in my life. I always get really passionate at working on something, then slowly lose motivation and soon abandon my projects. This happened to my high school career (which really hurt my chances in getting into my dream universities), and I'm watching in horror as it starts to take over my college career now. Please, I need some advice on anything I can do to battle this motivation loss. I need some tips that I can save on my computer and phone so that whenever I feel this way, I can look at them and figure out what I have to do. \ntl;dr I was really motivated at the start of my first freshman semester and performed well both athletically and academically, but due to motivation loss, I wrecked my grades in my classes and haven't been able to keep up my work ethic in and out of class.", "How to get and stay motivated? College student here, just completed my first semester as a freshman. I was really excited and enthusiastic to start my studies at the beginning of school; I woke up in time for classes, went to recitations, did my homework/projects/readings diligently and timely, actively sought help from professors and TAs, and set aside multiple days to study before an exam. This effort paid off, as I maintained a 95-100 in all of my classes. However, at the time around thanksgiving break (middle of the semester), I started to lose steam. \nI began to stay up late without doing anything productive and often slept through multiple lectures and recitations, I wanted to set aside weekends to catch up on my classes but never did, I began procrastinating and didn't do my homework or study for a test until the day before. It got so bad that there were multiple occasions where I would crack open a textbook and start taking notes, then a few pages in, my mind would wander off and I'd put off my work to play one game of League of Legends (which would usually turn into 3-4). \nDuring finals week, I created a strict daily schedule to follow (dictating when I would eat and when I would study), but I strayed off it and, needless to say, didn't do too hot. I ended up with a C for one of my classes (for which I had gotten a 96 and a 93 on the first two exams) and a B for one of my other classes (which I had gotten a 100 on the first exam). Although I received A's in the rest of my classes, I'm kicking myself right now because I let myself slack off and give up on a very easy 4.0 (which really hurts my plans to go to Med school)... \nBeyond academics, I've also struggled with motivation to stay in shape/get stronger. I'm on a sports team at my school, and, at the beginning of the semester, I went to all of the practices as well as did extra workouts during off-days... Now, I haven't been to the gym in 2-3 weeks... \nThis loss of motivation has been a reoccurring theme in my life. I always get really passionate at working on something, then slowly lose motivation and soon abandon my projects. This happened to my high school career (which really hurt my chances in getting into my dream universities), and I'm watching in horror as it starts to take over my college career now. Please, I need some advice on anything I can do to battle this motivation loss. I need some tips that I can save on my computer and phone so that whenever I feel this way, I can look at them and figure out what I have to do. \ntl;dr I was really motivated at the start of my first freshman semester and performed well both athletically and academically, but due to motivation loss, I wrecked my grades in my classes and haven't been able to keep up my work ethic in and out of class.", "How to get and stay motivated? College student here, just completed my first semester as a freshman. I was really excited and enthusiastic to start my studies at the beginning of school; I woke up in time for classes, went to recitations, did my homework/projects/readings diligently and timely, actively sought help from professors and TAs, and set aside multiple days to study before an exam. This effort paid off, as I maintained a 95-100 in all of my classes. However, at the time around thanksgiving break (middle of the semester), I started to lose steam. \nI began to stay up late without doing anything productive and often slept through multiple lectures and recitations, I wanted to set aside weekends to catch up on my classes but never did, I began procrastinating and didn't do my homework or study for a test until the day before. It got so bad that there were multiple occasions where I would crack open a textbook and start taking notes, then a few pages in, my mind would wander off and I'd put off my work to play one game of League of Legends (which would usually turn into 3-4). \nDuring finals week, I created a strict daily schedule to follow (dictating when I would eat and when I would study), but I strayed off it and, needless to say, didn't do too hot. I ended up with a C for one of my classes (for which I had gotten a 96 and a 93 on the first two exams) and a B for one of my other classes (which I had gotten a 100 on the first exam). Although I received A's in the rest of my classes, I'm kicking myself right now because I let myself slack off and give up on a very easy 4.0 (which really hurts my plans to go to Med school)... \nBeyond academics, I've also struggled with motivation to stay in shape/get stronger. I'm on a sports team at my school, and, at the beginning of the semester, I went to all of the practices as well as did extra workouts during off-days... Now, I haven't been to the gym in 2-3 weeks... \nThis loss of motivation has been a reoccurring theme in my life. I always get really passionate at working on something, then slowly lose motivation and soon abandon my projects. This happened to my high school career (which really hurt my chances in getting into my dream universities), and I'm watching in horror as it starts to take over my college career now. Please, I need some advice on anything I can do to battle this motivation loss. I need some tips that I can save on my computer and phone so that whenever I feel this way, I can look at them and figure out what I have to do. \ntl;dr I was really motivated at the start of my first freshman semester and performed well both athletically and academically, but due to motivation loss, I wrecked my grades in my classes and haven't been able to keep up my work ethic in and out of class.", "How to get and stay motivated? College student here, just completed my first semester as a freshman. I was really excited and enthusiastic to start my studies at the beginning of school; I woke up in time for classes, went to recitations, did my homework/projects/readings diligently and timely, actively sought help from professors and TAs, and set aside multiple days to study before an exam. This effort paid off, as I maintained a 95-100 in all of my classes. However, at the time around thanksgiving break (middle of the semester), I started to lose steam. \nI began to stay up late without doing anything productive and often slept through multiple lectures and recitations, I wanted to set aside weekends to catch up on my classes but never did, I began procrastinating and didn't do my homework or study for a test until the day before. It got so bad that there were multiple occasions where I would crack open a textbook and start taking notes, then a few pages in, my mind would wander off and I'd put off my work to play one game of League of Legends (which would usually turn into 3-4). \nDuring finals week, I created a strict daily schedule to follow (dictating when I would eat and when I would study), but I strayed off it and, needless to say, didn't do too hot. I ended up with a C for one of my classes (for which I had gotten a 96 and a 93 on the first two exams) and a B for one of my other classes (which I had gotten a 100 on the first exam). Although I received A's in the rest of my classes, I'm kicking myself right now because I let myself slack off and give up on a very easy 4.0 (which really hurts my plans to go to Med school)... \nBeyond academics, I've also struggled with motivation to stay in shape/get stronger. I'm on a sports team at my school, and, at the beginning of the semester, I went to all of the practices as well as did extra workouts during off-days... Now, I haven't been to the gym in 2-3 weeks... \nThis loss of motivation has been a reoccurring theme in my life. I always get really passionate at working on something, then slowly lose motivation and soon abandon my projects. This happened to my high school career (which really hurt my chances in getting into my dream universities), and I'm watching in horror as it starts to take over my college career now. Please, I need some advice on anything I can do to battle this motivation loss. I need some tips that I can save on my computer and phone so that whenever I feel this way, I can look at them and figure out what I have to do. \ntl;dr I was really motivated at the start of my first freshman semester and performed well both athletically and academically, but due to motivation loss, I wrecked my grades in my classes and haven't been able to keep up my work ethic in and out of class.", "How to get and stay motivated? College student here, just completed my first semester as a freshman. I was really excited and enthusiastic to start my studies at the beginning of school; I woke up in time for classes, went to recitations, did my homework/projects/readings diligently and timely, actively sought help from professors and TAs, and set aside multiple days to study before an exam. This effort paid off, as I maintained a 95-100 in all of my classes. However, at the time around thanksgiving break (middle of the semester), I started to lose steam. \nI began to stay up late without doing anything productive and often slept through multiple lectures and recitations, I wanted to set aside weekends to catch up on my classes but never did, I began procrastinating and didn't do my homework or study for a test until the day before. It got so bad that there were multiple occasions where I would crack open a textbook and start taking notes, then a few pages in, my mind would wander off and I'd put off my work to play one game of League of Legends (which would usually turn into 3-4). \nDuring finals week, I created a strict daily schedule to follow (dictating when I would eat and when I would study), but I strayed off it and, needless to say, didn't do too hot. I ended up with a C for one of my classes (for which I had gotten a 96 and a 93 on the first two exams) and a B for one of my other classes (which I had gotten a 100 on the first exam). Although I received A's in the rest of my classes, I'm kicking myself right now because I let myself slack off and give up on a very easy 4.0 (which really hurts my plans to go to Med school)... \nBeyond academics, I've also struggled with motivation to stay in shape/get stronger. I'm on a sports team at my school, and, at the beginning of the semester, I went to all of the practices as well as did extra workouts during off-days... Now, I haven't been to the gym in 2-3 weeks... \nThis loss of motivation has been a reoccurring theme in my life. I always get really passionate at working on something, then slowly lose motivation and soon abandon my projects. This happened to my high school career (which really hurt my chances in getting into my dream universities), and I'm watching in horror as it starts to take over my college career now. Please, I need some advice on anything I can do to battle this motivation loss. I need some tips that I can save on my computer and phone so that whenever I feel this way, I can look at them and figure out what I have to do. \ntl;dr I was really motivated at the start of my first freshman semester and performed well both athletically and academically, but due to motivation loss, I wrecked my grades in my classes and haven't been able to keep up my work ethic in and out of class." ]

[ "I bet it was because your classes started becoming more difficult week by week and you had a hard time so the rewarding feeling of completing something was not so abundant. If you know what I mean. \n\nMy advice: study in a place where you have no distractions. When you are finished what needs to be finished, then go home. Do not study at home if you find yourself distracted by games and YouTube and whatnot. You might have days where you go home late at night or super early. Just do what you gotta do in school then go home. \n\nYou can also make class easier for yourself by studying ahead. I think a lot of students lose motivation when they are behind in class and never catch up and scramble to study for midterms. ", "Some things that helped me in college:\n\n- Stick to a solid routine\n- Learn from your mistakes\n- Motivate yourself by focusing on a goal. Sometimes it may simply be to avoid the awful feeling of being behind/procrastinating)\n- Learn to say no to yourself \n- Identify procrastination habits/excuses, and then don't fall for them in the future\n- Get back up when you fall. Don't spend time feeling sorry for yourself or focusing on how you fell into a bad habit yet again. Just focus on getting back to doing what you need to. \n\nThe grind of college can really stink, but it's worth it. You can do it!\n\n", "Pace yourself. The best way to approach it is to think of a semester as a cross country race. You can't sprint at the very beginning otherwise you'll lose all of your energy. The goal is to conserve energy where you can while still maintaining a productive pace. If you feel yourself running out of steam, slow down and re-evaluate your pace. Set aside specific time for schoolwork and playtime and also sleep time. Never leave an assignment unfinished and say you'll finish it in the morning before class. When you decide you are done for the day, be done for the day. Don't mix your times together or it will muddy real fast and it'll feel like whiplash, which will exhaust you even more. Also, be sure to eat right! You can't run a race after eating an entire pizza. Be nice to your body and it will be nice back. Drink lots of water.\n\nIf you feel you are losing motivation, try to remind yourself why you started your routine in the first place. It's easy to lose sight of goals when you're in the thick of it. I like to make to-do lists when I feel overwhelmed in classes. Try to prioritize your assignments and hunker down and chip away at them one by one. Instead of saying \"I have all this work to do.\" Think, I'm going to do this one assignment.\nConcentrate on one thing at a time. Putting on study music will help set the work mood. Make a playlist of instrumental music as the lack of lyrics prevents distraction. I recommend Ratatat for a starter station on Pandora. I hope this helps! I am a\nSenior and this has helped me balance my life tremendously. You got this!", "Lay off porn and video games and you haven't already.\nYou are kicking ass at a more serious aspect of life - your education and future! \n\nAlso, the human brain will get bored pretty easily. For example, I picked up piano playing last year. Unless I constantly learn new things and push myself to research interesting musical theory or songs, I lose interest because it becomes a monotonous, non-dynamic hobby. (not to mention nobody wants to play the same thing over and over again lol)\n\nI played LoL and WoW for a lot of my life. (I am 29 now) But it doesn't please me anymore. I realize with my college work, the gym, building my foundation for future and continuing my hobbies, video games are just MODIFYING pixels. There is nothing you created after playing the game. See, the video game isn't contributing to my goals at all. In fact, I can't have fun anymore with them because the gaming culture is very immature and toxic now. Even single player games, old school PS1 games, etc....its so, limited.....I get much more fulfillment from drawing a picture, playing keyboard, or even m", "Don't try to stay motivated. Cultivate discipline.\nMotivation will come and go, discipline will keep you on track.\n\nMake a schedule, make a habit of working everyday.\nWhen it's time to work, you should not be thinking \"Do I work or not?\" but rather \"Oh, it's time to work\".\n\nHave a look at the GetDisciplined subreddit, especially the wiki. They explain it better than I can.\n\nI hope this helps." ]

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[ "What are your favorite space-saving, organizational hacks to use around the house? I was just attacked by BOTH seas of cables living in my entertainment center.", "What are your favorite space-saving, organizational hacks to use around the house? I was just attacked by BOTH seas of cables living in my entertainment center.", "What are your favorite space-saving, organizational hacks to use around the house? I was just attacked by BOTH seas of cables living in my entertainment center." ]

[ "Zip ties, more zip ties, and for added safety more zip ties. And of course a trash can, minimalism never hurt anybody.", "If you haven’t used anything essential in the last three months then get rid of it, there’s no point keeping a hold of something if you’re hardly ever going to use it. If it’s a sentimental thing though then keep it by all means.", "Shoebox-sized bins for organizing stuff. I have an allergy to dust mites, so it makes dusting so much easier. Used to be able to find them at the dollar tree, haven't looked recently to see if they're still there.\n\nTwist ties for cables. Rearranging desks means the cables need to be redone, and this lets me reuse the ties, unlike zip ties.\n\nCraft supplies storage has tiny compartments which doubles as hardware storage. Organize all those nails, screws, nuts, bolts, bits, hooks...\n\nNote: I don't have pets.\n\n" ]

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[ "How to read a book for class &amp; write a paper on it quickly. I'm in my second year of college and have never had to read 225 pages and write a 6-page review on it in 3 days until now. How can I accomplish this quickly?\n\nI've seen other LPT's about making an outline, copying passages into a Word document, etcetera. That will come in handy when writing the review, but it doesn't help the reading portion of the assignment. Is there a quick way to read 225 pages in such a short amount of time? What is the best way to approach this?\n\n", "How to read a book for class &amp; write a paper on it quickly. I'm in my second year of college and have never had to read 225 pages and write a 6-page review on it in 3 days until now. How can I accomplish this quickly?\n\nI've seen other LPT's about making an outline, copying passages into a Word document, etcetera. That will come in handy when writing the review, but it doesn't help the reading portion of the assignment. Is there a quick way to read 225 pages in such a short amount of time? What is the best way to approach this?\n\n" ]

[ "Three days is a pretty quick time for 225 pages, but I would get started as soon as possible. \n\nRead actively and keep a notebook handy. Write down your thoughts and feelings right as you have them even if its a little scattered. Include page numbers for reference if there is something important such as quotes that you can use. ", "Even though this probably doesn't help you directly now: Do read it and don't bail out on the task. Even if someone gives you a way to do this by some kind of fast way.\nReading is a essential skill and you will need to practice this to get faster. I read fairly often and for me I wouldn't find 225 pages a lot to read in three days if I had to. I propaply get through more than 50 pages and hour when reading properly and thoroughly." ]

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