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[ "Changing to an earlier flight avoiding fees Hey there. I have a flight booked for 4pm however I want to change it to earlier in the morning or noon. Is there any excuse I can make up or any loophole i can perpetuate to change my flight and avoid the $300 fee?", "Changing to an earlier flight avoiding fees Hey there. I have a flight booked for 4pm however I want to change it to earlier in the morning or noon. Is there any excuse I can make up or any loophole i can perpetuate to change my flight and avoid the $300 fee?", "Changing to an earlier flight avoiding fees Hey there. I have a flight booked for 4pm however I want to change it to earlier in the morning or noon. Is there any excuse I can make up or any loophole i can perpetuate to change my flight and avoid the $300 fee?", "Changing to an earlier flight avoiding fees Hey there. I have a flight booked for 4pm however I want to change it to earlier in the morning or noon. Is there any excuse I can make up or any loophole i can perpetuate to change my flight and avoid the $300 fee?" ]

[ "Not really. However, if you aren't checking luggage, you may be able to go to the airport early and ask to be put on standby on an earlier flight. If seats are available at boarding time, the airline may give you a seat using your ticket without any charge (check your airline to be sure). You may have a crappy seat in the middle of a row, and you may not know if you will get a seat until the boarding is almost done. You can check online to see if the earlier flights to your destination are full or nearly full so that you can figure out if your chances of getting on an earlier flight are even possible or likely. Remember that this won't work if you check luggage. ", "A couple months ago, I arrived at the airport early and the company had a flight heading to the same location one hour earlier. After passing through security, I asked their customer service if I could move my seat onto the earlier flight if there was room available and there said yes. It made sense for them because moving me came at no cost to the airline and it gave them a chance to sell my ticket on a later flight.\n\nTL;DR Just ask", "Southwest is the only one that I know of that let's you change flights for no fees. You only have to pay the difference if the new flight price is more. ", "Some airlines, I know Delta, will do a same day change for $50 if you go to the airport and want to take the early flight. " ]

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[ "How to (cheaply and effectively) clean a mattress My douchecat, Bruce Wayne, dropped a giant deuce on my bare mattress. What is the most effective and cheap way to clean it? I can't afford a new one, but I can't sleep in my own bed. \n\n", "How to (cheaply and effectively) clean a mattress My douchecat, Bruce Wayne, dropped a giant deuce on my bare mattress. What is the most effective and cheap way to clean it? I can't afford a new one, but I can't sleep in my own bed. \n\n", "How to (cheaply and effectively) clean a mattress My douchecat, Bruce Wayne, dropped a giant deuce on my bare mattress. What is the most effective and cheap way to clean it? I can't afford a new one, but I can't sleep in my own bed. \n\n" ]

[ "[Here you go!](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/z3q3l/lpt_eliminate_cat_urine_odor_from_hardtoclean/)\n\nI just used this to get a lingering cat urine smell out of my couch (a smell no cleanser would touch). I'm using it on my mattress next. You will either need time for it to air dry or you will need to set up some fans to speed up the process.", "try to figure out if anyone you know has a steamer, failing that, see if anyone you know has a wet/dry (or \"shop\") vaccum. use the mixture from the thread jeth recommended (only enough to get the pad saturated, you don't want it to leak into the mattress), scrub vigorously and vaccum up. I guess you could also get a mattress cover (20 dollars or so) drop some baking soda into it, and cover your mattress for a while. \n\nor just flip it over?", "My cat did the same thing. I just flipped it. Then found out why I had flipped it in the first place; giant smear of chocolate (literally) that happened a little after Easter.... " ]

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[ "How to bag your groceries in Trader Joe's, Aldi or self check out lanes. This is assuming you are buying a lot of groceries.\n\nJust wondering how people bag their stuff in logical and efficient ways. Or any do's and dont's. Or bagging secrets (they may be put there). Maybe your personal bagging philosophy. Bagging politics? I don't know. Bring it on. \n\nIf I'm bagging my own things at Trader Joe's I just end up stacking and mashing things in the order they're scanned.", "How to bag your groceries in Trader Joe's, Aldi or self check out lanes. This is assuming you are buying a lot of groceries.\n\nJust wondering how people bag their stuff in logical and efficient ways. Or any do's and dont's. Or bagging secrets (they may be put there). Maybe your personal bagging philosophy. Bagging politics? I don't know. Bring it on. \n\nIf I'm bagging my own things at Trader Joe's I just end up stacking and mashing things in the order they're scanned.", "How to bag your groceries in Trader Joe's, Aldi or self check out lanes. This is assuming you are buying a lot of groceries.\n\nJust wondering how people bag their stuff in logical and efficient ways. Or any do's and dont's. Or bagging secrets (they may be put there). Maybe your personal bagging philosophy. Bagging politics? I don't know. Bring it on. \n\nIf I'm bagging my own things at Trader Joe's I just end up stacking and mashing things in the order they're scanned.", "How to bag your groceries in Trader Joe's, Aldi or self check out lanes. This is assuming you are buying a lot of groceries.\n\nJust wondering how people bag their stuff in logical and efficient ways. Or any do's and dont's. Or bagging secrets (they may be put there). Maybe your personal bagging philosophy. Bagging politics? I don't know. Bring it on. \n\nIf I'm bagging my own things at Trader Joe's I just end up stacking and mashing things in the order they're scanned." ]

[ "Always put the most solid objects at the bottom and the most delicate objects on top. Boxes, bags of pasta/rice, egg cartons, anything large and solid make great bases. Once you have the base established, start laying items in the bag in Tetris fashion. If you have a lot of glass, double-bag, especially with paper.", "I picked this up while I was a grocery bagger, bagging speed is all about order on the belt. If you put your groceries in order of how you're going to bag them its a lot faster than thinking how you're going to bag as more and more items pile up. Follow what others have said, cold with cold, square /boxes on bottom, fragile on top, etc. Once you learn to plan the belt order itll get easier and you won't even think about it. ", "I try to group my groceries while waiting in line for check-out so it is more efficient for me. I try to also leave veggies the last when using self-checkouts as it involves me touching the screen and weighing them.", "Square things, square things, square things - then perishables or frozen on top. \n\nThen new bag with frozen, frozen, frozen with perishables on top. \n\nTwo buck chuck back in the cart and you're good to go. " ]

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[ "So I've been networking and have made good connections with professionals in my field. Now what do I do with those connections? I've met and have the contact information for many good contacts in my field of interest. They all seem like good people and are willing to help me, but what exactly do I .....do....now?\n\nI can't just email them and ask for a job, that's awkward and too forward right? Many of them have told me to \"keep in contact\" with them in the future. Is that code for something?\n\nPlease help a clueless young professional.", "So I've been networking and have made good connections with professionals in my field. Now what do I do with those connections? I've met and have the contact information for many good contacts in my field of interest. They all seem like good people and are willing to help me, but what exactly do I .....do....now?\n\nI can't just email them and ask for a job, that's awkward and too forward right? Many of them have told me to \"keep in contact\" with them in the future. Is that code for something?\n\nPlease help a clueless young professional.", "So I've been networking and have made good connections with professionals in my field. Now what do I do with those connections? I've met and have the contact information for many good contacts in my field of interest. They all seem like good people and are willing to help me, but what exactly do I .....do....now?\n\nI can't just email them and ask for a job, that's awkward and too forward right? Many of them have told me to \"keep in contact\" with them in the future. Is that code for something?\n\nPlease help a clueless young professional.", "So I've been networking and have made good connections with professionals in my field. Now what do I do with those connections? I've met and have the contact information for many good contacts in my field of interest. They all seem like good people and are willing to help me, but what exactly do I .....do....now?\n\nI can't just email them and ask for a job, that's awkward and too forward right? Many of them have told me to \"keep in contact\" with them in the future. Is that code for something?\n\nPlease help a clueless young professional." ]

[ "Yes, asking for a job (directly) would be too forward. It puts them in an awkward position if they can't/don't want to help you out. However there's nothing wrong with letting them know that you are interested in working in their field and ask that they reach out to you if something comes up. Connect with them on LinkedIn, follow their company and wait for something to come up. Even if they aren't the ones hiring, if they can vouch for you as a decent human being, you will have a massive advantage over other candidates. Every contract i have landed in the last 10 years was through a referral and I have never turned away a candidate who was 'validated' by someone I trust.\n\nBest of luck!", "Now add to your CV that you are very well connected professional in the field of [something sexy]. Pray that somebody believes that and gives actual fuck.", "find a way to help *them.* just shoot them an interesting article on a hobby they have, or let them know their favorite singer is coming to town. little stuff like that to \"keep in touch.\" \n\nas you grow in the industry, you'll get to the point where you're recommending hires for them, or even positions for them to apply to, but that's down the road. ", "Blackmail them. Getting ahead is all about leverage. If you can weaponize something that someone told you about in confidence you'll be able to step on their hands as you climb the ladder.\n\nBut seriously, sometimes you do have to be forward. *Offer* your skills and demonstrate them. Don't ask for a job, tell them how you can be useful and once you have your foot in the door become uniquely useful." ]

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[ "Easy way to maintain normal sideburns for a guy Yeah I just want to know how I can keep my sideburns neat since I never really get haircuts and keep my hair mostly long ", "Easy way to maintain normal sideburns for a guy Yeah I just want to know how I can keep my sideburns neat since I never really get haircuts and keep my hair mostly long ", "Easy way to maintain normal sideburns for a guy Yeah I just want to know how I can keep my sideburns neat since I never really get haircuts and keep my hair mostly long " ]

[ "To begin our foray into the pursuit of normal sideburns, we first must consider the pursuit of *perfect* sideburns.\n\nFor the sake of argument, supposing Wolverine has the perfect sideburns, a view held by many red meat loving goddamn all Americans, you must be wolverine to the fullest. This means no cutting corners. You survive a nuclear blast, get cut a bunch and then cut a bunch then bulk and cut a bunch again and only then may you consider facial hair. \n\nBut you're a modern male living in the 21st century. Ain't nobody got time fuh that. You need to pursue normal sideburns. What sideburns can we say are truly normal? None at all. \n\nCongrats on your normal sideburns.", "I just use hair clippers (with the #1 attachment - 1/8 inch guide comb) to thin, then remove the attachment to cut off the bottom. Clippers are wider than trimmers, which is preferable in my opinion. Haircutting sets will come with several sizes of guide combs and can be found for around $20.00.", "Get a pair of trimmers, if you want to do it yourself. Locate the height that you want want to have them (say, mid-ear for this example) by matching it against a feature on your ear (mid is usually along the [Anterior Notch.](http://bbs51.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/outer-ear-diagram.jpg)) This will make it easier to keep them even on both sides. \n\nNow that you have your measurement, turn on the trimmers, keeping them as straight as possible, and touch it against the sideburns at that height, moving smoothly downwards to make the trim. After they've been cut, simply include the trimmed areas while you are shaving and you won't have to worry about them growing out for the most part." ]

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[ "how do get rid of gnats Where I live, (southern Ontario, Canada) every summer there are large groups of gnats in the sky, and they are of course, very irritating. Now that the weather is getting warmer, they are returning.\n\nIs there a way to deter them from my property, or in general?", "how do get rid of gnats Where I live, (southern Ontario, Canada) every summer there are large groups of gnats in the sky, and they are of course, very irritating. Now that the weather is getting warmer, they are returning.\n\nIs there a way to deter them from my property, or in general?" ]

[ "I live in South Georgia US so i feel your pain. My family and I always use Bounce dryer sheets. They seem to keep the insects away from ourselves. As far as keeping them off your property....I'm not quite sure. We put them in our hats or shirt collars. Give it a whirl and see how it goes. \n\nHere is a little backing behind it. http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/12/101215102308.htm", "Apple cider vinegar will attract them and then they drown in it. You can place bowls of it around your property. They also make [disks](http://www.hayneedle.com/product/mosquitodunksandgnatcombopack.cfm?source=pla&kwid=Pest%20Control%20Low&tid=HDR1209&adtype=pla&kw=&ci_src=17588969&ci_sku=HDR1209&gclid=CLur08yQ_L0CFROVfgodMUMAlQ) that deter them." ]

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[ "How do I calculate my hourly wages? I know how to get base wages but how do I know how much I'm supposed to lose to taxes? I feel like some of my recent checks have been lower than supposed to but not sure if due to taxes or if my company is stealing. I'm based in California USA", "How do I calculate my hourly wages? I know how to get base wages but how do I know how much I'm supposed to lose to taxes? I feel like some of my recent checks have been lower than supposed to but not sure if due to taxes or if my company is stealing. I'm based in California USA", "How do I calculate my hourly wages? I know how to get base wages but how do I know how much I'm supposed to lose to taxes? I feel like some of my recent checks have been lower than supposed to but not sure if due to taxes or if my company is stealing. I'm based in California USA", "How do I calculate my hourly wages? I know how to get base wages but how do I know how much I'm supposed to lose to taxes? I feel like some of my recent checks have been lower than supposed to but not sure if due to taxes or if my company is stealing. I'm based in California USA", "How do I calculate my hourly wages? I know how to get base wages but how do I know how much I'm supposed to lose to taxes? I feel like some of my recent checks have been lower than supposed to but not sure if due to taxes or if my company is stealing. I'm based in California USA" ]

[ "You should be able to request your pay stubs which would show how much is being taken out. Not sure if that's what you mean.", "It’s probably California taxes tbh. But your employer is supposed to provide pay stubs, especially if you request them.", "When you applied you filled out paperwork telling them how much to take put for taxes (I believe it is w4). You may have elected to take out more than you need to. The good news is that in that case you get it back for tax refund.", "When I work OT and make an average of $250 gross pay my net pay only comes out to about $90. They tax OT and Holiday pay at a different rate than my normal pay, atleast in my state they do.", "Okay so it looks like they gave you time and a half for your holiday which is cool. \n\nLooks like you make 16 an hour\n\nYou are in the lowest tax bracket deducting 14% will for sure cover your tax liabilities unless you have a bunch of monetary gain outside of working. \n\nPuts your take home around 13.75 an hour. Or 550 a week. Im guessing you are taking out 15% and pay nothing for health care or the like.." ]

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[ "What can I eat to gain weight? I'm 16 years old and I currently weigh around a 105lbs. I'm on vyvanse for ADD, and it kills my appetite. Any suggestions on what I should eat to gain some weight?", "What can I eat to gain weight? I'm 16 years old and I currently weigh around a 105lbs. I'm on vyvanse for ADD, and it kills my appetite. Any suggestions on what I should eat to gain some weight?", "What can I eat to gain weight? I'm 16 years old and I currently weigh around a 105lbs. I'm on vyvanse for ADD, and it kills my appetite. Any suggestions on what I should eat to gain some weight?", "What can I eat to gain weight? I'm 16 years old and I currently weigh around a 105lbs. I'm on vyvanse for ADD, and it kills my appetite. Any suggestions on what I should eat to gain some weight?", "What can I eat to gain weight? I'm 16 years old and I currently weigh around a 105lbs. I'm on vyvanse for ADD, and it kills my appetite. Any suggestions on what I should eat to gain some weight?", "What can I eat to gain weight? I'm 16 years old and I currently weigh around a 105lbs. I'm on vyvanse for ADD, and it kills my appetite. Any suggestions on what I should eat to gain some weight?", "What can I eat to gain weight? I'm 16 years old and I currently weigh around a 105lbs. I'm on vyvanse for ADD, and it kills my appetite. Any suggestions on what I should eat to gain some weight?", "What can I eat to gain weight? I'm 16 years old and I currently weigh around a 105lbs. I'm on vyvanse for ADD, and it kills my appetite. Any suggestions on what I should eat to gain some weight?", "What can I eat to gain weight? I'm 16 years old and I currently weigh around a 105lbs. I'm on vyvanse for ADD, and it kills my appetite. Any suggestions on what I should eat to gain some weight?", "What can I eat to gain weight? I'm 16 years old and I currently weigh around a 105lbs. I'm on vyvanse for ADD, and it kills my appetite. Any suggestions on what I should eat to gain some weight?" ]

[ "Protein will help you a lot. Yogurt, eggs, cottage cheese, chicken, they are all great sources of protein. ", "I know the feeling of ADD medication making every bite feel like a job, milkshakes will give you the easiest calories. Just throw some ice cream and milk in a blender.", "Drink those Ensure shakes. Protein shakes as well. And do weightlifting because you don't want to add on pure fat. ", "Instant oats.\nIt's cheap as hell, quick to digest and one of the best nutritional supplements you can eat.\nMix 100-150 grams with water in the morning and you basically have a full meal with the perfect combination of protein, carbs and healthy fats.", "I wanted to gain weight, I found a hamburger twice a day made me put on weight really quickly. a hamburger is a well rounded meal, protein, carbs, vegetables. and by hamburger i mean, bun, tomatoes, pickles, meat slab, onions, ketchup, mustard, jalapenos, cheese. you can get the hamburger to be a thousand calories easy :) so two a day will meat your basic calorie needs than eating other various snacks like chips and fries, and cereal for breakfast. \n\nso what i am suggesting eat more! \n\nhowever I will warn you, once you turn 25 you will find it hard to lose weight! I wanted to gain weight, now i am over weight and find it really hard to lose weight :( so i would suggest just looking at your self and be happy, knowing in a few years you will not be able to lose weight easily! ", "Anything with fat and/or sugar. Cheese, bacon, ice cream, McDonalds food, etc. But if you're trying to gain weight on healthy food, then stick to eggs, cheese, and protein foods. ", "If you don't have a peanut allergy; eat peanut butter by the spoonful. Two tablespoon's worth of PB is around 200 calories. ", "I had issues with gaining weight my whole life, i was 120 lbs at 20 years old and im 5'11 to give you an idea, yummyfulnoodles had it right the best way is going to be liquid calories, high fat high protein and high carbs, to do this you want a decent protein powder with 8-16 oz milk, mix in banana and peanut butter and if your up for it some greek yogurt, play around with other fruits to get it the way you want, i went from 120 to 170 in just about a year, but a decent shake should be about 800 calories, you should try to get an idea of you metabolic basal rate, and see how many calories a day you need to maintain and a good rule of thumb is add 500 calories to that\n", "Eat every meal as you normally do but add a big peanut butter and jelly sandwich right before you go to sleep and two hard-boiled eggs right when you get up in the morning. ", "Take all of the advice you see here and then eat it after 8pm or right before bed that is when your body slows down on its calorie consumption. A lot of overweight people are just that because they snack late at night " ]

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[ "How to change a flight without fees or in the cheapest way possible Airline fees these days are ridiculous. Something's come up and I need to extend my stay but I don't want to pay more than my tickets value just in fees. Does anyone know the best way to change the date of a flight so as not to have to sell organs on the black market? ", "How to change a flight without fees or in the cheapest way possible Airline fees these days are ridiculous. Something's come up and I need to extend my stay but I don't want to pay more than my tickets value just in fees. Does anyone know the best way to change the date of a flight so as not to have to sell organs on the black market? " ]

[ "There might be something in here http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/v82rz/iama_deltaklmair_france_reservation_agent_that/", "If the change fee exceeds the remaining value of the ticket, you are better off just buying a new one way ticket. In fact I don't think most airlines will let you use a current ticket for an exchange if the remaining value of the ticket does not cover the change fee.\n\nChange fees, are, unfortunately almost impossible to get around. Your best bet is to hope for some bad weather, and the airlines issuing a weather waiver for one of the cities you are flying from/to/through.\n\nA lot of people try to book with Southwest for this reason. Southwest does not charge change fees. If there is a fare difference, you are still responsible for that, but they don't charge you a $200 \"change fee\" on top of the fare difference.\n\n\n\n" ]

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[ "How to act like you like someone when you actually can't stand them? I'm really bad at this but for professional reasons, I would like to gain the ability to seem as if I like the people that I actually disdain.", "How to act like you like someone when you actually can't stand them? I'm really bad at this but for professional reasons, I would like to gain the ability to seem as if I like the people that I actually disdain.", "How to act like you like someone when you actually can't stand them? I'm really bad at this but for professional reasons, I would like to gain the ability to seem as if I like the people that I actually disdain.", "How to act like you like someone when you actually can't stand them? I'm really bad at this but for professional reasons, I would like to gain the ability to seem as if I like the people that I actually disdain." ]

[ "Hold your tongue. It's easy to say something snarky or sarcastic. Those quick witted insults come to mind so quickly when you don't like someone. Don't talk shit around other co-workers because they're most likely going to gossip with other people. \n\nEngage them in conversation about things you have in common, eventually you might realize that they're not that bad after all. \n\n", "Stay civil (pleases, thank yous, goodbyes and hellos) , act professional, if you are gonna chat shit/vent, talk to someone that is completely unrelated to them.\n\nIf you are stuck in a conversation with them, I find asking questions helps, get them talking without having to give back too much about yourself. Stay impersonal without being too cold. (Think hairdresser questions) Though limit the conversation like \"I'm sorry I have to go but I have xyz going on\" \n\nMake sure you have your facial expressions and body language in check too. I have a terrible poker face and when this guy in my old work talked, I would just be rolling my eyes and folding my arms (a lot of these are subconscious) but I didn't notice it until my friend told me... I just physically removed myself from his presence when things got too much. (pretend toilet break, making coffee etc)\n\n", "I usually kill them with kindness... just pretend you are an actor on stage, you are playing the part of a charming person with anyone you meet!\nYou don't have to see them outside of work, so a few pleasantries won't kill you. ", "Just be civil. You don't have to go out of your way to be nice to them, just don't be rude. Smiling helps a lot too. \n\nI have a client that I just can't stand. I mean, I really don't like this guy. Just thinking about him makes my skin crawl. But he pays really good, so it's all smiles and handshakes from me. I get whatever information I need from him as quickly as possible, and I leave. To him it looks like I'm really busy, but in reality I'm just trying to get away from him ASAP. I'm still getting jobs from him, so it doesn't appear that he's caught on. " ]

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[ "How to stop letting other's opinions (real or imagined) rule your life. I struggle with depression and anxiety and have found that a lot of the time, my darkest moments are brought on by my jumping to conclusions of other's intentions (ex: My co-workers went to dinner without inviting me; they must hate me). I've been working on this habit of \"mind reading\" but I think the underlying problem is in my dependency upon other's thoughts and opinions of me and of the world. How might one go about losing this dependency?", "How to stop letting other's opinions (real or imagined) rule your life. I struggle with depression and anxiety and have found that a lot of the time, my darkest moments are brought on by my jumping to conclusions of other's intentions (ex: My co-workers went to dinner without inviting me; they must hate me). I've been working on this habit of \"mind reading\" but I think the underlying problem is in my dependency upon other's thoughts and opinions of me and of the world. How might one go about losing this dependency?", "How to stop letting other's opinions (real or imagined) rule your life. I struggle with depression and anxiety and have found that a lot of the time, my darkest moments are brought on by my jumping to conclusions of other's intentions (ex: My co-workers went to dinner without inviting me; they must hate me). I've been working on this habit of \"mind reading\" but I think the underlying problem is in my dependency upon other's thoughts and opinions of me and of the world. How might one go about losing this dependency?", "How to stop letting other's opinions (real or imagined) rule your life. I struggle with depression and anxiety and have found that a lot of the time, my darkest moments are brought on by my jumping to conclusions of other's intentions (ex: My co-workers went to dinner without inviting me; they must hate me). I've been working on this habit of \"mind reading\" but I think the underlying problem is in my dependency upon other's thoughts and opinions of me and of the world. How might one go about losing this dependency?", "How to stop letting other's opinions (real or imagined) rule your life. I struggle with depression and anxiety and have found that a lot of the time, my darkest moments are brought on by my jumping to conclusions of other's intentions (ex: My co-workers went to dinner without inviting me; they must hate me). I've been working on this habit of \"mind reading\" but I think the underlying problem is in my dependency upon other's thoughts and opinions of me and of the world. How might one go about losing this dependency?", "How to stop letting other's opinions (real or imagined) rule your life. I struggle with depression and anxiety and have found that a lot of the time, my darkest moments are brought on by my jumping to conclusions of other's intentions (ex: My co-workers went to dinner without inviting me; they must hate me). I've been working on this habit of \"mind reading\" but I think the underlying problem is in my dependency upon other's thoughts and opinions of me and of the world. How might one go about losing this dependency?", "How to stop letting other's opinions (real or imagined) rule your life. I struggle with depression and anxiety and have found that a lot of the time, my darkest moments are brought on by my jumping to conclusions of other's intentions (ex: My co-workers went to dinner without inviting me; they must hate me). I've been working on this habit of \"mind reading\" but I think the underlying problem is in my dependency upon other's thoughts and opinions of me and of the world. How might one go about losing this dependency?", "How to stop letting other's opinions (real or imagined) rule your life. I struggle with depression and anxiety and have found that a lot of the time, my darkest moments are brought on by my jumping to conclusions of other's intentions (ex: My co-workers went to dinner without inviting me; they must hate me). I've been working on this habit of \"mind reading\" but I think the underlying problem is in my dependency upon other's thoughts and opinions of me and of the world. How might one go about losing this dependency?", "How to stop letting other's opinions (real or imagined) rule your life. I struggle with depression and anxiety and have found that a lot of the time, my darkest moments are brought on by my jumping to conclusions of other's intentions (ex: My co-workers went to dinner without inviting me; they must hate me). I've been working on this habit of \"mind reading\" but I think the underlying problem is in my dependency upon other's thoughts and opinions of me and of the world. How might one go about losing this dependency?", "How to stop letting other's opinions (real or imagined) rule your life. I struggle with depression and anxiety and have found that a lot of the time, my darkest moments are brought on by my jumping to conclusions of other's intentions (ex: My co-workers went to dinner without inviting me; they must hate me). I've been working on this habit of \"mind reading\" but I think the underlying problem is in my dependency upon other's thoughts and opinions of me and of the world. How might one go about losing this dependency?", "How to stop letting other's opinions (real or imagined) rule your life. I struggle with depression and anxiety and have found that a lot of the time, my darkest moments are brought on by my jumping to conclusions of other's intentions (ex: My co-workers went to dinner without inviting me; they must hate me). I've been working on this habit of \"mind reading\" but I think the underlying problem is in my dependency upon other's thoughts and opinions of me and of the world. How might one go about losing this dependency?" ]

[ "Most don't get the \"I don't give a crap what anyone thinks\" attitude until about 40.\nYour standards are too high. You're expecting others to make you happy. You won't change until you, yourself, makes you happy.", "I'm going to give you a take you may not have expected. If my advice helps you then fantastic, if not feel free to take someone else's advice. \n\nDo not try to lose this \"dependency\". \n\nYour dependency on other people's thoughts is directly tied to your social anxiety. If you try to ignore your feelings (ex - \"I don't care what anybody thinks, I didn't want to go anyways\"), you risk becoming cold, aloof and even less connected with people which could actually increase your social anxiety.\n\nInstead, use your anxiety to start fixing things in your life. \n\nTake your habit of \"mind reading\" and use it to create action tasks. \n\nIf you feel your friends are ignoring you by not inviting you to dinner, the solution is not to suppress your thoughts but rather for you to start inviting your friends to dinner. Maybe not everyone at first, maybe just one person. The point is that you need to start somewhere to begin repairing or building bridges. \n\nIf you want to get invited to your friends' parties, you need to be someone that your friends would want to invite. And to be someone that they would want to invite, you need to be more than just a \"facebook friend\" in their mind.\n\nIt is good not to care too much what everyone thinks, but the people you care about (like friends for instance) should be people who also care about you. \n\nIf this feels really difficult, you need to keep in mind the fact that social rapport does not magically appear, it is built over time. \n\nTLDR Don't suppress your instincts, use them to help you grow as a person.", "Step one: Hear or otherwise become aware of the opinion\n\nStep two: Ask yourself if the person allegedly holding the opinion can/does have significant impact on your life or well being\n\nStep 3a: If the answer to Step 2 was yes, make appropriate life adjustments\n\nStep 3b: If the answer to Step 2 was no, immediately disregard the opinion and get on with your life", "be the \"cool dude\" that has a lot of interesting hobbies/interests. Smile and be cheerful around others. You'll have to fake it at first, but then it will become natural for ya. try to relax and have fun.", "I experience the same feeling. Makes me sad sometimes being in such a situation. Have a feeling that every one is happy and I'm alone. But I've learnt to happy being by myself. ", "You need enough things higher on your priority list than what others' think. Family, friends, gf... I recommend responsibilities and hobbies with places and dates so you have more important things to occupy your mind.\n\nI should also mention that other people don't care about you, they're only thinking about themselves. Next time so you look at a bunch of group photos -- What are you looking at? How _you_ look in each of them. That's everybody!", "Who cares about opinions? Are they important to you? If no, move on. You can't see people's thinking. They may think about other, not you. They don't know you. You don't know them. Remember, you are NOT God. You are free to rule yourself. You can do whatever you want. People will notice you and they like what you do. They will ask you for hanging out. ", "Realize that the great majority of people have very little real wisdom. Helps you to care less about their judgements of you.", "I had to hit my 50's before I stopped caring what others think. Twelve years ago I excitedly told someone I didn't know very well that I had just landed a job in a management position. For some reason the person asked, \"have you ever managed before?\" Instead of answering,\n well yeah\" I have over a decade of experience, or something similar, (to this day I am not sure what the right answer would have been) I just meekly said yes and went about my day, but it ate at me. For some reason her question hit my insecurity button and sent it into overdrive. I went out and had my long hair cut off, certain I would not be taken seriously with long blonde hair (remember Working Girl when Tess has her friend cut off her hair?). I also went into the job with no confidence and eventually got fired. The moral here is remind yourself of your assets, speak up for yourself, it doesn't necessarily make you a mean person and find ways to boost your own self esteem.", "Don't let other people make you feel sad. Like in the example if your co- workers don't invite you for lunch and if you've done nothing for them to hate you then you should think like it's their loss that they don't get to hangout with you. Don't self pity thinking they hate you. Think the other way around. ", "There is a great book called [\"pulling your own strings\"](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Pulling-Your-Strings-Wayne-Dyer/dp/0099454408) by Dr Wayne Dyer. I had exactly the same problem as you and this book really helped me to control it. Obviously I still have to odd \"relapse\" but on the whole I am a lot happier because of it! \n\nIts a bit of a tough love book but if you read it slowly, one chapter or so a day and really mull over the advice it really does help you re-frame situations/ your perception of the situation." ]

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[ "How do I train my body to fall asleep in airplanes, cars, etc.? I see some people who just get on the airplane, put on their seatbelt, lean their head back, and sleep until the plane lands. I'm lucky to get an hour of sleep with my head on the tray table after we are safely at altitude - even if I'm exhausted.\n\nPart of this is being able to sleep while sitting up rather than leaning forward. Another part is being able to sleep on an airplane in general. Any suggestions?", "How do I train my body to fall asleep in airplanes, cars, etc.? I see some people who just get on the airplane, put on their seatbelt, lean their head back, and sleep until the plane lands. I'm lucky to get an hour of sleep with my head on the tray table after we are safely at altitude - even if I'm exhausted.\n\nPart of this is being able to sleep while sitting up rather than leaning forward. Another part is being able to sleep on an airplane in general. Any suggestions?", "How do I train my body to fall asleep in airplanes, cars, etc.? I see some people who just get on the airplane, put on their seatbelt, lean their head back, and sleep until the plane lands. I'm lucky to get an hour of sleep with my head on the tray table after we are safely at altitude - even if I'm exhausted.\n\nPart of this is being able to sleep while sitting up rather than leaning forward. Another part is being able to sleep on an airplane in general. Any suggestions?", "How do I train my body to fall asleep in airplanes, cars, etc.? I see some people who just get on the airplane, put on their seatbelt, lean their head back, and sleep until the plane lands. I'm lucky to get an hour of sleep with my head on the tray table after we are safely at altitude - even if I'm exhausted.\n\nPart of this is being able to sleep while sitting up rather than leaning forward. Another part is being able to sleep on an airplane in general. Any suggestions?", "How do I train my body to fall asleep in airplanes, cars, etc.? I see some people who just get on the airplane, put on their seatbelt, lean their head back, and sleep until the plane lands. I'm lucky to get an hour of sleep with my head on the tray table after we are safely at altitude - even if I'm exhausted.\n\nPart of this is being able to sleep while sitting up rather than leaning forward. Another part is being able to sleep on an airplane in general. Any suggestions?", "How do I train my body to fall asleep in airplanes, cars, etc.? I see some people who just get on the airplane, put on their seatbelt, lean their head back, and sleep until the plane lands. I'm lucky to get an hour of sleep with my head on the tray table after we are safely at altitude - even if I'm exhausted.\n\nPart of this is being able to sleep while sitting up rather than leaning forward. Another part is being able to sleep on an airplane in general. Any suggestions?", "How do I train my body to fall asleep in airplanes, cars, etc.? I see some people who just get on the airplane, put on their seatbelt, lean their head back, and sleep until the plane lands. I'm lucky to get an hour of sleep with my head on the tray table after we are safely at altitude - even if I'm exhausted.\n\nPart of this is being able to sleep while sitting up rather than leaning forward. Another part is being able to sleep on an airplane in general. Any suggestions?", "How do I train my body to fall asleep in airplanes, cars, etc.? I see some people who just get on the airplane, put on their seatbelt, lean their head back, and sleep until the plane lands. I'm lucky to get an hour of sleep with my head on the tray table after we are safely at altitude - even if I'm exhausted.\n\nPart of this is being able to sleep while sitting up rather than leaning forward. Another part is being able to sleep on an airplane in general. Any suggestions?" ]

[ "I personally get really sleepy when hungover, so when you see me boarding a plane 9/10 I'm hungover or actively drunk. So, you could try borderline alcoholism....", "I did this by accident by downloading an app for my phone full of white noise sounds. My favourite ended up being the interior of a car. So for months I fell asleep every night to the sound of being inside of a car driving down the highway. I then went somewhere with a friend on the highway, and about 15 minutes into the trip found myself incredibly drowsy and sleepy. So I guess that's one way of doing it.", "When I've flown I get a window seat, lean my head on the side of the plane, and hope that I don't fall over onto a fellow human.", "As to how to not fall over, I cannot help you. Every seat is different, so that really screws up most systems. Often in the car I will pull on my seat belt until it locks, then draw it tight over my shoulder. A pillow stuffed between me and the belt can provide a place to slump my head.\n\nAs to the actual GETTING to sleep, my trick is to listen to the engine. The more I listen to it's hum, the sleepier I get until all I know is the engine's purr. In cars and trucks this is easy because they are low tones and really do lull one to sleep. In planes, it's not quite so nice, but still provides something to focus on.\n\nA final trick is that sometimes in noisy environments(airports for example), some headphones with some light music playing can cover up other noises.", "Oddly, I found wearing a hoodie with the hood up helps, something about the warmness around my head, or maybe feeling more wrapped up and secure", "I usually dont sleep the night before and always book early morning flights. Im also on what is basically an inverted sleep schedule so staying up isnt a big deal for me.\n\nEven when I am on a regular sleep schedule, I can sleep on the plane. Some airlines have an adjustable headrest pad that you can angle for head support.\n\nI always wear a hoodie on the plane, even during summer, because i like to be warm when I sleep. IK then pull my cycling cap over my eyes and allow my head to naturally fall back. More times than not I my IPOD provides white noise.", "I spent a lot of time on busses, trains, planes and in cars my freshmen year in college bc I went to school 4 hours away from home and because I was involved in college athletics and clubs that required me to be away literally every weekend during both semesters. I bought a hammock and trained myself to fall asleep with motion. Also learned to fall asleep sitting up. Try it while studying or on the couch. Try napping. Anything to ease your body into it. The biggest part is the sitting up bc it's so unnatural. Also listen to music with no words. It blocks out other distractions without distracting you as well \n\nTeach your body to be uncomfortable and the rest will come. Pun intended. ", "Find some m" ]

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[ "what is something you can do for someone when they lose a loved one, but you're far away? Something that would genuinely help them, but maybe other people aren't doing. Two of my favorite teachers were married, and one of them just died unexpectedly shortly after their mutual retirement. Really devastating, because they were clearly so excited to spend their retirement together.\n\nI now live in a different country. Normally I would go over with food and clean his house for him, but I can't. Any good ideas for how I might be able to help him out?", "what is something you can do for someone when they lose a loved one, but you're far away? Something that would genuinely help them, but maybe other people aren't doing. Two of my favorite teachers were married, and one of them just died unexpectedly shortly after their mutual retirement. Really devastating, because they were clearly so excited to spend their retirement together.\n\nI now live in a different country. Normally I would go over with food and clean his house for him, but I can't. Any good ideas for how I might be able to help him out?", "what is something you can do for someone when they lose a loved one, but you're far away? Something that would genuinely help them, but maybe other people aren't doing. Two of my favorite teachers were married, and one of them just died unexpectedly shortly after their mutual retirement. Really devastating, because they were clearly so excited to spend their retirement together.\n\nI now live in a different country. Normally I would go over with food and clean his house for him, but I can't. Any good ideas for how I might be able to help him out?", "what is something you can do for someone when they lose a loved one, but you're far away? Something that would genuinely help them, but maybe other people aren't doing. Two of my favorite teachers were married, and one of them just died unexpectedly shortly after their mutual retirement. Really devastating, because they were clearly so excited to spend their retirement together.\n\nI now live in a different country. Normally I would go over with food and clean his house for him, but I can't. Any good ideas for how I might be able to help him out?", "what is something you can do for someone when they lose a loved one, but you're far away? Something that would genuinely help them, but maybe other people aren't doing. Two of my favorite teachers were married, and one of them just died unexpectedly shortly after their mutual retirement. Really devastating, because they were clearly so excited to spend their retirement together.\n\nI now live in a different country. Normally I would go over with food and clean his house for him, but I can't. Any good ideas for how I might be able to help him out?", "what is something you can do for someone when they lose a loved one, but you're far away? Something that would genuinely help them, but maybe other people aren't doing. Two of my favorite teachers were married, and one of them just died unexpectedly shortly after their mutual retirement. Really devastating, because they were clearly so excited to spend their retirement together.\n\nI now live in a different country. Normally I would go over with food and clean his house for him, but I can't. Any good ideas for how I might be able to help him out?" ]

[ "Send them a gift card for take out food. The last thing they want to think about is cooking and food is comforting. Flowers are pretty but useless.", "Maybe it you know them well enough to know what they may need done. Like I had a bad experience once and came home to find someone had hired a mowing company for me. I had too much shit going on to worry about my overgrown lawn and arriving home to see it done meant the world to me.", "Gift cards for restaurants were really useful after my mom died a few months ago. We'd feel obligated to use them and it got us out of the house and away from things for a couple hours.", "Send a letter or a card rather via snail mail, a few (short) sentences will do a lot of good, the effort will be appreciated . \n\nIn my experience, less is more when dealing with people grieving, space is very important. ", "Check in on them every month. Just a quick email or text asking how they are. There is lots of energy coming at you the first two weeks, and then nothing. I still adore the people who did that for me after my mom passed. ", "Send an email.\n\nI lost my brother a year ago, I got plenty of 'sympathies' and whatnot, but most people don't seem to know how to deal with death and choose rather to ignore it. With people you don't know so well, that's fine, but when people you've known for years just pretend like it didn't happen, that's just fucking lame.\n\nWas part of a lost siblings support group, that kind of shit happens way more than I thought.\n\nA simple email letting the grievee know you're thinking of them means a lot.\n\n" ]

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[ "How to keep your body from shaking during a conflict from the adrenaline. I never had this problem growing up. But after i put a lid on my emotions and stopped letting myself get worked up into arguments which usually resulted in me fighting whoever it was, I've noticed in the recent years that whenever i do get angry or loud with someone i shake. And don't get me wrong, its not because I'm scared or nervous or anything. It's just that the adrenaline surge is so high that my body shakes. It's an almost euphoric feeling as well since i got really zen after highschool and try to avoid conflict and its such a strong feeling. \n\nBut my question is, how do i keep this from happening? My entire demeanor is calm and then i just go shaky. How do i keep that calm centeredness while in a conflict?", "How to keep your body from shaking during a conflict from the adrenaline. I never had this problem growing up. But after i put a lid on my emotions and stopped letting myself get worked up into arguments which usually resulted in me fighting whoever it was, I've noticed in the recent years that whenever i do get angry or loud with someone i shake. And don't get me wrong, its not because I'm scared or nervous or anything. It's just that the adrenaline surge is so high that my body shakes. It's an almost euphoric feeling as well since i got really zen after highschool and try to avoid conflict and its such a strong feeling. \n\nBut my question is, how do i keep this from happening? My entire demeanor is calm and then i just go shaky. How do i keep that calm centeredness while in a conflict?" ]

[ "get used to adrenaline rushes.. after a while, you won't get that feeling for quite a while after the incident. rock climbing, base jumping, racing, etc.. those usually involve situations where the cloudiness of adrenaline would screw you royally, and you will automatically develop a mechanism to not have that feeling until the event is over...", "I don't think it's possible. It's your body releasing the excess adrenaline that would normally be used during fight or flight. " ]

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[ "Help with self-love and self-approval I constantly struggle with the idea that loving myself and being approving of myself is narcissistic and egotistical in nature. It prevents me from engaging in healthy, positive thoughts and activities. I often rely on others for approval, that way I don't feel like I'm being selfish or egotistical. I search for approval in strange ways. I want to love myself and do things that make me happy without being overly concerned and insecure about how it makes me \"look\" and how it makes me feel about myself. Any books, posts, or advice?\n\nDown votes, really?", "Help with self-love and self-approval I constantly struggle with the idea that loving myself and being approving of myself is narcissistic and egotistical in nature. It prevents me from engaging in healthy, positive thoughts and activities. I often rely on others for approval, that way I don't feel like I'm being selfish or egotistical. I search for approval in strange ways. I want to love myself and do things that make me happy without being overly concerned and insecure about how it makes me \"look\" and how it makes me feel about myself. Any books, posts, or advice?\n\nDown votes, really?", "Help with self-love and self-approval I constantly struggle with the idea that loving myself and being approving of myself is narcissistic and egotistical in nature. It prevents me from engaging in healthy, positive thoughts and activities. I often rely on others for approval, that way I don't feel like I'm being selfish or egotistical. I search for approval in strange ways. I want to love myself and do things that make me happy without being overly concerned and insecure about how it makes me \"look\" and how it makes me feel about myself. Any books, posts, or advice?\n\nDown votes, really?" ]

[ "Tiny goals: Watch your thoughts. If you can see them and feel them do they come from you?\n\nFind out who you are: We always want external validation. We are human and need other human contact. Are you human? Can you validate yourself?\n\nExercise to exorcise: Feel desperate and lost? 50 squats. Anxious and sad? 50 pushups. Cannot trust yourself or others, world against you? Go run two miles. Sweat equity builds the mind and heart portfolio.\n\nYou may never find out, you may never love yourself or accept yourself. Keep going. Self worth and Self Approval may very well be overrated or impossible but you can conquer the part of your mind that doubts. Prove yourself wrong and you might do something right.\n\nFear overpowers those who succumb to self doubt. Breathe In. Breathe Out. You are alive. No Doubt.\n\nP.S. If all else fails, do good things for other people with no expectation of result. It can be very freeing.", "Question yourself. What do you think is important in being a good human being? Should you be honest, not litter, help others or something else? Once you've figured them out, do them. It will give you perspective, and purpose . Look inside to see where you stand. You no longer have to rely on other people's judgements to know how your doing", "Try the book: \"No more mr. nice guy\". It explains where your feelings come from and how to look at them differently.\nIt helped me a lot with self approval and getting rid of toxic shame." ]

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[ "How to be less jealous of other people As a teenager today with access to social media I find it so easy to become jealous of what my friends are doing. If they are at a party and I can see them having a good time it becomes crippling to the extent that I'm sweating, crying and cannot do anything other than refresh my phone. I have found myself in tears over seeing and hearing about events I haven't been invited to.\n\nWhether it is ex girlfriends or current friends I have always found myself a jealous person\n\nIs it possible to become less jealous or even just more content with what I am doing myself so I do not need to panic about others \n\nThanks very much for any help 😊\n\n", "How to be less jealous of other people As a teenager today with access to social media I find it so easy to become jealous of what my friends are doing. If they are at a party and I can see them having a good time it becomes crippling to the extent that I'm sweating, crying and cannot do anything other than refresh my phone. I have found myself in tears over seeing and hearing about events I haven't been invited to.\n\nWhether it is ex girlfriends or current friends I have always found myself a jealous person\n\nIs it possible to become less jealous or even just more content with what I am doing myself so I do not need to panic about others \n\nThanks very much for any help 😊\n\n", "How to be less jealous of other people As a teenager today with access to social media I find it so easy to become jealous of what my friends are doing. If they are at a party and I can see them having a good time it becomes crippling to the extent that I'm sweating, crying and cannot do anything other than refresh my phone. I have found myself in tears over seeing and hearing about events I haven't been invited to.\n\nWhether it is ex girlfriends or current friends I have always found myself a jealous person\n\nIs it possible to become less jealous or even just more content with what I am doing myself so I do not need to panic about others \n\nThanks very much for any help 😊\n\n", "How to be less jealous of other people As a teenager today with access to social media I find it so easy to become jealous of what my friends are doing. If they are at a party and I can see them having a good time it becomes crippling to the extent that I'm sweating, crying and cannot do anything other than refresh my phone. I have found myself in tears over seeing and hearing about events I haven't been invited to.\n\nWhether it is ex girlfriends or current friends I have always found myself a jealous person\n\nIs it possible to become less jealous or even just more content with what I am doing myself so I do not need to panic about others \n\nThanks very much for any help 😊\n\n", "How to be less jealous of other people As a teenager today with access to social media I find it so easy to become jealous of what my friends are doing. If they are at a party and I can see them having a good time it becomes crippling to the extent that I'm sweating, crying and cannot do anything other than refresh my phone. I have found myself in tears over seeing and hearing about events I haven't been invited to.\n\nWhether it is ex girlfriends or current friends I have always found myself a jealous person\n\nIs it possible to become less jealous or even just more content with what I am doing myself so I do not need to panic about others \n\nThanks very much for any help 😊\n\n", "How to be less jealous of other people As a teenager today with access to social media I find it so easy to become jealous of what my friends are doing. If they are at a party and I can see them having a good time it becomes crippling to the extent that I'm sweating, crying and cannot do anything other than refresh my phone. I have found myself in tears over seeing and hearing about events I haven't been invited to.\n\nWhether it is ex girlfriends or current friends I have always found myself a jealous person\n\nIs it possible to become less jealous or even just more content with what I am doing myself so I do not need to panic about others \n\nThanks very much for any help 😊\n\n" ]

[ "I guess the answer is very different for each individual.\n\nThe only real answer is the one that would work for you.\n\nI would be happy to see if I can coax a useful answer out of your particular situation. \n. \nLet's start with the assumption that it may not necessarily be jealousy - instead I would say that it is that you may not feel like you are having as much fun as they are... meaning that you arenot unhappy or angry for those people but, rather, upset that you personally are not currently acheiving that same level of excitement, etc.... does this sound accurate?", "Like others have said, Social media is essentially everyone's highlight reel. I've ran into a similar problem, well I felt as if I wasn't doing nearly as much cool stuff as others. My solution was to stop checking it. With Instagram's new algorithm, it really wasn't too difficult to stop checking personally haha. I still open it every few days, but I find myself not missing out on much. Finding something you can appreciate and enjoy yourself was the biggest answer for me. ", "I had the same experience, i always felt like i was left out. In that time, which is now 2 years in the past i didnt go out with friends much so i scanned social media to make up for my missed opportunities, but it cant replace the real experience on a nice evening hanging out and chatting with friends and doing stupid things. I moved to live in a commune with lots of young people where i was forced to hang out with others and i was lucky enough that they had a similar mindset and we could get along better.\n\nDepending on what you do or if you have something to do in the evening which keeps you active is really essential, you will start having no time to worry about what others do that makes you jealous. You might just want to talk to them about it in person to know what they did and why so you can either learn from their experience or experience similar / the same things.\n\nIf you start beeing happy yourself you will be happy for others way easier. Be more confident in yourself, you might be unable to do something now, but there is no reason you cant learn to do that same thing or be awesome. \nI read about most of that in a really usefull book and talked a lot to other people about this stuff, and even the most popular guys struggle for attention, and worry if they are doing everything good, they just might not show it to everyone. They are most of the times confident enough that they will be able to handle every situation they come in and that is part of what makes them able to go all out.\n\nNot sure if everything is in order or makes sense, just wrote it down as it came to my mind, wrote this answer after reading what rage-a-saurus wrote. And your answers to him were great reflections whatever you want to achieve, im sure youll be able to do that!\n\nHope it might help. Be Happy - without reason.", "Half of it is realizing that your friends are flaunting what they are doing with the intention of making other people jealous, mostly to cover for their own insecurity and emptiness. \n\nIt's tough as a teen because your ideas are big and you're just starting to deal with adult issues, but your life experiences are small so you lack the context to put things into perspective. That's why you see and experience so much drama. No perspective or context to make little thing seem like little things and not big things.\n\nYou will only find happiness within yourself. Trying to live or experience others vicariously through social media is just a recipe for disappointment. ", "First of all, try and check your phone a less often. And realize that social media is just everyone's highlight reel. It never shows the behind the scenes stuff. But above all, focus on making things that are important to you happen in your own life. That will truly make you happy, and other people's business with slowly fade away, because you have your own things going on that you care about :)", "Dude. Get rid of your fucking phone if you are refreshing it all the time.\n\nGet your own life and stop being a moon-pie. Create your own events and have a good time with your self. Learn a fucking skill like guitar or listening to music or reading or meeting new people. Grow the hell up. Stop being so co-dependent on your friend-acquaintances.\n\nStop looking for external validation and concentrate on generating your own internal happiness. " ]

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[ "How to get over pet peeves I was at the movies today and someone behind me was eating some God-awful crunchy food the entire movie. It almost ruined the movie for me. In moments like that, how do you just get over little things that bother you?", "How to get over pet peeves I was at the movies today and someone behind me was eating some God-awful crunchy food the entire movie. It almost ruined the movie for me. In moments like that, how do you just get over little things that bother you?", "How to get over pet peeves I was at the movies today and someone behind me was eating some God-awful crunchy food the entire movie. It almost ruined the movie for me. In moments like that, how do you just get over little things that bother you?" ]

[ "I try to remember that the things that get under my skin are completely arbitrary and idiosyncratic. There's no particular reason why one pet peeve bothers me but not someone else, or some behavior bothers someone else but not me. Doesn't always work - I mean, we all have pet peeves - but I try to keep perspective. That being said, the feeling of anger towards certain sounds, particularly mouth/chewing noises like you mentioned have been given the name misophonia and are increasingly seen as a brain-based phenomenon in which certain noises trigger neurotransmitters and elicit such strong reactions.", "Stoic philosophy works for me. \n\n The only thing that you can control in an irritating situation is how you react to, and interpret, that situation. A great deal of unpleasantness in life is self-inflicted by our illogical desire to be in situations other than what we presently find ourselves in.\nYou can silence the unruly, passionate self through time and mental discipline. People smacking their lips can't hurt you and by Jove you can overcome this. I believe in you.", "People's pet peeves are one of my pet peeves. How does one get over that?\n\n\"Oh my God, I can't stand the sound of people chewing.\"\n\nThen what the fuck are you doing in a restaurant, weirdo?" ]

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[ "How to remove a broken key from a lock Managed to snap my key in half in my lock - need to take it out (obviously). I've tried putting oil down it, but to not avail. Has anyone got any better ideas?\n\nPicture: http://imgur.com/XxaJLoO\n\nUpdate: used long nosed pliers like many here suggested, and fiddled with it continuously all day - finally came out in the end. Thanks for all of your help guys!", "How to remove a broken key from a lock Managed to snap my key in half in my lock - need to take it out (obviously). I've tried putting oil down it, but to not avail. Has anyone got any better ideas?\n\nPicture: http://imgur.com/XxaJLoO\n\nUpdate: used long nosed pliers like many here suggested, and fiddled with it continuously all day - finally came out in the end. Thanks for all of your help guys!", "How to remove a broken key from a lock Managed to snap my key in half in my lock - need to take it out (obviously). I've tried putting oil down it, but to not avail. Has anyone got any better ideas?\n\nPicture: http://imgur.com/XxaJLoO\n\nUpdate: used long nosed pliers like many here suggested, and fiddled with it continuously all day - finally came out in the end. Thanks for all of your help guys!", "How to remove a broken key from a lock Managed to snap my key in half in my lock - need to take it out (obviously). I've tried putting oil down it, but to not avail. Has anyone got any better ideas?\n\nPicture: http://imgur.com/XxaJLoO\n\nUpdate: used long nosed pliers like many here suggested, and fiddled with it continuously all day - finally came out in the end. Thanks for all of your help guys!", "How to remove a broken key from a lock Managed to snap my key in half in my lock - need to take it out (obviously). I've tried putting oil down it, but to not avail. Has anyone got any better ideas?\n\nPicture: http://imgur.com/XxaJLoO\n\nUpdate: used long nosed pliers like many here suggested, and fiddled with it continuously all day - finally came out in the end. Thanks for all of your help guys!", "How to remove a broken key from a lock Managed to snap my key in half in my lock - need to take it out (obviously). I've tried putting oil down it, but to not avail. Has anyone got any better ideas?\n\nPicture: http://imgur.com/XxaJLoO\n\nUpdate: used long nosed pliers like many here suggested, and fiddled with it continuously all day - finally came out in the end. Thanks for all of your help guys!", "How to remove a broken key from a lock Managed to snap my key in half in my lock - need to take it out (obviously). I've tried putting oil down it, but to not avail. Has anyone got any better ideas?\n\nPicture: http://imgur.com/XxaJLoO\n\nUpdate: used long nosed pliers like many here suggested, and fiddled with it continuously all day - finally came out in the end. Thanks for all of your help guys!" ]

[ "Just use pliers or some other gripping implement in place of the snapped-off part of the key. Turn and pull.", "Cut the tip off a toothpick so its a blunt end. Put superglue on the end and stick it to the key end. Once dried, depending on how stuck it is you should be able to pull it out or at least far enough to use pliers. JB weld and a metal coat hanger may also work\n\n", "What kind of lock is that? What part of it is the key?\n\nThe part that looks like a key, silver metal, sticks out far enough to grab. The part that is down kind of far, black and shiny, doesn't look like part of a key. Please explain, and we must know what kind of lock it is.", "Next time use vise grips, not pliers. You don't have to maintain squeezing force with vise grips, they lock on for you. Every home should have vise grips.", "Needle nosed vise grips are up there with money and explosives for being one of the most versatile things in existence", "Locksmith here , do not put anything inside of the lock .If the key is stuck , find the position in which you entered the key into the lock by turning clockwise or counter clockwise and pull out with pliers or the like.do not force the key out . Once it is alighned to the neutral position it should be easy to remove.", "/r/lockpicking might be able to help you, but I know that there's a tool called a key extractor you could buy that'll help pull that out, they're sold in most lockpicking kits" ]

[ 10, 6, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to stop slouching in your chair I know I shouldn't, but while sitting at work all day I always end up slouching. Any tips to maintain correct posture?", "How to stop slouching in your chair I know I shouldn't, but while sitting at work all day I always end up slouching. Any tips to maintain correct posture?", "How to stop slouching in your chair I know I shouldn't, but while sitting at work all day I always end up slouching. Any tips to maintain correct posture?", "How to stop slouching in your chair I know I shouldn't, but while sitting at work all day I always end up slouching. Any tips to maintain correct posture?", "How to stop slouching in your chair I know I shouldn't, but while sitting at work all day I always end up slouching. Any tips to maintain correct posture?", "How to stop slouching in your chair I know I shouldn't, but while sitting at work all day I always end up slouching. Any tips to maintain correct posture?", "How to stop slouching in your chair I know I shouldn't, but while sitting at work all day I always end up slouching. Any tips to maintain correct posture?" ]

[ "Set some sort of timer on your computer to give you some kind of notification every 20 minutes or so. When it goes off, scoot your ass as far back in the seat as you can and regain proper posture. Eventually, you'll just start sitting that way without having to think about it.", "What they taught us was to move our shoulder blades together, try it and you'll see the impact it has on your posture.", "Put a tennis ball between the middle back and the office chair on each side of the spine. I don't do it all day, but this helps for shorter periods of time.", "If you're at a desk, scoot your chair in as close as you can - the desk edge and the chair back will force you to sit upright.\n\nAs you start slouching, your stomach will push you from the desk. \n\nIf this is affecting your life in a dramatic way, install one of those trip wire sensors so as soon as your chair passes a certain point, it makes a noise. When you hear the noise, you'll know you're slouching.\n\nMore simply, keep your keyboard really far away so you have to stretch your arms to work. As you start rolling back due to your big belly, you'll not be able to reach the keyboard. \n\nIf this proves too much of an encumbrance, do the opposite. Staple your shirt sleeves (around the bicep) to the chest portion, effectively locking your arms to your side so that you only have a range of motion from the elbow down. Position the keyboard so that if you start moving away, you can't reach it. \n\nThe whole premise is that there is a constant reminder that your chair and your desk are moving away from each other due to your slouching. \n\nAlternatively, you could just bolt your chair to the floor, thus ensuring that you can only use your desk if you maintain correct posture.", "I use a footrest.\n\nI notice my biggest problem when sitting is that over time I tend to slowly 'slide' in a slouching position, however using a footrest prevents this for me. ", "I used to have the same problem. I forced myself to sit up all the time and eventually the pain from sitting with good posture went away", "I think about how you develop bone spurs over time with bad posture, that's enough to make me want to avoid them lol" ]

[ 7, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to break out of routine I feel like I've been following the same daily routine for a while now which has definitely hindered myself as a person. I'd love to be more spontaneous. It also seems like any time something goes to hinder what I have planned I get annoyed and will do anything I can to try and fulfill that activity, even if I know that I could just do that activity tomorrow and it wouldn't make a difference. How do I allow myself to be care-free in how my days go and how can I increase my spontaneity?", "How to break out of routine I feel like I've been following the same daily routine for a while now which has definitely hindered myself as a person. I'd love to be more spontaneous. It also seems like any time something goes to hinder what I have planned I get annoyed and will do anything I can to try and fulfill that activity, even if I know that I could just do that activity tomorrow and it wouldn't make a difference. How do I allow myself to be care-free in how my days go and how can I increase my spontaneity?", "How to break out of routine I feel like I've been following the same daily routine for a while now which has definitely hindered myself as a person. I'd love to be more spontaneous. It also seems like any time something goes to hinder what I have planned I get annoyed and will do anything I can to try and fulfill that activity, even if I know that I could just do that activity tomorrow and it wouldn't make a difference. How do I allow myself to be care-free in how my days go and how can I increase my spontaneity?" ]

[ "maybe leave two hours every other day a day not scheduled. leave that time block blank and see what happends. take some time for you.", "This is a little too vague because there isn't actually anything wrong with you. Some people like the comfort of punctuality, and everyone has quirks that annoy them.", "Stepping out of your comfort zone would be a start. I'm currently on my third month after breaking up with my ex-girlfriend so I was actually forced to break out of my routine to avoid any lingering memories about her. Be creative and think of different ways to live your life differently; take a different route home, start volunteering on weekends, do at least **one** different thing per day, or just browse the internet for the trillion ways to live your life. Fortunately, Reddit has an abundant sources within its subreddits." ]

[ 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to economically seal gaps in old windows? I rent a 1920s home with original windows and they have large gaps, about half an inch, between the sliding part of the window and the stationary part. Aside from letting hot or cold air in when undesired, bugs and sometimes lizards find a way in. Only some of the windows open and the others have that orange caulk to keep them shut (don't know why). There are also no screens on the windows. \nIf I owned the place I'd replace the windows. However, I'm looking for a temporary fix that will at least somewhat deter bugs from crawling through and reducing a draft. Does anyone have any tips for me?", "How to economically seal gaps in old windows? I rent a 1920s home with original windows and they have large gaps, about half an inch, between the sliding part of the window and the stationary part. Aside from letting hot or cold air in when undesired, bugs and sometimes lizards find a way in. Only some of the windows open and the others have that orange caulk to keep them shut (don't know why). There are also no screens on the windows. \nIf I owned the place I'd replace the windows. However, I'm looking for a temporary fix that will at least somewhat deter bugs from crawling through and reducing a draft. Does anyone have any tips for me?", "How to economically seal gaps in old windows? I rent a 1920s home with original windows and they have large gaps, about half an inch, between the sliding part of the window and the stationary part. Aside from letting hot or cold air in when undesired, bugs and sometimes lizards find a way in. Only some of the windows open and the others have that orange caulk to keep them shut (don't know why). There are also no screens on the windows. \nIf I owned the place I'd replace the windows. However, I'm looking for a temporary fix that will at least somewhat deter bugs from crawling through and reducing a draft. Does anyone have any tips for me?", "How to economically seal gaps in old windows? I rent a 1920s home with original windows and they have large gaps, about half an inch, between the sliding part of the window and the stationary part. Aside from letting hot or cold air in when undesired, bugs and sometimes lizards find a way in. Only some of the windows open and the others have that orange caulk to keep them shut (don't know why). There are also no screens on the windows. \nIf I owned the place I'd replace the windows. However, I'm looking for a temporary fix that will at least somewhat deter bugs from crawling through and reducing a draft. Does anyone have any tips for me?" ]

[ "Orange caulk,do you mean spray foam ? Go buy a bottle of Great Stuff spray foam and fill in the gaps.", "Use a brush to apply Vaseline to the sliding part of the window. Then use silicone caulking or hot melt glue to fill in the gaps. The Vaseline will prevent the sealant from sticking to the sliding part so you will still be able to open and close the window.", "If you're renting, you might want to double check with your landlord before doing anything that will be a more permanent fix (like the foam or weather stripping).", "You can buy coils of rope-like stuff that looks like modeling clay in the weatherstripping area of any hardware store. Just press it into the cracks. It stays pliable so you can pull it out if you want to open the window.\n" ]

[ 3, 2, 1, 0 ]

[ "What does a healthy daily routine look like for you? I am a 35 y/o male coming up on 1 year away from alcohol and still struggling to hit a stride with what I am looking for out of a daily routine, particularly when it comes to sleep, diet and socializing.\n\nCurious to hear from those who have settled into their preferred routine/lifestyle what a typical day looks like.", "What does a healthy daily routine look like for you? I am a 35 y/o male coming up on 1 year away from alcohol and still struggling to hit a stride with what I am looking for out of a daily routine, particularly when it comes to sleep, diet and socializing.\n\nCurious to hear from those who have settled into their preferred routine/lifestyle what a typical day looks like.", "What does a healthy daily routine look like for you? I am a 35 y/o male coming up on 1 year away from alcohol and still struggling to hit a stride with what I am looking for out of a daily routine, particularly when it comes to sleep, diet and socializing.\n\nCurious to hear from those who have settled into their preferred routine/lifestyle what a typical day looks like.", "What does a healthy daily routine look like for you? I am a 35 y/o male coming up on 1 year away from alcohol and still struggling to hit a stride with what I am looking for out of a daily routine, particularly when it comes to sleep, diet and socializing.\n\nCurious to hear from those who have settled into their preferred routine/lifestyle what a typical day looks like." ]

[ "Something given to my grandfather when he was young was a calligraphied and framed saying that went something like: \n\n\n* work 8 hours\n\n* play 8 hours\n\n* sleep 8 hours\n\n(Granted, this would be difficult these days, sadly)", "I can really relate with this post and I’ve always wanted to ask this exact question, so I also want to ask you all for your typical morning routines. Bc I struggle and just spend a mindless 1 or 2 hours on my phone", "start freaking early like wake up at 5:20\nhot beverage\nintense exercise 6 to 7\nthen no food, water/tea only\nwork\n12 something : strong lunch\nafternoon : work / learn something / time with or for someone I like/love\n16: eat something if hungry : fruits seeds... chocolate \n19 something : light dinner\nnothing else than reading after dark, screens are prohibited\nexception : movies thanks to a projector but not every day \nbut no screen TV phone etc\n\ncombine 3 essentials\nwake up early\neat only 8 hours a day\nevery day do\none thing for your body\none for your brain\none for your family /friends\none for your wealth (like work, or look for one, or create your company or network)\n\ngood luck being weak or lazy this way\n\neven being lonely will quickly be impossible cause all this will end up socialising yourself\n\nenjoy", "Keep your shoes way under your bed.\n\nEach morning and evening, while you are on your knees for your shoes, go ahead and say \"Thanks\"." ]

[ 3, 1, -3, -7 ]

[ "How to negotiate with apartments for better rates on rent or special deals? I am a local college graduate to Seattle and I was told that sometimes you can negotiate with apartments to get either a better rate on rent or you can even get 1-2 months of rent off for free. Can anyone give any tips for people who are moving into a new apartment on how they can get some good deals (if it’s even possible)", "How to negotiate with apartments for better rates on rent or special deals? I am a local college graduate to Seattle and I was told that sometimes you can negotiate with apartments to get either a better rate on rent or you can even get 1-2 months of rent off for free. Can anyone give any tips for people who are moving into a new apartment on how they can get some good deals (if it’s even possible)", "How to negotiate with apartments for better rates on rent or special deals? I am a local college graduate to Seattle and I was told that sometimes you can negotiate with apartments to get either a better rate on rent or you can even get 1-2 months of rent off for free. Can anyone give any tips for people who are moving into a new apartment on how they can get some good deals (if it’s even possible)", "How to negotiate with apartments for better rates on rent or special deals? I am a local college graduate to Seattle and I was told that sometimes you can negotiate with apartments to get either a better rate on rent or you can even get 1-2 months of rent off for free. Can anyone give any tips for people who are moving into a new apartment on how they can get some good deals (if it’s even possible)", "How to negotiate with apartments for better rates on rent or special deals? I am a local college graduate to Seattle and I was told that sometimes you can negotiate with apartments to get either a better rate on rent or you can even get 1-2 months of rent off for free. Can anyone give any tips for people who are moving into a new apartment on how they can get some good deals (if it’s even possible)", "How to negotiate with apartments for better rates on rent or special deals? I am a local college graduate to Seattle and I was told that sometimes you can negotiate with apartments to get either a better rate on rent or you can even get 1-2 months of rent off for free. Can anyone give any tips for people who are moving into a new apartment on how they can get some good deals (if it’s even possible)", "How to negotiate with apartments for better rates on rent or special deals? I am a local college graduate to Seattle and I was told that sometimes you can negotiate with apartments to get either a better rate on rent or you can even get 1-2 months of rent off for free. Can anyone give any tips for people who are moving into a new apartment on how they can get some good deals (if it’s even possible)" ]

[ "If there is more than one applicant for the rental no one will offer you this. If it is in an urban area with high population density, no one will offer you this.\n\nNo one will offer you this.", "Eh, kinda sounds like something my Boomer parents would tell me because it worked in the sixties when rent was $70 a month. Bit of a seller's market most places right now, let us know if you have any success! Good luck!", "Some places will list different rates for different terms. Generally the shorter the term the higher the rent. You can ask about any discounts for longer term lease agreements.\n\nWhile you may have been able to get thousands off in rent years ago, that is not in line with the current market. Currently, demand is so high that the price is whatever the landlord sticks on it. There’s not much room for negation when there is scarcity.\n\nGenerally there are three options, cheap, conveniently located, safe. Pick 2.", "Sorry but don’t even bother unless it’s a shithole that’s been available over 3 weeks. It’s like trying to negotiate on a car now, not gonna happen and you will just get looked at like an idiot.", "Whoever told you that was either repeating things just because they heard them or maybe they're from a different generation. Apartments don't negotiate.", "Offer to take the apartment uncleaned and clean it yourself before move-in. Offer to sign 2 year lease with a small built in rent increase the second year. Look for a unit that's in a less desirable location in the building (first floor, no secure entry, by a busy street) and ask for a discount to take that one.", "An apartment did that where I live, 2 free months making your year lease rent cheaper every month. The second year the rent jumped from $2200 to $3300 - they are going to get their money back somehow" ]

[ 34, 13, 10, 7, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "how to deal with public speaking. (Specifically, how to talk clearly without stopping and mispronouncing words) ", "how to deal with public speaking. (Specifically, how to talk clearly without stopping and mispronouncing words) ", "how to deal with public speaking. (Specifically, how to talk clearly without stopping and mispronouncing words) ", "how to deal with public speaking. (Specifically, how to talk clearly without stopping and mispronouncing words) ", "how to deal with public speaking. (Specifically, how to talk clearly without stopping and mispronouncing words) " ]

[ "Multiple national speech champion here:\n\n\nWhen practicing your speech, do at least 2-3 run-throughs with a pencil in your mouth (horizontally, so it runs across both cheeks. This forces you to articulate the words with lips and tongue. Once the pencil is removed you'll be much more inclined to shape the words fully with your mouth. This makes your speech not only clear, but easier to hear at a distance or over background noise\n\n\nIf it's a speech you get to memorize, once you think you have it lightly memorized try to read it out loud, as fast as possible (trick, you can read faster at a higher pitch and with monotone). Do this 4-5 times. Wherever you have the most trouble remembering is where you need more practice. Whatever you remember but keep stumbling on is likely phrased awkwardly for how you normally speak. Consider rewriting it.\n\n\nPractice slow. If you don't public speak often, you will speed up your live speech. Sometimes by a lot. Practice slowing into thoughtful sections and leaving brief pauses before the next sentence. Try to be slower than is comfortable. This will put you at a solid, comfortable pace when you're nervous.\n\n\nIf it's a timed, memorized speech, you're going to run about 1:30 faster for every 10 minutes.\n\n\nIf it's a timed non memorized speech, you gotta learn what your own folly is. Half will under speak and miss antic dotes they prepared because they become forgetful when nervous, and half will go long, over explaining. Call a friend (not in person) and ask if you can try the speech on them. The awkwardness of a one way phone call usually simulates your stage awkwardness well. If you are over-explaining, know your speech is gonna go long. If you're missing points know it'll go short.\n\n\nDont try to calm your breathing before going on stage. Try to get comfortAble with that breath pace, cause that's where it's gonna be when you get up there. The practice of going slow and adding pauses will help you hide the fast breath, and will help you slow it down once you get comfortable.\n\n\nLet me know if there's any specific parts of speaking you'd like more help with.", "Over learn your topic.\n\nRehearse in the mirror.\n\nPlant questions.\n\n3x5 index cards.\n\nDont be afraid of looking stupid. \n\nMan the fuck up and get out there.", "Read this excellent book: http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3363618-the-art-of-public-speaking\n\nPractice in front of other people!", "Barrister here (trial advocate in the U.K.) - take your time. Most people think they are talking slower than they are. The faster that you talk the less people will listen - and the process of slowing yourself down will knock out the ums and ahs. These are \"fillers\". Instead, Whenever you would normally say um, or \"like\" - just breath. \nTo get used to the speed (140-150 words per minute maximum as opposed to 350+ for conversation) take a song that you know all the lyrics to, or a passage from a play or book that you know by wrote. Take the first 140 words and practice saying them in a minute over and over until you find your rhythm. \n\nObviously preparation is the key when you are talking about content . Whether it is knowing a script or the underlying Material (depending on the type of public speaking). But pace is the single most important aspect of speaking. ", "As you had mentioned in another comment about how it may be spontaneous, you can still prepare for that. Read books aloud. Speak slower than you think you need to. If you need to stop or correct your words, that's okay! Public speaking is a very common fear. I used to tremble in front of audiences when I was young, and I gave a speech at my graduation ceremony. Try talking in general to more people. " ]

[ 18, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to Keep a Mattress Pad From Sliding Off a Bed I have this annoying problem where my mattress pad always slides off the side of my twin bed. It has a mattress cover on it and a fitted sheet, but neither of those things stop it. If anyone has ideas, please share them!\n\n", "How to Keep a Mattress Pad From Sliding Off a Bed I have this annoying problem where my mattress pad always slides off the side of my twin bed. It has a mattress cover on it and a fitted sheet, but neither of those things stop it. If anyone has ideas, please share them!\n\n" ]

[ "Might be moving so much because you toss and turn. Even if the fitted sheet stays on completely, I'd try bed garters. It'll hold the sheet still so when you toss the pad will move less. They work great for keeping everything like the pad and sheet in place during sex.\n\nI got a pack of bed garters for $5 at Bed, Bath, & Beyond.", "You could try some rug underlay? This stuff prevents rugs from slipping/sliding on hardwood floors and tiles.\n\n" ]

[ 4, 2 ]

[ "How do I overcome my picky eating habits? I'm as picky an eater as one can be. Pizza, Beef (in most forms), pork (in all forms), almost all leafy greens, berries, most fruits, cheeses, and many, many more are completely off the table. \n\nI'm personally tired of going to any social function and not being able to stomach anything they have to serve. My main problems are rarely taste, but usually texture, consistency, or smell. \n\nIn what ways can I begin to eat new foods? I've been told my whole life to \"just eat it\" but there's been countless times where an odor was so off-putting that I couldn't imagine putting something in my mouth. These are things that are appetizing to most people, including bananas, pizza (one of the worst smells), and a lot of vegetables, such as tomatoes where texture and consistency also become problems. \n\nIn what ways can I ease my way into better eating habits? I'm embarrassed that I really only want to go somewhere to eat as long as I know it has my \"safety food\", which is chicken tenders. I'd like to try the new Chinese place. I'd like to try the sandwich shop. I'm interested in that Mexican restaurant but don't have the heart to sit somewhere that I'm 99% sure won't have anything that's already on my mental list of things I'm willing to eat. \n\nAgain, the most common answer is \"try it, you never know if you'll like it\", but I often don't have the heart to try things I've never tasted before. How can I better this?\n\nTL;DR I'm picky, how can I become less picky? ", "How do I overcome my picky eating habits? I'm as picky an eater as one can be. Pizza, Beef (in most forms), pork (in all forms), almost all leafy greens, berries, most fruits, cheeses, and many, many more are completely off the table. \n\nI'm personally tired of going to any social function and not being able to stomach anything they have to serve. My main problems are rarely taste, but usually texture, consistency, or smell. \n\nIn what ways can I begin to eat new foods? I've been told my whole life to \"just eat it\" but there's been countless times where an odor was so off-putting that I couldn't imagine putting something in my mouth. These are things that are appetizing to most people, including bananas, pizza (one of the worst smells), and a lot of vegetables, such as tomatoes where texture and consistency also become problems. \n\nIn what ways can I ease my way into better eating habits? I'm embarrassed that I really only want to go somewhere to eat as long as I know it has my \"safety food\", which is chicken tenders. I'd like to try the new Chinese place. I'd like to try the sandwich shop. I'm interested in that Mexican restaurant but don't have the heart to sit somewhere that I'm 99% sure won't have anything that's already on my mental list of things I'm willing to eat. \n\nAgain, the most common answer is \"try it, you never know if you'll like it\", but I often don't have the heart to try things I've never tasted before. How can I better this?\n\nTL;DR I'm picky, how can I become less picky? ", "How do I overcome my picky eating habits? I'm as picky an eater as one can be. Pizza, Beef (in most forms), pork (in all forms), almost all leafy greens, berries, most fruits, cheeses, and many, many more are completely off the table. \n\nI'm personally tired of going to any social function and not being able to stomach anything they have to serve. My main problems are rarely taste, but usually texture, consistency, or smell. \n\nIn what ways can I begin to eat new foods? I've been told my whole life to \"just eat it\" but there's been countless times where an odor was so off-putting that I couldn't imagine putting something in my mouth. These are things that are appetizing to most people, including bananas, pizza (one of the worst smells), and a lot of vegetables, such as tomatoes where texture and consistency also become problems. \n\nIn what ways can I ease my way into better eating habits? I'm embarrassed that I really only want to go somewhere to eat as long as I know it has my \"safety food\", which is chicken tenders. I'd like to try the new Chinese place. I'd like to try the sandwich shop. I'm interested in that Mexican restaurant but don't have the heart to sit somewhere that I'm 99% sure won't have anything that's already on my mental list of things I'm willing to eat. \n\nAgain, the most common answer is \"try it, you never know if you'll like it\", but I often don't have the heart to try things I've never tasted before. How can I better this?\n\nTL;DR I'm picky, how can I become less picky? ", "How do I overcome my picky eating habits? I'm as picky an eater as one can be. Pizza, Beef (in most forms), pork (in all forms), almost all leafy greens, berries, most fruits, cheeses, and many, many more are completely off the table. \n\nI'm personally tired of going to any social function and not being able to stomach anything they have to serve. My main problems are rarely taste, but usually texture, consistency, or smell. \n\nIn what ways can I begin to eat new foods? I've been told my whole life to \"just eat it\" but there's been countless times where an odor was so off-putting that I couldn't imagine putting something in my mouth. These are things that are appetizing to most people, including bananas, pizza (one of the worst smells), and a lot of vegetables, such as tomatoes where texture and consistency also become problems. \n\nIn what ways can I ease my way into better eating habits? I'm embarrassed that I really only want to go somewhere to eat as long as I know it has my \"safety food\", which is chicken tenders. I'd like to try the new Chinese place. I'd like to try the sandwich shop. I'm interested in that Mexican restaurant but don't have the heart to sit somewhere that I'm 99% sure won't have anything that's already on my mental list of things I'm willing to eat. \n\nAgain, the most common answer is \"try it, you never know if you'll like it\", but I often don't have the heart to try things I've never tasted before. How can I better this?\n\nTL;DR I'm picky, how can I become less picky? ", "How do I overcome my picky eating habits? I'm as picky an eater as one can be. Pizza, Beef (in most forms), pork (in all forms), almost all leafy greens, berries, most fruits, cheeses, and many, many more are completely off the table. \n\nI'm personally tired of going to any social function and not being able to stomach anything they have to serve. My main problems are rarely taste, but usually texture, consistency, or smell. \n\nIn what ways can I begin to eat new foods? I've been told my whole life to \"just eat it\" but there's been countless times where an odor was so off-putting that I couldn't imagine putting something in my mouth. These are things that are appetizing to most people, including bananas, pizza (one of the worst smells), and a lot of vegetables, such as tomatoes where texture and consistency also become problems. \n\nIn what ways can I ease my way into better eating habits? I'm embarrassed that I really only want to go somewhere to eat as long as I know it has my \"safety food\", which is chicken tenders. I'd like to try the new Chinese place. I'd like to try the sandwich shop. I'm interested in that Mexican restaurant but don't have the heart to sit somewhere that I'm 99% sure won't have anything that's already on my mental list of things I'm willing to eat. \n\nAgain, the most common answer is \"try it, you never know if you'll like it\", but I often don't have the heart to try things I've never tasted before. How can I better this?\n\nTL;DR I'm picky, how can I become less picky? ", "How do I overcome my picky eating habits? I'm as picky an eater as one can be. Pizza, Beef (in most forms), pork (in all forms), almost all leafy greens, berries, most fruits, cheeses, and many, many more are completely off the table. \n\nI'm personally tired of going to any social function and not being able to stomach anything they have to serve. My main problems are rarely taste, but usually texture, consistency, or smell. \n\nIn what ways can I begin to eat new foods? I've been told my whole life to \"just eat it\" but there's been countless times where an odor was so off-putting that I couldn't imagine putting something in my mouth. These are things that are appetizing to most people, including bananas, pizza (one of the worst smells), and a lot of vegetables, such as tomatoes where texture and consistency also become problems. \n\nIn what ways can I ease my way into better eating habits? I'm embarrassed that I really only want to go somewhere to eat as long as I know it has my \"safety food\", which is chicken tenders. I'd like to try the new Chinese place. I'd like to try the sandwich shop. I'm interested in that Mexican restaurant but don't have the heart to sit somewhere that I'm 99% sure won't have anything that's already on my mental list of things I'm willing to eat. \n\nAgain, the most common answer is \"try it, you never know if you'll like it\", but I often don't have the heart to try things I've never tasted before. How can I better this?\n\nTL;DR I'm picky, how can I become less picky? ", "How do I overcome my picky eating habits? I'm as picky an eater as one can be. Pizza, Beef (in most forms), pork (in all forms), almost all leafy greens, berries, most fruits, cheeses, and many, many more are completely off the table. \n\nI'm personally tired of going to any social function and not being able to stomach anything they have to serve. My main problems are rarely taste, but usually texture, consistency, or smell. \n\nIn what ways can I begin to eat new foods? I've been told my whole life to \"just eat it\" but there's been countless times where an odor was so off-putting that I couldn't imagine putting something in my mouth. These are things that are appetizing to most people, including bananas, pizza (one of the worst smells), and a lot of vegetables, such as tomatoes where texture and consistency also become problems. \n\nIn what ways can I ease my way into better eating habits? I'm embarrassed that I really only want to go somewhere to eat as long as I know it has my \"safety food\", which is chicken tenders. I'd like to try the new Chinese place. I'd like to try the sandwich shop. I'm interested in that Mexican restaurant but don't have the heart to sit somewhere that I'm 99% sure won't have anything that's already on my mental list of things I'm willing to eat. \n\nAgain, the most common answer is \"try it, you never know if you'll like it\", but I often don't have the heart to try things I've never tasted before. How can I better this?\n\nTL;DR I'm picky, how can I become less picky? ", "How do I overcome my picky eating habits? I'm as picky an eater as one can be. Pizza, Beef (in most forms), pork (in all forms), almost all leafy greens, berries, most fruits, cheeses, and many, many more are completely off the table. \n\nI'm personally tired of going to any social function and not being able to stomach anything they have to serve. My main problems are rarely taste, but usually texture, consistency, or smell. \n\nIn what ways can I begin to eat new foods? I've been told my whole life to \"just eat it\" but there's been countless times where an odor was so off-putting that I couldn't imagine putting something in my mouth. These are things that are appetizing to most people, including bananas, pizza (one of the worst smells), and a lot of vegetables, such as tomatoes where texture and consistency also become problems. \n\nIn what ways can I ease my way into better eating habits? I'm embarrassed that I really only want to go somewhere to eat as long as I know it has my \"safety food\", which is chicken tenders. I'd like to try the new Chinese place. I'd like to try the sandwich shop. I'm interested in that Mexican restaurant but don't have the heart to sit somewhere that I'm 99% sure won't have anything that's already on my mental list of things I'm willing to eat. \n\nAgain, the most common answer is \"try it, you never know if you'll like it\", but I often don't have the heart to try things I've never tasted before. How can I better this?\n\nTL;DR I'm picky, how can I become less picky? " ]

[ "I really began opening up to new foods when I completely swore off fast food and pre-made food from the frozen section. If I really wanted chicken nuggets, I told myself that I had to buy bread crumbs and chicken tenderloins and make it myself. I found that I liked more vegetables and new dishes if I prepared them myself because I knew what was in them. Try finding some herbs you like (I recommend thyme or Rosemary) and roast some meat and veggies you like + one that makes you uncomfortable tossed in olive oil, salt, pepper, and the herbs you like until they're golden brown and smell amazing.\n\nIt's definitely a process! ", "My 9 year old has similar issues. At age 2, he just stopped eating almost everything. I can't get him to even try anything and he lives off pancakes, plain spaghetti noodles, popcorn, crackers, chips, white rice, french fries and McDonald's chicken nuggets. \n\nAt this point, for both of you, it's become behavioral/psychological. You've had that door closed for so long that you've told yourself it won't open. They've actually added extremely picky eating to the DSM IV as a selective eating disorder. If you can afford to, I'd seek counseling. If you've been at this most of your life, I strongly feel you need a professional in your corner to overcome it. Don't give up on yourself if you can't afford one though! Try your best and I'd look up some picky eating blogs, even if geared towards children.\n\nI can tell you that I recently started pressing my son's doctor for answers and help. All these years they've told me if he's eating anything at all and not underweight, don't worry about it. \n\nAs a mother I just felt something more was going on. We were finally referred to a nutritionist who cleared him of texture driven issues (textures DO bother him though!) and referred us on. He will be seeing an allergist and a gastroenterologist soon. There has to be a reason a 2 yr old just stops eating one day. So we are looking into possible food allergies or digestion issues that might have led us here. We are covering all bases because my son has growth hormone deficiency. He's grown well on treatment up until now. Without adequate nutrition, even the growth hormone can't do it's job. \n\nI use examples like yours to get him to go to his appointments. I tell him that I've heard from adults with extremely picky/selective eating habits and they wish they would have gotten help sooner. Good luck to you!!", "Learn to cook. Doesn't have to be Michelin Star stuff, but learn the basics and push yourself gently from there. For instance, from what you've said, tomato is a food that is in a lot of recipes that you don't enjoy for its texture- so make tomato soup. Start with it blended till it's smooth as silk, and gradually blend less and less.\n\nTo get into the swing of it, make a list of ingredient foods (like spinach, bananas etc, as opposed to prepared food like pizza) that you want to get used to. Pick one at random. You must try one portion of it this week. Raw, or cooked, flavoured or au naturelle... up to you how you try it, but just one food this week. Work out what it is you don't like about that specific food, and prepare it in a way to eliminate it. (hint: if you like garlic, it will hide pretty much any undesired smells)", "I used to be a picky eater and in some ways I still can be, but I am much more willing to try foods now. The thing that helped was learning to cook myself. Things that I actually hand made start to finish didn't seem as unappealing as other foods. As I started being a decent cook I started noticing missing flavors and adding them. I started being excited to try something new because I only knew how to make a handful of things. \n\nThe only time I ever ate mashed potatoes was when I hand made them. I hated it and they made me gag but I actually tried them a few times instead of just insta-no'd them.", "Last year, I started cooking 100% by myself (as a college student) - I started liking so many things because I could prepare them in any way I wanted and for most things I found a way to make them into something I liked. For example, I didn't really like broccoli, but put into a frittata (kind of an omelette) with feta on top and some garlic, I really started liking it. TL;DR: Start cooking things you don't like in a way that makes you like them more -> Better associations with them -> tolerance -> profit.", "If the smell bothers you, there may not be anything you *can* do. \n\nHowever, the best advice I can give is to basically \"train\" your taste buds. Take something you don't like, like bananas or tomatoes, and eat things that have just a tiny bit of those in it. Whatever you can tolerate/still enjoy. If it's zero, you might just be too sensitive, but \n\nI have done this with diet soda (used to make me gag, now I can't drink the regular stuff) and with beer (most of it is still god awful, but I moved from sweet wines, to drier wines, to light beer). Probably not the most worthy examples, but the process was as described, and highly successful.\n\nFood, unfortunately, I've more often had the opposite problem. Especially pizza. On second thought, maybe just count yourself lucky? :P\n\n", "Heh, something i can actually help someone with. So I'm 21 (22 soon fuck im old) and my entire life all i ate was bread/grains or potatos of some kind. Meat? Gag. Fish? Gag. Poultry? Gag. It got bad because the only food i could eat that tasted good was awful for me. There is only one way to fix this issue (un)fortunately. Which is forcing yourself to eat it, but! BUT! How its prepared, is what makes a world of a difference. I love spicy food, it can't be chewy, or too juicy.\n\nTry different types of lettuce, figure out one you can stomach, iceberg worked for me cause its like crunchy and has no taste or flavor and isn't grass.\n\nCut a hotdog in half and grill it facing down, then put spicy mustard on it, with a nice thick bun. Works perfectly for me.\n\nChicken breasts smashed to be thin then coated in a spicy dry rub and grilled.\n\nWorking on fish now, cod works for me but figuring out how i can cook it so its not watery as fuck after a couple bites worth of time on my plate.\n\nBurgers, organic and prepared at home cooked to a medium-well finish. Sirachi and spicy mustard..\n\nPasta is the love of my life. Pesto, Alfredo, arrabbiata, red, tons of sauces, noodle shapes, you can cook it to be mushy or tough as hell.\n\nGarbonzo beans roasted are pretty cool too, theyre crunchy in like a soft way, but season however you want and they have a nutty chestnut flavor to them.\n\nBut yeah, how things are prepared make all the difference op. I sincerely hope you realize this. \n\nAlso, pizzas delicious.\n\nSidenote; if you dont brush your tongue you can develop a disease that fucks up taste for you called halitosis. Heard bout this once. Like chronic bad breath but it makes your tongue full of bacteria so a side effect can be off tastes or smells.", "For me, whom ate boiled rice with salt on it (salt! Not even soy sauce!!) as a kid, wanting to eat out with friends eventually led me to find at least one thing i can eat in nearly every type of cuisine by trial and error. It's best to start with the really simple items, like margarita pizza - the fewer individual tastes and textures involved, the better. I found after a few years of eating pad sie ew with the broccoli and carrots picked out at every Thai place ever I got bored enough to try something else... And promptly switched my \"usual\" so now i just get a prawn or tofu pad Thai every time xD \n\nbut I do try new things if the place is very fancy (so i know if i don't like something is not because they've just done it poorly) and I'm eating with people who are sharing - that way we might order three to five dishes between four of us and if i only like one, i can just eat that - by the time I've tried everything i won't be hungry enough to eat the whole thing anyway.\n\nOther good ways to try new things are cooking at home, because it's easy to substitute ingredients if a new recipe calls for something you know you don't like, and buffets! Like at a wedding or work shindig. All the portions are small enough that it's not too obvious when you sample something and don't like it.\n\nOne last thing - you'd be surprised how much cooking methods can affect texture, the same food item can be totally different in different contexts. I am not a huge fan of chickpeas, though i will eat a little if i have to, but one time a salad recipe my partner was trying out called for pan-fried chickpeas - and it turns out that for some reason This Changes Everything and it's basically popcorn now." ]

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[ "How do I get dangerous traffic taken care in my neighborhood? Hey y’all! Thanks in advance for any good advice or tips on this very important topic. I live in a neighborhood that is great for a lot of reasons but one of the things that sucks is that there are almost 0 stop signs, no speed bumps, and no traffic lights for an area that connects two major roads in the middle of a pretty urban space. We get folks flying down our street on a regular basis. To make matters worse, there’s an elementary school one street from my house. There are kids all over these streets, they’re in danger on a daily basis.\n\nA couple of days ago a teen was on a joy ride. He hit a vehicle on one end of our street and fled the scene to the other end of our street. He was going about 70 miles an hour down our narrow residential street and T-boned a car at the end of the street. The kid totaled both cars, was airborne for a few seconds, wiped out a chain-link fence. It’s amazing that nobody was fatally injured. But you know who was 20 feet from the scene? My husband who was holding my two-year-old son…they were on a walk. Just one slip of that teen’s steering wheel could have destroyed my life forever.\n\nSo my question is this: how do I, a mere civilian, get my city to take action seriously and immediately to install any kind of traffic safety measures in this neighborhood? And if that fails, what can I do on my own accord? Should I crowd fund for speed bumps or signs? What actually works?", "How do I get dangerous traffic taken care in my neighborhood? Hey y’all! Thanks in advance for any good advice or tips on this very important topic. I live in a neighborhood that is great for a lot of reasons but one of the things that sucks is that there are almost 0 stop signs, no speed bumps, and no traffic lights for an area that connects two major roads in the middle of a pretty urban space. We get folks flying down our street on a regular basis. To make matters worse, there’s an elementary school one street from my house. There are kids all over these streets, they’re in danger on a daily basis.\n\nA couple of days ago a teen was on a joy ride. He hit a vehicle on one end of our street and fled the scene to the other end of our street. He was going about 70 miles an hour down our narrow residential street and T-boned a car at the end of the street. The kid totaled both cars, was airborne for a few seconds, wiped out a chain-link fence. It’s amazing that nobody was fatally injured. But you know who was 20 feet from the scene? My husband who was holding my two-year-old son…they were on a walk. Just one slip of that teen’s steering wheel could have destroyed my life forever.\n\nSo my question is this: how do I, a mere civilian, get my city to take action seriously and immediately to install any kind of traffic safety measures in this neighborhood? And if that fails, what can I do on my own accord? Should I crowd fund for speed bumps or signs? What actually works?", "How do I get dangerous traffic taken care in my neighborhood? Hey y’all! Thanks in advance for any good advice or tips on this very important topic. I live in a neighborhood that is great for a lot of reasons but one of the things that sucks is that there are almost 0 stop signs, no speed bumps, and no traffic lights for an area that connects two major roads in the middle of a pretty urban space. We get folks flying down our street on a regular basis. To make matters worse, there’s an elementary school one street from my house. There are kids all over these streets, they’re in danger on a daily basis.\n\nA couple of days ago a teen was on a joy ride. He hit a vehicle on one end of our street and fled the scene to the other end of our street. He was going about 70 miles an hour down our narrow residential street and T-boned a car at the end of the street. The kid totaled both cars, was airborne for a few seconds, wiped out a chain-link fence. It’s amazing that nobody was fatally injured. But you know who was 20 feet from the scene? My husband who was holding my two-year-old son…they were on a walk. Just one slip of that teen’s steering wheel could have destroyed my life forever.\n\nSo my question is this: how do I, a mere civilian, get my city to take action seriously and immediately to install any kind of traffic safety measures in this neighborhood? And if that fails, what can I do on my own accord? Should I crowd fund for speed bumps or signs? What actually works?", "How do I get dangerous traffic taken care in my neighborhood? Hey y’all! Thanks in advance for any good advice or tips on this very important topic. I live in a neighborhood that is great for a lot of reasons but one of the things that sucks is that there are almost 0 stop signs, no speed bumps, and no traffic lights for an area that connects two major roads in the middle of a pretty urban space. We get folks flying down our street on a regular basis. To make matters worse, there’s an elementary school one street from my house. There are kids all over these streets, they’re in danger on a daily basis.\n\nA couple of days ago a teen was on a joy ride. He hit a vehicle on one end of our street and fled the scene to the other end of our street. He was going about 70 miles an hour down our narrow residential street and T-boned a car at the end of the street. The kid totaled both cars, was airborne for a few seconds, wiped out a chain-link fence. It’s amazing that nobody was fatally injured. But you know who was 20 feet from the scene? My husband who was holding my two-year-old son…they were on a walk. Just one slip of that teen’s steering wheel could have destroyed my life forever.\n\nSo my question is this: how do I, a mere civilian, get my city to take action seriously and immediately to install any kind of traffic safety measures in this neighborhood? And if that fails, what can I do on my own accord? Should I crowd fund for speed bumps or signs? What actually works?", "How do I get dangerous traffic taken care in my neighborhood? Hey y’all! Thanks in advance for any good advice or tips on this very important topic. I live in a neighborhood that is great for a lot of reasons but one of the things that sucks is that there are almost 0 stop signs, no speed bumps, and no traffic lights for an area that connects two major roads in the middle of a pretty urban space. We get folks flying down our street on a regular basis. To make matters worse, there’s an elementary school one street from my house. There are kids all over these streets, they’re in danger on a daily basis.\n\nA couple of days ago a teen was on a joy ride. He hit a vehicle on one end of our street and fled the scene to the other end of our street. He was going about 70 miles an hour down our narrow residential street and T-boned a car at the end of the street. The kid totaled both cars, was airborne for a few seconds, wiped out a chain-link fence. It’s amazing that nobody was fatally injured. But you know who was 20 feet from the scene? My husband who was holding my two-year-old son…they were on a walk. Just one slip of that teen’s steering wheel could have destroyed my life forever.\n\nSo my question is this: how do I, a mere civilian, get my city to take action seriously and immediately to install any kind of traffic safety measures in this neighborhood? And if that fails, what can I do on my own accord? Should I crowd fund for speed bumps or signs? What actually works?", "How do I get dangerous traffic taken care in my neighborhood? Hey y’all! Thanks in advance for any good advice or tips on this very important topic. I live in a neighborhood that is great for a lot of reasons but one of the things that sucks is that there are almost 0 stop signs, no speed bumps, and no traffic lights for an area that connects two major roads in the middle of a pretty urban space. We get folks flying down our street on a regular basis. To make matters worse, there’s an elementary school one street from my house. There are kids all over these streets, they’re in danger on a daily basis.\n\nA couple of days ago a teen was on a joy ride. He hit a vehicle on one end of our street and fled the scene to the other end of our street. He was going about 70 miles an hour down our narrow residential street and T-boned a car at the end of the street. The kid totaled both cars, was airborne for a few seconds, wiped out a chain-link fence. It’s amazing that nobody was fatally injured. But you know who was 20 feet from the scene? My husband who was holding my two-year-old son…they were on a walk. Just one slip of that teen’s steering wheel could have destroyed my life forever.\n\nSo my question is this: how do I, a mere civilian, get my city to take action seriously and immediately to install any kind of traffic safety measures in this neighborhood? And if that fails, what can I do on my own accord? Should I crowd fund for speed bumps or signs? What actually works?" ]

[ " I also live by an elementary school. You can request to speak at your city council meeting but a good temporary solution is to go to a sporting goods store & buy mini orange cones. \n\nI set them out every morning so that assholes speeding down my street stop or slow down & allow the walkers & bike riders to cross safely during school pickup/dropoff.\n\nIt is a public road so I can't ENFORCE anything and don't try to, but the cones at least serve as a sign for drivers to pay attention.", "Traffic data for that area is a start. Id go to the traffic planners or your city council to bring up your concerns. That's a little too close for comfort. Someone needs to do something. See what your neighbors say. Perhaps more feel as you do and you could make it a neighborhood thing.", "Record all incidents you can think of. Dot points are fine. Contact your local member and your council. Start a petition with your neighbours", "Is street parking allowed on your street? If so look up your parking laws. You and the neighbors buying a few cheap trailers or RV’s parked legally along the road in strategic locations will probably force them to slow down. Maybe even getting them to start taking an alternate route. \n\nIn my area you have to move them every two weeks. I take a video of myself moving my trailer every two weeks. People have even called the cops to try and get them removed but it’s perfectly legal and more effective in my neighborhood than speed humps from what I’ve seen.", "Just incase the traffic cone and contacting various departments in the name of a worried mother doesnt help. You could try petition for a track to be built. Somewhere people can actually drive their cars fast safely.\n\nSomething about flies and honey..", "This is all kinds of massive dumb. See there was this idiot out of his mind on drugs driving like the sheriff's on Dukes of Hazzard. Anyways that is so incredibly dangerous IRL and the current 55 mph speed limit did not slow him down and the stop sign did not deter him from blasting thru the intersection. Let my emotions demand a new much lower speed limit to solve this issue." ]

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[ "microwaving corndogs Every time I microwave a corn dog (frozen) one side is frozen and the other has a hole in it. Any small tips that may be able to fix this problem?", "microwaving corndogs Every time I microwave a corn dog (frozen) one side is frozen and the other has a hole in it. Any small tips that may be able to fix this problem?", "microwaving corndogs Every time I microwave a corn dog (frozen) one side is frozen and the other has a hole in it. Any small tips that may be able to fix this problem?" ]

[ "I often wrap items such as this in a SLIGHTLY damp paper towel or napkin and effectively steam the whole thing, which can help even out the cooking. If this leads to an undesirable consistency, try cooking it wrapped up for the first half of the cooking time, then unwrap it for the rest. Hope this helps!", "I always arrange my corndog(s) in a triangle, that way the microwave energy is better distributed... AKA, the donut-like shape for all other \"not-stick based\" foods.", "This sounds like a problem with your microwave. Your best bet is to stop the cooking process halfway through and flip them over. It sucks but that's the easiest way.\n\nAnother way: \nSome microwave breakfast meals like Hot Pocket use reflective heating sleeves to help evenly heat their product. These however are marked as non-reuseable for reasons unknown. Using these sleeves would probably help you distribute the heat more evenly, but they aren't really sized for corndogs." ]

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[ "How to tell a person that they have bad intime hygiene without being personal and stepping them on the toe? So i met this girl and i really enjoyed my time with her. Sadly when i started getting closer to her i could smell that she had bad breath (like a rotten tooth or something) and also had a strong BO. I really don't know how i should tell her that - because otherwise i find her cute and attractive... I don't wanna hurt her feelings by telling her she has bad intime hygiene and should probably go to the dentist somewhen soon... \n\nAnybody got any tips on how to approach this, for me rather difficult, situation?", "How to tell a person that they have bad intime hygiene without being personal and stepping them on the toe? So i met this girl and i really enjoyed my time with her. Sadly when i started getting closer to her i could smell that she had bad breath (like a rotten tooth or something) and also had a strong BO. I really don't know how i should tell her that - because otherwise i find her cute and attractive... I don't wanna hurt her feelings by telling her she has bad intime hygiene and should probably go to the dentist somewhen soon... \n\nAnybody got any tips on how to approach this, for me rather difficult, situation?", "How to tell a person that they have bad intime hygiene without being personal and stepping them on the toe? So i met this girl and i really enjoyed my time with her. Sadly when i started getting closer to her i could smell that she had bad breath (like a rotten tooth or something) and also had a strong BO. I really don't know how i should tell her that - because otherwise i find her cute and attractive... I don't wanna hurt her feelings by telling her she has bad intime hygiene and should probably go to the dentist somewhen soon... \n\nAnybody got any tips on how to approach this, for me rather difficult, situation?" ]

[ "My boyfriend bought me an oral irrigator to keep in my apartment. And I got convinced to buy a good electric toothbrush too. All this cause I'd use his when I was staying over at his apartment. And then got used to it. And got them for myself. \n\nTry that. Maybe have a breath mint and offer her one too? Maybe try that? \n\nBack story: I used to be almost a 100% vegetarian. Or eat mostly veggies for most meals. Rarely used to floss. Until I moved to the United states and started eating more meat, steak and also processed foods with sugars. Didn't adapt my oral hygiene habits and never flossed. ", "In the end now i just was high as fuck on nye and told her in person. I told her she should probably visit the dentist and maybe also some soap when she cleans herself. She accepted it as it would be that she would know that she smells that way because she doesn't use soap but still asked me for a chewing gum after i told her. It was a really weird situation but i'm happy i told her the truth. ", "Find out if she's on any meds as they can cause bad breadth *and* body odor. \n\nBut you can date her, and then tell her when you're comfortable enough. My husband has kissed me and said \"Babe, you taste like that chicken sandwich you just ate\". It's not a big deal, and thank goodness for his honesty (i do the same). " ]

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[ "When starting a new job also think about adding in your morning prep routine something like diet/exercise. As that new job becomes routine that morning habit will become normal and you’ll have added something positive to your life. \nPlus the motivation and excitement of the new job can be a battery to feed off to help push through the new addition. It takes about 2 weeks for something new to become habit.", "When starting a new job also think about adding in your morning prep routine something like diet/exercise. As that new job becomes routine that morning habit will become normal and you’ll have added something positive to your life. \nPlus the motivation and excitement of the new job can be a battery to feed off to help push through the new addition. It takes about 2 weeks for something new to become habit.", "When starting a new job also think about adding in your morning prep routine something like diet/exercise. As that new job becomes routine that morning habit will become normal and you’ll have added something positive to your life. \nPlus the motivation and excitement of the new job can be a battery to feed off to help push through the new addition. It takes about 2 weeks for something new to become habit.", "When starting a new job also think about adding in your morning prep routine something like diet/exercise. As that new job becomes routine that morning habit will become normal and you’ll have added something positive to your life. \nPlus the motivation and excitement of the new job can be a battery to feed off to help push through the new addition. It takes about 2 weeks for something new to become habit.", "When starting a new job also think about adding in your morning prep routine something like diet/exercise. As that new job becomes routine that morning habit will become normal and you’ll have added something positive to your life. \nPlus the motivation and excitement of the new job can be a battery to feed off to help push through the new addition. It takes about 2 weeks for something new to become habit.", "When starting a new job also think about adding in your morning prep routine something like diet/exercise. As that new job becomes routine that morning habit will become normal and you’ll have added something positive to your life. \nPlus the motivation and excitement of the new job can be a battery to feed off to help push through the new addition. It takes about 2 weeks for something new to become habit.", "When starting a new job also think about adding in your morning prep routine something like diet/exercise. As that new job becomes routine that morning habit will become normal and you’ll have added something positive to your life. \nPlus the motivation and excitement of the new job can be a battery to feed off to help push through the new addition. It takes about 2 weeks for something new to become habit.", "When starting a new job also think about adding in your morning prep routine something like diet/exercise. As that new job becomes routine that morning habit will become normal and you’ll have added something positive to your life. \nPlus the motivation and excitement of the new job can be a battery to feed off to help push through the new addition. It takes about 2 weeks for something new to become habit." ]

[ "Tomorrow’s going to be my first day at my new job and seeing this now I’m going to try and wake up 30 minutes from my set time to do a little work out! Thank you for this!!", "Tomorrow is my first day at a brand new job. I also meal prepped and will be going to the gym after work. I’ve been in such a major funk lately (mental/physical health + unemployment), but I know tomorrow is the start of something great!", "I started a new job about 6 months ago. New job has a ton more fit people, it's cleaner, and everyone is genuinely happy to be there. The change in environment for me kicked off going to the gym and I'm down nearly 20# in 4 months.\n\nIt's not much, but I'm seeing results and it's awesome to see the scale drop a little more each week.", "I start a new job next Monday - was already kind of planning on doing this but this has inspired me further. Especially since I’m moving from retail management (LOTS of walking around a huge store) to more of a desk job, and I’m afraid of gaining weight back.", "Exactly. Being excited for work fizzles out quickly, so its important to have a habit in the morning to not be late and actually be awake during work hours.. gosh the amount of times I've fallen asleep between 8 to like 10ish during meetings even and having a coworker nudge me awake .. oof it's so awkward!", "Very good idea. It is also true whenever you move to a new place. New environment, new triggers, an excellent opportunity for creating positive habits and eliminating bad ones!", "I didn’t think about this until my last job which was at a restaurant that catered to late lunch and dinner hours. I wasn’t getting home until 11pm or at the latest midnight. I was sleeping on all mornings, not waking up til noon the next day just to go back to work again at 3pm. \n\nSo this is really good advice for those who might be in a similar position.", "I found this worked for me. I started a new job and with it started a new routine for breakfast. Instead of waking up with only enough time to get ready and jump in car with a plate of toast, I started getting up earlier and having a healthier bowl of cereal. Taking that extra time and having that one important meal be so much healthier meant I dropped about 5kg to close to my ideal weight. \n\nLike the post says, timing it with a new job meant I already had to develop a slightly new routine anyway, so it was easy done." ]

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[ "Tips for staying awake in class? Not sure if this is the right sub for this, but does anyone have any tips to avoid dozing off? Due to covid my high school courses are 2.5 hours long with a 5 minute break if you're lucky. By the time the afternoon comes I'm constantly nodding off and jerking awake. I've tried coffee, drinking water, exercises and actually getting more sleep, but it's hard because of my early commute. Teachers don't allow gum or snacks because it's against protocol and they cram a lot of things in one class so you have to focus to pass. \nThanks :)", "Tips for staying awake in class? Not sure if this is the right sub for this, but does anyone have any tips to avoid dozing off? Due to covid my high school courses are 2.5 hours long with a 5 minute break if you're lucky. By the time the afternoon comes I'm constantly nodding off and jerking awake. I've tried coffee, drinking water, exercises and actually getting more sleep, but it's hard because of my early commute. Teachers don't allow gum or snacks because it's against protocol and they cram a lot of things in one class so you have to focus to pass. \nThanks :)", "Tips for staying awake in class? Not sure if this is the right sub for this, but does anyone have any tips to avoid dozing off? Due to covid my high school courses are 2.5 hours long with a 5 minute break if you're lucky. By the time the afternoon comes I'm constantly nodding off and jerking awake. I've tried coffee, drinking water, exercises and actually getting more sleep, but it's hard because of my early commute. Teachers don't allow gum or snacks because it's against protocol and they cram a lot of things in one class so you have to focus to pass. \nThanks :)", "Tips for staying awake in class? Not sure if this is the right sub for this, but does anyone have any tips to avoid dozing off? Due to covid my high school courses are 2.5 hours long with a 5 minute break if you're lucky. By the time the afternoon comes I'm constantly nodding off and jerking awake. I've tried coffee, drinking water, exercises and actually getting more sleep, but it's hard because of my early commute. Teachers don't allow gum or snacks because it's against protocol and they cram a lot of things in one class so you have to focus to pass. \nThanks :)", "Tips for staying awake in class? Not sure if this is the right sub for this, but does anyone have any tips to avoid dozing off? Due to covid my high school courses are 2.5 hours long with a 5 minute break if you're lucky. By the time the afternoon comes I'm constantly nodding off and jerking awake. I've tried coffee, drinking water, exercises and actually getting more sleep, but it's hard because of my early commute. Teachers don't allow gum or snacks because it's against protocol and they cram a lot of things in one class so you have to focus to pass. \nThanks :)", "Tips for staying awake in class? Not sure if this is the right sub for this, but does anyone have any tips to avoid dozing off? Due to covid my high school courses are 2.5 hours long with a 5 minute break if you're lucky. By the time the afternoon comes I'm constantly nodding off and jerking awake. I've tried coffee, drinking water, exercises and actually getting more sleep, but it's hard because of my early commute. Teachers don't allow gum or snacks because it's against protocol and they cram a lot of things in one class so you have to focus to pass. \nThanks :)", "Tips for staying awake in class? Not sure if this is the right sub for this, but does anyone have any tips to avoid dozing off? Due to covid my high school courses are 2.5 hours long with a 5 minute break if you're lucky. By the time the afternoon comes I'm constantly nodding off and jerking awake. I've tried coffee, drinking water, exercises and actually getting more sleep, but it's hard because of my early commute. Teachers don't allow gum or snacks because it's against protocol and they cram a lot of things in one class so you have to focus to pass. \nThanks :)" ]

[ "Go to bed earlier, avoid bright light including your phone for atleast 30mins before sleeping.\nI’ll probably have someone moan at me for this but actually pay attention. If you’re sitting looking into space/ day dreaming then you’ll become more tired. And enjoy this whilst you can. 2.5hours with no break is literally nothing when you go into the real working world", "Try more caffeine, or more sleep. If it continues to be a problem, perhaps talk to a sleep specialist to be evaluated for hypersomnia.", "Just take notes, even if you know the material. Trying to keep up with the lecture will keep you focused enough to not fall asleep.", "If I felt myself falling asleep I would force myself to ask a question about what the instructor was talking about.\n\nIt makes you have to concentrate on what they're currently saying so your question isn't vapid and out of left field, But it also forces you to literally use the mechanics of speaking - and that helps to wake the body up. The brain power it takes to formulate a question, think about what you're going to say, and then be on the spot wakes you up. For how long - that's probably dependent on how much sleep you got the night prior.", "Dabble a little hand sanitizer on the tip of your nose. Reapply as needed. Got me through so many classes.", "Sit in the front row. In the back row its easy to blend into the crowd and doze off. Won't happen int the front row. That's how I passed my \"Industrial Psychology\" class .", "1) Standing desk converter/tray to put onto your desk. You most likely won't fall asleep standing. I use mine at home and in person classes (teachers shouldn't have any problem with that as long as you're in the back) \n2) take notes during class so you're active and engaged versus sitting still. \n3) Never do homework/class in bed. Bed is for sleeping. I guess this applies more if you're doing online classes." ]

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[ "What are some tricks you can use to prevent you from sleeping through your alarm? Every morning, my alarm goes off and I half sleep through it for another hour,even after a good night's sleep. I just cannot bring myself out of bed and it's stopping me from doing things I need to like shower and cook because I have school. I've tried moving it farther so I have to get out of bed and apps that make you solve math problems but after a while my body just learned to tune it out. On the rare occasions I don't fall back asleep, I just lay in bed, too tired and comfortable to move or put down my phone. What can I do to prevent this? ", "What are some tricks you can use to prevent you from sleeping through your alarm? Every morning, my alarm goes off and I half sleep through it for another hour,even after a good night's sleep. I just cannot bring myself out of bed and it's stopping me from doing things I need to like shower and cook because I have school. I've tried moving it farther so I have to get out of bed and apps that make you solve math problems but after a while my body just learned to tune it out. On the rare occasions I don't fall back asleep, I just lay in bed, too tired and comfortable to move or put down my phone. What can I do to prevent this? ", "What are some tricks you can use to prevent you from sleeping through your alarm? Every morning, my alarm goes off and I half sleep through it for another hour,even after a good night's sleep. I just cannot bring myself out of bed and it's stopping me from doing things I need to like shower and cook because I have school. I've tried moving it farther so I have to get out of bed and apps that make you solve math problems but after a while my body just learned to tune it out. On the rare occasions I don't fall back asleep, I just lay in bed, too tired and comfortable to move or put down my phone. What can I do to prevent this? ", "What are some tricks you can use to prevent you from sleeping through your alarm? Every morning, my alarm goes off and I half sleep through it for another hour,even after a good night's sleep. I just cannot bring myself out of bed and it's stopping me from doing things I need to like shower and cook because I have school. I've tried moving it farther so I have to get out of bed and apps that make you solve math problems but after a while my body just learned to tune it out. On the rare occasions I don't fall back asleep, I just lay in bed, too tired and comfortable to move or put down my phone. What can I do to prevent this? ", "What are some tricks you can use to prevent you from sleeping through your alarm? Every morning, my alarm goes off and I half sleep through it for another hour,even after a good night's sleep. I just cannot bring myself out of bed and it's stopping me from doing things I need to like shower and cook because I have school. I've tried moving it farther so I have to get out of bed and apps that make you solve math problems but after a while my body just learned to tune it out. On the rare occasions I don't fall back asleep, I just lay in bed, too tired and comfortable to move or put down my phone. What can I do to prevent this? ", "What are some tricks you can use to prevent you from sleeping through your alarm? Every morning, my alarm goes off and I half sleep through it for another hour,even after a good night's sleep. I just cannot bring myself out of bed and it's stopping me from doing things I need to like shower and cook because I have school. I've tried moving it farther so I have to get out of bed and apps that make you solve math problems but after a while my body just learned to tune it out. On the rare occasions I don't fall back asleep, I just lay in bed, too tired and comfortable to move or put down my phone. What can I do to prevent this? ", "What are some tricks you can use to prevent you from sleeping through your alarm? Every morning, my alarm goes off and I half sleep through it for another hour,even after a good night's sleep. I just cannot bring myself out of bed and it's stopping me from doing things I need to like shower and cook because I have school. I've tried moving it farther so I have to get out of bed and apps that make you solve math problems but after a while my body just learned to tune it out. On the rare occasions I don't fall back asleep, I just lay in bed, too tired and comfortable to move or put down my phone. What can I do to prevent this? ", "What are some tricks you can use to prevent you from sleeping through your alarm? Every morning, my alarm goes off and I half sleep through it for another hour,even after a good night's sleep. I just cannot bring myself out of bed and it's stopping me from doing things I need to like shower and cook because I have school. I've tried moving it farther so I have to get out of bed and apps that make you solve math problems but after a while my body just learned to tune it out. On the rare occasions I don't fall back asleep, I just lay in bed, too tired and comfortable to move or put down my phone. What can I do to prevent this? ", "What are some tricks you can use to prevent you from sleeping through your alarm? Every morning, my alarm goes off and I half sleep through it for another hour,even after a good night's sleep. I just cannot bring myself out of bed and it's stopping me from doing things I need to like shower and cook because I have school. I've tried moving it farther so I have to get out of bed and apps that make you solve math problems but after a while my body just learned to tune it out. On the rare occasions I don't fall back asleep, I just lay in bed, too tired and comfortable to move or put down my phone. What can I do to prevent this? ", "What are some tricks you can use to prevent you from sleeping through your alarm? Every morning, my alarm goes off and I half sleep through it for another hour,even after a good night's sleep. I just cannot bring myself out of bed and it's stopping me from doing things I need to like shower and cook because I have school. I've tried moving it farther so I have to get out of bed and apps that make you solve math problems but after a while my body just learned to tune it out. On the rare occasions I don't fall back asleep, I just lay in bed, too tired and comfortable to move or put down my phone. What can I do to prevent this? " ]

[ "This worked for me in HS....but here is a modern adaptation:\n\nPair your phone to a bluetooth speaker before you go to bed, and make sure the volume is up pretty loud.\n\nSet your alarm ringtone to Fuel by Metallica.\n\nPrepare to be woken the FUCK up.", "If you drink coffee, a coffee pot with a timer has helped me. The smell makes me want to get up.\n\nOther options might be to name your alarm with something you're excited for that day. Or maybe add an enjoyable activity to your morning routine, so you want to get up.\n\nI second the idea of changing your alarms every so often, too. Pick songs that pump you up or excite you.", "multiple alarms set for different times rather than just using a snooze button, and spread them as far from your bed as possible so you have to really make an effort to turn them off. If that doesn't cut it, get a sunrise simulator light.", "I have alarms on both my phone and an actual alarm clock. The alarm clock is set on the other side of the room so I have to get up to turn in off. My phone alarms start going off about a half hour before I actually intend to get up. My phone alarms are set to go off every 15 minutes with a 5 minute snooze, from that early half hour to the time I actually need to leave the house. Every 15 minutes the song used as an alarm changes (so I don't get used to the song going off). My new phone has the option that it will actually read the time when the alarm goes off, so I always have an update on how much I've overslept. My Fitbit has an alarm on it so it vibrates on my wrist about the time I'm actually looking to get up. And my alarm clock goes off 7 days a week, so my system is used to getting up at that time every single day, even if just for a minute. \n\nObviously, I'm really good at sleeping. ", "Have you ever tried one of those wake up lights? They may help your body adjust to waking up in a more gentle way that may prevent you falling asleep again. \nIn maybe another vain and meant in the most supportive way: have you ever had depressed moods or such? Mental processes can influence these morning routines and can have serious physical manifestations. \n", "Go to bed earlier. You can also make sure your alarm is out of arms reach so you have to leave your bed to turn it off. As for the laying in bed part- that's just pure laziness. If you're aware enough to understand you're awake then gtf out of bed. ", "When I was in high school and college, I had an alarm clock (a real alarm clock, not a phone) that was loud and shrill. I *hated* the sound it made, which made getting up very easy. I also placed it on the opposite side of the room, so I'd be forced to get up.\n\nHopefully you find something that work for you!", "Use a sleep cycle alarm clock. There are many free or cheap phone apps for this. The app monitors you all night (yes, it's creepy) either with the microphone or accelerometer, and determines your sleep cycles based on how much you're moving around. Instead of setting the alarm at a specific time, you set a time window, and the app will wake you up at the lightest stage of sleep--it's easier and faster to wake up from lighter stages of sleep than from deeper stages--during the window you've set.\n\nBe advised, though, that these apps don't work for everyone, according to the reviews. Some say that sleep cycle alarms are helpful, others that they aren't. So apparently it's a hit-and-miss strategy, but I'd say it's worth trying.", "In addition to going to bed earlier, put a lamp on a timer, and have it turn on 10 or 15 minutes before the alarm.", "How about practice? Go lay down in bed, set your alarm for a minute, and immediately get up when it goes off. Repeat this several times a day until you do it without thinking. Next time the alarm goes off, habit itself might get you up, which then makes it a little harder to go back to sleep. May seem ludicrous, but habits are powerful" ]

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[ "How to stop thinking of myself in public. Without meaning to, I often have fleeting thoughts of myself, my words, my appearance, etc. And I'd rather not. It's annoying being so consistantly aware of myself. As a whole I am a confident person, but I still find myself too self aware.", "How to stop thinking of myself in public. Without meaning to, I often have fleeting thoughts of myself, my words, my appearance, etc. And I'd rather not. It's annoying being so consistantly aware of myself. As a whole I am a confident person, but I still find myself too self aware.", "How to stop thinking of myself in public. Without meaning to, I often have fleeting thoughts of myself, my words, my appearance, etc. And I'd rather not. It's annoying being so consistantly aware of myself. As a whole I am a confident person, but I still find myself too self aware.", "How to stop thinking of myself in public. Without meaning to, I often have fleeting thoughts of myself, my words, my appearance, etc. And I'd rather not. It's annoying being so consistantly aware of myself. As a whole I am a confident person, but I still find myself too self aware.", "How to stop thinking of myself in public. Without meaning to, I often have fleeting thoughts of myself, my words, my appearance, etc. And I'd rather not. It's annoying being so consistantly aware of myself. As a whole I am a confident person, but I still find myself too self aware.", "How to stop thinking of myself in public. Without meaning to, I often have fleeting thoughts of myself, my words, my appearance, etc. And I'd rather not. It's annoying being so consistantly aware of myself. As a whole I am a confident person, but I still find myself too self aware.", "How to stop thinking of myself in public. Without meaning to, I often have fleeting thoughts of myself, my words, my appearance, etc. And I'd rather not. It's annoying being so consistantly aware of myself. As a whole I am a confident person, but I still find myself too self aware." ]

[ "I think about how other people probably are too worried about their own insecurities that they don't even notice", "I do this too, so irritating...\n\nLike if I say something to someone (could be anything) I'll replay the scenario in my head over and over, worrying about how I said something, or say if you walk past some people and they happen to laugh and you think it's that they're laughing at you... I need help. ", "Are you a teenager? I think it's just a natural thing that you get past eventually.\n\nhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/09/teens-self-conscious-brain_n_3536388.html", "I'm 24 and used to think about this a lot at work events, on trains, etc. Seeking counseling is definitely not the solution to minor self consciousness. Every person has to learn to develop a sense of confidence over time, but an immediate response can come by thinking about how you would like to present yourself and doing just that. For example, if you want to look and feel more confident, standing or sitting with good posture can help immensely. Learn a bit about body language and try not to second guess yourself.\nIf I ever find myself in my own head, I go through a little checklist to stand (or sit) up straight, etc. and usually stop worrying so much straight away.", "Constantly engage in a critique of capitalist culture and commodities while in public.\n\nYou will get a humongous righteousness boner and become a crusader for the oppressed with no sense of self-awareness while being entirely convinced you are on the right side of history.\n\nI say this only half jokingly.", "I think about how other people probably are too worried about their own insecurities that they don't even notice", "Focus on walking with a straight posture and a confident gait. Watch videos of actors or something, have an image to emulate and model how to speak and behave." ]

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[ "How to fix a broken sleeping pattern. Well it's currently 3:35am in the UK, and I can't sleep for shit. University is starting in a few weeks and I have exams. I have, over the Christmas holidays, gotten into the bad habit cycle of late nights/late rises. What's the best way to transition into a more sensible pattern?", "How to fix a broken sleeping pattern. Well it's currently 3:35am in the UK, and I can't sleep for shit. University is starting in a few weeks and I have exams. I have, over the Christmas holidays, gotten into the bad habit cycle of late nights/late rises. What's the best way to transition into a more sensible pattern?", "How to fix a broken sleeping pattern. Well it's currently 3:35am in the UK, and I can't sleep for shit. University is starting in a few weeks and I have exams. I have, over the Christmas holidays, gotten into the bad habit cycle of late nights/late rises. What's the best way to transition into a more sensible pattern?", "How to fix a broken sleeping pattern. Well it's currently 3:35am in the UK, and I can't sleep for shit. University is starting in a few weeks and I have exams. I have, over the Christmas holidays, gotten into the bad habit cycle of late nights/late rises. What's the best way to transition into a more sensible pattern?", "How to fix a broken sleeping pattern. Well it's currently 3:35am in the UK, and I can't sleep for shit. University is starting in a few weeks and I have exams. I have, over the Christmas holidays, gotten into the bad habit cycle of late nights/late rises. What's the best way to transition into a more sensible pattern?", "How to fix a broken sleeping pattern. Well it's currently 3:35am in the UK, and I can't sleep for shit. University is starting in a few weeks and I have exams. I have, over the Christmas holidays, gotten into the bad habit cycle of late nights/late rises. What's the best way to transition into a more sensible pattern?", "How to fix a broken sleeping pattern. Well it's currently 3:35am in the UK, and I can't sleep for shit. University is starting in a few weeks and I have exams. I have, over the Christmas holidays, gotten into the bad habit cycle of late nights/late rises. What's the best way to transition into a more sensible pattern?", "How to fix a broken sleeping pattern. Well it's currently 3:35am in the UK, and I can't sleep for shit. University is starting in a few weeks and I have exams. I have, over the Christmas holidays, gotten into the bad habit cycle of late nights/late rises. What's the best way to transition into a more sensible pattern?", "How to fix a broken sleeping pattern. Well it's currently 3:35am in the UK, and I can't sleep for shit. University is starting in a few weeks and I have exams. I have, over the Christmas holidays, gotten into the bad habit cycle of late nights/late rises. What's the best way to transition into a more sensible pattern?" ]

[ "I had the same problem, I found forcing myself to stay in bed bored broke my waking up in the middle of the night. Don't get up and watch tv, that's like rewarding your brain for misbehaving", "The easiest way (imo) is a variation of what gets posted here, and for me it's based on several years of being a night owl.\n\nI never end up giving enough fucks to stay awake an entire day on just 2 hours of sleep, so it'll be something like this:\n\nGo to sleep at 6AM. \nWake up at 8AM. \nGo to sleep again at 9AM, because I am fucking tired. \n\nSo instead, what works best for me is to just stay up around the clock. If you're already awake the small hours of the morning, just stay up until some time past dinner and then go to sleep. Works like a charm for me, every time.", "[LPT](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/meaq9/the_real_quick_fix_to_get_your_fucked_up_sleep/) same advice [other source](http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-naturally-reset-your-sleep-cycle-overnight)\n\n> Stop eating. Right now. Fast until the time when you want to wake up, say, 7am. Go to sleep whenever you want but force yourself to wake up at 7am.\n\n>At 7am go to a window where you can see the sun and look at it (not directly! but get the sun in your field of vision). Then eat a complete, healthy breakfast", "There are a few ways to do it. you can go one hour earlier at a time. or just go for the time you want to wake up at, as long as you wake up when your alarm goes off and don't go back to sleep after. or you can try another way i can't guarantee will work, skip a night of sleep then go to bed the following evening at a normal time. But I recommend one of the first 2.", "I drink a full liter of water before going to bed. This does one of two things: 1. makes me need to piss so bad in the morning that I wake up and get out of bed, or 2. if my circadian rhythm's fucked up, it'll wake me to piss at 2am and I pass right back out after relieving myself.", "[Chronotherapy](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleep_phase_chronotherapy). After that, maintain a healthy sleep pattern by waking/sleeping at the proper time.\n\nTL;DR: Stay up 1 or 2 hours later every day until you're on the right schedule.", "The way I've found to work best is to just wright off one night. Stay up the whole night, eat at the time that you want to wake up, and keep active through the next day. Go to bed at a reasonable time and set your alarm for when you need to wake up, stretch and go sit in the sun and eat an apple. Do the wake up and eat in through sun bit for a couple of days and you'll be set\n\nAlso NO NAPPING. Napping is the devil", "Stay awake 36+ hours, go to bed 8 hours before you want to wake up.\n\nFor maintenance, keep 5 Hour Energy next to your bed stand and drink some when the alarm goes off. Face bed east with blinds open.", "Go to bed during the middle of the day. Force yourself to sleep (reading helps me). You'll wake up constantly, and it'll be pretty shitty sleep, but it means you'll crash later on in the day.\n\nIt's what's got me on track for starting a new job tomorrow." ]

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[ "how to stop uselessly browsing the web at work? I'm supposed to spend my hours there making money and not to watch cat videos. But I just can't resist.", "how to stop uselessly browsing the web at work? I'm supposed to spend my hours there making money and not to watch cat videos. But I just can't resist." ]

[ "Do both with the [Pomodoro method](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pomodoro_Technique#Underlying_principles). \\[Wikipedia link\\]", "Add the line 0.0.0.0 www.reddit.com to the hosts file on your computer to temporarily block reddit (or any site) on your computer.\n\nHow to " ]

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[ "Is it beneficial to think less about certain, smaller things in life or does the struggle improve a person in the long run? ", "Is it beneficial to think less about certain, smaller things in life or does the struggle improve a person in the long run? ", "Is it beneficial to think less about certain, smaller things in life or does the struggle improve a person in the long run? " ]

[ "If thinking about it won't change anything then there's no point thinking about it. \n\nThe stuff you do think about needs to be action based. Lose the words, should, hope, wish, etc.... Those words mean you've made a decision not to make a decision. Replace them with \"how can I\". This has a two pronged effect. First it gets you thinking of solutions. Second you will learn about yourself.", "There are so many things in life that are unimportant. The trick is figuring out what things are important and what things are not. This is an entirely personal process. You have to figure it out on your own. So, [cheer up Brian, you know what they say.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WlBiLNN1NhQ)", "I was just questioning this today! Woah. \nI think it depends on how you frame the thoughts in your mind. If it's something that brings you anxiety, thinking about that thing would make you more stressed and take its toll on your body. Some things, though anxiety-inducing, may need to be thought about, just with the right mindset. Something that has helped with my mental clarity is not dragging out decisions and being more present. " ]

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[ "Shaving every day Hey guys. I am 19 and tend to not shave every day because Ill get lazy or just not want to before going to class. However, I am soon going to be going into a professional career where I am required to shave every day. I have been trying to lately, but my skin just cant take it. On the second day in a row, it burns and hurts like no other. \nYes I use aftershave lotion after I shave, but it doesnt help. What can you guys recommend? ", "Shaving every day Hey guys. I am 19 and tend to not shave every day because Ill get lazy or just not want to before going to class. However, I am soon going to be going into a professional career where I am required to shave every day. I have been trying to lately, but my skin just cant take it. On the second day in a row, it burns and hurts like no other. \nYes I use aftershave lotion after I shave, but it doesnt help. What can you guys recommend? ", "Shaving every day Hey guys. I am 19 and tend to not shave every day because Ill get lazy or just not want to before going to class. However, I am soon going to be going into a professional career where I am required to shave every day. I have been trying to lately, but my skin just cant take it. On the second day in a row, it burns and hurts like no other. \nYes I use aftershave lotion after I shave, but it doesnt help. What can you guys recommend? ", "Shaving every day Hey guys. I am 19 and tend to not shave every day because Ill get lazy or just not want to before going to class. However, I am soon going to be going into a professional career where I am required to shave every day. I have been trying to lately, but my skin just cant take it. On the second day in a row, it burns and hurts like no other. \nYes I use aftershave lotion after I shave, but it doesnt help. What can you guys recommend? ", "Shaving every day Hey guys. I am 19 and tend to not shave every day because Ill get lazy or just not want to before going to class. However, I am soon going to be going into a professional career where I am required to shave every day. I have been trying to lately, but my skin just cant take it. On the second day in a row, it burns and hurts like no other. \nYes I use aftershave lotion after I shave, but it doesnt help. What can you guys recommend? ", "Shaving every day Hey guys. I am 19 and tend to not shave every day because Ill get lazy or just not want to before going to class. However, I am soon going to be going into a professional career where I am required to shave every day. I have been trying to lately, but my skin just cant take it. On the second day in a row, it burns and hurts like no other. \nYes I use aftershave lotion after I shave, but it doesnt help. What can you guys recommend? ", "Shaving every day Hey guys. I am 19 and tend to not shave every day because Ill get lazy or just not want to before going to class. However, I am soon going to be going into a professional career where I am required to shave every day. I have been trying to lately, but my skin just cant take it. On the second day in a row, it burns and hurts like no other. \nYes I use aftershave lotion after I shave, but it doesnt help. What can you guys recommend? ", "Shaving every day Hey guys. I am 19 and tend to not shave every day because Ill get lazy or just not want to before going to class. However, I am soon going to be going into a professional career where I am required to shave every day. I have been trying to lately, but my skin just cant take it. On the second day in a row, it burns and hurts like no other. \nYes I use aftershave lotion after I shave, but it doesnt help. What can you guys recommend? ", "Shaving every day Hey guys. I am 19 and tend to not shave every day because Ill get lazy or just not want to before going to class. However, I am soon going to be going into a professional career where I am required to shave every day. I have been trying to lately, but my skin just cant take it. On the second day in a row, it burns and hurts like no other. \nYes I use aftershave lotion after I shave, but it doesnt help. What can you guys recommend? ", "Shaving every day Hey guys. I am 19 and tend to not shave every day because Ill get lazy or just not want to before going to class. However, I am soon going to be going into a professional career where I am required to shave every day. I have been trying to lately, but my skin just cant take it. On the second day in a row, it burns and hurts like no other. \nYes I use aftershave lotion after I shave, but it doesnt help. What can you guys recommend? ", "Shaving every day Hey guys. I am 19 and tend to not shave every day because Ill get lazy or just not want to before going to class. However, I am soon going to be going into a professional career where I am required to shave every day. I have been trying to lately, but my skin just cant take it. On the second day in a row, it burns and hurts like no other. \nYes I use aftershave lotion after I shave, but it doesnt help. What can you guys recommend? ", "Shaving every day Hey guys. I am 19 and tend to not shave every day because Ill get lazy or just not want to before going to class. However, I am soon going to be going into a professional career where I am required to shave every day. I have been trying to lately, but my skin just cant take it. On the second day in a row, it burns and hurts like no other. \nYes I use aftershave lotion after I shave, but it doesnt help. What can you guys recommend? " ]

[ "Cartridge razors always give me razor burn no matter what I do. However a few months ago I switched to using a safety razor and while there was a learning curve, once my technique got better there was no burn or nicks.\n\nYou might want to check out [/r/wicked_edge](/r/wicked_edge) and see if it's something you'd like to try.\n\n", "http://www.reddit.com/r/wicked_edge/\n\nAfter checking that out, I will tell you that I have sensitive skin and had problems shaving until I just switched from canned shaving cream to an all natural shave cream from burt's bees. I just use a gillete pro-glide razor and shave in short slow strokes. I shave every day because I am in the military and holy shit boot camp was terrible. They force you to use this gel shit out of a can and my skin burned the entire time. \n\nAlso, I only shave down, but no one can really tell because I have light hair, but in a civilian job that should be fine, so don't worry about shaving against the grain.", "i use shaving oil, something like total shaving or king of shave - http://www.totalshave.com/ - which I find better than stuff from a can.\n\nI dont use after shave, but have a good mostuirizer suitable for my skin type which I use on days I shave and days i dont shave. Go get a facial and ask about mosturizer and razor burn problems.\n\nwould also second shaving in the shower and only shaving with the grain.\n\n", "Instead of using anything type of shaving cream, purchase these two things: Extra Virgin Olive Oil and Virgin Coconut Oil. The EVVO works great as a shaving oil and the VCO works great as a after shave. ", "I had the same problem for years. A friend suggested [this shaving gel](http://www.arbonne.ca/products/anti-aging/nutrimenc/shave.asp) and I thought it sounded like bullshit at $26 but I tried it anyway. I've been using it for 2 years now and I won't touch anything else. One bottle lasts me about 3 months and I love it so much I get pissed off when I travel because I usually have to bring one of those small bottles of some inferior shaving cream. ", "[Put This On](http://vimeo.com/19776966) has a short video guide to shaving with a safety razor while using shaving cream.\n\nI shave every day with a good wet-dry electric shaver (linear, not rotary) and [Proraso](http://www.amazon.com/Proraso-Shaving-Cream-5-2-147/dp/B000RI8BZQ/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1325383336&sr=8-1) shaving cream. Proraso costs about half as much as the Burt's Bees, and Proraso is the standard shaving cream for lots of barber shops.\n\nAfter I shave, I use a face moisturizer. Shaving takes a lot of skin off and irritates your face. Aftershave tends to dry skin out.", "Wash your face immediately before shaving, it softens your skin up and makes it more pliable. Use a shaving cream with aloe or menthol in it. Don't use shaving gel; it is shit. Keep shaving every day (even on weekends); after a week or two, you will no longer get razor burn.", "The Blade doesn't matter as long as it is sharp... here is how to do it right!\n\n1) Take a warm shower or place a towel rinsed in hot water on your beard for about two minutes.\n\n2) USE SHAVING OIL! There are plenty on the market, but the best thing if you can get it is pure Jojoba oil. Use about a pea size drop and massage it into your beard and skin.\n\n3) Use a shaving soap like Williams Mug soap. Apply liberally with a brush.\n\n4) Shave in long smooth strokes while stretching the skin. DO NOT shave against the grain. Rinse the blade after every stroke.\n\n5) Rinse with cold water. DO NOT USE alcohol based after-shave! Find a good moisturizer instead.", "Razor burn is created when blades pull at your skin to cut hair (instead of slicing through the hair). There are a few ways to stop razor burn: switch up your technique; change your razor to a safety or straight razor (which will also force you to change your technique); or use aftershave, which is a tonic solution specifically designed to combat razor burn and hydrate your skin. I did all three and use a straight razor with some aftershave I bought on etsy. Cartridge razors are terrible for your skin if you have sensitive skin (like I do). I realized that it was worth it to spend a little extra money and start taking care of the skin on my face and haven't looked back since. Straight razors offer a fantastic shave, severely decrease the risk of razor burn, you don't have to keep buying and throwing away blades, and, of course, you look like a fucking bad ass.\n\nIf you have to look nice, make the effort. *Especially* if your skin doesn't take well to cartridge shaving.\n\nAlso, to all gentlemen with sensitive skin: stay away from fragranced shaving cream. Most regular, store-bought creams are have fragrances that are skin irritants.", "I have heard, but never tried... Hang a pair of jeans by your mirror, and run your disposible razor a few times down them (backwards) every time you shave to keep your razor's sharp. ANyone tried it?", "Get in the shower, use a face scub (Nivea has a good one), get on with the routine of soaping up, scrubbing, shampoo, conditioner, fap, pee in the drain, contemplate the universe. then use a good shaving soap with a brush and a new razor and a no fog mirror. \n\nSuccess!", "Try using cold water. Keeps my skin tight so the razor cuts the hair, not my skin. I just got a great electric razor for the holidays though so I've been going that route. It's not the closest but it's close enough. " ]

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[ "how to remind myself to take vitamine every OTHER day? I need to take one drop of Vitamine D3/K2 every 2 days. The bottle must be stored in a fridge. I'm looking for tips to help me remind myself to take it every other day. I will have to take it for about 3 months.\n\nAny suggestion is appreciated.", "how to remind myself to take vitamine every OTHER day? I need to take one drop of Vitamine D3/K2 every 2 days. The bottle must be stored in a fridge. I'm looking for tips to help me remind myself to take it every other day. I will have to take it for about 3 months.\n\nAny suggestion is appreciated.", "how to remind myself to take vitamine every OTHER day? I need to take one drop of Vitamine D3/K2 every 2 days. The bottle must be stored in a fridge. I'm looking for tips to help me remind myself to take it every other day. I will have to take it for about 3 months.\n\nAny suggestion is appreciated.", "how to remind myself to take vitamine every OTHER day? I need to take one drop of Vitamine D3/K2 every 2 days. The bottle must be stored in a fridge. I'm looking for tips to help me remind myself to take it every other day. I will have to take it for about 3 months.\n\nAny suggestion is appreciated.", "how to remind myself to take vitamine every OTHER day? I need to take one drop of Vitamine D3/K2 every 2 days. The bottle must be stored in a fridge. I'm looking for tips to help me remind myself to take it every other day. I will have to take it for about 3 months.\n\nAny suggestion is appreciated.", "how to remind myself to take vitamine every OTHER day? I need to take one drop of Vitamine D3/K2 every 2 days. The bottle must be stored in a fridge. I'm looking for tips to help me remind myself to take it every other day. I will have to take it for about 3 months.\n\nAny suggestion is appreciated.", "how to remind myself to take vitamine every OTHER day? I need to take one drop of Vitamine D3/K2 every 2 days. The bottle must be stored in a fridge. I'm looking for tips to help me remind myself to take it every other day. I will have to take it for about 3 months.\n\nAny suggestion is appreciated.", "how to remind myself to take vitamine every OTHER day? I need to take one drop of Vitamine D3/K2 every 2 days. The bottle must be stored in a fridge. I'm looking for tips to help me remind myself to take it every other day. I will have to take it for about 3 months.\n\nAny suggestion is appreciated." ]

[ "On top of the apps and reminders, you could get another supplement or a placebo like juice to take every other day and switch between the two by moving one behind the other. That way you'll be in the habit of taking something every day while keeping track of off days", "Reminder on your phone, ask alexa to remind you...\n\nBut thank you for reminding me to take MY vitamins this morning.:P", "Keep it next to something you use from the refrigerator everyday. Hang/stick a small monthly calendar on the fridge to keep track of the days you took and need to take the drop.", "Get a weekly pill container, put an aspirin, or something in every second day, every day look at the container, if there’s an aspirin in that day, go to the fridge and take your dose. At the end of the week, rinse and repeat.", "Find something you do every day and put that thing in the fridge. Take meds every other time you grab your car key/floss/prep coffee/etc.", "Phone reminder or hang a calendar on the fridge with a pen next to it. Draw a little pill (or other symbol) for each day you need to take the drops. Then once you have taken them use the pen to draw a cross over the symbol. \n\nAssuming you open your fridge multiple times a day it should make sure you see the calendar and quickly see wether or not you need to take the drops that day and wether or not you have done so already.", "Most phone alarms or calendar apps should be able to do reminders on the dates you need to take it.\n\nAnother general tip. If at some point during the day you remember you need to take the drop (but it's not time to take the drop), but an item in the wrong place somewhere you will see it and need to move it. For example, if you need to take the drop before bed, put a tissue box on your pillow. When you see the tissue box, you will remember \"Oh yeah, I need to take my drop\".", "I believe there are pill apps that can help with this.. you set when you take something and check off when you take it." ]

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[ "Preventing Spiders from Inhabiting Areas I live in an apartment complex in Chicago, IL on the 7th floor. \n\nFor some reason my balcony has become a spider hangout and being a cliche redditor THIS TERRIFIES ME. \n\nI want my balcony back! Any tips or products to help reduce the population of these arachnid foes?", "Preventing Spiders from Inhabiting Areas I live in an apartment complex in Chicago, IL on the 7th floor. \n\nFor some reason my balcony has become a spider hangout and being a cliche redditor THIS TERRIFIES ME. \n\nI want my balcony back! Any tips or products to help reduce the population of these arachnid foes?", "Preventing Spiders from Inhabiting Areas I live in an apartment complex in Chicago, IL on the 7th floor. \n\nFor some reason my balcony has become a spider hangout and being a cliche redditor THIS TERRIFIES ME. \n\nI want my balcony back! Any tips or products to help reduce the population of these arachnid foes?", "Preventing Spiders from Inhabiting Areas I live in an apartment complex in Chicago, IL on the 7th floor. \n\nFor some reason my balcony has become a spider hangout and being a cliche redditor THIS TERRIFIES ME. \n\nI want my balcony back! Any tips or products to help reduce the population of these arachnid foes?", "Preventing Spiders from Inhabiting Areas I live in an apartment complex in Chicago, IL on the 7th floor. \n\nFor some reason my balcony has become a spider hangout and being a cliche redditor THIS TERRIFIES ME. \n\nI want my balcony back! Any tips or products to help reduce the population of these arachnid foes?", "Preventing Spiders from Inhabiting Areas I live in an apartment complex in Chicago, IL on the 7th floor. \n\nFor some reason my balcony has become a spider hangout and being a cliche redditor THIS TERRIFIES ME. \n\nI want my balcony back! Any tips or products to help reduce the population of these arachnid foes?" ]

[ "we get spiders in our home once in a while and get hedgeballs from the produce section of the grocery store. as far as i know that is their only purpose. about the size of a large orange, green and bumpy.", "You could go /r/biology on their asses and introduce harvestmen. Was this in response to that one post about brown recluses?", "They are probably coming to eat the insects that are attracted to the light coming out your windows at night. Reduce thier food supply by drawing the blinds. ", "It's actually a species of spiders that float in the wind. It's why there was an alert in Chicago earlier this summer with most offices having to keep their windows closed. It's a major infestation problem at the moment.", "Harvestmen are actually not spiders but will kill all spiders. House centipedes look like the devil's minions but will kill all spiders and unwanteds. Pedro may look small but that hispanic man can jump and swat a spider off your ceiling for pennies on the dollar.", "Turn off your porch landing light unless you are out and coming back or out on the porch. A lot of spiders are hunters and since light attracts bugs, it will attract spiders.\n\nAlso, check google of some oil-based natural spider repellants (usually citrus extract type) that will drive them away and make your landing smell nice." ]

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[ "Saving money grocery shopping As a newly wed with an apartment bill to pay and other life expenses, I'd like to know what type of rules you guys follow for getting the best out of your grocery shopping without breaking the bank!", "Saving money grocery shopping As a newly wed with an apartment bill to pay and other life expenses, I'd like to know what type of rules you guys follow for getting the best out of your grocery shopping without breaking the bank!", "Saving money grocery shopping As a newly wed with an apartment bill to pay and other life expenses, I'd like to know what type of rules you guys follow for getting the best out of your grocery shopping without breaking the bank!", "Saving money grocery shopping As a newly wed with an apartment bill to pay and other life expenses, I'd like to know what type of rules you guys follow for getting the best out of your grocery shopping without breaking the bank!" ]

[ "If you live in a metropolitan area most ethnic (asian, latino) places are great to get cheap staples like rice, beans, veggies, but never skimp on meat. Go to a main supermarket, not walmart, for meat and fish. If you have Aldi or Trader Joes in your area check them out.\n\nDried beans take forever to cook /\n\nchicken thighs are delicious and cheap /\n\nwhen buying ground beef look for \"store scraps\" on the label, sounds gross but it's left over from the butcher, not pink slime in a tube.", "Go after you've eaten, not when you're hungry.\n\nBuy rice in big ass bags.\n\nBuy dried beans, not canned.\n\n", "Fina an ethnic grocery store (Asian, Mexican...)\n\nBuy in bulk (they have 25 lb bags of rice). Produce is usually A LOT cheaper, and you can find interesting foods.\n\nLimit the sauces you buy, and use spices instead. You pay more for water and glass, when you can make your own with a bit of vinegar/oil/sugar and spice.\n\nMake your own cookies from scratch. Flour + sugar is much less than a $5 bag of Oreos, and taste so much better.", "Always check out the price per ounce that is required to be on the shelf tag. Always buy what is cheapest per ounce of course!" ]

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[ "when you don't feel like doing anything at all, how do you get out of this predicament? Like internally you want to do something productive or even fun but you just can't for lack of a better term, it happens to me sometimes and I find myself wasting weekends holidays etc , so much wasted potential, I hate it.", "when you don't feel like doing anything at all, how do you get out of this predicament? Like internally you want to do something productive or even fun but you just can't for lack of a better term, it happens to me sometimes and I find myself wasting weekends holidays etc , so much wasted potential, I hate it.", "when you don't feel like doing anything at all, how do you get out of this predicament? Like internally you want to do something productive or even fun but you just can't for lack of a better term, it happens to me sometimes and I find myself wasting weekends holidays etc , so much wasted potential, I hate it.", "when you don't feel like doing anything at all, how do you get out of this predicament? Like internally you want to do something productive or even fun but you just can't for lack of a better term, it happens to me sometimes and I find myself wasting weekends holidays etc , so much wasted potential, I hate it.", "when you don't feel like doing anything at all, how do you get out of this predicament? Like internally you want to do something productive or even fun but you just can't for lack of a better term, it happens to me sometimes and I find myself wasting weekends holidays etc , so much wasted potential, I hate it.", "when you don't feel like doing anything at all, how do you get out of this predicament? Like internally you want to do something productive or even fun but you just can't for lack of a better term, it happens to me sometimes and I find myself wasting weekends holidays etc , so much wasted potential, I hate it." ]

[ "Find something that takes less than 2 minutes. Do it - don't ask whether you want to or not. One foot in front of the other. ", "Do something. *Anything.* The smallest step toward your goal is often enough to get everything moving.", "My partner and I made a \"beat the blues\" jar for ourselves. We wrote out about 25 prompts of activities to do when we're struggling to get started on things or are having a really hard time getting ourselves motivated, and put them all in a jar. There's a mix of fun things, productive \"around the house/chores things\", active/workout things (for her, not me, as my physical health isn't great), etc. The rule is that we can pick a maximum of 5 out of the jar, but then we have to do two of them - that way if we take some out that we don't feel like doing, it's fine, but we can't use that as an excuse not to do anything. It's worked really well for us! Some of the activities we've put in are:\n\n- Go for a fifteen minute jog to the park and back\n\n- Set up a Skype date with someone you haven't spoken to in a while\n\n- Do a writing prompt\n\n- Do the dishes\n\n- Vacuum the hall and living room\n\n- Do a pilates & yoga workout\n\n- Do two Duolingo lessons and then send SO a flirty text in the language you're learning\n\n- Look up a fun recipe for tonight and go buy the ingredients for it\n\n- Read and annotate an academic article for your dissertation\n\n- Do a Coding Academy lesson\n\n- Do a 20-minute bootcamp workout on Youtube\n\n- Change the cat litter\n\n\nThere's a good mix of things so we usually find that we get stuff done that we enjoy as well as little household things that we know we need to get done but tend to procrastinate on otherwise :) We replenish the jar regularly.", "I second the \"just do something\" notion. Once you get started on something, whether you're enjoying it or not, the giant hurdle suddenly disappears. Fake it 'till you make it is a surprisingly effective strategy in just about every area of life, including this.", "You might be depressed. Maybe try going to therapy. \n\nOr are you doing a New Years resolution? You may be dealing with a difficult lifestyle change. ", "Let's say you want to do something productive for yourself or the house. Make a to do list for the activity and split the task in the smallest chunk possible. For example \"cook lunches for the week\" would be split like this : find recipe, write down ingredients, get ready to go out, take bags, go the store, buy containers, buy ingredients, put food away when you come back, cook food, clean kitchen, put food away in the fridge. \"Start new book project\" would go like this : prepare work station, open computer and the appropriate softwares, find references, write a basic skeleton for the text, split chapters into sections, split section into a couple of paragraphs, write book into pieces of 200-300 words at a time, revise.\n\nThe idea is when i feel unproductive I see the tasks in smaller steps. I might not be motivated to cook but I'm okay with getting dress and find a recipe. Or I might not want to do my personal project but I can open my computer and get ready to work. The idea is too see the task in 2 small minutes chunk and concentrate on each chunk rather then the whole thing. \n\nWriting lists is my way of procrastinating, but as soon as I want to get out of it I have a list of tiny tasks I can do that are uber easy to accomplish. " ]

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[ "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer.", "General maintenance & care for an aging Macbook. My Macbook is getting a little older (4 years old) and starting to slow down a little. It is the silver model that came out right before they all went to Pros, and I am running Mountain Lion 10.8.5. I haven't updated past 10.8.5, because I am afraid the new versions will put too much strain on the hardware and slow it down even more. \n\nIt has been great so far, and I would like to know the best ways to clean it up, keep it running well, and preserve its longevity, because I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years. I try to do little things to not stress it too much, but I was wondering if there are any advanced techniques or cleanup programs/apps that help remove the cobwebs & possibly speed it back up and/or keep it running longer." ]

[ "4 years old and original hard disk? Make sure you keep a strict backup schedule because hard drives don't last forever. If you were to upgrade the hard disk you'd have more storage and better performance, especially if you upgraded to a SSD.\n\nAs for longevity make sure there is ample air flow around and under the laptop so it can cool properly. If the fan is making a lot of noise or running full speed 24/7 it might be time to get the fan and heatsink inside cleaned (dusted off) otherwise I'd let it be. Don't go blowing compressed air into the cooling ducts as you'll force dirt into new and hard to reach areas, gotta open her up first before blowing out the crud. This doesn't apply to the keyboard though.\n\nThe newer versions of OS X run a little slower than the older ones, tis the nature of the beast as the code grows larger. I'd be reluctant to do too much when it is running properly. A system memory upgrade might be a good idea if you have never increased the amount but you didn't mention how much you had currently so I'm just guessing.\n\nBack in the day I used MacJanitor to clear temp files and such but that was on machines that got a lot of use ", "The (current) top comment from /u/vaginacuredbacon is excellent. Here are two general and lesser-known, but easy maintenance tips:\n\n1. Re-index your hard drive: Go to System Preferences>Spotlight and click on the Privacy Tab. In the bottom left hand corner, click the \"+\" button and select your hard drive (likely titled \"Macintosh HD\"). Click \"OK\" when it asks if you want to prevent Spotlight from searching this volume. As soon as it is added to the Privacy list, select it and click the \"-\" to remove it. Restart your computer. Upon restarting, if you click on Spotlight (the little search tool symbolized by a magnifying glass in the top right hand corner of your screen), you'll notice that it will say \"Re-indexing...\" at the bottom. Essentially, what it is doing is going through all of your files and making sure that the paths to find them are correct. \n\nImagine that you're a librarian in a huge library that is constantly adding books. After many years, you it's very possible that the catalog system is inaccurate, as new and returned books have been misplaced on the wrong shelves. Re-indexing your hard drive essentially goes through the catalog system and makes sure that all the books are in the right place, making it easier to search through your files.\n\n2. Disk and Permissions Repair: Open Disk Utility (Spotlight>type \"Disk Utility\"). Select your hard drive on the left hand side (it's probably the second item on the list, again, likely titled \"Macintosh HD\"). On the right side of the window, under the First Aid tab, you'll see four buttons: Verify Disk, Repair Disk, Verify Disk Permissions, Repair Disk Permissions. You can use the Verify features to check on the status of your hard drive and files. If it finds issues, you can use the Repair feature to rectify them.", "1. Save all of your import files that you want to keep on an external harddrive\n2. Re-install your OS using the CD that came in the box (This will make it almost as fast as it was when Macbook\n4. Enjoy a much faster and cleaner version of your Mac :)\n", "I was in a similar situation recently. If you haven't already, upgrading to the maximum amount of RAM is undoubtedly the best thing you can do. It will change your life. Like someone else said, buy it third party. There is a huge amount of information online about how to install the RAM yourself, what model RAM to buy, how much space your computer has, etc. Try http://www.everymac.com/ in particular.\n\n[Download Onyx](http://www.titanium.free.fr/downloadonyx.php), it can do a lot of cleanup and maintenance and also lets you access some nifty settings. Free.\n\n[Download GrandPerspective](http://grandperspective.en.softonic.com/mac/download) if you want to free up some hard disk space. This will show you where the big files are.\n\nAnd I agree that updating to Mavericks is a bad idea. Part of the problem I ended up needing to desperately do something on my Mac was because I updated to Mountain Lion and couldn't really handle it.", "If it is the sealed bottom unibody (not the trapdoor with the user replaceable battery) I will give you a big tip. \n\nIf your battery is \"consumed\" and needs replaced (noted either by number of charge cycles or overall battery health) It will clock the processors back to half-speed until a new battery is installed. This may be all you are experiencing.\n\nBeyond that, you could have a failing hard drive, or failing hard drive cable. Both VERY common in these models and your 4+ y/o age.\n\nIf you have any other questions, hit me up. I'm a certified Apple tech and I work on them every day.", "I have a 5 year old MacBook running strong. I replaced the hdd with an SSD, best upgrade ever. \n\nReinstall the OS from scratch, upgrade ram to 4gb, and seriously runs great. ", "Things running a bit slow? Can't be arsed to restart?\n\nIn terminal type purge, press enter and wait for a bit. This is the same as all those 'memory freeer programs'. Open up activity monitor and you can see the difference in RAM usage. While this isn't a cure all, it's great for when firefox gets carried away caching things.\n\n**MAX THE RAM**\n\nI would also pre-emptively change the HDD. 4 years is a good innings and there is better tech around these days. I put a hybrid one in my 2007 C2D macbook and this ma'fucker boots in 20 seconds. It struggles to do streaming video, photoshop and torrents at the same time. But this has only started being an issue in the last month. \n\n", "Go to System Preferences > Users & Groups > Login Items. Highlight and subtract any apps and utilities that you don't need running at all times (Spotify, Dropbox). Your computer will start up faster.", "Mine is 7 years old and works fantastically. \n\nI look after my computers well, though. Keep it clean, and treat it nicely are my two suggestions. Clean inside and out: get rid of programs/files you don't want, and keep stuff organized.", "Checking in from a 2007 macbook here. On my 3rd hard drive (SSD this time) maxed out in RAM (at 2GB) and OS upgraded as far as possible (10.7). Got a free battery a few years ago due to manufacturer defect on the old one (swelling) and a new case for the same reason (cracking). My computer is going strong and will make it at least (hopefully more than) another year. So, FYI, its possible. \n\nI don't understand why people say macs aren't built well because this is BY FAR the oldest computer I've had or known someone to have, and like I said its working well.", "This is what you need to upgrade:\n\n* Buy an SSD. They're pretty reasonably priced nowadays, and it will make your Mac much, much faster.\n* Max out the memory. Should take up to 8GB with two sticks.\n* Buy a new battery. Your old one is likely down to 70% capacity.\n* Do upgrade to Mavericks. I have it on my 2008 MBP and it works great. It runs noticeably faster than Mountain Lion.\n\nOther things:\n\n* Unless you use it often, consider removing the DVD/CD player and replacing it with a second hard drive. You can get a caddy off Amazon for about $10.\n* The heatsinks and fans are likely plugged up with dust. Clean those out when upgrading the memory.", "I have a 2008 Mac book running mountain lion. The only problems I get are periodic hanging and periodic overrunning of the fan. The machine is near perfect.", "What do you guys recommend? I have a 2008 mackbook aluminum.\n$149.99 -Crucial M500 240GB 2.5-inch Internal SSD. (Crucial M500 240GB SATA 6Gbps 2.5\" Internal SSD • 500 MBps Read / 250 MBps Write) \nOR\n$87 -Seagate Momentus HDD 1 TB SATA-300. 2.5\" (Serial ATA-300 • 5400 rpm • 300 MBps)", "Run time machine on an external drive, wipe your harddrive clean in disk utility and then reinstall the operating system. I did this a few weeks ago on my 4 year macbook and it is currently running mavericks without issue.", "I'm writing this on my trusty late 2008 MBP. About a year ago I threw out the CD drive and replaced it with a 80 gig SSD drive, that I use as the system and software drive. At the same time I upgraded the spinning drive to the then biggest 1 TB drive. Amazing what a speed boost that was. (I also maxed the memory to 8 GB).\n\nOn regular maintenance I can recommend running Applejack every few months to clear out all those tiny cache files. I would also always have TechToolPro and DiskWarrior nearby. Those are the best spent dollars/euros/whatevers if you use your Mac for anything remotely work related.\n\nI am still using this machine daily to do Lightroom work, and some video ", "I'm still using the white MacBook running lion from late 2007. Still beasting along like a champ. \n\nRecently I've decluttered a lot of old files to an external hard drive, maxed out the ram to 6gb, although only 4 is actually used I believe, and purchased a new charger because mine started to wear out after tons of use. \n\nI always make sure to shut it off if I'm not using it for long periods of time, and keep the keys and screen cleaned up. There are the usual cracks along the edges of they keyboard but that's mostly aesthetic which I don't care too much about. Overall it's been a damn good computer. Won't buy a new one until it kicks the bucket. Mostly I use it to browse the web, watch movies, listen to music. Nothing too intensive, but if I was more of a gamer I'd probably need something faster. ", "I seem to have way more processes running on my 2009 mbp than my girlfriend does on her 2013 mba and she has way more free ram\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for reducing the number of running processes?", "I have this same model of MacBook, and apart from the graphics, it's still doing great. I did feel like installing a SSD a while back (a Samsung 830 series 256GB), and I've upgraded the memory to 8GB (yes, it supports 8GB). I think this has allowed me to get the most out of Mac OS X 10.9. People are saying new OS's usually make your machine feel less responsive, but that hasn't been my experience. \n\nOther tips others have been mentioning are checking permissions, verifying the HD, removing unneeded software, setting up Time Machine properly and checking Activity Monitor for processes that look out of place and/or are using a lot of resources, and finding out how to get them to stop or removed (don't remove system software). \n\nI think I'll be using this laptop for another few years. It's a great model to have bought, because it's lasting so long. The new OS is probably the last update we'll get though, this is already the oldest MacBook to be supported by the newest OS. ", "I have the same model year as you (late 2008 aluminum unibody MacBook), and mine's running faster than it did out of the box. How? SSD. Installing a solid state drive makes a HUGE difference. Boot time went from 1:30 to 30 seconds flat (logged in and responsive). Programs open instantly when I click them. Everything is hyper-responsive in a way that's just not possible with a spinning disk. I also put 8gb of ram in, and notice that I regularly use most of that just running things like safari, mail, calendar, word, etc...\nI'm on Mavericks now, I don't notice it being any slower than snow leopard, though that's likely thanks to my SSD.\n\ntl;dr install an SSD\n\n", "I have a 17\"MBP late '06 model. I upgraded ram once and I've replaced my Hdd with a hybrid drive. It's been dropped more times than I can count even the body is bent so bad the lid barely closes. I've updated from tiger to snow leopard. Replaced the battery three years ago. It's running fine and I'm a guy that likes my porn. What are you doing to yours to slow it down?", "Consider installing Linux, but not for any fanboy nonsense reasons. \n\nMy 2010 mbp's GPU has suffered some failure just outside the warranty period, and I can't get snow leopard to run without preventing some graphics kext from loading. For whatever reason, Linux mint 15 runs without any problems though. I still have snow leopard for osx specific stuff but for internet/word processing/work I'm using Linux.\n\nI've also installed as much ram as possible and swapped my hard drive for a solid state drive. Both worth doing. Make a bootable backup using carbon copy cloner before messing around with anything!", "An SSD will work wonders, as well as 8 GB RAM. All silver models support 8 GB, but you may have to update the firmware for 8GB to be supported: Check here :\nhttp://blog.macsales.com/9102-secret-firmware-lets-late-08-macbooks-use-8gb \n\nAnd here: http://support.apple.com/kb/DL974", "Along with keeping meticulous backups, disassemble it and replace the heatpaste on the gpu and cpu heatsinks. ", "Zero out the hard drive and re-install the OS. Like this: [http://osxdaily.com/2012/07/25/how-to-clean-install-os-x-mountain-lion/](http://osxdaily.com/2012/07/25/how-to-clean-install-os-x-mountain-lion/)\n\nWorks for any OS", "What is the exact model number of the Macbook? I am having trouble looking up specs. \n\nThe reason I ask is that it is common for a new version of an OS to actually run smoother on some old hardware. For example I believe win8 actually runs faster that say vista on some machines. (faster=lighter and easier on hardware). \n\nAt the very least though, do a clean install of the OS that it currently has. This will take some time and it will mean wiping your entire drive of data (so MAKE A BACKUP!) but it is a sure fire way to make sure that nothing \"extra\" is installed on the machine. \n\nAs for general tips make sure that you care for the battery. Depending on the type of battery (again, idk the specs sorry) it may be better to do a full charge cycle (all the way down to all the way up) every month or so or it may be better to keep it at around 50% constantly. But battery care is important. \n\nAs for the cord, don't wrap it too tightly. Look [here](http://www.wired.com/gadgetlab/2013/12/tnhyui-macbook-powercord-wrapping/) for more onfo on that. Breaking the chord can damage the battery if there is a short and those chords are expensive.\n\nWhen it comes to programs, make sure that you don't have any unnecessary programs installed. This may not have an impact on the lifetime of the machine, but it can make it run faster. Uninstall all the programs that you do not use anymore. Don't feel like you have to do a full cleanse though if you don't want to. What I mean is that some programs just sit there nice and quietly and that is perfectly fine. The offenders that I am saying to uninstall are things that have background processes. \n\n(also, post this over on /r/techsupport or some other tech sub to get even more answers) \n\n", "Upgrade your RAM to 8gb if possible, 6gb at least.\n\nReplace your hard drive! Backups are important, but the best backup is not needing a backup. A solid-state drive will do wonders for your computer's performance.", "This thread makes me sad that my 2008 MacBook finally gave up the ghost and I'm getting a new one in a few days. I hope it has the same build quality as this last one!", "Something to keep in mind that most people seem to forget: while many programs aren't memory hogs or anything like that, they weren't designed for a 4 year old machine. They were designed for a current machine. Even if you reformatted the hard drive and reinstalled all of your programs, the modern equivalents will strain your computer more than the 4 year old versions. Little by little by little your old top of the line macbook will become a relic. Look at something as common as the internet. Did it become more complex and fancy simply because we didn't know how to program in the beginning? No. It became more fancy as the infrastructure and hardware running it improved. That's why now you have video ads on websites now that rival entire websites of the past. In general it is recommended that you consider replacing your computer every 5 years or so. Clean up the old computer, turn it into a dedicated word processor, classic game(not necessarily retro, just nothing much more modern than the system itself), or whatever machine and look into something else as your \"moving into the future\" machine. Understand the limits of your hardware and make the most of what you have, but don't expect a 4 year old machine to keep up for much longer.", "Not for performance actually, but for maintaining your battery you can calibrate it:\nhttp://support.apple.com/kb/ht1490", "New Battery, Put in an SSD, and max out the ram. Been using my mid-2009 and its snappy and haven't had a problem yet.", "Need to sleep. Commenting to read through this later. Have an old mac that I don't want to part with just yet. ", "I, too, am interested in this. Thanks for posting. ::adjusts books propping computer up to keep fan clear to prevent overheating::", "I'm not a Mac guy, but I've kept my wife's 2008 MacBook running pretty well. In the past year, when I realized she was having a few issues, I upgraded her to 4GB RAM, replaced her battery (both aftermarket), cleaned out the fan & heatsink while I had it open. Also upgraded her OS X to Snow Leopard 10.6.8 (which had to be done by ordering a CD).\n\nShe hasn't come across any software that it won't run, so I don't have any incentive to upgrade further at this time. I do expect the hard drive to go at some point, but I have her backing everything up via CrashPlan for now. No other problems to report. It shows its age when I compare to the new MBPs at work, but it's perfect for her home use, and I expect it to keep humming for some time yet.", "I'd backup everything from that old HDD then replace that HDD with an SSD. The bigger capacity SSD's are getting more affordable now. Here's [Samsung's 840 EVO at 1Tb](http://www.amazon.com/Samsung-Electronics-EVO-Series-2-5-Inch-MZ-7TE1T0BW/dp/B00E3W16OU/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1387168160&sr=8-1&keywords=SSD+1Tb). You'll notice a huge difference in loading and boot-up times.", "I would actually advise upgrading to the new OS. Mavericks has this new RAM compression feature that would definitely benefit hardware like yours. I would also increase the ram and take it apart and remove any dust you see. \n\nLast thing: If you can afford a new SSHD, do it. I guarantee it will make booting up significantly faster. ", "I recommend the ssd upgrade as well, just clean install everything, I cloned mine and it took a while to boot....", "I have the exact same model (but I'm running Mavericks)\n\nI had the 160 GB HD switched out last summer for a 500GB solid state (Apple did it for free for some reason...)\n\nAnyway, the HD was switched out because it complete crashed. Fortunately I run a backup HD via USB that was able to keep all of my data. \n\nI'd back yours up ASAP. \n\nAlso upgrade your RAM. \n\nGiven the age of the computer, it likely maxes-out at 4GB - You're probably running on 2GB right now. ", "I have a similar aged-MacPro too, mine's started making really loud whirring noises from after about 15 min to sometimes over an hour after its been switched on (like the fan is having to work over time).\n\nI may as well ask here - does anyone know what could be causing this, and how to fix it? I feel like its an issue of overheating, or maybe the inside of the laptop is dirty, but I've heard this is a very common issues for older Mac laptops. The bottom does get very hot, but I always have it stacked on top of a little shelf I made, to keep airflow around the base. ", "I have a question: is it possible to buy replacement batteries of older Macbooks? I have a 2008 Vaio and it works great with an SSD and linux, but I can't take it anywhere because the battery is shot and they don't sell newly manufactured batteries for the chassis as far as I can tell. I would be willing to go Apple if I knew that I could replace batteries a couple of times over several (or more) years.", "I have a Retina Macbook, so idk about the performance issues that your may suffer, but I've found Mavericks to be far more stable than Mountain Lion ever was.", "I am too lazy to read through all the comments (so if this is repeated elsewhere you have my apologies), but I too am the owner of an aging macbook.\n\nIf yours is old enough that you can still take the bits apart, take the battery out, unscrew the bottom of the case, and go to town on the fan and the vent in the back with a can of canned air.\n\nThen, download SMC FanControl and use that bugger to keep the fans on max when you're doing anything that stresses the system.", "Hello, I have a Mac that is about a year old now, and it runs noticeably slower than when I first got it. What software should I be using to ensure it's running fastest? Virus removal programs? Latest OS? Etc?", "Ditto on cleaning out the dust. I tend to keep laptops pretty long, handing them down to the kids. Some start overheating and doing a good cleaning of the heatsinks can solve a lot of that. How's your battery? 4 years is probably about as long as I get from a laptop battery. Hard drives and memory are the next two things that fail on me the most. I'd keep good backups with Time Machine and start saving for an SSD to replace the hard drive if it fails or just for speed. \n\nI don't know about holding off on upgrading to Mavericks. I have a late 2011 MacBook Pro and I do believe (but haven't verified with real hard numbers) that I'm getting better battery life with it and haven't noticed any performance issues.", "As somebody still using a black MacBook (built in 2006, I believe), thank you for this. The old girl wheezes and can't stay awake longer than 90 minutes without the power cable, but I can't afford to upgrade just yet. It got me through college and the first few years of working, it'll be sad when the day finally comes. \n\nLuckily, I have everything backed up externally. Otherwise, I may not look so fondly on the machine when it decides to install the Final Patch.", "As others have mentioned, the best thing you can do is replace the hard drive with a solid state drive (SSD). I have a 7 year old Macbook Pro with a SSD, and it feels faster than a brand new one with a regular drive. Replacing the drive is easy. You'll need a couple of tools you probably don't have, but they're easy to find, and there are lots of instructional web pages and videos on how to perform the swap.", "'Clean My Mac'. Brilliant, simple program to clean up your hdd from unwanted/unnecessary files.\nAlso, the best suggestion anyone can give you....back up your data and reformat. Nothing like a clean format to speed things up!\nI have a macbook pro that I use every day that I've had since 2008. Has never had a problem and never will because it's taken care of. Even swapped out the hdd for an ssd to try and keep up with the times!", "I haven't read through any of the comments here yet, but I have a MacBook Pro going on 4 years, I updated to Mavericks in Sept/Oct and my hard drive crashed shortly after. Maybe it was age, I'm not sure, but I honestly think it was the update. So my main bit of advice would be DON'T update to Mavericks.. at least not yet. I had to get my hard drive replaced (along with a few other things that had to be done) but until I installed that update my MBP was running great for being 3.5 years old.", "Buy a new one. Apple removed the \"Planned Obsolescence\" portion of Wikipedia years ago, but I remember. ", "4 years old is pretty far back, so I'm not sure I'd want to put much money into keeping it alive. Would probably be more inclined to sell it and get a new one.\n\nIf you do want to keep it alive a few more years, I'd consider increasing ram to 8gb and adding an SSD.", "TIME FOR YOU TO BUY A NEW FUCKING MACBOOK IDIOT. THATS WHY THEY MAKE A NEW ONE EVERY YEAR. YOU ARE 3 YEARS BEHIND.", ">I won't be able to afford a new one for a couple years\n\nBecause they are overpriced by thousands of dollars.\n\nBuild your own computer and use whatever OS's you like for 1/6th the cost. Use that at home and for whatever tasks. Use the laptop only when you need to (on the go or the couch or whatever) and it should see less wear and tear.", "Step 1. Back up all of your data on an external\n\nStep 2. Throw your MacBook in a fire \n\nStep 3. Build a PC and instal Mint Linux" ]

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[ "How can I make my cat stop chewing on cables? So I got a cat who's ~18 months old, he is a beautiful animal, very social and talkative and well-behaved, except he absolutely adores chewing cables. Big cables, small cables, it doesn't matter. It's getting expensive to keep replacing keyboards and mice and shit though. I have tried spraying him with water when he's lurking around cables. We have tried mint. Lemon peel. Bitterant. None of it stops him. We are worried he is going to electrocute himself and/or burn the house down one of these days. He gets plenty of attention and playtime from the entire household and well loved and not neglected in the slightest. I cannot afford to keep replacing things though. I have wrapped up some of the smaller cables as well, but it's just not practical to wrap up every single cable in the household. Does anyone have any suggestions?", "How can I make my cat stop chewing on cables? So I got a cat who's ~18 months old, he is a beautiful animal, very social and talkative and well-behaved, except he absolutely adores chewing cables. Big cables, small cables, it doesn't matter. It's getting expensive to keep replacing keyboards and mice and shit though. I have tried spraying him with water when he's lurking around cables. We have tried mint. Lemon peel. Bitterant. None of it stops him. We are worried he is going to electrocute himself and/or burn the house down one of these days. He gets plenty of attention and playtime from the entire household and well loved and not neglected in the slightest. I cannot afford to keep replacing things though. I have wrapped up some of the smaller cables as well, but it's just not practical to wrap up every single cable in the household. Does anyone have any suggestions?", "How can I make my cat stop chewing on cables? So I got a cat who's ~18 months old, he is a beautiful animal, very social and talkative and well-behaved, except he absolutely adores chewing cables. Big cables, small cables, it doesn't matter. It's getting expensive to keep replacing keyboards and mice and shit though. I have tried spraying him with water when he's lurking around cables. We have tried mint. Lemon peel. Bitterant. None of it stops him. We are worried he is going to electrocute himself and/or burn the house down one of these days. He gets plenty of attention and playtime from the entire household and well loved and not neglected in the slightest. I cannot afford to keep replacing things though. I have wrapped up some of the smaller cables as well, but it's just not practical to wrap up every single cable in the household. Does anyone have any suggestions?", "How can I make my cat stop chewing on cables? So I got a cat who's ~18 months old, he is a beautiful animal, very social and talkative and well-behaved, except he absolutely adores chewing cables. Big cables, small cables, it doesn't matter. It's getting expensive to keep replacing keyboards and mice and shit though. I have tried spraying him with water when he's lurking around cables. We have tried mint. Lemon peel. Bitterant. None of it stops him. We are worried he is going to electrocute himself and/or burn the house down one of these days. He gets plenty of attention and playtime from the entire household and well loved and not neglected in the slightest. I cannot afford to keep replacing things though. I have wrapped up some of the smaller cables as well, but it's just not practical to wrap up every single cable in the household. Does anyone have any suggestions?", "How can I make my cat stop chewing on cables? So I got a cat who's ~18 months old, he is a beautiful animal, very social and talkative and well-behaved, except he absolutely adores chewing cables. Big cables, small cables, it doesn't matter. It's getting expensive to keep replacing keyboards and mice and shit though. I have tried spraying him with water when he's lurking around cables. We have tried mint. Lemon peel. Bitterant. None of it stops him. We are worried he is going to electrocute himself and/or burn the house down one of these days. He gets plenty of attention and playtime from the entire household and well loved and not neglected in the slightest. I cannot afford to keep replacing things though. I have wrapped up some of the smaller cables as well, but it's just not practical to wrap up every single cable in the household. Does anyone have any suggestions?", "How can I make my cat stop chewing on cables? So I got a cat who's ~18 months old, he is a beautiful animal, very social and talkative and well-behaved, except he absolutely adores chewing cables. Big cables, small cables, it doesn't matter. It's getting expensive to keep replacing keyboards and mice and shit though. I have tried spraying him with water when he's lurking around cables. We have tried mint. Lemon peel. Bitterant. None of it stops him. We are worried he is going to electrocute himself and/or burn the house down one of these days. He gets plenty of attention and playtime from the entire household and well loved and not neglected in the slightest. I cannot afford to keep replacing things though. I have wrapped up some of the smaller cables as well, but it's just not practical to wrap up every single cable in the household. Does anyone have any suggestions?" ]

[ "Double sided tape bothers cats a lot.\n\nThe water bottle trick works for some. Or a loud hissy noise.", "The way I trained my cat to leave things alone was to \"attack\" her with the object of her fascination. For example when she would knock something over I would take and tap her and rub her in the face with it. Not in a painful way but it was definitely unpleasant. It has to be known that any time that cat messes with a cable, something very unpleasant is going to happen. Preferably something with the cable although I can see where that might be difficult. \n\nThere is also the option of distraction. Make something else in the vicinity much more appealing and he may go for it instead.\n\nWhatever you choose to do it has to be consistent. Cats are creatures of habit.\n\nDo be aware though - cats are stubborn critters. As well trained as my cat is she still on occasion will do things she is not supposed to do just for kicks. Your cat is also into full on adulthood and it is VERY difficult, if not impossible to retrain a cat beyond kittenhood. They get very set in their ways and routines. \n\nAnd for the love of all that's sacred, switch to wireless keyboard and mouse. The slightly higher price is cheaper than replacing them so much.", "If you're not planning on breeding him, get him neutered ASAP.\n\nMove all cords out of his reach. (Under carpets, behind walls, inside cabinets)\n\nGet some cheap PVC pipes and shield any cables that don't need to move. (Lines to TV, power cords, etc.)\n\nWrap some of the cords in tape, sticky side out.", "Have you tried putting tinfoil under or around the most accessible cable? Cats usually hate the noise and feel of that. \n\nOr well, that's how I managed to stop mine from digging in my in house plants. ", "Do proper cable management. If it doesn't move your cat should lose interest. Also makes the place easier to clean.", "Buy corrugated wire covering, on amazon I got a 100 ft roll for around 15 bucks. Both my cats can't chew through it, and it also isn't made of a material that cats like to chew on, so they leave the wires alone. Pretty compact as well. I use zip ties to fasten it to my cables " ]

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[ "How to sound professional without getting into iamverysmart territory? Whenever I write emails or stuff, I like sounding mature, professional, and respectful.\n\nThat being said, I don't want to cross a line and come across as a huge douche for doing it. Tips?", "How to sound professional without getting into iamverysmart territory? Whenever I write emails or stuff, I like sounding mature, professional, and respectful.\n\nThat being said, I don't want to cross a line and come across as a huge douche for doing it. Tips?", "How to sound professional without getting into iamverysmart territory? Whenever I write emails or stuff, I like sounding mature, professional, and respectful.\n\nThat being said, I don't want to cross a line and come across as a huge douche for doing it. Tips?", "How to sound professional without getting into iamverysmart territory? Whenever I write emails or stuff, I like sounding mature, professional, and respectful.\n\nThat being said, I don't want to cross a line and come across as a huge douche for doing it. Tips?", "How to sound professional without getting into iamverysmart territory? Whenever I write emails or stuff, I like sounding mature, professional, and respectful.\n\nThat being said, I don't want to cross a line and come across as a huge douche for doing it. Tips?" ]

[ "Just be normal and know what you're talking about.\n\nI work with extremely intelligent engineers and they write like crap. *I* write like crap. I'm taken seriously because I know what I'm talking about.\n\nOne thing that doesn't translate well in emails is humor -especially sarcasm. People seem to have a negative filter on themselves when they read emails so anything that seems the least bit critical -even if it's in jest- will come across as arrogance and judgemental (in my experience anyway.)", "It's a good idea to mention \"You may know better than me about _________ (the issue), but _________ (your opinion)\" They will not be either insulted nor condescending", "Find a couple of examples of \"emails or stuff\" from your line of work by someone you respect, and copy their tone and vocabulary.", "Dumb it down. Instead of using 4 or 5 syllable words, keep it simple. Aim for 2-3 syllable words at most. After you write an email, go over it with a fine-tooth comb and pull out every unnecessary word you can find. If you can replace a large word with something smaller, do it.\n\nAlso, make sure you cut out extraneous bullshit from your writing. Everyone does it, but it really muddies your point. So unless you have to write extremely jargony about an extremely jargony subject, refrain from doing so.\n\nGet to the point as quickly as possible and never assume that people have all day to read your email. But always remain friendly. Never speak to someone in an email you would never speak to someone to their face.", "Sound as smart as you can but keep interjecting that you're they're bitch. \"Of course my previous experience would tell me that XYZ is a bad idea and it would lead to ABC potentially harming the company alot. But of course with my team AND THE GUIDANCE OF MY MANAGERS/BOSSES (THIS IS IMPORTANT) I'm sure we will make the best desicion in the given circumstances\"" ]

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[ "How to find a good, local therapist? I'm still on my parent's insurance - how would that work? How do I know the therapist would be one who understands my issues? How does payment work? (I'm in the US, and 21). Can anyone help me get over my fears? I've seen online therapists so far but none in person.", "How to find a good, local therapist? I'm still on my parent's insurance - how would that work? How do I know the therapist would be one who understands my issues? How does payment work? (I'm in the US, and 21). Can anyone help me get over my fears? I've seen online therapists so far but none in person.", "How to find a good, local therapist? I'm still on my parent's insurance - how would that work? How do I know the therapist would be one who understands my issues? How does payment work? (I'm in the US, and 21). Can anyone help me get over my fears? I've seen online therapists so far but none in person.", "How to find a good, local therapist? I'm still on my parent's insurance - how would that work? How do I know the therapist would be one who understands my issues? How does payment work? (I'm in the US, and 21). Can anyone help me get over my fears? I've seen online therapists so far but none in person." ]

[ "The American Psychological Association has a provider finder that might be useful. You can put in your location, specify a specialization, and select gender if you have a preference. Once you have a list, you can view their profile to see if they sound like a good fit and what insurance they accept. \nhttp://locator.apa.org/\n\nIf you meet with someone who is not a good fit, don't be discouraged. There are a ton of therapists out there and everyone has different preferences. \n\nGenerally you will just pay your copay at each session and they will bill insurance the rest. If you don't want your parents to know, I would mention that to the office as well. Best of luck and congratulations on making the huge first step. ", "Try the Give an Hour program. They are all licensed therapists who donate their time to help people who need it but may not be able to afford it.\n\nwww.giveanhour.org", "Find the list of doctors your insurance will cover, then read the doctors rating on Yelp and pick which one seems to suit you best. If you don't like that Doctor move on to a new one. ", "Check with your parent's health insurance co. Their number should be on the back of your medical insurance card. They can direct you to a list of providers that accept your health insurance that specialize in whatever type of therapy you need (sexual abuse, family, ocd, couples, etc)" ]

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[ "How to tactfully say no when someone wants to borrow a valuable or important item? For example, I have a nice tent that a few friends have asked to borrow in the past. I don't have trouble saying no, but I always feel a bit awkward about it. Is there a polite way of going about saying no?", "How to tactfully say no when someone wants to borrow a valuable or important item? For example, I have a nice tent that a few friends have asked to borrow in the past. I don't have trouble saying no, but I always feel a bit awkward about it. Is there a polite way of going about saying no?", "How to tactfully say no when someone wants to borrow a valuable or important item? For example, I have a nice tent that a few friends have asked to borrow in the past. I don't have trouble saying no, but I always feel a bit awkward about it. Is there a polite way of going about saying no?", "How to tactfully say no when someone wants to borrow a valuable or important item? For example, I have a nice tent that a few friends have asked to borrow in the past. I don't have trouble saying no, but I always feel a bit awkward about it. Is there a polite way of going about saying no?", "How to tactfully say no when someone wants to borrow a valuable or important item? For example, I have a nice tent that a few friends have asked to borrow in the past. I don't have trouble saying no, but I always feel a bit awkward about it. Is there a polite way of going about saying no?", "How to tactfully say no when someone wants to borrow a valuable or important item? For example, I have a nice tent that a few friends have asked to borrow in the past. I don't have trouble saying no, but I always feel a bit awkward about it. Is there a polite way of going about saying no?", "How to tactfully say no when someone wants to borrow a valuable or important item? For example, I have a nice tent that a few friends have asked to borrow in the past. I don't have trouble saying no, but I always feel a bit awkward about it. Is there a polite way of going about saying no?" ]

[ "Just be ultra blunt. No fucking way dude. This is worth more to me than you can ever imagine. if you damage this in any way I would never forgive you and I would be an anxious mess as long as you or anyone else was responsible for it. It's simply isn't worth the stress it would put on our relationship. I'm sorry.", "Demand collateral. Tell then you've been screwed before and you're not repeating a costly mistake. If they cant/wont, they dont need it that bad.", "If you are saying no politely, any residual awkwardness is on the part of the asker. maybe try adding \"i'm sure you understand\" afterwards to encourage them to be chill about it.", "What is it about tents? I have a tent and people want to borrow it all the time. Like, fuck off, I didn't buy it so I could loan it out. ", "\"I wish I could (but it's not my decision). I'm sorry. No.\"\n\nParenthesis if you want to lie to deflect blame.\n\n", "After you deliver the \"no\" change the subject. I like to give a compliment cause you can make one up on the spot, but any change in subject that makes the person talk next about anything else works.\nI agree with the blunt no- \"It would kill me to have anything happen to it and I would hate for anything to sour our relationship. I'm sure you understand.\" \nThen move on quickly to the next subject.", "Say that you need to be adult, as you have had some difficult experiences with family and friends, so have found it best to have an agreement, that providing that they return it with-in x amount of time and in returned the same condition as lent you are OK with leading it out, also suggest that they check out their insurance in case of accidental damage, so if something does happen you/they aren't left with a awkward situation. if it's something that it sentimental, then say normally i would be fine, however this has sentimental value for me, and although i know you would replace it with another should something happen, as you will know yourself you cannot replace the sentimentally of this. lastly i would say if someone sulks about you not lending, then let them, else you are opening yourself up to emotional blackmail. people will come round, if there's a relationship between you and x then surely there more to it then 'a loan of x' \nhope this helps. " ]

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[ "What should I do with my free time? I am struggling to make use of my free time. I had no free time for 4 years in college (full-time job + full time college and no days off basically. If school was off I would sign up for more shifts). Because I never had free time, I didn’t get a chance to develop any hobbies. \n\nI graduated in May and now I have a 9-5 job with very good pay. But I have nothing to do outside of work. It’s crazy how the weekend feels forever long now. \n\n* I moved to a new city for the job so I don’t have any friends or family here. And I think that’s part of it. \n\n* I go to a gym class but I still have so much time left.", "What should I do with my free time? I am struggling to make use of my free time. I had no free time for 4 years in college (full-time job + full time college and no days off basically. If school was off I would sign up for more shifts). Because I never had free time, I didn’t get a chance to develop any hobbies. \n\nI graduated in May and now I have a 9-5 job with very good pay. But I have nothing to do outside of work. It’s crazy how the weekend feels forever long now. \n\n* I moved to a new city for the job so I don’t have any friends or family here. And I think that’s part of it. \n\n* I go to a gym class but I still have so much time left.", "What should I do with my free time? I am struggling to make use of my free time. I had no free time for 4 years in college (full-time job + full time college and no days off basically. If school was off I would sign up for more shifts). Because I never had free time, I didn’t get a chance to develop any hobbies. \n\nI graduated in May and now I have a 9-5 job with very good pay. But I have nothing to do outside of work. It’s crazy how the weekend feels forever long now. \n\n* I moved to a new city for the job so I don’t have any friends or family here. And I think that’s part of it. \n\n* I go to a gym class but I still have so much time left.", "What should I do with my free time? I am struggling to make use of my free time. I had no free time for 4 years in college (full-time job + full time college and no days off basically. If school was off I would sign up for more shifts). Because I never had free time, I didn’t get a chance to develop any hobbies. \n\nI graduated in May and now I have a 9-5 job with very good pay. But I have nothing to do outside of work. It’s crazy how the weekend feels forever long now. \n\n* I moved to a new city for the job so I don’t have any friends or family here. And I think that’s part of it. \n\n* I go to a gym class but I still have so much time left.", "What should I do with my free time? I am struggling to make use of my free time. I had no free time for 4 years in college (full-time job + full time college and no days off basically. If school was off I would sign up for more shifts). Because I never had free time, I didn’t get a chance to develop any hobbies. \n\nI graduated in May and now I have a 9-5 job with very good pay. But I have nothing to do outside of work. It’s crazy how the weekend feels forever long now. \n\n* I moved to a new city for the job so I don’t have any friends or family here. And I think that’s part of it. \n\n* I go to a gym class but I still have so much time left.", "What should I do with my free time? I am struggling to make use of my free time. I had no free time for 4 years in college (full-time job + full time college and no days off basically. If school was off I would sign up for more shifts). Because I never had free time, I didn’t get a chance to develop any hobbies. \n\nI graduated in May and now I have a 9-5 job with very good pay. But I have nothing to do outside of work. It’s crazy how the weekend feels forever long now. \n\n* I moved to a new city for the job so I don’t have any friends or family here. And I think that’s part of it. \n\n* I go to a gym class but I still have so much time left.", "What should I do with my free time? I am struggling to make use of my free time. I had no free time for 4 years in college (full-time job + full time college and no days off basically. If school was off I would sign up for more shifts). Because I never had free time, I didn’t get a chance to develop any hobbies. \n\nI graduated in May and now I have a 9-5 job with very good pay. But I have nothing to do outside of work. It’s crazy how the weekend feels forever long now. \n\n* I moved to a new city for the job so I don’t have any friends or family here. And I think that’s part of it. \n\n* I go to a gym class but I still have so much time left.", "What should I do with my free time? I am struggling to make use of my free time. I had no free time for 4 years in college (full-time job + full time college and no days off basically. If school was off I would sign up for more shifts). Because I never had free time, I didn’t get a chance to develop any hobbies. \n\nI graduated in May and now I have a 9-5 job with very good pay. But I have nothing to do outside of work. It’s crazy how the weekend feels forever long now. \n\n* I moved to a new city for the job so I don’t have any friends or family here. And I think that’s part of it. \n\n* I go to a gym class but I still have so much time left.", "What should I do with my free time? I am struggling to make use of my free time. I had no free time for 4 years in college (full-time job + full time college and no days off basically. If school was off I would sign up for more shifts). Because I never had free time, I didn’t get a chance to develop any hobbies. \n\nI graduated in May and now I have a 9-5 job with very good pay. But I have nothing to do outside of work. It’s crazy how the weekend feels forever long now. \n\n* I moved to a new city for the job so I don’t have any friends or family here. And I think that’s part of it. \n\n* I go to a gym class but I still have so much time left." ]

[ "Try everything. Learn new things, even if you don't plan on using the skill. Go to a rock climbing gym, hike, kayak, camp, learn an instrument, take a weekend or evening welding class, volunteer at a homeless shelter or any number of volunteer gigs.", "Look up for classes in your town, it's a good way to meet people as well.\nYou can learn a new language, mechanics, sawing, painting, wood working, pretty much anything. You don't have to be super excited at first, even if it's just a 'meh' try it a couple of times before deciding you don't like it. \nRead books ? If you're not used to it at first or haven't read in a long time just go pick up the best selling novel in store right now. Or maybe go to the movies, I'm super bad when it comes to classics so usually when people talk about something that I feel like I should have seen/read I put it on my list.\nYou can go visit your own town, try to find cool places to eat, coffee shops etc.\nGive back to your community, give tutoring lessons to young people maybe ? \nOr you can get a pet, those things will sure take up some of your time.", "Think back to the age of 10-13 (what did you like to do?) now do that the next 2 saturdays. If not theres always google \"What should I do now\", \"random decision maker\", \"What should I do today\". Google has an answer for everything!", "If you enjoy learning and you can afford it, go take lessons of a foreign language, a new instrument, painting, etc ... use this free time to discover new things ! You may discover a new passion and make some new friends ! I met some of my best friends doing that.", "Find someone to help, someone who needs help. If you get paid, well and good! If you volunteer, you get good karma, maybe meet a Meghan Markel.", "\\- Get a hobby that involves you being a an active part of a community. Boxing, Kayaking, crafting, hiking - whatever you'd find interesting. It's a great way to get to know people, maybe meet that special someone without using a dating app. Also, you might end up meaning something to kids in need of role models. \n\n\n\\- Read literature. Like great classical novels: Dostoevsky if you want to go international, Faulkner if you want something American. Or American poetry like Walt Whitman. Or you could read philosophy: Plato is not just a great thinker, he's also extremely funny.", "Martial arts is really fun and useful. Try and see if there's a taekwondo place or karate dojo near you.", "D&D is a pretty fun hobby\n\nIf you don't have anyone to play it with, I suggest checking out r/lfg , People are looking for members there all the time.", "Check out meetup.com for groups that share your interests, or challenge yourself to try new things. I tried caving, flying a plane, and parkour from joining meetup groups and it was a lot of fun to try things outside id my comfort zone." ]

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[ "How does one put money into a captial one bank account at an ATM using a debit card? ​\n\nThe title is pretty much it. I'm trying to put money into my capital one savings account, I go to an ATM, including ones that are on the ATM map for capital one, and I cannot deposit money. What do I have to do? Where else can I put money into it? Winn-dixie, publix?\n\nFor some information I live in Key Largo, if that means anything. I have a debit card.", "How does one put money into a captial one bank account at an ATM using a debit card? ​\n\nThe title is pretty much it. I'm trying to put money into my capital one savings account, I go to an ATM, including ones that are on the ATM map for capital one, and I cannot deposit money. What do I have to do? Where else can I put money into it? Winn-dixie, publix?\n\nFor some information I live in Key Largo, if that means anything. I have a debit card.", "How does one put money into a captial one bank account at an ATM using a debit card? ​\n\nThe title is pretty much it. I'm trying to put money into my capital one savings account, I go to an ATM, including ones that are on the ATM map for capital one, and I cannot deposit money. What do I have to do? Where else can I put money into it? Winn-dixie, publix?\n\nFor some information I live in Key Largo, if that means anything. I have a debit card.", "How does one put money into a captial one bank account at an ATM using a debit card? ​\n\nThe title is pretty much it. I'm trying to put money into my capital one savings account, I go to an ATM, including ones that are on the ATM map for capital one, and I cannot deposit money. What do I have to do? Where else can I put money into it? Winn-dixie, publix?\n\nFor some information I live in Key Largo, if that means anything. I have a debit card.", "How does one put money into a captial one bank account at an ATM using a debit card? ​\n\nThe title is pretty much it. I'm trying to put money into my capital one savings account, I go to an ATM, including ones that are on the ATM map for capital one, and I cannot deposit money. What do I have to do? Where else can I put money into it? Winn-dixie, publix?\n\nFor some information I live in Key Largo, if that means anything. I have a debit card.", "How does one put money into a captial one bank account at an ATM using a debit card? ​\n\nThe title is pretty much it. I'm trying to put money into my capital one savings account, I go to an ATM, including ones that are on the ATM map for capital one, and I cannot deposit money. What do I have to do? Where else can I put money into it? Winn-dixie, publix?\n\nFor some information I live in Key Largo, if that means anything. I have a debit card.", "How does one put money into a captial one bank account at an ATM using a debit card? ​\n\nThe title is pretty much it. I'm trying to put money into my capital one savings account, I go to an ATM, including ones that are on the ATM map for capital one, and I cannot deposit money. What do I have to do? Where else can I put money into it? Winn-dixie, publix?\n\nFor some information I live in Key Largo, if that means anything. I have a debit card.", "How does one put money into a captial one bank account at an ATM using a debit card? ​\n\nThe title is pretty much it. I'm trying to put money into my capital one savings account, I go to an ATM, including ones that are on the ATM map for capital one, and I cannot deposit money. What do I have to do? Where else can I put money into it? Winn-dixie, publix?\n\nFor some information I live in Key Largo, if that means anything. I have a debit card.", "How does one put money into a captial one bank account at an ATM using a debit card? ​\n\nThe title is pretty much it. I'm trying to put money into my capital one savings account, I go to an ATM, including ones that are on the ATM map for capital one, and I cannot deposit money. What do I have to do? Where else can I put money into it? Winn-dixie, publix?\n\nFor some information I live in Key Largo, if that means anything. I have a debit card.", "How does one put money into a captial one bank account at an ATM using a debit card? ​\n\nThe title is pretty much it. I'm trying to put money into my capital one savings account, I go to an ATM, including ones that are on the ATM map for capital one, and I cannot deposit money. What do I have to do? Where else can I put money into it? Winn-dixie, publix?\n\nFor some information I live in Key Largo, if that means anything. I have a debit card." ]

[ "You probably need to go to a capital one atm—those (ie the ones in your bank’s lobby) are the ones that generally take deposits. A rando atm in a supermarket or whatever isn’t equipped to do so. \nAlso this is the wrong sub", "So you're at a capital one bank ATM. You have a debit card with a different bank? And you're trying to get that money into the capital one account. \n\nGo to the cap one ATM. Withdraw cash from your debit card. End that transaction and start a new one with your cap one card. Deposit cash onto cap one card. \n\nIf the ATM will not let you deposit cash, you have to talk to a teller inside. Otherwise, if they have an app that allows transfers between banks, that should help. If you're trying to get this done on a Sunday after Christmas, your chances are reeaally slim it'll be processed today lol but good luck", "[Capital One: How do I make a deposit?](https://www.capitalone.com/support-center/bank/make-a-deposit)\n\nOn the Capital One website not all the ATMs listed will accept deposits - the use of non Capital One ATMs seem to be just for withdrawing cash.", "Wow. You didn't think to call Capital One customer service? You thought a bunch of randos on Reddit would have a better idea? This truly is the dumbest generation", "Why don't you set up a transfer from one account to the other? Or open a Capital One banking account and dump some of your paycheck into it so you can then transfer the money.", "Varies by machine, newer ones have input and output, old ones only dispense. Go to the next closest one", "Try giving them a call to find out if there are locations near you w/ machines that allow you to deposit. In my area, all of the machines accept cash and check deposits, thankfully. I also love that they’ll dispense in increments of $1 too.", "I’m pretty sure i just heard CVS pharmacies will allow you you to deposit cash into a Capital One bank account.", "I think I've had trouble depositing to savings with my bank too. Do you have a checking account with them? Can you deposit it there and then transfer it?", "Do you have a Capital One checking account also?\n\nThere aren't many ATMs or branches in Florida, but they have Capital One ATMs at Target and there are branches in Coral Gables and South Beach." ]

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[ "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? 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I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n", "How can I stay on focus better? Pretty much everything I do I somehow get distracted, which I think is because of a lack of interest in pretty much whatever I do. That includes school work; I always find myself drifting off and going onto reddit (which I can control) or other websites and just wasting time. My lack of concentration has led to me leaving multiple assignments to the last minute and I always feel like I can do better. I've tried doing whatever it says on Ehow and whatever other websites I've come across to no avail.\n\nIf you need anything else from me, let me know.\n\n" ]

[ "There's a lot of fucking dickholes in this thread, so I'm gonna tell you a little story about my life. \n\nI was diagnosed with ADD when I was 12 years old. I was a bright kid, but I had problems sitting and staying quiet. I was bright, I always knew a lot, and could speak very well on subjects, but when it came to school work, I was not doing well. The ability was there, the will was not. So they put me on Ritalin. Now this was middle school, okay, and the nurse had to dispense my medication every lunch period. As most of you know, middle schoolers are a brutal bunch. I was teased and questioned and otherwise ostracized. My grades improved a bit, yeah, but I wasn't concerned with that. The medication had a social stigma attached to it. When they asked me if I wanted to stay on it, for the next school year, I said no. \n\nIt was pretty awful, looking back on it. My high school years were mostly D and C work. I barely passed anything. I remember sitting in my second level Spanish class, a week or two before graduation, retaking the final. I failed it the first time and it was going to keep me from graduating, but my Spanish teacher knew I was capable of passing. He gave me a second chance. I passed, I guess, because I got to graduate. \n\nSame thing in college. But I bombed out my second year. So I went to work. I did well at most jobs I did, office type work, call center stuff. I didn't have any professional training, but I was really good when the material first interested me. I was doing this up until about a year and a half ago. I got sick of it. I was living that life for 10 years after school. Almost 20 years since I was diagnosed. A life where I wanted to study, wanted to learn, but I couldn't.\n\n I wanted control over my life. So I went to my doctor, and told him I wanted to manage my ADD again. He prescribed me Adderall.\n\nIt's a different game now. I can leverage my intelligence. I'm in school, on the fucking deans list. I've gotten one professional certification, and I'm studying for two more. I got a better job. \n\nSo I went through most of my life not being medicated for a problem that I had. It wasn't that I was lazy. Or that I didn't want it enough, as some insensitive fucks have suggested. I had a problem. I was ashamed of it. But now that I've owned up to it, and realized that I have a problem that needs treatment, I can handle it. Go to a doctor. If he prescribes you medication, give it a chance. It took me a week and a half for the Adderall to give me a consistent effect. Take control of your life. ", "Get screened for ADHD. Not saying that this is definitely your problem, but it was certainly mine.\n\nSome people call it lazy but when you can't read a whole page without getting distracted by your thoughts, sometimes only medication will help.\n\nIf you do have ADHD, I recommend focalin. Did the trick with me. I'm up at 5:00 AM with four or five chores finished before breakfast now. ", "Hmm for me what works is that I realize my mind will wander after like 20 or so minutes of work that I don't really enjoy. So I let it, while keeping in mind that I will come back to the assignment. So I'll do stuff I enjoy, Reddit, facebook, whatever. If I'm still not ready to do the school work after an allotted time I'll do something that doesn't require much thought and more routine (like cleaning). Then I'll get tired of cleaning and want to do what I was working on instead. It kills two birds with one stone.", "What I do, especially for a paper or homework(not reading though) , is to put on a movie or Netflix, something that I have seen a million times like star wars or parks and rec, and then I hunker down on the paper. The sound of a familiar distraction, fun show, or movie, occupies that little part of my brain that wants to jump around and do other stuff. This makes it so I can focus the other 95 percent on the task at hand. ", "I have/had the same problem of drifting off (to reddit, facebook, etc) when I try to do work at home, behind my own desk. \n\nWhat really helps for me is going into a \"working\" environment. This can be either the library or some place at school/office. Preferably a place where others are working too. Somehow I get into a much better mindset there.", "Get yourself a full medical check up. I went for one recently due to a separate issue and discovered my thyroid levels were off.\n\nOne of the symptoms is loosely described as \"brain fog\". Now I didn't think I was brain fogged, everyone searches for words sometimes, don't they?. OMG the difference in my work ability in the month I've been taking the meds is intense. \n\nI'm able to focus on things besides reddit, I'm exercising and feel so much better. Lots of minor little ailments, like insomnia and leg aches are disappearing and my life is changing.\n\nTL:DR - get a physical", "Whatever you have to do, try doing it very slowly, so slowly that you have to focus to prevent yourself from speeding up. This can help to occupy your brain, so your attention doesn't wander. You treat your task almost as a kind of m", "Try to make an anagram with some word that comes to your mind. \n\nFor example the word 'concentrate'\n\n* Accent Toner\n* Accent Tenor\n* At Reconnect\n\nDo this without writing it down! Makes me very concentrated :)=\n\nNote: I do this before every exam and it works! \n", "Work in a public space around people who will judge you if they see you going off track. For example i always work in my living room when my parents are around. You will want your parents to see you working, not messing around on reddit or whatever.", "To start with, get the fuck off Reddit! Now if you'll excuse me, I will take my own advice. I've got stuff to do. ", "Frequent short breaks, perhaps giving yourself some sort of reward when you're finished, plain old self-control.\n\nIf your main distraction is the internet, try turning off your wireless antenna and leaving it off. Or if you really can't stop yourself print out whatever material you need and write your assignments by hand. Even if that means typing it all out for a second time from your hand-written version it'll be faster than \"drifting off and going on reddit.\" \n\nTry working in a setting like a library.", "Watch for how you react to yourself after you drift off. Be easier to you. If you have negative self talk and think you cannot focus then your subconscious mind will only be reminded TO not focus and therefore creating your reality of being unable to focus, a repeating circle of non focus doom.\n\nSo next time you drift off realize it is ok and clearly you may be bored by what you are doing and to take a deep breath, realize your fine! And then just easily bring yourself back to your work. \n\nJust watch the beating yourself up for drifting off. That will only cause more pain and reminders of how \"bad\" you are at focusing. (I mean, you wrote this article, that took focus lol). \nFocus on how easy it is to focus and be aware of your mind chatter.\n-Chaz", "There is a m", "The basics are important. You'd be surprised how much good diet, enough sleep and regular exercise can help. \nOver and above that, some of the stuff in r/nootropics might interest you? Though obviously you need to know what you're getting into with that. The beginner's guide over there is fantastic. ", "It's really easy, all you have to do is...wow a butterly..man I love them. Why do they call them butterfly's- was someone like...there is a stick of butter and it's flying- that makes no damn sense. Like those rioters in Ferguson why riot in your own neighborhood. Hey lets burn down the store where I buy my coffee. God coffee really helps me focus in the morning, couldn't live without it. What was I saying again-- oh yeah Drink coffee. ", "I look myself in the mirror in the mornings and give myself a pep talk along the lines of: \"Marky543, if you work hard and focus today you will be happy and able to relax and enjoy yourself tonight and/or this weekend. You don't really enjoy surfing Reddit or Facebook etc. they are just distractions that will make you less productive and you'll get mad at yourself later. You enjoy being productive even if it's tough....\" you get the idea.\n\nAlso, lots of coffee helps. And I take a break to drink a refillable bottle of water every hour.\n\n", "I highly suggest taking the class [**Learning how to learn**](https://www.coursera.org/course/learning) on coursera. It is insightful and will have life long implications if you apply the lessons from it. \n\nIt is about a month long and is taught in the simplest way possible. The latest and the greatest cognitive science broken down in simple words. ", "shut down your computer when you're not using it for anything but school/work related stuff. The pomodoro technique works really well. During the pomodoro 5 minute breaks, I usually play some hackey-sack. It gets my mind off things and helps me focus better.\nMake a list of everything you need to do on your computer before sitting on it aimlessly. \nSpend as much time as you can outside away from the internet. All you need to do is get a good book, have a camera in your pocket, and a small pocket sized journal and a pen to jot down your thoughts during the day. I find that clicking links on the internet consistently keeps your brain too entertained. It's over stimulating it. Being outside and enjoying the present moment could help with focusing. The same is with m", "This might be more of a treating the symptoms thing but there is a Chrome extension called 'stay focused' that is really helpful for keeping me off reddit and other websites when I have stuff that needs to get done. Basically, you can set a time limit for the sites you waste time on and it blocks those URLs after a certain amount of time. Once you exceed the time limit, you can't remove sites from the blocked list or up your time limit. If you are prone to finding new sites to waste time on, there is a 'nuclear option' that will either block the entire internet or just block sites not on your 'allowed' list for a specified amount of time. You can even set it up so certain times of certain days will automatically start one of those options so even if you are trying to distract yourself, it will stop you. Might be worth a go!", "Modafinil .... One of the best kept secrets for focusing. Can be very very expensive\n\nGoes by the brand name of Provigil", "Meth. Or adderall or any other adhd med. \nTaken like 6 over the years, they work different for different people but the idea is the same. Also helps you lose weight", "I've been using a brain training app and feel like I'm more on top of things because of it and have been trying to teach myself to juggle! (Amazing how much focus/coordination it uses)\n\n Also check out Todd Sampson's show redesign my brain (pretty sure its a three parter) He's amazing and explores some great easy technique's!", "Concentration is not a magical ability one can learn, it is much more like a muscle that you have to exercise. Make sure that you are in good physical and mental condition and practice with everything you do. Reading a book? Don't let yourself get distracted. Cooking? Keep focused. Exercise? Same thing. If you want a change in your life, one of the absolute best ways to do it is to integrate it throughout your life. \n\nIf you want an actual exercise to increase your attention, m", "1 Imperial Ginseng pill\n\n1 Gingko Biloba pill\n\n1 Black coffee\n\nMake sure to chew the pills until they are paste. Maybe take just a half pill of the ginseng at first and work up to a full one, the stuff is potent. Don't take more than one ginseng pill unless you feel like sleep is too mainstream. Don't take more than two ginkgo pills or you'll start seeing the future. \n\nAlso! Worry less, think about what you actually need and want to do and just do it so you have more time to hang out with us ;)", "you need to take regular breaks from the things that you are getting distracted from, when i was in high school and i had to study for exams, id study for 30 mins on one subject and then switch to another, its just a way to keep you from getting bored of them same old same old, and also taking regular breaks is good, especially if you're studying, it will actually help you retain the information, ten minute breaks every 30-45", "there was this great trick i used in high school. basically you just....just........oh shit that moth is HUUUGE!", "i find 2 things help me. 1) break things up into smaller pieces. you mentioned school work, so let's say you have to write a paper. don't approach it like \"i have to write this entire paper.\" say \"today, i'm going to write the intro. tomorrow i'm going to write and focus on paragraph 1.\" or however you can do it. sometimes i'll order things by shortest time required to longest. or easiest to hardest. some might suggest the other way around, but while i'm doing the short/less time consuming things, i'm subconsciously working on the bigger things. 2.) set attainable goals. don't say \"i'm going to get this paper done in one sitting.\" say, \"i'm going to REALLY get this intro (or task or w/e) done tonight. and this other piece another night.\" this will require a bit of time management but you won't feel rushed or overwhelmed. and after i achieve a goal, i usually take a break and re-group for my next task/goals. also caffeine (black coffee) works for me too. it makes some people jittery or scatter-brained, but i find that it sometimes has an adderall-like effect on me. ", "[Here](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zC7a_gQB9YQ) is a wonderful talk about m", "When I find myself having a real problem with this it is usually because I have built up a serious habit of some game or website or another. I delete the link and try to make it generally more difficult to get in. (Try changing your password to something random ... then you have to go through a process of retrieving/changing password) It might not stop you from wasting time, but it will make you more aware of what you are doing. \n\nI think I might have to do this to myself re:reddit.", "Remove yourself from distractions or remove the distractions from your area. IE go to the library to complete your work and have the goal of being finished before you leave.", "Other suggestions:\n\n* Minimize distractions. Try things like [StayFocused](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/stayfocusd/laankejkbhbdhmipfmgcngdelahlfoji?hl=en) or [Cold Turkey](http://getcoldturkey.com/) to minimize online distractions. To minimize in-person distractions, go somewhere that is removed from the things that distract you (so, don't work in bed if you end up napping, don't work on the couch if you end up playing video games, don't work with friends if you end up just talking).\n\n* Designate a work spot. If you have the space at home, make one spot your work spot. Go there when you're in work mode, don't do distracting things when you're there. Eventually, you'll be programmed to automatically snap into work mode when you're there. If you don't have the space in your place to do this, a spot at the library or coffee shop would also work.\n\n* For certain tasks, listening to music also helps me stay focused. Only do this if it works for you. My favorite concentration go-tos are [Focus@Will](https://www.focusatwill.com/music/#player) (which claims to use music that is scientifically best for helping you concentrate), the [Code Your Face Off](http://songza.com/listen/code-your-face-off-songza/) Songza playlist, and if I'm feeling bored at home alone, I'll sometimes pop on [Coffeetivity](https://www.coffitivity.com/) (which also claims to help you focus better).\n\n* If you're putting something off, just tell yourself you'll only do it for ten minutes, and if you still don't feel like it, you can stop. Usually, by the end of the 10 minutes, you're into it and it's easier to keep going.\n\n* Another good technique, already mentioned throughout this thread, is to break stuff up into smaller tasks. It's easier to convince yourself to do something small than something that feels huge. ", "My girlfriend has had good success with [tDCS](https://www.google.com/search?q=tdcs) (trans-cranial direct current stimulation [of the brain]).\n\nSounds like mad-scientist quackery, but it's gaining in popularity (US military is using it in some training, red bull is using it with some of their athletes, some elite video gamers are using it, etc).\n\nI first heard about it from RadioLab's [9-volt Nirvana](http://www.radiolab.org/story/9-volt-nirvana/) podcast.\n\nThe circuit I used for my girlfriend's rig is published here: http://tdcs.me/", "Lay off of the Redbull, coffee and caffeine in general. It's painful to break the habit, but you'll feel better if you cut back or just don't consume it as frequently. ", "Late to this thread but if you have insurance, go see a psychologist or an LCSW. Their jobs are more than just handing out meds. They can help you work on strategies and methods to improve your concentration and time management. If you're in college, your school noisy certainly has a counseling center that will provide these services for free while you're a student.", "In addition to these great tips, you can also try drinking FocusUP. Does incredible things to get your mind \"in the zone\". \nhttp://www.focusup.com\n", "In addition to the techniques listed below, eliminate as much distraction as possible prior to attempting them. Some things that have worked for me:\n- do not work on the couch or a bed. Sit in an upright chair. I usually pick the kitchen table. \n- do NOT work with music or television on in the background. White noise is okay.\n- if you have a work computer, use it. By work computer, I mean a machine that isn't loaded with games or personal media of sorts. It can make a big difference.\n- physically place your cell phone in a different area than the area where you are working.\n- make a list of what you need to do, right after you sit down to work. If you can't complete a task in the block of time that you've committed to work, then do not add it - but break it down into smaller tasks. The list should be complete at the end.\nSource: business owner, college grad (somehow), that also has a day-job and is downright lethargic when it comes to tasks that I am disinterested in. And sometimes lethargic when doing tasks that I AM interested in ;)", "If you have a mac just download selfcontroll. What Selfcontrol does is that it blocks acces to the sites you wanna block for an amount of time (you can choose how much), for example if i choose to block www.reddit.com for 4 hours from now then i can't go into reddit no matter how much i hit refresh until the four hours are finished. There is a countdown clock so you don't have to worry about how much time as gone and it only works for websites. If anyone is interested i can try to find a link. \nAlso i apologize for my weak english it's not my native language. \n\nNINJA ", "I've had same problem for most of my life. To stay focused on the current task I often write on an index card with a black Sharpie what I am currently doing and keep it in front of me til it's done. I also have a small white board for the same purpose.", "I was like this for years. Struggled in school, trouble focusing at work, etc. I'm not saying we are in the same boat, but my focus, memory, organization all improved when I started taking Paxil (now using Welbutrin). \n\nIf you haven't discussed this with your doctor, please do. It sounds like you are still young. I didn't get evaluated properly until I was over forty.\n\n\n\n", "I think the key is to find things that interest you and focus your life on those. I was very similar grade school through undergrad, had \"special teachers\" tried different educational strategies. I plugged away for years till I finished my doctorate. I still become bored easily, but when I find something that interests me I become a voracious worker/learner. ", "I have had the same struggles in my life. I still have them, in fact. But I have been able to overcome them. While, it certainly helps to be interested in the task at hand, it basically comes down to self-discipline. Self-discipline is essentially making yourself follow rules or a code of conduct. \n\nSelf-discipline can be developed just like any other skill. It takes practice. [This webpage](http://studygs.net/discipline.htm) has some good ideas for getting started. \n\nOne way to exercise your self-discipline muscle (from the website linked above) is this:\n\n* Schedule a particular task in the morning and once in the evening.\n* The task should not take more than 15 minutes.\n* Wait for the exact scheduled time.\n* When the schedule time is due, start the task.\n* Stick to the schedule for at least two months. \n\nBut to truly become a self-disciplined person it will require you to just do it. There is no magic pill or formula and no one else can do it for you. \n\nMinimize the distractions. If the Internet is a huge distraction for you, use the LeechBlock add-on for Firefox to block certain websites (LIKE REDDIT!!!) when you should be studying.", "I had similar problems in highschool and my first year or two in college. Im 21 and in my third year now and I've just figured out two keys to things that have helped me go from D's and C's to A's and B's. 1. Try to find an interest in what you're studying. For me, subjects like science always came super easy because I was interested in them and more motivated to do the work. If you can find a way to be interested in other subjects the same thing may happen. 2. I started drinking coffee regularly. I suspect I have mild ADD, but I'm not diagnosed. But when I have coffee it calms my mind down immensely and allows me to dial in on my work. Since I've been having coffee every day I've noticed myself being more and more focused on everything in my life. However if you suspect you have ADD definitely go to a doctor. ", "First, there are times when your mind will drift just because so don't beat yourself up over it too much. Secondly, are you doing too many different activities such that you don't have time and are getting tired? Are you sleeping enough? \n\nWith those out the way there are ways to keep better focus. One way, my favourite way, is choice. I don't mean whimsically thinking \"ok now I will just do it [nike tick]\". I mean really intensly deciding that this is what you want to do and going for it in a big way. That intensity will generate focus. And yes, it is about decision, it largely mirrors the adage that you need to be diciplined enough to do the things you want to do to get good at them.", "Core exercises increase mental capacity. Focus on your stomach for extended periods of time to increase your ability to focus", "Be conscious of the activity instead of feeling guilty about it. As mentioned before focus on your activity for 25 min, at first you may need to set alarm. Then take time of, even if you feel like working, take 15min break, again use alarm. Do this until you have finished your task or you feel like you have reached your goal, and then take an extended break. It is good practice in general and saves you lots of time and energy later in life.", "A couple of things that might help are to exercise at little every day or every other day (helps to get you going). \n\nGet a calendar book and write down your appoints, due dates and things coming up. I don't usually refer back to it, but It does help me a lot to go somewhere and take a few minutes and just write everything down. \n\nTake up mediation, at least a little, every day. It might sounds like crap, but I think that it releases stress and helps to bring into focus what’s important and needs to get done.\n\nThis sounds like the beginning of depression (disinterest, at least it was for me). I would see if you can schedule time with the school psychologist and see what they say. \n\nGood luck. \n", "Not sure if it's been suggested but there are some drugs which can help with focus. I personally use a drug called modafinil which helps with ADHD and is supposed to improve memory retension. But you would and should go to a doctor to be prescribed anything like this. Hopefully there are other methods here which can help you before you try anything like this. ", "Mabey you have ADHD ask a doctor to get a test and if you do have ADHD then their is medicine for tht.", "Ask your doctor to refer you to a psychiatrist, as you may have ADHD, which is in part thought to be caused by abnormal frontal cortex in the brain. The medication can really do wonders for those of who suffer from it. \n\nLifeprotip: you are more likely to get taken serious in regard to diagnosis if you have suffered from the symptoms since childhood." ]

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[ "Is there anyway to auto form fill login id of bank websites and other sites which dont allow the browser to auto fill? ", "Is there anyway to auto form fill login id of bank websites and other sites which dont allow the browser to auto fill? " ]

[ "LastPass as well here. Sign in forms that were always blank are now filled in on about 90-95% of the time. Secondary info, such as security code on cr", "If you're using Firefox, take a look at the [Autofill Forms](https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/autofill-forms/) extension.\n\nI use it and it does the trick." ]

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[ "How to motivate yourself to take care of your body? I can't seem to motivate myself to do basic things like workout. Even though it would only be for an hour I end up doing things like playing video games or relaxing. ", "How to motivate yourself to take care of your body? I can't seem to motivate myself to do basic things like workout. Even though it would only be for an hour I end up doing things like playing video games or relaxing. ", "How to motivate yourself to take care of your body? I can't seem to motivate myself to do basic things like workout. Even though it would only be for an hour I end up doing things like playing video games or relaxing. ", "How to motivate yourself to take care of your body? I can't seem to motivate myself to do basic things like workout. Even though it would only be for an hour I end up doing things like playing video games or relaxing. ", "How to motivate yourself to take care of your body? I can't seem to motivate myself to do basic things like workout. Even though it would only be for an hour I end up doing things like playing video games or relaxing. ", "How to motivate yourself to take care of your body? I can't seem to motivate myself to do basic things like workout. Even though it would only be for an hour I end up doing things like playing video games or relaxing. ", "How to motivate yourself to take care of your body? I can't seem to motivate myself to do basic things like workout. Even though it would only be for an hour I end up doing things like playing video games or relaxing. ", "How to motivate yourself to take care of your body? I can't seem to motivate myself to do basic things like workout. Even though it would only be for an hour I end up doing things like playing video games or relaxing. ", "How to motivate yourself to take care of your body? I can't seem to motivate myself to do basic things like workout. Even though it would only be for an hour I end up doing things like playing video games or relaxing. " ]

[ "Come join us at the temple of r/NonZeroDay.\n\nThe idea is to do at least one thing, no matter how small or insignificant, that benefits your future self. In your case exercise. This could be just 10 sit ups, a few push-ups, or whatever. As long as you do SOMETHING, everyday. Eventually, you'll start to build on your accomplishment. \n\nSo right now, after you read this, do 10 sits ups. Shit, do 1. I don't care. Just do SOMETHING and stop making excuses. You've just done a favor for your future self. Repeat every day from now until you die. ", "Not quite the same thing, but I used scare tactics on myself to quit smoking cigarettes (a much more difficult endeavor). I spent a few hours each day reading and researching the negative effects on my body caused by smoking. I tried to quit multiple times before with different methods, this was by far the most effective way for me to make the decision I was going to quit. Since then I've become much healthier. Anytime i'm procrastinating working out i'll think about the countless medical reason that suggest being active are better than sitting on my butt. YMMV but if you have any heart disease in your family or diabetes, it's worth educating yourself on the risks of your current health and lifestyle choices. It's easier to start getting in the good habit of routine exercise before there is a problem. Much much harder after you are diagnosed with something. Kudos to you for asking for help. It's a sign you already know what the right thing to do is and want to better yourself. Set small obtainable goals. And build on that. Even if it's walk for ten minutes. Do that for a week then try walking for 30 etc and so on. Achieving even a small goal will motivate you to set larger goals. GOOD LUCK\n", "Problem is that exercise is a lifestyle. Getting the energy to exercise a couple times a week for a month is easy. Getting to the gym a couple times a week for 50 years is daunting, and most people simply hate exercise of any kind. \n\n\nA good way to get exercise these days is to find something fun to do that doesn't sound like a workout. In my area we have a number of adult leagues for silly sports like dodgeball and kickball, flag football and the like. There's also a ton of rec leagues for various sports intended for people bad at those sports. \n\nThat being said, 80% of managing your weight is diet. Since you have to eat anyway, this is much easier to control. While exercise is valuable on a number of levels, it's much less important than simply eating better.\n", "I used to be in the army and really can't stand to exercise. I went through a 10 year period of feeling lazy and shitty. REcently I've become more carb conscious and it's crazy how much better I feel. Well that and taking a legit multivitamin (pure vitamin club). I'm back to the weight I should be and just feel like doing more. Ride a bicycle. You're the engine. And it's fun. ", "You also might need more of a reason to get stronger.\nIt could be difficult to be motivated, if you have a desk job, and see your body as something that just carries your head around.\n\nMaybe a workout buddy would help, or joining a casual sport team?\n\nMusic really helps me keep my effort up.\nDo something you like.\nInstead of just lifting weights at home, maybe take a dance or trapeze class.\nJoin a hiking group.\n\nWhat you already know-When you start to do something regularly it becomes a habit, especially if you are motivated by endorphins to continue.\nBut it may be easier if you are out of the house without its distractions.\nGet some books on tape and go for a run/walk and don't turn around until you have heard at least one chapter.\nI find I put out much more effort if I am at the gym, than at home, because it brings out my competitive streak. ( which I never suspected I had!)\n", "Plan when your going to workout and plan your routine , write on a calendar your workout days and tick off after you have worked out. You can start off slow and build up Evan if your first workout is 10 press ups that's fine it's just about making time in your day to workout and completing the workout .. Buying a supplement or some training clothing can give you a boost to workout .. Here's a good video to get you going https://youtu.be/xgZcJD-KfHI", "Make it bigger than yourself to get over the start line. I committed to hiking a Himalayan mountain in early July. I prepared for six months. Eleven people died on that mountain this year already. I crowd sourced my funding, took everyone's aspirations with me. Blogged about the trip. Took the stairs at work (8th floor) 3 times a day. Hiked 6 hours every weekend (sometimes more). It was a tough six months, but I had an actual goal to achieve, not just a habit to develop. Lost 24 lbs before the trip and another 18 on the trip. I am in a way better place now (though my clothes don't fit). I took those same stairs last week: not even winded. I got my eye on the Camino de Santiago in Spain for next year. Go big! ", "Imagine you just bought a new car. \nA very high end car,but you love it. It is comfortable and sexy.\nHowever, you will only be able to drive this car and only this car for the rest of your life, which maybe 70 more years!( unless you get the keys taken away from you ;) )\n\nYou are going to be stuck with your body, for the rest of your life.\nNo trade ins.\nThe advancements in medical technology that will permit you to be more active as you age are likely not going to occur as fast as you would like.\n\nIt will serve you well to learn about your family history of disease and possibly even get genetic info so you can take steps to mitigate the impact.\nIt's never too late to start, to take better care of your original custom made design.\nYou will have it all your life! \n", "I have been using a simple approach for just about everything recently, not only taking care of my body. Every time I need to do something and I start to not do it, I yell at myself \"No more excuses\" and then force myself to do it. At first it sucks, but it quickly gets easier. Now I'm walking for nearly an hour every morning, and my house is clean almost constantly. I also haven't smoked a cigarette in almost 3 weeks." ]

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[ "How to manage personal frustration levels with underperforming coworkers. How in the world can I stop myself from getting frustrated with people who are doing the same job as I am but are doing it at half or a quarter of the speed, and not as good?\n\nAll of us are working on the same project doing different parts of it and some of the people are just so incredibly slow and it drives me insane. I don't normally get frustrated with things and am pretty easy going, but dangit.. this is driving me up the wall.\n\nThe people in question aren't going anywhere so I can't expect management to step in, so I need to find a way to manage my frustration levels. \n\nNot trying to come off as arrogant or pretending I'm the best in the world at what I do, because there's always something new to learn, but man.. when an easy task should take 10-15 minutes but instead it takes 2 hours.. I don't know how to handle it.", "How to manage personal frustration levels with underperforming coworkers. How in the world can I stop myself from getting frustrated with people who are doing the same job as I am but are doing it at half or a quarter of the speed, and not as good?\n\nAll of us are working on the same project doing different parts of it and some of the people are just so incredibly slow and it drives me insane. I don't normally get frustrated with things and am pretty easy going, but dangit.. this is driving me up the wall.\n\nThe people in question aren't going anywhere so I can't expect management to step in, so I need to find a way to manage my frustration levels. \n\nNot trying to come off as arrogant or pretending I'm the best in the world at what I do, because there's always something new to learn, but man.. when an easy task should take 10-15 minutes but instead it takes 2 hours.. I don't know how to handle it." ]

[ "Hi. Professional project manager here. Here's what I'd do.\n\nSo your success is tied to the project's success, right? \n\nIf YES, their lack of performance has a stake in your game. If NO, their performance doesn't. And your strategy for dealing with it needs to be different in the two cases.\n\nSay it does. Say you're bucking for full-time salaried work, or need this job as a reference. Then TRACK your accomplishments, or ask your project's manager to track them for you. \n\nStart writing down your assignments in bullet form in a journal. One line per planned task per day, one day per page. Then check off what you accomplished and how long each task took. Move the incomplete stuff to the next day. (You can also find lots of online tools that do this if you have phone or browser access.) Then find an opportunity to share your performance with your manager, and both your manager and employer aren't at least wildly evil, they will see you as an over-performer compared to your deadbeat peers.\n\nIf NO, get over it and avoid the useless people in the future. Sure you can try to help them, but only try ONCE, and then leave the situation with \"Come see me if you ever want some help with this.\" Coping with others who are not exhibiting supportive behaviour is a heeyooooge energy suck, so don't play that game. Instead, find and socialize or embed with the people and workers that give you energy, not sap it. And learn to ignore those others.", "http://www.ribbonfarm.com/2009/10/07/the-gervais-principle-or-the-office-according-to-the-office/ \nRead, then come back and comment when you realize which career path you are vs them. :)" ]

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[ "Living with a Broken Leg My elementary school aged son just broke his leg. I've never had to deal with this sort of thing myself but I'm trying to make his life bearable for the next couple of months. Any killer tips on getting around, hygiene, boredom, etc. would be greatly appreciated.", "Living with a Broken Leg My elementary school aged son just broke his leg. I've never had to deal with this sort of thing myself but I'm trying to make his life bearable for the next couple of months. Any killer tips on getting around, hygiene, boredom, etc. would be greatly appreciated.", "Living with a Broken Leg My elementary school aged son just broke his leg. I've never had to deal with this sort of thing myself but I'm trying to make his life bearable for the next couple of months. Any killer tips on getting around, hygiene, boredom, etc. would be greatly appreciated.", "Living with a Broken Leg My elementary school aged son just broke his leg. I've never had to deal with this sort of thing myself but I'm trying to make his life bearable for the next couple of months. Any killer tips on getting around, hygiene, boredom, etc. would be greatly appreciated.", "Living with a Broken Leg My elementary school aged son just broke his leg. I've never had to deal with this sort of thing myself but I'm trying to make his life bearable for the next couple of months. Any killer tips on getting around, hygiene, boredom, etc. would be greatly appreciated.", "Living with a Broken Leg My elementary school aged son just broke his leg. I've never had to deal with this sort of thing myself but I'm trying to make his life bearable for the next couple of months. Any killer tips on getting around, hygiene, boredom, etc. would be greatly appreciated." ]

[ "Find a comfy chair like a recliner and create a living space for him around that chair. ( not in his bedroom) Move furniture around so he has night tables beside him to store books, magazine electronics etc to entertain himself. Always make sure there are several bottles of water and snacks in one of the drawers. \n\n", "One of [these](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001B13PC2/ref=asc_df_B001B13PC25353052/?tag=hyprod-20&creative=394997&creativeASIN=B001B13PC2&linkCode=df0&hvadid=167119246510&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=7013535713228846706&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9015702&hvtargid=pla-310281962377) may help for grabbing things out of the way when seated.\n\nSource: Parks and Recreation", "Get him a bottle to urinate in, you may be able to get some from the hospital. Getting up to pee with a broken leg is a colossal pain. ", "If he has a cast then something to scratch his leg with is a must. If it’s just an immobilizer, then letting him take it off when just sitting around the house will be nice. You might want to double check with the doctor about taking it off depending on the type of break. If you have one, a little VR headset like google cardboard might a fun thing for him to do while sitting around. A handheld console like a switch, vita or DS is another option.", "Arrange furniture so he can hobble around the house or main living areas *without* needing his crutches all the time. ", "Shin or femur?\n\nEither way, get a toilet chair. Make one solid rule: he doesn't have to empty it, but he **does** have to tell someone." ]

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[ "How to stop stomach from rumbling during meetings. Lately, at every meeting over 15 minutes long, my stomach starts growling/rumbling very audibly. \n\nI have been trying to drink water, tea, or have a snack before, but sometimes I either don't have the time or a meeting runs long. \n\nI won't even be hungry, but as soon as a thought about food comes into my head (e.g. Hmm what will I make for dinner?), my stomach starts growling very loud. \n\nThis has been giving me a lot of anxiety and embarrassment about meetings. Additionally, I waste time before a meeting trying to scarf down a banana or quickly trying to make a cup of tea before so I have something to sip on because I won't be able to last longer than 15 minutes.", "How to stop stomach from rumbling during meetings. Lately, at every meeting over 15 minutes long, my stomach starts growling/rumbling very audibly. \n\nI have been trying to drink water, tea, or have a snack before, but sometimes I either don't have the time or a meeting runs long. \n\nI won't even be hungry, but as soon as a thought about food comes into my head (e.g. Hmm what will I make for dinner?), my stomach starts growling very loud. \n\nThis has been giving me a lot of anxiety and embarrassment about meetings. Additionally, I waste time before a meeting trying to scarf down a banana or quickly trying to make a cup of tea before so I have something to sip on because I won't be able to last longer than 15 minutes.", "How to stop stomach from rumbling during meetings. Lately, at every meeting over 15 minutes long, my stomach starts growling/rumbling very audibly. \n\nI have been trying to drink water, tea, or have a snack before, but sometimes I either don't have the time or a meeting runs long. \n\nI won't even be hungry, but as soon as a thought about food comes into my head (e.g. Hmm what will I make for dinner?), my stomach starts growling very loud. \n\nThis has been giving me a lot of anxiety and embarrassment about meetings. Additionally, I waste time before a meeting trying to scarf down a banana or quickly trying to make a cup of tea before so I have something to sip on because I won't be able to last longer than 15 minutes.", "How to stop stomach from rumbling during meetings. Lately, at every meeting over 15 minutes long, my stomach starts growling/rumbling very audibly. \n\nI have been trying to drink water, tea, or have a snack before, but sometimes I either don't have the time or a meeting runs long. \n\nI won't even be hungry, but as soon as a thought about food comes into my head (e.g. Hmm what will I make for dinner?), my stomach starts growling very loud. \n\nThis has been giving me a lot of anxiety and embarrassment about meetings. Additionally, I waste time before a meeting trying to scarf down a banana or quickly trying to make a cup of tea before so I have something to sip on because I won't be able to last longer than 15 minutes.", "How to stop stomach from rumbling during meetings. Lately, at every meeting over 15 minutes long, my stomach starts growling/rumbling very audibly. \n\nI have been trying to drink water, tea, or have a snack before, but sometimes I either don't have the time or a meeting runs long. \n\nI won't even be hungry, but as soon as a thought about food comes into my head (e.g. Hmm what will I make for dinner?), my stomach starts growling very loud. \n\nThis has been giving me a lot of anxiety and embarrassment about meetings. Additionally, I waste time before a meeting trying to scarf down a banana or quickly trying to make a cup of tea before so I have something to sip on because I won't be able to last longer than 15 minutes.", "How to stop stomach from rumbling during meetings. Lately, at every meeting over 15 minutes long, my stomach starts growling/rumbling very audibly. \n\nI have been trying to drink water, tea, or have a snack before, but sometimes I either don't have the time or a meeting runs long. \n\nI won't even be hungry, but as soon as a thought about food comes into my head (e.g. Hmm what will I make for dinner?), my stomach starts growling very loud. \n\nThis has been giving me a lot of anxiety and embarrassment about meetings. Additionally, I waste time before a meeting trying to scarf down a banana or quickly trying to make a cup of tea before so I have something to sip on because I won't be able to last longer than 15 minutes.", "How to stop stomach from rumbling during meetings. Lately, at every meeting over 15 minutes long, my stomach starts growling/rumbling very audibly. \n\nI have been trying to drink water, tea, or have a snack before, but sometimes I either don't have the time or a meeting runs long. \n\nI won't even be hungry, but as soon as a thought about food comes into my head (e.g. Hmm what will I make for dinner?), my stomach starts growling very loud. \n\nThis has been giving me a lot of anxiety and embarrassment about meetings. Additionally, I waste time before a meeting trying to scarf down a banana or quickly trying to make a cup of tea before so I have something to sip on because I won't be able to last longer than 15 minutes.", "How to stop stomach from rumbling during meetings. Lately, at every meeting over 15 minutes long, my stomach starts growling/rumbling very audibly. \n\nI have been trying to drink water, tea, or have a snack before, but sometimes I either don't have the time or a meeting runs long. \n\nI won't even be hungry, but as soon as a thought about food comes into my head (e.g. Hmm what will I make for dinner?), my stomach starts growling very loud. \n\nThis has been giving me a lot of anxiety and embarrassment about meetings. Additionally, I waste time before a meeting trying to scarf down a banana or quickly trying to make a cup of tea before so I have something to sip on because I won't be able to last longer than 15 minutes." ]

[ "Usually I would say just eat a snack before as that usually works but apparently not for you. I'd just like to say that it probably is a lot more noticeable to you than anyone else, and it happens to everyone. No need to feel embarrassed. Sometimes it can be caused by anxiety of if it happening. Hope I helped. ", "I had this problem start about 2 years ago, so I started paying attention to what I'm eating that might cause this. Turns out I've developed a lactose sensitivity. I've cut out dairy products for breakfast, which really helps. Many adults develop lactose sensitivity as they get older. Something you may want to consider is keeping a food diary, to see if u cam pinpoint the cause of the rumbling.", "Eating right before can make it worse. It takes a while for food to get through your system. Try eating a while before your meeting instead, not a snack which will sometimes make you feel more hungry, but make sure you're eating regular meals, including breakfast, and try to eat healthy food. Works for me.", "Perhaps it's gas rather than hunger rumbles? Have you tried taking a tums or gas-x before heading in?", "Tensing my stomach seems to hell, albeit only a little. Also the rumble will have to have started for you to realize you have to tense.", "Maybe try putting something in your lap, up against the stomach, like a jacket or sweater. It could soften the noise a bit", "Are you afraid they'll think you're farting or having some intestinal distress? If so, I'm the same exact way. Well, used to be. I'd get so anxious about my stomach noises I'd excuse myself and leave. Little did I know this was just drawing more attention and making the noises more frequent/audible. Today if I'm in a meeting or a quiet situation with someone else and my stomach makes a weird noise, I just chuckle and say, \"Sorry, I skipped breakfast this morning,\" or something brief along those lines. If you don't make a big deal of it nobody else will. Besides, if you're in a meeting there are clearly more important things at hand. It's not like you're straight-up shitting your pants. Nobody cares as much as you think they do, no one will remember it, and they're probably anxious about their own digestive sounds.", "AFAIK stomach rumbling is your intestines pushing the loose shit through your bowels on its way to be excreted." ]

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[ "help finding sales leads Redditors. My friend recently started working selling security systems for a company in Denver, CO. He's having a really hard time locating companies that actually have an interest in buying or using their services. The company doesn't provide any major sales leads and recommends drop in and cold calls. Does anyone have any idea how to find more reliable or interested leads for something like this?", "help finding sales leads Redditors. My friend recently started working selling security systems for a company in Denver, CO. He's having a really hard time locating companies that actually have an interest in buying or using their services. The company doesn't provide any major sales leads and recommends drop in and cold calls. Does anyone have any idea how to find more reliable or interested leads for something like this?", "help finding sales leads Redditors. My friend recently started working selling security systems for a company in Denver, CO. He's having a really hard time locating companies that actually have an interest in buying or using their services. The company doesn't provide any major sales leads and recommends drop in and cold calls. Does anyone have any idea how to find more reliable or interested leads for something like this?" ]

[ "Some brainstorm ideas (not necessarily all good):\n\n* Start a website and hire seo firm to you rank for keywords on Google search related to your location (Denver) and service (security systems).\n\n* Start a Yelp page and make sure all your customers get a special discount for leaving you a review.\n\n* Give customers a referral bonus if they introduce a new customer. Also, provide your customers with amazing service. Word of mouth is really the best way to get new business.\n\n* Join local business organizations (Rotary Club for example) and offer to give some presentations about security.\n\n* Write up some authoritative whitepapers about security systems and publish them online and/or on industry journals.\n\n* Hire a salesman with lots of experience in that area in the security business. If you cannot afford this, offer to hire someone like that as a consultant.\n\n* Look for natural allies and give them an opportunity to upsell your product for a commission. Think: Who else is visiting your potential customers? Maybe commercial real estate agents, insurance adjusters, security guards, window stores, etc.\n\n* Talk to local police stations and ask them who reported robberies recently. Or ask them where the really high crime areas are.\n\n* Hire a ninja and have him break into warehouses and instead of stealing something, leave a white lotus flower. Don't leave a note. That would cheapen the message.\n", "My life is cold calling - you just have to knock on all the doors and call all of the numbers, and then persist. I didn't make money for about six months, and then it started trickling in, then dribbling in, then pouring in, and now it's gushing like some kind of perma-hard, wildly ejaculating business-dong.\n\nTell your friend to be patient and to stick with it.", "I love this stuff. I work in a marketing education company and this is my favorite thing to do.\n\nBased on your goals, I rcommend:\n\nLinkedIn -> search people by job title/radius/etc in your area.\n\nDo some mining of where your target audience may be. If you're working with construction companies, join a bunch of LinkedIn groups that involve the decision makers in construction companies. Being in those groups gives you a method to connect.\n\nHere's the next step: No one likes to be sold to, so send them a LinkedIn connection, to warm them up first. (Don't use the default LinkedIn connection msg)\n\nSomething like: \"hi I noticed we're in x group together. I thought it would be benifitual to connect. I hope business is well!\" You should aim for at about 400 potential connections. From tests with linked U, a course on LinkedIn network building, Josh's team gets a 50-70% success rate.\n\nDuring this process, engage with the groups and LinkedIn with valuable content. Show your newfound connections you know your stuff with updates. It'll pop on their radar more frequently.\n\nNow, here's where you close the gap. \n\nAfter about 2 weeks, reapproach your new connections with \"hi, we've been connected for a while. As much as I love social media, I still like knowing my connections. Would you be interested in coffee (if they're nearby) or chatting on Skype?\"\n\nUpon receiving that message, they'll visit your profile, see that you are pretty active with sharing great content, and will make time for you since you position yourself as a authority in the space. \n\nYou call, share what you do in your respective businesses, and go, \"by the way, I'm notice [problem in industry, and how you plan to solve it - don't pitch heavily, keep super short] and grow my business. Would you happen to know anyone with that problem?\"\n\nThis process gets you clients, potential new leads, a builds relations.\n\nI typed this in my phone while still waking up, so hopefully it's coherent. :)" ]

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[ "How to winterize your home on a budget. I moved into a new house in August with some roommates. The place is old, like maybe 100 years, it's in pretty good shape but keeping the house warm is proving to be a tough task. \n\nI've often heard about different ways to insulate windows or small fixes to prevent heat loss for homes but haven't had to worry about it until now. \n\nWhat are some good materials, techniques, things I can buy or do to help keep my house warm? Cost effective alternatives would be great but I'd also prefer to just spend the money to fix the place up then pay the power company more. \n\nTLDR; house leaks heat, winter is coming, how can I seal windows, doors or other things to keep the house warm? Is there anything else I can do besides sealing windows and doors? ", "How to winterize your home on a budget. I moved into a new house in August with some roommates. The place is old, like maybe 100 years, it's in pretty good shape but keeping the house warm is proving to be a tough task. \n\nI've often heard about different ways to insulate windows or small fixes to prevent heat loss for homes but haven't had to worry about it until now. \n\nWhat are some good materials, techniques, things I can buy or do to help keep my house warm? Cost effective alternatives would be great but I'd also prefer to just spend the money to fix the place up then pay the power company more. \n\nTLDR; house leaks heat, winter is coming, how can I seal windows, doors or other things to keep the house warm? Is there anything else I can do besides sealing windows and doors? ", "How to winterize your home on a budget. I moved into a new house in August with some roommates. The place is old, like maybe 100 years, it's in pretty good shape but keeping the house warm is proving to be a tough task. \n\nI've often heard about different ways to insulate windows or small fixes to prevent heat loss for homes but haven't had to worry about it until now. \n\nWhat are some good materials, techniques, things I can buy or do to help keep my house warm? Cost effective alternatives would be great but I'd also prefer to just spend the money to fix the place up then pay the power company more. \n\nTLDR; house leaks heat, winter is coming, how can I seal windows, doors or other things to keep the house warm? Is there anything else I can do besides sealing windows and doors? " ]

[ "Lots of ideas here: \n\nhttp://www.bobvila.com/slideshow/11-ways-to-winterize-your-home-on-a-budget-10169 \n\nhttp://home.howstuffworks.com/green-living/winterize-home-poisoning-family.htm", "This can be an impossible task in an old house without some costly Reno's but here are a few tips that come to mind. \n\n* Place a towel at the base of any door connecting to outside. \n* Use fans to direct heat to places that don't get it.\n\n* Leave your blinds up during the day to let the sun naturally heat your house\n\n* Close doors to rooms that aren't in use \n\n* Buy an energy efficient space heater. Some of them are relatively inexpensive to buy ($40) and fairly cheap to run. They can be more cost effective than trying in vain to heat the entire house with your furnace simply because you can heat whatever area you happen to be in while keeping the temp. in the rest of the house low.\n\n* Get used to wearing warmer clothes around the house. I used to live in a old drafty, house in Toronto. I swear it was sub 60 most of the time. My roommates and I used to rock long john's around the house and invested in some quality slippers. It's the most basic fix, but it works obviously.\n* Pin towels over any windows that don't get direct sunlight.", "People typically laugh at me, but I tape my front door shut. I use shipping tape because it is easy to unpeel from the wall when I want to open the door. It makes a difference because so much cold air comes through the crack. It might affect the paint on your wall/door though, so test it first." ]

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[ "How to effectively switch to night shift work schedule. I have been on days (7-5) for several months. Next Wednesday I switch to nights (10-8).\n\nLuckily, I am off tomorrow at noon until I start nights next Wednesday night. \n\nAny good tips to swap my schedule upside down? \n\nThanks \n", "How to effectively switch to night shift work schedule. I have been on days (7-5) for several months. Next Wednesday I switch to nights (10-8).\n\nLuckily, I am off tomorrow at noon until I start nights next Wednesday night. \n\nAny good tips to swap my schedule upside down? \n\nThanks \n", "How to effectively switch to night shift work schedule. I have been on days (7-5) for several months. Next Wednesday I switch to nights (10-8).\n\nLuckily, I am off tomorrow at noon until I start nights next Wednesday night. \n\nAny good tips to swap my schedule upside down? \n\nThanks \n", "How to effectively switch to night shift work schedule. I have been on days (7-5) for several months. Next Wednesday I switch to nights (10-8).\n\nLuckily, I am off tomorrow at noon until I start nights next Wednesday night. \n\nAny good tips to swap my schedule upside down? \n\nThanks \n", "How to effectively switch to night shift work schedule. I have been on days (7-5) for several months. Next Wednesday I switch to nights (10-8).\n\nLuckily, I am off tomorrow at noon until I start nights next Wednesday night. \n\nAny good tips to swap my schedule upside down? \n\nThanks \n", "How to effectively switch to night shift work schedule. I have been on days (7-5) for several months. Next Wednesday I switch to nights (10-8).\n\nLuckily, I am off tomorrow at noon until I start nights next Wednesday night. \n\nAny good tips to swap my schedule upside down? \n\nThanks \n", "How to effectively switch to night shift work schedule. I have been on days (7-5) for several months. Next Wednesday I switch to nights (10-8).\n\nLuckily, I am off tomorrow at noon until I start nights next Wednesday night. \n\nAny good tips to swap my schedule upside down? \n\nThanks \n" ]

[ "If you dont want to invest in blackout curtains (which I had to take down becasue they made my room too warm), invest in an eye cover. They're usually available from the cosmetics area of anywhere like Target or Walmart for $5 or less, and they're the most amazing thing I even spent too much time deciding to get.\n\nSomebody else wrote to get sleep whenever you can- don't. Sleep your full 8 hours, straight if possible. The simple fact is that you're already screwing up your body beyond what is natural- give it the time it needs to really hit REM. It makes a bad situation less horrible.", "Adjust your eating habits a bit. If you want to sleep in the morning, eat early and go right to bed, eat again when you wake up. If you want to sleep in the evening (nice for getting errands done after work) Eat late morning then once again around an hour or 2 before bedtime. \n\nBonus to the blackout curtains, if you're not worried about the windows being seen from the outside(neighbors may see it as trashy or they'll think you've got something to hide), put up some aluminum foil (shiny side out) behind the curtains. Stick that stuff right up to the glass with whatever tape you've got. Duct tape works the best unless you've got a ton of moisture on your Windows - then use aluminum tape. That's the stuff they use on AC and heating ducts. It's made to handle temperatures change and moisture. Careful though, it's sharp as hell. Do it carefully and you won't tear any foil if you need to open a window for some air. I find that blackout curtains only dim the room, but using foil (and making sure to cover up any gaps that light pokes through) helps tremendously. It also reflects some sunlight helping to keep the room cool. \n\nSource : I've been working third shift for the last 5 years. I sleep from 2 to 10 pm and my bedroom gets the late afternoon sun. It's 1:30 pm right now and if I turn my phone screen off, I can hardly see a Damn thing. ", "Stay up until it's time to go to sleep on your new schedule. When I'm switching to nights I usually look for a concert or something else high energy and late to help me stay up.", "Sit outside an hour as the sun goes down.\n\nThe treatment for Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome, a sleeping disorder which I have, it to be outside for an hour when I wake up- then slowly back up that time from say, 2 pm to 10 am over the course of a month or two.\n\nTurns out, there's a wavelength of solar light that screams 'wake the fuck up, right now is when we wake up' to your brain. And it's usually blocked by windows, because it's ultraviolet. \n\nSo make the first time you go outside for an appreciable amount of time when the sun is an hour before setting, and stay there. Your body will adjust to thinking 'oh yeah, that's basically morning' within a week or two at most.\n", "I work 7-7 nights 3 days a week and 4-2 nights 3 days a week. You need blackout curtains and minimize your social life to reddit. ", "Get black out curtains and get used to sleeping whenever you can. A few hours here, a few hours there. ", "Blackout your windows. I use a fan to block out noise. Tomorrow stay up all night. Do not rest or go to sleep until the following morning. Do whatever you have to do to stay awake. Drink coffee, go out, whatever. Sleep as much as you can and repeat. You have plenty of time to get somewhat acclimated if you are disciplined. " ]

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[ "Getting rid of eczema scars. I have had eczema for a while and my legs have just started to clear up but there are scars on my legs from where I have scratched them so much. Is there any way to get rid of them or at least fade them?", "Getting rid of eczema scars. I have had eczema for a while and my legs have just started to clear up but there are scars on my legs from where I have scratched them so much. Is there any way to get rid of them or at least fade them?" ]

[ "Well if I remember correctly bio oil is used by people with other scars and stretch marks to try and reduce their visibility but I can't vouch for it personally. They are called scars for a reason...", "I had this forever, too! I use cocoa and shea butter lotions (think stretch mark creams). Also, body brushing. Look into it. It helps! Vitamin E oil is great too, but can get a bit messy. Coconut oil. So many options!" ]

[ 4, 4 ]

[ "Organizing your gmail when you have other e-mail accounts that forward e-mails to your gmail account. I currently have a gmail account that's receiving forwarded e-mails from 3 other e-mail accounts and services, and my inbox is becoming quite chaotic. I can manually direct these e-mails to labels but isn't there an automatic way to sort this? I would like to login and have all the other accounts sorted on folders/labels.\n\n", "Organizing your gmail when you have other e-mail accounts that forward e-mails to your gmail account. I currently have a gmail account that's receiving forwarded e-mails from 3 other e-mail accounts and services, and my inbox is becoming quite chaotic. I can manually direct these e-mails to labels but isn't there an automatic way to sort this? I would like to login and have all the other accounts sorted on folders/labels.\n\n", "Organizing your gmail when you have other e-mail accounts that forward e-mails to your gmail account. I currently have a gmail account that's receiving forwarded e-mails from 3 other e-mail accounts and services, and my inbox is becoming quite chaotic. I can manually direct these e-mails to labels but isn't there an automatic way to sort this? I would like to login and have all the other accounts sorted on folders/labels.\n\n" ]

[ "You can assign filters that will automatically label them, based on multiple criteria. To do this, click on the gear, go to settings, click on the filters tab.\n\nIn this case, you'd probably want to trigger on the \"To\" field, using the original email address, and assign a label named whatever, I'd use \"to:[email protected]\" personally.", "http://www.techerator.com/2009/07/how-to-get-organized-with-multiple-inboxes-in-gmail/\n\n\nYou can try making different inboxes for each account with multiple inboxes by using and/or statements", "easy. have each other account forward to your current email like so:\n\nto forward to address \"[email protected]\" but label it \"yahoo\" automatically, all you have to do is forward to the following email address:\n\[email protected]\n\nThen just make a filter to match \"to:[email protected]\" and apply an appropriate label!" ]

[ 7, 2, 2 ]

[ "How I learned to beat procrastination (remember to come back here soon to fill in the rest. Hopefully there will be some good tips in the comments)", "How I learned to beat procrastination (remember to come back here soon to fill in the rest. Hopefully there will be some good tips in the comments)", "How I learned to beat procrastination (remember to come back here soon to fill in the rest. Hopefully there will be some good tips in the comments)", "How I learned to beat procrastination (remember to come back here soon to fill in the rest. Hopefully there will be some good tips in the comments)", "How I learned to beat procrastination (remember to come back here soon to fill in the rest. Hopefully there will be some good tips in the comments)", "How I learned to beat procrastination (remember to come back here soon to fill in the rest. Hopefully there will be some good tips in the comments)", "How I learned to beat procrastination (remember to come back here soon to fill in the rest. Hopefully there will be some good tips in the comments)", "How I learned to beat procrastination (remember to come back here soon to fill in the rest. Hopefully there will be some good tips in the comments)" ]

[ "Just do it the moment you think of it. It’s really hard, but if you can force yourself to do it right then it’s done for and not hanging above your head. It’s hard to get use to, but with some practice, I think you can likely get there", "Do it for 5 mins - lots of times starting is the hardest part and just doing the first baby step can be enough to get you going.\n\nRemove \"barriers to entry\" - make tasks as easy to start as possible. E.g. If you need a certain thing to do the task get it ready beforehand. \n\nGet some accountability- have a friend check in to make sure you at least started. If they are willing to they can check in more afterwards. Look at activity partnering if you can.\n\nTime yourself on things you do more than once - often the thing seems bigger in our heads. Timing how long it takes to do a task might suprise you and next time you can tell yourself \"it only takes x minutes\"\n\nLook at the reasons why you are procrastinating and try to address them. Are you scared of failure, dont know the next step, really dont think this is important, hoping someone else will do it for you, easily distracted? All of these will have different solutions.", "You have to learn to rely on discipline and not motivation. Motivation is fleeting. Discipline is rock solid.\n\nPerhaps this isn't helpful but it's true.", "do your \"adult chores\" (eg your dishes, cleaning etc) before \"fun time\" (eg playing games, shopping, watch movies etc) as a reward.", "Whenever you have to do something try to put a timer on it. \nEg. Putting a timer of 10 mins. of cleaning your room, when the timer stops you'll be forced to continue on cleaning.", "Perhaps think of the very next micro step eg uncross my legs or move my right foot. Tiny micro steps are less overwhelming for our brains. :) or just do one dish or pick up one piece of clothes.", "One thing I try is to make everything \"just a little bit better\". I dont need to fold all the washing, just a pair of socks is OK but I do more. If I have something (like used cup beside the bed) I take it to the longue room first, then when I am walking to the kitchen I take it the rest of the way. I think that has been helping me.\n\nAnd inviting people over is the best way to clean the house - so I am embarrassed and get it done", "I heard a tip that said “if it would take you less than a minute to do something, just do it now.” I try to remind myself of that throughout the day when I try to tell myself I’ll do something later." ]

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[ "How to show you have confidence without coming off as a completely egocentric person Really just to show you like yourself without being an ass", "How to show you have confidence without coming off as a completely egocentric person Really just to show you like yourself without being an ass", "How to show you have confidence without coming off as a completely egocentric person Really just to show you like yourself without being an ass" ]

[ "I read a few times that confidence isn't about walking in a room and thinking 'people will like me' but more 'I'll be fine if they dont'. \n\nIn other words, approaching people and trying to be something you're not isn't the epitome of not having it ", "The difference between people thinking you're confident and people thinking you're arrogant IMHO comes down to one thing- are you doing what you do to make yourself feel good, or are you doing what you do to make the people around you feel good?\n\nOver my life the people I've met who seem the most genuinely confident to me are the people who can talk to a stranger, and genuinely care about what that stranger has to say. The people who come off as arrogant love to talk to the stranger, but they twist the conversation around to be about themselves.\n\nShow you're truly confident by being unafraid to share the spotlight with others.", "Eyes up, making eye contact without staring.\n\nSolid posture. Dont slouch.\n\nFace people youre talking to with your shoulders and chest if possible.\n\nSpeak from your diaphragm, your voice will be \"louder\" but really it will just carry a bit more without actually raising your volume. Easier to hear and tends to cause people to listen. Google it!\n\nTry to avoid ums, uhhs, and likes in your speech. Keep your hands away from your mouth when you speak as well. Enunciate your words!\n\nBe respectful without being timid.\n\n\nJust some tips that I use on a daily basis. I spent years and years getting over crippling shyness and lacking any sort of confidence. At this point, when other's are asked to describe me in a few words \"confident\" is typically one of the first. \n\n\nAvoid Narcissistic comments like \"Damn I look good today\" at all costs. You just look like a huge fucking tool.\n" ]

[ 9, 4, 4 ]

[ "how to pack clothing efficiently. Going on a small trip and my luggage is kind of lacking in space. Is there a proper method to folding/rolling and containing clothes? ", "how to pack clothing efficiently. Going on a small trip and my luggage is kind of lacking in space. Is there a proper method to folding/rolling and containing clothes? " ]

[ "I went on a two week camping trip to Iceland about 3 years ago. I rolled everything and it all fit into a small duffel bag. Rolling bulky items like jeans and towels takes up less space then folding.\n\nIf you are worried about wrinkles and don't have access to a iron or drier. Hang up your clothes in the bathroom while taking a hot shower, and the steam should reduce wrinkles. \n\n", "Roll everything. If you can't roll it (suits) lay/sandwitch it flat between other thing. \n\nLifechangingprotip: Fit small things you don't want floating around but don't need easy access to into the toe of a shoe, then \"cap\" the she with a rolled pair of socks." ]

[ 12, 4 ]

[ "Air underneath auto glass tint. Recently the tint on my passenger side window appears to have become *wrinkled*. There are strips of air underneath the plastic(?) tint and I'm not sure how to go about flattening it back down without leaving creases in the material and making it look even worse.\nI know my description doesn't exactly built a keen image in the mind, if needed I can provide a picture of my predicament. ", "Air underneath auto glass tint. Recently the tint on my passenger side window appears to have become *wrinkled*. There are strips of air underneath the plastic(?) tint and I'm not sure how to go about flattening it back down without leaving creases in the material and making it look even worse.\nI know my description doesn't exactly built a keen image in the mind, if needed I can provide a picture of my predicament. " ]

[ "usually its because ut was placed improperly or the material couldnt handle the heat.. if its more than a square .5 inch of bubble, get new tint", "It depends on the wrinkle. If it's small (more like a bubble) then 'pop' it with a pin, and smooth it down with the edge of a cr" ]

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[ "How to Juggle Medical Conditions in College? I'm worried I might get expelled. I have medical issues that are making it difficult to attend. Although I'm currently trying to fix it I feel it's been too long. I tried suggesting I take a medical leave to the counselor that handles disabilities and such, but I was told that unless I was in a hospital I can't ask for a medical leave. \n\nI try to attend as much as I can and I try to be active in the classes, as much as my conditions will let me. \n\nLast semester I ended up having to drop two of my classes and attend one. I went everyday but it took a toll. Now I'm in second semester and I'm finding it very difficult to go in anymore. It's nearing the end and I think an expulsion is very probable. ", "How to Juggle Medical Conditions in College? I'm worried I might get expelled. I have medical issues that are making it difficult to attend. Although I'm currently trying to fix it I feel it's been too long. I tried suggesting I take a medical leave to the counselor that handles disabilities and such, but I was told that unless I was in a hospital I can't ask for a medical leave. \n\nI try to attend as much as I can and I try to be active in the classes, as much as my conditions will let me. \n\nLast semester I ended up having to drop two of my classes and attend one. I went everyday but it took a toll. Now I'm in second semester and I'm finding it very difficult to go in anymore. It's nearing the end and I think an expulsion is very probable. ", "How to Juggle Medical Conditions in College? I'm worried I might get expelled. I have medical issues that are making it difficult to attend. Although I'm currently trying to fix it I feel it's been too long. I tried suggesting I take a medical leave to the counselor that handles disabilities and such, but I was told that unless I was in a hospital I can't ask for a medical leave. \n\nI try to attend as much as I can and I try to be active in the classes, as much as my conditions will let me. \n\nLast semester I ended up having to drop two of my classes and attend one. I went everyday but it took a toll. Now I'm in second semester and I'm finding it very difficult to go in anymore. It's nearing the end and I think an expulsion is very probable. ", "How to Juggle Medical Conditions in College? I'm worried I might get expelled. I have medical issues that are making it difficult to attend. Although I'm currently trying to fix it I feel it's been too long. I tried suggesting I take a medical leave to the counselor that handles disabilities and such, but I was told that unless I was in a hospital I can't ask for a medical leave. \n\nI try to attend as much as I can and I try to be active in the classes, as much as my conditions will let me. \n\nLast semester I ended up having to drop two of my classes and attend one. I went everyday but it took a toll. Now I'm in second semester and I'm finding it very difficult to go in anymore. It's nearing the end and I think an expulsion is very probable. ", "How to Juggle Medical Conditions in College? I'm worried I might get expelled. I have medical issues that are making it difficult to attend. Although I'm currently trying to fix it I feel it's been too long. I tried suggesting I take a medical leave to the counselor that handles disabilities and such, but I was told that unless I was in a hospital I can't ask for a medical leave. \n\nI try to attend as much as I can and I try to be active in the classes, as much as my conditions will let me. \n\nLast semester I ended up having to drop two of my classes and attend one. I went everyday but it took a toll. Now I'm in second semester and I'm finding it very difficult to go in anymore. It's nearing the end and I think an expulsion is very probable. " ]

[ "You might also contact the Dean of Students. He or she is responsible for much of this kind of thing.", "Talk to your professors and heads of departments. Failing students looks bad for the institution, so they'll usually try and come to an arrangement that will suit everyone, whether it's extensions to deadlines, extra out-of-class support, or anything else.", "If you have to drop a class talk to the university and see if you can get a medical drop, for my old university that meant my records/transcripts wouldn't show the drop as a fail. Also I ended up having to switch to online classes and it has helped me a lot. And taking fewer classes as well because when I tried taking several when I thought I was \"better\" I ended up failing all of them when I fell behind instead of passing one", "I've been through this; I've gotten chronic migraines since I was a kid, but they weren't diagnosed until junior year of college, after I was already on probation. \n\nTake any and all notes from doctors to your professors. Sure, your profs may fail you or say \"too late\", but you need to finish this semester fighting. Also, check with your advisor or student services and see if there is a Student Disability/Accommodations department. On my campus, I was able to show my doctor's notes and Student Disability sent letters to my profs explaining my illness and noting how I would often be absent; since these notes came from the school and required signatures, all of my profs had to be on board. Once I was in the Disability group thing, I never had a prof doubt my illness or doctors note again. Also, tell your advisor what is going on in your life, both medically and personally (issues with parents). He/she may be a great sounding board and can give you someone to lean on, they will know your story better and direct you to a counselor on campus, and simply having an advisor in your corner is an incredibly helpful tool.\n\nYou can graduate. I did. You can do this!!!\n\nAlso, you may not get expelled, you may simply be suspended. You can fight that too, with proper doctor documentation. ", "I'm sure there are laws protecting your health records from being considered in your school status. Anyone familiar with law care to chime in?\n\nIn fact, it might even work to your benefit if you think u need special help, like extra tutoring etc.\n\nMost colleges are very liberal and understanding" ]

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[ "How do I stop sweating/feeling-hot so much when walking outside? I live in downtown Toronto and like any major city, having a car has more negatives than positives, it's much better to walk to where you want than drive. \n \nThe thing is, I sweat A LOT. At home, my AC is turned up so high you'd think it was Antarctica. I wear summer clothing, drink plenty of water, wear deodorant/anti-antiperspirant, and even carry a small towel, yet I still get SO hot and sweat like I came out of a swamp. \n \nSo please, someone tell me they have a solution??? I heard about things like [these cooling towels](http://www.amazon.com/ProActive-Frogg-Togg-Chilly-Blue/dp/B003YF7W22/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1368981759&sr=8-2) but do they work? Is there anything else I can do?", "How do I stop sweating/feeling-hot so much when walking outside? I live in downtown Toronto and like any major city, having a car has more negatives than positives, it's much better to walk to where you want than drive. \n \nThe thing is, I sweat A LOT. At home, my AC is turned up so high you'd think it was Antarctica. I wear summer clothing, drink plenty of water, wear deodorant/anti-antiperspirant, and even carry a small towel, yet I still get SO hot and sweat like I came out of a swamp. \n \nSo please, someone tell me they have a solution??? I heard about things like [these cooling towels](http://www.amazon.com/ProActive-Frogg-Togg-Chilly-Blue/dp/B003YF7W22/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1368981759&sr=8-2) but do they work? Is there anything else I can do?", "How do I stop sweating/feeling-hot so much when walking outside? I live in downtown Toronto and like any major city, having a car has more negatives than positives, it's much better to walk to where you want than drive. \n \nThe thing is, I sweat A LOT. At home, my AC is turned up so high you'd think it was Antarctica. I wear summer clothing, drink plenty of water, wear deodorant/anti-antiperspirant, and even carry a small towel, yet I still get SO hot and sweat like I came out of a swamp. \n \nSo please, someone tell me they have a solution??? I heard about things like [these cooling towels](http://www.amazon.com/ProActive-Frogg-Togg-Chilly-Blue/dp/B003YF7W22/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1368981759&sr=8-2) but do they work? Is there anything else I can do?" ]

[ "The air conditioner is part of your problem. You keep it so cold in your apartment you aren't climatized to hotter areas. You should start slowly with raising the thermostat some then eventually switching to fans at night. I live in south Texas, if its possible here, Im sure its possible for you.", "There was a terrific post about this from a Redditor who had spent time in Afghanistan and/or Iraq. He had a big list of strategies for coping with heat, at the top of which was acclimatisation, i.e. adapting to the stresses of a warm environment gradually, by repeated exposure.. ", "You really just need to sweat it out. As you get more fit and lose weight (if you're overweight, your body will tend to sweat more) and just acclimate your body to the exertion, you'll sweat less.\n\nIn the meantime, gold bond powder is nice to control swamp ass." ]

[ 12, 5, 4 ]

[ "A bit on the more serious side, but how to better prepare yourself to handle any sort of a 'crisis?' I hear it often said that you never really know how you'll respond to a crisis until the time comes, and that seems to make a lot of sense. But while I've typically been able to stay calm and handle the situation that might arise from a minor crisis of sorts, I really don't want to be blindsided some day by the realization that 'sorry, you're not really equipped to handle this sort of thing.' Especially not when the safety and wellbeing of myself and those I care about is up in the air.\n\nIs there nothing to it but to find out when the day comes, and maybe gain practice through application? Are certain types of people predisposed to being better at that sort of thing?\n\nUltimately, any LPT's for being able to mentally and emotionally handle the sort of serious situation that would require quick action to resolve?", "A bit on the more serious side, but how to better prepare yourself to handle any sort of a 'crisis?' I hear it often said that you never really know how you'll respond to a crisis until the time comes, and that seems to make a lot of sense. But while I've typically been able to stay calm and handle the situation that might arise from a minor crisis of sorts, I really don't want to be blindsided some day by the realization that 'sorry, you're not really equipped to handle this sort of thing.' Especially not when the safety and wellbeing of myself and those I care about is up in the air.\n\nIs there nothing to it but to find out when the day comes, and maybe gain practice through application? Are certain types of people predisposed to being better at that sort of thing?\n\nUltimately, any LPT's for being able to mentally and emotionally handle the sort of serious situation that would require quick action to resolve?", "A bit on the more serious side, but how to better prepare yourself to handle any sort of a 'crisis?' I hear it often said that you never really know how you'll respond to a crisis until the time comes, and that seems to make a lot of sense. But while I've typically been able to stay calm and handle the situation that might arise from a minor crisis of sorts, I really don't want to be blindsided some day by the realization that 'sorry, you're not really equipped to handle this sort of thing.' Especially not when the safety and wellbeing of myself and those I care about is up in the air.\n\nIs there nothing to it but to find out when the day comes, and maybe gain practice through application? Are certain types of people predisposed to being better at that sort of thing?\n\nUltimately, any LPT's for being able to mentally and emotionally handle the sort of serious situation that would require quick action to resolve?", "A bit on the more serious side, but how to better prepare yourself to handle any sort of a 'crisis?' I hear it often said that you never really know how you'll respond to a crisis until the time comes, and that seems to make a lot of sense. But while I've typically been able to stay calm and handle the situation that might arise from a minor crisis of sorts, I really don't want to be blindsided some day by the realization that 'sorry, you're not really equipped to handle this sort of thing.' Especially not when the safety and wellbeing of myself and those I care about is up in the air.\n\nIs there nothing to it but to find out when the day comes, and maybe gain practice through application? Are certain types of people predisposed to being better at that sort of thing?\n\nUltimately, any LPT's for being able to mentally and emotionally handle the sort of serious situation that would require quick action to resolve?", "A bit on the more serious side, but how to better prepare yourself to handle any sort of a 'crisis?' I hear it often said that you never really know how you'll respond to a crisis until the time comes, and that seems to make a lot of sense. But while I've typically been able to stay calm and handle the situation that might arise from a minor crisis of sorts, I really don't want to be blindsided some day by the realization that 'sorry, you're not really equipped to handle this sort of thing.' Especially not when the safety and wellbeing of myself and those I care about is up in the air.\n\nIs there nothing to it but to find out when the day comes, and maybe gain practice through application? Are certain types of people predisposed to being better at that sort of thing?\n\nUltimately, any LPT's for being able to mentally and emotionally handle the sort of serious situation that would require quick action to resolve?", "A bit on the more serious side, but how to better prepare yourself to handle any sort of a 'crisis?' I hear it often said that you never really know how you'll respond to a crisis until the time comes, and that seems to make a lot of sense. But while I've typically been able to stay calm and handle the situation that might arise from a minor crisis of sorts, I really don't want to be blindsided some day by the realization that 'sorry, you're not really equipped to handle this sort of thing.' Especially not when the safety and wellbeing of myself and those I care about is up in the air.\n\nIs there nothing to it but to find out when the day comes, and maybe gain practice through application? Are certain types of people predisposed to being better at that sort of thing?\n\nUltimately, any LPT's for being able to mentally and emotionally handle the sort of serious situation that would require quick action to resolve?" ]

[ "I cr", "Practice keeping things in perspective now. Compartmentalize your minor irritations and recognize the overall scope of impact. Incompetent burger joint employee forgot your pickles and you have to go back through the drive through? Great opportunity to temper your irritation and recognize that in 24 hours, this will be completely irrelevant. This proactive approach helps remove the emotional aspect and forces you to think rationally and logically about a given stimulus. Emotion is the most irrational attributes of the human condition and makes for a pretty terrible crisis manager.\n\nSecond is analyzing your life and identifying the the most likely crisis scenarios from a broad sweeping perspective. Financial, medical, death and succession. Have a general idea of what your options are if something were to happen in any of those categories.", "Have a plan to have a plan.\n\nBy this i mean build up skills and traits that you can use in any situation. You dont know what the future holds, and you will go crazy if you try to plan for every possible crisis. \n\nInstead, give yourself the tools to respond to any. When a crisis comes, breathe, and then hit it head on with the tools you have.", "To be honest, it sounds like you've already got the right ideas (being able to stay calm and retain your cognition etc.) You can develop this skill through practise, training, and exposure... I suppose the problem is, where do you gain those experiences?\n\nFor me, I was in the (UK) Military for a while - I didn't get into any jams or anything but I must admit, even the exposure to simulated / artificial chaos in training exercises etc. helped massively, and I'm confident that if I'd gained more 'real' experiences then it would have helped even more.\n\nObviously I'm not telling you to join your national military... but certain kinds of military style training could be useful. Outdoor survival might help but more specifically for your needs, I'd look into military style medical / first aid training - try Googling things like TacMed, Tactical Combat Casualty Care, maybe even civilian First Responders courses. Think along the lines of stressful First Aid training involving veteran amputees, fake blood, stress-inducing instructors etc. It won't always be 'fun' but will help you condition yourself to remain effective in a crisis.\n\nIf this is too expensive an option, have a think about ways you can test yourself in chaotic or stressful scenarios, while minimising the actual risks.", "Think about the most likely crisis to occur, and what the fallout would be.\n\nHurricanes are common for me. That means I need food reserves, an evacuation route, plywood to cover the windows, spare water, gasoline.\n\nIt's not all that daunting when you make a plan and there is a lot of overlap.", "Hello, here are something's I'd do. Most of my experience is with physically dangerous events so take that into consideration.\n\nPrior:\n\nRun \"what if\" scenarios in your head ahead of time. \n\nPay attention to your surroundings. You can probably avoid or mitigate the initial shock if you can see what's coming. \n\nBe physically in okay shape. Don't need to be a Greek god, but you don't wanna have a heart attack when your adrenaline kicks in. \n\nKnow what the people you are with are capable of. You don't have to have group meetings with everyone about potential danger, but know the physical capabilities of the ppl around you.\n\nDo some research on the biology response to stress so you know what to expect. Ie. Loss of fine motor skills, tunnel vision and the like\n\n\nDuring:\n\nMake a decision, any decision, and do it. In terms of a physically dangerous situation your adrenaline will be up and your thought processes will be all screwy. Simple and straightforward plans are typically better under stress. You won't know if it's a good plan till after the fact anyway so sometimes thinking to far ahead is just gonna cause you get bogged down in \"what ifs\" in the moment. \n \nAfter:\n\nTalk with people and think about what you did, what you could have done better and get ready for if/when it happens again. There will always have been something you could have done better but as long as you don't die, you probably did good enough." ]

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[ "How to take a nice picture of myself I'm not really a handsome guy and I somehow feel uncomfortable uploading a picture to facebook I made of myself.\nFor that reason I only use pictures of me with somebody else but I usually don't look very good on these.\n\nI think I can solve this problem with taking pictures of myself but how do I make them look naturally?", "How to take a nice picture of myself I'm not really a handsome guy and I somehow feel uncomfortable uploading a picture to facebook I made of myself.\nFor that reason I only use pictures of me with somebody else but I usually don't look very good on these.\n\nI think I can solve this problem with taking pictures of myself but how do I make them look naturally?", "How to take a nice picture of myself I'm not really a handsome guy and I somehow feel uncomfortable uploading a picture to facebook I made of myself.\nFor that reason I only use pictures of me with somebody else but I usually don't look very good on these.\n\nI think I can solve this problem with taking pictures of myself but how do I make them look naturally?", "How to take a nice picture of myself I'm not really a handsome guy and I somehow feel uncomfortable uploading a picture to facebook I made of myself.\nFor that reason I only use pictures of me with somebody else but I usually don't look very good on these.\n\nI think I can solve this problem with taking pictures of myself but how do I make them look naturally?" ]

[ "Easy. \n\n1. Lighting. Ever go to a dressing room with a full-body mirror flanked by tall bright lights on either side? This buffs out all shadows on your face/body. Make sure you have two (ideally diffused) light sources hitting your face from opposing angles. Fucking magical.\n\n2. Good camera + tripod. Cause shaky photos suck ass. Always. If you don't have a fancy camera/tripod, figure out a way to keep your not-so-nice camera/smart phone completely stationary and well-focused. Also make sure the lens is clean. \n\n3. Be honest. None of us look like Ryan Gosling. Its hard, but don't try to adhere to preconceived notions of beauty. This is a picture of You. All the moles, pores, split ends, patchy stubble, and zits are part of that. Don't try to fix it. Own it fearlessly in full, well-lit HD. Even if you're as unhandsome as you say you are, this will earn you some respect, both for yourself as from others. Plus it's fucking badass.\n", "hold the camera 45 degrees above you. The angle flatters everyone. Just experiment to find lighting and your best side. A smile, or smirk is always nicer than trying to look \"cool\".", "You should probably say what it is that looks bad to you. If you think your smile looks unnatural, I'd say think of a funny joke or good memory while the photo is being taken. If you want to look skinnier, you can touch your tongue to the roof of your mouth and angle your chin up slightly. I have also found that the best pictures I have seen of me are when I am relaxed. I am sure you are not that bad looking. Confidence also helps. ", "guys + selfies = gay. unfortunatly its a double standard no guys have photos they have taken of themselves on facebook" ]

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[ "How to prevent raw crusty nose during cold. Everyone in my family has been sick and my house is like a giant petri dish cultivating some heinous germs I finally fell victim to.\n\nEvery time I get a cold/virus, blowing my nose and mouth breathing causes the skin above my upper lip and around my nostrils to get raw and subsequently crust over.\n\nI've tried aquaphor, chapstick, shea butter, humidifiers, hot showers, and all manner of \"ultra-soft\" tissues, to no avail.\n\nHow do I keep my face skin intact this time??", "How to prevent raw crusty nose during cold. Everyone in my family has been sick and my house is like a giant petri dish cultivating some heinous germs I finally fell victim to.\n\nEvery time I get a cold/virus, blowing my nose and mouth breathing causes the skin above my upper lip and around my nostrils to get raw and subsequently crust over.\n\nI've tried aquaphor, chapstick, shea butter, humidifiers, hot showers, and all manner of \"ultra-soft\" tissues, to no avail.\n\nHow do I keep my face skin intact this time??", "How to prevent raw crusty nose during cold. Everyone in my family has been sick and my house is like a giant petri dish cultivating some heinous germs I finally fell victim to.\n\nEvery time I get a cold/virus, blowing my nose and mouth breathing causes the skin above my upper lip and around my nostrils to get raw and subsequently crust over.\n\nI've tried aquaphor, chapstick, shea butter, humidifiers, hot showers, and all manner of \"ultra-soft\" tissues, to no avail.\n\nHow do I keep my face skin intact this time??", "How to prevent raw crusty nose during cold. Everyone in my family has been sick and my house is like a giant petri dish cultivating some heinous germs I finally fell victim to.\n\nEvery time I get a cold/virus, blowing my nose and mouth breathing causes the skin above my upper lip and around my nostrils to get raw and subsequently crust over.\n\nI've tried aquaphor, chapstick, shea butter, humidifiers, hot showers, and all manner of \"ultra-soft\" tissues, to no avail.\n\nHow do I keep my face skin intact this time??", "How to prevent raw crusty nose during cold. Everyone in my family has been sick and my house is like a giant petri dish cultivating some heinous germs I finally fell victim to.\n\nEvery time I get a cold/virus, blowing my nose and mouth breathing causes the skin above my upper lip and around my nostrils to get raw and subsequently crust over.\n\nI've tried aquaphor, chapstick, shea butter, humidifiers, hot showers, and all manner of \"ultra-soft\" tissues, to no avail.\n\nHow do I keep my face skin intact this time??", "How to prevent raw crusty nose during cold. Everyone in my family has been sick and my house is like a giant petri dish cultivating some heinous germs I finally fell victim to.\n\nEvery time I get a cold/virus, blowing my nose and mouth breathing causes the skin above my upper lip and around my nostrils to get raw and subsequently crust over.\n\nI've tried aquaphor, chapstick, shea butter, humidifiers, hot showers, and all manner of \"ultra-soft\" tissues, to no avail.\n\nHow do I keep my face skin intact this time??" ]

[ "Vaseline at night and stop using kleenex/paper towels. Use an old 100% cotton t-shirt, cut up for handkerchiefs and slightly dampened with water.", "Keeping the skin moisturised is key.\n\nAlso, steaming much of the mucus out of your system in the shower with a bit of camphor (they make tablets for your shower, or put a dab of Vicks vaporub in the corner of your shower where the water hits it, will help clear your sinuses.", "Not all ultra-soft tissues are the same. I'm all about Puffs Plus, the kind with lotion. I didn't like the Kleenex version of lotion tissues. Haven't tried any others so far, but I doubt you'd be gratified by going cheap.", "Vaseline all the time all over the area... I even have a chronic drippy nose and I use Vaseline in the area multiple times a day otherwise it becomes terribly chapped ", "Get a bowl of hot water (enough to where it is steaming), put some Vicks Vapor Rub in there and put a heavy towel or blanket to enclose you in the space while still providing a tiny bit of room for air to come in and help you breathe. It works magic every time anyone in my family is sick. ", "You can usually buy an aqueous nasal spray over the counter. It's like lotion for your sinus. Wonderful stuff too." ]

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[ "How to prevent slugs!? Most nights I find a slug making its way through my kitchen. I have no idea how it's getting in as there are no holes anywhere and It's a clean and tidy house. Tried putting salt down but no luck! How can I find out where they are getting in? ", "How to prevent slugs!? Most nights I find a slug making its way through my kitchen. I have no idea how it's getting in as there are no holes anywhere and It's a clean and tidy house. Tried putting salt down but no luck! How can I find out where they are getting in? ", "How to prevent slugs!? Most nights I find a slug making its way through my kitchen. I have no idea how it's getting in as there are no holes anywhere and It's a clean and tidy house. Tried putting salt down but no luck! How can I find out where they are getting in? ", "How to prevent slugs!? Most nights I find a slug making its way through my kitchen. I have no idea how it's getting in as there are no holes anywhere and It's a clean and tidy house. Tried putting salt down but no luck! How can I find out where they are getting in? " ]

[ "Place pie plates of beer around the outside of your house. Slugs are *notorious* lushes and they will climb in and drown, and die happy.\n\nThis will keep them out of your kitchen - where, I presume, they are looking for your beer.", "my wife cuts a cantaloupe in half, hollows most of the fruit out, and then places the rind cut side down in the garden overnight. in the morning, a bunch of slugs have climbed up inside it, and she then puts it cut side up in a birdbath or some elevated place and birds get some breakfast.", "For the past 3 years I've had slug issues on/around my garden and porch, subsequently discovering them in the front room. I tried both the salt and the beer approach, each seeming to work for a week at the most, then they'd return (usually after it rained) with no insight as to where they were actually coming from. I finally figured out that they were living under the cement slab that is my \"porch\" and the reason they'd come back was that the rain would wash away the salt/beer, clearing their path to slime back into my life. \n\nWhat finally did the trick was this: diatomaceous earth. I bought a huge bag at lowes for around $5 and used an old cup to sprinkle it around the perimeter of my garden and around the doorways. The next morning I came out and found powder trails everywhere that they had been (plus a few poor, shriveled souls that didn't make it very far). I then used quickcrete to fill in the cracks that they were coming out from. Alas, no more slugs.\n\nMaybe this would work for you? Hope it helps!", "Pour beer in a gherkin jar or jar of some kind, then put the jar wherever you don't want there to be slugs. The slugs will be attracted to the smell of the beer, but once they fall in they'll drown." ]

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[ "How to take proper photos with backlight? Doesn't matter if it's an Android phone with Google Camera App or a basic DSLR, it's almost impossible to take a good photo when the Sun is behind you.\nMost of the times, the view/scenery is in the same direction of the Sun, so how to take really good photos with backlight?\n\nAny tips for both Camera app or DSLR or a new app that handles this problem is welcomed.", "How to take proper photos with backlight? Doesn't matter if it's an Android phone with Google Camera App or a basic DSLR, it's almost impossible to take a good photo when the Sun is behind you.\nMost of the times, the view/scenery is in the same direction of the Sun, so how to take really good photos with backlight?\n\nAny tips for both Camera app or DSLR or a new app that handles this problem is welcomed." ]

[ "You need to use flash fill. Force your flash to fire and it will add some illumination to the subject in shadow.", "Doesn't make sense—if the sun is behind you, your scene should be completely lit.\n\nAre you trying to get a selfie? Most phones don't have a suitable camera for this situation. You would need strong lighting on your face (much more than any phone flash could provide), such as a reflector or DSLR flash just to be seen clearly.\n\nA lens hood is normally used to prevent light streaks if there is a light source just outside of frame. If you can position yourself so that the Sun is blocked by scenery, do so." ]

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[ "What to buy for new semester of high school. I live in Scotland and the new high school semester is coming up for my most important year so far (education wise). Is there anything I could get to make my year easier? Thanks. Please any tips will be helpful!", "What to buy for new semester of high school. I live in Scotland and the new high school semester is coming up for my most important year so far (education wise). Is there anything I could get to make my year easier? Thanks. Please any tips will be helpful!", "What to buy for new semester of high school. I live in Scotland and the new high school semester is coming up for my most important year so far (education wise). Is there anything I could get to make my year easier? Thanks. Please any tips will be helpful!", "What to buy for new semester of high school. I live in Scotland and the new high school semester is coming up for my most important year so far (education wise). Is there anything I could get to make my year easier? Thanks. Please any tips will be helpful!" ]

[ "Personally, gizmos and gadgets never really did anything for me. No matter what I bought beforehand, a few pens and notebooks (although I switched to yellow legal pads in college, which I prefer) were all I kept by the end of the year.\n\nPay attention in class and study. Don't worry about much else.", "I would get a couple of spiral notebooks and three-ring binders, good quality pens (I like Pilot G2s, dunno if those are available over there) and pencils, and then wait until you start classes. When I was in high school, I would buy supplies and inevitably go in for the first day of classes only to be told by my science teacher that I had to have a 2\" binder with 40 paper protectors, or something ridiculous like that.\n\nAlso, if you're going to be taking an upper level math class, don't buy a graphic calculator until you know exactly which kind they want you to buy. Same goes with when you're taking business finance in college - if you use the one that your instructor wants you to use, it's much easier.", "Go buy a cheap used HTC flyer. Just because we've been using pen and paper for hundreds of years, doesn't mean it's the best way to go. I hate those dumbass teachers that try to tell their kids not to use their netbooks or stylus tablets for note-taking. It's 100000x more efficient. You basically have unlimited paper, digital tools for drawing any shape perfectly, you can organize papers into separate digital folders seamlessly. You don't need to buy loads and loads of paper, different colored pens, everything is ERASABLE and TRACEABLE.\n\nI'm getting one of those more expensive Asus tablets myself, just because it's more powerful and can use more advanced programs for classes and research that utilize it. I saw a demo of some guy creating high quality cartoon drawings and even 3D models in mere seconds. Very very little lag from the stylus too. As an engineering major who's learning 2D/3D modeling like Solidworks, it's extremely handy.\n\nIf you can find a used HTC flyer at like 4gb, get it.", "I assume you're going into 5th year yeah? If so, i would recommend getting as much lined paper and ring binders as possible, seriously you go through so much of it! And make sure you get decent paper, there's nothing worse than going back to revise and because you've written on shitty paper you're notes are just ripping all over." ]

[ 3, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to stop caring what other people think I have this weird habit off thinking about what other people think/feel, it may be that for example if I'm travelling to another country where eye contact is not normal, I will try to avoid eye contact which will make me look awkward and not confident\n\nOverall I want to NOT care at all what other people think, just like when I was kid, how do I set my mind to it?\n\n\n**", "How to stop caring what other people think I have this weird habit off thinking about what other people think/feel, it may be that for example if I'm travelling to another country where eye contact is not normal, I will try to avoid eye contact which will make me look awkward and not confident\n\nOverall I want to NOT care at all what other people think, just like when I was kid, how do I set my mind to it?\n\n\n**", "How to stop caring what other people think I have this weird habit off thinking about what other people think/feel, it may be that for example if I'm travelling to another country where eye contact is not normal, I will try to avoid eye contact which will make me look awkward and not confident\n\nOverall I want to NOT care at all what other people think, just like when I was kid, how do I set my mind to it?\n\n\n**", "How to stop caring what other people think I have this weird habit off thinking about what other people think/feel, it may be that for example if I'm travelling to another country where eye contact is not normal, I will try to avoid eye contact which will make me look awkward and not confident\n\nOverall I want to NOT care at all what other people think, just like when I was kid, how do I set my mind to it?\n\n\n**", "How to stop caring what other people think I have this weird habit off thinking about what other people think/feel, it may be that for example if I'm travelling to another country where eye contact is not normal, I will try to avoid eye contact which will make me look awkward and not confident\n\nOverall I want to NOT care at all what other people think, just like when I was kid, how do I set my mind to it?\n\n\n**", "How to stop caring what other people think I have this weird habit off thinking about what other people think/feel, it may be that for example if I'm travelling to another country where eye contact is not normal, I will try to avoid eye contact which will make me look awkward and not confident\n\nOverall I want to NOT care at all what other people think, just like when I was kid, how do I set my mind to it?\n\n\n**", "How to stop caring what other people think I have this weird habit off thinking about what other people think/feel, it may be that for example if I'm travelling to another country where eye contact is not normal, I will try to avoid eye contact which will make me look awkward and not confident\n\nOverall I want to NOT care at all what other people think, just like when I was kid, how do I set my mind to it?\n\n\n**", "How to stop caring what other people think I have this weird habit off thinking about what other people think/feel, it may be that for example if I'm travelling to another country where eye contact is not normal, I will try to avoid eye contact which will make me look awkward and not confident\n\nOverall I want to NOT care at all what other people think, just like when I was kid, how do I set my mind to it?\n\n\n**", "How to stop caring what other people think I have this weird habit off thinking about what other people think/feel, it may be that for example if I'm travelling to another country where eye contact is not normal, I will try to avoid eye contact which will make me look awkward and not confident\n\nOverall I want to NOT care at all what other people think, just like when I was kid, how do I set my mind to it?\n\n\n**", "How to stop caring what other people think I have this weird habit off thinking about what other people think/feel, it may be that for example if I'm travelling to another country where eye contact is not normal, I will try to avoid eye contact which will make me look awkward and not confident\n\nOverall I want to NOT care at all what other people think, just like when I was kid, how do I set my mind to it?\n\n\n**", "How to stop caring what other people think I have this weird habit off thinking about what other people think/feel, it may be that for example if I'm travelling to another country where eye contact is not normal, I will try to avoid eye contact which will make me look awkward and not confident\n\nOverall I want to NOT care at all what other people think, just like when I was kid, how do I set my mind to it?\n\n\n**" ]

[ "Believing that other people care a lot about what you do is a type of narcissism. They don't give a crap, you're not that important. Stop thinking that the whole world pays attention to you. They don't. \n\nEven if they do judge you as rude for making a cultural mistake, what impact does that have on you? What bad thing occurs if a stranger you will never see again briefly considers you less than perfectly polite? Why is that something to be so strenuously avoided, harming your own peace of mind?\n\nIn cultures with strict etiquette, foreigners are usually forgiven for mistakes. In fact, foreigners are generally excused from etiquette rules in general. Think about what you would do if a foreigner broke an American form of etiquette (such as by standing too close, or asking about your salary, two things Americans don't like that are normal elsewhere). You would be like, \"whatever, he doesn't know it's rude\" right? And you'de never think about it ever again after that moment, right?\n\nAgain, recognize that this anxiety is actually a form of self-involvement, believing you are soooo important that your minor actions have a huge impact on strangers. Remind yourself that everyone has better things to do than care about your mistakes. They are thinking about cooking dinner, whether or not its going to rain later, if their child is feeling sick -- things that are affecting them -- not some foreigner on the bus who made eye contact one second too long. \n", "Start practicing doing slightly embarrassing things...like asking for directions to the library while standing in front of the library, or ask strangers to help you move a couch across state...things that will elicit a mildly negative thought in the person. ", "Just remember that 99% of people are way to caught up in themselves to really even give you much thought. The person you're talking to is probably thinking about what you're thinking about them instead of actually thinking about you. If you say or do something embarrassing they most likely will forget about it by the end of the day. Hell they'll probably forget by the end of the hour. This is more true with strangers, not as much someone you have a relationship with.", "Practice thinking to yourself \"I don't give a fuck\" when you are dealing with people and before you talk to them.\n\nThis doesn't supercede normal politeness. It's not about being an asshole. ", "I sometimes have this problem. But then I ask myself: \"Do I care about what another person is doing or how he looks or whatever?\". The awnser is no, so why should I asume other people think the same about me?", "Try raising your self worth a bit. I found that when you think highly of yourself you tend to not care about what other people think as much.", "The way I see it is that our thoughts are merely thoughts. They are literally figments of our imagination. So if some one thinks ANYTHING about you realize that you are merely information that their mind is forming ideas around. It means nothing to you because after all it is a figment of their imagination. I have spent my entire life people pleasing, thinking that their opinions made me who I am. If they like me and think I'm a good person... well then I must be a good person. If they call me selfish and boring then I must be so. NO! That's just not how it works. Think about it: If someone said to you that John Lennon and Paul McCartney were terrible song writing partners would that change the way they wrote songs and the quality of the Lennon-McCartney music? No same goes with you. If some one doesn't like you, or is obsessed with you realize that it's all in their head and your perception of their perception is just as twisted. MY ADVICE: start listening to positive affirmations. We go through life affirming things that create our reality. If you stop and watch (not judge) your thoughts you notice most of the affirmations you make are actually negative. You are building a negative reality. So take five to ten minutes out of your day to repeat positive affirmations; one of them including \"The opinions of others do not change who I am.\" Before you know it these thoughts will creep into your life just as often as the negative thoughts had. It's liberating!! If you need any further info feel free to message me. Thank you for being who you are! Have a great day! ", "It's possible that you care about what others think because you haven't come up with your own thoughts. For example you thought that eye contact would be awkward. You learned about eye contact and only connected it to the possibility that you could be perceived negatively by others. Your thought is completely focused on other people (it wouldn't be awkward if other people weren't there). What are your thoughts for yourself on eye contact? You can make your thought more self centered by seeing how you would benefit from this information. You could disagree with the eye contact behavior but still do it for your own goals like making friends with people in this country for whatever reason. If you don't gain anything from this then why are you changing your behavior?\n\nKind of a negative perspective: if you care about what people think, people might try to manipulate you since your well being can be controlled. Even if you're aware of manipulation, you still care about what they think. \n\nUnless you are able to convince yourself not to care, you might have to go through bad experiences before you change yourself. And experiences will come with time. \n\nPeople in the entertainment industry probably care a lot about what people think but nobody is liked by every single person. \n\nDon't give other people the power to mess up your life. Give yourself permission to be a bit more selfish. \n\n", "I was doing pretty good at not worrying about that after years of therapy. Then we moved back in with my folks for a few years to help with my mom who had Alzheimer's. Living with my dad, who is constantly concerned about what others think, brought that type of thinking back into my life (clearly it's where I got it in the first place). He is also pretty judgmental of others, including me. I have had to go back and remember the things I learned before. One of the most important being that I am not the center of the universe - most people don't think of me AT ALL and the few that do aren't probably judging me as much as I judge myself. In fact, those that are the most worried about others tend to be the most judgmental of everyone...including themselves. Do I want to be like that? Hell no!", "Do the things that make you feel like a better person. The more you like you, the less you'll have to worry about other people liking you.\n\nI also think making it past your teen years helps.", "Think about it this way. How much do you think about other people? Humans are pretty similar as much as we try to be different." ]

[ 34, 8, 5, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]

[ "What can I do to become used to a really early morning shift? For the next two weeks during my training, I have 3:30am - 1pm shifts. What can I do to prevent myself from performing badly due to lack of sleep/being tired?", "What can I do to become used to a really early morning shift? For the next two weeks during my training, I have 3:30am - 1pm shifts. What can I do to prevent myself from performing badly due to lack of sleep/being tired?", "What can I do to become used to a really early morning shift? For the next two weeks during my training, I have 3:30am - 1pm shifts. What can I do to prevent myself from performing badly due to lack of sleep/being tired?", "What can I do to become used to a really early morning shift? For the next two weeks during my training, I have 3:30am - 1pm shifts. What can I do to prevent myself from performing badly due to lack of sleep/being tired?", "What can I do to become used to a really early morning shift? For the next two weeks during my training, I have 3:30am - 1pm shifts. What can I do to prevent myself from performing badly due to lack of sleep/being tired?", "What can I do to become used to a really early morning shift? For the next two weeks during my training, I have 3:30am - 1pm shifts. What can I do to prevent myself from performing badly due to lack of sleep/being tired?", "What can I do to become used to a really early morning shift? For the next two weeks during my training, I have 3:30am - 1pm shifts. What can I do to prevent myself from performing badly due to lack of sleep/being tired?", "What can I do to become used to a really early morning shift? For the next two weeks during my training, I have 3:30am - 1pm shifts. What can I do to prevent myself from performing badly due to lack of sleep/being tired?" ]

[ "Set food (power bar, fruit, pb&j, ect) next to your alarm before you go to sleep. When the alarm goes off, eat the food before/instead of hitting snooze. This will basically teach you to enjoy waking up at that time because it will be associated with your reward pathway (alarm=food, food=good, alarm=good). \n\nMake sure you go to sleep with enough tine to get at least 4 full sleep cycles in and be sure not to wake in the middle of a sleep cycle. If you don't know how long your sleep cycles are, experiment a little to find out when you feel like waking up. Mine are roughly an hour and a half so 6 hours/7.5hours/9hours all leave me feeling rested, while 8.25 hours leaves me tired all day.\n\nIf you can't fall asleep because of light, take a melatonin supplement 5 minutes before you lay down. Your body has difficulty producing melatonin naturally in the presence of certain wavelengths (mostly blue i think), so if you spend time in front of a computer before bed or are trying to go to sleep while it is still light out it will help you fall asleep.", "I do mental exercises to convince myself how important it is to get up and go. I'll often work weird and long hours. The trick I use is to not allow yourself to feel groggy or get up slowly. When the alarm goes off, its go time! You get straight up and go have a coffee or something.\n\nBe organized the night before and start relaxing very early on the night before. Avoid screens, drunk a quality green tea, read a book and calm your thoughts if you're going to stay up anxious. Even if you do struggle to sleep, try quiet your thoughts and remember resting is better than nothing.\n\nGood luck.", "What I do, as someone who changes from day to night shift a lot is one of two things, go to sleep at a similar time as i normally would the first shift, this pretty much secures my new sleep pattern for the following shifts.\nOr I just lay in bed, put on something to listen to like never mind the buzzcocks, something with people talking and just having a good back and forth, then just lay there with my eyes closed enjoying and drift off to sleep or just rest, this seems to work very well if I actually get to sleep early or not.\n\nWhen I wake up in the morning I just keep reminding myself that once I get into my day I'll be fine and the tiredness early on is just temporary.\n\nAlso, a trick my father taught me which he did since he was younger, count out how many hours you have it'll you need to wake up, then bang your head on your pillow that many hours, and repeat in your head how many hours before falling asleep.\n\nsorry if grammar etc is off, at work (night shift) ha. ", "The day before, wake up at 3am, go for a walk (do something to keep you awake) or have coffee/breakfast. Stay busy that day, exercise to get tired, a nice bath, then bedtime by 7pm. It helps to put on eyemask and keep room cool. I used to work nights.", "Start the cycle of waking up that early a few days before. I use melatonin in the early afternoons to make me sleep so I can wake up that early when I have those sorts of shifts. ", "I would be tempted to try and stay up late, so come home at 1pm and go to bed rather than have an alarm to way you up for 3:30am, that would be horrible no matter what you do. You just need to train yourself by having as late a night as possible, then as much of a lie-in the next day and repeat. ", "I used to get up at midnight to go to work, although it got easier after a few months. Get up earlier for the next few days if you can and suffer through it. Get up, make some coffee, turn on the lights, and force yourself to stay awake as you go about your day. After a could of days of this, you will be tired by 7 PM and ready to go to sleep.", "Feed your cat it's last meal for the day 4 hours earlier so it wakes you much earlier that normal in the morning. Then when you get up to feed it don't go back to bed and Instead make your breakfast." ]

[ 9, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Moving Advice. Hire Movers? Hey there, I'm looking for your best moving advice. Me and my wife have to move out of our 3 bedroom rental home at the end of May. We won't have much free time because both of our jobs are crazy right now. We are considering hiring movers, which neither of us have done before. If I can swing it financially, I would consider hiring a packing company as well.\n\nWe're also probably downsizing quite a bit and will need to get rid of a good amount of furniture and stuff. So any advice on selling a lot of random stuff in a hurry would also be welcome.\n\nAlso, is there a better place to post this?\n\nNorthern Chicago Suburbs if that matters.", "Moving Advice. Hire Movers? Hey there, I'm looking for your best moving advice. Me and my wife have to move out of our 3 bedroom rental home at the end of May. We won't have much free time because both of our jobs are crazy right now. We are considering hiring movers, which neither of us have done before. If I can swing it financially, I would consider hiring a packing company as well.\n\nWe're also probably downsizing quite a bit and will need to get rid of a good amount of furniture and stuff. So any advice on selling a lot of random stuff in a hurry would also be welcome.\n\nAlso, is there a better place to post this?\n\nNorthern Chicago Suburbs if that matters.", "Moving Advice. Hire Movers? Hey there, I'm looking for your best moving advice. Me and my wife have to move out of our 3 bedroom rental home at the end of May. We won't have much free time because both of our jobs are crazy right now. We are considering hiring movers, which neither of us have done before. If I can swing it financially, I would consider hiring a packing company as well.\n\nWe're also probably downsizing quite a bit and will need to get rid of a good amount of furniture and stuff. So any advice on selling a lot of random stuff in a hurry would also be welcome.\n\nAlso, is there a better place to post this?\n\nNorthern Chicago Suburbs if that matters.", "Moving Advice. Hire Movers? Hey there, I'm looking for your best moving advice. Me and my wife have to move out of our 3 bedroom rental home at the end of May. We won't have much free time because both of our jobs are crazy right now. We are considering hiring movers, which neither of us have done before. If I can swing it financially, I would consider hiring a packing company as well.\n\nWe're also probably downsizing quite a bit and will need to get rid of a good amount of furniture and stuff. So any advice on selling a lot of random stuff in a hurry would also be welcome.\n\nAlso, is there a better place to post this?\n\nNorthern Chicago Suburbs if that matters.", "Moving Advice. Hire Movers? Hey there, I'm looking for your best moving advice. Me and my wife have to move out of our 3 bedroom rental home at the end of May. We won't have much free time because both of our jobs are crazy right now. We are considering hiring movers, which neither of us have done before. If I can swing it financially, I would consider hiring a packing company as well.\n\nWe're also probably downsizing quite a bit and will need to get rid of a good amount of furniture and stuff. So any advice on selling a lot of random stuff in a hurry would also be welcome.\n\nAlso, is there a better place to post this?\n\nNorthern Chicago Suburbs if that matters." ]

[ "If a moving company seems hinky, go with your gut. Especially if you are moving from one state to another. Do not give everything you own to people who show up in a rented box truck. Very common for hustlers to set up fake moving companies (anyone can create website these days), show up, pack everything you have, drive it across the country, then tell you it weighed more than they estimated and double the price. If you don't pay, they find storage unit, dump your stuff and hold it all hostage. I interned at an operation that tried to help people in that situation during grad school. ", "Movers yes, packers no. Especially if you are trying to cull some junk, you throw alot of stuff away as you pack. As for getting rid of the furniture, craigslist it for any reasonable offer. You are trying to get rid of it, not make a ton of cash.", "Hiring movers is definitely worth the cost. If you need to cut costs, cut them on the packing side. It is easy to pack bit by bit and also easy to have friends help you pack. But getting friends to help you load a truck and get heavy boxes (not to mention furniture) into your new apartment sucks beyond belief. Not only is it physically demanding, it's logistically difficult. Truck rental companies like U-Haul actually regularly cancel reservations people make with them. They just let you know the day before or even the morning of your \"reservation\" that they no longer have a truck for you, and then you are FUCKED. I had this happen to a friend and when I mentioned it to some other friends, I found out this is quite common. Secondly, most people have to move under a strict time frame. Everything takes longer than you expect. Moving yourself will take longer than if you hire people and you don't want to be panicking about getting out of your old place on time or returning the rental truck on time. \n\nMovers generally charge by the hour and have a different rate for how many people you hire and what size truck you need. So, cutting costs comes down to cutting down the length of time you will need them and the amount of heavy furniture you have that will require more than two people. \n\n1. Have packing finished before they come and pile up boxes somewhere so you can easily assess how much you have. (Label them of course). \n2. Disassemble all furniture that can be easily disassembled.\n3. Inventory the bulkiest items and make sure those get put on the truck first. \n4. Wrap bubble wrap, etc. around the corners of furniture if you care about it getting dinged. Movers will offer this as a service but they do this because it takes time and therefore makes them more $$. \n5. Since you will be charged for driving time, look up the best routes to your new home keeping in mind that trucks are not allowed on some roads. (Trucks are not allowed on Lake Shore Drive, for instance.) \n6. Check the local traffic to make sure the route will still work for you. \n7. Plan ahead for where you want the truck to park in your alley or street at both your new home and your old one. Put a sign if you need to or get a friend to park there to hold your spot. \n8. Get a friend or two to help you with easy jobs like holding the elevator, holding doors open, watching the truck so nothing gets stolen, etc. \n9. Borrow or rent a dollie because even though the moving company *should* have one, you will always be glad to have an extra.\n\nI had a good experience with this moving company moving my stuff from the south side of Chicago to the north side. I paid about $200 to move 1 BR worth of stuff, and the bulk of the cost was the travel time. \n\nhttp://www.markmovesyou.com/About.html\n\nI think they specialize in small moves, but it may be worth calling them to see if they could accommodate you. \n\nRe: furniture, I was able to use this site despite not being a Northwestern affiliate: http://www.wildcatpad.com. This is another service that could work if you're near Evanston: http://www.movingmimo.com/index.html \n\nI'm not sure where you are exactly but basically every college has stuff like this, so ask around about them. ", "do your best to get a referal from a friend, coworker, neighbour ...someone who can tell you firsthand how the company works, charges, treats customers and handles your stuff. this will help you feel more confidedent in your decision to choose then and minimize a lot of the risk with flybynight companies..\n\nonline reviews help.", "My wife and I have hired moves for our last 2 moves, and it's been wonderful each time. We found them both times through [UHaul](http://www.uhaul.com/MovingHelp/). We hired 2 people both times. The first time we used them to unload our truck at our new location, and the 2 guys unloaded our 19 foot truck into a 3rd floor apartment in about an hour and 15 minutes. The second time we used them to load our truck and the old place, drive 30 minutes to the new place and then unload for us. We had a 21 foot truck this time, and this was all done within about 3 hours total. Well worth the money, and it leaves you with energy to actually move your things around in the new place and get right to unpacking." ]

[ 8, 6, 5, 3, 2 ]

[ "Non-Alcoholic Friendly Party Ideas Hopping on the idea train and seeing if there's any awesome party ideas that don't include alcohol. Because, you know, [ALCOHOL IS POISON](http://imgur.com/6zqZHnh)\n\nThanks in advance to all those who contribute ideas!", "Non-Alcoholic Friendly Party Ideas Hopping on the idea train and seeing if there's any awesome party ideas that don't include alcohol. Because, you know, [ALCOHOL IS POISON](http://imgur.com/6zqZHnh)\n\nThanks in advance to all those who contribute ideas!", "Non-Alcoholic Friendly Party Ideas Hopping on the idea train and seeing if there's any awesome party ideas that don't include alcohol. Because, you know, [ALCOHOL IS POISON](http://imgur.com/6zqZHnh)\n\nThanks in advance to all those who contribute ideas!", "Non-Alcoholic Friendly Party Ideas Hopping on the idea train and seeing if there's any awesome party ideas that don't include alcohol. Because, you know, [ALCOHOL IS POISON](http://imgur.com/6zqZHnh)\n\nThanks in advance to all those who contribute ideas!" ]

[ "Get those harry potter inspired jelly beans on amazon. You know the ones that have one bad flavor and one good flavor for each color. Take any drinking game and replace the part where you take a shot with eating a jelly bean. Bonus: people still get to throw up, especially if they get skunk flavor. ", "Have everyone take [miracle berry pills](http://www.thinkgeek.com/product/ab3f/) & do some food taste-testing.", "Put some orang juice in an ice cube tray, cover with foil and insert toothpicks. Put in the freezer and now you have ice pops.", "Have had several booze free parties by picking a book or short story that isn't worth the paper it's printed on (I'll leave this up to you to decide on what's bad enough to qualify), and taking turns reading it aloud. Bonus points for funny voices." ]

[ 8, 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "how to stop yourself from falling for the idea of someone before you have the chance to get to know them ", "how to stop yourself from falling for the idea of someone before you have the chance to get to know them ", "how to stop yourself from falling for the idea of someone before you have the chance to get to know them ", "how to stop yourself from falling for the idea of someone before you have the chance to get to know them ", "how to stop yourself from falling for the idea of someone before you have the chance to get to know them ", "how to stop yourself from falling for the idea of someone before you have the chance to get to know them " ]

[ "Have you seen 500 Days of Summer? It deals with this a bit. \n\nThe main thing is to focus on yourself and not indulge the fantasy. When you become attracted to someone its easy to fall into the trap of believing that they will somehow fix all your problems and make you happy. Instead, YOU work on fixing your own problems and making YOURSELF happy. Only when you are comfortable with yourself can you focus on another person and see them for who they really are instead of what you want them to be for you. ", "Think about someone else when you are jerking it. When not jerking it, instead of fantasing, go on a date with said crush.", "- Before you do anything, remind yourself, \"She (or he) hasn't earned that yet.\" \n- Make her (or him) doubt on some level that you're interested.\n- Don't hint at how excited you are to be with her (or him), especially when drunk\n- Think of some chick (or dude) that you DON'T want, that has a crush on you. How do you treat her to keep her at a distance? Do the same to this girl until she earns more (months and months later)\n- Truly want nothing from her, always be willing to walk away (i.e. stop being needy)", "Remember that it takes 6 months for feelings of \"infatuation\" to give way to reasonable relationship feelings. Wait 6 months before any crazy decisions.", "Honestly there isn't a really good way to solve this, and it varies from person to person. Being aware of this problem definitely helps, catching yourself when you think of someone in this way. \n\nThe most effective way to fix this is probably to simply get to know the person better. If you learn more about who they are, its makes it harder to make things up about a person. \n\nAlso try to differentiate between what you are actually attracted to about a person and what you have come up with in your head, think of examples of these things. It's important to keep a clear head. ", "imagine them being extremely sick. I'm talking vomit/diarrhea/phlemy grossness kind of sick. If that grosses you out, maybe you don't love them for them but you love the idealized version of them that isn't real. If you want to take care of them even when they are at their worst, maybe its real." ]

[ 18, 7, 4, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to not forget the simplest of things For example, what you were going to do when you went in the kitchen", "How to not forget the simplest of things For example, what you were going to do when you went in the kitchen" ]

[ "Accept and expect that you forget stuff when you walk through a door. It's a real (I hope) psychological phenomenon. Also, place random stuff at random places. \n\n\nFor instance, if you have to bring lunch from the fridge, place a shoe right in front of your door. If you need put away the washing before you turn off the tv and go to bed, put the remote on the washing machine. Stuff like this.", "Promise yourself you wont forget to X and your mind will focus on it until you've done it.\nDont you dare ignore me until you've tried it." ]

[ 2, 1 ]

[ "Audiobooks that can help me to stop caring about what others think of me and my opinions? Anyone know any good ones that might help me with this?", "Audiobooks that can help me to stop caring about what others think of me and my opinions? Anyone know any good ones that might help me with this?" ]

[ "I don't know of any, but I might be able to give you some advice on it.\n\nYou'll never truly stop caring of what other people think of you. We're social creatures, we need validation from others. If you don't, you're probably some form of mental. You can only really come to terms with the fact that most people won't like who you are as a person, because most people won't like everyone they come across. Once you start defaulting to this perspective, you'll realize that you don't need validation from everyone you come across; they're not nearly as important to your life as you think they are, most of the time. Sure, you might meet your future boss, but that's not very likely to happen. The only people who's validation you should put any value on are the people who's validation you need, which are the people who you hang out with.", "This audiobook — \"How to Win Friends & Influence People\" by Dale Carnegie — might not help you to stop caring about others but it'll definitely help others care about your opinion(s).\n\n12 tid-bits from the book if you're not interested in reading/listening the entire book: http://www.businessinsider.com/lessons-from-how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people-2015-4\n\nHope this helps you as much as it helped me!" ]

[ 5, 1 ]

[ "how do I get Pandora to stop showing me NSFW ads? I work in a pretty uptight place, and I just had a chick in red lace panties and a bra in a huge banner on the right side of my screen! This is especially troublesome since whenever someone comes in my office the first thing I have to do is pause my music :(\n\n", "how do I get Pandora to stop showing me NSFW ads? I work in a pretty uptight place, and I just had a chick in red lace panties and a bra in a huge banner on the right side of my screen! This is especially troublesome since whenever someone comes in my office the first thing I have to do is pause my music :(\n\n", "how do I get Pandora to stop showing me NSFW ads? I work in a pretty uptight place, and I just had a chick in red lace panties and a bra in a huge banner on the right side of my screen! This is especially troublesome since whenever someone comes in my office the first thing I have to do is pause my music :(\n\n", "how do I get Pandora to stop showing me NSFW ads? I work in a pretty uptight place, and I just had a chick in red lace panties and a bra in a huge banner on the right side of my screen! This is especially troublesome since whenever someone comes in my office the first thing I have to do is pause my music :(\n\n" ]

[ "How do I get Pandora to stop playing the same damn songs? Just because I typed Modest Mouse doesn't mean I only wanna hear other similarly famous bands, only similar songs.", "That sucks, but if someone confronts you about it, tell them the truth! It isn't your fault that Pandora wants you to see some naked bitches!", "Not trying to be an ass, but minimize your browser or have a different tab up while your working? Your music will still play.", "Also try the sway.fm unified music media keys extension. Play/pause/ff basically any media in a browser, even if you're on a different tab in a browser or in another program altogether" ]

[ 3, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to answer the \"Would you date <your friend>?\" when she is also there. One of my closes friends is female. So naturally some other friend asked us both if we would do something with each other. I believe this situation might happen to quite a few people. What is the best way to answer?\n\n What to say if you wouldn't date your friend but don't want to hurt her feelings? What to say if you would date her?", "How to answer the \"Would you date <your friend>?\" when she is also there. One of my closes friends is female. So naturally some other friend asked us both if we would do something with each other. I believe this situation might happen to quite a few people. What is the best way to answer?\n\n What to say if you wouldn't date your friend but don't want to hurt her feelings? What to say if you would date her?", "How to answer the \"Would you date <your friend>?\" when she is also there. One of my closes friends is female. So naturally some other friend asked us both if we would do something with each other. I believe this situation might happen to quite a few people. What is the best way to answer?\n\n What to say if you wouldn't date your friend but don't want to hurt her feelings? What to say if you would date her?", "How to answer the \"Would you date <your friend>?\" when she is also there. One of my closes friends is female. So naturally some other friend asked us both if we would do something with each other. I believe this situation might happen to quite a few people. What is the best way to answer?\n\n What to say if you wouldn't date your friend but don't want to hurt her feelings? What to say if you would date her?", "How to answer the \"Would you date <your friend>?\" when she is also there. One of my closes friends is female. So naturally some other friend asked us both if we would do something with each other. I believe this situation might happen to quite a few people. What is the best way to answer?\n\n What to say if you wouldn't date your friend but don't want to hurt her feelings? What to say if you would date her?", "How to answer the \"Would you date <your friend>?\" when she is also there. One of my closes friends is female. So naturally some other friend asked us both if we would do something with each other. I believe this situation might happen to quite a few people. What is the best way to answer?\n\n What to say if you wouldn't date your friend but don't want to hurt her feelings? What to say if you would date her?" ]

[ "Comedy usually is the best way to defuse these situations especially in a group scenario. \n\nIE. I would totally date Jenny if she could stop beating me at \"X\" game. \n\nor \n\nI would totally date joe, where else could i find someone to eat my leftover food.", "Oh, you can say, that when you first met that definitely could have been an option because *insert compliment*, but now that we're friends, I wouldn't want to jeopardize that relationship. \nIf you would date, say something to the effect of. She is a great friend, if we were considering that avenue it would take more exploration, however that's not necessarily a priority. ", "Easy.\n\nSay that most relationships are temporary, but good friendships are forever, and that you would rather have her as a friend forever than a girl friend for a few months or years.", "\"we already are\"\nOr if it's something else like \"are y'all banging?\" \n\n\"We just did..where you're sitting\"\n\n", "\"We know each other too well\"\n\n", "Just say that it is impossible for a man to be friends with a girl without wanting to bang her. \nBecause 99% of the time it is kinda true.\nYou could have a when Harry met Sally moment and ride off into the sunset with her on the pale horse of the Apocalypse" ]

[ 7, 3, 2, 2, 1, -3 ]

[ "How to correct someone about a process at work without sounding like a jerk? I work at a fast food restaurant. I’ve been there for a while but people say I come off as a jerk trying to correct them. How can I correct them when I see them doing something wrong, in a polite way?", "How to correct someone about a process at work without sounding like a jerk? I work at a fast food restaurant. I’ve been there for a while but people say I come off as a jerk trying to correct them. How can I correct them when I see them doing something wrong, in a polite way?", "How to correct someone about a process at work without sounding like a jerk? I work at a fast food restaurant. I’ve been there for a while but people say I come off as a jerk trying to correct them. How can I correct them when I see them doing something wrong, in a polite way?", "How to correct someone about a process at work without sounding like a jerk? I work at a fast food restaurant. I’ve been there for a while but people say I come off as a jerk trying to correct them. How can I correct them when I see them doing something wrong, in a polite way?" ]

[ "Ive worked at many different jobs but (no offense) most people that work at fastfood restaurants dont want to do better at their job. Most likely they will take your correction as criticism no matter how nicely you put it. ", "If you’re not the manager and your coworkers are saying you correct them too much, just stop correcting them. Let them do their job their way, you do your job your way. If somebody is doing their job grossly wrong, tell the manager, not them. ", "To me it seems that how they take it is very much based on the type of person they are and the mood they’re in and less on how you approach it. \n\nTo give you the best advantage make it sound constructive. “I noticed that doing *some action* this way is quicker or easier”. The trick to that approach is not to say “than *the way you were doing it*” because then they may feel criticized. \n\nIt’ll be implied that your correcting them but they hopefully won’t feel conscious that the way they were doing it was noticeably incorrect or slow. ", "Well when youre training, its best to make you expectations clear from the beginning. Be direct and relaxed. Be encouraging. Be kind. \n\nWhen giving criticism.. I often aplroach someone and ask if I give them some advice, but first i ask them what it is theyre working on and how their progress is coming. I ask them to assess the challenges and ask them to provide solutions. I then assess those solutions and make corrections.\n\nThe point is to give them control and agency. Youre not there to tell them what to do, youre there to give them all the tools and information and they need to be successful in their job. \n\n\"Hey so and so, would you want to salt those fries three times? cool, thanks.\" \n\n\"Oh hey i see youre doing task x, mind if I give you some advice?\"\n\nTreat it like youre delivering information rather than correcting behavior. Dont get angry, and always reassure them that its okay yo make mistakes if theyre trying." ]

[ 5, 5, 2, 1 ]

[ "How can you find a new career in your 30's that you can actually enjoy and is doable? Seems like such a challenge. I have so many ideas that I like- such as environmental health, clean energy but have no clue how to even think to get into that sector or how feasible it is. \n\nI also love music and release stuff but it pays so little that personally at least, I want to find something that can help me make money too. \n\nAny ideas are appreciated. \n\nThanks!", "How can you find a new career in your 30's that you can actually enjoy and is doable? Seems like such a challenge. I have so many ideas that I like- such as environmental health, clean energy but have no clue how to even think to get into that sector or how feasible it is. \n\nI also love music and release stuff but it pays so little that personally at least, I want to find something that can help me make money too. \n\nAny ideas are appreciated. \n\nThanks!", "How can you find a new career in your 30's that you can actually enjoy and is doable? Seems like such a challenge. I have so many ideas that I like- such as environmental health, clean energy but have no clue how to even think to get into that sector or how feasible it is. \n\nI also love music and release stuff but it pays so little that personally at least, I want to find something that can help me make money too. \n\nAny ideas are appreciated. \n\nThanks!", "How can you find a new career in your 30's that you can actually enjoy and is doable? Seems like such a challenge. I have so many ideas that I like- such as environmental health, clean energy but have no clue how to even think to get into that sector or how feasible it is. \n\nI also love music and release stuff but it pays so little that personally at least, I want to find something that can help me make money too. \n\nAny ideas are appreciated. \n\nThanks!", "How can you find a new career in your 30's that you can actually enjoy and is doable? Seems like such a challenge. I have so many ideas that I like- such as environmental health, clean energy but have no clue how to even think to get into that sector or how feasible it is. \n\nI also love music and release stuff but it pays so little that personally at least, I want to find something that can help me make money too. \n\nAny ideas are appreciated. \n\nThanks!" ]

[ "Luckily in your 30s you’ll still enjoy a lot of the mobility you had when younger. I’d try to get in touch with what speaks to you, and do your due diligence regarding educating yourself on actionable steps needed to get there. \n\nI’ve found the best way to do this is to speak to people in the field. You’ll find many willing to help, folks tend to respond well to being asked for guidance. \n\nIt could involve going back to school in some fashion, or taking another position that will gain you exposure and offer mobility into the goal position. It could involve disciplined self-teaching and the creation of a portfolio of work outlining what you’ve learned. It could involve getting into shape. The specifics will obviously vary greatly.", "Teaching is a real vocation for people that love to explain 'their' subject. Plus its very fulfilling.", "Start with a hobby or do some volunteer work in the field. It may lead to a paid position down the road.", "Learn a trade like electrical or carpentry, then make yourself a subject expert in the ”green” aspects of that business. Or become a truck driver we're going to need a lot of truck drivers pretty soon.", "Midlife crisis hitting ya? Get used to it every career you want doesn't want you. The classes weren't available when you were in school. There's a dozen kids out there who took the courses and can \"do\" the job and they are still dumb enough to do the work while risking hernias and various back injuries and if you're aggressive enough you can blame them for your drilling through their hand via \"shoulda been paying attention\"" ]

[ 8, 3, 3, 3, -2 ]

[ "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?", "How do I stop sleeping through my alarms??? I’ve never had a problem waking up when my iPhone’s alarm goes off, but it’s now happened to me twice in the past two weeks and I’m now at risk of losing my job if it happens “ever again.” I graduated from college a couple of months back, and I just moved to a new state on my own for a job. This new 7:30-5:30 schedule seemed daunting, but I didn’t think that it would be so difficult that my body would just refuse to wake up. I’m just at a loss. Last night I slept with my blinds open for sunlight, set my phone on the far end of my night stand with the volume on 100%, and managed to only wake up when my coworker called me at 8:30… somehow, my phone was under my pillow. \n\nI have zero recollection of waking up wither time his has happened, and I set multiple alarms (3 alarms, about 10 minutes apart). \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for solving this new problem overnight? I can’t begin to explain how much it would screw up my life if I lost this job. I’m about to rip my hair out just thinking about having to go to sleep tonight and having no clue if I’ll be up in time. I’m not a person who has ever had to deal with this, and it’s going to drive me insane. \n\ntl;dr - how do i make sure i wake up in the morning other than sunlight and loud alarms?" ]

[ "I used freaky alarm. It’s an app that forces you to solve puzzles and/or scan a barcode or something you’ve selected in your house or it won’t shut off. Discovered it when I had a 6 am shift to work and I am not a morning person.\nI’m sure there are other alarm apps like it!", "If you don't live with anyone else, get a Sonic Bomb alarm clock. They're really loud, and they attach to the bed frame to shake it, too.", "Have multiple, independent systems:\n\n1. multiple (and I mean many multiple) alarms set on your phone\n\n2. A stereo/boom box with an alarm clock. I set it to NPR and loud (it fades it in, so it gradually gets louder). I found hearing human voices help me with waking up. \n\n3. Have a battery operated classic alarm clock by your bed (if you wanna get fancy there are all the morning lights with alarms etc).\n\nAdditional bonus ideas/suggestions:\n1. Talk to your doctor and see if you’ve had an episode of acute sleep deprivation or something. \n\n2. Add Sleep Cycle (phone app) into your multiple alarms mix. You tell it what 30-min window you want to wake up in, and it monitors you while you sleep and then analyzes when is best within that 30min window to wake you up to be most alert.\n\n", "iPhones are notorious for being shit. Mine would display “alarm” but make no sounds and I almost got written up too. Get a standard plug in alarm clock radio thing and you’ll never be late again (make sure put the batteries in just in case of power failure overnight).", "My freshman dormmate kept 3 clocks hidden around the room. Third one always got his ass up and at 'em. \n\nAlso, you might want to make an appointment with a sleep specialist...", "Have you tried changing the alarm sound? I need to change mine every so often, otherwise I become too desensitized.", "Are you turning them off in your sleep? If so, I recommend putting your phone with the alarm on the other side of the room so you have to physically get up to turn it off.", " CLOCKY ALARM CLOCK \nCan be found at Amazon. It goes off loud, then starts racing around the room on the floor (on wheels) and you have to get out of bed and catch it to shut it off. Best. Alarm. Ever.", "find an alarm app that forces you to scan a 2d barcode and resists killing, then put a 2d barcode inside a kitchen cabinet to scan.", "There's an alarm app called extreme alarm. It has settings to make you solve multiple math problems before the alarm lets you turn it off. So you have to actually wake up and think of the problem.seemed to help me. It has a bunch variables you can set like number of questions, difficulty.\n\nAlso look up circadian rhythm and get an app that helps you wake up based on your rhythm.\nThat really helped me more then the alarm app.", "My Fitbit has a vibrating alarm and you can set up to 10. I use a few of those to lead up to the alarm clock and phone alarms.", "Go to bed at an earlier time.\nDrink a good amount of water before going to bed, you will wake up to go to the bathroom, might be too early if you drink too much though.", "My tip won't be an overnight success, but I highly recommend keeping a similar bedtime/wakeup routine on your days off. Doing so will get you into a rhythm and you will naturally start waking up at or before the time your alarm starts going off.", "I'm having trouble with this as well. I use to wake up at 4:14 or 4:44 in the am. To be on the road by 5:50 and start work at 6:55 am. \n\nI moved to a different state a year and a half ago. Start time is 8:30. Work is only 4 blocks from my home. And I can't wake up for shit! It's a STRUGGLE to get up at 7:30!!! I'm perplexed and worried at the same time about this.", "I would personally recommmend the “Mathe Alarm” app on iPhone. As the name says, it makes you solve math problems to shut it off, and the sound is incessantly annoying and loud. Even plays if your phone is on silent.", "I second someone’s suggestion for Sleep Cycle! I got it and it really works. They make an app for power naps and I was pleasantly surprised that it worked. If you have headaches, feel dizzy and thirsty, you may want to be tested for sleepy apnea. \n\nI’ve also taped memos to my physical phone so that I know why the heck I need to be awake so early.\n \nLike someone else said, I still set several alarms on my iPhone. 10-15 minutes apart so it’s a great.\n\n", "Get Alarmy app.\n\nDisable snooze Button\n\n enable math equation(s) option\n\nenable wakeup checker (important to enable it)\n\n\nI do all of these and I wake up right time", "Don’t use music as a alarm sound never worked for me pick something obnoxious I set a alarm 30 minutes before I need to wakeup and stop that and then usually lay there for 30 minutes until the next alarm and then I really get up within minutes", "Change the alarm sound to a smoke alarm sound, siren or the same ringtone you use for incoming calls." ]

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[ "Treating suede shoe stain I dropped billiards chalk on my suede chukka boots. I tried brushing it with a tooth brush to no avail\n\n", "Treating suede shoe stain I dropped billiards chalk on my suede chukka boots. I tried brushing it with a tooth brush to no avail\n\n" ]

[ "[Link](http://www.wikihow.com/Clean-Suede-Shoes) \nI used method 2 to get stains out of my sisters suede boots that I borrowed without permission and it worked out! ", "I used [Folex](http://www.folexcompany.com/wp-content/themes/folexcompany/images/bottle.png) when my parents' dog threw up on their microsuede sofa. Worked like a charm and did not leave any other marks. It also works amazingly well on all kinds of other stains, old and new. Get it at Lowe's or Home Depot." ]

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[ "What are some must-haves when going on vacation? I am going to Fairmont on the eleventh and I want to know what to bring. I have a tiny list of the basics (undergarments, clothes, deodorant, etc.) but I am still wanting to know If I should bring anything else.\n\n\n\n\nThanks for your help!", "What are some must-haves when going on vacation? I am going to Fairmont on the eleventh and I want to know what to bring. I have a tiny list of the basics (undergarments, clothes, deodorant, etc.) but I am still wanting to know If I should bring anything else.\n\n\n\n\nThanks for your help!", "What are some must-haves when going on vacation? I am going to Fairmont on the eleventh and I want to know what to bring. I have a tiny list of the basics (undergarments, clothes, deodorant, etc.) but I am still wanting to know If I should bring anything else.\n\n\n\n\nThanks for your help!" ]

[ "clothes and stuff is fine, but dont forget your computer. gotta have those video games to kill time. ", "Whenever I go away for holiday. I make sure to pack:\n\n1) Torchlight: Whether I'm camping or in a strange house I don't want to be stumbling around in the dark. Headtorches are the best.\n\n2) Hand Sanitizer: In case you're not near a tap.\n\n3) Bottle/can opener: Nothing worse than wanting to open a bottle of wine or similar and there's no bottle opener.\n\n4) Lighter or box of matches. \n\n5) Sunscreen\n\n6) Big bottle of water for the car - On any holiday or car trip it's important to stay hydrated. Always keep a bottle or water pack in the car in case the journey pans out to be longer than you thought.\n\n7) Battery or solar-powered mobile phone charger: These things are great if you're on a hike or have no access to plug points. You mobile phone is your number one safety device so make sure it's always charged.", "Lavender oil is a good thing to take, it's an antiseptic, stand-by perfumer of foul smelly shoes, a few drops on a piece of cotton wool/tissue paper will mask the stale laundry smell in your dirty clothes bag and will prevent your case smelling hotel-ish while you're storing it, flies don't seem to like it, it's good to fall asleep to, a few drops will make a hotel bath nicer if the toiletries are crap, diluted it's good on sunburn, neat it keeps wounds clean, it will improve the smell of a boggy bathroom (those hot damp ones), it works on stings, there's just loads you can do with it. Make sure it's genuine lavender oil, not lavender-scented; it should come in a dark glass bottle. You only need a 10ml bottle or smaller." ]

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[ "how to move with my PC abroad ? Well I'm gonna move overseas soon and I have a desktop computer which is kind of important and I don't want to buy a new one. How can I make it safe for the travel ? (it will be by plane)\nShould I dismount it or just leave it like this, put socks and clothes in it to protect and then just put it in a baggage with other clothes to prevent it to move during the travel ?\nI know HDDs are really sensitive to shocks... how to deal with this ?\nThank you in advance", "how to move with my PC abroad ? Well I'm gonna move overseas soon and I have a desktop computer which is kind of important and I don't want to buy a new one. How can I make it safe for the travel ? (it will be by plane)\nShould I dismount it or just leave it like this, put socks and clothes in it to protect and then just put it in a baggage with other clothes to prevent it to move during the travel ?\nI know HDDs are really sensitive to shocks... how to deal with this ?\nThank you in advance", "how to move with my PC abroad ? Well I'm gonna move overseas soon and I have a desktop computer which is kind of important and I don't want to buy a new one. How can I make it safe for the travel ? (it will be by plane)\nShould I dismount it or just leave it like this, put socks and clothes in it to protect and then just put it in a baggage with other clothes to prevent it to move during the travel ?\nI know HDDs are really sensitive to shocks... how to deal with this ?\nThank you in advance", "how to move with my PC abroad ? Well I'm gonna move overseas soon and I have a desktop computer which is kind of important and I don't want to buy a new one. How can I make it safe for the travel ? (it will be by plane)\nShould I dismount it or just leave it like this, put socks and clothes in it to protect and then just put it in a baggage with other clothes to prevent it to move during the travel ?\nI know HDDs are really sensitive to shocks... how to deal with this ?\nThank you in advance", "how to move with my PC abroad ? Well I'm gonna move overseas soon and I have a desktop computer which is kind of important and I don't want to buy a new one. How can I make it safe for the travel ? (it will be by plane)\nShould I dismount it or just leave it like this, put socks and clothes in it to protect and then just put it in a baggage with other clothes to prevent it to move during the travel ?\nI know HDDs are really sensitive to shocks... how to deal with this ?\nThank you in advance" ]

[ "Dismantle anything heavy. Take big video cards out and put in original packaging if you still have it. If you have a large heatsink take it off. Hard drives will be fine, they are only sensitive to shock while running. Don't pack clothes against anything that isn't in a static free bag. Hard drives can stay in the case if they are secure. Same with the motherboard or anything else. ", "IT Manager here (hands on). Once shipped servers and a large disk array from London to Montreal on the cheap as the company I worked for refused to do proper shipping. We removed the drives and literally put the machines in boxes, with bubble wrap (yes, the static kind) and sent it over on a pallet. I took all the hard drives out, put them in cheap anti-static bags, and then into foam briefcases that I bought cheap from a local electronics store, then carried the briefcases as hand luggage. Apart from a little squeaky-bum time (when they asked me if I was bringing over $10k CAD of equipment with me and I \"creatively valued\" the disks as \"used\"), there were no issues. \nI'd suggest removing any large heatsinks and packing them alongside your PC and removing hard drives to be carried by hand as hand luggage, ideally in anti-static bags and if not, in cloth bags (not in carrier bags or bubble wrap as they're horrifyingly static)", "I took mine apart. I used the few anti static bags I had but for stuff like RAM, network card, etc....it went into regular bags.\n\nI left behind the heavy stuff. The case for sure. I took off the heat sink because even the stock ones are quite heavy (I was moving, I needed all the weight allowance). Also left the power supply.\n\nCases can be cheap or you can upgrade to a new one if you have the funds. Tossing the stock heat sink meant upgrading to a better one for like 30-40 bucks. Sucks leaving the power supply behind but those are not too bad either. I also upgraded this to leave room for upgrade (and more silent) so I don't mind.\n\nI was afraid bringing anything carry one. If you get a strict TSA officer he might make you show him that the component works as intended and since you won't be able to, he could confiscate it.", "Have you considered dismantling it and shipping it to your new address so you don't have to worry about bringing it on the plane yourself?", "Go on Amazon and buy s bunch of anti static bags. Take out the large cards and put them in the bags individually then seal with regular tape. You can leave the RAM and anything actually bolted to the case like the NIC. \n\nLeave the hard drives in. They are sensitive to shock while running because of the spinning disk.\n\nThey make boxes that are specifically for protecting computers in transit. These are hard boxes with good Styrofoam in them. Search for these if you really want the most protection.\n\nDO NOT stuff it with anything, especially socks and clothes. This seems like a good idea, but think about this. Have you ever taken your clothes out of the dryer and noticed how much static they hold? They will move around and fry the shit out of your computer.\n\n" ]

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[ "Finding a story to tell I've seen a few LPTs about how to tell stories but this is a bit of a different problem. I've come to the realization that I almost never have a story or interesting event to tell someone about during a conversation. \n\nI have a few friends who always seem to have a story (long or short) to tell about a past experience that just seem to be really interesting. Partly because of this they seem to be able to handle any social interaction with ease while I often become a bit quiet around people I don't know well.\n\nI'm not the best at conversations but I'm not the worst either. I like to listen to other peoples stories and talk with them about it, but I never seem to have anything to share myself. Even though I don't live a particularly boring life or anything.\n\nSo basically, can I become better at finding experiences to share?", "Finding a story to tell I've seen a few LPTs about how to tell stories but this is a bit of a different problem. I've come to the realization that I almost never have a story or interesting event to tell someone about during a conversation. \n\nI have a few friends who always seem to have a story (long or short) to tell about a past experience that just seem to be really interesting. Partly because of this they seem to be able to handle any social interaction with ease while I often become a bit quiet around people I don't know well.\n\nI'm not the best at conversations but I'm not the worst either. I like to listen to other peoples stories and talk with them about it, but I never seem to have anything to share myself. Even though I don't live a particularly boring life or anything.\n\nSo basically, can I become better at finding experiences to share?" ]

[ "So, to oversimplify, either you *do* have stories to tell from your life, or you *really* need to start doing some shit with yourself.\n\nAssuming that the first case is true, maybe the skill you should polish is learning to add brief story snippets in the context of a running conversation. In other words, rather than preparing several of the most interesting stories from your life in advance, practice adding small nuggets of insight or experience when given a topic. So when you're in a conversation you'll be able to contribute pieces without taking over the whole thing. I think your storytelling ability will grow naturally from there.\n\nIf the second case is true, the advice you need is simple. *Live, fucker*. Travel. Be spontaneous. Spend some money. Take a few risks. Go make some stories.", "Some people really have a knack for telling stories. They tend to be extroverts who love being the center of attention. They just seem to know how to describe something and engage people. What is weird is when I was at the event they are talking about and know that I could not have described it as well.\n\nHere are some things to consider. Maybe be content at first with a funny comment or reaction. If you don't have good stories or know what to say have you thought about learning some story type jokes you could practice til you get them down? People like good jokes as well as real life stories I think. There are lots on the \nInternet or get a good joke book." ]

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[ "How to get rid of the pin and needle feeling without it hurting. I quite frequently wake-up, having slept wrong on my arm or leg, with the pins and needles feeling. My current solution is to muster my courage, saw my favorite expletive a few times then just get up. Is there a better solution?", "How to get rid of the pin and needle feeling without it hurting. I quite frequently wake-up, having slept wrong on my arm or leg, with the pins and needles feeling. My current solution is to muster my courage, saw my favorite expletive a few times then just get up. Is there a better solution?", "How to get rid of the pin and needle feeling without it hurting. I quite frequently wake-up, having slept wrong on my arm or leg, with the pins and needles feeling. My current solution is to muster my courage, saw my favorite expletive a few times then just get up. Is there a better solution?", "How to get rid of the pin and needle feeling without it hurting. I quite frequently wake-up, having slept wrong on my arm or leg, with the pins and needles feeling. My current solution is to muster my courage, saw my favorite expletive a few times then just get up. Is there a better solution?", "How to get rid of the pin and needle feeling without it hurting. I quite frequently wake-up, having slept wrong on my arm or leg, with the pins and needles feeling. My current solution is to muster my courage, saw my favorite expletive a few times then just get up. Is there a better solution?" ]

[ "I guess you're talking about a sleeping limb?\nI've always been told that feeling is because said limb was in a position that restricted blood flow.the best way to fix that is to just stretch it and then flex said muscles to get the blood flowing again.", "What helps me usually is tonot move the limb itself from its muscles, but to shake it with your arms or somehow without contracting. Usually eases the pain for me\n", "Depending on the limb, I find only moving the smallest extremity starts you easing out of it without the limb hurting.\nYour pinky finger or your toe. ", "It won't help immediately, but ask your doctor about it. Numbness/tingling can be a sign of nerve damage or something like carpal tunnel syndrome where a nerve is being restricted. Your doctor might be able to provide a long term solution to prevent the tingling/numbness.", "Flexing to get blood flowing. That works for legs at least. \n\nAnd flexing legs helps get rid of unwanted boners.\n\nSo maybe flex whatever part of your body that fell asleep? " ]

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[ "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?", "How can I get answers in an online forum? How do you guys usually go about asking something on a forum, especially when you need help with something? \n\nUsually, when I start a thread, I either get irrelevant answers or no replies at all, so I feel I must be doing something wrong. \n\nSo, anybody has a LPT for getting answers online?" ]

[ "post the wrong answer, someone will notice, and tell u in no uncertain terms why u r wrong. works every time ~ cunninghams law", "Frame it as a statement rather than a question and give a bullshit answer. Peoples' egos will goad them to correct you, thus answering your question. It's called Moore's Law.", "If it it's a tech forum, be sure to explain what you have already tried. Also, make sure you've already searched for the answer. Many there are ignored because they (the people in the forum) have answered the question a million times prior.\n\n...and do the above without typing a novel.", "First, **you search the forum and Internet for people asking the same question**.\n\nSecond, you provide **relevant details** necessary to answer the question. The more work you make others do, the fewer people will consider answering. \n\nThird, make sure the question is asked in a relevant place. ", "if you are pestering people with technical stuff, this classic is still relevant.\n\nhttp://www.catb.org/esr/faqs/smart-questions.html", "The best way to get the actual answer is to post the incorrect answer. It's amazing how many people will correct you.\n\nhttp://meta.wikimedia.org/wiki/Cunningham%27s_Law\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/todayilearned/comments/1zv60v/til_of_cunninghams_law_the_best_way_to_get_the/\n\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ward_Cunningham#Ideas_and_inventions\n\n>Cunningham advised him in the early 1980s, \"The best way to get the right answer on the Internet is not to ask a question, it's to post the wrong answer.\"", "Serious tag is a good place to start, then the request tag, and then make sure you are posting in a relevant forum. No matter what website you are on, it wouldn't hurt to message the mods and ask them for assistance too. Most importantly, read the rules first. Some places have strict rules for posting.", "I just come to Reddit. Someone will usually answer me, that or link a picture of a cat. I'm fine with both", "Be simple, direct, and clear in what you're asking. Don't say too much, because if people have to read your question more than once they probably won't bother, and if you confuse people they cant help you. If your question has multiple parts, just start with the first part to see if you'll get a response. Make the title interesting as you can without confusing things. Clarity is more important than style. Make sure you're not asking biased questions (for example, why are women stupid? is an example of a biased question), and make sure that you're not just being lazy and have researched the topic on your own before asking for help. (I'm not saying any of these things have been an issue for you, I'm just running down the reasons why I personally might choose to not answer a question in an online forum). \n\nIn general, if you're polite, clear and informed people will want to help you. If you're not getting help, its probably an issue in one of those areas. ", "Keep it well structured and easy to read (unlike this post), the more people that reads it the more likely it will be that someone responds\n\nAlso if its something complicated you may want to dumb things down as much as possible, if its aimed for a rather immature audience such as most of the reddit user base\n\nBe as kind and thankful as possible too, because you rely on people helping and getting nothing at all in return\n\nThats about it mate", "If it's a non-serious forum. The way to get the answer is to not ask a question, but to post the wrong answer.", "If it is a vehicle forum (ie Jeep Forum), PLEASE list the specs of your vehicle ('99 TJ, 4.0, 5 Speed, 4.56 Gears etc), things you've tried, and actually before any of that see if anyone posted a Sticky (permanent thread) with your question already answered. " ]

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[ "How to keep your food warm on the way home from the drive through? Especially french fries. My closest fast food place is 15 or so minutes from my house, and 9 times out of 10 my food is cold by the time I get home. I have gotten to where I ask them to make my food fresh so it's piping hot and this usually works with everything but my french fries, and everyone knows that cold french fries from a fast food place are horrible. Any LPT?", "How to keep your food warm on the way home from the drive through? Especially french fries. My closest fast food place is 15 or so minutes from my house, and 9 times out of 10 my food is cold by the time I get home. I have gotten to where I ask them to make my food fresh so it's piping hot and this usually works with everything but my french fries, and everyone knows that cold french fries from a fast food place are horrible. Any LPT?", "How to keep your food warm on the way home from the drive through? Especially french fries. My closest fast food place is 15 or so minutes from my house, and 9 times out of 10 my food is cold by the time I get home. I have gotten to where I ask them to make my food fresh so it's piping hot and this usually works with everything but my french fries, and everyone knows that cold french fries from a fast food place are horrible. Any LPT?", "How to keep your food warm on the way home from the drive through? Especially french fries. My closest fast food place is 15 or so minutes from my house, and 9 times out of 10 my food is cold by the time I get home. I have gotten to where I ask them to make my food fresh so it's piping hot and this usually works with everything but my french fries, and everyone knows that cold french fries from a fast food place are horrible. Any LPT?", "How to keep your food warm on the way home from the drive through? Especially french fries. My closest fast food place is 15 or so minutes from my house, and 9 times out of 10 my food is cold by the time I get home. I have gotten to where I ask them to make my food fresh so it's piping hot and this usually works with everything but my french fries, and everyone knows that cold french fries from a fast food place are horrible. Any LPT?", "How to keep your food warm on the way home from the drive through? Especially french fries. My closest fast food place is 15 or so minutes from my house, and 9 times out of 10 my food is cold by the time I get home. I have gotten to where I ask them to make my food fresh so it's piping hot and this usually works with everything but my french fries, and everyone knows that cold french fries from a fast food place are horrible. Any LPT?", "How to keep your food warm on the way home from the drive through? Especially french fries. My closest fast food place is 15 or so minutes from my house, and 9 times out of 10 my food is cold by the time I get home. I have gotten to where I ask them to make my food fresh so it's piping hot and this usually works with everything but my french fries, and everyone knows that cold french fries from a fast food place are horrible. Any LPT?", "How to keep your food warm on the way home from the drive through? Especially french fries. My closest fast food place is 15 or so minutes from my house, and 9 times out of 10 my food is cold by the time I get home. I have gotten to where I ask them to make my food fresh so it's piping hot and this usually works with everything but my french fries, and everyone knows that cold french fries from a fast food place are horrible. Any LPT?" ]

[ "Step 1: Ask for fries without salt, you can ask for salt packets on the side if you aren't going home. This forces the fast food place to actually fry up new fries for you which are much hotter than those \"fresh\" ones that have been sitting under the lamps for 5 minutes (or 10, or 30).\n\nStep 2: Set on the floor by the heater duct and blast hot air at them as you drive.", "I normal stand the food on the floor on the passenger side and put the hot fan in my can on with it set to blow on the footwells. Usually does the trick.", "Mythbusters and Alton Brown told me you can cook a turkey dinner under the hood of your car. Do what you've gotta do.", "Here are two tips that have worked for me. Tip #1, leave the fast food bag open. When the bag is closed, it causes steam to build up and make your fries soggy. Soggy re-heated fries are way worse than crisp reheated fries. Tip #2, buy two orders of fries. When you follow tip #1 and leave the bag open, the aroma of hot delicious fries is irresistible and you end up stealing fries at red lights and stop signs, finishing the box before you get home. ", "Get an insulated lunch box (they're like $5 at Target) and leave it in the car. Put the fries in the lunch box on and zip it up. They'll still be warm when you get home.\n\nBarring that, always oven bake your fries because microwaving them is gross", "Pour your fries in the bag around your burger and seal the bag tightly. The heat works together and stays warm. Just rip the top of the bag off when it is time to eat your fries!", "If the fast food were that far from my home, I would just dine inside the food joint and then drive home with warm food in my tummy.", "Get a few of those reusable hand warmers and activate one and toss it in the bag. Most last at least an hour at temperatures of up to 130 degrees. :) " ]

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[ "How do I improve social skills? Yeah so I am a super socially awkward, shy, super low confidence, unhappy, lonely nerd virgin and I feel like I have no purpose in life right now. Wake up in the morning, go to work, go home after work, play video games, sleep and repeat. That's my life right now. I feel like if I can improve my social skills to the point where I can easily talk to anyone including random strangers for a lengthy period and make friends, I will be much happier in life. I don't even talk to my own family. At work I talk to my co workers but mostly about work. I don't feel a close connection with anyone. Please help this lonely nerd virgin. ", "How do I improve social skills? Yeah so I am a super socially awkward, shy, super low confidence, unhappy, lonely nerd virgin and I feel like I have no purpose in life right now. Wake up in the morning, go to work, go home after work, play video games, sleep and repeat. That's my life right now. I feel like if I can improve my social skills to the point where I can easily talk to anyone including random strangers for a lengthy period and make friends, I will be much happier in life. I don't even talk to my own family. At work I talk to my co workers but mostly about work. I don't feel a close connection with anyone. Please help this lonely nerd virgin. ", "How do I improve social skills? Yeah so I am a super socially awkward, shy, super low confidence, unhappy, lonely nerd virgin and I feel like I have no purpose in life right now. Wake up in the morning, go to work, go home after work, play video games, sleep and repeat. That's my life right now. I feel like if I can improve my social skills to the point where I can easily talk to anyone including random strangers for a lengthy period and make friends, I will be much happier in life. I don't even talk to my own family. At work I talk to my co workers but mostly about work. I don't feel a close connection with anyone. Please help this lonely nerd virgin. ", "How do I improve social skills? Yeah so I am a super socially awkward, shy, super low confidence, unhappy, lonely nerd virgin and I feel like I have no purpose in life right now. Wake up in the morning, go to work, go home after work, play video games, sleep and repeat. That's my life right now. I feel like if I can improve my social skills to the point where I can easily talk to anyone including random strangers for a lengthy period and make friends, I will be much happier in life. I don't even talk to my own family. At work I talk to my co workers but mostly about work. I don't feel a close connection with anyone. Please help this lonely nerd virgin. ", "How do I improve social skills? Yeah so I am a super socially awkward, shy, super low confidence, unhappy, lonely nerd virgin and I feel like I have no purpose in life right now. Wake up in the morning, go to work, go home after work, play video games, sleep and repeat. That's my life right now. I feel like if I can improve my social skills to the point where I can easily talk to anyone including random strangers for a lengthy period and make friends, I will be much happier in life. I don't even talk to my own family. At work I talk to my co workers but mostly about work. I don't feel a close connection with anyone. Please help this lonely nerd virgin. ", "How do I improve social skills? Yeah so I am a super socially awkward, shy, super low confidence, unhappy, lonely nerd virgin and I feel like I have no purpose in life right now. Wake up in the morning, go to work, go home after work, play video games, sleep and repeat. That's my life right now. I feel like if I can improve my social skills to the point where I can easily talk to anyone including random strangers for a lengthy period and make friends, I will be much happier in life. I don't even talk to my own family. At work I talk to my co workers but mostly about work. I don't feel a close connection with anyone. Please help this lonely nerd virgin. ", "How do I improve social skills? Yeah so I am a super socially awkward, shy, super low confidence, unhappy, lonely nerd virgin and I feel like I have no purpose in life right now. Wake up in the morning, go to work, go home after work, play video games, sleep and repeat. That's my life right now. I feel like if I can improve my social skills to the point where I can easily talk to anyone including random strangers for a lengthy period and make friends, I will be much happier in life. I don't even talk to my own family. At work I talk to my co workers but mostly about work. I don't feel a close connection with anyone. Please help this lonely nerd virgin. " ]

[ "start trying to become friends with co workers. really the best way to overcome social anxiety is to just jump right in. see if the want to go to the bars or something after work or whatever. by immersing yourself in social situations, you steadily become more confident. also alcohol helps.\n", "I don't know what your coworkers are usually doing after work or in their free time. This may depend on the age of you and the others. But I'd just try to talk with others whenever I can: During launch, breaks, after work, ... Always when you've time to talk. One thing you can do to come closer to the goal you've is to wait till the others decide to which bars, clubs festivals they want to go on the weekend. So you can just ask them if you can join. I didn't really learned this (actually pretty normal behaviour) most of my school time tbh. It can really help you getting in contact with others.", "It helps if you have someone that is coaching you. Someone you hang around with and trust. Then that person can say \"oh, it was awkward when you said X. Don't say X\"\n\nAlso, practice! If it's too scary to practice on the people at work, go somewhere that doesn't matter. There are plenty of places that are open to the public that allow you to socialize", "It depends what youre anxious about specifically. If you're worried you won't have enough content for a conversation, try reading a current event article that interests you, then asking someome conversationally, \"hey did you see that article in bla bla? I thought it was really cool how...\" etc. This might open up opportunities for other topics, like what kind of stuff they like to read, or do instead of reading. Hell, you play games, talk to people about that! ", "I know for me being buzzed or slightly tipsy helps me to create and hold conversations better when I'm at the pub. But if you dont have people who can go with you to such places yet, join clubs that interest you. Hiking, book, language conversation, etc clubs are great place to meet people without pressure because if you try having a conversation and just dont like the people, you're there to do stuff too, not just meet people. I guess the key for me was just finding the right people I was interested in and actually wanted to hang out and talk to.", "Create small talk with current events. Be more observant to the people you're around and giving compliments go a long way in making someone's day. ", "Ritalin somehow helped me learn how to turn my inner dialog into a coherent conversation. I'm not into medicating for the long haul but sometimes the right chemical can get your mind into a different place to help you get over the hump. I've also been to see a psychiatrist for a few things and it has always helped me get a different perspective.\n\nIf you prefer to keep away from shrinks and pills, I've heard that the Toastmasters are a great organization for just what you are trying to achieve (aside from getting laid). You could also try volunteering somewhere that directly helps people in need. It would get you out of your routine in a way that can build confidence and help you learn some of the most important social skills." ]

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[ "How to talk to someone about the death of their loved one If my friend tells me this, I don't want to just say \"I'm sorry.\" and not have anything else to say. But I really don't know what's okay to say and what's not.", "How to talk to someone about the death of their loved one If my friend tells me this, I don't want to just say \"I'm sorry.\" and not have anything else to say. But I really don't know what's okay to say and what's not.", "How to talk to someone about the death of their loved one If my friend tells me this, I don't want to just say \"I'm sorry.\" and not have anything else to say. But I really don't know what's okay to say and what's not.", "How to talk to someone about the death of their loved one If my friend tells me this, I don't want to just say \"I'm sorry.\" and not have anything else to say. But I really don't know what's okay to say and what's not.", "How to talk to someone about the death of their loved one If my friend tells me this, I don't want to just say \"I'm sorry.\" and not have anything else to say. But I really don't know what's okay to say and what's not.", "How to talk to someone about the death of their loved one If my friend tells me this, I don't want to just say \"I'm sorry.\" and not have anything else to say. But I really don't know what's okay to say and what's not.", "How to talk to someone about the death of their loved one If my friend tells me this, I don't want to just say \"I'm sorry.\" and not have anything else to say. But I really don't know what's okay to say and what's not." ]

[ "My whole family is deceased... I hate hearing \"I'm sorry.\" Just ask them how they feel, and be supportive. ", "when you lose someone close to you its almost impossible to describe.. i had an idiot nurse right after my mom died trying to hug me over and over .. and it took all i had to not beat the living...... ... out of her.. because she just didn't understand that she was being inconsiderate. \n\nPeople will react in different ways.. and people will react in different ways in front of different people. \n\nIf you were someone very close in both person's lives then it will be one way.\n\nIf you were the mailman .. then hey its nice but you never really knew them.. \n\nSo .. one thing... it is likely to take everything out of them to deal with it if they are the person dealing with the arrangements and everything.. so in that case you do stuff like cut their grass.. clean their house.. bring food to eat.. only if you are close and normally would have meals with them.. \n\nIf they are not someone who has to deal with all of that then don't impose .. just be there.. you don't have to talk about it.. you just have to be there.. .. don't try to cheer them up.. don't try to do anything but let them know .. no matter how bad it gets you will be by their side .. with a slice of pizza .. and your mouth shut... unless they unload to you.. \n\nand if they do say anything... ANYTHING to you... you never repeat it to anyone.. it could be something monumental.. or something in significant.. you don't share their memories with others and have conversations about it behind their back... hey i was just telling janet about what you said about your mom.. DON'T DO THAT.. if you are lucky enough to be honored .. don't.\n\n\n", "I've recently been dealing with loss myself. It is awkward no matter what way you slice it, but being there counts for more than anything that can be said. A lot of support fades away after a few months so don't forget to check up on them. I read that a good way to be supportive is to think of something you might want in that situation and do it for them. To ask if they need anything can be overwhelming and they will accept your offer without the intention of following through. This way you can be helpful, and they don't have to feel like a burden for asking.", "This can be a difficult thing to talk to someone about - not only because they probably don't want to talk but because they are being bombarded with support and it can all be a lot. Honestly, the best way to go is just keep it real simple, offer support but give them space. \"Hope you're coping okay, I'm here if you need me\" is all it takes (maybe some variation on that first sentence, just something along those lines). ", "\"How you holding up bud?\" \n \n\"Sad to hear it, he/she was a great/fun/loving person\" \n \n\"If you need anyone to talk to or to change your mind around a game of XYZ/drink, you call me without hesitation\" \n \n\"Have you seen the new mummy movie? Crazy stuff.\"", "There are no rules!\n\n In fact, we are all responsible for handling how we communicate because all of us will know someone who dies. All of us. That said, it is always difficult and awkward, and that's Ok.\n\nYou have a limited amount of training, just like everyone else, so say what is in your heart. \n\nHowever, they key is this: it is not about you. That person probably doesn't want to hear about how you are feeling about it or, especially, *feel like you are asking them because you want to talk about yourself*. Or...they just might because it is a distraction for them. Some people want to comfort someone else because they don't want to comfort themselves. (There are all sorts of reactions and you won't know until you say something - it is better to say something than to not).\n\n\"I'm so sorry. I'm not sure if you need anything or don't want to talk right now, but just know that I'm here for you, Ok?\"\n\"Do you want to do something to take your mind off things?\" (Have a plan before you ask this question.\n\"Want to go for a walk? We don't need to talk if you don't want to.\" \nSometimes it's just nice to have someone around when you don't want to talk.\n", "Depends how recent it is. I usually use the \"I'm sorry for your loss\" and I don't mind hearing it. And saying if you ever want someone to talk to you're there. If it's a recent thing ask if there's anything you can do to help i.e. walk up a dog, pick up kids from school, cook for the evening etc." ]

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[ "Washing a large amount of handwash-only clothes at once. I have a hamper full of clothes that are hand-wash only. I have a washing machine, but it's a very small portable washing machine (can fit maybe 4 pairs of jeans at once), and it doesn't have a delicate setting. \n\nI typically use a bucket in my tub to wash and rinse each article of clothing, but with a full hamper, it's pretty time-consuming. I'm almost wondering if I can just throw them all in a full tub and swish around then rinse. \n\nThoughts? \n\nETA: Please don't tell me to just throw them in my washer unless there's a good reason! I don't want to ruin these sweaters/etc. that I have. They're my 'professional' clothes!", "Washing a large amount of handwash-only clothes at once. I have a hamper full of clothes that are hand-wash only. I have a washing machine, but it's a very small portable washing machine (can fit maybe 4 pairs of jeans at once), and it doesn't have a delicate setting. \n\nI typically use a bucket in my tub to wash and rinse each article of clothing, but with a full hamper, it's pretty time-consuming. I'm almost wondering if I can just throw them all in a full tub and swish around then rinse. \n\nThoughts? \n\nETA: Please don't tell me to just throw them in my washer unless there's a good reason! I don't want to ruin these sweaters/etc. that I have. They're my 'professional' clothes!", "Washing a large amount of handwash-only clothes at once. I have a hamper full of clothes that are hand-wash only. I have a washing machine, but it's a very small portable washing machine (can fit maybe 4 pairs of jeans at once), and it doesn't have a delicate setting. \n\nI typically use a bucket in my tub to wash and rinse each article of clothing, but with a full hamper, it's pretty time-consuming. I'm almost wondering if I can just throw them all in a full tub and swish around then rinse. \n\nThoughts? \n\nETA: Please don't tell me to just throw them in my washer unless there's a good reason! I don't want to ruin these sweaters/etc. that I have. They're my 'professional' clothes!", "Washing a large amount of handwash-only clothes at once. I have a hamper full of clothes that are hand-wash only. I have a washing machine, but it's a very small portable washing machine (can fit maybe 4 pairs of jeans at once), and it doesn't have a delicate setting. \n\nI typically use a bucket in my tub to wash and rinse each article of clothing, but with a full hamper, it's pretty time-consuming. I'm almost wondering if I can just throw them all in a full tub and swish around then rinse. \n\nThoughts? \n\nETA: Please don't tell me to just throw them in my washer unless there's a good reason! I don't want to ruin these sweaters/etc. that I have. They're my 'professional' clothes!", "Washing a large amount of handwash-only clothes at once. I have a hamper full of clothes that are hand-wash only. I have a washing machine, but it's a very small portable washing machine (can fit maybe 4 pairs of jeans at once), and it doesn't have a delicate setting. \n\nI typically use a bucket in my tub to wash and rinse each article of clothing, but with a full hamper, it's pretty time-consuming. I'm almost wondering if I can just throw them all in a full tub and swish around then rinse. \n\nThoughts? \n\nETA: Please don't tell me to just throw them in my washer unless there's a good reason! I don't want to ruin these sweaters/etc. that I have. They're my 'professional' clothes!", "Washing a large amount of handwash-only clothes at once. I have a hamper full of clothes that are hand-wash only. I have a washing machine, but it's a very small portable washing machine (can fit maybe 4 pairs of jeans at once), and it doesn't have a delicate setting. \n\nI typically use a bucket in my tub to wash and rinse each article of clothing, but with a full hamper, it's pretty time-consuming. I'm almost wondering if I can just throw them all in a full tub and swish around then rinse. \n\nThoughts? \n\nETA: Please don't tell me to just throw them in my washer unless there's a good reason! I don't want to ruin these sweaters/etc. that I have. They're my 'professional' clothes!" ]

[ "It may not the most effective for heavily soiled clothing, but I started machine washing my delicates/silks/sweaters inside a pillowcase (tied off with a hair elastic) a couple years ago and they still look great. ", "32 years in Dry Cleaning and lLundry here. You can do this safely following these instructions. Add appropriate amount of slightly warm water and Woolite type soap -swish mixture around around for some suds - if no suds add some more Woolite until you get some.\n\nAdd clothes add squish the clothes for however long you normally do. Squeeze soapy water out and put in bucket or plastic tub one by one until all are hand washed.\n\nDrain tub, rinse out tub, and then refill with clear water put squeezed out clothes back in rinse water to remove soap residue and repeat the process one more time. Sueez item, put in bucket/tub, and when done with this rinse, do one more rinse. Dry as usual.\n\nAlso, you can wash each one at a time and then rinse thoroughly in the bathroom sink one garment at a time and then go back to the next garment in the tub and repeat the process.\n\nYou can also buy small mesh zipper bags that you can put hand wash items in and add to the washer with bath towels that will minimize agitation and the bags also minimize agitation as well and protect them from abrasion. Walmart or someplace like Bed, Bath, and Beyond should have the mesh bags. If you do use them, secure the zipper with a safety pin to insure zipper stays zipped.\n\nHave fun!", "When I have lots of hand wash clothing I fill up two buckets, one with clean water and one with fresh. \n\n* Separate clothes in similar colors and treat each same colored bunch as a single piece\n* You know have about 5 bunches with x pieces of clothing\n* Start with the lightest color, soak them, swish, do whatever you do (I take extra effort scrubbing pits) and rinse\n* Start over with the second color and so on until you're done", "I have a lot of dresses that I hand wash. I just go out the back with a bucket and a hose and gently rub them in detergenty water and then clear water, changing it often. My dresses do require a bit more work though, due to peticoats and the like, but i find that just having a simple system like that works wonders. I use lux flakes that have been pre dissolved in hot water and let cool. Don't use hot water. Cool dry in the shade.\r\rAlso, check if they're dry cleanable. If so, go for that route. Find a reputable cleaners and they will work wonders on your clothes.\r\rIf worse comes to worse, put them inside a doonah cover or pillow case and put them in a cold wash for a short period of time with gentle soap. This would be last resort though.", "I found [this bucket method](http://frugallysustainable.com/2012/02/living-without-electricity-washing-clothes-by-hand/) a while back. It might be what you're looking for!", "How about wearing the item of clothing in the shower and wash them there whilst you wash? Works really well with bras! Heh. " ]

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[ "How to properly be an adult, post-grad Silly title, but it's the best thing I could think of. \n\nI graduated from college in May, and had a full time job at Time Warner Cable doing inbound sales that started in early June. Right now during training, it's Monday-Friday 8-5, but after training that ends on Thursday, for another 4 weeks, it'll be Tuesday-Friday 10-7, Saturday 2-11. I worked in college, but only about 25 hours a week. \n\nIt's great. My base pay is solid, the benefits are great, and the commission earning potential is high. However, I'm always tired. I wake up at 6:30, and by the time I get home by 5:30, I'm exhausted, and if I lay down, game over, I'm asleep for at least an hour. Then I go to bed around 11, and if I fell asleep earlier I have to take a melatonin to fall asleep. Is this normal? I just want to play my Xbox or CiV, but since my computer is in my room(I live in an apartment with 2 other people, I'm about to move into a different one with 1 person), I get tired and my bed is right there. \n\nI'm moving in 2 weeks, and my new apartment will be right next to a gym, so I'm going to get a membership. I'm also moving my diet from the shitty college kid diet to a better one where I eat much healthier, so I'm hoping these things help. \n\nMy job is really close to my college town, so I'm staying in that town to be close to my friends. They understand that I can't go out during the week, or hang out late, but even on Friday and Saturday I just want to leave by 12:30. \n\nAm I on the right track? Will changing my diet and exercising again help me with my energy levels? What could I be doing differently?\n\nTl;dr: how do I not be tired all the time from my full-time job?", "How to properly be an adult, post-grad Silly title, but it's the best thing I could think of. \n\nI graduated from college in May, and had a full time job at Time Warner Cable doing inbound sales that started in early June. Right now during training, it's Monday-Friday 8-5, but after training that ends on Thursday, for another 4 weeks, it'll be Tuesday-Friday 10-7, Saturday 2-11. I worked in college, but only about 25 hours a week. \n\nIt's great. My base pay is solid, the benefits are great, and the commission earning potential is high. However, I'm always tired. I wake up at 6:30, and by the time I get home by 5:30, I'm exhausted, and if I lay down, game over, I'm asleep for at least an hour. Then I go to bed around 11, and if I fell asleep earlier I have to take a melatonin to fall asleep. Is this normal? I just want to play my Xbox or CiV, but since my computer is in my room(I live in an apartment with 2 other people, I'm about to move into a different one with 1 person), I get tired and my bed is right there. \n\nI'm moving in 2 weeks, and my new apartment will be right next to a gym, so I'm going to get a membership. I'm also moving my diet from the shitty college kid diet to a better one where I eat much healthier, so I'm hoping these things help. \n\nMy job is really close to my college town, so I'm staying in that town to be close to my friends. They understand that I can't go out during the week, or hang out late, but even on Friday and Saturday I just want to leave by 12:30. \n\nAm I on the right track? Will changing my diet and exercising again help me with my energy levels? What could I be doing differently?\n\nTl;dr: how do I not be tired all the time from my full-time job?", "How to properly be an adult, post-grad Silly title, but it's the best thing I could think of. \n\nI graduated from college in May, and had a full time job at Time Warner Cable doing inbound sales that started in early June. Right now during training, it's Monday-Friday 8-5, but after training that ends on Thursday, for another 4 weeks, it'll be Tuesday-Friday 10-7, Saturday 2-11. I worked in college, but only about 25 hours a week. \n\nIt's great. My base pay is solid, the benefits are great, and the commission earning potential is high. However, I'm always tired. I wake up at 6:30, and by the time I get home by 5:30, I'm exhausted, and if I lay down, game over, I'm asleep for at least an hour. Then I go to bed around 11, and if I fell asleep earlier I have to take a melatonin to fall asleep. Is this normal? I just want to play my Xbox or CiV, but since my computer is in my room(I live in an apartment with 2 other people, I'm about to move into a different one with 1 person), I get tired and my bed is right there. \n\nI'm moving in 2 weeks, and my new apartment will be right next to a gym, so I'm going to get a membership. I'm also moving my diet from the shitty college kid diet to a better one where I eat much healthier, so I'm hoping these things help. \n\nMy job is really close to my college town, so I'm staying in that town to be close to my friends. They understand that I can't go out during the week, or hang out late, but even on Friday and Saturday I just want to leave by 12:30. \n\nAm I on the right track? Will changing my diet and exercising again help me with my energy levels? What could I be doing differently?\n\nTl;dr: how do I not be tired all the time from my full-time job?", "How to properly be an adult, post-grad Silly title, but it's the best thing I could think of. \n\nI graduated from college in May, and had a full time job at Time Warner Cable doing inbound sales that started in early June. Right now during training, it's Monday-Friday 8-5, but after training that ends on Thursday, for another 4 weeks, it'll be Tuesday-Friday 10-7, Saturday 2-11. I worked in college, but only about 25 hours a week. \n\nIt's great. My base pay is solid, the benefits are great, and the commission earning potential is high. However, I'm always tired. I wake up at 6:30, and by the time I get home by 5:30, I'm exhausted, and if I lay down, game over, I'm asleep for at least an hour. Then I go to bed around 11, and if I fell asleep earlier I have to take a melatonin to fall asleep. Is this normal? I just want to play my Xbox or CiV, but since my computer is in my room(I live in an apartment with 2 other people, I'm about to move into a different one with 1 person), I get tired and my bed is right there. \n\nI'm moving in 2 weeks, and my new apartment will be right next to a gym, so I'm going to get a membership. I'm also moving my diet from the shitty college kid diet to a better one where I eat much healthier, so I'm hoping these things help. \n\nMy job is really close to my college town, so I'm staying in that town to be close to my friends. They understand that I can't go out during the week, or hang out late, but even on Friday and Saturday I just want to leave by 12:30. \n\nAm I on the right track? Will changing my diet and exercising again help me with my energy levels? What could I be doing differently?\n\nTl;dr: how do I not be tired all the time from my full-time job?", "How to properly be an adult, post-grad Silly title, but it's the best thing I could think of. \n\nI graduated from college in May, and had a full time job at Time Warner Cable doing inbound sales that started in early June. Right now during training, it's Monday-Friday 8-5, but after training that ends on Thursday, for another 4 weeks, it'll be Tuesday-Friday 10-7, Saturday 2-11. I worked in college, but only about 25 hours a week. \n\nIt's great. My base pay is solid, the benefits are great, and the commission earning potential is high. However, I'm always tired. I wake up at 6:30, and by the time I get home by 5:30, I'm exhausted, and if I lay down, game over, I'm asleep for at least an hour. Then I go to bed around 11, and if I fell asleep earlier I have to take a melatonin to fall asleep. Is this normal? I just want to play my Xbox or CiV, but since my computer is in my room(I live in an apartment with 2 other people, I'm about to move into a different one with 1 person), I get tired and my bed is right there. \n\nI'm moving in 2 weeks, and my new apartment will be right next to a gym, so I'm going to get a membership. I'm also moving my diet from the shitty college kid diet to a better one where I eat much healthier, so I'm hoping these things help. \n\nMy job is really close to my college town, so I'm staying in that town to be close to my friends. They understand that I can't go out during the week, or hang out late, but even on Friday and Saturday I just want to leave by 12:30. \n\nAm I on the right track? Will changing my diet and exercising again help me with my energy levels? What could I be doing differently?\n\nTl;dr: how do I not be tired all the time from my full-time job?" ]

[ "Changing your diet will make an enormous difference -- as will reading a book (an actual printed book) or taking a walk (not a workout) and a hot shower instead of looking at a screen just before bedtime. Avoid booze if you want to sleep through the night. \n\nTry, whenever possible, to fall asleep in the arms of someone you love, and if that's not practical, I've gotten good results with [this topical melatonin spray.](http://sprayable.co/products/sprayable-sleep/)\n\nFinally, keep in mind that up until the last couple hundred years, humans evolved to sleep in four-hour shifts starting around sundown with a waking around midnight for a couple of quietly productive hours, then another four hours before sunrise. It's a free country, try adjusting your sleep schedule to fit *your* needs, not that of society's dictates.\n\nGood luck. ", "If you can't fall asleep, get blackout curtains and close them about an hour before you are ready to go to bed, and avoid screens (or at least, with a computer, use [f.lux](https://justgetflux.com) . Light is critical to a proper sleep cycle.", ">Will changing my diet and exercising again help me with my energy levels?\n\nYes.\nIt will also improve your focus, mood, self-esteem, etc. This was going to be my recommendation just from reading your title. r/fitness is great for motivation, info, and support.", "Your on the right track. It's hard adjusting at first, but gets easier as you go. The first thing you really need to know is that if you sacrifice games and friends for 4-6 years, get a side job, and pile all your money onto getting rid of debt and purchasing a small house. You will live like a ducking king the rest of your life... \n\nJust sayin.. ", "Masturbate a lot. This will give you super powers and you will soon never have to sleep again in your entire life. You will do everything. You are better than Jesus. " ]

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[ "How to deal with a friend that drinks too much Me and my friend, we know each other since we were 3yo. We are like brothers in that sense. Like many old friends, we used to sometimes go out and have a beer or five, some fun and some regrets.\n\nSlowly I noticed that everytime we were together there was a bottle there with us, and I've been hinting that maybe we should beware. I make some jokes trying not to make a big deal out of it.\n\nIn the last couple of years I feel like I don't know him anymore. Last week we celebrated one of our birthdays and he got angry at me over nothing, saying things like \"you are a hypocrite, you think you are better than me, I owe you nothing\".\n\nI know a guy who became an ancoholic very young, a very serious case, and I'm afraid I'm starting to see the same signs in my friend. His whole life revolves around drinking and chasing girls, he avoids any kind of emotional talk, he has become very cynic and out of touch with everyone. I feel he just stays in touch with me because he wants company to drink.\n\nI feel I've been dragged emotionaly for too long and I can't take it anymore, and I don't know what's the best way to deal with this. I also have poor control when it comes to drinking and I use to let myself go when I'm having fun. I don't want to end this friendship but I can't keep up with this anymore.", "How to deal with a friend that drinks too much Me and my friend, we know each other since we were 3yo. We are like brothers in that sense. Like many old friends, we used to sometimes go out and have a beer or five, some fun and some regrets.\n\nSlowly I noticed that everytime we were together there was a bottle there with us, and I've been hinting that maybe we should beware. I make some jokes trying not to make a big deal out of it.\n\nIn the last couple of years I feel like I don't know him anymore. Last week we celebrated one of our birthdays and he got angry at me over nothing, saying things like \"you are a hypocrite, you think you are better than me, I owe you nothing\".\n\nI know a guy who became an ancoholic very young, a very serious case, and I'm afraid I'm starting to see the same signs in my friend. His whole life revolves around drinking and chasing girls, he avoids any kind of emotional talk, he has become very cynic and out of touch with everyone. I feel he just stays in touch with me because he wants company to drink.\n\nI feel I've been dragged emotionaly for too long and I can't take it anymore, and I don't know what's the best way to deal with this. I also have poor control when it comes to drinking and I use to let myself go when I'm having fun. I don't want to end this friendship but I can't keep up with this anymore.", "How to deal with a friend that drinks too much Me and my friend, we know each other since we were 3yo. We are like brothers in that sense. Like many old friends, we used to sometimes go out and have a beer or five, some fun and some regrets.\n\nSlowly I noticed that everytime we were together there was a bottle there with us, and I've been hinting that maybe we should beware. I make some jokes trying not to make a big deal out of it.\n\nIn the last couple of years I feel like I don't know him anymore. Last week we celebrated one of our birthdays and he got angry at me over nothing, saying things like \"you are a hypocrite, you think you are better than me, I owe you nothing\".\n\nI know a guy who became an ancoholic very young, a very serious case, and I'm afraid I'm starting to see the same signs in my friend. His whole life revolves around drinking and chasing girls, he avoids any kind of emotional talk, he has become very cynic and out of touch with everyone. I feel he just stays in touch with me because he wants company to drink.\n\nI feel I've been dragged emotionaly for too long and I can't take it anymore, and I don't know what's the best way to deal with this. I also have poor control when it comes to drinking and I use to let myself go when I'm having fun. I don't want to end this friendship but I can't keep up with this anymore.", "How to deal with a friend that drinks too much Me and my friend, we know each other since we were 3yo. We are like brothers in that sense. Like many old friends, we used to sometimes go out and have a beer or five, some fun and some regrets.\n\nSlowly I noticed that everytime we were together there was a bottle there with us, and I've been hinting that maybe we should beware. I make some jokes trying not to make a big deal out of it.\n\nIn the last couple of years I feel like I don't know him anymore. Last week we celebrated one of our birthdays and he got angry at me over nothing, saying things like \"you are a hypocrite, you think you are better than me, I owe you nothing\".\n\nI know a guy who became an ancoholic very young, a very serious case, and I'm afraid I'm starting to see the same signs in my friend. His whole life revolves around drinking and chasing girls, he avoids any kind of emotional talk, he has become very cynic and out of touch with everyone. I feel he just stays in touch with me because he wants company to drink.\n\nI feel I've been dragged emotionaly for too long and I can't take it anymore, and I don't know what's the best way to deal with this. I also have poor control when it comes to drinking and I use to let myself go when I'm having fun. I don't want to end this friendship but I can't keep up with this anymore.", "How to deal with a friend that drinks too much Me and my friend, we know each other since we were 3yo. We are like brothers in that sense. Like many old friends, we used to sometimes go out and have a beer or five, some fun and some regrets.\n\nSlowly I noticed that everytime we were together there was a bottle there with us, and I've been hinting that maybe we should beware. I make some jokes trying not to make a big deal out of it.\n\nIn the last couple of years I feel like I don't know him anymore. Last week we celebrated one of our birthdays and he got angry at me over nothing, saying things like \"you are a hypocrite, you think you are better than me, I owe you nothing\".\n\nI know a guy who became an ancoholic very young, a very serious case, and I'm afraid I'm starting to see the same signs in my friend. His whole life revolves around drinking and chasing girls, he avoids any kind of emotional talk, he has become very cynic and out of touch with everyone. I feel he just stays in touch with me because he wants company to drink.\n\nI feel I've been dragged emotionaly for too long and I can't take it anymore, and I don't know what's the best way to deal with this. I also have poor control when it comes to drinking and I use to let myself go when I'm having fun. I don't want to end this friendship but I can't keep up with this anymore.", "How to deal with a friend that drinks too much Me and my friend, we know each other since we were 3yo. We are like brothers in that sense. Like many old friends, we used to sometimes go out and have a beer or five, some fun and some regrets.\n\nSlowly I noticed that everytime we were together there was a bottle there with us, and I've been hinting that maybe we should beware. I make some jokes trying not to make a big deal out of it.\n\nIn the last couple of years I feel like I don't know him anymore. Last week we celebrated one of our birthdays and he got angry at me over nothing, saying things like \"you are a hypocrite, you think you are better than me, I owe you nothing\".\n\nI know a guy who became an ancoholic very young, a very serious case, and I'm afraid I'm starting to see the same signs in my friend. His whole life revolves around drinking and chasing girls, he avoids any kind of emotional talk, he has become very cynic and out of touch with everyone. I feel he just stays in touch with me because he wants company to drink.\n\nI feel I've been dragged emotionaly for too long and I can't take it anymore, and I don't know what's the best way to deal with this. I also have poor control when it comes to drinking and I use to let myself go when I'm having fun. I don't want to end this friendship but I can't keep up with this anymore.", "How to deal with a friend that drinks too much Me and my friend, we know each other since we were 3yo. We are like brothers in that sense. Like many old friends, we used to sometimes go out and have a beer or five, some fun and some regrets.\n\nSlowly I noticed that everytime we were together there was a bottle there with us, and I've been hinting that maybe we should beware. I make some jokes trying not to make a big deal out of it.\n\nIn the last couple of years I feel like I don't know him anymore. Last week we celebrated one of our birthdays and he got angry at me over nothing, saying things like \"you are a hypocrite, you think you are better than me, I owe you nothing\".\n\nI know a guy who became an ancoholic very young, a very serious case, and I'm afraid I'm starting to see the same signs in my friend. His whole life revolves around drinking and chasing girls, he avoids any kind of emotional talk, he has become very cynic and out of touch with everyone. I feel he just stays in touch with me because he wants company to drink.\n\nI feel I've been dragged emotionaly for too long and I can't take it anymore, and I don't know what's the best way to deal with this. I also have poor control when it comes to drinking and I use to let myself go when I'm having fun. I don't want to end this friendship but I can't keep up with this anymore.", "How to deal with a friend that drinks too much Me and my friend, we know each other since we were 3yo. We are like brothers in that sense. Like many old friends, we used to sometimes go out and have a beer or five, some fun and some regrets.\n\nSlowly I noticed that everytime we were together there was a bottle there with us, and I've been hinting that maybe we should beware. I make some jokes trying not to make a big deal out of it.\n\nIn the last couple of years I feel like I don't know him anymore. Last week we celebrated one of our birthdays and he got angry at me over nothing, saying things like \"you are a hypocrite, you think you are better than me, I owe you nothing\".\n\nI know a guy who became an ancoholic very young, a very serious case, and I'm afraid I'm starting to see the same signs in my friend. His whole life revolves around drinking and chasing girls, he avoids any kind of emotional talk, he has become very cynic and out of touch with everyone. I feel he just stays in touch with me because he wants company to drink.\n\nI feel I've been dragged emotionaly for too long and I can't take it anymore, and I don't know what's the best way to deal with this. I also have poor control when it comes to drinking and I use to let myself go when I'm having fun. I don't want to end this friendship but I can't keep up with this anymore.", "How to deal with a friend that drinks too much Me and my friend, we know each other since we were 3yo. We are like brothers in that sense. Like many old friends, we used to sometimes go out and have a beer or five, some fun and some regrets.\n\nSlowly I noticed that everytime we were together there was a bottle there with us, and I've been hinting that maybe we should beware. I make some jokes trying not to make a big deal out of it.\n\nIn the last couple of years I feel like I don't know him anymore. Last week we celebrated one of our birthdays and he got angry at me over nothing, saying things like \"you are a hypocrite, you think you are better than me, I owe you nothing\".\n\nI know a guy who became an ancoholic very young, a very serious case, and I'm afraid I'm starting to see the same signs in my friend. His whole life revolves around drinking and chasing girls, he avoids any kind of emotional talk, he has become very cynic and out of touch with everyone. I feel he just stays in touch with me because he wants company to drink.\n\nI feel I've been dragged emotionaly for too long and I can't take it anymore, and I don't know what's the best way to deal with this. I also have poor control when it comes to drinking and I use to let myself go when I'm having fun. I don't want to end this friendship but I can't keep up with this anymore.", "How to deal with a friend that drinks too much Me and my friend, we know each other since we were 3yo. We are like brothers in that sense. Like many old friends, we used to sometimes go out and have a beer or five, some fun and some regrets.\n\nSlowly I noticed that everytime we were together there was a bottle there with us, and I've been hinting that maybe we should beware. I make some jokes trying not to make a big deal out of it.\n\nIn the last couple of years I feel like I don't know him anymore. Last week we celebrated one of our birthdays and he got angry at me over nothing, saying things like \"you are a hypocrite, you think you are better than me, I owe you nothing\".\n\nI know a guy who became an ancoholic very young, a very serious case, and I'm afraid I'm starting to see the same signs in my friend. His whole life revolves around drinking and chasing girls, he avoids any kind of emotional talk, he has become very cynic and out of touch with everyone. I feel he just stays in touch with me because he wants company to drink.\n\nI feel I've been dragged emotionaly for too long and I can't take it anymore, and I don't know what's the best way to deal with this. I also have poor control when it comes to drinking and I use to let myself go when I'm having fun. I don't want to end this friendship but I can't keep up with this anymore." ]

[ "Think of an alcoholic in denial as a falling 3000 pound elephant from a plane. There are things you can try to do that will stop the elephant from falling, but sure as shit that elephant is reaching rock bottom one way or another before it can pick itself back up and dust itself off. There isn't much you can do for someone who doesn't recognize they have a problem, or won't make steps to solve their problems. Best you can do is not enable it. If he calls to hang out, say you are going to hit the gym and see if he wants to go to, or say you are doing something that does not allow achohol like going to a movie and he should come too. If he says he wants to drink, say that you see yourself becoming dependent on it and you are trying to change yourself, maybe he will respect that on the inside and want to change too, if not, not much you can do.", "Maybe take this over to /r/advice or maybe some AA subreddits if you're worried about them.\n\nYou've gotten very specific here and people are all different so advice in a general sense is never going to be more helpful than \"tell them how you feel and then listen to what they have to say\"", "Stop hanging out with him. If he's making you uncomfortable and being unpleasant while he's drinking, there is no obligation on your part to continue the relationship as it is presently. He will find someone else to hang out with and drink if that's his aim. His behaviors are his responsibility. Maybe down the road, he will see that his actions are having consequences--maybe not. \n\nIn my experience, I've found that telling a friend who's alcoholism/alcohol reliance is making me uncomfortable and that I need to distance myself (putting the issue with *me,* not *them*) allows a more comfortable atmosphere in discussing it. In the end, I need to take care of myself first before I can help others.", "Try doing things with that friend to get away from drinking. Like the movies without drinks beforehand, golfing without swinging by the bar, canoeing where you forgot to pack the cooler or things like that. There is nothing wrong with having a couple drinks fairly often, but doing things without drinking is needed too.\n\nMaybe you could go backpacking where weight limits how much you can bring so you really just have to leave it for the evening and don't drink on the hike. It is the small victories that get you to where you want to be, not the sudden confrontation that tells him to stop or else. Just work on dialing it back some. \n\nGetting together and having a beer or two is perfectly normal for most. If it is hard alcohol though, then you might have issues. It also depends on how old you are. It is quite common to drink to much and fuck around before settling down. Often times it takes the right girl or seeing his buddies with girls and families to convince him to mature. If you go out of your way to tell him what to do though, then you will be viewed as the one with a problem and he'll walk away. Just give him time to get sick of it and offer alternatives that are a bit more family friendly.", "You have to remember too that people usually have substance abuse problems because they have some issue that they cannot deal with. Alcohol is a means to escape certain pains and anxieties. Unless you address the root cause, you will be unable to take away alchohol. You mentioned that your friend does not talk about emotions. It could be he/she was hurt some time in the past, or feels inadequate in some way, and is drinking to cover it up.\n\nTelling him/her to stop will only serve to anger. Rather, try to help your friend through whatever is going on.", "I had a friend just like that. And unfortunately I had to stop being friends with him for a while. I'd make myself available during the day and to talk on the phone but I'd tell him every time I'd couldn't make it or said I had plans. He was a great guy but once he drank a switch flipped. He'd go nuts. One night he was in full swing said to his current girl friend to \"give me my fucking car keys or I'll smash u in the face\" that was it I said \"call a cab a go home\" he claimed I was now fucking his girlfriend and we both could fuck off. Then tried to hit me several times in the parking lot. Long story short, I followed him home to make sure he got home safe and when I did he was waiting outside and sucker punched me in the face and I ended up smashing his head against a the ground, then his mom was babysitting his kids and came outside and was screaming, it was completely ridiculous and horrible after that we stopped hanging out and I was there for motional support for him because he had some really bad stuff going on. Besides is addiction. Fast forward a few years he's been sober and we talk all the time again but our relationship is never where was before. sometimes you just have to make the decision not to be friends or not to put yourself in that situation anymore. It sucks but ", "Here's my advice -- I'm an alcoholic. If you've been friends with this guy since the age of 3, don't let the friendship go. You're not going to find many people in this world that you can connect with like that. He's got a really shitty problem that he's dealing with (or not dealing with right now). Play this one by ear. I can only say what I would want in a friend. Don't harass him about his drinking, but talk to him about it in a compassionate manner. Don't get too worked up about it -- there's not much you can do, but be there for him. Like others have said, try to suggest non-drinking activities. Don't try to be his babysitter -- that will annoy him and isn't fair to you. I don't expect any of my friends to keep me sober or take any responsibility for my issues. I know this sounds crazy, but if he wants to drink and you feel like drinking with him, go out for drinks. If he decides he wants to take a break from drinking, support him and then don't invite him to drinking events as long as he's staying sober. Try to gently nudge him in the right direction without being pushy about it. If you're ever uncomfortable or don't want to hang out, make up an excuse why you can't. Put yourself first, but if you can stand it, don't leave him hanging. He'll cut back or quit when he's ready to. That's just my two cents.\n\n", "Attend alanon for YOU, as you cannot change that person. When you see the bottle being hit a bit to hard,make a polite excuse and remove yourself prior to his irrational behavior. \nYo can't control them, you cannot change them. When they are sober, you can mention that their behavior when they drink makes you uncomfortable, or that he behaves like an ass, or whatever works for your relationship. I am sorry you are watching his downhill path, but you have to be true to yourself, please understand I am not trying to be callous towards your friend I just have been through it. ", "first off stop drinking wit him,do something else,take up jogging,\n\ngo jogging with them\n\nhttps://www.discoveryplace.info/secrets-helping-alcoholic-family-member-or-friend", "It's ok for you to have to step away. Don't feel guilty. It might end up being his wake up call that turns him around, but don't bet on it. You've been a good friend to him, but ultimately if this friendship is damaging for you then it's completely fine to walk away. Tell him that your door is always open but that you have to have some space. All the best." ]

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[ "Get those stickers off laptop/netbook Bought myself a beautiful new netbook today, wiped the harddrive and got my favourite Linux distro installed before even looking at Windows, therefore I really don't want that little Windows 7 sticker staring back at me every time I use the damn thing, but whenever I look at them I just think they look like they have 10 times more adhesive than the most persistent of price tags and I don't want to end up with a sticky mess.\n\nTL;DR How I get thems stickers off of a laptop as if they were never there at all?", "Get those stickers off laptop/netbook Bought myself a beautiful new netbook today, wiped the harddrive and got my favourite Linux distro installed before even looking at Windows, therefore I really don't want that little Windows 7 sticker staring back at me every time I use the damn thing, but whenever I look at them I just think they look like they have 10 times more adhesive than the most persistent of price tags and I don't want to end up with a sticky mess.\n\nTL;DR How I get thems stickers off of a laptop as if they were never there at all?", "Get those stickers off laptop/netbook Bought myself a beautiful new netbook today, wiped the harddrive and got my favourite Linux distro installed before even looking at Windows, therefore I really don't want that little Windows 7 sticker staring back at me every time I use the damn thing, but whenever I look at them I just think they look like they have 10 times more adhesive than the most persistent of price tags and I don't want to end up with a sticky mess.\n\nTL;DR How I get thems stickers off of a laptop as if they were never there at all?" ]

[ "[Goof Off](http://looksgreatnaked.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/pr-Housewares-Goof_Off_The_Ultimate_Remover.jpg)", "And now for something completely different: Those stickers, while super adhesive at first, if you can get the corner up, come off cleanly.\n\nAnd for stickers that don't come off cleanly {such as any paper stickers someone may have put on the machine}, use some mayo.", "Eucalyptus oil ... amongst its many wondrous uses it will remove such sticky things with ease! \n\nThis will give you an idea of what else you can do with that bottle of oil apart from ridding your world of sticky residue : http://www.eucalyptusoil.com/uses-and-tips/natural-home-cleaning " ]

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[ "How should I take tests whilst sleep-deprived? When I'm low on sleep my error rate goes through the roof; I add numbers wrong and my brain just overlooks little errors.\n\nI don't really blank out, but how can I make fewer mistakes when taking a test whilst low on sleep?\n\n", "How should I take tests whilst sleep-deprived? When I'm low on sleep my error rate goes through the roof; I add numbers wrong and my brain just overlooks little errors.\n\nI don't really blank out, but how can I make fewer mistakes when taking a test whilst low on sleep?\n\n" ]

[ "First of all, a powernap (M", "As someone who has terrible insomnia, meaning I average about 2-3 hours of sleep per night, you don’t get better the less sleep you get. I can function pretty normally on low sleep. I’m used to it. But I can only maintain an average at best. Low sleep doesn’t make one perform better. Never better. Always worse. At best you can average out. But for me it took years to wire my brain. To think well “enough”. \n\nYou need sleep. Or at least rest. If you’re thinking all the time, then eventually your brain needs a break. \n\nSo the only advice I can give, besides just getting more sleep or rest (eg laying with your eyes closed even if you can’t sleep), is to zone out where you can. Listen to music and drown out the noise and thoughts in your head. Mental focus is very limited while sleep deprived. So leading up to your test, if you have no choice but to be sleep deprived, listen to wordless music, (trance, deep bass house, instrumentals) and get to a zen state, on your way to the test. \n\nYou also probably can’t just think about a problem and let your mind wander until it finds an answer. That route requires the sleep train. You’re going to have to get process oriented. \n\nYou’re going to have to practice (practice x 100) the steps to problems. Because that’s all you can hope to do. Not remember the solution, but remember the steps to find it. \n\nImagine it being a like going up 100 stories, via a stairwell, completely exhausted. You won’t be able to skip steps for very long, but you can do one step at a time very slowly. \n\nAll that said. Get some fucking sleep. It’s been 15 years since college for me - and all those bad sleep habits I created haunt me to this day. \n\nGood luck." ]

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[ "High school drains me how do I overcome this? So I’ve been trying to become more disciplined these past weeks or so. I been trying to build consistency on finishing my to-do list everyday. After school over I do 2 hours of productivity and 10-30min break rinse and repeat. But I leave some time to play my games or watch tv. \n\nI always knock out my two major habits m", "High school drains me how do I overcome this? So I’ve been trying to become more disciplined these past weeks or so. I been trying to build consistency on finishing my to-do list everyday. After school over I do 2 hours of productivity and 10-30min break rinse and repeat. But I leave some time to play my games or watch tv. \n\nI always knock out my two major habits m" ]

[ "This sounds like burn out. Like you are trying something new and going all in too quickly. Did you only recently decide to become more disciplined or has this always been a thing for a large part of your life?", "Just keep at it! The only thing I would recommend is to take days off for recovery, both physical and mental. You don't want to get burned out and that may be what's happened and why you haven't felt like keeping the routine." ]

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[ "How to stop ceiling fans from making that knocking sound. Summer is upon us and things are starting to heat up. My ceiling fans have always made these annoying knocking sounds that make it hard to fall asleep. Any ideas?", "How to stop ceiling fans from making that knocking sound. Summer is upon us and things are starting to heat up. My ceiling fans have always made these annoying knocking sounds that make it hard to fall asleep. Any ideas?", "How to stop ceiling fans from making that knocking sound. Summer is upon us and things are starting to heat up. My ceiling fans have always made these annoying knocking sounds that make it hard to fall asleep. Any ideas?" ]

[ "The fan is probably off balance. This video gives a good step by step guide to fix it: https://youtu.be/jRGMQOyt_18\n", "i ha one that was balanced, but due to a poor design one of the blade mounts was too thick and bumped once per rotation. turned it off and manually spun it to locate the exact spot, took off the blade, filed it down and replaced it. it lost mass so close to the center that it stayed balanced and the noise was gone.", "For some minor things, a bit of cotton in the spot where it knocks can help. But if it’s too unbalanced and super noisy it might need a more serious repair." ]

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[ "So, my girlfriend of over a year just friend zoned me and broke up with me, yet I still care a whole awful lot about her... ", "So, my girlfriend of over a year just friend zoned me and broke up with me, yet I still care a whole awful lot about her... ", "So, my girlfriend of over a year just friend zoned me and broke up with me, yet I still care a whole awful lot about her... ", "So, my girlfriend of over a year just friend zoned me and broke up with me, yet I still care a whole awful lot about her... ", "So, my girlfriend of over a year just friend zoned me and broke up with me, yet I still care a whole awful lot about her... ", "So, my girlfriend of over a year just friend zoned me and broke up with me, yet I still care a whole awful lot about her... ", "So, my girlfriend of over a year just friend zoned me and broke up with me, yet I still care a whole awful lot about her... " ]

[ "My advice: Maintain your dignity. Focus on yourself and on things you have always wanted to do but couldn't while in a relationship.", "Cut her out your life completely, block on all social media etc. And avoid all contact for 6-24 months so you can move on", "No contact. That's the key to things not being awkward. Down the road, hopefully after you've met a few other women, it won't be so bad. Many people can be friends with ex's but nobody can flip a switch and go from one type of relationship to another. And often by the time you can be friends you don't really want to be. ", "Dude let her go. Don't chase her. It will be the biggest mistake you make. She's not worth it if she did something like that. She just wants out. Let her go to hell", "Two words, \"absolute class.\" Move on, don't hang out with her anymore, but don't be petty either. Say hi or nod if you walk past. Don't ask your friends how she's doing. Don't check out her facebook page, don't talk about her to other girls - ever. You'll look like a star and get over it much more quickly than you would otherwise. ", "It's good that you still care for her. That's normal. And avoiding each other is a good start. It makes it easier.\n\nBest bet is simply to throw yourself into something. Work. School. A new hobby. Whatever. Let it consume you. Let it take your mind off your perceived loss.\n\nBreakups are awkward. There's nothing wrong with that. Don't get down on yourself or her--but that's the hard part. There will be another. And probably another. And maybe a few more. Enjoy the ride!", "Hello [NotA4YearOld](/u/NotA4YearOld), thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, your submission has been removed for the following reason(s):\n\n /r/LifeProTips is the wrong subreddit for relationship advice please try resubmitting to a more appropriate subreddit.\n\n\n\nIf you would like to appeal this decision [please feel free to contact the moderators here](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=/r/LifeProTips). Alternatively you can resubmit using [this link](http://www.reddit.com/r/lifeprotips/submit?resubmit=true). Make sure you [read the rules](/r/lifeprotips/about/sidebar) before submitting. Thank you!" ]

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