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[ "How to take a nap As a background, I frequently find myself in the situation where I am tired for various reasons. I will have an upcoming dinner or meeting at 7pm, and am free from, say, 3-pm to 6pm. I ought to take a nap during that time. However, even though I am tired I can rarely nap because usually my mind is occupied.\n\nAny advice?\n\nThanks", "How to take a nap As a background, I frequently find myself in the situation where I am tired for various reasons. I will have an upcoming dinner or meeting at 7pm, and am free from, say, 3-pm to 6pm. I ought to take a nap during that time. However, even though I am tired I can rarely nap because usually my mind is occupied.\n\nAny advice?\n\nThanks", "How to take a nap As a background, I frequently find myself in the situation where I am tired for various reasons. I will have an upcoming dinner or meeting at 7pm, and am free from, say, 3-pm to 6pm. I ought to take a nap during that time. However, even though I am tired I can rarely nap because usually my mind is occupied.\n\nAny advice?\n\nThanks", "How to take a nap As a background, I frequently find myself in the situation where I am tired for various reasons. I will have an upcoming dinner or meeting at 7pm, and am free from, say, 3-pm to 6pm. I ought to take a nap during that time. However, even though I am tired I can rarely nap because usually my mind is occupied.\n\nAny advice?\n\nThanks", "How to take a nap As a background, I frequently find myself in the situation where I am tired for various reasons. I will have an upcoming dinner or meeting at 7pm, and am free from, say, 3-pm to 6pm. I ought to take a nap during that time. However, even though I am tired I can rarely nap because usually my mind is occupied.\n\nAny advice?\n\nThanks" ]	[ "If you m", "[20 - 30 minutes of yoga to clear your mind before taking a nap.](https://www.youtube.com/user/yogawithadriene)", "Find a certain hobby that helps you get to sleep. I can't read books any more because after reading a couple of pages I find myself re-reading the same paragraph over and over as I'm falling asleep (I can read off a screen fine). I also find ambient chill-out music helps me sleep when my mind is occupied.", "When I need to sleep and my brain won't shut off, I use the letters of the alphabet. I'll choose a topic, such as animals, foods, names and come up with one for each letter. For example, veggies- artichokes, broccoli, corn, and so on. I rarely make it through the alphabet twice before I'm out like a light. It seems to balance out my brain's need to yammer on when I'm trying to rest without sending me into anxiety about daily concerns (Did I pay that bill? What if I said the wrong thing?). Also, I make sure to cover my eyes with a dark cloth, as any light destroys my ability to sleep.", "Golf channel. The announcers always talk in hushed tones and there is usually peaceful sounds like birds (often added to the ambient audio) plus it's golf so unless golf is interesting to you it's a good background noise to have on." ]	[ 4, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "(SERIOUS) I have the flu and my b-hole is burning from so much diarrhoea. How can I help this? It seriously burns and stings like a sharp pain when I go to wipe. I've been having diarrhoea at minimum 15 times a day, and I can hardly even sit on a couch let alone wipe. please help me", "(SERIOUS) I have the flu and my b-hole is burning from so much diarrhoea. How can I help this? It seriously burns and stings like a sharp pain when I go to wipe. I've been having diarrhoea at minimum 15 times a day, and I can hardly even sit on a couch let alone wipe. please help me", "(SERIOUS) I have the flu and my b-hole is burning from so much diarrhoea. How can I help this? It seriously burns and stings like a sharp pain when I go to wipe. I've been having diarrhoea at minimum 15 times a day, and I can hardly even sit on a couch let alone wipe. please help me", "(SERIOUS) I have the flu and my b-hole is burning from so much diarrhoea. How can I help this? It seriously burns and stings like a sharp pain when I go to wipe. I've been having diarrhoea at minimum 15 times a day, and I can hardly even sit on a couch let alone wipe. please help me", "(SERIOUS) I have the flu and my b-hole is burning from so much diarrhoea. How can I help this? It seriously burns and stings like a sharp pain when I go to wipe. I've been having diarrhoea at minimum 15 times a day, and I can hardly even sit on a couch let alone wipe. please help me" ]	[ "are you taking electrolyte replacement stuff ? an electrolyte imbalance is more of a concern than a sore ass. instead of \"wipe\", \" dab\". if you have a shower head use it is a baday.\nGL\ni once had travelers diarrhea and had to go on an 8 hour riverboat trip with only two stops", "The only thing I can think about is wiping your butt with wet wipes (yes, those baby ones).\n\n\nAs a bonus, you will feel REALLY clean.\n", "preparation H. that shit will cool off your sphincter.as to the diarrhea...sorry dude you're on your own there. ", "Whatever you do, DON'T PUT WATER ON IT. Your best bet is to try to alleviate the diarrhea with pepto bismol or immodium, and let your anus heal.", "1)shower (without soap), don't use tp or wet wipes\n\n2)use Vaseline (or local anesthetics) \n\n3) ??? \n\n4) profit \n\nhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oral_rehydration_therapy\n\ndiarrhea is not a flu symptom" ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to get cheaper shipping from a website? I want to buy a t-shirt from one of my favorite artists stores. The Tee is 20$. No problem. Shipping is 22$. That's a problem. I live in Canada and the artist is based out of the US somewhere. Another shirt from another favorite artist based out of the US is only 7$ shipping. What gives? Is there any way to lower the shipping charges?\n\nShirt: http://hoodieallen.storenvy.com/products/149021-ha-logo-t-purple", "How to get cheaper shipping from a website? I want to buy a t-shirt from one of my favorite artists stores. The Tee is 20$. No problem. Shipping is 22$. That's a problem. I live in Canada and the artist is based out of the US somewhere. Another shirt from another favorite artist based out of the US is only 7$ shipping. What gives? Is there any way to lower the shipping charges?\n\nShirt: http://hoodieallen.storenvy.com/products/149021-ha-logo-t-purple" ]	[ "I usually do a Google search of the websites name and then \"promo code\". This has gotten me free shipping plenty of times.", "If you can work out how to get cheaper shipping to Australia, I'll hail you as a god. If I want a $25 order from anywhere in the US/Canada it'll cost me $30 in shipping. :(" ]	[ 4, 3 ]	safe
[ "How to stop arm pits from sweating so much? Antiperspirants haven't been working. I have been switching between prescription strength deodorant/antiperspirants every few months because if I stay on one for too long it will eventually be completely ineffective. I have talked to a doctor about this and they said the only answer is botox injections to the armpits which is very expensive and they also said that the sweat that would leave from there would just leave from a new location instead.\n\n\nI sweat from my armpits like crazy even if I'm sitting in a cold room watching TV. I haven't been able to wear light colored shirts because of this. My wardrobe is mainly black and dark gray shirts. I would like to wear some color without looking like I just ran a mile in 100 degree weather. Also I have stained all my white shirts because of this.\n\nAny pro tips would help!", "How to stop arm pits from sweating so much? Antiperspirants haven't been working. I have been switching between prescription strength deodorant/antiperspirants every few months because if I stay on one for too long it will eventually be completely ineffective. I have talked to a doctor about this and they said the only answer is botox injections to the armpits which is very expensive and they also said that the sweat that would leave from there would just leave from a new location instead.\n\n\nI sweat from my armpits like crazy even if I'm sitting in a cold room watching TV. I haven't been able to wear light colored shirts because of this. My wardrobe is mainly black and dark gray shirts. I would like to wear some color without looking like I just ran a mile in 100 degree weather. Also I have stained all my white shirts because of this.\n\nAny pro tips would help!", "How to stop arm pits from sweating so much? Antiperspirants haven't been working. I have been switching between prescription strength deodorant/antiperspirants every few months because if I stay on one for too long it will eventually be completely ineffective. I have talked to a doctor about this and they said the only answer is botox injections to the armpits which is very expensive and they also said that the sweat that would leave from there would just leave from a new location instead.\n\n\nI sweat from my armpits like crazy even if I'm sitting in a cold room watching TV. I haven't been able to wear light colored shirts because of this. My wardrobe is mainly black and dark gray shirts. I would like to wear some color without looking like I just ran a mile in 100 degree weather. Also I have stained all my white shirts because of this.\n\nAny pro tips would help!", "How to stop arm pits from sweating so much? Antiperspirants haven't been working. I have been switching between prescription strength deodorant/antiperspirants every few months because if I stay on one for too long it will eventually be completely ineffective. I have talked to a doctor about this and they said the only answer is botox injections to the armpits which is very expensive and they also said that the sweat that would leave from there would just leave from a new location instead.\n\n\nI sweat from my armpits like crazy even if I'm sitting in a cold room watching TV. I haven't been able to wear light colored shirts because of this. My wardrobe is mainly black and dark gray shirts. I would like to wear some color without looking like I just ran a mile in 100 degree weather. Also I have stained all my white shirts because of this.\n\nAny pro tips would help!", "How to stop arm pits from sweating so much? Antiperspirants haven't been working. I have been switching between prescription strength deodorant/antiperspirants every few months because if I stay on one for too long it will eventually be completely ineffective. I have talked to a doctor about this and they said the only answer is botox injections to the armpits which is very expensive and they also said that the sweat that would leave from there would just leave from a new location instead.\n\n\nI sweat from my armpits like crazy even if I'm sitting in a cold room watching TV. I haven't been able to wear light colored shirts because of this. My wardrobe is mainly black and dark gray shirts. I would like to wear some color without looking like I just ran a mile in 100 degree weather. Also I have stained all my white shirts because of this.\n\nAny pro tips would help!", "How to stop arm pits from sweating so much? Antiperspirants haven't been working. I have been switching between prescription strength deodorant/antiperspirants every few months because if I stay on one for too long it will eventually be completely ineffective. I have talked to a doctor about this and they said the only answer is botox injections to the armpits which is very expensive and they also said that the sweat that would leave from there would just leave from a new location instead.\n\n\nI sweat from my armpits like crazy even if I'm sitting in a cold room watching TV. I haven't been able to wear light colored shirts because of this. My wardrobe is mainly black and dark gray shirts. I would like to wear some color without looking like I just ran a mile in 100 degree weather. Also I have stained all my white shirts because of this.\n\nAny pro tips would help!" ]	[ "Yes as the other redditor says, shave your pits, plenty of people do it.\n\nMake sure you know the difference between a deodorant (only masks smells) & antiperspirant (blocks pores from expelling the sweat effectively whilst also masking smells).\n\nOne thin layer of product, do not apply liberally because that serves no purpose. If you feel you should re-apply during the day then wash your pits before applying a fresh layer. Keep a spare product in your office or car.\n\nCotton clothing where possible because it allows for evaporation. Synthetic clothing acts as a barrier, preventing evaporation.\n\nSweat will always stain clothing, due to lipids present in the sweat. Products will stain clothing as well (even the ones that they claim they don't). You won't eliminate staining but you can minimise it by using some oxy powder in your washing. For some of my hand-wash only items I find oxy + water to be a better surfactant than the laundry detergent. What this means is the lipids are lifted clear off the clothing & kept suspended in the water. My water will turn a murky yellow colour, compared to the laundry detergent only, which will remain a soapy colour.\n\nAs for antiperspirant products, many are moving away from having alum salts as an ingredient, that's a personal choice. Crystals are another version of salt, minus the alum, but may not be a strong enough option for excessive sweaters. You could try products that are not 100% liquid but contain an element of talc, for its absorption properties. These come in aerosol form & stick form. The roll-ons tend to be just liquid so may not suit you.\n\nThat advice you already got was spot on: because sweating is a bodily function to regulate temperature, blocking glands in one area will cause another area to start sweating excessively. Also, what you may not have been told at an initial consultation is: not every surgery is successful, there's always a risk. Sometimes this is only said in the small print when you are checked in but surgery won't proceed until you sign a disclaimer not to sue. Be warned. Always read the small print.\n\nBest advice is to minimise not the sweat, but HOW LONG you allow that sweat to sit on your skin & on your clothing. Minimise by shaving, quick wash between showers, cotton, oxy in the laundry, & try sticks instead of roll-ons. DO NOT TRY OXY POWDER ON YOUR SKIN, that's for laundry only.", "Also consider to change your type of clothing. Artificial clothing doesnt breathe and will make you sweat more", "Weird that your doctor would say that. I had issues with excessive sweating as a teen and I was given a prescription deodorant. You might need to find another doctor and ask for Odaban or Xerac AC or Drysol. All are prescription strength options.", "Miradry. It’s a little more expensive than Botox but also more permanent and destroys the sweat glands in the treated area.", "I found that the “Thai crystal deodorant” line from DSA did a decent job of changing me from a crazy sweat machine to a reasonable,only when things are super stressful, sweat on the shirt situation.", "For me, degree motion sense ultraclear black + white is the one that eventually worked for me. Every other deodorant either felt uncomfortable or made my sweating worse." ]	[ 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "what can we do to motivate ourselves to work/study. Furthermore, what can we do to give ourselves hope and a desire to achieve? Not asking so much as to how can we do something that we are uncomfortable with, but rather what we just want to put off. I am asking as a high school student in his I final year and has already somewhat cocked up his first set of exams. Preferably aiming for advice from wiser people.\n Successful or not please share!", "what can we do to motivate ourselves to work/study. Furthermore, what can we do to give ourselves hope and a desire to achieve? Not asking so much as to how can we do something that we are uncomfortable with, but rather what we just want to put off. I am asking as a high school student in his I final year and has already somewhat cocked up his first set of exams. Preferably aiming for advice from wiser people.\n Successful or not please share!", "what can we do to motivate ourselves to work/study. Furthermore, what can we do to give ourselves hope and a desire to achieve? Not asking so much as to how can we do something that we are uncomfortable with, but rather what we just want to put off. I am asking as a high school student in his I final year and has already somewhat cocked up his first set of exams. Preferably aiming for advice from wiser people.\n Successful or not please share!", "what can we do to motivate ourselves to work/study. Furthermore, what can we do to give ourselves hope and a desire to achieve? Not asking so much as to how can we do something that we are uncomfortable with, but rather what we just want to put off. I am asking as a high school student in his I final year and has already somewhat cocked up his first set of exams. Preferably aiming for advice from wiser people.\n Successful or not please share!", "what can we do to motivate ourselves to work/study. Furthermore, what can we do to give ourselves hope and a desire to achieve? Not asking so much as to how can we do something that we are uncomfortable with, but rather what we just want to put off. I am asking as a high school student in his I final year and has already somewhat cocked up his first set of exams. Preferably aiming for advice from wiser people.\n Successful or not please share!" ]	[ "Accept the consequences of your actions. If you dont put in any effort then that's all on you and no one else to blame. No one can make you work harder but yourself. If you want resources then i suggest go to coursera website (free) and do the learning to learn course.", "Step 0: Dream about your future, about what you want to achieve and what you need to do to achieve what you want.\nStep 1: Make a 'to do' list.\nStep 2: Number the things and start with the easiest.\nStep 3: Take a break after every 25% done work. (at 25%, 50%, 75%)\nStep 4: Just do it!", "Next time you get robbed ask them to point a gun/knife at your head and tell them to kill you when you lose focus during study. Worked for me ", "There can be no motivation without the \"aha moment\". You cocked up your first set of exams.... are you likely to fail a class now? Will that jeopardize you going to University? That could be your aha moment. It might come when it's too late to fix one thing but that doesn't mean the road to success in whatever endeavor is over.\n\nYou just have to have that Oh Shit moment ", "Set a big goal. Imagine what your life will be like when you accomplish that goal. Then, live out each day accomplishing small goals that will move you towards your big one. If you feel unmotivated, remember why you need to get things accomplished. Patience!" ]	[ 5, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!", "How to be a better car driver! I've just completed drivers ed this summer, but I still fell like I need to know the small things that also contribute to good drivers! I also know that experience will help driving better and plan on driving plenty until I get my license. Drivers Ed is very general, so I would love to hear all the small (specific) things that you think new drivers (and pretty much all drivers) should know!" ]	[ "Patience, and Don't do something that makes other drivers have to brake. Obvious exceptions apply.\n\nBest advice my driving instructor gave me.", "Assume that every other driver on the road is actively trying to kill you. \n\nWatch out carefully for motorcycles and mopeds. Mopeds especially, because their smaller engines can't always get out of the way as fast as a larger bike. Also, if you drive a larger vehicle, the wind slipstream can sort of \"pull\" smaller two-wheeled vehicles after it. ", "Awareness. \n\nEliminate all distractions. \n\nTake in the whole scene.\n\nGood drivers know what is happening in front, several cars ahead, and on all sides. You should develop a zen state where you use your senses and your minds eye to take in the whole picture.\n\nThis will give you an edge when the unexpected happens.\n\nIt will.", "Know where the fuck you're going so you can merge into the proper lane EARLY (nothing frustrates people more than someone who's trying to get into a lane at the last second).\n\nAlso, always check your blind spots before switching lanes.", "If the person in front of you is starting to brake, you brake too. This prevents you having to slam the brake at the last second because the person in front of them is making a left and the person behind you then has to slam on their brakes", "If somebody is starting to pass you, don't speed up. Stay at a constant speed until they are past you, and then, if you want, speed up after they've settled into whatever lane they want.", "Always look way ahead of where you are driving, especially on freeways. This way, you can anticipate in time much more likely when something unexpected happens in front of you.", "When I was learning, my dad always said to pretend he had a really hot cup of coffee in his hands. If I drove around in a manner that he would not spill and burn himself, I was doing a good job. I still think about it now when I have a drink in the cup holder. Calm, slow and small changes are the key. Being young, all of the fast reaction that is necessary comes natural. Also try to look as far down the road as possible and let your peripheral vision take care of close stuff. This is what racers do. I heard this from an instructor that always had trouble with foreign and urban drivers that would stare down the hood to directly in front. It is almost impossible to drive straight when you are focused too close to the front of the car. ", "To echo many of the comments: \n\nPay attention to your surroundings by checking ahead and using your rearview and sideview mirrors. This is particularly important for highway driving. When I am driving on the highway I like to check my rearview mirror to see what cars are doing. It is good to know if a car is coming up pretty fast towards you and likely will be trying to pass you soon. Its good to know in advance when someone is likely going to be in your blind spot from checking the approaching cars. As other people said, looking farther ahead can help you see if you are going to need to start braking and just generally being aware of whats going on.\n\nBe considerate of other drivers. As others have said, use your turn signals, try and get into the correct lane ahead of time, etc. Try and let your intentions be known to other drivers so they won't be surprised. Say I am trying to change lanes where there are multiple cars going faster than I am at the moment (say getting into the left lane of a highway because the car in front of me is slow or trying to get into the right lane for a turn) I will turn on my signal once the first car goes alongside me so as to alert the driver of the car behind him that I am trying to get into that lane.\n\nAlways check your blind spot when changing lanes. As I said, I try and keep an eye on whats coming up behind me, but even so I have been surprised a few times when I am planning on changing lanes and see a car when I check my blind spot.\n\nAlso, don't drink and drive. I am sure you have heard it a lot and you are probably sick of it, but it is never worth it. The consequences are far too large to be worth the happiness from some drinks. ", "Relax. I remember getting out of Driver's Ed and being kind of nervous (They would try and scare us into safety by telling us gruesome and extreme stories of car accidents). Once I actively just chilled out and allowed myself to breathe I got to be a much better driver. I get compliments, too. \n\nAlso, look behind you very well when backing out of the driveway. ", "Never assume ANYTHING. Always check your blind spots, keep an eye on all of you mirrors when backing up(also keep a slow pace when backing up). Slow down when approaching an intersection even if you have a green light. Know how the right of way works. ", "I try my best to make sweep through the front window speedo rearview mirror and sometimes check my blind spots. Even if I'm going down the road and it seems empty. its good to know for a fact where things are and it will stop yoy from getting tunnel vision.", "Don't stare at the speedometer. Take a quick glimpse every now and then. There's a reason speedometers have large numbers and dashes; so you don't have to stare, just glimpse.\n\nSimilarly, glimpse frequently at your rear/side mirrors. Over time you'll learn how to use peripheral vision to accomplish this.\n\nModern cars roll forward in Drive and backward in Reverse. Unless you're parked on a hill you don't need to step on the gas pedal every time you have to get out of a parking space. Take your time.\n\nLastly, for the love of god, use your turn signals. Wanna change lanes? Signal! Wanna make a turn? Signal! Need to pull over to take a piss because you overestimated the distance to the next Rest Stop? SIGNAL!", "Don't overestimate your driving skills after a couple months. People tend to feel more comfortable after some successful months of driving.\n\nLearn everything about your car. \ni. e. Where the important licenses, the manual and so on are.\n", "When on the highway keep plenty of space in front if you for people to merge over. This prevents traffic build up and gridlock. You also don't have to slam on the brakes suddenly when cars stop and often can time it so you only take your foot off the gas before traffic is moving again. \n\nWave when people let you pass in front of them. \n\nIf the left lane light is green and the straight traffic light is red it does NOT mean left Turners have the right of way. You need an actual arrow for that. It means you can turn left if the oncoming traffic has an opening. ", "Get to know your vehicle, and how it and others behave. Learning the best way to act on the road is great, but a vehicle is just that, a big metal box with an engine and someone trying to keep it from killing everyone. If youre the only car around, don't be afraid to have fun with your driving, you'll learn your vehicles limitations, as well as capabilities. \n\nDon't be the idiot that goes as fast as he can, then panicks and slams on the brakes constantly; pay attention to how you car feels. In tight corners going quicker, learn what it feels like when your tires are reaching the limit of sideways grip.\n\n Brake BEFORE a corner and accellerate out of it. The more brake you apply in a corner, the less your whells can apply grip to stay on course. If you can't see over a hill slow down and stay to the right in case of drivers over the line. On sharp hills or even over speedbumps, brake just before and let the release of the brake carry you over, accelerate when your suspension reaches the most compression; it will negate the sharp bounce.\n\nWhen stopping suddenly, gently let out the brake just before you reach a complete stop, with practice insread of a sharp jerk, it will be a gentle heave.\n\nAlways leave a large space between you and the car in front, you will save money in gas, brake pads, and have more reaction time.\n\nAlmost all people that consider themselves \"good drivers\" are actually just confident in their poor driving ; oblivious to their vehicle, how it interacts with the environment, and how to operate it well. Learn the difference.\n\n", "Get a wide angle rear view mirror. I can't live without mine. I can practically see out both side rear windows on my compact without moving my head. It's also like a foot long horizontally, so the convexity isn't that noticeable.", "Breathe. Be aware of those around you. That guy/girl is probably not paying attention and will swerve into your lane. Make room. Remember, it is a merge, not a stop.\n\nI attended 2 racing schools and 1 court ordered defensive driving class. All of these additional trainings helped immensely.", "+ Drive as if other drivers are idiots. A lot of them are. \n\n+ Don't do anything stupid. It sounds obvious but sometimes when you're driving along, listening to music, it's easy to get over confident. Don't. \n\n+ Look at the 'body language' of a car to gauge what it's going to do, as well as looking at indicators. This is especially useful for those wankers on the road who don't think they need to indicate. If a car looks like it's about to turn, stop, but isn't giving any lights, err on the side of caution.\n\n" ]	[ 5, 5, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "prevent the jack-end of my headphones from breaking I'm looking for tips on preventing the wire that goes inside the auxillairy jack from breaking. Headphones often break here first, resulting in headphones that only work when you jiggle it. While fixing is easy, preventing it from happening is better.", "prevent the jack-end of my headphones from breaking I'm looking for tips on preventing the wire that goes inside the auxillairy jack from breaking. Headphones often break here first, resulting in headphones that only work when you jiggle it. While fixing is easy, preventing it from happening is better.", "prevent the jack-end of my headphones from breaking I'm looking for tips on preventing the wire that goes inside the auxillairy jack from breaking. Headphones often break here first, resulting in headphones that only work when you jiggle it. While fixing is easy, preventing it from happening is better." ]	[ "I got this: heat shrink tubing and a hair dryer. slip it over and shrink it on. rigid yet flexible. do a few layers of decreasing length to get gradiated flexibility", "Depending on how bulky you want the final appearance to be, I've found that the spring from a biro held over the problem area and secured with a small amount of duct or sellotape does a great job. Stops any stress from being applied to the joint at all.", "Dont roll your heaphones up, or wrapthem around ur phone. It strains the contacts. Instead Lay them out and fold them in half multiple times. This also helps prevent tangles. " ]	[ 8, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to leave a job and put in a 2 week's notice at a job you love, with people you love working with I'll keep it short and to the point. I'm currently interning at a company that I absolutely love working at. I've done a lot to help the company out, even though I am just a student. A better opportunity came up, and I will be leaving where I am at now. Technically, my internship contract ends on a certain date that is coming up, but I still want to put in a 2 weeks notice because everyone on my team and my manager has assumed that I would be looking to extend my contract for another 6 months. \n\nI am looking for any advice on how to give the letter to my manager, what to say to my manager when I give it to him, when and how I should tell my team, or any other points that would make this easier for me. I'm still a student, and this has been my first real job so I am kind of at a loss on how to approach any of this. Any advice or input would be greatly appreciated. :)\n\n", "How to leave a job and put in a 2 week's notice at a job you love, with people you love working with I'll keep it short and to the point. I'm currently interning at a company that I absolutely love working at. I've done a lot to help the company out, even though I am just a student. A better opportunity came up, and I will be leaving where I am at now. Technically, my internship contract ends on a certain date that is coming up, but I still want to put in a 2 weeks notice because everyone on my team and my manager has assumed that I would be looking to extend my contract for another 6 months. \n\nI am looking for any advice on how to give the letter to my manager, what to say to my manager when I give it to him, when and how I should tell my team, or any other points that would make this easier for me. I'm still a student, and this has been my first real job so I am kind of at a loss on how to approach any of this. Any advice or input would be greatly appreciated. :)\n\n", "How to leave a job and put in a 2 week's notice at a job you love, with people you love working with I'll keep it short and to the point. I'm currently interning at a company that I absolutely love working at. I've done a lot to help the company out, even though I am just a student. A better opportunity came up, and I will be leaving where I am at now. Technically, my internship contract ends on a certain date that is coming up, but I still want to put in a 2 weeks notice because everyone on my team and my manager has assumed that I would be looking to extend my contract for another 6 months. \n\nI am looking for any advice on how to give the letter to my manager, what to say to my manager when I give it to him, when and how I should tell my team, or any other points that would make this easier for me. I'm still a student, and this has been my first real job so I am kind of at a loss on how to approach any of this. Any advice or input would be greatly appreciated. :)\n\n", "How to leave a job and put in a 2 week's notice at a job you love, with people you love working with I'll keep it short and to the point. I'm currently interning at a company that I absolutely love working at. I've done a lot to help the company out, even though I am just a student. A better opportunity came up, and I will be leaving where I am at now. Technically, my internship contract ends on a certain date that is coming up, but I still want to put in a 2 weeks notice because everyone on my team and my manager has assumed that I would be looking to extend my contract for another 6 months. \n\nI am looking for any advice on how to give the letter to my manager, what to say to my manager when I give it to him, when and how I should tell my team, or any other points that would make this easier for me. I'm still a student, and this has been my first real job so I am kind of at a loss on how to approach any of this. Any advice or input would be greatly appreciated. :)\n\n" ]	[ "Just tell him in person that you are leaving for an opportunity that will help you pursue the career that you want, also leave a letter with him specifying the date and details. \n\nThere is a 99% chance that he will be happy for you as this is what people do. Tell all of your co-worker friends that you are leaving, they will probably have a small farewell party on the day you leave.", "manager here. Be honest with him. Tell him how much you've enjoyed your experiences (t)here, how much you'll miss the people, and how much you've appreciated his support and leadership. Thank him for the opportunities that he and the company have given you. If you're interested in ever returning to the company, it doesn't hurt to say something like, \"If there's ever an opportunity for me to come back in a more full time position, I would love to hear about it.\"\n\nYour letter should be short and sweet. \n\nDear (Manager),\n\nI am informing you of my resignation, effective (your last day). Thank you for all of the opportunities you have provided me.\n\nSincerely (or some other professional salutation),\n\n(Sign in ink)\n\nType your full name", "Don't fret too mich about it, people get better jobs and have to say goodbye all the time. They will be sad but they won't do anything of ill will.", "Don't feel guilty/guilted because you are quitting. The company wouldn't have any qualms laying your ass off if it ever came to that, even if you are a star at work and everyone loves you. It is your life and career, do what's best for you. Leave on good terms and support them initially for a couple of weeks if required.\n\nThere should be a ton of resignation letters on the net that you can modify to your needs. Set up a meeting with your boss, tell him you are leaving and give him a reason (closer to home, blah, blah). Resist all counters as it is best for both of you." ]	[ 6, 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? 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I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. 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I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n", "How to respond to people who makes you feel dumb for asking a question? So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nOk I agree It was a basic question. But I just forgot it. How many of us can remember everything taught last year? When I told her I just forgot it, she said \"yes like people forget 2+2, right? \" She's so sarcastic and savage. \n\nHow do I deal with this type of situation? I don't wanna get all angry and defensive when this happens because it shows that it bothered me. It doesn't bother me, but I still have a dignity to maintain while talking. I wanna respond to this very calmly like a mature person. But I also dont want to keep quiet and continue feeling dumb. Any tips??\n\n" ]	[ "This reminds me of the demotivational poster titled \"Cluelessness\" with an image of a bunch of incandescent light bulbs laying around with one lit in the middle. The quote reads: \n\n>There Are No Stupid Questions, \n> \n>But There Are A LOT Of Inquisitive Idiots.\n\nYou should honestly say something like \"Well that was rude\" without reacting with body language and then move on with the conversation without skipping a beat.", "Personally, I'd go with something along the lines of \"I'm sorry, I didn't realize you couldn't help me. I'll ask someone else. Thanks!\" Your tone is what makes it. Keep your tone cordial and even a little sympathetic. They'll bristle and probably say of course they can help. That's when you reply \"Then could you please answer the question without the commentary on my intelligence?\" Or \"No, it's ok, I'll ask someone else. No need to trouble yourself.\" Again, tone is key.\n\nYou can either ignore the insults and reply with kindness (best way to stop a bully IMO) or confront it directly. It depends on your confidence and comfort level.\n\nBut full disclosure, I'm a big time smartaleck with enough snark and sarcasm to sink a ship, so take it with a grain of salt.", "Whenever someone does this to me I just tell them \"Look, I'm obviously just not as smart as you, so now that we've established your intellectual superiority can you help me or do you need to make fun of me some more?\"\n\nI get a sick sense of satisfaction in this sort of response as it cuts them off at the knees. they often have no counter to that. It also is very liberating as now, you don't have to try to save face. You need help, you freely admit you need help, now they look like a A-hole if they keep making snide comments and you can remind them as such.", "\"Was that necessary? You can just say you don't know the answer either.\"\n\nThen smile. Least that's what I do.", "Answer was \"by asking questions, it worked out well so far\".\n\nYou don't have to apologize for doing your best to succeed, and your mentality will probably help you more in the long run than hers.\n\nOnce learn not flinching in front of people like that your life will be way easier.", "By telling them your smart enough to ask when you don’t know instead of assuming an answer like an idiot. And directing your tone towards the lack of etiquette they are displaying.", "Find better friends. Forgetting basic information happens to everyone - even her. The difference is that you forgot in the presence of a condescending “frenemy.” A real friend shows compassion, supports you, and lift you up, not tears you down.", "Maybe it's worth pointing out to her that 2+2 can be worked out, even if you need to use your fingers and struggle along the way. There's no way to logically work out a fact that you're just meant to memorise so it's in no way an indicator of intelligence, just memory. Might take her off her high horse a little.", "It's the dumb question you don't ask that ends up ruining the day. In the real world, a questioning attitude will get you further than staying silent. The more you do it, the better questions you'll start to ask. Try not to get too caught up with how others react to it and since Learning is a skill and asking questions is practice, those who look down on it are only hindering themselves later.", "Say this clearly and slowly while looking her in the eyes, “Next time I’ll ask someone who’s smart AND has a manners.” Then promptly leave", "I observe the offending person. After enough slights/insults, etc, I dust my feet off and get to stepping to better company. Your physical & mental health are far too important to engage with such crappy individuals. Stress & drama robs & kills.", " You can say… “Thank you. Tomorrow I’ll wake smarter, knowing the answer, and you’ll still be an asshole”\n \nAlso, Book smarts does not equal intelligence.", "I'm a big fan of: \"did you just say that out loud?\" for situations like this.\n\nSimple, versatile, a little subtle, and maybe makes them stop and think for a moment. Won't work in a truly antagonistic situation, but in a situation like this where it's supposedly a friendly conversation, it can work.", "I would say … “remind me not to ever ask you for help again .. god damn “… that would shut them down pretty fast", "I'd just stop asking them questions and find a better person to ask. We used to have someone at work who would do similar things, answering with \"you should know that, it's bad that you have to ask\". It created a toxic culture of people not wanting to look dumb and therefore not asking simple questions. Very bad way to answer questions.", "I see alot of passive aggressive responses here, I'm not sure if that is the mature rout you were looking for. You could try something like the following:\n\n\"Hey thank you for answering my question! On another subject, could you please refrain from putting me down when I ask you a question, I value our relationship and would like to maintain it\"", "I usually say something along the lines of, \"alright well I guess I'll just go fuck myself then\" humorously. Then slowly stop talking to them if they don't realize that people are actually humans and have other shit going on.\n\nShe didn't have any dignity in her response, so why should you maintain your dignity with her?", "Not a response for how to respond but to say you're so totally not alone forgetting. \n\nI had to ask someone how to spell \"wow\" once and\n\nSemi funny story.\n\nMy mom and I were talking and she made a comment about a singer (willie nelson) but completely blanked on the name. \n\nI responded \"...how in the world do you forget that name?? That's like forgetting Johnny.... Uh.... Johnny....\" \n\nMy mom leaning in close: \"who? It's like forgetting who?? Johnny Cash? Is THAT who?\" \n\nWe laughed", "Love a lot of the responses so far! Another possibility... \n\n\"I'm smart in other ways.... Like social skills. That was really rude.\"\n\nOr \"I have an approximate knowledge of MANY things, I just happened to forget that one.\" you can also follow up this one with a really sarcastic, \"thank you for blessing me with your vast intelligence to fill the gaps in mine.\"", "“That was a bit bitchy, but thanks for the help.”\n\n“Well you forgot basic manners, right?”\n\nOr deflect with a joke: \n\nHer: “How’d you even pass last grade?”\n“I didn’t but I…insert joke story here\n\nPossible finishers are “bribed the teacher/blackmailed the principal with pictures of his affair with her dad/ won a passing grade in a game of strip poker/ prayed really really hard and little baby jesus made it happen”\n\nSomeone like that is looking for a reaction, or to feel smug,make their attack a joke and it robs them of steam but don’t be tooo self deprecating as it may invite more vitriol.", "If it’s more banter like, then you just gotta roast her back. \n\nIf she’s actually being an asshole then I’d call her out on being a rude asshole. \n\nOtherwise not much you can do.", "Here's the hardest answer of all. Disengage and consider your own reaction.\n\n\"Mindfulness\" is the current mental health tool du jour and it actually can help in these situations. Rather than getting mad and sniping back, step back and recognize why you're mad at the comment. \n\nYou're mad at her because she made you feel dumb, right? You're mad. Why? She made you feel dumb. How is it that she got a hold of your emotions like that? Did you already feel dumb for asking the question? Or does her opinion of you carry weight that you didn't realize (e.g. she's smoking hot and NGL you kind of hoped to have a shot)?\n\nBy the time you get that far back, the embarassment will have turned into questioning, inquisitiveness - something very healthy for you to investigate. And, hopefully, you'll have avoided saying something that causes a bigger problem.\n\nSource: Am a lawyer. Receive e-mails, calls, comments, digs, on a daily basis. It's super hard to not blow up, but understanding what your triggers are makes you more capable of dealing with them in different contexts in the future.", "I saw you said you were in a group project. If she continues being rude as hell I would let the teacher know. They might not do anything but they also might do something.\n\nYou can also restrict chit chat to solely about the project. Anything extra (like if she vents or shows off) is completely ignored. If confronted “oh we aren’t friends. You made that very clear by being rude. Back to work.”\n\n", "These people are not your friends - steer clear. Whoever said this to you obviously needs to feel superior to someone, but that someone doesn't have to be you.", "Anyone who has replied with anything to me that I found hurtful, I simply said “That really hurt my feelings.”\n\nIt works SO well. I would say in the times in my life I’ve had to say it, 90% of people stopped for a moment and said “I’m sorry”. The other 10% are jerks.", "When people are rude to an individual in a group setting a response would be\n\n\"Could you repeat that for the record so everyone can hear?\"\n\nIf they have any self awareness they'll be embarrassed by their rude remark and be too sheepish to repeat or they get outted as a rude person", "Remember what a broken record is? Ask them, without emotion, not changing your question one iota, not matter their response.\n\nI.E. : \"Why would you say that? \"Why would you say that?\" \"Why would you say that?\"\n\nDo it until they become gibbering idiots.\n\nThis nugget of wisdom was provided to my by a top Yale psychiatrist.", "In the Philippines we say\n\n\"Eh di ikaw na magaling\"\n\n(So it's you already who is the smart one) 🙄\n\nWorks every time 👌", "1. Do I NEED to learn from this person? \n\nNo- then you’ve just learned a valuable lesson and now know who not to ask. What you say doesn’t really matter. They may leave thinking “what an idiot” but they just showed you they don’t care about your learning or don’t know the information and are putting on a front.\n\nYes- I find expressing your question in a way that shows what you’re having trouble ubderstanding is more helpful. So instead of “what is X?” Ask “I’m having trouble understanding the why X is correct and Y is incorrect? \n\nSometimes your knowledge base will be simply “What is X?” But try phrasing “ I’m not familiar with X could you help me understand or provide some resources so I can find the answer”\n\n\n\nWhatever you take away from this encounter I hope you keep asking questions. At some point you won’t care how dumb you look, only that you’re trying to get better.", "You're posting online asking for advice on how to approach the situation. Don't say \"it doesn't bother me\" - it clearly does and thats ok. \n\nPretending like it doesn't bother you is a fast track to very confused feelings", "Hit them with the full on Forrest Gump “I may not be a smart man, but I know what love is.” Accent and all. \n \nThen just say please be kind to me, it’s just simple communication. Tell them that communication can be simple and doesn’t require negative emotions to be layered on all the time.", "No one “makes” you feel dumb. You are in charge of your feelings. They want you to feel bad. Don’t let them win, just blow it off.", "Lots of good advice here. One more thing for you to think about... If you find you ask a lot of these \"dumb questions\" (your words, I'm not trying to be mean), then you may want to adjust your inner dialogue.\n\nWhat I mean is, many of us have these same questions. Some people get good at asking these questions internally, and waiting for their brain to answer it themselves. A good portion of these questions get answered that way. The few left over should be asked out loud.", "I’ve got a roommate that likes to have very one sided conversations where he talks at me while constantly taking stabs at my intelligence.\n\nI’m sure it’s not the best way to handle but one day I snapped and told him I’m not gonna listen to it anymore and why I thought it was rude.\n\nWe’ve been good ever since. Still happens sometimes, but much less.", "Easy. Cut toxic people out of your life. And then move on with your life. That's not your friend...SHE GONE!", "Reminds me of a philosophy lecturer that used to say \"you should always ask stupid questions.\" And Timothy Leary's three favourite words in the English language - \"I don't know\", because every time he said it he'd learn something new", "No one can make you feel anything. The way you feel about something is mostly based on how you choose to interpret their actions. A couple of tips could be:\n\n1. Focus on interpreting others more generously - \" she doesn't think I'm stupid. She's just had a long day\" or \" I wonder why he's responding like that, maybe there's something I'm missing about the way he works\"\n\n2. Focus on your intentions. If you learning this information from them would help you/others/you are going to use it positively. Then the right thing to do is ask the question, it doesn't matter how they respond because your intentions are positive. \n\n3. Don't be afraid to provide feedback - \"when I asked how this worked, you appeared frustrated and responded in short broken sentences, this makes me feel like I shouldn't be asking, would you prefer I didn't? How should I be getting this information then?\"\n\nBut seriously, lots of people are assholes, the sooner you acknowledge that mood is something you do for yourself the less power these situations have over you.", "I'm not an expert on bullying, life or anything but I had one thought in my life back in the day and I found that to be a good thought. So for what it's worth I'll just share with you guys. If someone bothers me I ask myself this question: Does this really have an impact on my life? Or to put it in other words: Does this person have any sort of power over me?\n\nIf the answer is no, then there we have a bully that you can simply avoid. Just avoid that person or if it is your coworker just ignore them, don't feed them with attention and focus on anything that really counts for you.\n\nIf the answer is yes then well... then in this case my heart tells me: Run away! Seriously, lives can be ruined by toxic bosses/family members/partners/any superiors in your workplace. And you only have one life, so no day is worth losing in fear or stress because of some toxic person.", "I guess you could play games and make passive aggressive remarks like the other comments here say to do...or you could just be honest and tell them you don't like being spoken to that way.\n\nThe benefit there is you would be speaking inarguably. If you say something like \"sometimes people forget\", or \"I didn't know you couldn't help me\", They can disagree with you and you invite an argument. But if you tell them how it makes you feel, what are they going to do... Tell you that you don't feel that way?\n\nThey may try to tell you why you shouldn't feel uncomfortable with it, but again, all you have to do is agree and say something like \"I understand I shouldn't feel bad about it, but I do. So please don't do it\". The key is to keep it about how it makes you feel, not about who is right or wrong. You can just keep agreeing with everything they follow up with, but just keep reiterating that you get it, they're probably right, but at the end of the day you don't appreciate being spoken to in that manner.", "Anytime this happens (which is unfortunately a lot since I’m neurodivergent), I legitimately just kind of look up at them from whatever I’m doing with this sarcastic ass tight-lipped smile and just say shit like “Thank you [name], once again you have been a paragon of help in this endeavor” and keep working on whatever I’m doing. If they’re sarcastic as well they’ll usually just do the whole “you’re welcome!” thing and the convo moves on. \n\nIf they’re the type to get unnecessarily confrontational or mocking, I kind of just look at them like THEY’RE the one being weird/stupid/whatever, chuckle to myself with the “ooookay” or “alllllrighty then,” and walk away, even if it’s just to the bathroom. That just shows that they’re looking for a reaction, in which I just don’t have the time for. \n\nIt comes in time. I used to be the silent one that allowed it all for years. My motto to break that habit was “say it even if you shake [while doing so].” You’ll be a-okay, my friend.", "is this a regular way that she treats you or other people? If so kind of sounds like your friends a narcissist. People don't stop doing that kind of stuff unless they want to. If you notice a pattern of her doing that a lot and it bothers you every time the only way around it is to drop that person. People don't grow out of narcissism unless they take steps to become self aware of it and you cannot make somebody become self aware of it. Typically it only happens as a result of consequences from their actions.", "There's a word for a friend who attacks you -- \"enemy.\" A snappy comeback might feel good in the moment but it's not helping you in the long run. The larger issue is she's a rude person whose friendship requires you putting up with abuse. Something is obviously wrong with a person who acts like that, and it's not your job to fix her. Don't stay friends with people who attack you; it's awful for your self esteem.", "Tell her you feel hurt and she can do better. Tell her knowledge is for sharing, not hoarding or using to demean others.", "She’s not your friend. Don’t waste a second of your time with disrespectful people. They’re the “friends” that never reciprocate, and could in fact talk awful things behind your back.\n\nShe lashes out because she’s deeply insecure. I guarantee you someone did that to her and now she needs to do it to other people to feel better. Fortunately, it’s not your job to be a therapist, nor your job at all to stand by her abuse. Tell her exactly how you feel then cut her out after she starts gaslighting you.", "I respond \"mother fucker we're all either here to help each other or get the fuck out of each other's way, I see you chose to be a pain in the ass.\"", "Asking questions is the single best way to learn information. I would argue that it is the smartest thing you can do in most situations. When I train people at work, I always tell them that they only need to do two things to impress me: 1) Ask questions, and 2) Take notes.\n\nSo why am I telling you this? It's because I want you to understand that you're not the problem in this relationship, and you aren't the person who needs to change. You're doing everything right in the scenario you presented. The other person is being rude and dismissive. IMO, just stop hanging out with them. \n\nFind someone who appreciates the fact that asking questions is the foundation of all knowledge, and study with them. Neither of you has to know the answer in advance - you have the ability and agency to find the information that you need via the internet, or emailing your teacher, or in your textbooks. What's important is that you are interested in learning and aren't ashamed of that fact. Please keep those traits throughout your life; I suspect you'll find that you're the sort of person people like spending time with - especially if you also ask questions about them.\n\nBest of luck!", "Also remember there is a difference between being smart and being educated. \n\nThey happened to have learned something you didn't. It doesn't make them smarter. Just more educated/knowledgeable.\n\nAnd everyone is entitled to an off day, or a \"reality check\" when they forget something. \n\nI like the response of, \"I asked a simple question. If you are incapable of helping with out rude commentary, then nevermind. Seems like you didn't learn manners in kindergarten.\"", "\"I might have forgotten something from 9th grade but at least I remember the lessons in kindergarten about not being an asshole. You might want to get a refresher\"\n\n\"New question: what's it like to be so insecure and pathetic that you have to be a complete jerk to someone asking a question?\"\n\n\"Wow, you're an asshole\" totally calm and then stare at them. \n\n\"Now i see why your ex dumped you / why so and so hates you / why your step mom thinks you're a bitch\"", "“Yikes my guy. There are all these responses you could have given but decided to be an ass/a jerk/nasty instead. Glad I at least remember how to treat people decently. I’ll look it up myself. Yikes.”\n\n“How do you even have any friends when you act like that?”\n\n“Yeah actually like how people forget not to be an absolute butthole. Glad you remembered tho.”", "“Oh you don’t know the answer either?”\n\n“Of course I do”\n\n“Ah I see, you’re just being hateful for no reason. No worries I’ll ask jonathon”", "not sure why you feel the need to respond, my response would be to not hang out with an asshole:\n\n\"not by acting like i know everything\"\n\n\"how do you have friends when you bite off their head for asking a question\"\n\n\"don't ever become a teacher\"\n\n==========\n\n", "Your \"friend\" sounds like a real a hole, I wouldn't ask anything to her/him, you have a non-judgmental, non-abusive friend called Google, use it's immeasurable expertise in any subject imaginable instead.\n\nFriends don't make you feel bad for asking questions, no matter how basic or complex they are, that person is just abusive egoistic pos.", "You gotta learn to handle stuff like this - you’ll get it often throughout your life if you don’t. I know it’s hard but work on biting back - on the whole it’ll stop very quickly once you do.", "With people like that I just say \"be nice.\" It usually works, if it doesn't work, why continue being friends?", "Whenever someone is blatantly mean I just pretend not to have heard them. Turn to them as genuinely (and nicely) as possible and say, “sorry I didn’t hear you, what was that?” Like they just answered your question but you missed it. \n\nRarely do people want to be mean twice, especially when it’s out of rhythm of the conversation and standing on its own.", "When you grow up one of the things you gain with confidence, is not giving a damn and just straight up admitting \"yep, it does sound dumb that I forgot this, but can you remind me\". \n\nAs a 30+ yo male with a career since 17 I might also forget some basic shit. And if someone will decide to bust my balls over it I'll just say \"yep, so can we get past this by answering a question?\". It's a common meme around senior developers to google most basic shit you gain at a language crash course. It's not because I'm dumb, it's because throughout my career I've learned and used over 10 programming languages and I just couldn't give a damn about that one weird syntax that escapes my mind at this particular moment.\n\nOne of my most favorite standup comedians bits is about him being to old for all this shit. Where he just wants a certain album in a music shop, he just hums that tune he once heard in the ad to a guy at the vinyl shop and he couldn't give less shits about it.\n\nThe things is, you adopt that mentality, you will always be okay. Hers will let her know very soon in a grown ups world this shit won't fly and get called out immediately. If anything, I see a lot of immature responses at the top of your comments.\n\nOne of my superiors early in career also loved that saying I've adopted for the rest of mine \"what's obvious to you obvious to you\".", "Well the first step is to stop calling them your \"friend\". Second step is to be friends with people who respect you.\n\n\nYou also need to realize that there's nothing wrong with showing that you are bothered by what someone said. You call them out on it and tell them that what they said isn't appropriate and they need to change their behavior\n\nYou can do that while remaining calm and showing them that they have a lot of maturing to do", "Wait until they ask a question and make them feel dumb back. \n\nOne thing I came to realize in school is that everyone struggles with different things. There’s probably something that you’re better at than your friend", "Usually, I'll make them feel guilt by responding nicely. Fuck them, as if they've never asked a \"dumb\" or \"obvious\" question in their life. Please. But taking it with a smile and graceful nod, maybe even a joke, 100% makes you look like the better person coming out of it imo.", "There's always ways to get people to want to help you. Whether they judge you, that's on them. But you gotta do you.\n\nOne way is to days, \"hey, I'm kinda embarrassed to ask this, but...\" or \"I'm gonna ask like the worst question and it's gonna be so bad.\" Downplay it a little. When it's not the worst or even really embarrassing, then they'll be like, \"oh that's not that bad.\" Sometimes there's, \"I know this is a dumb question, but...\" Chances are it's not that dumb. And if it is and they answer it for you, you're smarter. \n\nAnother way might be flattery. \"Hey, you know your stuff, can I ask you a basic question. It's so basic, but I definitely feel like you'd definitely know it.\"\n\nThe big thing is you can't control how others react. You can't really control how you feel either. But you can control how you choose to take things in and what you choose to take in. And you are absolutely in control of what you do because of what just happened. Think of it like talking to an NPC in a video game. You have options on what you can say. You don't have to mash A and take the first response every time, which would be your instantaneous reaction. But if you take a moment to choose how to react, you have choices. You can maybe make a little joke or tell them how you feel or even just thank them for their time and walk away and find someone willing to help you.", "The key is to ask actual questions in return!\n\n\"Are you asking the question to learn, or asking to make me feel stupid?\" What they are doing is called an ad hominem attack.\n\nIf they want to actually know how you passed, then answer them. But I can nearly assure you they are not asking to learn \\[how you passed\\].", "Tbh, why keep these people as friends? They're replaceable. Absolutely, completely. Find a friend who doesn't belittle you or your intelligence, surround yourself with people who build you up.", "Take out your phone and ask her if you can take a selfie with her to commemorate the time you let her get away with being a bitch to you, because it's a once in a lifetime event.", "Sounds aspie. She might be clueless about it. \n\nIf she's aspergers, be literal.\n\n\"oh, you didn't mean to be hurtful did you?\"\n\nI've had a few friends like this and one had a hard time reconciling that medical professionals thought she had poor empathy. Broke her heart and made her feel like a freak. Ironic, I know. \n\nShe'd be embarrassed and upset that she said something hurtful to a friend, but if you accepted that she didn't mean it, it would quickly pass.\n\nEveryone is different.", "Someone once told me this: \"There's nothing wrong with not knowing. It would be more wrong not wanting to know.\" I really liked that and now use it if someone makes me feel dumb for asking something I don't know.", "Smart people ask questions because they realize their limitations. \nUnintelligent people don't question because they don't know what they don't know", "Smart assholes hide they’re assholes. Letting everyone know so easily how much she enjoys hurting others it’s a special and profound kind of imbecility.\n\nMy LPT however is ignore it. She’s enjoying your humiliation when she behaves like that. Everyone forgets things. Just yawn. She’s not saying or doing anything worthwhile.", "Perhaps consider how good a \"friend\" this person is? If you can tell them in a reasonable way how that comment made you feel, and they deny your feelings / refuse to apologize, etc, recommend you look at who that person really is.", "No question is stupid if you don’t know the answer. It’s more stupid not to ask.\n\nIt may turn out that you didn’t realise you knew the answer, but that’s just the way it goes sometimes. At least you had the braves to ask.\n\nSometimes you don’t know. Sometimes you just hadn’t got to the answer yet. Sometimes you just needed helping with connecting the bits, that you already knew and had never tied together that way before.\n\nIt’s all good.", "Never stop asking questions. I spend every day around people that are scary smart, and this is the one trait that they all share.", "My response always : \nI don't keep the information, I don't see necessary actively in my memory. But I assumed you do. I can google it if you don't remember as well.", "Match her sarcasm by asking more dumb question and end your sentences with .... I dont know how I got through my life", "Just stare at them with an RBF (Resting Bitch Face) or a completely blank and unexpressive face and then go back to whatever you were doing.", "Just ask “did someone drop you on your head as a child?” if they say no then say “yeah… they probably wouldn’t tell you”.\n\nEssentially just keep saying things that equate to “what is wrong with you” because clearly something is wrong with them and it’ll get under their skin.", "I’ve met people like this but I don’t have any doubt about how smart I am so it really doesn’t bother me. I would just maybe look at them and ignore it like they just made a dumb comment, which they did. Or you can play it off with a joke like you bribed the teachers with cash. Deep down you shouldn’t let it bother you, because asking is the right thing to do when you don’t know.", "I’m petty. I like to make them feel dumb for trying to make me feel dumb. Give the same energy back to make them realize their actions. I would have replied “I don’t know, same as you I guess.”", "It's not your mistake, it's theirs.\n\nIt's completely up to you if you want to pick up where their parents apparently left off teaching them social skills or simply find better people to spend time with. Life is short.", "In that scenario I would either be blunt and say something like “Fuck me, are you going to help or just sit there continuing to chat shit?”\n\nOr you could also pull an uno reverse card and say something like “Ok, you obviously don’t know the answer either, which is why you’re not helping” - this puts pressure on them to prove that they know and they will help you just to keep their own image intact.", "If you’re in a group setting, ask them loudly to repeat themselves. Their either going to realize what they said was rude, or double down and say it again. If you advocate for yourself in either situation, you establish boundaries with them and the group on how they can treat you.\n\nIf it’s in a solo setting. Call them out. It’s far worse to not ask a question and assume than it is to feel slightly foolish. Imagine if you had two heart surgeons. One who’s willing to ask questions. And another who’s doesn’t because of pride. I’d surely trust the first more.", "If you are in a group setting often times the best way to respond to a rude or snarky comment is to pretend like you didn't hear them and ask then to repeat themselves. This works so well because if the comment was an attempt at humor it will be lost because of the timing and they will just seem like a total asshole in front of everyone. Also your asking them to repeat themselves will never be construed as rude or impolite as you pretend to just not have heard them. Then you can just respond to the comment seriously ex. 'Yes I completed primary school.' Just dead faced. The best response to sarcasm that you don't enjoy is just to respond to it as if you don't get it.", "I would just say ok, then not ask her anymore questions. She either doesn’t know or is a jerk. Don’t waste time or effort on this person. Sometimes the pro tip is to let jerks be jerks and move on with your own life. If someone is saying this to a question they are not your friend and are probably not a happy person.", "Had a similar experience during an interview. Was asking clarification questions on the technical part of the interview and he told me a kindergartner could’ve figured that out.", "Every top reply here is gonna start drama lmao.\n\nAgree/compliment people if you're not upset about the topic. Act half serious if that's your personality.\n\n\"I knowwww I don't know how I passed\"\n\"That's why I'm asking you? Cause you know the answer\"\n\nYou don't wanna go to war with everyone or it'll never end.", "Every one is a idiot in someone else's view. There is nothing wrong with not remembering things. Maybe you haven't felt the need to remember it, maybe she just came across that some days before. \nThe problem lies with her/him. By putting you down she/he is trying to convince herself that she/he knows more than you. But somewhere deep down she/he knows he is not that smart. The next time she pulls out something like this, just tell her there are other ways to feel good about yourself.", "Id be very condescending. \" Oh my god, I asked a question so I could find out an answer..how fucking crazy\"", "Honestly, just reply, “That’s rude.”\n\nEither they correct themselves, or chastise you again for asking a dumb question (which is digging them into a deeper hole). From here, if they chastise you, stay silent and let them hear how rude they sound (since they’ll be paying attention this time).\n\nIf they’re a nice person with a flaw, usually this sort of interaction works.", "Get a better friend. I may poke fun, but I’m not going to be hateful about it. \n\nOr there’s always “oh, you don’t remember either? I’ll ask around”", ">So I was asking a question related to studies to a friend, and she was like, \"how did you even pass the previous grade? \"\n\nBy asking questions when I didn't know something, because that's how learning works.", "\"I hope it feels good...\n\n...I hope it feels so good to point out the shortcomings of others.\" \n\nThat Little gem from Clerks\n\nLike beating children at monopoly... and cheating." ]	[ 6905, 4604, 2719, 2407, 480, 445, 427, 242, 136, 88, 75, 64, 44, 43, 38, 33, 32, 30, 29, 28, 27, 20, 17, 11, 11, 10, 8, 8, 8, 7, 7, 6, 6, 6, 5, 4, 4, 4, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to enjoy movies that use computers/technology to figure stuff out when you know it's 100% impossible ", "How to enjoy movies that use computers/technology to figure stuff out when you know it's 100% impossible " ]	[ "Just ignore it? Suspension of disbelief? Imagine the movie takes place in a world where it is possible?", "tell yourself it is a shorter representation of a longer process through the viewpoint of an onlooker who does not understand what is actually happening" ]	[ 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to pull up a zipper in the back of a suit, dress, costume when you are alone? All my google searches just bring me to products or irrelevant links and reddit hasn't helped either. Any help is appreciated.", "How to pull up a zipper in the back of a suit, dress, costume when you are alone? All my google searches just bring me to products or irrelevant links and reddit hasn't helped either. Any help is appreciated.", "How to pull up a zipper in the back of a suit, dress, costume when you are alone? All my google searches just bring me to products or irrelevant links and reddit hasn't helped either. Any help is appreciated." ]	[ "Take a thin piece of string and put one end through the zipper, grab both ends and pull up. The let go of one end and pull the other.", "dental floss tied to the zipper, it'll let you pull up, then yank a little harder when it's done and the floss will snap off.", "Pull your arms in\nReverse clothing so zipper is in front\nZip up\nPull arms back in and rotate clothing back the right way" ]	[ 10, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to have a better day at work. I'm lucky enough not to hate my job but I still I could enjoy week days more than I do. Any tips for squeezing a bit of joy out of an ordinary working day?", "How to have a better day at work. I'm lucky enough not to hate my job but I still I could enjoy week days more than I do. Any tips for squeezing a bit of joy out of an ordinary working day?", "How to have a better day at work. I'm lucky enough not to hate my job but I still I could enjoy week days more than I do. Any tips for squeezing a bit of joy out of an ordinary working day?", "How to have a better day at work. I'm lucky enough not to hate my job but I still I could enjoy week days more than I do. Any tips for squeezing a bit of joy out of an ordinary working day?", "How to have a better day at work. I'm lucky enough not to hate my job but I still I could enjoy week days more than I do. Any tips for squeezing a bit of joy out of an ordinary working day?", "How to have a better day at work. I'm lucky enough not to hate my job but I still I could enjoy week days more than I do. Any tips for squeezing a bit of joy out of an ordinary working day?", "How to have a better day at work. I'm lucky enough not to hate my job but I still I could enjoy week days more than I do. Any tips for squeezing a bit of joy out of an ordinary working day?", "How to have a better day at work. I'm lucky enough not to hate my job but I still I could enjoy week days more than I do. Any tips for squeezing a bit of joy out of an ordinary working day?", "How to have a better day at work. I'm lucky enough not to hate my job but I still I could enjoy week days more than I do. Any tips for squeezing a bit of joy out of an ordinary working day?", "How to have a better day at work. I'm lucky enough not to hate my job but I still I could enjoy week days more than I do. Any tips for squeezing a bit of joy out of an ordinary working day?", "How to have a better day at work. I'm lucky enough not to hate my job but I still I could enjoy week days more than I do. Any tips for squeezing a bit of joy out of an ordinary working day?", "How to have a better day at work. I'm lucky enough not to hate my job but I still I could enjoy week days more than I do. Any tips for squeezing a bit of joy out of an ordinary working day?", "How to have a better day at work. I'm lucky enough not to hate my job but I still I could enjoy week days more than I do. Any tips for squeezing a bit of joy out of an ordinary working day?", "How to have a better day at work. I'm lucky enough not to hate my job but I still I could enjoy week days more than I do. Any tips for squeezing a bit of joy out of an ordinary working day?", "How to have a better day at work. I'm lucky enough not to hate my job but I still I could enjoy week days more than I do. Any tips for squeezing a bit of joy out of an ordinary working day?" ]	[ "I keep a notebook with me and make a list of everything positive that's happened in my day so far. When you read it over and have everything listed in front of you, it puts the positive parts of your day into perspective. ", "Make a small list of achievable tasks you want to complete each day and write them down. As you work through that list cross of the items. Not only is it rewarding accomplishing tasks its very satisfying crossing off items on your list. \n\nThis helps you feel more productive. Feeling more productive leads to a feeling of accomplishment which will make you happier about work. ", "Correcting your mind works wonders. If your internal dialog repeats all day long how much you hate work and how long the day is, you will hate work and your day will seem longer. \n\nIf you take proactive steps to put the kibash on your negative thoughts, and replace them with positive, your mind will change and your outlook on work will improve dramatically.", "Music does wonders. Also, making your work environment as comfortable will help, as will taking breaks every 1-2 hrs. ", "Actively smiling. Smiling tells your brain you are happy. And be actively happy by being thankful for the ability to do your job, that you don't hate it and that you are healthy and sane! I've come to find that no matter what you do, as long as you do it willingly and with a smile you not only improve your life, but others as well.", "Can I suggest getting a plant for your desk? Cactus or an orchid are nice! I have one of my desk, no idea what it is actually, but it cheers me up because it was something from home. If you're able to, set your desktop background to a photograph of a happy memory or a calming landscape one. \n\nTry to get for five to ten minutes for some fresh air (hopefully not smoking) just to clear your head.\n\nRemember you work to live not live to work :) ", "Look at the clock as little possible. When you do, think of the time positively. For a 9-6 workday with an hour lunch, you can divide your day into two halves punctuated by lunch.\n\n9 AM: You should have enough daily things and/or new tasks to get you through at least an hour.. if not, maybe consider what you could be doing instead? Just don't even look at the clock. \n10 AM: Man, I've been here for an hour already? Wow. \n11 AM: Halfway to lunch! \n12 PM: I'm cruisin', just an hour more for lunch. \n1 PM: Lunch! \n2 PM: That was great, let's pick up where we left off. \n3 PM: Time sure is flying, only 3 more hours. \n4 PM: Sometimes a lull here, just grind through it. \n5 PM: The final hour! \n6 PM: Finish things up and we're homeward bound.\n\nIf you come in with the mindset of \"ughh I wanna go home\" and \"6 more hours... kill me\" then it's going to be a long day. It's all in the attitude. I learned this back in high school and it has consistently helped with my perception of time.", "1. Instead of thinking that it is work, think of it as helping others.\n\n2. A full time job (for most in America) is a forty hour week. That's than two days out of seven, it's less than all the hours of a weekend. \n\n3. Having work to do is better than not having work when you need pay the bills. \n\n", "If you are in a job that requires a lot of contact with people: smile a lot. I feel that even if I'm not happy, smiling and acting (overly) happy tends to brighten my mood.\n", "I think you all know this since.. well you are probably doing it right now!\n\n1- Read all the things!! on reddit :)\n\n2- Do not watch the clock.. just dont. ", "I recently got a beta fish for my desk. I like him. He seems happy enough. I recommend it.\n\nAlso, wake up well before you have to leave for work and do something semi productive. Really helps you start off the day in a good mood which affects the whole day.", "I find joy out of being the best. I want my superiors to value and like me more than the other workers. So I work extra hard in every small task that I do. Not only do I find more pleasure and pride in my work, but my superiors' approval and acknowledgement makes it better (and can be rewarding in and of itself)", "Put a bright 100 watt Incandescent bulb in a lamp on your desk and use it for reading. \nmake sure the socket is rated for 100 watts, if not then try to find a lamp that is or you'll have to use a much less powerful 60 watt bulb.\n\nI don't feel like posting it again but see my first or second post at the very bottom of the page. \n\nFluorescent light makes it very hard to read. Smaller print is already hard to read and fluorescent light causes me a strange slow gradual shift in focus when I'm reading. It's very subtle but annoying to have to stop find my place on the page again. ", "Not a joke: take a short walk outside and get away from fluorescent lights!\n\nGo from [this](http://www.designingwithleds.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/Warm-hall-light_600.jpg) to a much better light source often called [the sun](http://1-ps.googleusercontent.com/hk/qBw3YkfhNRMORnkPylCDd9Bbj2/www.designingwithleds.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/580x294xNoon-Sunlight-600x305.jpg.pagespeed.ic.cuAcIoC2271SKz9hgFbO.jpg)", "Look out the window at nature, go talk to co-workers about sports or their kids, enjoy a cup of tea or coffee, put in the buds and listen to music, light a candle." ]	[ 28, 26, 20, 12, 10, 9, 7, 7, 4, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "how to remove rust from inside toilet bowl I moved into a new house, both toilets have rust on the inside of the bowl. I am not talking about a discoloration, but actual raised rust. I have tried all the toilet cleaners, baking soda, using a loofa bar, using rust cleaner, the rust will not come off!", "how to remove rust from inside toilet bowl I moved into a new house, both toilets have rust on the inside of the bowl. I am not talking about a discoloration, but actual raised rust. I have tried all the toilet cleaners, baking soda, using a loofa bar, using rust cleaner, the rust will not come off!", "how to remove rust from inside toilet bowl I moved into a new house, both toilets have rust on the inside of the bowl. I am not talking about a discoloration, but actual raised rust. I have tried all the toilet cleaners, baking soda, using a loofa bar, using rust cleaner, the rust will not come off!", "how to remove rust from inside toilet bowl I moved into a new house, both toilets have rust on the inside of the bowl. I am not talking about a discoloration, but actual raised rust. I have tried all the toilet cleaners, baking soda, using a loofa bar, using rust cleaner, the rust will not come off!", "how to remove rust from inside toilet bowl I moved into a new house, both toilets have rust on the inside of the bowl. I am not talking about a discoloration, but actual raised rust. I have tried all the toilet cleaners, baking soda, using a loofa bar, using rust cleaner, the rust will not come off!", "how to remove rust from inside toilet bowl I moved into a new house, both toilets have rust on the inside of the bowl. I am not talking about a discoloration, but actual raised rust. I have tried all the toilet cleaners, baking soda, using a loofa bar, using rust cleaner, the rust will not come off!" ]	[ "Look for a product called CLR (removes Calcium Lime and Rust).\n\nWorks on everything including rusty car bumpers.\n\nTake care.\n", "http://www.amazon.com/Lysol-Deep-Reach-Toilet-Cleaner/dp/B0012H70GM\n\nI've used this and it works really well. I put some in the toilet before I got to sleep and by morning, I can easily scrub away the nasty bits hanging around.\n\nBut don't buy it from Amazon. That shit is crazy expensive. I used the link to show you what it looks like.", "Get some muriatic acid (HCl) like they use to etch concrete. They sell it at Home Depot and the like. ", "Comet, the kind in the green can in powered form, and a toilet brush worked the best for me when I had that same problem. ", "If it's that bad, use muriatic acid, get it at any hardware store. It's pretty intense stuff though, only use it on serious cases.\n\nhttp://www.ehow.com/how_6699008_using-muriatic-acid-clean-toilets.html\n", "I used a cleanser called \"Zud\" that I got on Amazon.\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000VP9CUS/ref=oh_details_o01_s01_i00\n\nIt worked fast and really well." ]	[ 12, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Improving a dusty room My room is super dusty and dry(new furniture covered in dust after 3 days of not dusting) and I’m not sure why or how to improve it. Any LPTs appreciated! ", "Improving a dusty room My room is super dusty and dry(new furniture covered in dust after 3 days of not dusting) and I’m not sure why or how to improve it. Any LPTs appreciated! ", "Improving a dusty room My room is super dusty and dry(new furniture covered in dust after 3 days of not dusting) and I’m not sure why or how to improve it. Any LPTs appreciated! ", "Improving a dusty room My room is super dusty and dry(new furniture covered in dust after 3 days of not dusting) and I’m not sure why or how to improve it. Any LPTs appreciated! ", "Improving a dusty room My room is super dusty and dry(new furniture covered in dust after 3 days of not dusting) and I’m not sure why or how to improve it. Any LPTs appreciated! " ]	[ "There’s different types of pledges , multisurface , dust and allergen , maybe some more that will help with this ", "Check your air filter. Whenever my house starts getting dusty a lot of times it is time to change the air filter. \nYou also mentioned it being dry, have you ever tried a humidifier? That might help with the dryness factor.", "Your apartment should have an air inlet somewhere. There should be a designated spot for the air filter. If you cannot find it I would ask your landlord. That much dust is unhealthy to breath in.", "Often the problem is with a humidifier. Using hard water in a humidifier can create a fine dust that coats everything.\n", "Check your air filter. \nVacuum vents\nAvoid vacuum powder. It tripled dust, and is very hard in the motor. \n\n" ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to be more memorable to others? Whether it be to a new group of friends, work associates, or even people you interact with day to day, how do you make yourself more memorable to those other people? I find myself not leaving a lasting impression on others, and in the case of work, I am often an afterthought for inclusion in certain spaces.", "How to be more memorable to others? Whether it be to a new group of friends, work associates, or even people you interact with day to day, how do you make yourself more memorable to those other people? I find myself not leaving a lasting impression on others, and in the case of work, I am often an afterthought for inclusion in certain spaces.", "How to be more memorable to others? Whether it be to a new group of friends, work associates, or even people you interact with day to day, how do you make yourself more memorable to those other people? I find myself not leaving a lasting impression on others, and in the case of work, I am often an afterthought for inclusion in certain spaces.", "How to be more memorable to others? Whether it be to a new group of friends, work associates, or even people you interact with day to day, how do you make yourself more memorable to those other people? I find myself not leaving a lasting impression on others, and in the case of work, I am often an afterthought for inclusion in certain spaces.", "How to be more memorable to others? Whether it be to a new group of friends, work associates, or even people you interact with day to day, how do you make yourself more memorable to those other people? I find myself not leaving a lasting impression on others, and in the case of work, I am often an afterthought for inclusion in certain spaces.", "How to be more memorable to others? Whether it be to a new group of friends, work associates, or even people you interact with day to day, how do you make yourself more memorable to those other people? I find myself not leaving a lasting impression on others, and in the case of work, I am often an afterthought for inclusion in certain spaces.", "How to be more memorable to others? Whether it be to a new group of friends, work associates, or even people you interact with day to day, how do you make yourself more memorable to those other people? I find myself not leaving a lasting impression on others, and in the case of work, I am often an afterthought for inclusion in certain spaces.", "How to be more memorable to others? Whether it be to a new group of friends, work associates, or even people you interact with day to day, how do you make yourself more memorable to those other people? I find myself not leaving a lasting impression on others, and in the case of work, I am often an afterthought for inclusion in certain spaces." ]	[ "Well, I think this would be like a job interview. How do you differentiate from the next candidate? So in social context, how are you any different or more special compared to the next? \n\n1. Try to focus on detail. \nDid you remember they had a dog that was sick last time you spoke? How is that dog doing now? How's your daughter doing at school? How is your wife finding her new car? Have you traveled much?\n\n2. Compliment. \nEveryone lurves being complimented. Don't go into flattering-mode. Say simple things to start off with. Oh, that's a lovely dress you have on. I like your handwriting. I enjoy our discussions on blah. You always see the best in people.\n\n3. Compliment on people to others. \nJust imagine, you're talking to someone and they say: Hey, Dave just mentioned you are fantastic at blah\". Now be Dave. Tell people how lovely Mary is with the children. How brave Sarah was when she was involved in the car accident. How efficient Jackson was when the deadline was looming.\n\nJust a few things to get you started. I also recommend observing people. Especially people you admire. Why are they so likeable? What specific aspects do you admire them? Perhaps these are the reasons to be leave an impression.\n\nGood luck :)", "This is something I'm also working on and in my journey I've learned that putting others' needs before my own with enthusiasm can leave a lasting impression on others. This doesn't mean being a push-over, but it does require a new mental frame work: as most people think only about themselves at any given moment during a day. ", "“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” \n― Maya Angelou", "Set yourself on fire. I guarantee that no one will ever forget that person who set themselves on fire right in front of them.", "Being of an older generation I have found, over the last 10+ years that people don't look me in the eye when interacting. I find it disconcerting that so few people actually make eye contact. You don't have to have a stare-down but when speaking/interacting with others make eye contact, address them by name. I have found this to make an even greater impression on women. Maybe it's that they know that you're not \"checking them out\" (or staring at their boobs) and are fully engaged and listening. ", "Another book recommendation: Made To Stick by Chip & Dan Heath\n\nThis book basically asks, \"What makes anything truly memorable?\", and boils down the answer to 6 general principles, with clear explanations and examples concerning how they can be applied.", "Try farting frequently and loudly when with them. Then giggle and apologize at length after each fart. They will remember you.", "Have a trademark thing. Always wear a flower in your hair. Always wear a bow-tie. Something like that." ]	[ 15, 5, 3, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to Relieve Head and Ear Pressure due to a Cold What is the best and fastest way to relieve head and ear pressure/congestion. I've tried taking Sudafed, drinking lots of water, and taking a shower. This doesn't work.", "How to Relieve Head and Ear Pressure due to a Cold What is the best and fastest way to relieve head and ear pressure/congestion. I've tried taking Sudafed, drinking lots of water, and taking a shower. This doesn't work.", "How to Relieve Head and Ear Pressure due to a Cold What is the best and fastest way to relieve head and ear pressure/congestion. I've tried taking Sudafed, drinking lots of water, and taking a shower. This doesn't work.", "How to Relieve Head and Ear Pressure due to a Cold What is the best and fastest way to relieve head and ear pressure/congestion. I've tried taking Sudafed, drinking lots of water, and taking a shower. This doesn't work.", "How to Relieve Head and Ear Pressure due to a Cold What is the best and fastest way to relieve head and ear pressure/congestion. I've tried taking Sudafed, drinking lots of water, and taking a shower. This doesn't work.", "How to Relieve Head and Ear Pressure due to a Cold What is the best and fastest way to relieve head and ear pressure/congestion. I've tried taking Sudafed, drinking lots of water, and taking a shower. This doesn't work.", "How to Relieve Head and Ear Pressure due to a Cold What is the best and fastest way to relieve head and ear pressure/congestion. I've tried taking Sudafed, drinking lots of water, and taking a shower. This doesn't work." ]	[ "hold nose shut with fingers. Then try to blow though nose. This might equalize the pressure in your head. - it works for scuba diving", "Try alternating hot and cold wash cloths to the part of your face that feels stuffed up. Also, Vicks inhalers are great, but short term.", "Mentholatum something. There are menthol tablets you can get at the drugstore for the shower. Vicks is a menthol-based product. Many things contain eucalyptus oil. Take some thing menthol (even a glob of vicks) and place in cup of hot water, like making a cup of tea. Hold up close to your face and breathe into the cup. That will force the steam up your nose. Another trick if you can manage it - wasabi peas or paste. Your sinuses will be streaming in seconds. \n", "I might don't get the question because of my bad English.... And I might say it wrong. But..... What I do is that I close my nose and try to blow air through the nose. In 99% it works. Ears are not \"stuck\" anymore.... Not sure if its healthy though. ", "I would first suggest that you take the time to find out what the cause of the head and ear pressure/congestion is before attacking it with just any remedy under the sun. Depending on what the cause is some things just won't work at all and some may be overkill. I suffer from both indoor and outdoor allergies as well as a mild allergy to flour products that congest me up something awful.I currently have a daily regimen of flonase nasal spray and allegra D 12 hour. This combo seems to work for me. You also want to see a doctor to check out your ears for excessive ear wax build up it can have a tendency to clog up your plumbing in your head and eventually lead to the head and ear pressure. I currently see the neti pot idea as the first comment and if you can take it then it should help but make sure to use DISTILLED WATER and not tap water in it as this can lead to possible parasitic infection from tap water use. Well thats my story hope you find relief it took me years to find out what works for me.", "First thing in the morning when you get up, take you cold meds. Then take a very hot shower to clear out your blocked sinuses. By the time the shower is done, the meds will kick in. Also, drink sports drinks when you are sick.", "Do you know that by making that happen you actually cause the cold to last longer?\n\nAll the symptoms of a cold are caused by your own body in defense, it blocks your sinuses to halt the virus, so by undoing that you're causing more harm\n\nCase in point after I learned this this year, my colds usually last 4 days with medicine, learning this I specifically used no medicine at all to test it... went in 2 days" ]	[ 5, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, -3 ]	safe
[ "How to Properly Microwave Pizza It seems whenever I try and reheat my pizza in the microwave at work, it's either ice cold in the middle and scolding on the ends, or cheese lava spilling onto a paper plate. Help plz. Oven is out of the question.", "How to Properly Microwave Pizza It seems whenever I try and reheat my pizza in the microwave at work, it's either ice cold in the middle and scolding on the ends, or cheese lava spilling onto a paper plate. Help plz. Oven is out of the question." ]	[ "Here’s how to do it:\n1. Make sure the microwave is clean\n2. Place pizza on a paper plate, not a palate towel\n3. Take a paper-towel or 2 and run hot water on them. Wrong them out so there is no excess water but still wet\n4. Place next to the pizza but not on the plate itself.\n5. Cook for a minute and a half for thick cut and 60 seconds for thin crust.\nNOW THE MOST IMPORTANT PART\n6. Once the reheating is done you have to leave the pizza in the microwave for how ever long it reheated for but with an additional 45 seconds. \nLearned this when I first moved out and became a pro at make Red Baron Pizzas Bearable. ", "It the microwave has a pizza setting, try it as some microwaves vary the strength so the pizza cooks evenly. Or halfway through cooking, before the cheese has melted, cut up the pizza and rotate each slice 180 degrees so the tips (the middle of the pizza) are pointing out. Finish cooking" ]	[ 8, 1 ]	safe
[ "How should one cope if the small, isolated town you live in is very highly racist and you are unable to relocate? ", "How should one cope if the small, isolated town you live in is very highly racist and you are unable to relocate? ", "How should one cope if the small, isolated town you live in is very highly racist and you are unable to relocate? ", "How should one cope if the small, isolated town you live in is very highly racist and you are unable to relocate? ", "How should one cope if the small, isolated town you live in is very highly racist and you are unable to relocate? ", "How should one cope if the small, isolated town you live in is very highly racist and you are unable to relocate? ", "How should one cope if the small, isolated town you live in is very highly racist and you are unable to relocate? ", "How should one cope if the small, isolated town you live in is very highly racist and you are unable to relocate? " ]	[ "This comment has been overwritten by an open source script to protect this user's privacy. \n\n If you would like to do the same, add the browser extension [GreaseMonkey](https://addons.mozilla.org/en-us/firefox/addon/greasemonkey/) to Firefox and add [this open source script](https://greasyfork.org/en/scripts/10380-reddit-overwrite). \n\n Then simply click on your username on Reddit, go to the comments tab, and hit the new OVERWRITE button at the top.", "Relocate. It'll be hard, especially at first, but life will be infinitely easier when you find somewhere where you'll be accepted for who you are. Start planning for your escape ASAP (especially considering the state of racial tensions these days).\n\nThe other option is to wait for people to magically start looking past their prejudices, which, let's face it, ain't gon' happen.", "Not the exact same situation but I'm black and grew up in the south. My parents both started their own businesses which helped to avoid the white workforce. Not an option for everyone but if there is some way to side step (eg working at home) maybe try to take advantage of it. There were never many black kids for me to be friends with but I found that I often had other friends who weren't white, Lebanese, Indian, Sudanese, etc. if there are other people of color in town, even if you're scattered, finding a way to socialize with them may alleviate some of the isolation. ", "Most people aren't as bold when they're on their own. Try to keep interactions with racist or otherwise offensive people to 1 on 1.", "I have a hard time dealing with this as well. Im white so people think its ok to say racist shit around me. I hear people call Obama a nigger on a daily bases while they all talk about how great Trump is. It drives me crazy. I have told my coworkers they need to knock it the fuck off but it still keeps happening. I know only three smart people in this entire town and all the rest are ignorant racist rednecks. The sad thing is they all think I am \"shaming my race\" by not agreeing with them. Its fucking disgusting. These people cant be reasoned with and ignoring them is not an option. I dont know what to do about it. ", "Are you the race people are racist about? If so, I have no advice. If not, educate people about what they hate. Sometimes people don't really know why they hate something.", "This sux, but simply refuse to have anything to do with anyone. I certainly don't associate with my neighbors, ever or under any circumstances. It's lonely but you don't have to out up with that shit.", "Even if you can't relocate right now, I would still put feelers out. You never know when an opportunity might come up in a better area, and it's better to have a list of potential options than no plan at all. " ]	[ 12, 6, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to not dwell on the past. This has easily been my biggest struggle in life and I've been trying desperately to get past it, but for some reason it's just impossible. My best success so far is to think about quotes that relate to this like, \"don't trip over things that are behind you\" but it only takes me so far.", "How to not dwell on the past. This has easily been my biggest struggle in life and I've been trying desperately to get past it, but for some reason it's just impossible. My best success so far is to think about quotes that relate to this like, \"don't trip over things that are behind you\" but it only takes me so far.", "How to not dwell on the past. This has easily been my biggest struggle in life and I've been trying desperately to get past it, but for some reason it's just impossible. My best success so far is to think about quotes that relate to this like, \"don't trip over things that are behind you\" but it only takes me so far.", "How to not dwell on the past. This has easily been my biggest struggle in life and I've been trying desperately to get past it, but for some reason it's just impossible. My best success so far is to think about quotes that relate to this like, \"don't trip over things that are behind you\" but it only takes me so far.", "How to not dwell on the past. This has easily been my biggest struggle in life and I've been trying desperately to get past it, but for some reason it's just impossible. My best success so far is to think about quotes that relate to this like, \"don't trip over things that are behind you\" but it only takes me so far.", "How to not dwell on the past. This has easily been my biggest struggle in life and I've been trying desperately to get past it, but for some reason it's just impossible. My best success so far is to think about quotes that relate to this like, \"don't trip over things that are behind you\" but it only takes me so far.", "How to not dwell on the past. This has easily been my biggest struggle in life and I've been trying desperately to get past it, but for some reason it's just impossible. My best success so far is to think about quotes that relate to this like, \"don't trip over things that are behind you\" but it only takes me so far.", "How to not dwell on the past. This has easily been my biggest struggle in life and I've been trying desperately to get past it, but for some reason it's just impossible. My best success so far is to think about quotes that relate to this like, \"don't trip over things that are behind you\" but it only takes me so far.", "How to not dwell on the past. This has easily been my biggest struggle in life and I've been trying desperately to get past it, but for some reason it's just impossible. My best success so far is to think about quotes that relate to this like, \"don't trip over things that are behind you\" but it only takes me so far.", "How to not dwell on the past. This has easily been my biggest struggle in life and I've been trying desperately to get past it, but for some reason it's just impossible. My best success so far is to think about quotes that relate to this like, \"don't trip over things that are behind you\" but it only takes me so far." ]	[ "forgive yourself dude. Everytime you come across a thought, respond with \"I forgive you\" and eventually, you'll start to listen to yourself. \n\nit works for you, and it works for other people. You forgive others so you can walk in pwace, man, because you deserve peace. not necessarily because they deserve to be forgiven. \n\nAlso, forgiving a person who has wronged you is not the same thing as placing them back into a position in your life where they can wrong you again. don't set yourself up for repeated abuse. ", "I heard or read somewhere that your eyes are in front because its not worth looking back at life ... Or something like that.\n\nMy dad was, probably is still a wife beater, I don't really know cause he left my family when I was 13. I use it to tell myself how not to be in life.\n\n\nOnce I stole money from my uncles shop and nobody really knows about it. I put it back the next week cause I was guilt tripping like crazy. I could of raked in alot of cash buy I didn't want to mess up his business and his life.\n\n\nWe all make mistakes in life or mistakes are done unto us. The best we can do is to turn that bad memory into something meaningful in the future. Best way to start is to go to bed or wake up the next morning telling yourself how you are going to be better than the previous day.\n\n\nThrough my mistakes I have the best daughter in the world and I make a decent income to provide, not steal, from my family. Jeez I was stupid to contemplate stealing in my life. But that's life for ya!!!", "What are your reasons for dwelling on the past? Would you consider it the \"Best Times\" or \"Worst Times\"? My answer to both is naturally to REPLACE or SUPPLANT them with better upgraded memories, so that you can seek even more positive experiences to diminish the past. Eventually if you do this long enough, you would outgrow the need to look at the past and worry about the present and future.", "There are some really good tips on here, but here's one more! Try to reason with yourself as to why you should stop caring. The easiest way to do that is to just talk to yourself and verbally express it. Show off all your emotions to yourself and make sure there is no other feelings left bottled inside. The main thing to keep in mind is that you aren't convincing yourself to forget it, rather learning to accept that it is in the past and you wish to use it as an experience to learn from. ", "There are a couple quotes that I'll repeat to myself when things go bad. \n\n\"Nothing is permanent\"\nThis is the most important one and its absolutely true. The only constant thing in the entire universe is that it will change. Nothing stays the same. Not your age, your job, your relationship, your home, or even your life. This rough patch you're going through is only temporary. There are better days to come. \n\n\"What if it was a gift\"\nGot this one from someone else. Your girlfriend breaks up with you? What if it was a gift? You lost your job? What if it was gift? Your dog ran away and was hit by a car? What if your time with your dog was a gift?", "Same here.. Hopefully someone posts some good advice otherwise I feel like this is just hard wired in my personality which sucks.", "I never lose. I either win or I learn. \n\nDon't ruin a great today by remembering a bad yesterday. \n\nWrite the bad memory down. Not type, write. Then post it anonymously on Craigslist for all to read. ", "I don't know who said it but this is one of my favorite quotes:\n\"No amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of anxiety will change the future.\"\nOur something like that.", "A lot of people will tell you to look 'forward' but to expand on that I would say envision a future for yourself that eclipses everything from your past or do something immersive and distracting e.g. run a marathon, focus on your career, read a lot of books, maybe even learn fun skills like drink mixing.", "Talk about it until you're blue in the face. Until the story takes on a different meaning. Until it no longer weighs you down. " ]	[ 10, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to quickly know which curtain rope is for opening/closing? I open my window and door blinds every single day... and I guess it right about 40% of the time... it is very annoying. I'm sure I'm not the only one stuck with this annoyance... What do you guys do?", "How to quickly know which curtain rope is for opening/closing? I open my window and door blinds every single day... and I guess it right about 40% of the time... it is very annoying. I'm sure I'm not the only one stuck with this annoyance... What do you guys do?", "How to quickly know which curtain rope is for opening/closing? I open my window and door blinds every single day... and I guess it right about 40% of the time... it is very annoying. I'm sure I'm not the only one stuck with this annoyance... What do you guys do?", "How to quickly know which curtain rope is for opening/closing? I open my window and door blinds every single day... and I guess it right about 40% of the time... it is very annoying. I'm sure I'm not the only one stuck with this annoyance... What do you guys do?", "How to quickly know which curtain rope is for opening/closing? I open my window and door blinds every single day... and I guess it right about 40% of the time... it is very annoying. I'm sure I'm not the only one stuck with this annoyance... What do you guys do?", "How to quickly know which curtain rope is for opening/closing? I open my window and door blinds every single day... and I guess it right about 40% of the time... it is very annoying. I'm sure I'm not the only one stuck with this annoyance... What do you guys do?", "How to quickly know which curtain rope is for opening/closing? I open my window and door blinds every single day... and I guess it right about 40% of the time... it is very annoying. I'm sure I'm not the only one stuck with this annoyance... What do you guys do?", "How to quickly know which curtain rope is for opening/closing? I open my window and door blinds every single day... and I guess it right about 40% of the time... it is very annoying. I'm sure I'm not the only one stuck with this annoyance... What do you guys do?", "How to quickly know which curtain rope is for opening/closing? I open my window and door blinds every single day... and I guess it right about 40% of the time... it is very annoying. I'm sure I'm not the only one stuck with this annoyance... What do you guys do?" ]	[ "I try one, and if it isn't right I pull the other one. Works every time.\n\nI think maybe you are just too easily annoyed.", "I saw a pretty good solution to a similar problem with ceiling fans. The end of the strings (small metal pieces) had a picture of a fan or a light on them respectively.", "I prefer to wrap one of them in a single width of electrical tape or, if that's too obvious, then draw a single line around it with a Sharpie. Works nicely because it goes all the way around so you can see it regardless.", "Assistant Stage Manager here: I know we're all supposed to see in the dark, but I use glow tape just in case I can't see where the tape is. Or I'll just feel for which one has the tape. Mine has the closing side close to the wall, so I just sit there until it's closing time and I grab the closest one. Hopefully my theatre experience helps you with your curtains haha.", "For my blinds, the strings dangle halfway between the top and bottom of the blinds with a little wooden thingamajig at the end of each one. Whichever one is higher is the one that opens/closes them. If they're open, the top one closes them and they reverse position. Now the top one (which used to be the bottom one) is the one that opens them back up. \n\nSo for me I just think \"pull the top one\"", "With the curtains having one long loop of cord and a pulley at the bottom to keep the cord taut, I made sure the cord to open the curtains was closer to the wall (an arbitrary decision which may be dependent on the model of curtain opener) for every set of curtains in the house. The consistency between all the curtains helped build a habit of grabbing the correct cord on the first try.", "The cords always have some play in them. Presumably a closed curtain most recently had the closing cord pulled, so the play is tightened up. The cord that doesn't do anything at first is most likely the one you need to pull.", "If you're feeling colorful, you can use nail polish on the little end things in complimentary colors.", "Fortunately all of my blinds have 2 separate pull strings for open and close functions... I cut them about the same length, so I always just need to pull the shorter one to change to the opposite state." ]	[ 127, 7, 5, 5, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way.", "Easily draining the oil when cooking ground beef It's always a balance between not dumping all of the ground beef down the sink or not getting all of the grease off the skillet. There's gotta be an easier way." ]	[ "Do what I do and tilt the pan slightly up until there is a pool of grease on one side of the pan. Then take 2 folded paper towels and soak up the grease. \n\nI know your pain of defatting ground beef. \n", "Turkey baster, suck the grease up & squirt it out in a can while it cools so it can be disposed of easily.", "I usually scoop out the meat with a slotted spoon into a paper towel lined bowl, usually kind of a big bowl. The towels soak up any excess while you dispose of the rest of the fat in the pan. I usually use some more paper towels.\n\nFYI - You shouldn't be pouring the fat down the drain. That will clog the pipes, either in your house or down the line. It should go out in the trash either in a used can or something else. Hot fat is not friendly to plastic garbage bags.", "A wad of paper towel held between chopsticks and dabbed around the pan as you cook. Tilt the pan from time To get at all the bits, then thorw away the wad...or light it on fire watevs....", "Turn the burner off. Get a coffee cup and a serving/table spoon. \n\nPush the beef to one side of the skillet, tilt it til the grease pools in the other side. \n\nPut the coffee cup right next to the skillet and spoon out the grease. \n\nSet the cup aside so the grease can harden, scoop into trash.", "Strain the grease into an [aluminum foil lined bowl](http://i.imgur.com/LoJuH83.jpg) (I use a glass Pyrex bowl) and store in the fridge or freezer until full. Then, pull out the aluminum foil lined grease ball, wad it up and trash it. Maybe not the most eco-friendly option but a hell of a lot better than dumping it down the drain.", "If you're pouring beef grease directly down your drain then you're already doing it wrong. Very wrong, in fact, if you don't like spending lots of money on plumbing services.\n\nAlways collect your grease in a can or jar. It can then be used in other cooking applications.", "I've always just dumped everything into a colander and let it sit for a few before adding it back to the skillet. ", "Save a used jar and lid and keep it specifically for you drippings. I keep it under the sink with dishwasher detergent, other cleaners, etc. you can reuse it until it is full and the lid will prevent it from stinking up the whole kitchen. \n\nWhen ready to drain the fat, move the beef over to the side if the pan you are going to drain from. Before you start pouring the drippings into the jar, take your cooking utensil and lay it flat across the top edge of the pan on your pouring edge. The utensil will keep your meat in place and allow the fat to drain past into the jar. \n\nThis requires no extra cleanup and less waste in the long run. My area doesn't recycle glass so I would have to throw out the jar anyhow. This way it completely serves another purpose before doing so.", "My Grandmother always used to use a flat round spatula riddled with holes to scoop out the meat and put it in a bowl or something and would let the grease cool in the pan.\n\nIf you are trying to get the grease out without removing the meat from the pan, use a curved dough cutter to slide the meat to one side and pour the grease into a disposable receptacle. If you don't have access to one, fill a glass about half full (depending on how much grease you have) with cold water, the grease will instantly cool and harden at the top, you can then use a fork to remove the grease from the glass and voila! No grease in the pan and none in the drain. \nHope it helps :) ", "I use a pot lid to hold the beef in place and just keep draining the grease out. It works like a charm, and I felt so stupid when I discovered it for not discovering it sooner! ", "I hold the lid slightly cracked, just enough that the grease can come out but the beef does not, then tip and pour carefully into a dish, milk carton, can etc. ", "This: http://i.ebayimg.com/00/s/Mzc1WDUwMA==/z/4GcAAOxypthRxzPV/$T2eC16RHJI!E9qSO8nJcBR%29zPVJ6YQ~~60_35.JPG?set_id=880000500F\n\nAlso good for straining pasta or...well anything.", "I use this type of colander exclusively to drain it into a bowl, I love it because the holes are only on the bottom so I don't have to worry about grease getting on all the counters. And yes to all the people telling you to wait till it solidifies and then throw it out. Don't put it down the sink! It'll clog the pipes and just be a mess.\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Tupperware-Colander-Strainer-Handle-Yellow/dp/B004RGIPFA", "I take a lid of a pot that's slightly smaller then the pan and collect all the beef under it and then pour the fat into a cup. No beef lost, no clogged drains. ", "Get a cutting board, I'm sure you have plenty of those, place it over the edge over the pan [like this](http://imgur.com/Gg8qhrV) and tilt the pan until the grease is gone. The beef should stay trapped behind the cutting board and the grease is a liquid so it should be able to fit between the edge of the pan and the edge of the cutting board.\n\nEnjoy my drawing skills!", "Whenever I make tacos I drain about half of the grease. Then I add tomato sauce and a little stock and allow it to simmer for awhile. Once it reduces I add a little previously caramelized flour to soak up all the liquids and thicken the gravy. Your taco meat is now less likely to soak through your taco shell and leave a big greasy streak on your plate.", "Scoop it into a noodle strainer that's inside of a large bowl. Press down on it to squeeze out tons of grease. Also, buy leaner ground beef and there will be less grease.", "I use a colander over that rests on top of a bowl. Let it cool then use a spatula to scrape it in the trash.", "I take tin foil and a handy cheese grader. Use the cheese grader as a filter and catch it in a bowl with tin foil spread over it. Let it sit over night or whatever to let it cool down and solidify. ", "I just use a collander/strainer. Paper towels work for a small amount of grease, but it's easier and cleaner with a collander. ", "I have a pot from wal mart that has a strainer built in to the lid, it attaches and does a great job of straining whatever you need easily.", "Do not break up the meat. Brown it as a whole first. Drain into another pot/pan or can. Flip. Brown and drain again. Then break it up. I do the fat into a dirty pot. That way when it's cooled I can just scrape it into the trash.\n\n*", "You could purchase a strainer, and place that on top of a bowl to collect the grease. Another potentially cheaper option would be to purchase a slotted spoon, and scoop the beef out of the pan using that, and then pour the remaining grease into the container of your choice.", "Wow, all the effort and mess to boot. Use a spoon to scoop out the bulk of the grease and put it in the styrofoam container that the meat came in. Then use paper towels to sop up the remaining liquid. Finally, run a couple of paper towels through the meat. Easy peasy japanesey.", "Buy extra-lean ground beef == almost no grease in the skillet. Depending on the % of fat you get, you might need to pour a small bit of oil in the pan before putting in the ground beef to avoid it sticking." ]	[ 47, 27, 20, 12, 9, 7, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "is there an optimal way to plan out your life? Life is very unpredictable but you can at least plan out goals you want to achieve. \n\nWe can say our goal is to make a billion dollars, but how exactly we achieve it is when things get rough. We can say go to college, get a job, get a promotion, invest invest invest, then we'll reach our goal. But this plan for life is too broad and is unforgiving with mistakes. We don't know the necessary steps to achieve each milestone.\n\nThere has to be a more optimal way to plan out life so we can to walk into the future with goals in mind, but with ones that we know exactly how to achieve. ", "is there an optimal way to plan out your life? Life is very unpredictable but you can at least plan out goals you want to achieve. \n\nWe can say our goal is to make a billion dollars, but how exactly we achieve it is when things get rough. We can say go to college, get a job, get a promotion, invest invest invest, then we'll reach our goal. But this plan for life is too broad and is unforgiving with mistakes. We don't know the necessary steps to achieve each milestone.\n\nThere has to be a more optimal way to plan out life so we can to walk into the future with goals in mind, but with ones that we know exactly how to achieve. ", "is there an optimal way to plan out your life? Life is very unpredictable but you can at least plan out goals you want to achieve. \n\nWe can say our goal is to make a billion dollars, but how exactly we achieve it is when things get rough. We can say go to college, get a job, get a promotion, invest invest invest, then we'll reach our goal. But this plan for life is too broad and is unforgiving with mistakes. We don't know the necessary steps to achieve each milestone.\n\nThere has to be a more optimal way to plan out life so we can to walk into the future with goals in mind, but with ones that we know exactly how to achieve. ", "is there an optimal way to plan out your life? Life is very unpredictable but you can at least plan out goals you want to achieve. \n\nWe can say our goal is to make a billion dollars, but how exactly we achieve it is when things get rough. We can say go to college, get a job, get a promotion, invest invest invest, then we'll reach our goal. But this plan for life is too broad and is unforgiving with mistakes. We don't know the necessary steps to achieve each milestone.\n\nThere has to be a more optimal way to plan out life so we can to walk into the future with goals in mind, but with ones that we know exactly how to achieve. " ]	[ "If you think you have life planned out, you don't. Life will always find a way to throw a wrench in there.", "Break it down, break it down, break it down....\nMake it into simple steps. Be patient, put in the effort.\n\nThis method has helped me achieve a 6 year long plan, by breaking it down into steps, following the steps, and being patient. \n\nExample:\n\n* I want to make a billion dollars. How?\n* Developing software.\n* Do I know how to develop software? No\n* Am I motivated enough to learn it myself or do I need to take a course? I could use a course.\n* Check the local schools, training programs, etc, do they offer courses at a reasonable price? Yes\n* Can I afford it now? No.\n* Do I have a laptop to practice at home, get familiar with it, etc? No\n\nConclusion: I need to get a job first doing literally whatever, because I only need the money to do the course and get a laptop, so I can get into software development. Once I have the laptop and I did the course, I can look for a job relating to software development, or I can do freelancer jobs to get experience.", "Obviously it isn't the easiest thing to do or lots more people would do it. I think for starters, if you choose a goal such as make a billion dollars you need to question why or if money is so important to you. The same with any other goal really.", "unless you have a parent or someone extremely close that knows the path and literally guides you the entire way...you gotta do it the hard way. \n\nFirst figure out what you want. Then figure out the first step, then make it your goal to complete that first step, then figure out step 2 and now thats your new goal +step3 +step4.....to eventually reach your main, big goal. Mistakes will be made along the way, and going at it one step at a time (sorry for the cliche, but theres a reason its a cliche) is what gets you where you want to be. " ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "What do you do with all the owners manuals and little pamphlets that come with each purchase and seem to accumulate over the years? How do you decide what to keep, what to throw away and how to store them?\n\nI've been using a file cabinet but it's near overflowing.", "What do you do with all the owners manuals and little pamphlets that come with each purchase and seem to accumulate over the years? How do you decide what to keep, what to throw away and how to store them?\n\nI've been using a file cabinet but it's near overflowing.", "What do you do with all the owners manuals and little pamphlets that come with each purchase and seem to accumulate over the years? How do you decide what to keep, what to throw away and how to store them?\n\nI've been using a file cabinet but it's near overflowing.", "What do you do with all the owners manuals and little pamphlets that come with each purchase and seem to accumulate over the years? How do you decide what to keep, what to throw away and how to store them?\n\nI've been using a file cabinet but it's near overflowing.", "What do you do with all the owners manuals and little pamphlets that come with each purchase and seem to accumulate over the years? How do you decide what to keep, what to throw away and how to store them?\n\nI've been using a file cabinet but it's near overflowing.", "What do you do with all the owners manuals and little pamphlets that come with each purchase and seem to accumulate over the years? How do you decide what to keep, what to throw away and how to store them?\n\nI've been using a file cabinet but it's near overflowing.", "What do you do with all the owners manuals and little pamphlets that come with each purchase and seem to accumulate over the years? How do you decide what to keep, what to throw away and how to store them?\n\nI've been using a file cabinet but it's near overflowing.", "What do you do with all the owners manuals and little pamphlets that come with each purchase and seem to accumulate over the years? How do you decide what to keep, what to throw away and how to store them?\n\nI've been using a file cabinet but it's near overflowing.", "What do you do with all the owners manuals and little pamphlets that come with each purchase and seem to accumulate over the years? How do you decide what to keep, what to throw away and how to store them?\n\nI've been using a file cabinet but it's near overflowing." ]	[ "My grandparents have a drawer for this; they put the receipt in the manual, the manual in the drawer. When the drawer gets full, they go through & discard any for devises they no longer have, or start a new drawer. They have manuals for stuff they bought (that's still working fine) in the 1940s. What's good about this system is you always know where to look for the manual because it doesn't move around.\n\n\nI read someplace that it works well to put the manual in a bag and hang it on the back of the electronic device it belongs to.\n\n\nPersonally, I put mine in a file or pile someplace, then forget where, and end up Google-ing whatever I need to know.", "Lots of manuals are now available online. I check to see if it is online, and if so recycle it. Otherwise scan it or take a picture of it.", "We do home exchanges so I keep these all in a binder, each manual has its own sleeve. The binder also includes emergency information, maintenance/repair people, neighbor's phone numbers, Wifi password, a subway map, bus schedule, and a bunch of other information that anyone who might be staying at our house could possibly ever need to know. In the back in the flap pockets I stuff menus for our favorite local take out places. \n\nIf you ever have a baby sitter, house sitter, or you have cleaning service come in, this information can also prove quite handy. Or if say your kids are old enough to be home alone while you travel. Or if you suddenly were to become incapacitated and someone came in to look after your place. \n\nIt's good practice to go through the manuals occasionally and pull out any that are no longer needed, because you no longer have the item. \n\n\n", "I usually just take a sec to write down the purchase information on the Warranty section, staple the receipt inside and file it away. Then when the item breaks, you can pull it out easily to see if it's still under warranty. If it is, contact them or just throw it away with the item (if its not worth repairing.)", "I staple the receipt to each pamphlet and keep them both, organized alphabetically, in a document container [like this one](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0019TRAFE/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B0019TRAFE&linkCode=as2&tag=pediatricresi-20). You never know when you're going to need them, for warranty or tax-related purposes for example. ", "I put them in their own manila folder that goes in the file box. \n\nOne thing I start doing, like when buying electronic stuff from CostCo, is to buy them alone so their receipt is separate from other stuff.\n\nThe receipt and warranty info / product registration are in front of the file, and I write item, date of purchase, and when the warranty period covers on the front of the manila folder.", "I honestly have one dresser drawer that I toss them all in, no particular order, it's hilariously chaotic some times. Then once a year I go through all of them and evaluate them and decide which ones I need, which ones I use, and which ones I can toss. The ones I might need and the ones I use stay the rest get tossed and I start over for another year.", "I have a file box where I keep random documents. There's a section for each year of utility and repair bills I've had in the rental I manage, a section for my pets adoption, registration, and veterinary information plus my family trees for my breeding groups (rats), a section or my own medical info, and a section for warranties/manuals/assembly instructions. \nIf I didn't have a \"paper place\" I would never see any of it again.", "Huh? There were manuals and pamflets with the pursaches? I thought that was toilet paper! Gee.. Guess i used them wrongly then doh!" ]	[ 6, 6, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -7 ]	safe
[ "How to permanently mark personal items you're sharing in a roommate situation? Items vary from Tupperware and pans to tools and camping gear to furniture and art. In another shared environment, I also have craft supplies, artistic tools, multiple chargers, a chair, and overall design studio items. \n\nI've tried all sorts of tapes, permanent markers and label makers, all of which have failed me. Tupperware has been the hardest. How do you do it?", "How to permanently mark personal items you're sharing in a roommate situation? Items vary from Tupperware and pans to tools and camping gear to furniture and art. In another shared environment, I also have craft supplies, artistic tools, multiple chargers, a chair, and overall design studio items. \n\nI've tried all sorts of tapes, permanent markers and label makers, all of which have failed me. Tupperware has been the hardest. How do you do it?", "How to permanently mark personal items you're sharing in a roommate situation? Items vary from Tupperware and pans to tools and camping gear to furniture and art. In another shared environment, I also have craft supplies, artistic tools, multiple chargers, a chair, and overall design studio items. \n\nI've tried all sorts of tapes, permanent markers and label makers, all of which have failed me. Tupperware has been the hardest. How do you do it?", "How to permanently mark personal items you're sharing in a roommate situation? Items vary from Tupperware and pans to tools and camping gear to furniture and art. In another shared environment, I also have craft supplies, artistic tools, multiple chargers, a chair, and overall design studio items. \n\nI've tried all sorts of tapes, permanent markers and label makers, all of which have failed me. Tupperware has been the hardest. How do you do it?", "How to permanently mark personal items you're sharing in a roommate situation? Items vary from Tupperware and pans to tools and camping gear to furniture and art. In another shared environment, I also have craft supplies, artistic tools, multiple chargers, a chair, and overall design studio items. \n\nI've tried all sorts of tapes, permanent markers and label makers, all of which have failed me. Tupperware has been the hardest. How do you do it?", "How to permanently mark personal items you're sharing in a roommate situation? Items vary from Tupperware and pans to tools and camping gear to furniture and art. In another shared environment, I also have craft supplies, artistic tools, multiple chargers, a chair, and overall design studio items. \n\nI've tried all sorts of tapes, permanent markers and label makers, all of which have failed me. Tupperware has been the hardest. How do you do it?", "How to permanently mark personal items you're sharing in a roommate situation? Items vary from Tupperware and pans to tools and camping gear to furniture and art. In another shared environment, I also have craft supplies, artistic tools, multiple chargers, a chair, and overall design studio items. \n\nI've tried all sorts of tapes, permanent markers and label makers, all of which have failed me. Tupperware has been the hardest. How do you do it?", "How to permanently mark personal items you're sharing in a roommate situation? Items vary from Tupperware and pans to tools and camping gear to furniture and art. In another shared environment, I also have craft supplies, artistic tools, multiple chargers, a chair, and overall design studio items. \n\nI've tried all sorts of tapes, permanent markers and label makers, all of which have failed me. Tupperware has been the hardest. How do you do it?" ]	[ "Take photos of the items you absolutely must have when you leave. Whether they are sentimental or expensive or just make you happy. \n\nLet everything else go. Accept that you will likely lose some of your communal stuff when house-sharing.", "For things I couldn't write my name on, I would probably take a number of pictures to catologue upon move ins.", "Engraver. Dremel 290-01 0.2 Amp 7,200 Stroke Per Minute Engraver includes Letter and Number Template https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0000302YN/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_OLI2DbPC62XAF", "My mom used to mark Tupperware containers and plates I took on Boy Scout camping trips with a small nail polish dot on the bottom. Near impossible to get off without serious chemicals.", "maybe just keep a log of everything that’s yours and everything that’s theirs so when moving day comes it’ll act as a “to pack” list", "Unless you’re etching there’s not much you can do beyond a sharpie.\n\nThat or deciding you’re just not going to care about it ;-)", "For clothing items, get a heat sealed label machine. Trust me, the label won't come off easily. Even after multiple washings", "Tupperware? Carve your name on it with a sharp object. Underwear? Write your initials on the tag. 60” TV? Take a picture of the receipt and serial number. Like what is the question?" ]	[ 4, 4, 4, 3, 2, 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How can you politely stop talking with someone? I have many problems with ending conversations with people, help me reddit.", "How can you politely stop talking with someone? I have many problems with ending conversations with people, help me reddit.", "How can you politely stop talking with someone? I have many problems with ending conversations with people, help me reddit." ]	[ "•Look at your watch and say \"I gotta go to so and so\"\n\n•\"It's been fun, but I have something I need to do\"\n\n•\"That sounds very interesting, perhaps we can discuss this later.\"\n\n•\"Well I got to go. Talk to you soon.\"", "Great chatting, but I don't want to monopolize all of your time. We will speak again later, hopefully. \nHey, it's been nice meeting you! I'm going to go mingle and meet a few more people now, see you later.....walks away. \nBody language- turn your feet away, and start to lean away so you are now looking more and more over your shoulder. If they do t get it, say, gotta run! And walk away quickly. \n", "As _outofthisworld_1223 said !\n\nThanking people marks an end to the conversation - \"Thanks for sharing that Bill !\" AND then you need to turn physically towards a different direction instead of facing them.\n\nWorks almost all the time.\n" ]	[ 5, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "how do I lock someone sleeping inside the house and leave the key for him to find the next day without risking someone stealing it. ", "how do I lock someone sleeping inside the house and leave the key for him to find the next day without risking someone stealing it. ", "how do I lock someone sleeping inside the house and leave the key for him to find the next day without risking someone stealing it. ", "how do I lock someone sleeping inside the house and leave the key for him to find the next day without risking someone stealing it. ", "how do I lock someone sleeping inside the house and leave the key for him to find the next day without risking someone stealing it. ", "how do I lock someone sleeping inside the house and leave the key for him to find the next day without risking someone stealing it. ", "how do I lock someone sleeping inside the house and leave the key for him to find the next day without risking someone stealing it. ", "how do I lock someone sleeping inside the house and leave the key for him to find the next day without risking someone stealing it. ", "how do I lock someone sleeping inside the house and leave the key for him to find the next day without risking someone stealing it. ", "how do I lock someone sleeping inside the house and leave the key for him to find the next day without risking someone stealing it. ", "how do I lock someone sleeping inside the house and leave the key for him to find the next day without risking someone stealing it. ", "how do I lock someone sleeping inside the house and leave the key for him to find the next day without risking someone stealing it. " ]	[ "That is why a letter slot in the door comes in handy, lock the door, post it back through it. I guess not an option for you?", "Unlock his car door, and put it in there near the spare tire. He can then retrieve the key himself the next day.", "As a German this feels so weird. Most of the front doors here lock after you exit automatically. \nAnd when I though about your problem I thought that you could just \"kipp\" the window and throw the key in from outside, but then I remembered that American windows can't do that.", "If you have access to a window from outside, leave it a little open and once you’re out throw the key back in.\nElse consider the post box or a neighbor you know.\nElse wake them up to close the door behind you🤭", "Two keys. We keep a guest key in a known location in the house and carry personal keys that don’t get loaned out. If you’re renting, you should get two keys, even if they’re not copyable.", "This question makes no sense. How will \"someone\" else outside of the house get into the house if you've locked said person inside of it with the intention of leaving it somewhere INSIDE the house for him to find? Just tape it to the front-door with a big note pointing it out.", "Leave it unlocked,Really what are the odds that someone is gonna come to your house that specific day To rob/murder your friend. If a Criminal wants in he will get in regardless.", "I new someone who always kept a key outside. They glued a medicine bottle to a rock and put a spare key in it. Then they buried the medicine bottle by the front door and left the rock exposed so it was easy to find.", "Hide it wherever you want in the bushes, plants, yard, etc. Then take a photo (or two) of where you hid it and send it to the other person. That way they can find it in a very hidden spot. \n\nRecommend photo 1 be from a few feet back so they know what specific bush to look at. Then photo 2 is a close up of where to find it.", "Change your lock to a dead bolt and he won't have to lock it when he leaves. Or get a new key cut, post the key back through your letterbox. Get one of those little key safes with the combination lock to go outside.", "How about telling them prior to sleeping where it’s hidden. Like in a crockpot or an empty container or box in the fridge. The stealing part puzzles me. As if you lock them inside then who else is inside? As why outside? A kitty litter box outside maybe putting the key inside a plastic bag and burying it in kitty litter.", "SMH\n\nHow... \n\ndo you not know how to lock a door from the inside and just walk out the door, closing the door behind you?\n\nWhere... \n\nis it not possible to lock the door from the inside, walk out the door, closing the door behind you?\n\nOr is it that you must lock the 'deadbolt' lock that you're having an issue with? If someone is intent to enter a locked door, the 'deadbolt' is not going to stop them.\n\nJust lock the door knob from the inside, walk out, close the door behind you. Leave the key wherever inside the house." ]	[ 15, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, -8 ]	safe
[ " How to improve French? Hey guys, this is my first ever Reddit post, so I'm still learning my way around the site. My problem is I'm a sophomore in high school, (10th grade) and I'm taking French I. I also have French II next semester. My problem is that I'm not good at speaking or reading the language. I did good until we started with verb conjugations and genders for words. I can understand oral questions fine, but it's reading and speaking that I do poorly on. Any tips for learning/studying?", " How to improve French? Hey guys, this is my first ever Reddit post, so I'm still learning my way around the site. My problem is I'm a sophomore in high school, (10th grade) and I'm taking French I. I also have French II next semester. My problem is that I'm not good at speaking or reading the language. I did good until we started with verb conjugations and genders for words. I can understand oral questions fine, but it's reading and speaking that I do poorly on. Any tips for learning/studying?", " How to improve French? Hey guys, this is my first ever Reddit post, so I'm still learning my way around the site. My problem is I'm a sophomore in high school, (10th grade) and I'm taking French I. I also have French II next semester. My problem is that I'm not good at speaking or reading the language. I did good until we started with verb conjugations and genders for words. I can understand oral questions fine, but it's reading and speaking that I do poorly on. Any tips for learning/studying?" ]	[ "Lyrics! Go download some popular french music, (modern or older stuff, just slow enough to make out clearly) and then search for the lyrics online. \n\nHelps every part of your language acquisition. Grammar, pronunciation, fluency, and even some slang, which can be fun. Try old stuff like Yves Montand & ", "Try to watch movies (or your favorite TV shows) in French. You would be surprised how many of your DVDs will have French voice-over. It will really help you pick up on the natural cadence of the language as well as learn some colloquial lingo. Be sure to use English subtitles if you can--it will further reinforce what you're absorbing! Bon courage!", "J'utilizer memrise.com. elle contribue du la mot je me suiviens. so vous vous souviez 'grammar and structure' dans l'francais, que vous avez mot plus tou la jour, tou les jour.\n\nmais vous aurez besoin du reconaitre le dèfference des quebeqois ou parisian, est belgium francais.\n\nAussi, desolier, je peux pas bon envoyer, mais parlez sulement" ]	[ 4, 2, 0 ]	safe
[ "What can be used as a homemade cleaner of dirt and grime which doesn't require scrubbing to work? I have a few things that to scrub clean, even with a toothbrush, would not be possible because it has too many inaccessible areas. Is there any sort of homemade cleaner that I can use/make which I can place these items in and essentially dissolve the dirt with?\n\n\nI can already foresee the reply of \"water\"", "What can be used as a homemade cleaner of dirt and grime which doesn't require scrubbing to work? I have a few things that to scrub clean, even with a toothbrush, would not be possible because it has too many inaccessible areas. Is there any sort of homemade cleaner that I can use/make which I can place these items in and essentially dissolve the dirt with?\n\n\nI can already foresee the reply of \"water\"", "What can be used as a homemade cleaner of dirt and grime which doesn't require scrubbing to work? I have a few things that to scrub clean, even with a toothbrush, would not be possible because it has too many inaccessible areas. Is there any sort of homemade cleaner that I can use/make which I can place these items in and essentially dissolve the dirt with?\n\n\nI can already foresee the reply of \"water\"" ]	[ "Powdered brew wash (aka oxyclean free) does wonders on a variety of surfaces. Just soak and rinse for the most part. Depends on what you are cleaning of course. ", "One part white vinegar, one part plain blue Dawn dishwashing detergent. Mix it together and liberally put it on whatever you're trying to clean, let it sit for 30 mins. and get to scrubbing.", "bicarbonate of soda. you can buy it at the supermarket. it's an old granny's trick. mix a tiny bit of water into it to make a paste. put it onto all those hard to reach places and give it some time. let science do the hard work.\n\nworks great to take burned on food off pots and pans so it might help with your job depending what you're cleaning. doesn't harm metal or the environment. you can actually eat it (it's used in cooking as well)." ]	[ 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to remain motivated to continue progress in something (hobby, work, etc) after hitting a progress wall ", "how to remain motivated to continue progress in something (hobby, work, etc) after hitting a progress wall ", "how to remain motivated to continue progress in something (hobby, work, etc) after hitting a progress wall ", "how to remain motivated to continue progress in something (hobby, work, etc) after hitting a progress wall " ]	[ "Focus on just the next step, don't think about the big picture. Also a break from it for a while may help.", "I would say the exact opposite of this: do definitely look at the big picture. \n\nApart from this: I'd say progress walls do not really exist. Maybe your thinking that progress has slowed down/ come to a stop. But that's really not true. Progress is always taking place, every minute you spend on your hobby. And those times where you feel like nothing is working right, that's exactly the time when you have to exercise even more! Your brain never stops learning, even if it appears to be doing exactly that. \n\nKeep this in mind: what stops you from being the ideal expert in your field is not how hard you train or for how long: it's only perseverance. It's still exercising even if you feel like nothing is working. \nThat is where true experts are born, they just don't give up. \n\nAlternatively: sometimes when you feel like you hit a wall it's a good idea to change your exercise pattern so you stay motivated :) ", "here's some good advice: 1. never work without a list. 2. never work without ordering your list in terms of importance. 3. Always work at the top of the list. Success comes about through completion of tasks - if you know the most important task for you - stay with it until it's complete - no other task is more important.", "It will really vary based on the type of endeavour, but generally a plateau in your progress means you need to rethink your approach. It might be that you need to overhaul what you're doing or maybe what you're doing is 95% right and you just need a subtle tweak to fix it. The trick is being able to diagnose it correctly. Having a mentor or consulting an expert in your field is a good way to go about it. Misdiagnosing your problem can set you back. Imagine a weight lifter who keeps switching between exercise programs when he stalls, and it turns out later that they were all fine and he actually just needed to eat more.\n\n\nPlateaus are an important indicator of progress, but they're also an indicator that you might've gone as far as you can with the current approach. Don't keep trying the same thing and expecting different results as some people here are suggesting. Can you tell us what field/hobby you're struggling with?" ]	[ 4, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "supporting a loved one through grieving A close friend of mine recently lost a dear family member - it's been almost a month now, and he's definitely struggling. I'd say I see him almost every day, and we hang out for several hours a week shooting the shit \n\n\nI'm worried about him as he's a fucking great guy but it definitely prone to depressive episodes. I want to support him as best I can, but I'm not really sure how. I'm not a hugely emotional guy, and I wasn't really raised in a super supportive environment so I'm kind of at a loss here. \n\nI'd be very grateful for any advice anyone could offer.", "supporting a loved one through grieving A close friend of mine recently lost a dear family member - it's been almost a month now, and he's definitely struggling. I'd say I see him almost every day, and we hang out for several hours a week shooting the shit \n\n\nI'm worried about him as he's a fucking great guy but it definitely prone to depressive episodes. I want to support him as best I can, but I'm not really sure how. I'm not a hugely emotional guy, and I wasn't really raised in a super supportive environment so I'm kind of at a loss here. \n\nI'd be very grateful for any advice anyone could offer.", "supporting a loved one through grieving A close friend of mine recently lost a dear family member - it's been almost a month now, and he's definitely struggling. I'd say I see him almost every day, and we hang out for several hours a week shooting the shit \n\n\nI'm worried about him as he's a fucking great guy but it definitely prone to depressive episodes. I want to support him as best I can, but I'm not really sure how. I'm not a hugely emotional guy, and I wasn't really raised in a super supportive environment so I'm kind of at a loss here. \n\nI'd be very grateful for any advice anyone could offer.", "supporting a loved one through grieving A close friend of mine recently lost a dear family member - it's been almost a month now, and he's definitely struggling. I'd say I see him almost every day, and we hang out for several hours a week shooting the shit \n\n\nI'm worried about him as he's a fucking great guy but it definitely prone to depressive episodes. I want to support him as best I can, but I'm not really sure how. I'm not a hugely emotional guy, and I wasn't really raised in a super supportive environment so I'm kind of at a loss here. \n\nI'd be very grateful for any advice anyone could offer.", "supporting a loved one through grieving A close friend of mine recently lost a dear family member - it's been almost a month now, and he's definitely struggling. I'd say I see him almost every day, and we hang out for several hours a week shooting the shit \n\n\nI'm worried about him as he's a fucking great guy but it definitely prone to depressive episodes. I want to support him as best I can, but I'm not really sure how. I'm not a hugely emotional guy, and I wasn't really raised in a super supportive environment so I'm kind of at a loss here. \n\nI'd be very grateful for any advice anyone could offer." ]	[ "One great piece of advice I've received: Don't just ask if there is anything you can do to help, offer up a specific task that you could do for them. As in, \"Hey man, I'm grabbing some food at X, can I bring you anything?\". It's hard for people to accept a blank check for help, they'll feel like they are bothering you, but an offer for help on one specific thing is easier to accept. ", "The best thing you can do is just ask if they are okay? if they say yes then just say if you ever want to talk, he may never talk but at least he knows you are there. ", "After you make them aware that you're here when you need them, set a reminder for yourself to check on them 6-8 weeks later. By then most people will have moved on with their own lives while the person who suffered the loss likely has not and might be ready to talk about it at a deeper level. They'll appreciate the fact that you asked and have remain concerned about them without having to shower them with empty platitudes in the meantime. \n\nGood for you for caring enough to ask the Reddit community though.", "Just be there and just be you. That is what he’s counting on. \n\nMy dad once said “If you always show up with beer, don’t through everything off by showing up with Shirley Temples and cute umbrellas.”\n\nJust be there and just be you. He needs to get so much out and needs a safe environment to do that. And you just being there and being you provides that security for him. There is incredible safety in dependability.\n\nI’m sorry your friend is going through this. Thank you for being there for him...you care enough to reach out yourself for advice and support. You’re good people!", "As a person who is also dealing with this, the very most important thing you can do is be there for them. Call, text, show up. Bring a pizza. Help with some household chores if you can. Grieving is exhausting and lonely. Don’t press them with questions. Let them start the conversation and be a listening ear. Some days their grief may be all they can talk about. Other days they might not want to talk about it at all. " ]	[ 6, 4, 4, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How do you go about making friends in a new city? I recently moved back home after graduation. This city is rather lonely cause I do not have any friends left here. Can anyone offer any Life Pro Tips on making friends when you're no longer in college?", "How do you go about making friends in a new city? I recently moved back home after graduation. This city is rather lonely cause I do not have any friends left here. Can anyone offer any Life Pro Tips on making friends when you're no longer in college?", "How do you go about making friends in a new city? I recently moved back home after graduation. This city is rather lonely cause I do not have any friends left here. Can anyone offer any Life Pro Tips on making friends when you're no longer in college?", "How do you go about making friends in a new city? I recently moved back home after graduation. This city is rather lonely cause I do not have any friends left here. Can anyone offer any Life Pro Tips on making friends when you're no longer in college?" ]	[ "This covers it really well. \nhttps://m.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4v45wn/lpt_request_how_to_make_friends_in_a_new_town_as/", "Go places where there are people and interaction is encouraged. Bars, art/cooking classes, music venues. Look online for local groups that are into things you're into. Or just venture out and do things you're into. You'll meet other people doing the same things. Strike up a conversation. You may have some neat information since you're a former local, so look for people who might also be new in town.", "What do you do for fun? Are you active? Do you play sports or like trivia? Ride your bike or enjoy board games? There's countless Facebook or Meetup groups for these exact things. I know that can be a little overwhelming but you really just gotta get out there. \n\nIt really does help to know people though; all of my closest friends I've met through other friends you know? A personal rule I've kept is simply to never say no to an invitation. You never know who you'd meet!", "Try volunteering with an organization for a cause that you care about, you'll likely meet more people that are similar to you. Many organizations are looking for volunteers, sometimes just for the weekend, or for an event. Then gather a group of people you just met for a drink or a bite afterwards. " ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Getting the smell out/ preventing the smell of football and lacrosse gloves. Please. Someone, anyone, help!", "Getting the smell out/ preventing the smell of football and lacrosse gloves. Please. Someone, anyone, help!", "Getting the smell out/ preventing the smell of football and lacrosse gloves. Please. Someone, anyone, help!", "Getting the smell out/ preventing the smell of football and lacrosse gloves. Please. Someone, anyone, help!", "Getting the smell out/ preventing the smell of football and lacrosse gloves. Please. Someone, anyone, help!", "Getting the smell out/ preventing the smell of football and lacrosse gloves. Please. Someone, anyone, help!", "Getting the smell out/ preventing the smell of football and lacrosse gloves. Please. Someone, anyone, help!", "Getting the smell out/ preventing the smell of football and lacrosse gloves. Please. Someone, anyone, help!" ]	[ "Not sure if works, but i heard putting the items in plastic bags and leaving them in the freezer overnight may help.", "Wash them with a little bit of vinegar. Works like a charm. Just don't use too much or they will smell like vinegar lol. I usually use maybe 1/4 or 1/3 cup per small load when I wash my husband's gym clothes.", "Try baking soda.\n\nAlso: have a couple of pairs of gloves and swap between them, making sure that each pair dries out completely between wearings.\n\nBonus LPT: Also works for shoes.", "Buy some aerosol disinfectant, spray it on them, leave them in the sun to dry.\n\nKeep tea bags in your gear bag.\n", "if theyre not made of leather you can put alcohol (grain, ethyl or rubbing) in a spray bottle and spray them down when you take them off. ", "Try washing them. And if you don't want to do that try to find bacteria killing spray, the smell is most likely caused by bacteria. Bolth works for my hockey stuff. \n\nQuick ", "Look into snowboard gloves. Those bitches SMELL. Fortunately you can but them that have a smaller inner glove. It will absorb the smell and then you can throw it in the wash. I'm assuming you can just but the gloves and use the inner part for your gloves", "I have the same problem with my goalkeeper gloves. To prevent this you can either buy \"glove dogs\" which dry out the gloves after use and leave a better scent behind, one that isn't sweat. The alternative is using newspaper, which just dries out the gloves. Hope this helps." ]	[ 4, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to keep going, stay positive and level-headed, and find answers when you feel defeated and out of options. ", "How to keep going, stay positive and level-headed, and find answers when you feel defeated and out of options. ", "How to keep going, stay positive and level-headed, and find answers when you feel defeated and out of options. " ]	[ "I found a pattern, you keep telling yourself something and you actually begin to think it is true, it internalizes and keeps you in pain all the time. People with low confidence have kept on telling themselves they are not good enough and that has internalized, now a human doesn't want to be not good enough and therefore he lives a life in conflict.\n\nWhat you do is keep telling the good things you see around yourself or about you. Things that are going in the direction of your wants, keep repeating it to yourself till it internalizes.\n\nThe second part is about being rational. Is what you see the reality? Are you really out of options?", "Have a definite chief purpose. Say, a career goal.\n\n\nThen build a plan to reach the goal. \n\n\n\nWhen you feel defeated ect it's most likely because your plan hasn't worked. Time to make another plan to achieve your original chief purpose.", "Don't accept that failure is an option, and realize that time spent freaking out is just wasted time. You may panic, you may worry, you may stress. When you're done doing that, you still have to get back up, march forward, and face the problem. May as well skip the useless step." ]	[ 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "I need a #00 crosshead screwdriver, but only have a #0. I need to open up my MacBook, and while the #0 worked fine for the screws that go straight down into the laptop, the six angled screws won't budge at all, and I'll wind up stripping them if I keep trying.\n\nSo any tips on what I can do?", "I need a #00 crosshead screwdriver, but only have a #0. I need to open up my MacBook, and while the #0 worked fine for the screws that go straight down into the laptop, the six angled screws won't budge at all, and I'll wind up stripping them if I keep trying.\n\nSo any tips on what I can do?" ]	[ "Use the correct tool. If you don't have the correct tool, put off the job until you do. \n\nTrust me, you will save yourself a load of hassle in the long run.", "Maybe a drop of glue on the screw and a nail or something to stick onto it,making the screw into a sort of key. McGyver that shit!\n" ]	[ 6, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to handle seeing blood without getting squeamish, lightheaded, or freaked out. I always find myself having to get up after I see a particularly large amount of blood. Usually reading about it makes me paler than, say, seeing someone have a nosebleed. What are some LPTs to avoid this? I'd like to get to the point where I'm not phased. It's been my \"greatest fears\" since I can remember and I'd like to overcome it. The source of the fear/ reaction I have upon seeing it (at least the conscious psychological aspect of it) is when I walked into my playhouse when I was about five and saw a dead bird covered in blood that was killed by a stray cat. Coincidentally, I also developed a fear of birds I've almost erased, but that was only because of repeated incidences with freak accidents involving birds. ", "How to handle seeing blood without getting squeamish, lightheaded, or freaked out. I always find myself having to get up after I see a particularly large amount of blood. Usually reading about it makes me paler than, say, seeing someone have a nosebleed. What are some LPTs to avoid this? I'd like to get to the point where I'm not phased. It's been my \"greatest fears\" since I can remember and I'd like to overcome it. The source of the fear/ reaction I have upon seeing it (at least the conscious psychological aspect of it) is when I walked into my playhouse when I was about five and saw a dead bird covered in blood that was killed by a stray cat. Coincidentally, I also developed a fear of birds I've almost erased, but that was only because of repeated incidences with freak accidents involving birds. ", "How to handle seeing blood without getting squeamish, lightheaded, or freaked out. I always find myself having to get up after I see a particularly large amount of blood. Usually reading about it makes me paler than, say, seeing someone have a nosebleed. What are some LPTs to avoid this? I'd like to get to the point where I'm not phased. It's been my \"greatest fears\" since I can remember and I'd like to overcome it. The source of the fear/ reaction I have upon seeing it (at least the conscious psychological aspect of it) is when I walked into my playhouse when I was about five and saw a dead bird covered in blood that was killed by a stray cat. Coincidentally, I also developed a fear of birds I've almost erased, but that was only because of repeated incidences with freak accidents involving birds. " ]	[ "I, too, grew up with having an issue where seeing my own blood, like when a doctor takes a blood sample, would cause me to become light-headed and nearly pass out. \n\nI recently started donating plasma as an easy way to score extra money and it seems to have cured me simply because now it is no big deal to see blood. Now I am fascinated with seeing my own blood... though I am quite content with keeping it in my body, haha.\n\nLike you said with the birds, repeated exposure is probably the best way to overcome it. So, either donate blood/plasma or become a serial killer.", "I read a study about this that the Mayo Clinic did about a year ago, I'll try and find it for you. This is a really common issue for med students. Basically what it said though was that repeated exposure \"cured\" 99% of med students eventually. Another commenter here has talked about graded exposure, so it seems like this is the way to go. Best of luck! ", "I can totally get behind this. What do you recommend I start with? Usually I'm pretty cool with seeing gore. What would you recommend? From tiny to gradually increasing, preferably. Also, where could I find stuff like that?" ]	[ 7, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Help with Bandwith caps? Alright, so for those of you who are actually fucking living in 2016, I have a satellite internet connection (yes, those exist.) First of all, I like to play games online. \"Oh, like CS:GO or TF2?\" you might be asking yourself. Hah! I wish. I play ~~shitty flash games on kongregate~~ mostly singleplayer experiences on Steam.\n\nAnyway, I have a total of 65 GBs of data I can use per month (15 from 8:00 AM to 1:00 AM, 50 from 2:00 AM to 8:00 AM) ([Picture](http://image.prntscr.com/image/7e2cd942353c48a1ae277d251d6f6ac9.png) for those curious, taken as I'm writing this.)\n\nSo is there anyway for me to browse the internet without my ISP knowing how much I'm using?\n\nThanks,\n\nJax", "Help with Bandwith caps? Alright, so for those of you who are actually fucking living in 2016, I have a satellite internet connection (yes, those exist.) First of all, I like to play games online. \"Oh, like CS:GO or TF2?\" you might be asking yourself. Hah! I wish. I play ~~shitty flash games on kongregate~~ mostly singleplayer experiences on Steam.\n\nAnyway, I have a total of 65 GBs of data I can use per month (15 from 8:00 AM to 1:00 AM, 50 from 2:00 AM to 8:00 AM) ([Picture](http://image.prntscr.com/image/7e2cd942353c48a1ae277d251d6f6ac9.png) for those curious, taken as I'm writing this.)\n\nSo is there anyway for me to browse the internet without my ISP knowing how much I'm using?\n\nThanks,\n\nJax" ]	[ "No, get a better ISP. By virtue of getting paid to deliver data to you, they know how much data that is.", "Essentially, no. As far as I am aware, you can hide what you're doing via encryption but the amount you use will always be the same, and your ISP will always know.\n\nYou can try out Chromes compression in settings, bandwith management, as well as setting a metered connection on windows 10, etc. to try and limit your usage." ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to absorb information. What I'm looking to do is broaden my knowledge (book/street smarts) not only by reading but by talking to other educated people. What can I do to better absorb what I'm reading and hearing? Any exercises or anything I can do at home and for free?", "how to absorb information. What I'm looking to do is broaden my knowledge (book/street smarts) not only by reading but by talking to other educated people. What can I do to better absorb what I'm reading and hearing? Any exercises or anything I can do at home and for free?", "how to absorb information. What I'm looking to do is broaden my knowledge (book/street smarts) not only by reading but by talking to other educated people. What can I do to better absorb what I'm reading and hearing? Any exercises or anything I can do at home and for free?", "how to absorb information. What I'm looking to do is broaden my knowledge (book/street smarts) not only by reading but by talking to other educated people. What can I do to better absorb what I'm reading and hearing? Any exercises or anything I can do at home and for free?" ]	[ "For reading material;\n\n1) Once you've read something, read it again and determine the important parts for your purposes. Ask yourself: what parts do I actually care about in this document? Alternatively; What parts will be important to me in this document?\n\n2) Isolate the important points by either writtng them down, typing them in a new document, or highlighting the in the original source document. \n\n3) Rewrite or Retype the important parts using fewer words.\n\n4) Attempt step 3 again until you feel the important parts are as short as you can possibly make them without losing their meaning.\n\n5) Reread the original document and then compare to the condensed points you created. Do you still think you took away the important points from the document? If yes; move on. If not; go to step 1.\n\nThis is how I learned non-math material in college that was difficult and or not interesting. \n", "A lot of people are suggesting repetition. As someone who did a double major in college... Ain't Nobody got time for that. Instead, tie concepts to things you can remember. Like one from back in highschool was \"Hot air rises.\" That has a lot tied to it so I remembered instead \"Hot air balloons.\" Well Hot Air Balloons work because the air inside is less dense than the air outside. You can expand that to things like weather, since air pressure is involved, and anything else involving how air moves. \n\nAnd that's just one thing you can do it with. If you relate somewhat abstract information to something you can remember without any effort, you'll recall it better. \n\nAlso, when you're talking to smart people, don't be afraid to take a pause to collect your thoughts before answering. It'll make you look thoughtful about what they said and keep you from embarrassing yourself.\n\nAND finally. \"I don't know\" is a great answer. As is \"My mistake\" and \"I was wrong.\" Might want to stand in a mirror and say them a few times. ", "Review each chunk of information using Spaced Repetition:\n\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spaced_repetition\n\n\n", "Focus! Don't unnecessarily multi-task and know (when hearing) If you can keep up with the flow of information." ]	[ 18, 6, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to not be scared of insects around the house. I am really scared of insects around the house, e.g. moths, daddy long legs and especially spiders. Its the time of year where they are all in the house and it puts me constantly on edge. I cannot physically be in the same room as then and always have to get family to remove them. If I come into contact with a spider at nighttime it will take me a long time to get to sleep that night due to anxiety of there being more in my room somewhere. I am perfectly aware that they are harmless because I live in the UK, and they are more scared of me etc... but I just cannot shake this fear of them and it's driving me mad.\n\n\n", "How to not be scared of insects around the house. I am really scared of insects around the house, e.g. moths, daddy long legs and especially spiders. Its the time of year where they are all in the house and it puts me constantly on edge. I cannot physically be in the same room as then and always have to get family to remove them. If I come into contact with a spider at nighttime it will take me a long time to get to sleep that night due to anxiety of there being more in my room somewhere. I am perfectly aware that they are harmless because I live in the UK, and they are more scared of me etc... but I just cannot shake this fear of them and it's driving me mad.\n\n\n", "How to not be scared of insects around the house. I am really scared of insects around the house, e.g. moths, daddy long legs and especially spiders. Its the time of year where they are all in the house and it puts me constantly on edge. I cannot physically be in the same room as then and always have to get family to remove them. If I come into contact with a spider at nighttime it will take me a long time to get to sleep that night due to anxiety of there being more in my room somewhere. I am perfectly aware that they are harmless because I live in the UK, and they are more scared of me etc... but I just cannot shake this fear of them and it's driving me mad.\n\n\n", "How to not be scared of insects around the house. I am really scared of insects around the house, e.g. moths, daddy long legs and especially spiders. Its the time of year where they are all in the house and it puts me constantly on edge. I cannot physically be in the same room as then and always have to get family to remove them. If I come into contact with a spider at nighttime it will take me a long time to get to sleep that night due to anxiety of there being more in my room somewhere. I am perfectly aware that they are harmless because I live in the UK, and they are more scared of me etc... but I just cannot shake this fear of them and it's driving me mad.\n\n\n", "How to not be scared of insects around the house. I am really scared of insects around the house, e.g. moths, daddy long legs and especially spiders. Its the time of year where they are all in the house and it puts me constantly on edge. I cannot physically be in the same room as then and always have to get family to remove them. If I come into contact with a spider at nighttime it will take me a long time to get to sleep that night due to anxiety of there being more in my room somewhere. I am perfectly aware that they are harmless because I live in the UK, and they are more scared of me etc... but I just cannot shake this fear of them and it's driving me mad.\n\n\n" ]	[ "I understand having irrational anxiety. This paranoia in particular is fairly common.\n\nGive yourself some peace of mind and get a natural insect repellent (or bug spray, if you have to). Use white sheets so you can easily take a peek and put your fears to rest since almost all bugs will stand out against it. Make sure there is absolutely no food or food/drink residue or even water in your bedroom that will attract hungry and thirsty spiders.\n\nThe next time you encounter a spider, stop yourself and just look at it. It's just trying to live. What if you were a spider or a moth? Imagine that you were.\n\nCheck out this really nifty spider catcher: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Spider-Catcher-B2001/dp/B000X26IRE/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1471055766&sr=8-1&keywords=spider+catcher\n\nYou can catch a spider and release it outside without even getting close to it.", "it's spider season where I live right now (canada, so not australia, but still gross), and there are spiders everywhere. but this year, instead of being grossed out, I smile because the start of spider season means the end of mosquito season.", "The only way people overcome fear is by exposing themselves to what they're afraid of. Start with an insect 10 feet away, 5 feet, 1 foot, etc, etc. Eventually, the fear will disappear. ", "Spiders are not insects, spiders KILL insects. Spiderbros dont crawl on you in your sleep and they generally don't want to be seen. I'd rather have 10 spiders in my room than one mosquito.", "I got over my fear of spiders by learning a lot of their habits! They're actually all pretty cool little creatures, I have several that just live in my house and carry on with their days. I've had the same wolf spider in my mud room for a month or two and a whole bunch of false widows in my kitchen for quite some time as well. I feel like we get scared of them because they're weird looking but learning about them made them cooler (the opposite happened to me with millipedes though so who knows ¯\\_(ツ)_/¯)" ]	[ 8, 3, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How can I stop my face from blushing easily? or reduce it at least? I don't know if anyone else shares this struggle but whenever I work out, I finish with a red face. It will stay red until my body completely cools down. It's embarrassing. Not only that, but when I use strength to do something, for example, a few days ago I took a CPR class, and using the manikins we had to do 30 chest compressions. While doing it, my face turned red. Just by pushing down. I let my hair down to cover my face so my partner didn't witness my flushed face. \n\nI also struggle with shyness so getting red is just too easy. It's so embarrassing. I don't know if there is any way to fix this or reduce the redness.", "How can I stop my face from blushing easily? or reduce it at least? I don't know if anyone else shares this struggle but whenever I work out, I finish with a red face. It will stay red until my body completely cools down. It's embarrassing. Not only that, but when I use strength to do something, for example, a few days ago I took a CPR class, and using the manikins we had to do 30 chest compressions. While doing it, my face turned red. Just by pushing down. I let my hair down to cover my face so my partner didn't witness my flushed face. \n\nI also struggle with shyness so getting red is just too easy. It's so embarrassing. I don't know if there is any way to fix this or reduce the redness.", "How can I stop my face from blushing easily? or reduce it at least? I don't know if anyone else shares this struggle but whenever I work out, I finish with a red face. It will stay red until my body completely cools down. It's embarrassing. Not only that, but when I use strength to do something, for example, a few days ago I took a CPR class, and using the manikins we had to do 30 chest compressions. While doing it, my face turned red. Just by pushing down. I let my hair down to cover my face so my partner didn't witness my flushed face. \n\nI also struggle with shyness so getting red is just too easy. It's so embarrassing. I don't know if there is any way to fix this or reduce the redness.", "How can I stop my face from blushing easily? or reduce it at least? I don't know if anyone else shares this struggle but whenever I work out, I finish with a red face. It will stay red until my body completely cools down. It's embarrassing. Not only that, but when I use strength to do something, for example, a few days ago I took a CPR class, and using the manikins we had to do 30 chest compressions. While doing it, my face turned red. Just by pushing down. I let my hair down to cover my face so my partner didn't witness my flushed face. \n\nI also struggle with shyness so getting red is just too easy. It's so embarrassing. I don't know if there is any way to fix this or reduce the redness.", "How can I stop my face from blushing easily? or reduce it at least? I don't know if anyone else shares this struggle but whenever I work out, I finish with a red face. It will stay red until my body completely cools down. It's embarrassing. Not only that, but when I use strength to do something, for example, a few days ago I took a CPR class, and using the manikins we had to do 30 chest compressions. While doing it, my face turned red. Just by pushing down. I let my hair down to cover my face so my partner didn't witness my flushed face. \n\nI also struggle with shyness so getting red is just too easy. It's so embarrassing. I don't know if there is any way to fix this or reduce the redness.", "How can I stop my face from blushing easily? or reduce it at least? I don't know if anyone else shares this struggle but whenever I work out, I finish with a red face. It will stay red until my body completely cools down. It's embarrassing. Not only that, but when I use strength to do something, for example, a few days ago I took a CPR class, and using the manikins we had to do 30 chest compressions. While doing it, my face turned red. Just by pushing down. I let my hair down to cover my face so my partner didn't witness my flushed face. \n\nI also struggle with shyness so getting red is just too easy. It's so embarrassing. I don't know if there is any way to fix this or reduce the redness." ]	[ "As an observer, I do notice it and most people I've encountered kept a cool composure and continued on, so I don't think too much of it. I think it's not awkward until you make it awkward.", "I also blush really easily and struggled with it growing up, feeling embarrassed about it which of course just made things worse. I still blush as an adult but basically have learned not to care anymore. It’s natural and happens to plenty of people and for some people that flushing reaction is just more pronounced due to skin tone and blood flow and whatnot. No way to prevent it as far as I know.", "I promise you nobody is gonna have an issue with it. There’s no need to be embarrassed. Some people even find it attractive.", "Why? Firstly, if it comes natural, accept it slowly.\n\nSecondly, as a man, I absolutely love women blushing. Their most effective move in the attraction dynamic.\n\nThirdly. If the blush does not have a trigger, is accompanied by heart racing, high blood pressure, headache and swearting, then it could be something else, like a rare tumour- Pheocromocytome. The first step is a visiting a GP/ Family Doctor or a cardiologist.", "I've found it helps to do subtle box breathing like this: breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, breathe out for 4 seconds.\n\nOften when we are in psychological or physical distress, we subconsciously breathe more shallow and less often. This is common when working out or feeling embarrassed. The flushing blood vessel response can indicate the body trying to compensate for alterations in breathing and heartrate to restore equilibrium and balance in the body.\n\nDeep breathing helps, but also don't beat yourself up about it. Some people are prone to flushing more readily due to differences in skin tone, vascular prominence, etc. I find it charming and very human when someone blushes, no matter the catalyst. :) I had to accept this about myself too.", "Blushed faces are kinda attractive because it signals healthy bloodflow to the primal part of someone looking haha. No need to feel embarrassed seriously cuz even with all the techniques and products its still gonna happen." ]	[ 6, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?", "How to avoid static electricity Winter is quickly approaching and where I'm from, the air gets really dry and static electricity tends to build up. Everywhere. I can feel it on my clothes, in my hair, and on my bed and just about every time I try to touch something metal in my room I get shocked. How do I avoid this?" ]	[ "I spent a year in Denver where it was very dry. I the winter you would see sparks everywhere. I fried a motherboard just by touching it. I learned to carry a metal pen, though a key would work just as well, just touch the pen to metal objects before touching the objects yourself and you'll be fine.", "You know, I actually am in the mood for the opposite, I used to have a great time in complete darkness, and watching electricity arc from my fingertips\n", "Dryer sheets might help, perhaps you could try rubbing your hands with one.\nI keep dryer sheets in my bookbag during the winter. When I take my hat off when I get inside a building, I just rub my hair down with the dryer sheet and it calms the static that seems to build up.", "Humidifiers, people. They work wonders. Also helps stop your skin from drying out and your lips from chapping while you sleep.", "I actually use [this](http://www.thinkgeek.com/product/9de7/?srp=1). Just touch it to the surface you're about to touch yourself and somehow it magically takes all the shock for you.", "Buy a humidifier and run it in your house 24/7. That'll solve the problem there and make you feel warmer.", "i don't know... but, in an old car i had, I would constantly get shocked when getting out. it had this little black button on the door, and i found that if i touched it before getting out, i wouldn't get shocked! no clue how it worked. ", "My kitty shocks me with her little wet nose constantly. I feel bad because when I go to pet her fur it's all charged up from her rubbing on the carpet. I can discharge my static before touching her, but she comes with her own..", "If you are charged up, discharge yourself by touching with your knuckles, not fingertips to things. You have so many nerves in your fingers it hurts like hell, but the knuckles have so few you'll hardly feel it.", "Dryer sheets. Last winter I would run one over my hair before leaving the house and keep one in my pocket for the inevitable static that occurred after taking off my jacket.\n\nYou can also get a humidifier to moisten up your room. Or an electric kettle. Or a big pot of water on your radiator. All of these things will decrease the dryness in your room.", "You can touch a wall with the palms of your hands to ground the electricity. There's probably a technical description of why this works which my dad lectured me on but I just can't remember it sorry.", "There's good advice here but I'll add that putting a small, crumpled up piece of aluminum foil in the dryer while drying clothes helps with keeping static at bay. I use it with my suit pants and it works great.", "I've dealt with this a lot, especially since my favorite jacket is 100% polyester. Here's what I've learned:\n\n* You can't really get away from it.\n\n* Polyester is much more prone to static than cotton is, but it doesn't seem to make much difference unless the clothing is 100% polyester. I don't know about other fabrics.\n\n* Anti-static spray (at Wal-Mart or whatever) is easy, cheap, smells nice, and works perfectly... for about one hour. Then it wears off.\n\n* It's best to get used to periodically discharging yourself by touching a doorknob, car, or anything big and metal. If you touch with your finger, it will hurt. Instead, touch with a metal pen, with your wrist, or with your elbow.", "Accept that it happens, and resolve to choose when it happens. Instead of getting surprised by a shock when you reach for a doorknob, tap the doorknob with your knuckle, which is way less sensitive than your fingertip. It'll dissipate the charge you've accumulated, and you can safely open the door. \n\nA trick I use for getting out of my car (a major source of unexpected shocks for me) is grabbing the A-Pillar after opening the door, but before sliding out of the seat. Any charge you'd build by sliding on the seat gets grounded out into the car, and you can shut the car door in peace.", "[Faraday Cage](http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Faraday_cage)\n\n\"Such an enclosure blocks external static and non-static electric fields... \"\n\nYou're welcome. ", "You can't. Static electricity is a part of life, in that human beings are the top prime ESD (electrostatic discharge) generator. You can slow the build up by avoiding static-building surfaces such as shaggy carpet, waxed floors, balloons, etc. Higher humidity will help avoid buildup, so humidifiers will be your friend! The best way to not get shocked is to periodically \"ground\" yourself, by touching a metal surface or any conductor with a solid connection to earth. Good luck! \n\n", "Whole house humidifier. Your skin will also thank you.\n\nLive in an apartment? Get a room humidifier. Run it all the time.", "The fix is to run a humidifier in your room or house. This eliminates the static electricity in the air so you don't have to worry about tricks for avoiding shocks. You can buy large humidifiers at a Walmart or Home Depot. You can even have one installed on your furnace if it's forced hot air.", "If you have some safety pins, attach one to your clothes so that it touches your skin. This always works for me.", "I carry my keys on a carbiner from a belt loop, and would always use it to take the shock for me before touching something. As long as its metal, it'll conduct and discharge your static build up for you. ", "Before getting out of your vehicle, grab onto the metal door frame first before stepping out. You will not get those nasty shocks when closing the door. ", "A friend once told me to touch the door before turning the knob to avoid static. This works for almost everything, I just have to touch an insulator before touching the conductor.\n\nI don't know the actual reason to this but I guess it is to make my body neutral by touching an insulator that is connected to the ground/earth because the charges will flow to the ground and make my body balanced.", "You're question contains the answer. The air is really dry, make the air less dry. Get a humidifier. " ]	[ 26, 19, 9, 6, 5, 5, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -2 ]	safe
[ "I'm moving out of a roach-infested place. How do I prevent carrying them with me in my baggage or clothes? ", "I'm moving out of a roach-infested place. How do I prevent carrying them with me in my baggage or clothes? ", "I'm moving out of a roach-infested place. How do I prevent carrying them with me in my baggage or clothes? ", "I'm moving out of a roach-infested place. How do I prevent carrying them with me in my baggage or clothes? ", "I'm moving out of a roach-infested place. How do I prevent carrying them with me in my baggage or clothes? ", "I'm moving out of a roach-infested place. How do I prevent carrying them with me in my baggage or clothes? " ]	[ "Shake out the clothes and bag everything in garbage bags and wash immediately after opening. Hot wash and dry will get any of the eggs or larvae and the adult ones are usually washed down the drain (if not shaken off at the old place).", "The worst things a that attract them are things that heat up coffee makers, microwave ovens. If you have a little time go get a tube of Combat Source Kill Max it works very well. It is one you can pick up locally. I helped a guy get rid of them in a house that was so bad if you moved a picture on the wall they would run, you could stand still and scan the rooms and see them moving. We got rid of them all with this stuff. ", "When this happened to me, I was fortunate enough that I had several weeks to take my sweet time moving. I sprinkled boric acid in all of my moving boxes before putting things in it. Then I'd take things to the new apartment and put them all in one room, and then sprinkled all around that room with boric acid. I'd quarantine that room for about a week, then unpack the boxes and repeat those steps with my next load of stuff. I was SO happy to be out of that old nasty apartment and I never saw signs of a single roach in my new place.", "Thank whatever deity you believe in that it's not bedbugs!\n\n-----\n\nGet *new* boxes. Any boxes in the house get thrown away. Everything goes in plastic bags before going in a box. Use white plastic bags for as much as you can. You can see through them and will notice \"stuff\" falling out.\n\nWhen packing, leave the boxes outside in the car and bring the items to them. It's a lot more work and a shitload more trips, but it's better than bringing stragglers.\n\nDo everything /u/jekewa said.\n\nToss and replace anything electrical that you can. That includes the microwave, router, coffeepot, and clocks. Anything that can't be tossed should spend at least 48 hours in a deep freeze, including your laptop after taking the battery out.\n\nIf you can, do something like the quarantine /u/alluneedisartandwine mentions.", "I'm assuming you can't replace all of it, bug-bomb it, and that you've tried bug poisons and traps in your old place to try to kill any stowaway before you pack.\n\nIf you're in the kind of climate and have the space and time, try leaving everything out in the freezing cold first, like a garage or shed away from the house, to kill anything not killed by poison.\n\nClothes you can stop with at a laundromat between. Give everything a good wash and rewash. Try a colorsafe bleach. Hang everything you can. You can try putting socks and other small things into containers so if there are stragglers that survive, they at least get trapped.\n\nThe baggage and other things are harder and will probably require close inspecting. Make sure to look in the nooks and crannies. Try to keep things of the floors and apart from each other, to keep them from being bug homes when you do store them.\n\nKeep your new place immaculate, with no food in the open and no crumbs for the little scavengers to find. Also put reach poison and traps near the food and crumb places, in case the previous tenant left surprises.\n\nAlso know that in some areas, there are always roaches, although you can reduce the infestation...", "In addition to all the previously mentioned great advice, wash ALL clothes and bedding at a laundromat before they ever enter your new place. And if you know anyone with a garage they wouldn't mind lending you for a few hours, put your electronics and other susceptible items in there, seal it up, and set off a bug bomb - they even have ones with Febreeze in them now!. With any luck, they'll be appreciative of the side benefit of killing off the creepy crawlies that tend to live in garages." ]	[ 9, 5, 3, 3, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to stop being obsessive over topics and keep bringing up the same stuff in both a social and private context. Generally, I'll familiarise myself with something - Star Wars, a new music artist, or something - and then obsess over that person or thing.\n\nChange all my social media avatars to that, talk about that only to everyone every day, etc.\n\nLike when I watched all the Star Wars movies, that's all I talked about with everyone ever. And when I started listening to Led Zeppelin, same.\n\nI want to practice and learn how to hold a varied conversation, and also how to stop becoming so obsessive myself.\n\nThank you.\n", "How to stop being obsessive over topics and keep bringing up the same stuff in both a social and private context. Generally, I'll familiarise myself with something - Star Wars, a new music artist, or something - and then obsess over that person or thing.\n\nChange all my social media avatars to that, talk about that only to everyone every day, etc.\n\nLike when I watched all the Star Wars movies, that's all I talked about with everyone ever. And when I started listening to Led Zeppelin, same.\n\nI want to practice and learn how to hold a varied conversation, and also how to stop becoming so obsessive myself.\n\nThank you.\n", "How to stop being obsessive over topics and keep bringing up the same stuff in both a social and private context. Generally, I'll familiarise myself with something - Star Wars, a new music artist, or something - and then obsess over that person or thing.\n\nChange all my social media avatars to that, talk about that only to everyone every day, etc.\n\nLike when I watched all the Star Wars movies, that's all I talked about with everyone ever. And when I started listening to Led Zeppelin, same.\n\nI want to practice and learn how to hold a varied conversation, and also how to stop becoming so obsessive myself.\n\nThank you.\n", "How to stop being obsessive over topics and keep bringing up the same stuff in both a social and private context. Generally, I'll familiarise myself with something - Star Wars, a new music artist, or something - and then obsess over that person or thing.\n\nChange all my social media avatars to that, talk about that only to everyone every day, etc.\n\nLike when I watched all the Star Wars movies, that's all I talked about with everyone ever. And when I started listening to Led Zeppelin, same.\n\nI want to practice and learn how to hold a varied conversation, and also how to stop becoming so obsessive myself.\n\nThank you.\n" ]	[ "I used to have a bad habit of repeating myself, when in a conversation. Often times I would think of this really clever topic during a conversation, and bring it up out of no where just because I found it awesome! Don't do that. This was a bad habit of mine until I realized that I just needed to go with the flow of the conversation! So here's my advice to you, go with flow! Don't be so concentrated on a certain topic, question, or story that you are bound and determine to mention. When these thoughts come into your mind, you need to let them come and let them go. Be in the moment of conversation!", "You do that too? Wow. Same here, man. Once I become so darn interested in something, I end up knowing everything there is about that topic in a week or so. I haven't really figured out how to completely stop doing that, sorry, but I've learned how to tone it down a notch: by taking a step back. I automatically (and very slowly) stop watching that show/movie for a while and start doing something else. I've been obsessing over stuff for so long I guess my brain's tired of itself. Not really helpful, I know; sorry!", "Try Active Listening for start, when the Person you are talking with is interested in the Topic then why change it? \n\nIf you have a problem with recurring Topics for your own: Have some \"sideinterests\" you can also talk about. If you are a huge Star Wars fan you could also admire the Star Trek universe. Also have allways some \"standard live topics\" like: Plants you like or good food or the City you are living in. Its boring to think about that but often you will jump start a fun conversation about things you did not consider. \n\nObsession is something you can not avoid, but you can be obsessed by so many things. If you notice you are trying to hard to bring something up in a conversation then you should find a new obsession, maybe the stuff your conversation partner will talk about. \n\nHope that helped you. ", "Please understand that I'm asking you this seriously and with helpful intentions. Have you been screened for Aspberger's? I have read that this is a common trait for those on the spectrum. The only reason I ask is that, if you are on the spectrum, there are specific types of therapy that can help with the issue you're describing. :-)" ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I make my own weight plate substitutes for a home gym? I have a home gym and I want alternatives to adding more weight to the bar instead of purchasing more weight plates at a store, likely something that won’t snap or break off my barbell while in use because it’s container isn’t strong enough. Any ideas or hints are helpful!", "How can I make my own weight plate substitutes for a home gym? I have a home gym and I want alternatives to adding more weight to the bar instead of purchasing more weight plates at a store, likely something that won’t snap or break off my barbell while in use because it’s container isn’t strong enough. Any ideas or hints are helpful!", "How can I make my own weight plate substitutes for a home gym? I have a home gym and I want alternatives to adding more weight to the bar instead of purchasing more weight plates at a store, likely something that won’t snap or break off my barbell while in use because it’s container isn’t strong enough. Any ideas or hints are helpful!" ]	[ "You can make concrete plates if you really want to. Use a pvc pipe as the center cuff to make it smoother on and off the bar.\n\nI'm all for the waterbags. But at home I only use a trx so good luck and big gains.", "You could try adding resistance bands by securing them on the floor under the bar, and pulling them up along with your weights. They are cheap and come in weight equivalents (mine are anywhere from 2lb to 30lb). I have not tried this, but technically if you wanted to say, add 20 pounds you could tie a 10lb band to each side, maybe between your existing weight plates.", "Scrapyards often sell anything they have for about twice the buying rate (think 16 cents/pound). Many have a pile of plates somewhere for just this reason, they're ridiculously expensive in stores. \n\nFailing that, a couple big chunks of iron would work." ]	[ 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Keeping bugs out of a dorm room There's about an inch-high gap between the bottom of our dorm room door and the common area, which has roaches. We thought about installing a sweeper on the bottom but are reluctant to drill holes in the door. Does anyone have a non-permanent solution?\n\n", "Keeping bugs out of a dorm room There's about an inch-high gap between the bottom of our dorm room door and the common area, which has roaches. We thought about installing a sweeper on the bottom but are reluctant to drill holes in the door. Does anyone have a non-permanent solution?\n\n", "Keeping bugs out of a dorm room There's about an inch-high gap between the bottom of our dorm room door and the common area, which has roaches. We thought about installing a sweeper on the bottom but are reluctant to drill holes in the door. Does anyone have a non-permanent solution?\n\n", "Keeping bugs out of a dorm room There's about an inch-high gap between the bottom of our dorm room door and the common area, which has roaches. We thought about installing a sweeper on the bottom but are reluctant to drill holes in the door. Does anyone have a non-permanent solution?\n\n", "Keeping bugs out of a dorm room There's about an inch-high gap between the bottom of our dorm room door and the common area, which has roaches. We thought about installing a sweeper on the bottom but are reluctant to drill holes in the door. Does anyone have a non-permanent solution?\n\n", "Keeping bugs out of a dorm room There's about an inch-high gap between the bottom of our dorm room door and the common area, which has roaches. We thought about installing a sweeper on the bottom but are reluctant to drill holes in the door. Does anyone have a non-permanent solution?\n\n" ]	[ "Best option: get rid of the roaches from the day room. Aren't there health regulation on this kind of thing? Take pictures for proof.\n\nYou can seal the gap, but if they find another way in, you're back at square one.", "Google search Diatomaceous Earth. Sprinkle around where bugs are found. It's essentially fossilized plankton, and it's microscopic and naturally barbed. Gets under bug shells, pierces them, they die. End of bugs. Plus, super cheap. Also, make a trip to local home improvement store to check out what they recommend. ", "A few ideas:\n\n1) Complain to you Residency Head. I had roaches in my Dorm and they reimbursed me for traps. \n\n2)http://www.amazon.com/Unknown-601900-Draft-Guard-Brown/dp/B00078ZJPG/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1318525925&sr=8-1 This might help AND will help keep your room a constant temp.. I know how drafty dorms can be.", "some excerpts from [wiki-how](http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-Roaches)\n\n* One part each powdered (not granular) boric acid, white flour and white sugar. Place in the backs of drawers and cabinets, under refrigerator, stove, etc.\n* a jar of water placed next to a wall, allowing the roaches to get in, but not escape. Any bait can be placed in the jar, including coffee grounds and water, but it also works with just plain water in drier climates.\n\nanother wiki how suggests duct-tape in a dark corner, sticky side up, with dab of peanut butter or piece of onion on it over night", "Spray [this](http://www.lowes.com/pd_11983-446-0195310_4294772321_4294937087_?productId=3009865&Ns=p_product_prd_lis_ord_nbr\|0\|\|p_product_qty_sales_dollar\|1&pl=1&currentURL=%2Fpl_Home%2BInsect%2BControl_4294772321_4294937087_%3FNs%3Dp_product_prd_lis_ord_nbr%7C0%7C%7Cp_product_qty_sales_dollar%7C1&facetInfo=) all around the doorjamb. I'm talking top, bottom and sides on both sides of the doorway. I had a problem this spring with a huge roach coming in via my well-sealed garage door (where the trash container is) three times in one week. I was like, \"NOPENOPENOPE!\" I sprayed as described above, and no problems since. Good luck!", "The other day some huge type of pede (million or centimeters I'll never know) and that guy scared the shit out of me due to surprise, like I thought I wad too far north for giant jungle bugs. " ]	[ 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to keep (women's) shoes from painfully rubbing on the heel. I'm talking shoes that require no socks, like flats. It seems Most of my shoes aren't broken in because I can't walk in them long enough to do so. I've tried band aids, but those get rubbed off after 5mins walking. Does anyone know discreet ways to stay comfortable?", "How to keep (women's) shoes from painfully rubbing on the heel. I'm talking shoes that require no socks, like flats. It seems Most of my shoes aren't broken in because I can't walk in them long enough to do so. I've tried band aids, but those get rubbed off after 5mins walking. Does anyone know discreet ways to stay comfortable?", "How to keep (women's) shoes from painfully rubbing on the heel. I'm talking shoes that require no socks, like flats. It seems Most of my shoes aren't broken in because I can't walk in them long enough to do so. I've tried band aids, but those get rubbed off after 5mins walking. Does anyone know discreet ways to stay comfortable?", "How to keep (women's) shoes from painfully rubbing on the heel. I'm talking shoes that require no socks, like flats. It seems Most of my shoes aren't broken in because I can't walk in them long enough to do so. I've tried band aids, but those get rubbed off after 5mins walking. Does anyone know discreet ways to stay comfortable?", "How to keep (women's) shoes from painfully rubbing on the heel. I'm talking shoes that require no socks, like flats. It seems Most of my shoes aren't broken in because I can't walk in them long enough to do so. I've tried band aids, but those get rubbed off after 5mins walking. Does anyone know discreet ways to stay comfortable?", "How to keep (women's) shoes from painfully rubbing on the heel. I'm talking shoes that require no socks, like flats. It seems Most of my shoes aren't broken in because I can't walk in them long enough to do so. I've tried band aids, but those get rubbed off after 5mins walking. Does anyone know discreet ways to stay comfortable?", "How to keep (women's) shoes from painfully rubbing on the heel. I'm talking shoes that require no socks, like flats. It seems Most of my shoes aren't broken in because I can't walk in them long enough to do so. I've tried band aids, but those get rubbed off after 5mins walking. Does anyone know discreet ways to stay comfortable?", "How to keep (women's) shoes from painfully rubbing on the heel. I'm talking shoes that require no socks, like flats. It seems Most of my shoes aren't broken in because I can't walk in them long enough to do so. I've tried band aids, but those get rubbed off after 5mins walking. Does anyone know discreet ways to stay comfortable?" ]	[ "The problem may actually be that you are buying the wrong size shoes. A lot of people buy a longer length than they need to get the width they need. Many stores carry wider widths now, you could try going up a width and down a size and see if they feel better. I used to sell shoes and I saw this all the time. ", "A few tips:\n\n* Break them in by wearing them around the house with socks. Just don't let your roommate catch you cleaning the kitchen wearing high heels with gym socks. \n\n* If they are made of vinyl (not cloth or real leather) warm them up with the hair dryer, then jam your foot in and wear until they are cool again. The heat makes the plastic temporarily stretchy and pliable. \n\n* Buy a set of those $5 heel inserts (look in your grocery store next to the shoe polish). The adhesive on them is pretty weak-- I secure them to the shoe with proper glue so they don't peel off. \n\n* If they are real leather or cloth, take them to a cobbler and ask them if they do shoe stretching. Should cost around $10. ", "They make little socks to wear with flats... they pull up over your heel and toes and don't cover the top of your foot.", "Try putting the bandaid on the shoe where it rubs you, rather than on you. This worked when the back of a heel came up slightly too far to be comfortable for me.", "This changed my life. It's bandaid kind of deodorant looking stuff. It rolls on. I will check on the name. \n\nI bought my first semi- expensive pair of shoes, wore them one day, and my feet were bleeding in the back. Flash forward to this summer. Wore them again after application, totally fine! I can wear any shoe with this stuff. Stops chafing, rubbing, etc. \n\nIf anyone else knows about this, please throw out the name lol sorry!! ", "My trick, put a bandaid so that the soft part is right where the shoe rubs your heel, but under the shoe line so that it stays hidden. I've also heard baby powder works, but I haven't tried that.", "Look for Mole Skin. I think Dr. Scholl's makes some. \nIt's sticky on one side and like almost like flannel on the other side. It's made to put on your skin and take the friction, but you can put it in the shoe too. Don't be stingy, cut the piece a bit big, it won't come off as easily that way:)", "I just wanted to say that I share your pain :(\n\nI literally can't wear anything other than sneaks or flip flops if I don't want to get blisters. " ]	[ 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to remove smell of vomit from carpet. My dog was sick on my rug the other and the smell is just lingering around. How can I get rid of the root cause of the smell from the rug? ", "How to remove smell of vomit from carpet. My dog was sick on my rug the other and the smell is just lingering around. How can I get rid of the root cause of the smell from the rug? " ]	[ "Corn flour to get the wetness out and a glass of vinegar in the same enclosed space. This works when a kid barf in your car too.", "Vinegar. Soak the spot in vinegar then use a towel to clear it up. If its in the air... Put a small pot of water on the stove with some citrus rinds or a cinnamon stick and let it boil for about 15 mins. " ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to be a better conversationalist I don't seem to have the ability to carry on a conversation for more that 5 minutes and I know people who are worse than that.", "How to be a better conversationalist I don't seem to have the ability to carry on a conversation for more that 5 minutes and I know people who are worse than that.", "How to be a better conversationalist I don't seem to have the ability to carry on a conversation for more that 5 minutes and I know people who are worse than that." ]	[ "This is a good post that actually helped me from Imgur - very straightforward\n\nhttp://imgur.com/gallery/pqyEYax", "I read a post a few days ago which said in order to keep conversation rolling, focus on the nouns.\n\ne.g. \"My Mom and I are going out for dinner on tuesday.\"\n\nThat's three opportunities right there to continue conversation.", "The secret to great conversation is to talk about the other person and their interests. Be polite and pleasant; sprinkle in a little humor, and just try to enjoy the exchange." ]	[ 6, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "As a student coming home for the holidays, how can I balance spending regular time with my family while still going out and doing things I WANT to do? ", "As a student coming home for the holidays, how can I balance spending regular time with my family while still going out and doing things I WANT to do? ", "As a student coming home for the holidays, how can I balance spending regular time with my family while still going out and doing things I WANT to do? " ]	[ "time with family occurs from lunch to dinner...time with friends after dinner and then sleep in until lunch time and repeat", "I commend you for trying to create a balance. Maybe try to determine the times/occasions that your parents REALLY want you around.. maybe they enjoy your company during breakfast/dinner time. Maybe they would love to just sit around and catch up with you every few days... maybe they need help with some stuff around the house.. those kinds of things. Most people have a hard time realizing what they mean to other people.. this seems like one of those times.\nI'm 33 with two very young children of my own. Let me tell you, there is nothing more in this universe that i love more than my kids... your parents probably feel the same way. Someday, however, they will find me annoying to be around. \n\nYour friends will probably be around longer than your parents... time goes FAST. You'll be amazed at how a little time here and there with your parents would really mean the world to them.\n\nAgain, i commend you for trying. it isn't easy.", "Are your parents home during the day? Do they work? Are they on holiday for part or all of the time you are home? If your friends and girlfriend are also on winter break it may be easier to spend more time during the day with them and more time with your folks in the evening/weekend. Also something that might be nice to do, is have a bit of one on one time with each parent doing something with them they like to do and talking/listening to them. Depending on your parents quality time might be more valuable to them than quantity time. " ]	[ 4, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "Ways to keep your arm from \"falling asleep\" in the middle of the night? I feel like I wake up multiple times a night with my arm asleep and in noodle form. No matter what position I fall asleep in, I always seem to roll over onto one of my arms.", "Ways to keep your arm from \"falling asleep\" in the middle of the night? I feel like I wake up multiple times a night with my arm asleep and in noodle form. No matter what position I fall asleep in, I always seem to roll over onto one of my arms.", "Ways to keep your arm from \"falling asleep\" in the middle of the night? I feel like I wake up multiple times a night with my arm asleep and in noodle form. No matter what position I fall asleep in, I always seem to roll over onto one of my arms." ]	[ "It happens to me every damn night. Sometimes I'm really sure that the paralysis are going to stay forever.", "If you sleep on your stomach... Stop. Try to sleep lying with your head on your hands. doing that and lying on my back worked for me. ", "If you sleep on your side and therefor roll onto your arm, consider a special pillow like that one: [arm pillow](http://adriancrowe.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/arm-sleeper-pillow.jpg).\n\nIf you find a better idea, please let me know...\n\n" ]	[ 5, 5, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to clear a bath tub drain that is clogged cheap and effectively. I am not opposed to store bought options. I just need to know what works best for bathtub clogs; most likely hair caused. ", "How to clear a bath tub drain that is clogged cheap and effectively. I am not opposed to store bought options. I just need to know what works best for bathtub clogs; most likely hair caused. ", "How to clear a bath tub drain that is clogged cheap and effectively. I am not opposed to store bought options. I just need to know what works best for bathtub clogs; most likely hair caused. ", "How to clear a bath tub drain that is clogged cheap and effectively. I am not opposed to store bought options. I just need to know what works best for bathtub clogs; most likely hair caused. ", "How to clear a bath tub drain that is clogged cheap and effectively. I am not opposed to store bought options. I just need to know what works best for bathtub clogs; most likely hair caused. ", "How to clear a bath tub drain that is clogged cheap and effectively. I am not opposed to store bought options. I just need to know what works best for bathtub clogs; most likely hair caused. ", "How to clear a bath tub drain that is clogged cheap and effectively. I am not opposed to store bought options. I just need to know what works best for bathtub clogs; most likely hair caused. ", "How to clear a bath tub drain that is clogged cheap and effectively. I am not opposed to store bought options. I just need to know what works best for bathtub clogs; most likely hair caused. ", "How to clear a bath tub drain that is clogged cheap and effectively. I am not opposed to store bought options. I just need to know what works best for bathtub clogs; most likely hair caused. ", "How to clear a bath tub drain that is clogged cheap and effectively. I am not opposed to store bought options. I just need to know what works best for bathtub clogs; most likely hair caused. " ]	[ "Plumber here. Do not under any circumstances pour bleach or boiling water down your drain, which will inevitably get posted here. If and when it fails to clear the clog, you've now got hazardous chemicals and boiling water sitting in a drain pipe. PVC plastic has a melting temperature between 100 and 200 degrees C. Don't take the risk of it melting through the pipe.\n\nThat said, what I do on every call is first pull the drain cover. It's either going to have a single screw you can remove, the whole thing will unscrew, or it's a two piece (hold the bottom part still and unscrew the top). They're not too hard to figure out, but if you can't get it take a picture of yours and I'll tell you how. Now, if there's hair sitting at the top of the drain it's easy. Either get one of [these](http://www.amazon.com/Turbo-Snake-Original-Pieces-Included/dp/B002JA5R7U) (I keep dozens on my truck) or just straighten out a clothes hanger and put a little hook on the end and pull all the hair. You can even get the hair out with just a pair of channel locks and a screw driver. That should clear the clog. \n\nIf the clog is further down the line you can try to use a regular plunger to push it through, or if that doesn't work you may want to call a plumber to bring out the big guns.\n\nHope that helps!", "You can get a long plastic thing with a bunch of hooks on it for under $5 and it works great. Called a zip zap maybe? Push it down the drain and it will come back out looking like small hairy critter.", "Baking Soda and Vinegar. Works wonders on sink clogs at least, I'd assume it would work on tubs as well. Just put a ton of baking soda down, add a bit of water if you have a weird drain, so it goes down. Make sure it's good and settled, then pour vinegar down\n\nIf it's pure hair, check the liquid plumber area of the store, not for the actual product (cause they rarely do anything) but some times they come with a plastic snake you can shove down to get at hair. They might even sell the snake by itself", "Pour in a can of coke and a spoonful of baking powder... wait 10-15 minutes... I use a wire hanger to fish out the hair... then just rinse it with hot water... ", "Last time we had a serious clog my husband removed the drain cover and sucked the hairy gunk out with a shop vac. It was disgusting but worked amazingly well. ", "I've used enzymatic drain cleaners in the past with great success. Basically they cost between $8-18, depending on brand, where you get it, etc., and you follow the directions, usually pouring some down the drain for a few days until finally the clog is gone. Enzymatic drain cleaners contain bacteria and enzymes that eat away at organic matter inside the plumbing, but unlike most commercial solutions they have low environmental impact and are quite safe to use.\n\nBut like I said, using one of those, it'll take 2-3 days for your clog to disappear; after that, clear drains! At the very least, it saves you from pulling up disgusting hair and other guck with a wire.", "The best thing I have used is the \"zip-it\" It is a long plastic thing with very sharp claw like things on it. Stick it down the drain and pull it out. Costs a couple of dollars:\nhttp://reviews.homedepot.com/1999/100665735/zip-it-bath-and-sink-hair-snare-reviews/reviews.htm", "I recently had great success using a plunger. My roommate used some draino, which helped a little. I wasn't satisfied with this, so I tried a coat hanger, which then made it worse (I think I scraped gunk off the sides). I then made a desperation attempt with the plunger, and now it's draining better than it has since we've lived here.", "For my shower, it's usually just clogged around a bit of metal that goes across the drain. I just fish out the giant horrid glob with some needlenose pliars, and the tub drains 10x faster for another year", "Remove any physical clogs like hair and stuff. If that doesn't work, pour a half cup of baking soda in the drain followed by another half cup of vinegar. COVER THE DRAIN AS QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE because this is your middle school volcano science experiement alllll over again. Keep that sealed tight for a couple of minutes while the foam pushes down and through the pipe. After 15 minutes, pour lots of very hot/near boiling water down the drain to flush. Repeat if necessary.\n\n" ]	[ 59, 10, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 0 ]	safe
[ "how do I keep control of the electric cord when using my weed wacker? I use the little hook on the machine itself, wrap it around my wrist, then over my shoulder. But it still seems to get in the way. And today, I noticed my husband taped it in two spots with electrical tape, so I guess he hit it too. How do I keep this from happening when I buy a new cord?", "how do I keep control of the electric cord when using my weed wacker? I use the little hook on the machine itself, wrap it around my wrist, then over my shoulder. But it still seems to get in the way. And today, I noticed my husband taped it in two spots with electrical tape, so I guess he hit it too. How do I keep this from happening when I buy a new cord?" ]	[ "There's a technique to spooling cords known as the figure of 8, or the over under, that allows them to be stored, held and released without kinking or tangling.\n\nIf you use this technique it's simple to hold in one hand and let off loops as you need them.\n\nSource: former sound engineer and studio technician, also amateur gardener...", "Depends on your yard, but try and start from the closest spot to the plug and work outwards. That way the cord is always behind you. If you start farther away and work back the cord is fully extended and you’re walking over it the whole time. " ]	[ 3, 3 ]	safe
[ "How do you handle a move when you lose your home but do not have a new permanent residence lined up? ", "How do you handle a move when you lose your home but do not have a new permanent residence lined up? ", "How do you handle a move when you lose your home but do not have a new permanent residence lined up? ", "How do you handle a move when you lose your home but do not have a new permanent residence lined up? " ]	[ "Depends a lot of your financial situation.\n\nIf you can afford to, pay for storage for your things. If you can't see if any friends or family would be willing to keep it for you. Make sure that is a limited time thing.\n\nMaybe find a cheap motel if you don't have friends or family to stay with. Shelters are an option but it will in no way be private, be prepared for that. And arrive early if the places are smaller to try and assure you get a bed. If you're in the area affected by the polar vortex many places are opening lobbies and the like. Ask around.\n\nLiving in a car is definitely an option, but make sure you don't park anywhere that is regularly patrolled by cops or community watch. Also make sure to park in different places so no one reports regularly seeing the car.\n", "I’m going through the same thing currently. I was able to put most of my things in storage and have spent a few nights in my car (which is mostly full of the rest of my belongings) luckily my gf and I were able to find a cheap Airbnb for the week and we split the cost. I did look into Craigslist as well and did see some rooms for rent that were furnished, but anything affordable was in very bad neighborhoods. I’m in the SF Bay Area. Oh also remember that Walmart allows camping overnight parking in their parking lots.\nGood luck !", "Go onto Craigslist and see if someone has a room to rent. Usually they will be furnished and cheaper than a hotel. \n\nYou can park your stuff in a storage unit for a month or two until you get your living situation sorted out.\n\nYou may be able to find a shelter in your area that can give you a place to stay for the night. If you are in the US dial 211 to get connected with services that can help. ", "I've lived in my vehicle a couple different times. Luckily always had friends with couches to crash on." ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "After drying my clothes I put them away into a travel bag, when I opened it they smelled really bad, how do I get rid of it? I've tried washing them multiple times, I use dryer sheets and good smelling fabric softener.", "After drying my clothes I put them away into a travel bag, when I opened it they smelled really bad, how do I get rid of it? I've tried washing them multiple times, I use dryer sheets and good smelling fabric softener." ]	[ "Vinegar and lemon diluted in water. Spot treat the fabric, then put in wash. Test on small part of fabric first. ", "You can also leave them out in directory sunlight, if I understand you correctly and they are mildewed. " ]	[ 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "25 year old guy, sounds like a girl FML :-( Okay so its not quite as dramatic as it sounds, but yeah, I'm 25 and my voice never broke. Its causing me issues.\nI hate speaking to anyone for fear of ridicule, what to do?", "25 year old guy, sounds like a girl FML :-( Okay so its not quite as dramatic as it sounds, but yeah, I'm 25 and my voice never broke. Its causing me issues.\nI hate speaking to anyone for fear of ridicule, what to do?", "25 year old guy, sounds like a girl FML :-( Okay so its not quite as dramatic as it sounds, but yeah, I'm 25 and my voice never broke. Its causing me issues.\nI hate speaking to anyone for fear of ridicule, what to do?", "25 year old guy, sounds like a girl FML :-( Okay so its not quite as dramatic as it sounds, but yeah, I'm 25 and my voice never broke. Its causing me issues.\nI hate speaking to anyone for fear of ridicule, what to do?", "25 year old guy, sounds like a girl FML :-( Okay so its not quite as dramatic as it sounds, but yeah, I'm 25 and my voice never broke. Its causing me issues.\nI hate speaking to anyone for fear of ridicule, what to do?", "25 year old guy, sounds like a girl FML :-( Okay so its not quite as dramatic as it sounds, but yeah, I'm 25 and my voice never broke. Its causing me issues.\nI hate speaking to anyone for fear of ridicule, what to do?", "25 year old guy, sounds like a girl FML :-( Okay so its not quite as dramatic as it sounds, but yeah, I'm 25 and my voice never broke. Its causing me issues.\nI hate speaking to anyone for fear of ridicule, what to do?", "25 year old guy, sounds like a girl FML :-( Okay so its not quite as dramatic as it sounds, but yeah, I'm 25 and my voice never broke. Its causing me issues.\nI hate speaking to anyone for fear of ridicule, what to do?", "25 year old guy, sounds like a girl FML :-( Okay so its not quite as dramatic as it sounds, but yeah, I'm 25 and my voice never broke. Its causing me issues.\nI hate speaking to anyone for fear of ridicule, what to do?", "25 year old guy, sounds like a girl FML :-( Okay so its not quite as dramatic as it sounds, but yeah, I'm 25 and my voice never broke. Its causing me issues.\nI hate speaking to anyone for fear of ridicule, what to do?", "25 year old guy, sounds like a girl FML :-( Okay so its not quite as dramatic as it sounds, but yeah, I'm 25 and my voice never broke. Its causing me issues.\nI hate speaking to anyone for fear of ridicule, what to do?" ]	[ "Confidence is key.\n\nYou're probably not going to be able to do a ton to sound deeper.\n\nThat's ok.\n\nThere are lots of fat, skinny, ugly guys out there who live their lives vitally.\n\nThe key is confidence.\n\nPeople are attracted to and feel comfortable around people who feel comfortable with themselves.\n\nIf speaking brings you anxiety, I highly recommend you take a speech class like Toastmasters or take an entry-level acting class.\n\nThese types of activities will get you used to speaking in front of and around others and with each successful project you'll feel more comfortable in your ability to talk around others without freezing up.\n\nAre there people that might make fun of you for your voice?\n\nYes.\n\nBut nearly everyone has something about them that's potentially a target.\n\nDon't let fear of failure in life rob you of all success.\n\nYou can do it, man.", "You could consult a voice therapist. Mostly they work with people who have had laryngeal surgery or vocal disorders, but your situation might also be something they could assist with. At the very least, you could learn how to make the most out of what you have.\n\nOn a related note (pun intended), you might also try singing lessons. Proper vocal warmups and training can help you expand your low register. ", "There is a fair percent of women who find your voice Sexy af, if it makes you feel any better.\n\nI have 2 female friends who talk about how high pitched or \"girlish\" voices are hot.\n\nYou will probably get laid one day solely because of your voice. I'd be hella confident if I was you. ", "Sorry, on mobile right now, but look up \"Yo Elliott\" on YouTube...name is like Elliot Hulst. I think he did a video of exercises to do to deepen your voice...and you can tell it did something if you check out his older videos. ", "For the record [Theodore Fucking Roosevelt](http://www.cracked.com/article_15895_the-5-most-badass-presidents-all-time.html), one of the most badass individuals who graced the face of God's green earth, had [a relatively high pitched voice.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HYn5FJnvrZk)\n\nI believe they said the same of Alexander the Great as well. In any case, focus on being a better you, and your greatness will shine through whatever the obstacles in the way of other's perceptions.", "I can't give you much advice, but my opinion is you shouldn't worry about this at all. I dunno if you're straight or gay but my best mate is a small, slim lad with a very high, gentle voice and he is constantly surrounded by girls since I forced him to get out of the same place you're in. \n\nPeople won't judge you for your voice, and if they do they're not worth your time. ", "[Your post reminded me of this video.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eitQYgCqA-0) It's probably not relevant to you but just in case!\n\nYour voice is probably not as high as you think it is! Either way there's no use obsessing over things that you cannot change.", "This is not exactly something you can train. If you are so inclined, speak to a perch pathologist, they may help. \n\nThe biggest thing is about you and your self concept. Being able to shrug it off is paramount because long term it can affect your mental health. ", "People will care less about how your voice sounds and more about what you have to say (as long as you have something to say).\n\nSource: am female, couldn't care less if a guy has a higher/softer voice, say the right things and it just doesn't matter! ", "Keep recordings of people like JFk( hey, he has a higher pitched voice, and not only is he not the only president, but Marilyn Monroe slept with him, just saying), and then work on just speaking well and being charming. No one cares about the octave when what's coming out is charming. :D", "I heard of an excercise by some youtube guy, I'm sorry I don't have the info on the guy anymore! But basically, someone noticed that at the start of his youtube career his voice was more high pitched, so they asked him about it. He claims he was doing this excerise which involved humming and bouncing on the balls of his heels everyday. He claims it pulled his voice down deeper, and even if you try this you can hear as you hum that your voice will drop with each bounce.\n\nDunno if there is any truth in the claims that it can lower your voice, but it's worth a shot if it bothers you so much.\n\nFound it!\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P41ER1Wmkj0" ]	[ 20, 8, 3, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?", "What to do with my hands while standing? I read that putting your hands in your pocket and folding them are both sanding a very bad vibe, but when i stand with them on the sides i feel like a robot. What should i do with them while standing, or how can i avoid the awkward feeling i get when standing with them on the sides?" ]	[ "If it's a situation where you not only want to avoid seeming awkward, but also want to project competence and strength, then slowly, continuously, and simultaneously rub belly and pat head. Pref while making strong, unbroken eye contact. Not a joke. I am dead ass serious.", "Hold one hand loosely in the other with elbows slightly bent. Google pictures of Prince William - he's good at hand management. Also 1 hand in a pocket is ok (leave thumb out), with the other arm bent at the elbow, hand in a loose fist. Google men at casual photocalls for a good example.", "Parade rest (rest hands behind your back, right hand closed and cupped by left hand)\n\nInterlaced (loosely) hands on your front, palms up\n\nClasp one hand with the other (similar to parade rest) on the front", "I tend to go with what they taught us in the Marines - Parade Rest.\n\nStand with your feet shoulder width apart, place your right hand behind your back at the small of it, palm out, and place your left hand behind it, holding the back of your right.", "The rule I was given (by my friend in junior high) was that you don’t put the thumb with the fingers. So, you put the fingers in the pocket but the thumb stays out, or vice versa.\n\nI have no idea how widespread this notion is, but I’ve done it ever since and never felt ostracized as a result, so I guess it serves the purpose of evading “bad vibes.”", "You can put them behind your back. Start picking your ass. Cup your groin and start furiously masterbating. You can start slapping your boobs or if you don't have boobs slap some one else's boobs beside you.\n\nOr you can just put your hands in your God damn pocket if you feel most comfortable.", "A trick I've learned for nixing that uncomfortable feeling is to only slip your thumbs into the side-edge of your pockets, keeping the rest of your hand outside them at your sides. Totally eliminates that feeling, doesn't give off any awful vibes!", "Just go full double bird at anyone and everyone who passes. Still sends a bad vibe, but it's an intentional bad vibe. Own it.", "One trick I have learned is to lean your body weight on your right foot. Relax your jaw so that your tongue is slightly visible but not out. Use your left hand to grab your crotch. At that point your right hand can do anything or be anywhere and it won't be out of place, just don't place it on your crotch unless you are switching hands as it will be too much.", "Good question. I'm awkward af so if im.not playing with my phone, I always end up picking at my nails or putting my hands on my hips, making me look like I'm mad or something. 🤦🏻‍♀️", "Actor, here. Standing with your arms by your sides may FEEL robotic, but it doesn't necessarily LOOK robotic. \n\nAs long as you \"rest\" them comfortably at your sides, it'll look all right. And you'll soon get used to it.", "Just to let you know there is nothing wrong with leaving both hands in your pocket as long as the thumbs hang out OR if both hands are submerged in your pockets just always make sure your chest is upright and out. This will make you seem cool, confident, and a little mysterious. \n\nSource: The coolest, bad ass, most calm and collected W3 Helicopter pilot I worked with in the military. Always carried out conversations with his hands in his pockets which is a big no no in the military but no one could tell him shit." ]	[ 26, 13, 6, 6, 5, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything.", "Anything and everything to deal with allergies My allergies have always been terrible, and the past few days I've been feeling really awful, and I've spent most of today sneezing practically every couple minutes despite taking allergy meds in the morning. My eyes are constantly half closed from the single fact that my nose keeps \"itching\" like mad.\n\nSo I'm requesting everything and anything to do with dealing with allergies, easening it up, anything." ]	[ "This is purely anecdotal, and will probably get buried, but I am begging you to listen right now. I have horrible allergies, so bad that I have to take two inhalers at least once a day. Last month I realized that I have had the same pillows for years-even though I washed them, they were still about 6 years old. I went to the store and got a hypo-allergenic mattress cover (it was maybe 20 bucks) and 4 brand new pillows. Guess what-I haven't used my inhaler since. Since most people are pretty sensitive to dust mites (I'm just on the hyper-sensitive end of the spectrum) I'm hoping this will help you and other allergy sufferers. Also remember to wash bedding and furniture covers in hot water to kill the mites once a week, and I know this sounds crazy, but vacuum your furniture and your mattress weekly or bi-weekly as well. Replace your pillows and keep them covered up during the day. Hope this helps you guys, it sure made me feel better! (:", "Chemotherapy cured my allergies. Though I wouldn't recommend going out and getting cancer as a viable option. ", "I'm guessing you're already taking anithistamines and/or glucocorticoids, but you should talk to your doctor about [allergen immunotherapy](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Allergy_desensitization). \nIt's a long term solution and probably won't be able to help you this season, but I've seen it work wonders for people and since you sound so badly effected you could really stand to gain a lot from it. It also doesn't involve any need to take drugs if that's something that worries you. The tip to eat locally produced honey works in the same way (but is much less effective).", "Wash your face often. Especially when coming from outside. Pollen and other allergens with still be attached to your face and will then get into your nose while you are inside.", "Keep you pillow cover stored during the day and only take it out before you go to bed in order to prevent allergens from gathering on it during the day. Also wash your face and hair at night before bed as allergenswill be attached from your days activity.", "Here it is: prescription Flonase. Has basically eradicated my allergies, including itchy eyes, one I've started using this. ", "I have always been allergic to cats; quite severely when I was young. Then I got cats anyway. At first I took Claritin every day, which was only moderately effective. I used Visine for my itchy eyes. Then I ran out of Claritin and noticed I wasn't having symptoms. After a few months, I didn't have any reaction to them at all, even when they were touching my face or sleeping on my freaking pillow. What's really weird is I also didn't have seasonal allergies anymore.\n\nI can only conclude that cats are magic. Possibly an evil magic that can be appeased with plenty of kibbles and belly rubs. So my advice is to stop pissing off the allergy gods and get a kitten. ", "I don't know if this will work for you, but it has certainly worked for me. Do me a favor and read the whole thing before dismissing the idea and/or downvoting. It'll probably sound kind of shady at first, but towards the end I offer an explanation for why I believe it works, other than the fact that I just feel better and want it to work.\n\n----------------------------------------\n\nFirst some background. I have had bad allergies for my entire life. I take Claritin, Flonase, and Singulair every day, and take monthly allergy shots. I'm better with those things than I am without, but even still my allergies have been really bad for years. I see an allergy specialist in addition to my regular doctor, and it's gotten to the point that if I'm sick that I can basically just go to him and tell him what I want because he and other doctors are more or less out of ideas. Because of my bad allergies, I also have exercised induced asthma, and I have an albuterol HFA inhaler that I take before I do athletic activity or just when it is acting up.\n\nThis past year, I was desperate and began looking for something to help with my allergies because I was doing particularly bad this year for some reason. I'm also tired and worn out a lot, but I thought that was a separate issue or possibly just the result of allergies making me sick a lot. While looking up things for allergy relief, I came across [adrenal fatigue](http://www.adrenalfatigue.org/what-is-adrenal-fatigue) (found this website just now after some Googling. I've never been there before today, but it looks decent).\n\nIn addition to the symptoms listed on that site, many people who claim to suffer from this disease/disorder also have bad seasonal allergies. I want you to make an informed decision, so I'm going to warn you that there is a debate over whether or not adrenal fatigue is a real disease, with many doctors thinking that it is not. However, it described me almost perfectly.\n\nI bought and started taking [this Raw Adrenal Glandular](http://www.amazon.com/Adrenal-Glandular-Caps-Swanson-Premium/dp/B002AU3SX4) that people say is supposed to help with adrenal fatigue and that is marketed by the company as a dietary supplement. I normally don't buy into supplements and stuff, beyond just basic vitamins, but I was desperate and it was only $5. I've been taking two a day^1 for a couple of months now, in addition to my other medicine, and my allergies have been much better than usual, even though it's spring time.\n\nI know this might sound fishy, and I wasn't even sure about it when I tried it, but look at it this way: It's cheap, it might help you feel a lot better, and in the worst case scenario you've just wasted $4.99 on what is basically just dried meat. In the best case scenario, though, you feel better.\n\nIt also made me feel reassured knowing that [desiccated thyroid extract](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desiccated_thyroid_extract), which is basically the same thing except that it uses the thyroid instead of the adrenal gland, is a proven treatment for hypothyroidism. Hypothyroidism is an under-active thyroid while adrenal fatigue is basically an under-active adrenal gland, so it made sense to me that if desiccated thyroid worked for an under-active thyroid then adrenal glandular might work for an under-active adrenal gland. My wife has an under-active thyroid (non-existent, actually), so I am somewhat familiar with that disorder.\n\nObviously, you'll have to decide if this is right for you. However, I thought I was hopeless, and this has worked wonders for me.\n\n------------------------------\n\n^1 Note: The label recommends taking one a day with food. However, other brands with the exact same ingredient and similar dosages recommend taking two a day on their labels. That leads me to believe that it is safe, and I feel better when taking two a day than when taking only one. Therefore, I take one with breakfast and one with dinner, every day.", "Broccoli, kale, citrus fruits, onions, garlic, elderberry, stinging nettle, collard greens, and elderberry are all natural antihistamines which suppress allergic reactions. ", "Alright, so here it goes. I have pretty fucking horrible allergies, and I have been able to find a regiment that for the time being has kept them at a manageable level. \n\nFor reference: I'm allergic to everything. Without medication my eyes swell shut, water/itch like crazy, my eyelids and eyebrows swell 2x their normal size, I get pretty itchy all over sometimes hives, my throat has post nasal drip 24/7 so that means ear and throat pain and I go through about 2 boxes of tissues a day.\n\n\nSuggestions:\n\n* If you can't get a prescription allergy medicine try to find Chlortrimeton. It is OTC. Ask any pharamacist, they'll know where it is. \n* If you can get a prescription, fuck all the allegra and that bullshit, I am on Xyzal and it has worked wonders.\n* If Xyzal isn't enough, I suggest you also try Singulair. It is prescribed for Asthma, but I cannot even tell you how magical it has been in treating my allergies. I can notice when I forget to take it.\n* If you aren't on a nose spray you need to be. I suggest Nasonex or VeraMyst. Those are the ones that showed me the most improvement.\n* Invest in a Saline Solution of some sort. You can find it and a netty pot at the pharmacy for cheap. Use it when your nose gets stuffed up. You need to get the bacteria out. \n* You need to keep your windows closed. (Cars/Room/House/Apartment everywhere)\n* Wash your sheets in hot water 2x a week (allergy season is bad this year)\n* Hypoallergenic covers for EVERYTHING. I have one on every pillow, and my mattress. And my comforter is hypoallergenic. \n* DO NOT keep your shoes in your room\n* Make sure when you get home to change into different \"house\" clothing.\n\nIf you have any questions, hit me up. I've tried everything so there is a chance I can help you :3\n", "The best remedy for allergies I've ever experienced is also the simplest: wash your face and hands immediately upon feeling symptoms.", "As someone who has tried almost every piece of advice in this thread, along with going through every over-the-counter and prescription allergy drug on the market, I'm going to let you know what finally worked for me: allergy shots. If medicines aren't working for you, ask your doctor about them. I was miserable like you before I started taking them. Now I hardly get allergies at all. They're quite expensive, but luckily my family insurance covers most of it. I can't speak for your condition, but ask your doctor about what options you have.", "this may seem obvious but i read a bunch of comments and no one is really suggesting my most commonly recommended course of action, which is find the BEST seasonal medication for you. This is a good place to start:\n\nhttp://www.consumerreports.org/health/resources/pdf/best-buy-drugs/Antihistamines.pdf\n\nI also have allergy induced Asthma so i take air quality seriously... to control airborne allergens - I like to replace my house/bedroom air filter yearly.\nHope you find relief soon.", "[Quercetin.](http://www.umm.edu/altmed/articles/quercetin-000322.htm) When my family members with allergies take this regularly, it makes a noticeable difference.", "[Immunotherapy](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Immunotherapy#Allergies).\n\nIf it works for you, you'll be set free. I get an injection once a week during allergy season, and once every other week during the winter. 10 years ago, I could barely breathe in spring and fall; now I am symptom-free as long as I get the injections.", "Immunotherapy. My allergies were so bad I just gave up blowing my nose and would stuff tissues up and leave them there until they soaked through. I finally went to an allergist, and I had shots for years, but now manage my few allergy symptoms with over-the-counter pills a week or two a year.\n", "Get yourself a non-prescription nasal spray. I like to use [Xlear](http://www.xlear.com/nasal-spray.aspx). It has xylitol which makes hard for bacterial to grow and fester, like washing out your nostrils but without soap. Use it whenever your nose is stuffy. You can use it as much as you need throughout the day.", "CTRL+F'd and didn't find vomer bone \"body hack\" - a remedy to relieve sinus pressure: Alternate thrusting your tongue against the roof of your mouth, then pressing between your eyebrows with one finger. This causes the vomer bone, which runs through the nasal passages to the mouth. The motion loosens congestion; after 20 seconds, you'll feel your sinuses start to drain.\n\n", "What worked for me is introducing (local) honey in my diet. I've heard that it works so I tried it out. The trick is that you have to eat it pretty much every day in order for it to work. Slowly but surely I slowly stopped eating it, to the point that I don't eat it anymore. Allergies hardly affect me anymore. \n\nI recommend a honey and peanut butter sandwich, or oatmeal n honey, or adding honey to your cereal. \n\nOh and I forgot to mention, I also laid off milk. Don't remember where I read it, but milk doesn't help your sinus out very well. ", "To start, what are allergies? Allergies are, essentially, your immune system making a mistake. Whereas the immune system normally responds to things which could harm you, things like bacterial and viral infections, sometimes the immune system can respond to things which are not harmful. \n\nYou have lymphocytes in your blood flowing around with the express purpose of locating and marking potentially dangerous things in your blood. After they've found a possible perpetrator, they head to a lymph node, which then produce antibodies specifically tailored to deal with the potential threat. In a person with allergies like you or I, there's a problem with lymphocytes where they mark and report back on something that's not dangerous (like pollen or parts of animal saliva), then they trigger the release of antibodies. These antibodies flood your blood stream and flow all over your body, attaching to mast cells and basophils all over. Mast cells and basophils release something I'm sure you're familiar with: histamines. Histamines are like a type of ammunition in your immune system uses to battle infections, but there are side-effects. Those side-effects, of course, are itching, sneezing, wheezing, vomiting, and all of the other effects you feel when having an allergic reaction. \n\nSo what can you do about it? Generally, I like to break down what you can do into categories:\n\n1) Avoidance. This seems the most obvious course of action, but I'm always surprised at how many people don't take this step. HEPA filters, face masks, closed windows, and clean homes are a nuclear option against most environmental allergens. Right now, I have a HEPA filter on my home's HVAC system, which circulates filtered air all over the house, I have a small HEPA fan filter in my office, my doors and windows are all closed, and I have a really nifty mask if I need to go outside to take care of anything. I can limit my exposure to all of the pollen, dust, and mold in the air rather significantly just through simply not allowing myself to be exposed to allergens. [This](http://www.google.com/products/catalog?q=hepa+room+air+purifier&hl=en&safe=off&prmd=imvns&biw=915&bih=784&um=1&ie=UTF-8&tbm=shop&cid=10829508086016108527&sa=X&ei=KpKpT6GvK8mIiAKE4dzQAg&ved=0CKcBEPMCMAE4FA) is the room air purifier I use and [this](http://www.natlallergy.com/prod/1176/3m-6291-p100-filtration-masks.html?eid=froogle&tid=froogle&sid=froogle&ci_src=14110944&ci_sku=41-6240) is the face mask I use when gardening or exercising or cleaning the garage. \n\n2) Histamine blockers/antagonists. Benadryl, Allegra, Claritin, Zyrtec, etc. are all purpose-built to stop allergies from inside your blood stream. While you may be exposed to allergens, your immune system may release antibodies and your mast cells and basophils may release histamines, the histamines have trouble attaching to receptors if you've taken an antihistamine and it's in your blood stream. These don't always eliminate allergic reactions and can have some side effects, but I've been using them for years and they really do help to manage my symptoms. I'm on Claritin now. \n\n3) Shots. Personally, I had little to no success with immunotherapy, but a lot of people do see a gradual decline in allergy symptoms after years of allergy shots. The theory behind them is that over time you're exposed to allergens so that your body becomes accustomed to the allergen and reacts by producing less and less antibodies against the allergen. \n\n4) Other. Creams for skin, drops for eyes, Neti pot, and other treatments can help to deal with symptoms of allergies. I use a Neti pot, which is an old Indian method to deal with mucus buildup in the nose and sinuses. Be sure you boil the water you use before using it, though (it was actually on an episode of House a few weeks ago that a patient using a Neti pot with tap water led to amoebic meningitis, an amoeba infection that causes the brain to swell). \n\nHopefully this has been helpful. Let me know if you have any other questions. ", "My allergies are now non-existent and I used to get shots as a kid and went to an allergist as an adult, I'd get sick every time the seasons change, my LPTs on allergies:\n\n* vegan - no dairy helps prevent excessive mucous\n* exercise - keep the body in motion and the immune system up\n* pepper - cayenne in coffee + jalapeno/habanero in diet\n* fasting - along w/no dairy, helps w/mucous", "Just find the allergy medicine that works for you. zyrtec has worked much better for me than allegra, claritin, and flonase/nasonex.\n\n", "It sounds completely dumb, but I use a [box fan air filter](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3S0NGTvCivM) in the bedroom to at least let me sleep in peace. It works surprisingly well to keep a single room dust & pollen free.", "I've heard getting local honey works great. Think about it, all the pollen is already metabolized and you're ingesting it, making your immune system against all those pollens in the air stronger. (I may be completely wrong, I was just told this the other day).", "I've had allergies my entire life. Here's what works for me:\n\nAllegra-D on particularly bad days.\n\nFlonaise every morning and before bed.\n\nZaditor, Opticron-A or the generic equivalent. \n\nAll but the Flonaise is available OTC. Honestly most doctors will give you a scrip for it if you ask for one and clearly have allergies. Hell mine just looked at me and asked if I wanted that or some other thing (yeah, mine are bad.)\n\nThe eye drops hurt like HELL after you put them in, I won't lie to you about that, but give it a few seconds (of sheer torture) and you're eyes will feel fantastic.\n\nOther than that, go to an allergist. He'll probably prescribe this stuff, or something far more expensive (the prescription eye drops I got were almost $50 for a tiny bottle and worked about the same.)\n\nThey'll also start giving you shots. This works, but very slowly over time. Don't expect a miracle.", "I would recommend Loratidine, the generic form of Claritan and about 1/10th the cost.\n\nI took it all last spring when my allergies went nuts - I saw relief almost instantly. This spring I have gone for the local honey option as I really don't like taking pharmaceuticals for extended periods - I have a slightly runny nose in the mornings - but the honey is working very well.", "I use NasalCrom, a non-steroidal nasal spray, and it helps a ton. I've tried at least 5 different allergy pills, and none of them are anywhere near as effective. They sell it at Walmart and probably a couple other places, as well as on walmart.com and amazon.com.", "I suffered from allergies for years until a nurse at my college laid out a treatment plan for me, and my suffering has been mitigated greatly.\n\n\nFor an antihistamine I use Zyrtec, everyday. For a decongestant I use Sudafed PE (psuedoephederine free) and I take it several times a day. I used to take Zyrtec D, but the decongestant in Zyrtec D didn't agree with me, plus it can be a pain to get enough to last the month because of anti-meth laws. \n\nI used to use a flonase, a steroid nose spray, but the co-pay was too high with my insurance. It was effective though.\n\nI use a saline nose spray (non-medicated) rinse several times a day, it's much less involved than a neti-pot, and doesn't leave me prone to having water shoot out of my nose randomly like neti-pot. I like 4-Way with eucalyptus for my nose-spray, it's refreshing. \n\nI also gargle water everyday to rinse my throat of allergens, at least in the shower, but ideally it would be more than that. \n\nIf things get bad, and I start to feel a turn for the worse, I take mucinex. It keeps me from plugging up too much. \n\nLet's see…always shower before bed, keep the bedding clean. Keep things dust free. Mowing the lawn? Wear a mask. My wife's allergies are so bad, she wears a mask on our walks. She also has prescription eye drops that you may benefit from.\n\nTLDR: Daily antihistamine, decongestant, steroid nose spray if you can afford it, and really important: nasal rinsing, and water gargling. ", "Have you been to see an allergist and had a screening done? I ask because I've had very bad \"allergies\" for years, and nothing I took or did helped. I finally went to the doc, got the screen and found out that I'm not allergic to a damn thing. Instead, he diagnosed me with \"nonallergic rhinitis,\" which means that although I'm not technically allergic to anything, certain conditions will nevertheless cause my sinuses to inflame (weather, pressure changes, etc.)\n\nSo, that means antihistamines don't do anything unless they also come with an decongestant (Benadryl, Sudafed, etc.). Instead, I'm taking two different prescription nasal sprays which do help. \n\nI also recommend using a Neti pot or nasal wash bottle at least once a day. ", "Don't sleep with your windows open. You want your windows closed until the afternoon or late morning. Personally, when things get bad I'd rather close up the house and run the AC even on a cool day if I have to. ", "Bloody noses. They can be a symptom of allergies if they dry you out, or they can be caused by dry weather. Luckily for occasional bleeders like myself, there's a fairly easy way to safely deal with the situation.\n\nFirst and foremost, don't lean back. It's a myth that that helps the bleeding, and will actually cause the blood to flow into your sinuses and down your throat, which is not a desired outcome. The blood can actually irritate your stomach lining, and may cause you to vomit if it gets too bad.\n\nWhat you want to do is:\n\n* Start by leaning your head forward. Some blood may get on your clothes, but it's better than the alternative. Mitigate this with tissues.\n\n* Pinch your nose closed. Your fingers should be pinching in the soft tissue of your nose, and just touching the bone further up toward your eyes. No blood should be leaking out at this point, and by compressing the soft parts of your nose you're most likely to be compressing the wound itself, stopping the bleeding. The more of that soft tissue you can compress, the better.\n\n* Remember to breathe through your mouth, and keep your head above your heart.\n\n* Hold your nose closed like that with your head inclined forward for about 5 minutes. Check it, and if it's still bleeding wait another 10 minutes. If it's still bleeding, try one or two more times, at 10 minutes each.\n\n* If after a few tries it's still bleeding, just call 911. You could go into shock if you lose too much blood.\n\nTo keep your nose clear, don't blow your nose. It's super tempting, but this'll release the clots that have formed, starting the whole process over again. Likewise, don't use tissue tampons - the same issue exists here, once you remove them you'll just be ripping out a clot. \n\nAfter you've given it enough time to heal, you can gently clear your nose, but have tissues on hand in case it starts up again.\n\nSource: http://firstaid.about.com/od/bleedingcontrol/ht/06_epistaxis.htm", "Best method in my experience is avoidance, make sure your house is always clean (at least a good do-over once a week), the filters in your air conditioning are clean (about once a year or more, you should know by the subtle smell moss) and you yourself are clean. Identify what plant makes you allergic, if you live in a rural environment like me you might want to plan a mini-genocide if the plant is rare enough. If not you should make sure it is at least as far as possible from your house (killing the ones you can is still a good idea). Attempt to have to use medicine as little as possible but always have some (not like me, I always forget to buy new medicine like a chump).\n\nThe second thing I can advise is kind of problematic. If you can you should exercise, especially if you are like me and have light asthma that can be induced by exercise. Good aerobic exercise like swimming, running (my preference) or cycling really helps allergies and asthma and makes you feel overall healthier, at least it does for me. Notice that this assumes you can exercise, I'm well aware that many people cannot.", "Allergy sufferer here.\n\nI used Claritin for years. It was somewhat effective, although not during the peak allergy seasons. And damn was it expensive.\n\nIf you don't have health insurance or yours does not cover an allergist, you can do the following to alleviate your problems:\n\n* Purchase over the counter antihistamines in bulk. Costco sells an 800 pill container of antihistamine that I now use for about $6. It can last you 2+ years and will probably expire before you use it up.\n\n* Wipe down your house often (once every few days) with a wet cloth. You would be surprised how much pollen is sitting on almost all of your surfaces. Vacuum often.\n\n* Check pollen counts on weather.com daily, and keep your windows closed when pollen is high to prevent it from entering your home.\n\n* Buy an [air purifier](https://www.google.com/search?sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8&q=air+purifier#q=air+purifier&hl=en&safe=off&prmd=imvnsr&source=univ&tbm=shop&tbo=u&sa=X&ei=DJupT4ykLami6gHZ6MWbAg&ved=0CKQCEK0E&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.r_qf.,cf.osb&fp=3b13e5d13604b373&biw=1372&bih=783) for your room at night to sleep better\n\nIf you have access to decent health care, see an allergist. I repeat. SEE AN ALLERGIST.\n\nI was apprehensive and skeptical, but when I found out that allergists were covered in my health insurance, I went to get a scratch test done. It was the most miserable 10 minutes of my life, but it was necessary. They scratch your back with about 50 or so well known allergens in your area and rate how allergic you are to them. I was severely allergic to just about every pollen, cat, and dust (but not dog, because I have been around dogs since I was born).\n\nAfter this diagnosis, my allergist said I was definitely a candidate for allergy shots. She started me on them and now after 9 months I have almost no symptoms. They start out with a low dose and slowly raise it every week so you build up an immunity.\n\nShe also prescribed me prescription-strength Zyrtec (Xyzal) as a daily general antihistamine. It works wonders.\n\nI hope this helps, any other questions feel free to ask!", "Allegra D\n\nMy grandmother used to have a prescription for this before it was over the counter. \n\nWorked like a charm.", "your allergies may be a problem with inflammation in your body. If you adjust your diet, cutting out things that cause inflammation, you may be able to fix your problem without having to take medication. a year ago i did that, and I have had no symptoms of spring allergies this year. ", "shower at night and shampoo your hair twice. This will keep the pollen off of your pillow case and out of your face (especially with long hair).. this will help you to not feel horrendous every morning after bathing in a days worth of pollen as you sleep.", "get a dehumidifier for your home for when your allergies are the worst. I would suggest placing one in your bedroom at night and another in a location near where you will be spending most of your day.\n\nAdditionally, use a HEPA filter to filter the air in your house throughout the day and use a vacuum with a HEPA filter whenever you clean. ", "asthma allergy attack and no inhaler? a cup of black coffee straight up. warm or cold if your lucky and drink the whole cup as quickly as possible. i stop wheezing within a few moments. saved my life. don't know if this works for everyone but it worked for me. it couldn't hurt to try", "When I was in my teens I had really horrible allergies. My medication routine was 2 inhalers, 1 nasal spry, 2 pills, and weekly allergy shots. I became so fed up with all of it, I quit cold turkey after a really bad summer.\n\nNext summer came and the allergies started bad, but I refused to take any more medication. After two months they became lighter and lighter. I lasted the summer and felt victorious for doing it. Next year my allergies were still there, but not as bad. I still suffered from scratchy red eyes, so I broke down and started taking pills. \n\nI tried benadryl, it just made me very sleepy very fast. Allegra was out of my price range and before had never really worked for me. My friends mom introduced me to Loratadine and I worked perfect for me. It is a small 24 hour pill that is non-drowsy and pretty strong. On really windy days or when there is a lot of pollen, my eyes can start agitating me.\n\nI buy my [Loratadine from Costco](http://reviews.costco.com/2070/11602332/kirkland-signature-kirkland-signature-allerclear-non-drowsy-reviews/reviews.htm)\n\nTL;DR Loratadine is a non-drowsy 24 hour pill that works really well.", "Someone told me that if you eat honey that has been locally produced you will build up a higher tolerance for pollen. Also, I use saline nasal spray often and then blow my nose. It seems to help. Try switching your meds. Claritin used to do wonders for me 3 years ago but then it stopped working. I switched to zyrtec but it wouldn't work this year. Now I am on allegra. Kind of afraid of the next seasons since I am running out of the over the counter med options. \nOh, get one of those sniffing vicks sticks for 4$. They help a little.\nHope you feel better", "Since you probably have an elevated histamine level already, try avoiding any foods and drinks that are loaded with them ie anything fermented. Unfortunately, that means beer, wine and booze. Also cheeses (the older, the more fermented), chocolate and spicy foods. It sucks I know - since I love a cold brew after work and also the lasagna I make - but it can bring some relief in the short-term.", "Run a HEPA air filter in your bedroom. If you can afford it, get a large one for your general living space, as well. If you have carpet, vacuum weekly. Change your sheets weekly. Bath before bed so you are sleeping with less allergins on your skin. Change your furnace air filter monthly and use a grade of filter that catches dust mites and allergins. \n\nTry all OTC antihistamines, including eye drops. Nasal steroids can help via prescription. Get allegy tested and consider allergy shots. You will probably need to have tried the OTC remedies to qualify for the shots. ", "OK all of these are probably in here but just in case and since I don't feel like readinnnng:\n\n* Don't drink milk or eat dairy products (it creates mucus and...it's all around unhealthy anyway...Almond milk has more calcium and non of the negative side effects)\n* Shower at night (Morning if you want to also, but at night gets the yuck off so it doesn't settle in your nasal passages)\n* Orange juice...something acidic and with vitamin C (Emergen-C is also good! I like the tangerine flavor it's not as nasty)\n* Use one of those creepy nose-pots that wash out your nasal passages with saline. They work wonderrsss\n\nThat's what I can think of off the top of my head...used to get allergies so bad my eyes would swell up shut =] I use Claritin-D when it's really bad but that kind of stuff varies from person to person. Just need to find out what medicine works best. It's always better to use the others stuff first though...Ultimate LPT is to use preventative measures for anything.", "My mother is an avid herbalist... she's got herbs and essential oils for everything. A few weeks ago my allergies went crazy. She filled up a few gelatin capsules with 5 drops lemongrass oil, 5 drops peppermint oil, and 5 drops of lavender oil. I haven't had an issue since.\n\nI'm fairly certain the essential oils helped - I am outside every day for at least 1-2 hours commuting to work and walking back and forth to gas station and gym.", "My mom recently gave me Tibetan Baicao Tea. She told me after drinking the tea on three occasions, her allergies completely disappeared. Being skeptical, i asked her if she had more and she said yes and gave me a box. After drinking the tea twice, i noticed immediate improvements to my allergies. Being allergic to pollen and cat hair, i have often had the worst times dealing with allergies during the spring season and whenever i come into contact with cats. I have since pet numerous cats and enjoyed fine spring weather with pollen all around. I dont know the science behind the tea or why it worked but it helped immensely. My mother did tell me a box of ten tea bags cost her $100 so i guess quality comes with a price\n\nI will experiment further by allowing some friends of mine who have allergies to try it and see if it affects people differently\n\ntl;dr Mother gave me Tibetan Baicao Tea. Drank it twice and noticed immediate improvements to my allergies", "My allergies were not horrible. I'd wake up with a sore throat in the spring and fall and could not drink alcohol without getting a headache during those months.\n\nI switched to healthier shampoos, soaps, shaving cream, lotions, etc. Mostly from Aubrey Organics, but some other brands too. They seem more expensive, but I find they're typically cheaper per use and they're much better products as well.\n\nI also rinse my sinuses with a Nasaline syringe. It's easier to use than a Netipot and I like being able to apply some pressure.\n\nI no longer have the symptoms listed above and my razor blades went from lasting 4 weeks to about 8 months! I suspect the blade manufacturers put a mild corrosive in their shaving cream to make you buy more blades. Any scientists out there want to test this hypothesis?", "LOCAL FOOD specifically honey. Local food has pollen in it, and it will allow your body to adjust to your local allergens. ", "If you have a smartphone, get a pollen count app. I use the zyrtec app, just cuz it works and is free. It won't make you feel better, but it's good to know what the pollen levels are in your area for the day. It also lets you know which kind of pollen is high that day, which is nice info. ", "I've taken OTC Zyrtec and prescription Singulair together the last two years. I'm completely clear all day, it's wonderful.", "I've only heard of this being used in Eastern Colorado, but my friend is a doctor and did this all the time. I can personally attest to its effectiveness and everyone who tries it is extremely happy and cured, but you may have a hard time convincing your doctor to give it to you. I had a shot of Kenalog or Celestone steroid shots intra-muscular. It lasts anywhere from 8-12 months. It's not a long-term solution, but if you're about to PULL YOUR FUCKING FACE OFF (yeah, I know the feeling) this will help and make you sleep like a baby. I was even able to stop taking my daily antihistamine for the first several months after the shot.\n\nLike I said, it's not a long term solution, and I would not recommend using this treatment for more than 5 or 6 years, as I believe your body builds up a resistance or something... or maybe it's some sort of addiction. Something bad, but I can't remember. Just ask your doctor.\n\nAlso, I had hiccups for 18 hours after taking any of these shots. Very fucking annoying but well worth it, obviously. Could not find anywhere else online of people having hiccups, so I may be a medical anomaly.\n\n[Link to Google Search for 'kenalog for allergies'](https://www.google.com/search?q=kenalog+for+allergies)", "I've been allergic to cats my whole life and a year and a half ago I moved in with three different cat owners. My throat and lungs used to close up after about 3 hours in a \"cat house\". I started taking generic Cetirizine HCl (Zyrtec here in the States, Reactine for you Canucks up there) every day and now I only ever have issues when I go off meds for a few days. I was paying like $28 for a 90 count, but I just found a 365 count bottle at BJ's (Costco, Sam's Club, etc.) for $15.", "I scrolled through the top comments and didn't see this tip yet. But my LPT for dealing with allergies is take a 24 hour allergy pill nightly! You can't skip a night (even when you aren't experiencing symptoms). Allergy pills build up in your system and work more effectively. It helps me deal with being allergic to dust, pets, trees, weeds, hay, mold, etc. :)", "I know someone who gives her self intramuscular allergy injections because pills are not enough for her. She is very allergic to dust.", "I have great success with Claritin or Reactine. Kind of dries you out, but the itching and sniffling goes away.", "I have extremely bad allergies like the majority of you. There is one thing that I have found to work 95% of the time. The solution is wear a surgical masks while outside. you may get a few crazy looks and some questions but its totally worth it to be allergy free!", "I have a pill called Allegra-D (not sure what is called in the states or the rest of the world), it works 100% for my allergies. ", "Here's what I do: shower frequently, use neti pot daily, change sheets often, get an air purifier if you can, no pets in the bedroom :( On the bad days, take a zyrtec after dinner.", "Eat about a tablespoon of honey a day that was made LOCALLY for about a week, and your body should be less sensitive to pollen in the air.", "Each year seems to have been worse and worse. This year:so far so good. I'm on Clarinex, a mere 5mg pill lasts 24 hours. A perscription nasal spray, two inhalers, and over the counter eye drops in case they go red. I've been very lucky.", "Diphenhydramine is the oldest antihistamine still on the market, and it also doubles as a sleeping pill. It'll help get you through the stuffy nights.", "Cetirizine in bulk, only $20 via [Amazon](http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=cetirizine) and works for me!", "As I understand it, allergies are cumulative, in some sense. You may be have a constant medium level exposure to allergens and not experience many symptoms, but then add seasonal allergens and your face explodes.\n\nIf you lower the level of baseline environmental allergens, then you may be able to handle the seasonal allergens better. \n\nHow this worked for me: I am particularly sensitive to tree pollen. In Georgia, the exposure was ridiculous every spring. In one apartment I lived in, the downstairs had an old nasty carpet -- no doubt containing many allergens. Once we got rid of that carpet and replaced it with tile flooring, my problems with spring tree pollen were much less bad. \n\nThat carpeting was not causing me symptoms most of the year, but it was enough that it made seasonal allergies unbearable. Getting rid of it was key.\n\nTL;DR - get rid of the perpetual non-obvious sources of allergens and the effects of seasonal allergens will be less.", "Apple Cider Vinegar. I know it might seem like some sort of homeopathy nonsense, and it might just be, but I remember being completely miserable a couple of weeks ago, and then I heard about this stuff. I took about two or three shots a day, mixed with a cup of water and some splenda/stevia, and within 2-3 days I was almost completely cleared up. I don't know if it was ACV that did it, but a lot of other people seem to think that it works too, and I know that after a few hours of taking it I was already feeling better. Give it a shot. If you do decide to buy some, make sure that the vinegar has the brownish looking sediment at the bottom of the bottle, also known as the \"mother.\"", "A girl I met once who was a botanist suggested that you eat honey that's made very close to you. I can't remember how close but it was very small, like 20 miles.", "A few things I've learned about allergies after struggling a long time with them. Here's a brain dump of a bunch of stuff, in no particular order.\n\nI tried to get help from my normal doctors, but I ended up taking lots of pills to cover things up instead of getting to the root of things. I took the allergy tests (scratch and prick tests), and was pretty much allergic to everything. I got lots of antihistamines/steroid sprays/inhalers, which kind of suck and prednisone a few times too (do not like it).\n\nI was about to start doing the normal US allergy shots, which were slowly increasing doses of allergens. The problem was that you have to be watched because you can easily go into anaphylactic shock if your dose provokes a reaction.\n\nThen, I found out about [EPD](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enzyme_potentiated_desensitization), and tried that. (this was a number of years ago). The treatment is just a shot every 3 months and after 2-3 treatments I was markedly better. It helped me a lot. I don't think that treatment is available anymore in the US, but I believe it's available in Canada and the UK.\n\nI'd love to hear of other folks experiences, especially folks in the UK, or possibly UK folks who've used EPD?\n\n\nOther stuff I watched closely...\n\nkeep the bedroom a safe haven\n\n* use hypoallergenic bedding\n* clean your bedding frequently to kill the dust mites\n* One not-very-well-known way of killing dust mites is freezing them, so stuff you might not want to wash much, might go in a bag in the freezer for a while.\n* shower before bed to get pollen out of your head\n* no pets in the bedroom\n* people in bed with you bring in pollen too. :(\n* open windows, ugh. don't do it.\n\nAllergies stack, so if you're allergic to pollen and allergic to certain foods, be especially careful during pollen season as you'll be much more likely to have problems with that food. During off-season, you might not even notice.\n\nAlso, some allergens are unexpectedly similar to other allergens or are found in unexpected places and can cause a reaction. If you're allergic to latex, you might be allergic to banana, I guess they seem the same to your body. If you're allergic to grass, you might be allergic to oranges. See [Oral Allergy Syndrome](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oral_allergy_syndrome). People allergic to airborne mold might be allergic to foods with mold such as cheeses and mushrooms. I heard some peanuts might have mold in them.\n\nI watched a movie called [\"Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead\"](http://www.fatsickandnearlydead.com/) on Netflix. The main guy in the movie had strange allergy problems. He was overweight and had a bad diet, and was taking larger and larger doses of prednisone to keep his chronic uticaria (allergic swelling) at bay. As he got on a good diet and lost weight, his allergic reactions were diminished and eventually went away. The message I got there was... maybe we're damaging our immune system with our eating and exercise habits, and through lifestyle changes, we can heal it.\n\n", "I'm not sure of the scientific merit of the following but anecdotally it has worked for such figures as Christopher Reeves and Teddy Roosevelt. Reeves was allergic to horses but rode them and competed on them and eventually it disappeared. Roosevelt was a skinny allergetic young man before joining the armed forces and exercising into the barrel-chested man you know form history, oh and his allergies went away too :)", "Eating local honey on toast every morning works wonders for me. Takes a few days to start working but when it does...", "Ciprofloxacn( antibiotic) over the counter off brand Zyrtec. It's working great for me, and my allergies are lessening. Ciprofloxacn treats a broad range of things, sinus infections and the like. A week ago I could barely sleep due to being stuffed up and sneezing. This is a temp solution. But it worked great. " ]	[ 168, 94, 56, 34, 21, 20, 16, 11, 9, 9, 7, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "Dealing with a puppy Just got a new dog, 8 weeks old and she likes to chew up and pee on everything. Any tips on training and/or obedience etc. would be greatly appreciated.", "Dealing with a puppy Just got a new dog, 8 weeks old and she likes to chew up and pee on everything. Any tips on training and/or obedience etc. would be greatly appreciated.", "Dealing with a puppy Just got a new dog, 8 weeks old and she likes to chew up and pee on everything. Any tips on training and/or obedience etc. would be greatly appreciated.", "Dealing with a puppy Just got a new dog, 8 weeks old and she likes to chew up and pee on everything. Any tips on training and/or obedience etc. would be greatly appreciated.", "Dealing with a puppy Just got a new dog, 8 weeks old and she likes to chew up and pee on everything. Any tips on training and/or obedience etc. would be greatly appreciated.", "Dealing with a puppy Just got a new dog, 8 weeks old and she likes to chew up and pee on everything. Any tips on training and/or obedience etc. would be greatly appreciated.", "Dealing with a puppy Just got a new dog, 8 weeks old and she likes to chew up and pee on everything. Any tips on training and/or obedience etc. would be greatly appreciated.", "Dealing with a puppy Just got a new dog, 8 weeks old and she likes to chew up and pee on everything. Any tips on training and/or obedience etc. would be greatly appreciated." ]	[ "It will cost you a dollar ;)\nBuy a clicker for training and then you need some patience. \nI have a 10 years old Golden Retriever. She is a service animal. I trained her myself with a clicker. \n\nA puppy is always a puppy. She will chew because she is teething. And she'll pee because she can't hold. They say 2 months old puppies could hold up to 2 hrs - 3 months 3 hrs. And goes on. It will take time but clicker is a good solution. Youtube some videos. \n\nThe obedience training I did was eye to eye contact training. If she looks at you and looks at you long enough-Click the clicker and give a treat. \n\nA crate is a solution until she is old enough to hold. They always pee right after they drink water or even eat. Take her outside right away to the same spot so she can smell the spot. \n", "Sounds like a normal puppy, congrats! Find some puppy socialization sessions, play groups, or clicker/positive reinforcement-based classes. Run the other way if a trainer you find recommends prong collars or anything of that nature at the moment. If you've never taken an obedience class with a past dog, I highly recommend it. You need training also. Also shoutout to /r/puppy101!", "Most important thing is not to discipline the puppy for being a puppy. You've signed up to toilet accidents and chewing, it's now down to you to encourage these behaviours in the right places.\n\nI've a 3 year old Lab cross, and 8 month old Golden Lab. Carrots worked great for both of them for teething. They last a good amount of time, and they're a healthy snack. Don't just turn to your typical Jumbones as they're full of crap and the dog will just be hyper/hysterical a short time after.\n\nToilet training will take time. Puppy pads work for some. What worked for me was praising the pup when they went to the toilet in the correct place. Again - don't be negative if they shit on your bed or piss on your pillows. Calmly move them to where they should go, and then praise them when they do. Reacting negatively will just scare/intimidate your puppy and they'll associate that with going to the toilet at all times, encouraging them to hold it for as long as possible even when they're at a place where you're happy for them to go. Consistency is the key.\n\nMost importantly, don't stress - try and enjoy it.", "I kept my puppy on a leash for a long time so,she was always right with me during the day then she would whine when she needed to potty if I didn't get her out on schedule. Use a crate at night. Get her toys to chew, nyla bones, those leather toys my puppy loves. Practice her name a lot and praise her when she potties outside. ", "Dog training comes down to a few simply things:\n\n* Consistency. Always do the same in the same situation. If you don't want the dog to beg for food, never give food when it begs.\n\n* Stubborness. You just have to outstubborn the dog.\n\n* Reward good behaviour, ignore bad behaviour.\n\n* Remember, the dog wants to understand and wants to be a good dog, it's just hard to understand what you mean. Take it one simple step at the time.\n\n* One good trick to start with is \"Show me!\". When the dog wants something, say \"Show me!\" and when the dog runs to the treat cupboard or the door or whatever, reward it. This teaches the dog that the human can be communicated with.\n\n* Another good starter trick is to have a treat in the hand, but do not give it to the dog until it looks you in the eye, and when it does, give the treat immediately. This teaches that it's you who gives the treats, not the hand, and that it's you that one asks for permission. Also, it teaches them to ask for permission.", "A lot of local communities have a work dog association. I would look around and talk to them to see if they can give you some pointers. Perhaps even direct you to a local community class for dog obedience. It may sound early but the sooner the better!", "Adding to the good points already made here: buy some enzymatic cleaner (or Google homemade solutions) to completely clean the areas where she has peed. If the smell remains, she will associate that place with a place to pee. Might be helpful to have a pee pad and place her there whenever she has an accident, hopefully she finishes there and you can praise her. \n\nKikopup on YouTube has many clear and informative training videos for puppies using positive reinforcement. ", "/r/dogs, /r/dogtraining and then go and get literally any puppy 101 book. Also sign up for a puppy socialization class. \n\nOnly LPT I can give is get an ex-pen (they are small portable pens that you can move around). Should be about $30 and gives you a small instantly puppy proof space wherever you are. " ]	[ 6, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to feel comfortable around people who are incredibly wealthy (while you are not) So my brother-in-law and family are very well off. They are building a house with a theater room bigger than my current home, just to give you an idea. We are supposed to go visit, but I always feel so uncomfortable around people who have money. I grew up without too much and even now live in a modest home with a modest job- nothing special. I feel like my family has nothing in common and staying with them will be awkward. Am I weird?", "How to feel comfortable around people who are incredibly wealthy (while you are not) So my brother-in-law and family are very well off. They are building a house with a theater room bigger than my current home, just to give you an idea. We are supposed to go visit, but I always feel so uncomfortable around people who have money. I grew up without too much and even now live in a modest home with a modest job- nothing special. I feel like my family has nothing in common and staying with them will be awkward. Am I weird?", "How to feel comfortable around people who are incredibly wealthy (while you are not) So my brother-in-law and family are very well off. They are building a house with a theater room bigger than my current home, just to give you an idea. We are supposed to go visit, but I always feel so uncomfortable around people who have money. I grew up without too much and even now live in a modest home with a modest job- nothing special. I feel like my family has nothing in common and staying with them will be awkward. Am I weird?", "How to feel comfortable around people who are incredibly wealthy (while you are not) So my brother-in-law and family are very well off. They are building a house with a theater room bigger than my current home, just to give you an idea. We are supposed to go visit, but I always feel so uncomfortable around people who have money. I grew up without too much and even now live in a modest home with a modest job- nothing special. I feel like my family has nothing in common and staying with them will be awkward. Am I weird?", "How to feel comfortable around people who are incredibly wealthy (while you are not) So my brother-in-law and family are very well off. They are building a house with a theater room bigger than my current home, just to give you an idea. We are supposed to go visit, but I always feel so uncomfortable around people who have money. I grew up without too much and even now live in a modest home with a modest job- nothing special. I feel like my family has nothing in common and staying with them will be awkward. Am I weird?", "How to feel comfortable around people who are incredibly wealthy (while you are not) So my brother-in-law and family are very well off. They are building a house with a theater room bigger than my current home, just to give you an idea. We are supposed to go visit, but I always feel so uncomfortable around people who have money. I grew up without too much and even now live in a modest home with a modest job- nothing special. I feel like my family has nothing in common and staying with them will be awkward. Am I weird?", "How to feel comfortable around people who are incredibly wealthy (while you are not) So my brother-in-law and family are very well off. They are building a house with a theater room bigger than my current home, just to give you an idea. We are supposed to go visit, but I always feel so uncomfortable around people who have money. I grew up without too much and even now live in a modest home with a modest job- nothing special. I feel like my family has nothing in common and staying with them will be awkward. Am I weird?", "How to feel comfortable around people who are incredibly wealthy (while you are not) So my brother-in-law and family are very well off. They are building a house with a theater room bigger than my current home, just to give you an idea. We are supposed to go visit, but I always feel so uncomfortable around people who have money. I grew up without too much and even now live in a modest home with a modest job- nothing special. I feel like my family has nothing in common and staying with them will be awkward. Am I weird?", "How to feel comfortable around people who are incredibly wealthy (while you are not) So my brother-in-law and family are very well off. They are building a house with a theater room bigger than my current home, just to give you an idea. We are supposed to go visit, but I always feel so uncomfortable around people who have money. I grew up without too much and even now live in a modest home with a modest job- nothing special. I feel like my family has nothing in common and staying with them will be awkward. Am I weird?", "How to feel comfortable around people who are incredibly wealthy (while you are not) So my brother-in-law and family are very well off. They are building a house with a theater room bigger than my current home, just to give you an idea. We are supposed to go visit, but I always feel so uncomfortable around people who have money. I grew up without too much and even now live in a modest home with a modest job- nothing special. I feel like my family has nothing in common and staying with them will be awkward. Am I weird?", "How to feel comfortable around people who are incredibly wealthy (while you are not) So my brother-in-law and family are very well off. They are building a house with a theater room bigger than my current home, just to give you an idea. We are supposed to go visit, but I always feel so uncomfortable around people who have money. I grew up without too much and even now live in a modest home with a modest job- nothing special. I feel like my family has nothing in common and staying with them will be awkward. Am I weird?", "How to feel comfortable around people who are incredibly wealthy (while you are not) So my brother-in-law and family are very well off. They are building a house with a theater room bigger than my current home, just to give you an idea. We are supposed to go visit, but I always feel so uncomfortable around people who have money. I grew up without too much and even now live in a modest home with a modest job- nothing special. I feel like my family has nothing in common and staying with them will be awkward. Am I weird?", "How to feel comfortable around people who are incredibly wealthy (while you are not) So my brother-in-law and family are very well off. They are building a house with a theater room bigger than my current home, just to give you an idea. We are supposed to go visit, but I always feel so uncomfortable around people who have money. I grew up without too much and even now live in a modest home with a modest job- nothing special. I feel like my family has nothing in common and staying with them will be awkward. Am I weird?", "How to feel comfortable around people who are incredibly wealthy (while you are not) So my brother-in-law and family are very well off. They are building a house with a theater room bigger than my current home, just to give you an idea. We are supposed to go visit, but I always feel so uncomfortable around people who have money. I grew up without too much and even now live in a modest home with a modest job- nothing special. I feel like my family has nothing in common and staying with them will be awkward. Am I weird?" ]	[ "I am a nanny and I work for the incredibly well to do (after all, they have to pay my salary so they need to be earning so much more than me that I'm able to be \"just a bill\" to them, right?). I often have to take the children to the country club pool, or other posh locations in keeping with the childrens' financial/social standing.\n\nHere is what I learned:\n\n- Things don't impress the rich. They have expensive things not to show off (that's those who aren't yet rich and/or new money who still are thinking like those who aren't yet rich) but because those things are of Buy It For Life quality. They also can afford to maintain those things of such quality - such as paying for sharpening of expensive kitchen knives and so forth. {To this end, I will never own some of the items my employers have owned because it seems like their possessions, while never breaking or dying, own my employers instead because they have to be cared for in their own ritual. No thank you.}\n\n- No one cares about you unless you look awkward in the situation. Then they notice that you don't belong and want you gone. Walk in with confidence born of, \"I am allowed to be here same as you.\" Be there same as them. You are allowed.\n\n- Don't mention their money. They don't. You don't. And if they do, remind them that it is gauche. For everyone at a place with incredibly wealthy, there is always someone wealthier who will lay the smack down on Mr. Boasty-pants. By keeping your mouth shut, you actually appear to be on the really wealthy side. Because those with the most money are the quietest about it.\n\n- Enjoy the trappings of wealth! The theater room your brother in law is building isn't just for him: he wants to share with those he loves. Share it! Accept the gift! Let him love you the way he knows how.\n\nBut no, you aren't weird to feel this way. Took me a bit to get comfortable in the world because I didn't know all of the \"hidden rules\" and social norms. Turns out they are exactly the same as the \"modest income\" world, except they have more toys/things/experiences to share with one another and spend less time being flashy.", "I live in a fairly wealthy area(but am a poor college student), so I've been in this situation dozens of times. The two big ones are to be polite and be impressed. Not jealous, impressed.\n\nI play piano really well. If I played for you, I would really want to hear a \"wow that's really good!\", or a \"Damn that sounds amazing.\" Maybe overhear someone humming it later, or look over and see people tapping their feet or dancing along. I'm showing off something about myself to you, and I really want you to like it, and me for it.\n\nCompliment his sense of style or the beauty of his yard. Ask about specific items. Get excited about cool things. If you had a guest over you'd probably want them to enjoy your place, too. (this advice is more to get over the initial shock - eventually you will feel like it's just a nice place to live and it won't feel awkward to be there.)\n\nIf you aren't cartoonishly jealous of his wealth, don't worry about it coming off as though you are. Just stay genuine...and avoiding discussions of income or wealth is also polite. Even if they're cool about it, it's uncomfortable.\n\n", "Wealth does not mean someone is better then you - they just have more stuff. If you can eat well, shelter from the elements and enjoy happiness with your family you're a rich man indeed :)", "This is very common, there's actually a subset of sociology that studies interactions between people of different wealth levels so it's not at all weird! Part of my moms side of my family are all very very wealthy. I had an aunt show up to our last family gathering wearing a necklace that cost more money than I've made in my entire life, just for an example. I feel a bit of culture shock to have them tell me about their boating clubs and buying third houses, things like that. I just try to look at it like when you meet someone from a different culture, because in a way it is. I tell myself it's a learning experience. It may still be uncomfortable from time to time but you get used to it over time and learn directions that are good to steer conversation too.", "Not at all weird! I grew up in a family of oilfield trash and construction workers, while my fiance's grandpa is a WWII vet who used his GI Bill to get a degree in chemical engineering and amass a load of money. I thought I'd be really intimidated by going to Preston Hollow (part of Dallas that's home to the very-wealthy) in my Mazda and Target clothes to visit him, but it turns out he's just a sweet old man. He cares more about good manners - which definitely don't always match up with income - and intelligence than he does about what kind of family I came from. He even told me he was very fond of my parents, because they're friendly, genuine people with nothing to hide. \n\nRemember that a lot of times rich people get a line of BS from people trying to cozy up to them or trying to get something out of them. If you're honest and open with your BIL's family, they'll appreciate not needing to keep an eye out for any shenanigans from you. Appreciate their actions toward you, like their generosity in inviting you over, or if they cook for you or call on your birthday. If you're gracious about those small things, they'll know you like them because of who they are, not because you see cartoon dollar signs every time you look at them. That goes a long way for wealthy types.", "That's a normal reaction.\n\nTry treating them as you would someone who has a hobby you don't share. Listen courteously when they're discussing things you don't have in common, and otherwise just be yourself.", "First things first don't try to impress them. I don't know your situation but there is a good chance they are envying parts of your life too. Generally speaking they didn't make all that money without some sacrafices, a lot of times it comes at the expense of personal time, which means relationships with their SO and kids if any are involved. Again don't try to prove anything but if they see you with a presumably happy relationship they might find themselves wanting what you have and money can't buy.", "Consider the fact that they think enough of you to invite you to be a guest in their home. Be gracious in accepting their hospitality. Try to find something of common interest to talk about like sports, movies, books, etc. If that doesn't work for you, just realize they fart and burp like everybody else does...they're physically the same as everybody else...they just happen to have more money. ", "Never ask, \"How much was that?\" Most people don't like talking about money or costs. Ask questions about the process, their choices in materials, accoutrements, etc. \nTalking about work and family in the most general sense is an easy way to find common ground. Also, if you have a hobby, share it with them. They may enjoy it as well. \nTo those of us that grew up poor, money is a big deal. To those who have it, money is NOT a big deal. Don't make it one and it won't be one. If they start talking about stuff you don't understand, don't be afraid to ask.", "I used to be around fairly wealthy people regularly (Valet at a nice restaurant) and obviously I wasn't since I was employed there... \nThe biggest thing for me is just that we're all humans and just because you have more money doesn't make you any different from me in the big perspective. \nI was also raised to have respect and common courtesy, so that might have something to do with it. Just because I'm not wealthy and they are isn't their fault. I shouldn't harbor any prejudices or stereotypes about them. They also shouldn't look down on me because I'm not wealthy, but that's a whole other topic.", "I have this problem regularly as well. Half of my friends are well off in varying degrees. I handle it pretty well and the advice given here goes along with what I've learned for myself. \n\nA problem that I still have is this: A rich friend suggests doing something for fun that they can afford, but I cannot. I'll either do it and regret having spent food money on that, or decline (and they will know it's because of bucks) which will prompt: \"man I'll pay for you\"\nThis is still very hard for me and makes me feel very small. I know that to them my company is worth more than the money they are spending, which is complimentary, but it's still a hard pill to swallow. Any tips on that?", "When you learn how much mental energy you are spending on something so pointless, you'll feel stupid. I don't mean that insultingly. Be confident in who you are and what you are about and it won't even matter.", "Whenever I find myself in these situations I like to imagine I had walked in on this person defecating in a hole or something by accident then slowly shut the door... it's strange but finding them at their most venerable and embarrassing moment and not telling anyone about it due to embarrassing them gives me a power over them and I'm free to feel and act however I want because they just shit in a god damn hole like an animal. ", "Ignore these rich fools trying to placating you. If they bring up any sort of rub it in you face money things (you ever been yachting?, been to -exotic place-, etc) fire back. Ask them their opinions on minimum wage and if bankers should be criminally liable. Rich folk force themselves to ignore the plights of the have nots. It's alot harder to buy a vacation house after spending an hour with homeless joe. remind them" ]	[ 21, 16, 6, 5, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "I need to take some Weight Well I might as well be the only one looking for these kinda tips in this sub. But I didnt know where else to post. \n\nSo I am 15M w/Height:1.70 meters-45-48 Kilograms.\n\nI am just being annoyed here because doesnt matter how much or how often I eat. Doesnt change anythin. Thats why I'm looking for Pro Tips if you guys have any", "I need to take some Weight Well I might as well be the only one looking for these kinda tips in this sub. But I didnt know where else to post. \n\nSo I am 15M w/Height:1.70 meters-45-48 Kilograms.\n\nI am just being annoyed here because doesnt matter how much or how often I eat. Doesnt change anythin. Thats why I'm looking for Pro Tips if you guys have any" ]	[ "Enjoy that while you can. As you age your metabolism will slow down and you will have to watch what you eat a lot more if you want to stay skinny. \n\nIf you want to put on some weight make sure you do it the right way. I would suggest trying to go lift and bulk up. There are some great apps and websites where they will show you what lifts to do and help you with a meal plan to help you bulk up and gain some muscle. ", "Protein shakes, especially in tandem with lifting and other workouts. Avoid too much cardio, but still do some.\nI used to mix protein shakes or breakfast shake mixes in with ice cream. It pretty much doubles what your taking in.\nI would also discuss this with your doctor. Explain why you want to gain weight, where, and what your ultimate goals are. They can help point you in the right direction to make sure you're being safe and healthy.\n\nAlso, and just throwing this out here since I don't know your gender, pectoral bulking will add to boob size. Push ups, benching, etc." ]	[ 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to build a good work ethic? I feel that my work ethic is very poor and I want to improve on it. In my everyday life i find that i can be very lazy and give up easily.", "How to build a good work ethic? I feel that my work ethic is very poor and I want to improve on it. In my everyday life i find that i can be very lazy and give up easily.", "How to build a good work ethic? I feel that my work ethic is very poor and I want to improve on it. In my everyday life i find that i can be very lazy and give up easily.", "How to build a good work ethic? I feel that my work ethic is very poor and I want to improve on it. In my everyday life i find that i can be very lazy and give up easily.", "How to build a good work ethic? I feel that my work ethic is very poor and I want to improve on it. In my everyday life i find that i can be very lazy and give up easily." ]	[ "In terms of the giving up too easy part. Advice from Jake the Dog\n\n\"Sucking at something is the first step to becoming sorta good at something.\"\n\nAccept that fact and enjoy the process of learning what ever it is you are trying to do. In time you will get the hang of it and be good at it.", "The first step to any change is to genuinely want to make the change. Then, find a key motivator - ie I want: a better life for my kids, I want to buy **, whatever. Then set some goals: ie I will Reddit for 10 minutes after I have worked the first 50 minutes of each hour. Find rewards that you really want, and set yourself steps towards earning them. Listen to that still small voice-call it God, your conscience, karma, whatever reasonates with you.\n\nDecide you truly want to live a transparent life motivated by doing the right thing. Develop your sense of pride in a task well done.", "Work Ethic is about expectations and goals. There are two sets of expectations as an Employee (this is true even when you are an entrepreneur and you are your own boss, because your clients become your \"boss.) \nAre you meeting your own expectations of yourself and setting goals to achieve them? \nAre you meeting with your boss(es) and understanding their expectations of you and meeting and surpassing those? Everythign else is about setting goals to achieve what you want. I usually find that bosses that don't set clear expectations of their employees and employees that don't set expectations that exceed their bosses expectations are the ones that suffer in the Work Ethic department. There is a TON of truth in the movie Office Space. People will do only the bare minimum needed to do their job . So, if a boss tells you your minimum expected work is A, and your minimum expected work for yourself is A, you will only do A much work. If your boss doesn't hold you accountable, you will reduce yourself from A amount of work to somethign less until they reprimand you. For alot of people thats fine. What you should be asking yourself is \"Do I want to continue to just be in the same position indefinately?\" If the answer is no, then go to your manager, and say \"What do you expect of me in order to reach the next level of employment?\" Then raise your expectations to match or exceed their expectations. Does this make sense? \nIf you aren't motivated by either advancement or reprimand to raise your expectations of yourself, you will not change to a better work ethic. ", "PRIDE. It's a reflection on me.\n\nCare/Concern: High Standards mean you care about the quality of your work.\n\nReciprocal thinking: Do it the way YOU would want it done for yourself.", "It's fantastic that you want to improve it, that's the best start. \n\n First of all, why do you want to not be lazy? You have to come up with a reason that's really going to inspire you and excite you.\n* After that, buy a small notebook and write down your goals in it with how you're going to achieve those goals. Set a deadline and write down the individual tasks you need to take. \n* Then, follow that book religiously. In parallel, get into an exercise regime as that will boost your ability to suffer by 1000x. \n\nThe reasoning behind why this works (i.e. why it has worked for me) is as follows: giving up easily is a response to a very low dosage of pain, which is boredom. A lot of people don't see boredom as pain, but it is. So if you can increase your pain tolerance, you'll actually get a better work ethic on account of having a better pain tolerance. Exercise is the most direct way to improve this. Motivation - and I mean real motivation, not just \"oh that'd be fun to do\" - will take you through the rest of that low-grade pain. \n\nFind something to be excited about, and then do it. Your work ethic is a muscle - the more you exercise your willpower, the stronger it gets. \n\n" ]	[ 4, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to 'soften' rough clothing materials? I bought a T-shirt which I love but it must be a bit of a cheap composition of materials because even after about 2 months of wearing/washing with fabric softener it's still quite rough to the touch and kind of stiff. I was wondering if there were any tricks to getting it softened and loosened up? Aside from what I'm already doing (i.e. repeat washing machine cycles with fabric softener)?", "How to 'soften' rough clothing materials? I bought a T-shirt which I love but it must be a bit of a cheap composition of materials because even after about 2 months of wearing/washing with fabric softener it's still quite rough to the touch and kind of stiff. I was wondering if there were any tricks to getting it softened and loosened up? Aside from what I'm already doing (i.e. repeat washing machine cycles with fabric softener)?", "How to 'soften' rough clothing materials? I bought a T-shirt which I love but it must be a bit of a cheap composition of materials because even after about 2 months of wearing/washing with fabric softener it's still quite rough to the touch and kind of stiff. I was wondering if there were any tricks to getting it softened and loosened up? Aside from what I'm already doing (i.e. repeat washing machine cycles with fabric softener)?" ]	[ "For a Tshirt, wash it with a load of jeans. The mild abrasion will soften it somewhat. Every time it goes in the wash, it goes in the jeans load. It will help in time. DO NOT do this with nice clothes. \n\nI have heard that adding vinegar to the wash cycle can help, but I have no personal experience to verify that claim.\n\nAll the fabric softener in the world can only coat the fibers. If its stiff or scratchy, it will still be stiff/scratchy, but feel smoother.\n\n", "I soak my scratchy hand-knitted-with-cheap-yarn items in hair conditioner for a few hours and it usually helps. I coat it real good, massage it in a bit then put it in a bowl of tepid water, after a few hours rinsing it good by hand before putting it through the machine. Can't guarantee it'll work for your material though. I've heard about using a mix of vinegar and conditioner, or vinegar and baking soda, but I'm not sure of the proportions on the mixtures. ", "Dry with fabric softener too? When you wash and dry with the sheets, sometimes the material is soft. Just a suggestion. " ]	[ 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Clear Up 'Foggy Headlights' My vehicle's headlights are no longer as clear as they used to be - is there any way to clear them up aside from replacing the entire housing/light?", "Clear Up 'Foggy Headlights' My vehicle's headlights are no longer as clear as they used to be - is there any way to clear them up aside from replacing the entire housing/light?", "Clear Up 'Foggy Headlights' My vehicle's headlights are no longer as clear as they used to be - is there any way to clear them up aside from replacing the entire housing/light?", "Clear Up 'Foggy Headlights' My vehicle's headlights are no longer as clear as they used to be - is there any way to clear them up aside from replacing the entire housing/light?" ]	[ "Tooth paste with the gritty stuff in it, not gel. And a tooth brush. Rub it in circles. If that doesn't work, use deep woods off. The deet breaks that shit down. \n\nSource: I sell used cars\n", "Whatever method you use (toothpaste, wet sanding, rubbing compound, etc) make sure you seal the surface with some UV blocker and keep it sealed, otherwise it will just yellow again. \n\nHere's what I apply a few times a year to previously cleared up headlights: https://www.amazon.com/Blue-Magic-730-6-Headlight-Sealer/dp/B0051PJWQW/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1487098859&sr=8-1&keywords=headlight+sealer", "Wet sand them down then mask off the area and spray can clear coat it with UV resistant clear coat from lowes ", "There's a good video tutorial on youtube. If I find it i'll post it here but just go do a search there." ]	[ 4, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "I would love to have an Hobby that actually keeps me busy. Any suggestion please? I'm a teenager and I would love to have an hobby but I'm not sure which one should I try and I always get bored, I don't drive and I don't have a lot of money but I would use some of my money for my hobby.", "I would love to have an Hobby that actually keeps me busy. Any suggestion please? I'm a teenager and I would love to have an hobby but I'm not sure which one should I try and I always get bored, I don't drive and I don't have a lot of money but I would use some of my money for my hobby.", "I would love to have an Hobby that actually keeps me busy. Any suggestion please? I'm a teenager and I would love to have an hobby but I'm not sure which one should I try and I always get bored, I don't drive and I don't have a lot of money but I would use some of my money for my hobby.", "I would love to have an Hobby that actually keeps me busy. Any suggestion please? I'm a teenager and I would love to have an hobby but I'm not sure which one should I try and I always get bored, I don't drive and I don't have a lot of money but I would use some of my money for my hobby.", "I would love to have an Hobby that actually keeps me busy. Any suggestion please? I'm a teenager and I would love to have an hobby but I'm not sure which one should I try and I always get bored, I don't drive and I don't have a lot of money but I would use some of my money for my hobby.", "I would love to have an Hobby that actually keeps me busy. Any suggestion please? I'm a teenager and I would love to have an hobby but I'm not sure which one should I try and I always get bored, I don't drive and I don't have a lot of money but I would use some of my money for my hobby.", "I would love to have an Hobby that actually keeps me busy. Any suggestion please? I'm a teenager and I would love to have an hobby but I'm not sure which one should I try and I always get bored, I don't drive and I don't have a lot of money but I would use some of my money for my hobby.", "I would love to have an Hobby that actually keeps me busy. Any suggestion please? I'm a teenager and I would love to have an hobby but I'm not sure which one should I try and I always get bored, I don't drive and I don't have a lot of money but I would use some of my money for my hobby.", "I would love to have an Hobby that actually keeps me busy. Any suggestion please? I'm a teenager and I would love to have an hobby but I'm not sure which one should I try and I always get bored, I don't drive and I don't have a lot of money but I would use some of my money for my hobby.", "I would love to have an Hobby that actually keeps me busy. Any suggestion please? I'm a teenager and I would love to have an hobby but I'm not sure which one should I try and I always get bored, I don't drive and I don't have a lot of money but I would use some of my money for my hobby.", "I would love to have an Hobby that actually keeps me busy. Any suggestion please? I'm a teenager and I would love to have an hobby but I'm not sure which one should I try and I always get bored, I don't drive and I don't have a lot of money but I would use some of my money for my hobby.", "I would love to have an Hobby that actually keeps me busy. Any suggestion please? I'm a teenager and I would love to have an hobby but I'm not sure which one should I try and I always get bored, I don't drive and I don't have a lot of money but I would use some of my money for my hobby." ]	[ "Learn an instrument. It's a great way to lose yourself when you're having a tough day, it teaches you discipline, it's something widely accepted by society, and if you get good enough, you can even join a band and have the best fun of your life!", "Learn programming.\n\nAll you need is a Internet connection and a computer and you can get started. Think of a project that could be useful and fun for you. Maybe a phone app or PC program that makes your day a little easier. Maybe you are into video games and want to pick up modding. You can even incorporate hardware into this too (look up microcontrollers like a Arduino or the Raspberry Pi). There are plenty of free Online resources you can utilize for whatever project you decide to work on. Even if you don't want to make programming into your profession it is still an incredibly handy skill to learn.\n\nTo maybe give you some inspiration, I personally am working on 2 projects at the moment. One is an automated mining robot in Minecraft (utilizing a few mods) and the other is software that allows me to control RGB LED strips with a Rapsberry Pi through a web interface.", "Photography. When learning to play an instrument, it can be discouraging if you don't get the results you want fast enough. Photography is great because though you won't get magazine worthy shots when you're a beginner, it wont take you as long to produce shots that are great and something you can be proud of.", "If you don't feel like being around other people , you can do the audio book + ( running / gym / random solo sport ) combo. Your 40 y/o self will be grateful for you actually taking care of your health. You can also listen to stuff that will help you later on, like psychology. Trust me , you won't get bored with a good book.", "Crocheting / knitting?\n\nDon't laugh - literally every member of my family except me is into it. You make something useful (think scarf, blanket, or a beverage coozie) and it keeps your hands busy.", "Start to learn a language. Welsh, Lojban, Arabic, Inuktitut, hell... even a programming language can be fun. Find one that genuinely interests you, so it won't be like school. There are plenty of online resources, and some, like Duolingo, are free! Programming languages is even easier. Just start messing around with basic Java guides.", "A hobby that is physical and keeps you fit pays you back in many ways, it keeps you healthy and your brain sharp which transfers into all other areas of your life . Consider weightlifting or some type of martial arts, jiu jitsu, judo, karate, or any sport.", "Learn guitar! You can get a good begginner set up for pretty cheep a music store or on amazon (check the reviews). If you get good you can upgrade later. I've been playing fit 6 years and it still keeps me busy! ", "Learn to knit / crochet / braid / macrame. You can get crappy yarn to practice with at Goodwill / Salvation army. ", "Learn a new language. I know, education isn't fun, but once you learn a new language, other languages will open up to you.", "I'm in a similar situation as you, and if like to start flipping butterfly knives. They look like fun. ", "Get fiddle lessons. Do you have a rock climbing gym near you? How about sourdough bread baking. Body building. Become a memory champion. Learn to build apps on smart phones and make a very simple app that you can maintain. Bicycling... bicycling's the best. Better yet, bicycle touring. Knife throwing. Memorize history timelines." ]	[ 15, 8, 4, 4, 4, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Walking up to and behind a really slow walker without giving off axe murderer vibes. I might be making too much of this, but I'm trying to decrease the awkward in my life and increase the normal. And....my god. There's so. Much. Awkward. So here it goes.\n\nI'm (6 ft male) walking by myself down a quiet, safe, very long suburban street enjoying the air. It only has 1 normal width sidewalk down the entire stretch of the road with no side streets. I'm a very fast walker, someone's fast pace is my leisurely pace. Now, the slow walker situation happens far too often. A little 60+ year old lady is walking way in front of me in the same direction. She's going pretty slow and there's a long way before I get back home. I'm guaranteed to catch up to her. I start weighing my options, I could:\n\n* Slow down my pace a lot and decrease my stride a lot to the point where I have to concentrate on my balance as I walk.\n\n* Stay at my normal pace. Awkwardly and rudely pass her. Except, as I approach her, there's a 2 minute window where she's freaking out inside. Wondering if she should start running or mace me. Then, when I pass her in the grass, I feel like one of those jackasses that pass on the shoulder on the freeway.\n\n* Stop walking for 1-2 minutes and (big air quotes) \"check my phone.\" So that she can get some distance on me.\n\nI slow down my pace. That still isn't enough, I start gaining. I slow down more. She's getting tired and slows down more. I stop and pull out my phone for 60 seconds. That helped but there's still a long way to go down this street. Luckily her destination was before mine. Awkwardness avoided.\n\nHelp an awkward guy out. How can I deal with this like a normal person instead of a flustered, passive-aggressive mess?\n", "Walking up to and behind a really slow walker without giving off axe murderer vibes. I might be making too much of this, but I'm trying to decrease the awkward in my life and increase the normal. And....my god. There's so. Much. Awkward. So here it goes.\n\nI'm (6 ft male) walking by myself down a quiet, safe, very long suburban street enjoying the air. It only has 1 normal width sidewalk down the entire stretch of the road with no side streets. I'm a very fast walker, someone's fast pace is my leisurely pace. Now, the slow walker situation happens far too often. A little 60+ year old lady is walking way in front of me in the same direction. She's going pretty slow and there's a long way before I get back home. I'm guaranteed to catch up to her. I start weighing my options, I could:\n\n* Slow down my pace a lot and decrease my stride a lot to the point where I have to concentrate on my balance as I walk.\n\n* Stay at my normal pace. Awkwardly and rudely pass her. Except, as I approach her, there's a 2 minute window where she's freaking out inside. Wondering if she should start running or mace me. Then, when I pass her in the grass, I feel like one of those jackasses that pass on the shoulder on the freeway.\n\n* Stop walking for 1-2 minutes and (big air quotes) \"check my phone.\" So that she can get some distance on me.\n\nI slow down my pace. That still isn't enough, I start gaining. I slow down more. She's getting tired and slows down more. I stop and pull out my phone for 60 seconds. That helped but there's still a long way to go down this street. Luckily her destination was before mine. Awkwardness avoided.\n\nHelp an awkward guy out. How can I deal with this like a normal person instead of a flustered, passive-aggressive mess?\n", "Walking up to and behind a really slow walker without giving off axe murderer vibes. I might be making too much of this, but I'm trying to decrease the awkward in my life and increase the normal. And....my god. There's so. Much. Awkward. So here it goes.\n\nI'm (6 ft male) walking by myself down a quiet, safe, very long suburban street enjoying the air. It only has 1 normal width sidewalk down the entire stretch of the road with no side streets. I'm a very fast walker, someone's fast pace is my leisurely pace. Now, the slow walker situation happens far too often. A little 60+ year old lady is walking way in front of me in the same direction. She's going pretty slow and there's a long way before I get back home. I'm guaranteed to catch up to her. I start weighing my options, I could:\n\n* Slow down my pace a lot and decrease my stride a lot to the point where I have to concentrate on my balance as I walk.\n\n* Stay at my normal pace. Awkwardly and rudely pass her. Except, as I approach her, there's a 2 minute window where she's freaking out inside. Wondering if she should start running or mace me. Then, when I pass her in the grass, I feel like one of those jackasses that pass on the shoulder on the freeway.\n\n* Stop walking for 1-2 minutes and (big air quotes) \"check my phone.\" So that she can get some distance on me.\n\nI slow down my pace. That still isn't enough, I start gaining. I slow down more. She's getting tired and slows down more. I stop and pull out my phone for 60 seconds. That helped but there's still a long way to go down this street. Luckily her destination was before mine. Awkwardness avoided.\n\nHelp an awkward guy out. How can I deal with this like a normal person instead of a flustered, passive-aggressive mess?\n", "Walking up to and behind a really slow walker without giving off axe murderer vibes. I might be making too much of this, but I'm trying to decrease the awkward in my life and increase the normal. And....my god. There's so. Much. Awkward. So here it goes.\n\nI'm (6 ft male) walking by myself down a quiet, safe, very long suburban street enjoying the air. It only has 1 normal width sidewalk down the entire stretch of the road with no side streets. I'm a very fast walker, someone's fast pace is my leisurely pace. Now, the slow walker situation happens far too often. A little 60+ year old lady is walking way in front of me in the same direction. She's going pretty slow and there's a long way before I get back home. I'm guaranteed to catch up to her. I start weighing my options, I could:\n\n* Slow down my pace a lot and decrease my stride a lot to the point where I have to concentrate on my balance as I walk.\n\n* Stay at my normal pace. Awkwardly and rudely pass her. Except, as I approach her, there's a 2 minute window where she's freaking out inside. Wondering if she should start running or mace me. Then, when I pass her in the grass, I feel like one of those jackasses that pass on the shoulder on the freeway.\n\n* Stop walking for 1-2 minutes and (big air quotes) \"check my phone.\" So that she can get some distance on me.\n\nI slow down my pace. That still isn't enough, I start gaining. I slow down more. She's getting tired and slows down more. I stop and pull out my phone for 60 seconds. That helped but there's still a long way to go down this street. Luckily her destination was before mine. Awkwardness avoided.\n\nHelp an awkward guy out. How can I deal with this like a normal person instead of a flustered, passive-aggressive mess?\n", "Walking up to and behind a really slow walker without giving off axe murderer vibes. I might be making too much of this, but I'm trying to decrease the awkward in my life and increase the normal. And....my god. There's so. Much. Awkward. So here it goes.\n\nI'm (6 ft male) walking by myself down a quiet, safe, very long suburban street enjoying the air. It only has 1 normal width sidewalk down the entire stretch of the road with no side streets. I'm a very fast walker, someone's fast pace is my leisurely pace. Now, the slow walker situation happens far too often. A little 60+ year old lady is walking way in front of me in the same direction. She's going pretty slow and there's a long way before I get back home. I'm guaranteed to catch up to her. I start weighing my options, I could:\n\n* Slow down my pace a lot and decrease my stride a lot to the point where I have to concentrate on my balance as I walk.\n\n* Stay at my normal pace. Awkwardly and rudely pass her. Except, as I approach her, there's a 2 minute window where she's freaking out inside. Wondering if she should start running or mace me. Then, when I pass her in the grass, I feel like one of those jackasses that pass on the shoulder on the freeway.\n\n* Stop walking for 1-2 minutes and (big air quotes) \"check my phone.\" So that she can get some distance on me.\n\nI slow down my pace. That still isn't enough, I start gaining. I slow down more. She's getting tired and slows down more. I stop and pull out my phone for 60 seconds. That helped but there's still a long way to go down this street. Luckily her destination was before mine. Awkwardness avoided.\n\nHelp an awkward guy out. How can I deal with this like a normal person instead of a flustered, passive-aggressive mess?\n", "Walking up to and behind a really slow walker without giving off axe murderer vibes. I might be making too much of this, but I'm trying to decrease the awkward in my life and increase the normal. And....my god. There's so. Much. Awkward. So here it goes.\n\nI'm (6 ft male) walking by myself down a quiet, safe, very long suburban street enjoying the air. It only has 1 normal width sidewalk down the entire stretch of the road with no side streets. I'm a very fast walker, someone's fast pace is my leisurely pace. Now, the slow walker situation happens far too often. A little 60+ year old lady is walking way in front of me in the same direction. She's going pretty slow and there's a long way before I get back home. I'm guaranteed to catch up to her. I start weighing my options, I could:\n\n* Slow down my pace a lot and decrease my stride a lot to the point where I have to concentrate on my balance as I walk.\n\n* Stay at my normal pace. Awkwardly and rudely pass her. Except, as I approach her, there's a 2 minute window where she's freaking out inside. Wondering if she should start running or mace me. Then, when I pass her in the grass, I feel like one of those jackasses that pass on the shoulder on the freeway.\n\n* Stop walking for 1-2 minutes and (big air quotes) \"check my phone.\" So that she can get some distance on me.\n\nI slow down my pace. That still isn't enough, I start gaining. I slow down more. She's getting tired and slows down more. I stop and pull out my phone for 60 seconds. That helped but there's still a long way to go down this street. Luckily her destination was before mine. Awkwardness avoided.\n\nHelp an awkward guy out. How can I deal with this like a normal person instead of a flustered, passive-aggressive mess?\n", "Walking up to and behind a really slow walker without giving off axe murderer vibes. I might be making too much of this, but I'm trying to decrease the awkward in my life and increase the normal. And....my god. There's so. Much. Awkward. So here it goes.\n\nI'm (6 ft male) walking by myself down a quiet, safe, very long suburban street enjoying the air. It only has 1 normal width sidewalk down the entire stretch of the road with no side streets. I'm a very fast walker, someone's fast pace is my leisurely pace. Now, the slow walker situation happens far too often. A little 60+ year old lady is walking way in front of me in the same direction. She's going pretty slow and there's a long way before I get back home. I'm guaranteed to catch up to her. I start weighing my options, I could:\n\n* Slow down my pace a lot and decrease my stride a lot to the point where I have to concentrate on my balance as I walk.\n\n* Stay at my normal pace. Awkwardly and rudely pass her. Except, as I approach her, there's a 2 minute window where she's freaking out inside. Wondering if she should start running or mace me. Then, when I pass her in the grass, I feel like one of those jackasses that pass on the shoulder on the freeway.\n\n* Stop walking for 1-2 minutes and (big air quotes) \"check my phone.\" So that she can get some distance on me.\n\nI slow down my pace. That still isn't enough, I start gaining. I slow down more. She's getting tired and slows down more. I stop and pull out my phone for 60 seconds. That helped but there's still a long way to go down this street. Luckily her destination was before mine. Awkwardness avoided.\n\nHelp an awkward guy out. How can I deal with this like a normal person instead of a flustered, passive-aggressive mess?\n", "Walking up to and behind a really slow walker without giving off axe murderer vibes. I might be making too much of this, but I'm trying to decrease the awkward in my life and increase the normal. And....my god. There's so. Much. Awkward. So here it goes.\n\nI'm (6 ft male) walking by myself down a quiet, safe, very long suburban street enjoying the air. It only has 1 normal width sidewalk down the entire stretch of the road with no side streets. I'm a very fast walker, someone's fast pace is my leisurely pace. Now, the slow walker situation happens far too often. A little 60+ year old lady is walking way in front of me in the same direction. She's going pretty slow and there's a long way before I get back home. I'm guaranteed to catch up to her. I start weighing my options, I could:\n\n* Slow down my pace a lot and decrease my stride a lot to the point where I have to concentrate on my balance as I walk.\n\n* Stay at my normal pace. Awkwardly and rudely pass her. Except, as I approach her, there's a 2 minute window where she's freaking out inside. Wondering if she should start running or mace me. Then, when I pass her in the grass, I feel like one of those jackasses that pass on the shoulder on the freeway.\n\n* Stop walking for 1-2 minutes and (big air quotes) \"check my phone.\" So that she can get some distance on me.\n\nI slow down my pace. That still isn't enough, I start gaining. I slow down more. She's getting tired and slows down more. I stop and pull out my phone for 60 seconds. That helped but there's still a long way to go down this street. Luckily her destination was before mine. Awkwardness avoided.\n\nHelp an awkward guy out. How can I deal with this like a normal person instead of a flustered, passive-aggressive mess?\n" ]	[ "Tall, fast walker here. I always smile, that way I don't look like I'm going to kill them. I will sometimes whistle or hum. I also say pardon me as I get up close to them and begin to overtake them. All my life I've used pardon me because excuse me sounds more rude. ", "What about \"talking\" on you phone as you pass them. Saying something like--just hurrying home. See you in a bit. Start talking behind them so they can hear you coming.", "Just walk past. If they get scared then they're a pussy and that's not your fault.\n\n6 foot 5 bodybuilder / powerlifter so I relate to how you feel. ", "You can just politely ask the person in front of you to let you pass because you're in a hurry, and thank them when they do let you pass. \n \nExample:\n- Excuse me, may I pass trough. Im in a bit of a hurry. \n- Yes, of course. /person steps aside and gives you a path/ \n- Thank you, and have a nice day! \n\nThis will actually make you feel more comfortable with other scenarious as well, like in the bus or in the supermarket. And feeling more comfortable saying \"Have a nice day\" to people. This as well will make them happy for that day.", "Make noise while you are far away so they know you are coming. Let's your keys jingle, slide your feet a bit while walking or something.", "Just speed up a bit and pass them as fast as possible.\n\nIn the situation you describe, you might slow down for a minute to catch your breath to pass as fast as practically possible, when you finally make your move.", "dont feel so bad im 5'3 and i constatly have moments like; except compare to you i look like a small children trying to glare at the back of people's head to let them know im trying to get pass them lol", "Can't you just say \"Excuse me, coming through\" as you pass her on the street side of the sidewalk? \nOr if the sidewalk is too narrow, just go around her by walking into the street for a bit until you are past her then back up onto the sidewalk. \nI think I would have been able to figure this out myself about age 10. If you are having this much of a problem passing people on the sidewalk, maybe you should seek professional help." ]	[ 12, 8, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!", "How to make time go faster while at work. Time seems to go by so slowly, how do you make it go by faster!" ]	[ "Do your fuckin work! I realized time was going so slowly because I was trying to avoid work. I stopped doing that and it went by waaaay faster. Also, promotion.", "Actually do what your supposed to be doing and if you find yourself with spare time, help a colleague or do more of your own work.", "Pick up a new skill, preferably work related. I'm becoming better and better in Excel, experimenting concepts in my spare time. Recently I taught myself Visual Basic, which in turn simplified my original nested formula so much. \n\nPart of my duties is handling the finances so I'm trying to automate the process as much as possible to reduce human error, especially in large transactions. It's my pet project, unknown to superiors or subordinates. Just enough to make them think I'm awesome ;p", "One of two things needs to change, your mentality or your job. For example, I am a type of person that has to be productive or I feel useless so I have to have a job that gives me an opportunity to stay busy and feel productive/accomplished. If this is you, change your job to something that helps you feel accomplished.\n\nAlternatively, too many people only go to work for the paycheck and it is unfulfilling. If this is you, change your mentality or time will drag for the rest of your life.", "Get up and walk around every once in a while. Chat with a coworker about some work you're doing, or topics unrelated to work. Offer to do a coffee run. Listen to music (if you're allowed to).", "I heard that this website Reddit.com is pretty great! They call it the front page of the Internet! News, funny pictures, cats, memes, boobs... It's got everything! ", "It does really depend on what you are able to do while at work.\n\nThe main thing you want to do is keep your mind as busy as possible and also keep your body busy often.", "We can't always do what we enjoy so we can at least try to enjoy what we have to do.\n\nIf you really hate your job that much and there is nothing redeeming then maybe it's time for a change. Unless of course you make a ton of money. At my old job I wrote a little app that would count how much money I had made that day/week/month in real time. Looking at those numbers spin up and up was comforting when I was having a shit day.", "I used to be able to trick myself at my mundane repetitive job. I would envision where I would be several hours later, likely sitting on the couch with a beer. Build a mental image of what you would be seeing and later, when you get there, it feels like deja vu and you wonder where the time went.\n\nIt doesn't really make time feel like its flying by, but when you get to your later reference point the day feels like it was short.\n\nAlso works for long road trips.", "[capturetheflag.us](http://capturetheflag.us)\n\nIt's a really fun, simple game that gets to be pretty addicting if you want to get good at it. It's filled countless of boring hours at work for me. Enjoy.", "When I was in my previous job, Reddit reading and writing scripts, or documentation. Doing your damn job is also a really good way to stay busy at work. Remember, thousands on welfare depend on you. ", "Most of the answers here haven't actually helped.\n\nIf you do an office job, write something. Maybe start to write a blog, a novel, or anything else. You have plenty of time and access to outlook (which makes it look almost like you are doing work). I write blog posts and designs quests for a computer game all in outlook saved as drafts. Suddenly your days will fly by, while someone else is paying for you to do something you want to actually do.\n\nOther idea - download PDF's and read them. No one tracks what PDF you have open (java for dummies is on mine!)", "All of you people saying to \"do your fuckin work\" probably haven't worked in retail or restaurants. Where there is tons of down time. \n\nAlthough, a good suggestion many people have said - find more work to do. You are, after all, there to work. Ask co workers if you can help clean, or the manager if you can help do anything that needs doing. This might involve cleaning the grease traps above the frier. But at least it is something to do, and you can focus on cleaning those damn, disgusting traps instead of how much time before you get off.\n\nI prided myself on cleaning dishes the most efficiently, and keeping my kitchen the cleanest it could be. This makes time fly by, and you can actually have pride in the clean kitchen you now work in, and say - \"I did that\". Also, just pride yourself in being good at what you do. I found a great deal of satisfaction in giving people the best goddamned burger they have ever had. Seeing them sit down and chow down was an added bonus.\n\n\nTLDR; find more things to do at your job. Your manager will probably have a couple things you can do. If they don't, do cleaning or housekeeping or something that needs to be done, but other people hate doing. Not only will your coworkers and boss love you, but it generally feels good and passes the time.", "Some jobs are naturally boring once you get into a rhythm, know your stuff, and can do it with your eyes closed. This is when it is time to push yourself to apply for a higher position or bear through the necessary experience required to eventually apply for a higher position. For example, I work for an IT Service Desk and at first it was a dream come true to be working in IT and apply my talents all day, now I'm bored practically every day I go into work, but a minimum two years helpdesk experience is require for Information Security. I have one year already under my belt, working on a Certificate, so that passes the time, other than that I have to put in dues. If that's you, hang in there you can do it. But if you're just being lazy... well, only the strong survive my friend.", "I find that actually ignoring the time helps me, whenever I feel the urge to look at the clock I stop myself because I know it's definitely not time for me to leave yet.", "Don't look at clocks, if possible, listen to music, and don't have the mentality of 'I'm doing work,' instead, in the words of Shia Labeouf, http://i.imgur.com/8VCiB5B.webm\n", "Do shit and change tasks often. If you break your day into 15 minute intervals, then your day will seem to move faster." ]	[ 130, 43, 7, 7, 7, 5, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I fix my impulsiveness or better it? In the last couple months I have started to notice myself flip-flopping when doing things/buying things.. For a couple days I will be doing something and then completely stop or if I buy something I only tend to want it/play with it for a certain amount of time..\n\nI'm not sure if there really is a fix to it, but it sucks. ", "How can I fix my impulsiveness or better it? In the last couple months I have started to notice myself flip-flopping when doing things/buying things.. For a couple days I will be doing something and then completely stop or if I buy something I only tend to want it/play with it for a certain amount of time..\n\nI'm not sure if there really is a fix to it, but it sucks. " ]	[ "My step-dad taught me that 24 hours is such a tiny fraction of your life. Meaning if I could just wait 24 hours between wanting to buy/do something, and actually buying/doing it, that would greatly reduce the number of impulse-decisions. Most of the time the regret comes after a night of sleep anyway.\n\nTL;DR: Give yourself at least 24 hours to make decisions which aren't urgent.", "I am the same way, and I try to make myself think about if I actually need to spend money on something. Sometimes I don't carry my cr" ]	[ 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "Getting non-framed posters to stay up on the wall Simple as that. My paper/cardstock posters always fall down.", "Getting non-framed posters to stay up on the wall Simple as that. My paper/cardstock posters always fall down.", "Getting non-framed posters to stay up on the wall Simple as that. My paper/cardstock posters always fall down." ]	[ "I actually like painters tape. Doesn't damage the paint. I hang a ton of posters up in my room and this is what I do:\n\n1. For small posters, you only need small little loops of tape on all four corners, this will keep them up. \n\n2. Anything bigger or heavier, create bigger loops with the tape and make x's with them on all four corners of the posters. This will keep them sticking where you want them and hold them there.\n\nYou can get this blue or green tape at any hardware or even dollar store. Definitely do not confuse with duct tape. You will wreck posters and walls. ", "If you're not worried about a tiny hole, a thumb tack. \n\nIf you are, you can use 4 thumbtacks on each corner to hold the poster in place.", "Double-sided tape works really well, but be careful if you're worried about ruining wall paint. I hang many of my posters using double-sided tape, it's the cheapest option I can think of." ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to avoid the awkwardness of seeing someone you sort of know walking toward you down a long hallway I don't want to whip out my phone, which is what I do now, so should I just ignore them, say something, stare at the (suddenly fascinating) wall, or do something else?", "How to avoid the awkwardness of seeing someone you sort of know walking toward you down a long hallway I don't want to whip out my phone, which is what I do now, so should I just ignore them, say something, stare at the (suddenly fascinating) wall, or do something else?", "How to avoid the awkwardness of seeing someone you sort of know walking toward you down a long hallway I don't want to whip out my phone, which is what I do now, so should I just ignore them, say something, stare at the (suddenly fascinating) wall, or do something else?", "How to avoid the awkwardness of seeing someone you sort of know walking toward you down a long hallway I don't want to whip out my phone, which is what I do now, so should I just ignore them, say something, stare at the (suddenly fascinating) wall, or do something else?", "How to avoid the awkwardness of seeing someone you sort of know walking toward you down a long hallway I don't want to whip out my phone, which is what I do now, so should I just ignore them, say something, stare at the (suddenly fascinating) wall, or do something else?", "How to avoid the awkwardness of seeing someone you sort of know walking toward you down a long hallway I don't want to whip out my phone, which is what I do now, so should I just ignore them, say something, stare at the (suddenly fascinating) wall, or do something else?", "How to avoid the awkwardness of seeing someone you sort of know walking toward you down a long hallway I don't want to whip out my phone, which is what I do now, so should I just ignore them, say something, stare at the (suddenly fascinating) wall, or do something else?" ]	[ "I have a detailed plan for this situation.\n\n1. Walk normally until the person is close enough that you can see their eyes.\n2. Look them in the eyes. If at any point they look you at the eye, do a quick nod.\n3. Depending on if the nod gets a response\n * If your nod does not get a response, quickly look away. This is thankfully the end of the interaction\n * If your nod gets a response, maintain eye contact in case they want to say something or for some reason prolong this painful interaction.\n\nIf at any point the other person waves, smiles, says hello or anything else that acknowledges both that you exist and that you have previously met, copy their behavior. ", "how about making brief appropriate eye contact and perhaps the \"nod of recognition\" while determinedly continuing along your way, having respectfully and responsibly been a decent human being with proper manners?", "Stop walking. Do not speak. Initiate a deep, straight faced stare directly at the individual. Do not disengage stare until they have passed out of sight. ", "I usually look at my phone or focus on something until we're close enough to comfortably engage, then send out a quick wave or \"Hey\" and see what happens. Sometimes a conversation, usually get a \"Hey\" and both keep on walking.", "I usually just wave if I feel they might see me, wave and keep walking. I did that to a teacher once in high school. If you don't know them well enough for that then just nod slightly. Can pretend you were twitching or something if they don't acknowledge you, the shits.", "Eye contact then say something like \"how are you doing?\", or.... \"I like your shoes (or other clothing)\", or even \"long time no see!\" etc etc.... Just a brief acknowledgement should reduce the awkwardness pretty easily. ", "Ask, \"Do you have time to hear about my religion?\" and they'll politely decline and haul ass away from you so fast, with no further effort on your part. Next time, they'll avoid you like the plague, too. Am I serious? You decide. :)" ]	[ 20, 18, 13, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to prevent bringing cockroaches into my house. So this summer I am staying with my aunt and unfortunately there are cockroaches here. My main concern is how I can go back home without bringing any with me via my luggage. Anything is really, really appreciated. I really do not want to take these guys home. Thanks :)", "How to prevent bringing cockroaches into my house. So this summer I am staying with my aunt and unfortunately there are cockroaches here. My main concern is how I can go back home without bringing any with me via my luggage. Anything is really, really appreciated. I really do not want to take these guys home. Thanks :)" ]	[ "Get some boric acid. It's safe to use and works by dehydrating bugs. Put some in the cracks and crevasses around your kitchen and bath. Roaches will be attracted to the food and water in these areas, crawl through the boric acid, and die. This is a great way to keep bugs out of the home in general. ", "Maybe put everything in plastic garbage bags before you put it in your luggage.. sealing them tightly. instead of going right home, go to the laundromat first and wash everything in hot water. While that is happening, spray your car trunk with roach spray. Thoroughly inspect your luggage." ]	[ 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "How do people even schedule? So I'm in my third year of a tumultuous college education, and unlike high school I've found it impossible to just wing everything and get good grades. Add to this fact that i just had my first daughter in September, and i work full time (or dam near it, like 35+hrs a week). I have next to no beneficial time management skills, and sure as hell can't organize a schedule into something functional and useful. I'm not looking for someone to organize my life for me (though i wouldn't mind having a wife ;P) what I'm actually looking for is advice. Is there a good program i could use that would be able to sync a schedule between my phone and laptop? Does gmail have something like this? and if so how useful is it really? I've found if i try to do the post its on my wall or the planner in my bag, that i just start ignoring them after a while, and i really need to figure out how to stay on top of everything, so if anyone out there has some good pro-tips i'd love to hear em.", "How do people even schedule? So I'm in my third year of a tumultuous college education, and unlike high school I've found it impossible to just wing everything and get good grades. Add to this fact that i just had my first daughter in September, and i work full time (or dam near it, like 35+hrs a week). I have next to no beneficial time management skills, and sure as hell can't organize a schedule into something functional and useful. I'm not looking for someone to organize my life for me (though i wouldn't mind having a wife ;P) what I'm actually looking for is advice. Is there a good program i could use that would be able to sync a schedule between my phone and laptop? Does gmail have something like this? and if so how useful is it really? I've found if i try to do the post its on my wall or the planner in my bag, that i just start ignoring them after a while, and i really need to figure out how to stay on top of everything, so if anyone out there has some good pro-tips i'd love to hear em.", "How do people even schedule? So I'm in my third year of a tumultuous college education, and unlike high school I've found it impossible to just wing everything and get good grades. Add to this fact that i just had my first daughter in September, and i work full time (or dam near it, like 35+hrs a week). I have next to no beneficial time management skills, and sure as hell can't organize a schedule into something functional and useful. I'm not looking for someone to organize my life for me (though i wouldn't mind having a wife ;P) what I'm actually looking for is advice. Is there a good program i could use that would be able to sync a schedule between my phone and laptop? Does gmail have something like this? and if so how useful is it really? I've found if i try to do the post its on my wall or the planner in my bag, that i just start ignoring them after a while, and i really need to figure out how to stay on top of everything, so if anyone out there has some good pro-tips i'd love to hear em.", "How do people even schedule? So I'm in my third year of a tumultuous college education, and unlike high school I've found it impossible to just wing everything and get good grades. Add to this fact that i just had my first daughter in September, and i work full time (or dam near it, like 35+hrs a week). I have next to no beneficial time management skills, and sure as hell can't organize a schedule into something functional and useful. I'm not looking for someone to organize my life for me (though i wouldn't mind having a wife ;P) what I'm actually looking for is advice. Is there a good program i could use that would be able to sync a schedule between my phone and laptop? Does gmail have something like this? and if so how useful is it really? I've found if i try to do the post its on my wall or the planner in my bag, that i just start ignoring them after a while, and i really need to figure out how to stay on top of everything, so if anyone out there has some good pro-tips i'd love to hear em.", "How do people even schedule? So I'm in my third year of a tumultuous college education, and unlike high school I've found it impossible to just wing everything and get good grades. Add to this fact that i just had my first daughter in September, and i work full time (or dam near it, like 35+hrs a week). I have next to no beneficial time management skills, and sure as hell can't organize a schedule into something functional and useful. I'm not looking for someone to organize my life for me (though i wouldn't mind having a wife ;P) what I'm actually looking for is advice. Is there a good program i could use that would be able to sync a schedule between my phone and laptop? Does gmail have something like this? and if so how useful is it really? I've found if i try to do the post its on my wall or the planner in my bag, that i just start ignoring them after a while, and i really need to figure out how to stay on top of everything, so if anyone out there has some good pro-tips i'd love to hear em.", "How do people even schedule? So I'm in my third year of a tumultuous college education, and unlike high school I've found it impossible to just wing everything and get good grades. Add to this fact that i just had my first daughter in September, and i work full time (or dam near it, like 35+hrs a week). I have next to no beneficial time management skills, and sure as hell can't organize a schedule into something functional and useful. I'm not looking for someone to organize my life for me (though i wouldn't mind having a wife ;P) what I'm actually looking for is advice. Is there a good program i could use that would be able to sync a schedule between my phone and laptop? Does gmail have something like this? and if so how useful is it really? I've found if i try to do the post its on my wall or the planner in my bag, that i just start ignoring them after a while, and i really need to figure out how to stay on top of everything, so if anyone out there has some good pro-tips i'd love to hear em.", "How do people even schedule? So I'm in my third year of a tumultuous college education, and unlike high school I've found it impossible to just wing everything and get good grades. Add to this fact that i just had my first daughter in September, and i work full time (or dam near it, like 35+hrs a week). I have next to no beneficial time management skills, and sure as hell can't organize a schedule into something functional and useful. I'm not looking for someone to organize my life for me (though i wouldn't mind having a wife ;P) what I'm actually looking for is advice. Is there a good program i could use that would be able to sync a schedule between my phone and laptop? Does gmail have something like this? and if so how useful is it really? I've found if i try to do the post its on my wall or the planner in my bag, that i just start ignoring them after a while, and i really need to figure out how to stay on top of everything, so if anyone out there has some good pro-tips i'd love to hear em.", "How do people even schedule? So I'm in my third year of a tumultuous college education, and unlike high school I've found it impossible to just wing everything and get good grades. Add to this fact that i just had my first daughter in September, and i work full time (or dam near it, like 35+hrs a week). I have next to no beneficial time management skills, and sure as hell can't organize a schedule into something functional and useful. I'm not looking for someone to organize my life for me (though i wouldn't mind having a wife ;P) what I'm actually looking for is advice. Is there a good program i could use that would be able to sync a schedule between my phone and laptop? Does gmail have something like this? and if so how useful is it really? I've found if i try to do the post its on my wall or the planner in my bag, that i just start ignoring them after a while, and i really need to figure out how to stay on top of everything, so if anyone out there has some good pro-tips i'd love to hear em." ]	[ "Google calendar. You can get it in a browser or on your android phone. You can even share a calendar with someone else. That's what my wife and I do, I share my calendar with hers and she shares hers with me, so whoever puts something on their calendar both people can see it.\n\nhttp://calendar.google.com\n\nthe Calendar app on your Android phone.", "i'd recommend google calendar along with a good listmaking app. [wunderlist](https://www.wunderlist.com/en/) is a good one. or, you could use google tasks.", "I used MS Outlook to good effect, most universities are using MS exchange for email accounts so this will help things mesh well also.", "I completed my undergraduate degree while working part time and fitting in some volunteer crap for resume beef. It kind of forced me into creating schedules to follow so that I could get through my days. I'm doing a master's now and don't work, so I have a lot more wiggle room but I still like to plan out my days. \n\nSince you said you work and you have classes, I'd start by writing in all those shifts/classes/labs/tutorials/etc in the calendar. Give yourself however much time necessary for travel to/from home/work. You'll (hopefully) start to see some holes in your schedule where you can try to fit in scheduled time to do school work. Even if you only have 20-30 minutes or something small at a time, you'd still be able to get bits and pieces done. Sometimes it helped (for me) to schedule myself 30-45 minutes to work on a paper or an assignment because I knew I had to be productive the entire time. If I scheduled a 2 hour block I had time to dick around and not do much work. Start to schedule in blocks of time to work on assignments/papers/whatever. I don't know if you can effectively gauge how much time an assignment will take you, but hopefully since you're in third year now you can. Give yourself enough blocks of time to finish whatever you need to work on. Again, you might have to do this in very small segments throughout your week.\n\nI like using my phone/computer for a day to day schedule. I don't include anything about due dates in this. I have a MacBook and an iPhone and the iCal that comes with both syncs automatically. For assignment due dates I use a giant 4-month white board calendar that I have on the wall next to my bed. This is where I write down all my due dates, and I can see the entire semester at once. Since I see it every day I don't really feel the need to include due dates in my electronic calendar, but you could also add due dates as 'full day' items or something like that in Google Calendar or iCal.\n\nIf you have a standard work/school schedule you will hopefully fall into a routine fairly quickly and won't have to check your schedule all the time to know what you're supposed to be working on in between class and work.\n\nHopefully my approach helps a bit :)", "Google calendar works cross device. I would also recommend reading [\"Getting things done\"](http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Things-Done-Stress-Free-Productivity/dp/0142000280) and checking out [43 folders.](http://www.43folders.com/) ", "Evernote + GTD = AWESOME! http://www.thesecretweapon.org/\n\nAlso read Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity by David Allen", "-Get a white board and write the things down and when they need to be done by.\n\n-Add a notes gadget (/download Rainmeter for desktop gadgets) to your desktop so it reminds you every time. Also Rainlender is a awesome and simple desktop calendar.", " Firstly I thank you all for giving your bits of advice, especially snellk. I always just felt like those small bits of time were useless because it wasn't enough to really get something done, do you suggest going so far as to adding sleep and shower time on the schedule? Or is that just too much to look at at any one time?\n\n Also as for the child without a significant other, the story goes like this...this girl and I met when we were maybe 6 or 7 at a small group our parents both attended through our local church. Sad to say but I really was the cliche of love at first site, even that young. From that day on most of my thoughts were of her, everything I did was done in some way to impress or please her. I would show up to church, mostly to see her, I would bring her gifts, we would sneak off to tell each other secrets and to hold hands. Then my mom got diagnosed with stomach cancer when I was like 11, fought it hard and passed away when I was like 15. Going through that angsty tweeny phase while watching my mother wither away made me turn away from the church, and to begin doing drugs and drinking and eventually having sex. I still thought about the mother often, but I was too ashamed of who I was being/had become to want her to see me that way. So we didn't talk very much through most of high school and Jr high. When we did start talking again it wad the sign for me to end a 4 yr relationship, which I had always known to be mostly physical, I knew I couldnt have loved her since I loved the mother, but it was a good distraction. And finally after another year or two of no contact she invites me out of the blue to a friends birthday party, and I was very charming that night :P. We have tried to make something of it since she got pregnant, but she had fairly recently ended a long term relationship (broken the engagement) when we went to the party, so she really isn't ready for anything with all of the major changes that have all happened in the past year or two. I'm just trying to be patient and wait it out at this point....\n\n Sorry that story was so long, she recently broke up with me because of needing time to figure things out, and I guess I just needed to talk about her, about us. Lol extra thanks to anyone who might still be reading this novel at this point..." ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "What is the best way to deal with big laces? There is a better way to [handle this](http://i.imgur.com/TxDllvG.jpg) without cutting it off?", "What is the best way to deal with big laces? There is a better way to [handle this](http://i.imgur.com/TxDllvG.jpg) without cutting it off?", "What is the best way to deal with big laces? There is a better way to [handle this](http://i.imgur.com/TxDllvG.jpg) without cutting it off?", "What is the best way to deal with big laces? There is a better way to [handle this](http://i.imgur.com/TxDllvG.jpg) without cutting it off?", "What is the best way to deal with big laces? There is a better way to [handle this](http://i.imgur.com/TxDllvG.jpg) without cutting it off?" ]	[ "Count the pairs of eyelets in your shoes before you go buy new laces so you can get the correct length.\n\nLaces are cheap- go get the right ones. You'll trip on those and if you cut them off you'll never be able to wash and relace them. I guess you could cut them and tape the ends as a last resort.\n\nIF they are synthetic you may be able to cut them off then singe the ends with an open flame so that they are somewhat sturdy and able to be poked through the holes. \n", "1. Cut shoe lace in two pieces at middle of lace.\n\n2. Remove a short amount of excess equally from both pieces of the lace.\n\n3. Tie the two pieces together in a knot like this: http://www.animatedknots.com/doublefishermans/\n\n4. Lace shoes. Repeat Steps until your laces are the perfect length.\n\nYou may have to tweak step 3 by removing some length of lace from both sides of the two pieces, because the knot may not remove enough of your extra. And burn the cut ends with a lighter so they don't fray.\n\nHope this makes sense--I'm too lazy to be more specific. If you can't figure it out---it's a shoelace. Figure it out. ", "Look around here: http://www.fieggen.com/shoelace/tying.htm there may be a better way to tie your shoes. http://www.fieggen.com/shoelace/excesslength.htm This part of the site actually talks about excessivly long laces... including how to shorten the ends, how to cut a chunk out of the middle, differnet lacing/tying methods, etc :)", "What I do is put the aglets through the top of the last pair of eyelets (so they come out of the bottom of the eyelet and into the shoe) and tuck them under. If you want them to stay tight, you can tie a knot where the lace meets the eyelet so they don't slide up and down. ", "Remove the laces from the shoe. Measure the length of the laces. Based on this picture, I would go to Walmart and buy new laces that are 8\" shorter. Replace the laces and be happy! Will cost you @ $1.50 - tops!" ]	[ 7, 6, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How do you stop a cat from chewing on something they're not supposed to? My cat periodically chooses a random object in the room to start chewing. Lately it's the blinds. Is there a safe way to make that object unappetizing to the cat?", "How do you stop a cat from chewing on something they're not supposed to? My cat periodically chooses a random object in the room to start chewing. Lately it's the blinds. Is there a safe way to make that object unappetizing to the cat?" ]	[ "I'd try \"bitter apple\" spray, which you should be able to pick up at any decent pet store (or Amazon.)", "My old puppy always chewed on our table legs so we went to the store where we got him and they recommended some sprays that made the table taste horrible so he would stop. They worked really well! I would suggest going to a pet store and asking the workers what they would use. Chances are they will be happy to help you." ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop losing things/forgetting where I put things? So, I lost my debit card about two weeks ago. Less of me being absent-minded: I lost it at work when it fell out of my pocket. I cancelled that card and received a new one the next day. \n\nToday, I lost my new debit card again. I'm desperately racking my brain trying to remember the last place I had it or what I did with it but I can't remember, and for some reason it's not in my wallet, where it should be. \n\nI do this sort of thing all the time. Just this morning I was running around like a chicken with my head cut off trying to find my damn keys and my glasses. \n\nAny suggestions for someone as scatter-brained as I am? I'm a forgetful person and all, but I try so hard to be relatively responsible, but going to my bank today to ask for ANOTHER card is just ridiculous on my part but my mind is just COMPLETELY blank. ", "How to stop losing things/forgetting where I put things? So, I lost my debit card about two weeks ago. Less of me being absent-minded: I lost it at work when it fell out of my pocket. I cancelled that card and received a new one the next day. \n\nToday, I lost my new debit card again. I'm desperately racking my brain trying to remember the last place I had it or what I did with it but I can't remember, and for some reason it's not in my wallet, where it should be. \n\nI do this sort of thing all the time. Just this morning I was running around like a chicken with my head cut off trying to find my damn keys and my glasses. \n\nAny suggestions for someone as scatter-brained as I am? I'm a forgetful person and all, but I try so hard to be relatively responsible, but going to my bank today to ask for ANOTHER card is just ridiculous on my part but my mind is just COMPLETELY blank. " ]	[ "The only thing that saves me from not ever being able to remember/find things is that I'm a creature of habit. I have a place for everything and I put items back where they belong. I keep my debit card in a certain pocket in my wallet and I don't ever put it anywhere else. Same for my ID, cr", "Yep. Everyone's right. Designated areas! For me it's to the point where if I don't put my wallet/ etc down in the designated area, for example if I am interrupted to be shown something by someone I feel a cognitive dissonance and must do it ASAP!" ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to convince someone to take a gift? My dad's extremely humble, and he's a nice person. His birthday was last week, and I forgot get him a gift.\n\nNext week, I want to take him out to a hockey game. I've never been to a sports game in my life, my parents always said it was too much money, when you can just watch it on your TV. I used to be jealous of how other kids could go, but I understand financially we couldn't afford it.\n\nBut I NEED my dad to go. He's turning 60 in a few years, and he's never seen a sports game in his life. I don't care about the seats, I just want him to experience it. Hockey's one of my dad's best interests, and he hasn't done anything exciting in years. I don't care how much I'd have to pay, I just want some tips.\n\nAny tips?", "How to convince someone to take a gift? My dad's extremely humble, and he's a nice person. His birthday was last week, and I forgot get him a gift.\n\nNext week, I want to take him out to a hockey game. I've never been to a sports game in my life, my parents always said it was too much money, when you can just watch it on your TV. I used to be jealous of how other kids could go, but I understand financially we couldn't afford it.\n\nBut I NEED my dad to go. He's turning 60 in a few years, and he's never seen a sports game in his life. I don't care about the seats, I just want him to experience it. Hockey's one of my dad's best interests, and he hasn't done anything exciting in years. I don't care how much I'd have to pay, I just want some tips.\n\nAny tips?", "How to convince someone to take a gift? My dad's extremely humble, and he's a nice person. His birthday was last week, and I forgot get him a gift.\n\nNext week, I want to take him out to a hockey game. I've never been to a sports game in my life, my parents always said it was too much money, when you can just watch it on your TV. I used to be jealous of how other kids could go, but I understand financially we couldn't afford it.\n\nBut I NEED my dad to go. He's turning 60 in a few years, and he's never seen a sports game in his life. I don't care about the seats, I just want him to experience it. Hockey's one of my dad's best interests, and he hasn't done anything exciting in years. I don't care how much I'd have to pay, I just want some tips.\n\nAny tips?", "How to convince someone to take a gift? My dad's extremely humble, and he's a nice person. His birthday was last week, and I forgot get him a gift.\n\nNext week, I want to take him out to a hockey game. I've never been to a sports game in my life, my parents always said it was too much money, when you can just watch it on your TV. I used to be jealous of how other kids could go, but I understand financially we couldn't afford it.\n\nBut I NEED my dad to go. He's turning 60 in a few years, and he's never seen a sports game in his life. I don't care about the seats, I just want him to experience it. Hockey's one of my dad's best interests, and he hasn't done anything exciting in years. I don't care how much I'd have to pay, I just want some tips.\n\nAny tips?", "How to convince someone to take a gift? My dad's extremely humble, and he's a nice person. His birthday was last week, and I forgot get him a gift.\n\nNext week, I want to take him out to a hockey game. I've never been to a sports game in my life, my parents always said it was too much money, when you can just watch it on your TV. I used to be jealous of how other kids could go, but I understand financially we couldn't afford it.\n\nBut I NEED my dad to go. He's turning 60 in a few years, and he's never seen a sports game in his life. I don't care about the seats, I just want him to experience it. Hockey's one of my dad's best interests, and he hasn't done anything exciting in years. I don't care how much I'd have to pay, I just want some tips.\n\nAny tips?" ]	[ "Explain to him\n\n* How much he means to you.\n* How much accepting that gift means to you.\n* Why he deserves this so much. \n\nI am not trying to be objective but I really want you to think about all the things your father has done for you, all the sacrifices he made and use them to fuel yourself to convince him.", "Make a powerpoint presentation with following chapters: \n\n* table of contents \n* short introduction to gift-giving\n* the gift-giving traditions around the world\n* the chosen gift - why do I think it's perfect for you?\n* the pros and cons of accepting the gift\n* post-gifting relationship: how will this gift affect us?\n* conclusion (sum up the presentation)\n* questions (always leave at least 5 minutes for questions)\n* remember to thank the audience! \n\n \n", "If you expect him to be reluctant to accept going to the game as a gift from you, present it differently. He sounds like someone who would be willing to accompany you to the game as a favor to you.", "\"Hey dad I (already) have two tickets to this upcoming hockey game. I'd really love if you could come with me, it can be both of our first experiences to a live game\"", "How far away is it?\n\nI'd tell him you guys are going somewhere (else?) and just drive to stadium and see when he figures it out.\n\nFor tickets, maybe look at SeatGeek." ]	[ 6, 3, 2, 2, 0 ]	safe
[ "Waking up for split shifts? I work for FedEx and it’s that time of year where everything is bananas and I’m working the day shift and the night shift because this is the only time of year where I can get this much overtime.\n\nI’m having trouble not waking up to my alarm for my day shift, because my usual shift is nights. On a day that I work split shifts, I’ll work 1200-1900, and then come back in and work 2130-0600.\n\nObviously the big problem is just not getting enough sleep, but I know other people who’ve been getting through it. I’ve got a loud alarm, and I just sleep right through it. Any tips?", "Waking up for split shifts? I work for FedEx and it’s that time of year where everything is bananas and I’m working the day shift and the night shift because this is the only time of year where I can get this much overtime.\n\nI’m having trouble not waking up to my alarm for my day shift, because my usual shift is nights. On a day that I work split shifts, I’ll work 1200-1900, and then come back in and work 2130-0600.\n\nObviously the big problem is just not getting enough sleep, but I know other people who’ve been getting through it. I’ve got a loud alarm, and I just sleep right through it. Any tips?", "Waking up for split shifts? I work for FedEx and it’s that time of year where everything is bananas and I’m working the day shift and the night shift because this is the only time of year where I can get this much overtime.\n\nI’m having trouble not waking up to my alarm for my day shift, because my usual shift is nights. On a day that I work split shifts, I’ll work 1200-1900, and then come back in and work 2130-0600.\n\nObviously the big problem is just not getting enough sleep, but I know other people who’ve been getting through it. I’ve got a loud alarm, and I just sleep right through it. Any tips?", "Waking up for split shifts? I work for FedEx and it’s that time of year where everything is bananas and I’m working the day shift and the night shift because this is the only time of year where I can get this much overtime.\n\nI’m having trouble not waking up to my alarm for my day shift, because my usual shift is nights. On a day that I work split shifts, I’ll work 1200-1900, and then come back in and work 2130-0600.\n\nObviously the big problem is just not getting enough sleep, but I know other people who’ve been getting through it. I’ve got a loud alarm, and I just sleep right through it. Any tips?", "Waking up for split shifts? I work for FedEx and it’s that time of year where everything is bananas and I’m working the day shift and the night shift because this is the only time of year where I can get this much overtime.\n\nI’m having trouble not waking up to my alarm for my day shift, because my usual shift is nights. On a day that I work split shifts, I’ll work 1200-1900, and then come back in and work 2130-0600.\n\nObviously the big problem is just not getting enough sleep, but I know other people who’ve been getting through it. I’ve got a loud alarm, and I just sleep right through it. Any tips?", "Waking up for split shifts? I work for FedEx and it’s that time of year where everything is bananas and I’m working the day shift and the night shift because this is the only time of year where I can get this much overtime.\n\nI’m having trouble not waking up to my alarm for my day shift, because my usual shift is nights. On a day that I work split shifts, I’ll work 1200-1900, and then come back in and work 2130-0600.\n\nObviously the big problem is just not getting enough sleep, but I know other people who’ve been getting through it. I’ve got a loud alarm, and I just sleep right through it. Any tips?" ]	[ "You sound like me. I have historically slept like an absolute corpse. People would get SO angry with me, but my retort was always just 'tell me, how do you CHOOSE to wake up when you're asleep?' or 'Ok, tomorrow I want you to wake up at 3:17am.'\n\nMy mom was great though. She bought me (way back when) an 'atomic' alarm clock. Thing was amazing. I, of course, would sleep through it. But, this alarm clock was special. The beep got louder every 10 beeps. Eventually it was a deafening roar that actually stood a chance at rousing me. It actually worked. Although, most times it also woke up anyone in a 2 block radius. (you can find them with a quick google search of 'alarm clock that gets progressively louder')\n\nAs an adult, who no longer has that clock, it's a problem I still have-although less so. So now, if I'm really nervous I'll oversleep, I drink a bunch of water right before bed. It isn't fool proof, timing wise, but it works for me. I have always been one to wake up when I need to pee. If you are too, give it a try for some added assurance.", "Set multiple alarms if you fall asleep after turning one off. Try changing the alarm sound. That works well for me because the new sound surprises me and gets me to wake up better.", "I would try changing the alarm tone. You may have just got used to the same tone and just doesn’t alert you like it has in the past.", "With my alarm clock I use the rush sound you get with the FM radio not tuned to a station. May work better than the traditional alarm sound.", "There’s an amazing app named “Alarmy” it is a lot louder than other alarms I find and in order to disable it you have to solve a puzzle (of your choice). I’ve found it very helpful since getting a job where I must wake up very early", "Some fitbits have a silent alarm that buzzes the fitness tracker on your wrist, and you can set multiple times. Some cheaper wristwatches have vibrating alarms but they won't have as many times. \n\nSomebody also makes vibrating things that go inside your pillow. I think they hook into an alarm clock base." ]	[ 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ " How the hell do you pour pop (soda) without making it flat? I've tried everything: ice first, pop first, pour extra slowly like it was a beer. Nothing works. \n\nI'm literally on the verge of tears.\n", " How the hell do you pour pop (soda) without making it flat? I've tried everything: ice first, pop first, pour extra slowly like it was a beer. Nothing works. \n\nI'm literally on the verge of tears.\n", " How the hell do you pour pop (soda) without making it flat? I've tried everything: ice first, pop first, pour extra slowly like it was a beer. Nothing works. \n\nI'm literally on the verge of tears.\n", " How the hell do you pour pop (soda) without making it flat? I've tried everything: ice first, pop first, pour extra slowly like it was a beer. Nothing works. \n\nI'm literally on the verge of tears.\n", " How the hell do you pour pop (soda) without making it flat? I've tried everything: ice first, pop first, pour extra slowly like it was a beer. Nothing works. \n\nI'm literally on the verge of tears.\n", " How the hell do you pour pop (soda) without making it flat? I've tried everything: ice first, pop first, pour extra slowly like it was a beer. Nothing works. \n\nI'm literally on the verge of tears.\n", " How the hell do you pour pop (soda) without making it flat? I've tried everything: ice first, pop first, pour extra slowly like it was a beer. Nothing works. \n\nI'm literally on the verge of tears.\n", " How the hell do you pour pop (soda) without making it flat? I've tried everything: ice first, pop first, pour extra slowly like it was a beer. Nothing works. \n\nI'm literally on the verge of tears.\n", " How the hell do you pour pop (soda) without making it flat? I've tried everything: ice first, pop first, pour extra slowly like it was a beer. Nothing works. \n\nI'm literally on the verge of tears.\n", " How the hell do you pour pop (soda) without making it flat? I've tried everything: ice first, pop first, pour extra slowly like it was a beer. Nothing works. \n\nI'm literally on the verge of tears.\n", " How the hell do you pour pop (soda) without making it flat? I've tried everything: ice first, pop first, pour extra slowly like it was a beer. Nothing works. \n\nI'm literally on the verge of tears.\n", " How the hell do you pour pop (soda) without making it flat? I've tried everything: ice first, pop first, pour extra slowly like it was a beer. Nothing works. \n\nI'm literally on the verge of tears.\n" ]	[ "Pour it so that it hits the glass on the side. Tip the glass so that it doesn't go directly in but slides down the side, like pouring beer.", "Never lay the bottle down flat, it just allows the liquid to flow around more. More ice, means flatter sooner- but if you must, add it afterward. When pouring, try to get it at an angle to where it is flowing out smoothly, not 'gluggling' out. Then when pulling the bottle back, don't let it just fall back into the bottle, but slowly let it back down. At least, I do it like that - I'm super picky about pop not being flat.. and I don't have as many issues.", "A few things you should know initially:\n\n* Soda keeps its carbonation in a vacuum. Once the bottle is opened, over time the carbonation will degenerate. Meaning the more soda is gone from your bottle, the less carbonation there will be. \n\n* Soda will fizz when in contact with ice that is dry. Wet the ice with some water before putting it into the Soda. \n\nMy advice is if it really is a problem for you, stop pouring your soda into glasses. Get cans, or small bottles of your favorite soda and drink it out of those. This will prevent more un-vacuumed air from drawing out the carbonation as a 2L bottle with the more you drink, since its in a smaller container.", "Tilt the glass at a 45 degree angle first, then pour it. If soda almost makes you cry, consult with a licenced therapist and delete your reddit account, for the sake of my sanity.", "Isn't there some gas law that says that colder liquids retain gas better or something? Someone help me out here. ", "If you pour it when it's warm, it will go flat when it comes into contact with ice. Every. Single. Time.\n\nThe larger surface area of the container, the flatter your soda will go. For example, if you pour soda into a cereal bowl, it will go flatter more quickly than if you were to pour that soda into a glass with a very small opening at the top. That's why soda is always fizzier when drank through a straw.", "wash your ice. A lot of the carbonation is lost due to nucleation sites which ice has a lot of. Washing the ice before hand will give it a smooth surface.", "i'm super picky about my soda not going flat too. this won't help for pouring it over ice, but if you're drinking from a bottle don't screw the cap back on tight. rather just spin it a little so it won't fall off. this will keep it fresh much longer. just remember that it's not on tight when you pick it up again!", "There are only a couple of things I can think of.\n\n* The colder the liquid starts the better.\n* Pour at a gentle angle so as not to cause \"glugging\"\n* Pour against the side of the glass not into the bottom. (This is done to reduce the distance the soda/beer \"falls\" before joining the rest of the soda/beer at the bottom.\n* Wet ice with a little water before pouring soda on it.\n* Be frugal with ice. More ice means the soda will be watered down faster. Keep in mind that your soda doesn't instantly become hot when you run out of ice.\n*Close the lids of 2 litre bottles very tightly. The tighter you can get it the better.\n\n\nAnd in response to a question you posted on someone else's comment, the reason a soda fountain doesn't fizz up near as much and it tastes carbonated when you drink it because the carbonation is that added from a separate nozzle at the same time the soda is, as opposed to being premixed in a bottle.", "Make sure whatever container you are using is perfectly clean and dry and doesn't potentially have hard water minerals or some residue left from washing,tiny dust particles, etc. This is difficult to avoid and is pretty imperceptible to most. Cold drinks help keep it from fizzing as quickly/much, which means not going flat as quickly.\n\nAs has been mentioned, no glugs when you pour the soda and angling the container(glass) both help tremendously as well. \n\nIf your soda fizzes a lot(which you might not notice if it always happens), or when you tilt the glass you can see the foam stick to the glass on the way down, it's likely to do with some imperceptible residue, or particulate on in your cup.\n\nOn a side note, it can come from many things and isn't what most would consider \"dirty\". Things such as what laundry detergent is used and how much (if towel dried), handling of the dishes during and after washing, as well as dish detergent and other factors that make it a bit of a chore to narrow down. The reason I discussed it at such length, other than the fact that I always do, is because everything else seems to have been covered and of no help. Only other thing I could think of is the material of the container which, hopefully, is a non-issue.\n\n", "If you are pouring soda into a glass with ice in it, rinse the ice with a bit of water first. This makes the surfaces of the ice wet and decreasing the formation of fizzing on them", "Here's what I do, and it works for me: Pop first. Carbonation is the bubbles resulting from gas retained in the liquid. Once the bubble rises to the top and bursts, the gas is gone and the fluid goes flat. The key is to agitate the liquid as little as possible on the way into the glass because agitation results in more bubbles forming and popping. Thus, fizz is bad. To do this, pour down the side of a tilted glass allowing the liquid to fall as little as possible before hitting the glass and slow enough so that there is no 'glug'. Once you have the desired amount of pop, gently drop in the ice cubes and enjoy. Source: A nice fizzy drink has always been the result for me." ]	[ 6, 5, 5, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I not get bored of reading? I need to expand my vocab. I just can't with books, I can't even read The Outsiders which is said to be fun and amazing.", "How do I not get bored of reading? I need to expand my vocab. I just can't with books, I can't even read The Outsiders which is said to be fun and amazing.", "How do I not get bored of reading? I need to expand my vocab. I just can't with books, I can't even read The Outsiders which is said to be fun and amazing.", "How do I not get bored of reading? I need to expand my vocab. I just can't with books, I can't even read The Outsiders which is said to be fun and amazing.", "How do I not get bored of reading? I need to expand my vocab. I just can't with books, I can't even read The Outsiders which is said to be fun and amazing.", "How do I not get bored of reading? I need to expand my vocab. I just can't with books, I can't even read The Outsiders which is said to be fun and amazing.", "How do I not get bored of reading? I need to expand my vocab. I just can't with books, I can't even read The Outsiders which is said to be fun and amazing.", "How do I not get bored of reading? I need to expand my vocab. I just can't with books, I can't even read The Outsiders which is said to be fun and amazing.", "How do I not get bored of reading? I need to expand my vocab. I just can't with books, I can't even read The Outsiders which is said to be fun and amazing.", "How do I not get bored of reading? I need to expand my vocab. I just can't with books, I can't even read The Outsiders which is said to be fun and amazing." ]	[ "For me it helps reading short stories. You can easily finish them, so it's not as intimidating. When you don't like one it's over in no time or you can skip to the next one", "I was in the same boat. I started listening to audiobooks while at work and working out. Since I started 18 months ago I have listened to over a 100 books and counting. I average around 3 books a week. Some are as long as 21 hours, some as short as 4", "What are your interests? Do you have hobbies? Are you a foodie? Do you have favorite comedians? Are you into local history? The books don't have to be fiction. Maybe wander through a large bookstore and see what catches your eye.", "I would recommend you do crosswords. Ignore the cryptic ones fpr now unless you have a talent for them. I find doing a couple a day really helps with vocalb and memory. The Guardian puzzles app is good. try the quick crosswords. hope that helps.", "I made the mistake if reading only non fiction for a while. I saw it as education instead of enjoyment. \nFind a fiction genre that you like, get into the story, stick to it, and eventually you'll be wanting to (all within thetime of one book). I recommend looking into some of the new york times best sellers. They tend to be exciting and often easier to read. Or check out young adult, they’re easy reads that fly by", "Audio books help! I used to read all the time as a child, but I have poor attention span now as an adult. But audiobooks allow me to listen to classics and new novels even when I am busy. I turn it on in the car instead of the radio sometimes, or will listen while I do chores. I recommend the novels Project Hail Mary or Annihilation, or the short story the Metamorphosis.", "There's multiple ways of learning OP. If visual learning is not your forte, you can also try another method like auditory learning. Put on a podcast and pay attention. \n\nSpecialized learning takes discipline. Hopefully your end-goal is more important than short-term pleasures. Put distractions away and go learn my guy :)", "It is important to get into the story. This means you need to invest at least one hour in the beginning. \nOne thing helped me a lot to get into a book especially when there are a lot of characters. \nI take short notes of the characters with name, appearance and important facts. If I don’t do that I came sometimes to the point I don’t as confused with the characters and lost interest. Sometimes I even look up the characters in google search to see how they look like in a movie. Although I prefer reading the book before watching the film or sometimes I don’t even want to watch the movie. Especially Stephen King movie adaptions often suck and are not worth watching. But seeing the characters helps. \nWhat I also like is putting my AirPods on and listening to some kind of instrumental musjc that fits to the book.", "A couple ideas. One most libraries have apps for free downloads of both audio and ebooks. Cool thing with most ebooks is you can touch the word to bring up a definition. As others have mentioned, go find books, short stories, or magazines on what you are interested in. If reading is enjoyable, you will do it more regularly. I literally go to bed early to set aside time to read in bed.", "100% go or short stories! They aren't always as intimidating as longer novels, and lots of the time they are more interesting as the intro, buildup and climax are so close to each other. Some of my favourite short stories are in Roald Dahl's \"Tales of the unexpected\", I suggest them as a great place to start!" ]	[ 8, 6, 4, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I become better at choosing a gift for my partner. Hello. I have this problem every year for my partners birthday, for our anniversary, for Christmas etc.\n\n\nI am really really bad at finding gifts and no matter what I find I feel like it's not gonna be good enough.\n\n\nPrevious years I tend to give flowers, gift cards at shops she really likes, a romatic date but it's gotten to the point where I feel like I can't give the same things every year.\n\n\nDo you have any tips or help for me at all. Thank you all very much!", "How do I become better at choosing a gift for my partner. Hello. I have this problem every year for my partners birthday, for our anniversary, for Christmas etc.\n\n\nI am really really bad at finding gifts and no matter what I find I feel like it's not gonna be good enough.\n\n\nPrevious years I tend to give flowers, gift cards at shops she really likes, a romatic date but it's gotten to the point where I feel like I can't give the same things every year.\n\n\nDo you have any tips or help for me at all. Thank you all very much!", "How do I become better at choosing a gift for my partner. Hello. I have this problem every year for my partners birthday, for our anniversary, for Christmas etc.\n\n\nI am really really bad at finding gifts and no matter what I find I feel like it's not gonna be good enough.\n\n\nPrevious years I tend to give flowers, gift cards at shops she really likes, a romatic date but it's gotten to the point where I feel like I can't give the same things every year.\n\n\nDo you have any tips or help for me at all. Thank you all very much!", "How do I become better at choosing a gift for my partner. Hello. I have this problem every year for my partners birthday, for our anniversary, for Christmas etc.\n\n\nI am really really bad at finding gifts and no matter what I find I feel like it's not gonna be good enough.\n\n\nPrevious years I tend to give flowers, gift cards at shops she really likes, a romatic date but it's gotten to the point where I feel like I can't give the same things every year.\n\n\nDo you have any tips or help for me at all. Thank you all very much!", "How do I become better at choosing a gift for my partner. Hello. I have this problem every year for my partners birthday, for our anniversary, for Christmas etc.\n\n\nI am really really bad at finding gifts and no matter what I find I feel like it's not gonna be good enough.\n\n\nPrevious years I tend to give flowers, gift cards at shops she really likes, a romatic date but it's gotten to the point where I feel like I can't give the same things every year.\n\n\nDo you have any tips or help for me at all. Thank you all very much!", "How do I become better at choosing a gift for my partner. Hello. I have this problem every year for my partners birthday, for our anniversary, for Christmas etc.\n\n\nI am really really bad at finding gifts and no matter what I find I feel like it's not gonna be good enough.\n\n\nPrevious years I tend to give flowers, gift cards at shops she really likes, a romatic date but it's gotten to the point where I feel like I can't give the same things every year.\n\n\nDo you have any tips or help for me at all. Thank you all very much!", "How do I become better at choosing a gift for my partner. Hello. I have this problem every year for my partners birthday, for our anniversary, for Christmas etc.\n\n\nI am really really bad at finding gifts and no matter what I find I feel like it's not gonna be good enough.\n\n\nPrevious years I tend to give flowers, gift cards at shops she really likes, a romatic date but it's gotten to the point where I feel like I can't give the same things every year.\n\n\nDo you have any tips or help for me at all. Thank you all very much!" ]	[ "I find it is best to keep a bit of a journal throughout the year, otherwise you will forget, of things she mentions that she likes is neat or says she would like. Nothing says you care like buying her something she said she liked a few months earlier. Even if she changed her mind about the product the fact you listened to her and remembered that long will be a win for you. Ideally don't let her know that you are keeping the list. Also try to avoid clothing at all costs there are way too many things that can go wrong, the item is no longer in season and unless what you buy fits just perfectly you'll be in trouble.", "My advice will be a bit obvious, but has served me well for years. I have found my wife will always hint at what she wants without saying it so I have to listen for what sound life off hand comments. She might mention how her umbrella is old, or the pans are scratched up, or latest is car mats don't sit right and has a hole in one. These are the things I buy whatever is not working replace. They don't sound the most romantic, but by saying something along the lines of \"I know it was annoying you\" it just shows you are listening and that is all they really care about. \n\nIf that's a no go a pandora bracelet is wonderful every event get a new charm it's simple and have never seen it fail.", "Write down every time your partner says the like/ want something, then when the time seems appropriate, pick out an item from the list to match the occasion", "One tip is to recognize that repeats are more than okay if she likes them, as long as it's not too often. \n\nSo that romantic restaurant that she clearly really enjoyed two years ago? It's perfectly okay to do that again. \n\n", "I did a thing were randomly at the start of the year I said I found a list online someone had posted of useful things to ask a girlfriend or something similar and proceed to quiz her on favourite colours, animals, perfumes, clothing styles etc I also asked what things she would hate from me (she doesn't lke me buying her clothes as a suprise). I also asked ring size (what types of rings she likes colour stones etc), shoe size etc. Flowers etc.\nI did it over a couple of nights saying it was a quiz that was supposed to bring us closer together etc and I asked lots of why do you like that questions which made me get to know her better.\nI've found it works a treat and years later still use it, I've found that to be slightly different I go into a department store and say \", my gf likes this, is there anything like it thats different and better.\n\"\nAlso I found experiences are great, I always personally forget what I get as persent but great experiences I remember ie Helicopter flight, weekend gateaway in a cabin with a hottub, scuba diving experience, theatre show, concert etc. If you can't think what she likes tell her perhaps you are thinking about getting some experience for your sister and ask her for her opinion on things , surprise her later with ideas she loved and said that she always wanted to do it.\nOr surprise her saying your are taking her on a surprise trip and she picks and you pay.\nFinally also think about presentation, going above and beyond to show the present amazingly - Luxury wrapping paper done nicely with double sided tape etc, wrap it in satin and sew it closed, make a simple handmade wooden box nicely polished.\nDoing treasure hunts can also be fun.", "Also, ask or listen. If they really like something, that's a good bet. Get them more. If they like books, don't think you have to get a non book, no matter how many books they have and no matter how much you think your gift should be different. Give them a book certificate and let them choose. They'll be super happy. ", "Depends if she likes practical things, or experiences. If practical things, look out for things she does a lot and enjoys (cooking for example) and buy something she doesn't have or mentions (food processor for example). If she likes experiences, maybe do a cooking course together?\n\nI don't know why the cooking examples, I don't even like cooking...but it seemed apt." ]	[ 6, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)", "My roommate treats the kitchen like she's a chef and the rest of the house is her personal dishwashers. I rent from a friend and share a house with multiple people. Financially I can't move out, yet. So I need advice.\n\nOne of the roommates cooks gourmet meals every day. She uses up multiple pots, pans, plates and silverware. It's got to the point where I can never cook in my own kitchen unless I spend 30-45 minutes cleaning up her mess first. \n\nWe've tried having this discussion multiple times but she hears the conversation and does nothing. Once in a blue moon she will clean (like once a month) but by the next morning there's another 30 dishes in the sink.\n\nMy bf and I have tried cleaning...same story- we wake up to every dish dirtied again :(\n\nI've washed dishes and put them away WHILE she cooked so she could see me physically doing her dirty work...no avail. She watches me clean her shit and then finishes cooking, and puts her dishes in the sink and walks away.\n\nIdk if there's anything I can do without playing dirty.\nAt this point even LPT on how to not let others get to you and let things go would be appreciated. :)" ]	[ "store your own pots, pans plates and silverware in your room. \nWhen you need to use the kitchen, move her mess to the side and do your cooking and cleaning. Then bring your kitchenware back to your room.", "Ask her where she wants them put. That way you aren't seen as being passive aggressive, you can even just say \"i want to use our kitchen. Where do you want your dirty dishes?\"", "Stop doing her work for her. It's her responsibility to clean up after herself, not you. If you keep cleaning up after her then she won't change. It's not playing dirty to hold people responsible for their actions. But you need to hold yourself accountable as an enabler as well. It won't be easy by any means, but you need to stick to your convictions if you want change. ", "Set up two baskets, one for you and one for your roommate. These are for any shit you leave around. So whenever either of you leaves dirty dishes, clothes, etc lying around the house, place them in that person's basket.\n\n", "start a household rule (i've gotten this rule from my girlfriend and we use this rule and it's effective): If one is cooking for oneself AND other people, everyone that ate the meal EXCEPT for the cook must do the dishes. If one cooks for oneself only, then that person must do the dishes immediately after finishing eating.", "Start putting her dirty dishes in her room, preferably on her bed.\n\nAs /u/vosfacemusbardi said, big ass *airtight* tupperware bin.\n\nIs there a garage? Start taking her crap out of the kitchen and putting it there. (Wash it so you don't attract problems!)\n\nStart charging her for the work. Take photographs with timestamps.", "You have to be assertive. \nComplain about the dirty dishes everytime you see them. Leave them outside her bedroom door.\nShe'll soon get the message or get sick of it and leave.", "I used to have a roommate who cooked and baked all the time. She left the kitchen a disaster. We'd alternate doing dishes daily so that they were always done, but if she cooked, whoever was doing dishes that day got screwed hard - and she very rarely cooked or baked on her dish nights.\n\nWe eventually came up with the following rules: Any and all cooking or baking dishes are cleaned by the person who cooked or baked, and it's to be done same day. Flatware and dishes for eating (plates, bowls, etc.) get done by whoever is supposed to wash dishes that night.\n\nI doubt this will work since you're already having difficulties talking to her about it. The tip of piling her dirty dishes in front of her door should work.\n\nNo matter what you end up doing, it's important to stop doing her dishes. That's just a simple matter of no longer enabling her and allowing her to think that you'll clean up the mess. Eventually, she'll run out of dishes and have to do them herself. If it happens enough, she'll eventually get sick of it and realize that cooking gourmet meals all the time isn't fun when you're stuck with all the work all the time.\n\n", "This is 100% asking for drama but one of my friends told me he was the one leaving his dishes in the sink for weeks on end. His roommates ended up taking his light bulbs out of his room every time he refused to wash his stuff. Luckily, he was a good sport and got the message. I also think his roommates communicated to him that they weren't trying to be dicks, but it was meant to be a reminder that he needed to do his end of the housework that day. Again, this method probably won't work out, but thought I'd throw out what I've heard other people do. Good luck! ", "Stop cleaning her mess. Don't wash a single thing that she used. Let the kitchen turn into a disaster. Order take out or prep your food somewhere else for a few weeks. Let her learn to clean up after herself. ", "If her dirty dishes are in the way when you want to cook just take them out and throw them in the garbage. ", "I had a roommate like that once. It did not end well. I will add that he would cook amazing food for himself only and then leave five courses worth of dishes/pots/pans/etc in the sink. He might clean them like a week later and then leave them again for a week. ", "Hey dear. Ehm first of all sorry for my bad englisch. My GF and me moved in a house together with one old friend of mine. In my childhood i had a great time with him playing xbox day n night and so on. Its now 10 month since we moved together and im about to explode. His understanding of cleaning something after he used it is beyond nothing. He uses the same knife and fork over months now.. and they never saw Water.. i mean i like him. Hes a good guy really. But he showers once a month. Brush his teeth maybe once a week. His Room is a mess. Empty cola bottles. Empty ravioli cans. Even his Boxes where he stored his stuff while he moved are in his room piled up - never touched them.. and his bed.. god help us.. he never washed his bedstuff like pillows and so on.. his pillos went yellow and the whole room is stinking like dogshit. \nIn the morning when he wakes up and opens his door... there is a smell that would kill everything. I tried everything. I tried to give him friendly advises.. i tried to teach him how to use something correctly. I even tried to low my rent. It doesnt work. Nothing works. He always said \"i can understand u , bla bla bla\" but he never changed everything. \n\nI can completely understand u.. its a extrem energy sink to try to get them understand... \n\nAgain - im really sorry for my crap english.. good luck anyways :) ", "What does your friend (owner of the house!) say about it? Presumably your friend needs the kitchen as well? \n\n\nDefinitely don't wash the room-mate's dirty dishes. If she cooks gourmet everyday, she will have to clean them eventually. Hopefully the landlord can enforce the basic courtesy of \"chef\" cleaning up her own messes.\n", "Point blank buy your own set of pans.. Let her know she can do her own dishes and not to use your pans.", "Can you take away any kitchen stuff thats yours so eventually she runs out of dishes to use? Ive had a similar situation and this is what I did and let me tell you they did dishes more often then. ", "Wash some of her dishes and break a few things in the process. Then she won't want you washing her stuff anymore because she will be afraid that your gonna break it. Like if she has a really fancy knife, bang it against the top of a metal can and puts some chips in the blade. Or if she have a fancy electrical appliance, submerge the whole thing in water to clean it. " ]	[ 59, 17, 15, 6, 5, 5, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to straighten a bent leather belt. I have had this belt for a little over a year now, and since I usually wear it with jeans that have only 5 loops of so, most of the weight is being dispersed through the belt loop in the middle of my back. This has created a divot in the belt, preventing it from being straight even when I try to pull it tight. Also, since I have stayed at a pretty consistent weight, I have used the same belt loop for quite some time and there is a bend there as well. Is there anything I can do to fix it? Or should I just go out and buy a new belt? Any help would be appreciated.", "How to straighten a bent leather belt. I have had this belt for a little over a year now, and since I usually wear it with jeans that have only 5 loops of so, most of the weight is being dispersed through the belt loop in the middle of my back. This has created a divot in the belt, preventing it from being straight even when I try to pull it tight. Also, since I have stayed at a pretty consistent weight, I have used the same belt loop for quite some time and there is a bend there as well. Is there anything I can do to fix it? Or should I just go out and buy a new belt? Any help would be appreciated.", "How to straighten a bent leather belt. I have had this belt for a little over a year now, and since I usually wear it with jeans that have only 5 loops of so, most of the weight is being dispersed through the belt loop in the middle of my back. This has created a divot in the belt, preventing it from being straight even when I try to pull it tight. Also, since I have stayed at a pretty consistent weight, I have used the same belt loop for quite some time and there is a bend there as well. Is there anything I can do to fix it? Or should I just go out and buy a new belt? Any help would be appreciated." ]	[ "You could put it on backwards. Instead of the buckle being attached to the left side, it would be on your right. That would flip the belly upside down and should force the bend to start going the opposite direction. Over time, it should straighten out.", "If you're trying to make the belt straight again, you can steam it with some weight on the end. Some shoe repair places might be able to do it for you.\n\nYou can dramatically increase the life of a belt by taking it off every night and hanging it up. No matter what you do it will happen eventually.\n\nThe best way to prevent it is to have more than one belt. If you make the investment now and buy some real leather belts they will last you the rest of your life.", "Spray with a mist of water and just a tad of lemon juice. Pre heat oven to 300 degrees for ten minutes. Apply and then bake. It's like going through the tanning process once again " ]	[ 9, 5, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to get rid of a female cat and her kittens living in the roof of my house without harming them. I have a female cat and 1 kitten, or more, living in the roof of my house. They enter from a hole in the roof and i would like to block the hole, but i can't just leave them in their starving to death. What is a good way to get these cats out of the roof of my house without harming them.", "How to get rid of a female cat and her kittens living in the roof of my house without harming them. I have a female cat and 1 kitten, or more, living in the roof of my house. They enter from a hole in the roof and i would like to block the hole, but i can't just leave them in their starving to death. What is a good way to get these cats out of the roof of my house without harming them." ]	[ "put food outside and eventually she'll bring the kittens out to have some. If you could arrange a sliding plank held up by a string, which you could pull when they are out, a return would be blocked.", "Just wait a while. A raccoon or an opossum will likely discover the hole, move in, and chase the cats away." ]	[ 0, -3 ]	safe
[ "Best Place To Stream Music From For Poor Internet. So I like to listen to music while I game and I've recently tried Spotify and Pandora. Pandora seems the better of the two. On Pandora, my ping is hardly affected except when the song is switching (spikes to 200). On Spotify, my ping is a constant 280-350. Do you guys have any other websites I can use?", "Best Place To Stream Music From For Poor Internet. So I like to listen to music while I game and I've recently tried Spotify and Pandora. Pandora seems the better of the two. On Pandora, my ping is hardly affected except when the song is switching (spikes to 200). On Spotify, my ping is a constant 280-350. Do you guys have any other websites I can use?" ]	[ "Download ahead of time to not have competing bandwidth. When you are (internet) poor you need to make compromises. ", "If you have amazon, then prime music is good too. Also try rhapsody. In whatever app you use, maybe change the sound quality to a lower level. " ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to dry shoes quickly I am curious if there is an easy way to dry does when they are wet. Drying is not an option, assume its summer but rainy so the heating is not on and I don't want to stuff them with newspapers because the ink will get into my shoes and they are not cheap.\n\nAny way to do this?", "How to dry shoes quickly I am curious if there is an easy way to dry does when they are wet. Drying is not an option, assume its summer but rainy so the heating is not on and I don't want to stuff them with newspapers because the ink will get into my shoes and they are not cheap.\n\nAny way to do this?", "How to dry shoes quickly I am curious if there is an easy way to dry does when they are wet. Drying is not an option, assume its summer but rainy so the heating is not on and I don't want to stuff them with newspapers because the ink will get into my shoes and they are not cheap.\n\nAny way to do this?", "How to dry shoes quickly I am curious if there is an easy way to dry does when they are wet. Drying is not an option, assume its summer but rainy so the heating is not on and I don't want to stuff them with newspapers because the ink will get into my shoes and they are not cheap.\n\nAny way to do this?" ]	[ "My mom used to stuff newspaper in our wet winter boots. and i mean stuff in hard. then remove them after a few minutes and opening up the boot/shoes as much as possible to let air out. It made the difference between humid boots and completely dry boots the next morning.", "Loosen the laces and pull the tongue out to expose the inside as much as possible. Then put them in front of a fan so that the air blows across the surface. If you've got air conditioning then put them in front of the vent that blows the cooled air. That air is pretty dry.\n\nI have dried shoes in the oven but you have to be pretty careful with that. I heated the oven to about 200, then turned it off and put the shoes in.", "Instead of newspaper, use a clean towel (or a sort of clean t-shirt from the dirty clothes. Stuff it in as much as you can. Then the key is to step on them. That squeezes the water out of the shoe material and it gets absorbed by the towel. This is really just a twist on how to dry a shirt - lay a towel on the ground, place the wet shirt flat, another towel on top - then roll it up and gently step on it all along the way - or twist it hard if it is just an old t-shirt you need to get dry.", "Thanks guys. I don't have an air conditioning but the oven and fan tips are things I will certainly try. \n\nLike said before, I don't like stuffing them with newspapers because of the ink getting into my shoes. " ]	[ 3, 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Anybody know how to clean mechanical keyboard without removing any keys? I have a Corsair K55 and over the past year it has gotten really dirty under the keys and I don't have any tools to remove the keys and whenever I try to pull out the keys myself it just feels like it'll break, anybody know how to clean it without removing any keys?", "Anybody know how to clean mechanical keyboard without removing any keys? I have a Corsair K55 and over the past year it has gotten really dirty under the keys and I don't have any tools to remove the keys and whenever I try to pull out the keys myself it just feels like it'll break, anybody know how to clean it without removing any keys?", "Anybody know how to clean mechanical keyboard without removing any keys? I have a Corsair K55 and over the past year it has gotten really dirty under the keys and I don't have any tools to remove the keys and whenever I try to pull out the keys myself it just feels like it'll break, anybody know how to clean it without removing any keys?", "Anybody know how to clean mechanical keyboard without removing any keys? I have a Corsair K55 and over the past year it has gotten really dirty under the keys and I don't have any tools to remove the keys and whenever I try to pull out the keys myself it just feels like it'll break, anybody know how to clean it without removing any keys?", "Anybody know how to clean mechanical keyboard without removing any keys? I have a Corsair K55 and over the past year it has gotten really dirty under the keys and I don't have any tools to remove the keys and whenever I try to pull out the keys myself it just feels like it'll break, anybody know how to clean it without removing any keys?", "Anybody know how to clean mechanical keyboard without removing any keys? I have a Corsair K55 and over the past year it has gotten really dirty under the keys and I don't have any tools to remove the keys and whenever I try to pull out the keys myself it just feels like it'll break, anybody know how to clean it without removing any keys?" ]	[ "It can be quite hard to clean a keyboard. But you could use a damp paper towel and wrap it around something thin (i use a ruler) and clean away..\nIf the junk is not sticky.. Compressed air works really well\n\n", "Under the keycaps? Keycaps are just held by friction. Pull hard. Use some fishing line or similar (floss?). Thread it under the keycaps and pull straight up.\n\nSwitches are held in place by plastic tabs.", "I don’t know about Corsair’s specifically, but with other keyboards I get a can of compressed air, and use the straw-like nozzle to get in under the keys to get the crud out. Just did that the other day at work and got so much dust and junk out.", "there’s a slime on amazon that cleans the dust between the keys but i don’t think under. it’s best to buy a key removing tool so you can clean it in it’s entirety. it will work better and it won’t break since i did the same", "I just cleaned my mechanical keyboard 2 weeks ago! I used a screwdriver to get the keys out, it's super easy. I actually felt like the keys would break too, but I continued because it was so dirty that I'd rather break it and buy a new one (even though my current one is expensive). I started with a less important key, but none of them broke, not even close.\n\nAfter removing the keys and washing them, I cleaned the keyboard with wet cotton swabs, though guides say you shouldn't get the keyboard itself wet. I'm so glad I just did it, it's now 99% clean and nothing broke.\n\nIf you really don't want to remove the keys, aside from the tips you already got, a friend of mine has some kind of goo for keyboard cleaning.", "Assuming you have some kind of schmoo (jizz or soda) - if not just use compressed air. \n\nIf you are set on not removing the keys, I'd use isopropyl and a toothbrush. mop up dirty solution with paper towel or. Could also remove the circuit board first then clean it however you want. I'd probably just blast it with a garden hose. Could also just leave the board in and just make sure any alcohol/water on the board has evaporated before applying power - open it up and dry it manually if you're in a hurry." ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "When fighting a addiction, is there something you can do against the feeling that something is missing? ", "When fighting a addiction, is there something you can do against the feeling that something is missing? ", "When fighting a addiction, is there something you can do against the feeling that something is missing? " ]	[ "What was missing in your life that you tried to fill with the addiction in the first place? There was a study done on rats that you may have heard about. At first it was done with the rats alone in an empty cage, with only two bottles of water: one drug-laced and one normal. The rats always chose the drug-laced and in some cases overdosed. When the experiment was repeated a few years later, the rats were put all together in a big cage with lots of toys. With social lives and mentally challenging activities to do, they almost always chose the normal water over the drug-laced water. They still took a few licks of the drug water occasionally, but they had other things to worry about than getting their fix. I would try figuring out what need caused you to be drawn to cigarettes in the first place, then replacing it with something healthier. ", "Don't let yourself get bored. Find a new hobby. Replace that time spent smoking with something constructive, or at the very least non-destructive. Do a few dishes. Read a few pages. Tackle that daunting project you've been putting off. Keep your hands busy with something you can be proud of afterwards. You'll stay distracted enough not to feel deprived. Then make/purchases a large, overstuffed cigarette that you can cuddle with at night.", "M" ]	[ 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to join a conversation to say hi without appearing rude or awkward? So when people are talking they tend to either ignore you or hope wait for you to speak up otherwise they'll just keep conversing. It feels awkward butting in on their conversation even if it's just to say hello, and waiting around for the convo to finish or be acknowledged is embarrassing and probably more awkward. Joining in on the topic to fit yourself into the circle seems rude as well. \n\nIs there a proper way to \"butt into\" a conversation, at least enough to say hi. This could help at parties, meetings, and such for when you walk past someone you know and they're having a conversation. ", "How to join a conversation to say hi without appearing rude or awkward? So when people are talking they tend to either ignore you or hope wait for you to speak up otherwise they'll just keep conversing. It feels awkward butting in on their conversation even if it's just to say hello, and waiting around for the convo to finish or be acknowledged is embarrassing and probably more awkward. Joining in on the topic to fit yourself into the circle seems rude as well. \n\nIs there a proper way to \"butt into\" a conversation, at least enough to say hi. This could help at parties, meetings, and such for when you walk past someone you know and they're having a conversation. ", "How to join a conversation to say hi without appearing rude or awkward? So when people are talking they tend to either ignore you or hope wait for you to speak up otherwise they'll just keep conversing. It feels awkward butting in on their conversation even if it's just to say hello, and waiting around for the convo to finish or be acknowledged is embarrassing and probably more awkward. Joining in on the topic to fit yourself into the circle seems rude as well. \n\nIs there a proper way to \"butt into\" a conversation, at least enough to say hi. This could help at parties, meetings, and such for when you walk past someone you know and they're having a conversation. ", "How to join a conversation to say hi without appearing rude or awkward? So when people are talking they tend to either ignore you or hope wait for you to speak up otherwise they'll just keep conversing. It feels awkward butting in on their conversation even if it's just to say hello, and waiting around for the convo to finish or be acknowledged is embarrassing and probably more awkward. Joining in on the topic to fit yourself into the circle seems rude as well. \n\nIs there a proper way to \"butt into\" a conversation, at least enough to say hi. This could help at parties, meetings, and such for when you walk past someone you know and they're having a conversation. ", "How to join a conversation to say hi without appearing rude or awkward? So when people are talking they tend to either ignore you or hope wait for you to speak up otherwise they'll just keep conversing. It feels awkward butting in on their conversation even if it's just to say hello, and waiting around for the convo to finish or be acknowledged is embarrassing and probably more awkward. Joining in on the topic to fit yourself into the circle seems rude as well. \n\nIs there a proper way to \"butt into\" a conversation, at least enough to say hi. This could help at parties, meetings, and such for when you walk past someone you know and they're having a conversation. " ]	[ "Perhaps act as if they aren't your actual destination, like you are just passing by them and continue walking but as you pass them say, \"hello\" in an upbeat no pressure way. Then, if they stop and do an \"oh, hey\" then you're in...and if not then in your head say \"well, F you too\" and keep truckin'. ", "I go up behind the person who I wish to greet and slowly reach around their torso with both arms and gently begin to caress their nipples with a presumptuous grin on my face. Results may vary based on the disposition of said person. ", "Just happen to be near the conversation when you hear something you can talk about. Basically creep around near them until you have something to contribute.", "Yeah this is always awkward. I usually do the \"sup\" head nod and make eye contact with just one person in the circle (not the person talking), then receive a similar physical nonverbal reply from them. This makes everyone else feel as though I've been welcomed into the group without needing to pause the conversation for a greeting. \n\nIf no one in the group will give me the nonverbal \"sup\" back, I just move on. Same if the person I signal to responds with a eye-bulge \"sheesh\" face or grimace. That's a signal this is a heavy or boring convo and I should move it along to the next party huddle.", "Ask a question related to what they are discussing. \"Pardon.. I couldn't help overhearing you discussing x, what are your thoughts/opinions on.....\" something like that. Everyone likes to be helpful." ]	[ 11, 8, 4, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "What are some good strategies to stop biting my nails. I've been doing it for 10+ years now and I REALLY want to stop but every time I try to stop I find myself coming right back to the same bad habit. All ideas welcome!!", "What are some good strategies to stop biting my nails. I've been doing it for 10+ years now and I REALLY want to stop but every time I try to stop I find myself coming right back to the same bad habit. All ideas welcome!!", "What are some good strategies to stop biting my nails. I've been doing it for 10+ years now and I REALLY want to stop but every time I try to stop I find myself coming right back to the same bad habit. All ideas welcome!!", "What are some good strategies to stop biting my nails. I've been doing it for 10+ years now and I REALLY want to stop but every time I try to stop I find myself coming right back to the same bad habit. All ideas welcome!!", "What are some good strategies to stop biting my nails. I've been doing it for 10+ years now and I REALLY want to stop but every time I try to stop I find myself coming right back to the same bad habit. All ideas welcome!!", "What are some good strategies to stop biting my nails. I've been doing it for 10+ years now and I REALLY want to stop but every time I try to stop I find myself coming right back to the same bad habit. All ideas welcome!!", "What are some good strategies to stop biting my nails. I've been doing it for 10+ years now and I REALLY want to stop but every time I try to stop I find myself coming right back to the same bad habit. All ideas welcome!!", "What are some good strategies to stop biting my nails. I've been doing it for 10+ years now and I REALLY want to stop but every time I try to stop I find myself coming right back to the same bad habit. All ideas welcome!!" ]	[ "IMO, the best way to stop biting your nails is to file them and keep them well manicured. I found that the reason why I would bite my nails was because I was trying to \"Fix them\" from being rough or jagged. So basically - buy a nice nail file, and keep it with you all the time. ", "Biting nails is usually something I did without realising it. I simply asked people to point it out if I had a finger in my mouth. After time, I became conscious whenever I went to put a finger in my mouth and slowly got better at realising I was doing it or about to do it. Once you realise you are about to bite down, you can start addressing why you want to bite your nails and what the urge was. \n\nFor me it was simply boredom...\n\n...so I took up smoking (would not recommend).", "I used to bite my nails when younger and wanted to stop. I bought clear nail polish and added diced garlic to the polished and applied it. Every time I found myself putting my finger nail in my mouth, I would smell garlic and stop. Habit stopped.", "Use hand sanitizer all the time. It'll make your fingers taste bad so that you will immediately notice when you are starting to bite your nails absent-mindedly.", "To add on to this, consider something to keep your hands busy when you're doing things hands free. When I'm at home studying I have both a slinky and silly putty available for this.\n\nAt school I might keep a pen in my hands, and even doodle if need be.\n\nKeeping them well manicured also helps as someone else pointed out.", "Oddly enough, nail polish remover worked for me. The taste of it sticks around even after repeated hand-washing and it is nasty. Every time my fingers got close to my mouth I would taste it (if the smell didn't drive me off first). ", "If the anti bite nail polish doesnt work try buying the cheap glue on nails, you can file them short and they look kinda natural. \nYour own nails get a chance to grow and when they fall of you just need to file your natural nails. \nAlso putting on Nail hardener polish prevents them from breaking.\n", "I used to bite my nails a lot. When I was in the 8th grade, my mom promised me 30 dollars if I could stop chewing them for a month. I cheated, but she gave me the money anyway. I felt so guilty that I stopped biting my nails. I now regularly get compliments on my long natural nails. " ]	[ 6, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Getting the name of someone you talk to every day without them knowing you've never known their name Hi. There's this cute girl at the gym I go to who knows my name because she checks me in every time and we have nice chit chat and she always uses my name and it's driving me insane that I don't know her name. They don't wear name tags anymore so I can't see her name. She's said my name dozens of times now so it just feels wrong to ask for her name.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nDoes anyone have good ideas for how I can get her name without asking for it directly?", "Getting the name of someone you talk to every day without them knowing you've never known their name Hi. There's this cute girl at the gym I go to who knows my name because she checks me in every time and we have nice chit chat and she always uses my name and it's driving me insane that I don't know her name. They don't wear name tags anymore so I can't see her name. She's said my name dozens of times now so it just feels wrong to ask for her name.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nDoes anyone have good ideas for how I can get her name without asking for it directly?", "Getting the name of someone you talk to every day without them knowing you've never known their name Hi. There's this cute girl at the gym I go to who knows my name because she checks me in every time and we have nice chit chat and she always uses my name and it's driving me insane that I don't know her name. They don't wear name tags anymore so I can't see her name. She's said my name dozens of times now so it just feels wrong to ask for her name.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nDoes anyone have good ideas for how I can get her name without asking for it directly?", "Getting the name of someone you talk to every day without them knowing you've never known their name Hi. There's this cute girl at the gym I go to who knows my name because she checks me in every time and we have nice chit chat and she always uses my name and it's driving me insane that I don't know her name. They don't wear name tags anymore so I can't see her name. She's said my name dozens of times now so it just feels wrong to ask for her name.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nDoes anyone have good ideas for how I can get her name without asking for it directly?", "Getting the name of someone you talk to every day without them knowing you've never known their name Hi. There's this cute girl at the gym I go to who knows my name because she checks me in every time and we have nice chit chat and she always uses my name and it's driving me insane that I don't know her name. They don't wear name tags anymore so I can't see her name. She's said my name dozens of times now so it just feels wrong to ask for her name.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nDoes anyone have good ideas for how I can get her name without asking for it directly?", "Getting the name of someone you talk to every day without them knowing you've never known their name Hi. There's this cute girl at the gym I go to who knows my name because she checks me in every time and we have nice chit chat and she always uses my name and it's driving me insane that I don't know her name. They don't wear name tags anymore so I can't see her name. She's said my name dozens of times now so it just feels wrong to ask for her name.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nDoes anyone have good ideas for how I can get her name without asking for it directly?", "Getting the name of someone you talk to every day without them knowing you've never known their name Hi. There's this cute girl at the gym I go to who knows my name because she checks me in every time and we have nice chit chat and she always uses my name and it's driving me insane that I don't know her name. They don't wear name tags anymore so I can't see her name. She's said my name dozens of times now so it just feels wrong to ask for her name.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nDoes anyone have good ideas for how I can get her name without asking for it directly?" ]	[ "Get a friend to call the front desk and ask a membership question, then ask them to get her name so they can reference who they talked to when they call back. Or just get a friend to come in with you and introduce themselves by their name.", "Ask for her number and have her enter it in your phone. That way you get both her number and her name.", "Introduce her to someone else.\n\n\n\n\"Hey have you met Joe?\"\n\n\n\nWait for her to introduce herself.", "Ask someone she works with... but you gotta do it in a way that it doesnt seem like you trying to get her name.", "It would be a good chance to make her laugh and get to know her a little better.\n\nEven if you saw it or knew it once, there's no shame in forgetting a name.", "You could open a conversation about name abbreviations. \"I heard of someone called Oliver and his parents called him that, his school called him Olly, his sister called him Ozzo, and his best friend calls him Ol: in an ideal world what would you like people to call you?\"\n\nVoila!", "The best solution my stoner ass has come up with is to introduce a newer employee to them, they do introductions and you can reap your knowledge, also works if you have got a spouse/friend they’ve never met...there are pitfalls to this method so you mileage may vary." ]	[ 9, 9, 2, 2, 1, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "Best outfits for working outside in the cold? Ive recently been doing road construction and this will be my first winter, id like to be able to stay warm and i know there's tricks to help! From special gloves to warm boots, clothing, hats, anything!", "Best outfits for working outside in the cold? Ive recently been doing road construction and this will be my first winter, id like to be able to stay warm and i know there's tricks to help! From special gloves to warm boots, clothing, hats, anything!", "Best outfits for working outside in the cold? Ive recently been doing road construction and this will be my first winter, id like to be able to stay warm and i know there's tricks to help! From special gloves to warm boots, clothing, hats, anything!", "Best outfits for working outside in the cold? Ive recently been doing road construction and this will be my first winter, id like to be able to stay warm and i know there's tricks to help! From special gloves to warm boots, clothing, hats, anything!", "Best outfits for working outside in the cold? Ive recently been doing road construction and this will be my first winter, id like to be able to stay warm and i know there's tricks to help! From special gloves to warm boots, clothing, hats, anything!", "Best outfits for working outside in the cold? Ive recently been doing road construction and this will be my first winter, id like to be able to stay warm and i know there's tricks to help! From special gloves to warm boots, clothing, hats, anything!", "Best outfits for working outside in the cold? Ive recently been doing road construction and this will be my first winter, id like to be able to stay warm and i know there's tricks to help! From special gloves to warm boots, clothing, hats, anything!" ]	[ "Third vote for carhart. Plus. Look into long johns. And if you're buying boots specifically for the cold, buy a pair big enough to wear two pairs of socks inside them. ", "Thick Wool Socks (most important for me), Insulated pants and thermal underwear. Good insulated boots and 2 good sets of gloves in case one pair gets wet. Carhart or similar jacket but get a Long/Tall so it keeps you covered when you move around. A good hat or helmet liner. I use a Russian looking hat with side flaps and fur lining. Been outside working for 25 years in the top of Maine figured out how to stay warm quickly. I would rather overdress you can always shed a layer later. I used to use coveralls with great success but found them harder to move around in", "If you're doing a lot of manual labor, especially intermittently, be sure to layer. You're going to want to be able to strip down to a t shirt when doing strenuous work to avoid sweating heavily because once you get sweaty you will be cold. ", "If you have something that has fleece fabric on the inside, it guarantee warmth and a comfy feeling :)", "I'd like to point out the importance of good shoes, and socks. That might be the first thing to buy.\n\nAlso, i use some body suit that you put under your close, kinda like a women's tights (you know, thin socks) but for the all body. It works miracle, is cheap, and does not affect your agility.", "Ditto on Carhartt but would add coveralls - you can wear them over your work clothes for an added layer of warmth. A less expensive alternative: ski pants. Also recommend Duofold exp", "A wetsuit works wonders. Flexible, stays warm when wet. My buddy is a college football ref and swears by one for winter games in Minnesota, Montana, etc." ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to deal with untrained dog of friend's roommate (begging, jumping) when visiting their house There was an LPT a while back about not impeding the efforts of a dog owner to train their dog, by advising not to encourage the dog to jump. What about the reverse of this situation: an untrained dog with a disinterested owner? For example, my friend's roommate's dog constantly begs, investigates any unguarded food or beverage, jumps onto you if you are standing, or attempts to climb into your lap if you are sitting (with a weight of ~70-lb). Friend's roommate (the owner) rarely bothers to discourage these behaviors and sometimes even rewards them with food/affection. I'm not very close with the friend's roommate and don't feel I'm in a position to openly criticize. Never seen the dog wearing a collar let alone taken on a walk. It's very irritating during visits.", "How to deal with untrained dog of friend's roommate (begging, jumping) when visiting their house There was an LPT a while back about not impeding the efforts of a dog owner to train their dog, by advising not to encourage the dog to jump. What about the reverse of this situation: an untrained dog with a disinterested owner? For example, my friend's roommate's dog constantly begs, investigates any unguarded food or beverage, jumps onto you if you are standing, or attempts to climb into your lap if you are sitting (with a weight of ~70-lb). Friend's roommate (the owner) rarely bothers to discourage these behaviors and sometimes even rewards them with food/affection. I'm not very close with the friend's roommate and don't feel I'm in a position to openly criticize. Never seen the dog wearing a collar let alone taken on a walk. It's very irritating during visits.", "How to deal with untrained dog of friend's roommate (begging, jumping) when visiting their house There was an LPT a while back about not impeding the efforts of a dog owner to train their dog, by advising not to encourage the dog to jump. What about the reverse of this situation: an untrained dog with a disinterested owner? For example, my friend's roommate's dog constantly begs, investigates any unguarded food or beverage, jumps onto you if you are standing, or attempts to climb into your lap if you are sitting (with a weight of ~70-lb). Friend's roommate (the owner) rarely bothers to discourage these behaviors and sometimes even rewards them with food/affection. I'm not very close with the friend's roommate and don't feel I'm in a position to openly criticize. Never seen the dog wearing a collar let alone taken on a walk. It's very irritating during visits.", "How to deal with untrained dog of friend's roommate (begging, jumping) when visiting their house There was an LPT a while back about not impeding the efforts of a dog owner to train their dog, by advising not to encourage the dog to jump. What about the reverse of this situation: an untrained dog with a disinterested owner? For example, my friend's roommate's dog constantly begs, investigates any unguarded food or beverage, jumps onto you if you are standing, or attempts to climb into your lap if you are sitting (with a weight of ~70-lb). Friend's roommate (the owner) rarely bothers to discourage these behaviors and sometimes even rewards them with food/affection. I'm not very close with the friend's roommate and don't feel I'm in a position to openly criticize. Never seen the dog wearing a collar let alone taken on a walk. It's very irritating during visits.", "How to deal with untrained dog of friend's roommate (begging, jumping) when visiting their house There was an LPT a while back about not impeding the efforts of a dog owner to train their dog, by advising not to encourage the dog to jump. What about the reverse of this situation: an untrained dog with a disinterested owner? For example, my friend's roommate's dog constantly begs, investigates any unguarded food or beverage, jumps onto you if you are standing, or attempts to climb into your lap if you are sitting (with a weight of ~70-lb). Friend's roommate (the owner) rarely bothers to discourage these behaviors and sometimes even rewards them with food/affection. I'm not very close with the friend's roommate and don't feel I'm in a position to openly criticize. Never seen the dog wearing a collar let alone taken on a walk. It's very irritating during visits.", "How to deal with untrained dog of friend's roommate (begging, jumping) when visiting their house There was an LPT a while back about not impeding the efforts of a dog owner to train their dog, by advising not to encourage the dog to jump. What about the reverse of this situation: an untrained dog with a disinterested owner? For example, my friend's roommate's dog constantly begs, investigates any unguarded food or beverage, jumps onto you if you are standing, or attempts to climb into your lap if you are sitting (with a weight of ~70-lb). Friend's roommate (the owner) rarely bothers to discourage these behaviors and sometimes even rewards them with food/affection. I'm not very close with the friend's roommate and don't feel I'm in a position to openly criticize. Never seen the dog wearing a collar let alone taken on a walk. It's very irritating during visits.", "How to deal with untrained dog of friend's roommate (begging, jumping) when visiting their house There was an LPT a while back about not impeding the efforts of a dog owner to train their dog, by advising not to encourage the dog to jump. What about the reverse of this situation: an untrained dog with a disinterested owner? For example, my friend's roommate's dog constantly begs, investigates any unguarded food or beverage, jumps onto you if you are standing, or attempts to climb into your lap if you are sitting (with a weight of ~70-lb). Friend's roommate (the owner) rarely bothers to discourage these behaviors and sometimes even rewards them with food/affection. I'm not very close with the friend's roommate and don't feel I'm in a position to openly criticize. Never seen the dog wearing a collar let alone taken on a walk. It's very irritating during visits.", "How to deal with untrained dog of friend's roommate (begging, jumping) when visiting their house There was an LPT a while back about not impeding the efforts of a dog owner to train their dog, by advising not to encourage the dog to jump. What about the reverse of this situation: an untrained dog with a disinterested owner? For example, my friend's roommate's dog constantly begs, investigates any unguarded food or beverage, jumps onto you if you are standing, or attempts to climb into your lap if you are sitting (with a weight of ~70-lb). Friend's roommate (the owner) rarely bothers to discourage these behaviors and sometimes even rewards them with food/affection. I'm not very close with the friend's roommate and don't feel I'm in a position to openly criticize. Never seen the dog wearing a collar let alone taken on a walk. It's very irritating during visits.", "How to deal with untrained dog of friend's roommate (begging, jumping) when visiting their house There was an LPT a while back about not impeding the efforts of a dog owner to train their dog, by advising not to encourage the dog to jump. What about the reverse of this situation: an untrained dog with a disinterested owner? For example, my friend's roommate's dog constantly begs, investigates any unguarded food or beverage, jumps onto you if you are standing, or attempts to climb into your lap if you are sitting (with a weight of ~70-lb). Friend's roommate (the owner) rarely bothers to discourage these behaviors and sometimes even rewards them with food/affection. I'm not very close with the friend's roommate and don't feel I'm in a position to openly criticize. Never seen the dog wearing a collar let alone taken on a walk. It's very irritating during visits.", "How to deal with untrained dog of friend's roommate (begging, jumping) when visiting their house There was an LPT a while back about not impeding the efforts of a dog owner to train their dog, by advising not to encourage the dog to jump. What about the reverse of this situation: an untrained dog with a disinterested owner? For example, my friend's roommate's dog constantly begs, investigates any unguarded food or beverage, jumps onto you if you are standing, or attempts to climb into your lap if you are sitting (with a weight of ~70-lb). Friend's roommate (the owner) rarely bothers to discourage these behaviors and sometimes even rewards them with food/affection. I'm not very close with the friend's roommate and don't feel I'm in a position to openly criticize. Never seen the dog wearing a collar let alone taken on a walk. It's very irritating during visits.", "How to deal with untrained dog of friend's roommate (begging, jumping) when visiting their house There was an LPT a while back about not impeding the efforts of a dog owner to train their dog, by advising not to encourage the dog to jump. What about the reverse of this situation: an untrained dog with a disinterested owner? For example, my friend's roommate's dog constantly begs, investigates any unguarded food or beverage, jumps onto you if you are standing, or attempts to climb into your lap if you are sitting (with a weight of ~70-lb). Friend's roommate (the owner) rarely bothers to discourage these behaviors and sometimes even rewards them with food/affection. I'm not very close with the friend's roommate and don't feel I'm in a position to openly criticize. Never seen the dog wearing a collar let alone taken on a walk. It's very irritating during visits.", "How to deal with untrained dog of friend's roommate (begging, jumping) when visiting their house There was an LPT a while back about not impeding the efforts of a dog owner to train their dog, by advising not to encourage the dog to jump. What about the reverse of this situation: an untrained dog with a disinterested owner? For example, my friend's roommate's dog constantly begs, investigates any unguarded food or beverage, jumps onto you if you are standing, or attempts to climb into your lap if you are sitting (with a weight of ~70-lb). Friend's roommate (the owner) rarely bothers to discourage these behaviors and sometimes even rewards them with food/affection. I'm not very close with the friend's roommate and don't feel I'm in a position to openly criticize. Never seen the dog wearing a collar let alone taken on a walk. It's very irritating during visits.", "How to deal with untrained dog of friend's roommate (begging, jumping) when visiting their house There was an LPT a while back about not impeding the efforts of a dog owner to train their dog, by advising not to encourage the dog to jump. What about the reverse of this situation: an untrained dog with a disinterested owner? For example, my friend's roommate's dog constantly begs, investigates any unguarded food or beverage, jumps onto you if you are standing, or attempts to climb into your lap if you are sitting (with a weight of ~70-lb). Friend's roommate (the owner) rarely bothers to discourage these behaviors and sometimes even rewards them with food/affection. I'm not very close with the friend's roommate and don't feel I'm in a position to openly criticize. Never seen the dog wearing a collar let alone taken on a walk. It's very irritating during visits.", "How to deal with untrained dog of friend's roommate (begging, jumping) when visiting their house There was an LPT a while back about not impeding the efforts of a dog owner to train their dog, by advising not to encourage the dog to jump. What about the reverse of this situation: an untrained dog with a disinterested owner? For example, my friend's roommate's dog constantly begs, investigates any unguarded food or beverage, jumps onto you if you are standing, or attempts to climb into your lap if you are sitting (with a weight of ~70-lb). Friend's roommate (the owner) rarely bothers to discourage these behaviors and sometimes even rewards them with food/affection. I'm not very close with the friend's roommate and don't feel I'm in a position to openly criticize. Never seen the dog wearing a collar let alone taken on a walk. It's very irritating during visits.", "How to deal with untrained dog of friend's roommate (begging, jumping) when visiting their house There was an LPT a while back about not impeding the efforts of a dog owner to train their dog, by advising not to encourage the dog to jump. What about the reverse of this situation: an untrained dog with a disinterested owner? For example, my friend's roommate's dog constantly begs, investigates any unguarded food or beverage, jumps onto you if you are standing, or attempts to climb into your lap if you are sitting (with a weight of ~70-lb). Friend's roommate (the owner) rarely bothers to discourage these behaviors and sometimes even rewards them with food/affection. I'm not very close with the friend's roommate and don't feel I'm in a position to openly criticize. Never seen the dog wearing a collar let alone taken on a walk. It's very irritating during visits." ]	[ "The only real way to deal with this is refusing to visit there. Explain to your friend that you don't like big dogs jumping on you and you won't be tolerating it anymore. Meet up at a diner or your place, or wherever, until the roommate trains the dog to not jump on people. The roommate still won't care, but your friend should. ", "Same way with your own. You say no and gently push it back and down. then add something in for the owner \"no I don't want to dance\" \"no you can't have this dick\" \"no you aren't a well trained dog\" most every dog knows the word no.", "If it tries to climb into your lap, hold your hand up to block it. Most dogs boop their nose on your hand and stop what they're doing. If it jumps, same thing: jazz hands to the dog. The rest (food, etc) is something that has to be trained - not happening. \n\nAnyway, jazz hands are a stop sign to dogs. It just works. :/", "Everyone raises their dog differently. Some people don't let their dogs on the couch and some people embrace it and give many cuddles. I'm in the party of loving my dog like a family member but he's only 30ish pounds\n\nIt's not really your place in my opinion. If you don't like it you probably shouldn't hang out there anymore. ", "There's a blurry line between rightfully asserting your own space and obnoxiously imposing your views on others. \n\nIf the dog is merely being a nuisance, tell it to go away with a firm voice, then push it away by raising your knee or using your foot. If the dog shows signs of aggression, leave the situation.\n\nFocus on your immediate safety and comfort, not training the dog or owner. Even a subtle tone of condescension registers and makes things awkward.", "When he jumps on you, just push him down (if he trys again you can roll him on his back to show your dominance). Should not take very long for him to learn that its not ok to jump on you. For the begging, just ignore him.", "Push away and ignore (turn your back). When the dog behaves well, reward.\n\nThat's more or less the basics for any dog training.", "Treat it like your own dog. Tell it a firm \"No.\" Make it sit and stay. Tell it to go lay down. More or less, the owner might not know you have to be firm with dogs and you'll show him how it's done. Dogs are pack animals and it takes a village to teach them. ", "Speak to it in a clear, stern, but not angry or aggressive voice. Use hand motions/gestures to stop it from jumping on you (it sounds loveable and misguided, rather than a bad dog). When it listens (doesn't jump up on you), continue conversation with everyone else for a short time. Then call it up to you on your terms and pet it.\n\nDon't let it choose when it gets up with you. Be consistent with letting time pass between you saying \"no\" and acknowledging it's good behavior. Dogs love consistency, so as long as you're not being aggressive to the point where the owner might feel it's too much you can establish dominance of your space and the dog will listen and respect you. Then give it the good love (pets, not food).", "It is your friend's responsibility to take care of this problem. \n\nLet your friend know (in advance, not when you are there) how much the dog bothers you and that you would appreciate it if the dog could be kept in another room while you are there or if that is not possible, that you would like to meet your friend somewhere else.\n\nYour friend may be completely oblivious to it or else he or she probably wouldn't be living there in the first place.", "When the dog goes to jump up on you standing, step back or turn your back.\n\nWhen the dog goes to jump up on your lap, block your lap or start to stand, keeping the dog from finding a good landing place.\n\nGuard your food and beverages.\n\nYou can say \"No\" firmly, the dog may or may not understand it.\n\nWhen the dog is behaving you can \"reward\" it with a pet or a dog-appropriate treat if you want. Otherwise, you should probably ignore its antics insofar as you can. There's not a whole lot else you can do with the owner not on board.", "What I've learned is I just ignore the dog. Seriously. No eye contact. Don't reach your hand out unless it's trying to climb on you or jumping (cut your damn dogs' claws people, shit) and I always give a firm 'NO' as I turn my back. Rinse repeat. I absolutely love animals but some dogs are big as fuck and just way too jumpy. \n", "Leave laxatives with your unguarded food. (probably warn your friend to close off their room, and hide anything of their own)", "I know all the current techniques are say \"no\" and ignore it, but they are somewhat counter intuitive. TAKE THIS WITH A GRAIN OF SALT since you aren't the dog owner and I am not a trainer (however I do have experienced with troubled dogs, including my current one). As long as the dog isn't aggressive and you are comfortable with it, I'd say give in to the jumping ie give the dog what he wants - which is affection. The dogs jumping is a way of it PLEADING for attention and affection, if you take care of that immediate need you may be surprised to see the behaviour lessen or even disappear. Think about it like this, when you were a kid and wanted a cookie or something and you didn't get it you would throw a hissy-fit, I hope that now a days you have self control to prevent this, but this is the same for the dog when he jumps. Ignoring it will only lessen the behaviour if it is CALM ENOUGH to consciously rationalize what is going on, it sounds like this dog is WAY to excited to understand the concept. Obviously this doesn't work for begging behaviours, that needs to be addressed by the owner. For the sitting on your lap do the same thing, block the dog from sitting on your lap and give him the affection it CRAVES.", "Depending on the mental capacity of the dog, it will pick up cues from you to a certain extent. Most dogs understand basic body language and the idea that different people appreciate different behavior. So there is some things you can do to change it's behavior towards you.\n\nA common cue dogs give each other (and works from a human) to let them know they're not interested in their behavior and what they have to offer is to turn their back on them. Every time the dog jumps up on you, turn your back. If the dog jumps on your back, leave the room. You can emphasize this with a clear, strong, \"No.\" \n\nAnother tactic if this isn't effective is to distract the dog with another command, like \"Sit.\" When the dog jumps up on you, don't touch the dog, simply say \"No. Sit.\" Strong and clear. Separate the two words. Dogs hear barks, not conversations. They are used to single syllable commands. If the dog sits you reward with a \"good boy!\", lean over and give it some pets. \n\nNEVER lean forward towards the dog when they are engaging in behavior you don't like. This looks like a 'play bow' to them. Play bows are something dogs do to show they're interested in interacting with another dog or human. By bowing, you're telling the dog you want to engage and that you like it's behavior.\n\nDon't ever feed the dog from your hand. And the comment from someone else about blocking the dog with your arm or hand when the dog tries to sit in your lap is good. If the dog persists and keeps trying to sit with you, turn your back or leave the room or try an alternate command to distract.\n\nAnd, as important as it is to correct bad behavior as explained above, its equally important to reward the good behavior. Anytime the dog changes its behavior based on your requests, thank it. Lean over and pet the dog, say 'good boy/ girl' and act very enthusiastic. \n\nGood Luck!!" ]	[ 11, 6, 6, 5, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Recently started living alone for the first time - seeking advice So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been living together for the past 3 years but we recently went our seperate ways, which meant her moving out of the house we shared. I've made the decision to carry on living there by myself. I've never lived in a house by myself, and aside from my ex girlfriend, i have always shared houses in the past with flatmates and such.\n\nI'm just looking for any advice/tips on what i can do to make this experience of living alone more productive and easier. I'll say right off the bat that i am not a very good cook, so a big problem i'm looking to avoid more than anything is to keep on spending money on takeways, and also trying to save money in general as overnight (due to her moving out) i have to pay the whole amount of rent as opposed to just my half. \n\nOther non cooking related tips are also much appreciated. I'm just looking to make the best of whats been a pretty shitty situation.\n\nI'm also UK based. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Recently started living alone for the first time - seeking advice So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been living together for the past 3 years but we recently went our seperate ways, which meant her moving out of the house we shared. I've made the decision to carry on living there by myself. I've never lived in a house by myself, and aside from my ex girlfriend, i have always shared houses in the past with flatmates and such.\n\nI'm just looking for any advice/tips on what i can do to make this experience of living alone more productive and easier. I'll say right off the bat that i am not a very good cook, so a big problem i'm looking to avoid more than anything is to keep on spending money on takeways, and also trying to save money in general as overnight (due to her moving out) i have to pay the whole amount of rent as opposed to just my half. \n\nOther non cooking related tips are also much appreciated. I'm just looking to make the best of whats been a pretty shitty situation.\n\nI'm also UK based. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Recently started living alone for the first time - seeking advice So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been living together for the past 3 years but we recently went our seperate ways, which meant her moving out of the house we shared. I've made the decision to carry on living there by myself. I've never lived in a house by myself, and aside from my ex girlfriend, i have always shared houses in the past with flatmates and such.\n\nI'm just looking for any advice/tips on what i can do to make this experience of living alone more productive and easier. I'll say right off the bat that i am not a very good cook, so a big problem i'm looking to avoid more than anything is to keep on spending money on takeways, and also trying to save money in general as overnight (due to her moving out) i have to pay the whole amount of rent as opposed to just my half. \n\nOther non cooking related tips are also much appreciated. I'm just looking to make the best of whats been a pretty shitty situation.\n\nI'm also UK based. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Recently started living alone for the first time - seeking advice So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been living together for the past 3 years but we recently went our seperate ways, which meant her moving out of the house we shared. I've made the decision to carry on living there by myself. I've never lived in a house by myself, and aside from my ex girlfriend, i have always shared houses in the past with flatmates and such.\n\nI'm just looking for any advice/tips on what i can do to make this experience of living alone more productive and easier. I'll say right off the bat that i am not a very good cook, so a big problem i'm looking to avoid more than anything is to keep on spending money on takeways, and also trying to save money in general as overnight (due to her moving out) i have to pay the whole amount of rent as opposed to just my half. \n\nOther non cooking related tips are also much appreciated. I'm just looking to make the best of whats been a pretty shitty situation.\n\nI'm also UK based. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Recently started living alone for the first time - seeking advice So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been living together for the past 3 years but we recently went our seperate ways, which meant her moving out of the house we shared. I've made the decision to carry on living there by myself. I've never lived in a house by myself, and aside from my ex girlfriend, i have always shared houses in the past with flatmates and such.\n\nI'm just looking for any advice/tips on what i can do to make this experience of living alone more productive and easier. I'll say right off the bat that i am not a very good cook, so a big problem i'm looking to avoid more than anything is to keep on spending money on takeways, and also trying to save money in general as overnight (due to her moving out) i have to pay the whole amount of rent as opposed to just my half. \n\nOther non cooking related tips are also much appreciated. I'm just looking to make the best of whats been a pretty shitty situation.\n\nI'm also UK based. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Recently started living alone for the first time - seeking advice So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been living together for the past 3 years but we recently went our seperate ways, which meant her moving out of the house we shared. I've made the decision to carry on living there by myself. I've never lived in a house by myself, and aside from my ex girlfriend, i have always shared houses in the past with flatmates and such.\n\nI'm just looking for any advice/tips on what i can do to make this experience of living alone more productive and easier. I'll say right off the bat that i am not a very good cook, so a big problem i'm looking to avoid more than anything is to keep on spending money on takeways, and also trying to save money in general as overnight (due to her moving out) i have to pay the whole amount of rent as opposed to just my half. \n\nOther non cooking related tips are also much appreciated. I'm just looking to make the best of whats been a pretty shitty situation.\n\nI'm also UK based. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Recently started living alone for the first time - seeking advice So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been living together for the past 3 years but we recently went our seperate ways, which meant her moving out of the house we shared. I've made the decision to carry on living there by myself. I've never lived in a house by myself, and aside from my ex girlfriend, i have always shared houses in the past with flatmates and such.\n\nI'm just looking for any advice/tips on what i can do to make this experience of living alone more productive and easier. I'll say right off the bat that i am not a very good cook, so a big problem i'm looking to avoid more than anything is to keep on spending money on takeways, and also trying to save money in general as overnight (due to her moving out) i have to pay the whole amount of rent as opposed to just my half. \n\nOther non cooking related tips are also much appreciated. I'm just looking to make the best of whats been a pretty shitty situation.\n\nI'm also UK based. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Recently started living alone for the first time - seeking advice So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been living together for the past 3 years but we recently went our seperate ways, which meant her moving out of the house we shared. I've made the decision to carry on living there by myself. I've never lived in a house by myself, and aside from my ex girlfriend, i have always shared houses in the past with flatmates and such.\n\nI'm just looking for any advice/tips on what i can do to make this experience of living alone more productive and easier. I'll say right off the bat that i am not a very good cook, so a big problem i'm looking to avoid more than anything is to keep on spending money on takeways, and also trying to save money in general as overnight (due to her moving out) i have to pay the whole amount of rent as opposed to just my half. \n\nOther non cooking related tips are also much appreciated. I'm just looking to make the best of whats been a pretty shitty situation.\n\nI'm also UK based. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Recently started living alone for the first time - seeking advice So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been living together for the past 3 years but we recently went our seperate ways, which meant her moving out of the house we shared. I've made the decision to carry on living there by myself. I've never lived in a house by myself, and aside from my ex girlfriend, i have always shared houses in the past with flatmates and such.\n\nI'm just looking for any advice/tips on what i can do to make this experience of living alone more productive and easier. I'll say right off the bat that i am not a very good cook, so a big problem i'm looking to avoid more than anything is to keep on spending money on takeways, and also trying to save money in general as overnight (due to her moving out) i have to pay the whole amount of rent as opposed to just my half. \n\nOther non cooking related tips are also much appreciated. I'm just looking to make the best of whats been a pretty shitty situation.\n\nI'm also UK based. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Recently started living alone for the first time - seeking advice So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been living together for the past 3 years but we recently went our seperate ways, which meant her moving out of the house we shared. I've made the decision to carry on living there by myself. I've never lived in a house by myself, and aside from my ex girlfriend, i have always shared houses in the past with flatmates and such.\n\nI'm just looking for any advice/tips on what i can do to make this experience of living alone more productive and easier. I'll say right off the bat that i am not a very good cook, so a big problem i'm looking to avoid more than anything is to keep on spending money on takeways, and also trying to save money in general as overnight (due to her moving out) i have to pay the whole amount of rent as opposed to just my half. \n\nOther non cooking related tips are also much appreciated. I'm just looking to make the best of whats been a pretty shitty situation.\n\nI'm also UK based. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Recently started living alone for the first time - seeking advice So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been living together for the past 3 years but we recently went our seperate ways, which meant her moving out of the house we shared. I've made the decision to carry on living there by myself. I've never lived in a house by myself, and aside from my ex girlfriend, i have always shared houses in the past with flatmates and such.\n\nI'm just looking for any advice/tips on what i can do to make this experience of living alone more productive and easier. I'll say right off the bat that i am not a very good cook, so a big problem i'm looking to avoid more than anything is to keep on spending money on takeways, and also trying to save money in general as overnight (due to her moving out) i have to pay the whole amount of rent as opposed to just my half. \n\nOther non cooking related tips are also much appreciated. I'm just looking to make the best of whats been a pretty shitty situation.\n\nI'm also UK based. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Recently started living alone for the first time - seeking advice So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been living together for the past 3 years but we recently went our seperate ways, which meant her moving out of the house we shared. I've made the decision to carry on living there by myself. I've never lived in a house by myself, and aside from my ex girlfriend, i have always shared houses in the past with flatmates and such.\n\nI'm just looking for any advice/tips on what i can do to make this experience of living alone more productive and easier. I'll say right off the bat that i am not a very good cook, so a big problem i'm looking to avoid more than anything is to keep on spending money on takeways, and also trying to save money in general as overnight (due to her moving out) i have to pay the whole amount of rent as opposed to just my half. \n\nOther non cooking related tips are also much appreciated. I'm just looking to make the best of whats been a pretty shitty situation.\n\nI'm also UK based. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Recently started living alone for the first time - seeking advice So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been living together for the past 3 years but we recently went our seperate ways, which meant her moving out of the house we shared. I've made the decision to carry on living there by myself. I've never lived in a house by myself, and aside from my ex girlfriend, i have always shared houses in the past with flatmates and such.\n\nI'm just looking for any advice/tips on what i can do to make this experience of living alone more productive and easier. I'll say right off the bat that i am not a very good cook, so a big problem i'm looking to avoid more than anything is to keep on spending money on takeways, and also trying to save money in general as overnight (due to her moving out) i have to pay the whole amount of rent as opposed to just my half. \n\nOther non cooking related tips are also much appreciated. I'm just looking to make the best of whats been a pretty shitty situation.\n\nI'm also UK based. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Recently started living alone for the first time - seeking advice So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been living together for the past 3 years but we recently went our seperate ways, which meant her moving out of the house we shared. I've made the decision to carry on living there by myself. I've never lived in a house by myself, and aside from my ex girlfriend, i have always shared houses in the past with flatmates and such.\n\nI'm just looking for any advice/tips on what i can do to make this experience of living alone more productive and easier. I'll say right off the bat that i am not a very good cook, so a big problem i'm looking to avoid more than anything is to keep on spending money on takeways, and also trying to save money in general as overnight (due to her moving out) i have to pay the whole amount of rent as opposed to just my half. \n\nOther non cooking related tips are also much appreciated. I'm just looking to make the best of whats been a pretty shitty situation.\n\nI'm also UK based. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!" ]	[ "I know this advice is going to catch some heat, but have you considered Soylent? Cheap, easy to prepare, doesn't need cooking supplies. When your financial situation improves you can invest more in learning to cook, but for now you can put other things first.", "I've been there mate.\n\nSave all those plastic takeaway containers (chinese, indian etc.). Get yourself a slow cooker, you can cook chicken & meats to perfection with the sole knowledge of 'leave it on for 4 hours'. Make big batches of stuff that will give you 3/4 meals & freeze them. \nRice, pasta & bread (toast is great with a curry) are king for fillers along with the meals. Lots of tins of tomatoes. Finely chop a few onions for curries. Also, get yourself something [like this](http://www.amazon.co.uk/Premier-Housewares-Spice-Schwartz-Spices/dp/B004N81JIW/ref=sr_1_4?s=kitchen&ie=UTF8&qid=1448875540&sr=1-4&keywords=spice+rack). It's probably the best thing I've bought for the kitchen. I had no idea what spices were what when I got it, but after lots of experimenting I'm a lot better & you can obviously get guidance online.\n\n\nHeating wise: Get yourself some trackies, thermal socks & a [dressing gown with a hood.](http://www.amazon.co.uk/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=jedi-robe&tag=googhydr-21&index=toys&hvadid=51681269446&hvpos=1t1&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=16937314239128258406&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=b&hvdev=c&ref=pd_sl_3v2dlfuia0_b). It'll save you a fortune on heating. You won't be the sexiest mofo but who gives a shit when you're living yourself. You obviously ditch them when a lady visits.\nAlso, curtains. Stick 1 over your front door too. Makes all the difference. I've just got 2 screws into the facing above the door & use a curtain with the metal circles in them. No need for a curtain rail & all that jazz.\n\nLED bulbs everywhere, the obvious, turn stuff off when not using it, i.e. telly off when in the kitchen cooking. \n\nKeep an eye on your expenditure overall & you'll be able to save money where you didn't even realise was a thing. \n\n", "I'd avoid getting into the rut of takeaways, often borne from not having anything in the house. Do a big shop with a focussed shopping list, somewhere like Lidl to avoid overpriced buy one get one frees. Basics like meat, veg and fish. \n\nA chilli is almost foolproof and incredibly cheap - one onion, pack of mince, beans, tomatoes, spices. You could almost just throw the lot in and leave it, but browning the onion and mince before will improve its looks. A whole chicken can come ready for the oven in a bag and on a tray, less than a fiver. Add some veg and you have a roast dinner with enough leftovers for days. Nothing wrong with frozen veg either, and a few easy things to chuck in the oven like chicken kievs and pizzas. I wouldn't focus too much on specific recipes, as they can occasionally be disheartening. Especially ones where you have to buy several storecupboard items you don't have or they want pricey extras like herbs which add little to the dish. The costs can mount up then, if you aren't 100% happy you may just wish you got a kebab. Use the recipe as an inspiration rather than a fixed set of rules.", "I'm in the US so bear with me... but a crock-pot or slow cooker is a good thing. I have a small one quart sized one that's great for one person with leftovers. Set it in the morning and you have a nice hot cheap meal waiting for you when you get home. ", "Hi mate. The cooking thing should be easily solved. Get someone who can show you how to knock up stuff like spag. bol, chilli, beef in beer, lasagna, some soups and stews. Make big portions and freeze them. It will save lots of money on food. You could try asking in r/food for some recipes and tips. Shop around for cheaper utilities, Internet etc. You might be entitled to a discount on council tax as well if you're a single occupant. Is your place big enough for a lodger? Good luck!", "Buy a lot of canned beans, tomatoes, lentils and other veges. Also, get an assortment of spices and herbs. As someone else mentioned, a rice cooker is super. Cheap, healthy and fast meals. ", "Stir fry is quick and easy with the added benefit of healthy. If you spend time when you have it to chop up all the veg you like it will usually store well (raw) in the fridge for at least a week. You can buy large packs of chicken breast or budget steak and cut some of it into stirfry strips, throw it in the freezer in single or 2 serve size bags. This means you can get home from work and all the time consuming prep-work is done. Defrost your meat (or transfer it from freezer to fridge before going to work) and you can toss everything in the pan with whatever sauce you like and have a tasty dinner done in 10 minutes. \n\nThe key to eating well, and more cheaply is planning and preparation. Find a handful of dishes you are comfortable cooking and like to eat. Things that you can cook in bulk and freeze (spaghetti bol, stews, lasagne) are great. \n\n\n", "Not cooking related, but check you are on the best deals for your utility bills. Electricity suppliers will often run different tariffs, so work out when you're using the most power vs what rate that power costs you. Maybe you're using your dryer at the most expensive time of day, that sort of thing. ", "If you want to cook at home more, it might be a good idea to sign up for a service like Blue Apron, ingredients and recipes sent to you with step-by-step instructions for making the meals. Each recipe is enough food for two meals, so that covers most of your food for the week. \n \nAnother idea is to make large amounts food ahead of time, such as a pot of stew or roast a whole chicken, but then you're eating the same thing for several days. ", "Bulk cook your food. So cook a weeks worth of pasta and chicken (for example) and have that for 5 days. Saves you time during the week and money in your pocket. Bulk buy as much as you can too. This is what I do at the moment and it saves me money. ", "All the comments re slow cooking are on point, but I'll add this : if you have an interest in cooking, why not spend some of that new free time on learning to cook better? You could take some classes, or use any of the many, many online cooking resources. With a little practice and knowledge, cooking great food for yourself is just as easy as cooking mediocre food. \n\nAside from cooking, why not start a new hobby? Learn to play the guitar, or speak another language, or whatever you're into. Start running, or reading something weighty. Learn to juggle, or dance or anything new. Sure, you can make a lot of progress in Fallout 4 without a significant other and that's okay too, just do something to change up your normal routine. It's really easy to get into a rut when you live alone. ", "i lived by myself for several years while working a construction job and going to school. money was tight and i get where you are coming from. one of the first things i did was down size on dishes. i had one bowl, one plate, one spoon, etc. i didnt entertain people much (at all) but if you do or you plan on it, just put your extra dishes in a box somewhere else in the house. this keeps the kitchen clean and efficient. also, learn to make recipes that are tasty but keep well in the fridge and can be made with bulk ingredients in larger quantities. i used to get home from work around 5 pm and the last thing i wanted to do was spend an hour making food, which made me more prone to buying take out. looks like others have already suggested this but things like rice, beans, and lentils are all cheap and relatively healthy. you can make a large quantity of something at one time, and then eat that for several days. chicken sausage is usually pre-cooked and keeps for about a month before you need to freeze it.\nnon cooking stuff: sit down and write out a budget considering all the expenditures you used share but now fall solely on you. adjust your savings an disposable income accordingly. i think its still important to be having fun and going out with your friends (maybe now more than ever) but its nice to have an idea of how much money you have to do those things while still affording your living situation and putting some in your savings account. if money is really tight, assess those things that you think you need but maybe dont. i got rid of internet. a lot of my friends found that ridiculous but if i needed to look at something i could just go to a friends house or to the cafe, and it saved me ~$50 a month (plus a lot of otherwise wasted time). \nget some good books. not sure how much you like to read currently but regardless i find it easy to watch too much tv/movies/whatever when i am by myself. books are a nice alternative (i think) that keeps my brain from turning to goop. living by myself in a shitty apartment was one of the best times in my life. i hope it works out for you!", "books. I would suggest spending an hour a day reading. go to amazon or google and search for a book on a topic that most interest you. \n\nlike how to live alone. http://www.amazon.com/Living-Alone-Loving-Barbara-Feldon/dp/0743235177\n\nor how to cook simple meals http://www.amazon.com/Real-Simple-Best-Recipes-Delicious/dp/1603201025\n\nor how to clean http://www.amazon.com/Practically-Anything-", "You've gotten a lot of great advice, especially about food. One of the things that was most important to me was to have something to look forward to. The house seemed a lot less empty when I had a book I wanted to finish, or a video game, or even just plans for the next day. It was easier to fill up empty time with cleaning and organizing if I knew, say, I was going to have dinner with friends tomorrow." ]	[ 9, 7, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I stutter less I stutter a lot when I talk, especially talking to strangers.(I'm a cashier) I always know what I want to say, but it comes out hesitant and stuttery.", "How do I stutter less I stutter a lot when I talk, especially talking to strangers.(I'm a cashier) I always know what I want to say, but it comes out hesitant and stuttery.", "How do I stutter less I stutter a lot when I talk, especially talking to strangers.(I'm a cashier) I always know what I want to say, but it comes out hesitant and stuttery.", "How do I stutter less I stutter a lot when I talk, especially talking to strangers.(I'm a cashier) I always know what I want to say, but it comes out hesitant and stuttery.", "How do I stutter less I stutter a lot when I talk, especially talking to strangers.(I'm a cashier) I always know what I want to say, but it comes out hesitant and stuttery.", "How do I stutter less I stutter a lot when I talk, especially talking to strangers.(I'm a cashier) I always know what I want to say, but it comes out hesitant and stuttery." ]	[ "The thing that helped me was to stop stressing if I did stutter. In fact, almost stutter on purpose! When I stopped worrying about it, it stopped happening. ", "Read a lot of books but read them out loud. When you find yourself stuttering re read the part that gave you problems. When you're alone try and talk yourself through simple tasks, but make sure you're alone so you don't look crazy. ", "I stutter and fuck up language skills daily, only thing I do that works is speak slower and say what I'm going to say in my head furst. Doesn't help much for a fast talking cashier job though", "I know this is a late response, but I have stuttered my entire life (I'm 26, almost 27 years old) and have came across some techniques which will help. \n\nOne of the main things is to not start/continue speaking unless you have a full diaphragm. Just like with any other person, speaking with a half full diaphragm limits you to what you can say and you run out of breath. \n\nAnother thing would be to go through self exercises of trying to elongate different sounds of the alphabet. I was in a class which helped me a lot, and they taught me to start off making each syllable 2 seconds each for a few days. As I and the other students progressed in the class, we shortened it down to 1.5 seconds, then 1 second, then to a normal talking speed for our own preference. The main sounds or syllables that were bad for me were H's, K's, C's, T's, S's, yet with practicing those techniques in the mornings before my day starts, my ability to speak the rest of the day is superb. \n\nOne huge thing that is important for stutterers is that, while everybody needs sleep, sleep is of upmost importance for a stutterer. Just like when people get tired at work and forget to check something or slack off, a stutterer's struggle is that their practice or ability to speak can diminish as well. I dealt with this as well, since I can hardly sleep at all. It is important to get good rest and to remain consistent with any self practice that you may do.\n\nPeople speak too fast these days, IMHO. Everybody is in a hurry to get somewhere or to say something, and that shouldn't be a burden on you. \n\nIf any syllable, sound, or word makes you stutter at all... just reset your diaphragm and remain calm then try the sound/syllable/word again. I have dealt with people at work that have either confronted me about me not saying something fast enough, etc. when I was using these techniques, but you must not let them get to you. Some people will just be rude, but you can only do what is best for you and your potential. \n\nPeople may cut you off mid-sentence, and while it may be annoying, there is not a lot to do about it because for the most part at my old food service job... I just let them finish then completed my statement or someone would notice that a person cut me or anyone else off, and would tell them that they were being rude. \n\n", "Definitely take a second to think about what you're going to say. The pause is hard at first but most people that stutter will get stressed out and do it more after the first instance so getting off to a good start can be really helpful. Also, I'm not sure how legitimate this is but a past friend of mine with a stutter used to try to sing along with rap songs all the time. When he messed up he'd just take a few breaths and jump back in when he could. ", "A lot of stutterers seem not to when they can sing their words. Not saying you should sing, but if there were a way to have music to provide the cadence, perhaps this would help?" ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Making fitted sheets fit? I don't know why but for years all of the fitted sheets I have tried (for several queen and full size beds) don't fit properly. They are loose and wrinkly after one night. Amazingly, my mother has no solution and store clerks are useless.\n\nYears back I remember bottom sheets that were smooth and taut and conformed to the mattress. I don't know if manufacturers went to a more generic size because of a lack of mattress standard or I just suck at bed sheet technology. I was assured that if I got a \"deep\" queen bed, my problems would cease.. but those sheets are loose too. \n\nI tried elastic bands under the mattress with clips but they are a pain to use and don't work well. I tried to shrink sheets in hot driers but they are still to big. Just wondering if there is a formula or trick for picking the right size sheets? \n\nIn the process of writing this, I thought about additional padding on the mattress to fill the slack. And I just thought about sheets that aren't deep. Apparently \"shallow pocket\" sheets exist. Maybe that will do it. \n\nIn the mean time, any pro advice? ", "Making fitted sheets fit? I don't know why but for years all of the fitted sheets I have tried (for several queen and full size beds) don't fit properly. They are loose and wrinkly after one night. Amazingly, my mother has no solution and store clerks are useless.\n\nYears back I remember bottom sheets that were smooth and taut and conformed to the mattress. I don't know if manufacturers went to a more generic size because of a lack of mattress standard or I just suck at bed sheet technology. I was assured that if I got a \"deep\" queen bed, my problems would cease.. but those sheets are loose too. \n\nI tried elastic bands under the mattress with clips but they are a pain to use and don't work well. I tried to shrink sheets in hot driers but they are still to big. Just wondering if there is a formula or trick for picking the right size sheets? \n\nIn the process of writing this, I thought about additional padding on the mattress to fill the slack. And I just thought about sheets that aren't deep. Apparently \"shallow pocket\" sheets exist. Maybe that will do it. \n\nIn the mean time, any pro advice? ", "Making fitted sheets fit? I don't know why but for years all of the fitted sheets I have tried (for several queen and full size beds) don't fit properly. They are loose and wrinkly after one night. Amazingly, my mother has no solution and store clerks are useless.\n\nYears back I remember bottom sheets that were smooth and taut and conformed to the mattress. I don't know if manufacturers went to a more generic size because of a lack of mattress standard or I just suck at bed sheet technology. I was assured that if I got a \"deep\" queen bed, my problems would cease.. but those sheets are loose too. \n\nI tried elastic bands under the mattress with clips but they are a pain to use and don't work well. I tried to shrink sheets in hot driers but they are still to big. Just wondering if there is a formula or trick for picking the right size sheets? \n\nIn the process of writing this, I thought about additional padding on the mattress to fill the slack. And I just thought about sheets that aren't deep. Apparently \"shallow pocket\" sheets exist. Maybe that will do it. \n\nIn the mean time, any pro advice? " ]	[ "My aunt doesn't use fitted sheets at all. She uses a size bigger than her mattress flat sheet and does some kind of hospital folds under the mattress. You'd have to google how to do it but it sounds like an option. ", "They sell stretchy clips that you can put on the corners to pull them tight. Google 'sheet straps'. Walmart sells them for $10.", "Measure your mattress. Know exactly what you're dealing with. The sheets should state the exact depth they are designed to fit. Buy sheets that are around that depth. Don't buy cheap sheets. " ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Cutting through tire without a saw or cutting torch? pretty self-explanatory. We don't have a hack saw or cutting torch...we tried using tin snips but they went dull pretty fast...any tricks for cutting through a tire with a steel belt?", "Cutting through tire without a saw or cutting torch? pretty self-explanatory. We don't have a hack saw or cutting torch...we tried using tin snips but they went dull pretty fast...any tricks for cutting through a tire with a steel belt?", "Cutting through tire without a saw or cutting torch? pretty self-explanatory. We don't have a hack saw or cutting torch...we tried using tin snips but they went dull pretty fast...any tricks for cutting through a tire with a steel belt?" ]	[ "Make sure it's a bias ply. The steel belted will be to sharp and scrape your legs. About cutting them, we used a sawzall and I believe a medium metal blade to cut a square. For your detailed cut, I'd nail the rough square down to a board and cut both at the same time with a jig saw. The nails could go through the holes you'll need for the toe loops. ", "You could get s hacksaw for practically nothing at Harbor Freight. Even a Good Will or a Dollar Tree carry inexpensive hacksaws. Is this some type of challenge to see if you can do it with nothing more than a shoelace or a butter knife? Are you making a flower planter bed thing? ", "unless you are mass producing sandals, go looking for a motorcycle tire or a temporary spare tire that does not have steel belts. That's what I did.\n\nOf course, I also have access to a metal cutting bandsaw. That should probably work too. Cutting torch is a bad idea, and I should not have to tell you why." ]	[ 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to make friends at a community college Everyone goes to class and just....leaves. Theres not much opportunity to make friends like you would at a normal 4yr college in a dorm.", "How to make friends at a community college Everyone goes to class and just....leaves. Theres not much opportunity to make friends like you would at a normal 4yr college in a dorm." ]	[ " Most classes have some sort of group project or seating arrangements. Use this to make \"friends\". Honestly it was never easier to pick up girls than it was in college. ", "Plan your schedule so there's a nice chunk of time in between classes. You'll meet other people that do the same thing, and some of your classmates probably do as well.\n\nObviously this won't work in a lot of situations, but if it's possible for you to do it then by all means try it." ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to handle rejection better Both during job interviews and dating. Sometimes when I get rejected I lose all will to continue looking for a job or dating.", "How to handle rejection better Both during job interviews and dating. Sometimes when I get rejected I lose all will to continue looking for a job or dating.", "How to handle rejection better Both during job interviews and dating. Sometimes when I get rejected I lose all will to continue looking for a job or dating.", "How to handle rejection better Both during job interviews and dating. Sometimes when I get rejected I lose all will to continue looking for a job or dating." ]	[ "LIFE is a numbers game. There are a number of failures required per success. The more difficult the challenge the more failures per success can be expected. The difference between good and great is usually small. A pro baseball player fails 7 out of ten times in hitting and makes the All-star team. The same player fails 8 in ten and he will be looking for a job. \nThe KEY is to keep trying, over and over. Have no memory of past negative results, they are just part of the process. Desperation will be sensed like a bad odor. You must be interested and engaged but don't ever let the other side think you NEED it. They must think they need you, to fulfill their own desire for (x).", "Worst levels of stress are encountered at life changing events\n\n1)Looking for a job.\n\n2)Looking for a home.\n\n3)Looking for a girlfriend.\n\nWhen one falls through, work on the others for a while..\n\nWhen you feel better take the plunge again.\n\nLife is a journey not just a destination.", "Know that most really successful people have tried and failed far more then they have succeed. Also, contextualize each situation and understand why you failed, if you can fix that problem do so swiftly, if you cannot accept it, look for a lesson, and let it roll off your back. Finally do not beat yourself up for failing, and find someone you can vent to if you feel it would help. ", "A person with high confidence & self esteem will handle rejection better than a person with high confidence & low self esteem.\n\nTake that advice & Google \"how to get higher self confidence\"" ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to pick out extremely sturdy furniture So I am a minimalist and I am trying to find a daybed for the studio I am going to be moving to. So I can have a couch in the day and then just sleep on it at night.\n\nBut here is my problem- my dad will want to visit. I am extremely careful with things I own. My dad is like a bull on a glass couch. His method of sitting is \"line up and fall.\" (And he's probably 260 lbs. I get worried when he sits on his own couch because there is no way I can get him out if he falls through and gets hurt) I don't want to spend 500 - 600 dollars on a day bed just to have him sit on it and potentially break it. I get really anxious every time I try looking at furniture because I am worried it won't be sturdy enough.\n\nI'm getting to the point where I am considering just buying 2x4s and making my own despite having no idea how to make things. Just make it out of solid wood and make sure it'll never break or be moved again.\n\nI considered finding a single sturdy chair but I think a daybed, desk, desk chair and dad chair would be too cluttered for my liking. I won't have more than two guests - likely and I can sit on the stools I picked for the kitchen. Maybe buy an extra set of stools and keep in the closet just in case.", "How to pick out extremely sturdy furniture So I am a minimalist and I am trying to find a daybed for the studio I am going to be moving to. So I can have a couch in the day and then just sleep on it at night.\n\nBut here is my problem- my dad will want to visit. I am extremely careful with things I own. My dad is like a bull on a glass couch. His method of sitting is \"line up and fall.\" (And he's probably 260 lbs. I get worried when he sits on his own couch because there is no way I can get him out if he falls through and gets hurt) I don't want to spend 500 - 600 dollars on a day bed just to have him sit on it and potentially break it. I get really anxious every time I try looking at furniture because I am worried it won't be sturdy enough.\n\nI'm getting to the point where I am considering just buying 2x4s and making my own despite having no idea how to make things. Just make it out of solid wood and make sure it'll never break or be moved again.\n\nI considered finding a single sturdy chair but I think a daybed, desk, desk chair and dad chair would be too cluttered for my liking. I won't have more than two guests - likely and I can sit on the stools I picked for the kitchen. Maybe buy an extra set of stools and keep in the closet just in case.", "How to pick out extremely sturdy furniture So I am a minimalist and I am trying to find a daybed for the studio I am going to be moving to. So I can have a couch in the day and then just sleep on it at night.\n\nBut here is my problem- my dad will want to visit. I am extremely careful with things I own. My dad is like a bull on a glass couch. His method of sitting is \"line up and fall.\" (And he's probably 260 lbs. I get worried when he sits on his own couch because there is no way I can get him out if he falls through and gets hurt) I don't want to spend 500 - 600 dollars on a day bed just to have him sit on it and potentially break it. I get really anxious every time I try looking at furniture because I am worried it won't be sturdy enough.\n\nI'm getting to the point where I am considering just buying 2x4s and making my own despite having no idea how to make things. Just make it out of solid wood and make sure it'll never break or be moved again.\n\nI considered finding a single sturdy chair but I think a daybed, desk, desk chair and dad chair would be too cluttered for my liking. I won't have more than two guests - likely and I can sit on the stools I picked for the kitchen. Maybe buy an extra set of stools and keep in the closet just in case.", "How to pick out extremely sturdy furniture So I am a minimalist and I am trying to find a daybed for the studio I am going to be moving to. So I can have a couch in the day and then just sleep on it at night.\n\nBut here is my problem- my dad will want to visit. I am extremely careful with things I own. My dad is like a bull on a glass couch. His method of sitting is \"line up and fall.\" (And he's probably 260 lbs. I get worried when he sits on his own couch because there is no way I can get him out if he falls through and gets hurt) I don't want to spend 500 - 600 dollars on a day bed just to have him sit on it and potentially break it. I get really anxious every time I try looking at furniture because I am worried it won't be sturdy enough.\n\nI'm getting to the point where I am considering just buying 2x4s and making my own despite having no idea how to make things. Just make it out of solid wood and make sure it'll never break or be moved again.\n\nI considered finding a single sturdy chair but I think a daybed, desk, desk chair and dad chair would be too cluttered for my liking. I won't have more than two guests - likely and I can sit on the stools I picked for the kitchen. Maybe buy an extra set of stools and keep in the closet just in case.", "How to pick out extremely sturdy furniture So I am a minimalist and I am trying to find a daybed for the studio I am going to be moving to. So I can have a couch in the day and then just sleep on it at night.\n\nBut here is my problem- my dad will want to visit. I am extremely careful with things I own. My dad is like a bull on a glass couch. His method of sitting is \"line up and fall.\" (And he's probably 260 lbs. I get worried when he sits on his own couch because there is no way I can get him out if he falls through and gets hurt) I don't want to spend 500 - 600 dollars on a day bed just to have him sit on it and potentially break it. I get really anxious every time I try looking at furniture because I am worried it won't be sturdy enough.\n\nI'm getting to the point where I am considering just buying 2x4s and making my own despite having no idea how to make things. Just make it out of solid wood and make sure it'll never break or be moved again.\n\nI considered finding a single sturdy chair but I think a daybed, desk, desk chair and dad chair would be too cluttered for my liking. I won't have more than two guests - likely and I can sit on the stools I picked for the kitchen. Maybe buy an extra set of stools and keep in the closet just in case.", "How to pick out extremely sturdy furniture So I am a minimalist and I am trying to find a daybed for the studio I am going to be moving to. So I can have a couch in the day and then just sleep on it at night.\n\nBut here is my problem- my dad will want to visit. I am extremely careful with things I own. My dad is like a bull on a glass couch. His method of sitting is \"line up and fall.\" (And he's probably 260 lbs. I get worried when he sits on his own couch because there is no way I can get him out if he falls through and gets hurt) I don't want to spend 500 - 600 dollars on a day bed just to have him sit on it and potentially break it. I get really anxious every time I try looking at furniture because I am worried it won't be sturdy enough.\n\nI'm getting to the point where I am considering just buying 2x4s and making my own despite having no idea how to make things. Just make it out of solid wood and make sure it'll never break or be moved again.\n\nI considered finding a single sturdy chair but I think a daybed, desk, desk chair and dad chair would be too cluttered for my liking. I won't have more than two guests - likely and I can sit on the stools I picked for the kitchen. Maybe buy an extra set of stools and keep in the closet just in case." ]	[ "amateur carpenter here! best advice i could give for furniture is basically what you were planning to do. Either make your own (see if you can find someone to help you plan it because you can really make them weak if you don't know how) or buy solid hardwood furniture. you can put cushions on top of a wooden bench etc. just look carefully, make sure its actually wood and not fiberboard crap because i can break that by kicking it. i'm sure your dad would sit right through it. to tell if its actually wood check the weight, you want it heavy, and also check the grain for weirdness.\n\nbest place to find cheap hardwood furniture is craigslist. get the heaviest most scratched up shit you can find, and then fix it up to look sexy.", "I know most people shy away from this option, but you could have something made by a carpenter. If you have an idea of the size, shape and design, they will price up making one for you. You'll have to have the cushions made, but you can have something that's unique to you.\n\nIf you're wanting a day bed with a sturdy mechanism, and are not happy with the carpenter making it, then you can purchase a bed mechanism for him to fit in a shell for you. ", "Not sure if it will help with sitting furniture, but if you're not opposed to DIY projects, wood and pipes make for some pretty indestructible furniture: http://www.instructables.com/id/Pipe-Furniture-Projects/\n\nAnd, it's super easy to make... kinda like K'NEX but for, you know... furniture.\n\nAnd moving is a cinch--just gotta disassemble stuff and you get the added benefit of reconfiguring it to your new place.", "Is a \"daybed\" a futon (foo-tawn)? Idk how to spell it... if it's a couch that turns into a bed and vice versa, then there's no such thing as a sturdy one. If this is some sort of couch with a foldout bed tucked inside it, then from what I've experienced there's no such thing as an unsteady one to sit on, as it is completely solid while in the couch form, as opposed to simple springs and wood.", "There is an entire industry that revolves around making furniture for obese people. Desk chairs for the obese, especially, are fairly easy to find.\n\nI've had to go this route in the past, and while it can be awkward explaining to an obese friend that they need to sit in this chair instead of that one because this one won't break beneath their weight... it's still easier than having to buy new furniture after each visit. Or pasting on a smile and pretending it's okay that said friend has broken yet another chair.", "I would suggest doing a stress analysis of the frame, finding out how much stress it can take versus what it will typically handle in a standard loading." ]	[ 13, 9, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to keep a dog calm during a thunder storm My dog freaks out during thunderstorms/fireworks. Does anyone have any ways to mask the noise or calm a dog down during a storm?", "How to keep a dog calm during a thunder storm My dog freaks out during thunderstorms/fireworks. Does anyone have any ways to mask the noise or calm a dog down during a storm?", "How to keep a dog calm during a thunder storm My dog freaks out during thunderstorms/fireworks. Does anyone have any ways to mask the noise or calm a dog down during a storm?", "How to keep a dog calm during a thunder storm My dog freaks out during thunderstorms/fireworks. Does anyone have any ways to mask the noise or calm a dog down during a storm?", "How to keep a dog calm during a thunder storm My dog freaks out during thunderstorms/fireworks. Does anyone have any ways to mask the noise or calm a dog down during a storm?", "How to keep a dog calm during a thunder storm My dog freaks out during thunderstorms/fireworks. Does anyone have any ways to mask the noise or calm a dog down during a storm?", "How to keep a dog calm during a thunder storm My dog freaks out during thunderstorms/fireworks. Does anyone have any ways to mask the noise or calm a dog down during a storm?" ]	[ "Hey there, I'm a veterinarian so here's my two cents. Option number one is to use an oral sedative, which can work well but as somebody said you have to predict exactly when the storm is coming. Plus it just covers up the problem and isn't reliable for every dog.\nOption number two is to actually train your dog to not be fearful of loud noises. There is a stimulus (thunder) that at a certain threshold elicits fearful behavior. So the idea is to expose your dog to that stimulus BUT at a low threshold that doesn't elicit the behavior. How do you do this? Find some thunder noises on youtube, play them very softly and reward your dog with it's favorite treat. The next day, you turn the noise up slightly and give more treats. Keep repeating this, always being careful to avoid turning it up so loudly that you get a fear response. Eventually you'll be able to play the noise at full volume and your dog will have learned that there's nothing harmful about it. This fixes the problem. Downside is that it takes a lot of time and work, and most people will give up before they get there.", "Follow Pavlov's lead and with a handful of treats, feed one to your pal after every thunderclap. Also don't show fear or concern, laugh or otherwise engage your dog positively when there's a loud storm so they know they're safe. It might not work the first night, but by the end of the season you might be surprised by the change in behaviour.", "We got our dog one of those Thunder Shirts, and it worked better than nothing, but she still was pretty upset and scared. We finally talked to the doctor and got her some valium. They really work to calm her down. The only problem is it takes 45 minutes to an hour to kick in, so you kind of have to keep an eye on the weather report to see when the storm is going to hit your area. ", "Buy her a cage that is quite roomy for her and put it somwhere out of the way, cover it with blankets and make the inside cosy and it can be a kind of safe sheltered place for them.\n\nWe had to do this with our last dog and it worked wonders :)", "We sit with the dog out on the porch and watch the rain fall. She was initially scared, but now enjoys the pitter-patter of the rain and the deep rumbles of the thunder. This will probably help your pupper learn about weather.\n\nShe uses her sight a lot, so at night we just took her downstairs and played with her. She is happy when it rains now! :)", "Others have good suggestions with thunder shirts, talking to the vet, treats after cracks of thunder, etc. Another thing I do is turn on a couple of fans in the house - the white noise dulls the noises from t he storm.\n\nOne other thing I'd like to add - a lot of people recommend making a \"safe place\" for your dog where the noise is dulled, lights are dim, etc., where they can feel comfortable and wait it out.\n\nBefore assigning a spot, wait for a storm and see where your dog goes on his/her own.\n\nFor example, you might think during a storm my dog would like to go to spot in the bedroom where she sleeps at night. It's a corner that is kind of enclosed by the dresser on one side and the nightstand on the other, has a dog bed and blankets, etc. \n\nBut in reality she always went straight to the bathroom where she lays on the shower mat. That's where she felt safe. So, now it has a bigger, comfier rug to lay on and a night light so she's not in the dark. She doesn't use it often (usually she's fine during storms) but on occasion she'll go hide out there.", "I hear these help.\n\nhttp://www.thundershirt.com/?gclid=Cj0KEQjwv467BRCbkMvs5O3kioUBEiQAGDZHL6uZ-yWCjXNaZC0W10frfTw_uSXR95JWS8XSIbsouHkaAvlV8P8HAQ\n\nDon't act scared yourself, just act excited and distract them as much as possible with treats. I start talking to my dog in my \"food\" voice and ask him if he wants a greenie bone (he knows the word). then I get him all excited for a treat and we go get one from the pantry. \n\nMy dog isn't too scared unless the thunder shakes the house, but this works on him." ]	[ 14, 9, 6, 3, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to get over a crush on a friend I live on a university campus with this girl being my neighbor, we see each other every day and are pretty good friends. Problem is I have feelings for her but don't want a relationship (sexual or romantic) with her, so any tips as to how I can move passed my feelings?", "How to get over a crush on a friend I live on a university campus with this girl being my neighbor, we see each other every day and are pretty good friends. Problem is I have feelings for her but don't want a relationship (sexual or romantic) with her, so any tips as to how I can move passed my feelings?", "How to get over a crush on a friend I live on a university campus with this girl being my neighbor, we see each other every day and are pretty good friends. Problem is I have feelings for her but don't want a relationship (sexual or romantic) with her, so any tips as to how I can move passed my feelings?", "How to get over a crush on a friend I live on a university campus with this girl being my neighbor, we see each other every day and are pretty good friends. Problem is I have feelings for her but don't want a relationship (sexual or romantic) with her, so any tips as to how I can move passed my feelings?", "How to get over a crush on a friend I live on a university campus with this girl being my neighbor, we see each other every day and are pretty good friends. Problem is I have feelings for her but don't want a relationship (sexual or romantic) with her, so any tips as to how I can move passed my feelings?", "How to get over a crush on a friend I live on a university campus with this girl being my neighbor, we see each other every day and are pretty good friends. Problem is I have feelings for her but don't want a relationship (sexual or romantic) with her, so any tips as to how I can move passed my feelings?", "How to get over a crush on a friend I live on a university campus with this girl being my neighbor, we see each other every day and are pretty good friends. Problem is I have feelings for her but don't want a relationship (sexual or romantic) with her, so any tips as to how I can move passed my feelings?", "How to get over a crush on a friend I live on a university campus with this girl being my neighbor, we see each other every day and are pretty good friends. Problem is I have feelings for her but don't want a relationship (sexual or romantic) with her, so any tips as to how I can move passed my feelings?", "How to get over a crush on a friend I live on a university campus with this girl being my neighbor, we see each other every day and are pretty good friends. Problem is I have feelings for her but don't want a relationship (sexual or romantic) with her, so any tips as to how I can move passed my feelings?" ]	[ "Think about the ways that you two aren't so great for each other. Maybe she wants to uproot every few years, and you want to live near family. Maybe you want to be with someone who will go to the orchestra with you, and she gags at the thought of fancy dress. Maybe her parents are wacko racists you wouldn't want your eventual kids around. Maybe she's super thrifty and you're more spend-happy. Whatever it is, even if you can only see little things, focus on what makes you incompatible. The ways you'd never really make each other happy. That has always been the best way for me to get over a crush.\n\nAlso -- give yourself time. It won't end overnight. The feelings may never go away entirely, and that's ok, too. But they'll be manageable.", "> Problem is I have feelings for her but don't want a relationship (sexual or romantic) with her\n\nI don't even know what you're talking about.", "I've been in your shoes before, about 24-25 years ago. There's no 'one-size fits' all solution for the problem you're having. In my case, I am still good friends with the girl in question. I'm not in touch with most of the girls I dated then.\n\nA change in perspective takes practice. Just put your thoughts in check when something more than friendly crosses your mind. Obviously you're not seeing anyone, so perhaps you can ask her for help finding someone for you to date, or simply distract yourself by seeking out another girl to date?", "Can you elaborate on why you have feelings but don't want a relationship of any kind? That seems odd. Maybe the key to moving past this is in whatever makes you not want that with her. ", "Sometimes a crush will pass naturally, other times, the only way to do it is to cut that person out of your life. Unfortunately that doesn't seem easy for you. My best solution then would be to try and find someone else to distract yourself with. Can't hurt.", "Remind yourself of the reasons you don't want a relationship with her, or why you two wouldn't be good together.", "I'm going to suggest either:\n\nA. Get your feelings out there, let the dream clash with reality and it will sort itself out,\n\nor\n\nB. Somehow completely eliminate her from your life.\n\nAs long as you have the opportunity to harbor and dwell on these secret feelings, and fuel to feed them now and then (saying hi in the hallway, she brings you your misplaced mail) they will never go away. You'll be caught in a fantasy and it will eat you alive.", "Consider the things that you find attractive about her and then use those as sort of a \"list\" of what you'd like to find in a future partner. ", "Its a whole complicated matter. she has some annoying habits and I don't want a commited relationship right now. but most confusingly I've been doing research and I believe I'm on the spectrum of asexual. so I have a few things I need to think about. " ]	[ 17, 12, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 0 ]	safe
[ "Best way to read a program and bet on a horse. What's the best and most important things in a horse racing program to research or note when placing a bet?", "Best way to read a program and bet on a horse. What's the best and most important things in a horse racing program to research or note when placing a bet?", "Best way to read a program and bet on a horse. What's the best and most important things in a horse racing program to research or note when placing a bet?" ]	[ "Find out if he's a mudder. And if his father's a mudder. And if his mother's a mudder. Then wait for a soggy day. ", "Look how fast the horse has run the track and how long a rest they have had. If its more than 30 days and less than 14 days dont bet that horse.", "bide your time, wait for the 4th-6th handicapped horses to scratch then bet the 1-2-3 horses in all 9 different ways and win the trifecta. " ]	[ 9, 3, 1 ]	safe

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