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[ "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n", "How to shave a unibrow I'm a hairy dude, especially between my eyebrows. I've tried my face razor but it's not real accurate. Plucking hurts and takes forever.\n\n" ]	[ "Plucking does hurt, but it's a much better option. Shaving will itch and make it far more noticeable as it grows back. With practise it doesn't need to take forever either.\n\nYou can do things to make it hurt less as well - take a bath or shower first or wash your eyebrow region with hot water to open up the pores. Pluck in the direction that the eyebrow grows so you're just like, guiding it out. Wash with cool water, or press a cold flannel on after you're done to soothe the area and get rid of any redness.\n\nOne good plucking session and you'll only need to just keep tidying them up every few days. Threading is another option, or getting them waxed. Waxing lasts longer than shaving anyway :)", "Don't shave it! It'll grow back stubbly and you run the risk of making the hair look thicker. \n\nYou might think that paying for waxing is a waste of money, but I assure you it is not. The home waxing kits can be tricky. Basically, you run the risk of misapplying the wax and taking off too much hair or you might accidentally apply too much pressure and take a layer of the skin off too. Trust me, it's not worth it. \n\nWaxing really isn't that expensive and for something like your face, it's worth making the investment. ", "Yeah don't shave.. Pluck or wax. A really good wax strip is Nads (get it in a drugstore) ... It's awesome mostly because it has an after wax wipe that really helps soothe. I've used others, but I prefer that brand. ", "Use the the bridge of your nose as a general guide. That's how much space you want between your brows, provided you don't have a super narrow nose. Nothing makes you look like more of a weirdo than really far apart eyebrows. ", "Go find some South Asian or Indian ladies and threaded. It's so easy, relatively painless, and quick. My wife dragged me out to get my bushy brows beaten back and it was great.", "Just pluck them. I know it hurts but after the first intense session its just maintenance from then on. Plus the more you do it the less it hurts. You just have to get used to it.\n\nI would also invest in some tweezerman tweezers. They are the best of the best and they actually hurt less than shitty tweezers because they are so effective. ", "It's 2015, screw shaving, plucking and waxing. Get electrolysis or laser hair removal and be done with it forever. ", "I use the Gillette razors with the single blade on the back. Razor works fine for me with a single, gentle swipe. ", "Do not use a razor on your eyebrows! Get some tweezers and pluck. Although you may initially be sensitive, this will subside the more you do it. It's best done following a shower as your pores are dilated. Go to your local asian beauty shop for the initial sculpting and than continue on your own as the hairs regrow.", "If you're going to pluck, do it after a hot shower. Not as painful. \n\nBut I think waxing might be the better option. Not as painful and a lot quicker.", "If I tried plucking I would be in extreme pain. I do not know why those nerves are so sensitive for me. I usually run a razor on my uni quick. It takes like 2 seconds. Maybe my face is better designed to shave unibrows with a razor than yours OP.", "I think laser treatment is a better option than both shaving and plucking.\n\nhttp://www.webmd.com/beauty/hair-removal/laser-hair-removal", "For the first time, go and get it professionally waxed or threaded so you can follow their lines, otherwise you might do something terrible and it will take months and months to fix. Plucking stops hurting completely after you do it a few times. ", "Find a decent local salon and get it waxed. Hurts a bit the first few times but you soon get used to it.", "you know you can get razor specially for brows that girls use in beauty stores. Or get a laser kit and remove it at home if that bothers you much. ", "just pluck that shit, you will get used to it\n\nwait till you gotta start pullin out the excessively long nose hairs...ouch", "Wet the parts of your eyebrows that you want to keep. Cover your bangs with one hand. Light a lighter for one second on the center of the unibrow. Take a shower. Boom. Done. Works...verified.", "These pluckers and waxers and threaders are crazy. Just get one of these and thank me later. http://www.amazon.com/Wahl-5640-1001-Lithium-Groomsman-Personal/dp/B007HJ9VFM/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1426973848&sr=8-2&keywords=micro+shaver", "Plucking is the way to go. You get used to it after a while and find the best method for yourself that makes it less hurty. Yeah, I'm going with that word. I find for me, my ears if I pull till the hair is taut then slowly pluck it doesn't hurt as much. The small hairs on the tip of my nose, I need to go lightning fucking fast. ", "PLEASE, if there is one piece of advice I can give - don't do any of those!\n\nElectrolysis is the right answer. I had it done 14 years ago, when I was young (14-15). 4 sessions and $60 later, I haven't had to worry about a unibrow ever again!!!!\n\n", "Not particularly hairy, but I get the mono brow. And I have to tweeze the middle part once a week. I hate it, but hate it less than having a mono brow.", "No one seems to have mentioned this, but you gat facial hair trimmers. You can pick one up on amazon for 20bucks. Its like a regular pair of clippers except they have a very narrow blade. Super easy to take a unibrow off. No fear or cutting.. and totally pain free.", "Never try to shave anywhere near your eyebrows. My brother tried to shave the middle of his unibrow and ended up accidentally shaving off half his eyebrow. Plucking hurts, but you get used to it after awhile. It doesn't hurt me to pluck hairs anymore.", "LPT: never shave your eyebrows. see:\n\nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/awfuleyebrows/\n\n& if you're female, don't pluck/get threaded while you're on your period they say, as it hurts more.\n\na lot of east indian/persian guys just go to get the middle part threaded, although a lot of places are \"women only\" salons. (& some get way more threaded if they're into that kinda thing. re: http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-rUo-8PEcfkg/UjhoOcBtOnI/AAAAAAAAEm0/glHH9hgNii8/s1600/jersey_thing.jpg)\n\ni pluck. you get used to it. the middle part never hurt. neither do the sides. but the ones around the eyeballs hurt. but you do get used to it. especially if you just do 1 @ a time around those sensitive areas. & threading doesn't hurt in the middle. it just tickles. but threading elsewhere hurts. and you don't get used to it.", "If you're gonna shave it, use one of [these](http://i.imgur.com/m3EAPP3.jpg). They're good for daily use (or three times a week, however often you think you need to use it). If you want to look extra spiffy for a date or something, use wax. You can get pre-waxed strips that you heat by rubbing between your palms. I also really like Nad's facial/eyebrow wand. It's a tube of wax stuff in an applicator (like a lip gloss) that you can warm in a cup of hot water. The tip lets you get the wax precisely where you need it. The strips it comes with are washable and reuseable.\n\nSource: am a girl.", "I'm really late to this party, but maybe you'll read this. I don't know why everyone is saying not to shave it. I've used my face razor, carefully, for 10 years. Every morning - brush teeth, wash face, trim unibrow. It doesn't hurt, it's done in 15 seconds, and as long as it's done daily it's not noticeable. When my wife and I were dating, she didn't know I had a unibrow for the first few years. I didn't hide it by any other means than keeping it shaved. She didn't ask, I didn't tell. My point is, threading/waxing/plucking can cost money and/or be painful. Just use your razor, carefully, every day and you'll be fine.", "I'll add my voice. DO NOT shave. Pluck or wax. And just be reassured that after you get used to plucking it, and touching it up every few days, there will be no more feeling in those hairs. I can now pluck and it almost feels good. The pain level is so low it's more like scratching an itch, and just feels sorta stimulating. Once you do the initial pluck, the follow up will be much quicker, with just minor touch ups needed now and then.", "I would suggest using a nose hair trimmer. At times, because I don't get much facial hair, I use it to trim area between eyebrows/mustache even.", "I would recommend waxing then maintaining it by plucking the hairs if you don't want to get them done every couple weeks. ", "I see a lot of suggestions for plucking and waxing, which are fine, but if you are pressed for time burning it off with a lighter is the quickest and simplest option.", "I say buy one of those [cheapy flamingo razors](https://www.google.com/search?q=feather+razor&espv=2&biw=1366&bih=667&site=webhp&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=vb0NVcSAIIatogTKzYG4DA&ved=0CAcQ_AUoAg#tbm=isch&q=flamingo+razor) (also called styling razors if you want a massive fancy sweeney todd one) and shave them occasionally if you're too chicken to pluck.", "I have a really nice razor that is smooth enough so I start in the middle and pull and the first blade has touched my eyebrow then I do it in the other direction. Sometimes there's one or two I missed so I pull down from the middle.\nThis takes me 1-2 min every couple of days but unless you're committed to this I wouldn't recommend it", "I bought a trimmer with a nose and ear attachment. Its thin enough to take care of the spot between my eyebrows.", "Get wax strips and cut them into the size you need. carefully apply, then rip. \n\nNow you won't have to shave every week.\n\nIf it's slightly uneven, pluck where necessary.\n\nThis is the quickest, saves you the most time, and will prevent you from having unsightly unistubble.", "Get it waxed when you get your hair cut. Almost any salon will do this. Not positive about supercuts or the cheesy sport clip places tho. ", "Get an electric shaver, one with the curved foil (not one with the radial foils) you can then use the shaver to divide the unibrow... Like moses", "Electrolysis is painful but w/o question the way to go IMO.\n\nDepending on the thickness of your eyebrow(s) you can, in ~12 30 to 60-minute sessions, never have to think about your unibrow again. Agreeing to go through with this was possibly the best hygiene decision I have ever made.", "Electrolysis is fairly inexpensive ($20 per session or so) and did a great job for me. I went about 10 times total for 15 minute sessions. I still do maintenance plucks but they are greatly reduced and easy to manage. Compared to my former daily routine of fighting with my unibrow i'm living the dream. \n\nYou will need to let it grow a bit before your first session, and you will leave looking red and puffy. I got pimples there the first few times I did it as well. You every 2-4 weeks to get the full cycle of hairs. The place I went to was right across the street from my office, so I just scheduled for right after work.\n", "Absolutely just do it yourself. The middle of your eyebrows is so straight forward dude, you couldn't fuck it up. Measure the space, cut out a square of pre waxed tape, lay it on, pull it off. Voila. Get the strays with tweezers.\n\nDon't fucking shave it. Bad idea.", "Try using a handheld razor with a trimming blade, one full swipe down the middle rest trimmer to tidy up. Way cheaper than waxing.", "Learn to enjoy who you are and how you look.\nNOT what Madison avenue is paid to tell you what you should look like.\n", "I am a guy in the same boat as you. I'm hairy as fuck. I also have a unibrow. \n\nUse a razor. Use a single blade if you have to. I use my Schick Quatro, and it isn't amateur hour. It works perfectly. \n\nIf you have skin issues, maybe this wouldn't be for you. I'm 34 and it has worked well for me so far, no complaints, and I can be a vain guy sometimes.\n\nKeep using the razor, and try a single blade if your regular one isn't cutting it. You can do it. I did and do.", "Don't shave it! When it starts to grow back it will look like there is thicker hair growing. If you use a tweezer instead a completely new hair will grow out wich will not be as visible! So start to pick your eyebrows instead ", "DON'T shave your eyebrows, they will only grow thicker and in full force. I'm a guy with nice eyebrows and I go to a shop to get them threaded and cleaned up. If it's just the middle you want done, just pluck them. It's not that bad and doesn't take long" ]	[ 269, 17, 6, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0, 0, -2 ]	safe
[ "How to not be a choke? Throughout life I've been a shy introverted kid. I'm 23 now, still a bit shy but I've come a long way. I have goals of being the best soccer player I could possibly be, I've trained hard everyday and improved a lot but the main problem for me is confidence, especially when I allow people to get into my head. Trash talk is everywhere in competitive sports, and I noticed that the more confident athletes do it , I can be having a good game and when an opposing player starts trash talking my game will go downhill. I know this isnt a subreddit about sports or soccer, but just in general, how can I not choke under pressure, and not allow people to get into my head, not just in soccer, but outside of the sport as well.", "How to not be a choke? Throughout life I've been a shy introverted kid. I'm 23 now, still a bit shy but I've come a long way. I have goals of being the best soccer player I could possibly be, I've trained hard everyday and improved a lot but the main problem for me is confidence, especially when I allow people to get into my head. Trash talk is everywhere in competitive sports, and I noticed that the more confident athletes do it , I can be having a good game and when an opposing player starts trash talking my game will go downhill. I know this isnt a subreddit about sports or soccer, but just in general, how can I not choke under pressure, and not allow people to get into my head, not just in soccer, but outside of the sport as well." ]	[ "Part of the problem is you put value in strangers words. To me I don't care what they say. Only my immediate family and boss have value to what they say to/about me because it can impact my life. Strangers in sports from other team, wtf do they know. Their opinion of you saying you suck, big deal. Now if Pele said you suck, then just go home. \nAs for pressure, that's something you do to yourself. I have no solution for that, except if you know you truly are doing your best then that's good enough. Imagine playing against Pele in his prime. You know you could not beat him right? So there would be no pressure about choking right? Why would you feel pressure playing against some one who is just as good as you? What's the difference? The difference is the pressure you put on yourself.", "> Trash talk is everywhere in competitive sports\n\nThen you will stand out if you don't get involved but take the advice of Thumper: \"If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all.\" Over a period of time, this habit will elevate you to a status you will never achieve by playing well.\n\n2. Go travelling. Do not plan your trip, but get a backpack and find your way as you go. \n\n3. Get out of your comfort zone in any way you can. Take on challenges that don't fit your current self-perception." ]	[ 4, 3 ]	safe
[ "how do I ''invest in myself''? I have heard this saying quite a lot. That you should ''invest yourself'' and ''get to know yourself better''.\n\nThere is a video of a motivational speaker Eric Thomas who said this, and also said ''You know other people more than you know yourself''.\n\nAfter hearing these lines I've become more fascinated by it. How exactly do I 'invest in myself'? How do I 'get to know myself' better?\n\nPerhaps it's just a B.S line made to sound good, but I don't know.", "how do I ''invest in myself''? I have heard this saying quite a lot. That you should ''invest yourself'' and ''get to know yourself better''.\n\nThere is a video of a motivational speaker Eric Thomas who said this, and also said ''You know other people more than you know yourself''.\n\nAfter hearing these lines I've become more fascinated by it. How exactly do I 'invest in myself'? How do I 'get to know myself' better?\n\nPerhaps it's just a B.S line made to sound good, but I don't know.", "how do I ''invest in myself''? I have heard this saying quite a lot. That you should ''invest yourself'' and ''get to know yourself better''.\n\nThere is a video of a motivational speaker Eric Thomas who said this, and also said ''You know other people more than you know yourself''.\n\nAfter hearing these lines I've become more fascinated by it. How exactly do I 'invest in myself'? How do I 'get to know myself' better?\n\nPerhaps it's just a B.S line made to sound good, but I don't know." ]	[ "Have a curious mindset. Be open to new ideas. Become a lifelong student of self improvement. Explore.", "Do things that benefit you as a whole. Kinda like bettering yourself, learn a new skill/hobby, pick up a book, try new things and learn as much as you can. All that good stuff", ">Perhaps it's just a B.S line made to sound good, but I don't know.\n\nIt might be. But I think it's also got some truth to it. We can't always see the proverbial forest for the trees. We might have some behaviors, quirks, and bad habits that get in our way, even tho' we don't really notice them. If you can get help in spotting them (and stopping them) you might be able to free up more skill points for future use. (yeah, gaming metaphor, I went there)" ]	[ 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Waking up early w/o alarms. Have been trying to get up early (6-6:30) and always have multiple alarms on my phone max volume but I somehow always sleep through it? I always go to bed 10ish.", "Waking up early w/o alarms. Have been trying to get up early (6-6:30) and always have multiple alarms on my phone max volume but I somehow always sleep through it? I always go to bed 10ish.", "Waking up early w/o alarms. Have been trying to get up early (6-6:30) and always have multiple alarms on my phone max volume but I somehow always sleep through it? I always go to bed 10ish.", "Waking up early w/o alarms. Have been trying to get up early (6-6:30) and always have multiple alarms on my phone max volume but I somehow always sleep through it? I always go to bed 10ish.", "Waking up early w/o alarms. Have been trying to get up early (6-6:30) and always have multiple alarms on my phone max volume but I somehow always sleep through it? I always go to bed 10ish.", "Waking up early w/o alarms. Have been trying to get up early (6-6:30) and always have multiple alarms on my phone max volume but I somehow always sleep through it? I always go to bed 10ish.", "Waking up early w/o alarms. Have been trying to get up early (6-6:30) and always have multiple alarms on my phone max volume but I somehow always sleep through it? I always go to bed 10ish.", "Waking up early w/o alarms. Have been trying to get up early (6-6:30) and always have multiple alarms on my phone max volume but I somehow always sleep through it? I always go to bed 10ish.", "Waking up early w/o alarms. Have been trying to get up early (6-6:30) and always have multiple alarms on my phone max volume but I somehow always sleep through it? I always go to bed 10ish.", "Waking up early w/o alarms. Have been trying to get up early (6-6:30) and always have multiple alarms on my phone max volume but I somehow always sleep through it? I always go to bed 10ish.", "Waking up early w/o alarms. Have been trying to get up early (6-6:30) and always have multiple alarms on my phone max volume but I somehow always sleep through it? I always go to bed 10ish." ]	[ "Are you going to bed at 10, meaning lights out and devices put away? Or are you in the bedroom at 10, but not really going sleep until after midnight?", "If you sleep by a window, leave the curtains open when you sleep. The sun will wake you up.\n\n(this doesn't work if you live in a place where it's dark all year round). ", "As far as waking up on your own your going to have to \"train\" your circadian rhythm, that takes time. I wake between 5:00am and 5:15am with no alarm. I have a back-up set for 6am just in case.\n\nIn your case if you can't wake up you can't adjust your circadian rhythm.\n\nTake a look at this line of alarm clocks, super loud plus it shakes the bed. You can at least be assured you will get up at that time even if it's not on your own\n\n[SonicAlert](http://www.sonicalert.com/Alarm-Clocks-s/1819.htm)\n\nYou can get them much cheaper at Amazon or Walmart.", "I use to be the same,, over a years time i was down to one alarm. When i know there is one alarm or sometimes 2,,, im inclined to get up because i know what happens if im late to work, my mortgage wont get paid", "I did this every night when I was waking up early for my workouts - I used to look in the mirror and tell myself that I am going to wake up at 5:15 AM and bang. I used to be wide awake by 5:10.", "Thankyou for everything guys.\nI tried the mirror thing and placing my phone across the room. Both helped alot 😎", "I know this is an alarm but it sounds like it may still help. I currently use the app Sleep Cycle on my iPhone. I now wake up an hour to two hours before I used to. The app wakes you up in between sleep phases (not sure what they are called) and it has really worked well for me. Going to sleep earlier will help too :)\n\nHope I helped", "I have an alarm clock that wakes me up with light. It starts slowly with a dim reddish light and then gradually brightens til it's like daylight. Works great, much nicer way to wake up than being shocked by a loud alarm.", "Habit. I make a habit of getting up early and getting food. It will take time but you really have to train yourself to do it. I am lucky enough that I just naturally wake up early.", "For me setting the alarm every night manually helps. It makes me consciously aware of the time when I go to sleep and I always end up waking up ~10 minutes before it goes off so there is not annoying ringing even if the times aren't consistent :)", "Back in the day i used to bang my head on the pillow for the hour i needed to wake up, while also imagining an alarm clock going off at the time needed and saying '6 o' clock tick tock'. Now my brain is awake at 5 everyday while my body is preparing for the moment I have to get out of bed " ]	[ 8, 7, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ " So I'll be forcefully going to a party, for someone that I don't know and thus, give zero fucks about, and I know I'll have a shitty time since I am very non-social.", " So I'll be forcefully going to a party, for someone that I don't know and thus, give zero fucks about, and I know I'll have a shitty time since I am very non-social.", " So I'll be forcefully going to a party, for someone that I don't know and thus, give zero fucks about, and I know I'll have a shitty time since I am very non-social." ]	[ "Ask questions.\n\nStart with a one-on-one. If somebody asks you a question, answer, and then ask them the same thing. \"What do you do for work?\" \"I'm a prostitute. How about you?\"\n\nIf it's not a question that can be asked back, pretend to be interested in any random detail about something they told you and drill them on it, like an interview. \"What did you eat for breakfast?\" \"Just cereal.\" \"That's a classic. Which kind? What's your favorite? This reminds me of a Seinfeld episode.\"\n\nIf it doesn't seem to be working, show mock-interest. Be curious about the uninteresting. \"You skipped breakfast?! It's the most important meal of the day. Are you a barbarian?\"\n\nCompete with yourself to see how far and in depth you can go with these \"interviews.\" It's not a bad skill anyway. You can probably think of a few dozen, good, generic questions for anybody beforehand. Always have a food or drink to fidget with and punctuate pauses. \"So what do you do for fun?\" \"Um . . . [sip-sip-think-think] . . . collect stamps [damn] . . . I mean, skateboard off ramps.\"\n\nIf you really can't think of anything, ask for advice on something. \"So, I'm thinking about bleaching my asshole. Know anything about that?\" \"I've never bleached anything but my clothing.\" \"Well, what brand do you use? . . . Oh, why is that?\"", "Wear something that will automatically have people asking questions, like a tinfoil hat or a shirt that says \"I'm not gay, but 5 bucks is 5 bucks\"", "\"And I know I'll have a shitty time since I'm very anti-social\"\n\nSheesh, a little more context would help. If it's like a family thing then I understand. But if it's your friend that's forcing you to go and most of the people there are your age, then I would try and at least make a friend or two. " ]	[ 12, 3, -2 ]	safe
[ "How to improve focus on a really big and tedious task. Bonus points if you've got tips on how to segment your time with breaks/sections for optimal focus during the working bits.\n\nSuper bonus points if you can recommend how to not get distracted when you have to gather information from many sources and various sources remind you of other things you need to do. ", "How to improve focus on a really big and tedious task. Bonus points if you've got tips on how to segment your time with breaks/sections for optimal focus during the working bits.\n\nSuper bonus points if you can recommend how to not get distracted when you have to gather information from many sources and various sources remind you of other things you need to do. ", "How to improve focus on a really big and tedious task. Bonus points if you've got tips on how to segment your time with breaks/sections for optimal focus during the working bits.\n\nSuper bonus points if you can recommend how to not get distracted when you have to gather information from many sources and various sources remind you of other things you need to do. " ]	[ "The Pomodoro technique: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pomodoro_Technique\n\nI used to read everything without taking a break, but ended up not even retaining half the information. I now use Pomodoro, and it works surprisingly well. Personally, I read for 30 minutes, and then take a 5-10 minute break if I'm not in a time-crunch.", "Make it 1st thing in the morning, block out your calendar for that day and close your email, start small, pace yourself, have patience with yourself and get to it.", "I like to think that thinking takes as much energy as physical labor. Don't use energy to think when you can use it on being productive. Or else your thoughts will just wear you out and you'll be a little beep." ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "easily get rid of stains on white clothing I work in a resteraunt and have to wear white, so naturally my shirts get stained. I am not one to usually wear white so I have no idea how to remove stains unless its putting bleach in the wash lol", "easily get rid of stains on white clothing I work in a resteraunt and have to wear white, so naturally my shirts get stained. I am not one to usually wear white so I have no idea how to remove stains unless its putting bleach in the wash lol", "easily get rid of stains on white clothing I work in a resteraunt and have to wear white, so naturally my shirts get stained. I am not one to usually wear white so I have no idea how to remove stains unless its putting bleach in the wash lol", "easily get rid of stains on white clothing I work in a resteraunt and have to wear white, so naturally my shirts get stained. I am not one to usually wear white so I have no idea how to remove stains unless its putting bleach in the wash lol" ]	[ "i've had a lot of success treating stains with hydrogen peroxide and/or baking soda before washing the clothes. ", "You can always do a little spot bleaching before you take off from work for the day too: get a white rag, dampen it, apply a small amount of bleach to the rag (hold it firmly over the bleach jug and tilt it over to soak on a small amount), spot-clean the stain. You'll want to rinse the shit out of it before putting it in the wash if you're running a \"light\" instead of \"white\" load.", "I worked at a Johnny Rockets and wore a white apron, white shirt and light tan pants. I got ketchup, chocolate, grease and everything in between on there, but there was nothing that washing in warm water and pre-treating with [Resolve](http://www.powerofresolve.com/laundry2.php) {formerly Spray n' Wash} wouldn't get out. The secret is the pre-treating, don't just expect the soap in the wash to do the work.", "A soak in oxyclean works really well for most stains (I use PBW, which is a brewery cleaner but largely identical, just unscented)." ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop biting my nails. Please help me, I don't WANT to bite my nails, it happens subconsciously. Or when I have started biting, I just want to \"clean\" the rest up. And then it gets fucked up. ", "How to stop biting my nails. Please help me, I don't WANT to bite my nails, it happens subconsciously. Or when I have started biting, I just want to \"clean\" the rest up. And then it gets fucked up. ", "How to stop biting my nails. Please help me, I don't WANT to bite my nails, it happens subconsciously. Or when I have started biting, I just want to \"clean\" the rest up. And then it gets fucked up. ", "How to stop biting my nails. Please help me, I don't WANT to bite my nails, it happens subconsciously. Or when I have started biting, I just want to \"clean\" the rest up. And then it gets fucked up. ", "How to stop biting my nails. Please help me, I don't WANT to bite my nails, it happens subconsciously. Or when I have started biting, I just want to \"clean\" the rest up. And then it gets fucked up. " ]	[ "Paint them with clear nail polish after you trim them. It will remind you every time you go to bite them absentmindedly", "As someone who bites nails + dermatophagia to a moderate/severe extreme, it takes a lot of mental strength to consciously stop, let alone when you're not aware. I personally said a year ago, \"I don't want my (three year old) foster second cousin to see this habit at a young age and copy me, ending up with the same habit.\" It's worked for the nail biting, and I have made a whole year without biting my nails. The dermatophagia is 90% over, but I sometimes relapse a little on my thumbs.\n\nMy cure ideas: Disgusting things on your nails, like hand sanitizer, for me nail polish remover does it (I use the purple stuff that promises to \"strengthen\" your nails, it's awful) or even the stuff they sell for it. Whatever you hate to taste that you can put on your nails, it might help.\nFor me, it was an OCD/anxiety thing. Fidgety things, taking better care of your nails, and eliminating some of the stress in your life will help if not with the nails, then with your life in general.\n\nIt takes a lot of effort and perseverance to get over it, but if you manage it, you'll be a lot happier and self-confident! Good luck!\n\nTL;DR- Mentally assert yourself to quit, get something bitter on your nails like polish remover, eliminate some of stress/conflict/awful people from your life, don't give up, good luck!", "Take a selfie or short video (or have someone else take it) of you while you're going to town on your fingers.\n\nNo pretty.", "I've had the same problem, for me it was just me wanting to fidget. I solved it by trimming my nails every night (when i did it most) and slowly smoothed into cleaning my nails when nervous. Keeping toothpicks on me and putting one in my mouth when i'm nervous also helps. Hope one of our answers works out for you!\n", "I used to have this stuff which you dipped your fingers Into that have them the worst, bitter taste so whenever I went to bite one it tasted like ass and helped. Rolled it under the sofa because it pissed me off too much though lmao, I'll see if I can find it online.\n\nNot the same stuff, but this works too https://www.amazon.com/Mavala-Stop-Biting-Sucking-0-3-Fluid/dp/B0000YUXI0" ]	[ 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to make pants that are too big fit better? I have lost a little weight and my pants are wide on me now. Obviously I can cinch my belt tighter, but that inevitably leads to a saggy area, often in the crotch. Any LPTs for overcoming this issue until I buy new pants?", "How to make pants that are too big fit better? I have lost a little weight and my pants are wide on me now. Obviously I can cinch my belt tighter, but that inevitably leads to a saggy area, often in the crotch. Any LPTs for overcoming this issue until I buy new pants?", "How to make pants that are too big fit better? I have lost a little weight and my pants are wide on me now. Obviously I can cinch my belt tighter, but that inevitably leads to a saggy area, often in the crotch. Any LPTs for overcoming this issue until I buy new pants?", "How to make pants that are too big fit better? I have lost a little weight and my pants are wide on me now. Obviously I can cinch my belt tighter, but that inevitably leads to a saggy area, often in the crotch. Any LPTs for overcoming this issue until I buy new pants?" ]	[ "You could get the pants tailored, but it will be quicker, easier, and almost as cheap to just go out and buy a new pair of pants.\n", "If they were expensive pants worth keeping, get them altered by a tailor. It's not that expensive compared to (nice) new pants. \n\nThe DIY route rarely works well on pants if you're not already good at sewing, and if you were, you wouldn't be asking this.", "Learn how to sew. If you have a machine, it's really easy- just pin at the sides and sew up, pretty much.", "I'm in the same boat too. I hate the transitional period. I may have to just slowly start buying a new wardrobe. I'm kind of at a point where I'll probably not lose much more, so I may just do it one piece at a time. That way if I still keep losing more, only some pieces will be slightly big. \n\nI've also been checking out r/frugalmalefashion and r/malefashionadvice for cheaper + good quality brands." ]	[ 3, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to fall back asleep? I naturally wake up at basically the same time every day (7:00-7:30 am). When I wake up, I am almost always immediately, fully awake—it's like an \"on\" switch gets flipped. If I've had a full night's sleep, this is great; I can get up and start my day feeling alert and refreshed. But it's absolutely horrible if I've gone to bed much later than usual. If I go to bed at, say, 3:00 am, I will still wake up between 7:00 and 7:30 and be mentally wide awake even though I am physically still very tired. I have no trouble falling asleep at night or falling back asleep if I wake up well before my natural wake-up time, but once that natural wake-up time hits, I'm mentally awake whether I want to be or not.\n\nSo how do I either a) get myself to sleep past my normal wake-up time or b) get myself to fall back asleep quickly if I've woken up but still need more sleep?", "How to fall back asleep? I naturally wake up at basically the same time every day (7:00-7:30 am). When I wake up, I am almost always immediately, fully awake—it's like an \"on\" switch gets flipped. If I've had a full night's sleep, this is great; I can get up and start my day feeling alert and refreshed. But it's absolutely horrible if I've gone to bed much later than usual. If I go to bed at, say, 3:00 am, I will still wake up between 7:00 and 7:30 and be mentally wide awake even though I am physically still very tired. I have no trouble falling asleep at night or falling back asleep if I wake up well before my natural wake-up time, but once that natural wake-up time hits, I'm mentally awake whether I want to be or not.\n\nSo how do I either a) get myself to sleep past my normal wake-up time or b) get myself to fall back asleep quickly if I've woken up but still need more sleep?" ]	[ "You need to relax to sleep. \n\nYou also need to relax to pee.\n\nTry to pee out of places you can't and see if they don't just relax.", "Sounds like a tough issue considering it's hard to manipulate your own circadian rhythm. When I'm wired but know my body needs sleep, I just do a bit of deep breathing m" ]	[ 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me.", "How to tactfully reject a compliment that is inaccurate or otherwise hurtful. Due to circumstances outside of my control, I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight recently. When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. I want to look like I did before.\n\nHow can I fend off these \"compliments\" without being rude or unleashing a rant unfitting of someone who was just trying to be kind? Is it something I just have to keep letting slide?\n\nBesides the annoyance, I also have food issues in the past. I'm worried how the compliments might affect my mentality when I attempt to regain weight. I'm worried if I keep accepting the attention, I'll become attached and lose my motivation to gain even if I know it's what is healthiest for me." ]	[ "Humor can work. Yes thank you, it's amazing what insert nonsense official sounding plague here Hopefully I'm no longer contagious, and get back to my old self soon! ", "I can’t speak for others but when I comment on someone looking “good”, I usually mean something beyond aesthetics or looks. It’s like the opposite of saying that someone looks “tired”. I see it more as a positive affirmation as thinness is not my only definition of looking “good”", "I have also been dealing with something similar. I lost a decent amount of weight without trying because of some other issues. People constantly comment about how good I look and it always presses me to want to stay at the new lower weight which I don’t think Is necessarily healthy. Unfortunately I never really say anything about how I don’t want the compliment, I’ve never been that type of person and always just accept it or laugh a little bit in hopes that the compliment will get brushed away. If I were brave enough to reject the compliments, I would say something along the lines of “thank you but but I was happy and healthy before and was happy with the way I looked then.” ", "I dealt with something kinda similar, I lost a lot of weight due to an eating disorder and people praised me a lot for it and saying when I gained weight back I could lose it ‘just like before’.\nAnyway maybe just emphasise that you think you look unhealthy or that you are not feeling well. Or put it in different terms, ‘I feel weak, can’t wait until I am strong again’. Idk make it less about aesthetic and more about function.", "This has happened to me a lot because of different health conditions, medication changes, being able to be more or less active, etc.\nI lost a lot of weight 2 years ago because I couldn't retain any food. My mum said \"oh look, you look so good with all that weight lost! Just got to keep it off now\". It was awful and totally reinforced my already poor body image, and I was pretty snappy with her.\nI have different answers based on who asks:\n\"Thanks, I'm actually starting to feel stronger now that I'm starting to finally put a bit of weight on again after being ill!\"\n\"Yeap, I have Crohn's to thank for that!\"\n\"My doctor's actually really hoping I'll put some more weight on because that would mean the medication is working\"\n\"I can't wait to be able to enjoy my food more!\"\n\"It's a shame none of my clothes fit anymore, being chronically ill is expensive!\"\n\"I was actually fine with the weight I was at before, especially because I felt a lot stronger then\"\n\nI try and make it light and easy when possible. When I get follow-up questions, I try and mention something about having been happy with my weight before. Why is weight loss always a celebration? I was at a perfectly healthy weight before.\n\nSending lots of solidarity, and I hope your health stabilises as much as possible soon 💕 ", "Same thank you and move on with your day. \n\nThere was a quote in a motivational video I watched, It when something like: We don’t always have to agree with others, sometimes we say we do or act like we do as it is often the quickest way to move on with our day. \n\n", "If it's someone you are casual with, just a thank you and move on with your day. They dont need to know all about your life. If it's a friend tell them how you feel about it. I think with your understanding that your weight loss isn't healthy, you are showing the right frame of mind to avoid food issue triggers in the future. ", "How you respond will influence how much detail you will need to share. \n\nIf you're willing to go I to a bit of detail, something like \"I wish I could be proud of my weight loss, but the truth is, I've been sick\" would be a good response, but you will then be expected to go into more detail about your illness. \n\nIf it's someone you don't know that well, it might be better to shrug it off.", "“Thanks, but it’s not on purpose, I’ve been sick (or going through something).” Then try to be ready with a pivot. \n\nIf they don’t catch the pivot and continue to talk ask about it more then you’re comfortable with, try “the truth is, I don’t really want to go into it, but thanks for the encouragement (or thanks for the compliment)”. \n\nYou could thank them for something else , but my suspicion is that when people are saying the stuff you mentioned, my assumption is that they’re trying (and failing) to be encouraging or complimentary. ", "Maybe you can head of the compliments by slightly mentioning a health issue before the compliment can be given.\n\n\"Hey Kermit2014, how are you?\"\n\n\n\"I've been dealing with some health issues but I'm doing better now. Hopefully I can get some weight back on. How have you been?\"", "I went through something similar. I found it best to cherish the thought behind the compliment, but correct the mis-understanding. I had decided to be open about my illness, and it does take a while for this information to propagate around your friends and family. Something along the lines of (with smile) \"Thanks for the thought. I'm actually down some weight due to X, but hopefully I'll be back healthy soon\"", "I understand I got the same comments when I lost a bunch of weight. I'm glad I never commented to a casual acquaintance about her dramatic weight loss. Before mine, it never would have occurred to me that it might not have been intentional. Good luck.", "I actually witnessed a couple of folks go through massive weight loss due to ill health. \n \nNowadays (if I even notice someone's weight loss, or feel inappropriate enough to ask about it) I ask if the weight loss is a good thing. Same with moving, divorce, new jobs... \n \n[This assumption that all weight loss is good has to end.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/amxsdn/what_is_the_worst_thing_that_is_romanticized/efpderl?utm_source=reddit-android)", "maybe you could try to agree then disagree. \nso you can explain what you are going through and that you are trying to better yourself. ", "Somewhat similarly, I needed to lose a lot of weight and worked really hard to lose almost 100 lbs. Then people would look at me and say, \"You've lost so much weight! Are you sick or something?\" That was annoying too -- I had worked hard to feel and look better, and people thought I was sick. People really should just keep these kinds of comments to themselves.", "I'm so sorry. I hope you are feeling better soon. I hate that people feel the need to comment on these things at all. \n\nTo be honest, I would say \"thanks, but I don't feel very good\" if you feel comfortable. You do not owe anyone an explanation, but it may cause them to reconsider saying things like that. That was my go to when I got deathly thin about 4 years ago. When I was at my older sister's wedding, people were very concerned and saying \"oh my god Katie, you're so skinny. I am worried about you\" and my brother's baby mama (awful person who I haven't spoken to in years now) pipes up \"wow I wish people would say that about me\" I was like wow, what a vapid thing to say. I couldn't eat because my OCD was so bad, and I was really unwell and crying nonstop and having dizzy spells. ", "> When people see me, their number one comment is how \"good\" I look. I don't look good. I look sick. \n\nI think you can keep in mind that you can look good and be sick. I have no idea how you look now or how you looked before but it's possible you want to look more like the original, even if you look better now, simply because you associate your current look with being sick and your former look with being healthy.\n\n\n\nThe best thing as another poster /u/witqueen pointed out is probably the humor route.\n\n", "Did you know that you are responsible for your feelings? I'm not saying you should strive to be an unfeeling robot, or that other people can't be ignorant or unkind, just pointing out this empirical fact. You may scoff, but when you choose to take responsibility for your feelings instead of blaming others, it's not a burden, it's freeing and empowering. \n\nLook at how you are worrying about \"someone else is going to make me do this and feel that and then this and that will happen.\" It never ends, you're not going to find closure or resolution approaching it that way. Let go of the perceived need to control other people and social situations. Find that zen-like place inside of you that transcends worldly concerns and thought, practice going there, and it'll teach you how to respond to any situation, how to peacefully live in the present moment instead of worrying about what someone said in the past or future.\n\ntl;dr: When people make comments like that, they don't really put much thought into it, so why should you put more thought into their comment than they did? Focus on their expression of positive energy, say \"thank you\", maybe make a joke and move on.\n" ]	[ 44, 11, 8, 8, 6, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "What are the important things to look for when shopping for your first ever car? Obviously it will also be used and very cheap, haha ", "What are the important things to look for when shopping for your first ever car? Obviously it will also be used and very cheap, haha ", "What are the important things to look for when shopping for your first ever car? Obviously it will also be used and very cheap, haha " ]	[ "Make sure the horse is healthy... \n/s ;) \n \nGo on Carcomplaints.com after you've picked out a handful of interesting cars. \n \nLook at those cars and see if there's anything that screams lemon and then remove from list. \n(Exploding AC compressors, self-destructing camshafts, transmission meltdown, etc.) \n \nWarning, these cars are not to bought under any circumstances: \n2003 Honda Accord \n2005 Ford Taurus \n2005 Saturn Vue \n \nAll of them suffer from a serious design flaw that causes sudden and complete transmission failure. \n \nIf possible, get something electric/plug-in hybrid/prius etc. \n\n", "Good gas mileage, cheap parts, big enough for you to fit yourself and your luggage into comfortably, safety rating, make sure you’re happy with it, and make sure its in good shape before you buy it. Don’t buy a $9000 car and then have to drop $4500 into it to get it to pass inspection. I’ve had cars I’ve hated how they drove but they had enough space and parts were dirt cheap. I currently have a car that has decent MPG, has 4 doors, very safe, plenty of space in the rear seats but the smallest trunk I’ve ever had, but I love it. Parts are expensive but I knew that buying the car, and I can handle the extra cost. A car is an investment, not a one-time purchase. Good luck to you!", "Step 1: Go onto facebook\nStep 2: Open the group chat\nStep 3: What car should i buy>\nStep 4: Get the car that you think looks nice\n\nAlternative: Be rich and get a car for free" ]	[ 6, 2, -2 ]	safe
[ "How to Stop Yourself From Crying I have very strange emotions and when I'm yelled at or I let down others, I start to randomly tear up. Not sobbing or extreme crying, no whimpering, just tears in my eyes.\n\nHow do I reduce the amount of time that I cry? How can I stop myself from crying in the first place?", "How to Stop Yourself From Crying I have very strange emotions and when I'm yelled at or I let down others, I start to randomly tear up. Not sobbing or extreme crying, no whimpering, just tears in my eyes.\n\nHow do I reduce the amount of time that I cry? How can I stop myself from crying in the first place?", "How to Stop Yourself From Crying I have very strange emotions and when I'm yelled at or I let down others, I start to randomly tear up. Not sobbing or extreme crying, no whimpering, just tears in my eyes.\n\nHow do I reduce the amount of time that I cry? How can I stop myself from crying in the first place?", "How to Stop Yourself From Crying I have very strange emotions and when I'm yelled at or I let down others, I start to randomly tear up. Not sobbing or extreme crying, no whimpering, just tears in my eyes.\n\nHow do I reduce the amount of time that I cry? How can I stop myself from crying in the first place?", "How to Stop Yourself From Crying I have very strange emotions and when I'm yelled at or I let down others, I start to randomly tear up. Not sobbing or extreme crying, no whimpering, just tears in my eyes.\n\nHow do I reduce the amount of time that I cry? How can I stop myself from crying in the first place?", "How to Stop Yourself From Crying I have very strange emotions and when I'm yelled at or I let down others, I start to randomly tear up. Not sobbing or extreme crying, no whimpering, just tears in my eyes.\n\nHow do I reduce the amount of time that I cry? How can I stop myself from crying in the first place?", "How to Stop Yourself From Crying I have very strange emotions and when I'm yelled at or I let down others, I start to randomly tear up. Not sobbing or extreme crying, no whimpering, just tears in my eyes.\n\nHow do I reduce the amount of time that I cry? How can I stop myself from crying in the first place?", "How to Stop Yourself From Crying I have very strange emotions and when I'm yelled at or I let down others, I start to randomly tear up. Not sobbing or extreme crying, no whimpering, just tears in my eyes.\n\nHow do I reduce the amount of time that I cry? How can I stop myself from crying in the first place?" ]	[ "It always helps me to think of something funny or watch something funny. If that doesn't work, then try what [This](http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Yourself-from-Crying) article says. \n", "I'd like to know how to stop blushing. I thought I'd outgrow it, but I still blush when someone teases me, or sometimes when I talk to a terribly cute person. I call the latter, \"cute boy syndrome.\" ", "I have this same problem. My therapist taught me a technique called mindfulness (or something like that). You go through your five senses and list in your head what you are perceiving. For example, I would first use my sense of sight and list all the things I am seeing: white walls, 2 tan couches, a cream colored carpet, a Tron poster, and I could go on the list all the items on the table and so on. Then you move onto another sense, such as touch: fuzzy blanket on my legs feels warm, shirt, glasses. For hearing: air conditioner running, floorboards creaking, if you are around people you can list out the individual people you hear talking. This process can take a couple minutes if you're going into a lot of detail about the different things you're sensing. When you're doing this, you have to really think and it distracts you from what is making you upset. \n\n\nSometimes going through my five senses can be too taxing so I will do a different technique where I count all the items of something. For example, I could count all the light bulbs in the room, number of people, number of windows, number of floor or ceiling tiles and so forth. I probably use this technique more than the other and I actually use this one more than the one my therapist taught me. I hope this works for you!", "One night, a friend started telling me about his family problems and broke down sobbing. I took him outside and sat on the lawn and taught him yogic breathing. He was fine in just a few minutes. Perhaps you'd be interested in learning to breath like a yogin!", "I am a super emotional person, but sometimes I can stop myself from crying by thinking of something else. Usually, I like to think of the colors of the rainbow and the order they are in. And then I think about the different shades. You should try to find something to think about that redirects your brain so you won't focus on crying. This might help, it may not, but it is worth a shot. ", "From Ender's Game: Start doubling numbers in your head: 2,4,8,16, all the way up to the big ones. It works.", "A simple but highly effective technique is to have a saying or lyric prepared and repeat it over and over in your mind.\n\nI'm not sure why it works, but it does. I've used this with 100% success. \n\nMy go to is a line from a Stephen King novel \"He thrusts his fists against the post but still insists he sees the ghost\".\n\nBut there's no reason why it wouldn't work with \"The quick brown fox jumped over the lazy dog\" or something of a similar length and easily remembered. ", "Well normally when I cry it'll be because of sadness. When that happens I think of friends/individuals who have it so much worse than I. To interpret your problems in comparison to theirs makes me feel stupid and a fool to shed tears.\n\nFor a situation like yours, it seems like a defeatist attitude that you believe you won't be able to overcome your disappointing/failing others. Maybe you can tear immediately as it has become routine. But don't linger on it, shake it off and immediately come up with a plan to solve this issue! With enough success you won't be fazed by \"disappointing\" others (failure comes to all), but then you'll take it as a challenge; one that'll be immensely gratifying to accomplish." ]	[ 9, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Cheaper Medication My fiance has severe anxiety and has been recommended to take Vyvanse. Unfortunately the prescription she needs would be around $400 a month even with her insurance, which is just not something we can afford. Is there a legitimate source of cheaper medications?", "Cheaper Medication My fiance has severe anxiety and has been recommended to take Vyvanse. Unfortunately the prescription she needs would be around $400 a month even with her insurance, which is just not something we can afford. Is there a legitimate source of cheaper medications?", "Cheaper Medication My fiance has severe anxiety and has been recommended to take Vyvanse. Unfortunately the prescription she needs would be around $400 a month even with her insurance, which is just not something we can afford. Is there a legitimate source of cheaper medications?", "Cheaper Medication My fiance has severe anxiety and has been recommended to take Vyvanse. Unfortunately the prescription she needs would be around $400 a month even with her insurance, which is just not something we can afford. Is there a legitimate source of cheaper medications?", "Cheaper Medication My fiance has severe anxiety and has been recommended to take Vyvanse. Unfortunately the prescription she needs would be around $400 a month even with her insurance, which is just not something we can afford. Is there a legitimate source of cheaper medications?", "Cheaper Medication My fiance has severe anxiety and has been recommended to take Vyvanse. Unfortunately the prescription she needs would be around $400 a month even with her insurance, which is just not something we can afford. Is there a legitimate source of cheaper medications?", "Cheaper Medication My fiance has severe anxiety and has been recommended to take Vyvanse. Unfortunately the prescription she needs would be around $400 a month even with her insurance, which is just not something we can afford. Is there a legitimate source of cheaper medications?", "Cheaper Medication My fiance has severe anxiety and has been recommended to take Vyvanse. Unfortunately the prescription she needs would be around $400 a month even with her insurance, which is just not something we can afford. Is there a legitimate source of cheaper medications?" ]	[ "The first thing to do would be to consult the prescribing physician. Doctors understand people can't pay $400 out of pocket a month for a maintenance drug. There may be more affordable alternatives that they can prescribe.", "The drug called 'concerta' seems to be a generic version of Vyvanse. According to the drug price app Singlecare the price for COncerta is around 70 bucks.\n\nA trusted friend said when she had pricing difficulties, to contact the manufacter.\n\nAnd if you're in America, 211.org is something with resources that might help.", "There may be several, if you're in the US.\n\n1, try Costco. You don't need a card to use their pharmacy.\n2, there are a few discount cards: goodrx, wellrx, singlecare, optum perks\n3, RetailMeNot has a section for meds called RxSaver. \n\nIf all else fails, see if the dr can provide a sample to tide you over.\n\nGood luck!", "Call your insurance and ask if they can do a tier exception for that medication. Medications have different tiers and the higher ones are more expensive. If they can do a tear exception it will not be within a week or so, but then you may have to pay less money because it's in a lower tier.\n\nYou can also try good RX The only thing with good RX is that whatever you pay does not go towards your deductible. But it may be a whole lot cheaper but then again the money that you would pay towards it will not go towards your deductible.", "See if a wholesale club like Sam’s carries this. With the plus membership, I am able to get prescriptions for less than $2 without insurance.", "I applied for financial support through the pharmaceutical company, mine was $400 a month but they brought it down to ZERO.", "Google \"Vyvanse coupon.\" The manufacturer has a savings program. It might save you around $150 per month.", "Contact the drug company itself. The doctor might also know about this. Often times, they have coupons for you to use to reduce your copay. Try [this](https://www.vyvanse.com/coupon). A drug company is vested in giving you a small (to them) discount so they can have you on it and getting money from your insurance company. \n\nAlso try [this](https://unitedwayinc.org/resources/for-individuals/familywize/)\n\nI’ve done both (not for the this Rx but for another one) and it helped me tremendously) Familywize might be able to help. Worth checking out." ]	[ 6, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to trim facial hair without making a mess I have a beard. My beard needs trimming on a regular basis and that usually results in leaving clippings all around my bathroom sink. Most of them fall into the basin and I'm able to wash them down the drain, but there are always stragglers that end up on the outside, and no matter how much you try to clean, you always manage to find a few more little follicles hanging out.\n\nUntil recently, I'd had my own place and hadn't bothered too much with getting every single little hair cleaned up. But recently I've moved in with a (female) roommate and I'd like to do my part in keeping our bathroom clean. Is there a way to keep my beard trimmed without getting hair particles all over the place?", "How to trim facial hair without making a mess I have a beard. My beard needs trimming on a regular basis and that usually results in leaving clippings all around my bathroom sink. Most of them fall into the basin and I'm able to wash them down the drain, but there are always stragglers that end up on the outside, and no matter how much you try to clean, you always manage to find a few more little follicles hanging out.\n\nUntil recently, I'd had my own place and hadn't bothered too much with getting every single little hair cleaned up. But recently I've moved in with a (female) roommate and I'd like to do my part in keeping our bathroom clean. Is there a way to keep my beard trimmed without getting hair particles all over the place?", "How to trim facial hair without making a mess I have a beard. My beard needs trimming on a regular basis and that usually results in leaving clippings all around my bathroom sink. Most of them fall into the basin and I'm able to wash them down the drain, but there are always stragglers that end up on the outside, and no matter how much you try to clean, you always manage to find a few more little follicles hanging out.\n\nUntil recently, I'd had my own place and hadn't bothered too much with getting every single little hair cleaned up. But recently I've moved in with a (female) roommate and I'd like to do my part in keeping our bathroom clean. Is there a way to keep my beard trimmed without getting hair particles all over the place?", "How to trim facial hair without making a mess I have a beard. My beard needs trimming on a regular basis and that usually results in leaving clippings all around my bathroom sink. Most of them fall into the basin and I'm able to wash them down the drain, but there are always stragglers that end up on the outside, and no matter how much you try to clean, you always manage to find a few more little follicles hanging out.\n\nUntil recently, I'd had my own place and hadn't bothered too much with getting every single little hair cleaned up. But recently I've moved in with a (female) roommate and I'd like to do my part in keeping our bathroom clean. Is there a way to keep my beard trimmed without getting hair particles all over the place?", "How to trim facial hair without making a mess I have a beard. My beard needs trimming on a regular basis and that usually results in leaving clippings all around my bathroom sink. Most of them fall into the basin and I'm able to wash them down the drain, but there are always stragglers that end up on the outside, and no matter how much you try to clean, you always manage to find a few more little follicles hanging out.\n\nUntil recently, I'd had my own place and hadn't bothered too much with getting every single little hair cleaned up. But recently I've moved in with a (female) roommate and I'd like to do my part in keeping our bathroom clean. Is there a way to keep my beard trimmed without getting hair particles all over the place?", "How to trim facial hair without making a mess I have a beard. My beard needs trimming on a regular basis and that usually results in leaving clippings all around my bathroom sink. Most of them fall into the basin and I'm able to wash them down the drain, but there are always stragglers that end up on the outside, and no matter how much you try to clean, you always manage to find a few more little follicles hanging out.\n\nUntil recently, I'd had my own place and hadn't bothered too much with getting every single little hair cleaned up. But recently I've moved in with a (female) roommate and I'd like to do my part in keeping our bathroom clean. Is there a way to keep my beard trimmed without getting hair particles all over the place?", "How to trim facial hair without making a mess I have a beard. My beard needs trimming on a regular basis and that usually results in leaving clippings all around my bathroom sink. Most of them fall into the basin and I'm able to wash them down the drain, but there are always stragglers that end up on the outside, and no matter how much you try to clean, you always manage to find a few more little follicles hanging out.\n\nUntil recently, I'd had my own place and hadn't bothered too much with getting every single little hair cleaned up. But recently I've moved in with a (female) roommate and I'd like to do my part in keeping our bathroom clean. Is there a way to keep my beard trimmed without getting hair particles all over the place?", "How to trim facial hair without making a mess I have a beard. My beard needs trimming on a regular basis and that usually results in leaving clippings all around my bathroom sink. Most of them fall into the basin and I'm able to wash them down the drain, but there are always stragglers that end up on the outside, and no matter how much you try to clean, you always manage to find a few more little follicles hanging out.\n\nUntil recently, I'd had my own place and hadn't bothered too much with getting every single little hair cleaned up. But recently I've moved in with a (female) roommate and I'd like to do my part in keeping our bathroom clean. Is there a way to keep my beard trimmed without getting hair particles all over the place?", "How to trim facial hair without making a mess I have a beard. My beard needs trimming on a regular basis and that usually results in leaving clippings all around my bathroom sink. Most of them fall into the basin and I'm able to wash them down the drain, but there are always stragglers that end up on the outside, and no matter how much you try to clean, you always manage to find a few more little follicles hanging out.\n\nUntil recently, I'd had my own place and hadn't bothered too much with getting every single little hair cleaned up. But recently I've moved in with a (female) roommate and I'd like to do my part in keeping our bathroom clean. Is there a way to keep my beard trimmed without getting hair particles all over the place?" ]	[ "Yes. Trim in the bathtub. When you're done, turn on showerhead and wash hairs away. Get a mirror with suction cups, or use your vanity mirror if your bathroom is laid out in a way where that works. ", "I'm a female so no direct experience with this, however, I've had several male roommates and the ones who preferred to shave at the sink (with the mirror, as opposed to the shower which would also do the trick), the ones who mentioned putting a hand towel down over the counter (between your body and the sink, and also wrapping around the sides of the counter a little as well) before shaving were the ones that didn't leave hairs all over in the bathroom after shaving.\n\nI'm not sure if they used a new towel each time or not so that part is voodoo to me but I'd assume using a new towel would work best otherwise you might get hairs all over if you accidentally used the wrong side of it the next time, or didn't wrap it up well.\n\nKeep in mind, this is a hand towel, not a washcloth. That's the size in between a full bath towel and a little wash cloth square. I've heard of guys using a full bath towel to cover the ENTIRE counter but I think that would be a waste of towels and water/detergent, especially if you used a new one each time. But... try it out and see if this method works for you or not and adjust accordingly. I bet you could use two hand towels if there was still lots of beard trimmings around the edges of the towel.\n\nGood luck!", "The best way I found is to grab an old sheet of newspaper and let that catch your hairs. Shower also works I guess, but I hate the fact that I can't see my face and I usually miss spots.", "try wetting your beard, I trim my facial hair and it causes the hairs to fly everywhere. Now when i wet my face prior to shaving it usually just clings on to the shaver or sticks to my face and i just rinse them off. I don't know how well it will work with large beards. try it out!\n", "Put a cup towel over your sink and shave over that. Take it outside and fan it a bit when you're done. ", "I sit on the floor with a handheld mirror and just sweep the hairs up after I'm done trimming the face. Eliminates the problem of stragglers around the sink all together.", "I put paper towels in the sink covering the whole bowl. It will take longer to have the water drain out, but it'll help with the mess and it won't clog the drain. ", "Cover the sink with Press-n-Seal plastic wrap. You can \"seal\" it to the rim and it will stay in place. Carefully lift up to keep all the hair trimmings on it. ", "Best: Sit on your knees if the mirror height allows it. Face directly over the sink. Much more controllable." ]	[ 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to not get bored I work an incredibly menial job (checkout chick) and unless it is insanely busy at work I find myself constantly bored which makes time seem to go even slower. What can I do?", "How to not get bored I work an incredibly menial job (checkout chick) and unless it is insanely busy at work I find myself constantly bored which makes time seem to go even slower. What can I do?", "How to not get bored I work an incredibly menial job (checkout chick) and unless it is insanely busy at work I find myself constantly bored which makes time seem to go even slower. What can I do?", "How to not get bored I work an incredibly menial job (checkout chick) and unless it is insanely busy at work I find myself constantly bored which makes time seem to go even slower. What can I do?", "How to not get bored I work an incredibly menial job (checkout chick) and unless it is insanely busy at work I find myself constantly bored which makes time seem to go even slower. What can I do?" ]	[ "I had jobs like this. TBH, it will always be boring, but here's some things I did:\n\n1. Talk to the customers. I know, it's painful, but I read a study that said that we anticipate that interactions with strangers will be worse than they actually are. \n\n2. Talk to your co-workers. Not all of them, not all the time, but feeling like you're not alone will make you feel less isolated and less bored. Even just saying \"nice day today\" will help.\n\n3. Clean. The belt needs cleaning, the counter needs it, the floors, the garbage. \n\n4. Re-organize your drawer. Count the change. Roll or un-roll coins. \n\n5. Read manuals. Maybe you can work on a promotion?\n\n6. Listen to the music. Learn the words. Contemplate what Ke$sha really meant by those lyrics. Relate that phrase to someting you learned in English class.\n\n7. Reorganize something. \n\n8. Try not to look at the clock. See how long you can go without looking at it. \n\n9. Put flashcards in your pocket and study. Put a really tiny notebook in your pocket and write lists, poems, story ideas, essay outlines, letters, complaints.\n\n10. Watch people. Count how many times Uber Mom says \"you can't have that chocolate\" before she gives in. Try to figure out who among the staff is sleeping together. Try to catch a shoplifting. Decide if you feel like doing anything about it.\n\n11. Make a case for getting transferred to bakery. You have to get up at 4 am but at least you can ice cakes all morning and go home at 2pm.\n\n12. Go for a little walk around your station. Stretch your legs. Say it's for ergonomics and you're worried about blood clots. See how much yoga or ballet you can do in your cage.\n\n13. Memorize produce codes. \n\n14. Look at hte circular and decide what to make for dinner. Clip coupons. Make little coupon piles. Play coupon solitaire.\n\n15. Try to leave your station for any reason. Help a customer, reshops, cash drop, whatever.\n\n16. If the store is running any sort of customer loyalty program, or the Monopoly coupon game, figure out what it would take for you to cash out big.\n\n17. Be Dwight Shrute in your mind for a day. Make it a weekly event.\n\n18. Stalk someone for a day. Make a note of everything they do. Pretend you're FBI and they're KGB. \n\n19. Tell customers elaborate lies about yourself. Really get into character. Experiment with accents. \n\n20. Do origami. \n\n21. Buy zines and read them. They don't look liek books or magazines so you may not get picked up for reading them. Some of them are very tiny.\n\n22. Tear out the daily crossword/soduku/jumble from a free paper and keep it somewhere hidden. Both the game and not getting caught is part of the fun!\n\n23. Hide in the bathroom. Say you have \"a stomach problem\". Don't do this often, they expect you to be goofing off in there.\n\n24. Draw on your arms, nails, shoes, etc. Or scraps of paper.\n\n25. Decorate. There's always some promotional material you can stick up, or a sales event, or some local flyer to stick up. It's work-related and you get to move around. \n\n26. Look at what people are buying and judge them. be a detective about their lives. Add up their weekly calories in your head. Pick out the ones supplying a meth lab, or the secret eating disordered people. \n\n27. Learn something at work that you really don't need to know, as long as it doesn't get you in trouble or more responsibility. It could help you in the long run. Like, learn about book-keeping, or how the sales cycles work. You can apply that knowledge to a later job.", "Fantasize! Use your imagination to think about what-ifs or what-could-have-beens. Place yourself elsewhere and daydream. Solve problems that need working out.", "From time to time, train mental arithmetics like 23x47 if you're not already good at it. This helps to develop brain capacities for many other tasks apart from calculation.", "Can you ask for more responsibility, or task rotation, to help relieve the boredom? eg. change between shelf stacking, checkout, warehousing, etc.", "Anything nearby you can straighten or clean? Makes the time go by, and makes you look like a better employee because you're not just standing around." ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "What to do with extremely sweaty clothes when you aren't ready to do laundry yet. I have recently consistently been doing cardio and drenching my clothes in sweat after years of not taking cardio seriously. My clothes are usually drenched in sweat when I finish working out. What do you do with really sweaty clothes when you don't have enough laundry yet to do a load of laundry ?", "What to do with extremely sweaty clothes when you aren't ready to do laundry yet. I have recently consistently been doing cardio and drenching my clothes in sweat after years of not taking cardio seriously. My clothes are usually drenched in sweat when I finish working out. What do you do with really sweaty clothes when you don't have enough laundry yet to do a load of laundry ?", "What to do with extremely sweaty clothes when you aren't ready to do laundry yet. I have recently consistently been doing cardio and drenching my clothes in sweat after years of not taking cardio seriously. My clothes are usually drenched in sweat when I finish working out. What do you do with really sweaty clothes when you don't have enough laundry yet to do a load of laundry ?", "What to do with extremely sweaty clothes when you aren't ready to do laundry yet. I have recently consistently been doing cardio and drenching my clothes in sweat after years of not taking cardio seriously. My clothes are usually drenched in sweat when I finish working out. What do you do with really sweaty clothes when you don't have enough laundry yet to do a load of laundry ?", "What to do with extremely sweaty clothes when you aren't ready to do laundry yet. I have recently consistently been doing cardio and drenching my clothes in sweat after years of not taking cardio seriously. My clothes are usually drenched in sweat when I finish working out. What do you do with really sweaty clothes when you don't have enough laundry yet to do a load of laundry ?", "What to do with extremely sweaty clothes when you aren't ready to do laundry yet. I have recently consistently been doing cardio and drenching my clothes in sweat after years of not taking cardio seriously. My clothes are usually drenched in sweat when I finish working out. What do you do with really sweaty clothes when you don't have enough laundry yet to do a load of laundry ?", "What to do with extremely sweaty clothes when you aren't ready to do laundry yet. I have recently consistently been doing cardio and drenching my clothes in sweat after years of not taking cardio seriously. My clothes are usually drenched in sweat when I finish working out. What do you do with really sweaty clothes when you don't have enough laundry yet to do a load of laundry ?" ]	[ "Leave them to dry before you put them in the hamper. Either drape them over the top, or have a set of \"sweaty clothes\" hangers.\n\n", "I have a setup to air dry my laundry. Basically i have hung 3 dowel rods from the ceiling around the washer dryer. In my climate the indoor relative humidity is below 50% most of the year. I have a dehumdifier that kicks on when the humidity gets above 50%. I did this to prevent nicer clothes from being desteoyed in the dryer, but an added benefit is i can put wet or sweaty clothing up there as needed.", "All of this effort to NOT wash your sweaty laundry. ", "keep a spray bottle filled with white vinegar and spray the clothes. vinegar is good for killing odors and taking out stains.\n\nalso keep one of those deodorant things in the room", "First wear some moisture wicking clothing. Second, use a combination of a sport detergent (i use Tide) and a laundry sanitizer (Lysol brand). My gym and work clothes never stink and i wash them once a week.\n\nMoisture wicking clothes have the reputation to stink after a while when you use regular detergents. That is why I use the two sport detergent method. I probably could get away with using one, but i have a tendency to overkill things sometimes.", "Another vote for having up the sweaty clothes in the laundry room or similar until it’s dry, then put in hamper. When I used to go to the gym and shower there, I would put my sweaty clothes in a plastic laundry bag and stick it in my gym bag, do errands, and put in the hamper when I got home. Now that I don’t go to the gym and I workout at home, I hang up my sweaty stuff. I noticed my clothes don’t have that perma-stink anymore.", "If it’s already soaked in sweat, you could just go ahead and wash it around in the river? A “sink,” if you’re an American." ]	[ 12, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Going to grad school after 14 years of work First timer on reddit, Need some motivation and tips to push myself to prepare for GRE and go to graduate school or for a Ph.D. Appreciate inputs from folks who went to school as older adults (35+) challenges they faced like fitting in with younger crowd, other problems, etc. \n\n", "Going to grad school after 14 years of work First timer on reddit, Need some motivation and tips to push myself to prepare for GRE and go to graduate school or for a Ph.D. Appreciate inputs from folks who went to school as older adults (35+) challenges they faced like fitting in with younger crowd, other problems, etc. \n\n", "Going to grad school after 14 years of work First timer on reddit, Need some motivation and tips to push myself to prepare for GRE and go to graduate school or for a Ph.D. Appreciate inputs from folks who went to school as older adults (35+) challenges they faced like fitting in with younger crowd, other problems, etc. \n\n", "Going to grad school after 14 years of work First timer on reddit, Need some motivation and tips to push myself to prepare for GRE and go to graduate school or for a Ph.D. Appreciate inputs from folks who went to school as older adults (35+) challenges they faced like fitting in with younger crowd, other problems, etc. \n\n", "Going to grad school after 14 years of work First timer on reddit, Need some motivation and tips to push myself to prepare for GRE and go to graduate school or for a Ph.D. Appreciate inputs from folks who went to school as older adults (35+) challenges they faced like fitting in with younger crowd, other problems, etc. \n\n" ]	[ "Though the Alpha Betas seem to be the cool group on campus, they are just a bunch of dicks. You are best to pledge for the Tri Lams...\n\nDont do the triple lindy unless you really have to in order to win the final diving competition. ", "What's your field? Depending on your discipline, people might respond very positively to your real world experience. Or you might find that everyone's struggling just to get through the first year and that the shared experience helps you connect with your classmates. \n\nWhile I'm not exactly a returning student, I do have the experience of being a working adult doing a PhD part-time. Here's a few pointers I've picked up along the way:\n\n* Make a point to go to as many of the socials, happy hours, cook-outs, and other gatherings as you can. Spending time with your peers outside of class helps reduce any perceived social distance.\n\n* If you can get an office (or desk in a shared office) go for it. Spend time in there. Meet your office neighbors. Keep your door open regularly. Encourage people to stop by and talk, about class, about their research, about whatever. Not only will these conversations deepen your relationships, you'll find them helpful for coursework and research.\n\n* Ask for help. Since you're older, some younger colleagues might find that intimidating. Asking for help puts you on the same level as them and makes them feel a little bit better about themselves. \n\n* If your department has a journal club or departmental seminar series, attend it regularly. Again, you're getting face time with your peers, sharing experiences, getting more things to talk about, and maybe learning something along the way. \n\nAlso, a few hard-earned study tips:\n\n* You're never too old for flashcards. Especially when it comes to quals/comps/that one killer course.\n\n* Take notes. By hand. Always, by hand. Label every note with the class and subject(s). File them in a way that makes sense to you. Consider scanning them into Evernote. You will thank me when it comes time for quals. \n\n* If you have even an inkling of your dissertation subject, try to make every class paper relate to that topic, even if it's a stretch or only marginally related. \n\n* Use Mendeley or another reference manager to log and retain everything you read. Use the tags feature to tag not just the article's topics, but for what classes you read it and any papers where citied the article. This database will quickly become your dissertation bibliography and save you weeks of research time. \n\nI hope all of this helps. ", "The forums on http://thegradcafe.com/ can be very helpful for the entire process from preparing to apply to being in a program.", "I went back to school 10 years after finishing my undergrad and found very few problems of doing so. A lot of younger students looked to me for practical, real world advice since I had been working in a related industry for the 10 years since undergrad. I was able to apply that knowledge making course work way easier. I also personally find that if you are a good to others, don't get involved in other's business then you have very few relationship issues to deal with. It also doesn't matter what others think about you, people will think what they think and it only matters if you know you have intentionally wronged someone else. The biggest challenge I had was balancing a very demanding full time career, finishing a masters part time and dedicating time to family, friends and myself. In the end I was able to finish and, while challenging at times, I feel all of the benefits of doing it out way the challenges. ", "Come up with a shorthand template for readings. I use a very simple template:\n\n\n* Title\n\n* Author(s)\n\n* Year\n\n* Abstract\n\n* Theories referenced\n\n* Key findings (usually not more than 3)\n\n* Limitations/further research\n\n* Critical analysis: Was this article limited in some way? Was it atheoretical? Or was there a very obvious bias? etc\n\n\nNo need to re-read every journal article before exams!" ]	[ 4, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?", "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?", "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?", "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?", "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?", "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?", "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?", "How to approach a girl for the first time I've been seeing this girl around school for quite some time now, but I've never actually had the courage to go up and actually speak to her. Can someone give me some tips on how to go up and talk her?" ]	[ "Talking to her is the easy part, but just talking to her is not why you don't have the courage to do it.\n\nGetting rejected is why - So let's solve that.\n\nFirst, you must know your enemy. Why do you like this girl, and not other girls. She is attractive to you right?\n\nSo lets reverse the roles, what would you do if an fat ugly girl with braces hit on you? You'd turn her down. But what if the girl you're talking about came up and asked you on a date? You'd be thrilled!\n\nIt's the same for her. If you're a guy she is attracted to, she'd be thrilled to talk to you. If not, she'd most likely, politely, reject you.\n\nGetting rejected is a good thing, don't feel bad, she's doing you a favor. It means you're not attractive to her. Just like the ugly girl wasn't attractive to you, so you said 'no thanks' - you can't force attraction on someone, it will never work that way.\n\nIt's important to make sure your intentions (ie. not just friends) are known early, you don't want to become her friend, you want to become her man. Be direct, give her the choice to reject or accept you. Otherwise she will just think you're being nice and want to be friends. You don't want this. You want to go on a date, or get rejected asap.\n\nAlso once a girl puts you in the 'non attractive' bucket, it's just not worth your time trying to change her mind. Plenty more fish in the sea.\n\nBut there is good news! First, you can improve your attractiveness in many areas, here are 2 of the easiest:\n\nFirst, Confidence! This is attractive and there is a simple secret to it...practice. The first time you do something you had no confidence. The 100th time it's a walk in the park. So don't hesitate, don't second guess, go, try, laugh if you fail, have a good time. This is attractive!\n\nGo one day and try getting rejected by 10 women in a place you will never see them again. Make it a game. I guarantee you at the end you will be enjoying yourself more than trying to get in their panties, and that is when they will be asking for you to get in their panties!\n\nThis is why people are more attractive when they drink. They give no shits - everything is a game.\n\nIf you really want this girl I suggest you practice first on other girls. Girls way below your league. Think of it like this, you will brighten their day, because they never get hit on, and will be thrilled, and you gain some much needed practice, because let's face it, if you had what it takes to ask this girl out, you wouldn't be asking reddit.\n\nSecond, Body! Work out, it's hard and takes discipline, but a nice and healthy body is always attractive.\n\nWork on yourself first, pretend you're the fat ugly girl that tried to hit on YOU, imagine she comes back after a year, with a hot body, no more acne or braces, and not stuttering when she asks you out - suddenly she's attractive to you.\n\nSo that is your goal, turn into that attractive version of you!\n\nAnyone can do it. It just takes work.", "Realistically, just take a deep breath and say fuck it, and go and introduce yourself (if you don't know her well that is, depends on your prior interactions). Think about it this way, if you don't do it, one day you might really regret not going up to her and saying hi ", "Smile and then explain that you have seen her around and want to introduce yourself. Be confident but do not ask on a date from the first interaction... She might be shy and give you a big NO. After you introduced yourself you can stop her and talk an other day...the idea is to take it step by step :) ", "Do you not know what to say or do you not know how to manifest the courage?\n\nThe former has already been answered by others! Just do it. Say 'hi'. If she wants to talk to you, she will. She's a human being like you or I. More so than us troglodytes, probably.\n\nManifesting the courage was always the part that was more difficult for me. This might or might not be helpful, but the first time I asked a girl out, I just kept going forward. I imagined a wall right behind me preventing me from retreating or running away without at least saying something.", "Be confident. Just do it. Don't think of anything to say. Don't over think it at all. Women want to be talked to. If you are asking her out, be specific about when and where. \" Hi, girls name, I would like to take you to go see the new movie everyone is talking about. Friday night at 8:00.\" If she says no, do not sweat it, she isn't going to talk bad about you or anything like that. She will likely say , \" awe, that is so sweet, I've already got plans, then you can say \" alright then, anther time\" and walk away like a boss. She will watch you walk away and think about the whole interaction. Your confident stride and the nerve you displayed will leave her impressed. Maybe only to a small degree but she will remember you. It then gives you opportunity to try again. ", "What usually works for me is, I wait until they walk past and say \"ooooh we. Look at those fries and all that shake! Let me holla atcha. HollaHollaHooollllllaa atcha!!!\"", "Really just don't over think it, what's the worst that can happen ? Even if the worst happens you will still be yourself, same body same everything ", "Girl here. Try to find something in common with her. Do you both like computers? Are you a part of the same fandom? Approach her about it and get a conversation going. But don't try to act like you're a fan of something that you're not- that won't go well." ]	[ 55, 15, 8, 3, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to get flate mate to stop slamming doors I have lived with many people before, and i just assumed that everyone knew how to close doors properly, you turn the door handle while closing the door so it doesn't make that slamming noise. That was until i lived with my current flat mate who just pulls/pushes the door shut, quite often in the early hours of the morning, and it drives me mad. I've told him many times that he should be considerate and close the door quietly and I showed him the difference, he agrees and does so for like 2 days and then goes back to his old habit of just slamming the door. How do I get him to stop slamming the door without having to scream at him?", "How to get flate mate to stop slamming doors I have lived with many people before, and i just assumed that everyone knew how to close doors properly, you turn the door handle while closing the door so it doesn't make that slamming noise. That was until i lived with my current flat mate who just pulls/pushes the door shut, quite often in the early hours of the morning, and it drives me mad. I've told him many times that he should be considerate and close the door quietly and I showed him the difference, he agrees and does so for like 2 days and then goes back to his old habit of just slamming the door. How do I get him to stop slamming the door without having to scream at him?", "How to get flate mate to stop slamming doors I have lived with many people before, and i just assumed that everyone knew how to close doors properly, you turn the door handle while closing the door so it doesn't make that slamming noise. That was until i lived with my current flat mate who just pulls/pushes the door shut, quite often in the early hours of the morning, and it drives me mad. I've told him many times that he should be considerate and close the door quietly and I showed him the difference, he agrees and does so for like 2 days and then goes back to his old habit of just slamming the door. How do I get him to stop slamming the door without having to scream at him?", "How to get flate mate to stop slamming doors I have lived with many people before, and i just assumed that everyone knew how to close doors properly, you turn the door handle while closing the door so it doesn't make that slamming noise. That was until i lived with my current flat mate who just pulls/pushes the door shut, quite often in the early hours of the morning, and it drives me mad. I've told him many times that he should be considerate and close the door quietly and I showed him the difference, he agrees and does so for like 2 days and then goes back to his old habit of just slamming the door. How do I get him to stop slamming the door without having to scream at him?", "How to get flate mate to stop slamming doors I have lived with many people before, and i just assumed that everyone knew how to close doors properly, you turn the door handle while closing the door so it doesn't make that slamming noise. That was until i lived with my current flat mate who just pulls/pushes the door shut, quite often in the early hours of the morning, and it drives me mad. I've told him many times that he should be considerate and close the door quietly and I showed him the difference, he agrees and does so for like 2 days and then goes back to his old habit of just slamming the door. How do I get him to stop slamming the door without having to scream at him?", "How to get flate mate to stop slamming doors I have lived with many people before, and i just assumed that everyone knew how to close doors properly, you turn the door handle while closing the door so it doesn't make that slamming noise. That was until i lived with my current flat mate who just pulls/pushes the door shut, quite often in the early hours of the morning, and it drives me mad. I've told him many times that he should be considerate and close the door quietly and I showed him the difference, he agrees and does so for like 2 days and then goes back to his old habit of just slamming the door. How do I get him to stop slamming the door without having to scream at him?" ]	[ "No quick fix I'm afraid. Habits die hard, but if you are consistent in your feedback - however annoying and buzz killing it may seem - his behavior might change. Takes time though, and motivation from both parties. ", "Get some of the tape supposed to cut out drafts and put it on the frame where the door touches the frame between the two faces. It means the door doesn't connect to the wood frame and instead squashes the tape when he closes it. It won't stop the most obscene of slams but will stop a lot. ", "Buy a 750 of some shitty Seagrams or some such: \"From today forward, any time you slam the door, you have to do a shot\". ", "Ask your flat mate what habits you have that drive him nuts. I bet he'll have something to say and it will lead to a good conversation. Nobody likes being corrected but we all need to hear it. Hopefully it will lead to a constructive conversation where both sides win.", "It may depend on why he is slamming the door. It may be something he does out of a long habit, or maybe he is passive aggressive and actually gets off on annoying you.\n\nWhatever the case may be, figure out something you can do for him that he would like, and negotiate (if you stop slamming the door I will do this for you on a daily basis). It may not be fair from your point of view, but from his point of view, you are asking him to do something he doesn't want to do so you have to make it worth his while (if you can).", "I have neighbors who constantly slam their apartment door in a very echo prone hallway at all hours of the night. I don't even have the benefit of knowing who it is. The funny thing about how our hallways are is that you can hear all the noise from the hallway but thankfully not from one apartment to the other (unless they are being extremely loud). These doors are very loud and my neighbors slam so hard it shakes our door. So I feel your pain, bro. I hope you can get this resolved. 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[ "How can I maintain productivity on the computer/internet? I am constantly distracted on the computer and it really dampers my productivity. Any tips on how I can avoid these distractions?", "How can I maintain productivity on the computer/internet? I am constantly distracted on the computer and it really dampers my productivity. Any tips on how I can avoid these distractions?", "How can I maintain productivity on the computer/internet? I am constantly distracted on the computer and it really dampers my productivity. Any tips on how I can avoid these distractions?", "How can I maintain productivity on the computer/internet? I am constantly distracted on the computer and it really dampers my productivity. Any tips on how I can avoid these distractions?", "How can I maintain productivity on the computer/internet? I am constantly distracted on the computer and it really dampers my productivity. Any tips on how I can avoid these distractions?", "How can I maintain productivity on the computer/internet? I am constantly distracted on the computer and it really dampers my productivity. Any tips on how I can avoid these distractions?", "How can I maintain productivity on the computer/internet? I am constantly distracted on the computer and it really dampers my productivity. Any tips on how I can avoid these distractions?", "How can I maintain productivity on the computer/internet? I am constantly distracted on the computer and it really dampers my productivity. Any tips on how I can avoid these distractions?" ]	[ "Whenever I'm on the computer, which is pretty much all day, I have to set the mood for whatever I need to do. If I'm on reddit or facebook, I'll listen to upbeat music, hip hop, rock, techno, etc. \n\nIf I need to concentrate on work, I'll put on classical or jazz (Vivaldi is my favorite), or anything that is calming and has no lyrics. First thing I do when I log on is start playing the appropriate music, and it gets my mind in the right place. Took awhile to get used to, but works wonders eventually.", "Start on your work.. and focus on it for 10 mins.. just 10 mins nothing more.. eventually you will gain the momentum to keep continuing it\n\nAlso, if your work doesn't require constant web-based work or email checks then disabling both helps to keep away the distractions", "Similar to Baldish's suggestion, if you are on a mac try SelfControl. Which allows you to specify what sites to block and for how long.\nhttp://visitsteve.com/made/selfcontrol/\n\nThe site also has recommendations for other similar programs that look useful too, like [Cold Turkey](http://getcoldturkey.com), which is a similar thing for windows\n\n\n", "Setting is key for me.\nDesk = more productive\nCouch = more relaxed.\n\nI tended to set up a reward system. 15 min work earns 5 min of free/junk web time. And then I use timers", "If you're aiming to be more productive while writing, I recommend [this](http://writemonkey.com/) program. It's called WriteMonkey, and it's a bare-bones, fullscreen writing application. It has helped me a ton with writing papers.", "I'm a big fan of [Read It Later](http://readitlaterlist.com/). Now instead of spending half the day reading articles, I put them on my Read It Later list and read them in downtime/during my commute.", "I open everything I need to be reading then disconnect from the internet. Works like a charm.\n\nAlso Ritalin.", "2 computers, one with internet connection, one without for the serious work. better yet, take your laptop and and go to work to your granma's attic (without the internet connection ofcourse and non cellphone!)\n\none thing that's also quite efficient is to hook up with a somebody who is doing his/hers PhD or similar, it is hard to be lazy around those guys :)" ]	[ 6, 6, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I get my hoodie strings the same length? I have extreme OCD and everyday when I leave the house I spend a good 10 minutes trying to get them the same length, without scrunching up the actual hoodie part. I was late to work today because of this problem. Thanks!", "How can I get my hoodie strings the same length? I have extreme OCD and everyday when I leave the house I spend a good 10 minutes trying to get them the same length, without scrunching up the actual hoodie part. I was late to work today because of this problem. Thanks!", "How can I get my hoodie strings the same length? I have extreme OCD and everyday when I leave the house I spend a good 10 minutes trying to get them the same length, without scrunching up the actual hoodie part. I was late to work today because of this problem. Thanks!", "How can I get my hoodie strings the same length? I have extreme OCD and everyday when I leave the house I spend a good 10 minutes trying to get them the same length, without scrunching up the actual hoodie part. I was late to work today because of this problem. Thanks!", "How can I get my hoodie strings the same length? I have extreme OCD and everyday when I leave the house I spend a good 10 minutes trying to get them the same length, without scrunching up the actual hoodie part. I was late to work today because of this problem. Thanks!", "How can I get my hoodie strings the same length? I have extreme OCD and everyday when I leave the house I spend a good 10 minutes trying to get them the same length, without scrunching up the actual hoodie part. I was late to work today because of this problem. Thanks!", "How can I get my hoodie strings the same length? I have extreme OCD and everyday when I leave the house I spend a good 10 minutes trying to get them the same length, without scrunching up the actual hoodie part. I was late to work today because of this problem. Thanks!" ]	[ "Put your hoodie over your head, pull it as tight as it goes so you look like kenny from south park, then you should just be able to pull them evenly. \n\nFinally use your hands to open your hoodie back up and it should be even.", "Hold the top of the hood up tall and pull one string. Adjust as needed. Can be done when on or off. Done-zo.", "Look here, bunk, here's what you do.\n\nTake it off, and get them the same length. Then tie an overhand knot right at the point where the string enters the hood. Do the same thing on other side. Same length. \n\nOr just stop wearing hoodies. \n", "I find that if I put the front of my hood on the crown of my head, I can take one string in each hand and pull one side or the other to make them even. Having the front of the hood on the top of your head is crucial because it prevents your hood from scrunching up. You may find that you need to extend your neck and stand up straight for it to work well. Good luck!", "I always just pulled the short side until it was 6-8 inches longer than the other and when I unscrunch the hood it comes out pretty close.", "I tend to pull them both even and let the hood scrunch up then while holding the strings pull the top of the hood. Because you are holding the strings one cannot move further than the other and the hood isnt scrunched up. ", "1. Put the hood up. \n\n2. Extend you neck so the top of the hoody is tight against the top of your head.\n\n3. Pull the strings tight, left and right, using the top of your head as a fulcrum.\n\n4. Adjust to perfect equal lengths." ]	[ 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to remember nightly dreams I have always had issues remembering my dreams when I wake. I will usually only remember ones where I die, nothing else, which is obviously not ideal. I assume I recall these because they are intense. The vast majority of nights, I wake with zero recall. Are their any tips to help with dream recall and a reason why I don't remember my dreams?\n\nI generally sleep for 8 hours and have tried sleep aids to reach a deeper sleep to no avail.", "How to remember nightly dreams I have always had issues remembering my dreams when I wake. I will usually only remember ones where I die, nothing else, which is obviously not ideal. I assume I recall these because they are intense. The vast majority of nights, I wake with zero recall. Are their any tips to help with dream recall and a reason why I don't remember my dreams?\n\nI generally sleep for 8 hours and have tried sleep aids to reach a deeper sleep to no avail.", "How to remember nightly dreams I have always had issues remembering my dreams when I wake. I will usually only remember ones where I die, nothing else, which is obviously not ideal. I assume I recall these because they are intense. The vast majority of nights, I wake with zero recall. Are their any tips to help with dream recall and a reason why I don't remember my dreams?\n\nI generally sleep for 8 hours and have tried sleep aids to reach a deeper sleep to no avail.", "How to remember nightly dreams I have always had issues remembering my dreams when I wake. I will usually only remember ones where I die, nothing else, which is obviously not ideal. I assume I recall these because they are intense. The vast majority of nights, I wake with zero recall. Are their any tips to help with dream recall and a reason why I don't remember my dreams?\n\nI generally sleep for 8 hours and have tried sleep aids to reach a deeper sleep to no avail." ]	[ "Sleep journal ftw. As soon as you wake up, write down anything you remember. As you do it more you'll remember more.", "There is a great book on lucid dreaming by Daniel love called “are you dreaming” which talks about improving dream recall.", "I find that it I wake up naturally I remember my dreams. An alarm going off is a sure fire way for me to lose them.", "Wake up and write it down somewhere. Doesn't need to be the whole thing, just some specific event that took place so you can recall it ever happening before your brain decides it isn't necessary any more...I use my phone." ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "What’s a good shampoo for a teenager (16M) that can prevent greasiness for longer? Hormones are hell and do me dirty some days. ", "What’s a good shampoo for a teenager (16M) that can prevent greasiness for longer? Hormones are hell and do me dirty some days. ", "What’s a good shampoo for a teenager (16M) that can prevent greasiness for longer? Hormones are hell and do me dirty some days. ", "What’s a good shampoo for a teenager (16M) that can prevent greasiness for longer? Hormones are hell and do me dirty some days. ", "What’s a good shampoo for a teenager (16M) that can prevent greasiness for longer? Hormones are hell and do me dirty some days. " ]	[ "If we are talking hair, try head and shoulders. If the greasiness is skin, i use the cheapest bar of soap i can get, tesco basic 19p stuff works wonders for drying out my skin, and change your pillow case super often", "I always had better luck with organic type shampoos. I don’t think the Nature’s Path one I used to use is around anymore (I recommend it if it is, but I don’t remember the exact variety), but the “New” bar from Lush is also decent.\n\n", "This may sound counter-intuitive, but less washing. Use dry shampoo in between the first few times you skip a day so you don't feel gross while your skin/hair adjust. By reducing the amount you strip the natural oils from your skin and hair, you will reduce the amount your body produces excess oil to replace it. \n\nI know it seems difficult at first, I have long hair and figured it would be yucky. However after a series of hospitalizations where I was only able to wash my hair once every few days I now have shiny, healthy and much thicker hair that doesn't get oily at all for days. My face has also stopped breaking out nearly as much. \n\nWhatever you choose, good luck!", "I started using Renpure brand shampoo and condition, it’s made without a lot of the damaging stuff and less coating materials than other brands and it has really helped cut back on the oil it seems. The shampoo is also ‘soft’ enough on my hair if I need or want to skip the conditioner altogether I can and not have my hair be so so dry it tangles terribly. Conditioner seems mild and rinses out much better, they have great scents too.", "Carina organics. Healthier. More natural. And it’s the best stuff ive ever used. It’s more expensive than the crap at Walmart but it’s super worth it." ]	[ 4, 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to deal with meeting the most amazing woman in your life? (story inside) Hey there LifeProTipsers,\n\nSo here's a little background that brought me to this LPT Request. \nI'm a 24 year old guy that just graduated with a masters degree in engineering and I just moved to this small city for a great job opportunity. \nThere's not much to do around here, for the first month or so, I was content just playing some video games after work or going out for a drink or something. \nBut then I met this 23 year old woman, by far the most amazing person I have ever met in my life. She's perfect. \nWe've gone out a couple of times, text here and there. But I just can't get her off my mind for a second. All I do is think about her all day. And all I want to do is hang-out with her. \nIt's come to the point where everything has just become incredibly boring. I have played video games for hours most of life, yet I can't even play 5 mins anymore without getting bored and just thinking about her. I just want to be with her. \n\nI feel like I have been trying to hard, asking her out, to hang out and stuff, and I'm just afraid of pushing her away now. \n\nI have only had 1 serious relationship in my life when I was 18 and ended pretty sadly for me at 20 but even then I didnt have this feeling. \n\nLPT people, I am in dire need of your help. Need to get my life together :( \n\nI'm just an engineer, my life revolves around reasoning but this is just completely outside my realm of understanding. \n\n\n", "How to deal with meeting the most amazing woman in your life? (story inside) Hey there LifeProTipsers,\n\nSo here's a little background that brought me to this LPT Request. \nI'm a 24 year old guy that just graduated with a masters degree in engineering and I just moved to this small city for a great job opportunity. \nThere's not much to do around here, for the first month or so, I was content just playing some video games after work or going out for a drink or something. \nBut then I met this 23 year old woman, by far the most amazing person I have ever met in my life. She's perfect. \nWe've gone out a couple of times, text here and there. But I just can't get her off my mind for a second. All I do is think about her all day. And all I want to do is hang-out with her. \nIt's come to the point where everything has just become incredibly boring. I have played video games for hours most of life, yet I can't even play 5 mins anymore without getting bored and just thinking about her. I just want to be with her. \n\nI feel like I have been trying to hard, asking her out, to hang out and stuff, and I'm just afraid of pushing her away now. \n\nI have only had 1 serious relationship in my life when I was 18 and ended pretty sadly for me at 20 but even then I didnt have this feeling. \n\nLPT people, I am in dire need of your help. Need to get my life together :( \n\nI'm just an engineer, my life revolves around reasoning but this is just completely outside my realm of understanding. \n\n\n", "How to deal with meeting the most amazing woman in your life? (story inside) Hey there LifeProTipsers,\n\nSo here's a little background that brought me to this LPT Request. \nI'm a 24 year old guy that just graduated with a masters degree in engineering and I just moved to this small city for a great job opportunity. \nThere's not much to do around here, for the first month or so, I was content just playing some video games after work or going out for a drink or something. \nBut then I met this 23 year old woman, by far the most amazing person I have ever met in my life. She's perfect. \nWe've gone out a couple of times, text here and there. But I just can't get her off my mind for a second. All I do is think about her all day. And all I want to do is hang-out with her. \nIt's come to the point where everything has just become incredibly boring. I have played video games for hours most of life, yet I can't even play 5 mins anymore without getting bored and just thinking about her. I just want to be with her. \n\nI feel like I have been trying to hard, asking her out, to hang out and stuff, and I'm just afraid of pushing her away now. \n\nI have only had 1 serious relationship in my life when I was 18 and ended pretty sadly for me at 20 but even then I didnt have this feeling. \n\nLPT people, I am in dire need of your help. Need to get my life together :( \n\nI'm just an engineer, my life revolves around reasoning but this is just completely outside my realm of understanding. \n\n\n", "How to deal with meeting the most amazing woman in your life? (story inside) Hey there LifeProTipsers,\n\nSo here's a little background that brought me to this LPT Request. \nI'm a 24 year old guy that just graduated with a masters degree in engineering and I just moved to this small city for a great job opportunity. \nThere's not much to do around here, for the first month or so, I was content just playing some video games after work or going out for a drink or something. \nBut then I met this 23 year old woman, by far the most amazing person I have ever met in my life. She's perfect. \nWe've gone out a couple of times, text here and there. But I just can't get her off my mind for a second. All I do is think about her all day. And all I want to do is hang-out with her. \nIt's come to the point where everything has just become incredibly boring. I have played video games for hours most of life, yet I can't even play 5 mins anymore without getting bored and just thinking about her. I just want to be with her. \n\nI feel like I have been trying to hard, asking her out, to hang out and stuff, and I'm just afraid of pushing her away now. \n\nI have only had 1 serious relationship in my life when I was 18 and ended pretty sadly for me at 20 but even then I didnt have this feeling. \n\nLPT people, I am in dire need of your help. Need to get my life together :( \n\nI'm just an engineer, my life revolves around reasoning but this is just completely outside my realm of understanding. \n\n\n", "How to deal with meeting the most amazing woman in your life? (story inside) Hey there LifeProTipsers,\n\nSo here's a little background that brought me to this LPT Request. \nI'm a 24 year old guy that just graduated with a masters degree in engineering and I just moved to this small city for a great job opportunity. \nThere's not much to do around here, for the first month or so, I was content just playing some video games after work or going out for a drink or something. \nBut then I met this 23 year old woman, by far the most amazing person I have ever met in my life. She's perfect. \nWe've gone out a couple of times, text here and there. But I just can't get her off my mind for a second. All I do is think about her all day. And all I want to do is hang-out with her. \nIt's come to the point where everything has just become incredibly boring. I have played video games for hours most of life, yet I can't even play 5 mins anymore without getting bored and just thinking about her. I just want to be with her. \n\nI feel like I have been trying to hard, asking her out, to hang out and stuff, and I'm just afraid of pushing her away now. \n\nI have only had 1 serious relationship in my life when I was 18 and ended pretty sadly for me at 20 but even then I didnt have this feeling. \n\nLPT people, I am in dire need of your help. Need to get my life together :( \n\nI'm just an engineer, my life revolves around reasoning but this is just completely outside my realm of understanding. \n\n\n" ]	[ "I'm excited for you to get some hopeful encouragement and I want this to work out for you, but I think the best advice I can give is: don't make too much of it. She's a person, you're a person. She's ready for the relationship you want, or maybe she's not. She seems amazing, and maybe she is, but you don't know a hell of a lot about her yet so don't make her into a dream woman caricature. She's a person with flaws (serious flaws, not adorable quirks) and a whole life of experience that you haven't been exposed to yet. Figure out exactly what you want and see if she's down. A specific date or whatever. \n \ntl;dr I hope it's a good experience and you might be able to make something work, but the way you feel right now is probably not indicative of long-term success or significance.", "Who dares wins my friend, chicks love confidence so next time you go out tell her how you feel and hopefully she will reciprocate.\nI know how it is when I was real lucky to find my soulmate early and I had the same situation I couldn't sleep for a week but my mate gave me this advice and now ten years later and we are (mostly) happily married with three kids so it works and once you actually get it out you will feel much better whether yay or nay.", "I feel like that boredom stems from a realization of self. You've seen something you would like and want to go all in on it. Your hobbies aren't progressing you towards achieving what you now want and your brain has flipped a switch -- \"what are you doing?! You need to go get the girl!\"\n\nIn my opinion, this can be dangerous. If you drop your hobbies, you will be left only with your desire for this person. If this is the case your emotions can become unstable. Please note that I am referring to what can happen, not what will or is happening.\n\nI would challenge you to consider your personal time and hobbies as progress towards your goals rather than a distraction from them (which in this case you could assign your goals as being with this person or being happy). Personal time allows you to explore and find your thoughts and feelings towards situations. Hobbies are therapeutic by nature and can help you manage emotions. \n\nIf your current hobbies aren't satisfying enough then explore new interests! Try things that you've always wanted to do. You can even have her come with you and experience some things together! Addressing the idea in this way allows you to both manage your emotions and develop interests and passions to share with a partner (which is of course attractive).\n\nAs for your timing question, I wish I could comment more fully. There's no real answer to that question. When I say take your time, I mean feel through it and just enjoy it for what it is! If it's hot and passionate then enjoy it! If it's calm and considerate then appreciate it. Only you know how to handle it from there!\n\nI'm more than happy to chat about it more my friend! Just let me know. I've been exploring these concepts and thoughts a lot recently", "I can't remember how I came across this thread, but I'm interested to hear what you gained from it all and if you're still in need of help. Or even if you've reached a resolution with her. \n\nIf you haven't, I can help you, but you probably won't like what I have to say and the advice that I would give you. Love is a lottery, and odds are she won't be a perfect match to you or you to her.\n\nI'm a numbers-guy myself, so at the very least, I'm sure I can speak some sense into you to help you get her figured out.", "Hey man, I love that you're feeling this way! It's a beautiful thing to have found someone you have a connection with. Those feelings you feel are what makes it all worth it!\n\nI'm taking it that you have been struggling with these feelings and don't necessarily recognize how to handle them or what to do WITH them. How to get satisfaction from it or where to take it next.\n\nMy advice to you as a fellow recent graduate (congratulations!) Is to take your time. It is completely normal to want to be with her all the time and acceptable to feel scared of your feelings not being reciprocated or accepted by the other party, but feeling a new love can be overwhelming (in a good way). M" ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to remove water from children's bath squeaky toys My daughter's squeaky toys always have a little water left in them after bath time, no matter how much I squeeze them to remove the water. How can I thoroughly dry the insides to prevent any bacteria or mold from growing?", "How to remove water from children's bath squeaky toys My daughter's squeaky toys always have a little water left in them after bath time, no matter how much I squeeze them to remove the water. How can I thoroughly dry the insides to prevent any bacteria or mold from growing?", "How to remove water from children's bath squeaky toys My daughter's squeaky toys always have a little water left in them after bath time, no matter how much I squeeze them to remove the water. How can I thoroughly dry the insides to prevent any bacteria or mold from growing?", "How to remove water from children's bath squeaky toys My daughter's squeaky toys always have a little water left in them after bath time, no matter how much I squeeze them to remove the water. How can I thoroughly dry the insides to prevent any bacteria or mold from growing?", "How to remove water from children's bath squeaky toys My daughter's squeaky toys always have a little water left in them after bath time, no matter how much I squeeze them to remove the water. How can I thoroughly dry the insides to prevent any bacteria or mold from growing?" ]	[ "Don't know how to get it out, but when you first get them use a hot glue gun to seal the hole and they won't get water in them in the first place. The kids still play with them even if they don't squeak.", "Can you microwave them? This will evaporate the water and kill bacteria. But make sure you can microwave the particular plastic and ensure that there aren't any metals in there!", "I usually just squeeze out all I can and then pump air in and out of them several times. \n\nThen if they start to develop mould I make a 10% bleach solution, put them in it, pump all the air out (make sure to turn them upside down so the air all comes out of the hole) and leave them there for 24 hours. A quick rinse later and they are all clean and good to go again.\n\nI wouldn't be too concerned though, unless you let them get so bad inside that big chunks of mould come out when you squeeze the water out (and your daughter has a habit of drinking from them) it probably won't hurt her at all.", "Set them on top of a fan, ac, or heater (depending on what kind of heater you have this could be super dangerous so be careful on this one! obviously you don't wan to melt the toys or set them on fire :) lol)", "Have the child do it.\n\nThey've got the time and most importantly, the energy.\n\nIf they do it, they get a snack. If they don't the toy gets it." ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 0, -2 ]	safe
[ "How to get my hair cut as a male / What would be helpful to the barber? Is it bad to be coming in and saying \"just above my ears\" or \"just shorter.\" I feel like there's got to be better ways to articulate this and I'm so inept that I can't.\n\nThanks in advance", "How to get my hair cut as a male / What would be helpful to the barber? Is it bad to be coming in and saying \"just above my ears\" or \"just shorter.\" I feel like there's got to be better ways to articulate this and I'm so inept that I can't.\n\nThanks in advance", "How to get my hair cut as a male / What would be helpful to the barber? Is it bad to be coming in and saying \"just above my ears\" or \"just shorter.\" I feel like there's got to be better ways to articulate this and I'm so inept that I can't.\n\nThanks in advance", "How to get my hair cut as a male / What would be helpful to the barber? Is it bad to be coming in and saying \"just above my ears\" or \"just shorter.\" I feel like there's got to be better ways to articulate this and I'm so inept that I can't.\n\nThanks in advance", "How to get my hair cut as a male / What would be helpful to the barber? Is it bad to be coming in and saying \"just above my ears\" or \"just shorter.\" I feel like there's got to be better ways to articulate this and I'm so inept that I can't.\n\nThanks in advance", "How to get my hair cut as a male / What would be helpful to the barber? Is it bad to be coming in and saying \"just above my ears\" or \"just shorter.\" I feel like there's got to be better ways to articulate this and I'm so inept that I can't.\n\nThanks in advance", "How to get my hair cut as a male / What would be helpful to the barber? Is it bad to be coming in and saying \"just above my ears\" or \"just shorter.\" I feel like there's got to be better ways to articulate this and I'm so inept that I can't.\n\nThanks in advance", "How to get my hair cut as a male / What would be helpful to the barber? Is it bad to be coming in and saying \"just above my ears\" or \"just shorter.\" I feel like there's got to be better ways to articulate this and I'm so inept that I can't.\n\nThanks in advance", "How to get my hair cut as a male / What would be helpful to the barber? Is it bad to be coming in and saying \"just above my ears\" or \"just shorter.\" I feel like there's got to be better ways to articulate this and I'm so inept that I can't.\n\nThanks in advance" ]	[ "Bring a picture. Something you want your haircut to look like. That way they can get a visual of it. Then adjust from there. Remember, they’re the professional, but you’re paying for it.", "I tend to just ask for a 3 back and sides and then tidy it up on top, idk if it’s different in other countries but in the uk they know what to do with that", "Talk to your barber. Tell them what you want and they'll ask you questions to get a better idea of what you want done.", "Stop going to a barber. instead go to a beauty salon. They are used to serving picky females and are more attentive to your preferences and make notes to help them remember. Go to the same person Everytime.", "Mine is \"Number four on the back and sides - not too high - make it a bit shorter on top; no parting, and I wear it messy\".\n\nSo determine where you fall on these parameters and figure out what to say: lengths of back, sides and top; style of top.", "Just buy a Wahl machine for like $20 on Amazon and do it yourself. That’s what I did about a year ago and taught myself how to cut my hair! I do a 4 on the sides and a 6 on top usually. ", "I've always wondered why salons/barbers don't take pictures of you after your haircut. Just give me my usual, and they have a picture of it right in front of them. If they had a smart mirror with a screen behind it so they can have the picture right there as they cut it would be really easy.", "Ask your barber what you are supposed to say? Barbers talk more than they cut. If you didn't notice that, start there.", "They have lengths of inches, I believe it's for inches anyway, that is like 1 and 2. That is a good start I would say." ]	[ 28, 6, 5, 5, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to avoid this when making cupcakes http://imgur.com/pvBFkjM\n\nEvery time I've ever made cupcakes this happens and it makes the cupcakes come out kinda like that with the paper up in the cake a bunch. \n\nHow the hell do I avoid this?\n\n", "how to avoid this when making cupcakes http://imgur.com/pvBFkjM\n\nEvery time I've ever made cupcakes this happens and it makes the cupcakes come out kinda like that with the paper up in the cake a bunch. \n\nHow the hell do I avoid this?\n\n", "how to avoid this when making cupcakes http://imgur.com/pvBFkjM\n\nEvery time I've ever made cupcakes this happens and it makes the cupcakes come out kinda like that with the paper up in the cake a bunch. \n\nHow the hell do I avoid this?\n\n", "how to avoid this when making cupcakes http://imgur.com/pvBFkjM\n\nEvery time I've ever made cupcakes this happens and it makes the cupcakes come out kinda like that with the paper up in the cake a bunch. \n\nHow the hell do I avoid this?\n\n" ]	[ "Your paper cups and your muffin tin don't match. You can try prodding them once they're in the tin to make new creases, allowing for a rounder shape, or you can get a new muffin tin.\n\nI personally hate losing muffin/cupcake from the paper liners, so I just rub the cups with margarine.", "Use thicker cups, or double them up. [These](http://www.amazon.com/Wilton-Silver-Foil-Cups-36-Count/dp/B003IPCULQ/ref=sr_1_1?s=kitchen&ie=UTF8&qid=1442868079&sr=1-1&refinements=p_n_material_browse%3A316647011).work really well. They are available in all sizes.\n\nIf you must use the cheap. thin ones, use cold butter or shortening to \"stick\" the liners to the sides \n\nDon't use liners at all! Get a non-stick pan and rub it liberally with butter. Don't use sprays-canola oil based sprays taste disgusting, as does canola oil, and the flavor will stand out when using it on baked goods.", "I use silicone cases like [these](http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B0060IPJ0M?keywords=silicone%20cupcake%20cases&qid=1442839188&ref_=sr_1_1&sr=8-1). They're much sturdier and less fiddly to use than paper cases. You can reuse them too. :)\n\n", "I have found if you use two paper cups in each it eliminates this issue when I've run into it. It makes them more rigid and less susceptible to being reshaped by a different sized pan cup." ]	[ 5, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to explain why I don't drive? I have a driver's license, but my OCD and ADHD focus issues have gotten bad enough that my husband and I agree it isn't safe for me to drive, at least not without an aware adult in the passenger seat. \n\nI am pregnant, and I anticipate that if I tell people I can't drive due to mental issues, they will doubt my fitness as a parent. \n\n(Focus shouldn't be an issue for me as a parent, though, because all parents get briefly distracted like I do, and I, like all other parents, can be brought back to the present by a child's voice. It's only an issue while driving, but I doubt everyone will accept that.)\n\nWhat is an honest answer I can give to people who ask me why I don't drive, without telling them I have mental/focus issues?", "How to explain why I don't drive? I have a driver's license, but my OCD and ADHD focus issues have gotten bad enough that my husband and I agree it isn't safe for me to drive, at least not without an aware adult in the passenger seat. \n\nI am pregnant, and I anticipate that if I tell people I can't drive due to mental issues, they will doubt my fitness as a parent. \n\n(Focus shouldn't be an issue for me as a parent, though, because all parents get briefly distracted like I do, and I, like all other parents, can be brought back to the present by a child's voice. It's only an issue while driving, but I doubt everyone will accept that.)\n\nWhat is an honest answer I can give to people who ask me why I don't drive, without telling them I have mental/focus issues?", "How to explain why I don't drive? I have a driver's license, but my OCD and ADHD focus issues have gotten bad enough that my husband and I agree it isn't safe for me to drive, at least not without an aware adult in the passenger seat. \n\nI am pregnant, and I anticipate that if I tell people I can't drive due to mental issues, they will doubt my fitness as a parent. \n\n(Focus shouldn't be an issue for me as a parent, though, because all parents get briefly distracted like I do, and I, like all other parents, can be brought back to the present by a child's voice. It's only an issue while driving, but I doubt everyone will accept that.)\n\nWhat is an honest answer I can give to people who ask me why I don't drive, without telling them I have mental/focus issues?", "How to explain why I don't drive? I have a driver's license, but my OCD and ADHD focus issues have gotten bad enough that my husband and I agree it isn't safe for me to drive, at least not without an aware adult in the passenger seat. \n\nI am pregnant, and I anticipate that if I tell people I can't drive due to mental issues, they will doubt my fitness as a parent. \n\n(Focus shouldn't be an issue for me as a parent, though, because all parents get briefly distracted like I do, and I, like all other parents, can be brought back to the present by a child's voice. It's only an issue while driving, but I doubt everyone will accept that.)\n\nWhat is an honest answer I can give to people who ask me why I don't drive, without telling them I have mental/focus issues?", "How to explain why I don't drive? I have a driver's license, but my OCD and ADHD focus issues have gotten bad enough that my husband and I agree it isn't safe for me to drive, at least not without an aware adult in the passenger seat. \n\nI am pregnant, and I anticipate that if I tell people I can't drive due to mental issues, they will doubt my fitness as a parent. \n\n(Focus shouldn't be an issue for me as a parent, though, because all parents get briefly distracted like I do, and I, like all other parents, can be brought back to the present by a child's voice. It's only an issue while driving, but I doubt everyone will accept that.)\n\nWhat is an honest answer I can give to people who ask me why I don't drive, without telling them I have mental/focus issues?", "How to explain why I don't drive? I have a driver's license, but my OCD and ADHD focus issues have gotten bad enough that my husband and I agree it isn't safe for me to drive, at least not without an aware adult in the passenger seat. \n\nI am pregnant, and I anticipate that if I tell people I can't drive due to mental issues, they will doubt my fitness as a parent. \n\n(Focus shouldn't be an issue for me as a parent, though, because all parents get briefly distracted like I do, and I, like all other parents, can be brought back to the present by a child's voice. It's only an issue while driving, but I doubt everyone will accept that.)\n\nWhat is an honest answer I can give to people who ask me why I don't drive, without telling them I have mental/focus issues?", "How to explain why I don't drive? I have a driver's license, but my OCD and ADHD focus issues have gotten bad enough that my husband and I agree it isn't safe for me to drive, at least not without an aware adult in the passenger seat. \n\nI am pregnant, and I anticipate that if I tell people I can't drive due to mental issues, they will doubt my fitness as a parent. \n\n(Focus shouldn't be an issue for me as a parent, though, because all parents get briefly distracted like I do, and I, like all other parents, can be brought back to the present by a child's voice. It's only an issue while driving, but I doubt everyone will accept that.)\n\nWhat is an honest answer I can give to people who ask me why I don't drive, without telling them I have mental/focus issues?", "How to explain why I don't drive? I have a driver's license, but my OCD and ADHD focus issues have gotten bad enough that my husband and I agree it isn't safe for me to drive, at least not without an aware adult in the passenger seat. \n\nI am pregnant, and I anticipate that if I tell people I can't drive due to mental issues, they will doubt my fitness as a parent. \n\n(Focus shouldn't be an issue for me as a parent, though, because all parents get briefly distracted like I do, and I, like all other parents, can be brought back to the present by a child's voice. It's only an issue while driving, but I doubt everyone will accept that.)\n\nWhat is an honest answer I can give to people who ask me why I don't drive, without telling them I have mental/focus issues?", "How to explain why I don't drive? I have a driver's license, but my OCD and ADHD focus issues have gotten bad enough that my husband and I agree it isn't safe for me to drive, at least not without an aware adult in the passenger seat. \n\nI am pregnant, and I anticipate that if I tell people I can't drive due to mental issues, they will doubt my fitness as a parent. \n\n(Focus shouldn't be an issue for me as a parent, though, because all parents get briefly distracted like I do, and I, like all other parents, can be brought back to the present by a child's voice. It's only an issue while driving, but I doubt everyone will accept that.)\n\nWhat is an honest answer I can give to people who ask me why I don't drive, without telling them I have mental/focus issues?", "How to explain why I don't drive? I have a driver's license, but my OCD and ADHD focus issues have gotten bad enough that my husband and I agree it isn't safe for me to drive, at least not without an aware adult in the passenger seat. \n\nI am pregnant, and I anticipate that if I tell people I can't drive due to mental issues, they will doubt my fitness as a parent. \n\n(Focus shouldn't be an issue for me as a parent, though, because all parents get briefly distracted like I do, and I, like all other parents, can be brought back to the present by a child's voice. It's only an issue while driving, but I doubt everyone will accept that.)\n\nWhat is an honest answer I can give to people who ask me why I don't drive, without telling them I have mental/focus issues?", "How to explain why I don't drive? I have a driver's license, but my OCD and ADHD focus issues have gotten bad enough that my husband and I agree it isn't safe for me to drive, at least not without an aware adult in the passenger seat. \n\nI am pregnant, and I anticipate that if I tell people I can't drive due to mental issues, they will doubt my fitness as a parent. \n\n(Focus shouldn't be an issue for me as a parent, though, because all parents get briefly distracted like I do, and I, like all other parents, can be brought back to the present by a child's voice. It's only an issue while driving, but I doubt everyone will accept that.)\n\nWhat is an honest answer I can give to people who ask me why I don't drive, without telling them I have mental/focus issues?", "How to explain why I don't drive? I have a driver's license, but my OCD and ADHD focus issues have gotten bad enough that my husband and I agree it isn't safe for me to drive, at least not without an aware adult in the passenger seat. \n\nI am pregnant, and I anticipate that if I tell people I can't drive due to mental issues, they will doubt my fitness as a parent. \n\n(Focus shouldn't be an issue for me as a parent, though, because all parents get briefly distracted like I do, and I, like all other parents, can be brought back to the present by a child's voice. It's only an issue while driving, but I doubt everyone will accept that.)\n\nWhat is an honest answer I can give to people who ask me why I don't drive, without telling them I have mental/focus issues?", "How to explain why I don't drive? I have a driver's license, but my OCD and ADHD focus issues have gotten bad enough that my husband and I agree it isn't safe for me to drive, at least not without an aware adult in the passenger seat. \n\nI am pregnant, and I anticipate that if I tell people I can't drive due to mental issues, they will doubt my fitness as a parent. \n\n(Focus shouldn't be an issue for me as a parent, though, because all parents get briefly distracted like I do, and I, like all other parents, can be brought back to the present by a child's voice. It's only an issue while driving, but I doubt everyone will accept that.)\n\nWhat is an honest answer I can give to people who ask me why I don't drive, without telling them I have mental/focus issues?" ]	[ "“I don’t feel comfortable driving” that’s all you need to say. If they ask questions just repeat that you don’t feel comfortable", "You don't have a mental issue, full hard stop. You don't like to drive and if that's not a good enough answer for someone asking, they're not good enough for a continuing conversation regarding the topic. If someone takes umbrage with it they can pound salt.\n\n", "Remember, \"No.\" is a complete sentence. If you don't feel comfortable doing something, you don't owe anyone an explanation as to why.\n\n\"Why don't you have a licence?\" \n\"Because I don't want one.\" \n</conversation>", "Not trying to judge, but as a new parent with similar issues, I highly recommend developing strategies to help keep you focused on your little one. I had a moment the other day where I lost focus and let her stroller start to roll away. Luckily someone else nearby was attentive, but it was a steep enough and busy enough street that it could have been really bad. Things could easily go bad very fast with children just as much as in a car.", "You don't owe anyone an explanation. I didn't drive for 2 years due to extreme anxiety and I would just tell people I didn't drive. They didn't need to know why.", "Remember, you don't have to answer questions just because someone asks them. You can either just keep repeating your original statement, or reply with \"why do you need to know?\" \n\n\nYou: Oh, I don't drive \nthem: Why not? \nyou: because I don't drive \nthem: there has to be a reason \nyou: because I don't drive\n\nrepeat as needed.\n\nYou: Oh, I don't drive \nthem: Why not? \nyou: because I don't drive \nthem: but every one drives. Why don't you? \nyou: why do you need to know?", "I say “it’s not my thing” for a lot of things I do t want to do it can’t do due to private reasons. And if they ask again, I say “it’s just not my favorite. So what have you been up to?”\n\nYou do not need to explain yourself despite feeling compelled to. Practice saying some answers and then remaining silent or changing the subject.", "The LPT here is to get your ilness under control in order to be a better parent. Trust, at some point you will NEED to drive to be there for your kid.", "You could say it is due to health issues. \n\n\nIf they ask about the health issues, say that it’s a long story. Hopefully they’ll get the hint to not ask further.", "There's a whole list of reasons why I don't drive. \nOne the same. Focusing issues. \nTwo. I'm afraid of other people not paying attention and causing an accident. \nThree the environment (I live in a somewhat walkable city it could definitely be better but walking works fine) \nFour. The cost of owning and maintaining a car. \nAnd to go with every reason I generally find it easier to just get help from a family member or friend if I ever need to go out of town. Rather than have my own car I would honestly barely use and having cars sit for long I heard is bad for it? \n\nThere's lots of reasons to drive and not to drive.", "Me: I don’t choose to drive.\nThem: why not?\nMe: it takes a lot of spoons. \n\nIf they don’t know the spoon theory, I detour into the explanation. So the end result is either they know it and accept the reason or they learn about the spoon theory. Both are wins in my book.", "Fuel prices, insurance prices, parking prices, just to outright cost of having a car is over the top. Tell them you like money & have no reason to waste it on something that is provided or easily accessable only when you need it.", "You don’t have to explain to everyone. \n\nIf you do explain just say a neurological issue you have has flared up and you’re not driving at the moment." ]	[ 46, 11, 11, 8, 7, 5, 5, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to make friends when you are an adult? Seriously, this is a tough one for me. This was quite easy in high school or college (and tbh I don't even know how friending really worked then), but once you are \"out there\" and with your college friends gone, I find it so hard to make meaningful connections with other people. I do participate in many organisations (charity, professional associations...), but I don't even know what to say to people because it just seems awkward. Things I would say when I was a teenager, I don't feel comfortable sharing them now. Thanks :) \n\n", "How to make friends when you are an adult? Seriously, this is a tough one for me. This was quite easy in high school or college (and tbh I don't even know how friending really worked then), but once you are \"out there\" and with your college friends gone, I find it so hard to make meaningful connections with other people. I do participate in many organisations (charity, professional associations...), but I don't even know what to say to people because it just seems awkward. Things I would say when I was a teenager, I don't feel comfortable sharing them now. Thanks :) \n\n", "How to make friends when you are an adult? Seriously, this is a tough one for me. This was quite easy in high school or college (and tbh I don't even know how friending really worked then), but once you are \"out there\" and with your college friends gone, I find it so hard to make meaningful connections with other people. I do participate in many organisations (charity, professional associations...), but I don't even know what to say to people because it just seems awkward. Things I would say when I was a teenager, I don't feel comfortable sharing them now. Thanks :) \n\n", "How to make friends when you are an adult? Seriously, this is a tough one for me. This was quite easy in high school or college (and tbh I don't even know how friending really worked then), but once you are \"out there\" and with your college friends gone, I find it so hard to make meaningful connections with other people. I do participate in many organisations (charity, professional associations...), but I don't even know what to say to people because it just seems awkward. Things I would say when I was a teenager, I don't feel comfortable sharing them now. Thanks :) \n\n", "How to make friends when you are an adult? Seriously, this is a tough one for me. This was quite easy in high school or college (and tbh I don't even know how friending really worked then), but once you are \"out there\" and with your college friends gone, I find it so hard to make meaningful connections with other people. I do participate in many organisations (charity, professional associations...), but I don't even know what to say to people because it just seems awkward. Things I would say when I was a teenager, I don't feel comfortable sharing them now. Thanks :) \n\n", "How to make friends when you are an adult? Seriously, this is a tough one for me. This was quite easy in high school or college (and tbh I don't even know how friending really worked then), but once you are \"out there\" and with your college friends gone, I find it so hard to make meaningful connections with other people. I do participate in many organisations (charity, professional associations...), but I don't even know what to say to people because it just seems awkward. Things I would say when I was a teenager, I don't feel comfortable sharing them now. Thanks :) \n\n", "How to make friends when you are an adult? Seriously, this is a tough one for me. This was quite easy in high school or college (and tbh I don't even know how friending really worked then), but once you are \"out there\" and with your college friends gone, I find it so hard to make meaningful connections with other people. I do participate in many organisations (charity, professional associations...), but I don't even know what to say to people because it just seems awkward. Things I would say when I was a teenager, I don't feel comfortable sharing them now. Thanks :) \n\n" ]	[ "What I was going to suggest, you yourself already did. Joining organizations.\n\nComing up with \"things to say\" is a problem for everyone. It's hard to find something in common with someone you've just met. I actually went through the same thing, and ended up joining a sports league. All the guys went out afterwards, we always had something to talk about (the sport, and what was going on with it), and we naturally progressed into other topics.\n\nBecause I was seeing the same people repeatedly, I progressed slowly into sports-friends to real-friends with some of them. Now, I'm in a position where I can have that comfortable silence only good friends can truly appreciate.", "You have to join stuff. A few things that have worked well for me recently have been a Bocce ball league and a running group. Some other ideas - a band, a sports team, or a homebrewing club. Living in a major city helps a lot too, especially in the right neighborhood. One thing I've noticed is that post-college there is a split between those who have kids and those who don't, with the vast majority of the later being concentrated in specific neighborhoods in the city.", "Go to Meetup.com and search for activities within your area that you enjoy and join those groups. I've met many people who were feeling the same way as you.", "What do you like to talk about? The better the conversation the better the connection...and the more frequent the conversation the deeper the connection...so who are the people that you see - and talk to - most frequently? Are they compatible with you?\n\nJoin a HOBBY club - what do you enjoy? What's your passion? You need to find people who are similar/compatible with you - games/photography/music/dance/arts/sports/entertainment...passions - those kind of groups you should be aiming at.\n\nHow old are you? You need to be able to make good conversation if you're looking for friends as an adult. Whatever it is that you got heat for you'll be able to talk about and feel - in order to create good feelings with the people you're chatting to. \n\nThere are others who have the same feels as you, you just gotta find them.\n\nGood Feelings=Good thoughts=Good words=Good vibes=Good friends\n\n\n", "I had these problems in my low 20s after college so I can relate. \n\nI think the number 1 best place to meet people is the gym. Join a Golds or something similar and go the same time every day and you'll see a lot of the same people around. After a month you can start having conversations with those people, asking them about their fitness routine, what they do for shoulders, compliment them, then start asking them questions like what they do for a living.\n\nNext thing you know you're going out, enjoying the night life, expanding your circle with their circle, ect.\n\nIt's worked well for me when I move around but it's actually much easier as well when you get a little older.\n\nAlso, it's much easier when you're single. Once you're in a relationship it's easier to fall back like chilling and watching Netflix and the drive to keep pushing yourself and meeting people can diminish, and sometimes people just don't want to hang out with someone's significant other or want to enjoy the energy that one person brings to the table, not the \"relationship\" version of that person. But, also as you get older those dynamics change and more and more people will be wifing up and having kids, so those dynamics also change over time.", "Read Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People, and you will magically make friends (and know how to influence people).\n\nTake an interest in people--a genuine interest. It's much easier for them to want to be near you because of your interest in them than for them to take an interest in you (unless you're a naturally charismatic person). ", "Go do things, I learned to dance and I always meet lots of people and it's a great atmosphere etc. etc. \n\n10/10 recommend " ]	[ 11, 4, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Mould removal from fabric/stuffing http://imgur.com/a/BpY8W (Pic 1: mould inside the hanging, Pic 2: the back of the hanging, Pic 3: the front - no mould). Would really like to not have to throw this away. Thanks.", "Mould removal from fabric/stuffing http://imgur.com/a/BpY8W (Pic 1: mould inside the hanging, Pic 2: the back of the hanging, Pic 3: the front - no mould). Would really like to not have to throw this away. Thanks.", "Mould removal from fabric/stuffing http://imgur.com/a/BpY8W (Pic 1: mould inside the hanging, Pic 2: the back of the hanging, Pic 3: the front - no mould). Would really like to not have to throw this away. Thanks." ]	[ "Take it to the dry cleaners. Chemical cleaning + extreme heat should knock that mold out. Be sure to point out that that is the main problem when you take it to the cleaners so they're not just doing a general cleaning.", "This comment has been overwritten by an open source script to protect this user's privacy. It was created to help protect users from doxing, stalking, and harassment. \n\n If you would also like to protect yourself, add the Chrome extension [TamperMonkey](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/tampermonkey/dhdgffkkebhmkfjojejmpbldmpobfkfo), or the Firefox extension [GreaseMonkey](https://addons.mozilla.org/en-us/firefox/addon/greasemonkey/) and add [this open source script](https://greasyfork.org/en/scripts/10380-reddit-overwrite). \n\n Then simply click on your username on Reddit, go to the comments tab, scroll down as far as possibe (hint:use [RES](http://www.redditenhancementsuite.com/)), and hit the new OVERWRITE button at the top. \n\n Also, please consider using [Voat.co](https://voat.co) as an alternative to Reddit as Voat does not censor political content.", "Bleach and water is your only home solution. This will ruin your hanging so I'd second the recommendation for a dry cleaner." ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? ", "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? ", "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? ", "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? ", "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? ", "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? ", "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? ", "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? ", "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? ", "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? ", "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? ", "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? ", "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? ", "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? ", "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? ", "I can never keep my debit card in good shape. It gets worn just by being in my wallet and doesnt last long. How can I fix this? " ]	[ "Get an account with Bank of America. They send you a new debit card every 6 months because \"your account may have been compromised\". I have yet to use a card to its expiration date. I'm being funny, but it is annoying.", "I hope to goodness you get a good answer for this. I've had the same problem ever since I started carrying a debit card. A year before it expires and I get a new one, it'll be practically unusable.", "Get a different wallet or reorganise your current one. Your card is constantly being rubbed firmly against the other cards/wallet itself.\n\nI personally use a tiny wallet with three cards, ID and a few notes, and my oldest cards are still in pretty good nick.", "The only things you care about are the magstripe and signature line on the back and both are very susceptible to friction wear, especially if you are putting multiple cards together in the same part of your wallet - the raised numbers on the bottom card will scratch the back of the upper card. If that's the case, try putting them in your wallet with the fronts (or backs) facing each other.\n\nOne sure sign of a shitty bank - charging you for replacement cards. Tell them someone jammed a piece of metal into their ATM machine and it broke your card.\n\nSomeday you can stop caring once everyone has chip/pin cards and readers. Someday. Don't get me started.\n\n", "I have this problem as well.\n\nLuckily I charge most everything on my American Express card, when the card starts getting in to bad shape and has a hard time being read, I just call up Amex and they send out a new card.\n\n\nThe only downside to this is that they have to issue a new card number, but the process is seamless, I can continue to to use the old card, wait for the new one, activate it and switch to it.\n\nI do have to update any auto-payments that come from the Amex, but luckily I only have a couple. It would be perfect if they could give me another card with the same numbers.\n\n\nMy MasterCard on the other hand is a mofo.. When it starts getting crappy I have to have the current card deactivated and then be without it for 3-4 days while I'm waiting for the replacement to come in the mail.\n", "Don't cards usually come with sleeves to put them in? One of my old ones did, I've been using it ever since.", "1. Stop sitting on your wallet.\n\n2. Pay attention to how you pull out your debit card. Most people pull towards them, and not directly upwards. Pulling straight up reduces the stress on your card and will make it last longer.\n\nI'm guessing your debit card keeps breaking just underneath the black mag stripe?", "This happened to me too. What I started doing was putting the cards with the numbers on it towards the top (basically put your cards in upside down). The numbers don't rub on the inside of your wallet and they stays looking nice.", "See if any coins touch the department where your card is or if any coins are in there. I had a simmilar problem with my ID and let me just tell you coins RUIN cards. My ID was in 3 pieces just from sitting on my wallet when there were coins in it.\n", "Never had a problem with that. :(\n\nPut it alone in a single slot, don't sit on your wallet. The debit card I have is even shittier than standard cr", "I place my debit/cr", "I had this problem and found a simple fix. As I worked at a sign company at the time, I cut a piece of 0.6mm thick steel the exact size of my bank card. I have it sitting in the same slot as bank card for protection. You can try all you like at bending and crushing my wallet but there is no way you can damage the cards snuggle up to it. And it has never had any effect on the magnetic strips on the card either. I once even drove over my wallet by mistake with my F-100 and no damage to the contents.\n", "Carry it in its own pocket, and when it breaks down, request a new one. It's usually free if you (a) don't want rush processing and (b) didn't lose the card. At least it always has been for me with cr", "Can i suggest the [Flipside Wallet](http://www.flipsidewallet.com/)? I bought one of these about two years ago and couldn't be happier. Just like you, i got sick of cracking my cards and having to replace them one right after another. Since i bought the Flipside, i haven't had a single broken card. Just a suggestion from someone who knows how much of a pain it can be, to keep replacing those darn cards! ", "Bifold or trifold? \n\nI had a novelty NES controller bifold wallet that tore up all my cards and IDs. Haven't had that problem since I switched to the trifold I have now.\n\nGranted, being a shitty GameStop wallet probably had something to do with it, but... that's just my experience.", "How does your debit card get messed up I've had mine in my back ass pocket for like 8 months no wallet or nothing cause I always loss it. Don't know how our card always get messed p I've never had to replace mone" ]	[ 24, 13, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "What is a must-have on festivals? How do you improve your festival? I always have a horrible time with my tent since it gets hot and often destroyed, so something along the lines of helping with that problem.", "What is a must-have on festivals? How do you improve your festival? I always have a horrible time with my tent since it gets hot and often destroyed, so something along the lines of helping with that problem.", "What is a must-have on festivals? How do you improve your festival? I always have a horrible time with my tent since it gets hot and often destroyed, so something along the lines of helping with that problem.", "What is a must-have on festivals? How do you improve your festival? I always have a horrible time with my tent since it gets hot and often destroyed, so something along the lines of helping with that problem.", "What is a must-have on festivals? How do you improve your festival? I always have a horrible time with my tent since it gets hot and often destroyed, so something along the lines of helping with that problem.", "What is a must-have on festivals? How do you improve your festival? I always have a horrible time with my tent since it gets hot and often destroyed, so something along the lines of helping with that problem.", "What is a must-have on festivals? How do you improve your festival? I always have a horrible time with my tent since it gets hot and often destroyed, so something along the lines of helping with that problem.", "What is a must-have on festivals? How do you improve your festival? I always have a horrible time with my tent since it gets hot and often destroyed, so something along the lines of helping with that problem.", "What is a must-have on festivals? How do you improve your festival? I always have a horrible time with my tent since it gets hot and often destroyed, so something along the lines of helping with that problem.", "What is a must-have on festivals? How do you improve your festival? I always have a horrible time with my tent since it gets hot and often destroyed, so something along the lines of helping with that problem.", "What is a must-have on festivals? How do you improve your festival? I always have a horrible time with my tent since it gets hot and often destroyed, so something along the lines of helping with that problem.", "What is a must-have on festivals? How do you improve your festival? I always have a horrible time with my tent since it gets hot and often destroyed, so something along the lines of helping with that problem." ]	[ "Make a list and check it right before you leave\nGet food that is good cold. (precooked fried chicken, pizza, pork chops)\nGet food that is easy to prepare. (clif bars, sausage, tuna snacks)\nGet food that is easy to consume for times when you need nutrients but don't want to eat anything. (Ensure, Slim Fast)\nGet several cases of water, and a few gatorades to leave in the tent for consumption before/after rest.\nTent fans will let you get an extra two hours of sleep once the sun comes up on hot days. Get at least two of them, positioning them in front of your face and one circulating air out of the tent.\nHeadlamps and lanterns are clutch when it gets dark, always have a headlamp in your pocket. \nEZups are important, bring one along with several other chairs so if you meet new people they have a reason to hang around. If you don't have extra chairs people won't stay very long. Also bring a table to put shit onto. Bring paper towels, plates, cups, plasticware to eat with.\nFor the tent, get a good tent or you have to deal with replacing them constantly. REI makes great tents though they are pricey. Also remember to bring tapestries to block sunlight. Bring sunscreen if you burn, bring tylenol if you sometimes get headaches. Bring rope and duct tape if you have them lying around, and bring a tarp to put under your tent in case it rains. If you drink alcohol, bring a separate cooler for booze otherwise you will waste that much more ice for shit that can't get warm (food). The most important thing to bring to a music festival though is baby wipes, these are used to clean your entire body when you get dirty in addition to the bathroom. Another thing that makes festivals a lot easier is to put shit into clothing tubs. Also bring a bag for dirty clothing so they don't get mixed together. A blowup mattress is a good idea if you can get one, blowup mats are easier. Extra cell phone batteries are good if you use your phone a lot, and they are cheap off amazon. Last but not least make sure to a coat, sweater, poncho, two pairs of shoes, sandals, and a lot of socks in case weather sucks. Leave it in the car or a bag if you can't. When it rains everything gets wet. Wearing wet clothing all weekend sucks, I've done it before. People forget to bring warm clothing cause it's summer every single festival and they all regret it if the weather sucks. Good luck and happy camping.", "1) wet wipes and deodorant, so you at least seem clean from a distance\n\n2) (cheap) Bluetooth speakers, after the music finishes you'll need something to listen to\n\n3) condoms, better to have it and not need it than need it and not have it, plus everyone is gross after day one so it will be appreciated\n\n4) a two litre bottle of water, stay hydrated\n\n5) a ground sheet, you'll make so many new friends just by having somewhere people can sit down in a circle and not get mud all over them\n\n6) a positive attitude, some people get way too stressed out about weather or strangers or eating nothing but junk food all weekend. Enjoy the sociable atmosphere, meet new people and have fun", "Emergency blankets! I put one on top of my rain fly and one under my rain fly (in between the fly and tent). It keeps my tent waaaaay cooler than if it was just roasting in the sun.\n\nAlso, a fuck ton of tarps. You never know when you'll need them.\n\nEz ups/canopies can also keep your tent cool.", "This one might sound silly, but if you're going in with a group - walkie talkies. I've always gone in a group of friends and the phone signal is shocking due to large crowds, so we can rarely call or SMS, but having a walkie talkie can make it possible to communicate where you are in the event you get lost.\n\nAlso, upon arrival, decide on a meeting point. If any one is lost, you can agree to meet there (we usually chose a bar so we could drink while waiting for friends).", "This is super random but new socks, not like clean socks but brand fucking new socks, when tripping face it is amazing to put on a brand new super soft, fuzzy pair of socks. Also put individual changes of clothes in a ziplock bags no need to try to find shirt, pants, underwear and socks, just grab a bag and change. \n\nIn terms of keeping your tent cooler it really helps to have a shade structure to put over it or a tarp to hang from the trees above it. ", "The main thing I learned is pack light. The pain of carting piles of bags is never outweighed by that single heavy item you added \"just in case\". If you get really stuck you can buy emergency stuff there.\n\nGood waterproof boots (not wellies) if you are in the UK. It will usually rain at least once, even if the forecast is good. This will churn it into a mudbath in no time. Boots fit well, they are warm and don't get stuck in puddles. \n\nTins of food that you can eat cold. Beans and sausages, macaroni cheese, that kind of thing. Food is expensive at festivals, but you can usually hunt down places which are better than others. A burger van near the main stage will be expensive and crap. A weird vegan falafel stand in a corner of another field can be huge and filling. I wouldn't bother with cooking equipment, it is heavy and awkward. \n\nLots of beer. Twice as much as you think you might need. Taking out the inner bag from a box of wine or cider is good for travelling light.\n\nBin bags to keep things dry, store things, to use as an emergency coat. Baby wipes to keep you clean. Take a pillow.", "Get a fuck ton of dank and water and forget everything else. You don't even need clothes just dank and water ", "Freeze a bunch of water bottles then toss them in the cooler. Saves on finding ice and cold water is good.", "Everything everyone so far has said is good, but there are a few vitals they missed. \n\nWhen I was in Budapest for a festival lots of people had those emergency foil blankets, and put them on top of their tents to reflect most of the heat. I can't tell you if it works, but it seems like it would\n\nBring shower gel and shampoo. This was the worst thing we forgot. Also loads of very antiperspirant deoderant\n\nBring a ground mat or air matress. I was sleeping in tents for 2 weeks and by the end of it my back was fucked. On this note, of you have space bring a proper pillow. I was using clothes and it was shit. \n\nIf you can get a tiny container of laundry cleaning powder that would be pretty tight. No matter how hard you try you will never have quite enough clothes, so being able to wash some in a sink would have been amazing. \n\nPlasters and a small amount of wound-cleaning alcohol is a good shout, it's very possible someone could get a scape or two\n\nChairs were the other biggest thing we forgot. There are very few places to sit comfortably at a festival, so having one would have made our stay so much better. If chairs are too bulky you can get some folding stools of similar design. It'll still save your legs, and, if theres ants in the campsite, it doubles as a table. We ended up crafting a table out of boxes, but ants are very good climbers\n\nBin bags are so vital I am amazed no-one said them. Without them your area will turn into a tip, and they also keep your dirty clothes separate from clean ones, and valuables safe from getting strewn about the tent. \n\nA blanket for sitting outside would have been good. When you spend most of the time sitting on the ground having something a little better will make it so much more bearable. \n\nIf the festival is strict on bringing booze in, we got some of [these](http://www.sportsdirect.com/sportsdirect-folding-water-bottle-898108?colcode=89810818). They collapse into nothing, saving space, and have a lanyard attached so you can hang them to your belt on the inside of your shorts, allowing you to smuggle all the booze you want.\n\nDon't bring only shit shoes because you figure they'll get fucked. An extra £20 is better spent on keeping your feet comfy than anything else. I bought some £5 shoes I was planning on wearing, and within a day I had painful blisters (on which subject get some compeed blister plasters) so I binned them and went back to proper shoes. \n\nIf you can find a £5 phone with great battery, it'd be good to have if you ever loose your mates\n\nIf it gets hot, the best time to shit is first thing in the morning. I timed it right the whole week so I would be up at 8am, and I'd collect my phone from the charging station and wander over to the freshly cleaned toilets. The whole week I never took a dump in a toilet that anyone had taken a dump in before. It was magical. Toilets get so fucking hot in the sun, so either you come out of them drenched in sweat and generally feeling rank, or you beat the sun. \n \n", "A dry spare set of clothing and a towel in a sealed (garbage/ziplock/etc) bag.\n\nIf everything gets wet, your tent starts to leak, the campsite floods, or something, you have something dry yourself off and something dry/warm to put on. Wait to put it on until you're somewhere where you can warm up.", "A battery operated fan can save your life at night. Look for one that can hang. Pocket knife. Air mattress. Lots of water. A hat. Sunscreen. A blue tarp. A couple of bandanas. Ear plugs. Condoms. A lighter. ", "1) wet wipes and deodorant, so you at least seem clean from a distance\n\n2) (cheap) Bluetooth speakers, after the music finishes you'll need something to listen to\n\n3) condoms, better to have it and not need it than need it and not have it, plus everyone is gross after day one so it will be appreciated\n\n4) a two litre bottle of water, stay hydrated\n\n5) a ground sheet, you'll make so many new friends just by having somewhere people can sit down in a circle and not get mud all over them\n\n6) a positive attitude, some people get way too stressed out about weather or strangers or eating nothing but junk food all weekend. Enjoy the sociable atmosphere, meet new people and have fun" ]	[ 19, 7, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Trouble falling asleep Whenever I try to go to sleep on time, I just end up lying in bed for an hour or more, unable to sleep. This has been a problem for my whole life, and it's driving me crazy. Does anyone have any tips for falling asleep?", "Trouble falling asleep Whenever I try to go to sleep on time, I just end up lying in bed for an hour or more, unable to sleep. This has been a problem for my whole life, and it's driving me crazy. Does anyone have any tips for falling asleep?", "Trouble falling asleep Whenever I try to go to sleep on time, I just end up lying in bed for an hour or more, unable to sleep. This has been a problem for my whole life, and it's driving me crazy. Does anyone have any tips for falling asleep?", "Trouble falling asleep Whenever I try to go to sleep on time, I just end up lying in bed for an hour or more, unable to sleep. This has been a problem for my whole life, and it's driving me crazy. Does anyone have any tips for falling asleep?", "Trouble falling asleep Whenever I try to go to sleep on time, I just end up lying in bed for an hour or more, unable to sleep. This has been a problem for my whole life, and it's driving me crazy. Does anyone have any tips for falling asleep?", "Trouble falling asleep Whenever I try to go to sleep on time, I just end up lying in bed for an hour or more, unable to sleep. This has been a problem for my whole life, and it's driving me crazy. Does anyone have any tips for falling asleep?", "Trouble falling asleep Whenever I try to go to sleep on time, I just end up lying in bed for an hour or more, unable to sleep. This has been a problem for my whole life, and it's driving me crazy. Does anyone have any tips for falling asleep?" ]	[ "Personally, I think about how even if I don't fall asleep, I'm resting. Eventually resting turns to sleep", "I read. I have a survival manual downloaded on my phone, and if I'm having insomnia I read a section or two and it usually does the trick. Might as well learn something useful while I'm lying in bed. ", "Simply begin m", "M", "For me personally, I always ensure my body is properly covered with blankets. Although being hot is something most try to avoid, heat does help us sleep.", "Don't eat a few hours before falling asleep, try not to think about sleep, or anything important.\nNot having a clock in sight helps with not thinking about the time you have for sleep.\nIf you really want to use a phone or laptop before bed, use a bluelight filter.", "Have a routine. Only use your bed for sleeping.\n\nClose your eyes, concentrate on breathing through your diaphram and while your eyes are still closed look downwards." ]	[ 5, 5, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "People who had no idea what kind of career to choose and no real creative talents or hobbies, when/what was your turning point in life and how did u figure everything out? ", "People who had no idea what kind of career to choose and no real creative talents or hobbies, when/what was your turning point in life and how did u figure everything out? ", "People who had no idea what kind of career to choose and no real creative talents or hobbies, when/what was your turning point in life and how did u figure everything out? ", "People who had no idea what kind of career to choose and no real creative talents or hobbies, when/what was your turning point in life and how did u figure everything out? ", "People who had no idea what kind of career to choose and no real creative talents or hobbies, when/what was your turning point in life and how did u figure everything out? ", "People who had no idea what kind of career to choose and no real creative talents or hobbies, when/what was your turning point in life and how did u figure everything out? ", "People who had no idea what kind of career to choose and no real creative talents or hobbies, when/what was your turning point in life and how did u figure everything out? ", "People who had no idea what kind of career to choose and no real creative talents or hobbies, when/what was your turning point in life and how did u figure everything out? ", "People who had no idea what kind of career to choose and no real creative talents or hobbies, when/what was your turning point in life and how did u figure everything out? ", "People who had no idea what kind of career to choose and no real creative talents or hobbies, when/what was your turning point in life and how did u figure everything out? ", "People who had no idea what kind of career to choose and no real creative talents or hobbies, when/what was your turning point in life and how did u figure everything out? ", "People who had no idea what kind of career to choose and no real creative talents or hobbies, when/what was your turning point in life and how did u figure everything out? ", "People who had no idea what kind of career to choose and no real creative talents or hobbies, when/what was your turning point in life and how did u figure everything out? " ]	[ "My turning point was realizing my career just needed to be something I didn’t hate with people I enjoyed and paid enough to live the life I want. Once I accepted that my job can just be the source of income, it felt very freeing. I enjoy my job, I love my coworkers but it’s not a passion. My passions and true joy come from other areas of my life.", "I'm almost 59 years old, and still waiting for this \"turning point\".\n\nFor me, I just found something that met the criteria 1) I didn't hate; 2) I was kinda good at; and 3) People would pay me.\n\nMaybe someday I'll \"figure everything out\" but I'm not holding my breath.", "Almost 40 and still haven't figured it out. I have a job where I have a great boss and decent pay. It allows me to take care of my family, make sure we have food and shelter. My job is fun because it is different every day. I think the worst thing in life is doing repetitive shit all day long. I had several jobs like that. I really like my current job because every day is different.", "I'll always remember something my dad told me almost 20 years ago. If you don't mind being at work 3 of the 5 days you work, you're winning. Too many people spend too much time at a job they hate and they let it suck the life out of them. Find a job you can tolerate most of the time and find fulfillment in other areas of your life. Unfortunately, most people's passions don't pay the bills", "\"Figuring everything out\" is a huge trap. Better to a accept life for the absurd ride that it is rather than put pressure in ourselves to make sense of it. It's so freeing to just go with it.", "Oh jeez. I'm 36 and still have no real direction in life. Going back to school this fall and I can't even decide what program I'll take. I'm kind of a \"fly by the seat of my pants\" type gal.", "I decided that rather than continue focusing on myself, which was getting me nowhere, I would spend some time focusing on others. The hope was that it would give me some perspective. I looked for volunteer opportunities doing anything, anywhere. I ended up spending two years in Honduras teaching at a small bilingual school. It awoke something inside of me and I discovered that I love teaching English. That was 10 years ago and I haven't looked back. I'm not there anymore, but it's now my career and I wouldn't change for anything.", "It's a short and simple story but one I'm never going to forget. I was a pretty boring person, I was extremely extroverted in an attempt to get people to like me more. It didnt work so eventually I just slipped into being an introvert which sucked but oh well. Untill one night I was laying in bed thinking about my life and realised \"oh my god I'm wasting my life doing video games and sitting at home\". In a short moment of pure energy I made the decision to re join scouting as to get some excitement into my life, I also decided to pick a career path then and there, I chose to try being a chef as I was working in a hotdog trailer at the time and thought being a fry cook was fun. As you can tell by my name that split decision changed my life. I'm now working towards a diploma in hospitality and have worked in a 5 star hotel as a larder chef, untill covid had to cause layoffs of staff that is :(. But yeah, I'm an assistant chef at a small cafe and have been offered my old job back once I complete my diploma.", "I think for me it was A) paying enough to save/live comfortably B) I did not hate what I do/people I work with C) stable/good benefits \n\nOriginally I went to school to be come an RN and quit half way through, but it did not work for me- high grades was good at it but hated what I did because of who I worked with. Also at the base nursing theory is ok- but nothing there resonated with me.. Took time off and was a RV tech for a year.. figured out I was not good at doing the same thing over and over again and again people that I worked with made it hard to enjoy work. Went back to school for business- got straight A’s, definitely not my passion but something I am somewhat competent at. I now work in HR for DND.. although the tasks are not all that riveting it is a job that pays ok, has decent benefits and the people I work with are great so i am happy. I came to the realization that I do not have a passion in life for work and that is ok. It can find good food and a comfortable life for me and my wife :)", "At the end of the day, there is nothing wrong with not having a \"career\" and just having \"a job\". Not everyone derives meaning in life from their employment and there is nothing wrong that. \n\nThat being said, you still need to eat, so of course you need to be employed (at least for the time being). If you really have no idea what you want to do, I think the best suggestion is, frankly, to start trying things.\n\nThing you might be interested in IT? Take some free programming courses online. Try some free sample projects you can find on a variety of sites. That sort of thing.\n\nThink you might want to go into a professional field like law, medicine, etc.? There are hundreds of hours of videos on YouTube from real practitioners describing what the field is like, what it takes to get into it, and what your day-to-day will be.\n\nWant to go for the trades? Look around your local area if any crews are looking for new blood. Some areas right now literally can't fill positions fast enough. You're not going to become a welder or electrician overnight, but if you get experience on job sites, you'll see what the job is like and if it's something for you. And even entry-level construction gigs can pay pretty decently.\n\nThere is absolutely nothing wrong with being lost and no knowing where to go from here. Most people are at one point or another. Unfortunately, the only person who will really know the right path forward is you.", "I just found the job I can do on auto-pilot, so no matter what's going on in my life (personal issues, chronic health problems, etc.), I can still get things done. When I'm alert and not overworked though, I do enjoy my job even if the clients drive me insane half the time.", "I had a manager tell me I was a smart person.\n\nHated the job, hated the company, but used the time left to turn my job from \"general office worker\" to \"analyst and most likely to tell the emperor he has no clothes.\"\n\nNew job, New company. Much happier.", "If you are stuck and can afford a MBA, it allows you to jump back in the job market with higher salary potential. Do some due diligence to understand if the schools you are considering are respected or a diploma mill. Don’t waste your money on the latter. A mid to top tier school will allow you to reset your career and get direct introductions and internship opportunities with the top companies in your area. \n\nIf you are educated and have a skill or expertise that you don’t love, check out some of the larger tech companies. They function like large universities. If you don’t love your major/department/manager/scope you can apply for jobs within the company. This offers you a significant advantage over external job seekers. As a hiring manager, I prefer internal rotations as they have a faster ramp. Big companies sometimes have a bad reputation for poor managers. The good news is that you should never feel trapped. Rotate away from bad situations and still retain benefits like keeping your unvested shares, vacation, and seniority." ]	[ 32, 15, 9, 6, 5, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 0 ]	safe
[ "Things to know when buying a car from a dealership I'm going to be buying a car - what are some things I should know (tactics I can use, tactics dealers use, etc.) to allow me to walk into a dealership confidently and get the best deal?", "Things to know when buying a car from a dealership I'm going to be buying a car - what are some things I should know (tactics I can use, tactics dealers use, etc.) to allow me to walk into a dealership confidently and get the best deal?", "Things to know when buying a car from a dealership I'm going to be buying a car - what are some things I should know (tactics I can use, tactics dealers use, etc.) to allow me to walk into a dealership confidently and get the best deal?", "Things to know when buying a car from a dealership I'm going to be buying a car - what are some things I should know (tactics I can use, tactics dealers use, etc.) to allow me to walk into a dealership confidently and get the best deal?", "Things to know when buying a car from a dealership I'm going to be buying a car - what are some things I should know (tactics I can use, tactics dealers use, etc.) to allow me to walk into a dealership confidently and get the best deal?", "Things to know when buying a car from a dealership I'm going to be buying a car - what are some things I should know (tactics I can use, tactics dealers use, etc.) to allow me to walk into a dealership confidently and get the best deal?", "Things to know when buying a car from a dealership I'm going to be buying a car - what are some things I should know (tactics I can use, tactics dealers use, etc.) to allow me to walk into a dealership confidently and get the best deal?", "Things to know when buying a car from a dealership I'm going to be buying a car - what are some things I should know (tactics I can use, tactics dealers use, etc.) to allow me to walk into a dealership confidently and get the best deal?", "Things to know when buying a car from a dealership I'm going to be buying a car - what are some things I should know (tactics I can use, tactics dealers use, etc.) to allow me to walk into a dealership confidently and get the best deal?", "Things to know when buying a car from a dealership I'm going to be buying a car - what are some things I should know (tactics I can use, tactics dealers use, etc.) to allow me to walk into a dealership confidently and get the best deal?" ]	[ "Shop by price, not payment. They'll always try to ask what you want to spend a month....and they'll try to market to loan to that. Spending 350 on that shiny new 35000 dollar car is possible, but you're going to be paying for it for 9 years. Find the price you want that 35000 car for beforehand (and figure out payment terms for price per month), and negotiate the price versus the financed price", "If you're going to have a loan, get loan/lease (gap)coverage through your car insurance. It's often a lot cheaper than the dealer is offering. \n\nGap insurance is the difference between what you owe and what it's worth if your car is deemed a total loss in an accident.", "Don't allow them to roll in maintenance to the deal. Don't pay for crap you don't need. Blue link, nope better to just have AAA. ", "Insurance advice get 3 or 4 cars you're interesting in and get their Vin numbers. If for some reason the dealership won't give it to you, just the year, make and model.\n\nCall the insurance company and tell them you're looking at getting a new car and have a few vins you'd like to check the prices on. \n\nNow you know what insurance will cost after you buy your new car with monthly car payments so there's no financial surprise afterwards, and having one car cost 100 dollars less than another can really make that one more appealing. \n\nBtw most dealerships require 500 comprehensive and collision, make sure you add that coverage. Get roadside while you're at it, it's dirt cheap. ", "Go on the last day of the month, and as late in the day as possible. Look for the salesman that's hanging around on the lot - he/she probably haven't made their quota for the month yet, and are ready to deal. Under no circumstances should you ever let them know how much money you're willing to spend, whether it's for the total amount of the car, or your monthly payment. ", "Get financing outside of the dealership, unless they have a 0% interest special. Dealerships buy the loan at one rate and sell it to you at a higher rate to make money. ", "Don't give them your keys to valet your existing car or let them keep your license etc.\n\nThey bullshit and keep you in the dealership as long as possible.\n\nMake sure before you sign anything you add up all the numbers on all the forms and figure out what the final actual number is. They give you a sheet with the price but often leave out dealer fees and other stuff.\n\nAlso go near the end of the month - they all have quotas they are trying to make\n\nDo some price shopping online to see what else is out there.\n\nWalking out is a good option. \n\nWe got my mom a used car at a dealership and we walked out. The price they wanted was really a bit higher for the car they nearby options. They called us back a couple days later with a better price.\n\nAlso, be circumspect with your data (phone numbers etc) - they will hound you.\n\nIf you need financing, try the bank you have your mortgage or bank account with, or a cr", "Buy towards the end of the month when they are more desperate to make a sale.\n\nAlways be prepared to walk away; do not get attached to any one vehicle.\n\nFirst decide if you even want that car, then decide what you're willing to pay.\n\nChange radiator fluid, brake fluid and power steering fluid annually.", "Reconsider buying a new car from a dealership in the first place. Lots of great comments in here but the flaw in all of them is sticking with the stealership. ", "Know what you're willing to pay before you walk in, and if they don't give you that exact amount, LEAVE! " ]	[ 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Unclogging A Shower Drain Anyone have any good tips on unclogging a shower or any sort of drain? I tried 3 bottles of Drano, to no avail, we must go deeper, I'm guessing.", "Unclogging A Shower Drain Anyone have any good tips on unclogging a shower or any sort of drain? I tried 3 bottles of Drano, to no avail, we must go deeper, I'm guessing.", "Unclogging A Shower Drain Anyone have any good tips on unclogging a shower or any sort of drain? I tried 3 bottles of Drano, to no avail, we must go deeper, I'm guessing.", "Unclogging A Shower Drain Anyone have any good tips on unclogging a shower or any sort of drain? I tried 3 bottles of Drano, to no avail, we must go deeper, I'm guessing.", "Unclogging A Shower Drain Anyone have any good tips on unclogging a shower or any sort of drain? I tried 3 bottles of Drano, to no avail, we must go deeper, I'm guessing." ]	[ "If you think it is hair, hardware stores carry a thing called a zip it (http://zipitclean.com/). Or a bandsaw blade will work too. Just slide it down and let the teeth grip the hair as you pull it out. ", "Try removing the drain cover and pulling any hair out. If you don't have long hair then that's probably not the problem. Next step would be to call a plumber. Pick a local company. The national chains are major ripoffs. ", "If it's hair or something like that, the mister muscle shower drain goop is the best. That stuff eats through any organic matter in there - and speaking as someone who used to have to pull the occasional soggy hairball out of the pipes it's a godsend. Use at least half a bottle, leave it in for a bit then see if you can rinse it through. It has instructions on the bottle.\n\nIf it's something else blocking it, a plunger is a good idea. You could ask someone in your local hardware store what they recommend, or who they would recommend.\n\nIf that doesn't work, call a plumber. ", "Chemical solutions do not work. All Drano does is ruin your pipes, since it is mostly bleach which eats away at the metal or PVC. You can try using a plunger, or get a plumber's snake. [Lowe's website has a handy guide.](http://www.lowes.com/cd_Clear+Clogged+Drains_587687001_)", "http://www.acehardware.com/product/index.jsp?productId=1277100&cagpspn=pla \n \nget two and dump them down the drain - better than draino in some cases\n \nsave $80 maybe" ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Landlords asking to water yard in summer 3 times Rented a nice house in Houston and yesterday landlords visited after 6 months for an inspection. We keep the house very clean and our landlords were very happy. we water the yard once a day and it’s so hot the grass has burned. They have a lot of trees and they are saying the trees are sad the leaves are not green\nSo they are asking us to water it 3-4 times a day - it’ll be almost $1000 water bill.. It’s really hot and our neighbors water their yard 3 times and still the grass is burned where there is direct sun and we asked and they said it’ll be green again in fall. \nThey sent a long email that you have signed the lease saying you’ll keep the yard green. We have the house for another year and we assured them we’ll make sure its green. We’ll get lawn sodding done. \nThey are saying they’ll come every two weeks to check if we are watering 3 times. What can we do", "Landlords asking to water yard in summer 3 times Rented a nice house in Houston and yesterday landlords visited after 6 months for an inspection. We keep the house very clean and our landlords were very happy. we water the yard once a day and it’s so hot the grass has burned. They have a lot of trees and they are saying the trees are sad the leaves are not green\nSo they are asking us to water it 3-4 times a day - it’ll be almost $1000 water bill.. It’s really hot and our neighbors water their yard 3 times and still the grass is burned where there is direct sun and we asked and they said it’ll be green again in fall. \nThey sent a long email that you have signed the lease saying you’ll keep the yard green. We have the house for another year and we assured them we’ll make sure its green. We’ll get lawn sodding done. \nThey are saying they’ll come every two weeks to check if we are watering 3 times. What can we do", "Landlords asking to water yard in summer 3 times Rented a nice house in Houston and yesterday landlords visited after 6 months for an inspection. We keep the house very clean and our landlords were very happy. we water the yard once a day and it’s so hot the grass has burned. They have a lot of trees and they are saying the trees are sad the leaves are not green\nSo they are asking us to water it 3-4 times a day - it’ll be almost $1000 water bill.. It’s really hot and our neighbors water their yard 3 times and still the grass is burned where there is direct sun and we asked and they said it’ll be green again in fall. \nThey sent a long email that you have signed the lease saying you’ll keep the yard green. We have the house for another year and we assured them we’ll make sure its green. We’ll get lawn sodding done. \nThey are saying they’ll come every two weeks to check if we are watering 3 times. What can we do", "Landlords asking to water yard in summer 3 times Rented a nice house in Houston and yesterday landlords visited after 6 months for an inspection. We keep the house very clean and our landlords were very happy. we water the yard once a day and it’s so hot the grass has burned. They have a lot of trees and they are saying the trees are sad the leaves are not green\nSo they are asking us to water it 3-4 times a day - it’ll be almost $1000 water bill.. It’s really hot and our neighbors water their yard 3 times and still the grass is burned where there is direct sun and we asked and they said it’ll be green again in fall. \nThey sent a long email that you have signed the lease saying you’ll keep the yard green. We have the house for another year and we assured them we’ll make sure its green. We’ll get lawn sodding done. \nThey are saying they’ll come every two weeks to check if we are watering 3 times. What can we do", "Landlords asking to water yard in summer 3 times Rented a nice house in Houston and yesterday landlords visited after 6 months for an inspection. We keep the house very clean and our landlords were very happy. we water the yard once a day and it’s so hot the grass has burned. They have a lot of trees and they are saying the trees are sad the leaves are not green\nSo they are asking us to water it 3-4 times a day - it’ll be almost $1000 water bill.. It’s really hot and our neighbors water their yard 3 times and still the grass is burned where there is direct sun and we asked and they said it’ll be green again in fall. \nThey sent a long email that you have signed the lease saying you’ll keep the yard green. We have the house for another year and we assured them we’ll make sure its green. We’ll get lawn sodding done. \nThey are saying they’ll come every two weeks to check if we are watering 3 times. What can we do", "Landlords asking to water yard in summer 3 times Rented a nice house in Houston and yesterday landlords visited after 6 months for an inspection. We keep the house very clean and our landlords were very happy. we water the yard once a day and it’s so hot the grass has burned. They have a lot of trees and they are saying the trees are sad the leaves are not green\nSo they are asking us to water it 3-4 times a day - it’ll be almost $1000 water bill.. It’s really hot and our neighbors water their yard 3 times and still the grass is burned where there is direct sun and we asked and they said it’ll be green again in fall. \nThey sent a long email that you have signed the lease saying you’ll keep the yard green. We have the house for another year and we assured them we’ll make sure its green. We’ll get lawn sodding done. \nThey are saying they’ll come every two weeks to check if we are watering 3 times. What can we do", "Landlords asking to water yard in summer 3 times Rented a nice house in Houston and yesterday landlords visited after 6 months for an inspection. We keep the house very clean and our landlords were very happy. we water the yard once a day and it’s so hot the grass has burned. They have a lot of trees and they are saying the trees are sad the leaves are not green\nSo they are asking us to water it 3-4 times a day - it’ll be almost $1000 water bill.. It’s really hot and our neighbors water their yard 3 times and still the grass is burned where there is direct sun and we asked and they said it’ll be green again in fall. \nThey sent a long email that you have signed the lease saying you’ll keep the yard green. We have the house for another year and we assured them we’ll make sure its green. We’ll get lawn sodding done. \nThey are saying they’ll come every two weeks to check if we are watering 3 times. What can we do", "Landlords asking to water yard in summer 3 times Rented a nice house in Houston and yesterday landlords visited after 6 months for an inspection. We keep the house very clean and our landlords were very happy. we water the yard once a day and it’s so hot the grass has burned. They have a lot of trees and they are saying the trees are sad the leaves are not green\nSo they are asking us to water it 3-4 times a day - it’ll be almost $1000 water bill.. It’s really hot and our neighbors water their yard 3 times and still the grass is burned where there is direct sun and we asked and they said it’ll be green again in fall. \nThey sent a long email that you have signed the lease saying you’ll keep the yard green. We have the house for another year and we assured them we’ll make sure its green. We’ll get lawn sodding done. \nThey are saying they’ll come every two weeks to check if we are watering 3 times. What can we do", "Landlords asking to water yard in summer 3 times Rented a nice house in Houston and yesterday landlords visited after 6 months for an inspection. We keep the house very clean and our landlords were very happy. we water the yard once a day and it’s so hot the grass has burned. They have a lot of trees and they are saying the trees are sad the leaves are not green\nSo they are asking us to water it 3-4 times a day - it’ll be almost $1000 water bill.. It’s really hot and our neighbors water their yard 3 times and still the grass is burned where there is direct sun and we asked and they said it’ll be green again in fall. \nThey sent a long email that you have signed the lease saying you’ll keep the yard green. We have the house for another year and we assured them we’ll make sure its green. We’ll get lawn sodding done. \nThey are saying they’ll come every two weeks to check if we are watering 3 times. What can we do", "Landlords asking to water yard in summer 3 times Rented a nice house in Houston and yesterday landlords visited after 6 months for an inspection. We keep the house very clean and our landlords were very happy. we water the yard once a day and it’s so hot the grass has burned. They have a lot of trees and they are saying the trees are sad the leaves are not green\nSo they are asking us to water it 3-4 times a day - it’ll be almost $1000 water bill.. It’s really hot and our neighbors water their yard 3 times and still the grass is burned where there is direct sun and we asked and they said it’ll be green again in fall. \nThey sent a long email that you have signed the lease saying you’ll keep the yard green. We have the house for another year and we assured them we’ll make sure its green. We’ll get lawn sodding done. \nThey are saying they’ll come every two weeks to check if we are watering 3 times. What can we do", "Landlords asking to water yard in summer 3 times Rented a nice house in Houston and yesterday landlords visited after 6 months for an inspection. We keep the house very clean and our landlords were very happy. we water the yard once a day and it’s so hot the grass has burned. They have a lot of trees and they are saying the trees are sad the leaves are not green\nSo they are asking us to water it 3-4 times a day - it’ll be almost $1000 water bill.. It’s really hot and our neighbors water their yard 3 times and still the grass is burned where there is direct sun and we asked and they said it’ll be green again in fall. \nThey sent a long email that you have signed the lease saying you’ll keep the yard green. We have the house for another year and we assured them we’ll make sure its green. We’ll get lawn sodding done. \nThey are saying they’ll come every two weeks to check if we are watering 3 times. What can we do", "Landlords asking to water yard in summer 3 times Rented a nice house in Houston and yesterday landlords visited after 6 months for an inspection. We keep the house very clean and our landlords were very happy. we water the yard once a day and it’s so hot the grass has burned. They have a lot of trees and they are saying the trees are sad the leaves are not green\nSo they are asking us to water it 3-4 times a day - it’ll be almost $1000 water bill.. It’s really hot and our neighbors water their yard 3 times and still the grass is burned where there is direct sun and we asked and they said it’ll be green again in fall. \nThey sent a long email that you have signed the lease saying you’ll keep the yard green. We have the house for another year and we assured them we’ll make sure its green. We’ll get lawn sodding done. \nThey are saying they’ll come every two weeks to check if we are watering 3 times. What can we do", "Landlords asking to water yard in summer 3 times Rented a nice house in Houston and yesterday landlords visited after 6 months for an inspection. We keep the house very clean and our landlords were very happy. we water the yard once a day and it’s so hot the grass has burned. They have a lot of trees and they are saying the trees are sad the leaves are not green\nSo they are asking us to water it 3-4 times a day - it’ll be almost $1000 water bill.. It’s really hot and our neighbors water their yard 3 times and still the grass is burned where there is direct sun and we asked and they said it’ll be green again in fall. \nThey sent a long email that you have signed the lease saying you’ll keep the yard green. We have the house for another year and we assured them we’ll make sure its green. We’ll get lawn sodding done. \nThey are saying they’ll come every two weeks to check if we are watering 3 times. What can we do", "Landlords asking to water yard in summer 3 times Rented a nice house in Houston and yesterday landlords visited after 6 months for an inspection. We keep the house very clean and our landlords were very happy. we water the yard once a day and it’s so hot the grass has burned. They have a lot of trees and they are saying the trees are sad the leaves are not green\nSo they are asking us to water it 3-4 times a day - it’ll be almost $1000 water bill.. It’s really hot and our neighbors water their yard 3 times and still the grass is burned where there is direct sun and we asked and they said it’ll be green again in fall. \nThey sent a long email that you have signed the lease saying you’ll keep the yard green. We have the house for another year and we assured them we’ll make sure its green. We’ll get lawn sodding done. \nThey are saying they’ll come every two weeks to check if we are watering 3 times. What can we do" ]	[ "A lot of cities are enacting ordanances against this sort of waste. Definitely check to see if watering that often is even legal considering climate conditions. I take it you're responsible for the water bill?", "Does the lease say you'll keep the lawn \"green\", or \"healthy\"?\n\nIf the former - Have it professionally spray-painted green for a pittance, and never touch it again. Landlord wants grass, he can pay for the water himself.", "You will kill the grass watering multiple times a day. Grass needs more infrequent, deep, slow watering. The humidity will cause a fungus and kill it if you water often, among other issues like burning it.", "Read your rental agreement. Ask the landlord to adjust rent to compensate for the additional watering. Offer to prove the additional water expenditures with old bills. Or simply don't do it and risk losing your deposit. Honestly that is probably the cheapest option.", "If it's against local water ordinance, they can't make you do it, but you might have to go to court over it.", "Get a hose and slow drip water at the base of the trees. That will keep them alive at a less use of water. The lawn will bounce back from being dry", "Water the yard after dusk. It gives the water time to soak in before the sun gets a chance to evaporate it.", "Water it for 1 minute at 7am, 1 minute at 7:02 and 1 more minute at 7:04. Watered 3 times a day, simple.", "Spray paint it green.... but honestly we need the verbage of the contract to really try and help. In Texas they can't take away your deposit or evict you because the grass isn't green. If it has nothing to do with health or safety (which grass color doesnt or even the \"health\" of the grass) they can't legally make you. If you signed a contract that said specifically the grass has to stay healthy, you're fucked and you have to comply. If not, all that can happen is they don't choose you for next years tenant. \n\nI'm not a lawyer. This isn't legal advice.", "I'm just north of you in Montgomery county. I find that letting the grass grow taller( like the highest or 2nd highest seeing that your lawnmower will go,) helps the grass be able to handle dry conditions. Scalped \"putting green\" yards around me, that get watered everyday, also seem to brown and die faster. I'm watering twice a week right now, but this year has been exceptional. The last few years I didn't water at all until almost August. But it just hasn't rained in weeks, and water is cheaper than sod installation.\n\nSo try taller cut, deeper watering, at dawn or just before. \n\nAlso, make sure you don't have a broken sprinkler head just shooting water in the air when you aren't watching... I rarely have a water bill over $100, unless something's broken.", "Make sure to only water when it’s still partially dark, either early morning or later evening. If you’re watering during the heat of the day it will burn and quickly evaporate.", "I don't think there is much you can do if it's specified in the lease. I would consult a lawyer I suppose.", "Find one of those legal advice websites and find out exactly what your legal obligations are in this situation. I use them all the time and the cost is minimal; I think the last time I used one I paid 5 bucks. Can't remember the name of the site but if you google you'll get a few. They'll connect you with a real estate attorney who practices in Houston. You'll then know exactly what you can or can't do. Lawyering up is awesome!!", "Are you watering early in the morning or late at night? That'll have a better effect than 3-4 times a day." ]	[ 17, 15, 12, 11, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Catching up on common knowledge I procrastinated during middle school and high school, and on top of that, the subjects that I lack common knowledge on, mainly geography and history, were learned in a foreign language. Once I hit university and started studying science subjects, those other subjects became sort of irrelevant and they never crossed my mind again. I can't identify oceans, continents and countries on maps, and it's really embarrassing. When people make a joke referencing a historical event or cultural issue, I'm clueless and IF I remember the joke, MAYBE I'll look it up on Google and get it.\n\nAre there any books or, well actually, any resources I can go to to help me catch up on these things? I have about 3 months before I return to university, so I figured this would be a nice opportunity to do it.\n\nThanks", "Catching up on common knowledge I procrastinated during middle school and high school, and on top of that, the subjects that I lack common knowledge on, mainly geography and history, were learned in a foreign language. Once I hit university and started studying science subjects, those other subjects became sort of irrelevant and they never crossed my mind again. I can't identify oceans, continents and countries on maps, and it's really embarrassing. When people make a joke referencing a historical event or cultural issue, I'm clueless and IF I remember the joke, MAYBE I'll look it up on Google and get it.\n\nAre there any books or, well actually, any resources I can go to to help me catch up on these things? I have about 3 months before I return to university, so I figured this would be a nice opportunity to do it.\n\nThanks", "Catching up on common knowledge I procrastinated during middle school and high school, and on top of that, the subjects that I lack common knowledge on, mainly geography and history, were learned in a foreign language. Once I hit university and started studying science subjects, those other subjects became sort of irrelevant and they never crossed my mind again. I can't identify oceans, continents and countries on maps, and it's really embarrassing. When people make a joke referencing a historical event or cultural issue, I'm clueless and IF I remember the joke, MAYBE I'll look it up on Google and get it.\n\nAre there any books or, well actually, any resources I can go to to help me catch up on these things? I have about 3 months before I return to university, so I figured this would be a nice opportunity to do it.\n\nThanks", "Catching up on common knowledge I procrastinated during middle school and high school, and on top of that, the subjects that I lack common knowledge on, mainly geography and history, were learned in a foreign language. Once I hit university and started studying science subjects, those other subjects became sort of irrelevant and they never crossed my mind again. I can't identify oceans, continents and countries on maps, and it's really embarrassing. When people make a joke referencing a historical event or cultural issue, I'm clueless and IF I remember the joke, MAYBE I'll look it up on Google and get it.\n\nAre there any books or, well actually, any resources I can go to to help me catch up on these things? I have about 3 months before I return to university, so I figured this would be a nice opportunity to do it.\n\nThanks" ]	[ "Crash Course, Today I Found Out, Veritasium, Mental Floss, KnowledgeHub, SciShow (and associated space and psychology channels) and MinuteEarth are all fantastic YouTube channels filled to the brim with everything from world history to random trivia.\n\n", "John McDonald Fraser’s Flashman series are all historically accurate with the main character of the books being fictional. Just wonderful unputdownable reads where you learn history without realising you are learning. ", "Got an Android device? Download \"Endless Quiz\", and every time you get a question wrong, click the \"learn\" button. The paid version allows you to choose categories but the free one is fine for general knowledge. No celeb / media / pop culture questions, so this stuff all has some merit to it.\nIt keeps a chart of your overall score and you can see where you rank compared to other players, so you'll also understand how far behind you may or may not be.", "For history, find a subject you really find interesting then get a highly recommend or well reviewed book about it. It does not have to be a comprehensive textbook. For example, 'Band of Brothers' is a light but compelling read, and as you follow the story of these characters, you will pick up the sequence of historical events as well as the geography of their travels through Europe. (\"They sure had to fight to take that causeway - what's a causeway, why did the Normandy region of France have them?\") Or the book 'Comanche Moon', the story of one Native People that teaches you much about the geography, cultural upheaval, and politics of 1800's North America.\n\nRead because it is interesting, not because it is good for you.\n\n" ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to tell a quick story and have the maximum effect? [Social]\n\nOften, I go to tell a story I find funny / interesting / important and because of my delivery, it is met with blank faces. Any help?", "How to tell a quick story and have the maximum effect? [Social]\n\nOften, I go to tell a story I find funny / interesting / important and because of my delivery, it is met with blank faces. Any help?", "How to tell a quick story and have the maximum effect? [Social]\n\nOften, I go to tell a story I find funny / interesting / important and because of my delivery, it is met with blank faces. Any help?", "How to tell a quick story and have the maximum effect? [Social]\n\nOften, I go to tell a story I find funny / interesting / important and because of my delivery, it is met with blank faces. Any help?", "How to tell a quick story and have the maximum effect? [Social]\n\nOften, I go to tell a story I find funny / interesting / important and because of my delivery, it is met with blank faces. Any help?" ]	[ "Don't get bogged down in details. You're telling a story to entertain, so precision is unnecessary. Yesterday, last week, three years ago, nobody cares when it happened. If the details are necessary, spend as little time on them as possible. Don't be afraid to exaggerate a little; all good stories are exaggerated to some degree or another. Lastly, if your story ends with 'you had to be there', it isn't a story worth telling.", "I would say practice story telling either by actually telling stories or writing them down. You'll find when writing stories down, and by reading them now and then, you'll think of better ways to say things and you will know the story inside out. Often it's the uncertainty of what bit you're gonna tell when, and the order, that makes telling a story feel awkward. Also, if you're finding something boring to write, the odds are your listeners will find it boring too.", "Work on becoming charismatic, things like body language, facial expressions, hand movements, and eye contact can go a long way. Try looking to yourself in the mirror with a smile on your face and practice having a conversation with yourself each day, as stupid as it may look, it will really help to improve your delivery on story telling or things in general. ", "Come join us at toastmasters. The only way to get good at telling stories is by doing it. You will start with giving a one minute speech. One minute is really hard if you are going to have a proper beginning middle and end sort of thing. \n\nBut if you go and speak regularly, you will get much better. ", "Don't tell the same story to the same person. Figure out the timing, if someone is engaged in something else give them time to shift their attention.\nTry to keep it simple, and maybe leave a little room for discussion. If that's what your going for, don't railroad through the story preemptively answering unasked questions." ]	[ 13, 5, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to avoid political discussions with family without being rude Every holiday I face the same dilemma with some relatives whose political views I disagree with and, frankly, find offensive. I do not wish to discuss politics with them whatsoever, but they feel the need to try to \"convert\" me to their way of thinking. I've tried to rationally defend my views, or at least to change the subject when they bring up politics, but they are relentless. I'm dreading another painful holiday dinner listening to their craziness...any tips for how to handle this situation gracefully?", "How to avoid political discussions with family without being rude Every holiday I face the same dilemma with some relatives whose political views I disagree with and, frankly, find offensive. I do not wish to discuss politics with them whatsoever, but they feel the need to try to \"convert\" me to their way of thinking. I've tried to rationally defend my views, or at least to change the subject when they bring up politics, but they are relentless. I'm dreading another painful holiday dinner listening to their craziness...any tips for how to handle this situation gracefully?", "How to avoid political discussions with family without being rude Every holiday I face the same dilemma with some relatives whose political views I disagree with and, frankly, find offensive. I do not wish to discuss politics with them whatsoever, but they feel the need to try to \"convert\" me to their way of thinking. I've tried to rationally defend my views, or at least to change the subject when they bring up politics, but they are relentless. I'm dreading another painful holiday dinner listening to their craziness...any tips for how to handle this situation gracefully?" ]	[ "I had the same issue and 'solved' it with unresponsiveness when approached with the subject. They did not care for my explanation of \"I simply don't want to discuss this with you.\" ", "If it's your house, you can let them know that politics are literally \"off the table\" during dinner. If they want to discuss amongst themselves afterward, fine. But not at the table, and even afterward, you're not participating. Period. Say it with a smile :)\n\nI used this approach last time we had company over (the men at the table discussed politics at our last get-together and it sapped the enjoyment out of the evening). Laying down some ground rules worked. We had a great time together.\n\nIf you're going to their place, different story. In that case, you don't have to participate in the discussion. Personally, if it was that awkward, I'd probably seat myself next to someone who would be interested in talking about something else.\n\nSometimes discussing politics can be productive and informative. But when people come out swinging and pushing their views, it takes the pleasure out of it. People can agree to disagree.", "Excuse yourself from the discussion. Tell them that you appreciate their fervor/civic mindiness, however, you wish to refrain from such talk since you are here to enjoy family not politics.\n\nThis is usually an issue for me since I'm getting a PhD in political theory and my family doesn't get that I talk about politics in a vastly different way as an academic (I talk about the merits of a commercial society or democratic governance as opposed to specific tax plans or voting requirement)." ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Who to trust? First of all, if this is not the correct form to post, I apologize. And I know that I won't find the answer for my problems here, but at least a tip about how to solve them)\n\nLately, I'm feeling full of distrust towards people from outside of my family core. I don't even talk with \"friends\" I normally hang out with, 'cause I think they only need me to make fun of me or things like that (I usually stay at home and they are just the opposite, so it's a bit of a clash).\n\nMy boss asked me to go by his bar to have a drink (I'm currently unemployed because of COVID) but since last year it was tough for me at work, nor I trust him nor his \"circle\".\n\nI feel hopeless (maybe paranoid) in terms of how to handle this kind of situation. Like, everyone else outside is a threat.\n\n\n\nI appreciate your feedback, just like in the previous thread", "Who to trust? First of all, if this is not the correct form to post, I apologize. And I know that I won't find the answer for my problems here, but at least a tip about how to solve them)\n\nLately, I'm feeling full of distrust towards people from outside of my family core. I don't even talk with \"friends\" I normally hang out with, 'cause I think they only need me to make fun of me or things like that (I usually stay at home and they are just the opposite, so it's a bit of a clash).\n\nMy boss asked me to go by his bar to have a drink (I'm currently unemployed because of COVID) but since last year it was tough for me at work, nor I trust him nor his \"circle\".\n\nI feel hopeless (maybe paranoid) in terms of how to handle this kind of situation. Like, everyone else outside is a threat.\n\n\n\nI appreciate your feedback, just like in the previous thread", "Who to trust? First of all, if this is not the correct form to post, I apologize. And I know that I won't find the answer for my problems here, but at least a tip about how to solve them)\n\nLately, I'm feeling full of distrust towards people from outside of my family core. I don't even talk with \"friends\" I normally hang out with, 'cause I think they only need me to make fun of me or things like that (I usually stay at home and they are just the opposite, so it's a bit of a clash).\n\nMy boss asked me to go by his bar to have a drink (I'm currently unemployed because of COVID) but since last year it was tough for me at work, nor I trust him nor his \"circle\".\n\nI feel hopeless (maybe paranoid) in terms of how to handle this kind of situation. Like, everyone else outside is a threat.\n\n\n\nI appreciate your feedback, just like in the previous thread" ]	[ "I think you are confusing \"trust\" with other terms here. Antisocial is one. This is kind of where I am personally. I can converse with other people----I have to with my line of work--- but I dont like to socially. I really just dont like people that much I guess, dont know why. Could be \"exceptionalism\", but I dont think I am better than others in any way I know of. Am over 50 now, and have been this way most of my life. Hell, I was a popular \"jock\" in school, but still kept my distance. They termed people like me then \"loners\", and I still am. I would much rather be this way than be co-dependent and have to be surrounded by others all the time though, so its not a bad thing in my book. Good luck, be happy and comfortable within your own skin---thats all that matters.", "Well, trust is earned. Much like interest on money. If you don't put money in a savings account, you won't earn any interest. If you don't put yourself out there...you won't learn to trust anyone.\n\nThe real question , i think, is HOW to put yourself out there in a way that you feel comfortable.\n\nI'd recommend service. Community service, neighborly service, do something for a friend that they wouldn't expect. If you have a roommate, pick up one of their chores and do it for them. The quickest way to develop trust and relationship between anyone is selfless service.", "It's hard to know if you're overreacting or indeed you're surrounded by an untrustworthy group of people. If you're being bullied by your friends, then perhaps you need new friends. \n\nYou may want to talk to someone about your situation more in depth, like a therapist. They can help you sort out any personal issues that may be affecting your friendships, or can help you better identify people you should trust and spend time with." ]	[ 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n", "How can I avoid \"snoozing\" too much? College started and I'm facing a huge problem. It began during my vacation and I can't drop it. Everytime I wake up I snooze the hell out of my alarm clock. I snooze it until I really have to get up (which is often too late). It's not that I don't get enough sleep and I'm just too tired to get up. For example: I've went to bed at 1 am last night and set my alarm to 8:30am, so solid 7 1/2 hours of sleep. When I woke up I didn't feel tired, I just don't wanted to get up. So I pushed the snooze button the whole morning. I finally got up at 12am. My lecture starts at 1pm, so my day is \"over\" now. It feels like a huge waste of time because I didn't need the sleep, I was just too lazy to get out of bed even though I had better things to do.\n\nI've tried sleepti.me, it helped to find a slightly better sleep-schedule but my snoozeproblem is still there. Like I said before, it's not that I don't get enough sleep I just sleep too much. There's no motivation for me to get up (which is stupid). Everytime I finally get up I'm angry about myself because I've wasted so much time.\n\nSo how do you handle these problems?\n\n" ]	[ "I stopped using the snooze button all together. My alarm goes off, I get up. No second, third, forth or fifth chances. \n\nIt's remarkable the difference it makes. If you take away the option to snooze, you don't do it.", "immediately sit up and shout \"YEAH!\"\n\ndisclaimer: you may not remember to do this, and even if you do you may not want to", "That's not enough sleep for most people. Put your alarm clock at the other end of your room so you need to get out of bed to shut it up.", "I had the same problem and started putting the alarm clock / my phone a couple of meters away from my bed (e.g. on a shelf). This way I had to get up and usually did not go back to bed afterwards. After a year or so, I got used to immidiately getting up. ", "I set the 'snooze timer' on my phone alarm to 4 minutes. The alarm comes back so fast that I'm still awake and begrudgingly get up. I never snooze more than once now.", "Use Alarmy app for Iphone or Android. When you set it you take a picture of something then you can't turn it off until you take that same picture again. I use the toilet since once I'm there you can't not get your morning pee on. ", "Try getting an alarm that isn't going to abruptly wake you up, like those buzzers or old fashioned bells. When I was waking up at 6:30 AM 5 days a week, I used the app SleepGenius and its alarm woke you up peacefully. It plays a variation of nature sounds (like bird chirping) with piano music. I was afraid it might be too quiet to wake me up at first, but no matter how bad my insomnia was that night, I never had to hit a snooze button ever again (because the app doesn't have one lol)", "Just get yourself motivated man. What I do is set an alarm half an hour before I wanna get up and an alarm when I need to get up. I wake up turn the first alarm off and then snooze for a bit then when the second one goes off I get up. However, be sure to keep track of the alarms that go off. More than once I have scared the shit out of myself because I thought I turned off the second alarm and fell asleep.\n\nAnother thing I did was wake up half an hour before I wanted to getup and when my alarm went off I'd watch an episode of Archer and then when I finished i'd get up.", "If you have an android phone, there's an alarm app you can get where you have to do math problems to snooze or turn off the alarm.", "I triple love my snooze button. So I set my alarm 30 minutes prior to having to get up and snooze away from 4:30am - 5am. I set my phone which I leave across the room with a super obnoxious alarm to 5am and have to get up to turn it off. Sometimes I get up just before 5am just so I don't have to hear the phone alarm.", "I put a mouse trap on top of the clock for a while. Also, switch to one of many apps that can require you to do something to snooze or simply disable it.", "I place my alarm in a different part of the room. This way, I have to get up to turn it off. If you are using your phone as an alarm, you can make it even more annoying by setting a song you can't stand as your tone. ", "Get a sleep test. You may not be sleeping when you think you are sleeping.\n\nThis was a problem for me for about 10 years until I got it sorted out.", "Get a biobrite alarm clock. It is basically a lamp that will dim slowly to reach its full brightness over the course of a half hour. Once the half hour is up the lamp will start to beep in case you don't wake up from the light (I usually set my phone alarm for this time too). It makes for a peaceful wake up and there is no blaring alarm that makes you jump out of your skin.", "Aside from getting more sleep, put your alarm clock across the room as others have said. Then do an easy task like check social media on your phone or whatever you enjoy but doesn't require effort. It's baby steps. It takes 30 days for a routine to become a habit. ", "- More sleep \n- Louder alarm, farther away \n- Some kind of gimick alarm (i.e. stand to turn off, solve math to turn off, or \"runaway\" alarm)\n- I've also found that getting an alarm that plays music (provided that you don't sleep with music already) can help", "People in this thread saying that 7,5 hours is not enough are fucking retarded, that's the ideal amount of sleep.\n\nBaffles my mind when morons think 12 hours of sleep is good for your body, holy shit.\n" ]	[ 13, 10, 7, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -2 ]	safe
[ "How do to approach a supervisor about miss conduct of another? I recently received information that a colleague of mine has lied about having an emergency medical situation so that they could take the past week off and leave town. I feel that this is negatively impacting our work environment and am not sure how to approach our supervisor. \n\nOn one hand I feel as though I am breaking some non spoken code of friendship, but on the other hand am annoyed with how much extra work this has cause me and the other people I work with. To top it all off they have been posting pictures the entire time of there trip on social media, but are smart enough to make them private so I can not leak them to our supervisors anonymously. \n\nDo u bite the bullet and hope karma gets them, or should I approach my supervisor with the information I have? ", "How do to approach a supervisor about miss conduct of another? I recently received information that a colleague of mine has lied about having an emergency medical situation so that they could take the past week off and leave town. I feel that this is negatively impacting our work environment and am not sure how to approach our supervisor. \n\nOn one hand I feel as though I am breaking some non spoken code of friendship, but on the other hand am annoyed with how much extra work this has cause me and the other people I work with. To top it all off they have been posting pictures the entire time of there trip on social media, but are smart enough to make them private so I can not leak them to our supervisors anonymously. \n\nDo u bite the bullet and hope karma gets them, or should I approach my supervisor with the information I have? ", "How do to approach a supervisor about miss conduct of another? I recently received information that a colleague of mine has lied about having an emergency medical situation so that they could take the past week off and leave town. I feel that this is negatively impacting our work environment and am not sure how to approach our supervisor. \n\nOn one hand I feel as though I am breaking some non spoken code of friendship, but on the other hand am annoyed with how much extra work this has cause me and the other people I work with. To top it all off they have been posting pictures the entire time of there trip on social media, but are smart enough to make them private so I can not leak them to our supervisors anonymously. \n\nDo u bite the bullet and hope karma gets them, or should I approach my supervisor with the information I have? ", "How do to approach a supervisor about miss conduct of another? I recently received information that a colleague of mine has lied about having an emergency medical situation so that they could take the past week off and leave town. I feel that this is negatively impacting our work environment and am not sure how to approach our supervisor. \n\nOn one hand I feel as though I am breaking some non spoken code of friendship, but on the other hand am annoyed with how much extra work this has cause me and the other people I work with. To top it all off they have been posting pictures the entire time of there trip on social media, but are smart enough to make them private so I can not leak them to our supervisors anonymously. \n\nDo u bite the bullet and hope karma gets them, or should I approach my supervisor with the information I have? " ]	[ "Are you sure they lied? For example, a person can catch up with old friends despite being in town to attend a funeral. People can be mentally unwell and socialising is very crucial to wellness, etc.\n\nI wouldn't tell in any case. ", "To be honest, I think you should snitch. I probably would, unless I really liked the person and wanted to cover for them. You're doing them a favor by not saying anything. Do they deserve a favor from you? If so, don't say anything. If they don't deserve any favors from you though I say go for it. \n\nOne alternate option you could do is let your colleagues in on what you know. That way they'll all get pissed and one of them will probably cause a ruckus so you don't have to. \n\nI am a supervisor. I can tell you that it's not unusual at all for people to \"snitch\" at work. It happens all the time. It wouldn't stand out to me if you snitched to me on someone else, and I wouldn't think any less of you. As long as you're not a daily tattler, then you're normal. Don't worry about it. I'd say on average, a typical employee will snitch or complain about another every 3 months or so. Then you have the outliers who never have feedback on their peers, and those who have something to say all the time. So don't feel like you can't say anything because it's against some sort of code. I can tell you it's very common. And I do think this crosses the line enough to be worth telling. If someone told me this, I'd be appreciative to have been told. \n\nOne thing - I would try to tell them in person instead of e-mail. I don't like sending anything in writing or e-mail when complaining or telling on someone if I can avoid it. It's too easy for your message to get forwarded around. I wouldn't want my snitch e-mail to be forwarded to the person in question, with \"what's this all about?\" on top of it. \n\nBtw, whatever you decide to do, take screenshots of those posts. A little blackmail material saved in the back pocket never hurt anyone. ", "My take on this : only ever report stuff that has a direct, strongly negative impact on you (example : serious harassment or threat of any sort). The kind of stuff you would go to the boss and say : if this is tolerated here, I'll have to go.", "Confront them about how it affected you, and ensure them that this is the last time they'll get away with it. Don't go to your boss immediately, since it'll harm your reputation more than anything. But feel free to use it for leverage to offload some work onto the co-worker, within reason." ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to get rid of bugs flying around outside my window I live on the third floor of a college dorm and my desk (which is fixed in place) faces a large window. There are always mosquitoes, flies, and spiders outside and it's incredibly distracting especially when the sun is out. The window is fixed in place and cannot be opened. \n\nAny suggestions for removing the bugs or hiding them from my sight?\n\n", "How to get rid of bugs flying around outside my window I live on the third floor of a college dorm and my desk (which is fixed in place) faces a large window. There are always mosquitoes, flies, and spiders outside and it's incredibly distracting especially when the sun is out. The window is fixed in place and cannot be opened. \n\nAny suggestions for removing the bugs or hiding them from my sight?\n\n" ]	[ "Step 1: Quit leaving the Mountain Dew cans on your window sill.\n\nStep 2: Take a shower. For most gamer otakus, a clean body is a sure sign that flies will not linger around your gamer temple. \n\nStep 3: Make sure your room is clean.", "If you cant open the window, which seems like an real safety concern there wont be much you can do. Ask your college facilities dept to handle it" ]	[ 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Fast Sunburn Recovery I have my senior prom on saturday and I mistakenly was out in the sun for a few hours yesterday. It's not that bad, but a little noticeable. Anything I can do to get it to heal by saturday?", "Fast Sunburn Recovery I have my senior prom on saturday and I mistakenly was out in the sun for a few hours yesterday. It's not that bad, but a little noticeable. Anything I can do to get it to heal by saturday?", "Fast Sunburn Recovery I have my senior prom on saturday and I mistakenly was out in the sun for a few hours yesterday. It's not that bad, but a little noticeable. Anything I can do to get it to heal by saturday?", "Fast Sunburn Recovery I have my senior prom on saturday and I mistakenly was out in the sun for a few hours yesterday. It's not that bad, but a little noticeable. Anything I can do to get it to heal by saturday?", "Fast Sunburn Recovery I have my senior prom on saturday and I mistakenly was out in the sun for a few hours yesterday. It's not that bad, but a little noticeable. Anything I can do to get it to heal by saturday?" ]	[ "Pour some vinegar into a washrag. Let it soak in for a few seconds. Hold the washrag against the sunburned area for a few minutes, and allow the vinegar to soak into your skin. Repeat this every few hours for a day or so, and you'll be right as rain!\n\nYes, it smells a bit, but the smell dissipates a few minutes after it soaks in. Word of caution: DO NOT do this for severe sunburns, only light to moderate sunburns.", "Voltaren gel reduces swelling/inflammation (which causes a lot of the red) which soothes and allows the skin to heal quicker. Drink tons of water and use some bio oils/after sun/aloe versa type product. Also stay out of the sun. ", "I've heard that putting green tea on the sunburn may work...but it doesn't sound very promising. And i've also heard this with milk.", "Fish oil is one of the best things to can take for your skin. Everyday use can prevent and reduce inflammation caused by sunburns. With regular use you will notice healthier hair and nails.\n", "Green-colored correcting foundation. Follow the other tips (mainly the aloe vera, preferably fresh and straight from the plant), but the redness may not fade by then. Get yourself green foundation and visit /r/MakeupAddiction for tips on how to even out your complexion for the big day." ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to stay up after an all nighter. Sometimes I need to pull of all nighters to get work done, but I can just never stay up long after sun rise. I have a pretty high caffeine tolerance, coffee and energy drinks have little to no effect on me, so I think caffeine isn't much of an option, unless there's something that's stronger than coffee and energy drinks that doesn't kill me. Any tips to help me last through the day?", "How to stay up after an all nighter. Sometimes I need to pull of all nighters to get work done, but I can just never stay up long after sun rise. I have a pretty high caffeine tolerance, coffee and energy drinks have little to no effect on me, so I think caffeine isn't much of an option, unless there's something that's stronger than coffee and energy drinks that doesn't kill me. Any tips to help me last through the day?", "How to stay up after an all nighter. Sometimes I need to pull of all nighters to get work done, but I can just never stay up long after sun rise. I have a pretty high caffeine tolerance, coffee and energy drinks have little to no effect on me, so I think caffeine isn't much of an option, unless there's something that's stronger than coffee and energy drinks that doesn't kill me. Any tips to help me last through the day?" ]	[ "Get some real drugs. Speed or crystal will keep you up.\n\nAlternatively, don't pull all nighters, they are stupid. You feel tired for a reason dude. That's like taking a chainsaw to your cock, realising it hurts and then trying to find a way to push through the pain. You shouldn't be chopping your cock off, alright?", "Cocaine. I actually used to blow coke when pulling an all nighter. Same focus of adderall, plus all the wonderful joys of cocaine. Keep it to no more than 1 line per hour else you're asking for trouble.", "Leave the house, go somewhere with a buddy or two so you don't lie down on the couch /bed. Granted, you might feel like a zombie for a couple of hours, but when you return home your warm bed will be expecting you with open arms." ]	[ 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "What medical services should I go for so that I can meet my health insurance deductible of $200 without going broke? ", "What medical services should I go for so that I can meet my health insurance deductible of $200 without going broke? " ]	[ "You have to pay that $200 deductible weather it takes you 3 office visits to meet it or meet $200 at an er/urgent care visit.", "You won’t pay the entire $200 at any one doctor’s visit for an exam unless you have some kind of procedure done. If you see one of your insurance’s preferred providers, they have contracted percentages they have to write off before billing you the deductible/coinsurance/copay. Preventive visits like a yearly physical are supposed to be covered in full without going against your deductible." ]	[ 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. 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Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. 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", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. 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Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. 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Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. 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Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. 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Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. 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Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. 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Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. 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Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. ", "How To Handle Someone That Tells Long, Boring Stories I'm around a family member that is in the habit of telling long, boring stories. I can go 30 minutes without saying a word, and they'll keep on going. Even if I do reply or try to change the subject, another long and boring story happens. \n\nSometimes I'll even leave a room, or it's clear (to me) that I'm trying to do something else, and even if I've made it out of the room, they'll keep on going. Some days I have the patience to listen, but some days, I just want to escape. " ]	[ "I know that feeling OP. It reminds of the time I caught the ferry over to Shelbyville. I needed a new heel for my shoe, so, I decided to go to Morganville, which is what they called Shelbyville in those days. So I tied an onion to my belt, which was the style at the time. Now, to take the ferry cost a nickel, and in those days, nickels had pictures of bumblebees on 'em. \"Give me five bees for a quarter,\" you'd say. Now where were we? Oh yeah: the important thing was I had an onion on my belt, which was the style at the time. They didn't have white onions because of the war. The only thing you could get was those big yellow ones.", "I've always been very blunt with people in saying: \"You're telling a short story the long way around.\"\n\nThey get the point. Either stop, or wrap it up.", "If you are suffering in a conversation, it is possible to make the other person suffer with the right kinds of questions. Break into their story and ask about specific details. It is possible to completely derail a story, or maybe move it into something more interesting. If you really want to be a jerk, ask questions that show doubt of the validity of the story altogether.", "Oh lordy, I had a co-worker who did this, except he had a habit of taking looong pauses in the middle of his story. Then he would look at you expectantly, but the moment you started to say anything he would interrupt you and continue with the story. The kicker was that he would wait as long as it took, and only restart once he could interrupt you.\n\nHe was a really nice old guy and I don't think that this was deliberate, just a weird personality defect.", "A woman that lives by me begs for money on the street. She gets into this enormously long winded story, that is 100% bullshit, and it works because eventually people give her money just to shut her up. She never remembered me, and would always stop me as I waited for the same stoplight to change, so I was trapped. I never have cash on me, and have never given her a dime, and she's done this to me over a course of around 6 months.\n\nFinally one day, I was absolutely fed up. I pasted on the biggest smile any human could muster, and summoned an inhuman amount of charisma, and greeted her like an old friend, including a wide armed tight hug. Needless to say she was absolutely shocked, and after I basically interrogated her on every bit of her story (Great to see youre doing okay, name! How's the baby doing? Is your ex still locking down your account? That prick, we should call the police on his stupid ass again and write up an actual report to make sure you stay safe and all that! Etc,etc) Leaving her stumbling over replies before carrying on over her instead, I ranted until the walk light turns green. After another hug and chipper farewell, I walked away without waiting for her to say bye. She remembers me now, and actively avoids making contact with me again. I guess she doesn't like people wasting her time. Go figure.\n\nTl:Dr- Slaughtered the neighborhood beggar with all the kindness I could muster. She finally remembers my face now, and just avoids me.", "My wife informs me that I am a master of escaping these situations. A few tips off the top of my head. Avoid sitting with anyone if possible. In social situations always be standing so you can walk away. Know your talkers before you interact with them. Greet them, ask how they've been and once they start going into their latest novel, just say, hey hey, at ease sailor, I asked how you were not what you did for the past 14,000 minutes. Then ask if they're going to survive if you go grab a drink? Ask if you can get anything for them. Then go get one and say, catch up with you later. Always be aware of other people you know that are coming and going. Say hello to everyone. Waive. If you are trapped, use one of those acquaintances as an escape, \"oh there's bill, I have to talk with him before I forget and upset my wife as a result. We're going to finish this story so hang on to it.\" Most people aren't long talkers. Eye contact. Take it easy with that. Always be scanning the room. Give your eye contact sparingly or when the story is emotional and warmth is required. But just be aware of the rest of the room in case something comes up to let you depart reasonably. Indirect or direct: there are plenty of ways to escape. The main thing you need is the conviction that you are there to socialize not babysit a narcissist. That's ultimately the personality disorder that results in talking too much. Look that up on Wikipedia. NPD. Once you realize what's going on, you won't feel so bad using strategies to politely escape it. ", "Buy a pack of business cards that say \"stop talking.\" Keep a few of them in your wallet for situations like that. ", "This is my mother in law! She talks more than anyone I have ever met about the most inane stuff. I.e.: If you put on a hat she'll go: \"Oh my friend has a nice hat, she has 2 kids, one is very into watching too much tv. TV, I had one and I got it at a yard sale. The yard sale also had buttons. I sewed a button on my shirt in 1987.\" She will literally never stop talking. I will get up and leave the room, doesn't matter. It just starts again the next time I see her. Or she'll follow me. So exhausting. \n\nMost of these tips are for people who can escape. Any LPT for when the talker is in your house but you still have to be kind of polite?!? Help!!", "My company's HSE manager is like this. It's so bad that we all know to save a fellow employee from him by having them paged after a few minutes. Although some may tell you that honesty is the best policy, hurt feelings reports are long and lead to future awkward moments of resentment. That's why dishonesty is the way to go. \n\nNo doubt your other family members probably feel the same. Make a pact with them to help each other. For moments alone, set your phone ringer to silent and start answering fake calls even when he's not telling stories so that when you do start doing it to get away, it won't seem so contrived.", "In about 1 in a 1000 of these cases you can actually get the person who talks nonstop to stop doing it by bringing it to their attention, so I do not recommend that route. No point hurting someone's feelings when it likely won't solve the problem anyway.\n\nThe only thing I have found that is guaranteed to work is \"being an asshole.\" I know it's not ideal, especially with family, but your options are either \"be an asshole\" or \"suck it up and listen.\" The \"I have to go right now\" excuse only works so many times, and against a true bag of hot air has almost no effect whatsoever.\n\nWhat you need to understand going ahead from this point is this: people who talk at you nonstop are being, selfish, rude, inconsiderate assholes. It's a fact. They are talking to hear themselves. They don't care what you think, or what you would rather be doing. The only thing they care about is vomiting their words all over your face. And I'm sorry, but if you do that you're a great big douche-bag in my book, and I have no compunction about treating you like one.\n\nMy wife's best friend is this way. She. Never. Shuts. Up.\n\nEver.\n\nThere could be a child shot in front of you mid-conversation and that bitch wouldn't stop to let you do CPR. It's unreal. But through perseverance and focus I have made it so that she no longer talks to me at all. The way I was able to arrange this was by being a bigger asshole than her.\n\nFor about a solid month, every time she started droning on I would glare at her and say \"shut up.\" The first time I did it she laughed and kept going. So then I just kept repeating it, \"Shut up. Shut up. Shut up. Shut up.\" Right over her big fat mouth flapping. I had had enough. I did this every time. Sometimes I would vary it somewhat, but the gist of it was making her feel completely unwelcome in my presence. Even if that meant stuffing my fingers in my ears and repeating \"Stop talking. Stop talking. Stop talking.\" over and over.\n\nResults are mixed. She no longer talks to me at all, but she also thinks I'm the biggest asshole in the world. I'm surprisingly okay with that outcome.\n\nYour mileage will vary. Especially with a family member. But it is important to realize that they are being incredibly rude by behaving the way they do. Two wrongs may not make a right, but they may at least spare you from having to listen to an endless talker. There's no easy way to stop them. You have to be willing to cross a line. It's not elegant. It's not nice. But, if you do it, I promise you it works.", "Personally, I just interrupt them by starting with their name. Then I tell them that I would love to hear the rest but that I'm late to return some videotapes and then sort of walk away urgently while looking slightly panicked. Works everytime.", "I used to do this. I remember my dad holding up his hand and saying \"Son...nobody gives a fuck.\" I got better at judging the interest of people as I spoke, but now I have low self-esteem.", "Not sure if this will work, but you could try interjecting with questions that move the story along. It shows interest and might just get the story rolling. Ex: \"so what did you do after that?\" \"how did he respond?\" etc", "My grandpa does this, bless him. He adds super unnecessary details and since he's old he sometimes has to pause the story to remember the unnecessary detail (sigh). I deal with it by applying a mixture of patience and direct feedback. I'll actively listen to his story, but if he spends too much time on a given aspect I'll just tell him to move on to the next part or to not worry about that detail.", "As someone prone to long stories:\n\nYou can do what my sister does. She's rude as hell in her own right, and doesn't do this on purpose, but it's incredibly effective...\n\n*Constantly ask random, asinine questions, but don't wait for a complete answer before asking another.\n\n\"So, I was walking down the road, and...\"\n\n\"Which road\"\n\n\"Oh, it was Frederi....\"\n\n\"Why were you walking?\"\n\n\"...ck Street. Um, because it...\"\n\n\"What time of day?\"\n\n\"Ok, it doesn't matter. My point is that we have a new mail carrier and she went to high school with you.\"\n\nNothing will make me wrap it up and get to the point more quickly.", "On those days you want to escape, try telling him you need to go to the bathroom. \nThen sit on the toilet for hours browsing reddit.", "Simply tell them straight up, be polite but firm; it's easy and everybody is happy.\n\nHas always worked here.", "My dad was this way. He always said I was a good conversationalist even though I rarely got a word in. Sometimes I did. Others comment that I'm a good conversationalist. Dad died 10 years ago. I miss him.", "And sometimes people tell stories by repeating every phrase, \"And she said, blah-blah-blah. But I said, blah-blah-blah.\" And so on. Paraphrasing is you friend!", "1. Smile and say, \"(Name), give me the 5 minute cliffnotes version of the story.\" You can change the amount of time to suit yourself. \n\n2. If they've already started and you know they're giving several unnecessary details, tell them, \"Ok, let's skip ahead to the interesting parts.\" You can also say things like, \"I don't need to know all the details, just the important ones.\"", "I usually have a book on hand. If they're telling a story and I'm reading and they don't notice good on them. If they do, they usually tell me not to be an ass and I tell them to get to the point.", "Omg you and I are alike....I can't stand when people do that shit.... can't even get a word in, it's like they are having a convo to themselves ", "Ok I'm going to post this here since we are on the topic of getting out of long boring stories. How do you manage to do it when it is a co-worker that you dislike? I literally have no interest in hearing any of her stories, and she always drops by at the worse time and just traps me at my desk. Sometimes she will start off by talking about something work related, but then will eventually transition into some story about reading a book on how to be successful, or some sci-fi film she watched that I am showing literally zero interest in. In the end the excess information ends up being 80-90% of the conversation and it drives me nuts. \n\nAlso might help to note that I'm like 99% sure she has Asperger's (although she has never outright told anyone). We aren't \"friends\" but get along as co-workers and I don't want to be rude to her. But I'm also reaching the end of my rope with listening to her verbal diarrhea. ", "My wife and I use the phrase \"and then I found five dollars\" at the end of the other's boring or pointless story as a clue to the other. If they ask why, you can at least say the ending was good.", "Last time I had to deal with this all I had to do is emphatically explain why the Greatful Dead sucks.", "Keep a pair of earphones in your pocket. Put them in your ears when you don't want to be bothered. Place the end in your pocket, don't plug it into anything. Sooner or later you will be asked what you are listening to, pull out the end and say I'm listening to \"silence\".\n\nI worked nights at an industrial plant and the \"engineer\" would get lonely and want to tell you about a movie or video, describing in detail 90 minute movies I could care less about. Well it was against the rules to listen to music on duty and the night supervisor called me on it once. I pulled out the end, he laughed, wtf? Told him the story, engineer didn't come around much after that. BUT I still keep that pair of earphones handy....", "It can't hurt to get yourself involved with the story. Interrupt, contribute and relate. You'll be surprised how much you enjoy the conversation and it will make each consecutive time more unobtrusive.\n\nI have a friend that is living with low-level Asperger's and he tends to lose track of his segues and digressions. I remind him of his original point but I also take the opportunity to make sure he knows I'm paying attention. People with Asperger's don't get the hint as easily or quickly as most people but they do feel embarrassed when they realize they are being patronized, and that can be said of anyone.\n\nDon't make them feel patronized, do yourself a favor and get involved. In an age of social media dominating how we communicate, it will do you some good to remember what it's like to talk to someone in person. With your mouth.", "I used to be kind of long-winded as a kid (I try to be better now), and when I was droning on too long, my dad would ask \"What happened at the end?\"", "I need an answer to this and also how do I confront, or what to do when so on always over talks everyone else in a group? It's brutal.", "I like to ask people like this questions like would you rather and steer the conversation toward absurdity. Interjecting questions about pointless details of their story can help derail it too. I love people who tell long stories, you can get them to reveal all sorts of funny shit about themselves.", "I find the best way to deal with this is to humor yourself. For example, Ask them questions that may throw them off their story. Doubt something they say in their stories. Bring up some \"fact\" that relates to their story but is incorrect. \n\nNothing mean. Just subtle stuff. Just try to make yourself smile inside as you are pretending to listen to their boring chatter", "I actually was practically glued to one for 3 months, what I found was most helpful was establish communication roles and styles. It gave him an idea of where he wanted to go in his own communication skills. I just to him like 3 months ago and he talks like a human now. In the meantime though be prepared for an earful.", "As soon as they start the story, say: \"Did I ever tell you about that time I lost my keys?\". Then follow it up with \"I found them\". \n\nThat's the quintessential boring story. Explain to your conversational partner that losing keys is from now on an indicator of boring stories. Then next time they start off, up you pop with a \"I lost my keys right...\".\n\nDone. ", "A lot of times people whole like to tell stories share the same ones over and over (probably because they can't remember if they've told it to you or not). If you can tell them it's one you've already heard, they probably won't make you go through the whole thing again. ", "got a guild mate who talks non stop. she'll talk over every word you try to add in but is the sweetest person alive besides this obnoxious quirk. i usually let her at it but when she tells me the same story she already told me five times in the past hour, i politely but firmly tell her that topic is very much off the table now. she knows she talks a lot but i think her anxiety keeps her talking when the rest of us are just being quiet. sometimes, people seriously just can't help it, and you have to decide whether you're going to grin and bear it or not.", "You could listen to your iPod all the time, or excuse yourself to do something and just never return.\n\nWhat is your relationship to this person? That can help with the answer.", "Whenever I really don't want to talk to someone who's going on and on and on. A good tactic to use is the phone call tactic. Say, your someone is calling and you gotta go answer it. It gives you solid an excuse to leave the area.", "Try the \"Wait: Wha-??\" method: Appear attentive, but make random\nobservations on unrelated topics as if perfectly logical segue. Include another listener with eye contact & nod as if what you're saying is obvious. E.g., Hearing yet AGAIN about that year the vacay got detailed when the rent-an-RV went dead half-way through Nebraska? Interject: \"Exactly! [as if speaker just cued your comment] There's no WAY you'd see Jupiter's surface from that distance. It TOTALLY needed the Juno satellite's arrival to get an orbital view of the surface. How else are you gonna determine where to found the colony?\" Stops 'em in surprise. Pursue topic = fresh conversation. Or smile like you're a little unhinged & exit stage left. Either way a win. ", "My friend includes so many nonsensical details and digressions in her stories that she frequently loses the thread after a few minutes, so I usually just wait for her to burn herself out. ", "Just nod and start vigorously making the \"wrap it up\" gesture. If they don't move on or wrap it up, nod and gesture faster until they do. ", "Just cut into their story and say, \"Dude(ette), you know your stories are super long and pointless, right?\"", "Interject their story with questions to get to the good bits and at least hurry the story along so as to force some purpose out of the person commanding your attention and to give them a sense of \"What the fuck does this have to do with me, Bill?\" ", "I've done this by saying something to the effect of \"You know, you have so many interesting stories, you should start a blog!\"\n\nOne of two things will happen: they'll be gratified by this and take a genuine interest in your explanation of what a blog is, how to set it up, how to get readers, how to make money, and so on. Then you'll help them set them up if you like, and then ideally they'll find a new hobby which will at least provide a partial outlet for their storytelling. And if they're actually good stories, then the world will be that much better.\n\nOr, they won't care too much about blogging. If this is the case, you still take the same approach: tell them about all the blog platforms, how to set it up, some blogs you've read, that feeling you get when you read blogs, the origins of the word \"blog,\" that one time you laid that sick burn on a blog commenter, that time that you and Ev Williams, who started Blogger, got drunk at that industry event and decided it was a good idea to start defacing property, and so on. Keep them on that razor's edge between boredom and discomfort. Keep doing that, and do it each time they begin an unsolicited storytelling round, and they'll learn never to tell stories around you ever again, lest you start hurting them with the Rambling Blog Monologue of Death.", "I tend to interject a bunch of hurried sounding \"okay\" and \"I see\" around and they tend to try to speed up without even realizing it. ", "I have this issue as well. And on top of that, she brings up a dead family member in every conversation at least once. Such a bummer all the time. ", "I have an aunt like this. We were honest to her about her ramblings by joking about it and making a \"catchphrase\" to warn her to wrap it up... which was making the 'wrap it up' motion with our hands while miming the words. A pleasantly comedic inside-joke to take the sting off of -in effect- telling her to shut the fuck up already.", "I had a coworker like this. He would talk nonstop for so long, rarely let me get a word in, didn't recognize my cues that I wanted to leave (looking at my watch/phone, trying to move toward the door, etc.). What I finally had to start doing is just interrupting him and saying, \"Ok, well I need to go now.\" Usually I wouldn't even give a reason why. I realized that if a person isn't able to take a hint that I didn't want to stand around and talk, he probably wouldn't be offended if I interrupted him and left. At some point your time (and mental health) become more valuable than trying to be tactful. ", "I am a terrible storyteller, but that doesn't mean that I don't like to tell stories! Part of my problem is that I need feedback -- a little bit of eye contact, a nod, an \"uh-huh\", a smile. Ask me a question! I hate it when I feel like I'm talking at* someone. In fact, it makes things worse because I feel as if I need to repeat myself until you get it. Engage with me, direct the story to where you want it to go, and I promise I will eventually stop talking. I know I struggle -- it's frustrating for me, too! -- and the last thing I want is to put my audience to sleep. If all else fails, let me know it's time to wrap things up! Don't be an ass about it -- a simple, \"You're telling a short story the long way around\" (thanks, /u/ICanWittleALittle) is perfect.", "How about when that person is a complete stranger that just wants someone to talk to, but they don't really do social cues and insert themselves into your conversation at a really inopportune moment?", "Do your best to be courteous and direct, but if that fails, you have a last resort. I use it sparingly and only when times like this are unbearable: while they're talking, set a timer on your phone for 5 minutes. Make sure the volume is on. When it rings, act like its an important phone call and politely excuse yourself. Seems cruel but with some people who have zero interpersonal awareness and can't understand social cues, it's the only thing that works. ", "Ask cut-to-the-chase questions. If you see where a story is headed, outright ask about the conclusion.", "\"Listen, you'll have to excuse me. I have a lunch meeting with Cliff Huxtable at the Four Seasons in 20 minutes.\"", "Well me and my friends tell each other to get cancer whenever something like this happens so you could give that a shot. ^(Don't actually do this)", "Tell them to shut up and/or fuck off. But do it nicely f you want. What is with people these days? You can't do anything without first hearing what random people on the internet have to say about it? Toughen up", "Smack they ass silly. Lol jk, put up with it or just tell them straight up that it's boring, it's what good friend would do.", "My uncle has aspergers and he went on and on. I just listened and nodded, knowing it is important for them to tell the story. Do it for them, not for you. You're young, you can take it. They, however, have a very short time on this Earth. Be kind and listen, no matter how many times. Mental illness is fucking real, man. ", "Dear op man or women up and jus tell them you have shit to do or be more honest and tell them their stories go on to long.", "tell them their stories are boring and too numerous. if that doesn't work:\n\ni usually just turn the tv up higher and higher and higher, the stereo rumbling the room, until they finally shut the fuck up about their idiotic, self serving diatribe, complain, and then I say,\n\n\"oh, man, i'm sorry, were you hearing something you didn't want to hear?\" while looking knowingly into their dummass eyes. \n\nand then, when they start up again, i grab the remote and do it again. if they are intelligent enough to know what's going on, they'll stop. if not, they'll still stop through pavlovian conditioning, which they fucking deserve. ", "Be honest. Say: \"I prefer to talk to people whom are either very smart or super interesting and I find you to be neither. In fact I find you to be....(pause & get right in there face with firm eye contact).... booooring.\" " ]	[ 655, 94, 66, 47, 45, 41, 18, 12, 11, 11, 9, 8, 6, 6, 6, 5, 4, 4, 4, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, -1, -4 ]	safe
[ "How to remove taste and odors from water bottles. I have a Camelbak Big Chill Podium bottle. I like to put Propel packets in my water. I scrub the inside of the bottle with Dawn soap and a bottle brush over and over and it still smells like Propel and makes fresh water taste like Propel. What can I do?", "How to remove taste and odors from water bottles. I have a Camelbak Big Chill Podium bottle. I like to put Propel packets in my water. I scrub the inside of the bottle with Dawn soap and a bottle brush over and over and it still smells like Propel and makes fresh water taste like Propel. What can I do?", "How to remove taste and odors from water bottles. I have a Camelbak Big Chill Podium bottle. I like to put Propel packets in my water. I scrub the inside of the bottle with Dawn soap and a bottle brush over and over and it still smells like Propel and makes fresh water taste like Propel. What can I do?", "How to remove taste and odors from water bottles. I have a Camelbak Big Chill Podium bottle. I like to put Propel packets in my water. I scrub the inside of the bottle with Dawn soap and a bottle brush over and over and it still smells like Propel and makes fresh water taste like Propel. What can I do?" ]	[ "White vinegar and baking soda - add a small amount (1/4 tsp) of baking soda to your bottle, splash in a little white vinegar. It will immediate bubble and foam - DO NOT PUT THE CAP/LID ON!!! I continue to splash in small amounts of vinegar, swirling the foam around the bottle, until all the baking soda is gone. Then I rinse in hot water and let air dry. ", "My sister claims she can clean water bottles with the same tablets that people rinse their artificial teeth with. I'm not sure whether that stuff is known outside of Europe though.", "(1) Empty the water bottle out completely. Rinse.\n\n(2) Put about 1/2 ounce to 1 ounce of 91% Isopropyl (Rubbing) alcolhol into the bottle\n\n(3) Cap tightly and shake vigorously.\n\n(4) Dump the alcohol.\n\n(5) Fill bottle about halfway with HOT tap water. Hotter the better.\n\n(6) Cap and shake. Dump\n\n(7) Repeat [(5) (6)] until you cannot smell the alcohol in the bottle or in the inside of the cap.\n\nAlcohol is a good solvent, and also a good germ killer.\nFor those who will say that 70% is a better germ killer, you're right, of course. However, you will be diluting it as you rinse it. \n", "I think the best way is to use a very strong smelling (and pleasant) drink. I used to put mint or berries in my water and that always did the trick. Mint doesn't even smell that strong but it works very well." ]	[ 2, 2, 1, -2 ]	safe
[ "how to move your stuff to a new state My girlfriend and I are planning on moving from Pennsylvania to Florida in a couple months and I have no clue what to do with our stuff (desk, bed, bookshelves, etc.) aside from the expensive idea of renting a U-Haul. Any life pros have an answer?", "how to move your stuff to a new state My girlfriend and I are planning on moving from Pennsylvania to Florida in a couple months and I have no clue what to do with our stuff (desk, bed, bookshelves, etc.) aside from the expensive idea of renting a U-Haul. Any life pros have an answer?", "how to move your stuff to a new state My girlfriend and I are planning on moving from Pennsylvania to Florida in a couple months and I have no clue what to do with our stuff (desk, bed, bookshelves, etc.) aside from the expensive idea of renting a U-Haul. Any life pros have an answer?", "how to move your stuff to a new state My girlfriend and I are planning on moving from Pennsylvania to Florida in a couple months and I have no clue what to do with our stuff (desk, bed, bookshelves, etc.) aside from the expensive idea of renting a U-Haul. Any life pros have an answer?" ]	[ "Sell your furniture. It's not worth moving it. Get what you can for it and put that money towards an Ikea visit.\n\nShip all your books, papers and CD's [media mail](https://www.usps.com/send/media-mail.htm) through the post office. It's incredibly cheap for such a large weight. Ship any personal items, I guarantee you it's cheaper to box and mail your essentials (besides clothes) than it is to rent a Uhaul for such a long trip. Vacu-pack your clothes in those [clothes bags](https://www.spacebag.com/22/index.dtm?mid=678785) and pack the car(s) and drive them down.\n\nI've moved across the country without a uhaul in one car (me and my daughter). In total it was 600 dollars to ship everything, WAY way cheaper than paying for a truck. Let go of your stuff, don't let it define you. You're going to find all sorts of new stuff when you get there, and it's a great excuse to let go of old design choices and try new things.\n\n", "If you rent a uHaul you can have your car shipped. Then you can load your car with a bunch of extra stuff. Usually only up to a certain weight, but it still helps. I did this when I moved to CA from VA and was able to get things like golf clubs, beach chairs, extra clothes. It ended up being all I needed for a while and worked out great. Also if you have a portal gun that works too.", "I'm not sure if there's any other way, besides renting a UHaul.\n\nWe sold off all of our big items: table, bed, TV, nightstands, etc.\n\nThen we boxed all the smaller items and shipped it. We moved from California to Montana, so after all the boxes were shipped it came out to about $700. =O", "Damn, i was so hoping to see some sort of long list of suggestions. I am in the same boat. I too will be leaving my hometown in a few months to live up north. \n\nMy plan has been to sell all the big items (chairs, bed, desk, etc.) and manage the rest into a few boxes. Then ship it. \n\nI wish I had a better solution. But its all i got. " ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to remove cat pee smell from the carpet? My cat had quite a few accidents on the carpet (she's old and sometime couldn't make it to the litter box in time). I have tried steam cleaning the carpet with the rental cleaner many times, but it doesn't make any difference at all.\n\nIs there a better way?", "How to remove cat pee smell from the carpet? My cat had quite a few accidents on the carpet (she's old and sometime couldn't make it to the litter box in time). I have tried steam cleaning the carpet with the rental cleaner many times, but it doesn't make any difference at all.\n\nIs there a better way?", "How to remove cat pee smell from the carpet? My cat had quite a few accidents on the carpet (she's old and sometime couldn't make it to the litter box in time). I have tried steam cleaning the carpet with the rental cleaner many times, but it doesn't make any difference at all.\n\nIs there a better way?", "How to remove cat pee smell from the carpet? My cat had quite a few accidents on the carpet (she's old and sometime couldn't make it to the litter box in time). I have tried steam cleaning the carpet with the rental cleaner many times, but it doesn't make any difference at all.\n\nIs there a better way?", "How to remove cat pee smell from the carpet? My cat had quite a few accidents on the carpet (she's old and sometime couldn't make it to the litter box in time). I have tried steam cleaning the carpet with the rental cleaner many times, but it doesn't make any difference at all.\n\nIs there a better way?", "How to remove cat pee smell from the carpet? My cat had quite a few accidents on the carpet (she's old and sometime couldn't make it to the litter box in time). I have tried steam cleaning the carpet with the rental cleaner many times, but it doesn't make any difference at all.\n\nIs there a better way?", "How to remove cat pee smell from the carpet? My cat had quite a few accidents on the carpet (she's old and sometime couldn't make it to the litter box in time). I have tried steam cleaning the carpet with the rental cleaner many times, but it doesn't make any difference at all.\n\nIs there a better way?", "How to remove cat pee smell from the carpet? My cat had quite a few accidents on the carpet (she's old and sometime couldn't make it to the litter box in time). I have tried steam cleaning the carpet with the rental cleaner many times, but it doesn't make any difference at all.\n\nIs there a better way?", "How to remove cat pee smell from the carpet? My cat had quite a few accidents on the carpet (she's old and sometime couldn't make it to the litter box in time). I have tried steam cleaning the carpet with the rental cleaner many times, but it doesn't make any difference at all.\n\nIs there a better way?", "How to remove cat pee smell from the carpet? My cat had quite a few accidents on the carpet (she's old and sometime couldn't make it to the litter box in time). I have tried steam cleaning the carpet with the rental cleaner many times, but it doesn't make any difference at all.\n\nIs there a better way?" ]	[ "Buy some fish, show it to your cat, open front door, throw fish outside, close door behind cat. Then clean your stinky-ass house.", "Steam cleaners aren't exactly the best thing to use on urine stains, as the heat can make them worse, not better. \n[This article from Petfinder](https://www.petfinder.com/cats/living-with-your-cat/5-cat-urine-odor-removal-tips/) has some advice. \n\nYou really need an enzyme cleaner to break up the structure of the pee, so it can be removed. Good luck.", "I've used Natures Miracle and it works great. \n\nI've also used Apple Cider vinegar and IMO it works just as well. Works for carpets or in the wash if you have clothing that was peed on (Just add 1/2 a cup to your wash).", "Every pet store sells enzyme-based liquid cleaners specifically for urine stains. They consume the odor chemicals. In my experience, they work.", "Until recently, I had a cat who had a favorite spot to pee on at the bottom of the basement steps. Nature's Miracle definitely got the smell out of the carpet, but the padding was ruined. It was so bad, I had to pour Nature's Miracle directly on the concrete to eliminate the smell.", "The original Natures Miracle is now, and has been for some time, Petastic. The makers of NM sold the name but not the formula. See this:\n\nhttp://gonetothedogsblog.wordpress.com/2006/01/28/petastic-vs-natures-miracle/\n\nfor a quick run through.", "Mix about a cup of hydrogen peroxide with roughly half a cup of warm water, a few spoons of baking soda, and a drop of dish soap. My mom used to have a cat with kidney problems and he didn't always make it to the box, that mixture will get rid of all smell. The stuff you buy at the pet store also works but it's way more expensive.", "If the cat is still alive, here are some options. (If OPs cat isn't alive, my condolences. Others who still have aged cats may benefit.)\n\nAnother tack is to look at kitty's situation. If she's in pain while peeing, she will avoid the litter box. If you have not had her checked for UTIs, it's vet time. Another thing is how comfy the litter is. Does it bother her feet? Maybe get a softer litter. Check her toe beans to make sure they're not red or irritated. \n\nThe height of the box could be a factor. Creaky cats cannot be bothered to get into a tall box. Get a shallower one. If the box needs more frequent cleaning, that might help. I had an aged cat who gladly got in the box but was too dotty to get all the way in, so she'd have her front feet in and pee on the floor. I got a plastic ceiling tile like you'd use in offices. It was 2 feet by 2 feet and 1 inch deep. The box went in that and was shoved towards the corner. The cat would put her front feet in her box and pee outside the box. Since she was standing in the panel, the panel worked as an auxiliary litter box.\n\nDotty senile cats may forget. It's worth putting several in the house, especially on the areas where she's peed before.\n\nThe nuclear option is to get a bunch of cheap Ikea throw rugs and some waterproof liners. Put the waterproof liners down on the carpet and put the cheap Ikea rugs on top of the carpet.", "This is whats recommended by that show on animal planet \"my cat from hell\" http://www.amazon.com/Fizzion-Empty-Spray-Bottle-Refills/dp/B009Z0TQNS/ref=pd_sim_petsupplies_6?ie=UTF8&refRID=0WN34ES1N5DPTEVPEHTE", "Mix vinegar and water. 1/3 mix. Spray down the carpet let it sit for a while then vacuum it up. Depending how bad it is, it could take a few tries. 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[ "How to stop excessive underarm sweating Title kinda describes it... I excessively sweat under my arms. I have tried multiple different antiperspirants, home remedy's, etc, and can't seem to get it under control. It's pretty embarrassing considering I have to present in front of my colleagues pretty frequently. Any advice on certain deodorants etc would be appreciated. ", "How to stop excessive underarm sweating Title kinda describes it... I excessively sweat under my arms. I have tried multiple different antiperspirants, home remedy's, etc, and can't seem to get it under control. It's pretty embarrassing considering I have to present in front of my colleagues pretty frequently. Any advice on certain deodorants etc would be appreciated. ", "How to stop excessive underarm sweating Title kinda describes it... I excessively sweat under my arms. I have tried multiple different antiperspirants, home remedy's, etc, and can't seem to get it under control. It's pretty embarrassing considering I have to present in front of my colleagues pretty frequently. Any advice on certain deodorants etc would be appreciated. ", "How to stop excessive underarm sweating Title kinda describes it... I excessively sweat under my arms. I have tried multiple different antiperspirants, home remedy's, etc, and can't seem to get it under control. It's pretty embarrassing considering I have to present in front of my colleagues pretty frequently. Any advice on certain deodorants etc would be appreciated. " ]	[ "try generally eating well (not a quick fix!) and using bi carb soda as deodorant. workout the morning before presenting can help too", "Okay basically, I've been putting on antiperspirants incorrectly my whole life until recently... The underarms must be COMPLETELY dry before applying it. I mean absolutely thee driest - which is really, really hard because even just sitting after a shower, my underarms would have perspiration. I've also read that leaving antiperspirant on overnight is really effective (if you again, can apply it correctly! ((which i can not!)))", "I used to sweat a lot. I switched to the $7/$11 Degree Clincal Protection deoderant. I used that for 3-4 years. I can now use the cheaper Degree antiperspirant with no issues.", "Best tip I was ever given was to stop using antiperspirant. Seemed counterintuitive, but I guess a lot of people have a problem with it. I barely sweat at all now, and I used to sweat through my shirt daily. Try old spice without antiperspirant. " ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n", "How to get all of the pee out after urinating? (possible NSFW) I am a male in my 20's and it seems as if no matter how many times I flick, I can't get all of the pee out and it drips out onto my underwear and sometimes through to my pants. I don't want to flick too violently for fear of flecks of pee landing all over myself, and dabbing the tip with toilet paper helps except that toilet paper isn't always available (urinal urinating). Surely there is a better way to expel all remaining bits of urine from the urethra?\n\n\n" ]	[ "left hand, under scrotum almost to your choad, press up with finger tips. Give it a try. The last bit of piss comes out. Once you find the right spot you can hit it every time. also recommend those dry fit type Jockey boxer briefs. If you do dribble, your shit will be dry in no time. \n\nAlso, pull your rig through the opening in your boxers. don't try to pull your boxers down and flop your rig over it. More comes out when you go through, than when you try to go over. ", "As a female, I honestly had no idea this was a thing. I thought you could push it all out like us and the flick was for droplets on the end. TIL", "I thought maybe i had a medical problem unitl i read through this thread and found it to be a common problem for men.", "sit down, bro. WAY better drainage. when i was about 18 I started having that problem. I found that sitting even while just taking a leak leads to better bladder drainage. Now at 23 the only time I cant get it all out is when I use public urinals cuz who the hell wants to sit on a public toilet. ", "Ok, I'm gonna take advantage of this opportunity to ask a serious question: Why does this guy I work with vigorously shake his penis for like 15 seconds when he's done using the urinal? \n\nI've had to use the urinal next to this guy a few times now, and every time he does this and it freaks me out! He gets done and just starts _going at it_ on his member; it doesn't seem sexual, it's almost like he's angry at his dick. \n\nI just wanna know what the fuck he's doing. I suspect he has OCD or something.", "I always assumed we all \"washed\" our penis at the sink if we have privacy.\n\nSorry, no idea what to do about public peeing", "Are you uncircumcised? If so, retract the foreskin before peeing. Depending on the size of your dick, its shape and girth, different methods can be used. Send me a pic of your dick and i'll tell you what you should do.", "I posted this exact thing a few weeks ago. All I got was some guy suggesting toilet paper, and another telling a story about a guy who would pretend his plunger was a gear shift. ", "There is honestly merit in pulling you underwear all the way down to your ankles while peeing. It prevents your junk getting choked out by your underoos.", "Not sure if your question was answered or not and I don't really care to read through the comments to see if anybody else has said what I'm about to say because I've always wanted to give this advice. Now that I have the chance I'm going to take it.\n\nTake your finger and gently run it along your lower back (where your back ends and your butt begins). There is a nerve in that area that controls your urinary bladder. Gently stroking your finger along this area stimulates this nerve and thus relaxes the urinary bladder, therefore, releasing any un-expelled urine out of your system.\n\nI really hope you get to read this comment because I've been dying for the right time to give this advice.", "I could just be really fucking weird, but you know how you clinch your kegel muscles towards the end of your piss to get the last bit out. Well don't, my theory is this forces only half of the last little bit, but anything on the other end goes back towards your bladder then slowly makes its way back out as you zip up and walk out of the bathroom. \n\n\nSo to fix, let all your muscles relax until there is literally nothing else coming out and you have squeezed what you can out. Then, clench and shake it again.", "So I'm just gonna say that anyone with a good amount of residual dribbling should go ahead and get checked out by a urologist. Even though it's probably benign, there's a chance this could be due to prostate issues or urinary tract malformations. Juuuust saying.", "I just push it out like a tube of toothpaste. Give yourself the \"OK\" gesture, Start and the bottom of your shaft and slowly move up. You'll definitely get those extra drops/stream out of that tube.", "Some urine can get caught around where the urethra runs through the prostate. Reach behind your testicles and apply pressure to your prostatic area to get it all out.", "As a woman who walked in on this thread, seriously what the fuck is happening.\n\nWe just pee.\n\nWhy are you all a bunch of leaky asses?\nYa'll motherfuckers need some kegals.", "All these jokes, but I've got your answer. I told my doctor about this issue, he had some of my skin from the inside of my nose transplanted into the tip of my penis. Now, when I'm done taking a piss.... ((Snorts))", "I'll never forget what my father taught me...\n\nNo matter how much you wiggle and dance,\nthe last little drips, end up in your pants.", "Start kegel exercises to help stop the pee, use panty liners in front to catch left over pee. If its too much pee, upgrade to maxi pads. It has the bonus effect of making a large bulge. ", "Dude I'm serious right now, if you have toiler paper available, just take a square and dab the tip of your dick a couple times", "Use a paper towel if you don't have toilet paper or carry around a little bit of kleen-ex.\n\nEveryone should be wiping after peeing, even guys.\n\n", "Uh, slightly different problem. When I start pissing I feel like I can never finish in one effort. Is it time for a prostate check or am I over-reacting?", "This has been one of the most amusing threads evar!\n\nSeriously, no one else has mentioned it, so here it is. 1. sit down on the throne when one is available. It is NOT a measure of your manhood to be able to stand while urinating. That's a wack-ass rumor perpetuated by insecure numbnuts. 2. when you think you're done peeing, breathe in, then out, then in, then out as much as you can, then close your throat, then pretend to breathe in, hard, but with a closed throat no air goes in, instead pressure is applied to your bladder by your abdominal muscles. Hold this for as long as reasonably possible, because it might take several seconds for the internal organs to shift so that this pressure is applied appropriately. This may not work if you are overweight - I only know it works for me, at 15% body fat (athletic for my age). Then breathe when you have to. If more urine came out during this stretch/exercise, then you know this is for you. 3. squeeze kegel/sphincter and release, 20 reps. or better: x+10, where x=the number of times until you stop hearing urine drop into the toilet bowl. 4. optional: dab tip with a few sheets of toilet paper while pressing penis longitudinally, then drop tp into bowl. If it's still a problem, see a doctor.", "Thank you for asking about this. Hit the upper 20s and now I piss on myself quite often.\n\nUp until now, I'd squeeze, relax, push, wiggle, shake, bounce a few times on my feet, slap with the back of the hand several times, and finish with a few power slams (think \"lasso\"). After all that, I'd take a strip of paper towel, wrap it tight, then squat a few times.\n\nNow I'm just going to finger my taint. If this works, it will save me years of time. THANKS!", "Smack it\nbang it \nhit it against the wall\nBut when you stick it\nIn your pants \nThe last drop's sure to fall :/", "One person mentioned kegel and then went off on a tangent about panty liners.\n\nBut, there is some truth to that. When the pelvic floor muscles are weak you can't get all the pee out. They often weaken if you are holding your pee too often and flexing them all the time. Yeah, you would think they would be getting all swole from the daily workout but in effect they are exhausted and not able to fully function and expel all the pee. So just think of it as a problem that will get worse unless you try and pee as soon as you have to.", "Oh gosh, now I have to look at how my other half pees...\n\n\"What are you doing?\" as I peep around bathroom door.\n\n\"I'm collecting research...for people...on the internet...\"", "I suffer from the same issue. so much so that I've seen a urologist about it. here's the deal: you have weak muscles in ur butt. you know those muscles you use to clench a shit inside? yeah, that needs to be strengthened. ask me how I know? I had greased up digits inside me, it wasn't fun. I'm a straight man, dunno how my shit ain't right, but I assure you that's the issue. practice clenching as hard as u can and holding it for 10s at a time. do it for a month. I hope this helps. my asshole died for your sins...", "For girls, if anyone is wondering, take the tp and simply press over the general area... clit, urethra, vag opening... relax... and the last dribble comes out. Especially useful when taking a pee break during sex. I find sex is most comfortable when my bladder is completely empty... even that last dribble!", "sitting down is a good idea. it seems like a little comes out after you let go and it dangles back into position, so what i do sometimes if i am standing is get a big enough wad of toilet paper and put that at the tip while you put your johnson back in your pants. make sure the wad of paper stays at the tip for a few seconds while it drips, after you think youre done pull the toilet paper out of your underwear and throw it away. then hopefully you should be good till you pee again.", "it is possible you have a urethral stricture. I had one, and had a procedure for it. first time was surgery, second time was a dilation that wasn't nearly as painful or intrusive. A stricture is a closing of the urethra due to a build up of scar tissue, often instigated by trauma such as a bicycle accident or excessive kick the region/sports injury. it prohibits you from fully evacuating your bladder. you pee and think you're done, but you have to pee again, and/or have an excess dribble. good luck. i hope all these tips work, thanks for asking the question and i will try these as well. ", "http://www.edarley.com/media/catalog/product/cache/1/image/265x/9df78eab33525d08d6e5fb8d27136e95/a/f/af155r1_shdw.jpg", "You can shake it, you can hit it, you can smack it on the wall, but you gotta put it in your pants to make that last drop fall. ", "You actually have so much \"extra\" piss that it shows through your pants? That means you aren't done yet, there's no mystery here.", "This picture will help (the lower of the two pics, of course):\n\nhttp://higheredbcs.wiley.com/legacy/college/tortora/0470565101/hearthis_ill/pap13e_ch26_illustr_audio_mp3_am/simulations/hear/urethra.html\n\nYou can see where the urine can remain sitting in the urethra. Better than just pressing on the area behind the balls (called the perineum in medical terms), start with your finger there and slide it forward, exerting pressure on your urethra. Works like a charm.", "This issue is very common and if it's cold outside. This issue is worsened a lot when your gentlemen shrinks due to the cold weather. ", "This is the funniest thread I've ever seen on LPT by far. Good advice but hilarious responses and names for your situation ", "This is common problem, two things helped me - \n\nFirstly, realizing it was a common problem helped me worry about it less and not panic if I was in public and taking my time to piss. \n\nSecondly, the muscles you use to squeeze your bladder are like all muscles and require a work out to be effective. You can squeeze your bladder, sit down or shake it, but none of that will be working the muscles you need. So try not to cheat. \n\nUse those muscles that contract and help you piss. Progress will be slow, but you will notice a difference when you need it. Pissing is not something many people enjoy, but take your time and practice. You'll learn to know when you're done and when there's something left. It gets worse with age, but there are many ways to manage it. The most effective thing I've found to delay issues is to work the very weak muscles that help you urinate.\n", "Standing strains the bladder slightly and allows about 90 percent or so to come out. Sitting down relaxes the bladder and empties it completely. I read somewhere. Indians believe this too. Which i read.", "So what I generally do is pull the foreskin to show the head and then lit it slip back (like you would do when jacking off, but obviously not as fast, furiously, and well, pretty differently because the penis is not erect and whatnot) and a lot of the remaining per jettisons out. Idk if it's a weird technique as I've seen no one mention it. But it always works for me, no drip.", "Shake your dick a few times then from the base of your dick squeeze with your fingers and work your way to the tip like you would if you were trying to squeeze out the last bit of toothpaste from a tube. (P.S. Don't roll your dick up)", "Put your hand down there. Press your taint halfway between your sack and bunghole. Take off your pants. High five emergency room nurse.\n", "Jumping in while there are 1665 comments and I know my advice will have already been suggested.\n\n1. Don't shake, I've always found it a bit gross that piss can fling anywhere.\n2. Squeeze from base to tip after urinating. Do this once or twice\n3. Wet Wipe the head (and foreskin if you have it)\n4. Flush\n5. Walk away with a fresh-smelling dick without fear of piss spots on your boxers.", "It's time to get in to some basics..Hold the scrotum with left hand and rub the tip gently with right one to get the whole thing out. ", "Hey this is going to be weird but... Lightly scratch the top of your butt, each cheek right by the top of the crack. Real light. It gives me the chills and i kid you not, the rest comes out fast ", "Here is what I do:\n\nFake your dick out. That's right.\n\nWhen you are done pissing instead of pulling your dick up and putting it into your pants- at which point more dribbles out - instead go through the motion as if you are putting it into your pants but don't actually do that. Your dick will think you are putting it away and let loose the last few dribbles, but you will have faked it out and they will drop into the urinal instead.", "Dude, sitting will help but here is the real gold :\n\nPRESS A SMALL BIT (just a couple of squares is enough) OF TOILET PAPER AGAINST YOUR TIP. The toilet paper will absorb the pee, pulling it out of your urethra. This is the way. I do it each time and never get a single drop in the pants.\n\nIf you're wondering whether it works, ask yourself this question : Why is your pee draining once it touches your underwear? Because the cloth is pulling the pee out, just as the toilet paper does when you use this technique. Save yourself the hassle and just use the toilet paper.", "\"You can hit it with a hammer, you can beat it up against a wall, but until you put it back in your pants, that last drip won't fall!\" -some random guy next to me at a urinal. ", "\"Da hilft kein Schütteln. Da hilft kein Klopfen. Der letzte wird doch in die Hose tropfen.\" ~ German proverb" ]	[ 3124, 570, 463, 191, 161, 161, 86, 83, 60, 51, 30, 24, 12, 9, 9, 9, 8, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to organise all important documents at home? (Personal records, financial records, auto records, ...) ", "How to organise all important documents at home? (Personal records, financial records, auto records, ...) " ]	[ "Scan them and archive them in [Evernote](http://www.evernote.com). I started doing this about a year ago, and was able to shred and dispose of mountains of paper files, save all kinds of space, and make it easier to find things when I need them.\n\nYou can get a scanner suitable for this kind of home use for ~$200. Evernote backs up everything in the cloud, and you can access your documents anywhere - web, desktop, and mobile apps available. \n\n[This guy](http://www.jamierubin.net/going-paperless/) has a great blog about \"Going Paperless\" using Evernote. It has some great info to help you get started and get organized.", "Scan the documents into a Google drive or USB drive... unless you absolutely need the original, shred it and be done with it." ]	[ 0, -2 ]	safe
[ "Does anybody know how to take of the water of you ears in a easy way? Every time l you go in the pool it happens and it is very annoying. It should be an esay way to take it of.", "Does anybody know how to take of the water of you ears in a easy way? Every time l you go in the pool it happens and it is very annoying. It should be an esay way to take it of.", "Does anybody know how to take of the water of you ears in a easy way? Every time l you go in the pool it happens and it is very annoying. It should be an esay way to take it of.", "Does anybody know how to take of the water of you ears in a easy way? Every time l you go in the pool it happens and it is very annoying. It should be an esay way to take it of.", "Does anybody know how to take of the water of you ears in a easy way? Every time l you go in the pool it happens and it is very annoying. It should be an esay way to take it of." ]	[ "A drop of isopropyl/rubbing alcohol will do it. I was a long time competitive swimmer, swam through college then continued as a marathon open water swimmer. I had a small dropper bottle of it, but if I didn't have the dropper bottle I could just dump some in my ear and it would get all the water out.", "I don’t like swimming so I haven’t been able to try this, but I’ve heard you can get it out with more water. Because a small drop of water has that surface tension keeping it in place, but a larger quantity of water wouldn’t.", "This is gonna sound dumb but works. Stand on one leg and grab that earlobe and pull down and lean over so that ear hole is facing the floor. Shake your other leg rapidly.", "For me it's ususlly because I need to clean my ears, the water mixing with the ear wax is not coming out. And when I've recently cleaned my ears water just isn't getting stuck in my ears in the first place.", "Something i discovered that always works for me is to really really fast and strongly slam your head down in the air on one side (so your wet ear ends up facing the ground). Almost always gets it out. Obviously just make sure you don’t hit anything. Hope I described the motion right, but basically whip your head down towards your shoulder while looking forward" ]	[ 13, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to keep my voice from cracking in the morning or at least help sooth it. I have a job that involves making phone calls but I feel that my voice often sounds raw, breathless or straight up cracks in the mornings. Tips for overcoming this problem?", "How to keep my voice from cracking in the morning or at least help sooth it. I have a job that involves making phone calls but I feel that my voice often sounds raw, breathless or straight up cracks in the mornings. Tips for overcoming this problem?", "How to keep my voice from cracking in the morning or at least help sooth it. I have a job that involves making phone calls but I feel that my voice often sounds raw, breathless or straight up cracks in the mornings. Tips for overcoming this problem?" ]	[ "Honey mixed with Luke warm water helped me. Oh and most importantly, if you’re a smoker, then you might want to reduce or quit.", "If you are not a smoker or a snorer but your voice is systematically hoarse in the morning it might be because of acid reflux try sleeping on a couple of pillows so that you stomach sit lower that your throat.", "Drink hot and cold drinks so your muscles have to adjust, sing in the shower/car to warm up, gargle mouthwash" ]	[ 7, 4, 3 ]	safe
[ "How to fix \"pilling\" in clothes Sometimes, I buy really nice polyester-blend dresses. But after a few weeks, the quality always deteriorates as the fabric roughens with pills. I already avoid rubbing the fabric. I also take care during washing, by turning the clothes inside out, using gentle detergents, and air drying. But pilling always seems to happen. Does anyone have any tips on repairing pilled fabrics? Thanks!", "How to fix \"pilling\" in clothes Sometimes, I buy really nice polyester-blend dresses. But after a few weeks, the quality always deteriorates as the fabric roughens with pills. I already avoid rubbing the fabric. I also take care during washing, by turning the clothes inside out, using gentle detergents, and air drying. But pilling always seems to happen. Does anyone have any tips on repairing pilled fabrics? Thanks!", "How to fix \"pilling\" in clothes Sometimes, I buy really nice polyester-blend dresses. But after a few weeks, the quality always deteriorates as the fabric roughens with pills. I already avoid rubbing the fabric. I also take care during washing, by turning the clothes inside out, using gentle detergents, and air drying. But pilling always seems to happen. Does anyone have any tips on repairing pilled fabrics? Thanks!", "How to fix \"pilling\" in clothes Sometimes, I buy really nice polyester-blend dresses. But after a few weeks, the quality always deteriorates as the fabric roughens with pills. I already avoid rubbing the fabric. I also take care during washing, by turning the clothes inside out, using gentle detergents, and air drying. But pilling always seems to happen. Does anyone have any tips on repairing pilled fabrics? Thanks!" ]	[ "Look carefully at those \" pills \" if you find something hard and dark in colour, you're likely to have carpet beetles as they roll themselves up in \" pills \" and lay their eggs in such.", "I'm not sure that you can prevent it, but you can use a razor like you shave your legs with to get some of the pills off. but I don't think you should do it too often; it thins the fabric. \n\nI used to do this with sheets bc I couldn't stand the roughness, but now I just buy higher quality sheets that don't pill. Maybe you can try hand-washing and air-drying as an alternative?", "Your clothes take constant care. To avoid piling use a bit of conditioner instead of fabric softener. Use a heavy duty kind for thick hair. You can delude it if need be. Then seal the fibers by spraying just a little starch on the garment while the garment is still hanging. Don't spray too much it'll make it stiff. Use an electric shaver to get rid of the pills.", "Let the water mix with the detergent before you put your clothes in.\n\nStick to cold water for everything unless you want something shrunk.\n\nUse about half the recommended detergent, too, unless you've been playing in the mud. Use a stain stick directly on stains to get stains out." ]	[ 11, 6, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to \"be there\" for a grieving friend. I just found out that someone I'm close with has lost a parent (unexpectedly). What are the things that I can do/say to really be there for them and support them during this difficult time? Also, if you want, what are the things I should NOT say/do? I just want to show my friend my love and support.", "How to \"be there\" for a grieving friend. I just found out that someone I'm close with has lost a parent (unexpectedly). What are the things that I can do/say to really be there for them and support them during this difficult time? Also, if you want, what are the things I should NOT say/do? I just want to show my friend my love and support.", "How to \"be there\" for a grieving friend. I just found out that someone I'm close with has lost a parent (unexpectedly). What are the things that I can do/say to really be there for them and support them during this difficult time? Also, if you want, what are the things I should NOT say/do? I just want to show my friend my love and support.", "How to \"be there\" for a grieving friend. I just found out that someone I'm close with has lost a parent (unexpectedly). What are the things that I can do/say to really be there for them and support them during this difficult time? Also, if you want, what are the things I should NOT say/do? I just want to show my friend my love and support.", "How to \"be there\" for a grieving friend. I just found out that someone I'm close with has lost a parent (unexpectedly). What are the things that I can do/say to really be there for them and support them during this difficult time? Also, if you want, what are the things I should NOT say/do? I just want to show my friend my love and support." ]	[ "best thing to do is listen intently, and be their shoulder to cry on. What you shouldn't say is \"I know how you feel\" unless you lost a parent, you do not know how they feel. Tell them that theirs feeling are valid, and encourage them that time heals all wounds. Take them out to their favorite hobby or place, take them for coffee, anything that will help keep their mind off of what happened. Grieving is a long process, so most importantly, dont give up on them. Especially with the loss of a parent the feelings of remorse can pop up at any time. Just be there, listen, console, and if they ask for it, give them their space.", "Thoughtful question! When my best friend passed away, it was extremely tragic. In addition to the trauma, I had just started an intense new job and had no one to lean on at work. A close friend from high school with whom I'd kind of lost touch sent me a care package that meant the world to me. Her card acknowledged how much my friend meant to me and that my friend knew that too. She let me know she was available to talk. The only advice she gave was to take care of myself physically, which is the only advice anyone should give someone who is grieving. To that end, her care package was filled with things like kleenex, soup, tea, etc. She added personal touches from her new favorite places (she'd recently moved out of state), which was a great way to reestablish our friendship and tell me a little about her life without actually telling me. She also included a beautiful stained glass piece from etsy (a butterfly on a flower) which she thoughtfully remembered was something I shared with the friend I'd lost (when we were little, I loved daisies, she loved butterflies). The whole thing really blew me away. It's been a year now and we still stay in touch and I'll never forget the gift or the sentiment behind it.", "Everyone is different. I lost my mother when I was 17. What I found very helpful was to share anecdotes with close friends. They were very understanding as I often wasn't able to finish without breaking down. Obviously, this is the wrong time to come back with a 'me too' story. It's time for the Oprah position, \"This must be so hard for you. I can't imagine what you must be going through.\"\n\nSometimes, it's also useful just to get out for a distraction. Bowling, trip to the zoo. Something that engages, but doesn't require a lot of effort.", "The onslaught of support and condolences immediately after is borderline overwhelming. Coming from someone who has been on the other side of this. I can't speak for your friend but it didn't really really hit me for a number of weeks. When it hit, it hit hard. Stay in touch. Just be there for them", "Had 2 friends lose parents, what I did was just letting them know that im there and otherwise i didnt really do much.\n\nBoth let me know later that they really liked the fact that i never mentioned their mother/father and carried on with everything as normal, the amount of people trying to console someone who suffered such a loss can be overwhelming sometimes.\n\n\n" ]	[ 7, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Bee repellent for indoors that's safe for cats? \n\nI'm highly allergic to bees, and unfortunately they LOVE my apt for some reason. I have a tree with flowers on it that is right in front of my windows so I'm sure that has something to do with it! I can't do anything about the tree, but I was wondering if there was any known bee repellent out there that is non-toxic to cats?\n\nI have tried to make sure my windows are sealed, but they still find ways to get in....\n\nI can't use anything with peppermint in it because that is toxic to cats even in small quantities. If anyone has any helpful tips you'd be great!\n\nThank you!", "Bee repellent for indoors that's safe for cats? \n\nI'm highly allergic to bees, and unfortunately they LOVE my apt for some reason. I have a tree with flowers on it that is right in front of my windows so I'm sure that has something to do with it! I can't do anything about the tree, but I was wondering if there was any known bee repellent out there that is non-toxic to cats?\n\nI have tried to make sure my windows are sealed, but they still find ways to get in....\n\nI can't use anything with peppermint in it because that is toxic to cats even in small quantities. If anyone has any helpful tips you'd be great!\n\nThank you!" ]	[ "Bees typically just gather nectar and pollen and head back to the hive.\n\nThere are a few more experienced scouta that search for new sources of food, and sometimes even new places to build a hive.\n\nKeep any sweet smelling or sugary things in the fridge. Avoid flowering houseplants. I keep bees and almost never have them come inside or even try. \n\nMy neighbor complained but had an herb garden in the kitchen and left lights on all night. \n\nBees go to bed at sundown but bright lights can trick them. They see IR and UV light too, which many flowers take advantage of, so cameras with night vision are like shining a spotlight signal to bees.", "Use a butterfly net to capture them and release them back outside. Bees need a lot of help now more than ever. You don't have to be another one of them bee haters whose first instinct is to kill them or harm them. Then thoroughly check where they are coming in from. It may not be the window by the tree. It could be other access away from d tree or a door on the opposite side of your apartment from d tree.\n\nJust don't kill them." ]	[ 5, 1 ]	safe
[ "Buying a Certified Pre-Owned Car I've found some that I'm interested in, but have never bought a car from a dealership before. This car has extremely low mileage, and comes in right about where Edmunds says it should as far as value.\n\nI should have about 25% of the cost to put down in cash, so I'm wondering what tips you guys might be gracious enough to offer could help me negotiate a lower price or payments? How should I behave going into the dealership? I'm a woman who has had a classic car that I've worked on for 10 years, but don't know the first thing about negotiating the deal here. \n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated!", "Buying a Certified Pre-Owned Car I've found some that I'm interested in, but have never bought a car from a dealership before. This car has extremely low mileage, and comes in right about where Edmunds says it should as far as value.\n\nI should have about 25% of the cost to put down in cash, so I'm wondering what tips you guys might be gracious enough to offer could help me negotiate a lower price or payments? How should I behave going into the dealership? I'm a woman who has had a classic car that I've worked on for 10 years, but don't know the first thing about negotiating the deal here. \n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated!" ]	[ "Get pre-cleared for a loan at a cr", "Don't finance a car. Cars are not an investment, they will never make you money. \n\nPay cash for the car (or write a check, the dealer doesn't give a fuck), and three or four grand will get you a hell of a good used car free and clear." ]	[ 0, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to deal with mosquitos inside your house My family have recently moved to a rural house that has a pond in our backyard. Naturally this is a breeding ground for tons of mosquitos, I constantly have mosquitos bites all over me(More so on my elbows and forearm) I never see the mosquitos in our house and since I despise getting these bites I try to limit how often I go out except for going to school and hanging out with friends every so often. And even then I wear Mosquito repellent, and yet I am surprised to find 50+ mosquito bites all over me (Not an exaggeration, there is literally 40 mosquito bites on my elbows alone) And I seems I'm getting bit inside my house, yet I never see/feel these mosquitos biting me. How do I handle these mosquitos? How do I handle these amount of bites, it super hot, and I don't want to have to wear clothing covering every inch of my body to not get bit, when even then I'm getting bites where there is clothing over it. Help (If for some reason it matters I am in Illinois)\n\nLink to pictures of the bites, the second picture look a lot redder than it actually is because of the shadow\n\n\nhttps://imgur.com/a/LNpiO", "How to deal with mosquitos inside your house My family have recently moved to a rural house that has a pond in our backyard. Naturally this is a breeding ground for tons of mosquitos, I constantly have mosquitos bites all over me(More so on my elbows and forearm) I never see the mosquitos in our house and since I despise getting these bites I try to limit how often I go out except for going to school and hanging out with friends every so often. And even then I wear Mosquito repellent, and yet I am surprised to find 50+ mosquito bites all over me (Not an exaggeration, there is literally 40 mosquito bites on my elbows alone) And I seems I'm getting bit inside my house, yet I never see/feel these mosquitos biting me. How do I handle these mosquitos? How do I handle these amount of bites, it super hot, and I don't want to have to wear clothing covering every inch of my body to not get bit, when even then I'm getting bites where there is clothing over it. Help (If for some reason it matters I am in Illinois)\n\nLink to pictures of the bites, the second picture look a lot redder than it actually is because of the shadow\n\n\nhttps://imgur.com/a/LNpiO", "How to deal with mosquitos inside your house My family have recently moved to a rural house that has a pond in our backyard. Naturally this is a breeding ground for tons of mosquitos, I constantly have mosquitos bites all over me(More so on my elbows and forearm) I never see the mosquitos in our house and since I despise getting these bites I try to limit how often I go out except for going to school and hanging out with friends every so often. And even then I wear Mosquito repellent, and yet I am surprised to find 50+ mosquito bites all over me (Not an exaggeration, there is literally 40 mosquito bites on my elbows alone) And I seems I'm getting bit inside my house, yet I never see/feel these mosquitos biting me. How do I handle these mosquitos? How do I handle these amount of bites, it super hot, and I don't want to have to wear clothing covering every inch of my body to not get bit, when even then I'm getting bites where there is clothing over it. Help (If for some reason it matters I am in Illinois)\n\nLink to pictures of the bites, the second picture look a lot redder than it actually is because of the shadow\n\n\nhttps://imgur.com/a/LNpiO", "How to deal with mosquitos inside your house My family have recently moved to a rural house that has a pond in our backyard. Naturally this is a breeding ground for tons of mosquitos, I constantly have mosquitos bites all over me(More so on my elbows and forearm) I never see the mosquitos in our house and since I despise getting these bites I try to limit how often I go out except for going to school and hanging out with friends every so often. And even then I wear Mosquito repellent, and yet I am surprised to find 50+ mosquito bites all over me (Not an exaggeration, there is literally 40 mosquito bites on my elbows alone) And I seems I'm getting bit inside my house, yet I never see/feel these mosquitos biting me. How do I handle these mosquitos? How do I handle these amount of bites, it super hot, and I don't want to have to wear clothing covering every inch of my body to not get bit, when even then I'm getting bites where there is clothing over it. Help (If for some reason it matters I am in Illinois)\n\nLink to pictures of the bites, the second picture look a lot redder than it actually is because of the shadow\n\n\nhttps://imgur.com/a/LNpiO", "How to deal with mosquitos inside your house My family have recently moved to a rural house that has a pond in our backyard. Naturally this is a breeding ground for tons of mosquitos, I constantly have mosquitos bites all over me(More so on my elbows and forearm) I never see the mosquitos in our house and since I despise getting these bites I try to limit how often I go out except for going to school and hanging out with friends every so often. And even then I wear Mosquito repellent, and yet I am surprised to find 50+ mosquito bites all over me (Not an exaggeration, there is literally 40 mosquito bites on my elbows alone) And I seems I'm getting bit inside my house, yet I never see/feel these mosquitos biting me. How do I handle these mosquitos? How do I handle these amount of bites, it super hot, and I don't want to have to wear clothing covering every inch of my body to not get bit, when even then I'm getting bites where there is clothing over it. Help (If for some reason it matters I am in Illinois)\n\nLink to pictures of the bites, the second picture look a lot redder than it actually is because of the shadow\n\n\nhttps://imgur.com/a/LNpiO", "How to deal with mosquitos inside your house My family have recently moved to a rural house that has a pond in our backyard. Naturally this is a breeding ground for tons of mosquitos, I constantly have mosquitos bites all over me(More so on my elbows and forearm) I never see the mosquitos in our house and since I despise getting these bites I try to limit how often I go out except for going to school and hanging out with friends every so often. And even then I wear Mosquito repellent, and yet I am surprised to find 50+ mosquito bites all over me (Not an exaggeration, there is literally 40 mosquito bites on my elbows alone) And I seems I'm getting bit inside my house, yet I never see/feel these mosquitos biting me. How do I handle these mosquitos? How do I handle these amount of bites, it super hot, and I don't want to have to wear clothing covering every inch of my body to not get bit, when even then I'm getting bites where there is clothing over it. Help (If for some reason it matters I am in Illinois)\n\nLink to pictures of the bites, the second picture look a lot redder than it actually is because of the shadow\n\n\nhttps://imgur.com/a/LNpiO", "How to deal with mosquitos inside your house My family have recently moved to a rural house that has a pond in our backyard. Naturally this is a breeding ground for tons of mosquitos, I constantly have mosquitos bites all over me(More so on my elbows and forearm) I never see the mosquitos in our house and since I despise getting these bites I try to limit how often I go out except for going to school and hanging out with friends every so often. And even then I wear Mosquito repellent, and yet I am surprised to find 50+ mosquito bites all over me (Not an exaggeration, there is literally 40 mosquito bites on my elbows alone) And I seems I'm getting bit inside my house, yet I never see/feel these mosquitos biting me. How do I handle these mosquitos? How do I handle these amount of bites, it super hot, and I don't want to have to wear clothing covering every inch of my body to not get bit, when even then I'm getting bites where there is clothing over it. Help (If for some reason it matters I am in Illinois)\n\nLink to pictures of the bites, the second picture look a lot redder than it actually is because of the shadow\n\n\nhttps://imgur.com/a/LNpiO", "How to deal with mosquitos inside your house My family have recently moved to a rural house that has a pond in our backyard. Naturally this is a breeding ground for tons of mosquitos, I constantly have mosquitos bites all over me(More so on my elbows and forearm) I never see the mosquitos in our house and since I despise getting these bites I try to limit how often I go out except for going to school and hanging out with friends every so often. And even then I wear Mosquito repellent, and yet I am surprised to find 50+ mosquito bites all over me (Not an exaggeration, there is literally 40 mosquito bites on my elbows alone) And I seems I'm getting bit inside my house, yet I never see/feel these mosquitos biting me. How do I handle these mosquitos? How do I handle these amount of bites, it super hot, and I don't want to have to wear clothing covering every inch of my body to not get bit, when even then I'm getting bites where there is clothing over it. Help (If for some reason it matters I am in Illinois)\n\nLink to pictures of the bites, the second picture look a lot redder than it actually is because of the shadow\n\n\nhttps://imgur.com/a/LNpiO", "How to deal with mosquitos inside your house My family have recently moved to a rural house that has a pond in our backyard. Naturally this is a breeding ground for tons of mosquitos, I constantly have mosquitos bites all over me(More so on my elbows and forearm) I never see the mosquitos in our house and since I despise getting these bites I try to limit how often I go out except for going to school and hanging out with friends every so often. And even then I wear Mosquito repellent, and yet I am surprised to find 50+ mosquito bites all over me (Not an exaggeration, there is literally 40 mosquito bites on my elbows alone) And I seems I'm getting bit inside my house, yet I never see/feel these mosquitos biting me. How do I handle these mosquitos? How do I handle these amount of bites, it super hot, and I don't want to have to wear clothing covering every inch of my body to not get bit, when even then I'm getting bites where there is clothing over it. Help (If for some reason it matters I am in Illinois)\n\nLink to pictures of the bites, the second picture look a lot redder than it actually is because of the shadow\n\n\nhttps://imgur.com/a/LNpiO", "How to deal with mosquitos inside your house My family have recently moved to a rural house that has a pond in our backyard. Naturally this is a breeding ground for tons of mosquitos, I constantly have mosquitos bites all over me(More so on my elbows and forearm) I never see the mosquitos in our house and since I despise getting these bites I try to limit how often I go out except for going to school and hanging out with friends every so often. And even then I wear Mosquito repellent, and yet I am surprised to find 50+ mosquito bites all over me (Not an exaggeration, there is literally 40 mosquito bites on my elbows alone) And I seems I'm getting bit inside my house, yet I never see/feel these mosquitos biting me. How do I handle these mosquitos? How do I handle these amount of bites, it super hot, and I don't want to have to wear clothing covering every inch of my body to not get bit, when even then I'm getting bites where there is clothing over it. Help (If for some reason it matters I am in Illinois)\n\nLink to pictures of the bites, the second picture look a lot redder than it actually is because of the shadow\n\n\nhttps://imgur.com/a/LNpiO" ]	[ "Assuming you are experiencing mosquito bites (I kinda agree with the other posts that your bites may not be from mosquitoes), I would recommend the following:\n\n* Put fish in the pond to eat the mosquito larva. This should reduce the number of mosquitoes. \n* Set up a bug zapper away from the house to attract the mosquitoes and kill them. \n* Seal up the windows and doors.\n* Install ultrasonic anti-mosquito devices. I'm kinda on the fence if these work, but it might be worth the $20 to try.\n* Grow plants that repeal mosquitoes. http://www.naturallivingideas.com/11-plants-that-repel-mosquitoes/\n* Burn fires and candles--especially those with citronella.", "Sounds like something other than mosquitoes - check out chiggers and bedbugs like others have said. But you also need to get those mosquito dunk things for the pond. You can get a 20 pack for around $20 at WalMart.", "What do the bites look like? There's a chance it could be beg bugs. A friend of mine had a bout with them a few years back, and it wasn't pretty. \n\nI only suggest bed bugs because you said you never see mosquitoes in the house. Don't mistake me for some Internet expert or something.", "You can get pucks from the store that you throw in the pond that kill the larvae. \n\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Summit-185502-20-Pack-Mosquito-Dunk/dp/B0002568YA", "What you have are probably no mosquitos. You see (and hear!) those.\n\nAs for mosquitos: First, you need to make sure no new ones can come in (house, room). Then you take the vacuum cleaner and suck up those little suckers.", "The thing about this is these bites vary, there are some very small pimple sized bites that are numerous and then there are bigger bites that are about an inch big in diameter there are both red and are itchy, I have had bed bugs before, but I don't sleep on my bed often, sometime I sleep on my bed, other times I sleep on my couch other times I sleep on the floor, I just fall asleep where ever I am at the time I feel sleepy. I mention this because that would mean these bed bugs are every where yet I havnt seen one and my family hasn't seen on either ", "Release a bunch of spiders and they'll take care of it. Then burn your house down because, well you know, spiders.", "It might be worth it to get your property checked OP, I don't really know if it would be the exterminators, but it would be good to seek professionals if you aren't sure if it's mosquitos or not.", "In the middle of the night, when the room is dark and you're laying in bed... IMMEDIATELY check for bedbugs. Check the creases in your mattress and boxspring for small reddish brown diamond shaped bugs. \n\nhttps://www.google.com/search?q=bedbug&client=ms-android-virgin-us&prmd=inv&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwi_982IjfLOAhXBPB4KHSfLAREQ_AUIBygB&biw=360&bih=560\n\nThere are plenty of videos and guides on reddit and youtube on how to get rid of them. \n\nOtherwise if you do find insects but they arent bedbugs, ask over at /r/whatsthisbug to ID it. Be sure you provide what part of the country your from in the title. ", "As someone who lives his entire life in Europe's mosquito hotspot here are my expiriences.\n1. Put mosquito netting on every opening in the house. I mean every window, every door. This reduces the number that gets in but it doesn't stop them completley\n2. The pond is a huge issue. If you can't dry it up you'll have to throw special kind of mosquito poison in a pond on every warmer day during the winter and spring. If you don't get all of their egg before they're hatched, you're screwed for the rest of the year.\n3. There is some kind of mosquito poisoning smoke you should spray around the house and the pond once a week. In my town there is a municipal company that does that. \n\nAs you can see, you have to do everything in your might to prevent them from hatching, because once they're airborne there is nothing you can do.\n\nGoogle for a product \"CroFog Mini\", that's how we smoke 'em out." ]	[ 5, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I make close friends and overcome the death of one? I didn't really thought I'd be asking for advice on the internet for such kind of thing, but I'm kinda mentally broken/bruised. \n\nMy friend since elementary (9 years ago) recently committed suicide and ever since then I've been having troubles getting over his death since he was my closest friend. It's affecting my every-day life and I realized that I don't really have close friends; I have friends to go out and drink or eat, but that's about it.\n\nDoes someone know how can I change that? Or at least something that has worked for you guys and gals to get closer with people or have relationships that are less superficial and more actual friendship. If it matters, I'm not shy nor afraid to go out and meet people- but same thing, when I meet people I can make casual friends but for as much time I give to said friendship, it just never advances.\n\nThanks all for your responses in advance, here's a picture of a [cute pelican](https://scontent-dft4-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t34.0-12/15451381_192584657871393_1348038170_n.jpg?oh=8493093031098bca3861a8dd6a48a432&oe=5853BD10) for your problems", "How can I make close friends and overcome the death of one? I didn't really thought I'd be asking for advice on the internet for such kind of thing, but I'm kinda mentally broken/bruised. \n\nMy friend since elementary (9 years ago) recently committed suicide and ever since then I've been having troubles getting over his death since he was my closest friend. It's affecting my every-day life and I realized that I don't really have close friends; I have friends to go out and drink or eat, but that's about it.\n\nDoes someone know how can I change that? Or at least something that has worked for you guys and gals to get closer with people or have relationships that are less superficial and more actual friendship. If it matters, I'm not shy nor afraid to go out and meet people- but same thing, when I meet people I can make casual friends but for as much time I give to said friendship, it just never advances.\n\nThanks all for your responses in advance, here's a picture of a [cute pelican](https://scontent-dft4-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t34.0-12/15451381_192584657871393_1348038170_n.jpg?oh=8493093031098bca3861a8dd6a48a432&oe=5853BD10) for your problems", "How can I make close friends and overcome the death of one? I didn't really thought I'd be asking for advice on the internet for such kind of thing, but I'm kinda mentally broken/bruised. \n\nMy friend since elementary (9 years ago) recently committed suicide and ever since then I've been having troubles getting over his death since he was my closest friend. It's affecting my every-day life and I realized that I don't really have close friends; I have friends to go out and drink or eat, but that's about it.\n\nDoes someone know how can I change that? Or at least something that has worked for you guys and gals to get closer with people or have relationships that are less superficial and more actual friendship. If it matters, I'm not shy nor afraid to go out and meet people- but same thing, when I meet people I can make casual friends but for as much time I give to said friendship, it just never advances.\n\nThanks all for your responses in advance, here's a picture of a [cute pelican](https://scontent-dft4-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t34.0-12/15451381_192584657871393_1348038170_n.jpg?oh=8493093031098bca3861a8dd6a48a432&oe=5853BD10) for your problems" ]	[ "First of all I'm very sorry for your loss. I came across my first real best friend about 4 years ago (I'm 30) & sometimes just the thought of what I would have to do without her brings me close to tears. \n\nI did have one friend die from a heroine overdose 11 years ago & while it definitely affected me pretty hard for a while (she was supposed to become my roommate when my old one moved away, but because she had drug problems I begged my parents to let me move back home. After she died I suffered incredible guilt because I thought I could've saved her) I can't lie that we weren't best friends. \n\nI wish I could offer you better advice, but since I haven't been through your exact situation I'm sure I'll fall short, but I'd like to try and offer an alternative outlook; be grateful. I imagine your pain is incredibly intense & it follows you everywhere and after having someone to always go to with your real problems, I'm sure it's hard to not have that someone to confide in anymore, but you should also try to realise how lucky you were to have such an amazing connection with another human being. There are so many people out there with no real friends or family that are constantly alone & feel like they're fending off the rest of the world all by themselves, but you're one of the lucky ones who got to experience a love that goes deeper than most romantic relationships. I've had many 'good friends' over the years that treated me like shit so I had to cut them out of my life, but when you find those rare ones that REALLY get you, consider yourself lucky to have experienced one of the most magical experiences you can have in this life. \n\nAlso, since you mentioned this was recent, remember that this pain will lessen with time. It never goes away, but becomes easier to deal with. ", "As a person that recently went through something similar my only advice is too keep the rest of ur friends closer, this will help ease the pain a little and start the repairing process (unless the friendships start to become toxic to you, people grieve differently and some like to talk about the old days and this made it harder for me) \n\nSecondly let urself heal to whatever capacity you can, you will never forget this person as they where an integral part of you growing up and shaping who you are, don't let it hold you there but...grow, flourish become who you need to be.\n\nLastly get outside and do things, try new hobbies, joking a group fitness class...all these things will help you find new people to interact with and help you grow on a personal level.\n\nMy condolences for your loss, just remember it's hard. But it's supposed to be, take everyday as a new one some will be hard but you never know what tomorrow will bring ", "After the loss of my wife, I found a faith based program, GriefShare.org\nThis is a world wide organization.\nYou don't get over grief, you get through it!\nOne hour, one day at a time." ]	[ 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to sweat less in hot weather How do I control my sweat so I don't get back to lesson drenched in sweat in 35C weather and 90% humidity.", "How to sweat less in hot weather How do I control my sweat so I don't get back to lesson drenched in sweat in 35C weather and 90% humidity.", "How to sweat less in hot weather How do I control my sweat so I don't get back to lesson drenched in sweat in 35*C weather and 90% humidity." ]	[ "Exercise more. Or eat spicy food. Both have worked for me and I work in a kitchen that gets to be about 100F.", "Someone in my family had this problem and he went to the doctor for it. They gave him a prescription to take as needed for it. ", "I had a similar problem and I found the solution that works best for me. The product is called 'Driclor' and it's a strong antiperspirant.\n\nThe concentration is stronger than normal antiperspirants so it's very effective.\n\nThe application is simple (but isn't ideal). You put it on at night and then go to sleep and wash it off in the morning. Then you use normal deodorant or antiperspirant as usual. The problem is that the agent forms small amounts of hydrochloric acid on your skin which will make your skin itchy and may hurt.\n\nIt's effective and if you can push through the irritation it will work. Good luck OP." ]	[ 5, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?", "How do I keep myself from getting attached/obsessed with attractive women I meet? Long story short I don't have a lot of dating experience. Lots of going out with mutual female friends but nothing romantically. I have had opportunities over the years but lost out due to not having confidence. Now that i'm older, I think maybe I get a little obsessed over someone who pays me even a little bit of attention, and gloss over details like us not really being compatible, me not being head over heels for her, and ignoring signs that we might not be a good match. The last time I was super interested in someone I ignored a lot of red flags and I feel really stupid and embarrassed whenever I think about it.I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. it's really awkward. So how can I stop being so desperate and look at someone objectively?" ]	[ "Don't put any woman on the pedestal, they are imperfect human being just like you.\n\nTheir breath stink in the morning and their shit is even stinkier, just like yours.", "View the woman as if you'd view a new friend.\nMeet up, hang out. Don't overstay your welcome. Finding a partner is no different to making a friend. If the spark is really there, you'll know and you can go to the next level.", "I used to be like this. Like 1.5 years ago. This what I figured out / did: You're attaching to them because you don't have enough women in your life. Meet more women. Use tinder and online dating to meet as many girls as you can. Go out and do stuff in groups, but when you meet someone new there, don't even consider them \"dateable\" unless youve met them 5-10 times. Don't even think of them that way. Eventually you wont \"attach\" immediately to someone, because you've learnt how to separate your dating life from your normal life - and you won't really care about any women you meet unless they really are special. I recently met someone special, and we clicked like hell - not only because I know what to look for, but because I've learnt how to be attractive and fun without getting too invested in the woman until it's for real.\n\nStop thinking about women as someone you \"need to be with\", and just think of them as a person.", "Rushing into a relationship too fast, obsessing over the other person leads to ignoring signs that we might not be a good match, you are absolutely right about that. First thing first, stop cringing -- you are not alone. We all make mistakes. The things that make you feel ashamed -- we all have done it before. By the way, you said you obsess over the women you meet, but it seems like you are obsessing over yourself just as much. Like u/jonquence pointed it out: the difference is that you put them on a pedestal, whereas you beat yourself down. That's self-esteem issue. Like you, u/naades, and u/gorantheg pointed it out, work on your confidence. Do not aspire to be better than other people, the goal is to be \"just as good.\" Perfection leads to more obsessions, you don't want that shit.\n\n\"it's really awkward\" -- I guarantee you that much: noone else cares about it, because people are usually preoccupied with themselves, not you. That's actually a good thing, you can let go of all that shame :D Do you feel like all eyes are on you? You obsess with your presence and how you're being perceived so much, you are putting all this pressure on yourself. \n\nHow do I build confidence, you ask? Here are two sources to get started: Gary van Warmerdam at Pathway To Happiness and Brene Brown. My boyfriend felt a lot like you and he enjoyed GvW's podcasts. I learned a lot from Brene Brown and therapy. If you google these names and click around you will also find additional authors, subjects, and eventually you will learn to better understand yourself. \n\n", "Difficult to answer, but you need to somehow drill it into your brain not to think too far ahead when dating a girl or meeting a bew girl.\n\nBuilding your confidence up will make a huge difference, these situations are usually because of a lack of self confidence and it makes you get a little ahead of yourself with opposite sex.\n\nJust keep in mind that even if she does like you, dont make a big deal of it in your head.", "It seems a lot of advice for this type of social issue is based around saturation.\n\nMeet tons more women, hit on girls, go out more.\n\nThis advice is good on it's own and can be helpful for some, but it doesn't address or serve to fix the underlying issue. \n\nThe issue is within yourself. Figure out why you feel the way you do when girls show you attention. What purpose do these emotions serve?\n\nWhy do you want to change from \"being desperate to looking at someone objectively?\" What would you get from this change, from an emotional standpoint?\n\nAnd finally, learn to differentiate between infatuation and genuine attraction. Probably the hardest task to complete on your own, but eventually you'll realize why you idealize the women you do, why you become infatuated with them, and what are some alternative behaviors you can try in order to produce more positive experiences.\n\nMost importantly: changing a behavior requires time, patience, commitment, and failure. Accepting that there is no specific time limit for the process is key to keeping yourself engaged. Accept your failures along the way and just enjoy your life. Eventually, you'll realize one day that the attitudes/behaviors are still prevalent, but they are very much controllable and no longer have the power to autonomously dictate your actions or emotions.\n\nP.S. Regarding the whole \"confidence\" issue... Confidence looks different from person to person, manifests drastically differently in all people, and ultimately only acts as a catch-all phrase. Self-confidence can't be instilled from an external source (e.g. getting a girlfriend or winning the lottery). It ultimately manifests organically, primarily from jettisoning self-doubt that causes/exacerbates the feelings towards women of infatuation/idealization.\n\n", "Confidence isn't being sure that the girl will like you. It's being okay if she doesn't, and moving on. \n\nYou can't win the lotteryr if you don't buy a ticket\n\nYou miss ℅100 of the shots you don't take.\n", "i am telling you this with 100% confidence, meet other women. (sorry,i know it though, im the same as you), but every women i got obsessed over, has been 'replaced' (so to speak) by a new women to be obsessed over. and i have noticed that i care less and less, the more i meet women.\n\nif i lose $10, it sucks. if i find $20 later who gives a shit about the first $10 ", "Hold yourself in higher regard. Then you won't live and die with what others think of you. You're probably a pretty good person. Love yourself and approach situations with that love.", "Take the time to list the things that you want in a partner. If you don't have this list you are just flying blind led by hormones.\n\nBeauty doesn't trump being a bitch. ", "Just remember the phrase \"there's plenty of fish in the sea\". There are 6 billion people in the world. 3 billion of them are female. You can afford to lose a few.", "I struggle with the same thing. I have to tell myself the more I think about it the more I tend to justify her less than desirable actions. I find that when I fantasize I tend to be super optimisitic.", "I had and still have the same problem. You literally have to think to yourself what's best for you and them. \nIf you think your relationship in the future will last and you have a strong future, go for it, if not, break it to them but let them know you still love their company and presence. \nI have a deep need for a relationship, but one of the girls actually turned me down, but I learnt so much from her regarding relationships, that you NEED to get to know the person, or it may end in a couple years and all have been a waste.. \n(I dated a girl for 5 years realizing she's definitely not the person I need to marry and build a future with) ", "Don't rush into dating so quickly, and just be friends with them. See how they act around you. How they treat you. That will be a good indicator of how they feel about you, and that will show you how attached you can get.\n\nIf you and the woman in question were in a room together, would she go talk to her friends and maybe you later on, or would she go straight to you after she saw you? That means she genuinely loves spending time with you. That's when it's probably OK to get attached, even if it's just as friends.\n\nIf they would prefer to just talk to their friends or someone else, or if they don't treat you any different from other friends, then don't get attached. They probably don't love you or aren't attached to you. \n\nMy girlfriend and I were friends for a long time, before I got the confidence to ask her out. I had always thought she didn't feel the same about me. But looking back, she totally would have sought me out in a room. We hung out every chance we could just by default, even before we started dating.\n\nIf that sort of stuff didn't happen, I wouldn't get attached to her. I would remind myself that we're just friends, and that's OK. Plenty of fish in the sea, not the one for me, etc...", "Don't just go with the mindset that she is the girl who will bore my babies. Think of her like a cool friend you can hang out with easy and not being judgemental. Attraction will come naturally if you guys hit it off. Just take it slow. Baby steps.", ">I cringe whenever I meet her because we have a lot of mutual friends. \n\nI don't know the situation but it's likely that she doesn't think of it as cringey. She probably was just flattered, okay time to move on, no big deal. If you're cool about it she will be too.", "Go check out /r/TheRedPill \nAlso go check out /r/marriedredpill \n\nMorpheus: I know exactly what you mean. Let me tell you why you're here. You're here because you know something. What you know you can't explain, but you feel it. You've felt it your entire life, that there's something wrong with the world. You don't know what it is, but it's there, like a splinter in your mind, driving you mad. It is this feeling that has brought you to me. Do you know what I'm talking about? \n\nMorpheus: This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the blue pill - the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill - you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes. " ]	[ 24, 17, 11, 10, 10, 6, 5, 4, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -8 ]	safe
[ "How to whiten socks I have quite a lot of socks, mostly white and yellow Goldtoes, that I've been wearing for the past couple of years. They hold up substantially better than any other socks I've had, but they are dirty as sin on the bottoms. Does anyone know how to get them back to their former glory?\n\nI'm not knowledgeable about laundry to be honest. I've heard bleaching them to white would just damage the socks. \n\nThanks!", "How to whiten socks I have quite a lot of socks, mostly white and yellow Goldtoes, that I've been wearing for the past couple of years. They hold up substantially better than any other socks I've had, but they are dirty as sin on the bottoms. Does anyone know how to get them back to their former glory?\n\nI'm not knowledgeable about laundry to be honest. I've heard bleaching them to white would just damage the socks. \n\nThanks!" ]	[ "Straight bleach can weaken fibers, but I've had some success with a water/bleach soak. I usually get a tub/bucket of water and add a good splash of bleach (about 1/4 cup bleach to a gallon of water) and let it soak about 5-10 minutes, then wash like usual", "I’ve had success soaking them in oxiclean. I rarely use bleach on my whites and throw a scoop of oxiclean in with the detergent instead." ]	[ 4, 3 ]	safe
[ "Tips for someone with bad flight anxiety I know all the stats and that flying is safe. But from take-off to every single bump, I honestly feel terrified that I'm going to die. Any tips are appreciated. ", "Tips for someone with bad flight anxiety I know all the stats and that flying is safe. But from take-off to every single bump, I honestly feel terrified that I'm going to die. Any tips are appreciated. ", "Tips for someone with bad flight anxiety I know all the stats and that flying is safe. But from take-off to every single bump, I honestly feel terrified that I'm going to die. Any tips are appreciated. ", "Tips for someone with bad flight anxiety I know all the stats and that flying is safe. But from take-off to every single bump, I honestly feel terrified that I'm going to die. Any tips are appreciated. ", "Tips for someone with bad flight anxiety I know all the stats and that flying is safe. But from take-off to every single bump, I honestly feel terrified that I'm going to die. Any tips are appreciated. ", "Tips for someone with bad flight anxiety I know all the stats and that flying is safe. But from take-off to every single bump, I honestly feel terrified that I'm going to die. Any tips are appreciated. " ]	[ "Consider doing anxiety exercises. They're usually simple mind \"games\" meant to distract you from what's stressing you out.\n\n* A simple one describe aloud (or since you're on a plane, loudly in your head) the things you see. Yankee ball cap, brown leather boat shoes, Skymall magazine, etc. Keep describing objects, people's facial features and focus on those things.\n\n* Similarly describe a physical sensation that you giving to yourself. Not like pain, but say you have a water bottle, and a napkin. Get the napkin fairly wet, not dripping, but still soaked through. Hold it to your arm, and focus on how cool it is, wet it is. Same thing, keep describing it to yourself. Focus on the heat of your arm slowly warming it up, the beads rolling downward.\n\n* Lastly, do math in your head. I don't have anxiety, but when I'm trying to distract myself, I try to see how high I can do the powers of 2 in my head: 2, 4, 8, 16, 32, 64, 128, 256, 512, 1024, 2048, 4096, 8192, etc.\n\nPhysically, have something to play with. A fidget toy, a game device/apps downloaded, a book or e-reader. Once your on the plan start playing/reading and don't stop until you've landed.\n\nLastly, have a stress-relief \"treat\". A stiff drink, medication, a good candy bar, masturbate in the bathroom. Something that will calm you down, and not feel so tense.", "If you YouTube \"fear of flying m", "I sleep as little as possible the night before. Then I'm too exhausted to think about my worries. I did this before a surgery I was nervous about. ", "I have serious flight anxiety too! Here is how I deal with it! \n\nhttp://thegetawayjournals.com/2017/06/27/how-i-handle-flight-anxiety/", "Have a drink or two at the airport bar beforehand, then enjoy the in-flight booze. Before flying back to the States in 2015 I hadn't been on a plane since 1995. I was terrified. Luckily, I was sat next to a lovely, elderly couple who plied me with wine.", "Remember a few facts... You are more likely to be killed by lightning, you are more likely to be killed by a family member, you are more likely to be in a car accident, you are more likely to die doing something stupid. But above all else, remember you are not afraid of flying, you are afraid of suddenly NOT flying. Get over it you will be fine and soon you may even enjoy flying. \n" ]	[ 4, 2, 2, 1, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "How do I become better at following verbal commands? I struggle with following verbal commands. If I'm asked to do something and it's on paper I can follow each step no problem. But once my supervisor goes \"chileconqueso, I need you to do X, Y, and Z\" and I'm unfamiliar with them my body kind of shuts down. Supervisor will ask me if I have any questions but I usually think I can figure it out as I go along, which as we all know I kind of don't. \n\nI also tend to take things in a different way. For example, an instructor asked me to push a door open using my body. So he's facing me while I'm opening the door. He then tells me to move forward. I think he wants me to take a step forward towards the door knob. He gets frustrated and says to move forward towards him. (He wanted to show me how strong the vacuum pressure is inside the room). I feel stupid for doing it wrong and feel like I should've known he meant to move so that I close the door. \n\n\nAny advice would be appreciated. ", "How do I become better at following verbal commands? I struggle with following verbal commands. If I'm asked to do something and it's on paper I can follow each step no problem. But once my supervisor goes \"chileconqueso, I need you to do X, Y, and Z\" and I'm unfamiliar with them my body kind of shuts down. Supervisor will ask me if I have any questions but I usually think I can figure it out as I go along, which as we all know I kind of don't. \n\nI also tend to take things in a different way. For example, an instructor asked me to push a door open using my body. So he's facing me while I'm opening the door. He then tells me to move forward. I think he wants me to take a step forward towards the door knob. He gets frustrated and says to move forward towards him. (He wanted to show me how strong the vacuum pressure is inside the room). I feel stupid for doing it wrong and feel like I should've known he meant to move so that I close the door. \n\n\nAny advice would be appreciated. ", "How do I become better at following verbal commands? I struggle with following verbal commands. If I'm asked to do something and it's on paper I can follow each step no problem. But once my supervisor goes \"chileconqueso, I need you to do X, Y, and Z\" and I'm unfamiliar with them my body kind of shuts down. Supervisor will ask me if I have any questions but I usually think I can figure it out as I go along, which as we all know I kind of don't. \n\nI also tend to take things in a different way. For example, an instructor asked me to push a door open using my body. So he's facing me while I'm opening the door. He then tells me to move forward. I think he wants me to take a step forward towards the door knob. He gets frustrated and says to move forward towards him. (He wanted to show me how strong the vacuum pressure is inside the room). I feel stupid for doing it wrong and feel like I should've known he meant to move so that I close the door. \n\n\nAny advice would be appreciated. ", "How do I become better at following verbal commands? I struggle with following verbal commands. If I'm asked to do something and it's on paper I can follow each step no problem. But once my supervisor goes \"chileconqueso, I need you to do X, Y, and Z\" and I'm unfamiliar with them my body kind of shuts down. Supervisor will ask me if I have any questions but I usually think I can figure it out as I go along, which as we all know I kind of don't. \n\nI also tend to take things in a different way. For example, an instructor asked me to push a door open using my body. So he's facing me while I'm opening the door. He then tells me to move forward. I think he wants me to take a step forward towards the door knob. He gets frustrated and says to move forward towards him. (He wanted to show me how strong the vacuum pressure is inside the room). I feel stupid for doing it wrong and feel like I should've known he meant to move so that I close the door. \n\n\nAny advice would be appreciated. " ]	[ "Repeat what you were told, the way a lot of people do when they're trying to remember a phone number. Research has shown that we often forget things when we cross through a door from one room to another because our mind kind of \"resets\" when we enter a new room because it's a new context. Anticipating that and repeating your tasks might help. Have you ever consulted an audiologist? I've worked with kids that have auditory processing disorders, meaning they hear what's said but their minds don't process it quickly enough or correctly. Just a thought. Good luck!", "I would have done the same in your example if it is any consolation. \n\nI've found that, in terms of taking direction, if I don't understand something and make a mistake, it is more than likely me either over thinking said direction or my supervisor/boss is unintelligent and cannot convey the message to me with clarity. Call me conceited.", "I have the same issue to an extent, i am more of a visual person so seeing something written is easier for me, i would either carry a small notepad and make a quick list or record the requests on my phone to play them back because i would miss one thing by accident. ", "I do this a lot too.\n\nWhen I was young, first day playing soccer. We were introducing ourselves. I have a brother, lets say his name is carlos. people often mix our names up. Our coach was telling us who to go in for. I wasn't paying too much attention until he walked up to me and said \" Carlos \", I responded with, lets say, Max is my name, I respond with \" Max, my name is Max, not Carlos, \". He says \" I know, and you are subbing in for Carlos, \". I felt pretty emberassed after that." ]	[ 6, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to keep my SO from losing his stuff My SO has a tendency to misplace things. Wallet, keys, glasses, phone, if it's small and important, he's misplaced it somewhere. We have a key hanger for keys that sits literally right next to the door, but he doesn't always use it. I try to get him to pile up his stuff in the same place every day but he just doesn't stick to it. Please Reddit, I need your help! He just can't stop losing his stuff!", "How to keep my SO from losing his stuff My SO has a tendency to misplace things. Wallet, keys, glasses, phone, if it's small and important, he's misplaced it somewhere. We have a key hanger for keys that sits literally right next to the door, but he doesn't always use it. I try to get him to pile up his stuff in the same place every day but he just doesn't stick to it. Please Reddit, I need your help! He just can't stop losing his stuff!", "How to keep my SO from losing his stuff My SO has a tendency to misplace things. Wallet, keys, glasses, phone, if it's small and important, he's misplaced it somewhere. We have a key hanger for keys that sits literally right next to the door, but he doesn't always use it. I try to get him to pile up his stuff in the same place every day but he just doesn't stick to it. Please Reddit, I need your help! He just can't stop losing his stuff!", "How to keep my SO from losing his stuff My SO has a tendency to misplace things. Wallet, keys, glasses, phone, if it's small and important, he's misplaced it somewhere. We have a key hanger for keys that sits literally right next to the door, but he doesn't always use it. I try to get him to pile up his stuff in the same place every day but he just doesn't stick to it. Please Reddit, I need your help! He just can't stop losing his stuff!", "How to keep my SO from losing his stuff My SO has a tendency to misplace things. Wallet, keys, glasses, phone, if it's small and important, he's misplaced it somewhere. We have a key hanger for keys that sits literally right next to the door, but he doesn't always use it. I try to get him to pile up his stuff in the same place every day but he just doesn't stick to it. Please Reddit, I need your help! He just can't stop losing his stuff!" ]	[ "My wife does this and it annoys the shit out of me. Cell phones, wallet, keys, you name it. Once she needed to borrow my checkbook and she lost that (fell out of her coat pocket that she never bothers to zip up). After that incident, I bought her a purse to try to keep everything in (with a nice zipper so things didn't fall out). That was the biggest fight of our marriage. \n\nNow I just accept that she loses shit but I make sure that I always have my wallet, my keys, and my phone. If she misplaces or looses something, it doesn't affect me.\n\nFortunately, she doesn't carry much cash so every time she looses her wallet, it just means she has to cancel her cr", "Unless your SO is under the age of 6, then he's managed to find the stuff he's been misplacing for years. Unless it's really important stuff (like his life saving medication), then instead of trying to help him stop misplacing stuff perhaps you could add 5-10 minutes to the time you need to get from A to B if he's driving and you're sure he won't find his keys on time. The fact that he doesn't stick to your plans might mean that it's a bigger deal for you than it is for him, and if it's his stuff we're talking about, then you should leave him be. If, on the other hand, he's losing your stuff too, then ban him from using it.", "My mom does this and it's so annoying. Phone, keys, glasses.... We got these little stick-on locator tags that beep at each other.", "I lose a lot of my important things, all the time. What I've been told numerous times, from the people who have to endure the +10 minutes I spend before leaving my house trying to find something, is to get a box, place it somewhere safe, and just dump all my important shit in it as SOON as I get into the house. I'm lazy so I can't tell you how effective it is, but it seems like a great idea to me ", "Instead of just having that one hook to store your keys, I would set a tray down in the bedroom, kitchen, living room, office, etc. which would function as a place to throw in keys and maybe some loose change. That way, regardless of where he is in the house, he'd have no excuse to be lazy and he'd have to throw his keys in at least one of those spots. It'll make it easier to find things at the very least. " ]	[ 5, 3, 3, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "how to get neighbor's dog to stop barking. My neighbor got a dog, and he leaves it out all day, and all it does is bark from 7am til late in the evening. >:\|", "how to get neighbor's dog to stop barking. My neighbor got a dog, and he leaves it out all day, and all it does is bark from 7am til late in the evening. >:\|", "how to get neighbor's dog to stop barking. My neighbor got a dog, and he leaves it out all day, and all it does is bark from 7am til late in the evening. >:\|", "how to get neighbor's dog to stop barking. My neighbor got a dog, and he leaves it out all day, and all it does is bark from 7am til late in the evening. >:\|", "how to get neighbor's dog to stop barking. My neighbor got a dog, and he leaves it out all day, and all it does is bark from 7am til late in the evening. >:\|", "how to get neighbor's dog to stop barking. My neighbor got a dog, and he leaves it out all day, and all it does is bark from 7am til late in the evening. >:\|", "how to get neighbor's dog to stop barking. My neighbor got a dog, and he leaves it out all day, and all it does is bark from 7am til late in the evening. >:\|" ]	[ "My neighbors dog was left out all day as well and it did the same thing. I also have a dog and offered to keep his dog if he was ever away. After keeping her for a few weekends and building trust I told him my dog and his dog were such good friends I wanted them to be able to play together every day while we were gone. He was cool with the idea and let me install a doggy door inbetween the fences. Now both his dog and my dog have someone to keep them company/play with and because of this they rarely ever bark anymore. Added bonus is double the dog fun. I know this won't work with all neighbors but it sure has worked well in my case. \n", "Of course it does, it's going crazy with boredom. If your neighbour won't train the dog or leave it inside when he/she is away, you can call and make a complaint with the city. ", "If you don't want to go down the legal road just install one of those boxes that emit a high pitched beep when the dog barks. The dogs can hear it but humans cant. Similar to a bark collar but just a box screwed to the fence or whatever.", "Maybe if you threw a bunch of toys in the yard. That might give him/her something to occupy its mind.", "I can't remember the name of it, but there's a device you can buy that sends out a sound or something that keeps the dog from barking. People can't hear it, but it keeps dogs quiet. You just put it outside behind a pole or something where your neighbor can't see it on the side of your house where the direction the barking is coming from. \n\nBam. Neighbor gets to keep dog, dog is quiet, you have peace, etc. Everyone wins. ", "Dogs will bark like that because they are scared .. because they hear other dogs way down the street.. because they are dogs.\n\nMost residential areas have a no barking rule even if you're not in a town or city... usually its over 30 minutes continuously.\n\nI wouldn't approach them if the family seems like idiots and they probably are.. probably want the dog outside because it barks inside too.. but thats not your problem.", "He probably has zero idea that it's barking because it stops barking when he gets home. Don't waste your time talking to him. Go straight to animal control and start complaining. They will ask you to keep a log, then they'll come out to observe the situation. If the dog barks more than 15 minutes when they are outside the property, they'll start issuing citations. " ]	[ 21, 13, 9, 3, 3, 2, -4 ]	safe
[ "How can I get my emotions under control? I am a female and I don't want to be emotional in the business world. \n\nIn the past, I've experienced situations where I've gotten worked up. We once I feel the urge to cry, I feel like I can't hold back my tears. I don't want to seem vulnerable or emotional. How can I stop myself from crying, and get ahold of myself? ", "How can I get my emotions under control? I am a female and I don't want to be emotional in the business world. \n\nIn the past, I've experienced situations where I've gotten worked up. We once I feel the urge to cry, I feel like I can't hold back my tears. I don't want to seem vulnerable or emotional. How can I stop myself from crying, and get ahold of myself? ", "How can I get my emotions under control? I am a female and I don't want to be emotional in the business world. \n\nIn the past, I've experienced situations where I've gotten worked up. We once I feel the urge to cry, I feel like I can't hold back my tears. I don't want to seem vulnerable or emotional. How can I stop myself from crying, and get ahold of myself? ", "How can I get my emotions under control? I am a female and I don't want to be emotional in the business world. \n\nIn the past, I've experienced situations where I've gotten worked up. We once I feel the urge to cry, I feel like I can't hold back my tears. I don't want to seem vulnerable or emotional. How can I stop myself from crying, and get ahold of myself? ", "How can I get my emotions under control? I am a female and I don't want to be emotional in the business world. \n\nIn the past, I've experienced situations where I've gotten worked up. We once I feel the urge to cry, I feel like I can't hold back my tears. I don't want to seem vulnerable or emotional. How can I stop myself from crying, and get ahold of myself? ", "How can I get my emotions under control? I am a female and I don't want to be emotional in the business world. \n\nIn the past, I've experienced situations where I've gotten worked up. We once I feel the urge to cry, I feel like I can't hold back my tears. I don't want to seem vulnerable or emotional. How can I stop myself from crying, and get ahold of myself? ", "How can I get my emotions under control? I am a female and I don't want to be emotional in the business world. \n\nIn the past, I've experienced situations where I've gotten worked up. We once I feel the urge to cry, I feel like I can't hold back my tears. I don't want to seem vulnerable or emotional. How can I stop myself from crying, and get ahold of myself? ", "How can I get my emotions under control? I am a female and I don't want to be emotional in the business world. \n\nIn the past, I've experienced situations where I've gotten worked up. We once I feel the urge to cry, I feel like I can't hold back my tears. I don't want to seem vulnerable or emotional. How can I stop myself from crying, and get ahold of myself? ", "How can I get my emotions under control? I am a female and I don't want to be emotional in the business world. \n\nIn the past, I've experienced situations where I've gotten worked up. We once I feel the urge to cry, I feel like I can't hold back my tears. I don't want to seem vulnerable or emotional. How can I stop myself from crying, and get ahold of myself? ", "How can I get my emotions under control? I am a female and I don't want to be emotional in the business world. \n\nIn the past, I've experienced situations where I've gotten worked up. We once I feel the urge to cry, I feel like I can't hold back my tears. I don't want to seem vulnerable or emotional. How can I stop myself from crying, and get ahold of myself? " ]	[ "You aren't going to like this answer. But it's a good answer. \n\nI'm a big guy, 6'1'', 225 lbs depending on the day. I have a lot of excess testosterone, and that testosterone gets converted into estrogen when it's in excess. I just learned that is a normal function. By the way, I've never taken a steroid in my life. This is the way God made me.\n\nSo if one person pisses me off, I want to rip their arms off.\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=94LL8J8WYT0\n\nBut if too many things go wrong. I need to sit and cry. Now this is inappropriate for much of my career. A commodities floor trader, a stock trader, a risk analyst, and a school teacher can't be seen crying.\n\nHere is the trick. Cry like crazy in private. When you get home and you have some privacy, think about all of the things that pissed you off. You cry like crazy. Do you want to know the least sexy thing in the world. It's the sound of a guy crying. Now that I'm married, my wife knows my little secret.\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mg_weeXxtkE\n\nBut after you cry, you get sick of crying. You get sick of feeling bad because someone else is a jerk. You walk into work the next day and when someone says or does something douchey. You think about that. And you want to kick their ass. You don't want to go home and cry again. \n\nTrust me, if I can do it, you can. Good luck and much love. Let me know if I can help in any way.", "Think about something that's not emotional to you. In the past, I have thought about random objects in the room, funny memories, etc. Basically just think about something else. ", "I like all the other comments here. Only thing I can add is this: turn your participation in business into a game. The business world isn't real. It's a game, with many arbitrary rules and weird histories. It has some real people in this game, but even they are playing a role in the game, just like you. The stakes are more or less real, depending on who you ask and when you ask them.\n\nNow you can ask yourself, \"What's going on here?\" You can reflect on a comment as if it were about your role, not you. You have some separation from the situation, which gives you more control, which creates more options for you. You can appear politically savvy, even if you have no interest in politics.\n\nAnd tears can be a useful tactic in the game. Don't disrespect tears; they're too powerful at eliciting emotions in others. Save them for when you really need them.\n\nI'll share one technique: when someone confronts you, create an image of a flower about a foot in front of your face to separate you from then. Personally, I use a rose. When the energy of the confrontation gets intense, just notice the flower, or create a new one. This act will help you keep your mind from cascading your emotions into 'oh shit oh shit oh shit' mode. You will hear the difference in your own voice, and so will they. And smile. Since you're in control, they may feel threatened (which may come as a surprise to you). Smile to reassure them, stay behind your rose, and enjoy the game.", "I don't know if this will work for your situation or not, but I have found that m", "Getting in control is such a challenge, I face it every day. I've found that mindfulness is of immense benefit. Its going to take work on your part -- I won't lie...but its very much worth the effort. I wish I'd known about this 40 years ago! Peace and Love to you :)\nhttp://www.mindful.org/m", "Breathe. Analyze the situation at hand. And act. If acting is separating yourself from the problem even temporarily to get a clean head then do it. Just realize you are in control of your life and can make whatever decisions you so choose. The world is a place of limitless possibilities. Just take a second to breathe, think, and tackle whatever task you may have at hand.\n", "Good idea to get this under control. I am a male and I completely freak out when women cry in business situations. I am fine if there is a personal component like the loss of a loved one, etc, but, crying in response to an issue in the work place makes me want to get very far away very fast and never work with that person again. I have three daughters a wife and an ex wife and I have been conditioned that nothing good happens when a woman starts crying.", "For me I use my middle name. So any time I'm getting worked up, be it anger or frustration or fear etc, I'll say in my head XXX David XXX (my full name). It's my que to set the emotion aside and think. It like breaks that pattern. Like if your mad you tend to get more mad about it, or sad about sad...and it builds quickly until it gets out of control. But putting something, a phrase or image, in there breaks that cycle and helps to let the rational part of my brain take the lead and realise that crying or yelling or whatever wont help the situation and I can do that later.", "I'd recommend saint John's wort, it doesn't work for everyone but it can help anxiety along with help important chemicals stay in balance. Maybe also find activities to help express emotions in a positive way like music or art!", "A practical thing to try in the moment if you're really on the verge is to pinch the webbing between your thumb and your forefinger hard with the nails of your other thumb and forefinger. I have no idea why this works, but I have used it many times at the office. Source: [Joanna Goddard](http://joannagoddard.blogspot.com/2015/02/how-to-stop-yourself-from-crying.html)." ]	[ 6, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Damp Smell in Drawers Any tips on getting rid of the damp smell in drawers or cupboards.\n\nIf I leave an item of clothing for a while it gets that horrible old smell ingrained into them, and I have to then wash the clothes.\n\nIt's fine with clothes that I wear regularly.", "Damp Smell in Drawers Any tips on getting rid of the damp smell in drawers or cupboards.\n\nIf I leave an item of clothing for a while it gets that horrible old smell ingrained into them, and I have to then wash the clothes.\n\nIt's fine with clothes that I wear regularly.", "Damp Smell in Drawers Any tips on getting rid of the damp smell in drawers or cupboards.\n\nIf I leave an item of clothing for a while it gets that horrible old smell ingrained into them, and I have to then wash the clothes.\n\nIt's fine with clothes that I wear regularly.", "Damp Smell in Drawers Any tips on getting rid of the damp smell in drawers or cupboards.\n\nIf I leave an item of clothing for a while it gets that horrible old smell ingrained into them, and I have to then wash the clothes.\n\nIt's fine with clothes that I wear regularly.", "Damp Smell in Drawers Any tips on getting rid of the damp smell in drawers or cupboards.\n\nIf I leave an item of clothing for a while it gets that horrible old smell ingrained into them, and I have to then wash the clothes.\n\nIt's fine with clothes that I wear regularly.", "Damp Smell in Drawers Any tips on getting rid of the damp smell in drawers or cupboards.\n\nIf I leave an item of clothing for a while it gets that horrible old smell ingrained into them, and I have to then wash the clothes.\n\nIt's fine with clothes that I wear regularly.", "Damp Smell in Drawers Any tips on getting rid of the damp smell in drawers or cupboards.\n\nIf I leave an item of clothing for a while it gets that horrible old smell ingrained into them, and I have to then wash the clothes.\n\nIt's fine with clothes that I wear regularly.", "Damp Smell in Drawers Any tips on getting rid of the damp smell in drawers or cupboards.\n\nIf I leave an item of clothing for a while it gets that horrible old smell ingrained into them, and I have to then wash the clothes.\n\nIt's fine with clothes that I wear regularly.", "Damp Smell in Drawers Any tips on getting rid of the damp smell in drawers or cupboards.\n\nIf I leave an item of clothing for a while it gets that horrible old smell ingrained into them, and I have to then wash the clothes.\n\nIt's fine with clothes that I wear regularly.", "Damp Smell in Drawers Any tips on getting rid of the damp smell in drawers or cupboards.\n\nIf I leave an item of clothing for a while it gets that horrible old smell ingrained into them, and I have to then wash the clothes.\n\nIt's fine with clothes that I wear regularly.", "Damp Smell in Drawers Any tips on getting rid of the damp smell in drawers or cupboards.\n\nIf I leave an item of clothing for a while it gets that horrible old smell ingrained into them, and I have to then wash the clothes.\n\nIt's fine with clothes that I wear regularly." ]	[ "Cedar wood will suck up the moisture and smell. You can buy small pieces of cedar from places like Home Depot. :)", "Dehumidifier bags will absorb the excess moisture in drawers, cupboards and wardrobes. I lived in a house with a damp problem while I was at Uni and these were a god-send!", "little lavender bags seem to work but you should always have a constant rotation, or wash something before you know you want to wear it and you haven't worn it in a while.", "Silica Gel pouches. The ones that come in boxes of shoes. Ask your local shoe store for a couple and keep them in the drawer.\n\nKeep away from children and pets.", "You know them little pouches of silica gel that you get with shoes and electronics and all sorts? Instead of throwing them away, make it a habit to just chuck them in your clothes draws. They'll suck all the moisture and smell out and keep it from being reintroduced by damp clothing. It doesn't take long collecting to notice the difference. ", "Soap bars and some form of moisture absorb-er. Cedar wood is a good example. Soap just makes things smell amazing.", "Time to re-paint! Kilz everything to lock in all the stank and paint it to match everything. Or, keep using other methods to mask the problem instead of fixing it.", "If you already have the smell then drying the drawers or cupboards won't help.\n\nYou need to remove all the clothes, dry out the drawers then wash the clothes with some white vinegar (about 100ml per load) and only put back clothes that are washed.", "I have the same problem. Bought a dresser second hand from Goodwill only to realize it had a terrible musty odor when I got it home.\n\nI read online that taking all the drawers out and wiping them down with rubbing alcohol or vodka using an old rag helps. I tried that and it did seem to help a little, but the musty smell is still there. I also tried wiping them down with Pine-Sol as sort of a desperate act, and I don't exactly recommend doing that lol. While the Pine-Sol scent is better than a musty scent, your clothes will obviously smell like pine. The Pine-Sol smell wore off after a month or so and the musty smell returned.\n\nI should note I have no moisture issues whatsoever. The winters here are very dry. I wish it was summer so I could let the drawers sit out in the sun for a day. I'll have to try bleach next. I've read online about people trying vinegar on musty drawers, but to no avail. I hate to use bleach, but what works, works.", "Get a bar of soap that you think smells good, empty your drawers, grate small amount of soap into empty drawer, cover with printer paper.", "Baking soda absorbs excess moister and odors. Just buy a box, open it and stick it in offending area." ]	[ 20, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to have friendlier eye contact and greet strangers I feel like whenever I make eye contact with strangers we glare at each other and it's awkward. How can I make these encounters more pleasant?", "How to have friendlier eye contact and greet strangers I feel like whenever I make eye contact with strangers we glare at each other and it's awkward. How can I make these encounters more pleasant?", "How to have friendlier eye contact and greet strangers I feel like whenever I make eye contact with strangers we glare at each other and it's awkward. How can I make these encounters more pleasant?" ]	[ "I used to have the same problem, I used to walk the halls of my workplace a lot (my job function required it.) I would feel like I would slightly smile and say hi, but I'd never get a response back..\n\n I then figured out that I wasn't fully committing to the greeting. It wasn't that they didn't want to greet me back, but rather they wouldn't notice me saying hi or could tell that I was smiling. \n\n Two years ago, I decided to fully commit to the greeting, look them straight in the eyes (even if they are not looking), strong, audible but friendly \"Hi\" or \"Hello\" and a full smile (sometimes you feel like you're smiling, but if you don't smile all the way, it won't look like you're smiling.) After changing my approach, I got a pretty much 100% response rate, and I made a lot more new friends. Also, the weirdest thing is now people started greeting me first, the next time I came across them.", "Relax your face. More. Even more.\n\nWhat's awkward is the facial expression you're making. Your face is telling them something it's not supposed to. Go walk around a mall, relax your eyes and just look at people in the face. If they ask you why just say, \"Thought you were someone else.\" and smile. Then keep walking.", "Kennedy Eyes: \nhttp://www.salesleadershipcenter.com/videos/ken.html\n\nSource: student taking effective communications class, professor is leading authority in said topic." ]	[ 5, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to turn off someone's car alarm with the least damage to their car I was at a wedding a few weeks ago and a car alarm started going off right next to where the procession was happening. Nobody knew whose car it was and nobody turned it off so after 10 minutes the best man broke the window and disconnected the battery.\n\nI was wondering if we could have gotten the alarm to turn off without breaking the window?", "How to turn off someone's car alarm with the least damage to their car I was at a wedding a few weeks ago and a car alarm started going off right next to where the procession was happening. Nobody knew whose car it was and nobody turned it off so after 10 minutes the best man broke the window and disconnected the battery.\n\nI was wondering if we could have gotten the alarm to turn off without breaking the window?" ]	[ "I think you generally would need to use the key fob to turn off the car alarm. The other option would be to (somehow) pop the hood and disconnect the battery. ", "I love how some douchebags think it's okay to just go and damage someone else's property because they feel like it." ]	[ 2, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to befriend/talk to people who are part of a clique? I don't necessarily want to be part of their clique, but I'd like to be able to converse with them whenever we're out. I find it difficult to join in conversations with them.", "How to befriend/talk to people who are part of a clique? I don't necessarily want to be part of their clique, but I'd like to be able to converse with them whenever we're out. I find it difficult to join in conversations with them.", "How to befriend/talk to people who are part of a clique? I don't necessarily want to be part of their clique, but I'd like to be able to converse with them whenever we're out. I find it difficult to join in conversations with them." ]	[ "In my opinion, fuck these people. unless they are people you work with, these people suck. \n\nI hang around some old friends from high school now, we hadn't seen much of each other for a couple years because I went full frat life. Anyways we started hanging out again recently and these two still hang out with people they knew in high school. They have their own secret facebook page where they talk shit about other people and sometimes they post some mean spirited photoshops of others they know. one of these guys I hang out with went on a trip with his clique and they all chipped in to pay FOR EVERYTHING FOR HIM. Hotel/food/alcohol Then this guy, lets call him dung, when he comes back only talks about how much he hated hanging out with this guy in dungs clique. LIKE THAT DUDE HELPED PAY FOR YOUR BUM ASS \n\nTL;DR fuck cliques, they're cliques for a reason", "Any type of physical touch whether that be a slight hand on the shoulder while asking a question or a pat on the back will make the person sub-conciouslly try to involve you in their conversations more . Touch enough of these humans and you'll all be conversing.\n", "First you will want to get naked and grease yourself down, that way noone can hold onto you. Then you will want to run into the group and latch onto the alpha of the group. This will create a great inside joke and will act as a icebreaker." ]	[ 10, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to stop comparing myself to others Even though I acknowledge that this is sometimes a problem for me, I still find myself basing my contentment with my current life progress off of how others around me are doing, which leads to me feeling inadequate at times. What should I do to look at my own accomplishments in a vacuum and not value them based off of what others are doing? \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThanks!", "How to stop comparing myself to others Even though I acknowledge that this is sometimes a problem for me, I still find myself basing my contentment with my current life progress off of how others around me are doing, which leads to me feeling inadequate at times. What should I do to look at my own accomplishments in a vacuum and not value them based off of what others are doing? \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThanks!", "How to stop comparing myself to others Even though I acknowledge that this is sometimes a problem for me, I still find myself basing my contentment with my current life progress off of how others around me are doing, which leads to me feeling inadequate at times. What should I do to look at my own accomplishments in a vacuum and not value them based off of what others are doing? \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThanks!", "How to stop comparing myself to others Even though I acknowledge that this is sometimes a problem for me, I still find myself basing my contentment with my current life progress off of how others around me are doing, which leads to me feeling inadequate at times. What should I do to look at my own accomplishments in a vacuum and not value them based off of what others are doing? \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThanks!", "How to stop comparing myself to others Even though I acknowledge that this is sometimes a problem for me, I still find myself basing my contentment with my current life progress off of how others around me are doing, which leads to me feeling inadequate at times. What should I do to look at my own accomplishments in a vacuum and not value them based off of what others are doing? \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThanks!", "How to stop comparing myself to others Even though I acknowledge that this is sometimes a problem for me, I still find myself basing my contentment with my current life progress off of how others around me are doing, which leads to me feeling inadequate at times. What should I do to look at my own accomplishments in a vacuum and not value them based off of what others are doing? \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThanks!" ]	[ "Most people would disagree with what I say, but we are not equal. Some of us have easier backgrounds or more natural ability than others, and that is just a fact. However, one thing that we are all capable of achieving is our best work. That is all you can give.\n\nThough the world may only view the most talented of people, it does not mean that our efforts are meaningless to us.", "Remember that someone might be comparing themselves to you and coming up short. It is a really unfair comparison for ourselves when we are aware of all our own failures but can only see the successes of others. Just as you like to keep your failures secret, so do others you compare yourself to. Their life you see may just be a front for all the chaos they are in.", " \\_\\_\\_\\_\\_, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, \n Courage to change the things I can, \n And wisdom to know the difference.\n\n[Reinhold Niebuhr](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serenity_Prayer)", "Purge your social media accounts, unfollow people that make you feel less than who you are. It also helps to have a good support network of friends. Instead of comparing yourself try to live comfortably with the fact that others will be better than you at other things. We are individually unique in our own ways, try to focus your energy on things you enjoy. We all have off days but incorporating a healthier lifestyle will help", "Here's the thing, every single person is different. \n\nPlus, every single person is trying to put their best foot forward, so when you hear about them, you hear about the best parts. When you look at them, you see what they want to present to the world. Even looking at their successes, you see the end result, not the million failures and stumbles that occurred, or the realities of the time it took, or any of the grit. \n\nPlease remember that you are great in a way that other people aren't, and that someone probably compares themselves to you and feels inadequate in comparison to you at times too. \n\nIf you have to compare yourself or compete with someone, compete with yourself. Strive to be a better version of yourself compared to a previous one.", "Event if you don't do it, people still compare you to others, when apply for a job, find a partner, etc, ..." ]	[ 12, 6, 4, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "solution for bad breath I chew a lot of gum and brush my teeth frequently, but it seems like there has to be a better way. My breath is just killer bad all the time. Tips?", "solution for bad breath I chew a lot of gum and brush my teeth frequently, but it seems like there has to be a better way. My breath is just killer bad all the time. Tips?", "solution for bad breath I chew a lot of gum and brush my teeth frequently, but it seems like there has to be a better way. My breath is just killer bad all the time. Tips?", "solution for bad breath I chew a lot of gum and brush my teeth frequently, but it seems like there has to be a better way. My breath is just killer bad all the time. Tips?", "solution for bad breath I chew a lot of gum and brush my teeth frequently, but it seems like there has to be a better way. My breath is just killer bad all the time. Tips?", "solution for bad breath I chew a lot of gum and brush my teeth frequently, but it seems like there has to be a better way. My breath is just killer bad all the time. Tips?", "solution for bad breath I chew a lot of gum and brush my teeth frequently, but it seems like there has to be a better way. My breath is just killer bad all the time. Tips?", "solution for bad breath I chew a lot of gum and brush my teeth frequently, but it seems like there has to be a better way. My breath is just killer bad all the time. Tips?", "solution for bad breath I chew a lot of gum and brush my teeth frequently, but it seems like there has to be a better way. My breath is just killer bad all the time. Tips?" ]	[ "Go to the dentist or see a doctor. Something else might be causing it, gum is just temporarily masking whatever is causing your bad breath.", "Here's what I do:\n\n1. Floss. Between all your teeth. Do it! It makes a huge difference. Until you're good at it, this may take some time. Also, depending on how long you haven't flossed, your gums may bleed. A lot. Don't worry. Keep flossing.\n\n2. Brush thoroughly, start on the outside of all your teeth. Do outside, from left to right. Then, do the surfaces, and then do the inside. First the top set of teeth, then the bottom teeth. \n\n3. Be sure to brush your tongue. Steps 2-3 will likely take you 3-4 minutes. \n\n4. Use mouthwash! :)\n\n5. If you flossed, and brushed thoroughly, the mouthwash will be able to touch all the gaps and areas where food used to be stuck. That's where all the bacteria causing bad breath are. \n\nIf you don't skimp on any of these steps, you'll have fresh, clean smelling breath all day long :D", "Something to try is chewing parsley. I remember my grandparents using it to cure bad breath (not just from changing the smell).", "I may not have much authority on this or evidence to back it up other than my own experience, but here I go.\n\nI had bad breath all throughout my freshman year of college. I would honestly avoid talking to people so there would be no chance of the smell leaking out. I brushed my teeth, flossed, used mouthwash, scraped my tongue, and so on, but to no avail. Eventually I gave up on caring about the work I put in since it would be bad no matter what I did.\n\nSo instead I just brushed my teeth with cold water. That was the start of something magical.\n\nTurns out the fluoride and alcohol in the toothpaste and mouthwash was drying and damaging my mouth a little bit every day. After a week of brushing only with cold water, the change was amazing. Oddly enough, my senses of taste and smell got better and my tongue lost its permanent (or so I thought with all the tongue scraping) white layer.\n\nI also found that gums would clear smell for a bit, but it would smell worse after. So I switched to pieces of cinnamon sticks if my breath needed a boost.\n\nI haven't had any problems with my breath since then and my dentist actually has told me my teeth are doing better than ever. Don't put more chemicals in your mouth than you need (especially with gum, Aspartame and Sucralose are honestly worse for you than regular sugar).\n\n\nTL;DR:\nCold water > Toothpaste", "Floss and use a tonguescraper. Also fill your mouth with water and spit out before brushing to get rid of the worst. If this doesn't work try add some mouthwater after you have brushed and your breath should be more than fine. ", "In addition to brushing 3x and flossing 1x a day- Brush your tongue just like your teeth. Get as far back as you can. Tongues have millions of little divots that bacteria f'ing LOVE, and you need heavier artillery than mouthwash. Your gag reflex will probably take issue with the assault, but will eventually adapt. Most gums just mask the smell, instead of destroying it. Parsley is actually a better breath freshener, actually. Google it if you don't beleive me. ", "Guys I want to share an update to my routine and I really hope some of you will try it, I’ve added a new supplement to my oral routine and my bad breath is the absolute best it’s been, I started taking 3/4 tablespoon of potassium citrate powder, mix it in a drink and drink it, it’s not a mouthwash just straight swallowing, I was already taking s-acetyl glutathione 600 -1000mg a day, my absolue go to can’t live without mouth wash is ioRinse molecular iodine rinse, I still use regular Colgate rinse for taste, and any toothpaste really, guys the potassium citrate is a game changer, I really hope someone will add it and tell me if they notice a difference", "Drink water. Lots of it, bacteria thrives in your mouth when it doesnt have enough moisture.\n\nIf you smoke or drink coffee whenever you are done smoking or drinking your coffee rinse your mouth out with anything. This removes a lot of the smell and bad coffee taste", "Constant bad breath can be due to stomach issues and acid reflex, etc. go to doc, eat meds, better breath!" ]	[ 8, 7, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I help a struggling friend So a good friend of mine is struggling mentally, and I suck at emotions, so I was wondering if anyone knew ways that I could help", "How do I help a struggling friend So a good friend of mine is struggling mentally, and I suck at emotions, so I was wondering if anyone knew ways that I could help", "How do I help a struggling friend So a good friend of mine is struggling mentally, and I suck at emotions, so I was wondering if anyone knew ways that I could help", "How do I help a struggling friend So a good friend of mine is struggling mentally, and I suck at emotions, so I was wondering if anyone knew ways that I could help", "How do I help a struggling friend So a good friend of mine is struggling mentally, and I suck at emotions, so I was wondering if anyone knew ways that I could help", "How do I help a struggling friend So a good friend of mine is struggling mentally, and I suck at emotions, so I was wondering if anyone knew ways that I could help", "How do I help a struggling friend So a good friend of mine is struggling mentally, and I suck at emotions, so I was wondering if anyone knew ways that I could help" ]	[ "Ask them if they want to talk about it, if they don't give them time. Don't try to force anyting, it doesn't work and it may damage your relationship in the end.\n\n\nI know from experience that most of the time you just need someone that listens, that alone can be a huge help.", "If your good for it you can say to come to you if they ever need to talk. Even if you may not be able to provide advice, sometimes listening does alot as well. If this was me and I was struggling mentally, I would want someone to be able to talk to. A person who will hear me out and not judge me for the things I had gone through. To provide some inspiration from the struggles of their own story so it may provide me with some insight. Although if I have no one to lean on at the time, I would try to remain positive, lean on my support group (wherever they are) and try to understand why I am feeling the way I'm feeling currently. Take it day by day and slowly rewire your brain by feeling just a little better. As life goes on this positive ball of energy will grow larger than what may be trying to set us back. Also reminding my self with patient, positivity, and confidence in my self I can do anything I set my mind to.", "Engage with them, invite them to things (and be kind and understanding when they say no; explicitly offer \"no\" as an option so that they don't feel awkward saying it themselves), and be patient. Help them feel wanted, but don't make them feel obligated.", "Take them to go get a burger or taco. Depression can be set off by not getting out of the house. Maybe a movie. Keep it simple but caring. Don’t try to fix it. Be there as a friend.", "If they have a job that offers EAP (Employee Assistance Programs), sometimes those include free therapy sessions, sometimes between 4-8 or more a year for each issue. I used it a few times when my brain was frazzled. They reset each year so now would be a good time to get them in. \n\nAlternatively, if they have health insurance, I’ve been using Brightside.com, they bill my health insurance and waive my copay so I see a therapist and a psychiatrist with no out of pocket cost. New appointments usually can be scheduled within two business days.", "I'm also on the fringe for emotion etc, I'm currently looking for the kind of life hacks equal to changing: effort equals reward (dopamine regulation). Are they up for airsoft / paintball / fishing on the ocean / camping / horseback / racing / flying with a stunt pilot or similar / scuba? If there's lessons that pop up learned by anyone write it? Imagined having it be a group, either plenty of people or as many as possible, try to find connectedness & love... The real war always needs to be won, everyone who lives is progressively sent through the lives of others.", "After years of thinking the way you do I've learned that when it comes to adolescents and their chaotic emotional and mental states there's nothing I can do or have done that has helped anyone ever." ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "best method for multi factor authentication that doesn't rely on having the same phone number? If I change my phone number or lose my phone or my phone gets robbed, for example", "best method for multi factor authentication that doesn't rely on having the same phone number? If I change my phone number or lose my phone or my phone gets robbed, for example", "best method for multi factor authentication that doesn't rely on having the same phone number? If I change my phone number or lose my phone or my phone gets robbed, for example", "best method for multi factor authentication that doesn't rely on having the same phone number? If I change my phone number or lose my phone or my phone gets robbed, for example" ]	[ "You could use [hardware tokens](https://deepnetsecurity.com/authenticators/one-time-password/safeid/) \\- These are physical devices that work independently to other physical devices. Oath based tokens are probably the cheapest option, but if you want maximum compatibility then you could opt for a programmable token (examples of both provided in the link, the benefit here is they can directly replace your authentication app). For maximum security you could also consider Fido keys (as these are very strong at phishing protection).", "Use an authenticator app like Aegis, and backup the config to a file outside your phone (computer, cloud, etc.)", "Some MFA systems will allow you to use an alternate email address for a confirmation, but most require a phone number. If you're concerned about losing a phone, then port the number to Google, and use it as a virtual number.", "Also, if allowed, use a google voice number or text now and get the sim car. So if you lose the phone the text now number is still accessible" ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "disable annoying autoplay for videos on most sites Issue: most news sites have introduced extremely annoying autoplay video in their articles (examples: [CNN](http://", "disable annoying autoplay for videos on most sites Issue: most news sites have introduced extremely annoying autoplay video in their articles (examples: [CNN](http://", "disable annoying autoplay for videos on most sites Issue: most news sites have introduced extremely annoying autoplay video in their articles (examples: [CNN](http://", "disable annoying autoplay for videos on most sites Issue: most news sites have introduced extremely annoying autoplay video in their articles (examples: [CNN](http://", "disable annoying autoplay for videos on most sites Issue: most news sites have introduced extremely annoying autoplay video in their articles (examples: [CNN](http://", "disable annoying autoplay for videos on most sites Issue: most news sites have introduced extremely annoying autoplay video in their articles (examples: [CNN](http://", "disable annoying autoplay for videos on most sites Issue: most news sites have introduced extremely annoying autoplay video in their articles (examples: [CNN](http://", "disable annoying autoplay for videos on most sites Issue: most news sites have introduced extremely annoying autoplay video in their articles (examples: [CNN](http://", "disable annoying autoplay for videos on most sites Issue: most news sites have introduced extremely annoying autoplay video in their articles (examples: [CNN](http://" ]	[ "If you use Chrome, you can do this without an extension, I use this method and videos never play. It actually disables plugins (like flash) from running, so instead you see a \"flash disabled\" message and you can right click and play. \n\nTo do this, in Chrome, go Menu > Settings > Advanced > Privacy > Content Settings. Scroll down to Plugins and select \"let me choose when to run plugin content\". There are extensions that can block but I found they didn't work as well as the setting change.\n\nI tested this feature on CNN and I get a grey box \"Flash has been disabled....\" I right click \"Allow plugin\" and the video plays.", "Disable scripting. No scripts, no videos. PROBLEM SOLVED.\n\nNoscript is an add-on that allows more precise control of which scripts are allowed to run. It should let you block the scripting that is loading the videos, while leaving others alone. Most of the internet uses scripting for everything so disabling it entirely breaks most sites. Not recommended for normal use.", "If you use Firefox, you can go disable autoplay of everything, but going to about:config then go search for media.autoplay.enabled and double click it to set it to false.\nlooks like this: http://i.imgur.com/KlDMHT1.png", "I just came here to say I HATE when news feeds have autoplay ads and such. Fucking hate that shit more than anythng. Especially porn ones with the volume on 7 when someone surprises you from behind. ", "if you use chrome:\n\ntype chrome://settings/content in a new tab\n\nScroll down to \"plugins\"\n\nSelect \"Let me choose when to run plugin content\"\n\nThis is what's known as \"click to play\" -- you'll see a grey box with a puzzle piece instead of the video, you'll need to right click and \"run <plugin>\" to get it to work.\n\nYoutube is unaffected by this.", "If I find a site that does that it gets blocked. I don't care enough about whatever you wrote about if I get random popup video shit. I can find similar article elsewhere. ", "I use Click to Flash/Click to Plugin on all my browsers. It makes you click on ANY flash or HTML5 element on a webpage in order to make it play. Very useful for videos or ads you don't want to play.", "I use Chrome and also got sick of it. Since most (All?) videos are flash, I installed an extension called Flashcontrol, and it works wonders. It won't even load flash video, until you either click the video, or allow the site/page through the extension icon on top of the browser. ", "I just join in my mind autoplay video/music to low quality content so EVERY web I find with this I just forget it in seconds... Its like popups, so annoying for 2016..." ]	[ 74, 14, 10, 7, 3, 3, 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to become less judgmental? I've been told by family, friends, and colleagues that they feel I am judgmental. They might be right, but it's unintentional and I'd like to fix it.\n\nHow do I express myself less judgmentally in the following cases:\n\n1. I know I am right about something and someone else is wrong.\n\n2. I feel I have better idea or would like to suggest an improvement.\n\n3. Someone shares an ill-informed opinion and I'm able to offer information to elucidate or contradict them; or I'd like to advise them to learn about the topic first.\n\n\nI'm a friendly person, but I think I've confused judgmental behavior with what I thought was just personal confidence ...\n\nPlease advise :) \n\n[", "how to become less judgmental? I've been told by family, friends, and colleagues that they feel I am judgmental. They might be right, but it's unintentional and I'd like to fix it.\n\nHow do I express myself less judgmentally in the following cases:\n\n1. I know I am right about something and someone else is wrong.\n\n2. I feel I have better idea or would like to suggest an improvement.\n\n3. Someone shares an ill-informed opinion and I'm able to offer information to elucidate or contradict them; or I'd like to advise them to learn about the topic first.\n\n\nI'm a friendly person, but I think I've confused judgmental behavior with what I thought was just personal confidence ...\n\nPlease advise :) \n\n[", "how to become less judgmental? I've been told by family, friends, and colleagues that they feel I am judgmental. They might be right, but it's unintentional and I'd like to fix it.\n\nHow do I express myself less judgmentally in the following cases:\n\n1. I know I am right about something and someone else is wrong.\n\n2. I feel I have better idea or would like to suggest an improvement.\n\n3. Someone shares an ill-informed opinion and I'm able to offer information to elucidate or contradict them; or I'd like to advise them to learn about the topic first.\n\n\nI'm a friendly person, but I think I've confused judgmental behavior with what I thought was just personal confidence ...\n\nPlease advise :) \n\n[" ]	[ "Overall, how you deliver your story/opinion/facts makes a difference. Surely you can see the difference between (extremes to illustrate point) rolling your eyes and sighing when someone says something vs listening to them and asking how they came to that view. We aren't going to be so extreme in many cases, but there are subtle differences that we pick up on - body language, tone of voice, impatience, and such.\n\n1. Even if you are right, does it matter? If it actually matters (safety, keeping your job, etc), maybe ask them if they have considered something you think they are missing. You can always listen to them and then just state why you see things differently. This makes it clear you have heard them, yet have a different view without judging them.\n\n2. Before inserting your better idea, recap their idea to clarify that you understand it. If you misunderstood, or if they were incomplete in their explanation, this offers an opening to bring that to light without any judgment. If their idea is just lame, that will become clear, too, because you can ask about what differs between it and your better idea. You need not even state your better idea separately, just begin from their idea and build on it with what you think improves it. They then have the opportunity to likewise critique your suggestion. You can potentially reach the better idea together, leaving nobody feeling judged or left out.\n\n3. Some people have ill-informed opinions and will not change them even when better info comes along. This is just a reality to take into account, unfortunately. You can share how your view differs, even offering a reason or info source that you base it on. They can take it or leave it; you've done all you can, let them make that choice. Many reasons exist for valuing info differently. Cultures see importance in different things, so you are not 'right' so much as clear in what/why you think something.\n\nAt base, thinking you or your ideas are better, or trying to change the other's opinion or view inherently carries with it the message that you think you are right/better and they are wrong/lesser - meaning you are being judgmental. Other people will pick up on that, even if it is subtle. So instead of aiming to change other's views, aim to understand them better. That gets a much better reception, because then you are not judging them.", "Everyone is entitled to their own opinion no matter how wrong it may be... \n \nHumor aside, there's a difference in being a jerk and actually helping someone understand X way is wrong and Y way is right. \n \nIf you dominate the conversation and destroy everyone's observations, thoughts and ideas every time y'all meet up, then yes, you are being a jerk which no one will ever want to be around and it is a huge faux pas in social gatherings. \n\n\n", "> they feel I am judgmental\n\nThey're judging you, seems to be a family trait. Anyway, for your specific cases:\n\n* Even if you know you are right, put yourself in their shoes and try to see their perspective. Ask yourself, what is it that I'm not understanding about this that would make the other person see things differently than me? Even if you're certain you're right, take a figurative step back before arguing.\n\n* Better idea or suggestion for improvement? It always helps to lead the other party(ies) to see your reasoning and arrive at the same conclusions on their own. Ask questions in the form of \"do you think that x could be better if we did y?\" In this scenario, you yourself don't seem 100% positive on your suggestion, so it's like you're finding out for yourself too.\n\n* This one is tough. Everyone handles these sorts of discussions/debates differently. Do you find yourself getting heated or emotional when you feel that you are more knowledgeable or the other person is flat out ignorant? In most cases, people will stick to their opinions and will value what they've read/seen/heard over any factual info you bring to the table. Any time you're challenging someones ideas, they're likely to feel like you're challenging them personally or their character. This is why my family doesn't get political at extended family gatherings. To avoid judging behaviors, just avoid this situation entirely because it's almost impossible to disagree with someone's views without them feeling judged. \n\n\nAlso, it doesn't seem that being judgmental is your problem. That's a personality trait. Your specific concerns seem more like you have a tendency to patronize people, which can seem disrespectful and condescending. Hope these help. Cheers. " ]	[ 5, 5, 1 ]	safe
[ "What are some relatively cheap, easy to pick up certifications/qualifications that open some jobs to you? ", "What are some relatively cheap, easy to pick up certifications/qualifications that open some jobs to you? ", "What are some relatively cheap, easy to pick up certifications/qualifications that open some jobs to you? " ]	[ "Registered Polysomnographic Technologist in the USA.\n\n$500 and training, pay starts around $16 • hr^-1", "I think if it's easy and cheap to get the certification/qualification, 9 times out of 10 it's going to be open up jobs in field that is over-saturated with applicants.", "This is completely different than everyone else, but you can consider getting a TEFL or CELTA. You would be able to teach English in other countries. Just by being from the UK, already opens the door for you. Each class takes about a month and vary between $800-$1500 in The States. \n" ]	[ 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to leave your job without burning bridges I am leaving my current job for another in the same type of work.\n\nLeaving for more money and will be trained for a position in management. \n\nHow should I tell my current supervisor? ", "How to leave your job without burning bridges I am leaving my current job for another in the same type of work.\n\nLeaving for more money and will be trained for a position in management. \n\nHow should I tell my current supervisor? ", "How to leave your job without burning bridges I am leaving my current job for another in the same type of work.\n\nLeaving for more money and will be trained for a position in management. \n\nHow should I tell my current supervisor? ", "How to leave your job without burning bridges I am leaving my current job for another in the same type of work.\n\nLeaving for more money and will be trained for a position in management. \n\nHow should I tell my current supervisor? ", "How to leave your job without burning bridges I am leaving my current job for another in the same type of work.\n\nLeaving for more money and will be trained for a position in management. \n\nHow should I tell my current supervisor? ", "How to leave your job without burning bridges I am leaving my current job for another in the same type of work.\n\nLeaving for more money and will be trained for a position in management. \n\nHow should I tell my current supervisor? ", "How to leave your job without burning bridges I am leaving my current job for another in the same type of work.\n\nLeaving for more money and will be trained for a position in management. \n\nHow should I tell my current supervisor? " ]	[ "You don't have to do anything special, just give them at least two weeks notice and tell them what you said here. You only burn bridges if you do something to piss off people.", "Give your two weeks (or whatever's in your contract if you have one) notice politely, ask politely for a reference if desired, continue working hard during your notice period.", "alot of vague answers here, this is a very simple deal though.\n\nAsk your boss if he/she has any free time later on for a private discussion. Do not assume he has free time at that moment, and dont just walk in his office and say im giving my notice\n\nEven if your leaving because you think he/she is a shit boss dont let that be the reason you give them for leaving. remember your next job will probably call your previous employer about you. Say something like : Sir, I'd like to thank you for the great oppurtunity to work here, its given me alot of experience. i wanted to let you know i wish to put in my two weeks notification (or w/e it is for your position). \n\nNow you can stop there you dont have to say you have a job lined up or your going hunting. If you feel like it you can say well sir I've been here X amount of time and while it was a great learning experience and i appreciate every day i had here but after alot of thought i have a desire to pursue a different career/or im wanting to move to a position that has more room for professional growth/promotion. Dont forget to thank him for his time\n\nThat its dude if you want to go the extra mile send a thank you letter to your boss/HR for your time there its just a class act thing , not nesseceray , then for your remaining time be sure your still kicking ass keep in mind if you decide to be late, screw around if they dont fire you theyll give a poor review of you if they are contacted. not to mention it affects your coworkers", "Most managers will respect that you're moving up (i.e. management training). Two weeks, well wishes, and you're well on your way.", "In life, I've learned to announce to a manager in a private meeting that I intend to put in my resignation, and vaguely give circumstances as to why (Got job in preferred industry, unreasonable pay increase compared to current status), then just worked the last two weeks as per normal, helping with any transition they needed.\n\nIf you haven't done this before, you might expect some huge drama crapstorm, but those are rare, and if one occurs, just dump them and move on. The second your new jobs starts, you will never need to go back to a place that treated you with dirt for daring to \"quit\".\n\nAny place you would possibly want to return to will be cool about it.", "unless you do something wrong you won't burn any bridges. just give notice and tell explain the situation. they aren't going to blame you for wanting to move up and succeed. maybe make an effort to let the people you'll miss know you'll miss them, that you'll stay in contact, \"we'll have to go out for drinks sometime\", etc.", "Im 39yo and have had more career paths and supervisors then I care to count. \n\nIn my experience the only thing that matters when leaving is to have a list of references for your resume.\n\nIf you dont need any then you can leave the job any way u see fit.\n\nIf you do then follow instructions listed by others here.\n\nIts a shame references are required. Most of my employers were jerks who like to have slaves over employees and a few narcissistic. Mention those honost details and you dont get the job. If job interviews were done propery refrences wouldnt be needed.\n\nIve always left a job professionally but wish i didnt with some. " ]	[ 9, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Making a booklet out of 100+ seperate pages while keeping it easy to read I have a book on my computer which I just printed. I want to bind the pages, while still keeping it easy to read / navigate through it. I don't have access to a print store to do it. Had this problem quite often before in the past, and I always wondered if there is any LPT for it.", "Making a booklet out of 100+ seperate pages while keeping it easy to read I have a book on my computer which I just printed. I want to bind the pages, while still keeping it easy to read / navigate through it. I don't have access to a print store to do it. Had this problem quite often before in the past, and I always wondered if there is any LPT for it.", "Making a booklet out of 100+ seperate pages while keeping it easy to read I have a book on my computer which I just printed. I want to bind the pages, while still keeping it easy to read / navigate through it. I don't have access to a print store to do it. Had this problem quite often before in the past, and I always wondered if there is any LPT for it.", "Making a booklet out of 100+ seperate pages while keeping it easy to read I have a book on my computer which I just printed. I want to bind the pages, while still keeping it easy to read / navigate through it. I don't have access to a print store to do it. Had this problem quite often before in the past, and I always wondered if there is any LPT for it." ]	[ "Have you considered using a binder with tabs? I don't know what kind of book it is though. This is great for reference and text books. ", "Told you I wouldn't forget about you!! I found some sites for you\n\nhttp://www.instructables.com/id/Make-a-100-page-Notebook/\n\nhttp://ladyrain.hubpages.com/hub/DIY-Book-Binding\n\nhttp://www.ehow.com/how_8308330_bind-book-together.html\n\nhttp://www.diybookbinding.com/do-it-yourself-book-binding/\n\n\nHere you go! I hope this helps!\n\n", "Oh this is going to be an interesting one!! Just going to let you know I'm going to save this on reddit and find an answer for you later :)!!", "Is it something you wrote, or just a book you want to read?\n\nNot really a standard response, but I just called my Staples down the street and it would be $4.49 cents to have your book bound. \n\nYou could mail it to me and I'll bind it for you and mail it back. I support indie authors." ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop an office chair with wheels from damaging a hardwood floor? Just as the title says, I'm looking for a way to stop a rolling office chair from damaging a hardwood floor.\n\n\nOriginally, I had the chair just on the floor, and noticed it starting to damage it. I bought one of those hard plastic mats, and put that down. It was one of the smooth on both sides, not one of the one with the nubs on the bottom for carpet. That solved the issue of the chair directly causing damage, but raised a new issue.\n\n\nThe mat would trap dirt and sand underneath it, and the abrasiveness was causing the finish on the floor to wear down where the mat was. So I changed that out for a small carpet. But the same issue as the plastic mat, it was getting dirt and sand trapped underneath, causing it to rub on the floor and wear down the finish.\n\n\nIs there any way to get harmony between a rolling office chair and a hardwood floor?\n\n\nThanks\n\n", "How to stop an office chair with wheels from damaging a hardwood floor? Just as the title says, I'm looking for a way to stop a rolling office chair from damaging a hardwood floor.\n\n\nOriginally, I had the chair just on the floor, and noticed it starting to damage it. I bought one of those hard plastic mats, and put that down. It was one of the smooth on both sides, not one of the one with the nubs on the bottom for carpet. That solved the issue of the chair directly causing damage, but raised a new issue.\n\n\nThe mat would trap dirt and sand underneath it, and the abrasiveness was causing the finish on the floor to wear down where the mat was. So I changed that out for a small carpet. But the same issue as the plastic mat, it was getting dirt and sand trapped underneath, causing it to rub on the floor and wear down the finish.\n\n\nIs there any way to get harmony between a rolling office chair and a hardwood floor?\n\n\nThanks\n\n" ]	[ "I have heard and seen great results with those clear rubber floor pads. They are usually about 3' X 3', and you can still see the hardwood floor through them fairly well. ", "Take off the wheels and replace them with tennis balls. It should grip well without scratching, and slide well once you take your weight off of it. It's not the best solution visually, but it's functional." ]	[ 2, -1 ]	safe
[ "how do I stop being passive? I'm like Simba from lion king and I want to be like Mufasa. Please some tips and also maybe tips on facial expression?", "how do I stop being passive? I'm like Simba from lion king and I want to be like Mufasa. Please some tips and also maybe tips on facial expression?" ]	[ "You have to be principled and disciplined. \n\nBasically you create a mental list of things you care about, and you align your actions and presence around those.\n\nYou do those things even if it's not in your best interest. You do them because they are what's right and that's the only way you are going to accept it.\n\nSelf-confidence comes from discipline and experience. It's not ignoring what people think of you. That's an excuse people make up to quantify the behavior in their eyes. \n\nRespect is earned through your actions. You can't walk into a room and command respect. You might put on the Alpha show, but the second you do something to the contrary, people will walk all over you and know you are fake. \n\nBesides, the peacock in the room is not the person you want to be. That person is weak. They have to build up a shell of arrogance, aggressiveness, and drama to keep people from exposing them. \n\nReal \"alphas\" are quiet professionals. They don't need to put on a show. They are confident in who they are, and generally everyone in the room knows it. \n\nThey aren't afraid of being wrong. They aren't afraid of making mistakes. They actively seek out failures to learn from them and become stronger.\n\nIn short, it's a way of life. It's channeling your ambitions into a passion and having the discipline and self-control to push through failure and achieve. From that comes self-confidence and respect.", "It takes a lot of discipline and sometimes a lot of training. The best place for that is military training. You'll even get paid while you're learning how to shed your passiveness. Better if you already have some college, and you can become an officer. Closest thing to royalty you can get, really. " ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Lost my wallet at a bar last night. Went to a bar to grab a drink on the way to a friends house and most likely left my wallet on the bar. I had just been hired at a new job in a new state so it had my social security card in it. Been in touch with the bartenders and long story short it was probably stolen and ditched as there was no money in it. The only other two cards that are import are my debit card and ID (US, MD) I’m currently looking for my birth certificate and have locked down my card activity. I know the process for getting these cards back or changed is long and tedious (particularly the SS card) but I was just wondering if anyone had any LPTs who had been through this before?", "Lost my wallet at a bar last night. Went to a bar to grab a drink on the way to a friends house and most likely left my wallet on the bar. I had just been hired at a new job in a new state so it had my social security card in it. Been in touch with the bartenders and long story short it was probably stolen and ditched as there was no money in it. The only other two cards that are import are my debit card and ID (US, MD) I’m currently looking for my birth certificate and have locked down my card activity. I know the process for getting these cards back or changed is long and tedious (particularly the SS card) but I was just wondering if anyone had any LPTs who had been through this before?", "Lost my wallet at a bar last night. Went to a bar to grab a drink on the way to a friends house and most likely left my wallet on the bar. I had just been hired at a new job in a new state so it had my social security card in it. Been in touch with the bartenders and long story short it was probably stolen and ditched as there was no money in it. The only other two cards that are import are my debit card and ID (US, MD) I’m currently looking for my birth certificate and have locked down my card activity. I know the process for getting these cards back or changed is long and tedious (particularly the SS card) but I was just wondering if anyone had any LPTs who had been through this before?" ]	[ "My sister was a champion drunk in college. She and her friends punched hole in the corner of their ID and debit cards and put them on a string around their neck. Hard, though not impossible, to lose.", "Most cards nowadays have a mobile app. If I misplace my wallet I immediately login to these apps and \"freeze\" my cards. It takes 2 seconds and can be undone just as easy\n\nAccidentally left my gas station at a pump one day. Didn't take long to notice but by the time I turned around and got back someone had taken it. I froze my cards when I realized it was gone and it saved me tons of headache! Got a text from my bank around 1pm that I was trying to make a besy buy purchase for thousands of dollars, I texted back NO and the purchase was blocked. That's when I knew the wallet wasn't just misplaced...all I needed to do was wait for my new card and try to be better about where I put things", "Do you know what time you used it last? Go back to the bar and ask them to look at the security video from that time forward. \n\nGot a handful of friends? Search the ground, dumpsters, and everything else within 100 feet of the doors. If there's water nearby, your SSC is fucked because they aren't sealed.\n\nI assume the bar has taken out their garbage. Find out if the dumpster has been emptied. If you're lucky, the thief tossed your wallet in the bathroom garbage and it's waiting for you with the rest of the paper towels." ]	[ 4, 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "When you have a ton of choices, none of which is decisively better than the others, how do you commit to one thing? All my life I have struggled with anything that involved too many choices. Whether furniture shopping, choosing classes, or filling free time, the more possibilities I have, the less I can commit to anything. It causes a lot of stress and wastes a lot of time. Does anyone have any tricks for helping your brain to zero-in on something, anything, to keep moving forward?", "When you have a ton of choices, none of which is decisively better than the others, how do you commit to one thing? All my life I have struggled with anything that involved too many choices. Whether furniture shopping, choosing classes, or filling free time, the more possibilities I have, the less I can commit to anything. It causes a lot of stress and wastes a lot of time. Does anyone have any tricks for helping your brain to zero-in on something, anything, to keep moving forward?", "When you have a ton of choices, none of which is decisively better than the others, how do you commit to one thing? All my life I have struggled with anything that involved too many choices. Whether furniture shopping, choosing classes, or filling free time, the more possibilities I have, the less I can commit to anything. It causes a lot of stress and wastes a lot of time. Does anyone have any tricks for helping your brain to zero-in on something, anything, to keep moving forward?", "When you have a ton of choices, none of which is decisively better than the others, how do you commit to one thing? All my life I have struggled with anything that involved too many choices. Whether furniture shopping, choosing classes, or filling free time, the more possibilities I have, the less I can commit to anything. It causes a lot of stress and wastes a lot of time. Does anyone have any tricks for helping your brain to zero-in on something, anything, to keep moving forward?" ]	[ "If say three different options are equally good/bad, just pick one at random. If you don't want to do that, you are afraid that some of the options are picked, then remove this one. Repeat. \nI always do this when my girlfriend can't decide between something. I just tell her to take one of them, and then she hesitates, which indicates that that option wasn't the best. Therefore we can eliminate that one. ", "Flip a coin, roll a dice. Often you'll have a gut feeling telling you whether you \"agree\" with the outcome or not.", "This may sound super nerdy and I'm sure it is, but this is what I do when facing large purchases, or big decisions.\n\nExcel. Seriously. I gather every scrap of information I can then I start assigning data points to every possible variable. I'll then work out a weighting system so I can adjust the aspects most important to me and then I'll calculate. \n\nIt helps me to justify my purchases, it removes most buyers remorse and I feel like I made a decision based on emperical evidence rather than guess work.", "If you have too many choices, you have too few filters, particularly when shopping. At that point, you can start making \"greedy\" choices, e.g. \"I like all of these couches, but I REALLY want one with brown leather, cup holders, and a built in refrigerator, that's less than $XXX\"\n\nOther than that, if you have plenty of choices to pick from, go ahead and pick one. I also have a somewhat \"perverse\" way of thinking in these cases i.e. \"I'm going to pick the wrong thing anyway, so I may as well go ahead and pick\"\n\nFinally, in terms of things to do with free time, I have this problem a lot. The best way I have found to deal with it is to just pick something and run with it while it's fun. If it stops becoming fun, I pick something else to run with. \n\nIt's a bit weird, but not finishing things is not actually a bad thing in all cases. It could be you got all the knowledge, experience, and entertainment from the project as possible, so moving on is a logical choice." ]	[ 7, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to find a decent apartment in another city where you don't know anyone? Google reviews either rate them terribly or have 5 stars because their staff astroturf the place. Same for all the apartment search websites. I just want somewhere that isn't filled with bugs and won't get mugged at night. Is it basically up to chance to land a decent apartment if you can't get any local advice?", "How to find a decent apartment in another city where you don't know anyone? Google reviews either rate them terribly or have 5 stars because their staff astroturf the place. Same for all the apartment search websites. I just want somewhere that isn't filled with bugs and won't get mugged at night. Is it basically up to chance to land a decent apartment if you can't get any local advice?" ]	[ "Instagram is helpful, look up the name of the building your looking at and check it out. I have even wrote a couple of people in the past asking their opinions. ", "I moved from Baton Rouge, LA to Fort Lauderdale, FL then to Houston, TX. When moving from Baton Rouge to Fort Lauderdale, I looked up the Instagram & then Google Maps streetview to see the area. Moving from Fort Lauderdale to Houston, I used the same management company & found an apartment in my price range. I ended up staying in that apartment for 4 years...bought a house in the burbs in June 2018." ]	[ 5, 4 ]	safe
[ "How to continue studying and absorb information with an exhausted mind. Finals. My brain doesn't feel like it works anymore.\n\nI have been studying for this particular exam for 4 days straight. I still have to go through 3 chapters of information before tomorrow. My brain is to the point where I just look at the paper and can barely retain what I am reading. Help.", "How to continue studying and absorb information with an exhausted mind. Finals. My brain doesn't feel like it works anymore.\n\nI have been studying for this particular exam for 4 days straight. I still have to go through 3 chapters of information before tomorrow. My brain is to the point where I just look at the paper and can barely retain what I am reading. Help.", "How to continue studying and absorb information with an exhausted mind. Finals. My brain doesn't feel like it works anymore.\n\nI have been studying for this particular exam for 4 days straight. I still have to go through 3 chapters of information before tomorrow. My brain is to the point where I just look at the paper and can barely retain what I am reading. Help.", "How to continue studying and absorb information with an exhausted mind. Finals. My brain doesn't feel like it works anymore.\n\nI have been studying for this particular exam for 4 days straight. I still have to go through 3 chapters of information before tomorrow. My brain is to the point where I just look at the paper and can barely retain what I am reading. Help." ]	[ "IMO take a 45 minute to an hour long break from the work zone. Go to a different room, and do something that you don't have to think to do, make a sandwich, toss a ball around, go for a walk or a drive (No video games!). Something active and mindless. As you are doing these things. Talk to yourself out loud about what you already covered. After covering a section or a difficult part stop what your doing and remember where you were standing or what you were staring at, just something to connect you with that lesson. After that break you'll feel refreshed and ready to get back to it.", "Sounds like every college student. the best way to study and retain is by sleeping and taking breaks... understanding your situation, this might not be possible. I recommend doing a relaxation m", "I use a 25 minutes on 5 minutes off strat. Also it sounds like you are currently at the point where you are not retaining info because you are tired. Take a break and get some rest it will help. Also review your info quickly before you go to bed and immediately when you get up in the morning.", "Your brain needs rest. If you don't sleep enough, your brain has less time available to replenish those neurotransmitters that you used for 4 days straight while studying. Also, the more u use your brain the more the number of metabolites build up, which isn't good. Sleeping is when your clean up crew comes and gets rid of all that crap, and it's also when you consolidate all that information into your head. \n\nTl:dr: fucking sleep" ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I keep my voice from getting higher/weaker during a heated argument? This happens often to me. I feel like a lamb. It's as if I don't get enough air, but I can't change it. It sucks.", "How do I keep my voice from getting higher/weaker during a heated argument? This happens often to me. I feel like a lamb. It's as if I don't get enough air, but I can't change it. It sucks.", "How do I keep my voice from getting higher/weaker during a heated argument? This happens often to me. I feel like a lamb. It's as if I don't get enough air, but I can't change it. It sucks.", "How do I keep my voice from getting higher/weaker during a heated argument? This happens often to me. I feel like a lamb. It's as if I don't get enough air, but I can't change it. It sucks.", "How do I keep my voice from getting higher/weaker during a heated argument? This happens often to me. I feel like a lamb. It's as if I don't get enough air, but I can't change it. It sucks." ]	[ "Slow down and try to speak from your chest. Practice as often as possible with speaking evenly and in a lower register (deeper). You'll notice that not only will you stay more calm, but you'll also get your point across and may even win more arguments. ", "Try to speak from your diaphragm. It will sound different and full of more power when trying to get your point across.", "Lubricate heavily with some juice or Gatorade or some thing. Have a little tea and honey on hand. Sip, don't chug.\n\n", "I understand this. I hate confrontation so much my heart starts beating too fast and my adrenaline goes through the roof and my voice gets all kinds of stupid sounding. ", "As has been said, you have to slow down.\n\nAlso, if you're in enough \"heated arguments\" that you were compelled to ask this question, you probably should re-examine how you speak to people in the first place.\n\nNobody likes someone pontificating all the time." ]	[ 8, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to not forget/lose stuff all the damn time. I've left my cell phone on tables after eating more times than I'd like to say, and sometimes they end up stolen. I've lost my sketchbook which had dozens of valuable drawings in it I'll never see again. I lose stuff all the time. I usually can't go a day without wondering if I forgot something and checking all of my pockets/bags to make sure I still have it. \n\nWhat am I doing wrong? How can I stay on track of these things and not lose/forget things all the time anymore?", "How to not forget/lose stuff all the damn time. I've left my cell phone on tables after eating more times than I'd like to say, and sometimes they end up stolen. I've lost my sketchbook which had dozens of valuable drawings in it I'll never see again. I lose stuff all the time. I usually can't go a day without wondering if I forgot something and checking all of my pockets/bags to make sure I still have it. \n\nWhat am I doing wrong? How can I stay on track of these things and not lose/forget things all the time anymore?", "How to not forget/lose stuff all the damn time. I've left my cell phone on tables after eating more times than I'd like to say, and sometimes they end up stolen. I've lost my sketchbook which had dozens of valuable drawings in it I'll never see again. I lose stuff all the time. I usually can't go a day without wondering if I forgot something and checking all of my pockets/bags to make sure I still have it. \n\nWhat am I doing wrong? How can I stay on track of these things and not lose/forget things all the time anymore?", "How to not forget/lose stuff all the damn time. I've left my cell phone on tables after eating more times than I'd like to say, and sometimes they end up stolen. I've lost my sketchbook which had dozens of valuable drawings in it I'll never see again. I lose stuff all the time. I usually can't go a day without wondering if I forgot something and checking all of my pockets/bags to make sure I still have it. \n\nWhat am I doing wrong? How can I stay on track of these things and not lose/forget things all the time anymore?", "How to not forget/lose stuff all the damn time. I've left my cell phone on tables after eating more times than I'd like to say, and sometimes they end up stolen. I've lost my sketchbook which had dozens of valuable drawings in it I'll never see again. I lose stuff all the time. I usually can't go a day without wondering if I forgot something and checking all of my pockets/bags to make sure I still have it. \n\nWhat am I doing wrong? How can I stay on track of these things and not lose/forget things all the time anymore?" ]	[ "Identify something you don't forget (do you forget your shoes?) and put them in a different place, so that when you go to get them, you'll remember why they're in a different place.\n\nI never forget my cell phone, and so when I make a lunch to bring to work I put my cell phone on the dining-room table, instead of with my wallet and keys (which are in my room). When I go to grab my phone I always remember to grab my lunch, too.", "I'm never forgetful, and it's very rare that I lose things. However, I do live with someone that often does misplace important items. There are ways to make this better, I swear!\n\nThink about what you have trouble with the most. I know you said you leave your phone on tables. Try to get into the habit of doing a quick pocket-pat every time you get up from a table. It helps if you always keep things in the same pockets. When you stand up, pat each pocket as you say to yourself \"wallet, phone, keys, etc.\" Do this when you leave the house as well to make sure you're not forgetting things. \n\nAnother helpful tip is to make sure you have a designated place for everything. Do you loose your keys around your house and have to search for them on the way out? Consider putting a small hook right next to your door. When you walk in, put your keys right on the hook. ALWAYS remember to do this, and you will always know where your keys are. Little things like this seem to help immensely. If you put things back in their designated spot when you're done, you'll always be able to find it.\n\nDo you forget things like plans/appointments? Get [a planner like this](http://www.amazon.com/AT-A-GLANCE-Recycled-Two-Year-Monthly-Planner/dp/B0088VRVRS/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1352973909&sr=8-2&keywords=2013+pocket+planner) that you can keep in your car, or pocket, or purse; Whatever works for you really. You could also hang a calendar somewhere in your home and take a look at it every morning. If you have all of your plans and appointments in writing, it's a lot easier to manage. \n\nThere are a lot of solutions really. Think about the specific items you have problems with, and come up with solutions that work for you.", "Make a habit of checking things before you leave the house, restaurant, work etc. I always check I have phone, wallet and keys with me before I leave the house and check they are in my pockets. If you find you forget because you rush out of places, take a second to check before you leave somewhere. \n\nI have keys on a lanyard so they'll never fall out when i take out my wallet. Normally have headphones in and need to take wallet out to use tube, so wouldn't hear them drop. \n\nAs someone else said, stick stuff in shoes or bag pockets if you're ever at someones house and don't want to keep stuff in pockets, just make sure you empty out all your change before putting them back on.\nI also never leave my phone on a table at a restaurant, not least that it's a little rude ;p but also means I can't forget it. \n\nIt actually feels weird for me to not have either wallet or phone in my pockets, so even if I'm holding my phone, the lack of the weight slightly freaks me out, always a good reminder. \n\nThe more little things you do to ensure you have stuff, the less you'll have to worry and check you do.", "Losing things is usually a habit of mental laziness. We're all totally guilty. You have to outsmart yourself—think two moves ahead. When setting something down, it's good to take a pretend picture of it with an imaginary camera. You feel like a fool, but that's what makes you remember its place. \n\nYou remember to take the imaginary picture with an imaginary camera by defacing your phone or notebook with a prompt; use a sticker or writing: something like \"shoot me\" should work. \n\nAlso, build a shelf by your front door. Put a sign up that says \"Keys, Phone, Wallet live here.\" Take two months to build a new mental habit then you can take down the sign and you don't need to take pictures anymore.\n\nBe creative: outthink yourself.", "Here's a tip I heard once. When you set something important down, like your keys, imagine that you're dropping a bomb. Visualize the destruction of that table, countertop, etc. and its surroundings in a different way every day. This will help you remember where you put things." ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "DIY Cat litter Been spending few bucks twice-thrice a month buying cat litter. Wonderng if any of you guys have an idea, tip, or whatever, on how to make a DIY Litter (not the box) for cats.\n\nThanks! Would help me save!", "DIY Cat litter Been spending few bucks twice-thrice a month buying cat litter. Wonderng if any of you guys have an idea, tip, or whatever, on how to make a DIY Litter (not the box) for cats.\n\nThanks! Would help me save!", "DIY Cat litter Been spending few bucks twice-thrice a month buying cat litter. Wonderng if any of you guys have an idea, tip, or whatever, on how to make a DIY Litter (not the box) for cats.\n\nThanks! Would help me save!", "DIY Cat litter Been spending few bucks twice-thrice a month buying cat litter. Wonderng if any of you guys have an idea, tip, or whatever, on how to make a DIY Litter (not the box) for cats.\n\nThanks! Would help me save!" ]	[ "This looks time-intensive, but might be relevant to your interests. http://thegreenists.com/pets/tip-of-the-day-make-your-own-kitty-litter/1044\n\nYou might want to be careful, because some cats are really picky about what they'll use. You should make sure the cat will actually use whatever your replacement is before you totally get rid of the real cat litter box.", "Probably a bad suggestion, but do you have a paper shredder? \nIf so, shred your daily junk mail and use the shreds for litter maybe?", "Not quite DIY, but you could buy smarter. Plenty of things not meant for cats can be used, for instance, [horse bedding](http://www.tractorsupply.com/horse-stall-tools/tractor-supply-co-reg-pine-pellet-stall-bedding-40-lb--2181006?zoneMarketInfo=2-16&reqUrl=%2Fhorse-stall-tools%2Ftractor-supply-co-reg-pine-pellet-stall-bedding-40-lb--2181006&langId=-1&storeId=10551&storeCity=city%2C+state&catalogId=10001&storeZip=20601&ddkey=http:LocationBasedPricingCmd) - they're no different than the pine pellets they'll sell as 'all natural cat liter' but since it's marketed for horses you get it cheaper.", "Have you considered teaching your cat to use the toilet? There are kits that will help you train your cat. Not sure how well they work, but worth a try." ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path.", "Teeth Brushing Routine I have a confession, reddit. I rarely brush my teeth. I'm talking only when my teeth have got food on them or they are a embarrassing shade of yellowish-brown. I need help with getting into a proper routine. Every time I start brushing again I always end up forgetting. I only ask because have seen my mom struggle with issues in later life because of gum disease and I don't want to go down the same path." ]	[ "Buy an electric toothbrush. Makes it tons easier by doing the work for you. \n\nFucking sort it out dude. You do not want teeth issues in life. Ever. That shit fucking sucks. It'll cost you loads of money. You'll be hugely uncomfortable. Your breath will be so bad your friends will talk about it behind your back. You'll get depressed. All because you can't do a task a fucking child can do.\n\nToday do something. Write a fucking note and put it in your bathroom. Go buy a new toothbrush and a new tube of toothpaste, even if it's some kiddie shit that looks cool. Do something. Not tomorrow. Today. Do it today. ", "You could keep your toothbrush, toothpaste and floss somewhere plainly visible in the shower. The shower is a nice place to be and this is a good excuse to spend a little extra time there.\n\nAlternatively, put a post in note on your bathroom mirror reminding you to brush and keep your toothbrush and paste out on the counter. Doesn't matter when you do it. Any time of day that suits you is the right time.", "Read or browse Reddit while brushing your teeth. Makes it such a fun activity, and you end up brushing for a loooong time. ", "Morning\n\n1. Wake up & floss immediately. Rinse out your mouth.\n2. brush your teeth next.\n3. Rinse with mouthwash.\n- Do all this in a 5 minute span\n\nBefore bed: Rinse your mouth out with water every night after your last meal. If you're up for it, brush your teeth too.\n\n\nDo this for the first 30 days. Then if you've built a routine on this, add in flossing before bed and brushing before bed. If you've done that, come back again.\n\nAlso, make an appointment with a dentist. I go every 4 months, it's expensive but i'd rather work on it now, then have teeth problems later on in life. \n\nWhat i've outlined for you isn't what experts would consider the best way to maintain your teeth, but IMO it's low maintenance and very easy to do for someone who hardly brushes their teeth. Friend of mine was in the same boat as you, and that's what he did. ", "You could also try keeping a travel size brush and tube of paste in your car, bag or in your locker at work/school. This has worked for me with flossing. It removes forgetting as an excuse!", "Set a loud alarm to go off automatically on your phone every morning. \n\nAlso, learn how to brush your teeth properly. You should be placing the toothbrush at the top of your teeth and angling it with the bristles facing more upwards with your top teeth and more downwards with your bottom teeth. Brush in little circles. The idea is to get under your gum line a little. If it feels prickly you're doing it right. It may bleed a bit to begin with. \n\nIf you need to remove food, floss. Also, alcohol free mouthwash. \n\nMy dental hygienist charged me like £50 for this advice so you'd better fucking use it! :) ", "people with thyroid problems sometimes intuitively shy away from brushing and using toothpaste because fluoride is goitrogenic ! ", "Set a daily alarm on your phone for 8 AM and 10:00 PM (or whatever your approximate wake up/get ready for bed times are.) If you can't brush as soon as it goes off, hit snooze and don't stop snoozing. As soon as it's a habit it will be easy to remember", "Morning brush and floss your teeh before you leave the house. Night brush teeth before bed or if you go to bed or after last meal.", "I would forget to take out my contacts for the longest time. I fixed it by putting all my contact stuff next to my bed. I made taking out my contacts at night as easy as possible (I now usually remember to even take them out drunk), and you can do the same thing with your tooth-brushing.\n\nPut an electric toothbrush and flossies (little sticks with floss on them; sold in many pharmacies/drug stores) next to your bed. The toothpaste, as important as it is, doesn't compare to the sheer importance of the brushing; brushing dry will give you some benefit over not brushing at all. You can also put your toothpaste in your room, next to your bed. Use your garbage can to spit into. You don't really need to rinse and spit, though you can add a bottle of water to your bedside if you want. Floss using a small mirror; the flossing is super important for gum health. \n\nYou don't have to make these things happen in a bathroom/washroom. ", "I had a time in my life when I was really bad at this too - then I came up with a situation where I had to take medication twice a day in the morning and at night.\n\nSo I tied the teeth brushing in with that. Before using the medicine, I told myself I had to brush my teeth first. Linking the two things together in my mind helped me re-establish a regular habit.", "I find the most important thing is making time for it. By opting not to skip breakfast anymore I now make sure my schedule allows for me to eat and then brush my teeth afterwards. And doing it before bed is easy, just make sure you do it before you fap. \n\nAnd don't say you don't fap we all know you do. ", "I brush as soon as I get into the shower in the morning. Mouthwash while using shampoo. Saves time in the AM when I'm running late for work. Don't have to clean up the sink. It's a win win. ", "Brushing teeth is a ritual for me every morning. Never ate anything before brushing. As I grew up in India its very common for us to brush after we wake up from sleep.\n\nTry to get a toothpaste and any brush. place it in your washroom. Every morning before you wash your face, first brush your teeth and then wash your teeth and face all together. \n\nMake it a ritual and be strict with your kids about this too. they will hate it without brushing teeth, like I do now. ", " I would recommend implementing this into one of your existing habits that you already do . For example, if you always wash your face , do that after you brush your teeth and floss. Have your toothbrush, toothpaste, floss, face cleaner in that order and start from left going to the right ending with washing your face. \n\nBrushing your teeth in the shower is a excellent idea, which I do too, but it might be difficult because that might mean you'll only brush when you shower. ", "I have a lot of patients who share the same problem. What is essential for you is to understand the consequences of skipping brushing:\n\n1. Caries- plaque formation on the tooth can result in caries. Many factors are involved in this process but plaque is one of the essentials /its also sweet/sugar food and the time between you eat it/. \n\nIts most likely to develop caries on you posterior teeth mainly because it's difficult to clean and their morphology /high plaque retention due to fissures/\n\n2. Gingivitis/ Parodontitis: its inflamation of the gums /gingivitis/ or severe inflamation which affect surrounding tooth tissues: gums, bone, periodontal ligament. \n\nConsequences are really bad of the progression of these diseases, could reault in tooth lose. \n\nMy suggestion is to go to your dentist, and he will explain you more about the situation and what can you expect to happen which will lead to your stimulation.\n\nSorry for my english, its not my native language.\n\nGood luck and hope you to resolve your problem.", "Brush you teeth immediately upon waking. You must have a morning ritual of some sort. Sounds like you roll out of bed, get dressed, and then go about your day? lol" ]	[ 14, 4, 4, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, -3 ]	safe
[ "What is the best way to save money when buying things first hand? e.g. vouchers, discount codes ect. This has probably been requested on here before but when buying things first hand from a retail store what are some ways you might use to bring down the cost of something you’re buying outright? \n\nI was wondering if anybody knew of any websites or ways to purchase gift vouchers at a discounted price or even websites that generate discount codes for certain retailers. I have to guy buy a new keyboard and earphones and the ones that I like typically go for about $200 each, even if I could mitigate the price down by $20-$30 that would make a significant difference.", "What is the best way to save money when buying things first hand? e.g. vouchers, discount codes ect. This has probably been requested on here before but when buying things first hand from a retail store what are some ways you might use to bring down the cost of something you’re buying outright? \n\nI was wondering if anybody knew of any websites or ways to purchase gift vouchers at a discounted price or even websites that generate discount codes for certain retailers. I have to guy buy a new keyboard and earphones and the ones that I like typically go for about $200 each, even if I could mitigate the price down by $20-$30 that would make a significant difference." ]	[ "Try using a price comparison site like google shopping and search for discount codes before checking out", "Costco sells gift cards at a reduced rate.\n\n" ]	[ 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to keep duvet from sliding around in cover? I have a Full/Queen sized duvet and duvet cover.\n\nMy duvet does not have anything on the corners to keep it in place. My cover does have two strings in each corner of the cover.\n\nWhat I've tried doing is cinching the corners of the duvet with the strings in the cover, but the corners naturally work themselves loose. This leads to the duvet basically rolling up into a ball within the cover.\n\nWhat can I do to make sure that the duvet's corners remain within the corners of the cover?", "How to keep duvet from sliding around in cover? I have a Full/Queen sized duvet and duvet cover.\n\nMy duvet does not have anything on the corners to keep it in place. My cover does have two strings in each corner of the cover.\n\nWhat I've tried doing is cinching the corners of the duvet with the strings in the cover, but the corners naturally work themselves loose. This leads to the duvet basically rolling up into a ball within the cover.\n\nWhat can I do to make sure that the duvet's corners remain within the corners of the cover?" ]	[ "https://www.amazon.ca/Hold-Comforter-Clips-Set/dp/B00B3IBMCI/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1485209457&sr=8-3&keywords=duvet+clips \n\nUse these, when you put your duvet inside the cover, first have the cover inside out, then place the duvet on top, use the clips on each corner, and then turn cover inside out and you are done. ", "Sew a strip of fabric across the corner, making a triangle with the corner about one inch tall. Attach at the edges of the duvet, leaving the middle free. Tie the strings to the middle of the fabric strip. Repeat all 4 sides." ]	[ 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "When to apply heat vs cold on an injury Is there an easy way to remember which to do like a rule of thumb?", "When to apply heat vs cold on an injury Is there an easy way to remember which to do like a rule of thumb?", "When to apply heat vs cold on an injury Is there an easy way to remember which to do like a rule of thumb?", "When to apply heat vs cold on an injury Is there an easy way to remember which to do like a rule of thumb?", "When to apply heat vs cold on an injury Is there an easy way to remember which to do like a rule of thumb?" ]	[ "My physio therapist always said ice to reduce swelling and pain. Heat to promote blood flow which brings nutrients and healing stuff to the affected area. So ice then heat", "I like to follow (for no specific reason) ice if you know what you did and heat if you wake up with the pain.\n\nFor example, bang knee in to table = ice, wake up with back ache and have trouble standing up straight = heat. ", "Ice for the first 2 days, heat thereafter if you need some relief. \nDon't forget elevation, and for the love of god, please, please, please....apply a layer of cloth over your skin before you chuck your ice pack on. ", "For sprains and such, remember RICE for 1st 48 hours. Rest, Ice, Compression, Elevation. Ice should be ice water not solid ice; you'll get frostbite from that. 3-4 times/day put ice and water in a ZipLoc bag. Place a thin cloth over the injured area then apply ice pack. It will get painfully cold then go numb. At that point, remove ice. Swelling increases pain. Icing and elevation (above the shoulder) keep the swelling down, we hope! Heat or ice after 48Hr whichever provides the most comfort. ", "there are multiple schools of thought on this issue.\n\nthe mainstream idea is to almost NEVER heat, and to apply ice to damaged tissue.\n\nThis is just my opinion (bioengineer here) but all ice really does is reduce swelling and relieve pain, it doesn't actually help the repair process. It actually traps important healing macromolecules from escaping through the lymphatic system. These macromolecules will not dramatically reduce in size with ice, but will generally grow in size as they heal the tissue. When ice is applied, the channels through which those molecules travel end up being restricted and the macromolecules can no longer get through.\n\nI typically suggest ice a day or two after the injury is sustained. This gives your system enough time to clean out the area enough for the healing process to really begin. Once that happens, you can apply ice to help reduce swelling and relieve pain.\n\nI also suggest never heating an injury, regardless of it's type or severity." ]	[ 5, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? ", "Theme parks. How to make the most of your visit? Title really says it all, how can I make the most of my trip to a theme park? " ]	[ "Bring your own water and snacks too. The prices are silly in the parks. Also wear the most comfortable clothing you own. Being uncomfortable in line makes a person super cranky. ", "1. Research which rides you want to go on/what you want to see\n2. Find these attractions on a map. Circle/highlight them (in advance)\n3. Get to the park when it first opens. Wait in the entry line if you need to. This will decrease the amount of people potentially in line ahead of you on the rides.\n4.When you get to the park go to the ride/attraction that's the FARTHEST from the entry gates\n5. Work your way to the front of the park\n6. Re visit whatever you like, but budget time because the wait times will be significantly larger than previously\n\n\nWhere are you going? Parks with \"Fast Passes\" or the like (Disney, universal, islands of adventure) will allow you to get a ticket to skip the line (kind of), so you should stop and get these fast passes before you go on the farthest ride. Some parks, like Disney, will only allow one fast pass at a time though.", "If you're taking kids with you take a picture of them as you get to the park. Make sure you get them in head to toe so if the worst happens and they get lost immediately you can always show the picture to park security so they can get a good description out quickly.\n\nTry to figure out what gets the longest queues and go there first. Islands of adventure's harry potter land will fill up within an hour or of the park opening. The big ride, (I forget the name) honestly goes from closed to a three hour queue within about 10 minutes.", "Been a while since I've been to any other parks, but at Disney, never underestimate the power of getting there early and staying late. I recommend a midday break to ensure you have the energy to stay until the park closes.", "Wear shoes that you can be comfortable in all day (standing/walking)\n\nEat before you go in. Food prices inside will be outrageous. \n\nMost visitors will go for the fastest and highest rides first. If you do that all of the other rides will seem boring. Go from the low thrill rides then work your way up. \n \nIf you want to buy souvenirs, buy them on the way out so you are not burdened by them all day.\n", "* Get there early and immediately head to the very back of the park so you can ride those rides unmolested and in the very front (if thats your sort of thing).\n* Bring your own food in a cooler and at lunch go back to your car to have a little parking lot picnic (some places even have little covered picnic table areas to do this at)\n* Comfortable shoes are an absolute must.\n* If the park has water features, you might want to wear your bathing suit. Worst feeling is walking around with soaked shorts/underwear and often times leads to chafing. \n* Liquor is much better than beer in terms of efficiency and filling of stomach. You can take a few shots in the parking lot and be alright to go ride some rides. You can't bong 3 beers and then go ride rides with a full stomach of beer. ", "Go on a Tuesday, take a day off if you have to, and make sure it doesn't coincide with any school-day-off holidays. Save up some money to blow on food (read: CHURROS). You only go once a year, right? Set yourself up to enjoy every bit of it.\n\nI personally only ride like 4 fuckin awesome rides, then lunch, then go to the zoo / whatever else they have attached.\n\nThen wander around drinking beer and play little games and eat carnival food and take pictures.", "Fast passes can vary quite a bit depending on what park you're visiting. \n\nAt Walt Disney world in Orlando, fast passes are free to all guests and you can set up three in advance, then book more once you have used them. Guests staying at a Disney hotel have the earliest access to book fastpasses, but everyone now has the opportunity to book in advance. Disney has the best system and you can really beat the crowds if you pick the right attractions at the right times. They completely overhauled the way they do fastpasses recently and adjustments are made from time to time, your experience may differ.\n\nAt Disneyland and Disney's California Adventure, they still use what's referred to at the \"legacy\" Fastpass system. Also free to all guests. You put your park ticket in a machine at the attraction and it spits out a pass with a return window in which you may experience the attraction without waiting. \n\nAt Universal Orlando, guests staying at all but one of the on site hotels get a type of fast pass. You can also purchase them for an additional $30-$40. You can use it to skip the line one time at each participating attraction.\n\nAt cedar point and kings island they sell fast passes on top of the price of admission. One for $60 and one for $80. The $80 puts you at the front of the line for every ride that matters. The $60 one will put you at the front of the line for all but the two most popular (newest) rides. That's a hefty one day ticket price, $100-$130, not including parking or food. I have a friend who just did the $80 fast pass at cedar point and loved it.\n\nThe first and last two hours of park operation are usually the slowest. It's the best time to visit \"headliner\" attractions.", "It depends. Are you talking something relatively small like six flags? Or larger scale like Disney World, Universal, etc.? I'll try to tailor my advice to apply to both, but bigger parks have a few other notes.\n\nArguably the most valuable theme park advice I can give: plan, plan Plan. Get maps and show schedules ahead of time if you can, and a list of all attractions. Find out what you absolutely want to do, make a prioritized list of things you want to see/do. You'll want to note show times for whatever shows you want to see. Try to work out a schedule so you know what area of the park you'll be in at what times for shows, and you can plan your rides around that. Then mark them on a map, both show venues and rides. Then prioritize what rides you absolutely want to go on, and balance this list with one based on how popular they are. If you're not sure, googling \"popular attractions at (insert theme park)\" or \"longest wait times at (insert theme park)\" should give you some idea. Once you've got a list banged out, find them on a map and plan to start with the most popular ones, before lines get started. Try to knock those out as soon as you can. Sometimes you can ride them twice in a row without waiting if you get there soon enough (my gf and I did exp", "Disney World:\n\nPlan your shit way in advance. If you want to eat at a restaurant there, book the reservation 6 months out, particularly for Epcot. Some restaurants can be gotten even Day Of but never the one you want.\n\nAll fast passes are online and advance booked now. So if you want to get a few fast passes for your favorite rides, you need to reserve them a few days ahead, on the Day Of you won't be able to get one at all or the times will be stupid. (I hate this system, the old \"pick it up as you pass by\" system was optimal IMO.)\n\nMost hotels have park shuttles, use them. Parking is $15 at the park, if you are already staying at a hotel, take the shuttle. Note this may add another 30 minutes to get into the park, but after a long day at the park not having to navigate out and back to a hotel can be nice.\n", "A lot has already been covered, but ill throw my 2 cents in.\n\n* Work your way up from low thrill to high thrill.\n* Use discretion with water rides. Wearing soaked shoes all day can be awful. At the end of the day my feet have gotten so pruned and gross, i have to peel my sock off. It also made the ride home quite a bit stinkier.\n* On the subject of shoes, wear something comfortable. You could be walking miles over the day. I would not recomend flip flops unless you plan on going on a lot of water rides. \n* Try to keep items to a minimum. I would bring only a phone and some money. Other loose items can be uncomfortable, and having to put them in the cubby at every ride can be a nuisance and unsafe. This goes for hats, glasses, and flip flops too. If you cant stand to be with out a hat or shades, bring a cheap pair you wouldn't mind getting lost, damaged, or stolen.\n* Remember, by law they have to provide water for free. A nice free cup of ice water will beat the luke warm water fountains, and 5 dollar sodas any day.\n* As others have said, bring your own food if possible. as /u/dewey2100 had said parking lot picnics are good, and many places will have areas specifically for that. Its also a good time for a mid-day break, and for your group to regather.\n", "ninja ", "If you can get a fast pass for like double the price of a normal ticket, then under most circumstances i'd recommend getting that. Unless you know the queues aren't going to be too bad for some reason.", "I'm assuming you're referring to the theme parks that are typically travel destinations, like Disney, Universal, etc. For local/small theme parks, some of this advice still applies, but is probably somewhat less relevant. \n\n* If at all possible, go at off-peak times. I went to Disney World the week after Thanksgiving and it was incredible. (Relatively) short lines, and the weather was pleasant – sunny and mild. Also, they were offering massive discounts to fill their resorts. We could have stayed in a pretty swank monorail property for the same price as a room in the cheapest resort during the summer.\n* Avoid going during the summer holiday season. It's tempting, but the prices will be at their highest, the lines will be the longest, the weather will be brutally hot and humid, and it will rain most afternoons (in Florida/the south).\n* If you have to go during the summer, plan for an afternoon siesta in your hotel room. The kids can nap/recharge and you can read or watch TV or whatever you do to relax. Plan to go out again once temperatures have come down a bit and your kids aren't on the edge of a tantrum.\n* Arrive when/before the park opens, because most people are \"on vacation\" and not on their game enough to get there before 8/9am. This is especially important if you want to avoid the heat. \n* Figure out which rides you want to do (well in advance) and which have the longest lines. Pick some to FastPass (or whatever the park's system is for a reserved time) and then go to one or two right at opening time before the line builds fully. \n* Stay enough days so you can do everything you want to do without having to absolutely jam every day from 7am to 10pm. If you can't do that, just accept that you will have to skip a few things and save yourself the exhaustion.\n* Wear proper shoes, and if you don't walk much, consider doing a bit of walking before the trip. I walk to work every day. At Disney World, I wore flip-flops the first day and screwed up my feet so badly I could barely walk for the rest of the trip.\n* Stay hydrated and fed by bringing reusable water bottles and snacks. You don't want to end up having heat exhaustion or getting hangry.\n* Suncream/sunscreen, even in winter. You'll be exposed to the sun a lot, and no one wants skin cancer.", "Female here (although this applies to all genders):\n\nTo be the most comfy, plan ahead to get soaked and you will be fine :) never wear jeans. I have a two piece bathing suit I only use for waterparks/theme parks (if going swimming I wear a one piece), then over it I wear a cotton tank top and shorts that are made of track suit material and flip flops. No socks, nothing that is terrible to sit in wet. That way you are going to be fine if you decide to go on a water ride, and you don't have to be pissy either about it :) I don't go with people anymore that refuse to wear anything but jeans because they are big downers when we get there. They are usually the same people that refuse to put their Cell phone in a locker so they can go on water rides, or people that say they go on every ride but then wimp out for half of the things throughout the day. \n\nI agree about snacks, I make a picnic lunch and go out to my car halfway throughout the day, although I only do that at my local park. If I was going to a bigger place like Universal Orlando, I would go with the meal ticket that keys you eat all day - research the Park you are going to. Things like meal passes are going to be way cheaper if it is somewhere you flew to vs. One that is near your house and you just make a day trip. ", "A few simple rules I make\n\n* Watch youtube videos of rides, research on websites, and google [theme park name] discounts. Know what you are getting into\n* Make a list from rides you really want to go on down to rides you dont care about. \n* Get there before the park opens. My experience has been that the parking lot opens before the park itself opens. This allows you more time for the theme park and less time getting ready\n* The moment you go in go straight for the ride you want. \n* A similar advice to the one above but completely seperate would be to run to all the rides that you want to go on that are located furthest away from the entrance. Less people, shorter line, can ride it again. \n* Don't go on the ride that just opened. The line will be horrendously long; it'll still be there next year with a shorter line. Instead go on the other rides, most park attendees came for that ride so they will be going there first leaving all the other rides with short lines. \n* Eat before you go into the park and try to smuggle in some snacks in your pockets. There should be water fountains so it will be fine.\n* Related to above. Eat until 80% full, dont go on a ride full... just dont. \n\ndiclaimer: These are general rules I personally follow. My advice on lines and riding the rides you want are general advice and might not work because of the human factor. ", "Step uno: Find some papers that look like regular cigarette papers.\n\nStep 2: Get one of those little $20 rolling machines and pack your weed in those.\n\nStep C: Keep those in your belt line when entering the park. Smoke one while walking to each ride- preferably around cigarette smokers. Don't stand still.", "If you're travelling alone, or in a party and are happy to ride separately, look for a single rider queue. It's often much shorter than the normal queue, but you don't get to choose who you ride with.", "Go on an \"ugly\" day where there is a chance of rain. I went to six flags the other day and was able to get on over 15 rides. My longest wait for a ride was ten minutes. It was beautiful. ", "By not going. There's a whole world out there to see so why waste time and money at a stupid tourist trap. Go to Europe instead. ", "Be at the gate when the park opens, then go to the left when you get in. You'll be amazed at how few people you'll have to deal with. ", "Go on those corporate sponsored days when only friends and family of their employees can go. You get a great discount and only one third the crowd to fight all day long.", "Go on Superbowl Sunday, it'll be empty.\n\nIf you get there right when the park opens, walk all the way to the back and make your way forward - everyone else'll start at the front and work their way back.", "most theme parks are surrounded by actual cities with interesting things and people to see, which can easily be cheaper and more fun" ]	[ 30, 28, 22, 13, 11, 8, 6, 5, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, -14 ]	safe
[ "Best tips to stop smoking. I'm not a heavy smoker(2-3 a day), but I find myself unable to stop...too often smoking out of boredom. And so, i'm asking for some LPT that'll really help me quit. thanks y'all <3", "Best tips to stop smoking. I'm not a heavy smoker(2-3 a day), but I find myself unable to stop...too often smoking out of boredom. And so, i'm asking for some LPT that'll really help me quit. thanks y'all <3", "Best tips to stop smoking. I'm not a heavy smoker(2-3 a day), but I find myself unable to stop...too often smoking out of boredom. And so, i'm asking for some LPT that'll really help me quit. thanks y'all <3", "Best tips to stop smoking. I'm not a heavy smoker(2-3 a day), but I find myself unable to stop...too often smoking out of boredom. And so, i'm asking for some LPT that'll really help me quit. thanks y'all <3", "Best tips to stop smoking. I'm not a heavy smoker(2-3 a day), but I find myself unable to stop...too often smoking out of boredom. And so, i'm asking for some LPT that'll really help me quit. thanks y'all <3", "Best tips to stop smoking. I'm not a heavy smoker(2-3 a day), but I find myself unable to stop...too often smoking out of boredom. And so, i'm asking for some LPT that'll really help me quit. thanks y'all <3", "Best tips to stop smoking. I'm not a heavy smoker(2-3 a day), but I find myself unable to stop...too often smoking out of boredom. And so, i'm asking for some LPT that'll really help me quit. thanks y'all <3", "Best tips to stop smoking. I'm not a heavy smoker(2-3 a day), but I find myself unable to stop...too often smoking out of boredom. And so, i'm asking for some LPT that'll really help me quit. thanks y'all <3", "Best tips to stop smoking. I'm not a heavy smoker(2-3 a day), but I find myself unable to stop...too often smoking out of boredom. And so, i'm asking for some LPT that'll really help me quit. thanks y'all <3", "Best tips to stop smoking. I'm not a heavy smoker(2-3 a day), but I find myself unable to stop...too often smoking out of boredom. And so, i'm asking for some LPT that'll really help me quit. thanks y'all <3", "Best tips to stop smoking. I'm not a heavy smoker(2-3 a day), but I find myself unable to stop...too often smoking out of boredom. And so, i'm asking for some LPT that'll really help me quit. thanks y'all <3" ]	[ "Smoke your last cigarette, and tell yourself tomorrow i will buy a new pack. Procrastinate the smoking like anything else. I am still going to buy tomorrow a new pack, and i am still not smoking :) \n\nThe crave for a cig will be about 3-5 days. They will pass in no time and you will have a running gag for yourself. \n\n", "Read Allen Carr’s Easyway To Stop Smoking. You can smoke as you read it! I quit 6 years ago and have never looked back. Good luck :)", "I can tell you what I did. Been smoking for over 20 years. When I decided to quit, I bought nicotine lozenges (nicorette) , I don't like gum. It's been a year and a half and I haven't smoked since. \n", "You will only crave a cigarrete for 3 days after the last one. Real deal, worked for my friend, worked for me. Stop for 72 hours and you will be halfway through.\n\nThen you can replace it for gums, or just plain drinking water. But have it cold turkey the first 3 days. ", "Vape. Low nicotine then no nicotine. Dont plan on doing it long term. I went from a pack a day for 7 years to 3 years without. I don't vape much anymore except when I drink\n\nPretty sure it's the most effective quitting method ever made.", "I'm not a smoker but I've heard suggestions to replace the smoking with something else? Instead of smoking, do something equally mindless like suck on a lolipop.", "I stopped smoking by keeping a pack of cigarettes in a drawer and, whenever I craved one, I kind of just told myself “you could have one if you want to.. but you don’t want to...” I also started with the goal of going a whole year without smoking instead of “never smoking again” kind of deal.. I think the year goal made it easier to stop and tell myself that “I could have one but...” whenever I was out and drinking was involved. \nHope it helps! ", "Don’t get addicted🙃\n\nKidding, vape seems to help a lot of people, I was never a “regular” smoker, only had my phases & social smokes.. probably longest I would smoke was 3months usually summer months. Then I got a vape & haven’t had a cig since(5 months)", "Dont hang out w/ smokers for a couple of weeks, then the smell will be off putting and you wont want to smoke anymore.", "Wellbutrin. Doesn't work for everyone but if it works for you it makes the taste and even though of a smoke very unappealing and made all the difference for me when I quit. Plus I only took it for 1 month and was totally done. That was 8yrs ago and I have been smoke free since. I was a pack a day smoker.", "Assuming 1 pack / day.\n\nDay 1: Smoke 19 and save 1 in an open pack on the window sill.\n\nDay 2: Smoke 18 and save 2 in an open pack on the window sill.\n\nDay 3: Smoke 17 and save 3 in an open pack on the window sill.\n\nDay 4: Smoke 16 and save 4 in an open pack on the window sill.\n\nDay 5: Smoke 15 and save 5 in an open pack on the window sill.\n\nDay 6: Smoke 14 and save 6 in an open pack on the window sill.\n\nDay 7: Smoke 13 and save 7 in an open pack on the window sill.\n\nDay 8: Smoke 12 and save 8 in an open pack on the window sill.\n\nDay 9: Smoke 11 and save 9 in an open pack on the window sill.\n\nDay 10: Smoke 10 and save 10 in an open pack on the window sill.\n\nDay 11: Smoke the cigarettes in the box with 10 on the window sill.\n\nDay 12: Smoke the cigarettes in the box with 9 on the window sill.\n\nDay 13: Smoke the cigarettes in the box with 8 on the window sill.\n\nDay 14: Smoke the cigarettes in the box with 7 on the window sill.\n\nDay 15: Smoke the cigarettes in the box with 6 on the window sill.\n\nDay 16: Smoke the cigarettes in the box with 5 on the window sill.\n\nDay 17: Smoke the cigarettes in the box with 4 on the window sill.\n\nDay 18: Smoke the cigarettes in the box with 3 on the window sill.\n\nDay 19: Smoke the cigarettes in the box with 2 on the window sill.\n\nDay 20: Smoke the cigarettes in the box with 1 on the window sill.\n\nDay 21: Don't smoke, ever again.\n\n\nThis method has the effect of slowly reducing the physical habit of smoking (holding the cigarette and puffing), it ramps down the level of nicotine, and starting at day 11, you are smoking increasingly stale cigarettes. This last conditions you to associate cigarettes with an unpleasant taste and very little nicotine reward.\n" ]	[ 9, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Decided to be healthier and walk to work. How do I handle the sweat? I've started walking to and from work daily, and I haven't figured how I can stay dry/be less of a smelly annoyance when I get there. To complicate matters, I live in a tropical climate. I've been swapping shirts and I saw a post on talcum powder for drying off, but I'm worried it'll get on my clothes (show white marks).", "Decided to be healthier and walk to work. How do I handle the sweat? I've started walking to and from work daily, and I haven't figured how I can stay dry/be less of a smelly annoyance when I get there. To complicate matters, I live in a tropical climate. I've been swapping shirts and I saw a post on talcum powder for drying off, but I'm worried it'll get on my clothes (show white marks).", "Decided to be healthier and walk to work. How do I handle the sweat? I've started walking to and from work daily, and I haven't figured how I can stay dry/be less of a smelly annoyance when I get there. To complicate matters, I live in a tropical climate. I've been swapping shirts and I saw a post on talcum powder for drying off, but I'm worried it'll get on my clothes (show white marks).", "Decided to be healthier and walk to work. How do I handle the sweat? I've started walking to and from work daily, and I haven't figured how I can stay dry/be less of a smelly annoyance when I get there. To complicate matters, I live in a tropical climate. I've been swapping shirts and I saw a post on talcum powder for drying off, but I'm worried it'll get on my clothes (show white marks).", "Decided to be healthier and walk to work. How do I handle the sweat? I've started walking to and from work daily, and I haven't figured how I can stay dry/be less of a smelly annoyance when I get there. To complicate matters, I live in a tropical climate. I've been swapping shirts and I saw a post on talcum powder for drying off, but I'm worried it'll get on my clothes (show white marks).", "Decided to be healthier and walk to work. How do I handle the sweat? I've started walking to and from work daily, and I haven't figured how I can stay dry/be less of a smelly annoyance when I get there. To complicate matters, I live in a tropical climate. I've been swapping shirts and I saw a post on talcum powder for drying off, but I'm worried it'll get on my clothes (show white marks).", "Decided to be healthier and walk to work. How do I handle the sweat? I've started walking to and from work daily, and I haven't figured how I can stay dry/be less of a smelly annoyance when I get there. To complicate matters, I live in a tropical climate. I've been swapping shirts and I saw a post on talcum powder for drying off, but I'm worried it'll get on my clothes (show white marks).", "Decided to be healthier and walk to work. How do I handle the sweat? I've started walking to and from work daily, and I haven't figured how I can stay dry/be less of a smelly annoyance when I get there. To complicate matters, I live in a tropical climate. I've been swapping shirts and I saw a post on talcum powder for drying off, but I'm worried it'll get on my clothes (show white marks).", "Decided to be healthier and walk to work. How do I handle the sweat? I've started walking to and from work daily, and I haven't figured how I can stay dry/be less of a smelly annoyance when I get there. To complicate matters, I live in a tropical climate. I've been swapping shirts and I saw a post on talcum powder for drying off, but I'm worried it'll get on my clothes (show white marks).", "Decided to be healthier and walk to work. How do I handle the sweat? I've started walking to and from work daily, and I haven't figured how I can stay dry/be less of a smelly annoyance when I get there. To complicate matters, I live in a tropical climate. I've been swapping shirts and I saw a post on talcum powder for drying off, but I'm worried it'll get on my clothes (show white marks).", "Decided to be healthier and walk to work. How do I handle the sweat? I've started walking to and from work daily, and I haven't figured how I can stay dry/be less of a smelly annoyance when I get there. To complicate matters, I live in a tropical climate. I've been swapping shirts and I saw a post on talcum powder for drying off, but I'm worried it'll get on my clothes (show white marks)." ]	[ "Once you figure it out...let's send a message back in time to middle school me, my 1.4 mile walk every morning, and the ✨aroma✨ that I was in denial of 😬", "If you don't have showers at work but there is a gym nearby you may want to join the gym to use their showers, and at that rate you may as well drive to work early and use the gym membership you're paying for.", "Change of clothes is the right path but Polyester, nylon or merino wick sweat away. Get good breathable materials. Some Hiking outfits work better. Even if it is a bit cool when you start, a lighter layer might suit better. You will start to warm as you walk.", "You might just have to suck it up and “wash” via your workplace bathroom sink. Like wet a paper towel or bring your own towel and do it that way. Extra clothing/separate bag for dirty clothes etc etc. (Also great if your bathrooms are private)\n\nHelps if you have your own storage space at work to keep all that stuff\n\nSource: having PE as the first class of the day in highschool, and the school not having any damn showers in the whole building", "Walking clothes, and baby wipes (how you stay somewhat fresh smelling at burning man) wipe down in a bathroom stall, then change into work clothes? At the very least wipe down and change of undies? Except that would mean carrying a garment or some other kind of bag. And lots of water to stay hydrated.", "Hand sanitizer kills bacteria that causes odors. When you get to work, put some on your pits, change your shirt and you’re good to go.", "The Shower Pill and a Chawel. You can strip down most anywhere and retain some level of privacy. The shower pills (wet wipes) are like a buck a piece but don't leave you feeling sticky. Did a Ragnar (6 people in a car running relay style for 2 days straight without a shower) and felt fresh the whole time.", "Maybe just don't walk TO work? You can walk FROM work to home and find some other ways to make up for the lost one way.", "Perhaps you could do a little sponge bath in the bathroom when you get to work. Just from the waist up, of course.", "I've never done this myself but I saw a post a long time ago about mixing soap and water and freezing it into a bar of soap shape so u have like an on the go shower type thing... Could be worth exploring", "Are there showers at work? Otherwise I’d take a spare change of clothes - and maybe a towel to wipe off excess sweat when you get to work :)" ]	[ 9, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe

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