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[ "How to keep drinks cool without a refrigerator or similar I have a fridge downstairs but my computer is upstairs, and the drink doesn't stay cool for long after I get upstairs. Any tips?", "How to keep drinks cool without a refrigerator or similar I have a fridge downstairs but my computer is upstairs, and the drink doesn't stay cool for long after I get upstairs. Any tips?", "How to keep drinks cool without a refrigerator or similar I have a fridge downstairs but my computer is upstairs, and the drink doesn't stay cool for long after I get upstairs. Any tips?" ]

[ "Can't you keep an ice bucket close to your computer ?\n\nOtherwise, you can put your drink (I'm assuming a closed bottle of beer) in water containing an gigantic quantity of salt. The reaction of salt dillution in the water in highly endothermic, and will thus suck out every calory in your beer... But you didn't ask for this...", "If it is soda or juice, freeze it and take the frozen drink upstairs. If you wait long enough you have very cold drinks, if you don't wait long enough and you can shake the bottle you have nice icee like drinks... :)\n\n(you can re-use empty water bottles if you don't want to spend a fortune on smaller bottles of soda or juice).", "Got an air vent near you that is blowing out cold air? Leave case of soda or beer in front of it for a few hours. It's where I keep my sodas, next to my PC. Don't need a fridge during hotter months, as the A/C chills them to almost fridge-like temperatures. Or at least they taste that way." ]

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[ "How to better retain information when teaching yourself. I have decided to teach myself coding but after practicing I notice that I easily forget what I learned, any tips on retaining information for not only coding but for everything? ", "How to better retain information when teaching yourself. I have decided to teach myself coding but after practicing I notice that I easily forget what I learned, any tips on retaining information for not only coding but for everything? ", "How to better retain information when teaching yourself. I have decided to teach myself coding but after practicing I notice that I easily forget what I learned, any tips on retaining information for not only coding but for everything? ", "How to better retain information when teaching yourself. I have decided to teach myself coding but after practicing I notice that I easily forget what I learned, any tips on retaining information for not only coding but for everything? ", "How to better retain information when teaching yourself. I have decided to teach myself coding but after practicing I notice that I easily forget what I learned, any tips on retaining information for not only coding but for everything? ", "How to better retain information when teaching yourself. I have decided to teach myself coding but after practicing I notice that I easily forget what I learned, any tips on retaining information for not only coding but for everything? ", "How to better retain information when teaching yourself. I have decided to teach myself coding but after practicing I notice that I easily forget what I learned, any tips on retaining information for not only coding but for everything? " ]

[ "I read an older book on utilizing both parts of the brain, can't remember the title... but it gave memory tricks. One of the tricks was to read or watch the information, 10 minutes later review it, 1 hour later review it, then 1 day, then 1 week, etc dependent on how long you needed to retain it for.", "First understand that there are different ways to learn. From many, reading is enough. For some it has to be a hands-on process. And these aren't the only ways.", "I'm a student through Grant MacEwan and take the majority of my classes online, I have really had to teach myself the content of the courses and I really had to figure out a way of learning that helped me best. Something that really works for me: Always buy the textbooks. Highlight/sticky note. Take notes on what you have highlighted or tabbed. This keeps your brain repeating the info over a couple times and you'll have an easier time remembering it. The only downside: this does take a little bit longer. I find it worth it in the long run. ", "Check out [Learning How to Learn](https://www.coursera.org/learn/learning-how-to-learn) course on Coursera.", "Take notes. I'm not talking about writing every bit of information down, write down what is important. I do mean writing. I always write all my notes out on notebook paper originally. If i'm trying to be the best student possible I then transcribe these notes into an electronic document. Personally I find this dual note system helps me more and is how have done all of my college classes so far.\n\nAlso \"memory tricks\". I'm going for an ecology major myself, and my \"tricks\" to remember random things, for instance location and different organs of a specific phylum, would involve drawing a stupid ass picture which I would later mentally reference, or coming up with a terrible yet amusing (to myself) acronym or saying that I could remember.\n\nHopefully this will help, its done me well thus far.", "It seems that you can learn but have problems with retention. \n\n1) Repetition - review constantly, at least once a week/month say. Each time you review information, you are stimulating search and recall. The more you do it, the faster this process will be and the less taxing, i.e. greater efficiency. If you don't review something for a long time (say, your birthday), you may forget it or it takes longer to recall it compared to when you were young and loved your birthday.\n\n2) Application - apply the idea you learnt in many ways so you develop a stronger synaptic connection for this. This'll improve retention and understanding. \n\n3) Technique of Absorption - people absorb information differently, find how you absorb information most efficiently and effectively. Try thinking visually because images are easier to remember than text.", "Create something. Think about what you learned and make something simple that uses that technique.\r\rMake a blog or Tetris or a chat program or wall paper changer or a server monitor or generate the first 1000 primes. \r\rNot only will it give you a practical use for what you learned, you will learn more along the way and get some experience laying down real code." ]

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[ "When having to pick which image is clearer during eye exams. Is there a trick to it to make it easier? ", "When having to pick which image is clearer during eye exams. Is there a trick to it to make it easier? ", "When having to pick which image is clearer during eye exams. Is there a trick to it to make it easier? ", "When having to pick which image is clearer during eye exams. Is there a trick to it to make it easier? ", "When having to pick which image is clearer during eye exams. Is there a trick to it to make it easier? " ]

[ "You can answer that you can't tell any real difference between the two. Just be honest with what you see, there's no real way to make it easier since there isn't a right or wrong answer. ", "DON'T SQUINT. Only my first eye doctor told me that, and explained why. Every single doc after that has mentioned no such thing, but agreed (a little shame-faced lol) when I told my children during the exam.\n\nSquinting is you compensating for poor vision, changing the shape of your eyeball, and doing so prevents from getting a truly accurate read.\n\nOh, and don't be afraid to ask your doc to repeat the slide a time or 2 if you don't see an immediate difference.", "Tell them there is no tangible difference. Usually they will pick the image that requires less correction.", "My optometrist gives me the options \"1 or 2 or same?\" So it sounds like they expect that you might not perceive a difference and it's totally acceptable :)", "Be honest. It's not a test it's an assessment. You say which one seems clearer. If they seem the same, then that's what you tell your doctor. Janky answers will give you a janky prescription. " ]

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[ "What mental \"tricks\" have you used to push through when you feel your energy is depleted? You know how we all have those days when we feel like we just want to sleep all day and even taking a step feels like climbing a mountain, a lot of that is mental, so what things do you do/take/change mentality that allow you to regain energy to push through those times?", "What mental \"tricks\" have you used to push through when you feel your energy is depleted? You know how we all have those days when we feel like we just want to sleep all day and even taking a step feels like climbing a mountain, a lot of that is mental, so what things do you do/take/change mentality that allow you to regain energy to push through those times?", "What mental \"tricks\" have you used to push through when you feel your energy is depleted? You know how we all have those days when we feel like we just want to sleep all day and even taking a step feels like climbing a mountain, a lot of that is mental, so what things do you do/take/change mentality that allow you to regain energy to push through those times?", "What mental \"tricks\" have you used to push through when you feel your energy is depleted? You know how we all have those days when we feel like we just want to sleep all day and even taking a step feels like climbing a mountain, a lot of that is mental, so what things do you do/take/change mentality that allow you to regain energy to push through those times?", "What mental \"tricks\" have you used to push through when you feel your energy is depleted? You know how we all have those days when we feel like we just want to sleep all day and even taking a step feels like climbing a mountain, a lot of that is mental, so what things do you do/take/change mentality that allow you to regain energy to push through those times?", "What mental \"tricks\" have you used to push through when you feel your energy is depleted? You know how we all have those days when we feel like we just want to sleep all day and even taking a step feels like climbing a mountain, a lot of that is mental, so what things do you do/take/change mentality that allow you to regain energy to push through those times?", "What mental \"tricks\" have you used to push through when you feel your energy is depleted? You know how we all have those days when we feel like we just want to sleep all day and even taking a step feels like climbing a mountain, a lot of that is mental, so what things do you do/take/change mentality that allow you to regain energy to push through those times?" ]

[ "plan something good for the end of the day. days like that il be like \"after work im going to get myself a nice steak for dinner\" something to look foward to", "Try gargling sugar water. Don't swallow, just swish it round and spot it out. Apparently this triggers your reward seeking centers of the brain.\n\nI kid you not: http://contemplatingcognition.wordpress.com/2012/12/06/bad-for-the-teeth-but-good-for-the-mind/", "[This.](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/15jn2s/lpt_a_quick_way_to_be_more_productive_and/)", "It seems that just believing that works energizes you can help - see [this article from NYTimes](http://www.nytimes.com/2011/11/27/opinion/sunday/willpower-its-in-your-head.html?_r=0)", "If I'm tired, I just keep moving. You're only tired enough to stop working when your sitting or laying down. Then I ensure I get to be at least an hour earlier, but not too early, otherwise my schedule is fucked up", "I use the fact that I have body fat as a reference point so I know I have energy saved up on my body and then will away any sense of depletion, since I know there's plenty of energy to be had.\nAlso, m", "This one always works for me.\n\nIf I'm running, I'll look at a spot maybe 30 feet in front of me and tell my self *\"okay, you only have to run to that spot, then you're done.\"* once I get to that spot I'll tell myself *\"woah, change of plans, you just have to run 30 more feet, make it count.\"*\n\nIf you do that three times, you would've already run 90 feet.\n\nIt's really easy to lie to your own brain, you just need to know how to do it. \n\nAlso, when tidying your house, I like to song a song that goes, \"where does *this* go? Over here. Where does *this* go? Inside here.\"\n\nEvery time you say *\"this\"* you pick up an object on the floor. Every time you say *\"here\"* you place it somewhere reasonable and tidy. sing it faster and you get to work faster, slower; slower." ]

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[ "How to remove gum from clothes Background i suppose - I was at a bar, sat down on a stool and some jerk wad had put a piece of gum on the seat! unaware to me, i continued to sit on the piece of gum, occasionally sifting my weight. Standing up reviled the piece of gum, and the now ruined sweatpants I was wearing! (or so I think) anyone know of a LPT to get gum out of clothes?\n\nin this situation = adidas track pants - Main material: polyester ", "How to remove gum from clothes Background i suppose - I was at a bar, sat down on a stool and some jerk wad had put a piece of gum on the seat! unaware to me, i continued to sit on the piece of gum, occasionally sifting my weight. Standing up reviled the piece of gum, and the now ruined sweatpants I was wearing! (or so I think) anyone know of a LPT to get gum out of clothes?\n\nin this situation = adidas track pants - Main material: polyester ", "How to remove gum from clothes Background i suppose - I was at a bar, sat down on a stool and some jerk wad had put a piece of gum on the seat! unaware to me, i continued to sit on the piece of gum, occasionally sifting my weight. Standing up reviled the piece of gum, and the now ruined sweatpants I was wearing! (or so I think) anyone know of a LPT to get gum out of clothes?\n\nin this situation = adidas track pants - Main material: polyester ", "How to remove gum from clothes Background i suppose - I was at a bar, sat down on a stool and some jerk wad had put a piece of gum on the seat! unaware to me, i continued to sit on the piece of gum, occasionally sifting my weight. Standing up reviled the piece of gum, and the now ruined sweatpants I was wearing! (or so I think) anyone know of a LPT to get gum out of clothes?\n\nin this situation = adidas track pants - Main material: polyester ", "How to remove gum from clothes Background i suppose - I was at a bar, sat down on a stool and some jerk wad had put a piece of gum on the seat! unaware to me, i continued to sit on the piece of gum, occasionally sifting my weight. Standing up reviled the piece of gum, and the now ruined sweatpants I was wearing! (or so I think) anyone know of a LPT to get gum out of clothes?\n\nin this situation = adidas track pants - Main material: polyester ", "How to remove gum from clothes Background i suppose - I was at a bar, sat down on a stool and some jerk wad had put a piece of gum on the seat! unaware to me, i continued to sit on the piece of gum, occasionally sifting my weight. Standing up reviled the piece of gum, and the now ruined sweatpants I was wearing! (or so I think) anyone know of a LPT to get gum out of clothes?\n\nin this situation = adidas track pants - Main material: polyester " ]

[ "Put your clothes in the freezer. Peels right off after that. Or so I am told. Never had to try it myself. ", "i don't know what to do in that, but i do know something that you shouldn't do... DON 'T JUST PICJ IT OFF. SOME OF IT WILL STICK.", "Use lighter fuel or WD-40. WD-40 works very well but might stain light clothes. Lighter fuel does not stain at all.\n\n[1. Works](http://i.imgur.com/3e85K)\n\n[2. And says it will work.](http://i.imgur.com/EIc9A.jpg)\n\n^", "Rub an ice cube over it, it will harden and you can peel it up. I don't know how many times I've sat in gum, and this works quickly.", "Put some peanut butter on it and let it hang out for an hour or so. The oils in the pb will help to destick the gum.", "I had the same thing happen to me, man...\nBut in my high school auditorium.\nI just spent time peeling off gum.\nThen washed it with hot water.\nThen peeled some more.\nJust so you know, I was wearing jeans." ]

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[ "Fix rogue underwires in a bra (pic inside) http://i.imgur.com/F2OcoNd.jpg\n\nI hate throwing away a good bra because a wire is sticking out. LPT's to fix? ", "Fix rogue underwires in a bra (pic inside) http://i.imgur.com/F2OcoNd.jpg\n\nI hate throwing away a good bra because a wire is sticking out. LPT's to fix? ", "Fix rogue underwires in a bra (pic inside) http://i.imgur.com/F2OcoNd.jpg\n\nI hate throwing away a good bra because a wire is sticking out. LPT's to fix? " ]

[ "Stick the wire back into the casing then sew over the hole. Go over and over the hole with thread so the thing doesn't pop back out.", "Lots of links to bra blogs over at /r/bigboobproblems. I know they have guides for altering bras, so I'd be willing to bet they have guides for repairing them as well. If not, x-post this over there and see if some of the resident seamstresses can help you out.\n\nMeanwhile, check out /r/braswap for a replacement.", "In a pinch, i put some gauze and several layers of foam medical tape over the underwire. It's super ghetto, but I haven't had any complaints with this method so far." ]

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[ "Finding and deleting redundant files on your computer I have a bunch of files on an external hard drive that are likely duplicates. My camera gives files names based on the number file they are on the sd card, so if I remove files from my sd card, even though they may not be the same file, new photos will be given the same name. I need to find out how to sort through which files are duplicates and which are actually independent content. Not sure if I am explaining this well, so ask any questions if you're confused. Thanks.", "Finding and deleting redundant files on your computer I have a bunch of files on an external hard drive that are likely duplicates. My camera gives files names based on the number file they are on the sd card, so if I remove files from my sd card, even though they may not be the same file, new photos will be given the same name. I need to find out how to sort through which files are duplicates and which are actually independent content. Not sure if I am explaining this well, so ask any questions if you're confused. Thanks.", "Finding and deleting redundant files on your computer I have a bunch of files on an external hard drive that are likely duplicates. My camera gives files names based on the number file they are on the sd card, so if I remove files from my sd card, even though they may not be the same file, new photos will be given the same name. I need to find out how to sort through which files are duplicates and which are actually independent content. Not sure if I am explaining this well, so ask any questions if you're confused. Thanks." ]

[ "[CloneSpy](http://www.clonespy.com/?Download) does exactly this, it checks if they're exactly 100% the same, not if they have the same filename, works wonders!", "I'm on my phone, and can't really do a thorough search at the moment, but software definitely exists to help with this. What you are looking for is something that looks for duplicate files by reading the files themselves, rather than just duplicate names. What operating system are you on? ", "Auslogic Duplicate File Finder worked for me. Also, I have used other programs like Awesome Duplicate Photo Finder and Duplicate Cleaner. I have had issues like yours for photos and music and havent found that one single program that works perfectly." ]

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[ "how can I be productive in the morning? For some reason my productivity increases as the day goes by, and reaches its maximum at night. Before lunch there's basically nothing I can get done (even if I wake up early). How can I fix this?", "how can I be productive in the morning? For some reason my productivity increases as the day goes by, and reaches its maximum at night. Before lunch there's basically nothing I can get done (even if I wake up early). How can I fix this?", "how can I be productive in the morning? For some reason my productivity increases as the day goes by, and reaches its maximum at night. Before lunch there's basically nothing I can get done (even if I wake up early). How can I fix this?", "how can I be productive in the morning? For some reason my productivity increases as the day goes by, and reaches its maximum at night. Before lunch there's basically nothing I can get done (even if I wake up early). How can I fix this?", "how can I be productive in the morning? For some reason my productivity increases as the day goes by, and reaches its maximum at night. Before lunch there's basically nothing I can get done (even if I wake up early). How can I fix this?", "how can I be productive in the morning? For some reason my productivity increases as the day goes by, and reaches its maximum at night. Before lunch there's basically nothing I can get done (even if I wake up early). How can I fix this?", "how can I be productive in the morning? For some reason my productivity increases as the day goes by, and reaches its maximum at night. Before lunch there's basically nothing I can get done (even if I wake up early). How can I fix this?", "how can I be productive in the morning? For some reason my productivity increases as the day goes by, and reaches its maximum at night. Before lunch there's basically nothing I can get done (even if I wake up early). How can I fix this?" ]

[ "Better sleep.\nHydrate in the morning.\nEat a big breakfast.\n\nGive the body what it needs in the morning and your mind will be ready to reciprocate.", "Wake up earlier consistantly. Also drink more water first thing. Eat breakfast. Once that mechanical body stuff is figured out. Do the things that are actively helping you achieve your dreams. Align your life with achieving what your passionate about . find your purpose. Motivation or lack of productivity will never be a concern. Also stay off the internet. Unless that's helping realize your purpose.\n.", "Like all things in life, you learn by doing. if you want to get work done in the morning, start getting work done in the morning. No matter what it is. Do it regularly, do it diligently. You will eventually get over the habit of being dead in the morning, or you will figure out what is wrong in the first place (could simply be your sleep schedule or work schedule).\n\n\nGive it a chance, then stick to what works best for you. Note: What works best for you and what is easiest are not always the same thing.", "spend some time in the sun. it tells your body to wake the eff up, cuz it's daytime and that's when you should be awake to hunt and stuff. or some science.\n\ni commute, and i've recently noticed i'm more sleepy on cloudy days when i don't see a lot of the sun driving in.. that may or may not be a real thing.", "I think lots of people feel like that in the morning...and maybe this tip won't work for your own circadian rhythms, but one way that works for me is to give yourself just a little more extra time than you think you'll need to get all the things you want to done. \n\nI see that you mentioned that waking up early doesn't seem to help you, but the hectic feeling I get when rushed in the morning seems to work against getting things done. If I absolutely need to just laze around a while to feel just right, then I need to build in an extra fifteen minutes or so (or a half hour, or a WHOLE hour, whatever you need), it's worth the relatively small amount of lost sleep to have that feeling that you definitely have time for all your tasks.", "I just started doing some brain games first thing when I get to work and my morning productivity went WAY up. I am using the free account at luminosity, but I'm sure anything would help. ", "I agree with drinking lots of water first thing. I also trained myself to get up from my bed as soon as I hear my alarm. Then I go drink my water, water my plants, shower, and do several standing or walking activities before allowing myself to reddit. The way I taught myself to get up when I heard my alarm was on a weekend afternoon - I was reading/watching a movie laying down for a few hours, and set my alarm (with a new sound) for every half hour. Doing this maybe five times set the pattern, and I was able to wake up much easier the week after. It takes discipline to keep up, but you can do it!", "Depending on what kind of person you are... Change your morning pattern little by little, instead of all at once; watch this to get a thorough explanation [Forget big change, start with a tiny habit: BJ Fogg at TEDxFremont](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AdKUJxjn-R8).\n\nMake a prioritized list, then start from the top and work your way down it.\n\n[Curious & Serious] Why do you want to \"fix this\"?" ]

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[ " How do you keep away spiders? I never had a fear of spiders, but after what just happened, I do now. (Although, I do have a slight fear of insects in general) Over the last two weeks I have killed two spiders during the day, and one morning I woke up with two spider bites on my legs. I was just sitting at my computer desk ten minutes ago, and I felt something run across my foot. I did a backwards somersault out of my chair, turned on the lights, and spotted a spider nearly an inch and a half long. I grabbed my empty gaming case and killed it and disposed of the body, but now I am in too much fear to sleep. I keep thinking that there is something crawling on me, and I can't get it out of my head. My mind won't let me sleep tonight knowing there are others. \n\nSo please Reddit, what are some ways to keep spiders of your house/room? I must know; I will spend all day tomorrow spider proofing my room.\n\nAlso, I am not good at identifies types of spiders. I wouldn't know where to begin. Any spider is a bad spider to me.\n", " How do you keep away spiders? I never had a fear of spiders, but after what just happened, I do now. (Although, I do have a slight fear of insects in general) Over the last two weeks I have killed two spiders during the day, and one morning I woke up with two spider bites on my legs. I was just sitting at my computer desk ten minutes ago, and I felt something run across my foot. I did a backwards somersault out of my chair, turned on the lights, and spotted a spider nearly an inch and a half long. I grabbed my empty gaming case and killed it and disposed of the body, but now I am in too much fear to sleep. I keep thinking that there is something crawling on me, and I can't get it out of my head. My mind won't let me sleep tonight knowing there are others. \n\nSo please Reddit, what are some ways to keep spiders of your house/room? I must know; I will spend all day tomorrow spider proofing my room.\n\nAlso, I am not good at identifies types of spiders. I wouldn't know where to begin. Any spider is a bad spider to me.\n", " How do you keep away spiders? I never had a fear of spiders, but after what just happened, I do now. (Although, I do have a slight fear of insects in general) Over the last two weeks I have killed two spiders during the day, and one morning I woke up with two spider bites on my legs. I was just sitting at my computer desk ten minutes ago, and I felt something run across my foot. I did a backwards somersault out of my chair, turned on the lights, and spotted a spider nearly an inch and a half long. I grabbed my empty gaming case and killed it and disposed of the body, but now I am in too much fear to sleep. I keep thinking that there is something crawling on me, and I can't get it out of my head. My mind won't let me sleep tonight knowing there are others. \n\nSo please Reddit, what are some ways to keep spiders of your house/room? I must know; I will spend all day tomorrow spider proofing my room.\n\nAlso, I am not good at identifies types of spiders. I wouldn't know where to begin. Any spider is a bad spider to me.\n", " How do you keep away spiders? I never had a fear of spiders, but after what just happened, I do now. (Although, I do have a slight fear of insects in general) Over the last two weeks I have killed two spiders during the day, and one morning I woke up with two spider bites on my legs. I was just sitting at my computer desk ten minutes ago, and I felt something run across my foot. I did a backwards somersault out of my chair, turned on the lights, and spotted a spider nearly an inch and a half long. I grabbed my empty gaming case and killed it and disposed of the body, but now I am in too much fear to sleep. I keep thinking that there is something crawling on me, and I can't get it out of my head. My mind won't let me sleep tonight knowing there are others. \n\nSo please Reddit, what are some ways to keep spiders of your house/room? I must know; I will spend all day tomorrow spider proofing my room.\n\nAlso, I am not good at identifies types of spiders. I wouldn't know where to begin. Any spider is a bad spider to me.\n", " How do you keep away spiders? I never had a fear of spiders, but after what just happened, I do now. (Although, I do have a slight fear of insects in general) Over the last two weeks I have killed two spiders during the day, and one morning I woke up with two spider bites on my legs. I was just sitting at my computer desk ten minutes ago, and I felt something run across my foot. I did a backwards somersault out of my chair, turned on the lights, and spotted a spider nearly an inch and a half long. I grabbed my empty gaming case and killed it and disposed of the body, but now I am in too much fear to sleep. I keep thinking that there is something crawling on me, and I can't get it out of my head. My mind won't let me sleep tonight knowing there are others. \n\nSo please Reddit, what are some ways to keep spiders of your house/room? I must know; I will spend all day tomorrow spider proofing my room.\n\nAlso, I am not good at identifies types of spiders. I wouldn't know where to begin. Any spider is a bad spider to me.\n", " How do you keep away spiders? I never had a fear of spiders, but after what just happened, I do now. (Although, I do have a slight fear of insects in general) Over the last two weeks I have killed two spiders during the day, and one morning I woke up with two spider bites on my legs. I was just sitting at my computer desk ten minutes ago, and I felt something run across my foot. I did a backwards somersault out of my chair, turned on the lights, and spotted a spider nearly an inch and a half long. I grabbed my empty gaming case and killed it and disposed of the body, but now I am in too much fear to sleep. I keep thinking that there is something crawling on me, and I can't get it out of my head. My mind won't let me sleep tonight knowing there are others. \n\nSo please Reddit, what are some ways to keep spiders of your house/room? I must know; I will spend all day tomorrow spider proofing my room.\n\nAlso, I am not good at identifies types of spiders. I wouldn't know where to begin. Any spider is a bad spider to me.\n" ]

[ "Get some Raid. For spiders and scorpions I do believe. If you spray that shit around the perimeter of your room, corners, possible entry ways, what have you, it should form a nice forcefield that will keep the spiders and scorpions away. It's also fun to spray the fuckers with it and watch them writhe in pain as you laugh with delight.", "Not based anything but experience. Spiders eat flies. Flies in house attract spiders. Keep house clean and therefore clear of flies= less chance of spiders. Spiders more likely at neighbors dirty kitchen full of flies. \n\nIf you must, surface spray monthly.", "Well if there are no other condescending Australians ready to step up to the plate, I guess I'll have to do it...one and a half inches eh? That's certainly something. (I kid, you guys are far less crazy for not liking them)\n\nLike everyone else had said, strong pesticide.\n", "The mouse glue scraps work great. Put them under a weak night light and sometimes they will draw more yet. \n\nI live in an pld farm house and this is the only really effective thing I have found. Consumer strength pyrethrum just does not hurt them. ", "I've used hedge apples in the past. A few people told me that it doesn't work but I put it on top of my water heater and didn't see a spider in my apartment. I lived by the woods also", "I hate spiders. My parents' house always harbors them, due to the trees in the backyard providing ample habitat. My fiance is usually in charge of disposing of them when I find one.\n\n-Caulk up any crevices around your doors and windows. They and other pests get in those ways.\n\n-Replace any and all window screens with holes/tears. You can use nail polish to patch up small holes/tears, but once you have many of them, you ought to just replace it.\n\n-I once read that spiders hate pennyroyal. It's a common enough herb, so you can get the fresh stuff pretty easily. Bruise or crush the leaves to release the essential oils and scatter them around your windows and doors.\n\n-Declare war. Get yourself a fly swatter, any household cleaning spray, and a vacuum (use a hose attachment, if you have one). Smack 'em when you can, spray 'em to disable them, or suck them and their webs up when you can't. Make sure you dispose of them, by either flushing them and their detritus, or burning them (safely, mind you! Use a fireplace, sink, or metal bucket).\n\nGood luck." ]

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[ "How to prevent door knob from electrocuting me? Static electricity is making myself and colleagues dread leaving the office. ", "How to prevent door knob from electrocuting me? Static electricity is making myself and colleagues dread leaving the office. ", "How to prevent door knob from electrocuting me? Static electricity is making myself and colleagues dread leaving the office. " ]

[ "You need an electrician. If it zaps that frequently its no static electricity. Mouse has chewed the rough a wire somewhere. Could be 20 ft from the door. Electricity is weird. \n", "This happens to me as well mostly during winter. Tap the door knob or other metal surface with your knuckles instead of fingertips which are more sensitive.", "Dryer sheets are designed to trap static- maybe create a dryer sheet cover over the handle? Cheap, easy, not very shocking. " ]

[ 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "What's an easy way to humidify my room overnight? I've been waking up with my throat painfully dry (insert inyourendo here), which is I think is because of winter's dryness. Any tips to make my room just a smidge more humid?", "What's an easy way to humidify my room overnight? I've been waking up with my throat painfully dry (insert inyourendo here), which is I think is because of winter's dryness. Any tips to make my room just a smidge more humid?", "What's an easy way to humidify my room overnight? I've been waking up with my throat painfully dry (insert inyourendo here), which is I think is because of winter's dryness. Any tips to make my room just a smidge more humid?", "What's an easy way to humidify my room overnight? I've been waking up with my throat painfully dry (insert inyourendo here), which is I think is because of winter's dryness. Any tips to make my room just a smidge more humid?", "What's an easy way to humidify my room overnight? I've been waking up with my throat painfully dry (insert inyourendo here), which is I think is because of winter's dryness. Any tips to make my room just a smidge more humid?", "What's an easy way to humidify my room overnight? I've been waking up with my throat painfully dry (insert inyourendo here), which is I think is because of winter's dryness. Any tips to make my room just a smidge more humid?", "What's an easy way to humidify my room overnight? I've been waking up with my throat painfully dry (insert inyourendo here), which is I think is because of winter's dryness. Any tips to make my room just a smidge more humid?", "What's an easy way to humidify my room overnight? I've been waking up with my throat painfully dry (insert inyourendo here), which is I think is because of winter's dryness. Any tips to make my room just a smidge more humid?", "What's an easy way to humidify my room overnight? I've been waking up with my throat painfully dry (insert inyourendo here), which is I think is because of winter's dryness. Any tips to make my room just a smidge more humid?" ]

[ "Hang a wet towel in your room a few hours before bed and leave it overnight. Increase the number of wet towels to increase humidity.", "Not sure of the type of heating system that you have, but I have steam radiators. I just place a loaf pan of water on it and it keeps the room humid enough.\n\nIf you are using forced air, try one of the 10-15 dollar hot air humidifiers, they work great (stay away from the cold air ones, they are a pain to clean).\n", "Do you have plants in your room? Plants will help a lot. http://www.ehow.com/how_6098560_add-humidity-inside-house-humidifier.html", "Go to your super market. Buy a drying rack. wash your clothes with a cup of vinegar in the machine. Sell dryer and humidifier for guns and alcohol.", "The same think happened to me back when I lived in CO. I would get a towel wet until just before it drips, and hang it on a hanger from the vent duct in the ceiling. ", "Take a bucket/container and fill it with water (ice) and drape a wash cloth over the side immersed in the water. Place this on the radiator or heater vent. The cloth will act as a wick and help humidify the air.", "Never tried it, but I've heard putting a wet sock over the heat register will help humidify the room.", "Goodwill *always* has humidifiers for less than $10. They are well worth it during the winter months. Hell, just going to Goodwill and seeing what they have for sale is a LPT. Go to the Goodwill on the nice side of town and you can get a boatload of nice clothes for a couple of bucks. ", "If you can afford it, a humidifier can be bought for ~$50.00. Also, you are most likely sleeping with your mouth open--this could be a sign of sleep apnea and you might want to check with your doc. Could also just mean that your nose is stopped up." ]

[ 7, 5, 5, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2 ]

[ "How to get someone to stop apologizing. My roommate did a stupid thing that cost me some feelings and she keeps apologizing. She apologized, I accepted. It wasn't that big of a deal. She keeps apologizing and it's getting awkward.", "How to get someone to stop apologizing. My roommate did a stupid thing that cost me some feelings and she keeps apologizing. She apologized, I accepted. It wasn't that big of a deal. She keeps apologizing and it's getting awkward.", "How to get someone to stop apologizing. My roommate did a stupid thing that cost me some feelings and she keeps apologizing. She apologized, I accepted. It wasn't that big of a deal. She keeps apologizing and it's getting awkward.", "How to get someone to stop apologizing. My roommate did a stupid thing that cost me some feelings and she keeps apologizing. She apologized, I accepted. It wasn't that big of a deal. She keeps apologizing and it's getting awkward." ]

[ "Apologizing often can also be a sign of past emotional abuse, so I would also be gentle with how I address it.", "It's because you probably aren't very expressive with her. accepting an apology isn't always the only thing that needs to be done. Be happy you have someone who is truly sorry and feels bad about it. Most people don't give a flying fuck and to get them to apologize is like pulling teeth... Just explain to them that you have accepted the apology and that you have already let it go since accepting an apology means exactly that. You acknowledge the person made a mistake and now you are moving on.. Although if you are the type of person that sticks with their thoughts once you've been wronged by another then don't say anything to the person because you'll be setting it up for failure. Explain it to them in this way. Apology accepted and feelings and thoughts and memories of it are also left behind.", "I am a repeat apologizer. I do it because I think the person is still angry with me. \n\nShow the person you are no longer upset with a positive interaction. Give her a hug, share a pot of tea, tell her a joke, or ask her about her day. Whatever shows her that things are cool now.", "Say \"Please stop apologizing. Every time I forget you remind me again. It wasn't a big deal.\" Can't imagine how else you would do this." ]

[ 6, 4, 2, 0 ]

[ "Calming an angry friend/acquaintance down when they are mad at someone else I feel like I get in these kind of situations a lot whether it's rooming with a couple of hot-heads or playing in a sports league. A friend or acquaintance will start going off to me about how they are pissed at this one person and if they say or do one more thing they'll knock their teeth out. \n\nI mention the sports thing to show that it's not necessarily alcohol induced. Sometimes they come off the field barking to me about the ref or some \"bitch ass\" player, but loud enough for everyone to hear.\n\nI'm always just like \"hey don't worry about it\" blah blah blah but they're usually still making a scene. I feel really awkward and I don't know what to do with them. Plus I usually don't want to stop having fun. It rarely actually results in a fight but it definitely shifts the mood for the rest of the time. Any advice is appreciated!\n", "Calming an angry friend/acquaintance down when they are mad at someone else I feel like I get in these kind of situations a lot whether it's rooming with a couple of hot-heads or playing in a sports league. A friend or acquaintance will start going off to me about how they are pissed at this one person and if they say or do one more thing they'll knock their teeth out. \n\nI mention the sports thing to show that it's not necessarily alcohol induced. Sometimes they come off the field barking to me about the ref or some \"bitch ass\" player, but loud enough for everyone to hear.\n\nI'm always just like \"hey don't worry about it\" blah blah blah but they're usually still making a scene. I feel really awkward and I don't know what to do with them. Plus I usually don't want to stop having fun. It rarely actually results in a fight but it definitely shifts the mood for the rest of the time. Any advice is appreciated!\n", "Calming an angry friend/acquaintance down when they are mad at someone else I feel like I get in these kind of situations a lot whether it's rooming with a couple of hot-heads or playing in a sports league. A friend or acquaintance will start going off to me about how they are pissed at this one person and if they say or do one more thing they'll knock their teeth out. \n\nI mention the sports thing to show that it's not necessarily alcohol induced. Sometimes they come off the field barking to me about the ref or some \"bitch ass\" player, but loud enough for everyone to hear.\n\nI'm always just like \"hey don't worry about it\" blah blah blah but they're usually still making a scene. I feel really awkward and I don't know what to do with them. Plus I usually don't want to stop having fun. It rarely actually results in a fight but it definitely shifts the mood for the rest of the time. Any advice is appreciated!\n", "Calming an angry friend/acquaintance down when they are mad at someone else I feel like I get in these kind of situations a lot whether it's rooming with a couple of hot-heads or playing in a sports league. A friend or acquaintance will start going off to me about how they are pissed at this one person and if they say or do one more thing they'll knock their teeth out. \n\nI mention the sports thing to show that it's not necessarily alcohol induced. Sometimes they come off the field barking to me about the ref or some \"bitch ass\" player, but loud enough for everyone to hear.\n\nI'm always just like \"hey don't worry about it\" blah blah blah but they're usually still making a scene. I feel really awkward and I don't know what to do with them. Plus I usually don't want to stop having fun. It rarely actually results in a fight but it definitely shifts the mood for the rest of the time. Any advice is appreciated!\n", "Calming an angry friend/acquaintance down when they are mad at someone else I feel like I get in these kind of situations a lot whether it's rooming with a couple of hot-heads or playing in a sports league. A friend or acquaintance will start going off to me about how they are pissed at this one person and if they say or do one more thing they'll knock their teeth out. \n\nI mention the sports thing to show that it's not necessarily alcohol induced. Sometimes they come off the field barking to me about the ref or some \"bitch ass\" player, but loud enough for everyone to hear.\n\nI'm always just like \"hey don't worry about it\" blah blah blah but they're usually still making a scene. I feel really awkward and I don't know what to do with them. Plus I usually don't want to stop having fun. It rarely actually results in a fight but it definitely shifts the mood for the rest of the time. Any advice is appreciated!\n" ]

[ "I find touch and eye contact to be very calming to others. It may not work for everyone, but putting your hand on their forearm or upper arm and saying \"Hey....hey look at me for a second\" will introduce calming feelings. Forcing eye contact by moving your head into their line of sight while asking them to look at you distracts their attention for a moment.\n\nThen in a low tone say \"I know this is frustrating as hell, but I care about you, and I want you to put this out of your mind for just a moment so that it's just us.\" Sometimes they're so angry and in the moment that nothing will calm them down, but it's worth a shot.", "Personally I go for the distract/ignore/prevent method. \n\nDistract them from the fact they are mad at that someone, either by engaging in an activity that consumes their mental capacity or get them thinking about something that they requires some concern (their future, money, Tippi Hedron's pet lion). \n\nIgnore the fact that they are mad at each other in conversation. People, consciously and subconsciously, don't want to be the one causing a fuss. If you act like they are or should be mad, they will continue to act mad. \n\nPrevent anything they would regret later. Retaliation or big decisions that will permanently damage the relationship. \n\nIf the person is mad at someone for doing something legitimately awful, then you need to get the offending party to go directly to the offended and communicate with them. \n\nMost of the times I've dealt with someone being mad at someone else, it just takes a little time for them to calm down then clear communication to resolve the issue. \n\nOrrr... \n\nBreak a pool cue in half, drop it between them, and let them figure it out. It's effective, but eventually your left with only one friend/roommate.\n\n", "Turn it around. \"Man, it's ridiculous how upset [other side] get about this kind of thing, isn't it? If only they could be like us and shrug it off and go and get a beer...\"", "These are toxic friends.\n\nEliminate them from your life.\n\nAlternately .. [Tssst!](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rx_lTgUSyB4)", "My anger deflates pretty quickly when my boyfriend gets angrier at whomever or whatever on my behalf. Even if he's putting on a show and not actually mad. It shows that he's on my side even if I'm being irrational, and if I am being irrationally angry, hearing him get even madder than me makes me laugh at how ridiculous he sounds and I stop being angry, or I start defending the person or thing I'm mad at and realize how ridiculous I was to be so angry in the first place. \n\n\nOn the flip side, if he tells me to calm down then I am immediately 10 times as angry. Telling someone to calm down pretty much never works. " ]

[ 9, 7, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Is there a way to rid old Cigarette Smell from a Used Car? I bought a great little ride (used) from the dealer a while back. It smelled fantastic when I took it for a test drive. Little did I realize it was deodorized heavily to mask the cigarette smell from the previous owner who was a smoker and smoked in the car.\n\nThe problem is the scent is really strong when the heat or AC is turned on, meaning it's in the vents. I've tried changing the air filter, but that didn't work.\n\nAny suggestion?", "Is there a way to rid old Cigarette Smell from a Used Car? I bought a great little ride (used) from the dealer a while back. It smelled fantastic when I took it for a test drive. Little did I realize it was deodorized heavily to mask the cigarette smell from the previous owner who was a smoker and smoked in the car.\n\nThe problem is the scent is really strong when the heat or AC is turned on, meaning it's in the vents. I've tried changing the air filter, but that didn't work.\n\nAny suggestion?" ]

[ "Use Lysol disenfectant spay in the air vents. There are usually cabin air intake vents, above your hood and below the wipers/windshield. Turn the blower on high, with the fresh air setting, and spray the Lysol in the intake. The disenfectant will kill any mold and such nastiness. Also, I like the baking soda based odor absorber air freshened cakes, they really help with strong and musty smells.", "We use ozone generators in used cars and it works fairly well. Bit expensive for the end user though. " ]

[ 2, 1 ]

[ "How to throw a classy dinner party? So my group of 8 to 10 friends come over regularly for bonfires and beer pong parties. This year I want to switch things up and have a nice Thanksgiving dinner party where we drink wine and dress nicely. They will be down for it and I'm not worried ab9ut anything getting out of control, they are great guys. But I have never tried this sort of party before. \n\nAny tips on how to plan properly, as well as make sure it is just as enjoyable as any of our other \"crazier\" parties?", "How to throw a classy dinner party? So my group of 8 to 10 friends come over regularly for bonfires and beer pong parties. This year I want to switch things up and have a nice Thanksgiving dinner party where we drink wine and dress nicely. They will be down for it and I'm not worried ab9ut anything getting out of control, they are great guys. But I have never tried this sort of party before. \n\nAny tips on how to plan properly, as well as make sure it is just as enjoyable as any of our other \"crazier\" parties?", "How to throw a classy dinner party? So my group of 8 to 10 friends come over regularly for bonfires and beer pong parties. This year I want to switch things up and have a nice Thanksgiving dinner party where we drink wine and dress nicely. They will be down for it and I'm not worried ab9ut anything getting out of control, they are great guys. But I have never tried this sort of party before. \n\nAny tips on how to plan properly, as well as make sure it is just as enjoyable as any of our other \"crazier\" parties?", "How to throw a classy dinner party? So my group of 8 to 10 friends come over regularly for bonfires and beer pong parties. This year I want to switch things up and have a nice Thanksgiving dinner party where we drink wine and dress nicely. They will be down for it and I'm not worried ab9ut anything getting out of control, they are great guys. But I have never tried this sort of party before. \n\nAny tips on how to plan properly, as well as make sure it is just as enjoyable as any of our other \"crazier\" parties?" ]

[ "First, get a rough head count. Do any of them usually head home to family for this holiday? Alternatively, will family be visiting them? Do you need to buy or borrow folding tables or chairs?\n\nPick a day and time. Real Thanksgiving day or weekend? Late lunch or evening dinner?\n\nDecide how nice is \"nice.\" If you expect suits and ties for guests, you might want to step up your \"tablescaping\" with cloth napkins, rings, table cloth, runner, full plate settings, etc. Or is something a bit more casual OK with you? Let guests know this as part of the plan.\n\nNext, start a Google Drive Sheet for people to sign up to bring things. Plan ahead for ways to keep things warm (hot burner, slow cooker) or cool as needed. You'll also need serving spoons, forks, knives, for some items. Some items can be made/prepped days in advance and then reheated or cooked the day of Thanksgiving. Others (like most gravy recipes) do not travel as easily.\n\nConsider your table size vs number of guests and serving platters. If space is limited, you won't have room for a large centerpiece. You may also need to have food set up buffet style at a nearby table or countertop instead of \"please pass the ....\"\n\nAlso plan ahead for how you will handle leftovers. Ask guests to bring their own take away Tupperware or have some disposable alternatives (foil tins, plastic, chinese takeout paper boxes) available for them to use instead. You'll need a marker for labeling these things.\n\nWrite down the plan so you don't forget the important stuff (like defrosting the turkey days before cooking). Set hosting items aside as you prep them if you can, so you don't scramble looking for the carving knife on the big day. Martha Stewart and many other home/hosting/cooking websites have premade checklists for a lot of this stuff. Find one you like and go from there.\n\nYour plan may also include appetizers, cocktails, desserts, or activities (football etc).\n\nIf you have pets that might disturb the meal, plan for them too.", "Good for you.\n\nAsk each person to bring a separate (nice) dish to share-appetizers, turkey, side dishes, dessert etc. and a bottle of wine each. Make sure you plan it out so not everyone brings appetizers etc. \n\nA simple tablecloth, cloth placemats and napkins will help dress up about any dinner.\n\n", "Do as much cooking as you can beforehand, and do cold starter / desserts. Get far more wine than you need, then keep drinks topped up. Not enough booze kills dinner parties. ", "Depending on how far into classy you want to go, I suggest some of the following:\n\n-- candles\n\n-- ice bucket for white / rose wines\n\n-- cool jazz or classical music in background\n\n-- flowers here and there (can be a couple of blooms or even just green leaves in little glasses or cups w/o handles)\n\n-- cloth napkins and table cloth (if you are in a large city a restaurant supply place will have them in bulk...)\n\n-- place names on little cards....\n\nGood luck! sounds like a great time ahead for everyone\n\n" ]

[ 5, 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "What are some small things someone can do in day to day life to motivate themselves throughout the day? ", "What are some small things someone can do in day to day life to motivate themselves throughout the day? ", "What are some small things someone can do in day to day life to motivate themselves throughout the day? ", "What are some small things someone can do in day to day life to motivate themselves throughout the day? " ]

[ "Shower right when you get up, get dressed in clothes you would go to the store in. \n\nInstead of lounging around all day until the afternoon to shower, etc, you'll feel compelled to make the most of it.", "Set accomplishable goals mentally, then write them down. It becomes more concrete when you've set something down on paper and you'll work harder to achieve it. ", "Make your bed. You accomplish something right away, and no matter how bad your day is you know you have a nice bed to come home to.", "Have a mantra, make a list and scratch tasks off very intentionally when you have completed them, look in the mirror and smile- hold it for a count of 10, and give yourself frequent pats on the back for all tasks accomplished!" ]

[ 8, 5, 3, 3 ]

[ "How to be intentional and mindful of the things I say. (Title)\n\nWhen I meet with people I pretty much act on auto pilot and After meeting with people I always suddenly think of things I should have said. How do I stop this and actually be able to say the things during a convesration? I met with my cousins friend and when I got to my place, I started to think I should have asked her to send regards to her on my behalf.\n\nPlease shed some light if you know why does it happen?", "How to be intentional and mindful of the things I say. (Title)\n\nWhen I meet with people I pretty much act on auto pilot and After meeting with people I always suddenly think of things I should have said. How do I stop this and actually be able to say the things during a convesration? I met with my cousins friend and when I got to my place, I started to think I should have asked her to send regards to her on my behalf.\n\nPlease shed some light if you know why does it happen?", "How to be intentional and mindful of the things I say. (Title)\n\nWhen I meet with people I pretty much act on auto pilot and After meeting with people I always suddenly think of things I should have said. How do I stop this and actually be able to say the things during a convesration? I met with my cousins friend and when I got to my place, I started to think I should have asked her to send regards to her on my behalf.\n\nPlease shed some light if you know why does it happen?" ]

[ "Practice breathing techniques. Make your exhale longer than your inhale. Close your eyes and take multiple deep breaths a few times a day when you’re on your own, or just need a moment in a group. Then when you are in a conversation give yourself a full breath before responding. See if that helps!", "AlWays think your answers. Always. Just like interviews, there is no problem thinking and taking your time to respond.", "I've got to say this is'nt all that bad. I personally over-analyze everything, which leads to way too much thinking. It has a positive side and a negative one. Lame answer probably but it's all about balance. I wish I was a bit more auto pilot instead of tiring myself every conversation with too much thinking." ]

[ 4, 4, 2 ]

[ "How to not fall madly in love with every single girl that is nice to me? Since the time I was a kid till now, every time a girl acts somewhat nice to me, I just cant stop thinking about her every moment. It gets really bad because it makes me not be able to focus and I get too attached. Is this something that just passes by as I am a 16 year old teenager? ", "How to not fall madly in love with every single girl that is nice to me? Since the time I was a kid till now, every time a girl acts somewhat nice to me, I just cant stop thinking about her every moment. It gets really bad because it makes me not be able to focus and I get too attached. Is this something that just passes by as I am a 16 year old teenager? ", "How to not fall madly in love with every single girl that is nice to me? Since the time I was a kid till now, every time a girl acts somewhat nice to me, I just cant stop thinking about her every moment. It gets really bad because it makes me not be able to focus and I get too attached. Is this something that just passes by as I am a 16 year old teenager? ", "How to not fall madly in love with every single girl that is nice to me? Since the time I was a kid till now, every time a girl acts somewhat nice to me, I just cant stop thinking about her every moment. It gets really bad because it makes me not be able to focus and I get too attached. Is this something that just passes by as I am a 16 year old teenager? ", "How to not fall madly in love with every single girl that is nice to me? Since the time I was a kid till now, every time a girl acts somewhat nice to me, I just cant stop thinking about her every moment. It gets really bad because it makes me not be able to focus and I get too attached. Is this something that just passes by as I am a 16 year old teenager? ", "How to not fall madly in love with every single girl that is nice to me? Since the time I was a kid till now, every time a girl acts somewhat nice to me, I just cant stop thinking about her every moment. It gets really bad because it makes me not be able to focus and I get too attached. Is this something that just passes by as I am a 16 year old teenager? ", "How to not fall madly in love with every single girl that is nice to me? Since the time I was a kid till now, every time a girl acts somewhat nice to me, I just cant stop thinking about her every moment. It gets really bad because it makes me not be able to focus and I get too attached. Is this something that just passes by as I am a 16 year old teenager? ", "How to not fall madly in love with every single girl that is nice to me? Since the time I was a kid till now, every time a girl acts somewhat nice to me, I just cant stop thinking about her every moment. It gets really bad because it makes me not be able to focus and I get too attached. Is this something that just passes by as I am a 16 year old teenager? ", "How to not fall madly in love with every single girl that is nice to me? Since the time I was a kid till now, every time a girl acts somewhat nice to me, I just cant stop thinking about her every moment. It gets really bad because it makes me not be able to focus and I get too attached. Is this something that just passes by as I am a 16 year old teenager? " ]

[ "Once you have a successful long term relationship with someone who you were madly in love with at the start, you'll realize that it's a product of your mind. The fact that you don't know them shrouds them in mystery and curiosity in your head, and you put them on a pedestal.\n\nSo instead of doing this, imagine actually having to live with the real person in front of you. Know that once the fire dies, and you know so much about this person that their every reaction is predictable and thus boring to you, you'll wind up arguing about stupid shit and sometimes wonder what it would be like to be alone again, or with someone else.\n\nRelationships are great, and being \"in love\" is awesome, but you won't be \"in love\" forever. So let the girl in, but remember that they're just a human being and if you smother yourself in them, you will eventually need space. Keep a nice balance of love and independence.", "The more you interact with females the more you realize that they are just females.\nExposure helps a lot with this", "I know exactly what you mean. I'm 23, have been in several relationships, and I still feel this way. It also makes it really difficult for me to have meaningful friendships with girls who I respect and appreciate for more than their value as a sexual partner. Just because its hard for me to separate friendly attention from romantic attention when it comes from the opposite sex.", "It is part due to you being a 16 yr old, part due to exposure. I would suggest working on encountering basic interaction scenarios where a girl will likely act somewhat nice to you, and make an effort to act somewhat nice to girls you encounter. Not just cute girls or girls your age, interact with females of all types and ages. Once it becomes more of a regular activity in combination with getting older, you should progress out of your current situation.", "You're 16. I'm an adult and miserable as fuck half the time (although I am in a relationship; and not like a \"i want to die\" kind of miserable, just a crabby Squidward Tentacles kind of miserable, and that includes the shitty clarinet playing). As you meet more people, and more women, you'll soon realize that that's all they are in the end - women. Establish connections with those you actually want to establish connections with, and don't make large assumptions right off the bat about their words and things they do - a lot of it is just common courtesy, and not a flirtatious action. \n\nAs you single out your connections and establish deeper bonds with certain people, you'll appreciate those people more and you'll grow up and learn the difference between being \"in love\" and just wanting hormonal teenage sex. ", "Try to understand that some people are being nice to you because they care for all people they want to make everyone feel good. When you reach a certain point of maturity you realize that everyone is important and you do your best to make everyone feel good.", "Do what I do. Try to go for every girl. Be as friendly as possible. Borderline flirting. This will give you more experience, and bring you closer to everyone. And if you're lucky someone among them might even like you and go out with you. ", "Masturbation helps. It's better to fap than regret boning someone you wish you hadn't. \nAlso,\n Be nice to everyone, they will be nice to you and so on. Point being if you get too many nice people, only the ones you are truly attracted to, you will think about them. ", "Well I grew out of it when I was 14, that being said, I'm only 16 and kind of mature for my age, or at least some people say that. There really is no easy solution but to try and have a serious relationship for once (assuming you haven't had one). That's when I grew out of it.\n\n" ]

[ 25, 17, 7, 5, 3, 1, 1, 0, -2 ]

[ "Roommate Dishes/Kitchen chores I'm apartment mates with a friend for the first time, and I was wondering how roommates usually split the chores for shared spaces, mainly the kitchen. We usually cook/eat separately and I was wondering if roommates usually take turns doing everyones dishes, or if each individual is just responsible for doing their own? It's just the two of us sharing the kitchen so it doesn't get too crowded but I feel like we should decide on some kind of rule?\n\n", "Roommate Dishes/Kitchen chores I'm apartment mates with a friend for the first time, and I was wondering how roommates usually split the chores for shared spaces, mainly the kitchen. We usually cook/eat separately and I was wondering if roommates usually take turns doing everyones dishes, or if each individual is just responsible for doing their own? It's just the two of us sharing the kitchen so it doesn't get too crowded but I feel like we should decide on some kind of rule?\n\n", "Roommate Dishes/Kitchen chores I'm apartment mates with a friend for the first time, and I was wondering how roommates usually split the chores for shared spaces, mainly the kitchen. We usually cook/eat separately and I was wondering if roommates usually take turns doing everyones dishes, or if each individual is just responsible for doing their own? It's just the two of us sharing the kitchen so it doesn't get too crowded but I feel like we should decide on some kind of rule?\n\n", "Roommate Dishes/Kitchen chores I'm apartment mates with a friend for the first time, and I was wondering how roommates usually split the chores for shared spaces, mainly the kitchen. We usually cook/eat separately and I was wondering if roommates usually take turns doing everyones dishes, or if each individual is just responsible for doing their own? It's just the two of us sharing the kitchen so it doesn't get too crowded but I feel like we should decide on some kind of rule?\n\n", "Roommate Dishes/Kitchen chores I'm apartment mates with a friend for the first time, and I was wondering how roommates usually split the chores for shared spaces, mainly the kitchen. We usually cook/eat separately and I was wondering if roommates usually take turns doing everyones dishes, or if each individual is just responsible for doing their own? It's just the two of us sharing the kitchen so it doesn't get too crowded but I feel like we should decide on some kind of rule?\n\n", "Roommate Dishes/Kitchen chores I'm apartment mates with a friend for the first time, and I was wondering how roommates usually split the chores for shared spaces, mainly the kitchen. We usually cook/eat separately and I was wondering if roommates usually take turns doing everyones dishes, or if each individual is just responsible for doing their own? It's just the two of us sharing the kitchen so it doesn't get too crowded but I feel like we should decide on some kind of rule?\n\n", "Roommate Dishes/Kitchen chores I'm apartment mates with a friend for the first time, and I was wondering how roommates usually split the chores for shared spaces, mainly the kitchen. We usually cook/eat separately and I was wondering if roommates usually take turns doing everyones dishes, or if each individual is just responsible for doing their own? It's just the two of us sharing the kitchen so it doesn't get too crowded but I feel like we should decide on some kind of rule?\n\n", "Roommate Dishes/Kitchen chores I'm apartment mates with a friend for the first time, and I was wondering how roommates usually split the chores for shared spaces, mainly the kitchen. We usually cook/eat separately and I was wondering if roommates usually take turns doing everyones dishes, or if each individual is just responsible for doing their own? It's just the two of us sharing the kitchen so it doesn't get too crowded but I feel like we should decide on some kind of rule?\n\n" ]

[ "Seems pretty simple to me, since you have a dishwasher. Put your dishes in the dishwasher when you're done. Whoever adds enough dishes to fill up the dishwasher, drop some dishwasher detergent in and turn it on.\n\nTaking turns unloading it is probably a good idea.", "The simplest way is to clean them after use. It's really easy and can avoid a bunch of unnecessary infighting.", "Both are considered normal. I would lean towards being responsible for your own dishes but maybe take turns or have a schedule for routine cleaning and taking out the trash.", "I can’t help but think it is all because of parents… \n\n2 of my 3 kids still live at home, 1 of them is 19. The one out of the house is 23 and never did any dishes, chores that she was paid for, nor kept her personal space clean. I was active duty until she was 13, and then continued to deploy overseas afterwards to pay bills. \n\nIn 2019, she moved in with her boyfriend’s parents during the pandemic, and his mom had different rules. From there she became a neat freak which I can appreciate. They have an apartment now, and have had one roommate that will not clean and it’s a major point of contention. We try to justify it with that person having low living standards but…\n\nMy 19 year old is exactly like their roommate. He’s just a slob, and that points back to the fact that I was deployed for a lot of his life, and my wife had to be mom and dad - I don’t know why she didn’t make him clean up after himself but it is what it is. I’m constantly reminding him of the simple requirement to clean up after himself, everywhere and respect other people in the house. For the most part it doesn’t work. I truly feel sorry for his future roommates. \n\nMy youngest, 16 gets it full brunt. It’s a bit unfair to him I think. Both of his siblings got away with being slobs but he isn’t. He cleans, cooks, does all of his chores and doesn’t really complain. So - I tripled his allowance. \n\nI don’t think I contributed to your situation but I felt compelled to sympathize with you through my story.", "You can just put your own dishes in the DW, but somebody still has to do the cooking, and clean up the stove, countertop, and floor.", "I discussed with my roommate and established foundations of what we expected from each other. We agreed, a clean environment is a happy environment. How do we achieve this? Your dishes are your dishes, your mess Is your mess. There is no, \"I cooked you clean\" because a good cook cleans as they go. We have a dishwasher and it's luck of the draw, takes 5 mins to empty and everything in our kitchen has a place so it's easy to put away. For drying cookware, there's an unmonitored 24hr rule. Sure things take time to dry but the pot shouldn't be there by the same meal time next day. Usually before bed just reset the kitchen from the day. \nWe have a rule to avoid passive behaviour or build ups, that we \"air our laundry\" if something is bothering one of us, we address it together in a open dialog to solve the problem together. Example, I was getting annoyed at the condensation build up after his showers, was worried for mould spores forming. Determination was door open fan running for 5-10 mins after shower to exhausts the moisture. It's something that he didn't think was an issue but it bothered/worried me. No blame or finger pointing, just resolved it. \nFor finances all bills are in my name, so I created a spreadsheet that acts like splitwise. With my own tweaks to suit. \"Need precious TP from supermarket? Yep, nw just chuck it in the spreadsheet\". Pretty much if it isn't put into the sheet there is no recovery for payment expected from each other. \n\nLaying these foundations out with the intent to prevent future problems has been the key to our success", "Re the not wanting to share food because of her hygiene - could you soften the blow by explaining that you don't want to share food, but not blame her lack of hygiene, instead say that you are having digestion problems or IBS type symptoms and you are trying to control your diet for that reason (or another reason of your own devising).", "My roommate and I did this fun thing where we agreed to put our dirty dishes in the dishwasher and just turn it on when we put the last dish in, then empty it every other load… but now it’s shifted to myself putting 85% of dishes in the dishwasher and running it, then asking her twice a day to unload it until she does it so I can feel like she’s really contributing. \n\nI also do most of the cleaning in the rest of the kitchen but that’s because I prefer my clean to her clean, and it can be therapeutic. Dishes, however, are different - hate doing someone else’s dishes and extra hate putting them away.\n\nAfter a little while you’ll find yourself in a habit, probably inbetween your two ideas." ]

[ 21, 10, 4, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to make close friends? I have many friends who I know at a superficial level, but very few friends that I would consider close friends i.e. friends I'll hang out with on a regular basis and with whom I'll share much from my personal life. How do you go about forming close friends?", "How to make close friends? I have many friends who I know at a superficial level, but very few friends that I would consider close friends i.e. friends I'll hang out with on a regular basis and with whom I'll share much from my personal life. How do you go about forming close friends?", "How to make close friends? I have many friends who I know at a superficial level, but very few friends that I would consider close friends i.e. friends I'll hang out with on a regular basis and with whom I'll share much from my personal life. How do you go about forming close friends?", "How to make close friends? I have many friends who I know at a superficial level, but very few friends that I would consider close friends i.e. friends I'll hang out with on a regular basis and with whom I'll share much from my personal life. How do you go about forming close friends?", "How to make close friends? I have many friends who I know at a superficial level, but very few friends that I would consider close friends i.e. friends I'll hang out with on a regular basis and with whom I'll share much from my personal life. How do you go about forming close friends?", "How to make close friends? I have many friends who I know at a superficial level, but very few friends that I would consider close friends i.e. friends I'll hang out with on a regular basis and with whom I'll share much from my personal life. How do you go about forming close friends?", "How to make close friends? I have many friends who I know at a superficial level, but very few friends that I would consider close friends i.e. friends I'll hang out with on a regular basis and with whom I'll share much from my personal life. How do you go about forming close friends?", "How to make close friends? I have many friends who I know at a superficial level, but very few friends that I would consider close friends i.e. friends I'll hang out with on a regular basis and with whom I'll share much from my personal life. How do you go about forming close friends?", "How to make close friends? I have many friends who I know at a superficial level, but very few friends that I would consider close friends i.e. friends I'll hang out with on a regular basis and with whom I'll share much from my personal life. How do you go about forming close friends?" ]

[ "Make the first move! Find a common interest with one or two and invite them out somewhere(movie/event). Getting one or two of them alone will help your relationship grow. \n\nI personally only have one close friend, my husband, and the rest are superficial, but it works for me. ", "Socializing with random people through clubs and activities until you feel you can get close to them, then pull out the duct tape and make sure you remain close forever", "Level jump. Tell someone you like something personal and private and see if they respond the same way. ", "Usually it's based on activities, common interests, and event where you bons with others.\n\nFor my small circle high school/college allowed us to hangout and bond over anime, manga, and video games. It took off from there.", "To take it to the next level, you can get to know them through an activity that requires you to bond. Something fun, like trying out a new restaurant or light drinking at a bar. If you bond over such common interests then most likely that one or two friend would open up about a memory or just share something (you can even start a topic from the top of your head), then you guys would get to share your own thoughts and opinion. The conversation would just flow because of the good vibes wherever you are. Connection is the key. ", "Stop using reddit all Damn day and go outside. Reddit is a microcosm of social ineptitude that you don't want advice from.", "Know them for a long time. My closest friend I've known since I was 8, the second closest I've known since middle school. I know that's not helpful but it is the truth in my experience, if you want a close friend, it will take time, and you can't force it. Stay friends with the people you're friends with now and maybe eventually you'll become close with one of them.", "I think I have the same issue. I have tons of friends at the superficial level, and I find it easy to make friend like this. But when it comes to actually getting close to someone...I don't really know what to do. \nMy only close friends are my childhood friends. So I think it comes down to just the amount of time you spend with someone, OR if you just happen to click with someone and you end up talking a lot or spending a lot of time with them as a result. \nNow, I make an effort to regularly message people I want to be closer with, to make sure I'm in regular contact, and get to know them on a day-to-day kind of level. Once that is established, I find it's much easier to actually be close and talk about personal things. \nThat's how it seems to work for me at least. ", "Don't let things like moving or not being in the same classes change/weaken your relationship. I have plenty experience in that, it isn't pleasant." ]

[ 5, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "I need help fixing my cracked driveway! Hello all! This winter has been brutal here in MI. This is the entrance to my driveway, http://imgur.com/E24XbGJ - as you can tell, the cement is cracking. Once all of the snow is gone, how can I fill these cracks? What product(s) do you recommend?\n\nWhat are your LPT's about fixing cracked cement? Thank you!\n", "I need help fixing my cracked driveway! Hello all! This winter has been brutal here in MI. This is the entrance to my driveway, http://imgur.com/E24XbGJ - as you can tell, the cement is cracking. Once all of the snow is gone, how can I fill these cracks? What product(s) do you recommend?\n\nWhat are your LPT's about fixing cracked cement? Thank you!\n", "I need help fixing my cracked driveway! Hello all! This winter has been brutal here in MI. This is the entrance to my driveway, http://imgur.com/E24XbGJ - as you can tell, the cement is cracking. Once all of the snow is gone, how can I fill these cracks? What product(s) do you recommend?\n\nWhat are your LPT's about fixing cracked cement? Thank you!\n" ]

[ "Cracking like this usually means a failure of the support UNDER the concrete.\nExcessive water, compaction failure, poor drainage etc. Breaking it out and adding proper fill that is well compacted is the usual cure.\n\nWater getting under will degrade the base. Make sure the area is well drained and does not allow any standing water to accumulate. Freezing water expands and can heave/break up concrete.", "Please adhere to all codes and ordinances.\n\nI've used an epoxy in the past in a commercial setting. Here's a quick google search for you...\n\nhttps://www.google.com/search?complete=0&hl=en&site=webhp&source=hp&q=concrete+repair+epoxy&btnG=Search&gbv=1&sei=whYVU9ewOJLE0AGnhYGICg", "Consider a process called m\n\"Mud-jacking\". Holes drilled and material pumped in to prevent/slow the shift before you just fill the surface cracks as you will likely have to do it again if it's still shifting" ]

[ 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "Proper Suit Etiquette I got a dance tomorrow and everyone is going to wear a suit. So, me being me, never really wore a suit before, so, any tips on not fucking up?\n\netiquette, tips, tricks etc. would be perfect thanks!", "Proper Suit Etiquette I got a dance tomorrow and everyone is going to wear a suit. So, me being me, never really wore a suit before, so, any tips on not fucking up?\n\netiquette, tips, tricks etc. would be perfect thanks!", "Proper Suit Etiquette I got a dance tomorrow and everyone is going to wear a suit. So, me being me, never really wore a suit before, so, any tips on not fucking up?\n\netiquette, tips, tricks etc. would be perfect thanks!", "Proper Suit Etiquette I got a dance tomorrow and everyone is going to wear a suit. So, me being me, never really wore a suit before, so, any tips on not fucking up?\n\netiquette, tips, tricks etc. would be perfect thanks!", "Proper Suit Etiquette I got a dance tomorrow and everyone is going to wear a suit. So, me being me, never really wore a suit before, so, any tips on not fucking up?\n\netiquette, tips, tricks etc. would be perfect thanks!" ]

[ "It's probably a little last minute to be too picky about what you're going to wear since I'm guessing you don't own a suit. But if you're planning on going out to buy one tomorrow, the biggest mistake guys make in wearing a suit is getting stuff that doesn't fit right. A lot of guys wear suits that are too big and /or baggy. \n\nThis looks especially tacky with the shirt. I see a lot of guys (especially guys that are a little heavy) wearing shirts that get all bunched up at the bottom because they're too big. Get a fitted shirt if you're able too.", "Button up your collar if you are wearing a tie. Please wear a belt. I dont know your skin color , but a classic black and white tie and suit goes with everything. Dont roll your sleeves up if you're wearing a coat. Try to wear soemthing that fits you really well. I always wear slim fit. dont get skinny, get slim. And have fun!\n\n\n", "This is puzzling to me - there are *a bunch* of shops/stores where they offer professional help **free of charge**. I like Breitling (not sure if you find it everywhere though). I can just walk in there and I am instantly met by people in suits to which I calmly explain exactly what I need - this can be done in any way imaginable (\"I need a suit <insert properties> for <insert occasion>\" or just \"I need a nice suit\"). They will then find something that suits you and sell it to you. Beware the prices, my upper limit is 700 EUR (800 USD ?). They will also dress you up and give you all the tips you need.", "Have a read [here](https://www.thetrendspotter.net/2016/02/guide-to-mens-shirt-tie-and-suit-combinations.html)", "A two button suit is preferable over a 3 button suit. If going 3 button, middle button and possibly the first button as well, but never bottom. What makes a suit shine is fit, which probably you won't get the ideal in such short time. Try not going too bulky, too large. Try as tight as you can get without making you uncomfortable (both jacket and pants) . Extend your arms wearing the suit, ask for opinions. Have fun! " ]

[ 4, 4, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How can I stop my towels from being so stinky when they're fresh out the washer and dryer? Seriously, lately they smell bad even when I use them right after I washed them, do I have to just keep buying new ones?", "How can I stop my towels from being so stinky when they're fresh out the washer and dryer? Seriously, lately they smell bad even when I use them right after I washed them, do I have to just keep buying new ones?", "How can I stop my towels from being so stinky when they're fresh out the washer and dryer? Seriously, lately they smell bad even when I use them right after I washed them, do I have to just keep buying new ones?", "How can I stop my towels from being so stinky when they're fresh out the washer and dryer? Seriously, lately they smell bad even when I use them right after I washed them, do I have to just keep buying new ones?", "How can I stop my towels from being so stinky when they're fresh out the washer and dryer? Seriously, lately they smell bad even when I use them right after I washed them, do I have to just keep buying new ones?", "How can I stop my towels from being so stinky when they're fresh out the washer and dryer? Seriously, lately they smell bad even when I use them right after I washed them, do I have to just keep buying new ones?", "How can I stop my towels from being so stinky when they're fresh out the washer and dryer? Seriously, lately they smell bad even when I use them right after I washed them, do I have to just keep buying new ones?" ]

[ "1. Pour some white cider vinegar in the fabric softener compartment of your washer at the start of the cycle. \n\n2. If you've left the load finished in the washer too long, put in the vinegar only (no need for detergent) and put it on a \"rinse & spin only\" cycle.\n\n3. If you are using a front-load washer, wipe out inside/under the rubber door seal. Once you get all the gross stinky black slime out, unroll the seal even more. You'll be shocked how many layers are there. Keep pulling & unrolling until you truly cannot budge it anymore. Do this cleaning regularly & prop open your washer door between loads. My laundry closet is a tight fit (inside & out), so I put just a tennis ball between the washer door & latch. Even that is sufficient space to allow it to try out.\n\n4. Try Persil detergent. Strong fragrance that lasts but isn't overpowering like Febreze. ", "Clean your washer too.\n\nI crank up the hot water heater and dump a whole box of those tide washer cleaners in and have it go through a hot heavy duty cycle.\n\nAfterwards take a sponge and some vinegar or anti-bacterial cleaner of your choice and scrub the drum and lid, rinse cycle and you're in business.", "Double check your dryer too, you may have some mildew in the vent or the lint collection trap....This can get smelly too.\n\nFront load washer are notorious for this. There are products for cleaning these kinds of washers specifically. \n\nAlso, baking soda can help\n\nAlso, we started using the smelly crystals in the wash and that helped too ", "Try washing on hot and use tide w bleach alternative detergent (safe for colors), plus a half cup of bleach MIXED WITH WATER in the washer before adding towels, plus a half cup of vinegar plus a half cup of baking soda. Wash on super cycle. Put it through an extra rinse cycle. Then thoroughly dry. Then allow towels to dry between uses. Don't use more than three days and allow damp towels to dry before placing in hamper. Wash this way each time until no longer smelly!", "White vinegar. Add a couple of good generous glugs into the washer along with your normal laundry soap and run with hot water. I live in a humid area and my laundry starts smelling musty within just a couple of weeks if I don't run it with vinegar every once in a while.", "I haven't seen anyone else mention this so I will. Try borax powder. It doesn't have a scent, and it's great for getting smelly things really clean and getting stains out too. I swear by it", "Are you washing anything with them? I usually have the same probably with athletic shirts when I wash with socks and shit like that." ]

[ 9, 5, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How can I make my room a more chill place to hang out with friends? Right now it's a pretty boring room with two beds and some posters. How can I make it a more cool, chilled-out place for my friends? What should I add to the room?", "How can I make my room a more chill place to hang out with friends? Right now it's a pretty boring room with two beds and some posters. How can I make it a more cool, chilled-out place for my friends? What should I add to the room?", "How can I make my room a more chill place to hang out with friends? Right now it's a pretty boring room with two beds and some posters. How can I make it a more cool, chilled-out place for my friends? What should I add to the room?", "How can I make my room a more chill place to hang out with friends? Right now it's a pretty boring room with two beds and some posters. How can I make it a more cool, chilled-out place for my friends? What should I add to the room?", "How can I make my room a more chill place to hang out with friends? Right now it's a pretty boring room with two beds and some posters. How can I make it a more cool, chilled-out place for my friends? What should I add to the room?" ]

[ "Good lighting, a couple of lamps etc. Somewhere to put your drink down, nothing worse than having to hold it once you've sat down! Big fluffy pillows to make your beds into a comfy sofa. Chilled music. Games console. Pizza delivery menu.", "Music, tv, game console. Hook up a computer to the tv and download movies. Weed and alcohol may benefit your cause.", "If you want to go full out hipster put up christmas lights, cover every part of your walls with posters. But a good smelling, clean room with some chill music would be enough. Get spotify, spotify is amazing.", "Buy some rgb led strips and lay them under your bed, behind your TV or something similar to create indirect light. It will create a nice atmosphere.", "Clean is good ;) Before anything else, make sure its clean, and doesn't smell bad. Light some incense and open windows to air out the room. LPT: stick few dryer sheets behind your radiator." ]

[ 14, 8, 4, 3, 1 ]

[ "How to efficiently utilize a memo book for everyday use? I'm thinking about beginning to regularly carry a Field Notes memo book and pen on my person. Something to help keep me organized and remind me of things, and I like the feel of using paper rather than a phone.\n\nThe one issue is, I feel I tend to be inefficient with notebooks; I never know how to organize my notes, and then either end with a jumbled mess of wildly unrelated items, or most pages being largely empty.\n\nAny tips for how to organize and utilize a memobook?", "How to efficiently utilize a memo book for everyday use? I'm thinking about beginning to regularly carry a Field Notes memo book and pen on my person. Something to help keep me organized and remind me of things, and I like the feel of using paper rather than a phone.\n\nThe one issue is, I feel I tend to be inefficient with notebooks; I never know how to organize my notes, and then either end with a jumbled mess of wildly unrelated items, or most pages being largely empty.\n\nAny tips for how to organize and utilize a memobook?", "How to efficiently utilize a memo book for everyday use? I'm thinking about beginning to regularly carry a Field Notes memo book and pen on my person. Something to help keep me organized and remind me of things, and I like the feel of using paper rather than a phone.\n\nThe one issue is, I feel I tend to be inefficient with notebooks; I never know how to organize my notes, and then either end with a jumbled mess of wildly unrelated items, or most pages being largely empty.\n\nAny tips for how to organize and utilize a memobook?" ]

[ "I used to carry around a [Mead Mini Composition Book](http://i.walmartimages.com/i/p/00/07/43/19/64/0007431964725_500X500.jpg) in my back pocket with a pen to do exactly what you're asking about. \n\nThe way I used it was rather unorganized, but it seemed to work for me. Each day would have a new page and reminders (chores, homework, emails, shopping list, etc) would be jotted down bullet point style. When I did something, I got to cross it off my list. New reminders are constantly getting written down while new ones are getting crossed off. Seeing my reminders frequently got me to thinking \"oh I have time to do this now\" and it would get done.\n\nI liked it this method better than having a daily planner or an app on my phone because planners were too constricting and apps rob me of the satisfaction of physically scratching out the task with a pen. \n\n", "Try looking into commonplace books. It's an old way of organising found materials in a non-linear fashion. Primarily they were used for recording quotations and the quotations were organised by topic or theme.\n\nYou can mess with the system to better suit your needs though.\n\n", "One way: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fm15cmYU0IM\n\nYou should also ask at /r/notebooks /r/productivity /r/organization" ]

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[ "Making Shoes Last? I burn through shoes at an incredible rate - my current pair is coming apart at the seams, at a couple of months old, and most shoes I buy have a similar life expectancy. If they're made of only a few large piece of leather, they crack; if they're made of a lot of small pieces, the seams rip apart. Boots seem to do a little better, but not much, and I don't like the loss of flexibility.\n\nAnyone have any good tips on making shoes last longer, or how to shop for shoes to get more durable models?", "Making Shoes Last? I burn through shoes at an incredible rate - my current pair is coming apart at the seams, at a couple of months old, and most shoes I buy have a similar life expectancy. If they're made of only a few large piece of leather, they crack; if they're made of a lot of small pieces, the seams rip apart. Boots seem to do a little better, but not much, and I don't like the loss of flexibility.\n\nAnyone have any good tips on making shoes last longer, or how to shop for shoes to get more durable models?", "Making Shoes Last? I burn through shoes at an incredible rate - my current pair is coming apart at the seams, at a couple of months old, and most shoes I buy have a similar life expectancy. If they're made of only a few large piece of leather, they crack; if they're made of a lot of small pieces, the seams rip apart. Boots seem to do a little better, but not much, and I don't like the loss of flexibility.\n\nAnyone have any good tips on making shoes last longer, or how to shop for shoes to get more durable models?", "Making Shoes Last? I burn through shoes at an incredible rate - my current pair is coming apart at the seams, at a couple of months old, and most shoes I buy have a similar life expectancy. If they're made of only a few large piece of leather, they crack; if they're made of a lot of small pieces, the seams rip apart. Boots seem to do a little better, but not much, and I don't like the loss of flexibility.\n\nAnyone have any good tips on making shoes last longer, or how to shop for shoes to get more durable models?", "Making Shoes Last? I burn through shoes at an incredible rate - my current pair is coming apart at the seams, at a couple of months old, and most shoes I buy have a similar life expectancy. If they're made of only a few large piece of leather, they crack; if they're made of a lot of small pieces, the seams rip apart. Boots seem to do a little better, but not much, and I don't like the loss of flexibility.\n\nAnyone have any good tips on making shoes last longer, or how to shop for shoes to get more durable models?", "Making Shoes Last? I burn through shoes at an incredible rate - my current pair is coming apart at the seams, at a couple of months old, and most shoes I buy have a similar life expectancy. If they're made of only a few large piece of leather, they crack; if they're made of a lot of small pieces, the seams rip apart. Boots seem to do a little better, but not much, and I don't like the loss of flexibility.\n\nAnyone have any good tips on making shoes last longer, or how to shop for shoes to get more durable models?", "Making Shoes Last? I burn through shoes at an incredible rate - my current pair is coming apart at the seams, at a couple of months old, and most shoes I buy have a similar life expectancy. If they're made of only a few large piece of leather, they crack; if they're made of a lot of small pieces, the seams rip apart. Boots seem to do a little better, but not much, and I don't like the loss of flexibility.\n\nAnyone have any good tips on making shoes last longer, or how to shop for shoes to get more durable models?" ]

[ "Buy two identical pairs, and rotate them daily. Letting them dry fully between uses extends their life, so you get more than twice the life.", "put shoe trees in your shoes as soon as you take them off...this absorbs moisture which expands the leather...when you take them off and the moisture evaporates , it puts stress on the seams as the leather constricts...it'll add at least six months onto the life of your shoes", "Never wear shoes without socks and change your socks daily. Bacteria that multiply in your sweat wears out your shoes from the inside. Also, water-proof your shoes and keep them clean on the outside as well.", "Buy quality to begin with, get them professionally fitted, condition your leather shoes regularly, wear cotton socks with them every time, never wear the same pair of shoes two days in a row, keep them clean, and don't heat-dry (don't put them in front of a fireplace, heat register or radiator) if they're wet.", "Buy Doc Martens, get [free repair and/or replacement for the rest of your life.](http://www.drmartensforlife.com/)", "\nI use to go through shoes every six months or so, until I made a few changes:\n\n- buy high quality shoes. Look for leather soles that are sewed on to the last, not glued on. They will last much, much longer. I still have leather shoes I wear that I bought in 2002. \n\n- don't wear the same pair on consecutive days. They need to dry and rest. ", "Go online and buy a shoe cleaning kit. I got one when I was in Massachusetts two years ago, clean your shoes once every week or every two weeks and your shoes last a VERY long time. I also rotate through 8 pairs of Jordan's so I clean them all about once every month. I have Jordan's from 2011 that look mint. " ]

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[ "habits to get into to maintain a clean room. Me and my boyfriend are finally ditching the roommates thing, and we're getting our own place. We don't have a good track record for keeping a clean room though; as full time studEnts with multiple jobs, free time is pretty scarce. What are some good investments to keep organized, good habits to get into, or anything really, to make sure that out new place is properly equipped for maintained tidiness?", "habits to get into to maintain a clean room. Me and my boyfriend are finally ditching the roommates thing, and we're getting our own place. We don't have a good track record for keeping a clean room though; as full time studEnts with multiple jobs, free time is pretty scarce. What are some good investments to keep organized, good habits to get into, or anything really, to make sure that out new place is properly equipped for maintained tidiness?", "habits to get into to maintain a clean room. Me and my boyfriend are finally ditching the roommates thing, and we're getting our own place. We don't have a good track record for keeping a clean room though; as full time studEnts with multiple jobs, free time is pretty scarce. What are some good investments to keep organized, good habits to get into, or anything really, to make sure that out new place is properly equipped for maintained tidiness?", "habits to get into to maintain a clean room. Me and my boyfriend are finally ditching the roommates thing, and we're getting our own place. We don't have a good track record for keeping a clean room though; as full time studEnts with multiple jobs, free time is pretty scarce. What are some good investments to keep organized, good habits to get into, or anything really, to make sure that out new place is properly equipped for maintained tidiness?", "habits to get into to maintain a clean room. Me and my boyfriend are finally ditching the roommates thing, and we're getting our own place. We don't have a good track record for keeping a clean room though; as full time studEnts with multiple jobs, free time is pretty scarce. What are some good investments to keep organized, good habits to get into, or anything really, to make sure that out new place is properly equipped for maintained tidiness?", "habits to get into to maintain a clean room. Me and my boyfriend are finally ditching the roommates thing, and we're getting our own place. We don't have a good track record for keeping a clean room though; as full time studEnts with multiple jobs, free time is pretty scarce. What are some good investments to keep organized, good habits to get into, or anything really, to make sure that out new place is properly equipped for maintained tidiness?", "habits to get into to maintain a clean room. Me and my boyfriend are finally ditching the roommates thing, and we're getting our own place. We don't have a good track record for keeping a clean room though; as full time studEnts with multiple jobs, free time is pretty scarce. What are some good investments to keep organized, good habits to get into, or anything really, to make sure that out new place is properly equipped for maintained tidiness?", "habits to get into to maintain a clean room. Me and my boyfriend are finally ditching the roommates thing, and we're getting our own place. We don't have a good track record for keeping a clean room though; as full time studEnts with multiple jobs, free time is pretty scarce. What are some good investments to keep organized, good habits to get into, or anything really, to make sure that out new place is properly equipped for maintained tidiness?" ]

[ "Not so much about maintaining, but a great way to clean a room that my mom taught me is to fix your bed first, then put everything that is out of place on the bed. Now you have everything at a comfortable arms reach and it somehow makes things much easier.", "Every night before you go to bed, no matter how tired you are, do a walk around and make sure the place is tidy (not too intense, just put stuff away). You will begin dreading having to do this before bed every night so much that you will make a conscious effort to put your stuff away/clean up your mess as it happens.\n\nAlso, find an hour once a week (like Tuesday at 6pm EVERY WEEK) when you two can tag team and actually clean the place. It might not \neven take an hour if you actually do it every week. make sure there is always some sort of an \"award\" at the end of the cleaning session. ", "No matter how much cleaning-as-you-go you do, you will still have to take time to do more major cleaning periodically. I recommend divide up the big chores permanently. As in, one of you ALWAYS cleans the bathroom while the other ALWAYS cleans the kitchen. This avoids the \"whose turn is it?\" debate and hopefully allows each party to do the chores they don't mind doing. Once every week or two, take an hour or two on a weekend afternoon and go through those \"big\" chores and get them done. It will go quickly because you will each be used to doing your particular chores and because you're both working at the same time. ", "My apartment is pretty clean and the following is what I do.\n\n1) I try to minimalize the things I have. If it's not something I appreciate or will need later, I throw it away. The less things you have the easier it is to clean.\n\n2) When you don't have many things lying around the room, general house maintenance can usually be done really quickly with a can of pressured air and a roomba (you can get cheap second hand ones off of craigslist). Roombas saves you from ever having to vacuum again, plus it's neat to have around and a conversation piece when having people over. The catch is that you have to make your floor roomba-friendly, meaning no loose paper, loose cords, or random small objects.\n\n3) I keep a huge laundry basket and try make sure that every time I take off a piece of clothing, I throw it into there. Once you have this habit there will rarely be random loose clothing on the floor.\n\n4) When cooking and eating I try to clean dishes as preemptively as I can. For example, anything I used while I prepared the ingredients gets cleaned while the food is cooking in the pan or pot, and I clean the pan or pot I used before I start eating. If cooking left a huge dish cleaning job then I'm more likely to procrastinate, but if everything is done except for the few dish and bowls I eat with, the after-meal dishwashing becomes really easy.\n\n5) Bathroom counters can be quickly and easily cleaned every time I wash my hands. Since I'm washing my hands anyway, I just use my wet hands to wipe the counter of any toothpaste stains and such. Likewise, if there are bad stains in the bathtub, you can just rinse them while you shower.", "Try this, if you are hardly home, just spend 5 minutes a day to clean up, tidy up. By the end of the week, you just spent a half hour cleaning. Even ten minutes a day works wonders. I find it much better doing this, and dread spending time on the weekend to do it. ", "I have 2 laundry baskets.\n\n1 is for dirty laundry.\n\n1 is for intermediate, \"can be worn again\" items, like pants and accessories.\n\nThis helps with laundry - which for me is the hardest thing to tackle. Once a week on laundry day, I will wash and put away the clean laundry, and the intermediate basket stuff gets put away again also.", "Clean or reorganize something in every room before you leave it. \n\nFor maximum efficacy, start with a clean, organized house. ", "A friend of mine had an alarm on his and his roommates phones. Every couple of hours it would go off and say \"Clean something\". Just by cleaning something random every couple hours, they kept the place pretty tidy." ]

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[ "how to feel comfortable around 'scary' homeless people and 'colorful' public transport users as someone from a small town ", "how to feel comfortable around 'scary' homeless people and 'colorful' public transport users as someone from a small town ", "how to feel comfortable around 'scary' homeless people and 'colorful' public transport users as someone from a small town ", "how to feel comfortable around 'scary' homeless people and 'colorful' public transport users as someone from a small town ", "how to feel comfortable around 'scary' homeless people and 'colorful' public transport users as someone from a small town ", "how to feel comfortable around 'scary' homeless people and 'colorful' public transport users as someone from a small town ", "how to feel comfortable around 'scary' homeless people and 'colorful' public transport users as someone from a small town ", "how to feel comfortable around 'scary' homeless people and 'colorful' public transport users as someone from a small town ", "how to feel comfortable around 'scary' homeless people and 'colorful' public transport users as someone from a small town " ]

[ "Understand that not everyone that would seem to be a threat is one, infact a large proportion of those you have mentioned are just trying to get through their own struggles and are not out to hurt you.", "Understand you're not obligated to interact or befriend anyone, scary or not. \n\nIf you're uncomfortable avoid people who make you feel like that by moving to a different seat or crossing the street to get where you're going. Consider carrying pepper spray or a taser if it would relieve some anxiety.\n\nTry your best not to generalize based on your experiences, especially about people experiencing homelessness or substance abuse. Not everyone's expecting something of you.", "In a word: Don't. The streets are filled with parasites and those that would intentionally befriend you with no other reason than to junk you out and turn you out.\n\nThat's cold, and I'm sure my idealistic friends will tell me how it's some kind of offensive, but I've seen first hand of what I speak, I wonder if they have?", "Trust your “inner voice”. If a person or situation raises alarm bells, disengage as quickly as possible. Trust your instincts.", "Stare at their feet! \n\nI literally JUST read this “psychology hack” two days ago. It’s perhaps more specific: it states if someone is making you uncomfortable by starting while in a subway, train, etc., simply stare at their feet and they’ll experience self-doubt (possible self-awareness), I’m unsure of the mechanism of action. I do know that I searched Google scholar after reading it to check validity...believe it or not: the tactic has scientific foundation. Search it: see for yourself. Try it! I don’t have the answer as to why it works but it does lol! People will always seem to find SOMETHING wrong with “outsiders” regardless of how kind and pleasant you are. I assure you: I’m from a small town in Mississippi. I know that passive-aggressive starting judgement as well as ACTUAL scary moments. Whatever the case: if you look, make eye contact, and then look at your feet: it’s over. You’re a sucker in their eyes.\n\nStaring at feet may work, I’ve only tried it once since reading it.\n\nIn my experience, what has worked (without fail) is when I “ACT AS IF!” Act as if you belong. Nod, tip your cap, say ‘sup, whatever the other person does, mimic her or his actions. Unless it’s an aggressive middle finger or “f you,” obvs. Try it and see how you feel. You’ve got to somehow force confidence.\n\nThat’s just my experience. Does that help??", "Sane people are the bigger problem. So few mentally ill people have attacked me.\n\nSit by the front. Don't engage people. If you do, use single word responses.", "Over time the feeling of anxiety can fade, as you gain more exposure to this new group of people. You will generally be safe in public areas around other people, but need to keep in mind the “sketchy” streets and alleys. Homeless people off of high generally won’t hurt you, but will definitely scam you, so just politely say no to any request or just avoid eye contact. If they are high they are more unpredictable. But sometimes can be interesting to watch. I try to keep in mind that they all have a story, that people end up on the street because of addiction, which is usually fueled by horrific abuse in their past, sometimes leaving them too damaged to be able to seek help.", "Be prepared. Observe. Don't engage. After you think you can handle more, Be prepared. There are Buskers, they perform in hopes of compensation. Not required but if you like what you hear, hang out and toss something in. A lot of people just don't fit in. Best parties are full of them.", "Why are you scared of them? What do you think they’re going to do to you? In a crowded public space in broad daylight?\n\nJust because someone’s on drugs doesn’t mean they’re going to stab you to death." ]

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[ "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!", "Driving Tips &amp; Tricks As a learner driver, do any of you more experienced drivers have any tips and tricks that could be helpful, anything from clutch control to actual road navigation would be good!" ]

[ "* See what cars are doing way in front of you. Don't just stare at the license plate in front of you.\n\n* Adjust your side view mirrors so that you cannot see the side of your car when you look at them. You should NOT be able to see the car behind you.\n\n* When going around a corner, brake or release the gas first, then enter the turn, then gas on the way out.\n\n* Don't brake all the way down the hill only to have to gas it all the way back up the next. Use your inertia. Also notice that there is a hill in front of you and gas now before you get to it. You'll be at a higher rpm and may not have to change gears.\n\n* Learn the roads in your area. I know the exact location of every pothole in a 30 mile radius of the roads I drive. Preventive maintenance is key. I rarely need an alignment, and my tires last twice as long. Incorporate the same idea for all aspects of driving. Where is a car most likely to appear suddenly? Where would black ice or washout gravel form? If you know your roads, you won't get surprised.\n\n* Do not ride people's asses. In general. Someone like me will put you into the wall. If you hit me, it's your fault, no matter why I hit the brakes. If there's a line of cars 5 miles long, you sitting 3 inches from my bumper does nothing. Leave room.\n\n* Learn to drive without your brakes. On my trip to work, I only hit my brakes at stop signs and stop lights, or if someone is turning on a side street. Watch the traffic ahead of you and anticipate. You can save over $100 a month in gas, and your brakes will last more than 6 months.\n\n* Watch everyone. If you are in a four lane highway, keep tabs on the other drivers. These dipshits can't be bothered with turn signals, you'll see their head turn to the mirror, and then just wander over like you're not there. Keep out of people's blind spots (back to the mirrors, theirs aren't adjusted properly). Additionally, keep tabs on the position of the other cars. Is there a space next to you? If the guy ahead locks them up, you can jump over to it. How close is the guy behind? Increase front space if he's up your ass.\n\n* When passing tractor trailers, wait until the car in front of you has cleared it, then gas past. Don't do 62 past a truck going 60. It's a bad idea to be between 20 tons of death on one side and a concrete wall of death on the other.\n\n**Use your turn signal.**\n\n**Use your turn signal.**\n\n**Use your turn signal.**\n", "When waiting to turn left on a two lane road, you are at risk of being rear-ended. Therefore, never turn the wheel to the left until you are ready to go. You do not want to be hit from behind and pushed into the oncoming traffic", "When the light turns green don't just hammer on the gas and take off (assuming you're first in line). Take a half a second to look both ways as some people over-estimate how much yellow they have left.", "When parallel parking in a tight spot, particularly in a larger vehicle, look for your reflection in a storefront window to help avoid bumping the car behind you. ", "Drive the speed limit (up to 10 above if you're in a serious hurry), watch the signs, look 2-3 cars ahead to have an idea of what the car in front of you is going to be doing, when in doubt slow down.\n\nSeriously about the speed limit thing. Do the math for how much sooner you'd arrive if you go 60 vs.70 vs. 80 and then think about the added risks of tickets, car damage, higher insurance and death involved in saving yourself a couple of minutes, not to mention how much health the chronic stress of watching every corner for a cop is costing you.\n\nNever be afraid to stop if you need to.", "1. Think about your route before you start.\n2. Don't be afraid to miss a turn, you can always go to the next one and circle back around. Way too many people slam on their brakes or swerve across lanes of traffic to make a turn rather than safely continue to the next turn and backtrack. An accident will take way more time than circling back.", "Skills every driver should have before they get a license (I personally think this should be every state's law):\n-be able to change a tire using the supplies in your car\n-be able to check your tire pressure, and know how to inflate them if needed\n-be able to check your oil, coolant, transmission fluid, and maybe even your power steering fluid. Not only that, but you should also be able to tell what is good and what is bad both in terms of fluid color and in terms of fluid depth\n-(A rare one, but still cheaper than going to a mechanic): be able to check and change your fuses\n\nSupplies every vehicle should have:\n-spare tire, properly inflated and in good condition\n-jack and lug nut wrench so you can change a flat tire\n-reflective hazard signs you can put up behind your car in case you do have a break down on the roadside\n-good quality jumper cables (not old ones that are frayed or dry-rotted)\n-a portable air compressor (to inflate your tires on your own) that can operate by plugging into your cigarette lighter outlet. These cost as little as $10 at Wal-Mart\n-cell phone charger\n-blankets/coat/gloves and a shovel and ice scraper for in cold weather\n-an extra quart of engine oil and an extra gallon of either coolant or (at the very least) water. make sure these fluids are the proper type for your engine.\n\nNew drivers often think quite a bit about the responsibilities of HOW to drive without remembering to think about the bits of responsibility that accompany driving when you're not actually behind the wheel. This sounds like a laundry list of things to include in your skills set and trunk, but they are, in my opinion, the minimum of what you need to be a good driver. In addition to what I listed, I carry a spare set of radiator hoses, a pretty thorough tool box, and jack stands in my trunk. Sorry for the length of this post, but I've changed too many flat tires and inflated too many nearly-flat tires and jump-started too many of my college friends' cars to take your request lightly. Intelligent people can be downright dangerous behind the wheel of a poorly maintained car.", "agressive driving pro tip. if you need to make a left and no one is letting you out. wait until the lane closest to you is open, move halfway out into the road. then you wait for the other lane to open up in order to complete your left hand turn. this makes it look like you are a complete asshole but if people aren't going to let you out then it is a remedy for that. feel free to downvote this, it is a dick move, but having to drive around boston sometimes this is a necessary evil.", "Make damn sure the (possibly hand-me-down) car you're driving has decent tires on it. I was gifted my mothers lovely (sarcasm) 1999 Ford Taurus, which she had never maintained. The tires on it were shot, so I slid on a wet road and hit another car. No damage, no issues, and the guy was nice, but still. Also turns out for the first 5 or 6 years she drove it, she never changed the oil... The engine actually died on me this past month. \n\nTL;DR: **MAINTAIN YOUR VEHICLE PROPERLY.**", "Find a long quiet empty street, drive slowly, and turn off the ignition. Practice steering and braking without power assist. You'd be surprised how tough it is.\n\nIn a parking lot, back into the parking spot. This way, you drive forward on the way out. Better visibility this way.", "When parallel parking, point your passenger side mirror down so you can see how close you are to the curb without the risk of damaging your wheels.", "One of my pet peeves is when people start turning way too early and cut into the wrong lane because their angle is all wrong. Your car will practically turn at a 90 degree angle every time. Come to a complete stop and line your nose up to the street or lane you want to turn into. (If people are being impatient, screw them. If you signal properly, you're doing nothing wrong.) Once it's clear, turn your wheel as far as it will go, and you will slide right into the lane. (Do not wait for a turn with your wheels turned! If you are rear ended, you will be forced into oncoming traffic!) I've been waiting to pull out several times and almost have my nose clipped because someone starts to turn onto my street before they reach the appropriate lane.", "In most manual transmission cars, you can save a lot of gas by coasting in high gear (4th or 5th) with the throttle closed ie. no gas pedal pressure. The inertia of the car is turning the engine and you burn zero gas essentially. If you put it in neutral and roll the engine is idling and burning a bit, plus it's dangerous. I'm surprised how many of my friends didn't know this and were doing it wrong. \n\nAdmittedly I did it wrong for years too. ", "Don't ever, ever, EVER get emotional while driving. Don't have heated conversations on the phone (don't talk on the phone, period) or with anyone riding in your car, don't get angry if someone cuts you off, don't get into pissing matches with others or tailgate those who you think are driving too slowly.\n\nThink before you honk your horn, and make SURE that you're doing so in order to get someone's attention and/or to alert them to a possibly dangerous situation. Use your horn APPROPRIATELY for the situation at hand, e.g. if someone's been sitting at a green light for a few seconds and hasn't accelerated, give a QUICK tap on the horn, or two quick taps in succession. This type of honk is usually recognized as being friendly and nonconfrontational. Do NOT lay on your horn for seconds at a time just to get someone's attention at a green light; the duration of your honk really says a lot about whether you are angry or just trying to give a friendly reminder that the light has changed to green.\n\nThe bottom line here is to ensure that you avoid road rage incidents at all cost. NEVER EVER let yourself get worked up over someone who's driving like an asshole. It's not worth the stress and could end up being incredibly dangerous. Do whatever you need to do to achieve in-vehicle nirvana, but make sure you maintain it at all times. I think this is probably the most important single piece of information that I'd want more people to follow.", "* Don't make a nuisance of yourself trying to make a left turn onto a big busy street from out of a driveway or side street that doesn't have a 4-way stop or traffic light. Just make an incorrect right turn and go the long way instead.\n* If there is a middle fifth lane for making turns, know that this is for making left turns from out of that lane. It's not a rightward-merge zone for people making left turns from out of a driveway onto the main road. Because what if someone wants to make a left turn off the main road and you are careening into his way from his blind spot over his right shoulder? Read your Rules Of The Road for your state.\n* Also don't make a left turn out of a driveway onto a multi-lane road one lane at a time. You just block traffic one or one-and-a-half lanes at a time when the light changes. If some idiot in his right lane waves you in ahead of him, don't pull out. And don't do a left-turner any favors, pls thx, you're just asking him to nose out into my way from around your front bumper as I zoom past you on your left.\n* Never obey the traffic directions of another driver. Especially if you are on a 4-lane street and the oncoming driver stops short of the intersection and waves you on so you can make a left turn in front of him. Because you will run into oncoming traffic coming from behind him from his right lane.\n* Ignore people who honk at you from behind because you are not making a right-on-red fast enough for them. Remind yourself that you, from where you are sitting, can see what the guy behind you can't.\n* If I pull over to yield to an ambulance, wait until I pull back out in front of you before you zoom past me. I'm not parking, and I don't want to be T-boned on my driver's-side.\n* If the cars at the top of the hill or bridge have their brakes on, you know the light on the far side must be red.\n* Speeding causes stop-and-go traffic on surface streets that have traffic lights. The lights are timed to go green based on the speed limit, so that if you are going at or under the speed limit the lights will already be green by the time you reach them. If you speed you will come up against a red light too soon, and if others speed, then there will be a line of cars backed up in front of the red light, and people who are in sync with the green lights will need to brake and wait for the queue of speeders to clear out when the light finally turns green, when they could have kept their pace and sailed through the intersection.\n* Speeding also causes S&G traffic on highways, because it takes longer to speed up than to slow down. Speeders ride up to the car ahead of them, only to hit the brakes. The next row of cars hits their brakes, and the next, and so on, which starts a standing-wave that migrates backwards. Eventually the braking becomes standing still. (This process is fascinating. You can watch it happen with your own eyes from a tall building during rush hour.)\n* One time I was a passenger in a car driven by a woman who had control/helplessness issues. She would zoom up to the slower car in front of her, tailgate, and only then look to change lanes and pass, instead of planning the pass long before she was up the bumper of the car ahead of her. That was absolutely nerve-wracking for me, because she was looking behind her when the car ahead of her was braking literally 3 feet from her bumper at 70mph. Don't do that.\n* When merging onto a highway, start looking for an opening immediately. Don't wait until you are sidled up neck-and-neck with my car. Because the law says the one who is merging is the one who has to yield to the traffic already on the highway.\n* When merging onto a highway it's the merger's problem to find an opening. It's not the traffic on the highway's job to make an opening for you (even thought this is nice). If I am merging into where you're at, please do not speed up to let me get in behind you, and don't slow down to let me in ahead of you. Because what if I speed up or slow down in tandem with you? You're just jockeying yourself into my way.", "just assume everyone else is an idiot, and err on the side of caution, while maintaining the speed limit.", "I only accelerate to about 5 MPH over the limit, take my foot off the gas and coast. I don't immediately PEDAL TO THE METAL when i need to accelerate again, but I gradually accelerate back to the 5 MPH over. I get about an extra mile or two to the gallon", "Before you let people get in or out of your vehicle, put the transmission in Park (or Neutral for a manual and let the clutch out). ", "* keep the safety distance. More if on the road there is snow, water, sand or leafs.\n* if you use snow chains learn how to mount them in a warm sunny day. Make sure you can mount them without reading the instruction. Last time i used it it was night, it was snowing and i was stuck in the middle of nowhere. Same thing for changing a tire.\n* if you are downhill keep the foot on the brake less as possible. If your brake overheat you are doomed. Instead downshift and use the engine brake.\n* Don't Panic.", "1. Keep kalm\n2. Learn your car, find a big parking lot that is empty (if at all possible) and learn how wide your car turns (and how wide it is).\n3. Have good sunglasses in the car. the first year i drove i didn't have a sunglasses in the car (didn't have sunglasses in general) went on a trip with some friends and put on his sunglasses when i was driving home and holy shit it helps a lot (don't skimp on cheap sunglasses, expensive sunglasses really make a difference)\n4. don't look at the car in front of you, look 2 or 3 cars in front of you (if at all possible)\n5. when i was starting i found it handy to have the satnav on all the time just to be able to see the surrounding streets on it (no waypoint entered)" ]

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[ "How to get rid of roley polies in my house? HELP! My room is in the basement of our house, and they are everywhere. It's so gross even walking around because I sometimes step on some. Is there some type of solution I can mix up where it would either attract them into one container or kill them? ", "How to get rid of roley polies in my house? HELP! My room is in the basement of our house, and they are everywhere. It's so gross even walking around because I sometimes step on some. Is there some type of solution I can mix up where it would either attract them into one container or kill them? " ]

[ "A quick Google search says that they come in through cracks and gaps in the exterior wall, and don't live long if there's no moisture. Clear any debris from around the foundation, caulk any cracks or gaps, and get a dehumidifier. If there are any moisture problems from a leaky roof or siding, fix them.\n\nsearch keywords: pill bugs, sow bugs, potato bugs", "I use something called diatomaceous earth for my garden and house pests. It's a powder type substance that you just sprinkle where you think they are coming in. $10-$20 at Home Depot I think." ]

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[ "How to overcome fear of rejection? I'll try to keep this short and sweet. Past relationship experiences and sudden deaths with family and a best friend have made it hard for me to get close/trust others. It's almost made me feel as if I don't ever want to be with another person ever again but I know that's because I fear rejection, fear that a new person will turn me down after I emotionally open up to them, fear that they may one day pack up and leave, and fear that they may suddenly pass. \n\nIf you need a little more detail let me know but I'm not trying to put my life story on here. So with that in mind Reddit, could you please share your 2 pennies on how to overcome fear of rejection?", "How to overcome fear of rejection? I'll try to keep this short and sweet. Past relationship experiences and sudden deaths with family and a best friend have made it hard for me to get close/trust others. It's almost made me feel as if I don't ever want to be with another person ever again but I know that's because I fear rejection, fear that a new person will turn me down after I emotionally open up to them, fear that they may one day pack up and leave, and fear that they may suddenly pass. \n\nIf you need a little more detail let me know but I'm not trying to put my life story on here. So with that in mind Reddit, could you please share your 2 pennies on how to overcome fear of rejection?", "How to overcome fear of rejection? I'll try to keep this short and sweet. Past relationship experiences and sudden deaths with family and a best friend have made it hard for me to get close/trust others. It's almost made me feel as if I don't ever want to be with another person ever again but I know that's because I fear rejection, fear that a new person will turn me down after I emotionally open up to them, fear that they may one day pack up and leave, and fear that they may suddenly pass. \n\nIf you need a little more detail let me know but I'm not trying to put my life story on here. So with that in mind Reddit, could you please share your 2 pennies on how to overcome fear of rejection?", "How to overcome fear of rejection? I'll try to keep this short and sweet. Past relationship experiences and sudden deaths with family and a best friend have made it hard for me to get close/trust others. It's almost made me feel as if I don't ever want to be with another person ever again but I know that's because I fear rejection, fear that a new person will turn me down after I emotionally open up to them, fear that they may one day pack up and leave, and fear that they may suddenly pass. \n\nIf you need a little more detail let me know but I'm not trying to put my life story on here. So with that in mind Reddit, could you please share your 2 pennies on how to overcome fear of rejection?", "How to overcome fear of rejection? I'll try to keep this short and sweet. Past relationship experiences and sudden deaths with family and a best friend have made it hard for me to get close/trust others. It's almost made me feel as if I don't ever want to be with another person ever again but I know that's because I fear rejection, fear that a new person will turn me down after I emotionally open up to them, fear that they may one day pack up and leave, and fear that they may suddenly pass. \n\nIf you need a little more detail let me know but I'm not trying to put my life story on here. So with that in mind Reddit, could you please share your 2 pennies on how to overcome fear of rejection?", "How to overcome fear of rejection? I'll try to keep this short and sweet. Past relationship experiences and sudden deaths with family and a best friend have made it hard for me to get close/trust others. It's almost made me feel as if I don't ever want to be with another person ever again but I know that's because I fear rejection, fear that a new person will turn me down after I emotionally open up to them, fear that they may one day pack up and leave, and fear that they may suddenly pass. \n\nIf you need a little more detail let me know but I'm not trying to put my life story on here. So with that in mind Reddit, could you please share your 2 pennies on how to overcome fear of rejection?", "How to overcome fear of rejection? I'll try to keep this short and sweet. Past relationship experiences and sudden deaths with family and a best friend have made it hard for me to get close/trust others. It's almost made me feel as if I don't ever want to be with another person ever again but I know that's because I fear rejection, fear that a new person will turn me down after I emotionally open up to them, fear that they may one day pack up and leave, and fear that they may suddenly pass. \n\nIf you need a little more detail let me know but I'm not trying to put my life story on here. So with that in mind Reddit, could you please share your 2 pennies on how to overcome fear of rejection?" ]

[ "Everybody has to die. Even if they spend their whole life with you, making the bond stronger and deeper, everyone dies. \nIf they die first, it hurts. If you die - they are hurt. \n\nAll we can control is making the best of the time together. If they choose to leave, it isn't something you can control any more than death. \n\n\nDo you want to die without a connection, or risk making some friends and new relationships? \n", "I struggled less with a fear of rejection and more with this sense that I wasn't good enough - no one would *want* me to open up to them, to be that close to me. I had to overcome a serious lack of self-confidence - I didn't value myself. \n\nI worked on being someone I was really proud of - someone I wanted to be. I set goals, and I stuck with them. \n\nBeing okay with your self can be a struggle, but it's worth it because then when you do make close friends or meet someone you'd like to get intimate with, you're coming to the relationship as a partner who has confidence in your own abilities and talents. It helps to ease the blows of loss and heartbreak as well, because you're less dependent on others for you self worth and sense of safety and confidence.\n\n", "There was a post on Reddit not that long ago about a man making a game out of rejection through social interactions. Essentially he would seek out rejection by asking things of random strangers. Here's the link to the [NPR Article](http://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/01/16/377239011/by-making-a-game-out-of-rejection-a-man-conquers-fear) and the [Reddit Post](https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/2smwhb/by_making_a_game_out_of_rejection_a_man_conquers/). Also check out the /r/howtonotgiveafuck subreddit.", "The only way I got over it was by confronting it head on. Getting a bit boozed up, making an approach and getting rejected. Sometimes girls were nice to me. And eventually not only did I get over the fear, I got some one-nighters and a few relationships out of it. It's still scary, but at least I'm pretty good at it with all the practice I've had.\n\nIt's easier when you realise that you are not asking them to fuck you from the moment you talk to them, a lot of girls just like the attention regardless of what you bring to the table. So if you make a classy approach like introducing yourself and tell them what brought you over to them, then at least sometimes you will be warmly received.\n\nFirst step is to dress nice, and do your hair nice. If you go to the gym you already have a massive headstart. Look good and you will feel good. It's more how you feel about yourself than how you actually look. But both are important.\n\nIf something scares you, then you should probably do it.", "Make it a goal to be rejected daily. Go out of your way to seek rejection. Ask a stranger if they can spare $50, or if you can borrow their jacket, or if they have a water bed for sale. Condition yourself to be gratified by rejection. ", "It may be a bit sad but don't 100% plan on acceptance. If you are told whether you are accepted or rejected, just go there as if you were to confirm your rejection. That way you can go out happier cause you know for sure then or much happier cause you got accepted.", "I felt a exactly like this for over a year due to similar circumstances. I just began to be open about it when I felt it was appropriate. Sometimes it was awkward and other times I was amazed at the empathy and/or similar experiences of others. By doing this, and having both positive and negative experiences it allowed me to recalibrate my expectations of others and myself. Although I still carry those negative experience/pain they weigh me down less and I find other people's reactions to my experiences less important. " ]

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[ "How do I stop credit cards slipping out of a leather wallet? When it was new there was enough friction to keep them in but with some wear and dust the cards can slip out. What can I do to add friction so they stick/grip in their pockets?", "How do I stop credit cards slipping out of a leather wallet? When it was new there was enough friction to keep them in but with some wear and dust the cards can slip out. What can I do to add friction so they stick/grip in their pockets?", "How do I stop credit cards slipping out of a leather wallet? When it was new there was enough friction to keep them in but with some wear and dust the cards can slip out. What can I do to add friction so they stick/grip in their pockets?" ]

[ "Motorcyclists use leather conditioner to make their leather seats a bit more \"sticky\". Love the username.", "I have always just thrown a business card behind my cr", "Cell phone screen protectors add a lot of friction to the front glass of phones. Buy some cheap style for a phone no longer in production, and cut wide strips to add to the front of your cr" ]

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[ "In business or interpersonal situations, how do you reconcile \"be yourself\" with \"know your audience and adapt to them\"? Uni student here. I am about to graduate and am in the process of doing interviews. As you know, this is a stressful process in which I see several dozens of employers. I always hear conflicting advice about how to conduct myself during the networking and interview process. \"Be yourself\", \"play the game\", \"fake it till you make it\", \"know who you are dealing with and adapt\". How to navigate through this? Thanks :). \n\n", "In business or interpersonal situations, how do you reconcile \"be yourself\" with \"know your audience and adapt to them\"? Uni student here. I am about to graduate and am in the process of doing interviews. As you know, this is a stressful process in which I see several dozens of employers. I always hear conflicting advice about how to conduct myself during the networking and interview process. \"Be yourself\", \"play the game\", \"fake it till you make it\", \"know who you are dealing with and adapt\". How to navigate through this? Thanks :). \n\n" ]

[ "While I certainly wouldn't have been able to attain at your age, but I've found that I can only truly be myself when I'm genuinely relaxed. The only way I've been able to achieve this state is through regular m", "The most important one, if you are actually planning to work at that job, especially as a career- is be yourself.\n\nYes, you can embellish a *little bit* and make some of your achievements seem extra impressive, because that will come off as charisma and confidence, respectively. But you absolutely should not lie about anything that can be fact checked or that will prove itself a lie given enough time, because that person is potentially going to be your boss for the foreseeable future.\n\nIf you are feeling anxious or overwhelmed when you sit down, you can let them know! Honestly, when I hire new employees, I always appreciate it when they straight up tell me they are nervous, or when they say something like \"Oh wow, I've never been asked that question before! I'd like to answer that properly, could we come back to that in a minute?\". Things like that show that you're not just some cookie cutter robot who pre-planned a whole speech and what not. It shows you have a personality, that you can admit to any shortcomings you face, but that you always get the job done. Basically, you look honest and human, and employers like and respect that.\n\n***Oh***, by the way- If any of them ask you the infamous: \"What is your biggest weakness?\" question, please do not call yourself a perfectionist or that you're always early to work, or things like that. If you say something like that, then you'd better be prepared for them to hold you to that for as long as you work for them. (That goes for every answer you give to them as well). I'm not you, so I can't tell you what to say, but be honest, and follow it up with how you have and are working on it, and that it's unlikely to affect your job performance.\n\nAnyway, those a few tips from someone who was in your position several years ago, and now sits on the other side of the table. Let me know if I was helpful! :)" ]

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[ "How do I ask a concert/festival ticket reseller for proof that the ticket is legit? The only way I know is sending a picture/screenshot of the ticket but that can obviously be fake. And of course they wouldn’t send me too much info that could lead to someone stealing the ticket.\n\nHow do I get legit proof (before buying it) in a way that works for both of us?", "How do I ask a concert/festival ticket reseller for proof that the ticket is legit? The only way I know is sending a picture/screenshot of the ticket but that can obviously be fake. And of course they wouldn’t send me too much info that could lead to someone stealing the ticket.\n\nHow do I get legit proof (before buying it) in a way that works for both of us?", "How do I ask a concert/festival ticket reseller for proof that the ticket is legit? The only way I know is sending a picture/screenshot of the ticket but that can obviously be fake. And of course they wouldn’t send me too much info that could lead to someone stealing the ticket.\n\nHow do I get legit proof (before buying it) in a way that works for both of us?" ]

[ "If there’s a code on the ticket (like a barcode/numerical/alphanumeric, etc) specific to that ticket, you can try calling the venue box office to make sure it’s legit and has not yet been scanned/validated. Otherwise using apps like Ticketmaster or Stubhub would be like “verified authorized resellers” and less of a risk than someone random off Craigslist or something. Really situationally dependent.", "Why do you have to buy it from a reseller? Sold out? If so, contact the venue and ask for advice. Ask if they might release more tickets later. Ask if there's a chance of grabbing a ticket at the door close to showtime. See if they have any hot tips.\n\nIf it's not sold out, go to the venue website and look up tickets from there. I can't tell you how many times my friends have paid more than twice the price of a ticket because they google the venue and the artist and pick the first link, which is usually a reseller. \n\nThere's no guaranteed way to get a real ticket from a reseller. Some are reputable, some aren't and there are so many different ticketing systems, no one method applies.", "Personally, I would ask for a picture of the email confirmation that they would've received when they purchased the tickets. I would also only buy with PayPal Goods and Services or cash just in case." ]

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[ "How to finish all the books I've only gotten 1/3 through and then never touched again? I can't for the life of me finish a book. I probably have a bit of an attention/focusing problem. I get distracted pretty easily especially when reading.\n\nI have dozens of books and most of them I've read maybe half of then never touched them again.", "How to finish all the books I've only gotten 1/3 through and then never touched again? I can't for the life of me finish a book. I probably have a bit of an attention/focusing problem. I get distracted pretty easily especially when reading.\n\nI have dozens of books and most of them I've read maybe half of then never touched them again.", "How to finish all the books I've only gotten 1/3 through and then never touched again? I can't for the life of me finish a book. I probably have a bit of an attention/focusing problem. I get distracted pretty easily especially when reading.\n\nI have dozens of books and most of them I've read maybe half of then never touched them again.", "How to finish all the books I've only gotten 1/3 through and then never touched again? I can't for the life of me finish a book. I probably have a bit of an attention/focusing problem. I get distracted pretty easily especially when reading.\n\nI have dozens of books and most of them I've read maybe half of then never touched them again.", "How to finish all the books I've only gotten 1/3 through and then never touched again? I can't for the life of me finish a book. I probably have a bit of an attention/focusing problem. I get distracted pretty easily especially when reading.\n\nI have dozens of books and most of them I've read maybe half of then never touched them again.", "How to finish all the books I've only gotten 1/3 through and then never touched again? I can't for the life of me finish a book. I probably have a bit of an attention/focusing problem. I get distracted pretty easily especially when reading.\n\nI have dozens of books and most of them I've read maybe half of then never touched them again.", "How to finish all the books I've only gotten 1/3 through and then never touched again? I can't for the life of me finish a book. I probably have a bit of an attention/focusing problem. I get distracted pretty easily especially when reading.\n\nI have dozens of books and most of them I've read maybe half of then never touched them again." ]

[ "Why do you want to finish books that you don't enjoy reading? What is your purpose in reading the books? \n\nIf you are reading to get information, the strategies are different from when you are reading for pleasure. Knowing what you are trying to accomplish will help us offer better tips.", "Tear out the last 2/3rds of the books. Congratulations, now you've read the abridged version completely to the last page.", "Perhaps the books just aren't engaging you...are they subjects you're really interested in? Assuming they are, you might want to try audiobooks and do something mindless to keep your hands busy while you listen, it may help you focus. Or try reading for just 10-15 minutes at a time and do it twice a day. Knowing that you won't be doing it for a prolonged period of time may help keep your attention.", "Just read. Not to be trite but reading, like anything, takes practice and sustained effort because it's mental work. I'm a lawyer and even in my daily life I find the first half hour of any in-depth assignment, reading, or writing I'm so inefficient and distracted and make zero progress. But once I force myself to concentrate the easier it gets and the more I speed up, and eventually in the 2nd and 3rd hour of work I do 10x the amount I did in the 1st hour. It takes sustained concentration, which is hard (so don't feel bad!). It will take practice.", "I do this a lot. Here's how I deal with it: when I start a new book I give it 10% to grab me. So like, I'll give a 400 page book 40 pages. If I'm not into it by then, I don't finish it, and don't feel bad about it. \n\nSometimes I start multiple books though and have every intention of finishing them, but I just have so many it's tough to juggle them all. I just alternate through them 20 pages at a time, and if I get 80% of the way into the book I just go ahead and finish it. \n\nSeems to work for me, but I never have fewer than 4-6 books I'm reading simultaneously. ", "There are too many great books, fully capable of making you wish they'd never ended, to be bothered about those that fail to do so.", "Personally this is a struggle of mine with books, video games, articles online even. I believe you should set a couple realistic goals to break up the rest into manageable bits. If a book is 400 pages and you only read 80 then set a goal to get over 150, then 250, then raise hell and finish it. These goals don't need to be achieved in one sitting, but within a week's period to keep you focused.\n\nTo everyone saying he/she doesn't need to finish a book he's not engaged in must understand that certain tasks in life require commitment, not necessarily enjoyment. Once he/she finishes a novel or two he/she will find it a more manageable task in the future.\n\n" ]

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[ "How to survive rooming with my best friend I am a girl, roommate is a girl. Roommate is also best friend. Best friend is demanding and uncompromising, which was endearing until I lived with her. I am locked into this for 11 more months, help? Leaving isn't an option. ", "How to survive rooming with my best friend I am a girl, roommate is a girl. Roommate is also best friend. Best friend is demanding and uncompromising, which was endearing until I lived with her. I am locked into this for 11 more months, help? Leaving isn't an option. " ]

[ "Set clear boundaries you both agree on and stick to them. Things like \"we won't eat each other's food without permission\" and \"if you use my dvd, please put it back in the case\", etc. Also be very clear about how bills, rent, deposits etc. are going to be split and how they will be paid. Respect each others privacy and try to reach a compromise in disagreements.\n\nI came to blows with my best friend and didn't talk to him for years because we both didn't do these simple things.", "Accept the fact that in 12 months you won't be friends anymore.\n\nThe best way to lose a friend is to move in together." ]

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[ "How does one learn to be less stressed? Hello Reddit! This is my first post in this subreddit and English is not my first language. I hope I don't make any mistakes here. \n\nWell, I had to admit that I'm stressed out by many things. I'm working in a very exhausting job right now (I represent my own position and two leading positions for 14 weeks now and there seems to be no end to this since the other persons won't come back soon due to diseases). My relationship ended after 7 years in April 2018 (Highschool sweethearts). Besides working a fulltime job I still finished my masters degree (Dezember 2018). I now have a new boyfriend of 5 months and met so many new people like family, friends and so on and I really enjoy being with him. \n\nBut I'm freaking exhausted. Sometimes I panic before meeting people. I am always tired. I got sick a few times. I have close to 0 time to myself. When I panic I feel guilty for stressing and cry a lot and then I feel even more like I'm a burden for crying. My boyfriend is just great, he supports me and loves me. After some minutes I'm back to normal and life is great again. But I don't recognize myself thinking about the way I feel and act during these attacks. That's not really me. \nMy mum and grandpa retired early because of burnout and I don't want this for myself or the great people that surround me. \n\nI know I have to change things. Maybe I'll start seeing a therapist. Definitly I'll try harder to say \"no\" to all the things that fill my schedule. But I think a big part of this is that I think too much and care too much about all the things I feel that need to be done. \nA friend of mine said he just doesn't give so many fucks about everything. He seems so down to earth and relaxed and I want to learn this. \n\nSo here is my question: How does one learn to give less fucks and be less stressed?", "How does one learn to be less stressed? Hello Reddit! This is my first post in this subreddit and English is not my first language. I hope I don't make any mistakes here. \n\nWell, I had to admit that I'm stressed out by many things. I'm working in a very exhausting job right now (I represent my own position and two leading positions for 14 weeks now and there seems to be no end to this since the other persons won't come back soon due to diseases). My relationship ended after 7 years in April 2018 (Highschool sweethearts). Besides working a fulltime job I still finished my masters degree (Dezember 2018). I now have a new boyfriend of 5 months and met so many new people like family, friends and so on and I really enjoy being with him. \n\nBut I'm freaking exhausted. Sometimes I panic before meeting people. I am always tired. I got sick a few times. I have close to 0 time to myself. When I panic I feel guilty for stressing and cry a lot and then I feel even more like I'm a burden for crying. My boyfriend is just great, he supports me and loves me. After some minutes I'm back to normal and life is great again. But I don't recognize myself thinking about the way I feel and act during these attacks. That's not really me. \nMy mum and grandpa retired early because of burnout and I don't want this for myself or the great people that surround me. \n\nI know I have to change things. Maybe I'll start seeing a therapist. Definitly I'll try harder to say \"no\" to all the things that fill my schedule. But I think a big part of this is that I think too much and care too much about all the things I feel that need to be done. \nA friend of mine said he just doesn't give so many fucks about everything. He seems so down to earth and relaxed and I want to learn this. \n\nSo here is my question: How does one learn to give less fucks and be less stressed?", "How does one learn to be less stressed? Hello Reddit! This is my first post in this subreddit and English is not my first language. I hope I don't make any mistakes here. \n\nWell, I had to admit that I'm stressed out by many things. I'm working in a very exhausting job right now (I represent my own position and two leading positions for 14 weeks now and there seems to be no end to this since the other persons won't come back soon due to diseases). My relationship ended after 7 years in April 2018 (Highschool sweethearts). Besides working a fulltime job I still finished my masters degree (Dezember 2018). I now have a new boyfriend of 5 months and met so many new people like family, friends and so on and I really enjoy being with him. \n\nBut I'm freaking exhausted. Sometimes I panic before meeting people. I am always tired. I got sick a few times. I have close to 0 time to myself. When I panic I feel guilty for stressing and cry a lot and then I feel even more like I'm a burden for crying. My boyfriend is just great, he supports me and loves me. After some minutes I'm back to normal and life is great again. But I don't recognize myself thinking about the way I feel and act during these attacks. That's not really me. \nMy mum and grandpa retired early because of burnout and I don't want this for myself or the great people that surround me. \n\nI know I have to change things. Maybe I'll start seeing a therapist. Definitly I'll try harder to say \"no\" to all the things that fill my schedule. But I think a big part of this is that I think too much and care too much about all the things I feel that need to be done. \nA friend of mine said he just doesn't give so many fucks about everything. He seems so down to earth and relaxed and I want to learn this. \n\nSo here is my question: How does one learn to give less fucks and be less stressed?", "How does one learn to be less stressed? Hello Reddit! This is my first post in this subreddit and English is not my first language. I hope I don't make any mistakes here. \n\nWell, I had to admit that I'm stressed out by many things. I'm working in a very exhausting job right now (I represent my own position and two leading positions for 14 weeks now and there seems to be no end to this since the other persons won't come back soon due to diseases). My relationship ended after 7 years in April 2018 (Highschool sweethearts). Besides working a fulltime job I still finished my masters degree (Dezember 2018). I now have a new boyfriend of 5 months and met so many new people like family, friends and so on and I really enjoy being with him. \n\nBut I'm freaking exhausted. Sometimes I panic before meeting people. I am always tired. I got sick a few times. I have close to 0 time to myself. When I panic I feel guilty for stressing and cry a lot and then I feel even more like I'm a burden for crying. My boyfriend is just great, he supports me and loves me. After some minutes I'm back to normal and life is great again. But I don't recognize myself thinking about the way I feel and act during these attacks. That's not really me. \nMy mum and grandpa retired early because of burnout and I don't want this for myself or the great people that surround me. \n\nI know I have to change things. Maybe I'll start seeing a therapist. Definitly I'll try harder to say \"no\" to all the things that fill my schedule. But I think a big part of this is that I think too much and care too much about all the things I feel that need to be done. \nA friend of mine said he just doesn't give so many fucks about everything. He seems so down to earth and relaxed and I want to learn this. \n\nSo here is my question: How does one learn to give less fucks and be less stressed?", "How does one learn to be less stressed? Hello Reddit! This is my first post in this subreddit and English is not my first language. I hope I don't make any mistakes here. \n\nWell, I had to admit that I'm stressed out by many things. I'm working in a very exhausting job right now (I represent my own position and two leading positions for 14 weeks now and there seems to be no end to this since the other persons won't come back soon due to diseases). My relationship ended after 7 years in April 2018 (Highschool sweethearts). Besides working a fulltime job I still finished my masters degree (Dezember 2018). I now have a new boyfriend of 5 months and met so many new people like family, friends and so on and I really enjoy being with him. \n\nBut I'm freaking exhausted. Sometimes I panic before meeting people. I am always tired. I got sick a few times. I have close to 0 time to myself. When I panic I feel guilty for stressing and cry a lot and then I feel even more like I'm a burden for crying. My boyfriend is just great, he supports me and loves me. After some minutes I'm back to normal and life is great again. But I don't recognize myself thinking about the way I feel and act during these attacks. That's not really me. \nMy mum and grandpa retired early because of burnout and I don't want this for myself or the great people that surround me. \n\nI know I have to change things. Maybe I'll start seeing a therapist. Definitly I'll try harder to say \"no\" to all the things that fill my schedule. But I think a big part of this is that I think too much and care too much about all the things I feel that need to be done. \nA friend of mine said he just doesn't give so many fucks about everything. He seems so down to earth and relaxed and I want to learn this. \n\nSo here is my question: How does one learn to give less fucks and be less stressed?" ]

[ "Unfortunately there aren't any mental health shortcuts. Therapy is basically guided m", "Smoke lots of weed.\n\nI'm only half joking. Ultimately, discipline yourself a little more. Have a routine that you stick to, but don't plan out every single moment of every day. When things start feeling a little heavy, the routine will provide a natural bit of stability and comfort.\n\nMake sure you are enjoying something that doesn't stress you more. Have your method of wind down (weed) and self soothing. \n\nIf you can't reduce your stress in the day, make sure you have a way to do it at night.", "Definitely see a therapist! You might have to shop around to find one that you connect with, but it will help you so much. I was on the verge of a nervous breakdown when I finally decided to try therapy and even after the very first session I felt lighter. Seriously, EVERYONE should be in therapy!! That is hands down the best thing you can do for yourself. \n\nAlso, exercise is incredibly important, preferably outdoors. Running is great but even a daily walk in the park will do wonders. You will get a dose of vitamin D, which most of us are deficient in. It will also give you time to switch off from everything, which is essential. If you have access to nature, like a forest or a beach etc, spend time in it. Look into “forest bathing”. It’s a real thing and incredibly beneficial! Daily excercise will also help you sleep better. You need to be physically tired as well as mentally tired at the end of your day in order to get the amount and (more importantly) quality of sleep that you need.\n\nWishing you good physical and mental health!", "One way to avoid thinking about everything constantly is to \"park it\" somewhere. For example Saying: \"i Will do this saturday and not think about it until then\" Will make it so you don't force yourself to think about it. You Will just say to youraelf: \"im doing that saturday and not today so i won't think about it today.\"\n\n i know first hand that Things like this Are not as easy as some May think but Its All about finding the methods that work for you. This works for me and I Hope it Will for you or anyone else Who reads this.", "I stopped reading, but my general advice is to focus on what you can control. If you don’t like it, change it. If you cannot change it, then change your attitude and behavior.\n\nIt’s okay to get upset or stressed, but you cannot keep dwelling on it. Like a bad golf shot, it’s okay to be upset until your next shot. But once it’s time to swing again, forget your last shot and focus on the present and moving forward." ]

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[ "when picking where to live in the city, what do I want to be walkable near me? I have a car (groceries, movie theater), I'm not a *foodie* and 22 male so my first thoughts are:\n\n* Job\n* Bars\n* Gym", "when picking where to live in the city, what do I want to be walkable near me? I have a car (groceries, movie theater), I'm not a *foodie* and 22 male so my first thoughts are:\n\n* Job\n* Bars\n* Gym", "when picking where to live in the city, what do I want to be walkable near me? I have a car (groceries, movie theater), I'm not a *foodie* and 22 male so my first thoughts are:\n\n* Job\n* Bars\n* Gym" ]

[ "You wanna be walkable to just about anything you'll absolutely need just in case anything happens to the car.", "Pharmacy, possibly even a clinic. If you are feeling lousy and need medication, you may not feel up to driving.", "1. Gas station. In the event that your tank is empty or you're under the influence and need some snacks, it's always a good idea to be in walking distance of a station. \n\n2. If you drink a lot, then make sure your bar is in walking distance. My friend lives next to one so he never risks driving while intoxicated. \n\n3. Grocery store. in some cities, finding a parking spot at a grocery store can prove to be a task. \n\n4. Some kind of walk-in/emergency clinic. You can't always predict an accident, and when something does happen it's good to have one close by. \n\n5. Coffee shop/fast food places. Just because youre not much of an out of house eater doesn't mean you should disregard them. \n\nThose are my top 5 based on my own personal opinion. It's good to have other places too, mainly because just walking around in the city is nice when you need a break from a hard time and everything is so close by. Other reasons are simply just because traffic can be nefarious in cities, and in situations where time is an issue walking there sometimes can get you there faster. " ]

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[ "How to improve your chances of getting a short term bank loan. Considered that you have a full time permanent position, but need money to last the rest of the month, what's the best way of getting approved?", "How to improve your chances of getting a short term bank loan. Considered that you have a full time permanent position, but need money to last the rest of the month, what's the best way of getting approved?" ]

[ "Don't. You will be paying interest through the nose. Not financially sound decision. Instead Google how to live within your means or you will be in trouble no matter how much you make. Get more education and a better job for the long term. Work on having good cr", "Use a cr" ]

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[ "How to stop deer from eating our garden plants and flowers? http://community.havahart.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/Deerinshrubs.jpg obligatory deer pic.\n\nI don't like using cow blood because it smells so bad and needs reapplying, I wish I could find a permanent solution!", "How to stop deer from eating our garden plants and flowers? http://community.havahart.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/Deerinshrubs.jpg obligatory deer pic.\n\nI don't like using cow blood because it smells so bad and needs reapplying, I wish I could find a permanent solution!", "How to stop deer from eating our garden plants and flowers? http://community.havahart.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/Deerinshrubs.jpg obligatory deer pic.\n\nI don't like using cow blood because it smells so bad and needs reapplying, I wish I could find a permanent solution!", "How to stop deer from eating our garden plants and flowers? http://community.havahart.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/Deerinshrubs.jpg obligatory deer pic.\n\nI don't like using cow blood because it smells so bad and needs reapplying, I wish I could find a permanent solution!", "How to stop deer from eating our garden plants and flowers? http://community.havahart.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/Deerinshrubs.jpg obligatory deer pic.\n\nI don't like using cow blood because it smells so bad and needs reapplying, I wish I could find a permanent solution!", "How to stop deer from eating our garden plants and flowers? http://community.havahart.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/Deerinshrubs.jpg obligatory deer pic.\n\nI don't like using cow blood because it smells so bad and needs reapplying, I wish I could find a permanent solution!", "How to stop deer from eating our garden plants and flowers? http://community.havahart.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/Deerinshrubs.jpg obligatory deer pic.\n\nI don't like using cow blood because it smells so bad and needs reapplying, I wish I could find a permanent solution!", "How to stop deer from eating our garden plants and flowers? http://community.havahart.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/Deerinshrubs.jpg obligatory deer pic.\n\nI don't like using cow blood because it smells so bad and needs reapplying, I wish I could find a permanent solution!" ]

[ "piss around your garden, it works. I live in the woods where deer go through the woods everyday but, they don't dare come past the urine fence as my wife calls it.\n", "The only guaranteed way is a very tall fence in my opinion but I realize that's not the solution you're looking for.\n\nMy grandfather hangs pieces of bar soap on string from a few branches. I can't attest to how well this works but he's been doing it so long it has to have shown some effectiveness.", "Sprinkling cayanne pepper on your plants will prevent them from being eaten by anything, including deer. It's also a pretty inexpensive solution. ", "Sprinkle some crushed red pepper on the plants and flowers? I know it works with rabbits, my mom does it and I think I've seen it here on lpt before.", "Go to a sporting goods store that supplies hunting equipment and buy blood or spore pellets of wild predators from your local area. Spread it liberally around your garden and you'll never see a deer again. You'll have to do it 3 or 4 times a year.", "Venison burgers are tasty too bad you can't hunt but besides the soap try an electric fence around the area, deer can clear them but maybe it won't want to after a shock.", "The best solution I've found is to go and urinate/pour urine around the edges of your garden or on the flowers if it's nothing you're eating. Works for me. Just takes under a week of doing so regularly and your deer will be munching on your neighbor's flowers.", "Depending on how you want to get rid of them, you could also ask if there are any hunters from people that you know or family etc. If you have a farm or large property, if you tell the hunters that they can hunt on your property during hunting season, they will be very appreciative and you will probably get a cut of the meat as well as fewer deer. \nIf you're against hunting or only have a small property near a city that may not be an option, so morgueanna's suggestion is probably the best, I've seen it work before." ]

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[ "Essential things for your room / ways to decorate it any suggestions ranging from hanging a mirror, buying incense, nailing posters, a good music system, a whiteboard to organise work, cool gadgets or generally anything you would like to share that would make your room a better, more home-like and efficient place to live in!", "Essential things for your room / ways to decorate it any suggestions ranging from hanging a mirror, buying incense, nailing posters, a good music system, a whiteboard to organise work, cool gadgets or generally anything you would like to share that would make your room a better, more home-like and efficient place to live in!" ]

[ "I’m sorry but if you don’t steal it, it’s not considered appropriate dorm decorations. Start with traffic cones and Wendy’s drive thru signs.", "Some tips we recommend to make your bedroom more home-y\n\n* Choose a calming color scheme\n* Add an accent wall (whether it be a pop of color, art, mirrors, posters, etc.) \n* Add plants, throw pillows and blankets, and any decor you like to make the space cozy \n* Opt for dimmer lighting and invest in blackout curtains \n* Keep clutter under control" ]

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[ "Items to always keep in the car I'm buying my first car, so I wanted to know if there are some essential items I should always keep in my trunk glove compartment", "Items to always keep in the car I'm buying my first car, so I wanted to know if there are some essential items I should always keep in my trunk glove compartment", "Items to always keep in the car I'm buying my first car, so I wanted to know if there are some essential items I should always keep in my trunk glove compartment", "Items to always keep in the car I'm buying my first car, so I wanted to know if there are some essential items I should always keep in my trunk glove compartment", "Items to always keep in the car I'm buying my first car, so I wanted to know if there are some essential items I should always keep in my trunk glove compartment" ]

[ "I always keep the following in my trunk:\n\n- A complete change of clothes. \n\n- A towel.\n\n- An extra set of shoes.\n\n- If you have to wear a uniform to work, always keep a spare one in your trunk.\n\n- 1 or 2 Litres of water. \n\n- I keep a cup of noodles or something similar in my trunk as well.\n\n- I keep a handheld Amateur Radio (\"HAM Radio\") in my trunk, as I am a licensed operator. \n\n- A small set of basic automotive and other tools. \n\n- A flashlight and charger for your phone. \n\n- A first aid kit.\n\n- A knife, if you don't already carry one with you. \n\n[", "I keep:\nJumper cables\nAn air pump\nA full change of clothes \nA raincoat + umbrella\nA flashlight\nAnd I feel like I need to add a portable charger for my phone and a knife ", "Hide some cash - about the cost of a tank of fuel somewhere in the car. \n\nIf you forget your wallet/purse or have a debit/cr", "http://m.canadiantire.ca/en/pdp/commuter-auto-safety-kit-0091609p.html\n\n\nThat or something similar covers most your roadside needs \n\nAnd a car charger for your phone !", "If you're just looking for basic and helpful things, you'll need :\n\n1. A shovel/cat litter for digging your car out of snow etc. And giving the wheels some needed traction. \n\n2. Road side assistance kit. This would include things like tools for quick repairs and tire changes. Also flares just in case you happen to be on a dark road. \n\n3. Gallon jugs of water, first aid kit, Ready to Eat Meals *(or anything edible with a long shelf life)*, matches, micro fiber towels, and a thermal blanket or two. Because things happen and they honestly don't take up much space. \n\n4. A cell phone and charger. Any phone will do, it doesn't even need an active carrier, so an old phone works great for this! This phone would be for making emergency calls to 911." ]

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[ "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)", "How to tolerate someone you don't like Hi Reddit.\n\nI don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world. Because of this fact I often appear hostile and curt towards him. Subsequently, we fight often. \n\nI'm asking reddit for help with how to avoid this type of conflict, or focus my zen.\n\nAny and all advice is welcome\n\nThanks :)" ]

[ "Empathy can sometimes help. \n\nEven if they're your father, that person's origins and exposures are markedly different from your own, so their entire frame of reference is very different from yours. \n\nThink of all the things you have access that they didn't in their younger years, not least of which is the internet. They could have been any of raised in a strict family without a lot of money, required to work hard at a much younger age without as much leisure time, not travelled well or at all, influenced by a strict church or an \"us against them\" mentality from growing up in a tough neighborhood, and so on. \n\nThere's quite possibly a big number of very influential factors that put them in a different mental state than you. Understanding WHY there are differences often grants a little extra patience and helps deal with those differences. \n\nIt equips you to steer the conversation, and get you to thinking \n\n* \"Dad, I think I get why you feel that way, but I don't and it'll probably make us squabble if we continue. So I'm going to nod and change the subject to something safer or just be silent and not respond\" \n\ninstead of some magnitude of \n\n* \"Look, I'm right and you're not, and I'm more well-informed and more moral about this than you are, so I need to educate you\". \n\nEven if that last one is entirely true, that's a fight right there.", "I try to see that kind of thing as a self-improvement challenge. If I have a problem with someone, I want to figure out *why*. What exactly is it about this person that bothers me, and why does it bother me? Do I know anyone else with that same trait but whom I don't find (as) annoying? If so, why? Is this a trait I can find in myself, and if so, does it bother me that I have it? What are the differences and similarities between this aspect of me and the same aspect of the other person? Or if I can *not* find the same trait in myself, is it because I genuinely don't have it or am I blind to it? Did I have it before and get rid of it? Am I afraid of having it or getting it?\n\nAnd so on.\n\nYou will learn a lot about both yourself and the other person in this way, and in the meantime it should work as a reframing device which could help you tolerate them.", "How about you guys stop talking about the world and instead try to find something in common. \n\nMore importantly, whatever he thinks about the world is his opinion. Just think of him as some random person you don't know. Are you going to let their world views define who you are and how you feel? No. So just let it go", "Some people no matter what you will not find common ground with. Don't engage him, treat him like a co-worker. Talk about things you need to talk about, don't be unpleasant but you don't have to go out of your way to connect either. ", "There is a guy in my office who came on way too strong and basically \"douchey\" but over time we have learned to tolerate him and even enjoy his company because we focused on the things we have in common. Not saying this is a sure-fire solution, but you have to figure out what makes someone tick and leverage the things you both enjoy in life to find some common ground. \n\nAlso be cognizant of self fulfilling prophesies. Perhaps you treat him in a a way that makes him respond in the way you ***expect*** him to respond, rather than the way you ***want*** him to respond. ", "I had some real relationship problems with my father when I was younger. Once I moved out and examined our relationship though, it really hit me how unfair I was to him. He had a really hard life and nearly killed himself on a regular basis over years of hard manual labor in order to give my siblings and I better options than he had. Instead of being grateful and loving him for that, I held a lot of anger towards him about certain situations. It turns out, I only knew one part of the story so I thought he was completely in the wrong. I actually didn't fully understand how wrong I was until fairly recently when during a rare moment, he opened up to me about why he deals with those things the way he does. Turns out, he doesn't handle things the best way when he's angry and he holds onto his anger when he should probably let it go, but he had legitimate cause for being upset in the first place. \n\nUltimately, I suggest that you do your very best to just let go of your anger and forgive him for his shortcomings. He's just a person and all people have faults. You probably know what topics to avoid to avoid a fight right? Then avoid them. You know that you disagree and fighting about it isn't going to change the way someone has thought for many years. What it does is strain your relationship and waste valuable time you could spend making good memories. You could lose him at any moment, so don't waste your time together. \n\nIt's really hard to own up to your part when it comes to being angry. So you're already doing well. I find it easier when I start getting upset to remind myself that I've forgiven him for past situations and then I switch the topic as quickly as I can. When all else fails, I remove myself from the situation and cool down. ", ">I don't get along with my father because we have many differing ideas about the world.\n\nAsk yourself this question:\n\n[Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?](http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/some-assembly-required/201407/would-you-rather-be-right-or-would-you-rather-be-happy)\n\nI used to have a big issue with this. I'm a smart guy who enjoyed the verbal back-and-forth and more than one personal relationship was adversely affected by my willingness to rhetorically throw-down at the drop of a hat. Along the way, I came to realize that me being \"right\" is not really a thing. You can choose not to engage on this level.\n\nGood luck. \n\n>[“You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche](http://tinybuddha.com/blog/the-freedom-of-not-needing-to-be-right/) ", "Talking in long stories and asking for full stories will help you appreciate/understand another person's way of thinking. \nLots of fights come from people trying to quote quick facts to push their point through (lawyer style). \nBe polite and ask for background information and when you make a point, explain it in depth like you would tell a story. \n", "\"Go along to get along.\" If you need to interact with the person it's the best strategy. Realize that your life will be better if you just accept the way they are instead of trying to change them. You will never change ideas that have been set in stone for a long time. \n\nFor people who don't matter to you, don't interact with them at all. It's ok not to like everyone. There are plenty of assholes in this world.", "well, let him have his opinion and skip the fight. people are different.\n\nMy grandma always liked to pick fights with my grandpa.\n\nIn his later years, he'd just say \"Wellllll, I won't argue with ya.\" and leave or change the subject or somethin. And often grab her butt as he left (which I wasn't sure how to feel about that - ergh).\n\nThat little sentence is a useful one.", "Understand their perspective a little. You don't necessarily have to have empathy for them all the time, but you do need to see where they are coming from. When things get heated, deep breaths. As you're talking about a family member, you may want to just try to treat them like a human instead of garbage. ", "This may not work as well since it's your father, but some advice that really helped me in the past is \"be big\". What that means is, think about how important that moment, or that conversation, or whatever is in the scheme of your whole life. You're not going to remember what it is he said in that moment to make you mad in five years, so why give it your energy now? Just try to step back and ask yourself how much it matters whether or not you engage with the him about that topic, and try to let it go.\n\nA way I sometimes comfort myself when hearing difficult things from a family member (my father in law is pretty racist and ignorant) is to just remember that no matter what it is he thinks, he doesn't have the power to change anything. So, really, does it matter what he thinks? Who is he hurting by thinking or saying these things? Most likely no one. Sometimes when I think about that it's easier to let it go.\n\nGood luck to you! Asking for help and attempting to fix the problem is the hardest step, if you keep at it, I am sure you w ill find a solution to your problem. ", "The biggest thing is understanding his beliefs and the factors that shape his beliefs. Also have more respect for him raising you or providing you an environment that allowed you to shape your views.\n\nFor example, maybe a father grew up in poverty and a chaotic home environment and worked really hard to have his kid in a good neighborhood, good school, stable home environment. That shaped who you are and your about the world. \n\nRespect his opinions and products of his interactions with his environment and be grateful for the environment you were raised in. ", "Pick your battles. Unless he says something you find absolutely egregious, just ignore it and let it slide. Find ways to subtly shift the conversation to topics which or generally more pleasant or where you have more in common.\n\nIf you do find yourself in a debate with him, try to take a more passive tone. Treat the conversation less like trying to argue against his beliefs and more like trying to understand why he thinks that way. Then when pointing out any factual inaccuracies he may have, he feels that it's less an attack on him and more you not understanding his reasoning.", "My dad and I see world VERY differently and debate a lot about morale issues and such. What I learned is not at any point to be heated up about stuff he says. You should note my dad is 65 and was born in Soviet Union, was part of communist party and probably the smartest person I know - he has 64 patents in engeeniring, is a chess grandmaster and has more diplomas than I ever will have, while I'm just a simple graphic designer.\n\nHowever we get along really well, and have lots of dicussions. Thr key is looking at the situation from his angle as well, and be open to change your opinion if proven wrong. While we all have our own morale outlooks at the world, doesnt mean they are 100% right. So when debating, and seeing the discussion might go south, turn it into a joke, releave the stress of the situation, while giving examples of real life, while continuing with the disscusion, that would be peachy. \n\nJust think about him as a man who raised you and probably a guy who has seen some shit in his life. It's your dad and he loves you more than you realise, and one day he will be gone. So instead of fighting about useless shit (that isn't important in the scope of our universe) with him, give your old man a hug and tell him you love him. \n\nJust my 2 cents.\n\n\nSorry for grammar mistakes - i'm on the phone, and english isn't my first language.", "I struggle with this kind of thing as a training clergyperson, as I can't treat people with hostility even when I'm really inclined to. One thing I'm learning is to always give the benefit of the doubt. You know how people tackle roadrage by choosing to assume that the prick who just cut them off is driving a woman in labour to the hospital? Apply that to all situations.\n\nIt's difficult, but it can do wonders for your patience and general attitude. ", "For me, it helps to remember that the traits I dislike in others are most often shared, by myself. Once I've identified them I start to notice myself exhibiting them. Then I learn how and why these behaviours can be generated. I then tend to stop exhibiting them, whilst also empathising with those who still do.\nI learned to do this from a Clint Eastwood line in High Plains Drifter:\n\"It's what people know about themselves inside that makes 'em afraid.\"", "Don't push the issue, disagree and leave it there.. I duno how you can expect to be \"zen\" if you're being hostile/a cunt towards him.", "you are not going to change his mind. He is not going to change your mind. You cannot win and you cannot have the last word.\n\nLet it go.\n\nYou will never be able to control other people. All you can control in life is how you react to them. You can't always choose the emotions you experience, but you can choose how you speak and behave.\n\nLearn several variations of this phrase: \"We'll have to agree to disagree on this \none.\"\n\n\"Let's leave it at that\" \n\nI wish Confucius were here to tease out the truth.\n\nThe world won't stop if we disagree. This is not that important in the grand scheme of things.\n\nWe are both peaceful people; let's give this up.\n\n[1. I am not so sure.](http://www.paulnoll.com/Books/Clear-English/debate-suggestions.html)\n2. Do you think so?\n3. Well, it depends.\n4. I'm not so certain.\n5. Well, I don't know.\n6. Well, I'm not so sure about that.\n7. Hmm, I'm not sure your idea is right.\n8. I'm inclined to disagree with that idea.\n9. No, I don't think so. \n\n\"Interesting––it seems we have different points of view. Do you mind if I explain where I'm coming from?\"\n\"Really? I've made different observations, probably because I had different experiences...\"\n\n", "To focus your zen, realize that we all see the world differently. It does not make our views any more right than those around use. It is often the experiences of the lives we lived that shape our views. \n\nApproach your father with curiosity and realize there is a reason that he has the ideas that he does. Don't write them off, but work to deeply understand them. This will either strengthen the views you have about the world or make you question the views you have. Either way, you will grow as a person and build a better connection with your father because of it. \n\nHow is that for zen? or was I trying to hard?", "Read this book, and try that way of communicating with him\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Marshall-Rosenberg/dp/1892005034/", "I have the same problem with my mother in law. I find that we will just exchange pleasantries and not talk at all or if there is anything that you do have in common, I circle back to that. We both love tequila, so we will talk about that, the minute she brings up something that may cause conflict, I circle back to tequila. (talking about it, not necessarily drinking.)", "How about not being a dick to the man who broke his back for decades to raise you, for the sake of irrelevant personal opinions?" ]

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[ "How do you stop spoofed spam calls? I get 2-4 calls per day starting at 6:30 am. (I mention that they are not allowed to call before 8am but they don't seem to care) \n\nI have decided to try getting their company information if I can so that I can report them. I am at my wit's end with these companies and I am hoping that someone has found a solution. Currently I block and report every call. But it is a new number everyday.", "How do you stop spoofed spam calls? I get 2-4 calls per day starting at 6:30 am. (I mention that they are not allowed to call before 8am but they don't seem to care) \n\nI have decided to try getting their company information if I can so that I can report them. I am at my wit's end with these companies and I am hoping that someone has found a solution. Currently I block and report every call. But it is a new number everyday.", "How do you stop spoofed spam calls? I get 2-4 calls per day starting at 6:30 am. (I mention that they are not allowed to call before 8am but they don't seem to care) \n\nI have decided to try getting their company information if I can so that I can report them. I am at my wit's end with these companies and I am hoping that someone has found a solution. Currently I block and report every call. But it is a new number everyday.", "How do you stop spoofed spam calls? I get 2-4 calls per day starting at 6:30 am. (I mention that they are not allowed to call before 8am but they don't seem to care) \n\nI have decided to try getting their company information if I can so that I can report them. I am at my wit's end with these companies and I am hoping that someone has found a solution. Currently I block and report every call. But it is a new number everyday.", "How do you stop spoofed spam calls? I get 2-4 calls per day starting at 6:30 am. (I mention that they are not allowed to call before 8am but they don't seem to care) \n\nI have decided to try getting their company information if I can so that I can report them. I am at my wit's end with these companies and I am hoping that someone has found a solution. Currently I block and report every call. But it is a new number everyday.", "How do you stop spoofed spam calls? I get 2-4 calls per day starting at 6:30 am. (I mention that they are not allowed to call before 8am but they don't seem to care) \n\nI have decided to try getting their company information if I can so that I can report them. I am at my wit's end with these companies and I am hoping that someone has found a solution. Currently I block and report every call. But it is a new number everyday.", "How do you stop spoofed spam calls? I get 2-4 calls per day starting at 6:30 am. (I mention that they are not allowed to call before 8am but they don't seem to care) \n\nI have decided to try getting their company information if I can so that I can report them. I am at my wit's end with these companies and I am hoping that someone has found a solution. Currently I block and report every call. But it is a new number everyday.", "How do you stop spoofed spam calls? I get 2-4 calls per day starting at 6:30 am. (I mention that they are not allowed to call before 8am but they don't seem to care) \n\nI have decided to try getting their company information if I can so that I can report them. I am at my wit's end with these companies and I am hoping that someone has found a solution. Currently I block and report every call. But it is a new number everyday.", "How do you stop spoofed spam calls? I get 2-4 calls per day starting at 6:30 am. (I mention that they are not allowed to call before 8am but they don't seem to care) \n\nI have decided to try getting their company information if I can so that I can report them. I am at my wit's end with these companies and I am hoping that someone has found a solution. Currently I block and report every call. But it is a new number everyday.", "How do you stop spoofed spam calls? I get 2-4 calls per day starting at 6:30 am. (I mention that they are not allowed to call before 8am but they don't seem to care) \n\nI have decided to try getting their company information if I can so that I can report them. I am at my wit's end with these companies and I am hoping that someone has found a solution. Currently I block and report every call. But it is a new number everyday.", "How do you stop spoofed spam calls? I get 2-4 calls per day starting at 6:30 am. (I mention that they are not allowed to call before 8am but they don't seem to care) \n\nI have decided to try getting their company information if I can so that I can report them. I am at my wit's end with these companies and I am hoping that someone has found a solution. Currently I block and report every call. But it is a new number everyday.", "How do you stop spoofed spam calls? I get 2-4 calls per day starting at 6:30 am. (I mention that they are not allowed to call before 8am but they don't seem to care) \n\nI have decided to try getting their company information if I can so that I can report them. I am at my wit's end with these companies and I am hoping that someone has found a solution. Currently I block and report every call. But it is a new number everyday." ]

[ "I read this recently, and it seems to have helped - when you suspect a spoofed number, answer the phone but remain silent. It screws up the computer, and it will delete your number as a working number. I have done this, and after a few seconds, I hear the call drop.\n\nIf it's a real call, after a couple of seconds of not hearing you say, \"Hello,\" the other person will start saying it thinking they just didn't hear you initially.", "What has worked for me is to fully engage them, burn their time and extract as much identifiable information about the company. Ask them to spell the name of the company, look it up online to confirm it exists, etc.. Most of the time they lie about the name, so if you are polite but insist on validating exactly who they are you become a HUGE liability for them. People that take the time to do that do so to prepare to file a complaint- you then get put on a separate \"Danger list\" and they eventually stop calling. I don't get any more calls.", "Starting about a year ago I started following the now-standard advice of not answering unless it is from a number in my Contacts list. Anyone who isn't in there who is legit will leave a voicemail.\n\nThat's worked out great, and the volume of spam calls has dropped from around ten a day to once every few days. Apparently robots are like clingy girlfriends, eventually they get the hint but it takes awhile.", "don't say anything. you'll mess up the computer that plays recorded media over your phone. after a few seconds the call should end. or you can hang up after about 10 seconds. \n\nif a person says hello, and then starts talking make sure to strongly interrupt them, asking what company are you calling from, and then why they are calling. you need to immediately take control of the conversation - do not let them run their script on you by answering their questions. do not even ackowledge your name if they ask who they are speaking with. \n\nthen, ASAP, make sure to strongly say you aren't interested and hang up on them. \n\nthey will enter notes on the call in their system and you'll be quite unlikely to get a call back from that company. \n\nif you have time, you can keep them on the call as long as possible, by asking them questions rather than the opposite, you need to go for over 3 minutes here. then make sure to change your attitude, be very abrupt, and end the call making it clear you have no interest and just wanted to waste their time.", "I read a LPT a while ago and it said to say you're under the age of 18. Worked for me as I don't get any anymore.\n\nDriving specific ones too- \"I don't even drive though...\".", "[nomorobo.com](http://nomorobo.com/) has a free service through some ISPs in order to block robo and spoof calls. I think there is a charge for cell phones though.", "Someone else all ready said it, but use the app hiya. It blocks all ready known spam numbers. It has tons of settings and caller id for brand new numbers you don't know. It's easy to block and unblock numbers as well. I use it and I get like maybe 1 or 2 spam calls a month. Mostly from local spam callers. National spam calls are nonexistent. It really is a great app.", "Partly depends on your phone. First of all make sure you are on the do not call list. That helps. Some. Then set your phone for blocking mode and set to always. Now set to allow calls from anyone in your contacts. \n\nNow your phone will only ring if it is someone in your contact list. If you want you can put a mention in your voice mail answer to leave a message and you will add them for next time. But I rarely want to answer for someone not in contacts anyway. ", "I use Mr. Number to block them, it usually does a good job blocking them before they ring if they're known scammers", "Try an app called HiYa (apple user so I know its on the app store). It pulls from an ever updating database of known spoofer and when you get a call from one it alerts you. You can then block numbers as needed. I've ben using it for a while and its been extremely helpful. ", "If it is a landline, it is more than likely that your provider offers Nomorobo.com for free.\n\nIt uses simultaneous ring to transfer annoyance calls away.\n\nIt also uses crowd sourced numbers to preform a block list. \n\nIt is also imperfect, and some calls get through, and you report the numbers, and they get blocked eventually. \n\nSometimes legit numbers get blocked, but that hasn't happened for years now. \n\nFor cellphone there should be a block caller option on your cellphone.", "I use Nomorerobo on both my mobile phones ($1.99ea) and my home phone (home service is free if you have compatible phone service). Still get 2 or 3 calls a month, but that's *way* better than the 5 or 6 a day I was getting last year before I got it.\n\nRobokiller also works well. I just didn't have any need for the extra features. And I got a little skeezed out as, at least when I was looking around for a call blocker, they're very spammy in their marketing." ]

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[ "How do i get better spatial awareness and control of my body, and stop sucking at sports, dancing etc.? Ever since i was a kid i've always been terrible at anything that required basic understanding of the tridimensional space around me and body coordination - throwing a ball in a basket, catching an object thrown at me, dribbling someone with a football, learning dance moves, and so on.\n\nIs there an activity - or a set of activities - that when practiced regularly will gradually give me better spatial awareness and body control? Beside of course taking basket/soccer/dancing courses i mean. I was looking, if possible, for something quick and accessible that i can practice everyday.", "How do i get better spatial awareness and control of my body, and stop sucking at sports, dancing etc.? Ever since i was a kid i've always been terrible at anything that required basic understanding of the tridimensional space around me and body coordination - throwing a ball in a basket, catching an object thrown at me, dribbling someone with a football, learning dance moves, and so on.\n\nIs there an activity - or a set of activities - that when practiced regularly will gradually give me better spatial awareness and body control? Beside of course taking basket/soccer/dancing courses i mean. I was looking, if possible, for something quick and accessible that i can practice everyday.", "How do i get better spatial awareness and control of my body, and stop sucking at sports, dancing etc.? Ever since i was a kid i've always been terrible at anything that required basic understanding of the tridimensional space around me and body coordination - throwing a ball in a basket, catching an object thrown at me, dribbling someone with a football, learning dance moves, and so on.\n\nIs there an activity - or a set of activities - that when practiced regularly will gradually give me better spatial awareness and body control? Beside of course taking basket/soccer/dancing courses i mean. I was looking, if possible, for something quick and accessible that i can practice everyday." ]

[ "Basic yoga, or therapeutic yoga, is a great way to learn the limits of your body and slowly expanding your abilities. Also allows greater spacial awareness and muscle development.", "High difficulty level...BUT I would suggest try to learn to juggle. Start with 2 balls and watch a YouTube how-to. As for the rest of your kinesthetic awareness... If you suck at balancing, try to balance on 1 leg. Then progress to on the ball of your foot like a ballerina. Things like kinesthetic awareness only get better with practice.", "+1 for Yoga or Tai-Chi\n\nAlso I've found HackySack does wonders for balance and coordination. You are going to be bad at it for a while but will get better gradually. " ]

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[ "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!", "Winterizing an old house (rental). Like the title says, I'm looking for tips on 'winterizing' aka our rental house. I don't know when it was built, but it's really pretty old. It has high ceilings; hardwood floors; and no central air/heat (window units for cool and gas for heat). We're trying to keep utility expenses down - so any tips on how to retain heat in the house/general tips for winterizing are greatly appreciated!" ]

[ "Shrink wrap your windows and any exterior doors that you wont be using for the winter. That will helps reduce cold drafts. ", "I had a a 1910 townhouse unit that I lived in once - hardwood floors, single pane windows, super old doors, and high ceilings. I also live in an area that has cold snowy winters.\n\n* I used thick, heavy drapes that went all the way to the floor on almost all windows. I also bought the window-wrap seals from Lowes and put it on any windows that had crack or gaps.\n\n* Rugs, runners - everywhere.\n\n* I also put [thermal drapes] (http://www.bedbathstore.com/hafogrtopcup.html) over the door. I just used a temporary 3M hanger to put a bar over the doors to hang the curtains. And door snakes.\n\n* If you are maintaining your own heating unit, CLEAN THE FILTERS. \n\n* check where the pipes come into your house. Fill the gaps with spray foam. unless your landlord is crazy, they're not going to care.\n\n* Keep yourself warm. It's an old house....wear socks and invest in decent house shoes that you'll actually wear.\n\n* make sure there aren't heating ducts that are loose and leaching heat into crawl spaces or attics.\n\n* REVERSE your ceiling fans to push heat down - as opposed to summer where they are used to pull heat up. \n\nIt was a really old house and the rent was cheap...I was more than willing to put some work into it.", "I'm a plumber currently in the process of winterizing a hundred or so houses on the NC coast. If its not being used for the winter, you'll want to shut off the water to the house. Open all faucets, flush your toilets, let all the water drain out of your pipes. Starting at the highest floor and working down, use an air compressor to blow all the water back through the pipes in all faucets. You may want to put a small amount of anti freeze in the toilet bowls and tanks", "I live in chicago. We get cold winters. And my apartment is a rental as well. Built in 1900s, very drafty with high ceilings, hardwood floors and original now very weather-beaten windows. \n\nHere's what we do. All supplies can be found at hardware store. \n\n* BEFORE you shrink wrap: Seal up the windows with this weather-caulk stuff you can get. Seal them up REAL good, you don't want any drafts whatsoever. If there is a draft, during high winds it will come in and rip off your shrink wrap.\n* Then shrink wrap them. I was apprehensive at first but a midwestern native showed me how to do it. It ends up being almost invisible if you do a good job and it really works. Use hair dryer or a heat gun to carefully shrink the plastic smooth. \n* Thick curtains everywhere.\n* Other things that help-if you have cold rooms that you don't use much, isolate the cold in those rooms. Keep the door shut and weather-seal under the door, for example, so the rest of the house stays warm. \n* Finally, BAKE STUFF! Our gas oven (and stoves) leaks so much heat into the house it's crazy. The more you cook in there, the warmer you are going to be :)", "I live in an old rental apartment, I generally start with weather stripping the windows and doors. It is relatively inexpensive and blocks a lot of drafts. I normally use window insulating kits and do every window in the house even if they are weather stripped. I open curtains on the side of the building that gets light in the day and then close them again at night. I generally only heat the rooms that I stay in, instead of heating an entire apartment fully which saves me a lot of money.My biggest tip ever though, buy a nice pair of slippers. When my feet are warm, my whole body feels warmer. ", "[These](http://solutions.3m.com/wps/portal/3M/en_US/WindowInsulatorKits/Products/?Wt.srch=1&Wt.mc_id=SE_filwik_3m-film-window) helped me with my rental. If your doors are leaky, try putting foam in the jams (if it won't interfere with proper closing) and a stuffed door sweep on the threshold.\n\nLay down throw rugs over the hardwood floors in areas where you'l walk in bare or stocking feet. It doesn't change the temperature, but it's less shocking to your feet.\n\nHigh ceilings are great for the summer because they let warm air rise up and away from you. Unfortunately, that poses a problem in the winter when you want the warm air down with you. If you can install ceiling fans and put them in reverse mode, they will help circulate warm air back down to the living area of the room.\n\nWhen you say no central heat, do you mean that it's not forced air or that each room is controlled individually. My guess is that you have radiator or baseboard radiant heat, since you say gas. One way to save energy, if you have to set the whole house to one temp, is to seal off the rooms that you use most and put space heaters in those rooms. That way, you're using electric heat in the most-used rooms and the other rooms can stay at 65 or so.\n\nHope this helps!", "Do you live in my old apartment?? I lived in an old house that all the same amenities... I had an inside/outside thermometer and my apartment would get down to 40 degrees at night in the winter. And hopefully your water heater doesn't go out like mine did! Eek!\n\nMy best tips are to close doors and try to keep the heat in one room, as it will take much longer to try to heat up two rooms instead of one.\n\nPut lots of blankets on the bed, with your down blanket on the bottom so it will reflect your heat faster, and TUCK the blankets under the mattress so minimal heat will escape. \n\nBuy a heated blanket before they get too expensive!! This will save you a lot of money and you'll stay warmer instead of trying to use your space heaters to heat up the air.\n\nGood luck!!!", "I found this tip online a few years ago and have been using it since. \n\nGo to a hardware store and get bubble wrap, the larger bubbles are better. Cut strips to the size of your windows, and simply apply by using a spray bottle with water to mist the window and press the \"bubble side\" to the window (not the flat side). \n\n\nApply to both sides of the window for better insulation. This will still let in sunlight, and removal and cleanup is easy since you didn't use tape or other adhesives", "Get some of the plastic you can put over the windows. This helps a lot in older houses especially, since the windows are usually pretty leaky. \nUse rugs and slippers to keep your feet warm. \nKeep rooms that you are not using closed, so you aren't heating unused space. \nWear layers! (read: don't walk around in shorts and a t-shirt in the middle of winter).\nI wish I knew more specific things you could do, but this should be a good start! If you're willing to put a little money into it, I know most of your heat escapes through the attic, so it might be worth looking into how well your attic is insulated. (although I have no idea how much that would cost to do). ", "Don't know if these tips were already said but I'll give you what I know helps.\n\n- Hang blankets over the tops of stairwells, helps keep all the warm air on lower floors from rising to the top floor leaving your bottom rooms cold and the top floor hot as hell.\n\n- hang blankets or plastic wrap over windows and glass doors over night. Helps reduce the rate of heat loss of warm air meeting the cold glass. \n\n- close vents on the top floor, let heat pump into the bottom floors and then rise up to the top. Note: it will take longer to heat the house up from a lower temp but it will allow for a much more even distribution of warm air in the house. (the blanket over stairs tactic may not work with this) \n\n- set all ceiling fans in reverse so that they pull cold air up and blow the hot air down the sides of the room keeping the walls warmer thus keeping them from drawing precious warmth from the air. Top floor fans should be running all the time to aid in keeping temperatures constant. (you also don't feel any draft from the fans since they blow up towards the ceiling instead of down at you.)\n\n- INSULATE ANY EXPOSED PIPES! This is a big one, you can buy foam pipe insulation at any home improvement store. Shouldn't be too expensive and will save your house from pipes freezing and bursting open (a very expensive accident). (Since it is a rental your landlord should cover the costs of the foam)\n\nThat is all I can think of at the moment, I hope it helps you in your winterizing adventures!", "how long do you plan to be there?\n\ncaulk and weatherstripping pays off in less than a year.\nif you thinking of more high dollar fixes like a new furnace or more attic insulation, talk to your landlord about a rent cr", "Windows you don't want/need to look out of can be very efficiently insulated wit bubble wrap and double-sided tape.", "To contain heat and keep out the cold, Joann's Fabrics sells plastic sheeting by the yard, or you can easily purchase plastic shower curtains, and hang them up over windows and doorways that leak. Much easier than trying to stick up shrink wrap which tears easily.\n\nIf your family spends most of their time in the living room, hang your plastic over the doorways, windows and any other entrances to that room. Buy a cheap space heater (Big 5 Sports sells one-room heaters for $20 or less) and put it in that room. The rest of the house will be cold, but in the past, we've just wrapped ourselves in extra blankets and toughed it out or some kids doubled up in a room with the space heater and had it automatically shut off after a few hours.", "The pipes to my kitchen sink run about thirty feet from the water heater and are totally bare, so I leave the faucet dripping when I know it's going to get cold enough to freeze them...haven't had it not work.\n\nPlastic over the windows is probably the single biggest way to keep it warm; I live in 1/3 of a 162-year-old farm house (it's split into 3 apartments), and my side has two big annoying bay window sections. If I leave those uncovered my gas bill skyrockets.\n\nHave your landlord (or have him have someone) check the ductwork under the house and make sure there are no holes anywhere. Cat I used to have figured out how to get in the house through the intake duct in the living room floor; that was great fun to figure out the first time it happened.", "Insulate your attic. Rolls of insulation aren't too expensive, and the attic is how you will loose most of your heat (heat goes up). You can insulate a 2000 sqft home for around 500-1000 dollars and you will see a huge benefit immediately. \n\n[Here's a good guide on how to do it](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MwqjiagUsRc).", "If you own a clothes dryer, get a [Dryer Heat Diverter](http://www.acehardware.com/product/index.jsp?productId=1273159&cagpspn=pla), or just tie a pantyhose to the end of the duct so keeps the heat and catches the lint. Send the warm air into the house instead of outside. However I've never had one, and I don't know if humidity would be an issue.", "Grab a couple of [these](http://www.amazon.com/Frost-FC1-Outdoor-Faucet-Cover/dp/B001FG3C1C/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1351612923&sr=8-1&keywords=water+spigot+insulation) for the outdoor water spigots. They will insulate them from freezing. Also, my dad is a big fan of putting a plywood box over his water well and hanging a light bulb in there with an extension cord and leaving it on at night. The incandescent bulb will generate enough heat to make sure nothing freezes.", "Good advice here already, but here's some other things I've used. Look for drafts around windows or doors using a burning stick of incense or hold your lips close to it (they're more sensitive to cold). \n\nThen take a tube of **clear** silicone and run a bead around the window frame. You can get the silicone in deeper and looking better if you then run a wetted finger over the top of it, pushing it in slightly. \n\nAlso adjust radiators/ vents in areas you don't use to put out less heat- this may not be possible if the controls are painted or rusted shut.", "Again with the window shrink wrap stuff. Thermal curtains my help too. You might be loosing heat through the roof though and if you're renting there's not much you can do about that (I think).\n\nSomething I've always done and it's super simple: wear more clothes. Seriously winterize yourself. For some reason people where I live don't get this (living in the southeast US). It's about 65F in my house and I'm wearing full clothes, socks, sweater, the works. I feel fine. I also have a space heater in whatever room I'm in. Something like [this](http://www.amazon.com/DeLonghi-MG7307CM-Safeheat-ComforTemp-Portable/dp/B002OHE20G/ref=sr_1_5?s=home-garden&ie=UTF8&qid=1351607861&sr=1-5&keywords=oil-filled+space+heaters). It's crazy warm and I rarely run my heat. \n\nGood luck!", "A lot of people are recommending the window shrink cling stuff, that sounds great and I've been looking into them myself, but I'm renting so I'm a bit worried about the paint.\n\nAnyone care to put my mind at ease?", "you can also buy a $.99 pack of foam sheets like this, http://www.goodcommonsense.net/fmgskts.html you can install behind outlet and lightswitch plates that insulate them (often they are a real cause of drafts and heat loss) ", "tin foil behind radiators, seal drafts, increase humidity a little, seal off unused rooms. When the winter gets really cold, your fuel bill will be sky high (sorry) so close off all rooms but one main room or bedroom, keep your heat low as low as possible and use an electric oil filled radiator to keep that one room warm. Much cheaper than heating the whole house. The kitchen will get warm from cooking and the bedroom, well that's what you have blankets and partners for! If you're a real wimp, keep a small electric space heater in the bathroom (well away from water hazards!) for short term heating when you're thinking on the toilet and baths.", "also, aside from the shrink wrap, letting in light durring the day is very important for warmth maybe even put dark materials down where the light shines so they will soak up even more energy, at night hang blankets over doors and windows to help as another buffer between the outside elements, and finally remember that the room with the thermostat in it is the one \"dictating\" the temperature so you can hang blankets over openings to isolate that room if you want so technically heat less of the house and save money ", "When I used to live in an similar rental house, I utilized a lot of the aforementioned tips, with one additional one--if you can, remove the window AC units for winter, and if they're semi-permanent, make sure to seal around them well and purchase a cover for the outer portion. Without attention to the AC units, cold air just POURED into our house. Curtains didn't help, plastic on the inside didn't help, but weatherstripping and a cover did wonders as we installed in in -15 degree, snowy weather. \n\nAnd as always, plan ahead. No such thing as too much prep, especially if you're expecting a particularly cold winter.", "This webpage has 19 projects to potentially conserve energy. There are also plenty of other related projects on the website and helpful links. Lots of really good information. Enjoy staying warm!\n\nhttp://www.builditsolar.com/Projects/Conservation/conservation.htm", "Take mylar thermal blankets (either kind will do, but the thicker kind insulate better) and some duct tape and tape them around any opening in the house, be it window, door or whatever. This and some space heaters should make a significant difference.\n\n(This is a long thread so this may have already been posted, and if this is the case, then my apologies.)", "Space blankets - metallized mylar - sold as outdoor emergency wraps are great as window curtains if you don't mind the translucent views.", "Seal windows with plastic as listed but also get rope caulk to help seal big window gaps before you plastic. They also make removable outdoor caulk you can use to help seal windows form the outside. \nIf you have basement windows you can purchase thick Styrofoam strips that you can trim to fit into those gaps to help seal it up further. \n!REPLACE YOUR FURNACE FILTER! Don't make it work harder.\nBlock off unused vents in rooms your not using often and close the door, if there is no door hang up a blanket instead. \nIf you think you'll be there for more than 1 winter look at a low cost programmable thermostat. \nIf you do have really high ceilings consider using a fan pointed up to help stir that air down to your level like a ceiling fan but with less wiring. You could look at a swag ceiling fan also that plugs into an outlet and is mounted with a chain and hooks.\nElectric Blankets/Mattress Heaters are awesome. My house thermostat is set at 55 when I got bed cause my bedroom is so toasty with my heated mattress pad.\n\n\nCook at homes, make soups, don't run the hood vent to help keep the heat in the house. When done using the oven leave the door cracked open so the heat escapes into your home and not the exterior wall/cabinets.\n\nGet slippers to stay warm from your cold floor. Also try to dress warmer inside, long sleeve shirts and keep blankets by all the chairs so you can cuddle up while watching TV/Online\n", "Pro tip - cant remember what it's called, but there is a plastic you put over single glassed widows that reduces heat loss by like 30%. It looks a little odd but in my old flat it stopped me seeing my breath in bed", "One thing that also helps when visiting relatives with bad insulation as well is an electric blanket. They make nice fleece ones that are machine washable now. http://m.target.com/p/biddeford-micro-plush-heated-blanket/-/A-13566501 is the ones we have i think, same rules apply as the space heaters, be careful. when I visit my grandmother in NJ we stay in the attic where it single pane windows, no curtains and one inch of cork on the walls as the only insulation. Electric blanket +another blanket to trap the heat + air mattress and we are toasty.", "Make sure de heat you have in the house soesn't escape too quickly. There is this aluminiumtype stuff you can by at your DIY store, but if you want to do the cheap solution you can also use thick cardboard wrapped in aluminium foil behind any heating source against a wall. Also make sure all the wood in which the windows rest are filled up and use curtains if they are single glass. \n\n(sorry for any spelling mistakes, English is not my first language)", "Insulation is going to be the key here; do you have photos of the place so we can see what your windows are like? ", "In my fraternity house, we go the cheap route. The shrink wrap method on inside windows works well, but we have another method.\n\nPurchase translucent plastic wrap (thicker than the transparent stuff), and thin lath boards. The inside and outside of the windows is done on the first floor, and double layered on upper floors. \n\nCut the plastic about three inches long on each side, and wrap it around the lath board. Then staple/nail/adhesive the board to the window frame. For second floor windows, the first layer goes inside the window frame, tight to the sliding panes. The second layer goes on the face of the window and is attached to the trim boards. \n\nThis method creates a still air pocket that acts as an insulator, and is much sturdier than the thin film you get in the kits. \n\nWe have radiator heat (100+ year old house) and turn off heat to rooms that are unused. Used rooms usually need extra heat, so we use ceiling fans with a electric radiator in the middle of the room (like these www.target.com/p/honeywell-oil-filled-radiator/-/A-10644656). ", "I've seen people tack up blankets and section off rooms or less frequented areas to keep heat in the more frequented areas. ", "I'm in the process of doing this as well. I'll be putting up plastic over some windows, but for a few of the main ones, I'm going to use temporary caulk to seal them shut for the winter (because otherwise, I have a feeling the little ones + kitty would mess with the plastic since they like looking out those ones). \n\nOur bedrooms are in the [mostly finished] basement and there's not heat at all down there, so hoping to get a infrared heater soon. In the meantime, we've been using lots of blankets + hot water bottles. ", "I live in the top floor of a 4-plex and while it is indoors, the front of the plex's door is rarely shut and our personal front door has a small gap going around 3 of the four sides of the door. We've got one of the under the door gap draft catchers, but it only does so much. Should it just come down to calling the landlord?", "I insulated old houses professionally for four years. One relatively easy, cheap tip is, besides many of the others mentioned here, is to air seal your attic with spray foam which is less than 10 dollars a can. This means, assuming there's no asbestos in your attic, you carefully seal cracks and around fixtures. Remember, just a one percent break in your thermal envelope can account for amazing amounts of energy loss. ", "I have large glass doors on my apartment, any way to insulate them while keeping one of them functional?", "I cut that foam board with the silver reflective stuff on one side for the window by the kitchen sink and a few other windows in non living rooms too helps allot. ", "How can you have natural gas for heating without having central heating? What other method is there..", "Here are some of my tips, based on much experience living in old rental houses in Minnesota, the coldest state in the lower 48. Besides winterizing the place, you also want to be comfortable with cooler temperatures. \nBesides shrink wrapping your windows, get some thermal insulated curtains and close them when it gets dark. Also, weatherstrip your doors. \nRugs and wearing wool socks or slippers are great for cold floor comfort. Wear warm comfy clothes, like sweatshirts and sweatpants. Cover yourself with a blanket when watching TV/sitting on the couch. Invest in a thick down or down alternative comforter for warmth without the weight at night, and wear flannel or fleece pj's. Warm drinks like hot cocoa and herbal tea are great to have around for when you need a little extra warmth too.", "Get a [thermal heat gun](http://www.amazon.com/HDE-Temperature-Infrared-Thermometer-Laser/dp/B002YE3FS4) and look for cold spots and drafts. Buy a shitload of caulk. I lived in a 150 year old two story brick house for 10 years and went from using 1275 gallons of propane down to 850. My electric co-op sent out a magazine every month with a page article about saving energy from [Doug Rye](http://www.dougrye.com/). If the plastic on the windows are bulging then there are huge leaks. Caulk around the glass. Inside and out. Do the outside now before it get too cold. If the plastic comes off the double sided tape, the plastic is doing no good. I ended up getting the 4 mil plastic on the roll and putting it up with duct tape. It was more expensive but it was worth it, and I stayed warmer. Good Luck!\n\nP.S. If you can, see if there is any insulation in the attic. Heat Rises! Hope you can work out a deal with your landlord to get a break on your rent for adding more insulation.", "Dressing the part is important. Starting with your feet, wool socks and slippers. Wear wool socks and you will never go back to cotton. I wear them all year in various weights. Second, keep your core warm. You need to wear a close fitting undershirt to eliminate moving air around your body. Then wear a wool sweater or another shirt plus a wool sweater. Wool is far superior to the acrylic junk and will help regulate your temp, not just sweat you out. ", "Don't underestimate the heat potential of 100w incandescent lightbulbs. My house used to be an old camper and before my dad raised the house to dig out the basement and put the more permanent foundation and heat in, he used to use a 100w lightbulb to keep the pipes from freezing overnight. It was pretty well insulated, but that really only takes a little bit of time and effort.\n\n\nthat being said, I'd suggest using solar panels to charge a battery which would power a heater when it gets below 45 degrees. It may be somewhat problematic if you have a big storm, but overall it should help out greatly in keeping the electric bill down provided you dont drain all the pipes and disconnect the power.", "Do you know how to use a caulking gun? That provides more than just using the plastic on the windows and has to be done before you put up the plastic. Also fitting those \"gaskets\" (I can't think of what they're called) around door jambs. Weather stripping! That's it.\n\nI've lived in a rental in Minnesota for 19 years. The house was built in the 1860s. The best thing is a little electric ceramic heater in the bathroom when I take a bath. Soaking in a hot tub is the height of luxury in the winter, and you can do it every day.", "Couple of things that haven't been mentioned.\n1 clean/wash all your windows. Lots more sunlight will stream in.\n2. Buy a role of \"V-Tape\". Easy to install, acts like weather stripping. It goes around door jams and inside window frames. You can buy insulation pads to put between all of your electrical outlets. Just unscrew plastic covers, place on,around plugs.door sweeps at bottom of any door that is not already firm. ", "Bubble wrap over the windows, electric blanket for bed instead of heating at night. Double-sided tape specially made for heat blockage on the cracks.\n\nPeople are putting up some complicated shit.... I'm living in Japan where no one has central anything, and no insultion. This is all that people do.", "1) Shrink wrap your windows. This has been posted elsewhere.\n\n2) Check your weatherstripping around all doors and make sure they are snug. If you have double doors, ensure the gap between them is winterized as well.\n\n3) If you have a chimney for a fireplace you do not use, close it. \n\n4) Keep all blinds closed, and if they're those aluminum curved kind, round side facing in. Facing in = focus the light inside the window, facing out = Scatter the light through the window (summer)\n\n5) Close all doors, all the time. If a room isn't in use, close the vents (central air). This is especially important for all entrances to basements and doors near the central thermostat. \n\n6) Keep access to your central thermostat open to the main airway and away from heat sources (if you add any yourself, no house should be designed this badly). If you let hot air pool around the thermostat, the furnace turns off and the rest of the house freezes. ", "* Caulk all your windows and doors you wont be using.\n\n* Shrink wrap the windows or duct tape a pillow/blanket to them.\n\n* If you will be burning wood inside remember to make some ballasts. Boil/warm pots of water near/on the fire to absorb as much possible energy from the fire.\n\n* Get every possible blanket or throw rug out of your closet and put them on the floor the walls and on yourself. They will help insulate and retain heat.\n\n* Other than doing more proper insulating that's all the slap shot home remedies I can think of. \n\n\n", "Buy space heaters at Wal-Mart. It has to be Wal-Mart because of their great return policy. Unpack them carefully, take photos so you know how to repack them. Use the heaters, clean them, return them within 90 days and you're golden. It's called renting for free and it's socially unacceptable, but sometimes you gotta decide between what is ethical and what is necessary." ]

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[ "Getting rid of the smoke smell in clothing? Hello. \nMy mother is a smoker, and it gets into my clothing fairly easy. It's embarrassing walking around school and people comment on it. I've tried different methods, but It never worked. Any ways to get rid of the smoke smell in clothing?", "Getting rid of the smoke smell in clothing? Hello. \nMy mother is a smoker, and it gets into my clothing fairly easy. It's embarrassing walking around school and people comment on it. I've tried different methods, but It never worked. Any ways to get rid of the smoke smell in clothing?", "Getting rid of the smoke smell in clothing? Hello. \nMy mother is a smoker, and it gets into my clothing fairly easy. It's embarrassing walking around school and people comment on it. I've tried different methods, but It never worked. Any ways to get rid of the smoke smell in clothing?", "Getting rid of the smoke smell in clothing? Hello. \nMy mother is a smoker, and it gets into my clothing fairly easy. It's embarrassing walking around school and people comment on it. I've tried different methods, but It never worked. Any ways to get rid of the smoke smell in clothing?" ]

[ "If you currently live with her - there's not much you can do... You can keep a bottle of febreeze in the car or locker I guess and give your clothes a spritz over every morning.\n\n If it's from visiting her on occasion, febreeze can still work, but if it's just a permanent smell try vinegar in the final wash of your clothes, or baking soda. \n\nMy mother used to smoke constantly - hot box the car with me in it and what not. Other than being asthmatic, and this literally being the reason why I visited the hospital so much, I was constantly suffering under the crappy smell of smoke. So... I can definitely understand your annoyance. :/", "If you want to remove the smell from something you will need to dry clean or something that doesn't need to be washed frequently, hang it on a clothes hanger in your bathroom, stop the drain on the tub and run the hot water for a few minutes, and pour in about a few cups of white vinegar. Let it sit for 10 minutes, and the smell should fade.", "Coffee Beans.\n\nFor some reason, exposure to whole coffee beans soaks up the smoke smell and doesn't replace it with coffee smell. I used to use this in a used car lot. A cloth sack or sock full of whole coffee beans somehow soaks up the smoke.\n\nI would pick your clothes out the night before, stash them in a plastic bag with your beans and try them in the morning (or if that doesn't help, have several days brewing at a time).\n\nYou'll see people with coffee beans around their stick shifts and parking breaks in their cars for this reason as well.\n\nLTP: don't make coffee with your smoke beans...", "Could always tell her shes being incredibly selfish! Other than that febreez? I'v heard lemon juice in a squwirty bottle helps too." ]

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[ "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. 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I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?", "How do I train my body to need less sleep? I've heard that human beings need an average of 8 hours, meaning some people need less sleep and some people need more sleep, and the amount of sleep you need can change as you get older. Well, I'm a \"more sleep\" person, and I literally need 10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. I just don't have time in my schedule for that on work days so I end up settling for 9.5 and I am always tired in the morning. But I would love to be able to reduce the amount of sleep I need to 8 hours (or less?) and have access to that extra 1.5 hours in my day. Any advice?" ]

[ "First, I'm old (70) and second, I'm on a ketogenic diet. But the result is that I generally awaken about an hour before my alarm and eventually realize that I might as well get up. I *do* listen to NPR for an hour first, though. I have a CPAP machine which measures my hours of sleep and most of the time it's in the 4.5 - 7 range and I feel fully rested. I *do* zonk out if I have too many carbs in a meal, though.\n\nThe lessening of sleep has been reported my many in /r/keto, so I think this is part of it. ", "I used to need a lot of sleep (10+ hours). I started exercising a few times a week and eating smarter and now I'm happier on about 7. It's not the easiest solution but it worked for me.", "Sort of irrelevant, but the freeware Flux turns your screen into more of an orangey-red color instead of its daylight blue color at night, making your body get to sleep mode easier. It's for both Macs and PCs, but I think there might be something in Macs that lets you do this without downloading anything.\n\nhttp://stereopsis.com/flux/", "ITT: people give advice about sleep that is irrelevant to what the original submitter was asking about", "Reduce stress in your life, get your thyroid levels checked, and no eating or drinking (alcohol) after 8 PM.\n\nIf my thyroid levels are off, I need at LEAST 9 hours in order to feel rested. When they're fine, I hop out of bed after 6 hours.\n\nI'm 25 years old, in relatively good shape, quite skinny (6', 165 lbs), and I've been diagnosed with hypothyroidism for 3 years now.\n\nIf you feel forgetful, have mind fog or cloudy memory, are always cold, have huge difficulty in getting out of bed, or just generally feel sluggish all the time, get your thyroid checked! It is a simple blood test, and if you have it, you take a pill every morning for the rest of your life.\n\nAlso, keep a glass of water to drink in the morning. You just spent 8+ hours without drinking anything and you are quite dehydrated when you first wake up. I drink 2 glasses of water at night, and finish a third glass first thing in the morning after I take a lovely morning piss.", "I remember a redditor posted [this.](http://i.imgur.com/fqnCt.jpg)\nI'm sorry I can't give cr", "I've been trying to optimize my sleep (minimum # of hours for adequate rest) for about 2 years now. It's a challenge. I started off trying to do 4/night, but found that impossible to maintain, so moved up in 30 minute increments. I now sit pretty comfortably at 5:30-6:00 a night. \n\nYou shouldn't feel fully rested during the day. I have made it to where, on average, I am tired enough by midnight to fall asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow. I am slightly tired throughout the day, but it's really not much of a problem. \n\nLike someone else said, sleeping habits are really important. Some good ones:\n\n* Regular sleep schedule: in bed at X, up at Y. \n* Exercise! It actually helps a lot to get good sleep.\n* No electronics before bed (~1 hour)\n* No coffee or stimulants within 5 (if coffee) or 3 (if lesser stimulants) hours of bed\n* No eating 1.5 hours before bed \n* Drink plenty of water throughout the day\n* **Get a good bed. This is worth the investment**\n* Shut out jarring sensory input during bedtime - use curtains, earplugs, whatever. Try to make your nighttime as quiet and dark as you can. \n* Sleep cycles: Try to make it so that you sleep a multiple of 90 minutes. Waking up during deep sleep can be pretty awful and it'll leave you groggy for a while. \n\nI have been doing these things, trying to optimize my sleep for 2 years, like I said. I've been getting better at it, but it took a while to learn all of this and find the right amount of time to sleep. But I'm very happy with my 5.5-6 hours, and I very much appreciate the 18 hours that I have of awake time each day. * ", "Start calculating your sleep with [this sleepytime calculator](http://sleepyti.me/). It works to estimate your sleep cycles, and suggests times for you to fall asleep at a time that will enable you to wake up at an appropriate time of your sleep cycle.", "I don't think you can train your body, but you can develop good sleeping habits, which can help. Get to sleep and wake up at regular times, even on weekends. Avoid using smartphones and computers before bed; try reading a book, since it produces less eye strain and should help you get to sleep.\n\nYour sleep cycle has a period of three hours, so the optimal amount of sleep you get should be a multiple of three hours. (but that doesn't mean that if you can't get nine hours you should settle for six. Get as much sleep as you need but just keep the three hours rule in mind). A quick nap (no longer than 30 minutes) can help refresh your day.\n\nsource: Dr. James Maas and his psychology classes.", "the key? never ever let yourself sleep 10 hours. Go 5 months sleeping 8 hours a day. The first month you will be tired,but your body will eventually adjust", "Quit smoking (if relevant). Start/continue exercising regularly. Eat a healthy, balanced diet, always including breakfast. And set an alarm to ensure that you don't [oversleep](http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/guide/physical-side-effects-oversleeping) - The amount of sleep you need varies significantly over the course of your lifetime. ", "I've always wanted to try [this](http://everything2.com/title/Uberman%2527s+Sleep+Schedule) but never got a chance.", "I sleep for 20 minutes every 4 hours. It's called PolyPhasic Sleep. I use the uberman schedule. I only sleep 2 hours a day. It's beautiful. ", "This is only personal experience but, I think the only way to do it is to sleep less and you will just get used to it, I've worked for months at a time with no more than four hours a night and I've worked some shifts that went more than fourty eight hours. It gets easier with time. A few tips though, don't watch tv before bed, get a lot of excersize, make sure you go to bed clean, it all helps the quality of your rest.", "Maybe the problem is that you aren't getting a good sleep, not that it isn't enough sleep. How's your mattress?", "I've been considering posting this request for awhile. I'm in the same boat. I need at least 9 hours to feel rested but would like to reduce that to 7 or 8 if possible. \n\n24 years old, male. If relevant. ", "I use to be in your position. I would stay up gaming until 3-4AM and then sleep until 5-6PM every single day. When I went to college I would sleep at 2-3AM and wake up at 12-1PM. It sucked ass, I slept so much and nothing worked.\n\nNow I go to bed between 11pm-1am and wake up at 7am no matter if I have an alarm set or not. The way I did it was, I got a job where I had to be at work at 8:30, and I had stuff to do before work, which took like an hour.\n\nYou just need to find yourself something where you HAVE to wake up early. Keep doing it and after 3-4 months, it will come naturally to you.\n\nIt is fucking hard to do without having something you have to do. You need to just keep at it. Maybe set your alarm to SUPER loud and have it half way across the room, forcing you to get up and turn it off.\n\nI will tell you what, it is an amazing feeling to have all that extra time on my hands. On my off days, I am completely done with everything I need to do by 10am and have so much fucking time for fun and stuff.\n\n\n", "Then you need to eliminate some of the non-work stuff on your schedule. If your body needs 10 hours sleep, depriving yourself of sleep will only make you sick in the long run.", "The best way to require less sleep is eat long before you go to bed. Sleeping with a full stomach means that your body is still working to digest the food. So it may take a few hours to complete digestion. Your body then starts to go to relaxation mode. So eating earlier in the day and having not as much will help you out. \n\nAlso drinking alcohol before bed has a similar affect as the body has to process the alcohol.", "Sleep the desired amount EVERY night. Eventually, your body will adjust. Crappy answer, but it's the truth. I've gotten 6 a night for years. I'm just used to it. ", "Polyphasic Sleep, thats how.\n\nMore specifically, Uberman sleep schedule.\n\n[uberman](http://www.kuro5hin.org/story/2002/4/15/103358/720)", "Minimize the light in your room. Only use your bedroom for sleep and sex. Avoid bright lights like tv and computer at least an hour before bed. Go to bed the same time every night. Certain foods will increase the speed that you go to sleep. M", "I've found it helps not to eat several hours before I go to sleep. After 6 or 7 hours of sleep my body wakes me up because it's hungry and I don't feel groggy later because I woke up naturally.", "I started eating better when I got an early job. That + coffee in the morning has me running on 7 hours, sometimes 6 if I feel *dangerous*", "I slept 12 hours a day in college, then joined the Navy, in which I could only sleep, and had to sleep, from 10PM to 5PM for 5 months.\n\nI've slept that amount for the rest of my life.\n\nSo, two things:\n\nCheck environmental factors. I went to college at UC Davis, where allergies crush people. That was part of it.\n\nTwo, pick a realistic time set, like 7 hours, and stick to it (especially the wake up time) religiously. ", "I only need 5-6 to feel fully rested, but can survive one 4ish hours for a few weeks at a time. I think all you really need is a 2-3week period where you force yourself to sleep during the exact hours you want to sleep say 1am-6am. Eventually you start entering REM sleep faster and your body gets used to the whole thing as being \"normal\". I'm basing that off the method for switching to the \"Uberman\" polyphasic sleep schedule.", "I have 'trained myself' to get by on around 5 - 6 hours. I exercise, but to be honest I had no choice. I live a pretty busy life and I had to get up if I was still tired or not. After a while my body adjusted, but I still feel tired getting that amount of sleep 7 days a weeks for 2 plus weeks. I like to give myself atleast one sleep in day.", "I don't want to be that guy... But, since I've been doing keto I sleep much less and still feel refreshed.", "Figure out why you 'need' so much sleep.. that seems excessive. By no means an expert. but I would guess rather than you being some 'weirdo' that needs 10 hours. The sleep you are getting isn't very restful for one reason or another. I don't know all the causes but maybe somethings disturbing you in the middle of the night you don't realize it but if its breaking up your sleep cycles you could be losing out.", "Even the ppl that need less sleep catch up. I sleep for around 5 hours a night, though once a fortnight when Im free of work and other responsibilities I might sleep for 14-18 hours straight.", "Eat between the hours of 12pm and 6pm. I've been doing this and somehow I only need 3 hours sleep. You'll need to completely cut out the caffeine though. ", "Don't.\n\nNo, seriously, not getting enough sleep will be a major drag on your life. Many people will claim that they function just fine without it, or by using some sort of schedule or technique, but when measured objectively sleep deprivation has devastating effects on performance. Don't risk it.", "Been doing it successfully for a while now. \nWelcome to my alternate sleeping days plan. During the week days I stay up on alternate days so monday wed or tuesday thursday I don't sleep at all. The next day after no sleep is only hard the first few times. After that it's like an accomplishments and I've honestly had the best days where I didn't sleep the night before. I'm energetic, excited, euphoric almost and all the while super function and fun. Then that night I sleep 10 hours and all the batteries are recharged. Not sure if it's healthy but works like a charm and I love it. Doing it for 2 months now", "As someone who has had a very wide array of sleep schedules in his life, let me say that it's really just about routine. For me, anyways.\n\nIf for 3 weeks straight you go to bed at 3 and wake up at 6, you will find yourself managing 3 hours of sleep a lot better 3 weeks in than you were at the start.\n\nSo, I guess my answer is: Sleep less.", "the more I do m", "sleep cycles run on times of about 90 minutes. After 90 minutes its safe to assume your body has ran one cycle of REM sleep. Waking up at intervals after 6 hours, 7.5 hours, or 9 hours would be preferable to you. When your body wakes up in the middle of a REM cycle is when you feel drowsy and lethargic. Try to set your alarm according to sleep cycles. \n\nBased of readings and such..", "i used to sleep 9-10 hrs everyday. i now sleep 6 hours six days of the week and sleep in as long as i want every sunday. i used to be consumed with cutting down on my sleep time, but it's not much of a big deal any more. ", "http://sleepyti.me/ It seems to work but I'm not quite sure. Maybe if there is a larger sample size we test this out!", "also, try taking a multi-vitamin like... one-a-day- \ni think the most important thing about needing less sleep is giving your body the nutrients it needs by eating right, and physical fitness.", "You should try the everymann sleep schedules. someone posted a picture of it already.Theres also the uberman which is like 2 hours of sleep a day. I used to do the everyman 3. which is like 2 naps (30 min)during the day, and one slightly longer (3 hour) nap from like 12-3am. 4 hours of sleep a day. Its definitely possible and not as bad as you may think. \n\nIt worked for me when i was dating a party-girl and having to maintain grades.", "You might be needing so much sleep because you have a poor sleep schedule. Try sticking to 8 hours during the same time for a few weeks, and see if that helps.", "You could try the überman regimen. You take 6, 20 minute naps spaced evenly throughout the day and night. It means you won't quite run on a normal schedule but you only need 2 hours of sleep per 24 hours. ", "Well, I don't know if this will work for you, but for me it was just a matter of time. I trained myself to lie to my body and put myself in situations where sleeping simply wasn't an option. I'm in college now, and I regularly get around 5-6 hours of sleep a night, and am one of the only people in my group of friends that doesn't ever nap. I must be unique in that I have nothing approaching a regular sleep schedule, and a regular sleep schedule doesn't help me.\n\nBasically, time and lying to yourself is what worked for me. Mind over body.", "Waking up during certain parts of your sleep cycle has a lot to do with how tired you are when you get up. Waking up during your \"deep sleep\" cycle makes you tired throughout the morning, while waking up during your \"light sleep cycle\" does the opposite. I could be wrong but it works for me. You can get an app on your phone that can tell what cycle you're in and wake you up accordingly, it's called DreamZ (also helps you lucid dream).", "Try taking a melatonin supplement before you go to bed. It works differently for some people and I've even found periods of time where it would work wonders for me and a time period where it din't help me at all. But it may help you have a sounder sleep and wake up feeling more rested. I was taking one that was 3mg and it was awesome cause I could fall asleep so easily within a half hour of taking it and wake up feeling awesome 6-8 hours later, and often wouldn't let me sleep more than that. Do some research on how many mg would be good for you and if an XR-type would be better and try it out.", "Try eating less gluten. My friend was like you all throughout high school and most of college - incredibly tired, needing more sleep than others to feel fully rested, no matter what she did. Eventually she found out she had a mild allergy to gluten; her body can't process it very well so she kinda 'shuts down' if she has any. Maybe it's worth a shot?", "To need less sleep, you need a very low fat AND muscle %. Be as light weight as possible. Also, eat LOTS of carbs. I'm serious. \n\n", "This is an advanced theory that I am not sure will work, and is extremely difficult to implement. I myself, would not suggest doing this but...\n\nThe idea is that you set your alarm clock to wake you up every 30 minutes for about two weeks. Whenever you wake up you should get up and play video games, eat something etc. This prevents your body from going to into the deeper stages of sleep which give you the most rest. When your body has learned to jump into REM sleep right away, you will be able to get much more rest than you normally would. It will take your body awhile to adjust to this though.", "Things like diet, exercise, alcohol consumption can affect your sleep. Get a smartphone app which measures your sleep cycles and see if you can find patterns with the amount of REM sleep you're getting", "There's an incredible body hack called the uberman sleep schedule that no joke allows you to feel rested with only 6 20 minute naps, evenly spaced throughout the day. It's based on the idea that if you take a siesta during the day you should be able to sleep for a shorter amount of time when you lay down for the night. Building on that principle, if you can force yourself to nap twice during the middle of the day, then your body will need less at the end of the day. Eventually if you keep with it, you can actually trick your body into entering REM phase sleep, the phase where your body and mind recover, immediately after you fall asleep without having to pass through the other sleep phases first. Of course, you could just get by with that siesta during the day...", "There is supposedly a way to train your mind to jump right into REM sleep and only sleep 3 hours a day. The issue is, you sleep 30 minutes six times a day. Not to mention, sleeping that little before your mind is trained is probably torture. Link below.\n\nhttp://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/10/polyphasic-sleep/\n\n", "There is a way to train your body to instead of need a full nights sleep, you take, 45 minute ( might be 15 minute, I'm not sure ) naps in that span of 24 hours, I forget how but google should help you, and get the correct \"kind of sleep\" by entering directly into that sleep state, so that you feel fully rested. This is apparently really popular with big buisness men so that they do not have to wast 8 hours of their day where something can go potentially wrong.\n", "The older you get the less sleep you need. When you are around 50 to 60 years old your body only needs 6 hours. When you get older I heard it can even go down to 4 hours of sleep. But for now you probably can't do anything that make a significant difference.", "The long and short of it is if you discount diet and lifestyle factors, you can't. Your body will need what it needs and there aren't cheat codes and the teach yourself to sleep less things are always bogus.", "Stop trying to fit some average profile! It’s the *average*. Which means that nearly nobody fits it exactly, and many naturally are far from it.\n\nYou need as much, as your body says it needs! Really. That’s the point of feeling tired and feeling rested.\n\nIf you have a restless sleep because of breathing problems or heartburn, or pain, et,c that’s something else, and should be fixed. (I’d definitely check that.)\n\nBut other than that, the only thing you will “gain” from it, is a worse functioning brain. Meaning you won’t get more done, but actually less! \n(If you ever saw those tests where they compared being drunk to being sleep-deprived: There is obviously a strong correlation between how much a person sleeps, and his apparent intelligence. Which makes sense, since his brain is always at half-mast.)\n\nIn other words: You won’t feel just as rested. Contrary to popular opinion [=wishful thinking], you will just get used to a lower mental performance level, and start thinking that’s normal.\n\nI cannot even remotely imagine that you want that. Life is hard enough already.\n\nIf there’s one thing wrong with our society, then it’s this perverse obsession with crippling ourselves through lack of sleep.\n\nDon’t do it. I couldn’t sleep well if I would watch you do that and do nothing.", "Smoke some weed before you sleep, I feel energized after 6. Of course I can just as easily sleep another 6, but the more weed I smoke the night before the less sleep I need. ", "Sleeping enough is the best thing you can give yourself, right along with healthy eating and exercise. I suggest you consider sleeping as much as you body needs and accept it as a baseline requirement. I spent decades scrimping and trying to get by on less sleep, but it just reduced my productivity and effectiveness, cost me lots of money, and in the end it cost me far more than anything I might have achieved in those few extra hours awake.", "Set you alarm back 1-2 hours and get used to always waking up that much earlier. If you feel like crap one day, you have the option of sleeping in. I've been doing this for a long time.", "Set a routine for yourself and follow it for at least three days. Plan an activity like jogging or walking to wake you up. You could have a friend join this routine too. This will help you stay motivated. Time everything. Even your Reddit browsing time. This will help you fall asleep on time instead of wasting several hours on the Internet. ", "Progressively role back the amount of sleep you get every few days for about 10-20 minutes each time. Learned in life and leisure class.", "Polyphasic sleep, AKA \"uberman's sleep schedule\" check it out. Sorry if repeat, didn't read all comments. ", "Polyphasic sleep cycles \n\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyphasic_sleep\n\nBasically you can train your body to sleep as little as 2 hours by taking periodic naps. Do some research ahead of time before you choose a cycle\n", "Ok, I went pretty far down and couldn't find it, so sorry if I repeat. I have a hard time waking up and feeling rested. So, I started using a dawn simulator and I love it. I wake up very naturally and the light makes all those wake up juices flow, so I feel great when I do finally wake up. I use [this](http://www.biobrite.com/) one. Especially fantastic in the wintertime when it's dark in the morning. ", "Not a simple answer but the solution. \n\nYour body needs as much sleep as it needs. Seems irrelevant but it is not. You cannot control how much sleep you need. \n\nThe issue is the quality of sleep. \n\nYou need to go to your md and request a sleep study. They will tell you if you are getting quality sleep. If you are not fix that and you will sleep a lot less. \n\nI went from 12 hours average a day to 8.5. ", "Maybe you can't train yourself to be other than what you are without consequences. Maybe you need 9.5 to feel good and will just have to live with that. I'm not trying to be pissy: I'm seriously saying maybe you would hurt yourself if you tried to regularly live with less sleep.\n\nThat said, I need less sleep since I wrenched my body away from the \"probably about to be a full-blown diabetic\" cliff via weight loss and carbohydrate avoidance.", "Make sure your mattress is low pressure but supportive. If it isn't, you'll toss and turn more, limiting the quality of your sleep. ", "Just start doing it. It sucks for a while but your body is amazingly adaptable. I've gotten down to as low as 5.5-6 with training (read: chronic sleep deprivation) but I do best at 7.\n\nThis is all assuming you're a grown person. If you're a teenager or a kid, they're not shitting you when they say you need 9-10 hours a night. I could never find a way around it, and I don't think it would be healthy to try to get less.", "Interestingly on this topic, Buckminster Fuller once said that one could train oneself to get by on four hours of sleep a *week.* I don't know if he accomplished that himself.", "If you take 15-20 minutes to m", "If you have an iphone or ipod, look up the sleep cycle app. The concept behind it is that you move around in your sleep more or less depending on where you are in your sleep cycle. You set your alarm for say 6:30, and it'll wake you up up to a half hour before your alarm is set based on your sleep cycle so that when you wake up, you feel as rested as you can. \n\nMaybe not the best explanation, but it's worth trying out. I use it every night and I almost always wake up feeling pretty good/rested. \n\nIf you don't have an iPhone or iPod there's sleep cycle calculators online that do the same thing. ", "I've found that taking melatonin actually reduces the amount of sleep I need. I also feel more rested with that smaller amount of sleep. A good 3-5 mg will put you out and keep you well rested without making you groggy in the mornings. I would at least give it a shot. ", "I'm sure this has been said before, but I don't have the patience to comb through 360 comments to see if I'm repeating someone else's point. Caveat #2 I'm not an expert or even educated enough to justify my opinion, it's just what I intuit. Humans evolved without electricity, when the sun went down, we went down too. That means that for the vast majority of the Homo Sapiens Sapiens timeline (not to mention Erectus - Habilis et al) we had a lot more than your 8 hours of recommended sleep. That doesn't mean that they slept the whole time. Some think that they slept for a while, got up and relaxed for an hour or so and went back to sleep til morning. People that champion biphasic sleep point to this. My point is that humans get too little sleep as it is. Sleep is remarkably healing and recharging. Instead of cutting sleep to find more time for a busy life, people really should simplify their lives to the point that they can get the amount of sleep they need. Of course, humans are remarkably adaptive and you can by with \"training your body to need less sleep\" for a while, but you're really shorting yourself. \nYou'll find that your immune system, your ability to cope with stress, your ability to learn, both short-term and long-term, all are improved by giving yourself a good 10 hours of sleep or more. \nI have a phd in broscience though. So disregard everything I just typed.", "I'm currently doing a study of this at UNL. I'm actually in a biphasic sleep cycle as we speak. This biphasic sleep study entails two periods of sleep. I generally go to bed at 4AM wake up at 8 then take a two hour nap from like 4-6PM. Of course this has its ups and downs.\nPros:\nI can sleep six hours a day, while feeling completely refreshed.\nI have extra hours in my day\nCons:\nI have to take a nap in the middle of the day or else I'll feel like complete shit for a few days. \nIt's hard to schedule my day with monophasic sleepers (normal people) because I'm gone for two primary hours of the day.\n\nIt's hard to start at first. The only tips that I can give are make a schedule for sleeping and stick to it. The first week will be hell, you'll feel groggy and tired and get headaches, but eventually you'll grow accustomed to the sleep schedule.\n\nI'm also studying polyphasic which is 30 min naps every four hours. I've never had any experience with polyphasic or anyone else who has but I do plan on trying that in the near future.", "I'd suggest that you from now on start to wake up an hour earlier than you already do. Take that extra hour and make yourself a steady breakfast. Find yourself a 1-2 h window to take a nap during the day. You'll gradually get used to take use of small hours of sleeping to get you through the day, divided and split during the actual days as well.", "I went on keto about 4 months ago and about 1 month in started only needing around 7 - 8 hours a night. usually 7. Is it related? I think so. but I could also just be getting old.", "I used to sleep at least 10 hours and felt drained with even a half an hour less. When i joined the fire department i would often be up and down 5 or more time a night, that coupled with getting to bed late, i was forced to deal with less sleep. I gained a lot of weight and ate terrible but learned how to work off of about 3-5 hours a night. I later went through a cycle of working two jobs and being awake before 5 am 7 days a week. I had cleaned my eating up and felt fine and actually dropped weight. In short, keep a decent diet and stay active and your body will acclimate to what you force it to do. It just might suck for awhile until you are used to it ", "I used to need a lot of sleep, 10 plus hours and was still tired. I ended get a simple blood test done and learned that I was anemic, which makes you really exhausted. It was easy to correct, just had to take iron pills. Perhaps you may want to get that checked out if you're feeling tired in the morning. However, I caution against self diagnosing and starting the iron pills, that can be dangerous.\n\nAnother tip (which perhaps has already been mentioned) get yourself on a set sleeping schedule and don't deviate from it even on weekends.", "I think if you just start to sleep less on a regular basis, your body will adjust. I used to have to wake up at 5 for work and could never fall asleep before 11 or 12. After a while, I was perfectly fine with 5 to 6 hours of sleep a night.", "I suffer from Insomnia, and have to be up every morning at 4:45am. I work 6a-2:30pm. Every night I take 10mg Ambien. If i get into bed too late for a full 8 hours of sleep(which the dr recommends for 10mg) i take half(which is not recommended). I end up setting 3 alarms. one at 4:45, one at 4:50, and one at 5:15. \n\nwith that being said, i have f.flux, and i didnt really notice a difference. I also changed my diet(stopped drinking alcohol and redbull for a year) with no relief. I have a fan in my room that runs constantly(so far i havent died from fan death). I also have to have a TV on to fall asleep. I have a fear of dark, quiet rooms, and the TV drowns out my girlfiends snoring. \n\nI wish you the best, im still trying to ge adjusted to never getting enough sleep.", "I read that waking up energetic or groggy depends mostly on whether you woke up during certain periods of your sleep cycle or not. Try this web site and set your alarm to match it.\nhttp://sleepyti.me/", "I only get about 6 and I need 10 like you. Honestly the hardest way is a raw vegan diet. You are so well fed and nourished that you don't need but 4 hours and you feel fine. :( It's hard work though....", "I just briefly scrolled through the comments so I'm not sure if anyone mentioned this, but one of the things that helps you in the morning is making sure you wake up at the end of a sleep cycle and not in the middle. From what you have said in your OP, roughly ten hours is the end of a sleep cycle for you, so you should try and maybe wake up at the end of the previous sleep cycle. I have found for me that a sleep cycle is about 90 minutes, but it can vary from person to person of course. If ten hours works well for you, try and shoot for eight and a half, or even six if you are feeling adventurous. Good luck!", "I have some tips for you. \n•Split your sleep into 3/4 naps a day. It is hard for you body and you need some weeks to get ito the sleep pattern, but some people even sleep 2 hours a day. For more information i recommend this article:\nhttp://www.highexistence.com/alternate-sleep-cycles/\n\n• Wake up always the same time, even on weekends, but go to sleep when you are exhausted, not at a specific time. Your body will know then it needs the sleep and you will get just the right amount of sleep after all. I don't know if it will help you that much, but you should give it a try for some weeks. ANd if you want to read mor to this, here you go:\nhttp://www.highexistence.com/how-to-become-an-early-riser/", "I don't have a link, but I remember reading somewhere about a guy who trained himself to need almost no sleep by switching his brain back and forth from right hemisphere to left hemisphere.\n\n", "I did an AMA a while back about being on the Überman sleep schedule. You want less sleep? Do it. It's amazingly beneficial in many ways.", "Hey, I only sleep about 35-40 hours a week. On some days my work/school schedule will keep me from getting home until 10 p.m and waking up at 3:15 a.m the next day. On a good day I will get 6 hours of sleep, but, I always feel well rested (I'm 20 by the way.) What I do is split my sleep in half. A few hours at night and a few hours in the day. If I keep a consistent schedule I feel fine. Also, stay away from sugary foods, fast foods, excessive carbs. A bad diet will drain you of all energy, and every morning when you wake up drink down a glass of cold water really quick. Many times people feel exhausted and sick when they wake up because of dehydration. Hope this helps, OP!", "Have you taken a look at the quality of your 10 hours? It may be that you need to find out what makes you sleep well and what makes you take longer to feel rested. Eating certain things before bed, medication/caffeine/alcohol/trees/TV, even what time you exercise in the evening affects sleep quality. There are smartphone apps and even sleep studies you can do to find out how to sleep better, rather than just sleeping more.\n\nAs someone on the long-side of needing sleep, I also learned to set my 'wake time' consistently - even on weekends - and work backwards to what time I need to go to bed the night before to get up at the chosen time. It takes a few weeks to adjust, but after then I can get by on less sleep some nights and go to bed early others without repercussion if I know I'm always going to be awake at 7:30am.\n\nLastly, how old are you? Your sleep needs will peak in the late teens and early 20's, then decrease starting at the late 20's until you even out in your 30's & 40's, then decrease again from there until your golden years. Part of it has to do with body hormone cycles, combined with brain changes in the amounts of histamine available.", "Have kids. Then you won't have a choice but to go to bed late an get up earlier and you'll also fall asleep in a matter of seconds when you finally get the chance each night.", "Go see your doctor. There are wonderful drugs (modafinil/Provigil and eszopiclone/Lunesta, to name a couple of my favorites) that will help you either sleep more restfully, or fix excessive daytime sleepiness. This is assuming you don't have a thyroid condition or sleep apnea or some other glaring reason you're feeling unrested.\n\nHe'll tell you (like most of the people here) to exercise, go to bed at a proper time of night, avoid electronics and food and caffeine before bed... and so on. Tell him you already have tried doing those things and you are still having problems; you would like to try something like I mentioned above. He may suggest tests for sleep disorders and blood work and whatnot; that's up to you to decide on. \n\n", "Foolproof: stay doing things that interest/excite you and you'll never get tired. Give yourself a reason to be excited about waking up and you'll never hit the snooze button.", "Firstly, ever heard of the uberman sleeping schedule? in general, any polyphasic sleeping pattern helps reduce sleep.\nI did the most extreme one for three weeks (2h a day); in the beginning it's brutal, after some time it gets easier. The idea behind it is to train your body to fall right into the REM phase (rapid eye movement).\nSecondly, working out and proper eating habits help a lot. In particular, reducing food that requires a lot of energy to digest (proteins) helps your body retain energy.\nThirdly, there's always legal stimulants you can try. If you have a hard time waking up in the morning, have a cup of coffee. I am currently a grad student working 80-90h a week and I recently started drinking coffee. Does wonders to help you wake up in the morning.\n\nDepending on what your overall goal is, I would recommend option 1 if you are looking at a long-term solution and have the possibility to adapt your social life. Solution 3 is the most common solution while solution 2 can be adapted independently of any other measures.\n\nFinal comment: all of the advice is mostly based on my own experience. I'm not a psychologist or sleeping expert\n\nGood luck!", "Every 6 hours, sleep for half an hour. That adds up to 2 hours a day. The two first weeks will be hell, but afterwards your body has adapted to the polyphasic sleepcycle. Instead of going through many different stages of sleep as you do normally, when your body has adapted to these short naps, you go directly to REM-sleep.", "Eat better, and get higher quality wakefulness time. The only thing that reduces necessary sleep time is age. What you can do is compress it - get a higher quality of wakefulness and sleep through nutrition and sleep hygiene.", "Don't interrupt sleep cycles to wake up and you'll feel more rested. There's a site to go to to see when to wake up/go to sleep based on sleep cycles.", "Discipline.\n\n\nWhen I need to reset anything on my sleep... the cycle, the timing, whatever, I skip a night of sleep. Stay awake the whole time, keep busy.\n\nThen go to bed at the right time for your new schedule. you will go to sleep fast, and sleep deeply. \n\nTo shorten the hours, do this and drop the sleep time to 8 hours from your normal 10.\n\nGET UP!\n\nDo not snooze, do not grumble. As soon as the alarm goes off, get up. Start your day. I find a shower with upbeat music works well. (Actually 70's metal, but I'm old.)\n\nSpend your day normally, stay busy until about 2 hours before bedtime. (you've eaten LONG before now! an hour or two minimum.)\n\nDo something relaxing. A movie, a book, whatever. Not in the bedroom.\n\nThen brush your fangs and hit the rack. Turn out the lights. The darker the better. Silence is best for me, a white noise generator works best for my brother who does the same things. Music is too engaging... you are looking to disengage your mind. \n\nDo this for a few days/week and then drop an hour off. Continue until you are at your target sleep time.", "Constantly give it less sleep. Sort've what happened to me. It sucks later on though as now it's hard for me to sleep at all.", "Check the uberman and the Everyman sleep cycles they seem to work haven't tried ten yet but alot of good reviews on it but you have to really commit the first week and a half or so your zombie like for the week so the holiday break would be a good time to syart", "Try circadian triphasic sleeping. http://origamikayak.blogspot.com/\nI do this and require about 4.5 hours of sleep a day. The only downside is that you have to be able to take a 90 minute nap around noon. \n\nBefore I did triphasic sleeping, I slept for an average of 9 hours a night.", "This probably doesn't help, but for me I just started sleeping less and less everyday. My body just slowly became accustom to less sleep. I function as fine as I did before, and now I can stay up very late without issue. Now I actually have a hard time going to sleep early as I just don't feel tired that early anymore. ", "This might be one of them \"cowboy the fuck up\" situations. I think if you slept 7 hours everyday for a month you'd get used to it. So it's not really training, just do it and it'll gradually become better. And if it never does and you're always tired, tough titties. I'm sure WWII vets were tired during the battle of the bulge, but they pushed on through. Life ain't all sunshine and rainbows.", "The same way you get a better life(since you don't think sleeping a lot is a good life).\n\n* Exercise\n* Eat healthy\n* Deal with your problems\n* Go to bed at the same time every evening, wake up the same time every morning\n\n\nOr\n\n* Be neurotic\n* Take a lot of drugs, and mix them(that includes alchohol)", "Ok, so there is this website [sleepyti.me](http://sleepyti.me/) and some apps for [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=eu.sweetlygeek.sleepytime&feature=search_result#?t=W251bGwsMSwxLDEsImV1LnN3ZWV0bHlnZWVrLnNsZWVweXRpbWUiXQ..) and there are other versions and for IOS. These apps tell you the best times to wake up. \n\nThe idea behind this is that the problem is in interrupting sleep cycles.I'm using this for almost a year and my sleep has improved dramatically. Of course it won't work for everyone or in the same way. Give it a try.", "Just sleep less. Your body will get used to it. A good thing would be to sign up for some kind of class or gym thing that happens before work and not going means you're wasting money. I did this and after a year of getting up at 530 am I now just always wake up at that time. I find that I can now get by with 6 or so hours. I **could** sleep more but it's just wasteful. \n\nIf not just go to bed later but wake up at the same time. Eventually you'll just get used to it. ", "I'm a student in high school who gets 6 hours a night for pretty much no reason. The downside is that I'm tired constantly and just end up sleeping a lot in school haha. ", "I listen to podcasts of old time radio shows while in bed and I usually fall asleep within about 10 minutes.", "I don't think this helps you get more rest, but you feel less drowsy when you first wake up: sleep in increments of 90 minutes. That way you wake up in between REM cycles, which is less disruptive than waking up in the middle of one." ]

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[ "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?", "Getting rid of and being less susceptible to canker sores I get these things too much. Any help, Reddit?" ]

[ "This might not work for everyone but it worked for me. I used to get these all the time, it was rare that I went a week without one in my mouth. After some researching I found that some people are sensitive to sodium lauryl sulfate as it is an irritant and it can cause canker sores. I switched to an SLS free toothpaste and mouthwash and now I only get one maybe once every 6 months. \n\nWhen I do get them, I take some baking soda, wet a Q-tip and get a nice wet glob of baking soda on it. Grind the baking soda into the canker sore until the white coating is gone. This stops the canker sore's growth and makes it heal way faster.\n\nIf you're curious, the toothpaste I use now is Sensodyne ProNamel, and ACT alcohol free mouthwash.", "I'd like to find out here too! Many have told me to just put salt on the canker sore themselves or put a mouthful of salt water in my mouth and swish it around.\n\nI simply can't handle all that pain at once. ", "I've noticed that some anti-plaque toothpastes cause me to get sores. Switching to a different paste for a few days usually helps. ", "GET TOOTHPASTE WITHOUT SODIUM LAURYL SULFATE. Your toothpaste is CAUSING them. I used to get them all the time and now I almost never do. It's a damn miracle. I use ProNamel but Rembrandt used to make some. Also lots of those shitty natural toothpastes are like this and maybe you can find one that doesn't taste like ass. Also if you eat citrus or pineapple, clean out your mouth right afterwards.", "Don't know about prevention, but I find rinsing you mouth with salt water works very well. \n\nI have a little thing of stuff called Kankol that works too. It's a topical anesthetic and canker treatment. It's a pain in the ass to let it dry once you apply I though, otherwise it goops up your mouth. ", "eating acidic fruits (grapefruit, lime, oranges) are a common cause, rinse your mouth out with water after you eat these to clear the juice out. If you get one, man up and and dab the end of your finger in salt n press it right on that sucker. May hurt but it kills mine almost immediately. \n\nBasically start doing your tequila shots in reverse order.", "Very curious to know this myself. I have almost always had more than one canker sore at a time. Many as large as a dime. I have tried everything I have heard of, current solution is chewing \"toothpaste gum\" (you know the stuff I mean) after every meal/beverage. (Obviously if I'm home I just brush...)\nHope to hear other answers!!\n\nTL;DR: crest gum...", "Turmeric is antibacterial. You can mix it with water and swish around or dip a qtip in it and apply it to the canker to make it heal faster.", "To cure them there are various products like [this one](http://amzn.com/B003AS74JO). Asians use herbal [watermelon frost](http://www.suanie.net/2010/10/15/xi-gua-shuang-compound-watermelon-frost-to-treat-mouth-ulcers-yikes-yeay/) which tastes bad but works well.", "There might be a correlation between smoking and not getting canker sores. Not recommending that, just remember reading it (and just checked it out again on wikipedia.) Always struck me as interesting. ", "Stress causes them. when I destressed, I stopped getting them. I haven't had one in about 3 years. It is so wonderful.", "Some tips that have helped me.... Too much sugar can cause canker sores. Too much stress in one's life can cause these as well. \n\nAs far as a remedy, get some warm water and throw some salt in there. Then swish it around in your mouth for a minute. ", "Not sure buddy who says they are gone a few hours later after eating salt and vinegar chips is right. Honestly I know he is wrong lol Gargle salt water on it, hurts a bit, but after a few seconds of intense pain it goes away and its like it hurt so bad that it went numb or something. Also, put a pinch of salt on it, also hurts like a bitch and has you jumping arund the room looking like a fucking idiot, but after about 30 seconds the pain goes away and you feell better. I don't think there is a known cure for them to be honest, I get the gel that numbs it, like \"kanka\" or things of the sort. Should help.", "More painful (sort of) but there are these things I've used, I think there called canka covers. Dissolves over the canker and leaves something like a wax stuck to the side of it, stays there for about 6 hours and once it comes off mine have dramatically healed compared to before.", "Man, I've had these since forever. They suck. Plus it's not like you can just say \"I'm sorry I have a lisp this week, I'm currently hosting an alien pain spore on my upper lip.\"\n\nI hate them so much, that even talking about them causes me to use SERIOUS ADULT LANGUAGE. Be warned.\n\nNot a doctor, but...water, water, water, for the love of jesus shitting in a tugboat, drink more water. You know the 8 glasses a day rule? There's debate over whether or not that's optimal for your health, but I've found it's 95% effective in reducing the rate canker sores (not scientific; just my observation). Guess what, that's your rule now. Drink a shit ton of water. You will be pissing frequently, but fuck it. It's better than having to shove food past a recently sprouted pain center.\n\nAnd while we're on about your drinking, let's talk about eating. I'm assuming you eat too fast. Why? Because I'm a judgmental motherfucker. Also, canker sores can start as tiny lacerations which get aggravated by your saliva (which gets too acidic). If you're looking for a culprit for tiny lacerations, look no further than the 30+ giant sharp meat-destroying devices which you have in the center of your head. Take your time chewing, and slow down speaking. This isn't a cure all, but I found it had a net correlation to fewer canker sores personally.\n\nWhen you're about to get one, avoid salty, spicy, sugary foods. No alcohol either; it numbers the pain but it also dehydrates. You should be prepared with about two days of \"fuck this motherfucking canker sore\" food which you can go to if you feel one cropping up. Plain-ass meat, dull-ass bread, and cheddar cheese are my go-to foods, and maybe some unseasoned vegetables. If I really need to fill up (which is hard with a huge ass motherfucker which burns like a bitch every time I try to talk), I'll down a vanilla milkshake with a straw and rinse the shit out of my mouth afterwards.\n\nMy family all gets them too and they say Lysine helps. I've never found that to be the case for me, but others swear by it. Definitely something to consider.\n\nChanging toothpastes can't hurt. Sensodyne for me, but I definitely still get them even though my toothpaste isn't filled needless foam-creating bullshit.\n\nGood luck. Fuck canker sores.", "I got an electric toothbrush, and stepped up my brushing/flossing/mouth rinsing.\n\nI still get them very rarely, and almost always because I bit my lip or cheek, but not nearly as often as I used to.", "Garggling with Listerine when symptomatic helps numb the pain. Also, my dentist have me a prescription gel which seems to prevent the sore from growing larger if applied soon enough after symptoms appear.", "A daily dose of lysine will help. Also, taking a probiotic to boost your immune system cant hurt either. " ]

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[ "How to initiate and encourage strangers to engage in small talk with me? I'd really (like reaaally) appreciate some tips for how to get strangers to want to talk with me.\n\n I have fairly bad social anxiety and have just got a job in retail. My manager has already had words with me as I haven't been talking to costumers enough. I find it EXTREMELY hard to gather the confidence to talk and once I actually do all I come out with is ''How's it going?'' and ''Are you ok for sizes?'' \n\nCostumers either look at me and give a one worded response or just don't want to talk to me at all (Probably socially anxious themselves sometimes haha). \n\nI'm back in work in a day and I need to be able to engage costumers with small talk. I'm actually sick to my stomach now with all this. Even if I try I look like an idiot because nobody will talk with me!", "How to initiate and encourage strangers to engage in small talk with me? I'd really (like reaaally) appreciate some tips for how to get strangers to want to talk with me.\n\n I have fairly bad social anxiety and have just got a job in retail. My manager has already had words with me as I haven't been talking to costumers enough. I find it EXTREMELY hard to gather the confidence to talk and once I actually do all I come out with is ''How's it going?'' and ''Are you ok for sizes?'' \n\nCostumers either look at me and give a one worded response or just don't want to talk to me at all (Probably socially anxious themselves sometimes haha). \n\nI'm back in work in a day and I need to be able to engage costumers with small talk. I'm actually sick to my stomach now with all this. Even if I try I look like an idiot because nobody will talk with me!", "How to initiate and encourage strangers to engage in small talk with me? I'd really (like reaaally) appreciate some tips for how to get strangers to want to talk with me.\n\n I have fairly bad social anxiety and have just got a job in retail. My manager has already had words with me as I haven't been talking to costumers enough. I find it EXTREMELY hard to gather the confidence to talk and once I actually do all I come out with is ''How's it going?'' and ''Are you ok for sizes?'' \n\nCostumers either look at me and give a one worded response or just don't want to talk to me at all (Probably socially anxious themselves sometimes haha). \n\nI'm back in work in a day and I need to be able to engage costumers with small talk. I'm actually sick to my stomach now with all this. Even if I try I look like an idiot because nobody will talk with me!", "How to initiate and encourage strangers to engage in small talk with me? I'd really (like reaaally) appreciate some tips for how to get strangers to want to talk with me.\n\n I have fairly bad social anxiety and have just got a job in retail. My manager has already had words with me as I haven't been talking to costumers enough. I find it EXTREMELY hard to gather the confidence to talk and once I actually do all I come out with is ''How's it going?'' and ''Are you ok for sizes?'' \n\nCostumers either look at me and give a one worded response or just don't want to talk to me at all (Probably socially anxious themselves sometimes haha). \n\nI'm back in work in a day and I need to be able to engage costumers with small talk. I'm actually sick to my stomach now with all this. Even if I try I look like an idiot because nobody will talk with me!", "How to initiate and encourage strangers to engage in small talk with me? I'd really (like reaaally) appreciate some tips for how to get strangers to want to talk with me.\n\n I have fairly bad social anxiety and have just got a job in retail. My manager has already had words with me as I haven't been talking to costumers enough. I find it EXTREMELY hard to gather the confidence to talk and once I actually do all I come out with is ''How's it going?'' and ''Are you ok for sizes?'' \n\nCostumers either look at me and give a one worded response or just don't want to talk to me at all (Probably socially anxious themselves sometimes haha). \n\nI'm back in work in a day and I need to be able to engage costumers with small talk. I'm actually sick to my stomach now with all this. Even if I try I look like an idiot because nobody will talk with me!", "How to initiate and encourage strangers to engage in small talk with me? I'd really (like reaaally) appreciate some tips for how to get strangers to want to talk with me.\n\n I have fairly bad social anxiety and have just got a job in retail. My manager has already had words with me as I haven't been talking to costumers enough. I find it EXTREMELY hard to gather the confidence to talk and once I actually do all I come out with is ''How's it going?'' and ''Are you ok for sizes?'' \n\nCostumers either look at me and give a one worded response or just don't want to talk to me at all (Probably socially anxious themselves sometimes haha). \n\nI'm back in work in a day and I need to be able to engage costumers with small talk. I'm actually sick to my stomach now with all this. Even if I try I look like an idiot because nobody will talk with me!", "How to initiate and encourage strangers to engage in small talk with me? I'd really (like reaaally) appreciate some tips for how to get strangers to want to talk with me.\n\n I have fairly bad social anxiety and have just got a job in retail. My manager has already had words with me as I haven't been talking to costumers enough. I find it EXTREMELY hard to gather the confidence to talk and once I actually do all I come out with is ''How's it going?'' and ''Are you ok for sizes?'' \n\nCostumers either look at me and give a one worded response or just don't want to talk to me at all (Probably socially anxious themselves sometimes haha). \n\nI'm back in work in a day and I need to be able to engage costumers with small talk. I'm actually sick to my stomach now with all this. Even if I try I look like an idiot because nobody will talk with me!", "How to initiate and encourage strangers to engage in small talk with me? I'd really (like reaaally) appreciate some tips for how to get strangers to want to talk with me.\n\n I have fairly bad social anxiety and have just got a job in retail. My manager has already had words with me as I haven't been talking to costumers enough. I find it EXTREMELY hard to gather the confidence to talk and once I actually do all I come out with is ''How's it going?'' and ''Are you ok for sizes?'' \n\nCostumers either look at me and give a one worded response or just don't want to talk to me at all (Probably socially anxious themselves sometimes haha). \n\nI'm back in work in a day and I need to be able to engage costumers with small talk. I'm actually sick to my stomach now with all this. Even if I try I look like an idiot because nobody will talk with me!", "How to initiate and encourage strangers to engage in small talk with me? I'd really (like reaaally) appreciate some tips for how to get strangers to want to talk with me.\n\n I have fairly bad social anxiety and have just got a job in retail. My manager has already had words with me as I haven't been talking to costumers enough. I find it EXTREMELY hard to gather the confidence to talk and once I actually do all I come out with is ''How's it going?'' and ''Are you ok for sizes?'' \n\nCostumers either look at me and give a one worded response or just don't want to talk to me at all (Probably socially anxious themselves sometimes haha). \n\nI'm back in work in a day and I need to be able to engage costumers with small talk. I'm actually sick to my stomach now with all this. Even if I try I look like an idiot because nobody will talk with me!", "How to initiate and encourage strangers to engage in small talk with me? I'd really (like reaaally) appreciate some tips for how to get strangers to want to talk with me.\n\n I have fairly bad social anxiety and have just got a job in retail. My manager has already had words with me as I haven't been talking to costumers enough. I find it EXTREMELY hard to gather the confidence to talk and once I actually do all I come out with is ''How's it going?'' and ''Are you ok for sizes?'' \n\nCostumers either look at me and give a one worded response or just don't want to talk to me at all (Probably socially anxious themselves sometimes haha). \n\nI'm back in work in a day and I need to be able to engage costumers with small talk. I'm actually sick to my stomach now with all this. Even if I try I look like an idiot because nobody will talk with me!" ]

[ "Have you ever heard about the 3 second rule? It's an imaginary rule you can follow to engage with strangers. If you see someone you'd like to speak with. Approach them interact with them within three seconds of seeing them to avoid over-thinking the situation. It's also great because it prevents you from getting caught staring.\nMost people feel exactly the same as you do, especially at parties, gatherings or whatever. They want to fit in. If you can make them feel like they fit in they'll basically like you from the get-go.", "Listen to your coworkers. You will hear them open with the same three things over and over again. Just say what they say. Build a little story or canned conversations. Once you say them enough times they will be natural. \n\nIf you screw it up, it won't be any more awkward than it is now.\n\nhttp://www.imdb.com/title/tt0129290/", "remember to make eye contact occasionally- you dont need to stare, if you find this difficult, look at the bridge of their nose. \n\nSmile\n\nMatch and mirror their body language (google this and watch some stuff on youtube..it works very very well)..\n\npretend to be confident in your body language, even if you don't feel it...fake it until you make it..confident body language is eye contact, standing tall and relaxed. \n\nAsk open questions, ie questions that don't have a one word answer. Rather than 'Can I help you?' to which the customer can say yes or no.. ask ' How is the world treating you today? ' ( that can be a one word answer, so have a follow up) 'so what can I help you with?' Typically open questions start with 'what' or 'how'...\n\nSome customers will not want you there as they will always feel anxious or pressurised. You could try 'hey can I show you this cool feature on this device' \n\ncompliments are always good, as someone said below, 'cool sunglasses/shoes/hat/whatever...I was thinking of getting one, what do you think of it' ...people are always flattered when you ask their opinion. \n\nremember to belly breathe, if you are anxious and breathe shallowly, that will make you more anxious. A tip for learning how to do this is to lay your hand on your belly just below your belly button and imagine your breath coming in and out through your hand. Once you learn this, then you can remind yourself to do it, just before you talk to someone. \n\nWatch your own body language and try to drop your shoulders and let go of tension in your jaw, shoulders, arms...people will tend to match your body language -we all do it- and you want them nice and relaxed.\n\nif you get to the small talk part..ask them questions, plans for the weekend/holidays, A great question is 'what keeps you busy?' this is good because it avoids the embarrassment of 'what do you work at' ...'uh I have just been fired'... etc... When you ask what keeps you busy, people often talk about what they are interested in...\n\nso you can then ask more questions...and then some more..and listen to the answers, don't think about what you are going to say next...really listening is a rare and precious skill. \n\n\nI hate hate hate to recommend it, but check out some of the speed seduction stuff, not on negging or peacocking, but on confidence, approaching people, learning to deal with rejection in a way that doesn't collapse you...read that stuff whether you are a man or a woman!", "When trying to get people to chat there's one thing that always helps me. When I engage in conversation I try to always make it about the other person. If you ask questions about the other person's life ie. Work, family, their day it gets them talking. People love to talk about themselves. Stick with a couple good open ended questions. ", "Your problem isn't getting them to talk to you....it's you making an effort to talk to them. [Start reading](https://www.google.com/search?client=opera&q=the+art+of+small+talk&sourceid=opera&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8)", "When in doubt, pay a compliment. \"Nice sunglasses\" or something of that nature can get people excited and they'll likely start telling you where they got them, how much they paid etc. It's just an easy friendly way to warm up to having other casual conversations. Another good one is \"how is it out there?\" Meaning weather. You're trapped inside for hours everyday, it's late summer, you're looking forward to plans after work. You can litterally use it everyday. ", "People almost always enjoy talking about themselves, so open with your basic, \"How are you?\" and ask about them. Enjoying the weather? Enjoying your weekend? Looking forward to your weekend? Any basic question. While checking out, I would always ask if they were buying something for a special occasion, or make a comment on what they were buying.\n\nAlso, just wearing a smile can make people open up to you instantly. Try to smile even when there aren't people around.\n\nAnd if they still don't give you anything but a few words, they're probably just grumpy. But you can't take that personally, just smile and move on with your day!", "Every time I go into a store, employees always comment on my purchase such as, \"these shoes have been so popular lately, they look great.\" Maybe you could try that. It'll get easier over time :)", "\"Do you need any help finding anything?\"\n\n\"If you need any help let me know\"\n\n\"Let me know if you have any questions or are curious about any of our products\"\n\n", "Avoid asking open ended questions. If you give people a chance to answer with yes or no they will. \n\nWhere do you plan to wear that? How do you like this? What size are you looking for. Who are you shopping for? What can I find for you? " ]

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[ "How to remove dry dirt from black shoes Recently got a job and it requires black shoes, which I have. Unfortunately, the (only pair, might I add) black shoes which I have that are suitable are quite dirty. I can’t remember how it got so dirty but it’s soooo muddy! The dirt is dry, it’s hot outside (really big heatwave in England) and my shift starts in two days. How do I get rid of all of the dirt?", "How to remove dry dirt from black shoes Recently got a job and it requires black shoes, which I have. Unfortunately, the (only pair, might I add) black shoes which I have that are suitable are quite dirty. I can’t remember how it got so dirty but it’s soooo muddy! The dirt is dry, it’s hot outside (really big heatwave in England) and my shift starts in two days. How do I get rid of all of the dirt?", "How to remove dry dirt from black shoes Recently got a job and it requires black shoes, which I have. Unfortunately, the (only pair, might I add) black shoes which I have that are suitable are quite dirty. I can’t remember how it got so dirty but it’s soooo muddy! The dirt is dry, it’s hot outside (really big heatwave in England) and my shift starts in two days. How do I get rid of all of the dirt?" ]

[ "A stiff brush should do the trick. Like those kinds that come with dust pans. Then mist and rub off what's left.", "If you are saying its stuck in the cracks of the sole, just use a thin tipped object (pencil, end of a brush, toothpick) with a thin cloth over it to take it out. If its just on the leather of the shoe, can't you just wipe it off?", "Keep the shoes inside the bathroom and open the hot water faucet and let it run for an hour with the doors closed. The vapor will make the dirty moist and then, it should be easy for you to rub it off. Good luck on your job. Cheers! " ]

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[ "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! ", "How to kick my pop addiction. So as a kind of New Years resolution, I started eating healthier and all that stuff, it's going pretty well except I've had a hard time trying to stop drinking so much pop (usually 4+ cans a day). Mostly because I get such strong cravings, is there anything I can do to make stopping easier? All suggestions are appreciated! " ]

[ "Switch to seltzer. The carbonation will make it feel like you're drinking pop, making the transition easier. \n", "I make ice tea or buy ice tea. When I started craving soda, I'd grab tea. You can try this with pretty much any other favorite drink of yours. It's been probably three years since I've been off soda and I changed to water after my soda craving left. ", "Try sparkling water with lemon juice. It really does help; this coming from a Pepsi fiend. \n\nAlso, keep in mind that soda has about **10 teaspoons** of sugar per can. Try switching to **any** alternative that has much, much less sugar (say, iced tea with a teaspoon of sugar, or water with a teaspoon of Kool-Aid mix.) If you want to be off of sugary drinks for good, then eventually, you'll want to start drinking things like unsweetened tea, lemon water, etc.\n\nDon't drink diet soda. Just don't. \n\nAnd while you wean yourself off the stuff, you may need to allow yourself one soda per day for a while. It's important not to deprive yourself too severely, of you just end up binging. That said, 4 cans per day is bad, dude. You're seriously asking for ulcers and all kinds of bad things.", "The way i managed to do it was drinking clubsoda or sparkling mineral water with a wedge or 2 of lime/lemon. Refreshing as a mofo and actually quite tasty. Every once in a while (say once a month or so) I do enjoy the odd coke (more often than not it's a coke zero) but honestly I can't even remember finishing an entire can in over 5 years - half way through I just hit a wall and can't drink anymore. ", "I had this problem in the summer and it wasn't too hard to get rid of if you figure it out!\n\nWhen you open a can, DON'T DRINK DIRECTLY FROM IT. If you do, your taste buds will not enjoy it. Pour it into a cup and mix it with 25-50% of water (I used to do this when I first got diagnosed with diabetes so I didn't drink as much sugar, but it definately helps). It all tastes the same as long as you don't mix too much water.\n\nStart slow and then move up with more water each time.\n\nAlso, start buying SPRITE/SIERRA MIST/No-caffeine sodas. You're cravings will be fulfilled and later on you won't be addicted to caffeine!", "I agree with all the people advising having no carbonated drinks in the house or bought for you. \n\nGet into the habit of drinking water, I never ever drank water and I love fizzy drinks, but recently I've been making myself drink glasses of water instead. Eventually your brain will *hopefully* be like \"fuck it, may as well drink this\"\n\nEvery time you're craving a drink, maybe snack on some filling and healthy snacks like fruit. I find that fizzy drinks seriously bloat me out and fill me up, if I was already full I wouldn't need to drink one and I wouldn't feel like I wanted it.\n\nI hope you kick the habit! Although I must say I don't think there's anything wrong with \"treating\" yourself to an ice cold coke on the ODD occasion :)", "Don't surround yourself with carbonated beverages. Instead, stock your house with water bottles. Any time you find yourself wanting soda, drink a bottle of water. ", "Whenever you get a craving, take a shot or two of vegetable juice. The stuff is mostly tomato, so it tastes like pizza sauce, but won't give you diabetes.", "Start brewing tea, especially flavorful herbals. You can make it iced tea, too! Since I started drinking tea, my pop habit has greatly decreased ", "Look through [these photos](https://www.google.com/search?hl=en&amp;tbo=d&amp;biw=320&amp;bih=504&amp;tbm=isch&amp;sa=1&amp;q=fat+old+people&amp;oq=fat+old+people&amp;gs_l=mobile-gws-serp.12...5075.8664.0.10293.14.14.0.0.0.0.100.997.13j1.14.0...0.0...1ac.1.H2rNmvb04aM#p=0) while thinking about diabetes and how bad it would be to have your foot cut off for a can of crap.", "Just don't do it! After 2 weeks you develop a reactive taste against soda, and your face reacts its almost like evolution ", "In many parts of Texas. Any soda can be referred to as coke. But anyway just drink tons of water, eventually you will just be used to grabbing water over coke", "I stopped my habit by stocking up on different types of tea, 0 calories and there are some really good flavors out there, also try to get some decaf so you can sleep at night", "I keep a Pur 18 cup water dispenser on the counter next to my fridge. First thing in the morning, I take a glass out of the cupboard, fill it with water and have a drink. I then set it on the counter next to the dispenser. As I keep soda in the fridge, I tell myself to have a glass of the water that is there first and then wait and see if I want a soda after a few minutes.\n\n\nI've also been declining fountain soda (well, fast food in general) if I go out. If I want a soda that much, I can have one at home.\n\n\nYou may not be able to go \"cold turkey\" and that is okay. I've tried that, I've tried water bottles, but this is what worked for me. You need to see what works best for you.", "I had the same resolution. I have a fridge full of pop cans and I just stopped drinking them. Find alternative drinks like water or tea, it worked for me.", "I drank at least 3 20 oz bottles a day. Haven't had but maybe 2 or 3 soda's since September. I drink a lot of water. And I use Crystal Light caffeine packets if I am really craving caffeine. I also drink V8 Fusion energy. It is delicious and has fruits and vegetables in it. ", "Grow some balls and ignore the cravings. It's really hard but helps building self discipline which is really usefull in EVERY aspect of life.", "First things first: Switch to the sugarfree version. This will immediately arrest the health problems associated with consuming that much sugar.\n\nSecondly: Substitute for other (artificially) sweetened beverages, e.g., tea with sweetener in it. This changes the behaviours associated with those drinks.\n\nAlso, switch from strongly coloured drinks (coke/pepsi/etc) to lightly coloured ones (e.g., lemonade). Think of the colour of your teeth.", "Find a better sugar drink alternative. Water would be a good choice, but I doubt it would satisfy your craving for long. Go with some sort of natural fruit juice that doesn't have additional sweeteners.", "Cans are ridiculously convenient, if you switch to bottles or force yourself to pour it from the can into a glass and use ice then you'll have more time to think about what you are doing and you'll get rid of the urge to drink them. I used to go through a 24 pack in a week until I reliesed I was drinking half of them just becuase I was too lazy to pour a glass of water. (1-2 bottles a week now) ", "1. Buy a large water bottle\n2. Fill with water\n3. You may drink one soda, but you can't have another till you finish the water bottle.\n\nI've done this the past couple weeks and it's worked pretty well. This way the soda is sort of a reward for drinking all the water. ", "1) Find other things to drink. Sounds silly but, even juices (apple, oj) or lemonade, crystal light, koolaid, something flavored will help.\n\n2) Stop buying it. I don't know if you can control this where you live, but now that I live on my own I finally kicked the habit by just not buying it. When I was living at home, my parents would bring back pop and of course I would drink it then. Now, I don't even allow myself the option.\n\nI slipped and bought a really good deal on some 12 packs. After not having pop for a long time, I realized how bad my habit was when it was available. I couldn't walk by the fridge without getting one.", "I don't think you are addicted to pop itself. I'm *pretty* sure caffeine is a drug and that is what your your having cravings for. It's not really helping you but this is **probably** a really **bad** idea but try seeing if you have the same \"craving\" when you drink coffee or something else that has caffeine? \n\nEverything I probably said is wrong but you can look into it.\n\n", "stop drinking pop. that's how to kick your pop addiction. just stop drinking it. there is no cure-all... we're such babies in our society. how do you stop drinking pop? stop drinking pop. it's not that hard" ]

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[ "How to stop thinking that everyone is smarter than me I always have this problem. In almost every situation I find myself in, I think that everyone is smarter than me and it is becoming a pain in the ass.", "How to stop thinking that everyone is smarter than me I always have this problem. In almost every situation I find myself in, I think that everyone is smarter than me and it is becoming a pain in the ass.", "How to stop thinking that everyone is smarter than me I always have this problem. In almost every situation I find myself in, I think that everyone is smarter than me and it is becoming a pain in the ass.", "How to stop thinking that everyone is smarter than me I always have this problem. In almost every situation I find myself in, I think that everyone is smarter than me and it is becoming a pain in the ass.", "How to stop thinking that everyone is smarter than me I always have this problem. In almost every situation I find myself in, I think that everyone is smarter than me and it is becoming a pain in the ass.", "How to stop thinking that everyone is smarter than me I always have this problem. In almost every situation I find myself in, I think that everyone is smarter than me and it is becoming a pain in the ass.", "How to stop thinking that everyone is smarter than me I always have this problem. In almost every situation I find myself in, I think that everyone is smarter than me and it is becoming a pain in the ass." ]

[ "Some people have to be less smart than everyone else. I can't say for sureA, but you might just be correct.", "I had this same problem a few years ago. I always doubted myself but I over came it. Now I'm a much happier person.\nNow... I know this sounds so stupid and cynical but I promise you it works! You just need to keep saying to yourself \"I am the best\", \"I am everything I want to be\" etc. All postivite sayings. I really want you to do that, it really does work. The more you say it, the more it will eventually manifest into reality. It's the Law of the Universe. Please give it a shot.", "My advice to you would be to actually listen to what people are saying, and you will soon start to notice how downright retarded a lot of people are.\n\nAnd it does not really matter where you are either, even tho the chances of people showing off their stupidity goes up quite a lot when being drunk.\n\nNow i started thinking about a special retard that i had the displeasure of meeting a while ago, she thought that it was perfectly fair and alright that women gets extra points to (almost all) engineering educations, and did not at all understand why i thought that was so wrong on so many levels to discriminate people based on their gender, and to these extremes as well, the worse part was that it seemed that she was proud of getting these extra points because she has a pussy... \n\nAnd this same woman did not understand why a object starts to fall down after reaching maximum height, no matter how much explanation she received!\n\nI know i am not perfect myself, and there are very smart people out there in the world, but after all the bullshitry and down right retarded people i have seen and meet, you must be a very special kind of stupid to even get close to some of them!", "Get a cognitive evaluation. It is a series of tests that basically probe almost every part of your brain. People that say their brain hurts from \"thinking\" don't know squat till they have endured one of these evaluations.\n\nAs such, I have documented proof of my intelligence level. (Well above average, thanks!)", "Fake it til you make it. What do smart people typically do? Read books, have intelligent conversation with people instead of talking about Snookie, unsubscribe to /r/funny and subscribe to /r/askscience. You are likely smarter than you give yourself cr", "Become a software developer, we're smarter than everyone else... Or a physics major, but learning JS is easier than the universe secrets.", "If possible, spending 5-15 minutes googling the subject of X situation you're going into might be helpful." ]

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[ "how to suggest something without sounding critical? I have high expectations of myself and other people around me, and hope people can do the best they can. When I talk to people, I find myself often go into a \"critical mode\" to suggest how something can be improved. It usually comes out sounding like a criticism, and the other person may become defensive and less willing to discuss openly with me next time. In the case of my girlfriend, she thinks I'm always trying to prove her wrong whenever I suggest an alternative, which stresses her out. Is there a better to convince people about my view point and motivate them to do better without sounding too critical or hard to please?", "how to suggest something without sounding critical? I have high expectations of myself and other people around me, and hope people can do the best they can. When I talk to people, I find myself often go into a \"critical mode\" to suggest how something can be improved. It usually comes out sounding like a criticism, and the other person may become defensive and less willing to discuss openly with me next time. In the case of my girlfriend, she thinks I'm always trying to prove her wrong whenever I suggest an alternative, which stresses her out. Is there a better to convince people about my view point and motivate them to do better without sounding too critical or hard to please?", "how to suggest something without sounding critical? I have high expectations of myself and other people around me, and hope people can do the best they can. When I talk to people, I find myself often go into a \"critical mode\" to suggest how something can be improved. It usually comes out sounding like a criticism, and the other person may become defensive and less willing to discuss openly with me next time. In the case of my girlfriend, she thinks I'm always trying to prove her wrong whenever I suggest an alternative, which stresses her out. Is there a better to convince people about my view point and motivate them to do better without sounding too critical or hard to please?", "how to suggest something without sounding critical? I have high expectations of myself and other people around me, and hope people can do the best they can. When I talk to people, I find myself often go into a \"critical mode\" to suggest how something can be improved. It usually comes out sounding like a criticism, and the other person may become defensive and less willing to discuss openly with me next time. In the case of my girlfriend, she thinks I'm always trying to prove her wrong whenever I suggest an alternative, which stresses her out. Is there a better to convince people about my view point and motivate them to do better without sounding too critical or hard to please?", "how to suggest something without sounding critical? I have high expectations of myself and other people around me, and hope people can do the best they can. When I talk to people, I find myself often go into a \"critical mode\" to suggest how something can be improved. It usually comes out sounding like a criticism, and the other person may become defensive and less willing to discuss openly with me next time. In the case of my girlfriend, she thinks I'm always trying to prove her wrong whenever I suggest an alternative, which stresses her out. Is there a better to convince people about my view point and motivate them to do better without sounding too critical or hard to please?", "how to suggest something without sounding critical? I have high expectations of myself and other people around me, and hope people can do the best they can. When I talk to people, I find myself often go into a \"critical mode\" to suggest how something can be improved. It usually comes out sounding like a criticism, and the other person may become defensive and less willing to discuss openly with me next time. In the case of my girlfriend, she thinks I'm always trying to prove her wrong whenever I suggest an alternative, which stresses her out. Is there a better to convince people about my view point and motivate them to do better without sounding too critical or hard to please?" ]

[ ">\"Can I make a suggestion?\"\n\n>\"Sure, go ahead\"\n\n Suggestion\n\n\n\n>\"Can I make a suggestion\"\n\n>\"Some form of No\"\n\n Do not make suggestion", "Reinforce that what they have done is good, and say something along the lines of \"good job, what would happen if you tried...? \", or, \"how would... Affect the outcome?\" that is how I usually go about it", "LPT: Just don't make suggestions to people unless they're actually ASKING for your advice, or they're about to hurt or kill themselves or others. I'm with your girlfriend on this. It's super annoying. Just let people do things the way they want, unless you're their boss or parent. ", "How you deliver is half the battle, don't sound all high and mighty, politeness is key. Also survey the situation if he/she looks like they are asking for comments and suggestions and act appropriately to it.", "As a behavior analyst and student counselor, I suggest immediately to stop offering advice unless it is specifically requested. People talk to you to be heard. People are smart enough to fix their problems. People want empathy and validation for how they are feeling more than to be told how to change. Also, what makes you think you have the right to tell others how to live? Having high expectations for yourself is fine. If you have a standard for what you want in your life that is fine. But expecting other people to come up to your standard because you think you know what is best is not fine. You can choose to not have people in your life who do not meet your standard and in turn those people get to decide if they want to meet your standard or walk away. \n\nI am a critical person. I was raised by a critical person. What I just wrote to you is some of the most valuable information I have learned in my education. You will be amazed at how much people blossom when you offer empathy over advice. ", "Acknowledge what is already done, then state how it can be improved. When giving advice try separate the person from the object in question, and engage on how to solve that problem with the person. Most people take things critically because they feel targeted, so move to eliminate them from the equation and try to focus on the real object. \n\nBut really most of the time some one becomes defensive its not about what is stated, its how it is said. " ]

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[ "Opening a stuck mason jar that was sealed at a lower altitude. I had someone ship me some preserves and salsa in mason jars. The problem is that they are near sea level and I am over a mile high. Any suggestions to get the lid open without damaging the jar/lid or contents?", "Opening a stuck mason jar that was sealed at a lower altitude. I had someone ship me some preserves and salsa in mason jars. The problem is that they are near sea level and I am over a mile high. Any suggestions to get the lid open without damaging the jar/lid or contents?", "Opening a stuck mason jar that was sealed at a lower altitude. I had someone ship me some preserves and salsa in mason jars. The problem is that they are near sea level and I am over a mile high. Any suggestions to get the lid open without damaging the jar/lid or contents?", "Opening a stuck mason jar that was sealed at a lower altitude. I had someone ship me some preserves and salsa in mason jars. The problem is that they are near sea level and I am over a mile high. Any suggestions to get the lid open without damaging the jar/lid or contents?", "Opening a stuck mason jar that was sealed at a lower altitude. I had someone ship me some preserves and salsa in mason jars. The problem is that they are near sea level and I am over a mile high. Any suggestions to get the lid open without damaging the jar/lid or contents?", "Opening a stuck mason jar that was sealed at a lower altitude. I had someone ship me some preserves and salsa in mason jars. The problem is that they are near sea level and I am over a mile high. Any suggestions to get the lid open without damaging the jar/lid or contents?", "Opening a stuck mason jar that was sealed at a lower altitude. I had someone ship me some preserves and salsa in mason jars. The problem is that they are near sea level and I am over a mile high. Any suggestions to get the lid open without damaging the jar/lid or contents?", "Opening a stuck mason jar that was sealed at a lower altitude. I had someone ship me some preserves and salsa in mason jars. The problem is that they are near sea level and I am over a mile high. Any suggestions to get the lid open without damaging the jar/lid or contents?" ]

[ "Run the edges of the lid under hot water and use the rubber band trick mentioned earlier. Worked great with pickles that were jarred at sea level and brought back to Montana.", "Use a spoon as a lever under the edge of the rim to break the seal. Just need to lift it enough to let in a bit of air. If you hear the \"shwooo-POP\" you've done it. ", "refrigerate the jar \n\nThe cold makes the molecules contract and should relieve some of the pressure inside.\n\nalso, I have heard that putting a rubber band around the screw top makes it easier to turn, if you cant get that off.", "I use the handle of a wooden spoon to hit around the edge if the lid. That usually loosens it up for me in Denver.", "As suggested before, run the lid under hot water to cause the metal to expand, which should let you unscrew the screw-top,then take a butter knife and use that to lever off the plate. If you damage the lid in the process simply get an empty mason jar and use the top from that.", "i just take something flat (butter knife) and push up on the bottom of the lip until it finally relents .. bottle cap remover on folding wine opener will usually break the seal too", "Warm up the lid by running it under warm water for a bit to loosen it. Make sure your hands are clean and dry, and so is the jar. If you have rubber gloves or something grippy, use that so your hands won't slip. Use steady pressure to try opening the jar with the extra grip.\n\nIf that doesn't work, find something to clamp the lid and hold it still - a padded bench clamp works best, or locate a friend to hold it (don't do it so tight you warp the lid, it'll be impossible to get off). Twist the jar, not the lid, it gives you more surface area to hold on to. Make sure you keep it upright or stop before you get the lid off completely or you'll have salsa all over the floor.", "Canned goods I believe are sealed by getting a very low pressure in the can. So altitude makes it easier. And there are two parts to the lid. The threaded ring is reusable, the actual lid is not (on the ones I've seen anyways). Just pry the edge up a little and you're golden" ]

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[ "How to not be paranoid regarding how people feel about me? I'm always terrified that i'm hated. and my mood completely can 180 in an instant if i even slightly think that somebody doesn't like me. I can go from completely ecstatic to depressed and bummed out, just by thinking that somebody hates me. \n \nRight now, it's mainly my brother and sister. I feel like i can't even have opinions anymore. at home or anywhere. because any time i state how i feel, i just get shit on. Home, reddit, anywhere. \n \nI'm just tired of being depressed ", "How to not be paranoid regarding how people feel about me? I'm always terrified that i'm hated. and my mood completely can 180 in an instant if i even slightly think that somebody doesn't like me. I can go from completely ecstatic to depressed and bummed out, just by thinking that somebody hates me. \n \nRight now, it's mainly my brother and sister. I feel like i can't even have opinions anymore. at home or anywhere. because any time i state how i feel, i just get shit on. Home, reddit, anywhere. \n \nI'm just tired of being depressed " ]

[ "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Get some of that.\n\nIn a nut shell you change how you think about things and your feelings will change.\n\nTry thinking \"People are so wrapped up in their own shit that they aren't really feeling/thinking anything about me at all. I am invisible unless I grab attention.\"\n\nSomething like that.", "Get tested for depression or bipolar disorder. I have the same thing and it's much better now I'm medicated. When I have break-through depression, though, that's exactly how I feel; everyone hates me." ]

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[ "Things to look for when looking round a house. My friends and I are going to be looking at some houses this weekend for living in next year at university. Are there any things we should be wary of when looking around a house?\n", "Things to look for when looking round a house. My friends and I are going to be looking at some houses this weekend for living in next year at university. Are there any things we should be wary of when looking around a house?\n", "Things to look for when looking round a house. My friends and I are going to be looking at some houses this weekend for living in next year at university. Are there any things we should be wary of when looking around a house?\n", "Things to look for when looking round a house. My friends and I are going to be looking at some houses this weekend for living in next year at university. Are there any things we should be wary of when looking around a house?\n" ]

[ "Try to park your car in the garage if possible (assuming they have one). If the house isn't furnished, pretend that it is and where everything would be. I would also recommend a professional inspector. And assume at least one big thing older than 10 - 15 years will need to be replaced by you at some point (roof, furnace, water heater) - assuming you will be staying there for 4+ years.", "Is it next to a bayou (will it flood?)? \nIs the driveway to steep to get the snow off safely? \nIs the backyard full of dog poop? \n", "For your sanity, try to find a house with a dishwasher! It will avoid so many fights. Having more than one bathroom is a must, so two people can be throwing up at once without having to share a toilet:) since you are renting and you are young, I wouldn't worry too much about the house being super nice, but keep an eye out for evidence of pests, obvious neglect, etc. Try to talk to the current tenants away from the earshot of the landlord to hear their experiences with them, many college town landlords are slumlords who scoop up a bunch of houses and rent them to college kids who are less likely to complain or take legal action against inhospitable living conditions. Some are great and take pride in their houses, I've rented from both kinds. My best experiences with landlords came from gentlemen who lived in the same neighborhood as their rental property, one lived a block away, one lived next door and my current lives in the same building. \n\n", "Knock on the walls (knock knock) if the walls knock back... you've got a [poltergeist!](http://static.ddmcdn.com/gif/meet-the-creatures-poltergeist0.jpg) " ]

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[ "One Day Off I'm a guy in my early 20s, and the idea of working for someone in a 9-5 job is completely out of my scope, I want to open my own small business and grow it up, I'm really hustling to make something work for me.\n\nWith that said, I'm getting really exhausted and my energy is getting burned out because I'm working all day and sleeping 6-7 hours a day.\n\nI'm thinking about taking a day off every week, which I must not get near my PC or any other thing that relates to my work, but I can't convince myself to not take advantage of 10-15 hours every week, that's 40-60 hours per month not doing anything!!\n\nCan anyone give me some advice on how I can take a break and not feel guilty about the time I'm specifying for it? and what is the best way to take a break? everyday or every other day or every week?", "One Day Off I'm a guy in my early 20s, and the idea of working for someone in a 9-5 job is completely out of my scope, I want to open my own small business and grow it up, I'm really hustling to make something work for me.\n\nWith that said, I'm getting really exhausted and my energy is getting burned out because I'm working all day and sleeping 6-7 hours a day.\n\nI'm thinking about taking a day off every week, which I must not get near my PC or any other thing that relates to my work, but I can't convince myself to not take advantage of 10-15 hours every week, that's 40-60 hours per month not doing anything!!\n\nCan anyone give me some advice on how I can take a break and not feel guilty about the time I'm specifying for it? and what is the best way to take a break? everyday or every other day or every week?", "One Day Off I'm a guy in my early 20s, and the idea of working for someone in a 9-5 job is completely out of my scope, I want to open my own small business and grow it up, I'm really hustling to make something work for me.\n\nWith that said, I'm getting really exhausted and my energy is getting burned out because I'm working all day and sleeping 6-7 hours a day.\n\nI'm thinking about taking a day off every week, which I must not get near my PC or any other thing that relates to my work, but I can't convince myself to not take advantage of 10-15 hours every week, that's 40-60 hours per month not doing anything!!\n\nCan anyone give me some advice on how I can take a break and not feel guilty about the time I'm specifying for it? and what is the best way to take a break? everyday or every other day or every week?" ]

[ "If you want to own your own small business, start by taking some business school courses. A good business startup has a solid business plan that allows for people getting sick and for days off for everyone in the business. If you can’t do this, your business isn’t sustainable no matter how many hours you pour into it.", "you cant spend 40-50 hours a week working towards someone elses goals then when you clock out, dont spend any time working towards your own. You arent tired youre uninspired\n\nquote by some smart motivational speaker-\n\nfind your why. Then allocate your time properly. In 24 hours on a day off you can relax and recharge. But put at least 1 measly hour towards your own stuff. Just one little hour. If you cant do that, then you dont deserve to improve your situation.", "That 10-15 hours a week is an investment in yourself. It’s to prevent your burnout and can even help give you a fresh perspective on your work when you revisit it. I would recommend going to new places, trying new things, or just spend time doing something you really enjoy." ]

[ 8, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to act/behave when working with a famous person? Due to work in the event sector, it's happened to me on a few occasions that I got to work with local/national/international famous persons, but I'm never sure on how to act.\n\nWhat's the best way to behave/act while working with them? Do I try to small talk? Do I try to talk to them as few as possible?\nObviously it's best to just be yourself on a professional level, but even when I'm a huge fan of this person, do I tell them?", "How to act/behave when working with a famous person? Due to work in the event sector, it's happened to me on a few occasions that I got to work with local/national/international famous persons, but I'm never sure on how to act.\n\nWhat's the best way to behave/act while working with them? Do I try to small talk? Do I try to talk to them as few as possible?\nObviously it's best to just be yourself on a professional level, but even when I'm a huge fan of this person, do I tell them?", "How to act/behave when working with a famous person? Due to work in the event sector, it's happened to me on a few occasions that I got to work with local/national/international famous persons, but I'm never sure on how to act.\n\nWhat's the best way to behave/act while working with them? Do I try to small talk? Do I try to talk to them as few as possible?\nObviously it's best to just be yourself on a professional level, but even when I'm a huge fan of this person, do I tell them?", "How to act/behave when working with a famous person? Due to work in the event sector, it's happened to me on a few occasions that I got to work with local/national/international famous persons, but I'm never sure on how to act.\n\nWhat's the best way to behave/act while working with them? Do I try to small talk? Do I try to talk to them as few as possible?\nObviously it's best to just be yourself on a professional level, but even when I'm a huge fan of this person, do I tell them?" ]

[ "Never understood why people feel the need to rehearse and act differently around famous people. \n\nMy advice is to talk to them as if you were at a social event and went up to talk to a complete stranger, it's no different. If you're a big fan I think it's fine to mention it, but don't focus or linger on the fact. Be a human and treat them like one.", "Many famous people actually start to hate that everyone treats them differently... You make them the happiest if you handle them just as any other stragner you are working with... They are just normal people, wanting to be treated normally, and not constantly reminded, that they are \"different\"... (and even though many people say that beeing \"positively\" different is great, it's not, it is as terrible as any other kind of large differentnes)", "Just act like they are another co worker. They really appreciate it. If you feel the need, tell them you think they're talented, but don't go on and on about how \"I'm you biggest fan!\"", "If you are an employee or security, don't approach them. Your job isn't to mingle. Stay professional and give them a break." ]

[ 3, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?", "How to avoid giving personal info in small talk situations without being awkward? So, I was a kid that didn’t get adopted so I have no family except abusive foster people and I had a divorce and a close friend just died 2 weeks ago and I live 2k miles away from my friends. I am generally happy, grateful, and I’m doing well in my career, but because of all of this I don’t often have basic experiences that somebody engaging in Smalltalk will have had.\n\nI get caught like a deer in headlights and I either reveal the truth which people shrink away from or I act weird to try to get them to stop talking to me about this but ultimately it doesn’t work. Like, I’m dreading the “what did you do for Christmas?“ questions already.\n\nAre there places where I can learn elegant ways to sidestep these questions without revealing the above in a conversation which will obviously repel new friends? \n\nTL;DR: How to reveal less about myself in small talk without making the person feel like I’m telling them to stop talking to me?" ]

[ "Hi there, I'm really sorry about everything you've been through, and totally understand why you don't want to answer these questions. The good news is, there is a very easy pivot: make a very quick non-committal answer, and return the question in a very I-am-so-interested way back to the other person. Mostly you just need to remember this phrase: What about you??\n\nHere are some examples, not scripts but just meant as guideposts for how this might sound.\n\n-How was your Christmas?\n-Oh you know, Christmassy. What about you?? Anything extra exciting or fun happen at your house? What present was the biggest hit?\n\n-[Question about your family that you don't want to answer].\n-We're not close./Eh, not much to say there. What about you?? Is your family local? Got any exciting characters in your family tree?\n\n-[Question about your love life status]\n-Not much to report./Divorced, which was as fun as it sounds./Oh definitely not looking right now. What about you?? Got anyone special? Any especially good dating stories?\n\nBasically give your conversation partner a way to take the deflection and keep the conversation going in a funny or interesting way that is still relevant to what they originally asked, but that doesn't require you talk about stuff that you don't want to. You got this!", "First, I’m so sorry for the loss you are suffering, and so impressed by your resilience. It should be easy enough to do two things: 1. Steer the conversation to the other party, by 2. Saying “like most I have just been trying to get through this pandemic, what about you?” Then let them talk. Ask inane questions about their lives until you get them going on a story. \n\nBe well.", "Relatable post. I don’t have any advice. I wish people like us had a secret signal to recognize each other in the wild, upon which we’d give a knowing smile and nod, no further details needed.", "I’m a home health nurse. The conversations get awkward quick because we spend so much one on one time with them in their homes. They grow to think of us as friends/family and want to know our lives but it’s important to keep professional boundaries. I give very generic answers like “Oh you know, just relaxing” or “Same old stuff this time of year, glad the weathers been nice” then immediately turn it back onto them. Most people like to talk about themselves so even the simplest question about their home or weekend will keep them talking for a while.", "People most of all like to talk about themselves. So if they ask you \"What did you do for Christmas?\" what they usually want is to tell you about their amazing Christmas after not really caring for whatever you say, so just answer: \"Nothing special, how about you?\". Probably they'll immediately enter a 5 minute monologue and will appreciate you as a good listener.", "I wasn’t able to be with family (no need to further elaborate) so I enjoyed some down time to recharge my batteries. The others are spot on: ask them questions and you’re off the hook!\nYou sound resilient and have good emotional intelligence. Family isn’t necessarily a blood relation. Find your tribe - even if it’s only one or two other people.", "First off, continue to love yourself. You have come a long way, in a situation in which others succumb to the trials of life. Your obvious journey of self improvement led you to this moment. Own it. Walk confidently knowing you are trying harder than most.\n\nSecond, there is no Normal... Awkward is a term people use to describe the unfamiliar. \n\nYou are wired the way you are, just because you divulge who you are, tells me personally, you have self love. You don't hide from your story, and you should not. Ever. \n\nNow, because of social norms (not normal, just familiar to most), you ask what tips the world has?\n\nDon't listen to respond, listen to understand. It's ok to be mysterious; hold onto some of your self identity... Not that people shouldn't know, but ask yourself does the person you are speaking to, DESERVE to know? Be the journey of discovery that someone wants to take in search of deeper relationships. Smile back when people ask questions.. you'll disarm them with their own curiosity.\n\nMost people LOVE to talk about themselves, so it's not outside human nature. Treat your story like a book, let others turn the page as they go... And as they do so, tell them. \n\nYou are the only version of YOU that exists in the entire world; as such, you are remarkable. Don't EVER stop being.", "“I don’t have family nearby, so I stayed home and did XYZ this year - what did you do?” is a truthful, low info response that keeps the conversation moving.", "Read books and newspapers. I’ve had this problem and reading and listening to NPR has expanded my small talk so much.", "I was a trauma over sharer forever. I'd just think up things you're comfortable sharing ahead of time. It's ok to pause and think about how you want to respond", "Ask them further questions when they share about themselves or expand on a subject they mention. Most people will talk about themselves for days without noticing the imbalance of sharing, at least from my experience.", "The deflection with a question can come across precisely as a deflection and evasive for some.\nI really dislike having such a one way exchange, gives me the impression that the other person is trying to extract information from me rather than having a genuine conversation. \n\nPerhaps try building on the short+harmless reply and move the conversation forward to more comfortable subjects:\n\n- how was Christmas/how's the family?\n- all good, watched too much TV, really looking forward to better weather and more time on the bike\n\n- not too bad, looking forward to the new year. already thinking about my next vacation /project/sportball season/etc. \n\nGood luck :)", "Generic and boring works for me. Ex: What did you do for Christmas? Answer: Oh, like usual. Binged some movies and ate too much./ Finally spent some time with a friend I haven't seen in a while. / Took some time for myself to just relax. / Not much. You?\n\nIt doesn't have to be necessarily true or very detailed. Engage evasive maneuvers then redirect the subject by asking them about themselves.", "15 years ago I moved 2000 miles from where I grew up. I had a very rough childhood and there's all kinds of drama going back generations. Just be vague. The following phrases may help. \n\n\"It's not worth talking about.\"\n\n\"I don't have much family.\"\n\n\"Let's not get into that right now.\"\n\n\"We don't know each other well enough to have that conversation yet.\"", "In my experience people love to talk about themselves if you ask good questions. You could think of a couple of good experiences beforehand to share about yourself, but good questions is usually better if you don't want to share.", "You can be honest without being specific. \"It's been a difficult time, thank you. It means a lot for you to ask. Tell me how you have been.\" The holidays are a difficult time for many people.", "The normal solution is to turn the conversation around and ask them questions, either about themself or about their opinion on general non-controversial topics.\n\nLately there is another solution, just sadly admit that your life has been on hold for a few years.", "Such a great question!! I just want to say that I can relate. There are a lot of things I don’t want to discuss for good reason. Yet they are the typical things people ask right off the bat. Eg. What do you do? Well I don’t want to say that I work in a healthcare role in which my clients are routinely abusive, that I hate very much, am burnt out and urgently looking for a career alternative. Even if I say the broad field I work in, they seem fascinated and want to talk about it, but it reminds me of the thing I most want and need to to forget. Anyhow, will be reading the responses with interest.", "If it's not someone who needs to know about my life, I just say something like \"I had a relaxing day! It was so nice to have the day off work. How about you?\"\n\nMost people asking \"How was your holiday?\" aren't trying to pry out secrets or get to know you intimately, they're just making polite small talk. Make polite small talk back.", "Great conversaltionalists have the preturnatural ability to offer anecdotes about themselves that aren't bragging, I.e. Self deprecating. They also have a preturnatural ability to ask open ended questions and truly listen.\n\nUnless you wish to not relive any of your past, I'm sure there are 4-5 stories from your past you can polish up to give a glimpse into your past without revealing more than you choose. Practice and rehearse those things so they are second nature.\n\nGreat open ended questions provide a great way to deflect attention and conversation away from you.\n\n\"I stayed here for Christmas. Just did my thing. Did you do anything fun? Tell me about fun traditions you have\"\n\n", "It’s ok to talk about it. But you should talk about your strength. How it changed you and made you stronger. What you have learned in the process. What you made for Xmas dinner and why. What gift did you give your self and why.\n\nDespite your loses, you are still here and doing your very best to get through it.\n\nI’m by my self these holidays, mom past away few years ago, majority of my friends are far away. So today I made my self a nice early dinner and I’m going to buy 4 tires for my car after New Years. Texted everyone Merry Christmas first thing in the morning and spoke with few people on the phone.", "Years of oversharing personal info- and now trying to vastly under-share. People are truly so short and superficial, that you can join them and blend easily. Also and more importantly, typically people don’t give a fuck about what you have to say anyhow, they are just waiting for you to ask them about their life. Which is why the best at socializing are basically just the best at staying engaged and interested in others, and think of good questions.\n\n“How was your holidays?”\n\n“Oh it was great, just chilled and enjoyed the day. How about yourself?”\n \n*their answer*\n\nAnother question from you about them.", "What did you do for Christmas? \n\nO I just relaxed and took it easy. Watched some Christmas movies. What did you do?\n\nAnswer then then ask a follow up. You don't need to tell the truth. Just be vague and say you relaxed.", "Sorry for the losses, must be tough. Whenever you feel that someone is pushy, you can react like 'need my time to be alone and think about wht happened'.", "Similar problems, but completely different source situation.\n\nI vary:\n\n\\- In work, I don't discuss personal things with most people at all. A colleague of 7 years said to me the other day \"I didn't know you had a daughter!\". That's right, because I don't discuss it with you.\n\n\\- With the people I actually trust, who I pretty much could tell anything and they'd not desert me, I slip in the occasional story of my own every now and then to describe a weakness I have (e.g. socialising, etc.) and explain why. After a while they get it, they begin to understand the core reasons for why I do what I do without getting all \"Oh, no, sorry, you don't do X, do you, I forgot!\" (which I consider worse than anything).\n\n\\- \"Ah, it's a long story\" is the cover-all. Most people won't probe. Friends won't probe if you keep using it. Until the time is right for you both to sit down with time to spare and actually discuss the whole thing.\n\n\\- \"Sorry, I don't do X\" is one of my fallbacks, but I do it in a way without explanation. Something I read on the Internet: You're not a high-enough level friend to unlock that answer, try again later. I don't say those words, but that's pretty much how I deal with people. Everything from \"Sorry, I will forget your name\", to \"No, I don't do <social activity>\", \"Sorry, I have difficulty detecting the end of sentences, sometimes I will talk over you, I don't mean to\" (something that stems from a lack of social exposure in younger life). Just state it, move on, don't explain the background to anyone you wouldn't trust.\n\n\\- Even with friends I will sometimes say \"I don't discuss this with people, it's personal, sorry.\" That makes most back off to the point of never asking and, therefore, never questioning it.\n\nI hold down a stable career, have run my own business, I've been married, had a kid, got divorced, lived a life, etc. same as you, but I work differently to most other people (note: most, you tend to find a lot more allies when you take friends into your confidence because there are a surprising amount of people that have the same doubts, even if not to the same depth).\n\nFriends get told that outright, and if they ask or we're getting through stories about our lives, then it'll come up and I'll explain.\n\n\"Colleagues\" either get a fob-off, generalism or just a \"I don't do X\" without further explanation (\"It's a long story\", if they ask).\n\nEveryone else gets nothing, they don't care and don't need to know.\n\nSometimes, just for a laugh, I will do the \"Well, yes, I do do that, and that's because of <some rapid recounting of a deeply personal incident in an extremely casual manner, then moving onto the next subject>\". It makes people back off, stop asking and keep away. Deliberately. I do that deliberately.\n\nFact is, I'm not obliged to tell anyone anything. I'm not obliged to explain my personality or its origins. It can be helpful to say \"No, look, if you want me to back you on this, you need to do X, Y and Z because I won't do those bits\", or provide a small \"Look, this is a rule for dealing with me\" kind of statement. \"Sorry, no, I don't discuss my family\", even. You don't need to explain WHY, though.\n\n\"Yeah, sorry, I get tongue-tied with new people\", \"I'm not good at smalltalk\", etc. are perfectly valid things that do not require an explanation.\n\nFriends, really, really close friends who I'd tell anything, they get the explanation if I want to give it. That's not always the case. Sometimes I just say to friends \"I don't want to discuss it\". That's it, case closed. Or \"You know how I am\".\n\nTrue friends respect that. Those that don't, you have to query why you're telling them if they're pressuring you for something you clearly don't want to talk about. And everyone else can get a simple \"rule\" for dealing with you, or nothing at all.\n\nWork colleague: \"What did you do for Christmas?\" \"Oh, not a lot\".\n\nFriend / colleague: \"What did you do for Christmas?\" \"Ah, the usual, you know I'm not really a family or party person. Enjoyed the relaxation, though.\"\n\nClose friend: \"What did you do for Christmas?\" \"Avoided my parents, sat at home, texted with a couple of people, watched movies, gorged myself silly.\"\n\nThey're all the same answer. The only difference is the level of explanation I feel confident to give that person knowing it won't be the subject of their next conversation with someone else in the break room. (\"Did you hear what X said about Christmas? I don't think anyone likes him...\").\n\nThere are levels of people where I literally consider giving them personal information almost like handing them ammunition. Just because I nod and say good morning to someone does not mean I want those people knowing anything about my life, even if they do nothing with the information.\n\nAnd there are levels of people where I will dig out my most embarrassing and personal faux pas and then explain that I didn't KNOW that you're not supposed to do that, because I never had <whatever> growing up. I'll turn it into a joke, and know they won't \"mock\" me for it, but that they'll have enough insight to score another little tiny detail into their mental carving of my personality to understand me better.\n\nI see no need to lie, though. I mean, it would be REALLY easy to do so, I just don't see the point. The only thing I do is differ the amount of detail and explanation, nothing else. An impersonal contact gets \"Christmas? Yeah, not too bad.\". An intimate friend gets the complete rundown of how my family have ignored me for another year running and knows all the characters in that story and half a dozen incidents from my life already.", "Share just the highlights. For example, my dad abused me in various ways. Now when people ask me about my dad I say “oh we aren’t close” & if they ask more I say “we were close when I was a kid but not anymore.” I haven’t talked to him in 10 years. I only share personal information with people who have earned my trust. In a small talk situation I don’t know enough about the person in front of me to entrust them with some of the most hurtful elements of my past, I get to decide when to share that with someone who has earned it from me.", "Rule number one, people love talking about themselves, so stay on the offense by asking genuine inquisitive questions before they exhaust their previous answer. Nod your head in agreement while they are talking, this leads them to believe you are really interested and they will keep talking. Have fun with this and no need to side step. After a while of them blah blahing about themselves you can decide whether they're friend material.", "Oh, thanks for asking. I took some time off from the daily grind, unplugged from social media. It was nice having some quiet time to myself to not only relax but remember that In nineteen ninety eight the undertaker threw mankind off hеll in a cell, and plummeted sixteen feet through an announcer's table.", "Most people just want to talk about themselves. Have some generic statements ready and just ask them the same questions. You can follow up with more specific questions and the conversation likely won’t get back to you.", "I had very difficult holidays growing up and I remember DREADING returning to school/work after Christmas and people asking me about Christmas expecting a happy answer. Nowadays I answer “uneventful” with a smile and people usually accept that without too much questioning. In terms of non-holiday related small talk that tend to get awkward really quick, I’ve found it’s easier to be vaguely truthful. What is a casual question for one person, can feel deeply invasive to another. So if people ask me where I’m from, I simply name the state I went to high school in and I don’t give anymore information. I call my mother and father figures simply “my parents” and I never say more than that. You aren’t obligated to tell acquaintances/co-workers deeply personal truths about your life. It’s a crappy burden to bear and I deeply empathize with that struggle. I hope you are able to navigate the next few weeks and maintain a level of privacy that you are comfortable with.", "How i usually deflect people is by asking them the questions. If they talked about their kids, i will ask about their school, what the kids did for extra curicular, how they cope with pandemic etc. I usually pay attention to the current issues in the area so can talk more about the one asking rather than myself. I'm quite secretive yet I still able to maintain quite a good, warm rapport with my office mate and subordinate. I'm an Asian lives in Asian country, Asian generally love to talk about personal stuff so it is a wonder that I'm able to keep most of my life under wrap while still being social with people.", "Generally, people want to talk about themselves more than they want to listen to other people. Not a slight on anyone, that's just how it be.\n\nSo it may be good to just give a vague non answer, then turn the question around on them and let them talk about their things. They'll be happier for it and you can avoid the question", "For the sake of self care, get yourself a nice present. Then when others ask, explain why you are so excited about it, then redirect the question to about them. If you constantly give nothing in conversations, the relationship will be nothing. Even though we call them pleasantries or bull crap conversations, the purpose is to start bonding. You don't need to share what makes you uncomfortable, but you can share something.", "As many have suggested, deflect deflect deflect. I have a work best friend…and he knows nothing about me because while he shares about his life, I just don’t and somehow our constant chatter about work has hidden it", "\"What'd you do this christmas\" \"took advantage of my time , relaxed, and focused on taking care of my self\"", "This hits home: my sibling died when we were kids, in a truly horrific way (well, all childhood deaths are). I used to get deer-in-headlights too when asked about whether I had siblings, and such. “Actually I’m both the oldest and the middle child…”. Oof.\n\nYes, of course deflection and redirection works, as others suggested. I’ll admit it, I sometimes lie (mostly by omission) too. I have one younger sibling, we had a nice, comfortable childhood.\n\nI’m glad you are in a good place now. Seasons greetings!", "Spout off nonsense in a funny way and then ask them something. Been saving me from revealing what a weird offensive fuck I am for years", "People ultimately love talking about themselves, so fill the convo with questions about them. You’ll come off as an interested listener. You could refer generally to the town you lived in and maybe some school experiences. Small talk can also include comments on recent shows you’ve viewed, favorite restaurants, sports, pets, etc. if you feel you have to say something about family, you can just say “I’m not close to my family, but I have some great friends 2k away.”", "Not really an answer to your question, but I'd just like to add that you shouldn't be ashamed or anything about your history. The struggles you've been through probably makes you more interesting if anything.\n\nQuestions about family whatever could just be answered with something like: \"Well, my childhood was pretty rough to be honest, so we're not really in contact but it made me who I am today and I'm really proud of how far I've come!\" - honest without being a downer or giving away too much :)", "Introvert here - One of the best tips for making conversation is from a guy called Jay Abraham.\n\nHe said “if you want to be *interesting* be *interested*”\n\nPerson: What did you do for Christmas?\nYou:nothing crazy. What did you do?\nPerson: blah blah blah blah blah\n\nThe person asking questions is in control of the conversation, so get a handful of question starters. Once you practice them it’s super easy to have a satisfying conversation for the other person with little to no effort on your part.\n\nA great book about asking questions is “Never Split The Difference” by Chris Voss. That book is amazing!", "If you splurge out personal info all at once you can drive people away pretty well. \n\nSeriously, just focus on asking the other person about themselves or just give a bare minimum answer to avoid coming off rude.", "If you don’t like small talk ask them lots of questions. Be positive & genuinely interested in what they have to say. People generally like to talk about themselves & will leave the conversation feeling valued & heard. \n\nLots of interactions with people are often superficial or the other person just waiting for their turn to speak. If you distinguish yourself in this way you can direct the conversation & reveal less about yourself without the person even noticing.", "If it's people you don't know or care about you can always make shit up. Makes going out waaaay more fun.", "I think the answer will depend in part on why you don't want to get into certain small-talk topics. \n\nDo you not want to talk about these things for your own sake? Then I can see why you'd want to deflect. I also have some complicated history with my family. Sometimes, like with someone at work who I don't interact with much, I don't want to go in to why it's hard for me to go home to the house I was abused in etc, so if they say \"oh you're going out of state to your mom's house? Are you excited?\", I'll say \"I'm looking forward to seeing her and my brothers. What about you? Are you doing any traveling for the holidays?\" and they will usually talk for awhile and don't feel put off.\n\nIf you don't mind having some of the more difficult parts of your life thrown out there, knowing someone may ask more questions, then I'd encourage you to be as forthcoming as you feel comfortable. I used to abide by what's considered \"polite conversation\" just for other people's comfort, but as I've gotten older, I've cared less. I've come to find that people deal with it pretty well. In the best cases, you find out that they have a bit of a situation themselves, and you sharing has freed them up to share as well. Sometimes, you keep it small-talky enough and breeze through various questions such that it never becomes a full-on *topic*. Other times, they'll seem grateful that you confided a bit in them, and it can make future small-talk easier. Sometimes, they seem to struggle with the right thing to say and get self-conscious, and I might say \"sorry to have dropped that on you\" and they always say \"oh no, I appreciate that you told me, I just wanted to say the right thing\" and then I'll assure them I don't expect anything in particular and we usually bond over that. \n\nTl;dr: give a vague answer and turn the question back at them. Or, if you feel up for it, be honest and you may really expand that person's understanding of what \"typical\" even means, and also of what people who have gone through \"adversity\" look like.", "I pretty much just ask a bunch of open ended questions or talk about what it is we're doing/where we are/what's happening", "I come from a dark, bad place as well. I find strait forward honesty to be the general best policy. I've felt like a bit of a \"love sponge\" over the years. You'd be surprised how many people are more than willing to let you into their circle and how many people are EXACTLY like us. Don't shy away from who you are, never be afraid to look in the mirror ( figuratively speaking). In my experience, that is a path down the wrong road. Fuckin own that shit and hold your head high. Fix it. I did, or I'm in the process of doing so. There is no shame in the things that befell us. It is what it is. You have a long life ahead of you. Pain makes us interesting, introspective. Embrace it. Speak it. Be not afraid of it. Makes you strong. It is the crux of who we are. Listen to Jordan Peterson speak. An absolute inspiration. The truth is,you are stronger than most. Happy holidays to you my friend.", "Hi ya, I get people to talk shop. Ask what they do for a job and ask direct questions about it. It is actually really interesting.\n\nYou may get someone with no job or hates what they do but it works with their hobbies too.", "Green them you're Henry Hill's soon and in witness protection, if they ask for more info, tell them to watch Good Fellas. Then walk away", "First tactic: rephrase every question into another question, and/or ask the person asking \"what does that question mean to you?\" and let them talk about themselves", "Don't talk about yourself, just ask questions. Most people don't listen anyway and just wait for their turn to talk. If you ask questions and really listen to the answers, then ask follow up questions you can have a great conversation but never reveal anything about yourself. And the other person loves it because you're so interested in them. I do this all the time at work and people always come back to chat again. I basically just listen to them talk.", "Do you have a any hobbies or interests you can integrate in to the conversation? \n\n\"What did you do for Christmas?\" \n\"I had the chance to start on a 1000 piece jigsaw puzzle I've been waiting for a chance to do.\"\n\"Finally got to rewatch Downton Abbey. Do you like costume dramas?\"\n\"Bought some computer games during the Steam sale, and been having a go at all of them.\" \"Are you a gamer?\" \n\"Finally finished watching xyz show. Do you have any recommendations for what I should watch next?\"", "Be boring on topics you don't want to talk about, and look for hooks to ask them questions in return. \n\nDon't be cagey, or try to avoid the subject, as some people will ask probing questions - not to be nosey, but because that's how good conversations work. However, if you can make x sound boring, but then turn around the questions in some way, and get the person to start talking about themselves, then not only can you avoid talking about things you want to avoid, but the other participants in the conversation will actually come away happy because they feel like you showed interest in their views/life/etc.\n\n", "You've been through so much, but you still seem so lovely and open (even though that's not the nature of your post haha) :)\n\nI just respond generically. I'm the same as you in that I don't like giving much away because I haven't had a \"normal\" life and I don't want to deal with any more pity than I already have.\n\nIf they ask you what you did over the weekend/ Christmas/ any family holiday:\n\n\"Watched lots of movies, ate lots of food - same as every year haha. What about you?\"\n\nIf they ask you about your family: you don't need to even tell them, but if you consider your friends to be your family then just be like:\n\n\"Yeah I miss them a lot - they live far away so it'll be nice to see them over the holidays\". You don't even need to mention being a foster child if you don't want to.\n\nSo many people just ask things for the sake of asking that they're not going to notice if you don't really respond. \n\nAll the best to you ❤️", "I think promoting some happiness about the situation is important. Someone asked me on Christmas Eve why I had gone for a long break recently and I told them I needed to recover from clinical depression. It was hella awkward as the other person turned and looked down to apologize. I said oh it’s okay and I feel pretty good about it. I shared how I saw the change. The other person launched into telling me about their attempts for self-care and how they liked my outlook. I think selling a positive outlook on yourself is important. My life could be described as you described yours but who cares more than me and no one needs to hear details. Hang on to what you got even if what you got is not a lot. If people want to know those things about you, see how the respond to the best things you know about you. Embellish what you relish and remember it can’t all be hellish. Yule tide with sucker questions dropping with no answers I’m stopping before I talk about the antidepressant I’m popping. That’s okay because there’s always hoping, when it’s time to stop the moping all the time over something. But it’s just me .\n\nIt also helps if you grow a mullet, if you don’t have curls, get some and if you got some - blow it out. \n\nThanks for a better question than like, “hey where were you.” Haha. I was always right here. Those footprints next to mine. That was me, pacing back and forth. Some go one way some go back the other way. But it doesn’t really matter what you say because the good ones will always stay to answer more questions and you got a better tomorrow. \n\nClang, clang!", "Don’t do small talk. Hang out with people that have shared interests and talk about that and over time reveal more about yourself. Don’t bother talking to random strangers or people you probably don’t want to be close to." ]

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[ "Best Winter LPTs What are your best Winter LPTs redditors? Things like defrosting your car, deicing wiper blades, keeping warm...etc. for anyone who may have moved from a warm area (South) to an area that has winter (Northeast). ", "Best Winter LPTs What are your best Winter LPTs redditors? Things like defrosting your car, deicing wiper blades, keeping warm...etc. for anyone who may have moved from a warm area (South) to an area that has winter (Northeast). ", "Best Winter LPTs What are your best Winter LPTs redditors? Things like defrosting your car, deicing wiper blades, keeping warm...etc. for anyone who may have moved from a warm area (South) to an area that has winter (Northeast). ", "Best Winter LPTs What are your best Winter LPTs redditors? Things like defrosting your car, deicing wiper blades, keeping warm...etc. for anyone who may have moved from a warm area (South) to an area that has winter (Northeast). ", "Best Winter LPTs What are your best Winter LPTs redditors? Things like defrosting your car, deicing wiper blades, keeping warm...etc. for anyone who may have moved from a warm area (South) to an area that has winter (Northeast). ", "Best Winter LPTs What are your best Winter LPTs redditors? Things like defrosting your car, deicing wiper blades, keeping warm...etc. for anyone who may have moved from a warm area (South) to an area that has winter (Northeast). ", "Best Winter LPTs What are your best Winter LPTs redditors? Things like defrosting your car, deicing wiper blades, keeping warm...etc. for anyone who may have moved from a warm area (South) to an area that has winter (Northeast). ", "Best Winter LPTs What are your best Winter LPTs redditors? Things like defrosting your car, deicing wiper blades, keeping warm...etc. for anyone who may have moved from a warm area (South) to an area that has winter (Northeast). ", "Best Winter LPTs What are your best Winter LPTs redditors? Things like defrosting your car, deicing wiper blades, keeping warm...etc. for anyone who may have moved from a warm area (South) to an area that has winter (Northeast). ", "Best Winter LPTs What are your best Winter LPTs redditors? Things like defrosting your car, deicing wiper blades, keeping warm...etc. for anyone who may have moved from a warm area (South) to an area that has winter (Northeast). ", "Best Winter LPTs What are your best Winter LPTs redditors? Things like defrosting your car, deicing wiper blades, keeping warm...etc. for anyone who may have moved from a warm area (South) to an area that has winter (Northeast). ", "Best Winter LPTs What are your best Winter LPTs redditors? Things like defrosting your car, deicing wiper blades, keeping warm...etc. for anyone who may have moved from a warm area (South) to an area that has winter (Northeast). ", "Best Winter LPTs What are your best Winter LPTs redditors? Things like defrosting your car, deicing wiper blades, keeping warm...etc. for anyone who may have moved from a warm area (South) to an area that has winter (Northeast). " ]

[ "Don't drive any more than you have to during/immediately after the first snow of the season - it takes people a couple days to remember how to drive on ice/snow, and there's always a spike of accidents around the first snow/freeze.", "I'll take a stab at attire, since it looks like I might be the first one here.\n\n1) Get thermal undershirts. I use a brand called heattech, but it might be only available in Japan. They make so much difference to how warm you feel during the day that I can't imagine winter without them anymore (as a Canadian, it's weird that I had to come to Japan to find out about these.) You can also wear them under your normal clothes, which is awesome.\n\n2) Learn to do the I'm-freezing-my-ass-off dance. It's subtle, but shifting your weight around when you're standing at the bus stop generates a lot of heat, and can really help you pass the time.\n\n3) Learn that a lot of jackets that look like they ought to be warm are not necessarily all that warm. Jean-jackets are usually pretty shitty, no matter how much floof they have on the inside.\n\n4) Scarves are awesome. You can tuck one under your jacket to protect you from cold air coming through your zipper, or you can wrap up your mouth and nose to create a primitive air-exchanger to warm up the air you breathe with heat from air you exhale. This is more important than gloves, as you can just pull your hands inside your sleeves.\n\nThat should start to keep you warm when you're not at home, anyways.", "Not all clothing is created equal: a quality winter coat, hat, boot socks, long johns, heavy shirt, boots, gloves are all better than basic/cheap varieties thereof _usually_. (Some cheap manufacturers are OK, but basic rules of thumb are good!). You'll notice I didn't list pants. Quality jeans with long johns under them are a-ok unless working in heavy snow or in temps under 0F.\n\nIf you live in an area where your car is unlikely to be stolen (old car, rural, friendly suburbs, etc), go outside and turn it on after you've dressed but _before_ you're ready to go. Crank the heater, windshield defrost up, crack the front windows, and go back inside. You will be much happier. \n\nBuy a coffee thermos and use it consistently. Putting something hot in your stomach can make all the difference.\n\nDon't worry about your dogs being out in snow unless it's super cold (<15F) or they're being walked longer than ~20 minutes. Most dogs love the snow and will _tell_ you if they're too cold. (Example: our chi sits and whines at who ever is walking him, when he's had enough.) Keep a warm, dry, dogbed inside, one for each dog, so they can warm up easier.\n\nDon't use worksite/garage heaters inside your house. Yes, they're cheaper to buy, but to run, are massively less efficent. Use oil filled radiators, quartz radiators, etc, instead. \n\nElectric blankets on your bed are very safe, and allow you to spend less money on heating. Just be nice to them and clean them _correctly_. \n\nDon't neglect the robe after a shower, it's massively nice and helpful.\n\nKeep your vehicle snow brush/ice scraper in the passenger footwell, where it's easy to get to and to remember.\n\nKeep kitty litter in your vehicle, the clay kind, in case you get stuck. It's a _lot_ easier to carry and use than 2x4s. \n\n'Winter mix' gas is pretty inferior because it has to be. Remember you _will_ get less MPG even on a newer vehicle, even if the roads are clear. \n\n", "My favorite LPT is to wear as few clothes as possible for as long as possible. Also...don't tell yourself \"it's/I'm freezing\". If you can convince yourself it's not as cold as it really is, you will be much more comfortable. ", "If you are out of de-icer, don't try to scrape the crap out of your \nwindscreen or pour boiling water on it, you'll be there all day and can damage the glass. Just leave ten minutes early, turn the engine on, put the heaters on and any demisters and sit and wait. The ice can pretty much melt off by itself in that time.\n\nNote - this works in the UK, may not be the same if you are 30 below zero. ", "Buy the reusable hand warmers. They come in handy on long walks. I never leave home without a pair. \n\nSource: Canadian ", "Your car tires pressure changes in the cold weather so make sure you have your air pressure checked in your tires once it gets cold. Also, always have extra windshield washer fluid in your car!\n\nAnd although I have an all wheel drive car, I still get winter tires put on it. It makes such a huge difference getting through ice and snow! ", "Try to regularly apply rainx to your windshield. It helps with snow and ice sticking to your windshield. \n\nIf you know it's going to snow and the freeze, and you are parked outside, spray driver on your windshield before you leave your car. Then the icy snow will slide off easier.\n\nDon't park with a tire in a dip that can pool with liquid and freeze.", "Stay upbeat! Snow/cold can be a lot of fun, if you let it be. The less you fear the winter, the less power it has over you :P", "Discovered this on an earlier LPT and it actually works.\n\nIf you don't have a garage for your car and tired of scraping frost off your car, 5 minutes before you get out of the car turn off the heat and crack the windows to let the warm air escape. The difference in outdoor temperature and the indoor car temperature plays a major factor in frost build-up.", "A loyalty card can be used to scrape a windshield in a pinch.\n\nSit on your mitts or gloves in a movie and they will be toasty later. \n\nIf you have seat warmers and pick up take out in winter, turn them on and pop to the food on the seat to help keep it warm. \n\nA child sized shovel doesn’t take up much room in the trunk and is great if you get stuck in a snowbank. \n\n", "Strap a snow shovel to your car and start driving south. As soon as someone asks, \"What the hell is that?\" - you've found your new home.", "About two decades ago I moved a thousand miles south. Have not seen snow since moving and now fifty degrees is downright cold. " ]

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[ "what are your tips for telling interesting stories, when chatting with people? I think that telling stories about events is an important social skill, when meeting people, and/or passing on ideas. I'm getting the impression that most of us are not getting the most out of the opportunity, when we have the chance to speak.", "what are your tips for telling interesting stories, when chatting with people? I think that telling stories about events is an important social skill, when meeting people, and/or passing on ideas. I'm getting the impression that most of us are not getting the most out of the opportunity, when we have the chance to speak.", "what are your tips for telling interesting stories, when chatting with people? I think that telling stories about events is an important social skill, when meeting people, and/or passing on ideas. I'm getting the impression that most of us are not getting the most out of the opportunity, when we have the chance to speak." ]

[ "Tell the necessary details and no more unless it adds to humour etc. It is tiring to listen to a storey that is longer than it needs to be. Pay attention to the story receiver's body language as they may be telling you to hurry up.", "Humans enjoy information, humour, other emotions and suspense. Try to keep the density of those 4 high as a percentage of all words used and ideas shared.\n\nGreat stories are ", "\nI like telling stories. Just like a movie or a book, a story should have an arc... a beginning, middle and end. In the beginning you set up the story, in the middle you have your conflict, and in the end you have your payoff. That payoff could be a surprising reveal, a punchline, whatever, but there’s got to be a reason for your audience to listen to the story.\n\nThis is why listening to someone else’s dream is so boring... it’s just a bunch of random shit with no structure and no payoff" ]

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[ "Giving up a college course when you're in debt If you are a few years into a potentially lucrative college degree (in my case the degree is in medicine) and then decide that the idea of a career in this area seems increasingly disheartening, how do you go about switching to something more interesting when you have already borrowed to get this far?\n\nThis is an especially tricky predicament when the most attractive alternative to me is a humanities course, which offers little guarantee of providing the money to pay back the loan.\n\nI would appreciate any advice on this.", "Giving up a college course when you're in debt If you are a few years into a potentially lucrative college degree (in my case the degree is in medicine) and then decide that the idea of a career in this area seems increasingly disheartening, how do you go about switching to something more interesting when you have already borrowed to get this far?\n\nThis is an especially tricky predicament when the most attractive alternative to me is a humanities course, which offers little guarantee of providing the money to pay back the loan.\n\nI would appreciate any advice on this.", "Giving up a college course when you're in debt If you are a few years into a potentially lucrative college degree (in my case the degree is in medicine) and then decide that the idea of a career in this area seems increasingly disheartening, how do you go about switching to something more interesting when you have already borrowed to get this far?\n\nThis is an especially tricky predicament when the most attractive alternative to me is a humanities course, which offers little guarantee of providing the money to pay back the loan.\n\nI would appreciate any advice on this.", "Giving up a college course when you're in debt If you are a few years into a potentially lucrative college degree (in my case the degree is in medicine) and then decide that the idea of a career in this area seems increasingly disheartening, how do you go about switching to something more interesting when you have already borrowed to get this far?\n\nThis is an especially tricky predicament when the most attractive alternative to me is a humanities course, which offers little guarantee of providing the money to pay back the loan.\n\nI would appreciate any advice on this.", "Giving up a college course when you're in debt If you are a few years into a potentially lucrative college degree (in my case the degree is in medicine) and then decide that the idea of a career in this area seems increasingly disheartening, how do you go about switching to something more interesting when you have already borrowed to get this far?\n\nThis is an especially tricky predicament when the most attractive alternative to me is a humanities course, which offers little guarantee of providing the money to pay back the loan.\n\nI would appreciate any advice on this.", "Giving up a college course when you're in debt If you are a few years into a potentially lucrative college degree (in my case the degree is in medicine) and then decide that the idea of a career in this area seems increasingly disheartening, how do you go about switching to something more interesting when you have already borrowed to get this far?\n\nThis is an especially tricky predicament when the most attractive alternative to me is a humanities course, which offers little guarantee of providing the money to pay back the loan.\n\nI would appreciate any advice on this.", "Giving up a college course when you're in debt If you are a few years into a potentially lucrative college degree (in my case the degree is in medicine) and then decide that the idea of a career in this area seems increasingly disheartening, how do you go about switching to something more interesting when you have already borrowed to get this far?\n\nThis is an especially tricky predicament when the most attractive alternative to me is a humanities course, which offers little guarantee of providing the money to pay back the loan.\n\nI would appreciate any advice on this." ]

[ "This doesn't necessarily answer your question, but this is my advice.\n\n[Here's an elegant explanation of it that really connected with me.](https://www.reddit.com/r/books/comments/2q384y/antiintellectualism_is_taking_over_the_us/cn2t7cv)\n\nIf you started in a certain path because you had an interest in it, don't judge the field on what you experience in school. School is always school, and the \"real world\" is different. School has a way of wearing you down over the years. \n\nWhile in concept college is better than high school (more freedom, more expression, being a grown up for the first time, no one telling you when to use the bathroom, etc), it also has equal disadvantages (stress, tests, studying for the first time, bills, personal responsibility, social, time management, money management, etc). If you struggle in these areas, it sucks just as bad.\n\nI experienced this interest loss vastly in so many different areas. Mythology, reading, coding, and more - all things I had a strong interest in that were killed in school. I pushed through my chosen field because I *just wanted to be done*, and ended up getting a job related to my field, which I actually enjoyed.\n\nI'm not guaranteeing you'll like your field when you leave school. But I am attesting that it can happen. While college is a step up from high school, there's still another step to reach.\n\nAlso, keep in mind that it can happen again. You don't want to switch fields again and again. Keep this in mind when you make these decisions, because you don't want to be in school forever and racking up endless debt.\n\nI don't know anything at all about medicine, but if you were considering a very long path (like a specialized surgeon or something), it's possible you could consider a step down (nurse or GP?) that doesn't take as long to reach. Then you can actually enter the field, decide if you still hate it, and then choose to stay, continue your education, or redirect it in something similar (rehab or ambulance doctor?).\n", "The obvious answer is to stick with your course long enough to graduate in medicine, while looking around for which type of work would suit you best. You can then take a humanities degree a bit at a time, picking your classes for fun and savouring them in a way that someone on a full-time course cannot do. Of course you may have to concentrate solely on your job for your first year, but after that you should have the leisure time to put together an interesting part-time programme.\n\nWhat aspects of which medical jobs repel you? What are some of the attributes of your ideal job? Where could you take your medical degree that would offer some of those attributes? Do you object to working for Big Pharma?", "Find a major that requires similar course that you have already taken. Perhaps you can speak to an advisor about substituting some cr", "You have to figure out what jobs out there would benefit from an intersection between humanities and medical/science training. Some ideas off the top of my head:\n\n* Grant writers.\n* Technical writers.\n* Pharmaceutical salesmen\n* Salesmen or tech support for medical equipment \n\nYou should at least finish a solid science degree, like biochem or something. And maybe take some communications, non-fiction writing, and marketing courses. Every humanities course you take should help you in getting a job (i.e. don't take a course like \"Getting to Know Emily Dickinson\".)\n\n\n", "This reply does not answer your question, but income-based repayment plans for student loans mean low payments (I'm turning my approximately $700 monthly payment into lower than $100 monthly payments). As long as I pay it consistently for 25 years, it will then go away. \n \nI say this because I'm in the same boat. I pursued a master's degree in creative writing, which pretty obviously does not pay off financially for most people. But I find that I am not being \"punished\" for it that badly in a financial sense. Considering the enriching education I got from it, it wasn't that bad of an investment. ", "Do not drop out of medicine, you have a medical degree which shows a high amount of intelligence\n\nLook into other careers, you could do a GDL, or go into accounting, biomed engineering, teach medicine, get into grad schemes(always handy having a doctor round eh?)", "If you are an undergrad, find the best way to justify the new course.\nConsidering to remain in field x while you are half invested in it is just putting more money into wasting your time. In other words, dont invedt in something so you can do it half-assed. \nThe debt is crippling no matter what you do, but there are always ways aroundit.\nFurthermore, most of your cr" ]

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[ "Conversation starting I've always struggled with starting conversations both with strangers, and even with friends.", "Conversation starting I've always struggled with starting conversations both with strangers, and even with friends.", "Conversation starting I've always struggled with starting conversations both with strangers, and even with friends." ]

[ "People love to talk about themselves it's human nature. Ask them about their life then relate with experiences from your own. Find a common ground", "I've found having a handful of questions helps:\n\n* What do you do? (I hate this one - and am including it here to avoid, although it does work)\n* What have you got on this weekend?\n* What was the last good movie you saw?\n* What's the best restaurant in <city> that you've eaten at?\n\n(The last couple are deliberately vague. Asking about a recent movie or dinner can cause a mindblank and shut down the conversation.)\n\nAnd then here are some scary ones that I can usually pull off when I'm in a sociable mood:\n\n* So what's your greatest passion? \n* So what gets you up in the morning?\n* So what life are you building for yourself in the future?\n\nWith those, it helps to have an answer for yourself because they will often ask it back of you. But the conversations are longer and far more interesting.", "Deep down most people love to talk about themselves. . . .so be observant as to maybe what they are wearing, pop culture they may have referenced, hell even what they are eating for lunch. Things like that. Ask them about those things.\n\n\nUnless they are Finnish. They don't talk to anyone." ]

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[ "What are good ways to shrink a shirt that is too large? I bought a t-shirt online. I love it, it looks great. But I got a 2XL instead of a large by mistake. The shirt is 60% polyester 40% cotton if this helps.", "What are good ways to shrink a shirt that is too large? I bought a t-shirt online. I love it, it looks great. But I got a 2XL instead of a large by mistake. The shirt is 60% polyester 40% cotton if this helps.", "What are good ways to shrink a shirt that is too large? I bought a t-shirt online. I love it, it looks great. But I got a 2XL instead of a large by mistake. The shirt is 60% polyester 40% cotton if this helps.", "What are good ways to shrink a shirt that is too large? I bought a t-shirt online. I love it, it looks great. But I got a 2XL instead of a large by mistake. The shirt is 60% polyester 40% cotton if this helps.", "What are good ways to shrink a shirt that is too large? I bought a t-shirt online. I love it, it looks great. But I got a 2XL instead of a large by mistake. The shirt is 60% polyester 40% cotton if this helps.", "What are good ways to shrink a shirt that is too large? I bought a t-shirt online. I love it, it looks great. But I got a 2XL instead of a large by mistake. The shirt is 60% polyester 40% cotton if this helps." ]

[ "If you can sew:\n\n* Turn the big shirt inside out\n* Get a correct fitting shirt and put it on the big shirt\n* Sew the outline of the small shirt\n* ", "Return it in exchange for a smaller size. You will never be able to \"shrink\" it and have it look right. You could have it cut down to fit, but that's overkill for a T-shirt. The bottom line is that you shouldn't try to fix a problem if you can simply exchange it for the thing you wanted in the first place.", "IMO, if its a really nice shirt, you might just want to get it exchanged instead of ruining it by trying to shrinking it. ", "Get it tailored. If it were only one size too big you might be able to shrink it, but good old needle and thread is probably your best bet for 2 sizes. ", "You better off returning a shirt that large especially if its some tshirt. Would probably cost more to tailor that than just buying another. You'll never shrink that down small enough to be a large. ", "I think it might be a woman's fashion thing, and it makes the tee shirt much more of a casual thing to wear over a tank top, but I've seen t-shirts cut and tied to be smaller. \n\nhttp://www.twitch.tv/geekandsundry/v/8918895 has Marisha Ray ( from Critical Role with Geek and Sundry Twitch, and various voice acting ) walking through how she does this. At about 2 hours and 2 minutes she tries hers on and they show off another one they did earlier in the show. " ]

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[ "Mosquito Repellent that's not citronella Mosquitos suck. I hate them. I just got a new job working outside at a pool in AZ and they're everywhere now. Any good repellents or anything I can put on before work to not get eaten alive?", "Mosquito Repellent that's not citronella Mosquitos suck. I hate them. I just got a new job working outside at a pool in AZ and they're everywhere now. Any good repellents or anything I can put on before work to not get eaten alive?", "Mosquito Repellent that's not citronella Mosquitos suck. I hate them. I just got a new job working outside at a pool in AZ and they're everywhere now. Any good repellents or anything I can put on before work to not get eaten alive?", "Mosquito Repellent that's not citronella Mosquitos suck. I hate them. I just got a new job working outside at a pool in AZ and they're everywhere now. Any good repellents or anything I can put on before work to not get eaten alive?", "Mosquito Repellent that's not citronella Mosquitos suck. I hate them. I just got a new job working outside at a pool in AZ and they're everywhere now. Any good repellents or anything I can put on before work to not get eaten alive?", "Mosquito Repellent that's not citronella Mosquitos suck. I hate them. I just got a new job working outside at a pool in AZ and they're everywhere now. Any good repellents or anything I can put on before work to not get eaten alive?", "Mosquito Repellent that's not citronella Mosquitos suck. I hate them. I just got a new job working outside at a pool in AZ and they're everywhere now. Any good repellents or anything I can put on before work to not get eaten alive?" ]

[ "My mother and I make our own bug spray and it's very effective. All you need is witch hazel, distilled water and certain essential oils.\n\nhttp://wellnessmama.com/2565/homemade-bug-spray/\n\nThere are many alternatives to citronella and it doesn't have the nasty chemicals in many store bought brands. I found a can of Off that had leaked all over a set of my mom's plastic shelves. Parts of the plastic were actually melted. I don't trust it anymore.", "There are a number of spray repellents on the market. Most use DEET because of its efficacy, but check the percentage of it as an active ingredient. DEET can have some problems for some people or the very young so you can also find some that have picaridin. And there are some green products that use plant oils like cedar or lemon that can work for some people. ", "Cactus Juice\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000FXWOJM?pc_redir=1411850313&robot_redir=1\n\nCamped a lot when I was younger, this stuff worked great for me", "We get bushmans here in Australia. Works well. Might be available online. Other brands are aerogard, rid and off.", "Try a cat nip tincture. Apparently it is ten times more effective than DEET.\nhttp://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2001/08/010828075659.htm\n\n\n", "Cut limes in half, and stick 8-10 whole cloves into the meat of the Lime, place around camp. Wash, Rinse, Repeat.", "Buy specific clothes for work and treat them with Permethrin that you have diluted in appropriate quantities.\nBushman or any other solution with 40% or higher concentration of DEET will also be useful.\n\nPermethrin IS a poison, it will kill Mosquitos on contact. It is however, obviously NOT good to be in contact with, so use at your own risk and do not under dilute your solution.\nI wouldn't recommend rubbing it on your skin, but I guarantee that it is the best mosquito treatment." ]

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[ "How to not smell of cigarette smoke despite living with two in-house smokers? I'm home from college and living with my parents. I don't smoke, but they smoke in the house. I have my own room on the second floor (they only smoke on the first floor) where I keep an air purifier and an activated charcoal bag, both of which supposedly help remove smells, but there's not really a difference. I start my new job in two weeks and really don't want to smell bad. \n\nWhat can I do to make sure my clothes and room don't reek of smoke? Any advice is much appreciated!", "How to not smell of cigarette smoke despite living with two in-house smokers? I'm home from college and living with my parents. I don't smoke, but they smoke in the house. I have my own room on the second floor (they only smoke on the first floor) where I keep an air purifier and an activated charcoal bag, both of which supposedly help remove smells, but there's not really a difference. I start my new job in two weeks and really don't want to smell bad. \n\nWhat can I do to make sure my clothes and room don't reek of smoke? Any advice is much appreciated!", "How to not smell of cigarette smoke despite living with two in-house smokers? I'm home from college and living with my parents. I don't smoke, but they smoke in the house. I have my own room on the second floor (they only smoke on the first floor) where I keep an air purifier and an activated charcoal bag, both of which supposedly help remove smells, but there's not really a difference. I start my new job in two weeks and really don't want to smell bad. \n\nWhat can I do to make sure my clothes and room don't reek of smoke? Any advice is much appreciated!", "How to not smell of cigarette smoke despite living with two in-house smokers? I'm home from college and living with my parents. I don't smoke, but they smoke in the house. I have my own room on the second floor (they only smoke on the first floor) where I keep an air purifier and an activated charcoal bag, both of which supposedly help remove smells, but there's not really a difference. I start my new job in two weeks and really don't want to smell bad. \n\nWhat can I do to make sure my clothes and room don't reek of smoke? Any advice is much appreciated!", "How to not smell of cigarette smoke despite living with two in-house smokers? I'm home from college and living with my parents. I don't smoke, but they smoke in the house. I have my own room on the second floor (they only smoke on the first floor) where I keep an air purifier and an activated charcoal bag, both of which supposedly help remove smells, but there's not really a difference. I start my new job in two weeks and really don't want to smell bad. \n\nWhat can I do to make sure my clothes and room don't reek of smoke? Any advice is much appreciated!" ]

[ "Theres not much you can do about it. You can wrap your clothes in plastic (like what they put suits in when you buy it) and stay out of the house as much as you can. \n\nAlso (I’m a smoker btw) whenever im going on a road trip and im expecting people in my car the day or two before hand i get a cup and fill it with white vinegar and let it sit in my car over night. This takes out the cigarette smell but my car smells like vinegar so i get a regular air freshener and have that take over. \n\nSprays rated for cigarettes are your best defense", "Keep your clothes out of the house, shower and wash your hair at the gym prior to work or move out. \n\nWhy do they smoke in the house? Have they not heard about second hand smoke? Blech!", "I had the same problem, but where I lived the climate was suitable for having a fan going. I put a box fan in my window blowing in - that kept some pressure in the room so smoky air wouldn't tend to seep in. I was pumping unsmoky air into their living spaces instead! \n\nWorked really well and I enjoyed all the fresh air.", "Get a small ozone generator. They are made for hunters, for example, to eliminate odors by running it with their clothing in a gym bag. You could use another enclosed space, such as your closet, or your car. You will need to do this regularly as your parents continue to smoke. That spray you tried is expensive, and it will limit your use of it. An ozone generator should work for you over more of a long term. PS I feel for your situation. Both of my parents smoked, and if I had known what an ozone generator could do, I would have bought a large one and ran it when they were out of the house. Over time, though, it will eventually break down things like plastics & rubber- anything that doesn't take weathering outside would be affected in the same way, so keep that in mind. Just in your closet or a gym bag- no problem.", "Zep Smoke Odor Eliminator spray. You can get it at home depot or Walmart. Not perfect but should help a lot." ]

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[ "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? 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Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?", "First-Aid Kit What are some standard items that one should have in a first-aid kit to keep in, say, one’s car? Not like an extensive first-aid kit with everything possible inside, but just some basic items one might not think of that may be important to have?" ]

[ "I have kids so I keep bandaids, gauze pads, antibacterial ointment, a thing of wet wipes, tweezers and a small magnifying glass ( for splinters), small pair of scissors, and wrap bandages for bigger booboos.", "I would just buy a first aid kit that already has everything in it.\n\n", "Benadryl. If anybody has an allergic reaction it will slow anaphylaxis down (hopefully) until medics can arrive or until an epi pen is found. It’s not normally in first aid kits, but somebody included it in theirs and it saved my mom’s life.\n\n", "We just bought a small one from Costco... However if you are looking to build your own; Bandaids, antiseptic ointment, gauze, tweezers, safety scissors, nitrile gloves, q-tips, pain meds, burn cream, emergency blanket(s), magnifying glass. A small tackle box makes a good container / organizer.", "I have a boo-boo kit for minor stuff and a real kit for life-altering injury. Sam splints, ab-pads, the big stuff. There are no bandaids in the trauma kit.\n\nThe biggest thing to carry with you is some current training.", "We also keep a fold flat plastic water bottle and mini life straw because sometimes water is the most important thing needed. I saw benadryl, aspirin, and silver emergency blankets. A couple pieces of hard candy for diabetic emergency.", "Underrated suggestion - a cute teddy bear and a thermal blanket. \n\nYou may just be fixing a kids cut leg or you may be comforting someone who just saw their car roll over 3 times. Don't underestimate the power of helping them feel safe afterwards.", "One thing that may or may not be included int the kits: betadine. Used as disinfectant for cuts. Keeps for years. Comes in vasious bottles and swabs and stuff. My mom was a nurse and itsn hat she always used on injuries big enough to need attention.\n\n\nAlso, they make those clotting kit bandages, these days with all the shootings those and a tourniquet might not be there worst thing to spend 20$on", "proper training + basic kit is better than the best kit with no training.\n\nhighly recommend first aid training and recertification every 2-3 years. once you have the training, a level1 grab kit will be handy to have in the car, boat, home, etc.", "i’m paranoid about natural disasters and enjoy camping, so for my car specifically, packed in a duffel bag i have:\n\nsneakers, a hoodie, sweatpants, t-shirt, two sets of socks and underwear, blanket, a fire blanket (to smother small fires), a tarp, duct tape, bottled water, a bag of almonds, a roll of toilet paper, a roll of paper towels, a beach towel, an old yoga mat (helpful if you have to lay someone down or sit on hard ground), camping rope, zip ties, swiss army knife, lighter, old cell phone (they can still call 911 in US), 3 days worth of food/supplies for my cat, and a first aid kid", "I always carry some combat gauze quikclot in my vehicles. It is very easy to use and can solve A LOT of bleeding problems (god forbid).", "For a car specifically, you might be dealing with severe injuries. For me it would be lots of gauze, cleaning wipes, a tourniquet to stop major bleeding, bandaids, tweezers, and maybe something to splint with", "Vinegar works well on insect stings. Wasp stings etc. Not for bites like mosquitoes.\n\nBurn gel is great under a proper cover. If it’s big enough to warrant a hospital trip you should have a pad and a bandage over the gel to keep it in place.\n\nSomething to rinse eyes out. I keep some disposable tubes of saline. Also good to rinse out a cut.\n\nA small keychain light and a spare battery. Don’t assume you’ll always have enough light to see a wound.\n\nSuperglue to hold larger cuts closed so you can make it to a hospital. Leave an end open so the wound can still drain fluids.\n\nAlcohol pads to clean skin before applying adhesive covers. Not for wiping wounds. Use iodine wipes to clean a wound after rinsing and drying it (watch out for stains though).\n\nA disposable hand warmer and Mylar emergency blanket can go a long way to avoid hypothermia.\n\nAntihistamine pills are good for more than allergies. Helps relieve insect bite swelling, or any reactions to plant irritants. Also throw some pain pills in.\n\nI’ve found a temporary tooth filling kit which helps if you crack a tooth. Eliminate almost all sensitivity while eating/drinking.\n\nLastly, get yourself some good bandaids. Most injuries don’t require bandaids, but if it is bad enough you probably need a hospital visit and stitches. A decent bandaid could help hold a cut together whereas weak bandaids are useless. However weak bandaids are good for helping kids feel better about their scrapes. So maybe a few of those depending on your circumstance.", "Think about the use cases for your kit. I keep a convenience kit in my glove box. It has bandaids, advil, etc that are mainly for convenience. We could stop and get what we need for these non emergencies, but it is convenient to have them on hand in the car. I also keep a separate trauma kit in the car. It contains stuff designed to stop major bleeding, a cpr mask, gloves, etc. This is the kit that is there in case we are involved with or witness a serious crash. Finally, I keep seasonal kits in the car. My winter one contains a blanket, some snacks etc to stay warm in the event the car breaks down in the cold.", "Stow a pair of basic reading glasses and a flashlight in your first-aid kit as often times directions are written in small writing, or there is low light... there is no substitute for these things when really needed", "I’m a cyclists. I have water, different size patches of tegaderm up to 6x6”. Ibuprofen alcohol wipes, compression bandage, band aids and scissors to cut clothes.", "I run a small outdoor laser tag buisness, but this would depend on your situation but I have a puffer and spacer, only costs like $10/y could mean all the difference", "EMT here.\n\n\n Only thing I really feel like I need is a tourniquet and a CPR mask. The rest are nonessentials. \n\nMask and gloves would be next. Emergecy mylar blanket is not a bad call. Bandaids and compresses are nice. Asprin and acetaminophen are awesome. Topical lidocane and burn cream are in my first aid.. But a tourniquet and cpr mask are life saving. \n\n(Honestly cpr mask isnt even nessary for cpr but it does protect you if you are providing ventilations)", "Beyond what is being said a lot here, something easy to forget but extremely valuable when you don't have it is vaseline and/or chapstick. If you're caught out in dry ass weather you will be so thankful that you know where some stuff to protect your lips, nostrils, and hands is. It's not exactly a first-aid kind of thing but it is a powerful preventative measure against nasty skin cracks and discomfort.", "Anyone else like to keep super glue? I've had multiple accidents where a band-aid wouldn't have been enough to stop the bleeding (usually work related). A glob of super glue is an easy way to stop bleeding.", "Always have at least one type of bandage for gauze. Know how to jimmy rig a tourniquet. You can google it", "something else would be items to help if your car breaks down in bad weather, like blankets for the winter. not exactly sure what to pack for summer.", "bandaids, gauze or triangle bandage, benedryl, motrin, tweezers, thermal blanket(s), knife or scissors of some sort (useful for cutting seatbelts or bandages, etc)", "Whatever you end up getting, get a tourniquet as well.\nLearn how to use it, and more importantly when not to use it. \nIt will save lives and with the growing concern of bullet wounds, it will be very useful.", "Used to love rural. Suffered a couple ice storms during that time. So in addition to standard first aid stuff, I also keep a blanket, a change of clothes, and a small overnight kit with toothbrush, wet wipes, and deodorant.", "The obvious would be alcohol wipes, bandaids, and the like, but the oddball things I tend to go for more often include; a 2 fl. oz squeeze bottle of hand sanitizer (for hands and any other larger injuries) the little toothbrush/toothpaste kit the dentist gives you, (makes for an easy brushing if you're in a rush, have a meeting, or interview, or feel you need to), a nail care set that includes clippers, tweezers, and an emery board (I HATE getting hang nails in the middle of the day!), and a travel pack of q-tips. Can be used if you get anything weird in your ear, or need to administer some hand sanitizer to a wound...", "So many good suggestions for actual emergencies here. Another thing you may want to consider is \"important shit that'll save my day kit\", which could include jumper cables, a spare pair of warm clothes and a blanket in case you get caught out in the cold or rain, an umbrella, sanitary items in case of accidental periods, toilet paper, a knife and a couple of lites of water.", "Saline\n\nGauze- 4x4 and kling and scissors\n\nBandaids and Steristrips\n\nTriple antibiotic ointment\n\nAce bandages\n\nAspirin and Benadryl\n\nAll the debate about tourniquets- a safer option is the wrap a magazine/soft back book around limb and ace in place. Stabilizes without cutting circulation.\n\nTweezers", "Reflective vest!!! They sell them at the dollar store (in US). You shouldn’t get out of your car near a road without it. Also I keep scissors to cut someone out of clothes or seatbelt and latex gloves and a non-rebreather. That is for doing CPR and keeping yourself protected from blood. It’s also easier to get a seal of their mouth when they are injured. You don’t want to use any of these but if it’s your loved ones or you are the only one there you could save someone sometime.", "Personally at home I have : \n- latex-free gloves and mask\n- a thermometer;\n- scissors, tweezers and safety pins;\n- a box of sterile compresses: \n- adhesive tape (plaster) and roll tape (stretchy mesh) \n- adhesive bandages of various sizes \n- a bottle of antiseptic (soap or antiseptic compress): to disinfect superficial wounds\n- special hydrogel for burns;\n- physiological serum: to clean wounds or eyes.", "On top of a first aid kit I like to keep some convince stuff in my car, so I have a second kit with some permanent markers, post it notes, safety pins, scissors, some twine, etc which has come in really handy quite a few times.", "Non-latex gloves- it’s equally likely you’ll need the first aid kit to help someone else than for yourself (e.g., you come upon an accident or someone who was hit by a car), so blood precautions are a good idea so that you can actually help them. Other than that- a tourniquet, gauze, ice pack for the bigger stuff, and bandaids, alcohol swabs (great for insect bites), and a small bottle of water to rinse wounds. ETA: chewable Benadryl for allergic reactions.", "Most basic first aid kit boxes contain the essentials.\n\nNot many have mentioned this, but a container of medical-purpose sterile water for rinsing out eyes or wounds. This isn't standard in basic first aid kits, but can be surprisingly useful, and there's often no easy substitute in an emergency.\n\nAlso, if you're going to carry a first aid kit, I strongly recommend putting yourself through a first aid course so you know how to use it properly. Otherwise, you're just a monkey with a box of medical supplies.", "Lots of bandages of different sizes, and those little alcohol pads to wipe the wound off with.\n\nBlister bandages and/or moleskin (and scissors to cut it with).\n\nA couple doses of OTC painkillers (Tylenol, Advil) wrapped in tinfoil.\n\nA couple of TUMS or those pepto-bismol tablets, again wrapped in tinfoil if not already individually packaged.\n\nThese are the things from my little purse first aid kits that are most frequently used and replaced. I wrap the pills in tinfoil because it fits easily into the overall case.", "If no one has mentioned yet, get combine pads. They're thicker and wider than gauze so they're ideal for if a cut is too big or bleeds too much. Plus they can double as a sanitary pad for the ladies.", "I'm surprised I hadn't seen it yet, but absolutely a CAT (Combat Applied Tourniquet) It can be applied with one hand. \n\nThe fact of the matter is, there's waaaaay too many times where a tourniquet can come in handy for you not to have one. Maybe you lose an arm in a car crash, or you receive a cut that's too big to pack, or maybe you can pack it but it won't stop the bleeding. \n\nA tourniquet will be the difference between life and death. Just remember to write the date of when you put it on somewhere visible (like the forehead). And if you don't have something to write with, you could always use blood.", "I have a bottle of water in my first aid kit for hydration, wound cleansing as well as bee stings (make a paste with a baggie of baking soda).", "I always build my own in a good sized tackle box. Various sizes of bandaids, gauze, q tips, small bottle of peroxide, neosporin, alcohol pads, Benadryl, Calamine lotion for poison ivy. Ibuprofen/tylenol is never a bad investment but I actually just keep a car/purse bottle and not necessarily in the first aid kit. Tweezers, I also keep nail clippers... latex gloves, eye drops/contact solution, and some form of anti-itch cream. We like to go camping and hiking so having something all-encompassing nearby is a given.\n\nBare minimum pick one thing from each category:\n\nStop bleeding, disinfect, pain management, allergy relief, and then whatever tools you have space for. \n\nScale up according to your lifestyle and remember that you can't possibly plan for everything you might encounter.", "Have a few dumdum suckers in there. Especially if you plan to be around little kids (under 4), it can help calm them down fast if they get, for example, a scraped knee. Something not serious, but scary and painful for a really little kid.", "Everything the law says, you can also buy already equipped first aid kits into car.\n\nWhat can I think of is bandages, plasters, disinfection, scissors, gloves and pen.", "Consider the genders of the people who are in your car. Add a couple tampons and pads. You can find off label uses for them.", "Buy Vetbond on Amazon. It is nearly identical to the human version that requires a prescription and is used by doctors to \"glue\" lacerations closed. It is a great thing to have in the event that you suffer a deep cut or injury in which rapid treatment not possible.", "Burn ointment or spray is needed sometimes. Get heavy duty or waterproof Bandaids. They don't fall off as fast.", "Bandaids, scissors, tape, some gauze, an Ace bandage, antibiotic ointment and tweezers will handle 99% of the problems that don’t require an ambulance. \n\nAlso spend some money and get real tweezers. Good stiff sharp Japanese or Swiss ones such as the Erem 1-SA are worth the $20 or so you’ll spend; nothing is more frustrating than struggling to remove a stubborn splinter with crappy Chinese tweezers where you practically have to dig a hole around the splinter before you can grab it… knowing that all of this pain and frustration is completely unnecessary.", "A small flashlight with batteries, a sharp knife, and some matches stay in my first aid kit in the car.", "A safety candle in your car could save your life if you break down in the dead of winter. Have some way to light it.", "A good pair of tweezers. Most kits come with a shitty plastic pair. Get a pair of good quality metal ones. I would get both a regular flat edged pair and a needle nosed pair.", "A couple tourniquets for sure! In most/many cases, this is going to be the time sensitive item that cannot wait.", "Benadryl tabs for emergency anaphylactic events. You never know when you might find out you are suddenly allergic to fire ants or honeybees. Also some of that anti itch cream poison ivy " ]

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[ "How to get rid of pee stains on bathtub? Father is getting old and losing manners so he thinks its okay to just pee in the bathtub every morning while showering and now it smells like urin everytime someone else showers. I've tried vinegar, microfiber cloth, toilet cleaner, magic eraser, and let them soak overnight but no luck.", "How to get rid of pee stains on bathtub? Father is getting old and losing manners so he thinks its okay to just pee in the bathtub every morning while showering and now it smells like urin everytime someone else showers. I've tried vinegar, microfiber cloth, toilet cleaner, magic eraser, and let them soak overnight but no luck.", "How to get rid of pee stains on bathtub? Father is getting old and losing manners so he thinks its okay to just pee in the bathtub every morning while showering and now it smells like urin everytime someone else showers. I've tried vinegar, microfiber cloth, toilet cleaner, magic eraser, and let them soak overnight but no luck.", "How to get rid of pee stains on bathtub? Father is getting old and losing manners so he thinks its okay to just pee in the bathtub every morning while showering and now it smells like urin everytime someone else showers. I've tried vinegar, microfiber cloth, toilet cleaner, magic eraser, and let them soak overnight but no luck." ]

[ "> its okay to just pee in the bathtub every morning while showering \n\nIs he at least letting the shower rinse the pee down. Pretty sure a lot of people do this and don't have an issue with smell, right guys? ", "Does he not let the water rinse it down the drain or something? If its not that then there might be a big hairball blocking the drain holding all kinds of nasty smells.\n\nTake the drain cover off and see if there's any hair in there. Be sure to do this on an empty stomach because hairballs can be nasty.", "Try a zip it or something like that. http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000BO9204/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1433803385&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SY200_QL40&keywords=zip+it&dpPl=1&dpID=31QrGJ9g4fL&ref=plSrch. It really shouldn't be the tub itself smelling unless the coating is just wrecked.", "If it's a porcelain tub, and the urine isn't getting rinsed away right after he voids, then it might be in the the porcelain. A good oven cleaner (Easy Off is a common North American brand) sprayed, left to sit for a good 10 minutes, rinse and repeat will help. The clean your drain advice is good, too." ]

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[ "What to write on a CV when you don't have experience. I've just got out of college and looking for a job when all I see are job ads asking for experience. My cv is very basic because I don't have references even though I have a bachelor degree. What can I do to my cv so it looks more interesting?", "What to write on a CV when you don't have experience. I've just got out of college and looking for a job when all I see are job ads asking for experience. My cv is very basic because I don't have references even though I have a bachelor degree. What can I do to my cv so it looks more interesting?", "What to write on a CV when you don't have experience. I've just got out of college and looking for a job when all I see are job ads asking for experience. My cv is very basic because I don't have references even though I have a bachelor degree. What can I do to my cv so it looks more interesting?", "What to write on a CV when you don't have experience. I've just got out of college and looking for a job when all I see are job ads asking for experience. My cv is very basic because I don't have references even though I have a bachelor degree. What can I do to my cv so it looks more interesting?", "What to write on a CV when you don't have experience. I've just got out of college and looking for a job when all I see are job ads asking for experience. My cv is very basic because I don't have references even though I have a bachelor degree. What can I do to my cv so it looks more interesting?" ]

[ "I'll second what others have said about volunteer/intern/pro bono/community work. \"Experience\" isn't just what you're paid for. \n\nIt sounds like the bachelor's degree is your most valuable asset right now. Some things to consider to get the greatest ROI for your resume: \n1) Relevant specialization or minor?\n\n2) Honors or awards, either showing general excellence or, even better, something relating to your target job? Cum laude, academic honors, merit scholarships?\n\n3) Relevant course titles. Your transcript can be a rich source of keywords.\n\n4) Project work. Did you produce an undergraduate thesis/capstone project/senior project? If a team project, what role did you play on the team? Did you have a specialty others relied on? Did you lead or assist others in their roles?\n\n5) Original research/publications. Did you author or curate resources relating to your field?\n\n6) Student leadership. Did you belong to any relevant clubs/organizations? Within those, any committees? Were you elected or appointed to any leadership positions?\n\n7) Teaching others. Were you a TA or peer mentor? With what program or subject? Can you show you made a difference (metrics in student performance or a testimonial quote from those you worked with)?\n\n8) Study abroad experience? Immersion experience in other languages/cultures/subjects?\n\n9) Did you work while a student? Can you show that you maintained strong academic performance while working XX hours/week to finance education? This can prove your work ethic and organization--never bad qualities. \n\n10) Professional associations and activities. Were you a student member of a national or regional association?\n", "When I had nothing much of note to put on my cv, I used even the smallest things to add to it. For example, if there was a symposium or conference that I just attended, did not present at, or just bolstered the little bit of experience I had working in a small lab with each technique lined out and all. Also, volunteered at an event or helped organize it. You might think you've done very little, but if you look for it, there's probably more than you think.", "Various teams or \"guilds\" you have contributed to online. \n\nTestimony from a parent or guardian on you general qualities as a person.\n\nMake sure to include any sort of achievements for participation in various middle school groups and any ribbons won at the fair.\n\nState political affiliations and movie or book recommendations.\n\nInclude a stool sample whether or not they ask for one (unless you've smoked a blunt in the last 36 hours, then just use someone else's stool sample.)\n\nSpice it up with a section labeled \"Truth or Dare\" filled with interesting \"Facts?\"\n\nDo a quick google search of the person you will be handing the CV to and leave it at their personal home address under a rock or slip it in an open window to stand out from the people simply emailing it to a company address.\n\nKNOW YOUR RIGHTS, and if its legal you should definitely open-carry the largest gun in your collection so they understand that you understand the rights and privileges of the US Constitution.\n\nKNOW YOUR RIGHTS, and if you feel the interview is taking too long ask RESPECTFULLY \"Am I being detained?\"\n\nDon't drink AND drive.\n\nWrite the CV as if the receiver is a long lost lover and treat them as such at the inevitable interview.\n\nAlso make copious use of the phrase \"et cetera\" to make their minds fill in the blank spots of the resume with their wildest dreams and hopes, giving you an edge on the competition.", "Seconded on the volunteer work, also for anyone in college, please do yourself a favour and either volunteer or get a part time job in a related field, you're screwing yourself over without it.", "Hobbies, focusing on how that hobby exercises skills.\n\nFor example, let's say you play Magic: The Gathering because that's what I play. This teaches forward planning, dynamic reaction to emergent situations, resource management, and goal optimization. You plan your next couple turns, change the plan depending on the opponent, have limited resources in cards and mana, and sometimes have to sacrifice benefit now for payoff later.\n\nThe same could be said for chess, FPS games, soccer, table tennis or any activity which involves other live human beings.\n\nAnd it's OK to leave out a section if it would just be empty. Better that than \"previous work: none\"" ]

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[ "How to be happy? Just to tell my story:\n\nI'm from the middle east, from Lebanon. If anyone knows anything about Lebanon, it's been in a crisis for 3 years now and it keeps getting worse, but I also never had a good life there since I don't come from a good functioning family or even a rich family.\n\nSo, what I did for years is literally just grind (I'm a software developer). I grinded for years to get better in development and to eventually find a job in a western country. Eventually, this year I got a job in a western country, and I finally got the peace of mind that I have been trying to get for years. I was so miserable for more than 5 years and close to suicidal even.\n\nBut, for some reason I'm still not happy. I don't know what to do.. I have been going sightseeing mostly, but I haven't been in a relationship forever and since I just grinded for years, the only thing I find some enjoyment in is coding. I have no idea how to be happy in anything else, if I laugh I feel like I'm always fake laughing and not really enjoying my time, I seriously don't know how to be happy or maybe to even let loose.", "How to be happy? Just to tell my story:\n\nI'm from the middle east, from Lebanon. If anyone knows anything about Lebanon, it's been in a crisis for 3 years now and it keeps getting worse, but I also never had a good life there since I don't come from a good functioning family or even a rich family.\n\nSo, what I did for years is literally just grind (I'm a software developer). I grinded for years to get better in development and to eventually find a job in a western country. Eventually, this year I got a job in a western country, and I finally got the peace of mind that I have been trying to get for years. I was so miserable for more than 5 years and close to suicidal even.\n\nBut, for some reason I'm still not happy. I don't know what to do.. I have been going sightseeing mostly, but I haven't been in a relationship forever and since I just grinded for years, the only thing I find some enjoyment in is coding. I have no idea how to be happy in anything else, if I laugh I feel like I'm always fake laughing and not really enjoying my time, I seriously don't know how to be happy or maybe to even let loose.", "How to be happy? Just to tell my story:\n\nI'm from the middle east, from Lebanon. If anyone knows anything about Lebanon, it's been in a crisis for 3 years now and it keeps getting worse, but I also never had a good life there since I don't come from a good functioning family or even a rich family.\n\nSo, what I did for years is literally just grind (I'm a software developer). I grinded for years to get better in development and to eventually find a job in a western country. Eventually, this year I got a job in a western country, and I finally got the peace of mind that I have been trying to get for years. I was so miserable for more than 5 years and close to suicidal even.\n\nBut, for some reason I'm still not happy. I don't know what to do.. I have been going sightseeing mostly, but I haven't been in a relationship forever and since I just grinded for years, the only thing I find some enjoyment in is coding. I have no idea how to be happy in anything else, if I laugh I feel like I'm always fake laughing and not really enjoying my time, I seriously don't know how to be happy or maybe to even let loose.", "How to be happy? Just to tell my story:\n\nI'm from the middle east, from Lebanon. If anyone knows anything about Lebanon, it's been in a crisis for 3 years now and it keeps getting worse, but I also never had a good life there since I don't come from a good functioning family or even a rich family.\n\nSo, what I did for years is literally just grind (I'm a software developer). I grinded for years to get better in development and to eventually find a job in a western country. Eventually, this year I got a job in a western country, and I finally got the peace of mind that I have been trying to get for years. I was so miserable for more than 5 years and close to suicidal even.\n\nBut, for some reason I'm still not happy. I don't know what to do.. I have been going sightseeing mostly, but I haven't been in a relationship forever and since I just grinded for years, the only thing I find some enjoyment in is coding. I have no idea how to be happy in anything else, if I laugh I feel like I'm always fake laughing and not really enjoying my time, I seriously don't know how to be happy or maybe to even let loose.", "How to be happy? Just to tell my story:\n\nI'm from the middle east, from Lebanon. If anyone knows anything about Lebanon, it's been in a crisis for 3 years now and it keeps getting worse, but I also never had a good life there since I don't come from a good functioning family or even a rich family.\n\nSo, what I did for years is literally just grind (I'm a software developer). I grinded for years to get better in development and to eventually find a job in a western country. Eventually, this year I got a job in a western country, and I finally got the peace of mind that I have been trying to get for years. I was so miserable for more than 5 years and close to suicidal even.\n\nBut, for some reason I'm still not happy. I don't know what to do.. I have been going sightseeing mostly, but I haven't been in a relationship forever and since I just grinded for years, the only thing I find some enjoyment in is coding. I have no idea how to be happy in anything else, if I laugh I feel like I'm always fake laughing and not really enjoying my time, I seriously don't know how to be happy or maybe to even let loose.", "How to be happy? Just to tell my story:\n\nI'm from the middle east, from Lebanon. If anyone knows anything about Lebanon, it's been in a crisis for 3 years now and it keeps getting worse, but I also never had a good life there since I don't come from a good functioning family or even a rich family.\n\nSo, what I did for years is literally just grind (I'm a software developer). I grinded for years to get better in development and to eventually find a job in a western country. Eventually, this year I got a job in a western country, and I finally got the peace of mind that I have been trying to get for years. I was so miserable for more than 5 years and close to suicidal even.\n\nBut, for some reason I'm still not happy. I don't know what to do.. I have been going sightseeing mostly, but I haven't been in a relationship forever and since I just grinded for years, the only thing I find some enjoyment in is coding. I have no idea how to be happy in anything else, if I laugh I feel like I'm always fake laughing and not really enjoying my time, I seriously don't know how to be happy or maybe to even let loose.", "How to be happy? Just to tell my story:\n\nI'm from the middle east, from Lebanon. If anyone knows anything about Lebanon, it's been in a crisis for 3 years now and it keeps getting worse, but I also never had a good life there since I don't come from a good functioning family or even a rich family.\n\nSo, what I did for years is literally just grind (I'm a software developer). I grinded for years to get better in development and to eventually find a job in a western country. Eventually, this year I got a job in a western country, and I finally got the peace of mind that I have been trying to get for years. I was so miserable for more than 5 years and close to suicidal even.\n\nBut, for some reason I'm still not happy. I don't know what to do.. I have been going sightseeing mostly, but I haven't been in a relationship forever and since I just grinded for years, the only thing I find some enjoyment in is coding. I have no idea how to be happy in anything else, if I laugh I feel like I'm always fake laughing and not really enjoying my time, I seriously don't know how to be happy or maybe to even let loose.", "How to be happy? Just to tell my story:\n\nI'm from the middle east, from Lebanon. If anyone knows anything about Lebanon, it's been in a crisis for 3 years now and it keeps getting worse, but I also never had a good life there since I don't come from a good functioning family or even a rich family.\n\nSo, what I did for years is literally just grind (I'm a software developer). I grinded for years to get better in development and to eventually find a job in a western country. Eventually, this year I got a job in a western country, and I finally got the peace of mind that I have been trying to get for years. I was so miserable for more than 5 years and close to suicidal even.\n\nBut, for some reason I'm still not happy. I don't know what to do.. I have been going sightseeing mostly, but I haven't been in a relationship forever and since I just grinded for years, the only thing I find some enjoyment in is coding. I have no idea how to be happy in anything else, if I laugh I feel like I'm always fake laughing and not really enjoying my time, I seriously don't know how to be happy or maybe to even let loose.", "How to be happy? Just to tell my story:\n\nI'm from the middle east, from Lebanon. If anyone knows anything about Lebanon, it's been in a crisis for 3 years now and it keeps getting worse, but I also never had a good life there since I don't come from a good functioning family or even a rich family.\n\nSo, what I did for years is literally just grind (I'm a software developer). I grinded for years to get better in development and to eventually find a job in a western country. Eventually, this year I got a job in a western country, and I finally got the peace of mind that I have been trying to get for years. I was so miserable for more than 5 years and close to suicidal even.\n\nBut, for some reason I'm still not happy. I don't know what to do.. I have been going sightseeing mostly, but I haven't been in a relationship forever and since I just grinded for years, the only thing I find some enjoyment in is coding. I have no idea how to be happy in anything else, if I laugh I feel like I'm always fake laughing and not really enjoying my time, I seriously don't know how to be happy or maybe to even let loose.", "How to be happy? Just to tell my story:\n\nI'm from the middle east, from Lebanon. If anyone knows anything about Lebanon, it's been in a crisis for 3 years now and it keeps getting worse, but I also never had a good life there since I don't come from a good functioning family or even a rich family.\n\nSo, what I did for years is literally just grind (I'm a software developer). I grinded for years to get better in development and to eventually find a job in a western country. Eventually, this year I got a job in a western country, and I finally got the peace of mind that I have been trying to get for years. I was so miserable for more than 5 years and close to suicidal even.\n\nBut, for some reason I'm still not happy. I don't know what to do.. I have been going sightseeing mostly, but I haven't been in a relationship forever and since I just grinded for years, the only thing I find some enjoyment in is coding. I have no idea how to be happy in anything else, if I laugh I feel like I'm always fake laughing and not really enjoying my time, I seriously don't know how to be happy or maybe to even let loose.", "How to be happy? Just to tell my story:\n\nI'm from the middle east, from Lebanon. If anyone knows anything about Lebanon, it's been in a crisis for 3 years now and it keeps getting worse, but I also never had a good life there since I don't come from a good functioning family or even a rich family.\n\nSo, what I did for years is literally just grind (I'm a software developer). I grinded for years to get better in development and to eventually find a job in a western country. Eventually, this year I got a job in a western country, and I finally got the peace of mind that I have been trying to get for years. I was so miserable for more than 5 years and close to suicidal even.\n\nBut, for some reason I'm still not happy. I don't know what to do.. I have been going sightseeing mostly, but I haven't been in a relationship forever and since I just grinded for years, the only thing I find some enjoyment in is coding. I have no idea how to be happy in anything else, if I laugh I feel like I'm always fake laughing and not really enjoying my time, I seriously don't know how to be happy or maybe to even let loose." ]

[ "Happiness is fleeting. When we think we have it...*poof* it's gone. \n\nThe Buddha said it best when told by someone \"I want happiness\". \n\n\"If we get rid of ego, the \"I\". If we get rid of desire, \"want\". We are left with happiness\"\n\nBe appreciative of what you have in the present. Don't compare yourself to others, especially on social media. \n\n\nPersonally, i have my \"3 Fs\". Since so many people want to give their opinion on my life and how it could be better or happier. If you don't do 2 out of 3...Feed me, Finance me, or Fuck me...idgaf about what u think of me or my life. This simple guideline (and others I've stated above) has helped keep my caring down to a minimum for just myself and the life I'm living.", "Happiness is not a concrete goal. It is an effect.\n\nI'm not a therapist, but I would advise anybody \n\n1)do not worry about how others see you\n2) ask \"is that helpful\"\n3) m", "Maybe find a therapist who also emigrated as you did to talk to about this stuff . We’ve all had a rough two years so you definitely aren’t alone. I think one suggestion that may bring you joy in a sense or at least peace of mind is expressing yourself and seeing how much more similar you are to others than you may realize . Good luck 👍", "Your comment about laughing is a clue that you already know what direction you need to go in, if you have the courage to pursue it. Look for the “silver linings” in every situation. What can you appreciate about the moment? What is good? What do you find funny? Watch more comedy. Read more jokes. Find your sense of humor. Work on your gratitude. There is always something to be thankful for. There is always something you can do to show kindness to others. Do you know what are your interests? Explore and find out! You have a journey ahead of you!", "IMO happiness stems from gratitude. Satisfied with your lot. Not in a sense of not being ambitious, but focused on what’s going well. It’s a simple concept but difficult in practice. \n\nImagine a blind person who sees for the first time. After ten years that person might take sight for granted and lose that initial wonder. \n\npeople can cultivate that wonder and appreciation. Not easy tho. And it can lead to complacency if done wrong.", "Your comment about laughing is a clue that you already know what direction you need to go in, if you have the courage to pursue it. Look for the “silver linings” in every situation. What can you appreciate about the moment? What is good? What do you find funny? Watch more comedy. Read more jokes. Find your sense of humor. Work on your gratitude. There is always something to be thankful for. Do you know what are your interests? Explore and find out! You have a journey ahead of you!", "Time to grind therapy. \n\nI say that in a kidding way, but I truly believe we can all benefit from talking with a real therapist (not just your friends/family/strangers on a bus). Speaking to a therapist can help you get a perspective on life that is eluding you and give you a direction to point yourself when you feel lost.", "Some people just live to work. I read your comments and it does seem like you'd enjoy working out. It's hard to say how to be happy, it's different for everyone. It's easier to accept that it's something that is fleeting and in the moment, and the rest should just be \"content\". Enjoy the moment when you eat good food, or when you walk in and smell your home. Good luck", "If you have the time and access, there is a free class on Coursera by Dr. Laurie Santos on the Science of Well-Being. The purpose of the class is to give people concrete ways, based on science, that they could be happier/more satisfied/better in their lives. For example, as someone mentioned, gratitude can improve your well-being. Exercise is another example. There are lots more things covered in the class as well. I already knew a lot of them coming into the class, but I still enjoyed it because the instructor is engaging and the data was fascinating.\n\n", "I might be overstepping here, but it's possible you might be suffering from some kind of trauma or depression, due to the situations you mentioned. It might be beneficial to try therapy or find someone trusted to open up with about these things. Best wishes and I hope you can find happiness again.", "Happiness is state of mind. It has nothing to do with material world. Do exercise, yoga, Engage yourself in some kind of spiritual thing." ]

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[ "What is the best way to keep your PC/Laptop cool while running high-process applications. I have a gaming laptop that heats up to around 72-80°C when I run high-end applications on it. Other than cooling pads, what are the best ways to keep my laptop cool. It already has 2 fans built into the bottom, which I keep elevated, but that doesn't seem to be enough.", "What is the best way to keep your PC/Laptop cool while running high-process applications. I have a gaming laptop that heats up to around 72-80°C when I run high-end applications on it. Other than cooling pads, what are the best ways to keep my laptop cool. It already has 2 fans built into the bottom, which I keep elevated, but that doesn't seem to be enough.", "What is the best way to keep your PC/Laptop cool while running high-process applications. I have a gaming laptop that heats up to around 72-80°C when I run high-end applications on it. Other than cooling pads, what are the best ways to keep my laptop cool. It already has 2 fans built into the bottom, which I keep elevated, but that doesn't seem to be enough.", "What is the best way to keep your PC/Laptop cool while running high-process applications. I have a gaming laptop that heats up to around 72-80°C when I run high-end applications on it. Other than cooling pads, what are the best ways to keep my laptop cool. It already has 2 fans built into the bottom, which I keep elevated, but that doesn't seem to be enough." ]

[ "I bought a dual fan cooling pad for mine, seemed to keep it from overheating. I also bought a usb powered flexible fan... but that was a little excessive, I think.\n\n", "Unless it’s brand new, it could be that the cooling system is clogged with dust. If the heat sinks and fans are caked then they can’t get the heat out quick enough. If this is the case you might want to use some compressed air to clean it. Vacuums can generate static electricity that could harm the components, possibly. You might meet to take it apart to some degree to get to the heatsink fins and fans.", "there's not much you can do except putting it into the fridge. \nAlso, put the question to a more IT related sub.", "Just let it cook. It will self throttle anyway. It won’t Kill itself, just tasks will take longer to complete because it’s self limiting to prevent laptop suicide." ]

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[ "When pets behavior issues hurt other animals and family members I love my cat and he's always had issues with anxiety. He's on medication and it's no longer having an effect. He attacks my other cat unprovoked. This used to be occasional, but now it's daily. I keep them separate as much as possible, but my house isn't that big. Last night, he scratched my husband so bad, I had to take him to the hospital. \n\nI've tried multiple anxiety medications. I considered declawing, but I'm worried that will just lead to him biting instead of scratching. I've tried other things like using scents to calm him, but nothing works. I play with him everyday in the hopes that he won't have energy to attack my other cat. I take him to the vet regularly and he doesn't have any other health issues.\n\nI'm starting to wonder if it's time to put him down. I just don't know what else to do. He's 12 years old and his issues seem to worsen every year.", "When pets behavior issues hurt other animals and family members I love my cat and he's always had issues with anxiety. He's on medication and it's no longer having an effect. He attacks my other cat unprovoked. This used to be occasional, but now it's daily. I keep them separate as much as possible, but my house isn't that big. Last night, he scratched my husband so bad, I had to take him to the hospital. \n\nI've tried multiple anxiety medications. I considered declawing, but I'm worried that will just lead to him biting instead of scratching. I've tried other things like using scents to calm him, but nothing works. I play with him everyday in the hopes that he won't have energy to attack my other cat. I take him to the vet regularly and he doesn't have any other health issues.\n\nI'm starting to wonder if it's time to put him down. I just don't know what else to do. He's 12 years old and his issues seem to worsen every year." ]

[ "You say you've taken him to the vet, but have you ever asked about getting referred to a veterinary behaviourist or something similar? It might be a good next step if you haven't yet. \n\nI think you're concerns about declawing are probably valid. Removing his claws certainly isn't going to make him any less anxious and could quite likely make him more so. Sure he wouldn't be able to scratch people but as you say he may change to biting instead and even if not, he'll still be unhappy.\n\nYou may already be doing this, but as well as actually keeping the cats separate, making sure they don't have to compete for resources can go a long way to reducing their stress levels. Make sure they have separate litter trays, food and water bowls beds. If you give them the opportunity cats will often self-segregate. \n\n/r/askvet may be able to give you some advice too- chances are they'll reiterate the 'get a referral to a behaviourist' thing (as it really is the best option, especially if this has got serious enough that human health is at risk) but they may have other tips too.", "I don't see why'd it be necessary to kill him. I think perhaps looking into finding him a new home. Perhaps with someone without other pets and in an environment that could benefit him. " ]

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[ "What are the best disciplines for staying focused while working at home? I may be starting a new job where I am working at home remotely full time. What are the best ways to stay focused and get work done and not get distracted?\n\n\n\n", "What are the best disciplines for staying focused while working at home? I may be starting a new job where I am working at home remotely full time. What are the best ways to stay focused and get work done and not get distracted?\n\n\n\n", "What are the best disciplines for staying focused while working at home? I may be starting a new job where I am working at home remotely full time. What are the best ways to stay focused and get work done and not get distracted?\n\n\n\n", "What are the best disciplines for staying focused while working at home? I may be starting a new job where I am working at home remotely full time. What are the best ways to stay focused and get work done and not get distracted?\n\n\n\n", "What are the best disciplines for staying focused while working at home? I may be starting a new job where I am working at home remotely full time. What are the best ways to stay focused and get work done and not get distracted?\n\n\n\n", "What are the best disciplines for staying focused while working at home? I may be starting a new job where I am working at home remotely full time. What are the best ways to stay focused and get work done and not get distracted?\n\n\n\n", "What are the best disciplines for staying focused while working at home? I may be starting a new job where I am working at home remotely full time. What are the best ways to stay focused and get work done and not get distracted?\n\n\n\n" ]

[ "Hourly targets. I found when working or studying at home setting hourly targets, breaks and lunchtime/gym time worked best. I'd say ok at 1100 I'll start this, this and this. at 1200 I'll break for lunch, 1300 do this and this (You get the idea).\n\nAlso a sterile work area.\n\nAnd if you are married/have family/room mates, make sure they know that you have work hours to keep, and can't be doing errands etc. all day (that's the biggest killer).\n", "Definitely try to make your work area follow two criteria:\n\nIt's somewhere you can spend long periods of time. Have things like art, plants, nice colors, but simple enough to not invoke a lot of thoughts.\n\nIt's dedicated. It is THE workspace, and is not in the bedroom, dining room, etc. Once you are done working, you should not need to go back to that area until you work next, otherwise you might be vulnerable to connecting that place with other daily tasks, and easily become distracted.\n\nAnd try to keep non-work-related stuff out. Like trying to eat elsewhere, not bringing your workout with you, stuff like that.", "I'm very introverted and generally liked working from home...but one thing that helped when even I got cabin fever was working from the local library. It's quiet in there (obviously), and unlike cafes, you aren't forced to buy something every few hours to justify your presence. \n\nWhen you're at home, you should try and keep your workspace separate from your living space if you can. If you would get too distracted by Netflix or something, try and not have a TV in your office if you have the space. Sign off of your VPN when it's after hours. \n\nThere are, however, a lot of advantages to working from home. It was great to do my laundry at home while working at the same time!", "If i knew that i would not be writing this and in the process of getting stoned. \n\n\nStep 1. Stay off reddit.\nStep 2. Probably dont get stoned, but maybe it will help?\nStep 3. Self control app, selectively block websites. \nStep 4. I always found that exercise in the middle helps. Bang out some pushups, take frequent walks, etc\nStwp 5. Find good music. Music used to hinder me. I find liquid drum and bass to be energetic but not distracting. Ymmv", "In addition to all the other tips posted here, [try this chrome extension](https://chrome.google.com/…/enebomhlllfaccbelnjhfgblnalofhch). It lets you specify how many hours you can spend on your vice sites, and during what hours you want the constraints to apply. ", "I'm fortunate to have a dedicated office in my house, and it helps me to use it ONLY for my professional work. When I need to pay bills or do other types of desk work not related to my profession I take my laptop to the dining room. When I'm going to screw around on the internet, I go sit on the couch. If I'm really unable to focus, I go to the library. If you have family around who may distract you with noise, a good pair of noise cancelling headphones is also a help. ", "I would try a lot of things and see what works for you. I tried having a dedicated space but it was almost like there weren't enough distractions - in the office you have chatter and noise and things going on. I went a bit mad just looking at a computer screen. If anything I work best with the TV or radio on, but nothing too exciting. Nature programmes or documentaries for example. When I take breaks as well I have a set household task like to clean the bathroom. Keeps it to a time limit and it is productive." ]

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[ "How to plan time and how to motivate yourself to not be lazy? Now I am not a lazy slob or anything like that, but I work full time which leaves me little spare time. This means that when I get home, I don't always do the productive stuff I want to. Does anyone have any tips on how to motivate yourself after a long day of work to do something productive and not just be lazy and watch TV or something? ", "How to plan time and how to motivate yourself to not be lazy? Now I am not a lazy slob or anything like that, but I work full time which leaves me little spare time. This means that when I get home, I don't always do the productive stuff I want to. Does anyone have any tips on how to motivate yourself after a long day of work to do something productive and not just be lazy and watch TV or something? " ]

[ "I've recently gotten a book called \"How to be a Knowledge Ninja,\" whose author has also written,\"How to be a Productivity Ninja.\" These books are only a few hundred pages each, and are very useful. I suggest that that you get one or both of these, but here's my general point:\n\nBeing lazy is not something you can fix instantly. You have to fix your lifestyle to accommodate your working needs, which can take a while. A few tips: To-Do Lists. Have a \"Master\" List, which has all your main, overall projects, like to get a job or finish school. Split this up into smaller and smaller actions that you know you need to do, until you have specific tasks that you can do, right now. By doing this, you can see how overwhelmed you are, and that you actually need to work. So ask yourself: \"What is the next physical action?\" And decide. What is the smallest, easiest thing you can do to be productive. What is so easy that you have no reason not to do it? \"Write your name on your paper\" or \"Clean off your desk for 2 minutes.\" Doing this, you become much more productive and you will be more proud and satisfied with yourself.", "Write a to do list on a mirror with a dry erase marker. Chances are you look at it every time you use the bathroom. Instead of erasing tasks as soon as it's done, check mark it as a reminder that you are accomplishing things. \n\nDoing a light exercise when you get home brings your energy back up. Over time you will naturally energize after you get home. " ]

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[ "How Do I Actualize the Ideal Self I See in My Head? Lately I've been having really clear \"visions\" of the person I want to be, mostly in social situations. It sounds corny, but I see a charismatic, debonair version of myself in my head doing everything right in social situations that I could be having but don't. \n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\nTo be clear, I'm not thinking about past missed opportunities that I'm regretting in the future due to inaction -- it's more like I'm seeing it in real time. Like at a party, for example, I'm sitting down being my normal, introverted self, observing a conversation take place, and in my head I see myself walk over to them, introduce myself, be interested in who I'm talking to and have an engaging conversation. This is not even talking about picking up girls or anything, but just being able to communicate well with another person or group of people. Being warm to them, being genuinely intrigued in who they are, making an appropriate amount of physical contact with them to create a bond, and doing everything right to leave a lasting impression on that person. \n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\n**A small realization and side thought:** We all pretend like we are above being liked and we don't care what people think, and I still act like that. But it simply is not true. I want to walk into a room and I want people to come up to me wanting to talk to me because the last time we met they had such an enjoyable time and I left a good impression. I want people after a social gathering to turn the nearest person and say, \"Man, jumpmancw is a great dude. I like that fella.\" It's just crazy and really frustrating because I think I know how to do that, but I just don't do it. Instead I'm the person people poke fun of with statements like \"Ah, making friends again I see!\" and that sort of banter. Another thing is I feel like I'm kind of stuck as the person I am now because everyone who knows me knows how I am and if I just up and change how I act, people will think I'm some faker weirdo.\n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\nI'm sorry this ended up like me venting rather than a request. This is probably too abstract or complicated to be given a good answer here, but it felt good to get my thoughts out in a (semi)organized fashion. I will appreciate any tips and can offer more insight if needed. I'm sure this is not a unique problem, and a lot of people experienced it. I'm sure other people have asked this question many times, but I'm not sure how they asked and didn't want to search for it, so I'm posting instead. Also, if your tip is to \"just do it\" or other things that are obvious, but don't really help... I would appreciate it if you kept that to yourself.\n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\n***** \n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\n**TL;DR: I see a charming and charismatic version of myself in my head when I'm in social situations acting how I want to be, when in reality I'm antisocial and avoid unnecessary contact with unfamiliar people. I think I know/have what it takes to be this person, I just don't act on it and don't know why.**", "How Do I Actualize the Ideal Self I See in My Head? Lately I've been having really clear \"visions\" of the person I want to be, mostly in social situations. It sounds corny, but I see a charismatic, debonair version of myself in my head doing everything right in social situations that I could be having but don't. \n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\nTo be clear, I'm not thinking about past missed opportunities that I'm regretting in the future due to inaction -- it's more like I'm seeing it in real time. Like at a party, for example, I'm sitting down being my normal, introverted self, observing a conversation take place, and in my head I see myself walk over to them, introduce myself, be interested in who I'm talking to and have an engaging conversation. This is not even talking about picking up girls or anything, but just being able to communicate well with another person or group of people. Being warm to them, being genuinely intrigued in who they are, making an appropriate amount of physical contact with them to create a bond, and doing everything right to leave a lasting impression on that person. \n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\n**A small realization and side thought:** We all pretend like we are above being liked and we don't care what people think, and I still act like that. But it simply is not true. I want to walk into a room and I want people to come up to me wanting to talk to me because the last time we met they had such an enjoyable time and I left a good impression. I want people after a social gathering to turn the nearest person and say, \"Man, jumpmancw is a great dude. I like that fella.\" It's just crazy and really frustrating because I think I know how to do that, but I just don't do it. Instead I'm the person people poke fun of with statements like \"Ah, making friends again I see!\" and that sort of banter. Another thing is I feel like I'm kind of stuck as the person I am now because everyone who knows me knows how I am and if I just up and change how I act, people will think I'm some faker weirdo.\n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\nI'm sorry this ended up like me venting rather than a request. This is probably too abstract or complicated to be given a good answer here, but it felt good to get my thoughts out in a (semi)organized fashion. I will appreciate any tips and can offer more insight if needed. I'm sure this is not a unique problem, and a lot of people experienced it. I'm sure other people have asked this question many times, but I'm not sure how they asked and didn't want to search for it, so I'm posting instead. Also, if your tip is to \"just do it\" or other things that are obvious, but don't really help... I would appreciate it if you kept that to yourself.\n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\n***** \n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\n**TL;DR: I see a charming and charismatic version of myself in my head when I'm in social situations acting how I want to be, when in reality I'm antisocial and avoid unnecessary contact with unfamiliar people. I think I know/have what it takes to be this person, I just don't act on it and don't know why.**", "How Do I Actualize the Ideal Self I See in My Head? Lately I've been having really clear \"visions\" of the person I want to be, mostly in social situations. It sounds corny, but I see a charismatic, debonair version of myself in my head doing everything right in social situations that I could be having but don't. \n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\nTo be clear, I'm not thinking about past missed opportunities that I'm regretting in the future due to inaction -- it's more like I'm seeing it in real time. Like at a party, for example, I'm sitting down being my normal, introverted self, observing a conversation take place, and in my head I see myself walk over to them, introduce myself, be interested in who I'm talking to and have an engaging conversation. This is not even talking about picking up girls or anything, but just being able to communicate well with another person or group of people. Being warm to them, being genuinely intrigued in who they are, making an appropriate amount of physical contact with them to create a bond, and doing everything right to leave a lasting impression on that person. \n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\n**A small realization and side thought:** We all pretend like we are above being liked and we don't care what people think, and I still act like that. But it simply is not true. I want to walk into a room and I want people to come up to me wanting to talk to me because the last time we met they had such an enjoyable time and I left a good impression. I want people after a social gathering to turn the nearest person and say, \"Man, jumpmancw is a great dude. I like that fella.\" It's just crazy and really frustrating because I think I know how to do that, but I just don't do it. Instead I'm the person people poke fun of with statements like \"Ah, making friends again I see!\" and that sort of banter. Another thing is I feel like I'm kind of stuck as the person I am now because everyone who knows me knows how I am and if I just up and change how I act, people will think I'm some faker weirdo.\n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\nI'm sorry this ended up like me venting rather than a request. This is probably too abstract or complicated to be given a good answer here, but it felt good to get my thoughts out in a (semi)organized fashion. I will appreciate any tips and can offer more insight if needed. I'm sure this is not a unique problem, and a lot of people experienced it. I'm sure other people have asked this question many times, but I'm not sure how they asked and didn't want to search for it, so I'm posting instead. Also, if your tip is to \"just do it\" or other things that are obvious, but don't really help... I would appreciate it if you kept that to yourself.\n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\n***** \n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\n**TL;DR: I see a charming and charismatic version of myself in my head when I'm in social situations acting how I want to be, when in reality I'm antisocial and avoid unnecessary contact with unfamiliar people. I think I know/have what it takes to be this person, I just don't act on it and don't know why.**", "How Do I Actualize the Ideal Self I See in My Head? Lately I've been having really clear \"visions\" of the person I want to be, mostly in social situations. It sounds corny, but I see a charismatic, debonair version of myself in my head doing everything right in social situations that I could be having but don't. \n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\nTo be clear, I'm not thinking about past missed opportunities that I'm regretting in the future due to inaction -- it's more like I'm seeing it in real time. Like at a party, for example, I'm sitting down being my normal, introverted self, observing a conversation take place, and in my head I see myself walk over to them, introduce myself, be interested in who I'm talking to and have an engaging conversation. This is not even talking about picking up girls or anything, but just being able to communicate well with another person or group of people. Being warm to them, being genuinely intrigued in who they are, making an appropriate amount of physical contact with them to create a bond, and doing everything right to leave a lasting impression on that person. \n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\n**A small realization and side thought:** We all pretend like we are above being liked and we don't care what people think, and I still act like that. But it simply is not true. I want to walk into a room and I want people to come up to me wanting to talk to me because the last time we met they had such an enjoyable time and I left a good impression. I want people after a social gathering to turn the nearest person and say, \"Man, jumpmancw is a great dude. I like that fella.\" It's just crazy and really frustrating because I think I know how to do that, but I just don't do it. Instead I'm the person people poke fun of with statements like \"Ah, making friends again I see!\" and that sort of banter. Another thing is I feel like I'm kind of stuck as the person I am now because everyone who knows me knows how I am and if I just up and change how I act, people will think I'm some faker weirdo.\n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\nI'm sorry this ended up like me venting rather than a request. This is probably too abstract or complicated to be given a good answer here, but it felt good to get my thoughts out in a (semi)organized fashion. I will appreciate any tips and can offer more insight if needed. I'm sure this is not a unique problem, and a lot of people experienced it. I'm sure other people have asked this question many times, but I'm not sure how they asked and didn't want to search for it, so I'm posting instead. Also, if your tip is to \"just do it\" or other things that are obvious, but don't really help... I would appreciate it if you kept that to yourself.\n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\n***** \n\n&amp;nbsp;\n\n**TL;DR: I see a charming and charismatic version of myself in my head when I'm in social situations acting how I want to be, when in reality I'm antisocial and avoid unnecessary contact with unfamiliar people. I think I know/have what it takes to be this person, I just don't act on it and don't know why.**" ]

[ "Say yes to ~~anything~~ most things! Socialising comes by practice so the more you do it, the better. If someone you barely know offers you to go for a drink, minigolf, or whatever, do it. It's tempting to back out shyly and come up with a thousand bullshit reasons, but every time you step out of your comfort zone, you'll get progressively better at it.", "one tip, and its one I only read yesterday, can remember the OP to cr", "Have literally dealt/currently dealing with the same exact thing.\n\nThere is a difference between head knowledge and actual application. For example, we understand the basics of winning the 100m dash, but that won't make us all Usain Bolt. However, that's not saying that you can't work to be. \"Charming\" and \"charismatic\" are characteristics that can be trained and built up much like strength and stamina. \n\nTry approaching your social skills with this mindset. The only way athletes can run faster or lift more is to continually force themselves out of their comfort zone. The resistance is what builds up their skills. \"Train\" by practicing your skills in small ways. Like, when a person at a store asks if they can assist you, go ahead and tell them what you're looking for or make it up. I find that striking up a conversation with your barber (if they are up for it) is very good practice since you literally can't escape. Find small harmless interactions in your every day life and use this to get used to speaking. From there you can move onto bigger, and bigger interactions, until you get to finally perform the way you want to in social situations.\n\nBut most importantly you have to become comfortable in your own skin. I mean this in the literal and abstract sense. I've made extremely \"cringe-worthy\" videos of me literally talking into the camera until I trained myself to become okay with my worst. This helped to take away the fear of not knowing what people are seeing when I talk to them, if that makes any sense. Now, the *loving yourself* part is harder as it usually has to come with time and your own self discovery, but just keep in mind it is probably the most important thing. \n\nHopefully this rambling helped in anyway and feel free to ask any questions!\n\ntl;dr: Practice social skills in small harmless interactions and ramp up from there. Learn how to become comfortable in your own skin.\n\n ", "People often ask me this, make no mistake I hate people and would rather be home without pants playing games but there comes a time when interaction is needed, my rule is simple, \"fuck it\"\nLet's say you see that group and want to interact, just walk up and add something to the conversation or lead with something like man this party is X or who is that person or don't think we've met, the main thing is to understand that this is a situation that is OK, what you're doing is OK, only a cunt or someone dealing with stuff wouldn't be friendly, so fuck it, do the thing, worst case they say fuck off or shun you, in that case they're in the wrong and fuck them, you can even use that as an opener to another group, if multiple groups act that why are you at the gathering of the cunts.\nJust chill out and repeat after me, fuck it" ]

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[ "How to meet new friends in a city where you know no one? I recently moved to a new city and i feel really alone, i'm a shy person how can i make new friends?", "How to meet new friends in a city where you know no one? I recently moved to a new city and i feel really alone, i'm a shy person how can i make new friends?", "How to meet new friends in a city where you know no one? I recently moved to a new city and i feel really alone, i'm a shy person how can i make new friends?", "How to meet new friends in a city where you know no one? I recently moved to a new city and i feel really alone, i'm a shy person how can i make new friends?", "How to meet new friends in a city where you know no one? I recently moved to a new city and i feel really alone, i'm a shy person how can i make new friends?", "How to meet new friends in a city where you know no one? I recently moved to a new city and i feel really alone, i'm a shy person how can i make new friends?", "How to meet new friends in a city where you know no one? I recently moved to a new city and i feel really alone, i'm a shy person how can i make new friends?", "How to meet new friends in a city where you know no one? I recently moved to a new city and i feel really alone, i'm a shy person how can i make new friends?", "How to meet new friends in a city where you know no one? I recently moved to a new city and i feel really alone, i'm a shy person how can i make new friends?", "How to meet new friends in a city where you know no one? I recently moved to a new city and i feel really alone, i'm a shy person how can i make new friends?", "How to meet new friends in a city where you know no one? I recently moved to a new city and i feel really alone, i'm a shy person how can i make new friends?" ]

[ "Be in a circumstance where you HAVE to meet people. Volunteer, go to work, go to community activities (probably outlined in some sort of local paper).\nGo to the type of event that you think people you wouldn't mind sharing interests with would attend. ", "Technique one: go to a busy bar and get drunk\n\nTechnique two: start a hobby, something interesting and practical, woodworking, working on old cars, programming, whatever. Take an evening class for it, will benefit you and allow you to meet new people.\n\nBut most importantly get out there, strike up conversations, be friendly, it'll happen. \n\nGood luck ;)", "Go to a concert for a band you like, it's always easy to make friends at these events :)\n\n", "https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/54xqqy/lpt_how_to_make_friends/\n\nI just got inspired by your post to write this. Idk if it will help or anything but best of luck. (:", "If you like sports join a soccer league. They're cheap, low time commitment and generally go out for drinks after games. ", "Sports Leagues. Ask around they'll be at least one. Most cities have an abundance of sports. Everything from soccer to kick ball, even dodge ball. Most will have a partnership with a bar that everyone goes out to afterwards that offer incentives like first drink free or money off apps.\n\nI met a lot of people this way, including my fiancée.", "Military here, honestly, I use dating sites, making sure I put that Im mostly looking for friends. Met lots of great people this way.", "Meet up groups on MeetUp.com. You have a group with a similar interest so already have a talking point a common interest. Great way to meet people with out the awkward first date like conversation. ", "Join the local Jaycee. It is a group for 21 to 40 yearolds that like to socialize while helping the community. I moved to a new city where I didn't know anyone and now I have more friends than ever. Also, they are all really great people.", "I'm in the same boat OP. A hard worse is I work from home so I never have to leave to house unless it's for groceries. My husband is perfectly content with playing computer games so it would really be all up to me to make friends. Luckily, I love by a tourist-y city and I found a neat event to attend where there will be booze (ok, it's a pub crawl). I think someone else mentioned drinking in the comments. It certainly helps take the edge off. Most places will have an Oktoberfest type thing happening or something Fall related. If you have co-workers you see day to day, ask them if they can show you around.", "Check if meetup.com has any groups in your area. \n\nJoin a volunteer group. \n\nTake a class at the community college. \n\nIf all else fails, post on Craigslist." ]

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[ "How to keep dust from getting into your PC just bought a new Desktop PC (previously only a laptop user) and it has huge fans taking in air on the side and on the back. I am excited about having a computer that will keep cool, but worried about the amount of dust that is going to get inside.", "How to keep dust from getting into your PC just bought a new Desktop PC (previously only a laptop user) and it has huge fans taking in air on the side and on the back. I am excited about having a computer that will keep cool, but worried about the amount of dust that is going to get inside.", "How to keep dust from getting into your PC just bought a new Desktop PC (previously only a laptop user) and it has huge fans taking in air on the side and on the back. I am excited about having a computer that will keep cool, but worried about the amount of dust that is going to get inside.", "How to keep dust from getting into your PC just bought a new Desktop PC (previously only a laptop user) and it has huge fans taking in air on the side and on the back. I am excited about having a computer that will keep cool, but worried about the amount of dust that is going to get inside.", "How to keep dust from getting into your PC just bought a new Desktop PC (previously only a laptop user) and it has huge fans taking in air on the side and on the back. I am excited about having a computer that will keep cool, but worried about the amount of dust that is going to get inside.", "How to keep dust from getting into your PC just bought a new Desktop PC (previously only a laptop user) and it has huge fans taking in air on the side and on the back. I am excited about having a computer that will keep cool, but worried about the amount of dust that is going to get inside." ]

[ "Put pantyhose around each case fan and screw them back in. Every two months open the computer and clean the dust off the pantyhose with a vacuum ", "Get some fan filters. They are sold for all computer fan sizes. Search Newegg or go to a Micro center, any store that sells pc components. ", "store it high up off the ground, and install filters on the exteriors of your fans and vacuum the filters once a month or so and that should virtually eliminate all dust from the system and dont smoke near your computer either it gums everything inside up and makes it really attract dust and your repair guy will just sell you new parts (video cards/etc) rather than replace fans only when they die from clogging", "Was wondering if anyone else did this. I use those static swiffer cloths after I blow it up with compressed air. Is the static cloths bad for any of the components? I take the plug out before I do this, but I find this method the most easiest. ", "Put a fabric softener sheet on the inside of the vents. Easy clean-up and you probably already have some laying around. Plus, they smell nice. The air should still circulate through plenty, and it's great for containing cat hair!", "Build a box around the PC made of pleated air filters. Cut holes in filters where PC exhaust are located. Make sure any air that goes inside the PC is filtered." ]

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[ "Things to do before giving a two week notice? What should I make sure I do before I give my two week notice that I'm quitting somewhere? How should I go about giving the notice?", "Things to do before giving a two week notice? What should I make sure I do before I give my two week notice that I'm quitting somewhere? How should I go about giving the notice?", "Things to do before giving a two week notice? What should I make sure I do before I give my two week notice that I'm quitting somewhere? How should I go about giving the notice?", "Things to do before giving a two week notice? What should I make sure I do before I give my two week notice that I'm quitting somewhere? How should I go about giving the notice?", "Things to do before giving a two week notice? What should I make sure I do before I give my two week notice that I'm quitting somewhere? How should I go about giving the notice?", "Things to do before giving a two week notice? What should I make sure I do before I give my two week notice that I'm quitting somewhere? How should I go about giving the notice?", "Things to do before giving a two week notice? What should I make sure I do before I give my two week notice that I'm quitting somewhere? How should I go about giving the notice?", "Things to do before giving a two week notice? What should I make sure I do before I give my two week notice that I'm quitting somewhere? How should I go about giving the notice?" ]

[ "If you work a desk job, bring in a flash drive and make a copy of your address book, annual reviews, customer kudos.", "It seems obvious but make sure you already have another job lined up. Unless, of course, you're doing something with your life that would take the place of employment like school or staying at home with the kids or something like that.", "Type a letter and hand it to your boss directly, if possible. When I quit my night shit job I left it in her mailbox and it pissed her off but fuck it. \nIf you're a nice guy tie up loose ends of projects and offer to help train anyone if needed. ", "If you have healthcare and won't have it with your new job, take advantage of that. Go to the dentist and get your teeth cleaned, go to the optometrist, get new glasses/contacts, go to the doctor and make sure you have any prescriptions filled that you might need.", "*This is not meant to be an exhaustive list, but here are some things to consider:\n\nFrom my personal experience, make sure that you have a reliable mailing address to receive the documents needed for COBRA coverage (if you're between jobs) and your final paycheck. If you're moving out from your home, make sure to fill-out a USPS mail forwarding request to your new address. Keep your physical pay stubs and download your W-9's if you only receive digital copies. They are sometimes used as proof of employment in future background checks. Also, double-check the # of vacation days you have so that these get included in your final pay-check.\n\n\nAlways bring a copy of your resignation so that your employer keeps a signed copy and one for yourself. Do your best to give at least 2 weeks in the letter. If you give less than that, you better have a damn good reason like a family emergency/life-changing event or else you're burning a bridge. Obviously, if you hate the employer's guts, you can give them no notice since employers can walk you out any day since you're only employed \"at will.\" However, don't expect them to give you a future recommendation if you do this. Contrary to popular myth, HR can disclose anything more than a simple verification of your employment record and/or termination reason. I think they're not supposed to, but they frequently do and a bad departure can leave a lasting mark on your career.\n\n\nAlso, I don't recommend you giving them more than 2 weeks, since you're not doing anyone any favors. If you work longer than 2 weeks, they might decide to suddenly fire you on week 2.5 due to a new replacement and/or your work is no longer needed. Some sneaky companies might try to get people to leave early to avoid paying bonuses or additional vacation days. Not to mention, your work is constantly being scrutinized once you give notice. Your colleagues will always judge you on your work ethic that you leave behind, and your manager will always be suspicious of your actions. It's also very stressful to constantly show your best for more than 2 weeks.\n\n\nIf there's risk of your employer walking you out, make sure to pack all your personal belongings from your desk before handing-in your resignation. You might not be given time to claim your belongings and somethings may be hard to prove proper ownership. At some places, if you give a suspicious reason for quitting the job or you're going to a semi-competitor or sub-contractor, they will walk you out even if you give 2 weeks. I've also heard some weird cases where they \"fire\" you before you resign, but that only makes them liable for unemployment benefits and a potential lawsuit for wrongful termination. \n\n\nIf you have close friends or colleagues at your workplace, try to clue them-in or give them your contact information. With LinkedIn these days, you might not have trouble keeping in touch or answering potential questions, but don't stress yourself answering questions after your departure. You can just say \"I don't know\" or simply decline to answer since you're no longer employed. However, your peers or former employees can become potential references in your future job(s). Review your company's anti-poaching/soliciting policy, in case you get accused of attempting to solicit employees if they ask\n\n\nDepending on state, you might be ask to sign or re-sign a new Non-Compete Agreement (NCA). Read up on the laws and potentially, consult an employment lawyer on the enforceability of such agreements. They usually ask you to sign the NCA on your last day of employment. Some companies use the signature as a precondition of receiving your final paycheck while others say it's \"standard policy.\" I've read on some places that an employee has no legal obligation to re-sign the NCA if they're getting nothing new in return. Consider forfeiting your final paycheck if not singing the agreement is more advantageous.\n\n\nWhile a NCA might be debatable in enforcement, Non-Disclosure Agreements (NDA) are almost always enforceable in many states. Do not try to steal any property or disclose any proprietary information.\n\n\nFinally, always try to have a job lined-up before you submit your resignation. If given a choice, try to resign after you've received the previous year's full-bonus. Usually this occurs on the same time as your 401(k) full-matching.", "I got drunk and sent in an email at 4am saying 'consider this my 2 week notice, get someone else to do this shit.' i was on medical leave at the time. They can't really fuck with you on medical leave. ", "You didn't say what you do, but I always take a copy of any programming or scripts I have written in the job to help me work faster (i.e. not the company's product or production related scripting) and any fancy spreadsheets with cool formulas that took me ages to get working.", "Make sure you have another job lined up, if applicable. That's pretty much it. Just go up to your boss, ask to speak with him, tell him you're putting in your two weeks and leave." ]

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[ "How to deal with loneliness? I just moved out on my own and everything sucks. How can i make it suck less?", "How to deal with loneliness? I just moved out on my own and everything sucks. How can i make it suck less?", "How to deal with loneliness? I just moved out on my own and everything sucks. How can i make it suck less?", "How to deal with loneliness? I just moved out on my own and everything sucks. How can i make it suck less?", "How to deal with loneliness? I just moved out on my own and everything sucks. How can i make it suck less?" ]

[ "Get a pet. Start a hobby. Learn Programming, You live on your own now, you play by your own rules. Do shit you've always wanted to do. Paint? Decorate? Go jogging, start a cult.. Go to the gym. \n\nWhat I'm trying to stress is do something, ANYTHING. You will forget you're lonely. But seriously if you can and if you can afford it get a pet. ", "My friend, this is going to sound corny as fuck, so I'm sorry about that.\n\nYou have to learn to love yourself. That's all there is to it. Simple as that.\n\nTo expand, you know you better than anyone else...show yourself a good time. Take care of yourself.\n\nA little deeper advice: I feel that people fall into things like substance abuse, over eating, retail-therapy because they feel they aren't in control of their lives, and for better or worse, these are things they can exert control over.\n\nMy recommendation to you is to find something beneficial, or not too detrimental, that you can control. Find that thing and make regular progress on it. If it's push ups, playing wow, volunteering at a soup kitchen, listening to a podcast, running, finding new and innovative ways to masturbate. Something.\n\nThe next thing I would ask you to do is to give something of value to others. Doesn't have to be money. Hold a door open, talk to a geezer, shovel a driveway, pay for someone's gas. Do something and make damn sure you don't get any cr", "Make a list of all the advantages you have living on your own. \n\nAdvantages that people who live with flatmates, wife and kids, etc don’t have. \n\nAs a married man with an 19-month old child here are some to get you started. To be fair, my wife is cool about the pretty much all of the below, but friend’s wifes and gfs are not. \n\n\n1. You can play on the PS4 whenever you want. Far Cry 4 all day Sunday? Sure, why not. \n\n2. Peace and quiet. You can read a book in silence. \n\n3. You can put on whatever music you want and never have to listen to other people’s terrible tastes. \n\n4. You can decorate to your tastes. Mid-century modern? Cool. Drinks cabinet? Yeah. Empire Strikes Back poster? Wouldn’t be home without it. \n\n5. You can eat takeout most nights and nobody will comment. Italian, Thai, Chinese, Indian, Lebanese, etc. \n\n6. Don’t want to do the washing tonight? Then do it in the morning. Or tomorrow night. Or throw the plates out. Or eat from the carton. \n\n7. You always watch the thing you want to watch on TV. \n\nAnd so on. \n\nThen make a list of all the films, books, games, albums, etc you want to see, read, play. \n\nMake this the year you caught up on pop culture. \n\nBut a diary and write in for the next few months one film to watch each night, one album to listen to. Catch up on decades of films and music that you missed. I bought the book 1001 ALBUMS TO LISTN TO BEFORE YOU DIE and I’m working my way through them. \n\n\n", "as others have said get a hobby. use this time for your own personal/intellectual development. my favorite thing to do when bored out of my mind or lonely is go on a long bike ride, so of course i'm inclined to suggest that. bikes love you", "I've been there and done that. It sucks even more when you're broke or really close to it, as that really puts a cramp on options. \n\nHowever there are still hobbies that are free or close to it. Drawing, hiking, biking, hanging out at the library and reading through books, doing volunteer stuff. Also some computer-based hobbies fall into that category: writing, coding, and doing stuff using FOSS creativity software (3D, drawing, audio, etc.)\n\nIf money isn't an issue, you can get into more expensive hobbies: have pets, get into arts like sculpting or painting, join clubs (sports or activities), mess with motor vehicles, gaming, learning music or media production, photography, collecting things, and become active with things like dating sites or whatever. If you have a job that pays well and still plenty of free time, then you have few to no excuses. " ]

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[ "Stop Sunlight Hurting Eyes Without Sunglasses? Hi there,\n\nTo break it down I am Scottish. There has been this great big fiery ball appear in the sky and it has got rid of all the rain. We are not used to this. Send help.\n\nBut seriously, trying to gain a bit of a tan while I still can. However sitting out my back door can only last for a few minutes, the sunlight genuinely really hurts my eyes, forcing me to screw them up, its unbearable. I'm looking to get an even tan and hoping to avoid two big panda rings where my sunglasses were. Anyone got any advice on stopping this?\n\nCheers", "Stop Sunlight Hurting Eyes Without Sunglasses? Hi there,\n\nTo break it down I am Scottish. There has been this great big fiery ball appear in the sky and it has got rid of all the rain. We are not used to this. Send help.\n\nBut seriously, trying to gain a bit of a tan while I still can. However sitting out my back door can only last for a few minutes, the sunlight genuinely really hurts my eyes, forcing me to screw them up, its unbearable. I'm looking to get an even tan and hoping to avoid two big panda rings where my sunglasses were. Anyone got any advice on stopping this?\n\nCheers" ]

[ "You might have a thiamine deficiency. Thiamine is the first B vitamin to become deficient because the stores in the body are the lowest. Alcohol can deplete a number of nutrients including thiamine. \n\nClose your eyes when you're settled to avoid an uneven tan on your face, but wear dark sunglasses to get situated.\n\nBoth thiamine and riboflavin deficiencies can affect the eyes. ", "I have this problem.. I have blue eyes... I cover or closes one eye it helps me a lot can look around everywhere.. as soon as I have both eyes open back to squinting.." ]

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[ "How to stop striving for popularity. A little context, i have friends i really enjoy being with that are moderately popular. But for some reason, i can't stop \"ignoring\" impopular geeks that wants to hang out, and instead i always strive towards hanging out with people \"above\" me in the social ladder.\n\nI recognize that this is the kind of behavior shitty people are known for, so i want to become more socially independent and not care about this social hierarchy bullshit.\n\nAnyone who has managed to change your mindset, how did you do it? ", "How to stop striving for popularity. A little context, i have friends i really enjoy being with that are moderately popular. But for some reason, i can't stop \"ignoring\" impopular geeks that wants to hang out, and instead i always strive towards hanging out with people \"above\" me in the social ladder.\n\nI recognize that this is the kind of behavior shitty people are known for, so i want to become more socially independent and not care about this social hierarchy bullshit.\n\nAnyone who has managed to change your mindset, how did you do it? ", "How to stop striving for popularity. A little context, i have friends i really enjoy being with that are moderately popular. But for some reason, i can't stop \"ignoring\" impopular geeks that wants to hang out, and instead i always strive towards hanging out with people \"above\" me in the social ladder.\n\nI recognize that this is the kind of behavior shitty people are known for, so i want to become more socially independent and not care about this social hierarchy bullshit.\n\nAnyone who has managed to change your mindset, how did you do it? " ]

[ "STEP 1: Accept yourself for who you are, and learn to be comfortable for who you are without having to mask yourself to appeal to others.\n\nSTEP 2: Delete Social Media...Facebook, Instagram...etc.\n\nSTEP 3: Take external negative views or criticism about you or your life with a grain of salt and combat it with a smile.\n\nSTEP 4: Develop tolerance for people of different ages, religions, races, sexes as so forth. \n\nSTEP 5: Optimism is the best outlook to have in life, because without it, the only outlooks are ones that put you in holes that you can't dig yourself out of.\n\nNot giving a shit about popularity was something that came with time for me. I first learned to love myself for the person that I am around the age of 24, then after I became really comfortable in my own skin. I deleted my Facebook (age 25) after I developed a narcissistic attitude about it, but it alleviated all of the pressure to be accepted, because it showed me who true friends were when I would invite people to events over the phone or through mail. I am 28 years old now and I am happier than I ever been because that pressure of being accepted has been lifted as a result of my change in mindset and an attitude adjustment on my part.\n\nI hope this helps, but the key thing is to take what the others below mentioned: Accept and love yourself, surround yourself with constructive folks, become numb to societies pressures and cut BS out of your life.", "I'm the same way. I'm pretentious as hell. But honestly it's cooler to be friends with everyone. Be the guy that knows everyone and is cool with everybody", "Unless you're trying to get with a particular girl, (or guy) who the hell cares about being popular? Just do what makes you happy. And on the girl (or guy) front: the popular ones are usually the worst as they've been told how great they are their whole life. \n\nThat doesn't mean attach yourself to losers (and by that I mean people who aren't going anywhere in life, not someone who isn't popular), but a lot of the kids you consider popular probably are losers. If a guy or girl is cool for drinking a lot or something stupid like that, they'll likely be doing the same thing at 40. Find yourself a good group of friends who like you for you and want to make something of themselves, and keep trying to find more people like that. " ]

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[ "How to deal with lost luggage (United Airlines) I went to RIC yesterday morning and had to gate check my carry on for United. At EWR I am waiting for my gate check luggage and the guy said there is nothing else so I am just standing there not knowing what to do. He suggested I go to Baggage claim as it may be on the carousel. My flight literally was leaving for LAS in 30 minutes so I didn’t have time and was told to continue to LAS to make my documentation there. I get to LAS and the guy says he can see where it was scanned in RIC and EWR but they can not locate my bag... I’m now without all of my clothes and suites since I’m out here on business. The United Rep over the phone offered $100 today to get anything I may need. \n\nMy question is for you seasoned travels that have more experience than me, since I booked the flight through United directly and paid the ticket with my fathers United Milage Plus Explorer Card, what is my best plan of action going forward? Can I get United’s Cr", "How to deal with lost luggage (United Airlines) I went to RIC yesterday morning and had to gate check my carry on for United. At EWR I am waiting for my gate check luggage and the guy said there is nothing else so I am just standing there not knowing what to do. He suggested I go to Baggage claim as it may be on the carousel. My flight literally was leaving for LAS in 30 minutes so I didn’t have time and was told to continue to LAS to make my documentation there. I get to LAS and the guy says he can see where it was scanned in RIC and EWR but they can not locate my bag... I’m now without all of my clothes and suites since I’m out here on business. The United Rep over the phone offered $100 today to get anything I may need. \n\nMy question is for you seasoned travels that have more experience than me, since I booked the flight through United directly and paid the ticket with my fathers United Milage Plus Explorer Card, what is my best plan of action going forward? Can I get United’s Cr" ]

[ "If you haven't made a claim, [make a claim!](https://www.united.com/web/en-US/content/travel/baggage/delayed.aspx) The other thing to take a look at is their [contract of carriage section 28.k.1.f.](https://www.united.com/web/en-US/content/contract-of-carriage.aspx#sec23). these are the terms and conditions no one reads. Typically airlines will tell you to give them 24 hours to find your bag, and will only offer around $100 or so within 24 hours. If you are there for business meeting, proposal, or adventure that you packed your own gear (ski trip, sport tournaments) airlines usually ask you to be conservative in buying or renting interims. If they can't find your bag you are entitled up to $3500 for your bag, but will have to document items. United is an airline with a huge PR problem, so you may have your best luck tweeting or tagging them,. The unfortunate part is that United is also incredibly hard to deal with at times. If it goes past 24 hours I would call again stating you need to purchase interims as you have a meeting the next day and all of your suits are in that bag. They should work with you, and if not climb the customer service ladder. As far as the keys go, don't ever put your keys in a checked bag! They may replace it long term, but short term they will refuse any liability for lost keys. \n\nSource, former airline worker with 4 years of lost baggage experience.", "Tried to find you an insider sub, but first thing that came up was a _fuck_united airlines sub with bad horror stories. Sorry. I have had late luggage delivered to my house once....but think the husband was a gold member or something. " ]

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[ "Advice when looking for apartments? I'm not really sure what to look for or red flags. Any advice from more experienced Redditors would be great\n\nThanks for the responses guys, it helps a lot", "Advice when looking for apartments? I'm not really sure what to look for or red flags. Any advice from more experienced Redditors would be great\n\nThanks for the responses guys, it helps a lot", "Advice when looking for apartments? I'm not really sure what to look for or red flags. Any advice from more experienced Redditors would be great\n\nThanks for the responses guys, it helps a lot", "Advice when looking for apartments? I'm not really sure what to look for or red flags. Any advice from more experienced Redditors would be great\n\nThanks for the responses guys, it helps a lot", "Advice when looking for apartments? I'm not really sure what to look for or red flags. Any advice from more experienced Redditors would be great\n\nThanks for the responses guys, it helps a lot", "Advice when looking for apartments? I'm not really sure what to look for or red flags. Any advice from more experienced Redditors would be great\n\nThanks for the responses guys, it helps a lot", "Advice when looking for apartments? I'm not really sure what to look for or red flags. Any advice from more experienced Redditors would be great\n\nThanks for the responses guys, it helps a lot", "Advice when looking for apartments? I'm not really sure what to look for or red flags. Any advice from more experienced Redditors would be great\n\nThanks for the responses guys, it helps a lot", "Advice when looking for apartments? I'm not really sure what to look for or red flags. Any advice from more experienced Redditors would be great\n\nThanks for the responses guys, it helps a lot", "Advice when looking for apartments? I'm not really sure what to look for or red flags. Any advice from more experienced Redditors would be great\n\nThanks for the responses guys, it helps a lot" ]

[ "Avoid words like cozy. Cozy is code for small. Never take an apartment before you have done the following:\n\n1. Look up crime reports in he area\n\n2. Go by the apartment at night. Drive over. You don't need to go inside. You're their to see if anything weird happens in your new area. I e. Is there yelling, is it well lit, etc. \n\n3. Talk to other tenants if possible. Ask about the landlord/lady. Are they nice? Strict? Eviction happy?\n\n4. Know the market of the apartments in the area. I. E. what do other people near by pay in rent?\n\n5. Look at the surrounding area. What is near by? Are you okay with this? Being near a park, coffee shop, or bar is a lot different from being near train tracks, an open lot, or a crack house. \n\n6. Know what you are paying for. Does your rent include utilities? If so, which ones? What do your neighbors pay to keep their place warm/cool?\n\n7. Is there a washer dryer? Either in the apartment or a basement? Do you have a dishwasher?\n\nLastly. \n\nRelax. Most people are not to screw you. ", "Two things Reddit always emphasizes that are actually important: being able to do a walk through of the apartment and renters insurance\n\nAre utilities included? Gas, cable, electric, etc. Figure out what your bills will be. Trash is one people forget. Also laundry. Is it in the building/apartment/complex or do you have to take it off site?\n\nWhat amenities are there? Is there security, a pool, a playground, whatever. Security is an important amenity to consider\n\nWhat appliances are included with the apartment? (Dishwasher, fridge, & microwave are 3 big ones)\n\nWhat are the neighbors like? Are they loud college kids or old people, what would you prefer, do they smoke enough that your apartment smells like smoke. Include neighboring buildings like schools, arena/sports venue, hospital (those are very noisy)\n\nAre pets allowed? (If so it's usually with a move in fee)\n\nParking. Do you have a spot, garage, or the street\n\nWhat are the floors like, what's the storage like, what's the outdoor space like\n\nNatural lighting & outlet availability are more important than you think but not so important that they should be your main focus. \n\nAsk about decorating. Can you nail things to the wall, repaint, etc. \n\nLeasing rules (subleasing, breaking a lease)\n\nGuest policy is also important. Some apartment complexes won't have guests for over a certain amount of days without them paying, some won't let them park overnight, whatever\n\nIf you think you can negotiate price, try. Don't negotiate if there's high demand on the apartment (college towns usually have the highest demand)\n\nSome things you won't think of: cell phone reception, does your furniture fit, ask if you can stay the night (smaller complexes do this more often) and if you can't stay the night visit at night when everyone is home to see what it's like if possible\n\nThat's about all I can think of, I'm apartment hunting too, good luck!", "Not a realtor but the best way to learn about the crime I just stroll up to the police department and talk to the cops they'll let you know ", "Call the local pizza guys! They know everything the management doesn't want you to know. \n\nA security gate is worthless if it is always open, broken, or everyone shares the code with the pizza guy.\n\nAsk if your sister would be safe there alone. People are more likely to share info based on the assumption they are protecting a female rather an a guy (learned this because I am a female and my male roommate and I accidentally duplicated calls). \n\nYes, drive around at night, but check just after sunrise early Sunday. Beer cans? Loose dogs? Vomit or people passed out? Run away! \n\nMany places now charge not only an initial pet fee, but a monthly pet fee. \n\nKnow your renter's rights! Many managers won't let guests stay more than 2 nights because in some states staying that 3rd night makes them a tenant. That protects you from an unwanted roommate.\n\nIf you have roommates, make an agreement. Don't put one person in charge of all utilities and collecting money. That person will get screwed if someone falls behind on bills.\n\nHow many nights is it ok for a roommate's significant other to stay? Penalty for not observing - increase in rent? Breaking the lease early? \n\nNo rule is a rule without an enforceable consequence. \n\nCheck out /r/pettyrevenge to see the most common roommate issues. It is FULL of warnings for roommates.\n\nAlso, change the locks as soon as you move in. No matter what management says, you are safer that way. They have a right to the key.\n\nResidents are checked for backgrounds and cr", "See what it's like at night. If you can do it without looking like a creeper, park in the lot for a while and see what the area is like at night. Are there groups of teens wandering around looking into cars? People sitting on the stairs at 1am drinking and blaring music from their car stereos? Do the lot and building lights work? Is the security actually present and doing something if they claim to have security? Also, consider flagging down a cop that's driving through the area and ask him what the complex is like. Police generally know which apartment complexes are full of shitbags and which ones aren't. \n\nAsk the leasing manager what sorts of things people generally get violation notices for. You might get both a list of shit that your possible neighbors do, a list of stupid rules the complex has that you need to watch out for, or if what the leasing manager says is wildly different from what you saw at night and what the police told you, you might learn the leasing manager is a liar and trying to swindle you into a lease in a shitty area. Also try to see what, if any, Section 8 housing is around the area. ", "Make sure to verify that the person renting you their property in fact holds title to the property. I'm a real estate agent here in Miami and have seen this happen a lot. A homeowner will be behind on their mortgage payments or whatever the case may be and they will abandon their property without notifying the bank. This will leave the door open (literally) for an opportunistic neighbor to write up a rental agreement and claim to own the property. In these cases often a family will be oblivious to this until they are evicted on short notice so the bank can sell the property in order to settle the balance of the loan.\n\nTL;DR Verify ownership of the property you are hoping to rent. You can do this by going on your local county property appraisal search website.\n\nTL;DR pt 2 \nYou could also contact a local realtor for advice in finding the right apartment for you. I work in Miami, if you need any advice let me know. ", "It may sound silly, but if the place comes furnished check the beds and couches thoroughly. If there are sheets on the beds, take them off to make sure the landlord isn't trying to leave you with some grubby stained mattresses or one with the springs sticking out. Also take the time to sit on the couches and make sure you find them comfortable, there is nothing worse than being uncomfortable in your own home and too broke to replace any furniture.\n\nMake sure to check for signals of mould having been painted over. Its something which has plagued my boyfriend and I in our past three apartments and it happens more than you would think. Make sure to look extra carefully around windows and in corners, move furniture if you need to be when you're viewing places. If there is mould underneath the paint you'll see some dark patches and the paint will be crumbling a little.\n\nOne thing I've also found helpful, especially when moving into an apartment building is to find someone who lives in the same building and ask them what its like, more often than not you'll get a pretty stern warning about the issues in their apartment (generally mould in my experience) and you'll find that the same issues are present in the place you're looking at.\n\nAsk as many questions as you possibly can and very best of luck! ", "If it is a complex and you are being shown a model find out the *exact* apartment you will be getting. The location might be on that you don't like. \n\nAlso consider parking. Is my unit in an area with 15 other units and there are only 5 parking spaces around those units? You'd hate to have to park across the complex and have to walk every time.", "I think that's gonna be your first step: establish what it is you're looking for. Are you looking for a 1br1bth, 2br1bth? Establish your budget as well. And make sure you get to know management and take multiple tours of the place. Also, talking to your potential neighbors about the living conditions, surrounding area, financial basics never hurts either. ", "Here's a slightly different bit of advice. Take some time and inspect the apartment pretty well. Now this is assuming you've already picked a place and you're familiar with the neighborhood and you feel OK with everything. \n\nBut what you still want to do, is make sure that you're getting a clean apartment and that management isn't trying to pull one on you and trying to save a few bucks. This can even happen in nicer luxury apartments or what are called luxury Apartments. For example check the shower heads. Are they clean? If not it's possible that the carpet was never cleaned either. \n\nApartments management will try to save money and not replace things like they should. Also check all the fixtures. If there any lamps or bulbs that come pre-installed do they all work? Check the oven also check the dishwasher. Do they seem to work? Are they in reasonable condition? The same goes for washing machine and dryer. Check the lint in the dryer. If it has lint or some considerable amount that's another red flag. Maintanence sn't doing what they're supposed to and then go around cleaning everything like they should have after the last person moved out" ]

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[ "What do I do when people show me something that they care about and I don't feel the same way? Co-worker suddenly showed me pics of his bike gang and his nights out gallavanting. I really wasn't that interested but I didn't want to hurt him. What can I do in situations like this?", "What do I do when people show me something that they care about and I don't feel the same way? Co-worker suddenly showed me pics of his bike gang and his nights out gallavanting. I really wasn't that interested but I didn't want to hurt him. What can I do in situations like this?", "What do I do when people show me something that they care about and I don't feel the same way? Co-worker suddenly showed me pics of his bike gang and his nights out gallavanting. I really wasn't that interested but I didn't want to hurt him. What can I do in situations like this?", "What do I do when people show me something that they care about and I don't feel the same way? Co-worker suddenly showed me pics of his bike gang and his nights out gallavanting. I really wasn't that interested but I didn't want to hurt him. What can I do in situations like this?", "What do I do when people show me something that they care about and I don't feel the same way? Co-worker suddenly showed me pics of his bike gang and his nights out gallavanting. I really wasn't that interested but I didn't want to hurt him. What can I do in situations like this?", "What do I do when people show me something that they care about and I don't feel the same way? Co-worker suddenly showed me pics of his bike gang and his nights out gallavanting. I really wasn't that interested but I didn't want to hurt him. What can I do in situations like this?", "What do I do when people show me something that they care about and I don't feel the same way? Co-worker suddenly showed me pics of his bike gang and his nights out gallavanting. I really wasn't that interested but I didn't want to hurt him. What can I do in situations like this?", "What do I do when people show me something that they care about and I don't feel the same way? Co-worker suddenly showed me pics of his bike gang and his nights out gallavanting. I really wasn't that interested but I didn't want to hurt him. What can I do in situations like this?" ]

[ "Show interest because you care about your friend and his interests, not about the subject at hand. Ask question or just say \"that's awesome, man.\" \nYou can't just say you're not interested without being an asshole. How would you feel if your friend did the same?\n", "Take an interest respective of how much you care about the person or how much you have to deal with them on a daily basis.\n\nThen say \"Cool, glad you found something you are really into.\" If there is too much sharing say \"Glad you are into it, and thanks for showing me, but I don't think it's my thing.\"\n\nIt's ok to not like thing. Not ok to trash thing, particularly when you know somebody cares about it.", "Since it is a co-worker you have to play a little bit of politics here. Try to find some common ground. For example: I don't give two shits about golf, but I know extended family members are into it. I usually try to bring up something that has some common interests. It's fall now and all the colors on the leaves are changing and I like being outdoors, I ask them how they like the course now that the maple leaves are turning. Then you can transition into something that everyone likes and that's food. Like... REAL maple syrup on waffles! ", "Depends how much it bores me and how often it is repeated. Sometimes I don't care about what the other person shows me, but I care about the person, so I will listen. If that person shows me that stuff so often that it annoys me I tell them that it is just not my thing. Don't belittle their interest, but that it is not my taste... ", "Say, \"That's totally uninteresting, why would you waste my time showing me this crap? Get some social skills you loser!\"\n\nOr, you could just look at them to be polite. Your choice, really.", "If you're willing to listen to them for a bit, ask how they are involved or interested in this thing. It gives them an open path to mention the existence of the thing and why they care. If you are interested in that thing, run with it. If not, \"hey, it's cool you found a ___ that interests you\". That both legitimizes their interest and fails to include yourself in that response. This should cause a bit of bonding and acceptance — along with a lowered likelihood of mentioning it again — if they're reasonable.\n\nIf they aren't, and bring that thing back to you when you are not accepting it as your own interest, you'd have to create boundaries, like \"it's great that you're into that, but it's not really my thing\". If they persist, you escalate refusal. Reasonable people wind up comfortable with you, unreasonable people reveal themselves as such (allowing you to further distance yourself).\n\nThis assumes the thing is not something you find reprehensible/criminal/terrifying or any type of personal assault, in which case getting out of that situation and finding assistance is probably best.", "Focus on seeing it from their point of view.\n\nPeople can talk about stuff I don't care about the slightest, but seeing it from their view and how it affects them, can make it interesting enough to enjoy their story.\n\nI don't see the point of riding a motorcycle for fun. But I recognize that other people do, and I surely get the attraction of doing something together in a group. I could enjoy watching pictures of a colleagues bike gang trip.", "Ask them a question about it, or a peripheral aspect. \"What kind of motorcycle is that?\" \"How fast will it go?\" \"How did you learn to ride?\"" ]

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[ "Your best Summer picnic tips If you want to take ice cream with you, use dry ice to keep it cold. You can also place dry ice in the bottom of your cooler to prolong the life of your wet ice. Cover it completely with wet ice and then pack your cooler as normal. The cooler will keep items cold for approximately 3 to 4 days.\n\nApproximate cooling times – dry ice wrapped in plastic or paper and placed in an insulated cooler.\n\n 5-10 lbs. – 18 to 24 Hours\n 10 to 15 lbs. – 24 to 40 Hours\n 15 to 20 lbs. – 40 to 60 Hours\n***\nPut small bottles of water, juice in the freezer for a few hours before the picnic if you have time. These can then double-up as chiller-blocks to keep food cool and when you reach your picnic spot, the drinks will still be cold.\n***", "Your best Summer picnic tips If you want to take ice cream with you, use dry ice to keep it cold. You can also place dry ice in the bottom of your cooler to prolong the life of your wet ice. Cover it completely with wet ice and then pack your cooler as normal. The cooler will keep items cold for approximately 3 to 4 days.\n\nApproximate cooling times – dry ice wrapped in plastic or paper and placed in an insulated cooler.\n\n 5-10 lbs. – 18 to 24 Hours\n 10 to 15 lbs. – 24 to 40 Hours\n 15 to 20 lbs. – 40 to 60 Hours\n***\nPut small bottles of water, juice in the freezer for a few hours before the picnic if you have time. These can then double-up as chiller-blocks to keep food cool and when you reach your picnic spot, the drinks will still be cold.\n***" ]

[ "to keep flying insects out of drinks invert a paper cupcake liner over drink and poke a straw through. \n\nAlso, inexpensive hair nets can cover small dishes to keep out the flying pests.\n", "If you want to pack sandwiches, keep the tomatoes (or other wet stuff) in a separate zip-lock bag and put them inside the sandwich when you're ready to eat it. This way, you don't have soggy sandwiches." ]

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[ "Any tips on how to get old food/grease stains out of clothing? Or links to previous LPT's? I seem to keep finding old stains in many of my hoodies and shirts, and just washing them hasn't worked. ", "Any tips on how to get old food/grease stains out of clothing? Or links to previous LPT's? I seem to keep finding old stains in many of my hoodies and shirts, and just washing them hasn't worked. ", "Any tips on how to get old food/grease stains out of clothing? Or links to previous LPT's? I seem to keep finding old stains in many of my hoodies and shirts, and just washing them hasn't worked. ", "Any tips on how to get old food/grease stains out of clothing? Or links to previous LPT's? I seem to keep finding old stains in many of my hoodies and shirts, and just washing them hasn't worked. ", "Any tips on how to get old food/grease stains out of clothing? Or links to previous LPT's? I seem to keep finding old stains in many of my hoodies and shirts, and just washing them hasn't worked. ", "Any tips on how to get old food/grease stains out of clothing? Or links to previous LPT's? I seem to keep finding old stains in many of my hoodies and shirts, and just washing them hasn't worked. ", "Any tips on how to get old food/grease stains out of clothing? Or links to previous LPT's? I seem to keep finding old stains in many of my hoodies and shirts, and just washing them hasn't worked. ", "Any tips on how to get old food/grease stains out of clothing? Or links to previous LPT's? I seem to keep finding old stains in many of my hoodies and shirts, and just washing them hasn't worked. " ]

[ "I've had some success getting out grease stains by putting a little blue Dawn dishwashing liquid directly on the stain, rub it in, and then put the stained shirt or whatever into the wash with the rest of the laundry in warm water. You might need to do this more than once.\n\nMake sure you're not stuffing too much laundry into the washer; the clothes need to be able to swish around.", "For oil and grease food stains I like stain stick, it has even worked for me on stains that have been washed and dried in several times. \n\nApply a generous amount of stain stick and let it sit there for a couple days. Before putting it in the washer rewet the spot and scrub it a little. \n\nI also agree with the poster who said not to overfill the washing machine, that will help for sure! ", "Look up wd-40 oil stain removal from clothes. I’ll let the article explain. It works. Left a chapstick in a pocket and ruined a gf’s new shirt. Found this method. It worked, even after to full dryer runs. Took 2 attempts but you could tell after the first. ", "For butter/oil type stains my grandma used to rub powder detergent into the stain like oil dry on a driveway. ", "\\+1 for the dawn. I've found Dawn ULTRA works a bit better on grease stains. I scrub the stained area with ulta on an old toothbrush before washing. ", "[Assuming they're cotton, try this link.](https://www.homeaholic.net/how-to-remove-old-oil-stains-from-clothes-home-remedies/) \n\n[Here's more.](https://www.lalalisette.com/more-ways-to-remove-set-in-oil-stains/) \n\n[And this list suggests white chalk.](https://home.howstuffworks.com/home-improvement/household-hints-tips/cleaning-organizing/stains-out-of-clothes-after-theyve-been-washed.htm) ", "I usually use dish soap if I'm at work or in the kitchen. I often use a bar of Naptha soap though. Either way, I get the fabric wet and use a toothbrush to gently scrub it and then let it sit for awhile. I've also used baking soda, vinegar and/or ammonia for various stains/odors. Grease and oil can be tough. Using hot water helps for the spot treatment.", "Dishwashing soap without fail works. Just douse it and let it soak in. Wash on hot. Repeat as necessary " ]

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[ "How to stop my head/scalp from itching (not a medical condition)? Sometimes the day after I shower (we don't need to shower every day) my scalp and often my beard will itch pretty badly. Is there anything I can rub in to stop the itch? My initial thought was baby powder, or dry shampoo.\n\nAnyone had this problem and figured something out?", "How to stop my head/scalp from itching (not a medical condition)? Sometimes the day after I shower (we don't need to shower every day) my scalp and often my beard will itch pretty badly. Is there anything I can rub in to stop the itch? My initial thought was baby powder, or dry shampoo.\n\nAnyone had this problem and figured something out?", "How to stop my head/scalp from itching (not a medical condition)? Sometimes the day after I shower (we don't need to shower every day) my scalp and often my beard will itch pretty badly. Is there anything I can rub in to stop the itch? My initial thought was baby powder, or dry shampoo.\n\nAnyone had this problem and figured something out?" ]

[ "[not a bad list of helpful remedies](http://www.top10homeremedies.com/home-remedies/top-10-home-remedies-for-itchy-scalp.html) \n\nI used to constantly have and occasionally still have itchy scalp issues. My doctor diagnosed me as having seborrheic dermatitis, which doesn't seem to have a clear cut cause generally. Consider that you may be suffering from a case of this as well. \n\nI believe that much of my symptoms are caused by compulsively scratching my scalp (which is what made the itching persist so incessantly, as the scabs itched), potentially fungal growth of some kind, and genetics. Here are some tips on what you might be able to do to help relieve your symptoms that have been working for me for the past couple months. \n\n#1 -Drying scalp off ASAP after a shower, \n#2 -THOROUGHLY rubbing scalp during the shower with shampoo in attempt to rid it of oils and whatever else have accumulated. \n#3 -Using a shampoo that has concentrations of selenium sulfide\n#4 -Pouring Apple Cider Vinegar over head and letting it rest on the scalp for about 5-10 minutes before washing off in shower\n\n\n\nThese steps have rid me of basically all the scalp issues I have somewhat recently ran into (itchy scalp, smelly scalp, dandruff). \n\n[Here is a very comprehensive article on Seborrheic Dermatitis](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3100109/)", "I had a problem like this when I was younger. My moms stylist sold her a huge bottle of teatree oil shampoo that smelled like strong mints and burned your eyes if it got near them, but damn did it worm.", "1. Shower daily. The extra oil on your scalp might be a problem. \n2. Use baby shampoo. I've tried all kinds of dandruff shampoo and that's the only thing that works for me. I stopped using cheap shampoo like Suave. I get baby shampoo at the dollar store. \n3. Don't use hot water to wash or rinse your hair. You have to remove extra oils, but not all of them. \n\n" ]

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[ "How to readjust mentally after a traumatic event. So about 15 months ago I was in the best shape of my life. I was healthy, I was doing very well in school and was poised to graduate in May of last year and had a nice job lined up. \n\n\n\nAround October I broke my back. The injury hurt awfully bad but wasn't the worst part of it. My back got infected and my tissues and muscles were eatan alive and gave me spinal discitis. I had a picc line after being released from the hospital in Mid November. I was given dilauded every day in the hospital because doctor's were unable to diagnose me for 9 days. \n\nAfter getting out and slowly recovering from my back injury i found myself in class trying very hard to pass so I could finish a semester after May but I knew I was incapable of it as I had a horrible time walking to class. I wasted 9000$ of my parents money in two semesters and became incredibly depressed. \n\n\nAs I sit here typing I have no motivation, I am overweight now, and it is ruining my relationship with the love of my life. I don't feel like living sometimes and I'm finally back in school but only taking 4 hours this semester. I feel like a total asshole for being 24 and likely not graduating until I'm 26. \n\n\nCan someone please help me? I don't think I can do this much longer. ", "How to readjust mentally after a traumatic event. So about 15 months ago I was in the best shape of my life. I was healthy, I was doing very well in school and was poised to graduate in May of last year and had a nice job lined up. \n\n\n\nAround October I broke my back. The injury hurt awfully bad but wasn't the worst part of it. My back got infected and my tissues and muscles were eatan alive and gave me spinal discitis. I had a picc line after being released from the hospital in Mid November. I was given dilauded every day in the hospital because doctor's were unable to diagnose me for 9 days. \n\nAfter getting out and slowly recovering from my back injury i found myself in class trying very hard to pass so I could finish a semester after May but I knew I was incapable of it as I had a horrible time walking to class. I wasted 9000$ of my parents money in two semesters and became incredibly depressed. \n\n\nAs I sit here typing I have no motivation, I am overweight now, and it is ruining my relationship with the love of my life. I don't feel like living sometimes and I'm finally back in school but only taking 4 hours this semester. I feel like a total asshole for being 24 and likely not graduating until I'm 26. \n\n\nCan someone please help me? I don't think I can do this much longer. ", "How to readjust mentally after a traumatic event. So about 15 months ago I was in the best shape of my life. I was healthy, I was doing very well in school and was poised to graduate in May of last year and had a nice job lined up. \n\n\n\nAround October I broke my back. The injury hurt awfully bad but wasn't the worst part of it. My back got infected and my tissues and muscles were eatan alive and gave me spinal discitis. I had a picc line after being released from the hospital in Mid November. I was given dilauded every day in the hospital because doctor's were unable to diagnose me for 9 days. \n\nAfter getting out and slowly recovering from my back injury i found myself in class trying very hard to pass so I could finish a semester after May but I knew I was incapable of it as I had a horrible time walking to class. I wasted 9000$ of my parents money in two semesters and became incredibly depressed. \n\n\nAs I sit here typing I have no motivation, I am overweight now, and it is ruining my relationship with the love of my life. I don't feel like living sometimes and I'm finally back in school but only taking 4 hours this semester. I feel like a total asshole for being 24 and likely not graduating until I'm 26. \n\n\nCan someone please help me? I don't think I can do this much longer. ", "How to readjust mentally after a traumatic event. So about 15 months ago I was in the best shape of my life. I was healthy, I was doing very well in school and was poised to graduate in May of last year and had a nice job lined up. \n\n\n\nAround October I broke my back. The injury hurt awfully bad but wasn't the worst part of it. My back got infected and my tissues and muscles were eatan alive and gave me spinal discitis. I had a picc line after being released from the hospital in Mid November. I was given dilauded every day in the hospital because doctor's were unable to diagnose me for 9 days. \n\nAfter getting out and slowly recovering from my back injury i found myself in class trying very hard to pass so I could finish a semester after May but I knew I was incapable of it as I had a horrible time walking to class. I wasted 9000$ of my parents money in two semesters and became incredibly depressed. \n\n\nAs I sit here typing I have no motivation, I am overweight now, and it is ruining my relationship with the love of my life. I don't feel like living sometimes and I'm finally back in school but only taking 4 hours this semester. I feel like a total asshole for being 24 and likely not graduating until I'm 26. \n\n\nCan someone please help me? I don't think I can do this much longer. ", "How to readjust mentally after a traumatic event. So about 15 months ago I was in the best shape of my life. I was healthy, I was doing very well in school and was poised to graduate in May of last year and had a nice job lined up. \n\n\n\nAround October I broke my back. The injury hurt awfully bad but wasn't the worst part of it. My back got infected and my tissues and muscles were eatan alive and gave me spinal discitis. I had a picc line after being released from the hospital in Mid November. I was given dilauded every day in the hospital because doctor's were unable to diagnose me for 9 days. \n\nAfter getting out and slowly recovering from my back injury i found myself in class trying very hard to pass so I could finish a semester after May but I knew I was incapable of it as I had a horrible time walking to class. I wasted 9000$ of my parents money in two semesters and became incredibly depressed. \n\n\nAs I sit here typing I have no motivation, I am overweight now, and it is ruining my relationship with the love of my life. I don't feel like living sometimes and I'm finally back in school but only taking 4 hours this semester. I feel like a total asshole for being 24 and likely not graduating until I'm 26. \n\n\nCan someone please help me? I don't think I can do this much longer. " ]

[ "Sorry to hear about your injury, that's rough luck. My issues are more self-inflicted so i might have more shame/guilt about the situation lying around but otherwise we seem pretty similar.\nRelax, find a purpose, don't rush. Let your significant other know this; tell them your life went downhill (which is probably obvious), and that maybe you need more time to yourself because your mind isn't working the same as it used to.\nAs for school, don't feel bad about finishing at 28, don't feel bad about finishing at 45 either. You gain nothing comparing your experiences to anyone else's. Take a break from school if you need to. I seriously encourage not doing something that you have no motivation to do. You will keep falling behind and it will only make you feel worse.\nFind a way to slowly feel good about yourself again. I don't know what works for you, but i write a lot now, i go out of my way to smile at people on the street. I play more relaxing, less competitive. video games. Keep up any little things that give you happiness, and stay away from taxing and stressful things until you personally feel ready. Ignore what anyone says about it (which from my experience is more in my head than anything), and do what makes you happy for a while", "You seem to be taking on what you can handle--which is good. You have a valid reason for having issues with school, so don't feel like you wasted your parents money. I'm sure your parents wouldn't want you sulking over some arbitrary amount of cash after the real problems you just faced. You're out of shape due to the injury--maybe seek rehabilitation for the injury and try to exercise and diet? Something constructive like that can help to make you feel better.\n\nAlso, believe me, it could be much, much worse. you could have a chemical dependency to the Medication you were taking. My daughters mother was diagnosed with multiple mylomas in her lungs over a year ago, lost so much lung function in a matter of weeks that she was tethered to a stationery oxygen supply 24/7, and had such bad pain that she was taking a script of 240 8mg dilaudeds in a matter of 2 weeks and then being fucked for the following 2, causing me to have to go cop on the street--which led to financial ruin of my savings, and ended with us taking an eviction from our apartment to the tune of thousands of dollars. I was unemployed during all of this taking care of both her and my daughter full time, and would have been able to sustain an independent living situation had her pain not been so out of control. The doctors wouldn't help, and insurance caused many problems trying to get scripts early.\n\nThe cancer spread to her brain, and she died in January leaving me (28 years old) and my daughter (just turned 3) behind. My parents whom I just moved in with are moving out of state within a couple months, so I have no choice but to find a job, or be stuck moving away from everything and everyone I've grown up with. I often am so numb to everything around me that I find myself sunk into the couch staring at the wall while my daughter watches TV all day. My parents are retired, and older, not to mention my dad is one of those \"I don't care what happened, your daughter is solely your responsibility\" type deals, so me getting a job has been impossible due to the fact I have no choice but some expensive daycare as my only option to allow me to work, as he wont watch her, or allow my mom to so I can skate on daycare. As I see it, there is no way to pay even $800 a month for daycare (which is the cheapest I have seen), when I have car payment, car ins, cell phone, and need to have a place to live as well on top of feeding myself and my daughter, which is going to be no less than the 8-900$ range to rent (if I can even rent after taking that eviction). The entire eviction has fallen on me since I'm the only remaining person to collect from as me and my fiancés name were both on lease.\n\nSo, to sum up, I'm stressed and damaged from the death of my daughters mother, and am being crushed by the ever present pressure to pick up the pieces when all odds are against me a million times over.\n\nYou're not alone with your problems, or fears, or worries man. Our situations are different but emotions are concrete, and many, many people are feeling the same feelings of dread, fear, anger, guilt, sadness...you just have to focus on the current moment, and know you'll be a bad ass motherfucker that is unbreakable when you put this shit behind you.", "I think you need to remind yourself that feeling down and demotivated is a completely normal response to what has happened to you. Breaking your back and the further complications you had were a HUGE thing and logically you're doing amazing just to be back at school in any capacity. If a friend or your partner had broke their back and had all of the same medical complications would you think less of them for not finishing school as quickly or that they were abnormal for feeling down/demotivated? No, right? \n ", "I can relate somewhat. Right after Thanksgiving I had a serious bout of bacterial meningitis that left me in a coma on a breathing tube for 3 days. When I was conscious and recovering I was sent home with a PICC line to self administer high dose antibiotics. I had home nursing visits, walked with a cane or walker, couldn't drive due to anti-seizure meds. It was an eye opening experience of what disability is like. Fortunately, I've made a complete recovery. Now all I have to deal with is the mental part....denial that it ever happened, questioning why it happened to me, wondering if it will ever happen again, will I live to survive it if it happens again, etc. Depression set in. The best way I've found to cope with the mental part along the way was to keep assessing my symptoms and pushing to do as much as I could along the way. I also like to set attainable goals and focus on what I need to do to get there. Before I was hospitalized I had been making plans to drive to Toronto in April (about 2000 miles roundtrip) to catch up with someone to commemorate a special event. Upon release from the hospital, I set the Toronto trip as a goal I was determined to accomplish. I'm pleased to say I did it. I just got home from visiting Toronto yesterday. \n\nOkay, so I achieved the physical recovery...but the depression lingers. The whole experience seems like a major set back and a precursor to a coming disaster all at the same time. I need to shake those thoughts off and focus on my gains. I survived. I'm alive now. I've accomplished a full recovery when the odds were against that. As for those other nagging questions like why me, will it ever happen again, etc., those questions will always be there but I try to not let them interfere with how I live my life. Varying shades of depression have always been part of my core being. I try to manage it as well as I can by focusing on things that I can manage, things that bring me happiness and contentment.\n\nYour situation is more serious with longer lasting effects than mine, but I would suggest the same. Keep looking forward, set both short and long term attainable goals and focus on doing what you have to do to get yourself there. Applaud yourself for getting back to school. Graduating at age 26, after what you've been through, is a HUGE accomplishment...not a failure. Congratulate yourself and feel good about how far you've come...set your sights on things you want to do...do what you have to do to get yourself there. Your accomplishments should be empowering....that's the best antidote to depression I know of.\n\nHope this helps some. Sorry it's so long. Wishing you the best.", "Hey there, sorry for the tough spot life is putting you through now. Seems like you've got a lot on your mind at one go. How I managed problems is by tackling them one by one. It matters not the pace but the direction itself. I agree with what the others have said, don't rush through things. Take a moment and make the best with what you have. Sure this current situation of yours have changed your previous seemingly perfect plan, but there's more ahead for you. One day, you may even be inspiration for people with similar circumstances. You've taken the first step forward by seeking help, you're moving forward already. Keep it up =) it's not the circumstances that defines you, it is what you do with it that defines who you are. You've got our support! *cheers you on with pompoms*" ]

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[ "Don't tell them directly nor break with them. Just reduce the amount of time you spend together or talk to each other. \n\nSaying it out loud is an [ostensive way of communication](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Relevance_theory) and [there is no way back once it is said](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3-son3EJTrU). It could frustrate them and turn them into enemies, because rejection is a painful punishment. \n\nYou might want to give them a chance in a couple years or you might need them or they might need you, which is good. \n\nRejecting them excludes yourself from potential cooperation partners. \n\nIf you reduce your availability you come off as higher status person. \nA really toxic person could respond with reproaches or passive aggressive statements: \"you never call up again\", \"we used to be friends until you have fucked it up\". \nOn the other hand, they might surprise you!", "In the past, I've just stopped inviting them places and focused my energy into other friendships and it's worked well.", "You just have to do it. As others have said, start by reducing time spent. If it comes to where you have to come out and explain it, do so. Don't feel bad. You are more important than subjecting yourself to a toxic friendship. I just ended one with a girl who I have been friends with off and on for the last 15 years, with the last three or so having been designated each other's \"best friend.\" It came down to the point where I had nothing positive to say about her, and the thought of spending time with her depressed me. I haven't seen or spoken to her in two months as of today, and I haven't felt this good in a long time. ", "during a sleepover, tell them you're going to get milk. then don't get milk. get a better friend. never come back. #winner", "I was in a similar situation. I just stopped hitting him up continuously and now we barely talk. we used to hangout all the time, he just always likes to tell me how he makes more money than I do and shit like that. i didn't like it. (i'm still in college and he dropped out of high school and is a custodian manager at a health club). ", "If you feel that there is a toxic influence in your life, then fill your life with nurturing influences. Spend more of your time with people doing things that make you feel like you're bettering yourself, instead of bringing you down. You can do this by yourself, of course. The world is massive, filled with cool people, and is waiting for you.\n\nAnd don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. For example, if the nature of their toxic behaviour is negative comments at others, simply say, \"I don't care for that, that's not necessary.\" Unless you feel like you're in a dangerous situation, and your comments might cause them to be violent against you, you have to reject their \"Toxicity\" in order to overcome it.", "My experience (no auto correct, not expo wiener) was a friend in high school who used me to make himself feel/look better. I was always the butt of his jokes, making fun of me in front of other people to deflect from himself etc. When we were alone there was no problem. I got sick of it so I told him flat out how I felt and that if he kept doing it I wouldn't be friends with him anymore and he seemed to take it on board.\n\nThe next day he told everyone about that conversation and used it to make fun of me again. So I told him we were done. He called me that weekend to come hang and I said no. He got angry and defensive \"come on, I didn't know you were serious, I won't do it anymore\" etc. I stood firm, mainly because I wasn't ambiguous at all in the first talk so this was classic abusive behaviour (baby, I'm sorry you made me so mad I hit you, I'll never do it again kind of thing).\n\nHe ended up being a bit of a loner the rest of high school. Turns out he was going through some shit (no excuse to take it out on others though). Met him again years later and he was a different person having worked through everything. Started hanging out again, and everything was great. One of my best friends today.\n\nNot sure this would work for everyone but my experience in giving one chance and then complete severing worked a treat.", "Don't call them. When they call you, be polite but not engaging. When they ask you to do something together, say thanks, but have a legitimate excuse for not going. You can do this as slowly or abruptly as you think is right.", "While the touchy-feely responses may be the most social, I am an advocate for just cutting them out of your life all together. It is unlikely that personalities are going to change. Life is to short be around people you don't like. If other people decide they don't want to be your friends as a result, fuck 'em. Collateral damage. There are 7 billion people in the world. Not being friends with 3 or 4 of them is not going to drastically change your life.\n\nIgnore their calls and emails. If you get trapped somewhere, be up front and just tell them you don't want to talk to them. Don't be a lying, conniving dick and play all this passive aggressive shit people are recommending.", "I went through this a few months ago with a friend of 15 years. We just drifted apart and she had a multitude of things that she essentially blamed me for not helping her out with -- her mother passing away, manic depression, mysophonia, chronic pain, chronic insomnia. I tried to make a good faith effort in doing what I could to help, but she flat out ignored me. Granted, I was not completely innocent in this because I wasn't as present in her life as I could have been.\n\nWhen we began talking again, it was clear our friendship had grown toxic. I felt like she was being condescending and was insulted by what she was saying. I tried to explain to her the times that I tried to contact her after her mothers death, but she acted like they never happened and chided me for not doing so. She just wouldn't let it go -- I felt like all I was doing was apologizing and answering the same questions over again.\n\nOne night I just decided that if this was to continue, our friendship would never be the same and no friendship was much better than one that was toxic. I became very resentful of her and didn't want my good memories of our friendship to tarnish. I told her all that I was feeling and explained that neither of us had the ability to solve this currently so I was going to step away from the conversation. We have not talked since, and it's for the better.", "Try standing up for yourself, because there are assholes everywhere you go. Think about two or three of the biggest things they do that make you angry, then consistently reinforce your boundaries. When that is resolved, work on two more. Either they will learn to treat you better or won't enjoy being around their punching bag anymore. Win win. ", "I've handled it both ways. With one friend, I straight-up told him that his behaviour was unacceptable and that I didn't want to see him again. With another friend, I've just stopped contacting her. The first way worked best for me — it's your own choice to make. ", "I've been through a couple of toxic \"friendships\". They were some of the most consistently negative people I have ever known. We used to have weekly lunches and I started dreading going to them-- cuz their negativity was contagious and was affecting my outlook. It was additionally awkward because we worked at the same company.\n\nLike some others have mentioned, slowly make yourself unavailable. I started ducking out of the weekly lunches of them saying I was too busy. Gradually, I increased it to the point that I was going to 0 of the lunches. Occasionally I'd bump into them but that's about it in terms of interaction. \n\nNo feelings were hurt significantly, the professional relationships were maintained. ", "I may not have done it the best way, but I basically hung up the phone on my former friend after a discussion about whether I should continue to pursue music as a career. Then during emails, he brings up that all the times he said he was sorry in the past were insincere, and he always thought he was right. It was then I knew the friendship was toxic to me.\n\nHe also kept telling me that all our mutual friends would support him and not me. And for a while that was true. I was told several times by mutual friends to just let him disrespect me. I simply told them he was lucky to have such an amazing support group. He argued at times that I needed his friendship; implying that no one else would put up with me.\n\nIt was tough to break away from the 20+ year friendship, but ultimately my life is better without his words and actions increasing my own negative self esteem.\n\nI haven't spoken to him in over 6 years. His calls go straight to voicemail. He says he misses me, but he really misses being able to control me and poking fun at me maliciously.\n\nI'm now finally making it as a musician in Key West. I wouldn't have been able to do it if I'd stayed friends with him.", "The way I did it with this girl was simply stop chatting her up on facebook or anywhere else. And when she missed the attention and came to me, I would only give straight answers and that was that. We have now stopped talking completely.", "I had a pretty toxic friendship that really strained (and for all I know, in some cases may have even ended) my friendships with others (including my parents), strained my finances, my patience, and threatened my future. \n\nI was dumb and let my loyalty to my friend be more important than how good of a friend he was being to me. He came from a moderately fucked up background (orphan, physically abused as a child resulting in minor physical handicaps), but was eventually adopted into (from what I could see) a decent middle class family in a nice part of town. \n\nProblem was he never saw it that way. He has always been, and always will be, cheated in the game of life and he uses his story as a way of getting help from others, rather than building himself up.\n\nI became his go-to person for any financial, legal, or emotional difficulties. I really get mad about it when I think about how much of a waste of time he was. \n\nI tried to extract myself a couple of times, I thought the best opportunity was when he ended up in jail for a bit. Unfortunately, since we are from the same neighborhood, he came back home and found me again.\n\nI didn't think much of it until I let him slowly get back into my life. I didn't have much of a social circle when I came back home (most of my friends had moved away and stayed away), so I ended up hanging out with him more and more.\n\nEventually we moved in as roommates, he seemed like had his shit together. Stable job, saving money, living responsibly. We even started a small business together.\n\nUnfortunately, as I'm sure you can tell, eventually his old habits resurfaced, and he started coming to me (and the business) for financial help. Once he had sucked his own savings dry, he started relying on what small revenue we generated for his own needs.\n\nIt got to the point where he threatened me for not giving him the money he needed for court, even when I told him the business doesn't have any more money because he spent it all. He was delusional and accused me of holding back on him.\n\nSo, I thought to myself: I've given him 3 chances. Each chance has been more than sufficient for him to get on his feet. (Hell, I literally housed him, fed him, and clothed him for an entire year as a college student). I had been more than loyal as a friend, and he had never really appreciated it. So I decided it was time to part ways. I knew that if I tried to talk to him about it, he would try to convince me that he wasn't the reason I was mad, but something else. He'd try to coerce me into staying his friend, promising that our business will take off and we'd become millionaires.\n\nKnowing all this, and realizing that he was a major source of conflict and frustration in my life (I was working 16 hour days and I would have rather stayed at work, than to go home and hear his bitching), our friendship was done.\n\nSo I made a plan with a friend, pretended to go to work, waited until my friend left for his work, then came around the corner with a u-haul and just got the hell out of there. I left somethings that were important to me, things that were hard to take out quickly (tables, chairs, large items). But I said fuck it, I can replace those, I'd rather just remove myself from the situation.\n\nI received calls and texts, acting the victim, wondering why I left, then the opposite, getting angry and telling me I'd regret it and he'd have my number. I just ignored it all, it was still stressful having to think about it.\n\nIt's been about a year. I feel so much better about my life, and I've realized what a good friend really is. I keep people around me who look out for me (as best as they know how), who consider my position as a person and individual, rather than selfishly making themselves the center of attention. *And* I know how to recognize those types of leeches, so I won't be stuck with one again.\n\n**TL;DR: Just drop them like a bad habit. Extract your shit, and just leave and never come back. Completely stonewall them, not even a response telling them you'll never talk to them. IOWs, I might as well be dead to them.**", "I did so much of this as a teen that one of my friends dubbed it the \"slow dis\". I was in a dangerous scene, full of people that seemed hellbent on putting themselves and others in jail from being stupid. \n \nIt's a \"less is more\" approach. Keep what you're doing a secret. Don't tell other friends. Just slowly pull away from who you're trying to get away from. Less communication. No more attending things together. \n \nBoom. You've inserted distance and now you just cultivate that distance and move on. \n \n \nIf you see the target person, you're going to still act like you're buddies and nothing has happened other than you've been very busy and life has taken you in new directions, blah, blah. Nothing personal. \n \n\n", "I had this \"friend\" who was toxic. I just outgrew him and did not want to deal with his childish crap. Well one day we are all sitting there at ihop having a good time and he starts complaining about some broad. I was the most unsympathetic person on the face of the planet at that point. He refused to accept that the woman wasn't interested in him because of the way he lived his life. (I knew this girl and that's what she told me). Well he notices I'm ignoring it and makes a big scene and ends up storming off into the parking lot after I tell him I dont want to hear about it. Well I figured awesome toxic man out of my life. Well it didn't go as easily as I though. I started noticing his car would always be where I was, and even my girlfriend would see it sometimes (we knew it was him because 1: license plate number 2: obnoxious GTA decal on windshield) I would have left this up to coincidence except he lives 45 minutes from me and an 1 1/2 hours from my GF. He knows absolutely no one in these areas. Then I get a call one night from his roommate saying that he was \"obsessing over my girlfriend and was talking crazy things like getting me out of the picture\" (The state I live in legally considers this kid psychotic to the point where he has assaulted cops before but got off because his dad is well connected.) So what do his parents do? Get him two guns to make him feel better about the fight he got into with his friend. I immediatly went to the police (luckily knew someone who works at the station now) Filled out a report and basically said I was worried about my GF and Is safety. They said not to file a restraining order because legally they have to notify him and he might flip out and become aggressive. So what did I do? I now keep my gun with me at all times. Taught my GF to shoot and got her a gun. We always dreamed about moving to Canada so now we figured this is a good enough reason as any and plan to move their after college. Basically just be careful how you cut people out of your life. You don't really now how broken they are (well at least there brains).\n\nTL;DR: Tried to slowly cut toxic person from my life he realizes whats going on flips out starts stalking my GF and I. His parents by him a gun and we find out from police he is Psychotic and there is not much we can do about it via police without notifying him as well. Decided to move go through with plans earlier than intended and moving to Canada December of 2016. Moral of story be careful how you cut people out. \n\nSorry for writing a whole freaking book but I just needed to vent and get this all out there. Feel much better now. Thank you reddit. Any advice on the situation would be appreciated as well. We don't really wanna leave Texas right now. ", "Just slip out the back Jack, make a new plan Stan, you don't need to be coy Roy, just get yourself free. Just hop on the bus Gus, you don't have to discuss much, just drop off the key Lee, and get yourself free.", "That depends on what you mean by toxic. If they're abusive or dangerous, then ignore/ghost them like the top comments say.\n\nIf the situation isn't a threat to your safety, it's better in the long run to have the courage to tell them straightforwardly why you don't want to hang out with them anymore. It will at the very least build your own character to learn how to deal with confrontation now, instead of learning/reinforcing cowardly avoidance behaviors. Most people are smart enough to realize when they're being ignored, so that confrontation will likely happen even if you try to avoid it by just ghosting them. There's also the possibility that they don't realize the effect their actions are having on you, so if you tell them directly why you don't want to be friends anymore, they have the opportunity to try to change and be better people. Most people want to be good people, and will genuinely try to make amends if they find out they've upset someone. If you never tell them what they did, they won't have the opportunity to learn from it and make it up to you.", "If you see them as toxic, it's likely others see them as toxic. I've been in similar situations and never bring old drama to new friends. It won't take long for someone else to make note of the toxicity without any need to hint at it.\n\nYou'd be surprised how finding a new perspective on an old situation will empower you to believe your intuition more, watch for toxic red flags, and insulate yourself.", "I must be the only direct person on reddit. Just make a list of reasonable ways they been toxic for you, times they've been abusive beyond normal playful shit givings or disregarding of your feelings, saying hurtful things, doing hurtful things, stuff like that. Then call them one at a time and tell them that you would not like to see them any more. When they all why or wtf, read your list. Stick to your guns. Accept apologies but not promises ( \"thanks but, I've made up my mind. Take care\") I've done it before a few times. Ex friend of mine got really wreckless, emotionally abusive, and thought it was funny. I know Its flattering my self to say my ending our friendship was his wake up call but, i think i helped him by leaving him. \n\n**don't Try to ignore your problems. Is that how you would handle other problems in your life? An over billing at a restaurant? A too loud neighbor? Just try to fade them away our ignore them with out addressing them? Just drag out the uncomfortableness and get No results? No! Be an adult. Hit it head on, be professional, polite, and firm. \n\nGood luck. ", "Make a plan with yourself, that you will do something you enjoy instead of spending time with them. Then when they invite you to do something, you can respond in all honesty that you have plans. \n\nThis allows you to politely decrease your contact with them.", "Just drop all you don't like about them on them, be 100% honest. Not only will they see the error of their ways for future relationships but its also very relieving for you! Then cut ties completely. Has worked many times for me :)", "I think it's important to tell them you don't want to be friends anymore rather than just avoid. You don't have to look over your shoulder or make plans to avoid or not include them. \n\nI can tell you from experience that the first time you do it will be really really hard. But the weight lifted off your shoulders makes it totally worth it. You also get better at controlling who you allow into your life, which is a HUGE part of leading a happy life. ", "Try talking to them. It's just like any relationship; if you're incapable of communicating how you feel then it's not a friendship, it's just an obligation.", "There is one thing to realise, this is important trust me:\n\nClassmates and co-workers are not friends, they are people that due to necessity, you are forced to deal on a daily basis so a form of kinship develops and can be confused with friendship, not always. \n\nWhile it can become a friendship, try to separate if you hang out with them only because you see them every day or because you actually value them as individuals.\n\nThis is why adults have a lot less friends than teenagers, we learn this valuable lesson and start pruning all the toxic crap. ", "Never let sentimental shit stop you from putting a bullet in a toxic relationship. Trees don't hang on to dead leaves. Alright peace", "My son has a 'friend' like that. The problem is that when my son is bored or his actual friends aren't available, he ends up hanging out with annoying boy as a last resort. He's only 9, so I just ask him if he's sure he wants to spend time with that kid, or if he's just lonely/bored and should just find something else to do.\n\nSince you're old enough to be on Reddit, you probably don't want your mom getting involved in your social life, but it might be good to keep reminding yourself that you can be polite to them without being friendly, and that you need to make sure you aren't giving them mixed messages about whether or not you want to spend time with them.", "Many people are saying to just spend less time with them and talk to them less, and I think that's fine, but I personally would prefer to be mature, direct, and firm. If I believe it, I will say it to them. I have often been on the other side of the situation and it took me too long to realize my friends didn't want to hang out with me because I was being an asshole. I wish someone was mature, direct, and firm with me then, instead of leaving me to wonder what I had done wrong. ", "Just stop talking to them, stop answering their calls, if you run into them or they call you out just say that you aren't cool anymore. Easy.", "I've dealt with this multiple times.\nThe main occasion, this guy had been my best friend for years. Literally one of my first ever friends. At the time I didn't realise how bad he was for me. He alienated me from all my other friends, and it was almost an abusive BF situation, physically and emotionally( no homo ).\n\nThe best advice I can give, as much as it may be painful, is to confront it head on. Just say \" I don't think we should hang out anymore\". If the push you for detail, just say you \"don't enjoy their company\". It sucks and is hard to get the courage to say it, but any other way just draws the process out, and may not send the intended message IMO. Hope this helps mate, feel free to message me if you need more.", "Go cold turkey and immerse yourself in new things, new hobbies and dedicate yourself to become more by reminding yourself whats important to you.\n\nI did this when I was 16 before summer break and its mad me focus more on the person I want to be, rather than a product of the toxic relationships around me.", "As an aside, this is probably a good opportunity to think hard about how they are behaving and how you behave, how those interact, and what useful lessons you can take from it. \nWere you a doormat to them? \nAre you subconsciously attracted to people who are manipulative, or angry, or mothering, or whatever it is? \nAre you so lonely that you repeatedly connect with anyone you can? \n\nI'm not saying any of these apply, it's up to you to decide. But now is a great time to do that kind of analysis, because you have some clear evidence to examine.", "just stop talking to them, stop associating, stop inviting, stop all contact, hopefully they will get the hint. ", "it gets easier when you're older. It takes work to maintain friendships, the key thing is proximity.\n\nAll you have to do is get some distance between you and them, not see them as often, not have them as a part of your life. and poof they disappear. \n\nThis is easier to do when you're out of school because it takes so much work to actually keep people in your life. everyone has their own schedule and often have to travel great distances to see one another. ", "i told a member of the opposite sex we couldnt hang out anymore because my sexual attraction was too strong.", "i feel like you right now, what i am doing is just leet time flow till they rember that i miss.\nDAY 249:\nForever alone :(", "all of these comments have made me feel so much better about dropping someone as a friend recently. I stopped calling them and they have never called again. I have people ask me all the time why we aren't friends anymore and I just tell them I'm not interested in that relationship anymore. \n\nWhy is that so hard for people to wrap their brains around? ", "act really boring or annoying. either talk about stuff none of them care about, or troll them like crazy.", "You say \"Bye\" (dead serious)\n\n", "You just have to pull back on the relationship. Ghost if you will.\n\nI'm in my 40s and my bff, also in her 40s, met the love of her life. I was, and am, very happy for the both of them. However, there was no room for our friendship in her life. She'd hardly respond to calls, texts and would no longer make plans. If he wasn't around, she might stop in. \n\nI became an option. And it hurt like hell.\n\nIt's still that way, that she'll contact me if he's away for work.\n\nI've had time to reflect, and being with her on the rare occasions when I knew I was an option hurt me. It wasn't healthy and I know I deserved to be treated better. \n\nSo, I stopped texting and calling and seeing if she wanted to chum. It's not like she really noticed. I unfriended her on FB because, well, not out of spite, but for my own sanity I guess. \n\nRecently, however, it may have come to light for her. She's made more of an effort. But I can't set myself up again, it hurt too much.\n\nTo add, she ditched all of her GFs when she met her fella. \n\nSo, just pullback. There's no need to really say anything. Some people need time to grow and they may be better friends in years to come.", "You just gotta slowly start not spending as much times with them, then eventually not hang out or talk to them any more. I ended a friendship recently, he was stealing a good amount of money from me (About $1k+) and i just recently found out about it from a good friend. Not only that but he was extremely self-centered and only cared about getting high and trying to be cool as possible. ", "You are young and perhaps don't realize that you will make many new friends in life, and drift away from others.", "While a lot of people here are recommending not telling them, I would say the opposite. I recently spoke with a former toxic best friend whom I cut out of my life, and I heard some great things from her. She said that since I had cut ties with her she has made a lot of changes in her life and actively tries to be someone that others would want around. She said that my talk with her years ago has helped her realize she was a mooching, negative, noncontributing person, and since then she has quit smoking weed and drinks a lot less. \n\nI have talked to her a few times since we 'reconnected' and I'm reminded of the funny, comforting parts about her but she doesn't have the same drawbacks anymore. \n\n\nSince I confronted her about it she was able to make changes in her life to help her become a better person. \n\n\nThis was the second friend I had to do this to, and I would recommend it because it honestly made a difference in both of their lives, and both of them are friendly acquaintances now. ", "Whenever someone calls i ignore it. If someone knocks on the door i ignore it. I tell everyone I'm asleep or didnt hear it. On my free time I do a lot of family stuff, working out, eating right, and saving money.", "When my bf had to \"break up\" with a friend of his he simply said, \"(person's name), I don't hate you but, I don't want to be your friend anymore. I don't want to make it difficult or complicated. I'm not gonna pretend I don't know you or, badmouth you but, I just don't think we click and I think it's better for me that we not be friends. I wish you all the best.\" I don't think there are many better ways of putting it. \n\nThe bigger problem for most people is that they don't have the balls to end a friendship. I know I've let things wither and die without any explanation and I've avoided people I stopped liking but, it isn't nice to either party. When my bf told me about this, I just thought, \"wow, that's so simple,\" and I truly respected my so for being so forthcoming with his ex-friend. \n\n", "What year are you in? How many classes do you share?\n\nIn my experience, just being \"too busy\" after school and being \"distracted by school work/other people\" during class was an easy way to let friendships die without having to actually have a confrontation/conversation.\n\nI mean, honestly, I can think of some people I started to dislike, and it wasn't worth the effort to explain anything (if anything, that could lead to more problems in dealing with them day to day, and since this is school it's temporary). Much easier to just act like *of course* people change friends, and pick up new interests, and it's \"not a big deal\"...", "Wean yourself off of the friendship. If you talk with these people everyday, try every other day (you don't make the call). Stay cordial with them, if they ask you to go out, tell them that you are going to take it easy and stay in for the night. \n\nThere will come a point where they catch on and may ask you directly, that's when the part comes where everyone struggles. Let them know that you think that you may be growing apart, that you still want to be friends, but you are working on bettering yourself.\n\nIf you happen to go out the same night you blew them off and you see them, YOU walk up to them and greet them, stay cordial (so there is no Ill will) Keep it short and sweet and move on, just like you are with the relationship.\n\nThey will get the hint, they may or may not get butt hurt, but who cares, this is your life and if it affects you negatively- cut ties.", "Tons of great advice here. \n\nHonestly, just not even bother contacting them for a while/never again if the toxic friendship gets that bad. Personally, I had to resort to the latter when it came to one of my closest friends. As soon as he started insisting of blaming me for his misfortune and f*ckups, I knew I had to get the f*ck outta dodge and just do me. ", "This is a tough one for me too, especially because mutual friends can be involved, it's not always best to tell the truth. As an example, I had a friend during a particular part of life where we were able to hang out a lot and had similar interests. Then he started dating and eventually marrying a girl I could not bear to be around. She was always with him. And he didn't understand that it was ok to hang out with friends without his wife. I didn't have the heart to explain why we stopped hanging out, instead, as others have posted, I began to spend time with others and practice hobbies, which over time pushed us further apart as we didn't share the same interests. Still see him occasionally and we can talk as if nothing happened, but our habits have changed and it's much easier because our social relationship has changed. On the other hand, if the toxicity of the friendship itself is bringing you down, if you have a deep enough relationship that you can talk about life and feelings with them, you owe it to your friend to tell them. They might not have a parent or sibling, or another friend, to tell it like it is. Maybe they need to hear that from you to really understand how their negativity affects others. After you tell them, then it's up to them to ask for help from you or others, to change their behavior. And it might take time for that to happen. Weeks. Months. Maybe years. But if they are a true friend, they will appreciate you saying what you did as it will inevitably help them down the road. ", "This is a great post that I've never seen. I had this happen a couple years ago when I realized one of my friends was lying to me consistently just to avoid confrontation about a few petty things she did that were kind of rude towards me. Personally I just stopped contacting or responding to her....which I really don't recommend though, but it's nice to see the advice here", "These comments boil it down to two options, either silently create distance and stop hanging out, or straight up tell them you want to stop being friends.\n\nBoth of those outcomes result in the ending of the relationship, now obviously that is a more favorable outcome than having a toxic friendship, but worse than say maintaining the friendship in a healthy way.\n\nIf you're in a situation with your friend, and they start being toxic, whatever it is speak up about it. Tell them you don't like it when they [insert toxic behavior here]. At this point if they stop and drop the issue there could be hope to restoring a non-toxic friendship, but if they ignore you, refuse, or become more toxic simply tell them that you have to be somewhere else and remove yourself from that situation. Then when you see them next act like nothing happened unless they return to a toxic behavior, in which case you repeat the process.\n\nThis gives you the ability to communicate the exact behavior that is making you want to stop hanging out with them, not just a general reason. If they chose to disregard how you feel about their behavior then when you leave they associate the distance between you with their toxic behavior. If they're extremely toxic all of the time, this strategy will quite quickly create a large amount of distance between you, but it will also leave an opening to mend the relationship in the future if/when they're willing to change.", "The only tip is to stop hanging out with them, and ignore any potential blowback. \n\nOr talk to them. \n\nRelationships require maintenance. ", "The best thing to do is to just be stern and sure of your decision. If this is something you think about often, chances are you aren't wrong, go with those instincts.\n\nI had a situation where my best buddy was a brother to me, any family function he was invited without even needing mention, but by them hanging out with toxic people, it really started rubbing off on them to the point where I no longer recognized their personality, and the commonalities we had were no longer there, probably because they resented me on a subconscious level when every period of time they hung out with their less than influential friends, they'd only come back to hang with me and see the difference between myself and them was that much greater than the last time. \n\nIt sucks, but some people just change. This is a life for YOU and no matter what, look out for that and do try your best to protect the interests of others, so long as it doesn't hinder your happiness. Keep on keeping on and use this experience as a lesson!\n", "Thank you so much for bringing this up. I just hopped on Reddit because of a toxic situation with a group of \"friends\". I'll implement this tomorrow!", "Talk to the less and less until u dont talk to them anymore. Get urself busy so u dont have time to hang out with them", "Stop talking to them. If they dorce conversation show dissenterest and try to give them answers that make it hard for them to continue their conversation with you. If they threaten you or something go to a principal, go to your parents, go to someone who can help. ", "Some of the posts on this thread suggest avoidance as the best method, but i feel like thats the most immature. Not saying you need to \"break-up\" with your friend, but having a conversation that your life is going in a different direction may be harder at the time but result in a better feeling in your stomach later", "Slowly stop being around them as much. If they complain then say a reason but don't attribute it to them. Just pull away slowly.", "Shit in their it shower, leave, and then text them saying someone may have shit in their shower. They'll be weirded out and not talk to you anymore ", "Related: how do you successfully recognize/channel your efforts towards relationships that grow you? I feel like in the past, I've been bad at keeping people around who I want to spend more time with, and realize this after the friendship has fizzled out.", "One of my childhood friends was the funny fat guy, kind of like cartman. As I grew up I realised that his mean brand of humor just wasn't healthy. I dealt with it by deciding that in txt or chat, any time he insulted me or my gf I would just not reply. Within a short period of time our communication dried up and the friendship just kind of died.", "Once you're no longer of use to them, they'll probably eliminate themselves. Just stop giving them what they're taking from you. ", "Old school...... https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=RTiyLuZOs1A\nNew school..... https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AhYZuNTuww4\n\n", "Not trying to completely hijack this post... Any ideas for someone who got rid of all of his toxic friends after moving to a new place with no support structure who is also pretty introverted/has social anxiety AND has lost faith in other people's ability to think about anyone other than themselves?", "Not a smooth way to do it, but two years ago I sat down a really close friend of mine, and told her she was bringing way too much drama into my life and I didn't want to be friends with her anymore. I would not recommend this, as I tried patching things up 6 months later, and we are both at the same school now (2 years later), and she still refuses to take my apology", "My best advice is like what I do with toxic people in League of Legends... Report them for negative attitude (and intentionally feeding) \n\n", "Lots of good advice here --- if it fails, block their phones and ignore all attempts at communication \n\nI was over 50 before I gained the strength to end toxic relationships, it wasn't pretty --- 5 years later my life is better for it - good luck, be strong ", "Loan them some money. When you ask for it back, they will start dodging you and eventually you will never hear from them again. Or, you could just say \"Fuck it... I'm done\".", "Literally stop speaking to them, stop helping them and they will get the picture unless they have shit on you", "Lend them money. \n\nI know, it sounds crazy and stupid. But there's a good chance that lending them like $100 will make them avoid you for fear that you might ask for it back. \n\nThis has worked for me twice.", "Late to the party, but I wanted to share. I just recently cut off a friendship that was actually threatening my well being and my relationship with my husband.\nOur mutual friend became a good friend of mine (Let's call him John) and he took us places and paid for us stuff, he'd flirt with me a lot which I would brush off. His, now wife, became a good friend(Call her Leanne), then their true colors came through when a friend of mine whom I have a ton of respect for got fucked over by them. Then my name some how got thrown into the mix by an outside person. They immediately, instead of talking to me and asking, sent \"Fuck you, you're a shit starter, don't ever talk to me again.\" messages to my facebook. They logged into my facebook (I guess my password was saved on his computer by accident) and deleted all the hateful messages because they didn't think I saw them yet. I saw them, I just didn't reply because they told me not to ever talk to them again.When Leanne tried to talk to me and sent me a \"Why won't you respond?\" I just sent her a screen shot of their messages.\n\n", "Keep it very simple. Don't answer, don't call, don't invite, don't talk about- don't talk about them!!!", "Just walk away. That's hard, because you feel the need to explain, the need to justify. Don't do it. Think back on all the things they've gotten you into or out of you because they win the argument - because they don't care about being right, doing right, or treating you right, they just care about getting what they want.\n\nJust walk away.", "Just stop spending time with them and find other people you like more to spend your time with. That's really all there is to it. Breaking up with a girlfriend is simply polite but if she's a crazy bitch and toxic no one will fault you for simply cutting her off. Friendships come and go too ", "Just keep in mind it's okay to close bridges, just don't burn them; you may need/want to re-open the bridge one day down the road.", "Just focus on your own goals and ambitions, and spend your energy trying to accomplish them. This will annoy the shit out of those losers. As soon as you start to succeed, they won't be able to tolerate it, and they will dump you. Meanwhile, moving up in the world will expose you to higher quality people, and you will make new friends. ", "Just drifting away is a good, painless option. When they do these things that are toxic, try assert yourself gently. For example, if they're gossiping about someone you like, you can sigh, turn away slightly, and casually disagree or simply not respond. They'll probably get the sense that you're not playing their games, and will probably be less interested in spending time with you.\n\nWhatever you do, get rid of the toxic people. There are plenty of good ones out there, and being around people like that drains you.\n", "Just cut all contact. Simple really. \n\nIf they hit you up, dont respond. If they are on your FB you can unfriend or unfollow them. :) ", "Its pretty easy thing for me since I generally blow everybody off anyways. \n\nI feel like the answer might differ depending on how much of a hermit you are.", "It can be quite cathartic to tell them it is toxic (and why if you think they will listen) then never talk to them again :(", "In my experience, confrontation does little to help situations with toxic people. I've only had conversations devolve into arguments by trying to work things through. Fading into the distance is really the best way to go about it-- all of the toxic people I've run into either know what they are and don't care/don't try to fix it, or are too delusional to see that what they're doing is wrong.\n\nI had a friend once who basically acted as if we were dating when it was very clear that we were only friends. This was an incredibly toxic person who was good at manipulating people into thinking their behavior was normal, and passing off blame for their actions onto others or making excuses. Once I realized what was happening and had a confrontation, it ended in an argument and the realization that they really didn't care about the effect their actions had on others. I just cut off all contact, and it ended in them trying to contact me constantly for about the period of a month, between messages and phone calls.\n\nEventually they gave up, and I couldn't believe how much freer I felt to have gotten out of that friendship.", "In eighth grade I called my best friend at the time the morning before school and told him \"I don't want to be your friend anymore\". \nI haven't hung out with him since.", "I've just \"ghosted\" people before. Just cut off communications abruptly and without warning. It's not the most delicate way to do things, and one of them did call me leaving angry voicemails about not knowing what they did wrong... But I figured any time I spent easing the blow for the sake of their feelings or to make myself seem like more of a nice guy would just prolong the suffering. \n\nThat method isn't for everybody though, I've heard people who miss others when they haven't seen them in a while have a harder time with it", "I've gone through something much like this recently. \n\nI'd recommend putting your energy into a hobby, find something new in your life to explore. It may help you find new relationships and show you that those toxic friendship aren't worth putting any effort into. Just slowly start doing your own thing, it'll become easier as time progresses.\n\nGood luck! ", "I'm twenty, and I did this a few weeks ago. Just deleted all of the numbers in my face, deactivated Facebook and haven't looked back. The only way people can get in contact with me is if they make an effort and I give them my number. Works like a charm.", "I'm in highschool so this is my personal experience. Make new friends and slowly start hanging out with them more. If toxic friends invite you places, say you're busy or make an excuse. Etc. Slowly stop associating with them", "I'll share my experience and hopefully that helps.\n\nIn high school I had a friend who was super obnoxious and stubborn. At the time I thought that was pretty cool. In college, I started realized that he was just closed-minded and pretty boring when he wasn't insulting others.\n\nSo.. I stopped accepting his invitations, stopped inviting him places, and just did other things. It would've been great if he turned around and said, \"hey man, I guess I've been really abrasive to people, I've realized that now, and I'm sorry\" *but these kinds of people go out of their way to NOT change*\n\nAnd by the way, there were times when he texted me out of the blue like \"hey man, we don't hangout anymore whatsup\" and I just ignored it. Why did I ingore it? Lesser of two evils; I could've started a marathon text-argument his flaws, my flaws, who's right, who's wrong, etc. but ignoring him was better (and yes it was awkward but it's just like a breakup.. one person is gonna show their weak side but you just need to keep moving and wish them the best)\n\n**TL;DR Friend was toxic so I stopped rewarding him with my friendship and spent time around people who appreciated me. He is still a toxic person but I don't ever have to hear a word of it. It was awkward at first, but had to be done for my own personal growth.**", "I'd probably just bang their sisters or their mom where applicable. If they still want to be your friend after that just constantly discuss the details of banging their relative.", "I would advise a combination approach of what most people are suggesting. \n\nStart by joining a group or club related to something you're interested in. Do it on your own or with one friend who shares that interest and is supportive. As you meet more people and become more involved, distance will become automatic and you will become more confident and will better recognize the bad or good friendships that you have. \n\nAfter a while of this, you can either continue to phase them out, or you can approach them, sit them down, and outline what is inappropriate and what needs changing for your relationship to continue in a healthy manner. Or you can just rip 'em out, depending on how they take the inital approach. \n\nAlso remember that starting to do small things like quietly defending other people these people are putting down will make you a better friend to the one and likely will drive a greater wedge with the other.\n\nTLDR: distance and fading first, then approach and break it off. ", "I went through this with my best friend from high school, after 8 years of friendship I just couldn't take it anymore, I constantly felt drained and depressed after talking to her or spending time with her and I soon realised our friendship was very onesided. In the end I just called her one night after we had had an argument and said to her I couldn't do it anymore, the friendship wasn't a true friendship, it was just alot of me bailing her out of stupid stuff she had done, and we got a bit emotional and decided it was for the best.\n\nAbout two weeks after I met the person who is now my best friend and I wouldn't have met her if I hadn't broken the other friendship.\nHope this helps!", "I was in an extremely toxic friendship with a girl that I was basically dating without benefits. She sucked up all my time and was very manipulative. She did a lot for me, but held it over my head. She would get upset with me over anything that wasn't her way. When a friend told her I said some not so nice things, she actually broke it off with me. That's when I realized I was happier without her. She tried to come back to me, but I ignored her and she stopped trying. \n\nGetting out feels good, so do that. ", "I was in a toxic friendship with a sociopath but didn't know it. He knocked me down every chance he could emotionally, went as far as embarrassing me in front of friends and family. I was loyal because in private we had close meaningful conversations and he built me up and pushed me to do better. \n\nFast forward 6 years and I've grown into myself emotionally and have become more established as an adult and he couldn't stand it. We came to blows over nothing but built up tensions and from that point I swore to never talk to him again. \n\nA full year later I get apologies and inquiries about becoming friends again. Best thing I did was to ween him off and talk to him less. Get to the point where you can prove to yourself and ultimately them that your life is fine and you don't need them AT ALL. Once you reach this point they'll eventually go away. \n\nYeah it will be tough and you'll instinctually want to call and say what up, but ignore that and imagine the moment you discovered the relationship was toxic, and constantly remind yourself why you made this decision. \n\nSociopathic tendencies are scary and hidden easily by charm and snark. ", "I was in a toxic friendship with a girl for over 13 years. It finally ended when I stopped giving her what she wanted and ignoring her. That's really the only thing you can do.", "I was friends with this kid in high school (first year of college now) basically because it was convenient. he was an asshole and not really that much fun to be around all the time. after graduation i just stopped responding to his texts and cut off all contact. seems to be working so far, althought it took him a little while to get the message", "I use to be in a toxic relationship with a male friend. Everything was cool at first, every time we hung out we played video games, smoked weed and played sports. But after being friends for a yearish i started picking up on how largely self centered and arrogant he was. Hes true colors began to show and the more i saw the more i truly disliked the guy. Luckly one day he accused me of stealing .5 gram of weed, right after dabbing him up cus that what friends do, so i got pissed, jumped in my car and went home. Ignored a few text messages and phones calls and he stopped hitting me up. I was so happy i got out, would make the same choice again.", "I think a lot of people don't realize until they start getting older, that many of our life relationships are not meant to last our whole lives.\n \nIn this case, I suggest you simply become unavailable. If they want to get together, sorry you are busy. If they come over, you gotta go. If they call, you can't talk right now. \n\nYou do not owe it to Anyone to explain WHY you can come out, can't talk to them now, can't see them now.\n\nThat's where a lot of people get stuck, they don't know how to say no. A simple, \"sorry, it's not convenient at this time\", or \"I've got other plans\", is effective and doesn't demean the other person.\n\n\nEventually they stop calling.", "I relate with this. I only have few loyal friends because the \"others\" are really just jerks sapping your energy", "I recently had to deal with this. I suppose I found myself as a user, because I hated almost everything about the person except for one thing -and no it wasn't sexual. But it was for her, she repeatedly 'confessed' her love, which made me very uncomfortable. And after several, \"we need to stop being friends talks,\" I just had to tell her repeatedly for several days that I couldn't be her friend. Ignoring all the arguments that she attempted to drag me into.\n\nShe has continued texting but I have barely responded: telling her I forgive her, was sorry, etc. I think she's finally starting to understand that she needs to fuck off. It's not fun to say that, and it's even less fun to try to do nicely, but that's how it had to be handled, for my best interest.", "I recently got rid of a toxic person trying to come back into my life, being strait forward is the best. I clearly told this person they didn't appreciate me when we where together, so theres no way that I'd take or want them back. Think of it as a bandaid, tearing it clear off is less painful than taking you time with it. ", "I recently got out of toxic friendships and I'm not going to lie but it's tough. But more of the advice offered is quite spot on. You really have to try and retract and if they really care about your friendship they will ask you and try and find out why you aren't acting the same. If that occurs I really recommend you communicate your sentiments. They need to know how to improve and so do you. But I can't stress enough, if you get to the communication stage you have to ensure they will be ready to listen to your problems. Otherwise just slowly receding is best, even if you have to say that you just aren't feeling great as an excuse.", "I once tried fading away then one say I got a call from her so i just ended up saying it's best if we don't talk it's not good for me to keep talking to you. ", "I know there are some good comments already but I just wanted to let you knew that I just had to do this very recently with a whole group of people. It wasn't as difficult as I thought, I simply just stopped talking to them and if I had to talk to them I did and then resumed not talking to them. They just assume I am busy and now I'm working on new friends. It's very liberating. I know I also could still get in touch with anyone of those people if I wanted as well so I can vouch for the top comment.", "I know the popular opinion here is that you should just cut them out (either immediately or over time). I think it can be more complex then that. Sometimes people are toxic for a reason; poor upbringing, shitty time in their life, etc. If they used to be fine, and then they changed, maybe there is a reason. If you want to actually be a friend, try finding out. Try asking why they have such a negative view of life. Maybe they are insecure and try to put people down to hide their own insecurities. Are you secure enough to call them on it? Can you do so in a nice way? It's easy to cut people out once all is said an done, but maybe it's not the right answer in all cases. ", "I just acted like they're dead to me. It works. This also changes depending on how old you are. \n\nIn high school it was this whole drama bullshit, but immediately after graduating, I cut four people off like nothing, three of which I had been best friends with since sixth grade. \n\nWay fucking easier than in high school. Especially when you know you're not gonna see them on a daily basis. ", "I have this problem but my \"friend\" owes me nearly $1000. I like him still but I like him less and less each time we get together. He's not good for me. I would like to be repaid but it's increasingly hard to ask because we rarely hang out and he's easily offended. Any thoughts could be life-changing for me.", "I have cut off several people in the recent years that weren't good for me and my family. You'll be surprised how much defriending on FB and stopping contact works lol. I did let them know that their shit stinks though. ", "I have been there. \n\nJust pull the plug. Don't soften it, don't explain it, don't call them, don't return their calls. Delete them on Facebook. ", "I hate \"ghosting\". It's incredibly frustrating to be on the other end of it. You never know if someone switched phone numbers, lost their phone, is out of town on vacation, etc. or if they are actively trying to get rid of you. \n\nI'm fine with rejection. I can't stand ambiguity. ", "I had to end a friendship in my late twenties. She was selfish, rude and a borderline alcoholic. It was fun in our early twenties but she never grew up and it was bringing me down to be near her. I tried to slowly phase her out, but we have a big group of friends who put a lot of pressure on me to keep up the friendship. So I gave her another chance but had one foot out the door. We went on vacation together and had a horrible time. I didn't even say goodbye or hug her at the end of the trip, we were just done. Then we got into a huge fight and now hate each other, the friend group took sides and split up, and three years later I still have a bad taste in my mouth when I think of her. Point of the story: should have ignored my friends and phased out gracefully. Don't let people pressure you into remaining friends with someone you find toxic. ", "I had to do this one a very close friend (which in your 30s is tough to come by in the first place) a couple years ago. He was just bad for my life. Alcoholic, impulsive, would spend 90% of conversation steering it towards talking shit on someone, but he was also charming, funny as hell, generous.... just a real intense person overall. I gave him a job and he no call/ no showed one day, which prompted me to call around looking for him. As I did so I discovered that his second job was a lie all together, no one had seen or heard from him, it was really, really weird. Maybe he was actively trolling me and just playing hooky, but it was the final straw. I just went cold turkey, and kept the iron curtain drawn. I miss him, and hope he is well, I just can't have his negativity and duplicity weighing me down. It is a tough thing, but you just have to rip off the bandaid sometimes to get it over with.", "I had to do this a while back. My friend was being emotionally abusive in her phone calls to me and I had had enough. I hung up the phone, didn't call her back, and stopped answering her calls. About a year later I got some really nasty facebook message from her husband telling me how I thought I was better than everyone and what a shitty friend I was. Just reinforced my feelings of wanting her and her husband out of my life. I didn't reply and they haven't contacted me since.", "I had to do this a couple of years ago. It was easy in my case because they were rarely the ones to call/message first. And when they did they'd get really bitchy if I couldn't do it for *any* reason.\n\nSo one day I just started ignoring their messages when they did send any and deleted their number form my phone and deleted them from Facebook. I've never heard from them since. ", "I had this issue about a year ago with a friend of mine. I simply stopped talking to her. If she talked to me that was different, but over time they realize the friendship is a one way street and you slowly stop hearing from them. Obviously every situation won't work like this, but for me it worked so easy", "I had a toxic friendship for a while. Kid I knew in elementary school that stood up for me getting bullied once and held it over me for years while he just be a shitty friend. Never let me play video games I had to watch him, once held a sword to my neck saying it was super sharp (I didn't believe him I sort of just tolerated it.) \n\nEventually one day he was nagging me to get the orange ice pops from my freezer I don't eat for him and bring them back to his house where we were. So I go 'okay,' walk out, and call up my other good friend who I had made in the past year to say I was coming over. \n\nBest move I ever made. After that I just didn't pick up or I said I can't make it I'm busy if he called. After a couple times he stopped calling ", "I had a toxic friend once. Literally just stop talking to them go cold turkey like a drug. Toxic friends are fun but harmful. Just like drugs. ", "I had a good friend of about 11 years that I had to break it off with earlier this year. I sold him one of my things and he promised to pay me it soon. Three months went by and I brought it up every now and again but every time I did he would make me feel like I wasn't being a good friend by holding him to it. I know he gets tons of free stuff from his other well off friends, and had just gotten 5 new games and a console a few days before he yelled at me about how he was so poor he couldn't eat. He would take advantage of his friends pretty much on the regular in little ways (like never offering to drive, never paying parking. If you offered to pay his meal he would order upwards of $50 of food). I hear from mutuals that he still does this to them.\n\nSometimes you have to cut people off for the good of your sanity. I still get butthurt about it every once in a while since I never got an apology and I know he talks bad about me to our mutual friends, but I think they've got my back on that one. Only sucky thing is being excluded from the group on gatherings because I don't want to make it weird by sitting there quietly fuming while he acts like nothing happened.\n\nTL;DR - Friend owed me money and made me feel bad about wanting it. Broke the long time relationship. No longer on anti-depressants.", "I had a friend throughout high school we would chill everyday almost. I realised he was using me and my parents and treating me poorly at social events. So I stopped hanging out with him as much. Then on new years 2011 he came to a party I was throwing stole $80 from my friend and now I realise I should have stopped hanging with him much sooner. Don't hesitate to drop people from your life if they aren't good for you as a person. My advise is to stop talking to them and stop hanging out before something bad happens", "I had a few friends that i had known since elementary school and last year when they started to get heavy into drugs (zanex, addies, coke, etc.) i cut them off by simply not hanging out with them anymore. It was hard, for awhile i spent time with no body except myself, but things are much better now. They hate me, but i couldn't give two fucks about them. \n\nTwo of them went to Cali in an attempt to grow pot professionally, and ended up blowing 8 grand on food and weed. I was originally supposed to go with them, but i'm so fucking glad i didn't. Such a stupid idea.", "I got out of a 17 year old friendship which really stressed me by a huge fight (they occurred often but we discussed it out afterwards before). At this time, I said no and ignored her Facebook messages and letters and I felt free. So maybe wait for a fight or a problem to occur and take it as opportunity. \n", "I gave up drugs and it took the longest time for some people to get the hint. I would get calls from one girl even after I told her I had quit using. She would say \"I always call you and you never call me.\" Wow we have nothing in common anymore, go away.", "I feel like we sometimes put to high of expectations in people. \n\nYou may have a friend that will help you move furniture.\n\nYou may have a friend that will go out and drink with you.\n\nYou can't be mad at the drinking buddy who won't help you move, and vice versa. ", "I don't know the details of your situation, but in any case I would encourage you to maintain comfortable boundaries for yourself. You might want to think about what makes a friendship \"toxic\" and how to separate yourself from those elements in order to protect your own well-being.\n\nIt may be possible to talk with your friends, let them know what's making you uncomfortable, and establish boundaries. A good friend will respect reasonable requests like that. If the person reacts negatively and doesn't respect boundaries, you may be better off without the friendship.\n\nThere are also cases in which setting boundaries means limiting your contact with toxic people or avoiding them entirely. Naturally, your strategy will be based on your situation, as well as your own comfort level. I would encourage you to focus on what makes you happy and not worry about disappointing others. Again, good friends will respect your need to preserve your own comfort and safety. Just imagine if the tables were turned: if someone you cared about were struggling with a friendship, you would support them and not look down on them, right?\n\nSpeaking of good friends, is there any chance you would feel comfortable confiding in someone outside of this toxic group? It can be a big help to have a sounding board or just to know that somebody else has your back.", "I am the only person left on Earth that, in your position, would respect your friends as adults and tell them why I find them toxic. If they're that shallow and defensive that they react poorly to your observation, fuck them. In all seriousness, in that case you were right about them being toxic and need to be mature enough to walk away. But at least you'll know they weren't worth it.\n\nPussy footing around helps no one. In another year, while you wheeze about confrontation like George McFly, you'll be right back to asking how to finally ditch them when slowly slinking away like nothing's wrong didn't work. ", "Honesty. Just tell the person why they're a toxin to you. And if you're lucky not only will you end the toxic relationship, but they'll get something out of it as well.", "Healthy boundaries\n\nBoundaries are able to be moved and can change. Putting up a wall is inflexible and cuts people out.\n\nWith that said, definitely communicate this new boundary whatever it is (not spending time alone, not talking about anything deep, setting where you see each other). I do agree with spending less time wth he person as a lot of these comments mention. I would add communicating what's happening (probably in a public place).\n\nDefinitely check out the book \"Crucial Conversations\" to learn the tools for how to have these high stakes, emotional conversations including friends.", "Had this. I just made a clean cut and found a new group of friends. If their toxic like you say, they won't make much effort to come after you.", "Had a mate that I used to go drinking with. A lot. 3-4-5 times a week. He had a low paid job, so I usually bought the beers, and we'd end up getting absolutely hammered. He's basically a functioning alcoholic\n\nHowever, there were times when I'd go visit, and he be passed out drunk at 5pm, or buy tickets to a gig a year in advance and end up paying for everything still.\n\nFinal straw came when I was supposed to meet up with him at our local pub, and he never showed up. I knew enough people in there to be comfortable, so I stayed on my own and got shit-faced. Insulted customers and staff, got kicked out, threats of violence etc etc.\n\nWoke up the next morning and remembered what had happened. Thought back over the last 8 months or so, and saw a pattern emerge that I only ever got like that with this friend, so right there and then I just cut him out of my life completely, no warnings, and changed my lifestyle.\n\nBest thing I ever did. I'm not skint all the time from pissing my money away, I feel healthier, I'm eating properly instead of going to the pub and getting pissed, I see much more of my wife.\n\nSometimes you've just got to do it the hard way. ", "Good luck. Took me about three years to finally get one 'friend' off my back. In the end I had to just say 'I am no longer your friend, please stop talking to me' before he finally got the hint", "Going through this right now and I am a grown ass man(40 yo). I had to politely say without attacking them that it is not a good time for us to communicate right now. You may have to block their number, email and Facebook activity. Just don't stoop to their level by being negative or talking shit about them to other people, this will only back fire. Just keep them away from you, off of your mind and move on. Good luck!", "Get rid of them for good, I had my fair share of fake friends, believe me sooner or later they will cut ties to you, better to fuck them off for good sooner than later.", "Get into a toxic relationship. Your toxic old friends will hate your toxic new romantic interest and leave you alone. ", "GG is right. You can either break up with them and risk backlash in several ways or just appear to be a wet noodle. By not responding quickly and thoughtfully to texts, by not making yourself available to hang out, by flat out saying \"nah I don't feel like it\", and by not agreeing to do them favors, you can just paint yourself as a boring person whose interests have changed.\n\n\nIt's happened to almost all of my high school friends and most of my college friends. I just faded away and had several phones where i didn't bother with including their numbers.", "Found a link with some good advice on this issue:\n\nhttp://theartofcharm.com/empowerment/cut-toxic-people-life/", "For me it was deliberately creating new options. Once I had options, the toxic situations became far fewer and my skills in recognising and shutting down toxic situations grew.", "Find new friends. Hang out with new friends. Old group will understand. Or maybe they won't. Who cares, fuck them.\n\nsource: college", "Don't call them, stop answering their calls. If they sit near you, get up and walk away. Drop subtle hints like \"You guys are assholes\" and \"I don't want to hang around with you any more\"\n\nIt's really simple.", "Distance kinda did the deed for me. I went to grad school and they went elsewhere. Made myself scarce as well (although that was largely unintentional due to the workload in school) and eventually things kinda fell by the way naturally. Unless they're just that dependent, I think most people will move on naturally without much extra work. ", "Did this with two \"best-friends\" recently. They vented and talked shit about each other to me, then I found they talked shit about me behind my back. Hanging out with them was always draining. \n\nI cut them out slowly over a period of a couple months, now we don't talk anymore and it feels tens times better. ", "Depends on you, when there have been people around me that I don't care for and are not good people, I try to be the biggest asshole I can to them. They go away and I have fun", "Cut contact and don't hang out with them. If they give you shit about it, just tell them directly, \"Hey, I feel like we've grown apart, and when I hang out with you I feel ______. I think we should go our separate ways.\" Who knows, maybe telling them how you feel could make them reflect on their behavior/choices, but I wouldn't count on it.", "By now, this person is someone you know very well, you hang out all the time. Always spending time with eachother at either one of your places.. But you realise that this person is dragging you down.. Constantly taking things just that little bit too far and you just go along with it.. It's time to end it all. \nHere is my very best advice of how to get out of a toxic friendship;\n\n\n* Pick the right night. You know their timetable as well as they do. Make sure you pick a night where you know they have come home from work and just want to sleep.\n\n* You know exactly where they live and how to get into their home. You guys have spent countless times unlocking the house with the hidden key at 3am after a big night out. \n\n* Sneak through the house until you find their body, resting on the bed. Clothes are everywhere but hopefully you ate a shit load of carrots (night vision) before you started this high risk mission.\n\n* Now its time for the [Chloroform](http://pubchem.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/compound/chloroform#section=Top), the best way to go about this is to just place the soaked tissue over their mouth and nose, push hard enough so that they can't scream and your all set! \n\n* Carry that dirtbag to the car and head off to your nearest graveyard. \n\n* Place them in the coffin which you bought with your parents cr", "Block them on social media, phone numbers, etc, and if you're forced to be around them, act cold, uncaring, and do not participate in any of their activities.", "Better just ask them if they will give you anything to work on friendship-wise - and that case you can give them toxic in their face. Just stop answering phone calls and feel allright.", "Best thing to do is just stop hanging out with them. Even the most toxic of friends will take a hint and get scarce when you regularly decline offers to hang out. I have a friend I've known for almost 20 years who is getting more and more erratic, he's started doing hard drugs...well on his way to screwing up all the good things he's obtained in the last couple years. When he calls, I just tell him I've got things to do (which is true actually) and I can't come out tonight; keep it pretty short. Its not that hard.", "Been through this.\n\nIf somebody continually puts you down or makes you feel shit about yourself. Time to phase them out.\n\nThere is usually other concerns. A nasty confrontation will not only make an enemy but will probably divide that circle of friends. \n\nIf you only have one circle of friends then you need to expand your social circle anyway - toxic friend or not. Join a club find an interest. One friend circle is not healthy anyway.\n\nNext phase them out. Make excuses, avoid all but the most important group events that they attend. They will get the message. \n\n", "Be busy doing other things. You don't necessarily have to be nasty about it, just let yourselves drift apart. ", "As someone who has fucked this up... A lot... I have finally learned that 'getting it all out', isn't worth it. \n\nYou may want them around at a different point in your life. \n\nJust stop calling, visiting and focus on new people. \n\nYou don't have to hate chocolate to like vanilla ", "Anyone got a tip for a similar situation but for a housemate? Getting close to having to decide who to live with next year (I'm a university student) and I'd rather not live with him again. Hard to cut down the amount of time I spend with him since I live with him... Thanks!", "All the friends I've ever 'broken up with' I've just done it quickly, like a band-aid. Yeah it'll hurt but it also eliminates the possibility of you going back and thinking 'oh they aren't all that bad'.", "After I got divorced I told one of my long-time toxic friends from highschool (friends for ten years) that I couldn't be friends with him anymore. Not a easy thing to do, but is taught me that my feelings matter and that I can be assertive and do what I need to do to be a better person in a positive way without insinuations or any \"you\" statements. ", "Act boring. When you have toxic people that you still have to occasionally see just save all the boring things in your life for them. Tell them about the last time you went to the grocery store or something and act like it's important. They will just assume you're so boring they may just leave you alone. ", "A tactic known as \"medium chill\" is a good starting point if you're not going cold turkey on toxic folks. It's generally recommended for dealing with people who also have personality disorders, but is pretty useful for backing away from bullshit if cutting off immediately would cause more problems than you're willing to deal with.\n\nhttp://outofthefog.net/CommonNonBehaviors/MediumChill.html\n\n", "A few options...\n1. Just be straight up and say \"Hey I'd like to be friends with other people, I dont love all the stuff you guys are into\"\n2. Its fairly easy to cold heartidly cut people out of your life. Just ignore the hell out of them, block them on social media, and dont sit near them, if they approach stare straight ahead.\n3.Become so horribly uncool THEY leave YOU", "@ahmedibrahim661 when you say toxic, what do you mean? are they doing lots of drugs? are they really depressed?, etc.", "* You're chilling with them\n* You start slithering\n* Watch out watch out WATCH OUT\n* RKO out of nowhere\n\nBoom", "\"I really, really treasure you, man.\"\n\n\"Um, thanks. Same.\"\n\n\"No, I mean I really, **reallly** treasure you. Every part of you. So, so much. Come sit closer.\"\n\n\"Um, I have to go. I have to go forever. Bye.\"", "\"Cut away negative influences in your life\" vs \"Does someone in your life have a mental health issue? See if you can help them\"\n\nThis issue is a balance between selfishness and generosity. Good luck." ]

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[ "I can't stop thinking about a sad thought and its killing me inside. How do you deal with something like this? Im posting this to obviously get this off my chest but also to see what you guys think. \nThe worst part about this is, its such a minor and stupid thing to be so worried about but something about it makes me want to cry.\n\nThis might be a lot so strap in, my moms dog died a few months back and she's been dying for a new dog because she feels so empty without her original dog. Our whole family saw this as an emotional move and a little irrational. We ended up getting a new dog because some of my family members just wanted a new pet.\n\nSo heres whats giving me such grief and I don't know why. I feel like my mom doesn't like the new dog, or it didn't replace the dog she really loved and now shes stuck with a dog that didn't fix her loneliness. I feel like I can see it in her face that she isn't ecstatic about as much now and doesn't cuddle as much as i thought. Thats also because it snapped at her once which is also breaking my heart. She even told me on the phone in a joking way that the dog likes my dad more than her.\n\nBasically what I'm saying in this unnecessarily long post, is that I can't stop thinking about this and its making me so sad. I'm almost crying typing this and I just don't know why. I know I could be overanalyzing this but from what I have seen I just can't think otherwise.\n\nI don't know what to do to stop these haunting thoughts. I know I can't say to her \"Do you really like this new dog?\" I don't know if I ask another family member, however, that might seem a little weird to them. \n\nI know this is such a minor thing to most of you guys and I agree and thats why I'm so confused why thins is causing me to feel so down and wanting to cry. I don't know how to feel better about any of this.", "I can't stop thinking about a sad thought and its killing me inside. How do you deal with something like this? Im posting this to obviously get this off my chest but also to see what you guys think. \nThe worst part about this is, its such a minor and stupid thing to be so worried about but something about it makes me want to cry.\n\nThis might be a lot so strap in, my moms dog died a few months back and she's been dying for a new dog because she feels so empty without her original dog. Our whole family saw this as an emotional move and a little irrational. We ended up getting a new dog because some of my family members just wanted a new pet.\n\nSo heres whats giving me such grief and I don't know why. I feel like my mom doesn't like the new dog, or it didn't replace the dog she really loved and now shes stuck with a dog that didn't fix her loneliness. I feel like I can see it in her face that she isn't ecstatic about as much now and doesn't cuddle as much as i thought. Thats also because it snapped at her once which is also breaking my heart. She even told me on the phone in a joking way that the dog likes my dad more than her.\n\nBasically what I'm saying in this unnecessarily long post, is that I can't stop thinking about this and its making me so sad. I'm almost crying typing this and I just don't know why. I know I could be overanalyzing this but from what I have seen I just can't think otherwise.\n\nI don't know what to do to stop these haunting thoughts. I know I can't say to her \"Do you really like this new dog?\" I don't know if I ask another family member, however, that might seem a little weird to them. \n\nI know this is such a minor thing to most of you guys and I agree and thats why I'm so confused why thins is causing me to feel so down and wanting to cry. I don't know how to feel better about any of this.", "I can't stop thinking about a sad thought and its killing me inside. How do you deal with something like this? Im posting this to obviously get this off my chest but also to see what you guys think. \nThe worst part about this is, its such a minor and stupid thing to be so worried about but something about it makes me want to cry.\n\nThis might be a lot so strap in, my moms dog died a few months back and she's been dying for a new dog because she feels so empty without her original dog. Our whole family saw this as an emotional move and a little irrational. We ended up getting a new dog because some of my family members just wanted a new pet.\n\nSo heres whats giving me such grief and I don't know why. I feel like my mom doesn't like the new dog, or it didn't replace the dog she really loved and now shes stuck with a dog that didn't fix her loneliness. I feel like I can see it in her face that she isn't ecstatic about as much now and doesn't cuddle as much as i thought. Thats also because it snapped at her once which is also breaking my heart. She even told me on the phone in a joking way that the dog likes my dad more than her.\n\nBasically what I'm saying in this unnecessarily long post, is that I can't stop thinking about this and its making me so sad. I'm almost crying typing this and I just don't know why. I know I could be overanalyzing this but from what I have seen I just can't think otherwise.\n\nI don't know what to do to stop these haunting thoughts. I know I can't say to her \"Do you really like this new dog?\" I don't know if I ask another family member, however, that might seem a little weird to them. \n\nI know this is such a minor thing to most of you guys and I agree and thats why I'm so confused why thins is causing me to feel so down and wanting to cry. I don't know how to feel better about any of this.", "I can't stop thinking about a sad thought and its killing me inside. How do you deal with something like this? Im posting this to obviously get this off my chest but also to see what you guys think. \nThe worst part about this is, its such a minor and stupid thing to be so worried about but something about it makes me want to cry.\n\nThis might be a lot so strap in, my moms dog died a few months back and she's been dying for a new dog because she feels so empty without her original dog. Our whole family saw this as an emotional move and a little irrational. We ended up getting a new dog because some of my family members just wanted a new pet.\n\nSo heres whats giving me such grief and I don't know why. I feel like my mom doesn't like the new dog, or it didn't replace the dog she really loved and now shes stuck with a dog that didn't fix her loneliness. I feel like I can see it in her face that she isn't ecstatic about as much now and doesn't cuddle as much as i thought. Thats also because it snapped at her once which is also breaking my heart. She even told me on the phone in a joking way that the dog likes my dad more than her.\n\nBasically what I'm saying in this unnecessarily long post, is that I can't stop thinking about this and its making me so sad. I'm almost crying typing this and I just don't know why. I know I could be overanalyzing this but from what I have seen I just can't think otherwise.\n\nI don't know what to do to stop these haunting thoughts. I know I can't say to her \"Do you really like this new dog?\" I don't know if I ask another family member, however, that might seem a little weird to them. \n\nI know this is such a minor thing to most of you guys and I agree and thats why I'm so confused why thins is causing me to feel so down and wanting to cry. I don't know how to feel better about any of this." ]

[ "Your mother is sad. One little soul does not replace another. She sounds like a caring person and she will come to accept the new puppy as family.\n\nA few months is not a lot of time to heal. The new pupper can never replace the old. But she can and will come to love it. \n\nYou need to stop calling it \"it\". It is a he or a she, a living being. Refer to it as such, especially to your mom. **You** love the dog, show your mom what the new dog means to you and she will come around.\n\nWhen you get really down, wrap your arms around the puppy. There are real biological benefits and a very real truth to \"happiness is a warm puppy.\" When mom sees the dog and you, she has to start coming around. But in her own time.", "LPT: Sometimes when you keep thinking something and it makes you want to cry, it's really okay to cry about it. Especially if your dog or another family member died. Then it's definitely okay to cry.\n\nAnother LPT: Dogs don't have owners. They have families. Your mom's dog is not her dog, he's your family.\n\nAnother LPT: Sometimes you won't feel okay about bad things because they aren't okay. But the feeling isn't wrong. You don't have to feel okay.\n\nAlso, I'm really, really sorry about your family's dog.", "What is this reminding you of (like, what painful past experience?)\n\nIt sounds like there may be some unresolved previous thing that may have gotten triggered here. ", "Therapy is a good way of dealing with intrusive thoughts. You are probably sad and grieving because you've lost a family member. This is normal. Talking to someone will probably help." ]

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[ "How to put screen protectors on a phone or tablet without bubbles or creases Those bubbles infuriate me", "How to put screen protectors on a phone or tablet without bubbles or creases Those bubbles infuriate me", "How to put screen protectors on a phone or tablet without bubbles or creases Those bubbles infuriate me", "How to put screen protectors on a phone or tablet without bubbles or creases Those bubbles infuriate me", "How to put screen protectors on a phone or tablet without bubbles or creases Those bubbles infuriate me", "How to put screen protectors on a phone or tablet without bubbles or creases Those bubbles infuriate me", "How to put screen protectors on a phone or tablet without bubbles or creases Those bubbles infuriate me", "How to put screen protectors on a phone or tablet without bubbles or creases Those bubbles infuriate me" ]

[ "All these are partly correct, but missing a step. What you do is rub your screen on cotton or wool to create an electro magnetic field while taking dust off. Approach the screen protector on one side and let it slide down. It will be \"sucked\" by your screen. ", "when I went to my phone retailer to get accessories from my phone I watched them put on my screen protector. The way they did it was clean the screen with a microfiber cloth then use a piece of scotch tape to get rid of any remaining specs of dust. next they would peel off the back side of the screen protector line it up with the screen and place it on the phone. using some more scotch tape they would place one on the screen protector to be able to lift it up and use another piece of tape pick up any dust that would cause air bubbles, resulting in a nice flush screen protector.\n\nTL;DR\n\n1) Clean Screen with microfiber cloth\n\n2) Use Scotch tape to pick up and extra dust you might find on the screen\n\n3) Place screen protector on phone\n\n4) Use Scotch tape to lift the screen protector while using another piece of tape to go over areas where air bubbles occur ", "First clean the screen well. Spray the screen with the solution that comes with the protector, basically soap water. Be careful not to get too much in the speaker / mic / camera holes. Put the screen protector on and generously spray it again. Use a small squeegee to flatten it down and remove the liquid underneath, having a dry rag on hand helps soak up any extra liquid. Starting at the middle and working your way toward the edges is best. Spray the protector every time you squeegee to keep it lubricated and easy to apply. Small bubbles will disappear within a day or so, as long as they appear flat when viewed at an angle. ", "When you peel the screen protector wrapping off put it on the phone screen as accurate as possible then put the bit you peeled off ontop of it and get a card and scrape the bubbles out", "I work in a mobile phone accessory kiosk, and my boss applies screen protectors basically all day, and what I've picked up from her is basically:\n1. Remove old protector or the film that was on in the box (if there is an issue with getting off an old protector, attach a piece of tape to the protector to help lift it)\n2. Wipe the screen clean with a glasses cleaning cloth or something similar\n3. Use a large piece of tape to pick up any and all small pieces of dust (similar to how you would remove lint I think, apply the tape lightly and then remove quickly, then repeat until you're certain the dust is gone)\n4. Pull back the first layer of the screen protector film, about 2 cm (a bit less than an inch) and line it up as carefully as possible)\n5. Quickly remove the rest of this film and then remove the second film, and use the glasses cloth to rub out the bubbles\n6. If there is dust stuck, use a piece of tape to pull away the screen protector a little bit, then use another piece of tape to retrieve it.\n7. Give the protector a final check to ensure it's placed correctly, then wipe the screen vigorously with the glasses cleaning cloth to ensure it now has no fingerprints (until you use it again)\nDone properly, the protector should last up to 8 or 9 months, depending on quality.", "When putting the screen protector on, make sure it's curved a little and basically roll it onto the surface from one end to the other (kind of like how you would put the covers on slides for a biology class. Then take the little card that comes with the screen protectors and smooth the bubbles out. I've found that covering that card with the included cleaning cloth REALLY helps smooth the bubbles out.", "This may sound mad but it works. Apply it in a steamy bath/shower room. The steam stops dust from floating around in the air so you can wipe the screen and apply it without any more dust landing on it in between. ", "The main problem is if you get a bubble ant it's too late to try again. I usually poke a hole in the bubbles with a hot pin and then smooth the whole thing with the edge of a cr" ]

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[ "I'm 19 years old and my brain has become very slow and laggy. I have trouble memorizing the things I read and the things that people say to me. How can I improve my memory and the speed of my brain? ", "I'm 19 years old and my brain has become very slow and laggy. I have trouble memorizing the things I read and the things that people say to me. How can I improve my memory and the speed of my brain? ", "I'm 19 years old and my brain has become very slow and laggy. I have trouble memorizing the things I read and the things that people say to me. How can I improve my memory and the speed of my brain? ", "I'm 19 years old and my brain has become very slow and laggy. I have trouble memorizing the things I read and the things that people say to me. How can I improve my memory and the speed of my brain? ", "I'm 19 years old and my brain has become very slow and laggy. I have trouble memorizing the things I read and the things that people say to me. How can I improve my memory and the speed of my brain? ", "I'm 19 years old and my brain has become very slow and laggy. I have trouble memorizing the things I read and the things that people say to me. How can I improve my memory and the speed of my brain? ", "I'm 19 years old and my brain has become very slow and laggy. I have trouble memorizing the things I read and the things that people say to me. How can I improve my memory and the speed of my brain? ", "I'm 19 years old and my brain has become very slow and laggy. I have trouble memorizing the things I read and the things that people say to me. How can I improve my memory and the speed of my brain? ", "I'm 19 years old and my brain has become very slow and laggy. I have trouble memorizing the things I read and the things that people say to me. How can I improve my memory and the speed of my brain? ", "I'm 19 years old and my brain has become very slow and laggy. I have trouble memorizing the things I read and the things that people say to me. How can I improve my memory and the speed of my brain? ", "I'm 19 years old and my brain has become very slow and laggy. I have trouble memorizing the things I read and the things that people say to me. How can I improve my memory and the speed of my brain? ", "I'm 19 years old and my brain has become very slow and laggy. I have trouble memorizing the things I read and the things that people say to me. How can I improve my memory and the speed of my brain? ", "I'm 19 years old and my brain has become very slow and laggy. I have trouble memorizing the things I read and the things that people say to me. How can I improve my memory and the speed of my brain? " ]

[ "Get more and better sleep. Shut off the video games by 9pm. No food after 9. Quit energy drinks cold turkey. Zero energy drinks. Go to bed by 11. ", "Start by stopping to tell yourself your brain is slow and laggy. You're probably just overworking it, either with work or maybe emotional stress from life. Forget those things, live in the moment. Love yourself, be positive, and your head will feel clear again.", "How's your diet? Have you been to a doctor lately? Are you getting any exercise and are physically fit? Those are all things I would check into. How about drugs, legal or illegal, do you take any?", "Porn can be a cause, as suggested. Also try sperm retention- my life has improved a hundred fold from it.", "Don't smoke weed, don't drink alcohol, don't drink energy drinks, don't smoke cigarettes, go to bed early, don't eat junk food. Take an online class, drink plenty of water, eat nutritiously balanced diets, exercise more.", "Was your brain really good before and now your hormones have kicked in and so other things are getting more attention?\n\nAre you anxious or distracted? Being in either of these states can interfere with recording information in memory. Become aware of what your brain is doing and then practicing self-calming techniques, like counting your breath in for 5 secs and then out for 7 secs could help.\n\nIf you're finding things uninteresting or dull and repetitive, you could try to embellish the information with extra material to make it more stimulating, like adding a picture of a colour or animal or funny action to the info as it's given to you. It means you have to work harder, but it pays off.", "Keep your brain active and engaged. I do so by reading about interesting things like new technology, or watching videos like vsause.\n\nAs cliche as it is, you need to work out your brain to improve it.", "If you have not changed your behavior but notice a sudden change, you should see a doctor just to eliminate the possibility you have some kind of medical situation going on.", "I'd get checked by a doctor. I was always a straight A student but I felt there was times I couldn't make connections and was lethargic. I ended up with b12 deficiency and thyroid issues. Since the right medication I feel like my mind is lightning quick. Just a thought. Not saying it's the case but never hurts to get a check up. ", "Anxiety had me forgetting lots of things and i didnt even notice. First get lots of sleep and talk to your doctor their could be health related issues making you forget things.", "m", "Without some sort of context as to how your daily routine is, ie: exercise, sleep, diet, it's going to be hard for people to give meaningful advice. I was having problems with my brain like yours, stomach issues, and being tired more often, found out it was an allergy to mostly grains. So I would suggest going to a doctor and getting allergy tests and other blood tests done too. But mainly just seeing a doctor and talking to him/her about whats going on and working towards a solution should be what you try first. \nP.S. Getting good sleep, having a good diet, and going out for walks or doing another type of exercise are all good things to do for your well being anyways.", "I believe sleep is your problem. If you are not getting enough sleep, it literally has the same effect as Alzheimer's " ]

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[ "International student who moved to US: Any LPTs for grocery shopping in stores like Walmart, Target or HEB? Any in general shopping LPTs as well? ", "International student who moved to US: Any LPTs for grocery shopping in stores like Walmart, Target or HEB? Any in general shopping LPTs as well? ", "International student who moved to US: Any LPTs for grocery shopping in stores like Walmart, Target or HEB? Any in general shopping LPTs as well? ", "International student who moved to US: Any LPTs for grocery shopping in stores like Walmart, Target or HEB? Any in general shopping LPTs as well? ", "International student who moved to US: Any LPTs for grocery shopping in stores like Walmart, Target or HEB? Any in general shopping LPTs as well? ", "International student who moved to US: Any LPTs for grocery shopping in stores like Walmart, Target or HEB? Any in general shopping LPTs as well? 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", "International student who moved to US: Any LPTs for grocery shopping in stores like Walmart, Target or HEB? Any in general shopping LPTs as well? ", "International student who moved to US: Any LPTs for grocery shopping in stores like Walmart, Target or HEB? Any in general shopping LPTs as well? ", "International student who moved to US: Any LPTs for grocery shopping in stores like Walmart, Target or HEB? Any in general shopping LPTs as well? ", "International student who moved to US: Any LPTs for grocery shopping in stores like Walmart, Target or HEB? Any in general shopping LPTs as well? ", "International student who moved to US: Any LPTs for grocery shopping in stores like Walmart, Target or HEB? Any in general shopping LPTs as well? ", "International student who moved to US: Any LPTs for grocery shopping in stores like Walmart, Target or HEB? Any in general shopping LPTs as well? 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[ "If you have an Aldi around, they will have the cheapest prices. Grocery shopping at a Walmart or Target will likely be intimidating for someone new to the country. Walmart is always a complete cluster, but the prices are good. As you get used to it, go during off times, like early morning or later at night. And make sure you've eaten. I've been grocery shopping at Walmart for years, and I still leave there grumpy most times. It's so huge, and busy!", "Re: grocery shopping in WalMart: don't.\n\nHEB does a remarkably good job of not exploiting their monopoly too egregiously. Try the store brands. Often (not always) they are as good as the name brands at a lower price.", "Tax *(", "You would be surprised how many products contain high fructose corn syrup. Try read the labels and avoid them. Try avoid going down the aisles where the food comes in boxes too. Just not worth it. It's all \"value-added\" products that are generally not healthy. Find your ethnic supermarkets (Indian, Asian, Mexican etc), that's where you'll get a good selection of fresh and healthy products that are not so expensive.", "Sounds like you’re in Texas. HEB is hands down the best grocer I’ve ever known lol. And they treat their employees really well", "The fresh items are normally on the outskirts of a store, while the overly processed junk sits in the middle. Try to avoid the processed junk in the aisles.", "I have no clue what HEB is but for a student, I could not recommend Walmart enough. “Great Value” is their brand name and they have nearly every product copied from the major brands and you will save a ton. \n\nI recommend angel hair pasta, pasta sauce, wheat bread, boneless skinless chicken thighs big pack stored 1-2 at a time in ziplock bags so you can take them out of the freezer as needed. Bananas and carrots. Potatoes in a 5 lb bag. Brown sugar and maple syrup 24 pack. 18 pack of eggs. Big pack of Ramen. Some type of cheap hot sauce, salt and pepper, garlic salt and onion salt. 2 packs of cheap hot dogs. \n\nThis should be right around the $40 US mark if you’re getting “Great Value” brand at every possibility. At Walmart and it’s food for a week.", "Get a grocery list app like OurGroceries\n\nGet the app for the store. In Walmart's case, the app we use and the one the associates use pull from the same place. So Walmart's app will tell you almost exactly where an item is if you can't find it. It will also show what is in the store ahead of time if you tell it to limit searches to in-store items only.\n\nBut if you build that into your grocery list and go to the same Walmart all the time, you can do things like \"Arizona Green Tea A31\". Now you know what you want and where it is.", "Find the clearance racks, they often have only minor damage or short sell by dates but you can save a high percentage. Bring an ad with you & actually read it, most of the time a '2 for $5 sale' does not require you to buy both items. Always ask for a rain check if an ad item is not in stock. Stick to a budget.", "Grocery stores often have a list of items and their locations hanging on the end of the isles. It’s a couple sheets of laminated paper that you never notice but comes in handy when you’re not sure what section something is in.", "Don’t shop hungry. There’s so many options in American grocery stores, and they all look delicious when you’re hungry.", "What state did you move to? \n\nAvoid Walmart.\n\n Bring your own reusable bags. ( we call them green bags in some states) and a cooler tote. \n\nNon- food items are taxed are added the end of your order. \n\nSoda may have a deposit on them, again added at the end. \n\nSome stores like Aldi make you.put a quarter in the shopping cart to use it, you get it back if you return the cart.\n\nSign up for store apps and reward cards, they are worth it! \n\nSometimes they have shop and scan available. You Scan and bag your items as you shop, go to the check out, scan the QR, sometimes you get a spot check. It's a quick and easy way to shop. \n\nAvoid Friday night and Saturday morning. Wednesday days are senior day in most places. I shop on Tuesdays. \n\nDon't be afraid to ask your fellow shoppers for help! Especially in the Midwest, we will help you to death!", "Don’t grocery shop at target, it’s going to be more expensive than HEB. \n\nWalmart is fine for packaged goods but get your produce and meat from HEB. \n\nAlso, enjoy buying groceries in Texas, produce is a lot cheaper there than in many other parts of the country.", "Try to avoid shopping on Saturday and Sunday late morning / early afternoon if you can. These tend to be the busiest times which means longer lines and emptier shelves.", "Target is expensive for groceries in general. I don’t really recommend shopping for groceries there unless you already happen to be there for something else and buy a *few* food items along the way. I don’t buy produce or meat from Walmart because the quality is noticeably bad compared to other stores (you get what you pay for). But Walmart is fine for pantry stuff (cereal, chips, canned goods, etc). The only problem is you’d actually have to step foot into a Walmart 🙃\n\nLike others have said, your best bet is probably a local chain.", "If you’re going to shop at Walmart, go early in the morning. There are less people and typically more weirdos go to Walmart late in the day/night. \n\nIf you’re trying to save money, go with a specific list of what you need. Stick to that list. Groceries stores in the US are notorious for how they market food. For example, the healthy/need food (vegetables, milk, meat) is typically on the sides of the store. The junk and bad for health food (chips, soda, ice cream, etc.) is in the middle of the store.\n\nSome grocery stores offer a discount if you have one of their free member cards. You can sign up or ask a US friend if they have a membership (most memberships are attached to a phone number, so for me, I sometimes will use my mom’s phone number at certain stores); also, you can try and use the “Jenny number” ([3 digit local area code] 867-5309), but a lot of businesses have clamped down and blacklisted this number.", "Do not go grocery shopping while you're actively hungry. You will end up buying very overpriced, processed, pre-made foods that are either terrible for you or your wallet.\n\nSource: experience.", "Make a list-keep it running all the time. It’ll keep you from impulse buying and wandering around for hours. Stores in TX are HUGE, so choose one, (HEB) learn the layout, and go with a plan.", "I went to school in a smaller town, we only had Target, Walmart, Harris Teeters, and a Bj's nearby. Target was better quality, but generally more expensive than Walmart. Contray to other comments, Walmart is not too bad, especially on a college budget. It can be a little more \"wild\" per say, I don't thnk the Walmart near my uni ever enforced the mask mandate. Harris Teeter's was significantly more expensive, so I rarely shopped there. Buy in bulk/membership stores like BJ's, Costco, etc. are absolutely not worth it in while in college imo.\n\nAlso, depending on where you're coming from there maybe some small ethnic grocery stores. My uni was in a predominantly white area, but there were 2 hidden lao markets 15 mins away! Which was great for my Southeast Asian friends! Don't be afraid to Google and find places", "HEB has an app and you can create shopping lists and it will tell you exactly what aisle the items are in. This helps me save time and also prevents me from buying things I don’t need since I can avoid going down certain aisles.", "1. Don’t buy a lot of fresh produce all at once. As a student, canned goods will be more convenient to make meals from.\n2. Stock up on basic non-perishables based on deals from the weekly ads.\n3. Buy 1 Get 1 Free does not mean you have to get 2 - usually you can buy 1 for half price.", "You do not grocery shop in Walmart, Target, or any big name nation-wide stores almost ever. Their prices are usually jacked up, their quality is usually poor, and the service is often bad.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nFind a local store. It depends where you are, but if you're in the northeastern US, then Price Chopper/Market 32, Wegmans, Tops, those are normal stores. They have store cards that you can get, usually for free, to accrue points on when you buy stuff from the store. Get one. Usually it's still like 100 points can be used for 10c off the price of gas per gallon, and the card doesn't cost you anything. Or you can get bus passes instead sometimes, if that's what you're doing. Or just use the points to reduce the price of groceries. It costs you nothing and is just free money effectively.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nShop around. Look at different local stores that are within a reasonable range. Look them up online if you want, sometimes they'll have reviews or you can see prices online.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nUSE COUPONS. Holy SHIT if you take away one piece of advice from this, get your local paper and whatever in-store ad for stores you go to, and keep an eye on sales. Many stores do rotating sales where some items will be on sale very regularly. Stuff like corn, chicken breasts, rice, whatever. Tons of stuff. Sales and coupons are your friend. They aren't hard to look into and you will absolutely benefit from it.", "We don't include tax in any of the prices shown on the shelf. Everything will be more expensive at the register", "Watch out for what I call “fake food” with trendy vocabulary, so always check the ingredients of packaged food. Don’t rely on the pictures. Plant-based meat is NOT meat. Gluten-free bread isn’t made with wheat. Dairy-free “cheese.” “Just Egg” isn’t. Ask someone if in doubt: most people are happy to help.", "Use HEB (and/or Aldi if your town has one) for your food. Use Walmart (or Target if you have a decent amount of funds) for household goods and OTC medicines.", "These are my tips for starting out living as an American.\n\nAmerican grocery stores have a tier list depending on the geographic region. In Florida, in order from cheapest to most expensive you have stores like Dollar tree, in which every item is $1.25, to Aldi's, Winn Dixie, Dollar General, Walmart, Target, Publix. \n\nNow an odd thing about American stores is the exact same product can vary in price wildly in the same town at the same quality. So for example say you want to buy of black beans ready to eat. You can buy a brand name black beans for $3.50 and enjoy them, or you can buy the same size jar of black beans with the same seasoning and the same quality for $.99, but this doesn't ring true for everything. Heinz American ketchup is a treasured national memory and just a part of most Americans diet in some form or fashion period. Hunts ketchup is a crime against humanity and will get you slapped at the cook out.", "Target is just expensive Walmart in my experience. Worth checking if you have something specific you wanna look for, but if you don't mind dealing with the fact that people at Walmart are wild (or if you just order online on their app or whatever) then it's probably the better option between the two", "Since you're an international student and you might want food from your own culture from time to time, try to find an international store. The foods you're most familiar with are more likely to be there. If you can even find those foods at Walmart, they'll be heinously overpriced. International stores know their audience won't put up with that. \n\nDefinitely check out your local farmers market. The fruits and veggies will be fresher and taste better.", "Please if you grab an item while shopping that you find out you don't need and you want to take it out of your cart/basket, please for all that is good on this earth return that item back to where you got it. \n\nDo not put it on a random shelf like so many idiots do.", "Only buy things on the outer edge of the store and the spice aisle.\n\nThere's only three aisles that really have food that you should buy. I don't know if that's a American only thing, but pretty much produce meat, and dairy are on the edge. And then there's a spices and flour aisle down the middle. Everything else is junk food dressed up to seem like it's not.", "Okay a little random.\n\n1). Stores in the USA don’t include state or local taxes in the price on the shelf. A lot of international visitors to the USA get tripped up by this because in their home country, tax is included in the final price. So it’s probably going to be a bit more than they expected. \n\n2). Stores are busiest during lunch hour or on weekends and evenings when people are off work. So if you want to avoid crowds , avoid those times.\n\n3). I find (live in the suburbs) that Walmart is fine for staples and fresh veggies, although at times especially for fruit that isn’t commonly eaten in the USA, it might not be gone through often enough to find all the rotten stuff. \n\n4). For quick, fairly heathy meals, most mainstream groceries have a section of pre made foods prepared in the store.", "No one said this yet but download Yuka. It scans whatever food you find and tells you how healthy it is. Honestly has made me much healthier and learned what to avoid.", "Lots of grocery stores have discounted fresh meat. Learn what days/times your store puts out the discount meat and shop then. It should be cooked that day or the next, but you can also freeze it raw or cook up a big batch of something with it and freeze leftovers.", "Like some people said, local stores are the way to go. In the southeast there's Publix, food city, fresh and fresh market. \n\nThere are cheaper stores like food lion and save a lot but your quality goes way down.\n\nFood citys are hit and miss depending on the area - the one near my house is great and the one near my job is awful. You should sign up for their store card to get the advertised deals and gather points.\n\nPublix is good for niche items (dietary needs, fancy dinners) both in price and selection but weirdly lacking in staple items. You do not have to sign up for their store card to get their advertised deals.l, which is nice. They will always give you the sale price even if you don't follow the rules (they'll give you half off one item if you don't want two in the buy one get one free)\n\nFresh market is going to have your high quality and sustainable options. It's a smaller, cheaper alternative to things like whole foods and trader Joe's.\n\n\nShort answer is make a list and try a few different stores the first few times you shop to see who has what you're looking for at the price you want.", "In my area, Target's grocery selection is poor and prices are high. Walmart is relatively cheap, but I avoid their fresh chicken and beef; their produce quality is a little hit and miss too. Check out store ads for savings on meat. Sometimes steak is cheaper than ground beef. Avoid shopping on the first of the month. It tends to be busier with more people buying full cartloads.", "If you have roommates that eat similar base foods like: dairy/non dairy, eggs, cereals, meats, snacks. You can make a shopping list and by in bulk from Costco, smart and final or a warehouse type store.\n\nAlso, if you live with local residents, you’re roommates can get free food from the local foodbank. 1-2 times a month.", "If you don’t have a car, you can have groceries delivered. Amazon Fresh has no delivery fee on orders over $35. Its prices aren’t terrible, and it has a big selection.", "If you can, go to the grocery store Sprouts. It has cheap (non-organic), high quality produce. \n\n\nEverything else there is pretty expensive.\n\n\nAlso, try the HEB brand fresh made flour tortillas.", "H‑E‑B is great and my go to, I absolutely love using curbside, it’s free and way easier for me to stick to a budget and I don’t have to deal with busy store. I always end up buying more than I need when I shop in store. But I will say they don’t choose the best produce for curbside, so maybe go in store for that.", "H-E-B and Whole Foods for grocery target If you are bored don't go to Walmart is pretty dirty over there", "Generally... Any store that uses the words: \"save\" \"discount\" or \"value,\" in the name... Will not, in fact, save you money.", "General LPT with shopping, assuming you are shopping just for yourself as a college kid without access to a big storage area/chest freezer:\n\n\\-Shop with a plan. Meal planning will help so much!\n\n\\-Shop with a hand-held basket or small cart. It'll keep the impulse buying down\n\n\\-Shop the perimeter of the store first - that's where they keep the fresh stuff, then wander into the aisles where they keep the pantry goods and snacks.\n\n\\-Look at the coupons before you go in. Most stores have an online app and you need to click on the coupon in the app to get the good deals\n\n\\-Just because it's on sale or cheap, doesn't mean you need it. Try to stick with just what you can use and not much more. Americans are notorious for food waste. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nAlso, not sure where you are, but you should also check out Trader Joe's if there's one near by. Good prices for good food, and adds some variety to the regular selection you can get at Walmart, etc.", "Buy Great Value brand items in Walmart. They're just as good as other more expensive brands.\n\nWhen buying meat, the bigger the cutz the cheaper. The more processed the meat, the more expensive.\n\nExample, pork picnic roast is $3.99/lb while ground pork is $4.69/lb. If you can process your own meat, buy bigger cuts.", "As many people have mentioned, avoid shopping for fresh produce at Walmart and Target: those companies are retail stores with the addition of grocery. To save money, shop at Aldi (German based company) or at Kroger/Publix/HEB. Many big grocery stores are a parent company to small grocery stores (Kroger owns Payless/Mariano’s/etc) so often times, your rewards card can work at multiple stores. If you have the money, then Whole Foods/Trader Joes/Fresh Time are good markets for produce. But plan ahead for what you want and keep an eye out for sales", "Always grab the item furthest back you can, it's freshest. Also, don't make or leave a mess doing this.", "Alot of grocery stores have rewards programs and a phone number will activate discounts. Just use the generic phone number from the hit song by Tommy Tutone - Jenny. \"867-5309\" just add your local area code at the front. Or ask the person behind you in line or the cashier if you can use their rewards card. They shouldnt say no because some cards give you points and discounts on gasoline. \n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6WTdTwcmxyo", "A lot of larger chains (Walmart, for example), have online services as well as curbside pickup. It'll be a lot cheaper and you don't have to enter the store at all.", "some stores in the america have papers you can buy (or take) in the front to show the deals for that week.", "Wallmart = TRASH\n\nGo to farmers markets for meats, veggies, and fruits and local grocery store for boxed and bagged foods like cereal, pasta, and rice.", "Depending on where you are and what your living situation is, find a local farmer and you might be able to get eggs, different meats although you might have to purchase a lot but it is better than anything store bought especially if you have a freezer." ]

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[ "How to ensure you never hand something in with a silly mistake. I find myself constantly realizing silly mistakes AFTER I've handed something in, and it frustrates me to no end. I always try ", "How to ensure you never hand something in with a silly mistake. I find myself constantly realizing silly mistakes AFTER I've handed something in, and it frustrates me to no end. I always try ", "How to ensure you never hand something in with a silly mistake. I find myself constantly realizing silly mistakes AFTER I've handed something in, and it frustrates me to no end. I always try " ]

[ "The grammarly Google plug-in has helped me a ton. I first heard of it through life-hacks. It only works through chrome though. \n\nOtherwise having someone trustworthy read it or printing it out and reading it out loud is the way to go. ", "If it's allowed, have someone else look it over. Often times a fresh set of eyes will catch things you may have missed.", "Have a friend to swap papers with and proof read each others and flag mistakes. I never handed in a paper with a spelling or grammatical error. " ]

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[ "Mixing separated peanut butter What a mess and then that last bit of peanut butter is still so dry... Any pro tips?", "Mixing separated peanut butter What a mess and then that last bit of peanut butter is still so dry... Any pro tips?" ]

[ "When you buy it at the store, bring it home and set the jar upside down for about an hour or so. Then stir it with a butter knife, using the knife to cut through it to mix it thoroughly.\n\nStore it in the refrigerator. It will solidify to a normal consistency and not re-separate.", "OK, store upside down until ready to open/mix. Mix slowly with a large spoon going circular AND up and down. **Once its well mixed, place it ON ITS SIDE in the freezer for 30-60 minutes.** this will help it set fast before it starts to separate again. also, storing on its side is so that if it does separate somewhat, you will be looking at a cross section of the PB everytime u open it. after that store in fridge and consistency should be optimal" ]

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[ "My job interview tomorrow will be a lunch meeting at a restaurant. Need tips regarding this situation. ", "My job interview tomorrow will be a lunch meeting at a restaurant. Need tips regarding this situation. ", "My job interview tomorrow will be a lunch meeting at a restaurant. Need tips regarding this situation. ", "My job interview tomorrow will be a lunch meeting at a restaurant. Need tips regarding this situation. ", "My job interview tomorrow will be a lunch meeting at a restaurant. Need tips regarding this situation. ", "My job interview tomorrow will be a lunch meeting at a restaurant. Need tips regarding this situation. ", "My job interview tomorrow will be a lunch meeting at a restaurant. Need tips regarding this situation. ", "My job interview tomorrow will be a lunch meeting at a restaurant. Need tips regarding this situation. ", "My job interview tomorrow will be a lunch meeting at a restaurant. Need tips regarding this situation. ", "My job interview tomorrow will be a lunch meeting at a restaurant. Need tips regarding this situation. " ]

[ "This is not a meal, this is a meeting. \n\nDo not let your hunger get the better of your judgement; consider eating something small a few hours before so you're not ravenous. And remember -- you can always go to the drive-through after if you're still hungry.\n\nDo not order soup or anything that requires loud/sloppy eating.\n\nTake smaller bites and chew with your mouth closed.\n\nMost importantly -- don't accidentally spit a grain of risotto across the table and on to your boss's face like I did. It won't end well. Believe me.", "Try to go in with the mindset that this is a conversation, rather than an interview. It's as much for you to learn about the company and it's culture as is it is for them to learn about your personality and skills.\n\nOrder something small and light, and no alcohol.", "order something that can be neatly eaten - with utensils. Take small bites, and keep pace with the other diners. Look at the restaurant's menu online tonight and decide what you will order, then there's no pressure to decide, just pretend to browse the menu for a minute. \n", "Order something that is mid range on the price. It'll show that you're not lavish or cheap. \n\nDo not order alcohol. Just say that you're driving. \n\nYou'll be doing most talking, so easy to eat food is a must. However, to give yourself a chance to eat, ask open questions to allow the interviewers to talk for a bit and you to listen. ", "Like others have suggested, order something you can eat neatly and without spilling/splashing over yourself (so not spaghetti, rice, or things like that, nor things that will make your hands sticky...etc..), and preferably something on the lighter side like a full salad. DO NOT order alcohol, unless it is truly a casual meeting and your interviewers are also drinking which I doubt will be the case.", "Everything that goes along with a job interview + food. Bring your resume and any/all important papers you can use to your advantage along, but don't use them unless prompted, put them in a briefcase/ filing system that you can set down beside you at lunch. You probably won't even use them, but it's better to have it and not need it than need it and not have it. It's meal time, so get some food, but go lite, something that is not messy and can be eaten with dignity in small bites, so basically no finger food or burritos. Think knife and fork or just fork. As others said, remember table etiquette, use your napkin always, chew with your mouth closed, elbows off table. Stay away from alcoholic beverages. ", "Order something small, like a salad with grilled chicken. Don't drink any alcohol. Wear nice clothes, bring a briefcase with your resume and other papers. Offer to pay when everyone is finished.", "Offer to pay at the end, and just BE CONFIDENT. It's a lunch out, just a conversation, not an interview. Keep that in mind. Be yourself, try to keep things light and humorous, but don't try too hard. But confidence is a must. Seriously, one of the most underestimated things nowadays. You could get away with various crimes just by acting confident and like you know exactly what you're doing.", "Don't season food without tasting it first. My uncle told me that long ago with the thought being if you season before tasting, it could appear as if you may not properly analyze things before making decisions.", "Listen:\nIf they say don't bring a resume, DON'T BRING YOUR RESUME!\nIf they say dress business casual. Then dress business casual.\n\nDoing the direct opposite of what is asked doesn't score you brownie points.\n\nFood: Order something simple. If your party is drinking alcohol, don't order it.\n\nConversation: I say let the hiring manager lead-in with the agenda. Ask questions. Don't dominate the conversation. \n\nBe calm cool and collective. Good luck." ]

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[ "How to be more vocal I'm usually a pretty extrovert guy but for some reason, when it comes to meetings, I just completely shut up. I should probably mention that I'm in high school and meetings refers to meetings between members of the leadership teams that I'm part of. How do I fix this issue?", "How to be more vocal I'm usually a pretty extrovert guy but for some reason, when it comes to meetings, I just completely shut up. I should probably mention that I'm in high school and meetings refers to meetings between members of the leadership teams that I'm part of. How do I fix this issue?", "How to be more vocal I'm usually a pretty extrovert guy but for some reason, when it comes to meetings, I just completely shut up. I should probably mention that I'm in high school and meetings refers to meetings between members of the leadership teams that I'm part of. How do I fix this issue?" ]

[ "Talking for the sake of talking is never the goal. A very wise boss of mine who now runs a regional team at Google once told me: \"It's pretty easy to walk into a meeting and say one genius thing. It's much harder to say nine or ten genius things in a row.\" He was notorious for listening more than he spoke and he's one of the best people I've ever met. \n\nSo listen. Absorb. Analyze. Contribute where you can add value by saying that one genius thing. Don't try to show off how smart you are by dominating the meeting just because. There is value is being quiet, too. ", "Stand up straight, look people in the eyes when you talk to them. A Good firm handshake will get you going. head up, don't slump over with posture. and speak a little bit more loudly then you normally do. Fake it til you make it. Before you go into a meeting you can have a little pep talk with yourself. \"I am going to nail this meeting\" something along those lines. you can do it in the mirror if you would like.", "Irugo is honestly right. I'm a photography and film major and to put it in a different metaphor my professor told me this, \"It's not what you put in the picture, it's what you leave out.\" So saying things that have value rather than dominating the conversation with useless statements, or worse repeating points already made, its important. You want to come off wise and educated. So as Irugo said just listen and respond where you think it will be helpful. The key is not to be afraid to speak up either. If you think you have a good point or a good idea then say it. Don't miss the opportunity to stand out by thinking what you have to say is dumb or doesn't matter. I promise this isn't the case." ]

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[ "Early signs of manipulation Hello LPT! I was wondering how do can you tell someone is trying or is manipulating you or someone else? ", "Early signs of manipulation Hello LPT! I was wondering how do can you tell someone is trying or is manipulating you or someone else? ", "Early signs of manipulation Hello LPT! I was wondering how do can you tell someone is trying or is manipulating you or someone else? ", "Early signs of manipulation Hello LPT! I was wondering how do can you tell someone is trying or is manipulating you or someone else? ", "Early signs of manipulation Hello LPT! I was wondering how do can you tell someone is trying or is manipulating you or someone else? " ]

[ "If you are confused about why your mind was changed on something, and the person who debated you to get you to change your mind doesn't patiently walk you through things again, then it is manipulation. It might be benign, but it is still manipulation.", "When they recall events that you were personally involved in or witness to, in a different way that changes things to somehow favor them, it's not your memory being bad, it's them being manipulative. When they did something, and you know they've done it, and they deny until presented with evidence to the contrary at which point they swear up and down never to do that thing or lie about it again, they are manipulating you. When you finally decide to terminate your friendship or relationship and they beg and plead and turn into a mess to fix things swearing they will fix themselves or even actually voluntarily committing themselves to a mental hospital or something similar, they are in fact still manipulating you and will not change even if it seems like they have changed. When they swear they will never be physically violent with you or your child again, they are lying and are just trying to manipulate you into trying to stay and fix things. When they can not have a conversation with a specific person while in your presence and this is established multiple times, they are manipulating you and likely the person they are speaking to as well. When they blame their bad actions on things from their past like trauma, they are manipulating you. When they have a different way of telling the story to every person you know, and it always favors them in some light, they're just being manipulative. When they go out of their way to embarrass you in public, but never seem to understand how or why they embarrassed you, and their apology for doing so only makes you feel belittled, they're manipulating you. When they tell everyone about all the things that you do for them because you're so wonderful, but all of those things were their ideas, and all of those things are easily misinterpreted as controlling or something negative like that, they're not manipulating you, they're just manipulating everyone around you.\n\nGranted, some of these things may be common in non abusive situations, and I may be speaking with a little too much distaste for humanity, so I could be wrong on some of these.\n\nDocument everything, even if in journal form. If nothing else, it will give you something to look at to remind yourself of reality when nothing makes sense anymore and you're doubting yourself.", "If something is too perfect. \n\nNothing is perfect. It doesn't matter whether you're working with a person, a company, or a product. If they continually reassure you that everything is fine and always say exactly what you want to hear, it means they're covering up something. \n\nAll good things in life have minor imperfections or drawbacks, things you need to compromise with. If you can't immediately spot any, it means they're being purposely withheld from you. ", "http://static1.1.sqspcdn.com/static/f/149083/872436/1182022434127/PhyVio.jpg?token=PAj0iCEcU7PtsBpdykBxjsv0hOs%3D\n\nThat's pretty much all there is to it.", "I like to go back to how you first met the person. Did this person just show up one day. you hit it off, they are into the exact same things you are? What does being your associate get them?\n\nDid they show up through a mutual friend and you have different beliefs on different things and have had to work to cultivate the relationship?\n\nThe first one is likely a manipulative person because the situation requires less energy for them to align with you and gain your confidence. The second requires more work. \n\nIf the origin of your relationship was quick/easy be wary.\n" ]

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[ "how to keep my car safe in apartment complex. Recent tire slashing spree has me worried. 30 cars had all 4 of their tires slashed last night in a gated apartment complex. Fortunately I drove one car out (work overnight) and other one was spared. Office said the cars were throughout the complex so no one place appears safer than another. What can I do?", "how to keep my car safe in apartment complex. Recent tire slashing spree has me worried. 30 cars had all 4 of their tires slashed last night in a gated apartment complex. Fortunately I drove one car out (work overnight) and other one was spared. Office said the cars were throughout the complex so no one place appears safer than another. What can I do?", "how to keep my car safe in apartment complex. Recent tire slashing spree has me worried. 30 cars had all 4 of their tires slashed last night in a gated apartment complex. Fortunately I drove one car out (work overnight) and other one was spared. Office said the cars were throughout the complex so no one place appears safer than another. What can I do?" ]

[ "Some people would expect it to be safer in low traffic areas, but i would recommend finding the most open and immediate spot for it. Think about it, if you were going to do something sketchy itd be where you cant be seen easily, so if you put ur car where someone would think twice about doing it, it may be safer. Like right near a light or closest to the road where they might fear police or security driving about.", "With crimes of random vandalism thers not much you can do. Hell people in suburbs are at the same risk.\n\nMost you can do is stay up to watch it. And even then if the vandal is a faster runner than you, you are still out of luck.\n\nBest way to not get your tires slashed is don't own tires. 100% of people who had their tires slashed owned tires.", "Some kind of camera, although I would hope that your complex and local police would be doing something about this. 120 tires is pretty extensive vandalism adding up to a lot of money. It sounds like you have more than one car, can you at least park one somewhere else - leave it at work or at a friend's house?" ]

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