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[ "how to get rid of hypertension in shoulders. I can relax my shoulders (traps) consciously, but they become flexed if I'm not focusing on relaxing them. Any advice on working towards being rid of this would be appreciated. ", "how to get rid of hypertension in shoulders. I can relax my shoulders (traps) consciously, but they become flexed if I'm not focusing on relaxing them. Any advice on working towards being rid of this would be appreciated. ", "how to get rid of hypertension in shoulders. I can relax my shoulders (traps) consciously, but they become flexed if I'm not focusing on relaxing them. Any advice on working towards being rid of this would be appreciated. " ]

[ "Posture is sooo underrated. \n\nIt sounds like you need myofascial release around the neck, traps and rotator cuffs. Research on deep tissue massages -- most exercises can be done by yourself with just a lacrosse ball (any dense, hard ball TBH). If you feel as though you are incapable of doing the exercises yourself; see a physio. ", "I can't tell you how to prevent it, but I'm almost an expert on how to alleviate it (due to personal experience), or at the very least reduce it.\n\nStart with a friend and a rolling pin. Sitting in a chair with no back, or laying face down on a surface, have the friend roll your back with the rolling pin, lightly applying pressure at first. Have them apply more pressure until you're comfortable with it. If you have shoulders as tense as mine get (to the point of tingling and numbness at times) the rolling pin will actually roll over sensitive areas *lower* in your back (this might actually tickle) that affect your shoulders and upper back.\n\nHave them roll your entire back and shoulders, both sides, until you no longer jerk or feel as much pain/tension. Then, sit up and have them massage the upper neck and base of your skull, moving up past your hairline. This helps tremendously if the tension in your shoulders has moved to cause a tension headache. (Warning: all of this is addictive.)\n\nLastly, get yourself a good pillow. I don't mean an expensive one, just one that is good for your neck and allows you to relax your muscles when you sleep. ", "Determine the underlying cause of it. \n\nIt's often posture. Spend a little time looking at the ergonomics of your workstation and comparing it to what health&safety sites recommend. Is your screen at the right level, are your typing hands high enough, and so on. Billions are spent on ergonomics for a reason.\n\nIf that's okay, consider stress as a factor. Some people are just naturally tense. Do you clench your teeth too? Get tension headaches? M" ]

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[ "Any good tips for laundry/ironing? Maybe it's because I'm a single guy living alone but I have no idea how to make your clothes really shine and smell extra fantastic. My expertise goes as far as tossing your clothes in, pop in a pod with softener and turn it on. Any tips?\n\n*I do however have a handy tip to save you cash on a cleaning agent and keep your washing machine from developing that gross moldy smell:* Pour in half a box of baking soda and a full bottle of vinegar into the machine while it's filling up with hot water and let it go through a cycle. Once it drains wipe down the excess on the inside and keep your lid open in between washes. This not only gets rid of the smell but keeps mold from growing and causing future odors with regular repeating. That and it's around $2-3 compared to $15+ for a washing machine cleaner in a bottle. ", "Any good tips for laundry/ironing? Maybe it's because I'm a single guy living alone but I have no idea how to make your clothes really shine and smell extra fantastic. My expertise goes as far as tossing your clothes in, pop in a pod with softener and turn it on. Any tips?\n\n*I do however have a handy tip to save you cash on a cleaning agent and keep your washing machine from developing that gross moldy smell:* Pour in half a box of baking soda and a full bottle of vinegar into the machine while it's filling up with hot water and let it go through a cycle. Once it drains wipe down the excess on the inside and keep your lid open in between washes. This not only gets rid of the smell but keeps mold from growing and causing future odors with regular repeating. That and it's around $2-3 compared to $15+ for a washing machine cleaner in a bottle. " ]

[ "I take clothes out of the dryer when they're still damp, and put them on hangers to finish drying. Most of the wrinkles will disappear. \n\nIron while the clothes are a tiny bit damp, and the steam will help. \n\nI prefer liquid fabric softener, so I put the correct amount in a baggie, close the top, and poke about 10--15 holes in the bag, then throw it in when I add the detergent. Works way better than dryer sheets.", "I get these - http://m.downy.com/en-US/product/unstopables-fresh.jspx - the stinkier the clothes, the more you put in. Also use Biz (enzyme soak) for anything that has proteins in it, and also Oxyclean for whites (soak). \n\nI use this for ironing - has lots of steam but cuts my ironing in half, one pass through & done with some light starch.\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Rowenta-DG5030-Station-Stainless-Soleplate/dp/B000MT519O/ref=sr_1_1?s=kitchen&ie=UTF8&qid=1391562185&sr=1-1&keywords=Iron+steamer\n\nYes, it's expensive (the iron), but overall faster ironing. " ]

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[ "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time.", "Is there any way to eliminate the frost on the inside of your windshield on some Winter mornings? It doesn't happen all the time." ]

[ "get a moisturetrap or collect those silicon bags you get with shoes and electronics that they tell you to not eat and throw away. Leave it in car. No moisture, no frost.", "Yes: Open your windows a few blocks before you park your car. It's cold as hell, but will equalize the air temp and moisture in the car with the outside, minimizing or eliminating the ice buildup.\n\nSource: Canadian", "You shouldn't be getting frost on the inside of your car. That points towards a moisture leak somewhere. Check the linings of your door jams for rot, sunroof/moonroof, or possibly a leak in your heater core.", "I find that using rain-x on the inside of the window is typically a pretty good deterrent for frost. ", "Turn your air vents to Off, or recirculate. Sometimes there's something in there that is letting air through. Worked for me once on an old car.", "Some basics. \n\nDon't track snow into the car, it will increase the interior humidity as it warms up. \n\nDon't use the recirculation setting on your environmental controls, or, again, increased humidity. \n\nCrack a window while you are driving. \n\nStart your car a few minutes early, and run the heater on full, directed at the windshield. \n\nIf the humidity builds up while you are driving (maybe you have a couple extra passengers) run the air conditioner, with the heat on. Yes, heat and air conditioner at the same time. This will quickly reduce the passenger compartment humidity. \n\nPark in the sun, with one window slightly open. \nIt's all about reducing humidity and maintaining air flow over the glass. \n", "It often happens when you have wet or snowy feet while driving. \n\nTry leaving your car door or trunk open for a minute after driving to even out the humidity in the car air. ", "i have found that drying the floor mats is usually best way to prevent this. Its built up moisture inside the car. Blast the heat on the floor for a while... it should stop coming back eventually.", "Best way to do it is to start your car 5-10 minutes before leaving and put the heat on blast. That way the frost on the outside will melt fast and be easy to remove as well! ", "You will need the following:\n\n1. Rubbing Alcohol.\n\n2. Spray Bottle.\n\n3. Rag or cloth to wipe the water off.\n\n\n\nFill the spray with alcohol, and just spray the frost. Wait a couple of seconds for the glass to defrost and then wipe clean.", "Turn on your air conditioning when you start the car. It seems counter-intuitive in the winter but the AC removes moisture.", "I always roll down all the windows for a few seconds before shutting off my car. Releases any warm air in the cabin. I never get frost inside any more. ", "Defroster, or you can buy a [window scraper](http://www.amazon.com/Amico-Vehicle-Window-Windshield-Scraper/dp/B009PNAP1M/ref=sr_1_7?ie=UTF8&qid=1382574760&sr=8-7&keywords=car+window+scraper) like this.", "You could try Rain-Xing the inside of your windshield. I do this from time to time and it helps with fogging up. They make a product specifically for the interior but usually I just use the same stuff as the outside.", "When you run the heat on a cold winter night run the air conditioner. It won't make the air cold, but it will make it DRY.\n\nWhen you park the car over night there won't be moisture in the air to freeze.", "Turn off your recirculating air. It will draw fresh air from outside instead of the air from inside your vehicle down by your floor mats which are wet from your wet/snowy shoes. ", "Turn off recirculating air in your car. Will take a few days. Also, open your windows for a while when driving after your car is all heated up to let moisture out. ", "Towel over the windshield (close the edges in the doors). All other windows will frost over except the windshield. Also, great with exterior frost and snow.", "Open your window a crack when you get out the night before. You can go close it again in an hour or so. \nI've done this for years. Sometimes I forget to close it but it's never been too much snow on the seat. :)", "Note that the inside of windshields can develop residue from the air conditioner. If you find that it seems to fog up pretty rapidly, this might be part of your problem. Use a glass cleaner (Windex kind of thing) to clean it and you may find there's less of a problem. This also may make it so that the windshield has fewer condensation points for frost to form on.\n\nThere's a lot of discussion about air conditioning taking out moisture. Newer cars that have a front defrost setting usually use the air conditioning to blow dry, colder air on the windshield, while pushing warm air into the car through other vents. This won't keep you from entering the car with frost, but starting the car and letting it run for a bit before driving may let it get to more ideal conditions and remove the frost without having to do anything else.", "Inspect the seals on your doors/door frames for any signs of wear ... replace them as needed ... \n\nYou can also have a mechanic perform a \"smoke test\" to see where the seals are leaking if you can't find it yourself.\n", "If you are having a lot of what seems like frost on the inside of your windshield it may be anti freeze from a leak. This happened to me on all my older cars. ", "I've heard that swithching your air to full fan, defrost, and nuetral temperature setting before you shut the car off will open the airways between the outside of the car and the defrost vents and will better regulate the windshield temperature.\n\nAlso, when you park your car, open and close each door once. This helps quite a bit by letting cold, dry air into the car.", "I used to live in upstate NY and products like this worked wonders for me\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Spray-De-Icer-oz-Aerosol-AS-242/dp/B0016GVKCY\n\nThings like this can also de-ice frozen door handles and windshield wipers.", "Drive with your windows down for a few minutes after the defroster does its job. The moisture will be drawn out.", "Dehumidifier packets. I left my sunroof open once and it rained for a few minutes into my car. Just threw a few of those gym bag moisture absorber packs and it did the trick. Now I do this in winter because people track snow into my car all the time.", "Defroster, or an old t-shirt usually does the trick. But for some reason even when this happens hitting the wipers seems to help with visibility. \n", "Cut a raw potato in half and rub it on the inside of the windshield/windows. I kid you not this works I do this once every few weeks and I am fog free. ", "Clean your Windows. Seriously, I keep my windows inside sparkly clean in the winter to avoid just this issue. A clean window won't have all kinds of crap for moisture to \"adhere\" to. In the event frost does form inside, the film will be thinner and dissipate faster with cleaner glass.", "Your heater core has a small pinhole in it and is introducing moisture into the interior of your car. ", "When you park the car for the night, leave the door open for a minute to allow dry air inside before you close up shop.", "Try moving south. It won't happen ever. Unless you go too far, in which case the problem will return.", "I've never had frost on the inside of my windshield but my best best would be to take some Apple Cider Vinegar and spray some on the inside (and on the outside) of your windshield. It should help prevent ice forming", "I've heard that if you blast the AC for a minute or two as you're turning on your road that it'll cool the windshield so snow won't melt and make a layer of ice on your windshield. Not exactly what you wanted but a tip nonetheless. ", "Buy a remote start for you car. About 10 minutes before youre ready to leave, use the remote and itll be nice and toasty for you when youre ready to get going. Also, make sure and turn the car off with the settings youd like for the next time you use the remote start.", "3 parts vinegar + 1 part water will keep frost off your windshield overnight. [source](http://www.vinegartips.com/Scripts/pageViewSec.asp?id=10)\n" ]

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[ "How to feel enthusiastic about things? As i am growing up, I don’t enthusiasm for anything. Is this normal adulting? Or something can be done about it. Or is it just a rut I am stuck in?\n\nIt’s not the work per se. I like what I do. It’s just like I don’t find it new.", "How to feel enthusiastic about things? As i am growing up, I don’t enthusiasm for anything. Is this normal adulting? Or something can be done about it. Or is it just a rut I am stuck in?\n\nIt’s not the work per se. I like what I do. It’s just like I don’t find it new.", "How to feel enthusiastic about things? As i am growing up, I don’t enthusiasm for anything. Is this normal adulting? Or something can be done about it. Or is it just a rut I am stuck in?\n\nIt’s not the work per se. I like what I do. It’s just like I don’t find it new.", "How to feel enthusiastic about things? As i am growing up, I don’t enthusiasm for anything. Is this normal adulting? Or something can be done about it. Or is it just a rut I am stuck in?\n\nIt’s not the work per se. I like what I do. It’s just like I don’t find it new.", "How to feel enthusiastic about things? As i am growing up, I don’t enthusiasm for anything. Is this normal adulting? Or something can be done about it. Or is it just a rut I am stuck in?\n\nIt’s not the work per se. I like what I do. It’s just like I don’t find it new." ]

[ "Think of the paycheck while actively working towards something you'd enjoy more. It's not necessarily the destination but the journey anyway.", "Do you regularly get out, have fun, explore your community with your friends and alone and meet new people? Are you able to occasionally travel for work or fun?\n\nAs an adult, I never run out of enthusiasm for life. I love to go to concerts, wine tastings, yoga classes, on long walks, meet my friends for a meal or a movie, volunteer, go somewhere new or strike up a conversation with a new neighbor or while traveling.", "Try starting a voice/video diary or journal. It's an opportunity to get your thoughts organized and you might be surprised about what you end up talking about.", "If you have an active 'city center' or 'downtown' area that is busy, just walking around and window shopping/ people watching is free, fun and enlivening! Or sitting in one spot amidst it all and watching this interesting world go by 😊", "Get a dog. If you have time, suitable housing, etc. It brings me enormous amounts of joy. Going outside is so much fun." ]

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[ "How do I keep myself from sleeping through my alarm? I will put two different alarm clocks around my room to force myself to get up, but I will turn them off and then go back to sleep. I set multiple alarms on both alarm clocks, but I unconsciously hit snooze on all of them. I overslept today because of this. How do I stop myself from turning off my alarms?", "How do I keep myself from sleeping through my alarm? I will put two different alarm clocks around my room to force myself to get up, but I will turn them off and then go back to sleep. I set multiple alarms on both alarm clocks, but I unconsciously hit snooze on all of them. I overslept today because of this. How do I stop myself from turning off my alarms?", "How do I keep myself from sleeping through my alarm? I will put two different alarm clocks around my room to force myself to get up, but I will turn them off and then go back to sleep. I set multiple alarms on both alarm clocks, but I unconsciously hit snooze on all of them. I overslept today because of this. How do I stop myself from turning off my alarms?", "How do I keep myself from sleeping through my alarm? I will put two different alarm clocks around my room to force myself to get up, but I will turn them off and then go back to sleep. I set multiple alarms on both alarm clocks, but I unconsciously hit snooze on all of them. I overslept today because of this. How do I stop myself from turning off my alarms?", "How do I keep myself from sleeping through my alarm? I will put two different alarm clocks around my room to force myself to get up, but I will turn them off and then go back to sleep. I set multiple alarms on both alarm clocks, but I unconsciously hit snooze on all of them. I overslept today because of this. How do I stop myself from turning off my alarms?", "How do I keep myself from sleeping through my alarm? I will put two different alarm clocks around my room to force myself to get up, but I will turn them off and then go back to sleep. I set multiple alarms on both alarm clocks, but I unconsciously hit snooze on all of them. I overslept today because of this. How do I stop myself from turning off my alarms?", "How do I keep myself from sleeping through my alarm? I will put two different alarm clocks around my room to force myself to get up, but I will turn them off and then go back to sleep. I set multiple alarms on both alarm clocks, but I unconsciously hit snooze on all of them. I overslept today because of this. How do I stop myself from turning off my alarms?" ]

[ "There is an app called”sleep if you can”\n\nYou can set different ways to stop it: scan a code; take a same photo you set before; shake your phone and do some math questions\n\nI normally do sthree easy math questions to stop the first alarmand then half another later, scan the bar code in my kitchen to stop the second one\n\nThis app is really the best", "I just connect it to my stereo system via bluetooth and have the volume at 100 so that when the alarm rings, my house rumbles. If you can sleep through an earthquake, then you need that sleep desperately.", "Spread lego blocks all across the floor, have the alarms play the most chaotic and annoying sounds you can find. Install app that forces you to solve puzzles before turning off your alarm.", "Had the same problem in college...would snooze for hours and not remember. So I started putting my phone in random inconvenient places...it worked because when it went off I wasn’t awake enough to remember where I had put it. So I had to look for it. And that made me ~~cognitively aware~~ angry. And when I turned it off I was up and stuff already and too mad to go back to sleep...so....Coffee. Then shower. Then day begins. \n\nI tired the alarms with puzzles and stuff. But I just got better at turning my phone off...that was the new Snooze button for me. ", "Try using the website sleepyti.me to make sure you're waking up between sleep cycles, not in the middle of one. It's much easier to wake up this way. I used this, combined with my phone's built in \"answer a puzzle to turn off alarm\" function, and I now just naturally wake up between sleep cycles around 630am on my own every morning. Took me almost a year, and I still set an alarm just in case, but I can't even begin to tell you how much easier mornings are when you wake up on your own. ", "Idk if it would work for you but I put my alarm before an hour and 20 mins that I have to get up. So I actually open up my eyes and get that groggy waking up feelings and then sleep through it until it’s an hour and 20 mins later where my 2nd alarm will trigger and I won’t feel that sleepy when I open up my eyes again. \n\n\nSo basically I have 2 alarms. One at 5:35 ( where I “fake wake up” and just fall right back to sleep and now my mind knows I only have a hour left of sleep so I basically nap.) my real alarm (6:55) is where I open up my eyes fully and don’t feel as tired as I did a hour ago. ", "A normal sleep cycle is 90 minutes. It's easier to get up at the end of a sleep cycle; rather than in the middle of one. Try setting your alarm to go off 7.5 or 9 hours after you fall asleep. " ]

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[ "Removing onion smell from hands. How do I remove onion smell from my hands. I has been 2 days since I cut an onion, and I've washed my hands maybe 7 times since then. \n\nAny tips?", "Removing onion smell from hands. How do I remove onion smell from my hands. I has been 2 days since I cut an onion, and I've washed my hands maybe 7 times since then. \n\nAny tips?", "Removing onion smell from hands. How do I remove onion smell from my hands. I has been 2 days since I cut an onion, and I've washed my hands maybe 7 times since then. \n\nAny tips?", "Removing onion smell from hands. How do I remove onion smell from my hands. I has been 2 days since I cut an onion, and I've washed my hands maybe 7 times since then. \n\nAny tips?", "Removing onion smell from hands. How do I remove onion smell from my hands. I has been 2 days since I cut an onion, and I've washed my hands maybe 7 times since then. \n\nAny tips?", "Removing onion smell from hands. How do I remove onion smell from my hands. I has been 2 days since I cut an onion, and I've washed my hands maybe 7 times since then. \n\nAny tips?", "Removing onion smell from hands. How do I remove onion smell from my hands. I has been 2 days since I cut an onion, and I've washed my hands maybe 7 times since then. \n\nAny tips?", "Removing onion smell from hands. How do I remove onion smell from my hands. I has been 2 days since I cut an onion, and I've washed my hands maybe 7 times since then. \n\nAny tips?" ]

[ "Buy a metal \"soap\". Takes away any smells from garlic, fish, onion or simply anything that smells really bad. You can get it from any hardware or kitchen store and it costs approx 5 USD", "[Yes](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/kylv6/lpt_get_rid_of_the_smell_on_your_hands_after/)", "Lessen it in the first place by washing your hands in COLD water immediately after handling the onion. Washing in hot water opens your pores and allows the oil to seep in. There is also special kitchen soap out there made specifically to deal with onion/garlic odors. Me, I just deal with it. I love smelling garlic on my hands the next day...\n\nAlso, you only wash your hands 7 times over the course of 2 days? ", "unsure if this will help but after getting petrol on your hands the best way to get rid of it is to wash your hands with instant coffee. Works like a charm with petrol which is way worse than onion.", "Well I know if you chop onions and put them in a strainer and pour hot water over them (only for a second) they'll stay crisp and raw but won't make your breath stink. And maybe that will help with the smell too, I haven't noticed.", "I suspect it is too late for you now because the smell has been absorbed into the skin, but for next time, washing your hands with salt works great for onion and garlic. Just rub salt on your hands, wash off. No smell. ", "I know this isn't what you asked for, but maybe it'll help for next time? A friend of mine just showed me a technique for cutting onions quickly and without crying.\n\nPeel onion. Cut off top, leave root. Make 3-4 slits going in toward root, now make 3-4 parallel to root. Cut off root and you have a perfectly cut onion.", "Coming here a bit too late, but Lemon and hot water will definitely do it ! There's a reason every Indian meal ends with a bowl of warm water with a slice of lemon in it..." ]

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[ "How do you make sure you don't repeat your previous mistakes? More in the sense \n\n1. not doing something for a guy who doesn't appreciate your efforts\n\n2. Not saying something that you have regretted in the past\n\n3. Other similar common life mistakes.", "How do you make sure you don't repeat your previous mistakes? More in the sense \n\n1. not doing something for a guy who doesn't appreciate your efforts\n\n2. Not saying something that you have regretted in the past\n\n3. Other similar common life mistakes." ]

[ "Learn to value yourself and set boundaries. You don't need to explain to people. You don't need to justify yourself. If you're uncomfortable doing something, decline. \n\nLearn to say less, too.", "Well, first of all, talk about your mistakes. Make sure other people you care for, know your mistake. That way, if you make the same mistake again, you won't only fail your own expectations to not make that mistake again, you'll also fail your friends!" ]

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[ "What tricks do you use to keep a conversation going when making small talk? I'm pretty socially inept and rife with anxieties but trying to better myself. My biggest issue is when making small talk: I have no idea what to say nor how to hold the conversation without it going flat or how to pick it back up again after it stops. What are some of your best tips when trying to keep a conversation flowing with people you aren't super familiar with?", "What tricks do you use to keep a conversation going when making small talk? I'm pretty socially inept and rife with anxieties but trying to better myself. My biggest issue is when making small talk: I have no idea what to say nor how to hold the conversation without it going flat or how to pick it back up again after it stops. What are some of your best tips when trying to keep a conversation flowing with people you aren't super familiar with?", "What tricks do you use to keep a conversation going when making small talk? I'm pretty socially inept and rife with anxieties but trying to better myself. My biggest issue is when making small talk: I have no idea what to say nor how to hold the conversation without it going flat or how to pick it back up again after it stops. What are some of your best tips when trying to keep a conversation flowing with people you aren't super familiar with?", "What tricks do you use to keep a conversation going when making small talk? I'm pretty socially inept and rife with anxieties but trying to better myself. My biggest issue is when making small talk: I have no idea what to say nor how to hold the conversation without it going flat or how to pick it back up again after it stops. What are some of your best tips when trying to keep a conversation flowing with people you aren't super familiar with?", "What tricks do you use to keep a conversation going when making small talk? I'm pretty socially inept and rife with anxieties but trying to better myself. My biggest issue is when making small talk: I have no idea what to say nor how to hold the conversation without it going flat or how to pick it back up again after it stops. What are some of your best tips when trying to keep a conversation flowing with people you aren't super familiar with?", "What tricks do you use to keep a conversation going when making small talk? I'm pretty socially inept and rife with anxieties but trying to better myself. My biggest issue is when making small talk: I have no idea what to say nor how to hold the conversation without it going flat or how to pick it back up again after it stops. What are some of your best tips when trying to keep a conversation flowing with people you aren't super familiar with?", "What tricks do you use to keep a conversation going when making small talk? I'm pretty socially inept and rife with anxieties but trying to better myself. 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[ "People love to talk about their pets, their kids, and/or their hobbies. There’s usually a goldmine in the simplest of topics.", "Repeat one of the last three words they say. For example \"my mom traveled to India last year\" and I would simply respond \"india?\" And pause. The other person will jump in to explain why, when and where and the conversation both continues and gives me chances to join in more organically.rinse and repeat till satisfied.", "I'm on sales and am I. Situations like this all the time. \n\nF.O.R.D\n\nFamily\nOccupation\nRecreation\nDreams\n\nJust start asking questions about those things and act really interested. Eventually they'll catch themselves talking so much they'll start asking you questions.", "Open with a genuine compliment. A piece of clothing, something they recently accomplished, anything non sexual. It makes the person feel good and lowers the guard. Ask questions and listen. I think a lot of interaction is a matched story. We all know that person that HAS to one up any story they hear. However it is perfectly natural to equate someones story to one of your own. If they tell a story about recently going to Hawaii, relate to it with your travel story but dont dwell, redirect the focus back on their experience.", "Depends on the people. If it’s someone like me, I’m usually happy with dead air. If it’s someone who needs the comfort of a flow of words, I’ll go with open ended wonderings about a shared interest. If I don’t know the person well, I’ll usually prompt them with questions and get THEM talking so I then have talking prompts.\n\nProbably not exactly what you’re looking for, but I find it more useful than trying weather/current events/sports and hope we don’t disagree too strongly or just not care about the topics.\n\nOne really good topic, of course, is talking about small talk.", "Everyone's favorite subject is themselves. Ask them about the things they're passionate about. Even if you know nothing about the subject, just asking them to explain it to you is going to make them think you're the smartest most thoughtful person in the room.", "I'm a bit of a robot in social situations. I have learned that people love to talk about themselves. Try to find something about them that you find interesting, and ask about it. \n\nIn my case it helps that I have broad interests, and I feel I can ask thoughtful questions on any topic.", "The rule of three\n\nAsk something, then a follow up, then another follow up. \n\nThat’s usually enough to get the conversation flowing. Also, it shows real not superficial interest and builds trust which can take the conversation beyond small talk.\n\nEg “do you have any pets”\n“Yes I have a dog”\n“Oh what breed is it”\n“It’s a golden retriever”\n“What’s the best thing about that breed” \n\nAnd you’re off", "I tried studying my friend that is very talkative and how he does it. His go to is, \"oh really\"? or \"oh yea?\" or \"why is that\" I tryo to remember all that but conversations happen quickly :/", "Get them talking about themselves. Almost everyone likes to talk about themself. i.e. So, what do \"you\" like to do when you are not working? What do \"you\" do at work? What do \"you\" do for entertainment? Where did \"you\" go to school? Where did \"you\" grow up? What do \"you\" think about (insert topic here)?\n\n...and you can start getting a LOT more personal in the right circumstances if you get my meaning?\n\nI use this as I do NOT like to talk about myself...but I can someone else talking their jaw off all night and only say about 10 words....my jam.", "If the other person is also reasonably interested in conversation you can generally get through small talk by asking questions on topics people tend to have in common, and if you have a relevant experience you can share it in turn. If the conversation lags that's often a good time to escape, even if it's only temporarily. Get a drink, go to the washroom, or just wrap the conversation up, throw a smoke bomb and disappear like a ninja.\n\nIf you're stuck waiting for something and have to continue to make conversation, run through the usual list of topics -- housing, hobbies, family, sports (if you follow them), traffic, weather, TV shows, etc. If all else fails ask for a restaurant recommendation. People tend to like giving recommendations or complaining about places they dislike.\n\nIf the other person hates conversation and is socially awkward, resign yourself to spending the next however-many minutes in awkwardness hell.", "Really?\n\nyou must be kidding! did That really happen?\n\ndo You think that the other relevant fact I know about you is relevant to our topic Of conversation?\n\n​\n\nmy favorite is to turn to someone else and ask “hey weren’t you just talking about that?“ or “what do you think?’", "My friend is brilliant at this - she picks a very random non-controversial thing and asks the person where they stand on it. For example, if it's autumn, she might volunteer that autumn is her favorite season and then ask the person which is their favorite - she listens then asks follow up questions about their answer, and she always manages to work in a subtle compliment as well. So if they say summer is their favorite season, she'll respond with a complimentary generalization like - oh I'll bet you have great insight about which sunglasses are best. Seriously, she's the best conversationalist I've ever met, and it's awesome to behold.", "My biggest trick is to actually listen instead of hearing the other person. Alot of people just say stuff and are already preparing a response in their mind without paying attention to the person they're talking to. We're designed to speak or listen, not both simultaneously. Conversations have alot more depth when you add some sides to the \"meat and potatoes\" of it all", "I work in sales, I meet new people everyday as well as returning customers. We talk about the weather, we talk about current events (state fair/halloween/stuff like that), try to avoid anything political, family members and pets people will talk about for ever. One of my acquaintances just got back from a trip out of the country so I asked if they had anything else planned and they talked about stuff they had planned going into 2024 lol.", "A good way to stay active in a conversation is to bring up something that has you heated. If it's a controversial subject it just adds a little spice to the conversation. Also, everyone loves to talk about religion, whether its their own or just any strong feelings you have about any religious groups you disagree with. Also, if you are just meeting, it's a great time to bring up any medical problems you have been going through", "I'll admit I struggle with this, but I've found that if I compliment something they own and then ask how they like it, or If they would recomend it puts people in a good mood and sort of tricks them into leading the conversation.\n\nI personally love cars, so I'll ask them what they drive and if they like it, and since I'm knowledgeable on the subject I can ask a lot of follow up questions that make me sound genuinely interested in what they're saying whether it's true or not.\n\nI know this makes me kinda two-faced but it beats awkwardly standing silently.", "Find out what they are interested in. Even if your not interested in that topic, they likely know so much about it that you can still learn something. You know you are asking the right questions when they light up and you hardly have to say anything at all", "Don't forget the context of what you're doing, wherever you are trying to talk to people. You're probably eating a meal, or at work, or watching a game, etc It's actually very rare that your are anywhere with people just to hang out with them, officially anyway. Even if somebody invites you over, think about it, it's always for dinner or \"coffee\" or something. So let that imperative take some of the pressure off having to be socially on all the time. If the conversation lulls, just keep doing what you're there to be doing. Also, you could talk about whatever that is, too.", "When people talk about things that they love, the convo can be so fascinating. Ask people about their favorite hobby.", "My fall back is asking them if they think the toys on toy story feel pain. That tends to start an interesting conversation no matter what.", "I’d be careful. There’s a few replies here saying to asking questions about the person. If you find yourself asking one or two questions and the person gives one or two words replies and obviously seems distant, I’d shut it down and just leave them alone. It’s a sign of disinterest and constantly bothering them is not a good look.", "I love this question- I’m super extroverted and feel like I can talk to anyone about anything! \n\nBeing a good and engaged listener first is your best place to start. People love talking about themselves and can go on and on about it forever! But it’s not -just- listening that makes you a decent conversationalist, body language is very important, showing that you’re actively listening by body language, empathetic replies, and active participation is the key!\n\nWhen it comes to asking questions, or having a back and fourth it truly depends on who you’re talking to and if they’re even worth the “small talk”. Some people love to ramble about themselves, but have zero interest in you talking back- which is a no-go ghost rider. Make sure whoever you’re taking to is worth your emotional energy, especially if you’re introverted and have a small social meter already.\n\nWhen it comes to questions the conversation should flow naturally- start off with the basics and build from there. Find common ground or interests, ask about the family, job, event etc. once the basics are mastered you’re easily able to build off of it- because at that point your small talk is meaning something, turning into a real conversation, and it’s easy!\n\nI hope these helped-", "Conversation is just keeping people talking.\n\nListening and responding is what makes it happen.\n\nIf you have trouble with it, you are trying too hard, most likely.\n\nListen when people talk. Notice emotional reactions in their words. Good or bad, emotional responses make good threads to (gently) pull. \n\nEven if you are just talking about the weather, people will show emotional responses that indicate they have more to share.", "If all else fails\n\n*Can I ask you a very important personal question?* (if you like misdirection, or *can I ask you a dumb question* if you think they would say no)\n\nWhat's the best cereal?\n\nIt's a **dumb** question that leads to a play argument, but people like talking about it for some reason & have **very** strong opinions, more importantly there are no bad feelings or contentious issues tangential to cookies crisp.\n\nI've used it to defuse arguments before & had people stay with it for upwards of an hour, usually it calls to happier times so the conversation that follows is nicer too.", "Don't ask too many questions in a row because it sounds like an interrogation. \n\nDo demonstrate positive body language by turning towards them, and perhaps with a head tilt to show attentiveness. A lot of conversation is nonverbal. \n\nDon't assume that they are better at conversation than yourself, so sometimes it's up to you to keep the ball rolling despite one word answers \n\nDo turn attention to something impersonal, \"These centerpieces are beautiful, what flower do you think that is?\"\n\nDon't fail to notice non verbal cues. If someone isn't into talking with you at a gathering, they'll look over your shoulder or turn their body away. They'll lean away from you. \n\nDo make a habit of learning a clean joke and reading the news before gatherings. You'll have something to contribute and come across as fun and knowledgeable.", "As someone who likes to give curt, short answers to questions about my life, I'd say first to not take \"rejections\" personally. I just don't like sharing about my life like that. However, I admit it's because most of the time people make small talk like that just to talk, which I find pointless. \n\nMy tip is to learn to really listen because a lot of people aren't listening. They're just waiting for the other person to finish talking so that they can talk about themselves. Like many others have said, take a genuine interest, and your sincerity will break down most walls. With genuine interest comes natural questions, and those are a good foundation for any conversation.", "**HERE IS THE SECRET:** People only care if they talk about themselves, otherwise they just want to keep their brain busy with conversation they will **NOT** remember(small talk). Just constantly change the topic. 1st thing that comes to mind vaguely related to the topic of their last sentence. If conversation reaches a dead end backtrack to a previous topic. \n\nIf they want to talk about themselves. Let them monologue using \"**mirroring**\". AKA summarise what they said or simply repeat the last part of their sentence. \n\nLastly **monitor** and **match** their energy. Hard to have a conversation when someone doesn't want to talk, or people have different energy levels (depressed and energetic).", "“We’ll I’ll let you get on your way, see you later!” \n\nWhy save something if it’s dead? Pull that ripcord", "when everything else fails, and you completely blank, 'and you?' in response to their last question gets you off the hook.\n\nalso, read up on the [FORD method.](https://www.mdtechcouncil.com/tcm/memberPOV/how-to-use-the-ford-method-to-get-more-clients/#:~:text=FORD%20is%20an%20acronym%20that,teach%20to%20other%20business%20developers)", "You don't have to talk, just listen. Ask them a question, show genuine interest in the answer and people will normally keep talking if they see you're listening. I know this because I work in a pharmacy and have to make small talk while patients wait for their scripts. I get told all sorts of random and private things.", "You cant make a mistake asking questions about them, even just asking where they've bought a jacket/watch/shoes...", "You can always ask about next weeks weather. You can even do this multiple times in the same conversation. You can even do this multiple times in the same conversation. You can even do this multiple times in the same conversation.", "You also have to remember, it takes 2 to tango. Someone people just don’t want to keep talking to you. And it’s not the end of the world. Just talk to someone else\n\n\n\n ¯\\\\_(ツ)_/¯", "When you have no idea what to say nor how to hold a conversation without it going flat ask the other person if he knows any tricks to keep a conversation going when making small talk.\n\nSee what I did?...I just listened to you and started talking about something that it's of your interest.", "When they talk just ask a question about what they were talking about... Obviously doesn't always work", "When the conversation is starting to be dull, insert one of your embarassing moments and ask the other person what he/she would do in that situation and start as asking questions why. Avoid talking about other people or their experiences.", "When I'm on vacation or in a major public area like a concert or amusement park, I'll ask someone I want to talk to, something like: \"Hey, are you from around here?\"\n\nAnswer 1: They say yes, then I'll ask for restaurant recommendations or what's fun to do in town\n\nAnswer 2: They say no, I'll recommend places or things for them to do.\n\nThen just have that simple little small talk about what's on the menu, say you've always wanted to try that but never have, etc.", "What do you like to do for fun? Engages the person in something they are enthusiastic about and should cause them to open up more.", "What a shame about me:. \n\nWe both ran out ran out of small talk\n\nThe connection seem to go dim\n\nI was about to say, \"Hay have a nice life\"\n\nWhen she touched my hand and said,\n\n\"I just had this great idea. Could be very cool. Why don't we grab a cab to my hotel and make believe we are back at our old school\"....", "Weather, what you did last weekend. Hows it going. keep it light and try to be the one asking questions", "Vivid imagination. Whatever comes to mind. And don't hesitate to make fun of yourself now and then if they give you a weird look. Keep it light. Smile. Have fun.", "Verify that your are engaging the other person (are they contributing?) and changing the subject accordingly.", "Usually ask what the biggest animal they think they could take in a fight with their bare hand. Then escalate with various weapons or situations.", "Use something they said and a life experience of yours and segue into a life experience story toga e about the topic. Or better yet, just ask a clarifying question about what they are saying. Try to really understand what they are saying before moving onto saying something yourself.", "Think about something you'd be comfortable talking about then ask them something along that topic. Like if there's a good movie you've just seen, ask if they've watched any good movies lately. Either they'll have something interesting to share and if not you can keep the convo going", "The most important thing is to listen and remember intently if you ACTUALLY want to talk. People can easily see through flimsy quiet filling and genuine interest. Follow up questions on additional dates also help solidify the rapport. Best of luck!", "The best tip I have is to stop trying. If small talk should keep going, it just does. If its not then you should probably shut up. At some point you need to realize you're holding a shovel and digging your own grave and lying down in it.\n\nSometimes small talk just shouldn't be happening but theres always someome trying to make it happen.", "The best thing uncomfortable people can do is focus on making the OTHER person comfortable. On the surface it sounds backwards but this mindset removes your self-focus and leads to comfortable and enjoyable conversations. \n\nSide note: people are incredibly interesting. Everyone from uneducated to Phd know something that you don’t know. I’m an introverted person but I love to learn from people.", "The best advice someone told me about this was to just literally ask the person any question. If you don't know what to say...ask anything. Where did you get your shirt? What do you think of 'insert recent internet drama.' What are your hobbies?", "Take interest in the other person. When they say something, ask them questions and explore that subject even if it doesn't really interest you. Make the other person the focus of the conversation.", "Start with the weather. 10/10. It's too hot or cold or too much rain or no snow or hurricane down in Florida, make some crap up and go with the flow, soon you will be talking about something else. If you're talking to a chica tell her her tits look nice in that shirt, /s", "Sometimes I ask a question a grade schooler would ask. It catches them off guard in a gentle way. Finding out their favorite movie as a kid or the most recent movie they saw tends to lead to natural conversation", "So what field are you in? Any big changes or industry shake ups. What sort of flagship projects are you working on?\n\nThese are more for a professional setting, but it'll get you through a lunch or two.", "Small talk topics that are usually safe: weather, pets (if they have them), and ask them specific likes and dislikes food/music/TV shows/movies.", "Skip the small talk entirely and ask them about something they’re interested in. I find it exhilarating to hear someone talk about something they’re passionate about!", "Show me. Tell me. Describe for me. Elaborate for me.\n\nThose questions will you get you far.\n\nOh hey those are some nice shoes can I get closer look? Where did you get them? Never been in one of those stores, are they well laid out? How are the staff, helpful?\n\nWhat do you do for work? Oh cool I've never done anything like that, what's it like?\n\nListen to the answers you get and build on them. Really listen. Work from there.", "Saving this post as introvert here, I too, loathe small talk but realize it’s important so I’ll be looking at everyone’s tips, thanks!", "Same something outlandish or go for a stupid joke. Depending on their reaction, I’ll know wether to stay longer or leave immediately", "Repeat last words:\n\n-I like painting\n\n-painting?\n\n-yeah like animals\n\n-animals?\n\n-horses my favourite\n\n-oh mine too …. And so on 😁", "Remember Who, Where, What, When, Why, and/or How. When anyone starts talking about something, just ask one of these simple questions to keep the conversation going. Especially if it's something they are passionate about they will have plenty to say with each of these. And you don't need to even say that much.", "Religion and politics are classics for a reason. People like to be challenged, so even if your personal values align with theirs, take the opposite stance. Make them really defend their opinions.", "Rather than saying \"Where are you from\" you can say \"Did you have far to travel to get here\".. When you find out where they travelled from, if you know the place, talk about it, you should try to say something positive about the place they live.. but try stay genuine.. if it's a shithole, and you say \"nice part of the world to live\" you might get a punch hehe.. If you dont' know the area, you can ask questions.. like \"I'm not familiar with that part of town, what's it like\"... To be honest small talk is a chore, but there definitely is an art to it.. Be interested in the person you are speaking to, is the key I think... \nBut sometimes you just hit a brick wall.. a few weeks ago, I said to a guy \"do you have far to travel to get here\" and he said \"no\"... hehe, I said \"OK\" and that was the last word I bothered saying to him...", "Questions. People love to talk about themselves.\n\nUse their name when asking and they’ll come away thinking how they hate small talk, but that you are wonderful at it.", "Questions questions questions, what do you do for work , siblings, music , sports , travel - ask people about themselves", "Pick a topic. Say something. Whatever that something ends with the other person has to give a different answer on the same topic. And vice versa. It's get harder quick. You guys will then small talk about those people/things/places while you play. 3 strikes you lose. Loser has to Fuck the other one. \n\nI call it the name game and it's fun with new dates or anybody really and you can get to arguin over what counts and what doesn't or the correct letter something ends with. All kinds a shit. It takes the stress off talking but your still talking and side conversations about shit. It's cool try it.", "People love to talk about themselves. Not in a conceited or self absorbed way, but in small talk or when getting to know someone. So for you and how you can keep the conversation going, that would mean that you would ask questions about them! Don’t overthink it, nothing crazy or anything. This is because especially in a situation where conversations aren’t flowing, talking about themselves is easy and it’s not something they have to think hard about. It’s something they know, and can feel relatively relaxed talking about. \n\nBut eventually they’ll say something that you can elaborate on or take genuine interest and ask additional questions about whatever that topic is. Try to be laid back and relaxed, just like you were talking to a friend or family member! Think of your basics when they bring up a topic: who, why, what, where, how, etc. \n\nThis gets tough when the other person doesn’t respond fully or with one word answers. If they seem nervous, you acting more relaxed like you already know them and they’re already a good friend will help their nerves. Usually, they’ll start asking you questions back about yourself too! \n\nIf they reply with short answers and don’t engage in convo back, I would take the hint and say they aren’t interested in talking. The secret to talking to people is to talk to them just like they’re people and that you guys are already friends :) \n\nHope this helps! The more you do it, the more comfortable it becomes!", "People love to talk about themselves. I spent many years sitting in bleachers at the baseball and football fields. I’m socially inept and a hermit, so I had to learn to small talk. I ask which kid is theirs and if he’s played long. Do you have other kids? Love your shirt/nails/haircut - where did you get it? Did you grow up here? Do you know so-and-so? She also knits. Where did you go to college? Do you work? What do you do? Is it a long commute?\n\nJust remember not to blast 100 questions at someone, or it will feel like an interrogation. I just kept a few ideas in mind for when the convo started to drag.", "People love to talk about themselves! \n\nAlso, if someone asks you a question, they likely want to be asked it back", "People love talking about themselves. If you want a conversation to keep going, ask them about themselves.", "People love talking about themselves. Ask them about their job, family, hobbies, anything that's appropriate in the given context. Act interested and ask follow up questions. Eventually, you'll come across something that you have in common and you can share your side, too. For example, if you found out they game, you can talk about which ones you're currently into. Or travel experiences or whatever. I also am awkward and shy and this has been fool-proof for me.", "People love talking about themselves. Ask questions in that vein when you’re stuck looking for small talk", "People love talking about themselves, ask questions about jobs, family, hobbies then build questions from there.\n\nBonus points for sounding interested every answer they give.\n\nTop tips for People walking away and being happy with who they met.", "People line talking about themselves. I'm an highly rated introvert and have a serious lack of conversing with others but when i do i talk about them and just attentively listen to them . Helps me to make an emotion connection faster", "People are usually flattered when they feel someone finds them interesting. Ask about themselves, their interests. Look for clues - if a woman has some cool boots or belt or jewelry that's a little unique, she's probably proud of her taste, even if you don't think it's \"tasteful\", it's a clue to a person's sense of self. This is particularly handy for guys talking to girls - \"I'm no fashion expert, but those boots are really unique - do you work in the fashion biz?\" It really can be genuinely interesting to learn about things you know nothing about (IE, a straight guy hearing about \"why I love these boots\"). \n\nWhen I meet someone new, I really want to learn about them, and I'll very often say \"small talks bores me and I suck at it, so tell me to shut up, but - I noticed blablabla\". Often people are surprised to be asked more meaningful questions if you do it in a way that says \"I know this may be too much, feel free to say TMI\" or whatever. \n\nEveryone's first couple questions is \"so what do you do?\", IE, work or school. Which doesn't always define us. Bring that up - \"I guess everyone's first question is 'what's your job', but what are you into that would surprise me, like hobbies or interests?\". People who don't have an answer to that may not be very interesting to talk to for very long though!\n\nYou can also ask mundane questions in funny ways - everyone's like, \"oh, rhis weather\" as a go-to, but as the big summer heat wave settled into fall, I was on the deck of the local dive bar and we had this sudden, glorious evening. I mentioned to a girl next to me, \"man, I think tonight I realized we all have minor PTSD from this summer's heat\". Several people got into a discussion of how f'd up the heat had been and, \"yeah, this really just feels liberating or something, doesn't it?\" Got into a cool discussion that was talking about 'the weather\" from a different angle. But - that's why I still have the occasional smoke, to chat with strangers outside the bar. My wife is constantly like \"how do you do that??\", getting strangers really talking - if you enjoy it, it's like any other skill, takes time and thought.", "One trick I have learnt is that we all have an internal filter, which limits what we think people would find interesting.\n\nFirst step to making small talk is to lower this filter as it will give you more topics to talk about.\n\nI speak to people on the phone all day and making small take while fixing they pc is a very important skill to have.", "One of my favorite questions is to ask people if they could be any color and species of dinosaur, which they would choose. Some people give super logical answers, some give very silly answers. I share my answer, and trends I've noticed in the 10 years I've been asking.\n\nYou get questions like, \"are dinosaurs colorblind?\" Or \"am I choosing colors for hiding or for show?\" And you can set and change parameters all you want. It can become a *lively* discussion, especially if there's another person in the conversation.\n\nPeople can treat it like a personality test if they want, but it's not.", "Nothing in common? Talk about the weather. I work in Rural health care so I ask about harvest and such after we discuss the weather. Then you can go into, “what are your plans once you’re done?” “Do you have to go back to work?” \n\nAs others mentioned “How’s the family (pet, spouse, children, mom, dad, second cousin)?” Any holidays coming up? Ask if they have plans.\n\n“What are your plans for the weekend?”\n\nIt’s not so much keeping up the conversation. Be an active listener. People love to talk and it’s so awesome getting people to share with you their interesting lives. \n\nThere are definitely those.. doesn’t matter what questions you ask.. you get a one word response or grunt. That’s okay.. if you learn something about them this time.. maybe next time when your paths cross ask them about it. They might open up during subsequent meetings.\n\nWhen all else fails.. talk about yourself and something you’re passionate about.\n\nIf the conversation slumps.. you can gracefully excuse yourself with “oh I have to get back to x, y, z.”\nOr the polite “It was nice chatting with you or It was so nice to meet you…”\n\nSmall talk can be fun… I had to work at it too. I’m not naturally good at it like my brother is.. who can BS with the best of them.", "No tricks, just find people who are in the mood, open minded and comfortable, then the conversation flows. Otherwise, it’s like pulling teeth.", "No trick needed. The biggest tip is to listen to the other person. Engage in what they talk about. Most people will carry the conversation if you engage in topics they enjoy.", "Never understood what “small talk” meant. If you’re having a conversation with someone, become curious about them and their story. It is one of the most valuable tools of charisma, asking good questions and listening presently.", "My FIL had a job that required him to small talk to lots of people. His go to question is “What keeps you busy?” I have also found this question to be a goldmine for small talk. It allows the person answering to decide how to answer. It could be their job, it could be a passion project, it could be family.", "Move through FORD (Family, Occupation, Recreation, and Dream). Ask a question about one of the FORD topics then ask a follow up and if applicable add your own story or anecdote related to what their responses are.", "Many mistake small talk with a meaningless conversation. In reality, everybody that approaches you has an unmet desire that you might satisfy, otherwise they would not be talking to you (or you to them). Many people don’t know that, but they all have. Sometimes it is just killing time to get away from the party without being regarded as rude. Oftentimes it’s multiple desires. Finding out what they want without them knowing that you ask them is an art and rather fun. Knowing what people want is a very important skill.", "Make the conversation mostly about them. Ask their likes,hopes,dreams,interests. People love to talk about their joys in life.", "Make the conversation about them... ask unpersonal inquisitive questions that excite the person into answering you. Everybody has a story to tell but nobody ever is interested. To many conversations are about me me me...", "Make people laugh. This is a skill that takes time, but practice makes perfect. Watch comedians and think of little simple stories that make you smile that happened to you or your friends. I usually plan a couple stories that are good for talking with my bosses or friends. They will tell you a story in return and it will go round and round.\n\nYou can always ask questions about them if stories are too hard for you. Where are you from? What do you do in your free time? How was the weather there…..", "Look for a topic in anything. There should be several segways. Classic questions such as “how are you” and talking about how you’ve been. It could all branch out into something else!", "Literally just listen to any little detail and ask them to expound on it. \nI always have 3-4 things ready to discuss about life, current events, my personal life if there’s a dead silence you can transition with a new topic that way.", "Listen closely to what they're talking about. Actually listen, and ask follow up questions about what they're saying. When that falls flat pick a new subject that has a lot of potential routes.", "Keep asking questions, express interest and ask another question; every two questions give a very brief opinion on the topic then more questions.", "Just look up date or conversation questions. People love to talk about themselves. After they jabber for a bit ask them about something they just said or move on to a new question.", "Just let the conversation end. If you have nothing to say just end it. At work coworkers bring up stuff I'm not interested in so I just give short answers or say I'm not too familiar.\n\nIf you're trying to get to know someone, build a rapport first. Then conversation will be easier.", "Just ask them questions about themselves! Try to have a couple you can ask anyone. \nAsk about holidays, their pets, their kids, their spouse, their interests.", "Just ask open-ended questions! I absolutely loathe small talk (and am a sales professional)—it’s the best way to help your convo flow. \n\nA lot of folks love to hear themselves talk, are usually ready to speak to those topics, and it’s of course the best way to get to know someone. \n\nBeing an active and engaged listener will reap many benefits and will help friendships form authentically. Resist the urge to overthink it! Above all, just be genuine and kind and you’ll be golden.", "Just ask infinite questions. People live talking about themselves. Plus the. You get to learn things!", "Jokes. \n\nJokes will always lighten the mood \n\nComment about something around you \n\nMaybe a funny story that happened\n\nWhenever the room is quiet everyone’s kinda waiting for someone to continue the conversation \n\nYou’ll be ahead of the game by pitching any conversation if you’re around the right people \n\nIf someone ridicules you for not making better small talk etc they’re not your real friend \n\n\nSource: typing this while in a room with 9 other people vibin’ \n\nGood luck :)", "I’ve had tattoos since I was in my teens but they were always hideable. Since I got a full sleeve done, I find that I can talk to just about anyone who also has visible ink. I’ll ask “how did that feel on the elbow?” or “how’d you like it on the shin?” and so far it has 100% of the time led to pleasant chit chat. I don’t know that it would work so much if I didn’t have visible ink, but so far everyone has been receptive and it’s been a great way to start a conversation while I’m waiting in line or wherever.", "In the Midwest we just talk about the weather. Conversations can go on for weeks if you’re not careful.", "Im quiet by nature and always been a bit awkward. Ive learned to simply listen, and ask the right questions to fire people up and get em talking. If you dont know what to say find a way to get them to speak about something their passionate about or interested in. And every now and then add a comment or question to the conversation that shows your actively listening to them.", "If you’re ever around grad students, ask them about their research interests! We never get to talk about them and many researchers jump at the chance to talk about something they’re passionate about", "If things get awkward, I will explain that I have social anxiety and working from home makes it worse because I rarely leave the house or talk to other humans so I’m like “going crazy” (I point at my head and wobble my eyes around when I say “crazy,”).\n\nDon’t do that.", "If it’s a mixed generation gathering, I talk to someone much older. More life experience usually makes them so interesting.", "If its Not going well i just jump up clap my hands and do some breakdance moves. that usually eases up the situation for me", "If I’ve spoken to the person before I try and remember little bits about that person have they mentioned a pet/poorly family member/holiday/job/car ect ect so I can ask them about that “oh last time we spoke you said your mum had a cough. How is she feeling now?” Ect. \nIf I haven’t spoken to them before of in a long time. I’m British, so I talk about the weather. Discuss that next week is supposed to be better/worse. Do they have plans for the weekend/next weekend. But if I’m\nIn a pub I start discussing drinks “oh what you drinking. I’m partial to a xyz myself. \n\nJust let it be organic. I’ve been in a situation where I was just barraged with questions for an hour. It felt like I’d been questioned by the Spanish Inquisition. So don’t just ask questions tey and build on what they said. Be interested and listen to what they have to say and build on that rather than move on to the next question.", "I'm in sales and my favorite ice breaker is \"so what are you up to today\"?\" Any answer they give should start a natural conversation.", "I'm bad at this too but have gotten better at it over time and with practice.\n\nAsk questions. People love to talk about themselves. Come up with a good list to have on deck all the time, ready to go. You can also ask follow up questions to any topic you are already discussing.", "I'm a nail tech so I make small talk with new people all the time. I firmly believe almost everyone has something they want to talk about!\nI usually start with the classics:\n-Did you grow up here? (If yes ask for recommendations of hidden gems if no ask about their hometown)\n\n-Do you have any plans for the weekend? (If no, you can reply with something about your plans. I told a client I had a DND game scheduled, turns out she's a fan too and boom conversation officially started)\n\n-Are you watching anything good on Netflix? (If you've seen the show great, if not ask what it's about. Follow up with what you're watching lately. If they don't watch TV, ask what they like to do with their free time)\n\n-Any kids or pets? (People love talking about this, also share about your own pets. Pet people love other pet people lol)\n\n-Anything major in the news as long as it's not too divisive or depressing. \n\nIf those aren't working, try more random ones\n-What are you having for dinner tonight? (Everyone eats. If they don't know, you can try to relate by talking about how tiresome it is planning meals every day. I have one client who we exclusively talked about food during her entire 2hr appointments lol)\n\n-if you won the lottery, what would you do? (Most people have considered this and it will tell you more about them to ask good follow up questions)\n\n-Where's your favorite place you've ever travelled to? (If they haven't travelled much, ask about where they would like to go)\n\nAlso, don't be afraid to tell about yourself. If a client won't open up to me, I just start with my life story. Eg:\n\"I just started reading the Game of Thrones books, do you like them/reading?\"\n\"I'm going to try out xyz activity this weekend\"\n\"I'm part of a global scavenger hunt and I spend one week a year doing crazy things with people all over the world to raise money and spread kindness. My team is a three time runner up.\" This has nothing to do with them, but it gives them the chance to ask follow up questions and everyone always wants to know more about The Hunt lol\n\nHope this helps!", "I'm a mental health counselor and I basically have to engage a variety of people in conversation for at least an hour. Sometimes it's a challenge, and in these circumstances I use the following techniques:\n\nRestating--paraphrase back to the person what you just heard/understood them to say. Usually they will continue talking after hearing what they just said.\n\nReflecting--stating how you perceive them to feel, emotionally. e.g., \"You seem sad...\" etc.\n\nUsing silence--silence may be awkward for you, but it's sometimes awkward for the other person as well. Sometimes if you allow silence to happen the other person will just start to talk to fill in the gap and start talking.\n\nAsking open ended questions--Sometimes we assume what the other person means without exploring what it actually means to them. For example, if someone says, \"I really feel happy today.\" Well, what does happy mean for them or what does it look like for them. This might be a little intrusive for day-to-day conversations but as a last resort, if you feel like there's nowhere in the conversation left to go, you can always \"probe\" into something that seems obvious to you but actually might create more fodder for conversations. Along the same lines, asking open ended questions about clothing or jewelry or other personal affects can also open the conversation as well. \"Tell me more about that tatoo...\" or \"What's the story behind that t-shirt...\", that type of thing.", "I would always ask questions! If I can say so myself, I can hold conversations fairly well. I always ask “why” or “how come”. It gives the feeling of importance. For example if someone says, “i went home last weekend” you can say “cool” and the conversation is dead. Instead, I would ask “how was it” and then they say “‘nice, spent some time with family” and you could say “are you close with them” and then so on. People really like to talk about themselves! And after asking a few questions you can always talk about yourself too like “I haven’t been home in years” and then you can talk about your life so there is balance!", "I watched a YouTube video once about this and it said to remember the acronym FORD. Family, occupation, recreation and dreams. It recommending starting with family because people are (usually) open to discussing them.", "I was very quiet and shy in my youth and was afraid to ask questions because I’d seem nosy or bring up something triggering and upset someone. So someone gave me the advice to just talk about myself and hope the other person can relate In some way. \nNow I’m older and more outgoing, but I still subconsciously do this and come across like I’m self centered always trying to bring the conversation back to being about me. Which isn’t great either… so while I don’t have any specific examples, I’d suggest finding a few questions that you can default to if needed.", "I was at a wedding last week and I was speaking to someone I didn’t know. She was very nice and had just moved to the area. I asked her if she like living here and she said yes. So I asked her a follow up question. What do you like about living here? Then she opened up more and we were able to have a more in-depth conversation.", "I usually have a word from the old convo to be the new convo and have a flow with. Usually lasts for a while", "I usually bring up the hot TV show or movie and ask if they saw it yet. If I didn't, I'm valuing their opinion. If I did, I'm sharing my opinion and asking next what they are watching.", "I used to be you! I’m still not great, but way better than I used to be. \n\nPractice. Everywhere. Especially in low stakes situations: the store, gas station, the park, waiting in a line, with people who you will probably never see again. So it doesn’t matter if you’re awkward or say the wrong thing. Put yourself in as many social situations as you can. Go to parties, out with friends, etc. It can also be surprisingly successful to just admit to the other person that you’re not very good at small talk and working on practicing your skills. \n\nBut the key thing is to ask questions and *listen* to the answers. Which then allows you to ask additional questions. We’re usually so wrapped up in what *we’re* going to say next, that we don’t focus on that.", "I used light but controversial questions like 'is a sub a sandwhich?\" And add more debatable items like if tacos are sandwiches. Other topic includes, is a cheesecake a cake or a pie?", "I think the most important thing is not using the tricks but talking with people you really like.\nWhen you talk to people you like, you don't need tricks since you like them and something to talk about happens itself.\nOn the other hand, when talking to people you don't like, tricks are useless because even if you talk about anything, it's boring.\n\n-I'm korean so I can't speak English fluently. Please understand me.", "I tend to throw the conversation their way and avoid only talking about myself. If we can toss the convo back and forth elegantly than I've made a good conversation weather it be small or big talk.", "I steer. Knowing what questions to ask based on the available information you have about someone is key. Telling stories that pique their interest based on that knowledge helps.", "I start with basic questions such as “are you from the area, have you been here before, how do you know so and so” etc. Then I ask additional questions based on their answer. Basically, I am very curious and keep digging to get to know their story. (I don’t ask if they are married or have kids or something that might make them uncomfortable.). \n\nIf you ask enough questions, it will be fascinating.", "I start showing them the 2000+ pictures of my cats that I have saved on my phone. Often times, it leads to them showing pics of their pets and everyone is happy. \n\nAlso, ask them questions.", "I see a lot of comments about the conversation skills, but I suggest you enjoy the awkwardness of pause. If you keep trying to get the conversation flowing, you can get easily exhausted. So, I think you need to relieve the burden, get used to the silence, and let the other lead the talk. I know it's probably not what you are looking for, but hope it can help in some ways.", "I say *really* weird things. They always inspire further discussion.\n\ni.e., orange juice is like relish, paper can be considered a veggie, etc", "I love somewhere that is full of people that just moved here recently so I've taken to asking them if they are from here. If they are, they are so proud to say \"oh yeah I'm local!\" And if they aren't I ask where they are from. \n\nThen I'll ask how they are enjoying the area. \n\nI think it's fun to hear about where people are from.", "I live in southwest Florida. A good opener here is, \"where you from?\" Most are transplants or here on vacation.", "I keep a mental note of questions that i have but didn't get a chance to ask. For example, we're talking about their pet and the conversation changes to TV shows. Once the conversation dies down i might say something like, 'your dog sounds really cute, do they bug you when working from home?'.\n\nIf you take note of a few things that you wanted to ask then you can keep the conversation going and shows that you're paying attention and interested.", "I keep a few questions up my sleeves- what place do you want to travel to the most? What’s something you want to do before you die, what’s your favorite dinosaur and why…\n\nI’ve also heard that just restating what they say as a question encourages people to talk more. Like, if they say they want to travel to Japan. “Japan?” “Yeah, I’ve wanted to go there since this and that happened and I love sushi!” “Sushi, huh?” “Oh yeah, I hear the quality is great and I want to try….” If you can pick up on key words they elaborate on that topic.", "I just avoid small talk. I simply don't see why people (in general) feel the need to make small talk. It's usually fake interests with fake smiles and gestures as a means to pass time. If I engage in conversation, I want something meaningful and resourceful to come out of it. Otherwise, I'll stick to common greetings and courtesies with my comfortable silence. If the other person starts the conversation first, I'll oblige and be polite but when it gets fake, I'll keep the answers short with no follow-up dialogue to slowly end the conversation", "I heard this once on an episode of Malcolm in the middle. They would say \"I don't know much about that love to learn more\". Seems to work to continue the convo.", "I have pretty bad social anxiety and I’m pretty good at taking to people. I hate seeing people sitting alone. (I ask if I can sit with them, before anyone jumps on me for invading the space of lone wolves)\n\nSometimes I tell a little story and then ask them to relate a little story.\n\nI like to ask people about holiday traditions in their families.\n\nI like seeing pictures of cats, houseplants, grandbabies.\n\nI like to find ways to get people to tell me stores. I love stories.\n\nIf they speak another language I ask them about animal noises in their language.\n\nBut if I’m just having a bus/plane/standing-in-line chat, after we get through the usual where are you going, what do you do, do you have kids questions\n\nI will try to compliment the day we are experiencing, and say something positive (what a nice moment to stop and smell the cookies baking in the Barnes & Noble.) \n\nIt’s like Kurt Vonnegut said “I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, ‘if this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.’”\n\nI try to bring that energy, because the world is trying so hard to Karen shit up.", "I have anxiety, so I just usually have a panic attack. Makes for some interesting conversations with a terrified stranger 😶", "I hate small talk more than life itself but I'm a pro at it. I find that if I think ahead to another topic, I can kind of steer it that way. Like, if you're talking about the weather, and you think of roads, say something about rain and then say oh I just hate driving on Main Street when it rains! Don't try to think of anything, just let it pop into your head. Practice with a friend, have someone else write a few topics on cards, and flip them over as you're talking. Once you get the hang of it, it becomes a fun game instead of soul draining small talk", "I hate small talk and get bored easily. There is a trick in getting people to talk about themselves but the trick for me is feign interest when the topic is boring to me.", "I frequently go into introductory meetings, first time having coffee with someone, first dates, etc. with 5 to 10 conversation starter questions in mind. I come up with them reviewing the persons résumé, revisiting previous conversations with them, things like that. If you come with a handful of questions it will really get things rolling naturally", "I find opening with comments about the weather works reliably. (Guess my nationality)\n\n\nAvoid politics, sport and religion. It’ll probably keep the conversation going, but it will be challenging not to make a misstep.\n\n\nFor everything else I work under the guiding principle people in general are rarely actually interested in me. And people generally are incredibly uncomfortable with silence, so a pause and wait will generally reveal a talking point that works for the person you’re talking to.\n\n\nFor everything else, just riff off the persons topics. Ask clarifying questions for stuff they’re talking about. Google “open questions” and make sure as many of your questions to them are framed like that. Also Google “active listening” as a technique to make it clear to your conversation partner that you really are paying them full attention. That will make them feel all warm and fuzzy that they’re interesting, so they’ll probably want to chat more.\n\n\nIf the conversation lasts long enough, you have a good chance of finding some common ground by that point to properly talk about. Otherwise, just rinse and repeat the above.\n\n\nPersonally, I hate small talk. Luckily I now live in a culture that does also seem to.", "I don't like to talk, so I'm always asking questions or follow up questions. The more I keep them talking the less I have to", "I ask the other person about themselves. What do they do for work, where they’re from, what do they like to do for fun. Honestly, rarely have to worry beyond asking the first two questions as the conversation usually goes on it’s own at that point. I think the key is to be genuinely interested in the other person.", "I ask people a lot of open ended follow up questions. For example I could start with ”have you been abroad lately?”. Then they say where they went and I can continue with ”Oh cool, tell me about that trip!”.", "I am read once that a good start to a conversation with someone you don’t know is, “What was your first real full-time job?“", "I am often meeting new people and chatting with them as the place I work gets new volunteers in on a weekly basis, that and cos in my other job I teach English, so lots of opportunity for small talk. \n\nSomething that I do a lot that helps is I ask a lot of questions, not even trying to, I just find myself really interested in what other people have to say, so if they're telling me something I always pick up on what they're saying and ask a question about it.\n\nOne of my friends jokes that I always ask pointless questions but I guarantee it is super beneficial. I'm always learning stuff and getting to know people better and it makes people feel at ease for the most part.", "I always try to find something that people might be passionate about. Met a new chef at my work last week, so I said: ok what’s ur fave food to make for yourself. Things like that.\n\nI also try to get the awkwardness out by being blunt with something that is awkward. Like: ‘ok so I know we just met and it might feel awkward, but what do you think of [random topic]", "I always see a lot of comments that are always focussed around listening to the other person and getting them to talk but honestly one of the biggest things that has improved my conversations recently is learning to comfortably speak about yourself and share more of you and deliver it in an enthusiastic and interesting way. Obviously don’t go overboard and talk about nothing but yourself, but randomly sharing what you did yesterday, what you thought about it, what meal you ate, I dno anything, can put other people at ease and take the burden away from them having to carry the conversation.", "I always keep the word FORD in my head:\n\n* Family\n* Occupation\n* Recreation\n* Dreams\n\nFour topics people love discussing", "I always come up with a random but still somewhat interesting topic and then from there let the topics form themselves. Like I will tam about how dumb joe rogan is then from that topic we talk about mma or dmt or monkeys coming up from the sewers to revolt. Anyway basically just let one topic or interest flow into the next one.", "I also like to throw in ‘what’s the best part about….(kids, job, surfing…whatever). It makes the conversation positive and upbeat.", "Honestly, I just keep the conversation about them. Most people enjoy talking about themselves, I’d say the overwhelming majority that enjoy small talk fall into this category. \n\n“How was the trip? Wow that’s cool did you do “xyz”? I’ve always wanted to go there I’m so jealous. So do you have plans on where you want to go next? I really want to visit “x” personally.”\n\nThis alone will cover almost an entire small talk conversation. If not then the trip was likely boring and there’s isn’t much in the story to tell.", "Holding a conversation boils down to making yourself interested in what the other person has experienced or is interested in. Put yourself in their shoes and observe the differences between you and them, and you can find no end of things to be fascinated about.", "Here you go: https://youtu.be/xmx07H3sn1w\n\nSome actionable steps to take from Charisma on Command on YouTube. I love their stuff and they give out some high quality easy social tips to make your life better socially.", "Giving open ended responses to questions you're asked also helps.\n\nWhen you give a yes or no answer, or ask a yes or no question, it will often stop a conversation dead in it's tracks if neither party knows how to vector onto a new topic.\n\nToo many flat yeses and nos gives the impression someone doesn't want to talk and are trying to end the conversation asap.\n\nFor example, instead of asking \"do you like ice cream?\" Which is a yes or no answer, ask something like \"what's your favorite type of ice cream?\"\nIf they say they don't like it, you have a follow up like \"why not?\" Or \"What other deserts do you like?\" Or \"what's your special treat then?\"\n\nPeople love talking about themselves, and if you both play the game like this, **and both actually listen to remember,** you'll both have a good time learning about each other which will inspire future interactions.\n\n\nALSO **KEEP THE CONVERSATION POSITIVE!**\n**No disparaging yourself or others,** actively shift the conversation away from grim/depressing/infuriating subject matter, and for the love of God, don't piss and moan about anything that's went wrong in your life lately.\n\nWhen you think about it, the goal is fun *continued* conversation, not to depress or anger or bore someone into losing their appetite for being in the conversation. If you want the conversation to be like 5 star meal, you can't add a little turd to the plate and act like it's still just as 5 star worthy.", "Give them your full, complete, undivided attention, ie, no inner panicing or thinking about a million things at once. Ask open, friendly questions, use a gentle, pleasant tone, ask a few questions then speak for a minute or two about the topic you've raised so the other person doesn't feel interrogated.", "Get them to talk about themselves. This works on about 95% of men and about 75% of women. The remainder will usually sit in happy quietness w/you.\n\n(I kid. Somewhat. But broadly speaking...)", "Get them talking about their interests and try to learn more about that topic from them\n\nPeople like talking about what they know a lot about, so the fun bit is if you do this a lot, you’ll end up being able to hold decent conversations with most people due to knowing a little about a lot", "For talking to people I’ve never talked to before, with no prior knowledge of what they’re like, I tend to talk about something I’ve done or seen, and ask them in turn whether they’ve experienced something similar, and then build off that.", "Food is a great subject to explore. Ask the other person what their favorite food is and they will tell you their life history.", "Find the smallest connection you could make to whatever they just said and talk about that. Most people will talk about almost anything if you bring it up", "Figure out what’s interesting to them. If you don’t know, start by asking how their day was with follow-up questions. Once you’ve figured that out, you build from there.", "FIND COMMON INTERESTS!!! It's difficult to get started but ask about hobbies, sports, interests, what they do in spare time... once you figure out something you both enjoy, you can talk forever about it and related topics.", "Everyone's favorite topic is himself. Ask questions, be genuinely curious and ask more. \n\nMost people think that the art of conversation is taking turns talking about themselves. It's not. Learn to be interested in others and you will always be thought of as interesting company.", "Don’t do small talk, just ask questions about things you honestly are curious about. It can be anything.", "Don't treat it like \"question, answer, next question\" instead when they answer look at something in the answer to follow up.\n\nExample \n\"Do you have any pets?\"\n\"Yes I have a dog\"\n\"Oh cool, what kind of dog\"\n\"A border collie\"\n\" Those are kind of an active breed aren't they? What do you do to keep them busy?\"\n\"I take real long walks and go on runs with him\"\n\"Where do you like to walk?\"\n\nEtcetera etcetera\n\nIf a certain strain gets exhausted, don't feel weird to just randomly inject a new topic. Rinse and repeat", "Don't be afraid of the awkward silence. If you wait 5-10 seconds after the topic at hand has run its course, chances are the other party will resume the conversation with a new topic before you have the time to blurt something out you didn't mean to.\n\nI used to always try and keep everyone talking, which led to a lot of awkward silences leading to awkward conversations. As a very talkative person, I realized it was to my advantage to just be quiet for the 5-10 seconds between topics and letting the other parties speak up and talk about a topic of theirs.\n\nI also often think \"what would I want to be asked\", which can lead to people really becoming open and happy to talk and gush about things they love.", "Cultivate curiosity in yourself - become genuinely curious about everything, you can learn a lot and it’s usually fun. Once you do this, listening becomes fun and not a chore, because you are looking to learn.\n\nFull circle: keep small talk going by being very curious about what a person does and what a person likes, and then being very curious to learn more about that topic. There’s a never ending list of questions right there, and people love talking about what they do and/or their hobbies. And by extension, people also like people who are interested in them and things they like.\n\nOf course this all comes with the benefit that you learn a lot more about a lot of things and become more interesting yourself.", "Couple of questions:\n1) if money was no object what job would you do and why?\n2) you can have a dinner party with 5 people past or present. Who do you pick and why?", "Compliment, Question, Comment. \nCompliment them on something, ask a question or comment on something. Base it on the setting you’re in, what you know about them, or what you would possibly like to know", "Compliment and question:\n\n“That’s a really nice ______ you’re wearing.” \n\n“You hair looks great. Where did you get it cut/colored/etc.?”\n\n“How do you like your ____? I’ve been thinking of getting one.”\n\nYou get the idea. Based on what they say, follow up with some of the basics: who, what, when,where, why, and how. \n\nPeople LOVE talking about themselves, but you need to be a good listener, too. There are many articles online to help with this, too", "Best trick, is to actively listen, and be genuinely curious. If your are NOT curious, cultivate curiosity. How? Practicing through a game, where you take turns with a person, for set amount of time for each person, ONLY asking questions you are actively curious about.\n\nDo this regularly, till you find yourself able to access the curiosity state with ease.", "Be okay with a little silence when a conversation resolves. This was the biggest issue for me I would force words out when I thought it was “awkward silence” but really you just take a breath and either you or the other person will naturally think of something to bring up. If nothing comes up, you can mention how mentally tired or distracted you are with life shit. Idk", "Asking questions about anything you can think of from weather to sports to gardening to deals has helped me a lot but you gotta practice to be a good listener. Prepare some good follow up questions and actively try to learn something new", "Asking about what book the most recently read, show they're enjoying, or podcast they are listening to. This gives you insight as to what they value, and how they think - it may allow the conversation to branch off to many other interesting points.\n\nIf there's an upcoming holiday, asking what their plans are without presuming that either they're staying at home or going somewhere exciting but embracing both possibilities.\n\nGenerally, just showing real intent interest in asking polite and curious questions will get you a very long way with most people. One of the reasons why Bill Clinton was described as so charismatic and socially capable was that he was incredibly good at making the people he was talking with feel like the most important people in the world. If you make someone feel like they are worth listening to they will enjoy the experience and they will like you.", "Asking about them, their life in general, people really want someone to listen to them. Actually being interested normally catches them off guard.", "Ask, “How did xyz make you feel?” Or “what is your favorite thing about growing up?” Or anything that asks their very personal experienced opinion", "Ask ‘so how do you know [the host/s]?’ That’s always an easy one & can lead to other follow up questions. Try not to think about what they might be thinking- make your own mental notes about what they’re saying, remembering their name, etc to keep your brain busy.", "Ask them what they do or did for a career. Ask them if they liked it. Ask them for funny/interesting stories - people in almost every job will have one they remember.", "Ask them questions about themselves. And about the things they said already (if they talk about a topic, ask questions in regards to what they said).\nMost people love taking about themselves, to someone that shows an interest. The longer the answer they give the more they like to talk about a subject. If they keep it really short or sense it makes them feel uncomfortable then sour or change the subject.\nIf you summarize every now and then they know you are listening.\nQuestions aiming at a positive thing work best (\"what do you like about your job?\", \"are you enjoying the weather?\").\n\nAls open questions work better then closed ones. \nA closed question is a question that can be answered with \"yes\" or \"no\". For example: \"Do you like topic X?\". Abswer: \"Yes.\"\nAn open question: \"how do you feel about topic X?\" or \"what do you like about topic X?\". Answer: \"Oh I really like such and so because of ...blablabpa\". Much longer answer.\n\nAnother option (for example, if you get stuck), you could say that you not that good at small talk (or that you always feel a little uncomfortable, don't make it too big, just a small remark), are not sure what to say next but enjoy talking to them. This is a bit of a risky stategy, but if you get a positive reply, it can help. And if you get a negative response, well at least you now know it's a good idea to go and talk with someone else instead.", "Ask them questions about their lives that you are genuinely interested in , and share your similarities/ have discussions on easy topic you care about", "Ask the other person an innocuous question about themself or a shared event. What was your 1st job? Where were you when you heard about 9/11?", "Ask questions. Most people have things they are passionate about, and will gladly talk to no end about it. So let them :b", "Ask questions. Ask thoughtful follow up questions. Be interested. Maybe throw in a joke here and there. \n\nI’ve made a lot of friends by learning how to listen, without the need to interject too much myself. Most people love to talk about themselves and their ideas, if you are willing to listen. In the right settings, I’ve met dozens of strangers, and within a few hours, I’ve learned their life stories and darkest secrets. You just have to be humble, compassionate, non-judgemental, and actually interested. I’ve made it a point in my life to listen to anyone, no matter what they look like or their status; everyone has something to teach you, whether directly or as a cautionary tale. I’m a much richer person now that I’ve learned to listen and take interest in others.\n\nAlso, you don’t have to jive with everyone. Just be authentic, and your circle of friends with expand and diversify. Going to places outside of your comfort zone help immensely in this direction.", "Ask questions, especially about things people seem to be into. \n\nIf someone volunteers that they like tennis, ask questions about why they like it, etc…\n\nOpen ended questions are what keep conversations rolling, single word answers are used to kill conversations.", "Ask questions you care hearing a response about, figure out questions that matter to you and the other person", "Ask questions that require more than yes/no answers. If you find it hard to talk yourself, and maybe you're better at listening, ask a question and listen to the answer. Then ask a question about something they said in the answer, and so on. Just ask and listen, you can have a multi hour conversation without saying more than a few words.", "Ask questions about them. Listen to the answer and pick up on another question from the answer. \n\nPets, hobbies, children, family, travel - great topics", "Ask questions about the other person. Let them talk and occasionally interject responses. Presumably they will ask you questions and then you get to talk about yourself, hobbies, job, etc.", "Ask people where they're from, and not what they do. Where they grew up, what were their siblings like, their parents, their town, the food, the culture, their schools. You'll learn way more about who they are as a person :)", "Ask people about what/who they love and then keep asking to hear more. Being generous in conversation will make people like you more than just being able to constantly wow a conversation with stuff from your life.", "Ask open ended questions. (stupid random example)\n\n* Do you like tomatoes? 'no'. dead end. Hard to open back up without challenging their stance which can cause people to shut down.\n* How do you feel about tomatoes? 'don't love them...I'll eat them if they're part of a dish but only because I'm too lazy to pull them out...but only raw...never cooked' - lots of directions to go with that; cooking, gardening, genetic engineering,18th century lead poisoning, other more favourite foods, etc.\n\nListen to hear/understand instead of listening to reply. \nCommon trap is to spend the listening time formulating a response that might fit the speaker. If you spend the time understanding their thoughts and feelings, a more natural and connected response will result. Being interested in what someone is saying will encourage them to keep sharing. Replying to shoehorn your tangent can seem like one-upmanship and be off-putting.", "Ask follow up questions. If they tell you about their vacation..ask what they're favorite part of it was. What was the most fun? Or you can offer a tidbit about yourself like, \" I've always wanted to go there.\" or \" My brother visited and said it's a lovely place\". \n\nIf you know about a topic you can share a fun fact.", "Ask basic questions when they state a claim about something say the words \"Oh really?\" with a bit of enthusiasm, and then they will typically open up about something allowing you to further the conversation.", "Ask about what people did/are doing this weekend. It’s a great segue into what they may like when making decisions with their free time and a window into what they like to do", "As someone with the same problem, all the advice always sounds to be of the form \"don't have this problem \".", "Any random questions- like literally anything weirs/awkward, either they’ll answer and keep the conversation going, or they’ll he like wtf is that and yall can laugh about it and then the conversation will flow", "A trick I was told a long time ago that seems to work is to ask follow up questions about the other person relating to something they said. People like to talk about themselves so you can keep them talking this way.", "A tip I liked was asking someone about something they are working on and then telling them “that sounds hard/challenging.” People often don’t appreciate the details of people’s work or hobbies and it’s a great opportunity to get them to open up because most people don’t ask about that and almost no one thinks the stuff they are doing is easy and it gives you some perspective on what they do, how they approach problems, and what is important to them.", "A lot of my struggle comes from not being able to relate to people I just met and also being aware of the awkwardness of small talk, so this has been helpful, thank you!", "A good tip I heard to keep it light: talk about food. People love to be seen as someone whose recommendation is worth something. Ask if they’ve ever been to X restaurant, or what their favorite thanksgiving sides are. What’s their favorite park or sandwich place in the area. \nAnother trick I use if someone seems down (a good one to use with say a cashier), compliment them on their hair, jewelry or nails. It’s really not hard to find something nice to say about anyone. “You remind me of my best friends mom” or brother or whatever. “That shade of lipstick is beautiful on you.”", "A good question I've started asking rather than \"how are you?\" I ask \"how is your day going?\" They'll then start telling you whatever happened that day and I often feel like people are way more honest than when asked \" how are you?\" Where they might just say \"I'm fine, how are you?\".\n The amount of times I've asked hows your day going and someone will just launch into some story of something which happened at work or whatever, and then just ask them various things about whatever they're telling you about. Plenty of mileage in a simple question. Great conversation starter and a very normal and comfortable question to ask.", "1. Small talk doesn’t keep conversations going. Ditch it. \n\n2. Ask good questions. Start with only questions that illicit a positive response then move to more emotional stuff if the situation’s right. These have all worked well for me: \n\nTell me what you’re most passionate about. \nIf you only had one day to explore this city, what would you do? \nWhat has been the most exciting thing you’ve experienced in your work/school/hobby so far? What made you sincerely happy today? \nWhat was the worst part of your day? \nWhat’s something you’d change about your life if you could?\nWhat would your ideal society look like? \nWhat do you like to do to give back to others? \n\nApply the 6 second rule liberally. Just be quiet for 6 seconds, which allows you to gather your thoughts for what to say next in case they aren’t good at conversing back. Almost everyone will fill the silence if you let them. \n\nI ask almost everyone I meet when traveling the question about what to do if you had just one day in said city. I’ve done some awesome stuff I never would have found or thought of as a result.", "\"Genuine\" interest in the other person is the key. \n\nOnce you're past the usual small talk about pets, house, job etc. see if any of the topics genuinely intrigue you. No matter how much of an Einstein you are; there is always something new you can learn from another person. Genuinely enquire them about what they do, their job, or an interesting hobby - or how did they get started with it. It usually makes people talk and listen intently because you're trying to know this person. Your genuine interest would make it easier for you to maintain eye contact as well & help with continuing the conversation.\n\nAlso, people love to talk about themselves & after the 10 - 15 minute of conversation - they'll find you very pleasing, because of all the feeling-good-after-talking-about-themselves hormones.", "You can always go with something thought provoking. For instance, say:\n\n \"It's a well known fact that 'Travels with Charley' is a book about a man who writes a book about a mouse and a man but the mouse doesn't get any smarter than the dog. And that's the story of the making of the movie \"Jaws\" which is also not a book about a mouse named Cecil.\"\n\nIf that's not a conversation starter, I don't know what is.", "I tell ya. I can make the sale but cant close the deal.\nIt's new for me. I'm older and things are different.\nBut are they completely - it seems that if a lady is in to you, you and her will just click. Cant push or I can cause ima dork....if I'm really attracted, for real, I swear my tongue swells or something. I can't talk for tripping over it \nI'm also over 1 nite what ever they where. Fun. \nI'm single. Yes it's great. Ryfkm. I'm just me from now on.\nGood luck, some seem to have it. It's not luck for me.", "I don't know your issues with anxiety, but I have found that this is solved just through practice. You will get more relaxed, and then pick up on things they say, or things happening around you, and keep it going that way. It will become so easy, trust me.", "\"Pardon me?\" and \"I didn't get that\" makes the person repeat what they were saying again. If you do it after everything they say that can easily double the length of the conversation.", "Take a couple minutes each day to go through the headlines on CNN. If you run into a dead end, bring up one of the latest news stories and invite others to share their opinions." ]

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[ "How to answer \"So what do you do for fun?\" Made a friend, and this question came up. I wasn't really sure how to respond, since it's never something I really consciously think about, and it doesn't feel like I do anything exciting or fun on a regular basis. What's the best way to respond to these sorts of questions, either in a casual, dating, or formal setting?", "How to answer \"So what do you do for fun?\" Made a friend, and this question came up. I wasn't really sure how to respond, since it's never something I really consciously think about, and it doesn't feel like I do anything exciting or fun on a regular basis. What's the best way to respond to these sorts of questions, either in a casual, dating, or formal setting?", "How to answer \"So what do you do for fun?\" Made a friend, and this question came up. I wasn't really sure how to respond, since it's never something I really consciously think about, and it doesn't feel like I do anything exciting or fun on a regular basis. What's the best way to respond to these sorts of questions, either in a casual, dating, or formal setting?", "How to answer \"So what do you do for fun?\" Made a friend, and this question came up. I wasn't really sure how to respond, since it's never something I really consciously think about, and it doesn't feel like I do anything exciting or fun on a regular basis. What's the best way to respond to these sorts of questions, either in a casual, dating, or formal setting?", "How to answer \"So what do you do for fun?\" Made a friend, and this question came up. I wasn't really sure how to respond, since it's never something I really consciously think about, and it doesn't feel like I do anything exciting or fun on a regular basis. What's the best way to respond to these sorts of questions, either in a casual, dating, or formal setting?", "How to answer \"So what do you do for fun?\" Made a friend, and this question came up. I wasn't really sure how to respond, since it's never something I really consciously think about, and it doesn't feel like I do anything exciting or fun on a regular basis. What's the best way to respond to these sorts of questions, either in a casual, dating, or formal setting?", "How to answer \"So what do you do for fun?\" Made a friend, and this question came up. I wasn't really sure how to respond, since it's never something I really consciously think about, and it doesn't feel like I do anything exciting or fun on a regular basis. What's the best way to respond to these sorts of questions, either in a casual, dating, or formal setting?" ]

[ "It's really an open ended question. You can answer with anything that would help keep a conversation going. Like \"Well, I've been having fun watching the new season of Game of Thrones, have you seen it? ...\"", "Best thing to do is be honest about the answer. Don't say \"I love to go running for fun\" if you hate it. \nWhat are you interested in? It could be anything really -Reading, gaming, exercise, travelling, drawing, camping, etc. \nDon't say masturbating. \n", "Imagine going into a library and every shelf is marked \"books\". Essentially what you are being asked is what genres of books are there rather than every single novel. \n\nSay you like the outdoors, movies, books, board games, online games, fashion, music, playing music, cards. Whatever your thing may be, give the section and let the discussion lead to the novels", "People who ask that are usually trying to find common ground. I think it's best to start with something general and see how it goes. Everyone likes food, so maybe talk about the kind of food you like. It sounds stupid but it can lead to great conversations about your favourite culture, countries you want to travel to, your family's cultural background, etc.", "\"Nothing. I'm old and boring.\" Proceed to do all sorts of fun shit without having to explain any of it ever!", "This comment has been overwritten by an open source script to protect this user's privacy. It was created to help protect users from doxing, stalking, harassment, and profiling for the purposes of censorship. \n\n If you would also like to protect yourself, add the Chrome extension [TamperMonkey](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/tampermonkey/dhdgffkkebhmkfjojejmpbldmpobfkfo), or the Firefox extension [GreaseMonkey](https://addons.mozilla.org/en-us/firefox/addon/greasemonkey/) and add [this open source script](https://greasyfork.org/en/scripts/10380-reddit-overwrite). \n\n Then simply click on your username on Reddit, go to the comments tab, scroll down as far as possible (hint:use [RES](http://www.redditenhancementsuite.com/)), and hit the new OVERWRITE button at the top.", "\"I like judging people on their unique answers to truly banal questions from me. GO!\"\n\nI hear ya tho, OP. If you don't have really specific, niche hobbies, you can always tailor your general answers to fit the audience. \n\nWork? Depending on the culture of the place, anything from watching sports to reading to bars or restaurants\n\nDate? Dependong on who you are looking to attact, anything from people watching to movies to active stuff to homebody stuff.\n\nYou can also turn the question to be about what the other people do, or simply say \"I like to do stuff, but I don't have a specific hobby like macrame or fencing right now. I used to .... but ....\", etc." ]

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[ "How to stop anxiety induced talking? Occasionally my anxiety overflows and I start talking a lot, as if silence bothers me. I'm usually a pretty quiet person but when this happens I know I'm being annoying and that adds to the anxiety ", "How to stop anxiety induced talking? Occasionally my anxiety overflows and I start talking a lot, as if silence bothers me. I'm usually a pretty quiet person but when this happens I know I'm being annoying and that adds to the anxiety ", "How to stop anxiety induced talking? Occasionally my anxiety overflows and I start talking a lot, as if silence bothers me. I'm usually a pretty quiet person but when this happens I know I'm being annoying and that adds to the anxiety " ]

[ "Try distracting yourself mentally. For example, try some basic mental math like counting down from 1000 by 7 each time a la Tokyo Ghoul. You could also count numbers out of sequence. Your brain will switch from being anxious to focusing on a new task, neutralising the anxiety. \n\nSource: I have OCD. Stuff like this helps with intrusive thoughts and my obsessive thinking.", "Try practicing slow, methodical breathing techniques. The great thing is you are aware. Sometimes I find just talking about what you are experiencing to others is helpful - \"hey, I think I'm talking a lot so I'm going to pause.\" Showing your vulnerability is a sign of strength and a way to take away power from the anxiety that has the power now.", "I do this too! Often worry if its too much caffine! Interested in comments to come in your post, so I may learn." ]

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[ "Best things to stock up on for an incoming hurricane I have a good deal of peanut butter (high calorie, high protein), plenty of crackers that will keep for some time if need be. Bread/Pitas that will last for a few weeks as well, and canned food that can be eaten without being cooked. In addition, I have a few cans of sterno in case I need to boil water. I also have a case of water.\n\nI have batteries, candles, matches (keeping them in a ziplock so they don't get wet), flashlights, and I'm topping off the gas cans tonight...\n\nBut I feel like I'm missing stuff. I live in Florida, so there's a decent chance we'll get walloped by Irma here in the next week or so. I want to be prepared. I did some Google-ing and didn't come up with anything really convincing...looking for a good list to cross things off.\n\n", "Best things to stock up on for an incoming hurricane I have a good deal of peanut butter (high calorie, high protein), plenty of crackers that will keep for some time if need be. Bread/Pitas that will last for a few weeks as well, and canned food that can be eaten without being cooked. In addition, I have a few cans of sterno in case I need to boil water. I also have a case of water.\n\nI have batteries, candles, matches (keeping them in a ziplock so they don't get wet), flashlights, and I'm topping off the gas cans tonight...\n\nBut I feel like I'm missing stuff. I live in Florida, so there's a decent chance we'll get walloped by Irma here in the next week or so. I want to be prepared. I did some Google-ing and didn't come up with anything really convincing...looking for a good list to cross things off.\n\n", "Best things to stock up on for an incoming hurricane I have a good deal of peanut butter (high calorie, high protein), plenty of crackers that will keep for some time if need be. Bread/Pitas that will last for a few weeks as well, and canned food that can be eaten without being cooked. In addition, I have a few cans of sterno in case I need to boil water. I also have a case of water.\n\nI have batteries, candles, matches (keeping them in a ziplock so they don't get wet), flashlights, and I'm topping off the gas cans tonight...\n\nBut I feel like I'm missing stuff. I live in Florida, so there's a decent chance we'll get walloped by Irma here in the next week or so. I want to be prepared. I did some Google-ing and didn't come up with anything really convincing...looking for a good list to cross things off.\n\n", "Best things to stock up on for an incoming hurricane I have a good deal of peanut butter (high calorie, high protein), plenty of crackers that will keep for some time if need be. Bread/Pitas that will last for a few weeks as well, and canned food that can be eaten without being cooked. In addition, I have a few cans of sterno in case I need to boil water. I also have a case of water.\n\nI have batteries, candles, matches (keeping them in a ziplock so they don't get wet), flashlights, and I'm topping off the gas cans tonight...\n\nBut I feel like I'm missing stuff. I live in Florida, so there's a decent chance we'll get walloped by Irma here in the next week or so. I want to be prepared. I did some Google-ing and didn't come up with anything really convincing...looking for a good list to cross things off.\n\n", "Best things to stock up on for an incoming hurricane I have a good deal of peanut butter (high calorie, high protein), plenty of crackers that will keep for some time if need be. Bread/Pitas that will last for a few weeks as well, and canned food that can be eaten without being cooked. In addition, I have a few cans of sterno in case I need to boil water. I also have a case of water.\n\nI have batteries, candles, matches (keeping them in a ziplock so they don't get wet), flashlights, and I'm topping off the gas cans tonight...\n\nBut I feel like I'm missing stuff. I live in Florida, so there's a decent chance we'll get walloped by Irma here in the next week or so. I want to be prepared. I did some Google-ing and didn't come up with anything really convincing...looking for a good list to cross things off.\n\n", "Best things to stock up on for an incoming hurricane I have a good deal of peanut butter (high calorie, high protein), plenty of crackers that will keep for some time if need be. Bread/Pitas that will last for a few weeks as well, and canned food that can be eaten without being cooked. In addition, I have a few cans of sterno in case I need to boil water. I also have a case of water.\n\nI have batteries, candles, matches (keeping them in a ziplock so they don't get wet), flashlights, and I'm topping off the gas cans tonight...\n\nBut I feel like I'm missing stuff. I live in Florida, so there's a decent chance we'll get walloped by Irma here in the next week or so. I want to be prepared. I did some Google-ing and didn't come up with anything really convincing...looking for a good list to cross things off.\n\n", "Best things to stock up on for an incoming hurricane I have a good deal of peanut butter (high calorie, high protein), plenty of crackers that will keep for some time if need be. Bread/Pitas that will last for a few weeks as well, and canned food that can be eaten without being cooked. In addition, I have a few cans of sterno in case I need to boil water. I also have a case of water.\n\nI have batteries, candles, matches (keeping them in a ziplock so they don't get wet), flashlights, and I'm topping off the gas cans tonight...\n\nBut I feel like I'm missing stuff. I live in Florida, so there's a decent chance we'll get walloped by Irma here in the next week or so. I want to be prepared. I did some Google-ing and didn't come up with anything really convincing...looking for a good list to cross things off.\n\n", "Best things to stock up on for an incoming hurricane I have a good deal of peanut butter (high calorie, high protein), plenty of crackers that will keep for some time if need be. Bread/Pitas that will last for a few weeks as well, and canned food that can be eaten without being cooked. In addition, I have a few cans of sterno in case I need to boil water. I also have a case of water.\n\nI have batteries, candles, matches (keeping them in a ziplock so they don't get wet), flashlights, and I'm topping off the gas cans tonight...\n\nBut I feel like I'm missing stuff. I live in Florida, so there's a decent chance we'll get walloped by Irma here in the next week or so. I want to be prepared. I did some Google-ing and didn't come up with anything really convincing...looking for a good list to cross things off.\n\n", "Best things to stock up on for an incoming hurricane I have a good deal of peanut butter (high calorie, high protein), plenty of crackers that will keep for some time if need be. Bread/Pitas that will last for a few weeks as well, and canned food that can be eaten without being cooked. In addition, I have a few cans of sterno in case I need to boil water. I also have a case of water.\n\nI have batteries, candles, matches (keeping them in a ziplock so they don't get wet), flashlights, and I'm topping off the gas cans tonight...\n\nBut I feel like I'm missing stuff. I live in Florida, so there's a decent chance we'll get walloped by Irma here in the next week or so. I want to be prepared. I did some Google-ing and didn't come up with anything really convincing...looking for a good list to cross things off.\n\n", "Best things to stock up on for an incoming hurricane I have a good deal of peanut butter (high calorie, high protein), plenty of crackers that will keep for some time if need be. Bread/Pitas that will last for a few weeks as well, and canned food that can be eaten without being cooked. In addition, I have a few cans of sterno in case I need to boil water. I also have a case of water.\n\nI have batteries, candles, matches (keeping them in a ziplock so they don't get wet), flashlights, and I'm topping off the gas cans tonight...\n\nBut I feel like I'm missing stuff. I live in Florida, so there's a decent chance we'll get walloped by Irma here in the next week or so. I want to be prepared. I did some Google-ing and didn't come up with anything really convincing...looking for a good list to cross things off.\n\n" ]

[ "Stock up on gas and then post to social media gas is running out when it's really not which in turn causes an actual shortage. Yes Austin, I'm looking at you ...", "As far as the water is concerned, plan on 3 gallons of water per person, per day. Water will be needed for hydration, cooking, and basic hygiene. I suggest a waterbob, it's a bladder that you put in your bath tub and fill up with water (up to 100 gallons) and can seal.\n\nHigh calorie food bars like Power Bars or Cliff Bars.\n\nA generator is always a good purchase.\n\nHead over to r/preppers, they have this dialed in.", "I live on the West Coast but I feel like I should make an emergency kit. I am baffled at the fact that I don't have one yet.", "personal hygiene stuff. toilet paper, paper towels, contact solution if you wear them, deodorant, toothpaste, baby wipes are AWESOME and come in handy for tons of stuff, do your laundry so you have fresh clean towels. canned fruit/veggies? the peanut butter and carbs will get old fast. pain meds - tylenol, ibuprofen, pepto, neosporin. not necessarily to stock up, but make sure you have them. don't want to be stranded with stores closed and not have them.", "Make sure you have flood insurance. In the approximate words of another redditor, “insurance covers what happens when water goes down. Not what happens when water comes up.”", "In addition to food, water, and any prescriptions you need, I'll add dry clothes for after, stored in bags to stay dry. Socks and shoes get trashed in the receding muck.\n\nI camp a lot so I bring in my equipment bins that have lights, batteries, stable candle lanterns, etc. \n\nMake blocks of ice for your freezer, refrigerator, and coolers if you have them. If you lose power, it may keep things cold enough until power is restored. \n\nI also make sure my BBQ equipment is safe as that may be my only means of hot food (charcoal and propane) and may be needed if I have to cook the contents of my freezer before it spoils. \n\nBe safe. ", "BUG REPELLENT! I currently am in a disaster zone hope to have power Saturday. Food, water, check. During the hurricane, hopes and prayer and materials to quickly repair a window or door if it fails. After, sturdy shoes prefer rubber boots, bug repellent I have gone through 3 cans in the week and a half, things to repair your property, a way to boil water, if you drink coffee a french press, tarp or two. Think about what you would need if your house was damaged and what emergency supplies you would need to temporary fix it. I hope you need none of it, good luck.", "I'm in Pinellas County. Stock up on protein bars and replacement drinks, seems like it's the only thing not sold out. Also, a lot of Walmarts are getting their trucks tonight. Gas stations seem to be the only place anyone I know can find water as of right now. ", "I'm not sure how the weather may be over there.\n\nFind a big book you would throw away or buy yellow pages and seal in a Ziplock bag. Keep a box of matches or a lighter with it. Use as lint to get fires started.\n\nIf you can't find gasoline, paint thinner and kerosene are good alternatives.\n\nIf you drive a Diesel and really need fuel, kerosene mixed with a bit of cooking oil can work but risks fuel pump damage. (The cooking oil should help tho) \n(Not recommend!)\n\nBuy canned food especially fruits. \n\nFlashlights\n\nCan't think of anything else without further information..", "Hate to be a spoil sport but, you're gonna have a hard time boiling more than a cup of water over Sterno." ]

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[ "How to organize one's earrings I have a bunch of earrings and I basically keep them in a drawer of my jewelry box. When I want a pair, I hunt through them, untangling as I go. Its very time consuming and it really bothers me. How can i keep them organized without taking up tons of space. ", "How to organize one's earrings I have a bunch of earrings and I basically keep them in a drawer of my jewelry box. When I want a pair, I hunt through them, untangling as I go. Its very time consuming and it really bothers me. How can i keep them organized without taking up tons of space. ", "How to organize one's earrings I have a bunch of earrings and I basically keep them in a drawer of my jewelry box. When I want a pair, I hunt through them, untangling as I go. Its very time consuming and it really bothers me. How can i keep them organized without taking up tons of space. ", "How to organize one's earrings I have a bunch of earrings and I basically keep them in a drawer of my jewelry box. When I want a pair, I hunt through them, untangling as I go. Its very time consuming and it really bothers me. How can i keep them organized without taking up tons of space. ", "How to organize one's earrings I have a bunch of earrings and I basically keep them in a drawer of my jewelry box. When I want a pair, I hunt through them, untangling as I go. Its very time consuming and it really bothers me. How can i keep them organized without taking up tons of space. ", "How to organize one's earrings I have a bunch of earrings and I basically keep them in a drawer of my jewelry box. When I want a pair, I hunt through them, untangling as I go. Its very time consuming and it really bothers me. How can i keep them organized without taking up tons of space. ", "How to organize one's earrings I have a bunch of earrings and I basically keep them in a drawer of my jewelry box. When I want a pair, I hunt through them, untangling as I go. Its very time consuming and it really bothers me. How can i keep them organized without taking up tons of space. " ]

[ "Get a fishing tackle box, they are made for organizing the lures that are next to the hook,...like this:\nhttp://www.basstackledepot.com/basstackle/plano/6103.jpg", "When I was in grade school, one year, for Mother's Day, we built organizers for earrings. My mom still uses hers. We built a small frame and affixed a mesh to the back. The hooks characteristic of hanging earrings went through the mesh. Can you picture that?", "http://www.etsy.com/listing/82216428/unique-earring-stand-fun-surrealistic?utm_source=googleproduct&utm_medium=syndication&utm_campaign=GPS", "[This is cute and cheap if you make your own!](http://www.google.com/imgres?q=cheese+grater+earring+holder&um=1&hl=en&sa=N&biw=1366&bih=667&tbm=isch&tbnid=cIWmaLq2MIdd3M:&imgrefurl=http://carolineteselle.com/live/2011/07/cheese-grater-earring-holder/&docid=caW69zjgD3L9wM&imgurl=http://carolineteselle.com/live/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/cheese_grater_earring1.jpg&w=420&h=621&ei=ReavT7DnD8PQ2AXO2MjpCA&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=309&vpy=118&dur=3638&hovh=273&hovw=185&tx=113&ty=127&sig=116586716148691259129&page=1&tbnh=150&tbnw=101&start=0&ndsp=24&ved=1t:429,r:1,s:0,i:76)", "If you dont want to make anything, get a cork board, the kind you pin photos or notes to, and put little nails or tacks you can hang things on into it in nice, neat rows. Then hang the earrings on them. For studs, tackle box is your best bet. \n(", "I usually keep the plastic frame they come on. That way they don't tangle up and they stay together and they are easier to find.", "I have mine hung on the wall on on of those metal things you can buy at Christmas to hang cards in. Mines a big star..." ]

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[ "Best apps to learn Spanish I have been trying and failing to learn at least a little Spanish, what is the best free app to remedy this? ", "Best apps to learn Spanish I have been trying and failing to learn at least a little Spanish, what is the best free app to remedy this? ", "Best apps to learn Spanish I have been trying and failing to learn at least a little Spanish, what is the best free app to remedy this? ", "Best apps to learn Spanish I have been trying and failing to learn at least a little Spanish, what is the best free app to remedy this? " ]

[ "Duolingo free w/ads works pretty good. Not the way I am used to learning but it does work and its kinda fun.", "Depends which version of Spanish you want to learn - duolingo is Latin American I believe - there's no Spanish from Spain, which is what I needed.\n\nTry wlingua.com and iOS/Android apps - they have many languages, the method is great and fun, you get free premium access for a month, and as you go through the course you collect points, every so many earns you a star, and for each star they award you 6 more hours of premium!\n\nIf you're actually using it daily, that free month of premium can stretch into 2 or 3!\n\nI found it very useful and have learned a lot from it.\n\nCheck Michel Thomas audio courses also (they are easily found available) - that is by far the most effective method I've come across, and it's EASY!\n\nGood luck", "Tune in to Univision between 6 and 7 pm and watch the news in Spanish. Should help you immerse yourself with the language", "There's this interactive video course by BBC. Not an app though. http://www.bbc.co.uk/languages/spanish/mividaloca/" ]

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[ "What's a good shampoo against hair thinning? My family has really thin hair except for me when I was younger but now, I'm only 17 year old girl and I can feel my hair thinning too. I'd really like to know what are good brands to use against this.\n", "What's a good shampoo against hair thinning? My family has really thin hair except for me when I was younger but now, I'm only 17 year old girl and I can feel my hair thinning too. I'd really like to know what are good brands to use against this.\n", "What's a good shampoo against hair thinning? My family has really thin hair except for me when I was younger but now, I'm only 17 year old girl and I can feel my hair thinning too. I'd really like to know what are good brands to use against this.\n", "What's a good shampoo against hair thinning? My family has really thin hair except for me when I was younger but now, I'm only 17 year old girl and I can feel my hair thinning too. I'd really like to know what are good brands to use against this.\n", "What's a good shampoo against hair thinning? My family has really thin hair except for me when I was younger but now, I'm only 17 year old girl and I can feel my hair thinning too. I'd really like to know what are good brands to use against this.\n", "What's a good shampoo against hair thinning? My family has really thin hair except for me when I was younger but now, I'm only 17 year old girl and I can feel my hair thinning too. I'd really like to know what are good brands to use against this.\n", "What's a good shampoo against hair thinning? My family has really thin hair except for me when I was younger but now, I'm only 17 year old girl and I can feel my hair thinning too. I'd really like to know what are good brands to use against this.\n", "What's a good shampoo against hair thinning? My family has really thin hair except for me when I was younger but now, I'm only 17 year old girl and I can feel my hair thinning too. I'd really like to know what are good brands to use against this.\n" ]

[ "PURA D'OR Hair Loss Prevention Therapy Premium Organic Argan Oil Shampoo\n\n AND \n\nRogaine foam. \n\nI use the shampoo each night as directed and rogaine twice a day. My hair is thinning and my wife and co workers have all commented my hair looks fuller and I was asked my many people if I used dye for my hair because of how much different and fuller it appears. \n\nI prefer the rogaine foam over the liquid fwiw", "To clarify, is your hair thin or are you losing your hair? Meaning do you want to add volume to your hair or prevent it from falling out?", "I believe Rogaine is still the only FDA approved (aka actually works in most cases and isn't snake oil) hair growth compound and is now available over the counter in the USA and available in some shampoo/conditioners.", "Not shampoo, but my doctor suggested that I take a biotin supplement. I take 5000 IU a day and it's radically improved the volume of my hair. Fallout is almost nonexistent too!", "Try rubbing in castor oil two times a week and leaving over night. Massage the scalp, wrap a towel and go to bed. I've tried it and it does help. Also check your thyroid", "I have found that diluting shampoo is giving you the best of both worlds.\n\nI used an old shampoo bottle (250ml) and added about half as much shampoo as I usually would into the empty and rinsed bottle. Then I'd completely fill the bottle with warm water and shake it, so everything gets nicely mixed and a little foamy.\n\nThen you simply pour the mixture carefully over your hair and make sure to reach all parts of it. Gently massage your scalp to clean it and leave the rest of the hair pretty much alone.\n\nGranted I did it because my hair got much longer and I didn't really know how to spread the shampoo effectively without using too much of it. However, I have noticed that my hair looked much healthier, shinier, curlier and fuller/thicker than usually.", "Grow your hair and make the most of it while you still can. Once it becomes noticeably thinner, bite the bullet and shave the lot off. It sucks, but there are no magic secrets to keeping your hair unfortunately, it's inevitable.\n\n**", "Do not shampoo your hair more than once a month. It really doesn't matter too much the brand.\n\nShampoo strips the healthy natural oils off your hair thus causing thinning. The best thing you can do for thick luxurious hair is stop shampooing and even conditioning!\n\nGo ahead and thoroughly wash your hair with just water daily or every other day but only shampoo if you got particularly dirty.\n\nYou will need to do it slowly over a month though, slowly increasing the time between shampoos to not shock your hair.\n\nSlowly your hairs natural oil will start to return and within about 2-3 months you'll have much thicker hair." ]

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[ "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference.", "How to avoid becoming too easily physically excited when with a woman. (NSFW) Quick backstory: This past Friday, at the age of 30, I went on my first ever date. To say it went well would be an understatement, there was a very intense connection between us and after dinner we spent the evening cuddling. The night ended with a passionate kiss. It was some eye-rollingly romantic shit.\n\nBut now I get immediate and absurdly hard erections if I so much as think of her, which I'm doing a lot of. I mean seriously, if I think of holding her hand, boom, we have liftoff. I think of looking at her and it happens.\n\nHow can I avoid this? When I next see her I'd like to be able to hold her hand or put my arm around her without instantaneously flying at half-mast. And yes, I've tried rubbing one or several out, it really doesn't make a difference." ]

[ "Just master the waistband tuck maneuver. Also, make sure it tucks behind the shirt and not accidentally in front of it.", "Since I'm gay, I think about old saggy grandma tits if I want to last longer so maybe you should think about hairy grandpa balls?", "i'm 28 and got my first gf three years ago. even after three years of dating and two years of living together i still constantly get raging boners around her. i just kinda roll with it and try not to worry too much. it helped a lot when i felt comfortable enough to tell her, and she is always flattered. when we have sex i often have a quick orgasm and then go for round two.\n\nthere might not be a good solution to your problem, but it could be a lot worse if you had ED and never got it up.", "I haven't had a boyfriend who didn't have this issue. I've never minded. My fiancé and I have been together for a few years, and it still happens. Nbd. ", "My best advise would be to have sex with her. \n\nTough solution, I know, but once you've got it out of the way you can continue with your day to day life as per normal.", "You choke the chicken before any big date, don't you? Tell me you spank the monkey before any big date. Oh my God, he doesn't flog the dolphin before a big date. Are you crazy? That's like going out there with a loaded gun! Of course that's why you're nervous. Oh my dear friend, please sit, please. Look, um, after you've had sex with a girl, and you're lying in bed with her, are you nervous? No, you're not, why? It's 'cause you ain't got the baby batter on the brain anymore! Jesus, that stuff will fuck you're head up! Look, the most honest moment in a man's life are the few minutes after he's blown his load - now that is a medical fact. And the reason for it is that you're no longer trying to get laid, you're actually... you're thinking like a girl, and girls love that.\n", "If she's a good woman, she'll understand and possibly be flattered. It's not something that you can easily control. Just think about something non-sexual really hard and it'll go away. ", "lots of good advice here, but my little trick was biting the inside of my lip, not hard enough to bleed or anything but enough to hurt a little and take your mind off the fact you have a raging hard on. if the girl notices you doing this just say your thinking about _____.. something in the news, something you saw on reddit, a funny video etc. just distract yourself from it.", "Yer just really horny after 30 years of not getting any.\n\nThe easiest way but also somewhat noticeable way to get rid of an unwanted erection is to flex another muscle for 30 seconds. Try clenching your fist or your abs as hard as you can for 30 seconds. Alternatively, stop thinking about your boner. Do something else, something physically active can reduce a boner.\n\nBut also, after so many dates or whatever, be all shy and bashful while letting her know that you can't be near her without getting hard, if she's really into you, she'll get turned on.", "FLEX YOUR ABS! THE BLOOD LEAVES YOUR PEEPEE AND GOES DIRECTLY TO YOUR ABDOMINALS! NO MORE AWKWARD BONERS! FLEX YOUR ABS! FLEX THEM! HARAAAARRNGH!", "embrace it dude. seems you have a connection with this person. i dont really see the problem. have tons of sex and enjoy.", "Well, since it was your first date, I assume you are a virgin. Just play it cool and get laid a few times and you should be good after that.", "If your pants or underwear are tight, your boner will last forever. Go to toilet, take it out and let it hang there for few minutes. It should go down on its own. \n\nThe only \"long term\" solution is to jerk off. Have you not learned anything from the American Pie ? :\\", "I've cuddled with tons of women (cuddle parties) and pretty much always got an errection at some point of it. It's a perfectly natural reaction and they understand that. So they don't mind as long as you don't act on it. Just ignore it, focus on the cuddling, relax and it will go away.", "I list off something I've memorized when I want to last longer. I'm a bartender so in my head when I'm not ready but have to keep thrusting I just go\n\nONE POINT FIVE OUNCES RUM\n\nTHREE LIME WEDGES\n\n5 LEAVES OF MINT\n\n1 OUNCE OF APPLE PUCKER \n\n1 OUNCE MIDORI\n\nICE \n\nSODA WATER\n\nHalf the time it works all the time", "Use it, your young, she's young and there are plenty of hours in the night, after 5 years or so you will miss it.", "This is a little extreme, but stimulants like adderall and cocaine can help.\n\nI used to have a pretty similar issue with my girlfriend, while I was not prescribed to adderall. Then, I had a sex addiction, now, I'm somewhat productive.", "Quickiest solution is to jack off before date. Might work. U said ur first date ever. Ik it went well but be ready to fuck up. Be ready for akwardness. Just in case", "One suggestion that I've hear is to get a large poster from one of the Ernest movies and to put it over your bed. Whenever you're getting close, 2 seconds of looking into his eyes is enough to put even the most passionate man back to zero.", "Learned a trick: when you sit down press your feet down like you're about to stand, but don't stand. Just keep your feet planted and pressed. It'll go away in a minute ", "In my best experience (at least when you're having sex to avoid premature ejac.), think about her dad coming into the bedroom and yelling at you for having sex with his daughter...it really works!", "If you flex yourself for a long time, it goes away. As if you're holding to pee, it will stop the woodyness.", "Dude, what you have is a little rare if you ask me. I've been there before and it's friking awesome. I see no need to try and reverse it. She seems special to you and Id keep her around. ", "A trick I once read said that when you get a boner you should tense your arm (like when you do to show your bicep) as the blood flow directs to your tensed arm. It usualy works (around 50-80%).", "Jack off more while watching porn. Not even kidding. As a kid I'd get rock hard boners at the slightest sign of nipples and now I barely flinch at anything. It'll desensitize you and when you end up sleeping with her you'll last longer because you're dick's less sensitive. I admit I jack off too much but on the upside I last for hours and rarely get uncontrollable boners in public unless its a random one every now or then. Might help for you", "Not being critical, just curious: where do you live, and how is it possible that you didn't have your first date till 30?" ]

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[ "How do you convince your employer to let you continue working remote when they are trying to bring you back during Covid? Best methods from family, life, etc that wont get you fired. Its also more a matter of not convincing them about productivity, its more of a legit reason for getting out of a policy\n\n", "How do you convince your employer to let you continue working remote when they are trying to bring you back during Covid? Best methods from family, life, etc that wont get you fired. Its also more a matter of not convincing them about productivity, its more of a legit reason for getting out of a policy\n\n", "How do you convince your employer to let you continue working remote when they are trying to bring you back during Covid? Best methods from family, life, etc that wont get you fired. Its also more a matter of not convincing them about productivity, its more of a legit reason for getting out of a policy\n\n", "How do you convince your employer to let you continue working remote when they are trying to bring you back during Covid? Best methods from family, life, etc that wont get you fired. Its also more a matter of not convincing them about productivity, its more of a legit reason for getting out of a policy\n\n" ]

[ "Definitely focus the conversation on how working remotely benefits *them* first. In other words - you’re less distracted, more productive, can start earlier/work later because of the lack of commute, etc. Best to frame it in a way that shows how you’d be doing *them* a favour, as opposed to them doing *you* a favour. \n\nGood luck!", "You can try to convince them but if they don’t want you working remotely then they aren’t going to go for it. You should find another job. \n\nI’m currently going through the same thing. Been working from home a year and a half. Our proficiency and productivity has been 100%. In past years it’s been measured at 90-95%. \n\nI’m thinking why would you make us come into an office when we clearly are more efficient at home? I’m starting to look for another job. Specifically a remote position. I never want to go into an office again", "Good luck with that. I was fortunate enough to be working from home prior to Covid. I’d suggest having a candid conversation with your employer asking them how they think you have been doing since work from home and if they have positive comments i would transition it to talking about the benefits for you and them (less distractions, more time to work since no more commute, etc.). Once that stage is set, I’d mention that you feel like it works better for you and that you aren’t entirely comfortable returning to an office environment. Given the current labor shortage and amount of cost that it takes to train someone else they may be amicable to the idea.\n\n", "Either the company is open to the idea or it's not. Chances are, your best argument won't make a difference. \n\nYou have to decide what's more important; having that job or working from home. If it's the former, you're stuck with whatever policy they have implemented. If it's the latter, you may need to find your vocation elsewhere." ]

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[ "How do you get yourself focused to a task? I really have a serious problem when it comes to getting and staying focused, like when I'm trying to code then I would just realize that I keep on spacing out, I'm looking at my laptop and typing but my mind always seems to be unfocused. And it's really affecting my productivity. I need help!", "How do you get yourself focused to a task? I really have a serious problem when it comes to getting and staying focused, like when I'm trying to code then I would just realize that I keep on spacing out, I'm looking at my laptop and typing but my mind always seems to be unfocused. And it's really affecting my productivity. I need help!", "How do you get yourself focused to a task? I really have a serious problem when it comes to getting and staying focused, like when I'm trying to code then I would just realize that I keep on spacing out, I'm looking at my laptop and typing but my mind always seems to be unfocused. And it's really affecting my productivity. I need help!" ]

[ "You need to go to a doctor and get medication coz it sounds like you have add\n\n", "I have ADHD (mostly inattentive) and a significant portion of my job duties involve creating tools in Excel using VBA, so I can completely understand your frustration. \nObviously I know next to nothing about you, but if spacing out is something that you’ve struggled with for a long time, it’s worth talking to a doctor about. There are a ton of things that can cause a lack of focus. In my case, it was ADHD, but I wasn’t diagnosed until I was an adult because I am a female and I wasn’t physically hyperactive as a child.\nNow back to your request, I have a few solutions that might be helpful:\n1. If you aren’t already, make sure to take breaks. I’m guilty of skipping mine when I’m coding, but I’ve found that just walking away from my computer and thinking about something else (even if it’s only for five minutes) can do wonders for my focus.\n2. If possible, work on a different section of the code that requires more thought. If your mind is actively engaged, you’ll probably find it easier to stay focused. However, I understand that it might be difficult depending on what you’re coding.\n3. Write an outline of your code on a piece of paper(physically writing and. It typing is crucial here). I do this sometimes, not because I necessarily need the outline, but to give my eyes a break from my screen and to get my hands doing something they don’t do as frequently to keep from going into autopilot. While it might seem like a waste of time, it doesn’t seem to negatively impact my productivity because I can usually write the code faster with the outline.\n\nMy last suggestion is something that I use when I’m having a hard time finding the motivation to work because my mind doesn’t want to focus on the project. When it happens, I look at the reason I’m having a problem focusing. Is the project boring and takes too long or is the section of code I’m working on is complicated? You may have another reason, but I challenge you to try to pay attention to what you’re thinking about when you’re not focusing to try to determine if there is a common theme. In any case, once I’ve determined why I’m not focusing, I set a time-based or achievement-based goal. I tell myself that if I work long enough to get [portion of project] complete or to work for X amount of time, then I can take a break and do whatever I want for 5-15 minutes (depending on how bad the focus has been that day). Typically, by the time I’ve gotten to the end of whichever goal I decided on(section of code or amount of time), I’ve become embedded enough to keep going. However, there are some days where I achieve the goal I’ve set and I’m still not all that focused on whatever I’m working on. When that happens, I’ll take my reward/break and start the process all over again. If you need to, you can start with really small goals, but your “reward” should be proportional to the goal. \n\nSomething to keep in mind: If you’re not feeling engaged in what you’re doing, it’s going to be much more difficult for you to stay focused. Depending on the situation, consider having a chat with your boss about finding a project that you’re more excited about. If that’s not possible due to your boss or the nature of you job, you may want to consider looking into a new job. At the end of the day, there is only so much you can do to force your brain to focus on a task that isn’t engaging to you.", "Do you need absolute quiet to focus? Or some background noise? Sometimes if I can’t focus, I like to listen to lo-fi music or nature/cafe/asmr sounds at a low volume while I’m working. It gives your brain something to play with on the side so you can focus on work and not have your mind wander. If I REALLY can’t focus, I’ll listen to multiple videos at once (still at a low volume). Definitely not for everyone though!" ]

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[ "Feeling down What do you do when you're feeling super low? Lately, with work and the world and everything I find myself feeling paralyzed and unable to start things, just kind of a general doomed feeling. Yes, I am in therapy and on antidepressants, but this is new.", "Feeling down What do you do when you're feeling super low? Lately, with work and the world and everything I find myself feeling paralyzed and unable to start things, just kind of a general doomed feeling. Yes, I am in therapy and on antidepressants, but this is new.", "Feeling down What do you do when you're feeling super low? Lately, with work and the world and everything I find myself feeling paralyzed and unable to start things, just kind of a general doomed feeling. Yes, I am in therapy and on antidepressants, but this is new.", "Feeling down What do you do when you're feeling super low? Lately, with work and the world and everything I find myself feeling paralyzed and unable to start things, just kind of a general doomed feeling. Yes, I am in therapy and on antidepressants, but this is new.", "Feeling down What do you do when you're feeling super low? Lately, with work and the world and everything I find myself feeling paralyzed and unable to start things, just kind of a general doomed feeling. Yes, I am in therapy and on antidepressants, but this is new." ]

[ "Smelling a fresh orange, or orange essential oils … or another zesty/fresh scent can help to overcome the initial hump. Take a shower. Make the bed. Put on clean clothes. Go outside.", "One skill that sounds weird to learn, but quite helpful, is how to rest.\n\n\nWe know how to party, take vacations, work, etc, but a lot of us don't know how to rest. You need to rest from the world for a few, hours, days, whichever....\n\n\nHow to rest, well that's a journey you need to be on your own cause it's different for everyone....", "Nature. Subscribe to something like /r/science and an article will cycle thru that being in nature lifts the mood. I believe it also gives perspective, because most things that trouble us are relatively quite temporary and not worth worry, to the vast durations of time that trees, rock formations, and the general appearance of a natural area that suggests by its entire being timelessness, transcendence, and oneness.", "take a break from everything, especially work/study and social media. let your mind take its time to refresh! best of luck", "Start a new hobby that you are passionate about. Mine are making music on my computer, gaming, and cooking." ]

[ 4, 3, 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to protect my textbooks from becoming damaged (edges fraying) when I carry them around in my backpack ", "How to protect my textbooks from becoming damaged (edges fraying) when I carry them around in my backpack ", "How to protect my textbooks from becoming damaged (edges fraying) when I carry them around in my backpack ", "How to protect my textbooks from becoming damaged (edges fraying) when I carry them around in my backpack " ]

[ "Don’t throw them down. I have no evidence to back it up, but I'd bet that is where nearly all the damage comes from. Throwing them in a locker, on your bed, on the table, that causes the damage.", "Buy them used with the edges already frayed! \n\nOr...I had a backpack with wheels and the plastic frame on the bottom would damage the books. I put a towel between the frame and the books and it helped.", "If you plan to sell the books when your course is over, try [these.](http://www.clearbags.com/spec/book-covers) \n\nWith a little tape I'm sure you could reuse them too. Plus heaps of brands have them in heaps of different sizes ", "In elementary school we had to cover our textbooks in brown paper bags. It worked well, and you could draw or doodle on the covers. " ]

[ 3, 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "What do I do when someone repeats a story? This has happened a lot to me where someone will tell me an event which has happened before. As they explain the story I realise they've told me this previously. I use to cut them off and tell them we've had this conversation, but lately I just politely let them go through the story and listen. Sometimes asking new questions. \n\nIs there correct etiquette for this?", "What do I do when someone repeats a story? This has happened a lot to me where someone will tell me an event which has happened before. As they explain the story I realise they've told me this previously. I use to cut them off and tell them we've had this conversation, but lately I just politely let them go through the story and listen. Sometimes asking new questions. \n\nIs there correct etiquette for this?", "What do I do when someone repeats a story? This has happened a lot to me where someone will tell me an event which has happened before. As they explain the story I realise they've told me this previously. I use to cut them off and tell them we've had this conversation, but lately I just politely let them go through the story and listen. Sometimes asking new questions. \n\nIs there correct etiquette for this?", "What do I do when someone repeats a story? This has happened a lot to me where someone will tell me an event which has happened before. As they explain the story I realise they've told me this previously. I use to cut them off and tell them we've had this conversation, but lately I just politely let them go through the story and listen. Sometimes asking new questions. \n\nIs there correct etiquette for this?" ]

[ "\"Ah yeah I remember you telling me, when the *insert detail about the story*...\" Then you ask them a question about some aspect of it that they haven't told you to deflect from any awkwardness and show that you are actually interested in what they are saying.", "I usually say something like \"Oh yeah i remember you telling me that\" or some such. I have to do it with my mom all the time.\n\nBut for me it also depends on how long the story is. If it's short I just let them finish.", "I always just listen again. It's so awkward stopping them mid-story. You stop them, they always say something like \"Oh, well yeah, it was really cool.\" And you just say \"Yeah I know, you told me.\"", "Malicious Advice Mallard: \"Interrupt and deliver the last line yourself!\"\n\nI also just listen again. If they remember that I've heard it, I tell them I forgot the ending." ]

[ 6, 5, 5, 2 ]

[ "How to deal with aggressive and verbally abusive clients? I'm about to start a career as a vocational rehab Counselor, and the thing that fills me with the most trepidation is that I know that some of my clients will be hostile and verbally abusive towards me. What can I do to manage this kind of situation and behaviour? Also, any tips for dealing with the stress I know it will cause me would be very welcome. \n", "How to deal with aggressive and verbally abusive clients? I'm about to start a career as a vocational rehab Counselor, and the thing that fills me with the most trepidation is that I know that some of my clients will be hostile and verbally abusive towards me. What can I do to manage this kind of situation and behaviour? Also, any tips for dealing with the stress I know it will cause me would be very welcome. \n", "How to deal with aggressive and verbally abusive clients? I'm about to start a career as a vocational rehab Counselor, and the thing that fills me with the most trepidation is that I know that some of my clients will be hostile and verbally abusive towards me. What can I do to manage this kind of situation and behaviour? Also, any tips for dealing with the stress I know it will cause me would be very welcome. \n" ]

[ "Learn to not take it personally. Keep in mind that many of your patients have had their whole world turned upside down recently and they're gonna have a lot of pent up feelings, some of which they may take out on you. Do your best to remain calm, patient, and understanding. You never, **ever**, want to become combative or defensive in any way with a patient. \n\nIf someone is becoming too much for you to handle speak to your supervisor (assuming you'll have some form of management) about transferring care, that may end up being the best thing for both you and the patient.", "Validation. You have to let them know that it's normal to be angry based on everything they've been through (\"I would be angry too\") but let them know it's not ok to take their anger out on you. Remind them that the sole purpose for you being there is to help them. \n\n", "Might not be very useful as I work in a bar, but I feel it's some what the same. \nThe trick for me is always stay calm, and try not to let them get a reaction out of you. Just deep breaths. Another thing that works when a person is swearing a lot, is saying \"please don't use that language when talking to me\". Usually I get an apology, and they calm down a bit. But that's just really drunk rude people. So this might not be of any use " ]

[ 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "One pair of socks or two to prevent blisters (in wellies/gumboots)? Never know which is more likely to help prevent blisters - usually go for two but horrid blisters have forced me to question this habit! ", "One pair of socks or two to prevent blisters (in wellies/gumboots)? Never know which is more likely to help prevent blisters - usually go for two but horrid blisters have forced me to question this habit! ", "One pair of socks or two to prevent blisters (in wellies/gumboots)? Never know which is more likely to help prevent blisters - usually go for two but horrid blisters have forced me to question this habit! ", "One pair of socks or two to prevent blisters (in wellies/gumboots)? Never know which is more likely to help prevent blisters - usually go for two but horrid blisters have forced me to question this habit! ", "One pair of socks or two to prevent blisters (in wellies/gumboots)? Never know which is more likely to help prevent blisters - usually go for two but horrid blisters have forced me to question this habit! ", "One pair of socks or two to prevent blisters (in wellies/gumboots)? Never know which is more likely to help prevent blisters - usually go for two but horrid blisters have forced me to question this habit! " ]

[ "You get blisters from rubbing with moisture being an exacerbating factor. The problem is that moisture from your body gets trapped in rubber boots, and the material has a high friction index. You can either switch to footwear that allows for a better airflow and is less punishing, or you need to remove the boots every so often to let your feet dry.\n\nIf you must wear them for extended periods, make sure they aren't too tight, wear wool socks, and use powder in the boots to soak up moisture. These measures will help, but I doubt that they will eliminate the problem. As a last resort, you can use a spray antiperspirant on your feet.\n\nGood luck!\n\n", "if wearing 2 pairs, the under pair needs to be a thin wicking sock to remove the moisture while the outer should be a heavy wearing sock to deal with the friction.\n\nalso, if you know where the blisters will form put moleskin on them.", "When I played soccer, I always wore two pair of socks. The inner pair were made out of thin nylon, the outer pair were thick cotton. The inner nylon pair wicks away moisture into the outer layer. No blisters ever.", "Wear sheer black 'dress' socks under a pair of thick synth/wool blend socks!\n\nI'd wear them every day if I had enough socks.", "Boot socks!!! I swear by them :) They're more chunky plus have more than one layer, and they're designed to prevent blisters ", "8 years of playing football and sprinting in cleats in over 100 degree weather's taught me that the #1 way to prevent blisters is to double sock it, with the initial (underlying) sock being inside out. Dont know how or why but this has always been the trick" ]

[ 5, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "Are there any PC cloud gaming services that also gives you access to lots of games in a subscription so you don't have to buy any games (like Xbox Game Pass)? ", "Are there any PC cloud gaming services that also gives you access to lots of games in a subscription so you don't have to buy any games (like Xbox Game Pass)? " ]

[ "If you just want games then you can get Xbox game pass on pc, not if you want to stream it so your pc doesn't have to run it", "Idk of any, geforce now is a decent service, I used for like 6 months and the money was well spend. I recommend it because you have access to multiple stores (steam, epic games, the ea one) So you can have your 3 accs linked. So you can keep snatching montly free games on those platforms and keep your eye open for promos.\n\nYou can test geforce now for free (no need for cr" ]

[ 1, 1 ]

[ "how do I negotiate a higher salary with potential employer? Potential employer offered me just slightly more than I am making. I would like to negotiate to a higher wage. Any advice would be great.", "how do I negotiate a higher salary with potential employer? Potential employer offered me just slightly more than I am making. I would like to negotiate to a higher wage. Any advice would be great.", "how do I negotiate a higher salary with potential employer? Potential employer offered me just slightly more than I am making. I would like to negotiate to a higher wage. Any advice would be great.", "how do I negotiate a higher salary with potential employer? Potential employer offered me just slightly more than I am making. I would like to negotiate to a higher wage. Any advice would be great.", "how do I negotiate a higher salary with potential employer? Potential employer offered me just slightly more than I am making. I would like to negotiate to a higher wage. Any advice would be great." ]

[ "What was the process to date? Did you set salary expectations at the begining? Or just offered the job. Please share some more info to be able to help. (Talent Acquisition expert - 17yrs)", "Say you have another offer worth x much more. They'll either match or say they can't go higher. All about the market.", "Set your mark above where you want to end up and see what happens if they move in the right direction proceed with your plan", "I didn’t get whether you said what you were on (current salary) or what you want (expected salary)\n\nIf you said what you expect and they have already exceeded it, by now asking for more is not clever negotiating. Whether £5k is worth the move or not really depends on your circumstance and you should think about the entire package not just salary. \n\nIf you said what your current salary is and they have offered you 5k more then I would say you definitely still have room to negotiate. Have a figure in mind, add a little more on top and ask if they can meet that amount. \n\nIf they can’t, consider negotiating on other elements of the package like annual leave, bonus, pension contributions, etc", "Best plan is to come to them with further reasons you think you deserve a higher wage. These should be concrete, like \"I've managed a team of X people before and we completed the tasks ahead of schedule.\" \n\nAnother commenter mentioned you can say you have another offer. Whether or not that offer is legit is up to you, but you always run the risk of the company saying sorry, we can't match that. \n\nAt the end of the day, you won't get a higher wage unless you ask for one." ]

[ 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Dealing with barking/chasing dogs Like most people, I occasionally like to go around the neighborhood for a walk or a run.\n\nThe problem: I live in a more \"open\" area where it's common for people to keep dogs off their leash. I can hear some dogs, trapped in their house, barking at me simply because I'm walking by. Other dogs are worse; they're out in the yards and will actively come into the road to chase and bark at me. One neighbor even jogs with a stick in case he's attacked by dogs.\n\nNone of them are violent or have come close to biting me, but obviously I have to be careful when this happens. I also have to be ready in case one does attack me some day. And some dogs will run after me in the middle of a busy road where their lives are potentially in danger.\n\nThe best an owner will do is yell at them and say \"sorry,\" but nothing ever changes. And because there's more than one offending dog owner, I can't just \"talk to the owners.\" Tons of people do this.\n\nSo how do I deal with dogs that bark and chase me?\n\nDog whistles?\n\nSpecial behaviors?\n\nIs there a way to prevent them from chasing me?\n\nThanks in advance.\n", "Dealing with barking/chasing dogs Like most people, I occasionally like to go around the neighborhood for a walk or a run.\n\nThe problem: I live in a more \"open\" area where it's common for people to keep dogs off their leash. I can hear some dogs, trapped in their house, barking at me simply because I'm walking by. Other dogs are worse; they're out in the yards and will actively come into the road to chase and bark at me. One neighbor even jogs with a stick in case he's attacked by dogs.\n\nNone of them are violent or have come close to biting me, but obviously I have to be careful when this happens. I also have to be ready in case one does attack me some day. And some dogs will run after me in the middle of a busy road where their lives are potentially in danger.\n\nThe best an owner will do is yell at them and say \"sorry,\" but nothing ever changes. And because there's more than one offending dog owner, I can't just \"talk to the owners.\" Tons of people do this.\n\nSo how do I deal with dogs that bark and chase me?\n\nDog whistles?\n\nSpecial behaviors?\n\nIs there a way to prevent them from chasing me?\n\nThanks in advance.\n", "Dealing with barking/chasing dogs Like most people, I occasionally like to go around the neighborhood for a walk or a run.\n\nThe problem: I live in a more \"open\" area where it's common for people to keep dogs off their leash. I can hear some dogs, trapped in their house, barking at me simply because I'm walking by. Other dogs are worse; they're out in the yards and will actively come into the road to chase and bark at me. One neighbor even jogs with a stick in case he's attacked by dogs.\n\nNone of them are violent or have come close to biting me, but obviously I have to be careful when this happens. I also have to be ready in case one does attack me some day. And some dogs will run after me in the middle of a busy road where their lives are potentially in danger.\n\nThe best an owner will do is yell at them and say \"sorry,\" but nothing ever changes. And because there's more than one offending dog owner, I can't just \"talk to the owners.\" Tons of people do this.\n\nSo how do I deal with dogs that bark and chase me?\n\nDog whistles?\n\nSpecial behaviors?\n\nIs there a way to prevent them from chasing me?\n\nThanks in advance.\n" ]

[ "Maybe a (small) watergun with a little lemon juice or vinegar mixed in? Eventually, the dogs should figure out that if they bark at you they're gonna get a taste of icky vinegar or lemon juice and since they don't like that they'll start leaving you alone. Naturally, this is something that's gonna work best if you go the same route everyday. \n\nYou could also try carrying some dog treats and tossing them to the dogs that bark at you. Eventually, they'll figure out you're the one with the tasty doggie cookies and are not a threat so there's no need to bark. They will probably still \"greet\" you though, but it will be a much friendlier greeting. \n\nI always carry a shilleileigh and several Milk Bones in my pocket because of all the people around where I live who disregard the leash law and allow their dogs off leash in in park I frequent. I've only had to use the shilleileigh one time, and I wish I could have used it on the owner of the dogs who attacked me instead of on the dogs. Luckily I was really layered up that day and only had to use the shilleileigh to keep them off me instead of having to actually hit them with it. I still got bit but the bites only bruised because I was wearing so much clothes. If that had happened in July instead of January it would have been a much different story. It's really upsetting to think about, it would just devastate me to have to thump a doggie with my stick, but I can't just let them maul me until their person catches up to them and pulls them off me either, and the only reason I got bit & bruised as much as I did that time was because the owner of those dogs didn't pick it up to more than an almost speed-walk in her haste to get her animals off me. She had the nerve to get bent out of shape about me trying to keep my shilleighleigh between her dogs and me, too. Damn I should have thumped her, just once, just one quick, righteous thump to the noggin. I mighta knocked some sense into the bitch but then again who knows.", "If nothing else works, don't make eye contact with the dogs, **don't acknowledge them in any way**, just keep jogging through as if they aren't there. \n\nI mean I would be devastated if my dog were hit by a car but I also have the good sense not to let him off leash in the front yard. It isn't your responsibility as a jogger to keep neighborhood dogs safe from passing cars, those are the owner's and driver's responsibilities. ", "A lot of dogs are terrified of a empty half gallon milk jug with change inside. Shake it at then and the noise will scare them. It might be annoying to jog with though..." ]

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[ "Tiny Holes in T Shirts and Clothing I tried sewing them and it made it look hideous.\n\nNormally I wouldn't care and wear them at home but it's an expensive designer brand so I can't just trash it out.", "Tiny Holes in T Shirts and Clothing I tried sewing them and it made it look hideous.\n\nNormally I wouldn't care and wear them at home but it's an expensive designer brand so I can't just trash it out.", "Tiny Holes in T Shirts and Clothing I tried sewing them and it made it look hideous.\n\nNormally I wouldn't care and wear them at home but it's an expensive designer brand so I can't just trash it out.", "Tiny Holes in T Shirts and Clothing I tried sewing them and it made it look hideous.\n\nNormally I wouldn't care and wear them at home but it's an expensive designer brand so I can't just trash it out.", "Tiny Holes in T Shirts and Clothing I tried sewing them and it made it look hideous.\n\nNormally I wouldn't care and wear them at home but it's an expensive designer brand so I can't just trash it out." ]

[ "Could be silverfish. Set off a insecticide bomb. Open all your drawers and closet doors. Get a towel ready to put under the door. Put the bomb in the middle of the room on some paper. Set it off, leave the room and block the door gap with the towel. \nIt'll take a couple of hours but that will take care of the bugs eating your clothes.", "It could be from leaning on a counter and the shirt rubbing between the counter and your belt or something. This happened to me bunch and I couldn't figure out what was wrong for a while. ", "You are probably over-loading the washing machine, esp. if you have one of the older machines with \"blades.\" Try cutting the amount of clothing by 1/3, and the rest of your clothes should be safe. ", "The answer is to get rid of the moths causing the holes.\n\nMoths don't drink water, so they have to get their water content from the clothes they eat. When drying your clothes in the dryer, don't be a cheapskate and cut the cycle off 10 minutes early to save electricity.\n\nPlace some cedar planks in your closet.\n\nUse a moisture control device like packets of silica gel or DampRid.\n\nUnfortunately with the holes you either live with them, place a patch over them, or get rid of them. Sewing over the holes usually makes them more obvious.", "Stop washing your jeans with your shirts. I did the same thing cause I used to throw all my loads in one cycle. Now all jeans and hoodie go in one then the lighter stuff." ]

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[ "How to channel rage into something productive/positive. I can't seem to get anything done when I'm pissed . . . ", "How to channel rage into something productive/positive. I can't seem to get anything done when I'm pissed . . . ", "How to channel rage into something productive/positive. I can't seem to get anything done when I'm pissed . . . ", "How to channel rage into something productive/positive. I can't seem to get anything done when I'm pissed . . . ", "How to channel rage into something productive/positive. I can't seem to get anything done when I'm pissed . . . ", "How to channel rage into something productive/positive. I can't seem to get anything done when I'm pissed . . . ", "How to channel rage into something productive/positive. I can't seem to get anything done when I'm pissed . . . " ]

[ "if you can channel it into exercise you can get some great workouts. Some of my best workouts have been when i have been extremely mad ", "I rage clean, works fairly well since it's mindless and it's really hard to continue being angry when your bathroom is all sparkly. ", "Practice moving things with your mind. It's easier to get the knack of it once you are already angry. You don't know the power of the dark side. ", "Just tell yourself you will be mad about it later and make yourself do it because your mad. Then you'll forget later.", "If you're requesting an LPT on this you must get angry - read \"pissed\"- pretty often. \n\nIf this is the case, then your real LPT is to take some time to internalize and figure out WHY you're always getting pissed. It isn't 'normal' or 'healthy' (both subjective) to always be angry. If you realize you actually have a right and reason to be angry/upset, then just chill for a bit until you calm down.\n\nLPT- Remove yourself from the stressful situation and try to understand WHY its so stressful. Once (in your head) you have an idea of why you're upset, literally say it out loud \"I am angry because XXXXX\" If it sounds stupid, it probably is, and you probably shouldn't be as angry as you are. Understanding why you are angry will allow you to either A) get over it B) Confront it.", "Used to get pissed and throw things then I became a mechanic and broke a $300 ratchet throwing it across a workshop. Now when I feel a rage coming on I move on to something else and come back to it later. Same works for people, instead of breaking a relationship walk away, take some time, come back later. ", "Try m" ]

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[ "How do you break your habits of isolation? It has been awhile since I met anyone. I can't imagine why anyone would be interested in me. I don't like crowds; I usually don't talk in a group. I'm pretty much anti-social. ", "How do you break your habits of isolation? It has been awhile since I met anyone. I can't imagine why anyone would be interested in me. I don't like crowds; I usually don't talk in a group. I'm pretty much anti-social. ", "How do you break your habits of isolation? It has been awhile since I met anyone. I can't imagine why anyone would be interested in me. I don't like crowds; I usually don't talk in a group. I'm pretty much anti-social. ", "How do you break your habits of isolation? It has been awhile since I met anyone. I can't imagine why anyone would be interested in me. I don't like crowds; I usually don't talk in a group. I'm pretty much anti-social. ", "How do you break your habits of isolation? It has been awhile since I met anyone. I can't imagine why anyone would be interested in me. I don't like crowds; I usually don't talk in a group. I'm pretty much anti-social. ", "How do you break your habits of isolation? It has been awhile since I met anyone. I can't imagine why anyone would be interested in me. I don't like crowds; I usually don't talk in a group. I'm pretty much anti-social. ", "How do you break your habits of isolation? It has been awhile since I met anyone. I can't imagine why anyone would be interested in me. I don't like crowds; I usually don't talk in a group. I'm pretty much anti-social. ", "How do you break your habits of isolation? It has been awhile since I met anyone. I can't imagine why anyone would be interested in me. I don't like crowds; I usually don't talk in a group. I'm pretty much anti-social. ", "How do you break your habits of isolation? It has been awhile since I met anyone. I can't imagine why anyone would be interested in me. I don't like crowds; I usually don't talk in a group. I'm pretty much anti-social. " ]

[ "I struggle with this a lot. Here's some advice\n\n1. Know yourself - There's a bit by Sun Tzu about this and knowing your enemies, but you should try to work out your interests and make friends with similar interests and similar backgrounds. It can be difficult making friends with 10 year olds who are obsessed with Ben 10 (unless that's your thing. There's another LPT for that)\n\n2. Learn to read the situation. This takes practice, but you'll find some people who are alone and probably don't mind talking to you. Of course, it can come across as creepy and if you sense that, back off.\n\n3. Practice. \n\n4. This is probably the most important LPT ever. You don't have to make everyone like you. Some people will love you unconditionally. Some will hate you unconditionally. Most are ambivalent and can be swayed. Ignore the second group. Work on the third group. Find lifelong friend(s) in the first group. You may end up with 1-2 friends and that's completely fine\n\nGood luck :)", "Go to a public place, like a park or a bar, that gets fairly busy and make it your goal not to leave until you have a 2 min conversation with someone there. (probably easier to approach a couple or group rather than someone solo as it can be seen as creepy). and ask them some bs question like where a good place to eat is or about their dog. Don't go to the same place twice in a row.", "You join a group of people who are interested in what you like. Take a class or volunteer. They will talk to you. ", "Find several Meetup groups that have interests similar to yours. The website Meetup dot Com is useful. \n\nNext, plug in those group events for the next 2-3 months and make sure you attend the groups consistently. \n\nThat way, you meet people who already like the things you do and already have something to talk about!", " I did it by imagining I was a particular confident person I saw every day, and kind of doing what they did.\n\nIn theory it works; in practice, it fails. (Unless you get lucky)\n\n I ended up walking up to a group of people who looked like they were having fun and saying \"Hi I'm bored and none of my friends are here so I guess I'll just sit here since you seem to be having fun.\" It was super awkward and it kinda came out in one long burst too. Thankfully, those people were awesome and laughed it off and accepted me, so I tried sitting there the next day and I was immediately accepted into the conversation. I've becoming more and more social over my time of knowing them. We've all shared tons of experiences and grown really close over the year and half that we've been friends now.\n Obviously I lucked out there, but just try to get over any social fears you have and talk to people. If you end up being really awkward, you can sort of try to make it funny and people will usually giggle. Also, if you pretend you're a really confident person, people will usually think you're confident and kind of a badass if you stay confident in an awkward or weird situation and stay cool.\n\nGood luck!", "Notice your assumptions about how things will go and put yourself out there anyway. You'd be surprised what people could find interesting about you and what you could find interesting about others.", "I've been dealing with this kind of social anxiety/anti-social yearning for about 20 years. It's crippling at times, no easy fix I think. SSRI and like medications have a very shaky evidence base and anecdotally did not work for me. \nI find the only way I can succeed against it is to breathe and count when I know I need to get something done outside the house or socially. Even checking the mailbox brings me anxiety because I walk by three houses on the way. \nIt may sound silly, but I get in front of the door, close my eyes, and count \"one one thousand, two one thousand, three one thousand, go\" and then I open my eyes and exit the house. \nI've never found a way to improve my discomfort in crowds or unfamiliar groups, but at least I am making efforts to leave the house and try.", "I agree, just look for things that you're interested in and see if you can find a group. I'm pretty anti social too, and don't really have many friends, but I started playing video games in a group, than found a comic shop with people I enjoy talking to. That has been a big help for me man.", "> I can't imagine why anyone would be interested in me\n\nDude you can't be like that lol. Everyone has his qualities. And no one likes depressed people or with low self-steem, that tend to be victimized.\n\nIf you don't like what you life is right now, change it. Make an effort for it. It's as simple as that.\n\nYou haven't met anyone? Then go meet! What are you waiting for? You do sports, or need to? Then start talking with people there. At a gym, for example, it's impossible not to talk with someone. Or a tennis club. Or some free training ground. Wtv. Or a football/soccer or basketball playground, there's always groups looking to play there that you can meet.\n\nYou like watching sports? Go to a pub, a bar, a stadium, wtv. During a game or in the breaks, you will talk to someone for sure.\n\nYou're still studying? On the breaks you can talk to everybody. If you smoke, there's always a chance for it. If you stay in the room, you can talk about some matéria you didn't catch up or wtv. If you go to the library, maybe some talk about the studies or some book or wtv...\n\nYou just need a little push to start talking with people? Try go to take a coffee somewhere. Small local coffee-shops or bars will definitely have someone to talk with; if anything, with the bartender or the old guys who owns the bar/coffee shop.\n\nYou miss talking with some guy/girl (don't know what your sex is)? Try taking a decent photo of you, with nice lights, update your photo profile on facebook (tell me you have it) and create an account on tinder. I'm sure you will get some likes and someone on tinder. If you don't want to expose yourself too much on your town, I don't know, try to go to a town nearby. But try and make a simple date; you'll like to talk with someone for a bit.\n\nDamn, even Pokémon Go helps with that. I played 3 days and people were constantly talking to me, asking if I were playing, who I was chasing, what team I was... lol.\n\nReally, don't stress it too much. I stutter a bit and I'm not really a group talking guy, only sent a joke here and there but prefer to talk in small groups or only with 2/3 people, and I have zero problems. I have an excellent group and I'm quite isolated myself, I'm more of a lone wolf to have my space (to work, to see some series, to play some game, wtv).\n\nTell more about you so we can help you. What's your age? What are your interested? Are you working or in school?" ]

[ 10, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to tell the difference between excitement and anxiety? My body, and in turn my mind, does not seem to be able to tell the difference between the two... and it sucks. \n\nThings I should be excited for - upcoming concerts, trips away, nice social events, seeing friends and family - is wrapped up in anxiety and stress. Things that are exciting-yet-also-stressful - like starting a new job - are even worse.\n\nIt's really hard to enjoy anything. And then I'm so anxious about doing the said thing that I'm a ball of nerves by the time I get there and find it hard to enjoy myself. I'm quite intuitive as well so psych myself out wondering if these bad feelings are my intuition warning me of something.\n\nI've done all manner of MH therapies in the past (for various reasons) and as such I'm well versed in recognising the root cause of my worries and challenging my thoughts and feelings through CBT reframing. \n\nBut I just can't shake this, or train my body/mind to discern between excitement and anxiety. It's been like this for as long as I remember (although the added fear of catching Covid whilst out really doesn't help), and it's got worse as I've got older and I'm now at a point where its really getting me down. And it's taking a toll on my body and drains me of energy even quicker.\n\nDoes anyone please have any words of wisdom? Any new perspectives or tips?", "How to tell the difference between excitement and anxiety? My body, and in turn my mind, does not seem to be able to tell the difference between the two... and it sucks. \n\nThings I should be excited for - upcoming concerts, trips away, nice social events, seeing friends and family - is wrapped up in anxiety and stress. Things that are exciting-yet-also-stressful - like starting a new job - are even worse.\n\nIt's really hard to enjoy anything. And then I'm so anxious about doing the said thing that I'm a ball of nerves by the time I get there and find it hard to enjoy myself. I'm quite intuitive as well so psych myself out wondering if these bad feelings are my intuition warning me of something.\n\nI've done all manner of MH therapies in the past (for various reasons) and as such I'm well versed in recognising the root cause of my worries and challenging my thoughts and feelings through CBT reframing. \n\nBut I just can't shake this, or train my body/mind to discern between excitement and anxiety. It's been like this for as long as I remember (although the added fear of catching Covid whilst out really doesn't help), and it's got worse as I've got older and I'm now at a point where its really getting me down. And it's taking a toll on my body and drains me of energy even quicker.\n\nDoes anyone please have any words of wisdom? Any new perspectives or tips?", "How to tell the difference between excitement and anxiety? My body, and in turn my mind, does not seem to be able to tell the difference between the two... and it sucks. \n\nThings I should be excited for - upcoming concerts, trips away, nice social events, seeing friends and family - is wrapped up in anxiety and stress. Things that are exciting-yet-also-stressful - like starting a new job - are even worse.\n\nIt's really hard to enjoy anything. And then I'm so anxious about doing the said thing that I'm a ball of nerves by the time I get there and find it hard to enjoy myself. I'm quite intuitive as well so psych myself out wondering if these bad feelings are my intuition warning me of something.\n\nI've done all manner of MH therapies in the past (for various reasons) and as such I'm well versed in recognising the root cause of my worries and challenging my thoughts and feelings through CBT reframing. \n\nBut I just can't shake this, or train my body/mind to discern between excitement and anxiety. It's been like this for as long as I remember (although the added fear of catching Covid whilst out really doesn't help), and it's got worse as I've got older and I'm now at a point where its really getting me down. And it's taking a toll on my body and drains me of energy even quicker.\n\nDoes anyone please have any words of wisdom? Any new perspectives or tips?", "How to tell the difference between excitement and anxiety? My body, and in turn my mind, does not seem to be able to tell the difference between the two... and it sucks. \n\nThings I should be excited for - upcoming concerts, trips away, nice social events, seeing friends and family - is wrapped up in anxiety and stress. Things that are exciting-yet-also-stressful - like starting a new job - are even worse.\n\nIt's really hard to enjoy anything. And then I'm so anxious about doing the said thing that I'm a ball of nerves by the time I get there and find it hard to enjoy myself. I'm quite intuitive as well so psych myself out wondering if these bad feelings are my intuition warning me of something.\n\nI've done all manner of MH therapies in the past (for various reasons) and as such I'm well versed in recognising the root cause of my worries and challenging my thoughts and feelings through CBT reframing. \n\nBut I just can't shake this, or train my body/mind to discern between excitement and anxiety. It's been like this for as long as I remember (although the added fear of catching Covid whilst out really doesn't help), and it's got worse as I've got older and I'm now at a point where its really getting me down. And it's taking a toll on my body and drains me of energy even quicker.\n\nDoes anyone please have any words of wisdom? Any new perspectives or tips?" ]

[ "I have also suffered from this over the last year or so. I have realized that if I can't tell the difference between the two, then it is likely anxiety. I've been doing mindfulness practices, such as breath awareness, on a daily basis in order to reduce my anxiety. I'm still early on the journey of healing and mindfulness, but it does help. I am better able to distinguish between anxiousness and excitement/happiness.", "Check out Sam Harris he talks about this. It’s hard to tell the difference because the physical reaction between the two feelings is so similar, it’s all about perspective. You want to ride the roller coaster so the tightening in your chest is fun, I don’t want to make a phone call so then feeling in my chest is now scary (even though it’s almost indistinguishable)", "You seem to need some grounding, do some m", "Maybe get out of your comfort zone more often trying new things and meeting new people 2 or 3 times a week. Get used to feeling that way more often so you can get used to tackling it. Really, what's the worst that can happen? It sounds like you're giving other people too much respect.....even if you do make a fool of yourself in these situations or they go wrong in other ways....so fucking what! Honestly nobody cares and neither should you. Life's short. The anxiety should be aimed at all the experiences you will miss out on by not doing these things!" ]

[ 3, 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "I need to commit the Universal Declaration of Human Rights to memory word for word. Any memorization LPTs? I used to commit poems to memory all the time when I was a kid (it's part of the educational system where I live) but I bet memorization techniques devised by a 10 year old weren't optimal.\n\nThe full text can be found here - http://www.un.org/en/universal-declaration-human-rights/", "I need to commit the Universal Declaration of Human Rights to memory word for word. Any memorization LPTs? I used to commit poems to memory all the time when I was a kid (it's part of the educational system where I live) but I bet memorization techniques devised by a 10 year old weren't optimal.\n\nThe full text can be found here - http://www.un.org/en/universal-declaration-human-rights/" ]

[ "Those thirty articles (plus preamble) would work well with a memory palace or memory walk as a framework. Might also be good to start at the last one and work your way backwards (so that on subsequent recall you are always moving towards more and more familiar and rehearsed sections).", "If I need to remember things word for freaking word, which I usually don't thank god, I read it out loud over and over and over and over.\n\nThen I start trying to read it without looking at the source until I stumble. Repeat this until you can read through the whole text in your head without fail, without the source. Profit.\n\n" ]

[ 5, 2 ]

[ "Tick and mosquito control. Hoping anyone can provide guidance on how to effectively minimize the amount of ticks and mosquitoes in my yard. I know that keeping your grass short helps with the tick issue, but hoping there is something I can be doing for mosquitoes too. Was reading up on it, and I found a [website](http://organicdailypost.com/7-ways-make-yard-hostile-ticks/) that mentions mixing garlic and water to help both, but didn't know if this actually works. Thanks in advance!", "Tick and mosquito control. Hoping anyone can provide guidance on how to effectively minimize the amount of ticks and mosquitoes in my yard. I know that keeping your grass short helps with the tick issue, but hoping there is something I can be doing for mosquitoes too. Was reading up on it, and I found a [website](http://organicdailypost.com/7-ways-make-yard-hostile-ticks/) that mentions mixing garlic and water to help both, but didn't know if this actually works. Thanks in advance!", "Tick and mosquito control. Hoping anyone can provide guidance on how to effectively minimize the amount of ticks and mosquitoes in my yard. I know that keeping your grass short helps with the tick issue, but hoping there is something I can be doing for mosquitoes too. Was reading up on it, and I found a [website](http://organicdailypost.com/7-ways-make-yard-hostile-ticks/) that mentions mixing garlic and water to help both, but didn't know if this actually works. Thanks in advance!" ]

[ "Bat House is a great idea. Bats eat thousands of mosquitoes every night. If you wanted to raise a couple of free-range chickens, they would make short work of the ticks in your yard.\n\n Citronella, lavender, marigold, rosemary plants all emit smells that repel mosquitoes. Try planting these around your property if conditions permit.\n\nI've heard that spraying mouthwash around your yard will repel mosquitoes as well, probably since mouthwash has the same chemical ingredients found in some of these aforementioned plants.\n\nYou could try a [dry ice tick trap:](http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_ffWLOkJlIcM/TDjSYrUZ2VI/AAAAAAAAFL8/Env_Lzr4iS8/s1600/IMGP1656.JPG) get a chunk of dry ice, put it in a styrofoam container full of holes, and put the container in the middle of a sheet of cardboard or plywood covered in double sided sticky tape. Ticks in your yard will crawl to get to the CO2 coming from the dry ice and will get stuck to the tape. You might snag some mosquitoes too if you modify it to hang some fly tape right over the trap.\n\n", "Hi,\n\nThere are a lot of good suggestions and great input on here already. I will tell you what I did.\n\nI purchased one of these [garden sprayers](http://www.homedepot.com/p/HDX-1-Gal-Sprayer-1501HDX/207202420). I use vinegar to kill weeds where I need, I use the garlic trick. I can use any home remedy I want and preserve the fertility of health of my lawn. Ultimately I am not using poisons or chemicals. ", "Companies like Tru green offer a spray service to control ticks and skeeters. You can buy pesticides from your local outdoor place or hardware. \n\nMake sure your pets are treated. And wear clothes from head to toe closing off access to your body. \n\nGoogle this, there is a ton of info on the web in this stuff." ]

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[ "I should know a barista's name by now but I don't; how do I figure it out? A bit awkward, I've been going to a coffee shop for 6 months now and chatted with this barista for a min or two every time I'm in. Feels a bit awkward at this point to ask her name, anyone got any tips on how to do figure it out? No romantic interest.", "I should know a barista's name by now but I don't; how do I figure it out? A bit awkward, I've been going to a coffee shop for 6 months now and chatted with this barista for a min or two every time I'm in. Feels a bit awkward at this point to ask her name, anyone got any tips on how to do figure it out? No romantic interest.", "I should know a barista's name by now but I don't; how do I figure it out? A bit awkward, I've been going to a coffee shop for 6 months now and chatted with this barista for a min or two every time I'm in. Feels a bit awkward at this point to ask her name, anyone got any tips on how to do figure it out? No romantic interest.", "I should know a barista's name by now but I don't; how do I figure it out? A bit awkward, I've been going to a coffee shop for 6 months now and chatted with this barista for a min or two every time I'm in. Feels a bit awkward at this point to ask her name, anyone got any tips on how to do figure it out? No romantic interest." ]

[ "Does she know your name? If not, you can say, \"I see you all the time but I don't know if I've ever introduced myself. My name is...\" \n\nIf so, then you can be honest and say that you are terrible with names and ask for hers again. This is the simplest route. I don't think she'd be offended. If anything, she'd be pleased that you'd want to remember her name. That's how I felt when I was in the service industry, at least. Then, when you see her, be sure to use her name each time. This works for me with folks who come in and out of our office like mailmen, maintenance folks, outside sales reps, etc.", "If you're too embarrassed to ask for her name now, get a friend that's not a regular at the shop to ask; no awkward for him/her and you get to know...just make sure said friend isn't one to troll.", "Check the receipt! I've found that usually the name of the person serving your or at least ringing you up is written on it.", "Ask for their name. And when they tell you just say \"oh sorry I meant your last name\" and explain to them that you work with or go to class with someone that could be her sister because they look so similar. \n\nYou could also tell their manager how good of a worker she is and then maybe they will tell you her name " ]

[ 6, 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to deal with your friends/loved ones who become \"help-rejecting complainers\" - people who complain all the time but never do anything to help the situations and reject your offers of advice? ", "How to deal with your friends/loved ones who become \"help-rejecting complainers\" - people who complain all the time but never do anything to help the situations and reject your offers of advice? ", "How to deal with your friends/loved ones who become \"help-rejecting complainers\" - people who complain all the time but never do anything to help the situations and reject your offers of advice? ", "How to deal with your friends/loved ones who become \"help-rejecting complainers\" - people who complain all the time but never do anything to help the situations and reject your offers of advice? ", "How to deal with your friends/loved ones who become \"help-rejecting complainers\" - people who complain all the time but never do anything to help the situations and reject your offers of advice? ", "How to deal with your friends/loved ones who become \"help-rejecting complainers\" - people who complain all the time but never do anything to help the situations and reject your offers of advice? " ]

[ "Some of them are injustice collectors. Look that up. It is some interesting reading. Everyone knows one or two.", "You just have to recognize it, accept it, and focus on the parts of the friendship that keep you coming back. If you cannot do that, the friendship will take it's natural course and you will grow more distant.\n\nIt is exhausting enough carrying your own burdens, do not accept any more from other people when they have shown that they are not willing to do the work needed to lighten their own load.", "Tell them exactly what you said: \"I'm happy to lend you an ear but only if you actively try to improve the situation you're unhappy with\". Tell them that you can't be their emotional waste basket but that you're willing to be there for them if they try and change their situation for the better.", "I think the only thing you can do is tell them that you want more out of a conversation than being complained at. Tell them what you do want. Yeah it’s not going to change anything most of the time, but maybe if your the 12th person who’s told them that, it’ll finally click.", "I straight up ask, hey, do you have anything nice you can do for yourself, some kind of treat? Travel? Book? Shopping trip?\n\nA lot of people do have shitty lives without enough attentive friends and relationships and end up turning to complaining as the only way to have a meaningful connection with anybody. \n\nUnless I have a meaningful connection with them that I need to check myself or check them on, changing the conversation to something I will enjoy and that they can look forward to is the next best thing to meaningful.\n\nSome people can double down the whinge even on what they have to look forward to, you can ask them what keeps them going if you like. No way to tell where that will go!", "Your broad generalization is doing more harm than good. Here’s a life pro tip. If you don’t want to help then don’t." ]

[ 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]

[ "How to begin going to sleep at a fixed time??? Hello, I have some trouble with my sleeping schedule\n\nI have to wake up every day at 7AM, and I find the most optimal time to go to sleep is 11PM. Exactly 8 hours of sleep.\n\n​\n\nThe problem is that it's pretty hard to stick to this. In the evening I usually work from 5/6PM to 8/9PM, afterwards I'm usually pretty unmotivated and tired. At days when I'm actually motivated I manage to take a shower and do my evening routine in time, which allows me to fall asleep by 11PM. \n\nUnfortunately, most of the time when I finish work, I'm not motivated at all, especially if the work took longer than usual. I sometimes manage to shower, sometimes don't, and afterwards I retreat to my PC to play CK3 or to chat on Discord for that sweet dopamine shot. I lose track off time, keep on saying \"ok, 15 more mins and I'll go to sleep\", and that's how I end up going to sleep between 1AM and 3AM.\n\n​\n\nI've noticed this behavior of mine takes a tool on my daily productivity. I do not want it like this, I feel there are so many things I should take care of better sooner than later, but I end up slacking off. \n\n​\n\nHope you guys can help me out. Have a nice day btw", "How to begin going to sleep at a fixed time??? Hello, I have some trouble with my sleeping schedule\n\nI have to wake up every day at 7AM, and I find the most optimal time to go to sleep is 11PM. Exactly 8 hours of sleep.\n\n​\n\nThe problem is that it's pretty hard to stick to this. In the evening I usually work from 5/6PM to 8/9PM, afterwards I'm usually pretty unmotivated and tired. At days when I'm actually motivated I manage to take a shower and do my evening routine in time, which allows me to fall asleep by 11PM. \n\nUnfortunately, most of the time when I finish work, I'm not motivated at all, especially if the work took longer than usual. I sometimes manage to shower, sometimes don't, and afterwards I retreat to my PC to play CK3 or to chat on Discord for that sweet dopamine shot. I lose track off time, keep on saying \"ok, 15 more mins and I'll go to sleep\", and that's how I end up going to sleep between 1AM and 3AM.\n\n​\n\nI've noticed this behavior of mine takes a tool on my daily productivity. I do not want it like this, I feel there are so many things I should take care of better sooner than later, but I end up slacking off. \n\n​\n\nHope you guys can help me out. Have a nice day btw", "How to begin going to sleep at a fixed time??? Hello, I have some trouble with my sleeping schedule\n\nI have to wake up every day at 7AM, and I find the most optimal time to go to sleep is 11PM. Exactly 8 hours of sleep.\n\n​\n\nThe problem is that it's pretty hard to stick to this. In the evening I usually work from 5/6PM to 8/9PM, afterwards I'm usually pretty unmotivated and tired. At days when I'm actually motivated I manage to take a shower and do my evening routine in time, which allows me to fall asleep by 11PM. \n\nUnfortunately, most of the time when I finish work, I'm not motivated at all, especially if the work took longer than usual. I sometimes manage to shower, sometimes don't, and afterwards I retreat to my PC to play CK3 or to chat on Discord for that sweet dopamine shot. I lose track off time, keep on saying \"ok, 15 more mins and I'll go to sleep\", and that's how I end up going to sleep between 1AM and 3AM.\n\n​\n\nI've noticed this behavior of mine takes a tool on my daily productivity. I do not want it like this, I feel there are so many things I should take care of better sooner than later, but I end up slacking off. \n\n​\n\nHope you guys can help me out. Have a nice day btw", "How to begin going to sleep at a fixed time??? Hello, I have some trouble with my sleeping schedule\n\nI have to wake up every day at 7AM, and I find the most optimal time to go to sleep is 11PM. Exactly 8 hours of sleep.\n\n​\n\nThe problem is that it's pretty hard to stick to this. In the evening I usually work from 5/6PM to 8/9PM, afterwards I'm usually pretty unmotivated and tired. At days when I'm actually motivated I manage to take a shower and do my evening routine in time, which allows me to fall asleep by 11PM. \n\nUnfortunately, most of the time when I finish work, I'm not motivated at all, especially if the work took longer than usual. I sometimes manage to shower, sometimes don't, and afterwards I retreat to my PC to play CK3 or to chat on Discord for that sweet dopamine shot. I lose track off time, keep on saying \"ok, 15 more mins and I'll go to sleep\", and that's how I end up going to sleep between 1AM and 3AM.\n\n​\n\nI've noticed this behavior of mine takes a tool on my daily productivity. I do not want it like this, I feel there are so many things I should take care of better sooner than later, but I end up slacking off. \n\n​\n\nHope you guys can help me out. Have a nice day btw", "How to begin going to sleep at a fixed time??? Hello, I have some trouble with my sleeping schedule\n\nI have to wake up every day at 7AM, and I find the most optimal time to go to sleep is 11PM. Exactly 8 hours of sleep.\n\n​\n\nThe problem is that it's pretty hard to stick to this. In the evening I usually work from 5/6PM to 8/9PM, afterwards I'm usually pretty unmotivated and tired. At days when I'm actually motivated I manage to take a shower and do my evening routine in time, which allows me to fall asleep by 11PM. \n\nUnfortunately, most of the time when I finish work, I'm not motivated at all, especially if the work took longer than usual. I sometimes manage to shower, sometimes don't, and afterwards I retreat to my PC to play CK3 or to chat on Discord for that sweet dopamine shot. I lose track off time, keep on saying \"ok, 15 more mins and I'll go to sleep\", and that's how I end up going to sleep between 1AM and 3AM.\n\n​\n\nI've noticed this behavior of mine takes a tool on my daily productivity. I do not want it like this, I feel there are so many things I should take care of better sooner than later, but I end up slacking off. \n\n​\n\nHope you guys can help me out. Have a nice day btw", "How to begin going to sleep at a fixed time??? Hello, I have some trouble with my sleeping schedule\n\nI have to wake up every day at 7AM, and I find the most optimal time to go to sleep is 11PM. Exactly 8 hours of sleep.\n\n​\n\nThe problem is that it's pretty hard to stick to this. In the evening I usually work from 5/6PM to 8/9PM, afterwards I'm usually pretty unmotivated and tired. At days when I'm actually motivated I manage to take a shower and do my evening routine in time, which allows me to fall asleep by 11PM. \n\nUnfortunately, most of the time when I finish work, I'm not motivated at all, especially if the work took longer than usual. I sometimes manage to shower, sometimes don't, and afterwards I retreat to my PC to play CK3 or to chat on Discord for that sweet dopamine shot. I lose track off time, keep on saying \"ok, 15 more mins and I'll go to sleep\", and that's how I end up going to sleep between 1AM and 3AM.\n\n​\n\nI've noticed this behavior of mine takes a tool on my daily productivity. I do not want it like this, I feel there are so many things I should take care of better sooner than later, but I end up slacking off. \n\n​\n\nHope you guys can help me out. Have a nice day btw" ]

[ "Looking at your comments, you largely don’t want to take accountability for it. “It’s not my phone, it’s my PC, I can’t put that in a different room”. You’re missing the point. You’re doing something that keeps your mind active and has light blaring into your eyes to keep you awake. Phone or PC, doesn’t matter. Get off it at a set time every night. And yes you can move it, you don’t need to sleep with a laptop next to your bed so put it in a different room. If you aren’t the only one using it, then let them use it in a different room. At the very least you don’t need it while they do. No one can tell you a secret trick to going to bed on time, it’s about forming new habits and breaking the old ones that keep you up. Set timers, at 11pm you lie in bed and turn off screens. Maybe read a book. Then you sleep. Do that everyday and you’ll get in the habit that at 11pm, you go to sleep. You just have to have the willpower to stop what you want to do and do what you have to", "Set an alarm clock for when you have to stop what you are doing and must get ready for bed. Then stick with it. Of course, fine tune the time as you get into a bedtime routine and get to know better how your routine runs.", "If I need 8 hours sleep, I’ll go to bed an hour earlier and allow myself that extra hour to fall asleep, and rest or read a book. It helps. Only allowing 8 hours for 8 hours of sleep, assumes you are falling asleep on demand and that doesn’t happen.", "Set the phone down in a separate room on a set \"do not disturb\" cycle for whatever amount of time you decide on. If your phone doesn't do this, there are a several apps that help do this exact thing. \n\nThe first few nights will be uncomfortable because you'll not be used to not being on it, but if you can make it through the first 48 hours or so (that number is an estimate based on my personal experience) you'll notice the new routine coming more and more naturally to you.", "If you wanna start falling asleep at a set time, you have to start waking up at a set time. Work backwards.\n\nI know it's gonna suck for a week but eventually your body will start getting tired and exhausted at a \"normie\" time.", "I just have an alarm to tell me to get ready for sleep - works for me. Ultimately if you don’t want to, you won’t though." ]

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[ "how to clean up runny dog mess from different surfaces (concrete, grass), whilst out and about. There's only so much one can do with a plastic bag and leaving it isn't right. I don't want to go out for a walk armed with a huge supply of cleaning materials on the off chance that my dog has a bad tummy.\n\n", "how to clean up runny dog mess from different surfaces (concrete, grass), whilst out and about. There's only so much one can do with a plastic bag and leaving it isn't right. I don't want to go out for a walk armed with a huge supply of cleaning materials on the off chance that my dog has a bad tummy.\n\n" ]

[ "Quart size bottle of water with a sport top, so you can squeeze it and spray any offending doggie squirts away. \n\nPlus, you and pooch can have something to drink during the walk too, and hose yourselves off afterward if you're hot and sweaty.", "if your dog is sick you shouldnt work it just like if you shouldn't excersice if your sick.\n\nIf you don't know your dogs sick you should take better care of your dog and pay more attention to him/her\n\nFailing that you could always ask the persons whos house your dog just shat on for a bucket of water or a hose." ]

[ 4, -2 ]

[ "The best way to write notes (as a student)? i will apreciate any advice, but i'd most value an in depth answer for all school subjects— preferably math, history, english, and science. thanks in advance! :—)", "The best way to write notes (as a student)? i will apreciate any advice, but i'd most value an in depth answer for all school subjects— preferably math, history, english, and science. thanks in advance! :—)", "The best way to write notes (as a student)? i will apreciate any advice, but i'd most value an in depth answer for all school subjects— preferably math, history, english, and science. thanks in advance! :—)", "The best way to write notes (as a student)? i will apreciate any advice, but i'd most value an in depth answer for all school subjects— preferably math, history, english, and science. thanks in advance! :—)", "The best way to write notes (as a student)? i will apreciate any advice, but i'd most value an in depth answer for all school subjects— preferably math, history, english, and science. thanks in advance! :—)", "The best way to write notes (as a student)? i will apreciate any advice, but i'd most value an in depth answer for all school subjects— preferably math, history, english, and science. thanks in advance! :—)", "The best way to write notes (as a student)? i will apreciate any advice, but i'd most value an in depth answer for all school subjects— preferably math, history, english, and science. thanks in advance! :—)", "The best way to write notes (as a student)? i will apreciate any advice, but i'd most value an in depth answer for all school subjects— preferably math, history, english, and science. thanks in advance! :—)", "The best way to write notes (as a student)? i will apreciate any advice, but i'd most value an in depth answer for all school subjects— preferably math, history, english, and science. thanks in advance! :—)" ]

[ "This is just what worked best for me:\nI spent way more time listening to the prof, and making sure I understood what was being discussed...maybe asking a question or two.\n\nI made quick notes to help me remember broad topics, or to remind myself of readings or points I might need to study later.", "I'd recommend using the [cue column](http://www.lsus.edu/Documents/Offices%20and%20Services/Student%20Development%20and%20Counseling%20Center/Cornell%20Note-taking%20method%20updated.pdf) for your subjects other than math. \n\nFor math, you get better with practice and making sure you understand how the process works. ", "Actively listen to the lecture and jot down key points and concepts as the lecturer talks. Don't try to write in complete sentences or finish a sentence when the lecturer moves on. \n\nRight after the lecture is finished , GO OVER YOUR NOTES and fill in any half completed thoughts and sentences. If you don't understand something, ask the lecturer what he/she meant by X. Be sure to get the notes from any class you missed. \n\nBefore the next class, or in class while waiting for it to start, review your notes from the prior class and make sure any jotted notes are completely filled out. \n\nSource: did well in law school.", "Use something to record the audio while taking short notes. then when reading the short notes, if something seems unclear listen to the audio of that part. ", "This is what i did. Buy the book, follow along in the book with the prof and write small notes in the book. Most effective way for me personally", "On a Laptop.... Use OneNote.\n\nIt has a Record Audio feature that links the Audio to the Text you type, so you can listen to what was said at the time you took down a bullet point.\n\nUsed it throughout my Masters and the recordings don't take a lot of space, even for a whole day.", "My method of taking my chemistry notes was to organize by a very broad topic, and mark it with a box on the page ledger.\n\nUnderneath the topic header, I would fill in information about the topic in very basic bullet points, no sentences, no paragraphs.\n\nIf time permitted, I would draw examples to add some more detail. This helped especially when learning about more advanced topics such as Lewis structures and stoichiometry.\n\nAlways be attentive to the information when writing, as it's easier to learn once and review rather than write down and learn after. Ask questions at the end if you're not understanding a subject and always ask for examples.\n\nGo over your notes! Ensure that you have all of the information, otherwise ask the lecturer for whatever you're missing. If you miss a lecture, ensure you receive the notes from a classmate.\n\nHope it helps.\n\n", "In law school I would draw two lines down a page and make notes in the three columns during the lecture. For each class I had a 3-ring binder, and for each section of the class I would have a plastic tabbed divider, and behind the divider a one-page summary of the section, with my original notes behind it. If I did it today I would record all the lectures and go over my notes for clarity.", " I always abbreviated my notes , like government would become gvt makes it quicker also when I'm reading my notes I have to think about it I have to engage with the notes more , sometimes when I'm reading typed out notes I can zone out but still continue to read " ]

[ 10, 7, 5, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "Glancing down at my keyboard is killing my neck and I want to avoid it I spend a ton of time in front of my PC for work and for fun, and I’ve had chronic neck and shoulder pains for years because of this. In the last year or so I’ve made good progress lessening the pain by adapting my setup: monitor arms raising my screens (dual monitor) to the proper height and distance for my eyes, regular and vigorous self-massage with a lacrosse ball, and avoiding slouching as much as possible. I also avoid looking down at my phone and tablet as much as possible, in fact I actively use my phone as little as possible these days. All of that has reduced my misery considerably but I’m still often in pain.\n\nThe majority of my pain is along the back of the neck, both sides but mostly right. Recently I realized just how much I look down at my keyboard while I work, and I’m suspecting this is a big factor in my lingering pain.\n\nI’m a graphic designer/illustrator and 3D modeller, and it’s the shortcuts that kill me — I’ve memorized which keys I need to hit but I can’t get the hang of locating them by touch alone since they’re all over the keyboard and usually require 2 or more buttons. I’ve tried covering up my keyboard so that I can’t peek but that makes it impossible to work — there’s nothing like a homerow to anchor my fingers when my fingers have to jump all over the board!\n\nI’m thinking about getting a new type of keyboard, specifically a compact one with programmable keys (maybe just a keypad with programmable keys to use alongside a normal compact keyboard) but not sure if that would be worth the cost.\n\nAny advice? Thanks in advance.\n\nFor reference:\n—I’m not the best typist but my fingers can dance across letters without my eyes. So typing words isn’t an issue, muscle memory works fine for that. It’s just when I get into design work and start using shortcuts that my neck pain flares up.\n—I use a left-handed mouse and a standard keyboard. Most of my neck pain is on the right side and that may be because my right arm is having to move around the keyboard so much.\n—I have seen two physiotherapists for this issue and neither was much help. I have been doing some stretching and massaging from guides online and like I say this has helped tremendously but I just need to figure out how to avoid looking down and straining my neck so much.", "Glancing down at my keyboard is killing my neck and I want to avoid it I spend a ton of time in front of my PC for work and for fun, and I’ve had chronic neck and shoulder pains for years because of this. In the last year or so I’ve made good progress lessening the pain by adapting my setup: monitor arms raising my screens (dual monitor) to the proper height and distance for my eyes, regular and vigorous self-massage with a lacrosse ball, and avoiding slouching as much as possible. I also avoid looking down at my phone and tablet as much as possible, in fact I actively use my phone as little as possible these days. All of that has reduced my misery considerably but I’m still often in pain.\n\nThe majority of my pain is along the back of the neck, both sides but mostly right. Recently I realized just how much I look down at my keyboard while I work, and I’m suspecting this is a big factor in my lingering pain.\n\nI’m a graphic designer/illustrator and 3D modeller, and it’s the shortcuts that kill me — I’ve memorized which keys I need to hit but I can’t get the hang of locating them by touch alone since they’re all over the keyboard and usually require 2 or more buttons. I’ve tried covering up my keyboard so that I can’t peek but that makes it impossible to work — there’s nothing like a homerow to anchor my fingers when my fingers have to jump all over the board!\n\nI’m thinking about getting a new type of keyboard, specifically a compact one with programmable keys (maybe just a keypad with programmable keys to use alongside a normal compact keyboard) but not sure if that would be worth the cost.\n\nAny advice? Thanks in advance.\n\nFor reference:\n—I’m not the best typist but my fingers can dance across letters without my eyes. So typing words isn’t an issue, muscle memory works fine for that. It’s just when I get into design work and start using shortcuts that my neck pain flares up.\n—I use a left-handed mouse and a standard keyboard. Most of my neck pain is on the right side and that may be because my right arm is having to move around the keyboard so much.\n—I have seen two physiotherapists for this issue and neither was much help. I have been doing some stretching and massaging from guides online and like I say this has helped tremendously but I just need to figure out how to avoid looking down and straining my neck so much.", "Glancing down at my keyboard is killing my neck and I want to avoid it I spend a ton of time in front of my PC for work and for fun, and I’ve had chronic neck and shoulder pains for years because of this. In the last year or so I’ve made good progress lessening the pain by adapting my setup: monitor arms raising my screens (dual monitor) to the proper height and distance for my eyes, regular and vigorous self-massage with a lacrosse ball, and avoiding slouching as much as possible. I also avoid looking down at my phone and tablet as much as possible, in fact I actively use my phone as little as possible these days. All of that has reduced my misery considerably but I’m still often in pain.\n\nThe majority of my pain is along the back of the neck, both sides but mostly right. Recently I realized just how much I look down at my keyboard while I work, and I’m suspecting this is a big factor in my lingering pain.\n\nI’m a graphic designer/illustrator and 3D modeller, and it’s the shortcuts that kill me — I’ve memorized which keys I need to hit but I can’t get the hang of locating them by touch alone since they’re all over the keyboard and usually require 2 or more buttons. I’ve tried covering up my keyboard so that I can’t peek but that makes it impossible to work — there’s nothing like a homerow to anchor my fingers when my fingers have to jump all over the board!\n\nI’m thinking about getting a new type of keyboard, specifically a compact one with programmable keys (maybe just a keypad with programmable keys to use alongside a normal compact keyboard) but not sure if that would be worth the cost.\n\nAny advice? Thanks in advance.\n\nFor reference:\n—I’m not the best typist but my fingers can dance across letters without my eyes. So typing words isn’t an issue, muscle memory works fine for that. It’s just when I get into design work and start using shortcuts that my neck pain flares up.\n—I use a left-handed mouse and a standard keyboard. Most of my neck pain is on the right side and that may be because my right arm is having to move around the keyboard so much.\n—I have seen two physiotherapists for this issue and neither was much help. I have been doing some stretching and massaging from guides online and like I say this has helped tremendously but I just need to figure out how to avoid looking down and straining my neck so much.", "Glancing down at my keyboard is killing my neck and I want to avoid it I spend a ton of time in front of my PC for work and for fun, and I’ve had chronic neck and shoulder pains for years because of this. In the last year or so I’ve made good progress lessening the pain by adapting my setup: monitor arms raising my screens (dual monitor) to the proper height and distance for my eyes, regular and vigorous self-massage with a lacrosse ball, and avoiding slouching as much as possible. I also avoid looking down at my phone and tablet as much as possible, in fact I actively use my phone as little as possible these days. All of that has reduced my misery considerably but I’m still often in pain.\n\nThe majority of my pain is along the back of the neck, both sides but mostly right. Recently I realized just how much I look down at my keyboard while I work, and I’m suspecting this is a big factor in my lingering pain.\n\nI’m a graphic designer/illustrator and 3D modeller, and it’s the shortcuts that kill me — I’ve memorized which keys I need to hit but I can’t get the hang of locating them by touch alone since they’re all over the keyboard and usually require 2 or more buttons. I’ve tried covering up my keyboard so that I can’t peek but that makes it impossible to work — there’s nothing like a homerow to anchor my fingers when my fingers have to jump all over the board!\n\nI’m thinking about getting a new type of keyboard, specifically a compact one with programmable keys (maybe just a keypad with programmable keys to use alongside a normal compact keyboard) but not sure if that would be worth the cost.\n\nAny advice? Thanks in advance.\n\nFor reference:\n—I’m not the best typist but my fingers can dance across letters without my eyes. So typing words isn’t an issue, muscle memory works fine for that. It’s just when I get into design work and start using shortcuts that my neck pain flares up.\n—I use a left-handed mouse and a standard keyboard. Most of my neck pain is on the right side and that may be because my right arm is having to move around the keyboard so much.\n—I have seen two physiotherapists for this issue and neither was much help. I have been doing some stretching and massaging from guides online and like I say this has helped tremendously but I just need to figure out how to avoid looking down and straining my neck so much.", "Glancing down at my keyboard is killing my neck and I want to avoid it I spend a ton of time in front of my PC for work and for fun, and I’ve had chronic neck and shoulder pains for years because of this. In the last year or so I’ve made good progress lessening the pain by adapting my setup: monitor arms raising my screens (dual monitor) to the proper height and distance for my eyes, regular and vigorous self-massage with a lacrosse ball, and avoiding slouching as much as possible. I also avoid looking down at my phone and tablet as much as possible, in fact I actively use my phone as little as possible these days. All of that has reduced my misery considerably but I’m still often in pain.\n\nThe majority of my pain is along the back of the neck, both sides but mostly right. Recently I realized just how much I look down at my keyboard while I work, and I’m suspecting this is a big factor in my lingering pain.\n\nI’m a graphic designer/illustrator and 3D modeller, and it’s the shortcuts that kill me — I’ve memorized which keys I need to hit but I can’t get the hang of locating them by touch alone since they’re all over the keyboard and usually require 2 or more buttons. I’ve tried covering up my keyboard so that I can’t peek but that makes it impossible to work — there’s nothing like a homerow to anchor my fingers when my fingers have to jump all over the board!\n\nI’m thinking about getting a new type of keyboard, specifically a compact one with programmable keys (maybe just a keypad with programmable keys to use alongside a normal compact keyboard) but not sure if that would be worth the cost.\n\nAny advice? Thanks in advance.\n\nFor reference:\n—I’m not the best typist but my fingers can dance across letters without my eyes. So typing words isn’t an issue, muscle memory works fine for that. It’s just when I get into design work and start using shortcuts that my neck pain flares up.\n—I use a left-handed mouse and a standard keyboard. Most of my neck pain is on the right side and that may be because my right arm is having to move around the keyboard so much.\n—I have seen two physiotherapists for this issue and neither was much help. I have been doing some stretching and massaging from guides online and like I say this has helped tremendously but I just need to figure out how to avoid looking down and straining my neck so much." ]

[ "Get a $100 riser for your computer so you can stand up or a $20 monitor riser so you're looking straight as you sit rather than down.", "Maybe you could use something like small tape strips on the keys you want to use often but can't find without looking. Then the key will feel different and you can find it without using your eyes", "Hey I’m a script writer so I feel your pain. Hmmm, Could you put things on your important keys so you could feel where they are? Like tape or something? Besides that doing daily stretches helps my neck pain. Also taking little breaks every hour helps too. Just walk around a bit. I’ve heard people sitting on exercise balls instead of office chairs helps too but I havnt tried that.", "Along with what others have said about seeking a good physio, one thing that helps me with chronic neck and shoulder pain has been yoga. \n\n[This](https://youtu.be/aKsu112bzHE) is one of my favorite vids from a channel I follow. \n\nI carry all my stress in my neck and shoulders, and I'm on the computer a lot too. But after some of those stretches I feel so much better.", "Try to play some fast paced video games (moba or fps), they usually covers the left side of the keyboard (because you have to use your right hand for mouse) pretty well and if you are a competitive person, you'll automatically pick up the left hand keys in order to not get destroyed.\n\nOr you can push your keyboard way forward so instead of moving your neck&head, you could use your eyes to glance." ]

[ 3, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?", "How to get back to reading books I feel like this is a common problem of my time and generation. If been a big reader in the past but over the last couple of years I lost the motivation to pick up a book for a read as it seems to be exhausting me even more after a stressful day. It feels way easier to watch some Netflix.\nBut I want to get back to the point where I am able to enjoy a good read again. Any tips?" ]

[ "Start small - find a book of short stories or poems that you may like. Or a book in a genre you enjoy.", "I think the biggest thing is finding a book that interests you. Don't try going out the gate reading a book just because the book is going to help you grow or teach you something if you are not interested in it at all. If you like fantasy, read a fantasy novel. If you like manga, read manga. Reading should be a fun activity.", "First you must commit to separating yourself from your electronics, mob too, for part of your day. It is impossible to re-learn concentration where you are continually checking your messages and 'news'.\n\nYou may find that breaking the habit or dependency on your electronics is harder than you imagine and your brain will be telling you that you 'need' the electronics as a distraction, perhaps a flight too, from life. \n\nWhere people cannot even commit to talking to each other face to face and leave their mob alone, physically and mentally, while they do so, what hope is there that such a short attention span would cope with reading beyond the cover of a book?\n\nTurn off Netflix and your mob and come back.", "A potential strategy is to go somewhere other than home to read.\n\n1. A library\n2. A bookstore (I've read entire books a couple chapters at a time in bookstores, it has the added benefit of feeling thrifty)\n3. Bring a chair to unique locations (one summer I brought a lawn chair to parks, the edge of rivers, and the tops of cliffs to make the reading session feel special)\n4. A car\n5. A quiet cafe\n6. A park\n7. Any public building that has a table, bench, or chair\n\nBest wishes!", "It's not really reading, but have you tried audio books? \nI cannot read books. I've tried, and I just never find the time to do it. But if someone reads a book to me while I drive or take a bath.... Well... That's another story.", "Get a library card. You can do get it online and check out ebooks online. Choose the genres you're interested in and the Libby or Overdrive app will probably show you the librarians' picks in that genre. You can pick items immediately available or place holds on things you'll look forward to reading.", "Short stories of the genre you like the most ftw! \n\nNever mind the know-it-alls preaching what you should be reading. \n\nLike somebody commented before me, it should be fun, leisure. Once you get back to the habit, you'll pick those growth-related books without effort. \n\nJust focus on having fun first.", "I read that you're already listening to audiobooks. Have you tried listening to audiobooks while reading the book? It's weirdly helpful for me with focusing on the text.\n\nTest it out with some free public domain books read by Librivox. :)", "I have to purposely charge my phone in a different room. I also found at the beginning of the pandemic that setting mini reading goals helped - such as 10 mins a day or 10 pages a day etc. You will quickly see that you read for more than the 10 mins and soon you’ll be ‘connected’ with the story.", "I fell out of love with reading, and still do from time to time. \n\nI bought myself a scratch off poster of the “top 100 books” and I’ve challenged myself to read all of them. I’m the kind of person who likes ticking off things on a to-do list so this works for me. \n\nDespite that, I still lose motivation every now and then. The best thing for me is to just pick up a book and start it. No pressure, just start it. Having a kindle helps because I don’t have to wait for a physical book. \n\nIf I can’t even bring myself to just pick up a book and start it, sometimes other things hype me up. Like the idea of watching a book-based film after reading the book.\n\nOr reading the history behind a book before starting. I know that some books will make me more aware of the world I live in after reading them and that gets me going. Books like ‘Long walk to freedom’ by Nelson Mandela, or ‘Grapes of Wrath’.\n\nBooks designed for young adults can be good ones to grip your attention very quickly if you just give it 20 mins of reading. Like Hunger Games, Noughts and Crosses and Harry Potter.", "Do it at bed time because it is relaxing. Starting a new book is like starting a new series, so it might take some time to get into it. Sometimes you are not in the mood for it, but it is better for your sleep than screen time.", "Watch a youtube review of book summaries. Sometimes hearing people laugh on a video will trick your brain into thinking you will like to read books too because of watching TV and Netflix sometimes being a social process .", "Reading is hard for a lot of people now due to the prevalence of instant gratification, with reading you have to remain focused for long periods of time whereas tiktok, Netflix, etc will catch your attention and keep it rather quickly", "My tips:\n\nJust start with it. Personally I find it difficult to start in a book, and then when I'm through the first chapters, I can't put it down. So I'm planning some time to 'start a book', even if it is only 5 min/1 page before going to bed.\n\nWhen you don't like a book: don't be afraid to put it away. It is supposed to be fun. Sometimes it takes a chapter or 2 to get into it, but if you still don't like it, no shame in continuing with another book.\n\nIf it is something for you: join/start a book club. A lot of young people want to read more, so you might find some companionship. It might also help to have a 'deadline', and discussing books might help to see new ways to interpret a book.", "Ive acquired a shelf full of books I saw with catchy titles about this or that topic i found interesting, with inspiration at the time to read and learn from them. Often I would, but never consistently. \nThen I started reading fiction, its like candy to me. I read my \"learner\" books in parallel, slowly. \n\nMy advice is try different genres", "I would recommend researching a good series that's in an area you're already interested in - for me, there's often inertia for starting a new series or new book, but once I'm into it, I have a drive to read more each night. So if you have a series that interests you (like Harry Potter, Outlander, Wheel of Time, etc), you just have to get past that \"hump\" of the first one!", "Try reading while listening to the same audiobook. It helps me get into it quickly. When you are sufficiently warmed up and interested you'll notice you woun't need the audiobook any more.", "Try magazines! I recently got the New Yorker and having something physical to flip and seeing what articles I might be interested in really triggered my love for reading again", "Something which definitely helped me get back into reading physical books was starting with audiobooks. I would just play one for 30 mins each night and it just reminded me how good books actually are. It helps as well if you have something else you need to be doing at the same time like driving to work etc", "Personally, I re-read something from my prime reading years that I was always nostalgic about. Pick a series if you can. Then it's just about budgeting time", "Make it easy. Read one page. \nOnce you start, you'll likely continue. \n\nRead one page per day for a while and your habit will build!", "Look for an epistolary novel where the story is told through diary entries, police reports,letters, transcriptions etc. I found it made it easier to start reading one tiny section of thesez and if you find it hard to concentrate reading to the end of the section rather than a hefty chapter is much easier! World war z is a great example if that's your thing. Some more are below :) \n\nhttps://www.google.com/amp/s/bookriot.com/100-epistolary-novels-from-the-past-and-present/amp/", "It took me 3 weeks to buy the book i was going to buy and it’s been 2 days since it’s sitting on my night stand. I make little progress every now and then but i know one day i will start which is tomorrow. I planned to wake up at 5:30 to read it and start changing my habits", "If you’re struggling to get into reading but like watching Netflix, then watch a foreign film/show and put subtitles on. It’ll get you back to reading again and help keep your focus.", "I started by reading the samples of books on my Kindle and there was one I couldn't put down and bought and after that I read all the authors books and had to upgrade to kindle unlimited bc I am reading 3 or 4 books a month", "I have the same problem, I can start reading a book, but if I come to a point that I don’t like, maybe 2+ pages of boring travel and conversation I simply put it down. With a tv show when I come back the show will be on a better part, and I love that. With a book, I come back to the same place though, and I hate that.", "I found reading a book I've read before or a book that is a movie I've seen helps out at the beginning, so if you forget certain details you just read, you know the story line already so you kinda fill in the gaps as you go.", "I don’t necessarily know how, but I do know not to do so just because you’ve been taught that you should. So consider your motivations. If they are valid, best of luck.", "Here is what helped me finishing 8 books in 2021:\n\nRead 10-15 minutes before going to bed. 10-15 minutes less sleep won’t hurt you and it even helps you getting relaxed (depends on the book of course), so you can fall asleep faster.\n\n10-15 minutes doesn’t sound like much but believe me, over time it compounds massively.", "Audiobooks yes. But for reading recall some childhood booms you loved. You’ll read them fast and it’s amazing what you forgot (I did bridge to Tara it his and mixed up files of Mrs basil frankweiler. Wedding game) last year and that kick started me" ]

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[ "How can I deal with a friend who won't refrain from smoking around me? I'm a non smoker, and being around cigarette smoke gives me a headache, and makes me feel nauseous and gross and grumpy. My friend smokes in her house. She has several children, so she limits smoking to her bedroom. So that's where we visit. I've offended offered for her to visit at my place, but she often can't because of the kids. For a long time now I've been wanting to say something, but I know she'll be resistive/defensive. I once asked her to use one of those smoking buddies to exhale her smoke into, and she flat out refused. \n\nToday she asked me to come over after she was done work to visit, and I straight up told her how I feel. I tried to emphasize that I didn't want to offend her, but I just couldn't do it anymore. Sometimes I get anxiety thinking about having to go to her house and sit in the stagnant smoke. I told her that I was starting to associate her house with feeling ill. She said it would only be her there smoking (as opposed to her husband as well and sometimes another friend smoking), and inquired if it was really that bad. I replied that yes, one person was bad enough to make me feel sick. And then the conversation ended. She never replied. \n\nI feel like it's going to come down to me choosing whether I want to visit her and sacrifice my health, or not visit at all. We've been friends since early high school, almost 20 years. I can't help but feel that a good friend wouldn't put this addiction ahead of a friendship, all the while expecting the friend to sacrifice their well being? Is asking her to refrain from smoking around me, and going outside or in the garage asking too much?\n\nMuch gratitude to anyone that can give me any tips on dealing with this issue. \n\n", "How can I deal with a friend who won't refrain from smoking around me? I'm a non smoker, and being around cigarette smoke gives me a headache, and makes me feel nauseous and gross and grumpy. My friend smokes in her house. She has several children, so she limits smoking to her bedroom. So that's where we visit. I've offended offered for her to visit at my place, but she often can't because of the kids. For a long time now I've been wanting to say something, but I know she'll be resistive/defensive. I once asked her to use one of those smoking buddies to exhale her smoke into, and she flat out refused. \n\nToday she asked me to come over after she was done work to visit, and I straight up told her how I feel. I tried to emphasize that I didn't want to offend her, but I just couldn't do it anymore. Sometimes I get anxiety thinking about having to go to her house and sit in the stagnant smoke. I told her that I was starting to associate her house with feeling ill. She said it would only be her there smoking (as opposed to her husband as well and sometimes another friend smoking), and inquired if it was really that bad. I replied that yes, one person was bad enough to make me feel sick. And then the conversation ended. She never replied. \n\nI feel like it's going to come down to me choosing whether I want to visit her and sacrifice my health, or not visit at all. We've been friends since early high school, almost 20 years. I can't help but feel that a good friend wouldn't put this addiction ahead of a friendship, all the while expecting the friend to sacrifice their well being? Is asking her to refrain from smoking around me, and going outside or in the garage asking too much?\n\nMuch gratitude to anyone that can give me any tips on dealing with this issue. \n\n", "How can I deal with a friend who won't refrain from smoking around me? I'm a non smoker, and being around cigarette smoke gives me a headache, and makes me feel nauseous and gross and grumpy. My friend smokes in her house. She has several children, so she limits smoking to her bedroom. So that's where we visit. I've offended offered for her to visit at my place, but she often can't because of the kids. For a long time now I've been wanting to say something, but I know she'll be resistive/defensive. I once asked her to use one of those smoking buddies to exhale her smoke into, and she flat out refused. \n\nToday she asked me to come over after she was done work to visit, and I straight up told her how I feel. I tried to emphasize that I didn't want to offend her, but I just couldn't do it anymore. Sometimes I get anxiety thinking about having to go to her house and sit in the stagnant smoke. I told her that I was starting to associate her house with feeling ill. She said it would only be her there smoking (as opposed to her husband as well and sometimes another friend smoking), and inquired if it was really that bad. I replied that yes, one person was bad enough to make me feel sick. And then the conversation ended. She never replied. \n\nI feel like it's going to come down to me choosing whether I want to visit her and sacrifice my health, or not visit at all. We've been friends since early high school, almost 20 years. I can't help but feel that a good friend wouldn't put this addiction ahead of a friendship, all the while expecting the friend to sacrifice their well being? Is asking her to refrain from smoking around me, and going outside or in the garage asking too much?\n\nMuch gratitude to anyone that can give me any tips on dealing with this issue. \n\n", "How can I deal with a friend who won't refrain from smoking around me? I'm a non smoker, and being around cigarette smoke gives me a headache, and makes me feel nauseous and gross and grumpy. My friend smokes in her house. She has several children, so she limits smoking to her bedroom. So that's where we visit. I've offended offered for her to visit at my place, but she often can't because of the kids. For a long time now I've been wanting to say something, but I know she'll be resistive/defensive. I once asked her to use one of those smoking buddies to exhale her smoke into, and she flat out refused. \n\nToday she asked me to come over after she was done work to visit, and I straight up told her how I feel. I tried to emphasize that I didn't want to offend her, but I just couldn't do it anymore. Sometimes I get anxiety thinking about having to go to her house and sit in the stagnant smoke. I told her that I was starting to associate her house with feeling ill. She said it would only be her there smoking (as opposed to her husband as well and sometimes another friend smoking), and inquired if it was really that bad. I replied that yes, one person was bad enough to make me feel sick. And then the conversation ended. She never replied. \n\nI feel like it's going to come down to me choosing whether I want to visit her and sacrifice my health, or not visit at all. We've been friends since early high school, almost 20 years. I can't help but feel that a good friend wouldn't put this addiction ahead of a friendship, all the while expecting the friend to sacrifice their well being? Is asking her to refrain from smoking around me, and going outside or in the garage asking too much?\n\nMuch gratitude to anyone that can give me any tips on dealing with this issue. \n\n", "How can I deal with a friend who won't refrain from smoking around me? I'm a non smoker, and being around cigarette smoke gives me a headache, and makes me feel nauseous and gross and grumpy. My friend smokes in her house. She has several children, so she limits smoking to her bedroom. So that's where we visit. I've offended offered for her to visit at my place, but she often can't because of the kids. For a long time now I've been wanting to say something, but I know she'll be resistive/defensive. I once asked her to use one of those smoking buddies to exhale her smoke into, and she flat out refused. \n\nToday she asked me to come over after she was done work to visit, and I straight up told her how I feel. I tried to emphasize that I didn't want to offend her, but I just couldn't do it anymore. Sometimes I get anxiety thinking about having to go to her house and sit in the stagnant smoke. I told her that I was starting to associate her house with feeling ill. She said it would only be her there smoking (as opposed to her husband as well and sometimes another friend smoking), and inquired if it was really that bad. I replied that yes, one person was bad enough to make me feel sick. And then the conversation ended. She never replied. \n\nI feel like it's going to come down to me choosing whether I want to visit her and sacrifice my health, or not visit at all. We've been friends since early high school, almost 20 years. I can't help but feel that a good friend wouldn't put this addiction ahead of a friendship, all the while expecting the friend to sacrifice their well being? Is asking her to refrain from smoking around me, and going outside or in the garage asking too much?\n\nMuch gratitude to anyone that can give me any tips on dealing with this issue. \n\n" ]

[ "Show up with an N100 particulate mask on your face, and a hand held fan. That should get the point across. \n\n(jk that's a bit melodramatic)\n\nI smoked for about 13 years, and I've been cigarette free for about as long. I don't mind cigarettes if I'm outside and socializing with smokers, but indoors I've noticed lately that the smell and feeling when it hits my lungs is profoundly negative. It's nauseating and triggers an instant headache. \n \nDon't feel bad about telling your friend how you feel, and feel free to reiterate it. \nLet her know that it's not just your health you're concerned about, it's hers. \n", "I hear you! It makes me ill too. Bleh, can't stand that shit. If it were me, I'd probably just stop hanging around her because I just can't take that. But Skype and phone are good solutions. Or hang around in places where she has to go outside to smoke, like a restaurant.", "Your answer may be right there in your question! You said yourself that she doesn't smoke around the kids... so maybe if it doesn't feel too weird, you might start hanging out more with the kids while you visit. Maybe you could bring up the idea of playing a board game together? Every mom loves seeing how her kid's vocabulary improves by playing Scrabble. Or bring over a huge puzzle and see if the kids want to dump it on the dining room table and work on it together with the adults. \n\nIt's time to get out of that room and make her go somewhere to smoke if she's so desperate. You can firmly set your boundaries, just like she did with not smoking around the kids, and obviously if she can follow those rules, she should both understand and respect yours... IN THEORY. But, if all else fails, **just lie** and tell this air-destroyer that your doctor told you you're developing asthma and you can't be in unventilated spaces with her if she can't exercise the self-control required to respect your need to breathe. (I suppose you could say it less snarkily than that, but as a 20 yr ex-smoker, I have a hard time pretending to be nice to unrepentant smokers. I hate that shit.) \n\n", "I would make it clear that this isn't an issue of just \"not liking\" the smoke/smoking, it's physical symptoms. That might put it in a light that's easier for her to accept. Or if you do go, sit near an open window, if possible. If that fails, maybe Skype to keep in touch, or something like that? Sorry I don't have any other ideas. :/", "You probably think that people who vape are losers, but the actual intended purpose of vaping is to quit smoking, not blow huge clouds that you would never have made when you smoked. Ecigs work, but you have to start the day with it and commit to it (no doing both). Taking away cigarettes to do it isn't always the answer either. I still have my last pack of cigarettes 4 years later. Sometimes having the option is a safety net that offers comfort and avoids the anxiety that would come from not having cigarettes does to smokers. I quit on day one and never smoked again (ok i tried one a week later and put it out halfway). Ecigs are superior in every way, and I was able to slowly wean myself off of them over the course of a couple years. If they try and fail just hit em with it when they get sick (and they WILL get sick) and are having difficulty smoking anyway. " ]

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[ "How to help a choking dog? Time sensitive! Jk, that's morbid. \n \nMy dog likes to chew on small things and as hard as I try, he always seems to find *something.* He hasn't choked on anything yet, and he hopefully never will, but I am paranoid. \n \nMost of what I've read is about opening his mouth and trying to pull the thing out, but I'm deathly afraid that, if it's *stuck*, I won't be able to grip it and might push it further down his throat, making matters worse. I've also read that the 'dog heimlich' should only be used as a last resort, as it can seriously hurt the dog. \n \nSo in the event that my dog starts choking, what should I do?", "How to help a choking dog? Time sensitive! Jk, that's morbid. \n \nMy dog likes to chew on small things and as hard as I try, he always seems to find *something.* He hasn't choked on anything yet, and he hopefully never will, but I am paranoid. \n \nMost of what I've read is about opening his mouth and trying to pull the thing out, but I'm deathly afraid that, if it's *stuck*, I won't be able to grip it and might push it further down his throat, making matters worse. I've also read that the 'dog heimlich' should only be used as a last resort, as it can seriously hurt the dog. \n \nSo in the event that my dog starts choking, what should I do?", "How to help a choking dog? Time sensitive! Jk, that's morbid. \n \nMy dog likes to chew on small things and as hard as I try, he always seems to find *something.* He hasn't choked on anything yet, and he hopefully never will, but I am paranoid. \n \nMost of what I've read is about opening his mouth and trying to pull the thing out, but I'm deathly afraid that, if it's *stuck*, I won't be able to grip it and might push it further down his throat, making matters worse. I've also read that the 'dog heimlich' should only be used as a last resort, as it can seriously hurt the dog. \n \nSo in the event that my dog starts choking, what should I do?", "How to help a choking dog? Time sensitive! Jk, that's morbid. \n \nMy dog likes to chew on small things and as hard as I try, he always seems to find *something.* He hasn't choked on anything yet, and he hopefully never will, but I am paranoid. \n \nMost of what I've read is about opening his mouth and trying to pull the thing out, but I'm deathly afraid that, if it's *stuck*, I won't be able to grip it and might push it further down his throat, making matters worse. I've also read that the 'dog heimlich' should only be used as a last resort, as it can seriously hurt the dog. \n \nSo in the event that my dog starts choking, what should I do?" ]

[ "If your dog is hacking or coughing try to let him get it out on his own.\n\nIf he's not getting ANY air in or out use the heimlich.\n\nOn another note the best medicine in this case is probably good prevention. Does he have a solid drop it command?", "I once (being stupid) gave my dog a sausage from my leftovers and when she stared coughing I thought she will be OK she's just eaten it too quickly, but it continued and it turned into hacking and gagging I turned round and she stared to lay down, so I fucking run up to her, forced her mouth open and literally pulled it out of her throat with the thumb and index finger, she stood up and acted like normal and I just cuddled her for a while, went from almost killing my dog to saving her.. Fuck I'm stupid", "Dogs hacking and coughing while gobbling up something is perfectly normal. My dog seemed to choke himself on every meal (including the infamous chicken bones) but lived to 18. Cause of death was euthanasia as his legs started to become paralyzed. ", "Check out your local Red Cross for courses offered. Just like with people, they offer 1-2 night seminars in pet first aid." ]

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[ "promotional exam in 4 months. How can I best study and retain this type of material? The exam is entirely multiple choice. A quarter of the questions come from the crimes code of my state. So, for example, a question will read: what is the grading of Arson? And they will provide 4 answers (felony 1, misdemeanor 3, etc...).\n\nThe source material is literally written in lawyer speak. There are no concepts to grasp, just 100s of crimes and their subsequent gradings. \n\nIs there a technique I can use to better retain this type of information or do I just commit to banging my head in repition until it sticks?", "promotional exam in 4 months. How can I best study and retain this type of material? The exam is entirely multiple choice. A quarter of the questions come from the crimes code of my state. So, for example, a question will read: what is the grading of Arson? And they will provide 4 answers (felony 1, misdemeanor 3, etc...).\n\nThe source material is literally written in lawyer speak. There are no concepts to grasp, just 100s of crimes and their subsequent gradings. \n\nIs there a technique I can use to better retain this type of information or do I just commit to banging my head in repition until it sticks?", "promotional exam in 4 months. How can I best study and retain this type of material? The exam is entirely multiple choice. A quarter of the questions come from the crimes code of my state. So, for example, a question will read: what is the grading of Arson? And they will provide 4 answers (felony 1, misdemeanor 3, etc...).\n\nThe source material is literally written in lawyer speak. There are no concepts to grasp, just 100s of crimes and their subsequent gradings. \n\nIs there a technique I can use to better retain this type of information or do I just commit to banging my head in repition until it sticks?", "promotional exam in 4 months. How can I best study and retain this type of material? The exam is entirely multiple choice. A quarter of the questions come from the crimes code of my state. So, for example, a question will read: what is the grading of Arson? And they will provide 4 answers (felony 1, misdemeanor 3, etc...).\n\nThe source material is literally written in lawyer speak. There are no concepts to grasp, just 100s of crimes and their subsequent gradings. \n\nIs there a technique I can use to better retain this type of information or do I just commit to banging my head in repition until it sticks?" ]

[ "Read and then Hand write everything you want to learn. Hand writing is proven to be way more effective at memory retention than typing, highlighting or just reading.", "Look into Cornell notes, they are an excellent way of actively studying. You ask a broader ISS question on the left and answer it on the right with shorthand, bullets and drawings (drawing are the best to remember things- use colorful pens and pencils! At the end of the unit of notes write a summary about that section. Then fold the paper so you only see the questions on the left. Without looking at the notes on the right try to answer it outloud. Then check, anything you missed or forgot highlight it to study later. Google Cornell notes it may help! Good luck 🍀", "Little and often is what works best usually. Don't slog at study trying to bash it into your head, look at the material a hundred times a day as you live your life. Jump from topic to topic, make charts and little summaries and stick them on your walls, look for patterns or insights that give order and structure to all that mass of detail. Develop a love of learning and keep it for the rest of your life.", "I know in my state we have about three companies that run training seminars. They are expensive and intensive but if you want to make rank it is a small investment that will pay dividends for years to come" ]

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[ "How to get friends to want to do things with you? A little backstory, I have no problem making friends and talking to them at school, but they tend to go out often and I typically don't get invited or don't get to participate in many things outside of class, what should I do?", "How to get friends to want to do things with you? A little backstory, I have no problem making friends and talking to them at school, but they tend to go out often and I typically don't get invited or don't get to participate in many things outside of class, what should I do?", "How to get friends to want to do things with you? A little backstory, I have no problem making friends and talking to them at school, but they tend to go out often and I typically don't get invited or don't get to participate in many things outside of class, what should I do?" ]

[ "Tell them. Say something like \"If something's up, I would like to join you. Invite me :D\".\n\nIf they still don't invite you, it's time to move on and make other friends who actually want to hang out with you.", "Get involved. Join student clubs, or band, or choir, or soccer, or tryout for plays, or chess club or whatever interests you. ", "A good way to do it is for you to pick something you enjoy and you know your friends will enjoy or will be happy to try. Once you've picked a date (it can be as specific or loose as you like but pick at least a rough time frame) then simply ask if your friends would like to do it. For example say \n\n\n\"Hey guys, does anyone want to go see the [insert movie title here] next [insert date: you could say specifically, i.e next Saturday, or you could be rough and say next week]. \n\nOnce you invite people to do something with it they will see that you enjoy doing things out of school, they will be more likely to invite you. As you said in the other comment, they usually do it and it's over before you know it so by you inviting them to things they will invite you.\n\nAlternatively, if they really are your friends, I would just ask them if, the next time they do something, they would invite you, they may just think that you don't like to do things out of school and there's no harm in asking." ]

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[ "How to change main e-mail account across the internet? I have a google account(and the corresponding gmail) I've been using on hundreds of websites over the past 10 years or so.\n\nI want to create a new google account and use that as my main account.\nIs there an easy way to change the mail accounts registered on multiple sites? Or do I need to change them manually.\nThanks in advance.", "How to change main e-mail account across the internet? I have a google account(and the corresponding gmail) I've been using on hundreds of websites over the past 10 years or so.\n\nI want to create a new google account and use that as my main account.\nIs there an easy way to change the mail accounts registered on multiple sites? Or do I need to change them manually.\nThanks in advance.", "How to change main e-mail account across the internet? I have a google account(and the corresponding gmail) I've been using on hundreds of websites over the past 10 years or so.\n\nI want to create a new google account and use that as my main account.\nIs there an easy way to change the mail accounts registered on multiple sites? Or do I need to change them manually.\nThanks in advance.", "How to change main e-mail account across the internet? I have a google account(and the corresponding gmail) I've been using on hundreds of websites over the past 10 years or so.\n\nI want to create a new google account and use that as my main account.\nIs there an easy way to change the mail accounts registered on multiple sites? Or do I need to change them manually.\nThanks in advance." ]

[ "Well, you can use either one of these websites to get your data and delete your accounts on several popular platforms, if that helps:\n\n- https://www.justgetmydata.com\n\n- https://www.justdeleteme.xyz\n\n​\n\nOtherwise, what you can do is forward all incoming mail from your old address into an alias of your new GMail address.\n\[email protected]\n\n→ forward to →\n\[email protected]\n\nBy adding a \"+\" after your email, you create an instant alias. Anything after the + does not count towards your email on most popular email service providers.\n\nYou can set up your inbox to deliver emails addressed to your old email to a folder in your new email.\n\n​\n\n\nYou can also find out what platforms have your login credentials if you use a password manager. \n\nGoogle Chrome browser has a built in password manager. If you clicked on \"Save\" every time you were prompted to save your login credentials, you can access them from your security settings.\n\nYou will still have to change them one by one, but at least you will know which platforms you need to change your credentials on.\n\n​\n\nThis process is inconvenient, even with Single Sign On service, many platforms do not provide a unified experience where you can change all your credentials from one centralized hub. If they did, it would be a massive privacy and security risk, for the time being.\n\n\n​\n\nI hope something I wrote was useful to you.\n\nAll the best!\n\n​\n\nP.S. You can add a period anywhere in your email address before the \"@\" symbol on GMail, and it will still be delivered to your main email address. \n\nFor example:\n\nemail@gmail is the same as:\n\n- e.mail@gmail\n- em.ail@gmail\n- ema.il@gmail\n\nEtc...\n\nJust be sure to configure your inbox to recieve from the aliases you've signed up with \n\nIt's another way to create aliases to track which platforms sell your data, but also a great way to organize your inbox for efficiency. Especially if you receive many emails daily.", "Have to do it manually.\n\nGood time to start using a password manager, if you aren't using one already. You can work through the accounts systematically, delete the ones you don't want, add 2FA to the important ones.", "I’m also going through this as I try to migrate from gmail.com to an actual Google Workspace account. My SSO is a _mess_ right now.", "I don’t think there’s any real easy way to do this other than manually. Recently I’ve been using a custom email for signups because then if I did want to change my main email provider, I could change which email they are routed to." ]

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[ "Making small talk with people you don't know. We've all been there, sitting next to somebody and having nothing to talk about. It's aggravating.\n\nFor my new job i have to be able to walk up to strangers and have a little talk with them for a few minutes. Since i don't personally know the people i have nothing to talk to them about and could use some small talk tips!", "Making small talk with people you don't know. We've all been there, sitting next to somebody and having nothing to talk about. It's aggravating.\n\nFor my new job i have to be able to walk up to strangers and have a little talk with them for a few minutes. Since i don't personally know the people i have nothing to talk to them about and could use some small talk tips!", "Making small talk with people you don't know. We've all been there, sitting next to somebody and having nothing to talk about. It's aggravating.\n\nFor my new job i have to be able to walk up to strangers and have a little talk with them for a few minutes. Since i don't personally know the people i have nothing to talk to them about and could use some small talk tips!", "Making small talk with people you don't know. We've all been there, sitting next to somebody and having nothing to talk about. It's aggravating.\n\nFor my new job i have to be able to walk up to strangers and have a little talk with them for a few minutes. Since i don't personally know the people i have nothing to talk to them about and could use some small talk tips!", "Making small talk with people you don't know. We've all been there, sitting next to somebody and having nothing to talk about. It's aggravating.\n\nFor my new job i have to be able to walk up to strangers and have a little talk with them for a few minutes. Since i don't personally know the people i have nothing to talk to them about and could use some small talk tips!", "Making small talk with people you don't know. We've all been there, sitting next to somebody and having nothing to talk about. It's aggravating.\n\nFor my new job i have to be able to walk up to strangers and have a little talk with them for a few minutes. Since i don't personally know the people i have nothing to talk to them about and could use some small talk tips!", "Making small talk with people you don't know. We've all been there, sitting next to somebody and having nothing to talk about. It's aggravating.\n\nFor my new job i have to be able to walk up to strangers and have a little talk with them for a few minutes. Since i don't personally know the people i have nothing to talk to them about and could use some small talk tips!", "Making small talk with people you don't know. We've all been there, sitting next to somebody and having nothing to talk about. It's aggravating.\n\nFor my new job i have to be able to walk up to strangers and have a little talk with them for a few minutes. Since i don't personally know the people i have nothing to talk to them about and could use some small talk tips!", "Making small talk with people you don't know. We've all been there, sitting next to somebody and having nothing to talk about. It's aggravating.\n\nFor my new job i have to be able to walk up to strangers and have a little talk with them for a few minutes. Since i don't personally know the people i have nothing to talk to them about and could use some small talk tips!", "Making small talk with people you don't know. We've all been there, sitting next to somebody and having nothing to talk about. It's aggravating.\n\nFor my new job i have to be able to walk up to strangers and have a little talk with them for a few minutes. Since i don't personally know the people i have nothing to talk to them about and could use some small talk tips!", "Making small talk with people you don't know. We've all been there, sitting next to somebody and having nothing to talk about. It's aggravating.\n\nFor my new job i have to be able to walk up to strangers and have a little talk with them for a few minutes. Since i don't personally know the people i have nothing to talk to them about and could use some small talk tips!" ]

[ "FORM + SIGN\nAsk about family, occupation, recreation activities, and then compliment them/share a message with them/whatever\n\nWhen you get to the \"M\" (message), incorporate their SIGN\nStrengths\nInterests\nGoals\nNeeds\n\nContinue the conversation BASED on their SIGN\n\n", "Try to talk about things that interest/involve them more than you, if you can do that they'll help carry the conversation ", "How is your day going?\n\nHow was your weekend?\n\nAre you ready for Mother's Day?\n\nThat's a nice necklace, did you get that some place local?\n\n", "Ask them about books/movies/games they experienced lately. Ask what kind of music they enjoy listening to. Ask when they last went on a trip or what their hobbies are.\n\nPeople like talking about the stuff they enjoy doing. Even if it's not something you enjoy you can still learn more about it from them.", "the easiest thing to do in this situation is let them talk.\n\nI have a neighbor that is a gossip but I like her .. but i don't like that part about her.. so if we are having a conversation because we see each other out taking care of the yard I basically just let her go and go and go.. she won't stop normally heh.. I just smile... I try not to comment about anything or anyone.. and try not to give her any info about our home heh ... doesn't always work but I try to do this\n\n\nbut for other people I guess we all need to develop a batch of canned conversations to bring up.. and they shouldn't include religion politics sex police anything controversial .. you know .. theres a lot more to life I guess we can have a few topics in our pocket to bring out when confronted..", "[10 ways to have a better conversation](https://go.ted.com/CsjJ) and [Big Talk](https://youtu.be/WDbxqM4Oy1Y)", "You want him to feel good by asking about things they like. It doesn't hurt if you know a lot about hobbies, because you both could relate to something and make a very great first impression.", "Weather, sports, politics insofar as it isn't controversial (i.e. \"fuck ISIS\" not \"fuck public pension plans\"), moviez and music are my go to topics.\n\nAlso comiserate with their complaints. People love to complain.", "Try having some stock opening lines on hand. They don't have to be fancy, just something to use to open up conversation. This will help you engage smoothly and confidently without feeling or sounding awkward. \n\n\"Hey, good morning! My name is Blah-blah and I'm the physical therapist on hand. How are you today? Let me know if I can help you with anything!\"\n\nFrom there you can talk about whatever equipment they are using, answer any questions they have, or otherwise chit chat about movies, music, biceps or whatever it is that people in gyms talk about. If you have any friends that wait tables, ask them how they engage their guests in small talk. Good waiters tend to be aces at it because it helps them build rapport with their regulars and thus helps to increase tips.\n\n", "A lot of these posts are great if you're literally just trying to chat with somebody. Do you have to sell them anything, or legitimately just speak with them and move on?", "Read the newspaper, front to back. Plenty of articles/topics to choose from. Bring these up, see if they're interested in any then continue from there." ]

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[ "How to avoid or lessen uncomfortable BM's after eating spicy food Love spicy food going in, hate it coming out.", "How to avoid or lessen uncomfortable BM's after eating spicy food Love spicy food going in, hate it coming out.", "How to avoid or lessen uncomfortable BM's after eating spicy food Love spicy food going in, hate it coming out.", "How to avoid or lessen uncomfortable BM's after eating spicy food Love spicy food going in, hate it coming out.", "How to avoid or lessen uncomfortable BM's after eating spicy food Love spicy food going in, hate it coming out." ]

[ "Feel the burn. Embrace it, let it fuel your anger. But seriously if you're talking about a touch of diarrhea afterwards it shouldn't be taken lightly. Thats your body urgently expelling what it was identified as something extremely bad for you. Maybe you should lay off whatever it is thats causing that reaction. Failing that, plan your indulgence to coincide with some downtime so you can fire that hate missile off and then hop in the shower.", "If you get the shits from fast food or from spicy food, you probably are not getting enough fiber in your diet. Fiber is what makes shitting and digestion easier for you to do. Try it.", "One tablespoon of Metamucil in a glass of water before you go to bed. Been doing it for six years and it's one of the best habits I've ever started. ", "You might be lactose intolerant. Try taking a lactase enzyme while/before eating. A lot of people don't know cayenne pepper has lactose in it. ", "Perhaps try a nice coating of vaseline on your bum hole so the capsaicin cant touch that precious heiny. That's also to assume it's the capsaicin doing it. What do I know though..\n" ]

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[ " I have a week off from work coming up. What practical things should I do? I'm a single male homeowner. Besides catch up on cleaning, reading, sleeping, and Netflix, what should I do? Feel free to post lists. Already planed: See a financial planner, car maintenance, yard work, and possibly adopt a dog. ", " I have a week off from work coming up. What practical things should I do? I'm a single male homeowner. Besides catch up on cleaning, reading, sleeping, and Netflix, what should I do? Feel free to post lists. Already planed: See a financial planner, car maintenance, yard work, and possibly adopt a dog. ", " I have a week off from work coming up. What practical things should I do? I'm a single male homeowner. Besides catch up on cleaning, reading, sleeping, and Netflix, what should I do? Feel free to post lists. Already planed: See a financial planner, car maintenance, yard work, and possibly adopt a dog. " ]

[ "Well to tell you the truth i think you should do something that you wouldn't really do.\nGo out and explore, take a trip somewhere hell it can be anywhere.\nLast year in my first semester at SFSU on our first three day weekend I decided to go on a two day hike. Right after class I just took the bus all the way to the golden gate bridge and crossed it on foot for the fist time and went to the Marin headlands and randomly spent the night at a hostel. It was nice to get out of the city.\nIdk where you might be but I'm sure there are some great places to get lost in for a while.", "hike. look up a trail online and spend the morning exploring. \n\nI've never regretted going out in nature. ", "I suggest doing some volunteer work; I know you're already considering adopting a dog, but some support for your local community can go a long way. You'll feel good, as well as those (animals or humans?) whom you help. " ]

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[ "How to be less shy The title says it all. I am moving to a new high school far away, and I am very shy. How can I be less shy and open up more?", "How to be less shy The title says it all. I am moving to a new high school far away, and I am very shy. How can I be less shy and open up more?", "How to be less shy The title says it all. I am moving to a new high school far away, and I am very shy. How can I be less shy and open up more?", "How to be less shy The title says it all. I am moving to a new high school far away, and I am very shy. How can I be less shy and open up more?", "How to be less shy The title says it all. I am moving to a new high school far away, and I am very shy. How can I be less shy and open up more?", "How to be less shy The title says it all. I am moving to a new high school far away, and I am very shy. How can I be less shy and open up more?" ]

[ "It may sound stupid, but don't wait for people to introduce themselves to you. Go up to them first. Say \"Hey, I'm _____. I'm new to here, and just wanted to introduce myself and say hi.\" \n\nWhat's the worst that could come from that?", "I'm super shy. I can be friendly and talk to people sometimes if I have to but in the end I'm doing most things awkwardly and not talking very much. I find one way to talk without calling too much attention to myself is by asking questions! Whether it pertains to a situation, leads to a conversation, or if it's just one random question it all counts. This tends to work better with people you see fairly often, so kids in your classes for example. It can seem a little weird and you might find you feel self conscious but it's just what I suggest doing to slowly expose yourself to others, and vice versa, while not being the center of attention.", "Read the following article: http://www.planetofsuccess.com/blog/2011/how-to-become-king-of-college/\n\nMost of it works for High-school too and it really helped me a lot!\n", "Talk as you would talk amongst your friends in your old high school. When the new kids in your life are talking respond as you would in your old group of friends. And remember to surround yourself in people that will inspire you in life. In those situations remember that its the people you surround yourself with will make the greatest influences in your growing life.", "It's pretty easy to find other shy people. Start by engaging them with non-invasive questions. Also, strike up a short, generic conversation with every person you see who is working: clerks, waiters, busboys, janitors, letter carriers. Just a short \"Busy day?\" type stuff. If they sport a name tag, use it.", "This might sound crazy but talk to your pets and act like they can understand you. If you can get used to talking to yourself and things that don't answer back, you will automatically strike up conversations with actual people." ]

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[ "Moving overseas, what do I need to take care of. I am a dual citizen, moving from US to overseas with my family. I need some advice regarding the whole move and choosing a mover company, getting a container in a ship, renting out property, closing(?) cr", "Moving overseas, what do I need to take care of. I am a dual citizen, moving from US to overseas with my family. I need some advice regarding the whole move and choosing a mover company, getting a container in a ship, renting out property, closing(?) cr", "Moving overseas, what do I need to take care of. I am a dual citizen, moving from US to overseas with my family. I need some advice regarding the whole move and choosing a mover company, getting a container in a ship, renting out property, closing(?) cr", "Moving overseas, what do I need to take care of. I am a dual citizen, moving from US to overseas with my family. I need some advice regarding the whole move and choosing a mover company, getting a container in a ship, renting out property, closing(?) cr", "Moving overseas, what do I need to take care of. I am a dual citizen, moving from US to overseas with my family. I need some advice regarding the whole move and choosing a mover company, getting a container in a ship, renting out property, closing(?) cr" ]

[ "get a Schwab acct with checking. they cover foreign atm fees. i only found out after returning having spent a few years and $100s of atm fees. ", "You need adapters for all of your electronics. A lot of things can be cheaper in the states. Some entertainment items such as DVDs are region locked so they wont play on regional devices most likely. Depending on your cr", "Regarding your financial services: When I moved from the UK to the US I just told my bank about my new overseas address. I receive my UK bank (HSBC) correspondence at my US address. There really isn't a strong reason to close accounts -- provided the banks will work with a foreign address -- unless you are certain that you have no further use for the accounts. Just be wary of fluctuating exchange rates, foreign transaction fees, and international telephone call rates.", "Hello and best of luck with your upcoming move. I'd like to share my experiences to see if there's anything there that might help you. I did the reverse though, moving to the US from Australia so some situations may not apply.\n\nThe best support and guide I found was a website set up for people who were applying for visas to the US and those settling in once they'd moved here (visajourney.com). Try a websearch to see if there's something similar for the country that you're moving to. To read other's experiences helped me to establish how to set myself up once I'd moved to my new country - how to obtain SSN, driver's license, even schooling information. \n\nShipping containers. Try a webseach for recommended shippers between the US and the country you're moving to. If possible find one with online recommendations that you trust. I made a few calls and the shipping companies had people come to my house and estimate the container size requirements and give me a quote, and then chose the best match for me. My options were to either buy a full shipping container for around AU$11k, or to purchase space in a container that would be combined with someone else for a proportional cost. My needs fitted a full shipping container, which made everything simple. A shared container involved more logistics and time when the container would be sitting around waiting for both sharing parties to be ready to ship, and then delays would have occurred at the other end as the container would be driven to one house to unload and then to the other persons. (If you were both moving to a similar part of the new country that may not be a significant delay). I made the mistake of beginning to pack my belongings before getting my quotes, thinking it would help them see the actual size of my needs and so I could sort through exactly what I wanted to take. It's apparently more trustworthy to get through customs with the form saying that everything was packed by the shipping company - a form of double checking they required of me. Be prepared to put a price on a list of your belongings if you choose to insure them (an extra $1k but gave me peace of mind). There was a ship travelling between my city in Adelaide and the east coast of the US every week, however with the shipping time (2 months) plus time spent waiting for the ship and clearing customs, it was 3 months before my belongings arrived at my house in the US. Make sure that you pack everything you need to get settled (especially for important documents or special belongings for your children) to get you through that time. Most airlines will allow you to pay to travel with extra suitcases, and this helped me significantly. One last thought, the shipping company required me to have a residential address in the US already established, however I could have asked them to hold the container until I had this worked out if I'd needed. The shipping company also coordinated movers at both ends for me using their global network. I'm not sure if all shipping companies do that but it simplified things for me.\n\nTake with you all of your important paperwork for establishing yourself in your new country. Identification, receipts/valuations of the belongings on your ship if you've chosen to take insurance, medical records, dental records, school records.\n\nBank Accounts. I simplified my banking prior to moving - less fees and less hassle and less reporting of foreign financial assets with my taxes. Prior to moving I gave my banks my new address and made sure that they changed me to a non-resident for taxation purposes. (Side note: be prepared to file taxes in both countries with dual citizenship. The taxes paid on one country will usually be cr", "Depends where you are moving, but besides having adapters for electronic devices, if you have any older ones that don't accept 110V-230V you might either need to get an actual converter or just buy new ones from the country you are moving to (as an US device with only 110V plugged with adapter to European 230V socket will fry itself pretty fast)." ]

[ 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do I keep my very hot, two-window room cool this summer by not spending a lot? I can't keep the door open because my family is pretty noses. I have a box fan blowing cooler air in (it's always hotter in here than outside), and I have a standing fan. \n\n", "How do I keep my very hot, two-window room cool this summer by not spending a lot? I can't keep the door open because my family is pretty noses. I have a box fan blowing cooler air in (it's always hotter in here than outside), and I have a standing fan. \n\n", "How do I keep my very hot, two-window room cool this summer by not spending a lot? I can't keep the door open because my family is pretty noses. I have a box fan blowing cooler air in (it's always hotter in here than outside), and I have a standing fan. \n\n", "How do I keep my very hot, two-window room cool this summer by not spending a lot? I can't keep the door open because my family is pretty noses. I have a box fan blowing cooler air in (it's always hotter in here than outside), and I have a standing fan. \n\n", "How do I keep my very hot, two-window room cool this summer by not spending a lot? I can't keep the door open because my family is pretty noses. I have a box fan blowing cooler air in (it's always hotter in here than outside), and I have a standing fan. \n\n", "How do I keep my very hot, two-window room cool this summer by not spending a lot? I can't keep the door open because my family is pretty noses. I have a box fan blowing cooler air in (it's always hotter in here than outside), and I have a standing fan. \n\n", "How do I keep my very hot, two-window room cool this summer by not spending a lot? I can't keep the door open because my family is pretty noses. I have a box fan blowing cooler air in (it's always hotter in here than outside), and I have a standing fan. \n\n" ]

[ "Putting an open cooler of ice in front of a fan works. Save gallon jugs or soda bottles fill them with water and freeze them, you can alternate them out.", "Close your windows during the day. As soon as the sun comes up if you can. Once it's cooler outside than it is in your room, open the windows again and blow the cool air in with your fans. ", "Have you tried using plants to humidify your air? (Sounds stupid but actually helps, I can recommend some indoor plants if you want) also try closing your blinds on day time so that light won't come trough and heat the space by radiation (sorry for bad english) hope this helps ! ", "Don't leave the windows open during the day. The sun makes the air outside hot. When you leave the windows open the hot air outside gets inside. Close the windows.\n\nTo avoid turning the room into a greenhouse, cover the windows to block the sun. For example, you can hang a curtain, or install awnings. The more insulated the curtain, the better it will work. A curtain on the outside will be more effective.\n\nIf the rest of the building is hot, make sure the door to the room is well-sealed as well. \n\nWhen the outside temperature goes below the inside temperature at night, open and uncover the windows for maximum airflow. You can speed up the cooling with the use of fans.\n\nMake the roof and walls of the room as reflective as possible. Remember that a dark surface will absorb more solar radiation than a light one. White = cool.\n\nDon't leave a fan running in the sealed, empty room. It won't help it stay cool. If there is a person in the room, run the fan pointing directly at them to cool them off.", "While I'm at work I close at Windows and blinds making sure to keep either a pedestal or box fan on medium 24/7. After that I switch AC on for just an hour one when I first get home and once more in the evening. At night I open my window while I sleep to air the room out as well.", "Open both windows? \"Science doesn't suck, it pushes and pulls.\" Having an inlet and outlet is a must.\n\nWhere are the windows? Across each other (that should be best)? etc?", "Buy privacy screens or temperature control screens from Home Depot. They're like $20 (privacy is gonna be cheaper than temp control ones) and they're just cling sticker things that cover your windows and make them darker and let less sunlight in. They have helped tremendously in my home." ]

[ 8, 6, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Motivation is great, but sometimes it's a temporary feeling. What are ways to stay more disciplined towards anything in life? (i.e.. going to the gym, studies, careers, life-goals, etc.). ", "Motivation is great, but sometimes it's a temporary feeling. What are ways to stay more disciplined towards anything in life? (i.e.. going to the gym, studies, careers, life-goals, etc.). ", "Motivation is great, but sometimes it's a temporary feeling. What are ways to stay more disciplined towards anything in life? (i.e.. going to the gym, studies, careers, life-goals, etc.). ", "Motivation is great, but sometimes it's a temporary feeling. What are ways to stay more disciplined towards anything in life? (i.e.. going to the gym, studies, careers, life-goals, etc.). ", "Motivation is great, but sometimes it's a temporary feeling. What are ways to stay more disciplined towards anything in life? (i.e.. going to the gym, studies, careers, life-goals, etc.). ", "Motivation is great, but sometimes it's a temporary feeling. What are ways to stay more disciplined towards anything in life? (i.e.. going to the gym, studies, careers, life-goals, etc.). " ]

[ "Have a system of small goals to complete.\n\nI start every day with a *written* to-do list, every workout is planned (exercises and rep targets), every day I’m plugging in my food into my macro tracker.\n\nYeah, it took me a long time to build those habits. And yes, I still slip up and still plan cheat days. But the results speak for themselves.", "Motivation is a push for a step, maybe two. If you find yourself constantly in a search for motivation to get by your daily affairs, find a break instead of more motivation. Discipline is a slow steady process where you establish a way of completing a task effectively, and with consistent results, until it becomes second nature or learn a better way of doing such tasks. Start small, repetition, adapt. ( ", "habits, create daily routines & structures that mean you always do what u want regardless of whether you want to .. bc it's what you do", "Track your progress.\n\nWhen I vowed to improve my fitness at the beginning of the year, I started recording what exercise I did that day and for how long. It was tedious at first because it was just the same thing day after day. But after a while I began to notice my duration was getting longer and the intensity (using my heart rate) was increasing too. Seeing the progress provided some encouragement to keep going.", "Start small. It’ll be easier to be consistent, which is required to build any sort of habit. It doesn’t matter if you’re going at it easy for a while either, not everyone shares the same experience with habit building. What matters is that you get over the hump of just doing it, so that you can begin to gradually challenge yourself more and more. \n\nToo many people start their goals off without nurturing the desired habit that can keep you aloft much longer, resulting in giving up early.", "Incentivize them. Go to the gym with a new playlist, only listen to that podcast you’ve been dying to hear if you do it while cleaning the kitchen, treat yourself to a hot chocolate but only after grocery shopping. And so on, for whatever you need to convince yourself to do. And outsmart yourself. Know where your fail points are and how to combat them. If you hate waking early to workout, either get everything ready the night before or choose a later workout time, after dinner or whatever works better. If you hate doing laundry because you dislike folding, hang things. There are no rules saying you have to do chores a specific way. Just guidelines. Eventually, when you have done a task around the same time every day, whether it’s going to the gym or doing dishes, you won’t have to incentivize yourself because it’ll be habit by then." ]

[ 9, 8, 5, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Fastest way to dry out poison ivy? I am highly allergic to the stuff, and I'm even getting it in the winter. I need to know a fast way to dry it out. Anyone have any ideas? ", "Fastest way to dry out poison ivy? I am highly allergic to the stuff, and I'm even getting it in the winter. I need to know a fast way to dry it out. Anyone have any ideas? ", "Fastest way to dry out poison ivy? I am highly allergic to the stuff, and I'm even getting it in the winter. I need to know a fast way to dry it out. Anyone have any ideas? " ]

[ "these tips are good\nbut for me it takes a cycle of cortical steroids to clear it up.\nI am highly allergic ", "Immediate treatment: wash with Dawn dish washing liquid, it cuts grease, which is what you want. Works great for me. \n\nOr: in the summer rub with leaves of North American touch-me-not plant (aka [jewelweed](http://static.environmentalgraffiti.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/promoted/images/Jewelweed.jpg)). The juices neutralize poison ivy and stinging nettle within seconds. I tried it, it works *better than any OTC remedy I've tried*. Old indian remedy. It grows in the same areas of poison ivy: damp and partial shade. Often on overgrown stream banks. \n", "I read on here, several months ago, superfine sandpaper to burst all the blisters and then clean.\n\nI haven't had a chance to test. " ]

[ 2, 2, 0 ]

[ "For a man who is growing out his hair to a goal of 8-10 inches, how can he style it to look professional while it's in the \"in between\" phase (4-6 inches)? Going for that man bun but no idea what to do with my 4 inch long hair.", "For a man who is growing out his hair to a goal of 8-10 inches, how can he style it to look professional while it's in the \"in between\" phase (4-6 inches)? Going for that man bun but no idea what to do with my 4 inch long hair.", "For a man who is growing out his hair to a goal of 8-10 inches, how can he style it to look professional while it's in the \"in between\" phase (4-6 inches)? Going for that man bun but no idea what to do with my 4 inch long hair.", "For a man who is growing out his hair to a goal of 8-10 inches, how can he style it to look professional while it's in the \"in between\" phase (4-6 inches)? Going for that man bun but no idea what to do with my 4 inch long hair.", "For a man who is growing out his hair to a goal of 8-10 inches, how can he style it to look professional while it's in the \"in between\" phase (4-6 inches)? Going for that man bun but no idea what to do with my 4 inch long hair.", "For a man who is growing out his hair to a goal of 8-10 inches, how can he style it to look professional while it's in the \"in between\" phase (4-6 inches)? Going for that man bun but no idea what to do with my 4 inch long hair." ]

[ "I guess my first concern is the (imo) counter-intuitive dynamic between you seeking a professional look, yet your end game being a man bun.", "the awkward hair stage.. \n\ntrying finding a way to part it so it doesn't end in your face, you'll get rid of that gothic look & stop the oils from getting in your face. \n\nother than that, i didn't do much, it was a hassle that you need to push through \n\ni lied, use hair wax to help keep it up flowing in a certain way, don't use too much, it'll get messy", "It depends on what kind of hair type you have, when my hair was that short I kinda just left it with some product and the curls were good enough. ", "Keeping the side nice and kept while making a tight bun. No stragglers (use moose or gel as needed). I will usually trim the sides a little bit shorter then he top to help keep it looking more presentable. But in the end it does come to preference.", "If it's curly, just let it go and don't brush it straight. Otherwise go for the [Odo](http://memory-alpha.wikia.com/wiki/Odo) look -\n straight back with a bit of hair gel.", "If I remember correctly when I was growing mine out I was kind of stuck using hair gel for a long time because it was too short to tie back into a ponytail. It's either that or hair pins" ]

[ 12, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Leaf Removal From Above Ground Pool I have a leaf removal suction tool, but it stirs up the leaves and it is unable to get leaves from the bottom successfully. Any pro tips for removal without swimming to the bottom while holding the leaf removal hose? ", "Leaf Removal From Above Ground Pool I have a leaf removal suction tool, but it stirs up the leaves and it is unable to get leaves from the bottom successfully. Any pro tips for removal without swimming to the bottom while holding the leaf removal hose? " ]

[ "In my childhood, my dad (an expert at the cheap 'at home' option for fixing things) did two things to get the leaves out.\n\n1. Got his two kids to run around the pool to create a junior whirlpool. All the leaves at the bottom settled in the middle - not quite a pile, but not bad.\n\n2. Taped a long length of hose (say about 2 inches wide) to a pole long enough for you to comfortably lean over the edge and reach the centre of the pool's floor, and use it to form a [siphon](http://www.ehow.com/how_5019033_siphon-water-hose.html). Then, just move it around sucking up the leaves. \n\nYou will lose a little bit of water with the method, but it works. ", "When I was a kid my dad used to make me vacuum the pool we had. I remember that the slower you go, the better. If you try and rush it it will kick up the leaves. And by slow, I mean agonizingly slow. \n\nAlso, as tyrefire said too, if you can get people to make the whirlpool to get them all in the center, it helps a bunch" ]

[ 3, 1 ]

[ "How to stop squeaking trainers. I bought new trainers for work two months ago and now all of a sudden they squeak everytime I walk, it's very annoying does anyone have a fix. \n\n", "How to stop squeaking trainers. I bought new trainers for work two months ago and now all of a sudden they squeak everytime I walk, it's very annoying does anyone have a fix. \n\n", "How to stop squeaking trainers. I bought new trainers for work two months ago and now all of a sudden they squeak everytime I walk, it's very annoying does anyone have a fix. \n\n", "How to stop squeaking trainers. I bought new trainers for work two months ago and now all of a sudden they squeak everytime I walk, it's very annoying does anyone have a fix. \n\n" ]

[ "your inner sole has worked loose and is rubbing the last. remove it from the shoe and spread some foot powder along the last, return the sole. voile. \n\nif the inner sole is glued in just use your fingertips to spread the powder along the edges.\n\nif this doesn't work, examine the bumpers as one of them has split from the side and needs to be gorilla glued. (use brand name gorilla glue and follow directions.)", "take you shoe's soles out, and sprinkle talcum powder in it. shake it abit and put the soles back in, that should stop the squeaking ", "I totally read \"trainers\" and pictured a personal trainer, then realized you meant shoes. Thanks for teh lolz.", "Depends on the root cause.\n\nI have a pair of Jordans that squeak so bad I won't wear them anywhere. Ripped out the insole, nothing. Checked the tongue, not the problem. It's something deep inside the outer sole and I have given up." ]

[ 20, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. 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I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n", "Stop junk mail. I saw a LPT a week or so ago on how to effectively get spam calls to stop by simply asking them for their privacy and opt-out policies, since I guess you can involve legal action if they don't stop calling you. \n\nI usually don't have a problem with spam calls, and just block the number if I get multiple calls. Same with email - just send it straight to the trash bin. \n\nMail, as in postal service mail, is a different story however. Sure, I could just trash the stuff I don't want, but I just don't like getting junk mail *at all*. There's also a risk if some company sends me pre-filled forms or a fake check, and someone could potentially commit fraud against me by stealing my mail. \n\nAlso, I tend to just toss mail onto my walk-in table and sort it over the weekend. There's little to no reason for me to receive mail anymore, except to get parcels. Billing and whatnot is all done online these days, and statements get emailed to me. \n\nHow can I effectively stop junk mail? I get crap like Capital One offers - that's the worst offender. Then there's the occasional Discovery card offers. Oh, and I recently bought a house, so I get all sorts of mortgage reduction offers, loan refinance crap, etc etc. \n\n" ]

[ "I managed to stop capital one eventually by returning all the junk to them in their own prepaid envelopes.\n\nI'm sure it helps to overfill them too as it means they end up paying extra.\n\nYmmv", "This comment has been overwritten by an open source script to protect this user's privacy. It was created to help protect users from doxing, stalking, harassment, and profiling for the purposes of censorship. \n\n If you would also like to protect yourself, add the Chrome extension [TamperMonkey](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/tampermonkey/dhdgffkkebhmkfjojejmpbldmpobfkfo), or the Firefox extension [GreaseMonkey](https://addons.mozilla.org/en-us/firefox/addon/greasemonkey/) and add [this open source script](https://greasyfork.org/en/scripts/10380-reddit-overwrite). \n\n Then simply click on your username on Reddit, go to the comments tab, scroll down as far as possible (hint:use [RES](http://www.redditenhancementsuite.com/)), and hit the new OVERWRITE button at the top.", "I use the app [PaperKarma](https://www.paperkarma.com). It's free.. You take a picture of the item. It tries to recognize the company or you search from a list if it isn't sure. Then you submit it along with your mailing address (which is on the envelope you just took a picture of, so they know who to unsubscribe). \n\nI didn't keep a record but feel that spam mail subsided where I use to live. I recently moved and am getting more now, so I'm going to start using it again.", "Here's a website I found that I feel more comfortable clicking links from. \n\n[FTC Do Not Mail/Call/Email List Requests](https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/articles/0262-stopping-unsolicited-mail-phone-calls-and-email)", "[This site](http://www.directmail.com/mail_preference/) can be helpful. It has further links where you can opt-out from receiving cr", "I don't know where you live, but Canada post has the red dot system. If you go to the post office you can apply to have your junk mail stopped and they give you a sticker for your mailbox that tells the carrier you are on the no junk mail list. It doesn't work to just use the sticker though, you have to be signed up through them. It won't stop individuals from leaving fliers, but it will stop the bulk of it. A no junk mail sign might work for the rest of it.\n\nIf you're in the US, maybe see if USPS offers a similar service?", "Scrawl \"return to sender\" on it, and put it back in the post. I used to get a lot of mail for a previous owner of my house, persistent offenders would get \"they don't live here, stop sending stuff!!\", or it all stuffed back into their pre-paid envelope and sent in the mail. It slowed to a trickle. Some you may never get rid of as they don't keep records. ", "LPT: How to stop Junk Mail\n\nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4cr4wo/lpt_how_to_stop_junk_mail/", "None of the methods here will stop all junk mail. The USPS accepts junk mail that they will deliver no matter what you do, particularly local ads that don't even have a printed address. There's only one 100% effective method of not receiving junk mail: stop receiving all mail. I haven't received mail for more than 10 years. I do all communications and bill payment online. If a service requires the use of postal mail, I don't use it. Period. I don't miss it one bit. Fuck the USPS. I also haven't watched commercial TV or subscribed to cable TV for more than a decade. If it's not available online without advertisements, then I don't need it.\n\nThe USPS is obsolete. I have no interest in supporting an anachronism.", "I spent over a year trying to stop a relatives massive junk mail problem. She gave over $100,000 to charities, PACs and scams.\n\nI documented everything [here](https://drowndinginmail.wordpress.com/) \n\nThe part that most people will want to read is the [Start Here](https://drowndinginmail.wordpress.com/start-here/) page.\n\nThe top 3 things you can do have been said all ready but I will put them all together\n\n[DMAChoice](https://www.dmachoice.org/)\n\n[Optout pre-screen](https://www.optoutprescreen.com/?rf=t)\n\n[PaperKarma](https://www.paperkarma.com/) or [Catalog Choice](https://www.catalogchoice.org/)\n\nThe most important thing I can tell you to do is prevent junk mail before it starts. \n\nNEVER give to a political group of any kind. They sell and trade mailing lists back and forth. The most valuable thing a political group has is it's list of donors.\n\nALWAYS look up ANY charity you give to. [Charity Navigator](http://www.charitynavigator.org/), [GuideStar](http://www.guidestar.org/Home.aspx/), [Charity Watch](https://www.charitywatch.org/home) are the best sites to get info about most charities. A good charity has a privacy policy. You can request that they not sent you lots of junk mail, and call you all the time. Be weary of charities that spend a lot on TV ads, and direct mail. Money spent on fundraising is money not being spent on programs. \n\nYOU HAVE NOT WON!! Do not enter any sweepstakes through the mail. The goal is not to give out money, it is to collect your information and sell you to as many mailing lists as possible.\n\nI could go on and on. But those are the top tips I can give you.", "This is gonna get buried but you have to keep in mind that the post office has a powerful incentive to make sure you get junk mail. Most of us are like you... We don't need or use the post office, so the post office relies on commercial mail to stay in business (well, commercial mail and Congress). If they make it easy for you to opt out, then their service is that much less valuable to the only people that still use it. \n\nReminds me of that Seinfeld episode where Kramer tries to stop receiving mail until the Postmaster General meets him and threatens him. Funny stuff and like everything Seinfeld still relevant. ", "[PaperKarma](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.readabl.paperkarma)\n\nHere is an Android app that I use with good success. I just snap a pic of the junk mail, and the app does the rest.", "If you're in the United States, then after Opt-Out Prescreen, the most effective option will be to call up every company who sends you junk mail and ask them to stop sending it to you. Some of them will even have a number you can call or a procedure specifically for this purpose. This process is about 50% effective in my experience.\n\nDon't expect to much by signing up with the Direct Marketer's Association. Relatively few marketer's are members of that organization. Also, avoid reading any of their on-line literature, it is vomit-inducingly pro junk mail.\n\nThere is no way to opt out of unaddressed mail. The mail that the junk mailer's don't even bother to put names or addresses on, instead, the post office just delivers it to everybody regardless of preference.", "I've been using [www.catalogchoice.org](https://www.catalogchoice.org/) for a while with a lot of success.", "I was getting pre-approved cr", "I am on the national do not mail/call/email list. I also spent 20 minutes one day on the phone with Capital One getting onto their individual do not mail list. In 1 wk they would literally fill up my 6x6 mailbox with junk. \n\nDoing national do not call/mail/email and calling capital one individually eliminated my junk mail.", "[The DMA (Direct Market Association) has a tool to let/help you manage what you receive in your mail box](https://dmachoice.thedma.org/register.php). They also do one for email, but I have no experience with that and can not say how it works.", "[Here](http://www.deq.state.or.us/programs/sustainability/phonebooks.htm) is a link that tells you how to opt out of home phone book delivery.", "You can't get out of many of them, because this is how the Post office makes it's money. They get paid to deliver this spam to you.", "Well I'm not really sure how it works in America, but Canada Post puts random coupons and fliers and shit in your mail box to help fund themselves. You can ask them to not deliver stuff like that, and they will stop.\n\nThat only takes care of stuff that the whole community gets though. The junk that is addressed to you like the cr", "This has worked for me:\n\nAs someone who pays their bills online, most of my mail is junk.\n\nI'll wait til I have a large-ish stack snd then invest an hour going through it. I specifically look at the bottom for email addresses and phone numbers to call to opt out. Then I call them, cheerful at the idea that I won't have to deal with them anymore. This is a happy phone call, not one of frustration... I want the service agent I speak with to follow through on the opt out.\n\nThis process alway dramatically reduces my junk mail. I find that after 6 months to a year I will have new junk mail from other offers I signed up for, and I repeat the process.", "The Federal Trade Commission has a list of services to help prevent unwanted spam of all types.\n\nhttps://www.consumer.ftc.gov/articles/0262-stopping-unsolicited-mail-phone-calls-and-email", "Save all the junk mail, then sell it by weight (some recycling centers actually pay for paper and cardboard if you can bring enough). Or use it as starter/fuel for the chimney.", "Paper Karma! It's like an unsubscribe button for physical mail--you take a picture of it, they recognize the sender, and they unsubscribe on your behalf. The success rate isn't 100%, but the only junk mail I get anymore is from two companies they can't seem to contact, and the bulk stuff they just shove into everyone's mailbox. It's made a huge difference, and taken zero effort.", "Opt out of cr", "On a related note... how can I get MORE junk mail? We run a small business from home and have mail to go out every day, but the postal worker only stops by our house if he has something to drop off. If we can get a steady supply of junk mail flowing in, then he'll always drop by our house and pick up our outgoing.", "My elderly mom and dad get pounds and pounds of solicitations from charities and also magazine offers. I throw these away. Sometimes a piece of mail gets through, and my mom signs up for something -- a pledge to donate, a magazine, a CD, etc (she has Alzheimer's). When the bill comes, I throw it away, too. When the second bill comes, I throw it away too, etc. My idea is that if we are crummy no-good customers, these companies will eventually stop soliciting our business. I don't care if it dings our cr", "In Norway you can stick a sticker that says something like \"No advertisements accepted\" and the post is obligated to stop sending you junk mail. Maybe there's a similar law in your country?", "If you're Canadian, you can put a red sticker on the inside door of your mailbox. Canada Post is obliged not to deliver unaddressed mail to a box so marked.\n\nUnfortunately they get a bit passive aggressive about it, and also refuse to deliver municipal notices about things like garbage pick up scheduling.", "I travel for work nearly constantly. Sometimes i dont come home for weeks or even months at a time. I had a HUGE problem with junk mail, that i have been slowly solving. When i get home and get to mail sorting, i look for phone numbers on any piece of junk mail i have. I call the number looking for a human not a machine, and just explain my situation that i constantly travel and i dont need to come home to 12 discover card offers every time. They are almost always very accommodating and after about 5-6 sessions of junk mail calling over the past 6 months, i hardly receive anything anymore! ", "I thought you could just write \"Return to Sender\" on the mail and shove it right back in. Eventually they stop.", "I stopped all the Crapital One and Barclay offers by calling the 1-800 opt out number that is at the bottom of all the mailings. They were sending one a day to my husband and myself, and I actually wore out a shredder trying to get rid of them all. (I shred those because I have this fear of people going through trash and applying for cr", "I have managed to severely reduce my own junkmail quotient by simply keeping a Sharpie near the mailbox. Each time I get a junk mail, I write \"REFUSED\" across my own address, and put it back in the mailbox. This sends it back to the sender unopened, for which they have to pay a second postage, AND tells them who it came from, something the prepaid return envelopes don't do, necessarily.\n\n I have heard that this doesn't work for other people, but it has worked brilliantly for me.", "I get stuff from time warner cable all the time. I've probably called them 3 or 4 times and told them to remove my address from their mailing list and that I'm not interested in their service. I still get 2-3 things a month from them. ", "I don't recall the specifics but there is a way to opt out of unsolicited cr", "I don't know about your jurisdiction, but junk mail in your mailbox that isn't addressed to you while having a sticker on your mailbox \"no advertisement material\" is an infringement of one's property right here in Germany. The same goes for addressed mail if you requested the other party not to send it.\n\nAs with every infringement of property rights, you send a cease and decist letter. Here, upon signing the other party is liable to a contractual fine upon repeat offence. If they don't sign, you file for an injuction.", "I accidentally put my address down when giving money to charity last year and now I get 2-3 letters a week asking for donations. Any help with this would be great too... I'm in Canada if that helps. ", "First and foremost, all these people talking about glitter bombing and sending back random stuff in pre-approved envelopes are mostly fake and if they did do them, well they aren't accomplishing anything but pissing off the poor hourly wage earner that has to actually open the mail at these places. \n\nA pre-approved return envelope is only usable for the size and weight that the company/organization has paid for. So loading it with other offers and materials or \"taping it to a brick\" isn't going to work due to the fact that a machine at the post office is going to reject it. \n\nSecond, a glitter bomb or any other type of annoyance is never going to make its way to someone who has the ability to remove you from their list. The absolute worst thing you are going to due is junk up the work space of the poor person that has to open the letter.\n\n[The DMA (Direct Market Association) has a tool to let/help you manage what you receive in your mail box](https://dmachoice.thedma.org/register.php). They also do one for email, but I have no experience with that and can not say how it works. ", "Check out catalogchoice.org too. Super easy to use and it seems to be working. I also call the companies as soon as I get junk mail too, so it's hard to tell which is the real reason. ", "A while back I was at a bar and a guy I was shooting the shit with had mentioned this topic to me he said first we have to get to why they send it. You may have bought some things online and therefore handed out your data they call it \"books\" and books are your number,email, or address. People can legally sell books to companies so they sell your info for like say ten cents per book... anyway I dont understand it that well as I wasnt in top shape when it was explained but I got the gist of it. Basically everytime you browse around online you leave a trail and then people can then legally backtrack to you get your data and sell it...... so you can imagine everytime you go to pornhub and buy a months subscription they take your data and legally sell it... thats how I wound up with a years subscription to yachting magazine and I'm not even in their target bracket....", "Wrap a brick with the offending piece of mail. Write return to sender on formentioned piece of mail. Secure with clear tape and place in your out going mail.", "If you open the email and scroll to the very bottom there is a unsubscribe button, click their and unsubscribe, the emails will stop immediately.", "You could try a 'no junk mail' sign above your letter box. It won't stop everything but it might help filter it a bit" ]

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[ "How to deal with tactless people who have no idea they're being rude. \"Oh you guys look awful!\", \"Aw! What happened to your face?\" Yes yes I get it. We look awful. We look shit. You do too, but I just don't do it it on your face. \n\n", "How to deal with tactless people who have no idea they're being rude. \"Oh you guys look awful!\", \"Aw! What happened to your face?\" Yes yes I get it. We look awful. We look shit. You do too, but I just don't do it it on your face. \n\n", "How to deal with tactless people who have no idea they're being rude. \"Oh you guys look awful!\", \"Aw! What happened to your face?\" Yes yes I get it. We look awful. We look shit. You do too, but I just don't do it it on your face. \n\n", "How to deal with tactless people who have no idea they're being rude. \"Oh you guys look awful!\", \"Aw! What happened to your face?\" Yes yes I get it. We look awful. We look shit. You do too, but I just don't do it it on your face. \n\n" ]

[ "The same way you would respond to anyone else? \n\n\"Oh aren't *you* a charmer?\" etc etc...if they don't understand they're being tactless then they'll learn it by you saying something about it.", "Laugh on an out-breath, smile and say whatever comes to mind with a friendly tone. It may be passive-aggressive, compliant or witty, as long as something is said.", "I just say \"thank you\" in as sincere a tone of voice as possible. 9 times out of 10 they get the point, and the 1 time out of 10 that they don't they end up saying something like \"that wasn't a compliment\" and sort of jolting themselves back into reality. If they still don't get it after that, you're in the clear to give them a pointed look and just walk away. ", "Be extremely rude to them, to the point where they don't want to be around you anymore. Because if they're that tactless and distasteful, they don't sound to pleasant to be around." ]

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[ "How to get dark grease stains out of clothes I'm not sure how this keeps happening, probably from cooking, but I continue to get grease stains in my clothes after they come out of the wash. It just looks like a wet spot where it is slightly darker than the coloring around it. I now have 3 shirts that I love and two pairs of shorts that I can no longer wear and haven't been able to remove the stains. I tried some Oxy clean and shout and neither have worked. Any tips will be greatly appreciated.", "How to get dark grease stains out of clothes I'm not sure how this keeps happening, probably from cooking, but I continue to get grease stains in my clothes after they come out of the wash. It just looks like a wet spot where it is slightly darker than the coloring around it. I now have 3 shirts that I love and two pairs of shorts that I can no longer wear and haven't been able to remove the stains. I tried some Oxy clean and shout and neither have worked. Any tips will be greatly appreciated.", "How to get dark grease stains out of clothes I'm not sure how this keeps happening, probably from cooking, but I continue to get grease stains in my clothes after they come out of the wash. It just looks like a wet spot where it is slightly darker than the coloring around it. I now have 3 shirts that I love and two pairs of shorts that I can no longer wear and haven't been able to remove the stains. I tried some Oxy clean and shout and neither have worked. Any tips will be greatly appreciated.", "How to get dark grease stains out of clothes I'm not sure how this keeps happening, probably from cooking, but I continue to get grease stains in my clothes after they come out of the wash. It just looks like a wet spot where it is slightly darker than the coloring around it. I now have 3 shirts that I love and two pairs of shorts that I can no longer wear and haven't been able to remove the stains. I tried some Oxy clean and shout and neither have worked. Any tips will be greatly appreciated." ]

[ "Dawn dishwashing detergent. The blue one. Works to remove oil and grease. They use it on animals when there is an oil spill.", "Wear an apron!\nOr wear “at home” outfits like I do—clothes that you have already ruined.\n\nAlso you might want to air dry (no heat) your clothes to remove wrinkles, then hang your shirts to dry. It’s the dryer heat that sets the stains and makes them permanent.", "You can specifically buy degreaser made for washing clothes. I recommend picking up a bottle. If the stain is really bad dont dilute the degreaser, pour it directly onto the stain and rub together, then just wash a normal!", "There's a possibility your laundry detergent is causing this, I've had it happen. Do you pour it over your clothes, or put it in the washer first and let the water dilute it before adding clothes? " ]

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[ "How to stay cool in an office that has high temps all the time? I'm curious because I'm an accountant and I face it every day (79 to 89 degrees Farenheit). If I put a fan in my office, it just blows all the paper off the desk.\n\nWe're not allowed to use the A/C.\n\nI would go into work naked if I could.", "How to stay cool in an office that has high temps all the time? I'm curious because I'm an accountant and I face it every day (79 to 89 degrees Farenheit). If I put a fan in my office, it just blows all the paper off the desk.\n\nWe're not allowed to use the A/C.\n\nI would go into work naked if I could.", "How to stay cool in an office that has high temps all the time? I'm curious because I'm an accountant and I face it every day (79 to 89 degrees Farenheit). If I put a fan in my office, it just blows all the paper off the desk.\n\nWe're not allowed to use the A/C.\n\nI would go into work naked if I could.", "How to stay cool in an office that has high temps all the time? I'm curious because I'm an accountant and I face it every day (79 to 89 degrees Farenheit). If I put a fan in my office, it just blows all the paper off the desk.\n\nWe're not allowed to use the A/C.\n\nI would go into work naked if I could." ]

[ "I got a very tiny desk fan, maybe 3\" in diameter, and aimed it right at my face. It didn't blow papers around.\n\nYou could get one of those special neck wraps that soaks up water and gradually releases it to generate evaporative cooling. My brother-in-law, who does physical labor in Florida, swears by them.", "Try something [like this](http://www.amazon.com/Cooling-Buddy-Assorted-Colors-Patterns/dp/B001HF9TSQ)", "Overdress, faint from heat exhaustion, take taxi home, turn on air conditioning. Stay cool. \n\n\nOK, maybe that isn't a realistic option, but seriously, air conditioning is available but you aren't allowed to use it? Did they give you a good reason? A reason that is better than staff comfort or being sued for causing heat exhaustion or heart stroke?", "I was told by holding a cold can of something; for example coke on the inner of your wrist can cool you down greatly. " ]

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[ "How to Buy Individual Health Insurance in the USA I need to buy health insurance before my university plan ends, and I have no idea what I'm doing. \n\nI can't be the only person who is confused by the process of buying their own health insurance, so if you know what you're doing, help us out!", "How to Buy Individual Health Insurance in the USA I need to buy health insurance before my university plan ends, and I have no idea what I'm doing. \n\nI can't be the only person who is confused by the process of buying their own health insurance, so if you know what you're doing, help us out!", "How to Buy Individual Health Insurance in the USA I need to buy health insurance before my university plan ends, and I have no idea what I'm doing. \n\nI can't be the only person who is confused by the process of buying their own health insurance, so if you know what you're doing, help us out!", "How to Buy Individual Health Insurance in the USA I need to buy health insurance before my university plan ends, and I have no idea what I'm doing. \n\nI can't be the only person who is confused by the process of buying their own health insurance, so if you know what you're doing, help us out!" ]

[ "ehealthinsurance.com\n\nIt gives you quotes for all the different plans available to you and then lets you apply online, all for no fee.\n\n", "If you're moving back home you can go on your parent's until you're 26. If you're going to be a freelancer check out freelancer's union.", "Call 314 514 7700\nIt's my agent. He deals nationally (assuming you're in the US, though I think he does Canada). He's great. ", "I was totally lost too. The info was dizzying. Then my friend just said: Call an agent, that's what they do and it doesn't cost you." ]

[ 7, 4, 4, 2 ]

[ "How to stop breathing through my mouth. I'm 31. I run a company. I am a father. My wife's awesome. My friends are awesome. Life is pretty good, except...\n\nWhen I see pictures of myself in my natural state. I *look* stupid. I'm slackjawwed, a mouth-breather. I want to stop.\n\nFurthermore, my dentist says that it's already caused me to have sensitive gums and that it will lead me into some early tooth problems in a decade or two.\n\nLastly, I have severe TMJ, and my jaw lately has become worse and worse. I had an MRI done recently, in which the details revealed that my jaw is slowly losing the cartilage that allows movement. The doc said that less movement of the jaw would be best, but at worst, they will need to operate, which means no open mouth for 6-8 weeks.\n\nHow do I stop breathing through my mouth?", "How to stop breathing through my mouth. I'm 31. I run a company. I am a father. My wife's awesome. My friends are awesome. Life is pretty good, except...\n\nWhen I see pictures of myself in my natural state. I *look* stupid. I'm slackjawwed, a mouth-breather. I want to stop.\n\nFurthermore, my dentist says that it's already caused me to have sensitive gums and that it will lead me into some early tooth problems in a decade or two.\n\nLastly, I have severe TMJ, and my jaw lately has become worse and worse. I had an MRI done recently, in which the details revealed that my jaw is slowly losing the cartilage that allows movement. The doc said that less movement of the jaw would be best, but at worst, they will need to operate, which means no open mouth for 6-8 weeks.\n\nHow do I stop breathing through my mouth?", "How to stop breathing through my mouth. I'm 31. I run a company. I am a father. My wife's awesome. My friends are awesome. Life is pretty good, except...\n\nWhen I see pictures of myself in my natural state. I *look* stupid. I'm slackjawwed, a mouth-breather. I want to stop.\n\nFurthermore, my dentist says that it's already caused me to have sensitive gums and that it will lead me into some early tooth problems in a decade or two.\n\nLastly, I have severe TMJ, and my jaw lately has become worse and worse. I had an MRI done recently, in which the details revealed that my jaw is slowly losing the cartilage that allows movement. The doc said that less movement of the jaw would be best, but at worst, they will need to operate, which means no open mouth for 6-8 weeks.\n\nHow do I stop breathing through my mouth?", "How to stop breathing through my mouth. I'm 31. I run a company. I am a father. My wife's awesome. My friends are awesome. Life is pretty good, except...\n\nWhen I see pictures of myself in my natural state. I *look* stupid. I'm slackjawwed, a mouth-breather. I want to stop.\n\nFurthermore, my dentist says that it's already caused me to have sensitive gums and that it will lead me into some early tooth problems in a decade or two.\n\nLastly, I have severe TMJ, and my jaw lately has become worse and worse. I had an MRI done recently, in which the details revealed that my jaw is slowly losing the cartilage that allows movement. The doc said that less movement of the jaw would be best, but at worst, they will need to operate, which means no open mouth for 6-8 weeks.\n\nHow do I stop breathing through my mouth?", "How to stop breathing through my mouth. I'm 31. I run a company. I am a father. My wife's awesome. My friends are awesome. Life is pretty good, except...\n\nWhen I see pictures of myself in my natural state. I *look* stupid. I'm slackjawwed, a mouth-breather. I want to stop.\n\nFurthermore, my dentist says that it's already caused me to have sensitive gums and that it will lead me into some early tooth problems in a decade or two.\n\nLastly, I have severe TMJ, and my jaw lately has become worse and worse. I had an MRI done recently, in which the details revealed that my jaw is slowly losing the cartilage that allows movement. The doc said that less movement of the jaw would be best, but at worst, they will need to operate, which means no open mouth for 6-8 weeks.\n\nHow do I stop breathing through my mouth?", "How to stop breathing through my mouth. I'm 31. I run a company. I am a father. My wife's awesome. My friends are awesome. Life is pretty good, except...\n\nWhen I see pictures of myself in my natural state. I *look* stupid. I'm slackjawwed, a mouth-breather. I want to stop.\n\nFurthermore, my dentist says that it's already caused me to have sensitive gums and that it will lead me into some early tooth problems in a decade or two.\n\nLastly, I have severe TMJ, and my jaw lately has become worse and worse. I had an MRI done recently, in which the details revealed that my jaw is slowly losing the cartilage that allows movement. The doc said that less movement of the jaw would be best, but at worst, they will need to operate, which means no open mouth for 6-8 weeks.\n\nHow do I stop breathing through my mouth?" ]

[ "Need help too. Had surgery to correct my deviated septum which allowed me breathe through my nose but it's hard to break a 20-year-old habit like mouth-breathing.", "Get the surgery!! My niece had to have it and the results were life-changing! One week of lots of pain- killers, and four weeks of mumbling were worth it to her! Oh, did they mention the braces you'll likely need afterwards? Her bottom jaw now fits beneath her upper jaw ;(think michelle Obama's mouth). She looks terrific and is pain free!", "for your TMJ, get a NightGuard. It's a mouthpiece that you can mold to fit your teeth. It will prevent your teeth from grinding in the night and you should feel much less pain after using it for a few nights ", "Check with your doctor to see if you have any sinus issues, barring that learning how to sing can give you great insights into proper breathing", "develop a fear of bugs flying in there. Better yet, accidentally chomp down on a beetle and find out that beetles are SPICY. You won't keep your mouth open after that. trust me. ", "Close your mouth. Either you'll breathe through your nose or you won't. Either way, no more mouth breathing!" ]

[ 3, 2, 1, 1, 0, 0 ]

[ "Getting the burnt popcorn smell out of the microwave. Long story short, my roommate burnt popcorn in our microwave and the microwave now smells AWFUL. I got the smell out of our apartment, but I can't get it out of my microwave. Microwaving anything is out of the question because it smells soo badly, it makes whatever I microwave smell just as bad.\n\nI microwaved water in a bowl so it would loosen anything on the microwave, but it hasn't gotten rid of the smell.\n\nAny help would be appreciated!", "Getting the burnt popcorn smell out of the microwave. Long story short, my roommate burnt popcorn in our microwave and the microwave now smells AWFUL. I got the smell out of our apartment, but I can't get it out of my microwave. Microwaving anything is out of the question because it smells soo badly, it makes whatever I microwave smell just as bad.\n\nI microwaved water in a bowl so it would loosen anything on the microwave, but it hasn't gotten rid of the smell.\n\nAny help would be appreciated!", "Getting the burnt popcorn smell out of the microwave. Long story short, my roommate burnt popcorn in our microwave and the microwave now smells AWFUL. I got the smell out of our apartment, but I can't get it out of my microwave. Microwaving anything is out of the question because it smells soo badly, it makes whatever I microwave smell just as bad.\n\nI microwaved water in a bowl so it would loosen anything on the microwave, but it hasn't gotten rid of the smell.\n\nAny help would be appreciated!" ]

[ "This worked for me: Microwave a big bowl or container of water with 2-3 tbs. baking soda for 5 minutes, then wipe out inside of microwave. You might need to do this a few times, then microwave a big bowl of water with vinegar added for 5 minutes and wipe down again. This will help somewhat, but ultimately the only thing you can do to get rid of the smell and burnt spots for good is to buy a new microwave.", "I microwaved a bowl of water with coffee grinds. Did it for 3 to 5 mins. That worked out pretty well too!", "Microwave vanilla extract\n\nTidbit; this is done by real estate agents\n\nDrs. Use peppermint fmto keep from gagging sometimes" ]

[ 9, 3, 1 ]

[ "Quick ways to make money? Currently in debt with my CC company and I got screwed over by my roommate who left 4/5 months after signing the lease to our new apartment. Having to start over with lots of start-up fees and trying to make ends meet. Someone told me about fiver.com, but I need more than that and something that isn't a scam. Anything will help. Please and thank you!", "Quick ways to make money? Currently in debt with my CC company and I got screwed over by my roommate who left 4/5 months after signing the lease to our new apartment. Having to start over with lots of start-up fees and trying to make ends meet. Someone told me about fiver.com, but I need more than that and something that isn't a scam. Anything will help. Please and thank you!", "Quick ways to make money? Currently in debt with my CC company and I got screwed over by my roommate who left 4/5 months after signing the lease to our new apartment. Having to start over with lots of start-up fees and trying to make ends meet. Someone told me about fiver.com, but I need more than that and something that isn't a scam. Anything will help. Please and thank you!" ]

[ "Webcaming. I know two ugly ass dudes who (separately) worked off a considerable amount of debt webcaming. If you're a pretty female, I don't even need to wish you luck to succeed. ", "If you're a quick typer, TranscribeMe has jobs for you. All you have to do is take an entrance exam and pass it and you can spend your free time doing jobs. Not great, but you can do it quickly and make a little extra in your free time", "Uber / Lyft. \nBuy cheap 2nd hand shoes at Goodwill/Salvation Army then, sell on eBay. \nSell used auto parts on eBay from picked parts of junk cars\n" ]

[ 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to deal with coworkers who smoke heavily in the electrical field. I'm currently in trade school to become an electrician. Part of my class is a required internship working with a company out in the field to learn more hands on. I started yesterday and I truly am enjoying the work and the guys I'm working with. The only issue is, these guys smoke a pack of cigarettes a day, maybe more. I don't have any special conditions or anything but I was born rather prematurely (six weeks to be exact) and only two days in, my lungs hurt a little bit every time I inhale. I've never smoked anything in my life. I'm wondering what I can do to help protect my lungs because I work with them in close proximity more often then not. The smell itself doesn't seem to be too distasteful, but I can definitely feel offset or some minor pain just being around them. Any suggestions would help. Thanks!", "How to deal with coworkers who smoke heavily in the electrical field. I'm currently in trade school to become an electrician. Part of my class is a required internship working with a company out in the field to learn more hands on. I started yesterday and I truly am enjoying the work and the guys I'm working with. The only issue is, these guys smoke a pack of cigarettes a day, maybe more. I don't have any special conditions or anything but I was born rather prematurely (six weeks to be exact) and only two days in, my lungs hurt a little bit every time I inhale. I've never smoked anything in my life. I'm wondering what I can do to help protect my lungs because I work with them in close proximity more often then not. The smell itself doesn't seem to be too distasteful, but I can definitely feel offset or some minor pain just being around them. Any suggestions would help. Thanks!", "How to deal with coworkers who smoke heavily in the electrical field. I'm currently in trade school to become an electrician. Part of my class is a required internship working with a company out in the field to learn more hands on. I started yesterday and I truly am enjoying the work and the guys I'm working with. The only issue is, these guys smoke a pack of cigarettes a day, maybe more. I don't have any special conditions or anything but I was born rather prematurely (six weeks to be exact) and only two days in, my lungs hurt a little bit every time I inhale. I've never smoked anything in my life. I'm wondering what I can do to help protect my lungs because I work with them in close proximity more often then not. The smell itself doesn't seem to be too distasteful, but I can definitely feel offset or some minor pain just being around them. Any suggestions would help. Thanks!", "How to deal with coworkers who smoke heavily in the electrical field. I'm currently in trade school to become an electrician. Part of my class is a required internship working with a company out in the field to learn more hands on. I started yesterday and I truly am enjoying the work and the guys I'm working with. The only issue is, these guys smoke a pack of cigarettes a day, maybe more. I don't have any special conditions or anything but I was born rather prematurely (six weeks to be exact) and only two days in, my lungs hurt a little bit every time I inhale. I've never smoked anything in my life. I'm wondering what I can do to help protect my lungs because I work with them in close proximity more often then not. The smell itself doesn't seem to be too distasteful, but I can definitely feel offset or some minor pain just being around them. Any suggestions would help. Thanks!" ]

[ "Would wearing a mask, even if just a gator, be possible? A gator typically helps me deal with the smoke (though it definitely isn’t the best for filtering everything out), and as cold as it is in most places right now, I’d easily attributable to needing for the cold.", "I am also an apprentice! I would just go somewhere away from them whenever they smoke. If they ask why, say you don't want to be around the smoke, and if they don't understand or can't accept that, then I'm sure you can find another company to work for", "Like most others said, just move away from them while they're smoking. \n\n​\n\nOn a side note, if your lungs are actually hurting after only 2 days around smokers you should definitely get yourself checked. I was also a premature baby and that's not normal.", "Grow up and deal with it. Not everything has to cater to your specifications. Stop being a fucking pity me party. You're not going to be comfortable every minute of every day. No one gives a damn about you or your problems they just want you to get the job done so just do it, do it quietly and quickly then get the fuck out like every other adult" ]

[ 5, 3, 2, -7 ]

[ "how to carry heavy things up the stairs? Hi all, I need to carry a box that is roughly 35Kg up the stairs. Does anyone have some tips/tricks on how to not break my back and arms? Thank you!", "how to carry heavy things up the stairs? Hi all, I need to carry a box that is roughly 35Kg up the stairs. Does anyone have some tips/tricks on how to not break my back and arms? Thank you!", "how to carry heavy things up the stairs? Hi all, I need to carry a box that is roughly 35Kg up the stairs. Does anyone have some tips/tricks on how to not break my back and arms? Thank you!", "how to carry heavy things up the stairs? Hi all, I need to carry a box that is roughly 35Kg up the stairs. Does anyone have some tips/tricks on how to not break my back and arms? Thank you!", "how to carry heavy things up the stairs? Hi all, I need to carry a box that is roughly 35Kg up the stairs. Does anyone have some tips/tricks on how to not break my back and arms? Thank you!", "how to carry heavy things up the stairs? Hi all, I need to carry a box that is roughly 35Kg up the stairs. Does anyone have some tips/tricks on how to not break my back and arms? Thank you!" ]

[ "Try tip it and slide it up. Walk it so corner to corner up the stairs make it so the corners are like feet", "Can you use a dolly, and go up the stairs backward with it?\nOr else I unno take some stuff out of it...", "One step at a time. That means, one foot onto a step then also the other foot. Slower but gives a slight rest at each step. You will also be more stable. I also gently lean one shoulder against the wall for extra stability. Do not rush. If you get tired then stop untill you feel ready to proceed.\n\nA better option - get someone else to do it.", "Those carry straps seem to be a big help. You can use ratchet straps or even rope instead. Just secure them to the bottom, make loops to put your arms through then you'll be lifting with your back instead of your arms", "If someone is delivering the item, bribe them into helping. Otherwise, slow and step by step is the only way.", "I mean probably I'd just squat down and lift from the bottom and go up the stairs, leaning on the handrail for balance. Is the box too big to be \"handled\" - weight is only one aspect. \n\nIt's roughly 77lbs for those of us who don't think in kg. \n\nIf it's not a weight you can readily lift and hold, you will need a second person.\n\nAlternatively, you can lift if up one stair, then step up - then a second stair, then step up (this is what I tell my kids to do with heavy things on the stairs)." ]

[ 8, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to eliminate caffeine intake I've been able to cut out soda and I eat a healthy diet so my blood sugar is stable throughout the day, but I still feel drowsy in the afternoon. ", "How to eliminate caffeine intake I've been able to cut out soda and I eat a healthy diet so my blood sugar is stable throughout the day, but I still feel drowsy in the afternoon. ", "How to eliminate caffeine intake I've been able to cut out soda and I eat a healthy diet so my blood sugar is stable throughout the day, but I still feel drowsy in the afternoon. ", "How to eliminate caffeine intake I've been able to cut out soda and I eat a healthy diet so my blood sugar is stable throughout the day, but I still feel drowsy in the afternoon. " ]

[ "This is an easy question to answer. Drink more water!!!!! Most of the time daytime fatigue is the result of dehydration. The average hard working adult sweats about a gallon within 8 hours and it evaporates before you notice. I'm baffled at how ignorant people are when it comes to drinking water. Also if you are partly dehydrated you only have about 80% of your strength. Drink more water and exercise more. No one has an excuse to not exercise at least 3 hours per week.", "I drink lots of coffee. I NEVER drink soda. I mixed. decaf and caf coffee together in ever changing amounts so now I drink only decaf and don't miss the caffeine at all.", "Just stop drinking caffeine. Drowsiness only lasts a week and you will have much more energy afterwards", "See this tip I just posted\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/26rb4t/having_trouble_staying_awake_in_a_meeting_or/\n" ]

[ 8, 8, 1, 0 ]

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[ "buy a card, sign it.\n\nbuy a gift, wrap it\n\nhide both and wait til she gives you your gift. Then give her yours. If she doesn't say anything about it on your anniversary then brings it up the next day, you whip out the gift and card, give it to her and say you didn't think she remembered and you didn't want her to feel bad about forgetting.\n\n\nSource: Married\n\n", "Get a mutual friend (preferably female) to ask your girlfriend when your anniversary is and then get her to tell you. \n\nEasy.", "Just ask her. Especially if you remember the time of year. Say something like, \"I know our anniversary is in May but I can't remember the date and I want it to be awesome and not ruined bc I was too afraid to ask.\" \nAnd then put the date in your phone IMMEDIATELY bc you will totally forget again. I've been married 10 yrs and still have trouble remembering. And I'm the girl.", "Have a friend bring up the \"relationships and anniversary\" casually ask her at one point (like speaking of what they did on their anniversary and then say \"by the way, when is your anniversary? Are you gonna celebrate somehow?\")", "Just get a gift and save it. When she gets mad you forgot do some tv level romance shit and pull it out.", "Make reservations for a nice dinner this weekend, and tell her \"I made dinner reservations at Nice_Place for our anniversary this weekend.\"\n\nShe'll say \"Silly, our anniversary isn't until xxxyyy!\"\n\n\"My mistake. Then this weekend's dinner is a 'just because' date.\"\n\nAnd then you win twice.", "Ask her. If you're that afraid of your girlfriend, you have bigger problems than not remembering a date.", "You might be able to figure it out on your own. Last year, did you work that day, go out and sleep in the next day. That would be a Friday. Did you go on a hike) that would be a weekend. Did you have to push back your celebration because of work getting in the way entirely, maybe some big project. If you have a rough idea on the month, start by looking at a calendar of last year. Then check your email history around that time. Maybe your Facebook page has a \"happy anniversary message \" on it. Lastly check your bank statements from last year, I'm guessing you went out, and more than likely used a card. Get to work Dick. Oh and line others have mentioned, save it in your calendar as an event that repeats annually. ", "Ask her what she considers your anniversary, first kiss, first date, first time you held hands, etc. Odds are it will be different then you thought and celebrate that.", "Grab a calendar, give it to your SO (or sit down with them) and ask them to assist you in marking all important dates.. Birthdays, Anniv, Graduations, Events people are part of, (Fam/Friends, people you know as well or not). Say it's so that you can both remind each other about those important days if one forgets. \n\nI did this because of a similar circumstance, OP, and it actually forced me to really pay attention a bit more to the little things (sending a card/flowers to your SO's family when SO forgets.. Etc) that people (and your SO) really appreciate. Afterwards, simply save those dates in electronic form to transfer to the next year..", "\"Hey hon, I forgot our anniversary. I know it's important to you, and I want to make it special. Can you tell my dumbass what it is again?\"\n\nA little self-chastisement will let her know you already feel like a dumbass, and pointing out that it's important to her will show her you care. If she doesn't remember either, than just be like \"it's a good thing a wedding would have witnesses and signatures then! Lol\"", "Just tell her you forgot and ask her which day it is. I fear for your relationship down the line if you're too scared to communicate such a petty thing. I wonder how you'll handle actual problems that need to be discussed.\n\nMan up and ask her. If she reacts poorly and gets upset about such a petty thing, then it too shows you how immature she is.\n\nI swear everyone on Reddit has the emotional maturity of a 16 year old.", "Check her social media from the year before. I assume you at least know what month it's in. If not, she already knows your a slack ass so just ask.", "serious LPT: outsource that shit to google or iCalendar or facebook. \nIt's the 21st century. There's no longer a need to remember important romantic dates bro AMIRITE", "You: Hey, guess what I did today?\nHer: Whats that?\nYou: I logged on to my/our (atm, voicemail, computer, whatever) and had to change the password. Guess what I made it... Its a month and day, 4 digits.\nHer: xxxx (your birthday)\nYou: nope\nHer: xxxx (her birthday)\nYou: come on, it was the best day ever!\nHer: xxxx (anniversary)\n\nNow you seem sweet, earn points, get your answer and no one has leverage on you. Before you do it tho, make sure you can use a 4 digit pin on said web site or whatever. Happy boyfriending!\n", "Good on you for trying! As a veteran married guy, I was going to suggest something obnoxious at first, but I thought back to the young romantic exciting times and agree with your approach, and I realized I still remembered mine... 7/23/94.\n\nHere's one... buy a card and a gift and surprise her out of the blue saying \"Happy Anniversary!\" and give it to her. She'll be off-balance and say \"But it's... XX/XX/XX\" and you can give her a big hug and smile and say \"AH HA! I was trying to remember! Thanks!\" Boom. Win/win. You're awesome, thoughtful, honest. You didn't concoct any stories, you were honest, and she knows you care and it was a surprise. The fact that you didn't know the right date is moot.", "Look for old pictures, texts, messages, Facebook posts, something. Surely you've talked about it in the past and surely that conversation is still available.", "Here is the best way to look like a champ.... \n1. Get a gift and wrap it and hide it\n2. When that day comes she will shower you with love and all that,\n3. Pull out the gift on that day and she will be happy and you can set a calendar reminder for next year.\n", "You ask her because your intention is you want to celebrate this event. That is a nice gesture, and a nice thing to want for both of you. I don't see anything wrong with this.", "Yeah I think being honest is the best way. Just say \"hey listen I need to ask you something. I can't remember the exact date of our anniversary, and it is important to me that I get it right. I want to make sure it's a special day.\" Done.", "Try and play a trivia or remembering game or whatever and just be like \"do you remember the exact day we got together?\"", "Simple, just tell her your forgot and ask what say it was.\n\nIf she throws a fit then...well you made your choice on what kind of individual you want to date.", "Sign up for shutterfly, find a free calendar coupon. Have her make a calendar with pictures of you all. Insert b-days and all that jazz. Problem solved. How I know mine only she did the calendar on a volunteer basis so even better.", "Say you're gonna buy a lottery ticket and ask her for some numbers. Maybe use your bday and hers first, to get the idea of important dates in her head. She'll probably go straight to your anniversary as the next numbers you should pick.", "Pick some online thing that you need to sign up for (like buying tickets for a movie or tickets for the amusement park) and ask her to fill it out for you.", "No way you can look back at fb or texts or anything like that? Events you attended together...birthdays...", "Learning to communicate openly and honestly is going to get you a lot further than asking people on the internet for tricks", "Just come out and say it. Communications is the best way to get what you need and want. \"Hey so I have had a lot on my mind and I forgot when our anniversary is\" Will she get mad maybe but it is not the end of the world. That too will pass, So moral of the story is Sack up ya bisshh,", "Just be funny and tell her it's a different date than it actually is and be confident about it. Just stick with the joke until she slips what the actual date is. Or just be a man and tell her you don't remember because you didn't make a note of it in your pussy diary.", "Just ask. Since she is wearing the pants in the relationship, you know you wanna be spanked and punished like a little boy.", "Insist to HER that SHE forgot your anniversary, in advance of the day you think it's near. Then challenge her for the date. When she tells you, act like you're sorry for ever doubting her, and give her a kiss.\n", "I know this is late but this is what I do: I just say calmly \"hey what day is our anniversary\" and when my wife starts up with the \"you don't even remember\" yelling I calmly say \"no, like is it on Tuesday or Wednesday?\" and she'll generally reply \"oh, Tuesday\" which is enough information to take a good guess. ", "Easy. You bet her that she doesn't remember your anniversary date. She'll assume you don't know the answer... which you respond to by acting astonished that she doesn't know your anniversary date. \n\nStick to it, and she'll eventually \"answer\" your question. A confident, \"that is correct\" later and you're in the clear. \n\nSource: Was in OP's shoes myself once upon a time. ", "Did you spend money anywhere on your last anniversary? Look through bank transactions if you can remember where you spent money on a past anniversary... ", "Choose a day, and celebrate it all-out. When she corrects you, then celebrate the day she thinks it is too. If she's forgotten, then you have just established one as \"your anniversary\". Win-win. No one is going to be upset that you want to celebrate your love as a couple (even if it is the wrong day). ", "(A) You actually care about it. Let her know that you have difficulties to remember dates in general, and that it does not mean that you would not value what is associated with those dates. You can start by telling her that you are anxious you could miss or forget that date. If she accepts you, she has to accept also that you are forgetful.\n\n(B) You do not care about it. Ask yourself, do you care that your GF cares about it? (B1) Yes? Change your attitude. (B2) No, you don't give a fuck? Buy her gifts and flowers and trinkets, weasel around, then hope for make-up sex.", "~~Ask her were the important records are. You do have a copy of your marriage license, right?~~\n\n", "just buy a gift now and wrap it. when the day comes and she asks if you forgot you pull out the gift and know from then on when the day is.", "im so lucky my anniversary is the same numbers as my house address..3 wedding parties within a year im glad my wife chose the civil date.", "i know how to do this. ask her if she wants to celebrate on the anniversary itself or on the weekend of. play dumb if they fall on the same day and say oh shoot was looking at last month. source: am idiot fiance.", "You're screwed.\n\nAs a way to get around this, tell her you're planning a 3-day getaway to somewhere for your anniversary, but you need to make it work with her schedule. Thus, you didn't forget your anniversary, but instead are setting it up so you can celebrate it when she's free.", "You say \"hey honey what date is our anniversary?\"\n\nShe'll either tell you and that's it, or tell you and be annoyed that you forgot, or she won't tell you and get angry and you apparently live in a shitty romcom.\n\n", "You dont. There is no real anniversary for dating. That is a bullshit lie spread by unmarried women to get more free shit.\n\nMarried and I never did anything for an anniversary while we were dating. Of course, with my memory, she is lucky I can remember the wedding anniversary. ", "You could try remebering. Or using a calender. Honestly, if you can remember a birthday this shouldn't be that difficult : /", "You can try the approach of asking whether she thinks of your anniversary as your first date, when you first met/started talking, first got naked together...? \n\nAnd fervently hope she answers with a date.", "Who else was at your wedding? Can you ask one of them? Your mom, perhaps? Otherwise, try checking your email logs. Perhaps you emailed someone about your wedding.", "When I forgot, I just scoured our text message and chat history until I found an instance of us talking about it.", "What do you want to do for our anniversary? Dinner?\n\nDoes it fall on the weekend? Saturday? (have her look at calendar and pray)", "What I've done in the past is ask her. \"So what do you want to do for our anniversary/your birthday this year?\n\nThen during the conversation you ask something like...do we/you have anything else going on then?\n\nThey'll lead you right to the date more often than not.", "Uhhhhhh I still don't know the date of our \"anniversary\". Funnily enough, my partner and I both remember the date we first met though. \nSo we just go with that. \n\nBut, to answer your question, just ask her! :D", "There's no way you could figure it out for yourself? No other big event that day? No communication online/on your phone from last year? Do some digging; you'll be surprised what you can find!\n\nSource: always remember the day my boyfriend and I got back together a few years ago because I remember the year and season, and there was a Smashing Pumpkins concert in Chicago that day. One quick Google search, and I'm there.", "Spend a cuddle looking through old texts and reminiscing on how you two got together. If you still have a record of your texts you'll find some evidence in there somewhere! ", "Search your old emails, phone records, txt messages, cr", "Say this:\n\n\"Ok....I've dropped a couple of hints but since our anniversary is coming up I just want to make sure you received it. You know I want to (fill in the blank...gift, dinner somewhere, see some movie, etc.), right?\"\n\nWhen she looks at you like you're crazy (which she will, probably in a subtle way) say:\n\n\"Uhhhhh....you DOO remember when our anniversary is, RIGHT?!?\"\n\nShe'll say she does....say, \"okay.....when?!?\"\n\nYou have to sell it. If you don't, you're fucked.\n\nDon't back off, make it like any attempt she does to not answer is avoiding it.\n\nThen...never fucking forget again, douche. Put in a yearly reminder. This is bush league!", "Probably won't help you now but for future reference; my boyfriend bought me a bracelet our first anniversary and it has the date engraved on to it. Sometimes I honestly forget when it is so I have to check. He remembers the month and day but has admitted that he's sneaked a peek before to check the year.", "Playing a game of hangman that you make, and make the hint \" a special day\". Whatever she guesses, that's the right answer", "My girlfriend made a custom calendar with all of our birthdays and anniversaries. You need to encourage your SO to do it!", "Make today your new anniversary. Take her out to dinner and make say happy anniversary. Then she will be like no silly our anniversary is tomorrow!", "Make it look like you are quizzing her. Like ok what's my favorite color.... What's my favorite food?... Ok what's our anniversary. ", "Look through FB messages or texts. Chances are, your date is logged via on some sort of digital device.", "Just be honest and say you don't remember. It's better to come clean then completely miss it. And if you sneak around trying to figure it out, she could freak thinking it was something else.\n\n My S/O and I both don't remember the day so we celebrate both days we think that it is. It's not that big a deal.\n", "Just ask her. It really shouldn't be a big deal. If it is, I would question whether or not I would want to be with her. It's not like it's a wedding anniversary ", "Just ask her. If she freaks out and says some shit like \"You don't really love me, do you?\" or something in that ballpark, you need to pack up and leave that irrational woman immediately. ", "It can just be easier to take the hit. Admit you messed up and you'd best make DAMN bloody sure that you don't forget it in future.", "Is the date disputable? Say, you flirted a lot with each other for a couple days, then went out together? Or had a lunch/coffee/whatever break, but nobody said boyfriend/girlfriend for a couple days? If so, bring that up and ask her which day she considers it to be.", "If your girlfriend has a set day in her mind of what your anniversary is, I have no advice because I'm the forgetful GF in my duo. \n\nBut my BF remembers it because Facebook tells him. Just a thought. ", "If you're in a relationship and cannot remember when your anniversary is, you're not going to last very long. Even worse is to expect your SO to \"remind\" you when the date is near. It's the fact that you DONT forget the date and DONT have to ask her when that means the most to a woman. \n\nGet a calendar. Hang it in the kitchen. Write down important dates.\n\nHope this helps! Peace! Good Luck!", "If you know the approximate date, ask her casually what day of the week it will be on your anniversary. ", "If you have a basic idea of when it is, do something really nice for her a few weeks before that and pretend you thought that day was your anniversary. She'll correct you and unless she's an asshole she can't get too mad at you for going all-out on the wrong date. \n\nIf she's actually angry with you after that, she's a dick. ", "If you forget your wedding date, can't you just go to the county clerk's office and see when the paperwork was filed? Or, alternatively, look at the timestate/datestamp of the pictures taken on that day? [given that they were saved on a computer]", "If you ever have bought something for a previous anniversary on a cr", "If you are Facebook official play stupid and say you want to put your anniversary on FB and ask her to do it since you don't know how to.", "If this isn't your first anniversary and you've done memorable stuff (i.e. took a trip somewhere, expensive dinner at a place you never go to, etc.) on your anniversary before look it up in your card records for an approximate date.", "If she really wanted you to remember she would give you a gift with the date. I gave my bf (now fiance) a leather strap for his keys that has the day we met etched in. ", "If it's not your first anniversary, you can search your e-mail and text inboxes for information about your anniversary. Chances are you said something about it in a previous year. That has worked for me.", "I would probably have a friend/mom ask and then tell me. My mom keeps an important dates book so that would be the no brainer direction for me. If your mother is like mine have ask her some time when you are unavailable or just have a friend do it. They can then let you know.", "I would just accuse her of forgetting so she will have to tell you the date for proof. A little reverse psychology. ", "I made my wife a handmade sign to go on our wall so I wouldn't forget. Do it when you find out. Put some effort and love into it. Now that I gave you the best solid advice a man can give another, tell me how I can remember my wife's birthday. I tend to tell her happy birthday on my ex's birthday, and she knows that it's my ex's birthday, essentially ruining the next month of my life", "I forgot the exact date but remembered the month. I searched through my bank records to look for big purchases / restaurant meals around that week. Voila!", "I don't have an answer, but after you've found out, put it in a Google calendar with a 7-day reminder on it.", "Here's the trick to this: exactly a year before the anniversary, you put that information into some calendar (app, physical thing, remind me, whatever) and then you have that thing notify you a few weeks beforehand.\n\nBAM! You only ever forget once.", "Get your father-in-law to cut out the announcement of your marriage and frame it then give it to your wife. She will hang it up somewhere in the house and, whenever you forget, you can go look at the date on that framed paper.\n\nOr, marry a girl who doesn't remember either.\n\nI did both.\n", "Get another couple over to play catchphrase(a 2v2 guessing game)they need to be in on the plan. When its your turn to describe and your girlfriends turn to guess, give her the clue, \"the date of our anniversary\" After she tells you simply click next as though it where the correct answer and keep the date in your mind, play for several more hours to throw her of the trail.", "Get a wall calendar and get her to write all the birthdays and anniversaries on it. If she doesn't write yours, act offended and convinced that she's forgotten the date. ", "Get a framed picture of your wedding with the date you were married. Done and done. Bonus: give this to your SO. ", "For us we both forgot our first anniversary as a married couple until a day later when we talked to some friend and they asked us what we did. Funny thing, my wife talked with here ant about our wedding on our anniversary but still didn't remember. ", "Dude, if you have the technology to Reddit, you have access to a cell phone, email account, etc that you can set annual reminders for.\n\nI have one set a few weeks prior reminding me to get gifts and such, and another the day of to make sure I don't forget again. ", "Don't know how long you've been together, but can you think of any other events that happened around that time, maybe something that you would have a record of in your email/texts? ", "Do you remember where you went on your first date + approximately when it was? If so, you can check your Google Location History (if you have it turned on). Should only take a couple minutes to find the exact date if you know approximately when it happened.", "Do you remember *about* when it is? Can you look up bank statements or receipts or something for the dinner you took her out to?", "Do you know around when it is? If you do, just take her out on a Saturday night, get the desert with the candle in it and, exclaim happy anniversary. Than she'll probably say it isn't until so and so. Kill two birds with one stone. Take her out to dinner and figure out exactly when the date is. ", "Do something first, any day you like. Tell everybody a fantastic 'half true' story about why you 'remember' it as that day. If sure tries to correct you, tell her she's wrong, and she's getting her days mixed up.\n\nMake sure your 'half true' story is something familiar to her, and not something you did with an ex girlfriend.", "Buy her a gift she'll really like and give it to her on the day of your best guess. Tell her happy anniversary. She'll correct you and won't be mad because it's not about knowing the exact date, it's about showing that you care.", "Be honest and ask her, saying you forgot but still wanted to do something special for her.\n\nSource: I'm a girl who knows what it's like to be forgetful and I'm not a goddamn psycho. Weird, huh?", "Ask her when she'd like to go for the anniversary dinner - if you know roughly when it is, then just say \"Nearest Friday? Which day is that?\"\n\nYou have to play dumb, but it usually works for forgotten birthdays etc.", "Ask her what day of the week it falls on. \n\nIf you know the general week then you now know the actual day. \n\nIf she asks why say you were thinking of making a weekend of it if it fell on a Friday or Saturday.", "Ask her to check if a fancy restaurant on opentable (or something to that effect) has reservations available for on your anniversary. Either she types in it right in front of you, or you just wait till later and go back to what she searched on your computers history.\n\nP.S. Be prepared to pay for fancy dinner", "Ask her to add your anniversary to your smartphone calendar (you are busy doing something), because you're updating all the important dates in your calendar. You can even casually ask her to put in her parents anniversary & birthdays to throw her off of she gets suspicious. ", "Are you guys \"in a relationship\" on FB? When you change your status it asks you for your anniversary date. You can check there. ", "1. Figure out the date by following the excellent advice from bobniborg\n\n2. Add an annual calendar event on your phone, with a reminder that buzzes at least a week in advance\n\n3. Start a spreadsheet/ list on your phone @ all the gifts that you have given her, with the dates/ occasions.\n\nSource: married", "\"Honey, I know it's soon but your remember how bad I am with exact dates…I wanted to surprise you what day is our anniversary?\"\n\nThen you damn well better have some \"surprise\". Maybe book a nice dinner.", "Look it up online.\n\nA lot of counties have this type of information available online. Where I live you can do a search on the clerk's office website for marriage dates." ]

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[ "How to deal with a boss who is a micro-manger. I have a boss who is a micro-manager, who frequently tells me the exact way he would like me to do something. He has recently even taken to drafting emails that he'd like me to send to customers in my name. \n\nI'm of the opposite camp, that employees should be trusted and empowered to manage their own accounts the way they want, as long as the end result is the same. \n\nI want to make the boss happy, but see his meddling starting to have a negative effect on my sales (though not significant enough yet, I've lost a couple big deals by following his advice to the letter). I've only been at this place for 6 months though, so I don't really have numbers to back up any claims yet. What he's suggesting isn't always total bullshit, and he's been doing this for 40 years, me for 10, so I respect that he has a bigger bank of knowledge than I do, but I'm starting to feel boxed in by his requests.\n\nSwitching jobs is not an option right now, so what are some effective ways / tips for dealing with a boss who is a mirco-manager without being completely dishonest?", "How to deal with a boss who is a micro-manger. I have a boss who is a micro-manager, who frequently tells me the exact way he would like me to do something. He has recently even taken to drafting emails that he'd like me to send to customers in my name. \n\nI'm of the opposite camp, that employees should be trusted and empowered to manage their own accounts the way they want, as long as the end result is the same. \n\nI want to make the boss happy, but see his meddling starting to have a negative effect on my sales (though not significant enough yet, I've lost a couple big deals by following his advice to the letter). I've only been at this place for 6 months though, so I don't really have numbers to back up any claims yet. What he's suggesting isn't always total bullshit, and he's been doing this for 40 years, me for 10, so I respect that he has a bigger bank of knowledge than I do, but I'm starting to feel boxed in by his requests.\n\nSwitching jobs is not an option right now, so what are some effective ways / tips for dealing with a boss who is a mirco-manager without being completely dishonest?", "How to deal with a boss who is a micro-manger. I have a boss who is a micro-manager, who frequently tells me the exact way he would like me to do something. He has recently even taken to drafting emails that he'd like me to send to customers in my name. \n\nI'm of the opposite camp, that employees should be trusted and empowered to manage their own accounts the way they want, as long as the end result is the same. \n\nI want to make the boss happy, but see his meddling starting to have a negative effect on my sales (though not significant enough yet, I've lost a couple big deals by following his advice to the letter). I've only been at this place for 6 months though, so I don't really have numbers to back up any claims yet. What he's suggesting isn't always total bullshit, and he's been doing this for 40 years, me for 10, so I respect that he has a bigger bank of knowledge than I do, but I'm starting to feel boxed in by his requests.\n\nSwitching jobs is not an option right now, so what are some effective ways / tips for dealing with a boss who is a mirco-manager without being completely dishonest?" ]

[ "Try talking to him about the issue...communication is always the number one break down. Maybe he thinks he is just helping you out.", "Micromanagers have to be dealt with carefully. I have had a few over the years. Basically overwhelm them with progress reports and feedback. Once they get it through their brain that you are to be trusted they usually back off.", "That sucks. With sales, everyone has their own style, and if you're using someone else's style and it doesn't really fit your personality, then it's not going to work. It would be like trying to pick up chicks using lines that someone else would use. It would come off as awkward. \n\nThen again, sales is a numbers game. For the ones you feel you missed due to his preferred style, maybe he's looking more long term and he knows that while his method might not sell to certain folks, it sells to more folks than your method. \n\nMaybe you could have a talk with him and tell him that you're really trying to do good and follow his lead, but that for you to really be successful, you need to feel like you own your success and have the freedom to do it the way you think it needs to be done. The way he's doing it now, it's demotivating and draining your enthusiasm because you have no input in the process. " ]

[ 5, 3, 2 ]

[ "What are some good tips for finding a job during COVID? I'm sure a lot of people out there, myself included, are struggling to find work right now, and COVID is not making it easy at all. What are some good tips for applying for jobs, writing cover letters/resumes, interviews, etc.?", "What are some good tips for finding a job during COVID? I'm sure a lot of people out there, myself included, are struggling to find work right now, and COVID is not making it easy at all. What are some good tips for applying for jobs, writing cover letters/resumes, interviews, etc.?", "What are some good tips for finding a job during COVID? I'm sure a lot of people out there, myself included, are struggling to find work right now, and COVID is not making it easy at all. What are some good tips for applying for jobs, writing cover letters/resumes, interviews, etc.?" ]

[ "Speak with your friends who have referral bonuses, gets you straight into a 1st round interview usually.", "Search a job really needed, jobs that can't be done remotly. \n\nIn a job interview say clearly that you know how to deal with Covid (cleaning hands, mask, range etc.) that way the HR knows you don't fear Covid and you'll not be sick.", "Contact employment agencies in your local area. The jobs they provide aren’t the most glamorous, but you could be in work within days regardless of your skill set or experience. Good luck!" ]

[ 5, 3, 3 ]

[ "In honor of the guy living out of a storage unit (link below) what other (legaly/ethicly/morally) gray lifehacks can i use. Reference - https://www.reddit.com/r/videos/comments/5nlstk/so_i_lived_in_a_storage_unit_for_2_months_and/\n\nI found this fascinating and while I would never do it myself I find it to be an intriguing idea. I want to know what other life hacks I can know.\n\nOne example is a flash drive with a Linux OS or a password reset tool for unlimited access to another computer. ", "In honor of the guy living out of a storage unit (link below) what other (legaly/ethicly/morally) gray lifehacks can i use. Reference - https://www.reddit.com/r/videos/comments/5nlstk/so_i_lived_in_a_storage_unit_for_2_months_and/\n\nI found this fascinating and while I would never do it myself I find it to be an intriguing idea. I want to know what other life hacks I can know.\n\nOne example is a flash drive with a Linux OS or a password reset tool for unlimited access to another computer. " ]

[ "I could write a book of unethical life hacks.. probably the most useful is using an empty VISA gift card on airplanes for meals and drinks and such.. the payment doesn't actually process until the plane has landed, and by then it's too late!", "No. Don't be tactically good at bad strategies. Gray means someone getting lightly screwed, usually." ]

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[ "Smelly vacuum filter (Tried the cinnamon but did not work) My husband erroneously wetted our vacuum filter with water and since then it smell cheesy and bad. I tried with the cinnamon trick and unfortunately it did not work for me (for a few seconds it smelled like cheese and cinnamon, but that's it.)\n", "Smelly vacuum filter (Tried the cinnamon but did not work) My husband erroneously wetted our vacuum filter with water and since then it smell cheesy and bad. I tried with the cinnamon trick and unfortunately it did not work for me (for a few seconds it smelled like cheese and cinnamon, but that's it.)\n" ]

[ "Replace the filter for starters. Partially disassemble the vaccuum to clean it out; use a disinfectant spray anywhere you can reach. It stinks because the paper element of the filter is mildewing. ", "I agree with theotherredmeat. Most vacuum filters should be replaced every 6 months under normal working conditions. Since your filter got wet it could be housing some pretty nasty stuff right now. For the stench and your health you should replace the filter. " ]

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[ "How to get a bird to stop attacking his reflection in a window? Specifically a cardinal and a basement window, but really any tips would be lovely. It's been three days and he just keeps smacking headfirst into the window, then fluttering about angrily before slamming into it again. I made a short video, but am not sure if they are allowed here.\n\n", "How to get a bird to stop attacking his reflection in a window? Specifically a cardinal and a basement window, but really any tips would be lovely. It's been three days and he just keeps smacking headfirst into the window, then fluttering about angrily before slamming into it again. I made a short video, but am not sure if they are allowed here.\n\n" ]

[ "You can buy window clings that look like the silhouettes of large predator birds. Keeps smaller birds away.", "* Hang a bead curtain in the window\n* Tape pretty much any silhouette of something to the middle of the glass\n* If this happens at twilight or night, lighting the inside of the window (a string of white holiday lights, perhaps?) can decrease its reflectiveness" ]

[ 6, 3 ]

[ "Best way to get Red Wine out of White Carpet Just in case that day comes when I spill my wine on my carpet, I wanna be prepared.", "Best way to get Red Wine out of White Carpet Just in case that day comes when I spill my wine on my carpet, I wanna be prepared." ]

[ "Yeah, sure, you're not fooling anyone. Your parents are out of town, you and your friends got into the liquor cabinet, and someone spilled. Now you have to clean it before they get back. Better just head to Home Depot and buy a new carpet.", "Sodium Percarbonate. Great stuff, I've cleaned up everything from winestains to cokestains to bloodstains with it.\n\nIf you really need to get a staining spill out of a carpet though, you've got to pull it up and clean underneath the carpet as well, because it'll go through." ]

[ 6, 5 ]

[ "What steps should be taken when assisting someone stuck in a flipped over car? Just drove by a flipped over car as there was already 30 people looking to help but was wondering what exactly are you suppose to do aside from calling 911?", "What steps should be taken when assisting someone stuck in a flipped over car? Just drove by a flipped over car as there was already 30 people looking to help but was wondering what exactly are you suppose to do aside from calling 911?", "What steps should be taken when assisting someone stuck in a flipped over car? Just drove by a flipped over car as there was already 30 people looking to help but was wondering what exactly are you suppose to do aside from calling 911?", "What steps should be taken when assisting someone stuck in a flipped over car? Just drove by a flipped over car as there was already 30 people looking to help but was wondering what exactly are you suppose to do aside from calling 911?", "What steps should be taken when assisting someone stuck in a flipped over car? Just drove by a flipped over car as there was already 30 people looking to help but was wondering what exactly are you suppose to do aside from calling 911?" ]

[ "Don't attempt to remove the person from the vehicle unless there is immediate danger (car is on fire etc). The person couple have a pinch in his spinal cord or a severed artery, attempting to move the person could result in him being paralyzed or bleeding out before EMS arrives ", "If the car is in danger of blowing up, you may have to extricate people. Otherwise, I'd leave them in there as they may have sustained a spinal cord injury. Stay with them, let them know help is coming. Keep them immobile. Hold their hand. ", "If the car is still in the road and in a spot with poor visibility, set a warning for approaching drivers to prevent a secondary crash. ", "If the car is not got any leaks leave them in the car speak to them reassure them that help is on the way tell them not to move there head keep it in a straight potion. If the are out cold try to support the head until help shows up. If the car has anything like petrol leaking you need to get them out safely. Oh am make sure help has been called. ", "Call emergency services. You may be the only one to call if everyone else who drives by assumes someone else will do it.\n\nDon't stop unless it is safe to do so. Try to keep them calm and look for signs of bleeding. Tell the passengers to stay as still as possible and do not attempt to move them unless the car is on fire. If they have spinal injuries, moving them could cause permanent paralysis. \n\nIf you can, keep them talking. If any of them start to lose consciousness or say things that don't make sense, they are either under the influence of something or (more likely) have a head injury. \n\nWhen EMS arrives, tell them what you observed and whether anyone had a change in mental status. Then back up and let them do their jobs. " ]

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[ "Do I tell my mom (who has cancer) to start smoking weed for more quality in life? My mom has been sick for just over a year now; status says incurable. Whenever she's had chemotherapy, she's weak and won't have an apetite for the next 48 hours. So here's the thing, do I advice her to try weed to improve her quality of life while she still has that? Or do I remain silent and avoid breaking any laws, admitting to both my parents of my consumption of THC since age 14 (Now 20)? \n\nIn Denmark, weed is an illegal b-classed (\"soft\") drug, but it's an extremely popular subject nationally, people are fighting for legalization. I know many patients are trying for themselves but a nice lady like my mom wouldn't know where to begin (she mentioned medicinal marijuana before). My dad is a doctor, but doesn't know anything about weed, but i know that he believes in facts, facts that I can prove from a few years of smoking more or less consistantly. \n\nAlso, I would have posted somewhere better suited, but in the end of the day there's no better community than reddit, especially if I want to keep anonymous. \n\nPlease help", "Do I tell my mom (who has cancer) to start smoking weed for more quality in life? My mom has been sick for just over a year now; status says incurable. Whenever she's had chemotherapy, she's weak and won't have an apetite for the next 48 hours. So here's the thing, do I advice her to try weed to improve her quality of life while she still has that? Or do I remain silent and avoid breaking any laws, admitting to both my parents of my consumption of THC since age 14 (Now 20)? \n\nIn Denmark, weed is an illegal b-classed (\"soft\") drug, but it's an extremely popular subject nationally, people are fighting for legalization. I know many patients are trying for themselves but a nice lady like my mom wouldn't know where to begin (she mentioned medicinal marijuana before). My dad is a doctor, but doesn't know anything about weed, but i know that he believes in facts, facts that I can prove from a few years of smoking more or less consistantly. \n\nAlso, I would have posted somewhere better suited, but in the end of the day there's no better community than reddit, especially if I want to keep anonymous. \n\nPlease help", "Do I tell my mom (who has cancer) to start smoking weed for more quality in life? My mom has been sick for just over a year now; status says incurable. Whenever she's had chemotherapy, she's weak and won't have an apetite for the next 48 hours. So here's the thing, do I advice her to try weed to improve her quality of life while she still has that? Or do I remain silent and avoid breaking any laws, admitting to both my parents of my consumption of THC since age 14 (Now 20)? \n\nIn Denmark, weed is an illegal b-classed (\"soft\") drug, but it's an extremely popular subject nationally, people are fighting for legalization. I know many patients are trying for themselves but a nice lady like my mom wouldn't know where to begin (she mentioned medicinal marijuana before). My dad is a doctor, but doesn't know anything about weed, but i know that he believes in facts, facts that I can prove from a few years of smoking more or less consistantly. \n\nAlso, I would have posted somewhere better suited, but in the end of the day there's no better community than reddit, especially if I want to keep anonymous. \n\nPlease help", "Do I tell my mom (who has cancer) to start smoking weed for more quality in life? My mom has been sick for just over a year now; status says incurable. Whenever she's had chemotherapy, she's weak and won't have an apetite for the next 48 hours. So here's the thing, do I advice her to try weed to improve her quality of life while she still has that? Or do I remain silent and avoid breaking any laws, admitting to both my parents of my consumption of THC since age 14 (Now 20)? \n\nIn Denmark, weed is an illegal b-classed (\"soft\") drug, but it's an extremely popular subject nationally, people are fighting for legalization. I know many patients are trying for themselves but a nice lady like my mom wouldn't know where to begin (she mentioned medicinal marijuana before). My dad is a doctor, but doesn't know anything about weed, but i know that he believes in facts, facts that I can prove from a few years of smoking more or less consistantly. \n\nAlso, I would have posted somewhere better suited, but in the end of the day there's no better community than reddit, especially if I want to keep anonymous. \n\nPlease help", "Do I tell my mom (who has cancer) to start smoking weed for more quality in life? My mom has been sick for just over a year now; status says incurable. Whenever she's had chemotherapy, she's weak and won't have an apetite for the next 48 hours. So here's the thing, do I advice her to try weed to improve her quality of life while she still has that? Or do I remain silent and avoid breaking any laws, admitting to both my parents of my consumption of THC since age 14 (Now 20)? \n\nIn Denmark, weed is an illegal b-classed (\"soft\") drug, but it's an extremely popular subject nationally, people are fighting for legalization. I know many patients are trying for themselves but a nice lady like my mom wouldn't know where to begin (she mentioned medicinal marijuana before). My dad is a doctor, but doesn't know anything about weed, but i know that he believes in facts, facts that I can prove from a few years of smoking more or less consistantly. \n\nAlso, I would have posted somewhere better suited, but in the end of the day there's no better community than reddit, especially if I want to keep anonymous. \n\nPlease help", "Do I tell my mom (who has cancer) to start smoking weed for more quality in life? My mom has been sick for just over a year now; status says incurable. Whenever she's had chemotherapy, she's weak and won't have an apetite for the next 48 hours. So here's the thing, do I advice her to try weed to improve her quality of life while she still has that? Or do I remain silent and avoid breaking any laws, admitting to both my parents of my consumption of THC since age 14 (Now 20)? \n\nIn Denmark, weed is an illegal b-classed (\"soft\") drug, but it's an extremely popular subject nationally, people are fighting for legalization. I know many patients are trying for themselves but a nice lady like my mom wouldn't know where to begin (she mentioned medicinal marijuana before). My dad is a doctor, but doesn't know anything about weed, but i know that he believes in facts, facts that I can prove from a few years of smoking more or less consistantly. \n\nAlso, I would have posted somewhere better suited, but in the end of the day there's no better community than reddit, especially if I want to keep anonymous. \n\nPlease help", "Do I tell my mom (who has cancer) to start smoking weed for more quality in life? My mom has been sick for just over a year now; status says incurable. Whenever she's had chemotherapy, she's weak and won't have an apetite for the next 48 hours. So here's the thing, do I advice her to try weed to improve her quality of life while she still has that? Or do I remain silent and avoid breaking any laws, admitting to both my parents of my consumption of THC since age 14 (Now 20)? \n\nIn Denmark, weed is an illegal b-classed (\"soft\") drug, but it's an extremely popular subject nationally, people are fighting for legalization. I know many patients are trying for themselves but a nice lady like my mom wouldn't know where to begin (she mentioned medicinal marijuana before). My dad is a doctor, but doesn't know anything about weed, but i know that he believes in facts, facts that I can prove from a few years of smoking more or less consistantly. \n\nAlso, I would have posted somewhere better suited, but in the end of the day there's no better community than reddit, especially if I want to keep anonymous. \n\nPlease help", "Do I tell my mom (who has cancer) to start smoking weed for more quality in life? My mom has been sick for just over a year now; status says incurable. Whenever she's had chemotherapy, she's weak and won't have an apetite for the next 48 hours. So here's the thing, do I advice her to try weed to improve her quality of life while she still has that? Or do I remain silent and avoid breaking any laws, admitting to both my parents of my consumption of THC since age 14 (Now 20)? \n\nIn Denmark, weed is an illegal b-classed (\"soft\") drug, but it's an extremely popular subject nationally, people are fighting for legalization. I know many patients are trying for themselves but a nice lady like my mom wouldn't know where to begin (she mentioned medicinal marijuana before). My dad is a doctor, but doesn't know anything about weed, but i know that he believes in facts, facts that I can prove from a few years of smoking more or less consistantly. \n\nAlso, I would have posted somewhere better suited, but in the end of the day there's no better community than reddit, especially if I want to keep anonymous. \n\nPlease help", "Do I tell my mom (who has cancer) to start smoking weed for more quality in life? My mom has been sick for just over a year now; status says incurable. Whenever she's had chemotherapy, she's weak and won't have an apetite for the next 48 hours. So here's the thing, do I advice her to try weed to improve her quality of life while she still has that? Or do I remain silent and avoid breaking any laws, admitting to both my parents of my consumption of THC since age 14 (Now 20)? \n\nIn Denmark, weed is an illegal b-classed (\"soft\") drug, but it's an extremely popular subject nationally, people are fighting for legalization. I know many patients are trying for themselves but a nice lady like my mom wouldn't know where to begin (she mentioned medicinal marijuana before). My dad is a doctor, but doesn't know anything about weed, but i know that he believes in facts, facts that I can prove from a few years of smoking more or less consistantly. \n\nAlso, I would have posted somewhere better suited, but in the end of the day there's no better community than reddit, especially if I want to keep anonymous. \n\nPlease help", "Do I tell my mom (who has cancer) to start smoking weed for more quality in life? My mom has been sick for just over a year now; status says incurable. Whenever she's had chemotherapy, she's weak and won't have an apetite for the next 48 hours. So here's the thing, do I advice her to try weed to improve her quality of life while she still has that? Or do I remain silent and avoid breaking any laws, admitting to both my parents of my consumption of THC since age 14 (Now 20)? \n\nIn Denmark, weed is an illegal b-classed (\"soft\") drug, but it's an extremely popular subject nationally, people are fighting for legalization. I know many patients are trying for themselves but a nice lady like my mom wouldn't know where to begin (she mentioned medicinal marijuana before). My dad is a doctor, but doesn't know anything about weed, but i know that he believes in facts, facts that I can prove from a few years of smoking more or less consistantly. \n\nAlso, I would have posted somewhere better suited, but in the end of the day there's no better community than reddit, especially if I want to keep anonymous. \n\nPlease help", "Do I tell my mom (who has cancer) to start smoking weed for more quality in life? My mom has been sick for just over a year now; status says incurable. Whenever she's had chemotherapy, she's weak and won't have an apetite for the next 48 hours. So here's the thing, do I advice her to try weed to improve her quality of life while she still has that? Or do I remain silent and avoid breaking any laws, admitting to both my parents of my consumption of THC since age 14 (Now 20)? \n\nIn Denmark, weed is an illegal b-classed (\"soft\") drug, but it's an extremely popular subject nationally, people are fighting for legalization. I know many patients are trying for themselves but a nice lady like my mom wouldn't know where to begin (she mentioned medicinal marijuana before). My dad is a doctor, but doesn't know anything about weed, but i know that he believes in facts, facts that I can prove from a few years of smoking more or less consistantly. \n\nAlso, I would have posted somewhere better suited, but in the end of the day there's no better community than reddit, especially if I want to keep anonymous. \n\nPlease help", "Do I tell my mom (who has cancer) to start smoking weed for more quality in life? My mom has been sick for just over a year now; status says incurable. Whenever she's had chemotherapy, she's weak and won't have an apetite for the next 48 hours. So here's the thing, do I advice her to try weed to improve her quality of life while she still has that? Or do I remain silent and avoid breaking any laws, admitting to both my parents of my consumption of THC since age 14 (Now 20)? \n\nIn Denmark, weed is an illegal b-classed (\"soft\") drug, but it's an extremely popular subject nationally, people are fighting for legalization. I know many patients are trying for themselves but a nice lady like my mom wouldn't know where to begin (she mentioned medicinal marijuana before). My dad is a doctor, but doesn't know anything about weed, but i know that he believes in facts, facts that I can prove from a few years of smoking more or less consistantly. \n\nAlso, I would have posted somewhere better suited, but in the end of the day there's no better community than reddit, especially if I want to keep anonymous. \n\nPlease help", "Do I tell my mom (who has cancer) to start smoking weed for more quality in life? My mom has been sick for just over a year now; status says incurable. Whenever she's had chemotherapy, she's weak and won't have an apetite for the next 48 hours. So here's the thing, do I advice her to try weed to improve her quality of life while she still has that? Or do I remain silent and avoid breaking any laws, admitting to both my parents of my consumption of THC since age 14 (Now 20)? \n\nIn Denmark, weed is an illegal b-classed (\"soft\") drug, but it's an extremely popular subject nationally, people are fighting for legalization. I know many patients are trying for themselves but a nice lady like my mom wouldn't know where to begin (she mentioned medicinal marijuana before). My dad is a doctor, but doesn't know anything about weed, but i know that he believes in facts, facts that I can prove from a few years of smoking more or less consistantly. \n\nAlso, I would have posted somewhere better suited, but in the end of the day there's no better community than reddit, especially if I want to keep anonymous. \n\nPlease help" ]

[ "You can suggest it to your mom based on articles you've read without admitting that you've taken it. There's a lot of research behind it and you can convincingly tell her you've never tried it\n\nLike \"mom I did some research into alternative medicine for chemotherapy sickness and read that marijuana is a promising treatment\"", "Give it a try. But maybe say consume THC rather than smoking weed. You can get it in pill form and consumables. You don't *have* to smoke it to feel its affects.", "I would suggest cannabis oil. There are a lot more studies on it. Plus it wouldn't seem so bad because smoking is always associated with bad. ", "Try bringing it up in a way that you are concerned about her pain. Something along the lines of \"Hey Mom, have you ever considered using THC for pain relief?\" ", "Sit her down and have her watch Sanjay Gupta story about Medical marijuana. Its available on YouTube. There are several methods she can benefit from cannabis. Smoking is one but there is vaping, edibles, creams and more recently transdermal patches. BY ALL MEANS AVOID THE SYNTHETIC MARINOL. My mother was given marinol and she freaked out because it was man-made hell. It was too potent. \nCannabis will not only alleviate her nausea but lift her spirits. I helped a friend with Pancreatic cancer. After his passing his family was grateful for cannabis because it erased his pain and it allowed him to smile and laugh in his final days.\nGood luck and God bless. ", "No harm in asking. My Mom had breast cancer for many years and went through chemotherapy several times. I suggested weed as a way to help her w/ pain and nausea, but her morals were to high to use an illegal drug. \nI'd say, just respect your mom's answer. ", "My pa has chronic pain from numerous botched surgical procedures and he finds the only way he can find peace and sleep for more than 2 hours per night is pot. Maybe suggest it in an edible form as the stigma around smoking it may turn her completely off the idea. ", "My aunt has cancer, and found thc very helpful for the nausea. I recommend making her edibles, as if you do it right, you can get a lot of the additional good shit in weed into the edible.\n\nIt's not just the THC, you've got the CBD, CBN, the terpenes, and all this other stuff that may or may not help. When you smoke, a lot of that is destroyed. And when you buy mass-produced edibles from the dispensary, a lot of it is made with thx extract. You can google the exact temp range to optimally extract the right cannabis compounds. \n\nIt also lasts longer and helps more with relaxation and insomnia - at least from what I've seen, everyone is different though. \n\nI would bring it up like \"I read an article about medical cannabis extracts being used to treat chemo symptoms\" and just see how she responds. My aunt was definitely pretty conservative so I also thought she might say no way, but after I asked she admitted she was curious and that was that. \n\n", "Make her a weed cake. Smoking, correlating to \"natively\" smoking, makes conservative people think of people who consume marijuana as junkies.", "I haven't read the other replies but I will say this.\n\nStarted smoking pot when 15 and I'm 55 now. My father died of cancer.\n\nIt's hard to watch. My dad knew about the benefits of pot while undergoing the process. I didn't need to tell him. Had he wanted to go that route....he would have said.\n\nI'm sorry for what you are going through. Just don't forget that every single possibility is on the mind of the patient without prompting from others.", "I can teach you how to make very, very, good tinctures, because combustion in general is awful, but im not sure if its okay to post the recipe...", "Go for it, as tactfully as you can.\n\nIf you don't at least make an effort, this is one of those things you will always wish you had done differently.", "Yes. Make sure it's hydro or better, last thing she needs is to think Satan is after her or someone is trying to kill her, i.e. avoid paranoia." ]

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[ "When writing an email, fill out recipient last. Unfortunately Ive learned this from making mistakes in the past and sending unfinished emails only having to continue the email and apologize for the mistake. Its a very simple habit to integrate into your workflow and hopefully you’ve never made the mistake to begin with. I promise if you make it once, you will probably have this as your solution in the future. I wish someone had told me. \n\nI love this channel and the posts.\nBe good to each other :)\nMuch love to all", "When writing an email, fill out recipient last. Unfortunately Ive learned this from making mistakes in the past and sending unfinished emails only having to continue the email and apologize for the mistake. Its a very simple habit to integrate into your workflow and hopefully you’ve never made the mistake to begin with. I promise if you make it once, you will probably have this as your solution in the future. I wish someone had told me. \n\nI love this channel and the posts.\nBe good to each other :)\nMuch love to all", "When writing an email, fill out recipient last. Unfortunately Ive learned this from making mistakes in the past and sending unfinished emails only having to continue the email and apologize for the mistake. Its a very simple habit to integrate into your workflow and hopefully you’ve never made the mistake to begin with. I promise if you make it once, you will probably have this as your solution in the future. I wish someone had told me. \n\nI love this channel and the posts.\nBe good to each other :)\nMuch love to all", "When writing an email, fill out recipient last. Unfortunately Ive learned this from making mistakes in the past and sending unfinished emails only having to continue the email and apologize for the mistake. Its a very simple habit to integrate into your workflow and hopefully you’ve never made the mistake to begin with. I promise if you make it once, you will probably have this as your solution in the future. I wish someone had told me. \n\nI love this channel and the posts.\nBe good to each other :)\nMuch love to all" ]

[ "I begin With recipient in order to avoid forget someone, I simply put qqq in cc or bcc. If you push send button outlook asks you to fill properly recipients so you have the effect of not sending unfinished email but keeping safe the recipient list.", "VIPRE has a product called SafeSend that allows you to get a prompt to confirm that you want to send to X - you can whitelist domains so that you don't get prompted for internal emails but external has a confirmation. This helps with the \"I accidentally sent you a different client's report\"", "I have seen this LPT several times already, but so often it doesn't work that way. If you reply to a message, hit reply, should you then remove the recipient and add it again later?\n\nBetter use a functionality that delays sending an email for a bit, giving you a window of opportunity to \"undo\". For thunderbird use the \"send later\" add-on.", "What about when you hit reply? \n \nI really wish you could hotkey an \"important\" tag so it asks you if you're sure when sending an email." ]

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[ "How do I live well on my own and take care of myself? I just moved across the country to college and have kind of been babied and sheltered my entire life. Now i need to figure out how to do... well... life. I mean, I never cooked for myself, never did my own laundry, never had to deal with the law or any real major life problems, I never made a doctor's appointment for myself and on and on it goes. If you guys have any tips to share in regard to these things or anything else for that matter I am open ears.\n", "How do I live well on my own and take care of myself? I just moved across the country to college and have kind of been babied and sheltered my entire life. Now i need to figure out how to do... well... life. I mean, I never cooked for myself, never did my own laundry, never had to deal with the law or any real major life problems, I never made a doctor's appointment for myself and on and on it goes. If you guys have any tips to share in regard to these things or anything else for that matter I am open ears.\n", "How do I live well on my own and take care of myself? I just moved across the country to college and have kind of been babied and sheltered my entire life. Now i need to figure out how to do... well... life. I mean, I never cooked for myself, never did my own laundry, never had to deal with the law or any real major life problems, I never made a doctor's appointment for myself and on and on it goes. If you guys have any tips to share in regard to these things or anything else for that matter I am open ears.\n", "How do I live well on my own and take care of myself? I just moved across the country to college and have kind of been babied and sheltered my entire life. Now i need to figure out how to do... well... life. I mean, I never cooked for myself, never did my own laundry, never had to deal with the law or any real major life problems, I never made a doctor's appointment for myself and on and on it goes. If you guys have any tips to share in regard to these things or anything else for that matter I am open ears.\n", "How do I live well on my own and take care of myself? I just moved across the country to college and have kind of been babied and sheltered my entire life. Now i need to figure out how to do... well... life. I mean, I never cooked for myself, never did my own laundry, never had to deal with the law or any real major life problems, I never made a doctor's appointment for myself and on and on it goes. If you guys have any tips to share in regard to these things or anything else for that matter I am open ears.\n" ]

[ "Living on your own isn't that bad, I've been doing it a couple years now with reasonable success.\n\nHow to cook: Read recipes and follow them. Or just combine random things that sound tasty. (If somebody else hasn't already done it, I might someday post an Idiot's Guide to Improvised Cooking. It's a topic large enough to merit its own post.)\n\nHow to do laundry: Separate lights and darks, unless you don't mind dingy-looking whites. Put them in the washing machine with detergent, set to a cool/gentle cycle unless they're super filthy. Dryers wear out clothes faster than washers, so if you can hang them somewhere to dry, do that.\n\nSub-topic of laundry: Mending clothes. Get a packet of needles and some thread. At minimum, learn to sew a button on. Also good to know: running stitch and backstitch (for when seams pop), overcast and buttonhole stitch (keep edges from fraying, among other things), hemstitch (fix hems that come apart, make new ones if necessary), darning (fixes holes, is easier than it looks). \n\nHow to deal with the law: Don't break the law. Practice looking like the innocent kid you are.\n\nHow to make a doctor's appointment: Call the doctor's office. Ask to make an appointment. The nice receptionist will basically do everything for you.\n\nHow to clean your space: Put on some music, find dirty things, clean them. Repeat until you run out of time, energy, or things to clean.\n\nHow to keep track of your schedule: Right now I use the calendar app on my phone, because it's always in my pocket. In the past I've used a planner notebook, that actually works better, but is less convenient.\n\nHow to not fail college: Go to class. (Seriously, single biggest tip I have. Not only will you be there learning the material, but professors like faces they see at every class, and they will cut you slack.)\n\nHow to pay taxes: Call your parents and get them to help you, you're probably still listed as their dependent for tax purposes anyway (if in US - I know nothing about other countries' taxes, and little enough about my own).\n\n", "Buy a wall calendar or utilise your phone/laptop app and stick in repeating reminders/to dos for example - pay bills on certain dates, assignments due dates. \nBuy an alarm clock - if you've been babied, you've probably never had to be responsible for getting out of bed on time. If you sleep until noon and miss a lecture, no one is going to wake you up after you snooze the alarm. \nI'm not sure what you're parents are doing for money for you but budgets are an essential part of growing up! Create a spreadsheet or download a template and systematically work out what you need to spend vs. what you have and try like hell to stick to it. If you manage to set yourself up for good spending practices now at your age, you'll be in good stead for the rest of your life (coming from someone who took until 23 to figure it out). \nIn regards to laundry - separate clothes! Don't just through it all in one big load. Try to minimise using a dryer, you'll do less damage and save electricity. Buy a little drying rack for your room (if it fits). \nCooking isn't too hard to learn, and if you can learn a few simple meals, you can freeze up batches of things. Try buying a slow cooker for cheap, delicious eats. Throw a bunch of veggies, some chuck steak and stock into a pot and you've got a tasty dinner when you get home. One pot wonders are the BEST! When you go shopping for food, look for seasonal produce, buy what's on special and stock up on basics. It's not hard to create a yummy meal with just salt, pepper and olive oil as seasonings. Honestly, most of the week you can probably get away with toast or microwave oats for breakfast and sandwiches aren't too hard to create for lunch. \nIf you've never had a job, now is a good time to look for one, use your college's student career centre and they should be able to help you create a CV, look for some suitable jobs around campus and help you learn to interview. A job is an excellent way of teaching you all the little things you need in life. \nAs a final note, I think a big thing in life is to trust your instinct. If something doesn't look, feel or seem right, don't do it or cut and run. Don't fret, you'll get there pretty soon. ", "Learn to cook, the internet is recipe book, invest in some quality flatware (pots and pans) and it is an investment, nothing too fancy, but should be robust and heavy in your hand. Next, and this is deceptively simple. DO NOT EAT OUT, as a matter of habit. It is incredibly expensive, and unhealthy. Restaurant food always tastes better because they use tons of salt, butter, and sugar. Laundry is easy separate whites from colors, and then separate lights from dark's. Only use hot water for bed linens and towels. Pay your bills on time, the sooner their paid for, the longer it is before they have to paid again. Wash your bed linen every one to two weeks. And finally, floss everyday its far more important than you realize. Good luck, the fact that you're asking means your willing to learn, I'll think you will do fine.", "Just try and keep as neat and clean as you can, always. If you have dirty dishes, do them straight away. If you make a mess, clean it up. Don't leave clothes all over the floor. Vacuum regularly. Shower every day. Do all this even if you aren't expecting visitors or going out anywhere. It puts you in such a positive frame of mine from the outset. I got into the habit of wallowing, eating crap and sitting in my pyjamas. it isn't fun. \n\nEverything else you need to learn one step at a time. Just don't be afraid to ask, either in person (if you are in the laundrette or the doctors) or you have the internet after all. They won't laugh at you, and if they do - they are dicks. ", "I would recommend making a list of the things you HAVE to do tomorrow. What are the things you feel you have to master to get through tomorrow/next few days? If you don't need to make a doctors appointment or do laundry in the next couple days, then don't fret. Get the cooking down first with simple recipes and then focus on laundry in a bit." ]

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[ "Dry and bleedy hangnails Any help on how to make them stop bleeding, hurt less, or even any nail-clipping techniques to end this madness.", "Dry and bleedy hangnails Any help on how to make them stop bleeding, hurt less, or even any nail-clipping techniques to end this madness.", "Dry and bleedy hangnails Any help on how to make them stop bleeding, hurt less, or even any nail-clipping techniques to end this madness.", "Dry and bleedy hangnails Any help on how to make them stop bleeding, hurt less, or even any nail-clipping techniques to end this madness.", "Dry and bleedy hangnails Any help on how to make them stop bleeding, hurt less, or even any nail-clipping techniques to end this madness." ]

[ "first, you need to find the sharpest nail clippers you can find. go to the drugstore and pick over the whole lot of them, making sure that you pick the ones where the blade meets precisely. Then trim off the dead skin and keep your nail edges squared, not rounded.\n\nnow, go wash your hands in warm water with gentle soap.\n\npat your hands dry, and use a good moisturizer, with coconut, lanolin, cocoa butter, or other oily emollients.\n\nwhen you go to bed, put on a nice thick layer of lotion, let it seep in, and then put your hands inside a pair of cotton socks, and sleep like that overnight. Wash your hands like normal, but again, pat dry and use moisturizers.\n\nsource: i'm a chef, I have to wash my hands constantly, and they get trashed on a regular basis.", "Nip them off level with your skin using toenail clippers.\n\nAlso deliberately dry out your skin through handwashing or rubbing alcohol, and smooth them with a broad, rough nail file that is made from some granular abrasive glued to a backboard (not the kind made from etched metal).", "I used to have this severely, but it cleared up when i started taking a multivitamin, cod liver oil and zinc. \n\nI have no idea if it was a coincidence or not but if your at a loss it's worth a try.", "I used to have this problem frequently in the winter. I apply liberal hand lotion on my fingertips at every bed time, and I haven't had the problem since.", "I started carrying a pair of nail clippers on my keychain last year. I still get hangnails, which I could probably prevent with lotion and/or supplements like cod liver oil. The point is that they don't become awful and bleedy from picking at them, or getting them hung up on things. As soon as I can, I trim them with the nail clippers." ]

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[ "How to deal with a VERY difficult boss I've been at my new job now for about 6 months. The majority of my time here has been pretty awesome. I work from home, and make great money, all while doing what I love.\n\nThe real problem is my boss/company owner. He's the type of person where you can't ever win a conversation... and everything is your fault. Do something good? Could have been done better and you're an idiot for not doing better. Did something wrong and apologize for your mistakes? You're an idiot that won't hear the end of it for 2-3 weeks. \n\nHe has ZERO understanding of how much work/tasks a human can take. He has set unrealistic expectations for the whole company, and my role specifically has received the worst end of it. What do I do? I am currently looking for a new position... but he has threatened to fire my whole department (3 people) at the end of may if \"things don't change\".", "How to deal with a VERY difficult boss I've been at my new job now for about 6 months. The majority of my time here has been pretty awesome. I work from home, and make great money, all while doing what I love.\n\nThe real problem is my boss/company owner. He's the type of person where you can't ever win a conversation... and everything is your fault. Do something good? Could have been done better and you're an idiot for not doing better. Did something wrong and apologize for your mistakes? You're an idiot that won't hear the end of it for 2-3 weeks. \n\nHe has ZERO understanding of how much work/tasks a human can take. He has set unrealistic expectations for the whole company, and my role specifically has received the worst end of it. What do I do? I am currently looking for a new position... but he has threatened to fire my whole department (3 people) at the end of may if \"things don't change\".", "How to deal with a VERY difficult boss I've been at my new job now for about 6 months. The majority of my time here has been pretty awesome. I work from home, and make great money, all while doing what I love.\n\nThe real problem is my boss/company owner. He's the type of person where you can't ever win a conversation... and everything is your fault. Do something good? Could have been done better and you're an idiot for not doing better. Did something wrong and apologize for your mistakes? You're an idiot that won't hear the end of it for 2-3 weeks. \n\nHe has ZERO understanding of how much work/tasks a human can take. He has set unrealistic expectations for the whole company, and my role specifically has received the worst end of it. What do I do? I am currently looking for a new position... but he has threatened to fire my whole department (3 people) at the end of may if \"things don't change\".", "How to deal with a VERY difficult boss I've been at my new job now for about 6 months. The majority of my time here has been pretty awesome. I work from home, and make great money, all while doing what I love.\n\nThe real problem is my boss/company owner. He's the type of person where you can't ever win a conversation... and everything is your fault. Do something good? Could have been done better and you're an idiot for not doing better. Did something wrong and apologize for your mistakes? You're an idiot that won't hear the end of it for 2-3 weeks. \n\nHe has ZERO understanding of how much work/tasks a human can take. He has set unrealistic expectations for the whole company, and my role specifically has received the worst end of it. What do I do? I am currently looking for a new position... but he has threatened to fire my whole department (3 people) at the end of may if \"things don't change\".", "How to deal with a VERY difficult boss I've been at my new job now for about 6 months. The majority of my time here has been pretty awesome. I work from home, and make great money, all while doing what I love.\n\nThe real problem is my boss/company owner. He's the type of person where you can't ever win a conversation... and everything is your fault. Do something good? Could have been done better and you're an idiot for not doing better. Did something wrong and apologize for your mistakes? You're an idiot that won't hear the end of it for 2-3 weeks. \n\nHe has ZERO understanding of how much work/tasks a human can take. He has set unrealistic expectations for the whole company, and my role specifically has received the worst end of it. What do I do? I am currently looking for a new position... but he has threatened to fire my whole department (3 people) at the end of may if \"things don't change\".", "How to deal with a VERY difficult boss I've been at my new job now for about 6 months. The majority of my time here has been pretty awesome. I work from home, and make great money, all while doing what I love.\n\nThe real problem is my boss/company owner. He's the type of person where you can't ever win a conversation... and everything is your fault. Do something good? Could have been done better and you're an idiot for not doing better. Did something wrong and apologize for your mistakes? You're an idiot that won't hear the end of it for 2-3 weeks. \n\nHe has ZERO understanding of how much work/tasks a human can take. He has set unrealistic expectations for the whole company, and my role specifically has received the worst end of it. What do I do? I am currently looking for a new position... but he has threatened to fire my whole department (3 people) at the end of may if \"things don't change\".", "How to deal with a VERY difficult boss I've been at my new job now for about 6 months. The majority of my time here has been pretty awesome. I work from home, and make great money, all while doing what I love.\n\nThe real problem is my boss/company owner. He's the type of person where you can't ever win a conversation... and everything is your fault. Do something good? Could have been done better and you're an idiot for not doing better. Did something wrong and apologize for your mistakes? You're an idiot that won't hear the end of it for 2-3 weeks. \n\nHe has ZERO understanding of how much work/tasks a human can take. He has set unrealistic expectations for the whole company, and my role specifically has received the worst end of it. What do I do? I am currently looking for a new position... but he has threatened to fire my whole department (3 people) at the end of may if \"things don't change\".", "How to deal with a VERY difficult boss I've been at my new job now for about 6 months. The majority of my time here has been pretty awesome. I work from home, and make great money, all while doing what I love.\n\nThe real problem is my boss/company owner. He's the type of person where you can't ever win a conversation... and everything is your fault. Do something good? Could have been done better and you're an idiot for not doing better. Did something wrong and apologize for your mistakes? You're an idiot that won't hear the end of it for 2-3 weeks. \n\nHe has ZERO understanding of how much work/tasks a human can take. He has set unrealistic expectations for the whole company, and my role specifically has received the worst end of it. What do I do? I am currently looking for a new position... but he has threatened to fire my whole department (3 people) at the end of may if \"things don't change\".", "How to deal with a VERY difficult boss I've been at my new job now for about 6 months. The majority of my time here has been pretty awesome. I work from home, and make great money, all while doing what I love.\n\nThe real problem is my boss/company owner. He's the type of person where you can't ever win a conversation... and everything is your fault. Do something good? Could have been done better and you're an idiot for not doing better. Did something wrong and apologize for your mistakes? You're an idiot that won't hear the end of it for 2-3 weeks. \n\nHe has ZERO understanding of how much work/tasks a human can take. He has set unrealistic expectations for the whole company, and my role specifically has received the worst end of it. What do I do? I am currently looking for a new position... but he has threatened to fire my whole department (3 people) at the end of may if \"things don't change\".", "How to deal with a VERY difficult boss I've been at my new job now for about 6 months. The majority of my time here has been pretty awesome. I work from home, and make great money, all while doing what I love.\n\nThe real problem is my boss/company owner. He's the type of person where you can't ever win a conversation... and everything is your fault. Do something good? Could have been done better and you're an idiot for not doing better. Did something wrong and apologize for your mistakes? You're an idiot that won't hear the end of it for 2-3 weeks. \n\nHe has ZERO understanding of how much work/tasks a human can take. He has set unrealistic expectations for the whole company, and my role specifically has received the worst end of it. What do I do? I am currently looking for a new position... but he has threatened to fire my whole department (3 people) at the end of may if \"things don't change\".", "How to deal with a VERY difficult boss I've been at my new job now for about 6 months. The majority of my time here has been pretty awesome. I work from home, and make great money, all while doing what I love.\n\nThe real problem is my boss/company owner. He's the type of person where you can't ever win a conversation... and everything is your fault. Do something good? Could have been done better and you're an idiot for not doing better. Did something wrong and apologize for your mistakes? You're an idiot that won't hear the end of it for 2-3 weeks. \n\nHe has ZERO understanding of how much work/tasks a human can take. He has set unrealistic expectations for the whole company, and my role specifically has received the worst end of it. What do I do? I am currently looking for a new position... but he has threatened to fire my whole department (3 people) at the end of may if \"things don't change\"." ]

[ "Like everyone else said, look for a new job. But, in the meantime, here's some advice:\n\nIt sounds like your boss hasn't set clear or realistic goals/benchmarks for measuring the quality of your work. This creates a moving target, where his expectations are always at least slightly higher than your performance. To head this off, I suggest you do the following:\n\n1) **Make a record of project expectations.** When he gives you a project/task, send him something in an email stating exactly what you will be doing, and include any quantitative metrics for measuring success (e.g., timeline, budget, number of things made, etc.).\n\n2) **Manage expectations and communicate limits.** Keep a list of your tasks, as well as amount of time needed to complete the tasks. If your boss asks you to do something additional, tell him \"Ok. I have to do X, Y, and Z by tomorrow, and they take about 3 hours each. How do you want me to prioritize this?\" If he tells you to do it all, let him know \"I will, but because I have less time, I won't be able to re-check things, and there could be mistakes I don't catch.\" Be sure that you communicate that you *want* to do a good job, but that you have limits. Admitting your limits can seem tough (he might say \"well, if you can't do it, I'll find someone who can\"), but he probably knows he's asking too much. It might also be helpful to let him know what industry standards are (and that all people with your skillset have these limitations).\n\n3) **Create and get input and approval for a list of \"best practices.\"** If you have a set of common duties, create a list of realistic rules to guide your work. For example, there can be a checklist of things you go through before turning in a project. This way, if your boss is not happy with your work, you can say \"thanks for the feedback, I'll include that in our best practices.\" Alternatively, if your boss keeps changing his standards, you can say \"Ok. I did this because we agreed that doing X was best practices. I can change it for the future.\" You should also communicate what that change would mean as well (it may take longer or be more expensive, etc.).\n\nFinally, I think communication is very important. If you have done the three things above, then you have made a good record of what the expectations are for your job. Then, if your boss criticizes you for something that he hasn't asked for before, or that you told him you couldn't do, then stand up for yourself in a good way. Say \"Mr. Smith, we agreed that I would do X. If you want me to do something different in the future, I will, but you need to tell me your expectations up front.\" Or, you can say \"Mr. Smith, I told you I couldn't do Y by the deadline you gave me.\"\n\nIt's hard to communicate your limits ahead of time, but it helps a lot. Your boss has to know there are limits to things. He understands that he can't get 100 widgets for $2, so he should also understand that he can't get you to build a train in one day. Of course you run this risk of your boss thinking he can get a better deal out of someone else, but--in my experience--overbearing bosses know that they ask a lot from people, and really just want to try and push you. They know that hiring a new person costs a lot of money, and won't make the decision lightly. Setting limits also shows that you are a professional, who communicate how things can be done well.", "Start finding a new job. Having a bad boss is one of the most soul crushing things you can have in your life. It's like being in an abusive relationship. Not trying to make light of actual abuse but you will end up with a mild version of battered wife syndrome, including anxiety, depression, etc....\n\nIf you decide to stay, you will either have lost or gained weight. It's like the frog being boiled alive, you don't even feel it until it's too late.\n\nThings are not going to get better, they will get worse. You will try to be a yes man. You will try to stand up for yourself. None of it will work because he's a dick and he will constantly try to squeeze you. Even if you are making him profits a dozen times your salary, it doesn't matter....he gets a rush from belittling people as much as he does money.", "After putting up with a bullying dickhead for three years, I quit and got a new job.\n\nMy new company/ boss is awesome, and I'm highly productive because Im so happy to come to work and simply be treated with respect.\n\nHome life is much better as well.", "Leave. Take it from someone whose last day with the boss from hell is on Tuesday. For a boss who yells at you for taking responsibility for a problem that you are dealing with, who doesn't even know how to do the job you are doing, and spends more time on her phone on private phonecalls than actually doing work. \n\nI've managed to find an amazing new job doing someone thing I really love doing and getting paid near twice as much as I am at this shitty job I'm at for two more days. \n\nYou can't reason with a shitty boss. They don't know how to manage their own staff and it will show eventually. It's much easier and less stressful to just leave when given the best opportunity to do so. ", "This is a massive opportunity to find a new gig. Every incendiary e-mail, missive or aggressive statement should be fuel for you to get your resume polished to a high shine - even if it isn't perfect.\n\nThe follow up is equally important, identify companies close to you that you would like to work for, or feel you would be able to make a great contribution. Make a list, do your homework on each one. See if you can find the person in charge of what you do (the web is wonderful this way), and then double down on the firms where it seems like people stay there for more than a couple of years. \n\nAfter this , send resumes. \n", "I've been through this recently in a sales role. Boss had unrealistic expectations for the team and made life very difficult for a few of us. We all performed well - better than our counterparts in other countries with more established customer bases, etc. \n\nAnyway, I kept my head down, worked my arse off, but most importantly I NETWORKED really well. Made some great contacts inside my larger company, among my customers, among my business partners, and ultimately it paid off.\n\nI now have a higher paid role in a better team with a manager I like working with and doing bigger deals with much bigger customers.\n\nNetwork, network, network. And use LinkedIn.\n\nGood luck", "I feel your pain and am going through pretty much the EXACT same thing, but also with health and relationship issues. I am telling you now, you MUST leave. Get out of there as quick as you can, save yourself, or find a new job asap! Either one of the two you must do, your boss will only bring you down so badly it will affect the rest of your life just as it has done so with mine. These people can never be reasoned with, sometimes I question if they actually have any part of 'human' left in them. Things have gotten so bad on my half to the point my doctor has put me on a 1 month sick leave (yes that's how bad everything has gotten..). I am currently contemplating if I should go in on Tuesday with a resignation instead of taking off a months leave first...(which in this time I'd of course be looking for a new job). I wish you the best of luck, hopefully we both make it out of our hell holes!", "This is just me, but I think some situations just aren't winnable and this may be one of them. I wouldn't work with someone like this, it would bother me too much. I'd be looking for another job. But not everyone is me. If you can put up with his shit a little and find a way to let it roll off your back, then go for it. Some people are just bullheaded and irrational though and it'll frustrate you even more trying to change or reason with him. A threat to be fired is a signal to start looking for another job though. ", "Can't believe I've not seen a single post mention HR. I know HR is mainly to protect the company rather than the employee but if boss is as verbally abusive as indicated, seems he is a lawsuit waiting to happen and the company would take steps to have him tone it down. Regardless, you should document everything just to cover your self. His stated expectations, his response when you meet or exceed them, his reaction to mistakes made and your efforts to rectify them, etc.", "Start spending a few day a month at the office. It's easy for a dickhead to be a dickhead over the phone. Being a dickhead to a man's face is much more difficult. Plus, you get to tell him with facial expressions and body language that he's getting close to the line and he should back off a bit. ", "Don't care, my last job the boss was very angry, and threatened to kill me on a daily basis, and I took all the yelling because I was the whipping post/lightning rod all anger was directed at me if I was near by, and if that stopped other people from walking out and making my job harder, I took it, also it just did not affect me. " ]

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[ "How to treat mild anxiety? To clarify: It's nowhere as extreme as I've heard it can be, but I'm constantly stressed out and worrying, and often have trouble sleeping. The lack of sleep and constant tenseness has really started to annoy me, as well as affect my productivity; do you have any tips to overcome this?", "How to treat mild anxiety? To clarify: It's nowhere as extreme as I've heard it can be, but I'm constantly stressed out and worrying, and often have trouble sleeping. The lack of sleep and constant tenseness has really started to annoy me, as well as affect my productivity; do you have any tips to overcome this?", "How to treat mild anxiety? To clarify: It's nowhere as extreme as I've heard it can be, but I'm constantly stressed out and worrying, and often have trouble sleeping. The lack of sleep and constant tenseness has really started to annoy me, as well as affect my productivity; do you have any tips to overcome this?", "How to treat mild anxiety? To clarify: It's nowhere as extreme as I've heard it can be, but I'm constantly stressed out and worrying, and often have trouble sleeping. The lack of sleep and constant tenseness has really started to annoy me, as well as affect my productivity; do you have any tips to overcome this?", "How to treat mild anxiety? To clarify: It's nowhere as extreme as I've heard it can be, but I'm constantly stressed out and worrying, and often have trouble sleeping. The lack of sleep and constant tenseness has really started to annoy me, as well as affect my productivity; do you have any tips to overcome this?", "How to treat mild anxiety? To clarify: It's nowhere as extreme as I've heard it can be, but I'm constantly stressed out and worrying, and often have trouble sleeping. The lack of sleep and constant tenseness has really started to annoy me, as well as affect my productivity; do you have any tips to overcome this?", "How to treat mild anxiety? To clarify: It's nowhere as extreme as I've heard it can be, but I'm constantly stressed out and worrying, and often have trouble sleeping. The lack of sleep and constant tenseness has really started to annoy me, as well as affect my productivity; do you have any tips to overcome this?", "How to treat mild anxiety? To clarify: It's nowhere as extreme as I've heard it can be, but I'm constantly stressed out and worrying, and often have trouble sleeping. The lack of sleep and constant tenseness has really started to annoy me, as well as affect my productivity; do you have any tips to overcome this?", "How to treat mild anxiety? To clarify: It's nowhere as extreme as I've heard it can be, but I'm constantly stressed out and worrying, and often have trouble sleeping. The lack of sleep and constant tenseness has really started to annoy me, as well as affect my productivity; do you have any tips to overcome this?", "How to treat mild anxiety? To clarify: It's nowhere as extreme as I've heard it can be, but I'm constantly stressed out and worrying, and often have trouble sleeping. The lack of sleep and constant tenseness has really started to annoy me, as well as affect my productivity; do you have any tips to overcome this?", "How to treat mild anxiety? To clarify: It's nowhere as extreme as I've heard it can be, but I'm constantly stressed out and worrying, and often have trouble sleeping. The lack of sleep and constant tenseness has really started to annoy me, as well as affect my productivity; do you have any tips to overcome this?", "How to treat mild anxiety? To clarify: It's nowhere as extreme as I've heard it can be, but I'm constantly stressed out and worrying, and often have trouble sleeping. The lack of sleep and constant tenseness has really started to annoy me, as well as affect my productivity; do you have any tips to overcome this?", "How to treat mild anxiety? To clarify: It's nowhere as extreme as I've heard it can be, but I'm constantly stressed out and worrying, and often have trouble sleeping. The lack of sleep and constant tenseness has really started to annoy me, as well as affect my productivity; do you have any tips to overcome this?" ]

[ "I've been dealing with generalized anxiety for about 15 years. At worse times, weed to be blunt helps the most/best. Alcohol should not be an answer as it will make you feel worse after. Try limiting your caffeine in the day, as well as a bedtime tea. Also look into some melatonin that you can get over the counter. \n\nYoga and m", "Lookup Mindfulness online. I've had some students who struggle with anxiety and they say this helps. There are a plethora of resources online and they don't just include videos. It helps some people gain control of themselves in the present moment. Hopefully it can help you too. ", "CBT works amazing but if you don’t have access to an official CBT program, you can wing it. \n\nThink of all the things that give you anxiety...even the little ones..being alone, going to the grocery store, driving on the highway. \n\nNow, do them. \nOver and over and over. \n\nYou might need to do them a “safe” way at first (ie driving with someone else in the car on the highway), but it’ll get better. \n\nThe more you do things, the more ordinary and the less anxiety-inducing they are. \n\nI have a general distaste for therapists and have not been to one in years, but about 7 years ago I developed crippling anxiety. \n\nI went 6 months without leaving the house, but then I was just like FORGET THIS and started doing everything that scared me. Two months later, I was flying across the US without any of my support people. \n\nNow, when I notice my little anxieties creeping up on me I just start doing all the stupid stuff that scares me. \n\nMaybe don’t take unnecessary risks though because I’m pretty sure that’s a whole ‘nother disorder. Just enjoy the adrenaline a little bit. \n\nFun fact: I ended up with the most beautiful, kind, loving German Shepherd as a result of just trying to get rid of my heart-wrenching, pant-crapping, running up a tree fear of dogs I’ve had since I was about 5. \n\nObviously, I’m not a doctor and this isn’t medical advice so probably don’t follow it. \n\nTL,DR: do everything that scares you but don’t become an adrenaline junkie \n", "Switch to tea if you are a coffee drinker, or take L-theanine with your coffee. Don't drink coffee once the morning is done - caffeine will make anxiety feel worse. \n\nWork out more, but avoid working out too close to bed time. Similarly, set a no-screen time for yourself (e.g., no checking your email after 8 PM). \n\nYoga (even just 5 minutes in the morning) is a good way to learn breath regulation so you can calm yourself down.\n\nCBT really works. If you're not able to access a therapist regularly, there are some apps available that use CBT principles (Pacifica is one, but I think it's a paid app). You can also get workbooks/journal prompts that can help you 'reframe' your worries and identify when your thoughts are excessively negative.", "Remember all those times that you were freaked out over nothing? Think about how things turned out fine and you were worried for nothing. When you find yourself worrying, just trust that a year from now you won't even remember whatever it was. Everything will be fine.\n\nI used to have crippling anxiety, but now I'm relaxed, successful, and do whatever I want. I also use alcohol and cannabis to enjoy myself and reduce anxiety, but I hesitate to suggest that to young people. I didn't start heavy use of any of that until I was full grown and out of college.\n\nFor crippling short term anxiety I am a strong believer in better living through chemistry. Find drugs that work on you and keep them on hand. I won't fly, visit the dentist, try to sleep before a big day, or suffer an injury without my favorite drugs handy. I like benadryl, valium, xanax, and several others. Don't take them daily or you will become dependent.", "You can try taking Valerian herb, it helps to calm enough to become aware anxiety is building up and let's you react in time", "Try writing down a list of what is bothering you, and make indented lines giving general details about why. Include things that are on your mind but very unlikely to happen. Anxiety is a lot about not being able to see the big picture. It's easy to accept something once you've quantified it. ", "Theres guided m", "I used to get teeny tiny panic attacks at work. I started getting high everyday at work and they have completely disappeared. Love those disposable thc distillate pens.\n\nI guess this is a pretty shitty lifeprotip, but it works for me. Plus I love getting high so its a win-win.", "I find marijuana aids me in managing my physical and mental stress... until I run out of it... then I go completely bonkers.", "Have something healthy to eat. If you're eating your brain thinks it can't be in danger.\n\nReal chamomile dried flowers for tea. That shit knocks you out.\n\nIf nothing is working saying to yourself \"i feel shit right now, I won't feel like this forever. I just need to ride it out\"\n\nIf its bad enough that you're posting looking for help I'd say its bad enough to get professional help from a CBT psychologist.\n\nKeep a log of your anxiety. There could be a pattern - mine is hormonal. It helped so much in working it out.", "Circular breathing may help. It seems insignificant, but when you control your breathing it’s one thing that is within your power to change in that moment. You can do a 3 count, 4 count, or whatever you are feeling just keep each part equal. Basically you breath in for 3 counts, hold your breath for 3 counts, breath out for 3 counts, hold for 3 counts, then repeat for as long as you need. I agree with previous poster that you should give yoga a shot (many different kinds out there so don’t stop if the first kind you try isn’t your thing). I also have used CBD oil, although depending on where you are price/availability might be a factor. Circular breathing is my top recommendation though, hope this helps. Hang in there!", "Been there done that, ignored it hoping it would go away and it snowballed, got so bad I went off sick for 2 years and spent the first few months not leaving the house at all. \n\nCBT (with a good therapist) and mindfulness (do a course, ideally not an online one) are the best treatments. \n\nAnd as with all mental health problems, good routines, regular exercise, getting out of your comfort zone, self-reflection (most say m" ]

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[ "How to keep sheets from coming untucked from the foot of the bed. I move alot in my sleep and every morning I seem to have to completely redo my bed because the sheets are always completely out from under the foot of the bed. Is there any way to help fix this?", "How to keep sheets from coming untucked from the foot of the bed. I move alot in my sleep and every morning I seem to have to completely redo my bed because the sheets are always completely out from under the foot of the bed. Is there any way to help fix this?", "How to keep sheets from coming untucked from the foot of the bed. I move alot in my sleep and every morning I seem to have to completely redo my bed because the sheets are always completely out from under the foot of the bed. Is there any way to help fix this?", "How to keep sheets from coming untucked from the foot of the bed. I move alot in my sleep and every morning I seem to have to completely redo my bed because the sheets are always completely out from under the foot of the bed. Is there any way to help fix this?" ]

[ "Sealy super fit sheets. I don't know if they still make them, or of they replaced them with another name since they're getting harder to find. But if you can find some, they're awesome. ", "Personally, I tuck in at the bottom of the bed like normal, then with the excess \"flaps\" that hang off on each side I fold them and tuck them under the sides of the bed. That way you have multiple points where its tucked. It seems to make it a little bit harder to untuck.", "Give yourself some slack. I like to make sure that my sheets are loose enough so that I don't try and kick them out with my feet. I only tuck in the bottom and leave the sides loose.", "Could you do me a favor? Could you not tuck the blankets in? 'Cause I can't sleep all tucked in... I like to just be able to take the blankets and swish them and swirl them, you know what I mean? You know, I don't like being all tucked in. I like to have a lot of room, you know I like to have my toes pointed up in the air. Just like to scrunch up the blankets.\n" ]

[ 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to get rid of smoke smell from clothes..? Had a campfire on the weekend, my raincoat now stinks of smoke. How can I get the smoky smell out of it..?\n", "How to get rid of smoke smell from clothes..? Had a campfire on the weekend, my raincoat now stinks of smoke. How can I get the smoky smell out of it..?\n", "How to get rid of smoke smell from clothes..? Had a campfire on the weekend, my raincoat now stinks of smoke. How can I get the smoky smell out of it..?\n" ]

[ "Put it in a bag and cover it in a cup of bicarbonate of soda and leave for 24 hours. The bicarb absorbs smells and there's no need to get your coat wet. ", "Use a clothes steamer. Usually does the trick. Worked great on wool suits and overcoats after I'd been in a cigar bar. ", "I had this happen to a jacket of mine and a friend suggested i stick it in the dryer on low with a couple dryer sheets. Didn't completely get rid of the smell but it was a lot more pleasant." ]

[ 4, 1, 0 ]

[ "prevent break-ins for my old, beat up car that has nothing valuable inside. My car is a 2001 Honda that is clearly beat up on the outside. I live in downtown Chicago and have to park on the street because I can't afford to buy a spot in a garage (I'm a student). The spot is on a relatively busy street that is lit up all night. I leave nothing valuable in the car (no charging cables or electronics), I leave the glove box and everything else open to show there's nothing valuable. Nevertheless, it's been broken into several times over the past year. Nothing stolen because there's nothing to steal, but replacing the window has been expensive.\n\nI have to keep my car nearby because my grandfather is very old and has health issues, and I'm the nearest family member that he could call if he ever needs help. I've considered just rolling down the windows and taping on a trash bag so that hoodlums will just tear the bag rather than breaking a window.\n\nAny ideas would be most welcome.", "prevent break-ins for my old, beat up car that has nothing valuable inside. My car is a 2001 Honda that is clearly beat up on the outside. I live in downtown Chicago and have to park on the street because I can't afford to buy a spot in a garage (I'm a student). The spot is on a relatively busy street that is lit up all night. I leave nothing valuable in the car (no charging cables or electronics), I leave the glove box and everything else open to show there's nothing valuable. Nevertheless, it's been broken into several times over the past year. Nothing stolen because there's nothing to steal, but replacing the window has been expensive.\n\nI have to keep my car nearby because my grandfather is very old and has health issues, and I'm the nearest family member that he could call if he ever needs help. I've considered just rolling down the windows and taping on a trash bag so that hoodlums will just tear the bag rather than breaking a window.\n\nAny ideas would be most welcome.", "prevent break-ins for my old, beat up car that has nothing valuable inside. My car is a 2001 Honda that is clearly beat up on the outside. I live in downtown Chicago and have to park on the street because I can't afford to buy a spot in a garage (I'm a student). The spot is on a relatively busy street that is lit up all night. I leave nothing valuable in the car (no charging cables or electronics), I leave the glove box and everything else open to show there's nothing valuable. Nevertheless, it's been broken into several times over the past year. Nothing stolen because there's nothing to steal, but replacing the window has been expensive.\n\nI have to keep my car nearby because my grandfather is very old and has health issues, and I'm the nearest family member that he could call if he ever needs help. I've considered just rolling down the windows and taping on a trash bag so that hoodlums will just tear the bag rather than breaking a window.\n\nAny ideas would be most welcome.", "prevent break-ins for my old, beat up car that has nothing valuable inside. My car is a 2001 Honda that is clearly beat up on the outside. I live in downtown Chicago and have to park on the street because I can't afford to buy a spot in a garage (I'm a student). The spot is on a relatively busy street that is lit up all night. I leave nothing valuable in the car (no charging cables or electronics), I leave the glove box and everything else open to show there's nothing valuable. Nevertheless, it's been broken into several times over the past year. Nothing stolen because there's nothing to steal, but replacing the window has been expensive.\n\nI have to keep my car nearby because my grandfather is very old and has health issues, and I'm the nearest family member that he could call if he ever needs help. I've considered just rolling down the windows and taping on a trash bag so that hoodlums will just tear the bag rather than breaking a window.\n\nAny ideas would be most welcome.", "prevent break-ins for my old, beat up car that has nothing valuable inside. My car is a 2001 Honda that is clearly beat up on the outside. I live in downtown Chicago and have to park on the street because I can't afford to buy a spot in a garage (I'm a student). The spot is on a relatively busy street that is lit up all night. I leave nothing valuable in the car (no charging cables or electronics), I leave the glove box and everything else open to show there's nothing valuable. Nevertheless, it's been broken into several times over the past year. Nothing stolen because there's nothing to steal, but replacing the window has been expensive.\n\nI have to keep my car nearby because my grandfather is very old and has health issues, and I'm the nearest family member that he could call if he ever needs help. I've considered just rolling down the windows and taping on a trash bag so that hoodlums will just tear the bag rather than breaking a window.\n\nAny ideas would be most welcome." ]

[ "Get a battery saver disconnect kit, install it so it's not obvious, then flip switch (disconnects battery so car won't start) and leave car unlocked. \n\nIf you are leaving it unlocked, a sign may work stating it's unlocked. ", "Leave the doors unlocked and the windows rolled down at least an arms length. I knew a guy who had his car broken into when the door was unlocked...\n\nyou may find a homeless person inside on a cold night, but at least they're just trying to stay warm instead of rob you. \n\n", "I left my van unlocked for years after I saw how easy it was to rip the lock out of the door. I attached a heavy duty chain to the wall and then padlocked a toolbox to the chain so I had a secure place to lock wallet and phone when down at the beach. \n\nIf you are worried about it getting stolen then get one of those steering wheel locks from an auto parts store. \n\n\n\n ", "Odd question, but are you known for selling weed or anything? It sounds way too targeted to just be random occurrences. Generally thieves don't want to break a window because of the noise. Even then, it's generally only so they can do a smash-n-grab of your GPS unit on the dash, not break and then go rooting around, especially on a busy street.", "Get a fake (or real) car alarm. And by fake car alarm, I mean a simple blinking light on your dash to make it seem like you have an alarm. My car got broken into 3 times (each time I forgot to turn on my alarm...thus no blinking light visible). " ]

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[ "Memory Foam Topper Sliding Off Mattress I recently got a memory foam topper for my mattress, and I love it. The problem is that it keeps shifting diagonally off my bed. It won’t push back into place, and my bed is against a wall, so I can’t pull it back over. It’s a huge pain to constantly have to strip all my fitted sheets and mattress protectors to pick up the bulky, heavy topper and maneuver it back on top of my mattress, only to repeat every few days. How can I keep this thing in place?\n\n", "Memory Foam Topper Sliding Off Mattress I recently got a memory foam topper for my mattress, and I love it. The problem is that it keeps shifting diagonally off my bed. It won’t push back into place, and my bed is against a wall, so I can’t pull it back over. It’s a huge pain to constantly have to strip all my fitted sheets and mattress protectors to pick up the bulky, heavy topper and maneuver it back on top of my mattress, only to repeat every few days. How can I keep this thing in place?\n\n", "Memory Foam Topper Sliding Off Mattress I recently got a memory foam topper for my mattress, and I love it. The problem is that it keeps shifting diagonally off my bed. It won’t push back into place, and my bed is against a wall, so I can’t pull it back over. It’s a huge pain to constantly have to strip all my fitted sheets and mattress protectors to pick up the bulky, heavy topper and maneuver it back on top of my mattress, only to repeat every few days. How can I keep this thing in place?\n\n", "Memory Foam Topper Sliding Off Mattress I recently got a memory foam topper for my mattress, and I love it. The problem is that it keeps shifting diagonally off my bed. It won’t push back into place, and my bed is against a wall, so I can’t pull it back over. It’s a huge pain to constantly have to strip all my fitted sheets and mattress protectors to pick up the bulky, heavy topper and maneuver it back on top of my mattress, only to repeat every few days. How can I keep this thing in place?\n\n", "Memory Foam Topper Sliding Off Mattress I recently got a memory foam topper for my mattress, and I love it. The problem is that it keeps shifting diagonally off my bed. It won’t push back into place, and my bed is against a wall, so I can’t pull it back over. It’s a huge pain to constantly have to strip all my fitted sheets and mattress protectors to pick up the bulky, heavy topper and maneuver it back on top of my mattress, only to repeat every few days. How can I keep this thing in place?\n\n", "Memory Foam Topper Sliding Off Mattress I recently got a memory foam topper for my mattress, and I love it. The problem is that it keeps shifting diagonally off my bed. It won’t push back into place, and my bed is against a wall, so I can’t pull it back over. It’s a huge pain to constantly have to strip all my fitted sheets and mattress protectors to pick up the bulky, heavy topper and maneuver it back on top of my mattress, only to repeat every few days. How can I keep this thing in place?\n\n" ]

[ "Mattress protector as others have said.\n\nOtherwise, I would pick up some rug backer. It's a sticky rubber mat that's perforated and designed to keep rugs in place on the floor. I imagine it would work well for this as well", "You could get those strap things that hold the sheets in place and attach them to the mattress topper instead?", "Aren’t there loops/straps on the corners? If not, get some elastic and loops it diagonally across the 4 corners, over the mattress pad to under the mattress", "\"Try securing the memory foam topper to the mattress with some non-slip grip pads or fabric tape. This should help keep the topper in place and prevent it from sliding off. Alternatively, you could try placing a fitted sheet over both the mattress and topper to help hold everything in place.", "Next time you have to move it, turn it through half a circle (180 degrees). Just a hunch with no guarantee to work but something I would try first.\n\nSometimes the cutting machine will mark the foam which can cause this. A bit like the nap of a pool table cloth or that damn rug that creeps across the floor.", "A lot of the ones have elasticated straps sewn onto them, to keep them on the corners of the bed. Maybe you could sew some on, or find some that go over top and around the corners?" ]

[ 5, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "New job breaking me. Don’t know what to do My fiancé got me a new job where he works. I came in to the interview wanting an office position but the manager said there was none available and I’d have to start out on the bottom rung in the warehouse with a potential opportunity to get into the office in the future. Little did I know the hours are 13+ hour a day and very physical. I even told the manager I can’t do much heavy lifting but I pretty much have to. I’ve been there near two weeks and can’t handle it anymore. I’m the only female in warehouse and I can see why. I’m completely exhausted, in pain, and caked in dirt every night I come home and have no time to clean or make dinner. I have bruises and scratches all over me from it too. It’s also wreaking havoc on my mental health. I have now become very depressed and down. I’ve tried to talk to the manager about the hours but he tells me because I’m “female” he can’t take it easy on me because it wouldn’t be fair to the guys who work there. My fiancé keeps telling me it’s a great company and will be worth it in the long run, to keep pushing, and I will get used to it. I missed work for a job interview today but won’t find out if I got the job until next week. I don’t think I can handle even one more day at this place. Should I just quit or stick it out longer? I don’t want to disappoint my fiancé but this is tearing me apart.", "New job breaking me. Don’t know what to do My fiancé got me a new job where he works. I came in to the interview wanting an office position but the manager said there was none available and I’d have to start out on the bottom rung in the warehouse with a potential opportunity to get into the office in the future. Little did I know the hours are 13+ hour a day and very physical. I even told the manager I can’t do much heavy lifting but I pretty much have to. I’ve been there near two weeks and can’t handle it anymore. I’m the only female in warehouse and I can see why. I’m completely exhausted, in pain, and caked in dirt every night I come home and have no time to clean or make dinner. I have bruises and scratches all over me from it too. It’s also wreaking havoc on my mental health. I have now become very depressed and down. I’ve tried to talk to the manager about the hours but he tells me because I’m “female” he can’t take it easy on me because it wouldn’t be fair to the guys who work there. My fiancé keeps telling me it’s a great company and will be worth it in the long run, to keep pushing, and I will get used to it. I missed work for a job interview today but won’t find out if I got the job until next week. I don’t think I can handle even one more day at this place. Should I just quit or stick it out longer? I don’t want to disappoint my fiancé but this is tearing me apart.", "New job breaking me. Don’t know what to do My fiancé got me a new job where he works. I came in to the interview wanting an office position but the manager said there was none available and I’d have to start out on the bottom rung in the warehouse with a potential opportunity to get into the office in the future. Little did I know the hours are 13+ hour a day and very physical. I even told the manager I can’t do much heavy lifting but I pretty much have to. I’ve been there near two weeks and can’t handle it anymore. I’m the only female in warehouse and I can see why. I’m completely exhausted, in pain, and caked in dirt every night I come home and have no time to clean or make dinner. I have bruises and scratches all over me from it too. It’s also wreaking havoc on my mental health. I have now become very depressed and down. I’ve tried to talk to the manager about the hours but he tells me because I’m “female” he can’t take it easy on me because it wouldn’t be fair to the guys who work there. My fiancé keeps telling me it’s a great company and will be worth it in the long run, to keep pushing, and I will get used to it. I missed work for a job interview today but won’t find out if I got the job until next week. I don’t think I can handle even one more day at this place. Should I just quit or stick it out longer? I don’t want to disappoint my fiancé but this is tearing me apart.", "New job breaking me. Don’t know what to do My fiancé got me a new job where he works. I came in to the interview wanting an office position but the manager said there was none available and I’d have to start out on the bottom rung in the warehouse with a potential opportunity to get into the office in the future. Little did I know the hours are 13+ hour a day and very physical. I even told the manager I can’t do much heavy lifting but I pretty much have to. I’ve been there near two weeks and can’t handle it anymore. I’m the only female in warehouse and I can see why. I’m completely exhausted, in pain, and caked in dirt every night I come home and have no time to clean or make dinner. I have bruises and scratches all over me from it too. It’s also wreaking havoc on my mental health. I have now become very depressed and down. I’ve tried to talk to the manager about the hours but he tells me because I’m “female” he can’t take it easy on me because it wouldn’t be fair to the guys who work there. My fiancé keeps telling me it’s a great company and will be worth it in the long run, to keep pushing, and I will get used to it. I missed work for a job interview today but won’t find out if I got the job until next week. I don’t think I can handle even one more day at this place. Should I just quit or stick it out longer? I don’t want to disappoint my fiancé but this is tearing me apart.", "New job breaking me. Don’t know what to do My fiancé got me a new job where he works. I came in to the interview wanting an office position but the manager said there was none available and I’d have to start out on the bottom rung in the warehouse with a potential opportunity to get into the office in the future. Little did I know the hours are 13+ hour a day and very physical. I even told the manager I can’t do much heavy lifting but I pretty much have to. I’ve been there near two weeks and can’t handle it anymore. I’m the only female in warehouse and I can see why. I’m completely exhausted, in pain, and caked in dirt every night I come home and have no time to clean or make dinner. I have bruises and scratches all over me from it too. It’s also wreaking havoc on my mental health. I have now become very depressed and down. I’ve tried to talk to the manager about the hours but he tells me because I’m “female” he can’t take it easy on me because it wouldn’t be fair to the guys who work there. My fiancé keeps telling me it’s a great company and will be worth it in the long run, to keep pushing, and I will get used to it. I missed work for a job interview today but won’t find out if I got the job until next week. I don’t think I can handle even one more day at this place. Should I just quit or stick it out longer? I don’t want to disappoint my fiancé but this is tearing me apart.", "New job breaking me. Don’t know what to do My fiancé got me a new job where he works. I came in to the interview wanting an office position but the manager said there was none available and I’d have to start out on the bottom rung in the warehouse with a potential opportunity to get into the office in the future. Little did I know the hours are 13+ hour a day and very physical. I even told the manager I can’t do much heavy lifting but I pretty much have to. I’ve been there near two weeks and can’t handle it anymore. I’m the only female in warehouse and I can see why. I’m completely exhausted, in pain, and caked in dirt every night I come home and have no time to clean or make dinner. I have bruises and scratches all over me from it too. It’s also wreaking havoc on my mental health. I have now become very depressed and down. I’ve tried to talk to the manager about the hours but he tells me because I’m “female” he can’t take it easy on me because it wouldn’t be fair to the guys who work there. My fiancé keeps telling me it’s a great company and will be worth it in the long run, to keep pushing, and I will get used to it. I missed work for a job interview today but won’t find out if I got the job until next week. I don’t think I can handle even one more day at this place. Should I just quit or stick it out longer? I don’t want to disappoint my fiancé but this is tearing me apart.", "New job breaking me. Don’t know what to do My fiancé got me a new job where he works. I came in to the interview wanting an office position but the manager said there was none available and I’d have to start out on the bottom rung in the warehouse with a potential opportunity to get into the office in the future. Little did I know the hours are 13+ hour a day and very physical. I even told the manager I can’t do much heavy lifting but I pretty much have to. I’ve been there near two weeks and can’t handle it anymore. I’m the only female in warehouse and I can see why. I’m completely exhausted, in pain, and caked in dirt every night I come home and have no time to clean or make dinner. I have bruises and scratches all over me from it too. It’s also wreaking havoc on my mental health. I have now become very depressed and down. I’ve tried to talk to the manager about the hours but he tells me because I’m “female” he can’t take it easy on me because it wouldn’t be fair to the guys who work there. My fiancé keeps telling me it’s a great company and will be worth it in the long run, to keep pushing, and I will get used to it. I missed work for a job interview today but won’t find out if I got the job until next week. I don’t think I can handle even one more day at this place. Should I just quit or stick it out longer? I don’t want to disappoint my fiancé but this is tearing me apart.", "New job breaking me. Don’t know what to do My fiancé got me a new job where he works. I came in to the interview wanting an office position but the manager said there was none available and I’d have to start out on the bottom rung in the warehouse with a potential opportunity to get into the office in the future. Little did I know the hours are 13+ hour a day and very physical. I even told the manager I can’t do much heavy lifting but I pretty much have to. I’ve been there near two weeks and can’t handle it anymore. I’m the only female in warehouse and I can see why. I’m completely exhausted, in pain, and caked in dirt every night I come home and have no time to clean or make dinner. I have bruises and scratches all over me from it too. It’s also wreaking havoc on my mental health. I have now become very depressed and down. I’ve tried to talk to the manager about the hours but he tells me because I’m “female” he can’t take it easy on me because it wouldn’t be fair to the guys who work there. My fiancé keeps telling me it’s a great company and will be worth it in the long run, to keep pushing, and I will get used to it. I missed work for a job interview today but won’t find out if I got the job until next week. I don’t think I can handle even one more day at this place. Should I just quit or stick it out longer? I don’t want to disappoint my fiancé but this is tearing me apart.", "New job breaking me. Don’t know what to do My fiancé got me a new job where he works. I came in to the interview wanting an office position but the manager said there was none available and I’d have to start out on the bottom rung in the warehouse with a potential opportunity to get into the office in the future. Little did I know the hours are 13+ hour a day and very physical. I even told the manager I can’t do much heavy lifting but I pretty much have to. I’ve been there near two weeks and can’t handle it anymore. I’m the only female in warehouse and I can see why. I’m completely exhausted, in pain, and caked in dirt every night I come home and have no time to clean or make dinner. I have bruises and scratches all over me from it too. It’s also wreaking havoc on my mental health. I have now become very depressed and down. I’ve tried to talk to the manager about the hours but he tells me because I’m “female” he can’t take it easy on me because it wouldn’t be fair to the guys who work there. My fiancé keeps telling me it’s a great company and will be worth it in the long run, to keep pushing, and I will get used to it. I missed work for a job interview today but won’t find out if I got the job until next week. I don’t think I can handle even one more day at this place. Should I just quit or stick it out longer? I don’t want to disappoint my fiancé but this is tearing me apart.", "New job breaking me. Don’t know what to do My fiancé got me a new job where he works. I came in to the interview wanting an office position but the manager said there was none available and I’d have to start out on the bottom rung in the warehouse with a potential opportunity to get into the office in the future. Little did I know the hours are 13+ hour a day and very physical. I even told the manager I can’t do much heavy lifting but I pretty much have to. I’ve been there near two weeks and can’t handle it anymore. I’m the only female in warehouse and I can see why. I’m completely exhausted, in pain, and caked in dirt every night I come home and have no time to clean or make dinner. I have bruises and scratches all over me from it too. It’s also wreaking havoc on my mental health. I have now become very depressed and down. I’ve tried to talk to the manager about the hours but he tells me because I’m “female” he can’t take it easy on me because it wouldn’t be fair to the guys who work there. My fiancé keeps telling me it’s a great company and will be worth it in the long run, to keep pushing, and I will get used to it. I missed work for a job interview today but won’t find out if I got the job until next week. I don’t think I can handle even one more day at this place. Should I just quit or stick it out longer? I don’t want to disappoint my fiancé but this is tearing me apart." ]

[ "Quit. You need to prioritize yourself and your mental and physical health. Your fiance should understand this and support you. You're more important than your job.", "Quit the job. Stress is a very real and serious threat to your well being. I’ve been there before, working a salary desk job for 60+ hour weeks for a year straight including Saturdays and Sundays. I started getting heart palpitations or more specifically, pre ventricular contractions every 30 seconds for a month straight. I asked for help but they didn’t help. I finally reached a breaking point and quit without having another job to go to. It was the best decision I could have made. It felt like a huge weight was lifted and the health problems disappeared seemingly overnight.\n\n", "If it ain't for you, it ain't for you. If you think you can tough it out, flex on em. Either way, do it for you.", "1. If you don’t feel safe in discussing this with your fiancé, that is a serious red flag.\n\n2. This is not the job you wanted. The job you wanted was in an office. Still, give yourself cr", "Put in your notice and leave respectfully. Finish your notice if you can. In the meantime, food delivery pays rather well and is considerably easier on the body. I was making over 500 a week driving for Doordash when the pandemic cost me my old job. Things will improve. \n\nYou need to make your mental and physical health a priority. 13+ hours a day is inhumane.", "How is it possible to come into an interview for an office position and then end up on the floor working physical labour for 13h/day? Just say no, and go for another job that you actually want.", "> My fiancé keeps telling me it’s a great company\n\nIf that's his idea of \"great company\", I wonder what he considers a regular company. Slave labor?", "Speak to HR. Let them know the current position isn't a match but you would like them to keep you in mind if/when any office jobs open.", "Never, ever, ever take the promise of future opportunity as a form of compensation. Hypothetical benefits only count once they stop being hypothetical.", "If you hate it and aren't totally dependent on the income then LEAVE. \n\nThey'll keep stringing you along with a promise of potential cozy office position while working you like a dog in the warehouse.\n\nHow would it make sense for the new hire to be the first to be bumped up to the office position anyway?" ]

[ 15, 5, 5, 5, 3, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "if you're paying for life insurance out of pocket what special knowledge would you share? Also do you need to submit anything during tax season? ", "if you're paying for life insurance out of pocket what special knowledge would you share? Also do you need to submit anything during tax season? ", "if you're paying for life insurance out of pocket what special knowledge would you share? Also do you need to submit anything during tax season? " ]

[ "Talk to your car/home/renters insurance agent about buying life insurance, it can save you money on all your policies. My parents bought life insurance for me because adding that extra policy made their overall bill go down. I don't understand it, but their agent showed them the numbers.", "Found out through my LI licensing that you can use Cash Accrual portion of some LI policies for personal expenses by taking a loan out against it or a partial withdrawal. \n\nMore notably, instructor said for his kids he took out policies on each of his kids when they were born. Monthly premiums were only $5 or $10 but over 18-20 years with interest accruals & premiums paid, you can use the cash value to pay for the kid’s college. You may ask why not just save the money or invest it? Because anything that shows as an ‘asset’ can be considered on the FAFSA which can decrease the federal student aid. \n\nInsurance is not considered an asset so it doesn’t show up on any balance sheets or tax returns when considering net worth for a student’s ability to repay schooling.", "You submit a form proving you had insurance. It started after Obama care because if you didn’t have insurance you were supposed to get a penalty. I think the penalty is gone but they still give you a form showing what months you were covered so you can report it." ]

[ 5, 2, 1 ]

[ "tricks for getting oil-based food stains out of clothes post-wash? Of course I seem to only notice them *after* I've washed the garment (usually a t-shirt). Any dependable tricks for getting these discolorations out?", "tricks for getting oil-based food stains out of clothes post-wash? Of course I seem to only notice them *after* I've washed the garment (usually a t-shirt). Any dependable tricks for getting these discolorations out?", "tricks for getting oil-based food stains out of clothes post-wash? Of course I seem to only notice them *after* I've washed the garment (usually a t-shirt). Any dependable tricks for getting these discolorations out?", "tricks for getting oil-based food stains out of clothes post-wash? Of course I seem to only notice them *after* I've washed the garment (usually a t-shirt). Any dependable tricks for getting these discolorations out?", "tricks for getting oil-based food stains out of clothes post-wash? Of course I seem to only notice them *after* I've washed the garment (usually a t-shirt). Any dependable tricks for getting these discolorations out?", "tricks for getting oil-based food stains out of clothes post-wash? Of course I seem to only notice them *after* I've washed the garment (usually a t-shirt). Any dependable tricks for getting these discolorations out?" ]

[ "Pour some corn starch onto the area of the stain. Rub it in a little and leave it overnight to soak up the oils. Wash with hot water.", "Soak it in dish soap. This is the first thing I put on any stain, as soon as it is discovered (pre or post wash) and has saved many a garment- including MANY oil stains (I not only love cooking but also tinkering on things such as bicycles, cars, etc- all kinds of oil!).", "I used to work in a costume shop and we had a bunch of tips for this.\n\n#1 The cornstarch trick does help initially. Its much more effective when the stain is fresh but it will help a little after its been washed.\n\n#2 There is a stain remover called Gonzo that is magical. Just pour a little onto another cloth and BLOT don't rub the stain. Works great.\n\n#3 If you don't want to buy Gonzo and the garment is not delicate i.e. jeans then Dawn dishsoap works excellently. That whole cuts through grease on dishes thing also works excellently on grease stains. \n\n#4 This one is one of last resort and its going to seem odd but it usually does work. Rub a small amount of Vaseline into the stain then run the garment through the wash several times on cold. The Vaseline dissolves the stain since its another non-polar compound then the washing machine washes the Vaseline off. This is another trick that should only be tried on non-delicate items. If the garment is a silk shirt or something its pretty much a goner. ", "I have had great luck with Shout pretreater. I prefer the gel for that. If it were me with the stain, I'd just pretreat with Shout and rewash and do that until the stain were invisible. If pretreater isnt available, laundry detergent can be used, and for particularly stubborn greasy stains I've used hand dishwashing liquid.", "i usually don't notice these until after the washer AND the dryer, which seems to set them permanently! Do these tricks work for that, or do you have to catch them before the dryer?\n", "A little bit of oil never hurt anyone. It's perfectly natural for clothing to have some, no need to do anything crazy to remove it." ]

[ 7, 2, 2, 2, 1, -1 ]

[ "How to accept gratuitous amounts of work-related praise and comments? I'm a CNA at a nursing home. I go above and beyond my typical duties for the residents, I treat these people like they're my family. As a result, I get a lot of family members coming up to me and telling me how good of a job I do, how much resident X enjoys me, etc. While I'm extremely humbled, I never quite know just what to say in response. \n\n", "How to accept gratuitous amounts of work-related praise and comments? I'm a CNA at a nursing home. I go above and beyond my typical duties for the residents, I treat these people like they're my family. As a result, I get a lot of family members coming up to me and telling me how good of a job I do, how much resident X enjoys me, etc. While I'm extremely humbled, I never quite know just what to say in response. \n\n" ]

[ "Recognise that its a compliment. As some people find it rude if you dont acknowledge a compliment. But try and stay humble.\n\nI find \"It's my pleasure\" works best", "Good job, the world needs more people like you.\nAnd also, just saying \" no problem\" or \"you're very welcome\"" ]

[ 3, 3 ]

[ "how to stop myself from crying when arguing with my boyfriend. I realise that of course there's situations which warrant us both getting upset enough for me to be justified in crying. Unfortunately, we argue rarely enough for the fact that we're arguing (rather than the problem we're upset about) to cause me to weep. All this does is undermine the position and points I'm trying to make by making him feel guilty for upsetting me. I want to be able to get my point across, and let him do the same in a constructive manner without crying and making him feel shitty. Thank you for any advice.", "how to stop myself from crying when arguing with my boyfriend. I realise that of course there's situations which warrant us both getting upset enough for me to be justified in crying. Unfortunately, we argue rarely enough for the fact that we're arguing (rather than the problem we're upset about) to cause me to weep. All this does is undermine the position and points I'm trying to make by making him feel guilty for upsetting me. I want to be able to get my point across, and let him do the same in a constructive manner without crying and making him feel shitty. Thank you for any advice.", "how to stop myself from crying when arguing with my boyfriend. I realise that of course there's situations which warrant us both getting upset enough for me to be justified in crying. Unfortunately, we argue rarely enough for the fact that we're arguing (rather than the problem we're upset about) to cause me to weep. All this does is undermine the position and points I'm trying to make by making him feel guilty for upsetting me. I want to be able to get my point across, and let him do the same in a constructive manner without crying and making him feel shitty. Thank you for any advice.", "how to stop myself from crying when arguing with my boyfriend. I realise that of course there's situations which warrant us both getting upset enough for me to be justified in crying. Unfortunately, we argue rarely enough for the fact that we're arguing (rather than the problem we're upset about) to cause me to weep. All this does is undermine the position and points I'm trying to make by making him feel guilty for upsetting me. I want to be able to get my point across, and let him do the same in a constructive manner without crying and making him feel shitty. Thank you for any advice.", "how to stop myself from crying when arguing with my boyfriend. I realise that of course there's situations which warrant us both getting upset enough for me to be justified in crying. Unfortunately, we argue rarely enough for the fact that we're arguing (rather than the problem we're upset about) to cause me to weep. All this does is undermine the position and points I'm trying to make by making him feel guilty for upsetting me. I want to be able to get my point across, and let him do the same in a constructive manner without crying and making him feel shitty. Thank you for any advice.", "how to stop myself from crying when arguing with my boyfriend. I realise that of course there's situations which warrant us both getting upset enough for me to be justified in crying. Unfortunately, we argue rarely enough for the fact that we're arguing (rather than the problem we're upset about) to cause me to weep. All this does is undermine the position and points I'm trying to make by making him feel guilty for upsetting me. I want to be able to get my point across, and let him do the same in a constructive manner without crying and making him feel shitty. Thank you for any advice." ]

[ "Hey, I'm trained in conflict negotiation an have a lot of years practice. Hopefully I have some advice that can help.\n\nFirst off, there is nothing wrong with taking a break in an argument and coming back to it. Especially if you are both \"stuck\" and negotiation isn't moving or the issue taking attention has changed. If you have trouble picturing how to do that, try saying something like \"I want to think about this some more, and give you a chance to think about what I've said. Lets......and then talk about this some more\".\n\nIf it's just weeping, soldier on and keep discussing. If you feel like your talking is affected, take a deep breath to regain your rhythm. If the problem is the way he reacts just tell him \"I know I'm crying, you know I do that easily, but I want to keep discussing this until we can solve it\". But if your crying is to the extent that you just can't communicate then postpone the conversation. Just tell him \"I'm sorry, I want to talk about this but I'm too emotional and it's getting in the way/don't want you to have to react to that. Give me a moment/let's take a break and finish talking about it after\".\n\nIt might help to have a discussion with your boyfriend about your style of arguing when you don't actually have anything to argue about. Talk about the crying thing and how you expect from him when that happens (ignore it, take a break...) and if you have particularly heated arguments, some kind of agreed upon statement one of you makes to initiate a break when things get out of hand.", "emotionally you seem to see any argument as a knock down drag out fight. you can have an argument or disagreement without recriminations. do not look on all such as something that will split you up. you are more upset because you are arguing than what you are arguing about. try stopping the emotional response as soon as it begins...relax, take a deep breath and speak calmly....this is a learned response and will require practice.", "Get the crying out of the way, then when you're both calmed down, have a reasoned discussion about whatever caused the argument.", "Probably what happens is the triggering word or event is three steps ahead of the self expression, so pinch yourself to snap yourself out of it, or try screaming from the get go or stomping on your own foot so you never get to the trigger", "Maybe remove yourself from the fight for a bit.... 10-15 minutes... Go over how you think it'll go in your head... Maybe you will be able to mentally prepare yourself?\n\nOtherwise, I might argue that crying is not a bad thing. If it upsets you, then cry! If he feels bad about it, there might be a reason for it! ", "I'm almost in the same situation, except when I argue with anyone, I start shaking and stuttering really badly, and I look like a neurotic nightmare. I've found its best for me to take a step back and continue the argument via text or messenger (make sure you inform your boyfriend about this decision and why you preferred to do it, that's important, haha). It's not because you're backing away from the argument, but it really helps you to take a minute to really feel your emotions (because your emotions are apart of yourself whether you like it or not, unfortunately, and it's not really fair to you to deprive yourself of that) and still get the point across. Plus, for me, my brain activity usually just flat lines when I'm under the pressure of thinking of something to say on the spot (#ADD! Woo!) so it gives me a chance to collect my thoughts and type a well thought out response! " ]

[ 8, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to simultaneously watch a movie with a person not on the same network. Be it a file saved on one or both computers. ", "How to simultaneously watch a movie with a person not on the same network. Be it a file saved on one or both computers. ", "How to simultaneously watch a movie with a person not on the same network. Be it a file saved on one or both computers. ", "How to simultaneously watch a movie with a person not on the same network. Be it a file saved on one or both computers. " ]

[ "If the file is on both computers; use an instant messenger (say whatsapp), execute a countdown to initiate playing simultaneously. Continue enjoying the movie while chatting and/or sending \"ahglkajhglkjssd\" when something funny or interesting happens.", "I seem to remember that if you queued up a youtube video in a google hangout, then it would show for everyone in the hangout and the play position would stay synced. It would even switch from video to video as they were chosen.", "I used to watch movies with a girl from overseas all the time. We just used Skype to contact each other and count down to starting the movie.\nMake sure your files are the same, you can end up confused when someone is laughing at something not in your cut.", "......just count down. \n\nmy friend goes \"ok, call it\" and, in separate messages, go \"3\" \"2\" \"1\" \"GO\" and, as soon as you send and when they see \"GO\", they press play, and there you are.\n\ndid nobody do this over the phone as a kid?" ]

[ 4, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to preserve bacon after opening the package, but not eating everything. I feel stupid asking. I do. Quick Fix, eat all the baconny goodness.\n\nI have tried wrapping it and using various containers, but it always goes bad after a few days. Help me preserve the bacon for later!\n\nThanks in advance!", "How to preserve bacon after opening the package, but not eating everything. I feel stupid asking. I do. Quick Fix, eat all the baconny goodness.\n\nI have tried wrapping it and using various containers, but it always goes bad after a few days. Help me preserve the bacon for later!\n\nThanks in advance!", "How to preserve bacon after opening the package, but not eating everything. I feel stupid asking. I do. Quick Fix, eat all the baconny goodness.\n\nI have tried wrapping it and using various containers, but it always goes bad after a few days. Help me preserve the bacon for later!\n\nThanks in advance!" ]

[ "There's only 2 ways around it;\n\n1) get a vacuum sealer and keep resealing it in a special bag, which is kind of expensive; or \n\n2) divide up the package and freeze it. you can either freeze it in blocks, or you can lay it out in strips on wax paper til frozen, then roll everything up, put in a large plastic bag, and keep in the freezer, just pulling out a few strips at a time.", "Cook all the bacon, the bacon you don't eat should be refrigerated and it reheats well within the next few days.", "The actual answer you're looking for is, wrap it back up and remove as much air as possible and freeze it. Freezing will make it keep weeks if necessary but honestly man, just eat it all at once... OR eat what you want and crumble the rest for a topping on a salad, baked potato, etc." ]

[ 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "I have a non-Americanized name, how should I change my name in resumes in order to increase callbacks? A general tip for minorities looking for professional careers in the United States is to use a more Americanized alias for your name on resumes. My first name is Chunsoo, should I just change it to Elisha (which is my middle name) and leave out my first name on my resumes? I was actually born with the name Elisha and have it on my birth certificate, but my parents legally changed it to Chunsoo Elisha because I didn't like my birth name when I was 4.", "I have a non-Americanized name, how should I change my name in resumes in order to increase callbacks? A general tip for minorities looking for professional careers in the United States is to use a more Americanized alias for your name on resumes. My first name is Chunsoo, should I just change it to Elisha (which is my middle name) and leave out my first name on my resumes? I was actually born with the name Elisha and have it on my birth certificate, but my parents legally changed it to Chunsoo Elisha because I didn't like my birth name when I was 4.", "I have a non-Americanized name, how should I change my name in resumes in order to increase callbacks? A general tip for minorities looking for professional careers in the United States is to use a more Americanized alias for your name on resumes. My first name is Chunsoo, should I just change it to Elisha (which is my middle name) and leave out my first name on my resumes? I was actually born with the name Elisha and have it on my birth certificate, but my parents legally changed it to Chunsoo Elisha because I didn't like my birth name when I was 4." ]

[ "Elisha is a solid Americanized name. Maybe change your last name to Haverford and you'd have a solid scent line in your future.", "C. Elisha Rockefeller . . . or whatever your last name may be. \n\nYou ain't lying when you do this. \n\n\n\n", "It's a damned sad commentary that this is the case, but it's true.\n\n\nIt would be interesting to send out 10 resumes with Chunsoo and 10 with Elisha and see if the more American-sounding name gets more callbacks. \n\n\nHowever, be prepared that if it leads to a job, they're going to expect to call you Elisha." ]

[ 7, 4, 1 ]

[ "Best way to hang a poster with out damaging it and without using a frame? I'm tired of using thumb tacks only to have the paper sort of sag out and droop down; sometimes I'll use a little tape to fix this but that seems to fuck things up even more plus it is ugly. I don't want to fuck up the wall too bad by stripping off the paint or poking a thousand holes. I don't want to deal with a frame and all that. Any ideas?", "Best way to hang a poster with out damaging it and without using a frame? I'm tired of using thumb tacks only to have the paper sort of sag out and droop down; sometimes I'll use a little tape to fix this but that seems to fuck things up even more plus it is ugly. I don't want to fuck up the wall too bad by stripping off the paint or poking a thousand holes. I don't want to deal with a frame and all that. Any ideas?", "Best way to hang a poster with out damaging it and without using a frame? I'm tired of using thumb tacks only to have the paper sort of sag out and droop down; sometimes I'll use a little tape to fix this but that seems to fuck things up even more plus it is ugly. I don't want to fuck up the wall too bad by stripping off the paint or poking a thousand holes. I don't want to deal with a frame and all that. Any ideas?", "Best way to hang a poster with out damaging it and without using a frame? I'm tired of using thumb tacks only to have the paper sort of sag out and droop down; sometimes I'll use a little tape to fix this but that seems to fuck things up even more plus it is ugly. I don't want to fuck up the wall too bad by stripping off the paint or poking a thousand holes. I don't want to deal with a frame and all that. Any ideas?", "Best way to hang a poster with out damaging it and without using a frame? I'm tired of using thumb tacks only to have the paper sort of sag out and droop down; sometimes I'll use a little tape to fix this but that seems to fuck things up even more plus it is ugly. I don't want to fuck up the wall too bad by stripping off the paint or poking a thousand holes. I don't want to deal with a frame and all that. Any ideas?", "Best way to hang a poster with out damaging it and without using a frame? I'm tired of using thumb tacks only to have the paper sort of sag out and droop down; sometimes I'll use a little tape to fix this but that seems to fuck things up even more plus it is ugly. I don't want to fuck up the wall too bad by stripping off the paint or poking a thousand holes. I don't want to deal with a frame and all that. Any ideas?", "Best way to hang a poster with out damaging it and without using a frame? I'm tired of using thumb tacks only to have the paper sort of sag out and droop down; sometimes I'll use a little tape to fix this but that seems to fuck things up even more plus it is ugly. I don't want to fuck up the wall too bad by stripping off the paint or poking a thousand holes. I don't want to deal with a frame and all that. Any ideas?", "Best way to hang a poster with out damaging it and without using a frame? I'm tired of using thumb tacks only to have the paper sort of sag out and droop down; sometimes I'll use a little tape to fix this but that seems to fuck things up even more plus it is ugly. I don't want to fuck up the wall too bad by stripping off the paint or poking a thousand holes. I don't want to deal with a frame and all that. Any ideas?", "Best way to hang a poster with out damaging it and without using a frame? I'm tired of using thumb tacks only to have the paper sort of sag out and droop down; sometimes I'll use a little tape to fix this but that seems to fuck things up even more plus it is ugly. I don't want to fuck up the wall too bad by stripping off the paint or poking a thousand holes. I don't want to deal with a frame and all that. Any ideas?", "Best way to hang a poster with out damaging it and without using a frame? I'm tired of using thumb tacks only to have the paper sort of sag out and droop down; sometimes I'll use a little tape to fix this but that seems to fuck things up even more plus it is ugly. I don't want to fuck up the wall too bad by stripping off the paint or poking a thousand holes. I don't want to deal with a frame and all that. Any ideas?" ]

[ "http://www.amazon.com/Command-Poster-Adhesive-Value-48-Strip/dp/B001KYSAN4\n\nSorry about formatting, but these will solve your problem. ", "One of my buddies recommended using painters tape. Won't peel your paint when removed, nice and cheap and easy to replace need be.", "I bought some very expensive Robert Longo posters awhile back. The site I bought them on, had these types of hanging systems as one of their *framing* options. Loved them! https://www.popco-usa.com/t/categories/poster-hanging-kits\n\n*should state these weren't the exact ones, but you get the idea. ", "http://www.ebay.com/itm/like/321016714472?ul_noapp=true&ul_ref=http%253A%252F%252Frover.ebay.com%252Frover%252F1%252F711-117182-37290-0%252F2%253Fmtid%253D1588%2526kwid%253D1%2526crlp%253D53601919689_324272%2526itemid%253D321016714472%2526targetid%253D87946129929%2526rpc%253D0.16%2526rpc_upld_id%253D54260%2526rlsatarget%253D%2526device%253Dm%2526mpre%253Dhttp%25253A%25252F%25252Fwww.ebay.com%25252Fulk%25252Fitm%25252Flike%25252F321016714472%25253Flpid%25253D82%252526chn%25253Dps%2526adtype%253Dpla%2526loc%253D%2526poi%253D%2526campaignid%253D%2526adgroupid%253D%2526gclid%253DCjwKEAjw67SvBRC1m5zPv4GboAUSJAB6MJlkJQoyNOKQ__4Lz-o3tlBWgVDsbiIbRr-6VawoO1h1BBoCIyDw_wcB%2526srcrot%253D711-117182-37290-0%2526rvr_id%253D894500047408&chn=ps&lpid=82\n\nThese work well, and you should be able to find them cheaper. ", "If your local copy and print shop will do it, you can get the poster mounted and laminated to a foam board. This will not only preserve the poster but it will make it stiff so that it won't bend. This can then have whatever adhesive applied as the board is laminated so it won't rip when you pull anything off of it. It is a bit pricey and a small risk of the laminator ruining the poster but the results are amazing. Good luck!", "I use the coat hangers with clips that you use for shorts/pants (trousers for you 'Muricans). If you are lucky you can take the hook off and just have the metal bar with clips, then just pin the bar up.", "I use standard blue painters tape. I've never had it try to merge with the wall or poster before (as another poster warned), and I've had posters up for years. May depend on the gloss of the wall and the poster.", "Assuming you have regular painted drywall and not wallpapered walls, then museum putty is your best bet for coming off the wall and the poster. \n\nAlso, a LPT from teachers, if you have painted cinder block/concrete walls, get your posters laminated and hot glue the posters up. Sticks up fantastically and comes off clean.", "Try painters tape. It sticks to anything and usually comes off easily without tearing anything. It's usually blue.", "Superglue is the best. It dries hard and should fall right off when you go to peel the poster off of the wall. " ]

[ 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1, -1 ]

[ "How to find intimacy without getting in a relationship I don't want to get in a relationship just for intimacy", "How to find intimacy without getting in a relationship I don't want to get in a relationship just for intimacy", "How to find intimacy without getting in a relationship I don't want to get in a relationship just for intimacy", "How to find intimacy without getting in a relationship I don't want to get in a relationship just for intimacy" ]

[ "I would say commitment to a given relationship should vary proportionally with how much intimacy one gives another, emotional, and particularly so in a spiritual and physical sense. ", "Find something that you are extremely passionate about, or at the least a hobby that you are a little invested in. Find other people who like doing that thing either by taking classes at a community college, or by just doing that thing. Eventually you will meet someone who you click with on some level. Heck, you might just find some lifelong friends, or even a lover.", "If by intimacy you mean sex, pay for it. Otherwise it is very difficult to be personally intimate without there being some form of relationship. It does not have to be a one-on-one exclusive, but Intimacy comes from closeness and sharing. It's very difficult to do that without spending time with someone.", "Can't. That's part of real intimacy. Maybe get therapy to find what the real problem is that is leading to the avoidance " ]

[ 4, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Reducing (excess) worrying/paranoia? The problem is quite frequent, and about mundane things. Such as: Did I lock my car? Did I drop any letters on my way back from the mail box? Did I accidentally \"like\" a person's photo while creeping?\n\nThings like this are really starting to stress me out on a daily basis. Any tips on helping to reduce this problem would be very appreciated. ", "Reducing (excess) worrying/paranoia? The problem is quite frequent, and about mundane things. Such as: Did I lock my car? Did I drop any letters on my way back from the mail box? Did I accidentally \"like\" a person's photo while creeping?\n\nThings like this are really starting to stress me out on a daily basis. Any tips on helping to reduce this problem would be very appreciated. ", "Reducing (excess) worrying/paranoia? The problem is quite frequent, and about mundane things. Such as: Did I lock my car? Did I drop any letters on my way back from the mail box? Did I accidentally \"like\" a person's photo while creeping?\n\nThings like this are really starting to stress me out on a daily basis. Any tips on helping to reduce this problem would be very appreciated. ", "Reducing (excess) worrying/paranoia? The problem is quite frequent, and about mundane things. Such as: Did I lock my car? Did I drop any letters on my way back from the mail box? Did I accidentally \"like\" a person's photo while creeping?\n\nThings like this are really starting to stress me out on a daily basis. Any tips on helping to reduce this problem would be very appreciated. ", "Reducing (excess) worrying/paranoia? The problem is quite frequent, and about mundane things. Such as: Did I lock my car? Did I drop any letters on my way back from the mail box? Did I accidentally \"like\" a person's photo while creeping?\n\nThings like this are really starting to stress me out on a daily basis. Any tips on helping to reduce this problem would be very appreciated. ", "Reducing (excess) worrying/paranoia? The problem is quite frequent, and about mundane things. Such as: Did I lock my car? Did I drop any letters on my way back from the mail box? Did I accidentally \"like\" a person's photo while creeping?\n\nThings like this are really starting to stress me out on a daily basis. Any tips on helping to reduce this problem would be very appreciated. " ]

[ "Read through some posts and comments on /r/OCD for a bit of help on stuff like this. You may not be diagnosed or think OCD means switching lights on and off seven times or whatever but small things like this are tendencies of the case. Just try remember to do things like locking doors a few times and checking them before you leave and remember that it is sorted and there is nothing to worry about. Emphasis on try because I know it's difficult but I hope you get past these problems :)", "When I get stressed out about the small things at work, I ask myself in all honesty \"What's the worst that could happen?\" \n\nMore often than not, the worst thing that could happen is not so terrible and the answer to the question puts things into perspective.", "Thanks! At least now, I hope, I know I'm not the only one having these kind of obsessions :)\n\nI don't have a solution, but I can say that I got pretty much used to it already (it's been about 3 years since it all started for me)... Some tips:\n \n* put the same things in the same pockets everyday (ex: wallet-pants-right; keys+phone-pants-left; cigarettes+lighter-pants-backright; pants-backleft free for extra papers, mail, etc. + bag/laptop-bag)\n\nThe idea is that you'll develop some kind of reflexes to check if everything is in it's place after a while..\n\n* home door problem (not sure if locked when going to sleep): buy a mechanical latch, now if smb tries to break in at least he'll make some noise and wake you up :p \n(not sure if locked when leaving home) put keys in pocket after you lock it, then push on it/pull hard to ckeck if it's locked a few times. ", "\"Did you do any of these things?\" That's a question that lots of us have paranoia about. I always do a second check.\n\nWhen I turn off the oven, I turn every knob to \"Off\" to make sure everything's off.\nWhen I lock my door, I always twist the handle and try open it, just to make sure it's locked.\nI always click the \"Lock\" button on my car's key fob twice, and then check the driver's door handle to make sure it's locked.\n\nParanoia is as natural as breathing. I recommend finding simple ways to add simple double-checks into your routine to help relieve stress. \"Did I do X, Y, and Z!? Of course I did! Because I double checked!\" you just have to get into the habit of creating some system of double checking that works for you.", "I know I'm a little late to this thread, but I highly recommend a book called Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive Compulsive Behavior by Jeffrey Schwartz, MD. Dr. Schwartz teaches you a simple and fast way to stop the behaviors. \n\nBasically, when the thought starts, recognize it as an obsessive thought or compulsive urge. Attribute it to false signals sent from my brain because I have a medical problem. Do something useful and positive instead of the thing giving you trouble. Finally devalue unwanted obsessive thoughts or compulsive urges as the useless garbage they are. \"That's just a senseless obsession. It's a false message. I'm going to focus my attention on something else.\" As I understand the rationale behind it -- brain neuroplasticity will work to your advantage if you can interrupt the thinking or doing and replace it with something positive.\n\nBuy it, read it, try it. Simple and effective. My thanks to Dr. Schwartz. And my best to you. ", "/r/anxiety ? For me it took a long time, and trying several different techniques, before I finally learned to master this type of anxiety (I still won't make any claims about my anxiety in actual tense situations :\") \n\nFor everyday worries like you describe, I sometimes find that it's easiest to just assume the worst and make peace with it. I know that sounds like the \"what's the worst that could happen?\" suggestion (and sometimes that's enough), but really it's more about accepting that even if the worst *does* happen, that you can survive the event and continue your life. It might be bad for a short time, or even set you back a bit in your goals, but ultimately you'll come out the other side, and maybe the stronger/wiser for it.\n\nAnother thing that might help is m" ]

[ 4, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "When researching day care/preschools, read employee reviews as well as parent/customer Read employee reviews of day care/preschools in addition to parent/customer reviews\n\nIf you are in the process of choosing a daycare or preschool for your children, read employee reviews as well as parent/customer reviews. The reviews below for KinderCare were a bit shocking to me. I am child free and will not have any children, however I am doing research on various career paths for high school graduates other than a four year Bachelor's degree. My friends all have kids, and I know how stressful the childcare situation is for most.\n\n[Indeed reviews of KinderCare](https://www.indeed.com/cmp/Kindercare-Learning-Centers/reviews?fcountry=ALL&sort=helpfulness)", "When researching day care/preschools, read employee reviews as well as parent/customer Read employee reviews of day care/preschools in addition to parent/customer reviews\n\nIf you are in the process of choosing a daycare or preschool for your children, read employee reviews as well as parent/customer reviews. The reviews below for KinderCare were a bit shocking to me. I am child free and will not have any children, however I am doing research on various career paths for high school graduates other than a four year Bachelor's degree. My friends all have kids, and I know how stressful the childcare situation is for most.\n\n[Indeed reviews of KinderCare](https://www.indeed.com/cmp/Kindercare-Learning-Centers/reviews?fcountry=ALL&sort=helpfulness)", "When researching day care/preschools, read employee reviews as well as parent/customer Read employee reviews of day care/preschools in addition to parent/customer reviews\n\nIf you are in the process of choosing a daycare or preschool for your children, read employee reviews as well as parent/customer reviews. The reviews below for KinderCare were a bit shocking to me. I am child free and will not have any children, however I am doing research on various career paths for high school graduates other than a four year Bachelor's degree. My friends all have kids, and I know how stressful the childcare situation is for most.\n\n[Indeed reviews of KinderCare](https://www.indeed.com/cmp/Kindercare-Learning-Centers/reviews?fcountry=ALL&sort=helpfulness)" ]

[ "The one my kids go to is great. Solid structure with veteran employees and the younger employees are mostly in college studying in child related fields (so those usually stay for two years). Yes it can get overwhelming in certain age groups but I do see them rotating more staff in those classes or during the duration. I have been happy and my kids do fall in love/ trust the teachers .", "Nope. Just straight up talk to people you trust, research the company, and interview who will be responsible for your child.\n\nI personally don't care about a bunch of random polarized opinions. At the end of the day not everyone accesses all services and only a small percentage of people leave reviews. So there is no baseline or constant variable for reliable comparisons.", "I read many comments regarding high turnover for KinderCare staff from locations across the country. I think that is something worth paying attention to.\n\nI’m so glad your experience has been great! I’d say 80% of my friends have had good experiences at the facilities that they have chosen. However, many of my friends are very affluent and can afford to send their (multiple) children to $35,000 preschools." ]

[ 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "how to stop screaming when somebody wakes you up suddenly? Recently when I'm asleep and a housemate comes into my room without knocking, then starts talking while I'm still half asleep, I've apparently started screaming at the top of my lungs, staring at them wide-eyed. Sometimes I go straight back to sleep, sometimes I wake fully and my heart rate and breathing are going like crazy. \n\nA lot of the times are very vague memories for me but housemates tell me it's really loud and sometimes delayed (like I'll look at them through squinted eyes for 5 or 6 seconds then widen my eyes and scream). \n\nI often don't remember dreams but I pretty much never have nightmares. I have occasionally had mild sleep paralysis. \n\nAnyone got a LPT to stop doing this? A lot of my work and future career aspirations involve sleeping in group bunks or shared accommodation; as a guy I don't particularly want to be known for screaming every time someone wakes me up!\n\nCheers", "how to stop screaming when somebody wakes you up suddenly? Recently when I'm asleep and a housemate comes into my room without knocking, then starts talking while I'm still half asleep, I've apparently started screaming at the top of my lungs, staring at them wide-eyed. Sometimes I go straight back to sleep, sometimes I wake fully and my heart rate and breathing are going like crazy. \n\nA lot of the times are very vague memories for me but housemates tell me it's really loud and sometimes delayed (like I'll look at them through squinted eyes for 5 or 6 seconds then widen my eyes and scream). \n\nI often don't remember dreams but I pretty much never have nightmares. I have occasionally had mild sleep paralysis. \n\nAnyone got a LPT to stop doing this? A lot of my work and future career aspirations involve sleeping in group bunks or shared accommodation; as a guy I don't particularly want to be known for screaming every time someone wakes me up!\n\nCheers", "how to stop screaming when somebody wakes you up suddenly? Recently when I'm asleep and a housemate comes into my room without knocking, then starts talking while I'm still half asleep, I've apparently started screaming at the top of my lungs, staring at them wide-eyed. Sometimes I go straight back to sleep, sometimes I wake fully and my heart rate and breathing are going like crazy. \n\nA lot of the times are very vague memories for me but housemates tell me it's really loud and sometimes delayed (like I'll look at them through squinted eyes for 5 or 6 seconds then widen my eyes and scream). \n\nI often don't remember dreams but I pretty much never have nightmares. I have occasionally had mild sleep paralysis. \n\nAnyone got a LPT to stop doing this? A lot of my work and future career aspirations involve sleeping in group bunks or shared accommodation; as a guy I don't particularly want to be known for screaming every time someone wakes me up!\n\nCheers", "how to stop screaming when somebody wakes you up suddenly? Recently when I'm asleep and a housemate comes into my room without knocking, then starts talking while I'm still half asleep, I've apparently started screaming at the top of my lungs, staring at them wide-eyed. Sometimes I go straight back to sleep, sometimes I wake fully and my heart rate and breathing are going like crazy. \n\nA lot of the times are very vague memories for me but housemates tell me it's really loud and sometimes delayed (like I'll look at them through squinted eyes for 5 or 6 seconds then widen my eyes and scream). \n\nI often don't remember dreams but I pretty much never have nightmares. I have occasionally had mild sleep paralysis. \n\nAnyone got a LPT to stop doing this? A lot of my work and future career aspirations involve sleeping in group bunks or shared accommodation; as a guy I don't particularly want to be known for screaming every time someone wakes me up!\n\nCheers", "how to stop screaming when somebody wakes you up suddenly? Recently when I'm asleep and a housemate comes into my room without knocking, then starts talking while I'm still half asleep, I've apparently started screaming at the top of my lungs, staring at them wide-eyed. Sometimes I go straight back to sleep, sometimes I wake fully and my heart rate and breathing are going like crazy. \n\nA lot of the times are very vague memories for me but housemates tell me it's really loud and sometimes delayed (like I'll look at them through squinted eyes for 5 or 6 seconds then widen my eyes and scream). \n\nI often don't remember dreams but I pretty much never have nightmares. I have occasionally had mild sleep paralysis. \n\nAnyone got a LPT to stop doing this? A lot of my work and future career aspirations involve sleeping in group bunks or shared accommodation; as a guy I don't particularly want to be known for screaming every time someone wakes me up!\n\nCheers", "how to stop screaming when somebody wakes you up suddenly? Recently when I'm asleep and a housemate comes into my room without knocking, then starts talking while I'm still half asleep, I've apparently started screaming at the top of my lungs, staring at them wide-eyed. Sometimes I go straight back to sleep, sometimes I wake fully and my heart rate and breathing are going like crazy. \n\nA lot of the times are very vague memories for me but housemates tell me it's really loud and sometimes delayed (like I'll look at them through squinted eyes for 5 or 6 seconds then widen my eyes and scream). \n\nI often don't remember dreams but I pretty much never have nightmares. I have occasionally had mild sleep paralysis. \n\nAnyone got a LPT to stop doing this? A lot of my work and future career aspirations involve sleeping in group bunks or shared accommodation; as a guy I don't particularly want to be known for screaming every time someone wakes me up!\n\nCheers", "how to stop screaming when somebody wakes you up suddenly? Recently when I'm asleep and a housemate comes into my room without knocking, then starts talking while I'm still half asleep, I've apparently started screaming at the top of my lungs, staring at them wide-eyed. Sometimes I go straight back to sleep, sometimes I wake fully and my heart rate and breathing are going like crazy. \n\nA lot of the times are very vague memories for me but housemates tell me it's really loud and sometimes delayed (like I'll look at them through squinted eyes for 5 or 6 seconds then widen my eyes and scream). \n\nI often don't remember dreams but I pretty much never have nightmares. I have occasionally had mild sleep paralysis. \n\nAnyone got a LPT to stop doing this? A lot of my work and future career aspirations involve sleeping in group bunks or shared accommodation; as a guy I don't particularly want to be known for screaming every time someone wakes me up!\n\nCheers", "how to stop screaming when somebody wakes you up suddenly? Recently when I'm asleep and a housemate comes into my room without knocking, then starts talking while I'm still half asleep, I've apparently started screaming at the top of my lungs, staring at them wide-eyed. Sometimes I go straight back to sleep, sometimes I wake fully and my heart rate and breathing are going like crazy. \n\nA lot of the times are very vague memories for me but housemates tell me it's really loud and sometimes delayed (like I'll look at them through squinted eyes for 5 or 6 seconds then widen my eyes and scream). \n\nI often don't remember dreams but I pretty much never have nightmares. I have occasionally had mild sleep paralysis. \n\nAnyone got a LPT to stop doing this? A lot of my work and future career aspirations involve sleeping in group bunks or shared accommodation; as a guy I don't particularly want to be known for screaming every time someone wakes me up!\n\nCheers", "how to stop screaming when somebody wakes you up suddenly? Recently when I'm asleep and a housemate comes into my room without knocking, then starts talking while I'm still half asleep, I've apparently started screaming at the top of my lungs, staring at them wide-eyed. Sometimes I go straight back to sleep, sometimes I wake fully and my heart rate and breathing are going like crazy. \n\nA lot of the times are very vague memories for me but housemates tell me it's really loud and sometimes delayed (like I'll look at them through squinted eyes for 5 or 6 seconds then widen my eyes and scream). \n\nI often don't remember dreams but I pretty much never have nightmares. I have occasionally had mild sleep paralysis. \n\nAnyone got a LPT to stop doing this? A lot of my work and future career aspirations involve sleeping in group bunks or shared accommodation; as a guy I don't particularly want to be known for screaming every time someone wakes me up!\n\nCheers", "how to stop screaming when somebody wakes you up suddenly? Recently when I'm asleep and a housemate comes into my room without knocking, then starts talking while I'm still half asleep, I've apparently started screaming at the top of my lungs, staring at them wide-eyed. Sometimes I go straight back to sleep, sometimes I wake fully and my heart rate and breathing are going like crazy. \n\nA lot of the times are very vague memories for me but housemates tell me it's really loud and sometimes delayed (like I'll look at them through squinted eyes for 5 or 6 seconds then widen my eyes and scream). \n\nI often don't remember dreams but I pretty much never have nightmares. I have occasionally had mild sleep paralysis. \n\nAnyone got a LPT to stop doing this? A lot of my work and future career aspirations involve sleeping in group bunks or shared accommodation; as a guy I don't particularly want to be known for screaming every time someone wakes me up!\n\nCheers", "how to stop screaming when somebody wakes you up suddenly? Recently when I'm asleep and a housemate comes into my room without knocking, then starts talking while I'm still half asleep, I've apparently started screaming at the top of my lungs, staring at them wide-eyed. Sometimes I go straight back to sleep, sometimes I wake fully and my heart rate and breathing are going like crazy. \n\nA lot of the times are very vague memories for me but housemates tell me it's really loud and sometimes delayed (like I'll look at them through squinted eyes for 5 or 6 seconds then widen my eyes and scream). \n\nI often don't remember dreams but I pretty much never have nightmares. I have occasionally had mild sleep paralysis. \n\nAnyone got a LPT to stop doing this? A lot of my work and future career aspirations involve sleeping in group bunks or shared accommodation; as a guy I don't particularly want to be known for screaming every time someone wakes me up!\n\nCheers", "how to stop screaming when somebody wakes you up suddenly? Recently when I'm asleep and a housemate comes into my room without knocking, then starts talking while I'm still half asleep, I've apparently started screaming at the top of my lungs, staring at them wide-eyed. Sometimes I go straight back to sleep, sometimes I wake fully and my heart rate and breathing are going like crazy. \n\nA lot of the times are very vague memories for me but housemates tell me it's really loud and sometimes delayed (like I'll look at them through squinted eyes for 5 or 6 seconds then widen my eyes and scream). \n\nI often don't remember dreams but I pretty much never have nightmares. I have occasionally had mild sleep paralysis. \n\nAnyone got a LPT to stop doing this? A lot of my work and future career aspirations involve sleeping in group bunks or shared accommodation; as a guy I don't particularly want to be known for screaming every time someone wakes me up!\n\nCheers", "how to stop screaming when somebody wakes you up suddenly? Recently when I'm asleep and a housemate comes into my room without knocking, then starts talking while I'm still half asleep, I've apparently started screaming at the top of my lungs, staring at them wide-eyed. Sometimes I go straight back to sleep, sometimes I wake fully and my heart rate and breathing are going like crazy. \n\nA lot of the times are very vague memories for me but housemates tell me it's really loud and sometimes delayed (like I'll look at them through squinted eyes for 5 or 6 seconds then widen my eyes and scream). \n\nI often don't remember dreams but I pretty much never have nightmares. I have occasionally had mild sleep paralysis. \n\nAnyone got a LPT to stop doing this? A lot of my work and future career aspirations involve sleeping in group bunks or shared accommodation; as a guy I don't particularly want to be known for screaming every time someone wakes me up!\n\nCheers" ]

[ "If my housemate repeatedly came into my room in the middle of the night without knocking and woke me, i would intentionally scream at the bastard!", "These are highly likely to be \"confusional arousals\" which are in a class of conditions known as nonREM parasomnias. Night terrors are within the same class but a distinctly separate entity. Neither condition are associated with dreaming as by definition they are triggered by a sudden awakening from nonREM sleep (where dreaming generally does not occur).\n\nThese are treatable with medication. One thing you should be aware of is that both parasomnias and sleep paralysis tend to be more frequent during periods of sleep deprivation, with alcohol intake or in the setting of another sleep disorder such as sleep apnea.\n\nLong story short, see a sleep specialist.", "I think you've already solved it. Your roommates probably won't dare come into your room and talk to you while you're sleeping anymore, therefore stopping you from doing it!", "Yeah see a doctor, Jesus Christ man. I'm suspecting your not getting proper sleep at times because I have done this a few times but it was always when I was severely under slept. You might be doing something that is keeping you from entering deep sleep, like restless leg or something. See your doctor. ", "Sleep is a state of consciousness. Begin to consider the amount of awareness the sleep state offers you. Especially nearing wakefulness you should have increasing awareness. In combat training relating to military service sleep is often constantly a state of readiness. Far from screaming, this level of awareness is rapid lucidity. Regardless of your threat level, considering the amount of awareness you can have during sleep will empower you to make changes consciously to this process. A readiness to awake and an internal alarm are things I have personally trained. Over time I have little need for an alarm, or if I do set one I wake up minutes before it goes off. Anxiety can trigger startled reactions, and at times I find myself more prone to frustration at waking up. Also, getting enough sleep seems to make waking up more pleasant. I find I am more likely to be frustrated at the interruption of deep sleep.", "If that's your only sleep problem, I would suggest trying to sleep on a more regular schedule. If that doesn't work, then see a doctor.\n\nSource: I teach during the school year, and after the last day of school, I turned off my alarm for the morning and woke up the next day screaming.", "I had the same thing happen to me once when the fire alarm went on, I was mindlessly screaming for 10 or 20 seconds till I noticed what the hell I was doing. Only then I was fully awake and able to comprehend what happened, so I can relate a bit to what your problem is.\nBut the fire alarm was obviously way louder than someone talking to you so...", "Yeah, you are going to need professional help on this one. This sounds like it's more of a neurological or psychological thing.", "I hate to say it but usually when being startled out of sleep results in screaming it means you've had serious trauma and might have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. If that seems like you, then you can best get over this through EMDR therapy through a qualified therapy. Other indicators of PTSD include being startled if someone touches you unexpectedly, looking around constantly for threats, reacting to noise, etc.", "Tell your housemates to call you, so the sound of the phone is what wakes you. One time a policeman woke my mom up and she started screaming and crying because a man was in her bedroom. I still hate that cop for that. ", "Man, if I woke up my roommmate and he started screaming, I'd probably start screaming. Then we would both be screaming and have no idea why.", "Its just started happening? Unless you've never been woken up by parents or siblings in your entire life, your housemates are probably pulling a trick on you, bud....", "If you have any ability to be sentient while it's happening.... Start jerking it before you start screaming.\n\nIt won't fix your issue, but god damn would it be hilarious to witness. " ]

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[ "How to tell my boss I'm quitting because I'm bored. The job I'm in is below my intellectual level; I can do this stuff in my sleep. Because of that, I am incredibly bored and unmotivated at work. There are no options to take on more responsibilities or to move up. I don't want to come across as cocky, but how do I tell my boss that I'm leaving the company because I'm incredibly bored without hurting his feelings?", "How to tell my boss I'm quitting because I'm bored. The job I'm in is below my intellectual level; I can do this stuff in my sleep. Because of that, I am incredibly bored and unmotivated at work. There are no options to take on more responsibilities or to move up. I don't want to come across as cocky, but how do I tell my boss that I'm leaving the company because I'm incredibly bored without hurting his feelings?", "How to tell my boss I'm quitting because I'm bored. The job I'm in is below my intellectual level; I can do this stuff in my sleep. Because of that, I am incredibly bored and unmotivated at work. There are no options to take on more responsibilities or to move up. I don't want to come across as cocky, but how do I tell my boss that I'm leaving the company because I'm incredibly bored without hurting his feelings?", "How to tell my boss I'm quitting because I'm bored. The job I'm in is below my intellectual level; I can do this stuff in my sleep. Because of that, I am incredibly bored and unmotivated at work. There are no options to take on more responsibilities or to move up. I don't want to come across as cocky, but how do I tell my boss that I'm leaving the company because I'm incredibly bored without hurting his feelings?", "How to tell my boss I'm quitting because I'm bored. The job I'm in is below my intellectual level; I can do this stuff in my sleep. Because of that, I am incredibly bored and unmotivated at work. There are no options to take on more responsibilities or to move up. I don't want to come across as cocky, but how do I tell my boss that I'm leaving the company because I'm incredibly bored without hurting his feelings?" ]

[ "Unless you have something else lined up, don't.\n\nAnd whatever you do there is no reason to burn bridges or create bad feelings.\n\nFind a new job and once you have accepted a offer to work there, just inform your boss that you have accepted a new position, thank him for the opportunity to work here, and wish people a pleasant good bye.\n\nIf the job you have is so easy that it's that boring it is likely easy to replace you anyway and they have probably dealt with turnover before. Just be forthcoming but don't spend your time giving any complaints. Focus on mentioning how you found new opportunity and if they won't accept not having some sort of reason as to why you weren't happy in this place just bring up that you weren't feeling challenged.", "Use the phrase \"not fulfilling\". They might perfectly understand... and possibly even agree.\n\nBut you should ask yourself several things before you do.\n\nFirst, how important is the boss's future recommendation for your NEXT job? If you don't know, find out, particularly if this is your first real job and you have no experience in using and soliciting references.\n\nSecond, what do you have in the hopper? Are you leaving for unemployment, or for another position elsewhere?\n\nIt's one thing to leave an organization for a job elsewhere that offers greater potential for self-fulfillment, or for career growth, or for something that is close to your passions. It is entirely another to leave a job to go do NOTHING and earn no money doing it. \n\nIf the boss asks you \"what are you going to do now?\" and you just shrug your shoulders, it's going to make you look much less like an employee that he or she would recommend to anyone else. And, depending on how closely knit your industry is and how big your potential career pool and community is where you're living, that could make things very difficult for you.", "Just write a resignation letter and hand it to him, no need to state the reasoning. If your boss inquires then say you want a change of scenery. ", "It's not absurd that you would want a position with upward mobility and new challenges. People do it all the time- make sure they know working there has been a positive experience and that you value your time there, but you need to do something different for your future.\n\nTo be a real class act in leaving a job, give your boss a short list of recommendations of people you have worked with that you feel could do well in your position, and why you think so.\n\nYou could also compile some kind of resource to leave your replacement to make their transition as quick and easy as possible.", "I agree with the other posters, don't do anything till you have a better job lined up. Also I tend to like the phrase \"I feel I'm being underutilized\". It gives the impressions (truly) that you care and are willing to do more. " ]

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[ "Room/Desk Organiziation Any tips or tricks to make my room/desk a little cleaner or organized? I try to have different sections of my room dedicated to certain objects, so a corner for shoes, another corner for backpacks, the hamper, etc. I have drawers for pens, paper, money. But after a few days, it all turns into one major mess. As a college student, I want to nail down having a clean room before going out on my own. Anything is appreciated, thanks.", "Room/Desk Organiziation Any tips or tricks to make my room/desk a little cleaner or organized? I try to have different sections of my room dedicated to certain objects, so a corner for shoes, another corner for backpacks, the hamper, etc. I have drawers for pens, paper, money. But after a few days, it all turns into one major mess. As a college student, I want to nail down having a clean room before going out on my own. Anything is appreciated, thanks.", "Room/Desk Organiziation Any tips or tricks to make my room/desk a little cleaner or organized? I try to have different sections of my room dedicated to certain objects, so a corner for shoes, another corner for backpacks, the hamper, etc. I have drawers for pens, paper, money. But after a few days, it all turns into one major mess. As a college student, I want to nail down having a clean room before going out on my own. Anything is appreciated, thanks.", "Room/Desk Organiziation Any tips or tricks to make my room/desk a little cleaner or organized? I try to have different sections of my room dedicated to certain objects, so a corner for shoes, another corner for backpacks, the hamper, etc. I have drawers for pens, paper, money. But after a few days, it all turns into one major mess. As a college student, I want to nail down having a clean room before going out on my own. Anything is appreciated, thanks." ]

[ "http://unfuckyourhabitat.tumblr.com/post/88270133546/need-ufyh-advice-start-here\n\nUnfuck your habitat is super great about building good habits. Their welcome packet is really handy too.", "Keep stuff where you use it. \n\nIn drawers near your desk:\n\n* pens, scissors, tape, perforator, etcetera (even if you only ever use pens. You probably have some dumb office equipment and it's in a random place like a windowsill or a bookcase)\n* files, paper, binders, paperclips, rubber bands, pins\n* letters, memos - archive stuff. (keep everything banks, the government, insurance send you and store it in a drawer. Doen't even have to be neat, it's gonna be useful someday)\n\nHowever, don't keep anything you won't store (letters) or use (tools, empty sheets of paper, etc) in the drawers near your desk.\n\nHave a pencil holder or tray on your desk, and only keep two pencils, two pens, and an eraser in it. The rest goes in the drawer. \n\nOn that topic: Have a \"fresh\" section and an \"unknown/used\" section in the drawer. the \"empty\" section is what we call a trashcan. If a pen runs out you have easy access to more, and if you leave them lying around often (I know you do), the pencil tray will always have space.\n\nDon't eat at a desk. Refill disposable water bottles if you need a drink. If you use plates, glasses or bowls you will clutter your desk, and probably stain it (eventually). Also there's some psychology stuff which basically says if you eat where you work you won't work as efficiently - even when not eating. \n\nMoving on: stuff on the floor. Shoes, for example. This is an absolute hell. I recomend making or buying a rack to place shoes on. Just enough space for one pair of shoes, three levels stacked. (assuming you don't have more than three or four pairs of shoes). Winter/summer shoes should be stored elsewhere when out-of-season.\n\nThe clothes chair / box / table / anything. Most people have a place for old but not washing-old clothes. Remember when you were you and you'd dress a chair? Do that. Just fold pants and lay them on the seat, hang shirts / upper body wear over the back of the seat. I would say \"don't do this, just sort them properly\" but honestly that's not gonna work. Everyone eventually has a set of clothes that's not quite ready for a washing yet, this is the best solution. Underwear and socks (and gloves, if you have them) should be sorted asap, though.\n\nNext... gifts, trinkets, etcetera. In theory, if you were to put everything back where it belongs, you would never have clutter. Unfortunately there are these dumb events where people insist on ruining your perfect system. They're called \"birthday\" and \"christmas\". Fuck those days.\n\nAnyway, try to find a place for them. If you genuinely can't find a place for it consider having some fun with it, and... you know, throwing it away. (subjective - if you like it, or if it's from a terminally ill person, or whatever, don't. Use common sense). What I mean is that usually those end up in a box in a basement, never to be seen again. Might as well save some space and dispose of them.\n\nSame for books. If you're pretty sure you won't read a book again, give it to a friend, family, library, or one of those organisations that collects them for poor people. Same reason as trinkets and gifts - they'll never be used again, and still take up lots of space.\n\nWires. Godawful wires. If you have an iPod, a playstation, a small television, or a PC, you'll probably have wires. Earbuds, chargers, extension cords, converters, and more. Sort the hell out of these things, and use binder clips to keep them from becoming a tangled mess. If you want to, write their use on a piece of paper, put see-through tape on one side, fold it around the cord, and onto the other side. You now have a waterproof label for your cords and wires.\n\nI think that's about it. Most of it depends on discipline, really. Just put everything you use back where it belongs - dedicate a free day to it. Don't have to spend a lot of time, just fifteen minutes or so.\n\nIf there's anything I haven't covered (properly) do tell, I'll see if I've got anything for it.", "The easiest way to keep things tidy in my house is to firstly always have a spot for something... and try to make it a spot that's concealed from view (ie. a drawer, cupboard, box, etc) so you don't have that visual clutter. Secondly, always put the objects back in their proper spots immediately after you finish with them.", "Dedicate a regular time to keep everything in order. As a college student myself, there are times in the week where my system unravels (which is bound to happen, so don't get frustrated when it does). What is important though is having scheduled times throughout the week where you can address the mess and prevent it from progressing further. How long of an interval in between is up to you and how messy you are. For me, If my room is messy, I end up spending time cleaning to avoid homework, so I clean every other day or so to prevent me from having a good excuse to not study. I'm strange..." ]

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[ "Does anyone know how to get rid of unwanted leftover pet hair? I live in a two bedroom apartment the only issue is my fur baby sheds a lot. I have to continue to sweep the hard wood floor daily. It gets restless sweeping over and over again. I even use a Swiffer Duster on the ceiling fan to get rid of dusk. If anyone knows any great tips gladly appreciate. \n\n(Also getting rid of my fur baby is not an option.) ", "Does anyone know how to get rid of unwanted leftover pet hair? I live in a two bedroom apartment the only issue is my fur baby sheds a lot. I have to continue to sweep the hard wood floor daily. It gets restless sweeping over and over again. I even use a Swiffer Duster on the ceiling fan to get rid of dusk. If anyone knows any great tips gladly appreciate. \n\n(Also getting rid of my fur baby is not an option.) ", "Does anyone know how to get rid of unwanted leftover pet hair? I live in a two bedroom apartment the only issue is my fur baby sheds a lot. I have to continue to sweep the hard wood floor daily. It gets restless sweeping over and over again. I even use a Swiffer Duster on the ceiling fan to get rid of dusk. If anyone knows any great tips gladly appreciate. \n\n(Also getting rid of my fur baby is not an option.) ", "Does anyone know how to get rid of unwanted leftover pet hair? I live in a two bedroom apartment the only issue is my fur baby sheds a lot. I have to continue to sweep the hard wood floor daily. It gets restless sweeping over and over again. I even use a Swiffer Duster on the ceiling fan to get rid of dusk. If anyone knows any great tips gladly appreciate. \n\n(Also getting rid of my fur baby is not an option.) ", "Does anyone know how to get rid of unwanted leftover pet hair? I live in a two bedroom apartment the only issue is my fur baby sheds a lot. I have to continue to sweep the hard wood floor daily. It gets restless sweeping over and over again. I even use a Swiffer Duster on the ceiling fan to get rid of dusk. If anyone knows any great tips gladly appreciate. \n\n(Also getting rid of my fur baby is not an option.) ", "Does anyone know how to get rid of unwanted leftover pet hair? I live in a two bedroom apartment the only issue is my fur baby sheds a lot. I have to continue to sweep the hard wood floor daily. It gets restless sweeping over and over again. I even use a Swiffer Duster on the ceiling fan to get rid of dusk. If anyone knows any great tips gladly appreciate. \n\n(Also getting rid of my fur baby is not an option.) ", "Does anyone know how to get rid of unwanted leftover pet hair? I live in a two bedroom apartment the only issue is my fur baby sheds a lot. I have to continue to sweep the hard wood floor daily. It gets restless sweeping over and over again. I even use a Swiffer Duster on the ceiling fan to get rid of dusk. If anyone knows any great tips gladly appreciate. \n\n(Also getting rid of my fur baby is not an option.) " ]

[ "I have friends that use a roomba to good effect with their dog. As for preventative tips, regular brushing. My favourite pet comb is the furminator. They make them for cats and dogs with varying hair lengths. My cat has a super thick medium length coat and it's the only comb that makes a difference. \n\n", "Put on a latex glove. Rub your hand over furniture and it pulls up the fur. You can pick it off or super easy vacuum the clumps! ", "How frequently do you brush your dog? Still a daily chore but a 5 min brush down with a curry comb can cut down on the fur shed by a lot", "I've got a Sheperd Mix that sheds like it's her only job.\n\n1) If you haven't tried a few different food brands, check out dogfoodadvisor.com or another reputable review site, and read some reviews. Over time, I tried a few different foods before finding one that cut her shedding a lot. \n\n2) Try to catch the fur \"at the source\". If you're not already brushing her regularly, start to do so. It's good bonding time, too. I got a rubber tipped brush for my vacuum hose. It wasn't her favorite thing at first, but now she follows me around when I vacuum waiting for her turn.\n\nWhen you spend a few minute each/every other day vacuuming fur straight from the dog, less of it ends up on the floor/dresser/ceiling fan/tumbleweeds/etc.\n\n", "I'm not sure what would help with the hardwood, but a squeegee works pretty well on couches and upholstery.", "You think a Roomba would work?? Also I had always had my dogs for 4 plus years. But my other apartments always had carpet as their floors. But the thing I have notice with carpets; flees like to hide in there. Now that I moved here, my dogs have not had any flees, and I have haven't got bitten by flees. So that's a plus!! But I guess with carpet no one could ever see the pet hair. ", "I usually brush my dog 4 times a week but I use a cheap brush. Might need to look into one of these fancy ones." ]

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[ "Is there a way to lose weight from a specific part of your body? I'm perfectly happy with my torso area but feel like my face could use some thinning out. ", "Is there a way to lose weight from a specific part of your body? I'm perfectly happy with my torso area but feel like my face could use some thinning out. ", "Is there a way to lose weight from a specific part of your body? I'm perfectly happy with my torso area but feel like my face could use some thinning out. ", "Is there a way to lose weight from a specific part of your body? I'm perfectly happy with my torso area but feel like my face could use some thinning out. " ]

[ "Spot weight loss is a complete myth, it's like trying to burn petrol from a specific area in your car's petrol tank.\n\nHappily for you though, the first place any weight loss is visible is usually the face and neck. Go on a diet and your face will thin out.", "I saw you were 15. Honestly what's gonna help you here is time. You still probably have a bit of a baby face and all that's gonna help that is time + testosterone. ", "[Seen and Not Seen](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rvjw5xJF8WQ) (link plays music) is all about this problem. Make sure it's what you want though.\n\n[Lyrics](http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/talkingheads/seenandnotseen.html)", "If it's around the jaw area maybe chew more gum? It strengthens your jaw muscles and maybe even gets rid of the fat?" ]

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