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[ "How to be heard by people People are ignoring me hardly. My mum, friends, teachers. I know they are hearing me, I know they understand me, but when I ask something, everyone just ignoring me (so I rather shut up, to not feel agressive). This is my biggest problem so far. Everyone ignores my tongue. Help.", "How to be heard by people People are ignoring me hardly. My mum, friends, teachers. I know they are hearing me, I know they understand me, but when I ask something, everyone just ignoring me (so I rather shut up, to not feel agressive). This is my biggest problem so far. Everyone ignores my tongue. Help.", "How to be heard by people People are ignoring me hardly. My mum, friends, teachers. I know they are hearing me, I know they understand me, but when I ask something, everyone just ignoring me (so I rather shut up, to not feel agressive). This is my biggest problem so far. Everyone ignores my tongue. Help.", "How to be heard by people People are ignoring me hardly. My mum, friends, teachers. I know they are hearing me, I know they understand me, but when I ask something, everyone just ignoring me (so I rather shut up, to not feel agressive). This is my biggest problem so far. Everyone ignores my tongue. Help.", "How to be heard by people People are ignoring me hardly. My mum, friends, teachers. I know they are hearing me, I know they understand me, but when I ask something, everyone just ignoring me (so I rather shut up, to not feel agressive). This is my biggest problem so far. Everyone ignores my tongue. Help.", "How to be heard by people People are ignoring me hardly. My mum, friends, teachers. I know they are hearing me, I know they understand me, but when I ask something, everyone just ignoring me (so I rather shut up, to not feel agressive). This is my biggest problem so far. Everyone ignores my tongue. Help.", "How to be heard by people People are ignoring me hardly. My mum, friends, teachers. I know they are hearing me, I know they understand me, but when I ask something, everyone just ignoring me (so I rather shut up, to not feel agressive). This is my biggest problem so far. Everyone ignores my tongue. Help.", "How to be heard by people People are ignoring me hardly. My mum, friends, teachers. I know they are hearing me, I know they understand me, but when I ask something, everyone just ignoring me (so I rather shut up, to not feel agressive). This is my biggest problem so far. Everyone ignores my tongue. Help." ]	[ "I have a very weak voice. Not timid or shy, but not very strong. I have to raise my voice and put some effort into it. I end up sounding like an asshole whenever I speak up because that's how it is naturally when I try to talk loud. So I do come as an asshole to be heard. People take it the wrong way usually. But that's when I end up saying \"fuck it\". I don't feel like repeating myself. SPEAK UP!\n", "get up close and in their face so they cannot ignore you. not saying to be rude, or to do it in a confrontational way, just make your presence felt enough that they have not other option but to answer you", "Say their name first and wait for them to look at you. Then, say what you were going to say. Also, sometimes when I am feeling puny I feel like this is happening. It is probably happening no more than normal, I am probably just looking for evidence that it is occurring. [Confirmation bias](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Confirmation_bias)", "Eye contact is important. Face the person you are speaking to and when you do, speak from your chest. Confidence is key.", "Something that I've kind of learned to do through sports is taking a deep breath when running to provide a large amount of air for my lungs. Applying this to delivering speeches/presentations in class; inhale deeply before speaking to make yourself clearer and louder. When you inhale deeply, it forces air into your lungs, making you sound less nasally or muted. It also provides more energy in your voice because you're getting more oxygen flowing through your blood, going through your body and to your brain. \n\nI feel like deep breathing also gives you better posture. If you inhale deeply, you'll notice your chest naturally rises as your lungs expand. This gives you a more confident posture, like you're puffing your chest out. When you appear confident to people, you'll generally get positive feedback from them. This isn't necessarily verbal feedback, like they won't go up to you saying \"Hey, you look really confident!\" But they might take notice of you and consider you to be confident because of your posture, when you're actually kind of meek and quiet.", "Same here. I try repeating it more loudly in the next conversation gap I find. If it doesn't work and it isn't about something I need (it mostly happens when I'm trying to socialize) I just give up and save it for another time or never.\n\nAlso, if you get bored and leave they will suddenly realize you have talked.", "How old are you? try recording yourself on your phone while talking to them and hear yourself after. maybe you need to project your voice properly.", "/u/welbidlo, sometimes I find that saying the person's name, cues them to the fact that you are in fact speaking to them specifically.\n\nDo you think that would work for you, /u/wellbidlo?\n\n" ]	[ 7, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to get pine sap off your car. my apartment complex is surrounded by pine trees so every now and then i have to park directly under one of the pine trees. When I park directly underneath my car gets covered with sap or bird poop , sometimes both. how can I remove the sap?", "How to get pine sap off your car. my apartment complex is surrounded by pine trees so every now and then i have to park directly under one of the pine trees. When I park directly underneath my car gets covered with sap or bird poop , sometimes both. how can I remove the sap?" ]	[ "http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1aifb5/request_how_to_remove_sap_from_windshield_and_car/", "oil, let it soak in and use a microfiber cloth to rub at it. wd-40 will work, so will lemon oil or a product called 'goo-gone'. Removes tar, too. Really, it's called goo-gone." ]	[ 4, 3 ]	safe
[ "What to do with old (2000-present) computers and parts I have a few old computers, monitors, etc lying around. All are less than 10 years old. \n\nThe only obvious answer I could think of would be donating them to a school or some other organization but 1) I think these might be obsolete by even public school standards and 2) I worry about any... residual content. Not that there are secret stashes of porn on them or anything, but just that you never know what spyware and the like might leave behind. Could I be held responsible for anything left over that might show up? Would donating anonymously be an option?\n\nThe only results I found when I searched LPT were to use an old PC as a dedicated music player/station. Any other suggestions? Are there any other uses for the monitor that might be fun? Any old parts (I know almost nothing of building computers) that would still be worth taking out and reusing somewhere else? ", "What to do with old (2000-present) computers and parts I have a few old computers, monitors, etc lying around. All are less than 10 years old. \n\nThe only obvious answer I could think of would be donating them to a school or some other organization but 1) I think these might be obsolete by even public school standards and 2) I worry about any... residual content. Not that there are secret stashes of porn on them or anything, but just that you never know what spyware and the like might leave behind. Could I be held responsible for anything left over that might show up? Would donating anonymously be an option?\n\nThe only results I found when I searched LPT were to use an old PC as a dedicated music player/station. Any other suggestions? Are there any other uses for the monitor that might be fun? Any old parts (I know almost nothing of building computers) that would still be worth taking out and reusing somewhere else? " ]	[ "Ram sticks, hard drives and product keys (XP and newer) are usually good to snag. My recommendation would be to make a home server using a Linux platform like Ubuntu. If you Google how to make a server u can usually find a good guide", "Microwave the hard drives. \nor \nOpen them and use the platters for decorations/widgets. \nToss the rest. Honestly, unless the stuff is 5 or less years old, even an orphanage probably won't take them." ]	[ 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to pay more attention? I have had a very bad time with the last few exams after graduating High School (testing my math, language and physics skills) and I noticed that most of my mistakes were not due to the lack of knowledge, but to the lack of attention. I didn't compute something right which would have seemed obvious or I didn't read the task properly. I had no problems in thinking about a solution or solving difficulties and hardly had any with this kind of exercises.\n\nWhy can't I concentrate on simple tasks? I fail at the easiest problems and I don't even realize it. Sometimes I feel like my mind is filled with songs, beats, random thoughts that seem hard to get rid of.\n\nIs there a way to have a clearer thinking that most of us ignore?\n\nTL;DR: I did bad at exams, How to think less messier?\n", "How to pay more attention? I have had a very bad time with the last few exams after graduating High School (testing my math, language and physics skills) and I noticed that most of my mistakes were not due to the lack of knowledge, but to the lack of attention. I didn't compute something right which would have seemed obvious or I didn't read the task properly. I had no problems in thinking about a solution or solving difficulties and hardly had any with this kind of exercises.\n\nWhy can't I concentrate on simple tasks? I fail at the easiest problems and I don't even realize it. Sometimes I feel like my mind is filled with songs, beats, random thoughts that seem hard to get rid of.\n\nIs there a way to have a clearer thinking that most of us ignore?\n\nTL;DR: I did bad at exams, How to think less messier?\n", "How to pay more attention? I have had a very bad time with the last few exams after graduating High School (testing my math, language and physics skills) and I noticed that most of my mistakes were not due to the lack of knowledge, but to the lack of attention. I didn't compute something right which would have seemed obvious or I didn't read the task properly. I had no problems in thinking about a solution or solving difficulties and hardly had any with this kind of exercises.\n\nWhy can't I concentrate on simple tasks? I fail at the easiest problems and I don't even realize it. Sometimes I feel like my mind is filled with songs, beats, random thoughts that seem hard to get rid of.\n\nIs there a way to have a clearer thinking that most of us ignore?\n\nTL;DR: I did bad at exams, How to think less messier?\n", "How to pay more attention? I have had a very bad time with the last few exams after graduating High School (testing my math, language and physics skills) and I noticed that most of my mistakes were not due to the lack of knowledge, but to the lack of attention. I didn't compute something right which would have seemed obvious or I didn't read the task properly. I had no problems in thinking about a solution or solving difficulties and hardly had any with this kind of exercises.\n\nWhy can't I concentrate on simple tasks? I fail at the easiest problems and I don't even realize it. Sometimes I feel like my mind is filled with songs, beats, random thoughts that seem hard to get rid of.\n\nIs there a way to have a clearer thinking that most of us ignore?\n\nTL;DR: I did bad at exams, How to think less messier?\n", "How to pay more attention? I have had a very bad time with the last few exams after graduating High School (testing my math, language and physics skills) and I noticed that most of my mistakes were not due to the lack of knowledge, but to the lack of attention. I didn't compute something right which would have seemed obvious or I didn't read the task properly. I had no problems in thinking about a solution or solving difficulties and hardly had any with this kind of exercises.\n\nWhy can't I concentrate on simple tasks? I fail at the easiest problems and I don't even realize it. Sometimes I feel like my mind is filled with songs, beats, random thoughts that seem hard to get rid of.\n\nIs there a way to have a clearer thinking that most of us ignore?\n\nTL;DR: I did bad at exams, How to think less messier?\n", "How to pay more attention? I have had a very bad time with the last few exams after graduating High School (testing my math, language and physics skills) and I noticed that most of my mistakes were not due to the lack of knowledge, but to the lack of attention. I didn't compute something right which would have seemed obvious or I didn't read the task properly. I had no problems in thinking about a solution or solving difficulties and hardly had any with this kind of exercises.\n\nWhy can't I concentrate on simple tasks? I fail at the easiest problems and I don't even realize it. Sometimes I feel like my mind is filled with songs, beats, random thoughts that seem hard to get rid of.\n\nIs there a way to have a clearer thinking that most of us ignore?\n\nTL;DR: I did bad at exams, How to think less messier?\n", "How to pay more attention? I have had a very bad time with the last few exams after graduating High School (testing my math, language and physics skills) and I noticed that most of my mistakes were not due to the lack of knowledge, but to the lack of attention. I didn't compute something right which would have seemed obvious or I didn't read the task properly. I had no problems in thinking about a solution or solving difficulties and hardly had any with this kind of exercises.\n\nWhy can't I concentrate on simple tasks? I fail at the easiest problems and I don't even realize it. Sometimes I feel like my mind is filled with songs, beats, random thoughts that seem hard to get rid of.\n\nIs there a way to have a clearer thinking that most of us ignore?\n\nTL;DR: I did bad at exams, How to think less messier?\n" ]	[ "If this has not been a problem your entire life then you sound over stimulated. \n\nTry: Sleeping more, consuming less caffeine, consuming less sugar, watch less TV, listen to less music, play less video games, read more, keep a notebook handy for random thoughts (write them down and move on). Go for a walk in silence. \n\n\nYour brain needs to learn how to calm down and focus on one thing.", "It's difficult to be completely focused on something that you are not interested in. That is what having discipline is - forcing yourself to do shit you don't necessarily want to do. It's not easy. \nTry practicing transcendental m", "First, I would suggest seeing a doctor ASAP in regards to a potential ADHD or some other learning disability. A diagnosis can go a long way to figuring out what sort of help you need, and medical professionals and student learning/writing/disability services at your school will have lots of tools available for you to develop the skills you want.\n\nIn addition to this, and I must stress in addition, I would recommend m", "Practise that as soon as you catch yourself drifting you stop yourself and focus on just taking a couple of breaths to get yourself back into the current moment. Then move on with the task.", "well, it really depends if you are interested in the things you do, how well you sleep, if you have problems with your life.... so you have to think about everything that causes trouble until you find your inner peace", "M", "I have the exact same problem as you. I've always been like this as a child, so I would consistently lose small marks on tests because I didn't read the question/instructions properly. I scored lower on my grade 10 literacy test because I frequently skimmed over details to the point where they actually noticed. I completely missed an entire question on my high school psychology exam, but still managed an A. That psychology teacher recommended that when it comes to concentrating while reading questions, it's better to read out loud so you don't miss anything/skim over key details." ]	[ 13, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I stop my cat from drinking out of my drinks? He always creeps up when I'm not looking. If there's any ice he goes straight from trying to drink it to sticking his paws in the glass", "How do I stop my cat from drinking out of my drinks? He always creeps up when I'm not looking. If there's any ice he goes straight from trying to drink it to sticking his paws in the glass", "How do I stop my cat from drinking out of my drinks? He always creeps up when I'm not looking. If there's any ice he goes straight from trying to drink it to sticking his paws in the glass", "How do I stop my cat from drinking out of my drinks? He always creeps up when I'm not looking. If there's any ice he goes straight from trying to drink it to sticking his paws in the glass", "How do I stop my cat from drinking out of my drinks? He always creeps up when I'm not looking. If there's any ice he goes straight from trying to drink it to sticking his paws in the glass", "How do I stop my cat from drinking out of my drinks? He always creeps up when I'm not looking. If there's any ice he goes straight from trying to drink it to sticking his paws in the glass", "How do I stop my cat from drinking out of my drinks? He always creeps up when I'm not looking. If there's any ice he goes straight from trying to drink it to sticking his paws in the glass", "How do I stop my cat from drinking out of my drinks? He always creeps up when I'm not looking. If there's any ice he goes straight from trying to drink it to sticking his paws in the glass" ]	[ "Cats are very finicky about water that they don't know is fresh. If they see you drink it, they know it is. If you replace their water, and they didn't watch, they can't be sure. They also tend to get more finicky about this with age.\n\nSolution: freshly pour water for your cat at regular intervals (so they can see it). Also, they make flowing water fountains for cats, but you still have to clean them every few days or they get moldy.\n\nIf those don't do it for ya, just deal, I guess. Cats aren't very understanding of your problems.", "Cats can be trained like dogs in some ways. Just yell at it and say no. Like cartman does with his chicken pot pie. \nAnd yes they can be trained, my friend trained his cat to sit on command and semi roll over. It was stunned when he did it a\nFew times to prove it wasnt just random ", "put some cat poison in your drink, and sip it (after having taken an antidote), to prove to your cat that it's just water. Then, when your cat dies of the poison, leave the body out so that the other cats get a good look and start behaving.", "Dude, you're not five. You don't need a sippy cup. Just watch your damned drink.\n\nOr, you know, leave cups of gasoline lying around.", "Get cups with lids, had to do this with my cat.\n\nWe always provide him with fresh water in a clean bowl, but he won't leave cups alone.\n\n", "Years ago my mom made a spray bottle filled with diluted lemon juice. Whenever her cat would go in the road she would spray it. She said the cat got the idea after a few times. ", "Unless I am drinking out of a water bottle, I'll make 2 cups of water. When he comes running to get a drink, ill take a sip out of his mug and place it on the ground. Usually he's satisfied with that and wont go after my cup. ", "Also this worked with my dog. When he was a puppy I was training him to stay on our yard so he could run around our acre of land but NEVER go in the road. I would stand in the road and he would be at the edge. Only once did I have to do this. He went in the road once, I picked him up by his arm and threw him back onto the yard. So far for the next 7 years he has never ever stepped paw in the road. Little brutal but it definitely worked." ]	[ 15, 4, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I create a professional looking signature? How can I create a signature for my first and last name that looks professional? I'm rather young, but will be entering the professional workforce soon. I haven't really developed my signature yet. I know that the style of someone's signature depends on the letters they have in their name. But I don't feel comfortable posting my name on the internet. Does anyone have any tips for creating a professional looking signature? ", "How can I create a professional looking signature? How can I create a signature for my first and last name that looks professional? I'm rather young, but will be entering the professional workforce soon. I haven't really developed my signature yet. I know that the style of someone's signature depends on the letters they have in their name. But I don't feel comfortable posting my name on the internet. Does anyone have any tips for creating a professional looking signature? ", "How can I create a professional looking signature? How can I create a signature for my first and last name that looks professional? I'm rather young, but will be entering the professional workforce soon. I haven't really developed my signature yet. I know that the style of someone's signature depends on the letters they have in their name. But I don't feel comfortable posting my name on the internet. Does anyone have any tips for creating a professional looking signature? ", "How can I create a professional looking signature? How can I create a signature for my first and last name that looks professional? I'm rather young, but will be entering the professional workforce soon. I haven't really developed my signature yet. I know that the style of someone's signature depends on the letters they have in their name. But I don't feel comfortable posting my name on the internet. Does anyone have any tips for creating a professional looking signature? ", "How can I create a professional looking signature? How can I create a signature for my first and last name that looks professional? I'm rather young, but will be entering the professional workforce soon. I haven't really developed my signature yet. I know that the style of someone's signature depends on the letters they have in their name. But I don't feel comfortable posting my name on the internet. Does anyone have any tips for creating a professional looking signature? ", "How can I create a professional looking signature? How can I create a signature for my first and last name that looks professional? I'm rather young, but will be entering the professional workforce soon. I haven't really developed my signature yet. I know that the style of someone's signature depends on the letters they have in their name. But I don't feel comfortable posting my name on the internet. Does anyone have any tips for creating a professional looking signature? ", "How can I create a professional looking signature? How can I create a signature for my first and last name that looks professional? I'm rather young, but will be entering the professional workforce soon. I haven't really developed my signature yet. I know that the style of someone's signature depends on the letters they have in their name. But I don't feel comfortable posting my name on the internet. Does anyone have any tips for creating a professional looking signature? ", "How can I create a professional looking signature? How can I create a signature for my first and last name that looks professional? I'm rather young, but will be entering the professional workforce soon. I haven't really developed my signature yet. I know that the style of someone's signature depends on the letters they have in their name. But I don't feel comfortable posting my name on the internet. Does anyone have any tips for creating a professional looking signature? ", "How can I create a professional looking signature? How can I create a signature for my first and last name that looks professional? I'm rather young, but will be entering the professional workforce soon. I haven't really developed my signature yet. I know that the style of someone's signature depends on the letters they have in their name. But I don't feel comfortable posting my name on the internet. Does anyone have any tips for creating a professional looking signature? ", "How can I create a professional looking signature? How can I create a signature for my first and last name that looks professional? I'm rather young, but will be entering the professional workforce soon. I haven't really developed my signature yet. I know that the style of someone's signature depends on the letters they have in their name. But I don't feel comfortable posting my name on the internet. Does anyone have any tips for creating a professional looking signature? ", "How can I create a professional looking signature? How can I create a signature for my first and last name that looks professional? I'm rather young, but will be entering the professional workforce soon. I haven't really developed my signature yet. I know that the style of someone's signature depends on the letters they have in their name. But I don't feel comfortable posting my name on the internet. Does anyone have any tips for creating a professional looking signature? ", "How can I create a professional looking signature? How can I create a signature for my first and last name that looks professional? I'm rather young, but will be entering the professional workforce soon. I haven't really developed my signature yet. I know that the style of someone's signature depends on the letters they have in their name. But I don't feel comfortable posting my name on the internet. Does anyone have any tips for creating a professional looking signature? ", "How can I create a professional looking signature? How can I create a signature for my first and last name that looks professional? I'm rather young, but will be entering the professional workforce soon. I haven't really developed my signature yet. I know that the style of someone's signature depends on the letters they have in their name. But I don't feel comfortable posting my name on the internet. Does anyone have any tips for creating a professional looking signature? " ]	[ "Just write your name as fast as possible. Do it a 100 times. Eventually you will get bored with writing every single letter and it will turn into something else.", "When you need to start signing things professionally, your pen will have to move as fast as your brain, so you'll end up with a less-deliberate-looking signature.", "msc (my nickname) is my initials. I sign every document with my initials, it takes half a second and it looks good.", "Google \"signature\" and examine the results. Look at the signatures that appeal to you, maybe they'll have large initials with scribbles for the rest of each name, maybe it will be easily legible with carefully formed initials. Find what appeals to you and then use it to modify your present signature. Write it over and over with variations, cross out the versions you don't like and practice the ones you do. I won't take long before you've got something that fit's the new professional you.", "Never heard or thought of a signature as being \"professional\" and I work in an enviroment where I come across a bunch of signatures. However, depending on where you work, try to make your signature difficult to replicate. Not trying to get all tin-foily hat here, but depending on the situation, you don't want a messy-squiggly signature that anyone can copy.", "Write your name as many times as possible. Write it fast. Try different ways to shape different letters. Exaggerate it as much as possible. Eventually something will stick and boom, you have a signature.", "Mine's pretty simple, my first name starts with a W, and my last name is an S. then I just pretty much squiggle making sure i make the approximately accurate height of each letter without really forming that detailed lettering", "I just write the first letter of my first name and entire last name as fast as possible and go with the result of that. It looks like a dead spider but oh well.", "I get a lot of compliments on my signature and I don't do the scribble thing. (Although I think that's more the norm for professionals.) I write with a bit of flourish and at a forward slant. I just practiced it a lot until I found the one I liked. The first initials are more dominant in my signature and any t's are crossed in the final stroke of the pen without lifting after the last letter.", "Honestly? Just practice a lot. Experiment with different styles and flourishes to find the right signature for your name and taste.", "Be creative with the best letter of your name, and squiggle the rest of your name somehow.\n\nMy first name starts with an A, so I draw a likeness of an A with a very long horizontal bar, and squiggle my last name underneath it. My last name ends with a Y, so I make it so that it goes down. Kinda mirrors the first A, overall looks decent.\n\nThe general rule I'd say is have one or two clearly recognizable letters, and a squiggle of your name... Like how doctors write or whatever. Don't really try to form the letters.\n\nThen you can be a bit more creative, like my mothers, whose idea was to have a signature giving the idea of a boat. So she used the \"S\" in her name as a sail, and made the first and last letter bigger, so that it does kind of a boat shape. Pretty nice.", "Apply for a mortgage. At closing, you will have to sign your name approximately 1 billion times. After signing the paperwork, due to experience and laziness, you will have developed an adult looking signature.", "What is 'professional'? Also, your handwritting is a reflection of yourself, so why do you want to change that ?" ]	[ 22, 7, 5, 4, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -4 ]	safe
[ "How to carry a lot of keys comfortably. I have about 20 keys that I need to carry on a work day, but I have yet to figure out a good way to carry them around. I can't reduce the number of keys because most are for work.\n\nI have:\n\n* 5 house keys (2 locks on my apartment, 1 front door, 1 basement, 1 mailbox)\n\n* 2 car keys (1 key and 1 remote)\n\n* 1 gym key-chain card\n\n* 12 work keys (6 pad locks, 2 shutter boxes, 2 front door, 1 back door, 1 storage room) I am a key holder.\n\n\nI've divided them into 4 key-chains and have them in different pockets, but they're heavy, lumpy, and often get mixed up. I'm considering getting a man purse, but that seems like more stuff to carry. Any LPTs? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How to carry a lot of keys comfortably. I have about 20 keys that I need to carry on a work day, but I have yet to figure out a good way to carry them around. I can't reduce the number of keys because most are for work.\n\nI have:\n\n* 5 house keys (2 locks on my apartment, 1 front door, 1 basement, 1 mailbox)\n\n* 2 car keys (1 key and 1 remote)\n\n* 1 gym key-chain card\n\n* 12 work keys (6 pad locks, 2 shutter boxes, 2 front door, 1 back door, 1 storage room) I am a key holder.\n\n\nI've divided them into 4 key-chains and have them in different pockets, but they're heavy, lumpy, and often get mixed up. I'm considering getting a man purse, but that seems like more stuff to carry. Any LPTs? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How to carry a lot of keys comfortably. I have about 20 keys that I need to carry on a work day, but I have yet to figure out a good way to carry them around. I can't reduce the number of keys because most are for work.\n\nI have:\n\n* 5 house keys (2 locks on my apartment, 1 front door, 1 basement, 1 mailbox)\n\n* 2 car keys (1 key and 1 remote)\n\n* 1 gym key-chain card\n\n* 12 work keys (6 pad locks, 2 shutter boxes, 2 front door, 1 back door, 1 storage room) I am a key holder.\n\n\nI've divided them into 4 key-chains and have them in different pockets, but they're heavy, lumpy, and often get mixed up. I'm considering getting a man purse, but that seems like more stuff to carry. Any LPTs? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How to carry a lot of keys comfortably. I have about 20 keys that I need to carry on a work day, but I have yet to figure out a good way to carry them around. I can't reduce the number of keys because most are for work.\n\nI have:\n\n* 5 house keys (2 locks on my apartment, 1 front door, 1 basement, 1 mailbox)\n\n* 2 car keys (1 key and 1 remote)\n\n* 1 gym key-chain card\n\n* 12 work keys (6 pad locks, 2 shutter boxes, 2 front door, 1 back door, 1 storage room) I am a key holder.\n\n\nI've divided them into 4 key-chains and have them in different pockets, but they're heavy, lumpy, and often get mixed up. I'm considering getting a man purse, but that seems like more stuff to carry. Any LPTs? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How to carry a lot of keys comfortably. I have about 20 keys that I need to carry on a work day, but I have yet to figure out a good way to carry them around. I can't reduce the number of keys because most are for work.\n\nI have:\n\n* 5 house keys (2 locks on my apartment, 1 front door, 1 basement, 1 mailbox)\n\n* 2 car keys (1 key and 1 remote)\n\n* 1 gym key-chain card\n\n* 12 work keys (6 pad locks, 2 shutter boxes, 2 front door, 1 back door, 1 storage room) I am a key holder.\n\n\nI've divided them into 4 key-chains and have them in different pockets, but they're heavy, lumpy, and often get mixed up. I'm considering getting a man purse, but that seems like more stuff to carry. Any LPTs? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How to carry a lot of keys comfortably. I have about 20 keys that I need to carry on a work day, but I have yet to figure out a good way to carry them around. I can't reduce the number of keys because most are for work.\n\nI have:\n\n* 5 house keys (2 locks on my apartment, 1 front door, 1 basement, 1 mailbox)\n\n* 2 car keys (1 key and 1 remote)\n\n* 1 gym key-chain card\n\n* 12 work keys (6 pad locks, 2 shutter boxes, 2 front door, 1 back door, 1 storage room) I am a key holder.\n\n\nI've divided them into 4 key-chains and have them in different pockets, but they're heavy, lumpy, and often get mixed up. I'm considering getting a man purse, but that seems like more stuff to carry. Any LPTs? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How to carry a lot of keys comfortably. I have about 20 keys that I need to carry on a work day, but I have yet to figure out a good way to carry them around. I can't reduce the number of keys because most are for work.\n\nI have:\n\n* 5 house keys (2 locks on my apartment, 1 front door, 1 basement, 1 mailbox)\n\n* 2 car keys (1 key and 1 remote)\n\n* 1 gym key-chain card\n\n* 12 work keys (6 pad locks, 2 shutter boxes, 2 front door, 1 back door, 1 storage room) I am a key holder.\n\n\nI've divided them into 4 key-chains and have them in different pockets, but they're heavy, lumpy, and often get mixed up. I'm considering getting a man purse, but that seems like more stuff to carry. Any LPTs? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How to carry a lot of keys comfortably. I have about 20 keys that I need to carry on a work day, but I have yet to figure out a good way to carry them around. I can't reduce the number of keys because most are for work.\n\nI have:\n\n* 5 house keys (2 locks on my apartment, 1 front door, 1 basement, 1 mailbox)\n\n* 2 car keys (1 key and 1 remote)\n\n* 1 gym key-chain card\n\n* 12 work keys (6 pad locks, 2 shutter boxes, 2 front door, 1 back door, 1 storage room) I am a key holder.\n\n\nI've divided them into 4 key-chains and have them in different pockets, but they're heavy, lumpy, and often get mixed up. I'm considering getting a man purse, but that seems like more stuff to carry. Any LPTs? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How to carry a lot of keys comfortably. I have about 20 keys that I need to carry on a work day, but I have yet to figure out a good way to carry them around. I can't reduce the number of keys because most are for work.\n\nI have:\n\n* 5 house keys (2 locks on my apartment, 1 front door, 1 basement, 1 mailbox)\n\n* 2 car keys (1 key and 1 remote)\n\n* 1 gym key-chain card\n\n* 12 work keys (6 pad locks, 2 shutter boxes, 2 front door, 1 back door, 1 storage room) I am a key holder.\n\n\nI've divided them into 4 key-chains and have them in different pockets, but they're heavy, lumpy, and often get mixed up. I'm considering getting a man purse, but that seems like more stuff to carry. Any LPTs? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How to carry a lot of keys comfortably. I have about 20 keys that I need to carry on a work day, but I have yet to figure out a good way to carry them around. I can't reduce the number of keys because most are for work.\n\nI have:\n\n* 5 house keys (2 locks on my apartment, 1 front door, 1 basement, 1 mailbox)\n\n* 2 car keys (1 key and 1 remote)\n\n* 1 gym key-chain card\n\n* 12 work keys (6 pad locks, 2 shutter boxes, 2 front door, 1 back door, 1 storage room) I am a key holder.\n\n\nI've divided them into 4 key-chains and have them in different pockets, but they're heavy, lumpy, and often get mixed up. I'm considering getting a man purse, but that seems like more stuff to carry. Any LPTs? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How to carry a lot of keys comfortably. I have about 20 keys that I need to carry on a work day, but I have yet to figure out a good way to carry them around. I can't reduce the number of keys because most are for work.\n\nI have:\n\n* 5 house keys (2 locks on my apartment, 1 front door, 1 basement, 1 mailbox)\n\n* 2 car keys (1 key and 1 remote)\n\n* 1 gym key-chain card\n\n* 12 work keys (6 pad locks, 2 shutter boxes, 2 front door, 1 back door, 1 storage room) I am a key holder.\n\n\nI've divided them into 4 key-chains and have them in different pockets, but they're heavy, lumpy, and often get mixed up. I'm considering getting a man purse, but that seems like more stuff to carry. Any LPTs? \n\nThanks in advance." ]	[ "i used to have the same problem, i would break it up like this: gym keys in the gym bag, work keys on a single ring around the neck on a lanyard(or on a belt clip). and car keys on one end of a 2 ring set with house keys on the other end(possibly with a quick disconnect coupler). then whenever you get in the car to go home toss the work set in your glove box. that way you only have 1 set of keys in your pockets, and always know which one is which. and there is no danger of sitting on your keys in the car. ", "I remember seeing an article about making something like a penknife but you had your keys instead of blades. If someone can find it you might find it helpful. Alternatively try carrying the keys on a carabiner on your belt loop.", "Have you considered a key wallet? I recall my father having one in his back pocket, and it contained at least 15 keys. \nSomething like this:\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B001AYOT20/ref=mw_dp_sim_ss3?pi=SY125", "Try this http://www.shapeways.com/shops/bladekey\nI 3d printed one out myself and it works pretty good.", "If you don't mind a bulky way to organize your keys get several different colored [carabiners](http://www.lanyardsupply.com/lanyards/carabiner/color-carabiner-keychain.htm) and use them to put your keys into groups. Connect all the carabiner together. It's a low tech method but it works", "I know you have to pay for it, and I don't know anything about it, but someone once showed me [this](http://mykeyport.com/product.html)\n\nI thought there was another one, but I can't find the link now.", "I have had [this](http://www.shapeways.com/model/710233/bladekey-zip-9.html?li=productBox-search) on my wishlist for a while. You could get a few of those for each of your key sets and carribiner them together.\n\nFor what it is worth, I'd put my house keys on a separate ring from my car keys, my work keys on a separate ring of their own, and my gym keys on their own ring, then I would use the center console of my car as a key box.\n\nIn the morning, I'd lock up my house and have in my hands the house key ring and the car key ring. Use the car keys to open the car. Put house keys into center console. Drive to work. Remove work keys from center console. Go in to work. Do work. Get back in car. Put work keys into center console and drive to gym. Take gym keys from center console and go work out. Get back in car. Replace gym keys. Drive home. Take house keys from center console.\n\n... and so it goes. This is my method. :)\n\nMeeting someone somewhere for an activity that doesn't involve keys? Leave all the keys in the center console and only take your car key ring.", "I have a copy of my car key in my wallet and leave my keys locked in the glovebox. If I happen to lose my wallet, there's a car key, i know. But it'll be hard for them to figure out my car by the key. I think I would be more worried about my lost wallet. But then, I'm out both wallet and key... I need to figure something better out. ", "Here are a few ideas:\n- House Keys : Only keep those you need to open the house. Your mailbox & basement keys can be kept in the house.\n- Car Keys : Consider combining the key & remote into one device is feasible.\n- Gym Key-Chain : Leave it in the car?\n- Work Keys : As with house keys, keep only the ones you need to access the building and the rest in a safe place inside the building", "Don't think you can't eliminate some keys.\n\nKeep your your basement and mailbox keys in your house on a separate keyring, use them when you need them. If your Apt. door locks include a deadbolt and a doorknob lock, you could consider eliminating one, depending on how bad of a neighborhood you live in or the likelihood of a break in. \n\nYou could get rid of your car remote, open the door with the key.\n\nGym key and card, again on a separate ring, keep at your house, or in a gym bag. If the key is for a padlock for a locker you keep at the gym, consider replacing it with a combination lock. [This kind](http://www.amazon.com/Master-Lock-178D-Set-Your-Own-Combination/dp/B0009V1WMA/ref=lp_511382_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1364155318&sr=1-2), [Not This](http://www.amazon.com/Master-Lock-1500D-Combination-8-Inch/dp/B00004SQLI/ref=lp_511382_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1364155318&sr=1-3).\n\nFor your work keys, maybe you could just keep the keys you use the most frequently, and keep the others in a desk or secure location for use when you need them. You could try replacing some of the padlocks with combination locks.\n\n\n", "I don't know why anyone hasn't thought of this yet...\n\nhttp://www.bizrice.com/upload/20120309/carabiner_key_holder_with_rubber_patch.jpg\n\n... The orange part, unfortunately I'm not sure what it's called xD" ]	[ 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -2 ]	safe
[ "How to deal with troublemakers/bullies as an adult without feeling like a coward. I am an adult man, and I live in a city on the east coast. Like everywhere else, my city has its share of people who act like complete disrespectful shitheads: Guys who just stand on the sidewalk with their friends and insult everyone who walks past them. Guys who will park their cars in the middle of a one-way street and block traffic while they talk to one if their friends on the sidewalk, threatening anyone who honks their horn or asks them to move. Guys who will talk on their phone during a movie. Basically, guys who will just roam around looking for a fight. \n\n I have no idea what motivates this type of behavior, and I have a very difficult time tolerating it and not confronting these people. I have vivid childhood memories of times when I would let bullies push me around, and the feeling of humiliation and shame still occasionally keep me awake at night. When situations like the ones mentioned above happen, I probably do the dumbest thing and confront the people. Most of the time this results in little more than some bullshit posturing which, while incredibly cringey, rarely gets physical. I usually feel a little embarrassed after the confrontation, but least I feel like I did something and didn't just let a stranger treat me like shit. \n\nI know that if I keep this up I will more than likely end up getting hurt. I hold a professional license, and getting arrested for assault could very well lead to me losing that license, and my nearly 10-year career with it. Is there a way to think about and react to these situations that is less dangerous, but will also allow me to live with myself and not feel like a coward afterwards? Am I coming about this completely wrongheaded? ", "How to deal with troublemakers/bullies as an adult without feeling like a coward. I am an adult man, and I live in a city on the east coast. Like everywhere else, my city has its share of people who act like complete disrespectful shitheads: Guys who just stand on the sidewalk with their friends and insult everyone who walks past them. Guys who will park their cars in the middle of a one-way street and block traffic while they talk to one if their friends on the sidewalk, threatening anyone who honks their horn or asks them to move. Guys who will talk on their phone during a movie. Basically, guys who will just roam around looking for a fight. \n\n I have no idea what motivates this type of behavior, and I have a very difficult time tolerating it and not confronting these people. I have vivid childhood memories of times when I would let bullies push me around, and the feeling of humiliation and shame still occasionally keep me awake at night. When situations like the ones mentioned above happen, I probably do the dumbest thing and confront the people. Most of the time this results in little more than some bullshit posturing which, while incredibly cringey, rarely gets physical. I usually feel a little embarrassed after the confrontation, but least I feel like I did something and didn't just let a stranger treat me like shit. \n\nI know that if I keep this up I will more than likely end up getting hurt. I hold a professional license, and getting arrested for assault could very well lead to me losing that license, and my nearly 10-year career with it. Is there a way to think about and react to these situations that is less dangerous, but will also allow me to live with myself and not feel like a coward afterwards? Am I coming about this completely wrongheaded? ", "How to deal with troublemakers/bullies as an adult without feeling like a coward. I am an adult man, and I live in a city on the east coast. Like everywhere else, my city has its share of people who act like complete disrespectful shitheads: Guys who just stand on the sidewalk with their friends and insult everyone who walks past them. Guys who will park their cars in the middle of a one-way street and block traffic while they talk to one if their friends on the sidewalk, threatening anyone who honks their horn or asks them to move. Guys who will talk on their phone during a movie. Basically, guys who will just roam around looking for a fight. \n\n I have no idea what motivates this type of behavior, and I have a very difficult time tolerating it and not confronting these people. I have vivid childhood memories of times when I would let bullies push me around, and the feeling of humiliation and shame still occasionally keep me awake at night. When situations like the ones mentioned above happen, I probably do the dumbest thing and confront the people. Most of the time this results in little more than some bullshit posturing which, while incredibly cringey, rarely gets physical. I usually feel a little embarrassed after the confrontation, but least I feel like I did something and didn't just let a stranger treat me like shit. \n\nI know that if I keep this up I will more than likely end up getting hurt. I hold a professional license, and getting arrested for assault could very well lead to me losing that license, and my nearly 10-year career with it. Is there a way to think about and react to these situations that is less dangerous, but will also allow me to live with myself and not feel like a coward afterwards? Am I coming about this completely wrongheaded? ", "How to deal with troublemakers/bullies as an adult without feeling like a coward. I am an adult man, and I live in a city on the east coast. Like everywhere else, my city has its share of people who act like complete disrespectful shitheads: Guys who just stand on the sidewalk with their friends and insult everyone who walks past them. Guys who will park their cars in the middle of a one-way street and block traffic while they talk to one if their friends on the sidewalk, threatening anyone who honks their horn or asks them to move. Guys who will talk on their phone during a movie. Basically, guys who will just roam around looking for a fight. \n\n I have no idea what motivates this type of behavior, and I have a very difficult time tolerating it and not confronting these people. I have vivid childhood memories of times when I would let bullies push me around, and the feeling of humiliation and shame still occasionally keep me awake at night. When situations like the ones mentioned above happen, I probably do the dumbest thing and confront the people. Most of the time this results in little more than some bullshit posturing which, while incredibly cringey, rarely gets physical. I usually feel a little embarrassed after the confrontation, but least I feel like I did something and didn't just let a stranger treat me like shit. \n\nI know that if I keep this up I will more than likely end up getting hurt. I hold a professional license, and getting arrested for assault could very well lead to me losing that license, and my nearly 10-year career with it. Is there a way to think about and react to these situations that is less dangerous, but will also allow me to live with myself and not feel like a coward afterwards? Am I coming about this completely wrongheaded? ", "How to deal with troublemakers/bullies as an adult without feeling like a coward. I am an adult man, and I live in a city on the east coast. Like everywhere else, my city has its share of people who act like complete disrespectful shitheads: Guys who just stand on the sidewalk with their friends and insult everyone who walks past them. Guys who will park their cars in the middle of a one-way street and block traffic while they talk to one if their friends on the sidewalk, threatening anyone who honks their horn or asks them to move. Guys who will talk on their phone during a movie. Basically, guys who will just roam around looking for a fight. \n\n I have no idea what motivates this type of behavior, and I have a very difficult time tolerating it and not confronting these people. I have vivid childhood memories of times when I would let bullies push me around, and the feeling of humiliation and shame still occasionally keep me awake at night. When situations like the ones mentioned above happen, I probably do the dumbest thing and confront the people. Most of the time this results in little more than some bullshit posturing which, while incredibly cringey, rarely gets physical. I usually feel a little embarrassed after the confrontation, but least I feel like I did something and didn't just let a stranger treat me like shit. \n\nI know that if I keep this up I will more than likely end up getting hurt. I hold a professional license, and getting arrested for assault could very well lead to me losing that license, and my nearly 10-year career with it. Is there a way to think about and react to these situations that is less dangerous, but will also allow me to live with myself and not feel like a coward afterwards? Am I coming about this completely wrongheaded? ", "How to deal with troublemakers/bullies as an adult without feeling like a coward. I am an adult man, and I live in a city on the east coast. Like everywhere else, my city has its share of people who act like complete disrespectful shitheads: Guys who just stand on the sidewalk with their friends and insult everyone who walks past them. Guys who will park their cars in the middle of a one-way street and block traffic while they talk to one if their friends on the sidewalk, threatening anyone who honks their horn or asks them to move. Guys who will talk on their phone during a movie. Basically, guys who will just roam around looking for a fight. \n\n I have no idea what motivates this type of behavior, and I have a very difficult time tolerating it and not confronting these people. I have vivid childhood memories of times when I would let bullies push me around, and the feeling of humiliation and shame still occasionally keep me awake at night. When situations like the ones mentioned above happen, I probably do the dumbest thing and confront the people. Most of the time this results in little more than some bullshit posturing which, while incredibly cringey, rarely gets physical. I usually feel a little embarrassed after the confrontation, but least I feel like I did something and didn't just let a stranger treat me like shit. \n\nI know that if I keep this up I will more than likely end up getting hurt. I hold a professional license, and getting arrested for assault could very well lead to me losing that license, and my nearly 10-year career with it. Is there a way to think about and react to these situations that is less dangerous, but will also allow me to live with myself and not feel like a coward afterwards? Am I coming about this completely wrongheaded? " ]	[ "Try to be assertive without be confrontational, especially physically. Certainly choose your battles. If they are trying to mess with someone else is when I choose to step in. If they are messing with you then you should be able to walk away 95% of the time. It really does make you the bigger man. ", "If I got upset every time an asshole said or did something idiotic, I'd spend my days reacting and getting stuck in their webs of immaturity. It's like if someone put a \"kick me\" sign on your back, every time you went to confront the person who kicked you, another person would just kick you from a different angle. Rinse and repeat until your life is just getting kicked by assholes. And is that fight worth it? No, not really. Sometimes it's best to walk away or take a different approach. \n\nYou don't have control over how you feel when a situation happens. But you do have a choice about how you react and what you do to change your perspective. You don't have to change others to be what you want them to be. But you can choose what you accept with assertiveness.\n\nYou can recognize that you personally are not always intentionally being wronged. Sometimes, people just don't know that they're causing an inconvenience. Try not to rise above and stay in being astounded by their motivations. Try to understand those motivations. It's like when you see a guy who's double parked outside your building. And you want to honk at this asshole who's taking up the road. You build it in your head that they're the enemy. You don't say anything, and the feelings just build inside until they boil over, like not scratching an itch. And you want to get out of your car and scream at them. Then you see he's trying to get his elderly grandmother with an oxygen tank in the car and it's the only way he can get her in safely. And to them, you're the impatient, inconsiderate asshole yelling at an old woman to hurry up. Try to see another side, or practice suspending your judgment outside of your own perspective. Make up a fun fake story about the other guy that gets you out of your head. Make the choice to stop and choose to see it a different way.\n\nIf people are looking for a fight, be okay walking away. You don't have to get pulled into their shit. You have a choice about what you accept. You can say, \"no thank you\" to that kind of treatment. You can make a choice to stay away and not engage. One of the most basic lessons of self defense is to recognize trouble and stay away from it. Stay away from it so you never have to fight. If we all don't give trouble seekers the attention they want, they eventually back off because their behavior doesn't receive approval or reward (the reward being a reaction).\n\nPeople need to feel important. Especially bullies. They get forceful about it. They want power or control, or at least a sense of it. Sometimes just talking with a person about themselves and just being someone who listens to them gets them to see you favorably. You're not just a reactor. You can get deeper. You can take the time to calmly hear them. People really have a hard time giving shit to people who are genuinely being nice to them and take the time to listen. And the conversation shifts from being about someone winning over the other person into something completely different.\n\nLike next time you're at the movies and you see a guy flipping his phone open, don't pick a fight. \"Hey asshole, turn your fucking phone off!\" That just turns into a battle. Someone's a winner and someone's a loser. Make it into a situation where you both come out heroes. Go up to him and say, \"Hey, buddy. I'm Joe, I'm sitting up there. Can you do me a huge favor? I've been looking forward to this movie all week and I've had a really brutal week, but I have this thing where I get easily distracted. Your phone is lighting up and it takes me away from the screen. Would you mind for the movie just not checking it? I don't mean to take you away from your thing, I get it, it would just mean the world to me. You'd be a hero to me and my friends. You're the man, thank you so much! You rock!\" If he does it, thank him after the show and grab a nice conversation with him. And if he says no and does it to spite you, talk to the manager, get him thrown out, and get a refund for a different showing. But it likely won't come that. You'll be making him feel important because he's able to help you out.\n\nBeing a coward or a champion? 100 years from now, no one else in the world will label you a coward because you didn't stand up to the guy who cut you in line at Jack-In-The-Box. It doesn't have to be about a fight. It doesn't have to be about that mentality. It's life, not sports or war. You don't have to think about losing it all to win a fight. You can reframe it into understanding, compassion, and acceptance. None of those words have such harsh judgements or labels. And most situations don't have to be compared to battle. \n\nAnd last thing I can think of at the moment, with experience you kind of learn to be calm during stressful situations. Just focus on remaining calm and putting the calm attention not on your boiling emotions, but on the other person. Make it about them. That's people want anyway. Someone to listen. You have the choice as to what attention they get. Make a choice that makes you friends.", "maybe take some kind of martial arts class? my two cents: i think the best mindset is to be so beyond that noise that it elicits zero emotional reaction from you. be centered in yourself. (yes a corny cliche, but still) the world can be like the book the road. there's suspicious horrible humans roaming around but you've got to be the better person always and keep the flame burning. Places like you describe, yeah they can be cess pools.", "You're not a coward for walking away or avoiding it. They have issues and haven't learned. Ego is something we all battle with but it isn't worth losing important things over it. Sorry for the bad hand dealt in childhood, shit sorry for the city... like you said everyone has their share but I live in Arizona , in the city but when I read your description I totally pictured some east coast city... just know you're doing great man! Smile! Make it so that your past, helps you become the man that see many those people as the victims and know they need help. Not saying you're the one that needs help them but don't allow them, to become your problem. Good luck bud. ", "I don't know if it's possible for you, but have you considered moving out of the city you live in? Maybe even just to a different neighborhood? \n\nI am by no means insinuating that you should run from your problems. I just think your best course of action would be to avoid the the places those bullies frequent altogether.", "> Basically, guys who will just roam around looking for a fight.\n\n....says the person confronting, sometimes physically, anyone who doesn't meet his expectations.\n\nYou call it standing up for yourself but it sounds more like you're trying to push other people around. " ]	[ 9, 9, 3, 3, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "removing sticky mouse trap goo off a Persian rug My niece picked up a sticky mouse trap out of the kitchen and placed it sticky side down on a Persian rug. I was able to peel the trap off without damaging the rug but now some of the sticky goo is stuck to the rug. How do I get the sticky goo off without hurting the rug? ", "removing sticky mouse trap goo off a Persian rug My niece picked up a sticky mouse trap out of the kitchen and placed it sticky side down on a Persian rug. I was able to peel the trap off without damaging the rug but now some of the sticky goo is stuck to the rug. How do I get the sticky goo off without hurting the rug? ", "removing sticky mouse trap goo off a Persian rug My niece picked up a sticky mouse trap out of the kitchen and placed it sticky side down on a Persian rug. I was able to peel the trap off without damaging the rug but now some of the sticky goo is stuck to the rug. How do I get the sticky goo off without hurting the rug? " ]	[ "when my chihuahua got both of her palm stuck in it (suuuuuper cute, and at the same time, suuuuper sad to watch her hop her way towards us when we came home) we just peanut buttered the shit out of her paws. came off. \n\n\ndon't know how messed up your rug will be, but the sticky stuff should come off 100%", "Using a duster can and spraying it upside down to freeze the glue may make it less tacky. You don't necessarily need gloves but if enough of the solvent that comes out touches your skin, it can cause freezer burn. ", "Maybe soaking it in iso-propyl alcohol would make it easier to get off. I would be hesitant to try anything stronger in case it damages it but you could even try acetone on a very small part and just see how it goes." ]	[ 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "I am extremely gullible and I don't know how to fix myself I am not sure if this is a good place to ask this but I need advice on how to not be so damn gullible. \n\nI am kind of easy to fool as I don't understand why you would want to intentionally cause long term harm to anyone. I expect people to be atleast a certain degree of nice. This has caused me to suffer on too many instances and I don't know how to deal with this.\n\nI have suffered at my work as well because of my gullibleness(not sure if this is a word). I was fooled into a low increment, lack of promotion and stuff, because of how trusting I am of people's words. I don't know how to figure out when somebody is lying to me.\n\nI have distanced myself away from relationships and friendships because I am not sure if people are genuine to me or just taking advantage of me (had this happen to me multiple times as well). For example, I had a friend who I stopped talking to recently, because he made me spend a lot of money and time on him during our friendship. The man just used me for my money and took advantage of my believing nature. He expected me to be there to help him with his needs but to never actually show up when I needed help.\n\nI usually act nice to everyone. I believe that I might miss out on a good friend because of my self-doubt. But this has come back to bite me in the ass many times over.\n\nHow do I develop the skill to identify the liars from the true ones ? ", "I am extremely gullible and I don't know how to fix myself I am not sure if this is a good place to ask this but I need advice on how to not be so damn gullible. \n\nI am kind of easy to fool as I don't understand why you would want to intentionally cause long term harm to anyone. I expect people to be atleast a certain degree of nice. This has caused me to suffer on too many instances and I don't know how to deal with this.\n\nI have suffered at my work as well because of my gullibleness(not sure if this is a word). I was fooled into a low increment, lack of promotion and stuff, because of how trusting I am of people's words. I don't know how to figure out when somebody is lying to me.\n\nI have distanced myself away from relationships and friendships because I am not sure if people are genuine to me or just taking advantage of me (had this happen to me multiple times as well). For example, I had a friend who I stopped talking to recently, because he made me spend a lot of money and time on him during our friendship. The man just used me for my money and took advantage of my believing nature. He expected me to be there to help him with his needs but to never actually show up when I needed help.\n\nI usually act nice to everyone. I believe that I might miss out on a good friend because of my self-doubt. But this has come back to bite me in the ass many times over.\n\nHow do I develop the skill to identify the liars from the true ones ? ", "I am extremely gullible and I don't know how to fix myself I am not sure if this is a good place to ask this but I need advice on how to not be so damn gullible. \n\nI am kind of easy to fool as I don't understand why you would want to intentionally cause long term harm to anyone. I expect people to be atleast a certain degree of nice. This has caused me to suffer on too many instances and I don't know how to deal with this.\n\nI have suffered at my work as well because of my gullibleness(not sure if this is a word). I was fooled into a low increment, lack of promotion and stuff, because of how trusting I am of people's words. I don't know how to figure out when somebody is lying to me.\n\nI have distanced myself away from relationships and friendships because I am not sure if people are genuine to me or just taking advantage of me (had this happen to me multiple times as well). For example, I had a friend who I stopped talking to recently, because he made me spend a lot of money and time on him during our friendship. The man just used me for my money and took advantage of my believing nature. He expected me to be there to help him with his needs but to never actually show up when I needed help.\n\nI usually act nice to everyone. I believe that I might miss out on a good friend because of my self-doubt. But this has come back to bite me in the ass many times over.\n\nHow do I develop the skill to identify the liars from the true ones ? ", "I am extremely gullible and I don't know how to fix myself I am not sure if this is a good place to ask this but I need advice on how to not be so damn gullible. \n\nI am kind of easy to fool as I don't understand why you would want to intentionally cause long term harm to anyone. I expect people to be atleast a certain degree of nice. This has caused me to suffer on too many instances and I don't know how to deal with this.\n\nI have suffered at my work as well because of my gullibleness(not sure if this is a word). I was fooled into a low increment, lack of promotion and stuff, because of how trusting I am of people's words. I don't know how to figure out when somebody is lying to me.\n\nI have distanced myself away from relationships and friendships because I am not sure if people are genuine to me or just taking advantage of me (had this happen to me multiple times as well). For example, I had a friend who I stopped talking to recently, because he made me spend a lot of money and time on him during our friendship. The man just used me for my money and took advantage of my believing nature. He expected me to be there to help him with his needs but to never actually show up when I needed help.\n\nI usually act nice to everyone. I believe that I might miss out on a good friend because of my self-doubt. But this has come back to bite me in the ass many times over.\n\nHow do I develop the skill to identify the liars from the true ones ? ", "I am extremely gullible and I don't know how to fix myself I am not sure if this is a good place to ask this but I need advice on how to not be so damn gullible. \n\nI am kind of easy to fool as I don't understand why you would want to intentionally cause long term harm to anyone. I expect people to be atleast a certain degree of nice. This has caused me to suffer on too many instances and I don't know how to deal with this.\n\nI have suffered at my work as well because of my gullibleness(not sure if this is a word). I was fooled into a low increment, lack of promotion and stuff, because of how trusting I am of people's words. I don't know how to figure out when somebody is lying to me.\n\nI have distanced myself away from relationships and friendships because I am not sure if people are genuine to me or just taking advantage of me (had this happen to me multiple times as well). For example, I had a friend who I stopped talking to recently, because he made me spend a lot of money and time on him during our friendship. The man just used me for my money and took advantage of my believing nature. He expected me to be there to help him with his needs but to never actually show up when I needed help.\n\nI usually act nice to everyone. I believe that I might miss out on a good friend because of my self-doubt. But this has come back to bite me in the ass many times over.\n\nHow do I develop the skill to identify the liars from the true ones ? ", "I am extremely gullible and I don't know how to fix myself I am not sure if this is a good place to ask this but I need advice on how to not be so damn gullible. \n\nI am kind of easy to fool as I don't understand why you would want to intentionally cause long term harm to anyone. I expect people to be atleast a certain degree of nice. This has caused me to suffer on too many instances and I don't know how to deal with this.\n\nI have suffered at my work as well because of my gullibleness(not sure if this is a word). I was fooled into a low increment, lack of promotion and stuff, because of how trusting I am of people's words. I don't know how to figure out when somebody is lying to me.\n\nI have distanced myself away from relationships and friendships because I am not sure if people are genuine to me or just taking advantage of me (had this happen to me multiple times as well). For example, I had a friend who I stopped talking to recently, because he made me spend a lot of money and time on him during our friendship. The man just used me for my money and took advantage of my believing nature. He expected me to be there to help him with his needs but to never actually show up when I needed help.\n\nI usually act nice to everyone. I believe that I might miss out on a good friend because of my self-doubt. But this has come back to bite me in the ass many times over.\n\nHow do I develop the skill to identify the liars from the true ones ? " ]	[ ">I don't know how to figure out when somebody is lying to me\n\nThey are.\n\nDon't assume people are telling the truth, assume they could be mistaken. Are you willing to help them anyway? If so, then go for it.\n\nAlso, don't extend the same courtesy to coworkers as you do friends. Being friendly isn't the same as being a friend.", "It might depend a little on your personality and maybe a little on how you were raised.\n\nIf your family taught you to always be helpful and nice, you might end up being taken advantage of sometimes.\n\nAfter watching documentaries and reading books on deception and human behaviour - I guess we all need a hobby :-) I've learnt that it's not easy to identify lies or deceivers. Even professionals like psychologists and police interrogators are no better than chance. You can get better with a lot of practice, but you still won't be much better than 50%\n\nA better approach might be to make some life rules. Like:\n\n* Never give / spend money on people other than maybe your spouse.\n* Never give people rides - you're not a free taxi.\n* Only give people your time - eg help a friend move, but don't loan them money\n\n\nUse your naivety and helpful nature to make lots of friends at work. Then by having simple rules to avoid being taken advantage of financially, you could come out ahead - no one wants to fire the nice guy etc...", "1. Keep in mind that you don't have to always make a decision right away when presented with a choice. If someone tries to convince you of something just say \"thanks for the offer, I'll think about it and let you know.\" Lots of times you make irrational decisions on impulse. Taking time away to reflect will often allow you to see things as they are. \n\n2. Que Bono- what's in it for me? Always think what's in it for you, and what's in it for the other. Try to see then if you can make some compromise. If your friend is always asking for money, ask what you get out of it. Maybe it is worth it, maybe not, but at least you are thinking about it and making an informed choice. \n\n\n3. Be honest. If you think you are being taken advantage of, say so. Often times people do these things unintentionally. Maybe your friend is bad at keeping tabs of things, and in his mind thinks you are even. Being honest, in a nice way, will remind him/her what the tabs are.", "It's a good thing to be a kind human being. Don't lose that. That said, when something is revealed, such as you being paid less at work, it's okay to bring that up with your manager. Conflict isn't inherently bad. If you choose to knowingly be taken advantage of by the same people over and over, that's your poor boundaries that are the issue. Practice saying no.", "I used to be just like that. I naturally grew out of it but it took a lot of what you went through before it finally clicked with me. If anything I'm the opposite way now and far less trusting than I should be so maybe it left a mark on me", "I might be a bit late to the party OP, but I used to have similar trouble with people when I was in college and I found [this](https://media0ch-a.akamaihd.net/78/20/3bc84f15fd0c6a98865162c91aeec627.jpg) to be a very helpful resource - it's a teensy bit outdated now, of course." ]	[ 12, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to react when receiving advice In the last couple months, I've had a lot of people teaching me things and giving me advice, and I've discovered I have no clue how to react. While someone is teaching me something new, I find myself constantly nodding and mumbling \"uh-huh.\" I always try to ask questions, but often what they're saying is so new to me that I can't even think of questions to ask. I want to appear (and actually be!) engaged and attentive to what they're saying, but often I'm struggling to process all the new information. I'm afraid to give any real reaction before I feel I fully understand. Part of this is fear of looking stupid, which I know I need to let go of, but can anyone give me any other advice for these situations?\n", "How to react when receiving advice In the last couple months, I've had a lot of people teaching me things and giving me advice, and I've discovered I have no clue how to react. While someone is teaching me something new, I find myself constantly nodding and mumbling \"uh-huh.\" I always try to ask questions, but often what they're saying is so new to me that I can't even think of questions to ask. I want to appear (and actually be!) engaged and attentive to what they're saying, but often I'm struggling to process all the new information. I'm afraid to give any real reaction before I feel I fully understand. Part of this is fear of looking stupid, which I know I need to let go of, but can anyone give me any other advice for these situations?\n", "How to react when receiving advice In the last couple months, I've had a lot of people teaching me things and giving me advice, and I've discovered I have no clue how to react. While someone is teaching me something new, I find myself constantly nodding and mumbling \"uh-huh.\" I always try to ask questions, but often what they're saying is so new to me that I can't even think of questions to ask. I want to appear (and actually be!) engaged and attentive to what they're saying, but often I'm struggling to process all the new information. I'm afraid to give any real reaction before I feel I fully understand. Part of this is fear of looking stupid, which I know I need to let go of, but can anyone give me any other advice for these situations?\n" ]	[ "If you are getting that much advice that you are self conscious about it, I guess that you are about to graduate or are getting married.\n\nSo there are several appropriate responses. But first you have to decide if you appreciate the advice, or is it just someone giving you unwanted advice.\n\nFor unwanted advice, you need an interruption. A way out. Like just leave, or open a soda and it's way too bubbly. Anything. \n\nThe gentle way to opt out is to say, 'I truly appreciate the advice you are giving, but I have heard so much advice, I am about to burst. And as good as your advice is, can we save it for a day when I can actually hear it, as opposed to being overwhelmed by it.'\n\nIf it is advice that is genuinely appreciated it is a much different tact.\n\nFor this you need to nod and agree. You need to use non-word phrases to give you time to digest. 'Interesting', 'I didn't think of it that way', 'You make a good point', 'I want to think about that point and talk to you more about it'.\n\nGather up a dozen of these phrases and it buys you time to think while they talk. \n\nHope I helped! :D", "There is always place for two words, but never more than two.\n\nSo choose either 'thank you' or 'fuck you'\n\nBut when is on social media or LinkedIn I always block and report the asshole.\n", "Listen intently, nod thoughtfully, thank graciously, compliment sincerely, promise faithfully to think about it seriously.\n\n(Unless somebody dares to advise you to use fewer adverbs. In that case, a mocking sneer will do)." ]	[ 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I get a job out of state? I've always done pretty well in finding jobs, but it's so hard without existing connections. I currently live in SoCal, but our family is wanting to move to the Dallas, TX area. Any general job finding advice would be helpful, but I work in the securities/insurance industry. Specifically, annuities/customer service. ", "How do I get a job out of state? I've always done pretty well in finding jobs, but it's so hard without existing connections. I currently live in SoCal, but our family is wanting to move to the Dallas, TX area. Any general job finding advice would be helpful, but I work in the securities/insurance industry. Specifically, annuities/customer service. " ]	[ "Take your address off your resume. All they need is your phone number and email. A lot of potential employers may knowingly or unknowingly discriminate against out-of-state applicants. You'll get more call-backs this way.", "If you're an experienced professional with more than a few years of experience, just start applying to companies. If you're in an in-demand industry, interested companies will likely fly you out for interviews.\n\nIf not or that doesn't work, save up 3+ months of living expenses and then head out there to pound the pavement yourself.\n\nJust make sure you're heading someplace that actually has jobs in your industry." ]	[ 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "Getting hired I've been having a hard time finding a job and I'm not really sure what I'm doing wrong. It's been almost two months and I'm running out of savings... I've never struggled to find something in the past so I'm at a loss. Any ideas?", "Getting hired I've been having a hard time finding a job and I'm not really sure what I'm doing wrong. It's been almost two months and I'm running out of savings... I've never struggled to find something in the past so I'm at a loss. Any ideas?", "Getting hired I've been having a hard time finding a job and I'm not really sure what I'm doing wrong. It's been almost two months and I'm running out of savings... I've never struggled to find something in the past so I'm at a loss. Any ideas?", "Getting hired I've been having a hard time finding a job and I'm not really sure what I'm doing wrong. It's been almost two months and I'm running out of savings... I've never struggled to find something in the past so I'm at a loss. Any ideas?", "Getting hired I've been having a hard time finding a job and I'm not really sure what I'm doing wrong. It's been almost two months and I'm running out of savings... I've never struggled to find something in the past so I'm at a loss. Any ideas?", "Getting hired I've been having a hard time finding a job and I'm not really sure what I'm doing wrong. It's been almost two months and I'm running out of savings... I've never struggled to find something in the past so I'm at a loss. Any ideas?" ]	[ "I am a professional recruiter and hire people for companies (I work internally versus an external person in my field, which are known as \"head hunters\"). You'll need to provide more information before I could provide a life pro tip. What field are you in? Do you have a degree or not? What geographic location are you in..etc? \n", "Write a different personalized cover letter for every application, even if the job ad doesn't ask for one. Be meticulous about spelling, punctuation, grammar, formatting and explaining how your work experience qualifies you for the job. My husband was unemployed for more than a year after we moved to further my career. We finally sat down together to review his resume and materials, started to write personalized cover letters, and had interviews a week later. I also second the advice about finding jobs before they're listed or right when they're listed. I think employers probably hate reviewing applications about as much as we hate submitting them.", "One thing I could say right off the bat is leave your ego at the door when you're looking for work. Don't be too proud to take a job even if it's sweeping the floor or cleaning the toilets. Work is work and money is money. So, figure out some skill you have that you can put to work immediately while you are looking for your more preferred employment opportunity", "I am not professional recruiter but I do often assist HR as IT expert.\n\nI can help you by criticizing your CV if you like.\n\nPost it either here or via private message if you like.", "Hopefully you're on LinkedIn. I would try to network online and IRL and try to attend job fairs. If possible be open to the possibility of moving for work. Best of luck!", "Based on the what you've told me (and nothing else), no your career is not over. Sometimes it takes a while for the right opportunity/company to come along. It also really depends on the market you are in. For example if you are in a major city you have a much better shot at getting a job versus being someplace rural since there are many less opportunities. Some cities are not doing well (like Detroit - though it's coming around). Some of the cities are doing fantastic like Boston. What you might want to do as a CPA is apply to some national consulting companies. Also, there may be companies that would hire you remotely. Realistically a lot of your work can be done remote, depending on the type of accountant that you are. It may be the type of thing that you take (again to my other post) for now, but it's not ideal. At least it would buy you some time until the right job for you comes along. You may want to contact some of the nation wide staffing firms in the accounting space and see if any of their clients need someone like you who can work remotely (if it's not in your area that is)." ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Looking for ways to help integrate younger students into a group of students who are all older. I was recently elected section leader in marching band, and I have no idea how I am going to help integrate the freshman. Middle School to high school is so different, and I need help thinking of non-cringy ways to make people open up and have fun. Good Board Games, word games, activities, etc.", "Looking for ways to help integrate younger students into a group of students who are all older. I was recently elected section leader in marching band, and I have no idea how I am going to help integrate the freshman. Middle School to high school is so different, and I need help thinking of non-cringy ways to make people open up and have fun. Good Board Games, word games, activities, etc.", "Looking for ways to help integrate younger students into a group of students who are all older. I was recently elected section leader in marching band, and I have no idea how I am going to help integrate the freshman. Middle School to high school is so different, and I need help thinking of non-cringy ways to make people open up and have fun. Good Board Games, word games, activities, etc." ]	[ "This may not be the best answer but I can almost guarantee you there will those students who ultimately just need some time over others. I was one of those students in choir that's why I felt the need to save others in the same position. Good luck!", "Think about how your old section leader integrated your freshman class. Was it good? If so do a variation of it. If not, think about what you felt was missing and improve upon it.", "People love to talk about themselves, so just go around and have on person ask a question, all answer, and have the next person ask a question (and so on and so forth). \nIn terms of games (if you have a lot of time) pick up Diplomacy. Split the freshmen with upperclassmen and go to war. Really fun time and you bond with your team.\nFinally, see if the freshmen want to play music outside of band. Small ensembles are massive amounts of fun. (Try Baker Cat. Drew Skinner composed it and it's a good time.)\nCongratulations by the way! If you want to chat more just message me sometime." ]	[ 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "improving my penmanship My handwriting has fallen apart since I mostly type everything, but my job requires a lot of handwritten reports. Short of incessant practice, is there a tip to help improve my handwriting? I've tried writing slowly, but that just means I take longer to produce chicken scratch.", "improving my penmanship My handwriting has fallen apart since I mostly type everything, but my job requires a lot of handwritten reports. Short of incessant practice, is there a tip to help improve my handwriting? I've tried writing slowly, but that just means I take longer to produce chicken scratch.", "improving my penmanship My handwriting has fallen apart since I mostly type everything, but my job requires a lot of handwritten reports. Short of incessant practice, is there a tip to help improve my handwriting? I've tried writing slowly, but that just means I take longer to produce chicken scratch.", "improving my penmanship My handwriting has fallen apart since I mostly type everything, but my job requires a lot of handwritten reports. Short of incessant practice, is there a tip to help improve my handwriting? I've tried writing slowly, but that just means I take longer to produce chicken scratch.", "improving my penmanship My handwriting has fallen apart since I mostly type everything, but my job requires a lot of handwritten reports. Short of incessant practice, is there a tip to help improve my handwriting? I've tried writing slowly, but that just means I take longer to produce chicken scratch.", "improving my penmanship My handwriting has fallen apart since I mostly type everything, but my job requires a lot of handwritten reports. Short of incessant practice, is there a tip to help improve my handwriting? I've tried writing slowly, but that just means I take longer to produce chicken scratch." ]	[ "As has been said: caligraphy.\n\nAlso slow down. In fact, if you ever think something can be done better, just do it slow and right. Better to do it right, than to do it fast.", "I tried learning Elian Script. It's an artistic cypher, and after a couple of days trying to use it for writing notes (I'm a kinetic learner, so I write notes and rarely read them later) I found that my normal handwriting improved.\n\nBeing forced to write each character correctly, and artistically, had a positive effect on my normal handwriting.\n\n*", "I find focusing on a certain letter for a period of time (about a week or so) and consciencly thinking about it works really well (you can also give it your own style). Once you're happy with that letter pick another one. I've done this for about a year and my handwriting went from okay to impeccable. ", "my mom put me through handwriting lessons as a kid, i have a few suggestions: 1) what kind of writing utensil are you using? i find that a mechanical or super sharp pencil makes my handwriting a lot neater and legible opposed to runny pens. 2) if the issue is with alignment or spacing then practice writing on lined paper, if its really bad maybe get that 3 lined paper to make sure all your letters are even. 3) take note of which letters or combination of letters are especially sloppy and spend an extra second fixing that, sometimes the smallest thing can change how easily it is to read a word. 4) practice, practice, practice", "When you write, place a pad of paper underneath whatever you're writing. The added softness absorbs unnecessary movement.", "I'm not really sure if there is a 'quick and easy' fix to this, you either care about putting effort into the letter forms or you don't. My suggestion? Try calligraphy. If you want to improve your penmanship, it's just like any other form of art. There are few better ways to gain an appreciation and sensitivity for letter forms than calligraphy.\n\nIt's all about craftsmanship, attention to detail, and repetition* of letter forms. Various styles you may want to try would include Foundational, Italic, or Gothic. I would choose one, and stick with it, you may find that Italic is one of the easier styles to start with.\n\nIt would be a time commitment, yes, but this is truly one of the best ways to improve if you really want to. You could look at it as a hobby in addition to cleaning up your handwriting." ]	[ 6, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Preparing one's car for an ice over and productive tips while camping out inside. I live in Texas and when it ices over, time stops and school is canceled.\n\nConfirmed school canceled 1/28, I'm just looking for pro-tips for protecting my car against and ice over and things to do inside besides homework. Cool recipes for chocolate milk or movie playlist?\n\nThanks for any help.", "Preparing one's car for an ice over and productive tips while camping out inside. I live in Texas and when it ices over, time stops and school is canceled.\n\nConfirmed school canceled 1/28, I'm just looking for pro-tips for protecting my car against and ice over and things to do inside besides homework. Cool recipes for chocolate milk or movie playlist?\n\nThanks for any help." ]	[ "There are lots you can do. \n\n1) if it's going to ice, bring your scraper inside the night before just in case your car door freezes shut and you can't get to the scraper your dumb ass left in the car. It happens more than you would think. \n\n2) if you have a car with remote start, set your climate controls to defrost so you can start your car and let it defrost without having to go outside and it might melt all the ice for you depending on how much there is. \n\n3) flip your windshield wipers up before it starts to snow or ice. It makes it to where when you go to scrape the ice then you don't have to worry about accidentally breaking the whole mechanism if it's frozen solid. Makes brushing snow easier also. \n\n4) never pour hot water on a windshield. \n\n5) don't touch that sunroof, like at all. \n\n6) if you don't have a scraper, don't try to use any cards out of your wallet that are of value, like DL, cr", "If your car is parked outside, there is not much you can do about ice. I find the real problem is the actual air temp. If the temps are going to fall well below freezing (like around zero or below zero) then I would add some HEET to a full tank of gas to prevent gas line freeze." ]	[ 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "how to eliminate a musty, overpowering, nauseating smell from a closet? It's smelled bad since we first moved in and nothing gets rid of the smell. ", "how to eliminate a musty, overpowering, nauseating smell from a closet? It's smelled bad since we first moved in and nothing gets rid of the smell. ", "how to eliminate a musty, overpowering, nauseating smell from a closet? It's smelled bad since we first moved in and nothing gets rid of the smell. " ]	[ "There might be something making the smell. Look for dead bodies big or small. Other than that get some damp rid and cedar planks.", "More info required...\n\nWhat have you tried so far?\n\n\nIf it's mould, bleach won't kill it. Use white vinegar. \n\n", "Ozone generator, industrial sized. Used in automotive detailing to get rid of rank odours from car interiors. \n\nYou will need to seal the closet for maximum effect. Rent one for a weekend, should be enough to eliminate the stink. Provided the source isn't behind the walls." ]	[ 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Professional drivers - some tips on how to stay alert and focused while driving? I find myself getting lost in though sometimes, especially when driving familiar routes. e.g from home to work. I tried music or talk radio and both further distract me. I nearly blew a step sign yesterday because I was thinking about what I was going to make for dinner.\n\nAny good tips on how to focus on driving and keep the mind from wandering?\n\n", "Professional drivers - some tips on how to stay alert and focused while driving? I find myself getting lost in though sometimes, especially when driving familiar routes. e.g from home to work. I tried music or talk radio and both further distract me. I nearly blew a step sign yesterday because I was thinking about what I was going to make for dinner.\n\nAny good tips on how to focus on driving and keep the mind from wandering?\n\n", "Professional drivers - some tips on how to stay alert and focused while driving? I find myself getting lost in though sometimes, especially when driving familiar routes. e.g from home to work. I tried music or talk radio and both further distract me. I nearly blew a step sign yesterday because I was thinking about what I was going to make for dinner.\n\nAny good tips on how to focus on driving and keep the mind from wandering?\n\n", "Professional drivers - some tips on how to stay alert and focused while driving? I find myself getting lost in though sometimes, especially when driving familiar routes. e.g from home to work. I tried music or talk radio and both further distract me. I nearly blew a step sign yesterday because I was thinking about what I was going to make for dinner.\n\nAny good tips on how to focus on driving and keep the mind from wandering?\n\n", "Professional drivers - some tips on how to stay alert and focused while driving? I find myself getting lost in though sometimes, especially when driving familiar routes. e.g from home to work. I tried music or talk radio and both further distract me. I nearly blew a step sign yesterday because I was thinking about what I was going to make for dinner.\n\nAny good tips on how to focus on driving and keep the mind from wandering?\n\n", "Professional drivers - some tips on how to stay alert and focused while driving? I find myself getting lost in though sometimes, especially when driving familiar routes. e.g from home to work. I tried music or talk radio and both further distract me. I nearly blew a step sign yesterday because I was thinking about what I was going to make for dinner.\n\nAny good tips on how to focus on driving and keep the mind from wandering?\n\n", "Professional drivers - some tips on how to stay alert and focused while driving? I find myself getting lost in though sometimes, especially when driving familiar routes. e.g from home to work. I tried music or talk radio and both further distract me. I nearly blew a step sign yesterday because I was thinking about what I was going to make for dinner.\n\nAny good tips on how to focus on driving and keep the mind from wandering?\n\n", "Professional drivers - some tips on how to stay alert and focused while driving? I find myself getting lost in though sometimes, especially when driving familiar routes. e.g from home to work. I tried music or talk radio and both further distract me. I nearly blew a step sign yesterday because I was thinking about what I was going to make for dinner.\n\nAny good tips on how to focus on driving and keep the mind from wandering?\n\n", "Professional drivers - some tips on how to stay alert and focused while driving? I find myself getting lost in though sometimes, especially when driving familiar routes. e.g from home to work. I tried music or talk radio and both further distract me. I nearly blew a step sign yesterday because I was thinking about what I was going to make for dinner.\n\nAny good tips on how to focus on driving and keep the mind from wandering?\n\n", "Professional drivers - some tips on how to stay alert and focused while driving? I find myself getting lost in though sometimes, especially when driving familiar routes. e.g from home to work. I tried music or talk radio and both further distract me. I nearly blew a step sign yesterday because I was thinking about what I was going to make for dinner.\n\nAny good tips on how to focus on driving and keep the mind from wandering?\n\n", "Professional drivers - some tips on how to stay alert and focused while driving? I find myself getting lost in though sometimes, especially when driving familiar routes. e.g from home to work. I tried music or talk radio and both further distract me. I nearly blew a step sign yesterday because I was thinking about what I was going to make for dinner.\n\nAny good tips on how to focus on driving and keep the mind from wandering?\n\n", "Professional drivers - some tips on how to stay alert and focused while driving? I find myself getting lost in though sometimes, especially when driving familiar routes. e.g from home to work. I tried music or talk radio and both further distract me. I nearly blew a step sign yesterday because I was thinking about what I was going to make for dinner.\n\nAny good tips on how to focus on driving and keep the mind from wandering?\n\n" ]	[ "People seem to be giving tips on how to stay awake, but I think you're more asking how to keep focused/alert while driving. I've been a trucker for a while, and staying focused on the road isn't really an issue for me anymore, but it used to be. The best tip I can give you is this- read everything you see on the road in front of you out loud. Road signs (NOT signs far off the side of the road), car makes/models, even license plates. This will train you to keep scanning the road in front of you and keep you much more aware of what is going on around you.", "When I drove tour bus in Alaska a fellow driver turned me on to chewing gum to stay alert. Something about chewing not being an action that can be done subconsciously?\n\nI would stop at a convenience store and purchase 3 different kinds/flavors of chewing gum. (Usually: Big Red, Doublemint, and Juicy Fruit) When I noticed that I was losing focus or maybe getting tired while driving, I would chew gum. \n\nStart with one kind and chew until the flavor was gone, then repeat with a new flavor. Easy enough, and the act of chewing was effective at keeping me awake and attentive.", "I always assume that every one is out to get me and will do something stupid. I keep my side mirrors wide enough to cover my blind spots and I try to pay attention to where all the other cars are around me.", "When I'm driving I play a game where if I make a move which I consider 'good' (moving over at highway entrances, when someone catches up to me, not tailing people in front, ect) I'll give myself a point, but if I fuck up (not changing lanes if someone catches me, staying in someones blind spot, trailing too close) I'll take away a point.", "Drive a stick-shift; I haven't become sleepy ever since I bought one, not even during the long highway stretches. Manual transmission forces you to pay attention to engine noise, what gear you're in, and how smoothly you shift. It's an immersive experience that keeps your mind occupied, rarely allowing you doze off.\n\nThis isn't an option for everyone, but I'm just saying the drop in sleepiness after I switched is highly significant.", "Sunflower seeds. you do not event need to eat them. Just the act of getting the shells open can make 600km pass much quicker.", "Just assume that everyone on the road around you is a drunk, distracted idiot that is actively trying to kill you.", "I blew five reds in a row once before I realized what I'd done; not tired or impaired, just in a reverie like you describe. Autopilot was working fine; it was late and there was no crossing vehicle or pedestrian traffic.\n\nNever happened again and always makes me a little amazed to reflect on how the brain works sometimes.", "Left Mirror\nCenter Mirror\nRight Mirror\nLeft Mirror\nCenter Mirror\nRight Mirror\nLeft Mirror\nCenter Mirror\nRight Mirror\nLeft Mirror\nCenter Mirror\nRight Mirror", "I take snacks with me to keep me alert and awake. Also listening to something interesting on the radio is helpful. I will be much more alert when I am jamming to a favorite song than talk radio.", "I once drove from Ontario CA to Branson Mo in 24 hrs. Only stopping for gas and to pee. \n\nI left early in the AM (2) that way i was awake for the night. Zoning out is a big thing to do. I had XM radio and listened to punk for 8 hours, among other stations. Outside Tulsa, my tunnel vision was turning into blindness. So i pulled over, pounded 3 monsters and continued on. \n\nI'm pretty sure that that trip is the trip that started my diabetes (had like 3 cases of monsters)\n\nI've done the trip many times, but never again in 24 hours. 5 Hour energy stops working after you take 3 of them. I've also learned that taking a passenger makes this trip a lot longer, since you have to focus on them. ", "Not a professional driver, but I find doing mental exercises while driving keeps me alert. For instance, putting the radio on scan and trying to name the songs or name the voices." ]	[ 90, 14, 8, 7, 5, 4, 3, 3, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Saving home videos in the cloud I'm using google drive to store old home movies. Is that a good idea? What are the pros and cons of storing in the cloud? Are there services that are better than google drive?", "Saving home videos in the cloud I'm using google drive to store old home movies. Is that a good idea? What are the pros and cons of storing in the cloud? Are there services that are better than google drive?" ]	[ "Are you using their unlimited service? They compress on their free, unlimited version, so be careful, as the compression scheme can create artifacts and squish the video. If the resolution is fine, then you probably have nothing to worry about, but go through them to make sure there's no blockyness or pixelation (if compressed).", "There are no cons but do also keep a a permanent digital copy on an external hard drive at home.\n\nThe main pro is that it's always good to have data in two places, particularly if its precious. If ever a problem occurs with your Google Drive you can easily signup to another service and upload them again. If your hard drive fails you can get a new one and download them again to maintain your duplicates.\n\nGoogle Drive is very, very good and I do use/recommend it. OneDrive is also good but use whichever best suits your ecosystem and budget.\n\nIf you're worried about privacy then, yes that may be the one con. In that case I'd recommend you invest in a service like BoxCryptor to encrypt the online cloud copies of your videos. " ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Visiting Niagara Falls Hi folks,\n\nI'm just trying to not fall (no pun intended) into any tourist traps and find out if there's any great lesser known things to do/see at the Falls.\n\nThanks!", "Visiting Niagara Falls Hi folks,\n\nI'm just trying to not fall (no pun intended) into any tourist traps and find out if there's any great lesser known things to do/see at the Falls.\n\nThanks!", "Visiting Niagara Falls Hi folks,\n\nI'm just trying to not fall (no pun intended) into any tourist traps and find out if there's any great lesser known things to do/see at the Falls.\n\nThanks!", "Visiting Niagara Falls Hi folks,\n\nI'm just trying to not fall (no pun intended) into any tourist traps and find out if there's any great lesser known things to do/see at the Falls.\n\nThanks!", "Visiting Niagara Falls Hi folks,\n\nI'm just trying to not fall (no pun intended) into any tourist traps and find out if there's any great lesser known things to do/see at the Falls.\n\nThanks!", "Visiting Niagara Falls Hi folks,\n\nI'm just trying to not fall (no pun intended) into any tourist traps and find out if there's any great lesser known things to do/see at the Falls.\n\nThanks!", "Visiting Niagara Falls Hi folks,\n\nI'm just trying to not fall (no pun intended) into any tourist traps and find out if there's any great lesser known things to do/see at the Falls.\n\nThanks!" ]	[ "Go to the Canadian side, if not, walk along the paths along the little islands in the river as far as possible.\n\nDon't go on the overlook thing on the American side.\n\nDo the maid of the mist if you have like 2 hours to spare, if not, it's kinda boring but it's also a staple.\n\nWalk down the walkway on the American side.\n\nBring your own damn food! Shit is expensive there.\n\nDon't buy stupid touristy shit, it's a fucking waterfall.\n\nGo in the winter (especially since it's warm this winter).\n\nDon't go in the water.\n\nLemme know if you have any specific questions, I'm from Buffalo.", "In Buffalo you can look around Elmwood Village, its a nice place with a lot of small fun shops. Its also a great place to bike around as there are a lot of places to see. Also...remember your passport if you plan on seeing both sides of the falls, they used to let you pass, but not anymore", "Also in Buffalo.\nDo some shopping in Elmwood village. \nCheck out our many lovely breweries.\nHike to the Eternal Flame if you are into the outdoors. (It's an easy hike.)", "What are you into?\n\nMore for the American side: If it looks like a tourist trap, it probably is.\n\nWorth Doing\n\n* Cave of the Winds, Maid if the Mist - both surprisingly affordable.\n* Era G Ross Aerospace Museum (awesome smalluseum under the radar)\n* NCCC's Culinary Institute\n* Whirlpool State Park for some awesome trails up and down the gorge\n* Lewiston, NY - North of Niagara Falls, this is a charming Village filled with B&Bs and locals restaurants and boutiques\n* Old Fort Niagara - founded by the French in the 1600s\n* Herschel Carousel Museum - in the City of North Tonawanda (halfway between Buffalo and Niagara Falls at the current terminous of the Erie Canal).\n\nPro Tips\n\nBuffalo is 30 minutes to the South and has a lot of museums, historic neighborhoods and a lot more things to do that are not swamped by tourists).\n\nBetter variety of lodgings, restaurants and superior nightlife (multiple districts catering to different tastes and last call is 4 am).\n\n* Buffalo City Hall - free observation deck and on a clear day you can see the mist from Niagara Falls on the horizon.\n* Albright-Knox Art Gallery - Money, Picasso, Warhol, etc\n* Teddy Roosevelt Inauguration National Historic Site - where the president took the oath of office following the assassination of William McKinley.\n* Buffalo Botanic Gardens\n* Trendy walkable neighborhoods filled with local boutiques, bars, restaurants and cafes: Elmwood Village, Allentown, North Buffalo\n* Buffalo Central Library - Mark Twain Room. The city also has 2 Karples Manuscript Museums\n* Westside Bazaar for awesome new wave immigrant cuisine.\n* Genessee Gateway District for awesome contemporary restaurants\n* Skating at Canalside - also check out the new massive light display on an old grain elevator after dark\n* If its warm, rent a bike and explore the Outer Harbor or Buffalo's Olmsted Designed Park System\n\nCheck out /r/Buffalo for more.", "Make sure to give yourself a few hours in Niagara-on-the-Lake, which is an adorable little Canadian town very close by. Otherwise, the falls really aren't that time-consuming. See them and walk along the parks on both sides but don't waste too much time on the \"city\" attractions. (I'm in Canada and I visit the falls very often. Sadly. They get dull after a while.)\nHave fun!", "I'm English but my pal from Buffalo took me there, he got detained on the border crossing for about 2hours, his GF and I thought he was getting the rubber glove treatment out back. It was all ok in the end but funny as hell afterwards .. . :-)\n If you try the casinos set a limit and stick to it, as teufelkatzen says the Canadian side is best.", "Best club I've ever been at is Sundowner - just a few miles from the falls.\n\nHaven't been there for a few years, but look it up." ]	[ 4, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to fall asleep in a reasonable amount of time. It normally takes me between 1-3 hours to fall asleep at night. I try to go to bed around 10:30pm and I get up for work at 6:15am\n\nI don't use screens or have caffeine right before bed, and my mattress/sheets are reasonably comfortable. I am one year out of college now and I've had trouble sleeping since I left college. (Same bed, too).\n\n\nAny advice, except for \"no screens and caffeine\" would be helpful.", "how to fall asleep in a reasonable amount of time. It normally takes me between 1-3 hours to fall asleep at night. I try to go to bed around 10:30pm and I get up for work at 6:15am\n\nI don't use screens or have caffeine right before bed, and my mattress/sheets are reasonably comfortable. I am one year out of college now and I've had trouble sleeping since I left college. (Same bed, too).\n\n\nAny advice, except for \"no screens and caffeine\" would be helpful.", "how to fall asleep in a reasonable amount of time. It normally takes me between 1-3 hours to fall asleep at night. I try to go to bed around 10:30pm and I get up for work at 6:15am\n\nI don't use screens or have caffeine right before bed, and my mattress/sheets are reasonably comfortable. I am one year out of college now and I've had trouble sleeping since I left college. (Same bed, too).\n\n\nAny advice, except for \"no screens and caffeine\" would be helpful.", "how to fall asleep in a reasonable amount of time. It normally takes me between 1-3 hours to fall asleep at night. I try to go to bed around 10:30pm and I get up for work at 6:15am\n\nI don't use screens or have caffeine right before bed, and my mattress/sheets are reasonably comfortable. I am one year out of college now and I've had trouble sleeping since I left college. (Same bed, too).\n\n\nAny advice, except for \"no screens and caffeine\" would be helpful.", "how to fall asleep in a reasonable amount of time. It normally takes me between 1-3 hours to fall asleep at night. I try to go to bed around 10:30pm and I get up for work at 6:15am\n\nI don't use screens or have caffeine right before bed, and my mattress/sheets are reasonably comfortable. I am one year out of college now and I've had trouble sleeping since I left college. (Same bed, too).\n\n\nAny advice, except for \"no screens and caffeine\" would be helpful.", "how to fall asleep in a reasonable amount of time. It normally takes me between 1-3 hours to fall asleep at night. I try to go to bed around 10:30pm and I get up for work at 6:15am\n\nI don't use screens or have caffeine right before bed, and my mattress/sheets are reasonably comfortable. I am one year out of college now and I've had trouble sleeping since I left college. (Same bed, too).\n\n\nAny advice, except for \"no screens and caffeine\" would be helpful.", "how to fall asleep in a reasonable amount of time. It normally takes me between 1-3 hours to fall asleep at night. I try to go to bed around 10:30pm and I get up for work at 6:15am\n\nI don't use screens or have caffeine right before bed, and my mattress/sheets are reasonably comfortable. I am one year out of college now and I've had trouble sleeping since I left college. (Same bed, too).\n\n\nAny advice, except for \"no screens and caffeine\" would be helpful.", "how to fall asleep in a reasonable amount of time. It normally takes me between 1-3 hours to fall asleep at night. I try to go to bed around 10:30pm and I get up for work at 6:15am\n\nI don't use screens or have caffeine right before bed, and my mattress/sheets are reasonably comfortable. I am one year out of college now and I've had trouble sleeping since I left college. (Same bed, too).\n\n\nAny advice, except for \"no screens and caffeine\" would be helpful.", "how to fall asleep in a reasonable amount of time. It normally takes me between 1-3 hours to fall asleep at night. I try to go to bed around 10:30pm and I get up for work at 6:15am\n\nI don't use screens or have caffeine right before bed, and my mattress/sheets are reasonably comfortable. I am one year out of college now and I've had trouble sleeping since I left college. (Same bed, too).\n\n\nAny advice, except for \"no screens and caffeine\" would be helpful.", "how to fall asleep in a reasonable amount of time. It normally takes me between 1-3 hours to fall asleep at night. I try to go to bed around 10:30pm and I get up for work at 6:15am\n\nI don't use screens or have caffeine right before bed, and my mattress/sheets are reasonably comfortable. I am one year out of college now and I've had trouble sleeping since I left college. (Same bed, too).\n\n\nAny advice, except for \"no screens and caffeine\" would be helpful.", "how to fall asleep in a reasonable amount of time. It normally takes me between 1-3 hours to fall asleep at night. I try to go to bed around 10:30pm and I get up for work at 6:15am\n\nI don't use screens or have caffeine right before bed, and my mattress/sheets are reasonably comfortable. I am one year out of college now and I've had trouble sleeping since I left college. (Same bed, too).\n\n\nAny advice, except for \"no screens and caffeine\" would be helpful.", "how to fall asleep in a reasonable amount of time. It normally takes me between 1-3 hours to fall asleep at night. I try to go to bed around 10:30pm and I get up for work at 6:15am\n\nI don't use screens or have caffeine right before bed, and my mattress/sheets are reasonably comfortable. I am one year out of college now and I've had trouble sleeping since I left college. (Same bed, too).\n\n\nAny advice, except for \"no screens and caffeine\" would be helpful.", "how to fall asleep in a reasonable amount of time. It normally takes me between 1-3 hours to fall asleep at night. I try to go to bed around 10:30pm and I get up for work at 6:15am\n\nI don't use screens or have caffeine right before bed, and my mattress/sheets are reasonably comfortable. I am one year out of college now and I've had trouble sleeping since I left college. (Same bed, too).\n\n\nAny advice, except for \"no screens and caffeine\" would be helpful." ]	[ "1. Hardcore way to reset your sleep cycle would be to stay up through Saturday, and get a good sleep, and wake up early at Sunday, this sounds odd, but Sunday is the day when you can pursue hobbies or other stuff.\n2. Don't eat anything 2 hours before a designated sleep time, cause your body will digest it, keep you active, and also the unused energy turns into fat.\n3. Try keeping the alarm clock a bit far, and make the alarm clock as annoying as possible, so you physically have to get out of bed to stop the damn thing.\n4. Try maintaining a fixed amount of sleep, don't oversleep or take naps, and don't undersleep as it will keep u tired and groggy.\n5. Close your eyes, and focus on your breathing, in about 7 minutes, you will fall asleep cause your body recognises that you no longer need it's functions.\n6. Have your room ventilated and air conditioned, change your sheets often.\n7. Try reading a book.\n8. Will yourself into it, mainly because at the end of your day, you will have the least amount of willpower, because of which, you won't be able to make the one,easy, last decision of going to sleep.\n9. If you have any stress in life, deal with it.\n10. Take up some sport or exercise,but don't do it 3 hours before your sleep time, keep u awake and alert.\n11. Lastly, your bed is strictly for sleeping, not studying, eating or anything else, so just lying down on your bed later, will make u sleepy.\n", "1. Remove electronics from the bedroom.\n2. Start a routine that you practice at the same time at 10:30pm.\n3. Find a lotion with lavender, during your routine rub it into your shoulders, and neck.\n4. Try Melatonin.", "1. Go to bed when reasonably tired\n1. Control your emotional inputs, like avoid fast music and stressing movies or games before you sleep.\n1. Control your stimulants intake, it is not just coffee/caffeine, pepsi/mtn dew for example also have noticeable caffeine content in them. Some other drinks, like tea, may have stimulating effect. \n1. Consider natural sleep medications like Melatonin (exists in 1-3-5 mg pills, try with 3 or 5 for example), consider to have at least 7-8 hours of sleep after this, or you will still feel sleepy in the morning.\n\nI have the opposite problem, for me it is too easy to fall asleep when tired, literally anywhere sitting. But my wife has trouble sleeping so I've had to find out solutions for her, she's very happy with Melatonine.", "Read a book (not an engaging book), exercise about 30 mins before bed (allow time for a post-exercise shower), masturbate, count sheep, pray for eternal forgiveness or study something. At least 4 of those usually work for me.", "The more exercise I get, the better I sleep. When I did a long distance backpacking trip on the AT, I could fall asleep instantly at 8 PM and sleep until 7 AM. In a tent. During a thunderstorm. You don't have to go that extreme, obviously. But any exercise can help. \n\nIn your specific case, could it be stress? I ask because you mentioned the problem began after finishing school. Stress levels are the biggest factor in sleep quality for me. ", "Stretching before bed, and especially the neck, face and back always helps me. Just try to make yourself as relaxed as possible.", "Not everyone requires 7 to 8 hours of sleep. If you aren't tired during the day, it's possible you need less sleep. I have sleep apnea. People always said I snored. I was tired during the day and had difficulty falling asleep though I'd try to get 8 hours a night. I finally went to get a sleep study done, was diagnosed and started CPAP therapy. Now I sleep fine and fall asleep quickly. I don't go to bed until I'm tired and usually only sleep 5 to 6 hours a night, however I feel well rested during the day and wake up without difficulty.\n\nI'm not saying you have this condition by any means, but perhaps talk to your doctor about it to see what they think. It could be indicative of an underlying issue or it could be you don't need as much sleep as other people.", "Guided m", "Well what are the differences between your college sleeping arrangement and your current sleeping range? Try to change things around to mimic your college environment (i.e. if it was in the city and street noises could be heard maybe play background noises similar to that)\n\nFor me, it is easiest to sleep when my mind is completely clear. I might read a a scholarly journal before bed or masturbate. Both of those things cause me to blank out and then I am out like a light.", "Start white noise on your phone. Experiment to find one that works. Raise the volume and place your phone away from you. Open clock and set a 20 min timer and the alarm should be stop playing. On iOS 9, a very useful glitch occurs. If you are in Spotify and plugged in, when the timer gies, it will loop a 1/2 sec clip every 2 secs, creating a rhythm of bluish noise.", "I've had insomnia my entire life, and I accidentally discovered this:\nEvery night I tell myself a story. The story is always a variation of the same story and it has gotten very boring AND it ends with falling asleep. Between boredom and falling asleep in the story, I fall asleep. HTH.", "I learned a technique which helped me when recovering from an operation; visualise a safe, comfortable place and go there in your thoughts. Nearly Everyone has a place where they are comfortable, even if it is imaginary. Mine was a beach hut somewhere warm And tropical. At first I needed someone there with me but as I got more secure I felt able to be in my own. I listened to the sound of the waves and they lulled me to sleep. Now, I go there when I have trouble getting to sleep and it's as if my brain is trained to relax and start sleeping. ", "Falling asleep is usually easy if you're actually tired. If you're not sleepy, getting into bed and rolling around makes it take much longer to fall asleep a lot of the time. Doing a few push-ups, sit-ups, and squats to get yourself tired has usually worked for me. Additionally, if you take naps during the day, try to limit them to 30 minutes otherwise you won't feel sleepy at the same you usually do. " ]	[ 12, 6, 5, 4, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to deal with college burnout? The semster is almost over but the burnout has already set in. My productivity has completely tanked and big assignments are piling up. I tried to prevent this from happening but I got stretched too thin and now I need help figuring out how to deal with this so I don't fail my classes.", "How to deal with college burnout? The semster is almost over but the burnout has already set in. My productivity has completely tanked and big assignments are piling up. I tried to prevent this from happening but I got stretched too thin and now I need help figuring out how to deal with this so I don't fail my classes.", "How to deal with college burnout? The semster is almost over but the burnout has already set in. My productivity has completely tanked and big assignments are piling up. I tried to prevent this from happening but I got stretched too thin and now I need help figuring out how to deal with this so I don't fail my classes." ]	[ "As someone who's been in \"Burnout\" mode for the last year (on my 6th year currently...) or so, let me tell you. \n\nYou just gotta keep plugging away. There will be days where you don't even want to get out of bed because you know what's waiting. But, you need to. \n\nIf you're watching Netflix and trying to put off doing something, sit down and do 15 minutes of work between episodes. Try your best to break it up into smaller chunks that seem less overwhelming. \n\nMy best advice though, stay on top of things next semester. Don't let things pile up and try to hammer them out right away. It makes for less stress around finals time when everything is due. \n\nI know it seems like a lot. But, I've managed to get a bit of breathing room while taking 16 cr", "You could try working as a laborer at a construction site and see what awaits for you if you don't keep at it.\n\nThat's kind of a half joke, but when you are knee deep in college, you forget how incredibly lucky you are. Not many people, who have great abilities, will ever get that chance and are stuck working a shitty 9-5 to live pay cheque to pay cheque.", "You have to work out. Most college students forget that high school included healthy meals at home and inevitable exercise. You start to let your health slip. Eat healthier, exercise, and get involved in something that isn't TV or video games. \n\nMy second to last semester at college, a summer term, included 16 cr" ]	[ 10, 4, 1 ]	safe
[ "what's a good way to avoid saying what you're doing during your vacation time when asked by a coworker? I think it's an (admittedly very minor) invasion of privacy when coworkers ask what my plans are when I put in for PTO/vacation time. Sometimes I'm going to be going on a fun trip I'm happy to talk about, sure, but other times I'm going to be doing nothing but eating pizza and playing a video game for seven days straight, and I'm less enthusiastic about sharing that.\n\nI've tried responses like \"oh, just taking it easy\", but that still pretty clearly signals I'm going to be laying around the house being a fat slob with my precious vacation time, haha. What's a good response that isn't rude or blunt, and retains some ambiguity about my plans?", "what's a good way to avoid saying what you're doing during your vacation time when asked by a coworker? I think it's an (admittedly very minor) invasion of privacy when coworkers ask what my plans are when I put in for PTO/vacation time. Sometimes I'm going to be going on a fun trip I'm happy to talk about, sure, but other times I'm going to be doing nothing but eating pizza and playing a video game for seven days straight, and I'm less enthusiastic about sharing that.\n\nI've tried responses like \"oh, just taking it easy\", but that still pretty clearly signals I'm going to be laying around the house being a fat slob with my precious vacation time, haha. What's a good response that isn't rude or blunt, and retains some ambiguity about my plans?", "what's a good way to avoid saying what you're doing during your vacation time when asked by a coworker? I think it's an (admittedly very minor) invasion of privacy when coworkers ask what my plans are when I put in for PTO/vacation time. Sometimes I'm going to be going on a fun trip I'm happy to talk about, sure, but other times I'm going to be doing nothing but eating pizza and playing a video game for seven days straight, and I'm less enthusiastic about sharing that.\n\nI've tried responses like \"oh, just taking it easy\", but that still pretty clearly signals I'm going to be laying around the house being a fat slob with my precious vacation time, haha. What's a good response that isn't rude or blunt, and retains some ambiguity about my plans?", "what's a good way to avoid saying what you're doing during your vacation time when asked by a coworker? I think it's an (admittedly very minor) invasion of privacy when coworkers ask what my plans are when I put in for PTO/vacation time. Sometimes I'm going to be going on a fun trip I'm happy to talk about, sure, but other times I'm going to be doing nothing but eating pizza and playing a video game for seven days straight, and I'm less enthusiastic about sharing that.\n\nI've tried responses like \"oh, just taking it easy\", but that still pretty clearly signals I'm going to be laying around the house being a fat slob with my precious vacation time, haha. What's a good response that isn't rude or blunt, and retains some ambiguity about my plans?", "what's a good way to avoid saying what you're doing during your vacation time when asked by a coworker? I think it's an (admittedly very minor) invasion of privacy when coworkers ask what my plans are when I put in for PTO/vacation time. Sometimes I'm going to be going on a fun trip I'm happy to talk about, sure, but other times I'm going to be doing nothing but eating pizza and playing a video game for seven days straight, and I'm less enthusiastic about sharing that.\n\nI've tried responses like \"oh, just taking it easy\", but that still pretty clearly signals I'm going to be laying around the house being a fat slob with my precious vacation time, haha. What's a good response that isn't rude or blunt, and retains some ambiguity about my plans?", "what's a good way to avoid saying what you're doing during your vacation time when asked by a coworker? I think it's an (admittedly very minor) invasion of privacy when coworkers ask what my plans are when I put in for PTO/vacation time. Sometimes I'm going to be going on a fun trip I'm happy to talk about, sure, but other times I'm going to be doing nothing but eating pizza and playing a video game for seven days straight, and I'm less enthusiastic about sharing that.\n\nI've tried responses like \"oh, just taking it easy\", but that still pretty clearly signals I'm going to be laying around the house being a fat slob with my precious vacation time, haha. What's a good response that isn't rude or blunt, and retains some ambiguity about my plans?", "what's a good way to avoid saying what you're doing during your vacation time when asked by a coworker? I think it's an (admittedly very minor) invasion of privacy when coworkers ask what my plans are when I put in for PTO/vacation time. Sometimes I'm going to be going on a fun trip I'm happy to talk about, sure, but other times I'm going to be doing nothing but eating pizza and playing a video game for seven days straight, and I'm less enthusiastic about sharing that.\n\nI've tried responses like \"oh, just taking it easy\", but that still pretty clearly signals I'm going to be laying around the house being a fat slob with my precious vacation time, haha. What's a good response that isn't rude or blunt, and retains some ambiguity about my plans?", "what's a good way to avoid saying what you're doing during your vacation time when asked by a coworker? I think it's an (admittedly very minor) invasion of privacy when coworkers ask what my plans are when I put in for PTO/vacation time. Sometimes I'm going to be going on a fun trip I'm happy to talk about, sure, but other times I'm going to be doing nothing but eating pizza and playing a video game for seven days straight, and I'm less enthusiastic about sharing that.\n\nI've tried responses like \"oh, just taking it easy\", but that still pretty clearly signals I'm going to be laying around the house being a fat slob with my precious vacation time, haha. What's a good response that isn't rude or blunt, and retains some ambiguity about my plans?" ]	[ "I like to say \"Staycation\" it's pretty vague. Or even saying \"not sure yet, might book something last minute\" could work.", "If you want to end it there, just go with - \"I am going to have a doctor look at this.\" Start to undo some clothing \"What does this look like to you?\"\n\n\n\nOr just say that you have some family stuff and some things to take care of around the house.", "Say “Nunya” and when they ask “whats nunya” you say “nunya business!” Laugh, tell them how you love Moana and just start talking about that.", "If someone told me they were \"just taking it easy,\" I'd be happy for them and also assume they didn't really want to get into more detail. I think you have an adequate solution.", "Don't feel guilty about not having a full conversation. Tell the truth, \"Nothing\" is a full sentence and tells them it is none of their business. \n\nOnly the office gossips press for more and you can still say, \"I already told you, 'Nothing'.\"", "Sometimes to be silly I've said I'm visiting the location that is featured in the video game I'm playing that vacation. Eg play uncharted lost legacy = I'm going to India. Granted this worked a lot better pre-covid as nowdays people are afraid of what you bring home after traveling abroad... so You could just say locations in your own country such as \"i'm visiting NYC\" and go play MGS2.", "Keeping your options open and will decide as soon as vacation starts. You just might get into the car and see where it takes you. Or do home spa or just go to a spa and be pampered. You just don’t know yet.", "I say I am doing some ‘life admin’ - it could mean anything and most people respond by saying they could use some time to do that." ]	[ 10, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "how do you remove blue ink from a white shirt? so I left a blue uniball in my shirt pocket (without the cap cause I'm an idiot) and it has leaked on the shirt. How do I remove the ink to make it unnoticeable?", "how do you remove blue ink from a white shirt? so I left a blue uniball in my shirt pocket (without the cap cause I'm an idiot) and it has leaked on the shirt. How do I remove the ink to make it unnoticeable?" ]	[ "This is for new stains, but the second you spill or spot a stain, put any type of soap on it, dish soap, soap from a bathroom dispenser, asap. This might sound like obvios advises to some but I constantly stain dress shirts and putting soap on the stain, even while wearing the shirt, has saved many-a-shirts.", "Try milk. Pour some milk in a bowl then place the inked part of your shirt into the milk and let it sit for 20 minutes or so. Then use a toothbrush to gently scrub the inked area." ]	[ 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to get two bowls unstuck if the outer bowl has an indented lip Hello! I tried using the hot water/cold water technique but i fear that the outer bowl is microwave friendly so it wont expand. I also added ice and rock salt on the inner bowl to make the water even colder but no dice.\n\nIt's like the inner bowl fits the outer bowl perfectly, especially with the indented lip of the outer one. I also tried oiling up the point of contact but no budge.", "How to get two bowls unstuck if the outer bowl has an indented lip Hello! I tried using the hot water/cold water technique but i fear that the outer bowl is microwave friendly so it wont expand. I also added ice and rock salt on the inner bowl to make the water even colder but no dice.\n\nIt's like the inner bowl fits the outer bowl perfectly, especially with the indented lip of the outer one. I also tried oiling up the point of contact but no budge.", "How to get two bowls unstuck if the outer bowl has an indented lip Hello! I tried using the hot water/cold water technique but i fear that the outer bowl is microwave friendly so it wont expand. I also added ice and rock salt on the inner bowl to make the water even colder but no dice.\n\nIt's like the inner bowl fits the outer bowl perfectly, especially with the indented lip of the outer one. I also tried oiling up the point of contact but no budge.", "How to get two bowls unstuck if the outer bowl has an indented lip Hello! I tried using the hot water/cold water technique but i fear that the outer bowl is microwave friendly so it wont expand. I also added ice and rock salt on the inner bowl to make the water even colder but no dice.\n\nIt's like the inner bowl fits the outer bowl perfectly, especially with the indented lip of the outer one. I also tried oiling up the point of contact but no budge.", "How to get two bowls unstuck if the outer bowl has an indented lip Hello! I tried using the hot water/cold water technique but i fear that the outer bowl is microwave friendly so it wont expand. I also added ice and rock salt on the inner bowl to make the water even colder but no dice.\n\nIt's like the inner bowl fits the outer bowl perfectly, especially with the indented lip of the outer one. I also tried oiling up the point of contact but no budge.", "How to get two bowls unstuck if the outer bowl has an indented lip Hello! I tried using the hot water/cold water technique but i fear that the outer bowl is microwave friendly so it wont expand. I also added ice and rock salt on the inner bowl to make the water even colder but no dice.\n\nIt's like the inner bowl fits the outer bowl perfectly, especially with the indented lip of the outer one. I also tried oiling up the point of contact but no budge." ]	[ "Just get a thin pointed hobby knife. Place tip of blade between two bowls at the top gently. Now slide blade down into the bowls. You don't need to push far or hard. This will break the vacuum. \n\nYour attemps so far prove it is a vacuum issue not friction.", "Post pictures, I am intrigued now. Let's get this resolved.\n\nTry getting a suction cup and stick them to both and pry them apart. Vaccume cleaner can help aswell.\n\nOr if you have a bicycle pump try putting high pressure air burst in some how.\n\nIf you have those massage guns that vibrate very fast try using that to kind of shake and pry them apart ....\n\nWorst come to worst one of them needs to be sacrificed.", "Tap the bowls against your counter all around its sides (very lightly if any of these bowls are glass), you can even use your lower palm to tap them instead of the counter if they are very fragile. Repeat until the two container come loose. In bars/restaurants we stack and shake glass/other containers together all the time and they always get stuck.", "Go buy a hobby knife from a shop that caters for hobbyists. Real thin pointed blades that are interchangeable in a round aluminum handle. Cost stuff all.\n\nRemember don't use force use brains to separate the bowls.", "Further my comments above. Fill the trough created at the top rims of the two bowls with cooking oil.\n\nInsert a thin blade between them gently and slowly. Don't need to go deep. You will notice some oil will naturally flow down where the knife blade goes. Keep doing this right around the bowl. Make sure you keep the oil reservior fill. At this point, you might get lucky. \n\nIf not, leave bowls and oil for at least 24 hrs. Then pry again and so on.", "Boil them both in a big pot, make sure both of them stay submerged at all time, I think this will work." ]	[ 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "walking without spilling your cup of coffee. I can't keep the hot as shit liquid from spilling on my hands, unless I crawl and eyeball the cup.", "walking without spilling your cup of coffee. I can't keep the hot as shit liquid from spilling on my hands, unless I crawl and eyeball the cup.", "walking without spilling your cup of coffee. I can't keep the hot as shit liquid from spilling on my hands, unless I crawl and eyeball the cup.", "walking without spilling your cup of coffee. I can't keep the hot as shit liquid from spilling on my hands, unless I crawl and eyeball the cup.", "walking without spilling your cup of coffee. I can't keep the hot as shit liquid from spilling on my hands, unless I crawl and eyeball the cup.", "walking without spilling your cup of coffee. I can't keep the hot as shit liquid from spilling on my hands, unless I crawl and eyeball the cup.", "walking without spilling your cup of coffee. I can't keep the hot as shit liquid from spilling on my hands, unless I crawl and eyeball the cup.", "walking without spilling your cup of coffee. I can't keep the hot as shit liquid from spilling on my hands, unless I crawl and eyeball the cup.", "walking without spilling your cup of coffee. I can't keep the hot as shit liquid from spilling on my hands, unless I crawl and eyeball the cup.", "walking without spilling your cup of coffee. I can't keep the hot as shit liquid from spilling on my hands, unless I crawl and eyeball the cup." ]	[ "When I worked as a waiter who frequently had to transport hot soup, my manager used to tell me to just NOT LOOK at the soup whilst carrying it. It kind of worked actually.", "Learn to march. I was an Honor Guard Commander and in order to teach kids how to march correctly I would have them hold two dixie cups filled with water and told them to march in circles without spilling any.\n\nTips\n\nYour upper body does not move\n\nRoll your feet (steps)\n\nDont let your head bob up and down, ever", "From doing drill, the best way to walk smoothly is to roll your feet when you walk. Specifically from heel to toe. This forces you to not move up and down when walking on a given path.\n\nIt also makes me feel kind of like a tank; but that is completely unrelated.", "so a technique I use is actually stolen from when I was in marching band. essentially you lift your torso up and steady and kind of walk as if it was detached from your hips and your upper body stops jostling as much at a steady and relaxed walking pace", "hold that shit OUT from you, your arms act as a shock absorber as you walk. Don't trust me? Hold a full cup of water as someone drives you in a car, hold it OUT away from you and not spill a drop, then hold it in close to you and watch as your pants get soaked. This is the same concept while walking. \n\nIt takes a little practice to not look like a retard holding a cup away like its full of the devils ass cheese and keep it at the correct distance to look comfortable yet not spill. ", "You know those cup holders designed for steering wheels that stay upright? Well hold your cup with that principle in mind. Move your body while articulating your wrist and forearm to stay in the same place. The motion on the cup will be as if it is just moving forward.", "Once I explained this to my husband, it changed his life forever.\n\nHold the item farther away from your body, not closer to it. Often people trying to avoid a spill hold the item close to their bodies, but if you hold it away from you, your arm is better at stabilizing it while your core moves.", "Look at the floor, or somewhere. \n\nJust don't let your eyes focus on your coffee. This will allow your brain to subconciously take care of carrying it properly. If you focus on it, your conciousness will try to take over, but it sucks at walking and balancing at the same time.", "Don't look at it. The only reason you spill it is cause you try to overcompensate for adjustments your hands make. Let your body take care of it.", "Based on mathematical modeling and real-world experiments, the best method to avoid spills involve: \"Starting your walk slower—that is, accelerating less—will help. So will leaving a decent gap between the top of the coffee and the mug's rim; this should be at least one-eighth of the mug's diameter-for a normal mug, about a centimeter should do it. But the researchers' \"take home\" advice is to look at what you're doing—so long as your mug isn't filled too high, a watched mug almost guarantees a clean run.\"\n\nhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/06/spilled-coffee-mathematical-model-sloshing-beverage_n_1489404.html" ]	[ 8, 5, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to make the white part on the bottom of your shoe whiter? http://i.imgur.com/vffSxQz.jpg This is the part that I'm talking about. I have a pair of shoes that have that white part on the bottom, but they've been used quite a bit so the white part has some areas with darker colored stains and stuff probably from mud/dirt, I've tried wiping it down with water and rubbing alcohol but it doesn't really help.", "How to make the white part on the bottom of your shoe whiter? http://i.imgur.com/vffSxQz.jpg This is the part that I'm talking about. I have a pair of shoes that have that white part on the bottom, but they've been used quite a bit so the white part has some areas with darker colored stains and stuff probably from mud/dirt, I've tried wiping it down with water and rubbing alcohol but it doesn't really help.", "How to make the white part on the bottom of your shoe whiter? http://i.imgur.com/vffSxQz.jpg This is the part that I'm talking about. I have a pair of shoes that have that white part on the bottom, but they've been used quite a bit so the white part has some areas with darker colored stains and stuff probably from mud/dirt, I've tried wiping it down with water and rubbing alcohol but it doesn't really help." ]	[ "Definitely [Magic Eraser](https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/b2/53/47/b25347b9876f8242b61762f4b3649a47.jpg)", "This going to sound crazy but get some scrubbing bubbles foam and spray it on. Use a cloth or towel and wipe it off", "A small amount of old school tooth paste, the white chalky stuff. Rub small amount in circular motion with whatever you have on hand, i.e. paper towel or napkin or towel etc. Will whiten nicely, because its semi abrasive." ]	[ 9, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can you reduce the \"scheduling negotiation hassle\" when trying to connect with friends? Would be grateful for any advice here! Every time I want to reconnect with a friend it turns into a long negotiation about timing and schedules. It is exhausting, and one of my least favorite parts of being an adult. I want to increase the number of quality conversations and experiences I have with people who matter to me, but I don't want to book myself out 3 weeks in advance.", "How can you reduce the \"scheduling negotiation hassle\" when trying to connect with friends? Would be grateful for any advice here! Every time I want to reconnect with a friend it turns into a long negotiation about timing and schedules. It is exhausting, and one of my least favorite parts of being an adult. I want to increase the number of quality conversations and experiences I have with people who matter to me, but I don't want to book myself out 3 weeks in advance.", "How can you reduce the \"scheduling negotiation hassle\" when trying to connect with friends? Would be grateful for any advice here! Every time I want to reconnect with a friend it turns into a long negotiation about timing and schedules. It is exhausting, and one of my least favorite parts of being an adult. I want to increase the number of quality conversations and experiences I have with people who matter to me, but I don't want to book myself out 3 weeks in advance.", "How can you reduce the \"scheduling negotiation hassle\" when trying to connect with friends? Would be grateful for any advice here! Every time I want to reconnect with a friend it turns into a long negotiation about timing and schedules. It is exhausting, and one of my least favorite parts of being an adult. I want to increase the number of quality conversations and experiences I have with people who matter to me, but I don't want to book myself out 3 weeks in advance.", "How can you reduce the \"scheduling negotiation hassle\" when trying to connect with friends? Would be grateful for any advice here! Every time I want to reconnect with a friend it turns into a long negotiation about timing and schedules. It is exhausting, and one of my least favorite parts of being an adult. I want to increase the number of quality conversations and experiences I have with people who matter to me, but I don't want to book myself out 3 weeks in advance." ]	[ "Pick something you want to do- time & place. Tell friend you’re doing that and ask if they’d like to come. If they don’t, go do that thing yourself or ask another friend . Eventually you’ll sync up", "In sales we always offered the dates as the initiator. “Does this Saturday or next Saturday work better for you? Neither? How about this Thursday or next Tuesday? Neither. When are your next two evenings free? Always work in 2s. Simplifies the thought process. Then it’s just a process of elimination. \n\nAlternatively. Why not 3 weeks in advance? Less likely both of you are booked. Get over it. A good friend is worth waiting for. Just check in 1 week before to confirm.", "I hate this too. Finding it hard enough to motivate myself to get together after being stuck in side for so long. \nOffer 2 or 3 choices and say ‘which works for you?’", "If friends can’t be flexible on times you are free, then you simply need to make yourself available for when they are free. \n\nShort of that, make new friends. \n\nDoing things you want to do should not be a negotiation. Tell them you are doing something at a certain time/place and you would enjoy them tagging along. Now you are done and the rest is on them. \n\nIf they never make efforts to see you or do things with you, that’s their loss. Move on to new people.", "I ask them well in advance and give them multiple dates and times when I’m available as well asking what time works best for them. There’s usually at least one date and time that works for all of us. Sometimes it’s weeks away, but if you don’t do it early it will never happen because that one date weeks away will be filled by other stuff if you wait too late. If a date doesn’t work for everyone I just keep asking different dates until one finally works lol" ]	[ 8, 7, 4, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "Drinking I have had a few times where I have drank, socially, and alone. Most times I only got tipsy, but the most recent time, I drank Brandy, I think it was 50% alcohol volume, I took several shots, was feeling normal, then I went to my room and it hit me like a train, I remember calling my friend, that's it. Woke up the next morning, vomit next to my bed, and drunken video rants all over my social media, that I had no memory of. Now I;m actually scared to drink again, because what if next time, I'm in public and do something crazy, walk in the middle of the street or whatever. Just wondering if anyone has any tips for me to take before I start drinking. ", "Drinking I have had a few times where I have drank, socially, and alone. Most times I only got tipsy, but the most recent time, I drank Brandy, I think it was 50% alcohol volume, I took several shots, was feeling normal, then I went to my room and it hit me like a train, I remember calling my friend, that's it. Woke up the next morning, vomit next to my bed, and drunken video rants all over my social media, that I had no memory of. Now I;m actually scared to drink again, because what if next time, I'm in public and do something crazy, walk in the middle of the street or whatever. Just wondering if anyone has any tips for me to take before I start drinking. ", "Drinking I have had a few times where I have drank, socially, and alone. Most times I only got tipsy, but the most recent time, I drank Brandy, I think it was 50% alcohol volume, I took several shots, was feeling normal, then I went to my room and it hit me like a train, I remember calling my friend, that's it. Woke up the next morning, vomit next to my bed, and drunken video rants all over my social media, that I had no memory of. Now I;m actually scared to drink again, because what if next time, I'm in public and do something crazy, walk in the middle of the street or whatever. Just wondering if anyone has any tips for me to take before I start drinking. ", "Drinking I have had a few times where I have drank, socially, and alone. Most times I only got tipsy, but the most recent time, I drank Brandy, I think it was 50% alcohol volume, I took several shots, was feeling normal, then I went to my room and it hit me like a train, I remember calling my friend, that's it. Woke up the next morning, vomit next to my bed, and drunken video rants all over my social media, that I had no memory of. Now I;m actually scared to drink again, because what if next time, I'm in public and do something crazy, walk in the middle of the street or whatever. Just wondering if anyone has any tips for me to take before I start drinking. ", "Drinking I have had a few times where I have drank, socially, and alone. Most times I only got tipsy, but the most recent time, I drank Brandy, I think it was 50% alcohol volume, I took several shots, was feeling normal, then I went to my room and it hit me like a train, I remember calling my friend, that's it. Woke up the next morning, vomit next to my bed, and drunken video rants all over my social media, that I had no memory of. Now I;m actually scared to drink again, because what if next time, I'm in public and do something crazy, walk in the middle of the street or whatever. Just wondering if anyone has any tips for me to take before I start drinking. ", "Drinking I have had a few times where I have drank, socially, and alone. Most times I only got tipsy, but the most recent time, I drank Brandy, I think it was 50% alcohol volume, I took several shots, was feeling normal, then I went to my room and it hit me like a train, I remember calling my friend, that's it. Woke up the next morning, vomit next to my bed, and drunken video rants all over my social media, that I had no memory of. Now I;m actually scared to drink again, because what if next time, I'm in public and do something crazy, walk in the middle of the street or whatever. Just wondering if anyone has any tips for me to take before I start drinking. ", "Drinking I have had a few times where I have drank, socially, and alone. Most times I only got tipsy, but the most recent time, I drank Brandy, I think it was 50% alcohol volume, I took several shots, was feeling normal, then I went to my room and it hit me like a train, I remember calling my friend, that's it. Woke up the next morning, vomit next to my bed, and drunken video rants all over my social media, that I had no memory of. Now I;m actually scared to drink again, because what if next time, I'm in public and do something crazy, walk in the middle of the street or whatever. Just wondering if anyone has any tips for me to take before I start drinking. ", "Drinking I have had a few times where I have drank, socially, and alone. Most times I only got tipsy, but the most recent time, I drank Brandy, I think it was 50% alcohol volume, I took several shots, was feeling normal, then I went to my room and it hit me like a train, I remember calling my friend, that's it. Woke up the next morning, vomit next to my bed, and drunken video rants all over my social media, that I had no memory of. Now I;m actually scared to drink again, because what if next time, I'm in public and do something crazy, walk in the middle of the street or whatever. Just wondering if anyone has any tips for me to take before I start drinking. ", "Drinking I have had a few times where I have drank, socially, and alone. Most times I only got tipsy, but the most recent time, I drank Brandy, I think it was 50% alcohol volume, I took several shots, was feeling normal, then I went to my room and it hit me like a train, I remember calling my friend, that's it. Woke up the next morning, vomit next to my bed, and drunken video rants all over my social media, that I had no memory of. Now I;m actually scared to drink again, because what if next time, I'm in public and do something crazy, walk in the middle of the street or whatever. Just wondering if anyone has any tips for me to take before I start drinking. " ]	[ "Don't drink alone. That's rule one.\n\nDrink a glass of water between each glass of alcohol. That's not a rule, but a very good tip. You can get your own bottle of water at bar/pubs; and refill your beer/alcohol glass with it when it's empty.\n\nAnd mostly, remember : you don't HAVE to drink.", "Were you on medication? \n\nAlways eat first, drink lots of water and keep eating. That's the only way I can do a prolonged drinking session with my pals.", "Very strong spirits can hit you hard, also in the home what people pour as a \"shot\" could have equalled 2 or 3 in a bar's measurements. Wine is similar too, it is easy to glug down one extra large glass but it packs a punch.\n\nI'd stick to beer to be honest, it is harder to get blackout drunk as you physically can't drink the volume required as you approach that stage. \n\nMake sure you have eaten and aren't too tired too. Whatever you drink, do it slowly so you know when you start feeling overly drunk and can stop. ", "Stick to a drink you can handle.\nSomething weaker than spirits.\n\nOr mix it with something, so you end up filling up on the mixer and not the alcohol.", "I had to learn the hard way to only drink a single mouthful of vodka every five hours and twenty-two minutes throughout the day.", "Firstly, I don't ever let myself drink a lot unless I'm at home and staying home.\nI just now thought of this and don't know if it will work, but before you drink, change the passcode on your phone, write it down, and put it somewhere obscure (like your medicine cabinet or something). You won't remember the code when you're drunk, but when you wake up and go to brush your teeth, your code will be there and you can use your phone? ", "Don't take shots of brandy...or anything 100 proof for that matter. If you're going to do shots, take shots of: good tequila, good vodka, or decent bourbon if that's your thing. And under no circumstance take shots of anything with added sugar. Just my $0.02.", "Before drinking, eat meats and cheeses. They absorb some of the alcohol so it'll take longer to get drunk.\n\nStay hydrated. Drink water as a \"chaser\" with each drink.\n\nPace yourself.\n\nDon't drink on an empty stomach.\n\nThere's the old saying \"Beer before liquor, never been sicker; liquor before beer, you're in the clear\" but I think that might have been disproven. ", "1. Drink on a full stomach.\n2. Try out different types of alcohol. I personally cannot have tequila in any way shape or form, but I can drink 50abv scotch no problem.\n3. Have mixed drinks! There's no need to slam shots back unless you're looking to get pretty wasted. " ]	[ 6, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to deal with folliculitis and very irritable (red) pos shave skin? I have been to 3 dif dermatologists and none resolved my issue. I am on a new one and tomorrow I will attend to the second time laser hair removal of my beard. Since then I take anti biotics pills, apply solar protect and at night I use the Stieymcin Gel to \"destroy\" any acne or folliculitis. \n\nAs I said, no result. My skin is still very red after shaving and a lot of red spots (neck area) are noticed and it doesnt go away as I still do what the docs have told me.\n\nI cant grow a beard, its awful and specially after the first time laser hair removal my beard grows even worse, so now I need to shave everyday to remove imperfections and suffer the consequences of a very irritable skin with folliculitis. My confidence and self esteem is very low during work because of how awful my face gets.\n\nI also have electric shaver and blade razor but both are not effective , even trying my best to prepare before the shaving. \n\nI just dont know what to do anymore. I think I will get fired because I show no pro-activity and its mostly related to the folliculitis and because I am a mess. ", "How to deal with folliculitis and very irritable (red) pos shave skin? I have been to 3 dif dermatologists and none resolved my issue. I am on a new one and tomorrow I will attend to the second time laser hair removal of my beard. Since then I take anti biotics pills, apply solar protect and at night I use the Stieymcin Gel to \"destroy\" any acne or folliculitis. \n\nAs I said, no result. My skin is still very red after shaving and a lot of red spots (neck area) are noticed and it doesnt go away as I still do what the docs have told me.\n\nI cant grow a beard, its awful and specially after the first time laser hair removal my beard grows even worse, so now I need to shave everyday to remove imperfections and suffer the consequences of a very irritable skin with folliculitis. My confidence and self esteem is very low during work because of how awful my face gets.\n\nI also have electric shaver and blade razor but both are not effective , even trying my best to prepare before the shaving. \n\nI just dont know what to do anymore. I think I will get fired because I show no pro-activity and its mostly related to the folliculitis and because I am a mess. ", "How to deal with folliculitis and very irritable (red) pos shave skin? I have been to 3 dif dermatologists and none resolved my issue. I am on a new one and tomorrow I will attend to the second time laser hair removal of my beard. Since then I take anti biotics pills, apply solar protect and at night I use the Stieymcin Gel to \"destroy\" any acne or folliculitis. \n\nAs I said, no result. My skin is still very red after shaving and a lot of red spots (neck area) are noticed and it doesnt go away as I still do what the docs have told me.\n\nI cant grow a beard, its awful and specially after the first time laser hair removal my beard grows even worse, so now I need to shave everyday to remove imperfections and suffer the consequences of a very irritable skin with folliculitis. My confidence and self esteem is very low during work because of how awful my face gets.\n\nI also have electric shaver and blade razor but both are not effective , even trying my best to prepare before the shaving. \n\nI just dont know what to do anymore. I think I will get fired because I show no pro-activity and its mostly related to the folliculitis and because I am a mess. ", "How to deal with folliculitis and very irritable (red) pos shave skin? I have been to 3 dif dermatologists and none resolved my issue. I am on a new one and tomorrow I will attend to the second time laser hair removal of my beard. Since then I take anti biotics pills, apply solar protect and at night I use the Stieymcin Gel to \"destroy\" any acne or folliculitis. \n\nAs I said, no result. My skin is still very red after shaving and a lot of red spots (neck area) are noticed and it doesnt go away as I still do what the docs have told me.\n\nI cant grow a beard, its awful and specially after the first time laser hair removal my beard grows even worse, so now I need to shave everyday to remove imperfections and suffer the consequences of a very irritable skin with folliculitis. My confidence and self esteem is very low during work because of how awful my face gets.\n\nI also have electric shaver and blade razor but both are not effective , even trying my best to prepare before the shaving. \n\nI just dont know what to do anymore. I think I will get fired because I show no pro-activity and its mostly related to the folliculitis and because I am a mess. ", "How to deal with folliculitis and very irritable (red) pos shave skin? I have been to 3 dif dermatologists and none resolved my issue. I am on a new one and tomorrow I will attend to the second time laser hair removal of my beard. Since then I take anti biotics pills, apply solar protect and at night I use the Stieymcin Gel to \"destroy\" any acne or folliculitis. \n\nAs I said, no result. My skin is still very red after shaving and a lot of red spots (neck area) are noticed and it doesnt go away as I still do what the docs have told me.\n\nI cant grow a beard, its awful and specially after the first time laser hair removal my beard grows even worse, so now I need to shave everyday to remove imperfections and suffer the consequences of a very irritable skin with folliculitis. My confidence and self esteem is very low during work because of how awful my face gets.\n\nI also have electric shaver and blade razor but both are not effective , even trying my best to prepare before the shaving. \n\nI just dont know what to do anymore. I think I will get fired because I show no pro-activity and its mostly related to the folliculitis and because I am a mess. ", "How to deal with folliculitis and very irritable (red) pos shave skin? I have been to 3 dif dermatologists and none resolved my issue. I am on a new one and tomorrow I will attend to the second time laser hair removal of my beard. Since then I take anti biotics pills, apply solar protect and at night I use the Stieymcin Gel to \"destroy\" any acne or folliculitis. \n\nAs I said, no result. My skin is still very red after shaving and a lot of red spots (neck area) are noticed and it doesnt go away as I still do what the docs have told me.\n\nI cant grow a beard, its awful and specially after the first time laser hair removal my beard grows even worse, so now I need to shave everyday to remove imperfections and suffer the consequences of a very irritable skin with folliculitis. My confidence and self esteem is very low during work because of how awful my face gets.\n\nI also have electric shaver and blade razor but both are not effective , even trying my best to prepare before the shaving. \n\nI just dont know what to do anymore. I think I will get fired because I show no pro-activity and its mostly related to the folliculitis and because I am a mess. " ]	[ "Shave like grandpa. Look in to getting a shaving brush, some shaving soap or some good shaving cream in a tube. All of the stuff in a can has propellants in it that are bad for you'd skin. A double edged safety razor should also help, and it's way cheaper than modern shaving. Follow up with some cold water and after shave and you will see a ton of improvement. I know I did. Added benefit: it's awesome. ", "Look into using a double edge razor over the \"cartridge\" razors. Also, if you don't have super sensitive skin follow up the shave with an alum block.", "I have folliculitis on the back of my head and my doctor prescribed me \"mupirocin 2% ointment\". Try that maybe, i haven't yet.", "Try using hair conditioner rather than shaving cream. Even better to shave in the shower so you can run your face under hot water prior to shaving.", "Look into your shaving process. I hate shaving foam, it irritates me so much! I much prefer using shaving gel. Rinse your face with warm-hot water and squirt the gel into one hand. Flatten it out in your hand and hold it under warm-hot water for a minute. Apply the warm gel and use that to shave. Jump in the shower and shower as normal and you should be great! Alternatively, rinse your face with cold water and dab your face dry - Don't rub.", "Google search \"Pseudofolliculitis barbae\". Best option is not to shave; if a beard is not acceptable, use clippers. The US military medical system has specific clinics for this common problem." ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Does anyone have any good tips for dealing with wisdom teeth coming through? So my wisdom teeth appear to be coming through but very slowly and in fits and starts. In other words they'll start poking through for a week or so, causing havoc in the meantime then calm down for a while.\nIt's starting to drive me a little crazy because it hurts like hell and it's becoming almost unbearable to eat due to the pain and my face is starting to swell up... \n\nIf anyone has any ideas/tips/tricks as to what might help I'd be eternally grateful to hear them! \nI'm currently still cleaning my teeth twice a day as usual, being careful not to irritate the areas as much as possible, rinsing with a gentle mouthwash and applying a cold compress to my jaw every couple hours. \n\nI hardly sleep much as it is (raging insomniac) and this is really disrupting the little sleep I do manage to get! I can't get comfortable anywhere and I've just had it with the whole situation, it's making me cranky with friends and family and I really do feel awful for having such a short temper so I'm sure they would also appreciate any advice you may be able to give! \n\nThank you in advance! ", "Does anyone have any good tips for dealing with wisdom teeth coming through? So my wisdom teeth appear to be coming through but very slowly and in fits and starts. In other words they'll start poking through for a week or so, causing havoc in the meantime then calm down for a while.\nIt's starting to drive me a little crazy because it hurts like hell and it's becoming almost unbearable to eat due to the pain and my face is starting to swell up... \n\nIf anyone has any ideas/tips/tricks as to what might help I'd be eternally grateful to hear them! \nI'm currently still cleaning my teeth twice a day as usual, being careful not to irritate the areas as much as possible, rinsing with a gentle mouthwash and applying a cold compress to my jaw every couple hours. \n\nI hardly sleep much as it is (raging insomniac) and this is really disrupting the little sleep I do manage to get! I can't get comfortable anywhere and I've just had it with the whole situation, it's making me cranky with friends and family and I really do feel awful for having such a short temper so I'm sure they would also appreciate any advice you may be able to give! \n\nThank you in advance! ", "Does anyone have any good tips for dealing with wisdom teeth coming through? So my wisdom teeth appear to be coming through but very slowly and in fits and starts. In other words they'll start poking through for a week or so, causing havoc in the meantime then calm down for a while.\nIt's starting to drive me a little crazy because it hurts like hell and it's becoming almost unbearable to eat due to the pain and my face is starting to swell up... \n\nIf anyone has any ideas/tips/tricks as to what might help I'd be eternally grateful to hear them! \nI'm currently still cleaning my teeth twice a day as usual, being careful not to irritate the areas as much as possible, rinsing with a gentle mouthwash and applying a cold compress to my jaw every couple hours. \n\nI hardly sleep much as it is (raging insomniac) and this is really disrupting the little sleep I do manage to get! I can't get comfortable anywhere and I've just had it with the whole situation, it's making me cranky with friends and family and I really do feel awful for having such a short temper so I'm sure they would also appreciate any advice you may be able to give! \n\nThank you in advance! ", "Does anyone have any good tips for dealing with wisdom teeth coming through? So my wisdom teeth appear to be coming through but very slowly and in fits and starts. In other words they'll start poking through for a week or so, causing havoc in the meantime then calm down for a while.\nIt's starting to drive me a little crazy because it hurts like hell and it's becoming almost unbearable to eat due to the pain and my face is starting to swell up... \n\nIf anyone has any ideas/tips/tricks as to what might help I'd be eternally grateful to hear them! \nI'm currently still cleaning my teeth twice a day as usual, being careful not to irritate the areas as much as possible, rinsing with a gentle mouthwash and applying a cold compress to my jaw every couple hours. \n\nI hardly sleep much as it is (raging insomniac) and this is really disrupting the little sleep I do manage to get! I can't get comfortable anywhere and I've just had it with the whole situation, it's making me cranky with friends and family and I really do feel awful for having such a short temper so I'm sure they would also appreciate any advice you may be able to give! \n\nThank you in advance! ", "Does anyone have any good tips for dealing with wisdom teeth coming through? So my wisdom teeth appear to be coming through but very slowly and in fits and starts. In other words they'll start poking through for a week or so, causing havoc in the meantime then calm down for a while.\nIt's starting to drive me a little crazy because it hurts like hell and it's becoming almost unbearable to eat due to the pain and my face is starting to swell up... \n\nIf anyone has any ideas/tips/tricks as to what might help I'd be eternally grateful to hear them! \nI'm currently still cleaning my teeth twice a day as usual, being careful not to irritate the areas as much as possible, rinsing with a gentle mouthwash and applying a cold compress to my jaw every couple hours. \n\nI hardly sleep much as it is (raging insomniac) and this is really disrupting the little sleep I do manage to get! I can't get comfortable anywhere and I've just had it with the whole situation, it's making me cranky with friends and family and I really do feel awful for having such a short temper so I'm sure they would also appreciate any advice you may be able to give! \n\nThank you in advance! ", "Does anyone have any good tips for dealing with wisdom teeth coming through? So my wisdom teeth appear to be coming through but very slowly and in fits and starts. In other words they'll start poking through for a week or so, causing havoc in the meantime then calm down for a while.\nIt's starting to drive me a little crazy because it hurts like hell and it's becoming almost unbearable to eat due to the pain and my face is starting to swell up... \n\nIf anyone has any ideas/tips/tricks as to what might help I'd be eternally grateful to hear them! \nI'm currently still cleaning my teeth twice a day as usual, being careful not to irritate the areas as much as possible, rinsing with a gentle mouthwash and applying a cold compress to my jaw every couple hours. \n\nI hardly sleep much as it is (raging insomniac) and this is really disrupting the little sleep I do manage to get! I can't get comfortable anywhere and I've just had it with the whole situation, it's making me cranky with friends and family and I really do feel awful for having such a short temper so I'm sure they would also appreciate any advice you may be able to give! \n\nThank you in advance! ", "Does anyone have any good tips for dealing with wisdom teeth coming through? So my wisdom teeth appear to be coming through but very slowly and in fits and starts. In other words they'll start poking through for a week or so, causing havoc in the meantime then calm down for a while.\nIt's starting to drive me a little crazy because it hurts like hell and it's becoming almost unbearable to eat due to the pain and my face is starting to swell up... \n\nIf anyone has any ideas/tips/tricks as to what might help I'd be eternally grateful to hear them! \nI'm currently still cleaning my teeth twice a day as usual, being careful not to irritate the areas as much as possible, rinsing with a gentle mouthwash and applying a cold compress to my jaw every couple hours. \n\nI hardly sleep much as it is (raging insomniac) and this is really disrupting the little sleep I do manage to get! I can't get comfortable anywhere and I've just had it with the whole situation, it's making me cranky with friends and family and I really do feel awful for having such a short temper so I'm sure they would also appreciate any advice you may be able to give! \n\nThank you in advance! ", "Does anyone have any good tips for dealing with wisdom teeth coming through? So my wisdom teeth appear to be coming through but very slowly and in fits and starts. In other words they'll start poking through for a week or so, causing havoc in the meantime then calm down for a while.\nIt's starting to drive me a little crazy because it hurts like hell and it's becoming almost unbearable to eat due to the pain and my face is starting to swell up... \n\nIf anyone has any ideas/tips/tricks as to what might help I'd be eternally grateful to hear them! \nI'm currently still cleaning my teeth twice a day as usual, being careful not to irritate the areas as much as possible, rinsing with a gentle mouthwash and applying a cold compress to my jaw every couple hours. \n\nI hardly sleep much as it is (raging insomniac) and this is really disrupting the little sleep I do manage to get! I can't get comfortable anywhere and I've just had it with the whole situation, it's making me cranky with friends and family and I really do feel awful for having such a short temper so I'm sure they would also appreciate any advice you may be able to give! \n\nThank you in advance! " ]	[ "Seconding the comment to remove them. I don't have any tips, it sounds like it would only be delaying the inevitable. ", "Clove oil. Tastes like, well, pure clove 😲, but it numbs anything. Use a q tip. And it's all natural.", "You can always try a topical oral pain reliever like anbesol, just try not to put it on any actual broken skin. When mine were coming in I would sometimes chew on ice cubes a bit, which helped a little.", "When you go to the dentist, refer to them as your third molars. That is what they are called and you'll sound smart :)\n\nWhen mine came in, one caused pain in my second molars, and I had to get it removed. This was only after it came through, but because it was pushing everything out, and causing pain, it had to come out. \n\nThen later, about 2 years later, my other one started to cause the same problems. Those were both my uppers. When I was going to get my second upper one removed, the xrays showed my lower ones (which hadn't caused me any problems, yet) were going to be impacted. They were coming in sideways, and they _WERE_ going to cause problems when they came in, so they were surgically removed.\n\ntl;dr, if they are causing pain, get it removed. If they are going to come in impacted, get them removed before they cause you more pain than you can fathom. ", "They have to come out or you're going to be in even more pain. I ignored the Dr. and let it go for 2 years, all 4 were impacted and had to be surgically extracted in pieces.\n\nThe sooner you get it taken care of the better you will feel. All you can take is motrin and that will only deal with minor pain.\n\nGood luck.", "Mine grew in slowly over 4-6 years.\nPain varied from very mild to “this has to be taken care of”\nDentist wouldn’t remove them. Got a 2nd opinion, he also wouldn’t remove them. Both said there was room for them to come in and it just hurts so take Advil.\n\nOverall: \nMake sure they’re not infected. Mine got infected once or twice. Make sure there’s no cavities when they come in (I went from no cavities in my life to 4 on these). \nAdvil.\nMaking sure not to clench your jaw during the day (I started by biting on my tongue every time I got the impulse. Now I don’t clench my jaw anymore.)\nGet a waterpik to clean them/get chunks of food out of them.\nFloss regularly. \nDon’t over massage the area.\nAdvil. ", "Tbh. Sounds like an infection. I’m going through my second infected wisdom tooth. Some days it’s perfectly fine, then MASSIVE pain. Get it checked for infection first as that can spread and actually kill you. \n\nAnd yes, the infection can occur even if you have the utmost perfect dental hygiene. ", "Go to a dentist. Wisdom teeth are an evolutionary dead end. Even if they do come in. They will cause trouble in the future." ]	[ 6, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Camping pro-tips I'm going camping with four of my friends for one week. I need tips to get a more enjoyable experience since we're going to be in the deep woods and the nearest toilet will be half a mile away. \n\nI already know about these tips:\n\nSheet of Bounce in your pocket will protect against mosquitoes.\n\n[Headlight against gallon of water makes a great light.](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1h3oq9uM11qfh2z1o1_500.jpg)", "Camping pro-tips I'm going camping with four of my friends for one week. I need tips to get a more enjoyable experience since we're going to be in the deep woods and the nearest toilet will be half a mile away. \n\nI already know about these tips:\n\nSheet of Bounce in your pocket will protect against mosquitoes.\n\n[Headlight against gallon of water makes a great light.](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1h3oq9uM11qfh2z1o1_500.jpg)", "Camping pro-tips I'm going camping with four of my friends for one week. I need tips to get a more enjoyable experience since we're going to be in the deep woods and the nearest toilet will be half a mile away. \n\nI already know about these tips:\n\nSheet of Bounce in your pocket will protect against mosquitoes.\n\n[Headlight against gallon of water makes a great light.](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1h3oq9uM11qfh2z1o1_500.jpg)", "Camping pro-tips I'm going camping with four of my friends for one week. I need tips to get a more enjoyable experience since we're going to be in the deep woods and the nearest toilet will be half a mile away. \n\nI already know about these tips:\n\nSheet of Bounce in your pocket will protect against mosquitoes.\n\n[Headlight against gallon of water makes a great light.](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1h3oq9uM11qfh2z1o1_500.jpg)", "Camping pro-tips I'm going camping with four of my friends for one week. I need tips to get a more enjoyable experience since we're going to be in the deep woods and the nearest toilet will be half a mile away. \n\nI already know about these tips:\n\nSheet of Bounce in your pocket will protect against mosquitoes.\n\n[Headlight against gallon of water makes a great light.](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1h3oq9uM11qfh2z1o1_500.jpg)" ]	[ "-A Tarp is essential, it will give you shade, calm the wind and protect you from the rain. If it rains and you don't have a tarp, your camp site just got a lot smaller.\n- if you have clean lake water, collect it further away from the shore (less sediment) and always boil it or you may end up with the shits. Water purification tabs are great. \n-A hatchet and a small saw for the fire wood are necessary.\n-if you're in bear country, sling your food up in a tree at least 100 yards from your tent. never have food in the tent/garbage around site and wash before you sleep.\n-Frozen meals i.e. burgers, chilly, etc can be used instead of ice to keep other food chilled. don't expect to have cold beer, go with liquor it's lighter too. \n-keep your feet and balls dry, avoid scented deorderants.\n\nAlways leave the site in better condition than when you arrived. If you have extra firewood you can set it up in the pit as a gift for the next campers.\n", "Odor-free baby wipes are more effective for wiping the backside in the wilderness (or anywhere) and good for any other general cleanup (hands, underarms etc) and they take up less space than a roll of TP if put in a ziplock bag. ", "Great tips here. I'd add one: hand sanitizer. \n-It's a flammable liquid fire starter. \n-If you make contact with poison ivy, use hand sanitizer to wash, not water. Poison ivy secretes an oil, and water could actually spread it around. Sanitizer breaks the oil down.\n-It removes sap from hands and fabrics.\n-If you can't shower and the stink is coming through your deodorant, wash your pits with hand sanitizer to kill the bacteria. I don't suggest the groin or butt area though. Just trust me on this. \n-Also, apparently it's a great product to sanitize your hands with.", "Bring bandanas to wear. They serve multiple purposes, such as, sunblock for your dome, a wash cloth to scrub with, a cooling devise if dipped in the water, first aid as a tourniquet or temporary bandage, a make shift gathering bag for kindling, etc., and they just look cool whether you go pirate mode or 2-Pac style. ", "I would say acquire a book called \"Camping & Wilderness Survival\" by Paul Tawrell one of the most informative books I have found. It is light enough to be carried into the field and covers a multitude of locations. Tips for camping are all about where you are going, but for God's sake bring a firearm do not rely on someone else. " ]	[ 4, 2, 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to get over a lost friend Because of myself being generally a bad friend, and moving halfway across the country, I lost a very important and very dear friend. It's really been getting to me, and I've found it really, really difficult to get over this lost friendship. She was a wonderful friend, but we pretty much cut contact. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips at all for coping with losing a very close friend and help forgetting about them? It's not normally ever difficult for me but I was pretty emotionally attached to this friend, and we were very close. I'll make sure not to do that again, but how do I forget her?", "How to get over a lost friend Because of myself being generally a bad friend, and moving halfway across the country, I lost a very important and very dear friend. It's really been getting to me, and I've found it really, really difficult to get over this lost friendship. She was a wonderful friend, but we pretty much cut contact. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips at all for coping with losing a very close friend and help forgetting about them? It's not normally ever difficult for me but I was pretty emotionally attached to this friend, and we were very close. I'll make sure not to do that again, but how do I forget her?", "How to get over a lost friend Because of myself being generally a bad friend, and moving halfway across the country, I lost a very important and very dear friend. It's really been getting to me, and I've found it really, really difficult to get over this lost friendship. She was a wonderful friend, but we pretty much cut contact. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips at all for coping with losing a very close friend and help forgetting about them? It's not normally ever difficult for me but I was pretty emotionally attached to this friend, and we were very close. I'll make sure not to do that again, but how do I forget her?", "How to get over a lost friend Because of myself being generally a bad friend, and moving halfway across the country, I lost a very important and very dear friend. It's really been getting to me, and I've found it really, really difficult to get over this lost friendship. She was a wonderful friend, but we pretty much cut contact. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips at all for coping with losing a very close friend and help forgetting about them? It's not normally ever difficult for me but I was pretty emotionally attached to this friend, and we were very close. I'll make sure not to do that again, but how do I forget her?" ]	[ "Forgetting is difficult and probably shouldn't be the aim. I would say the focus should be on remembering who you are and want to be as an individual. Use this to motivate and fill your time and you will find yourself thinking about them less and less.", "Do your ties to this person really need to be cut? \nSure distance makes it hard to maintain any relationship, but if it is a relationship worth having, it is a relationship worth keeping. \nEven if communication becomes intermittent over time, and visits are few, if there is anything inside you (or her) that you each need to \"get over\" because of the distance between you, then you have a bond which may well conquer such distance. \nSome of the best friendships in life are those with people you may see rarely, but speak with often. They can and often do, become stronger bonds due at least in part to the celebration involved in your getting together. \nI'm sure there will be some great advice to help you here, I just want you to know you are sure that you are seeking it for the right reason. \nGood luck", "Try treating it like a breakup, like of a romantic relationship. Your situation has a lot of parallels and binging ice cream, watching sad movies, and eventually going out and trying to meet new people when you're ready might help you.\n\nSource: I had a friend \"dump\" me basically, and this is what I did. I tried to learn from the experience and move on to meet new people with my new perspective. ", "True friends are so very hard to find...instead of trying to just get over them, how about making contact? ..you say you were \"generally a bad friend\", maybe an apology and and telling them how special they were to you. ...perhaps you can save the friendship?...and if not, at least you gave it one more shot and you can move forward knowing you did all you could to save it...\n" ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to fix blown out Earphones/Headphones/buds I have some nice skullcandys that it sort of works, but if you adjust the cord it will screw up the music. All staticy or only background music playing. Tips?", "How to fix blown out Earphones/Headphones/buds I have some nice skullcandys that it sort of works, but if you adjust the cord it will screw up the music. All staticy or only background music playing. Tips?" ]	[ "If you can Live without them I would send them in for a shiny new pair but if you don't have that luxury here we go: \n\nSounds like a wire short. \n\n1. Locate the offending portion of the cord.\n\n2. Now before you cut it out, make sure there are definite markings to see which is L/R channel. \n\n3. If they are unmarked or the same color they mark one with a bright sharpie. The whole stretch you need to deal with. \n\n4. This is all assuming you have a soldering iron or a friend with one. cut out about an inch of the wire. \n\n5. Now to rewire your headphones(make sure to use heatshrink or electrical tape. I prefer shrink). Expose a good portion of the wire with wire strippers or a pocket knife if you have a sharp one. Nail clippers can be used in a pinch.\n\n6. To make a nice connection and not make a lumpy cable intertwine them in a double helix.\n\n7. Check the headphones and see if your problem has resolved.\n\n8. If not you may have missed the section. You could at this point replace all the wire basically with store bought wire.\n\n9. If you succeeded, undo each helix and place heat shrink on the section hanging down. Redo your helix, solder, and test the headphones again. Repeat on the other side. You should only use the shrink when you are sure its perfect. \n\n10. Enjoy! Unfortunately I cannot guarantee success but send my best wishes! \n\nI've done this to multiple headsets,headphones for friends. Unfortunately no skull candy products as it tends to be headsets someone pulled a wire out of or messed up via various other means.\n", "well if you blow up your headphones then there gone but if the cord is just broke and you have a rely nice pair or go though a ton you can buy a cheap electronics soder and some flux and repair it yourself" ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Cognitive tricks/hacks for focus and concentration There are many times where I wish I could turn my focus and attention to detail on and off. \n\nWhen I'm reading something on a topic that is \"dry\", technical, or just written with very dense language, my mind starts to wander while I'm reading, and by the time I get to the end of a paragraph, I'll have to go back and read it again because I didn't absorb its contents. This doesn't just happen when I'm reading. Its also when I'm trying to listen to someone speak or watching a presentation of some kind.\n\nWhen I'm trying to sleep, my mind will dwell on things, keeping me awake despite my best efforts. I wish I could just turn my brain off some how when I'm trying to sleep. Its like it needs something to fixate on.\n\nIn general, it just seems like I have a difficult time controlling unwanted thoughts. Things I feel strongly about (politics, interpersonal relationships) seem to be the worst offenders. \n\nIf anyone has any tips that can help improve focus and silence background thoughts, or could recommend any resources on this topic (books, videos) I think it would do a lot to help me and others in the reddit community. \n\nPlease don't try to make any recommendations on medicine or supplements. I'm looking for things that can be done by altering the way I think and developing good thought habits. ", "Cognitive tricks/hacks for focus and concentration There are many times where I wish I could turn my focus and attention to detail on and off. \n\nWhen I'm reading something on a topic that is \"dry\", technical, or just written with very dense language, my mind starts to wander while I'm reading, and by the time I get to the end of a paragraph, I'll have to go back and read it again because I didn't absorb its contents. This doesn't just happen when I'm reading. Its also when I'm trying to listen to someone speak or watching a presentation of some kind.\n\nWhen I'm trying to sleep, my mind will dwell on things, keeping me awake despite my best efforts. I wish I could just turn my brain off some how when I'm trying to sleep. Its like it needs something to fixate on.\n\nIn general, it just seems like I have a difficult time controlling unwanted thoughts. Things I feel strongly about (politics, interpersonal relationships) seem to be the worst offenders. \n\nIf anyone has any tips that can help improve focus and silence background thoughts, or could recommend any resources on this topic (books, videos) I think it would do a lot to help me and others in the reddit community. \n\nPlease don't try to make any recommendations on medicine or supplements. I'm looking for things that can be done by altering the way I think and developing good thought habits. " ]	[ "For reading and whatnot, I'd suggest video game soundtracks. They're designed to keep the player focused, so why not translate that to the real world? \nCheck out the Bastion soundtrack. That's always helped me out when it comes down to getting to work. ", "Organize tasks by difficulty and try to incorporate easier ones into your day. For example I'll watch videos/lectures at the gym and do the assignments afterwards. " ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to project my voice My husband and a few friends have told me that it's hard to hear me sometimes because I cannot project my voice. Even when I'm yelling in crowded room to get people's attention, rarely anyone notices. My husband has said I am loud enough, but I just don't know how to project my speaking voice. Any tips to fix this?", "How to project my voice My husband and a few friends have told me that it's hard to hear me sometimes because I cannot project my voice. Even when I'm yelling in crowded room to get people's attention, rarely anyone notices. My husband has said I am loud enough, but I just don't know how to project my speaking voice. Any tips to fix this?", "How to project my voice My husband and a few friends have told me that it's hard to hear me sometimes because I cannot project my voice. Even when I'm yelling in crowded room to get people's attention, rarely anyone notices. My husband has said I am loud enough, but I just don't know how to project my speaking voice. Any tips to fix this?" ]	[ "Imagine your loved one is 50 ft away and is in dire need of hearing important words from you, but you can't step a foot closer. I'm a soft spoken person myself, but when I was given this tip, it helped me with presentations and choir when I was in college.\n\nWhenever you're alone, as embarrassing as it can be at first, pretend being an opera singer. Listening to some helps too lol. It's ok to laugh and make fun. Or put on some peppy enthusiastic Disney music and pretend you're a character.", "I went from having a hard-to-hear voice to having a more penetrating voice. I don't know how much sense these tips will make, so I'm happy to try to explain. These are all for the times when you need to project, not for general use.\n\n1. Remove the \"breathiness\" from your speech. It's not a shouting issue, it's about how much of the wind in your windpipe is being used to move your vocal cords. Practice humming.\n\n2. Speak a bit slower (for me, at least). When I speak slower, it also helps me to\n\n3. lower the tone just a hair. Do you have a \"friendly\" voice? Your best friend calls and your voice goes up an octave? Don't do this. Higher voices may be \"piercing\" but may not carry with clarity. The same is true of too-low voices. They get lost in the mud of background noise.\n\n4. Lift your chin just a bit to open up the airway.\n\n5. Push the back of your tongue down (not with a finger or anything... just open up the back of your mouth).\n\n6. If I'm trying to get someone's attention, make sure you say their name first. If you are talking to a more general group (say, in a bar) first say a \"throwaway\" word which people may miss, but will cause them to focus on you afterward. A word such as \"hey\", or \"You know\" or \"but(t).\" Make it fit, and not be stupid, of course, but make it so that your statement makes sense if people don't hear the first word.\n\n7. (6.5) If you really have a problem, combine the name and throwaway from #6 above. \"You know, Stephen,\" or \"Hey, Alice, have you heard...\" This way the name comes through as people hear your siren's call word and start parsing the rest of your message.\n\n8. Practice whispering (ladies!). If you feel your vocal cords moving at all, you are doing it wrong. A whisper is the wind, not a quiet trumpet. A whisper should not carry at all. This will help you distinguish the two. Sound stupid? I know people who can't whisper. They insist on using their vocal chords when whispering. That's not a whisper, that's \"talking quietly\", which carries.", "Singing lessons may help. Also, to project your voice fill your lungs, and open your mouth. Don't yell, just think that you have to make your voice reach the furthest person.\nProjection starts with your mouth." ]	[ 3, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "Reading heavy and dense textbooks In the past I've been just reading each chapter and typing notes. I find it's time consuming and I have to reread anything again to understand it better. Is there other ways to study heavy and dense textbooks better?", "Reading heavy and dense textbooks In the past I've been just reading each chapter and typing notes. I find it's time consuming and I have to reread anything again to understand it better. Is there other ways to study heavy and dense textbooks better?" ]	[ "I would recommend not typing your notes and writing them down by hand. There's different mental processes involved with the two. When you're typing, you're not engaging long term memory, only short term. Writing by hand engages long term memory.", "If you own the book, highlight the important info and make notes in the margin. Keep a cheat sheet of where important info is in the book. Use those colorful sticky tabs to mark pages with good info, or the start to a chapter/section about something you’re learning. Hand write notes and go back and re-read as needed" ]	[ 6, 2 ]	safe
[ "Controlling Debts & Finances Hi,\n\nI'm in a bit of a shaky situation financially and I am looking for ways to help manage my debts (approx $7k between a cr", "Controlling Debts & Finances Hi,\n\nI'm in a bit of a shaky situation financially and I am looking for ways to help manage my debts (approx $7k between a cr", "Controlling Debts & Finances Hi,\n\nI'm in a bit of a shaky situation financially and I am looking for ways to help manage my debts (approx $7k between a cr" ]	[ "Your first stop should be to go over to /r/personalfinance and read the sidebar articles - top notch advice. Learn (from there and other articles to google based on that advice) to budget and live on a cash basis; after every paycheck there should be immediate transfers to accounts that pay bills or savings accounts where there are restrictions and penalties to withdrawing. After that, any left over is your cash allowance you can blow if you like, but at least you've paid the bills first. \n\nThe most extreme way to live on a cash budget like this is to get a bunch of jars, label each according to an element in your budget. Get paid, take it in cash, put amounts corresponding to your budget in each jar. If the jar hits empty, you've spend that budget category for the month/pay period. \n\nCan't emphasize hitting up /r/personalfinance - too much good advice over there.", "I look at my checking account, and cr", "Follow the flowchart. If you follow it it takes away your ability to screw things up. \n\n\nhttps://m.reddit.com/r/personalfinance/comments/4gdlu9/how_to_prioritize_spending_your_money_a_flowchart/" ]	[ 5, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "People can't hear my voice Firstly I'm a guy. For my whole life when I'm in a crowded environment, Bar, Restaurant or even just a group conversation, people will either subconsciously hear other peoples voices before mine or will just not pick mine up at all.\n\nIt's obviously hard to get across without hearing my voice in context but I wouldn't describe my voice as low or high just more neutral.\n\nI'm sure other people struggle with this issue. I need a simple technique I can practice that doesn't make me just shout or make my voice sound unnatural.\n\nPlease share your experiences and any solutions", "People can't hear my voice Firstly I'm a guy. For my whole life when I'm in a crowded environment, Bar, Restaurant or even just a group conversation, people will either subconsciously hear other peoples voices before mine or will just not pick mine up at all.\n\nIt's obviously hard to get across without hearing my voice in context but I wouldn't describe my voice as low or high just more neutral.\n\nI'm sure other people struggle with this issue. I need a simple technique I can practice that doesn't make me just shout or make my voice sound unnatural.\n\nPlease share your experiences and any solutions", "People can't hear my voice Firstly I'm a guy. For my whole life when I'm in a crowded environment, Bar, Restaurant or even just a group conversation, people will either subconsciously hear other peoples voices before mine or will just not pick mine up at all.\n\nIt's obviously hard to get across without hearing my voice in context but I wouldn't describe my voice as low or high just more neutral.\n\nI'm sure other people struggle with this issue. I need a simple technique I can practice that doesn't make me just shout or make my voice sound unnatural.\n\nPlease share your experiences and any solutions", "People can't hear my voice Firstly I'm a guy. For my whole life when I'm in a crowded environment, Bar, Restaurant or even just a group conversation, people will either subconsciously hear other peoples voices before mine or will just not pick mine up at all.\n\nIt's obviously hard to get across without hearing my voice in context but I wouldn't describe my voice as low or high just more neutral.\n\nI'm sure other people struggle with this issue. I need a simple technique I can practice that doesn't make me just shout or make my voice sound unnatural.\n\nPlease share your experiences and any solutions", "People can't hear my voice Firstly I'm a guy. For my whole life when I'm in a crowded environment, Bar, Restaurant or even just a group conversation, people will either subconsciously hear other peoples voices before mine or will just not pick mine up at all.\n\nIt's obviously hard to get across without hearing my voice in context but I wouldn't describe my voice as low or high just more neutral.\n\nI'm sure other people struggle with this issue. I need a simple technique I can practice that doesn't make me just shout or make my voice sound unnatural.\n\nPlease share your experiences and any solutions", "People can't hear my voice Firstly I'm a guy. For my whole life when I'm in a crowded environment, Bar, Restaurant or even just a group conversation, people will either subconsciously hear other peoples voices before mine or will just not pick mine up at all.\n\nIt's obviously hard to get across without hearing my voice in context but I wouldn't describe my voice as low or high just more neutral.\n\nI'm sure other people struggle with this issue. I need a simple technique I can practice that doesn't make me just shout or make my voice sound unnatural.\n\nPlease share your experiences and any solutions", "People can't hear my voice Firstly I'm a guy. For my whole life when I'm in a crowded environment, Bar, Restaurant or even just a group conversation, people will either subconsciously hear other peoples voices before mine or will just not pick mine up at all.\n\nIt's obviously hard to get across without hearing my voice in context but I wouldn't describe my voice as low or high just more neutral.\n\nI'm sure other people struggle with this issue. I need a simple technique I can practice that doesn't make me just shout or make my voice sound unnatural.\n\nPlease share your experiences and any solutions", "People can't hear my voice Firstly I'm a guy. For my whole life when I'm in a crowded environment, Bar, Restaurant or even just a group conversation, people will either subconsciously hear other peoples voices before mine or will just not pick mine up at all.\n\nIt's obviously hard to get across without hearing my voice in context but I wouldn't describe my voice as low or high just more neutral.\n\nI'm sure other people struggle with this issue. I need a simple technique I can practice that doesn't make me just shout or make my voice sound unnatural.\n\nPlease share your experiences and any solutions", "People can't hear my voice Firstly I'm a guy. For my whole life when I'm in a crowded environment, Bar, Restaurant or even just a group conversation, people will either subconsciously hear other peoples voices before mine or will just not pick mine up at all.\n\nIt's obviously hard to get across without hearing my voice in context but I wouldn't describe my voice as low or high just more neutral.\n\nI'm sure other people struggle with this issue. I need a simple technique I can practice that doesn't make me just shout or make my voice sound unnatural.\n\nPlease share your experiences and any solutions" ]	[ "I have the same thing and my solution was to get older and have a family so that the loudest thing to contend with is my youngest child. Wish I had a useful answer!", "Could timing your responses help? Its nice to jump in when you have something to say, but sometimes ill find i wait until a natural lull and speak up. Or, practice speaking when you've made eye contact with someone so you potentially have their attention. That or keep an airhorn in your pocket.", "Speaking from the diaphragm, as suggested, can really help. How to do that is difficult to describe in written instructions. If you are serious, try taking a few voice lessons. It doesn't matter if you can sing or not, the first few lessons are strictly about how to breathe and project. Those are the things that may be missing when you speak.\n\n", "Something that helps me project my voice is imagining that my voice is coming from a few centimetres away directly in front of my mouth. A good to practice is by saying \"ahhh\" and making a conscious effort to move the place where your voice is originating from.\n\nGood luck! ", "In addition to the diaphragm tip (which my blues singer girlfriend once described as, \"belt it out like you're taking a shit\"), know your audience. \n\nOlder women lose hearing in the bass range, so kick your voice up an octave. Older men lose hearing in the treble range, so lower it an octave. People who are drinking heavily lose hearing across the entire range, as well as comprehension, so adopt a more, um, Presidential delivery of loud, simple statements.", "Wave you hand at the person, tap their shoulder if they're turned away. Yell at the top of your lungs \" EXCUSE ME!\"", "Sometimes people only hear what they want. So when in a conversation listen carefully and try predict what they'll want to hear.", "I have this issue too. I'm very soft spoken so it's very easy for people to tune me out or speak above me.", "I also get \"talked over\". I was drinking by the fire pit with my brothers trying to tell a story. They began talking over me so I just raised my voice and finished the story. The next day, they said \"Boy, you sure were yelling about something last night.\"\n\n This just illustrates that just speaking louder is not the answer. Any suggestion beyond raising the volume?" ]	[ 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Start my [17/m] first job at McDonald's next Saturday. Any tips that would make transitioning easier? Or that would make the job easier in general? What to avoid? ", "Start my [17/m] first job at McDonald's next Saturday. Any tips that would make transitioning easier? Or that would make the job easier in general? What to avoid? ", "Start my [17/m] first job at McDonald's next Saturday. Any tips that would make transitioning easier? Or that would make the job easier in general? What to avoid? ", "Start my [17/m] first job at McDonald's next Saturday. Any tips that would make transitioning easier? Or that would make the job easier in general? What to avoid? ", "Start my [17/m] first job at McDonald's next Saturday. Any tips that would make transitioning easier? Or that would make the job easier in general? What to avoid? ", "Start my [17/m] first job at McDonald's next Saturday. Any tips that would make transitioning easier? Or that would make the job easier in general? What to avoid? ", "Start my [17/m] first job at McDonald's next Saturday. Any tips that would make transitioning easier? Or that would make the job easier in general? What to avoid? ", "Start my [17/m] first job at McDonald's next Saturday. Any tips that would make transitioning easier? Or that would make the job easier in general? What to avoid? ", "Start my [17/m] first job at McDonald's next Saturday. Any tips that would make transitioning easier? Or that would make the job easier in general? What to avoid? " ]	[ "In general, treat every job like it's your planned career. Sure it's McDonalds and you're going to move on pretty quick, but take the job seriously - make sure you know what's expected of you and do that and more. Be on time, don't steal, if you quit, give your notice and work it out unless they ask you not to. \n\nYou never know when that Assistant Manager you work for might graduate and move on to a major company and be looking for solid workers 5 years down the road. And I say this from experience - on both sides. I'm in a pretty solid job with a good career right now, and it's primarily due to meeting someone who worked at Best Buy with me.\n\n", "You're gonna get a lot of shit from asshole customers, don't let it get you down or think less of yourself. McDonald's has a great training program so take advantage of it.", "Worked there on and off for 4 years, 3 different restaraunts as a crew trainer. (i moved alot)\n\nStay in the background for the first week or so. Get a feel for everyone, and adjust to each person so you are on as many good fronts as possible.\n\nThese people are going to work alongside you. You rely on them. Last thing you want is some bad blood from the grill person, and racking up your orders. \n\nBe kind. Go outside your duty to help others. Friendliness to the customer is part of McDonalds. Its in every advertisement. You are to represent that they will have the same experience the same thing as in the commercial. If you greet, you do with a smile. If you cook, you make your food look neat.\n\nEveryone has experienced openin a Big Mac to find it exploded across the box. Dont give that experience to someone else, they paid for the shit.\n\nAlso. Youll probably hear the legend of the finger that was found in the tube of mac sauce. Yes, it happened. And if they send you into the freezer to look for Diet Chicken Nuggets? Your being hazed.", "Show up. \n\nLike, show up ready and willing to work. Every day, every job. Slacking off is easy, especially if you have any disdain for your place of work. But you're going to be there anyway, so may as well work. ", "Work hard. Always be upbeat and professional. Be very good at what you do. Be reliable. Soon your managers will love you and give you plenty of hours to work. In time, you will be considered for promotion or added responsibility. Good luck!", "Work as many shifts as they will allow you to, and save as much money as you can. I don't know if you have a vehicle or not, or where you are located, but a car will definitely open up opportunities. Do your absolute best. My nephews just hit working age, and I tell them this all the time. It doesn't matter what job you do, just be the best at it, and you will move up (either within the same company, or elsewhere). Also, and I think this gets overlooked a lot, don't talk shit or complain about your job on social media. Lots of employers these days look at that stuff, and people do lose their jobs over it. \n\nGood luck man! ", "Just listen to your bosses, and ask questions. It can be fast paced which is overwhelming at first, but there's a lot of repetition so you'll get the hang of it in no time. If you're up front dealing with customers just always be polite even if they are super rude, don't take it personally lol. And if you're ever unsure of something just ask your manager. \n\nIn any downtime make sure you clean (sweep, mop, wipe off counters, etc.). Also, if you get a chance, study the menu/register or if you're in grill study the sandwich cards. And take any opportunity to learn new positions, \n\nOther than that, no reason to be nervous although I was my first day. You'll do fine though. Above all, enjoy yourself and have fun, you'll make some great friends.", "Everyone reacts to work differently. Just do your best, be kind to coworkers and customers, and wash your hands frequently (just for my peace of mind) the bast way to get through a shift is to keep your work complaints off social media and don't tell your coworkers either. Customer service issues are resolved faster with a smile. Good luck and enjoy the extra income!", "Get a different job as soon as possible. Retail and restaurant jobs require you to use maximum effort for minimum pay. Even more effort than most college level graduate jobs. Learn basic workforce skills like punctuality and making a friend of your superiors. " ]	[ 9, 3, 3, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "Websites that are useful for finding an apartment from ~3000 miles away Everyone keeps telling me that Craigslist is my best bet, but I'm sure there's other stuff out there. Any recommendations?", "Websites that are useful for finding an apartment from ~3000 miles away Everyone keeps telling me that Craigslist is my best bet, but I'm sure there's other stuff out there. Any recommendations?", "Websites that are useful for finding an apartment from ~3000 miles away Everyone keeps telling me that Craigslist is my best bet, but I'm sure there's other stuff out there. Any recommendations?", "Websites that are useful for finding an apartment from ~3000 miles away Everyone keeps telling me that Craigslist is my best bet, but I'm sure there's other stuff out there. Any recommendations?" ]	[ "check the local subreddit\n\nAlso, before signing anything, call the closest pizza places (at an off time) and talk to the delivery people. They will give you the facts about the neighborhood/complex. \n\nYears ago, I used to call police stations for this info before I moved cross-country. Now many local Chambers of Commerce organizations created policies that 'discouraged' cops from answering those questions with anything opinion-based. It deters economic development. ", "Well there's zillow, realtor, or the other hundreds of websites that are specially made for finding homes, apartments, etc.", "Google \"Apartments for rent in [insert name of city here]\"\n\nOr call a large realtor in the area you want to move to. ", "Call a realtor, it's worth it, they do all the work for a small fee and they have knowledge you might not." ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to Jog at a consistent pace in a group without having the urge to speed up or slow down. I'm in a class where we run laps to warm up. I want to be able to keep up with the group but don't want to exert too much energy by sprinting to keep up. How can I get better at running at a consistent speed?", "How to Jog at a consistent pace in a group without having the urge to speed up or slow down. I'm in a class where we run laps to warm up. I want to be able to keep up with the group but don't want to exert too much energy by sprinting to keep up. How can I get better at running at a consistent speed?", "How to Jog at a consistent pace in a group without having the urge to speed up or slow down. I'm in a class where we run laps to warm up. I want to be able to keep up with the group but don't want to exert too much energy by sprinting to keep up. How can I get better at running at a consistent speed?" ]	[ "I've downloaded various military cadences from iTunes - the beat and lyrics really help maintain pace.", "Well if you're having to sprint to keep up with a jog pace, it might just be your lack of cardiovascular endurance. In that case just run more often and the jog will be no problem. ", "Watch the feet/legs of whom you want to keep pace with. Try and have the same stride and timing as them. \n\nThe other more personal way is simply, pacing via distance. Put yourself in the middle of the pack. I assume since you're doing warmups there is some sort of organizational level. If running single file, use and arms distance, if you can't reach, speed up, if you can, keep pace. \nIf running in pack, pace yourself with a similar fitness-ed companion. Same as above, watch their pace via legs/feet and stay with them via arms distance. (Don't grab them/or their shirts, open palm will tell you enough)\n\nFrankly, if they are simply warm-ups (depending on the competitive level) it doesn't matter if you keep up. (Again depends on the competitive level). Warm ups are about getting loose and ready for the game/race. You shouldn't be excessively exerting yourself that early before competition. " ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop my socks from getting holes near the ankles In the last year, I've lost an insane amount of regular length socks to holes near the ankle, where the heel patch ends. I am slowly losing my mind. Help.", "How to stop my socks from getting holes near the ankles In the last year, I've lost an insane amount of regular length socks to holes near the ankle, where the heel patch ends. I am slowly losing my mind. Help.", "How to stop my socks from getting holes near the ankles In the last year, I've lost an insane amount of regular length socks to holes near the ankle, where the heel patch ends. I am slowly losing my mind. Help.", "How to stop my socks from getting holes near the ankles In the last year, I've lost an insane amount of regular length socks to holes near the ankle, where the heel patch ends. I am slowly losing my mind. Help." ]	[ "Sounds like you need better fitting shoes. Shoes are something you should never go cheap on because things like this happen.", "It could be the way you put your socks on. If you pull the part the covered your ankle and leg too much then it will tear. Try wearing it like a condom (I have no other way of describing the technique).", "Get one pair of Darn Tough socks and wear them on day one and wash on day two (or get two and wash one each day). If they haven't gotten a hole in a month, you know the problem was cheap socks. Otherwise? Lifetime warranty will replace them.", "Could be how you walk too, if you naturally walk on your heels more I’ll bet they’d rub out quicker than say someone who walks more on their toes? Though I think the solution would still be thicker socks, as that is what’s worked for me. Lemme know if you want brand suggestions" ]	[ 5, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "I'll soon be starting to commute via public transportation for 2 hours a day. How can I best use that time? ", "I'll soon be starting to commute via public transportation for 2 hours a day. How can I best use that time? ", "I'll soon be starting to commute via public transportation for 2 hours a day. How can I best use that time? ", "I'll soon be starting to commute via public transportation for 2 hours a day. How can I best use that time? ", "I'll soon be starting to commute via public transportation for 2 hours a day. How can I best use that time? ", "I'll soon be starting to commute via public transportation for 2 hours a day. How can I best use that time? ", "I'll soon be starting to commute via public transportation for 2 hours a day. How can I best use that time? ", "I'll soon be starting to commute via public transportation for 2 hours a day. How can I best use that time? " ]	[ "Try to learn a new language. rosetta stone or some other language learning program would be great for this although im not sure if you can download a lesson", "Read books and listen to new music. Read a paper, do crosswords. Anything but flick through social media. ", "Podcasts, audio books, paperbacks. Also a good time to go over bills and make goals/lists for the day/week/month.", "You can now save episodes off Netflix. Podcasts work best for me though. I'm always on public transport. ", "Sleep. Just be sure to set your alarm clock. Otherwise, I'd recommend the usual reading and podcasts and some light games.", "I really enjoyed crocheting small projects like hats when I was riding the bus--it fascinates people and they will strike up a conversation with you about it, and after a few trips, you have a hat! Stockpile them as gifts for the holidays or people's birthdays, or if you're able, offer them to other bus occupants who need winter wear (especially the homeless). \n\n(Yes, I have granny hobbies at an early age.) ", "Decide what skill you want to learn, then read pdfs or books about the subject. Even if it's something you can't practice on the bus, you will be excited to practice when you get a chance, having read about it. \nIf you don't like reading or find it uncomfortable on a bus then yeah podcasts(/radio shows/lectures/whatever) and music would be good, books on tape, catching up on texting/phonecalls with friends/family, small crafts if you like making things like some safe form of knitting.", "Book, podcast, download youtube videos or movies and watch them offline. Read science (or whatever interests you) papers. Befriend a person you see often on the transport that you can talk to." ]	[ 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to get an eye lash out the eye? Rinsing my eyes doesn't really help me. I've been having my eye lash in my eyes pretty much every morning when I wake up. They usually go away in like 30 minutes after irritating my eyes. How can I make them go away fast?", "How to get an eye lash out the eye? Rinsing my eyes doesn't really help me. I've been having my eye lash in my eyes pretty much every morning when I wake up. They usually go away in like 30 minutes after irritating my eyes. How can I make them go away fast?", "How to get an eye lash out the eye? Rinsing my eyes doesn't really help me. I've been having my eye lash in my eyes pretty much every morning when I wake up. They usually go away in like 30 minutes after irritating my eyes. How can I make them go away fast?", "How to get an eye lash out the eye? Rinsing my eyes doesn't really help me. I've been having my eye lash in my eyes pretty much every morning when I wake up. They usually go away in like 30 minutes after irritating my eyes. How can I make them go away fast?", "How to get an eye lash out the eye? Rinsing my eyes doesn't really help me. I've been having my eye lash in my eyes pretty much every morning when I wake up. They usually go away in like 30 minutes after irritating my eyes. How can I make them go away fast?" ]	[ "cigarette butt, flush the eye under the faucet when you wake up. Not directly down on the eye but from the side.", "Pull your upper lid over your lower one and let your eye tear up for about 5-10 seconds.\nOr just reach in there and maneuver it to the corner and fish it out.", "Just close your eye for a while. Your tears are designed to keep out foreign objects so it will eventually slide down your eye to a place you can more easily extract it", "I use a lit magnifying mirror and a qtip and carefully lift the eyelash off the surface of the eye. That usually works but if it doesn't I blink a lot until the eyelash moves to the part of the eye where crud accumulates. ", "I do this thing where I pinch my eye lid and pull it down and repeat. I don't know where I learned that, but it works. Makes my eyes water and usually gets whatever is in it out." ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop straggly facial hair Hey guys,\n\nLooking for a tip to keep my beard a little more tidy. Don't get me wrong, I'm not some wild lumberjack but just want to keep it neater. I like it longer but some hairs end up going in every direction. I just want it all go down straight. Not side to side or curl upwards.\n\nI heard conditioning facial hair works (not sure though). I do have a trimmer and just use a high guide/use scissors but would rather be able to let it grow a bit.\n\nJust wondering if anyone has any tips.\n\nThanks!", "How to stop straggly facial hair Hey guys,\n\nLooking for a tip to keep my beard a little more tidy. Don't get me wrong, I'm not some wild lumberjack but just want to keep it neater. I like it longer but some hairs end up going in every direction. I just want it all go down straight. Not side to side or curl upwards.\n\nI heard conditioning facial hair works (not sure though). I do have a trimmer and just use a high guide/use scissors but would rather be able to let it grow a bit.\n\nJust wondering if anyone has any tips.\n\nThanks!", "How to stop straggly facial hair Hey guys,\n\nLooking for a tip to keep my beard a little more tidy. Don't get me wrong, I'm not some wild lumberjack but just want to keep it neater. I like it longer but some hairs end up going in every direction. I just want it all go down straight. Not side to side or curl upwards.\n\nI heard conditioning facial hair works (not sure though). I do have a trimmer and just use a high guide/use scissors but would rather be able to let it grow a bit.\n\nJust wondering if anyone has any tips.\n\nThanks!" ]	[ "Try some of this. A little goes a long way. It isn't a styling product but it does help tame some of the stray hairs. My beard is full and almost completely white so the hairs are stiff. This stuff works for me.\n\nhttp://www.amishbeardcare.com/Honest-Amish-Original-Wax-p/origwax.htm", "I use conditioner on my beard about once a week, but my best advice is to get a beard oil and use 4-5 drops, rub in your hands and run through your beard every morning. There are expensive beard oils online, but I just use jojoba oil from Traders Joe's. It's only about $8 for a decent sized bottle compared to $15 for a much smaller boutique beard oil. Using a little it of this oil in the morning helps condition the skin underneath and keeps some of the wild hairs down for the most part. And it definitely doesn't make your beard oily or gross. ", "/r/wicked_edge will probably have better advice then I do, but it all depends on how your hair grows in. \n\nConditioning facial hair will help quite a bit, but you're going to have some hairs naturally going crazy. Get a good comb, and each day comb it down. After combing it down, look for straggling hairs, and trim them with a scissor. Trimming stragglers can be done every other or 3rd day depending on how quickly it grows back.\n\nOn a weekly basis, you really want to trim your beard with a trimmer. I recommend going up with a 2 or 3(depending on how long you want it), and then going down with one lower then what you went down with. So say you trim up with a 3, you want to then go back down with a 2. If you're doing a 4, you want to go back down with a 3. Going up will trim your full beard, and then going down will help remove stragglers that you missed.\n\n" ]	[ 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "what is a good technique to give yourself a (man’s) haircut? Those of us who don’t go to hair salons during the pandemic could really use some expert tips. There are too many bad haircut videos out there. ", "what is a good technique to give yourself a (man’s) haircut? Those of us who don’t go to hair salons during the pandemic could really use some expert tips. There are too many bad haircut videos out there. ", "what is a good technique to give yourself a (man’s) haircut? Those of us who don’t go to hair salons during the pandemic could really use some expert tips. There are too many bad haircut videos out there. ", "what is a good technique to give yourself a (man’s) haircut? Those of us who don’t go to hair salons during the pandemic could really use some expert tips. There are too many bad haircut videos out there. ", "what is a good technique to give yourself a (man’s) haircut? Those of us who don’t go to hair salons during the pandemic could really use some expert tips. There are too many bad haircut videos out there. ", "what is a good technique to give yourself a (man’s) haircut? Those of us who don’t go to hair salons during the pandemic could really use some expert tips. There are too many bad haircut videos out there. ", "what is a good technique to give yourself a (man’s) haircut? Those of us who don’t go to hair salons during the pandemic could really use some expert tips. There are too many bad haircut videos out there. " ]	[ "I have a bunch of techniques but the most important one is trying many times and not caring if your haircut looks like you did it yourself for the first dozen or so times. I still mess up occasionally but most people are surprised to find out I cut my own now.", "2 or a 3 with clippers on the sides and back of your head and scissors on the top depending if you want alot off or not. Hopefully you have a medicine cabinet mirror. Those help tremendously with making sure the back of your head isn't crazy looking.", "Need a bathroom vanity that opens up with mirrors on the insides of the doors. If you cant see the back of your head dont start.\n\n I've been doing mine since March '20. I think I do a decent job. Medium short cut so no scissors involved. Various clipper lengths to get a slight fade on the sides and back. I do the top with the ~22-25mm attachment. Sides and back much shorter.", "Chop it all off! Just buzz it down to a number 1. You won't look bald unless you're blond. Super easy maintenance.", "1/16th on top with Oster fast feeds, set your line for a high fade with the Andis outliners, use the Wahl balding clipper to cut all the hair below that line. Go up 1/4\" from your line with a zero from your Oster fast feeds and adjust to fade into your 1/16\" hair on top. Knock out the line around your head with the Andis outliners using the edge of the blade to sort of flick the line out", "If you want to give yourself a fade, use the tapered ear pieces for the transition portion of the cut. Makes it ridiculously easy to give yourself a clean fade.", "I have being doing my own hair for years, the pandemic just made it “universal” mostly because I prefer to spend money on my wife/kiddo rather than myself" ]	[ 5, 5, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to find the source of a smell in a house I just moved into a house my friends have lived in for a year, and it smells. How can I find the source of the smell(s?)?\n\nUpdate: talked with roommates, discovered gas leak that could have blown us all to smithereens.", "How to find the source of a smell in a house I just moved into a house my friends have lived in for a year, and it smells. How can I find the source of the smell(s?)?\n\nUpdate: talked with roommates, discovered gas leak that could have blown us all to smithereens.", "How to find the source of a smell in a house I just moved into a house my friends have lived in for a year, and it smells. How can I find the source of the smell(s?)?\n\nUpdate: talked with roommates, discovered gas leak that could have blown us all to smithereens.", "How to find the source of a smell in a house I just moved into a house my friends have lived in for a year, and it smells. How can I find the source of the smell(s?)?\n\nUpdate: talked with roommates, discovered gas leak that could have blown us all to smithereens." ]	[ "Sorry for the text wall, but I have personal experience and I GOT THIS, BRO. Is the smell confined to one room/area? Or do you smell it everywhere at once? If it's localized, deep clean the shit out of that room. If you're not the \"deep cleaning\" type and that sounds overwhelming, try unfuckyourhabitat.com. If the smell is everywhere: it's likely either a) tracked into all of the flooring b) airborne, like if you have moldy vents or c) the result of general uncleanliness in the house. Not to judge your friends, but it happens. Better deep clean the house, and don't forget the attic/basement if you have either. Beware of raccoons and shit. If the smell moves: it might be a person. Or likewise, a person wearing gross, unwashed laundry. Or who has that favorite hat they never wash, or gross running shoes, or who left food in their purse/backpack and for some reason can't smell it themselves. If the smell comes and goes, it might also just be transiently wafting out of someone's room/closet. You'd be surprised at how many smart, otherwise awesome adults leave gross dishes and food garbage in their rooms.\n\nMost importantly, just say something. My old roommates and I let a smell go on for weeks because it was hard to pinpoint where it was coming from and no amount of armpit sniff-checks could reassure any of us that we weren't the source of the smell. I mean, if you're home alone and you can't tell where the smell is coming from... you start to fear that the smell is you. So we each stayed silent and ashamed, afraid to bring it up in case the nastiness was our fault. We would each investigate when we were home alone, in case the funk was due to something of ours and we could throw it away on the sly like it never happened. Then finally, a friend brought it up and we immediately tore the place apart. Turns out my roommate, Numbnuts McGee, left a fucking bag of potatoes in the pantry for three months and they had started to ooze black slime. \n\nJust talk about it.\n*", "Start deep cleaning. The smell will settle into fabrics and stuff. Get those things cleaned or get rid of them. Eventually you should be able to locate the source. ", "LPT, make sure you are home when you call the gas company about gas leaks because the fire department will respond in minutes and ax down your door. \n", "What type of smell is it? Body funk from unclean junk? Dirty shoes? A mildewy gym? Mold? Or a barn? Or is it like something dead? or smoke? or weed? I don't know how to find the smell for you, but to get rid of it you'll have to either clean it or cover it up. Cleaning is preferred because then hopefully it won't come back. Unless it's something that's not from the house at all, and is in the air, like when you live by a wood pulp factory that makes paper." ]	[ 4, 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I stop yawning so much I seem to be a chronic yawner. I get plenty of sleep at night and I drink caffeine during the day. However, a certain times during the day, I'll go into these yawning fits where I can't stop yawning. It usually last around 10-15 minutes. And these aren't the cute little yawns that people get when they are bored. No, these are yawns that last around five seconds, with my mouth as wide as I can open, sucking in and exhaling so much air that you can hear it. My eyes start watering so much I have to wipe them with my shirt. They also turn really red like I just smoked a joint. It is extremely unprofessional of me to yawn like this, especially in front of my bosses and clients. \n\nHow can I stop yawning so much? Is there anything medically wrong that I should see a doctor about? I've been this way for as long as I can remember.", "How do I stop yawning so much I seem to be a chronic yawner. I get plenty of sleep at night and I drink caffeine during the day. However, a certain times during the day, I'll go into these yawning fits where I can't stop yawning. It usually last around 10-15 minutes. And these aren't the cute little yawns that people get when they are bored. No, these are yawns that last around five seconds, with my mouth as wide as I can open, sucking in and exhaling so much air that you can hear it. My eyes start watering so much I have to wipe them with my shirt. They also turn really red like I just smoked a joint. It is extremely unprofessional of me to yawn like this, especially in front of my bosses and clients. \n\nHow can I stop yawning so much? Is there anything medically wrong that I should see a doctor about? I've been this way for as long as I can remember.", "How do I stop yawning so much I seem to be a chronic yawner. I get plenty of sleep at night and I drink caffeine during the day. However, a certain times during the day, I'll go into these yawning fits where I can't stop yawning. It usually last around 10-15 minutes. And these aren't the cute little yawns that people get when they are bored. No, these are yawns that last around five seconds, with my mouth as wide as I can open, sucking in and exhaling so much air that you can hear it. My eyes start watering so much I have to wipe them with my shirt. They also turn really red like I just smoked a joint. It is extremely unprofessional of me to yawn like this, especially in front of my bosses and clients. \n\nHow can I stop yawning so much? Is there anything medically wrong that I should see a doctor about? I've been this way for as long as I can remember.", "How do I stop yawning so much I seem to be a chronic yawner. I get plenty of sleep at night and I drink caffeine during the day. However, a certain times during the day, I'll go into these yawning fits where I can't stop yawning. It usually last around 10-15 minutes. And these aren't the cute little yawns that people get when they are bored. No, these are yawns that last around five seconds, with my mouth as wide as I can open, sucking in and exhaling so much air that you can hear it. My eyes start watering so much I have to wipe them with my shirt. They also turn really red like I just smoked a joint. It is extremely unprofessional of me to yawn like this, especially in front of my bosses and clients. \n\nHow can I stop yawning so much? Is there anything medically wrong that I should see a doctor about? I've been this way for as long as I can remember.", "How do I stop yawning so much I seem to be a chronic yawner. I get plenty of sleep at night and I drink caffeine during the day. However, a certain times during the day, I'll go into these yawning fits where I can't stop yawning. It usually last around 10-15 minutes. And these aren't the cute little yawns that people get when they are bored. No, these are yawns that last around five seconds, with my mouth as wide as I can open, sucking in and exhaling so much air that you can hear it. My eyes start watering so much I have to wipe them with my shirt. They also turn really red like I just smoked a joint. It is extremely unprofessional of me to yawn like this, especially in front of my bosses and clients. \n\nHow can I stop yawning so much? Is there anything medically wrong that I should see a doctor about? I've been this way for as long as I can remember.", "How do I stop yawning so much I seem to be a chronic yawner. I get plenty of sleep at night and I drink caffeine during the day. However, a certain times during the day, I'll go into these yawning fits where I can't stop yawning. It usually last around 10-15 minutes. And these aren't the cute little yawns that people get when they are bored. No, these are yawns that last around five seconds, with my mouth as wide as I can open, sucking in and exhaling so much air that you can hear it. My eyes start watering so much I have to wipe them with my shirt. They also turn really red like I just smoked a joint. It is extremely unprofessional of me to yawn like this, especially in front of my bosses and clients. \n\nHow can I stop yawning so much? Is there anything medically wrong that I should see a doctor about? I've been this way for as long as I can remember." ]	[ "Take a couple seconds out of your day and breathe deep in through your nose and out your mouth, I'm no doctor, a mechanic to be precise but believe yawning is caused by your brain wanting more oxygen, hence why you do it when tired, your breathing gets lazy. Sorry for the horrible grammar ", "So according to webMD, you have a rare form of lung cancer that has metastasized to your brain.\nAm I doing this reddit thing right? :D", "Not a doctor here: I've heard that yawning can be a normal stress reaction or that it helps the body transition from a resting state to an active state... or something like that. Maybe try a regular workout routine to mix things up and keep our overall stress down.", "You can certainly try exercises related to the nose because it has something to do with breathing unevenly. This ofcourse includes taking long deep breaths before you go to such meetings.", "It definitely couldn't hurt to ask a doctor. My brother had some extreme yawning as a symptom of asthma. ", "If you really can't help yawning, try practicing with your mouth closed. Flare your nostrils and breathe really deeply through your nose. It will be hard at first but just focus on thinking 'i will keep my mouth closed' and regulating your breathing. 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[ "everybody asks me for favors. Hello,\n\nTo give some background information, I’m a 27 years old software engineer with a Master’s degree and a big family. I consider myself smart and self-sufficient, in the sense that I have always been used to do everything on my own, and only ask for help in the extreme case where my capabilities really don’t allow me to accomplish something on my own. \n\nI am always busy, being studying, working or doing something productive or for personal entertainment. No matter the case, I always find something to do. Give the nature of my job, it requires concentration and focus during my chosen work hours, and I get stressed out if I have pending work or I’m getting behind on something. I don’t like losing my train of thought when programming or have tasks due (perhaps with deadlines). \n\nHaving said all this, it’s getting quite frustrating and stressful when people often ask me to do something for them, especially if it’s something silly that they could have done themselves. I don’t know if it’s just because they are dumb or lazy, but it seems the go to for solving any problem it’s always me. Why can’t they just try hard or they best to learn on their own to solve their problems, spend time solving their own issues instead of being lazy and asking me for help so often?\n\nI have tried telling them that I will teach them how to do it, but not do it for them. I have tried ignoring them occasionally, or even putting my phone on do not disturb when I feel I need to. \n\nAny advice or life tips on how to deal with these situations?", "everybody asks me for favors. Hello,\n\nTo give some background information, I’m a 27 years old software engineer with a Master’s degree and a big family. I consider myself smart and self-sufficient, in the sense that I have always been used to do everything on my own, and only ask for help in the extreme case where my capabilities really don’t allow me to accomplish something on my own. \n\nI am always busy, being studying, working or doing something productive or for personal entertainment. No matter the case, I always find something to do. Give the nature of my job, it requires concentration and focus during my chosen work hours, and I get stressed out if I have pending work or I’m getting behind on something. I don’t like losing my train of thought when programming or have tasks due (perhaps with deadlines). \n\nHaving said all this, it’s getting quite frustrating and stressful when people often ask me to do something for them, especially if it’s something silly that they could have done themselves. I don’t know if it’s just because they are dumb or lazy, but it seems the go to for solving any problem it’s always me. Why can’t they just try hard or they best to learn on their own to solve their problems, spend time solving their own issues instead of being lazy and asking me for help so often?\n\nI have tried telling them that I will teach them how to do it, but not do it for them. I have tried ignoring them occasionally, or even putting my phone on do not disturb when I feel I need to. \n\nAny advice or life tips on how to deal with these situations?", "everybody asks me for favors. Hello,\n\nTo give some background information, I’m a 27 years old software engineer with a Master’s degree and a big family. I consider myself smart and self-sufficient, in the sense that I have always been used to do everything on my own, and only ask for help in the extreme case where my capabilities really don’t allow me to accomplish something on my own. \n\nI am always busy, being studying, working or doing something productive or for personal entertainment. No matter the case, I always find something to do. Give the nature of my job, it requires concentration and focus during my chosen work hours, and I get stressed out if I have pending work or I’m getting behind on something. I don’t like losing my train of thought when programming or have tasks due (perhaps with deadlines). \n\nHaving said all this, it’s getting quite frustrating and stressful when people often ask me to do something for them, especially if it’s something silly that they could have done themselves. I don’t know if it’s just because they are dumb or lazy, but it seems the go to for solving any problem it’s always me. Why can’t they just try hard or they best to learn on their own to solve their problems, spend time solving their own issues instead of being lazy and asking me for help so often?\n\nI have tried telling them that I will teach them how to do it, but not do it for them. I have tried ignoring them occasionally, or even putting my phone on do not disturb when I feel I need to. \n\nAny advice or life tips on how to deal with these situations?", "everybody asks me for favors. Hello,\n\nTo give some background information, I’m a 27 years old software engineer with a Master’s degree and a big family. I consider myself smart and self-sufficient, in the sense that I have always been used to do everything on my own, and only ask for help in the extreme case where my capabilities really don’t allow me to accomplish something on my own. \n\nI am always busy, being studying, working or doing something productive or for personal entertainment. No matter the case, I always find something to do. Give the nature of my job, it requires concentration and focus during my chosen work hours, and I get stressed out if I have pending work or I’m getting behind on something. I don’t like losing my train of thought when programming or have tasks due (perhaps with deadlines). \n\nHaving said all this, it’s getting quite frustrating and stressful when people often ask me to do something for them, especially if it’s something silly that they could have done themselves. I don’t know if it’s just because they are dumb or lazy, but it seems the go to for solving any problem it’s always me. Why can’t they just try hard or they best to learn on their own to solve their problems, spend time solving their own issues instead of being lazy and asking me for help so often?\n\nI have tried telling them that I will teach them how to do it, but not do it for them. I have tried ignoring them occasionally, or even putting my phone on do not disturb when I feel I need to. \n\nAny advice or life tips on how to deal with these situations?" ]	[ "Put yourself first, you don’t owe them anything so you either help them when it’s convenient for YOU or don’t help at all depending on the situation. If they get offended that’s their problem and can fuck right off", "Up until now, you have unintentionally trained them to do this. It is easier for them to ask you than to do it yourself.\n\nDo you live/work with these people? If so, put a sign on your door/desk saying \"Doing deep concentration work...do not disturb until 5:00pm.\"\n\nIf you don't, then turn off your phone/put \"Do Not Disturb\" on your IMs when you don't want to be disturbed.\n\nYou can also put them off..\"I have a lot on my plate but I could do that next Tuesday.\" If you encounter this at work, then this works.\n\nOr, you can just say \"No, I am not going to unload the dishwasher for you...it is your turn.\" or \"No, I am going to work out now.\"\n\nIf the same people ask you to do the same things, then maybe you need to train them on this. \"I want you to take notes on how to do this so you will know.\" then if they ask again \"What do your notes say to do next?\"\n\nNow keep the following in mind: They don't like you changing your response. What typically happens is the \"Extinction Burst\".\n\nThey will ramp up their undesirable behavior. Think like a toddler having a stomping fit because they don't get a cookie. They may ask and bother you more...but stand firm. Eventually they will learn the new deal.", "I would make asking you for help harder than doing it e.g. taking more time to do it (Showing that you are busy with whatever you want might also help). \"Hey Could you \\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_,\" \"I would love to help, but I'm in the middle of this important thing\". I hope you can get it through, having our time owned by others with no cost is the worst", "LPT: Grow up and accept that a family helps, and is there for eachother. Maybe, just maybe, idk dont act like a dick and just help them when youre able to and theyre not? a couple of clear guidelines: not when im busy etc. and voila." ]	[ 4, 2, 2, -2 ]	safe
[ "Dog hair I'm tired of dog hair sticking to my clothes. I have a dog that sheds a lot in the spring and fall but for most of the year it's manageable. The problem is any time I lint roll my clothing it still sticks to the sweater/shirt. \n\nAny recommendations for a more efficient way to remove dog hair?", "Dog hair I'm tired of dog hair sticking to my clothes. I have a dog that sheds a lot in the spring and fall but for most of the year it's manageable. The problem is any time I lint roll my clothing it still sticks to the sweater/shirt. \n\nAny recommendations for a more efficient way to remove dog hair?" ]	[ "[This](http://www.amazon.com/KONG-ZoomGroom-Grooming-Brush-Raspberry/dp/B0002AR1A0/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1385363196&sr=8-2&keywords=kong+pet+hair+brush) is the best cost efficient grooming brush I've used. My dog sheds plenty and using this every few weeks helps considerably. It also gets most of the hair off of my clothes and furniture. ", "Take ducktape and roll it around your hand with sticky side out. Press against sweater, hair should go out." ]	[ 2, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to get maximum use out of your art degree. My best friend is studying art and is worried about pouring money and digging herself in debt to be initiated into a starving breed. Although that's usually the joke, I refuse to believe that an art degree is really that undermined and useless. So, any art degree veterans out there have any pro tips?", "How to get maximum use out of your art degree. My best friend is studying art and is worried about pouring money and digging herself in debt to be initiated into a starving breed. Although that's usually the joke, I refuse to believe that an art degree is really that undermined and useless. So, any art degree veterans out there have any pro tips?", "How to get maximum use out of your art degree. My best friend is studying art and is worried about pouring money and digging herself in debt to be initiated into a starving breed. Although that's usually the joke, I refuse to believe that an art degree is really that undermined and useless. So, any art degree veterans out there have any pro tips?", "How to get maximum use out of your art degree. My best friend is studying art and is worried about pouring money and digging herself in debt to be initiated into a starving breed. Although that's usually the joke, I refuse to believe that an art degree is really that undermined and useless. So, any art degree veterans out there have any pro tips?" ]	[ "Four time college drop out here, and that's after teaching college at the age of 16, don't get one. Doing what you love for a living is becoming a dead art form. (I can pun.) Do what makes the money that you can tolerate the most. Do what you love as a hobby so you don't go more insane then the 9 to 5 will make you and/or you already are. \n\n", "I completed my Bachelor in Fine Arts, major in illustration, in 2012. I think the best use of your arts degree is deciding what you want to do as a career in art, outline the skills you need to be successful in that job, and then position your course load to support that. \n\nFor instance, I decided in my second year I wanted to be an art director in magazines. The skills I needed for that were knowing the technology (InDesign, Photoshop, Illustrator) and how to hire and direct illustrators and photographers. I read books on magazine layout and design. I worked a couple jobs in graphic design/production before I got my foot in the door of a publisher. \n\nI have a friend who studied fine art painting, and he wanted to be a fine artist. He took courses on grant writing, internships at galleries, and fine tuning his painting technique. Theses are skills I didn't develop at all, but have not hindered me since they don't apply to my career path. \n\nAlso, I knew loads of people in art school who are no longer in the art career path. Either they decided it wasn't for them, the opportunity never worked out, or life took them in a different direction. It's not a failure to have a BFA and not be in art; you still have a higher degree which opens a lot of doors that a high school degree does not. That being said, all the people I do know who are working in a field they studied (animation, design, film, illustration) are defined by their willingness to do the work, continually improve at their craft, and aggressively seek out opportunity. ", "How do you define \"the most\". Being happy? Being rich? Those two paths can go in very different directions ", "Get a law degree and practice copyright law. You can combine a law degree with any undergrad. \n\nOr combine the art skills with digital marketing skills and get into digital marketing. America's best and brightest and working on digital marketing-art is useful in website design but, more importantly, learn search engine optimization and how to rank high in searches in Amazon, Etsy, EBay, or wherever goods and services are sold. It is a way to combine doing what you like with doing what is in demand.\n\nOr industrial design. Apple seems to sell art as much as technology.\n\nOr find someone successful with the same degree and emulate them or try to get a job with them." ]	[ 5, 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to become more disciplined/have more self control in life? How can I be better at controlling bad habits such as:\n- spending too much & saving too little\n- skipping the gym\n- eating unhealthy foods \n- not compleating homework & skipping classes\n- just being generally unproductive\n\nThanks!", "How to become more disciplined/have more self control in life? How can I be better at controlling bad habits such as:\n- spending too much & saving too little\n- skipping the gym\n- eating unhealthy foods \n- not compleating homework & skipping classes\n- just being generally unproductive\n\nThanks!", "How to become more disciplined/have more self control in life? How can I be better at controlling bad habits such as:\n- spending too much & saving too little\n- skipping the gym\n- eating unhealthy foods \n- not compleating homework & skipping classes\n- just being generally unproductive\n\nThanks!", "How to become more disciplined/have more self control in life? How can I be better at controlling bad habits such as:\n- spending too much & saving too little\n- skipping the gym\n- eating unhealthy foods \n- not compleating homework & skipping classes\n- just being generally unproductive\n\nThanks!" ]	[ "Rather than trying to change everything all at once, pick something small and focus on changing just that one thing. Committing to let's say for example \"parking in the farthest parking spot so I have to walk more\" is easier than say \"going to the gym every day\" You are less apt to fail, and will feel good about committing to something and sticking with it. Try cutting out just soda, rather than trying to stick to eating healthy all the time. Pick one expense and cut back on it, rather than trying to cut back on all.\n\nSmall changes are easier to make, and when you add them all up they make a big difference!", "Firstly self reflect and probe if you're depressed (seriously staying in bed and being unmotivated is a hint) It helped me to make positive changes by thinking about myself rather than any external glorification. Also writing out a few short term goals (i.e. jogging for 30 minutes, or reading before going to bed) in a planner may make things more \"real\" and attainable. Goodluck, you only have one life to life might as well make it as pleasing as possible. ", "Motivation comes from objectives, not from routines.\nMy only advice would be : ask yourself why you should do these things. If you find a motivation, it shouldn't become a chore to do such things.\nSource : I used to go to the gym frequently, because I wanted to get fitter. Today I study around 10 hours a day, because I love what I do.", "Don't simply think about what you want to accomplish or improve, write it down, make a draw or a scheme and read it/look at it every day." ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Deciding Where to Live I am young (20s), single and happen to work in a field which would allow me to relocate almost anywhere in the world. I currently live close to where I grew up and went to college and like it, but am curious to experience living elsewhere. \n\nIdeally, I would like to pick a place to settle down, meet someone and start a family. Given the plethora of options out there I have only a few ideas as to how to pick a place and was hoping those of you with more life experience would share your tips/thoughts for finding somewhere good\n\nI'm hoping this qualifies as an LPT post. If not, is there a better sub where I should be asking this?", "Deciding Where to Live I am young (20s), single and happen to work in a field which would allow me to relocate almost anywhere in the world. I currently live close to where I grew up and went to college and like it, but am curious to experience living elsewhere. \n\nIdeally, I would like to pick a place to settle down, meet someone and start a family. Given the plethora of options out there I have only a few ideas as to how to pick a place and was hoping those of you with more life experience would share your tips/thoughts for finding somewhere good\n\nI'm hoping this qualifies as an LPT post. If not, is there a better sub where I should be asking this?", "Deciding Where to Live I am young (20s), single and happen to work in a field which would allow me to relocate almost anywhere in the world. I currently live close to where I grew up and went to college and like it, but am curious to experience living elsewhere. \n\nIdeally, I would like to pick a place to settle down, meet someone and start a family. Given the plethora of options out there I have only a few ideas as to how to pick a place and was hoping those of you with more life experience would share your tips/thoughts for finding somewhere good\n\nI'm hoping this qualifies as an LPT post. If not, is there a better sub where I should be asking this?", "Deciding Where to Live I am young (20s), single and happen to work in a field which would allow me to relocate almost anywhere in the world. I currently live close to where I grew up and went to college and like it, but am curious to experience living elsewhere. \n\nIdeally, I would like to pick a place to settle down, meet someone and start a family. Given the plethora of options out there I have only a few ideas as to how to pick a place and was hoping those of you with more life experience would share your tips/thoughts for finding somewhere good\n\nI'm hoping this qualifies as an LPT post. If not, is there a better sub where I should be asking this?" ]	[ "This may not be a pro tip, just a suggestion. \n\nLook into Slovenia, Europe. \n\nIt's beautiful, safe, cheap, almost everybody can speak english and internet speeds are good (I live in a countryside and have 100Mbit up/down optic fibre). Temperatures are around 0°C in winter and 30°C in summer. From the capitol, using a car it's 1 hour to the sea, 1 hour to the ski resorts, 5 min to a forest. \n\nPS: I normally don't post such \"commercials\", but is seemed fitting. \n\nAlso, when you go scouting for new places, use the car as little as possible. Walk and use public transport. At least for me that is the best way to get to know a city. ", "This might not be what youre looking for, but, I live in the north east and it's pretty great. Portland, Maine is really up and coming. Tons of young people, GREAT bars and it's actually really safe. ", " Do you travel in your leisure time? What areas have you liked/ disliked? I grew up in New Orleans, and I don't know if that's necessarily the reason, but I find myself drawn to places with a lot of history and character. I also prefer big cities, because sometimes you need a good deli at 1:00am and small towns close down early. I'm not super outdoors-y but I dig the beach. And I am strongly opposed to shoveling snow. That narrows it down a lot for me. ", "Think in terms of \"scenarios\" not \"plans\". I have several scenarios running in the background for life moves. I got stuck in one state for many years but had attempted relocating to Boulder and Chicago. Neither stuck past the 1.5 year mark. \"Settling down\" is not one of my scenarios as I am intimately experienced with how a sweet market can dry up with little or no notice. My spouse and I are currently on a small tropical island enjoying the pirate life, taking a break from career, getting phds (why not? Keeps us busy). \n Each scenario gets an Evernote folder, a Google Alert, and about three hours attention per month. As interesting things hit the news regarding a scenario it gets saved into Evernote. If the island gets to be a drag we can always flip through the scenarios and see if any are ripe. " ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ " How do I get my cats to stop peeing all over everything? I have cats that are peeing on my bathroom rugs and blankets, does anyone have a solution to get them to stop (aside from euthanizing them)?", " How do I get my cats to stop peeing all over everything? I have cats that are peeing on my bathroom rugs and blankets, does anyone have a solution to get them to stop (aside from euthanizing them)?", " How do I get my cats to stop peeing all over everything? I have cats that are peeing on my bathroom rugs and blankets, does anyone have a solution to get them to stop (aside from euthanizing them)?", " How do I get my cats to stop peeing all over everything? I have cats that are peeing on my bathroom rugs and blankets, does anyone have a solution to get them to stop (aside from euthanizing them)?" ]	[ "Try changing their litter, especially if you're using scented stuff. Improper elimination is usually symptomatic of something else. I would wash the blankets/rugs with Feliway or something to get the smell out (so they don't think it's okay in the future). Might be prudent to do a vet visit if you haven't already, just to rule infections and the like. ", "My cat had the same problem(Pooping as well), and we changed his food. He hasn't had any accidents in three months.", "my cats had peeing problems until we put them on clomicalm (prescription tricyclic antidepressant that works for behavioral issues related to anxiety, turf-marking, aggression, etc). it was like night and day, they just stopped peeing outside the litterbox a day or 2 after we started the meds", "There is a product called Nature's Miracle Urine Destroyer. Use this to clean affected areas/laundry so the area won't call them back with a familiar scent. Well that's step one.\n\nStep two would be that your cats may have bladder infections. A diet of mainly dry cat food, (especially budget kind), can contribute to this. Consider going to wet food for at least one of their daily meals. Going to a vet & getting blood work done will determine this.\n\nGood luck!\n\n" ]	[ 5, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to stop every employee in a store from asking me if they can help with anything. I was in an electronics store whose name rhymes with Best Buy today, and no less than five different people came up to ask if I was looking for anything / could they help me find anything, and even when I politely said \"no thanks, I'm just browsing\" I got the extended \"if there's anything I can help you with...\" from all of them. One person asked me a second time before I left. I know that part of this is theft prevention and I'm sure they're under some pressure to sell, but there has to be some body language or other indicator that makes it clear that I want to be left alone to browse in peace. (Bonus if you know how to convince a high pressure sales person to take \"no I don't want to join your member club, thank you\" the first time I say it.)", "how to stop every employee in a store from asking me if they can help with anything. I was in an electronics store whose name rhymes with Best Buy today, and no less than five different people came up to ask if I was looking for anything / could they help me find anything, and even when I politely said \"no thanks, I'm just browsing\" I got the extended \"if there's anything I can help you with...\" from all of them. One person asked me a second time before I left. I know that part of this is theft prevention and I'm sure they're under some pressure to sell, but there has to be some body language or other indicator that makes it clear that I want to be left alone to browse in peace. (Bonus if you know how to convince a high pressure sales person to take \"no I don't want to join your member club, thank you\" the first time I say it.)", "how to stop every employee in a store from asking me if they can help with anything. I was in an electronics store whose name rhymes with Best Buy today, and no less than five different people came up to ask if I was looking for anything / could they help me find anything, and even when I politely said \"no thanks, I'm just browsing\" I got the extended \"if there's anything I can help you with...\" from all of them. One person asked me a second time before I left. I know that part of this is theft prevention and I'm sure they're under some pressure to sell, but there has to be some body language or other indicator that makes it clear that I want to be left alone to browse in peace. (Bonus if you know how to convince a high pressure sales person to take \"no I don't want to join your member club, thank you\" the first time I say it.)", "how to stop every employee in a store from asking me if they can help with anything. I was in an electronics store whose name rhymes with Best Buy today, and no less than five different people came up to ask if I was looking for anything / could they help me find anything, and even when I politely said \"no thanks, I'm just browsing\" I got the extended \"if there's anything I can help you with...\" from all of them. One person asked me a second time before I left. I know that part of this is theft prevention and I'm sure they're under some pressure to sell, but there has to be some body language or other indicator that makes it clear that I want to be left alone to browse in peace. (Bonus if you know how to convince a high pressure sales person to take \"no I don't want to join your member club, thank you\" the first time I say it.)", "how to stop every employee in a store from asking me if they can help with anything. I was in an electronics store whose name rhymes with Best Buy today, and no less than five different people came up to ask if I was looking for anything / could they help me find anything, and even when I politely said \"no thanks, I'm just browsing\" I got the extended \"if there's anything I can help you with...\" from all of them. One person asked me a second time before I left. I know that part of this is theft prevention and I'm sure they're under some pressure to sell, but there has to be some body language or other indicator that makes it clear that I want to be left alone to browse in peace. (Bonus if you know how to convince a high pressure sales person to take \"no I don't want to join your member club, thank you\" the first time I say it.)", "how to stop every employee in a store from asking me if they can help with anything. I was in an electronics store whose name rhymes with Best Buy today, and no less than five different people came up to ask if I was looking for anything / could they help me find anything, and even when I politely said \"no thanks, I'm just browsing\" I got the extended \"if there's anything I can help you with...\" from all of them. One person asked me a second time before I left. I know that part of this is theft prevention and I'm sure they're under some pressure to sell, but there has to be some body language or other indicator that makes it clear that I want to be left alone to browse in peace. (Bonus if you know how to convince a high pressure sales person to take \"no I don't want to join your member club, thank you\" the first time I say it.)", "how to stop every employee in a store from asking me if they can help with anything. I was in an electronics store whose name rhymes with Best Buy today, and no less than five different people came up to ask if I was looking for anything / could they help me find anything, and even when I politely said \"no thanks, I'm just browsing\" I got the extended \"if there's anything I can help you with...\" from all of them. One person asked me a second time before I left. I know that part of this is theft prevention and I'm sure they're under some pressure to sell, but there has to be some body language or other indicator that makes it clear that I want to be left alone to browse in peace. (Bonus if you know how to convince a high pressure sales person to take \"no I don't want to join your member club, thank you\" the first time I say it.)", "how to stop every employee in a store from asking me if they can help with anything. I was in an electronics store whose name rhymes with Best Buy today, and no less than five different people came up to ask if I was looking for anything / could they help me find anything, and even when I politely said \"no thanks, I'm just browsing\" I got the extended \"if there's anything I can help you with...\" from all of them. One person asked me a second time before I left. I know that part of this is theft prevention and I'm sure they're under some pressure to sell, but there has to be some body language or other indicator that makes it clear that I want to be left alone to browse in peace. (Bonus if you know how to convince a high pressure sales person to take \"no I don't want to join your member club, thank you\" the first time I say it.)", "how to stop every employee in a store from asking me if they can help with anything. I was in an electronics store whose name rhymes with Best Buy today, and no less than five different people came up to ask if I was looking for anything / could they help me find anything, and even when I politely said \"no thanks, I'm just browsing\" I got the extended \"if there's anything I can help you with...\" from all of them. One person asked me a second time before I left. I know that part of this is theft prevention and I'm sure they're under some pressure to sell, but there has to be some body language or other indicator that makes it clear that I want to be left alone to browse in peace. (Bonus if you know how to convince a high pressure sales person to take \"no I don't want to join your member club, thank you\" the first time I say it.)", "how to stop every employee in a store from asking me if they can help with anything. I was in an electronics store whose name rhymes with Best Buy today, and no less than five different people came up to ask if I was looking for anything / could they help me find anything, and even when I politely said \"no thanks, I'm just browsing\" I got the extended \"if there's anything I can help you with...\" from all of them. One person asked me a second time before I left. I know that part of this is theft prevention and I'm sure they're under some pressure to sell, but there has to be some body language or other indicator that makes it clear that I want to be left alone to browse in peace. (Bonus if you know how to convince a high pressure sales person to take \"no I don't want to join your member club, thank you\" the first time I say it.)", "how to stop every employee in a store from asking me if they can help with anything. I was in an electronics store whose name rhymes with Best Buy today, and no less than five different people came up to ask if I was looking for anything / could they help me find anything, and even when I politely said \"no thanks, I'm just browsing\" I got the extended \"if there's anything I can help you with...\" from all of them. One person asked me a second time before I left. I know that part of this is theft prevention and I'm sure they're under some pressure to sell, but there has to be some body language or other indicator that makes it clear that I want to be left alone to browse in peace. (Bonus if you know how to convince a high pressure sales person to take \"no I don't want to join your member club, thank you\" the first time I say it.)", "how to stop every employee in a store from asking me if they can help with anything. I was in an electronics store whose name rhymes with Best Buy today, and no less than five different people came up to ask if I was looking for anything / could they help me find anything, and even when I politely said \"no thanks, I'm just browsing\" I got the extended \"if there's anything I can help you with...\" from all of them. One person asked me a second time before I left. I know that part of this is theft prevention and I'm sure they're under some pressure to sell, but there has to be some body language or other indicator that makes it clear that I want to be left alone to browse in peace. (Bonus if you know how to convince a high pressure sales person to take \"no I don't want to join your member club, thank you\" the first time I say it.)", "how to stop every employee in a store from asking me if they can help with anything. I was in an electronics store whose name rhymes with Best Buy today, and no less than five different people came up to ask if I was looking for anything / could they help me find anything, and even when I politely said \"no thanks, I'm just browsing\" I got the extended \"if there's anything I can help you with...\" from all of them. One person asked me a second time before I left. I know that part of this is theft prevention and I'm sure they're under some pressure to sell, but there has to be some body language or other indicator that makes it clear that I want to be left alone to browse in peace. (Bonus if you know how to convince a high pressure sales person to take \"no I don't want to join your member club, thank you\" the first time I say it.)", "how to stop every employee in a store from asking me if they can help with anything. I was in an electronics store whose name rhymes with Best Buy today, and no less than five different people came up to ask if I was looking for anything / could they help me find anything, and even when I politely said \"no thanks, I'm just browsing\" I got the extended \"if there's anything I can help you with...\" from all of them. One person asked me a second time before I left. I know that part of this is theft prevention and I'm sure they're under some pressure to sell, but there has to be some body language or other indicator that makes it clear that I want to be left alone to browse in peace. (Bonus if you know how to convince a high pressure sales person to take \"no I don't want to join your member club, thank you\" the first time I say it.)" ]	[ "Well, you need to look surly and unapproachable. This still won't stop them 100%, but it can help. Facial tattoos (teardrops and swastikas++), gruff demeanor, unkempt appearance, and rarely bathing all help to this end. I mean probably. I imagine.", "As an employee at a small boutique I'm going to play devil's advocate here. A good 30% of the people I greet with a friendly \"hello\" respond with a curt and aggressive \"just looking!\"\n\nI am simply saying hello. I say hello to people on the street and to sales associates at other stores, none of whom am I trying to force sales upon. I've started responding with \"im sorry, I'm just greeting you\" and basically ignoring them for the remainder of their time in the store. So I guess that works, immediately be a total dick and disregard the fact that a sales associate is human too. If you're into that kind of thing.\n\nAlternatively, you could simply smile and respond with a quick \"no thanks\" or even a head shake. Neither of which would be any inconvenience to you and the good people can continue to do their jobs without you making them feel like total nuisances.\n\nBe nice. Try that.\n\n", "I typically have headphones on when I'm in a shop, if salespeople approach me I genuinely do not hear them, so either they see me and don't try, or they try and I don't even notice.\n\nRegarding membership things I regularly just tell people \"I'm from out of town, we don't have STORE in my area and I don't shop online.\" That usually shuts down all their suggestions, on top of being (half) true.", "Unless it's changed in the last few years Best Buy's sales model has 4 steps\n\nContact (Approach and greet customer) \nAsk Questions (see what they are shopping for) \nRecommend (tell them what you think their best option is) \nEncourage (ask if they need anything else or if they want to check out right now) \n \nSo you probably just want to find a store with lazy managers that aren't on top of their people. \n\nThe loss prevention at the door saying Hi welcome to best buy is enough contact to scare off non-pro shoplifters.\n\nI have the opposite problem in that I must look slightly official because I constantly have people approach me in public assuming I am an employee or civil servant. Then they get pissy when I politely tell them I have no idea because I don't work there.", "Remember though it isn't necessarily a store associate issue. It's usually them just doing their jobs since they're told you have to ask every customer if they need help. Even if they've been asked before.\n\nIt's irritating for the employees as well. Some companies have secret shoppers check to see if employees are asking customers if they need help. So it can be more of a paranoid thing for them.\n\nEven if it looks like a person knows what they're doing the worker has to ask. Otherwise they could get in trouble.", "In addition to possibly being theft-prevention or upselling things, a lot of store employees are under pressure from management, and management in turn from corporate, to make the store seem a much friendlier and more helpful establishment by approaching customers who either wander in too close to an employee or who appear to be lost or stuck on something in their browsing.\n\nFor many stores the greet-and-offer-assistance is literally company policy. There is not a lot you can do to really discourage it as for some employees it can seem an important part of their job that they do not want to negatively impact their performance reviews.\n\nIn my experience, the closest one can get to dissuading their approaches is to call the store after the fact and simply complain that the employees were too aggressive in their helpfulness. Sometimes this works, but don't hold your breath on it. And it is entirely possible to get people in trouble for simply doing the job they are being paid to do in the way they were told to do it.\n\nSource: I worked at Wally-World for five months. They really beat it into your head to approach every customer that passes within ten feet of you, smile, and greet them before offering assistance. They are not alone in this policy.", "stop looking like a shady bastard and/or looking lost. Pretty much ALL retail is told to look for people that look shady or lost and offer them help. theft is lowered by BOTHERING thieves and letting them know that people are there. Keeps them from getting in their \"groove\" ", "They get forced to this, I hated having to do this, everyone always says no thanks. I wish shop managers realised this just annoys people and puts them off shopping there, it doesn't help business.", "Luckily my store is small so we don't tend to have many employees on the floor at once, but we are required to greet everyone customer and offer assistance. I usually work in the printing area but if I happen to pass a customer going to or from the bathroom or something I politely ask if they need anything and tell them to let us know if they do. Then I go on and leave them alone. This all usually happens without me stopping my walk if they don't need help. If they do I take them to what they need. I try not to be pushy about it.", "Just say \"yes, I'm looking for a peephole bra and some sexy underwear...I'm a size 12\"...only works if your a guy btw.\n", "It's part of their job to ask you. Honestly, it's easier to simply refuse than to stop them from coming up to you. You could make yourself unapproachable, but then you'd look like a dick.", "I usually put headphones in and if they still come up, I pretend that I'm on the phone and answer some gibberish to the imaginary person on the other end. ", "I mostly shop online now. If I must go to a store I have a game plan to get in and out as quickly as possible and just avoid eye contact with employees so I don't seem approachable. I buy what I need and leave.", "\"can I help you find anything\"...yes you probably could....walks off\n\n\"can i help you find anything\"...I want someone who's absolutely filthy in bed with no sense of shame or dignity. Oh and they should be a gymnast too.....stares at assistant drooling slightly.\n" ]	[ 8, 8, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to quit a job without burning bridges. I currently have a job offer I can't pass up. I also currently work at a place I appreciate, with people I love, doing work I enjoy, and with management that keeps giving me more and more opportunities and responsibilities. That being said, again - I have a job offer that offers all the same and more that I can't pass up. \n\nIn the next six weeks, I'm scheduled to lead four business trips, one of which is a speaking engagement at a conference - the others of which are normal project work. My current employer has already booked flights and hotels and has \"sold me\" to the businesses/conference I'll be working with/speaking for. Furthermore - I am a department of one at the company - I carved out a new position at this company with unique sales offerings that only I can do currently. The company plans on hiring more \"me's\" in the future to expand this department - but currently I'm the only one who can complete certain deliverables we offer. \n\nI need advice:\n\n1. How do I leave this company gracefully in the next few weeks - seeing that my skipping town on the flights/hotels/speaking engagement/business trips/new department of one/etc might seem like a giant middle finger?\n\nOR\n\n2. How do I effectively work with my new employer to wait some extra time for me to let me finish out the next 6 weeks at my current work without turning them off?\n\n\n////////////////////\n", "How to quit a job without burning bridges. I currently have a job offer I can't pass up. I also currently work at a place I appreciate, with people I love, doing work I enjoy, and with management that keeps giving me more and more opportunities and responsibilities. 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How do I leave this company gracefully in the next few weeks - seeing that my skipping town on the flights/hotels/speaking engagement/business trips/new department of one/etc might seem like a giant middle finger?\n\nOR\n\n2. How do I effectively work with my new employer to wait some extra time for me to let me finish out the next 6 weeks at my current work without turning them off?\n\n\n////////////////////\n", "How to quit a job without burning bridges. I currently have a job offer I can't pass up. I also currently work at a place I appreciate, with people I love, doing work I enjoy, and with management that keeps giving me more and more opportunities and responsibilities. That being said, again - I have a job offer that offers all the same and more that I can't pass up. \n\nIn the next six weeks, I'm scheduled to lead four business trips, one of which is a speaking engagement at a conference - the others of which are normal project work. My current employer has already booked flights and hotels and has \"sold me\" to the businesses/conference I'll be working with/speaking for. Furthermore - I am a department of one at the company - I carved out a new position at this company with unique sales offerings that only I can do currently. The company plans on hiring more \"me's\" in the future to expand this department - but currently I'm the only one who can complete certain deliverables we offer. \n\nI need advice:\n\n1. How do I leave this company gracefully in the next few weeks - seeing that my skipping town on the flights/hotels/speaking engagement/business trips/new department of one/etc might seem like a giant middle finger?\n\nOR\n\n2. How do I effectively work with my new employer to wait some extra time for me to let me finish out the next 6 weeks at my current work without turning them off?\n\n\n////////////////////\n", "How to quit a job without burning bridges. I currently have a job offer I can't pass up. I also currently work at a place I appreciate, with people I love, doing work I enjoy, and with management that keeps giving me more and more opportunities and responsibilities. That being said, again - I have a job offer that offers all the same and more that I can't pass up. \n\nIn the next six weeks, I'm scheduled to lead four business trips, one of which is a speaking engagement at a conference - the others of which are normal project work. My current employer has already booked flights and hotels and has \"sold me\" to the businesses/conference I'll be working with/speaking for. Furthermore - I am a department of one at the company - I carved out a new position at this company with unique sales offerings that only I can do currently. The company plans on hiring more \"me's\" in the future to expand this department - but currently I'm the only one who can complete certain deliverables we offer. \n\nI need advice:\n\n1. How do I leave this company gracefully in the next few weeks - seeing that my skipping town on the flights/hotels/speaking engagement/business trips/new department of one/etc might seem like a giant middle finger?\n\nOR\n\n2. How do I effectively work with my new employer to wait some extra time for me to let me finish out the next 6 weeks at my current work without turning them off?\n\n\n////////////////////\n", "How to quit a job without burning bridges. I currently have a job offer I can't pass up. I also currently work at a place I appreciate, with people I love, doing work I enjoy, and with management that keeps giving me more and more opportunities and responsibilities. That being said, again - I have a job offer that offers all the same and more that I can't pass up. \n\nIn the next six weeks, I'm scheduled to lead four business trips, one of which is a speaking engagement at a conference - the others of which are normal project work. My current employer has already booked flights and hotels and has \"sold me\" to the businesses/conference I'll be working with/speaking for. Furthermore - I am a department of one at the company - I carved out a new position at this company with unique sales offerings that only I can do currently. The company plans on hiring more \"me's\" in the future to expand this department - but currently I'm the only one who can complete certain deliverables we offer. \n\nI need advice:\n\n1. How do I leave this company gracefully in the next few weeks - seeing that my skipping town on the flights/hotels/speaking engagement/business trips/new department of one/etc might seem like a giant middle finger?\n\nOR\n\n2. How do I effectively work with my new employer to wait some extra time for me to let me finish out the next 6 weeks at my current work without turning them off?\n\n\n////////////////////\n", "How to quit a job without burning bridges. I currently have a job offer I can't pass up. I also currently work at a place I appreciate, with people I love, doing work I enjoy, and with management that keeps giving me more and more opportunities and responsibilities. That being said, again - I have a job offer that offers all the same and more that I can't pass up. \n\nIn the next six weeks, I'm scheduled to lead four business trips, one of which is a speaking engagement at a conference - the others of which are normal project work. My current employer has already booked flights and hotels and has \"sold me\" to the businesses/conference I'll be working with/speaking for. Furthermore - I am a department of one at the company - I carved out a new position at this company with unique sales offerings that only I can do currently. The company plans on hiring more \"me's\" in the future to expand this department - but currently I'm the only one who can complete certain deliverables we offer. \n\nI need advice:\n\n1. How do I leave this company gracefully in the next few weeks - seeing that my skipping town on the flights/hotels/speaking engagement/business trips/new department of one/etc might seem like a giant middle finger?\n\nOR\n\n2. How do I effectively work with my new employer to wait some extra time for me to let me finish out the next 6 weeks at my current work without turning them off?\n\n\n////////////////////\n", "How to quit a job without burning bridges. I currently have a job offer I can't pass up. I also currently work at a place I appreciate, with people I love, doing work I enjoy, and with management that keeps giving me more and more opportunities and responsibilities. That being said, again - I have a job offer that offers all the same and more that I can't pass up. \n\nIn the next six weeks, I'm scheduled to lead four business trips, one of which is a speaking engagement at a conference - the others of which are normal project work. My current employer has already booked flights and hotels and has \"sold me\" to the businesses/conference I'll be working with/speaking for. Furthermore - I am a department of one at the company - I carved out a new position at this company with unique sales offerings that only I can do currently. The company plans on hiring more \"me's\" in the future to expand this department - but currently I'm the only one who can complete certain deliverables we offer. \n\nI need advice:\n\n1. How do I leave this company gracefully in the next few weeks - seeing that my skipping town on the flights/hotels/speaking engagement/business trips/new department of one/etc might seem like a giant middle finger?\n\nOR\n\n2. How do I effectively work with my new employer to wait some extra time for me to let me finish out the next 6 weeks at my current work without turning them off?\n\n\n////////////////////\n", "How to quit a job without burning bridges. I currently have a job offer I can't pass up. I also currently work at a place I appreciate, with people I love, doing work I enjoy, and with management that keeps giving me more and more opportunities and responsibilities. That being said, again - I have a job offer that offers all the same and more that I can't pass up. \n\nIn the next six weeks, I'm scheduled to lead four business trips, one of which is a speaking engagement at a conference - the others of which are normal project work. My current employer has already booked flights and hotels and has \"sold me\" to the businesses/conference I'll be working with/speaking for. Furthermore - I am a department of one at the company - I carved out a new position at this company with unique sales offerings that only I can do currently. The company plans on hiring more \"me's\" in the future to expand this department - but currently I'm the only one who can complete certain deliverables we offer. \n\nI need advice:\n\n1. How do I leave this company gracefully in the next few weeks - seeing that my skipping town on the flights/hotels/speaking engagement/business trips/new department of one/etc might seem like a giant middle finger?\n\nOR\n\n2. How do I effectively work with my new employer to wait some extra time for me to let me finish out the next 6 weeks at my current work without turning them off?\n\n\n////////////////////\n" ]	[ "Be honest. Let the new employer know that you have prior commitments that prevent you from giving a standard 2 week notice. Tell them when you can start. If they are agreeable then give notice.If they can't work with you before you start, then it gives you insight into the corporate culture and stick with your current position.", "Honestly I think it would be a huge dick move to bounce right before those obligations, plus it sounds like the trip you have planned with your current company is resume gold regardless.\n\nI'm sure the company that has offered you a position is expecting you to be a person of integrity just as much as your current employer. It's really about what you consider your brand as an asset to any company. \n\nIt's a tough conversation to have, but both parties should be informed of your situation and plans so they can react accordingly. I think it would be best to ask your standing offer what they think of the situation and see if they can be flexible with you. If they can't be flexible, inform your current employer and see what they need to do to replace you in time. If they ARE willing to be flexible, get an offer letter in writing and lock that shit down, then give notice.\n\nJust like, my opinion man.", "Couple of thoughts. First anyone in the position that you've \"built\" needs to be accountable for not leaving a company in the precarious predicament you describe. Just an employers opinion, but in essence I see your upcoming commitments as just that - commitments that you've agreed to fulfill. \n\nI will counter this however by saying that any organization that has NO plan b is setting themselves up for disappointment. Say you got sick or had an emergency. If they truthfully have no fall back position shame on them. That is risk management 101. \n\nThat said as for specific advice I would recommend alerting your new employer of you're outstanding commitments prior to accepting the position. Presuming you have not already accepted, as this will set the expectations of your full availability date up front. Then I would work with both companies to find a solution that fits (e.g consult for your existing employer on weekends or after hours during the transition - or vice-versa, continue working at your existing job full time for say four weeks and work as many hours as you can say remotely for the new employer)...\n\nLastly you mentioned how happy you are where you're at, keep in mind that while the grass can appear (or in fact be greener), you do not 100% know until you've made the change. I always recommend offering an existing employer the opportunity to match a job offer as worst case if they can't you have a clear conscience and best case it's a win-win. Good luck.", "I can't really add much to the suggestions already made - go to your new employer, negotiate up to 6 weeks and take that back to your old one and see what happens. \n\nBut, I want to flag that you need to prepare yourself for a counter offer from your current employer. If what you say is true then I imagine they'll try and keep you if they can. The best way to approach counter offers is to know why you're really leaving (cash, culture, progression, location, etc) and walk through a potential counter offer in your head. \n\nIf you'd be willing (prefer?) to stay then go to your boss and ask him/her if they'd consider more money or a promotion or whatever. If they say yes then there you go, no one need know you were offered a job elsewhere. If they say no then you can thank them, and tell them that you've been offered a job elsewhere and, realising you have commitments, you've negotiated x weeks notice if they want it. \n\nAsking first gives an opportunity to avoid any offer/counter offer situation but also gives you a view on what their real feelings are without the pressure of an imminent departure. It also means that if they then counter (after knowing you have an offer) and you accept you both know that you 'came to them first' and it helps a little with the trust issues that can persist after this kind of negotiation. \n\nOn the other hand, if you wouldn't stay no matter what they offered just hold your ground and thank them. \n\nI know that wasn't your question :) but I think it's worth being prepared. ", "You won't burn a bridge if you be honest.\n\nIf the relation with your boss was a good one, he'll definitely understand. Invite him for a coffee and say what you want to say. \"I have this huge opportunity that I can't pass up. I understand it is out of the blue. I will be very helpful to make the transition smoother. For the next weeks, if you need me I'll help you. We'll see each other again. Take care. \"\n\n\nIf he still acts as a douche, good for you. You don't want to have a bridge with some douche.", "I would just talk to my current employer immediately- the longer you wait, the more likely you are to end up screwing them over. With some advanced notice they can likely make the necessary arrangements to have someone else take over your duties, or failing that let you know how important it is for them that you stay on for a couple more weeks. At the end of the day you have to do what is best for you, but if you're just up front with both parties ahead of time it will almost certainly go smoother.", "My brother was in this same position a year ago. He had a really open, candid conversation with his current employer and they immediately matched all the terms of the new job offer. Best of both worlds. ", "It sounds like you are really, really important to your current company, and they are a growing company with potential for even more growth under your leadership. Have you considered whether or not they would be willing to match what you're being offered? I mean, I'm in management and if I had entrusted someone with the responsibility you have outlined, I would be considering them as a future leader of the company. They would be in a position where they could prove themselves and advance way beyond what they are doing currently. I would also, as most workplaces do, be underpaying them. It wouldn't be intentional, but as people advance organically, the pay doesn't always equal performance, especially in a case where a position was carved out for them.\n\nTruthfully, I can't even count the people on both hands at my company I would probably give a raise and try to match any competitor's offer if they were seriously about to leave. You may want to really think about this before you jump to a new company. Being candid and explaining you received an offer with more money/better benefits/more potential for growth isn't disrespectful. You're looking out for yourself, and I would respect that if I was your boss. I would see you as someone smart enough to shop their services, but loyal enough to give me a chance to meet their offer. If I couldn't meet their offer, I would wish you the best and still respect the way you handled your departure.\n\nDo not shaft your current employer on the things they've arranged for you. You definitely need to be open with your potential new employer and get them to agree to let you finish your commitments. If the new employer isn't willing to do that, then you need to rethink whether or not they are a good match for you.", "Heed the good advice that others have given you about being honest, particularly with the new employer. Be careful about the old employer, though. I had a similar situation to yours, and I told my new place of employment that I needed a month to tie up loose ends. I went to the president of the old company (who was a huge fan of mine and with whom I had a great working relationship), and told her what was up, and that I asked them to give me a month so that they wouldn't be left high and dry. She said that was fine, and then at the end of the first week, she told me not to come back. It definitely was a giant \"middle finger\" to me. I didn't see it coming, either. Granted, it wasn't like I needed the money, and it was nice to have a 3 week vacation, but I felt kind of betrayed when I had gone out of my way to make it as easy on them as possible.", "Okay. I'll be the bad guy. Think about this. Richard Nixon resigned with short notice and I'm pretty sure he had way more going on then you do. Time kills all deals. 6 weeks and your new company could find someone better. 6 weeks and you could get \"brainwashed\" into staying at your current company. As much as you want to believe your company \"needs you\" it not true. If you got sick or hit by a car they'd figure out how to fill your roll. Same goes for this. You should give them the standard 2 weeks notice. Help them as much as you can before you leave but remember in the end IT IS YOU THAT MATTERS AND COMES FIRST. This sounds like a important and exciting opt. for your career. Why would you jeopardize it to help a company you are leaving. Your first priority should be to yourself. It does not sound like you strung your current company along. This opportunity just came along and it's best for your career. Think about this. If there was a tragedy in your life, God forbid, would you up and leave to take care of it or would you worry about what your company was going to do without you? \nTLDR; you matter most take the job and give 2 weeks.\n\n", "The Art of Manliness has an article on that specific subject matter actually. http://www.artofmanliness.com/2013/01/30/how-to-quit-a-job-without-burning-bridges/\nI'd link this properly but I'm on Alien blue and can't remember how to do that.", "Speak to management ASAP.\n\nLike others have said, be honest. Say that you have a better job offer which you can't refuse, but understand that may put them in a difficult position, but you want to help if possible. See what they say.\n\nThey may react in a number of ways. Maybe a counteroffer to up your salary, or may get pissed off.\n\nFact of the matter is you would have been honest with them and the ball is in their court to react. If your position was so important to the company they should have:\n\n1) Tied you down to a longer notice period.\n2) Paid you enough relative to the market making it difficult for you to leave.\n\nDepending on what they say, maybe try to work out something with your new employers to see if there is a way to ease the transition of you leaving.\n\nI've been in a similar situation before and my employer upped my pay 20% and I ended up staying (even though I thought I was leaving for sure).", "I was in the same position last week. I told the new place that I would like part time hours so I can give my current employer sufficient notice. I gave them 6 weeks since there is a lot of knowledge I need to pass down. I told my boss and he said it will be a loss, but the new place will be lucky to have me on their team.\n\nMost people understand you want to grow and learn new skills. Tell them you're going to wrap up all the loose ends. \n\n\nGood luck on your new adventure!", "I started a new job a month ago. They were completely okay with me starting when I was comfortable....2 weeks?5 weeks? Whatever you need! Granted I relocated from LA to Sf but eager to get to work quickly..ended up at 3weeks", "One mistake that organizations make all the time is to do little succession planning. That is not your problem, that is their problem. However, there are steps you can take immediately to help transition:\n\nDevelop a job fact sheet\n\nWrite a rough job description for your exact position\n\nPush your employer to post for your position immediately and hope that you can be involved in the hiring process as you exit\n\nIf there are internal options, begin a mentoring process Immediately so within a month you can have someone ready to take over some of those high end clients. \n\nThese items should have policies and procedures in place already to guide you as you transition as part of their succession plan, but many orgs don't take care of these things until it is too late. \n\nGood luck! I am in the last week of a notice that I gave in a very similar situation. ", "No matter how much companies like to pretend \"we're all family\", they wouldn't think twice about laying you off if their bottom line was in jeopardy. \n\nYou need to do the same.\n\nDon't try to prolong this, or appease them in other ways. Tell them you are giving your 2 weeks notice and that's it. Period.\n\nChances are you might be looked at by some as the \"bad guy\" no matter what you do, so giving them 2 weeks or 2 months notice will not help matters, so it is not in your best interests to prolong this or burden yourself with a ton of extra work.", "Might not be relevant but some companies will walk you out immediately when you tell them you're leaving if your new employer is considered a competitor. This is the policy even if you want to stay for a while, and your local management trusts you and wants you to stay to help your replacement transition in.", "Also keep in mind that it's perfectly plausible that no matter how well you handle your departure, your boss(es) may still take it very poorly and burn the bridges themselves. I got an offer for a new job that gave me work from home flexibility with a 50% raise right after I had my first baby. I went above and beyond: giving 3 weeks notice and presenting a plan to complete a comprehensive transfer of my work to my coworkers before I left. My boss still flipped out, insulted me, and kicked me out of the building. My LPT is that bridges may be burned no matter what, but move forward with your head held high knowing you did the right thing for you(and your family) and you acted with high moral and ethical standards", "You've carved out a new position at your current employer but that can only happen with their acquiescence. The fact they've provided the opportunity for you to create a professional profile that attracts this new employer is partly due to them. I'm not down grading your own input, well done for creating this area and changing their company through your hard work. Play ball with both sides. Be open and honest. You've clearly done well in your career so far and it would be damaging to not be professional and maintain your commitments before jumping ship. If the new guys don't recognise that as an asset then you should re-evaluate whether it is a post you can't say no to. ", "Well, I had encountered a similar situation and honestly speaking, I cut some corners. Firstly, I found a doctor friend, who wrote a fake prescription stating that I was sick. Then I took the report to the employers, after which I told them that I was advised by the doctors to take a full rest, free from dust exposure for at least 6 months as I had developed the symptoms of severe asthma! Then, I promised them that I would complete all the work for the month, only after which I would leave the job. Thus, everybody got satisfied and I went to a new profession without burning bridges! \n\nAnd just to make it clear, I left the job, because it paid fairly low and I wanted to continue my Masters. ", "This is all great advice and it looks like you have a good plan. You should give us an update and let us know how it all goes!\n\nGood luck!", "The new employer didn't ask when you could start on the application or during the initial phone interview (most HR teams I've spoken with ask regardless of how good your chances are)? Or at least when they called with the offer? It just seems like something that should have been mentioned before this point...but that's future reference now.\n\nPersonally I'd talk to both, but I'd always side with the newer company. I came from an agency where I was in a similar position and I was able to leave gracefully by just telling them as soon as I knew. Granted that only gave them about 3.5 weeks but my new employer completely understood. In your case I'd say try to see if anyone can replace you outside of the conference (that's a tough one to bail on). If nobody can replace you that's an issue for your current company not having risk management in place.\n\nYou can see if they'll give you 6 weeks but it's better to create a smooth transition into your new job than out of your old. Do what you can for your current company within reason, but it's on to the next.", "Sounds like you are trying to do the right thing, and your new employer should be willing to work with you. I just thought I'd point out that at times like this you may see your old employer's true colors if they lack integrity. I decided to return to school a few years ago and knew I would have to step down from my position working 50+ hours a week to do it. I told my boss about 6 months ahead of time because I didn't want him to hear second hand and think I was going to do him wrong. A month later he demoted me for bs reasons, which could've really messed up my financial planning for when I was school, and it wound up being a stupid move for him. Hopefully your current employer isn't such a prick, but don't forget those kinds of ass holes are out there.", "People leaving companies is a fact of business life. \nYour current job responsibilities include not minimize the harm to the company from your activities (say, if you get on a vacation, you make sure that your absence is not too impacting). \nSame thing here: be responsible and professional. Once your decision is made (and you have a sure proposal from the other side), see how to minimize the impact: how realistic is it to train someone to take over? would --they feel better-- it be preferable for the company that somebody else goes to the conferences? etc \nThe client should also understand, because it can happen to them too. \nDont feel bad about continuing your activities, including travels, you are still working for them. \nI dont think the second option is possible, for the same kind of reasons: once you work for the next company, your attention should be on them.", "Offer 6-8 weeks notice with your current employer. Indicate you have a new opportunity that you feel you can't pass up but don't want to leave the current employer in the lurch regarding current/planned schedules. They may accept, they may try to negotiate, they may escort you to the door immediately, but at least you will have been honest and professional.\n\nTell new employer that you have responsibilities that require more than 2 weeks notice, ask if you can start with them in 2 months or so (yes, 8 weeks or even a little more). This gives you some flexibility. They too may accept, try to negotiate or decline. If they try either of the latter, try to work with them, but as you said, you don't want to burn your bridges.\n\nI've left several jobs with more or less success at not burning bridges. My worst was I offered 2 weeks notice, they escorted me out the door immediately. Changed their minds and called me back in for 1 week to transition my projects, but had IT cancel my keycard access (I had to borrow a keycard every time I needed to use a washroom) and duplicated all my incoming and outgoing emails (presumably they were reading through them all to find out if I was going to try to steal any clients). A different company accepted my resignation gracefully, gave me a parting gift and, almost 4 years later, accepted me back (and, ever since, has been happy to have the contacts and information I made at the other employer). In this case, I left a consulting job for one in industry, then went back to consulting...so the two employers were in no way competitors or even in overlapping fields of business, that helped.", "Make it a positive event not negative. Make it something everyone can take some cr", "It's business. Your current company is responsible for its own operation. Do what is good for you, trust me it would be the same in the other direction. You are going to burn a few bridges no matter what, but you could still get references from a few closer coworkers.", "Is it possible to talk to your old employer to move you to a partial time employee so you can still go to these commitments and help them out and then start with your new employer and kind of transition both jobs at once? Kind of like a one day here and one day there kind of thing.\n\nIt is my guess that your current employer wants you to finish these commitments and the new employer wants to get you in as soon as possible to start learning your new job. With this way you can still finish your old job, but also start your new job. Although, you wouldn't get a fast start it would get you started sooner. ", "If the new job is important to you go for it full force and if it means leaving suddenly if you have to then do so. Corporate loyalty looks good in theory, but on the flip, if it was not profitable to keep you, the place you currently work for would drop you. Do whats best for you. Don't let etiquette cut you off from possibilities. ", "I'm sorry, but in order to fight spam, we require submitters to have more karma. Consider participating in the comment sections of our subreddit to build up the karma you need to post here. Thanks for understanding! <3\n\n\nI am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/LifeProTips) if you have any questions or concerns.", "I'm just an inexperienced college kid working on an IT degree. So I don't have any advice for you. But I genuinely hope that you'd turns out well for you. I understand the need to accept the better career path. I also understand the benefit of having a good relationship with previous employers. ", "I'm being honest here, unless you live in a small town where everyone knows everyone, or you're in an industry so niche that everyone also knows everyone, why would you care about burning bridges? As an employer your personality is actually pretty low on my list of reasons to hire you. All I care about is that you make me more money than you cost me. Turnover at my job is quite high (it's hard, physically demanding work). If you ask me to name just five former employees off the top of my head, I can't. \n\nI have burned, no, doused in gasoline and set ablaze more bridges than I can remember. I had a successful consulting business and one day decided screw this and told every single customer that I am leaving the business, effectively immediately, and changed my phone number twice in the following six months. \n\nI don't regret any of it. I am so far above where I was at that time it doesn't even matter.\n\n\n", "I was in a similar position to you. Believe me when I tell you this: any manager worth their salt understands that this is how things work. People leave jobs all the time, and honestly, when will it ever be a \"convenient\" time for you to leave? \n\nHelping the company to transition when you leave is why managers exist. You may see it as burdening him or her, but dealing with something like this literally is their job.", "I recently went through a similar transition with my jobs. I have been working with an office supply store since November, but only in a part time position. I have grown to love my coworkers and boss almost like a family. When an opportunity came up at the. Dry Cleaners I decided to take it and my other boss was fully supportive, working around my schedule. \n\nTwo weeks later, a new restaurant opened in town. Now I went to Bartending school a little over a year ago, and this new place hired me on instantly. When I had to choose between the Cleaners and the office supply store for my second job, my manager at the office supply store begged me to stay and offered to work around my restaurant schedule to accommodate me completely. My boss at the Cleaners was sad to lose me, but I gave him enough notice and am even bringing in one of my friends for him to potentially hire as a way to ease the blow of me leaving so quickly. \n\nAt first I felt guilty, but then I remembered my boss at the cleaners made me dig through vomit my first week back (I have been with the company off and on for years). Good luck with your new job, OP! I hope you find your happiness no matter what happens. :)", "I literally just did this in a job switch two months ago.\n\nI was on a project team rebuilding an entire manufacturing plant and had a month left in the project when the offer came in. I wrestled with your exact situation.\n\nI had mentioned the commitment up front in the interview so it wasn't a surprise, and then pushed back on the start date in the offer letter. I simply said that I couldn't leave in less time because i was committed to finishing up this project. They worked with me on the start date and even though it was a compromise that pulled me away a little early, my current employer appreciated that I had delayed on their behalf. I believe you can still do 3/4ths of your scheduled trips and still leave on a high note.\n\nBefore this, I asked around for advice and the most common one was that the new employer should see it as a good thing that you want to do right by your current employer, and that's what I experienced. It shows you're thoughtful and committed, and feel an obligation to your work. In the end, I got nearly the start date I wanted and got them to increase the salary to my number. All of that was just asking nicely, and there was no difficult negotiation.\n\nBUT, I called my future manager directly to speak with him after the recruiter pushed back on my asks. She was clearly afraid to pass along my requests, but my new manager was completely open to them. Dealing directly with him turned it into a single phone call to hammer out all the details and get a new offer letter issued.\n\nAs for how I announced it; I was on a major project run by a coworker but my manager was in another state. Even so, I told my direct manager first, and then the project lead, then the team members. I spent a day playing phone tag with my manager but still didn't announce until I had spoken directly to him first. That approach felt the most proper and everyone seemed to feel respected.\n\nMy current manager was appreciative of the lengthy notice, and said so a few times even on the initial phone call. Everyone else was happy for me, some slightly impressed that I had asked for more than 2 weeks and one guy couldn't understand why I wouldn't leave immediately - so expect a range of reactions. But overall positive.\n\nI've since emailed with my old manager and coworkers several times and the good vibes are still there. I'm even getting dinner later this month with an old coworker and his wife.\n\nIt can be done, and I think your thoughtfulness will come through to both employers. Be prepared for a start date somewhere between two and six weeks - its a negotiation after all, but as long as you give your company time to put the house in order, there should be no hard feelings. Everyone switches jobs at some point, so everyone should understand and wish you well.\n\nPlease excuse me if you already know this, but be prepared for HR to walk you off site the day you announce. I was lucky in that I was going to a non-competing company, but HR decides if keeping you on is a risk to the company. Your manager will have to tell them immediately of your announcement, then HR acts accordingly. So that's another risk you have to weigh - being unemployed for those six weeks, or calling back your new employer with a \"just kidding!\" Be prepared for both.\n\nOther than that, I wish you the best!", "I joined the military and gave my job 4 months notice, still burned bridges... you cant expect it to work out all the time i guess =/", "I had this issue one time, but the HR manager from the company that I was leaving told me straight up \"Listen, no one can ever frown on you seeking a better opportunity\". That is the attitude to have and stick with that reason because no one can make you feel bad, sad or be mad at you for it. ", "Failsafe method of \"leaving\" a job gracefully:\n\na) Advise employer that you wish to return to school/hobby/other commitment in a more serious fashion\n\nb) Advise employer that you will be available in an on call manner only in whatever time period you have decided on\n\nc) Thank employer for understanding\n\nd) Never actually quit - just don't go back if you decide not to go back. You're on call and you can say no if you want/need to. If you decide to try to go back, casually call them up out of the blue and let them know that you have some free time available and you'd be happy to put in some work for them if they need you.", "Do you want to go to the conference? You could talk to both your employers. Let the old one known you've found a new job. Let the new one know you can start after your two weeks notice, but you've got a commitment to your old employer and you need x days off to attend a conference that you're booked at.\n\nIf they don't go for it, it really shows you that they don't care much about your commitments. If they do let you go, they'll be Impressed with your dedication to your work, and they'll be demonstrating that they actually care about their employees' lives outside the company.", "Can I have your old job? sounds like a nice company to work for and I'm super board at my company after 7 years. Seems like we're only doing maintenance.", "As you seem to be enjoying your current job start by let your current employer know the reasons that you are leaving. Thank your current employer for everything that they have done for you. Be gracious about leaving and if anyone at work other than your boss asks why you are leaving tell them that you couldn't have got the new job without all the help and support that your current job gave you. \n\nMost importantly work off your notice like you still want to impress your current boss. Tie up any loose ends and make sure you pass on anything important that you do to whoever is taking over or covering your role.", ">\"sold me\" to the businesses/conference I'll be working with/speaking for.\n\nAre there \"brand\" issues to consider?\n\nBut otherwise, I agree with others, be as upfront as possible, with enough lead time for all parties.", "> How do I leave this company gracefully in the next few weeks - seeing that my skipping town on the flights/hotels/speaking engagement/business trips/new department of one/etc might seem like a giant middle finger?\n\nYou don't. When people say that making yourself irreplaceable is job security, that idea cuts both ways. If you leave now, you're royally screwing your employer.", "Two weeks and goodbye. You're leaving for whatever reasons and that's it, be nice about it but remember you don't owe your current employer anything \"extra\".", "I would like to start by explain my qualifications for answering the questing. I have been a recruiter for the past year and a half and have asked 70 people to leave their jobs for new/better ones. I deal with this every day and it is not a singular answer. This is a multi-situation answer. A good amount of people have said \"Be honest\", or talked about \"counter-offers\" but really it has to do with what you expect your current employer to do. This is what I talk about daily with my Candidates who have accepted a new roll.\n\nThe most important thing to consider is that an interview for a new company and an exit interview to your current will do a good deal of Bridge Burning prevention. You should always make your exit concerns and problem to your current employer about what the NEW opportunity can offer and how it aligns with your needs and goals... not how much your current employer sucks.\n\n1) Ask your NEW company if you can put a 2 weeks notice in.\nMost people ASSUME that companies will give you the ability to give 2 weeks notice to your current company without asking. Not all companies can afford to wait 2 weeks without a person in the seat and they will need to find some one ASAP. (This also reflects upon your new employer if they cannot afford you to give a notice on how they run their business)\n2) Use the past as a good example for the future. \nWhen some one in your office put their 2 week notice in did they walk them to the door or did they work out their 2 weeks? If they walked them out, then their may be a good chance they would do the same to you. 1 event is difficult to judge off of but the frequency of walk out make it more clear.\n3) How close are you with your Manager? If you told him the circumstance, would he expect a week? 2 weeks? A resignation? \n4) Burning Bridges is something that can happen with just a few POORLY placed woods. Prepare you 2 weeks notice as if it was a speech you were giving to a crowed. Right it down to help. \n5) Counter-offers are carrots on a stick for your employer, or a powerplay for yourself.\nIf this move to a new job is something that you want you need to keep that in your mind at all times. If you would LOVE to stay and you just need more money and are planning on making a power play to get a counter-off... be prepared not to get one. \n\nTLDR: Leaving a job is not easy... ", "Be professional, keep it brief, do not get emotional, do not send out a company-wide blast, do not write an emotional goodbye letter and post in the employee social area, etc. Send email, subject title: \"Two Week Notice,\" body of email: \"Hi Bob - I am putting in my two week notice. Thank you for the opportunity to work here.\" Hit send. Work hard your last two weeks, wrap things up, pack up your stuff, and exit on the last day with a smile on your way out. Be grateful for your previous role and be grateful for your next opportunity.", "\"The grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence.\".....just some old guy with 50 years work experience.", "Scrawl \"your family are bang in trouble\" on your bosses desk in human excrement, instead of the usual \"fuck you\". Makes you look more creative, which the boss might use in your reference." ]	[ 1597, 177, 72, 52, 19, 19, 9, 5, 5, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0, -1, -3 ]	safe
[ "How in the world can I deal with these darn weeds?! So it seems the previous owner of this house was trying to start a dandy lion farm; it's simply terrible. I don't have the cash to dig up the lawn and re-sod it. Any other ideas my friends? - My Yard: http://imgur.com/cPbCw", "How in the world can I deal with these darn weeds?! So it seems the previous owner of this house was trying to start a dandy lion farm; it's simply terrible. I don't have the cash to dig up the lawn and re-sod it. Any other ideas my friends? - My Yard: http://imgur.com/cPbCw", "How in the world can I deal with these darn weeds?! So it seems the previous owner of this house was trying to start a dandy lion farm; it's simply terrible. I don't have the cash to dig up the lawn and re-sod it. Any other ideas my friends? - My Yard: http://imgur.com/cPbCw", "How in the world can I deal with these darn weeds?! So it seems the previous owner of this house was trying to start a dandy lion farm; it's simply terrible. I don't have the cash to dig up the lawn and re-sod it. Any other ideas my friends? - My Yard: http://imgur.com/cPbCw", "How in the world can I deal with these darn weeds?! So it seems the previous owner of this house was trying to start a dandy lion farm; it's simply terrible. I don't have the cash to dig up the lawn and re-sod it. Any other ideas my friends? - My Yard: http://imgur.com/cPbCw" ]	[ "I would recommend lasagna gardening/sheet mulching/flattening newspaper and old cardboard boxes over the area and keeping that area sufficiently suffocated from the light. In time, the paper products will break down and become part of the soil, but in the mean time it kills anything that it denies sunlight to.", "The easiest way to get rid of them is to get a herbicide containing 2,4-d and dicamba. Put a few drops of dawn dish soap in the mix as a dispersing agent and apply according to the labeled rate. The dandelions will die and you can start improving your lawn. \n\nYou cant eat them if you do it this way...but I have always found them to be bitter anyhow. ", "[do some research]( http://www.google.com/#hl=en&sugexp=eqn%2Ccconf%3D0.95%2Cmin_length%3D2%2Crate_low%3D0.015%2Crate_high%3D0.015&gs_nf=1&cp=16&gs_id=1b&xhr=t&q=get+rid+of+dandelions&pf=p&sclient=psy-ab&oq=get+rid+of+dandi&aq=0s&aqi=g-s4&aql=f&gs_l=&pbx=1&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.r_qf.,cf.osb&fp=dc9cc33573f5cc7e&biw=1366&bih=571)", "Ortho Weed b gon max. I use it in the early fall and spring. Then a regular weed and feed regimen spring through summer. Weed b gon max kills weeds and keeps the creeping charlie and crabgrass at bay. The regular feeding regimen keeps the grass healthy which keeps the weeds from growing. ", "Assuming you don't want to go agent orange on them, the best defense against weeds in turf is strong turf. Be providing your lawn with optimal growing conditions, the grass will eventually win out over the weeds. In the mean while, you can get good exercise digging them out. Set a goal of spending 15 minutes a day or digging a certain number of weeds per day. You'll have them out in short order. I recommend getting [one of these](http://www.amazon.com/Fiskars-7870-Uproot-Garden-Weeder/dp/B0030MIHAU/)." ]	[ 5, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "What's the best way to find decent jobs on Indeed or LinkedIn? My main websites to job hunt is Indeed and LinkedIn. The problem is I keep seeing the same jobs over and over again. For example, I searched \"Administrative assistant\" ONCE, and now all I see are administrative-related jobs. How can I stop this from happening? I feel like I'm missing out on other job postings because Indeed (and LinkedIn) keeps showing me the same things. Is there a way to use these websites more effectively?", "What's the best way to find decent jobs on Indeed or LinkedIn? My main websites to job hunt is Indeed and LinkedIn. The problem is I keep seeing the same jobs over and over again. For example, I searched \"Administrative assistant\" ONCE, and now all I see are administrative-related jobs. How can I stop this from happening? I feel like I'm missing out on other job postings because Indeed (and LinkedIn) keeps showing me the same things. Is there a way to use these websites more effectively?" ]	[ "Indeed sucked so badly for me. \n\nThe best way is to actually go on company websites to see if they have job postings available, or to phone the company itself and inquire. \n\nThen submit your information with the method they convey.", "\nI'm assuming you don't use the indeed app to search. \n\nYou could clear your history and cookies, this will erase any stored information these sites have regarding your last visit and search terms. \n\nOr use a different browser if you would rather keep the history and cookies already stored by that browser. \n\nIt also depends on whether you logged into an account on the sites before searching. \n\nIndeed has quite a few filters, that should allow you to narrow down searches and omit results depending on the length of time since your last search. \n\nI don't use linkedIn so I can't really comment on it. \n\nIf you do use the indeed app, you could try going to settings\\apps\\indeed\\storage\\ on your device and then clear the cache. This is similar to removing the cookies and history of a browser. \n\nIf you clear the data also you may need to log into the account you created. As clearing data erases a lot more information stored by the app. \n\nHope it helps." ]	[ 3, 3 ]	safe
[ "How to stop using curse words as much I literally say the F word (and other various words) almost every other sentence. I hate it and I seriously think it's one of the reasons I'm still single.", "How to stop using curse words as much I literally say the F word (and other various words) almost every other sentence. I hate it and I seriously think it's one of the reasons I'm still single." ]	[ "A couple of things that come to mind:\n* Wear a fairly thick rubber band on your wrist; every time you catch yourself saying it, snap the rubber band.\n* If your friends also curse a lot, start holding each other accountable; if they don't have them start yelling at you every time you cuss.\n\nDo Not use substitute words (ex: frack, frick, etc) - you're just trading one crutch for another. \n\nGood luck! ", "Try to imagine that your grandma or potential employer is in the room perhaps? Maybe think more about what you're saying, and wonder if it needs so much energy/enthusiasm to merit a \"F word\". If you enjoyed the pizza for example, would a \"that was some great pizza!\" be enough, or does it really need a \"that was some great F'ing pizza!\"" ]	[ 6, 2 ]	safe
[ "What's a good class or course to socialize more? I'm almost becoming a hermit... from house to work and back again. \n\nAt work I have few and limited interactions.\n\nI want to do something and know people...", "What's a good class or course to socialize more? I'm almost becoming a hermit... from house to work and back again. \n\nAt work I have few and limited interactions.\n\nI want to do something and know people...", "What's a good class or course to socialize more? I'm almost becoming a hermit... from house to work and back again. \n\nAt work I have few and limited interactions.\n\nI want to do something and know people...", "What's a good class or course to socialize more? I'm almost becoming a hermit... from house to work and back again. \n\nAt work I have few and limited interactions.\n\nI want to do something and know people...", "What's a good class or course to socialize more? I'm almost becoming a hermit... from house to work and back again. \n\nAt work I have few and limited interactions.\n\nI want to do something and know people..." ]	[ "if you mean a college course, I highly recommend Interpersonal Communications! the point is to teach you to seek out the humanity in others, which makes it easier for you to be open and communicate with anybody, and also helps you brush up on your social skills to become an \"effective communicator\". a lot of the course focuses on one-on-one or small group communicating tasks with the other students.\n\nOtherwise, I think any class that is of interest to you is a good one! That way, you already have at least one thing in common with everyone there and a freebie conversation starter (ex: in a painting class, \"wow, your painting looks great! how long have you been painting for?\")\n\nif you're over the legal drinking age, going to a bumping local bar might be a fun idea", "Volunteering! Something like a Lions Club is a great way tho spend time with people and get to know them", "Volunteer at a soup kitchen, food pantry, children's hospital, nursing home, dog shelter, etc. Get some social contact, do some good!", "See what kind of classes your local library offers. They're generally free and a good source of social interaction. ", "If you like fitness and money is not too much of an issue, try crossfit, poledancing, or if into running you may find a local group that trains for marathons. If fitness is not your thing, there maybe groups in your area that meet up for dnd or pathfinder. " ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I keep my plastic framed glasses from slipping all of the time? I have an oily T-zone, so my glasses are constantly sliding down my nose. Any tips?", "How do I keep my plastic framed glasses from slipping all of the time? I have an oily T-zone, so my glasses are constantly sliding down my nose. Any tips?", "How do I keep my plastic framed glasses from slipping all of the time? I have an oily T-zone, so my glasses are constantly sliding down my nose. Any tips?" ]	[ "Wash the bridge of your glasses, and your nose with bar soap. Interestingly enough this actually dries out the skin, and will help keep your glasses from slipping.\n\nWorks for guitarists with sweaty fingers too.", "Try to find some sort of rubbery glue at a craft store, something that will dry clear but still be gummy like the shit they use to glue free samples onto cardboard adverts.", "If they're slipping off your nose they're not properly fitted. The place you got them should be able to adjust the way it wraps around your ears. Basically making them tighter around your ears. I was able to do this with a nice pair of sunglasses with plastic frames." ]	[ 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "things to do while commuting I spend +2 hours on the bus every day and get dizzy if I read or stare at a screen. I can't always get a seat either. What are some fun or useful things one can do while commuting that don't require focusing my eyes on something, standing up or sitting?", "things to do while commuting I spend +2 hours on the bus every day and get dizzy if I read or stare at a screen. I can't always get a seat either. What are some fun or useful things one can do while commuting that don't require focusing my eyes on something, standing up or sitting?", "things to do while commuting I spend +2 hours on the bus every day and get dizzy if I read or stare at a screen. I can't always get a seat either. What are some fun or useful things one can do while commuting that don't require focusing my eyes on something, standing up or sitting?", "things to do while commuting I spend +2 hours on the bus every day and get dizzy if I read or stare at a screen. I can't always get a seat either. What are some fun or useful things one can do while commuting that don't require focusing my eyes on something, standing up or sitting?" ]	[ "Invest in a good set of headphones and download podcasts, music, audiobooks, etc.\n\nMinimal screen time and there is so much great material out there to listen to. ", "Youversion bible app. It had an option to read out loud to you. I usually pray in the way to work and call people on the way home. ", "Checkout OverDrive. It is a digital library, with audio books and digital books. They have almost eveybook you can think of for free. I am currently listing to Game of Thrones", "Start learning a new language, if you can spend 30-60 minutes each day on language lessons then you should make good progress.\n\nHaving 2-3 functional languages is a marketable skill.\n\nI have to second audio books. Not just fiction though look into self improvement and practical psychology and management development. Learn to talk the talk, it may help you to walk the walk if you want to develop your career. " ]	[ 9, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to overcome a strong gag reflex. I've always had the worst gag reflex and it's caused me some problems. \n\nI can't swallow pills or I almost throw up/choke. \n\nWhen I go to the doctor and get asked for a throat swab, I refuse. Today I tried to do it and threw up all over the doctors even though I tried hard to hold it down.\n\nHELP ME REDDIT!", "How to overcome a strong gag reflex. I've always had the worst gag reflex and it's caused me some problems. \n\nI can't swallow pills or I almost throw up/choke. \n\nWhen I go to the doctor and get asked for a throat swab, I refuse. Today I tried to do it and threw up all over the doctors even though I tried hard to hold it down.\n\nHELP ME REDDIT!", "How to overcome a strong gag reflex. I've always had the worst gag reflex and it's caused me some problems. \n\nI can't swallow pills or I almost throw up/choke. \n\nWhen I go to the doctor and get asked for a throat swab, I refuse. Today I tried to do it and threw up all over the doctors even though I tried hard to hold it down.\n\nHELP ME REDDIT!", "How to overcome a strong gag reflex. I've always had the worst gag reflex and it's caused me some problems. \n\nI can't swallow pills or I almost throw up/choke. \n\nWhen I go to the doctor and get asked for a throat swab, I refuse. Today I tried to do it and threw up all over the doctors even though I tried hard to hold it down.\n\nHELP ME REDDIT!", "How to overcome a strong gag reflex. I've always had the worst gag reflex and it's caused me some problems. \n\nI can't swallow pills or I almost throw up/choke. \n\nWhen I go to the doctor and get asked for a throat swab, I refuse. Today I tried to do it and threw up all over the doctors even though I tried hard to hold it down.\n\nHELP ME REDDIT!", "How to overcome a strong gag reflex. I've always had the worst gag reflex and it's caused me some problems. \n\nI can't swallow pills or I almost throw up/choke. \n\nWhen I go to the doctor and get asked for a throat swab, I refuse. Today I tried to do it and threw up all over the doctors even though I tried hard to hold it down.\n\nHELP ME REDDIT!", "How to overcome a strong gag reflex. I've always had the worst gag reflex and it's caused me some problems. \n\nI can't swallow pills or I almost throw up/choke. \n\nWhen I go to the doctor and get asked for a throat swab, I refuse. Today I tried to do it and threw up all over the doctors even though I tried hard to hold it down.\n\nHELP ME REDDIT!", "How to overcome a strong gag reflex. I've always had the worst gag reflex and it's caused me some problems. \n\nI can't swallow pills or I almost throw up/choke. \n\nWhen I go to the doctor and get asked for a throat swab, I refuse. Today I tried to do it and threw up all over the doctors even though I tried hard to hold it down.\n\nHELP ME REDDIT!", "How to overcome a strong gag reflex. I've always had the worst gag reflex and it's caused me some problems. \n\nI can't swallow pills or I almost throw up/choke. \n\nWhen I go to the doctor and get asked for a throat swab, I refuse. Today I tried to do it and threw up all over the doctors even though I tried hard to hold it down.\n\nHELP ME REDDIT!" ]	[ "Take your non-dominant hand, and then make it into a very tight fist. Make sure that your thumb is on the inside of the fist, or it won't work.", "sit down, put your left foot in the air (maybe right? also not ridiculously high just kind of hovering off the ground) and breathe through your nose not your mouth.\n\n", "All you have to do is pinch your nose. Think of it as though you had a bloody nose and were trying to stop the bleeding. \n\nMy brother and I were walking on our farm and he was carrying a cup of coffee. He took a drink and started gagging and vomiting instantly. We rushed to the doctor. He gagged once as the doctor used a dental mirror to see what was up. It turns out he had swallowed a foxtail that had gotten into his coffee cup and it was lodged in his throat--digging in deeper. The doctor retrieved some enormous, curved tweezers and my brother said, \"Stop! I'll gag and then vomit everywhere\". The doctor said, No you won't, just pinch your nose\". The doctor worked for at least a few minutes getting small pieces of the foxtail and my brother didn't gag once. \n\n I use this method every time I get a throat swab and sometimes for dental work. \n\nWorks every time. \n\nLet us know how it works. ", "A LPT not too long ago, for helping gag reflex, was to while brushing your tongue try to slowly make your way to the back of your throat until you gag. I've never tried it but it may help you. \n\n", "Breathe through your nose. No joke intended.\n\n\nI usually gag when i get x-rays at the dentist and one time they told me to breathe through my nose so i dont gag n it worked. U kind of have to concentrate on the nose breathing instead of the \"oh shit im gunna gag\" once u get the hang of it, it works great", "I read somewhere that sprinkling a few grains of salt on your tongue before something like that reduces your gag reflex. Not sure if it works at all, never really had an issue with mine, but it sounds like it could have potential. ", "I read a while ago that clenching your non-dominant hand into a fist with the thumb firmly pressed against the index finger helps to counter-act gag reflex, and thus far, it always helps me when I'm tongue-scraping.", "For pills, I take a drink first, then put the pill in my mouth and swallow quickly. For other times, right as you feel the gag coming, swallow. Keep swallowing until the feeling goes away. Might not work for the throat swabbing, though. ", "Don't blink. If you don't blink it helps you to not throw up (according to my doctor last time I had a throat swab)" ]	[ 21, 6, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Going back to a job you left on good terms. So recently I left my job to pursue another job that paid more. Well I have being working here for a week and I am just not feeling it. Its a totally different area of work from my previous job and I cant adapt to it. The people who work there are friendly and helpful but I just dont see myself doing this everyday. At my previous job, I got along with everyone and knew how to do the job. The only problem was that the pay was too low and I wasn't making enough for someone at my age. So my question is: How awkward would it be to ask my old manager if I could be rehired and what are the chances I would get a higher pay? ", "Going back to a job you left on good terms. So recently I left my job to pursue another job that paid more. Well I have being working here for a week and I am just not feeling it. Its a totally different area of work from my previous job and I cant adapt to it. The people who work there are friendly and helpful but I just dont see myself doing this everyday. At my previous job, I got along with everyone and knew how to do the job. The only problem was that the pay was too low and I wasn't making enough for someone at my age. So my question is: How awkward would it be to ask my old manager if I could be rehired and what are the chances I would get a higher pay? ", "Going back to a job you left on good terms. So recently I left my job to pursue another job that paid more. Well I have being working here for a week and I am just not feeling it. Its a totally different area of work from my previous job and I cant adapt to it. The people who work there are friendly and helpful but I just dont see myself doing this everyday. At my previous job, I got along with everyone and knew how to do the job. The only problem was that the pay was too low and I wasn't making enough for someone at my age. So my question is: How awkward would it be to ask my old manager if I could be rehired and what are the chances I would get a higher pay? ", "Going back to a job you left on good terms. So recently I left my job to pursue another job that paid more. Well I have being working here for a week and I am just not feeling it. Its a totally different area of work from my previous job and I cant adapt to it. The people who work there are friendly and helpful but I just dont see myself doing this everyday. At my previous job, I got along with everyone and knew how to do the job. The only problem was that the pay was too low and I wasn't making enough for someone at my age. So my question is: How awkward would it be to ask my old manager if I could be rehired and what are the chances I would get a higher pay? ", "Going back to a job you left on good terms. So recently I left my job to pursue another job that paid more. Well I have being working here for a week and I am just not feeling it. Its a totally different area of work from my previous job and I cant adapt to it. The people who work there are friendly and helpful but I just dont see myself doing this everyday. At my previous job, I got along with everyone and knew how to do the job. The only problem was that the pay was too low and I wasn't making enough for someone at my age. So my question is: How awkward would it be to ask my old manager if I could be rehired and what are the chances I would get a higher pay? ", "Going back to a job you left on good terms. So recently I left my job to pursue another job that paid more. Well I have being working here for a week and I am just not feeling it. Its a totally different area of work from my previous job and I cant adapt to it. The people who work there are friendly and helpful but I just dont see myself doing this everyday. At my previous job, I got along with everyone and knew how to do the job. The only problem was that the pay was too low and I wasn't making enough for someone at my age. So my question is: How awkward would it be to ask my old manager if I could be rehired and what are the chances I would get a higher pay? " ]	[ "Since you are/were all on good terms there is a solid chance you could go back. Higher pay honestly depends on the boss, and how good of a worker you were.\n\nWhen I left one of my jobs a few years ago to pursue a higher paying one so I could save for university, my then boss was super understanding. For a good 4 months after I left he kept asking me to come back, with the promise of a raise. While he has stopped pestering me about it, the offer still stands.\n\nPoint being, just be up front with your old boss about it. Say you'd really like to come back, but at your old wage it just isn't possible, and see where it leads. :)", "Try this one: \"I would like to know if you are interested in having me back. As you know, I left because of my pay rate. I would be interested in returning for the rate of...(say rate). If you are interested, you have offer and I look forward to hearing back from you.\"", "My first advice, don't go back. Just look for another job.\n\nIf you do go back wait a year or two.\n\nI left a company I liked working for to move across country for family reasons. Three years later my old boss called me to interview at a new office in another city.\n\nWe were friends so I went but, I didn't really want to take the job. Besides, I was making almost double my old salary.\n\nI killed them in the interview. I knew the company was cheap so, I figured my way out was to ask for too much money. My old boss offered 25℅ more than I asked for, a signing bonus, and a generous relocation package. Couldn't say no.\n\nThe reason I was so much more valuable was, my time away working with other companies greatly diversified my experience. When I went back, I was much more effective than before.", "It's not awkward if your previous manager doesn't think it's awkard. Does your job role/position still exist at your previous work place?\n\nI went through a very similar situation many years ago. Left for a job with higher pay and rank. Hated it from the first week.\n\nIn my case I did not go back to my previous employment. I stuck it out for just under a month when I accepted a position with another company with even more pay (LOL) and really close to where I lived at the time. So....WINNING on two accounts. I'm not saying this will be the case for you but it can happen. \n\nTry to stay positive and don't make a drastic decision. Think it out and rationalize things. Pretend you are giving someone else advice on the same thing. I have found this approach sometimes helps me to come up with an answer/solution when I am stuck.\n\nGood luck, I'm sure you will be fine in the end.", "I've done this. I came back to a significant raise too. Eat the humble pie, be honest about why you left and that it isn't working out at the new spot. The key is you need to address why you left and how, now something is different or else they will suspect you'll jump ship again as soon as something attractive materializes. You may need / want to give your word you won't pull shit or jump ship for a period of time, say a year. This isn't a contract but a verbal agreement. ", "You could get rehired if they still had a vacancy, but I sincerely doubt you could get higher pay after those shenanigans." ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to grow a pair and communicate better? I've always been socially awkward IRL. It's in my nature. I tend to find myself on the outskirts in a conversation with multiple people, and when I say something, it either gets ignored or is looked at as insignificant. When I talk one on one with someone, they seem to change the subject and interrupt me, and I never get to say what I want, even if it's short. Sometimes it's a conflict of interest, sometimes it's just completely rude on their part. Does anyone have tips on how to control a conversation, and/or how to call someone out on being rude?", "How to grow a pair and communicate better? I've always been socially awkward IRL. It's in my nature. I tend to find myself on the outskirts in a conversation with multiple people, and when I say something, it either gets ignored or is looked at as insignificant. When I talk one on one with someone, they seem to change the subject and interrupt me, and I never get to say what I want, even if it's short. Sometimes it's a conflict of interest, sometimes it's just completely rude on their part. Does anyone have tips on how to control a conversation, and/or how to call someone out on being rude?", "How to grow a pair and communicate better? I've always been socially awkward IRL. It's in my nature. I tend to find myself on the outskirts in a conversation with multiple people, and when I say something, it either gets ignored or is looked at as insignificant. When I talk one on one with someone, they seem to change the subject and interrupt me, and I never get to say what I want, even if it's short. Sometimes it's a conflict of interest, sometimes it's just completely rude on their part. Does anyone have tips on how to control a conversation, and/or how to call someone out on being rude?", "How to grow a pair and communicate better? I've always been socially awkward IRL. It's in my nature. I tend to find myself on the outskirts in a conversation with multiple people, and when I say something, it either gets ignored or is looked at as insignificant. When I talk one on one with someone, they seem to change the subject and interrupt me, and I never get to say what I want, even if it's short. Sometimes it's a conflict of interest, sometimes it's just completely rude on their part. Does anyone have tips on how to control a conversation, and/or how to call someone out on being rude?", "How to grow a pair and communicate better? I've always been socially awkward IRL. It's in my nature. I tend to find myself on the outskirts in a conversation with multiple people, and when I say something, it either gets ignored or is looked at as insignificant. When I talk one on one with someone, they seem to change the subject and interrupt me, and I never get to say what I want, even if it's short. Sometimes it's a conflict of interest, sometimes it's just completely rude on their part. Does anyone have tips on how to control a conversation, and/or how to call someone out on being rude?", "How to grow a pair and communicate better? I've always been socially awkward IRL. It's in my nature. I tend to find myself on the outskirts in a conversation with multiple people, and when I say something, it either gets ignored or is looked at as insignificant. When I talk one on one with someone, they seem to change the subject and interrupt me, and I never get to say what I want, even if it's short. Sometimes it's a conflict of interest, sometimes it's just completely rude on their part. Does anyone have tips on how to control a conversation, and/or how to call someone out on being rude?", "How to grow a pair and communicate better? I've always been socially awkward IRL. It's in my nature. I tend to find myself on the outskirts in a conversation with multiple people, and when I say something, it either gets ignored or is looked at as insignificant. When I talk one on one with someone, they seem to change the subject and interrupt me, and I never get to say what I want, even if it's short. Sometimes it's a conflict of interest, sometimes it's just completely rude on their part. Does anyone have tips on how to control a conversation, and/or how to call someone out on being rude?", "How to grow a pair and communicate better? I've always been socially awkward IRL. It's in my nature. I tend to find myself on the outskirts in a conversation with multiple people, and when I say something, it either gets ignored or is looked at as insignificant. When I talk one on one with someone, they seem to change the subject and interrupt me, and I never get to say what I want, even if it's short. Sometimes it's a conflict of interest, sometimes it's just completely rude on their part. Does anyone have tips on how to control a conversation, and/or how to call someone out on being rude?", "How to grow a pair and communicate better? I've always been socially awkward IRL. It's in my nature. I tend to find myself on the outskirts in a conversation with multiple people, and when I say something, it either gets ignored or is looked at as insignificant. When I talk one on one with someone, they seem to change the subject and interrupt me, and I never get to say what I want, even if it's short. Sometimes it's a conflict of interest, sometimes it's just completely rude on their part. Does anyone have tips on how to control a conversation, and/or how to call someone out on being rude?" ]	[ "You hesitate too much. You're over thinking the conversation. What if this, what if that, and so on...\n\nDon't talk too low, raise your voice, but don't yell.\n\nSay as less uh's and ah's as possible (10x this).\n\nDon't wander about with your eyes, look the person you're talking to in the eyes.\n\nUse body language, but don't over do it of course. Don't flap your hands like a maniac. Never put your hangs in your pockets while you speak, if you must do it, put only one never both.\n\nAnd last... If someone is being rude and you want them to know it, don't say \"I'm sorry, but you're being rude\", what are you sorry for? Say e.g. \"you're being rude now, people can't finish a sentence without you interrupting\". Now this often times may/will offend the person you're referring to, but that's usually in the moment of the active conversation. Later on, they tend to have more respect for you (also other listeners/participants of the conversation).\n\n", "would it help if you knew that even those of us who do seem to have confidence often feel really really awkward?", "If others don't care much about what you say, then maybe what you say is of little interest or value to the listener.\n\nIf you speak just to get noticed, or just to look smart or funny, or just to get something off your chest, then you're really only speaking for your own benefit, and others aren't likely to have much interest.\n\nOr maybe you're speaking to the wrong people. Some people are just plain rude, so why bother trying to speak to them?\n\nBesides, silence & thoughtful looks often make people appear more interesting than talking.\n\nAs the old saying goes: \"Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt.\"", "A good transition is realizing that you don't have to be comfortable talking to strangers. You have to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.", "Socially awkward people usually send out a vibe that they are passive and therefor can be dominated in conversation. You need to stop caring what others think of you and just say what is on your mind. Use visualization techniques to build up that sefl-confidence.", "Intovertedness is fed on by the extroverted, you need to be more extroverted than they are to control a conversation\n\nFind an improve group you can join and in as little as a month you will see improvement. Youll develop social skills, confidence and have a whole lot of fun. 'improve group' is almost synonymous with \"a club for the introverted to not be introverted\"\n\n1. Lots of introverts join these types of groups. \n2. Even the outspoken ones were introverted before joining.\n3. A class constitutes of everyone involved standing in a circle taking turns acting like fools and enjoying their time. \n4. almost everyone there is there for the same reason: social awkwardness and anxiety\n\nBasically, if you can put on a prop monocle and a bright nerf gun and pretend to be an early 19th century detective from england with another person with an equally ridicules get-up, in front of a bunch of people; you can have 'normal' conversations.\n\n\nNote, that I personally have never done one of these improve groups, ive never needed to; but tons of actors and performers have.\n", "I used to be extremely shy and worried until my job made me take sales training for 2 weeks. Now I won't shut up and talk to pretty much everyone. It's fun and I have a ton of networking contacts.\n\nYou would be surprised just how cool people are by talking to them.", "When corresponding with strangers or seeking advice, one should refrain from testicular euphemisms in the opening sentence. ", "/r/redpill people hate it but it has a lot of truth. It may help you. I would say raise your confidence" ]	[ 15, 4, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 0, -2 ]	safe
[ "how to look good in photos (smiling or otherwise) If this has been asked before could someone link me the previous post? Couldnt find it.", "how to look good in photos (smiling or otherwise) If this has been asked before could someone link me the previous post? Couldnt find it.", "how to look good in photos (smiling or otherwise) If this has been asked before could someone link me the previous post? Couldnt find it.", "how to look good in photos (smiling or otherwise) If this has been asked before could someone link me the previous post? Couldnt find it." ]	[ "There's a ton of tips on google. But one that comes to mind is never look directly into the lense of the camera, look slightly above it. ", "Something about pushing your forehead towards the camera. Makes you stretch your neck and your face gets slightly bigger relative to your body.\n\nA lot of other tips are available on YouTube too:\n\nhttp://youtu.be/mb6m-rorF0I\nhttp://youtu.be/5N_UZ0iUYpc", "Honestly just pose in front of a mirror until you find which angles work best for you. I model, I use this method, some angles are incredibly flattering, some cause double chins, haha.", "Maybe try using filters. Assuming you're a guy I don't recommend you to use eccentric filters, maybe just black and white and you should be OK." ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to deepen new friendships I have gotten good at getting to know many people, but I see none of those friendships ever deepen past a level. We can't open up to each other because we just aren't that close. Any suggestions?", "How to deepen new friendships I have gotten good at getting to know many people, but I see none of those friendships ever deepen past a level. We can't open up to each other because we just aren't that close. Any suggestions?", "How to deepen new friendships I have gotten good at getting to know many people, but I see none of those friendships ever deepen past a level. We can't open up to each other because we just aren't that close. Any suggestions?" ]	[ "I like asking things like \"What is something you've always wanted to do, and haven't done?\"\n\nOne on one activities definitely seems to strengthen relationships. I don't perform the best socially when one on one. But have been forcing myself to do it more often. And it has definitely strengthened new relationships. If you and your friend(s) are willing to drop $25, I've found Escape Rooms are super fun, awesome ways to bond with somebody.", "I don't know if you are male or female. Us guys bond over shared experiences, so if you're a guy you need to go out and do stuff with your acquaintances. ", "A true friend is someone you can be quiet with. It might sound difficult but try sometimes to say nothing for a while and see if a conversation springs up all on its own. I'm not the most chatty person so I do this a lot with my friends, and it very often leads to natural and in depth conversations that no one saw coming. Its all too easy to be nervous and just blabber on about inane things just to fill any dead air, but that won't lead to anything but more mindless blabber.\n\nTL;DR Be quiet." ]	[ 8, 4, 3 ]	safe
[ "How to distinguish what needs thrown away and what to keep. Obvious stuff isn't an issue. It's the stuff that has value, could be used one day but is taking up space. \n\n", "How to distinguish what needs thrown away and what to keep. Obvious stuff isn't an issue. It's the stuff that has value, could be used one day but is taking up space. \n\n", "How to distinguish what needs thrown away and what to keep. Obvious stuff isn't an issue. It's the stuff that has value, could be used one day but is taking up space. \n\n", "How to distinguish what needs thrown away and what to keep. Obvious stuff isn't an issue. It's the stuff that has value, could be used one day but is taking up space. \n\n", "How to distinguish what needs thrown away and what to keep. Obvious stuff isn't an issue. It's the stuff that has value, could be used one day but is taking up space. \n\n", "How to distinguish what needs thrown away and what to keep. Obvious stuff isn't an issue. It's the stuff that has value, could be used one day but is taking up space. \n\n", "How to distinguish what needs thrown away and what to keep. Obvious stuff isn't an issue. It's the stuff that has value, could be used one day but is taking up space. \n\n" ]	[ "http://www.paulgraham.com/stuff.html\n\nalso decide what would you take with you if moving abroad for year", "Throw away anything you haven't used in the last year. You can always buy it again if you really need it. If it is something sentimental then it had better make you extremely happy every time you see it or else it is just draining your life away. ", "My go to is to have something leave anytime something similar comes in. Buy new jeans? Get rid of old ones, do the same with books. \n\nAlso, once a year go through your stuff and anything you haven't used in a year goes. (For books, keep an index card with the dates you read the book. If the last date is over a year, it goes). \n\nBeyond that, the best defense is to avoid buying in the first place. If you wait a week or two between seeing it in the store and buying it, then you're more than likely to end up only buying things that you'll really use. You don't have to throw away things if you never buy them guy pointing to head.", "It really depends on how strict you want to be. \n\nMy advice would be set aside a day to do your clear out.. A whole day to clear your wardrobe under your bed your desk. That space behind the door you throw stuff that doesn't have a place. \n\nNow take out all of one kind of item. Say your.. Dvds or clothes. And sort through it\n\nMake a gone pile a keep pile and a maybe pile... \n\nRepeat for every thing you own \n\nEverything you will need for practical reasons go in the keep. As well as things you have a strong sentimental value. \n\nGet rid of anything you haven't used in a year and have no attachment to. (it's a good idea to make a note of clothes you want to replace here as well..) \n\nThen anything that tugs at your heart strings, or you think you might need. Goes in your maybe box. \n\nThrow out everything in your gone pile put back everything in your keep pile and seal up your maybe box. \n\nGo back to living your life. \n\nIf you need something from your maybe box (you won't) its still there. \n\nAfter 1 (or 3 months) try to recall what's in your maybe box without looking in it. I'd you have forgotten about it or not needed it you won't miss having it in your life. \n\nMove ever thing from maybe box to your gone pile and Continue living your live free of having extra crap. ", "If you haven't used it/worn it in the last 6 months (and it isn't something sentimental) toss it. Obviously this excludes seasonal items that can be stored away for use when they are needed. Any excess items that you want to get rid of will be outside of these categories. Also, with items that have been gifted to you, don't feel bad about throwing them away or donating them - don't let another person guilt you into keeping clutter in your life. They might feel better if you explain that you have used it to its full potential and is now in need of a new home. \n\n", "I'd say think about how often you'll use it, and how important its use is. If its a memento, such as a photograph, think about how much you really value the moment captured, or how distraught you would be if you lost it. Basically, think how often will you use it and how important is the action that it does.", "Here is my process. Keep in mind, that this is used to de-clutter my small living space.\n\n1) Set up 2 Containers (e.g. shoeboxes) One is fore keepsakes - stuff with an emotional value attached to it - photographs, tchotchkeys or small stuff. The other is the Throw-Away box.\n2) Work a corner of the house for 20 minutes a few times a week. (I do it during breaks from sitting). Sort the items in 3 piles - Use regularly, therefore keep/ emotional value, therefore keep/ Throw-Away box. Put the useful stuff back in it's place, put the emotinal value stuff in the one box, the rest in the other.\n3) Once every 2 weeks pick up the Throw-Away-box. Take a moment to think about items in there. What is the use of this item to you? How likely is this to come up in your current lifestyle? What would it take to replace the item, if ever needed again? - I got rid of my coffee machine, when I started working a new job an settled into a routine where I only drink coffee at work. If this changes a few bucks for a new machine won't be a hassle.\nIf the scenario is reasonably likely to occur or the item hard enough to replace (your call, not mine) keep it. Those items that don't make the cut can be sorted into a Gift > Sell > Donate > Trash priority.\n\nAlternatively: Put stuff away e.g. into your cellar. If you haven't used stuff in a year: Out it goes! Works like a charm for clothes: Once a year (your birthday, christmas, New Years) hang all your coat hangers in your closet backwards - only put them in the right way around when you wore them. A year later: Get rid of every piece of clothing hanging backwards. (This could be modded for tools/kitchen stuff." ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to clear your mind so you can fall asleep faster. I often find myself laying in bed with countless thoughts running through my head when all I want to do is fall asleep. I used to have a clock that showed the time on my ceiling which I hated because it constantly reminded me that I had been laying there for hours. I need to learn how to clear my mind so I don't lay there forever every night!", "How to clear your mind so you can fall asleep faster. I often find myself laying in bed with countless thoughts running through my head when all I want to do is fall asleep. I used to have a clock that showed the time on my ceiling which I hated because it constantly reminded me that I had been laying there for hours. I need to learn how to clear my mind so I don't lay there forever every night!", "How to clear your mind so you can fall asleep faster. I often find myself laying in bed with countless thoughts running through my head when all I want to do is fall asleep. I used to have a clock that showed the time on my ceiling which I hated because it constantly reminded me that I had been laying there for hours. I need to learn how to clear my mind so I don't lay there forever every night!", "How to clear your mind so you can fall asleep faster. I often find myself laying in bed with countless thoughts running through my head when all I want to do is fall asleep. I used to have a clock that showed the time on my ceiling which I hated because it constantly reminded me that I had been laying there for hours. I need to learn how to clear my mind so I don't lay there forever every night!", "How to clear your mind so you can fall asleep faster. I often find myself laying in bed with countless thoughts running through my head when all I want to do is fall asleep. I used to have a clock that showed the time on my ceiling which I hated because it constantly reminded me that I had been laying there for hours. I need to learn how to clear my mind so I don't lay there forever every night!", "How to clear your mind so you can fall asleep faster. I often find myself laying in bed with countless thoughts running through my head when all I want to do is fall asleep. I used to have a clock that showed the time on my ceiling which I hated because it constantly reminded me that I had been laying there for hours. I need to learn how to clear my mind so I don't lay there forever every night!", "How to clear your mind so you can fall asleep faster. I often find myself laying in bed with countless thoughts running through my head when all I want to do is fall asleep. I used to have a clock that showed the time on my ceiling which I hated because it constantly reminded me that I had been laying there for hours. I need to learn how to clear my mind so I don't lay there forever every night!", "How to clear your mind so you can fall asleep faster. I often find myself laying in bed with countless thoughts running through my head when all I want to do is fall asleep. I used to have a clock that showed the time on my ceiling which I hated because it constantly reminded me that I had been laying there for hours. I need to learn how to clear my mind so I don't lay there forever every night!", "How to clear your mind so you can fall asleep faster. I often find myself laying in bed with countless thoughts running through my head when all I want to do is fall asleep. I used to have a clock that showed the time on my ceiling which I hated because it constantly reminded me that I had been laying there for hours. I need to learn how to clear my mind so I don't lay there forever every night!", "How to clear your mind so you can fall asleep faster. I often find myself laying in bed with countless thoughts running through my head when all I want to do is fall asleep. I used to have a clock that showed the time on my ceiling which I hated because it constantly reminded me that I had been laying there for hours. I need to learn how to clear my mind so I don't lay there forever every night!" ]	[ "I know this sounds insane, but it's worked for me for 10 years. The essence of it is self-guided relaxation.\n\nPlace yourself in your mind's eye in a green grassy field, with nothing but green grass, blue sky, and billowy clouds as far as you can see. In the grass and dirt all around you are the things that are on your mind. Over a day, you think of so many things and place them around you that you cannot concentrate on any one of them. Picture everything around you slowly float up with a small cloud under each thought that carries it up into the sky, where it starts floating away. The things that really don't matter (I passed a blue mailbox) keep floating until they're nothing but a speck in the distance. More important things (I need to bring my laptop to work tomorrow) float up to the sky and away, but stay close enough that you can still make out what they are so that you can bring them back when needed, but they're not in the front of your consciousness. Continue doing this until the grass around you is completely clear of thoughts, and nothing but pure green remains. There should be a circle of blue sky above you, and small white billowy clouds off in the distance in concentric circles of importance. Now, your mind should be clear and you can focus on nothing.\n\nOnce you've done that, get up and walk in your mind. Picture a shapeless sidewalk if you want, but don't paint any background or details; at this point it can just be black with a grey stripe under you. I find that I'm asleep within just a few steps.\n\nCrazy? Probably. Effective? For me, yes. YMMV.", "on the short term: concentrate on your breathing without forcing it. If you find yourself thinking about various things just let them go and 'watch' your breathing\nmid-term: avoid bright light (PC screen, TV), caffeine and alcohol so your brain isn't interrupted while getting tired. \nalso: get a bedtime rhythm and maybe listen to some chilling, low volume music", "If you have an iOS device, there is a really good app from a guy called Andrew Johnson called relax (and another called deep sleep) which I find really effective as sending me to sleep within a few minutes. Check it out. ", "When i have trouble sleeping i listen to an audiobook on the phone or make a list of things i need to do the following day in my head.", "I had the same problem, I bet most do. And it can get so ridiculous; such unimportant, random things which kept me awake. I'm no doctor but I do know that what you are describing is an active brain state. In this state the brain waves have a certain shape to them which is much different than the brain waves for a sleeping person. It's a shame that we can't just flick a switch to shut the brain off, but we can't. Instead of going all the way to sleep just think of moving it into a passive state first. Small steps. \nTo get to a passive state I first harness the power of active thought process to turn the focus from everything under the sun to a solitary thought. Similar to some forms of m", "make yourself physically tired before going to bed. work out, go for a walk, do yoga, whatever, and you'll be able to fall asleep much faster.", "Try some breathing m", "This is a crazy thing I read on a forum about insomnia and it actually works for me.\n\nAs you try to sleep, wiggle your toes and start counting up from one in your head.\n\nAccording to the comment I read, doing these two things at the same time blocks neural activity in the pathways of SOME people's brains that become over-active and prevent them from sleeping.\n\nI HAD in the past, tried just the counting which helped some, but for some crazy reason wiggling the toes at the same time seems to work a lot better.\n\nTry it! If it doesn't work you have really lost nothing from the effort.\n", "I have that problem (since I was a kid) and the only thing that seems to help is melatonin. It's a natural enzyme your body makes to regulate your circadian rhythm. I remember reading about it when it first came out and was so desperate to get it. You can find it in most drug stores in the natural supplements.\n\nI used to be addicted to prescription sleeping pills - requiring at least 2 to fall asleep. When I ran out, I got desperate and was told by a doctor that I can take at least 10 mg. \n\nNow, I fall asleep within an hour of taking it and don't wake up groggy or tired. If you have insomnia, you should try this. It's cheap and doesn't harm you (google it, if you're unsure).", "My boyfriend counts backwards from a hundred 2 or 3 times. Works pretty well for me too. I usually have a lot on my mind when trying to sleep and sometimes I don't even make it through one count lol" ]	[ 9, 4, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How would I get over stuttering and/or being nervous/anxious when talking to a person face to face? Hey Reddit, \n\nI was wondering some tips on how to get over being nervous/anxious, or at least stop stuttering when being near or talking to a new person, face to face.\n\nThanks,", "How would I get over stuttering and/or being nervous/anxious when talking to a person face to face? Hey Reddit, \n\nI was wondering some tips on how to get over being nervous/anxious, or at least stop stuttering when being near or talking to a new person, face to face.\n\nThanks,", "How would I get over stuttering and/or being nervous/anxious when talking to a person face to face? Hey Reddit, \n\nI was wondering some tips on how to get over being nervous/anxious, or at least stop stuttering when being near or talking to a new person, face to face.\n\nThanks,", "How would I get over stuttering and/or being nervous/anxious when talking to a person face to face? Hey Reddit, \n\nI was wondering some tips on how to get over being nervous/anxious, or at least stop stuttering when being near or talking to a new person, face to face.\n\nThanks,", "How would I get over stuttering and/or being nervous/anxious when talking to a person face to face? Hey Reddit, \n\nI was wondering some tips on how to get over being nervous/anxious, or at least stop stuttering when being near or talking to a new person, face to face.\n\nThanks," ]	[ "You can try immersion therapy. While in line at the grocery or something, just say hi to the person in front of or behind you. You can also pretend to be talking to someone in your mirror. I do that one often. But ultimately, for me, I have identified it as a confidence issue. So in a sense it's something you will need to practice, and slowly get better at. Maybe try to find some public speaking advice on youtube or something, and try to implement it in a one on one situation.", "saw this tip a while ago, i still use it. Not sure if it will do anything to help but if you're nervous when making eye contact while speaking to a person, look at the area in between their eyes. They wont be able to tell the difference and you wont seem rude to them. I hope this helps somewhat", "Little bit of knowledge I heard, Samuel L. Jackson used to stutter. He conquered it with the words Mother Fucker. ", "I did an AMA Request for people who stutter: \n\nAMA Request: Someone who has/had a stutter or speech impediment\nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/AMA/comments/6bq3sl/ama_request_someone_who_hashad_a_stutter_or/\n\n", "At one point I helped myself stutter less by concentrating on speaking with a slight accent that I was not native to. This work very well when I had to speak in public it also slowed me down which help lessen the stuttering also. Some sort of Southern drawl is easy. The bonus is I have now learned several accents that I now can do well." ]	[ 5, 3, 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Meeting people in a new city I'm about to graduate from college, and I will more than likely be moving to a different city for a full-time job away from most of the people I've known. I'm a little nervous about going somewhere and not knowing anybody in a new city, so what are some good ways to get out there and meet new people?", "Meeting people in a new city I'm about to graduate from college, and I will more than likely be moving to a different city for a full-time job away from most of the people I've known. I'm a little nervous about going somewhere and not knowing anybody in a new city, so what are some good ways to get out there and meet new people?", "Meeting people in a new city I'm about to graduate from college, and I will more than likely be moving to a different city for a full-time job away from most of the people I've known. I'm a little nervous about going somewhere and not knowing anybody in a new city, so what are some good ways to get out there and meet new people?", "Meeting people in a new city I'm about to graduate from college, and I will more than likely be moving to a different city for a full-time job away from most of the people I've known. I'm a little nervous about going somewhere and not knowing anybody in a new city, so what are some good ways to get out there and meet new people?", "Meeting people in a new city I'm about to graduate from college, and I will more than likely be moving to a different city for a full-time job away from most of the people I've known. I'm a little nervous about going somewhere and not knowing anybody in a new city, so what are some good ways to get out there and meet new people?", "Meeting people in a new city I'm about to graduate from college, and I will more than likely be moving to a different city for a full-time job away from most of the people I've known. I'm a little nervous about going somewhere and not knowing anybody in a new city, so what are some good ways to get out there and meet new people?" ]	[ "[MeetUp](http://www.meetup.com) \n\nYou can browse the groups in your area for ones with similar interests. They usually hold events and you can meet people that way. ", "Look around for classes, workshops, sports, or hobbies that you might be interested in pursuing. Classifieds in local free papers are a great way to start. Pick a few to go to, there will inevitably be small talk, and you can naturally introduce yourself to people you already know you share at least something in common with in a socially sanctioned way. ", "Go out with coworkers.\n\nFind events for things you like to do, hiking, wine tasting, etc. People love talking about their hobbies, so find one you have in common.\n\nGet a roommate. Don't tag along to everything, but it helps having at least one person you know will be around most of the time.", "If rock climbing sounds at all interesting to you, check out a rock climbing gym. The community is generally very friendly, approachable, and welcoming. Plus, if you are in need of a fun, physical, and social activity, rock climbing is great for that.", "Focus on work and a physical activity and/or hobby for the first few months and don't try to force anything. \n\nPeople can bring you just as many problems and misery as they can love and companionship so don't try to get friends through the internet or at a bar just because you think you need them. Call your friends and family back home regularly for human contact.\n\nYou need to get a bunch of acquaintances and those will come. Out of those, choose who you will graduate to friends.", "Cook an enormous cauldron of chowder. When people smell the aroma of your delicious stew they'll introduce themselves to YOU to get of that delicious chowder." ]	[ 5, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Managing the dishes in a kitchen with one small sink? I have a dishwasher but I wash my dishes by hand usually. Sometimes I need to drop a few containers into the sink at one time and basically it ends up full.\n\nIs there a good way of organizing all of this?\n\nA shelf to put the used containers on before I can wash them or a larger dish drainer or something along those lines?\n\nI feel like my sink is constantly full. I really wish I had two sinks (but I live in an apartment).", "Managing the dishes in a kitchen with one small sink? I have a dishwasher but I wash my dishes by hand usually. Sometimes I need to drop a few containers into the sink at one time and basically it ends up full.\n\nIs there a good way of organizing all of this?\n\nA shelf to put the used containers on before I can wash them or a larger dish drainer or something along those lines?\n\nI feel like my sink is constantly full. I really wish I had two sinks (but I live in an apartment).", "Managing the dishes in a kitchen with one small sink? I have a dishwasher but I wash my dishes by hand usually. Sometimes I need to drop a few containers into the sink at one time and basically it ends up full.\n\nIs there a good way of organizing all of this?\n\nA shelf to put the used containers on before I can wash them or a larger dish drainer or something along those lines?\n\nI feel like my sink is constantly full. I really wish I had two sinks (but I live in an apartment).", "Managing the dishes in a kitchen with one small sink? I have a dishwasher but I wash my dishes by hand usually. Sometimes I need to drop a few containers into the sink at one time and basically it ends up full.\n\nIs there a good way of organizing all of this?\n\nA shelf to put the used containers on before I can wash them or a larger dish drainer or something along those lines?\n\nI feel like my sink is constantly full. I really wish I had two sinks (but I live in an apartment).", "Managing the dishes in a kitchen with one small sink? I have a dishwasher but I wash my dishes by hand usually. Sometimes I need to drop a few containers into the sink at one time and basically it ends up full.\n\nIs there a good way of organizing all of this?\n\nA shelf to put the used containers on before I can wash them or a larger dish drainer or something along those lines?\n\nI feel like my sink is constantly full. I really wish I had two sinks (but I live in an apartment).", "Managing the dishes in a kitchen with one small sink? I have a dishwasher but I wash my dishes by hand usually. Sometimes I need to drop a few containers into the sink at one time and basically it ends up full.\n\nIs there a good way of organizing all of this?\n\nA shelf to put the used containers on before I can wash them or a larger dish drainer or something along those lines?\n\nI feel like my sink is constantly full. I really wish I had two sinks (but I live in an apartment).", "Managing the dishes in a kitchen with one small sink? I have a dishwasher but I wash my dishes by hand usually. Sometimes I need to drop a few containers into the sink at one time and basically it ends up full.\n\nIs there a good way of organizing all of this?\n\nA shelf to put the used containers on before I can wash them or a larger dish drainer or something along those lines?\n\nI feel like my sink is constantly full. I really wish I had two sinks (but I live in an apartment)." ]	[ "Get a plastic tub. Even a large bowl will do. Use it for the hot water/soap. Wash your dishes with that, put them in the sink, rinse them after or when it's full. ", "Get in the habit of washing them when you use them. Don't let it be an option to stack them. People with ants learn to do this quickly.", "Organize. Rinse the food off and stack starting with large on the bottom getting smaller as you go up. Put utinsels in a cup with hot water to soak. Mix a squeeze of soap with a cup of hot water and use a green scrubbie to scrub everything stacking soaped dishes in the sink. Then all you have to do is rinse them off. Been living with a horrendously small kitchen for the past 8 years so this has worked well for me. That and cleaning as you make them", "I don't eat whatever I cook unless my pots, pans, and whatever I used to cook are already clean. It's incredibly easy to clean dishes when you've just used them; in fact, it's the best and easiest time to clean them; so I've gotten in the habit of putting my food on the plate and instantly washing the pot I've just used. Since then, I've never had a stack in my shamefully small sink and I never have to worry about it.\n\nThe only reason cleaning dishes would be hard, is when you've let them sit and the food residue dries or cakes on. When it's fresh, it comes off in a breeze.", "For a small sink/small kitchen, I usually have to wash more often, but keep the loads small. I don't bother filling the sink with water to bathe the dishes, I just use a small bowl to hold some soap, run the water and wash/rinse each item one at a time, Doesn't take too long. \n\nI stack plates/bowls so they dont take so much room, and put dirty utensils in an old cup so they're not all over the place. Rinsing things like spaghetti sauce while its warm will save you lots of time as it gets harder to remove when dry.", "When we were using the kitchen sink to give baths to our infant daughter, we would always rinse off the plates and utensils and put them in a small plastic tub. These would later be loaded into the dishwasher, once the dishwasher was unloaded.", "After a meal I rinse my dishes and they go right into the dish washer. Whenever it gets full I run a cycle when it's finished and dry it goes back in the cabinets. Repeat as necessary. " ]	[ 7, 5, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to be less stiff? Hello :-) can anyone help me with this?\n\nFor as long as I can remember, I have always felt a bit stiff.\nI see it in my movements, every time i see myself on video.\nI feel it when I dance. \nMy friend once told me to be less stiff, while we were dancing, and I did what I can. I tried to be as smooth as possible and she still told me I'm not loose enough.\n\nWhat can I do to move more naturally? Just to be precise - I'm not talking about dancing in particular, I'm talking about my body in different situations. I tried controlling my movements, so they are less stiff, but even if it works, I really have to be self-conscious if I want to remember about it daily. I'm also a tall and thin man, it exagerates the whole problem.\n\nWhat do you suggest? What kind of exercices? Maybe something may be wrong with my posture? Maybe some people just are this way? :P", "How to be less stiff? Hello :-) can anyone help me with this?\n\nFor as long as I can remember, I have always felt a bit stiff.\nI see it in my movements, every time i see myself on video.\nI feel it when I dance. \nMy friend once told me to be less stiff, while we were dancing, and I did what I can. I tried to be as smooth as possible and she still told me I'm not loose enough.\n\nWhat can I do to move more naturally? Just to be precise - I'm not talking about dancing in particular, I'm talking about my body in different situations. I tried controlling my movements, so they are less stiff, but even if it works, I really have to be self-conscious if I want to remember about it daily. I'm also a tall and thin man, it exagerates the whole problem.\n\nWhat do you suggest? What kind of exercices? Maybe something may be wrong with my posture? Maybe some people just are this way? :P", "How to be less stiff? Hello :-) can anyone help me with this?\n\nFor as long as I can remember, I have always felt a bit stiff.\nI see it in my movements, every time i see myself on video.\nI feel it when I dance. \nMy friend once told me to be less stiff, while we were dancing, and I did what I can. I tried to be as smooth as possible and she still told me I'm not loose enough.\n\nWhat can I do to move more naturally? Just to be precise - I'm not talking about dancing in particular, I'm talking about my body in different situations. I tried controlling my movements, so they are less stiff, but even if it works, I really have to be self-conscious if I want to remember about it daily. I'm also a tall and thin man, it exagerates the whole problem.\n\nWhat do you suggest? What kind of exercices? Maybe something may be wrong with my posture? Maybe some people just are this way? :P", "How to be less stiff? Hello :-) can anyone help me with this?\n\nFor as long as I can remember, I have always felt a bit stiff.\nI see it in my movements, every time i see myself on video.\nI feel it when I dance. \nMy friend once told me to be less stiff, while we were dancing, and I did what I can. I tried to be as smooth as possible and she still told me I'm not loose enough.\n\nWhat can I do to move more naturally? Just to be precise - I'm not talking about dancing in particular, I'm talking about my body in different situations. I tried controlling my movements, so they are less stiff, but even if it works, I really have to be self-conscious if I want to remember about it daily. I'm also a tall and thin man, it exagerates the whole problem.\n\nWhat do you suggest? What kind of exercices? Maybe something may be wrong with my posture? Maybe some people just are this way? :P", "How to be less stiff? Hello :-) can anyone help me with this?\n\nFor as long as I can remember, I have always felt a bit stiff.\nI see it in my movements, every time i see myself on video.\nI feel it when I dance. \nMy friend once told me to be less stiff, while we were dancing, and I did what I can. I tried to be as smooth as possible and she still told me I'm not loose enough.\n\nWhat can I do to move more naturally? Just to be precise - I'm not talking about dancing in particular, I'm talking about my body in different situations. I tried controlling my movements, so they are less stiff, but even if it works, I really have to be self-conscious if I want to remember about it daily. I'm also a tall and thin man, it exagerates the whole problem.\n\nWhat do you suggest? What kind of exercices? Maybe something may be wrong with my posture? Maybe some people just are this way? :P", "How to be less stiff? Hello :-) can anyone help me with this?\n\nFor as long as I can remember, I have always felt a bit stiff.\nI see it in my movements, every time i see myself on video.\nI feel it when I dance. \nMy friend once told me to be less stiff, while we were dancing, and I did what I can. I tried to be as smooth as possible and she still told me I'm not loose enough.\n\nWhat can I do to move more naturally? Just to be precise - I'm not talking about dancing in particular, I'm talking about my body in different situations. I tried controlling my movements, so they are less stiff, but even if it works, I really have to be self-conscious if I want to remember about it daily. I'm also a tall and thin man, it exagerates the whole problem.\n\nWhat do you suggest? What kind of exercices? Maybe something may be wrong with my posture? Maybe some people just are this way? :P" ]	[ "Hey brother,\n\nI've seen this problem in a lot of actors, and I have a couple of neat performance tips that might be helpful.\n\nStiffness is a problem with self-consciousness. This kinda puts us into a paradox because feeling out of place makes us feel self-conscious which makes us stiff which makes us feel out of place. For example, there was a LPT out a while ago about getting really good athletes to screw up by asking them what they do with their non-dominant hand while they play. They suddenly laser focus on that hand, get all flustered in their head, and play poorly. I assure you, the problem is not one of posture, exercise or even body type. \n\nYou just need some concrete tips to get outside your head.\n\n##Dancing as social risk-analysis\n\nThere is an old improv adage: \"Nobody looks stupid while they're having fun.\" Dancing is an inherently goofy act by design. Imagine if dancing were socially acceptable everywhere. Like imagine if you saw some guy just belting his best moves while he crossed a busy intersection. For some reason, humans decide that at certain times jumping around and walking like we're on the moon is socially acceptable at some places but not others. Literally, this is an exercise in vulnerability: a few socially adept leaders temporarily lower the bar for social interaction for everybody else on the hope that others will join in and have a fun time. The important thing to note is that this is a socially risky act for the social leader most of all. So really, when you get on a dance floor (assuming that you aren't one of the first people on there) what you're really doing is socially buffering the leaders who took the risk to lower the bar. That means that a) the people on the dance floor are really glad you're there to join them and b) what you're doing is already socially acceptable because somebody else already lowered the social bar for you. \n\nBut what can you do with this information to give you a social advantage? \n\n1) If you feel awkward, it's likely because you aren't used to vulnerability. Consider putting yourself in vulnerable places on purpose to get used to it.\n\n2) If other people are perceiving you as awkward, its likely because they are taking social risks and you aren't reciprocating. People who are having fun don't just play it safe. They validate the vulnerability of the social leaders by daring to look stupid themselves. \n\n##Warm-ups\n\nI'm not talking about stretching. Have you ever noticed that smiling can actually make you feel better? Have you noticed that eating, even just chewing gum, can make a confrontational/stressful situation a little less tense? There is a connection between mind and body, and there are a couple of neat body hacks you can use to put your mind at ease.\n\nBreathing \n\nThe best exercise for social anxiety, stiffness, etc, is breathing. Breathing has a natural advantage over other exercises because everybody does it all the time (meaning that you can do it invisibly in a social situation and not look like a weirdo) and it's with you all the time. The trick is not to try to change your breathing. If you're breathing really fast and your heart is pounding or something, don't worry about it. The trick is to just put all your concentration on listening/feeling/hearing yourself breathe. This exercise only works because it takes you out of the future and puts you into the moment. You can't think about what everybody else is thinking about you if you're thinking about your current breath. Second, this exercise reminds us that even if the absolute worst nuclear option happens (like if your pants fell down on the dance floor and the music stopped and you forgot to wear underwear and Scarlett Johansson walks by and calls your penis small) you're still going to survive. Even in the worst case scenario, social situations aren't life or death anymore and you don't need to go into fight or flight mode. Even worst case, if you can just listen to your breathing, you can make it through this moment, and that means you can make it through the next moment, and the next.\n\nEnergy Exercises\n\nThis is something kinda wonky that actors and dancers do a lot. \"Reducing stiffness\" is a negative objective. Humans don't not do things. They just do others things. So if you wanted to not take an impromptu trip to Antarctica, a positive objective might be to continue sitting in your chair and reading reddit. If you want to not look stiff, you need to give yourself something else to do. So there's a kind of game that performers with partners play that gives them something to do so they don't have to worry about not what they're not doing.\n\nIf we assume the risk-analysis framework from above, then every action your dance partner takes has an inherent social risk. The neat part about this exercise is that you can do it with your partner without her even knowing what you're doing. The first step is to give her last move/action/reaction a risk analysis rating between 1 and 100. Then match the risk. So if she does a little turn, you might estimate that risk to be about 10. Then you could match her 10 with an 11 or 12. And if she does one of those reverse grindy salsa moves from Along Came Polly, then you should do [this:](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=la-3ksErLx0)\n\nThe reason we call it an energy exercise is because performers generally don't like to think about social risk when they're in the middle of having fun. So they generally just replace the word risk with energy and try to match or exceed the energy of their partner.\n\n##Body Types\n\nIf you really are dead set on talking about posture, then there are a few advantages I can give you about your specific body type. \n\nFirst, there's nothing wrong with just standing up straight, even if you're a really super tall basketball player. You can put this to your advantage when you want people to look toward you or you want to add emotional weight to what your saying. Take [this cut from all three Back to the Futures.](http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_yokJLOOQ6_s/TD3dvdiNQGI/AAAAAAAABNo/zs3Ov9jtVK4/s320/back2thefutureone84.jpg) But you don't have to be a bully or intimidate to get emotional response from vertical movement. Especially in dancing, you can reach higher, get up higher, and use your arms to advance a feeling of explosive energy that vertically-challenged dancers simply can't.\n\nSecond, use lankiness to your advantage. The best Disney villains are impossibly lanky. [Dr. Facilier, aka the shadow man from The Princess and the Frog,](http://www.dvdbeaver.com/film2/DVDReviews50/princess_frog_blu-ray/large/04_princess_and_the_frog_bluray.jpg) uses his lankiness to suggest state of mind and emotion just by posture [here](http://fc06.deviantart.net/fs70/i/2009/361/a/a/Dr__Shadowman_by_CurseXX.jpg) and [here](https://encrypted-tbn2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRaT-5WuPX02QBPZPS0MrbNAo-1yTpUKqVAyNblcKE1jbLRU76F) and [here](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/oCVRj2zHKYQ/maxresdefault.jpg) and [here twice with his shadow friend on the other side](http://img209.imageshack.us/img209/461/shadowman.png). These postures will diminish height to the advantage of diagonals, giving you the ability to be shorter when you want and also guide people's eyes where you want them to go. Magicians and stage actors do this a lot. Tall people who can [move like this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yZAY-78zhmw) suggest they are comfortable, in control, energetic, and having fun.\n\nAnyway, best of luck and let us know if this stuff works out.\n\n\n", "Trust me on this. When ever you feel stiff … just do a trench until you can feel it … hold it … while you hold it try to observe what’s going on around you or how you feel at the moment .. then release. If you have to do this 500 times a day … do it.", "there are two possibilities here.\n\n1. You really have a tendency to be stiff.\n\n2. You perceive yourself that way, but others do not.\n\nin case 1, stretching and yoga type exercise sounds like good advice. I would add dance lessons as another option.\n\nin case 2, you would do well with outside input about how others perceive you.\n", "Hello fellow tall person!\n\nLook into the Limber 11 - it's a pre-workout stretching routine. You can find more info on /r/fitness, or just Google it. It's definitely not only for working out, there are a lot of \"basic\" stretches you can do that will help loads. I have most of my height in my legs, so things like 3rd world squats help me keep relatively limber. \n\nAs for dancing, that I can't help you with. Maybe keep your limbs close so you don't KO someone, that's usually my approach. But it looks awkward as hell, so I'll let someone else guide you there. ", "Could be a sign of anxiety. Do you feel stressed or anxious at all, or do you constantly think about other things? You don't seem like you have a lot of worries on your mind, but it's worth asking!", "Stop watching porn? (I jest)\n\nHave a drink before you dance? That might help you loosen up. And stop caring what others think about you. I find self consciousness to be the cause when I'm rigid. " ]	[ 10, 2, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "We have a mouse (or possibly mice) in our house... what do? I am very much an animal lover and don't want to kill them, but from what I have read it might have to come to that. I first spotted one upstairs darting across the landing, we almost caught it in a net but it escaped and we never saw it again for a few weeks. The other day I spot one dart across our living room and dissapear, we suspect it (or they) came from the garage as there is a hole in the wall that they might have come through but we are not sure (it is a hole, but we're uncertain if it leads anywhere as it was a manmade hole for our fireplace rail to slot into). \n\n&nbsp;\n\nMy wife tells me this morning she can hear something rustling, possibly eating something in our bedroom. Now I am not sure the best way to handle the situation, it could be one mouse or god forbid a family and we cannot pinpoint where they are congregating or where they came from. What traps work best and where would be best for them to be set up?", "We have a mouse (or possibly mice) in our house... what do? I am very much an animal lover and don't want to kill them, but from what I have read it might have to come to that. I first spotted one upstairs darting across the landing, we almost caught it in a net but it escaped and we never saw it again for a few weeks. The other day I spot one dart across our living room and dissapear, we suspect it (or they) came from the garage as there is a hole in the wall that they might have come through but we are not sure (it is a hole, but we're uncertain if it leads anywhere as it was a manmade hole for our fireplace rail to slot into). \n\n&nbsp;\n\nMy wife tells me this morning she can hear something rustling, possibly eating something in our bedroom. Now I am not sure the best way to handle the situation, it could be one mouse or god forbid a family and we cannot pinpoint where they are congregating or where they came from. What traps work best and where would be best for them to be set up?", "We have a mouse (or possibly mice) in our house... what do? I am very much an animal lover and don't want to kill them, but from what I have read it might have to come to that. I first spotted one upstairs darting across the landing, we almost caught it in a net but it escaped and we never saw it again for a few weeks. The other day I spot one dart across our living room and dissapear, we suspect it (or they) came from the garage as there is a hole in the wall that they might have come through but we are not sure (it is a hole, but we're uncertain if it leads anywhere as it was a manmade hole for our fireplace rail to slot into). \n\n&nbsp;\n\nMy wife tells me this morning she can hear something rustling, possibly eating something in our bedroom. Now I am not sure the best way to handle the situation, it could be one mouse or god forbid a family and we cannot pinpoint where they are congregating or where they came from. What traps work best and where would be best for them to be set up?", "We have a mouse (or possibly mice) in our house... what do? I am very much an animal lover and don't want to kill them, but from what I have read it might have to come to that. I first spotted one upstairs darting across the landing, we almost caught it in a net but it escaped and we never saw it again for a few weeks. The other day I spot one dart across our living room and dissapear, we suspect it (or they) came from the garage as there is a hole in the wall that they might have come through but we are not sure (it is a hole, but we're uncertain if it leads anywhere as it was a manmade hole for our fireplace rail to slot into). \n\n&nbsp;\n\nMy wife tells me this morning she can hear something rustling, possibly eating something in our bedroom. Now I am not sure the best way to handle the situation, it could be one mouse or god forbid a family and we cannot pinpoint where they are congregating or where they came from. What traps work best and where would be best for them to be set up?", "We have a mouse (or possibly mice) in our house... what do? I am very much an animal lover and don't want to kill them, but from what I have read it might have to come to that. I first spotted one upstairs darting across the landing, we almost caught it in a net but it escaped and we never saw it again for a few weeks. The other day I spot one dart across our living room and dissapear, we suspect it (or they) came from the garage as there is a hole in the wall that they might have come through but we are not sure (it is a hole, but we're uncertain if it leads anywhere as it was a manmade hole for our fireplace rail to slot into). \n\n&nbsp;\n\nMy wife tells me this morning she can hear something rustling, possibly eating something in our bedroom. Now I am not sure the best way to handle the situation, it could be one mouse or god forbid a family and we cannot pinpoint where they are congregating or where they came from. What traps work best and where would be best for them to be set up?", "We have a mouse (or possibly mice) in our house... what do? I am very much an animal lover and don't want to kill them, but from what I have read it might have to come to that. I first spotted one upstairs darting across the landing, we almost caught it in a net but it escaped and we never saw it again for a few weeks. The other day I spot one dart across our living room and dissapear, we suspect it (or they) came from the garage as there is a hole in the wall that they might have come through but we are not sure (it is a hole, but we're uncertain if it leads anywhere as it was a manmade hole for our fireplace rail to slot into). \n\n&nbsp;\n\nMy wife tells me this morning she can hear something rustling, possibly eating something in our bedroom. Now I am not sure the best way to handle the situation, it could be one mouse or god forbid a family and we cannot pinpoint where they are congregating or where they came from. What traps work best and where would be best for them to be set up?", "We have a mouse (or possibly mice) in our house... what do? I am very much an animal lover and don't want to kill them, but from what I have read it might have to come to that. I first spotted one upstairs darting across the landing, we almost caught it in a net but it escaped and we never saw it again for a few weeks. The other day I spot one dart across our living room and dissapear, we suspect it (or they) came from the garage as there is a hole in the wall that they might have come through but we are not sure (it is a hole, but we're uncertain if it leads anywhere as it was a manmade hole for our fireplace rail to slot into). \n\n&nbsp;\n\nMy wife tells me this morning she can hear something rustling, possibly eating something in our bedroom. Now I am not sure the best way to handle the situation, it could be one mouse or god forbid a family and we cannot pinpoint where they are congregating or where they came from. What traps work best and where would be best for them to be set up?", "We have a mouse (or possibly mice) in our house... what do? I am very much an animal lover and don't want to kill them, but from what I have read it might have to come to that. I first spotted one upstairs darting across the landing, we almost caught it in a net but it escaped and we never saw it again for a few weeks. The other day I spot one dart across our living room and dissapear, we suspect it (or they) came from the garage as there is a hole in the wall that they might have come through but we are not sure (it is a hole, but we're uncertain if it leads anywhere as it was a manmade hole for our fireplace rail to slot into). \n\n&nbsp;\n\nMy wife tells me this morning she can hear something rustling, possibly eating something in our bedroom. Now I am not sure the best way to handle the situation, it could be one mouse or god forbid a family and we cannot pinpoint where they are congregating or where they came from. What traps work best and where would be best for them to be set up?", "We have a mouse (or possibly mice) in our house... what do? I am very much an animal lover and don't want to kill them, but from what I have read it might have to come to that. I first spotted one upstairs darting across the landing, we almost caught it in a net but it escaped and we never saw it again for a few weeks. The other day I spot one dart across our living room and dissapear, we suspect it (or they) came from the garage as there is a hole in the wall that they might have come through but we are not sure (it is a hole, but we're uncertain if it leads anywhere as it was a manmade hole for our fireplace rail to slot into). \n\n&nbsp;\n\nMy wife tells me this morning she can hear something rustling, possibly eating something in our bedroom. Now I am not sure the best way to handle the situation, it could be one mouse or god forbid a family and we cannot pinpoint where they are congregating or where they came from. What traps work best and where would be best for them to be set up?", "We have a mouse (or possibly mice) in our house... what do? I am very much an animal lover and don't want to kill them, but from what I have read it might have to come to that. I first spotted one upstairs darting across the landing, we almost caught it in a net but it escaped and we never saw it again for a few weeks. The other day I spot one dart across our living room and dissapear, we suspect it (or they) came from the garage as there is a hole in the wall that they might have come through but we are not sure (it is a hole, but we're uncertain if it leads anywhere as it was a manmade hole for our fireplace rail to slot into). \n\n&nbsp;\n\nMy wife tells me this morning she can hear something rustling, possibly eating something in our bedroom. Now I am not sure the best way to handle the situation, it could be one mouse or god forbid a family and we cannot pinpoint where they are congregating or where they came from. What traps work best and where would be best for them to be set up?", "We have a mouse (or possibly mice) in our house... what do? I am very much an animal lover and don't want to kill them, but from what I have read it might have to come to that. I first spotted one upstairs darting across the landing, we almost caught it in a net but it escaped and we never saw it again for a few weeks. The other day I spot one dart across our living room and dissapear, we suspect it (or they) came from the garage as there is a hole in the wall that they might have come through but we are not sure (it is a hole, but we're uncertain if it leads anywhere as it was a manmade hole for our fireplace rail to slot into). \n\n&nbsp;\n\nMy wife tells me this morning she can hear something rustling, possibly eating something in our bedroom. Now I am not sure the best way to handle the situation, it could be one mouse or god forbid a family and we cannot pinpoint where they are congregating or where they came from. What traps work best and where would be best for them to be set up?", "We have a mouse (or possibly mice) in our house... what do? I am very much an animal lover and don't want to kill them, but from what I have read it might have to come to that. I first spotted one upstairs darting across the landing, we almost caught it in a net but it escaped and we never saw it again for a few weeks. The other day I spot one dart across our living room and dissapear, we suspect it (or they) came from the garage as there is a hole in the wall that they might have come through but we are not sure (it is a hole, but we're uncertain if it leads anywhere as it was a manmade hole for our fireplace rail to slot into). \n\n&nbsp;\n\nMy wife tells me this morning she can hear something rustling, possibly eating something in our bedroom. Now I am not sure the best way to handle the situation, it could be one mouse or god forbid a family and we cannot pinpoint where they are congregating or where they came from. What traps work best and where would be best for them to be set up?" ]	[ "There are high frequency devices on Amazon. Basically a wall plug that emits a sound rodents dislike and will run from the sound. I have multiple in my home and I haven't seen any signs of rodents or roaches.", "I had that problem of hearing something eating in my ceiling while I was sleeping. It was brown mice. My step dad set up the glue traps. Used cereal or dog food as bait. You can get them at Home Depot. It’s just sad because there’s no way on ungluing them so they are forced to die. It’s that or you have a whole colony of mice that invades your home so start acting quick. I think mice give birth at fast rates. Good luck. ", "Tin Cat. Look it up on Amazon. Square metal box trap with mechanism to catch live mice. Use peanut butter on bread. Make sure to check OFTEN or the rodents will die in the trap.\n \nLive catch and release. RELEASE FAR AWAY 15min+ car drive.\n\n \np.s. As a Florida resident. The high frequency devices don't work on roaches.", "Hi, I'm sorry to say, I have never had any luck with humane traps, you need to drop them too far away for it to be of any use or they will find a way to come back. (I assume due to their young/nesting place)\n\nYou need to fill the hole with wirewool, they can't chew through it. The traditional style wooden snap cut traps are the best ones. It's a case of tried and tested with these. They are humane in as much as they are likely to kill the mouse instantly. But speed is really of the essence in these cases. If they are brave enough to be out in daylight, you definitely have more than one.\n\nIt's a numbers game, put down as many as you can afford, ideally ten, minimum 5. You need to have the short side with the bait in against the wall, that way the mouse can come at it both sides. Bait with a few different things. Ham, Nutella and peanut butter I find work best, but your mice will have their own preferences.\n\nTry and touch the traps as little as possible, wear rubber gloves if you can so it doesn't get too much of your scent. Once they are down, leave them alone, it will take a few days for the mice to become confident enough to explore them.\n\nKeep resetting and rebaiting the traps even when you've caught one and keep setting them until you haven't heard anything for a few weeks\n\nGood luck", "A high frequency device (if you don't have pets in the house), snap traps, or Hav-A-Heart (catch & release) cages are your best options here.\n\nWhatever you do, DO NOT use glue traps! They are the most inhumane kind of trap on the market. I understand people don't like/want mice in their house, I don't either. But the animal can languish for days on those things. Sometimes chewing off their own limbs to escape.", "When I had a pair of mice last year, ultimately the only thing that worked was the glue traps. I tried several more humane options first, but at the end of the day, they flat out didn't work, and the glue traps did. Mice are disease vectors, you do need to get rid of them and fast.", "Go on YouTube. Search for mousetrap Monday. Watch his videos. \n\nHe has the best mousetrap reviews and shows use case of all items. \n\nLive traps are also reviewed but like what's been said release WAY WAY far away from your house. \n\nAlso act quickly. I was always told rule of thumb if you see one mouse you have seven you haven't seen.", "Whatever you do, don't give it a cookie. You'll never be rid of it, and it will want more cookies and milk and eventually you'll have to take it to school. ", "If you catch 2 mice in the same live trap they will kill and eat each other. Worth considering for an animal lover. \n\nSimple snap traps have always worked for me. I get a couple every fall. ", "I've used several live traps before that worked just fine. One of them was literally called \"Smart Mouse Trap\" from Amazon. Caught many of them quickly and drove them far away to release. Usually in the woods. I'd rather they die caught by a predator to be eaten than I kill them. Only had to use peanut butter to bait.\n\nPlease don't use glue traps though, they're incredibly evil. \n\n", "Cotton balls soaked in peppermint oil will only deter them, they're not going away. Check inside & out to find where they got in. You could buy steel wool & plug any openings, or use traps (I know u like animals, but . . .) I was told that not all cats will catch mice. ", "Ace Hardware carries a live catch mouse trap. It's a box with an opening on one end and a trapdoor there. Put some peanut butter in it. The mouse will run in and the trap door will close. Then just take him far away and release him. That's what we did and it worked. Make sure you leave the shop near a wall. As that's where they like to run." ]	[ 8, 5, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to remove black marks left on nose by glasses After wearing glasses for a few weeks, black marks are starting to appear on the parts of the nose that come in contact with the glasses. How does one get rid of these?", "How to remove black marks left on nose by glasses After wearing glasses for a few weeks, black marks are starting to appear on the parts of the nose that come in contact with the glasses. How does one get rid of these?", "How to remove black marks left on nose by glasses After wearing glasses for a few weeks, black marks are starting to appear on the parts of the nose that come in contact with the glasses. How does one get rid of these?" ]	[ "Make-up...?\n\nOr buy a frame that doesn't press your nose so hard, i don't have that problem because my frame is pretty light.", "Black marks? Like paint or rubber from the glasses, or blackheads? Either way, clean your face and glasses.", "Put yourself inside of a washing machine and tun it on. Not only will you wash the black spots off, you'll have a quick shower too. Win, win. " ]	[ 2, -3, -4 ]	safe
[ "How to adjust to moving away from my hometown? Today, I'm moving away from my hometown of Detroit to a different city in Michigan, and I feel already really sad about being so far away from all of my close friends, and my boyfriend. How do I help myself adjust to being so far away?", "How to adjust to moving away from my hometown? Today, I'm moving away from my hometown of Detroit to a different city in Michigan, and I feel already really sad about being so far away from all of my close friends, and my boyfriend. How do I help myself adjust to being so far away?", "How to adjust to moving away from my hometown? Today, I'm moving away from my hometown of Detroit to a different city in Michigan, and I feel already really sad about being so far away from all of my close friends, and my boyfriend. How do I help myself adjust to being so far away?" ]	[ "Well, you have to turn your new home in \"the home\".\n\nYou won't feel really comfortable until you accept that this place is YOUR home.", "Detroit sucks.. I moved away when I was 21.. lived in Korea, TN, KY, KS and MO.. everywhere is better than here.. go out and find stuff to do around your area.. first step though is to get a license.. You live in Michigan, and it sounds like you left the metro area so public transit is out of the question. Michigan and especially here in Detroit is designed for car owners.. we're not pedestrian friendly.", "I moved from Illinois to North Carolina about 10 years ago when I was 21 and it was rough for sure. Don’t immediately give into home sickness. \n\nSkype was helpful, as was Facebook. I found some dog parks and took my dog there. I didn’t make any life long friends there but I talked to people with common interests and it helped with loneliness. I became friends with my coworkers. I went to museums and stuff. It took about a year or two but I feel more at home here than I ever did in Illinois now!" ]	[ 5, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to find where a mystery smell is coming from in your kitchen. My kitchen has smelled rank for the last week. I have gone through everything in the fridge and pantry and I simply cannot find where the stench is coming from.", "How to find where a mystery smell is coming from in your kitchen. My kitchen has smelled rank for the last week. I have gone through everything in the fridge and pantry and I simply cannot find where the stench is coming from.", "How to find where a mystery smell is coming from in your kitchen. My kitchen has smelled rank for the last week. I have gone through everything in the fridge and pantry and I simply cannot find where the stench is coming from.", "How to find where a mystery smell is coming from in your kitchen. My kitchen has smelled rank for the last week. I have gone through everything in the fridge and pantry and I simply cannot find where the stench is coming from.", "How to find where a mystery smell is coming from in your kitchen. My kitchen has smelled rank for the last week. I have gone through everything in the fridge and pantry and I simply cannot find where the stench is coming from.", "How to find where a mystery smell is coming from in your kitchen. My kitchen has smelled rank for the last week. I have gone through everything in the fridge and pantry and I simply cannot find where the stench is coming from.", "How to find where a mystery smell is coming from in your kitchen. My kitchen has smelled rank for the last week. I have gone through everything in the fridge and pantry and I simply cannot find where the stench is coming from." ]	[ "Pull out the stove and fridge and see what's there.\n\nIt's possible something died behind an appliance, or rolled there and is rotting.", "Just a shot in the dark, but do you have a crawlspace under your home? Also, try smelling every wall, never know when something was exposed to moisture and developed mold underneath. ", "Did you check your potatoes? Thats what happen to us. Didn't know until I finally picked up the bag and it dripped...needless to say I threw up...\nOr your towels/sponges? That can hold a mildew smell even if they are clean", "My cat brought a live (but wounded) vole inside the house and dropped it in the middle of the kitchen. It ran behind the dishwasher. I had to pull out the floor duct cover (thing that you can open/close that fits into the floor vent) to slide out the dishwasher- and of course the rodent ran into the exposed duct without me seeing it. (The dishwasher, pulled out, was on top of it.) About 2 days later the real fun began. The smell was so nasty and I'd looked everywhere, so I finally just blindly reached my arm down into the duct as it had a sharp bend and felt something furry. The heat in the duct kept it nice and ripe. ", "It really depends on what the bad smell is. Is it a rotting smell? Is it a smell you can identify?\n\nI had this issue once and found out the bad smell was rat urine. Found her nesting in the pull out drawer under the stove.\n\nNo I'm not a slob. I found out that the O'Charlies at the end of the street about 200 yards away exterminated for rats shortly before I discovered the smell.", "I recommend tape and garbage bags. Tape one tightly over your sink as a method for exclusion; see if the smell stays or goes away. After a while you can cut a small hole and stick your nose in to isolate the smells that really are coming from there. ", "Check under the sink for Mold caused by a leak...I just tore my kitchen apart trying to find out where a smell was coming from only to discover that a pipe in the wall had worked itself loose from a joint causing a small leak and a subsequent mold problem. Replaced the drywall and a liberal application of bleach eliminated the odor." ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to explain something to someone superior to you One of the toughest things is talking back to your parrents because you will always get in trouble for it. Sometimes, my parrents do something really embarrassing and I want to know how to tell them about it without coming across as rude. Same with teachers. I am an advanced student and I want to ask the teachers if I can learn some different material but that see it as me telling them their material is bad. Any person of a higher status than you (instructor, teacher/profesor, parrent, boss, police officer, etc.). This LPT would really be useful so I can talk to more people without coming across as rude. \n\nTL; DR - how to politely tell someone they are doing something wrong or you didn't do anything wrong without sounding like a brat.\n\n", "How to explain something to someone superior to you One of the toughest things is talking back to your parrents because you will always get in trouble for it. Sometimes, my parrents do something really embarrassing and I want to know how to tell them about it without coming across as rude. Same with teachers. I am an advanced student and I want to ask the teachers if I can learn some different material but that see it as me telling them their material is bad. Any person of a higher status than you (instructor, teacher/profesor, parrent, boss, police officer, etc.). This LPT would really be useful so I can talk to more people without coming across as rude. \n\nTL; DR - how to politely tell someone they are doing something wrong or you didn't do anything wrong without sounding like a brat.\n\n" ]	[ "With your parents, it's probably a lost cause until you are older. You have to understand the relationship there is really unique, and a lot of parents really don't understand that you have to treat your children (especially teen children) like people. With everybody else, just talk to them normally. Do you really think your teacher, who is being paid to teach you things, is going to be offended because you asked to learn things? I got money on he/she being totally psyched that you are interested and engaged. ", "First, do you NEED to correct them? Is it IMPORTANT? \n\nIf no, shut up.\n\nBut if yes, such as if it affects your grade or a work assignment, then find a venue when there's either not an audience or it doesn't matter. Then address the inaccuracy WITHOUT directly calling it a mistake or accusing the person.\n\n* \"Hello. Can I please point out something I'm noticing about that report that might not be 100%?\"\n\n* \"I read from source-X that [the observation] is actually [the truth]. Could that source be wrong here?\" \n\n* \"My skills are actually probably better at [the other thing] than this assignment. Would it be useful if I helped with that instead?\"\n\nQuestion it just in case you're wrong yourself or don't have complete information. Don't blurt out that it's wrong.\n\nYou can learn a lot about a person from their reply. Just because they're a parent or a professor or a boss doesn't mean they automatically are 100% right, and it really doesn't mean you shouldn't correct them either. The best ones absolutely know their limitations and their humanity and they'll actually appreciate when someone points out an error in a polite and non-embarrassing way, provided you're not being pedantic.\n\n(FYI this isn't \"talking back\" at all, that implies your sassing or disrespecting the person you're talking to. I don't think that's what you meant to say when you used the term.)" ]	[ 3, 3 ]	safe
[ "How to align garage door sensor beam. So, my sensor is pretty close but sometimes when it is closing it wiggles and the door wont close. Any thoughts on how I can get a stronger connection or just a straighter line between the two? Thanks in advance.", "How to align garage door sensor beam. So, my sensor is pretty close but sometimes when it is closing it wiggles and the door wont close. Any thoughts on how I can get a stronger connection or just a straighter line between the two? Thanks in advance.", "How to align garage door sensor beam. So, my sensor is pretty close but sometimes when it is closing it wiggles and the door wont close. Any thoughts on how I can get a stronger connection or just a straighter line between the two? Thanks in advance." ]	[ "I measured with a ruler from the garage floor to the bottom of the first one and then matched the height on the second one. \n\nAre your sensors twisted to where they aren't pointing directly at each other?", "This device is only used to prevent it from shutting on things such as kids or cars... But once it encounters a said skinny of resistance it will go up back matter what. When we cashed the repair man they said it would take hundreds of dollars of equipment or we could do it the way I mentioned for free", "I had this problem before... Now I don't know your situation, but we don't have kids or small animals. In that case we could cut the cables on the sensor and taped the beam ends together and rewired them on the back of the garage door engine... If you need pics for proof I will provide." ]	[ 2, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to become friends/approach a girl you like (that you don’t talk to at all) in high school? So if there’s a girl I like (we smile at Eachother once in a while and she thumbs me up before I present, she’s friendly to everyone though I’ve heard so atleast she doesn’t hate me or not like me at all lol) , how can I approach /start talking to her without barely knowing her? (We talked a lot in 6th grade so that’s it), but I figure this question can help everyone in general on how to approach a girl you like too hopefully ", "How to become friends/approach a girl you like (that you don’t talk to at all) in high school? So if there’s a girl I like (we smile at Eachother once in a while and she thumbs me up before I present, she’s friendly to everyone though I’ve heard so atleast she doesn’t hate me or not like me at all lol) , how can I approach /start talking to her without barely knowing her? (We talked a lot in 6th grade so that’s it), but I figure this question can help everyone in general on how to approach a girl you like too hopefully ", "How to become friends/approach a girl you like (that you don’t talk to at all) in high school? So if there’s a girl I like (we smile at Eachother once in a while and she thumbs me up before I present, she’s friendly to everyone though I’ve heard so atleast she doesn’t hate me or not like me at all lol) , how can I approach /start talking to her without barely knowing her? (We talked a lot in 6th grade so that’s it), but I figure this question can help everyone in general on how to approach a girl you like too hopefully ", "How to become friends/approach a girl you like (that you don’t talk to at all) in high school? So if there’s a girl I like (we smile at Eachother once in a while and she thumbs me up before I present, she’s friendly to everyone though I’ve heard so atleast she doesn’t hate me or not like me at all lol) , how can I approach /start talking to her without barely knowing her? (We talked a lot in 6th grade so that’s it), but I figure this question can help everyone in general on how to approach a girl you like too hopefully " ]	[ "Gulp down an entire 1.5L bottle of coke as a dare and proceed to throw it up into the nearest rubbish bin. Worked for one guy in high school, who has since become my husband XD", "Ohhh sweet times in high school, i still remember getting nervous and not knowing what to do or how to approach girls i liked back then, even though they liked me as well, missed a lot of opportunities 'cuss of this, anyway, if i could advice my younger me on this matter i would say, GO! Talk to her, say hi, i think you are cool and i want to know you, ask her little things about her life at first, what she likes to eat?, does she have any pets? Favourite music? Anything! Just be friendly and smile, girls love to be heard believe me, and whatever she answers to those small soft questions will allow you to dive down into more personal or intimate things! This will also help you realize if you really like her as something more than just a friend. And really, just talk to her, said it yourself, she is being friendly to you already, smiling at you and giving you thumbs up.\n\nP.D. An aditional tip i would like to add: give her just the right amount of attention, you don't wanna look like needy by giving too much, or look like you don't care by giving too little... This is easier said than done, i'm sorry but women are this complicated sometimes.", "Ask a silly poll that reflects your personnal slightly unpopular opinion:\nYou seem like a nice person, what do you prefer pineapple on pizza or keeping your ketchup in the cupboard.\nIf conversation flows, you're in. If it doesn't, it means she wasn't for you and move on.", "You need a hook. She is giving you some attention, so work with that. How does this sound for next time? Approach her after class, \"Thanks for the thumbs up when I went up to speak. Three minutes doesn't seem like a long time to talk about a poem, but I was dreading it. Did I make an arse of myself?\" Listen attentively, ask a follow up, then, \"How do you do it? You seem so relaxed when you presented.\" Throw in any other self\\-deprecating humor and any other evidence that you are paying attention to her. \n\n\nThat's all I got. I'm pretty sure you want to be on speaking terms before you ask her out. Good luck friend, we've all been there and hated it. " ]	[ 9, 6, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "Got a very competitive first offer, want more but don't want to build bad faith. Lets give some context:\n\nCurrently working at a digital consultancy agency as a part time job while I am graduating my MBA.\n\nI have 1,5 year of experience at this company, get along with everyone and am doing a good job on my accounts. Exitted the junior stage very early and have build some quite impressive projects despite my age (24) and lack of experience.\n\nI got an offer from them at €3K a month, which is above the average starting salary (2,5-2,7K). Am already very happy with this offer but I would like to try and get a bit more out of it, without coming across as ungrateful.\n\nHow can I reply to the e-mail I got with the offer, without coming off as ungrateful and without burning down any bridges.\n\nAsking for more paid vacation is not going to work since it is a consultancy firm. Time == money in consultancy.", "Got a very competitive first offer, want more but don't want to build bad faith. Lets give some context:\n\nCurrently working at a digital consultancy agency as a part time job while I am graduating my MBA.\n\nI have 1,5 year of experience at this company, get along with everyone and am doing a good job on my accounts. Exitted the junior stage very early and have build some quite impressive projects despite my age (24) and lack of experience.\n\nI got an offer from them at €3K a month, which is above the average starting salary (2,5-2,7K). Am already very happy with this offer but I would like to try and get a bit more out of it, without coming across as ungrateful.\n\nHow can I reply to the e-mail I got with the offer, without coming off as ungrateful and without burning down any bridges.\n\nAsking for more paid vacation is not going to work since it is a consultancy firm. Time == money in consultancy.", "Got a very competitive first offer, want more but don't want to build bad faith. Lets give some context:\n\nCurrently working at a digital consultancy agency as a part time job while I am graduating my MBA.\n\nI have 1,5 year of experience at this company, get along with everyone and am doing a good job on my accounts. Exitted the junior stage very early and have build some quite impressive projects despite my age (24) and lack of experience.\n\nI got an offer from them at €3K a month, which is above the average starting salary (2,5-2,7K). Am already very happy with this offer but I would like to try and get a bit more out of it, without coming across as ungrateful.\n\nHow can I reply to the e-mail I got with the offer, without coming off as ungrateful and without burning down any bridges.\n\nAsking for more paid vacation is not going to work since it is a consultancy firm. Time == money in consultancy." ]	[ "If that's your first \"real job\" offer, just take it. You already said it well above average. You don't have a lot of experience to leverage in a negotiation.\n\nSomething you can do is ask about the benefits and try getting a little something extra there", "You don’t have much negotiation leverage until you get an offer from a competitor (assuming you’ve not signed a non-compete). When you get an offer from one or two competitors, then you can negotiate for more.", "Take it and ask for a raise next year or ask for something different like health insurance or any other perk besides more money he’ll even a nice parking spot" ]	[ 5, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "Just got a new job, how can I knock my first week out of the park? I'm about to start a new job - this is my first \"job transition\" in my life. It's a fantastic new opportunity for me and I'm really excited to start. \n\nI want to make the most of the opportunity - so reddit what is your advice?\n\nI've already pondered a few things:\n- I plan on setting up meetings with my managers and teammates right away. What should I ask them about?\n- I like to be pretty outspoken when I have an opinion (not obnoxiously so - but more vocal than most). Is it kosher to be this way right away in meetings etc, or should I ease in?\n\nSo Reddit - bless me with your corporate wisdom!", "Just got a new job, how can I knock my first week out of the park? I'm about to start a new job - this is my first \"job transition\" in my life. It's a fantastic new opportunity for me and I'm really excited to start. \n\nI want to make the most of the opportunity - so reddit what is your advice?\n\nI've already pondered a few things:\n- I plan on setting up meetings with my managers and teammates right away. What should I ask them about?\n- I like to be pretty outspoken when I have an opinion (not obnoxiously so - but more vocal than most). Is it kosher to be this way right away in meetings etc, or should I ease in?\n\nSo Reddit - bless me with your corporate wisdom!", "Just got a new job, how can I knock my first week out of the park? I'm about to start a new job - this is my first \"job transition\" in my life. It's a fantastic new opportunity for me and I'm really excited to start. \n\nI want to make the most of the opportunity - so reddit what is your advice?\n\nI've already pondered a few things:\n- I plan on setting up meetings with my managers and teammates right away. What should I ask them about?\n- I like to be pretty outspoken when I have an opinion (not obnoxiously so - but more vocal than most). Is it kosher to be this way right away in meetings etc, or should I ease in?\n\nSo Reddit - bless me with your corporate wisdom!", "Just got a new job, how can I knock my first week out of the park? I'm about to start a new job - this is my first \"job transition\" in my life. It's a fantastic new opportunity for me and I'm really excited to start. \n\nI want to make the most of the opportunity - so reddit what is your advice?\n\nI've already pondered a few things:\n- I plan on setting up meetings with my managers and teammates right away. What should I ask them about?\n- I like to be pretty outspoken when I have an opinion (not obnoxiously so - but more vocal than most). Is it kosher to be this way right away in meetings etc, or should I ease in?\n\nSo Reddit - bless me with your corporate wisdom!", "Just got a new job, how can I knock my first week out of the park? I'm about to start a new job - this is my first \"job transition\" in my life. It's a fantastic new opportunity for me and I'm really excited to start. \n\nI want to make the most of the opportunity - so reddit what is your advice?\n\nI've already pondered a few things:\n- I plan on setting up meetings with my managers and teammates right away. What should I ask them about?\n- I like to be pretty outspoken when I have an opinion (not obnoxiously so - but more vocal than most). Is it kosher to be this way right away in meetings etc, or should I ease in?\n\nSo Reddit - bless me with your corporate wisdom!", "Just got a new job, how can I knock my first week out of the park? I'm about to start a new job - this is my first \"job transition\" in my life. It's a fantastic new opportunity for me and I'm really excited to start. \n\nI want to make the most of the opportunity - so reddit what is your advice?\n\nI've already pondered a few things:\n- I plan on setting up meetings with my managers and teammates right away. What should I ask them about?\n- I like to be pretty outspoken when I have an opinion (not obnoxiously so - but more vocal than most). Is it kosher to be this way right away in meetings etc, or should I ease in?\n\nSo Reddit - bless me with your corporate wisdom!", "Just got a new job, how can I knock my first week out of the park? I'm about to start a new job - this is my first \"job transition\" in my life. It's a fantastic new opportunity for me and I'm really excited to start. \n\nI want to make the most of the opportunity - so reddit what is your advice?\n\nI've already pondered a few things:\n- I plan on setting up meetings with my managers and teammates right away. What should I ask them about?\n- I like to be pretty outspoken when I have an opinion (not obnoxiously so - but more vocal than most). Is it kosher to be this way right away in meetings etc, or should I ease in?\n\nSo Reddit - bless me with your corporate wisdom!" ]	[ "Congrats on your new job. The way I do things is I let people talk and I listen. It is always great to get a feel for the personalities you are working with. once my feet are wet then I will give opinions and answer questions. Remember you have 1 chance to make a first impression with your coworkers. Dont be the guy some people think is a know it all douche. ", "Ask your co-workers their preferred method of communication. You don't want to be sending your boss a million emails if they're a face-to-face kind of person, or vice versa. This helps a ton, and ensures that you'll get a quick response from the person.\n\nAlso, in general:\n\n-Don't be afraid to ask questions. Even if they feel dumb, the fact that you're thinking and trying to understand goes a long way.\n\n-Write stuff down. It's easy to forget little facts, and it's the little things (so and so handles this, or this has to be sent out at the 15th of every month, etc) that people get irritated with if you mess up over and over or keep forgetting\n\n-Be proactive. If you need to understand something, ask. If you don't have much to do, ask how you can be of help.\n\nGood luck!", ">I plan on setting up meetings with my managers and teammates right away. \n\nPlease don't do this. You're going to make a terrible first impression and people are going to be annoyed with you. Meetings are avoided like the plague. Spend one-on-one time with your team members to learn about how they relate to your job.\n\n>What should I ask them about?\n\nIn the beginning, you should only ask about things you don't understand. And it's perfectly normal for that to be quite a bit. You need to be watching for office politics, management/leadership styles, procedures, the current problems being handled, general high-school nonsense (who likes who, who hates who, etc). You ask questions about the work you are assigned, you get to know your coworkers and responsibilities. \n\n> I like to be pretty outspoken when I have an opinion (not obnoxiously so - but more vocal than most). Is it kosher to be this way right away in meetings etc, or should I ease in?\n\nYou should ease in. The more you talk in the beginning, the more likely you are to make yourself look like an idiot. You need to make sure you know what's going on and how to look at topics from different angles. And you need to be aware of the office politics going on. If you piss off the wrong person, you can make your life a lot harder.\n\nI'm not saying that your attitude or style are bad. There's nothing wrong with being proactive, friendly, and outspoken. And in some jobs these can be valuable traits. But you need to know what's going on before you put yourself in situations. \n\nYou wouldn't go to another country where you don't know the language and culture without doing research and observing. You would walk into a Japanese house with your shoes on and you'll get yelled at, feel like an idiot, and be incredibly confused about what the problem is. Consider a new job to be a new country.", "This is all good advice. I would also advice you to start slowly and listen. The other advice I have for starting new jobs is to be careful with the person that tries to befriend you right away and tells you who is nice and not nice and wants to go to lunch every day etc. Sometimes that person is the office pariah and so has learned to try to befriend newbies. Hold back a little and don't voice any opinions about anyone to anyone. Good advice forever, but especially at the beginning.", "I don't know about setting up meetings with your managers and teammates. Maybe other peoples office lives are different but no one likes meetings period and everyone tries to avoid them. If a new guy tried to setup a meeting to meet and greet I would probably understand their enthusiasm but it wouldn't be the best first impression.\n\nThe best impression I got from a new hire was.\n\nHe said hi to me in the hall and passing.\n\nHe needed little direction.\n\n*He was good at his job.\n\nAlso look sharp. You want to look as beautiful/handsome as you can because people will treat you better and like you more period.\n", "Congratulations and what are you going to be doing?\n\nI certainly wouldn't send meeting invites right away. Let managers and team leads handle that while you get a feel for the place.\n\n\nDress sharp. Dress like your boss or your boss's boss. If you don't get introduced to people, just introduce yourself whenever you bump into people while getting coffee or going to the bathroom. Make a mental note to beware of anyone that talks a lot or talks trash about the place. Take good notes.\n\n\nDepending on the work I may be able to add other stuff. Good luck!", "After bouncing around in my younger years. I learned to write down things I did not like and would like to change. Begin to imolement these changes slowly. People do not take to changes very well. So I learned. This also helps should you last at this job several years, you can look back at this paper of yours and see what you thought could of changed. Because after a while you start to conform and do as everyone else does. So this will help to keep your ideas fresh and new several years inyo your job. Also, I learned to look for the one thing everybody else hates to do and do it better thab anybody else has ever done it. Your boss will be your new best friend really quick ;-). " ]	[ 5, 3, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "My electronics make my room the hottest in the house, how can I help cool it down? I have 3 routers, a PC, a PS4, big flatscreen TV and a set top box. The PS4 and TV are off most of the time. Even with that, my room is ridiculously hot. I live in Texas, opening the window probably lets more heat in, I bought a standing fan and put it in the corner of my room but it doesn't do much. Any tips?", "My electronics make my room the hottest in the house, how can I help cool it down? I have 3 routers, a PC, a PS4, big flatscreen TV and a set top box. The PS4 and TV are off most of the time. Even with that, my room is ridiculously hot. I live in Texas, opening the window probably lets more heat in, I bought a standing fan and put it in the corner of my room but it doesn't do much. Any tips?", "My electronics make my room the hottest in the house, how can I help cool it down? I have 3 routers, a PC, a PS4, big flatscreen TV and a set top box. The PS4 and TV are off most of the time. Even with that, my room is ridiculously hot. I live in Texas, opening the window probably lets more heat in, I bought a standing fan and put it in the corner of my room but it doesn't do much. Any tips?", "My electronics make my room the hottest in the house, how can I help cool it down? I have 3 routers, a PC, a PS4, big flatscreen TV and a set top box. The PS4 and TV are off most of the time. Even with that, my room is ridiculously hot. I live in Texas, opening the window probably lets more heat in, I bought a standing fan and put it in the corner of my room but it doesn't do much. Any tips?", "My electronics make my room the hottest in the house, how can I help cool it down? I have 3 routers, a PC, a PS4, big flatscreen TV and a set top box. The PS4 and TV are off most of the time. Even with that, my room is ridiculously hot. I live in Texas, opening the window probably lets more heat in, I bought a standing fan and put it in the corner of my room but it doesn't do much. Any tips?" ]	[ "You need to move the generated heat out of the room or add more cooling to the room. \n\nWhen I was a teen my two computers made my room crazy hot. I convinced the 'rents to let me cut a small hole to the attic and used a dryer hose mounted to my computers to vent the hot air out. ", "Just like a PC, your room needs air flow to cool down. \n\nTry putting you fan at the door of your room. Experiment a bit, try it facing outwards and try it facing inwards. As long as something is being done to cycle your room's air with the air in the rest of the house. \n\nAlso, close your Windows and blinds during the day. If the sun's really bad you may even consider putting cardboard on the windows to block the heat. At night open the windows to let in the cool air. The idea is to get as much cool air in at night and trap it in during the day. ", "In my computer room, i have a desk clip fan that i put on the upper part of the door, blows the warmest air out of the door. It naturally draws cooler air from the rest of the house into the warm room.", "A lot of consumer electronics these day actually goes into a \"standby\" mode rather than turning off completely. So it is still on, using electricity and producing heat , even though it is switched \"off\" see if actually unplugging make a difference to your heat levels. \n\nFor science. \n\nOther thing to consider would be putting a trellis on your outside wall and growing something like grape vines on it. That way they shade the wall in summer and keep it cooler and then drop their leaves in winter so the sun can warm your walls. ", "See about moving some stuff out of your room (maybe 2 of the routers can sit in the hallway?). \n\nIf you have any type of fan, it will help a ton. Just moving the air will make it feel cooler. Use the osculating setting on the fan rather than just having it blow at you. " ]	[ 4, 4, 3, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to discuss things with other people without trying to change their minds mainly politics / social issues", "How to discuss things with other people without trying to change their minds mainly politics / social issues", "How to discuss things with other people without trying to change their minds mainly politics / social issues", "How to discuss things with other people without trying to change their minds mainly politics / social issues", "How to discuss things with other people without trying to change their minds mainly politics / social issues" ]	[ "Easy, avoid stating your own opinion, but keep asking questions until you understand why they believe in their opinion about it.", "Good question. I tend to remain neutral until I get a “feel” for where they’re headed. \nYou just ask them to explain their point. Once they get past the media sell points, they tend to run out of steam.\nAlways be receptive to hearing the other person’s point of view after the media rant is over. That’s when you can learn more about them, and go into discussion.\n\nThis only works in sober situations. Don’t ever get into politics while drinking.", "\"I hear what you're saying.. Have you considered...\" Reflect emotion, restate their opinions so that they feel heard, ask open ended questions like, \"have you thought about...\"", "Judge if they have the capacity for that sort of nuanced interaction, many do not.\n\nClarify at the start \"I'm not looking for a debate, just curious what your perspective has been on....\"", "When (and if) you state your opinions or intervene, try to ask a question as well.\n\n\"Huh I always thought cause resulted in this and that. How would you think we could avoid the problems?\" \n\nIt makes them feel like they're not ranting, but also shifts the focus into them quickly." ]	[ 12, 8, 3, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to make my hands smell good (for a guy) I don't know if people pay attention to this or not, but I've noticed that my hands don't always smell very good. \n\n", "How to make my hands smell good (for a guy) I don't know if people pay attention to this or not, but I've noticed that my hands don't always smell very good. \n\n", "How to make my hands smell good (for a guy) I don't know if people pay attention to this or not, but I've noticed that my hands don't always smell very good. \n\n", "How to make my hands smell good (for a guy) I don't know if people pay attention to this or not, but I've noticed that my hands don't always smell very good. \n\n" ]	[ "Stop scratching your balls, scrub your nails, wash your hands more thoroughly with soap, use scented hand cream. ", "Use vanilla scented hand sanitizer. \nUse nice smelling soaps. I like Dr. Bronner's lavender. If there is a hippyish grocery store, check out their soap sections for potent natural soaps. ", "Scrub them. Scrub them hard. Use an exfoliating soap (liquid or bar). Use an old toothbrush and scrub under your nails. Get some manly lotion like gold bond for men which has a light manly scent. The fuck are you doing with your hands?", "A few things along with what has already been mentioned- soak your hands in clear alcohol. Some cheap vodka would work. Or try lemon juice....I don't want to know why/how they smell but I have heard this things work for stinky feet so they might work for hands. " ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "asking for a raise I’ve read some posts on here about asking for a raise. They were really useful. I have a few more questions I’d like advice on that are a little more specific to my situation.\n\n1) I work in a production environment. My numbers are significantly higher than everyone here. When I first got here, the required production number was much lower. I exceeded those numbers time and time again and I believe management looked at my numbers and said if he gets this many and he’s newer, then everyone else can too. I believe I set the standard and pushed my coworkers to have to be more productive. Should I include this in my letter or no. If so, how should I word it without seeming arrogant?\n\n2) we do contract work for another company. we do the same work as them. I have an idea what the other company pays their top workers for my position. Is it wrong to compare their pay to mine? \n\n3) if they try to say I’m asking for too much, I’m planning on asking them why. Is it my performance or the company’s budget. If they say it’s my performance I’m going to ask for proof. How do I go about this or should I avoid it all together? I’m on the verge of a separate promotion, not necessarily one that will give me a raise right away but in the future. A position promotion. \n\n4) is it also wrong to ask to be the highest paid person of my position? Or just ask for a set number. ", "asking for a raise I’ve read some posts on here about asking for a raise. They were really useful. I have a few more questions I’d like advice on that are a little more specific to my situation.\n\n1) I work in a production environment. My numbers are significantly higher than everyone here. When I first got here, the required production number was much lower. I exceeded those numbers time and time again and I believe management looked at my numbers and said if he gets this many and he’s newer, then everyone else can too. I believe I set the standard and pushed my coworkers to have to be more productive. Should I include this in my letter or no. If so, how should I word it without seeming arrogant?\n\n2) we do contract work for another company. we do the same work as them. I have an idea what the other company pays their top workers for my position. Is it wrong to compare their pay to mine? \n\n3) if they try to say I’m asking for too much, I’m planning on asking them why. Is it my performance or the company’s budget. If they say it’s my performance I’m going to ask for proof. How do I go about this or should I avoid it all together? I’m on the verge of a separate promotion, not necessarily one that will give me a raise right away but in the future. A position promotion. \n\n4) is it also wrong to ask to be the highest paid person of my position? Or just ask for a set number. ", "asking for a raise I’ve read some posts on here about asking for a raise. They were really useful. I have a few more questions I’d like advice on that are a little more specific to my situation.\n\n1) I work in a production environment. My numbers are significantly higher than everyone here. When I first got here, the required production number was much lower. I exceeded those numbers time and time again and I believe management looked at my numbers and said if he gets this many and he’s newer, then everyone else can too. I believe I set the standard and pushed my coworkers to have to be more productive. Should I include this in my letter or no. If so, how should I word it without seeming arrogant?\n\n2) we do contract work for another company. we do the same work as them. I have an idea what the other company pays their top workers for my position. Is it wrong to compare their pay to mine? \n\n3) if they try to say I’m asking for too much, I’m planning on asking them why. Is it my performance or the company’s budget. If they say it’s my performance I’m going to ask for proof. How do I go about this or should I avoid it all together? I’m on the verge of a separate promotion, not necessarily one that will give me a raise right away but in the future. A position promotion. \n\n4) is it also wrong to ask to be the highest paid person of my position? Or just ask for a set number. " ]	[ "Ask to see the pay grade charts. Many companies have a chart that says \"Position X gets paid $Y to $Z\" and might even include such detail as \"in order to be paid $Z (highest), must be in position for 3 years, have ABC certification, etc\"\n\nThey'll have a really tough time paying you more than the top amount for your position, it would require policy changes, budget changes, etc.\n\nShow that you want to see THEIR side in how they justify who gets paid what.", "Kick the door open stomp up to the the bossman while singing the internationale and demand more of the surplus value of your labor.", "Contract labor is a tricky beast for raises. The company who receives the contracts are always at the mercy of the company who wishes to outsource their labor. Pay will always be substantially less, unless the requestor for said raise has either a substantial sales or technical (can train lower cost resources at higher capacity) or both to justify a raise. The reason it's difficult to request a raise is that with contract labor, it's fairly easy to find new resources at cheaper cost than that of long term resources (fresh graduates/coops). The longer you stay at an outsourcing/contract company, the higher the risk of layoff for you. My advice: finish your education, build a network, and leave to an OEM as soon as it's viable to do so. -previous manager for an outsourced engineering company. " ]	[ 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to forget something. Not really talking about old habits. Rather, something you wish you never learned or heard. Like accidentally hearing a spoiler to a TV show you haven't even started watching.", "How to forget something. Not really talking about old habits. Rather, something you wish you never learned or heard. Like accidentally hearing a spoiler to a TV show you haven't even started watching." ]	[ "[These.](http://img2.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20130601033913/arresteddevelopment/images/9/9f/4x01_Flight_of_the_Phoenix_%28030%29.png)", "you can suppress it and over time you will forget about it. however should the right cue be presented, it will come back to mind.\n\nyou only get things to decay over time but really you dont forget anything, just that the right cues arent present. so remove any cues that you can, which would remind you again." ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Someone got access to basically all my personal information. What do I do? Email, Phone number, banking account, etc. \n\nThere hasn't been any activity yet but I know they have access and I've changed pretty much changed everything I could to my secondary email, which cut off ties to the email that got hacked. \n\nAlso I've contacted the \"person\" behind it. And I have an email and two telephone numbers (which are probably google voice numbers) that are linked to this person. Any advice on what I could do?", "Someone got access to basically all my personal information. What do I do? Email, Phone number, banking account, etc. \n\nThere hasn't been any activity yet but I know they have access and I've changed pretty much changed everything I could to my secondary email, which cut off ties to the email that got hacked. \n\nAlso I've contacted the \"person\" behind it. And I have an email and two telephone numbers (which are probably google voice numbers) that are linked to this person. Any advice on what I could do?" ]	[ "[9 Things to Do Immediately After Your Identity Is Stolen](http://money.usnews.com/money/personal-finance/articles/2015/07/31/9-things-to-do-immediately-after-your-identity-is-stolen) ", "[A 12-point checklist for victims of identity theft ](http://www.bankrate.com/finance/cr" ]	[ 6, 4 ]	safe
[ "Best way to find an apartment without using Craigslist or a realtor. I've been looking for an apartment in the Boston area, and can't find anything decent. Thanks!", "Best way to find an apartment without using Craigslist or a realtor. I've been looking for an apartment in the Boston area, and can't find anything decent. Thanks!", "Best way to find an apartment without using Craigslist or a realtor. I've been looking for an apartment in the Boston area, and can't find anything decent. Thanks!", "Best way to find an apartment without using Craigslist or a realtor. I've been looking for an apartment in the Boston area, and can't find anything decent. Thanks!", "Best way to find an apartment without using Craigslist or a realtor. I've been looking for an apartment in the Boston area, and can't find anything decent. Thanks!", "Best way to find an apartment without using Craigslist or a realtor. I've been looking for an apartment in the Boston area, and can't find anything decent. Thanks!" ]	[ "Spend a few hours walking around the part of town you want to live in. Look for the signs outside buildings that have the phone numbers of the rental agency/building owners/whomever will be renting to you. Call these people, ask about their apartments, set up a showing. ", "In Chicago we have free apartment finding services like the apartment people, Chicago apartment finders, etc. Its basically a free realtor. I believe the landlords pay to list with them. Try to find one of these services in Boston.", "Give [Zillow](http://www.zillow.com/homes/boston_rb/) a look. I recently discovered it myself and was using it to look at real estate and whatnot and it seems to have some nice filters for people looking for places to rent and a rough rent estimate. (I'm in the Boston area as well!)", "I was having the same issue recently. What I ended up doing was going on an apartment ratings website (I think I used apartmentratings.com) and looked for the best rated apartments in the area. Figuring that a good apartment shouldn't have to advertise vacancies I called the best rated ones and asked if they had anything that met my needs. I had to delay my move a week past when I wanted, because they were waiting for a lease to expire, but I found a much better apartment than I ever came across on Craigslist. ", "Find a place you like, and go up to someone living there (obviously the manager, if you can find him/her), and ask. You'd be amazed at how well this can work. Many people who invest in commercial real estate own multiple properties, and they almost always have some vacancies. So even if there isn't one at the place you checked, the manager might know that the owner has other vacancies at an equally nice place.", "Facebook Marketplace actually has some decent posts. People are less willing to put bullshit up since the posts link to their real name and you can direct message them. If you're looking for a specific area, it filters your search by workplace/area/etc as well. You're also less likely to come across creepers since it lists postings by people you are already connected with and friends of friends. I managed to find my current place pretty easily and safely through Marketplace. Good luck!" ]	[ 5, 5, 5, 3, 3, 3 ]	safe
[ "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!", "How can I reduce noise (and death screams) coming into my room from the busy pub street I live at? I live in a student city in the Netherlands and I'm tortured every night by the screams and shrieks of the drunk masses that congregate every night on the street below. Now, me and my housemate want to take action and were thinking about constructing some window panels with plywood, soundproofing foam and maybe some other materials. We both have two medium-large windows at the street side, so we get the full brunt of the sound. Does anybody have any experience with this or some golden advice that we ought to know about? We don't expect it to be totally quiet or sound proof, but any reduction would be great!" ]	[ "I did this once right after high school. Cut plywood to the size of window. Cover in soundproofing. Slide into windowsill. I then used blackout fabric and covered the whole monstrosity. \n\nI attached the plywood to the wall with snap buttons so i could easily remove it when i wanted to be able to use my window. \n\n", "I sleep with a white noise generator. It may be a cheaper and more effective solution to what you are going to try. I use the one by Hamacher Schlemmer. (Sp?) I can't recommend it enough! Good luck!", "Cheaper to block your ears than to insulate the whole apartment.\nEar plugs, sound cancelling headphones might be the first thing to try.\n\nAre you sleeping in the room that has windows onto the street?\n", "If you can find a used heavy curtain from a theatre, running it along the entire wall will help. \nFor the windows, Plexiglass, lexan, or 3mm thick clear plastic can be cut with a handsaw and can deaden sound. Attaching it using weatherstripping is low cost and easier than using fasteners. If the window leaks air, it also leaks sound, so any sealing will help. \nA can of expanding spray foam can reduce sound transmission through electrical penetrations in your wall and is cheap. \nAdding a thicker (~16mm) layer of drywall using acoustic absorptive gel/glue will help after you do something with the windows. Drywall sheets are cheap, but the plastering is a skill. \nAlso, check out Medium Density Fiberboard, instead of plywood. Plywood transmits sound (guitar body), and MDF absorbs it. MDF is lower cost than plywood. MDF covered in a carpet remnant (often free) or many towels is also good.\nCheck out Matt Risinger on YouTube. He shows how to soundproof new construction, which can give you ideas.", "My apologies if this was mentioned already. \n\nMy simple inexpensive solution in college was just to sleep with earplugs in. I cut them basically in half so I could roll over and not stab my brain lol. After the first night I never looked back. \n\nYou can still hear your morning alarm and things through them, just not the clowns outside. ", "This is a signal to noise ratio problem. The noise and death screams (signal) is only noticeable because it is louder than the ambient sounds (noise) of your room, If your raise the noise floor, the signal will not rise enough above the noise for your brain to take note. You can raise the noise floor with white noise or pink noise apps for your phone or tablet, installing a fan, or killing a hooker.", "I'm sure someone has said this, but foam earplugs are a godsend. I live in an apartment next to a halfway house, so at any given time there could be ten drunken homeless folks out in the alley behind my apartment. If they can filter out gunshots, they SHOULD filter out drunk folks.", "Also get a (bluetooth) speaker, and have it between your self and the noise source. Play sleep music/sound (theres tons of apps like relax melodies) or just general music. It helps drown out the noise. ", "It served my well while living above a bar in San Francisco to just collect large magazines, chuck one at a time out the open window and yell, \"Shut the fuck up, you guys!\"", "If you like the place you live, consider replacing your windows' glass with \"laminated glass.\" Laminated glass is primarily used for security purposes and in car windshields but can have special sound deadening properties due to the way it's constructed. \n\nThe next level would be to replace the whole window assembly with a triple glazed window using laminated glass. In the US you might spend $500-$1000 per window to do this. ", "If you decide to install foam, either make sure it has a decent fire rating or completely eliminate sources of heat (Candles, space heaters, etc). Cheaper foam is notorious for it's flammability and ability to produce noxious gas, and your standard apartment fir extinguisher probably won't cut it. ", "I've had the unfortunate experience of living in an extremely loud environment. Here's what worked for me. I used ear plugs ( the wax kind). Turned my tablet volume up to max so I could hear it through my earplugs. And finally, I turned a fan on high a few feet away from me. If the light from the tablet bothers you, you can cover it with a folder or book. I was able to sleep relatively well in a very loud situation. ", "I'm an extremely light sleeper and have tried everything to keep noise from waking me up. The best solution which has allowed me to sleep like a baby for the past couple years is to use earbuds and a white noise generator app. You'd be surprised how much better this works than earplugs and a white noise machine. You just have to find a pair of earbuds that are comfortable. You can find an app with a timer to fade out the noise before your alarm goes off. I use my tablet for the white noise and my phone for my alarm. ", "I lived right under the flight path of airplanes in Orange County, and our apartment has dual windows, and damn, with those things closed you couldn't hear a goddamn thing outside. ", "Get a couple huge thick carpets and hang them in front of the windows. I did that when I was recording my band in the same kind of situation. I didn’t live there but it.Worked like a charm for our purposes", "Fyi you don't need special sound proofing foam. Any kind of foam will do just fine. What's important is the thickness of the foam later not the shape.", " Some of these suggestions sound like serious alterations to the wall might be necessary. If you're a student I'm assuming you rent this place. If you rent I'm not sure what you're allowed to do to the unit. The places I've stayed have said i can kinda do what i want as long as its back to normal when i leave. \n\nJust something to consider before installing heavy curtain rods and filling electrical outlets with foam. " ]	[ 46, 22, 9, 8, 5, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people.", "How do I become less toxic and chill? I've noticed that I've been getting increasingly more toxic and annoying over the past few years, and it's really starting to bother me. Like sometimes I've had myself visibly cringing at the way I said sometimes or acted. My friends aren't the issue, and I just want to be a cool laid back guy that isn't a burden to people." ]	[ "I used to have the same issue back in my late teens and early twenties. I did a several things:\n\n- Began working out consistently (consistency is the key)\n- Began m", "Try journaling daily to reflect on your encounters and learn from them. If you're still making what you consider errors try just being a receptive silent social partner for awhile (you may feel that you are risking being boring, but consider that this is an improvement over being off-putting, and anyway is a temporary approach). If you trust someone you know implicitly, you can hit them up for honest feedback. And finally, consider whether you're maybe being too hard on yourself. If you think that's a possibility, therapy could help.", "Congratulations for seeing it; a lot of people do not even see it. The basics is to see the behavior and no longer do it. Moving forward, spend 20 minutes a day looking at your life and thinking about what you did. Is there something you disliked about it? why? The next time you are in a similar situation, stop the behavior.\n\nAnother approach is to stop judging other people. The way they act does not affect you; do not worry about it.", "Do you react impulsively? Are you impatient? Easily irritated? Sarcastic? I've had to battle the same thing. As soon as the words are out of my mouth I regret it. I was turning into a real asshole and losing friends. \n\nOne thing I have learned to do is LISTEN more, as opposed to always trying to crack a remark. It helps me slow down and get into the conversation, as opposed to being a sarcastic jerk. What was funny in HS is not funny now. As an adult, we need to calm the fuck down and pay attention to what we say and how it affects others. I had to learn the hard way. I felt like everyone else was growing up, and I was still the mean kid. Not cool. I was lucky enough to have a frowns take me out for a beer and be honest with me. It sucked, and it was humiliating, but I needed to hear it. \n\nThe fact that you are self aware and want to change is half the battle. But it takes time. It's easy to slip back into old patterns. \n\nI can only tell you what has helped me, maybe a few of these things can help you too. \n\nLike I said above - listen. Try not to be sarcastic, one up people or take over a conversation. Listen more and talk less. Ask questions. The more I started really (genuinely) caring about people, the less I wanted to be a dick to them. \n\n\nDo a bit of volunteer work. Put others before yourself. Even if it's not a \"structured\" volunteer type thing.. Maybe it's helping a friend move, or buying a buddy lunch and listening to him vent about his shitty work situation. Be a great friend. \n\nI'm a big fan of metal, rap, electronica - a lot of really heavy stuff. But, I take time out to relax with some classical music a few times a week. Sometimes the heavy stuff makes me too ragey and amped up. It's good to take it down a few notches sometimes. \n\nDon't be an anonymous or even non-anonymous asshole on the Internet. All of that nastiness spills over into real life. It's not nice, and it's not going to make you feel any better in the long run. \n\nThat's about all I can think of for now. Let us know how it goes. Cheers!\n\n\n\n", "Think before you speak, don't speak when you don't need to, and avoid criticizing others. \n\nAre you the only one that thinks you're toxic? Has anyone said that? It could be a personal observation made in the view of low self esteem. \n\nJust practice being calm and tolerant. Perhaps speak to someone about this. If you want to talk, you can pm me, I'd be happy to help. ", "Try apps like MindShift. Do \"loving kindness\" and \"gratitude\" m", "Listen, if you find yourself thinking of a response the entire time the other person is talking it's hard to respond thoughtfully. ", "Are you a young adult gradually making your way into the party scene? Stop drinking and doing drugs so much, you're probly just tired and cranky.", "Smoke weed or have a one and done life altering mushroom experience. Drugs aren't always the answer but they can be.", "Kudos to you for being able to identify the bad behavior in your life. The majority of people live in such a delusion that they are never the problem and ignore every shitty personality trait that they consist of. I used to be a walking selfish, self centered, egotistical turd. I quit drinking and doing drugs and became self aware. Spotting my issues and identifying bad behaviors that held me back in life and held me back from developing healthy and positive relationships with people. Every once in awhile my ego comes back and alot of the negative character traits come back. It's my job and responsibility to put those in check and call myself out of my bullshit. Otherwise no one is going to want to be around me. \n\n1. Practice having a filter and think before you speak.\n\n2. M", "don't play online games where you're playing against other people. it makes you frustrated and hate everyone.", "When you disagree with someone, are angry at someone, or want to make fun of someone, pause to fully empathize with them before you say anything. You can still object or tease them, but what comes out will probably be less rude.", "I do it too. Way more than I should. Used to work with a guy who was just massively chilled.. Did not give a shit. Really helps bring a sharp focus to just how unimportant the things that file you up are.\n\nAnother trick, take a moment to think about how much you're going to care about something in a year, or 5 years. If you're not going to care, don't get bent out of shape over it now.", "Don't try to be right all the time. And [this book](http://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Anger-Guide-Free-Yourself/dp/B001R5RTMY) really helped me. You may not identify at being angry - i didn't either - but you probably are. ", "Coming from experience, I just started only doing things in my free time that make me happy. It's made me generally more fun to be around at college with my friends. Also I started drinking more water. Just puts me in a better mood \n", "Are you watching a TV show or playing a game where the main character is a major asshole? I noticed a slight personality shift in myself when I was playing Mass Effect 2 on renegade (main character becomes major asshole). \n\nMy point is that there are some things influence you even though you don't consciously realize they are influencing you. So think about anything that you normally do in a day and consider whether or not it could potentially be influencing you negatively.\n\nIf that's not it, then just chill out man! There's no need to get all worked up about small shit.", "Always focus on the positive. If nothing is positive focus on what it takes to make it positive. If that doesn't work then just be happy you're alive or something you arr grateful for. Works for me anyways. My brother is the opposite and is always super negative. To a point where I don't want to be around him but I love him so I try talking about the stuff that makes him happy. All in all, positive thinking helps get me through, even though there are times when the world looks bleak and pointless. ", "Well 1st ignore the enemy chat .. Their words sometimes leave an impact to you..second try being nice to your teamate..even if they're feeding a little bit..keep telling them that it is okay..if you're a pro try carrying the whole game..use ping to alert them but not to spam them.. Try having your own wards..even if your support have them..but overall just keep in mind that you play for fun..it doesn't matter if you lose.." ]	[ 34, 18, 10, 7, 6, 5, 5, 5, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to make a washing machine with agitator not destroy clothes This is more a housekeeping tip request, but I could not find a more appropriate subreddit.\n\nThe agitator wears out our favourite clothes sooner...is there anything that can be done to make the clothes last longer? \n\nDoes washing with more water and soap and on a lighter cycle help?", "How to make a washing machine with agitator not destroy clothes This is more a housekeeping tip request, but I could not find a more appropriate subreddit.\n\nThe agitator wears out our favourite clothes sooner...is there anything that can be done to make the clothes last longer? \n\nDoes washing with more water and soap and on a lighter cycle help?" ]	[ "You definitely don't need more soap. For delicates I try to use those mesh [delicates bags](http://www.amazon.com/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=mesh+delicates+bag&tag=googhydr-20&index=aps&hvadid=6283725261&hvpos=1t1&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1184882251585910478&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=b&ref=pd_sl_6hkcghj24o_b)\n", "Less soap. I clean a laundromat and detergent is caustic stuff, less soap and smaller loads, those top loaders shouldn't hold more than 10 lbs of dry laundry. It should about be half full at most, it fills up with water, and cleans better. " ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to bulk up I'm a 14 year old scrawny boy with almost no muscle. What's a good routine/amount of exercise to help me gain some muscle/strength? I don't want to be massive, I just want some muscle mass so I'm not as weak.", "How to bulk up I'm a 14 year old scrawny boy with almost no muscle. What's a good routine/amount of exercise to help me gain some muscle/strength? I don't want to be massive, I just want some muscle mass so I'm not as weak.", "How to bulk up I'm a 14 year old scrawny boy with almost no muscle. What's a good routine/amount of exercise to help me gain some muscle/strength? I don't want to be massive, I just want some muscle mass so I'm not as weak.", "How to bulk up I'm a 14 year old scrawny boy with almost no muscle. What's a good routine/amount of exercise to help me gain some muscle/strength? I don't want to be massive, I just want some muscle mass so I'm not as weak.", "How to bulk up I'm a 14 year old scrawny boy with almost no muscle. What's a good routine/amount of exercise to help me gain some muscle/strength? I don't want to be massive, I just want some muscle mass so I'm not as weak.", "How to bulk up I'm a 14 year old scrawny boy with almost no muscle. What's a good routine/amount of exercise to help me gain some muscle/strength? I don't want to be massive, I just want some muscle mass so I'm not as weak.", "How to bulk up I'm a 14 year old scrawny boy with almost no muscle. What's a good routine/amount of exercise to help me gain some muscle/strength? I don't want to be massive, I just want some muscle mass so I'm not as weak." ]	[ "r/fitness\n\nBut seriously the best thing you can do at your age is eat. I used to just go the gym and expect gains but you have to feed the muscles or they don't grow. Nanna wasn't bullshitting when she says you need to eat to get big and strong. Start counting calories with an app and make sure you meet your maintenance plus a few hundred calories and meet your macros. Just eat, eat, eat all day. Every couple hours.\n\nStart with a 5x5 stronglifts program to get that base strength in with compound movements before you do anything else", "Like everyone else is saying, get started at /r/fitness and check out /r/gainit they're both good resources for bulking up/gaining strength. \n\nAlso having watched really skinny friends bulk up the biggest thing you'll need to overcome is how much you need to eat. You will feel full and want to stop but you HAVE to hit your calorie requirements or you just won't get bigger, so you have to keep eating.\n\nGood luck man, I wish I had started caring about building muscle and diet when I was 14, its easier to start now than try and recover when you graduate college and realize beer makes you fat. \n\n*", "Get on a beginner barbell program, calculate your TDEE, and consume roughly one gram of protein per pound of bodyweight. ", "you're 14 so you aren't finished growing, you'll get bigger simply from hormones, if you eat properly and lift in any capacity you'll get in good shape in the process.", "Just so you know, a lot of people view it as kind of a douchy thing to say that you don't want to get too big. You're here asking for advice on how to bulk, which means that it isn't an easy thing to do. Lots of people spend years of their life trying to get massive, and get insulted when people think it just happens. Obviously if it was easy you wouldn't be here asking for advice on how to do it.\n\nOther than that, count calories. This is what I use:\nhttps://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.myfitnesspal.android&hl=en\nIt's really easy to use. Just give it your goals and info and it will automatically calculate how many calories to eat and what your macros are. For lifting, focus on lifts that use multiple muscles (in other words, don't turn into a curl bro). Deadlifts are fantastic. Give any program a few months, results don't happen immediately. Figure out what works and doesn't and switch it up. Once you start, you'll learn what works and doesn't for your specific goals.\n\n", "Hey, thin dude here. For one there's /r/fitness which is a perfect resource for you from what I can tell. \n\nBasically your weight is determined by taking in more than you spend, but for me I find it hard to eat as much as I know I should. High calorie density is important to know about so that you make your calorie intake efficient. \n\nThere are lots of nasty impossible to drink slushies out there, but for me the cheat sheet is almonds and avocados. Eating a tin of almonds per day is a good way to replace chips, which are my crutch. I actually hate avocados but those are king of the ring for nutrition and calorie density. Tacos are a good resource for bulking up, and if you plan on having tacos once per day as a small meal, you should be able to keep your ingredients in stock in the fridge, and make one or two in minutes. \n\nProtein powder is generally a waste, unless you get really into the math. For those who will say protein powder is the secret weapon, I posit that if someone doesn't know the science behind why it's the secret weapon, then they're probably not getting the benefits from it, nor can they measure the performance gains.\n\nWhat else... If it's frozen and you microwave it, for the most part, it's not going to help you bulk up.\n\nAnd if you're just trying to gain some strength for whatever reason, the best way to improve your ability to do something is to do it. Want to deadlift more weight? Train by deadlifting. Want to be a better fighter? Take a martial arts class. Want bigger mantitties to get the chicks? If she's more impressed by your chest than by your you, there was never any chance for you to have a good relationship in the first place.", "/r/gainitmeals \n/r/gainitmeals\nI'm 21 going through the same thing as you. You will gain mass if you eat over your daily caloric needs. Exceed them by 200 cals and work out and you'll be happy. Also, focus on form. Without correct form, even if you're doing higher weight, you're stopping yourself from getting stronger. Get some whey protein, its like 20 bucks at walmart. Drink it with whole milk. Once after your workout, once before bed. Bam, thats 1000 calories added to your day already. Go get em champ." ]	[ 5, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "what to do when someone gives you a compliment. Eeryone has been in this situation, someone tells you \"nice shoes\" or \"hey, you have really good hair\" (generally when it's a close friend or family it's not uncomfortable to me, but it is when it's a person I just met) but all I can say is an awkward \"thanks\" or sometimes I managed to say \"yeah, yours too\" but that is still cringy to me.\n\nMy social skills are a bit bad and althought I think someone has something to be \"praised\" I rarelly give a compliment, so I don't know what they expect me to say.\n\nAny tips for that?", "what to do when someone gives you a compliment. Eeryone has been in this situation, someone tells you \"nice shoes\" or \"hey, you have really good hair\" (generally when it's a close friend or family it's not uncomfortable to me, but it is when it's a person I just met) but all I can say is an awkward \"thanks\" or sometimes I managed to say \"yeah, yours too\" but that is still cringy to me.\n\nMy social skills are a bit bad and althought I think someone has something to be \"praised\" I rarelly give a compliment, so I don't know what they expect me to say.\n\nAny tips for that?", "what to do when someone gives you a compliment. Eeryone has been in this situation, someone tells you \"nice shoes\" or \"hey, you have really good hair\" (generally when it's a close friend or family it's not uncomfortable to me, but it is when it's a person I just met) but all I can say is an awkward \"thanks\" or sometimes I managed to say \"yeah, yours too\" but that is still cringy to me.\n\nMy social skills are a bit bad and althought I think someone has something to be \"praised\" I rarelly give a compliment, so I don't know what they expect me to say.\n\nAny tips for that?", "what to do when someone gives you a compliment. Eeryone has been in this situation, someone tells you \"nice shoes\" or \"hey, you have really good hair\" (generally when it's a close friend or family it's not uncomfortable to me, but it is when it's a person I just met) but all I can say is an awkward \"thanks\" or sometimes I managed to say \"yeah, yours too\" but that is still cringy to me.\n\nMy social skills are a bit bad and althought I think someone has something to be \"praised\" I rarelly give a compliment, so I don't know what they expect me to say.\n\nAny tips for that?", "what to do when someone gives you a compliment. Eeryone has been in this situation, someone tells you \"nice shoes\" or \"hey, you have really good hair\" (generally when it's a close friend or family it's not uncomfortable to me, but it is when it's a person I just met) but all I can say is an awkward \"thanks\" or sometimes I managed to say \"yeah, yours too\" but that is still cringy to me.\n\nMy social skills are a bit bad and althought I think someone has something to be \"praised\" I rarelly give a compliment, so I don't know what they expect me to say.\n\nAny tips for that?", "what to do when someone gives you a compliment. Eeryone has been in this situation, someone tells you \"nice shoes\" or \"hey, you have really good hair\" (generally when it's a close friend or family it's not uncomfortable to me, but it is when it's a person I just met) but all I can say is an awkward \"thanks\" or sometimes I managed to say \"yeah, yours too\" but that is still cringy to me.\n\nMy social skills are a bit bad and althought I think someone has something to be \"praised\" I rarelly give a compliment, so I don't know what they expect me to say.\n\nAny tips for that?" ]	[ "Smile politely and say Thank you. Keep it simple. If you need to say anything else, just ask how their day is going. ", "I am a very outgoing person. So I probable fit the \"who the heck is this guy\" sometimes category. I compliment people all the time. Hey handsome dog, nice car, beautiful home. I am just happy go lucky. I don't really expect any response back. I just like people and stuff a lot. Go figure.", "When you appreciate the compliment, say, \"Oh, thank you! It's so nice of you to say so.\" If you want to keep the conversation going, add some information about the thing they're complimenting: \"I got it at Macy's, they were having a sale and it was the last one.\"\n\nDO NOT argue with a person when they give you a compliment. This forces them to keep repeating, defending, or expanding on it. This is called \"fishing for compliments\" and it's considered quite rude. Just thank them.\n\nIf it's an unwelcome or backhanded compliment, you can still say \"thank you,\" but tersely and without elaboration. \"It's so nice of you to say so\" can be very effective in this situation as well.\n\nIf you want to end the conversation, just say, \"Yes, I know.\"", "Smile broadly and give a genuine thanks. People give compliments because it makes them feel good to make others feel good. Follow my suggestion and you'll both feel great.", "I usually just say thank you so much! If it's about hair you could add \"I just started using ______ shampoo\" or if it's clothes mention where you bought it!", "Depends. When you think somebody is hitting on you, and you aren't interested in them, don't compliment them back, just say thank you." ]	[ 16, 11, 5, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "If I read something and I dont understand it properly, how can I learn to understand the themes it deals with and properly appreciate it? Eg. Mythology EG. ", "If I read something and I dont understand it properly, how can I learn to understand the themes it deals with and properly appreciate it? Eg. Mythology EG. ", "If I read something and I dont understand it properly, how can I learn to understand the themes it deals with and properly appreciate it? Eg. Mythology EG. " ]	[ "make a diagram of it. start with the base idea/concept/principle and then follow it to the next part of it, and follow where that leads to the next. as you are drawing this diagram with lines connecting(with little descriptions about how/why they are connected) the different ideas together, talk out loud about how each of them connect to each other. as the diagram grows, return to the beginning and re-iterate how each idea is connected to the ones around it, when you get comfortable with what you have drawn already, start adding more and more.\n\nbreaking it down into smaller concepts(this also helps with making the task seem less daunting since instead of 1 overly large complicated concept, its now something small and manageable) will help you understand it better, writing things down helps you remember it, and so does talking about it to yourself.", "I always like to make a mental Web linking things I understand to things I don't, follow the pattern ", "Here is something different that I learned. Section off the writing as to how the writer is writing it. \n\nExample. If it is a persuasion piece you find what the key point is, then find the reasons, evidence to the reasons...etc. by dividing the text into these sections you will be able to understand literature much better. \n\nAsk what is the REASON behind this text." ]	[ 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to avoid buyer's remorse? As a child, I always got many toys and everything I wanted, and that caused me to this day, get very excited and pumped for something, and then when I get it, I get bored of it. One time I got a nintendo DS but got very insane buyer's remorse that hurt really bad. \n\nEven as a grown up(22 yrs) I get very wary when I'm going to buy something, and I have a hard time knowing if I will use it or not, no matter how much research I do. For example, I want to buy the new macbook pro because it will help lots for college and jobs(Im a computer science student) but I'm afraid of getting it, then discovering I actually use it very little, making me feel very shitty.", "How to avoid buyer's remorse? As a child, I always got many toys and everything I wanted, and that caused me to this day, get very excited and pumped for something, and then when I get it, I get bored of it. One time I got a nintendo DS but got very insane buyer's remorse that hurt really bad. \n\nEven as a grown up(22 yrs) I get very wary when I'm going to buy something, and I have a hard time knowing if I will use it or not, no matter how much research I do. For example, I want to buy the new macbook pro because it will help lots for college and jobs(Im a computer science student) but I'm afraid of getting it, then discovering I actually use it very little, making me feel very shitty.", "How to avoid buyer's remorse? As a child, I always got many toys and everything I wanted, and that caused me to this day, get very excited and pumped for something, and then when I get it, I get bored of it. One time I got a nintendo DS but got very insane buyer's remorse that hurt really bad. \n\nEven as a grown up(22 yrs) I get very wary when I'm going to buy something, and I have a hard time knowing if I will use it or not, no matter how much research I do. For example, I want to buy the new macbook pro because it will help lots for college and jobs(Im a computer science student) but I'm afraid of getting it, then discovering I actually use it very little, making me feel very shitty." ]	[ "If you want to buy something, don't. Wait at least a week, but up to a month for major purchases. (MacBooks would be major.) While you are waiting, research the hell out of it. Find several alternatives and research them as well. Find everything wrong with what you want and try your absolute hardest to find something better. Strongly consider build quality and how long it will last. (Can you hand it down to your kids when you outgrow it?) If at the end of the waiting period you still want the item, you probably won't have buyer's remorse when you get it.", "I definitely agree that you should wait a little bit before buying something. If I want something, I usually wait a week or two (mostly cuz I'm broke) and by the time a couple of weeks have passed, I realize what a waste it would have been to buy whatever it is that I wanted. If you think about it, there's lots of things that we buy that we eventually don't use anymore. Hope you figure it out! ", "> I want to buy the new macbook pro\n\nThat's your first mistake. \n\nApple jokes aside, you are doing the right thing by doing research on a product and taking your time. Here are a few quick tips:\n\n1. Make sure you have an account large enough to absorb the cost, or make sure that you have saved up for the large purchase\n\n2. Many stores will have a refund policy of some kind, allowing you to return the product within a given amount of time (this will sometimes cost extra)\n\n3. Set up an ebay or craigslist account. If you find out that you don't want the laptop anymore, you will be able to make most of your money back by selling online." ]	[ 7, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "What's a personable / memorable way to message an acquaintance \"Happy birthday\" online (that's actually meaningful & not just exchanging pleasantries)? I like to consider myself a practical guy. I don't really like meaningless small talk, especially if it's just exchanging pleasantries like \"Happy birthday\" -- \"Thanks\" on repeat for years.\n\nWould anyone happen to know a fun and lively way to wish a happy birthday that's appropriate towards an acquaintance?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nPotential Ideas:\n\n• Voice message -- much more personable and sort of memorable if they're not used to receiving voice messages\n\n• Say \"You seem like... Ex: ...someone who would love to spend their birthday partying on a remote island\" -- makes a wildly specific assertion which may be true or untrue, but may earn a chuckle. It also invites them to extend the conversation in regards to how they'd prefer to spend their ideal birthday and/or how they're actually spending it, all without you begging for the information or seeming like you're trying to make plans with them. It also gives them the option to end the conversation right there if they want to without feeling bad.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nRejected Ideas:\n\n• Inviting them out somewhere -- not appropriate (or economically feasible) to do with all acquaintances\n\n• Asking what type of plans they have -- they may be humiliated to say they don't have any, or feel uncomfortable (if they don't know you well) that you may be insinuating you want to do something with them", "What's a personable / memorable way to message an acquaintance \"Happy birthday\" online (that's actually meaningful & not just exchanging pleasantries)? I like to consider myself a practical guy. I don't really like meaningless small talk, especially if it's just exchanging pleasantries like \"Happy birthday\" -- \"Thanks\" on repeat for years.\n\nWould anyone happen to know a fun and lively way to wish a happy birthday that's appropriate towards an acquaintance?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nPotential Ideas:\n\n• Voice message -- much more personable and sort of memorable if they're not used to receiving voice messages\n\n• Say \"You seem like... Ex: ...someone who would love to spend their birthday partying on a remote island\" -- makes a wildly specific assertion which may be true or untrue, but may earn a chuckle. It also invites them to extend the conversation in regards to how they'd prefer to spend their ideal birthday and/or how they're actually spending it, all without you begging for the information or seeming like you're trying to make plans with them. It also gives them the option to end the conversation right there if they want to without feeling bad.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nRejected Ideas:\n\n• Inviting them out somewhere -- not appropriate (or economically feasible) to do with all acquaintances\n\n• Asking what type of plans they have -- they may be humiliated to say they don't have any, or feel uncomfortable (if they don't know you well) that you may be insinuating you want to do something with them", "What's a personable / memorable way to message an acquaintance \"Happy birthday\" online (that's actually meaningful & not just exchanging pleasantries)? I like to consider myself a practical guy. I don't really like meaningless small talk, especially if it's just exchanging pleasantries like \"Happy birthday\" -- \"Thanks\" on repeat for years.\n\nWould anyone happen to know a fun and lively way to wish a happy birthday that's appropriate towards an acquaintance?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nPotential Ideas:\n\n• Voice message -- much more personable and sort of memorable if they're not used to receiving voice messages\n\n• Say \"You seem like... Ex: ...someone who would love to spend their birthday partying on a remote island\" -- makes a wildly specific assertion which may be true or untrue, but may earn a chuckle. It also invites them to extend the conversation in regards to how they'd prefer to spend their ideal birthday and/or how they're actually spending it, all without you begging for the information or seeming like you're trying to make plans with them. It also gives them the option to end the conversation right there if they want to without feeling bad.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nRejected Ideas:\n\n• Inviting them out somewhere -- not appropriate (or economically feasible) to do with all acquaintances\n\n• Asking what type of plans they have -- they may be humiliated to say they don't have any, or feel uncomfortable (if they don't know you well) that you may be insinuating you want to do something with them" ]	[ "If taking them out to dinner at a restaurant, and if you tell the staff it's their birthday, give the staff the wrong name. It makes it that much more memorable and funny in my opinion.", "You know this person so little that you call them an acquaintance and not a friend? You get them an impersonal card and write something genuinely kind in it. Doing more than that would seem weird to me personally.", "Birthday card or envelope with notes with three times marked on it eg 12pm, 3pm and 8pm. They open the notes marked at each time and each note has something you observed about them which is positive and affirming. Eg the 12pm note says “I appreciate the way you always wash up whatever is sitting in the work kitchen counter even though it’s not your responsibility. Lots of people ignore it but you don’t.”\n\nIt’s positive, safe for work, cost you nothing but time, doesn’t interfere with their plans. \n\nAlternatively, give them challenges if they are fun loving and it’s a relaxed context. \n\nEg “include the statement ‘between you and me and the kitchen sink” in whatever conversation you are having at that time”. \n\nEg clip a paper clip on your collar and see how long it takes for someone to notice. When they ask, the person must say “I’m saving it for later”." ]	[ 5, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do you stop thinking/watching esports videogames, such as League of Legends? I watch a lot of League of Legends NA LCS, EU LCS, KR professional esports games on Twitch for the past 4-5 years (ever since Season 2 World Championship when TPA defeated Azubu Frost for 1st place).\n\nI have never played a minute of the game, but I watch it often. Too often.\n\nWatching LoL professional esports games take up a lot of my time.\n\nIt has been nearly a week since I stopped watching those games, but they are appearing in my dreams in some form.", "How do you stop thinking/watching esports videogames, such as League of Legends? I watch a lot of League of Legends NA LCS, EU LCS, KR professional esports games on Twitch for the past 4-5 years (ever since Season 2 World Championship when TPA defeated Azubu Frost for 1st place).\n\nI have never played a minute of the game, but I watch it often. Too often.\n\nWatching LoL professional esports games take up a lot of my time.\n\nIt has been nearly a week since I stopped watching those games, but they are appearing in my dreams in some form.", "How do you stop thinking/watching esports videogames, such as League of Legends? I watch a lot of League of Legends NA LCS, EU LCS, KR professional esports games on Twitch for the past 4-5 years (ever since Season 2 World Championship when TPA defeated Azubu Frost for 1st place).\n\nI have never played a minute of the game, but I watch it often. Too often.\n\nWatching LoL professional esports games take up a lot of my time.\n\nIt has been nearly a week since I stopped watching those games, but they are appearing in my dreams in some form." ]	[ "How is your social life? Do you have several close friends that you see often? It's time to go out and be social.\n\nWatch this video on Addiction: https://youtu.be/ao8L-0nSYzg\n\nIf you are totally clueless socially but nerdy (which I assume you are considering you are addicted to watching other people play RPGs) you could try finding your local gaming shop and look into playing role play games there. It'll give you a set social activity every week and introduce you to new people. You can use this website to find the closest local Dungeons & Dragons official events and activities: http://locator.wizards.com/#brand=dnd\n\nI suggest Dungeons and Dragons or other similar real RPGs (Pathfinder and Warhammer 20k are also popular) rather than a card game like Magic or Pokemon. The reason is with a RPG you'll get to meet the same people every week and spend extended time with them working on your social skills - plus the act of role playing someone else can help open up your own personality. Lastly your experience with League of Legends translates well to fantasy RPGs.\n\nOnce you have conquered that you can start moving into more complex social situations like going out dancing.", "Do you watch esports because you enjoy analyzing the gameplay, or do you like watching it just for fun? I think this question can lead you to finding a \"healthier\" obsession (or perhaps that watching esports is a perfectly fine hobby)\n", "Really? Are you implying your addicted to watching games on twich and are having \"withdrawals\"? \n\nGo hangout with some friends. Go outside." ]	[ 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "how to get a decent used car Hey, I have never had a car before and really don't have much idea what to look for and how it will work? Any help would be appreciated.", "how to get a decent used car Hey, I have never had a car before and really don't have much idea what to look for and how it will work? Any help would be appreciated.", "how to get a decent used car Hey, I have never had a car before and really don't have much idea what to look for and how it will work? Any help would be appreciated.", "how to get a decent used car Hey, I have never had a car before and really don't have much idea what to look for and how it will work? Any help would be appreciated." ]	[ "Take a mechanic, of someone who is knowlegible about cars, along with you when you check out the car. This has saved my bacon in the past.", "Look at consumer reports rankings to decide what make and model you want.\n\nSearch for that make and model, find a car you can afford, have it taken to a skilled mechanic for an inspection.", "I am a car guy, and once upon a time in my late teens, worked at a car dealership in both sales and maintenance departments. It is rather easy to understand the basics and more of most vehicles. \nDoes it make any noise other than the usual vroom vroom? Don't buy it. Look at the bottom of the car, is there any signs of black or colored liquid physically stuck to the car? I'd advise a buy elsewhere. But most importantly, buy a car during the hottest months of the year if you can, that way the roads should be fairly free of liquid to be all over the vehicle, and any overheating will be obvious much quicker. Don't buy from a used car \"buy here pay here\" lot. And if you can finance, do try to spend a little extra. I'd rather pay $100 extra per month for a car with little mechanical defects, than multiple mechanic bills to keep it in running order. ", "Agreed with another comment, KBB is a nice way to get a general value for a car you're looking at.\n\nFor me, I always ask to take it to a mechanic. Most issues, you can see by looking under the car. Plus, they're professionals and can tell you what upcoming maintenance costs are either now or right around the corner." ]	[ 2, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe

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