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[ "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n" ]

[ "Put the alarm clock or phone, whichever your using to wake, as far away from the bed as possible in the room. If you have to get up out of bed to turn it off your less likely to climb back under the covers to go asleep again.", "It helped me to drink a lot of water before going to bed. That way you will have to pee in the morning and have to get up. You just have to find the correct amount of water, that you don't have to get up in the night.", "I dealt with this for my entire university career, and only managed to fix it (somewhat) after I started working. Here's what helped:\n\nPut my phone far away from bed so I have to get up to turn it off\n\nMake sure I sleep at a decent time; no bright screens 1hr before bed\n\nDon't set alarms unless I have to - this makes sure I actually get the sleep my body needs (I can function fine on 5-6hr of sleep but my body definitely wants more sleep than that)\n\nMake sure my room is warm when I wake up so I can comfortably get out of my covers\n\nStop drinking coffee, especially late (coffee messes up my sleep, and the withdrawal in the morning makes it hard to wake up too)\n\nBut the gist of it is basically, make it as easy to get out of bed as possible, whatever that takes for you. It's much easier to stay out of bed once you're already out of it.", "Get a couple of different items to set alarms on - watch, phone, clock(s), and set them around the room for different times.", "Don't use anything with a snooze. Use traditional alarms (mechanical clocks with bells) instead of your phone. Put one really loud obnoxious alarm so far from your bed that you have to get out of bed to deactivate it.\n\nSplash your face with water as soon as you hit the alarm and go make yourself a strong cup of coffee.", "Average sleep cycle is around 90 minutes, if you have to get up at 0830 your first alarm should ring at 0700, then you can go back to sleep and get up again at 830 feeling covered enough sleep.", "Lifelong problem for me. But the other morning I dreamt that I was having diarrhea while Bob Ross waited outside and when I woke up I was suddenly ready to start the day because the waking world was better than my dream.", "I snooze through multiple alarms. The thing that's worked best is a very annoying alarm clock. If I'm snoozing for an hour that's not quality sleep so I'd rather be jarred awake. There's one alarm that is loud and vibrates the bed. Ive seen there are others that have you do something more complex than pressing one button." ]

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[ "How to clean the dust farm that ends up on your fans? I'm speaking of oscillating blade fans and the like. It seems like it would take forever and a day to clean each slot on the outside and inside cage. ", "How to clean the dust farm that ends up on your fans? I'm speaking of oscillating blade fans and the like. It seems like it would take forever and a day to clean each slot on the outside and inside cage. ", "How to clean the dust farm that ends up on your fans? I'm speaking of oscillating blade fans and the like. It seems like it would take forever and a day to clean each slot on the outside and inside cage. ", "How to clean the dust farm that ends up on your fans? I'm speaking of oscillating blade fans and the like. It seems like it would take forever and a day to clean each slot on the outside and inside cage. " ]

[ "How about one of those vacuum attachments with bristles? I use them to clean the slats on other fan grilles just fine, and you can clean the blades with the attachment too.", "you can actually hose them down outside. (try not to saturate the motor). usually the motor is enclosed anyway. just give it plenty of time to dry before using it, i've done this many times and it works.", "I take the cover off and use the small broom that came with my dust pan. Get it done in 30 seconds and no drying time!", "Usually you only need to remove a few screws or hand tight nuts to remove those guards, then blades. Then you just hose them off in the yard or bathtub/shower." ]

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[ "What is the best method to learn a language? Hi guys, I was reading the book \"Fluent Forever\" by Gabriel Wyner and found it interesting the beginning, but I thought it ended up getting confused in the final part of building sentences etc. I liked the SRS system but I think something was missing. I want to learn English, which is the best method you've ever seen? other than the obvious immersion (movies, songs etc), I would like tool tips, guides and how to follow. Thank you.\n", "What is the best method to learn a language? Hi guys, I was reading the book \"Fluent Forever\" by Gabriel Wyner and found it interesting the beginning, but I thought it ended up getting confused in the final part of building sentences etc. I liked the SRS system but I think something was missing. I want to learn English, which is the best method you've ever seen? other than the obvious immersion (movies, songs etc), I would like tool tips, guides and how to follow. Thank you.\n", "What is the best method to learn a language? Hi guys, I was reading the book \"Fluent Forever\" by Gabriel Wyner and found it interesting the beginning, but I thought it ended up getting confused in the final part of building sentences etc. I liked the SRS system but I think something was missing. I want to learn English, which is the best method you've ever seen? other than the obvious immersion (movies, songs etc), I would like tool tips, guides and how to follow. Thank you.\n", "What is the best method to learn a language? Hi guys, I was reading the book \"Fluent Forever\" by Gabriel Wyner and found it interesting the beginning, but I thought it ended up getting confused in the final part of building sentences etc. I liked the SRS system but I think something was missing. I want to learn English, which is the best method you've ever seen? other than the obvious immersion (movies, songs etc), I would like tool tips, guides and how to follow. Thank you.\n", "What is the best method to learn a language? Hi guys, I was reading the book \"Fluent Forever\" by Gabriel Wyner and found it interesting the beginning, but I thought it ended up getting confused in the final part of building sentences etc. I liked the SRS system but I think something was missing. I want to learn English, which is the best method you've ever seen? other than the obvious immersion (movies, songs etc), I would like tool tips, guides and how to follow. Thank you.\n" ]

[ "Your English is pretty good if you wrote the question! Immersion is my personal tip! I learnt German over the last few years whilst living in Germany. I could be better but I generally enjoy watching TV/YouTube etc in English. Unless is was filmed in german. I hate knowing how a voice should sound and it being ruined by a voice over! ", "Try changing your phone and/or computers language to that you are learning. music in that language can also help.", "One way is to do simple math drills in the language you are trying to learn. Something about working both sides of the brain and being able to count (and multiply, divide) trains the brain to accept the new language. ", "As a native English speaker currently learning Chinese, I'd say the best way is to study grammar before words, and find a friend who speaks English you can practice with.\n\nEnglish grammar is (famously) really stupid, so you can't go as far as Chinese using just good grammar, but it still helps. (Chinese is a bad example though because it's so regular) Using simple words well makes you look more skilled than complex words poorly.\n\nGetting an actual English-speaking friend also is a good idea. No matter how skilled the website / book / etc, it can't tell you if you make a mistake, while a friend can.\n\nAlso, if you watch TV etc, switch off English audio / native subs and English subs / native audio, so you get good at both.\n\n(Out of curiosity, what's your native language?)", "First suggestion is live in that country. You have to learn by force. If that is not feasible then program such as Duolingo. If I remember correctly, you pair with native speaker. You teach him or her your fluent language and you get train in their language.\nAnother option is to watch movies and TV shows, " ]

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[ "Mosquito repellents that don't require chemical application? We are being eaten alive and even the citronella candles don't seem to work anymore. Not interested in slathering on repellent to sit on our back patio and enjoy a cold beer at sunset. What are the best options? Those sound emitting machines seem gimmicky.", "Mosquito repellents that don't require chemical application? We are being eaten alive and even the citronella candles don't seem to work anymore. Not interested in slathering on repellent to sit on our back patio and enjoy a cold beer at sunset. What are the best options? Those sound emitting machines seem gimmicky.", "Mosquito repellents that don't require chemical application? We are being eaten alive and even the citronella candles don't seem to work anymore. Not interested in slathering on repellent to sit on our back patio and enjoy a cold beer at sunset. What are the best options? Those sound emitting machines seem gimmicky.", "Mosquito repellents that don't require chemical application? We are being eaten alive and even the citronella candles don't seem to work anymore. Not interested in slathering on repellent to sit on our back patio and enjoy a cold beer at sunset. What are the best options? Those sound emitting machines seem gimmicky.", "Mosquito repellents that don't require chemical application? We are being eaten alive and even the citronella candles don't seem to work anymore. Not interested in slathering on repellent to sit on our back patio and enjoy a cold beer at sunset. What are the best options? Those sound emitting machines seem gimmicky.", "Mosquito repellents that don't require chemical application? We are being eaten alive and even the citronella candles don't seem to work anymore. Not interested in slathering on repellent to sit on our back patio and enjoy a cold beer at sunset. What are the best options? Those sound emitting machines seem gimmicky.", "Mosquito repellents that don't require chemical application? We are being eaten alive and even the citronella candles don't seem to work anymore. Not interested in slathering on repellent to sit on our back patio and enjoy a cold beer at sunset. What are the best options? Those sound emitting machines seem gimmicky.", "Mosquito repellents that don't require chemical application? We are being eaten alive and even the citronella candles don't seem to work anymore. Not interested in slathering on repellent to sit on our back patio and enjoy a cold beer at sunset. What are the best options? Those sound emitting machines seem gimmicky.", "Mosquito repellents that don't require chemical application? We are being eaten alive and even the citronella candles don't seem to work anymore. Not interested in slathering on repellent to sit on our back patio and enjoy a cold beer at sunset. What are the best options? Those sound emitting machines seem gimmicky.", "Mosquito repellents that don't require chemical application? We are being eaten alive and even the citronella candles don't seem to work anymore. Not interested in slathering on repellent to sit on our back patio and enjoy a cold beer at sunset. What are the best options? Those sound emitting machines seem gimmicky.", "Mosquito repellents that don't require chemical application? We are being eaten alive and even the citronella candles don't seem to work anymore. Not interested in slathering on repellent to sit on our back patio and enjoy a cold beer at sunset. What are the best options? Those sound emitting machines seem gimmicky.", "Mosquito repellents that don't require chemical application? We are being eaten alive and even the citronella candles don't seem to work anymore. Not interested in slathering on repellent to sit on our back patio and enjoy a cold beer at sunset. What are the best options? Those sound emitting machines seem gimmicky.", "Mosquito repellents that don't require chemical application? We are being eaten alive and even the citronella candles don't seem to work anymore. Not interested in slathering on repellent to sit on our back patio and enjoy a cold beer at sunset. What are the best options? Those sound emitting machines seem gimmicky.", "Mosquito repellents that don't require chemical application? We are being eaten alive and even the citronella candles don't seem to work anymore. Not interested in slathering on repellent to sit on our back patio and enjoy a cold beer at sunset. What are the best options? Those sound emitting machines seem gimmicky." ]

[ "Have you tried Avon Skin-so-Soft? It repels mosquitos and flies.\n\nBaby oil works too but if you get in the sun, you are gonna fry\n\n", "Citronella has never worked. I've never seen a scientific test that found other than \"it's complete marketing bullshit\".\n\nThe only things that work are:\n\n- reducing their numbers by making your habitat one that mosquitos don't like (dry, no sheltering vegetation) or using one of those very expensive traps, but they don't work very well.\n\n- large amounts of DEET.\n\nEveryone has their own pet anti-mosquito talisman. It's been a while since I looked into it but the last actual studies I've seen said they were all hokum and the only thing that worked was DEET.", "The first thing is if you have any standing water around your place, such as a rain bucket, old trash can, a tire swing, make sure you eliminate that. They also have various yard based mosquito controls available from sprays to foggers that you can apply occasionally to help control the mosquitoes around your place. If you can reduce them that way I would then keep your citronella candles or torches going as a final layer of defense.", "My favourite ways of getting rid of mosquitos:\n\n* Building bat houses. fun and extremely effective.\n\n* Those incense-like products, that are shaped like a coil.\n\n* UV-lights with electrified net. Zaps mosquitos and flies real good.\n\n* In the evening, never leave the windows open, especially if you have the lights on. That'll draw every insect in the vicinity. If you need to have them open, get mosquito nets.\n\n* I live near to water, so I try to do what I can to make better conditions for fish and frogs there, such as making artificial covers for the fish by dumping tree branches tied together and weighted so that it sinks, and leaving some tall grass near the water.\n\nDespite haven the conditions for a mosquito breeding ground, I actually have extremely little problems with them.", "put ground coffee in a heatproof pot and light it. it will produce a bit of smoke that will repell mosquitos", "You can plant actual citronella plants, along with marigolds - which are pretty, but I find marigolds smell like cat pee. There's also those green coils you can burn that are pretty effective. ", "Was discussing this with a neighbor last night.\n\nAre there still Avon dealers around? My mom wore their Skin-So-Soft and was never bothered with mosquitoes.\n\nHere are some [natural remedies](http://wellnessmama.com/2565/homemade-bug-spray/). Chances are your mom has got some With Hazel in the bath cabinet...", "Moving air helps. A fan. I have ceiling fans on my porch, and they do help.\n\nOn a sidenote, I've read if you're type o blood, you taste better to a mosquito. Don't know if that's true or not.", "Mosquito coils work great. They're also very cheap. Don't buy this overpriced amazon one though: https://www.amazon.com/Coghlans-Mosquito-Coils-2-packs-coils/dp/B00WA9HPW0/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1464831906&sr=8-2&keywords=mosquito+coils\n\nBuy some mosquito repelling oils and put them in an oil diffuser. There are many mosquito repelling oils, not just those in this link: https://www.amazon.com/3-Pack-Variety-NOW-Essential-Oils/dp/B00VS18XEK/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1464831956&sr=8-1&keywords=mosquito+oil Mix a bunch of them together for maximum effectiveness. You can also spray them on the ground, chairs, walls, clothes, etc.\n\nOff! makes a clip on fan that pushes out mosquito repelling chemicals. https://www.amazon.com/OFF-MOSQUITO-CLIP--STARTER-3-Pack/dp/B00MNRK2GK/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1464831857&sr=8-1&keywords=off+clip When the cartridge gets used up, spray the oils in it to reuse it.\n\nMosquito bracelets: https://www.amazon.com/Mosquitavert-Natural-Mosquito-Repellent-Bracelets/dp/B014SDB6AC/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1464832042&sr=8-3&keywords=mosquito+bracelet\n\nBuy an electronic insect killer and put it far away to get the bugs to fly somewhere else: https://www.amazon.com/Flowtron-BK-15D-Electronic-Insect-Coverage/dp/B00004R9VZ/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1464832078&sr=8-3&keywords=bug+zapper", "I noticed this on a bike trail. \n\nIf you bike instead of walk, you'll be too fast for them to land on you.", "Bug zappers are very ineffective. Mosquitoes are only lured by the UV because it helps them find water to lay eggs. They are attracted by high concentrations of CO2, so fans and chemicals to mask the CO2 work best. Oils and burning anything in the mint family, such as Sage, is effective at repelling mosquitoes. \n\nBut ya, bug zappers do more harm than good. ", "At our cabin, we installed bat houses to help cut down on the insects including mosquitoes. And while a bat's diet isn't as full of mosquitoes as some people think, they do in fact seem to be helping on cutting back on all of the insects we were dealing with. And of course, you'd have to be okay with having bats around and not everyone is. But if you are, I would totally suggest looking into it.\n\nBefore doing this I'd do some research on it as there are certain things, such as not putting it too close to power lines, that affect how useful the bat house may be. ", "An industrial bug zapper. Recently purchased one for our garage, makes very satisfying loud popping noises and have only been bitten once from standing outside after dark for an hour", "I take garlic pills 2-3 times a day during the summer. It works great & it's better than sprays/ointments you put on your skin as it works even if you're in water. " ]

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[ "How do you reintroduce yourself to someone you've already met, without making them feel like a jerk? ", "How do you reintroduce yourself to someone you've already met, without making them feel like a jerk? " ]

[ "Just re-introduce yourself if they look confused. \"Nice to see you again.\" *puzzled look* \"Hi, I'm AudgieD we met last year at X conference.\" smile then quickly change the subject to something neutral or even just comment on how you have trouble remembering people as well. \n\nIt's something that is inevitable but if you're polite and give them a way out it won't make things as awkward as just standing there and them looking puzzled and stumbling for words. ", "My methods. \n\n\nHey AudgieD! Nice to see you again. It must be xx months since :event/occasion of last encounter:\n\nGood to see you AudgieD. timpwb from last years belly button lint forum! \n\nAudgieD? It's timpwb from Catheter Connections! Good to see ya!\n\nYmmv " ]

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[ "Is there a website for finding friends? Weird question, I know. But there are websites for dating, but what about just finding like-minded people to hang out with. Totally platonic.\n\nI'm moving to an area for work where I have only one friend besides my immediate family. That's why I ask. ", "Is there a website for finding friends? Weird question, I know. But there are websites for dating, but what about just finding like-minded people to hang out with. Totally platonic.\n\nI'm moving to an area for work where I have only one friend besides my immediate family. That's why I ask. ", "Is there a website for finding friends? Weird question, I know. But there are websites for dating, but what about just finding like-minded people to hang out with. Totally platonic.\n\nI'm moving to an area for work where I have only one friend besides my immediate family. That's why I ask. ", "Is there a website for finding friends? Weird question, I know. But there are websites for dating, but what about just finding like-minded people to hang out with. Totally platonic.\n\nI'm moving to an area for work where I have only one friend besides my immediate family. That's why I ask. ", "Is there a website for finding friends? Weird question, I know. But there are websites for dating, but what about just finding like-minded people to hang out with. Totally platonic.\n\nI'm moving to an area for work where I have only one friend besides my immediate family. That's why I ask. " ]

[ "http://www.meetup.com/\n\nIt's for finding, well, meetups for people with similar interests or hobbies.", "Shit's hard, man, I know. Work is gonna have to provide that social structure. Dating apps work because of their superficiality. A lot of the interest is driven by attraction and ultimate romantic interest. Potential ulterior motives for just meeting random \"friends\" online are a lot less predictable, and potentially more sinister. I would recommend you do actually use a dating app, but just look for like-minded members.", "If you go to craigslist and look under 'relationships' then the gender of friend you seek then 'platonic' you can sometimes meet cool people. One person I met there has been my friend for 4 years.\n\nAlso check 'activity partner' which is filled with 80% people looking for a work-out buddy, 20% people who think this is the place to request sex.\n\nSome people also think 'platonic' means sex. I used these before meetup was around, and still check them once in a while.\n\nThere is always rentafriend.com, but that can be a bit desperate.\n\nI moved around a lot (worldwide) and the fastest way I've made friends was usually volunteering for a cause for which I had passion. Local clubs & activities as well.\n\nThe first rule is to put on clothes and leave your dwelling.", "Use the meetme app if you have a smart phone, some people are fake on there but most are real. Its a very nice app.", "Have you tried the subreddit of the town you're moving to? You could set up a meet up with people on there or see if one is already scheduled!" ]

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[ "A way to improve my font style Hi reddit!\n\nMy font style (obviously in handwriting) has always been horrible, every single teacher tell me: \"You should improve that\" well, my main problem is that I changed my font style once, at it was beautiful, but I used to write so slow, with some time I improved that, but now is horrible again, I feel like the calligraphy books doesn't work.\n\nAny tips?\n\n", "A way to improve my font style Hi reddit!\n\nMy font style (obviously in handwriting) has always been horrible, every single teacher tell me: \"You should improve that\" well, my main problem is that I changed my font style once, at it was beautiful, but I used to write so slow, with some time I improved that, but now is horrible again, I feel like the calligraphy books doesn't work.\n\nAny tips?\n\n" ]

[ "Were those pictures taken with your webcam from 2002?\n\nJoke aside, there is a balancing act with handwriting speed vs accuracy. You have to find what works for you, practicing with work that is not time sensitive at first.", "Get a fountain pen. Use it upside down. Using it upside down restricts the directions the nib can move and gives your handwriting a good look." ]

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[ "How can I turn some iTunes gift cards into something of actual value? Besides buying something from iTunes, obviously. I have Apple products, but iTunes seriously failed to keep up with the times. ", "How can I turn some iTunes gift cards into something of actual value? Besides buying something from iTunes, obviously. I have Apple products, but iTunes seriously failed to keep up with the times. " ]

[ "You can buy stuff on iTunes other than music, such as movies and tv series that aren't on Netflix or Amazon. There are also courses you can listen to online via iTunes, and if you have Apple products, you can use the cards to buy apps or upgrade your apps to ad-free versions.", "I was going to say [Coinstar Exchange](https://www.coinstar.com/coinstarexchangecardsaccepted), but they don't take iTunes." ]

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[ "Removing the small pieces of wallpaper like [this](http://media.home-decorating-reviews.com/images/remove_wallpaper_borders2.jpg)\n\n\nI think the wallpaper is \"easy-to-peel\" because I got most of it off in one piece, but there are tiny pieces left everywhere. I can peel them off still but some are so tiny I can't get a grip with my nails. I've only dry peeled and it's a wallpaper border. I don't want to go out and buy anything for this job because usually the products are so much (price and volume) and I really don't need that much. Are there any home remedies that people know to get this off without spending too much money?\n\n", "Removing the small pieces of wallpaper like [this](http://media.home-decorating-reviews.com/images/remove_wallpaper_borders2.jpg)\n\n\nI think the wallpaper is \"easy-to-peel\" because I got most of it off in one piece, but there are tiny pieces left everywhere. I can peel them off still but some are so tiny I can't get a grip with my nails. I've only dry peeled and it's a wallpaper border. I don't want to go out and buy anything for this job because usually the products are so much (price and volume) and I really don't need that much. Are there any home remedies that people know to get this off without spending too much money?\n\n" ]

[ "You can try hot water first. Spray it sponge it on, wait, scrape. You may not need to use anything else. Be sure to wash the wall well to remove any residual paste. ", "Diluted laundry softener in a garden sprayer,spritzer or sponge . Spray, letting it sit a bit before using old loyalty card or spatula to get the stubborn stuff. You really have to wash the walls to get the residual glue from 'blooming' or reactivating should you repaint." ]

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[ "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number.", "There have been several reports of people scouting houses on my street for a robbery, what can I do to reduce the chance they'll target me? I've also seen the same silver sedan stop at the end of my driveway three times this week. Never got outside quick enough to get a plate number." ]

[ "Devise a plan where you have different booby traps at different layers of the house. Maybe put a hot iron on the door handle so they burn their hand when they get in. Toy cars/marbles on the floor, a torch connected to one of the doors so when they open the door they scald the top of their head. Tie some cans of paint to the bannister so when they run up the stairs you can hit them in the face with the paint cans. Oh, and keep a tarantula handy in case they get their hands on you and you need a quick getaway.\n\nAnd make sure you tell the police they currently go by the Sticky Bandits, but are formerly known as the Wet Bandits", "This might sound not correct or fair, but if you have a friend, family member, neighbor, colleague, or anyone with connections to a police department, mention it. Sometimes when there is a familial or friend concern, they can make more valid suggestions than if a stranger calls a random desk line. \n\nDifferent suggestion: make sure your insurance is up to date for what is covered. Cover big things (tvs and computers) as well as smaller things (clothes, DVDs, artwork). That stuff also costs money to replace.", "There is surely a cheap camera on ebay which could be rigged up at the end of the driveway to capture footage of the car.", "Grab their licence number and make sure everything is locked properly, most thieves just look for an easy open door or window to get into the house,if you hear anything suspicious call the police ", "Grab a couple of wireless cameras from Amazon and install them outside. They’re cheap (around 29 a pop), and just the thought of being caught on camera will make them think twice to even approach your house. Try to grab a model that has infrared for filming at night, and some cloud service to upload the footage to.\n\nMy wife has a clinic and we have cameras out front, in the back entrance, on both outside corridors, and inside pointing to both entrances. All cameras are motion activated and will trigger alerts on our phones when things move. Also, motion activated lights on the outside - people will be really scared when all of the sudden a light turns on when they pass-by.\n\nI also have a couple of hue lights installed, so it turns on and off automatically during the night (easy enough to setup thru your smartphone). We spent maybe 500 dollars on everything but we can sleep off without worrying her expensive equipment will be robbed.", "Dont keep valuables in open view, lock your windows and doors always, turn on exterior lighting at night. Call the local police non emergency line and request additional patrols. ", "My home was robbed middle of night, timer on lights great idea!Also be aware of people going door to door solicitation -could be scouting your house out! Flashlights travling road at night.Look out for this, people hide in the bushes! Sorry, but it is terrifing!", "There are fake cameras on Amazon too\n\nI have heard putting an old pair of men's boots on the front porch works, use a large size and make sure they are dirty and worn. Basically you want to create signs of activity.\n\nSecurity sign somewhere on property, do what the other houses on your street do, if everyone has a sign you put one up too, if there are no signs on anyone else's house, no need for this. You do not want to be the odd one out.\n\nDo not post pics of the inside or outside of your house on social media.\n\nDo not post publicly where you are going on social media\n\n", "I would also call the police and report the suspicious vehicle even if you don't have the plate number, this way they know what to look out for, you can also ask to step up patrol in the area, since you already have a reason for asking you should be good.", "Get a dog or a beware of dog sign. Also as someone said, leave one or two dog bowls out front. The bigger the bowl the bigger the dog is assumed to be", "Even if it doesn't work, a security camera with some cables that appear to run inside the house, in plain view, will be a deterrent. Not only will they be reluctant to rob your house, but also houses in the immediate area because they know there may be footage of them breaking into the house next door/across the street. Maybe even fake burglar alarm signs (like those \"protected by ADT\" or whatever signs you see). \n\nOther than that, make sure everything is secure. Take a lap before going to be to check every door and window. Don't leave small valuables (jewelry, tech, etc) in plain sight. \n\nHave a flashlight by your bed , perhaps a weapon (pepper spray or taser if you don't want/can't afford a gun; your preference). Remember, a good flashlight also makes for a good weapon. Those big maglites double as clubs. \n\nIf you do get a gun, be absolutely sure you know the laws regarding home defense in your area. You don't wanna be one the losing end of a legal battle trying to protect your house/family. ", "5 D's\n\nDeter, Detect, Deny, Delay and Defend\n\n\nhttp://www.securitymagazine.com/articles/82833-the-5-d-s-of-outdoor-perimeter-security", "You can try leaving the living room light on, so they will think there is people inside. Hope this helps you.", "This might be off topic, but is it a bad idea to keep my windows open at night if I live on the second floor? I asked a couple of cops near where I lived. They smiled and said that if I wanted to play a numbers game, I would win. Now reading this, I'm getting nervous.", "Putting monitoring signs in the windows is easy enough, you can make something up that looks legit as a security company sign and add it to the window. I have heard of people putting fake cameras in front of their door. \n\nIf you get timers some are complex enough that you can set them to vary so they don't come on at 8 pm every day. \n\nKeeping the blinds closed, keep bricks and rocks away from the outside of the house, put motion sensor lights on outside.", "Put a false security sign in your front yard. \n\nFirst Alert YS-1 Video Security Surveillance Yard Sign https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0050IP0Y8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_vIbDzbKDYT2K4\n", "Get your neighbors involved. Even if you don't get hit, one of them might. If you're not a social person (I'm not) consider joining NextDoor and post there when you see something. \n\nPeople in my neighborhood set up a Facebook group for our area, and there is constant activity on it about lost dogs, items for sale, the bear that wanders around our streets, and suspicious people hanging around. We've had a run of people's cars getting broken into and since then everyone's been on the lookout.", "Bright outside lights with motion sensors are a low cost addition to your property that can discourage intruders.\n \n" ]

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[ "How do I stop being so damn anxious about work related issues? I hate how anxious I feel whenever there's a work issue as the feeling affects me even when I'm not working. I know in my heart that logically \"What's the worst that could happen?\" but still I am left with a heavy feeling in my chest which I really hate. I am envious of my friends who seem to be able to separate their work issues from their activities outside of work.", "How do I stop being so damn anxious about work related issues? I hate how anxious I feel whenever there's a work issue as the feeling affects me even when I'm not working. I know in my heart that logically \"What's the worst that could happen?\" but still I am left with a heavy feeling in my chest which I really hate. I am envious of my friends who seem to be able to separate their work issues from their activities outside of work.", "How do I stop being so damn anxious about work related issues? I hate how anxious I feel whenever there's a work issue as the feeling affects me even when I'm not working. I know in my heart that logically \"What's the worst that could happen?\" but still I am left with a heavy feeling in my chest which I really hate. I am envious of my friends who seem to be able to separate their work issues from their activities outside of work.", "How do I stop being so damn anxious about work related issues? I hate how anxious I feel whenever there's a work issue as the feeling affects me even when I'm not working. I know in my heart that logically \"What's the worst that could happen?\" but still I am left with a heavy feeling in my chest which I really hate. I am envious of my friends who seem to be able to separate their work issues from their activities outside of work.", "How do I stop being so damn anxious about work related issues? I hate how anxious I feel whenever there's a work issue as the feeling affects me even when I'm not working. I know in my heart that logically \"What's the worst that could happen?\" but still I am left with a heavy feeling in my chest which I really hate. I am envious of my friends who seem to be able to separate their work issues from their activities outside of work.", "How do I stop being so damn anxious about work related issues? I hate how anxious I feel whenever there's a work issue as the feeling affects me even when I'm not working. I know in my heart that logically \"What's the worst that could happen?\" but still I am left with a heavy feeling in my chest which I really hate. I am envious of my friends who seem to be able to separate their work issues from their activities outside of work.", "How do I stop being so damn anxious about work related issues? I hate how anxious I feel whenever there's a work issue as the feeling affects me even when I'm not working. I know in my heart that logically \"What's the worst that could happen?\" but still I am left with a heavy feeling in my chest which I really hate. I am envious of my friends who seem to be able to separate their work issues from their activities outside of work." ]

[ "this may not help but it's something to keep in the back of your mind; the robots will eventually replace you, the boss and probably the entire business. so, what you do right now doesn't really matter. in fact if, you mess up you are really just expressing one of the last truly human moments inside the industry. you may well necessitate some kind of specific programming quirk that the AI cannot trace because back in the day you messed up so bad that management had to make a note of it in some long ago log that was interpreted by the first iteration of the AI and now is just a forgotten instance of human impact on a machine brain. Or you could go the other way. Everything you do has an impact and every breath taken is important and if the boss sees you breathing heavily she may just take that as some kind of undue stress level and give you a free week of vacation where you meet the person of your dreams and get offered a dream job by another amazing person you meet at the hotel bar. it's either dust or butterflies. but really it's just you at work and even if the project is critical or your industry relies on you, it's a job for money which allows you things don't take anything with you after you punch the clock. this includes paper clips and personal ticks. the time will pass and you get to choose the emotional state that you allow to permeate and propagate. if you feel anxiety, trace it to instances at work, people you engage with on the job, or projects you feel uncomfortable with. identity can help and once you identify the source you can either limit your time with that thing or you can engage it more honestly. trouble is if you are feeling anxiety about 'this' job and not others it may just be the field itself. if its 'work' then it will take some effort to do but it shouldn't emotionally effect you in such a way as to make you feel mentally unfit. people on the internet telling you to relax is not really going to help but identifying, compartmentalizing and scheduling/ managing your anxieties /things that give you anxieties can help. finding the absurdity of worry can help and it's how we started this but it will be up to you. distraction can help as well but then of course you aren't really doing your job. i would stay away from couches and pill bottles because it seems as though you are addressing the problem and have identified something within you that isn't stuck on being uncomfortable. you are already in the active role so get back in that stale cube and try making a giant rubber band ball, or avoid Judy (she's a bitch with her own problems), imagine all the customer's that order lattes naked on the show 'naked and afraid' (how would they do?), tell Frank that his jokes make you nervous and he needs to floss, maintain the understanding of the absurdity and go with a gallows smile while filling out those spreadsheets. or quit.", "Unfortunately this is normal and never truly goes away. You just have to learn to deal with it. Personally, I use that anxiety to power my way through tedious and boring work.", "Talk to your manager, often. A great manager should know how to coach you to cope and can help shift your perception on what is urgent and important or not urgent or important. Often I find staff are anxious about a task which simply isn't important in the scheme of things - having your manager realign your priorities can help remove stress or at minimum ensure it's at least focused on things that really matter!\n\nIf your manager isn't capable of delivering this for you, find a mentor in the business you can catch-up with regularly.\n\nKnowing someone has got your back and is in partnership with you - and hearing them tell you this often - helps keep that overwhelming knotted stomach feeling in check. ", "Try taking a sabbatical or long vacation(3 weeks or longer) and even better travel out of the country. Preferably to a different continent. hopefully you will realize that it doesn't really matter that much and it will help you place unimportant things in perspective. ", "Look at ways of preventing the issues that are stressing you.\nBe proactive and phone/contact any customers and colleagues that you are in the process of dealing with before they chase you. Even cutting down in coming calls creates a calmer atmosphere.\nBe organised and manage time well.\nAsk for help where appropiate - you would be surprised how many co workers would help or share best practice.\nMost of all get things in perspective eg. I used to stress if a customer was complaining about missing a small furniture component part but then would hear my young nieces who are nurses and social workers talking about the horrors of their jobs and realised it's all relative.\nAt the end of the working day have a cut-off point eg. switch off as you lock up or start the car to go home.\nAlso think will this problem be important in a week / month / quarter?\nGood luck.\n", "Know your job. What you, personally, are responsible for, the standard to which you're held, and what is realistic. Set realistic goals for yourself and try to meet them. Just try to remember that it's not gonna be perfect, but... that's okay.(: \n\nI've played gigs with union musicians, and nobody can break like those guys. They play HARD, until that buzzer goes off. Then, shit gets dropped, legs crossed, books/phones pulled out, hope you weren't in the middle of a sentence because they are NOT listening kind of break. ", "I know what you are going through, having worked at a high stress industry - it's really hard to switch off from work sometimes, and that heavy feeling in the chest is so tight it almost feels like you can't breathe. While logically we know that it is not the end of the world, the whole \"fight or flight\" feeling, anxiety etc is very real.\n\nA combination of the following has helped tremendously in helping me cope: \n\n\nAcknowledge how you are feeling and accepting that it is ok - I find that we are quick to judge what we are feeling (e.g. I feel anxious, this is bad and I shouldn't be feeling that way) - accepting it for what it is and giving yourself permission to feel the way you feel takes the pressure and judgment off yourself \n\n\n2 minute breathing exercises - this helps when I am in the thick of it (e.g. high pressure client meetings) and need to quickly calm down and focus. Breathe to the count of 4, hold your breath for 4 counts, and let go for 4 counts. \n\n\nTalk it through with a mentor / someone you trust and is supportive - sometimes when talking it out you realize that the problem is not as terrible as it is - and hearing a different perspective helps you approach the situation differently.\n\n\nphysical exercise - this helps to take your mind off and also gives you a way to relieve the stress/frustration of the work day. If in the middle of the work day, a quick walk out of the office helps\n\n\nSound m" ]

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[ "How to fix a dented metal bumper. I have an old GMC camper can that I recently dented the bumper on.. \n\nI looked online and found something to do with blow drying it and spraying CO2 but it sounded a little strange and I wasn't too confident in it.\n\nPics in the comments\n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated!", "How to fix a dented metal bumper. I have an old GMC camper can that I recently dented the bumper on.. \n\nI looked online and found something to do with blow drying it and spraying CO2 but it sounded a little strange and I wasn't too confident in it.\n\nPics in the comments\n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated!", "How to fix a dented metal bumper. I have an old GMC camper can that I recently dented the bumper on.. \n\nI looked online and found something to do with blow drying it and spraying CO2 but it sounded a little strange and I wasn't too confident in it.\n\nPics in the comments\n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated!" ]

[ "The C02 and hair dryer is an attempt to use thermal expansion/contraction of the metal to your advantage. So you want to heat it with the hair dryer and then when it's good and hot, take the canned air, invert it, and spray the propellant on the heated surface. The idea is that the cooled surface will contract and force out the dent before the rest of the bumper has cooled.\n\nBased on your pictures, I'm not sure if it would work on that, but you might be able to rent a dent puller from your local parts place. It basically looks like a crowbar with a slide weight attached to it. You stick the hooked part on to the dented area from behind and use the slide weight to provide a way to apply force to the hooked end, since you can't really apply direct force to the area without removing the bumper first.", "If you can be behind the dent you might be ale to push it out. There is a tool to get dents out, it's a pipe with a sliding weight on it", "Sorry about the bad angle, the van is tightly parked in our car port but you can see the [dent](http://i.imgur.com/jXB1rvX.jpg).\n\nI took a picture of the front of the van too but I don't think it's necessary. (But ill post it anyways)\n[Front](http://i.imgur.com/egOEZKy.jpg)" ]

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[ "How to get a smart phone on AT&T without using or paying for a data plan. My old phone of three years is dying. I'd like to get a smartphone and use the wifi, but I can't afford the absurd charges for data. Is there a way around this? I've heard AT&T can detect what kind of phone you are using and will automatically add on a data plan. \n\n", "How to get a smart phone on AT&T without using or paying for a data plan. My old phone of three years is dying. I'd like to get a smartphone and use the wifi, but I can't afford the absurd charges for data. Is there a way around this? I've heard AT&T can detect what kind of phone you are using and will automatically add on a data plan. \n\n", "How to get a smart phone on AT&T without using or paying for a data plan. My old phone of three years is dying. I'd like to get a smartphone and use the wifi, but I can't afford the absurd charges for data. Is there a way around this? I've heard AT&T can detect what kind of phone you are using and will automatically add on a data plan. \n\n", "How to get a smart phone on AT&T without using or paying for a data plan. My old phone of three years is dying. I'd like to get a smartphone and use the wifi, but I can't afford the absurd charges for data. Is there a way around this? I've heard AT&T can detect what kind of phone you are using and will automatically add on a data plan. \n\n", "How to get a smart phone on AT&T without using or paying for a data plan. My old phone of three years is dying. I'd like to get a smartphone and use the wifi, but I can't afford the absurd charges for data. Is there a way around this? I've heard AT&T can detect what kind of phone you are using and will automatically add on a data plan. \n\n", "How to get a smart phone on AT&T without using or paying for a data plan. My old phone of three years is dying. I'd like to get a smartphone and use the wifi, but I can't afford the absurd charges for data. Is there a way around this? I've heard AT&T can detect what kind of phone you are using and will automatically add on a data plan. \n\n" ]

[ "you call at&t and buy a pay as you go plan.\nyou specifically ask for a plan that doesn't include data.\nYou don't have to buy what you don't want.", "I work at a AT&T call center and you will be put on a data plan. Also we can see the exact imei number of the device being used to see you have a smartphone, there's no way around it", "There is a trick but it requires you to have an OLD non-3G Cingular SIM. If you can find one of these on eBay, then you are golden. They don't even have a data circuit in them - and you won't be missing that because you don't want data - so your phone cannot report back to ATT what its IMEI is. The only downside is that you cannot MMS (picture-text).\n\nI have just such an old SIM and have to be ever vigilant about it being replaced by in-store techs. It seems that whenever you go in to get whatever done they always want to simply activate you on a different SIM. They give me the, \"She's crazy,\" look whenever I bare my teeth and growl at them as they try to do that and say, \"I like this SIM. I want to stay with it.\"\n\nAs a result, I've been data free and WiFi smart phone having since 2006.", "I'm nit sure about at&t but with T-Mobile if you buy a phone and put in your sim it will work and they don't require you to use data, as long as you don't sign a contract at the beginning promising you will.", "the only way you can do it is very illegal. You can fuck with the radio on the phone so it thinks it's your old phone", "My mother uses my old IPhone 3GS and does not have a data plan with AT&T. You of course have to turn the data off on the phone. Also she told me that they call occasionally and say they know she has an iPhone or ask her if she has one. You just have to play dumb and ask them what they are talking about, and that you do not have one." ]

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[ "How to make extra cash? With school soon to be over, how else can I make money? I already have a job but I would like to use the extra free time to make even more. ", "How to make extra cash? With school soon to be over, how else can I make money? I already have a job but I would like to use the extra free time to make even more. ", "How to make extra cash? With school soon to be over, how else can I make money? I already have a job but I would like to use the extra free time to make even more. ", "How to make extra cash? With school soon to be over, how else can I make money? I already have a job but I would like to use the extra free time to make even more. ", "How to make extra cash? With school soon to be over, how else can I make money? I already have a job but I would like to use the extra free time to make even more. ", "How to make extra cash? With school soon to be over, how else can I make money? I already have a job but I would like to use the extra free time to make even more. ", "How to make extra cash? With school soon to be over, how else can I make money? I already have a job but I would like to use the extra free time to make even more. ", "How to make extra cash? With school soon to be over, how else can I make money? I already have a job but I would like to use the extra free time to make even more. " ]

[ "/r/beermoney has some great ways to make money on the side without having to commit to a job if you just want something casual. most popular is probably turking. /r/mturk /r/HITsWorthTurkingFor ", "You can sell your blood plasma on a regular basis for a little extra cash, but doing it too frequently can cause health problems. 2-3 times a month should be perfectly safe even over the long term, but you can do it up to twice a week for short periods if you really need to.\n\nYou can do odd jobs for your neighbors for cash as well - ask around, you never know what someone might be willing to pay you to do.", "Spend the time developing a marketable skill. Could be writing, programming/coding, social media marketing, or any of [these skills.](http://a5.files.readwrite.com/image/upload/c_fit,cs_srgb,w_620/MTIyMzAyNjk2NTY3ODk4NzI2.png).\n\nIt might not make any money right away, but will set you up for future success. Invest time and energy into yourself, and it will pay off.", "Seek out elderly neighbors and ask if they need help. Simple things like changing light bulbs in ceiling fixtures, moving heavy boxes, minor home repairs, cleaning out flower beds, etc. become difficult with age. Having a willing neighbor to pay for services helps them continue to live independently.", "Babysitting, especially if you can find a family that needs you regularly. \n~~Dod~~ Dog walking/pet sitting. You can make some good money doing \"overnights\" and you sometimes get to stay at super nice houses. \nErrand-runner, this one is a little tougher to get going, but people are busy and need their groceries shopped for, dry cleaning picked up, and packages mailed. \n\n", "To start with, sell as much stuff as you can. It will declutter and you make money at the same time. ", "Here's what I did in my final two years of school and how much it paid per month:\n-Deliver newspapers (120€)\n-Collect scrap metal and bring it to the junk yard (300-500€)\n-put up posters of upcoming events throughout the town (around 300€)\n-Deliver pizza (around 150-200€)\n\nBefore that my first job ever was to was dishes in my parents restaurant as they didn't want to pay 800 German mark for a ps2, took me 2 months and a lot of dirty plates.", "Go to your local 'for sale in' page on Facebook and join in. People are always asking for help/selling things. Craigslist is a great (not so safe, but , eh.) way to sell your unwanted stuff as well." ]

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[ "Best way to clean kitchen strainers made of wire mesh if you don't have a dishwasher. I'm always having little bits of stuff stuck in them, and it's hard to even tell whether you got everything. ", "Best way to clean kitchen strainers made of wire mesh if you don't have a dishwasher. I'm always having little bits of stuff stuck in them, and it's hard to even tell whether you got everything. ", "Best way to clean kitchen strainers made of wire mesh if you don't have a dishwasher. I'm always having little bits of stuff stuck in them, and it's hard to even tell whether you got everything. ", "Best way to clean kitchen strainers made of wire mesh if you don't have a dishwasher. I'm always having little bits of stuff stuck in them, and it's hard to even tell whether you got everything. ", "Best way to clean kitchen strainers made of wire mesh if you don't have a dishwasher. I'm always having little bits of stuff stuck in them, and it's hard to even tell whether you got everything. " ]

[ "Soak it for quite a while in hot soapy water, but before the water gets cold, turn it over so the bowl side is round side up, and bang it hard on a cutting board placed edgewise into a sink. This dislodges any still-warm things that are still glued to it by grease and knocks most of 'em into the sink. Then rinse and it's usually fairly clean. \n\n(Tomorrow, I'll post a life pro tip on how to clean a cutting board.)", "Do you have a pot scrubby brush? Anything with stiff bristles (vegetable brush?) I find works pretty well. That just makes getting the stuff out of the mesh easier, doesn't help with the spotting it bit. Even _with_ a dishwasher, half the time you still have crap left in the mesh. ", "Ever since we had my son I always keep a bottle brush on the sink. They're great for most dishes and especially items with screens such as a strainer. \n\nGet a plain one, some have a sponge sewn into the top. I would avoid them as the sponge breaks apart long before it's time to replace the brush. ", "Scrub-a-dub with Dawn (best I've seen) then pour boiling water thru it. I do that for my grease mesh vents above stove.", "Rinsing from the back doesn't work? Maybe try something less fine - anything smaller than a pea can go down without issue. " ]

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[ "Good ways to practice cognitive thought while roaming? It came to me today after passing a guy with very distinct features. Afterwards, I quizzed myself on his features (for some reason) and found myself describing him pretty accurately, in my own lone opinion. \n\nIt came to me that doing this might be good practice for cognitive thought. And maybe even handy in a worst case scenario, witnessing a crime. \n\nDo you know of any other exercises that one can do while out and about? E.g. on the street, on the bus, in a store, or other places where your mind normally wanders.", "Good ways to practice cognitive thought while roaming? It came to me today after passing a guy with very distinct features. Afterwards, I quizzed myself on his features (for some reason) and found myself describing him pretty accurately, in my own lone opinion. \n\nIt came to me that doing this might be good practice for cognitive thought. And maybe even handy in a worst case scenario, witnessing a crime. \n\nDo you know of any other exercises that one can do while out and about? E.g. on the street, on the bus, in a store, or other places where your mind normally wanders.", "Good ways to practice cognitive thought while roaming? It came to me today after passing a guy with very distinct features. Afterwards, I quizzed myself on his features (for some reason) and found myself describing him pretty accurately, in my own lone opinion. \n\nIt came to me that doing this might be good practice for cognitive thought. And maybe even handy in a worst case scenario, witnessing a crime. \n\nDo you know of any other exercises that one can do while out and about? E.g. on the street, on the bus, in a store, or other places where your mind normally wanders.", "Good ways to practice cognitive thought while roaming? It came to me today after passing a guy with very distinct features. Afterwards, I quizzed myself on his features (for some reason) and found myself describing him pretty accurately, in my own lone opinion. \n\nIt came to me that doing this might be good practice for cognitive thought. And maybe even handy in a worst case scenario, witnessing a crime. \n\nDo you know of any other exercises that one can do while out and about? E.g. on the street, on the bus, in a store, or other places where your mind normally wanders.", "Good ways to practice cognitive thought while roaming? It came to me today after passing a guy with very distinct features. Afterwards, I quizzed myself on his features (for some reason) and found myself describing him pretty accurately, in my own lone opinion. \n\nIt came to me that doing this might be good practice for cognitive thought. And maybe even handy in a worst case scenario, witnessing a crime. \n\nDo you know of any other exercises that one can do while out and about? E.g. on the street, on the bus, in a store, or other places where your mind normally wanders." ]

[ "Try constantly orienting yourself to landmarks without looking for them. It'll force your mind to keep track of turns and distances. ", "Switch to cardinal directions instead of left, right, forward and back. You'll find it easier to keep track of new locations and how to find them.", "Pick a sense that you don't normally use very often, and focus on that.\n\nScents influence my mood greatly and I have a freakishly amazing sense of smell. I am very aware of all the scents around me and how they mix as I move from place to place.\n\nWith ADHD, I also hear/see a lot more detail than some other people, but it goes in and out of my brain very quickly. Lately I've been trying to pick some object (a not shiny object) and keep it in my field of view. I didn't realize how hard it would be to NOT switch to the next thing in a microsecond.\n\nMany scientists agree there are at least 9 senses (balance, pressure, hunger, thirst). So if you get bored with the ones you are using, here are some more:\n\nhttp://www.todayifoundout.com/index.php/2010/07/humans-have-a-lot-more-than-five-senses/", "I pick a person who looks very different from me and mentally play out what course my life would need to take over the next several years to put me in that persons shoes. \n\nOr I start assigning roles to people in the checkout line for if there were to be a zombie apocalypse. Leader, doctor, fear-monger...", "http://www.wilywalnut.com/secretagent.html\n\nThis seems to be helpful, especially the parts about checking details in the room. " ]

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[ "Mosquito Control (Traps, repellents, etc) What are your most effective least hazardous methods for Mosquito Control. I live in South Florida and my gym is in my garage, its borderline unbearable with a mosquito invasion anytime after 5pm around here. Plus I live by a lake. ", "Mosquito Control (Traps, repellents, etc) What are your most effective least hazardous methods for Mosquito Control. I live in South Florida and my gym is in my garage, its borderline unbearable with a mosquito invasion anytime after 5pm around here. Plus I live by a lake. " ]

[ "I would invest in a electric gizmo which would bring on a mosquito holocaust. \n\nhttp://www.hytte.no/myggfelle/myggfelle.gif Skeetervac Mosquito Exterminator\n\nSomething like that\n\n\n", "My dad got this amazing contraption, I don't know where he got it or the name, but it's basically a propane powered bug smoker. You just smoke that on your yard about twice a year, and Mosquitos are never a problem. I could call my dad and ask for details on how to get one if you're interested." ]

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[ "doing laundry I usually just mass throw all of my clothes in wash it cold and dry it. I use soap and softener which I just casually pour in and throw a hand full of sheets in the dryer. \n\nSomeone please give me the skivvy on being good at laundry.", "doing laundry I usually just mass throw all of my clothes in wash it cold and dry it. I use soap and softener which I just casually pour in and throw a hand full of sheets in the dryer. \n\nSomeone please give me the skivvy on being good at laundry.", "doing laundry I usually just mass throw all of my clothes in wash it cold and dry it. I use soap and softener which I just casually pour in and throw a hand full of sheets in the dryer. \n\nSomeone please give me the skivvy on being good at laundry.", "doing laundry I usually just mass throw all of my clothes in wash it cold and dry it. I use soap and softener which I just casually pour in and throw a hand full of sheets in the dryer. \n\nSomeone please give me the skivvy on being good at laundry.", "doing laundry I usually just mass throw all of my clothes in wash it cold and dry it. I use soap and softener which I just casually pour in and throw a hand full of sheets in the dryer. \n\nSomeone please give me the skivvy on being good at laundry." ]

[ "Well. I worked at a laundromat for a few years. What I can remember off the top of my head...\n\n* Separate lights, whites, darks, and delicates. If you're anal, separate vibrant colors too. Lights on warm, whites on hot, darks and delicates on cold. Never wash anything that can shrink on hot/warm, though.\n* Dry heavy things like jeans, pillows, and bedding on high. Most other things are fine on medium. Careful with drying sweaters. Never dry anything on hot that was washed in hot water.\n* Air dry delicates such as bras, anything with rhinestones/sequins, underwear, collared shirts, tanks, etc. Technically these should also be handwashed but ain't nobody got time for that.\n* Read the fucking tags. If it says dry clean only, it means it. Careful with dry cleaning snapbacks, though.\n* For a 15lbs washer machine, fill up to the 2 line in the cap. Excess detergent will damage the machine. Your laundry won't be any cleaner if you use more. If you want more fragrant laundry, use softener and dryer sheets.\n* For less wrinkles, cheapest is to fold as soon as the dryer stops. Otherwise, put wrinkled clothes on your body, wet your hands with warm/hot water, and smooth down. Can't get wrinkles out of those hard to reach places, but it's better than being a pruned mess\n* Shaving razors gets lint balls off\n* Shout is awesome for spot treatment, but spraying it on the armpits/collars/cuffs of your whites will help delay yellowing for some time.\n* Leave your washer open overnight if you have a mustiness problem.\n* If you want fluffier laundry, invest in a dryer ball.\n* Turn everything inside-out before washing, but especially printed graphic tees. Helps preserve the print.\n\nIf you don't care though, separate whites/lights and darks/colors. Wash former on warm, latter on cold. Dry former on cold, latter on hot. Separate delicates, wash cold, air dry or dry low if you don't care for long-lasting laundry. For stray lint balls caused by not separating, use razor blade tip above.", "Watch out for that many dryer sheets. It'll seriously gum up the internals and the exhaust with the residue. One should do the job just fine. And don't use them with towels, as the residue is water resistent and towels won't absorb water well afterwards.", "Here are a few things I can just suggest...\n \n- Separate the whites/lights and darks/colors\n \n- Measure the soap/softener with the markings on the bottle\n \n- 1 to 2 dryer sheets per load is usually good enough", "Get a drying rack. Extends the life and color of many clothes, saves energy costs, and safer for delicates and woolens.", "When you forget you have clothes in the washer, and discover this when they've started getting mildew smelling, add a cup of white vinegar to your wash water when you re-wash them. It'll get rid of the gross smell. If you forgot them for a week and they're really gross, you might have to do vinegar washing twice before the smell is gone." ]

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[ "Which type of A/C filter to use? I was wondering what this community thinks of buying the dirt cheap blue fiberglass air conditioning filters (<$1 usually) versus the pleated brands: 3M Filtrete (~$5-$20). \n\nWhile living in a smaller condo, my AC unit broke and the freelance AC repair guy told me that the cheap blue ones were the best since they didn't overwork your unit. I've read that they the blue ones don't help to truly \"filter\", \"clean\", or \"purify\" the air. I don't get allergies, but I don't want dust all over either. \n\nI've moved and live in a 2 story house with an AC unit for each floor. I was wondering if I should still continue with the cheap blue ones or pleated. \n\nIt would be great if there was an expert on the subject matter, because if I can just use the blue filters I would be saving over $100/yr. ", "Which type of A/C filter to use? I was wondering what this community thinks of buying the dirt cheap blue fiberglass air conditioning filters (<$1 usually) versus the pleated brands: 3M Filtrete (~$5-$20). \n\nWhile living in a smaller condo, my AC unit broke and the freelance AC repair guy told me that the cheap blue ones were the best since they didn't overwork your unit. I've read that they the blue ones don't help to truly \"filter\", \"clean\", or \"purify\" the air. I don't get allergies, but I don't want dust all over either. \n\nI've moved and live in a 2 story house with an AC unit for each floor. I was wondering if I should still continue with the cheap blue ones or pleated. \n\nIt would be great if there was an expert on the subject matter, because if I can just use the blue filters I would be saving over $100/yr. ", "Which type of A/C filter to use? I was wondering what this community thinks of buying the dirt cheap blue fiberglass air conditioning filters (<$1 usually) versus the pleated brands: 3M Filtrete (~$5-$20). \n\nWhile living in a smaller condo, my AC unit broke and the freelance AC repair guy told me that the cheap blue ones were the best since they didn't overwork your unit. I've read that they the blue ones don't help to truly \"filter\", \"clean\", or \"purify\" the air. I don't get allergies, but I don't want dust all over either. \n\nI've moved and live in a 2 story house with an AC unit for each floor. I was wondering if I should still continue with the cheap blue ones or pleated. \n\nIt would be great if there was an expert on the subject matter, because if I can just use the blue filters I would be saving over $100/yr. ", "Which type of A/C filter to use? I was wondering what this community thinks of buying the dirt cheap blue fiberglass air conditioning filters (<$1 usually) versus the pleated brands: 3M Filtrete (~$5-$20). \n\nWhile living in a smaller condo, my AC unit broke and the freelance AC repair guy told me that the cheap blue ones were the best since they didn't overwork your unit. I've read that they the blue ones don't help to truly \"filter\", \"clean\", or \"purify\" the air. I don't get allergies, but I don't want dust all over either. \n\nI've moved and live in a 2 story house with an AC unit for each floor. I was wondering if I should still continue with the cheap blue ones or pleated. \n\nIt would be great if there was an expert on the subject matter, because if I can just use the blue filters I would be saving over $100/yr. " ]

[ "As a maintenance tech, one should use the manufacturers recommended filter. Air flow through the unit is what is key. Placing filters in the unit that limit airflow could lead to malfunction (freeze up, coolant loss, etc.). If you want to clean your air, get an air cleaner. I always wanted one of the filter less ionizing ones. Changing filters can be worse than having the cleaner at all. ", "We use Filtrete Red. What our HVAC tells us is that changing the filter religiously every month is what is extending the life of our old unit.", "I used the blue one when i first got my house bc my house needed a weird size and it was like $15 a filter. my ac filter is wall mounted (not in the ceiling) and after a few weeks, the filter fell back out of place and the AC had no filter. \n\nnext think i know.. the AC shuts down bc the coils are covered in dust... $400 repair later.. \n\nnever again. \n\nim no expert, but the dust in your house comes from you and your dead skin cells... i really think a lot of the crap about high quality filters is just marketing. i think the biggest deal with a filter is keeping the coils clean.. your house is not a sealed container... just opening the front door can let in allergens, dirt, etc.. and we drag it in on our clothes and person everyday. ", "I have a odd size filter for my air unit. After reading and reading and reading, I decided to get a permanent filter (you wash it out monthly). Best thing I ever did. No more struggling to find odd shaped filters AND the coils were cleaner the last time I looked at them and the airflow is the same as is recommended by the manufacturer.\n\nIt isn't a HEPA filter or any such thing and might or might not block allergens. As someone with no allergies to non-food things, I don't even notice allergens to be able to tell a difference." ]

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[ "How to stay focused on the task at hand I'm supposed to be studying for a test right now but somehow I've managed to find absolutely everything else to do instead. Any tips on helping me stay focused? This would also be helpful in all other parts of my life as well.", "How to stay focused on the task at hand I'm supposed to be studying for a test right now but somehow I've managed to find absolutely everything else to do instead. Any tips on helping me stay focused? This would also be helpful in all other parts of my life as well.", "How to stay focused on the task at hand I'm supposed to be studying for a test right now but somehow I've managed to find absolutely everything else to do instead. Any tips on helping me stay focused? This would also be helpful in all other parts of my life as well.", "How to stay focused on the task at hand I'm supposed to be studying for a test right now but somehow I've managed to find absolutely everything else to do instead. Any tips on helping me stay focused? This would also be helpful in all other parts of my life as well.", "How to stay focused on the task at hand I'm supposed to be studying for a test right now but somehow I've managed to find absolutely everything else to do instead. Any tips on helping me stay focused? This would also be helpful in all other parts of my life as well.", "How to stay focused on the task at hand I'm supposed to be studying for a test right now but somehow I've managed to find absolutely everything else to do instead. Any tips on helping me stay focused? This would also be helpful in all other parts of my life as well." ]

[ "It's important to have a place that is only meant for studying. That is, don't studying in your bedroom, house, gym. If you are a student the library or a quiet coffee shop is a great asset. Turn off your phone, don't bring it, or at the very least put it on do not disturb. \n\nStudying is a skill that is learned. Becoming more effiencient at studying and learning will also help you for when you need to hunker down. You will be able to learn more in less time. A few tips besides taking proper notes (google how to correctly take notes) are:\n\n1. Get adequate sleep. This helps with memory formation \n\n2. Work out. That blood flow helps with memory retention.\n\n3. Take 10min break every hour (as another poster said). A lot of research has been put into human attention span. You can train to have a longer attention span, but this guideline works for most.\n\n4. Don't just read material. Test yourself continually on it. Hopefully your professor will assign homework or questions. If not, make up your own. Making up questions also allows you to manipulate information you are learning. This will help you learn it quicker.\n\n5. Don't move on from a concept until you can recite or remember it. I use a cheap laminated paper and white board marker to keep writing down stuff verbatim. I don't move on until I get it correct. \n\n6. Teach someone else. Teaching someone else can help you as well!\nI hope this helps. There are tons of research to support all of this, however I am too lazy right now to post it.", "Get back to it, and give yourself a break for 10 minutes each hour. Otherwise, stay at it. You want to do anything else, but stay at it. You can do it, but you have to do it to do it.", "[This](https://addons.mozilla.org/de/firefox/addon/forest-stay-focused-be-present/) helped me a lot. You tell it to start growing a little (virtual tree) if you stop focusing on your task and start browsing it kills the tree. You can see the forrest you have grown over time.", "Rule of life..anything is more interesting than what your supposed to be doing. \n\nI work better with a bit of deadline pressure..if I've got stacks of time I procrastinate and fuck about.... I leave it til the pressures on.. then you have to get stuck in to the task.\n", "One of the most helpful things I've done was mindfulness exercises. I'm a natural skeptic of most things, but the scientific efficacy of m", "For studying: be active. Either make note cards or ask questions from your notes. Don't just sit down and reread your notes 10 times. By actively asking yourself questions that could be on the exam, time passes and you'll learn it better. Also a bit of caffeine always helps me focus better(obviously not universal). " ]

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[ "Organizing and transferring everything from an old laptop to a brand new one I have gotten my first new laptop ever as a Christmas present from my family for the new school year, but I am nervous and a bit overwhelmed about how to get my massively-disorganized files and photos from the laptop I'm using now and an external hard drive onto it without spoiling pristine laptop wilderness.\n\nLPT desire- a way to get file dump from place A to place B, with the end result being a new laptop with all of my files organized on it rather than a maelstrom of \"eh, I'll clean it up later.\"\n\nMini-migrations of specific things first, maybe?", "Organizing and transferring everything from an old laptop to a brand new one I have gotten my first new laptop ever as a Christmas present from my family for the new school year, but I am nervous and a bit overwhelmed about how to get my massively-disorganized files and photos from the laptop I'm using now and an external hard drive onto it without spoiling pristine laptop wilderness.\n\nLPT desire- a way to get file dump from place A to place B, with the end result being a new laptop with all of my files organized on it rather than a maelstrom of \"eh, I'll clean it up later.\"\n\nMini-migrations of specific things first, maybe?", "Organizing and transferring everything from an old laptop to a brand new one I have gotten my first new laptop ever as a Christmas present from my family for the new school year, but I am nervous and a bit overwhelmed about how to get my massively-disorganized files and photos from the laptop I'm using now and an external hard drive onto it without spoiling pristine laptop wilderness.\n\nLPT desire- a way to get file dump from place A to place B, with the end result being a new laptop with all of my files organized on it rather than a maelstrom of \"eh, I'll clean it up later.\"\n\nMini-migrations of specific things first, maybe?", "Organizing and transferring everything from an old laptop to a brand new one I have gotten my first new laptop ever as a Christmas present from my family for the new school year, but I am nervous and a bit overwhelmed about how to get my massively-disorganized files and photos from the laptop I'm using now and an external hard drive onto it without spoiling pristine laptop wilderness.\n\nLPT desire- a way to get file dump from place A to place B, with the end result being a new laptop with all of my files organized on it rather than a maelstrom of \"eh, I'll clean it up later.\"\n\nMini-migrations of specific things first, maybe?", "Organizing and transferring everything from an old laptop to a brand new one I have gotten my first new laptop ever as a Christmas present from my family for the new school year, but I am nervous and a bit overwhelmed about how to get my massively-disorganized files and photos from the laptop I'm using now and an external hard drive onto it without spoiling pristine laptop wilderness.\n\nLPT desire- a way to get file dump from place A to place B, with the end result being a new laptop with all of my files organized on it rather than a maelstrom of \"eh, I'll clean it up later.\"\n\nMini-migrations of specific things first, maybe?" ]

[ "When ever I get a new computer or hard drive I always put the old drive in an enclosure. I can't stand putting all of my old crap on a fresh new drive and you accumulate a lot of stuff that you just won't ever need. \n\nFor the first few months of having the new drive I keep the old one in the enclosure plugged in as an external HD, copying things over individually as needed. Obviously things like music I will copy over at the very beginning but a lot of downloads and stuff you just don't need again. \n\n\nAfter a month or so you will have everything you actually need on your new drive and everything else stored on an external for use in the future if needed. Seems to work pretty well. \n\nAlso if you change your hard drive relatively often you have an emergency backup of sorts just in case.\n\nHope that helps. \n\ntl;dr----grab things as you need them until you have everything you need and nothing you don't ", "External hard drive enclosure. Transfer your old hard drive into the enclosure and they usually connect via USB. I install my OS on a seperate position and all my data on another. If I need to reinstall my OS, my files, etc are still intact. Just make different directories for various stuff. Pictures, movies, music, etc. Good luck!\n", "- Documents can (and should always) be backed up to a sky drive or external hard drive. \n- Images can (and should anyway) be backed up to Google+ or Photobucket or other photo sharing site. You can set your privacy so that no one without your password can see your photos.\n- Media files, like music and video, can be copy/pasted over your home network (assuming you have a router). If you have a lot of media files, seriously consider getting a USB hard drive and transfer them permanently to that. At newegg, You can get 2TB for $140 as of yesterday. Most routers have a USB port that will allow you to set up your external hard drive as a network media server accessible from any machine on your network. Cloud storage is still very expensive for media files, given that they require a lot of space to host.\n- Internet favorites are easier than ever to migrate. All major internet browsers offer a \"sync\" option. Simply activate Sync on the old machine then log into Sync on the new machine and your preferences and favorites will be populated.", "[Fab's AutoBackup]( http://www.fpnet.fr/). I've used it to transfer data for hundreds of installs. You can backup to an external hard drive or across a network. ", "Shift it to a cloud service like Google drive. \n\nThis way you'll have your data backed up online. You can access it from not only your laptop, but any device that can connect to the internet.\nOf course, you'll need a good internet speed for this." ]

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[ "How not to feel lonely I feel lonely everyday, each day is different but the spectrum of loneliness is more or less the same. I have friends and family but I still have the same feeling, I just feel like I am an outsider.\n\nSo, I want to ask Reddit, is there any tip that I could use to not feel lonely ?\n\nI am sorry if there are any grammar mistakes, english is not my main language.", "How not to feel lonely I feel lonely everyday, each day is different but the spectrum of loneliness is more or less the same. I have friends and family but I still have the same feeling, I just feel like I am an outsider.\n\nSo, I want to ask Reddit, is there any tip that I could use to not feel lonely ?\n\nI am sorry if there are any grammar mistakes, english is not my main language." ]

[ "I sometimes feel like an outsider even amongst my closest friends, though they certainly don't treat me like one. It's all \"up there.\"\n\nThey say the most intelligent people are the lonliest. \n\n[disclaimer: I am not that intelligent]", "Get a pet or keep yourself busy when you're alone. The upside of being alone is you can do whatever you want so plan things for yourself that you truly enjoy. " ]

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[ "How do I stop looking so guilty all the time? Basically in everyday scenarios my anxiety kicks in, and I go red promoting me to look guilty. \n\nWhere has this item gone - looks like I did it.\nWhere have you been - I've been somewhere genuine but I look guilty. \n\nThis shit is taking over my life.", "How do I stop looking so guilty all the time? Basically in everyday scenarios my anxiety kicks in, and I go red promoting me to look guilty. \n\nWhere has this item gone - looks like I did it.\nWhere have you been - I've been somewhere genuine but I look guilty. \n\nThis shit is taking over my life.", "How do I stop looking so guilty all the time? Basically in everyday scenarios my anxiety kicks in, and I go red promoting me to look guilty. \n\nWhere has this item gone - looks like I did it.\nWhere have you been - I've been somewhere genuine but I look guilty. \n\nThis shit is taking over my life.", "How do I stop looking so guilty all the time? Basically in everyday scenarios my anxiety kicks in, and I go red promoting me to look guilty. \n\nWhere has this item gone - looks like I did it.\nWhere have you been - I've been somewhere genuine but I look guilty. \n\nThis shit is taking over my life.", "How do I stop looking so guilty all the time? Basically in everyday scenarios my anxiety kicks in, and I go red promoting me to look guilty. \n\nWhere has this item gone - looks like I did it.\nWhere have you been - I've been somewhere genuine but I look guilty. \n\nThis shit is taking over my life." ]

[ "Practice. Do shit worth being guilty over. I became a good liar through practice. There are of course other ways to practice. \n\nFor instance: The other day I was having a conversation at work about some topic, I forget what, but somebody overheard me and said \"wait, you're leaving the store? Where are you going?\" \n\nI had no idea what she was talking about, and I assumed that she must have misheard me. Seeing the opportunity, I immediately switched gears and said, \"Yeah, I thought I had already told you... My last day is tomorrow.\" \n\nIn that moment, I tried to sell my honesty. I tried to imagine what it would feel like to be giving her that news. Excited to tell her, but sad that she had to find out this way. A little bit guilty that I didn't tell her sooner. Obviously its difficult to convey these emotions fully consciously, but taking a moment to mentally switch gears and get into the mindset of the person whom you wish to be is so critical to selling your 'truth'. \n\nEven though you aren't lying in this case, lying is based on lying to yourself. If you want to sell a dishonest emotion, sell it to yourself. Don't just start with a situation like that. Lie to total strangers about your name. What do you do for a living? Today you're a computer programmer, tomorrow, you're working retail. \n\nGet a little practice, and soon you will be able to more effectively control the unconscious responses that your body conveys in every interaction. Pay attention, and bluff whenever you can get some practice. I have had some really damn bad social anxiety all of my life. So I learned to lie. \n\nFake it till you make it. You'd be shocked to see how far it takes you. ", "sometimes just looking at how this reaction began could help if there's validity in this guilt, bc just looking at guilt can be confusing, and it doesn't help if you have low self-esteem.", "Believe in yourself and the truth of what you're saying as you have nothing to hide when speaking the truth.\n\nYou may, however, need to focus on looking people in the eyes. Not staring them down, necessarily because it can get a little disconcerting to be eye locked with someone, especially someone you just met. Practicing that will be difficult, but at the same time, it'll likely have major benefits on subduing your anxiety.\n\nI used to have terrible social anxiety myself, but, as others have said, you have to practice it. One of the realizations I had was that people aren't necessarily looking at me, so I shouldn't feel like the world was devoted to watching my every move or any of my moves. I worked on getting outside of my comfort zone and challenged myself to prove my anxiety/fears/insecurities and so forth wrong.\n\nBody language is very important in communication and is something that you should practice/work on if you want to be an effective speaker/social person.\n\nI don't know if this is necessarily helpful or anything new, but I can explain more/share my story if you have more questions, but if you do, all I ask is that you give a little bit more detail and/or an example of this when it happens.", "Just start making up stories to the questions, so people never know when you're telling the truth anymore. Start being like Gwen from the movie \"Housesitter\" (Goldie Hawn / Steve Martin).", "Just don't fall into the pitfall of thinking that continually \"lying\" is okay. Whether you're pretending or not you'll trick yourself into thinking it's okay and become a pathological liar. Unless you're into that of course. " ]

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[ "How can I keep my rough nasty man hands in good condition when they constantly get fucked up from my job? My hands look rough and horrible and they feel like sandpaper sometimes. \n\nMy gf has even complained that they're a bit rough 'down there' so I'd like to get them sorted.", "How can I keep my rough nasty man hands in good condition when they constantly get fucked up from my job? My hands look rough and horrible and they feel like sandpaper sometimes. \n\nMy gf has even complained that they're a bit rough 'down there' so I'd like to get them sorted.", "How can I keep my rough nasty man hands in good condition when they constantly get fucked up from my job? My hands look rough and horrible and they feel like sandpaper sometimes. \n\nMy gf has even complained that they're a bit rough 'down there' so I'd like to get them sorted.", "How can I keep my rough nasty man hands in good condition when they constantly get fucked up from my job? My hands look rough and horrible and they feel like sandpaper sometimes. \n\nMy gf has even complained that they're a bit rough 'down there' so I'd like to get them sorted.", "How can I keep my rough nasty man hands in good condition when they constantly get fucked up from my job? My hands look rough and horrible and they feel like sandpaper sometimes. \n\nMy gf has even complained that they're a bit rough 'down there' so I'd like to get them sorted.", "How can I keep my rough nasty man hands in good condition when they constantly get fucked up from my job? My hands look rough and horrible and they feel like sandpaper sometimes. \n\nMy gf has even complained that they're a bit rough 'down there' so I'd like to get them sorted." ]

[ "My girlfriend always says my hands are soft, but I'm constantly working on cars and beating them up. Try using lava soap, that always leaves my hands soft because it has little rocks in it, and it scrubs off the extra dead skin, it's not the most comfortable soap to use but it works well for me. It comes in a pump or in bar form.", "[Badger Balm](http://www.badgerbalm.com/p-14-badger-balm.aspx) Works great espically when using ATF fluid, cutting oil, and kerosene. Seems to help with minor cuts and sandpaper burns too. And finally softens up my hands.", "Despite the name, it works really well on hands and it's the best stuff I've ever come across for softening rough hands. \nhttp://www.amazon.com/Udderly-Smooth-Udder-Cream-Moisturizer/dp/B00027CGWQ", "This stuff called \"working hands\". Comes in little round green plastic tubs. I buy it at Lowes (the home improvement store). I wash dishes so my hands get really dry and bleach burned. Works really well.", "I work in a hardware store and some of the men of the trade that come in recommend o'keefes working hand creme. I hear it's borderline miraculous.", "Badger Balm is fantastic, use it as often as you can, ideally every time you wash your hands. They make little tins that will fit in your pocket. Also, if you can switch to a more gentle hand soap, do it. Believe it or not, the powdered Boraxo hand soap is gentle and effective. The common soap ingredient sodium laureth sulfate is very irritating and might be your issue, also don't use anti-bacterial formulas they are also very drying." ]

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[ "How does one live a life of perpetual organization instead of living a cycle of disorganization and occasional massive cleanup? ", "How does one live a life of perpetual organization instead of living a cycle of disorganization and occasional massive cleanup? ", "How does one live a life of perpetual organization instead of living a cycle of disorganization and occasional massive cleanup? ", "How does one live a life of perpetual organization instead of living a cycle of disorganization and occasional massive cleanup? ", "How does one live a life of perpetual organization instead of living a cycle of disorganization and occasional massive cleanup? ", "How does one live a life of perpetual organization instead of living a cycle of disorganization and occasional massive cleanup? ", "How does one live a life of perpetual organization instead of living a cycle of disorganization and occasional massive cleanup? " ]

[ "Start with a clean space. Then organize the space by having a place for everything. Then put everything in its place.\n\nWhen you come home, put everything where it goes. Don't touch an item twice. Don't use horizontal surfaces as a place holder.\n\nWhen this is followed, the space is already pickup up, and a clean up is easy. Your bed is made, your clothes are folded, drawered, hampered or in the wash/dryer. Nothing is on the floor save for a pair of shoes...not 10 pairs. The dishes are in the cupboards, being eaten off of, or being cleaned. (Fleshly dirty plate takes 10-20 seconds to clean. The next day, the same plate take 1-2 minutes to deal with.) \n\nI never spend more than a half hour a week to clean up. Once in spring and again in fall, I'll wash the windows, and the window screens. \n\nThe time killers include, I can do it later. I'll just put this hear for now. What does it matter. I dont have the time. I'm too tired.\n\nI'm lucky, sitting in an unkempt room drives me nuts. Pick up takes mere momemts and the peace of mind it brings lasts all night long.", "Read the book \"The Life Changing Magic of Cleaning Up\". Or listen to the audio. It helped me get out of that cycle. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W7MgyhxKH2o&t=4219s\n", "Have a \"home\" for everything. When I get home, my pocket stuff goes on the valet stand. Dirty clothes in the hamper. Water bottle on my desk. Backpack near my desk. Work boots underneath. Nothing I tracked in with me ever go anywhere other than their respective homes. If I happen to carry in anything else like groceries, they go away immediately. \n\nEvery time you enter or leave a room, put away two things. Small, big, doesn't matter. Two things. Going to the bathroom? Put two things away. Going out for air? Put two things away. \n\nWhen you have trash, put it in the trash. Have a trash bin in every room of your place. Things that are too big for the trash or recycling go directly in front of the door so that the next time you leave you have to take them out with you. and don't just forget them. \n\nThe \"perpetual organization\" thing you mention is a skill that takes practice. But like anything else, the more you practice it, the better you'll get. Don't be discouraged if you forget here and there starting out. Write reminders for yourself and put them everywhere. Make it your phone lock screen or a note pinned to your home screen. Use some strategically-placed post-its. \n\nYou can do it.", "Read Marie Kondo's books, especially 'the life changing magic of tidying up' . It is by far the best solution available.", "I'm sorry, but after 35 years of fighting this battle, I'm afraid that organized people don't understand why we can't stay organized, so their advice doesn't really address the underlying problem, which is that we are notoriously bad at follow through on an ongoing daily basis. And even though I know that is the problem, I haven't figured out a way to address it adequately. ", "Don't ever put something where it doesn't belong. \n\nI have ADD, and I will set things down just because I'm not thinking about them at the moment. I have found my phone in the refrigerator sometimes. I'm hopeless. \nGood luck, though. ", "Literally just don't make a mess in the first place. Any time you put something down, it should be in the place where it lives." ]

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[ "What to add to my washing machine (besides detergent) to make my clothes smell better? No, I'm not a sweaty wildebeest.\n\nI just got a washing machine, but since I live abroad I can't really read the labels on laundry detergent. A lot of it is either unscented or smells a little bit off. Even when I took my laundry to a laundry service I had to shop around to find one that left the least weird scent on my clothes.\n\nI have a front-load washer, and I hang dry my clothes. I was wondering if there's anything (preferably natural) that I can add to the washing machine to make the clothes smell better, and where would I put it in?\n\nThanks.", "What to add to my washing machine (besides detergent) to make my clothes smell better? No, I'm not a sweaty wildebeest.\n\nI just got a washing machine, but since I live abroad I can't really read the labels on laundry detergent. A lot of it is either unscented or smells a little bit off. Even when I took my laundry to a laundry service I had to shop around to find one that left the least weird scent on my clothes.\n\nI have a front-load washer, and I hang dry my clothes. I was wondering if there's anything (preferably natural) that I can add to the washing machine to make the clothes smell better, and where would I put it in?\n\nThanks.", "What to add to my washing machine (besides detergent) to make my clothes smell better? No, I'm not a sweaty wildebeest.\n\nI just got a washing machine, but since I live abroad I can't really read the labels on laundry detergent. A lot of it is either unscented or smells a little bit off. Even when I took my laundry to a laundry service I had to shop around to find one that left the least weird scent on my clothes.\n\nI have a front-load washer, and I hang dry my clothes. I was wondering if there's anything (preferably natural) that I can add to the washing machine to make the clothes smell better, and where would I put it in?\n\nThanks.", "What to add to my washing machine (besides detergent) to make my clothes smell better? No, I'm not a sweaty wildebeest.\n\nI just got a washing machine, but since I live abroad I can't really read the labels on laundry detergent. A lot of it is either unscented or smells a little bit off. Even when I took my laundry to a laundry service I had to shop around to find one that left the least weird scent on my clothes.\n\nI have a front-load washer, and I hang dry my clothes. I was wondering if there's anything (preferably natural) that I can add to the washing machine to make the clothes smell better, and where would I put it in?\n\nThanks.", "What to add to my washing machine (besides detergent) to make my clothes smell better? No, I'm not a sweaty wildebeest.\n\nI just got a washing machine, but since I live abroad I can't really read the labels on laundry detergent. A lot of it is either unscented or smells a little bit off. Even when I took my laundry to a laundry service I had to shop around to find one that left the least weird scent on my clothes.\n\nI have a front-load washer, and I hang dry my clothes. I was wondering if there's anything (preferably natural) that I can add to the washing machine to make the clothes smell better, and where would I put it in?\n\nThanks." ]

[ "Make sure your machine is not overloaded. Clothes must have enough space between them to be washed and rinsed effectively. Also, don't overdo the detergent or fabric softener (you'd be surprised how little you can get away with), too much of it can leave a residue on your clothes. Detergent and fablic softener goes into different sections of the \"drawer\" of you washing machine.", "If you want your clothes to smell nice then leave bars of soap nestled in the clean clothes where you store them (e.g. closet, drawer, etc.)\n\nThis has the added benefit that the bar of soap loses a bit of moisture before use and therefore lasts longer.\n\nFor closets where I have clothes hanging and can't put bars of soap between the clothes, I have a small cap from a jar at the bottom of the closet filled with baking vanilla.", "A LUSH employee told me that she sometimes throws in bath bombs with her sheets. Of course, their bath bombs are average $6 a pop, not exactly economical. But you could get the same effect using baking soda and some essential oils.", "My box of dryer sheets accidentally fell into my washer without me noticing. My clothes smell like dryer sheets weeks later. Maybe toss a couple in with your washing?", "Make sure you take them out of the washing machine as soon as possible because they will start to smell if left for too long without being able to air." ]

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[ "Memorizing a short speech (around 5 minutes) I have to memorize a speech for my English final. What are some tips that will make it easier for me to memorize it and practice it?", "Memorizing a short speech (around 5 minutes) I have to memorize a speech for my English final. What are some tips that will make it easier for me to memorize it and practice it?", "Memorizing a short speech (around 5 minutes) I have to memorize a speech for my English final. What are some tips that will make it easier for me to memorize it and practice it?", "Memorizing a short speech (around 5 minutes) I have to memorize a speech for my English final. What are some tips that will make it easier for me to memorize it and practice it?", "Memorizing a short speech (around 5 minutes) I have to memorize a speech for my English final. What are some tips that will make it easier for me to memorize it and practice it?", "Memorizing a short speech (around 5 minutes) I have to memorize a speech for my English final. What are some tips that will make it easier for me to memorize it and practice it?", "Memorizing a short speech (around 5 minutes) I have to memorize a speech for my English final. What are some tips that will make it easier for me to memorize it and practice it?", "Memorizing a short speech (around 5 minutes) I have to memorize a speech for my English final. What are some tips that will make it easier for me to memorize it and practice it?" ]

[ "Break it into chunks of points.\n\nAssociate words and phrases with gestures (if you naturally gesture during speeches)", "I always memorize the first two to three words of a sentence the rest of the sentence will just come to me. This also makes me stummer less.", "How will you be presenting it? Make sure you understand exactly how you will be expected to deliver the speech, and then practice not only the *content* , but the *actual delivery*. The closer your practice situation is to the actual one, the easier and more natural it will be. Also, will you be graded or scored on the accuracy against a written copy of the speech? In other words, are you expected to know it *exactly* word-for-word? A speech is always more natural if you appear to be simply talking about a subject, as opposed to repeating lines word-for-word. Make sure you know how you will be scored, and practice towards that. ", "Here's what helped for me: \n- Repetition makes master. Try to read aloud your speech as often as possible, and actually pretend like you're giving a speech so stand up and talk loudly. \n- Focus especially on transitions between one paragraph and the next\n- Once you know more or less how your speech goes, write down only keywords on a sheet of paper. Try again to give your speech with only those keywords in front of you. \n \nIf you find out a section isn't working out for you (doesnt flow, you keep forgetting etc) see if you can rewrite it so it will suit you better.", "Try to rewrite the whole speech or at least modify most of it.\nYou're more likely to remember phrases and words you came up with. That's what I usually do 😊", "Theres a site called memorizeme or something. Try that! \nI used it for essays and it was super helpful. ", "If you’re having trouble with certain parts, record yourself saying it and listen to it multiple times. ", "Record yourself giving it and listen to this recording on your phone when your lazing around or working on other things. I find it helps me remember speeches better, anyway. Maybe it’ll help you. " ]

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[ "How to not fall for someone you have said no to? Became friends with a coworker not long ago. Recently he asked me out and I said no because I am not ready for a relationship. Moreover we are not exactly each other's type. He is looking for a casual relationship and I can't do that. But I think I am falling for him. Any way I could avoid it cuz I really don't want to give mixed signals to him? I understand its kinda first world problem but would like some suggestions.", "How to not fall for someone you have said no to? Became friends with a coworker not long ago. Recently he asked me out and I said no because I am not ready for a relationship. Moreover we are not exactly each other's type. He is looking for a casual relationship and I can't do that. But I think I am falling for him. Any way I could avoid it cuz I really don't want to give mixed signals to him? I understand its kinda first world problem but would like some suggestions.", "How to not fall for someone you have said no to? Became friends with a coworker not long ago. Recently he asked me out and I said no because I am not ready for a relationship. Moreover we are not exactly each other's type. He is looking for a casual relationship and I can't do that. But I think I am falling for him. Any way I could avoid it cuz I really don't want to give mixed signals to him? I understand its kinda first world problem but would like some suggestions.", "How to not fall for someone you have said no to? Became friends with a coworker not long ago. Recently he asked me out and I said no because I am not ready for a relationship. Moreover we are not exactly each other's type. He is looking for a casual relationship and I can't do that. But I think I am falling for him. Any way I could avoid it cuz I really don't want to give mixed signals to him? I understand its kinda first world problem but would like some suggestions." ]

[ "Remind yourself that you never want to date anyone from work, ever.\n\nThen avoid them whenever possible, and keep all interactions strictly professional.\n\nAnd when they come to mind, intentionally think of something productive instead.", "Falling in love is a passive process. Chemicals and proximity are generally the main requirements. \n\nYou cannot necessarily avoid the feeling, but you can definitely avoid the relationship. It's force of will. ", "Never date a: coworker, neighbor, ex's friend/relative, or your friends' exes/relative. Go out, develop a hobby or a social routine, there is always a great selection on the soccer fields. I always think people are too lazy and cowards and just settle for whatever is near instead of putting in the work to find someone whom they truly can build a life with based on mutual interests and shared perspectives on values. \n\nSure its a first world problem, you are not struggling to find a clean source of water, but its important to not diminish yourself and your needs. they say most of a woman's happiness is dictated by who she chooses to marry.", "Better to say \"no\" to him again too strongly, and risk being seen as severe, than keep sending mixed signals to the point where he wears your resolve down. The easiest time to resist is at the beginning. Don't be afraid to push him once, away, very hard, in a professional manner. This will help you act towards him with solemn professionalism, and avoid any situations where flirtation could happen. " ]

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[ "After being in a house share for the last 4 years, I'm moving I to my own place for the first time in the next few weeks. What are some of the best things I can do/buy to get started? ", "After being in a house share for the last 4 years, I'm moving I to my own place for the first time in the next few weeks. What are some of the best things I can do/buy to get started? ", "After being in a house share for the last 4 years, I'm moving I to my own place for the first time in the next few weeks. What are some of the best things I can do/buy to get started? ", "After being in a house share for the last 4 years, I'm moving I to my own place for the first time in the next few weeks. What are some of the best things I can do/buy to get started? ", "After being in a house share for the last 4 years, I'm moving I to my own place for the first time in the next few weeks. What are some of the best things I can do/buy to get started? ", "After being in a house share for the last 4 years, I'm moving I to my own place for the first time in the next few weeks. What are some of the best things I can do/buy to get started? ", "After being in a house share for the last 4 years, I'm moving I to my own place for the first time in the next few weeks. What are some of the best things I can do/buy to get started? ", "After being in a house share for the last 4 years, I'm moving I to my own place for the first time in the next few weeks. What are some of the best things I can do/buy to get started? ", "After being in a house share for the last 4 years, I'm moving I to my own place for the first time in the next few weeks. What are some of the best things I can do/buy to get started? ", "After being in a house share for the last 4 years, I'm moving I to my own place for the first time in the next few weeks. What are some of the best things I can do/buy to get started? ", "After being in a house share for the last 4 years, I'm moving I to my own place for the first time in the next few weeks. What are some of the best things I can do/buy to get started? ", "After being in a house share for the last 4 years, I'm moving I to my own place for the first time in the next few weeks. What are some of the best things I can do/buy to get started? " ]

[ "Unpack and find out what you actually need vs what you want. Shopping trips can spiral out of hand without a plan.", "Dont rush out and spend a lot of money on \"stuff\". Put every purchase through a filter of need versus want. Sit quietly with some paper and imagine a typical day in your new home, from rising to bedtime. What are the things you'll use? Which of them do you already have? Which do you need to buy? Can you borrow some until you're sure you need them or can find the exact type you want to purchase? How will you clean, repair and care for the new place? Do you have the products and tools to do so? Living in a space will always readjust your ideas. Are there things that can wait until you're sure of exactly what would work for you?", "Make a list of the things you don’t regularly use, but when you need them, you really need them. Like band aids, a fire alarm/fire extinguisher, batteries, ducktape, some tools, etc.", "First things to unload imo: Bed, Kettle for hot drinks, fridge, food and toiletries. Once you've moved your fridge in don't plug it in, make sure you don't put anything in it and leave it off for at least 24 hours to give the gasses time to settle. In case you don't get it all done in one day at least you've got essentials ready. Also, clearly mark all boxes and if you're using a moving company, mark anything sentimental in boxes with 'Fragile' or 'Glassware' as some movers can be quite careless with other people's belongings. Make sure you have all Utility companies in place so you don't have to go without hot water or electricity when you first move in. I hope some of this helps at least, and i wish you all the best as you start this new chapter. :)\n\n*", "I certainly wouldn't rush out and spend spend spend.. and definitely not things like bread makers you'll only use them once..", "Shop at secondhand stores and apps like OfferUp and FB Marketplace. Youll save hundreds or thousands on things you dont need to buy new.", "Make a list and if the item can wait for a few weeks, buy when Black Friday sale is on. \nIf you want to get a second hand furniture, Facebook marketplace is a good start.", "Make a Moving wishlist on Amazon and add things to it as you think of them.\n\nFor the move itself:\n* **Colored stickers:** Assign a color to each room and sticker boxes with that color so you can get all boxes in the correct rooms for unpacking.\n* **Garbage bags, toilet paper, paper plates and plastic forks, bottled water, hand soap, paper towels and cleaning spray:** You’ll want all of these on hand for Day 1.\n\n* **Pack in car:** Put aside a set of sheets, pillow, towels, clean clothes, pajamas, shower curtain, toothpaste and toothbrush, recent bills, body was, deodorant, etc.—anything you would need for a weekend trip away—in a separate box or suitcase:** Assemble and make your bed first so you can go to sleep as soon as you’re tired.\n\n* **Vacuum and/or broom and dustpan**", "Large blanket to drape over your window so street lights or the sun won't disturb your sleep. Black out curtains dont seem to do well enough.\n\nBig box fan to put next to your head to drown out any noisy neighborhood sounds when you want to sleep", "I just bought my first place last year. Here’s my takeaways. \n\nGo check all the basics like AC filters, water filters, smoke detectors , hoses for the washer and dryer and dishwasher and water heater making sure they’re steel braid and not rubber, get all those things checked. Make sure they’re functioning and exist. Make sure all the window latches catch so they can’t be easily opened from the outside. Make sure the filters on the washer/dryer are cleared. Get a blackout curtain for your bedroom. \n\nMake sure you have a plunger. \n\nYou need 4 things for pots and pans. 6-8 inch skillet, 12 inch skillet, and a 3 quart and 5 quart pot. All with lids. Non-stick is fine. If you have money due to a new job or something, go for high carbon steel pans and not cast iron. The pots can be made of whatever. You also need a half baking sheet, and a casserole dish. \n\nIf you’re using non-stick, get only nylon or silicone covered kitchen utensils. One of those cheap sets from target, Amazon, Walmart is fine. If you have a Home Goods Store, that’s your best friend. It’s all the stuff that didn’t sell from the high end stores at cheap prices. \n\nThe blue sponges won’t scratch your non-stick pans. They’ll last for years despite what people tell you if you treat them right. \n\nAnd for knives, you really only need a chefs knife and a paring knife. Everything else if fluff. You don’t need a deboning knife unless you’re butchering tons of meat. You don’t need a bread knife. So, this means you can get something decent as long as you’re willing to care for it. Victorinix makes a great 10” chefs knife. The rubber hands one is fine. I splurged and got the wooden handle one. Get any kind of knife sharpener and a steel honing rod. Use the honing rod every other time you cook and the sharpener every 4-6 months. You don’t need a fancy wet stone. I got this thing with handles from Amazon for $15 and a couple of swipes every 6 months and it’s sharp enough to shave for months assuming I use the honing rod.", "Change all of the door locks. You have no idea who may have a key. \n\nFile a change of address with the post office. You may want to consider renting a post office box for all business mail to prevent anyone from stealing that from your mailbox. \n\nInstall a security system and use it. Have automatic timers on lights to go on and off at random times. \n\nEven if you park your car in a garage, lock the car doors, as well as an extra measure of security. Even if a person breaks into your garage, he won’t be able to steal your car.", " \"LAST IN, FIRST OUT\" BOX\n\nFill with first day/night essentials ~ so you dont have to hunt thru boxes:\n\n· coffee maker, coffee ( or tea ), place setting of dishes, cup(s), and utensils, a small fry or saucepan;\n\n· toiletries, meds, change of clothes/PJ's, bedding, pillow, etc.;\n\n· if you have one - pet food, bowls and toys.\n\n· anything you use every 24 hours, basically." ]

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[ "Personal Items and Roller coaster rides. So tomorrow I'll be visiting a theme park with a friend of mine(we're minors). We will be in contact with our parents for obvious reasons. However, I have come across the dilemma of what to do with our phones when we ride the coasters. Since I may need to contact my parents at any time, storing it in a locker seems out of the question. I would put it under a sweatshirt in a cubby the park provides for personal items, but I don't want to take that risk with my phone. Can I trust an ordinary pair of jeans to secure it on an upside down ride? Any and all input would be wonderful! ", "Personal Items and Roller coaster rides. So tomorrow I'll be visiting a theme park with a friend of mine(we're minors). We will be in contact with our parents for obvious reasons. However, I have come across the dilemma of what to do with our phones when we ride the coasters. Since I may need to contact my parents at any time, storing it in a locker seems out of the question. I would put it under a sweatshirt in a cubby the park provides for personal items, but I don't want to take that risk with my phone. Can I trust an ordinary pair of jeans to secure it on an upside down ride? Any and all input would be wonderful! ", "Personal Items and Roller coaster rides. So tomorrow I'll be visiting a theme park with a friend of mine(we're minors). We will be in contact with our parents for obvious reasons. However, I have come across the dilemma of what to do with our phones when we ride the coasters. Since I may need to contact my parents at any time, storing it in a locker seems out of the question. I would put it under a sweatshirt in a cubby the park provides for personal items, but I don't want to take that risk with my phone. Can I trust an ordinary pair of jeans to secure it on an upside down ride? Any and all input would be wonderful! ", "Personal Items and Roller coaster rides. So tomorrow I'll be visiting a theme park with a friend of mine(we're minors). We will be in contact with our parents for obvious reasons. However, I have come across the dilemma of what to do with our phones when we ride the coasters. Since I may need to contact my parents at any time, storing it in a locker seems out of the question. I would put it under a sweatshirt in a cubby the park provides for personal items, but I don't want to take that risk with my phone. Can I trust an ordinary pair of jeans to secure it on an upside down ride? Any and all input would be wonderful! ", "Personal Items and Roller coaster rides. So tomorrow I'll be visiting a theme park with a friend of mine(we're minors). We will be in contact with our parents for obvious reasons. However, I have come across the dilemma of what to do with our phones when we ride the coasters. Since I may need to contact my parents at any time, storing it in a locker seems out of the question. I would put it under a sweatshirt in a cubby the park provides for personal items, but I don't want to take that risk with my phone. Can I trust an ordinary pair of jeans to secure it on an upside down ride? Any and all input would be wonderful! " ]

[ "I bought a fanny pack. In other instances they're silly, but at theme parks they're tremendously useful.", "cargo shorts with pockets with zips...\nbuttons might work but might leave holes for your stuff to slip out.", "Some parks have free short term lockers at each ride to put phones and purses in. If not that carry a small back pack that holds all you valuables and wear it backwards when on the ride. \n", "Put items in a Sandwich bag and wrap with a rubberband. This will keep things from getting wet too. Buttoned cargo pockets are ideal but ive done this with regular pockets too.", "Theme park veteran here. Best thing you can do is get a small bag that zips closed all the way, or if you're a guy, cargo pants that have pockets that button closed. " ]

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[ "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. ", "How to sell yourself in an email In a random act of events, I met, and had a great conversation with the CEO of a company I'd kill to work for.. so much so, he said I made his day, handed me his card and told me to drop him a line. How do you express an extreme desire to work for someone without sounding desperate and how do you get and keep their attention? I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume. " ]

[ "Be concise, bold, and confident. Just because he's a CEO doesn't mean he's better than you.\n\nGuy,\n\nMy name is dude. I met you the other day at that place. I want to work for you. Here's my resume. I'm looking forward to hearing back from you. \n\nThank you.\n\n-Dude\n\nThat's literally all you have to tell him.", "As someone who gets a lot of emails, respect the recipient's time. Get to the point and only say what is necessary.\n\nFor this email I would say something like:\n\nHello [NAME],\n\nThis is [YOUR NAME] from [WHERE/WHY YOU MET]. It was great meeting you the other day. I would love to work with [COMPANY] in the future and I've attached my resume below. Let me know if you have any questions. I hope to hear from you soon.\n\nThanks, \n[YOUR NAME]\n\nSomeone else posted a very similar message. But the point is be straight forward and brief. And if he doesn't have a position available for you, still be polite and thank him for his time! Just because something isn't available now doesn't mean it'll never happen.", "As others have said, just go straight to the point. /u/EatsRedditos4Lunch gets it right in [the top post](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/40khp2/lpt_request_how_to_sell_yourself_in_an_email/cyuyzzq). The CEO will not like bullshit and already likes you. Straight to the point is the right attitude. No need to sell, the CEO already bought when he told you to drop him a line.", "The CEO gets an immense amount of email, save him time while looking at your email.\n\n* Use an affirmative tone, avoid words such as \"don't.\"\n* In the subject mention your name and the place you met, and nothing more.\n* Start of with a paragraph comprising of a single sentence that is, essentially, a TLDR.\n* In the following paragraph substantiate your claim that you met him (possibly reminding them of the encounter) and provide cliff notes regarding your qualifications and experience.\n* Attach your full CV.\n* Thank him/her for their time.\n* Show interest and knowledge about the company. A good way to start is to check the company website for open positions.\n* Do **NOT** put your CV in the mail body, attach it.\n* Do **NOT** beg. If this opportunity doesn't pan out another one will come along.\n\nA CEO doesn't *typically* hire you (at least not in my industry), all you are trying to do is get him to recommend you to one of the managers and pass your CV forward. It should take him 2 minutes to read the email, decide and forward it - don't demand any more time than that.\n\n------\n\n**Subject:** *<Your Name>* From *<Place Name>*\n\n**Attachments:** *<Your CV>*\n\nHi *<Name>*,\n\nWe met at *<Place Name>* and I have been excited about working at *<Company>* for some time.\n\nI really enjoyed our conversation about *<Subject>*. I believe that I would be a great fit in your *<Team/Department>* and would appreciate the opportunity to prove that in an interview. I have attached my resume and hope that you and *<Manager for Team/Department - do your research>* agree with me. In brief, I have *<Qualification>* and worked on *<Project>*, *<Project>* and *<Project>* at *<Place>*.\n\nThank you for your consideration and time.", "Compliment on what his business has done in the past to show interest and passion. Comment on what you bring to the table and how the company will benifit with the ever changing market.", "everyone is posting how you should instantly and directly tell him you want to work for him.\n\nbut i'm just thinking... what kind of conversation did you have with him at said event? was there a specific context that didnt have anything to do with (you) working at that company? in what context did he tell you to drop him a line? maybe you were talking about private/non work- or job-related stuff.\n\nsince you wrote \"I have one email to sell myself and hope he responds back asking for a resume.\", i assume when he said \"drop me a line\" he didnt mean it in the \"send me your resume\" sense.\n\nmaybe you should refer to the conversation you had in the email, even if its very brief and then get to the job stuff.", "You've got an \"in\" to send a cover letter & attach your resume' or CV. The CV/resume' is what you have to offer that you have accomplished on paper, such as education, employment history & description of work. \n\nYour cover letter should certainly be bold, concise & confident, but not overly so. State what you have to offer, i.e, strengths. It will demonstrate how well you can express your thoughts by writing. \n\nCongrats on your fortuitous meeting. I hope it works out for the best for you.", "Write a straight-forward email and be as truthful as possible. Never lie to get a job. If he is impress by you, the sale has been made. ", "Well you should have already sealed the deal, but you're lucky; this CEO guy seems like a dude, he gave you a second chance with the business card and encouraging words. I have no context to go on but I'd guess that the boot is totally on the other foot and he is desperate to get you to work for him. Top dudes are good delegators and judges of character, that's why they are the top dudes, so I'd guess he's already got your position ready and waiting. Just do what he said. Drop him a line and see whats up. Don't overthink it.", "The CEO of a company that you want to work for doesn't spend a lot of time on email, and he's getting hundreds of emails every day. He spends no more than a few seconds scanning an email and deciding to take action on it or delete it - too little time for you to make the kind of impression you need to make. Put your resume and a note asking for an interview in a nice, big envelope or box and send it priority. Note should say nothing more than \"Here's what I've done. If you can give me 15 minutes, I can convince you that I can do anything you need me to do.\" Attach his card, and your contact details. On the morning your letter is going to arrive, you send him an email subject: \"Nice meeting you at [wherever you met].\" In the body, put \"I know you're getting a lot of email today, but I've sent you a package to open when you get a minute. Keep an eye out for it. Thanks for the chat the other day.\" Put your contact info in the signature, and wait by the phone.", "Thank him for his time, reiterate that it was a pleasure talking to him. Then Focus on the business and your skill set. If you have relevant experience relate it to this company and the industry. If you spoke earlier about a specific position (or team) focus on how you'd fit there. Show you know the company, show you know the industry, but be careful, you don't want to sound like a know it all. This guy is the CEO, he'll have a nose for BS so don't bullshit either. Do all this in 6-8 sentences.\n\nIf this company has a website check out their website and job postings to get a read on the Company's culture and vernacular, work this into your resume, but be careful that it's not heavy handed or obvious. Subtlety.\n\nSend the email to yourself and read it through 500 times. \n\nFinally, you had a good conversation with this person, so follow the cues you picked up on during your first meeting and trust your instincts. ", "Pick up a couple of books on copy writing from your library. Read them. Practice a little, then you'll be better than 99% of people. Copy writing is literally the act of selling via text. ", "Keep it to the point, make sure you let him know you want to work there and let him know you feel confident in being able to do the job.", "Just wanted to say thanks to everyone who chimed in. I took a little bit from everyone, spent the morning reworking my resume and writing a cover letter. I made my email brief and concise... his company is based out of Seattle, I lived there a few years. I know for a fact he's trying to break into the Colorado market so I essentially said I was your guy. I also sent a text to my dad whose got some business experience... it was good so I thought I'd share it.\n\n\"Research the company, try to look at their niche and the growth area or market segment like kids or womens or what??? Then try to figure out how you could plug in and add value to his company. It's how you can help solve a challenge or bring a needed skill set or approach to help him expand. Most CEO's want to know how you can drive costs out of the business or increase their revenue or both. Solve their problem and add value, and then he needs you at his company. Follow up with him soon, after you know all you can about his company and the competition so even an informal contact you come across knowledgeable about the industry and go from there, That may be an old school approach but take what you think might help and scrap the rest. Good Luck son!\"\n\n\"Follow up this week so your fresh in his mind and ask for a follow up meeting to share some ideas for his company over coffee. Be creative, not crazy. If in your research you think he can expand, create a plan to do it, call it a draft business plan or marketing plan, and tell him after he reviews it, if he wants to go deeper, you're the guy for him. Create your job at his company, sell yourself and what you can do for him.\"", "I'll give you the advice I'm about to give someone in reply to an email they sent requesting an internship. \n\nA good starting point is not to write your email in Comic Sans. That's particularly applicable when the internship you're applying for is at a design agency...", "Complete sentences.\n\nProper grammar.\n\nCorrect use of punctuation.\n\nBe confident without being cocky.\n\nPraise his company concisely (I really like what you are doing with X and I'd like to be a part of it.), without gushing and being a douche or fanboy. But remember, he's a guy that gets his ass kissed a lot, so he'll expect it, but resent too much of it or any bullshit.", "Can you try and sell me too!? I'm looking for a new job and challenge with programming and I'm sure I could be of some use to this guy, maybe I could fill the CTO role if he is interested?", "Ask if he can introduce you to someone in his company that you can shadow to learn more about the company. \n\nNever ask for a job, always ask how you can learn more or provide a service. ", "As you are writing and email address you want them to get an impression of you so make sure it is formated correctly and it isn't one big block of text. List your skills and attributes then when listing you weakness make them out to be strenghts. ", "A way I like is not what you can bring to the company (they may have someone already come to mind when you say you \"I have these skills\" )... But rather present yourself as the solution to a problem in the nature of their business. Refer experience... But more importantly, if you don't have any formal experience (I'm a teacher for instance and was turned down a lot due to lack thereof)... Refer to as many projects you've created and original content you have in that field. ", "Compliment on something his company has did in the past to show interest and passion. Comment on what you will bring to the table and stating how the company will benifit from the ever changing market.", "Compliment on something his company has did in the past to show interest and passion. Comment on what you will bring to the table and stating how the company will benifit from the ever changing market.", "Compliment on something his company has did in the past to show interest and passion. Comment on what you will bring to the table and stating how the company will benifit from the ever changing market." ]

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[ "Getting out of a contract My company bought out another company last month. It's a franchise so the stores pretty much have the same name but are owned by a different franchisee. They had some ISP providing their internet and we're getting screwed so hard in costs that Comcast looks better by comparison.\nOur problem is that the old company signed a contract with this company. The company actually can't find a copy of the contract to give us, but they're threatening outrageous cancellation charges. Is there anything we can do to get out of this?\n", "Getting out of a contract My company bought out another company last month. It's a franchise so the stores pretty much have the same name but are owned by a different franchisee. They had some ISP providing their internet and we're getting screwed so hard in costs that Comcast looks better by comparison.\nOur problem is that the old company signed a contract with this company. The company actually can't find a copy of the contract to give us, but they're threatening outrageous cancellation charges. Is there anything we can do to get out of this?\n" ]

[ "business to business contracts are a lot more expensive and harder to get out of than personal contracts but you could try the personal approach. get a person who has information about the account call the isp and try to get in contact with a manager or high-level employee. let them know you want to cancel and would be willing to pay the cancellation fee but then ask how they can work with you to keep your business. they will hopefully prefer to keep you and lower their fees or you can compromise on a way to exit the contract without paying the full amount they expect. it's important to have a single contact person from both companies so it's about a personal conversation.\n\nno gurantees, but politeness gets you further than you think.", "Yeah, don't pay the charges. If you're on a debit card, dispute the charges with the bank. If they report you to collection, dispute it. \n" ]

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[ "How to know if your music is too loud ? Title pretty much, i use to listen to my music pretty loud and while i am young i also want to keep my hearing for a damn long ammount of time", "How to know if your music is too loud ? Title pretty much, i use to listen to my music pretty loud and while i am young i also want to keep my hearing for a damn long ammount of time", "How to know if your music is too loud ? Title pretty much, i use to listen to my music pretty loud and while i am young i also want to keep my hearing for a damn long ammount of time" ]

[ "Start at zero volume. Turn up the volume until you are satisfied by its awesome loudness. Then turn it down until you are frustrated by how quiet it is. The ideal volume is the middle point between those 2 volumes.\n\nIt'll seem a little quiet for a couple songs then you should adapt.", "My phone puts a warning up if i crank the volume to loud that it can cause ear damage.\n\nMy personal rule of thumb is if i have to speak any louder than usual to hear my voice, or if i have to adjust the volume to hear someone speaking to me it's to loud.\n\nAlso be careful with gaming headsets. No matter what volume it is change ears you have a headset in every 1-2 hours so that hearing is equal on both ears. My right ear turned to shit after a month on my ps4 since i always joined a party if i had it on. ", "Download a Decibel meter app on your phone, while listening to music turn on your app. Stand at least a foot to three feet away from your speaker (source) and check the level. Anything over 70db is a loud conversation, so your roommates can hear it. For every +/-10db is equal to double or half of perceived volume. \n\nFor reference :\n\n20 is white noise\n30 is a whisper\n40 quiet library\n50 rainfall \n60 conversation\n70 vacuum cleaner \n80 alarm clock\n90 power tools\n100+ motorcycle / concert / gun shot" ]

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[ "Keeping my house cool I live in Seattle, the home of being cold all the time and I am sure as hell not used to this 90 degree weather. I draped the windows with blankets, have an icepack under me and about 12 fans humming throughout my apartment - any LPT's I should follow to get through this unbearable heat? ", "Keeping my house cool I live in Seattle, the home of being cold all the time and I am sure as hell not used to this 90 degree weather. I draped the windows with blankets, have an icepack under me and about 12 fans humming throughout my apartment - any LPT's I should follow to get through this unbearable heat? ", "Keeping my house cool I live in Seattle, the home of being cold all the time and I am sure as hell not used to this 90 degree weather. I draped the windows with blankets, have an icepack under me and about 12 fans humming throughout my apartment - any LPT's I should follow to get through this unbearable heat? ", "Keeping my house cool I live in Seattle, the home of being cold all the time and I am sure as hell not used to this 90 degree weather. I draped the windows with blankets, have an icepack under me and about 12 fans humming throughout my apartment - any LPT's I should follow to get through this unbearable heat? ", "Keeping my house cool I live in Seattle, the home of being cold all the time and I am sure as hell not used to this 90 degree weather. I draped the windows with blankets, have an icepack under me and about 12 fans humming throughout my apartment - any LPT's I should follow to get through this unbearable heat? " ]

[ "The other day I decided that it was too hot here in bend oregon so I sat down and designed an entire air conditioner in about twenty minutes. It's a simple evaporative conditioner and all in all it will cost me about $60 bucks this weekend when I shouldhave the money to build it. Even did all the pricing and part searching, and build planning in that time", "You can get a small window unit AC for around $50-$100. Just use it to keep your bedroom cool so that you can sleep decent, and turn it off when youre gone. They can be fire starters. If you dont want to go the AC route, you seem to be doing well with what you have. Keep the doors and windows closed, and if you're having trouble sleeping, try a damp cloth on your head/neck with a fan blowing directly on you.\n\nSource: I grew up dirt poor, and trailers get reeeeeally hot inside.", "When you're not in a room using the fan, turn it off. Moving air is great but those motors are generating heat, so if it's not air that needs to be moving then don't move it!\n\nDepending on how drastic you want to go put window tint of even foil over the windows (if you do the tint, just tape it up on the window so you can take it down when it gets cooler). Depending on your situation you might be able to put something up outside the window (like a curtain made for the outside, I've seen them) that will block the direct light/heat but still let some indirect light in around the edges. If you want to go a layer further you can put clear plastic up (like the kind used for covering stuff when you're painting) about an inch or two off the window (inside), sealed all the way around to act as an insulation barrier (same trick to keep the heat in when it's cold outside). There may be better ways but these are can be fairly cheap.\n\nSome other general tips [here](http://publications.usa.gov/epublications/coolyourhome/cooling.htm)\n\n", "Open the windows at night and place fans in the windows to suck the cool air in, then during the day shut all your windows and this should keep your house relatively cool for a majority of the day. I think you accidentally got Ohio's weather. I live in Ohio and we've had rain 19 out of the last 20 days and yesterday I straight up had to wear a COAT. Usually it's 100+ degrees and unbearably hot this time of year.", "Got a room that tends to be cooler than the others? Close the doors to that room to keep it cool and hang out in that room more. \n\nTake the occasional 1-2 minute shower as long as you are sweating to help cool yourself off. " ]

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[ "How to get an apartment without a job This fall I will be returning to college for my senior year. I am a transfer student who still hasn't met many people so I am looking into getting a studio. This will be my first time not living with parents or in a dorm so its all new to me. My biggest worry, though, is that I am currently looking for a summer job and I know I won't immediately have a job when I return to school. Obviously landlords want their tenets to have steady income. I do have a little bit of money saved up, but I am concerned especially since I only have a couple of months left. Any help would be greatly appreciated.", "How to get an apartment without a job This fall I will be returning to college for my senior year. I am a transfer student who still hasn't met many people so I am looking into getting a studio. This will be my first time not living with parents or in a dorm so its all new to me. My biggest worry, though, is that I am currently looking for a summer job and I know I won't immediately have a job when I return to school. Obviously landlords want their tenets to have steady income. I do have a little bit of money saved up, but I am concerned especially since I only have a couple of months left. Any help would be greatly appreciated.", "How to get an apartment without a job This fall I will be returning to college for my senior year. I am a transfer student who still hasn't met many people so I am looking into getting a studio. This will be my first time not living with parents or in a dorm so its all new to me. My biggest worry, though, is that I am currently looking for a summer job and I know I won't immediately have a job when I return to school. Obviously landlords want their tenets to have steady income. I do have a little bit of money saved up, but I am concerned especially since I only have a couple of months left. Any help would be greatly appreciated.", "How to get an apartment without a job This fall I will be returning to college for my senior year. I am a transfer student who still hasn't met many people so I am looking into getting a studio. This will be my first time not living with parents or in a dorm so its all new to me. My biggest worry, though, is that I am currently looking for a summer job and I know I won't immediately have a job when I return to school. Obviously landlords want their tenets to have steady income. I do have a little bit of money saved up, but I am concerned especially since I only have a couple of months left. Any help would be greatly appreciated." ]

[ "You will probably be asked to have a parent co-sign for you. If you don't have a plan for how you're going to pay for this, it might be wise to remain in the dorms for one more year. \n\nAre you planning on working through your senior year? You should probably start looking for that job now as well, since you may have to shift your class schedule in order to make that work.", "How are you going to pay for this apartment? With the job you don't have yet or with student loans? If it's option 2, then they wont care as long as you pay your rent up front. If it's option 1, then that's just poor planning all around.", "I did this once by taking a printout of my bank statement showing how much money I had in savings to the apartment and convincing them that I had enough saved up to afford rent until I got a job.\n\nThe important part is finding an apartment that will work with you, because they are certainly under no obligation to. Just be polite about it and remain reasonable and you'll find that people are sometimes willing to work with you.", "Landlords in college towns are used to this. They will accept a financial aid letter as proof of income. If your parents will be paying, they will have to co-sign." ]

[ 6, 4, 3, 2 ]

[ "How do you remove laundered Sharpie off a white blouse? Long story short, I left not one but two sharpies in a pocket and put it in the wash. My white [shirt](https://imgur.com/gallery/7sxIOYw) came out with bluish gray stains. I would simply bleach it, but it has a wide grid plaid pattern on it so I’m not sure if that’s a good idea. Ive look up other solutions, but those tips say to remove the stains before putting the clothing into the wash... I’m sorry if this is the wrong sub to post, but I’m getting really desperate.", "How do you remove laundered Sharpie off a white blouse? Long story short, I left not one but two sharpies in a pocket and put it in the wash. My white [shirt](https://imgur.com/gallery/7sxIOYw) came out with bluish gray stains. I would simply bleach it, but it has a wide grid plaid pattern on it so I’m not sure if that’s a good idea. Ive look up other solutions, but those tips say to remove the stains before putting the clothing into the wash... I’m sorry if this is the wrong sub to post, but I’m getting really desperate.", "How do you remove laundered Sharpie off a white blouse? Long story short, I left not one but two sharpies in a pocket and put it in the wash. My white [shirt](https://imgur.com/gallery/7sxIOYw) came out with bluish gray stains. I would simply bleach it, but it has a wide grid plaid pattern on it so I’m not sure if that’s a good idea. Ive look up other solutions, but those tips say to remove the stains before putting the clothing into the wash... I’m sorry if this is the wrong sub to post, but I’m getting really desperate." ]

[ "Rubbing alcohol. Start with dry fabric (but don't put the shirt in the dryer if it's wet! Air dry only.) Place paper towels under the stained fabric. Soak a white cloth or sponge in rubbing alcohol then dab it on the stain. Start around the edges and work inward. The stain will begin to bleed onto the paper towels and out of the fabric. Replace paper towels frequently. Continue blotting the area with alcohol. Don't be tempted to rub. Repeat until the stain is gone. Then launder as directed.", "Sharpies are permanent markers aren't they? I threw away my top when I got some sharpie ink on it. I don't know if you can get it out.", "Amodex is your only hope post-laundering. :(\n\nhttps://www.walmart.com/ip/Amodex-Ink-Stain-Remover-4oz/31967386" ]

[ 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do I change my old personal email address to a more professional one? I have an old email account that I have used for basically everything (Social media, subscriptions, etc.). The username is not very professional, so I want to change my email address to a more formal one.\n\n The problem is that I don't want to have to manage two accounts when I could manage just one (I already have a lot of accounts, one more is going to drive me crazy), so is there a way I could transfer all my contacts, mails, subscriptions, social media, etc. easily? Or do you guys think that it is better to just have 2 separate email accounts?", "How do I change my old personal email address to a more professional one? I have an old email account that I have used for basically everything (Social media, subscriptions, etc.). The username is not very professional, so I want to change my email address to a more formal one.\n\n The problem is that I don't want to have to manage two accounts when I could manage just one (I already have a lot of accounts, one more is going to drive me crazy), so is there a way I could transfer all my contacts, mails, subscriptions, social media, etc. easily? Or do you guys think that it is better to just have 2 separate email accounts?" ]

[ "You can make a new email account and forward everything from the old one to the new one. \nI don't think there is any way to \"change\" your address like you described.", "Get someone from fiverr.com to do it. Register the domain you want, te username you want and they will forward all your mall to your new address in about five minutes." ]

[ 3, 2 ]

[ "How to be hungry for breakfast in the morning. It seems like no matter what I do (stop eating before 9) I just can't seem to ever be hungry for breakfast when I wake up around 7:30. Then I don't want to eat until around 10 and I always grab something quick (and usually unhealthy).\n\nAny tips?", "How to be hungry for breakfast in the morning. It seems like no matter what I do (stop eating before 9) I just can't seem to ever be hungry for breakfast when I wake up around 7:30. Then I don't want to eat until around 10 and I always grab something quick (and usually unhealthy).\n\nAny tips?", "How to be hungry for breakfast in the morning. It seems like no matter what I do (stop eating before 9) I just can't seem to ever be hungry for breakfast when I wake up around 7:30. Then I don't want to eat until around 10 and I always grab something quick (and usually unhealthy).\n\nAny tips?", "How to be hungry for breakfast in the morning. It seems like no matter what I do (stop eating before 9) I just can't seem to ever be hungry for breakfast when I wake up around 7:30. Then I don't want to eat until around 10 and I always grab something quick (and usually unhealthy).\n\nAny tips?", "How to be hungry for breakfast in the morning. It seems like no matter what I do (stop eating before 9) I just can't seem to ever be hungry for breakfast when I wake up around 7:30. Then I don't want to eat until around 10 and I always grab something quick (and usually unhealthy).\n\nAny tips?", "How to be hungry for breakfast in the morning. It seems like no matter what I do (stop eating before 9) I just can't seem to ever be hungry for breakfast when I wake up around 7:30. Then I don't want to eat until around 10 and I always grab something quick (and usually unhealthy).\n\nAny tips?", "How to be hungry for breakfast in the morning. It seems like no matter what I do (stop eating before 9) I just can't seem to ever be hungry for breakfast when I wake up around 7:30. Then I don't want to eat until around 10 and I always grab something quick (and usually unhealthy).\n\nAny tips?", "How to be hungry for breakfast in the morning. It seems like no matter what I do (stop eating before 9) I just can't seem to ever be hungry for breakfast when I wake up around 7:30. Then I don't want to eat until around 10 and I always grab something quick (and usually unhealthy).\n\nAny tips?", "How to be hungry for breakfast in the morning. It seems like no matter what I do (stop eating before 9) I just can't seem to ever be hungry for breakfast when I wake up around 7:30. Then I don't want to eat until around 10 and I always grab something quick (and usually unhealthy).\n\nAny tips?" ]

[ "Something that helps me is to just start eating breakfast in the morning. Almost force it down if you need to. At first I would feel nauseated just thinking about eating before 9 am, but after a week or so not only was I used to it, I started getting hungrier in the mornings too.", "Glass of water and/or work out in the morning, which won't make you hungry, but then taking a shower and getting ready for work, that's when the hunger will hit as your body is now ramped up and ready to go.", "[This comment](http://www.reddit.com/r/askscience/comments/pjcyd/what_is_happening_when_i_wake_up_starving_wait_an/c3pulnx) from an r/askscience thread makes me think that having a snack later in the evening might help you.", "Try skipping breakfast and holding out until you can have a healthy lunch. Missing breakfast isn't unhealthy (though the later unhealthy snack... well, it's unhealthy by definition).", "make some mini quiche (without the crust so it wont get squishy) in a muffin tin with a bacon wrapper and that way you can eat eggs and bacon when you are hungry and not have to waste money eating out", "I'm really similar to you. Never found anything to make me want to eat, so instead I keep healthy snacks in my purse/backpack/desk so that when I do get hungry, I can eat something healthy! ", "I was never a breakfast eater either, and I just started forcing myself to start doing it. At first you won't want to, but eventually you'll become used to it and breakfast will become part of your routine. I've found that since I started eating breakfast I eat healthier and I have lost weight. Shove that oatmeal down your gullet my friend!", "Capsaicin and a glass of water before bed works for me. \n\nI get mine through cayenne fruit capsules (~$4 for 100 at any place that sells vitamins).", "Because breakfast is when you are breaking your night of fasting I find it normal not to be hungry. Just eat a piece of fruit or a piece of toast and you'll notice how much hungrier you'll be for lunch" ]

[ 7, 6, 4, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Keeping the shower curtain from pushing in We have a clawfoot tub, so the shower curtains go all the way around, and if there is any difference in tempature, the curtains push in. This makes an already small space for taking showers even smaller. \n\nDoes anyone have an idea to keep them from pushing in? The curtain on the wall side we plan to use a bit of double sided tape, but I don't think that will work on the tub itself.", "Keeping the shower curtain from pushing in We have a clawfoot tub, so the shower curtains go all the way around, and if there is any difference in tempature, the curtains push in. This makes an already small space for taking showers even smaller. \n\nDoes anyone have an idea to keep them from pushing in? The curtain on the wall side we plan to use a bit of double sided tape, but I don't think that will work on the tub itself.", "Keeping the shower curtain from pushing in We have a clawfoot tub, so the shower curtains go all the way around, and if there is any difference in tempature, the curtains push in. This makes an already small space for taking showers even smaller. \n\nDoes anyone have an idea to keep them from pushing in? The curtain on the wall side we plan to use a bit of double sided tape, but I don't think that will work on the tub itself.", "Keeping the shower curtain from pushing in We have a clawfoot tub, so the shower curtains go all the way around, and if there is any difference in tempature, the curtains push in. This makes an already small space for taking showers even smaller. \n\nDoes anyone have an idea to keep them from pushing in? The curtain on the wall side we plan to use a bit of double sided tape, but I don't think that will work on the tub itself.", "Keeping the shower curtain from pushing in We have a clawfoot tub, so the shower curtains go all the way around, and if there is any difference in tempature, the curtains push in. This makes an already small space for taking showers even smaller. \n\nDoes anyone have an idea to keep them from pushing in? The curtain on the wall side we plan to use a bit of double sided tape, but I don't think that will work on the tub itself.", "Keeping the shower curtain from pushing in We have a clawfoot tub, so the shower curtains go all the way around, and if there is any difference in tempature, the curtains push in. This makes an already small space for taking showers even smaller. \n\nDoes anyone have an idea to keep them from pushing in? The curtain on the wall side we plan to use a bit of double sided tape, but I don't think that will work on the tub itself.", "Keeping the shower curtain from pushing in We have a clawfoot tub, so the shower curtains go all the way around, and if there is any difference in tempature, the curtains push in. This makes an already small space for taking showers even smaller. \n\nDoes anyone have an idea to keep them from pushing in? The curtain on the wall side we plan to use a bit of double sided tape, but I don't think that will work on the tub itself.", "Keeping the shower curtain from pushing in We have a clawfoot tub, so the shower curtains go all the way around, and if there is any difference in tempature, the curtains push in. This makes an already small space for taking showers even smaller. \n\nDoes anyone have an idea to keep them from pushing in? The curtain on the wall side we plan to use a bit of double sided tape, but I don't think that will work on the tub itself.", "Keeping the shower curtain from pushing in We have a clawfoot tub, so the shower curtains go all the way around, and if there is any difference in tempature, the curtains push in. This makes an already small space for taking showers even smaller. \n\nDoes anyone have an idea to keep them from pushing in? The curtain on the wall side we plan to use a bit of double sided tape, but I don't think that will work on the tub itself." ]

[ "I push the curtain out a little bit and turn the showerhead onto it making a small pool in the curtain that holds it down with the suction against the wall of the tub. \n\n[Expertly drawn blueprint](http://i.imgur.com/SK6c68q.png)", "open the curtain just a bit. About 6 inches in an area that doesn't get much splash. This allows the cold air from outside to come in while the hot air from the shower goes up. Or you could just take cold showers.", "> and if there is any difference in temperature, the curtains push in.\n\nI always thought it was conclusively Bernoulli's principle, but apparently scientists aren't certain what causes it!\n\nhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shower-curtain_effect", "what I can suggest is get some industrial adhesive from Home Depot or a home renovation store. Also pick up some decent magnets. Wash the bottom of the inner shower curtain to clean off mildew and lime scale. Dry. Apply the glue and the magnets. This should keep the curtain from pushing in. Either the magnets will provide a bond to the tub, or will act as a weight. ", "You could always use plastic spring clamps to secure the curtain to the top of the tub from inside the shower. Similar to how firematt422 uses water. That would stop the curtain from taking up space, although the clamps may eventually wear holes in the plastic curtain. ", "Two shower curtains (or curtain + liner)\n\nOuter curtain goes outside the tub, inner curtain goes inside. \n\na) water hitting the inner curtain runs into the tub (bonus!)\n\nb) there's a buffer between the inner curtain and outer curtain, which seems to seriously reduce the effect of the pressure differential. \n\nAll I know is that it really seems to work. ", "Try changing your shower head. In my last apartment the shower did this because the shower head turned the water into a fine mist. I was broke and couldn't buy a new shower head, so I hung a loofah on it so the water filtered through the loofah and the mist became more like a faucet stream. When I did this the curtain stopped encroaching on my personal space.", "This has always been my solution. \n\nJust splash some water on it and press it against the wall at either end. The water makes it stick there... Might need to chuck a shampoo bottle in the middle as weight to stop the curtain pushing inward. ", "How thick is your shower curtain? I just switched our bathtub to a heavy vinyl shower curtain and the billowing problem stopped completely. I got the new shower curtain for like $4 at a big discount shop, it stunk for about a day but now it's great! \n\nGood luck! We had a claw foot in our last apartment and they're really lovely to look at but a huge pain to use. I never learned how tall the tub was and had a permanent bruise on my shin. " ]

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[ "How to stop talking so much I love to talk and I have a really sharp tongue. I can persuade most people and I enjoy telling stories. I am an OK listener but I know that I can be better. \n\nEvery time that I have something to say, and hold my tongue, I get fidgety. I feel like I can't stop thinking about what I want to say. I want to make my words short, meaningful and heard. \n\nI have tried to follow the motto that every word you say takes a minute off your life, so choose your words and times to speak wisely. Do you have any tips to help me stop talking so much or getting antsy when I don't speak? ", "How to stop talking so much I love to talk and I have a really sharp tongue. I can persuade most people and I enjoy telling stories. I am an OK listener but I know that I can be better. \n\nEvery time that I have something to say, and hold my tongue, I get fidgety. I feel like I can't stop thinking about what I want to say. I want to make my words short, meaningful and heard. \n\nI have tried to follow the motto that every word you say takes a minute off your life, so choose your words and times to speak wisely. Do you have any tips to help me stop talking so much or getting antsy when I don't speak? " ]

[ "I am a talker as well. I love communication and enjoy telling others stories or experiences. \nCommunication is made up of talking and listening as you know. \nI tell my friends \"ALWAYS cut me off\", because I always know what I will say, but I don't always know what they will. \nIf you're good at multitasking, carry a notepad and jot down what you want to say while someone else is talking. Aim for shorthand. (E.G. Notepad shorthand) \n\nRelax about the minutes you have in life. I'm very much about filling all of them, but BREATHING is imperative and will benefit you long term. \nIf you're feeling like you need to say something, breathe and pay attention to what the other person is saying. If what you have to say is THAT important , you will remember it. And if you don't, admit to yourself it probably was not that important. \n\nBest of luck. Breathe. Get a bottle of water and drink while you're listening to keep your mouth busy. Everyone loves a good listener. And you'll ALWAYS get your chance to story tell!", "I'm not sure this will help, but maybe try to focus more on listening rather than talking. If you're not trying to decide what to say next, you can focus more on what the other person is saying. You might still get fidgety though and still think of what you want to say." ]

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[ "What to do with all the little bars of used soap piling up in the bathtub. I once heard something about grinding them all up and \"casting\" them into new, large bars. Maybe this should be crossposted to /r/frugal?", "What to do with all the little bars of used soap piling up in the bathtub. I once heard something about grinding them all up and \"casting\" them into new, large bars. Maybe this should be crossposted to /r/frugal?", "What to do with all the little bars of used soap piling up in the bathtub. I once heard something about grinding them all up and \"casting\" them into new, large bars. Maybe this should be crossposted to /r/frugal?", "What to do with all the little bars of used soap piling up in the bathtub. I once heard something about grinding them all up and \"casting\" them into new, large bars. Maybe this should be crossposted to /r/frugal?", "What to do with all the little bars of used soap piling up in the bathtub. I once heard something about grinding them all up and \"casting\" them into new, large bars. Maybe this should be crossposted to /r/frugal?" ]

[ "Real simple: slap the old slip of spent soap onto the new bar. Carefully use them together until they fuse. Massage them together while wet to encourage bonding, press them together between your palms to make the slip conform to the shape of the new bar better.\n\nThe casting song-and-dance is for bored suburban housewives.", "Take them on camping trips where bringing them home won't be of such great import. Or get a soap saver/[soap scrubbie](http://theinfamousj.livejournal.com/416179.html#cutid1) and put them in and use them until they are completely gone.", "Gather leftover bars of soap into a pantyhose leg and tie to the outdoor water faucet to easily wash hands outside when needed. And, a note about using bodywash instead of soap in the shower; it doesn't cause the soap film build up and is much easier to keep clean!", "With a little bit of effort, you can usually get the small bar to stick to the new bar of soap. I usually just do that.", "How about just throwing it in the trash and opening a new box. A bar of soap is only a few dollars ya cheap asses. :-P" ]

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[ "How to sway someone from purchasing something for themselves that you already purchased for them as a gift? My SIL wants to buy herself something on amazon, but I already got it for her for her birthday!\n\nAny tips to dissuade her from buying it without giving myself away? TIA!", "How to sway someone from purchasing something for themselves that you already purchased for them as a gift? My SIL wants to buy herself something on amazon, but I already got it for her for her birthday!\n\nAny tips to dissuade her from buying it without giving myself away? TIA!" ]

[ "If your SIL has a significant other or partner, you might benefit from letting that person know to prevent your SIL from shopping for that particular item. \n\n-Of course, this is if that person can keep a secret.", "tell her to ask for it as a birthday gift from a parent or sibling or something instead of buying it herself and then tell that person that you already got it and not to tell her" ]

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[ "How do I connect three monitors to make a giant tv without the annoying gaps between screens? I currently have [this](http://imgur.com/n3jpsDP), how do I prevent [this](http://imgur.com/gA3jSSq) from happening? ", "How do I connect three monitors to make a giant tv without the annoying gaps between screens? I currently have [this](http://imgur.com/n3jpsDP), how do I prevent [this](http://imgur.com/gA3jSSq) from happening? " ]

[ "It depends on what graphics proccesor your computer has. If it is AMD, you can use the Catalyst Control Centre, and use the Nvidia equivalent (Nvidia control panel?). The option is called **bezel correction**, and would be found under \"arranging displays\" or a similar name.", "What you are looking for is called bezel correction, but you probably need special software for it that I don't know about. At least to get it working in anything other than gaming. Prod around in the drivers of whatever you are using and you might find something, IIRC nvidia calls it \"surround\" and it's an option on one of those configuration pages featuring a picture of a road split up and one blocked by the bezel. " ]

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[ "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with.", "What should I do about hair in my genital region? All I want is some advice and opinions on what other males do and maybe what girls like or feel more comfortable with." ]

[ "Full manscaping. Shaved nuts and dick. \n\nI leave a canopy at the top about 2\" from the kibble and bits. That canopy is trimmed using a standard trimmer. \n\nIf you're going to go full nude I recommend starting off by trimming with small scissors. Trim things down so the razor isn't fighting too much of a battle. \n\nYou can't and should not attempt to get to that baby butt smooth in the first session. It will take a week to get to that situation. The reason is that repeated twisting/pulling/shaving will irritate the skin. This increases razor stubble, ingrown hairs (your worst enemy), and chances at nicking your ball skin. \n\n**First shave:**\n\n*Tools required -*\n\nWomen's shaving gel. Basically an unscented gel without menthol like qualities. \n\nGold bond powder is optional. \n\nWash cloth. \n\nNew razor. I recommend something like a Mach 3/4. It needs to be a higher quality disposable razor. The cheap plastic throwaway styles will make it look like you shaved your balls with a cheese grater. \n\nHand towel. \n\n**The task at hand:**\n\nTake a shower and clean everything. You don't have to powerwash your shit, but make sure everything is cleaned. \n\nDry off and fold a towel over the edge of the bathtub. Gather up your gear. Start the water running in the bath, with warm to hot water. This water will be touching your penis so don't go all scalding temps unless your into that kind of stuff. \n\nSit on the towel with your legs spread apart but comfortable. Make sure your balls are dangling free from the towel. \n\nMassage your junk so your not completely soft (growers not showers know what I mean - you don't want to be hard, but not playing peek-a-boo with it). \n\nLet the party commence - Take a small (quarter) sized squirt of the shave gel. Massage it around your balls and shaft. \n\nWet the razor, and going the direction of navel to shaft, take a swipe, ending the razor before it gets to the shaft sticking out. It should be like shaving your cheeks. \n\nDo NOT take more than two swipes over the spot. RINSE every swipe. \n\nYou will NOT be taking it down to completely smooth. You will have hairs and little pokey stubbles remaining. Leave them. \n\nContinue until you have trimmed around the shaft. Take the wash cloth and get it wet in the water. Don't scrub with it, but use it like a compress to keep the area warm. Reapply the lather to sides of your nuts. \n\nWith one hand cup all of dick and balls (like you're giving your self a handjob, circle your forefinger and thumb around everything instead) and pull it off to the side exposing the bottom of the shaft and the nut skin (taught). Your nuts inside the sack should be tight in your grip exposing more of the ball skin. Shave in the direction from the cleft of your legs toward the tip of your dick. Again - NO more than two swipes and rinse. Pat/compress with warm wash cloth. \n\nRepeat on the other side. At this point the back of your nuts and the area above your dick should be shaved (not smooth). It's time to address the shaft and nuts. Lather again. Grab the head like your girlfriend does when she so cutely tries to give you a hand job. Pull the tip and skin too hard out away from the base. The hair will be pointing/growing in some direction. Either north to the tip, or south to balls. Follow that direction. Two swipes and rinse. Pat/compress with cloth. \n\nWe're in the home stretch. \n\nThe actual nuts are where there is the potential for some bleeding. You should know that nick here will look like the hallway scene in the movie *The Shining* to you. You'll live (unless you manage to really fuck up and rip your scrotum open - don't push too hard). \n\nYou'll need to manipulate the ball skin here. Grab the skin below your balls and pull down. Your nuts will still be floating in there, causing some roundness. It's a balancing act here to grab, pull, push as needed to get the skin as flat as you can. Take small swipe, reapply lather as needed, and remember you're not going for full baldness. \n\nI find catching the nutsack between my middle and forefinger (length wise) I can manipulate it and use my thumb to get the dick out of the way. You might at this point want to look at the taint area and see if it need some attention. Careful here though since an ingrown hair in that area will make you a sad panda. They don't go away very easily. \n\nAt this point your done with the first session. Start the shower and using soap only clean up the area. Rinse really well. Turn the shower to cold. You don't want to be using aftershave here, but you need to close up the pores. \n\nDry off completely. Gold bond if you want to. This might be a pro level follow up. It's a unique feeling and can make it seem like you got a blow job from a halls cough drop smoking a menthol cigarette. \n\nCongrats your penis and balls look like shit. There are full length hairs poking out everywhere, maybe even a nick or two. \nLet it recover for a few days. You'll notice the different feeling between recently shaved and 'healed' skin. There is less sensitivity to touch. Repeat the process again once you get to that. ALWAYS with a brand new razor. ALWAYS with one or two swipes at most. It may take three or four sessions until your all the way smooth. Don't rush the first time. \n\nOnce it's all smooth, you're committed to this. It will itch and annoy you like you can't believe if you try to grow it back.\n\nMaintenance for me is once a week. You should sometimes expect to get an ingrown hair (zit like). It's best to treat those with a hot towel compress just before bed. Keep it cleaned and don't try popping it if you can. The area has a lot of blood flow and I've never had one last on the balls/shaft for more than three days. \n\n**Last tips:**\n\nDon't push as hard against the skin as you do your face. The area will take more punishment than you think, but start gentle until you get through the first full shave. After a few sessions you'll find the right pressure. \n\nNew razor. Every. Time. \n\nDon't swipe more than twice. \n\nIf you get the full nude point but find an errant hair after drying off. Don't dry shave it. Stretch the skin out and trim it close with some scissors. You'll get it on the next session. \n\nThe cleft at the top of the penis shaft and your abdomen can be a pain. You can get it flat by doing the mangina thing with your hand (pull the dick and balls down and back toward your ass). \n\nI have never applied styptic to that area. I just stop shaving and keep it clean until it stops bleeding if I nick anything. \n\nTo help with razor burn, run your finger over some stick deodorant and wipe the shaved area. Don't go crazy. \n\nTL:DR; Really? It's a fucking razor scrapping your dick. I think it's worth investing some time on potential pointers. \n", "A few of my female friends had this discussion around me (I'm male); the general consensus was yes on trimmed, no on fully shaved, and mixed on doing nothing. ", "Buy an electric razor with a trimmer on the back. Use that. A solid trim, no discomfort during or after, and you can clean it off and use it else where.", "No idea what works best for you, but my style is I go over my pubes with a #2 guard (1/4 inch) every other week or so. Hairy enough to have hair, but nothing long enough to get caught in someones throat.", "Do whatever makes you feel confident. For me, this was shaving off everything. Then I got a girlfriend. Now I do whatever she wants, which is absolutely nothing. Shit's a mess down there, but she likes it.", "I think trimming is the golden mean between doing nothing and the full-on itchiness of shaving. I'll trim everything except my balls, which can safely be shaved without insane itchiness. ", "the 15 dollar whal home barber trimmers are perfect. don't use a guard but put the stock blade at the LONGER setting (this will keep the soft skin of your balls and cock from getting sucked into the jaws of the beast) women love trimmed (they usually dont appreciate shaved with a razor) and it makes your cock look much much larger. BE FUCKING CAREFUL and enjoy the newfound length you shall reveal, young pubic padiwan.", "girl's opinion: DO NOT SHAVE!!\n\nseriously. when it starts to grow back, the stubble makes it very uncomfortable for the girl to be on top (at least for me). the tiny hairs are very pokey and they irritate the lips and clit. some trimming is good, not because hair is unattractive, but because it's a lot easier to give bjs without getting a face-full of pubes every time you go down.", "Trim it considerately but don't shave it all off. \n\nShaving invites razor burn and ingrown hairs, and you don't want that in a sensitive area. Similarly, don't wax unless you really, really, *really* enjoy pain. \n\nAnd personally, I don't like the look of all-shaved. It would creep me out if my partner had zero hair. ", "The reviews for [this](http://www.amazon.com/Philips-BG2040-34-Bodygroom-Grooming/dp/B0037HP9OA/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1330282808&sr=8-1) are pretty convincing.\n\n>I received my [Philips Norelco Bodygroom Pro] quickly. According to the directions, it needed to be charged first - dang it! Fast forward one day; shaver fully charged. Before my shower, I sat down on my favorite throne (aka 'toilet') in the house (in my birthday suit), said a short prayer, built up my confidence, and gave it a shot. I took it slow at first, convinced it would end in disaster. And then, I couldn't believe my eyes... IT WORKED! Not a knick, not a rash - just smooth hairless skin. In fact, it worked so well, so fast, I couldn't stop myself. Which is why the top half of my thighs are also hairless now. To my surprise, to my bewilderment, this thing really works, and better than I imagined. IT REALLY DOES. The reviews on this product are TRUE! And yes, I shaved it ALL - the bolt, the nuts, the bag they came in. It's all hairless now, and its SMOOTH. Not even stubble left behind. It's as smooth as my face feels right after a good shave; smooth as a baby's bottom. It's an unusual feeling to have no hair down there, and I love it.\n\n\n>After 2 days:\nStill hairless, still smooth (unlike my face which has stubble within hours of shaving). Still no rash (another surprise). I've noticed I haven't sweated as much down there, and there is no longer a yucky smell after a day of activity. In fact, it's been 2 days since my last shower, and I still actually feel kinda clean down there. Crazy, I know.\n\n>Conclusion:\nGuys, don't hesitate any longer on this purchase. JUST BUY IT. If your not satisfied, just return it. But really, EVERY MAN NEEDS THIS, PERIOD. I'm baffled that this thing isn't marketed more to men. More of us need to hear about this device. It should be taught about in school!\n", "I own a $20-something electric hair-clipper, like the ones barbers use. You'd have to pretty much be *trying* to cut yourself with it. The \"zero\" setting is close enough to keep your junk trim but not as close (or dangerous) as a regular razor. \n\nIt's also very useful if, like me, you tend to grow a beard because your face and neck hate razors. Any time I need to shave my neck, for example, I use the clippers on a \"zero\" first. That way the hair is as short as possible before I shave. (Leaving hair conditioner on your stubble for 5-10 minutes before shaving also goes a long way towards reducing the evil that is shaving.)", "Just keep it trimmed. Not too short though; just enough that it's all in a neat shape. It gets a little spiky if you cut it too much. Shaving it all off will end in itchiness, ingrown hairs, and lots of little cuts. You have to keep it up constantly and even right after shaving it doesn't look like a fresh job.\n\nIt's hard enough keeping it up as a girl with mainly flat surfaces to work with.", "I used to shave a my GF and a few female friends. Using a Razor=Itchy, Using quality hair clippers with no guard on the lowest setting prevents the itchyness and ingrown hairs, while preventing hair from being long enough to get snagged or pulled (or just tucked into the vagina) during vigorous intercourse.", "I have learned not to shave the area directly above my tallywhacker. Think of it as a \"soul patch.\" The reason is that area is quite likely to come into contact with her clitoris, which is extremely sensitive. If you have even a little stubble there, it could prevent her from climaxing. Otherwise, I shave the scrotum closely, and all other angles of the penis. Feels great with lubrication. Makes the penis look bigger, and may even make her think she gets more penetration!", "I can't be the only one with this problem. What do you do about hair on the shaft? I know its the easiest place to razor, but is there any way other than shaving that won't ensure I have a wookie dick in 10 years?", "It depends on your level of cleanliness and what you prefer.\n\nIf you're not a \"lazy\" individual and are willing to shower and shave daily, I'd suggest shaving. I say daily because If you allow it to go too long it will itch. It can take ten minutes to get a shave right, then there's the fear of cutting yourself. CAN YOU HANDLE IT?!\n\nAnyway. Probably better off just keeping it clean. Baby shampoo works best. Trim with clippers to keep the gross bush down.", "If it's really long it will get tangled with your dick. If it's too short, it will be itchy. Find the happy medium. ", "I use a regular razor (Mach 3 or fusion), but the trick is to do it in the shower with a little soap for lather. The warm water prevents your testicles from Shriveling causing cuts. To give you an idea, I can do all my junk in about 60 seconds. With the warm water, and a relatively new blade (no more than 15 uses), you don't even have to be gentle.\n\nAs for what, I use a regular hair/beard trimmer to keep the landscape between the legs and below the belt line neat (guide #3); then I use the razor for the meat and potatoes. This way it all looks clean, but no hair on the shaft or testicles so it feels better. \n\nIf you use the razor, do NOT shave daily, you will get razor burn. But around the 4-5 day mark, then it may start to get a little itchy if you do a lot of moving around." ]

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[ "soundproofing walls I am getting ready to move in with a good friend of mine, and I'm pumped. We did live together in college in a tiny room, and he has a substantial snoring volume. Our rooms will be next to each other, and he has warned me that the walls are thin. I've been perusing the internet and Amazon looking for solutions. I want to stop sound from his room and getting into mine, and, in some rate cases, sound going from my room into his. The floors are hardwood. I've seen some products that have adhesives on the back of them that you essentially cut what you need and stick it on the wall, but my concern is that it will ruin the walls, and he owns the house, so I don't want to have to deal with damaging anything down the road. I've also heard of putting carpet on walls, but again, want to minimize damage to the walls. Any thoughts? Thank you!", "soundproofing walls I am getting ready to move in with a good friend of mine, and I'm pumped. We did live together in college in a tiny room, and he has a substantial snoring volume. Our rooms will be next to each other, and he has warned me that the walls are thin. I've been perusing the internet and Amazon looking for solutions. I want to stop sound from his room and getting into mine, and, in some rate cases, sound going from my room into his. The floors are hardwood. I've seen some products that have adhesives on the back of them that you essentially cut what you need and stick it on the wall, but my concern is that it will ruin the walls, and he owns the house, so I don't want to have to deal with damaging anything down the road. I've also heard of putting carpet on walls, but again, want to minimize damage to the walls. Any thoughts? Thank you!", "soundproofing walls I am getting ready to move in with a good friend of mine, and I'm pumped. We did live together in college in a tiny room, and he has a substantial snoring volume. Our rooms will be next to each other, and he has warned me that the walls are thin. I've been perusing the internet and Amazon looking for solutions. I want to stop sound from his room and getting into mine, and, in some rate cases, sound going from my room into his. The floors are hardwood. I've seen some products that have adhesives on the back of them that you essentially cut what you need and stick it on the wall, but my concern is that it will ruin the walls, and he owns the house, so I don't want to have to deal with damaging anything down the road. I've also heard of putting carpet on walls, but again, want to minimize damage to the walls. Any thoughts? Thank you!", "soundproofing walls I am getting ready to move in with a good friend of mine, and I'm pumped. We did live together in college in a tiny room, and he has a substantial snoring volume. Our rooms will be next to each other, and he has warned me that the walls are thin. I've been perusing the internet and Amazon looking for solutions. I want to stop sound from his room and getting into mine, and, in some rate cases, sound going from my room into his. The floors are hardwood. I've seen some products that have adhesives on the back of them that you essentially cut what you need and stick it on the wall, but my concern is that it will ruin the walls, and he owns the house, so I don't want to have to deal with damaging anything down the road. I've also heard of putting carpet on walls, but again, want to minimize damage to the walls. Any thoughts? Thank you!" ]

[ "get a big fuffy pillow. take it into his room once he fell asleep. push it down onto his face. wait till utter silence occurs", "Sorry but you are out of luck. The panels you speak of are for sound treatment within a room, to actually soundproof you would need to build a room within a room, at least an inch between walls of air is crucial. Carpet on walls isn't even effective on walls for sound treatment let alone soundproofing. So unless you want to build a room inside your bedroom it's best to buy earplugs.", "To truly do it, you're gonna need a new subfloor, double thick drywall, and a floating ceiling. Just get used to hearing each other get laid.", "Perhaps a better solution would be to get [acoustic soundproofing foam panels](https://www.ebay.com/i/322446195869?chn=ps&dispItem=1), then convince him to put them on his side of the wall. Fix them to a hangable wooden frame so they can be easily removed. \n\nOtherwise, to gain the inch of air between the wall perhaps your friend will be receptive to you getting some [hat channel](http://www.soundproofingcompany.com/soundproofing101/furring-channel-with-resilient-sound-clips/) to attach to the wall, then apply drywall over that, tape and mud, and paint. \n\nPutting carpet or thick area rugs on the floor may help to dampen the reverberation of your roommates snoring.\n\nAnd, there's always earplugs. Much cheaper. " ]

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[ "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?", "how to stay awake in the morning. I have so much trouble staying awake after I first wake up. I set alarms, but no matter what, sleep always seems more fun to me and I have no willpower to overcome the urge to just roll over. I've been late to work three times in a week because of it. \n\nAny suggestions?" ]

[ "I'll just repost my highest voted comment ever...\n\nOkay this sounds weird I know. I can sleep through any alarm, any music, its like nothing works. But one day, I set my alarm clock to Mexican radio, full blast, and I put it across my room.\nDude...every day is like waking up in a fucking circus. You cannot sleep through it! Its like what the fuck was that just an accordion solo?? Is that someone playing a tuba!?! What are they saying!?! And the radio station doesn't always come in quite right, so its gets this weird mexican apocalypse vibe going with the circus music and the AY YAY YAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYyyyyyyyyy!s from across the room. Shit works man. Every day I wake up like what the fuck is going on out there its world war 3.\ntl;dr- put your alarm clock across the room and set it to the most annoying music you cannot possibly ignore\n", "Immediately get out of bed and stay out of bed. Set your phone or alarm clock on the opposite side of the room forcing you to get up and immediately drink a tall glass of cold water to jump start your metabolism and get your body up and running. It's my daily routine. ", "The problem/solution here isn't what others here are suggesting. It's not what you're doing when you get up that gets you going. It's what you did before you went to sleep.\n\nLet me give you some background first: when you sleep [your body produces a hormone (or two) that induces paralysis when you sleep](http://www.futurity.org/how-brain-paralyzes-muscles-while-you-sleep/). This paralysis is a good thing. If you didn't have it, you'd [sleepwalk like Mike Birbiglia](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_2ao5KQrd9M). Your body stops producing the hormone before you wake up so that you're ready to go. The remnants of this hormone is why one feels groggy in the morning.\n\nYour problem is that this hormone is still having a large effect on your wake-up time. You feel so groggy that sleeping is preferable to getting up. This hormone's effect can be overcome with enough willpower and movement. Have you ever stretched your limbs just after getting up? That's your body attempting to evacuate the hormone from the blood stream. However, if the concentration in your blood is too high it will be difficult to do any movement like this.\n\nHere's how to prevent the sleep paralysis hormone(s) from making such a strong effect.\n\n1. Exercise some time during the day before you go to sleep. Exercising produces longer-lasting hormones that keep your body ready to go and reduce the production and effect of the paralysis hormone.\n\n2. Stop the caffeine intake many hours before bed time. While you're sleeping, your body is attempting to overcome the stimulation caused by the caffeine. So it produces the sleep paralysis hormone in larger concentrations which in turn take more time to wear off.\n\n3. Have a busy (but not exhausting) day before sleeping. If you've been up and about all day, you'll find it easier to go to sleep, and easier to wake up. Conversely, if you did nothing all day, your body will have started from an overly restive state. However, if the day is too strenuous, you might want to sleep longer.\n\n4. Make it a routine. Your body works on a cycle. If you're used to getting up at 10am, your body will continue to try to wake you up at 10am. It will also try to keep you sleeping until 10am. It does this by producing the sleep paralysis hormone until that time. If you need to start getting up at 7am, it can take several days before your body gets used to the time change. (Jet lag is the same scenario, except the person has changed time zones rather than setting their alarm to a new time.) If you exercise regularly as Item 1 suggests, you will find sleeping and waking will come more easily because it's been incorporated into the daily routine.\n\n5. Go to bed and try to sleep earlier. This means stopping whatever you're doing, lying in bed with no distractions until you fall asleep. If you have trouble sleeping, imitate m", "I believe the answer is give up.\n\nNow on a serious note, getting out of bed immediately and moving about seems to do it well enough for me.", "I totally feel your struggle. The only thing that has ever worked for me is this phone app \"I can't wake up!\". It essentially forces you to solve some math problems or puzzles before you can turn off the alarm. Works for me.", "Put together a morning routine that you are excited to do each morning. I workout, m", "Immediately get up and take a shower. At first showers will be torture but you'll soon learn to love them more than sleep", "This might sound stupid, but when you first wake up, immediately sit up, smile and say aloud \"It's going to be a great day.\"\n\nIt's a daily technique for training your brain to embrace getting up feeling good about the morning.", "You might be having a sleep issue. \n\nDo you wake up in the middle of the night gasping for air at all? Does your significant other comment on you \"choking\" on your own breath at night? Do you wake up with a dry mouth in the morning?\n\n\nIf you have any of these symptoms, you might have sleep apnea -- which results in you not getting enough sleep. As someone who was diagnosed with it over 10 years ago, I've had to adjust my sleep habits to make sure I get enough sleep.\n\nYou might want to look into that...", "Snap a rat trap on your prolapsed ass and then drag it around and leave a bloody slime trail like a gross carpet surfing dog. ", "I do not close the window shutters and sleep with light curtains that diffuse light in the room. I feel a lot less tired waking up that way.\n\nI also set multiple alarms in case I'm still too tired (15-20 minutes apart).\n\nOne thing I noticed is that I'm never late for important events (like job interviews, school exams, plane boarding etc) because I'm way too stressed about going back to sleep and being late. \nAs soon as I don't really care, I get late.\n\nDrinking a lot of water before going to sleep does also the trick. You'll have to try multiple times to get the right amount to not wake up too early.", "Don't hit snooze, get out of bed as soon as the alarm goes off get up and have a cup of coffee and keep moving. Also put your alarm clock in the other side of the room. ", "protein. and I'm not referring to having to replace breakfast with a protein shake necessarily, but on days that I've made a concerted effort to consume more protein in the mornings (an extra egg, beans etc) are the days that tend to fly by for me because of how much energy I have.\n\n", "Use a lamp with a daylight bulb. Put it across the room where you can't reach it, and plug it into a timer.", "Try using an alarm like timely. It'll do this quiet alarm that'll get louder very slowly. When I first started using it, I used to wake up as it got loud but now I want up as soon as it goes off before it's loud at all. \n\nThis really does help and it takes some getting used to. \n\nThen have some distraction that'll keep you awake. I usually check my email and Reddit for 20 minutes after which I'm wide awake. ", "Try a sunrise alarm clock, it simulates the sunrise with light so your room slowly becomes bright when you soups be up. ", "Put your alarm far enough away that you have to get up to turn it off. After that, turn on lights and drink a glass of water.", "Put your alarm clock (phone, preffered) with the loudest possible tone and put it on a shelf behind a book on the opposite side of the room.\n\nThen make strong coffee.", "Make sure your staying hydrated. Then just before bed have your last glass of water. For me it's perfect timing to wake up naturally about 7 hours later and be forced to get out of bed to pee. Then you just need the willpower to not go lay back down. ", "LIGHTING. It has drastic effects on your brain depending on the color/temperature. Try getting an alarm-clock light (or whatever) and use bright/daylight bulbs, not the warm-white or yellowish ones. ", "I prepare a good lunch for work the night before, so in the morning I am excited to go pack it up. \n\nAgree with what others are saying, develop a morning routine you can do to try and make the time before work an enjoyable time for you. \n\nGet the loudest alarm possible so that it startles you and jump out of bed immediately. NEVER SNOOZE\n\nAlso an apple will wake you up faster, better, and healthier than coffee. I like to enjoy an apple and a banana for breakfast every day.", "Get your shit together man, you're asking a question along the lines of \"How do I breathe ?\". You have to do it so you just do it.", "As a person who almost never made it to school due to sleeping in but now wakes up at 5:30 am for work and has never been late, this is the only thing that works for me.\n\nI use my phone alarm, and set it at a slightly different time each day (ex. 5:31, 5:37) and then set another alarm for exactly three minutes after it. When I wake up and my first alarm goes off, I set a new alarm for two or three minutes after the last alarm. This is when I turn down my volume a bit and keep my phone in my hand next to my head. As the alarms continue to go off, I keep resetting them, and I do this for about 15 to 20 minutes until it's starting to get too late lol. Surprisingly the alarms that keep going off don't really bother me, probably because I keep the volume low enough so it is like a gentle nudge to get up. I always maintain the two alarms just in case in my sleepiness I forget to set another alarm, but that has rarely happened. Also, make sure your phone vibrates while the alarm goes off, I find the vibration to be most helpful in waking up. Good luck lol", "* Get to sleep earlier. Your body wants to stay asleep for a reason.\n\n* If you're already getting to sleep early, you may want to check in with a doctor to make sure you're sleeping well (sleep apnea isn't helpful) \n\n* Get an appliance timer and a full spectrum light, set it up so that the full spectrum light comes on 5 to 10 minutes before your alarm goes off.", "Watch a bunch of porn the night before and get up and run to the bathroom first thing when you wake for the long waited tug session. " ]

[ 79, 42, 16, 11, 10, 8, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]

[ "What are some ways you’ve found that makes cleaning showers/baths the easiest? I HATE cleaning my shower! I do the typical things like rinsing excess soap off the walls and curtain with cold water. Make sure the shower curtain isn’t wrinkled so mildew doesn’t built. No matter what cleaning the shower is still a pain. I hate cleaning the walls of the shower and crevices.", "What are some ways you’ve found that makes cleaning showers/baths the easiest? I HATE cleaning my shower! I do the typical things like rinsing excess soap off the walls and curtain with cold water. Make sure the shower curtain isn’t wrinkled so mildew doesn’t built. No matter what cleaning the shower is still a pain. I hate cleaning the walls of the shower and crevices.", "What are some ways you’ve found that makes cleaning showers/baths the easiest? I HATE cleaning my shower! I do the typical things like rinsing excess soap off the walls and curtain with cold water. Make sure the shower curtain isn’t wrinkled so mildew doesn’t built. No matter what cleaning the shower is still a pain. I hate cleaning the walls of the shower and crevices.", "What are some ways you’ve found that makes cleaning showers/baths the easiest? I HATE cleaning my shower! I do the typical things like rinsing excess soap off the walls and curtain with cold water. Make sure the shower curtain isn’t wrinkled so mildew doesn’t built. No matter what cleaning the shower is still a pain. I hate cleaning the walls of the shower and crevices.", "What are some ways you’ve found that makes cleaning showers/baths the easiest? I HATE cleaning my shower! I do the typical things like rinsing excess soap off the walls and curtain with cold water. Make sure the shower curtain isn’t wrinkled so mildew doesn’t built. No matter what cleaning the shower is still a pain. I hate cleaning the walls of the shower and crevices." ]

[ "Fill a 16 oz spray bottle with a mixture of 1/4 cup of Blue Dawn, 1 cup of vinegar and if you want a fresh smell a few drops of orange or some other essential oil. Then fill the rest with water. Swirl around and spray the shower. Walk away. In half an hour or so take a big sponge, like a car sponge, wet it, wipe it down and rinse. I usually take my shoes off and get in. Takes a few minutes if you do this once a week.\n\nTwo additional tips - use liquid soap when you bathe. There will be much much less soap scum to deal with than with bar soap.\nAnd buy a shower curtain like the hotels use with the snap in nylon liner. When you wash your towels snap off the liner and wash it. It will always smell fresh and no mildew will accumulate.", "I bought the scrub brush cordless drill attachments. Spray foam cleaner, let it set a couple minutes and then let the drill scrub.", "Wet and forget. You spray it on after you take a shower the day before and next day everything wipes off easy.", "Scrubbing Bubbles Mega Shower Foamer - geroudly spray all around the tub. Makes it so much easier to wipe off the tub. I also use it to clean the bathroom sink and kitchen stove", "Get a good respirator.\n\nSpray foaming bleach.\n\nWait 15 minutes with fan on.\n\nWash/scrub wearing respirator." ]

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[ "How to painlessly transition to Windows 10 as a non-tech-savvy minimalist? My computer has made it all but impossible to avoid upgrading to Windows 10. I've been avoiding the issue by postponing by 8 hours each time, and then restoring to previous version if I ever miss the chance to postpone it again. This has been going on for weeks and I'm finally ready to roll over and take it... how can I make this as painless as possible? \n \nI use my computer for Chrome, Skype, Media Player (I know, I know...), Utorrent, and Microsoft Office. I don't want my computer to be connected with any accounts, I don't want to have any conversations with Cortana, and I don't want a home screen that looks like an iPhone. Please tell me any tips you have to make my desktop experience as clean and simple as possible! \n \nThank you!", "How to painlessly transition to Windows 10 as a non-tech-savvy minimalist? My computer has made it all but impossible to avoid upgrading to Windows 10. I've been avoiding the issue by postponing by 8 hours each time, and then restoring to previous version if I ever miss the chance to postpone it again. This has been going on for weeks and I'm finally ready to roll over and take it... how can I make this as painless as possible? \n \nI use my computer for Chrome, Skype, Media Player (I know, I know...), Utorrent, and Microsoft Office. I don't want my computer to be connected with any accounts, I don't want to have any conversations with Cortana, and I don't want a home screen that looks like an iPhone. Please tell me any tips you have to make my desktop experience as clean and simple as possible! \n \nThank you!", "How to painlessly transition to Windows 10 as a non-tech-savvy minimalist? My computer has made it all but impossible to avoid upgrading to Windows 10. I've been avoiding the issue by postponing by 8 hours each time, and then restoring to previous version if I ever miss the chance to postpone it again. This has been going on for weeks and I'm finally ready to roll over and take it... how can I make this as painless as possible? \n \nI use my computer for Chrome, Skype, Media Player (I know, I know...), Utorrent, and Microsoft Office. I don't want my computer to be connected with any accounts, I don't want to have any conversations with Cortana, and I don't want a home screen that looks like an iPhone. Please tell me any tips you have to make my desktop experience as clean and simple as possible! \n \nThank you!", "How to painlessly transition to Windows 10 as a non-tech-savvy minimalist? My computer has made it all but impossible to avoid upgrading to Windows 10. I've been avoiding the issue by postponing by 8 hours each time, and then restoring to previous version if I ever miss the chance to postpone it again. This has been going on for weeks and I'm finally ready to roll over and take it... how can I make this as painless as possible? \n \nI use my computer for Chrome, Skype, Media Player (I know, I know...), Utorrent, and Microsoft Office. I don't want my computer to be connected with any accounts, I don't want to have any conversations with Cortana, and I don't want a home screen that looks like an iPhone. Please tell me any tips you have to make my desktop experience as clean and simple as possible! \n \nThank you!", "How to painlessly transition to Windows 10 as a non-tech-savvy minimalist? My computer has made it all but impossible to avoid upgrading to Windows 10. I've been avoiding the issue by postponing by 8 hours each time, and then restoring to previous version if I ever miss the chance to postpone it again. This has been going on for weeks and I'm finally ready to roll over and take it... how can I make this as painless as possible? \n \nI use my computer for Chrome, Skype, Media Player (I know, I know...), Utorrent, and Microsoft Office. I don't want my computer to be connected with any accounts, I don't want to have any conversations with Cortana, and I don't want a home screen that looks like an iPhone. Please tell me any tips you have to make my desktop experience as clean and simple as possible! \n \nThank you!", "How to painlessly transition to Windows 10 as a non-tech-savvy minimalist? My computer has made it all but impossible to avoid upgrading to Windows 10. I've been avoiding the issue by postponing by 8 hours each time, and then restoring to previous version if I ever miss the chance to postpone it again. This has been going on for weeks and I'm finally ready to roll over and take it... how can I make this as painless as possible? \n \nI use my computer for Chrome, Skype, Media Player (I know, I know...), Utorrent, and Microsoft Office. I don't want my computer to be connected with any accounts, I don't want to have any conversations with Cortana, and I don't want a home screen that looks like an iPhone. Please tell me any tips you have to make my desktop experience as clean and simple as possible! \n \nThank you!" ]

[ "The Windows 10 home screen looks like a standard home screen - http://static1.squarespace.com/static/5586c087e4b067f72cb70026/t/55bec2f8e4b021f895dc0969/1438565114671/\n\nThere's no need for conversations with Cortana - I've never used it. Windows 10 has great boot times, and even installing it shouldn't take too long - it literally took 15 minutes on an SSD. \n\nDon't be too worried about any changes, it's pretty flexible.", "Follow [these](http://winsupersite.com/windows-10/how-stop-windows-10-upgrade-downloading-your-system) instructions.", "What do you mean \n> home screen that looks like an iPhone? \n\nIf it means a screen full of icons, windows 10 doesn't do that anymore, if you don't have any touch device it will default to the usual start menu.\n\nI believe you can make local account straight from the setup, just read the steps carefully.\n\nIf your region is supported by Cortana ([check here](http://windows.microsoft.com/en-us/windows-10/cortanas-regions-and-languages#v1h=tab01)), she'll be always enabled, but you don't have to speak to her. She won't interact if you don't start :)\n\nJust make sure you have stable internet connection and power, and after the windows 10 installation is finished, let it install all windows updates and driver updates before you use it.", "Uh, install it by following microsofts instructions and you're good to go\n\nI dont know any software that works on win7/8 but not on win10", "If you want to upgrade to stop the notifications but still want the Win7 feel you could use [ClassicShell.](http://www.classicshell.net/)", "If you have AVG or Avast antivirus software installed, you might run into an error saying \"Cortana and the start menu can not start\". If you have either one, I'd uninstall before doing the win10 update. \n\nThen go to ninite.com and reinstall." ]

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[ "Indoor DIY wasp trap. I am currently battling a surprise armada of wasps coming from my ceiling I'm stuck indoors and there must be a wasp nest in my room or attic or something\n\nOne appeared, then another, up to five now!\n\nI've caught four of them so far in a vacuum cleaner. The fifth eludes me. Luckily, they are only coming one at a time.\n\nI think they must have released pheromones because they're banging against the walls of the vacuum and this fifth one seems angry, and they're getting harder to catch\n\nAny advice would be appreciated. Anything to draw the wasps away from me until I can get a more permanent solution\n\n---\n\n**", "Indoor DIY wasp trap. I am currently battling a surprise armada of wasps coming from my ceiling I'm stuck indoors and there must be a wasp nest in my room or attic or something\n\nOne appeared, then another, up to five now!\n\nI've caught four of them so far in a vacuum cleaner. The fifth eludes me. Luckily, they are only coming one at a time.\n\nI think they must have released pheromones because they're banging against the walls of the vacuum and this fifth one seems angry, and they're getting harder to catch\n\nAny advice would be appreciated. Anything to draw the wasps away from me until I can get a more permanent solution\n\n---\n\n**", "Indoor DIY wasp trap. I am currently battling a surprise armada of wasps coming from my ceiling I'm stuck indoors and there must be a wasp nest in my room or attic or something\n\nOne appeared, then another, up to five now!\n\nI've caught four of them so far in a vacuum cleaner. The fifth eludes me. Luckily, they are only coming one at a time.\n\nI think they must have released pheromones because they're banging against the walls of the vacuum and this fifth one seems angry, and they're getting harder to catch\n\nAny advice would be appreciated. Anything to draw the wasps away from me until I can get a more permanent solution\n\n---\n\n**" ]

[ "2 liter soda bottle, cut in half high enough up that the top fits in it upside down with just enough room on the bottom for a wasp to squeeze in. Bait it with a thin layer of soda and a chunk of baloney or smelly meat. Tape the top into the bottom and set it near where the wasps are.\n\nThis will trap them long enough until you can hire an exterminator to take care of the hive.", "You've got a couple of recommendations for traps already, so for repellant, try Listerine. Put it in a spray bottle and spritz it around where you're seeing them congregate (or just around where you're hanging out). They'll clear out.", "Check your bathroom/kitchen vents and line them with a mesh filter if that seems to be the source of the bugs." ]

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[ "how to prevent/fix curling of hems on shirts Example: http://i.imgur.com/9hmv385.jpg\n\nIt intermittently happens to me after washing clothes, and it never goes away. Even ironing doesn't help for long", "how to prevent/fix curling of hems on shirts Example: http://i.imgur.com/9hmv385.jpg\n\nIt intermittently happens to me after washing clothes, and it never goes away. Even ironing doesn't help for long" ]

[ "Wash everything in cold. That curling happens when the thread shrinks more than the fabric does in your clothing. And once it happens, it can't be fixed.\n\nIt happens more in cheap clothing.\n", "How are you drying them? Try line drying them, or at the very least taking them out when they're still damp.\n\nIf they're already dry, use starch when you iron." ]

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[ "How to feel more comfortable in a new area after you've moved Recently moved to a new area due to work. I take the bus which I think is stressing me out some. How can I feel more comfortable in a new area?", "How to feel more comfortable in a new area after you've moved Recently moved to a new area due to work. I take the bus which I think is stressing me out some. How can I feel more comfortable in a new area?", "How to feel more comfortable in a new area after you've moved Recently moved to a new area due to work. I take the bus which I think is stressing me out some. How can I feel more comfortable in a new area?", "How to feel more comfortable in a new area after you've moved Recently moved to a new area due to work. I take the bus which I think is stressing me out some. How can I feel more comfortable in a new area?", "How to feel more comfortable in a new area after you've moved Recently moved to a new area due to work. I take the bus which I think is stressing me out some. How can I feel more comfortable in a new area?", "How to feel more comfortable in a new area after you've moved Recently moved to a new area due to work. I take the bus which I think is stressing me out some. How can I feel more comfortable in a new area?" ]

[ "Do something on the bus that relaxes you. (No, Redditors - not THAT!).\n\nEat a sandwich or gaze out of the window and imagine all the nice people you'll meet and become friends with etc.\n\nSometimes it's good to be out of your comfort zone, because it means you're facing something challenging which can be good for you.\n", "Volunteer. When I started I was surprised how I was welcomed right in and appreciated. I became friends with older long time residents who knew things to do in the area. For the most part everyone who volunteers genuinely cares about people as a whole, the more I got to know them I branched out and helped more places. Now that I help a lot I feel like a part of my community. ", "Check yelp for local pizzeria. Go, eat one slice, in seat facing the door. This will give a chance to see and hear clue what else is happening in the neighborhood.", "Driving or riding in a car is similarly stressful and boring for me too. One thing that has really helped is listening to podcasts and audio books (my library has a large variety). It really does make the time go faster and gives me interesting things to think about and talk about too.", "Make your home feel like home. As George Carlin would've said, the best way to do that is to [fill it with all of your stuff](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MvgN5gCuLac). \n\nMay not work for everyone, but I personally like being able to have a home base that I can call my own. Helps me feel comfortable.", "Also, ask coworkers if anyone knows a good delivery place to order lunch together. Maybe something within short walk from work?" ]

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[ "How to stop being so hard on myself Hi, I'm Mike. I don't know if it's just part of my personality or what, but ever since I can remember I have always been extremely critical of myself and when I screw up or something it always results in me thinking about it obsessively and telling myself I'm stupid and worthless. Really, my entire life I've struggled with low self esteem, self image, and self confidence which seems to all stem back from me being so critical of my shortcomings.\n\nI'm currently a junior in college and I'll be honest: I'm not the best student. I get B's with the occasional A and C thrown in there. Recently, things have not been going my way and it's starting to become a trend. Just yesterday, I did poorly on a quiz I thought I'd knock outta the park. Instead of trying to see the positives, I just drove myself right into the ground. I got little sleep because I was so pissed at myself and over and over I kept telling myself I'm stupid and mediocre. I just landed a good internship for this coming summer but I'm too busy being so critical of my shortcomings that I haven't stopped to appreciate myself for doing that, or anything else. I don't know, I just feel that I can't do anything right and...wow I'm actually starting to tear up a bit while writing this. I just can't seem to ever give myself a break and I feel I'm missing out on a lot of happiness because at times I feel I am my worst enemy.\n\nAnything advice/tips/etc. you can offer me to stop being so hard on myself is welcome and greatly appreciated. Even if you don't have any personal advice, I still thank you for reading this. \n\n-Mike\n\n", "How to stop being so hard on myself Hi, I'm Mike. I don't know if it's just part of my personality or what, but ever since I can remember I have always been extremely critical of myself and when I screw up or something it always results in me thinking about it obsessively and telling myself I'm stupid and worthless. Really, my entire life I've struggled with low self esteem, self image, and self confidence which seems to all stem back from me being so critical of my shortcomings.\n\nI'm currently a junior in college and I'll be honest: I'm not the best student. I get B's with the occasional A and C thrown in there. Recently, things have not been going my way and it's starting to become a trend. Just yesterday, I did poorly on a quiz I thought I'd knock outta the park. Instead of trying to see the positives, I just drove myself right into the ground. I got little sleep because I was so pissed at myself and over and over I kept telling myself I'm stupid and mediocre. I just landed a good internship for this coming summer but I'm too busy being so critical of my shortcomings that I haven't stopped to appreciate myself for doing that, or anything else. I don't know, I just feel that I can't do anything right and...wow I'm actually starting to tear up a bit while writing this. I just can't seem to ever give myself a break and I feel I'm missing out on a lot of happiness because at times I feel I am my worst enemy.\n\nAnything advice/tips/etc. you can offer me to stop being so hard on myself is welcome and greatly appreciated. Even if you don't have any personal advice, I still thank you for reading this. \n\n-Mike\n\n", "How to stop being so hard on myself Hi, I'm Mike. I don't know if it's just part of my personality or what, but ever since I can remember I have always been extremely critical of myself and when I screw up or something it always results in me thinking about it obsessively and telling myself I'm stupid and worthless. Really, my entire life I've struggled with low self esteem, self image, and self confidence which seems to all stem back from me being so critical of my shortcomings.\n\nI'm currently a junior in college and I'll be honest: I'm not the best student. I get B's with the occasional A and C thrown in there. Recently, things have not been going my way and it's starting to become a trend. Just yesterday, I did poorly on a quiz I thought I'd knock outta the park. Instead of trying to see the positives, I just drove myself right into the ground. I got little sleep because I was so pissed at myself and over and over I kept telling myself I'm stupid and mediocre. I just landed a good internship for this coming summer but I'm too busy being so critical of my shortcomings that I haven't stopped to appreciate myself for doing that, or anything else. I don't know, I just feel that I can't do anything right and...wow I'm actually starting to tear up a bit while writing this. I just can't seem to ever give myself a break and I feel I'm missing out on a lot of happiness because at times I feel I am my worst enemy.\n\nAnything advice/tips/etc. you can offer me to stop being so hard on myself is welcome and greatly appreciated. Even if you don't have any personal advice, I still thank you for reading this. \n\n-Mike\n\n", "How to stop being so hard on myself Hi, I'm Mike. I don't know if it's just part of my personality or what, but ever since I can remember I have always been extremely critical of myself and when I screw up or something it always results in me thinking about it obsessively and telling myself I'm stupid and worthless. Really, my entire life I've struggled with low self esteem, self image, and self confidence which seems to all stem back from me being so critical of my shortcomings.\n\nI'm currently a junior in college and I'll be honest: I'm not the best student. I get B's with the occasional A and C thrown in there. Recently, things have not been going my way and it's starting to become a trend. Just yesterday, I did poorly on a quiz I thought I'd knock outta the park. Instead of trying to see the positives, I just drove myself right into the ground. I got little sleep because I was so pissed at myself and over and over I kept telling myself I'm stupid and mediocre. I just landed a good internship for this coming summer but I'm too busy being so critical of my shortcomings that I haven't stopped to appreciate myself for doing that, or anything else. I don't know, I just feel that I can't do anything right and...wow I'm actually starting to tear up a bit while writing this. I just can't seem to ever give myself a break and I feel I'm missing out on a lot of happiness because at times I feel I am my worst enemy.\n\nAnything advice/tips/etc. you can offer me to stop being so hard on myself is welcome and greatly appreciated. Even if you don't have any personal advice, I still thank you for reading this. \n\n-Mike\n\n", "How to stop being so hard on myself Hi, I'm Mike. I don't know if it's just part of my personality or what, but ever since I can remember I have always been extremely critical of myself and when I screw up or something it always results in me thinking about it obsessively and telling myself I'm stupid and worthless. Really, my entire life I've struggled with low self esteem, self image, and self confidence which seems to all stem back from me being so critical of my shortcomings.\n\nI'm currently a junior in college and I'll be honest: I'm not the best student. I get B's with the occasional A and C thrown in there. Recently, things have not been going my way and it's starting to become a trend. Just yesterday, I did poorly on a quiz I thought I'd knock outta the park. Instead of trying to see the positives, I just drove myself right into the ground. I got little sleep because I was so pissed at myself and over and over I kept telling myself I'm stupid and mediocre. I just landed a good internship for this coming summer but I'm too busy being so critical of my shortcomings that I haven't stopped to appreciate myself for doing that, or anything else. I don't know, I just feel that I can't do anything right and...wow I'm actually starting to tear up a bit while writing this. I just can't seem to ever give myself a break and I feel I'm missing out on a lot of happiness because at times I feel I am my worst enemy.\n\nAnything advice/tips/etc. you can offer me to stop being so hard on myself is welcome and greatly appreciated. Even if you don't have any personal advice, I still thank you for reading this. \n\n-Mike\n\n", "How to stop being so hard on myself Hi, I'm Mike. I don't know if it's just part of my personality or what, but ever since I can remember I have always been extremely critical of myself and when I screw up or something it always results in me thinking about it obsessively and telling myself I'm stupid and worthless. Really, my entire life I've struggled with low self esteem, self image, and self confidence which seems to all stem back from me being so critical of my shortcomings.\n\nI'm currently a junior in college and I'll be honest: I'm not the best student. I get B's with the occasional A and C thrown in there. Recently, things have not been going my way and it's starting to become a trend. Just yesterday, I did poorly on a quiz I thought I'd knock outta the park. Instead of trying to see the positives, I just drove myself right into the ground. I got little sleep because I was so pissed at myself and over and over I kept telling myself I'm stupid and mediocre. I just landed a good internship for this coming summer but I'm too busy being so critical of my shortcomings that I haven't stopped to appreciate myself for doing that, or anything else. I don't know, I just feel that I can't do anything right and...wow I'm actually starting to tear up a bit while writing this. I just can't seem to ever give myself a break and I feel I'm missing out on a lot of happiness because at times I feel I am my worst enemy.\n\nAnything advice/tips/etc. you can offer me to stop being so hard on myself is welcome and greatly appreciated. Even if you don't have any personal advice, I still thank you for reading this. \n\n-Mike\n\n" ]

[ "Mike,\n\nThere are days/times like this for everyone where we feel incapable of getting anything right and we feel super down. I can relate to the feeling of doing really poorly on a test or self-deprecating after something we regret.\n\nMy advice to you is to take a step back and appreciate everything around you and enjoy the little things. You mentioned it yourself, you got a great internship for this summer! Congrats! You have evidence that there are others out there that value your skills and see you as a successful person. Cherish that always.\n\nIf you ever feel like you're in a constant spiral, just stop! Take a break, go for a walk, talk to some friends, talk your roommates, go for a jog, play a sport, watch something on Netflix and let your brain recover.\n\nI'm an introvert and I struggle with self-esteem at times too, but nothing helps more than finding something else to do and realizing that I was being way too hard on myself and that I just needed a break to recharge and refresh!\n\nYou're a junior in college and this can be a tough time. Senior year may even be tougher. Find a stress reliever that works for you now so that you have an outlet for future situations where you feel down in the weeds!\n\nI hope this helps man. ", "This resonates with me too. Self compassion is a huge weakness of mine. Up until recently I couldn't even imagine what it was like to cut myself some slack. I'm 36, an advantage you have is that you're conscious of it at an age when most wouldn't be. You're young enough to affect changes in your life now that will set you up to be a much happier and better balanced person (and possibly parent) later in life. Something my shrink did with me was to visualize whatever I'm beating myself up for, as if 8 year old me had done it. How would you talk to the 8 year old version of yourself for not doing great on a pop-quiz? Would you berate him and tell him what a loser he is? Or would you console him, acknowledge that maybe hitting the books a little harder would be a good idea and offer a word of encouragement? Re-framed like that made a lot of sense to me, maybe it strikes a chord with you too. If that technique doesn't, there are many others, some of which will. A lot of schools have psychologists available to students through student health services, it may be worth a chat to see what tools you can pick up to help. Identifying and acknowledging a problem exists is the first step to resolving it, you've already taken the first step! \n\n", "[This might help...](https://www.reddit.com/r/GetMotivated/comments/58f07b/text_simple_truth_series_positive_thinking_xpost/?ref=share&ref_source=link)", "Some great advice here (imagining 8 year old self, seeing a professional counselor, etc.). \n\nI'll only add that this way of thinking (beating ourselves up, comparing ourselves to others, feeling like an imposter, etc.) is so incredibly common that it really is part of the normal human experience. Doctors, lawyers, nurses, architects, millionaires, cashiers, etc. everyone feels like they are not good enough sometimes/oftentimes. You are far from alone in this. \n\nI also want to encourage you to be patient in your desire to stop thinking so harshly of yourself. For so many of us, criticism of ourselves is kind of a default setting for our brains. We go to that place automatically and very easily. It's familiar. So trying to think differently will take time. Some days and moments will be better than others. But the fact that you are aware of it and working on it is the real reward. \n\nThe buddhist perspective of this way of thinking and suffering has really helped me lately. The book When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron has been especially helpful to me. Good luck!\n", "It is one of the irrational beliefs of Albert Ellis: \n“The idea that one should be thoroughly competent, adequate, and achieving in all possible respects if one is to consider oneself worthwhile.”\nYou probably have a Obsessive-Compulsive Personality and you need to deal with it.", "Best friend taught me this: \n\nImagine BFF saying stuff about herself that I say about myself. What would you tell him/ her? What would you tell her to do if she asked for advice in the same situation? \n\nBe kind to yourself. " ]

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[ "Watching videos on your phone on a treadmill Hey all,\n\nI've been running at the gym since I moved to my new apartment recently. I also have a Netflix account and wanted to watch videos. Unfortunately as you run it tends to move the phone around and cause it to be unwatchable. Does anyone have a suggestion for how to more effectively watch videos while running? Thanks!", "Watching videos on your phone on a treadmill Hey all,\n\nI've been running at the gym since I moved to my new apartment recently. I also have a Netflix account and wanted to watch videos. Unfortunately as you run it tends to move the phone around and cause it to be unwatchable. Does anyone have a suggestion for how to more effectively watch videos while running? Thanks!" ]

[ "Props for running. I had this problem when I used a cheap, home treadmill; it was light-weight and wobbled a lot. The gym I use now has professional, heavy-duty treadmills which are very stable. I can even read off my phone. Perhaps you can find another local gym with treadmills that are more stable.", "If you have an otter box and pretty good vision, just set it on the treadmill around the screen. And use headphones. Otter box because the rubber would keep it from slipping and help if it fell." ]

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[ "How to prevent losing your glove? I just lost one of my glove again when it fell off my jacket. I've been losing one of my glove at least once every year. I take public transit and it is always on and off. Any tips on how to prevent this. ", "How to prevent losing your glove? I just lost one of my glove again when it fell off my jacket. I've been losing one of my glove at least once every year. I take public transit and it is always on and off. Any tips on how to prevent this. ", "How to prevent losing your glove? I just lost one of my glove again when it fell off my jacket. I've been losing one of my glove at least once every year. I take public transit and it is always on and off. Any tips on how to prevent this. ", "How to prevent losing your glove? I just lost one of my glove again when it fell off my jacket. I've been losing one of my glove at least once every year. I take public transit and it is always on and off. Any tips on how to prevent this. ", "How to prevent losing your glove? I just lost one of my glove again when it fell off my jacket. I've been losing one of my glove at least once every year. I take public transit and it is always on and off. Any tips on how to prevent this. ", "How to prevent losing your glove? I just lost one of my glove again when it fell off my jacket. I've been losing one of my glove at least once every year. I take public transit and it is always on and off. Any tips on how to prevent this. " ]

[ "\n\nYou have clearly exceeded the glove to jacket ratio.\n\nWear two jackets. Put one glove in each jacket.", "I have really started liking my [fingerless gloves](http://smile.amazon.com/dp/B0057XA2KS). Warm enough to do stuff outside for fairly long stretches (eg. shoveling snow), but rarely have to actually remove them to do stuff (eg. using keys)", "I have a pair of gloves that has attached to it a 6 inch piece of \"thick string\" or \"rope\", for a lack of a better word, that connects to an elastic band you put around your wrist. Granted they are gloves I use skiing, but they have saved me dropping my gloves quite a few times. [Best example I could find on short notice w/a pic](http://www.backcountry.com/armada-duffy-jp-auclair-signature-gore-tex-glove?skid=ARM006A-BK-M&ti=U2VhcmNoIFJlc3VsdHM6ZHVmZnkgZ2xvdmU6MToxOmR1ZmZ5IGdsb3Zl)", "I don't really see the big deal. If you're losing your gloves, they're not expensive enough to be concerned about, and you are just buying new ones once a year. That's, what, 10$ a year? Skip a coffee once or something.", "Before you take the gloves off, stick both thumbs in your asshole and clentch, then remove your hands from the gloves, leaving them securely hanging from your anus.", "Its called an idiot string parents used to see them on kids gloves who lost them. Then after we teased them about it they would stop losing gloves like a small child." ]

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[ "How to stop procrastinating on home maintenance? Title says it all. Looking for LPT to help me stop procrastinating on household to-dos like changing smoke detector batteries, furnace filters, leaky sink, etc. I use a plain old paper list to keep track of things but I just don't know what to do first or it seems like there's always more to add, while other stuff has been on there forever and I still haven't gotten around to it.", "How to stop procrastinating on home maintenance? Title says it all. Looking for LPT to help me stop procrastinating on household to-dos like changing smoke detector batteries, furnace filters, leaky sink, etc. I use a plain old paper list to keep track of things but I just don't know what to do first or it seems like there's always more to add, while other stuff has been on there forever and I still haven't gotten around to it.", "How to stop procrastinating on home maintenance? Title says it all. Looking for LPT to help me stop procrastinating on household to-dos like changing smoke detector batteries, furnace filters, leaky sink, etc. I use a plain old paper list to keep track of things but I just don't know what to do first or it seems like there's always more to add, while other stuff has been on there forever and I still haven't gotten around to it.", "How to stop procrastinating on home maintenance? Title says it all. Looking for LPT to help me stop procrastinating on household to-dos like changing smoke detector batteries, furnace filters, leaky sink, etc. I use a plain old paper list to keep track of things but I just don't know what to do first or it seems like there's always more to add, while other stuff has been on there forever and I still haven't gotten around to it.", "How to stop procrastinating on home maintenance? Title says it all. Looking for LPT to help me stop procrastinating on household to-dos like changing smoke detector batteries, furnace filters, leaky sink, etc. I use a plain old paper list to keep track of things but I just don't know what to do first or it seems like there's always more to add, while other stuff has been on there forever and I still haven't gotten around to it.", "How to stop procrastinating on home maintenance? Title says it all. Looking for LPT to help me stop procrastinating on household to-dos like changing smoke detector batteries, furnace filters, leaky sink, etc. I use a plain old paper list to keep track of things but I just don't know what to do first or it seems like there's always more to add, while other stuff has been on there forever and I still haven't gotten around to it.", "How to stop procrastinating on home maintenance? Title says it all. Looking for LPT to help me stop procrastinating on household to-dos like changing smoke detector batteries, furnace filters, leaky sink, etc. I use a plain old paper list to keep track of things but I just don't know what to do first or it seems like there's always more to add, while other stuff has been on there forever and I still haven't gotten around to it." ]

[ "Here's my advice, do things that need to be done; then do things to prevent having to do even more, one thing at a time. Things will come together quicker than you think:)", "Don’t view the projects as one big entity. Think of things one at a time. Even if you complete one task per week you can get a ton done in a month or 2 without getting overwhelmed.", "I have a difficult time with this, myself. I find that *for me* making a written list of what has to be done, then crossing them off as they are accomplished, works best. Not perfect, but...\n\nOne big piece of advice is do NOT buy a \"fixer-upper\" home or an old one that needs to be restored.", "I start with smaller jobs, and gradually work up in size. For example: batteries in smoke detectors, and then, cleaning pipes and filters etc on the wood-burning stove.\nI find the satisfaction and sense of completion habung done something gives me the energy to tackle something a bit bigger after that...", "For the fire alarm, buy 10 year batteries. You don't have to change them as much.\n\nAlso, for jobs that I find tedious, I tell myself, just do 10 minutes.", "For me lists don’t work. When I think about it, I just need to do it then. If I put it on a list I don’t get around to it and it never gets done. When it comes to me, it gets done.", "1. The longer that you put it off, the bigger problem you create. There is a reason why filters have to be changed on a schedule. If *you* don’t deal with the leaky sink now, then you will have to pay someone else to deal with it eventually.\n2. Because of the world situation, the parts, batteries, filters, etc. that you need will keep getting more expensive. Think of doing it now as a cost-saving measure.\n3. The list is only going to get longer. You *know* that you will feel better when you go to bed tonight if you cross even one item off of it. Then, if you do one chore today, you can do another tomorrow, or even two. It’s good for your mental health to accomplish something every day, even if it’s only changing batteries." ]

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[ "What to do while people are singing happy birthday to you. Exactly what the title says. I need some way to participate in the song or something instead of just standing there and staring at the crowd of people singing at me.", "What to do while people are singing happy birthday to you. Exactly what the title says. I need some way to participate in the song or something instead of just standing there and staring at the crowd of people singing at me.", "What to do while people are singing happy birthday to you. Exactly what the title says. I need some way to participate in the song or something instead of just standing there and staring at the crowd of people singing at me.", "What to do while people are singing happy birthday to you. Exactly what the title says. I need some way to participate in the song or something instead of just standing there and staring at the crowd of people singing at me.", "What to do while people are singing happy birthday to you. Exactly what the title says. I need some way to participate in the song or something instead of just standing there and staring at the crowd of people singing at me.", "What to do while people are singing happy birthday to you. Exactly what the title says. I need some way to participate in the song or something instead of just standing there and staring at the crowd of people singing at me.", "What to do while people are singing happy birthday to you. Exactly what the title says. I need some way to participate in the song or something instead of just standing there and staring at the crowd of people singing at me.", "What to do while people are singing happy birthday to you. Exactly what the title says. I need some way to participate in the song or something instead of just standing there and staring at the crowd of people singing at me.", "What to do while people are singing happy birthday to you. Exactly what the title says. I need some way to participate in the song or something instead of just standing there and staring at the crowd of people singing at me.", "What to do while people are singing happy birthday to you. Exactly what the title says. I need some way to participate in the song or something instead of just standing there and staring at the crowd of people singing at me." ]

[ "Pretend you are the conductor of the New York Philharmonic and wave your index fingers back and forth. ", "Smile like an idiot and hope it goes away fast . it won't happen for another 364 days. Cake is the reward for the social awkwardness.\n\nWhatever you do don't make eye contact as you will inevitably make eye contact with someone else like me that is just mouthing along in case anyone else looks away from the birthday boy/girl and sees me not singing...\n\nI'm probably on some spectrum though....", "Make eye contact with one person. Maintain it while you relieve yourself. Birthday dominance established. ", "They're wishing you a happy birthday. Smile and make eye contact with each of them as they sing, because you're happy that people care.", "\"No. That was horrible! Sopranos over there, Altos over there, tenors there and baritones here! Now let's try this again...\" and continue to coach them until they all sing on pitch and unison because everybody sings Happy Birthday ugly as hell.", "I always start singing too. People will stop to tell me I'm not supposed to sing. And then they just say fuck it because I don't.", "Say \"Aw no, really? Please stop.\" whilst looking around at everyone with pain on your face. Then look at the floor awkwardly, whilst you wait for it to be over. If someone continues the song with \"Hip hip hoorays\" or \"for she/he's a jolly good fellow\" just close your eyes and hope for an asteroid to end the situation swiftly.\nIf nothing happens and the song ends, say in a nervous tone \"Haha th-thanks.\" then naruto run away.", "1. Sing with them, acting like it's somebody else birthday.\n\n2. Leaving the room. Pretend to go to the bathroom.\n\n3. Start to eat to goddam cake.", "Just smile, pretend your having a good time, throw in a small chuckle or two. That's for the normal people. what I do, however, is I just put on the stupidest grin on my face, and stare at the cake. ", "Find your long lost twin (or just someone with the same/similar birthday to you) and insist you celebrate your birthdays together. Maintain that only one song is necessary, so one person doesn't feel more \"important\" than the other by getting sung to first. Proceed to sing along with everyone else.\n\nI'm a twin and my sister-in-law and stepdad have birthdays two days apart - this is how we deal with it. The order of names is up to whoever is singing or based on who's older." ]

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[ "How to spend my extra 30 minutes in the morning (before anyone else wakes up)? As I get older, I am just naturally waking up earlier. I am usually up around 6:00 and my wife and 6 mo daughter aren't usually up until closer to 6:45.\n\nOften I lay in bed and browse reddit but I know that there's a better use of that time. What would you all recommend I do?\n\nSome constraints: I don't want to leave the house in that time. Also, I don't want to do things that might wake up the girls.", "How to spend my extra 30 minutes in the morning (before anyone else wakes up)? As I get older, I am just naturally waking up earlier. I am usually up around 6:00 and my wife and 6 mo daughter aren't usually up until closer to 6:45.\n\nOften I lay in bed and browse reddit but I know that there's a better use of that time. What would you all recommend I do?\n\nSome constraints: I don't want to leave the house in that time. Also, I don't want to do things that might wake up the girls.", "How to spend my extra 30 minutes in the morning (before anyone else wakes up)? As I get older, I am just naturally waking up earlier. I am usually up around 6:00 and my wife and 6 mo daughter aren't usually up until closer to 6:45.\n\nOften I lay in bed and browse reddit but I know that there's a better use of that time. What would you all recommend I do?\n\nSome constraints: I don't want to leave the house in that time. Also, I don't want to do things that might wake up the girls." ]

[ "Stretch! It is a perfect way to wake up in the morning, and you can do it in the comfort of your pajamas. ", "Uhhh yea. Practicing mindfulness is a thing. It's like m", "Download Duolingo and learn another language. Even if you never become fluent in it, it's still a benefit to know parts of different languages." ]

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[ "How to be great at studying I've always been an OK student that hovered around 3.0 and always made time for studying and discovered I learned best from videos and hands-on. However, I want to improve my retention and focus. When I read a textbook my mind wanders and it takes me a few times to remember anything I just read. \n\nAnybody else had this problem and can share what they started to do differently? ", "How to be great at studying I've always been an OK student that hovered around 3.0 and always made time for studying and discovered I learned best from videos and hands-on. However, I want to improve my retention and focus. When I read a textbook my mind wanders and it takes me a few times to remember anything I just read. \n\nAnybody else had this problem and can share what they started to do differently? ", "How to be great at studying I've always been an OK student that hovered around 3.0 and always made time for studying and discovered I learned best from videos and hands-on. However, I want to improve my retention and focus. When I read a textbook my mind wanders and it takes me a few times to remember anything I just read. \n\nAnybody else had this problem and can share what they started to do differently? ", "How to be great at studying I've always been an OK student that hovered around 3.0 and always made time for studying and discovered I learned best from videos and hands-on. However, I want to improve my retention and focus. When I read a textbook my mind wanders and it takes me a few times to remember anything I just read. \n\nAnybody else had this problem and can share what they started to do differently? ", "How to be great at studying I've always been an OK student that hovered around 3.0 and always made time for studying and discovered I learned best from videos and hands-on. However, I want to improve my retention and focus. When I read a textbook my mind wanders and it takes me a few times to remember anything I just read. \n\nAnybody else had this problem and can share what they started to do differently? ", "How to be great at studying I've always been an OK student that hovered around 3.0 and always made time for studying and discovered I learned best from videos and hands-on. However, I want to improve my retention and focus. When I read a textbook my mind wanders and it takes me a few times to remember anything I just read. \n\nAnybody else had this problem and can share what they started to do differently? ", "How to be great at studying I've always been an OK student that hovered around 3.0 and always made time for studying and discovered I learned best from videos and hands-on. However, I want to improve my retention and focus. When I read a textbook my mind wanders and it takes me a few times to remember anything I just read. \n\nAnybody else had this problem and can share what they started to do differently? " ]

[ "I am actually going through the same problem as you. I've always been a pretty decent student, but distraction has always been my most feared enemy.\n\nEither way, I'm managing to improve over time. I would suggest reading as many books as you can get your hands on, no matter what they're about. Getting that habit can help you improve your focus, and it will also help you increase your knowledge of whatever topic you're interested in. I'm actually trying to get Daniel Goleman's \"Focus\", hoping that it will help me improve even further.\n\nWhen you try to memorize something, try reading it and then trying to repeat what you read without looking at it, as many times as it is necessary. That sort of challenges will make you memorize a lot more efficiently.\n\nHope I was helpful :)", "Coloured flash cards work for me.\n\n\nFill one side with prompts and questions and the other side with whatever you're trying to learn. Use different coloured pens for different types of information (equations, dates, case names, whatever).\nUse different coloured cards for different topics or chapters. Maybe ten pretty densely packed cards per topic. Hold them together with those little bull clips.\n\n\nI'd usually spend most of my time making the cards (in the run up to the exam, not during the semester) and the last two or three days (max) before the exam memorizing them.\n\n\nMemorizing just involves repeatedly going through single topics at a time initially. Read the prompt side and see how much of the answers you can remember. You'll start to notice the bits you can't remember. Maybe create little mnemonics and write them on the prompt side.\n\n\nThis probably isn't a great approach for long term retention of the information, but I found that it works for exams.\n\n\nTL;DR Flashcards, colours.", "Just remember that comprehension is way more important than being able to recall little tidbits of info. Once you understand something you can plug in the facts afterwards. Also supplement your text book studying with videos if you are more of a visual learner. Not sure what you're studying but chances are there's a YouTube video about it somewhere.", "I have repeatedly asked myself the same question, but honestly the best thing that works for me is taking a 10 minute break after each half and hour of studying. Just knowing that in just half an hour, I'll be able to get up walk around, have a snack, check my phone.. give me motivation to focus more and try to get more stuff done. Really studying for long hours can tire your brains so much and make you lose focus.\n\nAlso, writing stuff down instead of just reading them extremely helps me. The more sensors you use while studying, the less likely it'll be for you to forget. So if you're trying to memorize something, write it down and say it out loud. That way you're using your hands eyes and voice all at the same time.", "The problem is you're trying to bring the material to you, instead of you coming to the material. The way you do this is by building a structure in your mind for the information to connect to. Here's an analogy, if you have a stack of pictures you want on your wall, they are not magically going to stick there, you have to buy frames, design how they're going to be placed, do some measurements, and nail them in. Bingo, they're up and they won't fall down. Learning is the same, you build places in your mind to attach the information to by asking yourself questions about what need to learn. Say you're going to learn about the Middle Ages and you don't really care, well you find some questions like, what's the big deal with the time period? What was everybody so backwards? What did they do for fun? What place would I have had in their society? Then as you start learning, your mind suddenly is focused on trying to answer these questions...you are coming to the information. Next, if you're given material to read, start by just looking at the headings, reading a sentence at the begging of the chapter, look at the pictures, and then put it away. Yes that's right, don't read it right away, instead close your eyes and think about the information. Did it answer any of your questions? Maybe is caused some more, see if you can build a framework for the material you have to learn. Now, connect it to things you already know, let's say you saw a picture of a castle, well maybe you saw a movie about one, or studied castles in another class. Suddenly your mind is triangulating all this information and you'll have a network to connect your coursework to. Over time, you'll find your mind automatically asks the questions and makes the correlations, and you'll find yourself a whole lot smarter.\n", "I do! I know I'm smart-equal to my peers, and can get by with a 3.0. I do see a lot of my friends pass me by and I'm always like....I know I have a lot of gifts, but why do they feel so useless and undemonstrated. No matter how long and hard I study, and no matter how clearly I can articulate material verbally, I never get an A. Usually, Ill flounder in testing-usually pass-but never do well. I started to think I had a \"swiss cheese\" brain with holes in my brain, where info would slip through, while some things stick. I started working with a therapist, etc. for issues about trauma/family issues. That was helpful. I am very easily distracted by social things-but it's better to realize that and work with it. A few years ago when grad school got impossible, I actually went to a neurologist to check on my problems. It's frustrating as an adult and was bewildering as a kid to see other people thrive-I'd be like-yes, mom's right, I'm smart but lazy. They work harder...It's a relief as a 30 yr old to think, hold up-maybe there's something else happening. I never took the internal process-emotional or even cognitive-as seriously as I think we all should. Your brain has resources and they are not targeting properly.\n\nStill though, I'm always like-are these delusions of grander, are none of us truly as smart as we believe we can be/are, or is there some inherent attentional/communication problem in my cognitive engineering.\"You get what you get though, and you work with it...well, that's my mantra these days.\" Sometimes it's a relief to remember.\n\nDoes any of that sound familiar? I thought more of my backstory might explain above, not to make it about me! What type of learner do you think you are? I'm the quintessential kinesthetic learner. I've learned I just have to study way harder and longer than everyone else. I think, in speaking with me, you wouldn't realize I'd struggle as I do.", "* take frequent breaks at least every hour to allow your brain to reset.\n* Use repetition but only repeat ~4 times a session before until you come back from your break.\n* Breaks usually shouldn't be longer than the study session unless its a meal, workout, shower or important task/errand. But do what works.\n* Use repetition\n* The best kind of breaks help you recover your personal energy. Something you enjoy, physical exercise, food that doesn't make you lethargic.\n* Repeat thyself\n* Coffee improves cognition" ]

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[ "How to actually be prepared for science(generally, chemistry and biology) and do the lab \"automatically\" So, major problem that I always have about science courses: I simply cannot do the science labs in a satisfactorily way; when I am at lab, I am often the student who lagged behind others not knowing what to do and look for what others are doing to guide to me; I always tried to go to my lab instructor when I am confused, but that sometimes lead to more series of questions; prior to lab, I write the lab procedure down on my notebook, but that doesn't appear to be helping me.\n\n\nI can do the lecture portion of my science courses rather well, but I cannot do the lab well.", "How to actually be prepared for science(generally, chemistry and biology) and do the lab \"automatically\" So, major problem that I always have about science courses: I simply cannot do the science labs in a satisfactorily way; when I am at lab, I am often the student who lagged behind others not knowing what to do and look for what others are doing to guide to me; I always tried to go to my lab instructor when I am confused, but that sometimes lead to more series of questions; prior to lab, I write the lab procedure down on my notebook, but that doesn't appear to be helping me.\n\n\nI can do the lecture portion of my science courses rather well, but I cannot do the lab well.", "How to actually be prepared for science(generally, chemistry and biology) and do the lab \"automatically\" So, major problem that I always have about science courses: I simply cannot do the science labs in a satisfactorily way; when I am at lab, I am often the student who lagged behind others not knowing what to do and look for what others are doing to guide to me; I always tried to go to my lab instructor when I am confused, but that sometimes lead to more series of questions; prior to lab, I write the lab procedure down on my notebook, but that doesn't appear to be helping me.\n\n\nI can do the lecture portion of my science courses rather well, but I cannot do the lab well.", "How to actually be prepared for science(generally, chemistry and biology) and do the lab \"automatically\" So, major problem that I always have about science courses: I simply cannot do the science labs in a satisfactorily way; when I am at lab, I am often the student who lagged behind others not knowing what to do and look for what others are doing to guide to me; I always tried to go to my lab instructor when I am confused, but that sometimes lead to more series of questions; prior to lab, I write the lab procedure down on my notebook, but that doesn't appear to be helping me.\n\n\nI can do the lecture portion of my science courses rather well, but I cannot do the lab well.", "How to actually be prepared for science(generally, chemistry and biology) and do the lab \"automatically\" So, major problem that I always have about science courses: I simply cannot do the science labs in a satisfactorily way; when I am at lab, I am often the student who lagged behind others not knowing what to do and look for what others are doing to guide to me; I always tried to go to my lab instructor when I am confused, but that sometimes lead to more series of questions; prior to lab, I write the lab procedure down on my notebook, but that doesn't appear to be helping me.\n\n\nI can do the lecture portion of my science courses rather well, but I cannot do the lab well." ]

[ "Don't just read the lab instructions before going in, imagine the lab, imagine yourself going through those actions. Imagine step-by-step, from getting chemicals from the stores all the way to how you're supposed to dispose of everything at the end and clean up.\n\nDepending on exactly what the lab is, organization is also key. Maybe make a giant grid on some spare paper, two columns and however many rows are needed. On the left column, put the step and what kind of results you're looking for (flame color? precipitation out of solution?) On the right column, record the actual result. Then on the next row, write what you need to do to prepare for the next step / experiment, such as quantities of reagents, samples that need to be retrieved, whatever. Repeat as needed.\n\nIf you find yourself flipping through papers to figure out what to do next, you're doing it wrong. Figure out what you need to do and re-arrange everything before you even step into the lab. What works for your neighbor might not work for you.", "If it's chemistry lab or physics lab, make drawings of everything you will need to do. Make a little stick figure comic of you doing lab exercises.\n\n\"Titrate tested solution with 1 mole buffer solution until colour change\" is much less memorable than a simple sketch of a beaker under a titration tube.", "Any good lab component to science is supplementary to knowledge gained in the course itself. A good understanding of the actual science behind what you are doing is a key for me performing in labs. If I understand the \"why\" I am adding a certain chemical, the process becomes clear to me as I understand the step and the product I am creating. This knowledge then builds and many labs become second nature.\n\nOf prime importance, however, is physical organisation. Have you ever been in a commercial analytical chemistry laboratory? The reason they can be fast and efficient is because everything you could possibly need to do the job is right at your fingertips. Make sure you know exactly what you need and what you need to do to get it, and get organised before you begin the actual experiments. This will speed the process up many times.", "Former lab TA here -- Aside from the other tips that tell you how to work in lab, I have some \"homework\" for you that can get you used to following a prewritten procedure. You are going to cook dinner, at home, every day from now until whenever you can float through lab as easily as your counterparts.\n\nBut you aren't just going to wing it. Nope.\n\nYou have to cook based on a recipe. You must find a recipe, gather your ingredients, and then cook *faithfully* to the recipe. Daily.\n\nYou may have up to one sous chef, as you are allowed a lab partner in lab, too. Unless your lab doesn't have partners. In which case, no sous chef for you.\n\nThis is the same skill, but a different setting. A delicious dinner can make for an excellent motivational tool.", "Thank you very much, everyone! Greatly appreciative of everyone advice as I (previously) dreading going to lab due to my incompetence. But no longer!\n\nAgain, thanks! :D" ]

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[ "How to go out to restaurants with your sibling and not have people think you're on a date? I go out with my sister sometimes to restaurants and stuff occasionally. I'm 24, she's 16 and people sometimes think we're dating which is pretty awkward. ", "How to go out to restaurants with your sibling and not have people think you're on a date? I go out with my sister sometimes to restaurants and stuff occasionally. I'm 24, she's 16 and people sometimes think we're dating which is pretty awkward. ", "How to go out to restaurants with your sibling and not have people think you're on a date? I go out with my sister sometimes to restaurants and stuff occasionally. I'm 24, she's 16 and people sometimes think we're dating which is pretty awkward. ", "How to go out to restaurants with your sibling and not have people think you're on a date? I go out with my sister sometimes to restaurants and stuff occasionally. I'm 24, she's 16 and people sometimes think we're dating which is pretty awkward. ", "How to go out to restaurants with your sibling and not have people think you're on a date? I go out with my sister sometimes to restaurants and stuff occasionally. I'm 24, she's 16 and people sometimes think we're dating which is pretty awkward. ", "How to go out to restaurants with your sibling and not have people think you're on a date? I go out with my sister sometimes to restaurants and stuff occasionally. I'm 24, she's 16 and people sometimes think we're dating which is pretty awkward. ", "How to go out to restaurants with your sibling and not have people think you're on a date? I go out with my sister sometimes to restaurants and stuff occasionally. I'm 24, she's 16 and people sometimes think we're dating which is pretty awkward. ", "How to go out to restaurants with your sibling and not have people think you're on a date? I go out with my sister sometimes to restaurants and stuff occasionally. I'm 24, she's 16 and people sometimes think we're dating which is pretty awkward. " ]

[ "My husband loves trying to be gross and embarrassing while we stand together at the market or bank and hugs and kisses me and says \"don't tell mom\" ... I'm always super mortified. ", "If they start looking at you like that, then kiss her real good. When she slaps you and yells at you, they'll get the picture. ", "Don't sweat what people say or think. None of their business anyway. Just smile. Its just like when you take your sugar baby out to Vicky's when panties are five for twenty five and the salespeople think she is your daughter. Just smile. ", "Who the fuck cares what people think? You're not even gonna see them again. Come on man, a 24 year old should know that. ", "Just ask politely if your sis is into incest. If she is, quickly ask an authority figure your state's age of consent law. Most states are 16 so you should be ready to go. Then you won't have to worry about people thinking you and your sis are dating because you're too busy getting sweet 16 yr old poon.\nRemember: blood is thicker than lube.", "When interacting in front of your waitstaff, a simple, \"Hey sis, are you ready to order?\" can alleviate any confusion. I feel like this happens to me as an adult woman when I hang out one on one with my dad. I sometimes feel the need to say, \"I'll have a beer and dad, what would you like?\" to state our relationship to waitstaff, etc... ", "It doesn't matter what people think, unless they actually come and start saying something I wouldn't worry about it.", "It is none of your business what anyone else thinks of you, in the same way that is none of anyone else business what you think of them, apply this to all areas of your life it will set you free. " ]

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[ "I am messy. How do I keep my apartment clean despite years of being messy? A fresh and clean apartment makes me really happy, but somehow after a few weeks things always turn to shit. I understand \"put things away when you use them\", but it's really hard for me to keep motivated to that. I guess it's finding the time to do it too, after work I have downtime where I don't want to spend it cleaning, before work I just get ready, MAYBE eat breakfast, and leave... On the weekends I usually have some time but by then the place looks worse and its daunting. \n\nHave there been any people here that have went from being pretty messy to a neat freak (or at least reasonably clean)?", "I am messy. How do I keep my apartment clean despite years of being messy? A fresh and clean apartment makes me really happy, but somehow after a few weeks things always turn to shit. I understand \"put things away when you use them\", but it's really hard for me to keep motivated to that. I guess it's finding the time to do it too, after work I have downtime where I don't want to spend it cleaning, before work I just get ready, MAYBE eat breakfast, and leave... On the weekends I usually have some time but by then the place looks worse and its daunting. \n\nHave there been any people here that have went from being pretty messy to a neat freak (or at least reasonably clean)?", "I am messy. How do I keep my apartment clean despite years of being messy? A fresh and clean apartment makes me really happy, but somehow after a few weeks things always turn to shit. I understand \"put things away when you use them\", but it's really hard for me to keep motivated to that. I guess it's finding the time to do it too, after work I have downtime where I don't want to spend it cleaning, before work I just get ready, MAYBE eat breakfast, and leave... On the weekends I usually have some time but by then the place looks worse and its daunting. \n\nHave there been any people here that have went from being pretty messy to a neat freak (or at least reasonably clean)?", "I am messy. How do I keep my apartment clean despite years of being messy? A fresh and clean apartment makes me really happy, but somehow after a few weeks things always turn to shit. I understand \"put things away when you use them\", but it's really hard for me to keep motivated to that. I guess it's finding the time to do it too, after work I have downtime where I don't want to spend it cleaning, before work I just get ready, MAYBE eat breakfast, and leave... On the weekends I usually have some time but by then the place looks worse and its daunting. \n\nHave there been any people here that have went from being pretty messy to a neat freak (or at least reasonably clean)?", "I am messy. How do I keep my apartment clean despite years of being messy? A fresh and clean apartment makes me really happy, but somehow after a few weeks things always turn to shit. I understand \"put things away when you use them\", but it's really hard for me to keep motivated to that. I guess it's finding the time to do it too, after work I have downtime where I don't want to spend it cleaning, before work I just get ready, MAYBE eat breakfast, and leave... On the weekends I usually have some time but by then the place looks worse and its daunting. \n\nHave there been any people here that have went from being pretty messy to a neat freak (or at least reasonably clean)?", "I am messy. How do I keep my apartment clean despite years of being messy? A fresh and clean apartment makes me really happy, but somehow after a few weeks things always turn to shit. I understand \"put things away when you use them\", but it's really hard for me to keep motivated to that. I guess it's finding the time to do it too, after work I have downtime where I don't want to spend it cleaning, before work I just get ready, MAYBE eat breakfast, and leave... On the weekends I usually have some time but by then the place looks worse and its daunting. \n\nHave there been any people here that have went from being pretty messy to a neat freak (or at least reasonably clean)?", "I am messy. How do I keep my apartment clean despite years of being messy? A fresh and clean apartment makes me really happy, but somehow after a few weeks things always turn to shit. I understand \"put things away when you use them\", but it's really hard for me to keep motivated to that. I guess it's finding the time to do it too, after work I have downtime where I don't want to spend it cleaning, before work I just get ready, MAYBE eat breakfast, and leave... On the weekends I usually have some time but by then the place looks worse and its daunting. \n\nHave there been any people here that have went from being pretty messy to a neat freak (or at least reasonably clean)?", "I am messy. How do I keep my apartment clean despite years of being messy? A fresh and clean apartment makes me really happy, but somehow after a few weeks things always turn to shit. I understand \"put things away when you use them\", but it's really hard for me to keep motivated to that. I guess it's finding the time to do it too, after work I have downtime where I don't want to spend it cleaning, before work I just get ready, MAYBE eat breakfast, and leave... On the weekends I usually have some time but by then the place looks worse and its daunting. \n\nHave there been any people here that have went from being pretty messy to a neat freak (or at least reasonably clean)?", "I am messy. How do I keep my apartment clean despite years of being messy? A fresh and clean apartment makes me really happy, but somehow after a few weeks things always turn to shit. I understand \"put things away when you use them\", but it's really hard for me to keep motivated to that. I guess it's finding the time to do it too, after work I have downtime where I don't want to spend it cleaning, before work I just get ready, MAYBE eat breakfast, and leave... On the weekends I usually have some time but by then the place looks worse and its daunting. \n\nHave there been any people here that have went from being pretty messy to a neat freak (or at least reasonably clean)?", "I am messy. How do I keep my apartment clean despite years of being messy? A fresh and clean apartment makes me really happy, but somehow after a few weeks things always turn to shit. I understand \"put things away when you use them\", but it's really hard for me to keep motivated to that. I guess it's finding the time to do it too, after work I have downtime where I don't want to spend it cleaning, before work I just get ready, MAYBE eat breakfast, and leave... On the weekends I usually have some time but by then the place looks worse and its daunting. \n\nHave there been any people here that have went from being pretty messy to a neat freak (or at least reasonably clean)?", "I am messy. How do I keep my apartment clean despite years of being messy? A fresh and clean apartment makes me really happy, but somehow after a few weeks things always turn to shit. I understand \"put things away when you use them\", but it's really hard for me to keep motivated to that. I guess it's finding the time to do it too, after work I have downtime where I don't want to spend it cleaning, before work I just get ready, MAYBE eat breakfast, and leave... On the weekends I usually have some time but by then the place looks worse and its daunting. \n\nHave there been any people here that have went from being pretty messy to a neat freak (or at least reasonably clean)?", "I am messy. How do I keep my apartment clean despite years of being messy? A fresh and clean apartment makes me really happy, but somehow after a few weeks things always turn to shit. I understand \"put things away when you use them\", but it's really hard for me to keep motivated to that. I guess it's finding the time to do it too, after work I have downtime where I don't want to spend it cleaning, before work I just get ready, MAYBE eat breakfast, and leave... On the weekends I usually have some time but by then the place looks worse and its daunting. \n\nHave there been any people here that have went from being pretty messy to a neat freak (or at least reasonably clean)?", "I am messy. How do I keep my apartment clean despite years of being messy? A fresh and clean apartment makes me really happy, but somehow after a few weeks things always turn to shit. I understand \"put things away when you use them\", but it's really hard for me to keep motivated to that. I guess it's finding the time to do it too, after work I have downtime where I don't want to spend it cleaning, before work I just get ready, MAYBE eat breakfast, and leave... On the weekends I usually have some time but by then the place looks worse and its daunting. \n\nHave there been any people here that have went from being pretty messy to a neat freak (or at least reasonably clean)?", "I am messy. How do I keep my apartment clean despite years of being messy? A fresh and clean apartment makes me really happy, but somehow after a few weeks things always turn to shit. I understand \"put things away when you use them\", but it's really hard for me to keep motivated to that. I guess it's finding the time to do it too, after work I have downtime where I don't want to spend it cleaning, before work I just get ready, MAYBE eat breakfast, and leave... On the weekends I usually have some time but by then the place looks worse and its daunting. \n\nHave there been any people here that have went from being pretty messy to a neat freak (or at least reasonably clean)?", "I am messy. How do I keep my apartment clean despite years of being messy? A fresh and clean apartment makes me really happy, but somehow after a few weeks things always turn to shit. I understand \"put things away when you use them\", but it's really hard for me to keep motivated to that. I guess it's finding the time to do it too, after work I have downtime where I don't want to spend it cleaning, before work I just get ready, MAYBE eat breakfast, and leave... On the weekends I usually have some time but by then the place looks worse and its daunting. \n\nHave there been any people here that have went from being pretty messy to a neat freak (or at least reasonably clean)?" ]

[ "On a previous LPT, two suggestions made the biggest impact on me.\n This is my spin on them:\n\n* Every time you enter a room, pickup 5 things. It takes no time at all and prevents you from having to do the long and tedious cleaning sessions that many people abhor the idea of. Eventually there will only be 3 things left to pickup and from that point forward there will never be a mess you can't take care of in 20 seconds.\n\n* The 2 minute rule. Instead of looking at something on the ground or on the counters and thinking \"eh, I'll take care of it later,\" look at that item or mess and ask yourself, \"Can I pick it up in less than 2 minutes?\" If the answer is yes, do it right then and there. This is a conscious method of preventing procrastination. If you choose to ignore the rule after already acknowledging it, the guilt quickly sets in.\n\nThe only trick then is to make sure that these two things become part of your every day habit. You will look at a dirty pan and realize you could clean it in 45 seconds and have it out of the way. You will walk into your bedroom and see yesterdays outfit on the floor and pick those 5 items up, and your messes will slowly vanish. ", "I used to be very messy. Now I am only moderately messy (about 5% as messy as I used to be). Here are some of the things I learned: \n\n* Set a timer for 5 minutes. Clean until the timer goes off, then stop. Force yourself to stop even if you want to keep going. This trains your brain to think of cleaning as a \"forbidden fruit\" that you just can't get enough of. \n\n* Clean as a habit, not a project. This means clean in little tiny batches. When you're standing at the sink, if there are dirty dishes, clean one of them. Not all of them, just one. Do this throughout your day, whenever you encounter a mess. Just do one little bit. \n\n* \"A place for everything, and everything in its place\" is a great system. The key part is that if you find something laying out, and you're not sure where to put it, that's a BIG problem. It's completely worth it to sit down and figure out exactly where you're going to keep that thing. The benefit of having \"a place for everything\" is that when it comes time to clean up, you don't have to think, each thing you pick up already has an intended destination and you can just mechanically put it there. This is part of a much larger life strategy I call \"separating thinking from doing\". Think during one phase, then do during another. \n\n* Tossing an entire mess into a box is **totally legitimate**. The psychological stress of having that mess out on the floor is a drain on your mental resources. Having it in a box, even if the box has no rhyme or reason to what's in it, contains it. Then you can sit down and process the things in that box, but you don't have to do that now. For now, just pick up all the crap and put it in a box. \n\n* Arrange things, like OCD style. Even if you don't actually pick up a mess, just taking every thing in that mess and lining it up (like the way icons line up on your computer) will make the whole thing easier on your mind. \n\n\nA big part of the above tips, as you may have noticed, relies on the idea that messes interfere with your cognitive processing. This is true, and IMO that is one of the biggest drawbacks of having a mess - it makes it harder to live and think and make decisions in that messy room. This is why even just hiding the mess in a box is actually useful.", "Whenever you use something, immediately put it back where it belongs when you are done.\n\nFinish a glass of water? Wash it, or put it in the dishwasher.\n\nChanging clothes? Put dirty clothes directly in the clothes hamper or washing machine.\n\nFinish watching TV? Put the remote in the same place every time you shut it off.\n\nThis principle has served me well.", "Schedule cleaning time regularly, and put it in your calendar. This way you are more motivated to keep things clean as it's less work at cleaning time.\n\n", "Few tips. \n\n* throw away everything that u dont need.\n* keep Only things that u need.\n* pay for a cleaner If u can once a Week. Monday After a messi weekend\n* less furniture around , less things for you to think about\n* In the kitchen: If U are alone. 1 knife, 1 fork, 1 spoon, 1 plate, 1 cup.", "Never leave a room empty-handed; you'll almost always have *something* you can put away.\n\nAlso, make yourself a to-do list that includes 3 things. Always get those 3 things done, be they easy or difficult. When you don't have a mountain to do staring you down, it's easier to get and keep the place clean.", "Something people might not think about: redecorate your place. New stuff, couch in a different place. Some plants. Throwing stuff out. This way you will feel pride for it, and are more likely to keep it cleaner.\n\nAnother thing: laundry bin near where you dress and undress, wastebin near your desk, paperbin near your desk, if you don't have a dishwasher get a dishpan and put it in the cupboard under the sink. This way you have the places to put stuff in you don't want to clean right away, instead of clogging up your house. \n\nSource: years of being a messy person. ", "It may sound too simple, but get more trash cans. Put them everywhere, especially close to places you frequent most often. You won't just put trash down or drop it anywhere when you could be tossing it in a can. Then dump them all once a week. Trust me, this works and it doesn't hurt. :)", "Go through your stuff from time to time, and get rid of some of it. Find some low percentage (less than 5% usually works) and when you count up the items (say I have 200 items in a room) get rid of that much (5% of 200 = 10 things).\n\nMove all your clothes to the far left (it doesn't matter where, just so long as there's some sort of division) of your dresser/closet/treasure chest/time capsule/whatever. When you do laundry, put it back on the right. Every month or so, get rid of the stuff on the left.\n\nThat's my general rule for keeping stuff cleaned up: have less stuff.", "Find a time in the day when you can do minor daily cleaning. For me I do this often right before bed. Another one I like is while waiting for something to cook, since I'm already up it's easy to do chores. Throw away trash, put away stray clothing, reshelve your books and dvds. Make it a game, how much stuff can you put away before the microwave dings?", "try to buy some boxes fix your item size. small size item you can just put into small boxes, big size item for big boxes.\nit will be easy to find out the things that you wants.\n\nyou can just throw your things into boxes, i think this method will motivate you more!", "tell yourself you can't have sex until you clean; then do it anyway. you won't be clean but at least you got laid", "Set a timer for 5 minutes and clean as much as you can in that time (I feel like I'm racing against the clock). Do this everyday, and your messes won't build upon each other.", "Real simple, throw shit out when you are done with it. There's no magical tip mate, just never leave shit lying around. That's how it piles up. Just gotta get into the habit of throwing shit out when you are done with it. \n\nYou probably eat out a lot, eating junk food I assume. This would add a lot to your waste and you can try eating healthier, which would not only solve your mess problem but also make you much heathier.\n\nAnd all up, don't feel like your a hermit, this is the sort shit you learn after growing up, just don't worry about rushing it. \n\nMagical tip.", "Move. (jk - it has to become a discipline before it becomes a habit. I'm still in procrastinate mode)" ]

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[ "Stretch Marks I'm currently losing weight and have noticed some stretch marks showing up. I can really only find stuff online from people trying to sell things, so I thought I'd ask here.\n\nThanks!", "Stretch Marks I'm currently losing weight and have noticed some stretch marks showing up. I can really only find stuff online from people trying to sell things, so I thought I'd ask here.\n\nThanks!", "Stretch Marks I'm currently losing weight and have noticed some stretch marks showing up. I can really only find stuff online from people trying to sell things, so I thought I'd ask here.\n\nThanks!", "Stretch Marks I'm currently losing weight and have noticed some stretch marks showing up. I can really only find stuff online from people trying to sell things, so I thought I'd ask here.\n\nThanks!", "Stretch Marks I'm currently losing weight and have noticed some stretch marks showing up. I can really only find stuff online from people trying to sell things, so I thought I'd ask here.\n\nThanks!", "Stretch Marks I'm currently losing weight and have noticed some stretch marks showing up. I can really only find stuff online from people trying to sell things, so I thought I'd ask here.\n\nThanks!", "Stretch Marks I'm currently losing weight and have noticed some stretch marks showing up. I can really only find stuff online from people trying to sell things, so I thought I'd ask here.\n\nThanks!", "Stretch Marks I'm currently losing weight and have noticed some stretch marks showing up. I can really only find stuff online from people trying to sell things, so I thought I'd ask here.\n\nThanks!", "Stretch Marks I'm currently losing weight and have noticed some stretch marks showing up. I can really only find stuff online from people trying to sell things, so I thought I'd ask here.\n\nThanks!", "Stretch Marks I'm currently losing weight and have noticed some stretch marks showing up. I can really only find stuff online from people trying to sell things, so I thought I'd ask here.\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "It has been my impression that no lotion or cream will have any effect on whether stretch marks appear throughout one's life (as they are determined by genetic factors of one's skin). ", "My girlfriend used Coco butter lotion when she was pregnant, and she has next to no stretch marks now.", "I've heard coffee grounds with a few drops of water then rub/massage it into stretch marks helps. But I'm as reliable as Cosmo for sex tips.", "As far as I know dark colored, newer marks stand a better chance of healing, whereas lighter older striae may only fade sightly. You may want to try Bio-Oil. It's good, but can be a bit pricey ($12 for 2 oz.). Vitamin E oil, aloe vera, and raw shea butter stay on my shelf. I apply the vitamin E oil a couple times a day, shea butter 3 times a week, and aloe most nights. I had deep white striae on my caramel skin so unfortunately my ass looked like a tiger mauled it. They're still there, but a lot less noticeable. Cheers to a happy, healthy you! :)", "olive oil before and after you shower. your skin will be so smooth you'll want to touch yourself more than the hottest woman.", "Only things I've known to help is tanning to make them less noticeable, weight training, and drinking lots of water to make the skin more elastic. \n\nSource: I've lost 270 lbs w/o surgery. \n\nGood luck!\n\n", "Mederma worked for my stretch marks, though they now make one made specifically for stretch marks. Might be worth looking into.", "Mother of pearl cream. \n\n[something like this] (http://www.rakuten.com/prod/grisi-mother-of-pearl-cream-3-8-oz-crema-concha-nacar/223763294.html?listingId=202015155)\n\nWorks on scars too.", "Just moisturize like crazy. Stretch marks are easier to deal with when getting *bigger* but at least they'll be less noticeable.", "I've been told that VapoRub works wonders on stretch marks - apply liberally and let the body absorb it" ]

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[ "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding.", "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding.", "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding.", "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding.", "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding.", "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding.", "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding.", "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding.", "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding.", "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding.", "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding.", "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding.", "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding.", "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding.", "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding.", "Getting toddler to drink disgusting medication. I have a sick 2 years old and nasty fluid medication, 3ml three times daily.\n\nMixing it is not an option.\n\nI am willing to use force but she spits out when I try 'normal' force feeding." ]

[ "Emergency department nurse here. I have had to give a lot of liquid prednisone to children over the years, and there is absolutely no way to disguise the taste of that crap. The best method to give to a young child is to have two people, one to hold the child safely, the other to give the med slowly through a syringe. Often smaller children will cry during admin of any med, or when being held. If children were spitters, we would have them lying reclined, not quite flat, and as they cry, you drip the med slowly into the space between the cheek and gum, and I mean very, very slowly...no shooting a syringe full of med down the throat. As they cry, they will take pauses to swallow, as they normally would. Older kids are smart, and if you remain calm and they know you mean business, eventually they will realize it is much easier to take it quickly than a teaspoon of bad tasting stuff over a period of 15 minutes. With pts and my own kids, I always talk throughout the whole thing, \"oh, I know this stuff is so nasty, it will be ok, you're alright, we'll be done soon, I don't like medicine either, etc.\" \n\nThe worst is to have a child with a sensitive gag...some kids and adults just can't handle the taste or consistency of some medications, and they will often bring the medicine back up. \n\nAt about 3 I was able to say to my daughter...do you want the yucky medicine first or last? And would time the medication around a dose of an acetaminophen or ibuprofen she liked, or her daily vitamin. 2 is definitely, overall, the roughest age. You just have to try to be as consistent as possible. Good luck and sorry!", "Give her a reward immediately afterwards that'll take the taste away and is small enough she won't it won't make her throw up such as chocolate. \n\nIf you explain that she needs to take it to make her better and if she drinks it quick she can have chocolate or whatever her favourite treat is it should work. Even 2 year olds are generally quite smart and can be reasoned with if she understands why she needs to take the nasty medicine.\n\nThis is the method I use with my kids, I find [Caramello Koalas](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caramello_Koala) work best as they are chocolate with a caramel centre, but [Freddo Frogs](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Freddo) work well too.", "Sounds like clindamycin. Instead if liquid, ask the doctor fir the capsules. Break the capsules open and mix into pudding or applesauce. For liquid clinda, there is supposedly a new formukation out there....", "Can you get a syringe (like the kind that comes with baby tylenol) and inject it into the back of her mouth? Then cuddle her and give her a treat and tell her what a good brave girl she is.", "When my son was three we had to give him a very bitter medicine. The pharmacist encouraged us to use lemon flavoured candies (small drops or jelly beans) before and after the medicine. My son would have one jelly bean before and two after the medicine. You are dealing with an age group that doesn't reason or negotiate so you need to appeal to her greed. Best of luck.", "This is kind of upsetting for the child but as a gramma, if they really Won't take it, I've found standing or sitting behind them, body pressed quite close together, leaning your chest over their head. Med in one hand, syringe is easier! less spillage! and other hand under their chin.\n\nDont' really even talk about it, just a quick \"OK medicine time - then you get a cookie\" or something to that effect. \nSo their head is against you, you have one hand under their chin, you admininster the med with the other and pop their chin closed and keep their little head still - they pretty much HAVE to swallow.\n\nCourse they hate you for it but then I give them any treat they want. ", "Out of curiosity, why is mixing it not an option?\n\nMost medications are stable in chocolate syrup if you mix it in there. Give the kid some non-medicated chocolate syrup as a taster, then administer the medicated chocolate syrup right after.", "Hold her nose, but have a spoon of medicine ready. When she goes to breathe from her mouth, pop the spoon in. ", "Try playing a game where you hold her nose and get her to drink is all I can think of.\n\nAt least your not giving 6 capsules a day to a 135 lb. Alaskan Malamute who shows his teeth when he sees the medicine bottle. Talk about fun!", "This used to work for me when I was a little. I was an absolute terror taking medicine so my mom would fill the bottom of the cup with Hershey syrup and pour the medicine on top. To get to the yummy chocolate I had to drink the medicine. It worked well and it made the nasty medicine taste go away quickly. Also have a glass of water handy because it's refreshing after all that. Hope this helps. ", "Theoretically, if you blow into a child's mouth it triggers an irresistible swallow reflex. That seemed to work most of the time when we had to give our 1.5-year-old meds after surgery. Good luck!", "Sometimes it works to give her a few spoons of ice cream, or a popsicle first. Kinda numbs the tongue.", "Pediatrician told us this one:\n\nLet her eat a marshmallow right before she takes her medicine. It coats her tongue and she won't taste it as much.\n\nWorks every time. ", "If specifically avoiding the horrible claviers isn't an option, most pharmacies can add flavoring that won't alter the medicine. \nAdditionally, when you empower a hold to control their own medicine, you can really change the game. We found a lot of success using sryringes (the non-needle ones that usually come w/ prescription medicine) and letting the kids put it in their mouth. If the medicine is known to be really bad tasting you can also cut it down by adding a small amount of water.", "Don't know if anyone said this already, but most liquid medication can be flavored for you at your pharmacy. When you go to pick up the medicine ask if this option is available. Maybe letting the child choose the flavor will make them a little more willing to take it. If the option is not available for whatever reason, ask to talk to your pharmacist and see if they have any suggestions. Just be polite to your pharmacy staff, and they will usually cooperate with you. :)", "Can you put it with some honey at all? I run a daycare and the kiddos will take their meds if I follow it with honey. We also have a bit of a routine so we make decaf fruit or herbal tea and sip of that, finish meds, sip sip. 30m olds catch on to this and love it. " ]

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[ "How do I habitually use languages? So I'm danish, and I'd say I'm pretty decent at english, since I use it frequently. In Denmark you have to have 3 languages in school; danish, english and german or french. But problem is, I'm bad at german, and I cr", "How do I habitually use languages? So I'm danish, and I'd say I'm pretty decent at english, since I use it frequently. In Denmark you have to have 3 languages in school; danish, english and german or french. But problem is, I'm bad at german, and I cr", "How do I habitually use languages? So I'm danish, and I'd say I'm pretty decent at english, since I use it frequently. In Denmark you have to have 3 languages in school; danish, english and german or french. But problem is, I'm bad at german, and I cr", "How do I habitually use languages? So I'm danish, and I'd say I'm pretty decent at english, since I use it frequently. In Denmark you have to have 3 languages in school; danish, english and german or french. But problem is, I'm bad at german, and I cr", "How do I habitually use languages? So I'm danish, and I'd say I'm pretty decent at english, since I use it frequently. In Denmark you have to have 3 languages in school; danish, english and german or french. But problem is, I'm bad at german, and I cr" ]

[ "Try listening to music in the language you want practice in - learn the songs, sing along. It has an added benefit of sometimes using new to you or slang words that you can look up, making you more fluent. :)\n\n", "Get a German (or Austrian, Swiss, Liechtensteiner, Luxembourger, etc...) friend, and practice with them.\n\nIt works for me.", "Find a friend who speaks German and decide for that night you're going to converse solely in German. Me and a friend did this when we only had a rudimentary grasp on Spanish. We'd try to use Spanish for a night, but rollover into English when we didn't know the right word. Often times the other would know the word, or be able to correct something you said, and you learn back and forth.", "DuoLingo seems to work for me. I am American and trying to keep up my German. I start with their baseline tests and move forward. It also helps me make it better. I also will progress to other languages later, I think.", "I use the duolingo app on my phone, it lets you take courses in lots of different languages and is really easy to use and has some great features\n\nhttps://www.duolingo.com/ " ]

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[ "How does an adult recover from childhood teasing/bullying? I was verbally abused for 7 straight years in school, and I still experience a lot of struggles as an adult. Low self esteem, anger, people pleasing, critical spirit, etc...\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on healing from years of mean spirited children taunting you?", "How does an adult recover from childhood teasing/bullying? I was verbally abused for 7 straight years in school, and I still experience a lot of struggles as an adult. Low self esteem, anger, people pleasing, critical spirit, etc...\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on healing from years of mean spirited children taunting you?", "How does an adult recover from childhood teasing/bullying? I was verbally abused for 7 straight years in school, and I still experience a lot of struggles as an adult. Low self esteem, anger, people pleasing, critical spirit, etc...\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on healing from years of mean spirited children taunting you?", "How does an adult recover from childhood teasing/bullying? I was verbally abused for 7 straight years in school, and I still experience a lot of struggles as an adult. Low self esteem, anger, people pleasing, critical spirit, etc...\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on healing from years of mean spirited children taunting you?", "How does an adult recover from childhood teasing/bullying? I was verbally abused for 7 straight years in school, and I still experience a lot of struggles as an adult. Low self esteem, anger, people pleasing, critical spirit, etc...\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on healing from years of mean spirited children taunting you?", "How does an adult recover from childhood teasing/bullying? I was verbally abused for 7 straight years in school, and I still experience a lot of struggles as an adult. Low self esteem, anger, people pleasing, critical spirit, etc...\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on healing from years of mean spirited children taunting you?", "How does an adult recover from childhood teasing/bullying? I was verbally abused for 7 straight years in school, and I still experience a lot of struggles as an adult. Low self esteem, anger, people pleasing, critical spirit, etc...\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on healing from years of mean spirited children taunting you?" ]

[ "Group therapy is a winner, but I also suggest some kind of field where any effort is appreciated, such as volunteering at a shelter or community work. This did wonders for me because it not only gave me some sense of value, but time out with people who had it worse than me. \n\nLikely, you'll end up growing and helping people grow as well as acquiring a heap of skills in the chosen field - if you volunteer at a community garden, for example, you learn outdoor skills, cooking skills (with all that new produce), meet new people and have something great to put on your CV. Totally win-win.\n\nI worked at a community workshop for a few years and it did wonders for me and the people I worked with.", "I was lucky enough to grow up in a place where the people were kind to each other (Evanston,IL). But every women I dated (I'm guessing from your era of youth) who was verbally abused, I always would say, it's irrelevant now and the only thing that matters is now. What happened to you is unacceptable and you didn't deserve it, but the past is the past and you don't have to live in pain. My dad died out of now where when I was 15(1999) and every year I go to the mailbox and hope there's a card in there from him. I guess what I'm saying is, everyone has deep pain but keep fighting!", "Your Perception is your reality. How do you see your past? Since it was in the past then it's gone. How is it intruding on your life Now? Is it from Memories? Then you have control of those thoughts. When those thoughts come up, stop them immediately. Tell yourself NO and then say something nice to yourself. Give yourself a complement right after. It would go something like this; \"no, stop thinking those thought. Those thoughts hold no purpose for me and I won'the let my brain think them. I am a smart person\". \nIf you have bad dreams then it is good to change those dreams. You can control your dreams. The first step is to acknowledge that you can. Then start trying to do it. Stop the dream and change its outcome. It takes a while but your brain will learn to do this. Eventually you will feel more powerful and let the past be in the past. \nNext accept that you were a child with limited smarts and experience and so were your tormentors. Think about yourself as that child and that child is still inside you. If you had a child (maybe you do) you would talk your child through it, you would not make him feel like he was a bad kid because others picked on him. Be nice to that child. Eventually your inner child will listen to your adult self and will leave the past in the past. \nYour experience makes you smarter and tougher once you heal the emotional wounds. You can turn the experience into a strength. The past is the past. Go forth and rock-roll. ", "This is a rather narrowly-focused reply, but I'm part of a Men's group called the [Mankind Project](http://mankindproject.org/). Your problem is one of the many that we work with in supporting each other. If you're a guy, you might want to check them out. I've heard that there's a similar group for women called Woman Within, but know very little about them.\n\nBut the bigger answer is some sort of therapy.", "All good advice but it really starts from within. Find what's good about yourself, your accomplishments and build on that. As you build your self-esteem everything else gets slightly easier. The build build build. ", "So, there is a technique you can use called mindfulness.\n\nThe idea behind mindfulness is that everyone has thoughts, feelings and memories that make them feel bad. And it is true, everyone has those moments where all of a sudden, a thought, or feeling or memory will pop into their mind and then they feel sad/mad/unhappy/whatever.\n\nBut there is a way to minimize the impact that this has on your life.\n\nIt works like this:\n\n1) Feeling, thought, memory pops into your mind.\n\n2) Acknowledge that occurrence. It doesn't have to be anything time consuming or weird, maybe just, \"Oh, when I think about X it makes me sad.\"\n\n3) Make an effort to get back to whatever you were thinking/doing/saying at the moment.\n\nThe point of this exercise is to live in the moment. If we are not careful, painful memories and fear of the future can rob us of the time we spend with our friends and family now.\n\nThings you want to avoid when attempting this technique:\n\na) Suppressing these thoughts, feelings and memories. By attempting to deny their existence the underlying stress will come out in unexpected and unacceptable ways...\n\nb) Avoiding these ideas when they occur. You can do things like video gaming, TV watching, reading fiction, going to plays, listening to music, etc. These activities can help distract you from the issues bouncing around in your mind. But by doing this, they are growing a life of their own and will get you into trouble when they surface as an over-reaction to something that should only be mildly annoying.\n\nc) Feeling bad. Everyone has these thoughts. The difference between a good person and a bad person is how those thoughts affect them. A person with a mental disorder will obsess on them, an evil person will act on them, etc. But everyone has them, if you don't act on them and put them in their place, then you can enjoy a healthy life.\n\nSo, how this applies to you, is, whenever you get thoughts, ideas or memories about how poorly you were treated or about how poorly you feel about yourself, you need to acknowledge them and then get back to your life. It is hard at first and takes practice, but the benefits are well worth it.\n\nAnyways, I hope this helps!", "It wasn't years for me, more of a tightly compressed few junior high years. And I still think about that horrible horrible years while still fully moving on past them, and have a happy life.\n\nWhat I did was became quite good at my job, through a combination of focus and working hard (yeah, ok, and a bit of luck too, being at the right place and the right time and all that). \n\nFirst I got into a career that I was compatible with. Then at work I leveraged the intelligence that gave me the high grades that helped make me a target, while growing out of the awkward me-centric behaviour that helped make me an even larger target in Junior High. Paying attention and having a couple good mentors helped immensely.\n\nAnd that led to promotions, which led to a decent standard of living, which led to the ability to fund new experiences like travel, which led to self-confidence, which led to a girlfriend, which led to a wife, which led to...\n\n...and on and on until the sheer volume of positive memories dwarfed the bad ones.\n\nHope you can do this too." ]

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[ "How to keep hand towels dry/How many hand towels should an adult have? Seems like I can have a hand towel in the bathroom for 2-3 days tops before it gets damp and gross to dry my hands. There's 2 of us in the house. Is there a trick for keeping our hand towels dry for longer, or should I really be changing them out 2-3 times a week?\n\nWe have one of those rings, so the towel bunches up a bit. It might be better if we had a straight bar so it could lie flat, but I'm not sure we have room for that. Any ideas are appreciated. Thanks.", "How to keep hand towels dry/How many hand towels should an adult have? Seems like I can have a hand towel in the bathroom for 2-3 days tops before it gets damp and gross to dry my hands. There's 2 of us in the house. Is there a trick for keeping our hand towels dry for longer, or should I really be changing them out 2-3 times a week?\n\nWe have one of those rings, so the towel bunches up a bit. It might be better if we had a straight bar so it could lie flat, but I'm not sure we have room for that. Any ideas are appreciated. Thanks.", "How to keep hand towels dry/How many hand towels should an adult have? Seems like I can have a hand towel in the bathroom for 2-3 days tops before it gets damp and gross to dry my hands. There's 2 of us in the house. Is there a trick for keeping our hand towels dry for longer, or should I really be changing them out 2-3 times a week?\n\nWe have one of those rings, so the towel bunches up a bit. It might be better if we had a straight bar so it could lie flat, but I'm not sure we have room for that. Any ideas are appreciated. Thanks.", "How to keep hand towels dry/How many hand towels should an adult have? Seems like I can have a hand towel in the bathroom for 2-3 days tops before it gets damp and gross to dry my hands. There's 2 of us in the house. Is there a trick for keeping our hand towels dry for longer, or should I really be changing them out 2-3 times a week?\n\nWe have one of those rings, so the towel bunches up a bit. It might be better if we had a straight bar so it could lie flat, but I'm not sure we have room for that. Any ideas are appreciated. Thanks.", "How to keep hand towels dry/How many hand towels should an adult have? Seems like I can have a hand towel in the bathroom for 2-3 days tops before it gets damp and gross to dry my hands. There's 2 of us in the house. Is there a trick for keeping our hand towels dry for longer, or should I really be changing them out 2-3 times a week?\n\nWe have one of those rings, so the towel bunches up a bit. It might be better if we had a straight bar so it could lie flat, but I'm not sure we have room for that. Any ideas are appreciated. Thanks." ]

[ "Yeah keeping it straight or hanging on a hook helps it not smell damp - the more surface area exposed, the better", "Make sure you shake your hands after washing to remove some water before using the towel. Doing that, I can generally get 5 days out of a (2adult) hand towel.", "Make sure they get plenty of air in between uses (not wadded in a puddle) and you can have two you rotate - use one, hang, use the next, etc.", "I would not use more than a day, bacteria grows immediately after use. Use hand drier, air dry, or use paper towel - much sanitary .", "Typical bathroom handtowels are made of thick fabric. I use kitchen towels in the bathroom made from thin, flat-weave cotton because they dry quicker. \n\nMost kitchen towels have a small loop on one corner.\n\nMy handtowels hang on a hook. Perhaps they dry quickly because the fabric is not bunched together through a hoop.." ]

[ 6, 3, 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "How does one live without constant anxiety and fear of losing everything? I don't know why, but I bounce in and out of states of intense anxiety where I fear I'll lose everything I love in my life. Those things include my wife, children, job, etc. \n\nI don't do anything illegal or immoral to cause these feelings, they just seem to happen. :/", "How does one live without constant anxiety and fear of losing everything? I don't know why, but I bounce in and out of states of intense anxiety where I fear I'll lose everything I love in my life. Those things include my wife, children, job, etc. \n\nI don't do anything illegal or immoral to cause these feelings, they just seem to happen. :/", "How does one live without constant anxiety and fear of losing everything? I don't know why, but I bounce in and out of states of intense anxiety where I fear I'll lose everything I love in my life. Those things include my wife, children, job, etc. \n\nI don't do anything illegal or immoral to cause these feelings, they just seem to happen. :/", "How does one live without constant anxiety and fear of losing everything? I don't know why, but I bounce in and out of states of intense anxiety where I fear I'll lose everything I love in my life. Those things include my wife, children, job, etc. \n\nI don't do anything illegal or immoral to cause these feelings, they just seem to happen. :/", "How does one live without constant anxiety and fear of losing everything? I don't know why, but I bounce in and out of states of intense anxiety where I fear I'll lose everything I love in my life. Those things include my wife, children, job, etc. \n\nI don't do anything illegal or immoral to cause these feelings, they just seem to happen. :/", "How does one live without constant anxiety and fear of losing everything? I don't know why, but I bounce in and out of states of intense anxiety where I fear I'll lose everything I love in my life. Those things include my wife, children, job, etc. \n\nI don't do anything illegal or immoral to cause these feelings, they just seem to happen. :/", "How does one live without constant anxiety and fear of losing everything? I don't know why, but I bounce in and out of states of intense anxiety where I fear I'll lose everything I love in my life. Those things include my wife, children, job, etc. \n\nI don't do anything illegal or immoral to cause these feelings, they just seem to happen. :/", "How does one live without constant anxiety and fear of losing everything? I don't know why, but I bounce in and out of states of intense anxiety where I fear I'll lose everything I love in my life. Those things include my wife, children, job, etc. \n\nI don't do anything illegal or immoral to cause these feelings, they just seem to happen. :/", "How does one live without constant anxiety and fear of losing everything? I don't know why, but I bounce in and out of states of intense anxiety where I fear I'll lose everything I love in my life. Those things include my wife, children, job, etc. \n\nI don't do anything illegal or immoral to cause these feelings, they just seem to happen. :/", "How does one live without constant anxiety and fear of losing everything? I don't know why, but I bounce in and out of states of intense anxiety where I fear I'll lose everything I love in my life. Those things include my wife, children, job, etc. \n\nI don't do anything illegal or immoral to cause these feelings, they just seem to happen. :/" ]

[ "\"I'm going to lose everything\" is just a thought. You don't have to believe it. You don't even have a way of knowing if it's true -- it's a prediction of a possible future. Most of those turn out to be mistaken.\n\nDoes believing it help you in any way? Does it make your life better? When you're thinking that thought, how do you treat the people you love? How do you treat yourself?\n\nWho would you be if that thought was no longer available to you? What would you be doing? How would you be feeling. How would you treat yourself and those around you without the thought?\n\nCan you see a reason to let the thought go? (Don't work at letting it go, just see if there might be a reason to let it go.)\n\n\"I'm not going to lose everything.\" Could that be just as true?", "Ok, so fair warning: this book is full of Hippy nonsense, but there are a few good nuggets in among the horse apples\n\nThere's a great chapter about this in [Steering by Starlight](https://www.amazon.com/Steering-Starlight-Science-Finding-Destiny/dp/B003GAMZSQ) by Martha Beck. She calls it the inner lizard. \n\n\nIt's rooted in the human fight or flight reflex and here is the basic [strategy](http://marthabeck.com/2008/05/do-you-and-your-lizard-live-in-a-van-down-by-the-river/) for dealing with it. (Down at the bottom of the page).", "It sounds like your anxiety is pretty intense, I think you should see a therapist and he probably will be able to prescribe something that can help", "Take more vitamin D? Idk. I'm the same way. I literally feel like I'm being eaten from the inside out. I can say spending as much time with friends and family really helps me. ", "Just remember it only took you this long to get this far and you didn't know what you were doing. Even if you lose everything you'll get it back faster next time. You also can't lose credentials and past experience (as in work experience). \n\nAlso playing Rust will help you get over this in no time.", "Read the Stoics. I recommend starting with M", "I got the same worry. I Can't help it. But dont let it stop you from living life with them and enjoying their presence.\n\nTry being more grateful and kind to your loved ones. Every moment with them, every day is a gift. Realize that before its too late bro. ", "\"The world is full of sorrow, the root of sorrow of is attachment\"\n\nThis simple phrase answers the most important questions in the world. \n\nNo attachment, no fear.\n\nNo attachment, no anxiety. ", "Become a stoic.\n\nAll things will be lost eventually. It cannot be helped. Accept this and cherish the time you have.", "Sorry for posting twice but, it reminded me of a joke. Hope you laugh.. a husband died the other day...\nHe put a ring on.." ]

[ 6, 5, 5, 3, 3, 1, 1, 1, 0, -1 ]

[ "Has anyone booked two shorter car rentals for the same time span of one long rental and saved money? (Details inside) I am looking to rent a car for a trip to Los Angeles. I need the car Friday-Wednesday. First, I priced one rental for the entire trip ($319). I then priced a rental from Friday-Sun ($62) and a separate rental from Sun-Wed ($125), which is significantly cheaper than the one long rental. Is there a catch I'm missing? This just seems too good to be true. I suppose the catch might be the inconvenience of having to make a trip to the airport to return the first car but it seems like a small price to pay. \n", "Has anyone booked two shorter car rentals for the same time span of one long rental and saved money? (Details inside) I am looking to rent a car for a trip to Los Angeles. I need the car Friday-Wednesday. First, I priced one rental for the entire trip ($319). I then priced a rental from Friday-Sun ($62) and a separate rental from Sun-Wed ($125), which is significantly cheaper than the one long rental. Is there a catch I'm missing? This just seems too good to be true. I suppose the catch might be the inconvenience of having to make a trip to the airport to return the first car but it seems like a small price to pay. \n" ]

[ "Is it possible that Fri-Sun is a \"weekend rental deal\" ? those deals always tend to run cheaper though you should keep an eye out for \"Restrictions Apply\"", "Parents own a location so i know quite a bit the only catch i see to this is having to return the car and get a new one and having to pay again for insurance and having to pay again to fill the gas tank before you return depending on the agency.\n\nAs rp_neo2000 says it is probably a weekend deal for the friday-sunday rental.\n\nI would give you a discount but im not sure of the agency your renting from and my parents havent gotten me added into the system of employee so i can give and recieve employee rates which is around 15 dollars a day" ]

[ 1, -1 ]

[ "How to warm up cold hands/feet I have horrible circulation, so once my hands/feet get cold, they stay cold. Does anyone have any good tips on how to keep them warm or warm them up after they get cold? Gloves only do so much for me as well.", "How to warm up cold hands/feet I have horrible circulation, so once my hands/feet get cold, they stay cold. Does anyone have any good tips on how to keep them warm or warm them up after they get cold? Gloves only do so much for me as well.", "How to warm up cold hands/feet I have horrible circulation, so once my hands/feet get cold, they stay cold. Does anyone have any good tips on how to keep them warm or warm them up after they get cold? Gloves only do so much for me as well.", "How to warm up cold hands/feet I have horrible circulation, so once my hands/feet get cold, they stay cold. Does anyone have any good tips on how to keep them warm or warm them up after they get cold? Gloves only do so much for me as well.", "How to warm up cold hands/feet I have horrible circulation, so once my hands/feet get cold, they stay cold. Does anyone have any good tips on how to keep them warm or warm them up after they get cold? Gloves only do so much for me as well.", "How to warm up cold hands/feet I have horrible circulation, so once my hands/feet get cold, they stay cold. Does anyone have any good tips on how to keep them warm or warm them up after they get cold? Gloves only do so much for me as well.", "How to warm up cold hands/feet I have horrible circulation, so once my hands/feet get cold, they stay cold. Does anyone have any good tips on how to keep them warm or warm them up after they get cold? Gloves only do so much for me as well.", "How to warm up cold hands/feet I have horrible circulation, so once my hands/feet get cold, they stay cold. Does anyone have any good tips on how to keep them warm or warm them up after they get cold? Gloves only do so much for me as well.", "How to warm up cold hands/feet I have horrible circulation, so once my hands/feet get cold, they stay cold. Does anyone have any good tips on how to keep them warm or warm them up after they get cold? Gloves only do so much for me as well.", "How to warm up cold hands/feet I have horrible circulation, so once my hands/feet get cold, they stay cold. Does anyone have any good tips on how to keep them warm or warm them up after they get cold? Gloves only do so much for me as well.", "How to warm up cold hands/feet I have horrible circulation, so once my hands/feet get cold, they stay cold. Does anyone have any good tips on how to keep them warm or warm them up after they get cold? Gloves only do so much for me as well.", "How to warm up cold hands/feet I have horrible circulation, so once my hands/feet get cold, they stay cold. Does anyone have any good tips on how to keep them warm or warm them up after they get cold? Gloves only do so much for me as well." ]

[ "40% of your body heat is lost through your head & neck. Put a beanie on & close your jacket up all the way, and your body will direct that heat towards your extremities since it no longer needs to work as hard to keep your head warm.\n\nWorks every time.", "Plug the sink and turn on water that hurts a little bit at first because it's so hot. Dunk your hands and feet, even though it hurts at first, it feels amazing afterwards.", "I use a lighter to warm my hands betweens games. The same issue happens to me when I play PC games. Plus, you get to fuck around with the flame.", "Being tall and thin, I have a similar problem. Thick socks make a big difference for my feet. I have socks that are like 1/4\" thick and they're awesome. Also, my sister made me hand warmers that are just bags of rice. You throw them in a microwave for like 30 seconds and they stay warm for like 30 minutes. The chemical ones last longer but these are basically reusable forever. Hope this helps a bit", "Thermal socks!!! I have the same problem and I've been using thermal socks, and they have been amazing ;)", "That sounds similar to Reynaud's syndrome. Other things can cause that hand/foot coldness, too.\n\nBiofeedback can help, as it relaxes you enough so that the blood vessels in your extremeties don't constrict. That constriction is what makes your hands/feet cold.", "Not an immediate fix, but try to make sure your diet includes a lot of garlic, ginger, and peppers with high levels of capsaicin. These are all known to help improve circulation, and as it seems you get sufficient exercise, it can't hurt to try a dietary approach!", "Make a cup of tea or boiling water and hold it. For the feet, use an electric blanket, and once they've warmed up some, put on some rewlly thick socks AND warm slippers.", "I wear two pairs of socks in the winter and gloves. It helps tremendously. Also, they make a [re-usable chemical based heating pad](http://www.healthandbodystore.com/wonder-warmers-store.html) in various sizes. you can carry the small ones in your pockets. They work great.", "I suffered from cold hands for many years. Gloves didn't seem to help much. \n\nThen one day I tried wrist socks. You snip the toes off a pair of old socks, stick your hand down the hole and draw them up your arm until the cuff of the sock is at the base of your hand. Your sleeves ride up your arm, but these wrist socks ride down, so together they keep your wrist from getting cold. \n\nNow I don't get cold hands, even when not wearing gloves. ", "I don't know about feet, but clap your hands together as hard as you can. It will sting, but it stimulates blood flow and warms your hands quickly. It also helps if your hands are falling asleep or cramping so I'm told.", "A bizarre and counter-intuitive tip that works for me is to run my feet under cold water for a few seconds before I get into bed, for some reason that has them as warm as baked potatoes in a few minutes. " ]

[ 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to get rid of blue-jean boners? When you sit down in blue jeans it always makes it look like you have a boner. Is there a way to stop this?", "How to get rid of blue-jean boners? When you sit down in blue jeans it always makes it look like you have a boner. Is there a way to stop this?", "How to get rid of blue-jean boners? When you sit down in blue jeans it always makes it look like you have a boner. Is there a way to stop this?", "How to get rid of blue-jean boners? When you sit down in blue jeans it always makes it look like you have a boner. Is there a way to stop this?", "How to get rid of blue-jean boners? When you sit down in blue jeans it always makes it look like you have a boner. Is there a way to stop this?" ]

[ "I push down on my knees to stretch my jeans out, and if you wear a belt make sure to pull the top of the fly(basically where the button is) up above your buckle.\n\n\nHave a good night big guy", "Put googly eyes on it. \n\nOn a serious note, try making certain that you fold your jeans after drying them, and fold them with the crotch in, butt out. Then, fold the butt/crotch part of your jeans in half, then fold the legs over them to store them. Should help. ", "How tall are you?\n\nI'm 6'6\" and my waist is 35\". When I sit, my waist expands, so I need 36\" pants, even though they sag a little when I stand. That's when the jean boner pops out, since the button at the top of the fly hangs lower than my belt. If I wear a snug 34\" pair of jeans, I don't have any problems with phantom boners.\n\nAlso, try getting pants with belt loops close to the buckle- all my jean boners are created when the button at the top of my fly ends up lower than the belt, or behind it.", "Flex your thigh muscles for about 30-45 seconds. It'll divert blood flow and your boner will be gone! But realistically I think you're the only one who is bothered by the fact that you've got a boner. People don't usually care.", "Why is this a big deal? Is it uncomfortable for your penis? If it's not uncomfortable/slightly painful for your penis, get over it. Why do you care if it *looks* like you have an erection?" ]

[ 17, 11, 3, -1, -8 ]

[ "How to become more spontaneous I'm a month out of a five year relationship and am looking to become more spontaneous and fun, mainly for dating. I'm already pretty logical and law school has basically taken what little spontaneity I had. Any tips??\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to become more spontaneous I'm a month out of a five year relationship and am looking to become more spontaneous and fun, mainly for dating. I'm already pretty logical and law school has basically taken what little spontaneity I had. Any tips??\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to become more spontaneous I'm a month out of a five year relationship and am looking to become more spontaneous and fun, mainly for dating. I'm already pretty logical and law school has basically taken what little spontaneity I had. Any tips??\n\nThanks in advance." ]

[ "You could generate random numbers to simulate it. Like carry a half dollar and if flips the same way three times trip to Mexico! ", "Pick a new activity to compete daily. This activity should include leaving your house, and going somewhere you haven't been before", "Don't be immobilized by fear of choosing the wrong thing or making a minor mistake. A lot of people are and that is what kills their spontaneity.\n\nLimit your time to mull over details too. " ]

[ 3, 3, 3 ]

[ "How to deal with a quarter-life crisis? So, about to graduate uni, but I'm really freaking the hell out. I've got the biggest sense of impending doom once I do, because I have no idea how to function as a real adult, or what field I'm going into, or what are my long-term career goals. Everyone around me seems to have figured out what they're gonna do, and I am stressed to shit about it.", "How to deal with a quarter-life crisis? So, about to graduate uni, but I'm really freaking the hell out. I've got the biggest sense of impending doom once I do, because I have no idea how to function as a real adult, or what field I'm going into, or what are my long-term career goals. Everyone around me seems to have figured out what they're gonna do, and I am stressed to shit about it.", "How to deal with a quarter-life crisis? So, about to graduate uni, but I'm really freaking the hell out. I've got the biggest sense of impending doom once I do, because I have no idea how to function as a real adult, or what field I'm going into, or what are my long-term career goals. Everyone around me seems to have figured out what they're gonna do, and I am stressed to shit about it.", "How to deal with a quarter-life crisis? So, about to graduate uni, but I'm really freaking the hell out. I've got the biggest sense of impending doom once I do, because I have no idea how to function as a real adult, or what field I'm going into, or what are my long-term career goals. Everyone around me seems to have figured out what they're gonna do, and I am stressed to shit about it.", "How to deal with a quarter-life crisis? So, about to graduate uni, but I'm really freaking the hell out. I've got the biggest sense of impending doom once I do, because I have no idea how to function as a real adult, or what field I'm going into, or what are my long-term career goals. Everyone around me seems to have figured out what they're gonna do, and I am stressed to shit about it.", "How to deal with a quarter-life crisis? So, about to graduate uni, but I'm really freaking the hell out. I've got the biggest sense of impending doom once I do, because I have no idea how to function as a real adult, or what field I'm going into, or what are my long-term career goals. Everyone around me seems to have figured out what they're gonna do, and I am stressed to shit about it." ]

[ "Just get a *professional* job. It really doesn't matter. Sales is usually the easiest. \n\nYou'll make a bit of cash to pay your bills and figure your shit out.\n\nWhen graduated college I moved to the City I wanted to live in and, looking back at it, I probably could have qualified for food stamps. But I wore a suit, people liked me, and I moved up rather quickly. \n\nIf you spend too much time worrying, you'll end up fucking yourself. Just get a job and treat it as your profession. You can worry about the path later.", "Find a job in a place that you want to live by applying now, BEFORE you have graduated so that you don't have a long period of searching for a job after you finish. Once you have some job opportunities then look up some guides on how to manage your wages and finance on rent and bills etc so that you don't need to worry too much about money :)", "Start applying now, if you have no real idea what you want to do try stopping by your colleges career office. People have written a just stupid number of books on the subject and they can help out a lot in terms of figuring it out and giving you some ideas. If you do have a little bit of a clue stop by the career office anyway so that they can help you with resume (make sure to have it reviewed by a prof, ideally one that has been in the field or worst case scenario any professional adult you know)\n\nGet a linked in account and properly populate it. If you don't have a linkedin in some career fields today you are essentially a ghost. \n\nRegarding the functioning as an adult one of the easiest hurdles here is living with roommates. All the little things you have someone to ask for help on and it just makes living less lonely.\n\nAs for the long term career goals don't worry about them yet. Work for 1-2 years then reevaluate, this isn't like our parents where you will be in the same company or even the same career for 30 years. One of my first interviews out of college I got asked the \"Where do you want to be in 5 years?\" and I answered \"I have no idea as this would be one of my first professional jobs, I haven't had enough time yet to learn my skills, what i am good at and what I am interested in, however in a year I hope to learn enough to be able to answer that question\". Impressed the shit out of my interviewer, he actually told me that answer made him realize how dumb a question it was to ask a 21 year old kid who'd never held a professional job before and any answer other then that was just blowing smoke up your ass. (and yes I did get the job)", "Nobody REALLY knows what they're doing. Most adulting feels like a guessing game. There is no point where everything lines up and stays perfect forever. Don't get down on yourself for feeling unsure, or like you're \"not as good\" because you haven't come up with an ultimate plan. Accept life as being crazy, do the best you can and enjoy the ride. ", "I, f/24, am also graduating very soon and I think I look like I got it all figured out. The secret is though: There is no wrong choice! Do what you have to do to enjoy life.\nThat may sound generic, but it is what calms me. Every step on the way, I create my identity. No regrets, just think about how to proceed.", "I actually became pretty depressed in my third year of post-secondary for a lot of the same reasons. Looking back I think I needed to stop focusing on the long-term.\n\nDon't get me wrong, you should still set goals for your future, but don't focus on the peak of the mountain, just focus on what's 10 feet in front of you. Don't concern yourself with everything that has to happen to get to your end goal, but figure out what you need to do tomorrow to keep moving in that direction. Get whatever job you can so you have money in your pocket to coast, and if you want something better keep applying to whatever jobs you find while you are employed.\n\nAfter being in the work force for a while you'll start to get a feel for what you look for in a job. Although university is a big commitment to a certain direction, nothing needs to be carved in stone at your age. Your long-term goals can change as time goes by." ]

[ 7, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to not get bored running on a treadmill I don't mind running but I hate that I'm pretty much staring at a wall listening to music, just curious to hear what others do to pass the time. PS outside running is out of the question right now, I'm in Minnesota and its too cold for that", "How to not get bored running on a treadmill I don't mind running but I hate that I'm pretty much staring at a wall listening to music, just curious to hear what others do to pass the time. PS outside running is out of the question right now, I'm in Minnesota and its too cold for that", "How to not get bored running on a treadmill I don't mind running but I hate that I'm pretty much staring at a wall listening to music, just curious to hear what others do to pass the time. PS outside running is out of the question right now, I'm in Minnesota and its too cold for that", "How to not get bored running on a treadmill I don't mind running but I hate that I'm pretty much staring at a wall listening to music, just curious to hear what others do to pass the time. PS outside running is out of the question right now, I'm in Minnesota and its too cold for that", "How to not get bored running on a treadmill I don't mind running but I hate that I'm pretty much staring at a wall listening to music, just curious to hear what others do to pass the time. PS outside running is out of the question right now, I'm in Minnesota and its too cold for that", "How to not get bored running on a treadmill I don't mind running but I hate that I'm pretty much staring at a wall listening to music, just curious to hear what others do to pass the time. PS outside running is out of the question right now, I'm in Minnesota and its too cold for that", "How to not get bored running on a treadmill I don't mind running but I hate that I'm pretty much staring at a wall listening to music, just curious to hear what others do to pass the time. PS outside running is out of the question right now, I'm in Minnesota and its too cold for that" ]

[ "I listen to interesting pod casts. I like Stuff You Should Know, and Stuff You Missed In History Class. Interesting and free. ", "Not sure if you're a gamer (or if you're at a gym), but I put my treadmill in a position where I can see my tv. I only let myself game if I'm using the treadmill as well. I can walk for miles while playing fallout, and sometimes it even makes the game more immersive. ", "I prefer to run outside but when I have to run on a treadmill I pretend to play the drums to the song I'm listening to. I don't know why I do this but it just keeps my mind on something else, I've never even played the drums. I've had people try to talk to me and ask me how long I've played the drums and then I have to awkwardly explain to them I don't play. ", "Zombies, Run\n\nIt's a game, hilarious too. Especially after you finish a mission and it switches to radio mode. I would strongly recommend that app. Having to sprint away from zombies is hilarious fun.", "What I usually do sometimes is put the treadmill infront of the tv and play a videogame. After a while you get distracted playing and end up running for a long time. But you could also just watch a show or a movie.", "Just look at all the other people at the gym and secretly narrate their thoughts in your head. Whenever you go back to the gym keep the same people as characters in your story. Start introducing plot twists (eg eliptical lady has been cheating on yoga ball guy for 3 months with eliptical guy). Get invested enough in our story that it will make you want to go back to the gym ", "I prefer to run outside. You get fresh air, sunshine, and you challenge your body more by adapting to different terrains like hills, stairs, and such. Especially in the early mornings, the air feels so clean and rejuvenating! But if I do go on a treadmill, podcasts are awesome! " ]

[ 6, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to deal with pre college worry/anxiety/fear/terror/panic I'm starting college this October, a degree in Mechanical Engineering in the top engineering school in my country. I am freaking terrified. I have spent the last 3.5 years in the army fixing aircraft, and I'm afraid I won't be able to restart my brain and deal with it all. I have this constant sinking feeling that I'm actually a lot less smart than people think I am, and I'm just really good at playing smart.\n\nHelp?", "How to deal with pre college worry/anxiety/fear/terror/panic I'm starting college this October, a degree in Mechanical Engineering in the top engineering school in my country. I am freaking terrified. I have spent the last 3.5 years in the army fixing aircraft, and I'm afraid I won't be able to restart my brain and deal with it all. I have this constant sinking feeling that I'm actually a lot less smart than people think I am, and I'm just really good at playing smart.\n\nHelp?", "How to deal with pre college worry/anxiety/fear/terror/panic I'm starting college this October, a degree in Mechanical Engineering in the top engineering school in my country. I am freaking terrified. I have spent the last 3.5 years in the army fixing aircraft, and I'm afraid I won't be able to restart my brain and deal with it all. I have this constant sinking feeling that I'm actually a lot less smart than people think I am, and I'm just really good at playing smart.\n\nHelp?", "How to deal with pre college worry/anxiety/fear/terror/panic I'm starting college this October, a degree in Mechanical Engineering in the top engineering school in my country. I am freaking terrified. I have spent the last 3.5 years in the army fixing aircraft, and I'm afraid I won't be able to restart my brain and deal with it all. I have this constant sinking feeling that I'm actually a lot less smart than people think I am, and I'm just really good at playing smart.\n\nHelp?" ]

[ "I went back to school after a 5 year enlistment and I was terrified, I admittedly did not go to a top school but a decent college. There is no words to describe the feeling being mid 20's walking into a room of 18 year olds and having them stare at you. Now what I learned after sticking it out for my BS in computer information systems, I was easily one of the top students because I was disciplined enough to pay attention, take notes, study, and know why I was there. So don't be terrified just be confidant in yourself because I was a terrible student in high school but I easily handled a heavy load in college and did very well.", "Someone who pretends to be smart likely wouldn't make it into a top school for their field. Your brain has gotten you this far, so what's to doubt?\n\nYou receive what you work for. If you really want this, push for it. Study, ask for help if you don't understand, and remember that you are worth it as long as you are appreciative of your success.", "it will take you some time to adjust. there might be anxiety / worry at the beginning as you transition. anticipate it, and prepare for it, and you will be fine. it is a mental game.", "Just don't care. What's the worst that can happen? You fail out and end up right where you were again." ]

[ 5, 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to make my ankle socks not slide down the back of my heel I've tried three different brands, and they all suffer from the same problem. As I walk, the back of the sock slowly slips down until it has come off the back of my heel and the sock is now bunched up in my shoe, only covering my toes and part of my foot. Its very uncomfortable, and ends up defeating the purpose of wearing socks.\n\nHas anyone else had this problem, and know how to fix it? (Before anyone asks, yes I'm wearing the right size) I've resorted to wearing longer socks but scrunching them down. It looks dumb, but its more comfortable than having my socks pulled way up, and far more convenient than having to pull my socks back over my heels every time I walk.\n\n", "How to make my ankle socks not slide down the back of my heel I've tried three different brands, and they all suffer from the same problem. As I walk, the back of the sock slowly slips down until it has come off the back of my heel and the sock is now bunched up in my shoe, only covering my toes and part of my foot. Its very uncomfortable, and ends up defeating the purpose of wearing socks.\n\nHas anyone else had this problem, and know how to fix it? (Before anyone asks, yes I'm wearing the right size) I've resorted to wearing longer socks but scrunching them down. It looks dumb, but its more comfortable than having my socks pulled way up, and far more convenient than having to pull my socks back over my heels every time I walk.\n\n", "How to make my ankle socks not slide down the back of my heel I've tried three different brands, and they all suffer from the same problem. As I walk, the back of the sock slowly slips down until it has come off the back of my heel and the sock is now bunched up in my shoe, only covering my toes and part of my foot. Its very uncomfortable, and ends up defeating the purpose of wearing socks.\n\nHas anyone else had this problem, and know how to fix it? (Before anyone asks, yes I'm wearing the right size) I've resorted to wearing longer socks but scrunching them down. It looks dumb, but its more comfortable than having my socks pulled way up, and far more convenient than having to pull my socks back over my heels every time I walk.\n\n" ]

[ "this happens to me with older socks. i've found new balance socks at tjmaxx [set of 12 for 5 bucks] that fit great, and don't slide down.\nalso depends on the type of shoe you're wearing. i remember it happening a lot more when i was wearing my low top chuck taylors ", "Do you have true [ankle socks](http://i.imgur.com/KFygv.jpg) or [low-cut sport socks](http://i.imgur.com/bcTKM.jpg)? Packaging often labels the latter as ankle socks so people are led to assume such socks are ankle socks.", "I have very small feet. \n\nThis happens to me with clog socks (like ankle socks but cut way lower) unless I can find very small socks. The bigger size ends up slipping off. Maybe your socks are too big." ]

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[ "How to heat a small room for free/cheap. I live in a city where it stays about -15C to -25C for the winter season. What are some easy ways to heat a room up? This is a fairly small room. \n\n\nI put blankets on my bed, and a small carpet down already. Changed my bedside lamp from a fluorscent bulb to a small Incandescent. But it still doesn't do anything. My room is probably 3-4 degrees colder then the rest of my house. \n\n\n", "How to heat a small room for free/cheap. I live in a city where it stays about -15C to -25C for the winter season. What are some easy ways to heat a room up? This is a fairly small room. \n\n\nI put blankets on my bed, and a small carpet down already. Changed my bedside lamp from a fluorscent bulb to a small Incandescent. But it still doesn't do anything. My room is probably 3-4 degrees colder then the rest of my house. \n\n\n", "How to heat a small room for free/cheap. I live in a city where it stays about -15C to -25C for the winter season. What are some easy ways to heat a room up? This is a fairly small room. \n\n\nI put blankets on my bed, and a small carpet down already. Changed my bedside lamp from a fluorscent bulb to a small Incandescent. But it still doesn't do anything. My room is probably 3-4 degrees colder then the rest of my house. \n\n\n", "How to heat a small room for free/cheap. I live in a city where it stays about -15C to -25C for the winter season. What are some easy ways to heat a room up? This is a fairly small room. \n\n\nI put blankets on my bed, and a small carpet down already. Changed my bedside lamp from a fluorscent bulb to a small Incandescent. But it still doesn't do anything. My room is probably 3-4 degrees colder then the rest of my house. \n\n\n", "How to heat a small room for free/cheap. I live in a city where it stays about -15C to -25C for the winter season. What are some easy ways to heat a room up? This is a fairly small room. \n\n\nI put blankets on my bed, and a small carpet down already. Changed my bedside lamp from a fluorscent bulb to a small Incandescent. But it still doesn't do anything. My room is probably 3-4 degrees colder then the rest of my house. \n\n\n", "How to heat a small room for free/cheap. I live in a city where it stays about -15C to -25C for the winter season. What are some easy ways to heat a room up? This is a fairly small room. \n\n\nI put blankets on my bed, and a small carpet down already. Changed my bedside lamp from a fluorscent bulb to a small Incandescent. But it still doesn't do anything. My room is probably 3-4 degrees colder then the rest of my house. \n\n\n" ]

[ "http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2492549/Video-reveals-heat-home-using-just-TEALIGHTS-FLOWERPOTS--costs-just-8p-day.html\n\nAnd if you use a scented candle in there your room would smell good to.", "Oil filled radiators are great. The heater warms up the oil, and then turns off, but the oil still radiates heat for a long time.\n\nYou can even find ones with timers that turn off whenever you want.\n\n", "this tea light idea has been debunked. http://skeptics.stackexchange.com/questions/18338/is-this-tealight-flowerpot-heater-more-efficient-than-just-tealights. \nits kind of a long thread but essentially it boils down to- tea lights dont put off more energy simply by putting a flower pot over them and creating convection currents. they put off about 263 Btu/hour of heat. you would need about 26 candles burning at the same time to equal one space heater. ", "Incandecent bulbs are probably not going to help you that much. Why not get a small heater with a temperature control on it?", "If you are in a house and not an apartment for god sakes get a Franklin stove, or fireplace insert. One of those heated my entire house and I cut all my wood for free from trees in our yard. Another tip is to add a humidifier, that makes the ambient temp feel warmer. Cold dry air is \"colder\" than humid air. I sometimes use one of those cheap Vicks steamers, the small electric steam things you put water in and plug in. ", "Candles. Lots and lots of candles. We do this in my house and it reduces the amount we use the heating quite a bit." ]

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[ "How to prevent a panic attack? I have an important presentation tomorrow in front of my principal, my teachers and a few students. The last time I presented something in front of my class I got a panic attack and I'd really like to prevent having one tomorrow. Thanks in advance!\n\n", "How to prevent a panic attack? I have an important presentation tomorrow in front of my principal, my teachers and a few students. The last time I presented something in front of my class I got a panic attack and I'd really like to prevent having one tomorrow. Thanks in advance!\n\n", "How to prevent a panic attack? I have an important presentation tomorrow in front of my principal, my teachers and a few students. The last time I presented something in front of my class I got a panic attack and I'd really like to prevent having one tomorrow. Thanks in advance!\n\n", "How to prevent a panic attack? I have an important presentation tomorrow in front of my principal, my teachers and a few students. The last time I presented something in front of my class I got a panic attack and I'd really like to prevent having one tomorrow. Thanks in advance!\n\n", "How to prevent a panic attack? I have an important presentation tomorrow in front of my principal, my teachers and a few students. The last time I presented something in front of my class I got a panic attack and I'd really like to prevent having one tomorrow. Thanks in advance!\n\n", "How to prevent a panic attack? I have an important presentation tomorrow in front of my principal, my teachers and a few students. The last time I presented something in front of my class I got a panic attack and I'd really like to prevent having one tomorrow. Thanks in advance!\n\n", "How to prevent a panic attack? I have an important presentation tomorrow in front of my principal, my teachers and a few students. The last time I presented something in front of my class I got a panic attack and I'd really like to prevent having one tomorrow. Thanks in advance!\n\n" ]

[ "Jumping jacks before you present, say about 5-10 minutes prior. Raises your heart rate and gets the blood flowing, clears the mind as well.", "I think the first step may be to not ask for advice a day in advance. Often times, procrastinating until the last minute adds stress you may not perceive fully, and that in itself can also add to your attacks. Definitely do some breathing exercises, and before you present, maybe say something to your audience to trick yourself into thinking they are more friendly than they may be. For example, I was presenting my final project in class a couple weeks ago, and instead of nervously trying to begin my presentation, I made a quick joke about my clothes (was supposed to dress formal, forgot to) and when everyone laughed it sort of confirmed for me that they were my equals, not people who would scorn or make fun of me. Your situation is a bit different in that you are presenting to a couple people who seem to you to be \"above\" or \"greater\" than you. That is a fallacy - everyone is equal. No job is important enough to be considered better than someone else and no one person is irreplaceable. Think about giving a presentation like talking to someone you care about so that you have a level of investment without the fear of repercussions.\n\nAs another exercise, it might be useful to imagine all the things that could happen if you mess up your speech and consider just how bad it could be and put it into perspective with the rest of your life. For example, mispronouncing the word \"presentation\" at the start of your presentation might make your principle flip out and expel you from school! What are the odds of that? How is that fear realistic. This suggestion doesn't really translate well over text, but I hope you understand that I'm not saying you should list all your fears to stress you out more :P\n\nGood luck", "Crank up your arrogance and show them who has the biggest dick in the room, even if you are a girl. I'm guessing the op is high school age, with limited experience in speaking before groups. \"Back in my day\", I got used to it just from *doing it* (no, not that *doing it*, by speaking before groups.) Unless your presentation is something highly inflammatory, the audience is going to be on your side - use that.", "Breathe slowly and deeply over and over. \n\nYou know how in cartoons a character who is panicking is given a paper bag to breathe into and inflate? Those deep breaths allow oxygen to get your brain and in turn can help calm you down. When people panic, they tend to take shallow breaths or hold their breath. \n\nGood luck with your presentation.", "Sounds painful, but in the end I have found that practice, over and over again, in front of a mirror then in front of a good friend is best. Its no fun and will make you ill while you practice in real life, but you will feel better for it and it will build your confidence at crunch time. And remember, no matter what, you will get through it, so might as well give it your all then walk away. Everybody gets nervous when they speak in front of others. I have a feeling you are going to kill it. Good luck!", "Something that can also help that you can do before is to do the 4-7-8 breathing technique. It really helps me calm down when I'm nervous/ or mad", "For me, it never went away. I just got comfortable being extremely uncomfortable. Satying in the pocket while having a panic attack isone of the hardest things i do, but you become iron once you master it. Sometimes prevention stops growth as well." ]

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[ "Software/Online Apps to manage tasks, checklists, time, notes, etc. Hi all. Sorry if this is the wrong sub, I just felt it was a universal question for multiple uses I suppose. \n\nI'm looking for a new time/task management software or online application to utilize at work. I've been looking into [Trello](https://trello.com/) a lot and have used it to try and build a custom system with our developer, but feel that there are other, better options out there. I've also used [Toggl](https://toggl.com/) as well, but ultimately would like a combination of the 2 tools together. \n\n* Tracking time AND individual tasks. \n* Adding comments and notes to the task LIVE.\n* Being able to share tasks with team members, but not lose control/ownership of the task in between sharing. (Think like the sharing functions of Google Docs)\n \nDoes anyone have any insight on something like this? Thanks in advance!", "Software/Online Apps to manage tasks, checklists, time, notes, etc. Hi all. Sorry if this is the wrong sub, I just felt it was a universal question for multiple uses I suppose. \n\nI'm looking for a new time/task management software or online application to utilize at work. I've been looking into [Trello](https://trello.com/) a lot and have used it to try and build a custom system with our developer, but feel that there are other, better options out there. I've also used [Toggl](https://toggl.com/) as well, but ultimately would like a combination of the 2 tools together. \n\n* Tracking time AND individual tasks. \n* Adding comments and notes to the task LIVE.\n* Being able to share tasks with team members, but not lose control/ownership of the task in between sharing. (Think like the sharing functions of Google Docs)\n \nDoes anyone have any insight on something like this? Thanks in advance!", "Software/Online Apps to manage tasks, checklists, time, notes, etc. Hi all. Sorry if this is the wrong sub, I just felt it was a universal question for multiple uses I suppose. \n\nI'm looking for a new time/task management software or online application to utilize at work. I've been looking into [Trello](https://trello.com/) a lot and have used it to try and build a custom system with our developer, but feel that there are other, better options out there. I've also used [Toggl](https://toggl.com/) as well, but ultimately would like a combination of the 2 tools together. \n\n* Tracking time AND individual tasks. \n* Adding comments and notes to the task LIVE.\n* Being able to share tasks with team members, but not lose control/ownership of the task in between sharing. (Think like the sharing functions of Google Docs)\n \nDoes anyone have any insight on something like this? Thanks in advance!" ]

[ "ToDoList aka TDL. Its desktop based, free, well supported, and has fantastic functionality and stability. ", "Wunderlist is probably the best bet. I use it daily and it can be very simple and minimalistic or feature packed based on your usage. Also its free. ", "I'd suggest getting stayfocsd from the chromestore ... idk if that's the kind of stuff you are looking for but it is a very good extenstion " ]

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[ "Take better notes at work I could really use an effective note-taking system for work. I work in corporate america where &gt;50% of my day is meetings. My meeting notes are effectively worthless and do a very poor job of jogging my memory or capturing my deliverables during my work periods.\n\nI've reviewed the classroom notes LPTs but, for me, notes for work are a completely different animal. Any assistance on the topic would appreciated!\n", "Take better notes at work I could really use an effective note-taking system for work. I work in corporate america where &gt;50% of my day is meetings. My meeting notes are effectively worthless and do a very poor job of jogging my memory or capturing my deliverables during my work periods.\n\nI've reviewed the classroom notes LPTs but, for me, notes for work are a completely different animal. Any assistance on the topic would appreciated!\n", "Take better notes at work I could really use an effective note-taking system for work. I work in corporate america where &gt;50% of my day is meetings. My meeting notes are effectively worthless and do a very poor job of jogging my memory or capturing my deliverables during my work periods.\n\nI've reviewed the classroom notes LPTs but, for me, notes for work are a completely different animal. Any assistance on the topic would appreciated!\n" ]

[ "During meetings I try to keep every note to a single line if possible.\n\nThen I have a system of symbols that go at the start of a line to let me know important things about that note.\n\nI put an empty checkbox at the start of a note about something I need to do. Then later when I finish that objective I check the box. I can go back through my note book at any time and see if there are any tasks I have forgotten about.\n\nI will put an upside down question mark at the start of a line if there is something I need to find out more about or specifically ask someone who was not at the meeting.\n\nI will put an upside down exclamation point at the start of a note about a good idea that someone had.\n\nIf for some reason I can fit an entire idea on a single line i will indent any additional lines and start those lines with kind of a raised ^L to indicate it belongs with the line above. \n\nThere are a few other symbols I use, but these ones are the most important.", "Good request.\n\nI've moved positions several times in recent years. Whenever I move to a new job I know I'm not going to be at 100% right away, so I try to make sure I don't keep asking the same questions *and* I'm able to bring some immediate value (earn some good will) with my colleagues.\n\nAt the end of meetings I was in I'd sent out the notes I'd taken, and usually got a lot of thanks for it, since everyone else struggles to remember things too.\n\nI created a basic template for myself (yours will vary) that contains the following:\n\n* Who attended the meeting \n* Title and Date of the meeting\n* General notes of the meeting (This structure can vary, but it's good to include names with ideas if someone comes up with a new approach or suggested idea)\n* Follow-up/Actions items: who needs to work on what for the next meeting\n\nGood luck! ", "its important to note that when communicating anything via writing/text its important not only to be understood but you should also aim to make it impossible to misunderstand the message as well. People often get the wrong idea about what you meant when you communicate in writing, even if its to yourself. Include enough detail so that when you come back to it later you can understand what it is you meant. Use extreme/strange/wacky language if it helps." ]

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[ "How to carry on a conversation without causing people to zone out. Because it's not a conversation if one insufferable windbag is sucking all the air out of the room.", "How to carry on a conversation without causing people to zone out. Because it's not a conversation if one insufferable windbag is sucking all the air out of the room.", "How to carry on a conversation without causing people to zone out. Because it's not a conversation if one insufferable windbag is sucking all the air out of the room.", "How to carry on a conversation without causing people to zone out. Because it's not a conversation if one insufferable windbag is sucking all the air out of the room.", "How to carry on a conversation without causing people to zone out. Because it's not a conversation if one insufferable windbag is sucking all the air out of the room." ]

[ "Know when to shut the hell up. \n\nLearn to read body language. \n\nIf someone is crossing their arms, looking around, or backing away from you while you're talking, they're mentally disengaging from you because you're pushing them out. Let other people talk. Everyone's favorite subject is themselves & if you engage with other people & do more listening than talking, you'll engender yourself much more easily. ", "Ask them questions. It's part of something called [active listening](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Active_listening) which will actually have your conversation partner doing the talking. A fantastic side effect will be that if you are at a point where you should be doing the talking, you might have gathered enough information to tailor what you're about to say to the interests of the other party as they have just been talking to you about the questions you've been asking. ", "Take genuine interest in them and what they do. I cannot stress this enough. Put in effort to just ask a couple more questions. Prod just a little deeper. Compliment and encourage. Try and connect with them emotionally - ie., if you both felt the same way about something, it instantly creates a connection. People will see that you care, you are compassionate, etc, and will naturally be drawn to you. And hey, it's awesome just to be able to spread some positivity! :) ", "Ask questions at regular intervals, like have you heard of this, do you like this, what's your opinion, etc, trying to find something the other person can relate to and participate in the convo.", "* Stop repeating yourself\n* Follow a linear narrative\n* Be succinct\n* Use examples and analogies the listener can relate to\n* Include humor\n* Ask questions\n* Listen to what they say and refer back to it" ]

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[ "I know which company sold my phone number to telemarketers. Is there anything that I can do? My wife signed herself and I up to see if we could be prequalified for a mortgage, it's the only thing I've added my number to in years, and it's the only thing she's added her number to for a long time. Suddenly for the past few days since we've been getting 15-20 scam calls a day. There's no way it's a coincidence that right after putting our number on those forms we are both being slammed by scam calls. \nI need to answer my phone to every number due to my job, and no matter how many different ways I ask them to stop calling me, they just hang up.\n\nI've not reached out to the mortgage company yet, but I want to do more than just tell them they've lost my business for doing something sleazy like this", "I know which company sold my phone number to telemarketers. Is there anything that I can do? My wife signed herself and I up to see if we could be prequalified for a mortgage, it's the only thing I've added my number to in years, and it's the only thing she's added her number to for a long time. Suddenly for the past few days since we've been getting 15-20 scam calls a day. There's no way it's a coincidence that right after putting our number on those forms we are both being slammed by scam calls. \nI need to answer my phone to every number due to my job, and no matter how many different ways I ask them to stop calling me, they just hang up.\n\nI've not reached out to the mortgage company yet, but I want to do more than just tell them they've lost my business for doing something sleazy like this", "I know which company sold my phone number to telemarketers. Is there anything that I can do? My wife signed herself and I up to see if we could be prequalified for a mortgage, it's the only thing I've added my number to in years, and it's the only thing she's added her number to for a long time. Suddenly for the past few days since we've been getting 15-20 scam calls a day. There's no way it's a coincidence that right after putting our number on those forms we are both being slammed by scam calls. \nI need to answer my phone to every number due to my job, and no matter how many different ways I ask them to stop calling me, they just hang up.\n\nI've not reached out to the mortgage company yet, but I want to do more than just tell them they've lost my business for doing something sleazy like this" ]

[ "I usually just hit on the callers like hey you have a sexy voice I bet you have a big _____ and so on\n\nAs for the mortgage company I have no idea but I bet a fart bomb in their office would be useful", "That depends. Assuming you are US based you don't have much recourse unless you live in California. Unfortunately you can't do anything to stop them from selling your number. Best thing you can do is to read their privacy policy and see if they mention selling or sharing your number. You can add your number to the do not call list to help prevent some spam calls, but that won't do anything about your information being out there. You can also take a look at all those sleazy people search sites out there and see who all has it at this point. If you want it removed from all of them then be prepared for a lot of work.", "Are the calls from legit companies or from actual scam companies? Are the phone numbers calling very similar you your own phone number?" ]

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[ "How to stick to one idea/goal My mind goes all over the place and changes constantly, I go through ideas in days, sometimes hours. Which obviously means I have trouble sticking to them.\n\nI had an idea I deem good for a personal web-series project, yet I'm already thinking about different things. How do I keep focused?", "How to stick to one idea/goal My mind goes all over the place and changes constantly, I go through ideas in days, sometimes hours. Which obviously means I have trouble sticking to them.\n\nI had an idea I deem good for a personal web-series project, yet I'm already thinking about different things. How do I keep focused?", "How to stick to one idea/goal My mind goes all over the place and changes constantly, I go through ideas in days, sometimes hours. Which obviously means I have trouble sticking to them.\n\nI had an idea I deem good for a personal web-series project, yet I'm already thinking about different things. How do I keep focused?" ]

[ "I found what works is finding 2-3 projects that affect that top level idea. For the web series you mentioned - some projects might be to create content, create the website, research, etc. This way if you get stuck on one part, you can move to another.\n\nOther thing is start on it NOW. Once you have invested some time/effort/money, it's no longer an idea, it's now a project. Makes it a bit easier to focus on.", "Some things that have worked for me:\n\n* Financial commitment. I was debating two different career paths that each required examinations. I could have studied for either exam on my own, but instead I plunked down some of my own cash on a course for one. Spending money now forces you to make up your mind now, and because spending is pretty much always a one-way proposition, it forces you to stick with it.\n\n* Build a social circle around the chosen activity. It's easy to throw away your own investment of hope and time, but it's harder to throw away someone else's.\n\n* Make it \"real\" as early as possible. It's a good idea to set intermediate steps, but if your ultimate goal is to use your web series to achieve yyy, then physically take whatever steps are necessary to make yyy happen.", "I met a serial entrepreneur, and he has this little notebook that he writes good ideas down in. There are over 300 business ideas in his notebook. He does this *all* the time, and has for decades. When his last venture ended he looked through all of those notes, did some serious research and then picked up what his new venture was going to be. As new ideas come he writes them down in his notebook. \n\nSo if you want to stay focused have a place to keep your mental clutter. And when you think about pursuing one do your research to make sure the idea is truly sound. Not just on worth, but also interest and plausibility of completion. Once you get started on that project continue to put new ideas down to keep track of them and ditch your mental clutter.\n\nMy personal way is to break things down and give myself a series of small goals that keep me moving along. And if I lose interest I evaluate why and then the next time such a project comes up I can add it to the \"cool, but probably not\" list." ]

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[ "How to convince my girlfriend the Illuminati doesn't exist. Doesn't matter if the Illuminati is real or not, I just need her to stop asking fucking questions. ", "How to convince my girlfriend the Illuminati doesn't exist. Doesn't matter if the Illuminati is real or not, I just need her to stop asking fucking questions. ", "How to convince my girlfriend the Illuminati doesn't exist. Doesn't matter if the Illuminati is real or not, I just need her to stop asking fucking questions. ", "How to convince my girlfriend the Illuminati doesn't exist. Doesn't matter if the Illuminati is real or not, I just need her to stop asking fucking questions. ", "How to convince my girlfriend the Illuminati doesn't exist. Doesn't matter if the Illuminati is real or not, I just need her to stop asking fucking questions. ", "How to convince my girlfriend the Illuminati doesn't exist. Doesn't matter if the Illuminati is real or not, I just need her to stop asking fucking questions. ", "How to convince my girlfriend the Illuminati doesn't exist. Doesn't matter if the Illuminati is real or not, I just need her to stop asking fucking questions. ", "How to convince my girlfriend the Illuminati doesn't exist. Doesn't matter if the Illuminati is real or not, I just need her to stop asking fucking questions. ", "How to convince my girlfriend the Illuminati doesn't exist. Doesn't matter if the Illuminati is real or not, I just need her to stop asking fucking questions. ", "How to convince my girlfriend the Illuminati doesn't exist. Doesn't matter if the Illuminati is real or not, I just need her to stop asking fucking questions. " ]

[ "Tell her everything is bugged and if you talk about them then they will know, so she had better not talk about it.", "Why do you need her to stop asking questions? What if this innate passion she has to know will someday result in a best selling book? Or what if pondering it brings her some iota of satisfaction? Is your goal really to take that away from her by any means necessary? Have you told her that the subject has grown old for you? Just wondering. ", "Someone whose name won't come to mind right now said that conspiracy theories are a distraction from the things the governments are doing that not only do we know that they are doing, they openly admit to. \n\nWhy spend time on the illuminati when the nsa is far worse. And we, through our elected representatives, have the power to do something about. ", "ahh jaysus, secret organizations exist, they're just way less powerful than the legends imply. They're mostly neckbeards in basements. They're not running the hiphop industry or influencing world powers. There's no reason to worry about them.\n\nSource: Went through someone's estate, found a bunch of olde-tyme printing supplies, lots of plates for Masons, and some other 'secret' organizations, things like membership charts and seals and other insignia. In fact I kept one Mason plate to hang over my bedroom door because it was interesting.", "A person unwilling convinced is a person who remains unconvinced.\n-Some famous person more wise than myself\n\nLogic will lose to emotion without it even knowing there's a fight. ", "You sound like a bad SO, if she is interested in something you should support her and look into it with her. ", "Tell her the Knights Templar destroyed the Illuminati in 1932.\n\nI am not responsible for any follow up questions she might have.", "Can't prove a negative...all you can do is agree to disagree, and ask that the topic be tabled for the foreseeable future.", "Buy her a few good books in the subject, maybe [this](http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0692351310/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1445479835&sr=8-1&pi=SY200_QL40&keywords=illuminati&dpPl=1&dpID=51Te4rrKBhL&ref=plSrch) one. Once she's reading she'll find her own answers and also won't be asking you questions.", "keep asking her why/how. the more you ask \"but why... but why.. but why..\" and the deeper you dig into the conspiracy theory the conversation will inevitably go one of 2 ways....\n\n1. it turns out lizard people and/or aliens and/or shape shifters exist who are bent on world domination\n\n2. some racial motive is revealed.\n\nex: 9/11 was fake!\n\nWhy?\n\nBecause they wanted to control us more and start a war!\n\nWhy?\n\nBecause the illiminati make money on controlling us and by starting wars!\n\nWhy, don't they already have all the money and control?\n\nYes but they want more!\n\nWhy?\n\nBecause they're not human, and they want to enslave us all!\n\n\n\n\n" ]

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[ "Smelly Gym Clothes I work out during work and put my sweaty clothes in my bag then usually wash them that night. Even though they are washed and smell great when dry as soon as I start to sweat in some of the shirts that I guess sat in the bag too long it smells like mildew. How do I get rid of that smell permanently so it is like a new shirt again??", "Smelly Gym Clothes I work out during work and put my sweaty clothes in my bag then usually wash them that night. Even though they are washed and smell great when dry as soon as I start to sweat in some of the shirts that I guess sat in the bag too long it smells like mildew. How do I get rid of that smell permanently so it is like a new shirt again??", "Smelly Gym Clothes I work out during work and put my sweaty clothes in my bag then usually wash them that night. Even though they are washed and smell great when dry as soon as I start to sweat in some of the shirts that I guess sat in the bag too long it smells like mildew. How do I get rid of that smell permanently so it is like a new shirt again??" ]

[ "My mom uses tide sports and swears by it. Personally I just throw in 1/2 cup of vinegar and that works for me. ", "I have experienced this with \"high tech\" wicking fabrics. I use a detergent booster like Clorox II or Arm and Hammer Super Washing Soda (my current selection) and it fixes it.", "How often do you wash the bag? I use mesh bags for my home laundry, and I run the bags through as well. \n\nAnd I add a cup of vinegar to get rid of cat pee on towels, so it should probably cover sweat funk as well. " ]

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[ "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n ", "How to deal with noise complaints from our neighbors? (Please help I'm a little desperate) Okay first of all we live in a rather dilapidated apartment with carpet floors. We have been living here for nearly 7 years with only one noise complaint from the apartment next to us (they banged on the walls and eventually came over albeit only once) and for years we haven't gotten a complaint. \n\n\nAbout seven or eight months ago we had downstairs neighbors move in the first day they came upstairs to complain. They've since had a baby and the father continues to come upstairs to complain and bangs the door rather frequently. My mom has yelled at him to stop banging on our door and sometimes I just don't answer the door.\n\nHe's now cursed out my father out twice and threatened to call the cops. He said things like \"You've been living here for thirteen years, get a house!\" and \"Go back to Africa! We belong here, y'all got a green card!\" (we're poor immigrants) and \"Imma fuck you up if you keep waking up my damn son.\"\n\nI won't lie, he's got a point. There are five kids in this home including a hyperactive, developmentally delayed eight year old boy and a six year old girl. They both have tantrums and in the case of my brother they can be frequent, violent, and loud. They play around and jump a lot and don't really recognize the heaviness of their steps. My brother demands that we just \"forget about the neighbors\" when we try to explain things to him. My parents work a lot in the day and taking them outside is both exhausting (they split in two different directions on a large parking lot so if I end up chasing one I can't find the other meanwhile there are cars moving around) and my brothers tantrums takes the fun out of sharing bikes.... \n\nAnd as for me, I'm a sixteen year old introvert. I'm usually in my head a lot and usually walk around the apartment to speak out what's in my head. I can do this for hours depending on what I'm thinking about. ~~I swear I'm not crazy, please don't think that.~~ It's not something I can easily stop (it's a habit I've developed over the years) so I've been trying to confine it to a few rooms. It really doesn't help that I have a heavy heel first gait. \n\nPlease give me some advice. I feel like both a crappy neighbor and a victim. I don't want my father to get in trouble but I also want to walk in my apartment. Do redditors have any tips? \n\n " ]

[ "You're 16 and that's an incredible amount of responsibility for someone so young. It's unfortunate you have to deal with that. Firstly, I'd look for local non profit agencies who deal with the developmentally disabled and seek help from them. They might have programs for your siblings, or, at the least, information on how to cope with them. I'd also go to the library and get books about their issues and how to handle tantrums, etc. This shouldn't be you problem, but it is, so you have to do what you can or nothing will change. ", "Start keeping a journal of every interaction you have with him. Write down the dates and the times and what he said. Also what was going on in the apartment at the time. It's not admissible in court, but it will serve to show a pattern of abuse... especially if it correlates with police reports.\n\nTell him that you'd rather he send all noise complaints to the landlord or the police, rather than coming up and screaming at you and insulting you and your family.", "It sounds like your family would be better off in a ground floor apartment. I know that doesn't really help, wish I had a better idea. ", "You don't. You're 16. You're a minor. Even if you had a brilliant idea, there's nothing you can do, unfortunately. The really sad thing here is that you have been raised to think this is your responsibility - it's not. You are not supposed to have to worry about this type of stuff at your age. Your parents should be addressing/dealing with this. That being said... the best way to handle this is to put yourself first. I mean this is a kind, gentle way. Get good grades, get scholarships, get the heck out of there. If you absolutely feel the need to help out your family, they will be much better served if you are in a position to help, i.e. with time, stability, money, etc. when helping them is not putting yourself in jeopardy. Head down, get through the next two years and keep your eye on the prize. \n\nAlso, I do not mean to sound condescending. I say all of this because I speak from experience. You sound like a very smart, mature woman and I would hate for you not to be able to start your own life because you felt the need to stay back and take care of them. ", "Maybe you could look up quiet kid's activities online. There's plenty of little games and such you can try to keep them down. It won't be quiet, just less noisy in your case. Stuff like coloring books and baloon volley (just keep a baloon not touching the floor) can be fun and somewhat quiet.\n\nConsider keeping these activities for when the neighbours are home and tire out the kids with jumpy stuff when they are out. And try hard to tire them, kids can be resilient :)\n\nIf the neighbour in question is reasonable when he's not pissed, try reaching out to him as in \"dude, I'm sorry, I know the house is noisy but I'm kinda stuck on what to do. Ideas?\" or try to reach out to the baby's mother\n\nIf the kids can sit through a movie, save it for \"emergencies\" when your neighbours would need some sleep. You seem like a considerate guy :)\n\nOtherwise just keep a record of your interactions (consider taping verbal abuse/assault, dunno the word) and call the police when you see fit (dude threatens you or the kids,). There's not much you can do", "Call the police about their threats and violent nature, harassment is a crime. Don't just do nothing. Doing nothing helps no one.", "Your sixteen, your not a adult, thus there is nothing you can do to resolve the problem yourself.\n\nAll you can do is point out the structural problems and the behavioral problems with the other children involved, suggest to your parents to move the family to either a separate unit where the noise can't travel and bother others, or a location with solid concrete walls and floors.\n\nYour family is the problem, a wooden structure building requires extra special attention paid to not annoy the other tenants. Kids with learning disabilities are not trainable to be quiet and respect the noise, therefore the family needs to move.\n\nI ran a five unit wooden structure building so I know about the problems involved and it took a lot of schooling the adult tenants to be respectful of others.\n\n", "Go to the carpet store and buy some cheap reminents to use as room sized rugs. If that's too expensive find some used carpet and do the same. Don't worry about installation. Just cut it to size and lay it over what's there now. This will give you three levels of insulation to cushion your steps and dampen the noise that comes from kids being kids.\n\n", "Replace all bulbs in your house with red bulbs. Light a few candles. Dress up like a dark wizard from Harry Potter or Lord of the Rings. Nice and scary. Make sure your costume includes a hood that hides your face in shadow. Putting a black stocking over your head under the hood works great at making the hood look like shadow. You can make an excellent wizard staff with an old tree branch and a rodent skull. If a rodent skull is unavailable, you can set a \"gemstone\" from a candy ring pop into the top of the stick. Make some noise. When said neighbor pounds on the door, open it in your new costume with your staff in hand. In your best whiskey voice ask \"Has the Dark Lord sent you?\" When they run away to go call the cops, return everything to normal as quickly as you can. When the cops show up, roll your eyes and tell them the guy downstairs must be off his meds again. Your neighbors will leave you in peace for all eternity, and the cops will assume he's nuts next time he calls.\n\nNormally, I would suggest trying to come to a compromise with your neighbors, but in your case, your neighbor is a Racist Asshole. The only thing you can do is use them for personal entertainment.\n\n", "It sounds like neither the downstairs father, nor your parents, are behaving in any way like reasonable rational adults, so you're going to have to go around them. What is the wife of the downstairs neighbor like? If she is in any way reasonable perhaps you can try explaining the situation to her and she can work on pacifying the husband while you try to keep your siblings under control as much as you can. ", "Be respectful. But he has no right to start crap. If you feel like he is getting ridiculous tell him that you feel threatened, and that you will call the cops.", "i lived above a neighbor like this and my landlord even came to talk to me about it... he knew when i moved in i had 4 kids that stayed weekends and during school breaks and it was okay for a couple years until this lady moved in underneath me.\n\ni told him its not my fault that the lady downstairs sleeps on her couch in the living area, right below my living area but if he wanted to refund my deposit immediately i would start looking for a new place.\n\ni dont know how he smoothed it over with her but i never heard anything else from either of them.\n\ni would just ignore them if i was you.", "Try walking-out your thought process outside, with the most wound up sibling - but make it a challenge with a clear goal & reward for your company. The reward doesn't have to be tangible, it can be as simple as \"I bet you can't beat [name]'s [time, distance, whatever]. Make it a game (I bet you can't find 3 squirrels).. The idea is to get their mind focused on the challenge, - the walk is to exercise them and make them tired - unbeknownst to them. Walking-Out your thoughts outside is a minor adjustment to 'your thing' - add a pair of headphones, even if they aren't plugged in - just stuff the cord in your pocket. People will think you're rehearsing something (who cares what they think, anyway).\n\nAnother option is to talk to your neighbor about the situation, and to try to mitigate some of the problem - perhaps try to work it out so that you have an area that's mutual 'quite space' - meaning your rowdy siblings cut up in one room that is on the opposite end of the apartment from an area where he would have the baby, especially during specific time frames. He can't realistically expect zero noise from neighbors, but establishing a quiet time isn't unreasonable either.\n", "Tell your neighbor to play white noise in his kid's room. That will drown out noises from upstairs, and can actually be really comforting to babies. All he needs is a radio with an analog tuner. Set it to a frequency where no station is broadcasting, and there's free, endless static. If you want extra kindness and neighborliness points, go to a garage sale or Salvation Army and buy him an old clock radio for $4. ", "Put some 5cm thick EPS (cheap, low pressure and not water resistant) or XPS (little more expensive, high pressure and waterproof) isolation plates below your carpet. This will be an major improvement for your floors noise resistance and is the easiest/cheapest solution I can think of for your situation. This doesn't directly mean you need to cover the whole floor, but at least above where the baby sleeps and/or where your brother and sister jump and play..\n\nI dont know in what country you're living, but in my country we use EPS in almost every normal building construction. Maybe you, your family or even your neighbor knows someone in the construction who can order a little extra for a low price. Or you can get some leftovers from a construction site if you just ask politely and explain your situation. As far as I can read your family is the source of the noise (problem), so in fact your family should do something about it. Even when your neighbor is a dick and doesn't even want to help to find a solution together. At least try to talk with him and that you (your family) want to solve the problem. Maybe he can even help with it. Its better to have a good neighbor than have a far friend also.", "I'm surprised I didn't wear a ditch in the floor I paced so much at your age.\n\nGenerally speaking I'd say the easiest place to start might be with tantrums. That's got to be annoying for everyone not just your neighbors. I don't have specific advice on that but there is plenty around for it.\n\nI'd recommend finding out where the neighbor's baby sleeps so you can try to mitigate noise in that area as well as showing them you're doing something. If you wear shoes in the house stopping that would help a lot. Have the kids play more on carpet and maybe even try putting a quilt or blanket down.\n\nKeep in mind this is a hard time in their lives too, I'm sure if you met under different circumstances they wouldn't be so rude. Still I'd let him know as best as possible that you are trying to resolve the issue and that getting mad and yelling isn't going to help. He certainly isn't setting a good example for his kid.", "First, understand that your city will have ordinances on what constitutes reasonable noise. Look them up on the city's website and read them. This will tell you whether or not you are legally in the right or wrong— because that is all that matters.\n\nIt sounds like you and your family are pretty loud in general, but you're worried about things you shouldn't be. Who cares if you walk around? Etc...\n\nThe main issue is that there should be no tenant to tenant interaction if it is hostile. He should not be banging on your door. Period. All complaints should be resolved from tenant to landlord or tenant to police. Direct contact is just bad, especially with a tenant who sounds like a racist xenophobe with anger management problems.\n\nWhat your neighbor is doing constitutes harassment, if not worse. Assault can be verbal depending on the words he's using.\n\nAs others have said, keep a log of when he does things and then call the landlord or police when it escalates to a certain threshold. This will establish the pattern of behavior for 3rd parties should a higher level incident occur, and it may even be grounds for the other tenants eventual eviction, arrest, etc...\n\nNow, just because you're in the right, doesn't mean you shouldn't work to influence others behaviors. You're not going to solve the developmental problem of your sibling, but you might be able to get people to stop yelling as much. As a general approach, rather than telling people to change or go see a psychiatrist or similar, try and get them to change their behavior by seeing the benefits of what different behavior would do.\n\nYelling is common in poorer segments of the US, but it generally is seen as an indication of a lack of education and ability to communicate ones feelings to another human being in a more disciplined and effective fashion. This affects how one is treated by everyone else in society and there will probably be indirect benefits to your family from adopting behavioral standards of a higher socio-economic class.\n\nSo maybe, instead, you point out how much they yell or hit and point out it doesn't work. It's not that it's bad that they do it, or they should stop doing x because you or the neighbors want them to. They should try something different so they're not wasting their time, try something different so they don't get tired, or have to keep doing it.\n\nThat's a suggestion, but it is a shitty situation.", "**Why didn't he buy a house instead of moving into an apartment below a family of small children? That's his bad.** Call the manager and complain that he is harassing your family. Hate crime is against the law. Being a noisy neighbor is not. No amount of carpet is going to help. He'll find an excuse to come bang on your door. You'd better tell your parents to bring it up with the managers that you're family is being bullied. (", "you were there before them, they've got to move out if they're upset by the neighbors.\n\nsimple as that." ]

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[ "carrying a couch for 15 minutes through the woods Me and some friends building a cabin this summer and want to bring a couch or two to it. Want to see if anyone has any smart ways to make this transportation easier before we just go for brute force. There is a fairly beaten down trail but no way a car or truck will be able to make it through the woods.\n\nPlease don't recommend fancy portable couches, we're just gonna buy one on marketplace", "carrying a couch for 15 minutes through the woods Me and some friends building a cabin this summer and want to bring a couch or two to it. Want to see if anyone has any smart ways to make this transportation easier before we just go for brute force. There is a fairly beaten down trail but no way a car or truck will be able to make it through the woods.\n\nPlease don't recommend fancy portable couches, we're just gonna buy one on marketplace", "carrying a couch for 15 minutes through the woods Me and some friends building a cabin this summer and want to bring a couch or two to it. Want to see if anyone has any smart ways to make this transportation easier before we just go for brute force. There is a fairly beaten down trail but no way a car or truck will be able to make it through the woods.\n\nPlease don't recommend fancy portable couches, we're just gonna buy one on marketplace", "carrying a couch for 15 minutes through the woods Me and some friends building a cabin this summer and want to bring a couch or two to it. Want to see if anyone has any smart ways to make this transportation easier before we just go for brute force. There is a fairly beaten down trail but no way a car or truck will be able to make it through the woods.\n\nPlease don't recommend fancy portable couches, we're just gonna buy one on marketplace", "carrying a couch for 15 minutes through the woods Me and some friends building a cabin this summer and want to bring a couch or two to it. Want to see if anyone has any smart ways to make this transportation easier before we just go for brute force. There is a fairly beaten down trail but no way a car or truck will be able to make it through the woods.\n\nPlease don't recommend fancy portable couches, we're just gonna buy one on marketplace", "carrying a couch for 15 minutes through the woods Me and some friends building a cabin this summer and want to bring a couch or two to it. Want to see if anyone has any smart ways to make this transportation easier before we just go for brute force. There is a fairly beaten down trail but no way a car or truck will be able to make it through the woods.\n\nPlease don't recommend fancy portable couches, we're just gonna buy one on marketplace", "carrying a couch for 15 minutes through the woods Me and some friends building a cabin this summer and want to bring a couch or two to it. Want to see if anyone has any smart ways to make this transportation easier before we just go for brute force. There is a fairly beaten down trail but no way a car or truck will be able to make it through the woods.\n\nPlease don't recommend fancy portable couches, we're just gonna buy one on marketplace", "carrying a couch for 15 minutes through the woods Me and some friends building a cabin this summer and want to bring a couch or two to it. Want to see if anyone has any smart ways to make this transportation easier before we just go for brute force. There is a fairly beaten down trail but no way a car or truck will be able to make it through the woods.\n\nPlease don't recommend fancy portable couches, we're just gonna buy one on marketplace" ]

[ "Kinda lame but I’m sure those carrying straps that moving places sell would benefit you a lot. At least you wouldn’t have to maintain a grip on the couch the whole time", "If you have three large tubes you can roll the couch on them and rotate the tubes to keep going forward.", "Create a hammock with a heavy tarp and two strong bamboo poles. Use 4 guys, one on each end of the pole. And put the hammock in the sling.", "Rent a tractor or a lift for use in raising the cabin and bring the couches in that day. \n\nRope and truck bed liner as a sled might work - dudes pull moose out of the woods on these. A heavy duty tarp and some twine is a less effective version of the former - maybe the couch on top of a mattress on top of the tarp for this?\n\nBy hand then wear a tank to the mall and let all the hussies see your swole forearms.", "Two 2x4s going under each end of the couch so it’s like you’re carrying an emperors chair. Did this a couple of times with 20’ long I beams and 7 friends 2 miles into the woods, worked pretty good (didn’t use 2x4s.. but same idea)", "Rent from uhaul or borrow, a dolly. Turn the couch vertical and strap it. One person pulls/pushes, the other just supports for balance. If going uphill pulling is easier.", "Place the couch on a large heavy duty tarpolin and just pull it along the ground. It won't damage the couch and will slide super easy especially if there are three of you pulling it", "Make a sled. Literally a pallet and some 2x4 is all you need. Then hook it to some rope and pull. 2 or so men can get the job done. Better yet if you can craft a small cart it will make it a one man job to pull." ]

[ 11, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How can I make myself look older I'm 22 years old, almost graduated college and a nurse just thought I was ~15. This has been going on for years now and it's an inconvenience. I can't grow a beard or anything like that, but any other advice is more than welcome.", "How can I make myself look older I'm 22 years old, almost graduated college and a nurse just thought I was ~15. This has been going on for years now and it's an inconvenience. I can't grow a beard or anything like that, but any other advice is more than welcome.", "How can I make myself look older I'm 22 years old, almost graduated college and a nurse just thought I was ~15. This has been going on for years now and it's an inconvenience. I can't grow a beard or anything like that, but any other advice is more than welcome.", "How can I make myself look older I'm 22 years old, almost graduated college and a nurse just thought I was ~15. This has been going on for years now and it's an inconvenience. I can't grow a beard or anything like that, but any other advice is more than welcome." ]

[ "This is all terrible advice but drink a lot, smoke a lot, and try to sleep as little as possible. These are some proven ways but I really don't recommend any of them. I've always struggled with getting adequate sleep and am currently going through a rough patch with booze. All I can say is a lack of sleep makes you look all around worse and not older and the booze has just bloated out my face. Don't recommend either.", "Wait time and life is a cruel hard thing that will make you look older eventually.. on the bright side keep the baby face and you will eventually be the young looking guy at the nursing home..", "Makeup does it for me, I am a girl though. For guys, I do not know, buy a very conservative newspaper, a monocle and start smoking pipe?", "I hate to ask this, but are you sure it's your looks and not your dress or manner ? It might be people think you're 15 because you dress, act or talk like a teenager." ]

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[ "What to Look for in Bars I plan on going out by myself (not family courtesy) this weekend for the first time.\n\nI've been inside an anime themed bar with a dance floor and loud music, a traditional bar with loud music, two bars with outdoor areas, and at least one traditional bar, but because I was with family at the time, I never really could appreciate any of the features.\n\nWhat should I look for in a bar? In addition, what should I look for in a bar that I should stay away from?\n\nFollow up: The consensus seems to be to do a large tour of as many bars as I can to figure out what I prefer. However, covering the entire breadth of bars can turn into a chore when there is a bar nearly around every corner, including instances of several bars packed together and several neighborhoods to explore. Therefore, to go further, it's worth learning how best to go about exploring a particular neighborhood, and choosing one to explore.", "What to Look for in Bars I plan on going out by myself (not family courtesy) this weekend for the first time.\n\nI've been inside an anime themed bar with a dance floor and loud music, a traditional bar with loud music, two bars with outdoor areas, and at least one traditional bar, but because I was with family at the time, I never really could appreciate any of the features.\n\nWhat should I look for in a bar? In addition, what should I look for in a bar that I should stay away from?\n\nFollow up: The consensus seems to be to do a large tour of as many bars as I can to figure out what I prefer. However, covering the entire breadth of bars can turn into a chore when there is a bar nearly around every corner, including instances of several bars packed together and several neighborhoods to explore. Therefore, to go further, it's worth learning how best to go about exploring a particular neighborhood, and choosing one to explore.", "What to Look for in Bars I plan on going out by myself (not family courtesy) this weekend for the first time.\n\nI've been inside an anime themed bar with a dance floor and loud music, a traditional bar with loud music, two bars with outdoor areas, and at least one traditional bar, but because I was with family at the time, I never really could appreciate any of the features.\n\nWhat should I look for in a bar? In addition, what should I look for in a bar that I should stay away from?\n\nFollow up: The consensus seems to be to do a large tour of as many bars as I can to figure out what I prefer. However, covering the entire breadth of bars can turn into a chore when there is a bar nearly around every corner, including instances of several bars packed together and several neighborhoods to explore. Therefore, to go further, it's worth learning how best to go about exploring a particular neighborhood, and choosing one to explore.", "What to Look for in Bars I plan on going out by myself (not family courtesy) this weekend for the first time.\n\nI've been inside an anime themed bar with a dance floor and loud music, a traditional bar with loud music, two bars with outdoor areas, and at least one traditional bar, but because I was with family at the time, I never really could appreciate any of the features.\n\nWhat should I look for in a bar? In addition, what should I look for in a bar that I should stay away from?\n\nFollow up: The consensus seems to be to do a large tour of as many bars as I can to figure out what I prefer. However, covering the entire breadth of bars can turn into a chore when there is a bar nearly around every corner, including instances of several bars packed together and several neighborhoods to explore. Therefore, to go further, it's worth learning how best to go about exploring a particular neighborhood, and choosing one to explore.", "What to Look for in Bars I plan on going out by myself (not family courtesy) this weekend for the first time.\n\nI've been inside an anime themed bar with a dance floor and loud music, a traditional bar with loud music, two bars with outdoor areas, and at least one traditional bar, but because I was with family at the time, I never really could appreciate any of the features.\n\nWhat should I look for in a bar? In addition, what should I look for in a bar that I should stay away from?\n\nFollow up: The consensus seems to be to do a large tour of as many bars as I can to figure out what I prefer. However, covering the entire breadth of bars can turn into a chore when there is a bar nearly around every corner, including instances of several bars packed together and several neighborhoods to explore. Therefore, to go further, it's worth learning how best to go about exploring a particular neighborhood, and choosing one to explore.", "What to Look for in Bars I plan on going out by myself (not family courtesy) this weekend for the first time.\n\nI've been inside an anime themed bar with a dance floor and loud music, a traditional bar with loud music, two bars with outdoor areas, and at least one traditional bar, but because I was with family at the time, I never really could appreciate any of the features.\n\nWhat should I look for in a bar? In addition, what should I look for in a bar that I should stay away from?\n\nFollow up: The consensus seems to be to do a large tour of as many bars as I can to figure out what I prefer. However, covering the entire breadth of bars can turn into a chore when there is a bar nearly around every corner, including instances of several bars packed together and several neighborhoods to explore. Therefore, to go further, it's worth learning how best to go about exploring a particular neighborhood, and choosing one to explore.", "What to Look for in Bars I plan on going out by myself (not family courtesy) this weekend for the first time.\n\nI've been inside an anime themed bar with a dance floor and loud music, a traditional bar with loud music, two bars with outdoor areas, and at least one traditional bar, but because I was with family at the time, I never really could appreciate any of the features.\n\nWhat should I look for in a bar? In addition, what should I look for in a bar that I should stay away from?\n\nFollow up: The consensus seems to be to do a large tour of as many bars as I can to figure out what I prefer. However, covering the entire breadth of bars can turn into a chore when there is a bar nearly around every corner, including instances of several bars packed together and several neighborhoods to explore. Therefore, to go further, it's worth learning how best to go about exploring a particular neighborhood, and choosing one to explore.", "What to Look for in Bars I plan on going out by myself (not family courtesy) this weekend for the first time.\n\nI've been inside an anime themed bar with a dance floor and loud music, a traditional bar with loud music, two bars with outdoor areas, and at least one traditional bar, but because I was with family at the time, I never really could appreciate any of the features.\n\nWhat should I look for in a bar? In addition, what should I look for in a bar that I should stay away from?\n\nFollow up: The consensus seems to be to do a large tour of as many bars as I can to figure out what I prefer. However, covering the entire breadth of bars can turn into a chore when there is a bar nearly around every corner, including instances of several bars packed together and several neighborhoods to explore. Therefore, to go further, it's worth learning how best to go about exploring a particular neighborhood, and choosing one to explore." ]

[ "Do they sell booze?\n\nDone. You've found a bar.\n\nIs there visible blood splatter on the floor?\n\nIf yes, try not to piss off angry looking dudes, If no, try not to piss off angry looking dudes.\n\nAre two guys making out?\nIf yes, its a gay bar. Alternately, is nascar on the tv? if yes, probably not a gay bar.\n\nGlad i could help.", "As someone who works at a bar, and drinks here's some tips:\nThe bartender is the central hub in a bar. If they are knowledgeable about their drinks, patrons, and services its a good start. Get in good with the tender. Throw down a small tip when you order your first drink. This will quicken the process. Here's where you really test the bar. Order the most complicated drink that you know and enjoy. If its good, not weak, looks, smells, tastes right, so far so good. Talk to your tender if they aren't to busy. Ask about the people, the regulars, the bar, whatever, but don't be annoying, their time is precious. Talk to the regulars if you can, they hold some of the best insight. They know what's up. \n\nMake sure you're okay with the decorum, drink choices, happy hour prices as well as when happy hour is and regular prices.\n\nIf they have food, inspect it thoroughly. Cleanliness in the kitchen is important.\n\nIf all of this checks out, great. You just found a bar to become a regular at. If not, move on.", "Try and go to some different ones, find what type of bar you like. Use that as a basis for finding specific bars you like. There are so many kinds of bars out there that this method should help you to narrow it down a little bit. Also many bars have an age demographic/range, keep that in mind as going to bars with people around your own age is a good starting point.", "If the word 'Rusty' is in the name, you've found your place (ex. The Rusty Hook, The Rusty Nail, The Rusty Screw, Rusty Hammer, Rusty Hangar, Rusty Bottle). ", "Kind of a hard question to answer. It really all just depends on what you like.\n\nDo you like loud music and dancing? You're going to want something with more of a club atmosphere.\nDo you like pool, a jukebox, and being able to just sit at the bar itself and perhaps have a conversation? You're going to want more a dive-y bar.\n\nI spend a good deal of my life in bars. I find that I absolutely cannot stand the ones that have those punching bag machines. Automatic douche attraction. On the same note, most bars that play Journey, with 19-22 year old girls singing along at the top of their lungs are also pretty douchey.\nThis is all preference of course. \n\nI enjoy bars with a mix of dancing and talking. And generally with good drink specials. I'll actually go to some pretty terrible places where I have everyone and everything happening in it if the drink special is awesome enough.", "I would say lighting. I go out by myself as well, and I really enjoy it. Great time. That said, I like bars with dim lighting. It makes for a relaxed mood and I find striking conversation with women is easier (talking to other gents is what it is).", "Ask yourself these questions\"\nIs there beer on tap? (Happens so often)\nAre there people who are interesting? (Better conversation)\nIs there a bartender that isn't a slut, preferably ugly? (Better drinks)\nIs the music not too loud? (Headaches + booze = bad time)\nHope this helps :3", "A way out. Bar's are generally filled with intoxicated, loud and obnoxious people. Been there, done that." ]

[ 22, 5, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to get better at small talk I have many friends who can just go on and on with people. I've been around them and I still don't see how they keep conversations going. Whenever I'm in that situation I do well for about 2 minutes, then it starts to lull. Any tips would be greatly appreciated!", "How to get better at small talk I have many friends who can just go on and on with people. I've been around them and I still don't see how they keep conversations going. Whenever I'm in that situation I do well for about 2 minutes, then it starts to lull. Any tips would be greatly appreciated!", "How to get better at small talk I have many friends who can just go on and on with people. I've been around them and I still don't see how they keep conversations going. Whenever I'm in that situation I do well for about 2 minutes, then it starts to lull. Any tips would be greatly appreciated!", "How to get better at small talk I have many friends who can just go on and on with people. I've been around them and I still don't see how they keep conversations going. Whenever I'm in that situation I do well for about 2 minutes, then it starts to lull. Any tips would be greatly appreciated!", "How to get better at small talk I have many friends who can just go on and on with people. I've been around them and I still don't see how they keep conversations going. Whenever I'm in that situation I do well for about 2 minutes, then it starts to lull. Any tips would be greatly appreciated!" ]

[ "simply remember the FORD formula:\n\n* F family\n* O occupation\n* R recreation\n* D dreams\n\n\nits pretty easy to remember and once you have that you should always be able to come up with at least 4 and i really mean at least 4 questions, the possibilites are endless. \n\nOne other thing I also like to do is to join in on conversations, that are about something that interests me, however keep in mind there is a fine line there between joining in and walzing in there and interupting the fuck out of a convo, so they might be talking about scuba diving in thailand, and you just happened to have been there scuba diving a few years back, rather than going I DID THAT AS WELL! which will result in weird stares and a stale mate of conversation. You might approach it by, have you been scuba diving at Island XYZ? this forces people to answer, breaking the initial silence, which then leads to follow on questions, if they have, great you can talk about how amazing it was, if they havent, they will likely ask questions such as where it is, how it was, all of those questions you can then ask back about their location.\n\none final tip is to try and early on in the conversation, introduce yourself and repeat the name of the person you are talking to after they introduce themselves, not only will this make the conversation sound more familiar but it will also help you remember the name, and you can start a conversation again later on in the evening. hope that helps.", "Short answer:\n\nAsk yourself \"what do I wish this person would ask me about myself right now?\" And ask them that. ", "This might sound silly but I feel like tv is a good subject. Most people watch it, and even if you have nothing in common with them, if you both watch the same show you have something to talk about.", "I am glad to see there is a lot about introverts in the media lately because there is a difference between being introverted and being shy. While you certainly can take the \"fake it til you make it\" approach, over the years I've taken the approach on how to be a better listener.\n\nThis approach takes longer, but I have found that I have been able to form some real & solid relationships with people. If you're looking for how to have a good time at a party, then sure, developing small talk skills is a useful thing. But for the long haul, see if you can take a class or a course in active listening.\n\nI worked for a few months at a telephone crisis center. Before I could pick up my first call, I took 40 hours of active listening. I learned skills I have used for almost 20 years.", "I mostly only use small talk with men and I just ask them what they do. Since it's almost always an engineer, I'll repeat what he said back to me in layman's terms and have him correct me if I'm wrong. Most of them don't know how to talk to women and are really good at talking about work. Smile, nod, and actually try to learn what they are offering to teach you. \n\nThis works well with hobbies too. Whether it's a 25 y/o guy explaining a raid and tactics or a 5 y/o explaining the importance of a charizard card, just listen to them without waiting for your turn to talk. When it's your turn to talk, use it to ask another question about the other person. The stereotype is that women love talking but the truth is, most people want to talk and they want someone to be interested in them. I find that with men in particular, they're quite proud when they can teach you something and they're practically putty if a pretty girl expresses her genuine gratitude for it. \n\nAlso, be attractive. It's just much easier. If you can't, work on having a warm smile. " ]

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[ "Need advice for purchasing a car Hello folks, I am close to getting a vehicle looking! I am looking to purchase my first car, most likely from Craigslist (I had a family member purchase one when I was 18 from a small auto shop and they got a really shitty deal). I know there is a process to be careful with for the pink slip and assorted things to check for during the test drive when purchasing from another individual, but I don't know what exactly I should be looking for or cautious of...\n\nAny advice so I don't get screwed over?", "Need advice for purchasing a car Hello folks, I am close to getting a vehicle looking! I am looking to purchase my first car, most likely from Craigslist (I had a family member purchase one when I was 18 from a small auto shop and they got a really shitty deal). I know there is a process to be careful with for the pink slip and assorted things to check for during the test drive when purchasing from another individual, but I don't know what exactly I should be looking for or cautious of...\n\nAny advice so I don't get screwed over?", "Need advice for purchasing a car Hello folks, I am close to getting a vehicle looking! I am looking to purchase my first car, most likely from Craigslist (I had a family member purchase one when I was 18 from a small auto shop and they got a really shitty deal). I know there is a process to be careful with for the pink slip and assorted things to check for during the test drive when purchasing from another individual, but I don't know what exactly I should be looking for or cautious of...\n\nAny advice so I don't get screwed over?" ]

[ "Have a mechanic look at it if you can (before purchasing). Take it for a test drive. If you can find someone who has all the service records that will probably be your best bet. Ask when the oil was last changed and tires rotated. Also check the tire wear! If the tires are super worn in the frontt but great in the back they likely don't do regular maintenance on the car. \n\nIf you live in an area where is cold and the roads get salted a lot it's also good to check the underneath of the car for rust. You don't want rust on the frame.", "Your best bet is to check it out with a friend if possible, look at all of the \"normal\" things that should be working like window wipers, the fluids for it, ac/heat, all of the windows should go up and down with zero hesitation, the horn, power locks, headlights on every setting, radio, power seats if thats an option. Pop the hood to make sure you dont see any corrosion and random home made wires being taped up etc. If you still like the vehicle after taking it for a test drive, express that youre interested in buying but see if theyll agree to meet you at a mechanic for an inspection. Brakes, rotors, door handles and stuff can be replaced but when you have hidden transmission issues or if the converter was stolen and later replaced with a straight pipe, youre going to be upset.", "Don't buy from anyone who won't let you take it to a mechanic that you are familiar with or that someone you trust is familiar with. Have the car looked at. The way I do this is that I let the person know that I'm going to pay for an inspection of the car and if I don't buy it I will give them the results of the inspection so they can show it to other potential buyers. Have someone drive you to do the test drive, or borrow a car when you go, and leave that car there. That is how you convince them that you will be back. I also text or call them once I am at the mechanic shop." ]

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[ "How to speed up/get rid of a spider bite quick or prevent scarring? Any LPT for speeding up/getting rid of a presumed spider bite quick? I had a presumed spider bite (could never really identify it but it definitely didn’t seem like a regular mosquito bite/reaction) once and it took 3 weeks to completely heal + left a permanent bruising discoloration on my leg despite me not actively touching/scratching it.\n\nI have a second one on my hamstring and it’s definitely much more swollen compared to my other bites. Haven’t scratched it, but I did use a hot spoon to try to get rid of it (based off a recent mosquito pro tip recently) I saw the other day bc I assumed it was a mosquito bite until it’s swollen up much bigger the next day.", "How to speed up/get rid of a spider bite quick or prevent scarring? Any LPT for speeding up/getting rid of a presumed spider bite quick? I had a presumed spider bite (could never really identify it but it definitely didn’t seem like a regular mosquito bite/reaction) once and it took 3 weeks to completely heal + left a permanent bruising discoloration on my leg despite me not actively touching/scratching it.\n\nI have a second one on my hamstring and it’s definitely much more swollen compared to my other bites. Haven’t scratched it, but I did use a hot spoon to try to get rid of it (based off a recent mosquito pro tip recently) I saw the other day bc I assumed it was a mosquito bite until it’s swollen up much bigger the next day." ]

[ "Definitely clean and disinfect it, and keep an eye, if it gets worse rather than better, go to urgent care, because some spider bites can get necrotic and dangerous.", "Assuming it’s not a recluse or widow bite you should wash the area, and maybe use antibiotics. Antihistamine if you’re feeling itchy. (Not a trained medical professional. Just how I’d take care of myself.)" ]

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[ "What to keep at your office desk in order to have nearly anything you need. Pretty straightforward. What do you always have at your desk, as far as supplies?", "What to keep at your office desk in order to have nearly anything you need. Pretty straightforward. What do you always have at your desk, as far as supplies?", "What to keep at your office desk in order to have nearly anything you need. Pretty straightforward. What do you always have at your desk, as far as supplies?", "What to keep at your office desk in order to have nearly anything you need. Pretty straightforward. What do you always have at your desk, as far as supplies?", "What to keep at your office desk in order to have nearly anything you need. Pretty straightforward. What do you always have at your desk, as far as supplies?" ]

[ "* Black, blue, and red pens (Pilot G-2)\n* Two mechanical pencils (0.5 mm)\n* Black and red fine-point Sharpies for ", "Three or more colored highlighters. A beverage (usually tea), and my laptop, monitor, keyboard, mouse, and headphones.\n\nMy laptop bag also has a toothbrush, a toothbrush holder, a travel sized toothpaste, USB keys, a spare USB wifi dongle, a bunch of spare atomizers (I vape an ecigarette), business cards, and pens.", "There isn't anything on my desk (as far as stationery goes) that has to be there.\n\nAt home, I keep a small stack of important slips of paper and business cards with a rubber band around it. Some of the slips of papers are tiny sticky notes containing handwritten notes I made about various accounts - for example, one tells me what is included in my cell phone plan (how many minutes, etc.) and the number of my provider. I always forget this info, and whenever I have a question, I just shuffle through the slips of paper to look for my note. If my note doesn't cover it, I have the number to call right there in my hand (even though in this age, most of those numbers are also stored in my phone). I tried keeping some of this info on my iPad, but it's not always good to put everything on my iPad. If the iPad dies, I'd have to do a bunch of stuff to get that info back - assuming I was doing regular backups.", "Snacks! I always keep an array of apples, nuts, larabars and other healthy snacks in my desk. It makes it easier to resist those office treats and makes it bearable I you have to work through lunch one day.", "aspirin/pain reliever, hand sanitizer, a small thing of neosporin with pain reliever if you get paper cuts, chapstick, can of compressed air, extra set of batteries if you use wireless peripherals for your computer, duct tape, WD40, a nail file in case you chip or snag a fingernail so it won't be bothering you all day, maybe a multi-tool of some sort, oh- and office supplies.\n\n" ]

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[ "How to stay awake and productive at work So, I've been working for a few months in my new job (software and web development) where I am pretty much at my desk all day, but by around 1pm I find that I am so, so sleepy, so much so that I can't stay productive. My work is either fairly interesting, or incredibly tedious, but I find that even when I'm having a good day, I still feel like I want to just go to sleep/not do any work. I'm often in the office alone also, as my bosses go home at around 3pm each day, whereas I'm here until 5.\n\nI have a regular sleeping pattern of around 8 hours - I have tried less and more hours, but this seems to suit me best. \n\nI have around 2-3 cups of tea a day to keep me going, and coffee makes me feel a bit ill so I'm not really looking for a caffeine fuelled route, just your tips on how you stay awake and productive at work without wanting to put your head down on the desk and catch some z's.", "How to stay awake and productive at work So, I've been working for a few months in my new job (software and web development) where I am pretty much at my desk all day, but by around 1pm I find that I am so, so sleepy, so much so that I can't stay productive. My work is either fairly interesting, or incredibly tedious, but I find that even when I'm having a good day, I still feel like I want to just go to sleep/not do any work. I'm often in the office alone also, as my bosses go home at around 3pm each day, whereas I'm here until 5.\n\nI have a regular sleeping pattern of around 8 hours - I have tried less and more hours, but this seems to suit me best. \n\nI have around 2-3 cups of tea a day to keep me going, and coffee makes me feel a bit ill so I'm not really looking for a caffeine fuelled route, just your tips on how you stay awake and productive at work without wanting to put your head down on the desk and catch some z's.", "How to stay awake and productive at work So, I've been working for a few months in my new job (software and web development) where I am pretty much at my desk all day, but by around 1pm I find that I am so, so sleepy, so much so that I can't stay productive. My work is either fairly interesting, or incredibly tedious, but I find that even when I'm having a good day, I still feel like I want to just go to sleep/not do any work. I'm often in the office alone also, as my bosses go home at around 3pm each day, whereas I'm here until 5.\n\nI have a regular sleeping pattern of around 8 hours - I have tried less and more hours, but this seems to suit me best. \n\nI have around 2-3 cups of tea a day to keep me going, and coffee makes me feel a bit ill so I'm not really looking for a caffeine fuelled route, just your tips on how you stay awake and productive at work without wanting to put your head down on the desk and catch some z's.", "How to stay awake and productive at work So, I've been working for a few months in my new job (software and web development) where I am pretty much at my desk all day, but by around 1pm I find that I am so, so sleepy, so much so that I can't stay productive. My work is either fairly interesting, or incredibly tedious, but I find that even when I'm having a good day, I still feel like I want to just go to sleep/not do any work. I'm often in the office alone also, as my bosses go home at around 3pm each day, whereas I'm here until 5.\n\nI have a regular sleeping pattern of around 8 hours - I have tried less and more hours, but this seems to suit me best. \n\nI have around 2-3 cups of tea a day to keep me going, and coffee makes me feel a bit ill so I'm not really looking for a caffeine fuelled route, just your tips on how you stay awake and productive at work without wanting to put your head down on the desk and catch some z's." ]

[ "Most people get tired after eating lunch. It is called \"the post lunch dip.\" It is caused by your body directing more blood to your digestive system, which takes blood away from your brain. Try eating a lighter lunch, or spread out the food over a longer period of time.", "Try eating carrots when you're tired.\nI recently found myself at a new job like yours.\nThey're so many different ways to nibble on them.\n\nAlso if you can listen to music it helps. Try a podcast like TAL. I've been going through all their archives.\n\nOr if you like sex and comedy try Guys we fucked.\n\nI would suggest drinking A LOT of water too. Getting up to pee puts my pressure on my bladder making me less sleepy.\n\nTake breaks. I know everyone says it. But sometimes they can help. Focus on your posture too. Maybe ab crunches. These are the tiny things I have found helped me out.\n\nTry caffinated tea too maybe? If coffee is too intense.", "Count yourself lucky you don't work from home; my bed is *right there*. \n\nStand up, stretch, go for a walk, talk to a colleague, sprint up a staircase, get some fresh air, rehydrate, splash your face with cold water, and if you're still feeling lethargic after doing all that, go to the doctor.\n\n", "Change positions more throughout the day. Try to arrange your work area so that you can alternate between sitting and standing. Particularly try standing when you feel the crash coming on." ]

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[ "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n", "how do I increase my retention of the articles and books I read? Things like random Wikipedia articles, or non fiction books. It seems ridiculous to study a biography like I have a test on it. I know I won't remember everything 100% if I dont re read occasionally, but I feel that I can remember more than what I do now.\n\n" ]

[ "Explain or describe what you read to someone else. They say that the best way to truly learn something is to teach it.", "Don't just read it. Explain it to yourself in a way that is different from what is wrote down. I find that you remember information better when you structure it to your own word style. Which is why people always say to teach somebody else, because this is exactly what it does.", "Instructional designer here, there are several \"passive\" techniques that you can use on content of any type to increase retention. First, any emotion that you associate with the information should be focused on as the experience of this emotion in conjunction with the information will aide in its being stored in long term memory and make it easier to access later. Second, as some have already pointed out, teaching the material to another is the most effective form of application type exercise for the retention of content. However this does require to have someone else to teach who doesn't mind you taking their time to do so. With that in mind I suggest that you create your own \"lesson\" plan for the material as if you were going to teach it. The activity of organizing the information for presentation will increase the pathways to that information in your mind. Lastly, any time you can equate, compare, easily contrast, or relate the information to portions of your everyday existence, people you know, songs or art that you like will help you to retain the content. Taking things that are already easy for you to remember and attaching something else to it is another effective means of facilitating access to this information later. ", "Take key points from the article that you would like to never forget. In tomorrow's column on Google Calendar, write a short, but lucid summary of those points at some hour (a different hour for each point) as an \"Event'. Then, click \"", "Make it a story in your mind. Bios are boring and full of facts. Imagine what silly things would have happened. Stretch details to the ridiculous. When I had to memorize facts on Napoleon, one of the items was the battle of Waterloo. I still imagine a sweaty French midget on a horse wishing my brother happy 15th birthday 3 days late. So that means it must have been June 18, 1815. I hope that's right.\n\nAdditionally, the outcome of the war is best remembered by imagining a group of people with ridiculous clothes and accents representing their countries talking about what happened and making jokes with each other. \n\nIt's kind of like making short, silly, cartoon like films in your imagination that make the details stick out.", "Figure out what type of reinforcement allows you retain information most successfully. \n\n\nSome people need to read out loud. Some people need to explain what they've read to someone else. Personally, I need to write it down. If I read something and take casual notes along the way, I tend to remember more specific details. It's the act of writing for me... I throw away the notes and never read them again.", "I read somewhere that you retain more information when reading before bed. I don't know if that's actually true or not. ", "This is a subject that I just recently had a huge breakthrough with.\n\nI have always had trouble retaining information from books. What happens is I just start to read on autopilot. By that I mean that I kind of zone out without realizing it and next thing I know I have reached the end of the page yet can't recall a single thing from it.\n\nI just recently realized the power of **HIGHLIGHTING**. I've never been a huge proponent of highlighting because I never saw the point of it. It's not necessarily to save points to return to. It's to make reading an *active* process. When reading you look for important parts that are worth highlighting. What this does for me is that it really engages my brain in the material that I am reading. Instead of just taking in the text, I am now analyzing it and looking for the important bits that are worth taking note of. Doing this really helps me stay involved in the book.\n\nGive it a try and let me know if it helps!", "Usually you retain information if it is of natural interest to you.. If you can some way create an interest your mind should be able to retain it easier", "The trick with memory is to remind yourself of something just before you're about to forget it. The other suggestions are basically variations on this. It's also called **[spaced repetition](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spaced_repetition)**.\n\nIf you review too soon, you're wasting effort because it's still in your memory. Many of the suggestions here essentially have you review over and over right at the start (making it into a story in your mind). That may be fun, but it's overkill and doesn't provide a mechanism to keep it remembered a few weeks from now. \n\nIf you review too late, it's not \"review\" anymore but actually re-learning, which is also a waste of time and effort.\n\nSteps:\n\n* Figure out how your brain works, and recognize how soon you are likely to forget something.\n* Review again just before that point. This might be minute or so for technical things or pure memorization (e.g., foreign language vocabulary). Or it might be days or weeks for \"interesting\" things. So for an article or book, you might have to stop in the middle of a section/chapter and go back to the start of it and review. It won't take long at all, though!\n* A day later, try to sense which parts you don't fully remember and jump through them again. As before, it should just take a few seconds.\n* A few days later, do this again.\n* A month later, do this again.\n\nThe time between reviews will vary. Maybe the above is overkill, or maybe it's way too spaced out. But this is the method used by memory folks in the know!\n\n**TL;DR**: Check out [SuperMemo](https://www.supermemo.com/).\n\nSource: aced many simultaneous different foreign language classes in college, bar exams, etc.\n", "Tell your nephew about it...it told my nephew how you can drop batteries and determine their charge by how much they bounce...I forgot all about it and he taught it back to me so we could get the good batteries out of a bucket for a piano keyboard. 10/10 would bounce again", "Summarize the most important parts that you read and right them down. Then try to copy it down again by memory. Then again. By the third or fourth time you should be able to do it by memory, and once you have copied it completely from memory you should be able to remember it. This is how I passed my psychology class my freshman year of college, it was a 100+ people lecture and we only had 4 grades in the class which were all tests and even though I rarely made it to class, I probably had one of the highest grades. People would literally get up and walk out to go withdraw from the class when we got tests handed back lol, and that was my first impression of college.", "Stop reading so many info blurbs on reddit, focus on full comprehension of articles even if they're boring.", "Read something that you actually find interesting, not just things you read because you think you should. ", "Read for a while, then give yourself a break. This allows your working memory to process and rehearse what it has taken in and code it into retrievable memories. When you don't take a break, your working memory becomes overloaded. Ever sat through a super long class, and by the end your brain is so fried that you are just passively paying attention? Your working memory is stuffed and your brain is struggling to process and rehearse while taking in even more information. A short five to ten minute break will help make a difference!", "Keep a notebook. Write the date and title of what you're reading, and jot down anything surprising or really interesting to you (quotes, facts, etc.).", "It helps a lot if I imagine images while I read. I read a 900 page book a few months ago and I still remember everything that happened just because I remember all the images as I read.\n\nYou could try taking supplements as well. Ginko biloba and bacopa monneiri help with memory. ", "Intentionally review the information in your head 10 minutes later. If you find gaps, review. Scientists have found that memory recall is based far more on reference networks (different things that remind you of the material, like life experiences and emotions) than on time in mind (purposely keeping information in your working memory).", "Im a tax professional and I usually try alternative scenarios to understand things better. So for example, if I've read a provision of law, I'll try and build up alternate scenarios where the provision would apply and where it wouldnt ", "I think I can help here.\n\nStudy smarter, not harder.\n\nRead synopses, not long intricately worded texts with hundreds of footnotes and unimportant details that you can look up at a later date. A \"pocket book of ___\" is a good starting point.\n\nTake regular breaks\n\nCome back to what you read and reread it later that day.\n\nExplain it to yourself or someone else\n\nReread it again in 3-5 days' time and then you'll know it for a year or so.\n\nReread it yet again in 1 year and you'll know it for ever\n\nSource: 10 years of university: mathematics, physics, medicine and specialty fellowship training", "I see nobody mentioning this, but check your vitamin levels, especially the Bs and D. I spent a couple of years scraping along back in college and having a tough time retaining anything before I decided to get a check up and find that they were pretty low.\n\nOmega-3 from fish oil also helps.", "I read a lot of non fiction. It is natural that unless I do something to retain them, I won't remember them. I take notes.\n1. If I read something, be it a physical book or e-book, I always keep my laptop open with a text document. I have different text documents namely, tech, books, psychology to name a few.\n2. When ever I read something I automatically start entering the related notes/summaries about them in the related text document I have for them.\n3. I have Dropbox folder which is synced between my work machine and personal laptop. Even I want to read something in my work, I can read and take notes simultaneously. If I am not near my machine, then I use a pencil to underline important points and later write them to the documents.\n4. I create notes in such a way that I can read them once to teach others. \nTo summarize, \n1. Always take notes in notebook or text document in your laptop. 2. The notes should contain key points.\n3. Later go through them when you are free. \nThis method has worked wonders for me.\n", "I read a lot of history, politics and economics. I find that having a really good knowledge of geography helps because you can picture all of the things happening on a map as you go. And if you have a good idea of the political geography of that world map at different points in history, you can even sort of remember it relative to what else was going on at that time.\n\nAnd of course, there is no better way to get that geographical knowledge than grand strategy games!! say: ck2 for all those duchies and counties you may not otherwisr care about!", "I found that I could remember and understand things better if I read the first and last sentences of the paragraph. It gets rid of some of the fluff. And in text books it seems to be where the most important info is. ", "I find reading out loud to be the greatest way for me.\nObviously tough if you're in public, but in that scenario I mouth the words as I read. It helps me to hear it and I guess retain better. ", "I don't know if this is your issue but I have some problems with concentrating and focusing, so I use BeeLine Reader (http://www.beelinereader.com/). It helps a lot when you're trying to digest a wall of text tbh.", "For me, exercising always helps me retain things when I am studying for something so I think it would work for articles/fiction as well. There was a study published recently on this, but I can't remember where I saw it...", "Don't know if it's been said yet, but read the article out loud, or the more important parts. My grade 10 class was taught to do this for retention. \n\nAlso helps to remember where you put something!! Ex. *puts keys on kitchen counter* \"I put my keys on the kitchen counter\" ", "Read slower. Re-read things you feel you didn't completely get. Look up words you don't know. Read other people's opinions and thoughts about the book after and compare them to your own. Talk to others about it. If you're really struggling to get something read it out loud or get someone else in the room to read it to and discuss it with.", "If there's something that I particularly want to retain, I set a few calendar reminders after reading it. When it comes up, I recall the key concepts of the material. There is also an optimal schedule for this that decreases in frequency but I can't remember what it is. " ]

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[ "Getting over the one person you've ever truly loved. Recently was broken up with by someone I truly believe is my soul mate. We were together for a while but when he left for college, there became almost 2,000 miles between us, and it fucked us over. We just fought and got sick of each other, and he broke up with me. We still want to be best friends and be close, but I can't separate myself from the feeling of us being a couple. Help?", "Getting over the one person you've ever truly loved. Recently was broken up with by someone I truly believe is my soul mate. We were together for a while but when he left for college, there became almost 2,000 miles between us, and it fucked us over. We just fought and got sick of each other, and he broke up with me. We still want to be best friends and be close, but I can't separate myself from the feeling of us being a couple. Help?", "Getting over the one person you've ever truly loved. Recently was broken up with by someone I truly believe is my soul mate. We were together for a while but when he left for college, there became almost 2,000 miles between us, and it fucked us over. We just fought and got sick of each other, and he broke up with me. We still want to be best friends and be close, but I can't separate myself from the feeling of us being a couple. Help?", "Getting over the one person you've ever truly loved. Recently was broken up with by someone I truly believe is my soul mate. We were together for a while but when he left for college, there became almost 2,000 miles between us, and it fucked us over. We just fought and got sick of each other, and he broke up with me. We still want to be best friends and be close, but I can't separate myself from the feeling of us being a couple. Help?", "Getting over the one person you've ever truly loved. Recently was broken up with by someone I truly believe is my soul mate. We were together for a while but when he left for college, there became almost 2,000 miles between us, and it fucked us over. We just fought and got sick of each other, and he broke up with me. We still want to be best friends and be close, but I can't separate myself from the feeling of us being a couple. Help?" ]

[ "Time. Just give it time. It helps not to try and remain friends for a little bit. It's better to rip off the bandaid than peeling it off slowly. That only makes it hurt longer. ", "I hate to be a buzzkill, but he's probably \"moved on\" to someone else. Or at least is playing the field while in college. \"Freedom\" can do that to a person. Don't buy in to your fantasy that you'll get back together. You'll only be preventing yourself from noticing the next guy right around the corner.", "I found it helpful to avoid the reminders. Songs, people, places, for a while. I also found it helpful to get on dating sites even though I did not plan on dating. It was a good distraction. There is no doubt that he thinks of you everyday, if that is any comfort. I found I kept feeling forgotten, or forgettable. It all passes with time. \n", "Even if you want to be friends, don't. At least for now... For me, the easiest way to get over someone is to completely loose contact with that person. If you see him and get in touch with him it will only make things harder. Also consider there is a grieving process and it will take some time to heal. Try to keep distracted with other activities, at first everything you do will remind you of him but in time you'll get over it and maybe then you can become good friends.", "Distractions work well. It doesn't really matter what you're doing, whether it's mindless and repetitive or mentally and/or physically strenuous, having something to keep your mind busy will make it harder to sit around and stew over the past. Also, if you're so sure about the soul mates thing, you could always go and talk to more people and see if that thought still holds water. You'd be surprised to find how many cracks you can see in the facade once you have others to compare it to." ]

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[ "How do you deal with jetlag? I travel to India from US every month for a week or more and suffer serious jetlag for more than a week. The geographies are more than 12 hours in offset and 24 hours in the flight. In either places I go drowsy by evening 4-5 PM and wake up 2-3 in the morning. \n\nI have seen advice on consuming vitamin D tablets. What works?\n", "How do you deal with jetlag? I travel to India from US every month for a week or more and suffer serious jetlag for more than a week. The geographies are more than 12 hours in offset and 24 hours in the flight. In either places I go drowsy by evening 4-5 PM and wake up 2-3 in the morning. \n\nI have seen advice on consuming vitamin D tablets. What works?\n" ]

[ "Eat the meal that is the time in the other country before you get on the plane. So say if you leave where u are at 10am but arrive in your new destination at 5pm eat a dinner ", "Sunlight. Get outside and read a book or take a walk for half an hour. Exposure to direct sunlight is supposed to help reset our bodies internal 'clock.' " ]

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[ "How can I learn to write faster by hand? I've seen people who can almost write as fast as they can talk. How do they do this? Is there a trick?", "How can I learn to write faster by hand? I've seen people who can almost write as fast as they can talk. How do they do this? Is there a trick?", "How can I learn to write faster by hand? I've seen people who can almost write as fast as they can talk. How do they do this? Is there a trick?", "How can I learn to write faster by hand? I've seen people who can almost write as fast as they can talk. How do they do this? Is there a trick?", "How can I learn to write faster by hand? I've seen people who can almost write as fast as they can talk. How do they do this? Is there a trick?" ]

[ "There's no trick other than practice. The more you write, the more competent you'll be at doing it quickly. ", "First, I use cursive a lot. Not fully, but my handwriting is more cursive than print. Second, I use short hand to prevent writing out full words. Third, I skip some words. I just need to be able to understand what I wrote. \n\nHere's an example: Today I talked to Jude, the assistant director. The project is full for the upcoming months, but to talk to her later about it. The pay is around minimum wage, with small raises. Hours are Monday through Thursday, between 20-25 hours per week. \n\nMy notes are: TT Jude (asst dir), proj full, talk later. Pay min wage w/ small raises. Hrs M-H, btw 20-25 hrs/wk.\n\nThis is how I've taken notes at work and at school. Then after the meeting or class, I type them up in the full format I wrote up above. If I use a phrase often, I see if I can shorten it and include the abbreviation. \n\nThis may not be the exact answer to your question, but it's how I can write fast and keep up. ", "Don't write full words. Take short hand notes that you can later piece together what they said.\n\nThis is what all my translators do at my work. ", "I actually spent some time getting decent at this. First, your handwriting will need to suffer. Second, if you're younger, then no one taught you cursive, most of the fastest writers use a mix of cursive and print. Then, one thing I did was I dropped of a lot of the tails on things. So my u's d's in particular didn't have tails. Then, because I'm impatient at writing to begin with (I often skip to writing the next word before I finish writing the previous one), my writing often merges together, so \"were\" ends up looking more like \"uere\" but I can tell the difference even when it looks like another word because of how I used the side of the E (in this example) as the wall for the wider letter.\n\nWith a little practice, it can get pretty fast, just not pretty.\n ", "The more you do it, the easier it gets. But you'll never be able to write by hand as fast as you can type. \nFunny you brought this up, I discovered a few years ago that I've become so keyboard dependent, that I have a hard time composing by pen or pencil--I get distracted by the act of making lines and curves that convey meaning. " ]

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[ "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance.", "Moving out of your parents on the cheap Sup guys, moving out soon. Found a nice appartment for 600/mo cool I guess. But my question is...\n\nHow do I go about getting a good deal on TV/Internet?\nHow about furniture on the cheap?\nWhere can I learn to cook? lol\n\nand other nuances that you've learned along the way that have made it easier and cheaper to live on your own. \n\nThanks in advance." ]

[ "One thing I have to recommend is **save money**. I know far too many people living check to check, even people that have been living on their own a while, who spend every last drop of money they have. A savings is important. Not only for emergencies, but for your future. Most companies will not offer retirement plans by the time you retire. If your job has a 401k plan, I'd put money in that, too. Usually you can transfer them from job to job. \n\nAs for cable and internet. I'd really think long and hard about whether you need cable. I mean, if you have internet access, you can pretty much watch anything you want online. Only you can decide if the expense is justifiable, though. Watching \"TV\" on your computer can save you a lot of electricity, too, since those fancy LCD and LED TVs use phantom power even when they aren't on. Unplug them! By the way, almost all modern electronics use phantom power, so I'd unplug anything you aren't using on a regular basis. \n\nTry /r/frugal for money saving tips.\n\nSince you are just starting out, I'd also reccomend /r/buyitforlife to find items that will last you a long time. Just be careful not to get sucked into buying stuff that is unnecessarily expensive.\n\n/r/budgetfood is a good place to find meals on the cheap, and /r/askculinary will answer any cooking questions you have. \n\nIf you have the internet, you don't need a cookbook. Tons of recipe sites, and youtube videos to help you learn. I'd buy a cast iron pan (flat, not ribbed), too, and skip the expensive non-stick sets. Maybe one medium nonstick pan for cooking eggs. Buy stainless steel pots, instead of nonstick, too, imo. \n\n\n\n", "**TV/Internet:** just get the internet package from the cable company and get netflix. Basic cable and netflix are really all you need. \n\n**Furniture:** You can get basically everything at a second hand store except for beds (bedbug infestations are common). Moving sales and garage sales are a good place to look too. If you keep your eye out while traveling around town, you'll probably even find some perfectly good furniture being thrown out. Trash is public property, so feel free to take it. If the furniture is an ugly color, but made of solid wood you can re-finish or re-paint it for cheap. \n\n**Cooking:** If you want to invest in a good cook-book I'd recommend America's Test Kitchen. ATK has really good recipes as well as tips for buying quality ingredients and kitchen tools and has detailed instructions on proper prep techniques (with pictures!).\n\n**Random tips:** If you're paying for the electric, get in the habit of turning off lights when you leave the room and plug in your electronics into a power strip so you can turn them off easily when you're not using them. \n\nBuy your own modem. Cable companies will allow you to rent a modem from them, but it'll cost you around $15 a month. Buy your own and you break even at 4 months. ", "Peruse [this](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/19koc5/lpt_request_tips_for_a_first_apartment/) post, for a heap of wonderful random tips.\n\nTreat cooking like a science lab, try [this](http://www.cookingforengineers.com/). I find this a more logical approach to cooking, and easier to learn.\n", "My suggestions (40-something guy, had good money, had none).\n\n> Found a nice appartment for 600/mo\n\nHow does that compare with the going rate where you are? How much are you paying per square foot? What's in the neighborhood? A more expensive apartment, or one that's pricier per square foot, but that's in a neighborhood with good services, stores, commute options, etc., can be worthwhile.\n\n**TV / Internet** Think long and hard as to whether or not you need a TV. You can get a lot of mileage out of Internet only, over-the-air broadcasts, or Netflix. Consider living without video, it will free a lot of time in your life, and puts you out of reach of advertising (temptation). For Internet: your local cable monopoly is likely better than the local telephone monopoly if those are your only options. In some urban areas there are other options. I get service via a wireless broadband provider in San Francisco (Monkeybrains).\n\n**Furniture** Buy used. Don't be afraid to go with basic bricks-and-boards or other make-do stuff. I've got a small bookcase I found on the street as I was moving into my current place. Good furniture can be accumulated over time (I've got pieces I've been acquiring since college, some 20+ years ago). 2nd hand stores, Goodwill / Salvation Army, garage sales, lower-end furniture stores such as Ikea. Realize that whatever you buy now you'll have to move (or discard) later.\n\n**Learning to cook** Buy a cookbook. Start trying out recipes. Have a friend help / share meals. Figure out what you like and learn some basics.\n\nMoney-saving tip? Less is more. Don't buy things to acquire them. If you can find quality stuff that will last you over the years, whether you pay a lot for it or a little, you're better off.", "TV - Seriously, screw satellite/cable. Get internet and netflix. Hulu is OK, but not as good as netflix. If you are a student, you can get Amazon Instant Video for free for 6 months. \n\nFurniture - Craigslist, sometimes people practically GIVE their furniture away. Estate sales and garage sales are a good place to look too. If a couch is torn/ugly pattern, put a slip-cover over that shit and it's like a brand new couch. Don't be too worried about buying expensive furniture now. That's for when you reach your 30s. BUT the one thing I would spend good money on is a bed. I bought a bed from a wholesale mattress place IN CASH when I was 19. I'm 26 now and it was the best investment I could have made. There's always room for haggling when you are paying someone cash - always bargain for a better price ;)\n\nFood - Buy a crockpot to start out with, learn some of those recipes. Buy some ziplock containers for leftovers (lunches for the rest of your week). Get a costco/sam's club card (or whatever is in your area, I don't know where you are from). Buy things you know you will eat and your pantry staples in bulk to save money in the long run. Check out /r/eatcheapandhealthy and /r/Frugal \n\nAlso, decorate with things that make you happy and things that you like and keep your place clean. You can be messy here and there, but keeping things clean will make you enjoy being home and you will grow a healthy attachment to your own place, feeling comfortable in your environment and also feeling comfortable in having guests over to hang out. \n\nBuying a whiteboard to help motivate you and keep you productive is also a great thing. Keep yourself organized. \n", "Something I only recently learned is that cable companies have salesmen that you can get in touch with on an individual basis. These guys have a quota to hit and flexibility on pricing. \n\nI only subscribe to cable Internet, but if I'd called the company directly, I'd be paying $50-60 per month instead of the $30 per month my salesman hooked me up with. He even came out on a Saturday to hook us up so we didn't have to wait for the company to hook us up on the following Monday. \n\nGood Guy Cableguy Salesman. ", "Minimalism as a style of interior decoration isn't just popular because it looks nice. And Craigslist.", "Cooking: don't get non-stick pans, they won't last. Cast iron is around the same price and will last forever (and can be found second-hand). Get stainless for your pots ( you really only need three: a soup sized pot, a small pot and an 8-10 inch saucepan). How to cook everything is another good all purpose book. ", "When you get ready to move, hit up the local liquor stores for boxes. They usually just throw them out and will be happy to let you take them. Liquor boxes are way stronger than the cheap boxes you get from moving suppliers. ", "If this is my friend Alex, relax bro. You're moving in with amazing and well paid people. We got your back. :D If this isn't him, sorry that's kind of awkward.", "As a Culinary Arts major currently in college i will say this book has turned the worst and hazardous cooks into potential chefs. Bronze covered book, buy it used as it may have penciled in notes. (Mine did) It has everything to how to buy, wash, prepare, and cook everything you will ever come across. And it'll teach you how to actually preform the techniques other books assume you know. Good luck\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=the+professional+chef+book+The+culinary+institute+of+america&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Athe+professional+chef+book+The+culinary+institute+of+america", "WARNING ON FURNITURE: Be extremely wary of curb furniture or rummage sale furniture where the people selling might not have owned it first. Reason being is that bed bugs are still an epidemic and contracting them through a bad piece of furniture will make you hate your life, ruin the rest of your belongings, and cost you lots of money in trying to get rid of them. It's far better to buy cheapo ikea stuff when starting out. If you insist on buying used, learn the signs of bed bugs (little dark spots).\n\nAlso, check out Instructables for good ideas on cheap bookshelves and things you can make out of hardware store goods, but still look cool. DIY is the way to go on furniture and accents.\n\nTV: Don't do cable. It wastes your youth and money. On demand like others suggest are good, but not having TV helps stimulate you to go out and be social or be more interesting when friends come over. My best social times in my young 20s were when none of us had TVs. We were forced to be more creative and ended up making a lot more good memories.\n\nMEDIA: If you do want electronics, I'd recommend just recruiting a roommate that's a gadget and media geek. It's a good way to observe good and bad purchasing behavior without being the one spending the money. \n\nBILLS/UTILITIES: If you have high cr", "Make a budget beforehand, keep estimates conservative. \n\nKeep money in the bank, save up and if you do spend, spend on new experiences. ", "Get a PayPal account and periodically add money to it from your bank account. This helps you save because you can't immediately transfer the money TO your bank account, it takes 3-5 days. Basically making it money that's hard to touch so you don't get tempted to spend it. This is emergency money. ", "For things like dishes/cutlery and other kitchen gadgets, avoid the dollar store. Those items seem tempting because the price is so low, but they'll probably end up too rusty to use in less than a year (I learned this the hard way). Instead, check out second-hand stores or garage sales for more quality items.\n\nIf it's not too late, start asking for small appliances such as toaster/coffee maker etc for your birthday and other holidays. Also ask your parents and other older people if they can set aside things they might be looking to replace so you can decide if you'd like to take it rather than them throw it away.\n\nFor furniture (except your bed), try craigslist, freecycle.org, and other websites. You can often find quality used furniture for cheaper than new furniture of lower quality.", "For furniture: Craigslist, Craigslist, Craigslist. Failing that, check out your local thrift stores.\n\nFood: Comparison shop, and not just the straight up dollar value. Look at the small print that shows price per unit. Sometimes smaller packages are actually cheaper per unit, sometimes the store brand is actually more expensive. It's not always obvious.\nAlso, don't be afraid to use coupons. I've heard people express concern that it makes them seem cheap. Screw that. If you can save 75 cents on a box of cereal by using a coupon, why the hell not?\nDon't throw away food. Even if it's not enough for a whole meal, most of the time you can re-purpose your leftovers. At the end of a week you can maybe use your collected leftovers to make a pizza or a stew or a soup. I don't even throw away vegetable peels and ends, I put them in the freezer and then once in a while I make vegetable broth out of it, and use that as a base in some soup.\n\nElectricity: Turn stuff off when you don't use them, and I don't just mean lights either. For example, I don't keep my coffeemaker plugged in when it's not in use, because even on standby it uses electricity.\n\nWater: This one is a bit extreme perhaps, but if you can, try to reduce the number of times you flush the toilet. For example, maybe you get up in the middle of the night to take a piss, there's no need to flush that until you take a dump in the morning.\n\n\n", "For cooking check out [allrecipes.com](http://allrecipes.com/) or get a grill and figure it out, cavemen were able to do it... its in your dna.", "Don't pay for cable, huge waste of money.\nGet furniture from goodwill or a garage sale. \nBuy a recipe book and just teach yourself. \nSet a budget and stick to it. \n", "if you feel you HAVE to buy furniture and things like that from the retail rember even if it has a price tag the price is not always set depending on the time of year you can even batter down the price 10-30% or so but that's where i live might be harder where you are XD", "TV/ Internet:\nWeigh the options you have in your area and do some research. A lot of areas have multiple providers. Some providers have balloon rates for about 6 months. (but need to sign on for a one year). Also see if it will be cheaper to get t.v. from one provider and internet a second. Use your cell as a home phone.\nFurniture:\nMoved into an apartment in college and got a ton of furniture for free from friends and family, you'll be surprised how much people will give you so they can get new items. I got leather couches, a full 6 chair/table set and t.v.'s by asking my aunts.\nCooking:\nIf you have a good relationship with parents. Ask for tips/hints before you move out or have them come over to teach you some simple meals. My mother loved it. See others have old cookbooks they'll give you for free. Look at book stores they have a lot of cookbooks.\nOthers:\nBuy or find a bike. If you can get to 50% of your local places by riding or walking your saving money in the long run. It's a good way to get some exercise. If you have a smart phone, Use things like your bank app or MINT.com to track money spending.\n", "Sam's Club, Costco and BJ's Wholesale have good quality stuff on the cheap, including beds and furniture.", "Ooma if you HAVE to have a landline, $300 at first but then a free landline that doesn't suck. I don't have a landline, cell only, but some people have to have them for some reason", "In accordance with what everyone else is saying here, here's a mantra to abide by (under the right circumstances, of course): buy cheap, buy more.\n\nRemember that there are some things that are worth the extra dollars if it means that you won't have to buy more of it in the future.", "I learned to cook from my mom and in school.\n\nI didn't cheap out on my TV. \n\nRelatives gave me old furniture. I had the stuff for 3 weeks before we(myself and my now wife) decided the old stuff made our place look like a crack house.... So we went out and got some new stuff. \n\nI would say if you are asking this stuff and don't have a lot of time, maybe moving out right now isn't a good idea... Save money and learn to cook. Also have a clearly outlined budget. Rent, renters insurance, car payment, car insurance, gas, food, entertainment, cable & Internet, cell phone bill, hydro bill, water bill( depending on where you live) \n\nSource:\nI went from living at home with my mom and brother to living across the country with my girlfriend. We had nothing at all when we started out. ", "Get some sort of filing cabinet. AND USE IT!!! Everything from manuals for house hold items you purchase to the obvious receipts and insurance documents.... So on and on... The sooner you start this the easier it is to keep up with. Later in life you will be very happy you started this good habit!", "Get a crockpot. Big meals on the cheap. \n\nGo to /r/personalfinance and lurk for a while. You'll slowly pick up good financial habits. \n\n", "Don't get TV, just get a decent internet service and netflix, and if you have a video game console just use that as your dvd/blu-ray player. Thrift stores have all kinds of good furniture, even stuff like dishes etc for next to nothing. \n\nAs for learning to cook, well there are a few decent subreddits, but I've found some of the cheapest meals are: spaghetti (noodles= $1, sauce= $1-2), velveeta mac n cheese (like $1-2, doesn't require milk or butter like kraft mac n cheese), and ramen. My bonus tip for the ramen, however, is to go to the grocery store and get a few of those frozen, microwave-steamable bags of vegetable mixes that are like $1-2 each, and mix in half a bag with your ramen (you have to cook the veggies and the ramen seperately of course) and maybe add a little soy sauce or sirracha. A loaf of bread and Peanut Butter + Jelly will go a very long way, even if it is a little boring. Also keep an eye out for frozen pizzas when they go on sale. Those things are super easy and can be got for pretty cheap sometimes.\n\nAlso, find a convenient yet cheap place to do your laundry. Sometimes apartment complexes will have a laundry room for residents that only charges like $1.25 per load. \n\nOther obvious stuff such as turning off the lights, taking shorter showers, not running the heater/ AC all the time will also save you money.\n\nWell, good luck!", "As far as cooking goes, a wok is the number 1 piece of equipment I've used while living out of home. Cook in bulk and freeze it.\n\nLearn to make a few curries, they tend to go a long way. I'm a fan of green chicken and red beef curries (side note, I've been making red curries with kangaroo recently. Delicious meat), you can lengthen them cheaply with rice, brown is better for you. Or cous cous, which is even easier to make (cover in boiling water and leave for 10min. That's it)\n\nAs far as cookbooks go I definitely recommend Jamie Olivers 15 Minute Meals. They're delicious, healthy, and simple to put together. One note though: you'll need a food processor to actually put a lot of them together in 15min. They're all prepareable without one, it'll just take a little longer.", "After living on my own for 2 years, and being young and very busy, the best thing I have purchased is a crockpot. It is incredibly easy to use and incredibly hard to screw up.\n\nVisit /r/slowcooking for awesome recipes and help. Some of the best stuff I've made I've found on that subreddit.\n\nAlso, for moving day, pack a separate box that is an overnight kit because you won't be able to unpack all at once. It should contain everything you need for your first 2 days.", "**Google**: Deals, deals, deals... Spend some time searching for deals for TV/Internet, etc...\n\n**Craigslist** Patience and looking for stuff (including free section) will *sometimes* yield good results. Hard part is finding a way to haul big furniture. I think you can rent a van or something from uHaul for cheap but its better if you got friends with a truck to help.\n\n**Cooking** I got nothing\n\n**Other** Find roommates and split costs and rent. Better than living by yourself, assuming if you luck out on finding good roommates. Sucks if you get bad ones. Alternatively, if you can avoid a lease or get a short lease, do so. Never want to be stuck in a bad situation for longer than necessary if it ends up as such." ]

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[ "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. ", "What is something you always keep in your car? Thanks for all the replies everyone! Definitely going to start carrying lots of these. " ]

[ "Plastic silverware, napkins, quarters for street parking, a blanket for dogs to sit on, a jump-starter battery thing from Amazon in case my battery dies, a tire pressure gauge and a pair of sunglasses.", "Disinfecting wipes, paper towels, regular wipes, toilet paper, a blanket, shovel, extra long jumper cables, first aid kit, pens, flash light, bug spray and sunscreen. ", "In New England, we pretty much always carry a sweatshirt or jacket, a pair of gloves, and a snow brush. It's been known to snow as late as May or as early as October.", "Travel urinals. They have gel inside to contain pee. VERY useful because you are always stuck in the middle lane of stop-and-stop traffic when the little one suddenly has to go potty and cannot hold it. ... And the little one may be 29 (still, the youngest in the car).\n\nExtremely useful for us ladies as we don't have as many options for safe in-car urination as men folks do.", "Quarters, Dollar Bills: for unexpected tolls\n\n1 or 2 Checks: these can be used to buy gas if you lose your wallet, no ID needed, happened to me before\n\njug of water or diet cola: emergency coolant, but don't ever use water for wiper fluid, pour it directly on the windshield\n\ntire pressure gauge: most at gas stations or on air pumps aren't accurate\n\njumper cables: for yourself or someone else\n\ngloves: if you've ever done any work with cars you know you'll get dirty and you will mangle your hands\n\nsimple tool kit: you can get these anywhere, you want screwdrivers, pliers, a few spare fuses, maybe a few ratchets, a good blade (a multitool is a good substitute)\n]\nan old cell phone: can be used for emergency calls even if its deactivated, battery should be charged every 6 months\n\nall paperwork (or copies of) any expenses and registration for your car: this is good in case you need to prove ownership (lose your keys, etc) or need to reference something on the road (when you last got your tires, warranty info for certain parts, etc)\n\njacket or pair of sweats: good in case you need a change of clothes or you're stuck in cold weather\n\nrag\n\nduct tape (i like gorilla tape): a million uses. \n\nsmall LED flash light: provides plenty of light, a small keychain version will do well\n\ngas can: always a good idea, you don't want to hike 3 miles to a station and find out they don't sell them there (happened to me)\n\nbungee cords: you'll have to tie down or secure something at some point.\n\nYou basically just want to be able to get yourself out of a jam (or last until someone else can) if you don't have a phone or cell service. The best thing you can keep is a AAA membership (or roadside assistance from your insurance or cell phone provider) to call when something happens.", "Phone charger, extra sunglasses, Chapstick/lip balm, water, blanket, ice scraper (seasonal), mini umbrella, sweatshirt, tool kit that came in the car, paper, pen, pencil, toothbrush, toothpaste, lighter, tampons, shorts and change of shirt (seasonal), small bags of nuts, jumper cables, UTD area map, human and horse first aid kit, spare riding helmet, flashlight, copies of certain medical/registration info for my horses and dogs \nCrazily enough, my car is not messy or filled with things. Most of the stuff I have with me is pretty small, and it's all kept well organized. ", "Cloth grocery bags that I never remember to bring in to the actual store. Blanket, sweater, gloves, bottle of water/extra coolant, a pen and a nail file.", "A fire extinguisher, a first aid kit, and baby wipes. The baby wipes are great to have in case of spills. ", "jumper cables, water, Lysol wipes, toothbrush and paste, shovel, and (because I live in Canada) blankets, extra sweater of two, tuques and extra gloves (the last few I generally take out in the summer, but I leave the blankets)", "Something I haven't seen yet ITT: A center punch. It's a spring-loaded hammer with a point that you use to break your windows if you drive into water so you don't drown. Saved my friend's life.", "Kleenex, napkins(paper towles are better), oh, and both a *pencil and* a pen. also chapstick and gum for dates. Oh yeah, **jumper cables**. Seriously, *never* be without these. Oh, and a shammy/washcloth for insta-defrost without getting hand-grease all over the windshield.", "Jumper cables, sets of clothing, skateboard, shoes, pens, napkins, water bottle (wash my windshield), and trashbags.", "Jumper cables, flash light, matches, compass, knife, spare shoes & clothes, fishing hooks, string, and rope. Also a first aid kit.", "I just put a container of those little disposable toothbrushes in the glove box... I don't know why I never thought of it before.", "Bottles of water. Many of the other things people have listed, too, but if an actual emergency happens this is the only immediate thing you will likely be short of and unable to easily procure.", "Always water. If nothing else, I have water.\nThe car came with a built in first aid kit, so there's that.\nAnd I always have spare oil and power steering fluid, just in case. There's a small plastic bag, and a roll of paper towels too, could be useful one day.\nOh, and a gas can.\nThere's also straws in the glove compartment, and some pens, and a tire pressure thingie. And a wrench.", "A small gas can, water, wrenches, old belts(in case a new one goes bad/breaks), shop towels, \"chem sticks\"& flashlights( batteries removed), pens/pencils, first aid kit, fishing rod, reel and tackle, if you don't or can't carry one on you daily: a pocket knife or multi-tool. There are some more things that I could add but they are a bit more area specific.", "First aid kid, spare clothes, hygiene products, tools, jumper cables, water and almonds. Pretty much anything if my car messes up and I'm stranded for a long time." ]

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[ "Finding A Relationship Advice Ive been told everything from don't look for one to just go balls deep by friends and coworkers but I didn't find any of it useful to actually doing the right thing. \n\nWhat I need: Tips on getting back into the dating scene and finding a relationship after and amazing girl crushed my self confidence.\n\nTL;DR amazing relationship, 1st time i felt confident, 4ish month relationship, girl decided my physical looks were the only thing she didn't like about me (so I guess i did everything else right) and now I'm crushed in confidence and have kinda closed myself away from any girl that I know. I thought she was a goddess, not just her appearance but her personality was just off the charts. I leave for Basic Training (Army) in June and I just want to at least start building a new relationship before I am cast out to the world.\n\n\n Little Backstory of me, I am a kissless senior in highschool, I am quite a busy person through work, playing Violin for our schools orchestra, and preparing myself for the Basic training this June. I have always been outgoing but my parents did a very good job of raising me and I have always been a gentleman for anyone (adults, boys, girls etc.) NO I DONT WEAR A FEDORA!!!! I never new how to really talk to girls in a way past being friends till around this summer. I started talking to a girl more I had met the previous year and found out she liked to do competition *censored* so I went to a couple of her events, time travels and after a couple months she tells one of my friends she finds me physically unattractive. This really hurt because up to that point I felt like things were going pretty well, I had actually just taken her to dinner for the first time and everything went well. I wasn't pushing anything so hearing that the only thing that stopped our relationship was something I couldn't change (I have good Hygiene) just crushed my confidence. I had done everything I could to be a good guy and I failed. It has taken me a while to repair myself from losing that relationship but I still feel like my personality is broken and I have no pzazz to get to know another girl.\n\nsorry for rambling, please stay away from negative posts, Ive had plenty of those.", "Finding A Relationship Advice Ive been told everything from don't look for one to just go balls deep by friends and coworkers but I didn't find any of it useful to actually doing the right thing. \n\nWhat I need: Tips on getting back into the dating scene and finding a relationship after and amazing girl crushed my self confidence.\n\nTL;DR amazing relationship, 1st time i felt confident, 4ish month relationship, girl decided my physical looks were the only thing she didn't like about me (so I guess i did everything else right) and now I'm crushed in confidence and have kinda closed myself away from any girl that I know. I thought she was a goddess, not just her appearance but her personality was just off the charts. I leave for Basic Training (Army) in June and I just want to at least start building a new relationship before I am cast out to the world.\n\n\n Little Backstory of me, I am a kissless senior in highschool, I am quite a busy person through work, playing Violin for our schools orchestra, and preparing myself for the Basic training this June. I have always been outgoing but my parents did a very good job of raising me and I have always been a gentleman for anyone (adults, boys, girls etc.) NO I DONT WEAR A FEDORA!!!! I never new how to really talk to girls in a way past being friends till around this summer. I started talking to a girl more I had met the previous year and found out she liked to do competition *censored* so I went to a couple of her events, time travels and after a couple months she tells one of my friends she finds me physically unattractive. This really hurt because up to that point I felt like things were going pretty well, I had actually just taken her to dinner for the first time and everything went well. I wasn't pushing anything so hearing that the only thing that stopped our relationship was something I couldn't change (I have good Hygiene) just crushed my confidence. I had done everything I could to be a good guy and I failed. It has taken me a while to repair myself from losing that relationship but I still feel like my personality is broken and I have no pzazz to get to know another girl.\n\nsorry for rambling, please stay away from negative posts, Ive had plenty of those.", "Finding A Relationship Advice Ive been told everything from don't look for one to just go balls deep by friends and coworkers but I didn't find any of it useful to actually doing the right thing. \n\nWhat I need: Tips on getting back into the dating scene and finding a relationship after and amazing girl crushed my self confidence.\n\nTL;DR amazing relationship, 1st time i felt confident, 4ish month relationship, girl decided my physical looks were the only thing she didn't like about me (so I guess i did everything else right) and now I'm crushed in confidence and have kinda closed myself away from any girl that I know. I thought she was a goddess, not just her appearance but her personality was just off the charts. I leave for Basic Training (Army) in June and I just want to at least start building a new relationship before I am cast out to the world.\n\n\n Little Backstory of me, I am a kissless senior in highschool, I am quite a busy person through work, playing Violin for our schools orchestra, and preparing myself for the Basic training this June. I have always been outgoing but my parents did a very good job of raising me and I have always been a gentleman for anyone (adults, boys, girls etc.) NO I DONT WEAR A FEDORA!!!! I never new how to really talk to girls in a way past being friends till around this summer. I started talking to a girl more I had met the previous year and found out she liked to do competition *censored* so I went to a couple of her events, time travels and after a couple months she tells one of my friends she finds me physically unattractive. This really hurt because up to that point I felt like things were going pretty well, I had actually just taken her to dinner for the first time and everything went well. I wasn't pushing anything so hearing that the only thing that stopped our relationship was something I couldn't change (I have good Hygiene) just crushed my confidence. I had done everything I could to be a good guy and I failed. It has taken me a while to repair myself from losing that relationship but I still feel like my personality is broken and I have no pzazz to get to know another girl.\n\nsorry for rambling, please stay away from negative posts, Ive had plenty of those.", "Finding A Relationship Advice Ive been told everything from don't look for one to just go balls deep by friends and coworkers but I didn't find any of it useful to actually doing the right thing. \n\nWhat I need: Tips on getting back into the dating scene and finding a relationship after and amazing girl crushed my self confidence.\n\nTL;DR amazing relationship, 1st time i felt confident, 4ish month relationship, girl decided my physical looks were the only thing she didn't like about me (so I guess i did everything else right) and now I'm crushed in confidence and have kinda closed myself away from any girl that I know. I thought she was a goddess, not just her appearance but her personality was just off the charts. I leave for Basic Training (Army) in June and I just want to at least start building a new relationship before I am cast out to the world.\n\n\n Little Backstory of me, I am a kissless senior in highschool, I am quite a busy person through work, playing Violin for our schools orchestra, and preparing myself for the Basic training this June. I have always been outgoing but my parents did a very good job of raising me and I have always been a gentleman for anyone (adults, boys, girls etc.) NO I DONT WEAR A FEDORA!!!! I never new how to really talk to girls in a way past being friends till around this summer. I started talking to a girl more I had met the previous year and found out she liked to do competition *censored* so I went to a couple of her events, time travels and after a couple months she tells one of my friends she finds me physically unattractive. This really hurt because up to that point I felt like things were going pretty well, I had actually just taken her to dinner for the first time and everything went well. I wasn't pushing anything so hearing that the only thing that stopped our relationship was something I couldn't change (I have good Hygiene) just crushed my confidence. I had done everything I could to be a good guy and I failed. It has taken me a while to repair myself from losing that relationship but I still feel like my personality is broken and I have no pzazz to get to know another girl.\n\nsorry for rambling, please stay away from negative posts, Ive had plenty of those." ]

[ "Starting a relationship and then leaving for basic training doesn't seem very fair for the girl. I would wait until you get back if you want a serious relationship. ", "Why do you want to start a relationship before basic training? That seems difficult to me. To start a relationship and then leave for a few months and then maybe have to move somewhere else.\n\nPersonally I'd want to avoid being in a relationship till after I get settled down somewhere to minimize straining the relationship at its early stages by having to be long distance and what not.", "Dude, you don't want to do this. Going through basic I would see young guys going through personal hell as they read their Dear John letters. You don't want any distractions while at basic, focus on your training and you will feel awesome with all the confidence in the world when you get out. IMO if you have a girl you are interested in ask her if you can write her letters, letters in basic are one of the small things to look forward to. They also take thought and effort on both sides. ", "Read pretty much the entire archive here\nwww.doctornerdlove.com\n\nSkip articles that don't apply but he covers a lot of ground on a lot of the topics you mention." ]

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