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"How to properly utilize the electric outlets in a room. In one room, I have a tv, game console, laptop charger, fan, speakers etc that I want to use. In this room I have 6 outlets and 1 extension cord/surge protector. \n\nHow can I best utilize what I have?\nRight now I have the surge protector plugged into an outlet, and I have everything connected to the surge protector. I did this so that everything is more protected, however, I am not sure if I should try to use as many different outlets as possible so that I don't draw too much power out of one outlet.\n\nInstead, should I be plugging the tv, and game console into their own outlets?",
"How to properly utilize the electric outlets in a room. In one room, I have a tv, game console, laptop charger, fan, speakers etc that I want to use. In this room I have 6 outlets and 1 extension cord/surge protector. \n\nHow can I best utilize what I have?\nRight now I have the surge protector plugged into an outlet, and I have everything connected to the surge protector. I did this so that everything is more protected, however, I am not sure if I should try to use as many different outlets as possible so that I don't draw too much power out of one outlet.\n\nInstead, should I be plugging the tv, and game console into their own outlets?",
"How to properly utilize the electric outlets in a room. In one room, I have a tv, game console, laptop charger, fan, speakers etc that I want to use. In this room I have 6 outlets and 1 extension cord/surge protector. \n\nHow can I best utilize what I have?\nRight now I have the surge protector plugged into an outlet, and I have everything connected to the surge protector. I did this so that everything is more protected, however, I am not sure if I should try to use as many different outlets as possible so that I don't draw too much power out of one outlet.\n\nInstead, should I be plugging the tv, and game console into their own outlets?",
"How to properly utilize the electric outlets in a room. In one room, I have a tv, game console, laptop charger, fan, speakers etc that I want to use. In this room I have 6 outlets and 1 extension cord/surge protector. \n\nHow can I best utilize what I have?\nRight now I have the surge protector plugged into an outlet, and I have everything connected to the surge protector. I did this so that everything is more protected, however, I am not sure if I should try to use as many different outlets as possible so that I don't draw too much power out of one outlet.\n\nInstead, should I be plugging the tv, and game console into their own outlets?",
"How to properly utilize the electric outlets in a room. In one room, I have a tv, game console, laptop charger, fan, speakers etc that I want to use. In this room I have 6 outlets and 1 extension cord/surge protector. \n\nHow can I best utilize what I have?\nRight now I have the surge protector plugged into an outlet, and I have everything connected to the surge protector. I did this so that everything is more protected, however, I am not sure if I should try to use as many different outlets as possible so that I don't draw too much power out of one outlet.\n\nInstead, should I be plugging the tv, and game console into their own outlets?",
"How to properly utilize the electric outlets in a room. In one room, I have a tv, game console, laptop charger, fan, speakers etc that I want to use. In this room I have 6 outlets and 1 extension cord/surge protector. \n\nHow can I best utilize what I have?\nRight now I have the surge protector plugged into an outlet, and I have everything connected to the surge protector. I did this so that everything is more protected, however, I am not sure if I should try to use as many different outlets as possible so that I don't draw too much power out of one outlet.\n\nInstead, should I be plugging the tv, and game console into their own outlets?",
"How to properly utilize the electric outlets in a room. In one room, I have a tv, game console, laptop charger, fan, speakers etc that I want to use. In this room I have 6 outlets and 1 extension cord/surge protector. \n\nHow can I best utilize what I have?\nRight now I have the surge protector plugged into an outlet, and I have everything connected to the surge protector. I did this so that everything is more protected, however, I am not sure if I should try to use as many different outlets as possible so that I don't draw too much power out of one outlet.\n\nInstead, should I be plugging the tv, and game console into their own outlets?",
"How to properly utilize the electric outlets in a room. In one room, I have a tv, game console, laptop charger, fan, speakers etc that I want to use. In this room I have 6 outlets and 1 extension cord/surge protector. \n\nHow can I best utilize what I have?\nRight now I have the surge protector plugged into an outlet, and I have everything connected to the surge protector. I did this so that everything is more protected, however, I am not sure if I should try to use as many different outlets as possible so that I don't draw too much power out of one outlet.\n\nInstead, should I be plugging the tv, and game console into their own outlets?",
"How to properly utilize the electric outlets in a room. In one room, I have a tv, game console, laptop charger, fan, speakers etc that I want to use. In this room I have 6 outlets and 1 extension cord/surge protector. \n\nHow can I best utilize what I have?\nRight now I have the surge protector plugged into an outlet, and I have everything connected to the surge protector. I did this so that everything is more protected, however, I am not sure if I should try to use as many different outlets as possible so that I don't draw too much power out of one outlet.\n\nInstead, should I be plugging the tv, and game console into their own outlets?",
"How to properly utilize the electric outlets in a room. In one room, I have a tv, game console, laptop charger, fan, speakers etc that I want to use. In this room I have 6 outlets and 1 extension cord/surge protector. \n\nHow can I best utilize what I have?\nRight now I have the surge protector plugged into an outlet, and I have everything connected to the surge protector. I did this so that everything is more protected, however, I am not sure if I should try to use as many different outlets as possible so that I don't draw too much power out of one outlet.\n\nInstead, should I be plugging the tv, and game console into their own outlets?"
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"If you can flip off one circuit breaker, and several outlets go dead, then anything plugged into any of those outlets is on the same circuit. It makes no difference which outlet you plug into, they are effectively the same.\n\nIf the circuit breaker says 15 amps, then you have approximately 1500 watts to play with. If it says 20, you have approximately 2000 watts. Look at the energy ratings on your devices to see how much energy they pull. Keep the sum of that energy rating plugged into a single circuit below 1500 or 2000 watts respectively.\n\n",
"There is no reason to spread your devices around the outlets. The total load on the circuit is what matters. But I would make sure your sensitive electronics are on the surge protector because they are the most likely to be damaged by a surge.",
"Think of it this way, each breaker switch in your panel is the switch to a giant \"power strip\" that stretches though out your house. The wiring from outlet to outlet is inconsequential, they are all connected in some way.\n\nIf one switch controls a whole room, then all 6 outlets in that room are part of the same \"power strip\", and your whole house or apartment is composed of x number of power strips where X is the number of breakers you have. ",
"A lot of the comments here are on the right path but also inaccurate to a degree. Depending on the year of your place can also effect safety when plugging things in. A circuit breaker is meant to prevent a short in wiring and also to keep current down so that the wires don't burn and cause a fire. It's possible in older houses to be just below a rated 15 amp breaker and have everything plugged into one outlet. With the old wiring, they might heat up and melt the insulation causing a fire hazard. Also, it comes down to whether the person who built the place followed proper fire safety laws. The best utilization is to just use whatever outlets are near. You can probably get away with what you are doing but I suggest not hooking everything up to just one extension cord or surge protector either. Even those have wattage limits to prevent the above situation. It's rare but there are houses that are ticking time bombs waiting for someone to plug in way too much into one outlet.\n\nSource: I do designs for circuitry to prevent this exact situation.",
"There are plenty of complicated calculations but, to keep it simple, add up the wattage of your equipment that only has wattage ratings and divide that by 120 and you will have the amperage. Then, add in any equipment that has only amperage ratings. \nWe will have to assume 15 amps available as a worst case scenario, try to keep it around 12 or 13 amps to give yourself some margin.\n\nSource: Master Electrician with more than 30 years in the trade.",
"Also, consider an uninterruptible power supply (UPS) that can handle power regulation and provide a little bit of time in the event of an outage.\n\nI have a battery powerful enough that, when power goes out, I've got at least 20 minutes to finish whatever I'm watching.",
"Your outlet should be able to handle the whole circuit and you're way under 15 amps. So the only thing to worry about is faulty wiring or that cheap ass power strip you're calling a surge protector.\n\nTake the fan off the surge protector though, that's silly. ",
"This is for a UK perspective, but the basic concept applies everywhere. All the outlets in a room (and often on a whole floor) are connected to the same ring main, which will be powered through a single breaker on the consumer unit. This breaker will display a current rating (commonly 30 amps) which is the maximum current that can be drawn from the entire circuit. \n\nEach outlet in the circuit will also have a maximum rated output dependent on the connector type. In the UK this will almost universally be 13 amps (the rated output of the standard 3 pin BS 1363 connector). \n\nFinally, the power strip/surge protector that you use will be fused, with the current rating displayed somewhere on it. This rating may well be less than 13a, 10a and 5a are common. As long as none of these ratings are exceeded (all appliances should display their maximum power consumption in amps or watts so a total can be calculated) then any amount of appliances can be connected to a single point.\n\nIt is also important to make sure that appliances are kept in good working order, many domestic power issues are caused by faulty devices rather than any issues in the supply. I personally PAT test my appliances as i own a tester for my work, but a semi-regular visual inspection can go a long way to alleviating any potential faults. ",
"Depends on the sum total wattage requirements. Note that many electric motors draw (sometimes substantially) more current when first starting. Generally the large loads are electric motors when starting and electric heaters, if any.\n\nAlso, check the breakers. If the sum total of everything is under 80% of the amperage of a breaker[1], don't worry about it. It can be all on one outlet, it can be scattered, it doesn't matter. (Most breakers for outlets are 15A or 20A in North America, don't know about Europe.) Outlets are designed to handle 15 or 20 amps, and most breakers are designed to handle the same. (Again, North America. Don't know about Europe.)\n\n1. 80% is the general recommendation. It means you're less likely to trip the breaker from a transient.\n\nNow, if everything combined is over the amperage of a breaker, then you need to divide things among different circuits. Note that multiple outlets are often on one circuit! You'll need to check what outlets are powered by what breakers, and don't overload any one breaker.\n\nTl;DR: Don't worry about the outlets, just worry about the breakers. The outlets are generally good for anything the breakers are good for.",
"Plug the TV and the console into the surge protector because they are the expensive and most power consuming, and plug the rest into their own outlets. The fan and speakers don't need a surge protector and the laptop charger should have a brick on it to protect it. Buy a new surge protector though. They come in handy. "
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"How to find out if friends are invited to a party/gathering without hurting their feelings if not invited? ",
"How to find out if friends are invited to a party/gathering without hurting their feelings if not invited? "
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"Ask them whether they are invited or not.\n\nLPT: If your group of friends is hiding parties from one another... go find another group of friends.",
"I usually just say, \"Oh, hey, guys--I hear that there is something cool happening on (whatever) night, what do you guys know about it! I'm thinking it might be fun.\" Smile, and be enthusiastic about being involved.\n Something like that usually gives me a good feel for the situation. If I find out I haven't been invited, I just laugh and go, \"Oh, hey, no worried.\" And I smile, really meaning it.\n Since I actually like being alone, anyway, I've taught my mind to basically go straight then to what interesting, fun thing I will do that night, so I have something enjoyable to look forward to. That way I get to choose how I feel, instead of being played by the situation."
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"What kinds of things should you do/say if you are visiting a terminally ill family member? If you are visiting a family member (possibly for the last time), what kinds of things should you do or say, especially if they are very close to you?",
"What kinds of things should you do/say if you are visiting a terminally ill family member? If you are visiting a family member (possibly for the last time), what kinds of things should you do or say, especially if they are very close to you?",
"What kinds of things should you do/say if you are visiting a terminally ill family member? If you are visiting a family member (possibly for the last time), what kinds of things should you do or say, especially if they are very close to you?"
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"Say I love you. Recall a funny memory, story, or joke that you shared with them. Tell them what they meant to you, and how they affected your life. But don't be afraid to just sit, and be silent with them, and let them guide the conversation, if they can. \nAnd say I love you again. You can never say it enough. They will appreciate it, and you will be glad you were able to tell them.\n",
"Silence is golden. Also, If they were religious in the past, recite some common old fashioned prayers with them (or to them, if they can't speak). My grandfather had severe dementia, but was an Anglican and still remembered the Lord's Prayer and the Apostles Creed off by heart till the very end. Even if you don't believe, it's a nice way to comfort them and show you care. ",
"The same things you did/said when they were healthy. They just want some love and normalcy in their dire condition."
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"How to focus better while reading a book? I've been trying to read a lot more lately, but I've found that as I parse the text, other thoughts about my day, school, friends, anything, seem to distract me. How can I get myself to just focus on the text and it's content?",
"How to focus better while reading a book? I've been trying to read a lot more lately, but I've found that as I parse the text, other thoughts about my day, school, friends, anything, seem to distract me. How can I get myself to just focus on the text and it's content?",
"How to focus better while reading a book? I've been trying to read a lot more lately, but I've found that as I parse the text, other thoughts about my day, school, friends, anything, seem to distract me. How can I get myself to just focus on the text and it's content?",
"How to focus better while reading a book? I've been trying to read a lot more lately, but I've found that as I parse the text, other thoughts about my day, school, friends, anything, seem to distract me. How can I get myself to just focus on the text and it's content?"
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"This may sound strange, but I am an avid reader and sometimes if I stop for a bit, I struggle to get back into reading as an acitivity. What always works for me, is to first read a book that is a bit more \"Fluff\" or just an easier read, that's hard to put down. That gets my brain trained to read again, and then I pick up a more complicated text/longer/non-fiction read once I'm more adapt to reading as activity again. ",
"Here only on reddit I've read that zoning out is not necessarily a bad thing. Scientific experiments suggest that people often daydream most whie reading. Zoining out is essential for future planning and creative thinking. Nevertheless if you want to concentrate intently within specific amount of time, then this usually helps me. Have a overview of the entire concept. Then make an assumption on your own. Based on that assumption asked questions whether this is about your assumption or not. Then start reading. If reading non-fiction then skip the information you already knew. ",
"Here is a tip that never failed me, - Visualization.\nAs you keep reading, just form mental images of the scene that you are reading and you'd get a better appreciation of the illustration and prevent you from zoning out.\nThis works in most kind of readings, Fiction, narratives hell even school textbooks !",
"Even if it's non-fiction, try to find some sort of narrative in the text. And then just be curious to find out what happens next. As soon as it's a story, it's instantly more interesting."
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"How should I manage my money? How much should I allocate for each of my needs? How much should I save? ",
"How should I manage my money? How much should I allocate for each of my needs? How much should I save? ",
"How should I manage my money? How much should I allocate for each of my needs? How much should I save? ",
"How should I manage my money? How much should I allocate for each of my needs? How much should I save? "
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"First, realize that there are a lot more bills than one might realize before one move's out of their parents' home. Obviously, there is rent, but there is also electricity, gas, water, sewage, trash, phone, internet, car insurance, renter's insurance, and health insurance. Grocery store totals don't just cover your milk and pasta, but also your laundry detergent (soooo expensive), toilet paper, dish soap, shampoo, etc. And, there are also occasional costs like renewing drivers licenses, replacing coffee pots, or steam cleaning up that Guinness your friend spilled on the carpet so that you can get your deposit back on your apartment when you move on. So, before you commit to any budget by spending all your \"leisure money,\" it is a good idea to be very cautious and flexible for a year or two so you know precisely how much your new grown up life costs! Emergency funds are supposed to be 3-6 months expenses, but one must know what those expenses are to calculate it. ",
"Needs should obviously come first. It's simple, just add up the monthly cost of living for yourself and set aside that amount of your paycheck per month to pay for them.\n\nThen I'd say save 50% of what you can then \"spend,\" and micromanage the other 50% however you see fit: say keep one 25% for saving for something specific and the other 25% for leisurely spending. If you're making a good amount of money, managing it well can be very simple. :)\n\nI can't wait to be out of college and doing all of it on my own finally!",
"There are fundamental questions you must ask before any of this nonsense. How much money do I have now? How much money am I expect to make now? How much in 4 years? How much in 10?\n\nTime value of money is of extreme importance to young folks. $1k now may be worth a ton more to you at this stage in life than say $2k-3k later. The less you currently have or have potential to have means each dollar is that much more valuable now.\n\nSay you make $30k today. But in four years you expect your salary to be $80k. Is putting away $500 per month now feasible? Yes, is it smart? No. Why because you need the money now not later. Your predicted increase in salary later is greater than the benefit of saving money now. Say that you do well and all those $500 savings investment after four years now totals $30k. That's only a $5k profit. Oh and all that money you could never use. While $30k seems like a lot since that's all you make now. When you're making $80k that's really not such a big deal. \n\n",
"Every time I see one of these threads I cringe a little inside. This is stuff your parents should have been showing you since you were little. Going to the grocery store and figuring out costs of *everything*, not just food for the week. How things are taxed. The monthly bills and how mom and dad pay them. How interest works in a savings account. What 'diversifying' your money means.\n\nBy the time you leave *college*, this stuff should be a no brainer."
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"How to take cough syrup without gagging I'm on day no.5 of fighting the flu, and yesterday I finally get some sweet, sweet relief. Problem is that I can't stomach the syrup (Cheratussin). Any suggestions on how to not take it like a five-year-old would be wonderful! I'm desperate for a decent night's sleep.",
"How to take cough syrup without gagging I'm on day no.5 of fighting the flu, and yesterday I finally get some sweet, sweet relief. Problem is that I can't stomach the syrup (Cheratussin). Any suggestions on how to not take it like a five-year-old would be wonderful! I'm desperate for a decent night's sleep.",
"How to take cough syrup without gagging I'm on day no.5 of fighting the flu, and yesterday I finally get some sweet, sweet relief. Problem is that I can't stomach the syrup (Cheratussin). Any suggestions on how to not take it like a five-year-old would be wonderful! I'm desperate for a decent night's sleep.",
"How to take cough syrup without gagging I'm on day no.5 of fighting the flu, and yesterday I finally get some sweet, sweet relief. Problem is that I can't stomach the syrup (Cheratussin). Any suggestions on how to not take it like a five-year-old would be wonderful! I'm desperate for a decent night's sleep."
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"Don't bother.\n\nFrom the trusted source:\n\nThere is no good evidence for or against the use of these medications in those with a cough.[1] Even though they are used by 10% of American children weekly, they are not recommended in children 6 years of age or younger due to lack of evidence showing effect, and concerns of harm.[2][3]",
"Really? In the time it takes you to write a post like this, you could have taken your big girl medicine and you'd most likely be feeling better by the time you got your first reply. You don't seem that desperate. \n\nYou can do it.",
"Inhale sharply, swallow the syrup, then exhale slowly. If the syrup is thick try mixing it with one part water first",
"Swallow semen. There aint no going back after semen, you can pretty much swallow anything after that."
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"Apartment Hunting/Moving Tips Does anyone know any apartment hunting/moving tips? My long-term boyfriend and I are planning on moving in together in July. Anything helps, and thank you in advance! :)",
"Apartment Hunting/Moving Tips Does anyone know any apartment hunting/moving tips? My long-term boyfriend and I are planning on moving in together in July. Anything helps, and thank you in advance! :)",
"Apartment Hunting/Moving Tips Does anyone know any apartment hunting/moving tips? My long-term boyfriend and I are planning on moving in together in July. Anything helps, and thank you in advance! :)",
"Apartment Hunting/Moving Tips Does anyone know any apartment hunting/moving tips? My long-term boyfriend and I are planning on moving in together in July. Anything helps, and thank you in advance! :)",
"Apartment Hunting/Moving Tips Does anyone know any apartment hunting/moving tips? My long-term boyfriend and I are planning on moving in together in July. Anything helps, and thank you in advance! :)",
"Apartment Hunting/Moving Tips Does anyone know any apartment hunting/moving tips? My long-term boyfriend and I are planning on moving in together in July. Anything helps, and thank you in advance! :)",
"Apartment Hunting/Moving Tips Does anyone know any apartment hunting/moving tips? My long-term boyfriend and I are planning on moving in together in July. Anything helps, and thank you in advance! :)",
"Apartment Hunting/Moving Tips Does anyone know any apartment hunting/moving tips? My long-term boyfriend and I are planning on moving in together in July. Anything helps, and thank you in advance! :)",
"Apartment Hunting/Moving Tips Does anyone know any apartment hunting/moving tips? My long-term boyfriend and I are planning on moving in together in July. Anything helps, and thank you in advance! :)"
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"When you get there, take a video walkthrough of the apartment and zoom in and verbally identify any damages in the video. That way you can prove what was already there when you arrived and keep your security deposit.",
"start packing now. there’s an unbelievable amount of stuff you don’t need on a daily basis. and get big trash bags so you can toss a bunch of crap you discover that you have no need for",
"When packing, label your boxes with the room name or abbreviation and number. Pack your least used items first. K1 is your first kitchen box. MBR1 is the first box for the master bedroom. \nWhen you unpack, start with the highest number. If possible, make a list on your phone/tablet/computer (mine will sync among all three) of all contents in each box. It seems obsessive, but if you can’t unpack at once, it helps when you are looking for something specific. \n\nIf looking at a lot of apartments, the first picture of each should be of the building sign or address. You think you’ll remember, but this helps when you don’t. Take enough pictures so you actually remember the place and any amenities (gym, party room, etc.) and not just the apartment.",
"When looking at places with a landlord or agent, instead of asking them if you can hear the neighbors\n, just start talking very loudly, if they tell you to shhh quite it down then you know and can run screaming from the place cause fuck thin walls :|",
"before you move, set aside a day to go through your belongings and get rid of things you don’t need. be cutthroat, be realistic. my boyfriend and i got rid of over half of our belongings before moving a few weeks ago and it felt amazing. i don’t miss anything, moving in was a breeze, and our lives feel less cluttered. less is more :)",
"While on and around the property, bring out your phone and test it by doing what you would normally do - talk, text, surf, use apps etc. You don't want to find out the hard way after you move in that your phone is useless and now you gotta get new phones and new plans.",
"Use what you already have to pack instead of boxes. Use large gift bags, suitcases, laundry baskets, canvas shopping bags, etc. Not only will you greatly reduce ref number of cardboard boxes you’ll need, but these are much easier to carry.",
"If possible, both move into the apartment on the same weekend. Then you can set stuff up together. It also avoids situations where one person gets settled in and then feels invaded by the other moving in later.",
"If they don't run a thorough background check, run. Clear sign of a shady landlord. A previous landlord did a background check by looking us up on his phone and approving us in 5 minutes. Lived in that place for three weeks, as we found out our downstairs neighbors who blasted music 24/7 to the point our floor would vibrate like a Jurassic Park scene were selling crack and running a trap house."
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"How to thaw meat/poultry quickly without defrosting in the microwave. Sometimes I will forget to take out meat for the night before and it will not thaw in time for supper that night. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to thaw meat/poultry quickly without defrosting in the microwave. Sometimes I will forget to take out meat for the night before and it will not thaw in time for supper that night. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to thaw meat/poultry quickly without defrosting in the microwave. Sometimes I will forget to take out meat for the night before and it will not thaw in time for supper that night. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to thaw meat/poultry quickly without defrosting in the microwave. Sometimes I will forget to take out meat for the night before and it will not thaw in time for supper that night. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to thaw meat/poultry quickly without defrosting in the microwave. Sometimes I will forget to take out meat for the night before and it will not thaw in time for supper that night. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to thaw meat/poultry quickly without defrosting in the microwave. Sometimes I will forget to take out meat for the night before and it will not thaw in time for supper that night. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to thaw meat/poultry quickly without defrosting in the microwave. Sometimes I will forget to take out meat for the night before and it will not thaw in time for supper that night. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to thaw meat/poultry quickly without defrosting in the microwave. Sometimes I will forget to take out meat for the night before and it will not thaw in time for supper that night. Anyone have any tips?"
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"Thawing in hot water is a bad idea. By doing this, the outer layer heats up to a temperature that will cause bacteria to form before the inside is fully thawed. The best options are to defrost in cold water. This usual doesn't take too long and is much safer. \n\nhttp://www.stilltasty.com/articles/view/9",
"how about this trick? http://nextshark.com/defrost-a-steak-in-5-minutes-without-electricity/\n\nno idea if it really works though as i have never tried it...",
"I've worked in restaurants most of my young adult life and wandering into the kitchen one day I learned about ice baths! Early in the AM, the prep cooks would have to thaw meat in ice water because it would reach room temperature together, and faster! You still have to watch it though and monitor the coldness to make sure you don't go into the \"danger zone\". ",
"Put it in a container of cold tap water.\n\nWorks best if it's a metal pot/bowl.\n\nIf it's an option, have someone swap out the water every hour or so. ",
"My go to vegetable and chicken in the iron skillet works well with frozen chicken breast. Just put a top on the skillet for a while then flip the pieces and cover again for a few min. ",
"This is what I do. I usually buy a lot of meat at once and freeze it in individual portions. When you're unpacking your groceries, fill the sink with water. Get some freezer bags and put what you want to freeze in it, then put the bag in the water, but don't let any get in. The water will push all the air out of the bag, then you seal it up and freeze it. Later when I wanna thaw something I just fill the sink with hot water and throw the bag in there, and since it's 'vacuum sealed' it'll defrost quickly. I use that time to prep the rest of the meal. ",
"\nThis thread has been linked to from another place on reddit.\n\n- [/r/knowyourshit] [LPT Request: How to thaw meat/poultry quickly without defrosting in the microwave. - LifeProTips](http://np.reddit.com/r/knowyourshit/comments/2xmx5v/lpt_request_how_to_thaw_meatpoultry_quickly/)\n\n\n^Please ^follow ^the ^rules ^of ^reddit ^and ^avoid ^voting ^or ^comment ^in ^linked ^threads. ^\\([Info](/r/TotesMessenger/wiki/) ^| ^[Contact](/message/compose/?to=\\/r\\/TMTest))",
"Poultry I just thaw in hot water. Frozen breast have very little flavor to lose so water soak has little effect on it. \n\nSteaks, I cook from frozen. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uLWsEg1LmaE \n\nAnything else, I think about ahead of time. "
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"not upsetting dogs while biking As a cyclist, how can I avoid upsetting dogs (i.e. making them bark a lot/pull at the leash/chase me)? I'm a bit shy of dogs, and I don't want to get the dogs upset, or worse, get chased down the street by an off-leash dog, but they tend to go nuts whenever I pass by.",
"not upsetting dogs while biking As a cyclist, how can I avoid upsetting dogs (i.e. making them bark a lot/pull at the leash/chase me)? I'm a bit shy of dogs, and I don't want to get the dogs upset, or worse, get chased down the street by an off-leash dog, but they tend to go nuts whenever I pass by.",
"not upsetting dogs while biking As a cyclist, how can I avoid upsetting dogs (i.e. making them bark a lot/pull at the leash/chase me)? I'm a bit shy of dogs, and I don't want to get the dogs upset, or worse, get chased down the street by an off-leash dog, but they tend to go nuts whenever I pass by.",
"not upsetting dogs while biking As a cyclist, how can I avoid upsetting dogs (i.e. making them bark a lot/pull at the leash/chase me)? I'm a bit shy of dogs, and I don't want to get the dogs upset, or worse, get chased down the street by an off-leash dog, but they tend to go nuts whenever I pass by.",
"not upsetting dogs while biking As a cyclist, how can I avoid upsetting dogs (i.e. making them bark a lot/pull at the leash/chase me)? I'm a bit shy of dogs, and I don't want to get the dogs upset, or worse, get chased down the street by an off-leash dog, but they tend to go nuts whenever I pass by.",
"not upsetting dogs while biking As a cyclist, how can I avoid upsetting dogs (i.e. making them bark a lot/pull at the leash/chase me)? I'm a bit shy of dogs, and I don't want to get the dogs upset, or worse, get chased down the street by an off-leash dog, but they tend to go nuts whenever I pass by."
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"You are a fast moving object and you will trigger a reaction from most dogs. It's their natural behaviour and not much you can do.",
"If you haven’t been bitten, then each time you ride past them remember that you are successful. \n\nIt’s natural to them. They treat squirrels and UPs trucks and loud noises without visual stimulation the same way.",
"Nothing you can do other than ignore them and move on. Mentally, they consider their barking to be successful if you leave the scene - to them, they scared you away from their pack.",
"My dog used to pull / bark / chase all cyclists. Now with so many about during lockdown at our park (I'm UK based) she doesn't do it nearly as much. \n\nHowever, if a cyclist \"comes out of nowhere\", especially if going really fast then she will pull/chase, because they have startled her (and she does startle easily).\n\nShe stops chasing as soon as the cyclist stops. It's in dogs nature to chase, and that's why if being attacked by a dog you are told not to run, as they will chase.\n\nMy advice is to go as slowly as you can if you see a dog as you pass by. If you are on a path where there is a bend or it's narrow where others won't be able to see you approach, again, go slowly.\n\nBut at the end of the day you can only do your best. As a dog owner I really appreciate cyclists that do go slowly, and are understanding if my dog gets startled. The only thing I think that had improved it for her is the frequent exposure; so you can do your best but it's absolutely not all down to your actions.",
"Calm down the dogs know your scared they sense it or smell it so they bark they think you're weak you going to have to drop your nuts on a few dogs it sounds like they already established dominance tho",
"Stop. If you keep riding they keep chasing. Stop riding and they stop chasing. Usually. Sometimes you may get mauled"
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"how to easily untie knots My whole life ive struggled; they become tighter... have to cut them - trash bags, shoe laces, knots, bungee cords. Please help me",
"how to easily untie knots My whole life ive struggled; they become tighter... have to cut them - trash bags, shoe laces, knots, bungee cords. Please help me",
"how to easily untie knots My whole life ive struggled; they become tighter... have to cut them - trash bags, shoe laces, knots, bungee cords. Please help me",
"how to easily untie knots My whole life ive struggled; they become tighter... have to cut them - trash bags, shoe laces, knots, bungee cords. Please help me",
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"Take the knot itself and applying firm pressure between your forefinger and thumb roll the knot back and forth a bit. This should help loosen the knot and allow you to attempt to trace an end or pull on the correct part. \n\nIf the knot is particularly stuck I recommend taking something thin (pen, needle, paperclip) and pushing it into the knot between the strands, then re-try the above rolling technique.",
"For trash bags you can take the \"ends\", twist them as tight possible and push them into the knot. This will loosen the knot",
"The key is to find the \"running end\" of what you want to untie. That's the end of the rope, shoelace, etc that is free. Just take one end at a time and trace it back through the knot till you get it untied!",
"Tie them like a shoelace (or at least a one-sided shoelace) to start with, then they're easy to untie.",
"The easiest way to untie knots is to tie proper knots in the first place. I wasted most of my life tying bad knots that have bad structure and jam up horribly. Now that I have learned a few good knots it has seriously reduced my frustration."
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"How to get out of analysis paralysis right away? My job requires me to think on my feet and make executive decisions quickly. I got the role early this year and the learning curve was to be expected. But it’s been 6 months and I still feel paralyzed at making decisions. I worry this could severely hurt my career down the road. Any tips on how to get better at this faster?",
"How to get out of analysis paralysis right away? My job requires me to think on my feet and make executive decisions quickly. I got the role early this year and the learning curve was to be expected. But it’s been 6 months and I still feel paralyzed at making decisions. I worry this could severely hurt my career down the road. Any tips on how to get better at this faster?",
"How to get out of analysis paralysis right away? My job requires me to think on my feet and make executive decisions quickly. I got the role early this year and the learning curve was to be expected. But it’s been 6 months and I still feel paralyzed at making decisions. I worry this could severely hurt my career down the road. Any tips on how to get better at this faster?",
"How to get out of analysis paralysis right away? My job requires me to think on my feet and make executive decisions quickly. I got the role early this year and the learning curve was to be expected. But it’s been 6 months and I still feel paralyzed at making decisions. I worry this could severely hurt my career down the road. Any tips on how to get better at this faster?",
"How to get out of analysis paralysis right away? My job requires me to think on my feet and make executive decisions quickly. I got the role early this year and the learning curve was to be expected. But it’s been 6 months and I still feel paralyzed at making decisions. I worry this could severely hurt my career down the road. Any tips on how to get better at this faster?",
"How to get out of analysis paralysis right away? My job requires me to think on my feet and make executive decisions quickly. I got the role early this year and the learning curve was to be expected. But it’s been 6 months and I still feel paralyzed at making decisions. I worry this could severely hurt my career down the road. Any tips on how to get better at this faster?",
"How to get out of analysis paralysis right away? My job requires me to think on my feet and make executive decisions quickly. I got the role early this year and the learning curve was to be expected. But it’s been 6 months and I still feel paralyzed at making decisions. I worry this could severely hurt my career down the road. Any tips on how to get better at this faster?",
"How to get out of analysis paralysis right away? My job requires me to think on my feet and make executive decisions quickly. I got the role early this year and the learning curve was to be expected. But it’s been 6 months and I still feel paralyzed at making decisions. I worry this could severely hurt my career down the road. Any tips on how to get better at this faster?",
"How to get out of analysis paralysis right away? My job requires me to think on my feet and make executive decisions quickly. I got the role early this year and the learning curve was to be expected. But it’s been 6 months and I still feel paralyzed at making decisions. I worry this could severely hurt my career down the road. Any tips on how to get better at this faster?"
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"Often, analysis paralysis is a fear of making the wrong decision. But sometimes the choice isn’t between one right thing and one wrong thing; instead, it’s a choice between a good thing and a better thing. So my advice is to analyze the courses of action you’re choosing between, and say “so one might be better than the other, but is there really a WRONG choice here?”",
"There's no such thing as a \"best choice\" to make. It's all probability. All choices are reasonable when made with the data that you have available.\n\nAnalysis paralyzes you because you're extrapolating potential outcomes using the limited information that you have. If you're a logical, analytical thinker, the number of those potential outcomes is near infinite. Too much for you to make a logical decision. That coupled with the myth of the best choice makes decision making a grueling process.\n\nInstead,\n\n1. There are no bad choices. It's all probability. Accept that you don't have all available data and allow yourself to make the logical choice as though what you know is the only data that exists. More this or that, less better or worse.\n\n2. Give yourself grace by \"forgiving\" yourself ahead of time if the choice you make leads to a suboptimal outcome. This will mitigate your fear of failure and consequences allowing you to act. Do this even when the suboptimal outcome is worst case scenario. Better to decide than sit in limbo.\n\n Decision making is a process, and being presented with a novel choice creates the potential for suboptimal outcomes. Sometimes those outcomes are just the cost of doing business.",
"If you feel like you lack experience in your field and that fact is causing you to hesitate, studying may help. Additionally surrounding yourself with a competent team you can trust to provide the bulk of your fuel for making a decision can help. Gaining more experience and having a few mistakes or watching other’s mistakes are the best ways to learn and gain confidence in your decision making. \nNone of us got into a position like that and immediately felt super confident in making a call, and the ones who do tend to be the worst fuck ups. It all takes time\n\nThe fact you are having trouble probably means you care and are thinking things through. So long as it isn’t an immediate safety issue and you’re learning/developing, you’re ok.",
"Doing things right takes time.\n\nMaking a bad decision cause you are in a rush to stamp it done can cost heaploads of money.",
"Also, sometimes analysis paralysis results from feeling like you don’t have enough information to make a good decision. But what that really is is a desire to know the future — and that ain’t gonna happen, ever.\n\nSo, sometimes you have to recognize when you have all the info you’re gonna get, and you have to make a decision based on the best info you had at the time.",
"Minimize risk instead of optimising profit. It is usually much easier to understand which are the worst choices than which are the best. So apply specific constraints that you can measure and decide based on if you can achieve it regardless of if it being the best way to do it. After a while you will start seeing where you could have done better. And you will be able to increase the constraints until you are left with the best options. But during your learning process you did not lose.\n\nBe pragmatical and quantify everything you can in a simple metric: time or money usually. Measuring or sensing is the first step to optimizing any system. The fact that most people don’t actually like to quantify things will give you an advantage.",
"It comes down to experience. So you have to give it time, the more decisions you make, the more you'll find that the paralysis was the result of an overblown analysis.\n\nI used to be unable to make decisions because I felt that I always wanted more information or that the risk is too great for me to make a decision.\n\nMore often than not, whatever you have analysed doesn't manifest itself. At least that's my experience - I've come to terms that I just have to decide on something or make a judgment call, run with it, and see what comes next. As long as no significant money is lost, no lives are ruined - no mistake can't be fixed.",
"If you ever make a bad call- learn from it. Remember the situation and what happened this time. \n\nAsk your supervisors for help. Odds are, if you tell them you’re struggling with making decisions, they’ll be happy to help. They put you in the position you’re in for a reason. They’ll probably be glad you asked rather than you making a bad call. \n\nThe longer you’re in the position, the easier it will get. I took a promotion about 6 months ago and all the (sometimes dumb) questions I get are getting easier and easier to answer. You’ll get there!",
"Couple approaches I use.\n\n1. One way or two way doors. Is the decision something you can take back or pivot once you've made it? Or is it permanent? If it's a two way door, meaning, you can come back through aka change your mind after a certain amount of time, why not? Google this term for examples.\n\n2. Experiment. What's the smallest possible thing you can do to help you gain more information or test out a theory to help you at least move in a direction? \n\nHope that helps."
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"Online Training Courses Hello All, I am reposting this from r/career, as I got no response (dead subreddit). Please advise me if there is a better subreddit for this kind of stuff.\n\nI am trying to build my career as a young professional and would like to better myself without going to formal school, work and commute already take a chunk of my day.\n\nI've been very curious about online training, certifications and schooling. Has anyone had any expertise with those?\n\nGroupon offers quite a few courses, like the below:\n\nhttp://www.groupon.com/deals/career-match-53-los-angeles\n\nhttp://www.groupon.com/deals/career-academy-45-los-angeles\n\nhttp://www.groupon.com/deals/lex-van-dam-trading-academy-9-los-angeles\n\nAny advice on these would be great!",
"Online Training Courses Hello All, I am reposting this from r/career, as I got no response (dead subreddit). Please advise me if there is a better subreddit for this kind of stuff.\n\nI am trying to build my career as a young professional and would like to better myself without going to formal school, work and commute already take a chunk of my day.\n\nI've been very curious about online training, certifications and schooling. Has anyone had any expertise with those?\n\nGroupon offers quite a few courses, like the below:\n\nhttp://www.groupon.com/deals/career-match-53-los-angeles\n\nhttp://www.groupon.com/deals/career-academy-45-los-angeles\n\nhttp://www.groupon.com/deals/lex-van-dam-trading-academy-9-los-angeles\n\nAny advice on these would be great!",
"Online Training Courses Hello All, I am reposting this from r/career, as I got no response (dead subreddit). Please advise me if there is a better subreddit for this kind of stuff.\n\nI am trying to build my career as a young professional and would like to better myself without going to formal school, work and commute already take a chunk of my day.\n\nI've been very curious about online training, certifications and schooling. Has anyone had any expertise with those?\n\nGroupon offers quite a few courses, like the below:\n\nhttp://www.groupon.com/deals/career-match-53-los-angeles\n\nhttp://www.groupon.com/deals/career-academy-45-los-angeles\n\nhttp://www.groupon.com/deals/lex-van-dam-trading-academy-9-los-angeles\n\nAny advice on these would be great!"
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"To start with you really need to know what you want to be training in?\nWhat skills are you missing, or might be wanted by the employer you want to work for?\n\nIf you just want to dabble, then I wouldn't recommend signing up to any paid courses, as they're big commitments that you're unlikely to get your money back on if you change your mind a month in - usually you'd still be liable to pay the full course fees in that case, too.\n\nOnline courses are going to be huge in the next few years, so with life commitments they'd be ideal, as the industry is really getting to a good place right now. You just need to figure out what you want to study, then Google what you're interested in and look at reviews of courses.\n\ntl;dr What do you want to do for a career, and what do you need to get there?",
"There are several high quality academic classes online for free. In addition to Good Guy Greg's teaching for fun, some guy paid MIT loads of cash to put most of their courses online!\n\nHere are a few sites I know of:\n\n*[Kahn Academy](https://www.khanacademy.org/)\n\n*[MIT Online Classes](http://ocw.mit.edu/courses/find-by-department/)\n\n*[MIT Six Sigma Class](http://ocw.mit.edu/courses/aeronautics-and-astronautics/16-660j-introduction-to-lean-six-sigma-methods-january-iap-2012/)",
"Not sure what you plan on getting into, but Udacity has good courses as well, I learned all I know about Java from that site. I'm pretty sure they offer actual qualifications too for a small fee."
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"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW).",
"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW).",
"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW).",
"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW).",
"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW).",
"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW).",
"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW).",
"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW).",
"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW).",
"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW).",
"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW).",
"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW).",
"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW).",
"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW).",
"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW).",
"How to stop in-ear headphones from being affected by 'booming' when walking My in-ear phones suffer terribly from 'booming' whenever the cable is touched and it's annoys the hell out of me because I can basically hear the cable banging when I'm walking, how can I mitigate this? (They're nice Sennheisers BTW)."
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"I found that running the leads above the ears can mitigate this. \n\nRunning makes the noise worse. So far, my favorite for running is the Bluetooth type where the horseshoe-shaped portion lies where shoulders meet neck with only a small loop of wire to earbuds.",
"Thread the earphones cable over your ear, something like what those security guys/ musicians do.\n\n\n\nFor an example, look at shure or westone earphones, and how they are worn.\n\nSomething like this, http://www.sensaphonics.com/wp-content/uploads/Shure-sleeve-4251.jpg\n\nAlternatively, buy a shirt clip and clip your earphone to your shirt, that stops the cable from moving too much.",
"EE here but I worked at an un-named company that designed in-ear headphones. \n\nFirst tips: run the cable over your ear and use the sliding thing to tighten them at the nape of your neck. If you can clip the cable to the collar of your shirt that's even better. \n\nUnfortunately in-ear headphone that seal off the ear canal suffer this problem, especially while running, talking, and chewing. The only thing you can do about it is loosen the seal. Some are designed to be leaky to reduce this problem (like the B&W C5). You might also have luck with different tips that are higher friction and move less in your ear. \n\nTL;DR: can't really be solved. Can be reduced by proper cable routing and experimenting with different foam tips. Don't use custom molds, or the rubber single-, double-, or triple-flanged tips. \n\n",
"They refer to this as \"microphonics\", it's a common problem with IEMs. Googling that term will give a lot of solutions (and solution attempts)",
"Try a different set of phones. I've never noticed anything like this on the aftermarket sets I use. A good design will decouple the diaphragm from the cable and probably fit your ear better as well. Source: audio nerd",
"There are also headphone clips to attach to your clothing. I clip mine at my shirt collar and it eliminates any of the booming sounds.\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Bose%C2%AE-SIE2-Sport-Headphones-Clothing/dp/B00CMRK2D4/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1401827203&sr=8-4&keywords=running+headphone+clips",
"That's some great replies all. I guess the ultimate would be me standing still with a woven cable routed through my clothing clipped on near the top tucked under my chin and then looped over my ears... \n\n:-)\n\nI'm going to try all the solutions...!",
"If you have a pair with the little ring that slides up from where the wires split, push it up to your chin like you are cinching a drawstring. This will take out the slack and keep it from going slack, then taut as you walk.",
"I loop the cord through the zipper in my jacket, which isolates them enough to prevent tugging as I walk. Also I can't bear suction in my ears caused by a perfect seal so I nick the rubber bud parts with scissors or my teeth.",
"I had the same problem until I replaced the cables with more flexible ones.\n\nAnother trick is reducing friction on hard surfaces. Best for me is running the cable over the ears and down your back under your clothes. (Basically you need to avoid your zipper, buttons and any stuff on your bag/backpack.)",
"I get the same issue with my ear buds. It seems to be a design flaw based on the material used for the wire. I have a cheaper pair of sony headphones that do not have this issue at all.",
"Hmmm, maybe isolating the cable is the way to go then as even the cables brushing against my sweater generates noise. Might just have to start wearing my large cans (although that might look a little odd down the gym...",
"Drape the earphones around your neck so that both earphones are on one side. Then put the earphones in. One of them will go under your chin to the other side(ear). Dont know if this makes sense but it works for me",
"Been using these type of headphones for years when running.\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0094R4Q6Y/ref=ox_sc_sfl_title_7?ie=UTF8&psc=1&smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER\n",
"if you can afford it get a pair of yurbud earphones, they are meant for running/walking. The ear part is designed to not move in your ear or fall out and they come with a lifetime warranty.",
"The \"booming\" is called microphonics and as others have said, looping the cable over your ear effectively reduces the sound. \n\nhttp://ear-buds.org/microphonics-and-how-it-affects-your-earbuds/\n"
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"My senior week So I’m 18 and recently graduated, my friend is 19, just for context. So senior week itself came and went and I didn’t do anything for it, because my plans fell through when my ex and I broke up. I made this plan with my one friend to go to Amsterdam, got the okay from my parents, and reserved a hotel (I still live with them lol). My friend ended up asking his mom who said yes at first but changed her mind and they got into a fight, basically he’s not coming. So here’s the thing, the only other friend I have isn’t available when I’m going so I just am sitting here thinking I have to go alone and that’s terrifying to me. I wanted to go there with my friends for obvious reasons, but I have no friends to go with. Granted i still very much want to go, I just haven’t stayed anywhere alone before. Idk how to end this with a question but I need help. \n\nA side note is my parents want to come and make it a family vacation which I would rather not do. I love them and all, but I have my reasons for wanting to go without them.",
"My senior week So I’m 18 and recently graduated, my friend is 19, just for context. So senior week itself came and went and I didn’t do anything for it, because my plans fell through when my ex and I broke up. I made this plan with my one friend to go to Amsterdam, got the okay from my parents, and reserved a hotel (I still live with them lol). My friend ended up asking his mom who said yes at first but changed her mind and they got into a fight, basically he’s not coming. So here’s the thing, the only other friend I have isn’t available when I’m going so I just am sitting here thinking I have to go alone and that’s terrifying to me. I wanted to go there with my friends for obvious reasons, but I have no friends to go with. Granted i still very much want to go, I just haven’t stayed anywhere alone before. Idk how to end this with a question but I need help. \n\nA side note is my parents want to come and make it a family vacation which I would rather not do. I love them and all, but I have my reasons for wanting to go without them.",
"My senior week So I’m 18 and recently graduated, my friend is 19, just for context. So senior week itself came and went and I didn’t do anything for it, because my plans fell through when my ex and I broke up. I made this plan with my one friend to go to Amsterdam, got the okay from my parents, and reserved a hotel (I still live with them lol). My friend ended up asking his mom who said yes at first but changed her mind and they got into a fight, basically he’s not coming. So here’s the thing, the only other friend I have isn’t available when I’m going so I just am sitting here thinking I have to go alone and that’s terrifying to me. I wanted to go there with my friends for obvious reasons, but I have no friends to go with. Granted i still very much want to go, I just haven’t stayed anywhere alone before. Idk how to end this with a question but I need help. \n\nA side note is my parents want to come and make it a family vacation which I would rather not do. I love them and all, but I have my reasons for wanting to go without them.",
"My senior week So I’m 18 and recently graduated, my friend is 19, just for context. So senior week itself came and went and I didn’t do anything for it, because my plans fell through when my ex and I broke up. I made this plan with my one friend to go to Amsterdam, got the okay from my parents, and reserved a hotel (I still live with them lol). My friend ended up asking his mom who said yes at first but changed her mind and they got into a fight, basically he’s not coming. So here’s the thing, the only other friend I have isn’t available when I’m going so I just am sitting here thinking I have to go alone and that’s terrifying to me. I wanted to go there with my friends for obvious reasons, but I have no friends to go with. Granted i still very much want to go, I just haven’t stayed anywhere alone before. Idk how to end this with a question but I need help. \n\nA side note is my parents want to come and make it a family vacation which I would rather not do. I love them and all, but I have my reasons for wanting to go without them."
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"Personally, I love traveling solo. One thing I’ve done is gotten a private tour guide which helps cause you can go to places with someone else and that someone else is obviously knowledgeable about the city and can give you tips and tricks that will make your time there better. The city I was in had free tour guides prior to Covid.",
"Go with your parents. Consider going out clubbing one night by yourself. If a problem comes up your parents are nearby. You don’t need to enjoy everything Amsterdam has to offer. There is plenty of time for that later. But you don’t have many more opportunities for a family vacation so definitely take hold of this one.",
"I understand your scared to go alone. But as they say, 'Life begins at the end of your comfort zone'. Amsterdam is a very cool place to go alone, and I assure you that it will be a heck of a memorable experience.",
"Do you have any cousins, even older ones? Maybe one would go with you. The cousin relationship is one of equals in spite of age differences, and it could be very fun and bonding to go together."
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"How to talk to a friend when they're in a group that you haven't seen before? It gets really awkward in this situation. Usually ends up in stammering and looking uncomfortably straight in the eyes of the person I'm talking to. I then try to quickly finish the talk so that I can leave. Is there a better way to deal with this?",
"How to talk to a friend when they're in a group that you haven't seen before? It gets really awkward in this situation. Usually ends up in stammering and looking uncomfortably straight in the eyes of the person I'm talking to. I then try to quickly finish the talk so that I can leave. Is there a better way to deal with this?"
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"Turn to one of them and say \"Hi. I'm <name>\" and put your hand out. He or she will shake your hand and respond in kind. If he/she doesn't ask a question or say something , ask \"How do you know <your friend's name.> And go from there.",
"Your friend is talking with his/her cooler friends. Admit defeat and move on.\n\nOr, approach one of them and say, \"I don't think we've met. Hi, I'm _____, and I'm his/her best friend so back off.\" That last part you can leave out if you don't feel threatened by their coolness. Always be the cool friend.",
"Is there a reason why you aren't trying to become part of the group by introducing yourself and trying to talk to the other people? Or you can actively listen and chime in at a good moment; there's no reason why you have to stick with people you know. Speak with friends of friends and you may discover some commonality which will open you up to more potential bonds you can develop. Then you won't be in a situation where it's only one friend in a group of new people, but instead a group of new potential friends."
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"How to discover how a thing is called in another language? I'm not talking about translation, I'm talking about specific things. I'm brazilian, the internet is mostly in english. It's far easier to find good information about pretty much anything in english. However, e. g., sometimes I find a DIY tutorial, one of the materials needed is a cam buckle, and I have no idea how a cam buckle is called in my native language. It's not the first time, I spent months trying to discover how a deadlift is called in portuguese (levantamento terra, something like \"ground lift\", for the record), that kind of thing is far more common than it should be and I would love to have a solution.",
"How to discover how a thing is called in another language? I'm not talking about translation, I'm talking about specific things. I'm brazilian, the internet is mostly in english. It's far easier to find good information about pretty much anything in english. However, e. g., sometimes I find a DIY tutorial, one of the materials needed is a cam buckle, and I have no idea how a cam buckle is called in my native language. It's not the first time, I spent months trying to discover how a deadlift is called in portuguese (levantamento terra, something like \"ground lift\", for the record), that kind of thing is far more common than it should be and I would love to have a solution."
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"Ask Reddit. Post in the sub r/askreddit and say \"hey, here's a photo of the cam nut I'm looking for, how do you call it in Brazilian?\" Not only you'll get the name, but likely the best brand and best shop to buy it from. Because redditors are awesome and super helpful😆",
"When I need to find technical or specific terms in English I look them up in Wikipedia and then change the language of the page. It works very well.\n\nAlternatively to Reddit, you can ask on apps such as HiNative which are designed to let you ask quick questions to foreign speakers."
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"Keep the inside of your car cool during the summer if you have to leave it for a few hours? Example: If you have to leave your car in a parking lot for an entire work shift during a hot summer day.\n\nTips on how to keep it cool, or try to keep the inside of the car from getting too hot?"
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"Crack your windows 1/4 inch or so if the neighborhood allows it.\n\nThose sun shade things can help keep your dash and steering wheel from getting too bad. \n\nPark with your windshield towards wherever the sun is at the end of your shift so the sun shade can block most of the rays from hitting your interior.\n\nLet your car air out before getting in.",
"Aftermarket remote starters are available and easy to install. Just start the car from your remote or your iPhone app a few minutes before you get to it and the AC will cool it off. "
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"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?",
"Males - Where do you keep you wallet, keys , phone etc. on you? Recently I have had back issues. Went to a chiropractor and they suggested I take my wallet out of my back pocket, as sitting on it cause issues with your back. Now with my keys and my phone there is very limited room in my front pockets. Where do you guys keep these kinds of items on you?"
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"I do it like this: Phone in one front pocket, wallet in the other, keys clipped to my belt-loops with one of those $2 climbing clips.",
"I have a very skinny [Maxp",
"Ditch the wallet and get a slim card case. If you have too many cards sign up for Google Wallet and get their physical card. This lets you store many cards on one physical card and then you can use your phone to select which one is active before you swipe it. Works anywhere a cr",
"With jeans\nKeys - Carabiner onto belt hook\n\nEverything else in side pockets. \n\nJeans are usually terrible for storage though. Cargo pants/shorts were invented for a reason.\n\nBackpack is the other way. Good for when you are doing a lot of walking or movement\n",
"i just don't carry my wallet or phone with me, since it's a security risk. plus i need the pocket room for my gun.",
"Well I keep my wallet in my right back pocket, and my keys and phone in my front right pocket. When I am wearing track pants or something, I just put my wallet in my front left pocket. I think I'm confused as to how you don't have room for stuff in your pockets...",
"Phone in front left pocket, e cig in front right pocket, wallet in back right pocket, lighter in back right pocket, and usually a cheap metal throwaway pipe in my right cargo pocket.\n\nI am very OCD about my pockets. ",
"Once I really became independent and started carrying keys, wallet, and a phone around at all times, I learned what was important, took off big keychains, needless cards in wallets, is that 2 year old gift card to a movie theater with 2 cents left on it that important.\n\nJust my thoughts, may not apply to you.",
"I always keep it on my front right pocket\n\nI've never had a thick wallet and have a key set with just 4 keys and no keychains\n\nphone goes in the left pocket",
"/r/EDC is the place to go, my friend. What people carry but also lots of excellent advice and gadgets you need.",
"Wallet-Always the front pocket for me. It is harder to pick pocket, the material can mess up over time if you keep in the back pocket, and depending on the size of your wallet, a wallet in your back pocket can mess up your spine when you sit down. \n\nPhone-The other front pocket. I never have the two in the same pocket\n\nKeys-It really depends on how big your keys/key ring(s) are. For me, I just put them in same pocket as my phone, since my phone is thinner than my wallet. This makes it easier for me to access them.",
"Stack all your cards up and wrap your paper money around them. Secure with a large binder clip. \n\nThis will reduce the bulk of your \"wallet\" and you'll be free to carry all the cards you want. \n\nI put my \"wallet\" in the front-right pocket because I'm right-handed and I keep my cell phone in the front-left. I never put my keys in with the cell phone b/c that will scratch the phone. If I'm walking around, my keys will be in my jacket pocket, my back pocket, or my wife's purse. \n\nWhen I'm at my desk at work, keys and cell phone come out of the pockets.",
"Phone in right pocket. Headphones in left. Wallet in back right. \n\nIf I am in the city or in public transport my wallet goes in my front left (stay away from the crooks)",
"Phone ALWAYS in right pocket, along with a pen (college).\n\nKeys/money/ID card in the left pocket. I dont want to stracth my phone with moneys.",
"Left pocket - phone\nRight pocket - wallet\n\nFor my keys, I use [something like this](http://www.amazon.com/Buckle-Down-Ford-Logo-Chain-Release/dp/B007KW5XU8) to hang my keys over my right pocket, without actually taking any space.\n\nWith keys on the right side pocket, there's no risk to scratches on my phone or its screen. With that kind of key chain, I can keep my keys in my right pocket so they don't jingle, but also they're not really competing for space with my wallet because they're hanging halfway into the pocket, rather than at the bottom, cutting into my thigh.\n",
"In my front pockets. Those things are like caves, so I fit my wallet and some coins in one pocket and my phone and keys (phone screen-down against my leg and keys against the back of my phone) in the other. I also have pens in one pocket or another, and sometimes other small gadgets.",
"I would look into getting cargo pants. They're really helpful if you carry a bunch of stuff around all the time.",
"I keep my wallet in one front pocket and phone in the other. My wallet is a homemade duct tape wallet with pockets for cards. It is super thin. ",
"I keep my phone in the right front pocket, the keys and the lighter in the left front pocket and the wallet.... well it depends:during the winter, spring and autumn I put it in the inner pocket of the jacket. During the summer I always have a man purse for the wallet and othe little things",
"I have a habit of just removing my phone and wallet from my back pockets when I sit for more than a minute at a desk or table.",
"I also have back problems so I went with a card holder that barely holds the things I need. Forces me to keep it clean of things that would cause a regular wallet to get big enough to cause me back pain. Now its so thin I barely notice it at all. ",
"Front left: Wallet, nail clippers, gum, chapstick, pen\n\nFront right: Phone, knife clipped to pocket\n\nBack left and right: nothing\n\nKeys clipped to belt loop on front right / right side, but sometimes I carry them while walking so they don't make the jingle noise.",
"40 years of wallet in back pocket lead to very painful sciatica. Don't do this! If you must put anything in the back pocket take it out before you sit on it. Took me about 8 months after I got a small minimal wallet form a kick starter project for the pain to subside. I'll never go back to a fat back pocket wallet. \n",
"[Phone](http://www.macobserver.com/imgs/tmo_articles/20120912_iphone5apple.jpg) goes in my front left pocket. [Wallet](http://static.pub-ecommerce.crunchyroll.com/product_images/9b8b9d7b40225ce9ee5f13f49d918b10_w400/nintendo-nes-classic-controller-bifold-wallet.jpg) goes in my back right pocket. Keys are hooked onto my belt loop on the right side."
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"How does one chill beer cans while camping at a music festival? Hi Reddit,\n\nThis weekend I will be going to my first music festival of the year. Normally I go to these things with a lot of friends and a car to put stuff in. This time I'll be traveling by train, alone, so I have to pack light. The problem is, I can't find a good way to chill my beer while on the camping site. I've read about a bucket of ice water and salt but I carry a lot of stuff as it is, no more room for a bucket. :) The wet sock and bottle method seems a pretty good solution but does it work with cans as well?\nI've also read about a wet cloth to wrap around the can and to place it in the sun. Does this work?\nDo any of you have a better way? It needs to be practical and lightweight.\n\nThanks in advance, Reddit!\n",
"How does one chill beer cans while camping at a music festival? Hi Reddit,\n\nThis weekend I will be going to my first music festival of the year. Normally I go to these things with a lot of friends and a car to put stuff in. This time I'll be traveling by train, alone, so I have to pack light. The problem is, I can't find a good way to chill my beer while on the camping site. I've read about a bucket of ice water and salt but I carry a lot of stuff as it is, no more room for a bucket. :) The wet sock and bottle method seems a pretty good solution but does it work with cans as well?\nI've also read about a wet cloth to wrap around the can and to place it in the sun. Does this work?\nDo any of you have a better way? It needs to be practical and lightweight.\n\nThanks in advance, Reddit!\n",
"How does one chill beer cans while camping at a music festival? Hi Reddit,\n\nThis weekend I will be going to my first music festival of the year. Normally I go to these things with a lot of friends and a car to put stuff in. This time I'll be traveling by train, alone, so I have to pack light. The problem is, I can't find a good way to chill my beer while on the camping site. I've read about a bucket of ice water and salt but I carry a lot of stuff as it is, no more room for a bucket. :) The wet sock and bottle method seems a pretty good solution but does it work with cans as well?\nI've also read about a wet cloth to wrap around the can and to place it in the sun. Does this work?\nDo any of you have a better way? It needs to be practical and lightweight.\n\nThanks in advance, Reddit!\n",
"How does one chill beer cans while camping at a music festival? Hi Reddit,\n\nThis weekend I will be going to my first music festival of the year. Normally I go to these things with a lot of friends and a car to put stuff in. This time I'll be traveling by train, alone, so I have to pack light. The problem is, I can't find a good way to chill my beer while on the camping site. I've read about a bucket of ice water and salt but I carry a lot of stuff as it is, no more room for a bucket. :) The wet sock and bottle method seems a pretty good solution but does it work with cans as well?\nI've also read about a wet cloth to wrap around the can and to place it in the sun. Does this work?\nDo any of you have a better way? It needs to be practical and lightweight.\n\nThanks in advance, Reddit!\n",
"How does one chill beer cans while camping at a music festival? Hi Reddit,\n\nThis weekend I will be going to my first music festival of the year. Normally I go to these things with a lot of friends and a car to put stuff in. This time I'll be traveling by train, alone, so I have to pack light. The problem is, I can't find a good way to chill my beer while on the camping site. I've read about a bucket of ice water and salt but I carry a lot of stuff as it is, no more room for a bucket. :) The wet sock and bottle method seems a pretty good solution but does it work with cans as well?\nI've also read about a wet cloth to wrap around the can and to place it in the sun. Does this work?\nDo any of you have a better way? It needs to be practical and lightweight.\n\nThanks in advance, Reddit!\n",
"How does one chill beer cans while camping at a music festival? Hi Reddit,\n\nThis weekend I will be going to my first music festival of the year. Normally I go to these things with a lot of friends and a car to put stuff in. This time I'll be traveling by train, alone, so I have to pack light. The problem is, I can't find a good way to chill my beer while on the camping site. I've read about a bucket of ice water and salt but I carry a lot of stuff as it is, no more room for a bucket. :) The wet sock and bottle method seems a pretty good solution but does it work with cans as well?\nI've also read about a wet cloth to wrap around the can and to place it in the sun. Does this work?\nDo any of you have a better way? It needs to be practical and lightweight.\n\nThanks in advance, Reddit!\n",
"How does one chill beer cans while camping at a music festival? Hi Reddit,\n\nThis weekend I will be going to my first music festival of the year. Normally I go to these things with a lot of friends and a car to put stuff in. This time I'll be traveling by train, alone, so I have to pack light. The problem is, I can't find a good way to chill my beer while on the camping site. I've read about a bucket of ice water and salt but I carry a lot of stuff as it is, no more room for a bucket. :) The wet sock and bottle method seems a pretty good solution but does it work with cans as well?\nI've also read about a wet cloth to wrap around the can and to place it in the sun. Does this work?\nDo any of you have a better way? It needs to be practical and lightweight.\n\nThanks in advance, Reddit!\n",
"How does one chill beer cans while camping at a music festival? Hi Reddit,\n\nThis weekend I will be going to my first music festival of the year. Normally I go to these things with a lot of friends and a car to put stuff in. This time I'll be traveling by train, alone, so I have to pack light. The problem is, I can't find a good way to chill my beer while on the camping site. I've read about a bucket of ice water and salt but I carry a lot of stuff as it is, no more room for a bucket. :) The wet sock and bottle method seems a pretty good solution but does it work with cans as well?\nI've also read about a wet cloth to wrap around the can and to place it in the sun. Does this work?\nDo any of you have a better way? It needs to be practical and lightweight.\n\nThanks in advance, Reddit!\n",
"How does one chill beer cans while camping at a music festival? Hi Reddit,\n\nThis weekend I will be going to my first music festival of the year. Normally I go to these things with a lot of friends and a car to put stuff in. This time I'll be traveling by train, alone, so I have to pack light. The problem is, I can't find a good way to chill my beer while on the camping site. I've read about a bucket of ice water and salt but I carry a lot of stuff as it is, no more room for a bucket. :) The wet sock and bottle method seems a pretty good solution but does it work with cans as well?\nI've also read about a wet cloth to wrap around the can and to place it in the sun. Does this work?\nDo any of you have a better way? It needs to be practical and lightweight.\n\nThanks in advance, Reddit!\n"
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"We do this for a festival here in town, everyone usually walks around with backpacks so we line them with a trash bag fill with ice and beer or those plastic things that you freeze over night that are reusable (these work best because you don't have to drain the backpack all the time.).",
"Based on your constraints (no cooler or ice), I say bring a koozie for the beer you're buying at the festival. Oh, and dont nurse that shit.",
"This answer comes to you in 2 parts.\n\n\nPart the first:\n\nBeer actually cools itself down naturally. The compressed gas that carbonates your beverage sucks up some of the heat and will actually cool down your beer by a few degrees as it decompresses once you open it.\n\n\nPart the second:\nIt's a music festival. You don't actually need your beer to be perfect. In fact, you probably *should* be drinking lukewarm beer. It's kinda part of the experience.\n\n\nBonus part:\n\nIf you're really fucking hellbent on cooling your beer down like some sort of petulant child who does not understand how festivals work, maybe get one of those packs that you kind of crack and they cool shit down super fast. You could probably get them in a pharmacy (they're used to help with swelling and stuff) but they're usually pretty costly and single-use.",
"Many festivals with camping have sell blocks of ice. It's normally expensive for ice, but cheap in the grand scheme of a weekend at a festival.",
"Just get some dry ice before you go into the show, drop it in the bottom of your cooler with a towel over it. Don't touch it with your bare hands or you're gonna have a bad time",
"I just resigned myself to it and drank warm beer, you get used to it after the first one. If there is a cold water tap, running a couple under there can get the worst of the heat out. When the sun goes down it doesn't take long before it all cools down. \n\nAn alternative is take spirits, and buy cold mixers like coke when you are there. ",
"You could use the canned air spray used for cleaning computers in conjunction with tupper ware or cooler bag. This method will even work with a bread bag!",
"Stating the obvious but.. Make a Friend there!\nYou're going to a Muusic Festival. I assume other like-minded, beer-drinking enthusiasts are going too. You're not mooching; you're bringing beer! Chill your beer with theirs. Are you planning on speaking to no one, drinking your beer alone, then killing yourself for the finale?",
"Get a bowl\nFill with cold water\nTake your normal kitchen use salt\nPour a generous amount into the bowl of water\nMix the two (bonus if you can drop a tray of ice cubes in the bowl)\nStir for 60 seconds\nChilled like a motherfucker\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H6ncuv3gewI"
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"How to destroy acne. Hey - \n\nOver the past few months I have been trying everything to get rid of this acne. Currently, I wash my face at least twice per day with a 2% salinic acid soap, then use the salinic acid pads, and finish off with the on-the-spot cream. Still doesn't clear it up. Mostly keeps it from developing too much. So reddit, any other ideas that might help?",
"How to destroy acne. Hey - \n\nOver the past few months I have been trying everything to get rid of this acne. Currently, I wash my face at least twice per day with a 2% salinic acid soap, then use the salinic acid pads, and finish off with the on-the-spot cream. Still doesn't clear it up. Mostly keeps it from developing too much. So reddit, any other ideas that might help?",
"How to destroy acne. Hey - \n\nOver the past few months I have been trying everything to get rid of this acne. Currently, I wash my face at least twice per day with a 2% salinic acid soap, then use the salinic acid pads, and finish off with the on-the-spot cream. Still doesn't clear it up. Mostly keeps it from developing too much. So reddit, any other ideas that might help?",
"How to destroy acne. Hey - \n\nOver the past few months I have been trying everything to get rid of this acne. Currently, I wash my face at least twice per day with a 2% salinic acid soap, then use the salinic acid pads, and finish off with the on-the-spot cream. Still doesn't clear it up. Mostly keeps it from developing too much. So reddit, any other ideas that might help?",
"How to destroy acne. Hey - \n\nOver the past few months I have been trying everything to get rid of this acne. Currently, I wash my face at least twice per day with a 2% salinic acid soap, then use the salinic acid pads, and finish off with the on-the-spot cream. Still doesn't clear it up. Mostly keeps it from developing too much. So reddit, any other ideas that might help?",
"How to destroy acne. Hey - \n\nOver the past few months I have been trying everything to get rid of this acne. Currently, I wash my face at least twice per day with a 2% salinic acid soap, then use the salinic acid pads, and finish off with the on-the-spot cream. Still doesn't clear it up. Mostly keeps it from developing too much. So reddit, any other ideas that might help?",
"How to destroy acne. Hey - \n\nOver the past few months I have been trying everything to get rid of this acne. Currently, I wash my face at least twice per day with a 2% salinic acid soap, then use the salinic acid pads, and finish off with the on-the-spot cream. Still doesn't clear it up. Mostly keeps it from developing too much. So reddit, any other ideas that might help?"
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"Hello. I used to break out a lot. I started to drink plenty of water and even though it did not completely clear my skin, it did help a lot. Before i used to drink a lot of sugary drinks and sodas. Other than that just watch what you eat. Sorry if this doesn't helped but it has been working for me. \n\n-",
"Persistent acne that doesn't respond to OTC treatments needs to be looked at by a dermatologist. You might be prescribed Tetracycline or another antibiotic to help reduce the bacteria that cause whiteheads.\n\nAlso, washing too much can aggravate skin and actually cause more acne to develop because your body creates more oil to make up for the oil you've removed.\n\nThere are three known proven and effective OTC acne treatments: benzoyl peroxide, salicylic acid, and sulfur. If one ingredient isn't working, try a different active ingredient.",
"Go see a dermatologist. They know their stuff. Seriously.\n\nOther that that: \n\nDrink a lot of water. A LOT. Healthy food is good, too.\n\nDon't \"overclean\" your face, your skin needs time to relax and regenerate itself from all that scrubbing and acid.\n\nPeelings/exfoliation scrubs (not sure about the vocabulary here). Once or twice a week, they get rid of dead skin particles and open up your pores.\n\nFacials. For real. You can use honey or tootpaste (both are antiseptic) or healing earth, which is what I used to use and which works like magic for many people.\n\nDon't scratch your face! I know it's hard to do, but it stops getting bacteria in the little scratches or spreading the acne further.\n\nGood luck :)",
"Try using a benzoyl peroxide based wash instead. I use [this](http://www.amazon.com/Clean-Clear-Continuous-Control-Cleanser/dp/B001E96LRM) cleanser by Clean & Clear and it works pretty well. Try paying /r/SkincareAddiction a visit too. ",
"Take a one week break from milk, cheese and ice cream. Milk and these milk products contain casein, an inflammatory protein, that accelerates the development of acne.\n\nIf you return to consuming milk products after the end of the week and the acne returns, you may want to consider reducing or eliminating dairy completely. If nothing improves, then it's probably not caused by diet.\n\nSource: I'm a sports nutritionist and I used to have terrible acne",
"If you've ever had problems with dry skin, then it could be that you're sensitive to soaps. When I used a similar product to what you're describing, it would dry out my face, causing additional oil production and increased acne, resulting in a vicious loop. I switched to a soapless face wash (found a cheap one with a pump at Whole Foods) and added jojoba oil for moisturizing afterward (doesn't clog pores), and it's really done a lot for my skin. Good luck!",
"You are a guy? You masterbate too often maybe? Welcome to the world of hormonal imbalance (do a little research, there are many factors). I had a friend's dermatologist suggest he abstain or reduce to like once a week and poof, two weeks later it seemed to 100% stop. I also suggested this to my cousin who was breaking out a lot; his face cleared up as well."
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"How to make my voice less nasally /monotone. This is similar to a recent post about voice strengthening. \n\nI have noticed recently after hearing my voice recorded that my voice sounds extremely nasally and monotone. It sounds fine in my head but apparently not out loud. This is something I'm quite self conscious about and would really like some advice on how to improve my speech and make it more clear. \n\nThanks in advance :)",
"How to make my voice less nasally /monotone. This is similar to a recent post about voice strengthening. \n\nI have noticed recently after hearing my voice recorded that my voice sounds extremely nasally and monotone. It sounds fine in my head but apparently not out loud. This is something I'm quite self conscious about and would really like some advice on how to improve my speech and make it more clear. \n\nThanks in advance :)",
"How to make my voice less nasally /monotone. This is similar to a recent post about voice strengthening. \n\nI have noticed recently after hearing my voice recorded that my voice sounds extremely nasally and monotone. It sounds fine in my head but apparently not out loud. This is something I'm quite self conscious about and would really like some advice on how to improve my speech and make it more clear. \n\nThanks in advance :)"
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"Assuming there's no physical reason you have a nasal voice, an understanding of how voice resonance works will be a good start.\n\nWhen we speak, the sound resonates in a few different areas: your chest and your sinuses are the two major ones. Certain phonetic sounds are by nature 'nasal' sounds including mm, n and Ng (like the end of sing). Say these consonant sounds first and gently place your fingers on your nose, you should feel it vibrate. \n\nWhen you are making other consonant and vowel sounds, you don't want them using the nasal resonance space. Try these vowel sounds: ahh, oo (as in pool) oo (as in book) and or (as in pour). Place one hand on your nose and one on your chest. Where is the vibration occuring mostly? You want to use your chest resonance here and developing this awareness will be a start.\n\nThere are plenty of resonance warm ups you can do to become more aware of how sound is produced and where it is produced. However it would benefit you to receive instruction one on one with a speech/communication teacher.\n\nAs for a monotone voice, an understanding of how to use pitch and inflections for emphasis will be what you're after. Again, this is a huge area and can't be taught overnight or via a huge block of text online. Definitely go see someone or look into a few lessons at least - the fact you want to improve your communication skills is fantastic!\n\nSource: I'm a speech teacher",
"Reading poetry (even Dr Seuss) out loud, trying to differentiate the characters clearly, will solve the monotone problem, and make it easy to practice other things such as diction and pacing, and it is fun. ",
"Nobody likes how their voice sounds when recorded. If you are worried about nasally you could try speaking with your diaphragm."
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"How to start a conversation? So I am a teenager that recently went to High School and I am pretty quiet and shy. I have always been that way but when I was younger I used to have a lot more enthusiasm with my friends. But now, I don't have that type of enthusiasm, however, I may be outgoing around someone who I am more comfortable with(which is very few people). At lunch, I sit with my friends, but recently, since I got in High School, I have been more quiet then ever, and only say very few words when something I relate to comes up, but other then that, I don't talk. And it doesn't help that and that all my friends play sports but I don't and some of my other friends that I was close to don't go to that school(or that don't have lunch with me, my school has 2 lunches btw) But I'm tired of just sitting at lunch and just listening to everybody. So how can I start a conversation with someone? I am trying to be more confident and less shy so I am starting here. Please give me some good advice guys, I really need this. Thanks!",
"How to start a conversation? So I am a teenager that recently went to High School and I am pretty quiet and shy. I have always been that way but when I was younger I used to have a lot more enthusiasm with my friends. But now, I don't have that type of enthusiasm, however, I may be outgoing around someone who I am more comfortable with(which is very few people). At lunch, I sit with my friends, but recently, since I got in High School, I have been more quiet then ever, and only say very few words when something I relate to comes up, but other then that, I don't talk. And it doesn't help that and that all my friends play sports but I don't and some of my other friends that I was close to don't go to that school(or that don't have lunch with me, my school has 2 lunches btw) But I'm tired of just sitting at lunch and just listening to everybody. So how can I start a conversation with someone? I am trying to be more confident and less shy so I am starting here. Please give me some good advice guys, I really need this. Thanks!",
"How to start a conversation? So I am a teenager that recently went to High School and I am pretty quiet and shy. I have always been that way but when I was younger I used to have a lot more enthusiasm with my friends. But now, I don't have that type of enthusiasm, however, I may be outgoing around someone who I am more comfortable with(which is very few people). At lunch, I sit with my friends, but recently, since I got in High School, I have been more quiet then ever, and only say very few words when something I relate to comes up, but other then that, I don't talk. And it doesn't help that and that all my friends play sports but I don't and some of my other friends that I was close to don't go to that school(or that don't have lunch with me, my school has 2 lunches btw) But I'm tired of just sitting at lunch and just listening to everybody. So how can I start a conversation with someone? I am trying to be more confident and less shy so I am starting here. Please give me some good advice guys, I really need this. Thanks!",
"How to start a conversation? So I am a teenager that recently went to High School and I am pretty quiet and shy. I have always been that way but when I was younger I used to have a lot more enthusiasm with my friends. But now, I don't have that type of enthusiasm, however, I may be outgoing around someone who I am more comfortable with(which is very few people). At lunch, I sit with my friends, but recently, since I got in High School, I have been more quiet then ever, and only say very few words when something I relate to comes up, but other then that, I don't talk. And it doesn't help that and that all my friends play sports but I don't and some of my other friends that I was close to don't go to that school(or that don't have lunch with me, my school has 2 lunches btw) But I'm tired of just sitting at lunch and just listening to everybody. So how can I start a conversation with someone? I am trying to be more confident and less shy so I am starting here. Please give me some good advice guys, I really need this. Thanks!",
"How to start a conversation? So I am a teenager that recently went to High School and I am pretty quiet and shy. I have always been that way but when I was younger I used to have a lot more enthusiasm with my friends. But now, I don't have that type of enthusiasm, however, I may be outgoing around someone who I am more comfortable with(which is very few people). At lunch, I sit with my friends, but recently, since I got in High School, I have been more quiet then ever, and only say very few words when something I relate to comes up, but other then that, I don't talk. And it doesn't help that and that all my friends play sports but I don't and some of my other friends that I was close to don't go to that school(or that don't have lunch with me, my school has 2 lunches btw) But I'm tired of just sitting at lunch and just listening to everybody. So how can I start a conversation with someone? I am trying to be more confident and less shy so I am starting here. Please give me some good advice guys, I really need this. Thanks!",
"How to start a conversation? So I am a teenager that recently went to High School and I am pretty quiet and shy. I have always been that way but when I was younger I used to have a lot more enthusiasm with my friends. But now, I don't have that type of enthusiasm, however, I may be outgoing around someone who I am more comfortable with(which is very few people). At lunch, I sit with my friends, but recently, since I got in High School, I have been more quiet then ever, and only say very few words when something I relate to comes up, but other then that, I don't talk. And it doesn't help that and that all my friends play sports but I don't and some of my other friends that I was close to don't go to that school(or that don't have lunch with me, my school has 2 lunches btw) But I'm tired of just sitting at lunch and just listening to everybody. So how can I start a conversation with someone? I am trying to be more confident and less shy so I am starting here. Please give me some good advice guys, I really need this. Thanks!"
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"OP, people are trying to give you suggestions about what to say and you're rejecting them. This is exactly why it's hard to approach others for you. If you overthink it, you're more likely to not talk to the person and instead remain in your little bubble of friends, whom you feel comfortable with. These people you want to talk to are flawed just like you, and if you make an awkward intro just laugh it off and keep talking whenever. I'm most impressed when people just come up to me, shake my hand, introduce themselves and see something around us to start a conversation over. Sure you don't have to talk about pets, or how the weather is, but there's never a right way to talk to someone. Just walk over to somebody and figure it out from there.",
"Ask questions. People love to talk about themselves and will walk away from a conversation thinking you are a good listener and will want to talk to you again. How have you been? What's on your mind? How did you do on....? ",
"Don't focus so much on starting the conversation. Instead, think about how you can elaborate or add to something that's going on. You don't have to come up with 'interesting' quips or facts or anything, just ask others questions or their opinion. You can follow that up with asking *why* they think or feel that way. Then share your opinion / experience. Think about what you want people to know about you, and ask questions that pertain to that. That way it's easier to share your side once they've commented or responded to you. Conversations are much more involved than just simply starting one!",
"Pets. That works for me, but i might not be the best one to take social advice from because i have Aspergers. ",
"I've struggled with this for a long time. And I still have trouble sometimes with strangers. But strangers are almost easier because it's a blank slate.\n\nStrangers:\n1)Are you from around here?\n2)What brings you here? & How long have you lived here?\n3)What do you do? How do you like it?\n4) Any hobbies?\n5) Where do you like to eat out?\n6) What part of town you live in? How do you like it?\n\nThen once you get past the pedigree questions:\n1) See any good movies lately?\n2) Hear any good music lately?\n3) Where would you like to travel?\n4) Any good beer/liquor/food recommendations?\n\nThen when you are feeling brazen and actually want to learn more:\n1) Are you religious?\n2) How do you feel about scientology?\n3) What's something you've always wanted to do but never got around to?\n4) What's your biggest regret?\n5) What was your biggest achievement?\n6) How would you like to spend your retirement?\n7)What would you do with 1 million dollars\n8) (Come to think of it, just browse r/Askreddit and ask people those questions.)\n\nI've found that when you start asking off the wall questions people really open up and will just share shit with you. If it's something they never get asked or rarely get asked they will be grateful for the curiosity and will return it wth a good convo. People often have all kinds of stuff that that they would love to share with people they are just waiting to be prompted. Good luck kid. Stop giving a fuck. And seriously just ask people anything that you want to know about them. They will talk. I used to be just like you. Just ask people shit.",
"Always easy to start with generic shared things, \"Oh how was your weekend?\" \"Ugh mondays\", complain about the teacher or an assignment. For girls compliment their eyebrows/length of their lashes (might come off flirty) for guys compliment their shoes."
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"How to keep car safe in hail storm without garage just looking for anyones idea on how to keep the dents away :( its too late for my car (got hit last night) but maybe you can help someone else",
"How to keep car safe in hail storm without garage just looking for anyones idea on how to keep the dents away :( its too late for my car (got hit last night) but maybe you can help someone else",
"How to keep car safe in hail storm without garage just looking for anyones idea on how to keep the dents away :( its too late for my car (got hit last night) but maybe you can help someone else",
"How to keep car safe in hail storm without garage just looking for anyones idea on how to keep the dents away :( its too late for my car (got hit last night) but maybe you can help someone else",
"How to keep car safe in hail storm without garage just looking for anyones idea on how to keep the dents away :( its too late for my car (got hit last night) but maybe you can help someone else",
"How to keep car safe in hail storm without garage just looking for anyones idea on how to keep the dents away :( its too late for my car (got hit last night) but maybe you can help someone else"
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"Why worry about it? All those little dents make your car go faster and reduce gas consumption - look at a golf ball.\n\nThe first thing I do with a new car is look for a hailstorm.",
"Ive seen people cover their cars with thick comforters then use straps and bungee cords to keep it tied down.",
"Whilst a little expensive, you can buy car covers which can protect during storms (the higher end ones are hail proof too). I purchased a basic one recently and it works amazingly! It has clips which run under the car so it doesn't blow off the car. Something like this: https://automotivesuperstore.com.au/autotecnica-hail-protection-car-covers-35\n\nAlternatively, buy a gazebo - but it'll require a bit of effort whenever you want to set it up and needs to be securely tied down",
"If you know the storm is coming, drive your car to a parking garage or a gas station with a canopy. You also could drive your car into a carwash without paying for a carwash and sit there until the storm passes. People usually will not pay for a carwash in pouring rain.",
"Had a friend buy a hot tub that was going to sit outside without a roof over it. He cut a piece of Plexiglas to secure over the hot tub cover when hail was being forecast. Eliminates the worry about the wood getting wet and losing protective abilities ",
"Best answer was mentioned. Moving blankets and tie downs to keep in place. If you think the hail will be bigger than a nickel then you could add another blanket but one should do for most common sized hail."
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"How to make pets get along. I take care of a 2 year old golden retriever and three 10-12(ish, honestly, I've lost track) year old Maltese. One of the Maltese gets along fine, but the other two hate him. Are they just doomed to hate each other for another couple years, or is there a way that they could get along/make them not fight each other? Are the Maltese just going to be the feisty old couple that's always disagreeing with the young'n?",
"How to make pets get along. I take care of a 2 year old golden retriever and three 10-12(ish, honestly, I've lost track) year old Maltese. One of the Maltese gets along fine, but the other two hate him. Are they just doomed to hate each other for another couple years, or is there a way that they could get along/make them not fight each other? Are the Maltese just going to be the feisty old couple that's always disagreeing with the young'n?",
"How to make pets get along. I take care of a 2 year old golden retriever and three 10-12(ish, honestly, I've lost track) year old Maltese. One of the Maltese gets along fine, but the other two hate him. Are they just doomed to hate each other for another couple years, or is there a way that they could get along/make them not fight each other? Are the Maltese just going to be the feisty old couple that's always disagreeing with the young'n?",
"How to make pets get along. I take care of a 2 year old golden retriever and three 10-12(ish, honestly, I've lost track) year old Maltese. One of the Maltese gets along fine, but the other two hate him. Are they just doomed to hate each other for another couple years, or is there a way that they could get along/make them not fight each other? Are the Maltese just going to be the feisty old couple that's always disagreeing with the young'n?"
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"Get them together, then direct their attention elsewhere. For example get them both a bone and have them chew on their bones next to each other, that way they are getting used to the other dogs presence in a controlled environment, and have their attention on something more important than the other dog.",
"Do you walk them together? When you all travel in a pack, they bond. Every walk reinforces that they are part of a pack. (From ceasar milan, ceasarsway.com)",
"There's an actual way to do this. Research veterinarian approved method to introduce pets to each other. Idk the name of the method or details, but a close friend is a vet and I can tell you this is one of her most common issues people come in with, thinking they can just put two pets together and they'll just learn to get along. Doesn't usually work that way. Don't just guess at it, there's a reason why it's not working. ",
"Set up a pet wedding. Then later a pet divorce. People find it easier to tolerate a persons existence with some space. The same is true for dogs and most cats. *not Maine coon tho"
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"ways to handle arthritic hands and fingers. I've been to the doctor about this, but one told me to exercise it and stretch them more. But the other told me to put it in a brace and to let it rest and not to exercise it more. \n",
"ways to handle arthritic hands and fingers. I've been to the doctor about this, but one told me to exercise it and stretch them more. But the other told me to put it in a brace and to let it rest and not to exercise it more. \n",
"ways to handle arthritic hands and fingers. I've been to the doctor about this, but one told me to exercise it and stretch them more. But the other told me to put it in a brace and to let it rest and not to exercise it more. \n",
"ways to handle arthritic hands and fingers. I've been to the doctor about this, but one told me to exercise it and stretch them more. But the other told me to put it in a brace and to let it rest and not to exercise it more. \n"
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"These chondroitin and glucosamine work really well. I use and swear by *Joint Juice*, a product that contains those ingredients. Two days and my hands were near normal.",
"An old boss of mine used to say that juniper berries were good for arthritis.\n\nJuniper Berries are also used in making gin.\n\nSo his preferred method was to soak raisins in gin. Then eat a handful every day.\n\nHe and some of the others around the shop said it worked well (probably not just the alcohol). Don't have arthritis so can't confirm. But it's cheap and mostly natural.",
"Short term use only-there is nothing better than prednisone. \n\nDangerous medicine to take long term, sadly. \n\nI took some for a sinus inflammation and the next day it was like someone tapped my thumbs with a magic wand. ",
"I would warm the hands with a heating pad, smoke some weed (for the inflammation), and be cautious on how you use your hands. \nI have arthritis in my neck, lower back, shoulders, and elbows, from work. A hot bath helps. Weed helps with pain and inflammation for me. I am always aware of how I have to lift things and how I have to execute certain body movements, like carrying pipe over my head, and lifting material. "
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"When do you initiate eye contact when you're approaching someone else in a long hallway with nobody else around? ",
"When do you initiate eye contact when you're approaching someone else in a long hallway with nobody else around? ",
"When do you initiate eye contact when you're approaching someone else in a long hallway with nobody else around? ",
"When do you initiate eye contact when you're approaching someone else in a long hallway with nobody else around? ",
"When do you initiate eye contact when you're approaching someone else in a long hallway with nobody else around? ",
"When do you initiate eye contact when you're approaching someone else in a long hallway with nobody else around? ",
"When do you initiate eye contact when you're approaching someone else in a long hallway with nobody else around? "
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"Make immediate eye contact while marking your territory in the hallway. Don't break eye contact until they look away. Need to show your dominance in these situations. ",
"Man/man? Man/woman?\n\nTwo men; You make split second eye contact right away to show you're aware of them approaching.\n\nThen you watch where you're going, the horizon, traffic, whatever as you approach to show you're not afraid of them or hunting them.\n\nWhen you're within 1-2 metres you make another split second contact. Either with a disinterested expression or a small head nod.\n\n",
"You're 15-20 seconds away from crossing paths with someone who you barely know/don't know, do you look at your phone, the floor, through them past them, at them? ",
"Personally I initiate eye contact as early as possible, then maintain it until they break eye contact with me. Then I look away and carry on with my day.\n",
"Look where you would normally look and if your eyes happen to meet, smile and nod. It's only weird when you overthink it or pointedly avoid looking at them",
"You don't...just pull out your phone as you're getting closer. Why would you engage in unnecessary human interaction? =p",
"Usually about 5 seconds before we're due to pass each other, or basically when in comfortable speaking range. Smile, nod, or say \"Heya\" and smile. "
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"Fixing sleep cycle So I have a problem with my sleep schedule right now. For the past months I have been going to sleep at around 7:30am. The problem is that soon I have to wake up at 7:30am, not sleep at it! I would really appreciate some effective methods and tips that could help me get my sleep cycle sorted, preferably within a few days.",
"Fixing sleep cycle So I have a problem with my sleep schedule right now. For the past months I have been going to sleep at around 7:30am. The problem is that soon I have to wake up at 7:30am, not sleep at it! I would really appreciate some effective methods and tips that could help me get my sleep cycle sorted, preferably within a few days.",
"Fixing sleep cycle So I have a problem with my sleep schedule right now. For the past months I have been going to sleep at around 7:30am. The problem is that soon I have to wake up at 7:30am, not sleep at it! I would really appreciate some effective methods and tips that could help me get my sleep cycle sorted, preferably within a few days.",
"Fixing sleep cycle So I have a problem with my sleep schedule right now. For the past months I have been going to sleep at around 7:30am. The problem is that soon I have to wake up at 7:30am, not sleep at it! I would really appreciate some effective methods and tips that could help me get my sleep cycle sorted, preferably within a few days.",
"Fixing sleep cycle So I have a problem with my sleep schedule right now. For the past months I have been going to sleep at around 7:30am. The problem is that soon I have to wake up at 7:30am, not sleep at it! I would really appreciate some effective methods and tips that could help me get my sleep cycle sorted, preferably within a few days.",
"Fixing sleep cycle So I have a problem with my sleep schedule right now. For the past months I have been going to sleep at around 7:30am. The problem is that soon I have to wake up at 7:30am, not sleep at it! I would really appreciate some effective methods and tips that could help me get my sleep cycle sorted, preferably within a few days."
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"Stay up right through your regular cycle and then take melatonin <3 mg. That's less than 3 mg, not heart mg. <1 if you can find it. More melatonin is not better. \n\nThen take melatonin again the next day at the same time. Keep doing that until the new cycle is established. Then you can stop taking the melatonin.",
"I think it helps to focus your goals around when you wake up rather than when you go to sleep. Start setting an alarm earlier and stick to it. Fixing your schedule is about having the will to wake up on time rather than falling asleep on time. You might have a few nights of struggles if you are too aggressive about it, but the best way to fall asleep at a given time is to wake up about 16 hours before it. \n\nSource: aside from my own experiments with being nocturnal, my father was an ER doc who worked 12 hour shifts with constant fluctuations between AM and PM hours and HAD to reset his clock once or twice a month.",
"I used to switch between day shift and night shift every 2 or 3 weeks. Easiest way I found is to stay awake for a long time. Wake up when you wake up, stay awake all night in your case, then force yourself to stay awake all day until the time you want to start going to sleep. If you can stay awake the whole time, you shouldn't have any problems falling asleep at your new bedtime. If you do, pop a melatonin or something. It's best to do it when you have a day or two before you have to start your new sleep cycle because it can take a day or two to recover from 24 hours without sleep",
"Try a powernap half way during your awake period, with two bedtimes per day it may be easier to move them an hour at a time until you have one setup, and than drop the other bedtime",
"Keep in mind that if you have ADHD or some other form of neurodivergency then some advice won’t necessarily work. Many people with ADHD sleep better with stimulants such as caffeine",
"Best bet would be some sort of sleep aid to get you going. Like melatonin or unisom. Melatonin is a natural sleep aid. Take it around 9 or 10 pm. You would only have to take it until you get in the habit of going to bed at night"
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"How to get rid of ants without poison So my fiance and I have an apartment together along with our cat and puppy. I was wondering if y'all had any tips to get rid of the ants that are roaming our kitchen and bedroom without using traps or poison or anything our pets can get into. We keep a relatively clean living space but if we don't do dishes within about an hour or so of making dinner we have a swarm on the counter. Thanks :-)",
"How to get rid of ants without poison So my fiance and I have an apartment together along with our cat and puppy. I was wondering if y'all had any tips to get rid of the ants that are roaming our kitchen and bedroom without using traps or poison or anything our pets can get into. We keep a relatively clean living space but if we don't do dishes within about an hour or so of making dinner we have a swarm on the counter. Thanks :-)",
"How to get rid of ants without poison So my fiance and I have an apartment together along with our cat and puppy. I was wondering if y'all had any tips to get rid of the ants that are roaming our kitchen and bedroom without using traps or poison or anything our pets can get into. We keep a relatively clean living space but if we don't do dishes within about an hour or so of making dinner we have a swarm on the counter. Thanks :-)",
"How to get rid of ants without poison So my fiance and I have an apartment together along with our cat and puppy. I was wondering if y'all had any tips to get rid of the ants that are roaming our kitchen and bedroom without using traps or poison or anything our pets can get into. We keep a relatively clean living space but if we don't do dishes within about an hour or so of making dinner we have a swarm on the counter. Thanks :-)",
"How to get rid of ants without poison So my fiance and I have an apartment together along with our cat and puppy. I was wondering if y'all had any tips to get rid of the ants that are roaming our kitchen and bedroom without using traps or poison or anything our pets can get into. We keep a relatively clean living space but if we don't do dishes within about an hour or so of making dinner we have a swarm on the counter. Thanks :-)",
"How to get rid of ants without poison So my fiance and I have an apartment together along with our cat and puppy. I was wondering if y'all had any tips to get rid of the ants that are roaming our kitchen and bedroom without using traps or poison or anything our pets can get into. We keep a relatively clean living space but if we don't do dishes within about an hour or so of making dinner we have a swarm on the counter. Thanks :-)"
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"[Food grade Diatomaceous earth](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diatomaceous_earth#Pest_control). Safe and easy to use. Non-toxic to humans and pets.",
"Windex. Spray the areas you see them in with Windex. It is important to leave the dead ones there for a day or so. The ants won't go where the \"see\" their dead comrades. At least it worked for me. I also used caulking putty to seal up any cracks the ants are coming in through.",
"Salt is an effective deterrent. I had a horde coming in through a crack near the front door and poured in some salt and they're gone.\n\nI also have cats and I worry about them playing with the baits. I took the idea of a stink bug trap and made it into a cat friendly ant trap. Take an empty plastic soda bottle, remove the cap, and cut the top third of the bottle off. Drop the ant bait in the bottom. Take the top of the bottle, turn it upside down and place it on top of the bottom of the bottle (the tapered top fits inside neatly) and tape it in place. [Pic](http://bittelmethis.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/Homemade_Stinkbug_Trap.png). Now the kitties can't get directly at the bait but the ants can get in. \n\nThis probably isn't puppy safe so put it high up where the puppy can't reach it. I imagine a puppy safe version would be a glass pickle jar with a metal lid. Punch holes in the metal lid with a nail.\n\nTerro ant baits are supposed to be the best.",
"I saw that you asked for a non-poisonous answer, but if your pets are your only concern, you should consider this.\n\nThe best way I know is to use an ant bait placed somewhere inaccessible by pets or children.\n\nThese [Terro Ant Bait Traps](http://www.terro.com/store/ants/terro-liquid-ant-baits-2-pack) are small and easy to use. I assume there are also others available, but these have always worked for us.\n\nPut the trap under your kitchen sink, or on top of the cabinets. Anywhere that an ant can get to, but your pets can't. No matter where you put it the ants will find it within a day or two, and then after another day or two they'll be gone for the season.\n\nI live in area with a big sweet ant problem, and everyone I've told about this has said it worked.",
"BAY LEAFS!!!! crumble up bay leafs ( the kind you put into soup ) and sprinkle that shit. you only need to do it for a week and they will never return. ",
"Start saving bottle caps. Mix up fifty/fifty Icing sugar and borax. put the caps around the house in out of the way places. corners, under cupboards, behind the toaster.\n\nThe ants take it back to their nest and it slowly kills them. Harmless to anyone without an exoskeleton. (Put them away if Iron man is coming over for dinner)"
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"How to know if the Wasabi you're eating is real or imitation I've read that since Wasabi is really expensive, restaurants usually use a fake one, and I want to know how to differ them.",
"How to know if the Wasabi you're eating is real or imitation I've read that since Wasabi is really expensive, restaurants usually use a fake one, and I want to know how to differ them.",
"How to know if the Wasabi you're eating is real or imitation I've read that since Wasabi is really expensive, restaurants usually use a fake one, and I want to know how to differ them.",
"How to know if the Wasabi you're eating is real or imitation I've read that since Wasabi is really expensive, restaurants usually use a fake one, and I want to know how to differ them.",
"How to know if the Wasabi you're eating is real or imitation I've read that since Wasabi is really expensive, restaurants usually use a fake one, and I want to know how to differ them.",
"How to know if the Wasabi you're eating is real or imitation I've read that since Wasabi is really expensive, restaurants usually use a fake one, and I want to know how to differ them.",
"How to know if the Wasabi you're eating is real or imitation I've read that since Wasabi is really expensive, restaurants usually use a fake one, and I want to know how to differ them."
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"LPT: it's fake.\n\nThis is literally a _pro_ tip because I'm a professional chef and I worked in serious restaurants in NYC for years. There are a scant handful of very high-end places in Manhattan that import actual wasabi root and grate it themselves. I've heard it's somewhat more common on the west coast but still pretty rare.\n\nBasically if you're paying less than $150 or so per head it's fake. Anyway when you have some, you'll know. The texture, flavor and color are different enough that most people familiar with the common stuff will notice the difference.",
"You've probably never had it unless you eat at really high-end places (I haven't). If it's that typical green color, it's just horseradish dyed green. Real wasabi loses it's flavor 15 minutes after being grated also, so, there's that.",
"[In the United States, true wasabi is generally found only at specialty grocers and high-end restaurants](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wasabi#True_wasabi_and_western_wasabi)",
"On a related note, you can actually grow Wasabi yourself. It isn't as hard to grow as you might be led to believe. Check out Richter's herb company.",
"I've been told by a wasabi farmer in BC that you can tell the real stuff from an imitation by the heat it leaves on your tongue. If you find the sensation is on the tip of your tongue than you are eating imitation wasabi; if the heat is at the back of your tongue than it is genuine. \nI have noticed this with other food, but would have to take his word for it with real wasabi though.",
"Forgive the shameless plug for my blog, but I did a short article on the difference: http://www.dashingman.com/?p=67\n\nBasically, fake wasabi burns your tongue when you eat it. The real stuff doesn't do that, and turns a little sweet towards the end of a bite. But you'll feel both in your sinuses.",
"wasabi powder also comes into the mix as well.\nhttp://www.gourmetshopper.com.au/shop/product.php?productid=9705&cat=0&page=1"
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"How to deal with an airline that loses your luggage? Little backstory: Flew with Aer Lingus from Dublin to London for a connecting flight to New York with American Airlines on January 4th. When we landed in New York we found out that 85 or so checked bags did not make it onto the flight for New York. \n\nFor the last few days AA has said that the bag was with their delivery service and that they were backed up, but my bag should arrive soon. \n\nNow, on January 9th, AA is telling me that my bag is most likely in some Port Authority warehouse (because JFK is operated by the Port Authority), but they're not sure, and that it might be lost. \n\nWhat is the best way to handle this situation? If they find my bag is there any way to get compensated for them losing my bag for so long? Or, if the bag never shows up what is my recourse?\n\n",
"How to deal with an airline that loses your luggage? Little backstory: Flew with Aer Lingus from Dublin to London for a connecting flight to New York with American Airlines on January 4th. When we landed in New York we found out that 85 or so checked bags did not make it onto the flight for New York. \n\nFor the last few days AA has said that the bag was with their delivery service and that they were backed up, but my bag should arrive soon. \n\nNow, on January 9th, AA is telling me that my bag is most likely in some Port Authority warehouse (because JFK is operated by the Port Authority), but they're not sure, and that it might be lost. \n\nWhat is the best way to handle this situation? If they find my bag is there any way to get compensated for them losing my bag for so long? Or, if the bag never shows up what is my recourse?\n\n",
"How to deal with an airline that loses your luggage? Little backstory: Flew with Aer Lingus from Dublin to London for a connecting flight to New York with American Airlines on January 4th. When we landed in New York we found out that 85 or so checked bags did not make it onto the flight for New York. \n\nFor the last few days AA has said that the bag was with their delivery service and that they were backed up, but my bag should arrive soon. \n\nNow, on January 9th, AA is telling me that my bag is most likely in some Port Authority warehouse (because JFK is operated by the Port Authority), but they're not sure, and that it might be lost. \n\nWhat is the best way to handle this situation? If they find my bag is there any way to get compensated for them losing my bag for so long? Or, if the bag never shows up what is my recourse?\n\n",
"How to deal with an airline that loses your luggage? Little backstory: Flew with Aer Lingus from Dublin to London for a connecting flight to New York with American Airlines on January 4th. When we landed in New York we found out that 85 or so checked bags did not make it onto the flight for New York. \n\nFor the last few days AA has said that the bag was with their delivery service and that they were backed up, but my bag should arrive soon. \n\nNow, on January 9th, AA is telling me that my bag is most likely in some Port Authority warehouse (because JFK is operated by the Port Authority), but they're not sure, and that it might be lost. \n\nWhat is the best way to handle this situation? If they find my bag is there any way to get compensated for them losing my bag for so long? Or, if the bag never shows up what is my recourse?\n\n",
"How to deal with an airline that loses your luggage? Little backstory: Flew with Aer Lingus from Dublin to London for a connecting flight to New York with American Airlines on January 4th. When we landed in New York we found out that 85 or so checked bags did not make it onto the flight for New York. \n\nFor the last few days AA has said that the bag was with their delivery service and that they were backed up, but my bag should arrive soon. \n\nNow, on January 9th, AA is telling me that my bag is most likely in some Port Authority warehouse (because JFK is operated by the Port Authority), but they're not sure, and that it might be lost. \n\nWhat is the best way to handle this situation? If they find my bag is there any way to get compensated for them losing my bag for so long? Or, if the bag never shows up what is my recourse?\n\n",
"How to deal with an airline that loses your luggage? Little backstory: Flew with Aer Lingus from Dublin to London for a connecting flight to New York with American Airlines on January 4th. When we landed in New York we found out that 85 or so checked bags did not make it onto the flight for New York. \n\nFor the last few days AA has said that the bag was with their delivery service and that they were backed up, but my bag should arrive soon. \n\nNow, on January 9th, AA is telling me that my bag is most likely in some Port Authority warehouse (because JFK is operated by the Port Authority), but they're not sure, and that it might be lost. \n\nWhat is the best way to handle this situation? If they find my bag is there any way to get compensated for them losing my bag for so long? Or, if the bag never shows up what is my recourse?\n\n"
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"Calmly. The person at the baggage service office, or the person you are talking to on the phone isn't the person who lost your bag.\n\nYou may want to refer to Section IX of the American Airlines CONDITIONS OF CARRIAGE\n\n[Baggage: Liability, Legal Action, Missing Items, Loss/Delay, Damaged, Claims](http://www.aa.com/i18n/customerService/customerCommitment/conditionsOfCarriage.jsp?anchorLocation=DirectURL&title=conditionsofcarriage#BagLiability)",
"Take several photos of your bags-it helps.\nBe very polite to the person helping you. Helping you is what you want.\n\nLots of cr",
"Read the airline's policies carefully. Some airlines will reimburse $X for X number of days for essential items that you had to purchase that were missing in your bag. If they never find it, there will be a set dollar amount they can reimburse you for - bag + contents. It will be easier to get a larger amount in voucher form, so if you fly a lot you could try to go that route. ",
"I knew a guy that would UPS his stuff before he left for his parents house and back. It always got there. He also bought underwear and socks as needed where ever he was. He only carried a hand held bag. A bit expensive but if you time it right it works. Not a fix but a tip.",
"First off good luck, this was the worst experience with my travels last summer. And second, most importantly, stay calm and get everything they need sent verified mail. Keep a copy of every move you and they make for your records and submit everything on time. It can be quite a hassle"
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"How to stop eating so fast Every time I consciously try and eat slow and enjoy my meal, I zone out, and the next thing I know my food is gone. How can I control this?",
"How to stop eating so fast Every time I consciously try and eat slow and enjoy my meal, I zone out, and the next thing I know my food is gone. How can I control this?",
"How to stop eating so fast Every time I consciously try and eat slow and enjoy my meal, I zone out, and the next thing I know my food is gone. How can I control this?",
"How to stop eating so fast Every time I consciously try and eat slow and enjoy my meal, I zone out, and the next thing I know my food is gone. How can I control this?",
"How to stop eating so fast Every time I consciously try and eat slow and enjoy my meal, I zone out, and the next thing I know my food is gone. How can I control this?",
"How to stop eating so fast Every time I consciously try and eat slow and enjoy my meal, I zone out, and the next thing I know my food is gone. How can I control this?",
"How to stop eating so fast Every time I consciously try and eat slow and enjoy my meal, I zone out, and the next thing I know my food is gone. How can I control this?"
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"* Try putting your fork/spoon down between bites.\n* Or taking a sip of water\n* Count how much you chew and try and increase the number of chews\n* Practice mindfulness: experience your food with each of your senses. If you were going to describe what you are experiencing, what would you say?",
"Don't eat while doing other things, like watching TV, listening to music, or reading. Just eat. Be mindful of what you're eating - focus on the tastes and how you feel. If you eat a few spoonfuls of potatoes, but don't want any more - don't feel obligated to be a member of the Clean Plate Club. Just move on to the peas or whatever you have. When you feel 'satisfied' (not 'full'), sit for a moment and record in your brain how it feels. Relax. Enjoy the meal!",
"Try using smaller cutlery which will make you scoop up more food each time and lengthen the time it takes to eat.",
"Take smaller bites and chew more. Should help you eat less and slower. It may be hard at the beginning, but it's worth getting used to.",
"Practice. In fact at first maybe just practice being mindful of your eating, and try to make that a habit before you combine it with deliberate alteration of your eating style.\n\nAnd while you're paying attention, try to figure out what your binge-triggers are, where your minimum-satiation point* is etc. Personally, I've found that I can control my eating pretty well up to the satiation point, and even approaching \"full\", but if I push myself even a few bites beyond that it triggers me to start shovelling in the rest of the food on my plate until I'm \"stuffed\".\n\n\n(* as in another recent post, the point when you first stop feeling hungry, rather than when you feel \"full\").",
"I dish out my dinner on a plate and then cut down the middle and place half on another plate. Eat one half now, and the other in an hour.",
"> and the next thing I know \n\nDon't bullshit yourself. You know exactly what you are doing, but are deciding not to care about it. And afterwards you feel guilty. Kinda like girls getting drunk at a party and regretting it the next day."
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"How to use up a bunch of gift cards with a few dollars on them. My wife gets pre-loaded debit gifts cards from her work as a bonus or reward once in a while so we end up with a bunch of cards with only a few dollars on them. I know I *can* pay with a hand full of them anywhere but I don't really want to be *that* guy using 12 different cards to pay for lunch. \n\nAny good tricks or tips? Perhaps a way to roll them all into one? ",
"How to use up a bunch of gift cards with a few dollars on them. My wife gets pre-loaded debit gifts cards from her work as a bonus or reward once in a while so we end up with a bunch of cards with only a few dollars on them. I know I *can* pay with a hand full of them anywhere but I don't really want to be *that* guy using 12 different cards to pay for lunch. \n\nAny good tricks or tips? Perhaps a way to roll them all into one? ",
"How to use up a bunch of gift cards with a few dollars on them. My wife gets pre-loaded debit gifts cards from her work as a bonus or reward once in a while so we end up with a bunch of cards with only a few dollars on them. I know I *can* pay with a hand full of them anywhere but I don't really want to be *that* guy using 12 different cards to pay for lunch. \n\nAny good tricks or tips? Perhaps a way to roll them all into one? ",
"How to use up a bunch of gift cards with a few dollars on them. My wife gets pre-loaded debit gifts cards from her work as a bonus or reward once in a while so we end up with a bunch of cards with only a few dollars on them. I know I *can* pay with a hand full of them anywhere but I don't really want to be *that* guy using 12 different cards to pay for lunch. \n\nAny good tricks or tips? Perhaps a way to roll them all into one? "
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"You don't want to be a jerk, but you can actually help someone that is learning the registers get better. \nFind something you want that will come out to a little bit more than the total on all the cards. \nGo in early in the morning on a day that is usually less busy. \nAsk for a manager and say to them \"*Does anyone need register practice? I'm in no rush.*\" \nAs long as you don't act like an ass when things go wrong, everyone will be happy.",
"A lot of places have apps/online accounts now for their gift cards. Just load the remaining balance on to the app or just use them online. In the future, just save the gift cards when both of you eat (bigger balance....use up all of the value) or give them away as gifts. ",
"my brother is a musician and he tells people if you don't have change/cash for a tip, he'll take partially used gift cards",
"I had that problem with a few walmart gift cards like that but I went on the website and made a account added to buy a few used video games or books"
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"How can you tell if a mango is ripe at a store? I know how to find good pineapples (and now good cantaloupes) but not mangoes. Anyone know?",
"How can you tell if a mango is ripe at a store? I know how to find good pineapples (and now good cantaloupes) but not mangoes. Anyone know?"
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"LPT: If you buy it, and it's not ripe, cut it up and put it in a Ziploc with salt and pepper, shake it up, and enjoy! Surprisingly good way that we eat it here in the Dominican Republic.",
"Give it a slight squeeze. If it gives slightly, it is ripe. You can also smell the stem, if it has a fruity aroma it is ripe. Don't rely on the colour, a green/yellow mango can be just as ripe as a red/orange one!"
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"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment.",
"How to calm down? (anxiety) Anxiety is causing my heart to beat like crazy evem when i'm just sitting down. I can't go to a doctor because where i live healthcare is not great to say the least, but i also can't walk around with 100 bpm all day.\n\nSo what are your tips for calming down and being at peace in the moment."
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"Find your breath then 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding.\n\nCall out 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 taste, 1 smell.",
"If breathing exercises are your thing I recommend the 4-7-8 pattern. Inhale for 4 seconds, hold the breath for 7 seconds, then exhale for 8 seconds. This is supposed to have a biological reset effect of the parasympathetic nervous system which can help with anxiety and lower your heart rate. Works wonders for my partner and I when we're getting to that level of anxiety. \nOtherwise, I would recommend finding an activity/action that you can do anywhere that is soothing to you. Some people like to pet their facial hair or have their head rubbed. I've also found that a quick firm-but-light massage on the base of the skull where the neck muscles connect can help loosen the area and provide a little more physical relief for the anxiety.",
"My Nana used to tell me to \"smell the roses, blow out the candle.\" I never understood it was a breathing exercise until I was much older.",
"Long time sufferer of anxiety. Here’s a couple of things that have been quicker for me. \n\nFirst one is box/square breathing. Game changer in the moment and several armed forces branches teach it for lowering your heart rate and calming down in the moment. \n\nPersonally, CBD has helped me a ton as well. I use it to calm myself down a bit and relax before bed. Not a medical professional and I was a total skeptic before I started using it but the impact on my sleep and life was drastic and almost immediate. \n\nLong term: my anxiety comes often from being overwhelmed by my to do list. In order to get through things on bad days or during a depressive episode, I have a pretty set system. If something takes <5min, I do it immediately, if it takes <15-30min, I do it that day. If it takes more than that, I block time to take care of it that week. Has helped with productivity and reduced anxiety. \n\nLong comment but I hope this helps!",
"Sitting quietly and taking three deep breaths, count to 6 inhale, count to 8 exhale. It’s proven to lower anxiety",
"I write down all the things that’s causing me anxiety, then schedule which I can deal with easily, which I still have time to postpone and which I cannot change. \n\nFor things I cannot change, I think about if I can avoid it or changing how I feel about it. \n\nIf you have clinical anxiety, this may not help you much and you will need professional help. I find that exercise helps and having projects to do helps take your mind off things.",
"“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.\"\n\n​\n\nalways helps me",
"Name as many fruits as you can think of. Then veggies. Then animals.\n\nAlso check out progressive muscle relaxation.",
"1) you can walk around with a heart rate at 100. It’s a bit uncomfortable, but nothing bad is going to happen.\n\n2) deep breathing works\n\n3) addressing the actual cause of anxiety, but that may be something you need to do with a mental health professional.",
"Vagus nerve exercises to calm! They provide a faster response to physical symptoms for me and then my brain will focus and calm down too. Humming, massaging areas in the pinna of the ear, around the ear, breathing exercises rotating breaths through nostril, massaging down from ear to clavicle.",
"To add to what others are saying, make sure you are not having an arrhythmia (heart problem) that’s unrelated to your anxiety.",
"There are anxiety relief apps. You can also ground your thoughts 5 things you see, 4 things you touch, 3 things you hear, 2 things you smell, 1 thing you taste.",
"NLP has a system for relieving anxiety and it’s root causes. Feel free to PM if you want to discuss (no - i’m not selling anything - anxiety release is my gift to people who suffer as I did)",
"I struggled with this for over a year. What ultimately helped me was a simple exercise for calming the vagus nerve. I did it several times a day for a couple of weeks and haven’t had further issues. \n\nhttps://youtu.be/eFV0FfMc_uo",
"I have had some luck with what I think is called square breathing. Forgive me if I've forgotten the term. But basically inhale for four counts, hold for four counts, exhale for four, hold for four, repeat. It takes some focus to do which distracts from the anxiety, plus it is kind of a m",
"Calming apps like Headspace have really helped my anxiety. They will teach you how to get some distance from your thoughts and find a restful state of mind. Many of the apps have a free version that works great.",
"Mindfulness…some free on YouTube, search university of miami (Lowe) offers free mindful looking weekly (except next week).",
"I've had this and it's awful, I hope you feel better. In my case m",
"Druze, vidim da si iz Srbije pa evo na nasem. Ne znam da li ti ove savjete za disanje sta pomazu ali sam bio u istoj situaciji ko ti. Sad imam 22 godine i vec par godina nemam te probleme vise. Moji savjeti bi bili:\n\n-Mani se secera, visak toga zna da baci srce u lude ritme ako previse u kratko vrijeme uneses.\n\n-Jel te ista drugo prati osim samog tog otkucaja srca? Se brines o necemu, jel imas neke misli koje te zabrinjuju? Ako da, pokusaj da umanjis te izvore tih stresa. \n\n-Ako ti lupa srce a nemas nikakvih misli, onda je savim moguce da imas taj poremecaj Anxiety-a. Moja preporuka bi bila da se malo posvetis tamo nekom psihjatru kod nas, iako bi te malo kostalo. \n\n-Eventualno pogledaj da li nemas mozda ADHD/ADHS. Ima quizova na internetu koji bi ti mogli dati ideju.\n\nAko imas kojih pitanja, javi. Sve najbolje druze",
"When I have a panic attack I was taught to either blow on your thumb or breath in and count to 7 hold for 3 and breath out slowly while counting to 7, repeat. I put them both together and when I breath out I blow on my thumb. GL, anxiety sucks. You got it though",
"What I do - Stop everything. Close my eyes. 10 deep breaths. Speak out loud “everything is ok” as many times as necessary. Bring my focus to the present moment and what is right in front of me \n\nIdk if that’s helpful, but sending hugs 💞",
"Reduce your caffeine intake. Breathing exercises/pranayama. Eat healthy. Make a sleep schedule and stick to it.",
"Not a dr here but you may have hyperthyroidism, if are losing weight and feel anxious and shaky get to endocrinologist get a blood test and take your pills that's dangerous and could kill you anytime.",
"Might be a really unhealthy thing to do, but sometimes I resort to pressing the nail of my thumb into my other thumb just to create a little physical pain which gets me a little distracted and eases up the anxiety a little bit \nBut as others have said how you breath is most important",
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"I’ve found that putting an ice pack on my chest/sternum (or a frozen something or other, usually closer to the bottom of my collarbones than stomach) and deep breathing (following any of the breathing patterns in comments) really helps both my body AND my mind calm down. \n\nI read that cold on your vagus nerve helps relax your nervous system and ever since I started pairing this with the deep breathing my (looming or current) panic attacks resolve SO much quicker or are prevented entirely. \n\nNever in a million years would I have put myself into discomfort/cold when anxious but I think it helps keep my thoughts off my mind and focus on the physical sensation of cold and realizing I have control over when it ends. Seemed wild to me but i now 110% recommend to anybody and everybody.\n\n",
"I feel stupid admitting this as a lot of people like to shit on the movie, but I go with \"Sun is shining, grass is green\" from Karate Kid 3. That phrase and the way he first introduces it to her, it's always stuck with me in a very meaningful way.\n\nSimilar to how it's always 5 o'clock somewhere, it's always sunny somewhere, and the grass is always green somewhere. Sometimes we need to find it ourselves, sometimes we just need to be patient and wait for it to come our way. Either way, someplace is ok. If *it* can be ok, then maybe I can, too.",
"Hi there, this is a free workbook you can use, and it is excellent. Do the work consistently and patiently and you can obtain relief. There is no shortcut, anxiety relief required retraining the way you think and the way your body reacts. 100% possible, but requires a lot of repetition. \nhttps://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Anxiety",
"Cut out caffeine. I haven't had a coffee for months, then last week I drank a large Coke. I was anxious and jittery for hours.",
"Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has a long track record of success for anxiety, so it's worth a try. The idea is to challenge your negative thoughts, try to see the weakness in how you predict bad things are about to happen. Keep working on this for 6 months or so and your anxiety will go down by about half.",
"Aside from finding the breathing techniques, therapies, other behavioral changes you can make, and anti anxiety meds, you can try L-Theanine. Its an amino acid that works for me, but you can build up a tolerance so you shouldn’t take it every day to supplement your problems. It’s a bandaid fix that won’t replace any meaningful changes you can make.",
"Are you actually anxious or is your heart rate just high? I’ve been on meds for almost 6 years because my heart rate just ran high regardless of my state of calm.",
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"Why do you think it is anxiety that is causing you to notice a fast pulse?\n\nI'm not saying it isn't the cause, but just curious why you think it is.",
"Hi there. If you are able to get the “calm” app, that may really help you (it helps me). I’m so sorry you are dealing with this! I know exactly how you feel because I have been there and I have had the same kind of anxiety attacks. All of the breathing techniques listed in the other comments will really help, too. When it happens, remember that “this too will pass.” (Because it will). I’m so sorry to hear that you don’t have good access to healthcare where you live. There are therapists you can work with online - counselors, psychologists, and even psychiatrists who can prescribe anti-anxiety medications. The most important thing is to focus on your breathing so you can calm your heart rate down. 🙏🏻",
"Remember you'll be dead one day and it's not all that big a deal. Keeps me calm 99% of the time when I think of the grand scheme of things. What are you really getting nervous over."
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"How do I train myself to pay more attention to detail?\n This is mostly a work related thing.. So I keep my job, but if any Redditors have any good ideas how to train your brains to process things better and more accurately/clearly, i'm sure a lot of people can benefit from it.",
"How do I train myself to pay more attention to detail?\n This is mostly a work related thing.. So I keep my job, but if any Redditors have any good ideas how to train your brains to process things better and more accurately/clearly, i'm sure a lot of people can benefit from it.",
"How do I train myself to pay more attention to detail?\n This is mostly a work related thing.. So I keep my job, but if any Redditors have any good ideas how to train your brains to process things better and more accurately/clearly, i'm sure a lot of people can benefit from it.",
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"My ex-gf and I used to play a game, we would ask each other detailed questions about some place/event we've been to together. Like, one person notices the other seeing something... then a while later they ask about some obscure detail about that something. \n\nLike 5 hours after leaving the restaurant asking what the waiters shirt color was, or what was their name... can be anything\n\nNow I play this game alone );",
"[Learn to notice detail by learning to draw](http://www.amazon.com/New-Drawing-Right-Side-Brain/dp/0874774241)\n",
"I have found that a good way to pay attention to more detail is to question everything. Developing the habit of questioning what you hear, see etc. will help you notice things and remember what you noticed. I started this when I was in high school. In biology class, coming back from winter break, I started wondering how my teacher might have spent the holidays. I pictured him eating and celebrating like everyone else and asked myself if he had gained weight. I looked at his belly and noticed that the mark on the leather of his belt was visible. This indicated that he had loosened his belt and gained a few pounds ! This is not meant to be an impressive feat, but this is certainly something that few people might have picked up on. I wouldn't have, had I not directed my attention to my teacher's holidays. \nThe key is to develop interest in what you have in front of you. This is why some girls can always tell when guys are married because they immediately wonder \"Is he married ?\" and look at his ring finger. A detail that as an heterosexual guy I don't notice. Of course you cannot question everything nor be interested in anything, but slowly starting the habit of questioning your environment seems like a good way to pay more attention to the present.\nHope this helps. ",
"There's an old game I had called Thinkfast that helped me a lot, but they don't sell it anymore.\n\nI found a copy on filestube.\nhttp://www.filestube.com/b8ebd11906790b1e03e9,g/ThinkFast-World-s-First-Brain-Diagnostic-Tune-Up-Game-by-flagg.html",
"When driving (or being driven) past a side street, glance over and try to remember the colours/makes of the cars parked or waiting to turn",
"What kind of details?\n\nDo you have repetition in your job because songs/rhyming/making up words really help. \n\n",
"This [website](http://www.fi.edu/learn/brain/exercise.html#mentalexercise) has some good ideas, but in general I would recommend small games or puzzles like sudoku or crosswords.",
"Make a system for yourself that works for you and is efficient. For example, in solving a word search you can just do it randomly or you can scan each column for the letters that you need. \n\nThe important thing is to keep doing your system, perfect it and get better at it. Get someone to check your system to see if it makes sense. A lot of people can be systemicatically inefficient. \n\nAnother point of processing is the ability to handle lots of information at once. A good way to enhance this is by exercising your brain - if you like to read, or talk politics with people or watch jeopardy. A game I like to play is a story game. Here you stereotype a random person a street and you make up a complex backstory for that person. Then you do it for another person. The point is to 1) Keep talking and adding more information 2) Make each person unique. It forces your brain to process and think a lot of new information and it's fun.",
"It's actually rather easy. Just take notes. The act of taking notes about the things that are important to you will help you remember more about it. And the notes won't hurt either.",
"If you're scanning things, look left to right. It helps because the brain will pick up on more being that it's used to reading from left to right."
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"How can a recently-hired barista distinguish themselves as a good coworker and employee? Hey LPT. I'm a barista. I've never worked in a coffee shop before. I've been here for a week. \n\nHere's my current idea:\n\nMy restaurant has a panini press which is large enough for 2 sandwiches. We go through about 15 sandwiches an hour.\n\nThe current procedure is to place the individual sandwich onto parchment paper, then microwave it for 30s while it remains on the parchment paper, then grab the edges of the paper, then lift the parchment papered sandwich into the hot panini press. \n\nHere's the problem. Once the sandwich is cooked, we just grab a loose edge of the paper and sort of tug the sandwich out of the press and down onto the adjacent counter. It's a matter of time until one of us brushes the press with our hand.\n\nI wonder whether I could figure out a better way to get the hot sandwiches out of the press.\n\nI won't be able to tell my boss to change any part of this procedure (I just started working there). But I could maybe suggest a new way to get the sandwich out. It seems like an unclaimed problem.\n\nHow have you chefs of LPT solved this problem? If you have the spare time, please be as detailed as possible - I'm kind of a dumbass when it comes to tools.\n\nAlso, if you think it's stupid for a new employee to suggest a modification to an established procedure, then please say so. I'd like to make my mark quickly, somehow, but I'm not wedded to the idea of the panini press thing. Are there other ways that a new employee can make themselves notable?\n\nThank you!",
"How can a recently-hired barista distinguish themselves as a good coworker and employee? Hey LPT. I'm a barista. I've never worked in a coffee shop before. I've been here for a week. \n\nHere's my current idea:\n\nMy restaurant has a panini press which is large enough for 2 sandwiches. We go through about 15 sandwiches an hour.\n\nThe current procedure is to place the individual sandwich onto parchment paper, then microwave it for 30s while it remains on the parchment paper, then grab the edges of the paper, then lift the parchment papered sandwich into the hot panini press. \n\nHere's the problem. Once the sandwich is cooked, we just grab a loose edge of the paper and sort of tug the sandwich out of the press and down onto the adjacent counter. It's a matter of time until one of us brushes the press with our hand.\n\nI wonder whether I could figure out a better way to get the hot sandwiches out of the press.\n\nI won't be able to tell my boss to change any part of this procedure (I just started working there). But I could maybe suggest a new way to get the sandwich out. It seems like an unclaimed problem.\n\nHow have you chefs of LPT solved this problem? If you have the spare time, please be as detailed as possible - I'm kind of a dumbass when it comes to tools.\n\nAlso, if you think it's stupid for a new employee to suggest a modification to an established procedure, then please say so. I'd like to make my mark quickly, somehow, but I'm not wedded to the idea of the panini press thing. Are there other ways that a new employee can make themselves notable?\n\nThank you!",
"How can a recently-hired barista distinguish themselves as a good coworker and employee? Hey LPT. I'm a barista. I've never worked in a coffee shop before. I've been here for a week. \n\nHere's my current idea:\n\nMy restaurant has a panini press which is large enough for 2 sandwiches. We go through about 15 sandwiches an hour.\n\nThe current procedure is to place the individual sandwich onto parchment paper, then microwave it for 30s while it remains on the parchment paper, then grab the edges of the paper, then lift the parchment papered sandwich into the hot panini press. \n\nHere's the problem. Once the sandwich is cooked, we just grab a loose edge of the paper and sort of tug the sandwich out of the press and down onto the adjacent counter. It's a matter of time until one of us brushes the press with our hand.\n\nI wonder whether I could figure out a better way to get the hot sandwiches out of the press.\n\nI won't be able to tell my boss to change any part of this procedure (I just started working there). But I could maybe suggest a new way to get the sandwich out. It seems like an unclaimed problem.\n\nHow have you chefs of LPT solved this problem? If you have the spare time, please be as detailed as possible - I'm kind of a dumbass when it comes to tools.\n\nAlso, if you think it's stupid for a new employee to suggest a modification to an established procedure, then please say so. I'd like to make my mark quickly, somehow, but I'm not wedded to the idea of the panini press thing. Are there other ways that a new employee can make themselves notable?\n\nThank you!",
"How can a recently-hired barista distinguish themselves as a good coworker and employee? Hey LPT. I'm a barista. I've never worked in a coffee shop before. I've been here for a week. \n\nHere's my current idea:\n\nMy restaurant has a panini press which is large enough for 2 sandwiches. We go through about 15 sandwiches an hour.\n\nThe current procedure is to place the individual sandwich onto parchment paper, then microwave it for 30s while it remains on the parchment paper, then grab the edges of the paper, then lift the parchment papered sandwich into the hot panini press. \n\nHere's the problem. Once the sandwich is cooked, we just grab a loose edge of the paper and sort of tug the sandwich out of the press and down onto the adjacent counter. It's a matter of time until one of us brushes the press with our hand.\n\nI wonder whether I could figure out a better way to get the hot sandwiches out of the press.\n\nI won't be able to tell my boss to change any part of this procedure (I just started working there). But I could maybe suggest a new way to get the sandwich out. It seems like an unclaimed problem.\n\nHow have you chefs of LPT solved this problem? If you have the spare time, please be as detailed as possible - I'm kind of a dumbass when it comes to tools.\n\nAlso, if you think it's stupid for a new employee to suggest a modification to an established procedure, then please say so. I'd like to make my mark quickly, somehow, but I'm not wedded to the idea of the panini press thing. Are there other ways that a new employee can make themselves notable?\n\nThank you!",
"How can a recently-hired barista distinguish themselves as a good coworker and employee? Hey LPT. I'm a barista. I've never worked in a coffee shop before. I've been here for a week. \n\nHere's my current idea:\n\nMy restaurant has a panini press which is large enough for 2 sandwiches. We go through about 15 sandwiches an hour.\n\nThe current procedure is to place the individual sandwich onto parchment paper, then microwave it for 30s while it remains on the parchment paper, then grab the edges of the paper, then lift the parchment papered sandwich into the hot panini press. \n\nHere's the problem. Once the sandwich is cooked, we just grab a loose edge of the paper and sort of tug the sandwich out of the press and down onto the adjacent counter. It's a matter of time until one of us brushes the press with our hand.\n\nI wonder whether I could figure out a better way to get the hot sandwiches out of the press.\n\nI won't be able to tell my boss to change any part of this procedure (I just started working there). But I could maybe suggest a new way to get the sandwich out. It seems like an unclaimed problem.\n\nHow have you chefs of LPT solved this problem? If you have the spare time, please be as detailed as possible - I'm kind of a dumbass when it comes to tools.\n\nAlso, if you think it's stupid for a new employee to suggest a modification to an established procedure, then please say so. I'd like to make my mark quickly, somehow, but I'm not wedded to the idea of the panini press thing. Are there other ways that a new employee can make themselves notable?\n\nThank you!"
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"As someone who has worked tons of those types of jobs the last thing they want is for you to reinvent the wheel, especially during your first couple of weeks. If your employer cared whether you burned your knuckles or not they wouldn't be asking you to grab the sandwiches bare handed off the panini. My advice is to find a job waiting tables in a busy restaurant somewhere, you'll make like 3-4x as much money for a comparable amount of stress and effort, plus no burnt knuckles.",
"There’s nothing that makes people roll their eyes\nFaster than the “new guy” who comes in and has all the answers to “fix” everything…\n\nKeep your head down and learn the shit out of how they do things. Focus on working hard and learning the job.",
"How long have they been hand snatching the paninis and how many casualties have they had since they started? Is it an issue or just something you’re worried about doing? \n\n\nDon’t suggest any solutions, just implement them. Bring a spatula in and start using it. Simple. Leave it at the panini and allow others to use it if they want. \n\n\nSince you just started working there I wouldn’t recommend tellin the boss you don’t think OSHA would approve of the bare handed grab, but you could? I dunno. I’d just bring in a spatula and use it.",
"As someone who has been in that line of work for ***far*** too long, the only good advice I have is to build up the callouses on your hands. Getting burned is the bread and butter of being a barista until you get pretty good.",
"An established employee can get kudos for an innovative \"here's my secret way to do it,\" but a new employee asking \"why not do it this way\" creates resentment. It's not based on the quality of your ideas or your work AT ALL. It's all about how easy your new coworkers find working with you to be. Do &%$# their way until you're on their level, THEN wow them. That's how you rockstar."
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"How to prepare your pets for extended absence (deployment, remote work assignment, incarceration sentence, etc.) ",
"How to prepare your pets for extended absence (deployment, remote work assignment, incarceration sentence, etc.) ",
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"Have them be \"baby-sat\" more and more (with extended periods of time in between). That way they start to expect you to return after long trips. ",
"This will depend on the type of pet and their personality but in my experience with mostly dogs:\n\nIf possible take some small trips (say over a weekend) so they get use to you being away and become a little more independent. This is especially true if the person looking after them is not familiar (ie a house sitter instead of a spouse) make sure they are introduced by you (their master) and then get them to look after them for the 'practice' short periods. This will also help the house sitter to ask any questions or concerns that may come up while you are not around. Also make sure that this person is capable of giving them the necessary attention as they may become a little more needy than normal if they are pining for you.\n\nIf you are in fact getting a house sitter, I am happy to give you other general advice about this. just leave a comment :)\n\nSource: House/pet sitter of mainly dogs for 10 years",
"They dont understand anything their pets lol one day ur there next ur gone. idk how youd prepare a pet for something they cant comprehend "
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"Oral exams I have two oral exams coming up in the next months, so I wondered of anyone have any tips for me or oral exams in general?",
"Oral exams I have two oral exams coming up in the next months, so I wondered of anyone have any tips for me or oral exams in general?",
"Oral exams I have two oral exams coming up in the next months, so I wondered of anyone have any tips for me or oral exams in general?"
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"When I took my oral exams for graduate school I found that preparing with fellow students made me much more comfortable before the day of the exam. We would sit in a room and grill each other on every topic we thought might be important. Each person should question the others based on the questioner's particular strength. The benefit with this approach is that you'll learn both how to handle questioning under pressure and you'll become stronger in areas in which you might currently be relatively weak.",
"Mine mostly involves stage fright or overall talking to a crowd. While you are up there, nobody gives a shit about you. To them you are just another presentation in a long line of them. They are more worried about when they go up. If you don't care, you are less likely to make a mistake, and if you don't make a mistake you are less memorable. ",
"Before you have to speak, make sure you are hydrated and use Biotene mouthwash, as it will keep you from suffering dry-mouth, which will get exponentially worse, if you get nervous! And, practice, practice, practice in front of a mirror speaking on the topics. If you get nervous in front of people, then instead of looking them in the eye, look at their foreheads when speaking. Good luck!"
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"how to keep pillows fluffy and comfy? Let's face it, pillows lose their comfortability over time. People say it's mostly due to the moisture getting inside.\n\nOne tip is to fluff them daily, but honestly I don't feel it's effective, and I don't think I can do that daily (some days I wake up in a hurry, no time)\n\nAnother good tip is to throw them in the dryer. This is very effective, they come out fluffy, but I feel I lose fluffiness over days or weeks. Additionally, with paid laundry, it gets expensive.\n\nIs there other things I can do? What do you do? How often do you buy pillows because of this?",
"how to keep pillows fluffy and comfy? Let's face it, pillows lose their comfortability over time. People say it's mostly due to the moisture getting inside.\n\nOne tip is to fluff them daily, but honestly I don't feel it's effective, and I don't think I can do that daily (some days I wake up in a hurry, no time)\n\nAnother good tip is to throw them in the dryer. This is very effective, they come out fluffy, but I feel I lose fluffiness over days or weeks. Additionally, with paid laundry, it gets expensive.\n\nIs there other things I can do? What do you do? How often do you buy pillows because of this?",
"how to keep pillows fluffy and comfy? Let's face it, pillows lose their comfortability over time. People say it's mostly due to the moisture getting inside.\n\nOne tip is to fluff them daily, but honestly I don't feel it's effective, and I don't think I can do that daily (some days I wake up in a hurry, no time)\n\nAnother good tip is to throw them in the dryer. This is very effective, they come out fluffy, but I feel I lose fluffiness over days or weeks. Additionally, with paid laundry, it gets expensive.\n\nIs there other things I can do? What do you do? How often do you buy pillows because of this?"
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"I bought a bedgear pillow 6 years ago and it's still amazing. Not trying to shill the brand, so maybe go to a couple mattress stores in your area and try a few out. That's how I found mine. Get a high quality pillow to sleep on and then just fill out the rest of your pillow needs with cheap shit.",
"I upgraded to a nice memory foam pillow 4 years ago after an injury (got it from Costco). It's held up fantastically, super comfortable, and has a removable case so it's easy to clean. I know that's not *quite* what you asked but I'd highly recommend.",
"If you can't find the 15 seconds in a day to fluff your pillow, maybe buy a second (or third) one and rotate so they can air out."
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"Should I ask for more pay again? A company offered me the lower end of the pay range for the position I applied for. I asked for the higher end being that I have substantial experience in this line of work.\n\nThey got back to me offering a different but slightly 'higher ranking' position. This position's lower end of the pay range is higher than what I asked for with the initial position but now I am considering asking for a higher pay in this position.\n\nShould I ask for a higher pay with this position even though it is offering more than my initial proposed pay for a lower position? Or am I being a little too ambitious at this point?",
"Should I ask for more pay again? A company offered me the lower end of the pay range for the position I applied for. I asked for the higher end being that I have substantial experience in this line of work.\n\nThey got back to me offering a different but slightly 'higher ranking' position. This position's lower end of the pay range is higher than what I asked for with the initial position but now I am considering asking for a higher pay in this position.\n\nShould I ask for a higher pay with this position even though it is offering more than my initial proposed pay for a lower position? Or am I being a little too ambitious at this point?",
"Should I ask for more pay again? A company offered me the lower end of the pay range for the position I applied for. I asked for the higher end being that I have substantial experience in this line of work.\n\nThey got back to me offering a different but slightly 'higher ranking' position. This position's lower end of the pay range is higher than what I asked for with the initial position but now I am considering asking for a higher pay in this position.\n\nShould I ask for a higher pay with this position even though it is offering more than my initial proposed pay for a lower position? Or am I being a little too ambitious at this point?",
"Should I ask for more pay again? A company offered me the lower end of the pay range for the position I applied for. I asked for the higher end being that I have substantial experience in this line of work.\n\nThey got back to me offering a different but slightly 'higher ranking' position. This position's lower end of the pay range is higher than what I asked for with the initial position but now I am considering asking for a higher pay in this position.\n\nShould I ask for a higher pay with this position even though it is offering more than my initial proposed pay for a lower position? Or am I being a little too ambitious at this point?",
"Should I ask for more pay again? A company offered me the lower end of the pay range for the position I applied for. I asked for the higher end being that I have substantial experience in this line of work.\n\nThey got back to me offering a different but slightly 'higher ranking' position. This position's lower end of the pay range is higher than what I asked for with the initial position but now I am considering asking for a higher pay in this position.\n\nShould I ask for a higher pay with this position even though it is offering more than my initial proposed pay for a lower position? Or am I being a little too ambitious at this point?",
"Should I ask for more pay again? A company offered me the lower end of the pay range for the position I applied for. I asked for the higher end being that I have substantial experience in this line of work.\n\nThey got back to me offering a different but slightly 'higher ranking' position. This position's lower end of the pay range is higher than what I asked for with the initial position but now I am considering asking for a higher pay in this position.\n\nShould I ask for a higher pay with this position even though it is offering more than my initial proposed pay for a lower position? Or am I being a little too ambitious at this point?",
"Should I ask for more pay again? A company offered me the lower end of the pay range for the position I applied for. I asked for the higher end being that I have substantial experience in this line of work.\n\nThey got back to me offering a different but slightly 'higher ranking' position. This position's lower end of the pay range is higher than what I asked for with the initial position but now I am considering asking for a higher pay in this position.\n\nShould I ask for a higher pay with this position even though it is offering more than my initial proposed pay for a lower position? Or am I being a little too ambitious at this point?"
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"Easiest time to get the money. Question is how to phrase it? I suggest - 'Give me all the money you silly wankers' but I'm a bit wankered my self so maybe not the best turn of phase",
"I would see if you can have a less formal chat with the hiring manager without hr. It could be that the hiring manager really likes you and went to bat to get you more money and hr stonewalled them. This could have been their clever way to meet your requirements. If you can have an honest chat, you'll know the right way to go. And that honesty will help build the relationship with your soon to be boss.\n\nFormer hiring manager here and frequent breaker of BS human resources rules.",
"“I do not think that the offered wage reflects correctly on my experience working as a X for so many years. A salary of *insert salary here* would be a better representation of my ability to handle these particular sets of responsibilities.\n\nHowever, I understand that there are budget constraints for each position, so I'll be happy to work at the previous position for *insert higher end pay here*.”\n\nHope this helps",
"Is this a government job with step increases? I would take that higher position. You don't get the money right this minute but over time you will make more in the end.",
"If the responsibilities match the higher position, then yes, otherwise try negotiating less responsibilities/arrangements.",
"Go for it! I’m part of management at my family’s business and we field this questions quite often. As long as you’re not an asshole about it and have SOME type of justification, go for it. They might say no but they shouldn’t fault you for asking.",
"If you haven’t signed the paperwork or taken the job yet then you can definitely still discuss salary and you should. It’s a different job with different responsibilities"
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"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?",
"What do you wish you had heard as a teenager? As a high school teacher, I want to write thoughts on my ceiling to encourage and support my students. I've considered, \"You are not a failure. You haven't succeeded...*yet*. Keep trying.\" and \"You belong. I'm glad you are here.\" What would you suggest?"
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"I wish I had been taught emotional intelligence and people skills. I wish I was taught that for me to succeed it was not necessary that someone else should fail.",
"If you have nothing good to say, be quiet.\n\nStart a pension as soon as you possibly can.\n\nI can and I will.",
"\n\nYou are not here to\nmake others understand you.\nYou are here to understand yourself.\n\nFALL IN LOVE WITH THE PROCESS OF PROGRESS\n\n\nNOT MY JOB:\n-Fix or save people\n-Be liked\n-Do it all\n-Please everyone\n-Hold it all together\nMY JOB:\n-Love people\n-Be authentic\n-Take the next step\n-Speak my truth\n-Breathe\n\n\nBe there for others, but never leave yourself behind.\n\nHappiness is a choice,\nnot a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy.\nNo person will make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you.\nIt can only come from you.\n\nYou deserve connections that don't require you to walk on eggshells to get a point across. You deserve connections that don't require you to sacrifice your peace just to protect feelings or egos. You deserve connections that don't require you to distance your self, from yourself.\n\n\nBe a reflection of what you'd like to receive. If you want love, give love. If you want truth, be truthful. If you want respect, give respect. What you give out will return to you.\n\nNot everyone will understand your journey.\nThat's ok. It's not their journey. It's yours.\nEmbrace your freedom.\n\nThe next time you see someone enjoying\nsomething, that isn't hurting anyone, that's not your cup of tea, instead of saying something negative, train yourself to think to yourself\n\"I'm glad they are happy\" and carry on with your life.\n\n\nKeep doing your best every day and it no one is proud of you,\nBe Proud Of Yourself.\n\nLife\ndoesn't require that we be the best, only that\nwe try our best.\n\nDONt, EVER BE ASHÄMED-\n'OF OViNG tHE StRANGE thiNGS tHAT MAkE YOur\n§WEIRD LittleE HEARt lAPPY\n\nAT THE END OF THE DAY TELL YOURSELF GENTLY.\nI LOVE YOU.\nYOU DID THE BEST YOU COULD TODAY.\nAND EVEN IF YOU DIDN'T ACCOMPLISH ALL YOU\nHAD PLANNED.\nI LOVE YOU ANYWAY\n\nBE KIND TO YOURSELF AND OTHERS.\nCULTIVATE COMPASSION, FORGIVENESS, FLEXIBILITY, AND NON-JUDGMENT IN YOUR LIFE.\nGIVE YOURSELE A BREAK AND LET GO OF PERFECTIONISM.\nCOMPASSION GIVES US THE FREEDOM TO REDEFINE OURSELVES AS WELL AS THe\nALL-IMPORTANT FREEDOM TO FAIL, WHICH CONTAINS WItHIN IT THe FREEDOM TO TAKE THE RISKS THAT ALLOW US TO BE TRULY CREATIVE.\n\n\nDon't be afraid to lose people. Be afraid of losing yourself by trying to please everyone around you.\n\n\nMistakes are proof that you're trying.\n\nBe your own support system. Clap for yourself.\nCelebrate yourself. Do it for yourself.\n\nJust because you are struggling doesn't mean you're failing.\n\nTHE GREATEST RISK WE WILL EVER TAKE IS TO BE SEEN AS WE TRULY ARE.\n\nDon't cry over the past, it's gone. Don't stress about the future, it hasn't arrived.\nLive in the present and make it beautiful.",
"There are some negative comments here giving you the Pink Floyd (Hey, teacher leave those kids alone!). Some people aren't ready to receive help at that point in their lives and that's ok. That doesn't mean you should quit reaching out. Being available is what is important.\n\nSome students are ready, and you'll make the difference to that wonderful person. May it affirm to you that you're in one of the greatest professions in the Universe. \n\nFight until the last erase marker goes dry. Proud of you!",
"This one is corny but I remember it from the myriad things my high school English teacher had on his wall. \" If everyone in this class were doing what you are doing, could any one learn in this class room?\" It is 50 years later and it is still the thing I remember. I keep it in mind in other settings. Once in a while it stops me from being a jerk.",
"One thing I did see when I was in high school was a poster with the quote \"Earth was not given to us by our parents, it was loaned to us by our children\", and it has ALWAYS stuck with me.\n\nAs for stuff I didn't hear: high school doesn't really matter. All the stress now is worth nothing in 10 years when high school is also worth nothing.\nIt doesn't matter what people think of you, so long as you are okay with what you think of yourself.\nAnd it doesn't matter what you do, as long as you don't hurt anyone else in the process. Each to their own.\nBe nice to people. It improves your own life. All we need to do is be nice to other people, regardless of where they come from or what they look like. A person is a person.",
"Don’t give other people the satisfaction of making you feel inferior \n\nBe the person younger you would look up to \n\nHow people treat the person they think can do nothing for them shows you everything\n\nNever lend what you can’t afford to lose \n\nNever be ashamed of what makes you happy",
"You do not need makeup. Vanity is an industry preying on insecure girls.\n\nYou do not need to have sex young. Wait until you feel ready. \n\nFocus on becoming \"the right person\" rather than looking for one. They will come once you're there. \n\nAnd then throw in a couple of weird ones to confuse them and keep em on their toes....\n\nYou need to wake up, your family misses you. \n\nDo not stare at your mirror after 3 am. It might not be staring back.",
"Ignore what 99% of the people say. Half of them don't want to she you rise, the other half won't understand your vision. A winner is too busy winning to be focused on others.",
"I wish I was taught time management, organization & financial skills. Also emotional intelligence, resiliency.\n\nI wish I heard - you are worthy of love just as you are. We can always do better and this is our journey of life, the secret is consistent progress. \n\n\nps. OP you’re a good person",
"I did and didn't listen. Your HS performance will determine which college you'll attend which will affect which job you'll get which will affect your financial well being that will affect your entire life. Or skip college and it's debt and learn to weld.",
"I did a project with my students where I had my older students write advice to my younger ones. Maybe you could try something similar, getting input from other teachers and even parents for the students.",
"Honestly, anything but the sappy shit.\n\n\"You're a loser, and you'll die a loser unless you decide to make some massive changes about yourself\"\n\nSomething like that.",
"Honestly, I probably heard what I needed to hear. I just didn’t take the advice. Maybe I needed to hear listen to your elders, they have more experience than you…. but, I think they told me that too.",
"Every person you meet has some kind of trauma, whether they know it or not. Be nice until it's no longer feasible.",
"- [ ] There are no failures only lessons \n- [ ] Every situation doesn’t need a reaction \n- [ ] Just enjoy where you are now/ something along the lines of enjoy the present moment because it won’t last forever \n- [ ] Doubting yourself is normal, letting it stop you is a choice \n- [ ] The quality of your life will never exceed the quality of your thoughts \n- [ ] Know your boundaries \n- [ ] Learn how to love yourself\n- [ ] Never lose your childlike wonder\n- [ ] Be kind, everybody is fighting a battle you know nothing about.\nI wish we were taught more on \nRegulate emotions\nWays to communicate assertively \nThe power of exercise, sleep and eating right.",
"*Buy Bitcoin when it's under $1 and sell at $64,000. Yes, I'm serious. As many as you can, mortgage your house. I don't have time to explain. Just write it down: b i t c o i n, $64,000.*",
"* Don't be afraid of asking a question even if it seems obvious to others, you may simply be thinking from a different angle, and what's obvious to you may be unclear to others.\n* If you know what you want to be for a career great. But if it requires college, spend some time doing related work at an entry level first to make sure it's something you will truly enjoy doing. If it is, great! You already understand some of the early concepts before you even hit your first class, and there's no confidence boost better than outperforming others in a field you are passionate about. If it turns out you don't like it you avoided a costly mistake you might not be able to recover from. As an aside if you are pressured into entering college immediately take general studies classes that are prereqs for many things first. You will need them anyway, and it helps you get time to be sure of what you want to do.\n\nHm. You might need a bigger ceiling. Maybe \"look before you leap\".",
"\"There are no weaknesses, only future strengths.\"\n\n\"If you are the smartest person in the room, change rooms.\"",
"With underserved and many times bullied students, please don't act like your some holier than thou miracle worker that has all the answers for them. Motivational qoutes don't really help people, emotional counseling does and your not a psychologist so don't try to be one to many kids it comes off as preachy. As a tall white jewish kid in a poor black school I Got SOOOOOO tired of teachers like that who couldn't actually help me except tell me what \"they think I needed to hear\" and it was always stupid Bs. I got immacualte grades in AP & pre-AP classes and went to college early to avoid more trauma. The LAST thing that helped me was preachy wanna be Motivational speaker teachers. The hard truth you MUST REALIZE is 99% of kids are going to go where they want to go. They don't need your preachy ass talking to them & 99% they will and should ignore you. You are just a HS teacher maybe you taught college 1st but now you hardly make more than McDonald's manager in USA, not exactly the lifestyle.people aspire to. Please if you see a distraught student JUST LEAVE HIM THE FUCK ALONE. sometimes depressed and bullied students don't wanna act chipper and EXPLAIN themselves to teacher over and over again. Please just teach and don't annoy kids that get enough shit as it is. I've been there and hated every annoying teacher that\" wanted to make a difference!\" As if they knew what my life was like"
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"How do I stop awkward silence? I have no problems with silence between me and a close friend since it is not awkward. It's just the silence between me and people i don't know that much.",
"How do I stop awkward silence? I have no problems with silence between me and a close friend since it is not awkward. It's just the silence between me and people i don't know that much.",
"How do I stop awkward silence? I have no problems with silence between me and a close friend since it is not awkward. It's just the silence between me and people i don't know that much.",
"How do I stop awkward silence? I have no problems with silence between me and a close friend since it is not awkward. It's just the silence between me and people i don't know that much.",
"How do I stop awkward silence? I have no problems with silence between me and a close friend since it is not awkward. It's just the silence between me and people i don't know that much.",
"How do I stop awkward silence? I have no problems with silence between me and a close friend since it is not awkward. It's just the silence between me and people i don't know that much.",
"How do I stop awkward silence? I have no problems with silence between me and a close friend since it is not awkward. It's just the silence between me and people i don't know that much.",
"How do I stop awkward silence? I have no problems with silence between me and a close friend since it is not awkward. It's just the silence between me and people i don't know that much.",
"How do I stop awkward silence? I have no problems with silence between me and a close friend since it is not awkward. It's just the silence between me and people i don't know that much.",
"How do I stop awkward silence? I have no problems with silence between me and a close friend since it is not awkward. It's just the silence between me and people i don't know that much.",
"How do I stop awkward silence? I have no problems with silence between me and a close friend since it is not awkward. It's just the silence between me and people i don't know that much."
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"The real question is how to stop people from interrupting the pleasant silence, preferably noiselessly. ",
"When I was young someone told me that no one could make them feel awkward. Since then I always just tell myself, 'It's only awkward if I make it awkward.\" It's all in your head, or their head, or both. But if no one cares, just enjoy the quiet. And if you think they care, and you dont, then why would it matter?",
"In Philly its: \"How about them Flyers?\" It is kind of an inside joke that even works in the off season...\n\nOnce everyone is laughing... All is well. So make-em laugh, any way you can (except at others expense).",
"I was once in a conversation with some near-strangers and into the first lull, someone said, \"I read somewhere that there is a pause in conversation every seven minutes.\"\n\nThat kick-started a conversation about whether it was true and what would cause it. At the next lull, someone else said, \"Was that seven minutes?\" Which caused a conversation about whether we should note the time, and so on.\n\nFrom then on, people were looking forward to pauses.",
"I don't get this awkward silence thing, I think it's because once I'm not talking to someone I start thinking about a lot of stuff, I can be walking or setting next to you outside and thinking on stupid things mostly kind of like shower thoughts.",
"Ask the other person questions about their life! I've been a tour guide at my university for the past four years, and this is how I get people talking. BOOM. Awkwardness deleted. \n\nThe trick is getting more specific with your questions as you learn more about them. People love talking about their lives. ",
"Always just ask questions or try and bring up a situation where you feel really comfortable talking about it or have a great story for it!",
"Just focus on one particular part of their body. The other party will notice you staring at them and will respond in either a positive or negative way. Based off their response, you will then know whether they are friend or foe.",
"I usually just say something stupid like \"so this weather, it's so weathery\", gets atleast a smile or a chuckle which breaks the tension.",
"I agree with the earlier comments that it's only awkward if you make it, but if you feel it is necessary to make conversation (perhaps to get to know him/her better) make a list of things you'd like to talk about in advance so the next time it happens you're prepared. Or, make a list of nonsense questions to lighten the mood (such as, if you were a dog, what breed would you be and why? Or how many hours was your longest Netflix binge watch and what was it?).",
"This has worked great for me in those situations: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=awkward+turtle"
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"How to dump an SO you're living with SO is on the lease, sharing a room in a 3-bedroom apartment with me. I want out of the relationship, but I'm terrified of how breaking up will affect my living situation. I'm the chief rent-payer, (I pay full rent up-front and everybody else pays me back) and my name is on all the utilities. In case things go really poorly, is there any way I can make him move out even though his name is on the lease?",
"How to dump an SO you're living with SO is on the lease, sharing a room in a 3-bedroom apartment with me. I want out of the relationship, but I'm terrified of how breaking up will affect my living situation. I'm the chief rent-payer, (I pay full rent up-front and everybody else pays me back) and my name is on all the utilities. In case things go really poorly, is there any way I can make him move out even though his name is on the lease?",
"How to dump an SO you're living with SO is on the lease, sharing a room in a 3-bedroom apartment with me. I want out of the relationship, but I'm terrified of how breaking up will affect my living situation. I'm the chief rent-payer, (I pay full rent up-front and everybody else pays me back) and my name is on all the utilities. In case things go really poorly, is there any way I can make him move out even though his name is on the lease?"
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"Depending on how emotional of a response you can expect from him based on past experience and how long it is until the lease expires and whether or not you can afford to move away while this lease stays in your name, my response would worry.\n\nWorst-case scenario: wait it out until 2 months from the end of the lease and then let everyone know you want to be out of the place. Tell him then that you need space and want to live separately from him. Find different places, move away from each other, then break-up.\n\nMiddle-case scenario: Get a restraining order against him. Force him to move out through that.\n\nBest-case scenario: If he is emotionally capable of dealing with rejection, then tell him now that you no longer feel like you can be in a relationship due to whatever the factors are.",
"A key point is to research what \"common-law marriage\" applies in your living area, as you may have some property division issues if you've been living together too long. \n\nBut your story raises a few questions.\n\nWhat do you mean by \"if things go badly\"? Is there possible abuse or retribution or abandonment in the consequences? \n\nAlso what do you mean by \"everybody else pays me back\"? Do you have kids or others living with you?\n\nHow long is remaining on your lease? If it's a year or more, you might have to cover it AND another apartment's lease.\n\nSeriously, from your phrasing and the complexity of your situation, you might want to get a consult from a lawyer.",
">In case things go really poorly, is there any way I can make him move out even though his name is on the lease?\n\nMost likely no, if he's on the lease. You'll have to just tough it out."
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"Building credibility in your workplace when you're the \"new guy.\" If I'm hired into supervisory position over others who have been at the organization longer, and are decades older than I- how can I quickly build credibility and earn the respect of my co-workers?",
"Building credibility in your workplace when you're the \"new guy.\" If I'm hired into supervisory position over others who have been at the organization longer, and are decades older than I- how can I quickly build credibility and earn the respect of my co-workers?",
"Building credibility in your workplace when you're the \"new guy.\" If I'm hired into supervisory position over others who have been at the organization longer, and are decades older than I- how can I quickly build credibility and earn the respect of my co-workers?",
"Building credibility in your workplace when you're the \"new guy.\" If I'm hired into supervisory position over others who have been at the organization longer, and are decades older than I- how can I quickly build credibility and earn the respect of my co-workers?",
"Building credibility in your workplace when you're the \"new guy.\" If I'm hired into supervisory position over others who have been at the organization longer, and are decades older than I- how can I quickly build credibility and earn the respect of my co-workers?",
"Building credibility in your workplace when you're the \"new guy.\" If I'm hired into supervisory position over others who have been at the organization longer, and are decades older than I- how can I quickly build credibility and earn the respect of my co-workers?",
"Building credibility in your workplace when you're the \"new guy.\" If I'm hired into supervisory position over others who have been at the organization longer, and are decades older than I- how can I quickly build credibility and earn the respect of my co-workers?",
"Building credibility in your workplace when you're the \"new guy.\" If I'm hired into supervisory position over others who have been at the organization longer, and are decades older than I- how can I quickly build credibility and earn the respect of my co-workers?",
"Building credibility in your workplace when you're the \"new guy.\" If I'm hired into supervisory position over others who have been at the organization longer, and are decades older than I- how can I quickly build credibility and earn the respect of my co-workers?",
"Building credibility in your workplace when you're the \"new guy.\" If I'm hired into supervisory position over others who have been at the organization longer, and are decades older than I- how can I quickly build credibility and earn the respect of my co-workers?"
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"Work hard. Be the first one there in the morning and the last one to leave.\n\nBe mindful of your employees skills and motivation levels and assign tasks accordingly. Some people are highly skilled and like a challenge and will thrive with challenging projects. Some people need everything spelled out for them. That's something to be mindful of/take a feel on a case by case basis. \n\nBe consistent in your expectations. If your expectations are inconsistent, then the work will be as well.\n\nRemember, you are not there to be their friends. However, you also are on the same team. Deal with them in a calm, consistently, and fairly and they will respect you. And never get upset or seem flustered in front of them. It won't happen overnight but it'll happen over time. \n\nHopefully that's not too vague for ya. ",
"Whom do you wish to deem you as credible, your employer or your co-workers? Because you might only be able to \"build cr",
"My dad did this recently. He basically made a very big part of his company automated and had a lot of people fired, most people there hate him though but his boss loves him",
"[This might help :)](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/23lerk/lpt_quickly_gain_traction_in_a_new_job/)",
"You can't. There is no shortcut. You have to put in the work. It's like planting crops in the spring, and harvesting in the fall. There is a natural process that cannot be cheated. Good luck.",
"Work hard, demonstrate that you know what you're doing and why they hired you, don't be condescending, respect the experience and knowledge these other people have. Don't be a douche.",
"Own up to your mistakes. Nothing will make you loose credibility faster than getting caught trying to hide a mistake.",
"Coming from the employee/supervised side, the best supervisors that were hired from the outside took a few weeks learning about the job, roles, and employees before ever attempting to lead. If you're given a grace period where you can do this, I highly recommend it. ",
"Be honest with your employees. Sometimes you have to give bad news, but it's better to be straightforward and honest than try to talk around the issue and make everything seem okay.",
"Always keep your promises no matter how small. \n\nAnd have a stockpile of pens. Pens are always needed. "
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"Lost an item at a bus stop, how should I get it back? I left my bag with my laptop and a lot of stuff that I need in it at a bus stop. What is the best way to get my stuff back before it's lost forever?",
"Lost an item at a bus stop, how should I get it back? I left my bag with my laptop and a lot of stuff that I need in it at a bus stop. What is the best way to get my stuff back before it's lost forever?"
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"Hopefully if someone was honest, they might have turned it in to a bus driver and that driver (if he or she is honest) would turn it in to the main station at the end of their shift. So I'd say contact the main public transit system where you live and see if anyone turned it in to the lost and found there. Hopefully someone did. ",
"Tried prayer? (AKA whispering into the Abyss)\n\nIt's never^(*Ever*) worked before, but there's a first time for everything.\n"
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"How do I avoid static shock every time I close my car door? I dunno if it's because my car is dusty or what, but literally every single time I get out and close the door I get a shock on my finger when it touches the metal. It's annoying. How I can fix this?",
"How do I avoid static shock every time I close my car door? I dunno if it's because my car is dusty or what, but literally every single time I get out and close the door I get a shock on my finger when it touches the metal. It's annoying. How I can fix this?",
"How do I avoid static shock every time I close my car door? I dunno if it's because my car is dusty or what, but literally every single time I get out and close the door I get a shock on my finger when it touches the metal. It's annoying. How I can fix this?",
"How do I avoid static shock every time I close my car door? I dunno if it's because my car is dusty or what, but literally every single time I get out and close the door I get a shock on my finger when it touches the metal. It's annoying. How I can fix this?",
"How do I avoid static shock every time I close my car door? I dunno if it's because my car is dusty or what, but literally every single time I get out and close the door I get a shock on my finger when it touches the metal. It's annoying. How I can fix this?"
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"Hold a key tightly between your fingers, touch that to the doorknob. The spark will jump from the key to the doorknob and you won't feel anything.",
"I usually touch it with my knuckles first and it seems to distribute and discharge without shocking me noticeably.",
"Instead of putting feet on the ground first and then touching the metal car door, I got into the habit of touching the car door first then feet on ground. Don't get shocked anymore!",
"Your car may have a poor ground. There are ground wires that can be installed that help reduce electrical shocks ",
"I haven't got any advice on that but I would love some since this always happens to me too. I've tried grounding myself and it seems to work."
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" How to get cheap, papery stickers and their adhesive off a metal surface Long story short, bought an '08 MacBook Pro off a friend for $150 bucks. Quite a deal although he put stickers on it. How can I safely get the stickers and adhesive off the metal casing of the MacBook Pro? The stickers are on the top so I'm a bit weary of putting too much pressure of any sort on it for fear of damaging the screen.",
" How to get cheap, papery stickers and their adhesive off a metal surface Long story short, bought an '08 MacBook Pro off a friend for $150 bucks. Quite a deal although he put stickers on it. How can I safely get the stickers and adhesive off the metal casing of the MacBook Pro? The stickers are on the top so I'm a bit weary of putting too much pressure of any sort on it for fear of damaging the screen.",
" How to get cheap, papery stickers and their adhesive off a metal surface Long story short, bought an '08 MacBook Pro off a friend for $150 bucks. Quite a deal although he put stickers on it. How can I safely get the stickers and adhesive off the metal casing of the MacBook Pro? The stickers are on the top so I'm a bit weary of putting too much pressure of any sort on it for fear of damaging the screen.",
" How to get cheap, papery stickers and their adhesive off a metal surface Long story short, bought an '08 MacBook Pro off a friend for $150 bucks. Quite a deal although he put stickers on it. How can I safely get the stickers and adhesive off the metal casing of the MacBook Pro? The stickers are on the top so I'm a bit weary of putting too much pressure of any sort on it for fear of damaging the screen.",
" How to get cheap, papery stickers and their adhesive off a metal surface Long story short, bought an '08 MacBook Pro off a friend for $150 bucks. Quite a deal although he put stickers on it. How can I safely get the stickers and adhesive off the metal casing of the MacBook Pro? The stickers are on the top so I'm a bit weary of putting too much pressure of any sort on it for fear of damaging the screen."
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"A blow dryer and rubbing alcohol or acetone. Heat with the blow dryer on high, should not be hot enough to damage electronics. Gently peel back the sticker. Then, use the rubbing alcohol or acetone to remove the gunk.",
"Something with oil tends to be good, I believe. My mother and I moved recently and the military took care of everything. That meant they put identification stickers on everything we owned, and for whatever reason, the adhesive just wouldn't come up this time. \n\nWe were looking for things like 'Goo be Gone' or whatever, but a worker actually suggested [This](http://www.homedepot.com/Cleaning-Air-Fresheners/h_d1/N-5yc1vZbqs5/R-202528023/h_d2/ProductDisplay?langId=-1&storeId=10051&catalogId=10053) instead. Said she used it to get the adhesive off metal and it worked much better. It worked wonderfully and was cheaper then the stuff marketed for goo removal. A spray or two into a paper towel, a few rubs, and the adhesive was completely gone. Worked well on glass, wood, plastic, and metal, including my desktop computer. \n",
"Just an idea, might work depending on the sticker: Get a cloth of some sort, get it wet, and lay it on top of the stickers. Let it sit for a while, then after a couple hours, try gently scraping off the stickers",
"WINDEX! Windex will dissolve up the goo and it won't hurt your aluminum casing. Spray the Windex on any left over stuff after scraping and let it saturate. After a min, wipe off with a paper towel.\n\nOnly use Windex on the outside, never on your screen. I only clean my MacBook Pro's screen with dry, non-abrasive cloths similar to the kind they give you for glasses/camera lenses. The spray can drip down and go under the screen and you know what liquid + electronics equals. But you shouldn't be touching the screen anyways...\n\nThis also works to remove the sticker residue left behind on DVD's and Used Games. I peel the stickers off as best I can with a razor blade and then spray any leftover residue with Windex to wipe it away with ease!\n\ntl;dr- Windex soaking is a poor man's Goo-Gone.",
"I know that the OP has already found his/her answer, but I have not seen my favorite method used yet. Lighter fluid. Lighter fluid works great for removing stickers and their gross sticker residue. As a bonus, it also works great for removing grease pencil from various surfaces."
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"How to stop my socks from getting holes near the ankles In the last year, I've lost an insane amount of regular length socks to holes near the ankle, where the heel patch ends. I am slowly losing my mind. Help.",
"How to stop my socks from getting holes near the ankles In the last year, I've lost an insane amount of regular length socks to holes near the ankle, where the heel patch ends. I am slowly losing my mind. Help.",
"How to stop my socks from getting holes near the ankles In the last year, I've lost an insane amount of regular length socks to holes near the ankle, where the heel patch ends. I am slowly losing my mind. Help.",
"How to stop my socks from getting holes near the ankles In the last year, I've lost an insane amount of regular length socks to holes near the ankle, where the heel patch ends. I am slowly losing my mind. Help."
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"Sounds like you need better fitting shoes. Shoes are something you should never go cheap on because things like this happen.",
"It could be the way you put your socks on. If you pull the part the covered your ankle and leg too much then it will tear. Try wearing it like a condom (I have no other way of describing the technique).",
"Get one pair of Darn Tough socks and wear them on day one and wash on day two (or get two and wash one each day). If they haven't gotten a hole in a month, you know the problem was cheap socks. Otherwise? Lifetime warranty will replace them.",
"Could be how you walk too, if you naturally walk on your heels more I’ll bet they’d rub out quicker than say someone who walks more on their toes? Though I think the solution would still be thicker socks, as that is what’s worked for me. Lemme know if you want brand suggestions"
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"How to communicate better I want to learn how to talk with adults and peers alike, not be intimidated and how to hold up a conversation. I am really awful at talking to people and get all shaky and mix up words. I'd like to know where or how to brush up on my communication skills.",
"How to communicate better I want to learn how to talk with adults and peers alike, not be intimidated and how to hold up a conversation. I am really awful at talking to people and get all shaky and mix up words. I'd like to know where or how to brush up on my communication skills.",
"How to communicate better I want to learn how to talk with adults and peers alike, not be intimidated and how to hold up a conversation. I am really awful at talking to people and get all shaky and mix up words. I'd like to know where or how to brush up on my communication skills."
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"Try to find common ground. Listen. Act interested (if it's a topic you're not normally interested in) ask why, ask about their opinions and feelings. People generally love talking about themselves. Look at what they're wearing..Are they wearing a nerd shirt? Compliment it and ask about it. Compliments in general \"I love your nails\" \"I love those shoes\" \"How did you get your hair to curl like that? It's really nice\". Make eye contact, don't get distracted or look at your phone/watch etc. Body language is also important, fist clenching, twitching, nail biting, shifting are all bad things. Make a conscious effort to look out for those traits and mentally tell yourself to knock it off. \n\nAlso don't forget that a lot of other people are socially awkward as well. If you notice this, don't take it too hard, it's not you it's them. If you act confident, smile, have a firm handshake, etc. people will notice, and you'll feel it too. \n\n",
"Try to avoid saying the word \"But\" \n\nE.g.I hear what you are saying BUT...\n\nThis creates an unnecessary boundary and just invites the feeling you didn't really understand what the other person was saying. \n\nInstead seek to play a game of repeat but with a twist..\n\nWhat I think I heard you say is that.. AND that means...\n\nThis has helped me understand my family and helped me communicate more clearly with my wife.",
"avoid filler words like: like, just, pretty much.. etc. \nI found out recently that it can help to look someone in the eyes and smile when meeting someone. Even when you are not happy. I know this sounds fake but it can still improve your communication.\ndon't be afraid to think about what you'll say. You can easily take a couple of seconds before you answer to think about what you're going to say. \nBe a better listener. To have a good conversation it's important to not only focus on what you're going to say, Don't interrupt others! That's probably the fastest way to a bad conversation. \n\nMaybe you can try to assess what part of your speech went wrong when you mixed up certain words after having a conversation. As an example, I often mixed up the words 'letters' and 'numbers' in my speech. Eventually I confronted myself about this and ingrained the right usage of this in my mind."
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"How can I dim mac laptop screen past the lowest setting? Or the second-lowest, I guess. The lowest is total darkness.\n\nBut my laptop is way too bright at night. I use f.lux, but it's not quite enough.\n\nAny thoughts?",
"How can I dim mac laptop screen past the lowest setting? Or the second-lowest, I guess. The lowest is total darkness.\n\nBut my laptop is way too bright at night. I use f.lux, but it's not quite enough.\n\nAny thoughts?"
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"You could try a [privacy screen](https://www.amazon.com/Macbook-Privacy-Protector-Tech-Armor/dp/B00RL0I77U/ref=sr_1_9?ie=UTF8&qid=1476857758&sr=8-9&keywords=macbook+pro+privacy+screen), they're not bad to have regardless if you're using your laptop in public spaces. ",
"Heavy Shade by myPoint. Look it up on the App Store.\n\nAlso Deluminate, a chrome extension that turns any website to a dark theme. "
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"Best way to book a flight to Australia I am visiting family in Australia during Christmas and New Years time for a wedding and am on a tight budget. I was trying to find out the best way of travel to Australia meaning departure city and other ways to find the cheapest flight there. I have found flights for about 3,000 but I did not know if there was any better way of searching for a more reasonable price. I have been searching in incognito mode so they cannot trace my searches. I need help!",
"Best way to book a flight to Australia I am visiting family in Australia during Christmas and New Years time for a wedding and am on a tight budget. I was trying to find out the best way of travel to Australia meaning departure city and other ways to find the cheapest flight there. I have found flights for about 3,000 but I did not know if there was any better way of searching for a more reasonable price. I have been searching in incognito mode so they cannot trace my searches. I need help!",
"Best way to book a flight to Australia I am visiting family in Australia during Christmas and New Years time for a wedding and am on a tight budget. I was trying to find out the best way of travel to Australia meaning departure city and other ways to find the cheapest flight there. I have found flights for about 3,000 but I did not know if there was any better way of searching for a more reasonable price. I have been searching in incognito mode so they cannot trace my searches. I need help!",
"Best way to book a flight to Australia I am visiting family in Australia during Christmas and New Years time for a wedding and am on a tight budget. I was trying to find out the best way of travel to Australia meaning departure city and other ways to find the cheapest flight there. I have found flights for about 3,000 but I did not know if there was any better way of searching for a more reasonable price. I have been searching in incognito mode so they cannot trace my searches. I need help!"
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"What city are you flying out from? I just did a quick search for flights from JFK (New York) to SYD (Sydney) and had lots of options for under $1,700, return.\n\nBe very mindful of the total trip time. Around the same price range, the travel times varied dramatically; from under 22 hours to more than 43 hours!",
"There are websites that allow individual travel agents to bid for a reward that you pay upfront by building a flight itinerary based on whether you'd prefer a lower price, less stopovers, less overall travel time, etc. I usually don't pay for travel agent services, but I do think these websites are worth it -- especially if you're currently looking at around $3,000.\n\n",
"I did a study abroad semester there flew from Detroit to SYD and it was around $2,200 I waited until 3 months before which is supposedly the best time and it looked like it held true. I do not know of any other secrets of searching and what not but I would advise a trick my uncle suggested.\n\nI flew Delta and they have a partnership with American express. There is a promotion that gave you 30,000 miles that plus the miles for flying there and back gave me a insane amount of reward miles I was not originally going to get.",
">I have been searching in incognito mode so they cannot trace my searches.\n\nNo useful advice on the flight booking, but I just wanna say this supposition is false and a misconception. All Incognito does is it doesnt store any data locally, like browsing history, search history. The website you are using can still collect this data no problem, and can recognize YOU from your browser's cookies (which incognito does NOT disable.) Analogously, its like going to a store (website) to buy something (view content) and showing ID (cookies). \"Incognito\" just means the clerk doesn't give you a receipt at the end. "
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"Getting into University soon Prepared the essentials for everything (clothing, stationary items, entry requirements) but something just doesn't seem right. Figured out maybe I was just wasn't ready because I'm the first in my family to go to Higher Education. Any tips would be deeply appreciated. :)\n\n",
"Getting into University soon Prepared the essentials for everything (clothing, stationary items, entry requirements) but something just doesn't seem right. Figured out maybe I was just wasn't ready because I'm the first in my family to go to Higher Education. Any tips would be deeply appreciated. :)\n\n",
"Getting into University soon Prepared the essentials for everything (clothing, stationary items, entry requirements) but something just doesn't seem right. Figured out maybe I was just wasn't ready because I'm the first in my family to go to Higher Education. Any tips would be deeply appreciated. :)\n\n",
"Getting into University soon Prepared the essentials for everything (clothing, stationary items, entry requirements) but something just doesn't seem right. Figured out maybe I was just wasn't ready because I'm the first in my family to go to Higher Education. Any tips would be deeply appreciated. :)\n\n",
"Getting into University soon Prepared the essentials for everything (clothing, stationary items, entry requirements) but something just doesn't seem right. Figured out maybe I was just wasn't ready because I'm the first in my family to go to Higher Education. Any tips would be deeply appreciated. :)\n\n",
"Getting into University soon Prepared the essentials for everything (clothing, stationary items, entry requirements) but something just doesn't seem right. Figured out maybe I was just wasn't ready because I'm the first in my family to go to Higher Education. Any tips would be deeply appreciated. :)\n\n"
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"Relax. Just remember everyone there is also new to it, or was their first year. Some are just better at pretending they're not freaking out a bit. Don't party to hard but do have some fun. Don't accept drinks from random strangers/leave a drink unattended. Even if it's water.",
"Take your classes seriously. Read the book, take your notes, study. This is about being able to have a job/ degree by which you can support yourself and your loved ones. Don't run around partying so much you fail out of school. If you want to do that nonsense, do it where you are not spending thousands of dollars for the privilege. There are much cheaper ways to screw up your life if that is what you want to do. \n\nStill, have fun. Be responsible though. It's your life and you live with the consequences either way. \n\nAlso, I recommend you keep a clean living space. It is such a turn off to the opposite sex when they realize you live in utter filth. ",
"I came from the same background as you -- First in my family to pursue higher education. I recently graduated, and here are some things I've learned over the years:\n\n- Don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and try new things/meet new people. College is definitely a time for exploration. People are generally very open minded and receptive to making new connections. Join clubs that interest you, talk to strangers, and don't be afraid to ask for their number to keep in contact. Don't be distraught either if it doesn't work out. Often times, people get busy with their own priorities. Always be open.\n\n- Talk to your professors. Go to office hours. Read the material beforehand. Don't procrastinate (hah)! The pace in college makes it easy to get lost in the material sometimes. It's okay to ask for help. You may even make a professional connection/referral from your professors; landing you your next internship or future job.\n\n- Take it easy. Yes, higher education is important. But if you're living on your own now away from family, it is equally as important to personally develop yourself. Find what you're truly interested and passionate about. Hang out with people and enjoy your time in college.\n\n- Party hard, but always be aware of your actions and surroundings. \n\nBest of luck! ",
"Don't forget the value of self-education. Go for something you're interested in beyond what classes give you, that way you may find your passing and won't burnout.",
"Try not to schedule your classes back to back. An hour in the middle of two classes is always worth getting back to your dorm an hour later. (Snack break, coffee break, errands, 20 minutes of exercise: these are things that will keep you focused for your second class.)\n\nDon't fall back on high school friends. Be prepared to make new friends and that your old friends may move in different directions. \n\nAs soon as possible, find out where walking-distance coffee shops are. \n\nTry to get to all classes 10-15 minutes in advance. You meet other students, and your professor will know that you care about the course. \n\nBUY flip flops if you shower in dorm showers. Your feet will thank you. \n",
"No one is allowed to go through any containers that are owned by you without your consent. If you've got a bottle of booze or whatever else you don't want the cops/dorm authorities to see, hide it in your laundry basket you brought or that tote bin from home, not the school provided dresser.\n\nAnd for the love of god, go to class! Classes that don't take attendance have the highest rate of failure "
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"Convert inches to cm It's quite annoying for me to look up on google all the time. Is there any way to do this faster? Like, a trick, some math or something like that?\n\nI think I sound stupid by asking that, but it seems like I'm not the only person who does not know an easier way to do that.",
"Convert inches to cm It's quite annoying for me to look up on google all the time. Is there any way to do this faster? Like, a trick, some math or something like that?\n\nI think I sound stupid by asking that, but it seems like I'm not the only person who does not know an easier way to do that.",
"Convert inches to cm It's quite annoying for me to look up on google all the time. Is there any way to do this faster? Like, a trick, some math or something like that?\n\nI think I sound stupid by asking that, but it seems like I'm not the only person who does not know an easier way to do that."
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"1 inch = 2.54 cm. Inches x 2.54 = cm\n\n3 inches x 2.5 =7.62 cm\n\n",
"Some quick, easy conversions. Use a converter if you need precise measurements, these are rounded for ease of memory.\n\nDistance: \n1 inch ~ 2.5 cm \n1 foot ~ 30 cm \n1 yard ~ 90 cm \n10 feet ~ 3 m \n1 mile ~ 1.6 km\n\nVolume: \n1 fluid ounce (fl oz) ~ 30 ml \n1 gallon ~ 4 l\n\nWeight: \n1 ounce ~ 30 g \n1 pound ~ 0.5 kg \n1 stone ~ 6 kg",
"If you just need to approximate, multiply by ten & divide by four. 20 inches -> 200/4 cm -> 50 cm, which is usably close to the real value of 50.8 cm. And those operations are both pretty easy to do in your head. "
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"How and where do I learn some essential life skills for staying home alone? Hello,\n\nI am going to be moving into a new country for the purposes of higher education, and will be renting by myself to live alone. So far the skills that I do know to live by myself are cooking, doing the laundry/dishes, being able to clean up after myself and driving. However, I have no idea about basic electrical maintenance, plumbing, car repair etc(basically essential handyman skills). Are there any resources to help learn these skills that you can suggest?",
"How and where do I learn some essential life skills for staying home alone? Hello,\n\nI am going to be moving into a new country for the purposes of higher education, and will be renting by myself to live alone. So far the skills that I do know to live by myself are cooking, doing the laundry/dishes, being able to clean up after myself and driving. However, I have no idea about basic electrical maintenance, plumbing, car repair etc(basically essential handyman skills). Are there any resources to help learn these skills that you can suggest?",
"How and where do I learn some essential life skills for staying home alone? Hello,\n\nI am going to be moving into a new country for the purposes of higher education, and will be renting by myself to live alone. So far the skills that I do know to live by myself are cooking, doing the laundry/dishes, being able to clean up after myself and driving. However, I have no idea about basic electrical maintenance, plumbing, car repair etc(basically essential handyman skills). Are there any resources to help learn these skills that you can suggest?",
"How and where do I learn some essential life skills for staying home alone? Hello,\n\nI am going to be moving into a new country for the purposes of higher education, and will be renting by myself to live alone. So far the skills that I do know to live by myself are cooking, doing the laundry/dishes, being able to clean up after myself and driving. However, I have no idea about basic electrical maintenance, plumbing, car repair etc(basically essential handyman skills). Are there any resources to help learn these skills that you can suggest?",
"How and where do I learn some essential life skills for staying home alone? Hello,\n\nI am going to be moving into a new country for the purposes of higher education, and will be renting by myself to live alone. So far the skills that I do know to live by myself are cooking, doing the laundry/dishes, being able to clean up after myself and driving. However, I have no idea about basic electrical maintenance, plumbing, car repair etc(basically essential handyman skills). Are there any resources to help learn these skills that you can suggest?",
"How and where do I learn some essential life skills for staying home alone? Hello,\n\nI am going to be moving into a new country for the purposes of higher education, and will be renting by myself to live alone. So far the skills that I do know to live by myself are cooking, doing the laundry/dishes, being able to clean up after myself and driving. However, I have no idea about basic electrical maintenance, plumbing, car repair etc(basically essential handyman skills). Are there any resources to help learn these skills that you can suggest?"
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"Search YouTube for the channel \"Dad How Do I?\"\n\nIt is a series of all sorts of adulting tasks explained in short videos. How to jump start a car. How to fix a toilet that is running. How to unclog a sink. And so many more!",
"If you are on here then you already have your answer. Between reddit subs, general Google searches, and good YouTube videos you can learn most simple fixes in a few minutes. Just be realistic about your own skills so that you don't try something you aren't prepared for, that is almost always when it goes to shit.",
"YouTube would be my recommendation. There are tutorials for everything on YouTube and most of them really easy to understand because of the video format.",
"As long as you can communicate effectively in your new host country, don’t stress about learning all this stuff before anything happens. \n\nLive your life; when you come to an issue, look on YouTube. Watch tutorials. Buy supplies online. Learn through doing.",
"Not a resource, but some advice is to try to avoid buying new things as your old stuff breaks. First try to repair them, if they are toast you will learn to become more confident in taking things apart and if you break anything it isn't a loss since it's already broken. The important thing is learning to tinker with things and how they are put together.",
"If you wanna learn cooking, just follow some easy receipts. With time just try to make them differently or add other spices etc. \nSoon you'll get a feeling for the food, how you like it prepared and sometime you'll be able to remember that stuff and won't need most of the receipts anymore."
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"Best method to find a stud without a stud finder I'm trying to hang a large and heavy picture and don't have a stud finder. I've googled the topic and have tried most of the top suggestions, but still the studs in this wall evade me.",
"Best method to find a stud without a stud finder I'm trying to hang a large and heavy picture and don't have a stud finder. I've googled the topic and have tried most of the top suggestions, but still the studs in this wall evade me.",
"Best method to find a stud without a stud finder I'm trying to hang a large and heavy picture and don't have a stud finder. I've googled the topic and have tried most of the top suggestions, but still the studs in this wall evade me.",
"Best method to find a stud without a stud finder I'm trying to hang a large and heavy picture and don't have a stud finder. I've googled the topic and have tried most of the top suggestions, but still the studs in this wall evade me.",
"Best method to find a stud without a stud finder I'm trying to hang a large and heavy picture and don't have a stud finder. I've googled the topic and have tried most of the top suggestions, but still the studs in this wall evade me.",
"Best method to find a stud without a stud finder I'm trying to hang a large and heavy picture and don't have a stud finder. I've googled the topic and have tried most of the top suggestions, but still the studs in this wall evade me.",
"Best method to find a stud without a stud finder I'm trying to hang a large and heavy picture and don't have a stud finder. I've googled the topic and have tried most of the top suggestions, but still the studs in this wall evade me.",
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"Start from your closes electrical outlet. Go over 1.5 inches and you'll be at the edge of your 2x4. From there go every 16 inches. USA constitution standard is 16 inches between studs. 18 inches over seas\n",
"Use a tape to estimate where the studs are and then hammer a finishing nail into the drywall to find each edge of the stud.",
"Tap the wall to find the soft and hard parts. They are at regular intervals so you can get the pattern if you try.",
"Best method is to find an area that may be nailed or screwed into a stud already and studs should be every 16\" apart from there. ",
"You might be able to use a strong magnets to find nails or screws in the studs, which will lead you to the studs. \n\nA stud finder doesn't cost that much & you'll probably use it again.",
"I use a thin but strong wire. I will poke the dry wall, in places that won't be seen easily (near the floor usually), till the wire doesn't \"pop\" through and hits a stud. From the first stud found I'll measure for then verify the location of other studs. Usually you can't see the pin holes at all if you used any sense picking the wire and poking the wall.",
"A couple of questions: How old is your house? Does it have plaster or drywall? Very old house may have irregular spaced studs. Also, if you have plaster, the change in sound from tapping on the wall is not as pronounced as it is with drywall.\n\n",
" I've used a long, narrow drill bit and drilled through the drywall/plaster in an inconspicuous spot at an angle. Then I could fish a wire through to hit a stud, pull out the wire, using its measured length to find the edge of the stud. If you see sawdust from the drill, you may be hitting a stud immediately. Avoid drilling between 1-2 ft height, avoid close electrical. The 16\" on center is usually true in the USA.\n\nIf there is easy access to pulling out baseboard, that can be pried out to find studs by looking underneath the drywall for studs.\n\nA stud finder is cheap and pays for itself in one use."
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"How do you motivate yourself to take a bath on a cold winter morning? Yeah I know hot water is the solution, but it really takes an effort to step into the cold bathroom, and removing your clothes doesn't help the case. ",
"How do you motivate yourself to take a bath on a cold winter morning? Yeah I know hot water is the solution, but it really takes an effort to step into the cold bathroom, and removing your clothes doesn't help the case. ",
"How do you motivate yourself to take a bath on a cold winter morning? Yeah I know hot water is the solution, but it really takes an effort to step into the cold bathroom, and removing your clothes doesn't help the case. ",
"How do you motivate yourself to take a bath on a cold winter morning? Yeah I know hot water is the solution, but it really takes an effort to step into the cold bathroom, and removing your clothes doesn't help the case. ",
"How do you motivate yourself to take a bath on a cold winter morning? Yeah I know hot water is the solution, but it really takes an effort to step into the cold bathroom, and removing your clothes doesn't help the case. "
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"Baths are much harder in the morning then showers. For me, it's like a bandaid. I wake up in the morning, rip my covers off, run to the bathroom and turn the shower on, throw my clothes off, and jump in. Going fast gets your heart rate up, making you warmer and waking you up, and it puts you in the shower as quickly as possible. ",
"I used to live in a house with a terribly, horribly cold bathroom. Not sure this is the answer to your question, but I would take a hot shower and then gradually drop the water temp before getting out. Helps to acclimatize you to a cold room. ",
"I like letting the hot shower run for a little, to steam the room, before plugging the drain and letting the tub fill up.\n\nThen removing my blanket and clothes before I jump in.",
"I always have a space heater going in the bathroom in the winter. Also helps keep the mirror from getting all foggy if your fan isn't working.",
"Don't think, just do. Just count down from 3 and force yourself to get up at 1. It's works, sometimes at least"
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"How do I manage a high volume of work emails productively? Hi Reddit,\n\nI've recently started a role where I receive a large number of emails from work (around 100 per day). There is a culture at work where everyone CC's many people in the email 'for their information'. Additionally, there are three main languages here (Korean, Japanese, English) and people prefer communications in email so that they can translate them easily. It's hard to work out what emails are important and what aren't. It's also hard to track work that I need to do and by when.\n\nI've learned a few techniques for administering work (using Outlook tasks/categories for example) but they haven't scaled at all well to the sheer number of emails.\n\nSo Reddit - what are your Life Pro Tips for navigating, sorting, and acting upon a high volume of work emails?",
"How do I manage a high volume of work emails productively? Hi Reddit,\n\nI've recently started a role where I receive a large number of emails from work (around 100 per day). There is a culture at work where everyone CC's many people in the email 'for their information'. Additionally, there are three main languages here (Korean, Japanese, English) and people prefer communications in email so that they can translate them easily. It's hard to work out what emails are important and what aren't. It's also hard to track work that I need to do and by when.\n\nI've learned a few techniques for administering work (using Outlook tasks/categories for example) but they haven't scaled at all well to the sheer number of emails.\n\nSo Reddit - what are your Life Pro Tips for navigating, sorting, and acting upon a high volume of work emails?",
"How do I manage a high volume of work emails productively? Hi Reddit,\n\nI've recently started a role where I receive a large number of emails from work (around 100 per day). There is a culture at work where everyone CC's many people in the email 'for their information'. Additionally, there are three main languages here (Korean, Japanese, English) and people prefer communications in email so that they can translate them easily. It's hard to work out what emails are important and what aren't. It's also hard to track work that I need to do and by when.\n\nI've learned a few techniques for administering work (using Outlook tasks/categories for example) but they haven't scaled at all well to the sheer number of emails.\n\nSo Reddit - what are your Life Pro Tips for navigating, sorting, and acting upon a high volume of work emails?",
"How do I manage a high volume of work emails productively? Hi Reddit,\n\nI've recently started a role where I receive a large number of emails from work (around 100 per day). There is a culture at work where everyone CC's many people in the email 'for their information'. Additionally, there are three main languages here (Korean, Japanese, English) and people prefer communications in email so that they can translate them easily. It's hard to work out what emails are important and what aren't. It's also hard to track work that I need to do and by when.\n\nI've learned a few techniques for administering work (using Outlook tasks/categories for example) but they haven't scaled at all well to the sheer number of emails.\n\nSo Reddit - what are your Life Pro Tips for navigating, sorting, and acting upon a high volume of work emails?",
"How do I manage a high volume of work emails productively? Hi Reddit,\n\nI've recently started a role where I receive a large number of emails from work (around 100 per day). There is a culture at work where everyone CC's many people in the email 'for their information'. Additionally, there are three main languages here (Korean, Japanese, English) and people prefer communications in email so that they can translate them easily. It's hard to work out what emails are important and what aren't. It's also hard to track work that I need to do and by when.\n\nI've learned a few techniques for administering work (using Outlook tasks/categories for example) but they haven't scaled at all well to the sheer number of emails.\n\nSo Reddit - what are your Life Pro Tips for navigating, sorting, and acting upon a high volume of work emails?",
"How do I manage a high volume of work emails productively? Hi Reddit,\n\nI've recently started a role where I receive a large number of emails from work (around 100 per day). There is a culture at work where everyone CC's many people in the email 'for their information'. Additionally, there are three main languages here (Korean, Japanese, English) and people prefer communications in email so that they can translate them easily. It's hard to work out what emails are important and what aren't. It's also hard to track work that I need to do and by when.\n\nI've learned a few techniques for administering work (using Outlook tasks/categories for example) but they haven't scaled at all well to the sheer number of emails.\n\nSo Reddit - what are your Life Pro Tips for navigating, sorting, and acting upon a high volume of work emails?",
"How do I manage a high volume of work emails productively? Hi Reddit,\n\nI've recently started a role where I receive a large number of emails from work (around 100 per day). There is a culture at work where everyone CC's many people in the email 'for their information'. Additionally, there are three main languages here (Korean, Japanese, English) and people prefer communications in email so that they can translate them easily. It's hard to work out what emails are important and what aren't. It's also hard to track work that I need to do and by when.\n\nI've learned a few techniques for administering work (using Outlook tasks/categories for example) but they haven't scaled at all well to the sheer number of emails.\n\nSo Reddit - what are your Life Pro Tips for navigating, sorting, and acting upon a high volume of work emails?"
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"Pretty much like everyone said, folders & labels. I just left a company that was CC happy. They said it was for information sharing but really it was just a form of micromanagement. ",
"Read them in one go at the start or end of the day. I only read my emails once a day, sometimes once every two days unless my boss tells me to read a mail he sent. He normally only tells me to read my mail if it's urgent.\n\nIf an email is important and urgent enough for you to read immediately, the sender will inform you by phone.\n\n\nHowever, I do know that Schlumberger, an oilfield services company requires employees to read their emails every half an hour and respond immediately. Depends on how frequently your company requires you to read your emails.",
"I would love to ONLY get a 100 emails a day...\n\nI SORT into three primary groups:\n\nAction: the ones I need to respond to, and secondary sort by priority\n\nInformation: the ones I need to read, and that can wait for a slack period\n\nAdvertising: or spam, seminars, new business offers and the like, those get deleted as quickly as they get identified.\n\nAnd I bet you will get lots of good ideas.\n\nAnd once I act on an email, it goes into an appropriate folder and I have dozens, both active and archive",
"I created a \"search folder\" in Outlook that shows only the emails that have me in the To: field.\n\nHelps me prioritize the emails that I \"need\" to read...",
"Check into OutLook's rules. You can select a name or a keyword or some other trait to trigger actions... \nthere are some awesome tutorials on Rules!",
"I have created different folders for different things and as I read the emails I put them in the appropriate folder. ",
"Create folders. Lots and lots of folders. Current projects. Inactive projects. References. Office related stuff. Newsletters. IT Stuff. Stuff stuff.\n\nAll unread stuff stays in my inbox. Once I've read an email, I file it to the appropriate folder.\n\nI'd suggest you only check your emails at specific times during the day. Every hour or every two hours, whichever works for you. Don't be tempted to respond to them as soon as they come in.\n\nOn a similar note, I saw a comment saying the person only looks at and reads emails with their name on the \"to\" field. Don't do that. If someone's copying you on an email, you need to be aware of the content of that email. You may not have to respond to it, but you should still read it. Gotta be accessible and responsive."
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"How to warm up a bathroom before showering. I usually let the water run for about five minutes, but I just feel extrmely wasteful and I want to know if there's a better way.\n\n- I wake up before the heat kicks in.\n\n- One wall of the shower being an outside wall with a window.\n\n- The floor is overhead of the garage.\n\n\nSo... my bathroom is **COLD**. What are your tips?",
"How to warm up a bathroom before showering. I usually let the water run for about five minutes, but I just feel extrmely wasteful and I want to know if there's a better way.\n\n- I wake up before the heat kicks in.\n\n- One wall of the shower being an outside wall with a window.\n\n- The floor is overhead of the garage.\n\n\nSo... my bathroom is **COLD**. What are your tips?",
"How to warm up a bathroom before showering. I usually let the water run for about five minutes, but I just feel extrmely wasteful and I want to know if there's a better way.\n\n- I wake up before the heat kicks in.\n\n- One wall of the shower being an outside wall with a window.\n\n- The floor is overhead of the garage.\n\n\nSo... my bathroom is **COLD**. What are your tips?",
"How to warm up a bathroom before showering. I usually let the water run for about five minutes, but I just feel extrmely wasteful and I want to know if there's a better way.\n\n- I wake up before the heat kicks in.\n\n- One wall of the shower being an outside wall with a window.\n\n- The floor is overhead of the garage.\n\n\nSo... my bathroom is **COLD**. What are your tips?",
"How to warm up a bathroom before showering. I usually let the water run for about five minutes, but I just feel extrmely wasteful and I want to know if there's a better way.\n\n- I wake up before the heat kicks in.\n\n- One wall of the shower being an outside wall with a window.\n\n- The floor is overhead of the garage.\n\n\nSo... my bathroom is **COLD**. What are your tips?",
"How to warm up a bathroom before showering. I usually let the water run for about five minutes, but I just feel extrmely wasteful and I want to know if there's a better way.\n\n- I wake up before the heat kicks in.\n\n- One wall of the shower being an outside wall with a window.\n\n- The floor is overhead of the garage.\n\n\nSo... my bathroom is **COLD**. What are your tips?",
"How to warm up a bathroom before showering. I usually let the water run for about five minutes, but I just feel extrmely wasteful and I want to know if there's a better way.\n\n- I wake up before the heat kicks in.\n\n- One wall of the shower being an outside wall with a window.\n\n- The floor is overhead of the garage.\n\n\nSo... my bathroom is **COLD**. What are your tips?",
"How to warm up a bathroom before showering. I usually let the water run for about five minutes, but I just feel extrmely wasteful and I want to know if there's a better way.\n\n- I wake up before the heat kicks in.\n\n- One wall of the shower being an outside wall with a window.\n\n- The floor is overhead of the garage.\n\n\nSo... my bathroom is **COLD**. What are your tips?",
"How to warm up a bathroom before showering. I usually let the water run for about five minutes, but I just feel extrmely wasteful and I want to know if there's a better way.\n\n- I wake up before the heat kicks in.\n\n- One wall of the shower being an outside wall with a window.\n\n- The floor is overhead of the garage.\n\n\nSo... my bathroom is **COLD**. What are your tips?",
"How to warm up a bathroom before showering. I usually let the water run for about five minutes, but I just feel extrmely wasteful and I want to know if there's a better way.\n\n- I wake up before the heat kicks in.\n\n- One wall of the shower being an outside wall with a window.\n\n- The floor is overhead of the garage.\n\n\nSo... my bathroom is **COLD**. What are your tips?"
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"A small to medium charcoal or fire pit. I find if you let it smolder through the night, the haze warms everything up. ",
"Plug heating pad into gfci outlet and wrap in bath towel and turn on high. When you get out off the nice warm shower, the room will still be closed but the warm towel might make it better.\n\nIs there an overhead light fixture that can be fitted with a heat lamp during the winter while leaving regular bulbs in the bar over the mirror? Hotels used to use that trick.",
"If your washer/dryer is also in your bathroom, what I do before getting in the shower is I put my towels and clothes for the day in the dryer, put it on express dry so it's nice and toasty once I'm out of the shower c: ",
"I use a space heater and so does my mom and sister, I just be sure to keep it near the door away from water",
"Run the faucet in the tub on full hot until the water coming out is too hot to touch. Then put a stopper in the tub and fill it to a depth of about one inch. Then leave the room and come back in fifteen minutes to half an hour.\n\nThe heat from the 175 degree water will dissipate into the room.",
"Dot just warm the towel, but your bathrobe etc.... space heater is my answer just pull it into the doorway for a few minutes. ",
"If your shower is a tub combo, run the lower spigot until it gets hot, then put the plug in and run an inch or two of hot water that you can stand in. Alternately, to waste less time, boil a kettle while you're eating breakfast and dump it on your shower floor. Warm feet make a huge difference in body temperature, especially when that surface is just above the garage and is frigid. \n\nThe towel-warming thing is also a great idea. ",
"If you're not a filthy prole like me, and you've got your own laundry appliances, put your towel in the dryer.",
"I would just man up. Some real first world problems here. Running the water for five minutes just to heat things up a little bit is indeed extremely wasteful. ",
"Do pushups (30-50). You get exercise and Your body heats up.\n\nSource: My roommate smokes on the bathroom window most mornings leaving the bathroom COLD (winter time) before I wake up to go for the shower. Im not complaining cause it motivates me to do the damn things."
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"I’m 16 and need help purchasing a plane ticket and need to know if you need id Me and another 16 year old friend are planning to fly alone to another state and basically need to know the basics",
"I’m 16 and need help purchasing a plane ticket and need to know if you need id Me and another 16 year old friend are planning to fly alone to another state and basically need to know the basics",
"I’m 16 and need help purchasing a plane ticket and need to know if you need id Me and another 16 year old friend are planning to fly alone to another state and basically need to know the basics",
"I’m 16 and need help purchasing a plane ticket and need to know if you need id Me and another 16 year old friend are planning to fly alone to another state and basically need to know the basics",
"I’m 16 and need help purchasing a plane ticket and need to know if you need id Me and another 16 year old friend are planning to fly alone to another state and basically need to know the basics",
"I’m 16 and need help purchasing a plane ticket and need to know if you need id Me and another 16 year old friend are planning to fly alone to another state and basically need to know the basics"
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"To get on the plane you’ll need a photo ID or passport. You don’t need an ID to buy the ticket online.",
"Airline worker here:\n1) Yes you can purchase at the airport, day of travel, but that depends on the airline. You will probably need to have exact change before getting your boarding pass. Call the airline and have the seats held for you. Most times you will need a cr",
"> underage drug addict from down south, moving to Chicago during winter with no money\n\nYou'll do great, champ.",
"[https://www.tsa.gov/travel/security-screening/identification](https://www.tsa.gov/travel/security-screening/identification)\n\n\"TSA does not require children under 18 to provide identification when traveling within the United States. Contact the airline for questions regarding specific ID requirements for travelers under 18.\"\n\nI would just call your airline and ask what you need to present to fly with them, and tell them your age.",
"Op you are on a very slippery slope. The age of majority in Texas is 18. A person must wait until he/she reaches that age before being able to move out without parental or a guardian's consent.\n\nWith that being said if you leave your state and home with your girlfriend who is also a minor, without explicit consent (in writing and notarized to be safe)from both sets of parents, you could be considered a runaway, an possibly be charged with abduction.",
"I'm sorry you both are going through this. I hope it works out for you both. \n\nMake copies of your birth certificates. Idk if it's possible for you to just get a state ID card but I don't think it costs much. I don't remember if a parent needs to be involved or not."
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"Apartment Security Trying to make my apartment a little more burglar-proof without spending too much money, if any at all. Any of you have some cheap suggestions without having to permanently modify my apartment? Prefer not to spend anymore than $50 total. \n\nA few details about my layout if it helps: Second floor apartment. One large window near the front door that I never open (I also covered it with a roll of black paper along with the blinds to prevent people looking in). One large bedroom window. One small bathroom window above the toilet. One small window in the kitchen above the sink. Balcony with sliding glass door. Front door has a deadbolt as well as doorknob lock. \n\n",
"Apartment Security Trying to make my apartment a little more burglar-proof without spending too much money, if any at all. Any of you have some cheap suggestions without having to permanently modify my apartment? Prefer not to spend anymore than $50 total. \n\nA few details about my layout if it helps: Second floor apartment. One large window near the front door that I never open (I also covered it with a roll of black paper along with the blinds to prevent people looking in). One large bedroom window. One small bathroom window above the toilet. One small window in the kitchen above the sink. Balcony with sliding glass door. Front door has a deadbolt as well as doorknob lock. \n\n",
"Apartment Security Trying to make my apartment a little more burglar-proof without spending too much money, if any at all. Any of you have some cheap suggestions without having to permanently modify my apartment? Prefer not to spend anymore than $50 total. \n\nA few details about my layout if it helps: Second floor apartment. One large window near the front door that I never open (I also covered it with a roll of black paper along with the blinds to prevent people looking in). One large bedroom window. One small bathroom window above the toilet. One small window in the kitchen above the sink. Balcony with sliding glass door. Front door has a deadbolt as well as doorknob lock. \n\n",
"Apartment Security Trying to make my apartment a little more burglar-proof without spending too much money, if any at all. Any of you have some cheap suggestions without having to permanently modify my apartment? Prefer not to spend anymore than $50 total. \n\nA few details about my layout if it helps: Second floor apartment. One large window near the front door that I never open (I also covered it with a roll of black paper along with the blinds to prevent people looking in). One large bedroom window. One small bathroom window above the toilet. One small window in the kitchen above the sink. Balcony with sliding glass door. Front door has a deadbolt as well as doorknob lock. \n\n",
"Apartment Security Trying to make my apartment a little more burglar-proof without spending too much money, if any at all. Any of you have some cheap suggestions without having to permanently modify my apartment? Prefer not to spend anymore than $50 total. \n\nA few details about my layout if it helps: Second floor apartment. One large window near the front door that I never open (I also covered it with a roll of black paper along with the blinds to prevent people looking in). One large bedroom window. One small bathroom window above the toilet. One small window in the kitchen above the sink. Balcony with sliding glass door. Front door has a deadbolt as well as doorknob lock. \n\n",
"Apartment Security Trying to make my apartment a little more burglar-proof without spending too much money, if any at all. Any of you have some cheap suggestions without having to permanently modify my apartment? Prefer not to spend anymore than $50 total. \n\nA few details about my layout if it helps: Second floor apartment. One large window near the front door that I never open (I also covered it with a roll of black paper along with the blinds to prevent people looking in). One large bedroom window. One small bathroom window above the toilet. One small window in the kitchen above the sink. Balcony with sliding glass door. Front door has a deadbolt as well as doorknob lock. \n\n",
"Apartment Security Trying to make my apartment a little more burglar-proof without spending too much money, if any at all. Any of you have some cheap suggestions without having to permanently modify my apartment? Prefer not to spend anymore than $50 total. \n\nA few details about my layout if it helps: Second floor apartment. One large window near the front door that I never open (I also covered it with a roll of black paper along with the blinds to prevent people looking in). One large bedroom window. One small bathroom window above the toilet. One small window in the kitchen above the sink. Balcony with sliding glass door. Front door has a deadbolt as well as doorknob lock. \n\n",
"Apartment Security Trying to make my apartment a little more burglar-proof without spending too much money, if any at all. Any of you have some cheap suggestions without having to permanently modify my apartment? Prefer not to spend anymore than $50 total. \n\nA few details about my layout if it helps: Second floor apartment. One large window near the front door that I never open (I also covered it with a roll of black paper along with the blinds to prevent people looking in). One large bedroom window. One small bathroom window above the toilet. One small window in the kitchen above the sink. Balcony with sliding glass door. Front door has a deadbolt as well as doorknob lock. \n\n"
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"My college apartment was broken into a couple years ago. Afterwards, I made it a fortress. You can buy the glass vibration alarms to stick on your windows, as well as ones to use on the sliding glass door and your front door. These will go off whenever the windows are touched or the door is opened. These are cheap. I just did a quick google search and the ones that popped up are 8 dollars each. I also used the pieces of wood in the horizontal windows and sliding doors and installed a chain on the front door. Stay safe!",
"If you have horizontal sliding windows or patio door(glass sliding door), place a piece of wood on the border so that it cant slide open. Deadbolt on the top and bottom of the door will make it harder to bust the door open. ",
"Since you want to avoid any permanent modification, if you have a deadbolt/thumb turn thing on the inside of your door, [one of these](http://mcchitech.com/mcchi-store.html#!/LOKmate-Single-Pack/p/65071007/category=0) will make it pretty difficult to enter if not impossible.\n\nAs for the windows, they are pretty much your security flaw after you've dealt with the door. They make battery operated glass break sensors that will send out an audible alarm but that's pretty much all you can do in an apartment setting.\n\nThe good news is that for the most part your apartment will be left alone by opportunistic thieves (the absolute imbeciles or the pros will still give it a try) because dense living like that increases the chance of being caught so most opportunistic thieves look for easier targets.",
"Get rentwrs insurance. Its about 7 bucks per month, but it can save you THOUSANDS. \n\nI had a washing machine that I installed break and leak water all over the apartment below us. It destroyed everything in the back half of their home. Renters insurance paid the whole thing and my premium stayed the same.\n\nIt also covers stolen personal property. \n\nIf youre worried about rapists and people coming in while youre home install a chain lock from the inside",
"Cheapest modification for the most improvement would be to remove the screw that is in the front door frame. By that I mean the part that the door handle latches to. These usually come with cheap short screws. Replace it for pennies with a sturdier long screw. The door will be much harder to kick in.",
"https://www.my-alfred.com. You'll need wifi, extra phone with camera {doesn't need phone plan, and the app on your smart phone you carry with you. It works very nicely. ",
"When I am home I place a brace up against the front door knob. I lived in Eastern Kansas City Missouri and it stopped a number of break-ins. ",
"Depending on the type of windows, you can add window vent locks or windows stops to add another layer of security. These allow the window to be opened 6\" or so to allow for ventilation, but also provide a second layer of protection in addition to the sash lock whether the window is open or closed. They work better on older, wooden sash windows, but can sometimes work on newer vinyl-clad windows. There are other types of similar inexpensive locks that will work on slider windows. As has been mentioned, for sash windows, you could jam a piece of wood to prevent the window from being opened.\n\nHaving a piece of wood in your sliding glass door track is a very good thing. You could make it 4\" or so shorter than the width of the door to allow the door to be slightly open for ventilation and still be secured.\n\nThere are also security bars that work to keep your front door wedged closed while you're inside -- they have a rubber grip bottom and hook under the door knob to keep the door from being pressed up. Inexpensive door wedges (some have alarms) can also be used to keep your front door from being forced open while you're insider."
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"How to get 'sour milk' smell out of my concrete floor. It's been like this for a long time, I don't even know where it came from - a strong suspect is a bag that contained whipped cream.\n\nI think I've located the stain, but I can't get the smell out. I've tried soap, boiled water, alcohol, enzyme bleach, and I'm about to pour it under in vinegar. I don't know what else to do.\n\nAny suggestions??\n",
"How to get 'sour milk' smell out of my concrete floor. It's been like this for a long time, I don't even know where it came from - a strong suspect is a bag that contained whipped cream.\n\nI think I've located the stain, but I can't get the smell out. I've tried soap, boiled water, alcohol, enzyme bleach, and I'm about to pour it under in vinegar. I don't know what else to do.\n\nAny suggestions??\n"
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"the heat from a hair drier is probally sufficent, if it stinks more when you hit it with the hairdrier, its working",
"Completely untried suggestion that may burn your house down ... have you tried heat? Presumably the dairy product went down in to the pores of the concrete. So perhaps kill it with fire, like a blowtorch; or with heat from something like a clothes iron; or pour on meths and set that on fire (don't pour more on once you've lit it unless you want to try holding a handful of burning meths and melted plastic)?\n\nYou're going to want to take precautions (like making sure the floor isn't covered in grease), have someone with you and a fire extinguisher and bucket of sand to hand.\n\nDid I mention you'll probably kill yourself?\n\nOther than that I'd have thought covering over it with a floor sealant would work - self levelling compound or concrete sealant. That option is probably a lot safer too. Don't cross the streams."
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"What is the best anti virus protection software for pc (and mac) that I can get? Like the title says, what are the best softwares available and what are the difference between them? I've been using AVG Free all my life just because my dad has been using it, but haven't installed anything yet on my new laptop and was wondering if there was a better option out there. I know the best way to not get a virus is to not click on shady links and download mysterious stuff.",
"What is the best anti virus protection software for pc (and mac) that I can get? Like the title says, what are the best softwares available and what are the difference between them? I've been using AVG Free all my life just because my dad has been using it, but haven't installed anything yet on my new laptop and was wondering if there was a better option out there. I know the best way to not get a virus is to not click on shady links and download mysterious stuff.",
"What is the best anti virus protection software for pc (and mac) that I can get? Like the title says, what are the best softwares available and what are the difference between them? I've been using AVG Free all my life just because my dad has been using it, but haven't installed anything yet on my new laptop and was wondering if there was a better option out there. I know the best way to not get a virus is to not click on shady links and download mysterious stuff.",
"What is the best anti virus protection software for pc (and mac) that I can get? Like the title says, what are the best softwares available and what are the difference between them? I've been using AVG Free all my life just because my dad has been using it, but haven't installed anything yet on my new laptop and was wondering if there was a better option out there. I know the best way to not get a virus is to not click on shady links and download mysterious stuff.",
"What is the best anti virus protection software for pc (and mac) that I can get? Like the title says, what are the best softwares available and what are the difference between them? I've been using AVG Free all my life just because my dad has been using it, but haven't installed anything yet on my new laptop and was wondering if there was a better option out there. I know the best way to not get a virus is to not click on shady links and download mysterious stuff.",
"What is the best anti virus protection software for pc (and mac) that I can get? Like the title says, what are the best softwares available and what are the difference between them? I've been using AVG Free all my life just because my dad has been using it, but haven't installed anything yet on my new laptop and was wondering if there was a better option out there. I know the best way to not get a virus is to not click on shady links and download mysterious stuff."
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"I had AVG for while, but then got Norton for free thanks to Comcast.\nThey will give you a free download of it if you have a internet service from them. \n\nLoaded it onto two computers which i took with me since switching to other internet providers. \n\nI like it better then AVG and it has been able to stop viruses and block links before i even consider clicking them. \n\nAgain most of it is common sense. But this helps alot when your browsing places looking for movies, music, and more. ",
"You don't just \"get\" viruses. You have to click on shady links and download mysterious stuff. You already know this, so what better tip could somebody give you?\n\nBut if I had to get one, I'd get Malwarebytes Premium.",
"Read the details of every single checkbox when installing programs. Many programs have potentially unwanted programs (PUPs) piggybacked onto them by default. Uncheck or check the box during installation depending on which action will mean that program doesn't get installed. Also, some are not checkboxes, and you will have to click buttons that are counterintuitive and seem like they will terminate the install process (like cancel instead of next), but will actually just skip the PUP install and go to the next step of the normal install.\n\n",
"My father is infatuated with an Anti Virus/Optimizer called \"PC Matic\" that he sees on TV. I've tried explaining to him that nobody in computer security or anybody I know that knows anything about computers considers it good protection or uses it.\n\nBut he \"likes\" the commercial and he's a huge sucker for shit like this. I installed MalwareBytes and Norton AV but he still thinks PC Matic is good because the commercial said it's good. I'm like wtf, of course they say it's good. And he thinks MalwareBytes is a virus btw.....He deleted it once, and I found over 100 different pieces of malware ,adware and other crap.",
"Malwarebytes, ADW Cleaner, Spybot search and destroy, Cleaner and Defraggler. That's all you need ever",
"I use Super AntiSpyware. Its free and they send out regular updates which catches a good amount of the stuff out there. "
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"How to study for 5 hours straight Basically I have a final test tomorrow, and the material I have can be finished (and I can actually get an A) only if I am able to actually focus for 5 hours straight. In my studies I noticed that my concentration starts falling off after around 2 hours, so I really need help improving this.\n",
"How to study for 5 hours straight Basically I have a final test tomorrow, and the material I have can be finished (and I can actually get an A) only if I am able to actually focus for 5 hours straight. In my studies I noticed that my concentration starts falling off after around 2 hours, so I really need help improving this.\n",
"How to study for 5 hours straight Basically I have a final test tomorrow, and the material I have can be finished (and I can actually get an A) only if I am able to actually focus for 5 hours straight. In my studies I noticed that my concentration starts falling off after around 2 hours, so I really need help improving this.\n",
"How to study for 5 hours straight Basically I have a final test tomorrow, and the material I have can be finished (and I can actually get an A) only if I am able to actually focus for 5 hours straight. In my studies I noticed that my concentration starts falling off after around 2 hours, so I really need help improving this.\n",
"How to study for 5 hours straight Basically I have a final test tomorrow, and the material I have can be finished (and I can actually get an A) only if I am able to actually focus for 5 hours straight. In my studies I noticed that my concentration starts falling off after around 2 hours, so I really need help improving this.\n"
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"First, visualize what it will look like studying for 5 hours straight. Embrace it. Remind yourself why you're doing it. Then, get to work and take breaks. Listen to some [study music](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2JQsf7i_dXY). Most of all, relax. This is the opportunity to escape the world for a couple hours.",
"You only have a few hours and you chose to go to reddit. Which means you probably had a hard time developing a study habit. I used to cram and this helped me.\n\n\nThink that you are pretty much fcked if you don't study hard. Uninstall all forms of social media.\n\nOh and... The real solution to your problem is to not cram everything in one night. Study a week before or ASAP.",
"Study for an hour and a half at a time max with 15 minute breaks. That's 4.5 hours of studying and you'll be able to concentrate better and learn more with the breaks.",
"Best way to study for 5 hours is just simply not to do it straight. 2 hours max, then take a break. Do that a couple of times. Then go to bed early and review what you can in the morning.",
"You're wasting time on Reddit you Dumbass.\nGo and study. And next time start early.\n\nAll my engineering life I did these one night studies just one day before exams and ruined my life. "
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"how to remove old apartment smell I moved into an apartment almost a month ago. I'm not sure exactly how old the apartment complex is, but it's pretty old. Anyways, the day I moved in I noticed the apartment had a smell to it. It doesn't really smell like anything that I've smelled before, and it doesn't smell bad. But it's definitely not a plesant smell. I bought a Glade air freshner that goes off every 15 minutes as well as a hot plate that melts scented wax. This helps a little, but of course the smell returns if I turn off the hot plate. Any ideas? ",
"how to remove old apartment smell I moved into an apartment almost a month ago. I'm not sure exactly how old the apartment complex is, but it's pretty old. Anyways, the day I moved in I noticed the apartment had a smell to it. It doesn't really smell like anything that I've smelled before, and it doesn't smell bad. But it's definitely not a plesant smell. I bought a Glade air freshner that goes off every 15 minutes as well as a hot plate that melts scented wax. This helps a little, but of course the smell returns if I turn off the hot plate. Any ideas? "
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"Bleach, a bucket, and a sponge mop. Start with the ceiling, then walls, then floor. Smoking, pets, lack of personal care, all make up a weird funk in a place. Also, any drapes , and floor coverings need dry cleaned or shampooed. Just good old elbow grease is what you need, that is something they can't sell in an aerosol can.",
"Depending on the type of odor, you can try an ozone generator. Just be careful if you DIY, and read the safety warnings and instructions.\n"
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"Killing an annoying mosquito The last 2 springs and summers have been absolutely horrible for me in terms of sleep and it is caused by only 1 very small, yet annoying creature: The mosquito and I can add this spring/summer to the list too.\n\nThe first summer is got stuck with 1 was just 1 or 2. the 2nd one was the worst: No matter how many mosquitos I swatted, a new one popped up instantly. I had killed over 26 mosquitos in 1 night, sacrificing precious sleep TRYING to find them. Now I am only stuck with 1 again, but I have an absolute horrendous time trying to find it. My room is kinda big, but because my house is an absolute mess, my room looks like a storage unit and I barely can move into 60% of my room.\n\nBit of info:\n\n- I do not have a window net or a net for my bed. Not that it will do much right now with 1 in the room itself\n- I have no 2nd light source (other than my regular ceiling lamp for my room). I tried many times putting my phone's flashlight on and aiming it towards the wall, just to not attract the mosquito's attention\n- I have no ventilator available.\n\nThe only stuff that I currently have that kinda repels it is DEET which I need to rub on my body, but the smell is pretty horrible.\n\nAre there any other things I can try to get rid of the pesky mosquito?",
"Killing an annoying mosquito The last 2 springs and summers have been absolutely horrible for me in terms of sleep and it is caused by only 1 very small, yet annoying creature: The mosquito and I can add this spring/summer to the list too.\n\nThe first summer is got stuck with 1 was just 1 or 2. the 2nd one was the worst: No matter how many mosquitos I swatted, a new one popped up instantly. I had killed over 26 mosquitos in 1 night, sacrificing precious sleep TRYING to find them. Now I am only stuck with 1 again, but I have an absolute horrendous time trying to find it. My room is kinda big, but because my house is an absolute mess, my room looks like a storage unit and I barely can move into 60% of my room.\n\nBit of info:\n\n- I do not have a window net or a net for my bed. Not that it will do much right now with 1 in the room itself\n- I have no 2nd light source (other than my regular ceiling lamp for my room). I tried many times putting my phone's flashlight on and aiming it towards the wall, just to not attract the mosquito's attention\n- I have no ventilator available.\n\nThe only stuff that I currently have that kinda repels it is DEET which I need to rub on my body, but the smell is pretty horrible.\n\nAre there any other things I can try to get rid of the pesky mosquito?",
"Killing an annoying mosquito The last 2 springs and summers have been absolutely horrible for me in terms of sleep and it is caused by only 1 very small, yet annoying creature: The mosquito and I can add this spring/summer to the list too.\n\nThe first summer is got stuck with 1 was just 1 or 2. the 2nd one was the worst: No matter how many mosquitos I swatted, a new one popped up instantly. I had killed over 26 mosquitos in 1 night, sacrificing precious sleep TRYING to find them. Now I am only stuck with 1 again, but I have an absolute horrendous time trying to find it. My room is kinda big, but because my house is an absolute mess, my room looks like a storage unit and I barely can move into 60% of my room.\n\nBit of info:\n\n- I do not have a window net or a net for my bed. Not that it will do much right now with 1 in the room itself\n- I have no 2nd light source (other than my regular ceiling lamp for my room). I tried many times putting my phone's flashlight on and aiming it towards the wall, just to not attract the mosquito's attention\n- I have no ventilator available.\n\nThe only stuff that I currently have that kinda repels it is DEET which I need to rub on my body, but the smell is pretty horrible.\n\nAre there any other things I can try to get rid of the pesky mosquito?",
"Killing an annoying mosquito The last 2 springs and summers have been absolutely horrible for me in terms of sleep and it is caused by only 1 very small, yet annoying creature: The mosquito and I can add this spring/summer to the list too.\n\nThe first summer is got stuck with 1 was just 1 or 2. the 2nd one was the worst: No matter how many mosquitos I swatted, a new one popped up instantly. I had killed over 26 mosquitos in 1 night, sacrificing precious sleep TRYING to find them. Now I am only stuck with 1 again, but I have an absolute horrendous time trying to find it. My room is kinda big, but because my house is an absolute mess, my room looks like a storage unit and I barely can move into 60% of my room.\n\nBit of info:\n\n- I do not have a window net or a net for my bed. Not that it will do much right now with 1 in the room itself\n- I have no 2nd light source (other than my regular ceiling lamp for my room). I tried many times putting my phone's flashlight on and aiming it towards the wall, just to not attract the mosquito's attention\n- I have no ventilator available.\n\nThe only stuff that I currently have that kinda repels it is DEET which I need to rub on my body, but the smell is pretty horrible.\n\nAre there any other things I can try to get rid of the pesky mosquito?"
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"I heard recently that Mosquitoes are terrible flyers and so something as simple as a small breeze can discourage them from flying. Maybe putting on a fan or two would solve your mosquito problem?",
"Suck it up and buy a bed net or window screens. If you go with the bed net route buy one that is impregnated with insecticides. There many diseases you do not want from mosquitoes. Also regular use of DEET is not great for you. source: am entomologist that works with mosquitoes. ",
"Mosquitos breed in standing water. Walk around your house, make sure you don't have any water just sitting around. Such as in plant pots or rain gutters. If your rain gutter is clogged the water will just sit there, and mosquitos love that. Also, I would buy a bug zapper. Hang it where it's visible from your room, any bugs in your room will be attracted to the zapper and get zapped instead of flying into your ear. ",
"Depending on your views on spiders...... I’d say catch a few orb weaver spiders and loose them in your room. They’ll fix your miniature vampire problem. "
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"How to deal with unwanted relatives that regularly comes to visit. My family and I have a relatives that live in a near town and regularly come to visit us, stay a day or two and then go, we rarely invite them over, rarely get a \"I'll be there\" call or msg, but we don't want to be rude or unpolite to them. Any tips?",
"How to deal with unwanted relatives that regularly comes to visit. My family and I have a relatives that live in a near town and regularly come to visit us, stay a day or two and then go, we rarely invite them over, rarely get a \"I'll be there\" call or msg, but we don't want to be rude or unpolite to them. Any tips?"
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"\"Sorry. I made plans and you can't stay.. and in the future I need you to extend the courtesy of communication, especially if you're thinking of just dropping in unannounced.\" \nRepeat as necessary. \n\n",
"How about you cope with this already? Make a system, try to be flexible.\n\nIf you REALLY tried and it's out of hand, then politely say your deed and negotiate with them.\n\nConfusion and lack of words destroy relationships easily, do not lose a relationship just because they're annoying you. You might regret being in a con with them in the future, just sayin' xd"
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"how to get over burnout I have finals this week and for the life of me I cannot focus. I've tried taking a break and sleeping, I tried working out but I'm so mentally burned out that it's affecting me physically and now my workouts have been sucking. Idk pretty much everything (gym, school, chores) I've been so burned out from doing and it's so fucking hard for me to focus. I try the \"just do it\" but I give up half way through ",
"how to get over burnout I have finals this week and for the life of me I cannot focus. I've tried taking a break and sleeping, I tried working out but I'm so mentally burned out that it's affecting me physically and now my workouts have been sucking. Idk pretty much everything (gym, school, chores) I've been so burned out from doing and it's so fucking hard for me to focus. I try the \"just do it\" but I give up half way through "
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"this is me right now. my advice is to just go with it... just don't care... \n\n... I wouldn't listen to me though I broke down and cried from all the finals stress earlier today. what set it off? my tuna sandwich fell apart in my hands (flimsy ass bread!) ",
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"need help making time around 12-hour warehouse shifts What helped you get through long shifts at work during the hot summer? Need more time for working out, running errands, learning frontend, etc. advice is much appreciated!",
"need help making time around 12-hour warehouse shifts What helped you get through long shifts at work during the hot summer? Need more time for working out, running errands, learning frontend, etc. advice is much appreciated!",
"need help making time around 12-hour warehouse shifts What helped you get through long shifts at work during the hot summer? Need more time for working out, running errands, learning frontend, etc. advice is much appreciated!",
"need help making time around 12-hour warehouse shifts What helped you get through long shifts at work during the hot summer? Need more time for working out, running errands, learning frontend, etc. advice is much appreciated!",
"need help making time around 12-hour warehouse shifts What helped you get through long shifts at work during the hot summer? Need more time for working out, running errands, learning frontend, etc. advice is much appreciated!"
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"Find another job. There is no life besides a 12 hour workshift. Ik once worked a 60 hour contract a week. Ik did that die about 3 months and I noticed I had no life besides work. 12 hour shifts take a lot of your energy and body. You need the time you have now for household and food.. Sorry but cant give any other advice..\nWork to life, not life to work",
"Side tip for learning frontend, are you allowed to have an earbud in during your shift? I listened to many a podcast/video when I was in a warehouse.",
"I used to work 12-16 hours a day every day in a warehouse. My best advice is probably to make sure you have a healthy diet. Eating right will give you energy so you'll still feel like doing things after work. \n\nAside from that, it's pretty much all mental. Keep your head up.",
"If you have kids, tell your work that your childcare coverage has shifted and to make it work you need to be off at (on time) for a month or two. If they question you don't give them any details as these matters can be sensitive. Its not their business. If they don't work with you than they are too deep in the hole of exploiting people to care about you anyways so you know the kind of people you are working with.",
"I work a 10 hour shift with two breaks. I eat both breaks and don't eat at home. I make one big casserole on my day off and eat it all week long. Saves quite a bit of time on my workdays"
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"how to keep advising people who constantly keep saying “I know”? So in context:\n\nWhenever I advise a particular person on something, I keep getting replies like “I know” or “I know that” even though I’m saying something that they usually don’t hear. These types of responses (only when they’re constant) make me feel helpless, as if I’m not doing much. It discourages me to talk or keep advising them — even though they approached me. That is because I put this in my mind “well since they know what I’m saying, then there is no point in going on and keep advising them;” in other words, it makes me feel unmotivated to keep talking or makes me feel like I’m annoying to them and that I should stop. \n\n\nI tried saying things that they for sure don’t normally hear, I try acknowledging their feelings, pointing out and excluding out the obvious, and yet, I still get the “I know” response.\n\n\nWhat do I say or do in these situations? Especially when they’re the ones looking for help? What about they are not looking for help and I’m just trying to help them out even though they still listen?",
"how to keep advising people who constantly keep saying “I know”? So in context:\n\nWhenever I advise a particular person on something, I keep getting replies like “I know” or “I know that” even though I’m saying something that they usually don’t hear. These types of responses (only when they’re constant) make me feel helpless, as if I’m not doing much. It discourages me to talk or keep advising them — even though they approached me. That is because I put this in my mind “well since they know what I’m saying, then there is no point in going on and keep advising them;” in other words, it makes me feel unmotivated to keep talking or makes me feel like I’m annoying to them and that I should stop. \n\n\nI tried saying things that they for sure don’t normally hear, I try acknowledging their feelings, pointing out and excluding out the obvious, and yet, I still get the “I know” response.\n\n\nWhat do I say or do in these situations? Especially when they’re the ones looking for help? What about they are not looking for help and I’m just trying to help them out even though they still listen?",
"how to keep advising people who constantly keep saying “I know”? So in context:\n\nWhenever I advise a particular person on something, I keep getting replies like “I know” or “I know that” even though I’m saying something that they usually don’t hear. These types of responses (only when they’re constant) make me feel helpless, as if I’m not doing much. It discourages me to talk or keep advising them — even though they approached me. That is because I put this in my mind “well since they know what I’m saying, then there is no point in going on and keep advising them;” in other words, it makes me feel unmotivated to keep talking or makes me feel like I’m annoying to them and that I should stop. \n\n\nI tried saying things that they for sure don’t normally hear, I try acknowledging their feelings, pointing out and excluding out the obvious, and yet, I still get the “I know” response.\n\n\nWhat do I say or do in these situations? Especially when they’re the ones looking for help? What about they are not looking for help and I’m just trying to help them out even though they still listen?",
"how to keep advising people who constantly keep saying “I know”? So in context:\n\nWhenever I advise a particular person on something, I keep getting replies like “I know” or “I know that” even though I’m saying something that they usually don’t hear. These types of responses (only when they’re constant) make me feel helpless, as if I’m not doing much. It discourages me to talk or keep advising them — even though they approached me. That is because I put this in my mind “well since they know what I’m saying, then there is no point in going on and keep advising them;” in other words, it makes me feel unmotivated to keep talking or makes me feel like I’m annoying to them and that I should stop. \n\n\nI tried saying things that they for sure don’t normally hear, I try acknowledging their feelings, pointing out and excluding out the obvious, and yet, I still get the “I know” response.\n\n\nWhat do I say or do in these situations? Especially when they’re the ones looking for help? What about they are not looking for help and I’m just trying to help them out even though they still listen?",
"how to keep advising people who constantly keep saying “I know”? So in context:\n\nWhenever I advise a particular person on something, I keep getting replies like “I know” or “I know that” even though I’m saying something that they usually don’t hear. These types of responses (only when they’re constant) make me feel helpless, as if I’m not doing much. It discourages me to talk or keep advising them — even though they approached me. That is because I put this in my mind “well since they know what I’m saying, then there is no point in going on and keep advising them;” in other words, it makes me feel unmotivated to keep talking or makes me feel like I’m annoying to them and that I should stop. \n\n\nI tried saying things that they for sure don’t normally hear, I try acknowledging their feelings, pointing out and excluding out the obvious, and yet, I still get the “I know” response.\n\n\nWhat do I say or do in these situations? Especially when they’re the ones looking for help? What about they are not looking for help and I’m just trying to help them out even though they still listen?",
"how to keep advising people who constantly keep saying “I know”? So in context:\n\nWhenever I advise a particular person on something, I keep getting replies like “I know” or “I know that” even though I’m saying something that they usually don’t hear. These types of responses (only when they’re constant) make me feel helpless, as if I’m not doing much. It discourages me to talk or keep advising them — even though they approached me. That is because I put this in my mind “well since they know what I’m saying, then there is no point in going on and keep advising them;” in other words, it makes me feel unmotivated to keep talking or makes me feel like I’m annoying to them and that I should stop. \n\n\nI tried saying things that they for sure don’t normally hear, I try acknowledging their feelings, pointing out and excluding out the obvious, and yet, I still get the “I know” response.\n\n\nWhat do I say or do in these situations? Especially when they’re the ones looking for help? What about they are not looking for help and I’m just trying to help them out even though they still listen?",
"how to keep advising people who constantly keep saying “I know”? So in context:\n\nWhenever I advise a particular person on something, I keep getting replies like “I know” or “I know that” even though I’m saying something that they usually don’t hear. These types of responses (only when they’re constant) make me feel helpless, as if I’m not doing much. It discourages me to talk or keep advising them — even though they approached me. That is because I put this in my mind “well since they know what I’m saying, then there is no point in going on and keep advising them;” in other words, it makes me feel unmotivated to keep talking or makes me feel like I’m annoying to them and that I should stop. \n\n\nI tried saying things that they for sure don’t normally hear, I try acknowledging their feelings, pointing out and excluding out the obvious, and yet, I still get the “I know” response.\n\n\nWhat do I say or do in these situations? Especially when they’re the ones looking for help? What about they are not looking for help and I’m just trying to help them out even though they still listen?",
"how to keep advising people who constantly keep saying “I know”? So in context:\n\nWhenever I advise a particular person on something, I keep getting replies like “I know” or “I know that” even though I’m saying something that they usually don’t hear. These types of responses (only when they’re constant) make me feel helpless, as if I’m not doing much. It discourages me to talk or keep advising them — even though they approached me. That is because I put this in my mind “well since they know what I’m saying, then there is no point in going on and keep advising them;” in other words, it makes me feel unmotivated to keep talking or makes me feel like I’m annoying to them and that I should stop. \n\n\nI tried saying things that they for sure don’t normally hear, I try acknowledging their feelings, pointing out and excluding out the obvious, and yet, I still get the “I know” response.\n\n\nWhat do I say or do in these situations? Especially when they’re the ones looking for help? What about they are not looking for help and I’m just trying to help them out even though they still listen?",
"how to keep advising people who constantly keep saying “I know”? So in context:\n\nWhenever I advise a particular person on something, I keep getting replies like “I know” or “I know that” even though I’m saying something that they usually don’t hear. These types of responses (only when they’re constant) make me feel helpless, as if I’m not doing much. It discourages me to talk or keep advising them — even though they approached me. That is because I put this in my mind “well since they know what I’m saying, then there is no point in going on and keep advising them;” in other words, it makes me feel unmotivated to keep talking or makes me feel like I’m annoying to them and that I should stop. \n\n\nI tried saying things that they for sure don’t normally hear, I try acknowledging their feelings, pointing out and excluding out the obvious, and yet, I still get the “I know” response.\n\n\nWhat do I say or do in these situations? Especially when they’re the ones looking for help? What about they are not looking for help and I’m just trying to help them out even though they still listen?"
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"This could be a sign they view it as unsolicited advice. Could it be they just need someone to listen and not try to solve their problem?",
"Assuming they are coming to you for advice, then the I know could just be there way of acknowledging they understand what you're saying, not them saying that they already know. Perhaps ask them for clarification of if they mean they knew prior to you telling them or otherwise just have a conversation about it.",
"Simply move on. After they say \"I know\", just end the conversation. \n\nI had to train someone at my old job who did this. She would say \"I know\" and act like she understood when clearly she didn't (for instance, discussing company specific policies to her for the first time that I know she did not \"know\"). I just let her burn and fail. You can't help people who don't want to be helped. She was also textbook narcissistic after I got to know her better. She was very good at looking like she was well rounded and knowledgeable on a lot of topics, but if you actually knew more than her you'd realize that she was not at all knowledgeable and was just talking out of her ass. But for people who don't know the topic, she did sound impressive. But, whatever, I let her fail because I didn't want to keep helping someone who clearly struggled with looking vulnerable and needed to always feel like the smarter person in the room",
"wanna know whats even more irritating? sitting through unsolicited advice that you already know.\n\nthe people saying \"I know\" at minimum arent listening to you. try advising people that value your voice.",
"How are you so sure you're \"saying things they don't usually hear\"? It seems like when you give advice you might have a notion of superiority and that's a turn off. When you assume someone doesn't know something, it's condescending. You could try asking \"have you tried _____?\"",
"If they are approaching you for help but then reply with “I know,” then rebut with, “I’m not sure I’m answering your question. Can you please clarify what support you need?”\n\nIf you are approaching them and they respond with “I know,” this is probably their way of telling you that they do not want your advice. I would stop engaging.",
"If they are coming to you for advice and they are definitely not just wanting someone to listen; then I agree with another commenter. Some people will say “I know” as in they’re acknowledging what you’re saying and they are agreeing.",
"Ask them “Do you really already know that? Or am I giving you new information that you didn’t know before?” Some people will say “I know” out of habit but what they mean is “I’m understanding you. “",
"Sounds like they're struggling with a fragile ego. Not everyone is secure enough in their youth, to hear free advice from others. Insecure teenagers may wrongly perceive helpful advice in a threatening or competitive way. \n\nUnfortunately; the only real solution is for those types to finally grow up and get over themselves. Since their parents apparently dropped the ball, and never taught em to just shut up and listen anytime somebody is willing to share free information. Even if we think we already know it! There could always be an angle presented that we hadn't previously considered. If not, it'll just seem as though we're quick learners. As in; by keeping our mouths shut and respectfully listening to any instructions given to us, we manifest an opportunity to impress whoever was giving us said instructions. \n\nOn your end, there isn't much that can be done about arrogant teenagers who aren't willing to listen to anyone. Just gotta wait for them to finally grow out of it (and hopefully find a more receptive employee to replace them, in the meantime)\n\nBest of luck!\n\n"
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"Remove red wine stains from paper. My dad spilled red wine over parts of my scantron forms that I need to submit to work tomorrow. Luckily the spills aren't terrible, but I just don't want my boss to think that I'm a dumbass, so I would appreciate if you guys could tell me how to get the stains off. This is what they look like: http://imgur.com/ZcGFnnQ",
"Remove red wine stains from paper. My dad spilled red wine over parts of my scantron forms that I need to submit to work tomorrow. Luckily the spills aren't terrible, but I just don't want my boss to think that I'm a dumbass, so I would appreciate if you guys could tell me how to get the stains off. This is what they look like: http://imgur.com/ZcGFnnQ"
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"I think a charming hand-written note from your Dad would encourage your boss to laugh it off: \"Please excuse Jamie's forms, I was a little too enthusiastic pouring the wine last night\" ",
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"How to get good concert tickets Lately I've been going to more concerts. I noticed that no matter what kind of pre-sale I go through (third party or one from the band's website) the \"best available\" is almost never on the floor of the arena/in the close sections of an outdoor venue. I make sure I'm there with everyone else, refreshing as the tickets become available, but no dice. Anyone have any good tips to get close seats? Or is it a lost cause if we don't \"know a guy?\"",
"How to get good concert tickets Lately I've been going to more concerts. I noticed that no matter what kind of pre-sale I go through (third party or one from the band's website) the \"best available\" is almost never on the floor of the arena/in the close sections of an outdoor venue. I make sure I'm there with everyone else, refreshing as the tickets become available, but no dice. Anyone have any good tips to get close seats? Or is it a lost cause if we don't \"know a guy?\""
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"What kind of shows are you talking about? If you want to get good seats you should be online 5/10 minutes before the tickets go on sale. Always try for the presale (the venue, the band and radio stations will all hand out passwords, try all of them) then go for the regular sale if that doesn't work. Keep in mind some acts put great tickets up for presale, some don't, it's always different. With ticketmaster: don't try and game them. Open one window and look for tickets in that one window, don't try and have TM open in multiple tabs, it won't work. Have a buddy look for you too. Always have the seating chart for the venue open so you can make a smart decision. Also, if you're going to arena shows, yeah it's great to be up close, but those artists play to big rooms so you can sit in the seats and still enjoy yourself. Also, you can gauge demand on ebay/stubhub/craigslist. If you are dying to go and can't find tickets, go to the show early and buy them on the street. I ditch tickets all the time this way.",
"First way is to be first in line on Ticketmaster. Call in half an hour before they go on sale to get in the que. About the time you are done being on hold they should go on sale and you will get an operator. If they haven't gone on sale yet and there is only a few minutes until they do just ask about some other events to kill time until they do go on sale.\n\nSecond way is to contact the concierge of a higher end hotel that is nearby the event. A lot times they can get the good seats, but you will pay a premium. \n\nThird way is to bribe a local DJ that may have some free ones to give away. They don't always have the ability to give them out to who they choose, but once in while some people don't claim their prizes or whatever and the DJ can hook you up.\n\nFourth way is get a part time job with the arenas to help with setting up concerts, doing security etc. Then you can get paid to go to the concerts."
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"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? ",
"I am in a city that is getting hotter and hotter and few places have air conditioning. How do you stay cool in the summer? "
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"This may sound like common sense, but I've been sitting around shirtless and in a swimsuit when I am at home with a fan blowing on me. Call it trashy, but at least I'm not sweating.",
"1) Find an apartment that sits at ground level (halfway underground). This will kill half of your electric bill, summer or winter. I got away with $30-40 a month electric bills like that.\n---2) Get an AC window unit and set it to 80F and make sure its on circulate, not bringing in outside air.\n---3) Place the shiny side of Aluminum Foil on your windows facing outward if the sun gets in through them. This helped alot when I was in a south-facing apartment, because the building's shared central air had problems blowing into my room. While this might sound like a freaky idea it reflects much more light than simply white curtains would.\n---4) If you do get hot, pour a glass of cold water over your head in the bathroom sink and spread it around. When your forehead sweats, smear it on your cheeks like it was warpaint, it will get rid of it faster and cool you off better.\n---5) Rather than spend time at home, I spend alot of time going to public wifi spots like mcdonalds, places that have free wifi so I can watch stuff online. May not be practical for you, but the local 24 hour mcdonalds where I live is practically a freezer inside and they have electrical plugs for my comp.",
"Keep all your doors and windows shut and covered during the day, until it starts cooling down outside. Like the more light and heat you block out the better. My dad would freeze gallon jugs of water and put them in front of box fans, which helped too. ",
"Do you mean \"few places have air conditioning installed\" or \"few places sell air conditioners\"? Because if it is just that they don't have them pre-installed, go out and buy a window unit. You can get a cheap one for around $100 and as long as you have one room you can keep cool, it makes life much easier. Portable units are more expensive, but might be a better option of your landlord is strict about not making any changes to the place. (You might have to screw supports to the wall for a window unit and some landlords might not like that) All you have to do with a portable unit is put a wood panel with a hole for the exhaust in a window.",
"Walk around the mall, go to a public library. I work in a hotel, and as long as you're not a nuisance, I wouldn't question someone coming in and watching TV in our lobby, and we keep it pretty damn cold in the lobby. \n\nYou could kill a couple of hours doing those things, and during the hottest part of the day, it really helps. Also if you live in a house and your community allows it, you could hang sunshade on the side of your house that receives afternoon sunlight, and get blackout curtains.\n\nI live in Phoenix, AZ. We had 123 degree temps a couple weeks ago, and are sitting at an average daily high of 108 degrees. A/C is a must, but if you don't have that, take advantage of public spaces that do, and arm your house for it.",
"Try to rig up and evaporative cooler. It can be as simple as a fan and a spray bottle of water. Though you want a really fine mist of water. Look at the [Wikipedia](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evaporative_cooler) for more info. ",
"Keep a wet towel around and wipe your neck with it. Shower at night and go to bed with wet hair. Sprayer bottle. ",
"Dress in light clothing made from linen or hemp.\n\nUse an shade umbrella - very effective.\n\nStraw hats and such were invented for a reason; keeping the sun off your skull. Also effective.\n\nBaby powder regions that tend to get sweaty; it's cooling, and helps reduce sweat.",
"The best way to stay cool is to stay damp. The damp clothing is cooled by the air and then cools your skin. In the summer, I wear a loose tshirt which I keep damp throughout the day (if I'm outside), and a headscarf or bandanna which is also wet. Inside, we have ac",
"Surprised no one mentioned this. Get a washcloth (or a few to rotate) and get it wet (more damp less drippy) and toss them in the freezer. When your place is just too hot, or if you're walking around outdoors, put the frozen washcloth on the back of your neck and let it drape down. The science is that the big arteries leading to your brain are right there, so getting that spot as cold as possible helps cool the brain faster, which in turn will help you \"feel\" colder/more comfy faster.",
"Get two big box fans in a room that has multiple windows. One pulling in one blowing out. Won't help when it's really hot in the day. Air change makes a difference.",
"you might try [this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oSbZWNk84F4) DIY \"aircondition\" \n\nHanging wet towels or bedsheets should help as well ",
"You should look into evaporative cooling towels. It varies from brand to brand, but most have you soak a really soft special towel it in water, wring it out, and then it does the cooling thing.",
"The way I do it you can keep cool on the go. Take a plastic bottle of your choice (0.5l if you are travelling, or I like 2l for staying home) then fill it with water 80%, and put in the freezer for the night. Prepare more for extra hot days. You end up with nice ice to cool you down, and you'll always have water to stay hydrated.",
"Sounds like you're somewhere in Germany? They haven't quite gotten the news of how amazing air conditioning is. \n\nI would suggest drinking cold beverages, staying hydrated with water, and buying a good rotating fan. Nothing is worse that stale, hot air. If you can, find a way that you can create airflow through the entire house and it will feel cooler. ",
"My nightshifter trick for when I slept in an eight window room with afternoon exposure in July:\n\n- Measure and cut white posterboard to match the window size, or individual window panes.\n- Get the thin pink rolls of insulation at Home Depot or similar, and cut it to the sizes of the posterboard, minus 1/4 inch.\n- Sandwich the insulation in with aluminum foil. Tape them all together with aluminum foil tape (packing tape works too, but I like the foil tape more).\n\nTape the panels onto the panes, aluminum foil side out, white posterboard in. The foil reflects, and what heat it does absorb is stopped by insulation, with that last layer of heat reflecting off the white posterboard. Not pretty, but cheap. Also blacks out the room and reduced it by at least 10 degrees F. \n- Add fan for air circulation and white noise.",
"Major shopping centres have air conditioning (e.g. Westfield) \nBuy air conditioning \nIf you ~~can~~ can't afford it, strip down get a fan and some ice \n\n",
"Last summer there was no escape. I filled the tub with cool water, got in and read a stack of magazines.",
"If you're in a low humidity area, swamp coolers/evaporative coolers can do amazing things. Throw ice cubes in the reservoir and it will be like 5-10 degrees cooler in your room, at least.\n\nThis is the one I got, to be a cheapass, and it works fine, if a bit rickety: https://www.amazon.com/SPT-SF-608R-Portable-Evaporative-Cooler/dp/B000OKHY2S/ref=sr_1_16?ie=UTF8&qid=1467872170&sr=8-16&keywords=swamp+cooler",
"If you are able to make modifications to the outside (that is, you're not a renter or the landlord is chill), put up a sunshade on the sunny side of the building. We did this at my mother's place by attaching a bamboo shade to the awning so it hung a foot or two from the wall. I didn't expect it to make that much of a difference, but it was amazing how much cooler her apartment was after that. It stops so much radiant heat. (And she actually was renting, but the landlord pre-approved our little modification.)",
"If its too hot to sleep at night, I get in the shower with my clothes on and then go to bed sopping wet under the ceiling fan. It works better with clothes than naked because the water will evaporate more slowly n keep you cool longer. Also, if your feet are hot you will be miserable no matter what. Feet gotta find the cool spot on the bed. Fill a water bottle with water and freeze. Keep it in bed to put your feet on.",
"I use an old re purposed medical device to keep the bed cool while we're in it anyways. It's a device they give to folks who have a joint replacement. Designed to pump ice water through a soft malleable pad wrapped around the joint. We just put cool water in it and a couple of ice cubes. Keep it under the sheets and keeps the bed cooler at night.",
"I lived and worked in a hot climate for a long time, here's my accumulated knowledge (that comes to mind right now).\n\n1) Wear as few clothes as possible, except a hat.\n\n2) Make those clothes as light a color as possible (white is best, neon colors next, pastels, and never ever wear dark colors) even inside, except wearing a hat inside.\n\n3) Wear flipflops (thongs, chanclas, whatever you call them where you're from) that are a light color. If you have to wear full shoes wear low cut socks, and well ventilated shoes if possible.\n\n4) Wherever possible have a fan blowing on your legs (lower legs especially) and feet.\n\n5) Breath in through your nose, and out of your mouth (opposite if you're conserving heat btw).\n\n6) Wet your hair if you can.\n\n7) If sweating is unavoidable, make sure to have both cold water available (some people argue lukewarm, I like the quick internal cool that you can also wet your hair with. If a lot of sweating is unavoidable, make sure to have something that will replace electrolytes (I found this to be less pleasing to wet my hair with). Even sitting you can sweat a lot when it's hot, and you can get dehydrated over a day without noticing.\n\n8) Wrap a damp towel rolled towel around your neck to keep your carotid artery wet. \n\n9) If you have a heat source in the room you're in (television, computer, stove etc...) set up fans to cycle the warm air out and cool air in. If forced with a choice, go with getting the hot air out.\n\n10) Safety blankets (mylar) are your friends in all weather conditions: Cover your south facing (northern hemisphere) windows with it. Wet the window and just stick it on there. If you don't have or can't get safety blankets use foil, shiny side out.",
"I grew up on a farm for a few years when I was a kid. You take a cold fucking shower, count to 15, and don't dry off your chest/back. Then you find wind.",
"Hydrate so you sweat as much as possible, evaporative cooling baby! Also alleviates headaches from dehydration and fatigue from oppressive heat. ",
"Here's what I did (sounds super weird but it works) I bought an on-the-go phone charger 3000 MAH < along with a 6 port USB hub and 6 USB fans that can be stood up on their own. Works like a charm and the fans are surprisingly powerful and last about day and I plug the battery in to charge overnight. Products used: \nFans: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003XN24GY/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_R72FxbHH08D17\n\nBattery pack: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00MQSMEEE/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_X82FxbKYJHR4M\n\nUSB Hub: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B015O4Y1YM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_G.2Fxb0WQ3Z6D",
"Get a haircut/shave your head. Makes a pretty big difference. Keep fans blowing into your windows at night and close all windows before it warms up outside. The colder you get it during the night the cooler it stays during the day. Put aluminum foil on your windows. I used some tape on mine so I could still easily open and close the windows and the closer it is to the window surface the better it works. I used to live in an upstairs apartment that had been converted from a normal house. My bedroom was basically an attic with carpet and I overclock. If you have a basement put a fan at the bottom of the stairs blowing up and another at the top of the stairs to blow the cooler air around.",
"Drink a shitload of water. Your blood vessels are like that coolant system in your gaming rig, they need to be full of water at all times or you will overheat. Sweating & pissing (and even shitting) will remove liquid content so you need to drink during or after these activities. If you're traveling by foot, drink even more, because the friction of the two halves of your body rubbing together when you walk also dissipates a fair amount of water that you will need to replace.",
"By placing a frozen bottle in a washcloth between my thighs and cool my wrists when I'm washing my hands..",
"Are you a guy or a girl? I like wearing short shorts and a tank top and running straight through sprinklers.",
"\nHit that vape while browsing the dankest memes arriving fashionably late to the club. It'll be lit fam",
"You have Internet access to reddit on a computer or smartphone but can't afford a small window air conditioner or several? Don't jump all over me I'm just asking. I would give up my Internet to have A/C. It was 97 today with a heat index of 105 here in central Arkansas. I couldn't handle not having air conditioning. I had heat stroke about 18 years ago and since then can't handle any kind of hot weather. \n\nA window air conditioner that can cool a room shouldn't be more than about $200 USD. If I could afford a smartphone I would make it a priority to have A/C in the summer if I lived somewhere it got over 85f during the summer. ",
"um, move? or buy an air conditioner, so then you'll add to the few places that have it. also, did you not know that the place you live gets hot in the summer?"
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"How to use a cast iron I'm planning on buying a cast iron this weekend and I know want to know if there are beginers tutorials on how to use them ",
"How to use a cast iron I'm planning on buying a cast iron this weekend and I know want to know if there are beginers tutorials on how to use them ",
"How to use a cast iron I'm planning on buying a cast iron this weekend and I know want to know if there are beginers tutorials on how to use them "
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"The important things are \n\n1. Season it before first use (search for how to do this)\n2. Never wash it with soap\n3. Rinse and dry it thoroughly each time\n4. Keep it oiled ",
"You can buy pans that are already pre-seasoned. That said, I'd *still* make an effort to season them. \n\nBe sure you completely dry them when done; I put mine on the stove or a warm oven else they will rust, easily. \n\nIf you find one at a estate sale, clutch it to your bosom and pay whatever they are asking!",
"I lived in a van and used one cast iron pan for a year. To properly season, you should heat it up over medium heat and then add the oil. I prefer using spray-on coconut oil. \n\nEggs- heat skillet over low heat. As soon as a drop of water sizzles in the pain, melt a little butter or margarine in pan. Add eggs. There has to be a small layer of oil (from butter or marg) under the egg the whole time or else it will stick. Takes a bit of practice.\n\n\nSteaks on cast iron is fantastic- use super high heat, as high as it will go, add the steak once at full temp, cook for a few minutes per side. Perfect every time.\n\nTo clean stuck on food from improper cooking, pour a few teaspoons of salt in it and a cup of water, let it sit for a few hours. \n",
"Follow this guide - http://sherylcanter.com/wordpress/2010/01/a-science-based-technique-for-seasoning-cast-iron/\n\nThe important things to remember is to clean it with a good brush and hot water, that's it. Dry it absolutely thoroughly. Don't keep it oiled to the point where it looks wet. If you're doing that, it's too much oil. A few drops can cover a whole pan and then some.",
"Don't wash it like I caught my mother doing to a cast iron that is over 100 years old...\nhttp://imgur.com/gallery/VsRfhDz/new\nI scolded her good! then I reseasoned it for her and taught her how to clean it properly. OIL AND WIPE!"
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"Is having a partner a crucial part of life? Will I miss something later in life that I can't foresee in my mid twenties? ",
"Is having a partner a crucial part of life? Will I miss something later in life that I can't foresee in my mid twenties? ",
"Is having a partner a crucial part of life? Will I miss something later in life that I can't foresee in my mid twenties? ",
"Is having a partner a crucial part of life? Will I miss something later in life that I can't foresee in my mid twenties? ",
"Is having a partner a crucial part of life? Will I miss something later in life that I can't foresee in my mid twenties? ",
"Is having a partner a crucial part of life? Will I miss something later in life that I can't foresee in my mid twenties? "
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"It's fine if you are enjoying and making the most of your singledom. Build your career, but also remember to cultivate your hobbies, your interests, and your mind, and attend to your connections with friends and family. If or when you are ready for partnership, or find yourself attached to someone, flow with it. Be water.",
"Nothing wrong with being single. Everyone thinks you need to be married and have kids in life. Not the case. I’m thinking I’m better off now after my wife left me after 1/2 our lives together (15 years). Family is always there",
"Man everyone has their own thing we all miss out on something I will mostly never feel the high of heroine, I'd rather not fuck up my life for it. \n\nI'm married and love her and thing great things for our future. \n\nIf I wasnt married I believe that I'd have more money, be in better shape, and not have a dog. However I'm not upset by these things the girl I'm with loves me and stuck with me when I felt I had hit my bottom. She has a brighter future than me, and I know I bring my own strengths to this relationship, but she's the better person. \n\nIf you're happy with how you see your life as a single person dont rush in to a relationship you dont see a better future in. What is that better future for you?\n\nWould you rather have a nice car, or a kid, right now? Well maybe 5 years you're ready for the kid, sell the car.\n\nWould you have 10k in the bank or a larger apartment and nice furniture, right now? Maybe 10 years you have 50K saved and you put a great down payment on your dream house with your partner. \n\nIt's important to understand your immediate future vs 10 years. Maybe you find the person that makes you never want to move again, or makes you want to travel the world. Maybe you find the person you want 3 kids and a 2 car garage with, or you find the person you want to just have fun and live loose. Shit changes man all the time.",
"I’m the same. My dad had a great job, worked really hard made a lot of money. He spends Saturdays playing golf and on Sundays he does work around the house, then it’s 5 x 12 hour days in the office. Growing up I’d look at him and think “what is the fucking point?”. It’s just a constant treadmill of work and responsibility. Golf is the only highlight. \n\nNow I’m nearly 40 and make decent money, kids and a family make more sense but I’m not worried if it doesn’t happen for me. Free time and disposable income are absolutely precious. I’ll be fine either way. Does my life have true meaning? Fuck no. Does that matter? I hope not.",
"I am the same way. Other people can't understand it. \nYou'll be fine on your own doing your own thing, you might even prefer it to doing what most other people do.",
"I think community and relationships of some sort are important for most people but I think people can find that outside of the 'nuclear family'. My great aunt never married but she was a teacher for decades who was very active in the school and her community. And she was welcome and attended most of my extended family gatherings. Not to say that you won't miss out on some experiences, but I think if you are not isolating yourself, actively building relationships, and keeping an open mind I think you will still have a rich life."
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"Unconventional tips for a new Manager Throwaway account.\n\nWhat tips do you have for a new manager that they would not find in any leadership books?\n\nIntricacies, communication, keeping balance between different parties, working with the team, meeting etiquettes, small things that often are overlooked in big picture but helped you....anything that you feel could help to be successful in the job.",
"Unconventional tips for a new Manager Throwaway account.\n\nWhat tips do you have for a new manager that they would not find in any leadership books?\n\nIntricacies, communication, keeping balance between different parties, working with the team, meeting etiquettes, small things that often are overlooked in big picture but helped you....anything that you feel could help to be successful in the job.",
"Unconventional tips for a new Manager Throwaway account.\n\nWhat tips do you have for a new manager that they would not find in any leadership books?\n\nIntricacies, communication, keeping balance between different parties, working with the team, meeting etiquettes, small things that often are overlooked in big picture but helped you....anything that you feel could help to be successful in the job.",
"Unconventional tips for a new Manager Throwaway account.\n\nWhat tips do you have for a new manager that they would not find in any leadership books?\n\nIntricacies, communication, keeping balance between different parties, working with the team, meeting etiquettes, small things that often are overlooked in big picture but helped you....anything that you feel could help to be successful in the job.",
"Unconventional tips for a new Manager Throwaway account.\n\nWhat tips do you have for a new manager that they would not find in any leadership books?\n\nIntricacies, communication, keeping balance between different parties, working with the team, meeting etiquettes, small things that often are overlooked in big picture but helped you....anything that you feel could help to be successful in the job.",
"Unconventional tips for a new Manager Throwaway account.\n\nWhat tips do you have for a new manager that they would not find in any leadership books?\n\nIntricacies, communication, keeping balance between different parties, working with the team, meeting etiquettes, small things that often are overlooked in big picture but helped you....anything that you feel could help to be successful in the job.",
"Unconventional tips for a new Manager Throwaway account.\n\nWhat tips do you have for a new manager that they would not find in any leadership books?\n\nIntricacies, communication, keeping balance between different parties, working with the team, meeting etiquettes, small things that often are overlooked in big picture but helped you....anything that you feel could help to be successful in the job.",
"Unconventional tips for a new Manager Throwaway account.\n\nWhat tips do you have for a new manager that they would not find in any leadership books?\n\nIntricacies, communication, keeping balance between different parties, working with the team, meeting etiquettes, small things that often are overlooked in big picture but helped you....anything that you feel could help to be successful in the job.",
"Unconventional tips for a new Manager Throwaway account.\n\nWhat tips do you have for a new manager that they would not find in any leadership books?\n\nIntricacies, communication, keeping balance between different parties, working with the team, meeting etiquettes, small things that often are overlooked in big picture but helped you....anything that you feel could help to be successful in the job.",
"Unconventional tips for a new Manager Throwaway account.\n\nWhat tips do you have for a new manager that they would not find in any leadership books?\n\nIntricacies, communication, keeping balance between different parties, working with the team, meeting etiquettes, small things that often are overlooked in big picture but helped you....anything that you feel could help to be successful in the job."
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"1. Make a decision. \n2. Don’t be afraid to tell someone below you that you don’t know something. \n3. Lead by example. Don’t ask someone to do something that you wouldn’t or haven’t done yourself.",
"Train your replacement. If there is no one to take your place, you won't get promoted.\n\nIf you have a difficult/negative individual, consider asking them for advice on how to roll out something difficult to the team. You'll likely gain their buy in ahead of time which will eliminate their negative influence.",
"You are not special. You likely do not know more than anyone else. Your job is to help other people succeed and help the company succeed. Any success should be a team success or you likely are failing.",
"Take ownership. Give cr",
"Stay consistent in your decision making. Nothing worse than a manager who has different reactions to the same situation depending on the day.\n\nThat being said if you find out your original decision was wrong, don't be afraid to admit that and change accordingly",
"Tell and demonstrate to your people that you value honesty. I told them ‘if you are honest with me, I’ll always have your back. If a mistake is made, tell me and WE will figure out what to do.’\n\nDon’t ask someone to do something you wouldn’t do and show them. For example: I worked on some holidays, did a few overnight shifts, empty trash cans during a busy event, etc",
"Over a decade in management experience in three different careers. Being a manager isn’t something to learn from a book outside of fine tuning your leadership skills. But here’s something’s I learned. \n\n1. Never be the smartest person in the room, you surround yourself by smarter people and learn to utilize them effectively.\n2. Being a manager isn’t a privilege, it’s closer to punishment. You never take cr",
"people leave for 4 reasons: the boss or lead, the work itself, policies and procedures, and their co-workers. Listen hard for complaints especially in these areas. if people are complaining about more than one of these things, don't be surprised when they quit.",
"Make sure the rules for your team are written down, specific, and measureable. They are easy to access for everyone to see. This will have zero surprises when it comes to performance reviews, etc.",
"Check your personal shit at the door. And ask your employees to do the same. \n\nStart cutting shifts of people that irresponsible. Like calling in sick once a week. Or finding ways to get out of work while they are at work.. Don't fire them. Just knock em back to part time. Keep an open add for new hires and a help wanted sign in the window. This is just adding to all the other things everyone else has suggested before this comment. All excellent advice too by the by. Good luck. Being in charge can really suck at times. So be good to your people and they will be good to you. And if they are not? Then try some above tactics."
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"Thinking of switching positions within the same company, and it’s mandatory to notify my manager and get their approval So I’ve been working in a position with a company for some time over a year, and have been looking to switch positions within the same company. It has great benefits and is growing well, but I’m looking for other types of work within.\n\nOur company has an internal job listing site, where current employees can apply directly with their information already on the system. One of the recruiters from a position I applied to let me know that I would need to get my manager’s approval for the application reviewal process to proceed. \n\nI have a pretty good relationship with my manager, he’s been pretty understanding of my needs/emergencies. But, the work I do has taken a toll on me in many instances, so this is something that I’m definitely going to need to discuss face-to-face with him to get the applications going forward. Would anyone have any tips as to the best way to approach this?\n\n",
"Thinking of switching positions within the same company, and it’s mandatory to notify my manager and get their approval So I’ve been working in a position with a company for some time over a year, and have been looking to switch positions within the same company. It has great benefits and is growing well, but I’m looking for other types of work within.\n\nOur company has an internal job listing site, where current employees can apply directly with their information already on the system. One of the recruiters from a position I applied to let me know that I would need to get my manager’s approval for the application reviewal process to proceed. \n\nI have a pretty good relationship with my manager, he’s been pretty understanding of my needs/emergencies. But, the work I do has taken a toll on me in many instances, so this is something that I’m definitely going to need to discuss face-to-face with him to get the applications going forward. Would anyone have any tips as to the best way to approach this?\n\n",
"Thinking of switching positions within the same company, and it’s mandatory to notify my manager and get their approval So I’ve been working in a position with a company for some time over a year, and have been looking to switch positions within the same company. It has great benefits and is growing well, but I’m looking for other types of work within.\n\nOur company has an internal job listing site, where current employees can apply directly with their information already on the system. One of the recruiters from a position I applied to let me know that I would need to get my manager’s approval for the application reviewal process to proceed. \n\nI have a pretty good relationship with my manager, he’s been pretty understanding of my needs/emergencies. But, the work I do has taken a toll on me in many instances, so this is something that I’m definitely going to need to discuss face-to-face with him to get the applications going forward. Would anyone have any tips as to the best way to approach this?\n\n",
"Thinking of switching positions within the same company, and it’s mandatory to notify my manager and get their approval So I’ve been working in a position with a company for some time over a year, and have been looking to switch positions within the same company. It has great benefits and is growing well, but I’m looking for other types of work within.\n\nOur company has an internal job listing site, where current employees can apply directly with their information already on the system. One of the recruiters from a position I applied to let me know that I would need to get my manager’s approval for the application reviewal process to proceed. \n\nI have a pretty good relationship with my manager, he’s been pretty understanding of my needs/emergencies. But, the work I do has taken a toll on me in many instances, so this is something that I’m definitely going to need to discuss face-to-face with him to get the applications going forward. Would anyone have any tips as to the best way to approach this?\n\n",
"Thinking of switching positions within the same company, and it’s mandatory to notify my manager and get their approval So I’ve been working in a position with a company for some time over a year, and have been looking to switch positions within the same company. It has great benefits and is growing well, but I’m looking for other types of work within.\n\nOur company has an internal job listing site, where current employees can apply directly with their information already on the system. One of the recruiters from a position I applied to let me know that I would need to get my manager’s approval for the application reviewal process to proceed. \n\nI have a pretty good relationship with my manager, he’s been pretty understanding of my needs/emergencies. But, the work I do has taken a toll on me in many instances, so this is something that I’m definitely going to need to discuss face-to-face with him to get the applications going forward. Would anyone have any tips as to the best way to approach this?\n\n",
"Thinking of switching positions within the same company, and it’s mandatory to notify my manager and get their approval So I’ve been working in a position with a company for some time over a year, and have been looking to switch positions within the same company. It has great benefits and is growing well, but I’m looking for other types of work within.\n\nOur company has an internal job listing site, where current employees can apply directly with their information already on the system. One of the recruiters from a position I applied to let me know that I would need to get my manager’s approval for the application reviewal process to proceed. \n\nI have a pretty good relationship with my manager, he’s been pretty understanding of my needs/emergencies. But, the work I do has taken a toll on me in many instances, so this is something that I’m definitely going to need to discuss face-to-face with him to get the applications going forward. Would anyone have any tips as to the best way to approach this?\n\n",
"Thinking of switching positions within the same company, and it’s mandatory to notify my manager and get their approval So I’ve been working in a position with a company for some time over a year, and have been looking to switch positions within the same company. It has great benefits and is growing well, but I’m looking for other types of work within.\n\nOur company has an internal job listing site, where current employees can apply directly with their information already on the system. One of the recruiters from a position I applied to let me know that I would need to get my manager’s approval for the application reviewal process to proceed. \n\nI have a pretty good relationship with my manager, he’s been pretty understanding of my needs/emergencies. But, the work I do has taken a toll on me in many instances, so this is something that I’m definitely going to need to discuss face-to-face with him to get the applications going forward. Would anyone have any tips as to the best way to approach this?\n\n"
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"Ask your manager for 2 minutes to talk in private. Tell them: Hey [manager] I just wanted to let you know there's a really good opportunity within the company for [x position] and I'm going to go for it. It looks like a really good opportunity and I think I'd be good at it.\n\n\nA good manager will encourage you and even see if they can do anything to get you into that position.",
"I would just talk openly and honestly. The process is in place for a reason and there’s no way they could fire you for having applied to other internal positions. \nI’d ask for 15 or so minutes to chat. Say that you’re interested in this internal role and have applied and ask that they give you advice. \nI wouldn’t say “I don’t like current role” or “I want to move/change” keep it positive about the role you applied for and see what they say.",
"Yes, ideally your manager will be encouraging about your growth and development, and delighted you want to stay in the company. \n\nOn the other hand, you could have an experience like I did: I was required to tell my boss that I was interested in an open position. When I applied for the position later that day, I was told that the job listing was outdated and they had already filled the job. My boss was surprised that I was looking for a new challenge, so I think that permanently damaged our relationship and eventually led to me leaving the company.\n\nSince you’ve been in contact with the recruiters, I think you’re in a better spot. Also, you might have a better relationship with your boss/healthier company environment. I might recommend you contact the hiring manager directly (outside of the system) to verify you’re a good fit and you want this job before you mention it to your boss. Good luck!",
"Simply have a professional conversation with them about your career goals, which you should be discussing a least a couple of time throughout the year anyway. Be open about the aspects that you want to increase and grow and which parts of your current responsibilities are less appealing to you. Then mention that you've noticed opportunities in other departments and will be applying for the open position(s).",
"In my pre covid job I moved to 4 different divisions within my company. Just talk to them and let them know you would like to move onto another position and why I want to move. No one should want someone who is not fully vested to their current position and a good manager will understand that. Of the times I did this I only had one guy get upset about it which just gave me even more reason to leave his division.",
"I've been with the same company for 8 years and I'm on my 5th department change. We also have to notify our managers.",
"I would be straightforward.. I’ve been here a year now and I keep seeing new opportunities and challenges come up internally. Are you expecting anything to come up within our team that would utilize x y z skills that I have or challenge me in xyz ways? \n\nOh nothing that you know of oh ok well that’s unfortunate as I really like being a member of your team but I will likely pursue the internal positions offering to develop xyz skills as that’s where I’d like my career trajectory to head \n\nOh you know of one coming up soon can you give me more details etc? As xyz area is where I’d like to head to develop more skills / etc\n\nFocus on the development you want to do for your career… every place I have worked wants their employees to grow and develop new skills etc , I’d use that angle"
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"How to Stop Neighbors from Putting Their Junk Mail in our Mailbox This is going to sound weird and petty, but it's kind of bothering to me.\n\nWe've lived at our rental house for about a little less than a year, so we're new to the area. We keep to ourselves and don't know our neighbors very well, we're kind of out in the country, so homes are a little spaced, we're on about .5 acre. The mailboxes for our street are individual, yet all in a row and kind of grouped together. \n\nA few months back, someone starting putting their junk mail in our mailbox, mainly catalogues to retail stores: L.L. Bean, JcPenney, etc. The weird part is that they are ripping off the address that goes on the back of the catalogue so I cant see whos doing it. One time they accidentally left the account number intact to their L.L. Bean subscription, so I called L.L. Bean customer service to find out who it was, but they didn't tell me and I asked if they would just close that persons catalogue subscription because they obviously didn't want it and were putting their unwanted mail in my mailbox. They said they couldn't do that, which I kind of figured... its an odd request and an odd situation to begin with. I don't know how to stop it and since the person is deliberately ripping off the address and taking some of their trash with them, it seems like one of our neighbors has a problem with us, but I don't know why, we don't know anyone around here and have had no negative interactions with anyone.\n\nIs there anything I can do to find out who's doing it? Should I just keep throwing away their junk mail and brush this all off? Its a very minor inconvenience.",
"How to Stop Neighbors from Putting Their Junk Mail in our Mailbox This is going to sound weird and petty, but it's kind of bothering to me.\n\nWe've lived at our rental house for about a little less than a year, so we're new to the area. We keep to ourselves and don't know our neighbors very well, we're kind of out in the country, so homes are a little spaced, we're on about .5 acre. The mailboxes for our street are individual, yet all in a row and kind of grouped together. \n\nA few months back, someone starting putting their junk mail in our mailbox, mainly catalogues to retail stores: L.L. Bean, JcPenney, etc. The weird part is that they are ripping off the address that goes on the back of the catalogue so I cant see whos doing it. One time they accidentally left the account number intact to their L.L. Bean subscription, so I called L.L. Bean customer service to find out who it was, but they didn't tell me and I asked if they would just close that persons catalogue subscription because they obviously didn't want it and were putting their unwanted mail in my mailbox. They said they couldn't do that, which I kind of figured... its an odd request and an odd situation to begin with. I don't know how to stop it and since the person is deliberately ripping off the address and taking some of their trash with them, it seems like one of our neighbors has a problem with us, but I don't know why, we don't know anyone around here and have had no negative interactions with anyone.\n\nIs there anything I can do to find out who's doing it? Should I just keep throwing away their junk mail and brush this all off? Its a very minor inconvenience.",
"How to Stop Neighbors from Putting Their Junk Mail in our Mailbox This is going to sound weird and petty, but it's kind of bothering to me.\n\nWe've lived at our rental house for about a little less than a year, so we're new to the area. We keep to ourselves and don't know our neighbors very well, we're kind of out in the country, so homes are a little spaced, we're on about .5 acre. The mailboxes for our street are individual, yet all in a row and kind of grouped together. \n\nA few months back, someone starting putting their junk mail in our mailbox, mainly catalogues to retail stores: L.L. Bean, JcPenney, etc. The weird part is that they are ripping off the address that goes on the back of the catalogue so I cant see whos doing it. One time they accidentally left the account number intact to their L.L. Bean subscription, so I called L.L. Bean customer service to find out who it was, but they didn't tell me and I asked if they would just close that persons catalogue subscription because they obviously didn't want it and were putting their unwanted mail in my mailbox. They said they couldn't do that, which I kind of figured... its an odd request and an odd situation to begin with. I don't know how to stop it and since the person is deliberately ripping off the address and taking some of their trash with them, it seems like one of our neighbors has a problem with us, but I don't know why, we don't know anyone around here and have had no negative interactions with anyone.\n\nIs there anything I can do to find out who's doing it? Should I just keep throwing away their junk mail and brush this all off? Its a very minor inconvenience.",
"How to Stop Neighbors from Putting Their Junk Mail in our Mailbox This is going to sound weird and petty, but it's kind of bothering to me.\n\nWe've lived at our rental house for about a little less than a year, so we're new to the area. We keep to ourselves and don't know our neighbors very well, we're kind of out in the country, so homes are a little spaced, we're on about .5 acre. The mailboxes for our street are individual, yet all in a row and kind of grouped together. \n\nA few months back, someone starting putting their junk mail in our mailbox, mainly catalogues to retail stores: L.L. Bean, JcPenney, etc. The weird part is that they are ripping off the address that goes on the back of the catalogue so I cant see whos doing it. One time they accidentally left the account number intact to their L.L. Bean subscription, so I called L.L. Bean customer service to find out who it was, but they didn't tell me and I asked if they would just close that persons catalogue subscription because they obviously didn't want it and were putting their unwanted mail in my mailbox. They said they couldn't do that, which I kind of figured... its an odd request and an odd situation to begin with. I don't know how to stop it and since the person is deliberately ripping off the address and taking some of their trash with them, it seems like one of our neighbors has a problem with us, but I don't know why, we don't know anyone around here and have had no negative interactions with anyone.\n\nIs there anything I can do to find out who's doing it? Should I just keep throwing away their junk mail and brush this all off? Its a very minor inconvenience.",
"How to Stop Neighbors from Putting Their Junk Mail in our Mailbox This is going to sound weird and petty, but it's kind of bothering to me.\n\nWe've lived at our rental house for about a little less than a year, so we're new to the area. We keep to ourselves and don't know our neighbors very well, we're kind of out in the country, so homes are a little spaced, we're on about .5 acre. The mailboxes for our street are individual, yet all in a row and kind of grouped together. \n\nA few months back, someone starting putting their junk mail in our mailbox, mainly catalogues to retail stores: L.L. Bean, JcPenney, etc. The weird part is that they are ripping off the address that goes on the back of the catalogue so I cant see whos doing it. One time they accidentally left the account number intact to their L.L. Bean subscription, so I called L.L. Bean customer service to find out who it was, but they didn't tell me and I asked if they would just close that persons catalogue subscription because they obviously didn't want it and were putting their unwanted mail in my mailbox. They said they couldn't do that, which I kind of figured... its an odd request and an odd situation to begin with. I don't know how to stop it and since the person is deliberately ripping off the address and taking some of their trash with them, it seems like one of our neighbors has a problem with us, but I don't know why, we don't know anyone around here and have had no negative interactions with anyone.\n\nIs there anything I can do to find out who's doing it? Should I just keep throwing away their junk mail and brush this all off? Its a very minor inconvenience.",
"How to Stop Neighbors from Putting Their Junk Mail in our Mailbox This is going to sound weird and petty, but it's kind of bothering to me.\n\nWe've lived at our rental house for about a little less than a year, so we're new to the area. We keep to ourselves and don't know our neighbors very well, we're kind of out in the country, so homes are a little spaced, we're on about .5 acre. The mailboxes for our street are individual, yet all in a row and kind of grouped together. \n\nA few months back, someone starting putting their junk mail in our mailbox, mainly catalogues to retail stores: L.L. Bean, JcPenney, etc. The weird part is that they are ripping off the address that goes on the back of the catalogue so I cant see whos doing it. One time they accidentally left the account number intact to their L.L. Bean subscription, so I called L.L. Bean customer service to find out who it was, but they didn't tell me and I asked if they would just close that persons catalogue subscription because they obviously didn't want it and were putting their unwanted mail in my mailbox. They said they couldn't do that, which I kind of figured... its an odd request and an odd situation to begin with. I don't know how to stop it and since the person is deliberately ripping off the address and taking some of their trash with them, it seems like one of our neighbors has a problem with us, but I don't know why, we don't know anyone around here and have had no negative interactions with anyone.\n\nIs there anything I can do to find out who's doing it? Should I just keep throwing away their junk mail and brush this all off? Its a very minor inconvenience.",
"How to Stop Neighbors from Putting Their Junk Mail in our Mailbox This is going to sound weird and petty, but it's kind of bothering to me.\n\nWe've lived at our rental house for about a little less than a year, so we're new to the area. We keep to ourselves and don't know our neighbors very well, we're kind of out in the country, so homes are a little spaced, we're on about .5 acre. The mailboxes for our street are individual, yet all in a row and kind of grouped together. \n\nA few months back, someone starting putting their junk mail in our mailbox, mainly catalogues to retail stores: L.L. Bean, JcPenney, etc. The weird part is that they are ripping off the address that goes on the back of the catalogue so I cant see whos doing it. One time they accidentally left the account number intact to their L.L. Bean subscription, so I called L.L. Bean customer service to find out who it was, but they didn't tell me and I asked if they would just close that persons catalogue subscription because they obviously didn't want it and were putting their unwanted mail in my mailbox. They said they couldn't do that, which I kind of figured... its an odd request and an odd situation to begin with. I don't know how to stop it and since the person is deliberately ripping off the address and taking some of their trash with them, it seems like one of our neighbors has a problem with us, but I don't know why, we don't know anyone around here and have had no negative interactions with anyone.\n\nIs there anything I can do to find out who's doing it? Should I just keep throwing away their junk mail and brush this all off? Its a very minor inconvenience.",
"How to Stop Neighbors from Putting Their Junk Mail in our Mailbox This is going to sound weird and petty, but it's kind of bothering to me.\n\nWe've lived at our rental house for about a little less than a year, so we're new to the area. We keep to ourselves and don't know our neighbors very well, we're kind of out in the country, so homes are a little spaced, we're on about .5 acre. The mailboxes for our street are individual, yet all in a row and kind of grouped together. \n\nA few months back, someone starting putting their junk mail in our mailbox, mainly catalogues to retail stores: L.L. Bean, JcPenney, etc. The weird part is that they are ripping off the address that goes on the back of the catalogue so I cant see whos doing it. One time they accidentally left the account number intact to their L.L. Bean subscription, so I called L.L. Bean customer service to find out who it was, but they didn't tell me and I asked if they would just close that persons catalogue subscription because they obviously didn't want it and were putting their unwanted mail in my mailbox. They said they couldn't do that, which I kind of figured... its an odd request and an odd situation to begin with. I don't know how to stop it and since the person is deliberately ripping off the address and taking some of their trash with them, it seems like one of our neighbors has a problem with us, but I don't know why, we don't know anyone around here and have had no negative interactions with anyone.\n\nIs there anything I can do to find out who's doing it? Should I just keep throwing away their junk mail and brush this all off? Its a very minor inconvenience."
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"You could call the post office. I believe it's a federal offense to tamper with someone's mailbox. By entering your mailbox to put their junk in there, they are technically breaking the law.\n\nOr, you could buy a special mailbox that requires a lock. You would have to leave a key with the letter carrier though. I'm not sure how that would work.",
"Put a sign on your mailbox, reminding the offender that it's a criminal offense to put things in your mailbox, and if it continues, measures will be taken to identify the culprit and report them.",
"Contact your post office and appraise them of the situation. They may have specific protocols for handling situations like yours.",
"Put some sort of junk mail in each of your neighbors boxes. Mark a corner with a unique number or other tell tale mark. When one gets stuffed back in your box check your list and see who it is. Then stuff their box with so much stuff they can't even open it every time they put anything into yours. Maybe save all their stuff up for a while and deliver it personally to them. Go make friends.",
"Put a small garbage/recycling can out by the mailboxes and be the kind volunteer who empties it on trash day each week. \n \nSecond alternative I to get a lock for your mailbox and get a key to USPS\n\nThird is to write a letter for each mailbox and asking them to stop",
"Trail camera in a tree. Once you identify which mailbox its coming from, put some feces in their box and tell them to keep their own shit.",
"Start simple: put a note on your mailbox saying “Please don’t put your junk mail in our mailbox”. \n\nThat just might do it.\n\nIf not, talk to the post office.",
"Camera in the mailbox. Or a good old fashioned spring loaded boxing glove should do the trick. They will realize you are too much of a hassle maybe. Seems strange to me that they don’t just recycle the mail though."
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"Finding and getting an internship in college. I tried /r/AskReddit, but I think that this place might be better, not to mention it would probably help out a lot of people. Long story short, my school won't help me because I have a 2.9 GPA and you have to have a 3.0 GPA before they will help you. Sucks, right?\n\nAny tips about finding an internship as well as impressing the interviewer despite not having an amazing academic record would help!",
"Finding and getting an internship in college. I tried /r/AskReddit, but I think that this place might be better, not to mention it would probably help out a lot of people. Long story short, my school won't help me because I have a 2.9 GPA and you have to have a 3.0 GPA before they will help you. Sucks, right?\n\nAny tips about finding an internship as well as impressing the interviewer despite not having an amazing academic record would help!"
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"borrow from direct marketing techniques. for each specific internship opportunity you are applying, you should customize your resume. pull key words out of their job description/requirements and work them into your resume. i did this and it worked wonders. i did it for a marketing internship and marketing is not my major nor do i have any marketing experience and the interviewer said \"i realize that you aren't a marketing major but we were looking at your resume and it's uncanny. you really seem like a great fit.\" the trick is not to overdo it. relate your experiences directly to what they're looking for and keep your resume focused on the position you're applying for. good luck!",
"Its about connections. I work at a ceramic studio and a visiting artist came. He was my teacher/boss friends. I would ask him questions, seem interested, and made sure he'd remember my name. Then he asked if I would be interested in being his intern. He asked me several times about it and I told him i'd love to. He was amazing to work with so i'd love to be his intern. Its seriously all about connections when you're in college.\n\nI had another friend who applied to intern with a film company, only place he applied to. And it was totally like destiny. He was really into the project before he was interviewed and the company loved it.\n\nSo yeah, don't apply for anything you wouldn't love to do. Be passionate. And let them know... and some connections wouldn't hurt :P talk to your teachers."
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"Excel spreadsheets to monitor any and every aspect of life I'm looking for spreadsheets that can help me monitor my fiances/budget/exercise/nutrition/stocks/to-dos/productivity/diary/recipes/business. Basically anything creative that can help me monitor my life better. ",
"Excel spreadsheets to monitor any and every aspect of life I'm looking for spreadsheets that can help me monitor my fiances/budget/exercise/nutrition/stocks/to-dos/productivity/diary/recipes/business. Basically anything creative that can help me monitor my life better. ",
"Excel spreadsheets to monitor any and every aspect of life I'm looking for spreadsheets that can help me monitor my fiances/budget/exercise/nutrition/stocks/to-dos/productivity/diary/recipes/business. Basically anything creative that can help me monitor my life better. "
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"You might want to checkout You Need a Budget: http://www.youneedabudget.com/\nBelieve you can get a two-week trial on Steam. It takes a couple months to get into it. I switched from a basic spreadsheet to that for personal finances/budgeting. Overall, I like it a fair bit more.\n\nThere are also things like Google [Spread]Sheet galleries. Here's some templates: https://drive.google.com/templates?type=spreadsheets",
"Enjoy. Sorry about the long url\n\nhttps://docs.google.com/spreadsheet/ccc?key=0AuF4Dr492IRGdDhla01HNnUxNlM1RGtUTFlLaUlQMWc&usp=sharing",
"Regarding budget, I made a spreadsheet that I copy paste my monthly cr"
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"How to make your siblings feel that you actually care about them? The reason behind asking this is that I have a brother and I want him to grow up knowing that he has an older caring brother, because in my opinion that would make him reach out to me whenever he needs help or do any kind of task.",
"How to make your siblings feel that you actually care about them? The reason behind asking this is that I have a brother and I want him to grow up knowing that he has an older caring brother, because in my opinion that would make him reach out to me whenever he needs help or do any kind of task.",
"How to make your siblings feel that you actually care about them? The reason behind asking this is that I have a brother and I want him to grow up knowing that he has an older caring brother, because in my opinion that would make him reach out to me whenever he needs help or do any kind of task.",
"How to make your siblings feel that you actually care about them? The reason behind asking this is that I have a brother and I want him to grow up knowing that he has an older caring brother, because in my opinion that would make him reach out to me whenever he needs help or do any kind of task.",
"How to make your siblings feel that you actually care about them? The reason behind asking this is that I have a brother and I want him to grow up knowing that he has an older caring brother, because in my opinion that would make him reach out to me whenever he needs help or do any kind of task."
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"Be involved. I'm the oldest of 5. There is a 15 year gap between me and my youngest sister. As a teenager, I would take each of my sisters on one-on-one outings. We'd just go see a movie, or get ice cream, or for the really young ones, go to the zoo or something. Spending time with them was fun and let them know that I wanted them around. \n\nNow that we're older, we celebrate birthdays together with a special homemade meal. (I just made a ridiculous churro cheesecake for my middle sister the other day.) We get together and play games as often as we can. We go to my youngest sister's volleyball games and cheer for her. (And embarrass her!) We enjoy being in each others' lives. ",
"Speaking as an older sister to a younger sister, just being there for them during big milestones as a support system and keeping cool and not making a huge ruckus about it. My younger sister (she's two years younger than me, for reference) got her period for the first time at summer camp, and she came to me to ask if I had pads and tampons. I was just like \"Sure, yeah, take your pick. Just make sure you tell mom too.\" My counselors were really impressed at how calm I was about it, considering how scary and embarrassing getting your period for the first time can be. ",
"Listen. Don't judge. If older, don't be a parent. If younger, don't be defensive. Communication is the environment you create. ",
"I think conversation is the best thing you can easily do for your brother. Growing up with an older sister I absolutely hated her. She was better than me at basically everything, got praised more, etc. Without talking this basically translated to me thinking she thought she was \"the better child.\" Fast forward a few years and she told me she never thought of our relationship as a rivalry. \n\nNot to mention I hated her always going out to parties or hanging out with her sorority sisters because she never came home to talk so we grew distant. Now we started talking more and we finally started building a bond.\n\nThis is a two way street however. I'm by no means blaming her for not talking because I never approached her either. So talk to him whenever you can to see how he's doing and make sure he feels comfortable going to you for anything as it might be very helpful in his teenage years.",
"For people growing up, the things that really hurt are:\n\nNot listening. If they take the time to talk to you, listen. Prove it by bringing up stuff they told you in other conversations.\n\nNot noticing. If they do something well, say so. Even if you think it is a minor thing. For them its a big deal. everything is new to them, right?\n\nNot prioritizing. If you never do stuff with them because whatever you are doing is more important than them, then you are showing through your actions that they are not a priority.\n\nNot being honest. You have to be honest with them and tell them like it is. If they ask why you drink alcohol, you need to be honest. They are learning how to be an adult, if you can help them find the answers for trivial things, they you can help them find the answers when it really matters.\n\nFaking it. When you fake it with a kid, they know. Don't be that person.\n\nAs far as getting them to come to you when they need help, that is going to depend on you providing feedback that is not judgmental. Like if they steal something from a grocery store, you need to ask them why they did it instead of judging them harshly or telling the store owner or whatever. After you prove that you understand them, you can give them advice or ask them if they will do it again, but you can't start from there, you will lose their trust."
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"Best way to store ice in coolers I am going to a convention this labor day. In order to save money on food, my friends and I are bringing a large cooler into which we will store some drinks, some foods, and so forth. I will be using the cooler for 6 days in total. The hotel has plenty of ice, but we don't have access to a mini-fridge (obviously).\n\nThe problem: What's the best way to store ice? The big methods I've used:\n\n* Ice packs. Obvious problem is that they thaw out and then I can't re-freeze them at the hotel... So that's out.\n\n* Ice in ziploc bags. Works fairly well, but the bags often leak or cause so much condensation a lot of water builds up. Difficult to keep things organized. Pros, I can just empty them out and hold them under the ice machine to refill. Cons, annoying to use.\n\n* Just dumping ice into the cooler. That works well enough, but a ton of water builds up over time, makes everything wet so you drip all over yourself when you pull things out, and the water has gotten into food and contaminated it in the past. Plus, hauling that huge cooler to the tub every time I need to empty water is a pain in the ass.\n\nWhat I need is a way to keep ice in the cooler that\n\n* can be reloaded/refilled\n* is space efficient\n* doesn't require me to haul the whole cooler to the tub\n* doesn't end up with a ton of water in the cooler and with all my stuff wet\n* keeps the cooler fairly neat and organized\n\nBeen pondering using deep plastic containers that I fill with ice, or possibly keeping all my stuff in deep plastic containers and dumping ice around them (still a pain in the neck though).\n\nThoughts?",
"Best way to store ice in coolers I am going to a convention this labor day. In order to save money on food, my friends and I are bringing a large cooler into which we will store some drinks, some foods, and so forth. I will be using the cooler for 6 days in total. The hotel has plenty of ice, but we don't have access to a mini-fridge (obviously).\n\nThe problem: What's the best way to store ice? The big methods I've used:\n\n* Ice packs. Obvious problem is that they thaw out and then I can't re-freeze them at the hotel... So that's out.\n\n* Ice in ziploc bags. Works fairly well, but the bags often leak or cause so much condensation a lot of water builds up. Difficult to keep things organized. Pros, I can just empty them out and hold them under the ice machine to refill. Cons, annoying to use.\n\n* Just dumping ice into the cooler. That works well enough, but a ton of water builds up over time, makes everything wet so you drip all over yourself when you pull things out, and the water has gotten into food and contaminated it in the past. Plus, hauling that huge cooler to the tub every time I need to empty water is a pain in the ass.\n\nWhat I need is a way to keep ice in the cooler that\n\n* can be reloaded/refilled\n* is space efficient\n* doesn't require me to haul the whole cooler to the tub\n* doesn't end up with a ton of water in the cooler and with all my stuff wet\n* keeps the cooler fairly neat and organized\n\nBeen pondering using deep plastic containers that I fill with ice, or possibly keeping all my stuff in deep plastic containers and dumping ice around them (still a pain in the neck though).\n\nThoughts?"
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"Large blocks of ice will last the longest. A good tip is to fill up plastic milk jugs and freeze them. That way, they don't leak all over the cooler and when your done, you have a jug of cold clean water. ",
"Dry ice and ice combo. Google how to use it, don't touch it, some things shouldn't be too close (if they shouldn't be frozen, for example lettuce will turn to mush if frozen). Dry ice is awesome!"
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"Preventing Seasickness Going deep sea fishing next weekend. I got seasick whale watching a year ago and, since I've always wanted to go deep sea fishing, I want to be able to enjoy this experience. ",
"Preventing Seasickness Going deep sea fishing next weekend. I got seasick whale watching a year ago and, since I've always wanted to go deep sea fishing, I want to be able to enjoy this experience. "
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"I had this EXACT same story as you. I went deep sea fishing a year ago and puked my guts out, but I was determined to go again and have a great time. So I actually went deep sea fishing last weekend and took one over the counter Dramamine pill...didn't feel sea sick once. ",
"I don't get sea sick but I don't get out on the ocean nearly as much as I used to, this has always helped me: Look out and focus on the horizon, not the boat that's moving around. As you focus on it get your \"sea legs\" about you and allow them to move with the waves as your focus keeps your head and body still. You should be able to stabilize yourself after a few seconds or minutes and won't feel like you're being thrown all over the place."
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"Read faster I really enjoy reading but I've always been kind of a slow reader. Now that I'm in college I have a ton of reading and being a slow reader makes my work load a lot heavier. Is there any way to learn how to read faster?",
"Read faster I really enjoy reading but I've always been kind of a slow reader. Now that I'm in college I have a ton of reading and being a slow reader makes my work load a lot heavier. Is there any way to learn how to read faster?",
"Read faster I really enjoy reading but I've always been kind of a slow reader. Now that I'm in college I have a ton of reading and being a slow reader makes my work load a lot heavier. Is there any way to learn how to read faster?",
"Read faster I really enjoy reading but I've always been kind of a slow reader. Now that I'm in college I have a ton of reading and being a slow reader makes my work load a lot heavier. Is there any way to learn how to read faster?"
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"Turn on subtitles for everything on TV (movies, shows, games). \n\nIt will force you to read at conversational speed which is the best way to begin reading faster overall. ",
"One of the keys to speed reading is to stop reading conversationally. Don't try and hear an author's voice in your head, just read the words one after the other. Also, let your finger drag on the page as you read, it helps keep your focus and not slip up on lines. This tends to take the enjoyability out of it and can make it harder to process all of the information, but it works. ",
"You can try http://www.spreeder.com/, which allows you to adjust the speed or the number of words seen at once.\n\nAlternatively you could ignore the voice in your head and just see the words as they are. As a visual person, I start to visualize what the words are picturing, and this allows me to read faster.",
"I attended a speed reading seminar once, and it turns out your brain can read a lot faster than how you read aloud. Bounce your eyes onto every third to fifth word and your brain absorbs all the words between. That's the simplest way I can explain it to you. "
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"How do you not go stiff when you're around your boss or employer? How do you remain relaxed just let what happens happen. Maybe it was because I was bullied or something or my father hit me once or twice as a kid I don't know.\n\nBut only a very few of my bosses I a feel comfortable with and can relax. \n\nThis is particularly around bosses that run construction crews. \n\n\nI could relax around my baker bosses, or my bar manger bosses. \n\n\n\nI go all super polite and formal.",
"How do you not go stiff when you're around your boss or employer? How do you remain relaxed just let what happens happen. Maybe it was because I was bullied or something or my father hit me once or twice as a kid I don't know.\n\nBut only a very few of my bosses I a feel comfortable with and can relax. \n\nThis is particularly around bosses that run construction crews. \n\n\nI could relax around my baker bosses, or my bar manger bosses. \n\n\n\nI go all super polite and formal.",
"How do you not go stiff when you're around your boss or employer? How do you remain relaxed just let what happens happen. Maybe it was because I was bullied or something or my father hit me once or twice as a kid I don't know.\n\nBut only a very few of my bosses I a feel comfortable with and can relax. \n\nThis is particularly around bosses that run construction crews. \n\n\nI could relax around my baker bosses, or my bar manger bosses. \n\n\n\nI go all super polite and formal.",
"How do you not go stiff when you're around your boss or employer? How do you remain relaxed just let what happens happen. Maybe it was because I was bullied or something or my father hit me once or twice as a kid I don't know.\n\nBut only a very few of my bosses I a feel comfortable with and can relax. \n\nThis is particularly around bosses that run construction crews. \n\n\nI could relax around my baker bosses, or my bar manger bosses. \n\n\n\nI go all super polite and formal."
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"How do you remain relaxed? By remembering they’re human. They only difference is that they have the title and responsibility of a boss and you don’t. It still rains in their life, they still struggle, learn and grow, they still eat food for fuel and I’m almost 100% positive they put their pants on one leg at a time just like I’m sure you do too.",
"I think I understand the problem. My advice would be to \"take care of yourself\" before work. I used to have a manager who was so attractive I thought I was going to have an accident right there in my pants when she bent over. I started to just \"take care of myself\" before work and it didn't completely solve the problem of being stiff, but definitely didn't feel like I was about to make a mess in my pants.",
"A lot of the tips you are getting are about you and making sure you think of them like any other person, and those are good tips. However, the truth is some people are nearly impossible to be around, and those people might be your boss. It's not always you, sometimes it's them. \n\nHowever, since you mentioned different environments, sometimes you need to adapt. The kind of talk that goes on in a kitchen would get you fired in an office. The kind of talk that goes on in an office would get you ostracized in a construction crew. If you can't adapt to your new work environment, find another one you can adapt to.",
"I had a boss that I respected but terrified me. I told him... and we laughed and he helped me with the biggest career steps over the years. If it doesn't induce more anxiety, try being vulnerable and see what happens. You might be surprised and it will help you talk and get to the root of the nerves."
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"Easy (preferably without medicine) ways to Clear Up a Nose that's not really clogged; explanation... **",
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"I have a trick for you(I figured this out the other day.. verrrrry weird but not a joke or flashy banner weird):\n\nTake long slow nasal inhales only try not to mouth breathe(I know the stuffiness is annoying). Seriously that's it. The sustained cool air from the long slow inhale will soothe the inflamed sinus(which it sounds to me like you have). It works for me when I am feeling stuffy, but it doesn't last forever so you have to sustain it when you can/want less stuffiness.\n\nI suppose you would ideally want to do this in an area with as few irritants as possible.",
"This one only gives temporary relied, but it works very well. Close your mouth and push the air in front of your top row of teeth. You will look like a chimpanzee sort of. Just hold the air there for about 3 breaths (don't breathe through your nose) and it should clear.",
"There's a method of pushing your tongue into the roof of your mouth where that weird indent is. When you push up into it, put your fingers in between your eyebrows and push in to rock that nasal bone back and forth. I hope it helps!",
"Take a hot towel, dip it in a bowl of menthol, warm up in a microwave, lay over face. Been doing it for years when necessary. Works like a charm.",
"Slowly blow all of your air out, then hold your breath and walk for about 30 steps or so. Then sit down and nod your head up and down until you really can't hold it anymore. Then SLOWLY start to breathe in ONLY throw your nose, then slowly back out. Keep it slow. This will open all nasal passages because your body thinks it's suffocating. [Here's a good explanation of it](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HhOTUBZYTEg). Then to keep it clear for as long as possible you have to train yourself to always take low, slow breaths through your nose only.",
"If it's almost always been like that, go to a doctor and he will check for rhinitis, which is often allergenic. From there he can identify triggers and/or give IN (intra nasal steroids) to stop inflamation. ",
"I have this same problem. \n\nI have found that exercise usually helps open up the passages for the duration of the exercise, and then maybe an hour or two afterwards. \n\nSuper long m",
"Hold your breath until survival mechanisms kick in and you're pumping adrenaline. That will dilate your vessels pretty much everywhere in your body but you'll find the nasal passages clear. (all the best advice was already given!)",
"There was a tip I learned from here that works really well for me.\n\nTake a deep breath in hold it for as long as possible, as you are doing this nod your head up and down slowly from as far back as you can to your chin touching your chest.\n\nI have no clue why it works, but this clears my sinuses up very quickly, and is quite easy to do.",
"Some more background on nostrils being inflamed and hard to breathe through: \n\nhttp://mentalfloss.com/article/30363/why-does-your-nose-get-stuffy-one-nostril-time",
"1/ Drink more water\n2/ Inject sea water (or just salty water) in your nose with your head facing the cieling for a few seconds. It will clean up your sinuses. Once or twice a day should be enough."
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"Questions to ask landlords when looking at an apartment? I'm going to be looking at apartments this weekend, what are some good questions I can ask to really get a grasp on what I'm dealing with?\n\n",
"Questions to ask landlords when looking at an apartment? I'm going to be looking at apartments this weekend, what are some good questions I can ask to really get a grasp on what I'm dealing with?\n\n",
"Questions to ask landlords when looking at an apartment? I'm going to be looking at apartments this weekend, what are some good questions I can ask to really get a grasp on what I'm dealing with?\n\n",
"Questions to ask landlords when looking at an apartment? I'm going to be looking at apartments this weekend, what are some good questions I can ask to really get a grasp on what I'm dealing with?\n\n",
"Questions to ask landlords when looking at an apartment? I'm going to be looking at apartments this weekend, what are some good questions I can ask to really get a grasp on what I'm dealing with?\n\n",
"Questions to ask landlords when looking at an apartment? I'm going to be looking at apartments this weekend, what are some good questions I can ask to really get a grasp on what I'm dealing with?\n\n",
"Questions to ask landlords when looking at an apartment? I'm going to be looking at apartments this weekend, what are some good questions I can ask to really get a grasp on what I'm dealing with?\n\n",
"Questions to ask landlords when looking at an apartment? I'm going to be looking at apartments this weekend, what are some good questions I can ask to really get a grasp on what I'm dealing with?\n\n",
"Questions to ask landlords when looking at an apartment? I'm going to be looking at apartments this weekend, what are some good questions I can ask to really get a grasp on what I'm dealing with?\n\n",
"Questions to ask landlords when looking at an apartment? I'm going to be looking at apartments this weekend, what are some good questions I can ask to really get a grasp on what I'm dealing with?\n\n",
"Questions to ask landlords when looking at an apartment? I'm going to be looking at apartments this weekend, what are some good questions I can ask to really get a grasp on what I'm dealing with?\n\n",
"Questions to ask landlords when looking at an apartment? I'm going to be looking at apartments this weekend, what are some good questions I can ask to really get a grasp on what I'm dealing with?\n\n"
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"1. Is heat included? \n2. What utilities (if any) are included? 2a. Can you send me a heating cost disclosure from the local utility company for this unit so I know what to expect for heating costs? 2b. Can you send me an average of the past 6 months electricity costs? \n3. Are pets allowed? 3a. If dogs, are certain breeds or sizes restricted? 3b. What are the pet fees? \n4. Do you take a security deposit, or do you charge a move-in and move-out fee? Or a combination of both? (Landlords, especially in Chicago, are now moving towards move-in/out fees as there are increasing restrictions on what security deposits can be used for, as well as the need for returning them *with interest* to the renter when the lease is terminated). \n5. Do you take an electronic form of payment? (Good to know if they only accept checks, how often you need to send in advance for it to be received on-time). \n6. Is renters insurance required by you and/or your association? (Tip: you should *always* have renters insurance to cover yourself.) \n7. Is there an application fee? If so, how much? \n8. Is parking including? \n9. Is there additional storage (such as a basement unit) available? \n10. Is washer / dryer included in the unit? If not, is there one on-site available (and cost)? \n11. Who performs the maintenance and how are they reached? \n12. Am I responsible for light bulb replacements? (I've had this asked to me, and have also rented from a place that did not allow bulbs other than their own LED bulbs that they replaced when requested - kind of nice!). \n13. Can I hang things on the walls (TV mounts, pictures with nails, etc.) \n\nThat's all I can think of for now! Good luck in your hunt.",
"Something I never thought of was to check whether the tiles are sealed, and maybe even walk around barefoot. The last place I lived in, the landlord didn't seal the tiles and there was a constant layer or dust from it on the ground everywhere. I couldn't walk around my own house without wearing flip-flops",
"Take lots of pictures. Document everything not 100% perfect before you move in. Most landlords I've had were great. But I had one that was on a witch hunt. In the end, we lost, because we had not documented as well as we should have. This landlord spent 20 Minutes during the move in walkthrough and over THREE HOURS on the move out. She blamed us for things that were there before we moved in, but they were so minor we didn't document them. The judge ruled in her favor because she had better records. Her records were so thorough, it's like she was setting us up. ",
"Ask what the average utility bills are. \nIf you decide to rent a place, ask where the fuse box/breaker box is, and the main water shutoff. Ask about maintenance items, too. Like where the furnace filters are, and if there is a food filter in the dishwasher that needs occasional cleaning.",
"If you're looking at complexes, be sure to ask if they deal in section 8 with this particular property. I'm not saying that people who utilize section 8 are bad, but experience has shown me that they are typically neighbors you don't want. ",
"1. Can I paint? If so, do I need preapproval of the colors?\n2. What internet provider options are available?\n3. Ask about the security specifics of the building. How is entrance gained?\n4. How does the complex handle packages? Are they left at your door? To me, this is a big no no as they will often be stolen. There should be someone able to accept the package on your behalf and leave a message for you.\n\nThis is all I can think of besides what others have already pointed out. Another good way to find out is to watch the complex both early in the morning and after 5. This will give you a good indicator of the individuals living there and the type of people they are. If everyone sleeps till noon and stays up all night, you might want to consider another complex. This will also let you observe the makeup of the residents (how many children etc.)\n",
"[This](https://np.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2rwneo/lpt_request_when_apartment_searching_what_are/) is the list I used! ",
"Ask about maintenance SLAs (service level agreements).\n\nI had a friend whose A/C was out for over 3 weeks in the middle of a hot Texas summer. Things like that ought to be considered a maintenance emergency.\n\nLast year, I was seriously considering two different apartment complexes, and the deciding factor between them was that when I asked about maintenance SLAs for emergencies, one said \"guaranteed response within 24 hours\" and the other said \"we'll get to it when we can.\"",
"Anything in regards to noise levels nearby... I was never told (and silly me for not googling the area) that there was a loud nightclub outside of my window that operates til 5am three nights a week! ",
"Not something you would ask the LL, per se, but turn on the shower and sink/faucets in the bathroom (and kitchen, if there's no dishwasher and you'll be doing them by hand). Since water is often included in the rent, wany LLs have reducers installed. This is fine unless the LL is particularly cheap and you're forced to shower with a wimply-ass trickle. Also, on move-in take pictures of everything before you move your stuff in. Seriously, take fairly close up pictures of every part of the apartment and then stash them away. Most LLs are cool but a few will try to make a little extra by claiming damages when you move out. ",
"Make sure that when you decide for an apartment that any repairs that need to be done are put in writing. Once you sign the lease, if they haven't done them, they may drag their feet.\n\nWhen you do a walk through, usually just before signing the lease, take pictures of \"small\" defects and make sure to point them out to them as well. When you move out those defects might still be there, but they may claim you made them and deduct from your deposit. \n\nAsk if you're allowed to paint the apartment and if so, do they do it or you? I've lived in many places and some are ok with me painting it, but I have to paint it back to what it was when I move out and others have said that they will have their people paint it, I just need to get the paint myself and they'd also paint it back when I move out (they may charge a fee, some places won't charge the fee if you've lived there for at least a couple of years). This last part usually is done just before you move in.\n\nIf they take a deposit they must have it in escrow accumulating interest. \n\nAsk what cable/internet companies service the area. In some areas only one is available even in big cities. Also ask if you can install a satellite dish, if that's something you'll want. \n\n\n",
"If you take pictures, make a sign with the day's date on it and make sure it is in every photo. Don't use your camera's time stamp feature, these can be easily forged. "
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"What's your best advice when negotiating a raise? **I am not in this situation, but I think it would incredibly useful to learn some salary negotiation tactics from those more experienced in the workplace.** \n \nSince it's a very open ended question, I'll throw out the following scenario. \n \nLet's say you been with a company for 2 years. You currently make $14 hourly, however you have made repeated significant contributions to the company in your tenure (never been written up, model worker). \n \nThe company is small, but doing very well financially. The corporate bosses are kind, but you've had very little facetime with them and you know they're going to low ball you. \n \nYou're meeting big boss for negotiation in one week, and you've got one shot to convince them how much you're worth. \n \n**tl:dr - Help those of us less experienced in the workplace learn some salary negotiation tactics. You can use the scenario above, or just give your best general tips/tricks.**",
"What's your best advice when negotiating a raise? **I am not in this situation, but I think it would incredibly useful to learn some salary negotiation tactics from those more experienced in the workplace.** \n \nSince it's a very open ended question, I'll throw out the following scenario. \n \nLet's say you been with a company for 2 years. You currently make $14 hourly, however you have made repeated significant contributions to the company in your tenure (never been written up, model worker). \n \nThe company is small, but doing very well financially. The corporate bosses are kind, but you've had very little facetime with them and you know they're going to low ball you. \n \nYou're meeting big boss for negotiation in one week, and you've got one shot to convince them how much you're worth. \n \n**tl:dr - Help those of us less experienced in the workplace learn some salary negotiation tactics. You can use the scenario above, or just give your best general tips/tricks.**",
"What's your best advice when negotiating a raise? **I am not in this situation, but I think it would incredibly useful to learn some salary negotiation tactics from those more experienced in the workplace.** \n \nSince it's a very open ended question, I'll throw out the following scenario. \n \nLet's say you been with a company for 2 years. You currently make $14 hourly, however you have made repeated significant contributions to the company in your tenure (never been written up, model worker). \n \nThe company is small, but doing very well financially. The corporate bosses are kind, but you've had very little facetime with them and you know they're going to low ball you. \n \nYou're meeting big boss for negotiation in one week, and you've got one shot to convince them how much you're worth. \n \n**tl:dr - Help those of us less experienced in the workplace learn some salary negotiation tactics. You can use the scenario above, or just give your best general tips/tricks.**",
"What's your best advice when negotiating a raise? **I am not in this situation, but I think it would incredibly useful to learn some salary negotiation tactics from those more experienced in the workplace.** \n \nSince it's a very open ended question, I'll throw out the following scenario. \n \nLet's say you been with a company for 2 years. You currently make $14 hourly, however you have made repeated significant contributions to the company in your tenure (never been written up, model worker). \n \nThe company is small, but doing very well financially. The corporate bosses are kind, but you've had very little facetime with them and you know they're going to low ball you. \n \nYou're meeting big boss for negotiation in one week, and you've got one shot to convince them how much you're worth. \n \n**tl:dr - Help those of us less experienced in the workplace learn some salary negotiation tactics. You can use the scenario above, or just give your best general tips/tricks.**",
"What's your best advice when negotiating a raise? **I am not in this situation, but I think it would incredibly useful to learn some salary negotiation tactics from those more experienced in the workplace.** \n \nSince it's a very open ended question, I'll throw out the following scenario. \n \nLet's say you been with a company for 2 years. You currently make $14 hourly, however you have made repeated significant contributions to the company in your tenure (never been written up, model worker). \n \nThe company is small, but doing very well financially. The corporate bosses are kind, but you've had very little facetime with them and you know they're going to low ball you. \n \nYou're meeting big boss for negotiation in one week, and you've got one shot to convince them how much you're worth. \n \n**tl:dr - Help those of us less experienced in the workplace learn some salary negotiation tactics. You can use the scenario above, or just give your best general tips/tricks.**",
"What's your best advice when negotiating a raise? **I am not in this situation, but I think it would incredibly useful to learn some salary negotiation tactics from those more experienced in the workplace.** \n \nSince it's a very open ended question, I'll throw out the following scenario. \n \nLet's say you been with a company for 2 years. You currently make $14 hourly, however you have made repeated significant contributions to the company in your tenure (never been written up, model worker). \n \nThe company is small, but doing very well financially. The corporate bosses are kind, but you've had very little facetime with them and you know they're going to low ball you. \n \nYou're meeting big boss for negotiation in one week, and you've got one shot to convince them how much you're worth. \n \n**tl:dr - Help those of us less experienced in the workplace learn some salary negotiation tactics. You can use the scenario above, or just give your best general tips/tricks.**",
"What's your best advice when negotiating a raise? **I am not in this situation, but I think it would incredibly useful to learn some salary negotiation tactics from those more experienced in the workplace.** \n \nSince it's a very open ended question, I'll throw out the following scenario. \n \nLet's say you been with a company for 2 years. You currently make $14 hourly, however you have made repeated significant contributions to the company in your tenure (never been written up, model worker). \n \nThe company is small, but doing very well financially. The corporate bosses are kind, but you've had very little facetime with them and you know they're going to low ball you. \n \nYou're meeting big boss for negotiation in one week, and you've got one shot to convince them how much you're worth. \n \n**tl:dr - Help those of us less experienced in the workplace learn some salary negotiation tactics. You can use the scenario above, or just give your best general tips/tricks.**",
"What's your best advice when negotiating a raise? **I am not in this situation, but I think it would incredibly useful to learn some salary negotiation tactics from those more experienced in the workplace.** \n \nSince it's a very open ended question, I'll throw out the following scenario. \n \nLet's say you been with a company for 2 years. You currently make $14 hourly, however you have made repeated significant contributions to the company in your tenure (never been written up, model worker). \n \nThe company is small, but doing very well financially. The corporate bosses are kind, but you've had very little facetime with them and you know they're going to low ball you. \n \nYou're meeting big boss for negotiation in one week, and you've got one shot to convince them how much you're worth. \n \n**tl:dr - Help those of us less experienced in the workplace learn some salary negotiation tactics. You can use the scenario above, or just give your best general tips/tricks.**"
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"Getting a raise isn't about \"look how good I'm doing my job!\" They know you can do your job, they hired you. It's about showing what added value you bring to the company. Fulfilling your job description perfectly and never being late or a bad worker isn't worth giving you more money. However, if you start to take on some other roles that make/save the company money- THAT is worth a raise. Let's say you're really good at managing the company Facebook/Twitter (if it's a small company, they probably won't have someone dedicated to this position.) You need to show what kind of value that extra task brings to the company. How much \"free\" exposure is the company getting? Are you engaging with clients or customers and making the company as a whole look even better? SHOW your boss in numbers what kind of value you are adding. \n\nAlso- what will you be doing differently after you get your raise? Can you add to your current workload? Can you improve performance? \n\nEmployers (especially small business employers) don't just go around handing out money, because that takes from their pocket. However, if you were to show that you would make/save more money than it cost to give you a raise, THEN it is worth it to an employer to give you that raise. ",
"Go prepared, the first thing they'll think is why the hell should I pay you more? So have an answer.\n\nHey boss, I deserve a pay rise, I want to be paid this amount of money, and it is based on the average for my role/experience, I deserve it because I fixed that widget, I've installed twenty new whatnots and won us the be johnderson contract two months ago.\n\nYou want more, show your value to the company, they, as a business don't care about fair, or inflation, or that you need a new car, that you're getting married. Nothing. Your boss might, but you need a business case to justify your request.\n\nIf push comes to shove, leave for more money, or at least tell them that you've seen other vacancies for what you're asking for or more.",
"First and foremost have another job ready so you ACTUALLY have some bargaining power. In this market \"job creators\" often simply say \"No, go back to work.\"",
"1. Ask. No one will give you a raise until you ask. This is the hardest part\n\n2. Dictate the conversation, and have a plan. \"I've made repeated significant contributions, and therefore I should get a raise to $22/hr\" sounds much better then\n\"I've been working hard, and I thought I would ask for a raise, what do you think\"? In other words don't ask them what they think you want (they will tell you what they want). Tell them what you want.\n\n3. Shoot the Moon- if you are making $14 an hour, ask for $22 or $28 Tell them you think its fair.... it makes them look like an ass if they say, I think you are worth $16. You may only get $20 but thats a big raise.\nHowever if you ask for $16, they will probably give you $15 \n",
"* Only negotiate a raise when you KNOW you've earned it. \n* State clearly why you are worth more than you're getting paid, but don't come across as arrogant.\n* Don't portray your peers in a negative manner just to make yourself look like the better employee. \n* Be confident, it shouldn't take much convincing to get a raise. If you deserve more money, you and your boss should KNOW that you're worth it.\n* Wait for a good time to ask. Don't ask when:\n-your boss is in a bad mood\n-sales/revenue is down\n-stressful or overly busy day",
"Make a list of what you have done that has saved them or made them money. \"I improved this process saving 400 man hours and $10,000 in parts annually\" or \"I built a team that has consistently performed above expectations\" or anything at shows what you did where you are and can logically lead to \" Look what I did at the entry level, imagine what I can save/make you with more resources.\"\n\nIn larger companies office politics plays a role. If you are a superstar, it is worth looking at employment elsewhere. Your company may only be able to offer 10% because policy or politics. A company hiring someone new has to have the salary discussion fresh, and there's usually more leeway, plus you might not be looking for work as a widget whacker for the new company, they might be needing a widget whacking supervisor.",
"My best advice is to show how your responsibilities have grown in your time with the company. If your job has evolved significantly, your salary should have as well.",
"not specific to your question but you should always demand at least a 2.1% raise. Explain to your boss that because of inflation increasing at an average of 2.1% that it wouldn't be fair to be paying you less that year."
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"How to ask someone to exchange numbers when there isn't a specific occasion or any sort of intimacy involved (Coworker, new acquaintance, etc.) This is something stupid I've always struggled with. I just noticed that a lot of my coworkers have exchanged phone numbers and I feel a little left out. I think it happens naturally when there's a special occasion (\"We're going out to this bar, here's my number, text when you get here\") or when you first meet someone, but I've always felt kind of awkward about it--there's this tension between simply wanting their number in case you'd like to get a hold of them vs. the connotation of being interested in dating them or wondering whether or not they want to be more than coworkers. \n\nI'm kinda more interested in people's thoughts on this, not for some expert to come out with a LPT, so I think I'd get as much out of just hearing your guys' opinions and experiences than some specific person chiming in. ",
"How to ask someone to exchange numbers when there isn't a specific occasion or any sort of intimacy involved (Coworker, new acquaintance, etc.) This is something stupid I've always struggled with. I just noticed that a lot of my coworkers have exchanged phone numbers and I feel a little left out. I think it happens naturally when there's a special occasion (\"We're going out to this bar, here's my number, text when you get here\") or when you first meet someone, but I've always felt kind of awkward about it--there's this tension between simply wanting their number in case you'd like to get a hold of them vs. the connotation of being interested in dating them or wondering whether or not they want to be more than coworkers. \n\nI'm kinda more interested in people's thoughts on this, not for some expert to come out with a LPT, so I think I'd get as much out of just hearing your guys' opinions and experiences than some specific person chiming in. ",
"How to ask someone to exchange numbers when there isn't a specific occasion or any sort of intimacy involved (Coworker, new acquaintance, etc.) This is something stupid I've always struggled with. I just noticed that a lot of my coworkers have exchanged phone numbers and I feel a little left out. I think it happens naturally when there's a special occasion (\"We're going out to this bar, here's my number, text when you get here\") or when you first meet someone, but I've always felt kind of awkward about it--there's this tension between simply wanting their number in case you'd like to get a hold of them vs. the connotation of being interested in dating them or wondering whether or not they want to be more than coworkers. \n\nI'm kinda more interested in people's thoughts on this, not for some expert to come out with a LPT, so I think I'd get as much out of just hearing your guys' opinions and experiences than some specific person chiming in. ",
"How to ask someone to exchange numbers when there isn't a specific occasion or any sort of intimacy involved (Coworker, new acquaintance, etc.) This is something stupid I've always struggled with. I just noticed that a lot of my coworkers have exchanged phone numbers and I feel a little left out. I think it happens naturally when there's a special occasion (\"We're going out to this bar, here's my number, text when you get here\") or when you first meet someone, but I've always felt kind of awkward about it--there's this tension between simply wanting their number in case you'd like to get a hold of them vs. the connotation of being interested in dating them or wondering whether or not they want to be more than coworkers. \n\nI'm kinda more interested in people's thoughts on this, not for some expert to come out with a LPT, so I think I'd get as much out of just hearing your guys' opinions and experiences than some specific person chiming in. "
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"Wait for an occasion and offer your number first. \"Hey if plans change here is my number. If I am going to be late, is there a number I can call you at?\"",
"Do you ever, ever, ever need any of these people's numbers? \n\nIf not, forget it.\n\nIf you want to socialize more with them, tell them *that you want to socialize more with them.* And you will.",
"You don't just approach a coworker out the blue to ask for their number. That would come across as being creepy. But in the course of having a regular conversation and you find a common interest, like lets say playing frisbee, that's a chance to say \"Hey, maybe one day we can get together to play frisbee. Here's my number. What's yours?\" Otherwise, if there's no mutual interest, leave it alone. Don't feel the pressure to get a co-worker's number just because everyone else is doing it. They probably found some kind of mutual interest. Also, you never what happens after. Did they actually call each other? Just because they get each others' number doesn't mean there was any follow up ever. Some people just give their number because it's the polite thing to do. Then they might ignore the co-worker's call. Never assume that an exchange of phone numbers means becoming BFFs.",
"Since there's so much uncomfortable connotation with 'asking for their number', you can always immediately connect with any social network or social media you have, especially LinkedIn for CoWorkers, or Facebook for casual connections. These are innocent enough, and all have some type of Instant Messaging in the event that you do actually need that person. Search for them right there on your mobile device and add them right there.\nThis is what social networks were originally intended to do, and are fantastic at it."
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"Getting Ice Cubes out of the Tray Seriously is there a trick to this? It's embarrassing how long it takes for me to get out a few ice cubes without emptying the whole damn tray. Someone plz help me",
"Getting Ice Cubes out of the Tray Seriously is there a trick to this? It's embarrassing how long it takes for me to get out a few ice cubes without emptying the whole damn tray. Someone plz help me",
"Getting Ice Cubes out of the Tray Seriously is there a trick to this? It's embarrassing how long it takes for me to get out a few ice cubes without emptying the whole damn tray. Someone plz help me",
"Getting Ice Cubes out of the Tray Seriously is there a trick to this? It's embarrassing how long it takes for me to get out a few ice cubes without emptying the whole damn tray. Someone plz help me",
"Getting Ice Cubes out of the Tray Seriously is there a trick to this? It's embarrassing how long it takes for me to get out a few ice cubes without emptying the whole damn tray. Someone plz help me",
"Getting Ice Cubes out of the Tray Seriously is there a trick to this? It's embarrassing how long it takes for me to get out a few ice cubes without emptying the whole damn tray. Someone plz help me",
"Getting Ice Cubes out of the Tray Seriously is there a trick to this? It's embarrassing how long it takes for me to get out a few ice cubes without emptying the whole damn tray. Someone plz help me",
"Getting Ice Cubes out of the Tray Seriously is there a trick to this? It's embarrassing how long it takes for me to get out a few ice cubes without emptying the whole damn tray. Someone plz help me"
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"Usually I've seen people twist the sides of the tray in order to get the cubes popped out. If you don't do it too hard then you can just pop out the ones you need. ",
"These make it very easy to pop out an indivudal cube, but they're kind of a pain to put in the freezer when you fill them, since they're nowhere near as rigid as regular trays.\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Tovolo-Perfect-Cube-Trays-Stratus/dp/B000QIU7X6",
"Set the tray in some room temp water water, it will melt the ice holding the plastic first, and then they will all fallout very easily",
"Buy a box to keep ice in. When you first need ice, dump the whole lot in the box, then fish the cubes out as needed. Keep the box in the freezer to preserve the ice. \n\nAlso, buy better ice trays. I bought some large-cubeJapanese ones with a silicone lid (so that you can stack them), and even though they're still made of hard plastic, they're still really easy to get cubes out of. ",
"run tap water on the bottom of the tray for a few seconds. every cube slides out easy as pie after you twist the tray.",
"Use an ice cube tray bag/bucket. Bash ice cube tray full of cubes into bag/bucket. Remove needed ice cubes and refill tray with water. Repeat when bag/bucket has less than 5 cubes remaining.\n\nBoiled water makes clear cubes too, which is nice. ",
"I use old tupperware containers to hold ice that's finished in the tray. I also use a long shallow container to make a flat sheet of ice and chop it up with a few taps from a cleaver and pour into my ice shards container. Or ice chips, not sure about the final name yet. It's really nice for chilling drinks more quickly, anyhow.",
"Buy a bag of ice instead. When you need some, you can just smash the whole bag on the counter, take as much as you need, and put the bag back in the freezer. Dont have to refill the tray, balance a tray full of water as you go from sink to freezer, wait for it to freeze, etc.."
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"How to take the high road in an argument without making it seem like you did. When my wife and I argue about small things and I stop them short by saying \"I don't want to argue about it\", it feels like a small jab at her. Is there a more elegant way of saying that or ending the argument where we both end up taking the higher road?",
"How to take the high road in an argument without making it seem like you did. When my wife and I argue about small things and I stop them short by saying \"I don't want to argue about it\", it feels like a small jab at her. Is there a more elegant way of saying that or ending the argument where we both end up taking the higher road?",
"How to take the high road in an argument without making it seem like you did. When my wife and I argue about small things and I stop them short by saying \"I don't want to argue about it\", it feels like a small jab at her. Is there a more elegant way of saying that or ending the argument where we both end up taking the higher road?",
"How to take the high road in an argument without making it seem like you did. When my wife and I argue about small things and I stop them short by saying \"I don't want to argue about it\", it feels like a small jab at her. Is there a more elegant way of saying that or ending the argument where we both end up taking the higher road?",
"How to take the high road in an argument without making it seem like you did. When my wife and I argue about small things and I stop them short by saying \"I don't want to argue about it\", it feels like a small jab at her. Is there a more elegant way of saying that or ending the argument where we both end up taking the higher road?",
"How to take the high road in an argument without making it seem like you did. When my wife and I argue about small things and I stop them short by saying \"I don't want to argue about it\", it feels like a small jab at her. Is there a more elegant way of saying that or ending the argument where we both end up taking the higher road?"
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"Don't just say, \"you're right\". A good relationship never benefits from either side ceding to the other with our making progress on an issue. That can cause petty, minor resentment that can fester mentally. If either side is getting emotional, make your point clear that you would like to continue the conversation, but with both of you having clearer heads. Take a few hours, separate yourselves if it's a serious/passionate enough argument, and cool off. But don't just forget about it! Think about the discussion, and the points being made by both parties. Both sides need to feel that their voice is heard and understood. After a few hours, both of you might come back laughing about how silly it was. \n\nOne of the best concepts I've heard regarding relationships is that they are work. And they are! It's not always easy, but when is anything good ever easy?\n\n",
"Sometimes you can get away with, \"Let's put a pin this and discuss it later\". That way you can talk about it with cooler heads.",
"I'm a fan of \"agree to disagree?\" \nBoth parties can agree but without having to concede any points made. If the other person can't accept that (there is a difference between getting riled up and desire to win), you see an expression of the person rather than their argument.",
"Oh the CONSTANT working on the marriage.....God, I don't miss that a bit. \n\nI would validate what she says by repeating what she said in your words - so she knows you how understand. Body language and tone are key. \n\nSeek to understand before you seek to be understood. (7 Habits). \n\nAnd if you don't think it's worth arguing about. Don't argue. But you don't have to announce it. \n",
"\"You know, (this issue) just isn't important enough to argue about.\"\n\nOr try to zoom out and look at the bigger picture: \"It doesn't really matter where we eat dinner, I just want to hang out with you and unwind for a while.\"",
"I was think that saying \"I don't want to argue about it\", would be a good way to stop an argument. Maybe it's in the delivery? If you stop the escalation by saying something like, \"You know what? I really don't want to argue...\" calmly and with sincerity, it shouldn't come off as a jab. Also, I know it's small, but if take your voice to a softer decibel than the argument had been at, it can act as a subtle de-escalator. Hope that helps!"
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"College Dorm Living I'm an incoming freshman into college and I was wondering if and of you have tips on what to do/not do and avoid when living in dorms. Thank you!",
"College Dorm Living I'm an incoming freshman into college and I was wondering if and of you have tips on what to do/not do and avoid when living in dorms. Thank you!",
"College Dorm Living I'm an incoming freshman into college and I was wondering if and of you have tips on what to do/not do and avoid when living in dorms. Thank you!",
"College Dorm Living I'm an incoming freshman into college and I was wondering if and of you have tips on what to do/not do and avoid when living in dorms. Thank you!",
"College Dorm Living I'm an incoming freshman into college and I was wondering if and of you have tips on what to do/not do and avoid when living in dorms. Thank you!",
"College Dorm Living I'm an incoming freshman into college and I was wondering if and of you have tips on what to do/not do and avoid when living in dorms. Thank you!",
"College Dorm Living I'm an incoming freshman into college and I was wondering if and of you have tips on what to do/not do and avoid when living in dorms. Thank you!",
"College Dorm Living I'm an incoming freshman into college and I was wondering if and of you have tips on what to do/not do and avoid when living in dorms. Thank you!",
"College Dorm Living I'm an incoming freshman into college and I was wondering if and of you have tips on what to do/not do and avoid when living in dorms. Thank you!",
"College Dorm Living I'm an incoming freshman into college and I was wondering if and of you have tips on what to do/not do and avoid when living in dorms. Thank you!",
"College Dorm Living I'm an incoming freshman into college and I was wondering if and of you have tips on what to do/not do and avoid when living in dorms. Thank you!"
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"Do:\n\nMake an effort to talk to everyone in your hall. (Try to make friends with your RA! They know everything.) Additionally, get a door stop and keep your door wedged open. You'll get some fresh air and people will stop by to say hello, which is always nice.\n\nTry to keep your room tidy. It's disheartening to come back to your room after a long day and have crap lying everywhere. A tidy desk makes for easier studying.\n\nIf you have 8 AM classes (which you should try to avoid), shower at night. You can sleep a little later and you'll feel clean during class, instead of wanting to jump in the shower as soon as your class is over.\n\nEven if the mattresses seem okay, buy a foam topper for it. You'll need a comfy bed!\n\nAdditional sources of light (like desk lamps and bedside lamps) are really useful if your roommate is sleeping but you want to read or study, and as a substitute for an overhead florescent light. Those lights have a tendency to buzz obnoxiously which can really get on your nerves.\n\nIf you don't know how to do your laundry, have someone teach you before you go off to school. If you have clothing that should be washed delicately, don't bring it to school unless you know how to take care of it and don't mind taking extra time to wash it.\n\nTake advantage of your school's counseling and/or therapy centers if you're feeling homesick, anxious, depressed, or just stressed out. They're usually free and can be really helpful. It's not embarrassing or shameful! You should also find out where your school's health center is incase you get sick. (Diseases can spread really quickly in dorms: last year, my entire hall caught walking pneumonia.)\n\nYou may be able to buy cups of yogurt, whole pieces of fruit, and other foods that you can keep in your room. These are good if the dining hall closes before you get out of class or if you get hungry at night.\nDon't:\n \nDeep-pile rugs, like shag rugs, get disgusting really quickly. Buy a large, cheap, low-pile rug to cover the cold tile floor. It doesn't have to last or be very good quality because you'll probably throw it out at the end of the year.\n\nSticking things to drywall with Command strips is not a great idea because they rip paint off the walls. (You could potentially be fined for damages.) Use thumbtacks instead.\n\nEating at the same dining hall can be boring and unhealthy. There are usually a lot of cheap, student-friendly restaurants just off campus where you can eat a variety of food. Keep leftovers in your fridge for snacks!\n\nDon't rely on granola bars, pop tarts, or other vending machine snacks for breakfast. Buy yourself a box of frozen breakfast sandwiches and microwave one for breakfast, then eat it on the way to class. The protein, carbs, gooey cheese, and warmth are a good way to start the day.\n\n\nI hope this helped a little! I tried to think of things that I had to learn the hard way during my freshman year. If you need me to clarify anything, just ask. Good luck!\n\n",
"Tip #1: Bring Food that you like and not the typical college food ever talks about. You will want to save as much money as possible for random needs and wants. For example, I bought a lot of Ramen first semester and never ate any of it, but Next semester i bought lots of cashews and peanuts and they held me over and i ate all of them. Great late night snacks.\n\nTip #2: Try things, but don't kill yourself. Never Went swimming? Go swim with some people. Never Been go a drag show? Go. Never smoke Weed? Be smart about it an try it. Never drink before? Be smart about it and try it. Experiences are the best part of college, try as much as you can without ruining our life.\n\nTip #3: If you do decide to drink, Learn your limit early. Nothing is worse than being \"That Freshman\" who goes to a party and gets Alcohol poisoning and can't even walk when he gets there. Always stay sober enough to Bullshit a Cop or campus security.\n\nTip #4: Whenever you see Campus Security, Say hi to them. You have no idea how helpful they can be if they see you're a good kid. They will tell you their patrol times and their routes and will give you more warnings than others.\n\nTip #5: Go to EVERY. SINGLE. CLASS. Seriously, if you don't take any of these tips except this one, you're golden. There is no negative to going to class 99% of the time. Even if you got no sleep, are puking blood, or having your genitalia burnt off, get your ass to class. I can't express how much that will help.\n\nTip #6: Keep your room clean. You can spare an hour to just tidy up a little bit once a week. If your room is clean people get good impressions of you, especially if you are a dude. Guys with spotless rooms are usually the most successful, and no one wants to see your dirty Draws on the floor.\n\nTip 7#: Don't waste time. You are gonna be bleeding more money than a cancer patient getting chemo.",
"RA here/Super Senior: \nOnly bring one plate, one bowl, one cup, one fork, one spoon, one knife...sounds bizarre but it's an easy way to make sure you won't be able to let dishes pile up. \n \nGet to know the housekeeping ladies and gents! They're often friendly, but even if they're not understand that college kids are a pain to clean up after. If you're nice to them, they'll help you out so much. \n \nGo to your professors' office hours at least once in the first four weeks or so. Ask for help, ask to brainstorm ideas for a project, but make sure they know your name. It almost always pays off. I've had countless times where I've needed an extension on a major assignment or didnt turn something in but I was able to make a deal with the professor because, as they said, I \"built good cr",
"I just stopped living in dorms after my 4 years of school (three of which I was an RA). I will try to keep my tips for you short:\n\n1. Leave your door open, and get to meet new people. There wont be another time in your life where you have the opportunity to make so many friends so quickly.\n\n2. Rearrange your room with your new roommate. This gives you the opportunity to get to break the ice and get to know their habits and preferences.\n\n3. Bring as little with you as possible/try to stay clean and organized. A lot of college catalogues have nifty organizers and laptop cushion fan stands with cup holders and reading lights... Don't buy them, I guarantee you won't need them, if you don't believe me, go into an upper classman's room and I promise they have already thrown theirs out. Your room will most likely be small, and you will most likely be sharing it with someone else that is trying to relocate their life. College students on average spend 80% of their time in their halls, you will want to be as comfortable and clutter free as possible.\n\n4. Be open minded. You will meet a lot of people with a lot of different backgrounds. Being open and learning from them will make you a better person. Between the ages of 18 and 22, it is safe to say the majority of friends I made have nothing in common with me, and it is **awesome**.\n\n5. Don't be a bad roommate. Sounds stupid, but putting in a little effort to be a good roommate will make your life dramatically easier.\n\n6. Have fun, make mistakes, laugh a lot, break the rules, but don't forget to study. Again, being an RA I unfortunately saw my fair share of good people be forced to leave school because their priorities were out of order. I also saw my fair share of people not enjoy their college experience because they only focused on academics. Learn to balance, you will be glad you did.\n\nCongrats on going to school, many people in this world don't get this opportunity, and I hope you have a memorable time!\n\nBonus tip: The years **will** fly by. Make sure you enjoy every day.",
"There are great tips here already. My random thoughts: \n1) Get in touch with your future roommate before moving in to coordinate who can bring what. For example, you don't need two tv's, microwaves, trashcans, or refrigerators. \n2) You can use Woolite like paint and it will glow under a black light. Gets a little sudsy when you wash it off. Almost invisible without the black light on. Easy to fix mistakes and change designs as wanted. \n3) If you don't already-password protect all your electronics. Don't share any passwords with anyone. \n4) Get involved and participate.\n5) Over-the-Door shoe organizers can be used on bathroom doors to add storage for toiletries. (I do this on cruises)\n6) Does your college have a subreddit? Ask for tips there. There may be lots of particular tricks specific to your dorm.\n7) Take advantage of your professor's office time to go by and ask questions. They will know your face and that you care about your learning experience. You may need this later (when you have to ask for an extension or argue a missed answer on a test.)\n8) Check Craigslist for your college town-you can likely get a dorm approved homemade loft bed. Those free up so much space! If you don't want to be that close to the ceiling, see if you are allowed to add any storage under your bed. Being an extra 2 feet off the floor is not terribly difficult to navigate, and provides so much storage!\n9) Buy extension cords with the flat heads that don't stick out from the wall much. Use those to run around beds and desks before placing furniture in front of them. Then plug your power strips into these now that they are reachable. \n10) If a problem comes up, deal with it head on and fact-to-face. Have a rational discussion and reach a compromise that you can both live with. Letting an issue linger will just build resentment. And expecting to entirely get your way is often unrealistic. \n\nCongratulations and good luck!",
"Seems like we're missing the other half of LPT college dorm living. Here are a few that I learned.\n\nDo:\n\n* Put a towel under the door. It's not 100% effective, but it does help.\n\n* Be good to your RA. Tell your RA if you're going to have a party (assuming he/she is cool). They will often tell you when dicks are on duty.\n\n* Be flexible. Everyone has different living habits.\n\n* Bring something to the pre-game.\n\nDon't:\n\n* Judge people.\n\n* Barf in bed. (You're probably gonna do it at some point... learn to judge your body)\n\n* Take all the fucking condoms.\n\n* Have a fire extinguisher fight.",
"Get one of those fold-able shoes racks to place clothes in. \n\nGet some high quality lead pencil and wooden pencils, and it goes without saying: get sharpener and eraser. Stapler, both big and small, one for class and one on the desk. \n\nGet some really nice bed sheets - really high sheet counts like 500 Ithink - since you are in college enjoy your sleep, cause you wouldn't have much. \n\n\"Medical\" Kit: Asprin, not Tylenol - kill your liver, bandages, Emergan-C packets, Hydrocostine. \n\nTape: masking, Duck, and invisible. \n\nclipboard: trust me in those really filled classes, sitting on the floor writing is not comfortable. \n\nA lamp: strange to have but necessary, one that can adjust the brightness. \n\nLearn to love coffee, for morning runs...to class.\n\nStart watch this channel: \"https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYDCEwzU-xHqWHWKrkzNpVQ\" to learn how to cook. \n\nA simple ceramic bowl - mircowave-able and oven-able. and plastic plates warm up food if your lazy to wash. Forks, spoons, knifes, and a small paring knife. \n\nbathroom stuff: Take note of what you need during a shower and how long you take. Then compare the stuff you need to the College's environment. If its close, your good; if far, then check out the weather and see if your stuff works. It makes a difference when you have dry skin or sensitive to humidity. \n\nStuff like this are optional. As you go through college, many of these items are unexpected. There are what \"I\" noticed. But as college is discovering who you are, these \"things\" will come up according to \"your\" needs and lifestyle. ",
"If you have an armoire/closet type thing, buy tap lights to stick on the inside so you can get ready without pissing off your roommate.\n\nAlso, do NOT agree to anything on the roommate contract you are not okay with. Don't say you are okay with sharing, just to be nice, if you really aren't. It comes back to bite you. ",
"- Get a bicycle with a basket on the front and/or back. You may want a car depending on where you live, but a bike is useful for short trips to the grocery store, or if your town has reasonable public transit (e.g. subway). Keep it in shape, and it'll keep you in shape. And make sure you get a U-lock. The long ones are best, but it depends on where you can get 'em in your area. Always give yourself multiple transportation options if you can. \n\n- The dollar store is nice, but it should only be for things that are **going** to wear out, like foil, spices, soap, etc.. \n\n- Get rewards cards for all the local grocery stores and pharmacies. Shop around if you must, but always have one when you buy basic items, because paying twice as much is a waste of money. \n\n- Know where the local gyms are. If your shower is fucked or your roomate is taking forever (or has a *friend*), a trial membership will get you a free shower for a day or so. \n\n- Speaking of showers, if you can afford it, I suggest a decent detatchable shower head. Showers are an often overlooked luxury. Take your time and enjoy the experience. ",
"The part of my college experience thus far that has made the biggest impact has been the group I met in my freshman dorm. Make and effort to make the people in your hall, your floor, and even just the dorm as a whole into your family. I lived in the largest freshman dorm at a small liberal arts college, and as a result of an incredible closeness with my dorm, I have at least 30 people that I can see out and about and around campus at any point and have a friendly cordial conversation with. My 6 best friends (friends that I will have forever and that I would trust with anything) all lived within 20 yards of me in every direction. Get out there and be friendly and nice and meet new people. Meet everyone. The people you meet and befriend are the things that are going to make the difference between a good college experience and one that you wouldn't trade for anything in the world. One thing we did as a dorm, was we ALL (as many as would fit) gathered in the common room once a week and watched a tv show together like a family. It gave us all something to talk about all week long, something to look forward to, and something to bond over. Have a blast, freshman year is crazy great.",
"Be careful about smoking pot in your dorm. I go to school in a very marijuana friendly city, but I literally get emails everyday about campus crimes and there's always some students gettin busted in the dorms. "
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"Looking for actual real world texting etiquette and ways to up my communication ability via messaging platforms When I try to search the web, there seems to be a void on Google filled by Cosmo articles and pick up artists, so I though to start a thread here asking for people's advice on what are some of the unspoken rules to follow when texting someone. The biggest question I had that started this whole search is how to tell if I'm being overzealous or leaving someone hanging? Not in a flirtatious sense, like just texting friends and coworkers.",
"Looking for actual real world texting etiquette and ways to up my communication ability via messaging platforms When I try to search the web, there seems to be a void on Google filled by Cosmo articles and pick up artists, so I though to start a thread here asking for people's advice on what are some of the unspoken rules to follow when texting someone. The biggest question I had that started this whole search is how to tell if I'm being overzealous or leaving someone hanging? Not in a flirtatious sense, like just texting friends and coworkers."
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"reread your text message in different tones. i.e mad, sad, happy, etc to see if it can be easily taken out of context.\n\navoid sarcasm too",
"If you can roughly match the rhythm and length of the exchanges it goes smoothly. Some people can’t handle a text with multiple ideas embedded in a single paragraph, some people have no problem\n\nAlso, try to avoid writing extremely long books when the person is giving short responses, and also shooting rapid fire short texts in large quantities.\n\nFinally, consider novel ways to phrase commonplace boring messages: “what mischief are you getting into” is more interesting than “what are you up to”"
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"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it.",
"To dos and Don'ts for a student who has just started living alone far away from home. For my college, I've come to a really far away city from my hometown. My dad just left after setting me up in this apartment (i am living with 2 other roommates). idk, i feel empty as of now and literally has no idea what i should do next. Some tips from y'all guys might help me. Thanks, much appreciate it."
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"Go. To. Class.\n\nIts so tempting when no one is telling you to get up and go to just ditch. Teachers dont care, and your parents arent there to help. Its on you.",
"The tip is… what you are feeling is normal. Try to be open minded and meet new people. Go for walks around your town and explore. Give it time… it takes time to settle in and find your tribe.",
"take advantage of every service your college offers. career counseling, tutoring, clubs and other student organizations, and if there is cheap/free therapy or other mental health services please take full advantage. Explore every nook and cranny of your campus, many universities have delightfully weird things crammed in out of the way places.",
"Often when sharing with random people in college there's one person that does fuck all around the house because they still think they live at home. Don't be that person.",
"- Do not delay doing the dishes. You'll regret not doing them the same day.\n\nI *hated* scrubbing that week old oatmeal plate.\n\n- Spend time with da bois!\n\nWe are on remote for about 2 years now and honestly, no memory in my life is as nice as the time I spent with my friends celebrating their birthday or something. Just know your limits on alcohol and don't fall for the peer pressure, unless you wanna puke your guts out.\n\n- Make sure you have a place to dry clothes on, for example, a large enough radiator or a clothesline. \n\nThere will be that one time you massively fuck up and spill something on your clothes that you go to class in while not having spares. Or just generally wash your socks. I used to hang a shirt on a clothesline to block the lamp so I can sleep without getting my eyes burned out while my roommate needed light. \n\n- (Optional) Pick up some basic soldering and repairing skills.\n\nChristmas lights, charging cables, headphones and other stuff often fail at the connectors or stressed solder joints. It's the basic stuff that saves you money and time buying replacements or finding someone to repair it for you.\n\n\n- Cook your own food. Massive money save and a potential health benefit.",
"Whether you are male or female, don't be stupid and careless with the opportunity you have.\n\nExplore, make friends, seek out interesting places to visit. Get to know your college campus and library.\n\nEnjoy your new freedom.\n\nGood luck!",
"Wash your sheets and kitchen towels more often than you think you need to. Figure out a couple basic meals that you can make from pantry staples and keep those on hand. Get to know lots of different people from a variety of backgrounds,she's, etc. Explore the new city away from the university area.",
"Make friends \nBe with people. Being alone is not good if you haven’t been alone a lot before. \nDrinking isn’t necessary",
"Learn how to cook, especially cheap cuts of meat. If you can make a pot roast you can make friends. Lots of college kids miss home cooked meals. If you invite people for an actual dinner they’ll be thrilled.\n\nAlso throw in with your roommates for a BJs or Costco or other big box membership. $25 right now and you can make the money back on paper products alone. Just get a single, they do not care if you look like the picture.\n\nSound cancelling headphones are your best friend, that and ear plugs. If people want to stay up late and you don’t, it’s better to cancel them out than create hostility.",
"Its a shock being on your own so suddenly. I went thru some depression. Its going to be ok. Follow the structure of your classes and studying. Then fill the other time with what comes along. Good luck!!",
"Go to Goodwill, Salvation Army or second hand store for cooking pots and pans, utensils and inexpensive works of art-paintings of fruit for example. Just to give it a lived-in feel and not sterile. Good luck.",
"Socialize with your roommates.\n\nDrink beer.\n\nTake a walk outside to explore your new environment.\n\nA combination of the above would be the best. Optional: disconnect.",
"Figure out if are an introvert, who needs quiet time to re-energize, or an extrovert who needs socializing. Build that into your day as something you need, just like food and water and sleep. Figure out your optimal time of day for learning, and protect it for studying. Meet with academic counselor early and every year, so you don't lose track of your graduation target date. If you don't know your major they can be very helpful to guide you in figuring it out. I went to a couple of department welcome celebrations/ campus club parties and met some great people in other majors, which led to a part time job later on. \nEvery time I moved to a new city and knew no one, I noticed that 6 weeks in I would get depressed. I would pull back, stay home, read, watch tv for a bit, then pick myself up and start doing things. So now I know to expect it, recognize the pattern, and understand it is my necessary step before I move forward. Be gentle with yourself and it's ok to take some time to get comfortable.\nAnd you will meet lots of people who are very different from you. If you can be tolerant and open minded you will learn a lot about people and yourself. Always protect your safety first, as some people will take advantage or will not be graduating some day and you don't want to be one of them.",
"Since you are in college, check out some of the different social events, especially for other cultures. Pick a couple that seem like something you'd be interested, and a couple that are completely new to you. Try new things. \n\nHad fun going to a Indian dinner event with a classmate.",
"Get to know and create a diverse group of friends. If you didn't have a group of diverse friends back home it'll open your eyes a bit.",
"Highly recommend the book \"Where's Mom Now That I Need Her?\". Has tips on stocking a pantry, recipes, bicycle repair, mending clothes, and more.",
"For every beer/wine/whatever alcohol you drink you consume, drink an equal amount of water - you will be able to have fun till the very end of the party and will not have as terrible of a headache the next day. \nAlso make a habit of having some staples available for a quick meal at all times - some rice, salad and canned tuna will make a quick lunch and you will build a habit of not relying on takeouts all the time.\n\nAnd don’t forget to have fun! It might feel a bit overwhelming at the moment, but a lot of people around you will be feeling the same way - it will all work out :)",
"Learn to care for yourself. Your emotions will feel easier to handle when you're well fed, well rested, hydrated, sober, and you've had some exercise lately. \n\nPrioritize sleep. That means using your time wisely so you're not studying all night.\n\nSure, go out and party sometimes, but not all the time. Just because you can recover from a hangover in like 20 minutes doesn't mean you should make a habit of it \n\nEat vegetables. And fruit. And protein. Get protein and produce in every meal.\n\nWhen your body feels good, your mind will feel better than it would if your body felt like crap.",
"I did this. \n\n* Getting a rice cooker makes cheap meals very simple. \n* This is a great time to start a new routine, reshape who you are. Go to the gym, etc. \n\n* Socializing is far more important than most people think. Make friends and say yes to every social opportunity. Train yourself to be extroverted.",
"Get into a good routine. Try to get outside everyday. Eat healthy.\n\nAnd you can call or text your mom any time if you're lonely or bored. Moms love that shit.",
"As a former grad that went to college 900 miles away from home seeing this makes me feel obligated to try and share what I can.\n\nDon’ts\n1) Skip class - this one’s been said a lot already and pretty straightforward so I don’t think I need to say much on it\n2) Eat out EVERYday - sure a couple days here and there are fine especially since you’re still adjusting but a lot of that food isn’t good for you and gets expensive very quickly. I’m assuming there’s a kitchen at your apartment so I’d suggest getting some sort of setup going. If you don’t like/are not good at cooking there’s plenty of easy and simple things you can find on YouTube\n3) Forcing yourself to be friends with your roommates - I’m not saying you can’t be friends with them, but if there’s an obvious difference in interest/hobbies/etc don’t feel like you have to force a friendship. Being able to live together peacefully is the most important part (sharing cleaning responsibilities, having or not having other people over at certain times maybe, respecting each other’s things/spaces, on and on)\n4) Put too much pressure on yourself - Things aren’t always going to go as planned or expected but when don’t try to remember to not be so hard on yourself. You’re in a completely new environment and experience so there’s going to be a learning curve. Move at your own pace\n\nDo’s\n1) Have a routine - this one might take a while to figure out what works and what doesn’t but I feel like having a general schedule (built around your classes which you’re gonna go to) can bring some stability to a somewhat nerve-racking situation. Setting certain hours to study, work on papers, go to the gym, clean, etc helped to me be more efficient with what I was doing. Don’t forget to schedule in breaks too; burning yourself out isn’t going to help with anything\n2) Take advantage of everything - any services/events/etc your school may offer use them. They are there for you so might as well get the most out of them while you can \n3) Find a club - Any interest/hobbies/activities you may enjoy there’s probably a club for it. This is one of the easiest ways to get engaged and also meet new people. If you’re up for it feel free to try something completely new or that you wouldn’t normally do. Worst comes to worst you go once to see what it’s like and you don’t have to go back. \n\nHope that some of this might be of help. Best of luck to you",
"Start a new routine. \n\nDevelope good study habits now and stick to them\n\nEat healthy food\n\nGet enough sleep",
"Set rules and boundaries from day one!\n\nEveryone cleans the apartment, bathroom, kitchen, etc, 2-3 times per week. Make a roster if you have to.\n\nEvery one does dishes, no excuses!\n\nAfter 9pm, no loud sounds of any kind, unless three of you are watching a movie together. Otherwise, put on headphones. \n\nThere was one night, 2 of my roommates decided two fuck random girls at 2am and the girls were loud! Not going to lie, I was a bit jealous at the time, but my sleep was more important. So establish ground rules for guys staying over. \n\nIf you notice one of your roommates has a habit of leaving a dirty plate on a coffee table, point it out and nip it in the butt asap.",
"Reminds me of my time… 15+ years ago.\nIt’s natural to feel lonely and overwhelmed. But also remember there will be so many nice memories form this time that you will look back on. \n\nHere is what I would advise you ( and my younger self): \n\n1. Attend classes and don’t slip on discipline. No one will push you, which is great but you also have bigger responsibility to manage yourself.\n\n2. Make friends. You will realise later in life that some of the best friendships happen in college. So do go out and make best use of the social scene.\n\n3. Join college clubs/sports societies etc. It will hone your professional skills that will be invaluable for your career.\n\nThere will be days when you will feel depressed and homesick. All of this will forge the future you.\n\nI wish you the best of luck!",
"Look up money saving tips. There are hundreds of threads for this.\n\nDo your dishes while you wait for food to cook, then wash your dish right after. It's a big time saver.\n\nWhen you party, don't feel pressured to get drunk quickly to catch up. Student party's tend to last until like 10pm because nobody can pace themselves and will get wasted.\n\nGoing out to bars is a massive expense, house party's are cheaper. But you pay for it in cleaning and damages. So party at your friends instead.\n\nIt makes life x10 times better if you get along with your room mates. But you don't have to be best friends if you don't click. \n\nBeing on bad terms with them leads to a toxic existence, since you are around them all the time.\n\nDon't lend money with the expectation you will get it back. Ever. It will strain any relationship you have.\n\nWear a condom every time.\n\nHave fun! It can be a really fun time, you will meet some cool people.\n\nKeep anything valuable in your room.\n\nGo to class.",
"Keep healthy habits to build strong fondation so when life brings drama your solid like an oak and bendy and agile like a reed\n\nEat healthy and exercice :) can’t recommend that enough",
"Don't drink the Kool-Aid, figuratively and literally. My parents would never let me have it growing up because it was too much sugar. I binge drank it and got my first cavity within 12 months.",
"Do: get a cr",
"Do NOT sign up for those cr",
"Always trust your instincts. If a situation feels odd or sketchy it's ok to leave. Chances are others feel the same. Situational awareness.",
"To get over this temporary feeling of transition:\n\nCall a loved one and ask how they are doing.\n\nWrite a letter. \n\nRead a favorite book again or watch the tv show that always makes you smile.\n\nBe kind to someone there; they may be feeling the same. \n\nIn a few days, you won't even remember this. \n\nYou got this.",
"The choices you make will follow you. It isn't just the choices but your actions that will turn into habits. Work hard, that habit will help you more than anything else.",
"Keep up your personal hygiene. Keep your body, your clothes, and your sheets (reasonably) clean. \n\nDress nicer, the world will treat you with more respect. \n\nDon't take pills unless directly from your doctor. There will be a lot of people experimenting with drugs around you. There is a lot of counterfeit pills in the market (from the Mexican drug cartels) that contain fentanyl. One pill can kill.",
"Go to class. Go to the library. Go to on campus events and make friends. Staying in your room all day really takes a toll on your mental health. Also set a schedule of when to study/have fun. No one will force you to do anything so make it a habit of creating a schedule.",
"All great tips here. I would say generally this the time to practice a routine which includes good habits you want going forward and the best time to drop bad habits. \n\nStart practicing the life you want to live."
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"Eliminating cynical and pessimistic worldview I'm tired of deconstructing everything, being negative, and a bitter killjoy. I really am. But it's who I am at the core. I want to change. When occasionally I get myself into a more positive worldview, there's always a nagging thought in the back of my mind saying \"You think this is really working don't you, you idiot! Time to wake up form your delusions!\"\n\n\nThings I have tried to help develop a positive outlook:\n\nPhysical health\n\n- Run and lift regularly, fairly strict diet. No health problems.\n\nMental health/therapy\n\n- I was diagnosed with ADHD, but I don't have depression. I suspect mild annhedonia \n\n- Conversations with psychologists typically go in circles, or I just end up appeasing to their process because I realize it's futile\n\nDrugs (I am not a frequent user but have experimented)\n\n- Amphetamines (for ADHD): work surprisingly well. But it's transient and not worth overdoing \n\n- Alcohol: works amazingly, for a brief period. Not drunk, but 2-2.5 servings is a sweet spot of lucidity and positivity. Impractical for obvious reasons.\n\n- Weed: works miraculously in this regard. I'm infinity more kind, friendly, sentimental, positive and understanding while high. Worries me that this is so.\n\n- Psychedelics: Have had some profound experiences with lasting effects. But they are also transient, and I think can sometimes create a black hole in your thinking. \n\nReligion \n\n- Christianity: fascinating to me theologically, and I can respect the message. But I was not able to fully embrace it for various reasons. Always felt like an outsider in the community. \n\n- Easter philosophy: Bhagavad Gita was eye opening to me and changed my outlook for a while. I practice mindfulness m",
"Eliminating cynical and pessimistic worldview I'm tired of deconstructing everything, being negative, and a bitter killjoy. I really am. But it's who I am at the core. I want to change. When occasionally I get myself into a more positive worldview, there's always a nagging thought in the back of my mind saying \"You think this is really working don't you, you idiot! Time to wake up form your delusions!\"\n\n\nThings I have tried to help develop a positive outlook:\n\nPhysical health\n\n- Run and lift regularly, fairly strict diet. No health problems.\n\nMental health/therapy\n\n- I was diagnosed with ADHD, but I don't have depression. I suspect mild annhedonia \n\n- Conversations with psychologists typically go in circles, or I just end up appeasing to their process because I realize it's futile\n\nDrugs (I am not a frequent user but have experimented)\n\n- Amphetamines (for ADHD): work surprisingly well. But it's transient and not worth overdoing \n\n- Alcohol: works amazingly, for a brief period. Not drunk, but 2-2.5 servings is a sweet spot of lucidity and positivity. Impractical for obvious reasons.\n\n- Weed: works miraculously in this regard. I'm infinity more kind, friendly, sentimental, positive and understanding while high. Worries me that this is so.\n\n- Psychedelics: Have had some profound experiences with lasting effects. But they are also transient, and I think can sometimes create a black hole in your thinking. \n\nReligion \n\n- Christianity: fascinating to me theologically, and I can respect the message. But I was not able to fully embrace it for various reasons. Always felt like an outsider in the community. \n\n- Easter philosophy: Bhagavad Gita was eye opening to me and changed my outlook for a while. I practice mindfulness m",
"Eliminating cynical and pessimistic worldview I'm tired of deconstructing everything, being negative, and a bitter killjoy. I really am. But it's who I am at the core. I want to change. When occasionally I get myself into a more positive worldview, there's always a nagging thought in the back of my mind saying \"You think this is really working don't you, you idiot! Time to wake up form your delusions!\"\n\n\nThings I have tried to help develop a positive outlook:\n\nPhysical health\n\n- Run and lift regularly, fairly strict diet. No health problems.\n\nMental health/therapy\n\n- I was diagnosed with ADHD, but I don't have depression. I suspect mild annhedonia \n\n- Conversations with psychologists typically go in circles, or I just end up appeasing to their process because I realize it's futile\n\nDrugs (I am not a frequent user but have experimented)\n\n- Amphetamines (for ADHD): work surprisingly well. But it's transient and not worth overdoing \n\n- Alcohol: works amazingly, for a brief period. Not drunk, but 2-2.5 servings is a sweet spot of lucidity and positivity. Impractical for obvious reasons.\n\n- Weed: works miraculously in this regard. I'm infinity more kind, friendly, sentimental, positive and understanding while high. Worries me that this is so.\n\n- Psychedelics: Have had some profound experiences with lasting effects. But they are also transient, and I think can sometimes create a black hole in your thinking. \n\nReligion \n\n- Christianity: fascinating to me theologically, and I can respect the message. But I was not able to fully embrace it for various reasons. Always felt like an outsider in the community. \n\n- Easter philosophy: Bhagavad Gita was eye opening to me and changed my outlook for a while. I practice mindfulness m",
"Eliminating cynical and pessimistic worldview I'm tired of deconstructing everything, being negative, and a bitter killjoy. I really am. But it's who I am at the core. I want to change. When occasionally I get myself into a more positive worldview, there's always a nagging thought in the back of my mind saying \"You think this is really working don't you, you idiot! Time to wake up form your delusions!\"\n\n\nThings I have tried to help develop a positive outlook:\n\nPhysical health\n\n- Run and lift regularly, fairly strict diet. No health problems.\n\nMental health/therapy\n\n- I was diagnosed with ADHD, but I don't have depression. I suspect mild annhedonia \n\n- Conversations with psychologists typically go in circles, or I just end up appeasing to their process because I realize it's futile\n\nDrugs (I am not a frequent user but have experimented)\n\n- Amphetamines (for ADHD): work surprisingly well. But it's transient and not worth overdoing \n\n- Alcohol: works amazingly, for a brief period. Not drunk, but 2-2.5 servings is a sweet spot of lucidity and positivity. Impractical for obvious reasons.\n\n- Weed: works miraculously in this regard. I'm infinity more kind, friendly, sentimental, positive and understanding while high. Worries me that this is so.\n\n- Psychedelics: Have had some profound experiences with lasting effects. But they are also transient, and I think can sometimes create a black hole in your thinking. \n\nReligion \n\n- Christianity: fascinating to me theologically, and I can respect the message. But I was not able to fully embrace it for various reasons. Always felt like an outsider in the community. \n\n- Easter philosophy: Bhagavad Gita was eye opening to me and changed my outlook for a while. I practice mindfulness m",
"Eliminating cynical and pessimistic worldview I'm tired of deconstructing everything, being negative, and a bitter killjoy. I really am. But it's who I am at the core. I want to change. When occasionally I get myself into a more positive worldview, there's always a nagging thought in the back of my mind saying \"You think this is really working don't you, you idiot! Time to wake up form your delusions!\"\n\n\nThings I have tried to help develop a positive outlook:\n\nPhysical health\n\n- Run and lift regularly, fairly strict diet. No health problems.\n\nMental health/therapy\n\n- I was diagnosed with ADHD, but I don't have depression. I suspect mild annhedonia \n\n- Conversations with psychologists typically go in circles, or I just end up appeasing to their process because I realize it's futile\n\nDrugs (I am not a frequent user but have experimented)\n\n- Amphetamines (for ADHD): work surprisingly well. But it's transient and not worth overdoing \n\n- Alcohol: works amazingly, for a brief period. Not drunk, but 2-2.5 servings is a sweet spot of lucidity and positivity. Impractical for obvious reasons.\n\n- Weed: works miraculously in this regard. I'm infinity more kind, friendly, sentimental, positive and understanding while high. Worries me that this is so.\n\n- Psychedelics: Have had some profound experiences with lasting effects. But they are also transient, and I think can sometimes create a black hole in your thinking. \n\nReligion \n\n- Christianity: fascinating to me theologically, and I can respect the message. But I was not able to fully embrace it for various reasons. Always felt like an outsider in the community. \n\n- Easter philosophy: Bhagavad Gita was eye opening to me and changed my outlook for a while. I practice mindfulness m",
"Eliminating cynical and pessimistic worldview I'm tired of deconstructing everything, being negative, and a bitter killjoy. I really am. But it's who I am at the core. I want to change. When occasionally I get myself into a more positive worldview, there's always a nagging thought in the back of my mind saying \"You think this is really working don't you, you idiot! Time to wake up form your delusions!\"\n\n\nThings I have tried to help develop a positive outlook:\n\nPhysical health\n\n- Run and lift regularly, fairly strict diet. No health problems.\n\nMental health/therapy\n\n- I was diagnosed with ADHD, but I don't have depression. I suspect mild annhedonia \n\n- Conversations with psychologists typically go in circles, or I just end up appeasing to their process because I realize it's futile\n\nDrugs (I am not a frequent user but have experimented)\n\n- Amphetamines (for ADHD): work surprisingly well. But it's transient and not worth overdoing \n\n- Alcohol: works amazingly, for a brief period. Not drunk, but 2-2.5 servings is a sweet spot of lucidity and positivity. Impractical for obvious reasons.\n\n- Weed: works miraculously in this regard. I'm infinity more kind, friendly, sentimental, positive and understanding while high. Worries me that this is so.\n\n- Psychedelics: Have had some profound experiences with lasting effects. But they are also transient, and I think can sometimes create a black hole in your thinking. \n\nReligion \n\n- Christianity: fascinating to me theologically, and I can respect the message. But I was not able to fully embrace it for various reasons. Always felt like an outsider in the community. \n\n- Easter philosophy: Bhagavad Gita was eye opening to me and changed my outlook for a while. I practice mindfulness m"
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"Hey,\n\nI've had a similar negative mindset a few years ago. One solution that worked wonders for my life is NLP. \n\nThis might sound crazy, but you will see immediate results.... The basic premise is that 'we can't change the events around us or the thoughts we have, but we can change how they affect us.' That voice that says \"You think this is really working don't you, you idiot! Time to wake up form your delusions!\" What I want you to do is change the fine details of that voice saying the same thing. Turn the voice to Eric Cartman from southpark, or some other stupid voice. Speed it up, slow it down. Now you mention the voice is in the back of your head . Move it outside of your head, and hear it from the front or sides...\n\nWhen you do that, you will notice that the negative self-talk will impact you differently and you will have a better experience. \n\nM",
"\n1. People who spend time in nature are less depressed, less anxious, and have more empathy. \n\n2. Avoid negative input and spend time on positive things. Avoid regularly following the news, playing violent video games (I welcome your down-votes), movies that don't have a feel-good vibe, regular porn use, etc. \n\n3. Spend time with positive people at least twice per week. \n\n4. Have a purpose you work towards that benefits others and uses your strengths.",
"My advice is not as in depth as the NLP idea. I just quit tv, talk radio, and most news sources. It helped a lot, I was not repeating what I was told any longer. I realized that I was uninformed. Now I hold my breath and read for more information. ",
"well hey man you're not alone. I don't know how to cure it, just thought i'd let ya know there is at least one more empathetic pessimist somewhere",
"Go outside and take a walk in the sunshine every day. Sit in the grass under a tree. Go outside and enjoy the drizzle or fog.\n\nGet two kittens.\n\nClean up your diet and get rid of the processed foods, sugar and refined grains. \n\nWrite. Write. Write some more. \n\nFall in love.",
"Do the Hour of Power by Tony Robbins every morning - Guaranteed to to make you achieve more in about 5 days. \n\nI know how you feel. I totally understand, not wanting to do stuff because everything seems not cool/interesting/achievable/worth any of my effort or attention. But this routine/ritual got me to triple my salary, get a girlfriend and start exercising 1h each day just three months after starting it.\n\nThe thing you probably lack is a feeling of gratitude. Thankfulness. You have not experienced less fortunate cultures in their native shithole/rundown/no future habitat and seen them be happy and content regardless.\n\nThis routine will make you be grateful if you try. If you're grateful you're happy. That's it."
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"How to go to sleep quickly. I've been going to sleep every other day for forever because no matter what I do, I just can't fall asleep unless I am beyond exhausted.",
"How to go to sleep quickly. I've been going to sleep every other day for forever because no matter what I do, I just can't fall asleep unless I am beyond exhausted.",
"How to go to sleep quickly. I've been going to sleep every other day for forever because no matter what I do, I just can't fall asleep unless I am beyond exhausted.",
"How to go to sleep quickly. I've been going to sleep every other day for forever because no matter what I do, I just can't fall asleep unless I am beyond exhausted.",
"How to go to sleep quickly. I've been going to sleep every other day for forever because no matter what I do, I just can't fall asleep unless I am beyond exhausted.",
"How to go to sleep quickly. I've been going to sleep every other day for forever because no matter what I do, I just can't fall asleep unless I am beyond exhausted."
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"Okay. Let me teach you how to condition yourself to fall asleep. \n\n\nThere are going to be several elements to this, and some things that you'll have to do to improve your sleep hygiene. First, no caffeine after noon. That stuff stays in your system a long time- I'd say none after ten AM if you can manage it. \n\n\nSecond, go to your doctor after you've read this whole thing. You're going to tell your doc about it, and get a ten day prescription for sleeping pills. You aren't going to be taking them for long- what we're going to do with them here is use them the way they're *supposed* to be used, as a temporary crutch to reinforce a regular sleeping pattern. \n\n(While you're there, mention that if this doesn't work, you'll be back, because if you have an underlying sleep disorder such as narcolepsy, it could actually cause insomnia. That will require a sleep study to examine. But we'll try this first.) \n\n\nSo. Ten days' worth. That's it. But here's what you're going to do. \n\n\nYou're going to choose two things. One is a scent, something you're not likely to smell anywhere but home. Make it specific. An orange-lavender mix, or get a scented candle you like. Whatever. Find one scent you won't use other places, and then get an mp3 or an app that plays soothing noise- ocean waves, rain, whatever. Self-hypnosis tapes for sleep or relaxation are good for this, because they let you have instructions to follow to practice relaxing. \n\nWhat we're gonna do here is some good old-fashioned classical conditioning. \n\n\nNow that you've got some signals- a scent and a sound- we need to work on your nighttime routine. What do you do before bed? The trick is that you're going to have to go through the same routine, in the same order, every night. So if you shower, then brush teeth, then set out the next day's clothes, or if you just put away the laptop and tumble into bed, this is how you have to do it every night for awhile. This helps your body remember that it's bedtime. \n\n\nNow that you've got the ingredients, here's the plan. \n\n\nNights 1-7: do your regular routine. Light the scented candle or spray the scent in the room. Let the candle burn a little while to make sure the scent gets into the air, but don't leave it burning while you sleep. Commonsense rule, you already knew that. Turn on the sound. Do your nightly routine. Get into bed with the sound still on, and take the sleep pill. \n\nMake sure you understand fully that you are NOT to get out of bed when you've had a sleeping medicine. It's serious. If you understand this, you're far less likely to do stupid things while on them. You get in bed, you take the pill WHILE IN BED, and you lie down and go to sleep. \n\nDay 8: Skip the pill, but do everything else just the same. If you can't sleep, don't worry about it. \n\nDay 9: Take HALF a pill and go through the routine. \n\nContinue this with skipping the pill and then taking half the next night, because what you're doing is reinforcing the cues. Your body is figuring out that these signals mean sleep. By the end you can spread it out to every three nights or so, and just use the cues. If they start to fade, you can re-learn them very easily by taking a low dose of melatonin or something just to get drowsy when you do the routine, and your body will very quickly relearn \"these cues mean sleep.\"\n\nIf when this is all done, you're still not sleeping? You go back to the doc and explain that it didn't work, you may have a real problem. At that point you get a sleep study done and don't screw around with it any more. \n\n",
"Masturbate. Actually exerts a heal of a lot of energy enough to tucker you out. \n\nOr be normal and breath slow and deep. ",
"I try to occupy my mind with needlessly boring yet complex tasks, like changing one and only one letter in a tv series' name to make it something different yet still actually something, like \"the big bong theory\" or \"cheeks\". I also calculate the number of seconds I can sleep and start counting them or start at 300 and count backwards by threes. ",
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"I recommend flux (http://stereopsis.com/flux/) to change your monitor display from blue to orange light at night, which might help if you're usually on the computer before bed. \n\nOtherwise I usually listen to music quietly on my iPod while I'm in bed, then eventually take the earbuds out, roll over and fall asleep. ",
"Create a nighttime ritual, a mental checklist, for all the things you may think about in bed. This should include shaving if needed, last-minute bowel movements, putting things where they belong, planning or preparing the following day's meals and attire, or similar.\nIn a snap you can research binaural beats and see if they improve your focus. It all depends on each individual, and this is not a permanent solution. You can build up a tolerance to the stimulation if you do it for too long, so be careful.\nAs monkeylieutenant instructs you, caffeine is a big deal, but so is light. Dim your lights about four hours before bed, and if you can help it, turn them completely off (*this includes monitors and cell phone screens*) an hour before. Where some may think some late night reading will help them fall asleep, it will cause bumps in your circadian rhythm later on. Then again, it depends on each individual. *Please do not try to read in dim light as this will cause strain on your eyes.* Personally, I use a book light, but I am not exactly the smartest person with the greatest will, either. \nScents are a powerful tool for memorization, so take that as an advantage, too. Don't just find the \"cooler scents,\" try to find one that makes you feel secure, or at home. To be honest, the faint smell of chlorine and sunblock are my favorites, but I doubt there are candles which emulate this. \nOh yeah, also, one hour before sleep, stop doing things that you can get lost doing without feeling tired, and stop looking at the clock if you can. But that's just based off of me alone- clock drives me nuts knowing how little time I've got left.\nAnyways, ramblings of a person who should go to bed herself. *(Waves dismissively.)* "
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"Email etiquette in semi-professional dialogues. **Question 1**\nWhen addressing a professional for first time over email who is the same age or very close (1-3 years older), is it appropriate to address them on a last name basis in email correspondence? Example would be contacting a Nurse for shadowing hours.\n\n**Question 2**\nIn an ongoing email correspondence (discussion over emails), when is it appropriate to not start the email with their name and begin with the actual message in the email?\nExample would be:\n\n*this would be the 3rd or 4th email*\n\nHi <name>,\nblah blah blah.\nThanks,\ntallbro\n\nvs\n\nBlah blah blah.\nThanks,\ntallbro\n\n**Question 3**\n\nWhen is it appropriate to address a professional by first name, similar to question 1? I've always had the notion of going on a last name basis until addressed myself by first name by them, but I don't know if that's weird.\n\nThanks, I just don't want to seem weird when trying to adult respectfully.",
"Email etiquette in semi-professional dialogues. **Question 1**\nWhen addressing a professional for first time over email who is the same age or very close (1-3 years older), is it appropriate to address them on a last name basis in email correspondence? Example would be contacting a Nurse for shadowing hours.\n\n**Question 2**\nIn an ongoing email correspondence (discussion over emails), when is it appropriate to not start the email with their name and begin with the actual message in the email?\nExample would be:\n\n*this would be the 3rd or 4th email*\n\nHi <name>,\nblah blah blah.\nThanks,\ntallbro\n\nvs\n\nBlah blah blah.\nThanks,\ntallbro\n\n**Question 3**\n\nWhen is it appropriate to address a professional by first name, similar to question 1? I've always had the notion of going on a last name basis until addressed myself by first name by them, but I don't know if that's weird.\n\nThanks, I just don't want to seem weird when trying to adult respectfully."
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"In the first instance, I would always use Mr/Mrs/Ms whatever. You are asking a professional courtesy of someone you don't know. The age of the person is irrelevant. If they sign off their response with their first name, you are usually fine to start using that.\n\nAs mentioned, there's no universal for when you can drop the 'Hi X'. I drop it in my second email (reply to their reply). But I've also been at jobs where they explicitly told me to always use it",
"I spend almost all day emailing people, and have found there is no universal logic applied to people's email etiquette. \n\nUnless the person is a superior many levels up from you, I always use first name in my emails. Mr. xxxxx, how are you? Just seems odd to me. Now, I'm a very personable person, and people don't seem to care at all about me using their first names, a lot who I have spoken to on the phone, so ymmv. \n\nI also start emails with \"Hi John,\" until they start omitting the greeting, then I do as well most of the time."
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"How to approach/tolerate a noisy upstairs neighbor. Our upstairs neighbor walks across her apartment (loudly) at all times of the day and all through the night. Last night, she paced across her apt from 7pm until 3am. It's often interjected by loud bangs and crashes. We've gotten used to wearing headphones and earplugs over the last 3 months - but it shakes the walls and we can still hear her heels striking the floor through the earplugs/headphones.\n\nIt's certainly her right to walk across her apartment, but we are going crazy being woken up constantly.\n\nAny tips / advice?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nWe have considered: buying her a series of rugs + rug pads throughout her home or buying her slippers?",
"How to approach/tolerate a noisy upstairs neighbor. Our upstairs neighbor walks across her apartment (loudly) at all times of the day and all through the night. Last night, she paced across her apt from 7pm until 3am. It's often interjected by loud bangs and crashes. We've gotten used to wearing headphones and earplugs over the last 3 months - but it shakes the walls and we can still hear her heels striking the floor through the earplugs/headphones.\n\nIt's certainly her right to walk across her apartment, but we are going crazy being woken up constantly.\n\nAny tips / advice?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nWe have considered: buying her a series of rugs + rug pads throughout her home or buying her slippers?",
"How to approach/tolerate a noisy upstairs neighbor. Our upstairs neighbor walks across her apartment (loudly) at all times of the day and all through the night. Last night, she paced across her apt from 7pm until 3am. It's often interjected by loud bangs and crashes. We've gotten used to wearing headphones and earplugs over the last 3 months - but it shakes the walls and we can still hear her heels striking the floor through the earplugs/headphones.\n\nIt's certainly her right to walk across her apartment, but we are going crazy being woken up constantly.\n\nAny tips / advice?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nWe have considered: buying her a series of rugs + rug pads throughout her home or buying her slippers?"
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"I would approach it very carefully and have an open conversation about the noise with her. Ask her if she can also hear you from downstairs and if she can suggest to her that you 'team up' to tackle this situation together and both talk to a landlord and both take measures to eradicate any noise from both ends.... make it friendly and even ask her to stand in your apartment and make noise while you walk on her floors so you can both see how noise is easily created (if so). There's a very good chance she isn't making the noise on purpose but if you approach with blame/shame then you could fracture any relationship and make things much worse. \nTurn it into you and her vs. The problem rather than you vs. Her. \nIf she's still being difficult after this, it's time to start making records of her noise and recordings etc and taking it further, stating that you tried it the nice way and she refused. Good luck.",
"Have you tried the old method of just knocking, asking if they are alright and explaining you think they must be sleepwalking every night stomping around and banging into things, mentioning that they surely aren’t being that disruptive on purpose all night long in a communal building with neighbors all around them? A bit of friendly passive aggressive confrontation never hurts. And if they are doing it on purpose, just check your local noise ordinances or rental agreements and start having the police out every evening to knock on their door until it stops. Buying them rugs and slippers is not a solution and it’s not your financial responsibility to get your neighbor to stop being inconsiderate.",
"Buy her slippers, in a note explain that she is disrupting your sleep, ask her to wear and enjoy the slippers at night and wish her well. I don't usually put my name on missives such as this but I do sign my unit number. Preface it by saying \"Hi, I'm your neighbor in E32! Sometimes ceiling noises disrupts (my) sleep. I hope you can enjoy these slippers as much as I do! Your neighbor from (E32.)\""
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"How to proofread/ detect errors efficiently on a large text? I have a text over 200K words, what can I do to detect errors by myself?",
"How to proofread/ detect errors efficiently on a large text? I have a text over 200K words, what can I do to detect errors by myself?",
"How to proofread/ detect errors efficiently on a large text? I have a text over 200K words, what can I do to detect errors by myself?",
"How to proofread/ detect errors efficiently on a large text? I have a text over 200K words, what can I do to detect errors by myself?"
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"I always liked to put chunks of it through google translate and just have her read it back to me. If theres a glaring mistake that I keep missing you'll definitely hear it when she reads it back to you.",
"Use the speak feature in word it reads it back and makes errors easy to spot and its super easy to use. May take some time to read though, that's a big doc. good luck with it.",
"Tackle it in little pieces, otherwise you will glaze over things. Also, reading aloud helps both with catching typical grammar mistakes and the harder to pin down awkward flows.",
"Read it out loud and change the font so that the layout changes a bit and you don’t miss repeated words. Send some to a friend to proofread (but maybe not the whole thing)."
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"What are some skills that every adult should learn/know? What are some skills that everyone should have but many don’t? Things like being able to cook, change a tire/oil.",
"What are some skills that every adult should learn/know? What are some skills that everyone should have but many don’t? Things like being able to cook, change a tire/oil.",
"What are some skills that every adult should learn/know? What are some skills that everyone should have but many don’t? Things like being able to cook, change a tire/oil.",
"What are some skills that every adult should learn/know? What are some skills that everyone should have but many don’t? Things like being able to cook, change a tire/oil.",
"What are some skills that every adult should learn/know? What are some skills that everyone should have but many don’t? Things like being able to cook, change a tire/oil.",
"What are some skills that every adult should learn/know? What are some skills that everyone should have but many don’t? Things like being able to cook, change a tire/oil.",
"What are some skills that every adult should learn/know? What are some skills that everyone should have but many don’t? Things like being able to cook, change a tire/oil.",
"What are some skills that every adult should learn/know? What are some skills that everyone should have but many don’t? Things like being able to cook, change a tire/oil.",
"What are some skills that every adult should learn/know? What are some skills that everyone should have but many don’t? Things like being able to cook, change a tire/oil.",
"What are some skills that every adult should learn/know? What are some skills that everyone should have but many don’t? Things like being able to cook, change a tire/oil.",
"What are some skills that every adult should learn/know? What are some skills that everyone should have but many don’t? Things like being able to cook, change a tire/oil.",
"What are some skills that every adult should learn/know? What are some skills that everyone should have but many don’t? Things like being able to cook, change a tire/oil."
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"Basic first aid and knowing how to swim. Two skills that can potentially save both your life and someone else’s.",
"If you own a vehicle, know how to to do basic maintenance, change a tire and checking tread thickness to prevent slipping the tires on wet roads, changing your own oil which can save you a bunch of money doing it yourself and takes 15 minutes, checking cabin air filter to make sure your not breathing in shit, as well as where your fluids reservoirs are and which fluid goes where incase any get low. Always carry jumper cables or a jumper pack incase your battery dies or someone else's you can help out\n\nAnother pro tip to owning a vehicle if you live in an area that gets snow in the winter, have an emergency kit in the vehicle with a blanket, snacks, water, a change of clothes, especially extra socks and a warm hat. Also keep some kitty litter in a bag in the passenger compartment it will keep your windows from fogging too much and in the event that you get stuck on snow or ice you can use it to stick underneath and in front of your tires to break free and get out of being stuck.\n\n",
"Dont yell at someone who is already yelling (anger, upset, terrified) Instead, keep calm and level headed and talk/walk through with them to a more calmed conversing. Its not always easy but shows great character in how you can keep yourself in a situation.",
"Knowing how to take a moment before reacting/reponding to something. Depnding on the urgency of course. But knowing how to respond logically can be the difference between making a fool of yourself or making a well thought decision.\n\nAlso open and thoughtful listening, knowing when to shut up can be a lifesaver for your peace of mind. As well as just being a good listener to the ones around you which can be just as important",
"Learn how to break into your own car without damaging it. This will save you time and money when you inevitably lock your keys in it. Spare keys hidden on the outside are good, but they can get lost, skills are more permanent.",
"How to spend a whole day without social media. Might sound cliché but knowing how to find joy in the little things around you and remembering to engage with someone and be truly present make life nicer.",
"Situational awareness. Having a sixth sense that something doesn't look right and the wherewithal to get out of the situation quickly.\n\nFirst aid.\n\nCarrying a pocket knife and knowing how to use and care for it.\n\nKnowing how to fuel, start, and maintain a fire.\n\nLearning and mastering your primary language, verbal and written.",
"Every adult should have basic literacy skills. When a grown adult can't put words together properly in their own native language, I assume they are some combination of stupid and lazy.",
"Basic sewing and mending. Everyone should be able to replace a button or mend a rip, etc., especially when travelling.",
"Learning from scratch meal prep cooking has changed my life for the better. Zero decision fatigue when it comes to deciding what your going to eat and you can make your meals super healthy.",
"How to use a fire extinguisher. \n\nFor pet owners: how to give your pet a pill\n\nAnd how to tell someone about something embarrassing, such as toilet paper stuck to their shoe. The best way I ever discovered was to preface it with \"I'm sure you would want to know that....\" This establishes you as someone who's looking out for them. \n\nSource: used this approach to tell another women at the gym that when she bent over, the string from her tampon was visible.",
"Learn to drive. It's amazing how many people in the UK don't drive. The second you pass your driving test it opens up a whole new world. First of all, your radius of travel extends significantly, so you can take jobs further afield, you can have driving jobs, access to services becomes much easier. Part and parcel of this would, of course, include learning basic car maintenance, checking oil, fluids,changing tyres. \n\nAlso, swimming, it could save your life."
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"How should I answer, \"Do you know why I stopped you?\" to a cop in way that neither incriminates me nor sets me up as uncooperative. ",
"How should I answer, \"Do you know why I stopped you?\" to a cop in way that neither incriminates me nor sets me up as uncooperative. ",
"How should I answer, \"Do you know why I stopped you?\" to a cop in way that neither incriminates me nor sets me up as uncooperative. ",
"How should I answer, \"Do you know why I stopped you?\" to a cop in way that neither incriminates me nor sets me up as uncooperative. ",
"How should I answer, \"Do you know why I stopped you?\" to a cop in way that neither incriminates me nor sets me up as uncooperative. ",
"How should I answer, \"Do you know why I stopped you?\" to a cop in way that neither incriminates me nor sets me up as uncooperative. ",
"How should I answer, \"Do you know why I stopped you?\" to a cop in way that neither incriminates me nor sets me up as uncooperative. ",
"How should I answer, \"Do you know why I stopped you?\" to a cop in way that neither incriminates me nor sets me up as uncooperative. ",
"How should I answer, \"Do you know why I stopped you?\" to a cop in way that neither incriminates me nor sets me up as uncooperative. "
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"Saying “no, I don’t.” is fine. \n\nBeing calm and respectful, regardless of how you answer, is still being cooperative.",
"With hands on the steering wheel, ‘no officer!i don’t know why you stopped me. I thought I was doing the speed limit...was that not the case...? I’m usually set on cruise control, at the limit...not sure what happened... then burst into tears and show your titties...works all the time.",
"Don't offer suggestions. \n\nDon't say, \"was I speeding? Did I run a stop sign?\" They take it as an admission of guilt. Say, \"No, officer, why did you pull me over?\"\n\nWhen in doubt, keep your hands on the wheel and don't say anything.",
"I guess it depends on circumstance, do you know why he stopped you? If you were doing 80 in a 60 zone or ran a red light then don't say \"no I don't officer\", own up to your shit and be honest..but if you genuinely dont know then you have every right to ask why he pulled you over but be respectful, just because you did nothing wrong is no reason to be disrespectful.",
"Stay polite. Stay calm. Simple and honest is best and the truth is you do not know why he/she stopped you because you can't read his/her mind. \"No, Officer I don't.\" and then wait for a reply.",
"One time my registration was out of date, I had a tail light out, and l was on my phone at a stoplight (not while driving). \n\nThe officer who pulled me over asked if I knew why and I could honestly answer “no I don’t” because I didn’t know which thing he’d pulled me over for.",
"In my experience, being honest and saying why I think I got pulled over has actually gotten me out of a few tickets",
"I usually just shrug, if the cop obviously saw what I did I offer reasoning without making excuses and treat them like a person instead of sucking up or being an ass. I've had every single ticket but one lowered or dropped because of this\n\nThe exception was some asshat flexing in front of a rookie he was training, flipped his shit on me because I pulled into a parking lot instead of blocking a busy street to pull over immediately",
"I like how people people talk like they have been pulled over tons of times and are expert on the subject by now. How the hell do you drive to get pulled over so often? \"in my experience...\" to get experience I'd say you need to get to pulled over several times. I've gotten pulled over zero times. Because I drive like a sane person. If you get pulled over enough times \"to get experience\" that means you stand out. That definitely means you are doing something wrong"
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